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Welcome

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Happy monday everyone

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For those of you that have never met me before i'm bethany cooper

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I am one of your heartwork coaches on your journey

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You guys have hopefully been seeing me respond to you to your post and engage with you in the group

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If you haven't yet you will

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Uh when you you know complete your posts and things like that

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We want you to know that we are praying for you fervently

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The team is praying for you. The community is praying for you

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You have a lot of people behind you including the lord and so we're going to kick off tonight

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I'm going to pray and open us up

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I do have a couple housekeeping things just because um want to make sure those are recorded

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And live into the group. I didn't go into those this morning a lot

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Or this afternoon a lot just because I knew we weren't posting that one

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Um, so we'll do that first

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Just the most important thing and if you guys didn't see the post in the group

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Is that while you're here in this group during the heart work during?

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The love story accelerator that will come after that

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We just need you all to take off your helper hats. Okay, so you want to check those at the door completely?

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No coaching no giving advice

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No medical recommendations, even if it's herbal supplements, like we just can't have any of that in this group

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So one of the ways that we discard that is we kind of remind you all just to receive

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Cheer each other on encourage each other. You can say you're praying for each other

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But even just like you guys don't have to ask each other questions to get more breakthrough. Okay

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That's our job. So that's my job as a heartwork coach

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The other heartwork coaches that you guys will start to meet in the next few weeks

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Um, so just be sure to keep that in mind

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Um

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And if it gives you any peace of mind when I came in and did my heart work

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Um, I had been leading for years

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You know, i'm a go-getter a lot of you guys are too a lot of you guys are in ministry boss

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Babes, you know, we know that you can do it

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You know, even I had to learn how to just

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receive

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When I went through boot camp and there's a purpose in that

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So when you're here you get to receive you're 34

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Yeah, so to receive and um learn and grow

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And just always want to encourage you guys to come in with the mindset of lord

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What is what is it you want to show me today?

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What is it you want to expand in my heart in the way that I see you in the way that I see other people

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in the way I engage in the world

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or sometimes

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In the ways that I hide

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And I don't show up as my full self for whatever reason

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And so that's one of the first things just to receive and not jump into that leader coach counselor role

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You guys will continue to get breakthroughs. Everybody's journey is going to look different. Okay, so don't get intimidated if you're seeing someone else getting

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You know, whether they're saying they're crying a lot or they're getting a lot of breakthrough and you're like well

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I'm, not having any of that

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Sometimes that is is just how it works. Some of you guys have a lot more

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Walls up some of you guys have a lot more like layers that the lord has to help you come out from under

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And sometimes that's why you might not cry as easily you might not feel like you're getting breakthroughs, but it is still working

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So don't lose hope

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You guys are doing a great job.

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You're already leaning into the material.

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You guys are excited and that's what we want to see.

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So just keep doing that.

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Want to encourage you not to compete

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and compare yourself to each other,

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which is where I was going with those last comments.

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You're all in this together.

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You guys are a sister squad as one whole group.

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And then you will also have like many sister squads

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that we will explain to you tonight as well.

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Don't rush, take your time, but also don't fall behind.

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So there's this balance.

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And if you start to feel overwhelmed,

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the best thing you can do is ask God to help you.

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We all at times will feel overwhelmed,

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especially when we are going into the places

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that some of us had do not enter signs on.

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Some of you had, and still do,

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do not enter signs on parts of your heart.

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And God is asking you to let them into those places.

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And going into those places can be very touchy.

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It can be draining.

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It's important for you guys to get rest,

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to drink a lot of water, to eat healthy,

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and to just really be kind to yourself

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and your thoughts and your attitudes,

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you know, all those kinds of things.

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Come to prayer calls as much as you can.

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It really will be a lifeline for you.

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And that is my last housekeeping item.

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Prayer calls Monday through Friday,

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eight, or excuse me, I almost said 8 a.m.

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10 a.m. to 11 a.m. Eastern time.

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Then you have Supernatural Saturday,

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every Saturday at 10 a.m. Eastern time as well.

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And eventually you guys will also have Sunday night

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open up to you.

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But for now, while you're in the heart work,

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you will stay just in the Monday through Saturday space.

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And I think that's it.

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So we're gonna go ahead and dive right in.

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I'm gonna pray and we'll see what God wants to do tonight.

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Thanks for being here.

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101 of you, wow, that's awesome.

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What a great, great experience you guys are gonna have.

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Father, thank you so much for just who you are.

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God, that you are a good father

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who gives good gifts to your children.

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God, I thank you that you're doing a work

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in their hearts, their minds, their spirits.

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Even now, God, we trust that your Holy Spirit is here,

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that you're weaving in and out of even things

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I've already started saying.

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God, we just thank you that you would help them

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to hear you first and foremost,

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that I'm just a vessel and the ladies in the groups

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that they'll be in are just vessels.

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And we just thank you for revealings, for healing.

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We ask you to bring anything in darkness to the light

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so that there can be healing.

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God, we ask you just to help us to surrender the pen to you,

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to surrender to the process.

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Lord, even if we don't understand it or we don't like it,

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God, let us trust in it.

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This is a proven process, God.

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You've given so many people breakthrough, including myself.

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So Lord, I just pray that even if the ladies aren't sure

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what to think or believe,

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God, help them to borrow from our faith

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until they have an experience of their own.

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We just thank you that you would continue to help

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those that are grieving any losses in their life,

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whether it's loss of former husbands that passed away,

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it could be through divorce,

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it could be loss of a mother or father passing away

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or a child, it can be anything.

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God, we ask you to comfort them

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and just lift them up tonight.

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And we just thank you for it in advance, in Jesus name.

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All right, so the way tonight is gonna work,

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I'm gonna share a couple of things with you guys

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to kick off, just to kind of prime the pump, if you will.

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And then we're gonna start breakout sessions.

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The way breakout sessions will work

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is I will give you a question,

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you guys will go into the breakout session

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and talk to each other about that question.

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And then when we come all back together as a group,

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I'll ask a few of you to share with the whole group

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what you shared in your private breakout session, okay?

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So you're gonna have to borrow courage tonight.

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If some of you are super shy

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and you never talk in front of people,

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tonight might be the night to just give that a try.

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It normally takes one person to get it going.

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I will say that, typically the first time

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it always takes someone to kind of take that leap

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and then it helps ease everybody else.

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So just wanna prepare you guys for that before you go in.

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One of the things that we want to encourage you,

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the theme this week is all about supernatural surrender.

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I wasn't able to go into this this morning

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in the early session today,

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but I did wanna make sure that you guys see a couple ideas.

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In that part one,

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it briefly talked about your Jesus Cares Board.

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This is a huge part of your process.

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This is not a vision board, okay?

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So when you see the examples,

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it's not like, hey, what are my dreams?

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And I just wanna put that up there.

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This is more like,

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what are areas you need to surrender to the Lord?

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What are areas that you need to surrender to him

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that you struggle to give to him completely?

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Maybe there are things that you worry about.

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out, you're afraid, you're like losing sleep over this stuff, you just feel bogged down

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under it.

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It could be things that you already have like massive cares about now, or it could be something

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that comes up tomorrow.

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Maybe some of you guys have financial cares, whatever your things are, that's what you

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want to put on to these boards.

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Some of you guys might have children that are far from you.

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Some of you might have, you know, siblings or parents that don't know the word like there's

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so many different aspects, but I just want to give you guys some ideas of what you might

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be putting on your board.

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Let me share this with you and I'm just going to show you a couple examples.

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I want you guys to know this does not have to be a busy hard process.

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You don't have to have a special board.

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You can get started today.

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This was is an example of my board when I went through boot camp and I've added some

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things along the way.

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So I am a very visual person.

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I like to use pictures with words.

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That's my preference.

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You don't have to do that and please don't wait to do this because you don't have magazines

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to do pictures.

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Just get started however you can, whether that's looking on Google or just going with

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words or whatever.

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So this is just one example.

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You know, for me, I have my spiritual daughters on here, I have my stepson on here.

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There's things that I'm praying for for them.

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I had before I got married, I wanted a spirit mate that was the fireworks that I was going

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to feel fireworks and I wanted to travel around the world with them and I wanted to live and

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love and laugh and, and all these things.

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And I wanted someone that would commit and all of, you know, all of that as well.

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I want you guys to know that literally things that you put on here, you will start to see

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activity quickly.

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Not that it's always the spirit mate, but I will tell you that things that I put on

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the board, I saw God start working in them very rapidly.

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The one that he started working in with me the most was the having fun, going on trips,

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having fun, traveling and all of that kind of stuff.

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So God started opening up doors for me to travel and just see what he was doing and

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have more fun in my life.

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These are other examples of other people's Jesus cares board.

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They're kind of scaled out so you can't see all the things they've written, but see how

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like some of them, it can just be simple post-it notes and that's great.

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It doesn't, there's no competition here.

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It's how you want to express it and what you want to do.

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The other one has a little bit of flowers.

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She has some post-its.

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She has a scripture in the middle.

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This is another one.

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This lady was just kind of working on her.

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So she had a couple of post-its, a couple of hearts, and then this other one's just

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like a little clip, you know, putting a couple of things on there.

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And that was the board she chose.

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Again, you don't have to buy anything.

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We've literally had some women just stick them on a wall in the corner of their bedroom.

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Y'all, that is enough.

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Again, this does not have to be a big ordeal.

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And we would rather you do it versus again, waiting for you to have all the crafts and

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all the things because stepping into this, you're saying, Jesus, I'm giving you these

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cares today.

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And so even if you only have a couple in your mind, you know, tonight, maybe even before

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you go to bed, just writing it on a post-it note and sticking it up just to get yourself

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started, I think will be a great help to you.

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So the reason we bring that up in this week is because we really want to encourage you

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guys to lean into the Holy Spirit.

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If you haven't noticed, a lot of times I will ask you guys a question in my responses to

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The reason that we do that is because we're not trying to get you guys to always come

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to us for an answer.

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pastor and the leaders to have the answers for us, but what we need to do more is ask

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thinking about the way that you relate to the Lord, what does it look like for God to

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be emotionally involved in your life?

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If you think about any relationship where you feel close to someone, maybe it's your

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your kids, whoever, maybe, you know, a friend to be emotionally involved in

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their life, you're spending time with them, you're getting to know them.

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Typically they're showing you some kind of love you're reciprocating that, you

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know, you know, that they hear you, they pay attention to you, you know, maybe

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you get together on holidays and you exchange gifts, whatever that looks like.

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He shows up in all kinds of ways, you all.

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he is intimately involved in the, the makings and the weaving of your life.

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circumstances and you feel like God abandoned you in them, but he didn't.

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If you're one of the people that feels like God, absolutely.

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It doesn't even feel like God's emotionally involved in my life like that.

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I would encourage you to ask him to reveal to you.

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When is the first time you felt like he wasn't, and you can talk about that too.

