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All right, so we're gonna get started tonight.

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You guys, we're gonna talk about divorce and remarriage.

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This is a really important subject.

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So many people have asked for this session

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ever since the beginning of just what we do

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with this movement, people have asked for a session on this.

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So many people have so much confusion around this topic

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and a lot of people have a lot of shame.

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They have a lot of shame around this topic.

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They have a lot of guilt around this topic.

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They have a lot of fear around this topic.

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In fact, many people have come to me and said,

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hey, when people find out that I'm divorced

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and they don't want to talk to me on the dating app

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because they don't believe in remarriage,

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they don't believe that people are allowed to remarry

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and therefore they don't wanna talk to me

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because in their mind, I'm not allowed to remarry.

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I have to stay single for the rest of my life.

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A lot of the people that come to me and ask about this

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are people that have been divorced

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because of the reason of abuse.

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Some kind of physical, mental, verbal, emotional,

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spiritual abuse was happening in their marriage

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and they had to get out.

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It wasn't a divorce, it was a rescue mission.

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They had to get out of that marriage

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and it is a hard pill to swallow to believe

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that you had to leave pretty much to save your own life,

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mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically

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but now you're never allowed to be happy ever again.

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You're never allowed to have another love story

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because you chose wrong the first time

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because that's difficult.

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And then of course, a lot of different denominations

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teach this and they perpetuate this that,

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oh yeah, you can get divorced if you want to

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but you're gonna have to stay single

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for the rest of your life.

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You're gonna miss out on the promises of God for your life.

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You're basically gonna be disqualified from a lot of things

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and that keeps a lot of people

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in abusive situations, doesn't it?

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It keeps a lot of people from getting divorced

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because there's so many churches and denominations

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that are completely against divorce.

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They have hung their hats on the hook of God hates divorce.

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They have built their buildings

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on the rock of God hates divorce

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and so that equals God also hates divorced people.

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That is kind of the insinuation that they give out

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and so yeah, you can do it if you want to

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but you're gonna be in disobedience to God's word

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because under any circumstance,

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God wants you to stay in the marriage, okay?

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That's what they're teaching.

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That's what they're insinuating.

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That's what they're preaching

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that no matter what it is, you just need to pray harder.

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You need to fast more.

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You need to love them.

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Some very misogynistic men,

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we're not saying this to hurt your feelings

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but it's just the truth.

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Some very misogynistic denominations

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will actually ask the woman,

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well, what are you doing wrong?

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Why aren't you making him happy?

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Why is he treating you that way?

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You must not be a good wife.

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I mean, I've heard everything you can imagine from people

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when it comes to this subject, okay?

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And let's see the hands of the people.

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I would assume that everyone that's coming to this session

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would be people that are divorced

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but maybe you've come

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because what if you meet someone who's been divorced?

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Maybe you just wanna hear this teaching for that reason.

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So no matter why you're here, I'm glad you're here

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but let's see the hands of the people

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that are actually divorced that are here.

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Can we see the hands?

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Keep them coming.

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Go ahead and put them up, please.

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Okay, it looks like about half,

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maybe a little bit more than half.

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All right, all right, all right, all right.

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Okay, great.

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So for all of you that are divorced,

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go ahead and put in the chat any version

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of what I just talked about that you heard

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when you were considering divorce.

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Anything that well-meaning,

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once again, I believe that those people are well-meaning.

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I believe that they're only telling you

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what they've been taught

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but people have been taught wrong, okay?

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That's what I'm gonna prove to you in the word of God today.

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People have been taught wrong when it comes to divorce, okay?

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They really have.

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And so it's really important

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that you know the truth about this

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because some of you are gonna be freed from shame tonight.

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You're gonna be freed from your personal disqualification

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because you're divorced.

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You're gonna be freed from any guilt

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that you've been carrying.

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You're gonna be free from the fear that if you remarry,

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you're gonna be perpetually living in sin and go to hell.

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You're like, that's crazy talk, Jackie.

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No, I felt that way when I got remarried,

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I was scared all the time.

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Like, oh my gosh, am I like living in adultery?

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And like, am I living in adultery

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that I can never be forgiven of

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because I'm willfully committing it now

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in marriage for the rest of my life.

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And then when I die, I'm gonna go to hell.

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I mean, seriously, if you think that's crazy talk,

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I'm telling you, I was brainwashed

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with that old type of teaching to the point

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where I was scared that I wasn't remarried legally

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in God's eyes and that he didn't honor my marriage,

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that he wasn't in my marriage and that, you know,

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that I was just basically living in sin, okay?

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Cause I've heard lots of people say that

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about remarried people.

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Okay, lots and lots and lots of things.

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All right.

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You said, I do, you have to keep the promise.

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Once married, it's for life.

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If you get divorced, you're not following God.

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Everything that you just said has been said to me.

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You would have been put under church discipline

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if you would have stayed in that church.

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Once people knew how bad my situation was,

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they didn't blame me.

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Okay, that's great.

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My pastor told me to let my husband divorce me

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cause he was acting as an unbeliever

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and he was abusing me and cheating.

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God hates divorce, you're a Christian.

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So really what people are,

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the message that people are sending,

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even though once again,

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I don't feel like people are doing this maliciously.

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I want to be very clear about that.

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I think that people, this is just what they know.

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This is what they believe.

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And this is, you know,

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they're trying to help you in their mind.

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Like, oh, don't do that.

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That's sin, that's bad.

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You can't do that.

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But they do believe this and then they push it on us.

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And the problem is, is it causes a lot of problems.

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And so the message that it's sending

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is that God hates divorce more than he hates abuse.

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Right?

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He hates divorced people.

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He, you know, he isn't going to, you know,

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allow you to have the same type of promises

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or access to him if you are constantly living

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in a perpetual state of disobedience to his word.

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And so we want to debunk that stuff tonight.

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I was told I would never be under God's protection

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without a husband.

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There's a lot of stuff, a lot of stuff.

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All right.

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So get ready to take some notes.

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Once again, I will tell you that I was rowing this boat.

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For those of you that have been afraid of these things,

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you've been really worried about,

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you haven't been remarried.

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Obviously you're single and that's why you're in here,

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but you've been afraid of remarrying for these very reasons.

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And you've just, like I said,

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you've just been feeling a lot of shame over this area.

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I believe you're going to get a lot of freedom tonight.

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I really do.

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I know you will.

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And you'll get the same type of freedom that I have gotten.

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And that is why I'm going to teach this to you tonight.

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My pastor, I had an amazing pastor

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when I lived in Columbus, Ohio.

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Some of you might know him, Jim Baker.

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He's an incredible guy.

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He's not the guy that stole all the money,

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totally different Jim Baker.

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Just want to make sure for all you old school people,

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it's not the same guy.

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But he did, he does, he teaches a lot on kingdom

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and he did an amazing,

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he did an amazing teaching on divorce and remarriage.

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And so, so it really set me free.

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And I want to teach you guys that same,

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that same sermon tonight,

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that same, those same lessons tonight,

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because once again, I believe that it's time,

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it's time for you to get out from underneath

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all of that wrong teaching and get free

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and walking fully in God's kingdom.

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So Father God, we thank you for your kingdom.

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We thank you that your kingdom is vast, God,

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and it's yes and amen.

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We thank you that Jesus came to establish

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your kingdom on earth.

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We thank you that we have been invited to live

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in the finished work of the cross.

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The law of the prophets has been fulfilled, Lord.

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We are able to walk in freedom.

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Jesus died, he died on that cross for us.

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And he died on that cross as us.

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We died with him that day.

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And now we are seated with Christ in heavenly places.

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We no longer are under the law.

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We are only under the law of love

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and that we are able to freely live in your kingdom.

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And so I pray tonight that any idols of religion,

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any false teachings,

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anything that's going to keep your sons and daughters back

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from the abundant life that Jesus talks about

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in John 10, 10, anything,

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that it would come to the surface,

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that it would be revealed, that it would be healed,

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that they would truly be able to access the freedom

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that Christ died for and shed his blood for.

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And that we ask right now, if there are any,

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there's any shame, that there's any guilt,

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that they would be able.

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clearly see what's rooted, where it's rooted, so that they can repent of that, repent of believing

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those ideologies that keep them from feeling fully loved and fully accepted in the beloved,

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and that they could absolutely be able to talk to other people about this exact same thing, Lord,

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and just perpetuate the truth on this subject to others. In Jesus name, amen.

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Jack, excuse me, it's Christy. Before we go any further, we are not recording to the cloud. Should

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I do that? We're not going to record to the cloud, Christy. We're live streaming on Facebook.

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Just wanted to make sure. Thank you. Thank you.

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And you're muted. Yep, I'm aware of that. All right, ladies and gentlemen, there's going to be

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a lot of teaching tonight. All right, a lot of teaching, and we have a short amount of time to

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get it in. And so I'm going to ask that you save all of your questions, all of your comments,

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all of your unmuting until the end, so that we can get it all in. It's really important that we do.

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You can watch this and replay. You can take more notes and replay. I will try to save a few minutes

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for Q&A at the end, but I really, really want to make sure that we get all this in. Does everyone

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understand that? Is that cool? All right. All right. All right, guys. All right. Nobody says,

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when I grow up, I want to be divorced. You guys didn't say that when you were little, did you?

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Oh, when I grow up, I want to be divorced. No, that was not a dream of our hearts.

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Everyone that has your hands up, you can go ahead and put your hands down. A lot of little hands

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up right now. I want to make sure, because I probably will ask you a few questions. I want

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to make sure that those responses are authentic and not just from before. So that's nobody's dream

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of anybody's heart to be divorced. But the problem with modern Bible teaching, and it's not just on

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this subject, you guys, the problem with modern Bible teaching is that a lot of times it's out

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of context. It just is. It's out of context. First of all, people don't understand the Jewish customs,

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the deeper meanings of the things that are mentioned in the Bible, the symbolism that is,

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that is behind a lot of things that are mentioned in scriptures, because we're not Jews.

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Okay. Most of us are not Jews. Now there might be a few Jews in here. You know, I found out

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through one of those, those lineage, like 23andMe and Ancestry, that I do have some Jewish blood,

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which is not surprising because I'm a very shrewd person. But at the same time, I was not raised

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with any type of Jewish customs, no Judaism. So I don't understand any of that stuff. I do have

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some really amazing Jewish friends that have explained a lot of stuff to me, and I really

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appreciate that. And if you don't have a Jewish friend, find yourself one. Ask God to give you a

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Jewish friend. You want to know why? Because Jewish, Jewish people that have been raised in

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Judaism, not secular Jews, people that have been raised, you know, religiously in Judaism,

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they can fill in a lot of blanks for you. A lot of, a lot of blanks about what things meant and

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why things were done this way and not that way, because we just don't know. We don't, you guys.

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And it's really important that we have those blanks filled in because there's so much that

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is being taught by Gentile white people in America, and it's out of context. It's not taking

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into account the audience, the time period back then, the customs of the time period, the deeper

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meanings of the words that are being used, which by the way, were not English. They were Hebrew or

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Greek, the questions that are being asked in those scriptures or the questions that are being answered.

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Does everyone understand that? Basically, I'm telling you something that's going to hurt your

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feelings. A lot of what you've been taught from the Bible is probably not quite correct.

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That's scary, isn't it? Cause you're like, well, I built my life on that.

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Well, that's where Holy spirit comes in. Remember when Jesus met the woman at the well, that was

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Sumerian. And he said, there's coming a time when you have to worship in spirit and in truth.

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Remember that little conversation? Well, that's why we need Holy spirit, because Holy spirit

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has one job. His job is to lead us into the deeper teachings of Jesus to finish the work that Jesus

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started when he brought the kingdom to earth, thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it

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already is in heaven. Right?

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He is the counselor, he is the comforter, he is the teacher.

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And so if you're not leaning into him

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when you're reading scripture,

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when you're reading the Bible,

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actually reading the Bible

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could be a dangerous thing for you.

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Yep, I said it.

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Reading the Bible without the help of Holy Spirit

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actually could pull you further away from God.

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Not draw you near, but actually separate you from him.

