WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:05.000 whether or how she takes care of herself in other ways, 2 00:00:06.520 --> 00:00:09.780 like spiritually, intellectually, 3 00:00:11.120 --> 00:00:12.840 kind of all the different parts of herself 4 00:00:12.840 --> 00:00:14.160 aside from physically? 5 00:00:16.600 --> 00:00:18.640 Well, she's a pretty busy lady 6 00:00:18.640 --> 00:00:21.960 because she's a pediatric nurse practitioner. 7 00:00:21.960 --> 00:00:23.200 So she's right underneath the doctor. 8 00:00:23.200 --> 00:00:25.400 So she's got a pretty heavy workload. 9 00:00:25.400 --> 00:00:28.960 So she's more or less like a nine to fiver 10 00:00:29.000 --> 00:00:31.120 or kind of like a eight to four or whatever, 11 00:00:31.120 --> 00:00:32.520 something like that. 12 00:00:32.520 --> 00:00:35.220 So she works all day long, Monday through Friday. 13 00:00:38.000 --> 00:00:41.240 She, I don't, I mean, like, 14 00:00:41.240 --> 00:00:43.480 I mean, as far as I guys think about like you guys, 15 00:00:43.480 --> 00:00:46.000 I feel like I'm probably the less, 16 00:00:46.000 --> 00:00:49.440 I'm like the less holy out of a lot of you guys here. 17 00:00:49.440 --> 00:00:53.080 You know, I'm trying to pray more and do more 18 00:00:53.080 --> 00:00:56.600 and get more involved and live it more than I ever have. 19 00:00:56.600 --> 00:01:01.600 But I think she goes to church on occasions. 20 00:01:02.700 --> 00:01:03.680 She does pray at night, 21 00:01:03.680 --> 00:01:05.580 at least that's what she tells me. 22 00:01:08.080 --> 00:01:09.600 You know, she goes out to eat a lot. 23 00:01:09.600 --> 00:01:10.840 You know, she drinks a little bit, 24 00:01:10.840 --> 00:01:12.200 but it's not an issue 25 00:01:12.200 --> 00:01:13.880 because I would have ran away right away. 26 00:01:13.880 --> 00:01:15.640 So alcohol is not really an issue. 27 00:01:18.680 --> 00:01:21.200 She doesn't do really like any physical activity. 28 00:01:21.200 --> 00:01:23.000 She's kind of more like a dinner party gal, 29 00:01:23.000 --> 00:01:24.440 you know, kind of hangs out with friends 30 00:01:24.440 --> 00:01:26.880 and go wine tasting, that kind of stuff. 31 00:01:30.320 --> 00:01:32.000 I mean, she's awesome. 32 00:01:32.000 --> 00:01:36.760 She's kind, you know, 33 00:01:36.760 --> 00:01:39.280 but I look at taking care of yourself 34 00:01:39.280 --> 00:01:40.280 as being a little selfish. 35 00:01:40.280 --> 00:01:42.400 You know, you gotta make the sacrifices 36 00:01:42.400 --> 00:01:44.960 and take the time to go to the gym and stuff like that 37 00:01:44.960 --> 00:01:46.360 or walk or something. 38 00:01:46.360 --> 00:01:47.800 So I don't know. 39 00:01:47.800 --> 00:01:49.080 I think she's doing good. 40 00:01:49.080 --> 00:01:50.800 Average lady, you know, pretty cool. 41 00:01:50.800 --> 00:01:53.720 But the eating habits, you know, 42 00:01:53.720 --> 00:01:56.640 I think she's kind of ignorant of the nutritional stuff, 43 00:01:56.640 --> 00:01:59.080 you know, and like the bad habits over the years. 44 00:02:00.280 --> 00:02:03.640 She was married before for about five to six years. 45 00:02:04.680 --> 00:02:06.720 So, and then the last couple of years of her marriage 46 00:02:06.720 --> 00:02:07.560 turned pretty cold. 47 00:02:07.560 --> 00:02:10.199 So I was kind of thinking like maybe this snowball effect 48 00:02:11.400 --> 00:02:14.920 of, you know, just getting sad and then it got cold. 49 00:02:14.920 --> 00:02:17.000 And then she even told me at one point 50 00:02:17.000 --> 00:02:19.040 she gave up on dating. 51 00:02:19.040 --> 00:02:20.560 And then one of her friends just like 52 00:02:20.560 --> 00:02:22.520 made her download Hinge. 53 00:02:23.400 --> 00:02:24.920 And she like landed on me. 54 00:02:24.920 --> 00:02:26.480 And like, I felt like I got pretty lucky 55 00:02:26.480 --> 00:02:27.320 to kind of land on her 56 00:02:27.320 --> 00:02:29.160 because we're really close in culture 57 00:02:29.160 --> 00:02:31.760 and thought process and growing up and stuff. 58 00:02:31.760 --> 00:02:33.120 It's pretty close, which is nice. 59 00:02:33.120 --> 00:02:34.600 It's like, we're super nice. 60 00:02:36.200 --> 00:02:39.320 Is that the one thing that you're like most attracted 61 00:02:39.320 --> 00:02:40.320 about like what's, 62 00:02:40.320 --> 00:02:42.480 if you could narrow it down to the one thing 63 00:02:42.480 --> 00:02:44.600 that's like the most attractive, 64 00:02:44.600 --> 00:02:47.320 like what was it that really like, 65 00:02:47.320 --> 00:02:50.280 yeah, this girl's worthy of pursuing here? 66 00:02:50.280 --> 00:02:51.560 I just probably like, 67 00:02:51.560 --> 00:02:54.120 I've probably just learned too many statistics 68 00:02:54.120 --> 00:02:55.040 that kind of don't matter, 69 00:02:55.040 --> 00:02:57.680 but there's a lot of stats about how 70 00:02:57.680 --> 00:02:59.400 if you're the same religion, 71 00:02:59.400 --> 00:03:01.320 you have similar culture, 72 00:03:01.320 --> 00:03:03.040 you kind of like, it lasts longer. 73 00:03:03.040 --> 00:03:04.560 People have better success rates. 74 00:03:04.560 --> 00:03:08.320 So maybe I'm being a little mechanical about that. 75 00:03:08.320 --> 00:03:09.160 But- 76 00:03:09.160 --> 00:03:10.040 Like mindedness of it? 77 00:03:10.040 --> 00:03:10.880 Yeah, yeah. 78 00:03:10.880 --> 00:03:12.480 Like she would say things, 79 00:03:12.480 --> 00:03:13.680 I would describe my lifestyle, 80 00:03:13.680 --> 00:03:15.200 I'd describe my grandparents 81 00:03:15.200 --> 00:03:17.520 and she'd be like, those are like my grandparents. 