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When you go into your breakout groups and then you want to ask him to reveal the

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lie that you believed that led you to that place.

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The lie comes from the enemy who comes in during trauma and he lies to you.

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So the only way to unpack that stuff is to ask the Lord to reveal it.

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And then once you know what it is, then you ask him for the truth to replace it.

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You'll get better at this as time goes on in this course, you'll get a lot better.

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So I'm going to be praying for you guys while you're in your breakout session.

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Again, the question is, do you believe that God is emotionally involved with your life?

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And if you don't, when is the first time you recall feeling like he wasn't all right.

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So when you go into your breakout sessions, ladies, some of you, I see, I

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have some ladies that were on earlier today, which is totally fine.

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For those of you that were on earlier today, you already have your prayer partners.

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We're going to try to pull this off the best that we can.

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I already heard some people were emailing our admin team asking for people's

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information, just so you know, we cannot give out anyone's information.

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We can't do that.

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So what we're trying to do is we're trying to, when you go into the breakout

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room that you're assigned to tonight, those are going to be your prayer

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partners for your journey.

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You guys are going to be in the same group all night long tonight.

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Going forward, we might mix you guys up a little bit more.

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You don't have to give out your phone number.

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Ladies, everybody is in the Facebook group for the most part.

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do our best to get you connected.

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I'm going to take screenshots of the breakout breakout groups tonight,

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and we'll try to get you connected.

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We'll figure it out.

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Please don't email the admin.

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Well, we'll work through it together.

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The reason we're bringing this back is we, we just really feel like it's really

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critical, especially in a big group like this, you guys need to feel connected.

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Now, when you connect with your prayer partners after the live, you know, that's

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really dependent on your schedules.

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What you guys, the level you want to engage in that again, no coaching, no

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counseling, you would connect for prayer.

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That can be via text.

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That can be voice memos, phone.

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That's again, that's up to you guys.

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We're not going to tell you, you have to do it any certain way.

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So it's about you guys growing in relationship with each other.

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write each other's names down, you're only going to have two or three people in

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a group, so that shouldn't take you should not take you a long time.

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your people in your group know that.

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So you guys are gonna have about eight minutes to talk and you should

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have that link there to join now.

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Great job, everyone.

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Just go ahead.

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We have, um, Janice and Lachelle and Chantelle.

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Do you guys see where to click to join?

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Sometimes it's just delayed with connection.

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You guys should see that to join.

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If you can click to join that breakout room, that way you guys

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can have this small conversation.

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Hi, Kate.

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We just went into breakouts and we are talking about, do you believe that God is emotionally

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So I'm going to put you into a room.

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Go ahead and accept that.

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Chantel, are you able, you might be able, if LaShawn, Chantel can message me just so

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I know if you guys are going to get, go into the breakout rooms tonight.

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It's okay if you're at work and you can't for some reason.

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And Lynn, I sent you a request to join a group.

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You should see that.

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Father, thank you so much for every one of these ladies.

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Thank you for everything that you're doing in their lives.

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Thank you, Lord, for just continuing to help them to understand what supernatural surrender

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God, that it's an invitation that you're asking them to let you to come into the parts of

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their hearts and their lives so that you can bring healing and redemption and restoration.

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So Lord, we just thank you for just continuing to work in great and mighty ways.

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Hi, Gina.

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I'm going to go ahead and put you in a breakout.

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They're almost done, but you can kind of just listen in for this first one since they're

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almost finished.

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There you go.

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You have that room to join.

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what your plan and your purpose is for our lives in the fullness of what that original

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plan was when you created us.

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Lord, so much came in and entered through trauma, through the attacks of the enemy, through

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our own decisions and mistakes.

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And Lord, I thank you that your grace is sufficient and that you're doing a work far beyond what

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we could ever ask or imagine.

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And we just thank you that you're going to help the ladies just to hear what your spirit

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is saying to them tonight.

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We thank you for redeeming through your son, Jesus, our storylines, and you're helping

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us to, Lord, just to know the things that we need to supernaturally surrender to you.

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Lord, I thank you that you would help us to let go of the wheel, that you would help us

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to lean into trusting you in every area.

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We thank you that our understanding is small, but you're so patient with us.

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your Holy Spirit is saying.

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as love and that you would help us to continue to experience just your mighty power at work

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in our lives.

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Lord, that you would help the ladies to experience supernatural breakthroughs and restoration

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and healing.

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lives and bringing your healing power.

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Lord, we just ask you to release from heaven divine virtue tonight.

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Lord, that you would just help every one of these ladies to feel your presence washing

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over them, over their minds, their hearts, their spirits, their bodies, and their souls.

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We declare healing for those that are sick in any way.

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God, that you would make their bodies completely whole, lacking no good thing.

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We thank you for emotional and mental healing as well as physical healing.

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We thank you for, Lord, thank you for restoring all that the locust has eaten and the moth

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has destroyed, the areas where the enemy came in like a flood and he tried to bring torment.

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bring us love and power and a sound mind.

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So, Lord, we thank you that you would help us.

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us to take land for you through this process of healing. Okay, so I'll have you guys knew

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if you guys can go and you guys will all want to mute for me. Okay. And so what we just

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thank you that even as the ladies share in the group right now, or that you would just

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help it to minister to each other. And we just ask for deeper revelation and understanding

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and Jesus name. All right, let me meet a couple people. Super important if you're not talking

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to me, because we'll get a lot of background noise with this many people. Okay, joy cart.

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I don't know if I'm saying this right court, right? I can't won't let me mute you for some

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reason. So if you can mute yourself, that would be helpful. Alright, so awesome. Hopefully

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you guys enjoyed that time. I would love to have at least two of you will see how much

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time allows tonight. Share with the group what you shared in your private breakout session.

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So who would be willing to jump right in and go for it tonight?

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I would be. Okay, go ahead, Joanne. Hi. Yes, I'm in the group with Karina and Belinda.

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And we all basically said that we do feel God's life in, you know, through us emotionally.

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Some of us have said that, you know, we felt him more at certain times, and then we go

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away, he doesn't leave us, but we leave him maybe and come back. But for me, he's definitely

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been in my journey, definitely. And in the other ladies as well. Often on it was wonderful

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to meet them and be in this process. So I can't thank you enough for everything. Yeah,

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that's so awesome. Thank you so much for sharing. And you know, ladies, one of the things that

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she said, they're super important is that sometimes we move away from the Lord. You know,

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it doesn't even mean that we turn away and we like no longer have a relationship with him.

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But what can happen and you guys will experience this even in your physical relationships when

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something happens and it triggers you, or you feel afraid and you're like, you know,

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leaning back into those things as protection, self protection mechanisms, walls will go up.

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And you'll feel it, you'll feel it in your flesh, right? If you if we're paying attention,

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we tend to feel those things in our flesh. And so when we are willing to recognize those things,

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even with the Lord, and choose like, wait a minute, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna lean into

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that anymore. I'm going to choose to turn towards the Lord, instead of away from and part of the

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process that, you know, has been helpful from my experience is, you know, asking the Lord to

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help me understand the fullness of his love, you know, and I think a lot of us we grow up in church

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and we're like, yeah, I understand love. I know he's love. We know it here. But we don't fully

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know it down here, not in like deep in our being. So when these things happen, we revert back to

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the lies that we believed from a long time ago from those sources of pain. And so you'll you'll

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see that happen. And it's okay, when it does just recognize it. And every time you turn back

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towards the Lord, instead, you're going to get stronger. And you're going to start to build a new

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muscle instead of that old muscle, where you reverted to maybe unhealthy behaviors, isolation,

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withdrawing, maybe, you know, some people will turn towards alcohol or food. I mean, there's so

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many things that we do to self medicate. You know, we talk a lot in this group, you guys are going to

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find we're real here. Okay, men and women struggle with pornography, men and women struggle with all

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kinds of masturbation issues, we talk about it. And it's important that you guys understand,

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like, these are all things people do to hide and self medicate. So whether it's, you know,

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in our minds, big things like that, because that's how we label it in the church, or it's things like

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food, or it's things like running away from situations, the Lord wants us to show up,

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he wants us to show up and be who we are, and let him help us break out of that stuff. Okay.

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All right, Meg, how about you?

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Um, so I, in our group, I shared that I want to believe God is invested. And I can see where he

476
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has, like where he has spared me from pain from certain pain, or giving me pushes towards other

477
00:29:27.600 --> 00:29:35.120
things. But I think kind of that you were disappointed, but kind of that those instances

478
00:29:35.120 --> 00:29:39.920
where I feel like where I am disappointed, because he didn't do what I thought he needed to do,

479
00:29:39.920 --> 00:29:45.040
or whatever, I have just created, like a reluctance, you know, even when it's,

480
00:29:46.320 --> 00:29:50.800
he answered my prayer, just not in the way I wanted it. And then I have to get as you kind

481
00:29:50.800 --> 00:29:56.160
of said, I guess I kind of have to remind myself, I have to come back to but he answered my prayer,

482
00:29:56.160 --> 00:29:59.840
like, he didn't leave me hanging. It just wasn't what I wanted.

483
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.560
into here, and so that's kind of where I was.

484
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That's so good.

485
00:30:05.400 --> 00:30:08.000
Can anyone relate to what Meg said?

486
00:30:08.000 --> 00:30:10.560
Like, you wanna believe he's emotionally involved,

487
00:30:10.560 --> 00:30:13.520
but sometimes it just feels tough.

488
00:30:13.520 --> 00:30:15.200
It does.

489
00:30:15.200 --> 00:30:18.880
But the reality is, is that he will continue to show you,

490
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yes, ladies, show your sports,

491
00:30:20.160 --> 00:30:22.200
okay, go ahead and do that if you want to,

492
00:30:23.640 --> 00:30:26.080
to ask him to show you

493
00:30:26.080 --> 00:30:28.080
how he's emotionally involved in your life

494
00:30:28.120 --> 00:30:30.160
and how he's always been there.

495
00:30:31.040 --> 00:30:32.960
So one of the examples I gave this morning,

496
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I'm gonna give it again tonight

497
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because I think it's helpful,

498
00:30:35.960 --> 00:30:39.280
is years ago, I was in a really bad relationship.

499
00:30:39.280 --> 00:30:41.520
I didn't know it was bad when I went into it.

500
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He sounded right.

501
00:30:44.760 --> 00:30:46.480
He said all the right things.

502
00:30:46.480 --> 00:30:48.760
He did all these amazing things.

503
00:30:48.760 --> 00:30:52.160
He like super love-bombed me is what I know now,

504
00:30:52.160 --> 00:30:53.680
but I didn't know enough.

505
00:30:53.680 --> 00:30:55.840
Like, I didn't know what I didn't know.

506
00:30:55.840 --> 00:30:57.600
And so one of the things I wanna encourage you guys

507
00:30:58.120 --> 00:30:58.960
to do in your process,

508
00:30:58.960 --> 00:31:00.480
like some of the mistakes we make,

509
00:31:00.480 --> 00:31:02.800
it's because we don't know any better.

