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All right.

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All right guys we are live.

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We are live. So tonight we normally have love story. This is usually our love story broadcast but I decided I wanted to do something different.

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I really believe that we're entering into a very significant season God has been speaking to me for probably at least six months about 2022.

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Raise your hand if you've been hearing me say for months that 2022 is the year of the bride.

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Yes, so I've been saying it, and guess what, there's prophetic voices that are starting to echo it. What does the word say about that it says through the mouth of two or three witnesses let a word be established.

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And I posted on my public Facebook page about it being the year of the bride in 2022 I had not done that yet I've just been saying it privately to you guys in groups.

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And immediately, someone who I'm not really sure who they are but someone posted on that and said, Yeah, I heard that through this other prophetic voice and they posted a video of someone who was saying that verbatim.

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2022 is the year the bride, and then it came out that another prophetic voice out there was saying 2022 is the year the bride you guys we can't make this stuff up.

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Right.

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And that's really exciting because I will tell you as a prophetic voice as someone who moves in the prophetic and operates in the, in that role of a prophet and I've been operating in that ever since I met Holy Spirit 26 years ago, I will tell you that sometimes

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you say stuff and you really hope it's true.

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Okay, I really believe I'm hearing from God, but when you hear someone you know especially something very obscure like that. When you hear that beginning to become echoed through all of these voices and people that you've never heard of before and then you

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start to, you know, you receive that reciprocation and that validation and as the Word of God says that confirmation then we just can't ignore that.

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So before we even get started on soul ties tonight, I want us to really go over a little overview of what does the Word of God say that you do with a word, a prophetic word when you receive it.

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Regardless of where it comes from, of course I was releasing that over the summer over the corporate body of Christ I was releasing it over all my matchmaking groups.

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2022 is the year of the bride, get excited. 2022 is the year of partnership, it's the year of agreement, it's the year of marriage, it's the year of the bride.

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Genesis 222 is the moment when God takes the rib, because he already has established that it's not good for man to dwell outside of his own community his own kind that he it's not good it's not complete it's not finished for him to be alone, that the masculine

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and feminine need to be separated into two instead of being in one and Adam so that the two can come back together and community and exist in divine community just like Father Son and Holy Spirit the heavenly family exists in divine community.

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Genesis 222 is that verse where he, he goes ahead and executes his plan of taking that rib part that part that's underneath the arm, signifying partnership signifying covering of the masculine and the feminine being covered and protected by the masculine

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signifying equal that their co equals inequality, you know, masculine and feminine not lording over each other but submitting to one another and love both carrying very very different strengths I always liken it to my left and right hand.

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I am dominant in my right hand, so I write and I throw and I do all that kind of stuff with my right hand, but without my left hand there's so much that I can't do.

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Oftentimes you're stronger hand is not your most dexterous hand is not your most fine motor skill hand. Right. And so together when they come together I can do, you know, pretty much anything with both of my hands in play.

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And so it's not good for me to be known it's not complete for us to dwell in one vessel, but dwelling separately as masculine and feminine and coming together in what in marriage so Genesis 222 is that verse where God takes the rib he fashions it into

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a woman and then he presents that woman that feminine counterpart to man that is that verse and so we need to get really excited about this very supernatural season that we get to be part of.

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And we also have seen all throughout history that anytime there is a global tragedy. There's a global crisis, whether it is a pandemic like what we all just lived through whether it is a war, no matter what it is, it will always the response

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will always be an acceleration of family and marriage. After World War Two there was a baby boom that's why we call them the baby boomers right because what happened.

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People realized within that crisis that it's not good for me to be alone.

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It's not good for me to exist out of family.

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Whatever it was that they were medicating themselves and numbing themselves with,

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they realized that's not enough.

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I need that divine plan that God always had for my life.

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So, you know, there was a huge marriage boom before the World Wars.

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Men didn't want to go away, you know,

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and possibly give their lives and sacrifice their lives for their countries

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without having that connection or that tether,

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that tie to home through that marriage connection.

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They wanted to make sure that they married that girl of their dreams.

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They went ahead and pulled the trigger on that before they went.

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And after every single thing, there has been a boom of marriage and family.

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This pandemic that we just lived through in 2020, that was a forced sabbatical.

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The world stopped spinning. The world never stopped spinning.

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When my mom was dying in the ICU, when she was about to transition to heaven,

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I was in that small, quiet little ICU room with all the machines buzzing

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and worrying, and I was in there.

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But as soon as she took her last breath and they turned that ventilator off,

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I stepped out into the hustle and bustle of the world.

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Everywhere, the world didn't stop just because my world stopped.

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Because I was experiencing a tragedy.

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I was experiencing a dark night of the soul.

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The world didn't stop spinning.

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As soon as I opened that door, that soundproof door into the bigger ICU,

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and then out into the waiting room, people were eating and talking and laughing

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and carrying on with their own lives and going tear and fro

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and doing all of their things because the world didn't stop just because my world stopped.

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But in 2020, we all experienced something that I don't know that we've ever experienced.

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I know in my 46 years of life, I haven't, and that is that the world stopped.

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Everything stopped.

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It grind to a halt, okay, except for Tiger King.

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Everything else just stopped, right?

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There was nowhere to go.

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There was no one to go there with because we couldn't see anyone.

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Nothing was open.

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It didn't matter if you wanted to go.

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There was nothing open.

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And then when there was something open, you couldn't talk to anyone.

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Everyone was afraid of everyone.

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Everyone had masks on.

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Everyone was six feet apart.

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We experienced, you know, an epic season of loneliness like people have never experienced before.

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And people realized because the world stopped spinning that they realized how empty their hearts were.

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And so what has happened is that that intimacy of 2020,

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just like the intimacy that the man had with his wife after and before,

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really before World War II when they were going off to service and maybe not coming back,

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that intimacy that was created by that crisis, it created, you know, all of that new life.

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And that's what's happening now.

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All that heart work that we've been doing, guys, ladies,

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and I know the guys are about to step into an even deeper level of heart work with me after the first of the year here,

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that heart work that we did, that searching of our souls that we did in 2020 and 2021,

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is going to turn into that intimacy, is going to turn into the fruition of it,

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is going to be divine romantic relationship.

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God's been getting our hearts ready for it.

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You might have thought you were ready for it before.

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In fact, some of you have been like, I've been ready for it for 20 years.

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Well, maybe not.

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Because the proof of desire is pursuit.

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And oftentimes we're pursuing the wrong things.

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I always talk about digging ditches where it's not going to rain.

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That's what God said to me one time.

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He said, people are digging ditches where it's not going to rain.

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He's like, I'm over here doing this, and they're over here doing this.

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They're zigging when they should be zagging.

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And the truth is, is that oftentimes when we're doing that, we have no clue.

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We don't.

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We have no clue at all.

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And so I am very excited about the supernatural season.

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You guys, as far as I can tell, I'm not home with my relationship board,

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I'm not home with my family.

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I'm not home with my kids.

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So these numbers might be kind of off,

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but I think we have 79 engagements and 47 weddings that we're ending

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2021 with.

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We have two more weddings on January 1st.

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And another wedding on January 22nd.

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On the books.

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And so very excited for those. In fact,

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it looks like I'm officiating the one on January 22nd. So.

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Pray for them.

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I'm going to have to go on and get on with it and I'm gonna be talking a

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lot.

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So they're going to probably be annoyed at me.

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I can't even say my name in 30 minutes.

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So we're going to have to figure that one out.

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I'm going to have to get those vows down pat.

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But also those, those weddings on the first,

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very excited for both of those couples. You guys, you know, we had,

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I believe it happened yesterday or the day before.

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I announced a new engagement today.

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Very special to my heart, that couple.

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God is restoring.

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If you follow me on Facebook, if you don't, why not?

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Go follow me on Facebook.

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Okay.

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I have a private page, Jacqueline Dorman.

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You can find me there if you're my friend and you want to be that type of friend to

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me.

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But I also have a public page, Jackie Dorman Official.

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If you don't really want to be my friend, but you want to see what I'm up to, you can

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go over there and follow me there.

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All right.

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And then Instagram, same thing as that other public Facebook page at Jackie Dorman Official.

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I guess you have to put that official after it because otherwise people will hack you

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and steal you and ask people for money and say that it's you.

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That's not a good idea.

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So anyway, that's why it's official.

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But if you follow me on social media at all, you'll see that I put out two words.

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I put out that 2022 is the year of the bride, but I also put out that when I woke up this

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morning, God said to me, 2022 is also a year of restitution.

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Now he could have said anything.

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We use the word restoration a lot, don't we?

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We use the word restoration a lot, but you know, restitution is something completely

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different than restoration.

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And I looked it up and God knows I'm going to, he knows that I love to search him out.

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I want to encourage you guys to search him out between now and the new year.

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Just really search him out.

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If he's been saying something to you, really search out what he's saying.

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It's important that you really know what that means.

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And restitution means that someone in authority, some powers that be, are able to return to

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you something that has been lost and stolen.

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It's being paid back.

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And what does the word of God say?

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It says that who is the one that rest, that restores what has been lost or stolen?

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Who pays restitution?

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God says, I am the one.

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He said, you know what?

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You can forgive people that have stolen from you, that have caused you harm and trauma

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because I, vengeance is mine, saith the Lord.

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I will repay.

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And I know a lot of times we read that scripture and we're like, God's going to get you.

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God's going to repay you for what you've done.

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No, he's going to repay you for what they've done.

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God is not a God of wrath.

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He's not going to go out there and, you know, turn your enemy into a black spot on the earth.

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Okay.

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There's not gonna be lightning bolts from his eyes and just fry them.

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I know it's always, it's really, really disturbing when you read the story of the old time prophets,

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when they called the bears out of the woods to eat the children that made fun of them.

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What the heck?

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Um, the old Testament is very confusing in a lot of ways, but I want to tell you that

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God is not, you know, when God says, vengeance is mine, I will repay.

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He means he's going to repay you.

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He's going to repay you for what other people have taken from you in the name of the opposing

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forces.

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People are never your enemy.

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If it has a face, if it has human flesh, it is not your enemy.

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Now, is it being used as a, uh, you know, as a puppet for those opposing forces?

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Is that person, um, being used as an accessory to the crime?

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Yes, for sure.

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There are a lot of people that are broken and they're not awake.

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And guess what people that are asleep hurt themselves and they hurt others.

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That's what happens when you're in the dark.

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You do not know what you can't see clearly what you're doing.

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Can you?

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And so that's going to be a big part of what happens tonight because a lot of people don't

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realize that you are tied to the past because of your unforgiveness.

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Unforgiveness is forgiveness is a big part of breaking soul ties, right?

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If you want to be free from the past, then you're going to have to forget.

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And we'll talk about that in a minute after we pray.

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And so tonight we are going to really do some pruning.

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We're going to do some purging.

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We're going to let go.

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Holy spirit's going to reveal and heal.

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He's going to show you things that maybe you didn't know you were still harboring.

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There's layers to forgiveness and there's layers to tethers.

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Sometimes there's tethers that maybe you broke the physical tether, but you didn't break

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the emotional tether.

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I want you to raise your hand and be honest right now.

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If you know you're, you're not, you're not sleeping around anymore.

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You're not having sex outside of marriage, but the last sexual relationship that you

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had, the last romantic sexual relationship you had, while maybe you don't talk to that

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person anymore and you're certainly not sleeping with that person anymore.

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Every single time your song comes on or when you're really lonely, you sit around and reminisce

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of maybe they were the one that got away.

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You know, you reminisce about some person in your life that you had a romantic connection

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to wondering if you missed it, wondering if, you know, they'll come back around wondering

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if they, this is so innocent and so simple, just, you don't even want to be back with

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them.

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You're just wondering if they still think about you.

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You're sitting there thinking about them.

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because you heard a song or you saw something

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or you're just super lonely that day.

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And you're wondering if they're thinking about you

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and it actually brings you pleasure

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or it makes you feel happy to think

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that they might not be over you either.

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They might be thinking about you too.

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Yeah, there's a lot of hands up.

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That's a soul tie.

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And you know what, the reason why you're like,

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oh, isn't that harmless, Jackie?

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I mean, it's just like a little daydream.

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is because when you get into

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your divine covenant relationship,

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I know this is gonna be shocking for a lot of you.

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It's not always gonna be fun.

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You're not always gonna like that person.

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You might love them, but you're not gonna always like them.

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They're gonna annoy the heck out of you sometimes.

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If you don't sever this little daydream,

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this little romanticizing with rose colored glasses,

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the encounters that you've had

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with people in your past,

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you know what you might do to self-medicate

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when you're not getting along with your spouse?

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You might start reminiscent about that person

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and what it might've been like to be with them

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instead of this jerk that just hurt my feelings.

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This drama queen, gentlemen,

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that lets her emotions control her

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and she's just the hot mess express.

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Man, that woman that I dated in the past,

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she was a lot more normal than this girl that I married.

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She had her emotions under control a lot better.

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And you kind of start reminiscing about something that,

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what does that do?

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It begins to erode intimacy.

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We don't want that, do we?

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We don't, I'm gonna pray in a second.

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So we're clearing out, we're making room,

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but here's the other thing, very important.

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You can't fall in love.

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You can't give someone your heart

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if you're not in possession of it.

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The Bible says above all things that you possess,

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is it telling us that we possess our hearts?

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Does God possess our hearts or do we possess our hearts?

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We possess our hearts.

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The Bible says above all the things that you own,

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that you possess, that belong to you,

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the most important one,

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the one that can make or break you is your heart.

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And so above all things that you possess, guard the heart

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because out of it flows the quality of your life,

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the quality of your relationships, the quality of your life,

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the quality of everything that you see, hear, do, say

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is gonna come out of this heart part,

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also known as the soul part.

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we're also in a lot of ways talking about heart ties.

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We're talking about heart tethers and heart strings.

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You know how someone might say to you,

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well, I would like a relationship with no strings attached.

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You know, I want, you know, this situation,

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hey, you know, there's no strings attached.

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There's always strings attached.

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So Father God, we thank you.

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We come to you tonight.

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We come to you in unity of mind and spirit.

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We come to you, Lord,

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asking that you would show us what we cannot see,

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that you would teach us what we do not know.

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Teach us, show us, heal us, grow us tonight.

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We ask for a revealing, for a healing,

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anything and everything that we need to see

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that might be holding us back.

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It didn't just hold us back in 2021,

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but it's been holding us back maybe for years,

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maybe for decades,

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maybe even in our family for generations.

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It's time for us to be free from those things.

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And this is the time when we're gonna be,

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we're gonna feel more free than we ever have

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to be able to possess the promises that you have given us.