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Because there's a lot of things in there

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depending on how they've been taught to you

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and how they've been translated to you

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that could actually keep you from really being able

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to receive grace and mercy and kingdom ideologies and ideas

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and really have that abundant life.

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Does everyone get that?

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And unfortunately, this topic is one of those topics.

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And it's been a very important topic

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ever since the beginning of time.

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Marriage, divorce, remarriage

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has been one of the biggest topics

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talked about in religious circles

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since the beginning of time.

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And I'm gonna show you that tonight, okay?

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Really important.

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So we have the Old Testament.

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You know, us, like I said,

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us Gentile Christians know that as before Jesus.

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And then the New Testament is Jesus' time, right?

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And so the Old Testament can be very confusing.

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there's a lot of weird stuff

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that happened in the Old Testament.

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A lot of stuff that could make you think,

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God is just not that nice.

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There's a lot of bad, scary stuff going on back here.

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People getting eaten by bears

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because they made fun of Baldy because, you know, whatever.

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and consuming people.

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she's turned into a pillar of salt

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simply because she looked behind her shoulder.

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And then women are treated terribly, right?

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Everyone's like, oh, Esther, I love the book of Esther.

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Do you?

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Because it actually seems to be about human trafficking

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in one way, shape or form.

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Yeah, there's a lot of things.

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And that's why we can't just read the Bible.

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We have to read the Bible.

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We have to read it with Holy Spirit

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and with an understanding of, like I said,

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once again, the deeper meanings

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and the symbolism behind things, right?

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We do, we have to.

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So I want us to start focusing

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for a few minutes on Matthew 5.

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So go ahead and go there.

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You can read it in whatever translation you want to,

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but we're gonna talk about the kingdom of God tonight.

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The kingdom of God that John the Baptist announced it.

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Okay, he preached the kingdom.

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He said, hey, there's a new dawn coming,

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a new era coming.

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There's a new thing that's coming.

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Come on and get ready for it.

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Come and let me baptize you into it.

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You know, he was preaching that.

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He said that there would be one that came after him

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that's sandals he was not worthy enough to unloose.

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He was talking about Jesus.

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He basically said, I'm gonna tell you about this kingdom,

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but this guy is gonna demonstrate it.

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He's gonna show you what it looks like, right?

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He's gonna bring it with him.

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I'm gonna tell you that it's coming,

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but he's gonna actually bring it.

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Amen?

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He's talking about Jesus there.

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And so this, Matthew 5 has a lot of times

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we call it the Sermon on the Mount.

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It's like, basically, if you watch that,

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if anyone watched that show, The Chosen,

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it's part of Jesus's big debut of his teaching.

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It's like one of his first like put on, you know,

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where he's announcing this kingdom that John was preaching.

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He's beginning to tell people what it looks like.

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He's beginning to teach about what does it look like.

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Remember, all of these people

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have been living under the law.

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Whether they were Jews or not Jews,

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there was the law of the land.

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Then there was the law of the Jews, Judaism,

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the law of Moses is what they called it.

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There was all of those laws coinciding.

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There were the Romans lived under a certain law,

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the law of the land.

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And then there was the law of Moses

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that the Jews lived under the Roman law

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and they lived under the law of Moses.

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But Jesus was coming

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and he was preaching something completely different.

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And you guys, I don't think that we appreciate

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how different the Sermon on the Mount was

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from what was being taught to people

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or the law that they were living under at the time.

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You guys, this was crazy talk that this man came

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to talk about.

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We read it and we're like, oh yes,

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blessed are the merciful because they will obtain mercy.

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We think it's great.

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But you have to understand how different it was

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to the hearers back then.

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Can you appreciate that?

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Okay, all right.

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So let's go ahead and just take a quick look at Matthew 5.

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So if you start there at verse one,

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you see that.

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that he went on the mountain side and he began to teach the crowds.

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And then he has the Beatitudes, blessed are the poor in spirit,

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blessed are they that mourn, blessed are the meek.

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Let's go ahead and skip on down through all of that.

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Then he talks about how your salt and light in the earth.

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He starts talking in these parables and these riddles.

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He starts talking about all these different things, but I want you to

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skip all the way down to verse 17.

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And in the translation that I am reading from here, which is the new

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international version, the NIV, this little segment of Matthew five

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is called the fulfillment of the law.

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Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the prophets.

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I have not come to abolish them, but to fulfill them.

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For truly, I tell you until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest

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letter, not the least stroke of a pen will by any means disappear from the

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law until everything is accomplished.

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Therefore, anyone who sets aside one of the least of these commands and

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teaches others accordingly will be called least in the kingdom of God.

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But whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called

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great in the kingdom of God.

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For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the

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Pharisees, those were the religious folk of the time.

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They were the professional religious people and the teachers of the law.

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You will certainly not enter into the kingdom of heaven.

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Whoa.

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Them's fighting words, Jesus.

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You see what he's saying here?

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He's saying, if your righteousness just comes from the law of Moses, if it's

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just religious righteousness, like the Pharisees and the teachers of the law

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of Moses, you're not going to come into the kingdom.

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I came to bring the kingdom.

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You can't come into the kingdom.

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If you're still going to live under these laws, the way they are.

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And then let, and then he starts talking about this.

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You have heard that it was said to the people long ago.

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What's he talking about?

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The law of Moses, you shall not murder.

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Do you guys know that?

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You, we always talk about the 10 commandments, right?

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The law of Moses, but you guys, the law of Moses is so much

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more than the 10 commandments.

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Do you guys know that right now?

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Modern Jews, modern Jews in Israel or anywhere else where they're

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practicing modern unorthodox or orthodox Judaism, they have 661

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statutes that they have to follow.

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That's a lot of rules y'all.

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They got rules about rules.

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Their rules have rules.

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Okay.

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Cause that's just like, that's just, that's the human nature, right?

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God says one thing and then we add like 15 things to it.

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That's what we do.

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And so he says, you've heard it said you shall not murder.

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Well, I don't know about you guys, but this has not been a

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real hard one for me to keep.

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I've never murdered anyone.

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I don't plan on murdering anyone.

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You know, I'm not, you know, I'm not a murderer.

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I'm not going to murder anyone.

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And so for a lot of people, they're like, Hey, I got it.

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Whoa, I'm not going to murder anyone.

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I can check that box.

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I am definitely for sure.

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Not going to break that rule.

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But he says, but I tell you, remember, this is the kingdom.

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He just said in the verse before, unless your righteousness surpasses

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that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, because they're

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just telling you all you have to do is keep from murdering someone.

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Right.

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But he's saying, I'm telling you that if you're angry at your brother or

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sister, then you've murdered them.

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If you say Raqqa, which is fool.

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If you call your brother or sister a fool, you will be in danger of hellfire.

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Whoa.

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What is he saying?

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He's saying murder is more than just this.

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It's it's a, it's a matter of the heart.

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We could actually call this passage of scripture, the heartwork you guys.

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Cause that's what it is.

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Next verse.

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Therefore, if you're offering your gift to the altar and you remember that your

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brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of

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the altar and go and be reconciled to them and then come and offer your gift.

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Settle matters quickly with your adversary.

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Who is taking you to court?

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Do it while you are still together on the way.

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We're on the way, walking to the court.

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Okay.

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Adultery 27 verse 27.

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You have heard it said you shall not commit adultery, but I tell you that

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anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed

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adultery with her in his heart.

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You guys, are we serious here?

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Everyone's committed adultery according to Jesus, especially in the porn, the

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porn era that we live in good grief.

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You know, you can't even walk down the street without seeing half naked people, right?

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And then he goes on to say, if your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and

501
00:25:12.740 --> 00:25:13.740
throw it away.

502
00:25:13.740 --> 00:25:17.740
What are you talking about, Jesus?

503
00:25:17.740 --> 00:25:21.080
It's better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown

504
00:25:21.080 --> 00:25:22.080
into hell.

505
00:25:22.080 --> 00:25:26.260
And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away.

506
00:25:26.260 --> 00:25:31.580
It is better for you to lose one part of your body than your whole body to go into hell.

507
00:25:31.580 --> 00:25:32.860
You guys, what is he doing?

508
00:25:32.860 --> 00:25:35.880
He's raising the standard to heart stuff.

509
00:25:35.880 --> 00:25:39.140
It's not just about you following the letter of the law.

510
00:25:39.140 --> 00:25:40.980
It's not about ritual.

511
00:25:40.980 --> 00:25:43.340
It's about your heart.

512
00:25:43.340 --> 00:25:48.800
You could be righteous in your following of the law and be unrighteous in your heart.

513
00:25:48.800 --> 00:25:54.800
He's like, he's basically telling everyone the kingdom is about your heart.

514
00:25:54.800 --> 00:25:56.280
It's about your heart.

515
00:25:56.280 --> 00:26:01.000
Remember, he told the Pharisees, you're like, you're like tombs.

516
00:26:01.000 --> 00:26:06.120
You're white, you're washed white on the outside, but inside of you is dead man's bones.

517
00:26:06.120 --> 00:26:10.760
Doesn't matter if you're crossing every T and dot and every I on the outside, what does

518
00:26:10.760 --> 00:26:12.760
your heart look like?

519
00:26:12.760 --> 00:26:17.760
And then you guys in the same vein, you can't separate the next scripture from what Jesus

520
00:26:17.760 --> 00:26:22.940
is talking about because it's the very next thing he says.

521
00:26:22.940 --> 00:26:29.740
He says, it has been said, anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.

522
00:26:29.740 --> 00:26:30.740
That's the law of Moses.

523
00:26:30.740 --> 00:26:31.740
You guys.

524
00:26:31.740 --> 00:26:39.020
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife except for sexual immorality makes her

525
00:26:39.020 --> 00:26:46.220
the victim of adultery and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

526
00:26:46.220 --> 00:26:51.300
Now you guys, this is the scripture that lots of churches and denominations take out of

527
00:26:51.300 --> 00:26:57.180
context and they say, if you didn't get divorced because your, your person was cheating on

528
00:26:57.180 --> 00:27:01.860
you, then you are, you are, you are committing adultery.

529
00:27:01.860 --> 00:27:07.420
If you get married again and anyone who, anyone who marries you is committing adultery.

530
00:27:07.420 --> 00:27:08.460
Okay.

531
00:27:08.460 --> 00:27:12.300
And so we're going to debunk that tonight because I'm going to tell you the history

532
00:27:12.300 --> 00:27:16.300
of what Jesus is saying right now, who wants to learn about it?

533
00:27:16.300 --> 00:27:20.620
All right, I'm excited.

534
00:27:20.620 --> 00:27:22.540
You guys want to learn about it?

535
00:27:22.540 --> 00:27:23.540
Okay.

536
00:27:23.540 --> 00:27:30.420
So Jesus is saying at all, all of Matthew five, Jesus is doing what the sermon on the

537
00:27:30.420 --> 00:27:34.900
Mount, all of the teachings about the law that he's doing.

538
00:27:34.900 --> 00:27:41.260
He is establishing the difference between the, the law, the righteousness that comes

539
00:27:41.260 --> 00:27:48.540
from the law, legalism, and the righteousness that comes from the heart kingdom.

540
00:27:48.540 --> 00:27:50.180
That's what he's doing here.

541
00:27:50.740 --> 00:27:52.660
He's contrasting old righteousness.

542
00:27:52.660 --> 00:27:57.860
That was all about your works and keeping the law and new righteousness, which is all

543
00:27:57.860 --> 00:28:01.700
about your heart, religion versus kingdom living.

544
00:28:01.700 --> 00:28:10.900
Does everyone see that he's contrasting that who is that someone, someone right there is

545
00:28:10.900 --> 00:28:11.900
just smiling.

546
00:28:11.900 --> 00:28:15.620
I can't see your name, but you're like, yeah, yeah, I like it.

547
00:28:15.620 --> 00:28:17.180
All right.

548
00:28:17.180 --> 00:28:22.060
So in the first contrast that we just read, Jesus says, you may have obeyed the command,

549
00:28:22.060 --> 00:28:26.980
do not murder, but you can still have a heart full of anger, contempt, and malice, right?

550
00:28:26.980 --> 00:28:33.180
And in the kingdom, you can be free from anger.

551
00:28:33.180 --> 00:28:34.620
You can be free from anger.

