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is joining us for the first time tonight. Anyone joining us?

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You've never been here for a live session before. Okay, see

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a couple was Frenchie. I think you raise your hand. Natasha. Is

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it Nasha? Nasha? I'm not sure how to say your name. We have

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several here tonight. All right, Anne Marie, Natalia, Brenda.

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And I know we did this several times today, you might want to

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send me phonetically Shari. Did I get it? Did I do it? I feel

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accomplished. This is great. Y'all we were working on this in

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the afternoon session. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. So glad y'all

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are here. My name is Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the heart

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work coaches in the community. Just love what God is doing.

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Y'all will see me around all over the place at different

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times. God's on the move. And we're excited to see what he's

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going to continue to do in and through Jackie and David and the

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team and this movement. And guess what that includes all of

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you know, you're all a part of our family. And we're so excited

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to have you here. Welcome to our new ladies. I want to encourage

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you all I always do housekeeping and I'm going to try to do this

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quicker than I did this afternoon. But the couple of

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things I have for you today are this I put up in all your

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groups, a post this afternoon that has a graphic that says

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freedom on it. I want to encourage you all if you haven't

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listened to the supernatural Saturday from this last

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Saturday, to listen to that as soon as you can. I know you guys

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have a lot of coursework and I don't want it to overwhelm you

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but it's so powerful. And just the truth in it about what does

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it really mean to live free. It's going to change your life

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and change your heart if you allow it. So what I want you to

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do is I want you to post in the comments of those posts. Like

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what is God saying to you through that? Like where does he

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want to help you step into more freedom in this next you can

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even just do the next week for right now just right now. You

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know, sometimes we stop and we don't move forward because we

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just think of things way too big and overwhelming way too far in

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the future. So let's just what is he saying to you right now?

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Okay. All right, the next two real quick things. So one of

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the things I said this afternoon, I want to reiterate

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it tonight and no one just so y'all know no one's ever in

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trouble. I always feel like in groups, you know, you never know

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what people come in with in the past and the heartwork group

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people might feel bad if their post gets taken down or if we

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ask you to shift something in a post or and what I mean by that

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sometimes we might ask you to kind of switch up the way you're

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saying something because we have to keep in consideration the

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whole community. So what I mentioned this afternoon is if

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y'all ever do a post with any kind of outside content, so

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books you've read by other people's sermons by other

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people, all that kind of stuff, we're going to remove that from

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the group or not approve it. So I just want you guys to know on

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the front end. We just don't approve that stuff into our

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community because our a our team doesn't have time to watch all

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those sermons read all those books, even if we've read them

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before. We have to make sure everything that's in this

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community and this group aligns with what we're teaching. And

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what we believe God has called us to care for and steward

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really well. And so some of those things may look and sound

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similar to what we say, especially the ones that we find

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are the marriage memes or, you know, the spirit mate or looking

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for a husband or what does it mean to be a good wife and, and

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some of those things are really great. But y'all some of the

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things that still sound really good to you actually have a lot

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of religions to lend them. And so that's, again, just we just

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are really guarding the community and what is posted in

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here. And so want you guys to know that on the front end. So

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if you can just refrain from doing that during heartwork, and

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here's why as well, when y'all come into this intensive

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heartwork time, it's already a lot of content and material. And

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so when you start adding other content material from other

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places, it's just going to make it harder for you to just focus

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on the heartwork and what God has you here to do during this

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time. So I want to encourage you focus on the heartwork book,

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focus on the videos, focus on the live sessions that we're

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doing, because it's all going to bring this culmination and this

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convergence together and help God accelerate your supernatural

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healing process while you're here. And then post in the group

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just we don't we also don't approve any outside social media

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posts, even ones that might look funny. We just we just don't

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approve any of that in here. So just want to let you guys know

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that now we're going to pray and we're going to get rocking and

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rolling tonight. I'm so excited for what God is going to do. We

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had a great session this afternoon, and I believe he's

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going to show up and do even more of what he did this

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afternoon. Father, thank you so much for your incredible grace.

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God, we thank you that you are

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are a good father. I thank you that you would just continue to

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help us to Yes, Lord, that you would remove any filters, any

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broken mindsets, broken hearts that lead us to believe lies of

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the enemy. This evening, you were just reminded me Lord of

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the word, your word that says that the enemy, the devil, he

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prowls around like a lion, seeking those in whom he can

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devour. So Lord, I thank you that even though he appears to

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be like a lion, he's not a lion, because there's one lion, there's

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a lion of the tribe of Judah, who's all powerful. And that's

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you God. And so Lord, we just thank you that you would reveal

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things for healing tonight that you would bring revelation and

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insight where it's needed. That you would just silence the voice

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of the enemy that's been just sometimes comes in so sneaky and

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so silent that we don't even subtly we don't recognize even

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the ways we still believe his voice more than yours. Where we

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just ask you to also remove layers of religion layers of

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guilt, shame, condemnation that's been put on us by other

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people by ourselves and by the wounds and the trauma that we've

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experienced and the lies we believed as a result. Yes, Lord,

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just a reminder to or we thank you for upgrades. We thank you

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for revelation and healing and redemption and restitution. We

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thank you for this rebuilding phase that we're in this time of

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preparation and anointing just like Esther who you called and

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set her apart for such a time as this and I believe and declare

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that over every one of these ladies tonight help them to

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hear help them to believe help them to yes receive the truth

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that they are a princess in preparation that you're

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preparing them to receive the fullness of your your promises

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for them which includes the love story you have for them in

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Jesus name. Amen and amen. Yes, Lord. Yes, Lord. Alright, so we

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are going to talk a little bit tonight about it touches on this

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in your week two. So some of you that are further along you might

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have heard some of this but we're going to we're going to do

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some similar stuff. We're going to do some different stuff. But

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it's talking about the broken heart. And what is the broken

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heart? The broken heart is a liar. It's a puzzle. It's a

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pretender. So why do we need to understand these things because

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when our hearts are broken, it's full of lies. And so a lot of

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times we're receiving information. I'm always through

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those filters. You know, the puzzle, we're trying to figure

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it out. We don't know and we don't understand and, and all

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these things that are confusing. And so I want to explain just

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real quick when we are redeemed, redeemed at conversion, our

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spirit is redeemed. As soon as we accept Jesus Christ as our

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Lord and Savior into our hearts into our lives, our spirit right

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then is converted. It's redeemed. And God is doing a

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work in us. But the other thing is the gap that we experience.

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So our soul, our souls on the other side of that, and there's

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a gap in between. Our soul is made up with our mind, our will,

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our emotions. And as the Bible declares, it's deceitfully

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wicked. Are we wicked? Maybe not. But I think every day we're

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shedding our flesh a little bit more for if we're following a

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pursuit after the Father, after Jesus Christ, and after the Holy

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Spirit, every day, we can humble ourselves and say, Lord, is

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there anything in me that doesn't look like you? If there

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is, help me to see it helped me to come out of that. And you

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all a lot of that is the lies that we believe about ourselves

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about other people about God himself. And so that gap is the

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sanctification process. We all ever heard the word

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sanctification. That's the process in between that

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redemptive, redeemed spirit at conversion, and the soul that's

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deceitfully wicked that we need to be set free from and the

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healing that that is needed. So that redeeming that scripture

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that talks about that we would be transformed by the renewing

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of our minds that all things would pass away and behold,

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everything would become new. Well, that has to do with that

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that process in between. So every day, you know, again, if

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we're if we're saying, Lord, I just yesterday or even this

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morning, so I want to encourage you all just to be in the

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moment, you know, just in each moment, like, Lord, this

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morning, the enemy was attacking me as soon as I woke up. And,

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and man, I caught myself way down the road with him believe

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in the lie that I'm never going

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to amount to anything, or that I'm never pretty enough, or I'm never going to be free enough,

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or I'm just too much of a mess even for God to fix. Y'all, I'm just, I'm just putting out there

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what Holy Spirit's putting on my spirit. That didn't really happen to me this morning, but

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sometimes y'all, that's how it works. We put our feet on the floor before they even get there,

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the enemy's talking and he's talking and he's talking, and sometimes he's talking so loud

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and so quick that we don't even recognize that it's him, because we're so used to these thoughts

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and these lies that we've been believing. So, tonight we're going to unpack some of that a

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little bit. We're going to help you come out of that place of believing the lies, and hopefully

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that you'll begin to discern the difference between God's voice, the enemy's voice, and even

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your own voice that's at play at times as well. Proverbs 4, 23, and the ESV version says this,

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keep your heart with all diligence, for from it, from it, excuse me, flows the springs of life.

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Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flows the springs of life. Y'all,

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vigilance means we're always watching. We're always in, we don't have to be afraid,

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there's a difference. Beware and pay attention. But here's the thing, keep your heart,

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keep your heart, what does that mean? To keep your heart means this, to guard it,

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to watch over it. Yes, Lord. Just like if you are a mama and your baby's sleeping,

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and sometimes for those that have been moms, or even maybe you have moms in your life that you

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know they've done this, or they just sit and they watch over their baby while it's sleeping.

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To protect sometimes, to pray over them. That's how God wants us to keep our heart, that we would,

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that we would watch over it and protect it, that we would observe the things that are going into

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it, that we would preserve it as well. And y'all, here's the thing, it also says to guard it from

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dangers. Again, we don't need to live a life of fear, because fear has to do with torment,

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and perfect love is what, that's what casts it all out. That's what casts fear out of our lives.

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Perfect love is the love of the Father himself. But to guard it means like, we're not letting

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everything and its brother, if you will, we're not letting everything that the world sends our way,

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everything that even friends and family and TV shows and books and all these things,

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even sometimes at church. I hate to say it, my husband and I pastor a church,

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but the reality is this, is churches, just like everywhere else, are full of broken people.

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We are, we are, we're full of broken people. Now, praise Jesus, some of those broken people

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are a little further along in their sanctification and their healing process

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than others, but there's no guarantee that just because someone's in church

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that they're healed, y'all, that includes us. All right, so I want you to consider like,

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what have you been allowing into your heart? Even today, even today, what have you been allowing

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into your heart? What have you been meditating on? The heart itself is a womb. So if you think

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about a womb, that's the protective place of the baby, right? That's where that baby's growing,

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that's where it's getting nurtured, it's getting fed until the time of birth.

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So everything that gets planted into our hearts is going to reproduce something.

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Proverbs 23.7 says, and this is the amplified version, it says,

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for as a person thinks in their heart, so are they.

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This is why it's so important for you to even, even literally, you put an outfit on and you start

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criticizing yourself, or you look in the mirror and you automatically have these negative thoughts,

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right, again, right out of the gate. This is how it goes. And we just, we just go down that trail

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and just criticize and put ourselves down. We, all that stuff's coming from somewhere.

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As a person thinks in his heart, so is he. So if we're saying negative things over ourselves,

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and we're allowing these tapes to play over and over and over,

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typically that's rooted in pain and wounds somewhere.

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Some of you are saying things over yourself and you're aligning with lies because someone else

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said those things over you, or sometimes life is just really hard. And then it's really hard again.

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And then it's really hard again. And some of y'all are facing things.

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in your life and the enemy is trying to destroy you.

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Some of y'all think it's just like, well, God's just,

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I guess he's just gonna allow me to suffer forever.

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Well, you have an enemy who does not want you to thrive.

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So guess what?

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When you start moving forward, y'all,

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sometimes it's just the enemy trying to oppress you

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and keep you from healing and moving anywhere

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out of the place that you've been.

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Because guess what?

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He knows that if you get set free,

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guess what's gonna happen?

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Other people are gonna get set free.

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Just like I come on here now and I tell you things

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that God has set me free from,

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y'all think I didn't have to go through some stuff

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and fight the devil and war in the spirit.

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We don't war against flesh and blood.

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We war against principalities and powers

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and the rulers of darkness of the air.

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because guess what?

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Jesus already came and he already won the victory for you.

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And so what Jackie talked about on Saturday

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is aligning with that,

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aligning with that and continuing to allow God

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to take you where he wants to take you

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and to help you get there.

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So the flies, lies and counterfeit lives

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that we've been living into,

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this is all coming out of that broken heart

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that's deceived by the lies and the puzzles

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and the confusion.

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And so what happens is when we don't even recognize

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the lies, y'all, it's just,

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we call them squatters in this community.

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We allow them to stay there.

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So if the Bible talks a lot about,

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sorry, y'all have this hair stuck.

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The Bible talks a lot about how the heart is like a home.

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So whatever we allow to stay in there, it's like a squatter.

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So if it's good, it's gonna produce life.

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It's gonna produce health.

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It's gonna cause you to flourish.

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But if it's lies and junk and shame and guilt

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and all this stuff,

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it's going to lead to your heart being real cluttered

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and it's gonna make it hard to see yourself

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and other people in life clearly.

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So it's time to evict some things tonight.

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That's what we're gonna do.

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We're gonna serve eviction notices.

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eviction means you're kicking it out

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and you're not letting that sucker come back.

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They don't, you know, the Bible says

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when the enemy gets cast out, guess what, y'all?

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He goes and he tries to find some buddies

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and he comes back.

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He comes back and he tries to see

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if he can get back into that house.

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guess what?

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The healing is what helps you be strong against it

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to resist the lies.

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that's what transforms our mind

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because our heart and our minds are connected.

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So you're gonna stop partnering with these lies tonight.

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That's part of the eviction.

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You're gonna stop coming into agreement with these things

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and just allowing it to rule your day, if you will,

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and rule your life and rule your heart.

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So I'm gonna give you a couple things

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that God spoke to me this morning,

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some lies that I wrote down,

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and there might be some new ones that come up

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as I'm sharing, but these are some things.

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These are some ways that your broken, unhealthy heart

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might be currently lying to you.

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It might be telling you things that you don't want.

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So again, I would talk a little bit about this last week,

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but it could be food,

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overeating when you're sad or you're overwhelmed

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or you're afraid or you're lonely

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and you're eating to fill that void.

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It could be, you know, sex or lusting after things.

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It could be material things.

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It could be, you know, one of the things, interestingly,

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I've had to really watch binge watching TV,

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like when I'm lonely or overwhelmed or sad.

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It's not even bad TV, but just numbing out,

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just numbing out and kind of going into a different place.

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And so it's not bad to take a break, y'all.

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Okay, so there's balance in everything, right?

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Okay, so we're not getting into religion,

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but I just, there's balance.

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So when we feel like something's out of balance,

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that's how we can start to know.

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Okay, so maybe you're thinking life will never change.

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Like I said earlier, some of y'all think

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because life's been hard for a while

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and some of y'all it's been a long while,

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that your life is never gonna be any different.

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And as much as you want to believe that it can be,

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because people are telling you it can be,

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your tapes in your mind are still telling you it can't.

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So why even try?

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Some of y'all are sitting thinking I'm never enough

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or I'm too much.

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Your heart's telling you that you need things

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that you don't need.

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Sometimes that's why.

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to comfort or soothe, it's, you know, I mean, dare I say drugs, dare I say pornography,

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whatever, y'all, this is, I mean, real talk, women struggle with pornography just as much

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as men do.

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And I've learned that more than ever doing coaching in this community.

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And there's no shame.

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I'm just, I'm just a super real person and I want people to get set free.

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So if that's you, you're safe here.

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And God doesn't want you to continue to live a life of isolation and guilt and shame because

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you're caught up in something that was never meant for you.

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Okay.

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Sometimes your heart's telling you, if you had this, you would just be happy.

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Whatever the, this is, what is the, this is that the bigger house?

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Is it the better job?

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Is it the, the promotion?

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I said this afternoon, is it, you know, a baby is it, is it getting married again?

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There's balance.

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I believe that God called you here because he's leading you towards marriage, kingdom,

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family, and marriage for his kingdom purposes, not just for our own purposes, but for his.

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But even those kinds of things, we can get those out of, out of alignment and out of

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balance.

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Maybe you're saying to yourself, I've got this.

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I don't need help from anybody, even though you're here and you know that you need help.

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There's something deep inside of you that's saying, I can't trust anybody.

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So some of you even show up and we're going to encourage you to share in here.

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We're going to show, encourage you to come out of hiding and post in the groups and,

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and talk to each other in these breakouts.

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And some of you will go after that and you'll do it.

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And others will just kind of sit on the edges because there's something in you that just

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tells you that if they really know you, they won't accept you or they won't love you.

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If they know about this sin that you struggle with, they won't accept you because that's

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what the world tells you.