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So Lord, we thank you for this process.

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Holy Spirit, we ask you to take charge

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of this time together.

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I ask you to speak to me and speak through me tonight.

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In Jesus name, amen.

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Amen.

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All right, I'm gonna give you permission just so you know,

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if you need to turn your camera off, you can.

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We're gonna get into some deep things.

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usually on these group sessions,

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we all want our cameras on,

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but for tonight, if you need to do that

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at any point in time, please feel free to do that, okay?

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Also, don't worry about taking notes.

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I will provide you the notes.

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Some of the notes that I'm gonna use tonight,

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especially when we get down to the actual prayers

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that I'm gonna be using,

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they've been compiled from a lot of different resources.

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We've used a lot, a lot, a lot of different resources

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over the years when we teach this.

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I have some notes here that Holy Spirit gave me

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specifically for this time together,

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but I will make all of this available to you.

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Also, you can watch the replay.

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So I want you to be present in the moment right now,

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present with me, present with each other,

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and present with Holy Spirit

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so that you can really hear what God's saying to you.

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And then you can always go back and watch the replay,

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and then I'll make those prayers

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that we're gonna pray tonight

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and some of these resources that we've compiled,

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I'll make those available.

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available in your groups. Okay, I will, I'll add it as a file in

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your groups later for you to look at. Good deal. All right,

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let's get started. All right, so we just found out that, you

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know, we can't give away what we don't possess. We don't and a

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lot of times this is what's happened to you where you get

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into a relationship with someone and you just really don't feel

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available. When we're not emotionally available. It's

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because we're, we're emotionally tied to something else in the

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past. You know, I have a student, I have a student whose

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brother passed away in a tragic accident when they were kids. He

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was driving a tractor. Okay, his family lived on a farm and it

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was his turn to to do some some plowing and some seeding and his

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little brother who was the closest in birth order to him

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and who was his best friend, wanted to come with him. And

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even though he wasn't old enough to do the job that my student

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was doing, he was came along for the ride, right? And when

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you're raised on a farm, you know, you're used to that kind

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of stuff. And, you know, it doesn't seem dangerous or

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unsafe. And so they were able to plow and seed the entire field

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that they needed to and they had some seed left over. And so when

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they went back to just kind of get rid of that extra seed and

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just make one more pass, the the tractor jumped because of

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something that was in the ground, and it and it and when

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it jumped, the younger brother fell off and was crushed by the

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tractor. And so my student who's an incredible guy, he was

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only 14 years old, he he immediately jumped off the

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tractor and he scooped up his brother's lifeless body and ran

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carrying him to the house. Now, this is a 14 year old and 11

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year old. So you know, that was a lot of adrenaline. And it

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probably was the supernatural grace of God for him to be able

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to have that type of strength to be able to run his brother into

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the house, and no one was home. Mom was in town doing that kids

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were homeschooled, they had gone with her dad was at his was at

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work at the business that they owned as a family. And so he

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called dad and dad made it back. And, of course, you know, there

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was no resuscitating, you know, the the paramedics came and, and

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all of those things. Now, this is what happens to us

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oftentimes, need to hear this really important. Okay. What

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happens to us when we have a childhood trauma, we don't have

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the skills to unpack that. We don't have the language to talk

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about how we feel. We don't know how we feel. What happens

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oftentimes is we'll shut down in that area. And it's almost

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divinely that will shut down because we don't have the tools,

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we don't have the language. And a lot of times, depending on

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what family you're in, we don't have the support. And that's

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what happened in this situation. This, this man comes

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from a really amazing family, I just told you, like their

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homesteaders, they farmers, you know, just salt of the earth

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kind of people, but guess what, they didn't have the emotional

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bandwidth, or understanding in order to help themselves heal or

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him. And so that trauma had to be packed away, for some later

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date, when as an adult man, he is now unpacking that, but what

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does that cause? What does that cause when we have a trauma that

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we, we're not able to really deal with or process in real

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time, when it happens, it causes us to become what, you know, a

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lot of society and psychologists call emotionally unavailable.

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You know why we're emotionally unavailable? Because that place

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where that trauma occurred in our heart is now shut down. And

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that's the same place where we would need to get the emotions

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to become available to the current relationship or the

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current situation. But because that place is blocked off, you

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know, kind of do not disturb, maybe even like in a medically

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induced coma, if you want to think of it like that, what we

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put, we put people in a medically induced coma when

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they've been so traumatized that they will die of their

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injuries, unless they're in that coma until, you know, we can get

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them the kind of assistance that they need, right? That's what

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doctors do to people. And so God, I feel like we have this,

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this ability gives us the grace to shut down in certain areas

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until help arrives, until there's information until

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there's support until there's tools. Does that make sense to

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everyone? The problem is, is that if we stay shut down for too

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long in those areas, we won't be able to attach, we won't be

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able to have, you know, the healthy relationships and the

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vibrant intimacy that God has created us for. So we're going

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to get into that tonight. Okay, so first of all, I just want to

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tell you some of the things you can be tied to, I think a lot of

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I want you to raise your hand if you thought soul ties were

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always sexual. If you just have that understanding, none of my

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students should think that because we've got

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on over this over and over and over again.

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And for those of you that have done soul ties

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as part of bootcamp and as part of my program,

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we are gonna do some of those prayers from that.

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But I feel like this is really, really important

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going into 2022.

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And I really felt like God put it on my heart

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that we needed to revisit this tonight.

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Okay, because like I said, layers, layers, layers, friends.

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So you can be tied to all types of platonic things.

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They don't have to be romantic.

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Okay, tethers, heart tethers can be tied to people,

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both platonic and romantic.

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Did you know that you can have a soul tie

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or a heart tie to an event?

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Like my student that I'm talking about,

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he was soul tied or heart tied to this trauma,

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to this tragedy.

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And a lot of times if someone has wronged you,

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if you're tied to some type of abuse in childhood

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or in a former relationship,

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whether it was a platonic or romantic relationship,

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some type of abuse or hurt, trauma,

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there'll be unforgiveness that is tying you to that.

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Okay, you don't have to write this down.

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Remember, you can write it down later.

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But God told me years ago when I was doing my own heartwork,

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you know, decade or more ago.

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Okay, he said to me, he said, Jackie, he said,

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you can no longer see people as the pain

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that they've caused you.

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That's a soul tie.

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When we will change someone else's identity

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to fit our narrative of trauma and pain,

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like for instance, let me give you an example.

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They lied to you, now they're the liar.

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That's how you think of them.

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That's their identity, they're the liar.

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They cheated on you, they're the cheater.

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Okay, they're the, you know, cheater, loser, abuser,

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whatever it is that they've done,

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they become that identity.

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That is a soul tie.

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That is unforgiveness that's causing you

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to be tethered to that trauma.

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Because as long as they stay that counterfeit,

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you will stay the counterfeit of the abuse,

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the cheated on, the lied to.

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Does that make sense to everyone?

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In order for you to get free from that trauma

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and untied from it so that you can go on

468
00:27:11.240 --> 00:27:14.720
to become everything that God has called you to be

469
00:27:14.720 --> 00:27:17.520
and really release that person to become,

470
00:27:17.520 --> 00:27:20.000
if they choose to, because they have free will,

471
00:27:20.000 --> 00:27:22.200
to receive forgiveness and become everything

472
00:27:22.200 --> 00:27:23.960
God has created them to be.

473
00:27:23.960 --> 00:27:27.320
Forgiveness is necessary to become untethered and untied

474
00:27:27.320 --> 00:27:29.720
and for that to be broken between you

475
00:27:29.720 --> 00:27:32.280
and that person and that event.

476
00:27:32.280 --> 00:27:34.640
It could have been a car accident.

477
00:27:34.640 --> 00:27:37.400
It could have been, I feel this in the spirit right now,

478
00:27:37.400 --> 00:27:40.720
I don't have this in my notes, but malpractice.

479
00:27:40.720 --> 00:27:42.720
Someone here or someone in replay,

480
00:27:42.720 --> 00:27:45.360
you're tied to something that a doctor did to you.

481
00:27:45.360 --> 00:27:46.560
They messed you up.

482
00:27:47.680 --> 00:27:50.600
My husband went in to have some earwax removed

483
00:27:50.600 --> 00:27:51.440
and guess what?

484
00:27:51.440 --> 00:27:53.520
They perforated his eardrum

485
00:27:54.040 --> 00:27:55.120
and he was trying to get that wax out.

486
00:27:55.120 --> 00:27:58.080
They made a hole in his eardrum and now he has tinnitus.

487
00:27:58.080 --> 00:28:00.400
He's had ringing in his ears for years

488
00:28:00.400 --> 00:28:02.760
because of what that person did.

489
00:28:02.760 --> 00:28:04.400
And he went in to try to get it fixed

490
00:28:04.400 --> 00:28:05.800
and the process to getting it fixed

491
00:28:05.800 --> 00:28:08.440
is almost as bad as what he's living with now.

492
00:28:08.440 --> 00:28:10.360
And so it's easy to be angry at a doctor

493
00:28:10.360 --> 00:28:13.680
or someone you trusted because they're human

494
00:28:13.680 --> 00:28:14.880
and they made a mistake.

495
00:28:15.920 --> 00:28:18.400
When my mom was in the hospital, in the ICU,

496
00:28:18.400 --> 00:28:21.080
they moved her too quickly and they broke her arm.

497
00:28:22.080 --> 00:28:25.800
I could be angry at them and not forgive them

498
00:28:25.800 --> 00:28:28.040
because they broke my mom's arm.

499
00:28:28.040 --> 00:28:31.120
When she was already in the ICU, they broke her arm.

500
00:28:31.120 --> 00:28:31.960
And guess what?

501
00:28:31.960 --> 00:28:34.040
They had to take her back into a long surgery

502
00:28:34.040 --> 00:28:37.200
to put a rod in her arm when she already was so sick

503
00:28:37.200 --> 00:28:41.200
that she couldn't even possibly survive.

504
00:28:41.200 --> 00:28:44.160
So to put her through more and more trauma and tragedy

505
00:28:44.160 --> 00:28:46.520
because a nurse wasn't paying attention

506
00:28:46.520 --> 00:28:47.840
and moved her the wrong way

507
00:28:47.840 --> 00:28:50.160
because they just were in a hurry.

508
00:28:51.120 --> 00:28:53.960
And so I really feel that in my spirit,

509
00:28:53.960 --> 00:28:56.960
you are tethered to something that has happened in your life

510
00:28:56.960 --> 00:28:59.640
that has to do with your medical history

511
00:28:59.640 --> 00:29:00.840
or someone that you love.

512
00:29:00.840 --> 00:29:01.680
Medical history.

513
00:29:01.680 --> 00:29:02.520
Okay.

514
00:29:05.480 --> 00:29:09.080
Because you don't realize that event

515
00:29:09.080 --> 00:29:10.440
has been a long time ago,

516
00:29:10.440 --> 00:29:12.000
so you're not feeling the pain of it.

517
00:29:12.000 --> 00:29:13.560
So you think you've forgiven,

518
00:29:13.560 --> 00:29:16.880
but you've never really just spoken forgiveness

519
00:29:16.880 --> 00:29:17.720
over that situation.

520
00:29:17.720 --> 00:29:18.760
You've never really realized

521
00:29:18.760 --> 00:29:23.000
that doctor, that nurse, that institution, whatever it is.

522
00:29:23.000 --> 00:29:25.480
And so we can be tied to events like that.

523
00:29:25.480 --> 00:29:27.640
Maybe you were wrongfully accused of something.

524
00:29:27.640 --> 00:29:30.320
Maybe you were fired wrongfully

525
00:29:30.320 --> 00:29:32.640
because someone said that you weren't doing your job

526
00:29:32.640 --> 00:29:33.760
or your numbers weren't right,

527
00:29:33.760 --> 00:29:34.960
or someone lied about you.

528
00:29:34.960 --> 00:29:36.360
It doesn't matter what it is.

529
00:29:36.360 --> 00:29:39.080
You can be tied to that a negative event in your life.

530
00:29:40.080 --> 00:29:41.040
You can be tied to it.

531
00:29:41.040 --> 00:29:43.480
Not just the people, but the actual event itself.

532
00:29:43.480 --> 00:29:45.240
Maybe it was a mistake that you made.

533
00:29:45.240 --> 00:29:46.280
You're tied to your past.

534
00:29:46.280 --> 00:29:48.080
Maybe it was a mistake that you made.

535
00:29:48.200 --> 00:29:50.120
You're tied to your past mistakes.

536
00:29:50.120 --> 00:29:51.960
You're the cheater.

537
00:29:51.960 --> 00:29:53.640
You're the one that won't forgive yourself.

538
00:29:53.640 --> 00:29:55.120
So you continue to be tied

539
00:29:55.120 --> 00:29:58.280
to that negative counterfeit personality

540
00:29:58.280 --> 00:30:00.280
or identity of cheater or liar.

541
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.340
liar, abuser, user, adulterer, whatever it is,

542
00:30:03.340 --> 00:30:05.600
you're tied to that, the regrets.

543
00:30:05.600 --> 00:30:08.880
You can, here's another one, really important.

544
00:30:08.880 --> 00:30:09.720
You know what?

545
00:30:09.720 --> 00:30:12.600
You can be soul tied and heart tied to an idea,

546
00:30:12.600 --> 00:30:17.100
a dream, a prophetic word that has long since expired

547
00:30:17.100 --> 00:30:18.520
that you need to let go of.

548
00:30:19.760 --> 00:30:22.640
You are seeing everything that's coming into your life

549
00:30:22.640 --> 00:30:25.300
through the lens of that prophetic word.

550
00:30:26.720 --> 00:30:28.200
Let me give you an example.

551
00:30:28.280 --> 00:30:33.280
I had a student and she desperately wanted to be married.

552
00:30:33.320 --> 00:30:36.440
She'd been sitting in the waiting room for 20 years

553
00:30:36.440 --> 00:30:38.940
waiting for her promise to come.

554
00:30:38.940 --> 00:30:40.060
What was her promise?

555
00:30:40.060 --> 00:30:42.720
God told her years and years and years ago

556
00:30:42.720 --> 00:30:44.540
that when she was in prayer,

557
00:30:44.540 --> 00:30:46.460
she believed that God told her

558
00:30:46.460 --> 00:30:49.320
that her husband's name was Chris

559
00:30:49.320 --> 00:30:51.080
and that she should wait for him,

560
00:30:51.080 --> 00:30:53.340
that God was sending him and that that was his name,

561
00:30:53.340 --> 00:30:55.420
that she was gonna marry Chris.

