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All right, so welcome to your last year single orientation.

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I am so excited for you because I know what comes next.

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I know what comes next.

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I've been doing this for a long time

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and I know that whatever it is that you signed up for,

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whatever reason made you push the button,

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make the decision, there's so much more

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that God has for you than just that thing,

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whatever that thing was.

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And you go ahead and throw that thing up in the chat.

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What was the tipping point for you?

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What is it that you were like,

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yes, I have to do this because I want this.

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And of course we all know that you all wanna be married,

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but what else?

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I want to blank.

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And if it is just the man,

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then you can put that there, be honest.

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Because that's one thing that you're going to have

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to learn how to do very quickly in this program.

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And that is be honest, be vulnerable, be authentic.

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And we're gonna help you to show up like that

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in this very safe community.

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And guess what?

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As you start showing up more and more and more

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as your real self, not your counterfeit self

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in this safe community through the first phase of heartwork,

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through the second phase of your love story accelerator,

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it'll give you permission.

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And also it'll give you courage

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to show up like that out there in the real world, right?

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You'll start seeing that your persona here

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with your sisters and with your coaches

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will start bleeding over into your work life,

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into your home life, into your community life.

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I can't tell you how many students tell me

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other people are noticing a change in me.

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People are mentioning to me,

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hey, there's something different about you

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and it's not your hair.

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There's something different about you.

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I don't know what it is, but you seem happier.

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You seem to have joy.

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You seem less stressed out.

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You seem less angry.

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Your countenance changes.

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People are like, you're glowing, right?

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We call it that pregnancy glow here in heartwork

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because what are you gestating?

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You're gestating your love story.

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And when you first get pregnant,

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for those of you that have children,

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nobody knows that you're pregnant

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because you're not showing in any way.

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It isn't until you've been pregnant for a while

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during those later months of gestation

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that you start to show and or you start to glow.

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Nobody's glow in that first trimester.

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You're looking like crap.

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You're throwing up.

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You're not happy.

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You're feeling terrible.

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And for a lot of you,

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phase one is gonna be a little like that.

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Whatever's out, whatever's in has to come out.

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Whatever's in has to come out.

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And some of you aren't worried about that

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and you should never be worried

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because this is a grace covered experience.

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It's a grace covered experience,

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meaning that God will give you the strength

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to deal with whatever you gotta deal with in phase one.

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And I'm gonna talk about that in this orientation.

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I'm gonna tell you everything that you can expect

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in this orientation.

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So God's giving you the grace

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to do what you're doing right now,

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but it doesn't mean that it's not gonna hurt.

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And some of you aren't concerned about phase one

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because you've done so much therapy.

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You've done so much counseling.

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You've done so much inner healing ministry,

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sozo, whatever it is.

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That don't mean nothing here, okay?

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There are things, if you will,

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that are deep in those heart boxes

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that are fully related to marriage and family

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and romance and sex and all the things that we do here

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that you probably have not even gotten to the surface of

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that will surface during this

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if you give God permission to bring it to the surface, okay?

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And I'm gonna talk about the good protocols

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and the bad protocols of how to go about this.

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And it is really truly gonna be life changing.

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So the material during phase one comes from this book.

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It's the first book that I ever wrote.

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It's called The Heart Work.

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It's really not a book.

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It is a protocol.

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It's an inner healing protocol that God gave me

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when I was in my 20s and first came to Jesus

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and church wasn't working for me.

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Some of you heard me talk about that on the challenge.

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It wasn't working for me.

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I'm not against church,

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but the way that they disciple people in modern Christianity

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back then in the 90s did not work

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for a broken little foster care girl

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who never had anyone love her,

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never had been any place where any type of authority

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was good authority, okay?

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Never had a father.

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So people standing around talking about Father God,

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that's a turn off right away for me back then.

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So there were a lot of things

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that I just could not get ahold of.

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And I'm the kind of person, don't tell me, show me.

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I've heard a lot of words all of my life

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from a lot of people.

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And a lot of those things were lies

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and I'm sure that sometimes they were things

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people wanted to actually follow through on,

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but lots of broken promises, lots of broken relationships,

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lots of broken.

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parts. And so don't tell me show me. And so people preach right

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from a pulpit and they tell you a whole lot of stuff about God,

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but I don't want to just hear it. I want to see it. And it's

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not like I'm seeking after a sign, but I am seeking after the

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truth. And for me, the truth looks like something. Don't tell

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me that something's true if you can't demonstrate it. And so

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that's where I was coming from y'all. And so God knew that I

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needed to have a tangible, you know, representation of the

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kingdom in my life. And so he took me and he began to disciple

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me. Holy spirit began to disciple me. And that's what

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this is. Okay? Because not only did I need that back then, but a

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lot of people need that. A lot of people don't just want to

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come with all their brokenness and have someone slap a duct

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tape scripture on you and tell you that everything's better

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now. The word of God is alive and it is true and is constantly

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moving in the earth to accomplish the will of heaven.

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But there is a partition. There's a part, there's a

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participatory part that we play in that, that a lot of people

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leave out. Okay. That good information was getting here,

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but it was not getting here because I had a lot of junk in

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here and I can't erase that stuff. I couldn't erase the

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stuff that happened to me in my life that now my belief systems

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were connected to can erase that, but I can replace it. And

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so this is about not erasing, but replacing, replacing this

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isn't as this is about revealing for healing. It's not about

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exposing. God will never expose you here. You're not going to be

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exposed. You're going to be covered with his love. Um, it's

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going to be a beautiful process of heart surgery, like you've

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never experienced before. And so I want you to get ready for

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that. So I'm gonna talk about some of the things that you can

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expect as you have said yes to this in phase one. Now we are

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asking you to go on a dating sabbatical for phase one, unless

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you are in a, what we call level three relationship. What is a

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level three relationship? A level three relationship as

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defined in this program. And you'll see, as you go forward,

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and this will help all of you understand how you should be

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connecting to people as you're getting to know them. A lot of

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times, Christian women want to go right from, Hey, to level

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five. No, girl, this is how you end up married, married to

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wolves and sheep's clothing. All right. We're not going to go

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from, Hi, go to coffee. I think you're my husband, my wife to

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engagements or betrothal. You know, I've had people back in

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the day, this used to be called married in 12 months or less,

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but I had to change that because people thought that it was

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actually called married in two weeks or less. And then that was

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a problem. All right, because that is what they, as soon as

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they got out of their heartwork phase, they were like, let me

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add them. And then the next thing, you know, they're

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engaged or announcing their engagement on Facebook with

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someone that they've only known for, you know, six weeks. We

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don't want you to do that. We can't stop you from doing that.

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We do have a stop gap there of a premarital course called Simba

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save your marriage before it starts that you're invited to

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when you get to level three and level four relationship. Okay.

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So unless you're in a level three relationship, which means

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that you are exclusive with someone you've been dating, you

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think that, you know, you think that it's a marriage minded

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relationship and or it already is a marriage minded

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relationship. There's an engagement, which is level four.

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If you're a level three or four relationship, and you've come

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here to kind of try to figure out if they're the one, you're

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not in the wrong place. We will help you. I'm a matchmaker and

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also a matchbreaker. We will help you figure out if they're

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the one for you. Okay. We'll also help you for those of you

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that never get to level three, because you have massive

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relationship anxiety, because you're so worried you're going

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to marry the wrong one. You're so scared that what if this is

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not the one and then you start talking to yourself and you tell

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yourself that it's God telling you no, but it's really you

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telling you no, because you're scared. We're gonna help you

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folks too. Okay, promise you we're gonna help you. We're gonna

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start unpacking the hard boxes here when you get to the

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accelerator love story accelerator, we're gonna unpack

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boundaries, we're gonna unpack relationship anxiety and

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attachment styles and all that fun stuff. Is there anybody here

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in this group that is in a level three or four relationship and

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you've just come here to see whether or not you need to

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actually go forward with this person, raise your little avatar

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hand. If there's anyone that's in a relationship like that.

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Anybody? Okay, doesn't I don't see any hands. Rizzo, do you see

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One of your one of your coaches is on this call with me Renee

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Rizzo, we call her Rizzo around these parts and she will see her

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primarily in your phase two, but you may see her a little bit in

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phase one as well. Okay. All right, I don't see any hands. So

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that means all of you.

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All of you are going to surrender the pen of your love story

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to God during these first five weeks

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and you're gonna work on you.

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That's what that permission slip was all about.

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You're gonna work on you.

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That means you're not gonna have to worry about

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where he is, who he is, how you meet him.

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You're gonna fully focus on yourself.

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You're gonna do this work.

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I can't tell you how frustrating it is for me

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because I know that this is the secret sauce

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for people to race through and get to try to get to level

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to phase two and phase three,

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phase three being that community phase.

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And then I go back

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and they're having all kinds of problems over there.

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They are meeting people, they are single

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and they're mingling and they're doing the things

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but they're showing up in all kinds of garbage.

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They're showing up with all kinds of lies attached

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and all kinds of stuff.

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And then I go back to their portal

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and I look to see how much of phase one they did

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and they only unlocked 2%.

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They only unlocked 2% of the materials, 20%.

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I go back into their phase one and I searched their name

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to see how they showed up in the group.

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How vulnerable were they?

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What did they share?

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What did they invite other people to give them feedback on?

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Zero, nilch, nada.

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You guys, you can't trick God.

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And you really can't trick me either, all right?

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Because I come from the South side of the kingdom.

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I know what's up.

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If you show up super broken in my phase three,

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I know that you mailed it in in phase one.

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And so let's make sure that we take this phase seriously.

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Remember, clarity before momentum.

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You guys are gonna get momentum.

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Let's get some clarity first, some clarity of heart.

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I think I saw someone just say,

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hey, what if someone asks us out?

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Tell them that you will revisit that in a few weeks,

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especially if they are someone

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that you want to revisit that with.

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And they'll either be waiting or they'll have fallen off

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because they're not your person.

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Because one thing that I know for sure

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is that you cannot miss your spirit mate

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by being obedient to the Lord.

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You can't.

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then you might have a scarcity issue in your heart.

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If you're like, oh, what if they go away?

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What if they're not there?

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What if they still don't like me when I do my heart work?

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Then they weren't for you.

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Don't have a scarcity issue, ladies.

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No men have left the earth, the living men.

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No living men have left the earth.

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And there's 49% of eight plus billion of them here.

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Now, some of them are babies, it's true, all right?

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Some of them are little toddlers and still in school.

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Some of them are jail bait.

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Some of them are, that's not a good thing for you.

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But the adult ones, there's a lot of them.

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There's a lot of them.

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And so we're gonna deal with those scarcity mentalities

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during this phase and phase two.

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The things that keep you dating the guys

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that you don't want, but you're dating them

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because you're afraid that there's nothing else left.

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Okay, right now, y'all, I have a broken,

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I have frozen pipes and I have a dead animal in the wall

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that's stinking up part of my house

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because it's 25 degrees in Austin, Texas

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and Texans don't know how to do cold.

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My husband tried to go to the grocery store last night

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to get something and it literally looked

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like a COVID fever dream, okay?

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There was nothing left on the shelves.

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And some of you really believe that about your love life.

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There's nothing, there's nothing left.

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There's no good men left.

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They're gone, like all the toilet paper

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and all the soup is gone at HEB down the street.

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That's not true, it's a lie.

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And here's the first replace.

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We haven't even started heart work yet,

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but here's the first replace.

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You only need one.

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You only need one.

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You only need one good man that's gonna love you.

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You only need one good man

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that's gonna partner with you, just one.

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Just one.

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You only need one good man to be attracted to you.

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You're like, you know what, Jackie, all my life,

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men aren't attracted to me.

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Well, you don't need men, you need man.

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You need man.

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If you're not the girl that walks down the street

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that turns all the men's heads, guess what?

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You're not gonna go through your life sexually harassed.

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So good on you.

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You only need one man to wanna partner with you,

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to wanna be faithful to you,

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to wanna seek God with you and create a family with you.

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One.

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One.

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So we're not going to make the mistake

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of picking whoever is there and whoever wants us.

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because the people that seek us out in our brokenness are usually not top shelf.

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And so we want to be whole and healthy because marriage-minded men, good men, you're going

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to learn about the three Ms here.

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Masculine, mature and marriage-minded men are looking for healthy hearted women to partner

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with.

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We sing that song with our guys group.

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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, find a healthy hearted woman and make

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her your wife.

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That's what we do around here because that's sexy to a man who wants a wife.

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All right.

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So your next 30 days, you guys, I know you're living in a busy world.

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I understand that, but the materials, like I said, they come from this very anointed

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little Oracle from heaven.

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And if you like a book in your hand and you don't like the ebook, you like a book in your

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hand, you can order this on Amazon, right?

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It'll be shipped to you in just a couple of days.

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You can get it.

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You can order it on Amazon.

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If you want to mark it up and highlight it up and do all the things, it does have the

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exact same material as the materials in your portal.

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If you want to read it from here, instead of from there, what I don't want you to do,

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and here's best practices.

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We can't police you.

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We can't keep you from doing whatever it is your little heart desires you to do, but remember

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your little broken heart wants to race your little booty off the cliff.