510
00:31:02.800 --> 00:31:05.680
And so it's okay to just quit beating yourself up over it.

511
00:31:05.680 --> 00:31:08.840
The reality is you're here now and you're learning,

512
00:31:08.840 --> 00:31:10.240
you're investing in yourself

513
00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:14.040
so that you can grow in ways that you need to grow.

514
00:31:14.040 --> 00:31:16.440
And so if we will quit beating ourselves up

515
00:31:16.440 --> 00:31:20.520
about those mistakes and just allow God to transform it

516
00:31:20.520 --> 00:31:23.000
and use those to teach us and make us stronger

517
00:31:23.000 --> 00:31:25.640
so we don't keep making those mistakes,

518
00:31:25.640 --> 00:31:29.040
then what we know to be true in this community,

519
00:31:29.040 --> 00:31:30.600
as well as in the body of Christ,

520
00:31:30.600 --> 00:31:32.560
but we're seeing a ton of it here

521
00:31:32.560 --> 00:31:33.960
is as people are breaking free,

522
00:31:33.960 --> 00:31:36.240
we're seeing people make really great choices

523
00:31:36.240 --> 00:31:37.440
in relationships.

524
00:31:37.440 --> 00:31:38.600
I believe I'm one of them.

525
00:31:38.600 --> 00:31:40.560
I have an amazing husband now,

526
00:31:40.560 --> 00:31:42.160
but I say all that to say,

527
00:31:43.120 --> 00:31:45.920
when I went into that relationship,

528
00:31:45.920 --> 00:31:48.240
I was broken over my divorce.

529
00:31:48.240 --> 00:31:50.800
I had been divorced for enough time, all that,

530
00:31:50.800 --> 00:31:52.560
but what I hadn't dealt with yet

531
00:31:52.560 --> 00:31:54.200
was the loss of my stepson.

532
00:31:55.200 --> 00:31:58.960
When I told my ex-husband I was gonna file for divorce,

533
00:31:58.960 --> 00:32:01.320
he never let me see my stepson ever again.

534
00:32:01.320 --> 00:32:02.960
And this is not just like,

535
00:32:02.960 --> 00:32:05.880
oh, maybe this is someone I was around a little bit.

536
00:32:05.880 --> 00:32:07.200
Like he lived with us.

537
00:32:07.200 --> 00:32:09.840
I was a second mom to him.

538
00:32:09.840 --> 00:32:11.800
We spent like every day together.

539
00:32:11.800 --> 00:32:12.720
I took him to school.

540
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:14.200
I did all the homework.

541
00:32:14.200 --> 00:32:16.360
Like I was not his mom,

542
00:32:16.360 --> 00:32:18.360
but I definitely, when his mom moved away,

543
00:32:18.360 --> 00:32:20.600
I mean, I filled that role.

544
00:32:20.600 --> 00:32:23.160
So for that to happen,

545
00:32:23.240 --> 00:32:26.240
I just, I mean, it really rocked me.

546
00:32:27.240 --> 00:32:30.120
And so then when I met this other guy,

547
00:32:30.120 --> 00:32:32.320
I hadn't dealt with that yet.

548
00:32:32.320 --> 00:32:34.040
And I even told him on the front end,

549
00:32:34.040 --> 00:32:35.080
I knew he had two kids.

550
00:32:35.080 --> 00:32:37.440
I said, I don't wanna meet your kids until this time.

551
00:32:37.440 --> 00:32:41.120
And I said all those things,

552
00:32:41.120 --> 00:32:44.560
but then he started sending me pictures of his kids.

553
00:32:44.560 --> 00:32:48.160
And my heart just, I couldn't even help it.

554
00:32:48.160 --> 00:32:51.200
I just got so drawn right into that.

555
00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:54.960
And so in the beginning, in my mind,

556
00:32:54.960 --> 00:32:58.280
I believed that God led me to this person,

557
00:32:58.280 --> 00:33:03.280
but God was showing me that he was not healthy.

558
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And he was showing me red flags, but I blew past those.

559
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And because I did,

560
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there was a lot of not good things that happened.

561
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And so I wanna say that tonight

562
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because the example I'm giving you

563
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is that sometimes God himself is speaking to us

564
00:33:20.480 --> 00:33:23.160
and he's trying to help us,

565
00:33:23.160 --> 00:33:28.040
but we're just, for whatever reason, we're not listening.

566
00:33:28.040 --> 00:33:31.400
Sometimes it's because, again, we have these walls up,

567
00:33:31.400 --> 00:33:32.800
we have this brokenness.

568
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For me, I was broken over my stepson

569
00:33:35.880 --> 00:33:37.960
and I got sucked into that through the kids

570
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and then also some other things.

571
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So it's where we recognize these areas

572
00:33:42.800 --> 00:33:45.880
that we need to own as well, okay?

573
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So that's part of the goal of this supernatural surrender.

574
00:33:49.040 --> 00:33:54.040
It's also surrendering and not blaming God for things.

575
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Like that was my choice.

576
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God didn't make me do that, I chose.

577
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And when I finally came to the place

578
00:34:03.200 --> 00:34:05.280
that I took ownership of that,

579
00:34:05.280 --> 00:34:08.360
y'all, that brought me incredible freedom.

580
00:34:08.360 --> 00:34:09.719
Even though it was really hard,

581
00:34:09.719 --> 00:34:11.040
that gave me a lot of freedom

582
00:34:11.040 --> 00:34:14.840
because I took my power back too, okay?

583
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So keep that in mind.

584
00:34:16.159 --> 00:34:17.000
All right, Serene,

585
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I would love to hear what you have to say.

586
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Did I say your name right?

587
00:34:22.239 --> 00:34:23.520
Yes, it is Serene, thank you.

588
00:34:23.520 --> 00:34:24.360
Okay, awesome.

589
00:34:25.239 --> 00:34:27.239
In my group, I told the ladies

590
00:34:27.239 --> 00:34:30.159
that I was actually super excited about the journey,

591
00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:32.560
about him being involved in my emotions

592
00:34:32.560 --> 00:34:35.480
because it was one area that I did not think

593
00:34:35.480 --> 00:34:38.600
that he was involved in and wanted to be involved in.

594
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So it was, for me, welcoming and I embraced it fully.

595
00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:43.880
Don't like it, but I embraced it

596
00:34:43.920 --> 00:34:47.600
because I knew it was necessary for my journey.

597
00:34:47.600 --> 00:34:51.280
And I know that the other two ladies in my group,

598
00:34:51.280 --> 00:34:53.880
Ashley and Lachelle, Ashley embraced it,

599
00:34:53.880 --> 00:34:56.840
but Lachelle was a little bit like,

600
00:34:56.840 --> 00:35:00.560
she wanted, she wants it, but she's like taking baby steps.

601
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.880
steps with it. So it was interesting to see everybody's dynamics. So I embrace it fully.

602
00:35:04.880 --> 00:35:09.200
And that's it. Oh, good. Thank you for sharing that. And I think that's a good thing for us

603
00:35:09.200 --> 00:35:15.840
to acknowledge before we get ready for the next breakout session too, is God is a gentleman.

604
00:35:16.880 --> 00:35:23.760
He really is. And so he's never going to force himself on you all. He won't. He's not like what

605
00:35:23.760 --> 00:35:29.680
we experienced in the world. He will knock on the door of our hearts and he will ask if he can come

606
00:35:29.680 --> 00:35:38.400
in. He comes in by invitation. So we have to invite him in. In your heart workbook, there is

607
00:35:38.400 --> 00:35:45.520
a submission activation. It's a prayer. I can't tell you the page just because you guys will have

608
00:35:45.520 --> 00:35:49.840
it on a different page. So you'll just have to look for it. It's called the submission activation,

609
00:35:49.840 --> 00:35:55.680
but it's a prayer. And I would encourage you guys to read this over yourselves. I'm going to read it

610
00:35:55.680 --> 00:36:00.480
over, you know, so I want to ask you guys just kind of like close your eyes and let this kind

611
00:36:00.480 --> 00:36:03.440
of wash over you. And then we're going to get ready for the next breakout session.

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Father God, I give you permission to search me and to reveal anything in my heart that does not

613
00:36:09.520 --> 00:36:15.920
belong to my true identity. And that is hindering me from living the life you created me to live.

614
00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:19.040
Holy spirit, I invite you into the darkest places in my heart,

615
00:36:19.040 --> 00:36:24.880
show me the areas that are still wounded and are still hurting. When you reveal these broken places

616
00:36:24.880 --> 00:36:29.760
to me, I covenant with you to release them into your care and to respond with forgiveness and

617
00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:35.760
repentance. I set aside this season of my life for a time of healing and wholeness and ask holy

618
00:36:35.760 --> 00:36:43.520
spirit to take charge of this process. I ask that you dwell with me and in me, I need you. I cannot

619
00:36:43.520 --> 00:36:51.040
heal myself. I want to be free from the past, free to be who I truly am. Help me to become who you

620
00:36:51.040 --> 00:36:57.200
created me to be. Show me the lies I have believed about myself, my life, my surroundings, even the

621
00:36:57.200 --> 00:37:04.400
lies I have believed about you. Teach me the greater truth. Teach me your ways. Teach me how to think

622
00:37:04.400 --> 00:37:13.760
and how to live abundantly. Teach me, show me, heal me, grow me. Amen. So your next question is,

623
00:37:14.480 --> 00:37:19.200
how do you feel about the word submission? That's what you're going to talk about in your group.

624
00:37:20.160 --> 00:37:24.880
One of the things before you go in there that I think is important to mention, and again, if you

625
00:37:24.880 --> 00:37:28.800
were on earlier today, you'll hear some of this. It might come out exactly the same. It could come

626
00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:38.320
out a little different, but submission is a mutual choice of respect and love. When we truly submit

627
00:37:38.320 --> 00:37:46.480
from a heart posture of love to our future spirit mates, to God, it's a lot different experience

628
00:37:46.480 --> 00:37:53.520
versus feeling like someone is forcing their way on us. Some of you might have had negative

629
00:37:53.520 --> 00:37:58.880
experiences in prior marriages, maybe family growing up, maybe leadership people that were

630
00:37:58.880 --> 00:38:06.880
over you, where they lorded their authority over you and try to force you to submit. That's not

631
00:38:06.880 --> 00:38:13.200
what we're talking about here. Those are good things to talk about, but the main person we

632
00:38:13.200 --> 00:38:21.840
want to learn how to submit to is God. So in that, really asking God to reveal to you what is

633
00:38:21.840 --> 00:38:27.760
your true belief and understanding of submission. What does the word say about submission? What does

634
00:38:27.760 --> 00:38:34.560
the Bible actually say? One of the things my husband and I talk a lot about is even before

635
00:38:34.560 --> 00:38:38.960
we got married, that was one of my first questions to him because I was in an abusive marriage in the

636
00:38:38.960 --> 00:38:45.280
past and I did not want that again. And so I wanted to know what his view of submission was.