562
00:30:55.420 --> 00:30:56.260
Well, guess what?

563
00:30:56.260 --> 00:30:58.460
She went to a kind of a small church and there was no Chris

564
00:30:58.460 --> 00:30:59.540
and over the years,

565
00:30:59.540 --> 00:31:01.540
she was young when she received that word,

566
00:31:01.540 --> 00:31:04.660
she was perfectly willing to walk that out and wait for it.

567
00:31:04.660 --> 00:31:07.860
But here, two years went by, three years, five years,

568
00:31:07.860 --> 00:31:10.820
seven years, 10 years went by.

569
00:31:10.820 --> 00:31:11.640
And then guess what?

570
00:31:11.640 --> 00:31:13.060
A new guy showed up to the church.

571
00:31:13.060 --> 00:31:14.260
Guess what his name was?

572
00:31:16.180 --> 00:31:18.020
Anyone wanna guess what his name was?

573
00:31:20.700 --> 00:31:21.540
Chris.

574
00:31:23.300 --> 00:31:24.180
Chris showed up.

575
00:31:24.180 --> 00:31:26.300
So of course, as soon as Chris walks through the door

576
00:31:26.300 --> 00:31:28.900
at this smaller assembly of believers,

577
00:31:28.900 --> 00:31:32.960
she's like, oh my God, right?

578
00:31:34.100 --> 00:31:35.840
Unfortunately, guess what?

579
00:31:35.840 --> 00:31:38.320
Chris dated her roommate, married him, her.

580
00:31:39.760 --> 00:31:41.540
Well, that sucks, right?

581
00:31:42.620 --> 00:31:46.080
And so who thinks it's time to let go of that prophetic word?

582
00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:50.940
But she didn't, she ended up waiting,

583
00:31:50.940 --> 00:31:53.480
she ended up staying and waiting for years more

584
00:31:53.480 --> 00:31:57.920
until she realized that whatever she heard back when,

585
00:31:57.920 --> 00:32:00.520
it was not established, it did not come to fruition,

586
00:32:00.520 --> 00:32:03.320
it's time to throw it out, okay?

587
00:32:03.320 --> 00:32:04.720
It's time to flush it.

588
00:32:04.720 --> 00:32:06.320
You're like, but it was the word of the Lord.

589
00:32:06.320 --> 00:32:07.160
You know what?

590
00:32:07.160 --> 00:32:10.720
We receive words of the Lord for reasons and for seasons.

591
00:32:10.720 --> 00:32:11.960
There isn't any word of the Lord

592
00:32:11.960 --> 00:32:14.160
that doesn't have an expiration date on it

593
00:32:14.160 --> 00:32:17.240
or it doesn't want to be replaced if you allow it

594
00:32:17.240 --> 00:32:19.280
with something more current

595
00:32:19.280 --> 00:32:22.280
and more valid to where you are right now.

596
00:32:22.280 --> 00:32:24.680
If you received a dream from the Lord

597
00:32:24.680 --> 00:32:26.400
that you were gonna be a prima ballerina

598
00:32:26.400 --> 00:32:29.520
and you're now 47 years old, guess what?

599
00:32:29.520 --> 00:32:32.240
Flush it, that's expired.

600
00:32:32.240 --> 00:32:33.560
You're not gonna be, but you're like,

601
00:32:33.560 --> 00:32:35.320
God, I can do anything, Jackie.

602
00:32:35.320 --> 00:32:37.000
Sure, but why?

603
00:32:38.820 --> 00:32:40.160
Why?

604
00:32:40.160 --> 00:32:42.880
Don't you wanna take those same gifts and skills and dreams

605
00:32:42.880 --> 00:32:44.440
and talents and desires

606
00:32:44.440 --> 00:32:46.520
and funnel them into something maybe similar?

607
00:32:46.520 --> 00:32:50.200
Maybe you wanna be a choreographer.

608
00:32:50.200 --> 00:32:52.320
Maybe you want to run a dance company.

609
00:32:52.320 --> 00:32:57.320
Let's allow the new to come by releasing the old.

610
00:32:58.680 --> 00:32:59.920
We gotta release the old.

611
00:33:01.560 --> 00:33:04.240
And at the same time, when a new word comes,

612
00:33:05.320 --> 00:33:06.600
it's been established, like what?

613
00:33:06.600 --> 00:33:09.320
Like 2022 is the year of the bride.

614
00:33:09.320 --> 00:33:11.880
It's been spoken, it's been established

615
00:33:11.880 --> 00:33:13.480
through the mouth of two or three witnesses.

616
00:33:13.480 --> 00:33:16.120
Now we have to act on it.

617
00:33:16.120 --> 00:33:19.680
You guys, in the fear of the Lord, we have to act on it.

618
00:33:19.680 --> 00:33:22.440
And when I say fear, I mean, in the awe of God,

619
00:33:22.440 --> 00:33:25.000
in the awe of his promises, we have to act on it.

620
00:33:25.000 --> 00:33:27.320
That's the correct response to a word from the Lord

621
00:33:27.320 --> 00:33:29.680
is action once it's been established.

622
00:33:29.680 --> 00:33:31.880
Okay, so you can be tied to an old prophetic word.

623
00:33:31.880 --> 00:33:32.840
And I see some people say,

624
00:33:32.840 --> 00:33:35.040
you are really speaking to me right now.

625
00:33:35.040 --> 00:33:36.200
It's time to release the old

626
00:33:36.200 --> 00:33:38.680
so you can make room for the new, friends.

627
00:33:38.680 --> 00:33:40.560
So you're gonna cut your soul ties

628
00:33:40.560 --> 00:33:42.440
with those old prophetic words tonight

629
00:33:42.440 --> 00:33:44.200
and make room for new prophetic words

630
00:33:44.200 --> 00:33:47.480
and new dreams and new visions, new ideals.

631
00:33:47.480 --> 00:33:49.560
Some of you had an ideal of what you wanted.

632
00:33:50.440 --> 00:33:51.520
You had a list of what you wanted in a spouse.

633
00:33:51.520 --> 00:33:52.360
And guess what?

634
00:33:52.360 --> 00:33:53.840
That ship has sailed now.

635
00:33:53.840 --> 00:33:55.200
You're a different person.

636
00:33:55.200 --> 00:33:56.360
You're 15 years older.

637
00:33:56.360 --> 00:33:57.640
You need something different

638
00:33:57.640 --> 00:33:59.280
than what you needed 15 years ago.

639
00:33:59.280 --> 00:34:03.600
It's time to let go of that old idea

640
00:34:03.600 --> 00:34:05.320
of what you thought was coming.

641
00:34:07.920 --> 00:34:09.880
Everyone's so serious right now.

642
00:34:11.480 --> 00:34:13.920
They're like, I'm gonna take that list to the grave.

643
00:34:13.920 --> 00:34:16.080
Well, yes, yes, you will.

644
00:34:16.080 --> 00:34:16.960
Is that what you want?

645
00:34:16.960 --> 00:34:18.159
I don't think so.

646
00:34:18.199 --> 00:34:21.320
All right, you can also be tied to,

647
00:34:21.320 --> 00:34:23.040
you can also, you guys, this is really weird,

648
00:34:23.040 --> 00:34:23.880
but I'm gonna add it

649
00:34:23.880 --> 00:34:26.800
because I think that some people have this problem.

650
00:34:26.800 --> 00:34:29.120
You can also be tied to an obsession

651
00:34:29.120 --> 00:34:30.760
with someone you don't even know.

652
00:34:31.920 --> 00:34:34.560
I had a student, you guys tired of hearing my examples?

653
00:34:34.560 --> 00:34:35.600
I think they're helpful though.

654
00:34:35.600 --> 00:34:37.600
If they're helpful, raise your hand, these examples.

655
00:34:37.600 --> 00:34:40.760
Okay, so I had a student that came to me

656
00:34:40.760 --> 00:34:43.800
and she believed that this celebrity preacher

657
00:34:43.800 --> 00:34:46.800
was her husband, was her future husband.

658
00:34:46.840 --> 00:34:48.920
So she went to all of his conferences.

659
00:34:48.920 --> 00:34:51.400
She went to all of his stuff.

660
00:34:51.400 --> 00:34:52.280
You know, can you guys see me

661
00:34:52.280 --> 00:34:54.080
or do I need to highlight myself?

662
00:34:54.080 --> 00:34:56.280
Do I need to highlight myself?

663
00:34:56.280 --> 00:34:57.360
Is it hard to follow me?

664
00:34:57.360 --> 00:35:00.000
Because like a Rubik's cube, like a-

665
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:07.000
It was cube everything keeps shifting for me, I was down here now i'm up here, and is that Okay, or do I need to highlight.

666
00:35:07.480 --> 00:35:08.360
Now I can see you.

667
00:35:08.640 --> 00:35:09.800
I can see yourself.

668
00:35:10.280 --> 00:35:14.120
People are wanting me to highlight, so let me highlight and i'll put it back on gallery view hold on.

669
00:35:15.400 --> 00:35:17.320
And there I am with my nice spray tan.

670
00:35:19.400 --> 00:35:19.800
All right.

671
00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:28.720
Okay, all right, so you know she thought this you know she believed in her heart, she was tethered to the idea.

672
00:35:29.200 --> 00:35:40.320
Of this person that she did not know she did not know this person, but she was she was obsessed I hate to say it, but she was obsessed with the celebrity preacher and she had convinced herself that this person was.

673
00:35:40.920 --> 00:35:48.360
was her husband, and so she like I said went to all the conferences went to anytime this person traveled anywhere there she was.

674
00:35:48.800 --> 00:35:58.600
And that is a very unhealthy situation and some people get they get really fixated on that it could be someone in your church it doesn't have to be a celebrity but you're obsessed with them.

675
00:35:58.880 --> 00:36:07.280
You think that they're your husband or wife and it has gone month after month, year after year and they haven't noticed you and you're still waiting for them to notice you it's time for you to let that go.

676
00:36:08.280 --> 00:36:16.360
It is and if you're and if you're obsessed with like a celebrity like you watch all their movies, and you know you need that's a soul tie.

677
00:36:17.480 --> 00:36:29.880
You watch all their you're like I just like them know they become an ideal for you and that could really get in the way of you falling in love with a regular human person, especially if it's the opposite sex type of situation.

678
00:36:31.000 --> 00:36:35.480
You know when people say who's your crush you know who's your celebrity crush nobody.

679
00:36:35.600 --> 00:36:50.000
Nobody is my celebrity crush you're like but that Jackie aren't you kind of being like a little bit legalistic or religious no i'm being spiritual stop tying your soul and your heart to fictitious characters in movies.

680
00:36:52.040 --> 00:36:58.840
And if you can't watch movies without doing that and then expecting that your husband or your wife is going to look like that or act like that.

681
00:36:58.840 --> 00:37:03.040
Then don't watch movies anymore, until you can get to a healthy hearted place where you can do it.

682
00:37:04.520 --> 00:37:06.120
Because you're messing your own self up.

683
00:37:07.480 --> 00:37:19.920
Guys i'm talking to you you're not going to marry Kate Beckinsale and you know what if you follow her on instagram you shouldn't even want to that sister got some issues that's you know Lord Jesus deliver her but you know.

684
00:37:21.000 --> 00:37:25.600
The people that people play in movies are not who they really are you know that right.

685
00:37:25.720 --> 00:37:36.200
Okay, so no matter who that celebrity crushes that that rock star crushes it's time for us to let go of those and we can go ahead and repents of that tonight, which means turning away from that.

686
00:37:37.360 --> 00:37:46.560
And turning towards what God has for us so that when we see our spirit mate we're not comparing them to some kind of unrealistic.

687
00:37:47.600 --> 00:37:49.880
crazy expectation.

688
00:37:50.280 --> 00:37:58.240
You can be soul tied to expectation all right, this is for everyone, male and female you can be soul tied heart tied to pornography.

689
00:38:01.440 --> 00:38:14.200
you're having an emotional experience with those actors they're not acting because they're actually that's that's real life, you know that's that's not like smoking mirrors and cameras those people are having sex.

690
00:38:14.200 --> 00:38:23.080
For your pleasure and not for their pleasure, because a lot of them are being human traffic they're addicted to drugs there's all different types and you're soul tying yourself to that.

691
00:38:23.840 --> 00:38:32.120
you're soul tying yourself to that when you watch that you're having an emotional experience with that person, it says, if you're having sex with them as well.

692
00:38:32.120 --> 00:38:42.040
Okay, and remember what Jesus said Jesus says you don't commit anything you don't commit just a sin in action anymore you commit that sin in your heart now right under the new covenant.

693
00:38:43.240 --> 00:38:49.240
If you even look on a woman or a man to lust after them you've committed adultery in your heart is what he said right.

694
00:38:49.240 --> 00:39:08.240
And so, when we're when we're caught up in that sexual act with those people on the screen, even you know, even having orgasms with them that that causes a tie a soul tie a heart tether to that situation very, very, very important that you understand that it's not harmless.

695
00:39:08.240 --> 00:39:17.760
It's like Oh, you know yeah I did that and it's and I don't do it anymore, and you know okay it's over it's all under the blood of Jesus, you can be so tied to it and God wants you to get free.

696
00:39:20.200 --> 00:39:30.640
want you to be free okay so let's see I think that I covered everything there so um alright so let's talk about what these heart ties the soul ties are.

697
00:39:30.640 --> 00:39:50.640
So, when our hearts are broken okay this this cursed heart this fragmented heart this soulless heart when it's broken what's Jeremiah 17 verses nine and 10 say about it it's wickedly deceitful that no one can know it so it's a liar, it says it's a puzzle that nobody can figure out so it's confusing right these broken fragmented hearts are very confusing and they're very confused.

698
00:39:50.640 --> 00:39:59.640
So, when our hearts are broken okay this cursed heart this fragmented heart this soulless heart when it's broken what's Jeremiah 17 verses nine and 10 say about it it's wickedly deceitful that no one can know it so it's a liar, it says it's a puzzle that nobody can figure out so it's confusing right these broken fragmented hearts are very confusing and they're very confused.

699
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.120
And then it's a pretender.

700
00:40:02.120 --> 00:40:05.320
So it's just going through the motions a lot.

701
00:40:05.320 --> 00:40:07.460
It's emulating culture and society.

702
00:40:07.460 --> 00:40:10.040
It really doesn't know who to be or where to be

703
00:40:10.040 --> 00:40:11.280
or why to be.

704
00:40:11.280 --> 00:40:15.960
And that is why soul ties and heart ties are formed.

