WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:12.040 And good morning, happy Wednesday if you're listening to this live as we are in the Prosper 2 00:00:12.040 --> 00:00:21.960 5-7 challenge to show up and let God show out. 3 00:00:21.960 --> 00:00:24.880 I'm so excited to be back with you. 4 00:00:24.880 --> 00:00:36.440 My heart is so full, it's just amazingly filled with joy that you're willing to challenge 5 00:00:36.440 --> 00:00:41.720 yourself, you're willing to take a risk. 6 00:00:41.720 --> 00:00:50.360 I know it's been scary, I know it takes a lot to be willing to show up. 7 00:00:50.360 --> 00:00:55.160 You know, we are so critical of ourselves, right? 8 00:00:55.160 --> 00:01:03.600 And so dropping that, dropping the perfectionism and getting our eyes off of ourselves and 9 00:01:03.600 --> 00:01:05.760 onto others. 10 00:01:05.760 --> 00:01:16.480 So today we are going to be talking about confidence, confidence, alright? 11 00:01:16.480 --> 00:01:28.240 So the more confidence you have, the more magnetic your message becomes and the more 12 00:01:28.240 --> 00:01:32.760 fun you start having, the more results you start getting. 13 00:01:32.760 --> 00:01:37.420 So there is a science, there is a way to become more confident. 14 00:01:37.420 --> 00:01:41.260 A lot of it is just doing it, just doing it, you know? 15 00:01:41.260 --> 00:01:45.000 Get past the fear of the unknown. 16 00:01:45.000 --> 00:01:47.840 So a lot of it is just that. 17 00:01:47.840 --> 00:01:53.720 So I'm so excited, today we are going to be talking about, and welcome Buffy, I hope I'm 18 00:01:53.720 --> 00:01:54.720 pronouncing that right. 19 00:01:54.720 --> 00:01:55.720 I am so glad. 20 00:01:55.720 --> 00:01:59.720 Welcome, I know you're in the group and I'm so looking forward to getting to know you. 21 00:01:59.720 --> 00:02:02.760 Thanks for jumping on live here. 22 00:02:02.760 --> 00:02:08.800 And Yvonne, congratulations on showing up girl, I know it's been a big stretch. 23 00:02:08.800 --> 00:02:10.759 So proud of you. 24 00:02:10.759 --> 00:02:13.640 So great seeing you show up. 25 00:02:13.640 --> 00:02:16.220 So today we are going to be talking about confidence. 26 00:02:16.220 --> 00:02:21.480 How can you get more confidence? 27 00:02:21.480 --> 00:02:24.680 How can you show up with more confidence? 28 00:02:24.680 --> 00:02:26.360 Kimberly, welcome! 29 00:02:26.360 --> 00:02:27.360 So glad you're here. 30 00:02:27.360 --> 00:02:29.320 Yvonne, so glad you're here. 31 00:02:29.320 --> 00:02:31.000 Awesome, awesome. 32 00:02:31.000 --> 00:02:39.760 So excited to be with you in this prosper challenge to show up and let God show out. 33 00:02:39.760 --> 00:02:43.880 Alright, we're going to start with prayer and then I'm going to share some tips with 34 00:02:43.880 --> 00:02:48.560 you to help you be more confident. 35 00:02:48.560 --> 00:02:53.840 And we're going to get into some, oh I'd like to give you some hacks, some ways to get more 36 00:02:53.840 --> 00:02:55.940 out of what you're doing. 37 00:02:55.940 --> 00:03:00.040 Some success hacks, some success tools and tips. 38 00:03:00.040 --> 00:03:02.280 And then you're going to get your challenge. 39 00:03:02.280 --> 00:03:06.160 Who is ready for the next challenge? 40 00:03:06.160 --> 00:03:07.480 Say me! 41 00:03:07.480 --> 00:03:09.720 Go ahead and put it, say I am! 42 00:03:09.720 --> 00:03:10.720 I am. 43 00:03:10.720 --> 00:03:11.720 That's a powerful word. 44 00:03:11.720 --> 00:03:12.720 I am. 45 00:03:12.720 --> 00:03:13.720 Name of God. 46 00:03:13.720 --> 00:03:14.720 Alright. 47 00:03:14.720 --> 00:03:18.200 So, let's start with prayer and then we will dive in. 48 00:03:18.200 --> 00:03:20.160 Alright, you ready? 49 00:03:20.160 --> 00:03:21.160 Okay. 50 00:03:21.160 --> 00:03:27.520 Father, I just thank you for this opportunity for us to come together to have a place of 51 00:03:27.520 --> 00:03:34.560 grace, of supporting each other, a place of action, of getting out of our comfort zone. 52 00:03:34.640 --> 00:03:41.720 A being willing to show up so you can show out God throughout all history. 53 00:03:41.720 --> 00:03:46.000 You have worked through people, imperfect people. 54 00:03:46.000 --> 00:03:48.820 I'm thinking right now of Gideon. 55 00:03:48.820 --> 00:03:56.280 You called him a mighty man of valor and he was busy hiding because you saw, you saw what 56 00:03:56.280 --> 00:03:59.760 was on the inside. 57 00:03:59.760 --> 00:04:04.200 And we see that in so many characters. 58 00:04:04.200 --> 00:04:06.800 We see in Esther. 59 00:04:06.800 --> 00:04:07.800 You know? 60 00:04:07.800 --> 00:04:09.080 She was afraid. 61 00:04:09.080 --> 00:04:11.360 It was such a risk to go to the king. 62 00:04:11.360 --> 00:04:13.520 She was afraid. 63 00:04:13.520 --> 00:04:19.760 But when she came to the realization that there was people on the other side that needed 64 00:04:19.760 --> 00:04:23.600 what she had an opportunity to do. 65 00:04:23.600 --> 00:04:28.960 She came to the realization, who knows if it's not for such a time like this that I 66 00:04:28.960 --> 00:04:29.960 was born. 67 00:04:29.960 --> 00:04:35.280 God, I pray for everybody on this call, everybody in this group that they will realize that 68 00:04:35.280 --> 00:04:42.520 they were born, that they are here in this time, in this season for such a time as this. 69 00:04:42.520 --> 00:04:45.640 I pray you'll put a holy boldness on them. 70 00:04:45.640 --> 00:04:50.440 I pray you'll encourage them, put courage on the inside like Paul prayed. 71 00:04:50.440 --> 00:04:56.200 I pray the eyes of their heart will be open, that they will know the power that is working 72 00:04:56.200 --> 00:04:57.720 in and through them. 73 00:04:57.720 --> 00:05:00.000 Father, God, may they step into their power, I ask. 74 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:08.000 May this group, as we encourage one another, and we build each other up in our faith, 75 00:05:08.000 --> 00:05:15.000 may this be a start of them truly being willing to release the gifts that you've placed in them, 76 00:05:15.000 --> 00:05:21.000 to take the experiences, the struggles, the knowledge, the gifts, all that is in them, 77 00:05:21.000 --> 00:05:25.000 and be willing to release it to hurting people. 