552
00:28:34.620 --> 00:28:38.500
You can't come into the kingdom with a heart full of anger, contempt, and malice.

553
00:28:38.500 --> 00:28:42.300
He says, you know, you might have obeyed, do not commit adultery, but you can look at

554
00:28:42.300 --> 00:28:47.220
a person with a lustful, with a lustful heart, with lustful intent and commit adultery in

555
00:28:47.220 --> 00:28:49.500
your heart.

556
00:28:49.500 --> 00:28:52.540
But I'm coming to give you a heart free from lust, right?

557
00:28:52.540 --> 00:28:54.620
That's what he's saying.

558
00:28:54.620 --> 00:29:01.140
And so right now we're going to talk about the last contrast that I want to really, really

559
00:29:01.140 --> 00:29:02.380
get into tonight.

560
00:29:02.380 --> 00:29:10.220
And that's Matthew five verses 31 and 32, write it down.

561
00:29:10.220 --> 00:29:15.060
And it was said, whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.

562
00:29:15.060 --> 00:29:18.700
Now a lot of you don't realize this because once again, you're not a Bible scholar and

563
00:29:18.700 --> 00:29:25.700
you're not a Jew, but Jesus is quoting from Deuteronomy 24, write that down.

564
00:29:25.700 --> 00:29:29.940
That's what Jesus is quoting from y'all.

565
00:29:29.940 --> 00:29:34.300
Remember a lot of times during Jesus's speeches, especially in front of religious folk, he

566
00:29:34.340 --> 00:29:40.180
is quoting the laws of the prophets and the laws of Moses.

567
00:29:40.180 --> 00:29:42.340
Okay.

568
00:29:42.340 --> 00:29:48.060
But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality

569
00:29:48.060 --> 00:29:49.660
makes her commit adultery.

570
00:29:49.660 --> 00:29:53.460
And whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

571
00:29:53.460 --> 00:29:59.940
Now once again, you have to see the order that Jesus addresses these.

572
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.640
It's very important, you guys, we can't just read the Bible, we have to read the Bible.

573
00:30:04.640 --> 00:30:09.600
And we have to take into account the audience, the time period, the deeper meaning, the questions

574
00:30:09.600 --> 00:30:12.200
that are being asked and the questions that are being answered.

575
00:30:12.200 --> 00:30:13.200
Amen.

576
00:30:13.200 --> 00:30:14.200
Very important.

577
00:30:14.200 --> 00:30:15.640
Jesus doesn't mince words.

578
00:30:15.640 --> 00:30:16.640
Okay.

579
00:30:16.640 --> 00:30:17.700
He's crazy like a fox.

580
00:30:17.700 --> 00:30:22.760
You got to believe that he's talking about these things in order for in this order for

581
00:30:22.760 --> 00:30:25.760
a reason.

582
00:30:25.760 --> 00:30:28.060
Okay.

583
00:30:28.060 --> 00:30:33.460
So he says, if you had a heart that was free from anger and free from lust, how many divorces

584
00:30:33.460 --> 00:30:34.740
do you think would occur?

585
00:30:34.740 --> 00:30:35.740
Whoa.

586
00:30:35.740 --> 00:30:38.060
Do you guys see that he's talking about?

587
00:30:38.060 --> 00:30:42.620
If you weren't so angry, if you weren't so lustful, and then he's talking about divorce

588
00:30:42.620 --> 00:30:46.700
right after that, he did, he did that on purpose, you guys.

589
00:30:46.700 --> 00:30:48.560
Very important that we see that.

590
00:30:48.560 --> 00:30:54.060
So before we fully unpack that verse, Matthew 5 31 and 32, I want to give you some history

591
00:30:54.060 --> 00:30:55.820
leading up to that verse.

592
00:30:55.820 --> 00:30:56.820
Okay.

593
00:30:57.580 --> 00:30:58.580
We're going to walk through a lot of information.

594
00:30:58.580 --> 00:30:59.580
I'm just going to warn you.

595
00:30:59.580 --> 00:31:00.860
I need you to be patient.

596
00:31:00.860 --> 00:31:05.460
I need you to roll up your sleeves with me and listen really hard.

597
00:31:05.460 --> 00:31:07.380
Okay.

598
00:31:07.380 --> 00:31:10.940
So 1700 BC, you guys, we'll go all the way back.

599
00:31:10.940 --> 00:31:18.140
We're going to kick it old school to 1700 before Christ, way back in the ancient world.

600
00:31:18.140 --> 00:31:19.500
This is before Jesus.

601
00:31:19.500 --> 00:31:22.380
It's before the old Testament.

602
00:31:22.380 --> 00:31:27.300
The ancient East was pretty much governed by the Hammurabi code.

603
00:31:27.300 --> 00:31:32.100
It's H-A-M-M-U-R-A-B-I.

604
00:31:32.100 --> 00:31:36.260
Some of you heard about this when you were in high school, you were taught it in history.

605
00:31:36.260 --> 00:31:43.180
The whole world, the ancient near East, especially was governed by this code.

606
00:31:43.180 --> 00:31:47.300
This was kind of like the law back then, all of you that live in America, we're governed

607
00:31:47.300 --> 00:31:48.780
by the constitution.

608
00:31:48.780 --> 00:31:51.620
The old ancient world was governed by this code.

609
00:31:51.620 --> 00:31:52.620
Okay.

610
00:31:52.620 --> 00:31:54.660
Remember, this is not a religious code.

611
00:31:54.660 --> 00:31:55.660
Why?

612
00:31:55.660 --> 00:31:57.700
Because the old Testament hasn't happened yet.

613
00:31:57.700 --> 00:31:59.820
The Moses hasn't happened.

614
00:31:59.820 --> 00:32:01.660
Jesus, none of that stuff.

615
00:32:01.660 --> 00:32:02.660
Okay.

616
00:32:02.660 --> 00:32:03.660
There's no old Testament.

617
00:32:03.660 --> 00:32:04.660
All right.

618
00:32:04.660 --> 00:32:12.020
So if you were, so I just want to let you know, if you were a wife under that code,

619
00:32:12.020 --> 00:32:17.380
your husband could divorce you at any time for any reason, just by walking out of the

620
00:32:17.380 --> 00:32:19.380
house.

621
00:32:19.380 --> 00:32:21.380
What?

622
00:32:21.380 --> 00:32:27.460
You guys, all your husband had to do to divorce you was just walk out of the house, just leave

623
00:32:27.460 --> 00:32:28.460
the house.

624
00:32:28.460 --> 00:32:32.580
I mean, and obviously not come back, leave the house.

625
00:32:32.580 --> 00:32:38.420
That was the signal to you and to everyone else in the community that your husband just

626
00:32:38.420 --> 00:32:39.740
divorced you.

627
00:32:39.740 --> 00:32:41.780
And if you had any kids, guess what?

628
00:32:41.780 --> 00:32:43.860
They'd be there with you still.

629
00:32:43.860 --> 00:32:47.460
You'd have no money because the men were the ones that made the money back then.

630
00:32:47.460 --> 00:32:49.420
You'd have kids, no money.

631
00:32:49.420 --> 00:32:51.220
And your husband's allowed to do this.

632
00:32:51.220 --> 00:32:53.140
He's allowed us to leave you.

633
00:32:53.140 --> 00:32:57.020
So let's say you are able to somehow make some money.

634
00:32:57.020 --> 00:33:00.540
Maybe you have some sons that are older and they're going to work the farm.

635
00:33:00.540 --> 00:33:02.540
They're going to turn a profit.

636
00:33:02.540 --> 00:33:03.540
Okay.

637
00:33:03.540 --> 00:33:04.540
Great.

638
00:33:04.540 --> 00:33:05.540
Wonderful.

639
00:33:05.540 --> 00:33:07.580
You're going to, you're going to live to see another day.

640
00:33:07.580 --> 00:33:11.900
You're going to have enough money or food to get by, even though your husband has done

641
00:33:11.900 --> 00:33:12.900
this.

642
00:33:12.900 --> 00:33:18.340
But here's the problem, you guys under this code, your husband could return any time he

643
00:33:18.340 --> 00:33:25.620
wanted to and reclaim you reclaim the farm, reclaim the money, reclaim the kids.

644
00:33:25.620 --> 00:33:30.180
So if he went off and he was gallivant with other people and he heard that, you know,

645
00:33:30.180 --> 00:33:33.660
Oh, you know, Sarah, she, she made good on that farm.

646
00:33:33.660 --> 00:33:35.260
She's, she's pulling it down.

647
00:33:35.260 --> 00:33:38.780
She's got all kinds of crops and money and she's doing good.

648
00:33:38.780 --> 00:33:42.540
Or if he just got out there and there just wasn't anything better out there for whatever

649
00:33:42.540 --> 00:33:48.340
reason he left for, he could come by, he could come back and lay his claim to you.

650
00:33:48.340 --> 00:33:54.860
And for that reason, you guys, if a man left a wife and walked out of the house and left

651
00:33:54.860 --> 00:34:00.520
her, no, one's going to touch that woman with a 10 foot pole.

652
00:34:00.520 --> 00:34:03.180
She could not get remarried.

653
00:34:03.180 --> 00:34:08.100
And the reason why is because no one's going to remarry you unless your husband's dead.

654
00:34:08.100 --> 00:34:13.300
Unless they know that your husband's dead and there's no way that he can come back and

655
00:34:13.300 --> 00:34:15.940
claim you reclaim his property.

656
00:34:15.940 --> 00:34:17.780
Basically you're his property.

657
00:34:17.780 --> 00:34:21.060
If, if there's no way that he can reclaim you, then maybe you could get remarried if

658
00:34:21.060 --> 00:34:22.219
you were a widow.

659
00:34:22.219 --> 00:34:26.260
But if you were not a widow and your husband was just alive out there somewhere, you're

660
00:34:26.260 --> 00:34:31.699
in big trouble because you're destitute now and you have no way of remarrying because

661
00:34:31.699 --> 00:34:33.679
no one is going to remarry you.

662
00:34:33.679 --> 00:34:38.900
So in that day, divorce involved a lot of contention because there was no livelihood.

663
00:34:38.900 --> 00:34:42.560
You had no money, you had no finances, none at all.

664
00:34:42.560 --> 00:34:45.860
So women were very vulnerable in the ancient world.

665
00:34:45.860 --> 00:34:48.340
You guys very, very vulnerable.

666
00:34:48.340 --> 00:34:49.340
So let's move forward.

667
00:34:49.340 --> 00:34:52.219
So that's 1700 BC.

668
00:34:52.219 --> 00:34:59.340
Let's move forward to 300 years guys to 1400 BC.

669
00:34:59.340 --> 00:35:00.180
One of the most.

670
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.740
Spiking aspects of the law of Moses compared to that law,

671
00:35:04.740 --> 00:35:07.780
that code we just talked about of the ancient Near East,

672
00:35:07.780 --> 00:35:09.880
was its concern for women.

673
00:35:11.380 --> 00:35:12.940
I know we feel like the Old Testament

674
00:35:12.940 --> 00:35:14.980
is totally against women, didn't care about women,

675
00:35:14.980 --> 00:35:16.900
but I'm gonna tell you right now

676
00:35:16.900 --> 00:35:19.060
that the law of Moses,

677
00:35:19.060 --> 00:35:23.900
one of the contrasting aspects of it

678
00:35:23.900 --> 00:35:26.660
from the law of the land before,

679
00:35:26.660 --> 00:35:29.640
the code of the land was its concern for women.

680
00:35:30.280 --> 00:35:33.280
It was clear from Genesis that God's intent for marriage

681
00:35:33.280 --> 00:35:35.780
was that it be permanent commitment

682
00:35:35.780 --> 00:35:37.080
between a man and a wife.

683
00:35:38.760 --> 00:35:41.340
And if it did break up, Moses said,

684
00:35:41.340 --> 00:35:44.720
when a man, this is Deuteronomy 24 one,

685
00:35:44.720 --> 00:35:46.540
this is what Jesus was referring to

686
00:35:46.540 --> 00:35:50.800
when he was talking in Matthew five, Deuteronomy 24 one,

687
00:35:50.800 --> 00:35:53.280
when a man takes a wife and marries her,

688
00:35:54.800 --> 00:35:57.080
and then she finds no favor in his eyes

689
00:35:57.080 --> 00:35:59.540
because he has found some indecency in her,

690
00:36:00.380 --> 00:36:02.460
he writes her a certificate of divorce

691
00:36:02.460 --> 00:36:05.600
and puts it in her hand and sends her out of the house.