82 00:03:17.520 --> 00:03:19.440 And I'd be like, that's cool. 83 00:03:19.880 --> 00:03:23.200 And yeah, it was just like nice 84 00:03:23.200 --> 00:03:25.680 to meet somebody that was kind of like me. 85 00:03:25.680 --> 00:03:26.520 Get you. 86 00:03:26.520 --> 00:03:27.760 But besides the culture stuff, 87 00:03:27.760 --> 00:03:29.600 I think health for me is pretty big. 88 00:03:31.040 --> 00:03:33.480 My health culture, obviously religion, 89 00:03:34.360 --> 00:03:36.320 those are like probably my three pillars 90 00:03:36.320 --> 00:03:37.480 or it might be a fourth pillar there, 91 00:03:37.480 --> 00:03:42.160 but at this point I don't really care what color she is. 92 00:03:42.160 --> 00:03:43.840 I don't care what her eye color is. 93 00:03:43.840 --> 00:03:48.120 I don't give a shit about a lot of stuff, 94 00:03:48.160 --> 00:03:52.040 but I just wish she'd get a little healthier, 95 00:03:52.040 --> 00:03:54.000 but I'm being a little vain about that. 96 00:03:54.000 --> 00:03:55.320 But then again, it's really about her health. 97 00:03:55.320 --> 00:03:58.920 Like if that stroller got away from her guys, right? 98 00:03:58.920 --> 00:03:59.920 Pretend we're in a park, 99 00:03:59.920 --> 00:04:03.680 the stroller got away and it's rolling downhill. 100 00:04:03.680 --> 00:04:08.240 Is she gonna physically react and save my son? 101 00:04:09.520 --> 00:04:10.960 I'm trying to be kind of goofy a little bit here, 102 00:04:10.960 --> 00:04:15.120 but okay, the kid, my son's on the dresser. 103 00:04:15.120 --> 00:04:16.320 He's gonna fly off. 104 00:04:16.320 --> 00:04:17.480 He has no fear. 105 00:04:17.800 --> 00:04:20.399 Can you respond and save him? 106 00:04:21.480 --> 00:04:22.320 I don't know. 107 00:04:22.320 --> 00:04:23.600 I'm not trying to be a jerk. 108 00:04:24.560 --> 00:04:25.400 Well, I'll tell you- 109 00:04:25.400 --> 00:04:26.560 It's very tough. 110 00:04:26.560 --> 00:04:27.480 It's very tough. 111 00:04:27.480 --> 00:04:29.960 Thomas, I don't know if I answered your question, Thomas. 112 00:04:29.960 --> 00:04:31.600 Very well, sorry. 113 00:04:31.600 --> 00:04:33.320 Well, I think you kind of did. 114 00:04:33.320 --> 00:04:35.040 And I have a couple more thoughts, 115 00:04:35.040 --> 00:04:37.680 but David, I think you were trying to say something. 116 00:04:37.680 --> 00:04:39.240 I was just gonna say, 117 00:04:39.240 --> 00:04:44.240 like you mentioned her last few years, 118 00:04:44.280 --> 00:04:47.040 like having been married, gone through divorce, 119 00:04:48.440 --> 00:04:50.280 what that affected on her, I don't know, 120 00:04:50.280 --> 00:04:54.480 but was her wanting divorce or him or whatever, 121 00:04:54.480 --> 00:04:56.320 what happened there and all that, 122 00:04:56.320 --> 00:04:58.560 her job, the nine-to-five. 123 00:04:58.560 --> 00:05:00.560 So she's had a pretty stressful year. 124 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:07.360 So obviously that has, I'm sure contributed to her health and her condition, her lifestyle, 125 00:05:07.360 --> 00:05:10.600 that kind of thing, which contributes all to, you know, to the weight and everything. 126 00:05:10.600 --> 00:05:15.560 So don't underestimate the power of like the healthy relationship that you might bring 127 00:05:15.560 --> 00:05:20.000 that you guys might have together and how that might be incredibly motivating for her 128 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:26.280 to want to do this second marriage, possibly if it comes to that, like, like get ready 129 00:05:26.280 --> 00:05:27.280 for that. 130 00:05:27.280 --> 00:05:32.840 Like that's incredibly motivating for women to be able to like the wedding day or even 131 00:05:32.840 --> 00:05:39.720 just a new relationship, the, the, the de-stress that a new relationship might bring because 132 00:05:39.720 --> 00:05:45.680 of the way you're handling life versus the way she's had to handle life up until now. 133 00:05:45.680 --> 00:05:52.680 So there's an incredible factor, the X factor of this new life and love that not everything's 134 00:05:52.680 --> 00:06:01.080 going to be perfect, of course, but I'm just saying like, you know, Jackie was literally 135 00:06:01.080 --> 00:06:07.280 going through anxiety, panic disorder, all kinds of things. 136 00:06:07.280 --> 00:06:10.040 And I didn't know any of this really, because I didn't know her immediate history. 137 00:06:10.040 --> 00:06:11.040 I was just meeting her. 138 00:06:11.040 --> 00:06:15.320 We met in, you know, in April and were married by November that same year. 139 00:06:15.320 --> 00:06:20.360 But there were so many things that I now know now because I know the history and I know 140 00:06:20.360 --> 00:06:22.600 all the things that led up to that. 141 00:06:22.600 --> 00:06:25.920 But there were so many things I didn't really understand what kind of state of health she 142 00:06:25.920 --> 00:06:31.680 was in mentally and physically when we, when we actually first met. 143 00:06:31.680 --> 00:06:35.920 Because it was kind of serendipitous in terms of the way that happened. 144 00:06:35.920 --> 00:06:41.280 And just, I was, it was just, I think it was, this is the providential part of how we met 145 00:06:41.280 --> 00:06:43.360 and how we came together and why we came together. 146 00:06:43.360 --> 00:06:47.440 I think there was a lot of things that God was doing in this unbeknownst to both of us 147 00:06:47.440 --> 00:06:50.000 until many years later, we can look back on it. 148 00:06:50.000 --> 00:06:55.080 And there was, you know, part of her testimony is, is that just who I was as a person, my 149 00:06:55.080 --> 00:07:01.360 love, my affection, my just sincerity, my, you know, my just, you know, chill, you know, 150 00:07:01.360 --> 00:07:04.400 I wasn't in her face, you know, trying to make things different, whatever. 