78 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:28.000 There's people on the other side praying. 79 00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:33.000 So Father God, give them courage today. 80 00:05:33.000 --> 00:05:40.000 Give them a holy boldness to not let back, not draw back, not fall back, not step back, 81 00:05:40.000 --> 00:05:43.000 not hide, not get behind perfectionism. 82 00:05:43.000 --> 00:05:51.000 Father God, let them advance boldly toward the call you have on their life. 83 00:05:51.000 --> 00:05:55.000 May the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight. 84 00:05:55.000 --> 00:05:59.000 I ask in the name of Jesus, amen and amen. 85 00:05:59.000 --> 00:06:01.000 Welcome, welcome. 86 00:06:01.000 --> 00:06:03.000 Earlene, I see that you showed up. 87 00:06:03.000 --> 00:06:05.000 Congratulations today on your video. 88 00:06:05.000 --> 00:06:09.000 I haven't had a chance to watch it all, but I'm excited to get back over there. 89 00:06:09.000 --> 00:06:11.000 Congratulations on showing up. 90 00:06:11.000 --> 00:06:16.000 Ada, congratulations on showing up, both here and in the group with your video. 91 00:06:16.000 --> 00:06:18.000 Awesome. 92 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:23.000 All right, today we are talking about confidence. 93 00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:31.000 So the goal is not only showing up, okay, that's the first step, showing up, 94 00:06:31.000 --> 00:06:34.000 but showing up with confidence. 95 00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:36.000 So here's what I want you to write down. 96 00:06:36.000 --> 00:06:39.000 It'll be in your notes, but here's what I want you to write down. 97 00:06:39.000 --> 00:06:41.000 Get this point. 98 00:06:41.000 --> 00:06:50.000 Confidence comes from knowing the value you deliver. 99 00:06:50.000 --> 00:06:54.000 Confidence comes from knowing the value you deliver. 100 00:06:54.000 --> 00:07:02.000 So when we get our eyes off of ourself and, you know, feeling all unworthy 101 00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:08.000 and lacking and all that nonsense, and we just think about, 102 00:07:08.000 --> 00:07:10.000 do I have something that will help people? 103 00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:16.000 Did I learn something in my experience that I can share? 104 00:07:16.000 --> 00:07:18.000 I mean, everybody has a testimony. 105 00:07:18.000 --> 00:07:20.000 Everybody has a life story. 106 00:07:20.000 --> 00:07:23.000 We can start there. 107 00:07:23.000 --> 00:07:27.000 If you're not sure where to start, start with your life story. 108 00:07:27.000 --> 00:07:30.000 Think about a good movie. 109 00:07:30.000 --> 00:07:39.000 It has a struggle and it has a resolution, and we love seeing that. 110 00:07:39.000 --> 00:07:44.000 You've had struggles that have gotten you where you are, 111 00:07:44.000 --> 00:07:46.000 and you've learned some things. 112 00:07:46.000 --> 00:07:55.000 You've gleaned some wisdom, and that is valuable. 113 00:07:55.000 --> 00:08:00.000 Especially, you know, those of us, not going to insult anyone, 114 00:08:00.000 --> 00:08:06.000 but, I mean, it's clear I'm in my 50s, okay? 115 00:08:07.000 --> 00:08:14.000 The Bible says that the older women are to share and train up 116 00:08:14.000 --> 00:08:17.000 and encourage the younger women. 117 00:08:17.000 --> 00:08:23.000 So those of us who are very young older women, okay? 118 00:08:23.000 --> 00:08:29.000 I don't consider myself old, but I am older, okay? 119 00:08:30.000 --> 00:08:35.000 Share our experience and make a difference. 120 00:08:35.000 --> 00:08:41.000 And so when your eyes are on taking what God has done in and through you 121 00:08:41.000 --> 00:08:44.000 and sharing it and making a difference in the lives of others, 122 00:08:44.000 --> 00:08:48.000 you're going to feel more confident. 123 00:08:48.000 --> 00:08:52.000 When that is the focus, you're going to feel more confident. 124 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:54.000 So I'm going to help you with some things. 125 00:08:54.000 --> 00:08:58.000 I'm going to give you this handout, but here's some keys for showing up confidently. 126 00:08:58.000 --> 00:09:01.000 Number one, focus on the client. 127 00:09:01.000 --> 00:09:04.000 Focus on the person that you're serving. 128 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:12.000 That's why we did the exercise yesterday where I literally had you see them 129 00:09:12.000 --> 00:09:16.000 like I'm seeing you right now. 130 00:09:16.000 --> 00:09:17.000 I feel your heart. 131 00:09:17.000 --> 00:09:21.000 I feel how scary this is because I've got to tell you, 132 00:09:21.000 --> 00:09:29.000 the first time I was not on camera just speaking to one person, 133 00:09:29.000 --> 00:09:32.000 a man in a suit, sharing. 134 00:09:32.000 --> 00:09:39.000 I was in a direct selling company just speaking to one person presenting something. 135 00:09:39.000 --> 00:09:47.000 I had so much sweat running down my back when I stepped into public speaking 30 years ago. 136 00:09:47.000 --> 00:09:50.000 I mean, my knees, I almost fainted. 137 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:53.000 I had to hold on, clench to the podium. 138 00:09:53.000 --> 00:09:56.000 I had so much sweat running down my back. 139 00:09:56.000 --> 00:09:59.000 I would lean backwards kind of Asian style, right? 