692
00:36:07.580 --> 00:36:10.780
You guys, that certificate was a way of protecting the woman

693
00:36:10.780 --> 00:36:12.740
because it meant that her first husband

694
00:36:12.740 --> 00:36:14.900
could never come back and reclaim her.

695
00:36:17.580 --> 00:36:20.280
It meant that she could remarry.

696
00:36:21.140 --> 00:36:23.220
She would not be accused of being an adulteress.

697
00:36:23.220 --> 00:36:25.100
She would not get stoned to death.

698
00:36:25.100 --> 00:36:28.180
That certificate was a merciful thing for women.

699
00:36:28.180 --> 00:36:30.260
It gave them the right to remarry.

700
00:36:30.260 --> 00:36:31.860
I want you guys to hear this.

701
00:36:31.860 --> 00:36:35.140
In ancient Israel, the certificate of divorce

702
00:36:35.140 --> 00:36:38.340
gave you the right to remarry.

703
00:36:38.340 --> 00:36:40.840
That's what it was for.

704
00:36:40.840 --> 00:36:43.780
Without the certificate under the ancient code,

705
00:36:43.780 --> 00:36:45.140
you just had to sit there destitute

706
00:36:45.140 --> 00:36:47.780
for the rest of your life because no one would marry you

707
00:36:47.780 --> 00:36:49.820
because your husband could reclaim you.

708
00:36:49.820 --> 00:36:53.020
Under the law of Moses, God commanded Moses

709
00:36:53.020 --> 00:36:54.980
because of the hardness of their hearts

710
00:36:54.980 --> 00:36:57.740
that they would give a certificate of divorce

711
00:36:57.740 --> 00:36:58.580
doing what?

712
00:36:58.580 --> 00:37:01.580
Freeing the woman to remarry, you guys,

713
00:37:01.580 --> 00:37:03.440
so that she could once again be married

714
00:37:03.440 --> 00:37:04.420
and have a livelihood.

715
00:37:04.420 --> 00:37:06.920
Do you see the law of ancient Israel?

716
00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:12.160
So why is Christianity saying we can't ever get remarried?

717
00:37:12.160 --> 00:37:14.400
Ancient Israel said we could.

718
00:37:14.400 --> 00:37:15.620
Come on, y'all.

719
00:37:15.620 --> 00:37:16.940
All right, can't just read the Bible.

720
00:37:16.940 --> 00:37:18.280
You got to read the Bible.

721
00:37:18.280 --> 00:37:21.000
So the certificate, you guys need to know this.

722
00:37:21.000 --> 00:37:24.340
That certificate had a phrase on it.

723
00:37:24.340 --> 00:37:26.340
Do you want to know what the phrase was?

724
00:37:27.340 --> 00:37:30.700
You are free to remarry any Jewish man

725
00:37:30.700 --> 00:37:33.260
or any Jewish woman that you wish.

726
00:37:33.260 --> 00:37:35.420
That's what the certificate said.

727
00:37:40.060 --> 00:37:42.340
Holy mother of Pete, said Marie Finney.

728
00:37:44.060 --> 00:37:45.100
Everyone take a drink break.

729
00:37:45.100 --> 00:37:45.940
I need a drink.

730
00:37:45.940 --> 00:37:46.760
I'm talking a lot.

731
00:37:46.760 --> 00:37:51.760
All right, so Deuteronomy mentions

732
00:37:59.560 --> 00:38:01.480
on the grounds of indecency.

733
00:38:01.480 --> 00:38:03.160
That's what it says.

734
00:38:03.160 --> 00:38:05.840
So it was interpreted, indecency was interpreted

735
00:38:05.840 --> 00:38:10.560
to mean for the cause of sexual immorality, okay?

736
00:38:10.560 --> 00:38:13.760
Now this raises the question, what about other causes?

737
00:38:14.600 --> 00:38:16.400
Was there provision for divorce

738
00:38:17.040 --> 00:38:18.540
because of abuse or abandonment?

739
00:38:19.920 --> 00:38:22.960
Those cases were covered as well in a roundabout way.

740
00:38:22.960 --> 00:38:26.320
And here's how, in Exodus 21,

741
00:38:26.320 --> 00:38:30.960
we find another classic text on divorce, right?

742
00:38:30.960 --> 00:38:34.280
And in this text, the law here covers the question,

743
00:38:34.280 --> 00:38:37.840
what happens if a man takes a second wife?

744
00:38:39.320 --> 00:38:42.320
All right, and I want you to see how much God loves women

745
00:38:42.320 --> 00:38:44.060
and how much he's protecting women.

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First of all, he told Moses to give them

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the decree of divorcement,

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because remember, they don't want to reconcile.

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They have hard hearts.

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And he's like, well, have them do that certificate

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of divorce to protect vulnerable women, right?

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So we can get remarried.

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And then once again, in Exodus 21,

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he wants to protect the interests of the first wife

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if a man decides to take a second wife.

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Look how good our God is.

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Look at how good.

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Exodus 21, nine through 11.

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If he takes another wife to himself,

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he shall not diminish the first wife.

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He won't diminish her food, her clothing,

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or her conjugal love.

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If he does not provide her with those three things,

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she is free to go without payments of money.

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Once again, the law is seeking to protect the woman.

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In this case, the husband takes a new wife,

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and because human nature is what it is,

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the new wife tends to get the good stuff, right?

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So the law said when the husband remarries,

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if he not remarries, but takes a second wife,

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he's got to treat his first wife right.

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He made a vow.

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He made a vow to her to provide support,

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food, clothing, and love.

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And so if he breaks that vow,

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then the first wife is free to leave.

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free to get a divorce, free to get a certificate, free to remarry.

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That's what this scripture is saying.

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Now guys, over time, the rabbis, which were the theologians of the day, those were the

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professional religious guys of the day. They looked at those two passages

781
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and those two passages became the classic text in the scriptures that govern divorce.

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You guys, in Judaism, in the ancient times with the Jews, those two scriptures

783
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are the two scriptures that base everything they believe about divorce and remarriage on.

784
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That's it. Those two. All right. So over time, the rabbis looked at these two scriptures and

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they began to form their opinions about those. And the rabbis decided this, that based on those

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two pieces of texts, marriage involves a vow. It's a covenant, right? And that covenant includes

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three primary promises. Write these down, please. This is what the rabbis decided. You guys,

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according to scripture, the rabbis decided that that covenant that you make when you get married,

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it includes these three primary promises, the promise to be faithful.

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That includes no sexual unfaithfulness. That's Deuteronomy 24, the promise to provide

791
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that includes food, clothing, and so on. That's Exodus 21 and the promise to love

792
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that includes sexual intimacy and affection, honor, respect. That's Exodus 21. You guys,

793
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the promise to be faithful, the promise to provide the promise to love.

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When these vows are broken, the victim of the broken vows has a right to get divorced.

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This is according to Judaism, male or female.

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And that always includes, please listen, that always includes the right to be remarried.

797
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If any of these vows are broken, the covenant is broken. And that person, the victim of the broken

798
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covenant has the right to get divorced. And that would include that certificate of divorce,

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which would give them the right to be remarried. Am I going too fast?

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I know it's a lot guys, but you can come back and listen to the replay.

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Of course, when you're divorced, you, you have the ability to be remarried, Rachel.

802
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There was no such thing in Judaism, you guys, as a divorce that did not include the right to remarry.

803
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That was the entire idea behind the certificate in the first place.

804
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That was the entire idea behind the certificate in the first place.

805
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Now the rabbis would debate what constituted the breaking of these vows.

806
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Okay, because they're taking this very seriously. So how much food was included in the promise to

807
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provide food? You know, what kind of clothing did you have to provide in order to not break this vow?

808
00:43:17.520 --> 00:43:23.360
How about conjugal love? How many times do you have to have sex a week to be showing that person

809
00:43:23.360 --> 00:43:30.080
the proper amount of affection to, to, to, uh, to be, you know, being intimate. And that's the

810
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kind of thing that rabbis do. You guys, they came up with rules around the idea of physical intimacy.

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Remember the Jews have 661 statutes to kind of try to do. They love rules. And so they started

812
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to come up with rules around these three promises. The husband had to offer to be physically intimate

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with his wife at least twice a week, or she had the right to divorce him if he didn't.

814
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Now you guys, I'm not, I'm not making this up. These are the actual rules.

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Listen, the husband had to be physically intimate, or he had to offer at least to be physically

816
00:44:01.840 --> 00:44:06.720
intimate with his wife at least twice a week. And if he didn't, she had the right to divorce him.

817
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Now there's some, some exceptions and you guys are going to laugh at the exceptions.

818
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If he was a donkey driver,

819
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he only had to offer it one time a week.

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Cause that's like being a trucker, right? You're not at home that much. You're out on the road.

821
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So guys, if he drove to, if he rode a donkey, if he was a donkey driver,

822
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he only had to offer to have sex once a week to be physically intimate once a week.

823
00:44:34.080 --> 00:44:39.280
Now, but if he was unemployed, this is real, you guys, these are real rules.

824
00:44:39.280 --> 00:44:45.360
If he was unemployed, the husband had to make the offer, at least make the offer of physical

825
00:44:45.360 --> 00:44:51.920
intimacy every night, seven nights a week, or his wife could divorce him. Cause I, you know,

826
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he doesn't got nothing else to do, right? He's not working. I'm not making that up. You guys.

827
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All right, so did the rabbis believe that biblical grounds for divorce could include

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things like abandonment and abuse?

829
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Of course they did, you guys.

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Of course they did.

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Abandonment would simply be the extreme form of breaking the vow to provide.

832
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Abuse would be the extreme form of breaking the vow to love.

833
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In Israel, you guys, in ancient Israel, those would be grounds for divorce.

834
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Now that doesn't mean that anybody thought that divorce was a good idea.

835
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It doesn't mean that anybody thought that God was okay with divorce.

836
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But this was a way of preventing worse injustices and suffering.

837
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When those vows are broken, suffering happens.

838
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So I just want you guys to see that this is the framework for marriage and divorce in

839
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ancient Israel.

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Now I want us to skip forward.

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We went to 1700 BC, we went to 1400 BC.

842
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Now we're going to skip forward to 5 BC, just about the time of the birth of Jesus.

843
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Guys ready?

844
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So right around the time of the birth of Jesus, there was a new development, you guys, and

845
00:46:10.320 --> 00:46:11.480
you know what it was?

846
00:46:11.480 --> 00:46:13.960
We started worshiping our pastors.

847
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It's like, oh, I follow Stephen Furtick.

848
00:46:15.960 --> 00:46:18.480
Oh no, no, I follow Joel Osteen.

849
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I like what Joel Osteen teaches.

850
00:46:20.120 --> 00:46:22.680
Oh no, but I like what Stephen Furtick teaches.

851
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All right.

852
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That happened in ancient Israel around 5 BC.

853
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Two of the most famous rabbis, okay, and they lived just decades before Jesus and they,

854
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they're the ones that dominated the rabbinic teachings back then.

855
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Their names are Hillel and Shammai, okay?

856
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Those were the, those were the Joel Osteen's and the Stephen Furtick's, or you just put

857
00:46:45.640 --> 00:46:47.240
in whatever pastor you guys like.

858
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You like Bill Johnson, whatever.

859
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These were the two rockstar rabbis of the times.

860
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And because they were the big dogs among the rabbi's schools, you know, the religious schools,

861
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the synagogues were founded around them to interpret the law.

862
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So basically you were either a Hillel guy or you were a Shammai guy if you were a rabbi.

863
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You either follow the teachings of Shammai or you follow the teachings of Hillel.

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Does everyone get it?

865
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Okay.

866
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So Hillel looked at the law in Deuteronomy 24 one, where Moses says a man can divorce

867
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his wife for a cause of sexual immorality.