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And so we're here to heal that heart.

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And one of the things that we ask you not to do is try to go ahead.

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If you get the book and then you read it all in one sitting and you say, Oh, I'm done.

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And then you try to do the work you guys go as we have laid out for you to go.

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We didn't lay that out because it made sense to lay it out that way.

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We laid it out that way because we know the kind of revealing for healing that's going

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to happen in all five parts of your heart work.

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And we want you to have time to do what I say all through this book.

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Let's process that.

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We want you to have time to process that with yourself.

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Okay.

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With Holy Spirit and with the group and with your coaches, right?

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For those of you that are therapists, counselors, even other coaches, maybe like life coaches,

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psychologists, psychiatrists, I want you to take that hat off and lay it aside for your

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time in this program.

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We don't need you to show up like that.

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In fact, we're giving you permission right now at orientation to not be a helper, okay?

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Be an encourager, be a supporter, be a cheerleader for each other.

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But we have coaches that are trained in this protocol.

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We have coaches that are trained in our dating protocol that gets people success where they've

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never had success before.

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We don't, we don't need you to show up like that.

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This is for you.

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This is your me time.

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This is your self care.

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And if you have a real, real hard time doing that, then that will show you one of the places

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where you have some stuff in your heart.

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If you feel like you can't show up unless you're being useful to other people, if you

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feel like you can't show up without giving, giving, giving, y'all, this is your time to

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receive.

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That being said, this is something that we actually don't just suggest.

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We actually insist on.

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So if we catch you showing up as a coach or a therapist, you know, giving people tools

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and trying to get them to go do this or read this book or do that and stuff, not only will

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those posts not be approved, but you will be warned.

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Not because we don't love you, but because once again, this is you time.

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We want you to show up and we know that there's all kinds of other books and tools and resources

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out there.

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Okay.

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But the resources that we use in here are anointed for this purpose, right?

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And they may seem a lot simpler than the tools that maybe you have had access to other places.

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And you're like, I don't even know how this can work because this seems really kindergarten

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compared to my PhD because y'all, God chooses the foolish things to confound the wise.

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That's why.

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So to show up with us in this little child space, because some of you need to learn how

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to be children again, because your childhood was stolen from you.

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Your innocence was stolen from you.

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You've been, you came out of your mama's womb, an adult, a full grown woman, just like me

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running for your life, having to make your own decisions about life or death every day

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of your life, having to raise your siblings.

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You know how many women there are out there that don't have kids now because they had

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to raise their brothers and sisters.

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And they're so burnt out on the trauma from their childhood of having to raise babies

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that they were not given birth to.

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All that's going to get healed here.

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If you want it to.

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And some of you came in here saying, I'll never have a child.

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I don't want any kids.

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I know we think all women want children and that's really not true.

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If you're still, you know, in that phase and you know, but God has a different plan for

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you.

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I was one of those people.

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I didn't want any kids.

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I'm just going to be honest with you.

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I've forgiven my mom.

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She's in heaven now.

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But I was so.

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Oh, unconsciously scared that I was gonna be a monster

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like my mom.

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My mom was a monster during my childhood.

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And some of you have that experience.

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Whether it was a mom or a dad or some other caregiver,

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somebody made your childhood a living hell.

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That's gonna get healed here,

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because guess what?

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If it doesn't get healed, doesn't get revealed and healed,

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then you're gonna continue to lather, rinse, repeat it

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through the generations.

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Even if you're like, oh no, I'm nothing like them.

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You might not be like them in that way,

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but there's something that that brokenness is causing

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that's counterfeit in your life, that's getting passed on.

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It might not look the same as what they did,

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but it's still something very unhealthy.

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And so I promise you, that's what's gonna happen here.

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So that's what the revealing for healing

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is going to happen in the heart work.

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We want you to take it one week at a time.

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It's laid out in your portal.

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When you finish one material, the next one unlocks,

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that's how it goes.

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And then you keep going.

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And then every week on Mondays at 1 p.m. Eastern

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and 8 p.m. Eastern, there is some sort of heart check-in.

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If you can't be there live for either of those times,

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then the 8 p.m. is recorded,

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and it will be in your portal

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with all the rest of your materials by the end of the day.

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It'll be posted there and you can watch it.

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Guys, starting with your group,

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we have a whole bonus session section.

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There's a hope section, supernatural hope.

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If you've lost hope,

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you will get massive hope from that session.

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There's a divorce and remarriage one.

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There's an interpretation of dreams one.

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There's a bunch of stuff.

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That will, some of that's gonna be live this month

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for y'all.

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It's actually not gonna just be the prerecorded session.

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I'm gonna teach the hope session live, okay?

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And I actually might teach the divorce

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and remarriage session live.

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For those of you that you're divorced

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or you might marry someone who's divorced,

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even if you're not divorced,

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and you're thinking about remarriage,

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what does the Bible say about that?

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And what does God really think about divorce?

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And what does he think about remarriage?

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I break it down right from scripture.

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I take you all the way back in Bible history

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of what Jesus was talking about

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when he was talking to the Pharisees that day

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when they asked him about divorce.

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A lot of people misunderstand those scriptures

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because they do not understand the rabbi theology

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from back in the day.

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You have to remember, you know, Jesus was a Jew

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and he was speaking to Jews,

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scholars, rabbis, Pharisees, the men of the law.

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And so he was talking from a place of law

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and you have to understand the law

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if you're gonna understand what Jesus was saying

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to the lawyers, okay?

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And so it's important that we understand those things.

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And those are bonus sessions

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and you're not gonna unlock those Lydia

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until you get to the section that they live in.

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They all live, they live,

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the bonus sessions live throughout the curriculum

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and we've placed them

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where we think it would benefit you most to watch it.

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But this month, I'm gonna show up live

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for some of those bonus sessions.

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You're gonna see that on your calendar.

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So that's the other thing.

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You have a calendar in your portal

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and it will also be in your Facebook group phase one.

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Remember, there are people in your Facebook group

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that are all different phases of phase one

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because they've come in at different times than you.

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You all are coming in together.

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00:23:13.940 --> 00:23:15.820
You're starting at the beginning with each other.

504
00:23:15.820 --> 00:23:17.300
So you're kind of a little sister squad.

505
00:23:17.300 --> 00:23:18.620
This is your bridal party.

506
00:23:19.540 --> 00:23:20.380
These are the ladies

507
00:23:20.380 --> 00:23:21.900
that you're probably gonna become the closest to

508
00:23:21.900 --> 00:23:24.540
until you get into the main community in phase three

509
00:23:24.540 --> 00:23:26.740
and then you'll probably start meeting a lot of people.

510
00:23:26.740 --> 00:23:29.700
We do have single cities available to y'all.

511
00:23:29.700 --> 00:23:33.420
We do have prayer available.

512
00:23:33.420 --> 00:23:35.780
Guys, every day of the week, there's prayer at 10 a.m.

513
00:23:35.780 --> 00:23:37.700
including Saturdays, Eastern.

514
00:23:37.700 --> 00:23:40.020
Saturdays and Sundays,

515
00:23:40.020 --> 00:23:42.180
Sundays to Sunday night, they go together.

516
00:23:42.180 --> 00:23:44.660
Supernatural Saturday is taught by me Saturday morning.

517
00:23:44.660 --> 00:23:47.500
Sunday night activation is where you show up

518
00:23:47.500 --> 00:23:51.060
and you activate with our activation coach, Sarah.

519
00:23:51.060 --> 00:23:52.980
What you learned on Supernatural Saturday.

520
00:23:52.980 --> 00:23:54.660
You guys, those are powerful times

521
00:23:54.660 --> 00:23:56.500
for your relationship with God.

522
00:23:56.500 --> 00:23:58.340
During this program, your relationship with God

523
00:23:58.340 --> 00:24:00.620
is going to grow by leaps and bounds.

524
00:24:00.620 --> 00:24:01.900
Your relationship with yourself

525
00:24:01.900 --> 00:24:03.460
is gonna grow by leaps and bounds

526
00:24:03.460 --> 00:24:06.940
and your relationship with others, including men,

527
00:24:06.940 --> 00:24:08.860
is gonna grow by leaps and bounds.

528
00:24:08.860 --> 00:24:11.260
Okay, so we have all kinds of materials

529
00:24:11.260 --> 00:24:12.820
for those components, okay?

530
00:24:15.100 --> 00:24:17.220
That's because they're not open to you yet.

531
00:24:18.980 --> 00:24:20.300
Those links are not open.

532
00:24:20.300 --> 00:24:21.540
We will release those.

533
00:24:21.540 --> 00:24:22.620
And what are those?

534
00:24:22.620 --> 00:24:27.060
Those are just links to people that live in your area

535
00:24:27.060 --> 00:24:30.540
or live somewhere around you that are in our membership

536
00:24:30.540 --> 00:24:33.540
that you might be able to meet in person

537
00:24:33.540 --> 00:24:35.460
or get together in person.

538
00:24:35.460 --> 00:24:37.540
There are far more women in those groups than men

539
00:24:37.540 --> 00:24:39.860
because we created them for women.

540
00:24:39.860 --> 00:24:42.020
Women are like, hey, we wanna meet the women

541
00:24:42.020 --> 00:24:43.660
in the program that live near us.

542
00:24:43.660 --> 00:24:46.580
And so we created the single cities for y'all, okay?

543
00:24:46.580 --> 00:24:48.660
We do have co-ed events and stuff that happen

544
00:24:48.700 --> 00:24:51.900
in those cities because all those cities have moderators.

545
00:24:51.900 --> 00:24:53.820
All those cities have facilitators that live

546
00:24:53.820 --> 00:24:55.660
in those cities that create events

547
00:24:55.660 --> 00:24:58.500
and invite people to local events and do things.

548
00:24:58.500 --> 00:25:00.700
And then this summer, y'all, we're going on.

549
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:05.040
tour of the single cities and we're going to have some great singles retreats and events and

550
00:25:05.040 --> 00:25:09.440
conferences and stuff starting in March actually starting in February. I'm going to be in single

551
00:25:09.440 --> 00:25:13.440
city New York. I'm going to be up at Life Center New York City doing some stuff and we're going to

552
00:25:13.440 --> 00:25:18.800
have a singles event up there and you guys will find out all about that where in your phase one

553
00:25:18.800 --> 00:25:22.800
Facebook group. We will make announcements in there. You'll receive emails if necessary.

554
00:25:23.680 --> 00:25:28.560
Okay the featured tab on that Facebook group is really important. The guide section in that

555
00:25:28.560 --> 00:25:33.360
Facebook group is really important. If you go in there you'll see any kind of welcome stuff we want

556
00:25:33.360 --> 00:25:41.040
for you and then your portal that log in your account over at that JackieDorman.com is where

557
00:25:41.040 --> 00:25:45.680
there's going to be replays and schedules and different things as well. So you see that some

558
00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:50.320
things are in more than one place just in case you missed it. There's there's things that are

559
00:25:50.320 --> 00:25:56.480
more than one place calendars in your Facebook group also in your portal. All right we're

560
00:25:56.480 --> 00:26:01.600
communicating with you guys all the time. Anything that we tag in your Facebook at the top of the page

561
00:26:01.600 --> 00:26:06.400
and that featured section of that Facebook group is important. Remember it might not always be for

562
00:26:06.400 --> 00:26:10.960
you. It might be for someone who's further along like if you see a post that says hey

563
00:26:10.960 --> 00:26:14.080
it's time for you to switch to phase two. Is that talking to you?

564
00:26:16.320 --> 00:26:21.120
It's not talking to you because you just joined right? So let's have a little bit of common sense.

565
00:26:21.120 --> 00:26:25.520
If it doesn't make sense that it would be about you because you didn't get to that thing yet

566
00:26:25.520 --> 00:26:31.520
then understand that it's not about you. All right and we'll try to be as clear as we can.

567
00:26:31.520 --> 00:26:35.360
We don't want to have any misunderstandings. All right so you guys are starting. You have access

568
00:26:35.360 --> 00:26:41.760
already to the uh the welcome video. You have access to the beginning of your materials in the

569
00:26:41.760 --> 00:26:48.720
heart work and it's important that you go ahead and you start that because next Monday y'all have

570
00:26:48.720 --> 00:26:53.680
a heart check-in at one or eight. Once again doesn't matter which one you go to but the eight

571
00:26:53.680 --> 00:26:58.160
one is going to be recorded for those of you that can't come. What happens at heart check-ins? You

572
00:26:58.160 --> 00:27:04.000
dig in deeper into the tools, into the materials. You're able to you know talk about someplace that

573
00:27:04.000 --> 00:27:11.520
you're stuck. Every week on Mondays you will see a roll call post in your Facebook group that just

574
00:27:11.520 --> 00:27:17.200
says where are you? What are you working on? What's going on? And all of you need to post in that post.

575
00:27:18.960 --> 00:27:22.880
Tell the coaches where you are. What are you working on? Where are you in the heart work?

576
00:27:22.880 --> 00:27:28.080
Are you in week two, week three, week four? Are you stuck in the forgiveness place? Are you stuck here

577
00:27:28.080 --> 00:27:32.640
or there? What's going on? What's coming up? What are your victories? What are your wins for the week?