140 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:05.220 You wouldn't see how sweaty I was and how scared I was. So I feel you. I know 141 00:10:05.220 --> 00:10:11.300 what it is to step out beyond your comfort zone and that's what this is 142 00:10:11.300 --> 00:10:16.140 about. You feeling what other people are going through. People are scared right 143 00:10:16.140 --> 00:10:19.860 now about their money. Those of you that are good with money. People are scared 144 00:10:19.860 --> 00:10:23.100 about their health. Those of you that are good and learn some things about health. 145 00:10:23.100 --> 00:10:26.900 People are scared about their relationships. Their relationships are in 146 00:10:26.900 --> 00:10:32.660 a lot of tension right now. There's a lot of stressors in their life 147 00:10:32.660 --> 00:10:36.660 that have changed. They don't know their economic future. Their kids are at home. 148 00:10:36.660 --> 00:10:42.100 I mean there's a lot of stress being put on relationships. So whatever 149 00:10:42.100 --> 00:10:46.540 area that God has put on you, there's people praying for you right now. On the 150 00:10:46.540 --> 00:10:50.860 other side of your courage and your willingness to step out, there's people 151 00:10:51.180 --> 00:10:57.980 for you. So the exercise we did yesterday was to start having you look at that 152 00:10:57.980 --> 00:11:02.500 camera and not be thinking about scary masses of people and not be talking to 153 00:11:02.500 --> 00:11:10.860 huge groups of people, but to be talking to one person. One person whose life can 154 00:11:10.860 --> 00:11:15.540 be changed because of you. One person who may be considering suicide right now. 155 00:11:15.540 --> 00:11:19.260 God's just putting this on me. This isn't even on what I wrote down on my notes. 156 00:11:19.580 --> 00:11:23.780 God's putting this on me to share with you right now. There's people on the 157 00:11:23.780 --> 00:11:27.740 other side right now that are giving up. There's people who are considering 158 00:11:27.740 --> 00:11:33.500 suicide right now. Suicide's at an all-time high. That's who we're talking 159 00:11:33.500 --> 00:11:38.980 to. There's people who are thinking about leaving a relationship or running away, 160 00:11:38.980 --> 00:11:43.740 just running away from their problems. There's people that are doing 161 00:11:43.740 --> 00:11:48.580 all kinds of things and they're waiting for you. So just talk to one person. 162 00:11:48.580 --> 00:11:52.100 That's gonna grow your confidence because your confidence is gonna come 163 00:11:52.100 --> 00:11:57.540 from God, the Holy Spirit, speaking through you. Remember, you're the temple 164 00:11:57.540 --> 00:12:06.420 of the Holy Spirit. And so you pray, God, use my mouth. Speak through my mouth. God, 165 00:12:06.420 --> 00:12:13.300 use my hands. God, write through me. When you're every post, before you even write 166 00:12:13.300 --> 00:12:19.780 it, God, write through me. God, speak through me. God, sing through me. God, 167 00:12:19.780 --> 00:12:24.980 paint through me. God, cook through me. God, create through me. It's God 168 00:12:24.980 --> 00:12:32.220 living out through us and that's where the confidence comes from. We're just 169 00:12:32.220 --> 00:12:38.380 weak vessels, all of us, but the confidence is God speaking through us. So 170 00:12:38.380 --> 00:12:42.580 number one for showing up confidently is focus on the client, not yourself. 171 00:12:42.740 --> 00:12:53.380 Number two, focus on the outcome. Focus on the results. You know you can deliver. 172 00:12:53.380 --> 00:13:04.220 All right, let's not be grandiose. When I invited you to this group, the outcome 173 00:13:04.220 --> 00:13:11.300 was to create a place of grace and action. A place where I knew you could 174 00:13:11.300 --> 00:13:19.340 overcome some fears and show up. That was the outcome and we're doing it. It's 175 00:13:19.340 --> 00:13:24.620 something I knew I could deliver. I didn't promise you, hey, you're gonna have 176 00:13:24.620 --> 00:13:31.580 5,000 followers by next week. Hey, your income's gonna quadruple by tomorrow. See, 177 00:13:31.580 --> 00:13:37.620 I'm not promising things I can't deliver. I'm promising and it doesn't have to be 178 00:13:37.860 --> 00:13:48.420 big, guys. It's big for them, okay? Give people bite-sized chunks. I mean, can I 179 00:13:48.420 --> 00:13:53.900 can I make a confession? I'm not sure if I gave you too big of a bite yesterday, 180 00:13:53.900 --> 00:13:59.020 but you know, you stepped up to it. I thought, mmm, you know, you're 181 00:13:59.020 --> 00:14:02.100 gonna have this with your clients. It's like you want to push them, you want to 182 00:14:02.100 --> 00:14:05.620 push them out of the nest, but you don't want to scare them so much, you know, that 183 00:14:05.620 --> 00:14:09.260 they run the other way. And so when you guys were silent all day yesterday, don't 184 00:14:09.260 --> 00:14:14.980 do that. Don't be silent all day. I'm like, oh, I think I pushed them too far, 185 00:14:14.980 --> 00:14:20.420 right? But I didn't. You guys stepped up. You did it. You're doing it. More of you 186 00:14:20.420 --> 00:14:25.620 are gonna step up and keep doing it. But the point is, I measure it. When I 187 00:14:25.620 --> 00:14:32.500 focus, I focus on outcomes. What outcomes can we create here together, right? What 188 00:14:32.540 --> 00:14:37.900 outcomes can we create that I know? I know I can deliver. Well, I know I can 189 00:14:37.900 --> 00:14:43.820 help you show up. I know I can do that. I've been teaching it. I've been doing it. 190 00:14:43.820 --> 00:14:50.300 I know I can help you show up. See, I made a small promise. So this is 191 00:14:50.300 --> 00:14:54.740 what we want to do. Focus on the results, the outcome you can deliver. And so, you 192 00:14:54.740 --> 00:14:59.700 know, we want to under promise, under promise. All right. 