705
00:40:16.800 --> 00:40:19.280
Okay, we're looking to fit something

706
00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:20.580
in the God-shaped hole.

707
00:40:22.200 --> 00:40:23.640
And this is how this happens.

708
00:40:23.640 --> 00:40:24.640
It's a broken heart.

709
00:40:24.640 --> 00:40:25.640
It has a hole.

710
00:40:26.840 --> 00:40:28.240
It's a God-shaped hole.

711
00:40:28.240 --> 00:40:29.320
It's not a man-shaped hole.

712
00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:30.320
It's not a woman-shaped hole.

713
00:40:30.320 --> 00:40:32.200
It's not a job-shaped hole.

714
00:40:32.200 --> 00:40:34.880
It's not an experience for all of you that love to travel.

715
00:40:34.880 --> 00:40:37.120
It's not experience-shaped hole.

716
00:40:37.120 --> 00:40:39.040
You know, your broken heart will have you running

717
00:40:39.040 --> 00:40:41.580
after all kinds of things all the time,

718
00:40:41.580 --> 00:40:42.840
thinking that that's what you need

719
00:40:42.840 --> 00:40:45.360
and tying your destiny to those things

720
00:40:45.360 --> 00:40:48.280
and becoming emotionally involved with those things.

721
00:40:48.280 --> 00:40:49.920
And it never fills it, does it?

722
00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:52.040
It never really quite fills that hole in our heart

723
00:40:52.040 --> 00:40:54.240
because God alone is source.

724
00:40:54.240 --> 00:40:57.640
His relationship is the main love story in your life.

725
00:40:57.640 --> 00:41:01.120
When Jesus came to seek and save that which was lost,

726
00:41:01.120 --> 00:41:03.820
that was the love story between you and God.

727
00:41:05.160 --> 00:41:07.000
That was the relationship and identity

728
00:41:07.000 --> 00:41:08.820
as being a child of God,

729
00:41:09.800 --> 00:41:11.440
a son of God and the bride of Christ.

730
00:41:11.440 --> 00:41:14.800
All of you, sons of God, all of you, bride of Christ,

731
00:41:14.800 --> 00:41:17.160
of being the children of God and being the bride of Christ.

732
00:41:17.160 --> 00:41:19.360
Be truth to Christ, okay?

733
00:41:19.360 --> 00:41:22.040
And so he sought and he saved through his death

734
00:41:22.040 --> 00:41:25.320
and the finished work of Calvary this relationship,

735
00:41:25.320 --> 00:41:28.360
which sought and saved this relationship

736
00:41:28.360 --> 00:41:31.120
and then this relationship.

737
00:41:31.120 --> 00:41:32.980
You will never have healthy,

738
00:41:34.000 --> 00:41:37.080
interdependent relationship with other human beings

739
00:41:37.080 --> 00:41:41.960
if you do not first know who you are to God

740
00:41:41.960 --> 00:41:44.520
and who you are to yourself.

741
00:41:44.520 --> 00:41:47.080
And so we talk about that in our boundaries course,

742
00:41:47.080 --> 00:41:48.880
which we will be doing in January.

743
00:41:48.880 --> 00:41:50.740
Who's excited to do some boundaries work?

744
00:41:50.740 --> 00:41:52.600
We're gonna have to come right out of the gate, you guys.

745
00:41:52.600 --> 00:41:54.760
If we really want 2022 to be the year of the bride,

746
00:41:55.200 --> 00:41:56.560
we're gonna have to come right out of the gate

747
00:41:56.560 --> 00:42:00.040
with some pruning, some purging, some identity work,

748
00:42:00.040 --> 00:42:02.400
some fasting, and I don't just mean food.

749
00:42:02.400 --> 00:42:04.140
I mean, coming away from all this stuff

750
00:42:04.140 --> 00:42:06.000
that we've been shoving in this hole

751
00:42:06.000 --> 00:42:08.400
and just really allow God to fill it with himself

752
00:42:08.400 --> 00:42:13.400
so that we can have clear vision here and here, okay?

753
00:42:13.440 --> 00:42:15.920
So that broken heart is looking for all kinds of stuff.

754
00:42:15.920 --> 00:42:19.160
And so that broken heart runs out and it makes attachments.

755
00:42:19.160 --> 00:42:20.340
It does.

756
00:42:20.340 --> 00:42:22.520
It shoves all kinds of stuff in there

757
00:42:22.520 --> 00:42:23.640
trying to see if it will fit.

758
00:42:23.640 --> 00:42:24.880
It makes attachments.

759
00:42:24.880 --> 00:42:26.360
What kind of attachments does it make?

760
00:42:26.360 --> 00:42:30.480
It makes emotional attachments, mental attachments,

761
00:42:30.480 --> 00:42:32.560
physical attachments, spiritual attachments,

762
00:42:32.560 --> 00:42:35.720
sexual attachments, it even makes financial attachments.

763
00:42:36.840 --> 00:42:38.720
All of those things.

764
00:42:38.720 --> 00:42:43.100
Because here you go, you were created for attachment.

765
00:42:44.600 --> 00:42:46.920
People are like, oh, I'm just gonna cut all these soul ties

766
00:42:46.920 --> 00:42:48.120
because attachment is bad.

767
00:42:48.120 --> 00:42:51.200
No, you were created for attachment.

768
00:42:51.200 --> 00:42:53.080
You were created for relationship.

769
00:42:53.080 --> 00:42:55.480
You were created for connection.

770
00:42:57.320 --> 00:43:00.120
And relationship requires reliance.

771
00:43:00.120 --> 00:43:01.520
For people that are always thinking

772
00:43:01.520 --> 00:43:03.440
everything is codependent,

773
00:43:03.440 --> 00:43:05.720
we're gonna have to let go of that.

774
00:43:05.720 --> 00:43:08.200
I will tell you, I'm very happily married for 15 years

775
00:43:08.200 --> 00:43:11.720
and we a little bit codependent, all right?

776
00:43:11.720 --> 00:43:14.080
We are, we're working on it.

777
00:43:14.080 --> 00:43:14.920
Why are we working on it?

778
00:43:14.920 --> 00:43:17.560
Because we're human beings, that's why.

779
00:43:17.560 --> 00:43:19.480
If you think that you are gonna get to a state

780
00:43:19.480 --> 00:43:21.120
of complete interdependence

781
00:43:22.440 --> 00:43:24.240
without a very long journey

782
00:43:24.240 --> 00:43:26.640
of just continuing to do heartwork, you're not.

783
00:43:28.160 --> 00:43:31.560
The trick is, the beauty is,

784
00:43:31.560 --> 00:43:33.880
is that as you do your heartwork,

785
00:43:33.880 --> 00:43:37.560
you will recognize when a good godly relationship

786
00:43:37.560 --> 00:43:40.640
is getting out of balance and you'll pull it back.

787
00:43:40.640 --> 00:43:41.720
It's about doing your heartwork.

788
00:43:41.720 --> 00:43:42.760
It's about being self-aware.

789
00:43:42.760 --> 00:43:45.160
It's about realizing when you're making someone

790
00:43:45.160 --> 00:43:47.120
your source when they're not

791
00:43:47.120 --> 00:43:49.440
and you're having unrealistic expectations

792
00:43:50.280 --> 00:43:51.120
in a relationship.

793
00:43:51.120 --> 00:43:53.320
So David and I, it's a constant tug of war

794
00:43:53.320 --> 00:43:57.000
in our relationship where we realize that sometimes

795
00:43:57.000 --> 00:43:58.840
because this person's right in front of you

796
00:43:58.840 --> 00:44:01.600
and they have skin, unlike God,

797
00:44:01.600 --> 00:44:03.840
you put a little bit more expectation

798
00:44:03.840 --> 00:44:05.680
and reliance on them than you should.

799
00:44:06.880 --> 00:44:09.760
But you were created and relationship requires reliance

800
00:44:09.760 --> 00:44:10.600
to a certain extent.

801
00:44:10.600 --> 00:44:12.160
It requires trust at a certain extent.

802
00:44:12.160 --> 00:44:13.000
And guess what?

803
00:44:13.000 --> 00:44:15.920
It requires attachment, okay?

804
00:44:15.920 --> 00:44:19.760
So unhealthy attachments, we don't want those.

805
00:44:20.680 --> 00:44:22.600
We don't want unhealthy attachments,

806
00:44:22.600 --> 00:44:27.000
but we do want godly and healthy attachments, okay?

807
00:44:28.640 --> 00:44:29.480
All right.

808
00:44:29.480 --> 00:44:31.400
And it's important that you understand that right now

809
00:44:31.400 --> 00:44:33.600
because otherwise this type of teaching

810
00:44:33.600 --> 00:44:34.880
will keep you independent.

811
00:44:34.880 --> 00:44:36.560
You'll just process it wrong

812
00:44:36.560 --> 00:44:39.440
and you'll run out there trying to be independent.

813
00:44:39.440 --> 00:44:41.360
Raise your hand if you know

814
00:44:41.360 --> 00:44:44.120
that you've become emotionally unavailable

815
00:44:44.120 --> 00:44:47.320
because of trauma and you're very independent.

816
00:44:47.320 --> 00:44:50.560
You don't try to rely on anyone for anything ever

817
00:44:51.520 --> 00:44:53.960
because interdependence requires reliance

818
00:44:53.960 --> 00:44:55.640
and that we've been created for interdependence.

819
00:44:55.640 --> 00:44:59.960
Wow, look at all of those hands, wowsers.

820
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.000
You guys, I don't see any guy hands up though.

821
00:45:03.000 --> 00:45:06.000
Oh, one, two, mostly female hands.

822
00:45:06.000 --> 00:45:08.000
Ty's like, wait, don't forget about me.

823
00:45:08.000 --> 00:45:09.000
I saw you, bud.

824
00:45:09.000 --> 00:45:10.000
All right.

825
00:45:10.000 --> 00:45:11.000
All right.

826
00:45:11.000 --> 00:45:14.000
So we were not created for independence.

827
00:45:14.000 --> 00:45:18.000
You are not supposed to be alive and alone.

828
00:45:18.000 --> 00:45:22.000
If you are alive, which you appear all to be alive right now,

829
00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:26.000
you are not created to be alone or to go it alone or to do it alone.

830
00:45:26.000 --> 00:45:27.000
Okay.

831
00:45:27.000 --> 00:45:28.000
So moving on.

832
00:45:28.000 --> 00:45:31.000
So we already, we already found out that those broken hearts,

833
00:45:31.000 --> 00:45:33.000
they run out and they make those emotional, physical, mental,

834
00:45:33.000 --> 00:45:38.000
spiritual, sexual, financial deals, covenants, tethers, ties.

835
00:45:38.000 --> 00:45:41.000
Attachments, bad attachment is bad.

836
00:45:41.000 --> 00:45:44.000
It's unhealthy and good attachment is good.

837
00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:47.000
All right. So let's go over the attributes of some good attachments.

838
00:45:47.000 --> 00:45:49.000
What are the attributes of good attachment?

839
00:45:49.000 --> 00:45:53.000
How can we tell if it's good or bad? Good attachments are godly.

840
00:45:53.000 --> 00:45:55.000
Okay. God is the center. He's the source.

841
00:45:55.000 --> 00:45:56.000
He's the source.

842
00:45:56.000 --> 00:46:02.000
They're godly. They're interdependent. That's a mature attachment.

843
00:46:02.000 --> 00:46:04.000
They're interdependent.

844
00:46:04.000 --> 00:46:05.000
Okay.

845
00:46:05.000 --> 00:46:08.000
Good attachments. Listen up.

846
00:46:08.000 --> 00:46:11.000
Good attachments, healthy attachments are dependent.

847
00:46:11.000 --> 00:46:14.000
When you are a child.

848
00:46:14.000 --> 00:46:16.000
This is why a lot of you struggle because you,

849
00:46:16.000 --> 00:46:19.000
you weren't able to depend on the people in your life.

850
00:46:19.000 --> 00:46:22.000
When you were a child, you became very independent as a survivor.

851
00:46:22.000 --> 00:46:25.000
You became very independent as a survivor.

852
00:46:25.000 --> 00:46:29.000
You became very independent as a survivor is a survival instinct.

853
00:46:29.000 --> 00:46:32.000
Because you came into a broken home when you were a child.

854
00:46:32.000 --> 00:46:36.000
And so you haven't been able to break out of that. So guess what?

855
00:46:36.000 --> 00:46:44.000
Your soul tied to an event in your life.

856
00:46:44.000 --> 00:46:47.000
A troubled childhood that has caused you to not be able to be

857
00:46:47.000 --> 00:46:49.000
appropriately interdependent as an adult.

858
00:46:49.000 --> 00:46:51.000
You can repent of that. You can let go of that.

859
00:46:52.000 --> 00:46:53.000
You can let go of that.

860
00:46:53.000 --> 00:46:56.000
And then you can have a healthy relationship with the people in your

861
00:46:56.000 --> 00:46:57.000
life.

862
00:46:57.000 --> 00:47:00.000
Because they are the ones who are going to be taking care of you.

863
00:47:00.000 --> 00:47:02.000
When you were a child so that you can move on and have healthy

864
00:47:02.000 --> 00:47:04.000
relationship, not just with them.

865
00:47:04.000 --> 00:47:05.000
Hopefully with them.

866
00:47:05.000 --> 00:47:07.000
But also with other people in your life.

867
00:47:07.000 --> 00:47:08.000
Okay.

868
00:47:08.000 --> 00:47:10.000
Good attachments have boundaries.

869
00:47:10.000 --> 00:47:12.000
A lot of people have, we're going to teach boundaries in January,

870
00:47:12.000 --> 00:47:14.000
but a lot of people do not understand boundaries at all.

871
00:47:14.000 --> 00:47:16.000
They think boundaries are walls.

872
00:47:17.000 --> 00:47:18.000
Okay.

873
00:47:18.000 --> 00:47:20.000
They're not a method to, to, to disattach.

874
00:47:20.000 --> 00:47:22.000
To a, to a.

875
00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:24.000
To disconnect.

876
00:47:24.000 --> 00:47:41.000
They are a, a tool in which to connect in a healthy way.

877
00:47:41.000 --> 00:47:44.000
Mature boundaries include people. Okay. Even broken people.

878
00:47:45.000 --> 00:47:46.000
Okay.

879
00:47:46.000 --> 00:47:47.000
Even broken people.

880
00:47:47.000 --> 00:47:48.000
Which is every person.

881
00:47:48.000 --> 00:47:50.000
Guys need to know this.

882
00:47:50.000 --> 00:47:56.000
Every person has yellow flags, every single person, every person.