637
00:38:45.280 --> 00:38:52.480
And we're on the same page that it is a mutual choice to love, to respect, and to submit to one

638
00:38:52.480 --> 00:38:59.840
another in unity. And again, it's very similar when we choose to submit to the Lord, but again,

639
00:38:59.840 --> 00:39:06.640
he will not force us. It's a choice we have to make. All right, so I'm going to put you guys

640
00:39:06.640 --> 00:39:12.080
in your breakout groups. If you've joined us since the last breakout group, don't worry,

641
00:39:12.080 --> 00:39:19.520
I will get you situated here in just a minute. All right, ladies, go ahead and join your groups.

642
00:39:36.640 --> 00:39:47.280
All right, everybody should have a link to join now, I believe.

643
00:39:52.160 --> 00:40:01.520
Katie, do you have a link to join?

644
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:20.920
Father, thank you so much for every one of these ladies that are in the groups right

645
00:40:20.920 --> 00:40:21.920
now.

646
00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:26.560
They're talking about submission, Lord, and we know at times how difficult that can be.

647
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So Lord, we just pray right now that you would remove any stony, hardened places of our hearts

648
00:40:32.520 --> 00:40:37.920
and put in those places hearts that are soft and pliable to you, Lord, we thank you that

649
00:40:37.920 --> 00:40:44.480
you would transform us by the renewing of our minds that all things have passed away

650
00:40:44.480 --> 00:40:49.920
and behold, all things have become new and you, God, I thank you that we can trust you,

651
00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:55.120
God, that we can give you the tough parts of our hearts and know that you are working

652
00:40:55.120 --> 00:41:01.080
all things together for our good, because you love us and your work and your plans,

653
00:41:01.080 --> 00:41:06.360
you want to bring those to pass in our lives, Jeremiah 29, 11 says that, you know, the plans

654
00:41:06.360 --> 00:41:11.040
you have for us, Lord, plans to prosper us, to give us a hope in a future not to harm

655
00:41:11.040 --> 00:41:13.160
us or bring evil into our lives.

656
00:41:13.160 --> 00:41:17.080
So Lord, I thank you that you would help us to resist the lies of the enemy that would

657
00:41:17.080 --> 00:41:23.280
cause us to think that you do not have our best interest at heart, Lord, help us to lean

658
00:41:23.440 --> 00:41:28.760
into what the word says about your character, about who you are, God, that we would meditate

659
00:41:28.760 --> 00:41:33.960
on your word day and night, and we would, Lord, take it in in such a way that it would

660
00:41:33.960 --> 00:41:40.160
be written on the tablets of our hearts, God, that we would go about our days and we would

661
00:41:40.160 --> 00:41:43.920
think of you, that we would think on things that are true and noble and lovely and of

662
00:41:43.920 --> 00:41:48.400
good report, things that are above only and not beneath, that we would be blessed when

663
00:41:48.400 --> 00:41:52.120
we rise up, blessed when we lie down, that we would be blessed when we go in and blessed

664
00:41:52.120 --> 00:41:53.280
when we go out.

665
00:41:53.280 --> 00:41:57.800
So Lord, I thank you that we would be marked by your glory, that we would be marked by

666
00:41:57.800 --> 00:42:02.840
your healing and your grace, that people would look at us and look at our lives and wonder

667
00:42:02.840 --> 00:42:04.920
what is different about us.

668
00:42:04.920 --> 00:42:09.320
Your word declares how precious are your thoughts about us, so God, they cannot be numbered.

669
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We can't even count them.

670
00:42:10.480 --> 00:42:15.320
They outnumber the grains of sand, and when we wake up, you are still with us.

671
00:42:15.320 --> 00:42:21.080
So Lord, I thank you that you are with us at all times, and we can trust our hearts

672
00:42:21.080 --> 00:42:23.200
safely in you.

673
00:42:23.200 --> 00:42:28.040
We thank you that you would remind us, Lord, that we need to be alert and be present because

674
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you're about to do something new.

675
00:42:29.400 --> 00:42:30.400
It's bursting out.

676
00:42:30.400 --> 00:42:31.680
Don't we see it?

677
00:42:31.680 --> 00:42:32.680
There it is.

678
00:42:32.680 --> 00:42:36.640
It's making a road through the desert, rivers, and the badlands.

679
00:42:36.640 --> 00:42:40.640
That's from Isaiah 43, 19 in the message version, ladies.

680
00:42:40.640 --> 00:42:45.960
We encourage you to really soak in scripture that's in the book, scripture that is going

681
00:42:45.960 --> 00:42:51.720
to transform the way that you think about life and the plans and the purposes God has

682
00:42:51.720 --> 00:42:52.720
for you.

683
00:42:52.720 --> 00:42:54.560
God is doing a new thing.

684
00:42:54.560 --> 00:42:57.600
He's doing a new thing, so you have to align with that.

685
00:42:57.600 --> 00:43:00.800
Even when you don't see it, he is working.

686
00:43:00.800 --> 00:43:05.440
Okay, I think we have everyone back now.

687
00:43:05.440 --> 00:43:07.160
Okay, perfect.

688
00:43:07.160 --> 00:43:10.520
And who would be willing to, Jenny, are you willing to share?

689
00:43:10.520 --> 00:43:11.520
Did you put your hand up?

690
00:43:11.520 --> 00:43:12.520
Okay, awesome.

691
00:43:12.520 --> 00:43:13.520
Thanks.

692
00:43:13.520 --> 00:43:14.520
Go ahead.

693
00:43:14.600 --> 00:43:21.560
Hi, so my group, we were just talking about sort of our issues with submission.

694
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At first, we were talking about it could be easy to submit to someone who is worthy to

695
00:43:27.640 --> 00:43:30.840
submit to and like a good leader.

696
00:43:30.840 --> 00:43:34.760
But then as we were talking, I realized I was like very, I was getting like bristly

697
00:43:34.760 --> 00:43:40.240
and like about the whole subject, and I think I have like some trust issues.

698
00:43:40.240 --> 00:43:45.640
And so we were talking about like being guarded and how that's natural if you've been hurt,

699
00:43:45.640 --> 00:43:48.360
but then how do you move beyond that?

700
00:43:48.360 --> 00:43:55.040
Yeah, so I just wanted to bring that up because we were a couple of us in the group were like

701
00:43:55.040 --> 00:44:02.080
just really, you know, talking about being guarded and being hurt and in regards to the

702
00:44:02.080 --> 00:44:03.080
submission.

703
00:44:03.080 --> 00:44:05.960
Yeah, this is such a great question.

704
00:44:05.960 --> 00:44:08.880
Thank you so much for what you shared.

705
00:44:08.920 --> 00:44:12.560
You know, the first thing I'll say is what really stood out to me too, is when you said

706
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someone worthy, someone that we deem is worthy to submit to, right?

707
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And so I think the first thing that I need to draw out is, I'm just going to do something.

708
00:44:23.080 --> 00:44:26.800
I did this at our church recently, and it was so funny, but it came back to me when

709
00:44:26.800 --> 00:44:27.800
I just was saying this.

710
00:44:27.800 --> 00:44:33.000
So like, if I have these sunglasses, right, and I put these on, everything that I see

711
00:44:33.000 --> 00:44:35.200
now is impacted by these glasses.

712
00:44:35.200 --> 00:44:38.640
Like literally, I can hardly see my screen, like I see squares, but I can't see any of

713
00:44:38.680 --> 00:44:40.680
you unless I move a certain way.

714
00:44:40.680 --> 00:44:46.240
And I'm saying this because, got some feedback there.

715
00:44:46.240 --> 00:44:52.240
If I'm walking around in my life with these glasses on, let's say these glasses came,

716
00:44:52.240 --> 00:44:57.480
these lenses that I'm looking through came from trauma or pain that I experienced.

717
00:44:57.480 --> 00:45:00.040
And I never take these off.

718
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:08.500
Every person that I look at, including God, every situation I encounter, I'm literally looking through that lens.

719
00:45:08.500 --> 00:45:18.220
And so what one of the things that we have to do is ask the Lord to help us remove the lenses that are faulty, if that makes sense.

720
00:45:18.220 --> 00:45:28.260
And he understands why we have them. He, he feels for us when we are wounded, he, his heart breaks when our heart breaks.

721
00:45:28.260 --> 00:45:35.180
So he has understanding and compassion. The word declares that he's close to the brokenhearted and those who are crushed in spirit.

722
00:45:35.180 --> 00:45:40.220
So if he says that in his word, he's not a man that he should lie.

723
00:45:40.220 --> 00:45:45.340
So he is going to be near to us and he's going to try to comfort us any way that he can.

724
00:45:45.340 --> 00:45:49.660
So that's the first thing is like, OK, well, it's who we deem worthy.

725
00:45:49.660 --> 00:45:54.700
But if our lenses are are kind of skewing that, that can be one thing.

726
00:45:54.700 --> 00:45:58.180
Now, I'm not talking about toxic, abusive relationships.

727
00:45:58.180 --> 00:46:04.820
So don't hear me saying that if there are toxic, abusive relationships, they're toxic, abusive relationships.

728
00:46:04.820 --> 00:46:20.660
So that's not what we're talking about here. OK, but the other thing is there is that the trust issues, what you ask is how do you move beyond the pain or situations that cause you to now struggle to trust?

729
00:46:20.660 --> 00:46:25.860
My first answer is honestly, your heart healing.

730
00:46:25.860 --> 00:46:35.220
You know, as your heart heals, you will start to not only trust in God more, but you'll start to trust in humanity, more people.

731
00:46:35.220 --> 00:46:38.780
But the other thing is and you guys might not like it, but this is the reality.

732
00:46:38.780 --> 00:46:42.940
Jackie said this way back when I was in boot camp and mentorship.

733
00:46:42.940 --> 00:46:46.100
Love is a risk. It is.

734
00:46:46.100 --> 00:46:52.020
Anybody that we choose to love, we are taking a risk, even friends.

735
00:46:52.020 --> 00:46:55.300
But man, it's worth it when it's good.

736
00:46:55.300 --> 00:47:01.620
Right. And sometimes it ends up not being good, but look at what we learn in the process.

737
00:47:01.620 --> 00:47:08.700
That relationship that I was in was not good, but I loved with everything I had in me.

738
00:47:08.700 --> 00:47:12.940
I didn't hold back. I wish I had done some things differently.

739
00:47:12.940 --> 00:47:17.380
But I have grown so much through all of that.

740
00:47:17.380 --> 00:47:25.780
And that's part of what I mean, part of I think why God has me doing what I'm doing now, because I made some mistakes along the way.

741
00:47:25.780 --> 00:47:29.980
Some were things done to me by other people that led me down the wrong path.