868
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And he reflected on that text and he said, Moses could have said that a man could divorce

869
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his wife for sexual morality, but he included the phrase for the cause of sexual immorality.

870
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So why did Moses include that phrase?

871
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This is what Hillel reflected on because, you know, I'm just going to tell you, rabbis

872
00:47:53.380 --> 00:47:55.620
love to sit around and hear themselves talk.

873
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All right.

874
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They loved words.

875
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There were guys and they believe that no word was random or redundant.

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So Hillel reasoned and decided that the word that this word cause in that, in that, in

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that writing of Moses, that word cause must refer to another cause, not just sexual immorality.

878
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So since it was the word cause, Hillel concluded that it must mean any cause.

879
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That's what he decided.

880
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He's like, Oh, you know what Moses really meant was this, I know he said this, but what

881
00:48:34.260 --> 00:48:39.960
he meant was any cause, any cause at all.

882
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So in other words, Hillel said that Deuteronomy 24 meant that a man could divorce his wife

883
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for two reasons, sexual immorality and any other thing he wanted.

884
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You guys seriously.

885
00:48:54.700 --> 00:48:59.140
Now Hillel was a man and the rabbis in his school were men.

886
00:48:59.140 --> 00:49:01.180
So that works for them, right?

887
00:49:01.180 --> 00:49:09.500
So they decided that this, any cause divorce would be available to only one gender, men,

888
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husbands, any cause Hillel said that cover just about any fault you could conceive of.

889
00:49:17.740 --> 00:49:19.580
Right?

890
00:49:19.580 --> 00:49:21.540
And so rabbis would list different faults.

891
00:49:21.540 --> 00:49:25.500
They believed a husband could divorce his wife for under this, any cause provision of

892
00:49:25.500 --> 00:49:26.740
divorce.

893
00:49:26.740 --> 00:49:30.740
And they listed things like if a wife burnt the food, he could divorce her.

894
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If she walked around with her hair unbound, he could divorce her.

895
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If he considered her improper in any way, shape or form, she smelled bad.

896
00:49:38.580 --> 00:49:40.180
He didn't like having sex with her.

897
00:49:40.180 --> 00:49:41.340
He could divorce her.

898
00:49:41.340 --> 00:49:46.260
If she argued in a voice loud enough for the neighbors to hear, he could divorce her.

899
00:49:46.260 --> 00:49:47.580
All right.

900
00:49:47.580 --> 00:49:52.740
If she wanted to watch a chick flick, he could divorce her.

901
00:49:52.740 --> 00:49:55.540
Anything you guys, any reason at all.

902
00:49:55.540 --> 00:49:57.580
And I'm sure that you guys kind of are catching on that.

903
00:49:57.580 --> 00:50:00.140
If he saw someone better that he wanted.

904
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than her, he could divorce her. Any cause means just what you think it means. It means any cause.

905
00:50:06.960 --> 00:50:14.320
So there is one drawback to the any cause divorce that Hillel was saying that, uh, Deuteronomy 24

906
00:50:14.320 --> 00:50:22.400
meant, and that was, it was expensive. You guys. Okay. Because if the husband could prove now,

907
00:50:22.400 --> 00:50:26.880
if the husband could approve that his wife committed adultery in court, then he could get

908
00:50:26.880 --> 00:50:35.280
the adultery divorce. But if he wanted the, any cause divorce, he had to give back the,

909
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the inheritance that he got at the wedding for the wife. Okay. It was called the, um, the Keteba.

910
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I think it's pronounced Keteba, Keteba, K E T U B A H Keteba. So if he was just getting the

911
00:50:53.600 --> 00:50:59.920
regular old, the regular old, any cause divorce, he had to give that back. And so that made it

912
00:50:59.920 --> 00:51:05.440
more expensive, right? So Hillel was saying, there's a new divorce option available. It's

913
00:51:05.440 --> 00:51:10.640
never been before available in the history of Israel. It's the, any cause divorce available

914
00:51:10.640 --> 00:51:16.480
to any husband, not to wives, only to husbands. Very important that you guys understand that.

915
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So as you can imagine, it became the most popular form of divorce in Israel. Do you know how many

916
00:51:20.720 --> 00:51:24.320
men just decided to go ahead and divorce their wives? It's kind of like the seventies in America,

917
00:51:24.320 --> 00:51:30.160
you guys divorce became, uh, no contest divorce. I don't know if you guys know this, but before the

918
00:51:30.160 --> 00:51:35.680
seventies, you had to prove you had to prove stuff in court. You you're the judge could decide

919
00:51:35.680 --> 00:51:39.360
whether or not you could get divorced. You couldn't just get divorced. If you wanted to,

920
00:51:39.360 --> 00:51:43.200
you had to prove that that person was unfaithful. They were committing adultery that they've done

921
00:51:43.200 --> 00:51:48.000
something else heinous to you that would cause a judge to side with you and allow you and grant

922
00:51:48.000 --> 00:51:53.600
you a divorce. But in the seventies, basically we got no cause divorce. Didn't we? We got fast

923
00:51:53.600 --> 00:51:57.680
divorce. We got microwave divorces. And then what did people do? Everyone started divorcing each

924
00:51:57.680 --> 00:52:02.640
other. And that is what happened in ancient Israel. Men started leaving their wives and

925
00:52:02.640 --> 00:52:09.200
divorcing them for the any cause divorce, because now it's super easy. There is a case of an any

926
00:52:09.200 --> 00:52:13.760
cause divorce, or at least one that was being considered in the Bible to kind of give you an

927
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example. Do you guys remember the story in the new Testament where Joseph finds out that Mary is

928
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pregnant and he doesn't, he doesn't know is by the Holy spirit yet. Remember that story, Matthew

929
00:52:25.360 --> 00:52:33.760
one 19, it says, because Joseph did not want to expose her to public disgrace. He had in mind to

930
00:52:33.760 --> 00:52:40.240
divorce Mary quietly. You guys, the word quietly is not just a vague adjective. It's a technical

931
00:52:40.240 --> 00:52:45.840
term. What Joseph decided was he would not take Mary to court and prove that she was guilty of

932
00:52:45.840 --> 00:52:50.080
adultery. And he could, because she was pregnant y'all. And once again, he didn't know it was by

933
00:52:50.080 --> 00:52:55.520
Holy spirit yet. So it'd be very easy for him to take her to court and get a divorce based on

934
00:52:56.080 --> 00:53:00.960
sexual immorality. But he didn't want to do that because he, this is how good of a man, this man

935
00:53:00.960 --> 00:53:05.520
was. And that would have let him off the hook. You guys, he wouldn't have had to pay that.

936
00:53:06.080 --> 00:53:12.800
Back, but he would rather pay the Ketubah than embarrass her publicly. So he decided he was

937
00:53:12.800 --> 00:53:16.960
going to put her away quietly. Meaning he was just going to get in any cause divorce,

938
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no proof of adultery and no scandal. Look at how good of a man Joseph was. You guys, wasn't he good?

939
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Come on, let's hear it for Joseph. Let's hear it for the boy. Come on. All right. I saw someone

940
00:53:30.000 --> 00:53:33.680
give the boy hand. That was perfect. All right. Cause that's the next verse of that song.

941
00:53:34.640 --> 00:53:38.160
So this means that he was going to have to swallow the financial cost. He was going to

942
00:53:38.160 --> 00:53:43.040
have to support the child. That's exactly the situation that is referred to in the story of

943
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Mary and Joseph. This was the innovation of Hillel. He was able to get an any cause divorce.

944
00:53:48.240 --> 00:53:55.920
Now let's go on and talk about the other rock star, the rockstar rabbi, Shamai. Shamai disagreed

945
00:53:55.920 --> 00:54:03.120
about what Deuteronomy 24 said. He wasn't for the any cause divorce. He said that Deuteronomy 24 one

946
00:54:03.280 --> 00:54:10.560
refers only to divorce being allowed for sexual immorality. Of course, Shamai would have agreed

947
00:54:10.560 --> 00:54:16.320
that divorce could also happen on the basis of Exodus 21. Can't, you can't separate those two.

948
00:54:16.320 --> 00:54:22.560
You guys, the vow for provision was broken. The vow for love was broken. So what he was saying

949
00:54:22.560 --> 00:54:28.480
is that divorce can only happen when adultery has been committed on faithfulness. The vow for

950
00:54:28.480 --> 00:54:34.480
provision is broken or the vow for love is broken. Those are the only reasons that you can divorce

951
00:54:34.480 --> 00:54:39.760
your spouse. And, and obviously he's not just speaking to men only, but to women as well,

952
00:54:39.760 --> 00:54:46.640
where Hillel was saying men could do this. Shamai is saying men and women can only get

953
00:54:46.640 --> 00:54:53.680
divorced for these three reasons. So he's, he, he said that an any cause divorce is wrong.

954
00:54:53.680 --> 00:54:58.960
That it's a bad interpretation that it's not correct. So in Jesus's day, you guys.

955
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So let's fast forward to Jesus.

956
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Let's fast forward to the Sermon on the Mount,

957
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all the things where Jesus is asked by who?

958
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By the Pharisees, by the religious folks,

959
00:55:09.840 --> 00:55:11.160
his opinion on things.

960
00:55:11.160 --> 00:55:14.400
Remember, because Jesus was supposed to be a rabbi.

961
00:55:14.400 --> 00:55:17.320
And all the rabbis either followed Hillel's teachings

962
00:55:17.320 --> 00:55:18.920
or Shammai's teachings.

963
00:55:18.920 --> 00:55:20.640
So basically they're asking Jesus,

964
00:55:20.640 --> 00:55:23.840
are you a Hillel guy or are you a Shammai guy?

965
00:55:24.800 --> 00:55:28.080
Rabbi, which teachings are you following?

966
00:55:29.080 --> 00:55:31.520
So this was a big debate, you guys,

967
00:55:31.520 --> 00:55:33.840
Deuteronomy 24, Exodus 21,

968
00:55:33.840 --> 00:55:35.800
between the rabbis that followed Hillel

969
00:55:35.800 --> 00:55:37.800
and the rabbis who followed Shammai.

970
00:55:37.800 --> 00:55:40.360
And everybody wanted to know exactly

971
00:55:40.360 --> 00:55:43.120
where every rabbi stood on this subject.

972
00:55:43.120 --> 00:55:44.880
It's like politicians.

973
00:55:44.880 --> 00:55:46.760
Everybody wants to know where they stand on abortion.

974
00:55:46.760 --> 00:55:48.200
Everyone wants to know where they stand

975
00:55:48.200 --> 00:55:51.480
on capital punishment, right?

976
00:55:51.480 --> 00:55:53.520
So this was the debate of Jesus's time.

977
00:55:53.520 --> 00:55:57.720
Where do you stand on Deuteronomy 24 and Exodus 21?

978
00:55:58.520 --> 00:56:00.840
So that brings us back to Matthew 19, three.

979
00:56:00.840 --> 00:56:02.440
Let's read this now.

980
00:56:02.440 --> 00:56:04.120
You guys, let's read the scripture now

981
00:56:04.120 --> 00:56:06.160
in the light of what we just learned.

982
00:56:07.720 --> 00:56:11.360
Some Pharisees, who are the Pharisees?

983
00:56:11.360 --> 00:56:15.200
They're the religious guys of the day, right?

984
00:56:15.200 --> 00:56:19.200
It says they came to Jesus to test him and trap him.

985
00:56:20.640 --> 00:56:25.640
They asked him, is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife

986
00:56:25.760 --> 00:56:28.040
for any cause?

987
00:56:30.120 --> 00:56:32.040
They're trying to find out.

988
00:56:32.040 --> 00:56:33.240
Are you a Hillel guy?

989
00:56:33.240 --> 00:56:34.600
Are you a Shammai guy?

990
00:56:35.680 --> 00:56:37.200
Now they're not asking him,

991
00:56:37.200 --> 00:56:40.280
rabbi, is divorce always against the law?

992
00:56:41.200 --> 00:56:44.400
Because you guys, that was never debated.

993
00:56:44.400 --> 00:56:46.320
That was not part of the debate.

994
00:56:46.320 --> 00:56:48.520
Divorce was part of Moses's law.