151 00:07:04.400 --> 00:07:08.200 My chillness about it was like, that made like all the difference in the world. 152 00:07:08.200 --> 00:07:11.080 She literally just panicked, just literally went away. 153 00:07:11.080 --> 00:07:16.640 She literally became healthy almost, you know, almost overnight type thing in terms of just 154 00:07:16.640 --> 00:07:21.440 a better state of being, which then led her on the path and trajectory to, you know, like 155 00:07:21.440 --> 00:07:22.440 where we're at now. 156 00:07:22.440 --> 00:07:24.880 And it's not, you know, it's not all me. 157 00:07:24.880 --> 00:07:30.120 I'm just saying, you know, our relationship was able to bring out new facets and dimensions 158 00:07:30.120 --> 00:07:34.160 of both of us that are better selves. 159 00:07:34.160 --> 00:07:37.440 So there's that. 160 00:07:37.440 --> 00:07:40.880 I think nursing culture even can, can be tough. 161 00:07:41.800 --> 00:07:49.120 Two of my sisters are nurses and they spend all day kind of taking care of other people's 162 00:07:49.120 --> 00:07:54.760 bodies and it can be hard sometimes to kind of invest the energy, kind of taking care 163 00:07:54.760 --> 00:07:59.240 of their own selves. 164 00:07:59.240 --> 00:08:03.040 And there's kind of a culture of not taking care of yourself, like in parts of nursing, 165 00:08:03.040 --> 00:08:06.280 I feel like, which, which makes things difficult as a nurse practitioner, it might be a little 166 00:08:06.280 --> 00:08:10.200 different and it sounds like she's not doing night shifts or anything like that. 167 00:08:10.760 --> 00:08:16.520 I think that a little bit along the lines of what Chris just put in the chat, I was 168 00:08:16.520 --> 00:08:23.640 thinking a little bit about, you know, there are a lot of different areas of life, like 169 00:08:23.640 --> 00:08:25.400 a life coach gave me like a wheel. 170 00:08:25.400 --> 00:08:28.000 There's like relationally, what do you want for your future? 171 00:08:28.360 --> 00:08:32.080 Like physically, work wise, like living situation. 172 00:08:33.600 --> 00:08:39.360 And I'm wondering, I feel like sometimes it can be a little, it can feel too much like 173 00:08:39.360 --> 00:08:42.720 an interview if you're like, OK, well, let's go down like this list of stuff. 174 00:08:44.200 --> 00:08:49.360 And it sounds like maybe one choice that you might face is how much do you want to 175 00:08:49.360 --> 00:08:54.160 include it as kind of a list of things, kind of looking at the future versus how much do 176 00:08:54.160 --> 00:09:01.400 you want to be able to be honest with her and say, hey, you know, like I'm afraid, kind 177 00:09:01.400 --> 00:09:05.400 of lampshade it and be like, I'm really afraid that, you know, you were going to take it 178 00:09:05.400 --> 00:09:07.280 this way, but health really matters to me. 179 00:09:07.280 --> 00:09:11.880 And I just wanted to I want us to feel free to talk about what matters to, you know, to 180 00:09:11.880 --> 00:09:18.800 both of us. And so I don't think there's like a right or wrong to that, but you would 181 00:09:18.800 --> 00:09:22.440 know probably knowing her better, like what she can handle and what she can't. 182 00:09:22.440 --> 00:09:28.120 But it seems to me like that's maybe a spectrum that you'll probably be looking at. 183 00:09:29.640 --> 00:09:35.240 And ask Holy Spirit for help, man, lean into just the wisdom of Holy Spirit and say, you 184 00:09:35.240 --> 00:09:37.640 know, look, I want to have this conversation. 185 00:09:37.640 --> 00:09:41.520 Like your prayer would be like, Lord, before I go in and just have this conversation just 186 00:09:41.520 --> 00:09:44.240 because I think I need it and so forth and I just mess it up. 187 00:09:44.640 --> 00:09:47.880 I want to have this conversation because I think it's important. 188 00:09:47.880 --> 00:09:49.600 I think it's right. Right. 189 00:09:49.720 --> 00:09:54.800 So help me have the words and the wisdom and the loving and encouragement and support to 190 00:09:55.200 --> 00:10:00.040 not just have one conversation, but have a continuing dialogue of like, you know. 191 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:09.120 bringing this or addressing this or however it is you know and uh beautiful uh mike anthony what's 192 00:10:09.120 --> 00:10:16.880 up man you get your hand raised hey i was just something i did think about is you know um as 193 00:10:16.880 --> 00:10:25.280 a leader right i mean you you could ask like hey are you open to working out like come up figure 194 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:30.240 like i don't know figure out a training program and say hey would you be my gym partner 195 00:10:30.240 --> 00:10:37.680 and like and work on the partnership side and uh maybe come i would i would just if she's open to 196 00:10:37.680 --> 00:10:41.200 a lot of ladies don't know how to work out they don't know how to take care of themselves 197 00:10:41.200 --> 00:10:49.040 right like but they would gladly like really go with you and um and partner in that so that's just 198 00:10:49.040 --> 00:10:57.600 yeah i i kind of i kind of led with that earlier mike and so that's good like i was just basically 199 00:10:57.600 --> 00:11:04.640 saying yeah make it interactive relational fun and like you never know that she might be looking 200 00:11:04.640 --> 00:11:10.400 for um a reason an opportunity you know to make a lifestyle change in this way 201 00:11:13.280 --> 00:11:16.560 so thanks guys so did you miss me while i was gone guys 202 00:11:17.120 --> 00:11:21.360 i missed you yes i missed you and i couldn't wait to tell you that 203 00:11:21.360 --> 00:11:26.720 a lot has changed with my mind