193 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.280 deliver. I didn't promise you that I was going to give you a lot of great 194 00:15:05.280 --> 00:15:10.320 teaching, but I think I'm doing that. If you agree, you can let me know. Giving you 195 00:15:10.320 --> 00:15:14.040 a lot of great teaching. I just promised that I was going to create a place for 196 00:15:14.040 --> 00:15:21.960 you to show up. So under promise, over deliver. And when we get into building 197 00:15:21.960 --> 00:15:25.560 your business and confidence, never, never charge by the hour. Don't put a price 198 00:15:25.560 --> 00:15:30.320 tag on yourself. Don't make yourself worth $50 an hour or $250 an hour or 199 00:15:30.320 --> 00:15:35.160 $1,000. Don't put a price tag on yourself. And I want you to remember 200 00:15:35.160 --> 00:15:46.760 something. In order to show up, you do not have to know everything. You just need to 201 00:15:46.760 --> 00:15:52.880 be one step, ten steps ahead of the person you're sharing with. I got a long 202 00:15:52.880 --> 00:16:02.120 way to go. I have mentors. I always am learning, but I know I've done this. I've 203 00:16:02.120 --> 00:16:08.760 been showing up for a long, long time. So I know I can share this. I've been 204 00:16:08.760 --> 00:16:13.720 building a coaching business, six-figure coaching business, all online since 2014. 205 00:16:13.720 --> 00:16:20.920 I know I can help people pivot online. Okay, and lastly, keys for showing up 206 00:16:20.920 --> 00:16:29.720 confidently is preparation. Okay, that makes a big difference. Preparation. So 207 00:16:30.280 --> 00:16:37.960 Sun Tzu says this, know yourself and you will win all battles. So one of the 208 00:16:37.960 --> 00:16:47.040 things for confidence is to really have some reflection before you show up. So I 209 00:16:47.160 --> 00:16:52.680 gave you 10 questions for reflection that will help you feel more confident. 210 00:16:52.680 --> 00:16:58.360 Okay, and so you're going to do those. What comes natural for you? What do you 211 00:16:58.360 --> 00:17:03.120 know so well you can almost do it in your sleep? What's fun for you? 212 00:17:03.120 --> 00:17:08.079 What do you enjoy so much you get lost in it? I'll give you guys a little 213 00:17:08.079 --> 00:17:11.720 thing. I'm having so much fun with you guys in the group, especially seeing you 214 00:17:11.720 --> 00:17:15.760 encourage each other and the community that's happening here. I'm having so much 215 00:17:15.760 --> 00:17:24.160 fun. Yesterday I met with a huge marketing team. I had the video and website and all 216 00:17:24.160 --> 00:17:29.840 kinds of stuff, strategy, as a way to really provide some really, really value 217 00:17:29.840 --> 00:17:35.520 to you guys. So you guys got something really exciting coming. We're just 218 00:17:35.520 --> 00:17:41.120 getting started here. So what's fun for you? What do people compliment you on? 219 00:17:41.280 --> 00:17:46.840 What do people come to you for and ask you about? What have you spent a lot of 220 00:17:46.840 --> 00:17:50.960 time learning about? What have you been practicing? What did you get some 221 00:17:50.960 --> 00:17:55.440 education or training or certification in? What have you won awards for? So this 222 00:17:55.440 --> 00:17:59.480 helps you when when you get back. Because a lot of times I'll have someone get 223 00:17:59.480 --> 00:18:03.600 ready to coach and they'll say, I just don't know if I know enough. I don't know 224 00:18:03.600 --> 00:18:08.440 if I can teach this. I don't, you know, who am I? Right? Imposter syndrome. Who am I? 225 00:18:08.480 --> 00:18:17.120 And I back up and I say, do you feel what you offer will truly, will truly make a 226 00:18:17.120 --> 00:18:23.200 difference in someone's life? The stuff that God's put in you, do you feel it'll 227 00:18:23.200 --> 00:18:27.800 make a difference? And they'll always say yes. Alright, get in touch with that. 228 00:18:27.800 --> 00:18:34.600 Focus on that. That's where your confidence will come from. Okay? So 229 00:18:34.640 --> 00:18:41.200 remember some of the things for confidence. Affirmations, declarations, okay? 230 00:18:41.200 --> 00:18:46.280 You can go to my YouTube channel and, you know, refresh on that. But how you talk to 231 00:18:46.280 --> 00:18:51.560 yourself is very important. Giving what you desire to receive. You desire to be 232 00:18:51.560 --> 00:19:01.040 encouraged. Encourage others, right? You desire to help others grow, right? You 233 00:19:01.240 --> 00:19:05.680 desire others to help you grow, help others grow. Okay? You desire others to 234 00:19:05.680 --> 00:19:10.880 pour into you, pour into others. Give what you desire to receive. And again, 235 00:19:10.880 --> 00:19:19.520 communicate benefits. So let's get into the strategy for today. Let me pull that 236 00:19:19.520 --> 00:19:28.240 up. What we're going to talk about today is having a daily plan for showing up on 237 00:19:28.280 --> 00:19:36.280 social media. One of the things that keeps us stuck is we don't have a plan. 238 00:19:36.280 --> 00:19:41.560 And so, okay, I'm going to get on social media today and we get lost in the feed 239 00:19:41.560 --> 00:19:45.160 and it takes a lot of time and we leave and we're not sure if we accomplished 240 00:19:45.160 --> 00:19:52.600 anything. We're not going in there with a really clear plan. Okay? Probably, I want 241 00:19:52.600 --> 00:20:00.000 to say 20 years ago, 15, let's see, at least 10, maybe 10, 15 years ago, I 242 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:06.880 first got taught how to do this. It was 10 years ago. I'm thinking back right now. It was 10 years 243 00:20:06.880 --> 00:20:15.760 ago. And a wonderful woman, Anita, a friend of mine, made it so simple. And I've followed this 244 00:20:15.760 --> 00:20:23.360 now for over a decade on Facebook. And that is, I don't spend a lot of time on Facebook. People, 245 00:20:23.360 --> 00:20:27.040 that's one of the number one things. You're like, I don't have time to be on social media. I got my 246 00:20:27.040 --> 00:20:32.880 business. I got this and that. Okay. What takes time is if you get lost in the feeds all over 247 00:20:32.880 --> 00:20:38.960 the place. But you can go into Facebook or whichever you like, Instagram, LinkedIn, whatever 248 00:20:38.960 --> 00:20:47.120 it is. And you can go in very strategically with a plan. And so she gave us a plan. I think it was 249 00:20:47.120 --> 00:20:52.960 back then. I don't know. Might've been 10, 15 minutes. 