742
00:47:29.980 --> 00:47:32.500
You know, some of it was my own choices.

743
00:47:32.500 --> 00:47:43.980
But as we heal, from my perspective, I believe that we start to kind of open the door a little more.

744
00:47:43.980 --> 00:47:47.180
The more we heal, we're like, OK, maybe it is.

745
00:47:47.180 --> 00:47:54.580
It's kind of like, you know, when we teach our kids to look out a door or before they cross the street, look both ways.

746
00:47:54.580 --> 00:48:01.580
It's kind of like that, like we're opening the door and we're just kind of looking around like, is it safe to come out?

747
00:48:01.580 --> 00:48:05.460
And the Lord is going to show you when it's safe to come out and when it's not.

748
00:48:05.460 --> 00:48:15.060
And even for those of you that have maybe maybe you feel like you have a broken picker or maybe maybe you've had a lot of people that have used you and mistreated you.

749
00:48:15.060 --> 00:48:18.820
You're going to learn why in this process, why that's happened.

750
00:48:18.820 --> 00:48:22.100
People that are big givers tend to attract takers.

751
00:48:22.100 --> 00:48:25.700
But as you heal, you'll learn how to set healthy boundaries.

752
00:48:25.700 --> 00:48:28.340
And that will that will be a huge part of it.

753
00:48:28.340 --> 00:48:31.140
And you'll learn that God is defending you and how he is.

754
00:48:31.140 --> 00:48:45.820
For example, when he was telling me the red flags, the next time I was encountering someone that was unhealthy and God was like, here's a red flag, I didn't just blow past it anymore.

755
00:48:45.820 --> 00:48:51.540
So that's that was kind of a long answer, but I hope that you see the different facets and sides of that.

756
00:48:51.540 --> 00:48:52.780
All right. Awesome.

757
00:48:52.780 --> 00:48:55.020
Lauren, go ahead.

758
00:48:55.060 --> 00:49:03.940
Yeah, so I will say just this question about thinking about those words, surrender, submission and authority is stirred up a lot of emotions in me.

759
00:49:03.940 --> 00:49:10.260
But submission specifically, my initial thought was that I will submit if I'm in agreement with someone.

760
00:49:10.260 --> 00:49:15.860
But even in writing that, I realized that's me wanting to control everything, which is a big thing for me.

761
00:49:15.860 --> 00:49:22.380
And then I said, it's also a scary word, because what if I submit and something goes wrong, like I'm led in a bad direction?

762
00:49:22.380 --> 00:49:33.220
But I was really grateful that as soon as I had that thought, the Holy Spirit reminded me of the truth is that when I'm leading, yeah, I take myself in all sorts of bad directions very regularly.

763
00:49:33.220 --> 00:49:47.620
But if God is leading me, if I submit and let God lead me, that even if the situation is hard or goes wrong, so to speak, like maybe it's not a perfect outcome, that God won't lead me in a bad direction.

764
00:49:47.620 --> 00:49:50.180
That was one of the things in our reading this week.

765
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And so, yeah, control is a big thing.

766
00:49:52.740 --> 00:49:55.820
God's still trying to work on letting me give to him.

767
00:49:55.820 --> 00:50:00.060
But just thinking through these words.

768
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.780
convicting in a good way, but he's lovingly like saying, Hey, Lauren, like I've got more

769
00:50:05.780 --> 00:50:06.780
for you.

770
00:50:06.780 --> 00:50:10.040
Like, just, just, just give me this garbage, you know, just give it to me.

771
00:50:10.040 --> 00:50:11.040
That's good.

772
00:50:11.040 --> 00:50:12.040
Yeah.

773
00:50:12.040 --> 00:50:16.680
Again, it just, you know, the word is talking, the Lord is talking to me a lot about the

774
00:50:16.680 --> 00:50:17.680
word invitation.

775
00:50:17.680 --> 00:50:21.600
So you guys want to hear it a lot when I pray lead prayer calls when I'm teaching right

776
00:50:21.600 --> 00:50:26.200
now, because it's just, I just hear the Holy spirit saying that to the body of Christ as

777
00:50:26.200 --> 00:50:28.760
a whole, it's an invitation.

778
00:50:28.760 --> 00:50:30.840
It's an invitation.

779
00:50:30.840 --> 00:50:35.880
And, uh, the only thing I want to share in that is, uh, you said it's scary because what

780
00:50:35.880 --> 00:50:38.080
if I choose wrong?

781
00:50:38.080 --> 00:50:43.000
One of the things we also have to remember is God is so big.

782
00:50:43.000 --> 00:50:50.800
He's so big and he's so capable that even if we choose wrong, he can help redirect us

783
00:50:50.800 --> 00:50:53.160
back to where we need to be.

784
00:50:53.160 --> 00:50:57.160
So it takes a little bit of the pressure off of having to be perfect.

785
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Because I think sometimes, you know, people are so afraid to make the wrong decision that

786
00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:05.120
we just stay stuck.

787
00:51:05.120 --> 00:51:10.320
And so sometimes it's getting out there, giving it a shot, trying it out and letting God teach

788
00:51:10.320 --> 00:51:17.240
you, you know, and knowing that just like, um, the image I'm having come up in my, in

789
00:51:17.240 --> 00:51:22.840
my spirit is like, you know, when a parent has their little, little toddler and the toddler's

790
00:51:22.840 --> 00:51:27.400
learning to walk and they're starting to kind of run a little bit that parents, they're

791
00:51:27.400 --> 00:51:28.400
looking out for them.

792
00:51:28.400 --> 00:51:30.800
And if they fall, they're there to help them get back up.

793
00:51:30.800 --> 00:51:31.800
Right.

794
00:51:31.800 --> 00:51:35.240
That's the image the Lord wants to give you guys tonight.

795
00:51:35.240 --> 00:51:38.280
Like he's right there.

796
00:51:38.280 --> 00:51:42.120
And yeah, you might fall down and bump your knee a little bit along the way, but he's

797
00:51:42.120 --> 00:51:43.120
going to help you.

798
00:51:43.120 --> 00:51:48.600
And he's going to meet you like what we were talking about emotionally, intimately in those

799
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moments.

800
00:51:49.600 --> 00:51:50.600
Yeah.

801
00:51:50.600 --> 00:51:52.320
He's going to be right there.

802
00:51:52.800 --> 00:51:54.800
All right, Margaret, how about you?

803
00:51:56.800 --> 00:51:59.800
I'm sorry, I had to find my mute button.

804
00:51:59.800 --> 00:52:00.800
Oh, that's all right.

805
00:52:00.800 --> 00:52:05.960
So yeah, we were talking and we were talking about how, you know, we've had in our group,

806
00:52:05.960 --> 00:52:13.120
we had, you know, um, experiences where, where submission in Jackie's book, she talks about

807
00:52:13.120 --> 00:52:18.040
how, you know, became a dirty word kind of like, because it was, um, you know, it got

808
00:52:18.040 --> 00:52:23.400
abused in churches and, um, and by the men that we've been with.

809
00:52:23.400 --> 00:52:30.720
And, um, and so that was the hardest thing for me, um, was understanding that, you know,

810
00:52:30.720 --> 00:52:35.160
God is not a man and, um, you can submit to him.

811
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And, um, ultimately what God has been teaching me and I was sharing with the group in my

812
00:52:40.240 --> 00:52:46.360
group was that, um, it doesn't mean that you keep your mouth shut when you submit to God.

813
00:52:46.360 --> 00:52:50.560
If you're submitting to your husband, if you're, you know, abiding by, you know, submit

814
00:52:50.560 --> 00:52:53.920
to your husbands, your husbands are supposed to lay their life down for you and you're

815
00:52:53.920 --> 00:52:57.200
supposed to submit to them or whatever, however you want to work it, however you want to put

816
00:52:57.200 --> 00:53:03.600
it out there, you know, doctrinally or religiously or whatever, ultimately you're not submitting

817
00:53:03.600 --> 00:53:06.040
to your husband, you're submitting to God.

818
00:53:06.040 --> 00:53:09.920
And so when you obey, you're obeying, you're obeying your Abba daddy.

819
00:53:09.920 --> 00:53:12.920
And so, and it's like, you don't need to keep your mouth shut.

820
00:53:12.920 --> 00:53:14.320
Doesn't mean that you don't share your heart.

821
00:53:14.320 --> 00:53:17.280
It doesn't mean that you don't be a part of the process.

822
00:53:17.280 --> 00:53:22.600
And I think the biggest thing for me was understanding, like looking at scripture, you know, and seeing

823
00:53:22.600 --> 00:53:27.120
Sarah, you know, Sarah submitted to her husband and then she was putting a harem, you know,

824
00:53:27.120 --> 00:53:32.600
you know, but God protected her, you know, so it's like if, if the events occur, you

825
00:53:32.600 --> 00:53:36.200
know, in the situation that you're in by, by submission, God's going to take care of

826
00:53:36.200 --> 00:53:37.200
that.

827
00:53:37.200 --> 00:53:38.200
He's going to protect you.

828
00:53:38.200 --> 00:53:41.680
And you also don't keep your mouth shut to the point of like where Abigail, Abigail submitted

829
00:53:41.680 --> 00:53:42.680
to her husband.

830
00:53:42.680 --> 00:53:46.040
But at the same time when he was sleeping, she went out and, you know, saved her whole

831
00:53:46.040 --> 00:53:49.640
village because she didn't, you know, listen to her idiot husband.

832
00:53:49.640 --> 00:53:52.840
She went out and you know, stop David from annihilating the village.

833
00:53:52.840 --> 00:53:56.280
So it's like, ultimately God is going to, God is going to work it out.

834
00:53:56.280 --> 00:54:02.560
He's going to take, he's going to take, you know, when you submit to him, you know, you're

835
00:54:02.560 --> 00:54:03.560
doing it religiously.

836
00:54:03.560 --> 00:54:04.560
Yeah.

837
00:54:04.560 --> 00:54:09.120
So I'm going to challenge a little bit, kind of like some of the way that you're looking

838
00:54:09.120 --> 00:54:10.120
at that there.

839
00:54:10.120 --> 00:54:18.600
I do agree that Sarah and Abraham, that's the one I want to kind of hone in on.

840
00:54:18.600 --> 00:54:25.000
Sarah also made some really significant choices in that process that were not healthy choices

841
00:54:25.000 --> 00:54:28.200
that led her to where she was at.

842
00:54:28.200 --> 00:54:34.240
So when you were describing that the ownership was all on Abraham, okay.

843
00:54:34.240 --> 00:54:38.520
Where they were mutually both deciding things in that process.

844
00:54:38.520 --> 00:54:44.360
It's important for you guys to understand that we all make choices.

845
00:54:44.360 --> 00:54:45.880
We all do.

846
00:54:45.880 --> 00:54:53.520
And so we all have consequences to our choices, even those in the Bible, you know, that we

847
00:54:53.520 --> 00:54:54.520
see.

