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All right, everyone. Welcome to our all community path session. If this is your first path session

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with us, this is where we go over all different types of things that we think are going to

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help you in this journey towards love. So your relationship with God, your relationship

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with yourself, your relationship with others. We have all different types of offerings that

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we do on these path sessions. There will be a time when there's three different choices

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of three different paths, but recently we've been just having all community path. And that

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is because we've been talking about things that we think are really important for everyone.

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So last month we talked about attachment styles and who loved that, who thought that was a

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great time, who learned something right. That is definitely going to activate your love

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story for sure. So many people are in their own way with the, um, the way that they communicate

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and attach to other people in relationship. So that's all super important. So before we

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start tonight, I was just talking to one of our guys just recently, and I know that it's

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very difficult to track people when we're on these zooms together, right? There's so

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many people. So go ahead and change your name, um, on your little zoom window to your name.

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All right. So don't let it say, you know, lilac forest, let it say your name there. Okay.

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Don't let it say, um, the name of your fur baby and that you're their mom. So like, you

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know, Walter's mom, let's go ahead and put our name on there and then where you're from

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as well. So put your first name, put where you're from guys. I have really great news.

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Me and the team, we went over with our developer. One of our developers, we have a dating app

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that's in development as well, but our actual last year, single app is so close to being

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done. We just had a walkthrough. Our team did a couple of days ago. We are so excited.

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You guys, you can't be as excited as we are. We are so excited for those of you that follow

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me on social media, like Instagram. Um, there was, there was a like live that I was supposed

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to do that got postponed. Um, I want to let you know something, anything that I announced

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to the public, you already know. Okay. So don't get like, Oh, where Jackie go? They

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were supposed to be alive with her on Instagram. If I'm announcing it publicly on Instagram

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or Facebook, if I'm going live on one of those platforms, you're already in the know.

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Okay. I'm not going to ever announce anything to the public that this community doesn't

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already have access to and already have first dibs on. Okay. Everything that we do, this

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community will have first dibs guys. I'm proud to announce to you that we have a whole new

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branch of last year, single, and it is called last trip single. It is our retreat vacation

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event branch of this business tree. And we are launching it with our very first, um,

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private retreat. You guys, you're going to get emails about all the different things

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that we have on the app. When it's finished, there's going to be a place that is just last

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trip single. So you can go in there and you can see what's going on. You can see what

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trips are going on on the calendar. You can, you know, hit a link, go to the trip, register

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for the trip. If you're going to go on the trip right now, the trips that we have in

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the pipeline is a higher ticket, like personal private retreat that includes a yacht trip

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to the Rosario islands in Columbia. There's only spots for 12 women. That's an all female

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trip. And that's going to be the first thing that comes out in your, um, in your emails,

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that trip is in may it's at the end of may, then we have a singles cruise and you guys,

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this is just a basic singles cruise. It cruises out of Galveston, Texas. It's just going to

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go to Mexico to cause ML. Um, it's going to be fun. It's going to be great. It's very

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low, low, low ticket, meaning you can make payments on it and you know, it's not going

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to be very expensive. And, um, that is going to be at the end of July. I'm, I want to tell

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you that I'm actually going to Paris next month to scout out a retreat for those of

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you that would want to go to Paris. I'm going to go there next month. I'm going to meet

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with some leaders there. We're going to come up with a conference and an event for all

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of you that are in Europe, get excited because we're going to have some European conferences

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and events for those of you that would want to travel from the States to Paris. We're

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going to try, you guys were working with a travel consortium. She's actually one of you.

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She's part of our tribe and we're working with her and we are going to put together

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some really amazing, amazing events, trips, retreats, conferences, also things just within

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the United States. We're going to have a little single city tour this year that we're putting

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together. Um, there's another cruise for those of you that want to pay a hundred dollars,

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a hundred dollars, a hundred dollars a month. So you can get to cruise with us in January

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of 2025, that cruise will come out of Florida and it will be a little bit longer, a seven

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day cruise. And it's going to go to a lot of different Eastern Caribbean, um, places.

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And that's going to be amazing, right? It's going to be so fun.

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So many things planned for you.

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Why are we doing that?

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Because so many people have said to me,

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I really have always wanted to travel,

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but I never thought I could

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because I didn't have anyone to go with

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and have anywhere to go.

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Too scared to travel on my own.

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Everyone I know is married and they don't want to go,

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or I just never was able to go because of finances.

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This way you can make payments on your trip

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before you actually get to your trip.

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And you can travel with trusted people

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where you know you're going to be safe

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and you can also have a really, really good time.

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All right, we'd love to hear your suggestions

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for places that we can travel to in 2024 and 25,

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but I just wanted to let you guys know

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we have so many crazy, amazing things coming.

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And just so you know,

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anything that is available to you

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will be at a discounted rate,

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which means when we finally open it up to the public,

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if the spots aren't filled for our vacations,

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our trips, our encounters, our retreats, our conferences,

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you get first dibs at a discounted rate.

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When we open it up to the public,

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it will be more expensive

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and it will be just a different offer.

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So there are perks,

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there are benefits to membership in this community.

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Okay, that app is going to be free to you.

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You know, you're going to be able to get on there.

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Guys, it's going to be so much easier for all of you

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that are like, I don't know where the link is

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and I don't understand where the replay is.

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Guess what?

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It's all going to be there.

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Just a touch of your fingertip.

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In fact, our team, you guys, I don't even know.

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I don't, I don't know.

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But we were excited about it.

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But after we did the walkthrough, we were like, oh my God,

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this is, this is so exciting

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because as frustrated as you guys have been with technology

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and all the different pieces part, and even Facebook,

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you guys, Facebook went down the other day, right?

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It's interesting.

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It went down on Super Tuesday.

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I don't know, but maybe, maybe it's not a conspiracy,

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but all I know is this, is that it did go down

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and we don't have to worry about that

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when we have our own app on our own server

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and we don't have to worry about

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any of those things anymore.

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So if you were thinking about cutting and running,

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it's too soon to leave

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because things are just starting to get good.

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You guys, we've been dreaming about some of this stuff

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for probably at least two years

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and now it is, it's becoming a reality.

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And so it's going to be so exciting.

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All right.

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So those are all the announcements,

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all the housekeeping that I have for you.

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And it's just 707 on March 7th,

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707 on March 7th here in Austin, Texas.

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And I'm ready to dig in.

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And we are going to learn how to what?

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We're going to learn how to flirt.

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Raise your hand if you've been accused of being a flirt.

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I want to see all the flirty people.

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People have said to you, oh, you're a flirt.

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Oh, come on.

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Let's see the hands.

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Look at all those people that have been told

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that they are a flirt.

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That is going to work in your benefit.

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All right.

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Put your hands down.

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All of you flirties, men and women.

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I see all different types of people on there.

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Now, I want you to put your hands up

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if you couldn't flirt, if your life depended on it.

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You have no idea.

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You are the most awkward person in the world

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and you just don't know.

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You not only don't know how to flirt,

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you don't know when someone's flirting with you.

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You're like, are they flirting?

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Do they like me?

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I don't know.

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I'm not sure.

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Yes, yes, yes.

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All right.

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Lots of people on both ends, both sides of the coin,

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which is what I love and I'm excited about tonight.

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All right, so we have Bethany's with us tonight,

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Renee's with us, and then of course all of you,

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because we want to hear from all of you guys.

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This is going to be a collective effort tonight.

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Okay, because we're going to talk about pickup lines.

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We're going to talk about all different types of things

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where you get to weigh in.

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And we're going to go ahead

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and start the night off with prayer.

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So Father God, we just thank you for tonight.

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We thank you that we don't have to seduce,

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we don't have to manipulate, we don't have to deceive,

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that you have made us shiny, that you've made us shiny,

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that you've made us to be noticed.

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Matthew 5 says that we are a city that's on a hill

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that cannot be hid because you meant us to be shiny,

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to be the light of the earth.

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And Lord, that means to be noticed and to be highlighted.

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And so Lord, we're asking tonight that you would help us

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to see how that transfers over to our love life,

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that we don't have to take a page

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out of the playbook of culture

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with seduction and manipulation tactics,

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but that we can learn how to honor people and love on people

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and how we can make our intentions known to people

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without fear of rejection or the fear of man.

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And Lord, we just thank you that tonight,

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if anyone has the fear of rejection,

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if anyone has the fear of man is what we call it,

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that that has broken off of them in Jesus name,

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and they feel like they can be themselves,

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they're not gonna take things too seriously,

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they're gonna put themselves out there,

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and whatever comes back is what's meant to come back.

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Lord, we thank you that you're highlighting us,

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that you're teaching us how to treat other people

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in Jesus name, amen.

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All right, so like I said, during that prayer,

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we're not gonna take a playbook,

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we're not gonna take a page out of the playbook of culture.

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Okay, oftentimes that tells us,

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anybody ever see those articles that said 10 text message

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to send to him or her to get them to fall in love with you?

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Anyone see those things?

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Yeah. Right?

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That's kind of like borderline,

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like kind of a little witchcraft,

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little witchcraft there.

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It's like, what exactly can I say

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to get this person hooked on me, right?

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As if, you know, you're some kind of methamphetamine.

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We don't want that.

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What we wanna do is we want to be free to express ourselves

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and to be fun.

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Ladies remember, the divine feminine is fun.

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So we wanna be fun.

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Gentlemen, we're gonna teach you guys

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about making the first move

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because we're willing to make the first move.

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We're gonna talk about that tonight,

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about dropping the hanky, making the first move.

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But gentlemen, we would love it if you made the first move.

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And I understand this is a very confusing culture.

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It's like, does she want me to?

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Does she not want me to?

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Is she gonna say, oh yes,

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I'm so glad that you made the first move.

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Let's go on a date.

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Or is she gonna like, you know, cry harassment?

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Like what's gonna happen here?

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What's gonna happen, right?

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And ladies, let's just face it.

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You know, if a guy comes and flirts with us

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and we think he's cute and we're attracted to him,

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we're like, oh, how you doing?

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But if he's not what we're looking for,

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then we could be like, creep, creeper, right?

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We can't be like this.

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If a guy is willing to shoot his shot

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and he's being respectful, that's key.

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He's being respectful, then we should applaud him for that.

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He should be rewarded for that.

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Even if, you know, he's not the person

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that we would be romantically interested in.

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We want to encourage, not discourage men,

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especially if they're stepping to us

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in an honorable, respectful, gentlemanly way, correct?

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Correct?

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So that means I'm not gonna hear any tales

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in this community of a guy shooting his shot with you,

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being respectful and honorable and gentlemanly,

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and you being a jerk, you being a biatch back to him.

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I'm not gonna hear any tales of that, right?

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All I'm gonna hear of is, oh yeah, hey, you know,

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Joanne wasn't interested in me, but you know what?

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She was really cool about it.

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Yeah, we didn't go on a date, but you know,

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she said she really liked the thing that I sent her.

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She really liked my pickup line.

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She really liked, that's what we're gonna do.

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We're going to encourage each other

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and we're gonna leave them, like Marilyn says here,

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better than we found them, correct?

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That's what we're gonna do, amen?

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Okay, and if you weren't planning on coming

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to Super Snatchers Saturday Live this week,

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please do, because we are gonna talk about

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the harvest of singles.

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We're gonna talk about some really amazing,

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very supernatural things on Saturday,

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and then we're gonna have a prophetic night on Sunday night.

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If you haven't been to one of our prophetic nights,

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I know that we have prophetic activation every Sunday night,

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but this is when all of our prayer team comes together

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and we begin to prophesy over you

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and you begin to prophesy over each other,

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and it's a really good time, okay?

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And so I want y'all to be there live if you can be, okay?

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So I think we're ready to get started.

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I think that's all being said.

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So we're not taking a page from the playbook of culture.

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We're gonna lean into Holy Spirit, because guess what?

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I believe that Holy Spirit is fun,

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and I believe he can teach you how to be fun,

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and I believe he can teach you how to be liked

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by the people that you need to be liked by.

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I want you guys to all say over each other right now

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that if you're a guy, you'll say woman,

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and if you're a woman, you'll say man,

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and I'm a woman, so I'm gonna say man.

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I don't need all men to fall in love with me,

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just the right one.

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And gentlemen, you would say the opposite.

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I don't need all women to fall in love with me,

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just the right one.

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Because I think sometimes,

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especially if we're an attention-seeking kind of personality,

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we wanna make everybody fall in love with us, right?

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And then we get upset when someone rejects us

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because we don't like rejection.

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We wanna be liked by everyone,

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but here's the thing.

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You're never gonna be liked by everyone.

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You're not ever gonna be everyone's cup of tea

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or a cup of coffee or a cup of vodka and soda.

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You're never gonna be everyone's anything, ever,

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because that would mean that you have to be fake.

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In order to make everyone like you,

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then you would have to not be yourself.

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True?

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True.

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And we're gonna talk about the woo,

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and some people get the woo mistaken

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for being fake and flattering people and people-pleasing

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and trying to win people over that way.

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By the way, you guys,

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the woo stands for winning others over, W-O-O, right?

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But you're never gonna win everybody over.

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You shouldn't want to important. Okay. All right.

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Now that we did that activation,

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let's go ahead and start with how to make a great first impression.

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You guys, if you make a bad first impression, that's okay.

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Remember I walked out in my front yard and I yelled at the man.

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Who's now my husband. That was my first impression.

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That was the first impression that I made on David. I yelled at him in the front

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yard. And while that sounds very funny,

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it was not funny at the time, but I got another chance.

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And sometimes you're going to get another chance and sometimes you're not going

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to get a second date and you're not going to get another chance. Okay.

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So let's make a good first impression with everyone we meet,

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not just romantic people. You guys,

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sometimes you're having a bad day and sometimes there's a one-off and I don't

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believe that you can miss out on your spirit mate when you're surrendered to God

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and you're willing to be teachable and have an open heart.

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I really don't believe you can. And so if they don't give you a second chance,

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then guess what? They weren't your person and that's okay. Right?

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Don't you think your person's going to have grace for you?

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Like David did me, but at the same time, let's make a first grade impression.

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All right. So that's where you're going to get involved. Ready?

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And Bethany and Renee, feel free to chime in any at any time.

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So we're all going to talk about now what we notice when we first meet

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people.

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I did a poll with all the men in my group and I said, Hey,

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what's the first thing that you notice about women?

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And a lot of them said her smile, her eyes,

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the way she carries herself. So this is what we want to do right now.

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As a group,

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we're going to help each other by sharing what you first notice about

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someone. What makes an impression on you?

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Clean nails when they're sitting across from you that their nails don't have

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dirt underneath them. Right?

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I know that I like to see clean hands.

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That's important to me. Okay. Clean teeth are important to me.

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You don't have to, you guys, you don't have to have perfectly straight teeth.

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That's not something that you can fix, right? I mean, you can fix it,

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but it's not something you can fix before that date. Um,

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but they need to be clean. If you drink coffee and your teeth are all stained,

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go get a zoom whitening treatment. They're like a hundred bucks. Go get it done.

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It's worth it. You guys, it's a game changer.

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Whitening your teeth is a game changer teeth.

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They don't have to be perfectly straight, but they can't be looking crusty.

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I want everyone to admit if

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teeth are a turnoff for you, if they're looking crusty,

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why? Because we want to kiss you someday and your teeth are scaring us.

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That's why. And remember, they don't have to be straight,

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but they do have to be clean.

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And for those of you that have tetracycline stains or something that you just

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can't help, guess what?

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There's all different types of things that can happen.

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And you still are worthy of love. Even if you can't, you know,

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even if you can't get them white, white, white, they don't have to be white.

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They just have to look clean. You've got to brush them.

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You got to floss them. Dental health matters.

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If you're not confident about your teeth, Laura,

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then you have to find out how you're going to become confident. Okay.

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Cause remember it's about clean teeth. It's not about not being crooked.

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In fact, crooked teeth can be super cute. Anyone agree that can add character.

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Now, if it's something that's become a health problem for you,

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then you want to probably figure out how you can invest in getting that fixed.

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Okay. Cherie said, oil pooling, you guys feel free to unmute yourself and just

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give some,

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give some things that you notice about people when you first meet them that

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make an impression on you. I want to hear from you. Come on.

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How they dress. If they're a sharp dresser.

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And what is a sharp dresser to you? Help them, help them out.

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Oh, somebody that's cognizant of style.

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That's cognizant of style that there's that they have,

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um, stylish clothing. It's well-fitting it's clean.

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It's pressed that their shoes are.

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Don't look like you just rolled out of the hamper gentlemen.

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Don't look like you just rolled out of the hamper and came to the date.

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So many women have said to me, Oh my God, he didn't put any effort in.

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We want to know that you put effort in guys. You don't have to, you know,

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be the snazziest dresser in the world, but you put an effort.

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Your clothes are clean. Your clothes are pressed.

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Cause a woman's mind is always going to be like, you know, Oh,

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I can dress him. I can dress him. Right. I can, I can dress him.

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So, but guys,

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I will tell you if you go to the store and you find a female sales associate

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and you ask her to help you pick out an outfit for a date,

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they will and make sure that that woman.

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is an attractive woman, okay?

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Don't pick, you know, a woman who doesn't look like

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she knows what's going on, all right?

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Pick an attractive woman and, you know,

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a well-dressed woman that works at the store

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and ask her to suggest clothing for you,

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you know, that might look good on you.

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And also, gentlemen, I will tell you,

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a good fitting pair of jeans goes a long way.

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Jeans that look good on you, the style, the cut,

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the color, that's, you know, on trend,

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like maybe a classic kind of trend,

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not like a trendy trend, but a classic kind of trend,

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that goes a long way.

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All right, thank you for that, style, style.

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Gentlemen, let's hear from a guy.

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Guys, tell us what makes a good first impression on you

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when you're meeting a woman.

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Her face.

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What about her face?

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Make it smile.

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And, of course, the hairstyle will really draw my eye.

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Okay.

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Is there a specific hairstyle that you like?

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Long, short, ponytail?

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Ponytail can sound more appealing

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despite looking old school, but yeah,

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long hair can be appealing,

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not that I'm trying to tell you to go get it,

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but for some people who have curly hair,

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poofy, having it puffed out really will draw me.

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Okay, Hunter likes a poofy ponytail.

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You guys, everyone has preferences for sure,

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but ladies, men have told me that

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what they love about your hair is that it's clean, right?

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Don't be coming with five, you know,

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five-day dry shampoo hair.

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Wash your hair before you come.

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Comb it.

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Don't be having all knots,

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looking like you just got off a motorcycle,

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unless you just got off a motorcycle,

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and then that's sexy in its own way, right?

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Okay.

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Another thing, another thing, yeah, with makeup,

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don't put, don't overdo it too much

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where I would take my finger down,

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I scrape it down, and I have something coming out of it.

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Yeah, that's really-

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All right, Hunter, just to clarify,

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you're not allowed to scrape anyone's faces on your date,

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okay?

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But yes, ladies, makeup is supposed to be an enhancer,

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not a camouflager, right?

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And trust me, I have rosacea, so I understand.

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And those of you that saw my little makeup tutorial,

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you know, you know what's up.

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And so I get it.

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I understand we can't all have porcelain, perfect skin,

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but don't cake it on because that's not helping.

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It's not hiding anything.

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It's not, all right?

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Okay, Nicole, you seem like you're unmuted.

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Do you want to share something?

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Yeah, when I, the guy, how he treats others,

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like respectful, kind, that's a big turn on.

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Yes.

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So gentlemen, women like to see you being kind

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and considerate, not just to us, but to others on a date.