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But I, from as much as I've seen, as many groups, if I, as I've overseen and, and loved

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on y'all, this God's doing something miraculous here.

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And you're in, to the best of my ability, if, if I see anything that I feel is not safe

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for someone, I'm going to, I'm going to take that down and I'm going to lovingly let the

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person know why, but you're safe here.

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Maybe your voice or your lie is that your voice doesn't matter, that what you think

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doesn't count, that you're just better left, like you can be in the room, but I don't want

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to hear you.

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I don't want to hear your thoughts because some of you heard that kind of stuff growing

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up or from your former was bins.

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Maybe your lie is I'm happy being single, or maybe it's, it's just easier to be single.

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Maybe it's, I don't really know if I want to change my life to be married because y'all,

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some people, you know, they get through phase one and phase two, and then they meet someone

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and they get into a level three serious relationship.

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We call it level three exclusive here in this community.

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And then they freak out.

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And some people have gotten all the way to the altar.

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And then they didn't want to allow the person to move into their home.

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What?

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That's some stuff that needed to be dealt with in heartwork.

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So now's the time.

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Now's the time to be fully honest with where you're at and, and let God help you make room,

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make room for what he wants to give you.

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Here's two more for you.

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And then I'm going to get you into breakouts.

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God never comes through for me.

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And here's the other one.

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God is punishing me.

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And that's why I'm not married yet.

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I did something wrong.

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Therefore I'm being punished.

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Oh, this is, that is a lie from the pit of hell.

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I feel the Holy spirit on that.

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So someone needs to receive that.

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You are not being punished.

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The enemy has been trying to hinder and keep the blessing from you.

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No, there's a difference.

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Y'all know it talks in the Bible about the Prince of Persia and how the answer got held up because of the Prince of Persia.

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This is for someone in the Bible, y'all were just like them.

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Do we think that the enemy isn't trying to keep the answer and the blessing from coming?

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He'll do anything you can to keep it from you.

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And if he can get you to defeat your own self, well, then he'll do that.

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But praise God again.

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Jesus already won. He already won the victory for you.

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He already won the victory for you.

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And I don't want to make it sound super simple and easy,

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but y'all just from my experience,

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when I started not only getting all the limiting beliefs and orphan

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mentalities and, and unhealed areas all like out and taken care of,

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then it was like shifting into the thanking God before it even came.

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Someone said earlier today, I almost forgot about this.

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And then I am getting ready to get you into breakouts here.

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Uh, on prayer this morning actually is where it was.

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I was just trying to remember, God, I beg you to do this.

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And I'm not, I'm not, I'm so thankful that people open up and pray, but I want,

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I want you guys to hear something.

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And I know this because God said it to me.

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We don't have to beg.

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Some of y'all need to breathe that y'all.

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Sometimes I just got to breathe in the spirit when he's doing stuff.

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You don't have to beg and please God, please God, please God.

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Y'all I know that's how it feels sometimes. Cause I did it,

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but he's just like daughter. No,

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start thanking me for what I'm already doing.

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Start thanking me. God, thank you so much.

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For healing my heart, for transforming my mind,

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for helping me become a new creature creation in Christ Jesus.

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And thank you father for making room in my heart for my spirit mate.

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Thank you father for helping my spirit mate find me.

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And for helping me find my spirit mate, y'all there's different,

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there's a difference.

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And I know that that comes when we have faith to pray those things.

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So I'm not naive to that,

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but I also believe God can give you the faith in this healing process.

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He can fill your hope tanks so much that it's not fake. It's overflowing

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because he did it in me. So I know he can do it in you. All right, here we go.

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Here's your question. What lies are you evicting today?

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What lies are you going? Like, I want you guys to be thinking about this.

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You can start to just put it in the chat as you're getting ready to go in the

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breakouts. What's a lie that you were believing today or even yesterday,

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something that, that you just realizing you're realizing tonight,

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as I've been talking that you have been thinking about this lie and you've been

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meditating on it and actually believing it and agreeing with it.

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So if there's any of you that have those things,

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go ahead and put those in the chat. I'm going to start to get this breakout ready.

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If you've never done a breakout session, I'm going to encourage you.

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You're going to get in a breakout with probably someone you don't know,

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but everybody's done it before. So I want you to know it's, it's, it's good.

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Some of you get scared and log out when we go into breakouts.

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I really want to encourage you not to do that.

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This is part of coming out of hiding, practicing, talking to these women,

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these sisters in this community,

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we'll get you ready for down the road talking to the men one day.

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Okay. So let's lean into this and see what God wants to do.

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I'm going to put you in there for eight minutes,

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short, brief and powerful. Give that means give everybody a turn to talk.

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If you guys have extra time at the end,

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then you can get to know each other a little bit. Where are you from?

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What's something you like to do? Um, you guys kind of go from there,

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but do the one about the live first.

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And then only if you have extra time, do the other. Okay.

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All right, here we, Oh,

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I got it. Sorry. One other thing.

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All right, there you go.

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All right.

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Then click to join, click to join.

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Olga and Katie, are you all able to, to click to join?

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Okay.

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Oh, that's okay. Um, I might just move.

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Shoot. I don't know if I can send the same room to Katie.

463
00:29:35.960 --> 00:29:38.440
All right. I'm just going to put you in another room and I'll put Jennifer in a

464
00:29:38.440 --> 00:29:39.440
different room too.

465
00:29:43.880 --> 00:29:48.840
You should have it there to click. Okay. There you go. All right.

466
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:15.000
Sorry, ladies, I'm just trying to make sure everyone's situated and then we will pray.

467
00:30:15.000 --> 00:30:23.560
I'm going to read through some of these things that are in the chat, I'm just going to kind

468
00:30:23.560 --> 00:30:29.360
of minister a little bit and then I'll pray some more, but I'm going to pray just as they

469
00:30:29.360 --> 00:30:34.520
begin these conversations, Father, thank you so much for everything you're revealing for

470
00:30:34.520 --> 00:30:39.520
healing tonight, Lord, we thank you that you would just help open our eyes to the lies

471
00:30:39.520 --> 00:30:43.040
that we've been believing, the things that we've been partnering with that don't align

472
00:30:43.040 --> 00:30:48.880
with heaven, that actually cause us to be separated from you, Father.

473
00:30:48.880 --> 00:30:56.680
I thank you that you would just help each woman feel comforted and to hear your heart

474
00:30:56.680 --> 00:31:02.440
and your love for them, that they would, yes, Lord, that you give them a fresh revelation

475
00:31:02.440 --> 00:31:05.960
of how you see them.

476
00:31:05.960 --> 00:31:11.320
We thank you, Lord, that you are working all things together for good, for those who love

477
00:31:11.320 --> 00:31:14.480
you and who live according to your purpose.

478
00:31:14.480 --> 00:31:23.800
And I thank you that you, yes, Lord, yes, Lord, that you come in and redeem, Lord, we

479
00:31:23.800 --> 00:31:30.360
ask you to soften any hardness in our hearts and that you would, you would remove any hardened

480
00:31:30.360 --> 00:31:35.480
hearts, any stony hearts and put within us hearts of flesh that they're soft and pliable

481
00:31:35.480 --> 00:31:36.480
to you.

482
00:31:36.480 --> 00:31:38.480
And we just thank you in advance for that, Father.

483
00:31:38.480 --> 00:31:39.480
Hi there.

484
00:31:39.480 --> 00:31:41.440
Oh, Bridgette, did you get kicked out?

485
00:31:41.440 --> 00:31:44.360
Yes, I'm sorry.

486
00:31:44.360 --> 00:31:46.000
Oh, it's okay.

487
00:31:46.000 --> 00:31:47.000
What room were you in?

488
00:31:47.000 --> 00:31:48.000
Do you know?

489
00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:53.760
I was with the summer and I think, okay, let me find them.

490
00:31:53.760 --> 00:31:54.760
Okay.

491
00:31:54.760 --> 00:31:56.960
You were in 12.

492
00:31:56.960 --> 00:31:57.960
Right.

493
00:31:57.960 --> 00:31:58.960
Cool.

494
00:31:58.960 --> 00:32:02.120
That's okay.

495
00:32:02.120 --> 00:32:03.880
Sometimes connections can make that happen.

496
00:32:03.880 --> 00:32:05.880
There you go.

497
00:32:05.880 --> 00:32:06.880
You're welcome.

498
00:32:06.880 --> 00:32:07.880
All right.

499
00:32:07.880 --> 00:32:10.680
So I'm going to read some of these.

500
00:32:10.680 --> 00:32:14.800
Jennifer says a lie that came up today was fear or worry that I'm still single and have

501
00:32:14.800 --> 00:32:19.880
remained single this late in life because of celibacy or putting spiritually, spirituality,

502
00:32:19.880 --> 00:32:22.560
excuse me, before just considering who is in front of me.

503
00:32:22.880 --> 00:32:23.880
Yeah, that can happen.

504
00:32:23.880 --> 00:32:24.880
Jennifer.

505
00:32:24.880 --> 00:32:27.520
Chrissy, are you just joining us?

506
00:32:27.520 --> 00:32:28.520
I'm so sorry.

507
00:32:28.520 --> 00:32:36.520
I don't know if you were already in a breakout room or not.

508
00:32:36.520 --> 00:32:39.320
And while we are waiting for that answer, I got to change this.

509
00:32:39.320 --> 00:32:42.560
It's bugging me that y'all can see all those boxes.

510
00:32:42.560 --> 00:32:45.560
All right.

511
00:32:45.560 --> 00:32:48.560
Here we go.

512
00:32:48.560 --> 00:32:49.560
Okay.

513
00:32:49.560 --> 00:32:50.560
I'll come back.

514
00:32:50.560 --> 00:32:51.560
Chrissy, just let me know.

515
00:32:51.560 --> 00:32:52.560
Maybe you're messaging me.

516
00:32:52.560 --> 00:32:53.560
Okay.

517
00:32:53.560 --> 00:32:54.560
I'm going to put you in a breakout.

518
00:32:54.560 --> 00:32:59.560
We are talking about lies that we have believed.

519
00:32:59.560 --> 00:33:00.560
There you go.

520
00:33:00.560 --> 00:33:03.560
That is there for you to join.

521
00:33:03.560 --> 00:33:04.560
Okay.

522
00:33:04.560 --> 00:33:11.200
So here's some of the other things people said.

523
00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:15.240
I'm not designed for marriage and family that I can't hear God.

524
00:33:15.240 --> 00:33:19.200
I am being punished because I am a bad wife is another one.

525
00:33:19.200 --> 00:33:21.280
Y'all, these are lies.

526
00:33:22.000 --> 00:33:26.680
I'm reading through lies that people put in the chat before they went into the breakout.

527
00:33:26.680 --> 00:33:30.680
So just, I can't tell who that is that just joined us, but just so you know, that's what

528
00:33:30.680 --> 00:33:33.640
we're doing right now.

529
00:33:33.640 --> 00:33:37.200
No good man is going to want me with three kids, tons of debt.

530
00:33:37.200 --> 00:33:42.560
We're going to address that when they come back and a bad history of making bad choices.

531
00:33:42.560 --> 00:33:45.000
That my voice does not matter and that I'm not worthy.

532
00:33:45.000 --> 00:33:48.640
I'm too tired, worn out from working and single mama.

533
00:33:48.640 --> 00:33:49.640
Yeah.

534
00:33:49.640 --> 00:33:50.800
I'm not much fun for anyone.

535
00:33:50.800 --> 00:33:51.800
That's a lie.

536
00:33:51.800 --> 00:33:52.800
It is a lie.

537
00:33:52.800 --> 00:33:55.560
Then someone said, I'm too fat and messy for someone to love me.

538
00:33:55.560 --> 00:33:56.560
That's a lie.

539
00:33:56.560 --> 00:33:57.560
I'm being punished.

540
00:33:57.560 --> 00:33:58.720
We talked about that.

541
00:33:58.720 --> 00:34:00.760
It happens for everyone else and not for me.

542
00:34:00.760 --> 00:34:05.280
I'm never going to meet someone that I'm attracted to and someone that would want to marry me

543
00:34:05.280 --> 00:34:06.800
and is also attracted to me.

544
00:34:06.800 --> 00:34:09.719
The lie is I will never remarry.

545
00:34:09.719 --> 00:34:10.719
These are all lies.

546
00:34:10.719 --> 00:34:13.239
We're coming out of alignment and agreement with tonight.

547
00:34:13.239 --> 00:34:14.679
Praise the Lord.

548
00:34:14.679 --> 00:34:17.920
Here's another one that I will not reach my goals based on my situation.

549
00:34:17.920 --> 00:34:18.920
I'm not good enough.

550
00:34:19.199 --> 00:34:20.199
I'm not capable.

551
00:34:20.199 --> 00:34:21.639
God does not care about me.

552
00:34:21.639 --> 00:34:23.400
I'm holding something against God.

553
00:34:23.400 --> 00:34:27.960
And this is why I'm still in the same situation that I can't trust anyone that I'll never

554
00:34:27.960 --> 00:34:31.159
be ready for what God has for me.

555
00:34:31.159 --> 00:34:35.520
The lies that I believe regarding the symptoms of heart attack from grandma to my dad will

556
00:34:35.520 --> 00:34:38.920
be passed down to me and my sister and mom, but Bethany prayed.

557
00:34:38.920 --> 00:34:39.920
I did today.

558
00:34:39.920 --> 00:34:44.520
I prayed about all of that and shared in her prayers during prayer time that that is not

559
00:34:44.520 --> 00:34:45.520
true.

560
00:34:45.520 --> 00:34:46.960
I am a kinsman redeemer.

561
00:34:46.960 --> 00:34:47.960
So good.

562
00:34:48.000 --> 00:34:49.000
All right.

563
00:34:49.000 --> 00:34:54.000
So I want to go back because I want to address that one in particular.

564
00:34:54.000 --> 00:34:55.000
Where was that?

565
00:34:55.000 --> 00:34:56.000
Katie.

566
00:34:56.000 --> 00:34:57.000
All right.

567
00:34:57.000 --> 00:35:00.000
Father, thank you right now for just continuing to bring.

568
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.760
and revelation and truth.

569
00:35:02.760 --> 00:35:05.940
We thank you for illumination from the Holy Spirit

570
00:35:05.940 --> 00:35:07.800
that you would just go into the breakout rooms,

571
00:35:07.800 --> 00:35:09.880
that you would come into this main room session,

572
00:35:09.880 --> 00:35:13.400
even now and even for those that are watching the replay,

573
00:35:13.400 --> 00:35:15.440
that you would just stir in our hearts.

574
00:35:15.440 --> 00:35:16.440
Thank you, Holy Spirit,

575
00:35:16.440 --> 00:35:19.620
that you would just come and hover over us.

576
00:35:21.080 --> 00:35:24.000
And hovering over us is in a loving way, you all.

577
00:35:24.000 --> 00:35:29.000
It's a hovering to stir and minister and protect

578
00:35:29.120 --> 00:35:31.940
and lead us into truth and lead us into life.

579
00:35:31.940 --> 00:35:34.760
And I thank you, Lord, that you are calling us higher.

580
00:35:34.760 --> 00:35:36.920
I thank you that you're calling us deeper

581
00:35:36.920 --> 00:35:39.760
into more understanding and revelation and insight

582
00:35:39.760 --> 00:35:43.960
that we do not have to stay the way that you found us.

583
00:35:43.960 --> 00:35:48.440
So Lord, I thank you that we are getting transformed

584
00:35:48.440 --> 00:35:49.680
by the renewing of our minds.

585
00:35:49.680 --> 00:35:53.040
As I said earlier, I thank you that,

586
00:35:55.300 --> 00:35:57.760
yes, Lord, I'm gonna read this scripture,

587
00:35:57.760 --> 00:36:00.680
Colossians 3, 13 through 14 from the message version.

588
00:36:00.680 --> 00:36:03.960
It says, so chosen by God for this new life of love,

589
00:36:03.960 --> 00:36:06.460
dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you.

590
00:36:06.460 --> 00:36:07.640
I love that.

591
00:36:07.640 --> 00:36:11.140
Compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline,

592
00:36:11.140 --> 00:36:15.320
be even tempered, content with second place.

593
00:36:15.320 --> 00:36:16.540
Quick to forgive an offense,

594
00:36:16.540 --> 00:36:19.400
forgive as quickly and completely as the master forgave you

595
00:36:19.400 --> 00:36:24.200
and regardless of what else you put on, wear love.

596
00:36:24.200 --> 00:36:26.740
It's your basic all-purpose garment.