995
00:56:48.520 --> 00:56:50.520
No rabbi would have ever asked,

996
00:56:50.520 --> 00:56:53.560
is it lawful for us to follow Moses's law?

997
00:56:53.560 --> 00:56:55.000
It was in the law.

998
00:56:55.000 --> 00:56:59.200
They're asking Jesus, how do you interpret Deuteronomy 21?

999
00:56:59.200 --> 00:57:03.000
Do you agree with Hillel or do you agree with Shammai?

1000
00:57:03.000 --> 00:57:06.440
And they're not even interested in Jesus's answer.

1001
00:57:06.440 --> 00:57:07.360
You know why?

1002
00:57:07.360 --> 00:57:10.240
Because it says that they came to test or trap him.

1003
00:57:10.240 --> 00:57:11.760
Now I wanna give you a little background here

1004
00:57:11.760 --> 00:57:13.920
that might help you with this.

1005
00:57:13.920 --> 00:57:16.800
In the time when they're asking this question,

1006
00:57:16.800 --> 00:57:20.120
the man that was in charge, his name was Herod.

1007
00:57:20.120 --> 00:57:24.040
The ruler of the day during this timeframe is Herod.

1008
00:57:24.040 --> 00:57:26.840
And Herod had been married to his first wife,

1009
00:57:26.840 --> 00:57:28.720
but while he was married to his first wife,

1010
00:57:28.720 --> 00:57:32.800
he fell in love with another woman, Herodias.

1011
00:57:32.800 --> 00:57:36.800
Unfortunately, Herodias was married to his brother.

1012
00:57:38.600 --> 00:57:39.560
Scandal.

1013
00:57:42.520 --> 00:57:44.280
So guess what Herod did?

1014
00:57:44.280 --> 00:57:46.400
He divorced his first wife

1015
00:57:46.400 --> 00:57:49.200
and he got a no cause divorce, you guys.

1016
00:57:49.200 --> 00:57:51.000
He divorced his first wife

1017
00:57:51.000 --> 00:57:54.280
and he talked Herodias into divorcing his brother

1018
00:57:54.280 --> 00:57:56.240
so that he can marry her.

1019
00:57:56.240 --> 00:57:58.720
That must make Christmas really awkward, y'all.

1020
00:57:58.720 --> 00:57:59.600
I don't know.

1021
00:57:59.600 --> 00:58:01.840
Very awkward holidays for this family.

1022
00:58:02.720 --> 00:58:05.080
You guys, if you're not putting two and two together,

1023
00:58:05.080 --> 00:58:07.560
this is what John the Baptist lost his head over.

1024
00:58:08.800 --> 00:58:10.880
John the Baptist was beheaded.

1025
00:58:10.880 --> 00:58:14.480
He was beheaded because he called Herod out.

1026
00:58:14.480 --> 00:58:16.200
He said, it's not lawful for you

1027
00:58:16.200 --> 00:58:18.680
to have Herodias as your wife

1028
00:58:18.680 --> 00:58:21.720
because you got an any cause divorce to get her.

1029
00:58:21.720 --> 00:58:22.880
That shows you right there

1030
00:58:22.880 --> 00:58:25.520
that John the Baptist was a Shammai guy, wasn't he?

1031
00:58:27.280 --> 00:58:28.600
Wasn't he?

1032
00:58:28.600 --> 00:58:29.520
Yes.

1033
00:58:29.520 --> 00:58:31.080
And that's Mark 6, 18.

1034
00:58:31.080 --> 00:58:32.920
If you guys wanna see the little speech

1035
00:58:32.920 --> 00:58:35.400
where John the Baptist calls him out.

1036
00:58:35.400 --> 00:58:37.320
And we already know that he put John in prison.

1037
00:58:37.320 --> 00:58:41.640
He was so ticked off that John called him out like that,

1038
00:58:41.640 --> 00:58:45.240
that he put John in prison and he took his head off.

1039
00:58:45.240 --> 00:58:47.440
He beheaded him.

1040
00:58:47.440 --> 00:58:48.280
Okay.

1041
00:58:48.880 --> 00:58:50.920
So you guys, the Pharisees are trying to trick

1042
00:58:50.920 --> 00:58:53.720
and trap Jesus because they already know

1043
00:58:53.720 --> 00:58:58.280
that Herod did the no cause divorce.

1044
00:58:58.280 --> 00:59:01.800
And if they can trick Jesus into saying he's a Shammai guy,

1045
00:59:01.800 --> 00:59:03.400
they have charges against him

1046
00:59:03.400 --> 00:59:05.280
that they can bring before Herod

1047
00:59:05.280 --> 00:59:07.400
and Jesus can lose his head too.

1048
00:59:08.400 --> 00:59:09.400
You guys see that?

1049
00:59:10.320 --> 00:59:12.720
That's what they're trying to do here.

1050
00:59:12.720 --> 00:59:14.200
So that's a very loaded question

1051
00:59:14.200 --> 00:59:16.520
and that's why they pose it to Jesus.

1052
00:59:16.520 --> 00:59:20.040
So Jesus answers, cause Jesus ain't afraid.

1053
00:59:20.040 --> 00:59:21.280
He's not afraid.

1054
00:59:21.280 --> 00:59:23.840
He's gonna say exactly, he knows what they're up to.

1055
00:59:23.840 --> 00:59:24.920
He knows their hearts.

1056
00:59:24.920 --> 00:59:27.760
Remember, Jesus always knew people's hearts.

1057
00:59:27.760 --> 00:59:29.440
And so what does Jesus do?

1058
00:59:29.440 --> 00:59:32.560
He takes them all the way back to the first book

1059
00:59:32.560 --> 00:59:35.600
that Moses wrote, Genesis.

1060
00:59:36.640 --> 00:59:39.400
So this is Matthew 19, verses four and five.

1061
00:59:39.400 --> 00:59:41.920
Jesus answered them and said,

1062
00:59:41.920 --> 00:59:43.520
have you not read Genesis?

1063
00:59:46.200 --> 00:59:47.880
You guys, I just love Jesus.

1064
00:59:47.880 --> 00:59:50.040
He is the goat.

1065
00:59:50.040 --> 00:59:53.080
He is the OG.

1066
00:59:53.080 --> 00:59:55.280
He is.

1067
00:59:55.280 --> 00:59:56.880
If you guys don't think he's spicy,

1068
00:59:56.880 --> 00:59:59.600
then you just got it all wrong, right?

1069
00:59:59.600 --> 01:00:00.440
Cause he's.

1070
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:01.840
talking to the religious leaders of the day.

1071
01:00:01.840 --> 01:00:04.500
And he's like, did you not read Genesis?

1072
01:00:05.880 --> 01:00:09.000
Have you not read in Genesis that he who created them

1073
01:00:09.000 --> 01:00:12.440
from the beginning made them male and female and said,

1074
01:00:12.440 --> 01:00:16.200
therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother

1075
01:00:16.200 --> 01:00:18.360
and hold fast to his wife.

1076
01:00:18.360 --> 01:00:21.200
And the two shall become one flesh.

1077
01:00:21.200 --> 01:00:24.640
You guys, you got to see what Jesus just did right there.

1078
01:00:24.640 --> 01:00:27.800
The original text in Genesis, you guys only says,

1079
01:00:27.800 --> 01:00:30.480
and they shall become one flesh.

1080
01:00:30.480 --> 01:00:32.320
A man shall leave his father and mother

1081
01:00:32.320 --> 01:00:35.720
and hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh.

1082
01:00:35.720 --> 01:00:38.040
But Jesus added the word too.

1083
01:00:38.040 --> 01:00:40.280
And the two shall become one flesh.

1084
01:00:40.280 --> 01:00:41.760
What was he doing?

1085
01:00:41.760 --> 01:00:45.060
He was saying polygamy is not God's plan.

1086
01:00:48.960 --> 01:00:51.480
Don't you love how Jesus gets it all in you guys?

1087
01:00:51.480 --> 01:00:52.960
He gets it all in there.

1088
01:00:53.960 --> 01:00:57.200
And the two, not the three, not the four,

1089
01:00:57.200 --> 01:00:59.520
not your harem over there, brother.

1090
01:00:59.520 --> 01:01:03.240
The two, one and two, male and female,

1091
01:01:03.240 --> 01:01:06.000
the two shall become one flesh.

1092
01:01:08.840 --> 01:01:13.040
All right, and so he's saying God's purpose for marriage

1093
01:01:13.040 --> 01:01:15.440
is a husband and a wife making a permanent

1094
01:01:15.440 --> 01:01:17.560
intimate commitment.

1095
01:01:17.560 --> 01:01:20.480
And so the Pharisees ask, this is Matthew 19,

1096
01:01:20.480 --> 01:01:24.960
verses seven and nine, why then did Moses command

1097
01:01:24.960 --> 01:01:27.880
that the man give his wife a certificate of divorce

1098
01:01:27.880 --> 01:01:29.100
and send her away?

1099
01:01:30.240 --> 01:01:31.960
And Jesus said to them,

1100
01:01:31.960 --> 01:01:35.080
because of the hardness of your heart,

1101
01:01:35.080 --> 01:01:38.320
Moses allowed you to divorce your wives,

1102
01:01:38.320 --> 01:01:41.360
but from the beginning, it was not so.

1103
01:01:41.360 --> 01:01:44.960
And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife,

1104
01:01:44.960 --> 01:01:49.200
except for sexual immorality, once again,

1105
01:01:49.200 --> 01:01:52.240
that's Exodus 21, that includes the three vows,

1106
01:01:52.240 --> 01:01:56.780
unfaithfulness, abandonment, and lack of love,

1107
01:01:58.200 --> 01:02:01.200
and marries another, commits adultery.

1108
01:02:01.200 --> 01:02:03.360
Jesus is saying that if you divorce someone

1109
01:02:03.360 --> 01:02:06.800
with one of these any cause divorces and remarry,

1110
01:02:06.800 --> 01:02:08.780
you are committing adultery.

1111
01:02:10.040 --> 01:02:12.120
Why? Because it was an invalid divorce.

1112
01:02:12.120 --> 01:02:15.800
There was no biblical reason in Deuteronomy 24,

1113
01:02:15.800 --> 01:02:18.300
and that's the passage that they're debating here,

1114
01:02:19.360 --> 01:02:21.920
that you can be divorced in besides the breaking

1115
01:02:21.920 --> 01:02:24.480
of those three promises in the covenant.

1116
01:02:26.880 --> 01:02:29.800
You guys, Jesus was saying, I'm a Shammai guy.

1117
01:02:33.520 --> 01:02:36.280
Now, every single one of you guys that have been divorced

1118
01:02:36.280 --> 01:02:39.120
have been divorced because the breaking of your covenant.

1119
01:02:41.420 --> 01:02:43.260
Every single one of you,

1120
01:02:43.260 --> 01:02:45.640
whether it was physical unfaithfulness,

1121
01:02:45.640 --> 01:02:49.480
whether it was the abandoning of supporting you emotionally,

1122
01:02:49.480 --> 01:02:52.720
physically, in material possessions,

1123
01:02:52.720 --> 01:02:55.540
whether it was some sort of verbal abuse,

1124
01:02:55.540 --> 01:02:57.480
whether it was the withdrawal of love,

1125
01:02:57.480 --> 01:03:00.760
every single one of y'all is divorced

1126
01:03:00.760 --> 01:03:02.600
righteously under the law.

1127
01:03:05.240 --> 01:03:06.880
Every one of you.

1128
01:03:06.880 --> 01:03:08.140
All right, moving on.

1129
01:03:10.200 --> 01:03:11.880
All right, so let's summarize some points

1130
01:03:11.880 --> 01:03:14.720
from the passage in Matthew 19, okay?

1131
01:03:14.760 --> 01:03:17.560
Divorce was never God's original intention.

1132
01:03:17.560 --> 01:03:19.820
Jesus said it wasn't from the very beginning,

1133
01:03:19.820 --> 01:03:22.320
but it's because of the hardness of hearts.

1134
01:03:22.320 --> 01:03:24.800
God allows divorce because people's hearts

1135
01:03:24.800 --> 01:03:29.800
can become so hard and so unrepentant and stubbornly sinful

1136
01:03:30.360 --> 01:03:33.080
that a divorce would be a more loving option

1137
01:03:33.080 --> 01:03:34.280
than to live like that.