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That makes a great first impression.

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So if you're impatient, you lose your temper

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at the waiter or the waitress, the server, no bueno.

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Okay, and that goes for you too, ladies, for sure.

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Okay, who else wants to tell us good first impressions?

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I like a well-groomed mustache and beard.

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I'm attracted to facial hair.

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So she likes facial hair,

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but she wants it to be manscaped, okay?

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She doesn't want you to look like, you know,

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you just rolled out of the bayou

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and you've been out there living off the land.

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She doesn't want you to look like Tom Hanks

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in, you know, that volleyball movie.

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What was that called?

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Wilson.

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Castaway.

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Yes, castaway.

487
00:23:47.400 --> 00:23:49.360
You're not allowed to look like a caveman.

488
00:23:49.360 --> 00:23:51.440
Now, if you have a beard, trim it.

489
00:23:51.440 --> 00:23:53.440
We don't want anything to be hiding in there.

490
00:23:53.440 --> 00:23:55.200
We don't want to be looking at your beard thinking,

491
00:23:55.200 --> 00:23:57.600
oh, what's in there?

492
00:23:57.600 --> 00:23:58.640
What's in there?

493
00:24:01.640 --> 00:24:03.280
Ladies, I want to see the hands of the ladies

494
00:24:03.280 --> 00:24:04.760
that like facial hair.

495
00:24:04.760 --> 00:24:05.600
Let's see you.

496
00:24:14.440 --> 00:24:15.480
Oh, that's a lot.

497
00:24:15.520 --> 00:24:17.080
Gentlemen.

498
00:24:17.080 --> 00:24:19.480
Gentlemen that have facial hair, take a look.

499
00:24:30.440 --> 00:24:31.280
All right.

500
00:24:31.280 --> 00:24:33.120
You guys, put your hands down.

501
00:24:33.120 --> 00:24:34.440
Let's talk about something.

502
00:24:34.440 --> 00:24:35.840
Now that we, you know, you guys,

503
00:24:35.840 --> 00:24:38.480
we're a new generation that understands everything

504
00:24:38.480 --> 00:24:41.800
about toxicity and chemicals.

505
00:24:41.800 --> 00:24:44.160
So let's answer the question.

506
00:24:44.160 --> 00:24:47.600
Cologne and perfume or no cologne and perfume?

507
00:24:47.600 --> 00:24:49.760
Like, how do we feel about that nowadays?

508
00:24:52.800 --> 00:24:53.640
No smell.

509
00:24:53.640 --> 00:24:55.200
Don't bathe in it.

510
00:24:55.200 --> 00:24:56.200
Yeah, don't bathe in it.

511
00:24:56.200 --> 00:24:58.920
We don't, listen, if you get off the elevator

512
00:24:58.920 --> 00:25:00.240
and your smell is on.

513
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:02.640
that elevator for the rest of the night, that's,

514
00:25:02.640 --> 00:25:04.680
I can't stand it when I get in an elevator

515
00:25:04.680 --> 00:25:09.000
and I'm like choking because of whoever was on there before.

516
00:25:10.080 --> 00:25:12.920
It's nice when you like lean in and you smell

517
00:25:12.920 --> 00:25:17.480
just a little bit of a nice cologne and fresh breath.

518
00:25:17.480 --> 00:25:19.480
Huge, that's a big thing.

519
00:25:19.480 --> 00:25:21.120
That's a good one, Gwen.

520
00:25:21.120 --> 00:25:23.580
Fresh breath, you guys, fresh breath.

521
00:25:23.580 --> 00:25:26.640
Let me tell you some tips about halitosis, all right?

522
00:25:26.640 --> 00:25:29.880
Floss your teeth, okay, it's not just brushing,

523
00:25:29.880 --> 00:25:32.960
floss your teeth, that will keep you from having bad breath.

524
00:25:32.960 --> 00:25:34.600
If you have dental issues, you know,

525
00:25:34.600 --> 00:25:36.880
you have a tooth that's not doing too well,

526
00:25:36.880 --> 00:25:39.320
it's not healthy, you gotta get that taken care of

527
00:25:39.320 --> 00:25:41.320
because that will cause, you know,

528
00:25:41.320 --> 00:25:44.920
just chronic bad breath and halitosis for sure.

529
00:25:44.920 --> 00:25:47.880
Guys, don't eat, it's okay to eat it on your date

530
00:25:47.880 --> 00:25:49.320
if your date's eating it as well,

531
00:25:49.320 --> 00:25:51.080
like garlic and onions and different things.

532
00:25:51.080 --> 00:25:52.580
I love that type of food.

533
00:25:52.580 --> 00:25:54.160
And if the other person's eating it as well,

534
00:25:54.160 --> 00:25:55.240
that's cool because, you know,

535
00:25:55.240 --> 00:25:58.680
no one's gonna smell anything because everyone's eating it.

536
00:25:58.680 --> 00:26:02.040
But don't eat that before you come to the date, all right?

537
00:26:02.040 --> 00:26:03.840
Don't be eating some, you know,

538
00:26:03.840 --> 00:26:05.960
crazy anchovy sandwich or something

539
00:26:05.960 --> 00:26:08.600
before you come to your date, all right?

540
00:26:08.600 --> 00:26:10.560
And then you're just like, like breathing fire,

541
00:26:10.560 --> 00:26:13.120
like a dragon, don't do that.

542
00:26:13.120 --> 00:26:15.000
And definitely brush your teeth.

543
00:26:15.000 --> 00:26:17.640
Guys, I don't, this is a pet peeve of mine

544
00:26:17.640 --> 00:26:20.640
and you guys can agree to disagree, it's fine.

545
00:26:20.640 --> 00:26:24.800
I can't stand seeing people and hearing people chew gum.

546
00:26:24.800 --> 00:26:28.080
It grosses me out, I think it's disgusting, I do.

547
00:26:28.480 --> 00:26:31.200
It just reminds me of a cow just chewing, chewing,

548
00:26:31.200 --> 00:26:33.880
you know, I just don't like it, I think it's uncouth.

549
00:26:33.880 --> 00:26:35.600
I think that it's like low brow.

550
00:26:35.600 --> 00:26:37.120
Once again, you can agree to disagree.

551
00:26:37.120 --> 00:26:38.760
I will still love you if you chew gum,

552
00:26:38.760 --> 00:26:41.040
if you're a chronic gum chewer,

553
00:26:41.040 --> 00:26:43.280
but people don't realize what they look like

554
00:26:43.280 --> 00:26:44.120
when they're chewing gum.

555
00:26:44.120 --> 00:26:46.200
They're not like mentally aware

556
00:26:46.200 --> 00:26:50.240
and it almost always comes across like bad manners.

557
00:26:50.240 --> 00:26:52.160
So let me see your hands.

558
00:26:52.160 --> 00:26:53.840
If you do not, listen,

559
00:26:53.840 --> 00:26:55.600
chew the gum before you get to the date

560
00:26:55.600 --> 00:26:57.440
and then take it out, let it freshen your breath.

561
00:26:57.800 --> 00:27:00.960
But then when you're in public, don't be chewing it.

562
00:27:00.960 --> 00:27:03.080
Raise your hand if you are like me and Oprah,

563
00:27:03.080 --> 00:27:04.360
I heard Oprah is like this too,

564
00:27:04.360 --> 00:27:07.880
and you can't stand gum chewing.

565
00:27:07.880 --> 00:27:09.800
People popping their gum

566
00:27:09.800 --> 00:27:13.520
and just acting like they're five years old with that gum.

567
00:27:13.520 --> 00:27:17.000
Bubba, bubba, bubbalicious.

568
00:27:17.960 --> 00:27:20.120
Okay, lots of people are like, I'm not into the gum.

569
00:27:20.120 --> 00:27:23.160
Okay, so chew a mint, chew a piece of gum,

570
00:27:23.160 --> 00:27:24.640
but don't still have it in your mouth

571
00:27:24.640 --> 00:27:26.120
when you get to the date.

572
00:27:26.120 --> 00:27:27.640
Don't still have it in there.

573
00:27:27.640 --> 00:27:29.400
Take it out, get rid of it.

574
00:27:29.400 --> 00:27:30.800
Get rid of it.

575
00:27:30.800 --> 00:27:32.800
Someone said oil pooling.

576
00:27:32.800 --> 00:27:35.240
Oil pooling is huge to get rid of bad breath.

577
00:27:35.240 --> 00:27:37.560
If you've never looked into that, Google it,

578
00:27:37.560 --> 00:27:38.520
figure out how to do it.

579
00:27:38.520 --> 00:27:41.960
There's a lot of great products you can use to oil pool.

580
00:27:41.960 --> 00:27:43.000
Don't overdo it.

581
00:27:43.000 --> 00:27:45.320
Obviously everything in moderation,

582
00:27:45.320 --> 00:27:48.120
but that also will help whiten your teeth

583
00:27:48.120 --> 00:27:49.080
and give you better breath.

584
00:27:49.080 --> 00:27:50.200
Anyone else have any dental,

585
00:27:50.200 --> 00:27:52.640
any dental hygienists or anyone

586
00:27:52.640 --> 00:27:54.280
who wanna give us a tip on this?

587
00:27:57.120 --> 00:27:58.920
Dentists, dental hygienists,

588
00:28:00.040 --> 00:28:03.600
holistic health people, anyone?

589
00:28:03.600 --> 00:28:05.760
I'm not a dentist or hygienist,

590
00:28:05.760 --> 00:28:10.520
but I did some, I found out about the mouth taping.

591
00:28:10.520 --> 00:28:12.840
So we're actually created to breathe through our nose

592
00:28:12.840 --> 00:28:15.760
because of the filters that we have in our nose.

593
00:28:15.760 --> 00:28:18.480
And mouth breathing causes so many health issues

594
00:28:18.480 --> 00:28:22.560
and dry mouth, which gives you gum disease

595
00:28:22.560 --> 00:28:25.040
and causes all kinds of oral issues.

596
00:28:25.040 --> 00:28:28.280
So I started taping my mouth shut

597
00:28:28.280 --> 00:28:29.840
probably like five months ago.

598
00:28:29.840 --> 00:28:33.440
And I went to the dentist and at this point,

599
00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:35.640
I totally forgot about the mouth taping.

600
00:28:35.640 --> 00:28:39.280
And she was like, are you flossing more?

601
00:28:39.280 --> 00:28:40.640
Are you, what are you brushing with?

602
00:28:40.640 --> 00:28:42.120
And she just kept asking me and I was like,

603
00:28:42.120 --> 00:28:44.040
I think maybe I'm flossing more.

604
00:28:44.040 --> 00:28:46.920
At the moment I forgot about the mouth taping

605
00:28:46.920 --> 00:28:47.840
and then realized,

606
00:28:47.840 --> 00:28:48.680
cause then she was like,

607
00:28:48.680 --> 00:28:50.120
your gums even look so much better.

608
00:28:50.120 --> 00:28:52.680
And she's going into the diagram and look in.

609
00:28:52.680 --> 00:28:54.800
So I know it sounds crazy,

610
00:28:54.800 --> 00:28:56.400
but nose breathing,

611
00:28:56.400 --> 00:28:58.880
we were actually created to nose breathe.

612
00:28:58.880 --> 00:29:01.560
And most people like hang their mouth open at night

613
00:29:01.560 --> 00:29:03.680
and it can cause so much dental issues.

614
00:29:03.680 --> 00:29:05.280
So anyway, that's what I'm doing.

615
00:29:05.280 --> 00:29:07.800
Okay guys, so if you want to try mouth taping,

616
00:29:07.800 --> 00:29:10.120
I'm sure you can find articles about it online

617
00:29:10.120 --> 00:29:11.000
and how to do it.

618
00:29:11.000 --> 00:29:16.000
And wow, that sounds very interesting.

619
00:29:16.120 --> 00:29:18.400
My husband snores

620
00:29:18.400 --> 00:29:21.440
and I think that I might tape his whole head.

621
00:29:21.440 --> 00:29:22.640
That actually will heal it.

622
00:29:22.640 --> 00:29:24.240
It heals sleep apnea.

623
00:29:24.240 --> 00:29:27.800
It helps heart things and organs and all this stuff.

624
00:29:27.800 --> 00:29:29.080
It's crazy.

625
00:29:29.080 --> 00:29:30.640
Okay, all right.

626
00:29:30.640 --> 00:29:33.200
And you guys, I just thought of another one too.

627
00:29:33.200 --> 00:29:36.000
For people who just go long periods of time without eating,

628
00:29:36.000 --> 00:29:37.360
that actually gives you bad breath.

629
00:29:37.360 --> 00:29:39.120
I don't know if you knew that or not,

630
00:29:39.120 --> 00:29:41.840
but so like if you're an intermittent faster

631
00:29:41.840 --> 00:29:42.880
and you go like, you know,

632
00:29:42.880 --> 00:29:44.760
you only eat during a certain window

633
00:29:44.760 --> 00:29:47.680
or you just are so busy and you don't eat a lot,

634
00:29:47.680 --> 00:29:49.600
you probably have pretty rotten breath

635
00:29:49.600 --> 00:29:50.840
and you don't know it.

636
00:29:50.840 --> 00:29:53.600
Because when you're not eating and your stomach acids,

637
00:29:53.600 --> 00:29:55.160
you know, they're coming up.

638
00:29:55.160 --> 00:29:57.160
You don't know that this is happening.

639
00:29:57.160 --> 00:29:59.000
But if you're not giving those stomach acids

640
00:29:59.000 --> 00:30:00.240
in that bile something.

641
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.720
to do a lot of times it will give you bad breath.

642
00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:05.160
Okay, guys ever been around someone who's fasting

643
00:30:05.160 --> 00:30:06.400
and their breath literally smells

644
00:30:06.400 --> 00:30:07.960
like something died in there.

645
00:30:07.960 --> 00:30:11.360
Okay, and so be aware of that.

646
00:30:11.360 --> 00:30:15.120
Okay, so other things, let's go on from the bad breath.

647
00:30:15.120 --> 00:30:16.480
Thank you, Gwen, for bringing that up.

648
00:30:16.480 --> 00:30:18.920
You guys definitely wanna have good oral hygiene.

649
00:30:18.920 --> 00:30:21.160
You wanna have good smell and breath.

650
00:30:21.160 --> 00:30:22.800
We'll take like two more things

651
00:30:22.800 --> 00:30:24.400
that are good first impressions.

652
00:30:25.320 --> 00:30:27.840
For me, it's eye contact.

653
00:30:27.840 --> 00:30:31.640
Honestly, somebody not only makes eye contact

654
00:30:31.640 --> 00:30:34.520
but is able to maintain it while we're talking

655
00:30:34.520 --> 00:30:35.840
that's huge to me.

656
00:30:36.840 --> 00:30:38.960
Okay, and you guys eye contact?

657
00:30:38.960 --> 00:30:43.520
Yes, very like gentle, not focused.

658
00:30:43.520 --> 00:30:45.640
All right, just all right.

659
00:30:45.640 --> 00:30:48.880
So if you're not an eye contactor,

660
00:30:48.880 --> 00:30:51.360
maybe go slow with that one.

661
00:30:51.360 --> 00:30:53.160
Maybe kind of ease into that one

662
00:30:53.160 --> 00:30:56.680
so you don't like look like you're hypnotized

663
00:30:56.680 --> 00:30:59.720
with the person, but yes, ease into the eye contact.

664
00:30:59.720 --> 00:31:01.160
Who else?

665
00:31:01.160 --> 00:31:03.000
It's not really a deal breaker for me

666
00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:08.000
but I would say long eyelashes are a pretty big no for me.

667
00:31:08.320 --> 00:31:09.800
Like the real long fake eyelashes,

668
00:31:09.800 --> 00:31:10.800
I don't care for those at all.

669
00:31:10.800 --> 00:31:12.240
You're talking about fake, fake ones.

670
00:31:12.240 --> 00:31:13.520
Yeah.

671
00:31:13.520 --> 00:31:15.560
Okay, fake ones.

672
00:31:15.560 --> 00:31:18.840
He doesn't want you to show up like this, ladies.

673
00:31:18.840 --> 00:31:21.040
Thinks that's a deal breaker there.

674
00:31:21.880 --> 00:31:24.920
Jackie, confidence.

675
00:31:24.920 --> 00:31:26.640
Okay, I like it.

676
00:31:27.600 --> 00:31:29.480
Can you explain to us what that looks like?

677
00:31:29.480 --> 00:31:30.880
How does that transfer?

678
00:31:32.160 --> 00:31:34.800
How do you carry yourself, right?

679
00:31:34.800 --> 00:31:36.720
Are yours posture?

680
00:31:37.600 --> 00:31:39.520
Do you carry the weight of the world on you

681
00:31:39.520 --> 00:31:43.160
and you're slumping on this thing?

682
00:31:43.160 --> 00:31:46.240
Your dress, the way you carry yourself,

683
00:31:46.240 --> 00:31:49.080
the way you speak, a good handshake

684
00:31:49.520 --> 00:31:51.680
is definitely a very good indicator

685
00:31:51.680 --> 00:31:53.080
of your confidence level.

686
00:31:53.080 --> 00:31:55.560
Obviously you don't wanna break somebody's hand

687
00:31:55.560 --> 00:31:57.960
or squash somebody's hand,

688
00:31:57.960 --> 00:32:00.440
but just like your aura, your personality,

689
00:32:00.440 --> 00:32:04.320
how you talk, how you carry yourself,

690
00:32:04.320 --> 00:32:06.440
just shows confidence.

691
00:32:06.440 --> 00:32:10.840
And one thing, be yourself, totally be yourself,

692
00:32:10.840 --> 00:32:13.040
be comfortable who you are in your skin.

693
00:32:13.040 --> 00:32:14.520
I think that's all I can say.

694
00:32:15.520 --> 00:32:16.360
Good.

695
00:32:16.360 --> 00:32:19.720
And gentlemen, we don't like a weak handshake,

696
00:32:20.720 --> 00:32:24.880
like a limp, dead fish handshake.

697
00:32:24.880 --> 00:32:29.800
I have, not in a romantic scenario,

698
00:32:29.800 --> 00:32:33.160
but I have shook men's hands that are like that.

699
00:32:33.160 --> 00:32:35.160
And it's just like, I'm like, what is happening?

700
00:32:35.160 --> 00:32:37.920
Like, I'm so confused about what's happening here.

701
00:32:37.920 --> 00:32:40.160
So if you're gonna shake a woman's hand,

702
00:32:40.160 --> 00:32:42.320
which I'm a hugger, I prefer a hug.

703
00:32:42.320 --> 00:32:43.880
If I'm actually going on a date with you,

704
00:32:44.520 --> 00:32:46.440
I wouldn't want you to shake my hand.

705
00:32:46.440 --> 00:32:48.720
I'd give like a nice, like very casual,

706
00:32:48.720 --> 00:32:51.360
like hug greeting, like a little,

707
00:32:51.360 --> 00:32:54.720
you know, not the dreaded side hug at church

708
00:32:54.720 --> 00:32:58.120
because nobody's private parts can touch, okay?

709
00:32:58.120 --> 00:33:00.160
But like, just like, you know,

710
00:33:00.160 --> 00:33:04.200
like pretend you're Italian, pretend you're Italian, okay?

711
00:33:04.200 --> 00:33:07.320
And let's just get over the prudeness of all the weirdness.

712
00:33:07.320 --> 00:33:09.360
Okay, be a gentleman, says Clara,

713
00:33:09.360 --> 00:33:11.400
but we need to know what that means to you.