and how to approach someone and how not only do i have 204 00:11:26.720 --> 00:11:33.280 the right heart but how i convey it to the women well that's awesome and also i'm not i'm not so 205 00:11:33.280 --> 00:11:39.440 sure if i have to fill another spiritmate form where you guys have mine already i know i i did 206 00:11:39.440 --> 00:11:44.400 see your name in spiritmate matt so i think we're good on that it's okay if i re-edit it again because 207 00:11:44.400 --> 00:11:50.400 i think i might you can go you should be able to log in establish you know like a login that there 208 00:11:50.400 --> 00:11:56.240 was an email that gets automatically generated and um you should be able to go in and edit your 209 00:11:56.240 --> 00:12:02.960 profile add add pictures appropriate pictures i don't mean like not inappropriate pics i what i 210 00:12:02.960 --> 00:12:09.120 mean is pictures that look if you look good not just like some like a selfie thing like make a 211 00:12:09.200 --> 00:12:14.640 you know an effort to try to make a nice picture have someone else take the picture for you if it's 212 00:12:14.640 --> 00:12:20.240 necessary you know type thing you would not believe men and women it's ridiculous what people put up 213 00:12:21.040 --> 00:12:27.760 in their photos for these things you're trying to put your best foot forward this is not a uh i don't 214 00:12:27.760 --> 00:12:34.800 know whatever i could go on so yeah so if you haven't filled out spiritmate match i think it 215 00:12:34.800 --> 00:12:39.440 was asked the last couple i did get some feedback and someone i don't know if it was renee or my 216 00:12:39.440 --> 00:12:44.960 wife or somebody else was doing the men's session last couple weeks and some of the feedback some 217 00:12:44.960 --> 00:12:47.840 from some of you guys i don't know if it's all you guys or some of the other guys that are not 218 00:12:47.840 --> 00:12:53.600 here tonight but somebody was saying we're not ready for it and this and that and you know i'm 219 00:12:53.600 --> 00:12:58.240 like not ready for it no what are we talking about we are trying to put our best foot forward here 220 00:12:58.240 --> 00:13:02.720 we're trying to make matches we don't start now when are we going to start if not now when you 221 00:13:02.720 --> 00:13:09.440 know like type things so like that that's not really a factor we need to get the information 222 00:13:09.440 --> 00:13:13.680 in there so we can start now if you're in relationship that kind of thing you know not 223 00:13:13.680 --> 00:13:20.000 looking for necessarily a match i get that and some guys are in that situation as well so um 224 00:13:20.000 --> 00:13:27.520 but if you're watching this in replay and that's you that's cool as well so um i hope everybody's 225 00:13:27.520 --> 00:13:34.320 doing good um we had an incredible vacation it was um i don't know if you did you guys hear 226 00:13:34.320 --> 00:13:41.040 jackie's i think it was this last supernatural saturday and or at least the one where she was 227 00:13:41.040 --> 00:13:47.760 talking about like you know we went to europe for this vacation we were gone for two and a half 228 00:13:47.760 --> 00:13:53.040 weeks in europe and when you say like oh but you're in europe for two and a half weeks that sounds on 229 00:13:53.040 --> 00:13:59.280 its face sometimes depending on who you are that sounds very exotic and very like wow luxurious and 230 00:13:59.280 --> 00:14:05.120 so forth and all that kind of stuff and you know we were definitely thankful that we could do it 231 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:15.840 however it is brutal it is very difficult to just travel period second of all let alone to go on 232 00:14:16.560 --> 00:14:22.960 as many i think i stayed in probably seven or eight different beds during the whole time that 233 00:14:22.960 --> 00:14:28.960 i was gone for two and a half weeks you know depending on where we were in the country or what 234 00:14:28.960 --> 00:14:35.600 airbnb we were in or what you know so it's it's one thing to go to a place and go to a nice place 235 00:14:36.240 --> 00:14:41.840 and stay like you you move in and you stay and then you're just relaxing and you're there for 236 00:14:41.840 --> 00:14:45.200 you know five seven eight ten days whatever like that and you're enjoying yourself 237 00:14:45.920 --> 00:14:54.400 versus literally moving around every other day with four bags and things and rollers and 238 00:14:55.600 --> 00:14:59.760 europe does not have like they didn't think of like the rolling bag in europe 239 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:01.920 They have cobblestone streets. 240 00:15:01.920 --> 00:15:03.240 They don't have escalators. 241 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:04.520 Everything's steps. 242 00:15:04.520 --> 00:15:06.200 If you're taking a train, we literally, 243 00:15:06.200 --> 00:15:07.380 I'm not kidding you, 244 00:15:08.280 --> 00:15:10.680 in one of the days that we were traveling, 245 00:15:10.680 --> 00:15:13.320 it wasn't every day, but one of the days we were traveling, 246 00:15:13.320 --> 00:15:16.020 we literally traveled in one day, 247 00:15:16.960 --> 00:15:21.960 boat, a bus, train, plane, automobile, 248 00:15:24.400 --> 00:15:28.000 and I think there was another form of transportation. 249 00:15:28.000 --> 00:15:29.120 And I'm not kidding you. 250 00:15:29.160 --> 00:15:30.680 I'm not exaggerating. 251 00:15:30.680 --> 00:15:33.440 I had six forms of transportation 252 00:15:33.440 --> 00:15:35.960 in one of the days that we were traveling. 253 00:15:35.960 --> 00:15:38.700 We were literally going from one place to another. 