15 minutes in the morning, 15 minutes 250 00:20:52.960 --> 00:21:00.000 at night. I'm going to give you something similar, based on the experience of what I've been doing 251 00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:07.440 for a long time. And I think these things will help you. All right. You don't need more than 30 252 00:21:07.440 --> 00:21:13.040 minutes twice a day. That's max. If you're spending more than that, you're way over the top. 253 00:21:13.040 --> 00:21:20.400 Okay. 10, 15 minutes is usually plenty. And the overall philosophy 254 00:21:21.360 --> 00:21:32.160 is to give way more than you ask. Give way more than you ask. So typically posts or emails or 255 00:21:32.160 --> 00:21:39.360 whatever marketing you're doing, videos, it should be give, give, give at least three. I like five. 256 00:21:39.360 --> 00:21:48.480 Give, give, give, give, ask. Okay. And people don't mind when those kinds of ratios, give, 257 00:21:48.480 --> 00:21:53.920 give, give, give, give, ask. Give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, ask. People don't mind that. 258 00:21:55.360 --> 00:22:02.240 All right. They're going to stay with you and they're going to appreciate what you do. And they 259 00:22:02.240 --> 00:22:07.760 won't mind when you make an offering. In fact, they will be glad that you're making an offering, 260 00:22:07.760 --> 00:22:13.600 especially if you're focusing on the outcome to them. Okay. So what would I do if I was going to 261 00:22:13.600 --> 00:22:18.720 pop on Facebook? This is what I do in the morning. I've had my time with God. I've done my walk. I've 262 00:22:18.720 --> 00:22:25.360 done everything and I'm getting ready to do pop on Facebook. This is exactly what I do. And it's 263 00:22:25.360 --> 00:22:31.280 quick. It's boom, boom, boom, boom. And the more you do it, the faster it's going to get. All right. 264 00:22:31.280 --> 00:22:35.840 Who wants to know what I do on Facebook every morning and every evening? Who wants to know? 265 00:22:36.800 --> 00:22:43.600 Say I. I want to know. I want to know you're with me. Say I'm with you. I need to hear from you guys. 266 00:22:43.600 --> 00:22:49.840 I see you there. All right. I think there's a little delay coming too. All right. Here's what I do. 267 00:22:50.880 --> 00:22:56.320 Number one, the first thing I do, and I know we've got all ranges of understanding on Facebook, 268 00:22:56.320 --> 00:23:01.440 so I'm going to make it very simple. Okay. Because some of you have never been on or barely been on. 269 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:06.960 And there you go. I'm getting all the little pops up. Thank you. All right. Some of you 270 00:23:09.200 --> 00:23:12.880 are brand new to Facebook and some of you are way more experienced. So 271 00:23:12.880 --> 00:23:22.400 bear with me. Okay. The first thing I do is check notifications. Check notifications. Okay. 272 00:23:22.400 --> 00:23:30.160 That's the little bell. Okay. That's the first thing that you go to is you check the notifications. 273 00:23:30.720 --> 00:23:40.480 All right. What do I look for? First thing is I look for new likes. So if I've done a post 274 00:23:41.600 --> 00:23:46.720 and people have liked it. Okay. Especially I'm going on my business page right now I'm talking 275 00:23:46.720 --> 00:23:55.040 about. Okay. People have liked it. You don't stop there. Okay. That's them raising their hand and 276 00:23:55.040 --> 00:24:02.560 reaching out and connecting with you. So when people have liked it, there is a place when you 277 00:24:02.560 --> 00:24:08.320 go and click on that. And I'll help any of you privately if you're not sure how to do this. 278 00:24:08.320 --> 00:24:13.280 And that there's a little button next to it, not on your personal page, but on your business page. 279 00:24:13.280 --> 00:24:20.160 And it says, invite to like my page. Okay. If it's on your personal page, 280 00:24:20.880 --> 00:24:27.600 then I instant message. I reach out and I say, Hey, thanks for your like. And I invite them to 281 00:24:27.600 --> 00:24:35.520 my business page. Okay. And I usually do that by saying, um, my, my personal page is where I share 282 00:24:35.520 --> 00:24:42.880 what's happening in, in my life, you know, food, fun, family travel. Uh, but I share all of my, 283 00:24:42.880 --> 00:24:48.480 and you can put what you share on your business page. Okay. The, the things that are value. 284 00:24:49.360 --> 00:24:54.960 Okay. And so you, we want to move them to liking your business page. 285 00:24:55.920 --> 00:24:59.840 Okay. So we want to move them from your personal page. There's two things that, that we need. 286 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:05.440 to do. We want to grow your personal page because you have things you can do and grow your business 287 00:25:05.440 --> 00:25:11.520 page because there's things you can do on Facebook and other places on your business page that you 288 00:25:11.520 --> 00:25:18.240 cannot do on your personal page. Let me make it clear, Facebook does not, I'm speaking Facebook 289 00:25:18.240 --> 00:25:22.960 primarily right now, we can separate out there's different things for Instagram and LinkedIn and 290 00:25:22.960 --> 00:25:27.360 all of that, but Facebook does not want you doing business on your personal page. 291 00:25:28.320 --> 00:25:35.920 They very much frown on that. Okay, so you need to have a separate business page. 292 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:43.360 And so we're going to want to periodically draw from the people that are on our personal page 293 00:25:43.360 --> 00:25:48.160 that friend requested us and etc. We want to draw them over to our business page where we can do far 294 