714
00:33:11.400 --> 00:33:12.760
That means something different to anyone.

715
00:33:12.760 --> 00:33:15.160
So you go ahead and unmute yourself and tell us.

716
00:33:16.320 --> 00:33:17.160
Hello.

717
00:33:19.960 --> 00:33:24.520
I mean, a gentleman, like have manners.

718
00:33:24.520 --> 00:33:29.520
It's the way you talk, how that man carries himself.

719
00:33:29.560 --> 00:33:31.240
Can you hear me?

720
00:33:31.240 --> 00:33:32.440
Yeah. Yeah.

721
00:33:32.440 --> 00:33:36.760
So I would say, yeah, like when you're a gentleman,

722
00:33:36.760 --> 00:33:39.560
you're taking care of the details.

723
00:33:40.560 --> 00:33:45.560
Like, I don't know, it's just, yeah.

724
00:33:45.560 --> 00:33:49.640
You like a man, your preference is for a man to take charge.

725
00:33:49.640 --> 00:33:50.840
Yes.

726
00:33:50.840 --> 00:33:52.920
Okay, she see, she likes that.

727
00:33:52.920 --> 00:33:54.040
She likes a man to take charge.

728
00:33:54.040 --> 00:33:56.600
And then another person here said, be a gentleman, Serene.

729
00:33:56.600 --> 00:33:59.080
Serene, tell us what be a gentleman means to you.

730
00:34:02.920 --> 00:34:04.000
Oh, I'm sorry.

731
00:34:04.000 --> 00:34:05.120
Same thing as Clara.

732
00:34:05.120 --> 00:34:06.480
I like for men to take charge

733
00:34:06.480 --> 00:34:09.520
simply because I'm always in charge and I don't like it.

734
00:34:10.080 --> 00:34:12.199
You want a little rest.

735
00:34:12.199 --> 00:34:14.000
You want to be a passenger princess.

736
00:34:14.000 --> 00:34:15.320
I get you.

737
00:34:15.320 --> 00:34:16.840
Yes.

738
00:34:16.840 --> 00:34:18.199
Okay.

739
00:34:18.199 --> 00:34:20.760
So gentlemen, we got two ladies that like,

740
00:34:20.760 --> 00:34:23.639
take, take, take charge, take the initiative.

741
00:34:23.639 --> 00:34:26.080
You know, take the initiative.

742
00:34:26.080 --> 00:34:29.199
I heard a, I heard a, okay, we're gonna get to the next one.

743
00:34:29.199 --> 00:34:30.040
We're gonna get to the woo here.

744
00:34:30.040 --> 00:34:31.520
Okay, let's go ahead and switch.

745
00:34:31.520 --> 00:34:33.440
You guys, if there's any good ones that got missed,

746
00:34:33.440 --> 00:34:34.480
go ahead and put them in the chat.

747
00:34:34.480 --> 00:34:35.520
Let's go down to the woo.

748
00:34:35.520 --> 00:34:38.440
Once again, Bethany, Rizzo, jump in.

749
00:34:39.400 --> 00:34:40.239
Woo.

750
00:34:40.239 --> 00:34:41.800
Remember that's winning others over.

751
00:34:41.800 --> 00:34:42.639
Woo.

752
00:34:42.639 --> 00:34:44.360
Like wooing people, right?

753
00:34:44.360 --> 00:34:45.560
That's what we want.

754
00:34:45.560 --> 00:34:48.520
And the power of winning others over

755
00:34:48.520 --> 00:34:50.960
or just the art of winning others over.

756
00:34:50.960 --> 00:34:52.120
I have the woo.

757
00:34:52.120 --> 00:34:53.639
Anyone ever taken the Strength Finder

758
00:34:53.639 --> 00:34:55.400
and actually that is one of the strengths

759
00:34:55.400 --> 00:34:57.640
on the Strength Finder and you got the woo.

760
00:34:57.640 --> 00:35:00.080
Like you test it as having the woo.

761
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.280
Anyone have the woo on the strength finder personality test.

762
00:35:06.120 --> 00:35:08.040
We've got a couple of people that have the woo.

763
00:35:09.480 --> 00:35:14.120
And really what it's like is you can, you can make friends easily.

764
00:35:14.160 --> 00:35:16.160
People feel safe and comfortable with you.

765
00:35:16.160 --> 00:35:17.760
People feel liked by you.

766
00:35:18.040 --> 00:35:19.920
Here's something that I need to let you know about people.

767
00:35:19.920 --> 00:35:23.880
And this is really what works for me with people is that people

768
00:35:24.920 --> 00:35:26.880
like to talk about themselves.

769
00:35:27.280 --> 00:35:31.800
And the number one thing that I hear about people who don't want to go on a

770
00:35:31.800 --> 00:35:36.680
second date, whether it's a man or a woman, is they say, they didn't ask me

771
00:35:36.680 --> 00:35:37.920
anything about myself.

772
00:35:40.680 --> 00:35:41.200
All right.

773
00:35:41.760 --> 00:35:46.040
So if you want to win someone over, there's a fine line between, you know,

774
00:35:46.040 --> 00:35:50.200
interrogation level questions that you should never be asking someone because

775
00:35:50.200 --> 00:35:55.200
that's uncomfortable and, and disrespectful and, you know, rude.

776
00:35:55.200 --> 00:36:00.000
Really, honestly, you guys, it's rude to ask a stranger personal questions.

777
00:36:00.040 --> 00:36:00.560
It's rude.

778
00:36:01.160 --> 00:36:01.680
All right.

779
00:36:01.880 --> 00:36:03.480
Teach your mama and daddy, not teach you nothing.

780
00:36:03.880 --> 00:36:04.160
Okay.

781
00:36:04.160 --> 00:36:04.760
It's rude.

782
00:36:05.640 --> 00:36:08.400
And I think as Christians, we give ourselves a pass.

783
00:36:08.400 --> 00:36:11.520
Cause we're like, well, I just need to know because I can't be hanging out with

784
00:36:11.520 --> 00:36:15.600
someone who doesn't have my values or hanging out with someone or going on a

785
00:36:15.600 --> 00:36:20.120
date with someone who doesn't want what I want, or isn't who God is sending to me.

786
00:36:20.360 --> 00:36:22.640
Don't use that stuff as an excuse to be rude.

787
00:36:22.640 --> 00:36:26.480
You don't ask someone personal questions when you don't know them, period.

788
00:36:26.840 --> 00:36:27.160
Okay.

789
00:36:27.200 --> 00:36:29.240
But people do like to talk about themselves.

790
00:36:29.440 --> 00:36:31.560
So go ahead and be armed at that date.

791
00:36:31.560 --> 00:36:35.080
Not in like a contrived way where you pull out your notebook and you have a list of

792
00:36:35.080 --> 00:36:40.160
questions that you're asking them, but be ready to get that person to talk about

793
00:36:40.160 --> 00:36:44.760
themselves in a way that people like to talk about themselves.

794
00:36:45.200 --> 00:36:45.640
All right.

795
00:36:45.760 --> 00:36:47.080
Give some examples of that.

796
00:36:49.000 --> 00:36:51.040
How can we get people to talk about themselves?

797
00:36:52.040 --> 00:36:55.720
How can we get someone talking about themselves in a good way?

798
00:36:56.880 --> 00:36:58.520
That's going to make them happy.

799
00:36:59.760 --> 00:37:00.920
Ask them about their family.

800
00:37:02.080 --> 00:37:02.600
Okay.

801
00:37:02.800 --> 00:37:05.160
For some people that's a trigger, but not all true.

802
00:37:05.680 --> 00:37:08.960
That could be too personal for some people, but yes, it could be.

803
00:37:09.000 --> 00:37:12.520
It could be, you know, if you know, they have children, you could, you know,

804
00:37:12.760 --> 00:37:14.360
people do like to talk about their kids.

805
00:37:14.840 --> 00:37:15.560
What else we got?

806
00:37:18.600 --> 00:37:20.680
Um, go ahead.

807
00:37:21.480 --> 00:37:22.160
Occupation.

808
00:37:24.920 --> 00:37:25.320
I'm sorry.

809
00:37:25.320 --> 00:37:25.920
I didn't hear it.

810
00:37:26.600 --> 00:37:27.440
Occupation.

811
00:37:28.440 --> 00:37:29.640
Oh, talk about your job.

812
00:37:29.640 --> 00:37:31.120
Talk about like, what do you do?

813
00:37:32.280 --> 00:37:34.120
You know, fun question.

814
00:37:34.120 --> 00:37:38.280
Like, Hey, you know, if money wasn't an option, if money wasn't a thing, you know,

815
00:37:38.880 --> 00:37:41.360
if it wasn't an issue, what would you do?

816
00:37:41.520 --> 00:37:42.960
What would you do if you could do anything?

817
00:37:43.600 --> 00:37:45.080
You know, people like to talk about that.

818
00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:48.360
My husband told me when I first asked him that when we first met that he would be a

819
00:37:48.400 --> 00:37:49.160
rock star.

820
00:37:50.080 --> 00:37:50.920
And he wasn't kidding.

821
00:37:50.920 --> 00:37:52.920
And then he went on and talk all this stuff about music.

822
00:37:52.920 --> 00:37:53.760
Cause he loves music.

823
00:37:54.360 --> 00:37:54.920
Keep going.

824
00:37:55.000 --> 00:37:55.480
What do we got?

825
00:37:55.920 --> 00:37:58.480
Ask him what gives them joy and what are their hobbies?

826
00:37:59.160 --> 00:37:59.400
Yeah.

827
00:37:59.440 --> 00:38:02.120
Hobbies, joy, music preferences.

828
00:38:02.160 --> 00:38:03.160
That's nice and safe.

829
00:38:03.160 --> 00:38:04.240
Sarah like that.

830
00:38:05.040 --> 00:38:06.440
What'd you want to be when you were a kid?

831
00:38:06.440 --> 00:38:06.600
Yeah.

832
00:38:06.640 --> 00:38:07.920
People like to talk about this stuff.

833
00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:11.640
You guys, if you're in a group photo and someone shows you, Hey, I took this group

834
00:38:11.640 --> 00:38:16.040
photo at the, at the, you know, the office party and you know, you're in the photo.

835
00:38:16.200 --> 00:38:19.040
The very first thing you're going to do is not look at that photo and say, Oh,

836
00:38:19.040 --> 00:38:19.880
that's a nice photo.

837
00:38:19.880 --> 00:38:20.880
You're going to look for yourself.

838
00:38:20.880 --> 00:38:21.320
Aren't you?

839
00:38:22.200 --> 00:38:23.320
Where am I in the photo?

840
00:38:23.360 --> 00:38:23.960
Where am I?

841
00:38:23.960 --> 00:38:24.520
Why am I?

842
00:38:24.560 --> 00:38:24.920
Why?

843
00:38:24.920 --> 00:38:28.000
Because people want to see themselves.

844
00:38:28.000 --> 00:38:29.400
They want to talk about themselves.

845
00:38:29.680 --> 00:38:31.320
You know, we're pretty self-absorbed.

846
00:38:32.320 --> 00:38:33.120
It's just true.

847
00:38:33.560 --> 00:38:33.960
All right.

848
00:38:33.960 --> 00:38:38.760
And so getting someone else to talk about themselves is something that you really

849
00:38:38.760 --> 00:38:41.200
can do to win someone over for sure.

850
00:38:41.280 --> 00:38:41.840
Okay.

851
00:38:42.280 --> 00:38:46.400
Um, ladies, part of the woo that you can do with a guy that after you've gotten to

852
00:38:46.400 --> 00:38:50.480
know him, maybe in a couple of dates in, if you're doing an activity date of some

853
00:38:50.480 --> 00:38:56.520
sort, ask him to teach you something, ask him to teach you something, right.

854
00:38:57.040 --> 00:38:59.880
Ask him if you're holding, you know, the bat, right.

855
00:38:59.880 --> 00:39:01.880
At the batting cage or the golf club, right.

856
00:39:01.880 --> 00:39:05.760
At the driving range, or, you know, ask him to give you some strategy on how to

857
00:39:05.760 --> 00:39:08.320
get that strike at the bowling alley.

858
00:39:08.640 --> 00:39:10.320
He might not know, but guess what?

859
00:39:10.320 --> 00:39:12.960
He's going to love trying to figure it out with you.

860
00:39:14.960 --> 00:39:15.720
I see.

861
00:39:15.760 --> 00:39:17.800
Who is that over there, Mike?

862
00:39:17.920 --> 00:39:19.000
I see you nodding your head.

863
00:39:19.040 --> 00:39:19.880
You agree with that?

864
00:39:22.320 --> 00:39:22.880
Thumbs up.

865
00:39:23.840 --> 00:39:24.200
Okay.

866
00:39:24.640 --> 00:39:25.800
Guys like to fix things.

867
00:39:25.800 --> 00:39:28.720
And if you're asking them to fix something, that's like, wow, it's amazing.

868
00:39:28.840 --> 00:39:29.280
So yeah.

869
00:39:29.360 --> 00:39:29.960
Yeah.

870
00:39:30.280 --> 00:39:33.000
So that's a, that's a, that's a way to win, win a man over.

871
00:39:33.720 --> 00:39:35.440
I once heard this guy talking.

872
00:39:35.480 --> 00:39:39.760
Um, I figured he was a podcaster and he said that you can tell who's married and

873
00:39:39.760 --> 00:39:44.480
who's single in a restaurant by, you know, if the man is listening or the

874
00:39:44.480 --> 00:39:49.040
man is talking, but the man is listening.

875
00:39:49.240 --> 00:39:49.960
It's a date.

876
00:39:50.000 --> 00:39:51.680
If the man is talking, they're married.

877
00:39:53.000 --> 00:39:57.400
Another thing I forgot to mention where you can ask somebody, I usually go with

878
00:39:57.400 --> 00:39:59.680
this at the beginning where you're from anyway.

879
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.840
Okay, where are you from?

880
00:40:03.840 --> 00:40:05.360
Tell me about where you grew up.

881
00:40:05.360 --> 00:40:08.360
Tell me about, you know, things that, you know, things you love.

882
00:40:08.360 --> 00:40:09.360
Those are things.

883
00:40:09.360 --> 00:40:10.360
Okay.

884
00:40:10.360 --> 00:40:13.000
So guys, let's talk about other ways to win people over.

885
00:40:13.000 --> 00:40:14.000
All right.

886
00:40:14.000 --> 00:40:15.800
Remember, we're not trying to manipulate them.

887
00:40:15.800 --> 00:40:17.980
We're not trying to seduce them or deceive them.

888
00:40:17.980 --> 00:40:20.120
We're not trying to be someone that we're not.

889
00:40:20.120 --> 00:40:23.160
We're just trying to find ways to make connections.

890
00:40:23.160 --> 00:40:27.280
So let's talk about some ways that we can make connection with someone.

891
00:40:27.280 --> 00:40:30.440
Let's go ahead and put those in the chat and a couple of you unmute yourselves and

892
00:40:30.440 --> 00:40:32.680
give us some ideas.

893
00:40:32.680 --> 00:40:36.480
And Renee and Bethany, if you have anything, please add it.

894
00:40:36.480 --> 00:40:37.480
Yeah.

895
00:40:37.480 --> 00:40:41.680
I mean, we already talked about smiling, but to me that is across the board.

896
00:40:41.680 --> 00:40:45.960
Men really think that when women smile at them or they're, you know, laughing a little

897
00:40:45.960 --> 00:40:52.480
bit at something funny that they say they're engaging or maybe even leaning, not all the

898
00:40:52.480 --> 00:40:58.040
way into it, but like leaning a little bit towards them when they're talking.

899
00:40:58.040 --> 00:41:03.880
Those are, are kind of on the top of the list from, from like things I remember learning

900
00:41:03.880 --> 00:41:07.520
with you and things you were teaching us about.

901
00:41:07.520 --> 00:41:12.440
But also just when I was doing research, like those top, those were the top three things

902
00:41:12.440 --> 00:41:13.440
a lot.

903
00:41:13.440 --> 00:41:14.440
Yes.

904
00:41:14.440 --> 00:41:17.560
Lean in, definitely smile, definitely laugh appropriately.

905
00:41:17.560 --> 00:41:18.560
Don't laugh inappropriately.

906
00:41:18.560 --> 00:41:21.120
If it's not funny, it's not funny.

907
00:41:21.120 --> 00:41:23.080
You know, you can even be a little sarcastic.

908
00:41:23.080 --> 00:41:25.160
Men have a tendency to like a sassy girl.

909
00:41:25.160 --> 00:41:28.960
So if he gives it, if he tells you a dad joke and it's not funny, then you can like do a

910
00:41:28.960 --> 00:41:32.560
fake laugh and just be like, wow, you know, that was incredible.

911
00:41:32.560 --> 00:41:36.360
You know also touching them lightly, touching them lightly.

912
00:41:36.360 --> 00:41:40.240
If you're sitting across, you know, touching them, well, you know, when you get up to leave,

913
00:41:40.240 --> 00:41:44.120
like touching them lightly on the arm while you're talking to them, you know, standing

914
00:41:44.120 --> 00:41:50.560
up, you're leaving, you know, resting your arm on their arm while you're talking to them.

915
00:41:51.000 --> 00:42:00.840
Those definitely are all ways of letting a man know, Hey, you know, I like you.

916
00:42:00.840 --> 00:42:04.560
I like you gentlemen.

917
00:42:04.560 --> 00:42:09.600
The way that you can let a woman know that you like her, you know, is not the touching.

918
00:42:09.600 --> 00:42:11.620
Remember we're touching you.

919
00:42:11.620 --> 00:42:12.800
You're not touching us.

920
00:42:12.800 --> 00:42:13.960
We're touching you.

921
00:42:13.960 --> 00:42:15.520
You're not touching us.

922
00:42:15.520 --> 00:42:16.520
Okay.

923
00:42:16.520 --> 00:42:22.040
So if we're touching you, then maybe later you're touching us, but not right at first.

924
00:42:22.040 --> 00:42:23.040
Right.

925
00:42:23.040 --> 00:42:24.040
Okay.

926
00:42:24.040 --> 00:42:28.560
But the way that a man can tell, you know, let a woman know that he's interested, it's

927
00:42:28.560 --> 00:42:32.600
really different depending on the scenario, but like, say we go to church together or

928
00:42:32.600 --> 00:42:37.600
say that we work together or we're in some other kind of like group setting a lot together.

929
00:42:37.600 --> 00:42:40.520
If you seek us out, we know you like us.

930
00:42:40.520 --> 00:42:41.680
Okay.

931
00:42:41.680 --> 00:42:46.120
If you make time to come and talk to us and you know, you're always hanging around where

932
00:42:46.720 --> 00:42:47.720
we are.

933
00:42:47.720 --> 00:42:48.720
We know that you like us.

934
00:42:48.720 --> 00:42:53.600
If you come into proximity to us on purpose, does that make sense?

935
00:42:53.600 --> 00:42:55.680
Okay.

936
00:42:55.680 --> 00:42:57.440
So seek her out.

937
00:42:57.440 --> 00:43:01.080
If you seek her out, she knows that you like her.

938
00:43:01.080 --> 00:43:08.200
If you, if you initiate in any way, a call, a text message, a date, we know that you're

939
00:43:08.200 --> 00:43:09.800
interested in us.

940
00:43:09.800 --> 00:43:14.680
Remember there's this thing called pursuit and women believe we're hardwired to believe

941
00:43:14.760 --> 00:43:21.320
that if a man wants us, he is going to come looking for us because we all know we've all

942
00:43:21.320 --> 00:43:23.720
been taught that men go after what they want.