1138
01:03:35.940 --> 01:03:38.440
And just because a man or woman has given their spouse

1139
01:03:38.440 --> 01:03:41.600
a certificate of divorce and done everything legally right,

1140
01:03:41.600 --> 01:03:43.840
it does not mean that he or she has done right

1141
01:03:43.840 --> 01:03:46.840
or has been a good person with respect to the relationship.

1142
01:03:48.040 --> 01:03:49.880
A person is forced into adultery

1143
01:03:49.880 --> 01:03:52.400
because the any cause divorces were not valid

1144
01:03:52.400 --> 01:03:54.040
from God's perspective.

1145
01:03:54.040 --> 01:03:58.240
It was a groundless divorce, okay?

1146
01:04:01.160 --> 01:04:03.860
Now, a lot of, like I said, a lot of churches

1147
01:04:03.860 --> 01:04:05.360
that don't understand these scriptures,

1148
01:04:05.360 --> 01:04:07.840
they don't understand the history of these scriptures

1149
01:04:07.840 --> 01:04:12.240
or even what's being talked about

1150
01:04:12.240 --> 01:04:14.400
in these conversations between Jesus

1151
01:04:14.400 --> 01:04:17.360
and the religious leaders of the day.

1152
01:04:17.360 --> 01:04:21.440
Because of that, a lot of people have been told

1153
01:04:21.440 --> 01:04:23.520
a lot of things that are not true.

1154
01:04:23.520 --> 01:04:25.600
And it's really hurt people's feelings

1155
01:04:25.600 --> 01:04:28.320
because people are like, well, if my husband beats me

1156
01:04:28.320 --> 01:04:30.480
and beats our children, is addicted to drugs,

1157
01:04:30.480 --> 01:04:33.480
but he's never gone out and had sex with someone else,

1158
01:04:33.480 --> 01:04:34.800
I have to stay married to him.

1159
01:04:34.800 --> 01:04:37.240
And for you guys, same thing.

1160
01:04:37.240 --> 01:04:40.480
If my wife goes out and she spends all the money

1161
01:04:40.480 --> 01:04:42.240
and she gets us into terrible debt

1162
01:04:42.240 --> 01:04:45.380
and she goes and she stays with her mom

1163
01:04:45.380 --> 01:04:48.720
and she abandons me and doesn't talk to me anymore

1164
01:04:48.720 --> 01:04:50.640
and or she's verbally, physically,

1165
01:04:50.640 --> 01:04:52.120
mentally, emotionally abusive,

1166
01:04:52.120 --> 01:04:53.900
but she's not having sex with another man,

1167
01:04:53.900 --> 01:04:55.000
I have to stay married.

1168
01:04:56.120 --> 01:04:57.800
And the church, the modern church

1169
01:04:57.800 --> 01:05:00.160
and a lot of denominations would tell you yes.

1170
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:06.000
But it's not true. It isn't. It's not true at all.

1171
01:05:06.000 --> 01:05:13.000
So, remember when Jesus is talking about.

1172
01:05:13.000 --> 01:05:28.000
When Jesus is talking about the being divorced for that reason of sexual immorality. He is talking about all of Exodus 21, all the vows of Exodus 21 provision and love faithfulness, every single one of them.

1173
01:05:28.000 --> 01:05:30.000
That's really important.

1174
01:05:30.000 --> 01:05:34.000
All right. So,

1175
01:05:34.000 --> 01:05:42.000
I want to see what else we're already at 810. I want to see what else I want to.

1176
01:05:42.000 --> 01:05:52.000
All right, I think that I'm going to really quickly just go over Paul's teaching on the same scripture. So let's move forward to 55 ad.

1177
01:05:52.000 --> 01:05:57.000
Now you know Apostle Paul.

1178
01:05:57.000 --> 01:06:01.000
He's writing to the church at Corinth you guys.

1179
01:06:01.000 --> 01:06:09.000
And you guys need to know what was happening during the time of his epistle to Corinth, a lot of people don't know what was happening in Corinth.

1180
01:06:09.000 --> 01:06:20.000
During the time, people don't know what was happening in the Roman world. During 55 ad. So first of all you need to know that marriage as an institution in the Roman world was not in great shape.

1181
01:06:21.000 --> 01:06:29.000
During 55 ad. The Emperor at the time Caesar Augustus had seen that Roman men were avoiding marriage.

1182
01:06:29.000 --> 01:06:32.000
Roman men were not getting married you guys.

1183
01:06:32.000 --> 01:06:42.000
So they could engage you know in multiple relationships, sexual debauchery sexual relationships affairs all the things they were not getting married.

1184
01:06:42.000 --> 01:06:55.000
And so he wanted them to get married because under Roman law, you couldn't have a legal son unless it was born within a marriage. And so there was no legal sons being born in the Roman households.

1185
01:06:55.000 --> 01:07:06.000
And so Caesar actually established a law in 18 BC, making it compulsory for Roman citizens to get married.

1186
01:07:06.000 --> 01:07:12.000
And I want to tell you guys, if you got divorced, you had to get remarried within 18 months.

1187
01:07:12.000 --> 01:07:20.000
It was the law. If you got divorced, you had to get remarried within 18 months was the law that Caesar put into place back then.

1188
01:07:20.000 --> 01:07:25.000
And why is that, because it was easy to get a divorce in Rome.

1189
01:07:25.000 --> 01:07:33.000
They had the no cause divorce, or any cause I'm sorry divorce. In fact, it was called divorce by separation.

1190
01:07:33.000 --> 01:07:43.000
It goes way back to that early early code from 1700 BC, you could just divorce someone by walking out the door.

1191
01:07:43.000 --> 01:07:46.000
And so that world.

1192
01:07:46.000 --> 01:08:02.000
It faced all of the problems of that. Okay, the early church that was there in Corinth, they faced all of that, you know all of that law of the land that was around them wide scale sexual immorality compulsory marriage laws where you have to get remarried within

1193
01:08:02.000 --> 01:08:11.000
18 months, and divorce was as easy as walking out the door so you guys can see that marriage was a disaster in the world that the that the early church in Corinth was living in.

1194
01:08:11.000 --> 01:08:14.000
Do you guys see that.

1195
01:08:14.000 --> 01:08:26.000
Okay, so Paul writes to that little church, that little church plant in the middle of this big bad gross nasty culture that it's living in. And he says don't live like that.

1196
01:08:26.000 --> 01:08:31.000
Don't break your marriage vows. Don't sink down to the Roman bar.

1197
01:08:31.000 --> 01:08:40.000
Live up to God's standard okay, even if you're married to an unbeliever, and you've become a Christian, you know, seek to honor your promises to that person.

1198
01:08:40.000 --> 01:08:45.000
Guys, this is this is first Corinthians seven.

1199
01:08:45.000 --> 01:09:00.000
This is not an accident. This is the same scriptures where he talks about staying single, and the gift of singleness, and he wishes that people had the gift of singleness and you can see why now right because marriage was just a hot disaster.

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It was a train wreck, where they were living in the culture that they were part of, because you guys remember these people started following Jesus but they were from the Corinth culture they lived in Corinth.

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This church plant was in Corinth these people were raised up in this culture under Caesar Augustus under all this crazy stuff, all the sexual immorality and walk out the door divorces and all the crazy stuff.

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Mark is saying Corinth was also a sailor stop known for incredible sexual debauchery. There you go. There you have it.

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So, he goes on to teach you guys but even if you're married to an unbeliever and the unbeliever. This is important.

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First Corinthians 715 this kind of shows you that that any cause divorce thing that was happening. But if you're married to an unbeliever and the unbeliever leaves.

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Remember in the Roman world that was considered a divorce.

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It says let them do so.

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A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances, you guys please I want you to

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to see the teaching here. Even though Paul was definitely a

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Shema guy, meaning that you could only get divorced for the

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three reasons of unfaithfulness, abandonment, and withdrawal of

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love. Okay. He was saying, if, if your if your unbeliever,

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spouse decides to divorce you for any cause, meaning they just

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walk out the door for just any cause, you haven't been

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unfaithful, you haven't withdrawn your support or your

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love, go ahead and let them go. Because even though under the

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old law, that would mean that you are now going to commit

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adultery, because any cause divorce is not lawful. Remember,

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guys, it's not someone has to break that covenant. It says

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that you're not held to that, because you're not bound in

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those circumstances, because that person's not a believer.

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They're not under the kingdom of Jesus, right? Do you guys see

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that they're not under the kingdom law? In other words,

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Jackie is not here right now. And it made me she's back

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and I'm back. Can't keep me down. I don't know. I don't

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know. Lord help us. Okay. So in other words, if your spouse

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abandons you, then the marriage is over and you're free to

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remarry in the Lord. Paul adds that a little later to a

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believer. He said, Okay, look, if you just became a believer,

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and your unbelieving spouse divorces you by walking out the

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door, they're doing the whole any cause divorce things, you

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are free to remarry. Go ahead and let them go. But this time,

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make sure you marry a believer. Make sure you marry a believer,

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you're free to remarry in the Lord. So Paul, you guys, it's

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really important that you understand that this is for all

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you guys as well. Do not marry an unbeliever. For all of you

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that asked me, do they have to be a believer? Do not marry an

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unbeliever. Do not marry an unbeliever. Okay, don't date an

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unbeliever. Don't court an unbeliever. Don't marry an

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unbeliever. All right. So let's go through the divorce, the

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justifiable reasons for divorce, again, adultery, unfaithfulness,

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abandonment, and abuse. And that is abandonment is abandonment,

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all different forms of abandonment, someone can

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financially abandon you, they can mentally abandon you, they

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can emotionally abandon you. Abuse is an extreme form of

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breaking the vow to provide or to love, you know. And remember,

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divorce is okay, because divorce is not okay. But the decree of

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divorce that was given to, to God's people was because of one

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reason. And that is the hardness of hearts. Remember, the

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religious leaders asked Jesus, why did Moses command us to get

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divorced? And Jesus said, Moses did not command you to get

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divorced, he permitted you to get divorced because of your own

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hard hearts. So the idea here is that even if a marriage vow is

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broken, if the spouse is repentant, if they're soft

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hearted, if they're willing to reconcile, then seek to rebuild

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the marriage, you guys. Right? Even if even if someone breaks

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one of those vows, one of those promises, but they're not hard

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hearted, they're repentant, they're soft hearted, they're

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willing to reconcile, then we seek to rebuild the marriage.

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But if that spouse refuses to repent, if they're stubborn, if

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they're hard hearted, if they're defiant, if they reject

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reconciliation, if they reject intimacy, if they reject God,

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they reject his ways, they reject reconciliation. And

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there's no there's nothing else you can do. Like I said, it's

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not a divorce. It's a rescue mission. Guys, I had a student

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once, you know, she found out in the first year of marriage that

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her husband fathered a child with someone else. She was

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willing to forgive him. She was willing to co parent with that

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other woman, that child, she was willing to, to reconcile the

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marriage. He didn't want to he had a hard heart. He didn't want

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to he didn't want to be with that woman he impregnated

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either. He didn't want to be with anyone. He wanted to go

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back to his philandering ways and go sit at bars on barstools

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and flirt with women and have sex with whoever he wanted. He

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was unrepentant, his heart was hardened. And so she had no

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choice but to divorce him. He didn't want he didn't want to be

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forgiven. Sometimes people don't want to be forgiven. Do

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you guys get that?

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Okay.

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So hard hearts make divorce necessary a lot you guys.

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They do. And it's necessary to go ahead and divorce when when one or both people's hearts are hard because it, it avoids greater harm, because when someone's heart is hard, they're capable of anything.

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And that's why God made it permissible for us.

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Kingdom hearts are not hard you guys.

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Kingdom hearts are not hard.

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Our hearts are soft.

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They are. And so it's really important that we understand that as we head into these marriages that we want to keep those vows of the covenant. We want to make sure that we have a soft heart.

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We want to continue to soften our hearts towards each other.

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It's not about divorce being okay.

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It's about how can I use the resources of the kingdom of God to resolve difficulties with my spouse to make our union rich and good before God.