883
00:47:56.000 --> 00:47:58.000
Every single person has yellow flags, including you.

884
00:47:58.000 --> 00:48:05.000
Okay.

885
00:48:05.000 --> 00:48:08.000
So boundaries help you to be with broken people without their brokenness,

886
00:48:08.000 --> 00:48:09.000
breaking you,

887
00:48:09.000 --> 00:48:11.000
especially if they're family members and people you just cannot get away

888
00:48:11.000 --> 00:48:12.000
with.

889
00:48:12.000 --> 00:48:13.000
Okay.

890
00:48:13.000 --> 00:48:14.000
So good attachments.

891
00:48:14.000 --> 00:48:16.000
Cut people off.

892
00:48:16.000 --> 00:48:19.000
Can I tell you that that divine love or mature love?

893
00:48:19.000 --> 00:48:22.000
What does it do? What does the Bible say? It does.

894
00:48:22.000 --> 00:48:23.000
Mature and divine love.

895
00:48:23.000 --> 00:48:25.000
Cast out fear.

896
00:48:25.000 --> 00:48:27.000
Immature love casts out people.

897
00:48:27.000 --> 00:48:28.000
That's what it does.

898
00:48:28.000 --> 00:48:32.000
Okay.

899
00:48:32.000 --> 00:48:34.000
You're just going to be throwing people off the ship,

900
00:48:34.000 --> 00:48:38.000
burning bridges all the time.

901
00:48:38.000 --> 00:48:39.000
Okay.

902
00:48:40.000 --> 00:48:42.000
So.

903
00:48:42.000 --> 00:48:43.000
Okay.

904
00:48:43.000 --> 00:48:44.000
So people are healthy.

905
00:48:44.000 --> 00:48:45.000
Right.

906
00:48:45.000 --> 00:48:47.000
They have realistic expectations.

907
00:48:47.000 --> 00:48:48.000
Healthy.

908
00:48:48.000 --> 00:48:50.000
Attachment has free will.

909
00:48:50.000 --> 00:48:55.000
And choice.

910
00:48:55.000 --> 00:48:57.000
You guys, it's always an unhealthy attachment.

911
00:48:57.000 --> 00:48:59.000
If you no longer have free will and choice,

912
00:48:59.000 --> 00:49:01.000
God gave it to you.

913
00:49:01.000 --> 00:49:03.000
No human relationship should take it away from you.

914
00:49:03.000 --> 00:49:05.000
Right.

915
00:49:05.000 --> 00:49:07.000
When you're a child and you're dependent, you don't really have free will.

916
00:49:07.000 --> 00:49:12.000
You're going to be abused in those.

917
00:49:12.000 --> 00:49:20.000
You know, very toxic childhood relationships.

918
00:49:20.000 --> 00:49:22.000
But also healthy, healthy boundary. I'm sorry,

919
00:49:22.000 --> 00:49:25.000
healthy attachments strengthen your relationship with God.

920
00:49:25.000 --> 00:49:26.000
They do.

921
00:49:26.000 --> 00:49:27.000
They don't draw you to them.

922
00:49:27.000 --> 00:49:31.000
They draw you back to God.

923
00:49:31.000 --> 00:49:33.000
It's an interdependent relationship.

924
00:49:33.000 --> 00:49:35.000
And remember what I said about me and David, that's a process.

925
00:49:35.000 --> 00:49:42.000
You're going to have to go back to God.

926
00:49:42.000 --> 00:49:45.000
And continue to go back to God instead of really having

927
00:49:45.000 --> 00:49:46.000
expectations with your spouse.

928
00:49:46.000 --> 00:49:48.000
Okay.

929
00:49:48.000 --> 00:49:50.000
We need to mute someone, but I don't see who they are.

930
00:49:50.000 --> 00:49:56.000
Oh, they got muted.

931
00:49:56.000 --> 00:49:58.000
That's going to help you in your future marriage right now is to get,

932
00:49:58.000 --> 00:50:00.000
is to really get a revelation of that.

933
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.000
Because otherwise you're going to have really on it.

934
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:01.440
or a mate relationship,

935
00:50:01.440 --> 00:50:04.400
but as you get into deeper and deeper intimacy,

936
00:50:02.000 --> 00:50:04.000
It's a healthy marriage. It's a beautiful marriage.

937
00:50:04.400 --> 00:50:06.580
you might start putting unrealistic expectations

938
00:50:06.580 --> 00:50:09.160
on this human being to do something for you

939
00:50:09.160 --> 00:50:10.520
that only God can do.

940
00:50:10.520 --> 00:50:11.840
And so that's gonna be something

941
00:50:11.840 --> 00:50:13.600
that you need to be aware of.

942
00:50:13.600 --> 00:50:14.480
All right, here we go.

943
00:50:14.480 --> 00:50:16.960
Gonna go through this list so we can get to our

944
00:50:16.960 --> 00:50:21.680
soul tie breaking heart, heart reclaiming prayers,

945
00:50:21.680 --> 00:50:24.240
soul tie and heart tie severing,

946
00:50:24.240 --> 00:50:26.560
soul and heart reclaiming prayers.

947
00:50:26.560 --> 00:50:28.080
Unhealthy bad attachments,

948
00:50:28.080 --> 00:50:29.560
here's some characteristics of them,

949
00:50:29.560 --> 00:50:31.400
pretty much the opposite of everything I just said

950
00:50:31.400 --> 00:50:32.720
about the others.

951
00:50:32.720 --> 00:50:33.920
They're ungodly.

952
00:50:33.920 --> 00:50:34.960
What does that mean?

953
00:50:34.960 --> 00:50:37.720
I'm gonna use a real religious word

954
00:50:37.720 --> 00:50:39.300
that's really misunderstood.

955
00:50:39.300 --> 00:50:41.680
They're idolatrous, okay?

956
00:50:41.680 --> 00:50:43.020
We idolize these people.

957
00:50:43.020 --> 00:50:44.120
We don't realize it,

958
00:50:44.120 --> 00:50:46.840
but we're putting them as a source in our lives.

959
00:50:46.840 --> 00:50:48.160
They're on a pedestal.

960
00:50:48.160 --> 00:50:51.960
A lot of people do this with pastors and spiritual leaders.

961
00:50:51.960 --> 00:50:55.200
Okay, you have an unhealthy soul tie to that pastor.

962
00:50:55.200 --> 00:50:57.600
You would do anything for them.

963
00:50:57.600 --> 00:50:59.080
Did you do anything they say

964
00:50:59.080 --> 00:51:01.320
without even making sure it's from the Bible?

965
00:51:03.600 --> 00:51:06.560
As someone whose pastor went to prison

966
00:51:06.560 --> 00:51:09.800
and got 80 years in prison because they're a human being

967
00:51:09.800 --> 00:51:11.660
and they made a lot of bad mistakes,

968
00:51:11.660 --> 00:51:14.200
I'm gonna tell you, don't do that.

969
00:51:14.200 --> 00:51:15.160
People are people.

970
00:51:15.160 --> 00:51:16.680
It's great to learn from people.

971
00:51:16.680 --> 00:51:19.000
It's great to respect and honor people

972
00:51:19.000 --> 00:51:21.080
that are doing the work of the kingdom,

973
00:51:21.080 --> 00:51:22.720
but don't idolize them, okay?

974
00:51:22.720 --> 00:51:24.060
They're human beings.

975
00:51:24.060 --> 00:51:24.900
That includes me.

976
00:51:24.900 --> 00:51:27.240
Don't idolize me because I'm gonna disappoint you.

977
00:51:27.800 --> 00:51:29.200
In fact, let me just try to disappoint you right now

978
00:51:29.200 --> 00:51:30.040
so you don't do it.

979
00:51:30.040 --> 00:51:30.860
I'm just kidding.

980
00:51:30.860 --> 00:51:33.740
All right, so codependent, codependent,

981
00:51:33.740 --> 00:51:36.640
they're codependent, all right?

982
00:51:36.640 --> 00:51:38.880
And sometimes they're dependent.

983
00:51:38.880 --> 00:51:40.120
There are people that can't,

984
00:51:40.120 --> 00:51:41.860
that you have an attachment with someone

985
00:51:41.860 --> 00:51:44.600
where you can't do anything without their permission.

986
00:51:45.560 --> 00:51:46.400
You can't.

987
00:51:46.400 --> 00:51:48.100
This goes, let me go back to the spiritual leader thing.

988
00:51:48.100 --> 00:51:49.840
I have known so many people over the years

989
00:51:49.840 --> 00:51:51.800
that sit forever on a pew

990
00:51:51.800 --> 00:51:53.320
and they never get their little butt up

991
00:51:53.320 --> 00:51:56.020
and go out and do something amazing and change the world

992
00:51:56.020 --> 00:51:57.700
because they're waiting for their pastor

993
00:51:57.700 --> 00:52:00.740
on the platform to give them permission

994
00:52:00.740 --> 00:52:02.900
to use the gifts and talents that God's given them

995
00:52:02.900 --> 00:52:04.820
for ministry or something else.

996
00:52:04.820 --> 00:52:06.820
You need the permission of the church.

997
00:52:06.820 --> 00:52:10.700
No, friend, you're pre-qualified by the gift and talent.

998
00:52:10.700 --> 00:52:12.220
When God gave you that gift,

999
00:52:12.220 --> 00:52:14.180
he pre-qualified you to use it.

1000
00:52:14.180 --> 00:52:16.660
And it's time for you to break that soul tie tonight

1001
00:52:16.660 --> 00:52:19.060
so that you can go out and do what God's called you to do.

1002
00:52:19.060 --> 00:52:20.300
All right?

1003
00:52:20.300 --> 00:52:21.940
So you can't be dependent.

1004
00:52:21.940 --> 00:52:22.940
You're a grown person.

1005
00:52:22.940 --> 00:52:24.100
Every one of you are adults.

1006
00:52:24.100 --> 00:52:27.260
Your dependent relationship is over.

1007
00:52:27.260 --> 00:52:29.860
The only dependent relationship you can have going forward

1008
00:52:29.860 --> 00:52:31.620
is between you and God.

1009
00:52:31.620 --> 00:52:34.700
You can be as dependent as a squishy little newborn baby

1010
00:52:34.700 --> 00:52:38.460
on Papa God and he will do his part

1011
00:52:38.460 --> 00:52:40.780
and he will show you what your part is.

1012
00:52:40.780 --> 00:52:42.580
He wants you to be his child.

1013
00:52:42.580 --> 00:52:44.900
He absolutely adores it

1014
00:52:44.900 --> 00:52:47.580
when you come to him for help first

1015
00:52:47.580 --> 00:52:49.460
before you go anywhere else.

1016
00:52:49.460 --> 00:52:50.980
All right?

1017
00:52:50.980 --> 00:52:53.260
Cast it on Jesus because he cares for you.

1018
00:52:53.260 --> 00:52:54.100
All right.

1019
00:52:54.100 --> 00:52:55.500
Unhealthy, bad attachments.

1020
00:52:55.500 --> 00:52:56.620
That person is your source.

1021
00:52:56.620 --> 00:52:57.460
I just said that.

1022
00:52:57.460 --> 00:52:59.900
Fear of displeasing them.

1023
00:52:59.900 --> 00:53:02.500
These are controlling attachments sometimes.

1024
00:53:02.500 --> 00:53:04.580
There's really unrealistic expectations.

1025
00:53:04.580 --> 00:53:05.580
There's no free will.

1026
00:53:05.580 --> 00:53:07.060
There's no choice.

1027
00:53:07.060 --> 00:53:08.300
It leads you away from God.

1028
00:53:08.300 --> 00:53:11.340
Some of you have these relationships with your parents.

1029
00:53:11.340 --> 00:53:12.180
You do.

1030
00:53:12.180 --> 00:53:13.180
You're a grown person,

1031
00:53:13.180 --> 00:53:16.540
but you still do whatever mom and dad tell you to do.

1032
00:53:16.540 --> 00:53:18.340
You're so afraid of displeasing them.

1033
00:53:18.340 --> 00:53:20.940
You're like, well, but the Bible says to honor your parents.

1034
00:53:20.940 --> 00:53:22.340
That's not what that means.

1035
00:53:23.260 --> 00:53:24.300
Okay?

1036
00:53:24.300 --> 00:53:25.860
That is not what that means.

1037
00:53:25.860 --> 00:53:27.660
It's important that you understand

1038
00:53:27.660 --> 00:53:30.580
that you need to do what God,

1039
00:53:30.580 --> 00:53:34.060
you need to be a God pleaser and not a people pleaser.

1040
00:53:34.060 --> 00:53:34.900
Okay?

1041
00:53:34.900 --> 00:53:36.580
And then finally, those unhealthy, bad attachments,

1042
00:53:36.580 --> 00:53:38.100
they weaken your connection with God.

1043
00:53:38.100 --> 00:53:40.180
They lead you away from God.

1044
00:53:40.180 --> 00:53:41.540
You know, they have you, you know,

1045
00:53:41.540 --> 00:53:42.660
they lead you to sin.

1046
00:53:42.660 --> 00:53:46.140
A lot of times, soul ties will lead you to sin.

1047
00:53:46.140 --> 00:53:47.300
You'll meet someone.

1048
00:53:47.300 --> 00:53:49.660
You're like, oh, I've been single for such a long time.

1049
00:53:49.660 --> 00:53:51.500
And then before you know it, you're sleeping with them.

1050
00:53:51.500 --> 00:53:52.340
You're living with them.

1051
00:53:52.380 --> 00:53:53.580
You're not married.

1052
00:53:53.580 --> 00:53:55.940
Your relationship with God is growing dimmer and dimmer

1053
00:53:55.940 --> 00:53:57.220
because now you're ashamed, right?

1054
00:53:57.220 --> 00:53:58.620
Because you know it's wrong.

1055
00:53:58.620 --> 00:54:01.260
And now you're living in a state of, you know,

1056
00:54:01.260 --> 00:54:03.940
that you shouldn't be living in and you're shutting down

1057
00:54:03.940 --> 00:54:06.020
and it's leading you farther away from God.

1058
00:54:06.020 --> 00:54:06.860
Okay?

1059
00:54:06.860 --> 00:54:09.300
So once again, these soul ties, these heart ties,

1060
00:54:09.300 --> 00:54:11.620
these tethers, they can be to communities.

1061
00:54:11.620 --> 00:54:12.940
They can be to a community.

1062
00:54:12.940 --> 00:54:14.420
God told you to leave years ago,

1063
00:54:14.420 --> 00:54:16.100
but you're so afraid of what other people would say

1064
00:54:16.100 --> 00:54:17.300
that you haven't quit the job.