943
00:43:23.720 --> 00:43:24.720
Right.

944
00:43:24.720 --> 00:43:31.040
And so some of the ways that you can win women over in a romantic sense is by being kind.

945
00:43:31.040 --> 00:43:32.040
Okay.

946
00:43:32.040 --> 00:43:33.480
We want you to be masculine.

947
00:43:33.480 --> 00:43:34.480
That's a given.

948
00:43:34.480 --> 00:43:36.240
And what does masculinity look like though?

949
00:43:36.240 --> 00:43:40.280
Because in America we have this toxic alpha masculinity, right?

950
00:43:40.280 --> 00:43:43.360
And anything that's not like that, like I was talking to a private client the other

951
00:43:43.360 --> 00:43:48.680
day and he said that, you know, he has a tendency to want to make emotional connection

952
00:43:48.680 --> 00:43:53.400
and kind of go deep quickly because he has a high emotional IQ and he likes to talk about

953
00:43:53.400 --> 00:43:56.440
deep, you know, like meaningful things.

954
00:43:56.440 --> 00:44:00.080
Now we don't think of that kind of as a man sort of trait, do we?

955
00:44:00.080 --> 00:44:03.800
And so him and I were joking around about how a lot of women probably thought he was

956
00:44:03.800 --> 00:44:09.280
gay when they met him because of that way that he carries himself.

957
00:44:09.280 --> 00:44:10.280
Right.

958
00:44:10.440 --> 00:44:14.480
But, you know, many moat, they're allowed to have emotions are allowed to want to talk

959
00:44:14.480 --> 00:44:16.680
about deep and meaningful things for sure.

960
00:44:16.680 --> 00:44:22.560
But one of the ways that you can let a woman know, uh, or woo a woman is by showing her

961
00:44:22.560 --> 00:44:24.560
that you're meek.

962
00:44:24.560 --> 00:44:25.560
And what does that mean?

963
00:44:25.560 --> 00:44:30.760
That means you're powerful, but you have your power under control.

964
00:44:30.760 --> 00:44:38.840
You're kind, you're considerate, you could be wild if you want it to be, but you've chosen

965
00:44:38.840 --> 00:44:40.560
not to be your restraint.

966
00:44:40.560 --> 00:44:44.880
You're restraining yourself, um, to be a gentleman.

967
00:44:44.880 --> 00:44:45.880
Does that make sense?

968
00:44:45.880 --> 00:44:48.800
Gentlemen weigh in.

969
00:44:48.800 --> 00:44:49.800
Yes, Jackie.

970
00:44:49.800 --> 00:44:51.560
I think that's very important, right?

971
00:44:51.560 --> 00:44:57.920
A man can be strong, assertive, but a man can be very kind, especially the tone of the

972
00:44:57.920 --> 00:45:00.000
voice, the way he is approaching.

973
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.840
coaching, plan a date, pay for the date,

974
00:45:03.840 --> 00:45:05.600
initiate the conversation.

975
00:45:05.600 --> 00:45:10.600
If it is difficult, I generally gauge the body language,

976
00:45:10.720 --> 00:45:14.960
then try to crack a joke, like sincere joke,

977
00:45:14.960 --> 00:45:17.680
make the person laugh, pick up a surrounding

978
00:45:17.680 --> 00:45:20.720
where it's easy to talk with not blaring music

979
00:45:20.720 --> 00:45:24.520
in a restaurant, something like easygoing,

980
00:45:24.520 --> 00:45:27.800
because I believe as the man leads on the first date,

981
00:45:27.800 --> 00:45:31.640
if the man is comfortable and peace,

982
00:45:31.640 --> 00:45:33.280
it will give the permission to the woman

983
00:45:33.280 --> 00:45:35.600
to be at ease as well.

984
00:45:35.600 --> 00:45:38.920
And the more you are at ease, the more you are yourself.

985
00:45:40.040 --> 00:45:41.920
Absolutely, absolutely.

986
00:45:41.920 --> 00:45:43.600
And one thing that you can do, guys,

987
00:45:43.600 --> 00:45:45.920
if it's a date and you're meeting at a coffee shop,

988
00:45:45.920 --> 00:45:49.040
you're meeting at a restaurant of some sort,

989
00:45:49.040 --> 00:45:51.080
I know it's great to go in and get a table

990
00:45:51.080 --> 00:45:53.360
so you could get there early, you can go put your name in,

991
00:45:53.360 --> 00:45:55.120
if it's a restaurant and there's gonna be a wait,

992
00:45:55.120 --> 00:45:57.640
but if it's not a restaurant, there's not gonna be a wait,

993
00:45:58.480 --> 00:46:00.120
you can wait for her in the parking lot,

994
00:46:00.120 --> 00:46:01.120
you can wait in your car,

995
00:46:01.120 --> 00:46:02.880
you can wait for her in the parking lot,

996
00:46:02.880 --> 00:46:05.400
you can let her, tell her, let me know when you're here,

997
00:46:05.400 --> 00:46:08.560
you can be watching for her, when you see her pull in,

998
00:46:08.560 --> 00:46:10.320
when you see her get out of her car,

999
00:46:10.320 --> 00:46:11.960
you get out of your car too, why?

1000
00:46:11.960 --> 00:46:14.400
So that you can walk in with her

1001
00:46:14.400 --> 00:46:15.800
and you can open the door for her,

1002
00:46:15.800 --> 00:46:18.080
you can walk in with her, right?

1003
00:46:18.080 --> 00:46:20.840
She's not walking in nervous, like looking around,

1004
00:46:20.840 --> 00:46:23.600
trying to see where you are, okay?

1005
00:46:23.600 --> 00:46:27.040
Or like, she's getting there earlier than you

1006
00:46:27.080 --> 00:46:29.120
and she's getting the table,

1007
00:46:29.120 --> 00:46:30.800
a lot of times if it's coffee,

1008
00:46:30.800 --> 00:46:33.040
whoever gets there first, gonna go sit at the table,

1009
00:46:33.040 --> 00:46:34.960
maybe got their coffee, that's another thing,

1010
00:46:34.960 --> 00:46:37.800
wait for them, ladies, you as well,

1011
00:46:37.800 --> 00:46:40.320
don't get your coffee and be a little misindependent,

1012
00:46:40.320 --> 00:46:42.360
get there early, get your own coffee,

1013
00:46:42.360 --> 00:46:43.680
so there's no strings attached

1014
00:46:43.680 --> 00:46:44.920
and sit down and wait for him

1015
00:46:44.920 --> 00:46:47.720
so that he doesn't have to buy your coffee, no.

1016
00:46:47.720 --> 00:46:50.480
You wait, if you got there first and you went inside,

1017
00:46:50.480 --> 00:46:53.480
okay, fine, but when they come in,

1018
00:46:53.480 --> 00:46:55.520
you get up and you go over to them,

1019
00:46:55.520 --> 00:46:58.520
you greet them, you give the hug, you give whatever, right?

1020
00:46:58.520 --> 00:47:00.560
This is how we are amicable,

1021
00:47:00.560 --> 00:47:02.200
this is how, this is flirtatious,

1022
00:47:02.200 --> 00:47:03.800
you know, you go over there and then you wait,

1023
00:47:03.800 --> 00:47:06.720
you let him, you know, do the thing,

1024
00:47:06.720 --> 00:47:07.640
you let him do the thing,

1025
00:47:07.640 --> 00:47:08.800
you let him order his coffee

1026
00:47:08.800 --> 00:47:10.080
and then he'll say, what do you like?

1027
00:47:10.080 --> 00:47:13.280
And then you order your coffee, right?

1028
00:47:13.280 --> 00:47:15.280
He may say, hey, you order first,

1029
00:47:15.280 --> 00:47:16.680
whatever, doesn't matter,

1030
00:47:16.680 --> 00:47:18.840
ladies should probably always go first,

1031
00:47:18.840 --> 00:47:22.000
except there are, there's some mismanners out there

1032
00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:25.240
that say that men should go first in certain scenarios,

1033
00:47:25.920 --> 00:47:26.760
like for instance,

1034
00:47:26.760 --> 00:47:28.680
a man should go through a revolving door first,

1035
00:47:28.680 --> 00:47:31.080
you know, I'm not up on all that stuff, y'all,

1036
00:47:31.080 --> 00:47:33.120
I don't know, but I know this,

1037
00:47:33.120 --> 00:47:36.240
I know that I've had several ladies say to me,

1038
00:47:36.240 --> 00:47:37.720
he asked me for coffee,

1039
00:47:37.720 --> 00:47:39.720
but when I got there, he was already there,

1040
00:47:39.720 --> 00:47:42.120
he was already seated at a table with his coffee

1041
00:47:42.120 --> 00:47:43.600
and then I was forced to just go up

1042
00:47:43.600 --> 00:47:48.600
and order my own and buy it, no, no, no, no,

1043
00:47:48.680 --> 00:47:51.840
that is not gentlemanly and it's not flirtatious

1044
00:47:51.840 --> 00:47:54.360
and remember, we already said that women want a gentleman

1045
00:47:54.360 --> 00:47:56.440
and so we don't do that.

1046
00:47:56.440 --> 00:48:00.120
Okay, Kim waited in her car, let her walk him in,

1047
00:48:00.120 --> 00:48:04.160
yes, ladies, if you wanna be flirtatious with a man,

1048
00:48:04.160 --> 00:48:06.880
be a lady, chivalry is not dead,

1049
00:48:06.880 --> 00:48:10.320
it just went wherever ladylikeness went, right?

1050
00:48:10.320 --> 00:48:15.040
So show up and not be, don't be a diva, right?

1051
00:48:15.040 --> 00:48:18.480
There's a line between being ladylike and being a diva,

1052
00:48:18.480 --> 00:48:20.320
expecting this man to serve you,

1053
00:48:20.320 --> 00:48:23.640
that's not the mentality, that's not the attitude at all,

1054
00:48:23.680 --> 00:48:26.120
what the attitude is, is that you're showing up

1055
00:48:26.120 --> 00:48:28.360
and you're saying to him, even on this date

1056
00:48:28.360 --> 00:48:30.920
and this is very flirtatious because this is very feminine,

1057
00:48:30.920 --> 00:48:33.320
you're saying, hey, I'm willing to let you lead,

1058
00:48:35.400 --> 00:48:40.200
I'm showing up and I'm willing to let you lead, all right?

1059
00:48:40.200 --> 00:48:41.400
All right.

1060
00:48:41.400 --> 00:48:46.120
Hey Jackie, one thing men really notice is,

1061
00:48:46.120 --> 00:48:50.480
does the woman on the first or the second date respect him?

1062
00:48:50.480 --> 00:48:54.320
If your actions reflect otherwise,

1063
00:48:54.320 --> 00:48:59.320
it's a huge turnoff for men because men like respect as-

1064
00:48:59.760 --> 00:49:04.200
Okay, Nitin, respect is such a trigger word for women

1065
00:49:04.200 --> 00:49:06.320
because women were oppressed for generations

1066
00:49:06.320 --> 00:49:08.560
and tomorrow is National Women's Day, ladies,

1067
00:49:08.560 --> 00:49:11.080
so hurrah, high five, high five.

1068
00:49:11.080 --> 00:49:14.880
Okay, so Nitin, explain to us what you mean

1069
00:49:14.880 --> 00:49:15.880
by the word respect,

1070
00:49:15.880 --> 00:49:17.360
because it means something different to everyone,

1071
00:49:17.360 --> 00:49:19.680
so you tell us what that means for you.

1072
00:49:20.080 --> 00:49:23.560
If I'm having a conversation and if I'm talking,

1073
00:49:23.560 --> 00:49:26.760
interrupting me, I think that shows me

1074
00:49:26.760 --> 00:49:28.640
that you are not really interested.

1075
00:49:29.920 --> 00:49:31.920
Let me finish, right?

1076
00:49:33.080 --> 00:49:35.600
Weigh in, I think we guys,

1077
00:49:35.600 --> 00:49:40.280
I like when a woman can weigh in on a matter.

1078
00:49:41.480 --> 00:49:45.440
Another thing is allow me to pay for the first date, right?

1079
00:49:45.720 --> 00:49:50.720
Okay, just can you put a pin in there?

1080
00:49:51.360 --> 00:49:52.480
I don't mean to interrupt you.

1081
00:49:52.480 --> 00:49:54.800
Let's put a pin in there because I want to talk about those.

1082
00:49:54.800 --> 00:49:55.680
Those are all good.

1083
00:49:55.680 --> 00:49:57.880
So you guys, part of the woo, winning others over,

1084
00:49:57.880 --> 00:49:59.360
getting them to talk about themselves,

1085
00:49:59.360 --> 00:50:00.200
getting them to-

1086
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.240
you know, feel comfortable making someone comfortable.

1087
00:50:03.240 --> 00:50:04.240
That's great.

1088
00:50:04.240 --> 00:50:06.080
But Nitin just said something.

1089
00:50:06.080 --> 00:50:07.520
And it's not just about respecting men.

1090
00:50:07.520 --> 00:50:09.020
It's about respecting people.

1091
00:50:09.020 --> 00:50:11.400
And that is let people, let them talk.

1092
00:50:11.400 --> 00:50:12.740
Don't interrupt them.

1093
00:50:12.740 --> 00:50:13.760
Don't ask them a question.

1094
00:50:13.760 --> 00:50:16.720
And then halfway through their response, interrupt them.

1095
00:50:16.720 --> 00:50:18.080
I know you get excited.

1096
00:50:18.080 --> 00:50:20.160
I know you want to talk to you.

1097
00:50:20.160 --> 00:50:21.160
Trust me, I get it.

1098
00:50:21.160 --> 00:50:22.640
I'm a talker.

1099
00:50:22.640 --> 00:50:24.440
But yeah, interrupting,

1100
00:50:24.440 --> 00:50:27.280
I've been taught that interruptions are rude period,

1101
00:50:27.280 --> 00:50:28.120
right?

1102
00:50:28.120 --> 00:50:28.940
It's rude.

1103
00:50:28.940 --> 00:50:32.020
People are slow talkers and they're slow processors.

1104
00:50:32.020 --> 00:50:34.620
And they just like take a while to answer.

1105
00:50:34.620 --> 00:50:38.420
And it might really be tempting for you to just cut them off

1106
00:50:38.420 --> 00:50:39.680
because you're like, oh my God,

1107
00:50:39.680 --> 00:50:43.180
this is watching like watching an iceberg move.

1108
00:50:43.180 --> 00:50:44.020
Right?

1109
00:50:44.020 --> 00:50:45.420
It's hard.

1110
00:50:45.420 --> 00:50:47.380
But interruptions are definitely rude.

1111
00:50:47.380 --> 00:50:51.140
So part of the woo is letting people express themselves

1112
00:50:51.140 --> 00:50:52.760
without cutting them off.

1113
00:50:52.760 --> 00:50:53.600
All right.

1114
00:50:53.600 --> 00:50:55.540
So Nitin said, letting me pay.

1115
00:50:55.540 --> 00:50:57.040
A man thinks it's disrespectful.

1116
00:50:57.040 --> 00:50:59.320
Gentlemen, can we get a consensus?

1117
00:50:59.320 --> 00:51:01.820
All the guys here, please raise your hand.

1118
00:51:01.820 --> 00:51:03.360
If you think it's disrespectful,

1119
00:51:03.360 --> 00:51:05.720
if a woman insists on paying for herself,

1120
00:51:05.720 --> 00:51:09.760
or if she argues with you or tries to force paying.

1121
00:51:12.480 --> 00:51:14.880
Let me see the hands of men that think that's a turnoff.

1122
00:51:14.880 --> 00:51:16.240
That's, they don't like it.

1123
00:51:20.560 --> 00:51:21.400
Right.

1124
00:51:21.400 --> 00:51:23.080
I wouldn't say it's disrespectful,

1125
00:51:23.080 --> 00:51:25.540
but it's not a letting me leave.

1126
00:51:25.540 --> 00:51:26.380
You know?

1127
00:51:26.780 --> 00:51:27.880
Yeah.

1128
00:51:27.880 --> 00:51:28.720
Yeah.

1129
00:51:28.720 --> 00:51:29.980
Ladies, it kind of,

1130
00:51:29.980 --> 00:51:32.700
without you saying anything about yourself,

1131
00:51:32.700 --> 00:51:34.100
it says something about you.

1132
00:51:35.780 --> 00:51:39.900
It says that you're prideful, basically, right?

1133
00:51:39.900 --> 00:51:40.940
Let him pay.

1134
00:51:40.940 --> 00:51:41.880
It's okay.

1135
00:51:41.880 --> 00:51:42.720
He can.

1136
00:51:42.720 --> 00:51:44.260
You're like, but I make more money than him.

1137
00:51:44.260 --> 00:51:45.940
Well, so what?

1138
00:51:45.940 --> 00:51:47.160
It's not about who makes more money.

1139
00:51:47.160 --> 00:51:50.160
It's about being treated like a lady.

1140
00:51:52.020 --> 00:51:52.880
It's good.

1141
00:51:52.880 --> 00:51:53.720
Okay.

1142
00:51:53.720 --> 00:51:54.980
And if you really don't like it,

1143
00:51:54.980 --> 00:51:56.100
get to the root of why,

1144
00:51:56.100 --> 00:51:58.440
like, why does that bother you?

1145
00:51:58.440 --> 00:51:59.460
What kind of,

1146
00:51:59.460 --> 00:52:01.300
why does that make you feel uncomfortable?

1147
00:52:01.300 --> 00:52:03.420
Get to the root of that,

1148
00:52:03.420 --> 00:52:04.860
because that will be helpful.

1149
00:52:04.860 --> 00:52:05.700
Okay.

1150
00:52:05.700 --> 00:52:07.620
So we're still on the woo.

1151
00:52:07.620 --> 00:52:08.460
Go ahead.

1152
00:52:09.520 --> 00:52:10.560
I think it's also,

1153
00:52:10.560 --> 00:52:11.580
it wouldn't be rude.

1154
00:52:11.580 --> 00:52:14.660
It's just, if a woman pays when I'm supposed to pay,

1155
00:52:14.660 --> 00:52:16.220
then I tell everyone,

1156
00:52:16.220 --> 00:52:17.320
tell friends and folks,

1157
00:52:17.320 --> 00:52:20.020
and they'll just think I'll get a negative response

1158
00:52:20.020 --> 00:52:20.860
from them thinking,

1159
00:52:20.860 --> 00:52:22.680
oh, Hunter, you're not doing a good job

1160
00:52:22.680 --> 00:52:24.580
as a man dating a woman.

1161
00:52:25.140 --> 00:52:27.380
So it's like, oh, I better pay then.

1162
00:52:27.380 --> 00:52:28.220
All right.

1163
00:52:28.220 --> 00:52:30.060
So Hunter doesn't want to get in trouble

1164
00:52:30.060 --> 00:52:32.560
with his friends and family.

1165
00:52:32.560 --> 00:52:34.480
So don't get Hunter in trouble.

1166
00:52:34.480 --> 00:52:35.720
Let him pay.

1167
00:52:35.720 --> 00:52:36.620
Okay.

1168
00:52:36.620 --> 00:52:37.460
All right.

1169
00:52:38.860 --> 00:52:40.580
I've offered to pay for the second dinner

1170
00:52:40.580 --> 00:52:41.720
and he looked at me,

1171
00:52:41.720 --> 00:52:43.120
asked me to arm wrestle,

1172
00:52:43.120 --> 00:52:43.960
which was a joke.

1173
00:52:43.960 --> 00:52:44.800
He was paying.