848
00:54:54.520 --> 00:54:59.680
So just so that we're keeping that kind of in a good, healthy perspective.

849
00:54:59.680 --> 00:55:00.040
And that.

850
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.560
you know, God, yes, he was protecting, he was providing the whole way through 100%.

851
00:55:05.440 --> 00:55:12.960
So just continue to lean into God defending you guys. And, you know, learning how to submit,

852
00:55:12.960 --> 00:55:20.880
as I was saying earlier, it is a mutual choice to love and respect and honor one another.

853
00:55:22.560 --> 00:55:29.120
Truly, you know, and yes, I do think that it includes being able to be honest with your

854
00:55:29.200 --> 00:55:36.720
husband when you're married and tell him what is in your heart and knowing that he will love you,

855
00:55:37.360 --> 00:55:43.440
even if he doesn't agree. Okay. All right. We're going to go into the next breakout session

856
00:55:43.440 --> 00:55:49.200
because we are our time to end tonight is 915. I saw someone asked that it's going to be about

857
00:55:49.200 --> 00:55:55.600
an hour and 15 minutes when we do these lives. Our next question is, are you a control freak?

858
00:55:55.600 --> 00:56:00.160
As we're talking about some of this stuff, are you a control freak? Some of you guys might be

859
00:56:00.160 --> 00:56:06.240
like, nope, I'm good. I'm great. Like I don't over control. And I love to give this example

860
00:56:06.240 --> 00:56:13.680
because it's so true. You know, the Jesus take the wheel song, super popular song years ago by

861
00:56:13.680 --> 00:56:21.200
Carrie Underwood, everybody sang that like out loud, you know, full force. But like, how often

862
00:56:21.200 --> 00:56:26.720
do we say that? But then we just were like, okay, Jesus, here you go. Oh, forget it. No,

863
00:56:26.720 --> 00:56:30.480
you're not quick enough. Like I can help you out and I can make this work so much quicker and

864
00:56:30.480 --> 00:56:35.520
better. And then we're like, oh crap, it's not working. My plan's not working. Jesus, here you

865
00:56:35.520 --> 00:56:42.640
go. And I'm kind of making light, but like, that is really what we do. We give it away and we take

866
00:56:42.640 --> 00:56:49.360
it back. We give it away and we take it back. Right. Where, what we're trying to get you guys

867
00:56:49.360 --> 00:56:58.240
to the point of is saying, how can I completely give this to you, Jesus? How can I really just

868
00:56:58.240 --> 00:57:03.360
let this go into your hands and release it to you? So what areas are you a control freak?

869
00:57:04.960 --> 00:57:10.720
What areas do you struggle to give God complete control in your life? So that's your breakout

870
00:57:10.720 --> 00:57:16.400
session question. Let me put you in there and then we will see you guys in a little bit.

871
00:57:17.280 --> 00:57:21.280
Here you go.

872
00:57:36.560 --> 00:57:37.760
I was in room 12.

873
00:57:39.760 --> 00:57:43.280
Yeah, I just put you in because there's only two, two ladies in that one room.

874
00:57:46.400 --> 00:57:55.200
Here, hold on one second. Let me put you, because see, I have three ladies in the other room right

875
00:57:55.200 --> 00:58:01.120
now. Let me just put you in group 11 for this time, Katie, just that way those ladies will have

876
00:58:01.120 --> 00:58:05.280
an even number of people.

877
00:58:16.400 --> 00:58:19.280
Okay.

878
00:58:38.400 --> 00:58:39.280
I'm still here.

879
00:58:40.240 --> 00:58:46.160
Nothing. It should have given you that invite to join.

880
00:58:49.360 --> 00:58:52.080
All right. I'll just put you in 12 and see if it.

881
00:58:52.080 --> 00:58:55.040
See, now that invites popping up, but the 11 didn't.

882
00:58:55.680 --> 00:59:02.160
Okay. That's okay. Go ahead.

883
00:59:10.240 --> 00:59:18.160
Father, thank you so much for everything that you're continuing to reveal to every one of these

884
00:59:18.160 --> 00:59:24.160
ladies. Thank you, Lord, for helping us to let go of control. We thank you, Lord, that you would

885
00:59:24.160 --> 00:59:30.800
help us to yield to you, to give up, to give in, to let go, to throw in the towel, to concede,

886
00:59:30.800 --> 00:59:36.160
to wave the white flag, Lord, that we would completely surrender all of that to you.

887
00:59:37.120 --> 00:59:41.040
And Lord, that we would ask you to help us in that process.

888
00:59:46.560 --> 00:59:51.680
Hi, Tammy. Did it bump you out of a group or are you just joining just so I know where to put you?

889
00:59:52.480 --> 00:59:53.920
Yes, I'm here. Hi.

890
00:59:54.720 --> 00:59:58.400
Hi. Did it bump you out of one of the groups? Like, were you already in a group?

891
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.440
What do you mean?

892
01:00:03.440 --> 01:00:07.080
Were you already in one of the breakout sessions, or did you just join us?

893
01:00:07.080 --> 01:00:08.560
Well, I was already in.

894
01:00:08.560 --> 01:00:11.360
I was trying to download my picture and...

895
01:00:11.360 --> 01:00:12.360
It's okay.

896
01:00:12.360 --> 01:00:13.360
It's okay.

897
01:00:13.360 --> 01:00:14.360
Okay.

898
01:00:14.360 --> 01:00:15.360
Yeah.

899
01:00:15.360 --> 01:00:16.360
Just what group were you in?

900
01:00:16.360 --> 01:00:20.080
Do you know?

901
01:00:20.080 --> 01:00:21.080
I don't know.

902
01:00:21.080 --> 01:00:23.560
I just know I signed up for the experience group.

903
01:00:23.560 --> 01:00:24.560
Okay.

904
01:00:24.560 --> 01:00:25.560
Yeah.

905
01:00:25.560 --> 01:00:26.560
You don't understand what I'm asking.

906
01:00:26.560 --> 01:00:27.560
It's okay.

907
01:00:27.560 --> 01:00:28.560
I'm going to send you a link.

908
01:00:28.560 --> 01:00:29.560
That's okay.

909
01:00:29.560 --> 01:00:30.560
Go ahead.

910
01:00:30.560 --> 01:00:32.840
You should see a link to join the breakout group.

911
01:00:32.840 --> 01:00:34.520
And what they're doing is they're, yep.

912
01:00:34.520 --> 01:00:37.440
They're talking about being like control freaks.

913
01:00:37.440 --> 01:00:39.680
What area do they need to let go of control?

914
01:00:39.680 --> 01:00:41.680
Oh, you mean the group?

915
01:00:41.680 --> 01:00:43.040
Oh, you guys don't know.

916
01:00:43.040 --> 01:00:44.040
Okay.

917
01:00:44.040 --> 01:00:45.040
I totally get it now.

918
01:00:45.040 --> 01:00:46.040
Thank you.

919
01:00:46.040 --> 01:00:47.040
Okay.

920
01:00:47.040 --> 01:00:48.040
You're welcome.

921
01:00:48.040 --> 01:00:49.040
Okay.

922
01:00:49.040 --> 01:00:50.040
Bye-bye.

923
01:00:50.040 --> 01:00:51.040
Bye.

924
01:00:51.040 --> 01:00:52.040
So you have...

925
01:00:52.040 --> 01:00:53.040
Oh, okay.

926
01:00:53.040 --> 01:00:57.440
So Laura, we just thank you that you're going to continue to show the ladies that control

927
01:00:57.440 --> 01:01:04.360
is an illusion and being out of control can actually be a good thing and even a healthy

928
01:01:04.360 --> 01:01:06.200
place for some of us to be.

929
01:01:06.200 --> 01:01:10.240
Sometimes we try to control so many things that we're not even giving enough room for

930
01:01:10.240 --> 01:01:11.960
the Holy Spirit to work in our lives.

931
01:01:11.960 --> 01:01:17.800
So Laura, thank you that you're going to continue to show each one of these ladies how to be

932
01:01:17.800 --> 01:01:26.520
more real than they've ever been and how to release and relinquish control to you.

933
01:01:26.600 --> 01:01:30.040
We thank you that you would just continue to supernaturally give them the ability to

934
01:01:30.040 --> 01:01:36.760
surrender and fall back into the arms of the one who loves them, the one who created them,

935
01:01:36.760 --> 01:01:39.800
the one who formed them in their mother's womb.

936
01:01:39.800 --> 01:01:44.620
We thank you that as Psalm 139 declares, they're fearfully and wonderfully made.

937
01:01:44.620 --> 01:01:46.600
You didn't make any mistakes in God.

938
01:01:46.600 --> 01:01:49.760
You looked at them and you said, you are good.

939
01:01:49.760 --> 01:01:50.760
You are lovely.

940
01:01:50.760 --> 01:01:51.840
You are cherished.

941
01:01:51.840 --> 01:01:55.120
You are worth far more than rubies.

942
01:01:55.120 --> 01:02:00.160
And so for whoever sees this in replay, we pray that that blesses you and ministers to

943
01:02:00.160 --> 01:02:01.160
you.

944
01:02:01.160 --> 01:02:03.240
God loves you and he is on your side.

945
01:02:03.240 --> 01:02:11.440
Lord, I thank you that you would help them to invite your searching gaze into their hearts,

946
01:02:11.440 --> 01:02:15.720
that you would examine them through and through, find out everything that might be hidden within

947
01:02:15.720 --> 01:02:20.960
them and put them to the test and sit through all their anxious cares.

948
01:02:20.960 --> 01:02:24.920
See if there's any path of pain that they are walking on and lead them back to your

949
01:02:24.920 --> 01:02:29.020
glorious ways, the path that brings them back to you.

950
01:02:29.020 --> 01:02:35.120
That's from Psalm 139, ladies, from Passion Translation verses 23 and 24.

951
01:02:35.120 --> 01:02:39.080
We need God to help us sift through those drunk drawers of life, the places where we

952
01:02:39.080 --> 01:02:44.340
have shoved everything that we didn't know what to do with at the time.

953
01:02:44.340 --> 01:02:49.720
So Lord, show the ladies what areas have they been stuffing things down and stuffing things

954
01:02:49.720 --> 01:02:55.840
down and the areas where you want to help them lean in to unpack that stuff, that they

955
01:02:55.840 --> 01:03:00.480
don't have to do that alone, that you're with them in the journey.

956
01:03:00.480 --> 01:03:05.680
We thank you that even tonight on this session, that you would quicken memories within them,

957
01:03:05.680 --> 01:03:10.720
that you would help them to, you know, not dismiss the things that you're speaking to

958
01:03:10.720 --> 01:03:15.160
them, that you'll help them to lean in and let you do what you do best.

959
01:03:15.160 --> 01:03:19.080
We thank you, God, that time does heal wounds.