00:25:48.160 --> 00:25:56.080 more. Okay, so again, first thing that I do, I check the little bell and if there's new likes, 295 00:25:56.880 --> 00:26:01.200 I want to invite them to like my page. In other words, they might have liked a post, 296 00:26:02.160 --> 00:26:08.400 but I want them to like my page so they're always going to get what I'm doing. Okay, 297 00:26:08.400 --> 00:26:15.600 so I'm checking for new likes and inviting them to like my page. I'm checking for shares. There's 298 00:26:15.600 --> 00:26:24.000 going to be people that like what you do and they're going to share it. Again, instant message 299 00:26:24.960 --> 00:26:34.000 is your key to totally direct messaging is your key to really truly connecting with them. 300 00:26:35.040 --> 00:26:42.720 I like to think of that as my networking meeting. That's my connection hub because I can talk to 301 00:26:42.720 --> 00:26:50.320 them privately. I can talk to them directly. I can truly reach them. So I want to get the 302 00:26:50.320 --> 00:26:56.080 conversation off of general. Somebody clicked a like, somebody shared, somebody did something. I 303 00:26:56.080 --> 00:27:02.400 want to get it off of general and I want to have a one-to-one conversation. That's where 304 00:27:02.400 --> 00:27:10.160 things really happen. So if they share, I thank them for their share. Okay, here's a tip. I'm 305 00:27:10.160 --> 00:27:14.960 jumping off for just one second because God's putting it on my heart. Okay, a little tip. 306 00:27:15.760 --> 00:27:22.480 Every time that you use messenger, okay, which is right there on your Facebook, you instant message 307 00:27:22.480 --> 00:27:29.920 them, you direct message them. Okay, every time you do that, you want to sign it at the bottom 308 00:27:29.920 --> 00:27:36.720 of whatever you write. Okay, so think about a signature. We worked on your signature page, 309 00:27:36.720 --> 00:27:42.160 you know, on your emails. Now think about your signature all the time. What you're going to say. 310 00:27:43.120 --> 00:27:49.760 All of you know my signature. Who can write down, who's going to be first, write down how 311 00:27:49.760 --> 00:27:54.480 do I sign everything, be it Facebook or anything. How do I sign it? 312 00:27:56.960 --> 00:28:03.200 How do I sign anything? If I message or I email you, how do I sign it? Somebody put it in the chat. 313 00:28:03.200 --> 00:28:13.840 How do I sign? How do I sign? What's my signature? What do I say? 314 00:28:19.440 --> 00:28:30.400 Nobody knows? Might be a delay on this. I say, praying you prosper in all things. 315 00:28:31.360 --> 00:28:37.280 Brenda, let me give you the reasons for that. This is a little hack God's putting on my heart 316 00:28:37.280 --> 00:28:43.040 to share with you right now. I know I'm bouncing around, but I'm sharing as God downloads to me. 317 00:28:43.040 --> 00:28:48.720 Okay, there you go. Earlene did it. Praying you prosper in all things. Okay, there's a double 318 00:28:48.720 --> 00:28:59.200 reason. Okay, I say, praying you prosper in all things, Brenda. What's happening to my brain 319 00:28:59.840 --> 00:29:03.040 every time I write? Praying you prosper in all things, Brenda. 320 00:29:04.160 --> 00:29:09.040 Praying you prosper in all things, Brenda. I'm writing that 10 times, 100 times a day, 321 00:29:09.040 --> 00:29:12.720 thousand times a day. Praying you prosper in all things, Brenda. 322 00:29:12.960 --> 00:29:21.120 Got it? You guys getting a download here real quick? The Bible talks about blessing yourself, 323 00:29:21.120 --> 00:29:30.160 and I'll share more about that. So I'm blessing them because I truly am praying for them. Okay, 324 00:29:30.160 --> 00:29:38.480 so I'm blessing them. I'm blessing myself. I'm consistently branding, praying, you know, 325 00:29:38.800 --> 00:29:43.600 prosper in all things is my company. So there's consistency in branding. 326 00:29:44.240 --> 00:29:50.960 All right, here's the hack I want to give you. Right underneath that, right after I say praying 327 00:29:50.960 --> 00:29:56.400 you prosper in all things, and you want to have your signature. Okay, welcome. Cindy just joined, 328 00:29:56.400 --> 00:29:59.920 right? All about hope. So I put some 329 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.880 Something in the signature that had to do with hope, that you speak all the time. 330 00:30:03.880 --> 00:30:07.440 Yes, you're feeding the message into you, you're feeding the message into them. 331 00:30:07.440 --> 00:30:13.600 Okay, so in that signature, now when you're messaging on direct messenger, I say praying, 332 00:30:13.600 --> 00:30:18.200 I end the message praying you prosper in all things, Brenda, now watch what I do right 333 00:30:18.200 --> 00:30:19.800 underneath that. 334 00:30:19.800 --> 00:30:28.520 I say www.facebook.com forward slash prosper in all things. 335 00:30:28.520 --> 00:30:33.200 Whatever your company address, your page, your business page is. 336 00:30:33.200 --> 00:30:42.360 Soon as I type that, my picture and my business page is right there, okay? 337 00:30:42.360 --> 00:30:44.080 It pops up. 338 00:30:44.080 --> 00:30:49.920 Again, branding, how many times do they need to see you before they know, like, and trust 339 00:30:49.920 --> 00:30:50.920 you? 340 00:30:50.920 --> 00:30:56.040 So you're giving value, value, value, but every time you're direct messaging them, you're 341 00:30:56.040 --> 00:31:00.920 blessing yourself, you're blessing them, you're putting your face there, it's not 342 00:31:00.920 --> 00:31:03.600 just words, okay? 343 00:31:03.600 --> 00:31:04.740 So that's a hack. 344 00:31:04.740 --> 00:31:07.320 So every morning, what are we doing real quick? 345 00:31:07.320 --> 00:31:10.180 We're checking our notifications. 346 00:31:10.180 --> 00:31:15.680 Our new likes, if it's on the business page, we're inviting them to like our business page. 347 00:31:15.680 --> 00:31:19.680 If it's a share, we're direct messaging them and thanking them. 348 00:31:19.680 --> 00:31:25.880 If it's a friend request, then I quickly glance at them and see if it's someone I want to 349 00:31:25.880 --> 00:31:27.680 be friends with, right? 