578
00:27:34.160 --> 00:27:39.760
Your breakthrough creates breakthrough for other people. So the more that you show up and share

579
00:27:39.760 --> 00:27:45.120
some of you what you're going to get free from in phase one is invisibility because you're not

580
00:27:45.120 --> 00:27:52.800
invisible but you are hiding. You don't trust women. You don't trust women. I'm going to say

581
00:27:52.800 --> 00:27:59.440
it three times. You don't trust women. Guys in my history of doing this I think we've only had one

582
00:28:00.640 --> 00:28:08.000
one group two women you know one little issue between two of the women in our group

583
00:28:08.960 --> 00:28:13.840
ever because you're going to have a camaraderie that's supernatural here. You can trust each

584
00:28:13.840 --> 00:28:16.480
other. You guys are a private group. What happens here stays here.

585
00:28:20.160 --> 00:28:28.800
Right? It's cool. It's good. You can share and by the time that you get to week three

586
00:28:28.800 --> 00:28:31.040
you will be sharing because it's your confession week.

587
00:28:33.760 --> 00:28:39.360
And so you will be sharing by then. All right so we're gonna we're gonna dig in to all the things.

588
00:28:39.360 --> 00:28:45.200
So do your do your homework. Make sure that you're not mailing in those questions at the

589
00:28:45.200 --> 00:28:50.800
end of each chapter of your reading. Those questions are supernatural. They're designed to

590
00:28:50.800 --> 00:28:56.640
prime the pump of healing in your heart and get things to come out that wouldn't normally come out.

591
00:28:58.400 --> 00:29:06.560
All right? Remember pain is your friend. Pain is your friend. Pain is is what shows us that

592
00:29:06.560 --> 00:29:12.400
something's out of alignment and it's really going to help you in order to get free is for

593
00:29:12.400 --> 00:29:19.840
you to feel and heal that pain. Around here we say we feel the feels in order to heal the feels.

594
00:29:21.040 --> 00:29:27.680
Right? That is something God told me many years ago and now I see that floating around the internet

595
00:29:27.680 --> 00:29:32.960
all the time. I was like I came up with that phrase and now it's viral y'all. Holy Spirit

596
00:29:32.960 --> 00:29:40.080
always rhymes for me. Always. We feel the feels to heal the feels. Okay now I'm gonna tell you

597
00:29:40.080 --> 00:29:45.200
real quick a few things that you might experience during phase one. You might experience one of

598
00:29:45.200 --> 00:29:48.720
these. You might experience all of these. You might experience none of these. But you might

599
00:29:48.720 --> 00:29:54.480
experience something different that's similar to this. I just tell you this so that when it happens

600
00:29:54.480 --> 00:29:59.440
you don't think it's crazy. You don't think that you've done lost your ever-loving mind. Okay?

601
00:30:00.640 --> 00:30:02.600
You might experience, once again,

602
00:30:02.600 --> 00:30:04.280
we feel the feels to heal the feels.

603
00:30:04.280 --> 00:30:09.280
You might experience feelings that you haven't had before,

604
00:30:09.480 --> 00:30:13.000
because you've been numb in that part of your heart.

605
00:30:13.000 --> 00:30:14.960
You might start feeling some kind of way

606
00:30:15.820 --> 00:30:17.280
that you haven't felt before.

607
00:30:18.640 --> 00:30:21.160
You might start feeling something

608
00:30:21.160 --> 00:30:22.920
about something that happened a long time ago

609
00:30:22.920 --> 00:30:24.520
that you thought you were over.

610
00:30:26.520 --> 00:30:27.620
Guys, I thought that.

611
00:30:28.620 --> 00:30:30.820
My grandfather molested me from the time

612
00:30:30.820 --> 00:30:33.700
that I was two or three years old to the time I was 10.

613
00:30:33.700 --> 00:30:35.540
And as an adult, that was like,

614
00:30:35.540 --> 00:30:37.300
it's almost like it happened to somebody else,

615
00:30:37.300 --> 00:30:40.920
but not in a good way, like in a repressed way.

616
00:30:40.920 --> 00:30:44.180
And so if it ever did come up for some reason,

617
00:30:44.180 --> 00:30:47.300
I would say to myself, whatever,

618
00:30:47.300 --> 00:30:49.820
that's when I was a little kid, I'm over that.

619
00:30:49.820 --> 00:30:51.840
Let's all just laugh at that, right?

620
00:30:51.840 --> 00:30:55.100
I'm just over that, just over it.

621
00:30:55.100 --> 00:30:58.700
It was affecting every single moment of my life,

622
00:30:58.700 --> 00:31:00.440
the way that I interacted with everyone,

623
00:31:00.440 --> 00:31:02.060
the way that I believed about everyone,

624
00:31:02.060 --> 00:31:03.460
including God, everything.

625
00:31:03.460 --> 00:31:05.420
I mean, it was affecting everything.

626
00:31:05.420 --> 00:31:07.960
Guys, time does not heal wounds.

627
00:31:09.940 --> 00:31:12.340
It doesn't, but heart work does.

628
00:31:12.340 --> 00:31:13.940
All right, so you might start feeling stuff.

629
00:31:13.940 --> 00:31:16.420
You might feel a lot more negative than normal.

630
00:31:16.420 --> 00:31:18.300
If you're like a really upbeat personality like me,

631
00:31:18.300 --> 00:31:19.420
you might feel a little weepy,

632
00:31:19.420 --> 00:31:21.260
like almost like chronic PMS.

633
00:31:21.260 --> 00:31:25.060
Irritable, you might feel more angry than normal,

634
00:31:25.900 --> 00:31:27.460
because anger is hurt and fear is bodyguard.

635
00:31:27.460 --> 00:31:29.680
And so if you got some hurt, you got some fear,

636
00:31:29.680 --> 00:31:33.220
you got some deep rooted stuff that starts surfacing,

637
00:31:33.220 --> 00:31:35.020
remember you're not alone.

638
00:31:35.020 --> 00:31:36.940
This is surfacing in a controlled environment

639
00:31:36.940 --> 00:31:40.260
where you're safe, you have coaches, you have sisters.

640
00:31:40.260 --> 00:31:42.100
The people in your life outside of here

641
00:31:42.100 --> 00:31:43.780
may not understand what's going on with you.

642
00:31:43.780 --> 00:31:46.180
They're like, man, you're in a bad mood, okay?

643
00:31:46.180 --> 00:31:47.860
But that's okay, because you can show up in group

644
00:31:47.860 --> 00:31:51.460
and say, hey, ladies, I'm struggling today.

645
00:31:51.460 --> 00:31:53.420
This is what's coming up in my heart.

646
00:31:53.420 --> 00:31:54.500
And we want you to do that.

647
00:31:54.940 --> 00:31:55.860
And we especially want you to do that

648
00:31:55.860 --> 00:31:58.100
on that roll call post every Monday,

649
00:31:58.100 --> 00:32:00.380
because that is what we're gonna coach you on,

650
00:32:00.380 --> 00:32:01.980
on the calls, okay?

651
00:32:03.540 --> 00:32:05.340
So you might start feeling afraid, threatened,

652
00:32:05.340 --> 00:32:07.540
you might start feeling more vulnerable, okay?

653
00:32:07.540 --> 00:32:09.540
That fight or flight or fawn response

654
00:32:09.540 --> 00:32:10.980
might start coming out more.

655
00:32:10.980 --> 00:32:12.620
You might even have a little bit of anxiety,

656
00:32:12.620 --> 00:32:15.720
might feel a little bit of what you used to call depression.

657
00:32:15.720 --> 00:32:17.220
You guys, all that stuff is,

658
00:32:17.220 --> 00:32:19.100
is just trauma trapped in the body.

659
00:32:20.940 --> 00:32:23.780
And it's gotta come out in order to get healed.

660
00:32:23.780 --> 00:32:26.340
The roots of it, not the fruits of it, right?

661
00:32:28.660 --> 00:32:30.540
You might experience some drama in your life.

662
00:32:30.540 --> 00:32:33.180
You guys, if you don't believe in the opposing forces,

663
00:32:33.180 --> 00:32:34.280
they believe in you.

664
00:32:35.260 --> 00:32:37.600
And we don't put a lot of emphasis on the enemy here.

665
00:32:37.600 --> 00:32:40.140
So if you're one of those devil chasing women,

666
00:32:41.100 --> 00:32:43.660
we're gonna teach you that greater is he that is in you

667
00:32:43.660 --> 00:32:45.380
than he that is in the world, okay?

668
00:32:45.380 --> 00:32:47.480
The enemy is defeated, he's under your feet.

669
00:32:47.480 --> 00:32:50.340
But that being said,

670
00:32:50.340 --> 00:32:52.820
definitely doesn't want you to be fully free.

671
00:32:52.860 --> 00:32:57.220
And so if you do start experiencing some pushback,

672
00:32:57.220 --> 00:32:59.820
all right, little drama breaking out in your life,

673
00:32:59.820 --> 00:33:02.860
other people that have not surrendered their hearts to God,

674
00:33:02.860 --> 00:33:05.340
maybe start acting a little crazy,

675
00:33:05.340 --> 00:33:07.980
trying to derail you and distract you

676
00:33:07.980 --> 00:33:09.860
and detour you from what you're doing,

677
00:33:09.860 --> 00:33:11.180
don't give into that.

678
00:33:11.180 --> 00:33:13.460
Don't give into distractions and detours and delays.

679
00:33:13.460 --> 00:33:15.740
And you guys, do the math.

680
00:33:15.740 --> 00:33:17.500
If that starts happening all of a sudden

681
00:33:17.500 --> 00:33:18.660
while you're trying to do this,

682
00:33:18.660 --> 00:33:20.100
what do you think's going on?

683
00:33:23.820 --> 00:33:26.540
It's trying to shipwreck you, right?

684
00:33:27.780 --> 00:33:29.280
You're not gonna let it happen.

685
00:33:29.280 --> 00:33:30.540
You're not gonna answer your phone

686
00:33:30.540 --> 00:33:32.140
at three o'clock in the morning.

687
00:33:34.260 --> 00:33:37.140
For the person that just wants to complain to you

688
00:33:37.140 --> 00:33:40.660
and get your advice and yet never take your advice.

689
00:33:41.740 --> 00:33:44.160
You don't have time for that right now anymore.

690
00:33:46.140 --> 00:33:46.980
You don't.

691
00:33:46.980 --> 00:33:49.380
Some of you may even have to not answer the phone

692
00:33:49.380 --> 00:33:52.380
for your grown children that can't get their lives right.

693
00:33:53.620 --> 00:33:55.620
You're gonna have to let them go to God.

694
00:33:57.740 --> 00:34:00.100
Because here's something that you need to know.

695
00:34:00.100 --> 00:34:02.540
This is a heartwork bonus for this group

696
00:34:02.540 --> 00:34:04.140
because I feel Holy Spirit saying it.

697
00:34:04.140 --> 00:34:05.780
Because you're the thing

698
00:34:05.780 --> 00:34:07.940
that is in the way of their breakthrough.

699
00:34:07.940 --> 00:34:08.780
It's you.

700
00:34:10.420 --> 00:34:12.219
You gotta let them go ahead and hit bottom.

701
00:34:12.219 --> 00:34:14.460
You gotta let them go ahead and reach to the source

702
00:34:14.460 --> 00:34:16.460
because it's not you, all right?

703
00:34:16.460 --> 00:34:18.980
So all hell breaking loose, distraction.

704
00:34:18.980 --> 00:34:20.900
Here's some good things that's gonna happen.

705
00:34:21.060 --> 00:34:23.060
Night dreaming and day dreaming.

706
00:34:23.060 --> 00:34:24.540
If you've not been a dreamer

707
00:34:24.540 --> 00:34:26.620
and you haven't remembered dreams,

708
00:34:26.620 --> 00:34:27.460
I want you to go ahead

709
00:34:27.460 --> 00:34:29.620
and put a little dream journal by your bed

710
00:34:29.620 --> 00:34:33.820
in anticipation of thoughts that you might have,

711
00:34:33.820 --> 00:34:35.739
little tidbits of things you might remember

712
00:34:35.739 --> 00:34:36.860
when you wake up,

713
00:34:36.860 --> 00:34:38.780
full-blown dreams that you might remember

714
00:34:38.780 --> 00:34:40.780
when you wake up during the day as well.

715
00:34:40.780 --> 00:34:42.300
Carry that little journal around with you

716
00:34:42.300 --> 00:34:43.699
because things might stick out to you.

717
00:34:43.699 --> 00:34:45.219
You might start seeing patterns.

718
00:34:45.219 --> 00:34:46.820
Like, God, are you talking about me?

719
00:34:46.820 --> 00:34:47.659
I'm not talking about you.

720
00:34:47.659 --> 00:34:48.500
I'm talking about you.

721
00:34:48.500 --> 00:34:49.340
I'm talking about you.

722
00:34:49.380 --> 00:34:50.219
You might start seeing patterns.