960
01:03:19.080 --> 01:03:20.440
And how does it do this?

961
01:03:20.440 --> 01:03:24.440
Because time removes us far enough away from the original trauma that we are deceived into

962
01:03:24.440 --> 01:03:27.620
thinking that it doesn't bother us anymore.

963
01:03:27.620 --> 01:03:30.700
So it's not just time that heals all wounds.

964
01:03:30.700 --> 01:03:36.840
It's allowing God to come in and heal those very, very sensitive areas.

965
01:03:36.840 --> 01:03:42.640
Lord, we thank you that you would help them to truly heal, that you would make them completely

966
01:03:42.640 --> 01:03:45.480
whole, lacking no good thing.

967
01:03:45.480 --> 01:03:46.480
We thank you, Lord.

968
01:03:46.480 --> 01:03:47.480
Oh, hi, Michelle.

969
01:03:47.480 --> 01:03:48.480
Did I kick you out?

970
01:03:48.480 --> 01:03:49.480
Oh, okay.

971
01:03:49.480 --> 01:03:50.480
They're in breakout sessions right now.

972
01:03:50.480 --> 01:03:51.480
Oh, you guys are coming back.

973
01:03:51.480 --> 01:03:52.480
Oh, that's all right.

974
01:03:52.480 --> 01:03:53.480
That's totally fine.

975
01:03:53.480 --> 01:03:54.480
You guys can hang out.

976
01:03:54.480 --> 01:03:55.480
I'm just praying.

977
01:03:55.480 --> 01:03:56.480
You guys have another minute and 15 if you want to come back and hang out here, that's

978
01:03:56.480 --> 01:03:57.480
totally fine.

979
01:03:57.480 --> 01:03:58.480
Maybe people are coming back early.

980
01:03:58.480 --> 01:03:59.480
All right.

981
01:03:59.480 --> 01:04:00.480
Hi.

982
01:04:00.480 --> 01:04:01.480
All right.

983
01:04:01.480 --> 01:04:18.080
So, Lord, we just thank you that one of the things here is us giving permission.

984
01:04:18.080 --> 01:04:20.000
So we give you authorization.

985
01:04:20.000 --> 01:04:23.520
We grant you the ability to come in and work within us.

986
01:04:23.520 --> 01:04:27.880
We thank you that you're revealing things for healing and that you're helping us take

987
01:04:27.880 --> 01:04:29.600
down do not enter signs.

988
01:04:29.600 --> 01:04:33.920
We thank you that you're helping us brick by brick to take down the walls that separate

989
01:04:33.920 --> 01:04:38.560
us from you as well as separate us from ourselves and other people.

990
01:04:38.560 --> 01:04:42.720
And we thank you that we can trust you, that you are trustworthy.

991
01:04:42.720 --> 01:04:48.160
God, we thank you that one of your attributes says that you are good, that you are faithful,

992
01:04:48.160 --> 01:04:49.160
that you are kind.

993
01:04:49.160 --> 01:04:52.880
And so, Lord, we thank you that you would help us in the days ahead to lean into those

994
01:04:52.880 --> 01:05:00.000
truths and to know that you are working on our behalf and you love us.

995
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:02.080
and have our best interest at heart.

996
01:05:02.080 --> 01:05:04.880
Proverbs 3, 5 in the message version says,

997
01:05:04.880 --> 01:05:06.780
"'Trust God from the bottom of your heart.

998
01:05:06.780 --> 01:05:09.400
"'Don't try to figure out everything on your own.

999
01:05:09.400 --> 01:05:12.000
"'Listen for God's voice in everything you do,

1000
01:05:12.000 --> 01:05:13.900
"'everywhere you go.

1001
01:05:13.900 --> 01:05:16.780
"'He's the one who will keep you on track.

1002
01:05:16.780 --> 01:05:19.760
"'Don't assume that you know it all.'"

1003
01:05:19.760 --> 01:05:21.720
So Lord, we thank you that you would help us

1004
01:05:21.720 --> 01:05:23.400
to lean into you,

1005
01:05:23.400 --> 01:05:26.160
to trust that you're gonna show us what we need to know,

1006
01:05:26.160 --> 01:05:27.960
the things that we don't even remember

1007
01:05:28.040 --> 01:05:30.480
because they've been pressed down for so long

1008
01:05:30.480 --> 01:05:33.520
in our hearts, our spirits, our souls.

1009
01:05:33.520 --> 01:05:35.840
God, we thank you that you'll help those things

1010
01:05:35.840 --> 01:05:37.560
to percolate to the surface

1011
01:05:37.560 --> 01:05:39.560
so that there can be healing

1012
01:05:39.560 --> 01:05:42.240
and redemption and reconciliation.

1013
01:05:42.240 --> 01:05:44.480
And we just thank you that you're gonna help us

1014
01:05:44.480 --> 01:05:48.680
to continue to trust every image,

1015
01:05:48.680 --> 01:05:50.440
every thought, every memory

1016
01:05:50.440 --> 01:05:52.040
that we'll just write those things down

1017
01:05:52.040 --> 01:05:53.720
and ask you more about them.

1018
01:05:54.800 --> 01:05:57.700
That we'll trust that even in the way

1019
01:05:58.440 --> 01:06:00.100
that you lovingly remind us of things

1020
01:06:00.100 --> 01:06:03.380
that have been in the dark or pressed down in our souls

1021
01:06:03.380 --> 01:06:05.000
that maybe we didn't even remember,

1022
01:06:05.000 --> 01:06:07.220
that even your loving kindness

1023
01:06:07.220 --> 01:06:09.460
is what's drawing those things out,

1024
01:06:09.460 --> 01:06:11.960
that you're so good that you reveal those things

1025
01:06:11.960 --> 01:06:16.420
in the perfect timing that they need to be revealed.

1026
01:06:16.420 --> 01:06:18.460
We're still waiting for several groups to come back.

1027
01:06:18.460 --> 01:06:19.600
So give us a minute.

1028
01:06:19.600 --> 01:06:20.940
I think they're coming now.

1029
01:06:21.880 --> 01:06:23.900
All right, all right, all right.

1030
01:06:23.900 --> 01:06:24.740
All right, bear with us.

1031
01:06:24.740 --> 01:06:26.220
I am going to...

1032
01:06:26.620 --> 01:06:27.980
I thought we had a few more minutes.

1033
01:06:27.980 --> 01:06:31.460
So I do wanna give a couple people some time to share.

1034
01:06:31.460 --> 01:06:34.220
If you have to jump off, we understand

1035
01:06:34.220 --> 01:06:36.080
because it is about 9.15,

1036
01:06:36.080 --> 01:06:38.140
but if you wanna hang with us for a few more minutes,

1037
01:06:38.140 --> 01:06:39.500
I think it'll be good.

1038
01:06:39.500 --> 01:06:41.620
Who is willing to share with the whole group

1039
01:06:41.620 --> 01:06:43.980
what you shared in your private breakout group?

1040
01:06:47.060 --> 01:06:47.880
Go ahead.

1041
01:06:47.880 --> 01:06:48.720
Is it Italia?

1042
01:06:48.720 --> 01:06:50.220
Is that right?

1043
01:06:50.220 --> 01:06:51.660
Yes, it's Italia.

1044
01:06:51.660 --> 01:06:54.700
Okay, awesome, go ahead.

1045
01:06:54.700 --> 01:06:58.100
So anyways, I was in a group with Margaret and Ariel,

1046
01:06:58.100 --> 01:07:00.940
and we were just talking about how,

1047
01:07:00.940 --> 01:07:03.340
you know, we all have different journeys.

1048
01:07:03.340 --> 01:07:06.460
Like some of us like was like a single mother.

1049
01:07:06.460 --> 01:07:08.860
And so that caused us to be independent.

1050
01:07:08.860 --> 01:07:11.220
Some of us lost our parent at a young age.

1051
01:07:11.220 --> 01:07:12.620
That caused us to be independent.

1052
01:07:12.620 --> 01:07:14.740
The other one, it's just like,

1053
01:07:14.740 --> 01:07:17.780
they've been independent their whole life basically.

1054
01:07:17.780 --> 01:07:22.100
And it made us become very like self-sufficient

1055
01:07:22.100 --> 01:07:26.220
and it made us depend on ourselves instead of on God.

1056
01:07:26.220 --> 01:07:28.960
And then it's almost like it's scary for us

1057
01:07:28.960 --> 01:07:33.860
to give up control when we've done it for so long, you know?

1058
01:07:33.860 --> 01:07:36.900
And just because we have these different backgrounds

1059
01:07:36.900 --> 01:07:37.940
and these different journeys,

1060
01:07:37.940 --> 01:07:39.940
we're still like giving up control

1061
01:07:39.940 --> 01:07:42.100
is something that is almost foreign to us.

1062
01:07:42.100 --> 01:07:45.340
We realized there's beauty in surrendering to God

1063
01:07:45.340 --> 01:07:47.020
and giving control to Him

1064
01:07:47.020 --> 01:07:50.020
so we don't take on that heavy burden

1065
01:07:50.020 --> 01:07:53.900
that surely He doesn't want us to carry.

1066
01:07:53.900 --> 01:07:56.340
Yes, man, that was so good.

1067
01:07:56.340 --> 01:07:58.660
I love the way that you described that

1068
01:07:58.660 --> 01:08:00.980
and just every different person's journey.

1069
01:08:00.980 --> 01:08:03.620
And what's interesting is earlier today,

1070
01:08:03.620 --> 01:08:05.820
one of the things that God brought up in my spirit

1071
01:08:05.820 --> 01:08:07.220
that I shared with the early group,

1072
01:08:07.220 --> 01:08:10.060
and I honestly, sometimes I forget what even comes up

1073
01:08:10.060 --> 01:08:11.700
kind of supernaturally like that,

1074
01:08:13.260 --> 01:08:17.140
but it was the idea of picking up someone else's bag

1075
01:08:17.140 --> 01:08:18.740
and carrying it.

1076
01:08:18.740 --> 01:08:22.740
So even when people, you know, like a parent dies

1077
01:08:22.740 --> 01:08:24.819
or they abandon us in some way,

1078
01:08:24.819 --> 01:08:27.000
or there's other, some kind of loss, you know,

1079
01:08:27.000 --> 01:08:28.899
whether it was a husband that left us

1080
01:08:28.899 --> 01:08:31.640
and, you know, didn't fulfill their role,

1081
01:08:32.700 --> 01:08:36.420
what can happen is we can believe the lie of the enemy

1082
01:08:36.420 --> 01:08:41.220
that it's now our responsibility to carry that load.

1083
01:08:41.220 --> 01:08:45.120
And it never was, it never was.

1084
01:08:45.120 --> 01:08:48.700
And so part of allowing God to come in

1085
01:08:49.540 --> 01:08:52.939
and help you give up control essentially

1086
01:08:52.939 --> 01:08:55.700
is allowing him to heal those deep places

1087
01:08:55.700 --> 01:08:58.779
where the hurt originally came in.