350 00:31:27.680 --> 00:31:32.480 I look at what they're promoting, does it line up, right? 351 00:31:32.480 --> 00:31:35.960 With someone I want to work with, someone I want to be friends with, okay? 352 00:31:35.960 --> 00:31:42.600 So I glanced at it real quick, and then I confirm, I accept the friend request, and 353 00:31:42.600 --> 00:31:48.660 then I immediately, as soon as I accept the friend request, I immediately instant message 354 00:31:48.660 --> 00:31:54.040 them and thank them for the friend request. 355 00:31:54.560 --> 00:31:57.440 Lastly, on the notifications are birthdays. 356 00:31:57.440 --> 00:32:02.600 Okay, so I'm going in there and I'm just click, click, click, I'm checking, how do I do that 357 00:32:02.600 --> 00:32:05.240 fast and not take all day, okay? 358 00:32:05.240 --> 00:32:07.840 Here is a time hack, alright? 359 00:32:07.840 --> 00:32:13.760 I have a Word document sitting right on my desktop, you can put it wherever you can find 360 00:32:13.760 --> 00:32:22.480 it, and I have pre-written a note that I'm going to put in the direct message. 361 00:32:22.480 --> 00:32:27.000 So I copy and paste that into the direct message. 362 00:32:27.000 --> 00:32:33.360 So I always start with their name, hi, and I put their name, and this is what my mind 363 00:32:33.360 --> 00:32:39.440 says that I do over and over again, thanks for the friend request. 364 00:32:39.440 --> 00:32:44.120 Then I either say, looks like you have good stuff happening, if they're really doing stuff 365 00:32:44.120 --> 00:32:48.720 and everything, I say, looks like you have good stuff happening, or I find something 366 00:32:48.720 --> 00:32:49.720 to love. 367 00:32:49.720 --> 00:32:51.880 I love the colors on your page. 368 00:32:51.880 --> 00:32:55.800 I love all your positive posts, whatever. 369 00:32:55.800 --> 00:32:59.560 Find something to connect, one sentence, okay? 370 00:32:59.560 --> 00:33:03.400 Or if we have a ton of people in common, I say, looks like we have a lot of friends in 371 00:33:03.400 --> 00:33:04.400 common. 372 00:33:04.400 --> 00:33:07.680 I'm going to share this in the attachments, alright, so don't worry. 373 00:33:07.680 --> 00:33:11.080 And then I say, I look forward to getting to know you. 374 00:33:11.080 --> 00:33:15.280 And then I either say, if I don't see that they're doing that great, I say, how are you 375 00:33:15.280 --> 00:33:17.960 doing during all this craziness? 376 00:33:17.960 --> 00:33:19.760 My chance to reach out. 377 00:33:19.800 --> 00:33:23.960 If it looks like they're busy and they're going and going, I usually say something like, 378 00:33:23.960 --> 00:33:27.480 what exciting adventure does God have you on? 379 00:33:27.480 --> 00:33:30.800 I end with an open question. 380 00:33:30.800 --> 00:33:33.760 Remember, what we want is relationship. 381 00:33:33.760 --> 00:33:35.680 We want engagement. 382 00:33:35.680 --> 00:33:42.160 So I open with something that we can really connect on, and then praying you prosper in 383 00:33:42.160 --> 00:33:44.240 all things, Brenda. 384 00:33:45.240 --> 00:33:49.360 Here is how I sign it with that. 385 00:33:49.360 --> 00:33:54.880 If I'm asking them to like my business page right there, I say, P.S. 386 00:33:54.880 --> 00:33:57.160 Please check out my business page. 387 00:33:57.160 --> 00:34:00.860 It's dedicated to equipping and empowering women to prosper. 388 00:34:00.860 --> 00:34:04.640 If you like what you see, please hit like and follow. 389 00:34:04.640 --> 00:34:10.280 And that's where I put www.facebook.com forward slash prosper in all things. 390 00:34:10.280 --> 00:34:14.199 Whatever your link is that is your page, okay? 391 00:34:14.199 --> 00:34:22.199 Have that pre-written so you can just cut and paste it, all right? 392 00:34:22.199 --> 00:34:24.600 And be able to just modify it really quick. 393 00:34:24.600 --> 00:34:26.320 But that just, it's quick now. 394 00:34:26.320 --> 00:34:31.639 So anybody that has liked you that you're connecting with, you can modify that and boom, 395 00:34:31.639 --> 00:34:34.800 this is the way you're going to grow your business page. 396 00:34:34.800 --> 00:34:37.639 You're going to start the conversation going. 397 00:34:37.639 --> 00:34:41.000 And I get fantastic conversations going. 398 00:34:41.000 --> 00:34:46.360 They usually write, they tell me what they're doing, and we want engagement back and forth. 399 00:34:46.360 --> 00:34:48.760 We'll talk about that more as we go. 400 00:34:48.760 --> 00:34:53.560 My next step, you want to have a plan, so I want them to like my business page, but 401 00:34:53.560 --> 00:34:57.000 my next step is I want to get their email. 402 00:34:57.000 --> 00:34:59.640 So I want you to remember, whatever channel you're on. 403 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:07.200 on social media, it can be taken away from you in a minute, in a second, in a heartbeat. 404 00:35:07.200 --> 00:35:12.040 So a bunch of likes or a bunch of friends or a bunch of anything on social media in 405 00:35:12.040 --> 00:35:15.880 the long run means nothing. 406 00:35:15.880 --> 00:35:20.240 Facebook changed their algorithms, you can have 5,000 people and they can show you to 407 00:35:20.240 --> 00:35:24.180 20 unless you're paying for advertising. 408 00:35:24.180 --> 00:35:28.240 So I'm going to put this stuff in the handout, I'll probably be popping by and giving you 409 00:35:28.240 --> 00:35:32.740 some more things because I don't want to overload you, I'm giving you a bunch right now. 410 00:35:32.740 --> 00:35:39.140 But what did we talk about here in review real quick and what is your assignment? 411 00:35:39.140 --> 00:35:46.260 We talked about confidence and confidence comes by focusing on the other person, confidence 412 00:35:46.260 --> 00:35:50.720 comes by focusing on the value that you deliver. 