597
00:36:26.740 --> 00:36:29.220
Never be without it.

598
00:36:29.220 --> 00:36:30.060
Lord, I thank you.

599
00:36:30.060 --> 00:36:31.940
Yes, Lord, I thank you that you would help us

600
00:36:31.940 --> 00:36:34.620
to put on love, that you would help us to put on

601
00:36:34.620 --> 00:36:36.780
the wardrobe that you've picked out for us

602
00:36:36.780 --> 00:36:39.360
that is all the fruits of the Holy Spirit.

603
00:36:39.360 --> 00:36:41.360
We thank you that you'll help us to be women

604
00:36:41.360 --> 00:36:44.100
that walk in compassion and humility,

605
00:36:44.100 --> 00:36:47.980
gentleness, kindness, faithfulness, goodness,

606
00:36:47.980 --> 00:36:49.740
self-control and patience.

607
00:36:49.740 --> 00:36:50.940
Lord, I thank you, God,

608
00:36:50.940 --> 00:36:53.200
that we would have patience with ourselves

609
00:36:53.200 --> 00:36:54.780
as well as patience with other people.

610
00:36:54.780 --> 00:36:56.380
We know that your word declares

611
00:36:56.380 --> 00:37:00.020
that you want us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.

612
00:37:00.020 --> 00:37:00.860
So I thank you, Lord,

613
00:37:00.860 --> 00:37:03.100
that you would help us to love ourselves

614
00:37:03.980 --> 00:37:05.180
a little bit better tonight.

615
00:37:05.180 --> 00:37:09.080
I thank you that you would help us to, yes, Lord,

616
00:37:09.080 --> 00:37:11.660
see the ways that we are harsh in our speech,

617
00:37:11.660 --> 00:37:13.020
in our thoughts.

618
00:37:13.020 --> 00:37:16.440
And I thank you that you would just open our eyes,

619
00:37:16.440 --> 00:37:19.420
open our eyes to see the truth.

620
00:37:19.420 --> 00:37:22.280
I thank you that you would remove filters,

621
00:37:22.280 --> 00:37:25.120
negative mindsets, limiting belief systems

622
00:37:25.120 --> 00:37:26.400
that are on people's minds

623
00:37:26.400 --> 00:37:28.080
because of things that they grew up under.

624
00:37:28.080 --> 00:37:30.120
If we live in a poverty mentality, Lord,

625
00:37:30.120 --> 00:37:33.240
I pray that you would reveal those areas as well,

626
00:37:33.240 --> 00:37:37.200
where we're looking at life through the lens of lack

627
00:37:37.200 --> 00:37:39.180
and things that we can't have

628
00:37:39.180 --> 00:37:40.600
and things that we can't do

629
00:37:40.600 --> 00:37:43.400
instead of, God, what you are doing.

630
00:37:43.400 --> 00:37:44.560
God, what we already have,

631
00:37:44.560 --> 00:37:46.160
the blessings that are around us.

632
00:37:46.160 --> 00:37:47.000
I thank you, Lord,

633
00:37:47.000 --> 00:37:51.800
that you'll help us to connect in creation in a fresh way.

634
00:37:52.280 --> 00:37:55.080
God, I thank you that you're abundant, colorful,

635
00:37:55.080 --> 00:37:59.640
you're lively, and man, you're just full of goodness.

636
00:37:59.640 --> 00:38:01.240
The Lord help us to see those truths

637
00:38:01.240 --> 00:38:04.480
and receive them in Jesus' name, amen.

638
00:38:04.480 --> 00:38:05.500
Welcome back.

639
00:38:06.600 --> 00:38:07.440
Welcome back, y'all.

640
00:38:07.440 --> 00:38:08.800
We have 56 on tonight.

641
00:38:08.800 --> 00:38:09.620
That's awesome.

642
00:38:09.620 --> 00:38:10.680
We're 55 now.

643
00:38:10.680 --> 00:38:11.720
There was 56.

644
00:38:11.720 --> 00:38:13.080
I think some people are having internet.

645
00:38:13.080 --> 00:38:15.380
I saw somebody keeps kind of coming on and off.

646
00:38:16.360 --> 00:38:18.960
Who wants to share with the whole group

647
00:38:18.960 --> 00:38:22.040
what you shared in your private breakout group?

648
00:38:22.800 --> 00:38:23.960
Or instead of who wants to, who's willing?

649
00:38:23.960 --> 00:38:25.080
I always like to say that.

650
00:38:25.080 --> 00:38:27.120
Susan, we'd love for you to go.

651
00:38:27.960 --> 00:38:29.120
Go ahead and share.

652
00:38:30.520 --> 00:38:32.160
Oh, just unmute yourself there.

653
00:38:34.160 --> 00:38:35.800
I guess I hadn't thought about

654
00:38:37.120 --> 00:38:39.400
when you were listing the lies was,

655
00:38:40.320 --> 00:38:41.720
it's easier to be single.

656
00:38:43.040 --> 00:38:45.760
And I don't know if I want to get married.

657
00:38:45.760 --> 00:38:48.480
Those are two phrases that come over my lips

658
00:38:48.480 --> 00:38:49.640
quite frequently.

659
00:38:49.640 --> 00:38:51.720
It sounds so complicated.

660
00:38:52.280 --> 00:38:55.960
It sounds, oh, I've got my kids close by.

661
00:38:55.960 --> 00:38:59.000
I don't want to marry somebody who's going to take me away.

662
00:38:59.000 --> 00:39:02.680
I think about his kids, my kids, our kids,

663
00:39:02.680 --> 00:39:04.480
your Christmases, my Christmases.

664
00:39:04.480 --> 00:39:06.560
It just all sounds so complicated.

665
00:39:08.160 --> 00:39:12.280
So it's almost feels like I have to swap out

666
00:39:12.280 --> 00:39:16.080
being lonely sometimes with the things

667
00:39:16.080 --> 00:39:17.520
that I love about where I am.

668
00:39:18.640 --> 00:39:21.160
That's a scary thought for me.

669
00:39:21.200 --> 00:39:25.920
Yeah, so thank you for sharing and being transparent.

670
00:39:28.920 --> 00:39:32.800
Here's the thing, it might be glorious as well.

671
00:39:33.760 --> 00:39:36.920
Sincerely, it actually might be glorious.

672
00:39:36.920 --> 00:39:38.920
Am I saying it's always easy?

673
00:39:38.920 --> 00:39:42.200
No, marriage is a work in progress.

674
00:39:42.200 --> 00:39:44.960
But I will tell you this time around,

675
00:39:44.960 --> 00:39:48.120
man, my marriage is like radically different

676
00:39:48.120 --> 00:39:50.480
than anything I've ever experienced

677
00:39:50.480 --> 00:39:53.400
in my life in the past, like genuinely.

678
00:39:53.400 --> 00:39:56.000
Like I was even thinking today about just

679
00:39:56.960 --> 00:39:59.120
the way we both are different with each other,

680
00:39:59.120 --> 00:40:00.080
like different.

681
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.400
You know, he experiencing something different with me and me experiencing

682
00:40:03.400 --> 00:40:06.760
something different with him has been so redemptive and so healing.

683
00:40:07.240 --> 00:40:11.720
But, um, I was just telling him the other day, like my ex-husband used to

684
00:40:11.720 --> 00:40:14.000
be so mean to me when I would get sick.

685
00:40:15.920 --> 00:40:21.600
And I couldn't help it, you know, and I've never felt anything but

686
00:40:21.600 --> 00:40:25.000
support and care and concern from Brian.

687
00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:29.720
Like he's never harsh towards me because I have a need.

688
00:40:30.840 --> 00:40:34.760
And so some of you, that's, that's part of your coming out of agreement with

689
00:40:34.760 --> 00:40:39.120
lies, you know, what, what the way you were treated in the past is how it's

690
00:40:39.120 --> 00:40:43.800
always going to be every guy's like this, all men cheat, all men lie, all men are

691
00:40:43.800 --> 00:40:46.680
mean, or whatever the lie is that you believed.

692
00:40:47.120 --> 00:40:51.440
And I say that on the back end of what you were saying, Susan, because here's

693
00:40:51.440 --> 00:40:55.320
the thing, the, the things that you were listing are what ifs.

694
00:40:56.240 --> 00:40:56.600
Okay.

695
00:40:56.880 --> 00:40:57.240
Okay.

696
00:40:57.560 --> 00:40:59.800
Because you actually might meet someone local.

697
00:41:00.360 --> 00:41:03.800
You might meet someone far away, but you could meet someone local.

698
00:41:04.360 --> 00:41:06.960
So the enemy is trying to get you into anxious thoughts.

699
00:41:08.080 --> 00:41:10.880
And if he gets you into the what ifs, what if this, what if that, what if

700
00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:14.120
that, then he can get you to not move.

701
00:41:14.840 --> 00:41:21.840
Like, and what I mean by that is not move forward because in your mind,

702
00:41:21.840 --> 00:41:24.440
you're already telling yourself, well, it's just going to be easier

703
00:41:24.440 --> 00:41:26.320
for me to just not get married.

704
00:41:27.600 --> 00:41:31.040
And so then what we start there, and then we start convincing

705
00:41:31.040 --> 00:41:32.880
ourselves that we're happier alone.

706
00:41:33.920 --> 00:41:34.960
See how this works.

707
00:41:35.440 --> 00:41:36.320
It's like a snowball.

708
00:41:37.400 --> 00:41:38.200
Exactly what I feel.

709
00:41:38.960 --> 00:41:41.920
It feels it's for the first time I can be me.

710
00:41:42.160 --> 00:41:46.080
You know, it's like when I was with my husband, who was, he was a good man, a

711
00:41:46.080 --> 00:41:50.640
really good man, and I lived with him for 40 years as we had a, had beautiful

712
00:41:50.640 --> 00:41:55.800
children, wonderful grandchildren, but there was something, I guess, in the

713
00:41:55.800 --> 00:41:59.280
really religiosity that was there was that I couldn't be me.

714
00:41:59.320 --> 00:42:00.200
I couldn't.

715
00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:06.920
Um, and I finally feel like I can be me and I don't want to, I

716
00:42:06.920 --> 00:42:07.760
don't want to lose that.

717
00:42:08.360 --> 00:42:10.040
I don't want to lose that.

718
00:42:10.480 --> 00:42:10.880
Yeah.

719
00:42:10.920 --> 00:42:16.280
So I encourage you or anyone else that can relate to this, to start thanking God

720
00:42:16.280 --> 00:42:19.840
for bringing you a spirit mate that you can be yourself with.

721
00:42:20.200 --> 00:42:24.960
And what I mean by that ladies, isn't that we never change anything, but you

722
00:42:24.960 --> 00:42:31.600
don't want to change the core character aspects about yourself, unless your

723
00:42:31.600 --> 00:42:33.520
character doesn't align with kingdom.

724
00:42:33.640 --> 00:42:34.000
Okay.

725
00:42:34.000 --> 00:42:36.360
So let's just keep that in balance there too.

726
00:42:36.840 --> 00:42:41.960
But what I mean by that is that sometimes, again, we, we decide that

727
00:42:41.960 --> 00:42:43.880
we will not change this.

728
00:42:43.880 --> 00:42:45.080
This is just how I am.

729
00:42:47.520 --> 00:42:48.680
And that's not a good thing.

730
00:42:49.120 --> 00:42:50.720
And that's not a good place to be.

731
00:42:50.800 --> 00:42:57.720
But if there are things about the way you have learned to live your life with

732
00:42:57.720 --> 00:43:05.840
Jesus or the peace that you live in now, if those are things that you're talking

733
00:43:05.840 --> 00:43:08.200
about, well, absolutely.

734
00:43:08.200 --> 00:43:09.960
We want you to find a spirit mate.

735
00:43:09.960 --> 00:43:13.880
That's going to allow you to remain in those things.

736
00:43:16.360 --> 00:43:18.040
And that looks different for everyone.

737
00:43:18.840 --> 00:43:21.560
Y'all I said, I would never move.

738
00:43:23.000 --> 00:43:24.760
I told Jackie that over and over.

739
00:43:25.280 --> 00:43:29.760
Well, specifically what I said, I'm not moving more than an hour away because I

740
00:43:29.760 --> 00:43:31.840
didn't want to move away from my spiritual daughters.

741
00:43:31.920 --> 00:43:32.400
I didn't.

742
00:43:33.560 --> 00:43:36.480
Do I love it that I'm not right close to them?

743
00:43:36.480 --> 00:43:37.640
No, I don't.

744
00:43:38.200 --> 00:43:39.160
But here's the thing.

745
00:43:41.320 --> 00:43:45.960
God started talking to me about the things that I was putting on the

746
00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:47.640
restrictions and all this stuff.

747
00:43:48.760 --> 00:43:50.240
And I just had to surrender.

748
00:43:50.920 --> 00:43:54.640
And I'm not saying that's all of your all story, but God might lead you to

749
00:43:54.640 --> 00:43:59.120
something that you're saying in your spirit right now, I'm never going to do

750
00:43:59.120 --> 00:43:59.560
this.

751
00:44:00.600 --> 00:44:01.440
He might just lead you.

752
00:44:01.680 --> 00:44:02.160
And you know what?

753
00:44:02.160 --> 00:44:04.480
It's actually, it hasn't been easy to move.

754
00:44:04.520 --> 00:44:07.480
No, but man, we're having fun.

755
00:44:07.640 --> 00:44:11.720
And now God moved us somewhere completely different that we never saw coming.

756
00:44:12.880 --> 00:44:16.840
And since we've been here, I can't tell you how many times we've both said to

757
00:44:16.840 --> 00:44:19.360
each other, like we get to live here.

758
00:44:19.520 --> 00:44:22.520
Like, I can't believe it again.

759
00:44:22.520 --> 00:44:23.400
Is it easy?

760
00:44:23.440 --> 00:44:26.960
No, my girls are, they feel far away, but you know what?

761
00:44:26.960 --> 00:44:28.240
It's a plane ride y'all.

762
00:44:28.560 --> 00:44:30.400
I'm going to go on some plane rides and so are they.

763
00:44:30.760 --> 00:44:31.120
Okay.

764
00:44:31.400 --> 00:44:35.000
I won't keep going on that, but I just want you guys to shift out of these like

765
00:44:35.320 --> 00:44:35.760
places.

766
00:44:35.760 --> 00:44:38.240
If I can't go there, I can't do this.

767
00:44:38.560 --> 00:44:42.960
What if, what if, what if, what if, what if let's just what right now.

768
00:44:43.960 --> 00:44:47.600
And some of y'all, we just got to reign all that in during heartwork anyways,

769
00:44:47.760 --> 00:44:51.640
because right now you just gotta, all you gotta do is receive the healing and

770
00:44:51.640 --> 00:44:53.120
work on the heart stuff.

771
00:44:53.720 --> 00:44:56.160
And later God will take care of all that other stuff.

772
00:44:56.960 --> 00:44:58.240
Susan, thanks for sharing.

773
00:44:58.240 --> 00:44:59.200
That was really good.

774
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:08.080
Um, okay, Shari. Did I say it right again? Okay, awesome. I know you were going to share

775
00:45:08.080 --> 00:45:10.560
earlier today and you didn't get a chance. I really want you to go.

776
00:45:11.680 --> 00:45:20.320
Um, thank you. Um, I, I struggle with whether I hear from God,

777
00:45:22.400 --> 00:45:29.760
whether I hear his voice and whether it was several years ago and I thought I heard God's

778
00:45:30.000 --> 00:45:35.440
tell me who my spouse was. And it was confirmed by my pastor's wife at the time

779
00:45:36.160 --> 00:45:41.280
and everything like that. And then it didn't happen. And it really just set me up for a

780
00:45:41.280 --> 00:45:48.960
spiral of disappointment and confusion. Like, did I hear God? Did I not hear God? There's moments

781
00:45:48.960 --> 00:45:53.840
and times that I forget about it. And then I'll come back in my mind. Like you don't hear from

782
00:45:53.840 --> 00:46:00.480
God that didn't even happen what you thought. And I've just felt kind of foolish for like,

783
00:46:02.720 --> 00:46:10.320
you know, thinking, you know, or, you know, so. So here's the thing on this. Um, and just,

784
00:46:10.320 --> 00:46:14.640
y'all know for the new ladies, if you've not been with me, I take notes when people are talking. So

785
00:46:14.640 --> 00:46:18.960
if I'm not looking at the screen, it's not cause I'm not listening. Um, it helps me process what

786
00:46:18.960 --> 00:46:27.440
y'all are saying. Um, it takes two people, right? So it doesn't mean that you didn't hear that God

787
00:46:27.440 --> 00:46:32.720
had that promise or that plan for you, but it takes two people. So that's the first thing I'm

788
00:46:32.720 --> 00:46:40.000
going to say. The second thing I'm going to say is that the counterfeit identities plays a role here.