723
00:34:50.219 --> 00:34:51.420
Like, God, are you talking to me?

724
00:34:51.420 --> 00:34:52.739
Yes, he is.

725
00:34:52.739 --> 00:34:54.060
He's talking to you.

726
00:34:54.060 --> 00:34:58.260
And if you need help figuring out what he's saying

727
00:34:58.260 --> 00:35:00.220
by those numbers that you keep seeing.

728
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.080
over and over again on license plates and clocks

729
00:35:02.080 --> 00:35:05.160
and on the receipts of the groceries that you bought,

730
00:35:06.040 --> 00:35:09.080
will help you with that, okay?

731
00:35:09.080 --> 00:35:11.720
If you start seeing the same type of bird

732
00:35:11.720 --> 00:35:13.960
over and over again or just anything,

733
00:35:13.960 --> 00:35:17.540
pay attention to all patterns, all patterns of things.

734
00:35:17.540 --> 00:35:20.540
If you start experiencing what people call deja vu,

735
00:35:21.480 --> 00:35:24.720
I want you to, in the moment, take inventory.

736
00:35:24.720 --> 00:35:25.560
Where am I?

737
00:35:25.560 --> 00:35:26.380
Who am I talking to?

738
00:35:26.380 --> 00:35:28.400
What are we talking about?

739
00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:31.160
You know, it's not just about having a deja vu moment.

740
00:35:31.160 --> 00:35:32.400
For those of you that don't know what that is,

741
00:35:32.400 --> 00:35:35.440
it's like, you feel like you've been here before.

742
00:35:35.440 --> 00:35:37.400
It's like almost like a little out of body experience,

743
00:35:37.400 --> 00:35:40.760
surreal, where you're like, wait a minute,

744
00:35:40.760 --> 00:35:41.920
this seems so familiar.

745
00:35:41.920 --> 00:35:44.040
It's like, I've done this and said this before.

746
00:35:44.040 --> 00:35:46.160
Pay attention in those moments

747
00:35:46.160 --> 00:35:50.580
and write down where you are and who else is involved.

748
00:35:51.760 --> 00:35:52.960
Are you, where are you?

749
00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:53.800
What are you doing?

750
00:35:53.800 --> 00:35:55.920
What are you saying that you feel like you've said before

751
00:35:55.920 --> 00:35:57.640
and you feel like you said it to this person?

752
00:35:57.680 --> 00:35:58.680
Pay attention to those.

753
00:35:58.680 --> 00:36:00.880
Those are clues, but I will tell you,

754
00:36:00.880 --> 00:36:04.320
deja vu as a whole happens a lot more

755
00:36:04.320 --> 00:36:06.520
because you're coming into convergence.

756
00:36:06.520 --> 00:36:07.960
You're starting to step into the story

757
00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:09.160
that God wrote about you.

758
00:36:09.160 --> 00:36:10.800
It has to do with healing things

759
00:36:10.800 --> 00:36:11.800
that have happened in the past.

760
00:36:11.800 --> 00:36:13.080
There's a whole lot that happens.

761
00:36:13.080 --> 00:36:15.240
Deja vu is not just a random occurrence, friends.

762
00:36:15.240 --> 00:36:18.540
It means something and will help you figure out

763
00:36:18.540 --> 00:36:19.840
what those things mean.

764
00:36:19.840 --> 00:36:20.720
Heightened senses.

765
00:36:20.720 --> 00:36:23.120
For those of you that did have babies and you were pregnant,

766
00:36:23.120 --> 00:36:25.200
you know that your senses get really heightened

767
00:36:25.200 --> 00:36:26.360
during that time, right?

768
00:36:26.360 --> 00:36:28.040
Especially the sense of smell.

769
00:36:28.040 --> 00:36:29.580
Right now, during this healing time,

770
00:36:29.580 --> 00:36:31.760
you might feel like you're noticing things

771
00:36:31.760 --> 00:36:33.280
way more than ever.

772
00:36:33.280 --> 00:36:34.360
Your senses.

773
00:36:34.360 --> 00:36:36.720
You're smelling things, hearing things, seeing things.

774
00:36:36.720 --> 00:36:37.640
Write that stuff down.

775
00:36:37.640 --> 00:36:39.440
Pay attention to that stuff.

776
00:36:39.440 --> 00:36:41.200
Because before you've been looking through

777
00:36:41.200 --> 00:36:42.640
a dirty pair of glasses

778
00:36:42.640 --> 00:36:45.200
and now your glasses are getting cleaned

779
00:36:45.200 --> 00:36:47.560
and you're starting to see things

780
00:36:47.560 --> 00:36:49.220
more clear than you ever have before.

781
00:36:49.220 --> 00:36:52.140
Vibrant, more colorful, more detail.

782
00:36:52.140 --> 00:36:54.720
Personality and lifestyle changes.

783
00:36:54.720 --> 00:36:56.320
This is something else we need to watch for.

784
00:36:57.160 --> 00:36:58.000
Especially during phase one.

785
00:36:58.000 --> 00:37:00.200
You're going to start coming alive.

786
00:37:00.200 --> 00:37:02.920
The real you is going to start coming to the surface.

787
00:37:02.920 --> 00:37:04.720
The counterfeit is going to start moving out of the way.

788
00:37:04.720 --> 00:37:07.960
That means that some things that you've been doing, okay?

789
00:37:07.960 --> 00:37:09.840
Some things that you liked and didn't like,

790
00:37:09.840 --> 00:37:12.400
and maybe even the way you wear hair and your clothes

791
00:37:12.400 --> 00:37:16.340
and a lot of things may start becoming dissatisfied.

792
00:37:16.340 --> 00:37:18.720
You might be becoming dissatisfied

793
00:37:18.720 --> 00:37:20.960
with a lot of things and want change.

794
00:37:20.960 --> 00:37:24.360
Do not make any huge life changes during phase one.

795
00:37:25.200 --> 00:37:26.720
You might want to quit your job,

796
00:37:26.720 --> 00:37:28.760
be like, take this job and shove it.

797
00:37:28.760 --> 00:37:30.840
You might really want to do that during phase one

798
00:37:30.840 --> 00:37:33.440
because you realize this job is not worthy

799
00:37:33.440 --> 00:37:35.080
of my one and only life.

800
00:37:35.080 --> 00:37:35.920
That's great.

801
00:37:35.920 --> 00:37:37.240
Don't do it during phase one

802
00:37:37.240 --> 00:37:38.800
because your little pendulum is going to swing

803
00:37:38.800 --> 00:37:40.520
all the way over here.

804
00:37:40.520 --> 00:37:41.960
And then it's going to swing over here

805
00:37:41.960 --> 00:37:44.200
and we want it to come back to the middle

806
00:37:44.200 --> 00:37:48.040
and we want to make wise decisions, okay?

807
00:37:48.040 --> 00:37:49.840
We don't just want to go off half-cocked.

808
00:37:49.840 --> 00:37:53.920
And so it's important that we wait

809
00:37:53.920 --> 00:37:56.000
till the end of heart work.

810
00:37:56.000 --> 00:37:57.880
When I first did my heart work,

811
00:37:57.880 --> 00:38:00.560
I dyed my hair purple and I pierced my nose,

812
00:38:00.560 --> 00:38:01.560
like immediately.

813
00:38:02.920 --> 00:38:04.280
Now, you guys notice I don't have

814
00:38:04.280 --> 00:38:05.320
either of those things now.

815
00:38:05.320 --> 00:38:06.160
What was happening?

816
00:38:06.160 --> 00:38:08.320
I had a knee-jerk reaction to freedom.

817
00:38:08.320 --> 00:38:10.160
You know, I was around all these religious people

818
00:38:10.160 --> 00:38:11.720
that were keeping me in this tiny little box

819
00:38:11.720 --> 00:38:14.080
and I was like, I broke out of the box

820
00:38:14.080 --> 00:38:16.040
and I cut my hair off and I dyed it purple

821
00:38:16.040 --> 00:38:17.360
and I pierced my nose.

822
00:38:17.360 --> 00:38:19.640
Thank God I didn't get that tattoo on my face.

823
00:38:20.640 --> 00:38:23.160
Just kidding, I was not going to do that.

824
00:38:23.160 --> 00:38:24.000
I wasn't.

825
00:38:25.400 --> 00:38:29.720
But I definitely did have a major pendulum swing.

826
00:38:29.720 --> 00:38:30.560
That's okay.

827
00:38:30.560 --> 00:38:31.400
It's good.

828
00:38:31.400 --> 00:38:32.240
We want that.

829
00:38:32.240 --> 00:38:36.120
Just don't do anything permanent or really anything.

830
00:38:36.120 --> 00:38:37.880
Don't do anything like quitting your job

831
00:38:37.880 --> 00:38:39.320
and packing your stuff and moving

832
00:38:39.320 --> 00:38:41.200
or, you know, don't do any of that.

833
00:38:42.120 --> 00:38:43.120
Now, that being said,

834
00:38:43.120 --> 00:38:44.800
if you're already in the middle of a move,

835
00:38:44.800 --> 00:38:46.720
if you're already in the middle of, you know,

836
00:38:46.720 --> 00:38:48.760
looking for a new job or switching jobs,

837
00:38:48.760 --> 00:38:51.360
you were already doing that before you came here,

838
00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:52.200
carry on.

839
00:38:53.640 --> 00:38:55.200
I believe that you'll have a lot more clarity

840
00:38:55.200 --> 00:38:56.680
in this process.

841
00:38:56.680 --> 00:38:58.080
So thank goodness you're here.

842
00:38:58.080 --> 00:38:59.040
We're not going to stop you.

843
00:38:59.040 --> 00:39:00.760
We're not going to tell you to stop that process,

844
00:39:00.760 --> 00:39:02.880
but don't start any processes

845
00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:05.960
until you're out of this first five weeks, okay?

846
00:39:05.960 --> 00:39:06.800
Exciting.

847
00:39:09.720 --> 00:39:10.920
It's so exciting.

848
00:39:10.920 --> 00:39:11.760
All right.

849
00:39:11.760 --> 00:39:13.440
So those are the things that I want to tell you.

850
00:39:13.440 --> 00:39:15.080
I think I went over the logistics

851
00:39:15.080 --> 00:39:16.040
of the two different groups.

852
00:39:16.320 --> 00:39:18.160
You have your portal, JackieDorman.com.

853
00:39:18.160 --> 00:39:20.320
Then you also have the Facebook page.

854
00:39:20.320 --> 00:39:21.160
All right.

855
00:39:21.160 --> 00:39:22.000
You know, guys, really soon,

856
00:39:22.000 --> 00:39:24.560
everything is going to be on an app, everything.

857
00:39:24.560 --> 00:39:25.400
And guess what?

858
00:39:25.400 --> 00:39:27.120
You're going to be the first group of people

859
00:39:27.120 --> 00:39:29.440
that's going to probably be able to beta

860
00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:33.200
a dating portion of that app here in phase three.

861
00:39:34.320 --> 00:39:36.400
It might be done by the time y'all get to phase three.

862
00:39:36.400 --> 00:39:38.840
And if it's not, it'll be done very soon after that

863
00:39:38.840 --> 00:39:39.720
is what we're hoping,

864
00:39:39.720 --> 00:39:42.920
because we've been dreaming about this for a while now.

865
00:39:42.960 --> 00:39:46.280
And we're finally putting those dreams into action.

866
00:39:46.280 --> 00:39:49.400
And I want to help you put your dreams into action as well.

867
00:39:49.400 --> 00:39:50.840
And not just the man dream.

868
00:39:50.840 --> 00:39:51.840
There's a lot of other dreams

869
00:39:51.840 --> 00:39:53.920
that God's going to start bringing to the surface.

870
00:39:53.920 --> 00:39:55.160
Oh, that brings me to one more thing.

871
00:39:55.160 --> 00:39:57.360
Do not dig during the heart work.

872
00:39:57.360 --> 00:39:58.320
Don't dig around.

873
00:39:58.320 --> 00:40:00.120
Let Holy Spirit reveal in here.

874
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.680
I know that a lot of you are mentally aware of trauma that you have and you might just try to focus on that trauma

875
00:40:08.240 --> 00:40:10.240
Don't do that God knows

876
00:40:11.080 --> 00:40:13.080
what needs healed and

877
00:40:14.080 --> 00:40:15.860
Revealed and healed more than you do

878
00:40:15.860 --> 00:40:22.800
And so during this process just do the materials as they're laid out and let Holy Spirit bring up to your mind

879
00:40:23.160 --> 00:40:27.800
The things that need to be brought from the unconscious to the conscious from the hidden to the scene

880
00:40:28.280 --> 00:40:30.280
Don't get out of shovel and start digging

881
00:40:30.400 --> 00:40:35.680
Because you might miss some really important parts of healing that you have never thought of you

882
00:40:35.680 --> 00:40:40.640
Didn't know that that traumatized you the way that it did you did you don't know that lies were rooted in that situation

883
00:40:40.800 --> 00:40:42.800
Because it wasn't a level 10 situation

884
00:40:44.160 --> 00:40:49.480
Okay, so really important that you let that revealing for healing do its own thing and take its own course

885
00:40:50.280 --> 00:40:52.120
All right

886
00:40:52.120 --> 00:40:54.120
All right

887
00:40:54.240 --> 00:40:56.240
Okay, I'll take questions now

888
00:40:58.800 --> 00:41:00.080
You

889
00:41:00.080 --> 00:41:03.080
Got 15 minutes here to take questions. So who's got questions?