1174
00:52:44.800 --> 00:52:45.700
Very funny.

1175
00:52:45.700 --> 00:52:47.400
Funny, funny.

1176
00:52:47.400 --> 00:52:48.240
Okay.

1177
00:52:48.240 --> 00:52:49.340
Yeah.

1178
00:52:49.340 --> 00:52:50.180
Very funny.

1179
00:52:50.180 --> 00:52:52.380
Also with Jackie,

1180
00:52:52.380 --> 00:52:57.380
if women recognize what the core values are for a man,

1181
00:53:01.540 --> 00:53:04.060
allow him to do that.

1182
00:53:04.060 --> 00:53:07.380
So any man that is not a reprobate

1183
00:53:07.380 --> 00:53:09.940
is designed by God to want to protect

1184
00:53:09.940 --> 00:53:11.820
and provide for his woman.

1185
00:53:11.820 --> 00:53:13.860
So allow that.

1186
00:53:15.140 --> 00:53:17.900
Brett, can you tell the ladies,

1187
00:53:17.900 --> 00:53:20.000
according to you, okay,

1188
00:53:20.000 --> 00:53:22.440
what is the core values of a man?

1189
00:53:22.440 --> 00:53:23.880
And gentlemen, please weigh in.

1190
00:53:23.880 --> 00:53:25.400
Brett, we'll let you start.

1191
00:53:25.400 --> 00:53:28.080
And then guys, you can weigh in on that too.

1192
00:53:28.080 --> 00:53:30.440
The core values of a man,

1193
00:53:30.440 --> 00:53:32.760
the way God has designed us

1194
00:53:32.760 --> 00:53:37.760
is to provide for and protect our woman,

1195
00:53:38.080 --> 00:53:42.520
unless he is not worthy of the skin that God gave him.

1196
00:53:42.520 --> 00:53:43.360
But-

1197
00:53:43.360 --> 00:53:45.280
Whoa, he's coming on hard.

1198
00:53:45.280 --> 00:53:47.120
He's coming out, coming out hard.

1199
00:53:47.120 --> 00:53:47.960
Okay.

1200
00:53:47.960 --> 00:53:48.960
All right.

1201
00:53:48.960 --> 00:53:49.800
It's what it is.

1202
00:53:50.600 --> 00:53:51.440
Take that skin off.

1203
00:53:51.440 --> 00:53:52.800
You're not worthy of that skin you're wearing.

1204
00:53:52.800 --> 00:53:54.520
I'm sorry, go ahead.

1205
00:53:54.520 --> 00:53:55.360
Okay.

1206
00:53:55.360 --> 00:53:58.120
You're not worthy of the air on the planet then.

1207
00:53:58.120 --> 00:53:59.200
Whatever.

1208
00:53:59.200 --> 00:54:03.800
You are a reprobate if your core is not

1209
00:54:03.800 --> 00:54:06.720
to do those two things.

1210
00:54:06.720 --> 00:54:09.160
And if there's any Christian man on here

1211
00:54:09.160 --> 00:54:12.480
that can disagree with me, go ahead.

1212
00:54:13.560 --> 00:54:14.760
I dare you.

1213
00:54:14.760 --> 00:54:17.320
And ladies, we have a part to play in that.

1214
00:54:17.320 --> 00:54:18.440
Men can't protect us

1215
00:54:18.440 --> 00:54:20.920
if we won't allow ourselves to be protected.

1216
00:54:20.920 --> 00:54:21.760
Right?

1217
00:54:22.720 --> 00:54:23.560
Okay.

1218
00:54:23.560 --> 00:54:26.200
I remember I had a student who's, you know, fiance.

1219
00:54:26.200 --> 00:54:29.400
She met, you know, she had success in this program.

1220
00:54:29.400 --> 00:54:31.840
You know, he went to put his arm out

1221
00:54:31.840 --> 00:54:34.440
because she was about to walk into the traffic.

1222
00:54:34.440 --> 00:54:37.800
You know, they were at a concert or a game or something.

1223
00:54:37.800 --> 00:54:39.400
And, you know, he saw the car coming.

1224
00:54:39.400 --> 00:54:40.240
She didn't.

1225
00:54:40.240 --> 00:54:41.840
He put his hand out to kind of like block her

1226
00:54:41.840 --> 00:54:43.400
from walking into the street.

1227
00:54:43.400 --> 00:54:45.200
She got super upset about it.

1228
00:54:45.200 --> 00:54:46.800
I don't need you to protect me.

1229
00:54:47.640 --> 00:54:51.480
She like got all up, you know, she got all up in it.

1230
00:54:51.480 --> 00:54:53.360
And so ladies, we can't be,

1231
00:54:53.360 --> 00:54:54.280
men can't protect us

1232
00:54:54.280 --> 00:54:56.680
if we won't allow ourselves to be protected.

1233
00:54:56.680 --> 00:55:00.080
My husband makes me walk on the inside of.

1234
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.760
The road, when we're walking on a near road, like he walks on the outside, I walk on the

1235
00:55:04.760 --> 00:55:05.760
inside.

1236
00:55:05.760 --> 00:55:07.800
And at first I have to be honest, it was kind of annoying.

1237
00:55:07.800 --> 00:55:09.360
I'm like, you're not my dad.

1238
00:55:09.360 --> 00:55:10.360
Right.

1239
00:55:10.360 --> 00:55:16.800
Um, I'm a big girl, you know, like, but then after a while, after some heart healing, I

1240
00:55:16.800 --> 00:55:19.080
was just like, okay, I've never.

1241
00:55:19.080 --> 00:55:22.000
And for those of you that have never had a man want to protect you, this is going to

1242
00:55:22.000 --> 00:55:27.200
be a huge shift for you because you've never had a man want to protect you.

1243
00:55:27.200 --> 00:55:29.600
And so it's going to, you're going to have to get used to that for sure.

1244
00:55:29.600 --> 00:55:30.600
Okay.

1245
00:55:30.600 --> 00:55:31.600
But yes, I like that.

1246
00:55:31.600 --> 00:55:35.120
Any other core values of men, men, any other core values?

1247
00:55:35.120 --> 00:55:44.880
Um, I guess Jackie listening and, and participating, um, if I'm sharing something with you, um,

1248
00:55:44.880 --> 00:55:51.360
that may be a little personal, uh, I'm opening up to you because I, I'm feeling comfortable

1249
00:55:51.360 --> 00:55:57.720
with you, ask me some leading questions, show interest so that I'm not speaking to

1250
00:55:57.720 --> 00:56:02.240
a wall and, and be genuine, right?

1251
00:56:02.240 --> 00:56:10.200
If you don't understand something, ask me to clarify because guys love to share.

1252
00:56:10.200 --> 00:56:17.680
And one of the ways I see a woman is interested in how she responds, please don't react, respond.

1253
00:56:17.680 --> 00:56:21.360
Like if, uh, I may have shared something, something might've happened.

1254
00:56:21.360 --> 00:56:23.560
I had a bad day.

1255
00:56:23.560 --> 00:56:24.560
Give me the grace.

1256
00:56:24.560 --> 00:56:30.800
I think one of the core values that men look for is grace on how you can help.

1257
00:56:30.800 --> 00:56:34.960
Grace is very important to us because we are imperfect like you, and we're going to make

1258
00:56:34.960 --> 00:56:35.960
mistakes.

1259
00:56:35.960 --> 00:56:37.600
So how does a lady show me grace?

1260
00:56:37.600 --> 00:56:38.840
Can she forgive me?

1261
00:56:38.840 --> 00:56:43.020
Those are, those are my values, core values and understanding.

1262
00:56:43.020 --> 00:56:45.320
Is she taking the time to understand me?

1263
00:56:45.320 --> 00:56:48.280
Is she genuinely interested in me?

1264
00:56:48.280 --> 00:56:51.680
Because I can sense how she engages me.

1265
00:56:51.680 --> 00:56:53.480
Yes, it's all good.

1266
00:56:53.480 --> 00:56:54.480
Those are really good points.

1267
00:56:54.480 --> 00:56:56.480
You guys, everyone wants to be listened to.

1268
00:56:56.480 --> 00:56:58.000
So put away your phone.

1269
00:56:58.000 --> 00:56:59.480
We're all bad about this.

1270
00:56:59.480 --> 00:57:00.480
Put away your phone.

1271
00:57:00.480 --> 00:57:05.800
We're having a conversation, make eye contact, you know, uh, engage in listening, but gentlemen,

1272
00:57:05.800 --> 00:57:09.920
I want to let you guys notice this and ladies, you two gentlemen seem to be bigger offenders

1273
00:57:09.920 --> 00:57:11.680
of this than men than women.

1274
00:57:11.680 --> 00:57:15.160
So I'm going to go ahead and address the guys, but ladies, if the shoe fits, tie it

1275
00:57:15.160 --> 00:57:16.160
up and wear it.

1276
00:57:16.160 --> 00:57:17.160
Okay.

1277
00:57:17.160 --> 00:57:19.000
Don't talk at us.

1278
00:57:19.000 --> 00:57:21.160
Talk to us.

1279
00:57:21.160 --> 00:57:22.400
Don't talk at us.

1280
00:57:22.400 --> 00:57:23.400
Talk to us.

1281
00:57:23.400 --> 00:57:24.400
All right.

1282
00:57:24.400 --> 00:57:25.400
It's not a monologue.

1283
00:57:25.400 --> 00:57:26.480
You're not on a stage somewhere.

1284
00:57:26.480 --> 00:57:27.480
It's a conversation.

1285
00:57:27.480 --> 00:57:30.920
It means it's two-sided, which means that you don't do all the talking and then we do

1286
00:57:30.920 --> 00:57:33.120
all the listening, right?

1287
00:57:33.120 --> 00:57:38.200
All the complaints that I've ever had about that is always about the man doing it.

1288
00:57:38.200 --> 00:57:39.200
He didn't ask me any questions.

1289
00:57:39.200 --> 00:57:41.720
All I did was talk about himself all night.

1290
00:57:41.720 --> 00:57:45.000
All he did was talk and talk and talk and expect me to listen.

1291
00:57:45.000 --> 00:57:46.000
Talked at me.

1292
00:57:46.000 --> 00:57:47.000
Didn't talk to me.

1293
00:57:47.000 --> 00:57:50.040
Didn't pause for my reaction or my response.

1294
00:57:50.040 --> 00:57:54.000
You guys, if you're doing that, you're not getting a second date, right?

1295
00:57:54.000 --> 00:57:56.000
If you're doing that, that's not wooing.

1296
00:57:56.000 --> 00:57:58.000
That's not winning anyone over.

1297
00:57:58.000 --> 00:57:59.000
Okay.

1298
00:57:59.000 --> 00:58:00.000
For sure.

1299
00:58:00.000 --> 00:58:04.520
And so, like I said, the only complaints and I get them a lot, women say that men do this

1300
00:58:04.520 --> 00:58:05.520
a lot.

1301
00:58:06.440 --> 00:58:09.280
I understand that you guys only have like 8,000 words a day.

1302
00:58:09.280 --> 00:58:13.480
And if you're going to use them all with us on the date, make sure that you take a breath

1303
00:58:13.480 --> 00:58:16.760
and let us respond and talk to us and not at us.

1304
00:58:16.760 --> 00:58:17.760
Okay.

1305
00:58:17.760 --> 00:58:18.760
All right.

1306
00:58:18.760 --> 00:58:22.000
Cause I know that women get a bad rap of being the talkers.

1307
00:58:22.000 --> 00:58:25.640
But in these situations, that's usually not the case.

1308
00:58:25.640 --> 00:58:26.640
All right.

1309
00:58:26.640 --> 00:58:27.640
So core values for men.

1310
00:58:27.640 --> 00:58:28.800
I like hearing this.

1311
00:58:28.800 --> 00:58:30.040
We love hearing from you guys.

1312
00:58:30.040 --> 00:58:36.480
So this listening, listening to me, responding, not reacting, ladies do not get your, don't

1313
00:58:36.480 --> 00:58:38.960
get your, do not get a stick up your butt.

1314
00:58:38.960 --> 00:58:39.960
Okay.

1315
00:58:39.960 --> 00:58:44.080
If a man says something that you don't really like or agree with, you don't got to get all

1316
00:58:44.080 --> 00:58:45.240
offended.

1317
00:58:45.240 --> 00:58:51.440
You don't got to act like sister, you know, sister of the driven white snow.

1318
00:58:51.440 --> 00:58:52.440
Okay.

1319
00:58:52.440 --> 00:58:53.440
Seriously.

1320
00:58:53.440 --> 00:58:59.780
If he, if he says a cuss word or something, you know, maybe he's not your person.

1321
00:59:00.520 --> 00:59:03.140
Maybe, you know, you're not going to go on a second date with him, but you also don't

1322
00:59:03.140 --> 00:59:07.460
have to act like you just got off the Puritan Mayflower.

1323
00:59:07.460 --> 00:59:09.060
Okay.

1324
00:59:09.060 --> 00:59:12.540
You've heard, you've heard that curse word before.

1325
00:59:12.540 --> 00:59:14.460
I guarantee it.

1326
00:59:14.460 --> 00:59:18.140
And so you don't have to give him, you don't have to become his mom.

1327
00:59:18.140 --> 00:59:23.660
Don't become his mom and tell him why he shouldn't cuss and why you're so offended by this cuss

1328
00:59:23.660 --> 00:59:24.660
word.

1329
00:59:24.660 --> 00:59:30.660
And we all know that you watch CSI where they be cussing up a storm and all your other like,

1330
00:59:30.660 --> 00:59:34.340
you know, true life, you know, true crime drama shows.

1331
00:59:34.340 --> 00:59:35.340
So don't do it.

1332
00:59:35.340 --> 00:59:36.340
Be polite.

1333
00:59:36.340 --> 00:59:37.340
Yes.

1334
00:59:37.340 --> 00:59:38.340
That's good.

1335
00:59:38.340 --> 00:59:39.340
Okay.

1336
00:59:39.340 --> 00:59:40.340
In fact, you don't have to correct them at all.

1337
00:59:40.340 --> 00:59:41.340
You can just not go out with them again.

1338
00:59:41.340 --> 00:59:42.340
If they're not your thing.

1339
00:59:42.340 --> 00:59:43.340
It's all good.

1340
00:59:43.340 --> 00:59:44.340
Okay.

1341
00:59:44.340 --> 00:59:49.200
Can I add something else?

1342
00:59:49.200 --> 00:59:53.420
So one of the things that is awesome that your husband honored you by taking the street

1343
00:59:53.420 --> 00:59:54.420
and protecting you.

1344
00:59:55.180 --> 00:59:58.380
You know, it took not every woman is a lot of ladies have a problem with you opening

1345
00:59:58.380 --> 00:59:59.380
their door.

1346
00:59:59.380 --> 01:00:00.020
They're like, I can open my door.

1347
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.340
You know, but it really is a matter of cherishing and honor it.

1348
01:00:02.980 --> 01:00:06.780
And, you know, and guys are, um, wired to cherish, honor and lead.

1349
01:00:07.020 --> 01:00:13.300
So, but it really is just, it's, it's as an honor, not as a, you can't do it yourself.

1350
01:00:14.580 --> 01:00:15.900
It's so true.

1351
01:00:15.940 --> 01:00:18.120
We, we know we can open the door ladies.

1352
01:00:18.180 --> 01:00:21.260
You might even be able to put the suitcase up on the airplane,

1353
01:00:21.420 --> 01:00:24.780
but if a man offers to do it, you guys, this is just your rule of thumb from now

1354
01:00:24.780 --> 01:00:26.460
on, it doesn't matter who the man is.

1355
01:00:26.820 --> 01:00:27.140
All right.

1356
01:00:27.140 --> 01:00:29.580
Unless he's dangerous or unsafe for some reason.

1357
01:00:29.740 --> 01:00:34.020
If he offers to help you, you say yes.

1358
01:00:35.460 --> 01:00:35.980
All right.

1359
01:00:36.140 --> 01:00:38.420
Because you need to, you need that practice for sure.

1360
01:00:38.460 --> 01:00:39.700
Let the door get opened.

1361
01:00:39.760 --> 01:00:40.560
All the things.

1362
01:00:40.580 --> 01:00:40.980
Yes.

1363
01:00:40.980 --> 01:00:42.100
You got to chill for sure.

1364
01:00:42.100 --> 01:00:42.300
Okay.

1365
01:00:42.300 --> 01:00:43.320
You guys, we got to move on.

1366
01:00:43.700 --> 01:00:45.820
Um, we're going to talk about men.

1367
01:00:46.000 --> 01:00:48.220
We're going to talk about how to flirt and ladies, you're

1368
01:00:48.220 --> 01:00:49.940
going to help the men right now.

1369
01:00:50.260 --> 01:00:51.820
How do you like to be flirted with?

1370
01:00:51.820 --> 01:00:54.740
Like, for instance, if someone approaches you in a public place

1371
01:00:54.740 --> 01:00:58.620
that you don't know, they're a stranger, you know, they find you attractive.

1372
01:00:59.300 --> 01:01:00.580
Maybe you find them attractive.

1373
01:01:00.580 --> 01:01:02.780
Maybe you guys have been stealing glances at each other

1374
01:01:02.780 --> 01:01:04.580
across the produce section.

1375
01:01:04.900 --> 01:01:09.620
Um, if they approach you, how would you want someone to approach you in, in

1376
01:01:09.620 --> 01:01:12.140
public, you know, and flirt with you?

1377
01:01:12.660 --> 01:01:13.700
Um, how do you want that?

1378
01:01:13.700 --> 01:01:18.420
You guys, just so you know, looking at someone and I'm not talking about

1379
01:01:18.420 --> 01:01:21.580
staring at them, like you're some stalker who needs a restraining order.

1380
01:01:21.820 --> 01:01:26.460
But I am saying that glancing at someone and holding eye contact with

1381
01:01:26.500 --> 01:01:28.260
them for a few seconds, looking away.

1382
01:01:28.700 --> 01:01:32.140
And then, you know, when they look back up, you know, you look back

1383
01:01:32.140 --> 01:01:33.060
up and look at them again.

1384
01:01:33.100 --> 01:01:34.500
That's very flirtatious.

1385
01:01:35.540 --> 01:01:39.220
If you're making eye contact with someone more than once, you know, that

1386
01:01:39.220 --> 01:01:42.660
person is going to think that you are flirting with them and that

1387
01:01:42.660 --> 01:01:44.140
you are interested in them.

1388
01:01:44.940 --> 01:01:47.820
They are agreed.

1389
01:01:47.900 --> 01:01:50.380
Who would think that if someone kept catching your eye?

1390
01:01:56.940 --> 01:02:00.900
So that is, and you guys, and, and, and so when they, when you catch their

1391
01:02:00.900 --> 01:02:08.460
eye, maybe that second time, just smile, just a little smile and ladies.

1392
01:02:08.460 --> 01:02:11.900
One of the best ways that you can flirt during that time is you can look, you

1393
01:02:11.900 --> 01:02:14.820
know, at the second time when you catch their eye, you can smile and

1394
01:02:14.820 --> 01:02:15.860
then you can kind of look down.

1395
01:02:16.980 --> 01:02:20.300
If you smile and kind of look down, that is a very, you know,

1396
01:02:20.300 --> 01:02:21.700
we use the word coquettish.

1397
01:02:21.780 --> 01:02:24.180
That's very like a demure move.

1398
01:02:24.180 --> 01:02:28.700
That's definitely like, I notice you noticing me and I like it.