789
00:46:40.560 --> 00:46:48.480
Okay. So when we have brokenness in our hearts, especially deep extreme brokenness that we don't

790
00:46:48.480 --> 00:46:53.440
even realize is there, it causes us to think, like I said earlier, think that we want things

791
00:46:53.440 --> 00:46:58.640
that we don't want. And even think that God's telling us that that's what he has for us.

792
00:46:58.640 --> 00:47:04.160
I shared a little bit last week about the guy that I dated for six years. Um, you all, when,

793
00:47:04.160 --> 00:47:13.440
when I first met him, I 100% believed that God brought us together to the point. I had some

794
00:47:13.440 --> 00:47:19.520
crazy stuff. I do vision boards, uh, pretty much every year. And I had these pictures on

795
00:47:19.520 --> 00:47:24.400
my vision board and there was camera camera and butterfly and they were connected. Well,

796
00:47:24.400 --> 00:47:28.720
he was a photographer and I was starting a business that had a logo of a butterfly

797
00:47:29.360 --> 00:47:34.640
and, uh, and they were touching and they were so automatically, I felt like I was like using

798
00:47:34.640 --> 00:47:41.360
that to show me like we were, we were meant for each other. I laugh a little bit. Y'all,

799
00:47:41.360 --> 00:47:48.560
we were not meant for each other, but here's the thing. What that could have meant was just that I

800
00:47:48.560 --> 00:47:56.960
would meet him. It didn't have to automatically mean we were destined for each other, but that's

801
00:47:56.960 --> 00:48:06.480
how I interpreted it. Cause that's what I wanted. I wanted to be married so bad and I wanted a

802
00:48:06.480 --> 00:48:13.280
family and a baby so bad that I allowed myself to get ahead of myself. Does that make sense?

803
00:48:14.480 --> 00:48:23.440
Yeah. And so kind of the key here is that after I started healing son, I started recognizing

804
00:48:24.160 --> 00:48:28.080
times where the Lord was giving me warning signs about that guy.

805
00:48:28.640 --> 00:48:37.680
And he was actually showing me that that wasn't his plan for me, but I got so caught up in the

806
00:48:37.680 --> 00:48:46.800
fantasy of it. Um, that it was really hard for me to get out of that in my mind. And so what I mean

807
00:48:46.800 --> 00:48:53.360
by that is I inflated who he was. I inflated our life and what it was going to look like and all

808
00:48:54.320 --> 00:49:00.720
these things. And I just, I just let my mind go crazy. If you will, I'm a dreamer, you all,

809
00:49:00.720 --> 00:49:05.280
and I am super sensitive to the things in the spirit. And sometimes I can just go on this whole

810
00:49:05.280 --> 00:49:12.000
trip and in my mind. Um, and, and so I have to really guard and watch that. That's why I,

811
00:49:12.000 --> 00:49:16.400
where we started tonight, let's guard our hearts, our minds through Christ Jesus.

812
00:49:16.400 --> 00:49:20.800
And so the tricky part that I want to bring up too, is your pastor confirming it.

813
00:49:21.760 --> 00:49:25.680
Y'all are going to have that sometimes where people, um, and I talked about,

814
00:49:25.680 --> 00:49:29.120
it's not the same thing, but I'm going to bring it up now. I did talk about this on

815
00:49:29.120 --> 00:49:34.720
the session earlier today. I feel like it's super important. And I'm not saying your pastor

816
00:49:34.720 --> 00:49:42.560
didn't hear from God or that you didn't hear from God, but sometimes in churches, this is not what

817
00:49:42.560 --> 00:49:47.120
I brought up earlier, but it's coming up in my spirit. Sometimes in churches, people just,

818
00:49:47.200 --> 00:49:53.680
instead of actually knowing what to do with singles, they just want singles to get married.

819
00:49:55.120 --> 00:49:59.600
It's the truth. When I got married the first time,

820
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.760
My husband and I, my former husband and I, we should have been encouraged to get a lot more

821
00:50:03.760 --> 00:50:08.480
healing before we were encouraged to get married. But you know what everybody kept talking to us

822
00:50:08.480 --> 00:50:13.680
about y'all are y'all both anointed and man, you're gonna, you're gonna, you know, accomplish

823
00:50:13.680 --> 00:50:17.600
all this stuff in the kingdom together. And you all, you know, they just were kind of rushing

824
00:50:17.600 --> 00:50:24.400
us along and rushing us along. Do I think that they meant to do that? No. But I think even in

825
00:50:24.400 --> 00:50:32.400
their own brokenness and the way that they were not sure what to do with us, they kind of rushed

826
00:50:32.400 --> 00:50:39.040
and pushed and, and y'all, they pushed so much that I just believed it was meant to be. And that

827
00:50:39.040 --> 00:50:45.760
was not meant to be either. So sometimes we have to be really careful. And this is where I was

828
00:50:45.760 --> 00:50:50.720
going to go. I had this lady that posted in our phase three group. We have phase one, two, three,

829
00:50:50.720 --> 00:50:53.680
phase three is our community group. There are people that have been in the community quite some

830
00:50:53.680 --> 00:51:02.320
time and she had a friend pray over her. And this woman has had to move several times, not just

831
00:51:02.320 --> 00:51:08.320
because she chose to move, but her former spouse cheated on her a couple of times and they had to

832
00:51:08.320 --> 00:51:16.000
move different times because of it. The word this person gave her was because you're a vagabond and

833
00:51:16.080 --> 00:51:20.800
you don't stop moving. God cannot find you.

834
00:51:24.080 --> 00:51:32.080
What? And y'all she posted saying, you know, I resonate with that. And so I'm wondering

835
00:51:32.080 --> 00:51:38.720
what scriptures I can meditate on to stop doing this so that God can find me.

836
00:51:39.280 --> 00:51:43.520
This is the kind of stuff y'all I'm bringing this up again tonight, because I felt like even today

837
00:51:43.520 --> 00:51:49.760
when I said it, this is critical stuff. We do not realize that friend may have intended. Well,

838
00:51:49.760 --> 00:51:56.000
they might've, I'm sure they did, but the things that were said, that does not even align with

839
00:51:56.000 --> 00:52:03.280
scripture. So this is what I'm going to say to you all, whether it's prayers that you're praying

840
00:52:03.680 --> 00:52:07.600
or things that you're hearing from God on your own, or things that other people are praying

841
00:52:07.600 --> 00:52:13.680
and saying over you, including prophetic words, we should always filter those according to the

842
00:52:13.680 --> 00:52:20.880
word. Do they align with the word of God? Or is it leading you away from the word? Is it leading

843
00:52:20.880 --> 00:52:24.880
you away from things? God's already been telling you he wants to do in your life.

844
00:52:24.880 --> 00:52:30.640
So for example, I'm going to be a hundred percent transparent. What the Lord was telling me when I

845
00:52:30.640 --> 00:52:38.160
was dating that guy, as he was saying, cause early on, I was like, now, you know, I'll never stay

846
00:52:38.160 --> 00:52:42.000
over. I'll never, but then he just kept pushing and he kept pushing. We didn't even have sex,

847
00:52:42.000 --> 00:52:46.960
you all, but I was staying the night there, but then he just kept pushing. He kept pushing.

848
00:52:46.960 --> 00:52:51.760
And I was like, I'm going to be a hundred percent transparent. I'm going to be a hundred percent

849
00:52:52.320 --> 00:52:57.200
transparent. But then he just kept pushing. He kept pushing all this stuff. And the Lord was

850
00:52:57.200 --> 00:53:02.560
telling me, he's like about the woman at the well. And he said, that's not who I've called you to be.

851
00:53:05.840 --> 00:53:12.880
And I just, I didn't mean to, I didn't want to ignore that, but I just didn't want to listen

852
00:53:13.840 --> 00:53:22.240
because I wanted to get married. And I thought that I could make that happen quicker. If I just,

853
00:53:22.240 --> 00:53:26.160
because this guy, he told me real quick, real quick in the beginning, we were going to get

854
00:53:26.160 --> 00:53:33.360
married early on, like in first two weeks, which that should have been like warning signs, alert,

855
00:53:33.360 --> 00:53:39.680
go run. But y'all, I didn't know. I didn't know any better than I really didn't. Um, so, okay,

856
00:53:40.480 --> 00:53:44.720
I'm going to slow this and we're going to redirect it, but I just want you to be encouraged.

857
00:53:48.080 --> 00:53:51.360
I hear from the Lord so much better than I did back then,

858
00:53:53.440 --> 00:53:59.920
but it's taken time and it's taken me having to learn how to trust myself again, because I really

859
00:53:59.920 --> 00:54:06.960
messed up that time I did, but some of it again was realizing the times I actually was hearing.

860
00:54:06.960 --> 00:54:13.200
And I wasn't following that, but I was hearing. And so you'll start to discern some of those

861
00:54:13.200 --> 00:54:17.440
things as well. The prayer that I said earlier, this is, I've been praying this for years and

862
00:54:17.440 --> 00:54:23.360
I want to give it to all of you tonight. Lord, is this your voice? Is this my voice? Or is this

863
00:54:23.360 --> 00:54:31.440
the voice of the enemy? And if you'll pray that God will help you discern between the different,

864
00:54:31.440 --> 00:54:35.840
the different voices. And one of the ways you can get to know God's voice better is reading the word

865
00:54:35.840 --> 00:54:42.160
of God and spending time with him. That's the number one way. Okay. So I want to encourage you,

866
00:54:42.160 --> 00:54:48.880
God has some good for you and it's going to be so much better. And you're going to learn how to

867
00:54:48.880 --> 00:54:52.560
navigate in here and you're going to be in community and we're going to be able to coach

868
00:54:52.560 --> 00:54:56.320
you and help you along that as well. So you won't be doing it alone anymore. As long as

869
00:54:56.320 --> 00:54:59.680
you stay in community, which is really, really powerful.

870
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:01.480
OK.

871
00:55:01.480 --> 00:55:02.800
All right, awesome.

872
00:55:02.800 --> 00:55:04.860
All right, I'm going to, some people

873
00:55:04.860 --> 00:55:07.000
I haven't heard from in the last few weeks.

874
00:55:07.000 --> 00:55:10.040
Jessie, go ahead and go.

875
00:55:10.040 --> 00:55:11.640
Yeah, thanks.

876
00:55:11.640 --> 00:55:14.400
I think the lies I really am struggling with,

877
00:55:14.400 --> 00:55:18.600
and I just want to say it more and more to help me work

878
00:55:18.600 --> 00:55:22.240
through it, is that my voice doesn't matter,

879
00:55:22.240 --> 00:55:29.360
that my thoughts don't matter, and being ignored,

880
00:55:29.360 --> 00:55:34.520
just to really have all every day I think about,

881
00:55:34.520 --> 00:55:38.800
or I'm in situations where I feel like my voice is not heard

882
00:55:38.800 --> 00:55:43.600
or is not valued, or it doesn't matter.

883
00:55:43.600 --> 00:55:47.760
And I think that leads also into not feeling

884
00:55:47.760 --> 00:55:53.080
like I'm worthy for any type of future marriage

885
00:55:53.080 --> 00:55:55.760
for whatever reason, because I'm too fat, or too quiet,

886
00:55:55.760 --> 00:55:59.640
or too inexperienced, or all the other things that

887
00:55:59.640 --> 00:56:01.440
would go along with that.

888
00:56:01.440 --> 00:56:05.680
But the voice one has been resonating a lot with me

889
00:56:05.680 --> 00:56:08.240
and keeps coming up.

890
00:56:08.240 --> 00:56:10.000
Interesting, the one that's standing out

891
00:56:10.000 --> 00:56:12.320
to me the most as you're talking is the being ignored.

892
00:56:15.120 --> 00:56:17.880
And I know they partner together, I'm sure of it,

893
00:56:17.880 --> 00:56:19.080
but I want to encourage you.

894
00:56:19.080 --> 00:56:21.480
This is how we do this a little bit, ladies.

895
00:56:21.480 --> 00:56:23.940
So I want to encourage you all, when you have these lies,

896
00:56:23.940 --> 00:56:25.860
the Revealing for Healing Worksheet,

897
00:56:25.860 --> 00:56:27.780
I was trying to figure it out this afternoon.

898
00:56:27.780 --> 00:56:31.980
I think it's in week three, either two or three.

899
00:56:31.980 --> 00:56:34.020
It's the worksheet in that week.

900
00:56:34.020 --> 00:56:37.900
Revealing for Healing Worksheet, it has the circles on it.

901
00:56:37.900 --> 00:56:40.420
If you will start at the top with the lie

902
00:56:40.420 --> 00:56:44.420
and then start asking God, OK, well, what trauma,

903
00:56:44.420 --> 00:56:47.620
what wounds do I have that are connected to this lie?

904
00:56:47.620 --> 00:56:50.940
What trauma happened that are connected to those wounds?

905
00:56:50.940 --> 00:56:53.260
And you'll start to unpack the things that

906
00:56:53.300 --> 00:56:55.380
are all connected to these lies.

907
00:56:55.380 --> 00:56:57.660
But then you go all the way through the cycle.

908
00:56:57.660 --> 00:56:59.860
There's a couple other things there to the truth

909
00:56:59.860 --> 00:57:01.500
that replaces the lie.

910
00:57:01.500 --> 00:57:07.340
And so many of us, we go to the point of discovering the lie

911
00:57:07.340 --> 00:57:10.660
and we forget to keep going all the way

912
00:57:10.660 --> 00:57:12.420
to the replacing it with truth.

913
00:57:12.420 --> 00:57:18.380
So I want to encourage you all, if you've ever been ignored,

914
00:57:18.380 --> 00:57:21.020
yeah, I think I know, Jennifer, you

915
00:57:21.020 --> 00:57:23.700
wanted me to repeat the Revealing for Healing cycle?

916
00:57:23.700 --> 00:57:28.260
Yes, because I got the wound connected to the lie,

917
00:57:28.260 --> 00:57:29.940
the trauma connected to the wound.

918
00:57:29.940 --> 00:57:31.140
And what was the last one?

919
00:57:31.140 --> 00:57:33.100
Yeah, there's actually two more circles.

920
00:57:33.100 --> 00:57:34.820
It'll be on your sheet.

921
00:57:34.820 --> 00:57:39.300
But I think there's five total circles on that sheet.

922
00:57:39.300 --> 00:57:44.180
But the last one is the lie being replaced with truth.

923
00:57:44.180 --> 00:57:47.500
So we've got to go all the way through that whole cycle.

924
00:57:47.500 --> 00:57:48.940
But for those of you that have ever

925
00:57:48.940 --> 00:57:53.140
struggled with being ignored or feeling really just left out

926
00:57:53.140 --> 00:57:56.700
and just not noticed, if you will,

927
00:57:56.700 --> 00:57:58.860
I really want to encourage you to, as always,

928
00:57:58.860 --> 00:57:59.740
you guys are going to hear me say,

929
00:57:59.740 --> 00:58:01.340
it's going to be like a broken record.

930
00:58:01.340 --> 00:58:05.380
What is the first time you experienced that?

931
00:58:05.380 --> 00:58:08.220
When is the first time you believed that lie?

932
00:58:08.220 --> 00:58:12.220
When is the first time you experienced trauma that caused

933
00:58:12.220 --> 00:58:16.060
you to feel or believe that?

934
00:58:16.060 --> 00:58:17.980
I can't tell you how many times people

935
00:58:17.980 --> 00:58:20.940
have felt ignored when, and I said this earlier today too,

936
00:58:20.940 --> 00:58:23.820
when siblings were sick and the parents

937
00:58:23.820 --> 00:58:26.860
had to pay a lot more attention to the sibling.

938
00:58:26.860 --> 00:58:28.420
And it wasn't that the parents didn't

939
00:58:28.420 --> 00:58:30.900
care about their other children.

940
00:58:30.900 --> 00:58:34.540
They just could only handle so much.

941
00:58:34.540 --> 00:58:36.260
So sometimes that's a play there.