890
00:41:03.840 --> 00:41:07.240
Let's see. I'm gonna open the chat to see if you guys are saying those in there

891
00:41:11.400 --> 00:41:18.040
The the the dating portion of our program is not going to be like any app that you've ever seen before when it's completed

892
00:41:18.040 --> 00:41:20.880
It's gonna be more of it like a community-based matchmaking app

893
00:41:20.960 --> 00:41:28.520
Okay, like a community of people like think about the people that use uber the people that use Airbnb is a better example

894
00:41:28.520 --> 00:41:30.400
I only stay at Airbnbs

895
00:41:30.400 --> 00:41:35.080
I don't stay at hotels unless I'm forced to and Airbnb is a community of people

896
00:41:35.080 --> 00:41:37.600
They're the people that have their properties on there

897
00:41:37.600 --> 00:41:42.320
but they're also the people that use Airbnb and a lot of times the people that have their properties on there are also people that

898
00:41:42.320 --> 00:41:47.480
Use Airbnb and so it's like a community of people with the same kind of focus in mind

899
00:41:47.920 --> 00:41:53.360
Right and they review each other and they help make each other better and all kinds of different things, you know

900
00:41:53.360 --> 00:41:59.960
I believe in community-based matchmaking and so it's gonna be a very different type of dating app kind of experience

901
00:41:59.960 --> 00:42:03.240
And you've ever had before is what we're working on. And so to answer your question

902
00:42:03.960 --> 00:42:07.360
The men that are involved in that community

903
00:42:07.680 --> 00:42:14.080
That's a dating community for us just like now because we do already have you know, a co-ed part of our community

904
00:42:14.280 --> 00:42:16.600
They will be men that are working on themselves. Yes

905
00:42:17.560 --> 00:42:21.760
Men, they're doing heart work guys. My men's group has the same curriculum as y'all do

906
00:42:28.880 --> 00:42:33.400
Someone said I keep being pregnant my dream that I can't have any more children. Well, you know

907
00:42:34.440 --> 00:42:39.080
Spiritual pregnancy. I mean pregnancy and dreams can mean a lot of things what it means

908
00:42:39.600 --> 00:42:46.200
Basically in a nutshell is that you're gestating something. There's something that is incubating inside of you that it's going to be birthed

909
00:42:48.480 --> 00:42:50.480
I

910
00:42:51.000 --> 00:42:53.000
'm not gonna answer any more questions about

911
00:42:53.600 --> 00:42:56.080
I'm not gonna answer any more questions about that the

912
00:42:56.960 --> 00:42:58.160
future

913
00:42:58.160 --> 00:43:01.160
community based matchmaking portion of our group I

914
00:43:01.880 --> 00:43:05.680
Want to stay a focused on the heart work and this is where I want you to stay focused ladies

915
00:43:06.080 --> 00:43:11.440
So I know y'all want to meet someone and you're excited to have opportunities to meet someone and you know

916
00:43:11.440 --> 00:43:14.760
But we need to focus on ourselves right now for these first five weeks

917
00:43:14.760 --> 00:43:19.020
So who has any questions about anything logistical anything about the heart work?

918
00:43:19.720 --> 00:43:21.280
anything about

919
00:43:21.280 --> 00:43:23.280
What this orientation is about?

920
00:43:25.440 --> 00:43:31.160
Yes, you should shut down your dating apps go ahead and pause them don't go on any pre-planned dates I wouldn't I

921
00:43:32.040 --> 00:43:35.600
Definitely would go ahead and get the horse before the cart so to speak, right?

922
00:43:36.280 --> 00:43:38.280
that's what you're here to do and

923
00:43:38.720 --> 00:43:43.560
Just just do a hypothetical with me. You have a pre-planned date with someone. Okay?

924
00:43:44.080 --> 00:43:46.640
He might not be Prince charming he might be Prince alarming

925
00:43:46.640 --> 00:43:50.840
you don't know you don't know him yet and you go ahead and you go on that date and

926
00:43:51.800 --> 00:43:55.240
even though you're supposed to be focused on this and then what if

927
00:43:56.480 --> 00:43:58.320
You have a really great time with him

928
00:43:58.320 --> 00:44:03.320
and then you end up like going down the rabbit hole with him for three months until he ends up being a

929
00:44:03.480 --> 00:44:07.360
Narcissist and then your whole class has graduated without you

930
00:44:08.640 --> 00:44:10.360
right

931
00:44:10.360 --> 00:44:15.920
Because here's the thing five weeks from now if he's your spirit mate, he'll still be willing to go on a date

932
00:44:16.440 --> 00:44:19.000
So go ahead and tell him. Hey, I got to put pause on this

933
00:44:19.000 --> 00:44:22.800
I'm actually and remember you only want to marry believers. So go ahead and be truthful with him

934
00:44:22.800 --> 00:44:23.800
I'm in an inner

935
00:44:23.800 --> 00:44:29.280
I'm going into like an inner healing fast right now of dating and I'll be done with this portion of it in five weeks and

936
00:44:29.280 --> 00:44:31.640
if you're interested in going out in five weeks, then

937
00:44:32.560 --> 00:44:34.560
I'll see you then

938
00:44:34.560 --> 00:44:37.780
Guys, I've actually had I had a guy client of mine to that

939
00:44:38.060 --> 00:44:43.780
He met this girl that he was really interested in right before he started his heart work and he was so excited about her

940
00:44:43.780 --> 00:44:47.220
She even lived in the city that he wanted to move to and he was just like, yeah

941
00:44:48.140 --> 00:44:52.500
And I was like and so he showed up to me his name's Caleb and he said what do I do?

942
00:44:52.500 --> 00:44:56.340
And I was like you tell her that you you've already made a commitment to this

943
00:44:56.340 --> 00:44:59.980
I said if she if she's a good woman, then she'll like a man

944
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.000
that's made a commitment, someone who's being honest,

945
00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:03.880
someone who wants to work on himself.

946
00:45:03.880 --> 00:45:05.040
Because you have some people are like,

947
00:45:05.040 --> 00:45:06.400
oh, it's not you, it's me,

948
00:45:06.400 --> 00:45:07.720
and I got to go work on myself.

949
00:45:07.720 --> 00:45:09.680
It's not like that, okay?

950
00:45:09.680 --> 00:45:10.520
And so he just told her,

951
00:45:10.520 --> 00:45:13.640
hey, I just joined this program for the first five weeks.

952
00:45:13.640 --> 00:45:15.760
I'm not allowed to date because I need to focus on this.

953
00:45:15.760 --> 00:45:16.980
You know, not allowed to,

954
00:45:16.980 --> 00:45:19.880
but it is recommended that I don't.

955
00:45:19.880 --> 00:45:22.900
And she said, okay, cool, yeah, thumbs up, right?

956
00:45:22.900 --> 00:45:24.440
So he did his heart work.

957
00:45:24.440 --> 00:45:26.240
And can I tell you at the end of his heart work,

958
00:45:26.240 --> 00:45:27.960
he went on a family ski trip

959
00:45:28.040 --> 00:45:30.080
and he met a girl on that ski trip

960
00:45:30.080 --> 00:45:31.960
that was from where he lived currently.

961
00:45:31.960 --> 00:45:33.160
He lives in Florida.

962
00:45:33.160 --> 00:45:35.000
He was skiing in the mountains

963
00:45:35.000 --> 00:45:37.320
and this girl that lives right down the road from him

964
00:45:37.320 --> 00:45:41.800
in Florida that someone tried to set him up with

965
00:45:41.800 --> 00:45:45.080
a year previously and he said, nah, I'm not interested.

966
00:45:45.080 --> 00:45:46.780
He met her on the mountain.

967
00:45:49.180 --> 00:45:50.280
She's like, you look familiar.

968
00:45:50.280 --> 00:45:52.840
And he's like, oh, hey, aren't you so-and-so's friend?

969
00:45:52.840 --> 00:45:54.140
She's like, yeah.

970
00:45:54.140 --> 00:45:56.100
They didn't mention the whole thing about, you know,

971
00:45:56.100 --> 00:45:57.200
someone tried to set us up,

972
00:45:57.200 --> 00:45:58.760
but you didn't want to go out with me.

973
00:45:58.760 --> 00:46:01.660
And they started talking and now y'all are getting married.

974
00:46:02.880 --> 00:46:04.320
It's a good thing that he didn't waste his time

975
00:46:04.320 --> 00:46:05.680
with Colorado girl,

976
00:46:05.680 --> 00:46:06.940
because if he would have wasted his time

977
00:46:06.940 --> 00:46:09.400
with Colorado girl, he wouldn't have done his heart work.

978
00:46:09.400 --> 00:46:13.360
And he has massive relationship anxiety.

979
00:46:13.360 --> 00:46:16.320
He would have never gotten to where he is.

980
00:46:16.320 --> 00:46:18.180
So you guys trust the process.

981
00:46:18.180 --> 00:46:19.880
Trust that God has brought you here

982
00:46:22.400 --> 00:46:24.120
in order to do what you need to do

983
00:46:24.120 --> 00:46:27.400
in the order that you need to do it, right?

984
00:46:30.840 --> 00:46:31.680
Okay.

985
00:46:33.640 --> 00:46:36.560
You guys, I have so many supernatural stories.

986
00:46:36.560 --> 00:46:38.640
God has a supernatural story for you too.

987
00:46:38.640 --> 00:46:39.840
And that's one of the things that you're going to learn

988
00:46:39.840 --> 00:46:40.680
in this heart work.

989
00:46:40.680 --> 00:46:42.440
A lot of you have been trying to make so many things

990
00:46:42.440 --> 00:46:44.080
in your life happen, not just your romance,

991
00:46:44.080 --> 00:46:45.920
but all kinds of stuff.

992
00:46:45.920 --> 00:46:49.200
God can do in a moment what you could never do

993
00:46:49.200 --> 00:46:50.760
in a lifetime of hard work.

994
00:46:51.760 --> 00:46:55.700
But God can do it in a moment of heart work if you let him.

995
00:46:56.600 --> 00:46:59.080
That's what I learned throughout my life.

996
00:46:59.080 --> 00:46:59.920
And here we are.

997
00:47:01.200 --> 00:47:02.040
Right?

998
00:47:02.040 --> 00:47:02.860
All right.

999
00:47:02.860 --> 00:47:03.700
Is there any more questions?

1000
00:47:03.700 --> 00:47:05.940
So many beautiful women in our groups, man.

1001
00:47:07.000 --> 00:47:08.760
And if anything else, coming into these groups,

1002
00:47:08.760 --> 00:47:09.760
you're like, whoa,

1003
00:47:09.760 --> 00:47:12.400
look at all these beautiful women with me.

1004
00:47:12.400 --> 00:47:13.480
I don't feel so alone.

1005
00:47:13.480 --> 00:47:14.320
They're single.

1006
00:47:14.320 --> 00:47:15.140
I'm single.

1007
00:47:15.140 --> 00:47:15.980
We're all single.

1008
00:47:15.980 --> 00:47:16.960
And you guys, the reason is,

1009
00:47:16.960 --> 00:47:21.600
is because there has been a warfare

1010
00:47:21.600 --> 00:47:25.640
on God's children over the earth, keeping them single.

1011
00:47:25.640 --> 00:47:29.520
And this is part of how we break through that.

1012
00:47:29.520 --> 00:47:31.040
A lot of you just think you're single because,

1013
00:47:31.040 --> 00:47:33.320
oh, I just wasn't in the right place at the right time

1014
00:47:33.320 --> 00:47:34.360
and blah, blah, blah, blah.

1015
00:47:34.360 --> 00:47:36.040
No, that's not what happened.

1016
00:47:36.040 --> 00:47:39.000
There's absolute warfare against marriage and family.

1017
00:47:39.000 --> 00:47:40.640
And we're on the front lines of that.

1018
00:47:40.640 --> 00:47:43.040
And we are seeing massive breakthrough in that.

1019
00:47:47.840 --> 00:47:49.080
What else we got?

1020
00:47:49.080 --> 00:47:50.480
No one has any questions?

1021
00:47:50.480 --> 00:47:52.120
I know y'all are going to show up in our emails

1022
00:47:52.120 --> 00:47:54.200
with all kinds of questions.

1023
00:47:54.200 --> 00:47:55.380
Ask them now.

1024
00:47:56.520 --> 00:47:57.360
Okay.

1025
00:47:57.360 --> 00:47:59.160
I'm at the let's process this page.

1026
00:47:59.160 --> 00:48:02.800
Do I keep going or wait for next week?

1027
00:48:02.800 --> 00:48:04.360
Y'all, you just jumped right in.

1028
00:48:04.360 --> 00:48:05.760
I mean, that's up to you.