254 00:15:38.700 --> 00:15:39.540 And I was just like, 255 00:15:39.540 --> 00:15:43.800 it was literally planes, trains, and automobiles, and more. 256 00:15:43.800 --> 00:15:48.040 So it can be super brutal. 257 00:15:48.040 --> 00:15:50.440 The beds over there are like sleeping on 258 00:15:53.080 --> 00:15:54.800 three-inch plywood. 259 00:15:54.800 --> 00:15:56.560 They're not comfortable and soft. 260 00:15:56.560 --> 00:15:58.160 They don't have enough pillows. 261 00:15:59.360 --> 00:16:02.120 The food is tremendously good, 262 00:16:02.120 --> 00:16:03.520 and it's incredibly good. 263 00:16:03.520 --> 00:16:05.200 Talking about nutrition, 264 00:16:05.200 --> 00:16:08.000 they don't put the stuff that we put in our foods. 265 00:16:08.000 --> 00:16:11.120 And you can eat, like we ate ridiculously. 266 00:16:11.120 --> 00:16:14.280 We were like, we were gluttonous 267 00:16:14.280 --> 00:16:16.740 to the point where it was just really bad. 268 00:16:16.740 --> 00:16:19.040 But surprisingly enough, I came back 269 00:16:19.040 --> 00:16:20.920 and I did not gain any weight. 270 00:16:20.920 --> 00:16:23.840 Matter of fact, I think I lost a couple pounds. 271 00:16:23.840 --> 00:16:26.240 And you don't get the bloat. 272 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:27.520 You don't get the bigness. 273 00:16:28.480 --> 00:16:30.320 You're full, but you don't get like, 274 00:16:30.320 --> 00:16:32.200 oh my God, I feel like I could just die, 275 00:16:32.200 --> 00:16:36.120 roll over after you eat some of the big meals here. 276 00:16:36.120 --> 00:16:38.280 It's just really different. 277 00:16:38.280 --> 00:16:41.200 But we enjoyed and saw a lot of friends 278 00:16:41.200 --> 00:16:44.320 and had a lot of good family time, and it was great. 279 00:16:44.320 --> 00:16:46.720 But it is not easy to do it. 280 00:16:47.840 --> 00:16:50.080 I'm so sorry, where in Europe were you, David? 281 00:16:50.080 --> 00:16:53.180 So we went to Italy, 282 00:16:54.060 --> 00:16:59.060 and then we did a seven-day cruise to Greek Isles. 283 00:16:59.060 --> 00:17:02.860 And my mother, who turned 80 earlier this year, 284 00:17:02.860 --> 00:17:07.700 and my mom and dad who had their 50th wedding anniversary, 285 00:17:10.339 --> 00:17:13.579 we celebrated that by going on this like bucket list cruise. 286 00:17:13.579 --> 00:17:15.940 She'd never been to Italy, she'd never been to Greece. 287 00:17:15.940 --> 00:17:19.220 She'd been well-traveled a lot of her life, 288 00:17:19.220 --> 00:17:20.420 but she'd never been to those places. 289 00:17:20.420 --> 00:17:22.540 So last year we determined that this was gonna be 290 00:17:22.900 --> 00:17:25.740 what we were gonna do for her and our family. 291 00:17:25.740 --> 00:17:29.140 And we were able to have all of my kids, 292 00:17:29.140 --> 00:17:32.740 all of their spouses, my mom and dad, 293 00:17:32.740 --> 00:17:35.820 my sister and her husband and my nephew, 294 00:17:36.940 --> 00:17:40.660 and my two aunts, my mother's sisters, 295 00:17:40.660 --> 00:17:42.980 who are still alive, they're the only siblings still alive. 296 00:17:42.980 --> 00:17:47.060 And all of 14 of us went on this cruise, 297 00:17:47.060 --> 00:17:49.300 and it was just a really great time. 298 00:17:49.300 --> 00:17:53.460 So we went to Greece, and then back to Italy, 299 00:17:53.460 --> 00:17:57.660 and then Jackie and I went over to Portugal for a week 300 00:17:57.660 --> 00:18:01.220 to visit Portugal and visit some friends 301 00:18:01.220 --> 00:18:03.260 and do some business over there. 302 00:18:03.260 --> 00:18:06.260 So I'm telling you what, it was great. 303 00:18:06.260 --> 00:18:09.460 Portugal is the best, my opinion. 304 00:18:09.460 --> 00:18:11.740 Were you mostly in Lisbon or? 305 00:18:11.740 --> 00:18:15.460 Lisbon, and then along the coast, Ericeira, 306 00:18:15.460 --> 00:18:18.380 which is a coastal city, we were there for five days, 307 00:18:18.380 --> 00:18:20.140 and that is incredible. 308 00:18:20.140 --> 00:18:21.300 Lisbon's pretty cool. 309 00:18:21.300 --> 00:18:23.780 I mean, we were there for a couple of days at the end, 310 00:18:23.780 --> 00:18:25.980 but it's like a city, it's got history, 311 00:18:25.980 --> 00:18:27.820 and it's like a city. 312 00:18:27.820 --> 00:18:32.820 And we had done enough cities, we did Bologna, 313 00:18:32.940 --> 00:18:33.780 that was really cool. 314 00:18:33.780 --> 00:18:35.500 Bologna is actually a really cool city. 315 00:18:35.500 --> 00:18:38.300 We did Rome last year, we did Florence. 316 00:18:38.300 --> 00:18:40.100 Florence is really cool. 317 00:18:40.100 --> 00:18:42.020 We did some coastal cities. 318 00:18:42.020 --> 00:18:44.780 The big cities are, like for me, for Europe, 319 00:18:45.620 --> 00:18:49.100 it's like you did it, like say, okay, we did it, right? 320 00:18:49.100 --> 00:18:50.900 And then for me, it's over. 321 00:18:50.900 --> 00:18:54.220 I think the best areas in terms of touring Europe 322 00:18:54.220 --> 00:18:56.380 or anywhere in Europe is kind of like the country, 323 00:18:56.380 --> 00:18:59.260 the coastal, sort of like more of the nicer, 324 00:18:59.260 --> 00:19:01.740 chill areas for me. 325 00:19:01.740 --> 00:19:04.700 Now, if you love history, that's another thing, 326 00:19:04.700 --> 00:19:07.380 you're gonna have to go where the history is. 327 00:19:07.380 --> 00:19:11.780 Went to the top of the Areopagus, 328 00:19:12.660 --> 00:19:15.060 went to Mars Hill, that was pretty cool. 329 00:19:15.060 --> 00:19:17.220 I was on Mars Hill and didn't even know it. 330 00:19:18.380 --> 00:19:20.460 We were walking up to the Areopagus, 331 00:19:20.460 --> 00:19:22.340 or what's the other word for it? 332 00:19:25.140 --> 00:19:27.500 Something polis, what is it called? 