1399
01:02:28.900 --> 01:02:30.220
That is what that says.

1400
01:02:30.300 --> 01:02:32.020
That's what that body language says.

1401
01:02:33.820 --> 01:02:34.300
Okay.

1402
01:02:37.900 --> 01:02:38.420
Cool.

1403
01:02:38.820 --> 01:02:43.980
And when you do that, he's either going to approach you or he's not going to.

1404
01:02:47.740 --> 01:02:53.100
But if you just look again and you look away, you know, he may, he may not get

1405
01:02:53.100 --> 01:02:57.660
the cue, he may not get the flag, the green flag, but if you smile a little

1406
01:02:57.660 --> 01:03:03.340
bit and you look down, trust me, he will get that.

1407
01:03:03.340 --> 01:03:06.500
You're like, you know, you're a little embarrassed, you know, you, he was

1408
01:03:06.500 --> 01:03:09.860
looking at you, you're looking at him and now you're, you know, demurely

1409
01:03:09.860 --> 01:03:11.620
kind of smiling and looking down.

1410
01:03:11.860 --> 01:03:14.300
Now he has the green light to come and say, hi to you.

1411
01:03:14.860 --> 01:03:16.940
Talk to you, do something gentlemen.

1412
01:03:17.140 --> 01:03:23.020
If a woman does that and you were purposely looking at her several

1413
01:03:23.020 --> 01:03:24.740
times, go talk to her.

1414
01:03:25.300 --> 01:03:26.820
She's giving you the open door.

1415
01:03:29.500 --> 01:03:32.700
If she gives you the stink face and looks away, that's a closed door.

1416
01:03:38.940 --> 01:03:39.440
All right.

1417
01:03:40.420 --> 01:03:44.300
Um, men flirting, dating apps, gentlemen.

1418
01:03:45.060 --> 01:03:47.940
We don't want to hear, Hey, how was your day?

1419
01:03:48.060 --> 01:03:49.340
Hey, how are you doing?

1420
01:03:49.660 --> 01:03:50.540
Hey, hi.

1421
01:03:50.540 --> 01:03:51.260
How are you doing?

1422
01:03:51.260 --> 01:03:52.220
How was your day?

1423
01:03:52.660 --> 01:03:56.940
You know, how is your week going over and over and over and over and over again?

1424
01:03:57.180 --> 01:04:01.980
So we're here to help you get some pickup lines, ladies put the best pickup lines

1425
01:04:01.980 --> 01:04:04.980
that you've ever heard in your life in the chat, gentlemen, if you have some

1426
01:04:04.980 --> 01:04:08.500
good ones to share with each other, let's see them, let's see them.

1427
01:04:08.620 --> 01:04:09.460
I will tell you one.

1428
01:04:09.460 --> 01:04:10.500
That's not a good pickup line.

1429
01:04:10.500 --> 01:04:13.700
Even though I'm a married woman, I still do get hit on every once in a blue moon.

1430
01:04:13.860 --> 01:04:14.940
I was at sprouts.

1431
01:04:15.180 --> 01:04:19.740
I had an entire cart full of food for my cleanse that I was doing.

1432
01:04:19.980 --> 01:04:21.980
And this guy walked up to my cart.

1433
01:04:22.340 --> 01:04:23.620
He looked down at my cart.

1434
01:04:23.700 --> 01:04:25.980
He looked up at me and he said, that's a lot of fiber.

1435
01:04:26.580 --> 01:04:29.860
And I was like, yeah, it is.

1436
01:04:29.900 --> 01:04:32.940
And he's like, that's going to make you poop.

1437
01:04:33.340 --> 01:04:37.620
And then he walked away, but I knew that he was kind of like flirting with me.

1438
01:04:37.620 --> 01:04:37.980
Right.

1439
01:04:37.980 --> 01:04:40.060
And I was just like, wow, that was just really weird.

1440
01:04:40.220 --> 01:04:45.020
And so I went down the other aisles and then I ran into him again, much to my

1441
01:04:45.020 --> 01:04:48.860
dismay, and he was there and then he looked me right in the face and he said,

1442
01:04:48.980 --> 01:04:53.500
Hey, he goes, I just want to let you know that, you know, you look like

1443
01:04:53.500 --> 01:04:55.540
someone who can take a good poop.

1444
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:07.080
He looked like someone who's regular, that poops regularly or something like that.

1445
01:05:07.080 --> 01:05:14.440
And I was just like, you guys, I was like, that's not a great line, but it's also hilarious.

1446
01:05:14.440 --> 01:05:18.200
And so I just kind of like laughed and looked down.

1447
01:05:18.200 --> 01:05:19.640
I didn't tell him I was a matchmaker.

1448
01:05:19.640 --> 01:05:25.840
I didn't tell him what I did, but I just said, well, I said, that's not the best line.

1449
01:05:25.840 --> 01:05:28.200
I said, that's not the best line for you kind of thing.

1450
01:05:28.200 --> 01:05:30.440
And I just kept going, uh, you know, in my life.

1451
01:05:30.440 --> 01:05:35.080
So you guys poops are funny, but definitely not a good pickup line.

1452
01:05:35.080 --> 01:05:36.080
Okay.

1453
01:05:36.080 --> 01:05:37.760
So best pickup lines.

1454
01:05:37.760 --> 01:05:41.840
Let's go ahead and have a contest and the poster girl for Metamucil.

1455
01:05:41.840 --> 01:05:42.840
Yeah.

1456
01:05:42.840 --> 01:05:43.880
Just, I don't know.

1457
01:05:43.880 --> 01:05:47.280
You look like someone who's, who's healthy and regular.

1458
01:05:47.280 --> 01:05:48.720
Thanks dude.

1459
01:05:48.720 --> 01:05:50.760
I appreciate that.

1460
01:05:50.760 --> 01:05:57.000
Want to see a dead body, Nora, what's explain.

1461
01:05:57.000 --> 01:05:58.000
So I was on a date.

1462
01:05:58.000 --> 01:05:59.000
Well, okay.

1463
01:05:59.000 --> 01:06:02.840
I was, it was a guy I'd already met with, but I matched him on like, okay, Cupid, but

1464
01:06:02.840 --> 01:06:06.680
I just forgot to like, ask him what he did for a living.

1465
01:06:06.680 --> 01:06:09.680
I just like, didn't really, I don't think that's that interesting of a question sometimes,

1466
01:06:09.680 --> 01:06:11.680
but maybe I should have asked.

1467
01:06:11.680 --> 01:06:16.160
So yeah, we met up for ice cream and he came in this like really oversized suit and I was

1468
01:06:16.160 --> 01:06:17.320
like, Oh, where'd you come from?

1469
01:06:17.320 --> 01:06:18.720
He's like, Oh, I'm from work.

1470
01:06:18.720 --> 01:06:20.320
And so it turned out he was a funeral director.

1471
01:06:20.320 --> 01:06:21.840
I was like, Oh, that's interesting.

1472
01:06:21.840 --> 01:06:23.920
Like I don't really know that much about the industry.

1473
01:06:23.920 --> 01:06:25.320
And he was like, Oh yeah.

1474
01:06:25.320 --> 01:06:26.320
Well, do you want to come by?

1475
01:06:26.640 --> 01:06:27.640
Like, do you want to see a dead body?

1476
01:06:27.640 --> 01:06:29.720
And I was like, no, no, I don't.

1477
01:06:29.720 --> 01:06:31.840
So that was the first and last date with him.

1478
01:06:31.840 --> 01:06:33.560
Oh my gosh.

1479
01:06:33.560 --> 01:06:39.880
So disrespectful that sound like that he would be even willing to show you some person's

1480
01:06:39.880 --> 01:06:40.880
body.

1481
01:06:40.880 --> 01:06:41.880
Yeah.

1482
01:06:41.880 --> 01:06:44.800
There was a lot to unpack there.

1483
01:06:44.800 --> 01:06:46.200
Yeah.

1484
01:06:46.200 --> 01:06:48.040
That was so, Oh my gosh.

1485
01:06:48.040 --> 01:06:49.040
That's a lot to unpack.

1486
01:06:49.040 --> 01:06:50.040
Okay.

1487
01:06:50.040 --> 01:06:51.040
So you guys, do you want to see a dead body?

1488
01:06:51.040 --> 01:06:52.040
It's not a good one.

1489
01:06:52.040 --> 01:06:53.040
It's not a good one at all.

1490
01:06:53.040 --> 01:06:54.040
All right.

1491
01:06:54.280 --> 01:07:00.160
Um, I was reading the book of numbers and I realized I didn't have yours, Maggie.

1492
01:07:00.160 --> 01:07:04.200
So corny, but funny because ladies raise your hand.

1493
01:07:04.200 --> 01:07:08.880
If you like a funny guy, if you like a guy who can crack a joke, that's, you know, not

1494
01:07:08.880 --> 01:07:09.880
off color.

1495
01:07:09.880 --> 01:07:10.880
That's funny.

1496
01:07:10.880 --> 01:07:11.880
Corny.

1497
01:07:11.880 --> 01:07:12.880
Yeah.

1498
01:07:12.880 --> 01:07:13.880
Look at all that.

1499
01:07:13.880 --> 01:07:14.880
We like the, we like it.

1500
01:07:14.880 --> 01:07:15.880
Funny gentlemen.

1501
01:07:15.880 --> 01:07:16.880
We like it.

1502
01:07:16.880 --> 01:07:17.880
Okay.

1503
01:07:17.880 --> 01:07:18.880
Um, good.

1504
01:07:18.880 --> 01:07:19.880
Good.

1505
01:07:20.880 --> 01:07:21.880
Go ahead.

1506
01:07:21.880 --> 01:07:29.960
So the guy I was talking to said, you know, would look really good on you.

1507
01:07:29.960 --> 01:07:31.280
And I said, what?

1508
01:07:31.280 --> 01:07:35.880
And he said himself, and I'm like, they're all too forward.

1509
01:07:35.880 --> 01:07:36.880
Yeah.

1510
01:07:36.880 --> 01:07:39.360
You guys, there's a line and that was crossed.

1511
01:07:39.360 --> 01:07:41.360
That was crossed.

1512
01:07:41.360 --> 01:07:43.360
Right.

1513
01:07:43.360 --> 01:07:45.360
Okay.

1514
01:07:45.360 --> 01:07:48.360
All right.

1515
01:07:48.840 --> 01:07:50.840
I would throw him a bone.

1516
01:07:50.840 --> 01:07:51.840
That's funny.

1517
01:07:51.840 --> 01:07:52.840
Okay.

1518
01:07:52.840 --> 01:07:55.360
Probably would be disappointed, but when the grocery cart, okay.

1519
01:07:55.360 --> 01:07:56.360
Um, okay.

1520
01:07:56.360 --> 01:08:01.480
We need those pickup lines and gentlemen, you're allowed to, you're allowed to, um,

1521
01:08:01.480 --> 01:08:04.280
first of all, ladies, let's talk about being complimented.

1522
01:08:04.280 --> 01:08:10.320
A lot of you get really upset if someone says, you know, like, Oh, you're beautiful or whatever,

1523
01:08:10.320 --> 01:08:11.320
you know?

1524
01:08:11.320 --> 01:08:14.640
And I understand that scammers and spammers do that on dating apps, but how would you

1525
01:08:14.640 --> 01:08:16.680
feel about someone saying that in person?

1526
01:08:16.680 --> 01:08:20.200
Is that too forward to say, Oh, Hey, you know, if someone shows up, if you show up

1527
01:08:20.200 --> 01:08:25.040
to a data coffee date and someone says, Oh, you look really pretty, you know, or they

1528
01:08:25.040 --> 01:08:28.399
show up to a dinner date with someone and they say, Oh, you know, you look beautiful

1529
01:08:28.399 --> 01:08:29.399
tonight.

1530
01:08:29.399 --> 01:08:30.399
I would like that.

1531
01:08:30.399 --> 01:08:33.800
You know, even if I'm not sure if this is my person, I feel very flattered by that.

1532
01:08:33.800 --> 01:08:37.240
And ladies, you need to know that men like compliments to sincere compliments, not just

1533
01:08:37.240 --> 01:08:39.640
flattery, but sincere compliments.

1534
01:08:39.640 --> 01:08:44.560
You know, if a man has, you know, pretty eyes, tell him that he has, you know, beautiful

1535
01:08:44.560 --> 01:08:46.200
eyes.

1536
01:08:46.720 --> 01:08:47.720
Make sure he's not married.

1537
01:08:47.720 --> 01:08:52.040
Don't go up to someone in the grocery store and say, Oh, you have the most beautiful blue

1538
01:08:52.040 --> 01:08:53.040
eyes.

1539
01:08:53.040 --> 01:08:56.439
And then, you know, put your wedding ring on, bro.

1540
01:08:56.439 --> 01:09:02.560
This is a true story, obviously that I'm sharing right now, but men do like to be complimented

1541
01:09:02.560 --> 01:09:03.560
too.

1542
01:09:03.560 --> 01:09:06.240
They do that shirt looks great on you.

1543
01:09:06.240 --> 01:09:10.120
You know, that, that kind of meant that goes far with men.

1544
01:09:10.120 --> 01:09:11.760
They, they like, they like compliments.

1545
01:09:11.760 --> 01:09:13.160
It's not just a female thing.

1546
01:09:13.160 --> 01:09:14.160
Right.

1547
01:09:14.160 --> 01:09:19.120
Let's see if we can find some good, you look Brazilian with that butt of yours.

1548
01:09:19.120 --> 01:09:20.120
Okay.

1549
01:09:20.120 --> 01:09:25.240
You guys, I I'm talking about good pickup lines, geez.

1550
01:09:25.240 --> 01:09:28.000
A guy wants to ask me if we could take a selfie together.

1551
01:09:28.000 --> 01:09:29.000
Okay.

1552
01:09:29.000 --> 01:09:30.880
That's a nice breaker.

1553
01:09:30.880 --> 01:09:33.279
Did he say why Linda?

1554
01:09:33.279 --> 01:09:41.319
Yeah, he just loved my smile and the guy was half my age.

1555
01:09:41.319 --> 01:09:43.399
And so I was kind of tickled pink.

1556
01:09:43.640 --> 01:09:46.920
I thought, man, you're young and you think I'm beautiful.

1557
01:09:46.920 --> 01:09:49.720
I yeah, you're going to be floating around on that.

1558
01:09:49.720 --> 01:09:50.720
Yeah, I did.

1559
01:09:50.720 --> 01:09:56.560
I floated and I took advantage of, and I said, yes, and I loved it.

1560
01:09:56.560 --> 01:09:57.800
I like it.

1561
01:09:57.800 --> 01:09:59.640
It's good.

1562
01:10:00.400 --> 01:10:03.960
Tall glass of water. Okay. You guys still,

1563
01:10:05.160 --> 01:10:08.640
we don't want to start out with pickup lines that are better overtly or

1564
01:10:08.640 --> 01:10:13.080
covertly sexual. Don't start out with that at all.

1565
01:10:14.400 --> 01:10:18.280
All right. That is not appropriate. That's not being a gentleman.

1566
01:10:18.520 --> 01:10:20.360
Cause we've got to get some, we've got to get some pickup lines.

1567
01:10:20.840 --> 01:10:24.400
Kate has a bunch of weird ones. I'd slay two Goliaths for you.

1568
01:10:24.400 --> 01:10:26.200
I'd part the red sea for you. You've been chair.

1569
01:10:26.200 --> 01:10:28.520
You've been definitely hanging out with some churchy dudes.

1570
01:10:30.560 --> 01:10:34.320
I literally just Google search Christian pickup line. So I don't know.

1571
01:10:34.600 --> 01:10:39.240
Okay. I'm like, what the heck's happening here? Okay.

1572
01:10:40.160 --> 01:10:41.520
All right. So

1573
01:10:44.960 --> 01:10:48.760
don't use the word pretty Mike, go ahead. You can,

1574
01:10:49.000 --> 01:10:50.200
you can expound on that.

1575
01:10:55.000 --> 01:10:57.200
Sorry. Sorry. I just switched my phone. Well,

1576
01:10:57.200 --> 01:11:02.360
like it's really not a masculine term. So we're pretty like, you know it just,

1577
01:11:02.440 --> 01:11:06.560
I don't know what, whatever I hear the word us saying us saying that your eyes

1578
01:11:06.560 --> 01:11:09.720
are pretty. Yeah. It's like, Oh no. Yeah.

1579
01:11:11.520 --> 01:11:13.680
But, but I mean, I,

1580
01:11:13.840 --> 01:11:18.680
I feel like we can tell you that your eyes are beautiful because

1581
01:11:19.680 --> 01:11:24.360
that works, but the pretty thing just, yeah. Right. No, for sure. Yeah. Yes.

1582
01:11:24.360 --> 01:11:28.120
Yes. I stopped myself and changed it to beautiful when I realized what I said,

1583
01:11:28.120 --> 01:11:30.960
for sure. But, you know, we're not going to say, Oh, you have handsome eyes.

1584
01:11:31.600 --> 01:11:35.440
No, you know, you have beautiful eyes and yeah.

1585
01:11:36.520 --> 01:11:41.040
That that shirt, that shirt makes your eyes look so blue or so green, or,

1586
01:11:41.320 --> 01:11:43.200
you know, you have the most, you know,

1587
01:11:43.240 --> 01:11:47.080
beautiful brown eyes or whatever men do like compliments.

1588
01:11:48.920 --> 01:11:53.120
Okay. You guys are putting up some goofy pickup lines.

1589
01:11:53.120 --> 01:11:55.640
I don't see anything here that I,

1590
01:12:01.600 --> 01:12:05.880
Oh my gosh. Are these real pickup lines? I mean, you guys,

1591
01:12:05.880 --> 01:12:09.320
I want you to share the ones that people have used with you that even if you

1592
01:12:09.320 --> 01:12:12.720
didn't like them, you just thought it was, you thought it was fun and cute.

1593
01:12:13.440 --> 01:12:16.600
I have one. It's a little bit long though. Okay.

1594
01:12:17.280 --> 01:12:19.920
I just copied him because I didn't remember it. Um, I,

1595
01:12:20.040 --> 01:12:21.640
I had to copy and paste this long, but anyway,

1596
01:12:21.640 --> 01:12:23.920
he reached out to me and said, this is a bit of an awkward hello,

1597
01:12:23.960 --> 01:12:27.840
but you know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage,

1598
01:12:28.240 --> 01:12:31.680
just literally 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery.

1599
01:12:31.680 --> 01:12:35.440
And I promise you something great will come of it. Can you name that movie?

1600
01:12:36.400 --> 01:12:37.240
It was awesome.

1601
01:12:38.600 --> 01:12:41.240
Yeah, no, that's good. Nice icebreaker.

1602
01:12:41.480 --> 01:12:45.560
You guys pick up lines don't always have to be something, you know, romantic,

1603
01:12:46.080 --> 01:12:49.160
you know, it's just, it's an icebreaker. It's a way to get your foot in the door.

1604
01:12:49.160 --> 01:12:52.000
It's a way, it's a way to start a conversation, right?

1605
01:12:53.800 --> 01:12:56.120
It's a way to start a conversation for sure.

1606
01:12:58.120 --> 01:13:01.600
You know, gentlemen, you know, if you, if you like, if you,

1607
01:13:01.640 --> 01:13:04.800
if you see a woman in public, did ladies, did you say whether or not, okay,

1608
01:13:04.800 --> 01:13:08.480
so let's weigh in on if the man is a stranger to you.