1029
00:48:05.760 --> 00:48:09.100
I mean, it's not going to hurt you to go over week one again

1030
00:48:09.100 --> 00:48:11.040
and kind of really digested,

1031
00:48:11.040 --> 00:48:12.960
especially with all this information.

1032
00:48:12.960 --> 00:48:17.960
So you tell yourself,

1033
00:48:21.080 --> 00:48:23.520
I will tell you that if you get to week three

1034
00:48:23.520 --> 00:48:25.600
and you haven't had a lot of aha moments,

1035
00:48:25.600 --> 00:48:27.220
you haven't had a lot of breakthrough

1036
00:48:27.220 --> 00:48:29.000
where God's speaking to you and things are happening,

1037
00:48:29.000 --> 00:48:31.440
we usually tell you to go back to week one

1038
00:48:31.440 --> 00:48:32.760
because you're rushing through it.

1039
00:48:32.760 --> 00:48:33.600
You're just trying to get it done.

1040
00:48:33.600 --> 00:48:35.360
You guys, it's not a race.

1041
00:48:35.360 --> 00:48:37.740
Taking time to really pray through those questions,

1042
00:48:37.740 --> 00:48:40.480
to really let God speak those answers to your heart.

1043
00:48:40.480 --> 00:48:41.800
If you don't know how to hear from God,

1044
00:48:41.960 --> 00:48:42.920
He talks to you.

1045
00:48:42.920 --> 00:48:45.520
It sounds a whole lot like you inside,

1046
00:48:45.520 --> 00:48:48.080
your inside voice, right?

1047
00:48:48.080 --> 00:48:50.200
And when you start asking yourself questions,

1048
00:48:50.200 --> 00:48:52.640
answers will start coming to the surface.

1049
00:48:52.640 --> 00:48:55.600
And you know that you're not having a conversation

1050
00:48:55.600 --> 00:48:58.480
with yourself necessarily, right?

1051
00:48:58.480 --> 00:48:59.560
You'll start thinking of things

1052
00:48:59.560 --> 00:49:00.820
that you never thought of before.

1053
00:49:00.820 --> 00:49:03.260
You're just like, oh, well, that's gotta be God

1054
00:49:03.260 --> 00:49:04.840
because I would have never thought that.

1055
00:49:04.840 --> 00:49:06.280
I don't even think like that.

1056
00:49:07.280 --> 00:49:09.800
Another thing is, is that we would love for you

1057
00:49:09.800 --> 00:49:11.360
to remove yourself from the challenge page

1058
00:49:11.360 --> 00:49:13.240
if you've already been accepted

1059
00:49:13.240 --> 00:49:15.160
into the phase one Facebook page.

1060
00:49:15.160 --> 00:49:17.400
Please be accepted into that page first

1061
00:49:17.400 --> 00:49:18.600
so we know where you're coming from

1062
00:49:18.600 --> 00:49:20.600
because it tells us you're coming from the challenge page

1063
00:49:20.600 --> 00:49:23.800
and that helps us to get you in quicker

1064
00:49:23.800 --> 00:49:25.800
and then go back to the challenge page

1065
00:49:25.800 --> 00:49:27.840
and just remove yourself from it.

1066
00:49:27.840 --> 00:49:28.680
Why?

1067
00:49:28.680 --> 00:49:31.240
Because you probably will start posting

1068
00:49:31.240 --> 00:49:33.640
in the challenge page thinking that it's your phase one page

1069
00:49:33.640 --> 00:49:34.840
posting in the challenge page

1070
00:49:34.840 --> 00:49:36.920
thinking that it's your phase one page.

1071
00:49:36.920 --> 00:49:38.000
People get really confused.

1072
00:49:38.000 --> 00:49:39.400
They look really similar.

1073
00:49:39.400 --> 00:49:42.160
So move over.

1074
00:49:42.160 --> 00:49:43.960
Move over, bacon.

1075
00:49:43.960 --> 00:49:45.000
Now there's something meatier.

1076
00:49:45.000 --> 00:49:46.520
Anyone remember that commercial?

1077
00:49:46.520 --> 00:49:49.240
I have no idea why that came into my mind.

1078
00:49:49.240 --> 00:49:50.800
The lean.

1079
00:49:50.800 --> 00:49:52.720
Yes, thank you.

1080
00:49:52.720 --> 00:49:57.160
You guys, tomorrow is my birthday and I will be 49 years old

1081
00:49:57.160 --> 00:49:59.320
the last year of my forties.

1082
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.600
You guys are gonna step into an early Jubilee with me

1083
00:50:03.600 --> 00:50:07.220
because I believe that this year is gonna be crazy

1084
00:50:07.220 --> 00:50:08.200
in a good way.

1085
00:50:08.200 --> 00:50:10.000
A lot of you have had crazy in a bad way.

1086
00:50:10.000 --> 00:50:12.720
Let's get ready for crazy in a good way.

1087
00:50:14.680 --> 00:50:15.600
Right?

1088
00:50:15.600 --> 00:50:16.440
Yes.

1089
00:50:16.440 --> 00:50:17.280
Okay.

1090
00:50:17.280 --> 00:50:18.100
Thank you so much.

1091
00:50:18.100 --> 00:50:20.320
Thank you for all the happy birthdays.

1092
00:50:20.320 --> 00:50:21.160
All right.

1093
00:50:24.440 --> 00:50:26.520
Renee, is there anything that I've missed

1094
00:50:26.520 --> 00:50:28.200
that you think needs to be addressed?

1095
00:50:28.240 --> 00:50:31.080
Somebody asked about one-on-one coaching,

1096
00:50:31.080 --> 00:50:32.280
whether it's necessary.

1097
00:50:32.280 --> 00:50:34.440
How do you know when it's necessary?

1098
00:50:34.440 --> 00:50:35.280
Okay.

1099
00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:39.300
If you guys are showing up on those roll call check-ins

1100
00:50:39.300 --> 00:50:41.640
and you're putting like kind of where you are,

1101
00:50:41.640 --> 00:50:43.960
those coaching calls every week

1102
00:50:43.960 --> 00:50:46.200
are gonna address those subjects.

1103
00:50:46.200 --> 00:50:49.400
So if after you get out of phase one

1104
00:50:49.400 --> 00:50:51.400
and you still feel like there's some things

1105
00:50:51.400 --> 00:50:53.200
that you really are undealt with

1106
00:50:53.200 --> 00:50:55.060
that you really still want to really talk

1107
00:50:55.060 --> 00:50:56.360
to someone one-on-one with

1108
00:50:56.360 --> 00:50:57.920
after you've done the heartworm stuff

1109
00:50:58.640 --> 00:51:00.400
and you've participated in the coaching and stuff,

1110
00:51:00.400 --> 00:51:04.640
we do have a la carte one-on-one coaching.

1111
00:51:04.640 --> 00:51:07.000
It's not included in your $37 a month.

1112
00:51:07.000 --> 00:51:08.240
So you do pay extra.

1113
00:51:08.240 --> 00:51:11.240
It's a lot cheaper than even like one counseling session

1114
00:51:11.240 --> 00:51:12.080
with a counselor.

1115
00:51:12.080 --> 00:51:13.720
Remember, it's not a counselor, it's not a therapist.

1116
00:51:13.720 --> 00:51:16.480
It's a heartworm coach and it's our master coach.

1117
00:51:16.480 --> 00:51:19.240
And or, you know, if you would do dating coaching

1118
00:51:19.240 --> 00:51:21.280
or anything like that, we have one-on-ones available

1119
00:51:21.280 --> 00:51:22.740
in those categories as well.

1120
00:51:22.740 --> 00:51:25.140
As you go further, it was just a situation

1121
00:51:25.140 --> 00:51:26.680
where you just really need to talk it out

1122
00:51:26.680 --> 00:51:28.340
with someone one-on-one.

1123
00:51:29.400 --> 00:51:31.680
We do have that available, okay?

1124
00:51:31.680 --> 00:51:35.240
Most people are able to work through the stuff

1125
00:51:35.240 --> 00:51:37.920
into this phase because once again,

1126
00:51:37.920 --> 00:51:40.800
we have all these things available to you.

1127
00:51:40.800 --> 00:51:42.800
There's peer coaches in your group with you.

1128
00:51:42.800 --> 00:51:44.040
You'll start noticing who they are

1129
00:51:44.040 --> 00:51:46.300
because they'll be giving feedback a lot

1130
00:51:46.300 --> 00:51:49.240
on everyone's posts and different things.

1131
00:51:49.240 --> 00:51:51.960
You'll meet Bethany who's your master heartworm coach

1132
00:51:51.960 --> 00:51:53.240
for your first phase.

1133
00:51:53.240 --> 00:51:56.280
She'll be doing a lot of those heart check-ins on Mondays.

1134
00:51:56.920 --> 00:51:58.640
I will be doing some of them as well.

1135
00:51:58.640 --> 00:52:01.600
And you're just gonna get a lot of breakthrough.

1136
00:52:01.600 --> 00:52:04.040
So if you end up needing more breakthrough

1137
00:52:04.040 --> 00:52:06.380
in a specific area or something that you really

1138
00:52:06.380 --> 00:52:09.280
just want a private one-on-one about,

1139
00:52:09.280 --> 00:52:11.080
then yes, we do have that available.

1140
00:52:16.840 --> 00:52:19.000
Remember ladies, this is not our first rodeo.

1141
00:52:19.000 --> 00:52:21.540
We know what the majority of the people need

1142
00:52:21.540 --> 00:52:22.380
and we go there.

1143
00:52:22.380 --> 00:52:24.020
We go there with our heart check-ins.

1144
00:52:24.020 --> 00:52:26.200
We go there with all the curriculum

1145
00:52:27.040 --> 00:52:29.240
because we know what a majority of people are going to need

1146
00:52:29.240 --> 00:52:30.700
in order to get freedom here.

1147
00:52:34.080 --> 00:52:35.440
Corey, Corey, Corey.

1148
00:52:44.440 --> 00:52:47.240
Corey, I see what you're saying about what you mean,

1149
00:52:47.240 --> 00:52:49.400
but I didn't see your original question.

1150
00:52:49.400 --> 00:52:52.000
So, oh, do we join tonight's live?

1151
00:52:52.000 --> 00:52:54.600
You can join tonight's.

1152
00:52:54.600 --> 00:52:56.800
I wouldn't go to the heart check-ins yet, ladies,

1153
00:52:56.800 --> 00:52:59.160
especially for those of you that haven't done anything.

1154
00:52:59.160 --> 00:53:00.080
Now, the woman that said,

1155
00:53:00.080 --> 00:53:02.280
hey, I'm already done with week one.

1156
00:53:02.280 --> 00:53:03.160
If you wanna join,

1157
00:53:03.160 --> 00:53:06.480
if you wanna jump into the heart check-in this evening

1158
00:53:06.480 --> 00:53:09.160
at 7 p.m. Central, 8 p.m. Eastern,

1159
00:53:09.160 --> 00:53:11.920
I guess you can if you feel like you don't need to stay

1160
00:53:11.920 --> 00:53:15.060
with your group and you wanna just rush ahead and do that.

1161
00:53:15.060 --> 00:53:16.480
We're not gonna stop you from doing that

1162
00:53:16.480 --> 00:53:18.440
because there is a heart check-in tonight.

1163
00:53:18.440 --> 00:53:21.880
The orientation tonight, that's gonna be recorded

1164
00:53:21.880 --> 00:53:24.080
and then people can watch it that couldn't come

1165
00:53:24.560 --> 00:53:26.000
to either of the times today.

1166
00:53:26.000 --> 00:53:27.760
For all of you that are just starting,

1167
00:53:27.760 --> 00:53:30.160
it's gonna be very similar to this.

1168
00:53:30.160 --> 00:53:31.160
It's gonna be me again.

1169
00:53:31.160 --> 00:53:32.520
It's gonna be very similar to this.

1170
00:53:32.520 --> 00:53:36.920
So, it's up to you whether or not you wanna double dip

1171
00:53:36.920 --> 00:53:38.360
and watch that again.

1172
00:53:38.360 --> 00:53:40.800
But if you do decide to come back and watch the orientation

1173
00:53:40.800 --> 00:53:41.920
because you wanted to hear what I said

1174
00:53:41.920 --> 00:53:43.560
about something specific,

1175
00:53:43.560 --> 00:53:45.840
the one tonight is going to be the one

1176
00:53:45.840 --> 00:53:49.000
that lives in replay, not this one.

1177
00:53:49.000 --> 00:53:51.120
All right, hopefully that's very clear.

1178
00:53:54.160 --> 00:53:56.120
All right, so our phase one group is a culmination

1179
00:53:56.120 --> 00:53:57.960
of several different groups, all phase one,

1180
00:53:57.960 --> 00:53:59.840
but typically within first five weeks.

1181
00:53:59.840 --> 00:54:03.840
Yes, as soon as someone graduates, great question, see?

1182
00:54:03.840 --> 00:54:05.080
Thank you for asking questions

1183
00:54:05.080 --> 00:54:07.560
because it helps us to answer things

1184
00:54:07.560 --> 00:54:09.920
that people are gonna have questions about later.