942
00:58:36.260 --> 00:58:37.900
And sometimes it's that you literally,

943
00:58:37.900 --> 00:58:39.260
your parents were working.

944
00:58:39.260 --> 00:58:43.260
My mom was a single mom of four kids.

945
00:58:43.260 --> 00:58:44.860
And she worked a lot.

946
00:58:44.860 --> 00:58:47.020
And I think she was probably, now that I'm older,

947
00:58:47.020 --> 00:58:49.500
I think she was trying to have some semblance of a life

948
00:58:49.500 --> 00:58:52.420
outside of us in her job.

949
00:58:52.420 --> 00:58:56.940
But I remember feeling really neglected.

950
00:58:56.940 --> 00:58:59.420
I was a baby of four.

951
00:58:59.420 --> 00:59:03.540
And my oldest brother was nine years older than me.

952
00:59:03.540 --> 00:59:05.180
So there's a big difference there.

953
00:59:05.180 --> 00:59:07.780
But anyways, I say all that to say,

954
00:59:07.780 --> 00:59:10.420
when I had to start unpacking that,

955
00:59:10.420 --> 00:59:14.260
it went back even further than that stuff.

956
00:59:14.260 --> 00:59:16.060
And so God just started showing me,

957
00:59:16.220 --> 00:59:18.660
my dad left right after I was born.

958
00:59:18.660 --> 00:59:19.780
Just gone.

959
00:59:19.780 --> 00:59:22.260
My dad really wasn't in my life.

960
00:59:22.260 --> 00:59:24.180
So some of mine went all the way back

961
00:59:24.180 --> 00:59:26.380
to those roots of abandonment that

962
00:59:26.380 --> 00:59:31.620
were connecting with feeling ignored or misheard.

963
00:59:31.620 --> 00:59:35.380
I got put down a lot because I was too sensitive.

964
00:59:35.380 --> 00:59:38.820
I wasn't allowed to cry around my family.

965
00:59:38.820 --> 00:59:41.420
All these kind of things that when that kind of stuff

966
00:59:41.420 --> 00:59:46.780
happens and we hear it through all the lies,

967
00:59:46.780 --> 00:59:48.980
then we live into that now.

968
00:59:48.980 --> 00:59:51.940
So we start to cry or have emotion

969
00:59:51.940 --> 00:59:55.380
and then we're apologizing to people for it.

970
00:59:55.380 --> 00:59:58.580
Why are we apologizing for our emotions?

971
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.000
Something to think about for everyone

972
01:00:02.880 --> 01:00:05.840
You know, the Bible doesn't say we can't feel angry

973
01:00:07.360 --> 01:00:09.800
But it says to beware of you know

974
01:00:10.560 --> 01:00:18.240
Letting the Sun go down on our anger letting it be unresolved or acting out in unhealthy ways when we're angry

975
01:00:21.400 --> 01:00:24.280
God doesn't shame us because we feel anger

976
01:00:25.640 --> 01:00:29.540
Anger's hurts bodyguards. So if you're feeling angry even during heart work

977
01:00:30.000 --> 01:00:33.920
It's because underneath of there. You've got some hurt that needs dealt with

978
01:00:34.600 --> 01:00:36.600
You need to look at that with the Lord

979
01:00:37.640 --> 01:00:42.080
So you guys are gonna start to see some of that stuff. Okay. Thank you Jesse for sharing

980
01:00:42.080 --> 01:00:47.280
I'm going to for I know I have several there Holly wait, you don't have to put your hands down

981
01:00:47.880 --> 01:00:49.880
Don't leave me yet Natasha

982
01:00:50.200 --> 01:00:55.400
Brittany we have several I'm gonna come back. So just we're gonna do another breakout because I want to get that in

983
01:00:56.120 --> 01:01:00.840
Well, we'll come back and you guys can share when we come back so just keep be ready

984
01:01:00.840 --> 01:01:06.920
I want to talk a little bit about the rest of the content for tonight because I think it's super important to continue to

985
01:01:06.920 --> 01:01:10.600
Unpack this for you all. So we're gonna talk a little bit about

986
01:01:11.480 --> 01:01:13.480
survivor filters and mindsets

987
01:01:13.880 --> 01:01:18.400
I want to read something to you and then I'm gonna share a little bit more in the book

988
01:01:19.040 --> 01:01:23.880
My page is different than you all it's it's right before all the forgiveness stuff

989
01:01:24.000 --> 01:01:26.000
But this is what it says victim mode

990
01:01:26.920 --> 01:01:32.080
We will all be the victim of something or someone in in our lifetime

991
01:01:32.280 --> 01:01:38.320
But staying in victim mode is dangerous. It can lead to many self-destructive behaviors

992
01:01:38.800 --> 01:01:40.800
most addictions self-mutual

993
01:01:41.280 --> 01:01:49.040
Mutilation suicidal tendencies chronic and toxic relationship patterns stem from viewing ourselves as victims

994
01:01:50.040 --> 01:01:56.800
When you think of yourself as a victim you create opportunities with your choices that continue to reinforce that

995
01:01:58.200 --> 01:01:59.680
identity

996
01:01:59.680 --> 01:02:00.960
If you're not careful

997
01:02:00.960 --> 01:02:07.320
You can use the bad things that have happened to you as an excuse to not only do bad things to yourself and others

998
01:02:07.640 --> 01:02:13.000
But to continue to choose things that will bring you more and more suffering. I

999
01:02:13.200 --> 01:02:20.640
Think it's interesting that tonight I felt led to share after Shirai shared about that relationship because here's the thing. I

1000
01:02:22.000 --> 01:02:26.720
Still did see myself as a victim of a lot of abuse a lot of

1001
01:02:27.840 --> 01:02:32.080
Things that were done to me things that were stolen from me all that all that kind of stuff

1002
01:02:32.080 --> 01:02:36.680
And it actually caused me to view myself as a victim and attract

1003
01:02:38.160 --> 01:02:40.160
Someone that who was looking for a victim

1004
01:02:40.800 --> 01:02:42.800
Someone that who was looking for a victim

1005
01:02:43.920 --> 01:02:45.920
does that make sense and

1006
01:02:46.680 --> 01:02:50.600
Then it was reinforcing that I wasn't valuable enough

1007
01:02:51.320 --> 01:02:55.520
To wait for someone that was healthy and good and treated me different

1008
01:02:57.080 --> 01:03:01.720
So that's why I kept staying with someone y'all I stayed with him for six years

1009
01:03:04.160 --> 01:03:06.880
Those of you that think you've wasted time I

1010
01:03:07.880 --> 01:03:14.040
Promise you I had that thought and God lovingly kept saying to me. I'm gonna redeem this time for you

1011
01:03:15.360 --> 01:03:22.000
I'm gonna make this up because he knew that I didn't want that genuinely did not want a relationship like that

1012
01:03:22.720 --> 01:03:27.600
But once I was in it, I was like I could I it took me a while to figure out how to get out of it

1013
01:03:27.600 --> 01:03:34.080
You know, there's a lot of love bombing and a lot of like gaslighting. It was just a mess the whole mess

1014
01:03:34.920 --> 01:03:37.840
So here's the thing I could have stayed a victim of that

1015
01:03:39.280 --> 01:03:45.680
Praise God that I didn't and I decided to do hard work and I decided to get healed. I

1016
01:03:46.440 --> 01:03:51.240
Used to always use this word life is hard life is hard. Why is everything so hard?

1017
01:03:52.760 --> 01:03:59.400
That's what I want to ask you how many of you are using the word hard a lot or thinking it

1018
01:03:59.440 --> 01:04:03.680
Here's the truth life is only hard because our hearts are hard

1019
01:04:06.680 --> 01:04:07.960
I

1020
01:04:07.960 --> 01:04:12.600
Used to think when I would hear that like wait a minute. I feel like I have a pretty soft heart

1021
01:04:12.600 --> 01:04:17.320
I'm pretty emotional. I cry the drop of the hat. Y'all I can cry watching commercials

1022
01:04:19.240 --> 01:04:20.640
For real

1023
01:04:20.640 --> 01:04:23.000
Come join me at my house. You can see it, but

1024
01:04:23.000 --> 01:04:28.520
The thing is is that there were parts of my heart that because of the abuse I went through

1025
01:04:29.400 --> 01:04:35.640
That I had walls up. I didn't fully let people in I didn't as much as I could I did

1026
01:04:36.280 --> 01:04:41.240
But my heart was still hard in some areas and God wanted to soften it

1027
01:04:42.200 --> 01:04:45.800
Not so that someone could just come in and abuse me all over again

1028
01:04:45.800 --> 01:04:49.800
Because I know that some some of y'all are gonna have that fear rise right up

1029
01:04:49.800 --> 01:04:57.560
Yes, love is a risk it is love is a risk with everybody but man, it's glorious

1030
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:03.720
us, when we open our hearts, when we're healed, and we were

1031
01:05:03.720 --> 01:05:10.080
with safe people, and we let love in, it awakens us. We were

1032
01:05:10.080 --> 01:05:13.280
made for love, we were made for community, we were made for

1033
01:05:13.280 --> 01:05:18.080
connection, and relationship. The enemy is the one that that

1034
01:05:18.200 --> 01:05:22.200
caused even Adam and Eve after they, you know, ate of the fruit

1035
01:05:22.240 --> 01:05:27.560
to go hide. And God's like, why are you hiding? Who told you

1036
01:05:27.560 --> 01:05:33.840
you were naked? So tonight, he's saying you don't have to

1037
01:05:33.840 --> 01:05:38.360
hide anymore. With hardened hearts, the greater truth, you

1038
01:05:38.360 --> 01:05:42.440
all can't penetrate those areas. And a lot of times our hardened

1039
01:05:42.440 --> 01:05:47.200
hearts, it's around those areas of wounds, okay? So basically,

1040
01:05:47.200 --> 01:05:50.600
that wall that I had created, it's because deep inside of

1041
01:05:50.600 --> 01:05:55.080
there, I had so much pain that still needed processed. And

1042
01:05:55.080 --> 01:05:58.440
that's where some of you are tonight. But you're going to

1043
01:05:58.440 --> 01:06:01.440
come out of there. So here's the thing. There's three different

1044
01:06:01.440 --> 01:06:05.440
categories I want to talk about real quick. Victim, survivor, I

1045
01:06:05.440 --> 01:06:07.640
already read a little bit about victim, but I'm going to explain

1046
01:06:07.640 --> 01:06:12.160
a little bit more victim, survivor, and thriving. The

1047
01:06:12.160 --> 01:06:17.240
thriver. A victim feels helpless. They often blame other

1048
01:06:17.240 --> 01:06:20.720
people for their problems, for their situations, for the way

1049
01:06:20.720 --> 01:06:24.560
their life is, sometimes they even blame God. And they focus a

1050
01:06:24.560 --> 01:06:27.440
lot on the past. And when I'm saying all these just know,

1051
01:06:27.800 --> 01:06:33.000
there is no shame. If that's where you are tonight. There's

1052
01:06:33.000 --> 01:06:37.440
no shame. I don't want you to feel shame or condemned. But

1053
01:06:37.440 --> 01:06:41.480
what's important is that at one point, I had to be fully honest

1054
01:06:41.480 --> 01:06:44.200
with myself so that I could heal. And so I want to encourage

1055
01:06:44.200 --> 01:06:47.720
you to be fully honest with yourself. Here's the next

1056
01:06:47.720 --> 01:06:52.880
category, a survivor, a survivor continued to live. So they got

1057
01:06:52.880 --> 01:07:00.440
past that victim mode. But they tend to be just existing. They

1058
01:07:00.440 --> 01:07:04.560
did reclaim some of their power. And they've taken responsibility

1059
01:07:04.560 --> 01:07:07.640
for their choices. And they've chosen to heal and some of them

1060
01:07:07.640 --> 01:07:12.440
are even doing self care. But again, there are more in that

1061
01:07:12.440 --> 01:07:18.920
existing. And then we have those that thrive. People that thrive

1062
01:07:18.920 --> 01:07:21.960
are growing, we're developing, we're prospering, we're

1063
01:07:21.960 --> 01:07:27.320
flourishing, we're focusing on the future. We have power

1064
01:07:27.320 --> 01:07:30.320
regarding our future, we're actually like have momentum,

1065
01:07:30.320 --> 01:07:34.840
we're doing things about it. And here's the key long, people that

1066
01:07:34.840 --> 01:07:39.160
are thriving, surround themselves with other people who

1067
01:07:39.160 --> 01:07:45.360
thrive. Victims, guess what? Surround themselves with other

1068
01:07:45.360 --> 01:07:51.320
victims, birds of a feather will flock together. So some of you

1069
01:07:51.320 --> 01:07:54.280
all in this season, God's going to be nudging you about some of

1070
01:07:54.280 --> 01:07:58.400
the people you're spending time with. And what are they saying

1071
01:07:58.400 --> 01:08:03.560
to you? What are you all talking about? Are you talking about

1072
01:08:03.560 --> 01:08:07.040
good things? Are you talking about what God is doing in your

1073
01:08:07.040 --> 01:08:10.400
life in the way that he's setting you free? Or are you

1074
01:08:10.400 --> 01:08:15.160
talking about the bad things that were done to you? And all

1075
01:08:15.160 --> 01:08:17.880
of that stuff? Are you still living? Y'all had to really

1076
01:08:17.880 --> 01:08:22.319
watch myself even long after I was out of that relationship.

1077
01:08:23.240 --> 01:08:26.560
It's like, the enemy would just try to get me to talk about that

1078
01:08:26.560 --> 01:08:29.600
guy, like in a totally different way than what I'm using a

1079
01:08:29.600 --> 01:08:35.800
testimony tonight. But just like the bad things he did. And as

1080
01:08:35.800 --> 01:08:39.080
soon as I would like kind of go down that road to be like all

1081
01:08:39.080 --> 01:08:42.319
icky feeling. Have you ever had that? Like you just feel icky?

1082
01:08:42.680 --> 01:08:46.520
Yeah, that's the kind of stuff you don't want to be in. So if

1083
01:08:46.520 --> 01:08:49.240
you start feeling like that, I want to encourage you to back on

1084
01:08:49.240 --> 01:08:52.160
out of that, because you don't want to stay there. Because that

1085
01:08:52.160 --> 01:08:57.319
actually attracts that to you. Okay, so the breakout session

1086
01:08:57.319 --> 01:09:02.640
is here, it's going to be on this. In order to thrive, you

1087
01:09:02.640 --> 01:09:05.040
need to make choices. Here's some choices you're going to

1088
01:09:05.040 --> 01:09:07.399
want to make, you're going to want to make decisions based on

1089
01:09:07.399 --> 01:09:13.040
what you want to achieve and not the stress that you feel. Okay,

1090
01:09:13.160 --> 01:09:17.200
so some of you all want to achieve healing. Some of you all

1091
01:09:17.200 --> 01:09:23.000
want to achieve a healthy relationship, romantic, or some

1092
01:09:23.000 --> 01:09:27.160
of you all want reconciliation in your family. So make

1093
01:09:27.160 --> 01:09:34.800
decisions out of where you want to be not panic mode. You know,

1094
01:09:34.840 --> 01:09:38.399
victims tend to panic and we were afraid that we're never

1095
01:09:38.399 --> 01:09:41.120
going to have what what God wants to give us or what we've

1096
01:09:41.120 --> 01:09:43.600
been told. And so we just want to make it happen for ourselves.

1097
01:09:43.880 --> 01:09:50.359
Like I did before. And that got me into all kinds of trouble. So

1098
01:09:50.399 --> 01:09:55.080
what do you want to do? If you want to thrive? And how will you

1099
01:09:55.120 --> 01:09:59.280
act? Where are you going to focus to get there?

1100
01:10:00.880 --> 01:10:06.240
So for some of you, you're going to be nudged to set boundaries with people that are not healthy.

1101
01:10:10.320 --> 01:10:13.360
And you know what, they might react and they might not like it,

1102
01:10:13.360 --> 01:10:15.680
but that doesn't mean you shouldn't set the boundary.

1103
01:10:20.080 --> 01:10:23.520
How do you want to experience the world in this next five weeks?

1104
01:10:23.840 --> 01:10:26.880
I think it was in the heart work group today, and they were saying like,

1105
01:10:26.880 --> 01:10:31.600
I feel like during this time, maybe I need to just be careful on who I'm spending my time with.

1106
01:10:31.600 --> 01:10:36.960
I'm like, based on the situation that they described, I said, yeah, you do. I think you do.