1609
01:13:08.520 --> 01:13:12.840
And because we're trying to bring back some old fashioned ideas of meeting

1610
01:13:12.840 --> 01:13:16.920
people. And a lot of times you see someone as a single person, you see someone,

1611
01:13:16.920 --> 01:13:21.320
you don't see a ring and you're in a public place at the grocery store or

1612
01:13:21.320 --> 01:13:23.400
wherever gas station,

1613
01:13:23.400 --> 01:13:26.440
and you see them and maybe you guys do the little I thing.

1614
01:13:26.720 --> 01:13:30.040
And you want to say something to her. What ladies,

1615
01:13:30.040 --> 01:13:31.800
what would you feel comfortable with?

1616
01:13:36.680 --> 01:13:38.040
I had a guy tonight,

1617
01:13:38.040 --> 01:13:42.000
approach me in a restaurant and he basically just said,

1618
01:13:42.480 --> 01:13:46.040
are you new? Are you, no, he said, are you from here?

1619
01:13:46.040 --> 01:13:49.720
Are you from around here? And I said, no. And then he said,

1620
01:13:49.720 --> 01:13:54.200
what are you going to get? So that's how he started off. And,

1621
01:13:54.640 --> 01:13:58.160
you know, I will post the rest of this story in the group,

1622
01:13:58.160 --> 01:14:02.520
but it was a great night. So just simple things like that.

1623
01:14:03.720 --> 01:14:07.080
Okay. You know, personally, I like cheeky people.

1624
01:14:07.080 --> 01:14:10.880
So like if I was standing in a restaurant, maybe I have the menu I'm looking at,

1625
01:14:10.880 --> 01:14:14.520
you know, what I want to order. Maybe I'm taking takeout or something. And,

1626
01:14:14.520 --> 01:14:18.320
you know, I'm just looking at it. And, uh, you know,

1627
01:14:18.880 --> 01:14:23.200
a guy comes over and says something like something funny, like don't get the

1628
01:14:23.200 --> 01:14:27.120
duck, you know, like just, you know, just something like just breaks the ice.

1629
01:14:27.120 --> 01:14:31.760
Like, Oh, don't get the calamari. Totally. Don't get it.

1630
01:14:31.800 --> 01:14:34.600
Trust me. You know, just something funny, you know,

1631
01:14:34.600 --> 01:14:39.240
something that's just like cheeky, funny. And, uh, that's,

1632
01:14:39.320 --> 01:14:43.880
that's what I definitely, I like that. So gentlemen, anytime you can,

1633
01:14:44.160 --> 01:14:48.440
you know, say something funny and cheeky and,

1634
01:14:49.400 --> 01:14:53.600
um, little sassy ladies, ladies, we like that. And ladies, gentlemen,

1635
01:14:53.640 --> 01:14:58.000
like women to be a little sassy to show that you have a little fire inside of

1636
01:14:58.000 --> 01:14:59.320
you without being.

1637
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:04.000
you know, inappropriate and without, you know, um,

1638
01:15:04.700 --> 01:15:07.080
don't let the sassy be aggressive.

1639
01:15:07.260 --> 01:15:11.820
There's a difference between aggression and sassiness. I like cheesy.

1640
01:15:11.820 --> 01:15:15.060
I think cheesy is funny too. My husband's like the king of dad jokes,

1641
01:15:15.420 --> 01:15:19.580
and they're just so dumb. They're funny. They're so dumb that they're funny.

1642
01:15:25.780 --> 01:15:28.460
Oh, that's cute. So if you're at the grocery store, Elaine said,

1643
01:15:28.560 --> 01:15:31.240
I must've lost my invite, but it looks like you're making a good dinner.

1644
01:15:31.240 --> 01:15:32.760
You like stuff like that. You know,

1645
01:15:33.320 --> 01:15:37.840
remember if you haven't already made eye contact with her and she hasn't already

1646
01:15:37.840 --> 01:15:39.680
giving you the green flag to come over,

1647
01:15:39.960 --> 01:15:44.440
try to do that first before you just go over and drop the pickup line,

1648
01:15:44.440 --> 01:15:48.520
try to get the, you know, the permission to approach.

1649
01:15:49.680 --> 01:15:51.600
Cool. And listen,

1650
01:15:51.680 --> 01:15:55.280
if you're at the grocery store and you see each other in more than one aisle,

1651
01:15:56.060 --> 01:15:56.360
you know,

1652
01:15:56.360 --> 01:16:00.340
you can also kind of try to make that happen without being too obvious and too

1653
01:16:00.340 --> 01:16:04.460
weird and too creepy about it. But if that happens, you know,

1654
01:16:04.620 --> 01:16:07.580
you can say something like, wow,

1655
01:16:07.580 --> 01:16:11.740
we got to stop running into each other like this, you know, or, you know, um,

1656
01:16:12.220 --> 01:16:15.340
you, you, you took the, you took the last, you took, you know,

1657
01:16:15.340 --> 01:16:19.860
I came looking for you because you took the last, last bag of Oreos. You know,

1658
01:16:19.900 --> 01:16:24.020
I really need those for a recipe I'm making tonight. You know, you just be funny.

1659
01:16:25.280 --> 01:16:28.060
And if you don't know how to be funny, Google it. Google will tell you,

1660
01:16:28.060 --> 01:16:32.500
let AI tell you how to be funny. AI will get you there. Okay. Um,

1661
01:16:32.500 --> 01:16:37.380
I flirted and said, I'm looking for, I'm sorry. Go ahead. No,

1662
01:16:37.420 --> 01:16:41.460
talk. Uh, I was at the grocery store and I couldn't reach, you know,

1663
01:16:41.460 --> 01:16:42.220
something high.

1664
01:16:42.220 --> 01:16:46.260
And there was a guy and I asked him if he would get that for me and he did.

1665
01:16:46.260 --> 01:16:49.860
And I smiled at him and I, I thanked him, but I said, you're my hero.

1666
01:16:50.360 --> 01:16:52.700
And he just loved it. He just glowed.

1667
01:16:52.840 --> 01:16:53.680
Okay.

1668
01:16:54.120 --> 01:16:57.560
Men love a compliment inside.

1669
01:16:57.560 --> 01:17:02.000
Every man is a little boy who wants to know that he has done good and that he

1670
01:17:02.000 --> 01:17:06.880
is pleased. You men are that men very much want to please women.

1671
01:17:06.880 --> 01:17:10.960
They really do want to, right. Within reason, but yes,

1672
01:17:12.680 --> 01:17:14.680
I love that. That's so good.

1673
01:17:19.320 --> 01:17:20.140
Um,

1674
01:17:21.000 --> 01:17:23.440
you guys, if you have a cute neighbor, that's not married,

1675
01:17:24.960 --> 01:17:26.200
I got advice for you.

1676
01:17:28.840 --> 01:17:33.400
I got advice for you. Okay. This, this actually goes for, and remember,

1677
01:17:34.320 --> 01:17:38.520
it's not manipulative. Okay. Because you're doing your intentions of your heart

1678
01:17:38.520 --> 01:17:42.600
are not to manipulate or to deceive. They're just to, you know,

1679
01:17:42.680 --> 01:17:44.920
be noticed. And so if you,

1680
01:17:44.960 --> 01:17:48.640
if there's a guy that you have a little bit of a crush on gentlemen,

1681
01:17:48.660 --> 01:17:50.700
gentlemen, you could do this as well, but ladies,

1682
01:17:50.700 --> 01:17:52.860
I think we do this a little bit better. Um,

1683
01:17:53.140 --> 01:17:57.220
just be available meaning like David lived next door to me.

1684
01:17:57.300 --> 01:18:00.540
I kind of caught on that. I thought he was a little bit interested in me.

1685
01:18:00.780 --> 01:18:04.580
And so guess what? I knew his routine. We were next door neighbors.

1686
01:18:04.580 --> 01:18:09.340
We carpooled each other's kids. And so I would just, I, back then I,

1687
01:18:09.380 --> 01:18:12.780
I was a jogger. I used to jog. And back then, um,

1688
01:18:12.820 --> 01:18:15.340
when I knew he was coming home from work,

1689
01:18:15.340 --> 01:18:19.640
like I would wait to do my jog. When he'd be pulling into the complex,

1690
01:18:19.660 --> 01:18:23.520
I would be jogging out of it. Cause I thought maybe he'd like to see me,

1691
01:18:23.520 --> 01:18:26.840
you know, in my little jogging outfit, because I was cute

1692
01:18:28.920 --> 01:18:33.480
staying on his radar, making sure that he knows that I'm still alive,

1693
01:18:33.520 --> 01:18:36.340
even though maybe he doesn't see me every day,

1694
01:18:36.340 --> 01:18:37.800
even though we live next door to each other.

1695
01:18:38.160 --> 01:18:40.360
And then when we got a little bit more cheeky with each other,

1696
01:18:40.360 --> 01:18:43.240
I would send him text messages. Like he'd be inside his house.

1697
01:18:43.540 --> 01:18:46.540
I may, may have not seen him the entire day. And I would send him a message.

1698
01:18:46.540 --> 01:18:49.780
And I would say, um, what you doing in there?

1699
01:18:51.220 --> 01:18:54.020
I wouldn't say anything else. I wouldn't say, hi, how are you?

1700
01:18:54.340 --> 01:18:58.060
I wouldn't say who it was texting. I would just say, what you doing in there.

1701
01:19:01.180 --> 01:19:04.420
And he told me, I mean, after we started being together,

1702
01:19:04.420 --> 01:19:08.860
he told me that he just thought that I was so cute and funny and just the right

1703
01:19:09.060 --> 01:19:12.940
appropriate amount of flirty. Right. Just, he was just like, oh, she likes me.

1704
01:19:12.940 --> 01:19:17.000
Like what you doing in there? What's going on in there. Okay.

1705
01:19:17.280 --> 01:19:20.360
So these are things you can do. It is cute.

1706
01:19:20.380 --> 01:19:22.480
These are things that you can do, right?

1707
01:19:25.520 --> 01:19:28.560
You got a cute guy in your neighborhood. You can go outside. You guys,

1708
01:19:28.560 --> 01:19:31.400
it's not sexualized. I'm not telling you to put a bikini on,

1709
01:19:31.680 --> 01:19:34.080
but you could go out and old school, wash your car,

1710
01:19:35.000 --> 01:19:36.280
wash your car in the driveway.

1711
01:19:36.280 --> 01:19:40.040
Remember how we used to do with the bucket and the suds Rizzo remember with the

1712
01:19:40.060 --> 01:19:45.100
sponges and the hose, you can go outside in the summertime, you know,

1713
01:19:45.100 --> 01:19:48.340
and like I said, I'm not telling you to put a bikini on. I'm just saying,

1714
01:19:48.540 --> 01:19:52.180
be available, be seen,

1715
01:19:52.780 --> 01:19:55.580
be outside, weed your garden,

1716
01:19:55.620 --> 01:19:59.980
do something so that when they're driving by, they see you. There you are.

1717
01:20:00.920 --> 01:20:01.760
Hi.

1718
01:20:04.720 --> 01:20:06.520
All right, what about your chiropractor?

1719
01:20:06.520 --> 01:20:08.240
Oh, wow.

1720
01:20:09.320 --> 01:20:12.980
You have a crush on your chiropractor, Dana?

1721
01:20:16.340 --> 01:20:17.600
Do you?

1722
01:20:17.600 --> 01:20:18.560
Are they married?

1723
01:20:18.560 --> 01:20:19.980
Make sure they're not married.

1724
01:20:19.980 --> 01:20:22.240
I don't think so, but I do,

1725
01:20:22.240 --> 01:20:26.000
and we've been flirting a little bit, so it's interesting.

1726
01:20:26.000 --> 01:20:29.280
Okay, well, explain to us, okay, here's a case study.

1727
01:20:29.320 --> 01:20:32.320
Dana's willing to be a case study, volunteering his tribute.

1728
01:20:32.320 --> 01:20:34.760
You've been flirting with each other.

1729
01:20:34.760 --> 01:20:36.120
Let us be the judge of that.

1730
01:20:36.120 --> 01:20:37.420
Tell us what's happened.

1731
01:20:38.800 --> 01:20:43.800
So the first time I went there, he gave me his number, and-

1732
01:20:46.760 --> 01:20:50.160
That's not flirting, that's beyond flirting.

1733
01:20:50.160 --> 01:20:52.360
That's like, okay, did he say why?

1734
01:20:53.640 --> 01:20:58.200
Well, he wants to get into some animal chiropractic work,

1735
01:20:58.280 --> 01:21:03.280
and so I'm a veterinarian, and so I told him

1736
01:21:03.400 --> 01:21:06.240
that I could find out some information for him,

1737
01:21:06.240 --> 01:21:11.240
and yeah, so it was pretty interesting.

1738
01:21:12.040 --> 01:21:14.260
Okay, so he gave you his number,

1739
01:21:14.260 --> 01:21:16.640
but he also wants some kind of connection,

1740
01:21:16.640 --> 01:21:18.880
so it could be flirting, it might not be flirting.

1741
01:21:18.880 --> 01:21:21.080
What other evidence do you got?

1742
01:21:22.960 --> 01:21:26.680
So when I texted him, I said,

1743
01:21:26.720 --> 01:21:28.360
oh, I found some information.

1744
01:21:28.360 --> 01:21:31.080
My horse's chiropractor's coming out,

1745
01:21:32.200 --> 01:21:36.280
and he said, oh, I'd love to come, I'd love to be there,

1746
01:21:36.280 --> 01:21:41.040
and so we've kind of been going back and forth with this,

1747
01:21:41.040 --> 01:21:45.360
but it's a little awkward because he's my chiropractor,

1748
01:21:45.360 --> 01:21:49.280
and I don't want to be disrespectful for him,

1749
01:21:49.280 --> 01:21:53.320
but also letting him know I'm interested, so.

1750
01:21:54.320 --> 01:21:57.400
Okay, and so, okay, so let's talk about

1751
01:21:57.400 --> 01:22:00.560
how to flirt with someone where they might be flirting,

1752
01:22:00.560 --> 01:22:03.040
they might not be flirting, we're not really sure

1753
01:22:03.040 --> 01:22:06.280
if they are or not, they definitely like our presence,

1754
01:22:06.280 --> 01:22:08.200
they like being with us, maybe we're together

1755
01:22:08.200 --> 01:22:11.440
for a certain specific reason, like what she's talking about.

1756
01:22:11.440 --> 01:22:13.340
You know, he's a chiropractor, she's a veterinarian,

1757
01:22:13.340 --> 01:22:16.600
he wants to get into animal chiropractic care.

1758
01:22:16.600 --> 01:22:19.360
Okay, so the way that you kind of like

1759
01:22:19.360 --> 01:22:23.120
put out the fishing line to see is, you know,

1760
01:22:23.920 --> 01:22:26.680
you say something like, you know,

1761
01:22:26.680 --> 01:22:29.000
if he's coming to something that has to do with animals,

1762
01:22:29.000 --> 01:22:31.800
then you say, yeah, and then, you know, afterwards,

1763
01:22:31.800 --> 01:22:33.920
you know, maybe we can grab dinner,

1764
01:22:33.920 --> 01:22:37.040
and then you guys, a wink emoji,

1765
01:22:37.040 --> 01:22:41.140
or some kind of emoji that's flirty, you put it there,

1766
01:22:41.140 --> 01:22:42.840
that way it's not just a business dinner,

1767
01:22:42.840 --> 01:22:44.400
it's not to talk about business,

1768
01:22:44.400 --> 01:22:46.720
if you want to smoke someone out and see whether or not

1769
01:22:46.720 --> 01:22:50.160
they're interested in you besides just platonically

1770
01:22:50.160 --> 01:22:55.040
in whatever the scenario is, then you can use that emoji.

1771
01:22:55.040 --> 01:22:56.600
You can use not just that emoji,

1772
01:22:56.600 --> 01:22:59.880
you can use lots of emojis, don't use the peach

1773
01:22:59.880 --> 01:23:03.320
or the eggplant emoji ever for any reason, okay?

1774
01:23:03.320 --> 01:23:04.840
Those don't mean what you think.

1775
01:23:04.840 --> 01:23:08.120
Just say, hey, do you want to go and pick peaches,

1776
01:23:08.120 --> 01:23:12.680
peach emoji, no, no peach emoji, all right?

1777
01:23:13.680 --> 01:23:14.980
Want to come over for dinner,

1778
01:23:14.980 --> 01:23:16.440
and then you're making ratatouille,

1779
01:23:16.440 --> 01:23:18.560
so you use the eggplant emoji, no.

1780
01:23:20.320 --> 01:23:21.520
And if you don't understand why,

1781
01:23:21.520 --> 01:23:24.440
go ask a Gen Z, they'll tell you.

1782
01:23:24.440 --> 01:23:29.440
All right, so, hey, I'm making a peach eggplant pie, Nora.

1783
01:23:29.440 --> 01:23:33.940
Oh, all right, you guys, so inappropriate, all right.

1784
01:23:35.480 --> 01:23:36.320
Emojis, how can we-

1785
01:23:36.320 --> 01:23:39.240
I had a man sort of flirt with me, I think, Jackie,

1786
01:23:39.240 --> 01:23:40.760
do you want to hear about it?

1787
01:23:40.760 --> 01:23:44.840
Yes, but how can we take regular messages to people,

1788
01:23:44.840 --> 01:23:48.820
and how can we make it clear that we're interested in,

1789
01:23:48.820 --> 01:23:51.220
you know, that we're flirting, that we're flirting?

1790
01:23:51.220 --> 01:23:53.220
We can use emojis, y'all.

1791
01:23:53.220 --> 01:23:56.660
Emojis say things that maybe your message,

1792
01:23:56.660 --> 01:23:59.900
your text is not saying, they're not getting it.

1793
01:23:59.900 --> 01:24:01.700
Use the emoji, all right?

1794
01:24:01.700 --> 01:24:03.540
And we'll give some examples of that in a second.

1795
01:24:03.540 --> 01:24:05.100
Go ahead and put some examples up.

1796
01:24:05.100 --> 01:24:06.840
Whoever just said that, go.

1797
01:24:09.520 --> 01:24:10.360
Example of a person-

1798
01:24:10.360 --> 01:24:12.100
Okay, so I just started a new job.

1799
01:24:14.780 --> 01:24:15.740
I'm a swim coach,

1800
01:24:15.740 --> 01:24:19.780
and after I was done teaching some lessons,

1801
01:24:19.780 --> 01:24:22.180
the little boy that was very difficult,

1802
01:24:22.180 --> 01:24:24.220
this man who had been kind of doing that,

1803
01:24:24.220 --> 01:24:25.380
looking at me, not looking at me,

1804
01:24:25.380 --> 01:24:27.780
saying the whole 30 minutes I was teaching this child,

1805
01:24:27.780 --> 01:24:29.740
he gets up and walks towards me and says,

1806
01:24:29.740 --> 01:24:31.900
wow, you have the patience of a saint.

1807
01:24:31.900 --> 01:24:33.060
And I said, oh, thank you.

1808
01:24:33.060 --> 01:24:34.740
And then two more times walked by,

1809
01:24:34.740 --> 01:24:36.860
again, said the same exact thing.

1810
01:24:36.860 --> 01:24:37.940
And I just smiled, I said,

1811
01:24:37.940 --> 01:24:40.020
yeah, that was really a hard lesson.

1812
01:24:40.020 --> 01:24:42.940
And then he goes and changes his children,

1813
01:24:42.940 --> 01:24:44.300
and he comes back.

1814
01:24:44.300 --> 01:24:47.380
I'm sitting outside now at a table.