333 00:19:27.500 --> 00:19:29.140 Mount Olympus? 334 00:19:29.140 --> 00:19:31.140 The Acropolis, which is the, 335 00:19:32.260 --> 00:19:34.740 I guess that's the Latin word for it, 336 00:19:34.740 --> 00:19:37.660 or Areopagus is the Greek word for it, I'm not really sure. 337 00:19:37.660 --> 00:19:40.340 But anyway, we're on our way up, we're going up, 338 00:19:40.340 --> 00:19:45.340 and it is, again, that was a 14,000 step day walking. 339 00:19:46.220 --> 00:19:48.660 That's another thing, you walk forever and ever, 340 00:19:48.660 --> 00:19:51.780 and oh, there's five more blocks you gotta go walk. 341 00:19:51.780 --> 00:19:53.860 The taxis don't take you all the way to the Airbnb, 342 00:19:53.860 --> 00:19:55.540 they drop you off a street earlier 343 00:19:55.540 --> 00:19:57.900 because it was crazy. 344 00:19:57.900 --> 00:19:59.820 But we're walking up there, 345 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:02.280 We noticed there was this side thing over to the side. 346 00:20:02.280 --> 00:20:04.080 And it was like, oh, there's people up around that rock. 347 00:20:04.080 --> 00:20:04.880 That's pretty cool. 348 00:20:04.880 --> 00:20:05.920 Let's climb up there. 349 00:20:05.920 --> 00:20:06.960 So we climbed up there. 350 00:20:06.960 --> 00:20:07.960 We're standing up there. 351 00:20:07.960 --> 00:20:08.800 We took pictures. 352 00:20:08.800 --> 00:20:11.920 There's 50 other people up there, all this thing. 353 00:20:11.920 --> 00:20:12.960 And we went down. 354 00:20:12.960 --> 00:20:14.800 And we go to the Acropolis. 355 00:20:14.800 --> 00:20:17.960 And then much later in the day, we were, oh, man, 356 00:20:17.960 --> 00:20:19.600 we were just that close to Mars Hill. 357 00:20:19.600 --> 00:20:21.600 We should have did that. 358 00:20:21.600 --> 00:20:23.880 And I don't know if you all know what I'm referencing, 359 00:20:23.880 --> 00:20:27.920 which is Paul's moment where he speaks. 360 00:20:27.920 --> 00:20:33.640 This is in Acts chapter 26, something like that. 361 00:20:33.640 --> 00:20:35.520 And he references literally going 362 00:20:35.520 --> 00:20:37.640 to this place where it was renowned 363 00:20:37.640 --> 00:20:39.400 for having deeper conversations. 364 00:20:39.400 --> 00:20:42.080 So Paul was in the marketplace that day. 365 00:20:42.080 --> 00:20:44.080 And it was kind of like one of those things, hey, 366 00:20:44.080 --> 00:20:46.480 if you want to hear more, meet me at Mars Hill. 367 00:20:46.480 --> 00:20:49.760 Meet me at the place where there's deeper discussion. 368 00:20:49.760 --> 00:20:52.400 And Mars Hill was the place. 369 00:20:52.400 --> 00:20:56.480 And then we figured out, oh, my lord, that was the big rock 370 00:20:56.480 --> 00:20:57.240 that we were on. 371 00:20:57.240 --> 00:20:58.400 That was the coolest thing. 372 00:20:58.400 --> 00:21:00.360 I was just like, oh, we actually made it. 373 00:21:00.360 --> 00:21:01.320 And it was pretty cool. 374 00:21:01.320 --> 00:21:03.640 So I have pictures from that. 375 00:21:03.640 --> 00:21:04.840 A lot of cool things, though. 376 00:21:04.840 --> 00:21:07.160 We had a good time. 377 00:21:07.160 --> 00:21:12.880 And so if you ever get a chance to do it, go see it. 378 00:21:12.880 --> 00:21:14.960 Any world travelers here? 379 00:21:14.960 --> 00:21:16.800 Got world travelers? 380 00:21:16.800 --> 00:21:17.840 Good, good, good. 381 00:21:17.840 --> 00:21:19.320 I only traveled to Israel. 382 00:21:19.320 --> 00:21:21.520 That's the only time I traveled. 383 00:21:21.520 --> 00:21:23.680 I was in the UK the last couple of weeks, actually. 384 00:21:23.680 --> 00:21:24.160 That was fun. 385 00:21:24.160 --> 00:21:24.680 Oh, you were? 386 00:21:24.680 --> 00:21:26.640 OK, so you were. 387 00:21:26.640 --> 00:21:29.000 I was going to go, actually, back through London. 388 00:21:29.000 --> 00:21:30.440 But we didn't. 389 00:21:30.440 --> 00:21:32.640 I mean, that was an early version of our itinerary 390 00:21:32.640 --> 00:21:34.680 before we even left. 391 00:21:34.680 --> 00:21:35.920 So that's cool. 392 00:21:35.920 --> 00:21:39.840 Were you doing business or pleasure? 393 00:21:39.840 --> 00:21:40.960 It was a vacation. 394 00:21:40.960 --> 00:21:42.920 But it was very purposeful. 395 00:21:42.920 --> 00:21:43.840 You mentioned history. 396 00:21:43.840 --> 00:21:48.880 So I did a lot of, I was visiting a lot of museums, 397 00:21:48.880 --> 00:21:51.040 studying, went to a lot of the castles, 398 00:21:51.040 --> 00:21:55.320 and tried to understand a lot of what people were trying to do. 399 00:21:55.360 --> 00:21:57.480 So you and my son would get along very well. 400 00:21:57.480 --> 00:22:01.320 He loves the museums, loves all the stuff, the history. 401 00:22:01.320 --> 00:22:04.160 That's cool. 402 00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:06.200 Well, good. 403 00:22:06.200 --> 00:22:08.800 Well, Jenna, what I had, I mean, we 404 00:22:08.800 --> 00:22:10.600 can continue on this vein if you want to. 405 00:22:10.600 --> 00:22:14.480 But what I had thought in my heart today, 406 00:22:14.480 --> 00:22:17.240 or coming into this call, was I've 407 00:22:17.240 --> 00:22:19.040 been thinking about two different things. 408 00:22:19.040 --> 00:22:25.080 I've been thinking about fear and how ridiculous fear is. 409 00:22:25.080 --> 00:22:26.640 I hate fear. 410 00:22:26.640 --> 00:22:31.200 And not that there's things in my life 411 00:22:31.200 --> 00:22:35.440 that I'm not fearful of, because there are. 412 00:22:35.440 --> 00:22:40.920 I'm not saying I don't deal with fear, because I do. 413 00:22:40.920 --> 00:22:44.400 But there was this thing on fear that I 414 00:22:44.400 --> 00:22:46.440 thought was interesting. 