413 00:35:50.720 --> 00:35:54.520 So we talked about that, I gave you some tools and some directions. 414 00:35:54.560 --> 00:35:59.920 And we talked about showing up on social media, I'm going to give you something each day. 415 00:35:59.920 --> 00:36:06.220 So this is going to be your first practice is you're going to start from now on, every 416 00:36:06.220 --> 00:36:10.760 day you're going to check your notifications, the little bell real quick. 417 00:36:10.760 --> 00:36:15.200 You're going to look for new likes and you're going to invite them, there's just a little 418 00:36:15.200 --> 00:36:17.380 invite button to like your page. 419 00:36:17.380 --> 00:36:20.920 You're going to look for shares, you're going to thank them. 420 00:36:20.920 --> 00:36:24.920 You're going to look for friend requests and you're going to instant message them and 421 00:36:24.920 --> 00:36:27.060 start the conversation going. 422 00:36:27.060 --> 00:36:30.280 You're going to look for birthdays where you can wish them a happy birthday. 423 00:36:30.280 --> 00:36:31.280 That's the first thing. 424 00:36:31.280 --> 00:36:35.440 I'm going to give you five things over the next couple of days that we're going to do 425 00:36:35.440 --> 00:36:36.440 every day. 426 00:36:36.440 --> 00:36:39.480 Okay, so what is your assignment for the challenge? 427 00:36:39.480 --> 00:36:42.040 Should you choose to accept? 428 00:36:42.040 --> 00:36:47.120 First of all, go back if you haven't done the first two, start there, show up. 429 00:36:47.120 --> 00:36:50.400 This is about showing up, have courage, get your video in the group. 430 00:36:50.400 --> 00:36:53.560 There's so much encouragement, there's so much grace happening. 431 00:36:53.560 --> 00:36:54.560 Get it up there. 432 00:36:54.560 --> 00:36:55.560 Let us see you. 433 00:36:55.560 --> 00:36:57.780 I don't care if it's 30 seconds, let us see you. 434 00:36:57.780 --> 00:36:58.780 Get it up there. 435 00:36:58.780 --> 00:37:02.000 So go back and do if you haven't done already. 436 00:37:02.000 --> 00:37:11.760 Today's assignment, I want you to post in the group, okay, post in the group something 437 00:37:11.760 --> 00:37:15.440 that stops the scroll. 438 00:37:15.440 --> 00:37:17.080 What do I mean stops the scroll? 439 00:37:17.080 --> 00:37:19.200 Write this down if you're taking notes. 440 00:37:19.200 --> 00:37:22.000 Stop the scroll. 441 00:37:22.000 --> 00:37:25.840 Most people have a habit on social media and they're on Instagram, they're on Facebook, 442 00:37:25.840 --> 00:37:29.880 they're whatever and they're going da, da, da, da, da, can you see my hands? 443 00:37:29.880 --> 00:37:33.520 Scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, boom, what's that? 444 00:37:33.520 --> 00:37:37.600 You want to be that person that they go, ooh, what's that? 445 00:37:37.600 --> 00:37:42.320 Okay, all right, we're going to talk as we go through this challenge and this is a lot 446 00:37:42.320 --> 00:37:46.920 of stuff I do in coaching, you know, to really, it's far more than I can do in a little half 447 00:37:46.920 --> 00:37:49.840 an hour every morning and I'm already over that half hour. 448 00:37:49.840 --> 00:37:55.800 But what I want you to do to stop the scroll today, okay, write down stop the scroll, today 449 00:37:55.800 --> 00:38:04.600 it's going to be something cute, okay, just post, it can be a gif, it can be a picture, 450 00:38:04.600 --> 00:38:11.460 it can be a quote, it can be, by the way, babies and animals usually stop the scroll, 451 00:38:11.460 --> 00:38:22.100 so you can find pictures if you're new to this, pixabay.com, P-I-X-A-B-A-Y, pixabay.com 452 00:38:22.100 --> 00:38:26.460 is where you can find pictures and you can put in the search engine what you're looking 453 00:38:26.460 --> 00:38:27.460 for. 454 00:38:27.460 --> 00:38:32.300 So you could say cute kitten or you could say puppy or you could say baby. 455 00:38:32.300 --> 00:38:39.500 So pixabay.com, unsplash.com, especially if you want nature or something a little bit 456 00:38:39.500 --> 00:38:46.260 unusual, I like unsplash.com, those are royalty free pictures that you can use. 457 00:38:46.260 --> 00:38:50.540 I'm going to get you better as we go through the challenge of stopping the scroll, but 458 00:38:50.540 --> 00:38:56.500 for right now, your assignment is to post something in the group. 459 00:38:56.500 --> 00:39:02.220 You can write an inspirational message just above it if you're new to doing this, if you 460 00:39:02.220 --> 00:39:08.380 want to get a little bit fancy, I'm going to teach you how to use canva.com, that's 461 00:39:08.380 --> 00:39:12.260 where you can go in and create a Facebook post really nicely, that will be your best 462 00:39:12.260 --> 00:39:14.860 friend canva.com. 463 00:39:14.860 --> 00:39:21.180 But for now, your new habit, every morning you're checking your notifications and today 464 00:39:21.180 --> 00:39:26.580 you're going to post something that makes us stop the scroll and we're going to comment, 465 00:39:26.580 --> 00:39:31.580 hey this is the place of grace and action, we're going to comment and let you know if 466 00:39:31.580 --> 00:39:35.340 you stopped the scroll for us and how we like that. 467 00:39:35.340 --> 00:39:41.020 Alright, I hope that helped you this morning, congratulations, welcome, you made it day 468 00:39:41.020 --> 00:39:42.540 three. 469 00:39:42.540 --> 00:39:46.460 If you need to catch up, all the videos are there for those of you that are new, I'm so 470 00:39:46.460 --> 00:39:55.180 glad you're here, I'm so glad you're choosing to show up and let God show out through you. 471 00:39:55.180 --> 00:39:59.980 So glad, so glad to be part of your life, I love you much. 472 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.480 I'll see you over in the group, the 5-7 Prosper Challenge. 473 00:40:04.480 --> 00:40:05.680 See you there. 474 00:40:05.680 --> 00:40:06.660 God bless you.