1065
00:54:17.300 --> 00:54:18.460
You haven't left that church.

1066
00:54:18.460 --> 00:54:19.500
You haven't done whatever.

1067
00:54:19.540 --> 00:54:22.220
Your soul tied, your heart tied to it.

1068
00:54:22.220 --> 00:54:23.060
Okay?

1069
00:54:23.060 --> 00:54:24.180
It's more important to you that those people

1070
00:54:24.180 --> 00:54:27.580
think well of you for then you to be obedient to the Lord.

1071
00:54:27.580 --> 00:54:29.220
That's a soul tie.

1072
00:54:29.220 --> 00:54:30.060
Friendships.

1073
00:54:30.060 --> 00:54:30.900
It can be a friendship.

1074
00:54:30.900 --> 00:54:32.900
Friendship ain't done you good for years and years

1075
00:54:32.900 --> 00:54:33.740
and years.

1076
00:54:33.740 --> 00:54:35.300
In fact, it's just dragging you down,

1077
00:54:35.300 --> 00:54:36.540
but you refuse to let it go

1078
00:54:36.540 --> 00:54:37.580
because you've just been friends

1079
00:54:37.580 --> 00:54:39.220
since you were five years old.

1080
00:54:39.220 --> 00:54:40.060
It's a job.

1081
00:54:40.060 --> 00:54:40.900
It doesn't pay the bills.

1082
00:54:40.900 --> 00:54:43.060
It never has, but you can't leave it

1083
00:54:43.060 --> 00:54:45.580
because you're tethered to the unrealistic expectation

1084
00:54:45.580 --> 00:54:48.660
that is going to be your magic bullet of happiness.

1085
00:54:48.700 --> 00:54:50.420
It's going to be your source.

1086
00:54:50.420 --> 00:54:51.580
You know, it's, you know,

1087
00:54:51.580 --> 00:54:53.660
it's where you're getting your money from.

1088
00:54:53.660 --> 00:54:55.180
No, you're getting your money from God.

1089
00:54:55.180 --> 00:54:56.060
Did you know that?

1090
00:54:57.180 --> 00:54:58.140
If you're a child of God,

1091
00:54:58.140 --> 00:55:00.100
then God is your source forever.

1092
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.840
thing, including money, which means what that means that jobs, not your source, which means

1093
00:55:03.840 --> 00:55:10.320
that if you go ahead and leave it, then you can have another source for finances because God is

1094
00:55:10.320 --> 00:55:16.160
your source. The jobs are your resource and God will give you another resource if you're obedient

1095
00:55:16.160 --> 00:55:21.280
to him. So we got to get unsold tied to that stuff. Then of course, romantic relationships,

1096
00:55:21.280 --> 00:55:27.600
sexual relationships, family ties. They're the ties that bind. A lot of you are doing unhealthy

1097
00:55:27.600 --> 00:55:33.360
things. You're not moving forward with your life because you're just so worried about what your

1098
00:55:33.360 --> 00:55:40.240
family is going to think and say. Okay. Right. So we're going to operate in a divine exchange

1099
00:55:40.240 --> 00:55:46.080
right now, 2021 and everything that came before it, we're going to exchange it for 2022 and

1100
00:55:46.080 --> 00:55:52.160
everything that comes after it. Right. We want to walk into the season fresh and clean with a blank

1101
00:55:52.160 --> 00:56:00.480
slate with our hearts clear and able to receive everything that God has for us. All right. So

1102
00:56:00.480 --> 00:56:06.400
we're going to go ahead and do some of those prayers now. All right. So I'm going to talk

1103
00:56:06.400 --> 00:56:11.520
specifically about people right now. And like I said, this, this information, all these resources

1104
00:56:11.520 --> 00:56:16.320
have been compiled from all different types of sources. Um, and I will share these notes with

1105
00:56:16.320 --> 00:56:21.360
you in your group. So here's seven signs that you have an un, an unhealthy soul tie with another

1106
00:56:21.360 --> 00:56:29.120
person. Remember it could be platonic or romantic. It could be a community. It could be, um, you know,

1107
00:56:30.000 --> 00:56:35.360
any, any, anyone, a person. All right. So here they are. I really want you to close your eyes

1108
00:56:35.360 --> 00:56:41.200
and really listen to Holy spirit, let Holy spirit bring up anybody into your mind and heart that

1109
00:56:41.200 --> 00:56:48.080
this might apply to in your life. Number one, you are, you are in a physically and or emotionally

1110
00:56:48.080 --> 00:56:55.600
and or spiritually abusive relationship, but you feel so attached to them that you refuse to cut

1111
00:56:55.600 --> 00:57:01.120
off the connection and set boundaries with them. This is also known as trauma bonding.

1112
00:57:01.680 --> 00:57:06.560
This person's dragging you down with them. It's not a healthy relationship. It's, it's not, it's

1113
00:57:06.560 --> 00:57:11.120
all the things that I just said about unhealthy connection, but either you think you need to

1114
00:57:11.120 --> 00:57:16.640
save them or they're trying to save you or for whatever reason, you just cannot cut the connection

1115
00:57:16.640 --> 00:57:23.360
every time you try to, you feel guilty. You feel sad. You end up right back in the situation. Number

1116
00:57:23.360 --> 00:57:30.800
two. And if you guys, if you want to, if you want to come clean, James five 16, confess your faults

1117
00:57:30.800 --> 00:57:36.000
and be healed. You can go ahead and put in the comments, you know, what you're experiencing

1118
00:57:36.000 --> 00:57:41.440
right now, what God's telling you. Number two, you have left a relationship. Maybe even a long

1119
00:57:41.440 --> 00:57:47.280
time ago could have even been a marriage and now you're divorced, but you think about them obsessively.

1120
00:57:47.280 --> 00:57:52.800
You cannot get them out of your mind. You think about them maybe even only in seasons of time,

1121
00:57:52.800 --> 00:57:57.680
maybe around the time of the breakup or their birthday or the new year. I had an old boyfriend.

1122
00:57:57.680 --> 00:58:01.360
I only thought about him around this time, Christmas and new years, because that's when we met at a

1123
00:58:01.360 --> 00:58:06.320
party. And it was so exciting. And, you know, and I always thought about him obsessively at this time

1124
00:58:06.320 --> 00:58:13.040
of year. And so I broke that soul tie with him three, whenever you do anything, make a decision,

1125
00:58:13.040 --> 00:58:17.840
have a conversation with someone, you feel like this person is with you or watching you.

1126
00:58:20.400 --> 00:58:25.760
That could be a parent. It could be an authority source, you know, someone in your life, anyone

1127
00:58:25.760 --> 00:58:31.520
you just feel like you make this decision, but you always have them in your mind of like,

1128
00:58:31.840 --> 00:58:36.720
you know, would they approve of this? Or you just feel like they're with you and watching you.

1129
00:58:36.720 --> 00:58:43.120
Number four, when you have sex with someone else, hopefully your husband and wife. Okay.

1130
00:58:44.400 --> 00:58:49.360
You can hardly keep yourself from visualizing the person you have a soul tie with. I know

1131
00:58:49.360 --> 00:58:56.080
none of you are having sex. At least you're hopefully you're not having sex right now,

1132
00:58:56.080 --> 00:59:00.080
but this has happened to you in the past where you're visualizing you guys, this could be

1133
00:59:00.080 --> 00:59:07.440
pornography and actor, actress in, in a porn film, some scenario from a, from, from a movie

1134
00:59:07.440 --> 00:59:14.480
where people were emulating having sex. We need to break that soul tie. You take on the negative

1135
00:59:14.480 --> 00:59:20.880
traits. This is five of the person that your soul is tied to and you carry offenses, whether or not

1136
00:59:20.880 --> 00:59:28.240
you actually agree with them or not. So this could be romantic or platonic, but you're tied

1137
00:59:28.240 --> 00:59:33.760
to this person in negative ways. You take on their negative moods. If they're mad at someone,

1138
00:59:33.760 --> 00:59:38.640
then you're mad at them as well. This happens in families or not. Everyone's not talking to

1139
00:59:38.640 --> 00:59:43.120
aunt Becky. All right. I'm mad at aunt Becky. And so everyone's mad at aunt Becky. Now,

1140
00:59:44.160 --> 00:59:50.560
six, you defend your right to stay in the relationship with the person that your soul

1141
00:59:50.560 --> 00:59:55.280
is tied to, even though it is negatively affecting or even destroying your life

1142
00:59:55.280 --> 01:00:00.000
or your relationships or your health and your future.

1143
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.600
You will defend that relationship to the death.

1144
01:00:02.600 --> 01:00:04.800
If someone tries to get you to leave that person behind,

1145
01:00:04.800 --> 01:00:05.840
you'll make every excuse.

1146
01:00:05.840 --> 01:00:09.520
You will justify, you will get in a fear response so fast.

1147
01:00:09.520 --> 01:00:10.360
It's not funny.

1148
01:00:10.360 --> 01:00:13.960
Of all the reasons why, you don't have to let them go.

1149
01:00:13.960 --> 01:00:15.800
All right, number seven.

1150
01:00:15.800 --> 01:00:18.840
You have simultaneous experiences and or moods

1151
01:00:18.840 --> 01:00:21.040
as the person your soul is tied to.

1152
01:00:21.040 --> 01:00:24.600
This can include sickness, accidents, addictions, et cetera.

1153
01:00:24.600 --> 01:00:25.840
I need to tell you something.

1154
01:00:25.840 --> 01:00:27.840
You don't have to really even like the person

1155
01:00:27.840 --> 01:00:29.520
that you're soul tied with.

1156
01:00:29.520 --> 01:00:31.400
My mom and I didn't have a good relationship

1157
01:00:31.400 --> 01:00:32.720
my entire life.

1158
01:00:32.720 --> 01:00:35.040
You know, I left home as a young teenager

1159
01:00:35.040 --> 01:00:37.760
and lived in like foster situations and girls' homes,

1160
01:00:37.760 --> 01:00:39.600
but I was so soul tied to her

1161
01:00:39.600 --> 01:00:43.200
that I always knew when she was upset or hurt,

1162
01:00:43.200 --> 01:00:45.680
I was so connected to her negative emotions.

1163
01:00:45.680 --> 01:00:48.640
Even when she got sick with cancer the last few years,

1164
01:00:48.640 --> 01:00:50.040
I would wake up in the middle of the night

1165
01:00:50.040 --> 01:00:52.600
and I would know immediately that she fell

1166
01:00:52.600 --> 01:00:54.200
or that they rushed her to the hospital.

1167
01:00:54.200 --> 01:00:56.920
Like I had, I was tied to her

1168
01:00:57.920 --> 01:01:00.200
before I was able to release her.

1169
01:01:00.200 --> 01:01:02.000
I felt, and this is part of the reason why,

1170
01:01:02.000 --> 01:01:05.800
listen up guys, in her womb, even before I was born,

1171
01:01:05.800 --> 01:01:07.440
my mom was in a bad state.

1172
01:01:07.440 --> 01:01:09.200
My dad had left her already.

1173
01:01:09.200 --> 01:01:10.040
She was young.

1174
01:01:10.040 --> 01:01:12.640
She was only 20 years old when she was pregnant with me.

1175
01:01:12.640 --> 01:01:15.520
And I came out of the womb, not only running for my life,

1176
01:01:15.520 --> 01:01:18.360
but also feeling like I had to protect my mother

1177
01:01:18.360 --> 01:01:19.240
and take care of her.

1178
01:01:19.240 --> 01:01:20.760
She was my mother child.

1179
01:01:20.760 --> 01:01:23.320
Anyone else have a mother child or a father child

1180
01:01:24.400 --> 01:01:25.920
that even though you were the child,

1181
01:01:25.960 --> 01:01:28.560
you just felt like such a huge responsibility

1182
01:01:28.560 --> 01:01:30.480
for their wellbeing and trying to protect them

1183
01:01:30.480 --> 01:01:33.440
and help them because they made such bad decisions.

1184
01:01:33.440 --> 01:01:34.320
Okay.

1185
01:01:34.320 --> 01:01:36.720
And so even though I was estranged from her

1186
01:01:36.720 --> 01:01:39.600
for so many years, I always was worried about her

1187
01:01:39.600 --> 01:01:42.520
and was always trying to, you know, I'd send her things,

1188
01:01:42.520 --> 01:01:43.680
mom, do your heart work.

1189
01:01:43.680 --> 01:01:45.960
And I was always trying to fix her and help her.

1190
01:01:45.960 --> 01:01:49.360
And, you know, up until the time that she passed away,

1191
01:01:49.360 --> 01:01:50.840
it's only been in the last two years

1192
01:01:50.840 --> 01:01:52.680
that I've gotten some real deliverance

1193
01:01:52.680 --> 01:01:54.920
from that soul tie, you guys.

1194
01:01:55.120 --> 01:01:57.040
And also important.

1195
01:01:57.040 --> 01:02:00.480
You can be soul tied to someone who's not even alive.

1196
01:02:00.480 --> 01:02:01.320
Okay.

1197
01:02:01.320 --> 01:02:02.920
They're not even on the earth anymore,

1198
01:02:02.920 --> 01:02:05.120
but you think about them obsessively.

1199
01:02:05.120 --> 01:02:05.960
Okay.

1200
01:02:05.960 --> 01:02:07.680
You're always, you have so much regret.

1201
01:02:07.680 --> 01:02:09.640
You know, I wish that I could have helped them

1202
01:02:09.640 --> 01:02:11.040
or I wish I could have saved them

1203
01:02:11.040 --> 01:02:12.680
or I wish they were still here.

1204
01:02:12.680 --> 01:02:14.040
And you're always thinking about them.

1205
01:02:14.040 --> 01:02:15.560
You're always, now listen,

1206
01:02:15.560 --> 01:02:16.760
if you had good relationships

1207
01:02:16.760 --> 01:02:19.120
and healthy relationship with parents and they passed on

1208
01:02:19.120 --> 01:02:20.800
and you think about them sometimes

1209
01:02:20.800 --> 01:02:22.120
and you wish they were here.

1210
01:02:22.120 --> 01:02:23.320
I'm not talking about that.

1211
01:02:23.320 --> 01:02:24.840
That's a healthy attachment.

1212
01:02:25.640 --> 01:02:28.320
I'm talking about obsessively being sad about them going,

1213
01:02:28.320 --> 01:02:29.600
you know, not being here.

1214
01:02:29.600 --> 01:02:32.880
And you can't stop thinking about the way that they died

1215
01:02:32.880 --> 01:02:34.840
or you wish that you could have saved them.