415 00:22:46.440 --> 00:22:52.240 And then the other thing was on goals. 416 00:22:52.240 --> 00:22:54.040 I wanted to do sort of, I thought 417 00:22:54.040 --> 00:22:59.800 that maybe doing an activation on goals would be good. 418 00:22:59.800 --> 00:23:03.440 So I don't know what is of interest to you all. 419 00:23:03.440 --> 00:23:10.600 But my main thought was that I was dealing, 420 00:23:10.600 --> 00:23:14.480 I guess, on the back end of this trip, 421 00:23:14.480 --> 00:23:16.960 I was dealing with a mindset of having to come back 422 00:23:16.960 --> 00:23:19.240 into my regular self. 423 00:23:19.240 --> 00:23:20.680 Just like you would always. 424 00:23:20.680 --> 00:23:24.640 You'd come off a trip, and you'd change gears. 425 00:23:24.640 --> 00:23:27.920 And lots of times, it's just a very like, oh, this sucks. 426 00:23:27.920 --> 00:23:30.040 I got to get back to real life, whatever. 427 00:23:30.040 --> 00:23:33.280 But it wasn't so much like the work, 428 00:23:33.280 --> 00:23:36.840 like getting back to work, as much as it was just like, 429 00:23:36.840 --> 00:23:42.520 I felt like that I had a, I felt like that I 430 00:23:42.520 --> 00:23:46.560 was gaining some momentum in a particular area of my life. 431 00:23:46.560 --> 00:23:50.440 And then I felt like it went back. 432 00:23:50.440 --> 00:23:54.520 And I was not, I was upset about it. 433 00:23:54.520 --> 00:23:56.440 I was disappointed about it. 434 00:23:56.440 --> 00:24:04.440 And at the same time, I realized that it was OK. 435 00:24:04.440 --> 00:24:07.600 And what I said by, what I mean by OK, 436 00:24:07.600 --> 00:24:16.560 was that if you feel, if everything in life is, 437 00:24:16.560 --> 00:24:19.200 if the things that you want to change in your life, 438 00:24:19.360 --> 00:24:21.760 let me put it that way, because it's things about change. 439 00:24:21.760 --> 00:24:25.240 It's things about like habits and behavior and mindsets 440 00:24:25.240 --> 00:24:26.440 and shifting, that kind of thing. 441 00:24:26.440 --> 00:24:29.440 The things you want to change about your life, 442 00:24:29.440 --> 00:24:32.800 if you feel yourself like going cycle, like you cycle, 443 00:24:32.800 --> 00:24:34.960 like I'm doing, it's kind of like one of those things like, 444 00:24:34.960 --> 00:24:37.040 I was doing pretty good until whatever. 445 00:24:37.040 --> 00:24:40.680 Like, and then it's just like, and then something happened. 446 00:24:40.680 --> 00:24:43.080 Or I don't know, there was some, there was an interruption. 447 00:24:43.080 --> 00:24:43.920 There's a disruption. 448 00:24:43.920 --> 00:24:48.760 And now I'm not doing, I'm not doing that well anymore. 449 00:24:48.840 --> 00:24:54.120 And so that can be very disappointing, 450 00:24:54.120 --> 00:24:56.680 can be very debilitating, can be very difficult 451 00:24:56.680 --> 00:24:58.160 to like come back from that. 452 00:24:58.160 --> 00:24:59.440 But, and the thing about it is, is. 453 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.480 is why do we process it that way? 454 00:25:03.480 --> 00:25:07.240 Why do we process it in a way that, I mean, 455 00:25:07.240 --> 00:25:08.440 obviously, it's negative. 456 00:25:08.440 --> 00:25:09.920 But why do we process it in a way 457 00:25:09.920 --> 00:25:15.240 like it's like we've just lost it, 458 00:25:15.240 --> 00:25:17.440 or like it's so hard to come back? 459 00:25:17.440 --> 00:25:20.400 Like, I was doing so good, but then whatever. 460 00:25:20.400 --> 00:25:24.280 Because isn't that the way life is? 461 00:25:24.280 --> 00:25:27.120 Isn't that the way life goes? 462 00:25:27.160 --> 00:25:29.520 Isn't that life, basically? 463 00:25:32.320 --> 00:25:34.600 I don't know if you're catching what I'm saying. 464 00:25:34.600 --> 00:25:36.960 Isn't life cyclical that way? 465 00:25:36.960 --> 00:25:40.600 In that, like, and this is kind of like what I always 466 00:25:40.600 --> 00:25:44.040 was trying to overcome with my students 467 00:25:44.040 --> 00:25:48.040 when I was teaching young people about sin. 468 00:25:48.040 --> 00:25:50.880 They would be like, oh, I was doing so good, 469 00:25:50.880 --> 00:25:52.200 and then I sinned. 470 00:25:52.200 --> 00:25:54.560 And now I'm like back in wherever, 471 00:25:54.560 --> 00:25:56.120 wherever in your head. 472 00:25:56.360 --> 00:25:59.400 You're back into like, you go way back. 473 00:25:59.400 --> 00:26:01.960 And it's like, I've got to now work all the way harder 474 00:26:01.960 --> 00:26:04.680 just to get back to where I was, 475 00:26:04.680 --> 00:26:09.560 instead of going, no, you didn't lose ground so much, 476 00:26:09.560 --> 00:26:10.640 you just stopped. 477 00:26:11.640 --> 00:26:13.480 You just need to pick it back up 478 00:26:13.480 --> 00:26:16.280 and you need to continue to move forward. 479 00:26:16.280 --> 00:26:17.560 Does that make sense? 480 00:26:19.080 --> 00:26:21.640 Are you asking that as rhetorical or a literal question? 481 00:26:21.640 --> 00:26:24.920 Yeah, kind of rhetorical, but I do want feedback 482 00:26:24.920 --> 00:26:29.040 because I want to know if I'm tracking here with anyone. 483 00:26:29.040 --> 00:26:31.200 Well, you learn from your mistakes 484 00:26:31.200 --> 00:26:32.720 or you learn from your growth. 485 00:26:32.720 --> 00:26:35.600 So it might seem that you're back to your state, 486 00:26:35.600 --> 00:26:37.400 back to the first stage, but you're not 487 00:26:37.400 --> 00:26:38.640 because you're a different person 488 00:26:38.640 --> 00:26:41.880 than you were the last time when you were there. 489 00:26:41.880 --> 00:26:44.440 And which is interesting about what you just said, 490 00:26:44.440 --> 00:26:45.360 because I love that answer. 