1815
01:24:47.380 --> 01:24:50.180
He comes straight up to me and just smiling

1816
01:24:50.180 --> 01:24:53.540
and starts talking to me, asking me if I'm new,

1817
01:24:53.540 --> 01:24:54.940
introduces his voice to me,

1818
01:24:54.940 --> 01:24:57.620
asks the boys to shake my hand,

1819
01:24:57.620 --> 01:24:59.660
asks if I can do anything for, you know,

1820
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:04.640
do you need any help with anything? If you need any help, let your boss know she has my phone

1821
01:25:04.640 --> 01:25:10.960
number. He says that twice. And then I'm like, oh gosh, well, should I say something? So I did.

1822
01:25:10.960 --> 01:25:14.320
I said, well, I'm not sure what kind of help you could help me with. He says, well, here,

1823
01:25:14.320 --> 01:25:19.120
let me give you my number. And so he got my phone number, texted me, and then texted me a few

1824
01:25:19.120 --> 01:25:25.360
different websites, like his kid's school and the gym. And he's also a funeral director, which is

1825
01:25:25.360 --> 01:25:32.320
odd, owns a few funeral homes. So yeah, so it was kind of interesting. It made me happy, but I was

1826
01:25:32.320 --> 01:25:38.800
a little nervous at the same time. So all this was the context of you being new to town?

1827
01:25:41.200 --> 01:25:45.440
Yes, new to town and also new to the facility that he brings his kids to swim.

1828
01:25:46.240 --> 01:25:52.560
OK, great. Well, I mean, that's obvious that, you know, I mean, to me, that's obvious that

1829
01:25:52.560 --> 01:25:57.200
he's interested because, you know, no one's going to be that friendly and that like, I mean, what is

1830
01:25:57.200 --> 01:26:04.400
he like the designated tour guide of the, of the area? Um, so, but that is a good way to flirt with

1831
01:26:04.400 --> 01:26:08.640
someone. If you find out that they just moved there, you can offer to show them around you

1832
01:26:08.640 --> 01:26:12.640
guys. That is a really good way to flirt with someone. That's a way to get in the door of

1833
01:26:12.640 --> 01:26:17.200
hanging out with them, offer, show them around. I know lots of people that have met their significant

1834
01:26:17.200 --> 01:26:21.600
other because through casual conversation somewhere, and this is another thing,

1835
01:26:22.160 --> 01:26:27.280
get used to talking to people. Like when you're waiting in line somewhere, you know, being funny

1836
01:26:27.280 --> 01:26:32.720
or, you know, saying something, you know, I used to back when I was single, there was this daycare

1837
01:26:32.720 --> 01:26:37.760
that not daycare, there's preschool dad. And we'd have to wait in a long hallway to pick up our kids

1838
01:26:37.760 --> 01:26:42.480
from their classrooms. Right. And we'd all be waiting in the hallway together every single

1839
01:26:42.480 --> 01:26:47.760
Tuesday and Thursday. And I, you know, I was a divorced mom. He's a divorced dad. We're in the,

1840
01:26:47.760 --> 01:26:51.520
you know, we're in the hallway and I would notice him sometimes looking at me, you know,

1841
01:26:51.520 --> 01:26:56.160
and stuff. And remember, I'm very bold and not all of you are going to be able to do what I did

1842
01:26:56.160 --> 01:27:00.800
and what I do, but, you know, finally I could tell he was really shy and, but I could also tell

1843
01:27:00.800 --> 01:27:06.480
that he liked me. I could tell that he liked me or thought I was pretty. And also that he was,

1844
01:27:06.480 --> 01:27:11.440
you know, more kind of introverted or shy. And so I helped him out. I dropped him the hanky.

1845
01:27:11.440 --> 01:27:16.720
I said, Hey, I said, um, some of us are getting together for my birthday. We're going to lunch.

1846
01:27:16.720 --> 01:27:21.120
You know, do you want to go? And he was like, yeah, absolutely. And I said, okay, great.

1847
01:27:21.120 --> 01:27:23.200
It'll just be me and you. And it's not my birthday.

1848
01:27:26.160 --> 01:27:31.360
And there you go. We're going to lunch. It's not my birthday and nobody else is coming,

1849
01:27:31.360 --> 01:27:42.480
but me and you. Right. Because I'm funny and goofy. So yeah, ladies, let's talk about dropping

1850
01:27:42.480 --> 01:27:49.280
the hanky and gentlemen, please weigh in about how you feel about a woman. Like if you're interested

1851
01:27:49.280 --> 01:27:55.280
in a woman, do you take the initiative all the time, even if you don't know she's interested

1852
01:27:55.280 --> 01:28:00.960
in her or in you, or would you prefer if she kind of waved the green flag at you saying, come on,

1853
01:28:01.360 --> 01:28:07.760
you know, you know, ask me out. I want to go out with you gentlemen. Tell us what you think,

1854
01:28:08.880 --> 01:28:13.520
Jackie. I'm totally fine. Open to that. If a woman tells her I'm interested, that's great.

1855
01:28:15.440 --> 01:28:19.040
Okay. Please wave,

1856
01:28:21.280 --> 01:28:30.960
wave, please wave, wave the flag. Oh, wave the flag. Yeah. I thought you just meant wave.

1857
01:28:30.960 --> 01:28:38.000
I'm like wave. Okay. Wave the flag. Yes. Brett wants you guys want, they want the sign. They

1858
01:28:38.000 --> 01:28:45.120
want you to give them the sign that it's safe to approach. Jason's like wave the flag, please wave

1859
01:28:45.120 --> 01:28:52.480
it. Okay. All right. So see ladies, it's okay. If you have any reason to believe that, you know,

1860
01:28:52.480 --> 01:28:59.600
he wants to ask you out or would like to get to know you better, but he hasn't asked you can go

1861
01:28:59.600 --> 01:29:07.440
ahead and do what I did. Maybe not as, maybe not as bold as me, but I was born that way. I have no

1862
01:29:07.440 --> 01:29:17.120
excuses. Um, but you know, a lot of times too, when people are too flirty, um, there there's a,

1863
01:29:17.120 --> 01:29:21.120
there's a line you can be too flirty. And then people think you're not serious, right? They think

1864
01:29:21.120 --> 01:29:26.000
you're just like that with everyone. They don't feel special. Um, one thing you definitely don't

1865
01:29:26.000 --> 01:29:30.880
want to do. If you're a flirty personality, you definitely don't want to flirt with other people.

1866
01:29:30.880 --> 01:29:34.480
When you're, and a lot of people don't even know they're doing it. You don't mean anything

1867
01:29:34.480 --> 01:29:39.520
romantic or sexual by it. You're just a flirty friendly person. But if you're on a date with

1868
01:29:39.520 --> 01:29:45.680
someone, whether you're a man or a woman, I've seen this happen. Don't pay an inordinate amount

1869
01:29:45.680 --> 01:29:51.520
of attention to the opposite sex around you, whether it's the server, whether it's, you know,

1870
01:29:51.520 --> 01:29:56.560
you're on a double date, the other person's date, that's the opposite sex. Don't do that.

1871
01:29:56.560 --> 01:29:59.840
I know you're friendly. I know you're gregarious. Maybe even like attending.

1872
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:04.320
if you're being honest with yourself, but at the same time, that's a huge turnoff.

1873
01:30:05.760 --> 01:30:13.840
Big, big, big turnoff, right? So use your power of woo with the person that you're with,

1874
01:30:13.840 --> 01:30:25.040
not with everybody else. Flag them in, flag them in. Okay. We have some other things on here. Okay.

1875
01:30:25.040 --> 01:30:31.840
So things not to say we, I think we kind of went over that. Don't go sexual with your compliments

1876
01:30:31.840 --> 01:30:37.920
at any, at any juncture, save that for when you're in level three and four, you know,

1877
01:30:39.120 --> 01:30:44.080
preferably level four, you're getting married. You want to say something that's a little risque

1878
01:30:44.080 --> 01:30:48.560
to your fiance, you know, y'all are going to be having sex before long.

1879
01:30:48.560 --> 01:30:53.440
You can do that there. Don't do that before that. That's a huge turnoff. You guys, I had a couple

1880
01:30:53.440 --> 01:31:00.320
that was dating solidly. They were doing really, really well. Um, they were even talking about,

1881
01:31:00.320 --> 01:31:07.840
um, a future together, but he went a little too far in a text message that he sent,

1882
01:31:07.840 --> 01:31:11.440
even though, like I said, they were exclusive and they were talking about a future together.

1883
01:31:11.440 --> 01:31:15.840
And it was a huge turnoff for her. It actually triggered her and they broke up.

1884
01:31:17.200 --> 01:31:23.120
So he thought that he had the green light to kind of joke around with her like that.

1885
01:31:23.680 --> 01:31:26.960
Um, but he didn't have the green light to do it because it wasn't,

1886
01:31:26.960 --> 01:31:31.200
they weren't far enough in commitment for her to feel safe with that kind of,

1887
01:31:31.760 --> 01:31:41.520
you know, that kind of message or conversation. Okay. Um,

1888
01:31:41.920 --> 01:31:42.400
yeah.

1889
01:31:51.920 --> 01:31:55.280
How to take flirting lightly and not get bent out of shape or feel rejected. If

1890
01:31:55.280 --> 01:32:02.960
you're flirting goes unreturned, you guys, when flirting is done, right.

1891
01:32:02.960 --> 01:32:07.840
It's really just being friendly, right. And if someone doesn't reciprocate, if you're out

1892
01:32:07.840 --> 01:32:12.640
gentlemen, and you kind of shoot your shot, you flirt with a woman and she doesn't reciprocate,

1893
01:32:12.640 --> 01:32:17.040
you know, or she looks annoyed or she's just like, whatever, you know, kind of thing.

1894
01:32:17.040 --> 01:32:24.320
It's not a big deal. Right. At least you tried. At least you tried right. Ladies, same thing.

1895
01:32:24.320 --> 01:32:29.760
If you know that guy that you see, you know, that comes into and delivers packages at your

1896
01:32:29.760 --> 01:32:35.200
work every Thursday and you think he's cute, you know, and you want to, you know, you want to

1897
01:32:35.200 --> 01:32:41.680
try to drop the hanky and he doesn't pick it up. It's okay. It's giving you practice

1898
01:32:42.400 --> 01:32:46.720
and who knows, maybe they just feel awkward right in that moment, but maybe if they,

1899
01:32:46.720 --> 01:32:50.320
you see them every Thursday, now that they know that you're interested,

1900
01:32:51.680 --> 01:32:56.960
if you did it right, they know you're interested. Who knows what might happen as you continue with

1901
01:32:56.960 --> 01:33:02.480
that. All right. Mike is saying, I have a hard time recognizing ladies. Hopefully you see that

1902
01:33:03.120 --> 01:33:06.880
I know that we think that men are just disinterested or they're aloof,

1903
01:33:06.880 --> 01:33:13.680
but they don't know that you like them. Nine times out of 10, they don't know.

1904
01:33:14.640 --> 01:33:19.520
Right. Unless you're like me, then they definitely know. They definitely know that

1905
01:33:19.520 --> 01:33:27.120
you like them because you're not, you're not splitting any hairs for sure. Okay.

1906
01:33:28.080 --> 01:33:34.160
Okay. All right. I'm just trying to catch up with your stuff. Okay. So I think that we talked about

1907
01:33:34.160 --> 01:33:38.480
some good things. You guys went about 90 minutes. I hope this was fun for you. I would like to,

1908
01:33:38.480 --> 01:33:42.880
for you to try this in the wild. Now I feel like for you to try this in real life. So I want you

1909
01:33:42.880 --> 01:33:48.320
to pick something off of what we talked about tonight and I want you to give it a shot, right?

1910
01:33:48.320 --> 01:33:52.080
You're like, well, you know, I have to find someone that I'm interested in before I can flirt

1911
01:33:52.080 --> 01:34:00.480
with them. Contrary more fair. That's not true. You can just practice flirting, practice flirting,

1912
01:34:00.480 --> 01:34:06.320
you know, who knows it might end up in a date of some sort if you're doing it right. Practice

1913
01:34:06.320 --> 01:34:14.000
ladies practice, giving men compliments, sincere compliments, not just idle, you know, vain

1914
01:34:14.000 --> 01:34:22.480
flattery, but complimenting. Okay. Practice making eye contact, practice smiling. You know,

1915
01:34:22.480 --> 01:34:29.920
it's okay to, you know, you know, practice letting men do chivalrous things for you.

1916
01:34:29.920 --> 01:34:36.160
I want you to practice all of that. Okay. Mike's leaving gentlemen. I want you to practice

1917
01:34:36.160 --> 01:34:42.560
approaching women and, you know, and talking to them striking up conversations with them. If you

1918
01:34:42.560 --> 01:34:47.840
think she's pretty in public and you don't see a ring, I want you to go ahead and practice your

1919
01:34:47.840 --> 01:34:54.640
flirting skills. What you, you heard what your sister said, someone who is half her age asked

1920
01:34:54.640 --> 01:34:58.720
to take a selfie with her. And she was, you know, walking on cloud nine for the rest of the day.

1921
01:34:59.360 --> 01:34:59.920
Even if it doesn't.

1922
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:03.000
doesn't turn into a date because maybe you're not truly interested and maybe

1923
01:35:03.000 --> 01:35:04.880
she isn't either. Guess what?

1924
01:35:05.080 --> 01:35:07.280
You're going to leave that person better than you found them. They're going to,

1925
01:35:07.320 --> 01:35:09.800
they're going to feel really good about themselves and you're going to feel

1926
01:35:09.800 --> 01:35:13.240
really good about making them feel good about themselves. Is that true?

1927
01:35:14.440 --> 01:35:15.280
It's true.

1928
01:35:17.920 --> 01:35:21.800
So we have to practice connecting with other people.

1929
01:35:22.080 --> 01:35:25.920
And this is one of the ways that we do that is by,

1930
01:35:26.800 --> 01:35:29.780
um, is by talking to people. It's by, you know,

1931
01:35:29.780 --> 01:35:34.780
making jokes with people and being, you know, um, open ladies.

1932
01:35:35.060 --> 01:35:38.100
One of the things that you can do is you can have open body language.

1933
01:35:39.340 --> 01:35:43.300
You can pay attention to your face and make sure that when you're out in public

1934
01:35:43.300 --> 01:35:44.260
or you're doing things,

1935
01:35:44.260 --> 01:35:47.940
or you're talking to someone on a FaceTime cause you met them on a dating app.

1936
01:35:48.180 --> 01:35:52.940
Make sure that, you know, you don't look mad or angry. Make sure that,

1937
01:35:53.100 --> 01:35:57.420
you know, you have a song in your heart and your face is reflecting that. Okay.

1938
01:35:57.420 --> 01:35:59.860
When you're out in public, I'm a super friendly person.

1939
01:36:00.140 --> 01:36:02.900
So when I'm out in public, I seem like I'm having a good day,

1940
01:36:03.260 --> 01:36:04.820
unless I'm really not having a good day.

1941
01:36:05.020 --> 01:36:08.140
And then I'm making eye contact with people. People hate eye contact.

1942
01:36:08.180 --> 01:36:10.660
People are scared of eye contact, but I make an eye contact.

1943
01:36:10.900 --> 01:36:13.020
I'm the person that's going to talk to you in the elevator.

1944
01:36:13.180 --> 01:36:15.740
I'm going to ask you how your day's going in the bathroom while we're washing

1945
01:36:15.740 --> 01:36:20.300
our hands about to leave the bathroom. I'm that person. I won't be that person.

1946
01:36:20.700 --> 01:36:23.340
All right. If you're not that person, that's fine,

1947
01:36:23.380 --> 01:36:26.740
but try to be more of that person. This is how you meet people.

1948
01:36:27.580 --> 01:36:31.420
This is how you meet people. And even if it's another woman, gentlemen,

1949
01:36:31.460 --> 01:36:34.460
even if it's another man that you're meeting, you don't know who they know.

1950
01:36:36.060 --> 01:36:39.300
They might be like, man, you know, follow me on Instagram.

1951
01:36:39.340 --> 01:36:41.300
You're the nicest and friendliest person I ever met.

1952
01:36:41.340 --> 01:36:45.060
And then they tell their single son, daughter, grandson, granddaughter,

1953
01:36:45.260 --> 01:36:49.740
somebody, their best friend. I met the most friendly person today.

1954
01:36:50.300 --> 01:36:53.420
You should meet them too. Lots of matches get made this way.

1955
01:36:53.460 --> 01:36:58.660
Okay. Cool. So we're going to be friendly. We're going to go out there.

1956
01:36:58.660 --> 01:37:00.300
We're going to smile. We're going to flirt.

1957
01:37:00.580 --> 01:37:03.460
And we're going to come back and report ladies.

1958
01:37:03.460 --> 01:37:07.420
You're going to go ahead and put that man out of his misery and drop the hanky.

1959
01:37:07.420 --> 01:37:09.860
If he doesn't pick it up, he doesn't pick it up, move on with your life.

1960
01:37:09.860 --> 01:37:14.860
But he may have just been waiting to see whether or not you're actually giving

1961
01:37:14.860 --> 01:37:16.860
him a permission to approach.

1962
01:37:17.860 --> 01:37:22.500
Okay. Let's do it. Cool. Open posture. Yes.

1963
01:37:22.700 --> 01:37:27.380
Don't sit around like this all the time with your arms folded, right?

1964
01:37:27.980 --> 01:37:32.980
With a big old F U written on your forehead. Don't do that.

1965
01:37:33.580 --> 01:37:35.900
Don't do that. I was going to show you a clip tonight, you guys,

1966
01:37:35.900 --> 01:37:37.060
but I couldn't get it together.

1967
01:37:37.220 --> 01:37:42.220
Go Google hitch with Will Smith and Google the bar scene where he first meets

1968
01:37:42.220 --> 01:37:45.820
where he first meets Eva Long. What's her name?

1969
01:37:46.020 --> 01:37:50.420
He first meets Eva Mendez and she's sitting in the bar. She's, you know,

1970
01:37:50.420 --> 01:37:54.300
got, and he comments on it cause he's a matchmaker. So he comments on,

1971
01:37:54.500 --> 01:37:59.060
you know, how's this guy hitting on you? You know, you got your arms cross,

1972
01:37:59.220 --> 01:38:02.980
you got the thing written on your forehead. You're like, yeah.

1973
01:38:03.180 --> 01:38:07.580
So go take a look at that clip bar scene in the movie hitch,

1974
01:38:07.820 --> 01:38:08.900
very funny.

1975
01:38:09.060 --> 01:38:13.780
And that will tell you a lot of what you need to know about closed off body

1976
01:38:13.820 --> 01:38:18.420
language. Cool. Cool. All right.

1977
01:38:18.540 --> 01:38:21.860
I know that there's a lot of good tidbits today about first impressions,

1978
01:38:21.980 --> 01:38:25.700
the woo respect, honor, you know, um,

1979
01:38:26.060 --> 01:38:29.980
general politeness to other people, not interrupting them.

1980
01:38:30.220 --> 01:38:33.860
Also how to flirt. There's a lot of things. So please watch the replay.

1981
01:38:34.260 --> 01:38:36.900
We don't want to go much longer cause we don't want it to be too long.

1982
01:38:37.420 --> 01:38:42.020
And we will see you guys supernatural Saturday and we're having our prophetic

1983
01:38:42.020 --> 01:38:45.060
night this Sunday night. So if you want to come to that,

1984
01:38:45.060 --> 01:38:47.260
please come to that and we'll see you soon. Bye everyone.