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I'm not coming on here to let you know hey don't worry about it. You know if you get into one of these bad marriages you can always get out God's okay with it.

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No, it's not about divorce being okay.

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God doesn't want you to live under the shame of divorce or the guilt of divorce but he also wants you to be able to fully step into the kingdom.

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If I have a kingdom heart full of love, full of concern for the honest good of all involved in the marriage, then guess what, that's the best divorce proof I can have isn't it.

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If after divorce, ladies and gentlemen, I'm living proof of that I've been remarried for 15 years. My marriage is not perfect but I can honestly tell you guys that we come against difficulties with each other with softened hearts.

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We do. We talk through things we forgive each other.

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David I've had to forgive him more than anyone I've ever had to forgive in my entire life and vice versa.

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We've heard each other a lot. We've also helped each other a lot.

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Because when you're when you get married, you're going to hurt that other person because you know there's a lot of trauma that's going to come to the surface, and the more hard work you can do before the marriage, the better, but you are going to hurt them.

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It's ridiculous and unrealistic for us to think we're not going to hurt each other we are going to hurt each other whether overtly or covertly, but the bottom line is, is that you're going to have to have a soft heart with each other.

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If you want to make marriage work.

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And you guys I want you to know that God got a divorce.

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I know a lot of people are like what are you talking about. Yeah, so I want to tell you about one more divorce in the Bible.

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Before we end tonight, and that's God's divorce. So the most striking picture of what the prophets are describing

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with God's relationship to Israel.

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Okay. Is that it was a marriage.

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The most striking picture of what the prophets described God's relationship to Israel, as was a marriage. God made a covenant with Israel, because he loved her.

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And what did he what did he vow, the same thing that we vow when we get married you guys he vowed to be faithful to her to provide for her to care for her to love her to be intimate with her, and she was to love God in return wasn't she.

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But God's people Israel were unfaithful to him. And if you go through the Old Testament. If you read through it, you're going to see that that Israel was very adulterous very unfaithful took other lovers other gods, so to speak, so often as a form of adultery, if you will, of unfaithfulness.

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This leads to one of the most amazing and heart wrenching statements in all of scripture you guys, Jeremiah three eight.

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I gave faithless Israel.

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I gave that adulterous I gave her her certificate of divorce, and I sent her away because of all her adulteries.

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Wow.

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Do you understand what God is saying.

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God said I went through a divorce, God went through a divorce for all of you that have been divorced. I want you to really take that to heart. God knows what it's like to be divorced.

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And that's why in the book of Malachi God says I hate divorce.

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You guys that's why he says it is because he experienced it. He's been through it.

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If you don't hear the anguish if you don't hear the anguish in God's heart in Jeremiah three eight, then you don't know God's heart yet.

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God says, I've been through all the humiliation of being rejected. I know all about the pain of betrayal. I know all about the anguish of broken vows from hard hearted people, some of you guys need to get ahold of this.

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it. I know what that feels like. So God invented the first

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divorce recovery program you guys at a place called Calvary.

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And the price for the course was one blood stained cross. And

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Jesus paid the price for all of us for you for me, for our

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hard hearted spouses that were no longer married to for all of

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us. God was the first one to go through it. Maybe you were the

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hard hearted spouse, he paid, Jesus paid the price for all of

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us. And in Hosea 219, you get to hear about that. In that day

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declares the Lord, I will betroth you to me forever.

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Forever, I will betroth you in righteousness and justice in

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love and in compassion. You guys, God did divorce Israel.

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But guess what? He has engaged all of us now, even us wild

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branches that are grafted into the vine. As the we are the

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bride of Christ, aren't we? We're engaged again. We're the

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bride of Christ that happened after the finished work of

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Calvary. So there's love and compassion at the cross for all

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of us. All of us hard hearted vow breakers. All of us have

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fallen short of the glory of God. All of us when it comes to

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this divorce that God had, we're all on the wrong side of

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it. You guys, we've all been unfaithful to God. And this is

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why any church that divides people up into superior

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non-divorced people, first class Christians, and inferior beat up

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divorce second class Christians is theologically errant. And

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it's spiritually destructive because we're all divorcees. We

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all are. We've all been unfaithful. We all need the

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cross. All of us. All of us need that reconciliation plan.

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All of them do. All of us do. And our future marriage is

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needed as well. The only way that you're going to have a

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successful finished future marriage is if the cross is in

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the middle of it. Amen. Amen. All right, you guys, that's all

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I have for you tonight. I know it was a lot. I hope you enjoyed

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it. Once again, I'm very thankful to Jim Baker for

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teaching me this. I know that he got some of his teachings from

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others as well that studied out all of this. He break law over

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the years. And I'm thankful that we get to stand upon the

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work of all of those teachers that have come before. Father,

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thank you. Thank you for people who are willing to take the time

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to rightly divide the word of God. Thank you for people who

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are willing to take the time to make sure that people are not

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believing things that are not true about your word. Lord, we

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thank you, God, that we can live in the finished work of the

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cross. We can live in the kingdom. We don't have to live

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underneath the pressure and the burden of shame and guilt and

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sin any longer, that we can step into everything that you

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have for us, all of your mercy, all of your grace. And that

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grace is not just a saving power, but it also is an

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enabling power for us to have amazing relationships with each

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other and with our future spouses, to have softened

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hearts, kingdom hearts that forgive, kingdom hearts that

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have grace, kingdom hearts that have mercy, kingdom hearts that

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see not just what people do, but why they do it. Father, I thank

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you for a kingdom heart. I thank you that you're releasing

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kingdom hearts. Your word says that you would take our hearts

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of stone and that you would make them hearts of flesh again. And

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I declare that over each and every one of my brothers and

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sisters and myself, that we would not have hardened hearts,

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that we would have soft, supple hearts, God, that you could mold

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and shape after your own heart, Lord, that we become more and

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more and more and more like Jesus, that marriage and family

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is your maturity process for us, that marriage and family is

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your sanctification process for us. Let it be so in Jesus name.

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Amen. So does anyone feel free, more free that's been divorced?

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Does anyone feel like you're finally beginning to understand

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some of these scriptures in the Bible? Hopefully I taught it

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well, I tried my best. I know it's a lot to digest. And I

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really, really want you guys to be free. Free like me, baby. Oh,

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I'm so glad, Rachel. Thanks so much, you guys. Okay, so I have

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time for just a couple questions. If we want to go

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ahead. I can ask I can answer like two or three questions if

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we want to go ahead. I have to jump off here soon.

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I sent you a couple of questions, but I'll ask them

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here if you'd like. Yeah, I'm looking to see as well. Go

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ahead. Someone asked, does the non victim also have the right

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to remarry to the person they adulterated with? Are you guys

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that's going to cause a lot of logistical problems and

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family. And I know a lot of people, even people in this group where their spouse that cheated

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actually remarried that person that cheated, they actually maybe even impregnated the person

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they were cheating with. And then they divorced you and they married that person. And now they

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have a child together. And now the children that you had together now have to go over to that house

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and be with that other parents and those children that are born, you know, from that adulterous

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affair. And you guys, it gets very complicated. And that's where grace has to come in. We have

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to have a lot of grace, only the supernatural power of God will help you to forgive such a

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thing and be able to live continuously in a situation like that. Right? Right, guys, for sure.

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And so, but I believe that God can do that for you. I really do. I believe that he can do that

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for all of us. And so the short answer to that is don't have a hardened heart. Yes, that person is

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free to remarry. They can marry the person they cheated with. God can redeem all things. The

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finished work of the cross can redeem all things. But are you going to be able to live in harmony

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and in peace? That's up to you. Remember, the Bible says live, live in peace with all men

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as it's in your control to do so. Meaning control your responses. You can't control

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anyone else. You can only control yourself. And let's be Holy Spirit controlled. All right,

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so that answers that question, hopefully. Once the certificate of divorce is given,

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you guys, both people are free to remarry. You can remarry. What do we got? Any other questions?

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Yes, I'm getting ready to send you one if I can find my chat. Sorry.

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You see that one? It says, I'm slightly confused. Why did Jesus say sexual immorality if that

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included all three of the things, lack of love, faithfulness, and providing?

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So first of all, you have to understand because that is, first of all, Jesus is just answering

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the Pharisees question. And so it's like, it's the same as asking, do you believe,

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do you believe that it's okay for a 16-year-old to drink? Now, I didn't say to drink alcohol. I

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just said, hey, do you, Christy, do you believe that it's okay for a 16-year-old to drink?

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You know, back, they used to have near beer, used to be able to drink at 18. Hey, do you think it's

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okay for an 18? Do you think that you think it's right for an 18-year-old to drink? I mean,

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they are an adult. You know, do you think it's all right for an 18-year-old to drink?

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Now, Christy, because of the culture that she's been raised in, she's already going to,

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she's already going to surmise that I'm talking about alcohol,

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right? I don't have to say drink alcohol because she already knows because of our culture that

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that has to be what I'm asking. Same thing with the Pharisees question and Jesus's answer.

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Any first world Christians, any first world people, not just Christians, but any first world

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Jews, okay, would know what the Pharisees were asking. They were asking, what's your stance on

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Exodus 21? What's your stance on Exodus 21? And remember, sexual immorality in Exodus 21 had

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already been decided and translated into abandonment, unfaithfulness, and abuse.

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So Jesus didn't have to re-spell that out. It was already,

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it's already surmised. It's already inferred, if you will. Does that make sense for everyone?

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Does anyone else have any other questions? I see another one. Someone said,

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it's been amazing and biblical, but I'm curious about one thing. I hear that it is acceptable

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for a variety of good reasons for someone to divorce their spouse, but what about those of

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us who were divorced properly because they were adulterous or abandoned their spouse,

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or one of the other two items, can they remarry without committing adultery?

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I already answered that question.

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There's another one. With marriage being a maturing and refining process,

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if someone in their 40s has never married, does that mean they're not yet fully matured and

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refined, or does lifeline singleness also help someone become matured and refined?

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You guys be very, very careful in your own minds and hearts that you don't make, you know, you don't become like, you know, rigid in your thoughts and your ideas.

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Sometimes we do that as we get older, you know, don't make hard, fast rules for something, you know, we always, we can always mature more, you know, God provides us with all kinds of opportunities to mature, not just marriage and family.

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Okay, so don't don't don't make everything into a formula.

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Any more questions.

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there's one that i'm looking for, and that will do it, but this has been wonderful according to everyone, so thank you from everyone.

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Okay, this says it's your teaching so in no way, do I want to disrespect that, but I believe in.

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But I believe in.

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agonize a GUNH apostrophe s and that the New Testament divorce passages are wrongly translating a polio a P o l u o as divorce when Apollo Leo to a Hebrew Jewish audience only means separation, but divorce is actually the biblia apostasy and excuse me for.

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Okay.

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I thanks christy I see that whole thing so first of all, like I said once again, not my teaching fully.

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It is my teaching i'm teaching it i'm adding you know little bits here and there, but these teachings are some from some of the best Bible teachers.

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And some of the best theologians and so you know you can agree to disagree, and if you don't agree with this teaching then you're free to just move on and believe whatever you want.

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we're not here to debate it.

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So that's the end of that alright, so what else we got.

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that's all of it thanks.

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All right, I appreciate you guys bless you guys, I hope some people got free tonight, I know when I was first taught.

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All of these all the historical meanings and all of the true translations and definitions and especially the history behind the rabbis and behind this like I said very, very important subject in ancient Israel.

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It was very, very freeing for me, and you know I knew deep deep down in my heart somewhere that God was not going to leave everyone out.

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That got married to someone who mistreated them and that he wasn't going to hold that against us because God is a good God and he's a good daddy you guys.

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You know, and there are so many reasons that people get divorced there's so many things that cause hardness of heart, but let's just make let's make a.

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Not a vow but let's make a decision tonight that we are going to continually allow God to soften our hearts, so that we can be kingdom people.

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We want to be kingdom people all right in everything that we do not just in our marriages and so let's make a decision now that we are going to allow God to continue to lead us further and further and further into his kingdom by the power of his spirit amen.

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Amen alright everyone have an amazing night, and I will see you soon bye.