1107
01:10:38.000 --> 01:10:40.960
Everyone's not going to understand what you're going through right now.

1108
01:10:40.960 --> 01:10:44.160
And I know that's hard. And some of you guys, when we start going through heart work,

1109
01:10:44.160 --> 01:10:48.000
we want to tell everybody about it. And I'm going to encourage you not to do that.

1110
01:10:48.320 --> 01:10:54.560
And I'm going to encourage you not to do that because not everybody is going to understand or

1111
01:10:54.560 --> 01:10:59.920
be able to support you or encourage you. Some of them will actually try to get you to stop doing

1112
01:10:59.920 --> 01:11:05.760
heart work. So I want to encourage you. It doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. I just want

1113
01:11:05.760 --> 01:11:11.440
to encourage you, this community and this group, and these ladies you see here on the screen

1114
01:11:11.440 --> 01:11:16.240
tonight, and even those that aren't here, these are the ones that can understand.

1115
01:11:18.000 --> 01:11:25.520
So come here and share things here and process here. And then as God leads you, when you're safe,

1116
01:11:25.520 --> 01:11:29.360
you know, and then maybe a different place in your heart work process, you'll, you'll have

1117
01:11:29.360 --> 01:11:33.040
open doors to share about what God's doing. Cause some people are going to start saying,

1118
01:11:33.040 --> 01:11:36.880
what's different with you? Something's going on. What are you, what's, what's going on with you?

1119
01:11:37.440 --> 01:11:40.960
And then you're going to have an open door to share a little bit, but remember,

1120
01:11:40.960 --> 01:11:43.760
we don't want to share everything. We don't want to throw up on people.

1121
01:11:44.880 --> 01:11:48.800
Okay. So just share with wisdom. Okay. Last thing I want to share, and then you're going to go and

1122
01:11:48.800 --> 01:11:57.920
break up. So what is, what is the opportunity you want to create for yourself? So just be

1123
01:11:57.920 --> 01:12:04.480
thinking about that. Some of you all, God wants to open a new door of work opportunity for you.

1124
01:12:04.480 --> 01:12:09.120
Some of you, he wants you to write a book. Some of you, he wants to help you create art. I mean,

1125
01:12:09.120 --> 01:12:14.560
there's so many different things. So what is it that you want to do and create for yourself?

1126
01:12:16.240 --> 01:12:24.240
All right. So your question, when you go into breakout is and here's the thing on this one,

1127
01:12:24.240 --> 01:12:28.800
I don't want you guys really oversharing. All I want you to do is go in and say,

1128
01:12:29.360 --> 01:12:32.400
which one of the three you feel like you currently are.

1129
01:12:34.240 --> 01:12:40.880
And you can say why, but keep it short, brief and powerful. Okay. So are, are you feeling like

1130
01:12:40.880 --> 01:12:45.200
I think I'm still in victim? Are you feeling like you're survivor? Or do you feel like you're

1131
01:12:45.200 --> 01:12:50.560
thriving? And you can briefly share. And when I say this, I don't want you to go into the whole,

1132
01:12:50.560 --> 01:12:54.080
like what, like big, long explanations. I guess that's what I'm trying to say.

1133
01:12:54.080 --> 01:12:58.240
I want you to share, like, why do you feel like you're in that place? But don't go into long,

1134
01:12:59.040 --> 01:13:02.240
explanations about all the trauma that you've been through anything like that.

1135
01:13:02.240 --> 01:13:08.160
So just keep it real short and tight, tighten, right. And then I'm going to bring you back.

1136
01:13:08.160 --> 01:13:11.200
And then we're going to have more people can share. Okay. And so we can do a little bit more

1137
01:13:11.200 --> 01:13:19.600
group coaching time with you all. And I am going to mix the rooms up again, because I like taking

1138
01:13:19.600 --> 01:13:24.400
time. Sometimes I'll keep you all together with the same people. But I like you all to get to know

1139
01:13:24.400 --> 01:13:29.760
new people sometimes as well. There you go. Go ahead and click to join those.

1140
01:13:54.400 --> 01:14:12.160
All right. Father, thank you so much for bringing us out of places of victim mindsets,

1141
01:14:12.800 --> 01:14:18.080
limiting belief systems, the pain of the past that keeps us stuck. I thank you that you would

1142
01:14:18.080 --> 01:14:22.640
help us to end our side of the street where we need to God that will take responsibility

1143
01:14:23.440 --> 01:14:29.440
for mistakes that we've made along the way, but that we wouldn't align with the lies of the enemy

1144
01:14:29.440 --> 01:14:33.920
and shame ourselves and be harsh towards ourselves, but Lord, that we would just,

1145
01:14:33.920 --> 01:14:40.320
we would use it so that we could step into transformation to propel us forward. I thank

1146
01:14:40.320 --> 01:14:47.600
you Lord, that you would Lord, if there's been any places where we've been blaming other people for

1147
01:14:47.680 --> 01:14:53.200
the condition of our lives that we're in, or even blaming you, God, I pray that you just help us to

1148
01:14:53.200 --> 01:14:59.760
repent for those things and to turn and go in another direction tonight that you would help us

1149
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:03.340
confess any areas of sin that we might be struggling with,

1150
01:15:05.240 --> 01:15:09.320
Lord, that you would just cleanse us and make us brand new.

1151
01:15:09.320 --> 01:15:13.880
I thank you that you would just come in and yeah,

1152
01:15:13.880 --> 01:15:15.800
Lord, I just thank you that you would just come in

1153
01:15:15.800 --> 01:15:19.680
and just even with thoughts that we've been thinking

1154
01:15:19.680 --> 01:15:22.360
this past week or even today,

1155
01:15:23.480 --> 01:15:26.800
that you would begin to touch those thoughts.

1156
01:15:26.800 --> 01:15:29.360
We ask you to send ministering angels to us

1157
01:15:29.360 --> 01:15:34.360
while we sleep, that they would do supernatural surgery

1158
01:15:34.960 --> 01:15:37.860
on our minds, our bodies, our spirits, our souls.

1159
01:15:38.720 --> 01:15:41.520
We thank you for Selah rest to come in,

1160
01:15:41.520 --> 01:15:43.380
for people that have been battling and warring

1161
01:15:43.380 --> 01:15:44.220
while they sleep.

1162
01:15:44.220 --> 01:15:48.800
We thank you for healing and redeeming and rebuilding

1163
01:15:48.800 --> 01:15:51.440
every broken and fallen place in our lives.

1164
01:15:53.400 --> 01:15:57.460
I thank you that in 1 John 3.20 in the Passion Translation,

1165
01:15:57.460 --> 01:15:59.820
it says this, whenever our hearts make us feel guilty

1166
01:15:59.820 --> 01:16:01.780
and remind us of our failures,

1167
01:16:01.780 --> 01:16:05.540
we know that God is much greater and more merciful

1168
01:16:05.540 --> 01:16:06.860
than our conscience.

1169
01:16:06.860 --> 01:16:10.780
And he knows everything there is to know about us.

1170
01:16:10.780 --> 01:16:13.500
Y'all God knows everything about us.

1171
01:16:13.500 --> 01:16:14.940
And guess what?

1172
01:16:14.940 --> 01:16:18.580
Even when we were in the midst of the worst sin

1173
01:16:18.580 --> 01:16:23.020
we've ever committed, he chose us and he loves us.

1174
01:16:23.020 --> 01:16:25.660
And he would choose us all over again.

1175
01:16:25.700 --> 01:16:27.620
And so I just want you to come out of alignment

1176
01:16:27.620 --> 01:16:30.140
and agreement with any shame,

1177
01:16:30.140 --> 01:16:33.060
from any mistakes that you might've made in the past

1178
01:16:33.060 --> 01:16:35.860
and come into agreement with the love of the Father tonight

1179
01:16:35.860 --> 01:16:39.940
that he sees you, he loves you, he chose you,

1180
01:16:39.940 --> 01:16:44.940
he predestined you, you are an ambassador for Jesus Christ

1181
01:16:45.160 --> 01:16:47.900
and that he has a plan and a purpose for your life,

1182
01:16:47.900 --> 01:16:51.060
not to harm you or bring destruction,

1183
01:16:51.060 --> 01:16:53.180
but to give you a hope and a future.

1184
01:16:53.180 --> 01:16:55.940
And he is not finished with you yet.

1185
01:16:55.940 --> 01:16:58.180
And it's not too late for you either.

1186
01:16:58.180 --> 01:17:00.860
The enemy wants some of you to believe it's too late for you

1187
01:17:00.860 --> 01:17:02.060
and it's not too late for you.

1188
01:17:02.060 --> 01:17:05.620
You're just getting started and the best is yet to come.

1189
01:17:05.620 --> 01:17:08.500
I thank you that Father in Luke 12 too,

1190
01:17:08.500 --> 01:17:10.180
it says everything hidden and covered up

1191
01:17:10.180 --> 01:17:14.020
will soon be exposed for the fast aid is falling down

1192
01:17:14.020 --> 01:17:16.340
and nothing will be kept secret for long.

1193
01:17:16.340 --> 01:17:18.260
So where we thank you again

1194
01:17:18.260 --> 01:17:23.060
for bringing any secret sins out to the surface,

1195
01:17:23.900 --> 01:17:26.260
we thank you for revealing things that are darkness

1196
01:17:26.260 --> 01:17:27.820
and bringing them to the light.

1197
01:17:30.980 --> 01:17:34.140
Yeah, Lord, even some things in our hearts and our spirits

1198
01:17:34.140 --> 01:17:37.280
and our souls and our bodies that we went through

1199
01:17:37.280 --> 01:17:39.740
that we don't even remember that we went through,

1200
01:17:40.980 --> 01:17:43.020
that you would bring those up in due season

1201
01:17:43.020 --> 01:17:45.220
and at the right time for us to heal

1202
01:17:45.220 --> 01:17:47.000
and be redeemed and restored.

1203
01:17:48.140 --> 01:17:50.540
I thank you that in Revelation 21 for it says

1204
01:17:50.540 --> 01:17:52.780
he will wipe away every tear from their eyes

1205
01:17:53.500 --> 01:17:55.460
and eliminate death entirely.

1206
01:17:55.460 --> 01:17:57.620
No one will mourn or weep any longer.

1207
01:17:57.620 --> 01:18:00.420
The pain of wounds will no longer exist

1208
01:18:00.420 --> 01:18:02.220
for the old order has ceased.

1209
01:18:02.220 --> 01:18:04.940
Y'all, that is a literal,

1210
01:18:04.940 --> 01:18:06.940
that is what heaven is gonna be like.

1211
01:18:06.940 --> 01:18:08.380
We will, when we get to heaven,

1212
01:18:08.380 --> 01:18:11.420
we will never feel pain ever again.

1213
01:18:11.420 --> 01:18:13.580
The wounds that we experienced,

1214
01:18:13.580 --> 01:18:17.240
they literally will not even be there anymore.

1215
01:18:17.240 --> 01:18:19.340
So sometimes when we're suffering here

1216
01:18:19.340 --> 01:18:22.520
in this physical realm, that is something we can cling to.

1217
01:18:23.280 --> 01:18:24.280
We are only here in this world

1218
01:18:24.280 --> 01:18:26.180
for this little tiny amount of time,

1219
01:18:26.180 --> 01:18:31.120
but eternity is this big, big, big, long amount of time.

1220
01:18:31.120 --> 01:18:34.040
And we're gonna experience glory and freedom

1221
01:18:34.040 --> 01:18:37.900
like never before for so long.

1222
01:18:37.900 --> 01:18:40.400
And we'll be so free from all the things

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01:18:40.400 --> 01:18:41.380
that we've been struggling with.

1224
01:18:41.380 --> 01:18:44.240
Even some of you that have been struggling physically

1225
01:18:44.240 --> 01:18:46.600
and battling and you're wondering

1226
01:18:46.600 --> 01:18:47.680
when you're gonna be set free.

1227
01:18:47.680 --> 01:18:50.580
Some of y'all are gonna be set free here on earth

1228
01:18:50.580 --> 01:18:54.060
from those things, but some are gonna experience that

1229
01:18:54.060 --> 01:18:57.300
when you get to heaven, that complete redemptive body.

1230
01:18:58.580 --> 01:19:01.340
Jeremiah 24, seven in the NLT version says,

1231
01:19:01.340 --> 01:19:05.180
I will give them hearts that recognize me as the Lord.

1232
01:19:05.180 --> 01:19:07.300
They will be my people and I will be their God

1233
01:19:07.300 --> 01:19:11.300
for they will return to me wholeheartedly.

1234
01:19:14.420 --> 01:19:15.420
Ooh, this is so good.

1235
01:19:15.420 --> 01:19:16.540
I'm gonna read this.

1236
01:19:16.540 --> 01:19:17.380
So this isn't the book.

1237
01:19:17.380 --> 01:19:19.360
This is not a scripture, but this is from the book.

1238
01:19:19.360 --> 01:19:20.840
And I just feel like this goes

1239
01:19:20.840 --> 01:19:22.560
with the content for tonight too.

1240
01:19:24.160 --> 01:19:25.880
Here we are halfway through part three,

1241
01:19:25.880 --> 01:19:28.240
and hopefully you are getting more and more ready

1242
01:19:28.240 --> 01:19:31.400
to let go of all of the filters, blind spots

1243
01:19:31.400 --> 01:19:34.920
and false identities and the traumas, lies

1244
01:19:34.920 --> 01:19:37.040
and vows that created them.

1245
01:19:37.040 --> 01:19:39.000
We have been hijacked from our natural state

1246
01:19:39.000 --> 01:19:42.040
as daughters of God, a state where we are loved,

1247
01:19:42.040 --> 01:19:45.040
protected and overflowing with blessings.

1248
01:19:45.040 --> 01:19:47.800
And we've been put in an unnatural state

1249
01:19:47.800 --> 01:19:51.240
where we are survivors that have to strive,

1250
01:19:51.240 --> 01:19:53.680
fend for ourselves, settle for less

1251
01:19:53.680 --> 01:19:56.600
and always watching our backs.

1252
01:19:56.600 --> 01:19:58.720
This is the part of your story where the Holy Spirit

1253
01:19:58.720 --> 01:20:00.040
pulls back all of the.

1254
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:04.680
these counterfeit layers and uncovers the real you.

1255
01:20:05.520 --> 01:20:07.120
Praise the Lord.

1256
01:20:07.120 --> 01:20:09.160
Praise the Lord for Father right now,

1257
01:20:09.160 --> 01:20:12.040
just uncovering the real us.

1258
01:20:12.040 --> 01:20:13.960
More every day, helping us to come

1259
01:20:13.960 --> 01:20:15.680
into alignment and agreement.

1260
01:20:16.760 --> 01:20:19.720
Yes, Lord, thanks for renewing and transforming

1261
01:20:19.720 --> 01:20:21.600
the way we look at ourselves.

1262
01:20:21.600 --> 01:20:23.680
Help us to see ourselves through your eyes

1263
01:20:23.680 --> 01:20:25.180
and your perspective.

1264
01:20:27.160 --> 01:20:28.080
There we go.

1265
01:20:30.000 --> 01:20:32.960
Welcome back, it's okay for y'all to come back.

1266
01:20:32.960 --> 01:20:35.260
They're gonna start to come back here as well.

1267
01:20:36.320 --> 01:20:37.960
I might even read that part over again

1268
01:20:37.960 --> 01:20:38.920
cause that was so good.

1269
01:20:38.920 --> 01:20:41.160
So the ladies that were here that weren't able

1270
01:20:41.160 --> 01:20:42.800
to go and break out, so you're gonna hear it again

1271
01:20:42.800 --> 01:20:45.360
cause that was just freedom.

1272
01:20:45.360 --> 01:20:47.720
Lots of freedom in that part of the book,

1273
01:20:47.720 --> 01:20:51.200
in all of it, but really aligned with tonight's message.

1274
01:20:52.480 --> 01:20:54.680
Welcome back, we have 30 seconds

1275
01:20:54.680 --> 01:20:57.000
and everybody else will be back with us.

1276
01:20:58.000 --> 01:21:01.400
Praise the Lord, it's good to see you all.

1277
01:21:01.400 --> 01:21:04.160
I like to see your beautiful faces.

1278
01:21:06.000 --> 01:21:10.600
Emily, Lauren, hi there, all right.

1279
01:21:12.960 --> 01:21:16.040
Now I never know why God has me say certain people's names,

1280
01:21:16.040 --> 01:21:19.840
but do you know how many people will tell me after I do it?