1185
00:54:09.920 --> 00:54:12.160
After you get to the end of your phase one,

1186
00:54:12.160 --> 00:54:13.960
say the lady that just said she's already at,

1187
00:54:13.960 --> 00:54:15.320
let's process this.

1188
00:54:15.320 --> 00:54:17.320
Say she goes ahead and she goes to heart check-in

1189
00:54:17.320 --> 00:54:18.160
because she's like, I'm good.

1190
00:54:18.160 --> 00:54:22.120
I feel like I did good in week one and I'm good.

1191
00:54:22.120 --> 00:54:23.800
And so, she's a week ahead of y'all

1192
00:54:24.560 --> 00:54:25.400
that are starting right now,

1193
00:54:25.400 --> 00:54:26.240
even though she started with you.

1194
00:54:26.240 --> 00:54:29.600
That means she's gonna get to the fifth week sooner,

1195
00:54:29.600 --> 00:54:32.240
but the curriculum is based on her progress,

1196
00:54:32.240 --> 00:54:34.040
not on your group's progress,

1197
00:54:34.040 --> 00:54:36.480
meaning that when she gets to the end,

1198
00:54:36.480 --> 00:54:38.840
it's gonna automatically generate her an email,

1199
00:54:38.840 --> 00:54:41.360
provided y'all gave us permission to send you emails.

1200
00:54:41.360 --> 00:54:45.640
Some of you didn't, so make sure you're getting the emails.

1201
00:54:45.640 --> 00:54:46.880
And if you're not getting emails,

1202
00:54:46.880 --> 00:54:48.200
now you shouldn't have gotten any emails.

1203
00:54:48.200 --> 00:54:49.920
We're not sending you anything today,

1204
00:54:49.920 --> 00:54:51.800
but you should have got an email that told you

1205
00:54:51.800 --> 00:54:53.280
how to join your Facebook group.

1206
00:54:53.720 --> 00:54:54.560
As long as you got those emails,

1207
00:54:54.560 --> 00:54:56.360
then you're on our email list, okay?

1208
00:54:56.360 --> 00:54:57.200
So don't worry about it.

1209
00:54:57.200 --> 00:54:58.920
If you've gotten emails from us,

1210
00:54:58.920 --> 00:55:00.160
especially the email on.

1211
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.100
how to join your Facebook group,

1212
00:55:02.100 --> 00:55:04.780
then you're getting emails from us, okay?

1213
00:55:04.780 --> 00:55:06.780
But she'll get an email when she unlocks

1214
00:55:06.780 --> 00:55:09.540
that last material in phase one

1215
00:55:09.540 --> 00:55:11.760
that invites her to join phase two.

1216
00:55:11.760 --> 00:55:16.760
And once again, it gives her the link for the other group.

1217
00:55:17.440 --> 00:55:19.260
And then she joins that group.

1218
00:55:19.260 --> 00:55:21.720
And then after she joins that group,

1219
00:55:21.720 --> 00:55:25.020
she removes herself from your Facebook group

1220
00:55:25.020 --> 00:55:27.860
that all of you are in phase one.

1221
00:55:27.860 --> 00:55:29.540
So to answer that lady's question,

1222
00:55:29.580 --> 00:55:33.300
yes, there is a mixed bag of people

1223
00:55:33.300 --> 00:55:35.120
at different weeks of phase one

1224
00:55:35.120 --> 00:55:40.060
in your Facebook group together, okay?

1225
00:55:40.060 --> 00:55:43.300
But everyone graduates at different times,

1226
00:55:43.300 --> 00:55:45.840
depending on when they started and when they finished.

1227
00:55:45.840 --> 00:55:47.860
If you're one of those people that you're about to,

1228
00:55:47.860 --> 00:55:50.160
you joined because you didn't want to not join

1229
00:55:50.160 --> 00:55:51.720
because you felt God pulling your heart

1230
00:55:51.720 --> 00:55:53.080
to join this program,

1231
00:55:53.080 --> 00:55:54.520
but you're about to go on vacation

1232
00:55:54.520 --> 00:55:55.600
for two weeks on a cruise.

1233
00:55:55.600 --> 00:55:57.240
I noticed a lot of people are on cruises right now.

1234
00:55:57.240 --> 00:55:58.080
Did you guys notice that?

1235
00:55:58.300 --> 00:56:00.860
A lot of people are like in Cabo, they're on cruises,

1236
00:56:00.860 --> 00:56:02.860
and you're not gonna be able to do this.

1237
00:56:02.860 --> 00:56:04.820
So you're gonna be two weeks behind this group,

1238
00:56:04.820 --> 00:56:07.660
but when you come back, it's still gonna be waiting for you.

1239
00:56:09.460 --> 00:56:10.380
Say something else happens.

1240
00:56:10.380 --> 00:56:11.540
Say you have a scheduled surgery,

1241
00:56:11.540 --> 00:56:12.860
you have a knee surgery or something,

1242
00:56:12.860 --> 00:56:14.540
and you know that you're not gonna be able to do this

1243
00:56:14.540 --> 00:56:15.780
during that time.

1244
00:56:15.780 --> 00:56:16.900
You're not gonna get behind.

1245
00:56:16.900 --> 00:56:21.340
You're just gonna be right on time for yourself, right?

1246
00:56:21.340 --> 00:56:22.180
Okay.

1247
00:56:23.540 --> 00:56:24.380
You can stay in phase one.

1248
00:56:24.380 --> 00:56:25.700
And listen, maybe you get to the end

1249
00:56:25.700 --> 00:56:27.500
and you're like, I need to do it again.

1250
00:56:27.520 --> 00:56:28.640
I don't wanna go to phase two yet.

1251
00:56:28.640 --> 00:56:30.560
I'm not ready to hear about relationships and dating.

1252
00:56:30.560 --> 00:56:32.680
I'm not ready to have my love story accelerated.

1253
00:56:32.680 --> 00:56:34.120
I wanna work on some more stuff in here.

1254
00:56:34.120 --> 00:56:35.520
You can stay.

1255
00:56:35.520 --> 00:56:37.580
You can stay in phase one if you need to.

1256
00:56:39.280 --> 00:56:43.240
Now, we're gonna get you to a place

1257
00:56:43.240 --> 00:56:44.520
where you're confident to move on

1258
00:56:44.520 --> 00:56:46.800
because we want you to move on, right?

1259
00:56:47.840 --> 00:56:50.880
But we're not gonna make you move on before you feel ready.

1260
00:56:58.480 --> 00:57:00.920
No, Corey, that's not right.

1261
00:57:00.920 --> 00:57:05.040
You do graduate based on the work that you do in the portal

1262
00:57:05.040 --> 00:57:08.600
because you can't get to the next piece of work

1263
00:57:08.600 --> 00:57:11.960
in the portal until you do the one before it, okay?

1264
00:57:11.960 --> 00:57:14.400
It does not open for you

1265
00:57:14.400 --> 00:57:18.280
until you complete the thing before it, okay?

1266
00:57:18.280 --> 00:57:20.880
So when you go to your portal, ladies, take a look at it.

1267
00:57:20.880 --> 00:57:23.120
Too bad, I'll share my screen tonight, maybe.

1268
00:57:24.760 --> 00:57:25.600
You start.

1269
00:57:25.600 --> 00:57:26.420
Here's the welcome video.

1270
00:57:26.440 --> 00:57:27.560
You watch the video.

1271
00:57:27.560 --> 00:57:29.320
When you're done watching the entire video,

1272
00:57:29.320 --> 00:57:33.520
the next thing unlocks, the next portion unlocks,

1273
00:57:33.520 --> 00:57:34.360
then the next portion unlocks,

1274
00:57:34.360 --> 00:57:36.160
then the next portion unlocks.

1275
00:57:36.160 --> 00:57:37.640
There's a little homework guide

1276
00:57:37.640 --> 00:57:39.160
that tells you what to do in week one,

1277
00:57:39.160 --> 00:57:42.280
what pages to read in the book, what worksheet to do.

1278
00:57:42.280 --> 00:57:44.920
All the things that happen are there.

1279
00:57:44.920 --> 00:57:48.500
You also get emails sometimes, maybe not in week one,

1280
00:57:48.500 --> 00:57:49.880
but in week two, you might get emails

1281
00:57:49.880 --> 00:57:51.360
when you unlock things that say,

1282
00:57:51.360 --> 00:57:54.680
hey, good job, you just completed such and such a thing.

1283
00:57:54.680 --> 00:57:55.520
What did you learn?

1284
00:57:55.980 --> 00:57:58.940
Show up in group, tell us about it, that kind of stuff.

1285
00:57:58.940 --> 00:58:01.700
So it's not based on just five weeks in a time

1286
00:58:01.700 --> 00:58:04.660
where, oh, I bought my stuff on the 20,

1287
00:58:04.660 --> 00:58:07.660
I bought my stuff on the 13th.

1288
00:58:07.660 --> 00:58:09.420
So five weeks from the 13th,

1289
00:58:09.420 --> 00:58:11.620
I automatically are in phase two.

1290
00:58:11.620 --> 00:58:14.500
No, you got to get there by doing the work.

1291
00:58:14.500 --> 00:58:16.220
And you guys, we can tell whether you did the work or not.

1292
00:58:16.220 --> 00:58:18.020
So if you just go through and just boom, unlock,

1293
00:58:18.020 --> 00:58:20.100
boom, unlock, boom, unlock, and you're not watching it,

1294
00:58:20.100 --> 00:58:21.060
you're not doing it,

1295
00:58:21.060 --> 00:58:24.180
and you end up requesting phase two in like a week,

1296
00:58:25.040 --> 00:58:26.880
when we know what you did,

1297
00:58:26.880 --> 00:58:28.680
and we know you didn't do your hard work,

1298
00:58:28.680 --> 00:58:31.240
and we're not going to stop you from going into phase two,

1299
00:58:31.240 --> 00:58:33.720
but we're also not going to put you

1300
00:58:33.720 --> 00:58:35.480
on Jackie's matchmaking list,

1301
00:58:35.480 --> 00:58:38.080
because you ain't got a healthy heart.

1302
00:58:38.080 --> 00:58:39.920
And just so you know, I'm watching,

1303
00:58:39.920 --> 00:58:41.000
and I'm putting stuff on.

1304
00:58:41.000 --> 00:58:42.960
I'm not Santa Claus, all right?

1305
00:58:42.960 --> 00:58:45.520
But I do make internal matches all the time with people

1306
00:58:45.520 --> 00:58:47.520
based on who got highlights for me.

1307
00:58:47.520 --> 00:58:50.440
And if you are trying to fool me,

1308
00:58:50.440 --> 00:58:53.240
you probably might be able to, maybe,

1309
00:58:53.260 --> 00:58:54.340
but you can't fool God.

1310
00:58:54.340 --> 00:58:55.780
God knows if you're ready to meet someone,

1311
00:58:55.780 --> 00:58:56.900
so why are you trying to fool him?

1312
00:58:56.900 --> 00:58:57.900
You got to do hard work.

1313
00:58:57.900 --> 00:59:00.060
You got to do your hard work.

1314
00:59:01.340 --> 00:59:03.020
And you're like, why are you saying this so much, Jackie?

1315
00:59:03.020 --> 00:59:04.460
Because you would be amazed at how many people

1316
00:59:04.460 --> 00:59:05.660
actually try to do that.

1317
00:59:07.260 --> 00:59:10.780
This is not literally trying to like graduate high school

1318
00:59:10.780 --> 00:59:14.100
by looking at someone else's algebra test and cheating.

1319
00:59:14.100 --> 00:59:16.400
You can't cheat your own inner healing.

1320
00:59:18.160 --> 00:59:19.240
You get that, right?

1321
00:59:20.240 --> 00:59:22.460
Raise your little hand if you get it.

1322
00:59:22.480 --> 00:59:24.880
You cannot cheat your own inner healing.

1323
00:59:28.160 --> 00:59:29.000
You can't.

1324
00:59:33.160 --> 00:59:34.440
I just had a girl the other day come,

1325
00:59:34.440 --> 00:59:38.840
and she's like, well, why haven't you done?

1326
00:59:38.840 --> 00:59:40.920
I don't know, she just messaged me on Instagram

1327
00:59:40.920 --> 00:59:43.160
or something, and she's like, da, da, da, da, da.

1328
00:59:43.160 --> 00:59:45.380
And I went, and I was like, who is this girl?

1329
00:59:45.380 --> 00:59:46.880
And I went and looked at her portal.

1330
00:59:46.880 --> 00:59:49.280
She did 2% of phase one.

1331
00:59:50.260 --> 00:59:53.380
And she over here like, you know,

1332
00:59:55.100 --> 00:59:56.940
I saw some guy you were talking about,

1333
00:59:56.940 --> 00:59:59.260
you know, I want him, you know.