1088
01:08:58.779 --> 01:09:02.060
So as you guys are, you know, continuing in the journey,

1089
01:09:02.060 --> 01:09:03.899
we'll, you know, talk a little bit

1090
01:09:03.899 --> 01:09:05.779
about getting to the root of it.

1091
01:09:05.779 --> 01:09:09.020
And again, we don't encourage you guys to dig.

1092
01:09:09.020 --> 01:09:10.740
The way the root is revealed

1093
01:09:10.740 --> 01:09:13.819
is by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

1094
01:09:13.819 --> 01:09:16.620
One of the things I was praying before you came back

1095
01:09:16.620 --> 01:09:20.180
is, you know, we have to trust the Holy Spirit

1096
01:09:20.180 --> 01:09:22.680
to reveal things that need revealed

1097
01:09:22.680 --> 01:09:24.819
in their perfect timing.

1098
01:09:24.819 --> 01:09:27.340
You guys, I can tell you just even recently,

1099
01:09:27.340 --> 01:09:29.380
the Lord brought something to my mind that,

1100
01:09:29.380 --> 01:09:31.300
I mean, I've been on this healing journey

1101
01:09:31.300 --> 01:09:32.540
for quite some time.

1102
01:09:32.540 --> 01:09:35.060
I do hard work coaching on a regular basis.

1103
01:09:35.060 --> 01:09:38.460
And just now in the last month or two,

1104
01:09:38.460 --> 01:09:40.319
a memory came to me that I hadn't,

1105
01:09:40.319 --> 01:09:43.260
I mean, I didn't even remember that it even happened.

1106
01:09:43.260 --> 01:09:46.819
And so, but there's a reason that He waits.

1107
01:09:46.819 --> 01:09:49.260
He waits until we are ready.

1108
01:09:49.260 --> 01:09:51.260
And sometimes we feel like we're not ready,

1109
01:09:51.260 --> 01:09:54.020
but He knows that we are, okay?

1110
01:09:54.020 --> 01:09:59.020
And so just trust the timing and just be really very careful.

1111
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:04.360
careful to not diminish thoughts that you guys have, or when

1112
01:10:04.360 --> 01:10:07.640
things percolate to the surface, like if if it's something that

1113
01:10:07.640 --> 01:10:10.400
you don't even remember, like it's okay to write down and be

1114
01:10:10.400 --> 01:10:13.080
like, I have this thought, it's kind of weird. I don't know

1115
01:10:13.080 --> 01:10:16.680
where it came from. But just ask the Lord to reveal that as well.

1116
01:10:17.160 --> 01:10:21.840
But on what you said is how you to, you know, the reality is, is

1117
01:10:21.840 --> 01:10:27.080
that in order to receive a spirit mate, we have to learn

1118
01:10:27.080 --> 01:10:33.440
how to let people in. Right. So we, the more that we practice

1119
01:10:33.520 --> 01:10:37.000
letting God have more control and not being so

1120
01:10:37.000 --> 01:10:43.040
self-sufficient, asking him for help. And the more that it will

1121
01:10:43.040 --> 01:10:47.080
prepare us for that interaction with our spirit mate, because I

1122
01:10:47.080 --> 01:10:50.440
can promise you when you guys find healthy men, they want to

1123
01:10:50.440 --> 01:10:54.880
help you. They want to help you they want to be chivalrous. They

1124
01:10:54.880 --> 01:10:58.480
don't want us just for like, you know, forging ahead. I mean,

1125
01:10:58.720 --> 01:11:02.200
there are times that I still have to remind myself, let him

1126
01:11:02.200 --> 01:11:05.760
open that door for me. Like, you know, and even sometimes it feels

1127
01:11:05.760 --> 01:11:08.880
silly, because I'm just standing there like, because he might be,

1128
01:11:08.880 --> 01:11:12.880
you know, a little bit behind me. But he would rather me wait

1129
01:11:12.880 --> 01:11:17.920
for him for him to open the door. So us practicing even with

1130
01:11:17.920 --> 01:11:21.080
the Lord, and you're like, well, God isn't here in the physical.

1131
01:11:21.080 --> 01:11:24.680
So how's he gonna open my door? Well, maybe it's not a physical

1132
01:11:24.680 --> 01:11:29.640
door. But maybe he's like, okay, let me open this door. Maybe

1133
01:11:29.640 --> 01:11:32.720
it's for a job. Maybe there's something that you're working on

1134
01:11:32.720 --> 01:11:35.400
right now. And you haven't invited him into that process

1135
01:11:35.400 --> 01:11:39.920
with you. You know, what does it look like to let the Holy Spirit

1136
01:11:39.920 --> 01:11:45.120
come in and lead the way? All right. Great share. I love that.

1137
01:11:45.280 --> 01:11:49.600
So also, you know, in that as you guys are unpacking those

1138
01:11:49.600 --> 01:11:56.560
losses. I would just encourage you to let God love you ask

1139
01:11:56.560 --> 01:12:00.720
Jesus where he was at when those losses happened. And what does

1140
01:12:00.720 --> 01:12:04.640
Jesus want to tell you? What does he want you to know from

1141
01:12:04.640 --> 01:12:09.240
his perspective about that loss? And you'll find that great

1142
01:12:09.240 --> 01:12:16.560
healing will come from that. Yeah, yeah, I mean, it's real.

1143
01:12:16.560 --> 01:12:19.720
People have a hard time letting men help them for sure. Yeah.

1144
01:12:19.720 --> 01:12:21.840
And you guys will get more and more coaching on that in the

1145
01:12:21.840 --> 01:12:25.120
days ahead. Rachel, I think I saw your hand up to were you

1146
01:12:25.120 --> 01:12:27.720
willing to share? We'll take one more.

1147
01:12:28.640 --> 01:12:33.840
Yeah, I can share. We all three of us in our group agreed that

1148
01:12:33.840 --> 01:12:37.960
we're all fairly controlling. And sometimes it looks

1149
01:12:37.960 --> 01:12:41.400
different. I when when I went to the question, the book, I

1150
01:12:41.400 --> 01:12:44.160
thought, oh, I've got areas of my life that I'm controlling and

1151
01:12:44.160 --> 01:12:48.240
then other areas that I'm not. And so just to kind of gauge

1152
01:12:48.240 --> 01:12:50.600
myself, I was writing the areas that I was controlling. And I

1153
01:12:50.600 --> 01:12:52.720
got to the areas where I wasn't controlling. And I realized

1154
01:12:52.720 --> 01:12:57.000
there weren't any. And then, as we kind of talked through that,

1155
01:12:57.000 --> 01:13:00.520
I loved what one of the women said is, maybe we're dealing

1156
01:13:00.520 --> 01:13:04.080
with this so that we're not the red flag, because these are the

1157
01:13:04.080 --> 01:13:07.760
red flags in our life. And as we work through these, then we're

1158
01:13:07.760 --> 01:13:10.640
not going to step into a relationship with, like, this

1159
01:13:10.880 --> 01:13:14.720
this is, I'm so controlling, it's going to end a relationship

1160
01:13:14.720 --> 01:13:18.320
as I move forward with this. So I'm thankful for this being

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revealed in this way. Even with the Lord allowing a little sense

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of humor in it. So

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yeah. So, you know, this is super important, you all and what

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she's saying here. And no matter what, like, we all have areas,

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we still need healing. You know, I mean, I can tell you

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that the healing journey continues, the intensive healing

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that you'll go through in here will be a little bit more, you

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know, intensive, if you will. And not to use that word twice,

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but it really will be. But it's not like when the the five weeks

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are over, that you're just like, okay, I'm all done now. Like,

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you know, the reality is, is even when you step into trying

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to date again, there's going to be healing there. When you get

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into a relationship, there's going to be healing there, you

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know, after you get married, there's going to be healing

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there. So just know, like, God is in with you for the long

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haul. He's in this journey with us for the long haul. And he

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leads us to places Jackie talks a lot like, you know, hurt in

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relationship, healed in relationship, hurt in community,

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healed in community, you know, where are the deepest places you

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all have been hurt, where you tend to control a lot? Do you

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know, a lot of the reasons we control is because we're trying

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to create a sense of safety, even though it is often a false

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sense. Because really, we're never fully safe, even like

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we're safe in the Lord, but we can't protect ourselves from

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everything.

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Right. And so the more we lean into trusting and leaning on and relying on the Lord.

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It's going to change everything. It really will. So, yeah, just keep unpacking those things with

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the Lord. He wants to show you guys so, so many more things. It's going to be a great journey.

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I'm going to pray for you guys and we're going to close out tonight.

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Keep showing up for yourselves. Keep showing up in the group. You guys have been amazing

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already so far. It's been so exciting to get to know some of you. Just that little glimpse we've

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already seen and just, you know, breakthroughs people are already getting. Things, you know,

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God is saying to you guys, again, no comparison, ladies. The enemy loves to try to get ladies to

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pit against each other. But here in this community, we're trying to take ground where we break down

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those walls and women really love each other. We're not perfect. People are going to make mistakes,

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but we're going to do our best to create an amazing sisterhood community that really can

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transform the world. One person at a time. It takes one person at a time. That's it.

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And so it starts with you guys. All right. Father, thank you so much for just this amazing group of

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ladies. Thank you for those that are here live tonight, as well as those that are watching the

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replay or were here earlier today. God, thank you for the healing work that you've already begun in

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them. God, thank you for what you are going to do in the days ahead. God, give them dreams at night

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and visions in the day, God. And Lord, protect their dreaming time and their sleeping time from

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the enemy. Several of these ladies have already had the enemy trying to torment them in their

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dreams. So we just thank you for your hedge of protection around them, around them and their

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families. And God, that you would guard and keep watch over them, that you would protect them from

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distractions and just any other onslaught of the enemy. Your word declares that when the

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enemy comes in like a flood, you cause him to flee seven ways. So Lord, we thank you that fear has to

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do with torment, so we are not going to lean into fear. But Lord, we thank you that you're going to

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give us the spirit of love and of power and of a sound mind, that we will be women that have a

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sound mind, that we will take our thoughts captive and make them obedient to your word, to your truth.

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And that begins by us getting to know you, Father, better. So Lord, help us to have a fresh

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revelation of your love, of your grace, of who you are as joy, who you are as peace, that help us to

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lean into you and to trust you a little bit more this night. In Jesus name, amen. All right, so

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we'll be seeing you guys again live next week. We are doing both the one o'clock p.m. Eastern time

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and then the eight o'clock p.m. Eastern time every Monday. And so it's up to you, whatever you

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choose, okay? Whichever time. And if one week you come at one and another week you come at eight,

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that's totally fine, okay? So it's really up to you guys to choose. So I'll be seeing you guys in

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the group. Have an amazing night, everyone. Good night. Bye.