1281
01:21:19.840 --> 01:21:23.960
Like I needed to know that God saw me.

1282
01:21:23.960 --> 01:21:25.520
That God saw me.

1283
01:21:25.520 --> 01:21:27.680
So I just always try to go with everything,

1284
01:21:27.680 --> 01:21:29.120
but don't ever feel left out

1285
01:21:29.120 --> 01:21:31.360
cause guess what God sees you too.

1286
01:21:31.360 --> 01:21:33.280
Just like Trina, he sees you.

1287
01:21:33.280 --> 01:21:34.520
Yes, he does.

1288
01:21:34.520 --> 01:21:35.920
He sees all of you.

1289
01:21:35.920 --> 01:21:37.360
So don't ever forget it.

1290
01:21:38.520 --> 01:21:41.320
To kind of circle back and close up what I said

1291
01:21:41.320 --> 01:21:43.080
about that woman that shared.

1292
01:21:43.080 --> 01:21:46.240
Y'all, my response to her was that the word of God declares

1293
01:21:46.240 --> 01:21:50.880
that his eyes are always on us, always.

1294
01:21:50.880 --> 01:21:53.280
And not in a condemning way, he loves us.

1295
01:21:53.640 --> 01:21:54.720
He's our dad.

1296
01:21:56.480 --> 01:21:59.960
His eyes are on us and he's looking out for us.

1297
01:21:59.960 --> 01:22:01.600
So I just want you guys to know that truth.

1298
01:22:01.600 --> 01:22:03.320
I'm gonna read something over you.

1299
01:22:03.320 --> 01:22:05.320
And then the ladies that are gonna share,

1300
01:22:05.320 --> 01:22:06.160
I want you to share.

1301
01:22:06.160 --> 01:22:08.160
But as I was praying,

1302
01:22:08.160 --> 01:22:09.880
I hadn't read this part of the book for a while,

1303
01:22:09.880 --> 01:22:11.240
but it was highlighted

1304
01:22:11.240 --> 01:22:12.680
and I was reading a scripture above it.

1305
01:22:12.680 --> 01:22:13.920
And then I was like, oh man,

1306
01:22:13.920 --> 01:22:15.440
this goes right along with our word

1307
01:22:15.440 --> 01:22:18.880
and like our content for tonight, if you will.

1308
01:22:18.880 --> 01:22:21.640
And this is from the book and this is what it says.

1309
01:22:21.760 --> 01:22:23.520
Here we are halfway through part three

1310
01:22:23.520 --> 01:22:25.560
and hopefully you are getting more and more ready

1311
01:22:25.560 --> 01:22:28.120
to let go of all the filters, blind spots

1312
01:22:28.120 --> 01:22:31.200
and false identities and the traumas,

1313
01:22:31.200 --> 01:22:33.480
lies and vows that created them.

1314
01:22:33.480 --> 01:22:35.720
We have been hijacked from our natural state

1315
01:22:35.720 --> 01:22:39.200
as daughters of God, a state where we are loved,

1316
01:22:39.200 --> 01:22:42.640
protected and overflowing with blessings.

1317
01:22:42.640 --> 01:22:44.880
And we were put in an unnatural state

1318
01:22:44.880 --> 01:22:48.080
where we are survivors that have to strive,

1319
01:22:48.080 --> 01:22:49.960
bend for ourselves, settle for less

1320
01:22:49.960 --> 01:22:51.920
and always watch our backs.

1321
01:22:51.920 --> 01:22:54.040
This is the part of your story

1322
01:22:54.040 --> 01:22:55.880
where the Holy Spirit pulls back

1323
01:22:55.880 --> 01:23:00.720
all of the counterfeit layers and uncovers the real you.

1324
01:23:01.600 --> 01:23:04.040
And she goes on there to talk about the real you

1325
01:23:04.040 --> 01:23:05.480
and who that is.

1326
01:23:05.480 --> 01:23:06.960
But y'all, that's what's happening tonight.

1327
01:23:06.960 --> 01:23:09.720
The layers are getting pulled back

1328
01:23:09.720 --> 01:23:11.680
and you're gonna see the real you more and more

1329
01:23:11.680 --> 01:23:12.680
every single day.

1330
01:23:12.680 --> 01:23:13.720
Okay.

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01:23:13.720 --> 01:23:15.200
Holly, go ahead and share.

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01:23:17.120 --> 01:23:18.640
If you still want to share, I should say.

1333
01:23:18.640 --> 01:23:21.120
Sure, absolutely.

1334
01:23:21.120 --> 01:23:23.560
This goes back to like the first,

1335
01:23:23.560 --> 01:23:27.480
the question you asked us before the first one, the lie.

1336
01:23:27.480 --> 01:23:31.440
And I'm 47, I've never been married,

1337
01:23:32.800 --> 01:23:36.680
I've never had a like long-term relationship.

1338
01:23:36.680 --> 01:23:40.360
And so the lie that I've just come to believe in my 40s

1339
01:23:40.360 --> 01:23:44.040
to like help me feel better about being single

1340
01:23:44.040 --> 01:23:48.680
is that I must not be designed for marriage or family.

1341
01:23:48.680 --> 01:23:53.680
And so I must be called to remain single, so.

1342
01:23:56.280 --> 01:23:59.560
Wow, that's pretty huge.

1343
01:23:59.560 --> 01:24:02.600
And so I wanna encourage you to ask the Lord,

1344
01:24:02.600 --> 01:24:05.160
when is the first time you believed that lie?

1345
01:24:06.480 --> 01:24:08.360
When's the first time you started telling yourself

1346
01:24:08.360 --> 01:24:10.120
that story and you believe that lie

1347
01:24:10.120 --> 01:24:12.720
that you weren't designed for marriage and family?

1348
01:24:13.560 --> 01:24:16.040
You all will be surprised sometimes.

1349
01:24:16.040 --> 01:24:17.680
It might be when you were older,

1350
01:24:17.680 --> 01:24:19.280
but there could have even been something

1351
01:24:19.280 --> 01:24:22.560
when you were younger that took root and was planted

1352
01:24:22.560 --> 01:24:24.600
that when you were going through trauma

1353
01:24:24.600 --> 01:24:28.280
and the pain of waiting, if you will, or any other thing

1354
01:24:28.280 --> 01:24:31.240
that it might've partnered with that.

1355
01:24:31.240 --> 01:24:32.320
I kind of say partnered,

1356
01:24:32.320 --> 01:24:34.840
but that's kind of how strongholds form

1357
01:24:34.840 --> 01:24:38.480
is the lies that we believe kind of start forming together

1358
01:24:38.480 --> 01:24:40.080
and they get fortified over time.

1359
01:24:40.080 --> 01:24:42.600
Every time we're hurt in the same way,

1360
01:24:43.480 --> 01:24:46.800
it gets harder for us to break through those things,

1361
01:24:46.800 --> 01:24:47.840
if you will.

1362
01:24:47.840 --> 01:24:49.840
But again, God can help us break through all those things.

1363
01:24:49.840 --> 01:24:54.840
But also, I just wanna say to you all,

1364
01:24:55.880 --> 01:24:59.880
Jackie talks about this, that if you felt,

1365
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:05.200
Led here. Some of you all might say I've only felt really led here for heartwork.

1366
01:25:05.200 --> 01:25:07.920
And I don't even know if I want to get married and that's okay. That's fine.

1367
01:25:08.640 --> 01:25:13.520
Because God needs to show you what he has for you and what he wants for you. But some of you

1368
01:25:13.520 --> 01:25:21.600
are telling yourselves that too, because it's safer. You feel safer saying those kinds of things.

1369
01:25:22.560 --> 01:25:27.280
Um, but if God led for the majority of you, God led you here,

1370
01:25:28.480 --> 01:25:34.480
because somewhere deep in your heart, you believe you were created for marriage.

1371
01:25:36.000 --> 01:25:41.360
And some of you believe you were created to have a family with kids and all this stuff.

1372
01:25:42.960 --> 01:25:48.240
And so if the enemy is still trying to tell you, you're not designed for family and marriage,

1373
01:25:48.240 --> 01:25:53.920
but you believe you were drawn here for it. Well, that's, you know, that that's that

1374
01:25:53.920 --> 01:26:00.320
contradiction. So where did that come from? And so the way to come out of alignment agreement,

1375
01:26:00.320 --> 01:26:05.760
anytime I say that you all, it's just automatically in Jesus name, I no longer

1376
01:26:05.760 --> 01:26:10.160
will align with the lie that I'm not designed for marriage and family.

1377
01:26:10.880 --> 01:26:15.440
And Lord, I come into alignment with inner dependence on you and trusting

1378
01:26:16.320 --> 01:26:22.320
that you are going to fulfill all of your promises for me, including family and marriage.

1379
01:26:23.520 --> 01:26:28.080
And you just start shifting, you just start shifting. And some of y'all might not believe

1380
01:26:28.080 --> 01:26:34.080
what you're praying at first, but I would encourage you if you have, um, you know,

1381
01:26:34.080 --> 01:26:37.680
says this muster seed of faith, and there's all these scriptures and understanding about that.

1382
01:26:37.680 --> 01:26:44.800
But I said this, I think last week, I believe help my unbelief y'all. I had unbelief at the

1383
01:26:44.800 --> 01:26:51.200
same time that I had belief sometimes. And I just would be real honest with God. Like I do believe

1384
01:26:51.200 --> 01:26:57.360
God, but man, I really, sometimes I'm having a hard time believing. So help my unbelief.

1385
01:26:58.320 --> 01:27:04.240
Give me faith. I would ask God for the gift of faith all the time. Y'all know that that faith,

1386
01:27:04.240 --> 01:27:08.960
you know, it is a choice, but it's also a gift we can receive from heaven.

1387
01:27:09.520 --> 01:27:18.640
He's the giver of good gifts. Guess what? You can ask him for more faith, more hope. He's the God of

1388
01:27:18.640 --> 01:27:24.720
hope. Hope deferred makes the heart six. If your heart's feeling sick, maybe we need a,

1389
01:27:24.720 --> 01:27:30.720
we need a fresh outpouring of the Holy spirit and a fresh outpouring of his hope and his,

1390
01:27:31.200 --> 01:27:39.520
his renewal and refreshing. Maybe that's you Holly. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable

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with us about that. I think there's probably a lot more ladies that have similar thoughts,

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even if it doesn't sound the same, there might be some similarities there. Go ahead,

1393
01:27:47.600 --> 01:27:55.280
Brenda. We'd love to hear what you have to say. Hello. So it's my first time and Bethany it's

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01:27:55.280 --> 01:28:03.120
been amazing. So thank you so much. Yeah. So my lie, as it happens for everybody else and not for

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01:28:03.120 --> 01:28:13.760
me. And so I can it's just, it's interesting. The girl that went before me, because I'm going to be

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51 and a couple of weeks never been engaged. I've never been married, but yeah. And I've

1397
01:28:22.560 --> 01:28:27.200
just felt even saying spirit mate, I'm just even getting triggered, you know,

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01:28:27.200 --> 01:28:33.200
cause it's kind of like, okay, well hasn't happened yet. So not sure if it's going,

1399
01:28:33.200 --> 01:28:37.600
you know what I mean? Because it's like, I'm getting older and older. So that's, that's hard.

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01:28:38.800 --> 01:28:43.600
Yeah. And, and, you know, I want to say to some of you all, I'm, you know, I don't know,

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01:28:43.600 --> 01:28:48.640
for those of you that have never been married, never engaged or older, some of y'all got caught

1402
01:28:48.640 --> 01:28:53.680
in the purity culture and the things and teachings that were being given out, you know,

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01:28:53.680 --> 01:28:57.120
that it's not even okay to date because if you're not going to want to get married,

1404
01:28:57.120 --> 01:29:04.240
you shouldn't even date all this stuff. And, you know, I just feel this need to maybe just

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01:29:04.880 --> 01:29:08.640
say, I'm sorry. I'm sorry that the church, they were doing their best.

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01:29:09.920 --> 01:29:14.880
I think people try to interpret what, you know, again, we know in part, we see in part,

1407
01:29:14.880 --> 01:29:20.880
we don't fully understand sometimes what God is even saying to us. And so often the church didn't

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01:29:20.880 --> 01:29:24.240
know what to do with people that are single because they don't want people to lust and they

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01:29:24.240 --> 01:29:28.800
don't want people to, you know, get caught up on the sin. And so then they just say, don't date.

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01:29:30.880 --> 01:29:36.000
And just for me that, yeah, sorry, for me, that wasn't the case. Okay. I think part of it is

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01:29:36.640 --> 01:29:42.480
I've only known the Lord since I was like 38. I'm actually Jewish. So I actually don't come

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01:29:42.480 --> 01:29:50.400
from your church. But for me, it's just, I was in a really, it's kind of interesting, but like

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01:29:50.400 --> 01:29:56.960
abusive relationship, but that's how I came to know the Lord. So I just feel like it's just been this

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01:29:58.480 --> 01:29:59.840
process. The Lord's had me on.

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01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:06.720
one, you know, because my whole thing is like, wanting to be healed and prepared.

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01:30:06.720 --> 01:30:12.680
But at the same time, yeah, just not, you know, the whole thing and just not understanding

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01:30:12.680 --> 01:30:15.360
like his times are not our times.

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01:30:15.360 --> 01:30:21.760
And so and then when you see it around you, you know, so that, yeah, that's hard.

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01:30:21.760 --> 01:30:22.760
Yeah.

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01:30:22.760 --> 01:30:23.760
So, yeah.

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01:30:23.760 --> 01:30:26.960
So learning a little bit more about kind of your dynamic, I'm going to really encourage

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01:30:26.960 --> 01:30:30.920
you obviously right now in heart work, we don't want you focusing on men, but the heart

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01:30:30.920 --> 01:30:35.280
works five, you know, weeks or however long it takes each one of you again, also just

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01:30:35.280 --> 01:30:37.840
so you all know, everybody starts at different times.

1425
01:30:37.840 --> 01:30:40.080
So don't compare yourself to where other people are.

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01:30:40.080 --> 01:30:42.600
Just don't even get caught up in that from the enemy.

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01:30:42.600 --> 01:30:43.840
Super important.

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01:30:43.840 --> 01:30:49.280
But one of the things that kind of stood out when you were saying that is just the, I need

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01:30:49.280 --> 01:30:52.760
to wait until I'm, I'm all healed and whole.

1430
01:30:52.760 --> 01:30:54.080
And, and I had that too.

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01:30:54.080 --> 01:30:55.080
I did.

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01:30:55.080 --> 01:30:56.080
I did.

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And that was good for me for a season, because for me, I went from one relationship to another

1434
01:31:01.240 --> 01:31:03.880
relationship to another, and that wasn't good for me.

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01:31:03.880 --> 01:31:08.880
So it was good for me to take a break, but some of some people put themselves in time

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01:31:08.880 --> 01:31:13.240
out and then they don't come out of time out.

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01:31:13.240 --> 01:31:17.760
Some people even in heart work, I said this even today, some people are like, have been

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01:31:17.760 --> 01:31:19.760
in heart work for months.

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01:31:19.760 --> 01:31:24.320
And I want to encourage you, not, not you, Brenda, but this is for people that have been

1440
01:31:24.320 --> 01:31:25.320
in heart.

1441
01:31:25.560 --> 01:31:26.560
We love that.

1442
01:31:26.560 --> 01:31:30.880
You guys want to, to heal your hearts and we want you to take your time.

1443
01:31:30.880 --> 01:31:36.200
But some of you all like, you don't need to keep staying here.

1444
01:31:36.200 --> 01:31:41.120
If you're finished with the heart work, I'm going to encourage you to move forward.

1445
01:31:41.120 --> 01:31:42.360
It's time.

1446
01:31:42.360 --> 01:31:48.320
And some of you all like it's, it's this, and again, some of you will definitely be

1447
01:31:48.320 --> 01:31:53.320
led by the Holy spirit to stay, you know, three weeks in forgiveness, or I'm not saying

1448
01:31:53.320 --> 01:31:58.760
don't follow Holy spirit, but what I am saying is that there's this level of, I've got to

1449
01:31:58.760 --> 01:32:02.000
get all cleaned up.

1450
01:32:02.000 --> 01:32:09.920
I can't have any residue at all, or my spirit mate, where it's not going to work out.

1451
01:32:09.920 --> 01:32:16.240
And some of that comes from fear you all just, it's the fear of, I don't want the same thing

1452
01:32:16.240 --> 01:32:17.240
to happen again.