1334
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.200
Kim did talk to me and I went and saw she did 2% of her heart

1335
01:00:03.200 --> 01:00:12.480
work. I was like, Oh, no, girl. No. You guys, that is just a

1336
01:00:12.480 --> 01:00:14.920
one off that doesn't normally happen. Like with me, like

1337
01:00:14.920 --> 01:00:17.520
people like coming and talking to me and trying to get me to

1338
01:00:17.560 --> 01:00:23.360
whatever, but I just think it's a good example of please be

1339
01:00:23.360 --> 01:00:27.040
here for the right reasons. All right. It's not about just being

1340
01:00:27.040 --> 01:00:29.400
in the right place at the right time for a man. It's about being

1341
01:00:29.400 --> 01:00:31.920
the right place at the right time with the right heart.

1342
01:00:32.280 --> 01:00:37.120
Please, please. I'm lucky that I'm married. I really am. I'm

1343
01:00:37.120 --> 01:00:41.000
blessed. The reason why is because I did not have my heart

1344
01:00:41.000 --> 01:00:43.480
work done when I walked out of my front yard and yelled at my

1345
01:00:43.480 --> 01:00:47.880
husband. Obviously, I was living in a total fear response. And

1346
01:00:47.880 --> 01:00:53.520
the first two years of our marriage were bad. Y'all bad. I

1347
01:00:53.520 --> 01:00:55.440
don't tell that part of the story enough. And it's part of

1348
01:00:55.440 --> 01:00:58.320
the reason why I do what I do here because I definitely could

1349
01:00:58.320 --> 01:01:00.840
have ended up second time divorced and not because he

1350
01:01:00.840 --> 01:01:06.960
wasn't a good man, but because I had too much trauma. I could not

1351
01:01:06.960 --> 01:01:10.120
trust him. I could not let him in. He wanted to be let in.

1352
01:01:10.800 --> 01:01:14.080
Thank goodness that he didn't give up on me because I was a

1353
01:01:14.080 --> 01:01:19.440
hot mess express. I was seriously a complete dumpster

1354
01:01:19.440 --> 01:01:26.040
fire. I was triggered all the time. I always thought he was

1355
01:01:26.040 --> 01:01:29.440
doing something he wasn't. Guys, I'm just gonna be real

1356
01:01:29.440 --> 01:01:31.960
with you because someone needs to hear this for the first like

1357
01:01:32.200 --> 01:01:36.600
my I had a six year old daughter when we got married. Okay, and

1358
01:01:36.600 --> 01:01:40.200
now she's 23. And she's getting married and her daddy David,

1359
01:01:40.200 --> 01:01:43.480
which is my husband is her like, they're like peas in a pod.

1360
01:01:44.160 --> 01:01:49.320
They're like best friends. Okay. And he had two children to nine

1361
01:01:49.320 --> 01:01:53.720
and 11. But for the first like, maybe year of being married to

1362
01:01:53.720 --> 01:01:57.000
him, I wouldn't leave her in the same room with him alone.

1363
01:01:57.000 --> 01:01:59.840
And if she ended up in the same room with him, I come in, I'd

1364
01:01:59.840 --> 01:02:03.360
be real suspicious, like what's going on in here? Because I was

1365
01:02:03.360 --> 01:02:09.040
afraid he was gonna molest my daughter. Now you might ask, why

1366
01:02:09.040 --> 01:02:11.320
is that Jackie? Did he give you any signs that he was going to

1367
01:02:11.320 --> 01:02:15.360
be a molester? Did he you know, was he sexual? You know, with

1368
01:02:15.360 --> 01:02:19.080
her? Did he have weird sexual fetish? No, no to all the above.

1369
01:02:19.280 --> 01:02:24.800
I had trauma. Somewhere deep, deep in a heart box. I believed

1370
01:02:24.800 --> 01:02:30.480
that all men sexually abuse. Because that's all that I've

1371
01:02:30.480 --> 01:02:36.160
ever seen. They abuse porn, they abuse women, they abuse children,

1372
01:02:36.160 --> 01:02:40.240
they abuse somebody. I had to get through that I had to get

1373
01:02:40.240 --> 01:02:44.640
through that you guys. So that I wasn't keeping my daughter from

1374
01:02:44.640 --> 01:02:48.400
having an amazing relationship with a father, which she has

1375
01:02:48.400 --> 01:02:53.560
now. Because I did my heartwork. So you guys, I have done the

1376
01:02:53.560 --> 01:02:59.560
heartwork. And I have written it all out. And I'm going to help

1377
01:02:59.560 --> 01:03:03.840
you do it so that you don't sabotage your love story. Okay.

1378
01:03:05.200 --> 01:03:08.520
And it doesn't take you two years after meeting your spirit

1379
01:03:08.520 --> 01:03:13.560
mate to actually let them love you. And I'm gonna teach you the

1380
01:03:13.560 --> 01:03:16.000
difference between those two things, too. Because sometimes

1381
01:03:16.000 --> 01:03:18.560
people say, won't you just let somebody love you because there's

1382
01:03:18.560 --> 01:03:21.240
some man sitting there that's saying that he wants to make a

1383
01:03:21.240 --> 01:03:26.000
commitment to you, but he ain't good. And so you're like, you

1384
01:03:26.000 --> 01:03:28.800
hear people saying that you're just like, Okay, yeah, you're

1385
01:03:28.800 --> 01:03:34.200
right. And you start ignoring all the truly red flags in your

1386
01:03:34.200 --> 01:03:37.640
spirit. I'm going to teach you how to know which ones are real

1387
01:03:37.640 --> 01:03:41.480
and which ones are just connected to trauma. Because you

1388
01:03:41.480 --> 01:03:45.880
got to know the difference. I just had a woman call me

1389
01:03:45.880 --> 01:03:50.120
yesterday, who's going through a divorce. She was part of this

1390
01:03:50.120 --> 01:03:55.240
program. And she showed up four months into a relationship with

1391
01:03:55.240 --> 01:03:59.240
someone who lived long distance and said, Hey, you know, I want

1392
01:03:59.240 --> 01:04:01.200
you to bless this, we're going to get married. And I said, I'm

1393
01:04:01.200 --> 01:04:05.000
not going to bless it. And she said, I said, but you don't need

1394
01:04:05.000 --> 01:04:08.120
my blessing. I'm not uncontrollable, y'all. And I'm

1395
01:04:08.120 --> 01:04:11.600
not your pastor. But I will tell you this. She had shared

1396
01:04:11.600 --> 01:04:13.920
enough with me about the relationship that I knew that

1397
01:04:13.920 --> 01:04:22.440
this man was bad news bears. And guess what, I didn't see her for

1398
01:04:22.440 --> 01:04:26.320
two years. And she showed up, asked me for a phone call

1399
01:04:26.320 --> 01:04:29.200
yesterday. And we talked on the phone. And she said, I'm so

1400
01:04:29.200 --> 01:04:33.040
sorry. She said, Please forgive me. She's like, I feel so bad. I

1401
01:04:33.040 --> 01:04:35.960
feel so humbled right now. And I was like, tell me what happened.

1402
01:04:36.120 --> 01:04:41.240
She said, she knew in her nowhere, after doing hard work

1403
01:04:41.240 --> 01:04:43.920
and being in our program for like almost a year before

1404
01:04:43.920 --> 01:04:47.240
meeting this guy, that she shouldn't marry him. But some

1405
01:04:47.240 --> 01:04:53.480
counselor of hers said to her, why don't you just put down your

1406
01:04:53.480 --> 01:04:56.160
walls and let somebody love you and stop, you know, trying to

1407
01:04:56.160 --> 01:04:59.200
find something wrong with this man and just marry him. And so

1408
01:04:59.200 --> 01:05:00.000
she ignored

1409
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:06.760
the coaches in her life that God put in to self-defense to defend her that have

1410
01:05:06.760 --> 01:05:09.560
a grace in this area. Guys, you know how many people come to me that were in some

1411
01:05:09.560 --> 01:05:13.280
abusive marriage that said that their pastor signed off on it or someone? Guys,

1412
01:05:13.280 --> 01:05:18.680
those people are good people, but your primary doctor that you've had

1413
01:05:18.680 --> 01:05:23.400
since you're five years old, you don't go to for your gynecology situations or for

1414
01:05:23.400 --> 01:05:28.040
some specialist situations. Sometimes God sends specialists in certain areas of

1415
01:05:28.040 --> 01:05:32.960
your life that have more knowledge maybe in that area than someone you've known

1416
01:05:32.960 --> 01:05:36.120
all your life like your pastor or your Sunday school teacher from when you were

1417
01:05:36.120 --> 01:05:39.400
little. Those people are great. I'm sure they love you, but one thing that I have

1418
01:05:39.400 --> 01:05:42.680
really seen when it comes to matchmaking, and I'm really careful with this myself,

1419
01:05:42.680 --> 01:05:48.120
is that the people that you know the most, a lot of times the people that you

1420
01:05:48.120 --> 01:05:53.600
know the best, you actually are a really bad sounding board for their love lives

1421
01:05:53.600 --> 01:05:57.280
because you know their weaknesses. See, this counselor had been with her for a

1422
01:05:57.280 --> 01:06:01.400
long time and had known all of her suspicions and different things and so

1423
01:06:01.400 --> 01:06:08.520
the counselor got a blind spot too in the area and gave her bad advice. I have

1424
01:06:08.520 --> 01:06:12.240
a best friend who's single. Guess who doesn't give her advice on her love life?

1425
01:06:12.240 --> 01:06:18.320
Me, because I know her too well. So some of you guys have been showing up with

1426
01:06:18.320 --> 01:06:23.640
your besties and with some, you know, some spiritual mother or father in your life

1427
01:06:23.640 --> 01:06:26.680
and they've been giving you bad advice about your love life for many, many years

1428
01:06:26.680 --> 01:06:33.240
because they know you too well and they know your blind spots and your filters

1429
01:06:33.240 --> 01:06:39.480
and now they have them too because they always think that you're overdoing it or

1430
01:06:39.480 --> 01:06:42.480
you're picking someone bad because they've seen you pick bad people in the

1431
01:06:42.480 --> 01:06:46.360
past so no one's ever gonna be good enough for you or everyone's gonna be

1432
01:06:46.360 --> 01:06:49.000
good enough for you because you're the kind of person who's never been in a

1433
01:06:49.000 --> 01:06:52.760
relationship and they just think that secretly they think that you're just too

1434
01:06:52.760 --> 01:06:56.200
picky because, you know, you know you got all these walls up and stuff but they

1435
01:06:56.200 --> 01:07:02.040
don't know the truth because this is just not their lane. This is not their

1436
01:07:02.040 --> 01:07:07.000
lane to be driving in. And so you guys, this is a community where you will get

1437
01:07:07.000 --> 01:07:12.880
sound theology about your love life and you will get really, really good God

1438
01:07:12.880 --> 01:07:19.920
defend, God defended advice, okay? If you show up. Now if you run off and you

1439
01:07:19.920 --> 01:07:23.560
secretly get married in three weeks and you're like, whoa, it worked Jackie! I'm

1440
01:07:23.560 --> 01:07:32.640
like, okay. If you don't allow the input then we can't give it to you. We can't

1441
01:07:32.640 --> 01:07:38.880
give it to you, right? But I do believe that God has given us, the coaches here

1442
01:07:38.880 --> 01:07:43.760
including myself, he has given us the ability to see, you know, things for what

1443
01:07:43.760 --> 01:07:47.360
they are in this area of your life and we're gonna give you really good sound

1444
01:07:47.360 --> 01:07:51.600
advice if you let us, okay? And the good news for that lady is that she was able

1445
01:07:51.640 --> 01:07:54.400
to get out of that relationship very quickly even though it was a marriage.

1446
01:07:54.400 --> 01:07:57.520
She was able to get out very quickly before she got too abused. It sounded

1447
01:07:57.520 --> 01:08:00.760
like she went through a lot of crazy stuff before she was able to get out in

1448
01:08:00.760 --> 01:08:08.760
those few months. And you know what? God is full of grace. He's a good, good, good,

1449
01:08:08.760 --> 01:08:12.840
good, good, good daddy. All right? All right. So Father God, I thank you for your

1450
01:08:12.840 --> 01:08:15.680
daughters. I thank you for the special time in their lives that you have set

1451
01:08:15.680 --> 01:08:19.880
aside for their healing. God, I pray that you would allow them to feel the weight

1452
01:08:19.960 --> 01:08:24.600
of that. They feel the importance of that, Lord, that they would press in, that

1453
01:08:24.600 --> 01:08:27.600
you wouldn't allow anything to distract them or disrupt them from this time in

1454
01:08:27.600 --> 01:08:31.920
their life, that you are going to heal their heart, Lord, that you are going to

1455
01:08:31.920 --> 01:08:36.600
show them things about themselves, about you, about men, about marriage, about

1456
01:08:36.600 --> 01:08:41.600
family that they have never seen before so that they can be free, free to be

1457
01:08:41.600 --> 01:08:45.720
themselves, Lord, free to be the people that you've created them to be and live

1458
01:08:45.720 --> 01:08:49.279
out the beautiful stories that you've written about their lives. In Jesus name,

1459
01:08:49.319 --> 01:08:56.640
amen. All right. Okay, I'm excited to see y'all soon. Go ahead. Go forth into week

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01:08:56.640 --> 01:08:59.080
one. And we'll see y'all. Bye.