1216
01:02:34.840 --> 01:02:38.120
And, you know, you just constantly feel negatively

1217
01:02:38.120 --> 01:02:39.360
about those things.

1218
01:02:39.360 --> 01:02:42.320
It's time for you to get some healing from that.

1219
01:02:42.320 --> 01:02:43.160
Okay.

1220
01:02:43.160 --> 01:02:44.000
All right.

1221
01:02:44.000 --> 01:02:45.680
We got a lot of people chiming in here.

1222
01:02:49.160 --> 01:02:50.120
Yes.

1223
01:02:50.120 --> 01:02:52.840
Joshua, when you know that they're going to call,

1224
01:02:52.840 --> 01:02:54.560
I had a former boyfriend

1225
01:02:55.240 --> 01:02:56.200
and we broke up,

1226
01:02:56.200 --> 01:02:58.280
but even though it wasn't a good relationship,

1227
01:02:58.280 --> 01:02:59.480
it wasn't unhealthy.

1228
01:02:59.480 --> 01:03:01.280
It just wasn't right for me.

1229
01:03:01.280 --> 01:03:03.680
He was a nice guy, but guess what?

1230
01:03:03.680 --> 01:03:04.640
We dated for years.

1231
01:03:04.640 --> 01:03:05.960
It was a sexual relationship

1232
01:03:05.960 --> 01:03:07.720
because it was before I knew Jesus.

1233
01:03:07.720 --> 01:03:10.040
I didn't, you guys didn't meet Jesus until I was 22.

1234
01:03:10.040 --> 01:03:10.880
All right.

1235
01:03:10.880 --> 01:03:13.440
I didn't have my conversion until I was 22 years old.

1236
01:03:13.440 --> 01:03:16.120
But anyway, this connection,

1237
01:03:16.120 --> 01:03:17.640
I would think about it over the years,

1238
01:03:17.640 --> 01:03:18.840
especially at this time of year,

1239
01:03:18.840 --> 01:03:21.200
New Year's and I would reminisce and I'd be like, man,

1240
01:03:21.200 --> 01:03:22.280
is he the one that got away?

1241
01:03:22.280 --> 01:03:24.000
And one of the reasons why I would think

1242
01:03:24.040 --> 01:03:25.520
he was the one that got away

1243
01:03:25.520 --> 01:03:28.400
is because I was so soul tied to him

1244
01:03:28.400 --> 01:03:32.200
that I knew when I was going to run into him,

1245
01:03:32.200 --> 01:03:33.680
I would just be driving down the street

1246
01:03:33.680 --> 01:03:36.800
and I would know that I was going to see this person.

1247
01:03:36.800 --> 01:03:38.840
It might've been three years before I,

1248
01:03:38.840 --> 01:03:40.120
since I've seen them.

1249
01:03:40.120 --> 01:03:42.200
And I knew I was going to see them.

1250
01:03:42.200 --> 01:03:44.840
I knew that I was going to run into them that day.

1251
01:03:44.840 --> 01:03:46.920
I knew that I was going to hear from them out of the blue,

1252
01:03:46.920 --> 01:03:50.320
get an email, you know, get a text message, whatever.

1253
01:03:50.320 --> 01:03:51.720
It was so bizarre.

1254
01:03:51.720 --> 01:03:52.880
And you guys, you know what?

1255
01:03:52.880 --> 01:03:55.320
Really, even into being a leader

1256
01:03:55.320 --> 01:03:57.600
and being even married to my current husband

1257
01:03:57.600 --> 01:04:00.320
for the last 15 years, I still had that soul tie.

1258
01:04:00.320 --> 01:04:02.360
I didn't know it was a soul tie

1259
01:04:02.360 --> 01:04:04.720
because I wasn't fantasizing about them sexually

1260
01:04:04.720 --> 01:04:05.600
or anything like that.

1261
01:04:05.600 --> 01:04:08.440
I just knew that I was going to see them.

1262
01:04:08.440 --> 01:04:09.640
I knew that I was, you know,

1263
01:04:09.640 --> 01:04:10.640
I knew they were going to call

1264
01:04:10.640 --> 01:04:13.280
or they were going to reach out and see how I was doing.

1265
01:04:13.280 --> 01:04:16.080
But I will tell you a mutual friend of both of us,

1266
01:04:16.080 --> 01:04:17.800
I ran into that person.

1267
01:04:17.800 --> 01:04:20.320
I talked to this mutual friend and they said,

1268
01:04:20.320 --> 01:04:24.440
hey, you know, so-and-so's obsessed with you, right?

1269
01:04:24.440 --> 01:04:26.720
And I was like, what?

1270
01:04:26.720 --> 01:04:28.480
And they're like, yeah, this person,

1271
01:04:28.480 --> 01:04:30.960
my, this former boyfriend is a soldier.

1272
01:04:30.960 --> 01:04:33.960
And they told me that he was carrying a picture of me

1273
01:04:33.960 --> 01:04:37.160
in his helmet when he was at, you know,

1274
01:04:37.160 --> 01:04:40.240
in Afghanistan, in Iraq.

1275
01:04:40.240 --> 01:04:44.240
The problem is, is that he has a wife and family nowadays

1276
01:04:44.240 --> 01:04:46.920
and he's carrying my picture in his helmet

1277
01:04:46.920 --> 01:04:47.920
with their pictures.

1278
01:04:47.920 --> 01:04:50.120
Can you imagine if he got killed on the battlefield,

1279
01:04:50.920 --> 01:04:52.000
having his personal effects sent home

1280
01:04:52.000 --> 01:04:54.400
and my picture being among those pictures?

1281
01:04:54.400 --> 01:04:57.240
When I found that out, I sought the Lord immediately.

1282
01:04:57.240 --> 01:04:59.920
I was like, God, this is not just like a.

1283
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.940
Oh, Hey, you know, we're, you know, we're somehow connected like telepathically,

1284
01:05:06.060 --> 01:05:07.200
like, I didn't know what it was.

1285
01:05:07.920 --> 01:05:08.180
Okay.

1286
01:05:08.180 --> 01:05:13.380
I didn't have the kind of security clearance in the spirit as I do now.

1287
01:05:13.540 --> 01:05:18.540
And so years ago, God showed me that it was a soul tie and that I needed to break it.

1288
01:05:18.540 --> 01:05:19.200
And you know what?

1289
01:05:19.680 --> 01:05:21.860
I don't think about that person anymore at all.

1290
01:05:22.340 --> 01:05:24.700
And I don't think that person thinks about me.

1291
01:05:24.700 --> 01:05:27.740
Cause you know what, when I broke the soul tie, it set them free too.

1292
01:05:27.740 --> 01:05:30.320
Does that make sense?

1293
01:05:30.840 --> 01:05:32.720
I'm the spiritual authority in the relationship.

1294
01:05:32.720 --> 01:05:34.200
I don't even know if they know Jesus.

1295
01:05:34.520 --> 01:05:37.640
I broke the soul tie and it's severed.

1296
01:05:37.880 --> 01:05:40.400
And when it's severed, they get to go free too.

1297
01:05:40.440 --> 01:05:44.520
They don't have to sit around thinking about someone that's not their wife or

1298
01:05:44.520 --> 01:05:47.660
their children either, because that's not healthy for anybody.

1299
01:05:48.680 --> 01:05:48.880
All right.

1300
01:05:48.880 --> 01:05:49.560
Good stuff.

1301
01:05:50.120 --> 01:05:52.480
Everyone feeling good about doing these prayers now.

1302
01:05:52.920 --> 01:05:56.900
And then, like I said, if you need to, if you need to turn off your camera, you

1303
01:05:56.900 --> 01:06:02.240
can, I want you to really listen to what Holy spirit is saying to you when you.

1304
01:06:02.880 --> 01:06:04.240
Pray these prayers.

1305
01:06:04.800 --> 01:06:05.160
Okay.

1306
01:06:05.440 --> 01:06:08.120
So we're going to start with a non-sexual soul tie prayer.

1307
01:06:08.180 --> 01:06:10.680
This is for anything, anything that's non-sexual.

1308
01:06:11.160 --> 01:06:12.840
Let's go ahead and pray this prayer.

1309
01:06:13.120 --> 01:06:18.200
You can pray it with me and I will also put it in your groups so that

1310
01:06:18.200 --> 01:06:19.880
you can pray it yourself later.

1311
01:06:21.080 --> 01:06:21.320
All right.

1312
01:06:21.320 --> 01:06:22.700
In Jesus name.

1313
01:06:25.340 --> 01:06:28.540
In Jesus name, we break all connection.

1314
01:06:30.060 --> 01:06:33.620
You break all connection to, and then you're just going to put that person,

1315
01:06:33.620 --> 01:06:36.780
that place, that thing, that community, whatever Holy spirit's been

1316
01:06:36.780 --> 01:06:39.580
bringing up in the spirit to you.

1317
01:06:40.220 --> 01:06:47.460
In Jesus name, I break any connection of mine to that in the soul

1318
01:06:47.460 --> 01:06:50.260
spirit realm, that's not of God.

1319
01:06:51.820 --> 01:06:56.060
I sever it right now by the blood of Jesus Christ, by the sword of the

1320
01:06:56.060 --> 01:06:57.380
spirit, which is the word of God.

1321
01:06:58.020 --> 01:07:03.620
And by the power of Holy spirit, I command all parts of their soul that's

1322
01:07:03.620 --> 01:07:11.460
been attached to mine to be released, to be released back to them, cleansed

1323
01:07:11.460 --> 01:07:20.600
in the blood of Jesus and free from any demonic interference, I command

1324
01:07:20.600 --> 01:07:26.500
any spirits that are not the Holy spirit that are attached to me or came

1325
01:07:26.500 --> 01:07:36.460
to me through this bond to go to Jesus, to his footstool and never to return to me.

1326
01:07:41.140 --> 01:07:47.820
I asked God for a wall of fire around my soul, my spirit and my body.

1327
01:07:48.600 --> 01:07:57.280
So nothing from that trauma, that situation, that event, that person

1328
01:07:57.660 --> 01:08:04.600
continues to be attached to my life or to my soul or to my heart.

1329
01:08:10.000 --> 01:08:13.980
I call back all parts of my heart and my soul.

1330
01:08:13.980 --> 01:08:17.160
That's been linked to these people in these situations.

1331
01:08:18.819 --> 01:08:25.560
Cleanse in the blood of Jesus and free from all demonic activity and interference.

1332
01:08:26.859 --> 01:08:31.800
They are free and I am free in Jesus name.

1333
01:08:40.080 --> 01:08:42.880
All right, let's do that breaking of sexual soul ties.

1334
01:08:42.880 --> 01:08:45.359
Now, once again, I will be sharing these prayers with you guys.

1335
01:08:45.500 --> 01:08:47.979
You guys can do this in the privacy of your own homes, just

1336
01:08:47.979 --> 01:08:49.420
with Holy spirit as your guide.

1337
01:08:51.560 --> 01:08:56.819
God, thank you that you created us to connect with others.

1338
01:09:00.560 --> 01:09:09.100
I do not desire any unhealthy connection or ties in the name of Jesus Christ.

1339
01:09:10.100 --> 01:09:16.479
I confess my sexual sin of blank with blank.

1340
01:09:18.880 --> 01:09:24.060
You can fill in anything here of watching pornography of a certain fantasy that you

1341
01:09:24.060 --> 01:09:30.500
have of a certain person that you had sex with out of covenant, maybe even a

1342
01:09:30.500 --> 01:09:33.640
certain kind of sexual shame that you have, that you did in covenant.

1343
01:09:33.640 --> 01:09:38.020
A lot of married people have some freaky sex and it's caused you a lot of shame.

1344
01:09:38.020 --> 01:09:39.000
And that's not of God.

1345
01:09:40.020 --> 01:09:40.520
Okay.

1346
01:09:40.560 --> 01:09:42.960
The marriage bed being undefiled does not mean that.

1347
01:09:43.560 --> 01:09:43.920
Okay.

1348
01:09:43.920 --> 01:09:48.479
Intimacy is a connection of mind, body, and spirit.

1349
01:09:48.520 --> 01:09:52.960
And a lot of times people take all that pornography stuff into the marriage bed

1350
01:09:52.960 --> 01:09:55.480
with them and they call it good sex.

1351
01:09:55.960 --> 01:09:59.360
Um, so you can confess the sexual sin of blank with blank.

1352
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:03.640
Blank, whatever it is that Holy Spirit's bringing up

1353
01:10:03.640 --> 01:10:06.840
that's causing you shame, it's holding you back.

1354
01:10:10.040 --> 01:10:11.440
You still think about it

1355
01:10:11.440 --> 01:10:14.480
anytime you're in any kind of sexual situation

1356
01:10:14.480 --> 01:10:15.960
that comes into your mind.

1357
01:10:17.280 --> 01:10:19.760
Please forgive me for blank.

1358
01:10:21.040 --> 01:10:26.040
I forgive myself and blank for being involved.

1359
01:10:30.960 --> 01:10:36.040
I accept your forgiveness of my sin

1360
01:10:36.040 --> 01:10:38.320
and your complete restoration

1361
01:10:41.000 --> 01:10:44.360
to my sexual identity in Jesus name.

1362
01:10:52.760 --> 01:10:53.880
Yes.

1363
01:11:00.000 --> 01:11:00.840
Yes.

1364
01:11:07.320 --> 01:11:08.160
All right.

1365
01:11:08.160 --> 01:11:11.280
For those of you that have been sexually violated,

1366
01:11:11.280 --> 01:11:15.480
ladies, rape, incest, any of those things, gentlemen,

1367
01:11:15.480 --> 01:11:18.800
any of you, any of you that had a very traumatic

1368
01:11:18.800 --> 01:11:21.920
first experience, first sexual experience

1369
01:11:21.920 --> 01:11:24.600
when you lost what we call our virginity,

1370
01:11:26.040 --> 01:11:28.880
any of you that had that kind of traumatic experience

1371
01:11:28.880 --> 01:11:31.080
or if it was just not in covenant,

1372
01:11:31.080 --> 01:11:33.120
it wasn't, you know, it wasn't,

1373
01:11:33.120 --> 01:11:35.600
it was a bad traumatic experience.

1374
01:11:35.600 --> 01:11:38.080
You know, oftentimes in that first sexual experience,

1375
01:11:38.080 --> 01:11:39.880
whether it's the man or the woman,

1376
01:11:39.880 --> 01:11:42.720
the woman bleeds, right?

1377
01:11:42.720 --> 01:11:43.560
Why is that?