1453
01:32:17.240 --> 01:32:21.200
It could be the fear of like, you know, a lot of other things, but that's kind of what

1454
01:32:21.200 --> 01:32:23.280
comes to mind, especially with what you're saying.

1455
01:32:23.280 --> 01:32:29.920
You've been through a little bit there and you just want to make sure you're not putting

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01:32:29.920 --> 01:32:32.560
yourself in time out long term.

1457
01:32:32.560 --> 01:32:33.560
Okay.

1458
01:32:33.560 --> 01:32:37.280
So just as you're here, let God move you forward.

1459
01:32:37.280 --> 01:32:40.280
Let him show you what you're, what you might be afraid of.

1460
01:32:40.280 --> 01:32:43.240
You know, all of the things, what do you mean completed heartwork?

1461
01:32:43.240 --> 01:32:52.240
That means you've finished all five weeks of your videos, the book reading, the journaling.

1462
01:32:52.240 --> 01:32:54.480
That's what that means.

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01:32:54.480 --> 01:32:56.840
Best practice is one week of content per week.

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01:32:56.840 --> 01:33:02.520
And we, we don't recommend any binge watching of videos, any binge watch or binge reading

1465
01:33:02.520 --> 01:33:03.840
y'all.

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01:33:03.840 --> 01:33:09.600
The goal isn't to open the book and read it all the way through it's to watch videos and

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01:33:09.600 --> 01:33:11.440
reading each week.

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01:33:11.440 --> 01:33:15.960
And then the next section and it builds, we we've worked really hard to get it to where

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01:33:15.960 --> 01:33:18.160
it's at and it's working.

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01:33:18.160 --> 01:33:21.260
It's working really, really well and it's setting people free.

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01:33:21.260 --> 01:33:23.200
So follow what we're recommending.

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01:33:23.200 --> 01:33:25.360
There's a reason that's what we're recommending.

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01:33:25.360 --> 01:33:26.360
Okay.

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01:33:26.360 --> 01:33:30.840
I'm so sorry, sidebar, but Brenda, thank you for sharing.

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01:33:30.840 --> 01:33:32.800
I want to encourage you all.

1476
01:33:32.800 --> 01:33:33.800
Yeah.

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01:33:33.800 --> 01:33:38.240
I'm really open to letting the Lord.

1478
01:33:38.240 --> 01:33:42.640
You said your lie was for everyone else, but not for me.

1479
01:33:42.640 --> 01:33:47.160
So where does that come from again, ladies, it's asking the Lord for the root.

1480
01:33:47.160 --> 01:33:48.440
So we're not digging.

1481
01:33:48.440 --> 01:33:50.040
You're not digging.

1482
01:33:50.040 --> 01:33:52.920
We're asking the Lord to reveal things for healing.

1483
01:33:52.920 --> 01:33:59.640
So where, when is the first time you believed that everybody else would get it, but you

1484
01:33:59.640 --> 01:34:02.480
could not have it.

1485
01:34:02.480 --> 01:34:05.680
And then that's the, that's where you'll go to that revealing for healing cycle.

1486
01:34:05.680 --> 01:34:07.720
And you'll work through that.

1487
01:34:07.720 --> 01:34:12.040
And I would encourage you guys, if you got, if any of you are trying to process some of

1488
01:34:12.040 --> 01:34:16.960
this stuff and you're, you're like, I don't know what to do with what is coming up.

1489
01:34:16.960 --> 01:34:21.000
Just do a post in the group and we'll, we'll coach, we'll talk back and forth with you

1490
01:34:21.000 --> 01:34:22.520
and we'll coach you through it.

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01:34:22.520 --> 01:34:23.520
Okay.

1492
01:34:23.520 --> 01:34:26.120
We'll help you unpack this stuff more super important.

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01:34:26.120 --> 01:34:28.960
Don't let yourself get stuck anywhere in any place.

1494
01:34:28.960 --> 01:34:29.960
Okay.

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01:34:29.960 --> 01:34:30.960
I know it's nine 35.

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Anyone needs to log off.

1497
01:34:32.400 --> 01:34:33.400
It's okay.

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01:34:33.400 --> 01:34:34.400
I understand.

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I do want Trina to be able to share and and then I'll share one more scripture and close

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us out.

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Trina, go ahead.

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01:34:43.840 --> 01:34:51.000
There's two lies that I continuously tell myself is one, this is punishment for my divorce

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01:34:51.000 --> 01:34:56.080
and two there's no more good men.

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01:34:56.080 --> 01:34:58.960
There's no good men out there left for me.

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So

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Okay. Um, this reminded me for those of you, when you get to the week that has the divorce and

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01:35:06.800 --> 01:35:13.600
remarriage special session, that's not just for people who have gone through divorce. It is for

1509
01:35:13.600 --> 01:35:19.440
those people, but everybody for the most part knows someone that's gone through divorce. And

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01:35:19.440 --> 01:35:24.320
some of you all have had parents that have gone through divorce and you need to listen to that

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01:35:24.320 --> 01:35:31.760
for healing in that regard. Okay. So please don't avoid that and don't skip over it. It is for

1512
01:35:31.760 --> 01:35:38.960
everyone. Um, but it made me think of that, um, for you, uh, Trina, when you get to that video,

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01:35:38.960 --> 01:35:42.480
I think it's going to bring a lot of freedom and healing. And I think God's going to do a lot even

1514
01:35:42.480 --> 01:35:51.360
before then. Um, so anybody that believes that you're being punished for a divorce or any kind

1515
01:35:51.360 --> 01:35:59.200
of mistake that you've made key. Okay. You need to ask the Lord what, like, did you hear that from

1516
01:35:59.200 --> 01:36:06.000
someone else? Did you hear that in the church? Is that an old tape playing because you know,

1517
01:36:06.000 --> 01:36:12.400
somewhere in your childhood, someone like you got punished, not just, you know, um,

1518
01:36:13.440 --> 01:36:17.920
not just redirected as a kid or not, you know, obviously your parents are going to discipline us,

1519
01:36:17.920 --> 01:36:25.760
but like the harshness, like the punish punish. It was definitely from church. Like, yeah, you were

1520
01:36:25.760 --> 01:36:30.480
like, I took my name off the church books, like, because I got a divorce.

1521
01:36:32.880 --> 01:36:34.640
So were you punishing yourself?

1522
01:36:40.160 --> 01:36:43.600
When you say you took yourself off the church books because you got a divorce,

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01:36:43.760 --> 01:36:51.440
I was told I should do. Okay. Okay. Yeah. So I feel like God's going to do some healing regarding

1524
01:36:51.440 --> 01:36:58.560
church there for you too. Um, you know, um, okay. I'm going to be careful to not go too long,

1525
01:36:58.560 --> 01:37:04.400
but I feel like this is important. So I, when I went through my divorce,

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01:37:04.400 --> 01:37:10.240
I separated from my ex-husband before I actually filed for divorce and I was teaching children's

1527
01:37:10.240 --> 01:37:16.880
church at, uh, uh, at the time to these little kids and y'all, they took me off the roster without

1528
01:37:16.880 --> 01:37:26.160
even talking to me. And I remember just being so wounded, like what I didn't even do anything wrong.

1529
01:37:26.160 --> 01:37:31.760
I just, I just moved out and separated because it was really unhealthy and bad.

1530
01:37:33.280 --> 01:37:39.760
And so I'm saying this because God helped me forgive them because they didn't know what they

1531
01:37:39.760 --> 01:37:47.360
were doing. Y'all years later, the guy, and I'm not glad this happened to his sister-in-law by

1532
01:37:47.360 --> 01:37:54.080
any means, but the guy that removed me from that teaching roster, his sister-in-law ended up going

1533
01:37:54.080 --> 01:38:03.520
through a divorce. And I believe God changed their heart regarding divorce, not because, you know,

1534
01:38:03.520 --> 01:38:09.280
God wants us to go through divorce or anyone to have that. But like, as Jackie talks about

1535
01:38:09.280 --> 01:38:17.520
divorce is a rescue mission sometimes. And so just want to encourage you to in these next several

1536
01:38:17.520 --> 01:38:25.280
weeks, just really be praying and asking the Lord to help you forgive those people, uh, for the way

1537
01:38:25.280 --> 01:38:32.880
that they treated you and didn't represent the father's heart to you. Um, and just that God would

1538
01:38:32.880 --> 01:38:41.200
help you to, um, in those moments where you felt, you know, I don't want to assume what you felt,

1539
01:38:41.200 --> 01:38:48.800
but whatever you felt when that stuff was happening and that you would hear what God was saying over

1540
01:38:48.800 --> 01:38:56.560
you instead. And so many of us, we don't, we don't take time to pause and say, God, like,

1541
01:38:56.560 --> 01:39:00.560
this is what these people are saying to me. This is how they're treating me. But what do you say?

1542
01:39:01.520 --> 01:39:03.840
What do you say? Who do you say? I am.

1543
01:39:06.640 --> 01:39:12.240
And some of you need to do that with your little girl selves, with your adult self,

1544
01:39:12.240 --> 01:39:20.160
whenever the trauma happened, Jesus show me, where were you? Jesus helped me to hear what

1545
01:39:20.160 --> 01:39:26.960
you want me to hear about that situation. And they, I'm serious, God and Jesus and Holy spirit.

1546
01:39:27.920 --> 01:39:32.800
They, they will show you, they will show you truth and they will show you love and they'll

1547
01:39:32.800 --> 01:39:37.200
show you where they were. Some of y'all are going to have revelation that God was

1548
01:39:37.200 --> 01:39:46.240
crying and he wept for you when stuff was happening. And if you don't believe me that

1549
01:39:46.240 --> 01:39:51.440
God, I don't know. I imagine God weeps because Jesus wept and they're three in one.

1550
01:39:51.440 --> 01:39:57.200
Jesus wept when his, his friend Lazarus died.

1551
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:02.480
Why did he do that? He knew he was going to raise him back up.

1552
01:40:05.760 --> 01:40:11.920
I think it is to show us that he had emotion, that God is an emotional God,

1553
01:40:11.920 --> 01:40:15.600
and he cares about the pain that we feel and have felt.

1554
01:40:18.400 --> 01:40:21.760
Yeah, Melissa, me too. I feel Holy Spirit. That's why I'm lingering.

1555
01:40:21.760 --> 01:40:25.600
Y'all, I got to watch. I'll go Holy Spirit all night long on you, but I can't.

1556
01:40:25.600 --> 01:40:30.880
I can't. We're about to close up. I almost forgot. I wanted to say one other thing.

1557
01:40:30.880 --> 01:40:34.320
Katie wrote in the chat before you went in the first breakout

1558
01:40:35.920 --> 01:40:40.720
that the lie she was believing was no good man is going to want her because of her. She's got

1559
01:40:40.720 --> 01:40:47.200
three kids. She's got debt. I forget the rest of it, Katie, but for all of my single mamas,

1560
01:40:48.560 --> 01:40:53.680
guess what? Y'all, there are good men and Trina, there's a good man for you too.

1561
01:40:53.760 --> 01:41:00.640
Okay. For all my single mamas, I can tell you from my own experience, y'all,

1562
01:41:00.640 --> 01:41:08.400
I have not had a biological kid myself yet. I believe I'm gonna, God's spoken some specific

1563
01:41:08.400 --> 01:41:16.000
things to us and we're working on that. But here's what I want to tell you is I have a stepson.

1564
01:41:16.000 --> 01:41:22.080
I have two spiritual daughters and none of them are mine biologically, but I absolutely love them

1565
01:41:22.880 --> 01:41:30.720
like they're mine. Like not just, oh, that's nice. Like fight for them in the spirit,

1566
01:41:30.720 --> 01:41:38.080
love them, pour into them. And I promise you that there are men like me in that sense,

1567
01:41:38.080 --> 01:41:43.440
that will love your kids, that will love you and will not see you as a burden, but a blessing.

1568
01:41:44.320 --> 01:41:49.040
Do you know that there are men out in the world who love the Lord, who are full of the Holy Spirit,

1569
01:41:49.040 --> 01:41:52.560
that walk in the fruits of the spirit, that have always wanted to be married

1570
01:41:52.560 --> 01:41:56.960
and have kids, but haven't felt like they knew how to get it?

1571
01:41:59.760 --> 01:42:05.200
I know there are because it's happening to women in our group and in our community,

1572
01:42:06.240 --> 01:42:15.840
like all the time. So I encourage you, please do not decide whatever your situation is that

1573
01:42:15.840 --> 01:42:18.960
count yourself out because of those things. That's not true.

1574
01:42:21.360 --> 01:42:24.880
That's not true. You're a package, but man, you're a good package.

1575
01:42:26.000 --> 01:42:31.120
And that's what you need to align with. Okay. So whatever your package is, y'all debt,

1576
01:42:32.080 --> 01:42:38.320
debt can be dissipated. God can give you an increase in ways you can't even imagine. And

1577
01:42:38.320 --> 01:42:45.280
he can teach you how to steward money and all kinds of stuff. Your divorce doesn't have to

1578
01:42:45.280 --> 01:42:50.960
define you. Your past doesn't have to define you. Your debt doesn't have to define like none of this

1579
01:42:50.960 --> 01:43:03.360
stuff in the hands of God, anything can be made new. Anything. So I want you all to breathe in

1580
01:43:03.360 --> 01:43:09.600
the Holy spirit tonight. He's doing something pretty big. I know it. I feel it. Here's the

1581
01:43:09.600 --> 01:43:16.320
scripture I want to leave you with. And it's Psalm 51, 10 through 12. It says created me a

1582
01:43:16.320 --> 01:43:22.000
pure heart of God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or

1583
01:43:22.000 --> 01:43:30.160
take your Holy spirit from me, restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing

1584
01:43:30.160 --> 01:43:34.880
spirit to sustain me. One of the things I want to encourage you all in the days that you don't

1585
01:43:34.880 --> 01:43:42.480
feel joy. I want to encourage you to think about when you gave your life to Christ and the joy of

1586
01:43:42.480 --> 01:43:47.440
that moment. And what I said earlier today is for some of you, maybe it wasn't joyful,

1587
01:43:48.000 --> 01:43:53.280
but I believe God wants to bring joy into your relationship with him. Like you've never

1588
01:43:53.280 --> 01:43:58.880
experienced it before. Some of you all maybe grew up in the faith, maybe you're a pastor's kid,

1589
01:43:58.880 --> 01:44:04.400
and you were just kind of told to believe. And, and so you do. And so maybe it didn't feel like

1590
01:44:04.400 --> 01:44:10.960
this big conversion or whatever for you. And so even those individuals, I want to encourage you.

1591
01:44:10.960 --> 01:44:18.560
God wants to do something new in you and he wants it to be personal between you and him close.

1592
01:44:19.440 --> 01:44:26.320
Y'all I laugh with God. I have so much fun talking to him. It's fun. It's fun to be his friend.

1593
01:44:26.560 --> 01:44:31.440
Yeah. I'm going to pray us out. Father, thank you so much for your beautiful daughters.

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Yes, Lord. Thank you that you call us by name, that your eyes go to and fro all throughout the earth.

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You're omnipresent. You're present at every place at all times. Nothing is too hard for you.

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God, I thank you that you're working even right now that you're, you're working in the hearts

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of the minds of your daughter and the spirits.

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God, I thank you that you would just place the.

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of Gilead upon every wound, every fear that you would dispel fear right now in Jesus' name.

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Yes, Lord, we bind and we break up in the name of Jesus Christ, every spirit of fear,

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every spirit of anxiety, depression, oppression in Jesus' name. And we lose the spirit of love

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and of power and of a sound mind, a spirit of joy, a spirit of hope. Yes, Lord, wash over them

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with fresh hope, even while they sleep tonight. Lord, I thank you that some of these ladies,

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they're going to go to bed tonight and they're going to wake up and they're going to feel new

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tomorrow. God, I thank you for supernatural surgery in the heart. You're the great physician.

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I thank you, God, that you are tender, that you stand at the door of our hearts and you knock

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and you won't force your way in. So Lord, we thank you that you'll help us to answer

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and to trust you in Jesus' name. Amen. God bless you. We'll see you in the group and you all will

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be back again next week at 1 o'clock and 8 o'clock PM Eastern time. I hope that you guys just join

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us for prayer when you can. Join in when you can. It's super important, but it's not like,

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don't feel like it's a requirement, but it will bless you if you come. All right. All right.