1378
01:11:43.560 --> 01:11:46.640
Because that's a blood covenant that's being created.

1379
01:11:46.640 --> 01:11:48.400
A lot of people don't think of it that way.

1380
01:11:48.400 --> 01:11:50.080
A lot of people lost their virginity

1381
01:11:50.080 --> 01:11:52.840
in the back of a Subaru, amen?

1382
01:11:52.840 --> 01:11:54.240
With someone that they're not even

1383
01:11:54.240 --> 01:11:55.920
in relationship with anymore.

1384
01:11:55.920 --> 01:11:56.760
I'm raising my hand

1385
01:11:56.760 --> 01:11:58.640
because I lost my virginity in the back of a Subaru.

1386
01:11:59.400 --> 01:12:00.240
You know how small Subarus are?

1387
01:12:00.240 --> 01:12:02.040
Not a good thing, all right?

1388
01:12:02.040 --> 01:12:04.800
There was nothing covenant about that experience,

1389
01:12:04.800 --> 01:12:08.120
but a blood covenant was created because, you know,

1390
01:12:08.120 --> 01:12:12.200
I was a virgin and that person also happened to be a virgin.

1391
01:12:12.200 --> 01:12:14.520
And so the bottom line is,

1392
01:12:14.520 --> 01:12:16.360
is that there was a blood covenant created

1393
01:12:16.360 --> 01:12:19.400
because most women when they have intercourse

1394
01:12:19.400 --> 01:12:23.160
the first time they do bleed and that is a blood covenant.

1395
01:12:23.160 --> 01:12:27.400
So let's break that memory of that situation

1396
01:12:27.400 --> 01:12:29.640
and also that covenant that was created.

1397
01:12:29.640 --> 01:12:30.480
Because a lot of times you guys,

1398
01:12:30.480 --> 01:12:33.000
you know how people say you can never forget your first love

1399
01:12:33.000 --> 01:12:35.680
which usually means your first sex act.

1400
01:12:35.680 --> 01:12:37.840
The first cut is the deepest kind of thing.

1401
01:12:37.840 --> 01:12:39.320
A lot of times you can't forget them

1402
01:12:39.320 --> 01:12:43.520
because you formed a blood covenant with them, okay?

1403
01:12:43.520 --> 01:12:46.640
You're attached to them in this blood covenant situation.

1404
01:12:46.640 --> 01:12:48.200
It wasn't even a great relationship.

1405
01:12:48.200 --> 01:12:49.280
It was never a great relationship.

1406
01:12:49.280 --> 01:12:50.920
For some people it was a one night stand.

1407
01:12:50.920 --> 01:12:52.600
It was someone you don't even know

1408
01:12:52.600 --> 01:12:55.080
and you're sitting fantasizing about, you know,

1409
01:12:55.080 --> 01:12:58.320
attached to them, wishing that they loved you back

1410
01:12:58.320 --> 01:13:00.080
or wishing that something could have happened there

1411
01:13:00.080 --> 01:13:02.080
simply because you formed this covenant.

1412
01:13:02.080 --> 01:13:03.560
So let's break that together.

1413
01:13:04.640 --> 01:13:08.360
In the name of Jesus Christ and by the power of his blood,

1414
01:13:08.360 --> 01:13:11.440
we break the blood covenant with blank.

1415
01:13:14.240 --> 01:13:18.320
This covenant no longer has any hold on me.

1416
01:13:25.880 --> 01:13:26.720
All right.

1417
01:13:28.920 --> 01:13:30.160
I wasn't gonna do this one.

1418
01:13:30.160 --> 01:13:31.840
It's gonna be in your notes, but I'm gonna do it

1419
01:13:31.840 --> 01:13:34.400
because I feel Holy Spirit really prompting me to do it.

1420
01:13:34.400 --> 01:13:35.880
So here's an add-on.

1421
01:13:35.880 --> 01:13:40.160
If the sexual covenant that you had, the sexual soul tie,

1422
01:13:40.160 --> 01:13:42.000
I should say it was not a covenant, okay?

1423
01:13:42.000 --> 01:13:43.720
The sexual soul tie that you had

1424
01:13:43.720 --> 01:13:47.680
with someone was actually adulterous as well.

1425
01:13:47.680 --> 01:13:50.680
You were sleeping with someone else's husband or wife

1426
01:13:50.680 --> 01:13:54.520
or you were married and someone was sleeping with you.

1427
01:13:54.520 --> 01:13:56.080
That wasn't your spouse.

1428
01:13:56.920 --> 01:13:59.160
Because of the bitterness and the jealousy

1429
01:13:59.160 --> 01:14:01.800
that happens as a result of those types of things,

1430
01:14:01.800 --> 01:14:03.800
especially if you went on to marry that person

1431
01:14:03.800 --> 01:14:05.600
and now there's a blended family situation,

1432
01:14:05.600 --> 01:14:07.520
everyone hates each other, right?

1433
01:14:07.520 --> 01:14:09.720
Because of the bitterness and jealousy that entered in

1434
01:14:09.720 --> 01:14:11.920
because of that adulterous situation,

1435
01:14:11.920 --> 01:14:14.120
I want us to break that

1436
01:14:14.120 --> 01:14:16.120
because I'm feeling prompted to go here.

1437
01:14:18.400 --> 01:14:19.440
I know we're going a little long.

1438
01:14:19.440 --> 01:14:21.720
If you have to leave, no problem, okay?

1439
01:14:21.720 --> 01:14:23.560
You can watch it and replay.

1440
01:14:23.560 --> 01:14:24.520
All right, here we go.

1441
01:14:24.520 --> 01:14:26.800
In Jesus, in the name of Jesus

1442
01:14:26.800 --> 01:14:28.560
and by the power of his blood,

1443
01:14:29.520 --> 01:14:33.320
we break the curse of bitterness or jealousy

1444
01:14:33.320 --> 01:14:36.160
that has entered into our lives

1445
01:14:36.160 --> 01:14:40.840
because of the adulterous relationship with blank.

1446
01:14:42.880 --> 01:14:46.440
This curse no longer has a hold upon me,

1447
01:14:46.440 --> 01:14:49.720
my children or my children's children.

1448
01:14:49.720 --> 01:14:55.720
I am forgiven and I release forgiveness for blank.

1449
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:06.160
for whoever that other person was okay even if you were the one that was cheated on i really

1450
01:15:06.160 --> 01:15:12.160
want to encourage you to pray that prayer in jesus name and by the power of his blood i break the

1451
01:15:12.160 --> 01:15:19.680
curse of bitterness or jealousy that has entered me because of the adulterous situation with blank

1452
01:15:21.040 --> 01:15:27.520
this curse no longer has a hold upon me or my children or my children's children i am forgiven

1453
01:15:27.600 --> 01:15:30.320
and i forgive blank

1454
01:15:38.080 --> 01:15:42.160
you guys you know if you break those those unhealthy soul ties you forgive through

1455
01:15:42.160 --> 01:15:46.880
forgiveness with your family just like me you can see your family be completely restored

1456
01:15:47.680 --> 01:15:52.400
a lot of times your parents are tied to those old counterfeit personalities of

1457
01:15:52.400 --> 01:15:56.960
being an addict or being an abuser and because you haven't released them and haven't forgiven

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01:15:56.960 --> 01:16:02.320
them and haven't broken that tie to that trauma you know they're stuck there and you're stuck

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there and when you release it and you forgive even if you never even say it to them like in

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real life you know maybe you don't even say it to them they have like a new release that

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they didn't have before and things start happening oh monica that's good good i'm

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glad someone needed that because i knew that i was supposed to say that one okay

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kim's like oh lord a subaru yeah

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oh thank you for jesus where are these accusers of yours oh love it okay awesome all right and

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last but not least and like i said there's more on here there's one kind of for every occasion and so

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i will share these notes you guys don't be don't be stalking me for these notes i will get them up

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as soon as i can all right here's the divine exchange so we're letting go of everything from

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2021 and in the past and we want that divine exchange in order for us to receive what god

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has for us we have to make room for it and we also have to let go so that we can grab a hold

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we got to let go so we can grab a hold very very important so we're going to do this divine

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exchange right now all right so right now i want you to take a minute close your eyes i want you

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to ask holy spirit to show you what you need to give up from 2021 and before what in the past you

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need to give up and you can do this prayer yourself in the privacy of your home and he can

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even tell you more things but right now so we can do it together as a as a group i want you to pray

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and ask holy spirit what what do i need to give up in this exchange tonight for so i can get

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something better what is it is it a person is it a job is it a community is it an accident or

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event or a trauma that happened that you need to finally let go of is it someone you've been trying

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01:17:59.280 --> 01:18:04.000
to save and help maybe it's a parent or a child a grown child that you've been trying to continue

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to be the hero of the story for you need to finally just put them on your jesus cares board

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and release them to the lord go ahead and get that right now in your heart

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all right now we're going to pray this prayer jesus i give to you blank

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i put them it whatever it is i put it in your hands

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and then i want you to literally just lift it up to him right now i put it in your hands

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you're giving it to him just do a prophetic activation i'm giving it to you right now

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and then when you feel like you really have released it to him you can put your hands down

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and then say jesus what will you give me in exchange for this

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you just gave something that you've been carrying holding on to

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trying to fix trying to help something that's been taking up space in your heart

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jesus i give this to you i give this person i give this dream this prophetic word that never

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came to pass that i need to just surrender right now so i can get a new one whatever it is i give

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it to you and then what will you give me in exchange going into 2022 what can i have in

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exchange if you guys want to share what you gave or what you got in exchange please put that in the

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chat that's always really eye-opening for a lot of people

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yes yes yes yes love it love it

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yes yes justin that's good that's making room it's making

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space. God has good things for you. Yes. May. Awesome. Lots of people giving up their formers,

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their was bins and was wives letting them go. Finally, even though you've been divorced for

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01:20:11.520 --> 01:20:18.720
a long time, just letting go, letting it go. Letting go of the idea that they ruined your

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life and they robbed you the best years of your life. Let go of that. That's a lie.

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The best is always yet to come. You're a kingdom citizen. There's always more.

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There's always more. You got to make room for it. Yes, Sandy. Yes, Sandy. Yes. Yes. Love it.

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Love, love, love, love. All right. So we can forgive, but we can't forget, right?

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But God can forget. Can't he? The way that he forgives us, he forgets. The Bible says that he

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casts our sin as far as from the East to the West in the sea of forgetfulness, it even says.

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So I'm going to pray a prayer over you that I believe we can supernaturally not be haunted.

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When are we going to stop letting what hurt us haunt us? We can't be haunted by these memories

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forever and ever. The Bible says when your heart condemns you, he is greater than your heart.

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God doesn't want us to live with a heart of condemnation that even though we've forgiven,

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01:21:11.520 --> 01:21:15.520
even though we've done this work, we continue to bring it back up to ourselves,

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01:21:15.520 --> 01:21:20.240
continue to remember the memory or the feeling that we went through in those situations.

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So I believe that we can, we can, um, forget here's some scriptures for, I will demonstrate

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my mercy to them and we'll forgive their evil deeds and never remember again, their sins,

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01:21:31.680 --> 01:21:37.760
Hebrews eight 12. So God, if God can forget, we can forget as well because we've been created in

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his image. And so here's a prayer that we are going to pray and you can put whatever painful

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situation that continues to haunt you, whatever continues to condemn you and convict you,

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whatever the enemy tries to use against you, whether it was something someone did to you or

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something that you've done to others, put it in this blank tonight. I command all remembrance

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of blank to be gone from my memory in the name of Jesus and by the blood of Jesus Christ.

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Thank you, Jesus, for forgiving and forgetting my sins.

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And thank you for giving me the ability to forget and forgive my own sins and the sins of others.

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Remove all memories of this situation from the cellular level of my body in Jesus name.

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Thank you, Jesus, for healing my memories and giving me rest in my soul, my mind, my will,

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and my emotions and in my spirit in Jesus name.

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I really feel in my heart that some of you are going to stop having bad dreams after you pray

1525
01:22:46.000 --> 01:22:52.800
that prayer. You have nightmares every once in a while, and you're still in that situation that

1526
01:22:52.800 --> 01:22:58.080
happened. You dream about it. You dream about what could have happened differently, or you just have

1527
01:22:58.080 --> 01:23:02.720
a straight up nightmare that you're still stuck in that thing that is still happening in real time,

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even though it's not. All right, thank you, Jesus. Father, we thank you for this time together.

1529
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We pray that everything that is of you, everything that is birthed of heaven, that's authentic,

1530
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that's in alignment with your word and your spirit, that it be sealed into our spirits in

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Jesus name. We thank you for this time together. We thank you for the love that you have for us.

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We thank you that the best is yet to come and that you have so much more for us.

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You want to do better things for us and with us than we would ever, ever imagine to do for

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01:23:33.760 --> 01:23:39.280
ourselves. Lord, we thank you, God, that you had a dream, and it's us, and we thank you, God, that the

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best is always yet to come. Help us to walk into 2022 with a clear heart and a clear conscience,

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knowing that you have forgiven us of all of our debts, and we can freely forgive those that owe us.

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And with a heart that is expecting restitution, that you will restore what has been stolen and

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what has been lost, and that you will give us back even better than what has been taken,

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and that you will do it speedily. Let your word be done in Jesus name. Amen.

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All right, guys, thanks for coming. I know we're a little bit over. If you have any questions,

1541
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you can put them in the comments of this video stream when it gets posted in your group.

1542
01:24:18.480 --> 01:24:22.000
Just put any questions that you have about anything that we talked about tonight in the

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01:24:22.000 --> 01:24:27.200
comments of the video, and me or one of the peer coaches will answer those questions.

1544
01:24:28.560 --> 01:24:34.640
I believe that you should have a heart that is free, free, free, free after this session. And

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like I said, I'll give you the notes so that you can do some more of that work

1546
01:24:39.360 --> 01:24:45.280
in the privacy of your home with the Holy Spirit. All right? All right, happy new year. We're going

1547
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to be going live on New Year's Eve from the event that we're going to be at in Baltimore,

1548
01:24:50.000 --> 01:24:54.320
and so we'll see you then, and that's just in a couple days. Also, there's rumors that for those

1549
01:24:54.320 --> 01:24:58.400
of you that have nothing to do on New Year's, that we might have a game night. So if you're

1550
01:24:58.400 --> 01:24:59.840
interested in that...

1551
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:04.080
Um, just stay tuned because we'll be giving you more information about that as well.

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All right.

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Love you all.

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Bless you.

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Good night.

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Bye-bye.