491 00:26:45.360 --> 00:26:47.520 I think it's good and it's true, 492 00:26:47.520 --> 00:26:51.120 but here is what I was facing. 493 00:26:52.120 --> 00:26:55.360 I had the right answer, like you just said, Matthew. 494 00:26:55.360 --> 00:26:58.280 Like I had the right, I could tell myself that, 495 00:26:58.280 --> 00:27:00.440 but I wasn't living it. 496 00:27:00.440 --> 00:27:03.280 Like I didn't believe myself when I said like, 497 00:27:03.280 --> 00:27:05.160 when I told myself, yeah, I didn't answer, that's right. 498 00:27:05.160 --> 00:27:06.920 You can just move forward. 499 00:27:06.920 --> 00:27:09.080 But I still had the feelings. 500 00:27:09.080 --> 00:27:11.280 I still had the sort of the internal dialogue. 501 00:27:11.280 --> 00:27:16.280 I still had the emotional sense around that I'm less than. 502 00:27:18.400 --> 00:27:20.640 So I wanted to just push forward through it. 503 00:27:21.480 --> 00:27:22.560 And so I just made a decision 504 00:27:22.560 --> 00:27:24.360 because I came to that realization. 505 00:27:24.360 --> 00:27:26.000 This is like, you know what? 506 00:27:26.000 --> 00:27:28.160 It is just a pause. 507 00:27:28.160 --> 00:27:29.360 It wasn't a setback. 508 00:27:29.360 --> 00:27:31.040 It was a pause and it was a, 509 00:27:31.040 --> 00:27:32.400 I can just pick this right back up 510 00:27:32.400 --> 00:27:34.080 and I can start moving forward again. 511 00:27:34.080 --> 00:27:36.440 I can step right back into like, 512 00:27:36.440 --> 00:27:38.560 just as easy as a decision, 513 00:27:38.560 --> 00:27:42.640 I can literally step right back in to where I was before 514 00:27:42.640 --> 00:27:45.400 and I can step right back into that mindset. 515 00:27:45.400 --> 00:27:49.760 Like I don't have to like do the hard work again. 516 00:27:49.760 --> 00:27:51.280 You know what I'm saying? 517 00:27:51.280 --> 00:27:54.040 I can just go right back to where I was. 518 00:27:54.040 --> 00:27:55.960 And I think that's an incredible, 519 00:27:57.600 --> 00:27:59.560 I call it a skill, I think, 520 00:27:59.560 --> 00:28:01.560 because I think it's a level of maturity 521 00:28:01.560 --> 00:28:04.160 to where it's like, look, 522 00:28:04.160 --> 00:28:08.600 I don't have time to dread this. 523 00:28:08.600 --> 00:28:13.040 I don't have time to like get emotionally, 524 00:28:13.040 --> 00:28:14.960 go down the drain in this. 525 00:28:14.960 --> 00:28:16.880 I don't have, you know what I'm saying? 526 00:28:16.880 --> 00:28:19.280 I don't have the bandwidth. 527 00:28:19.800 --> 00:28:23.840 I can't afford for this to be a setback. 528 00:28:23.840 --> 00:28:28.840 I have to move forward like with success, 529 00:28:29.640 --> 00:28:33.440 with like furtherance, with development. 530 00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:34.880 Does that make sense? 531 00:28:36.440 --> 00:28:38.040 Could I ask? 532 00:28:38.040 --> 00:28:41.840 So I think I'm now cluing in to what you're saying. 533 00:28:41.840 --> 00:28:45.120 I was about to say, I respectfully, strongly disagree, 534 00:28:46.120 --> 00:28:49.640 but I think I hear what you're saying. 535 00:28:49.640 --> 00:28:54.000 So for example, I have a guy that's been living with me 536 00:28:54.000 --> 00:28:59.000 and has become a friend, you know, an acquaintance. 537 00:28:59.360 --> 00:29:02.000 And he's now back in drug detox 538 00:29:02.000 --> 00:29:07.000 because he lapsed into hard drugs. 539 00:29:09.240 --> 00:29:12.680 And so that is a serious setback 540 00:29:12.800 --> 00:29:16.120 and a lot of recovery was lost. 541 00:29:16.120 --> 00:29:17.960 So, and at the same time, 542 00:29:17.960 --> 00:29:19.840 I would say that if we're going through cycles, 543 00:29:19.840 --> 00:29:22.200 I'm not saying I've lived this fully, 544 00:29:22.200 --> 00:29:25.000 but I think that when we go through cycles, 545 00:29:25.000 --> 00:29:29.160 it's an indication of unrenewed mindsets, you know, 546 00:29:29.160 --> 00:29:31.080 thinking that's embedded in our thoughts, 547 00:29:31.080 --> 00:29:33.160 or if we wanna use like, 548 00:29:33.160 --> 00:29:36.000 we wanna talk about the finished work of the cross, 549 00:29:36.000 --> 00:29:38.440 a lack of fully understanding 550 00:29:38.440 --> 00:29:40.840 what Jesus has done in our lives. 551 00:29:40.880 --> 00:29:43.040 But I hear what you're saying now. 552 00:29:43.040 --> 00:29:45.760 So I don't think that we're called to live in cycles. 553 00:29:45.760 --> 00:29:48.320 I think God has called us to live from glory to glory. 554 00:29:48.320 --> 00:29:49.960 But I hear what you're saying now, 555 00:29:49.960 --> 00:29:51.640 because the problem is that 556 00:29:51.640 --> 00:29:54.200 as soon as the devil tempts us into something, 557 00:29:54.200 --> 00:29:58.840 then his attack shifts from the temptation to the shame 558 00:29:58.840 --> 00:30:00.160 and letting the shame. 559 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:08.640 aim because of the finished work of the cross is what allows us to live without condemnation. 560 00:30:08.640 --> 00:30:16.000 I have a friend who's had a lot of cycles in life, but I've always been amazed by his 561 00:30:16.000 --> 00:30:20.200 faith and his courage. 562 00:30:20.200 --> 00:30:28.440 He's done a lot better for quite a while now, but when he was dealing with homosexuality 563 00:30:28.440 --> 00:30:33.280 in a relationship, he would say, I am still loved and holy. 564 00:30:33.280 --> 00:30:38.240 I am still loved by God and holy. 565 00:30:38.240 --> 00:30:39.240 That's powerful. 566 00:30:39.240 --> 00:30:45.440 I think that a big, I think a big part of what you're telling that David, a lot of neuroscientists 567 00:30:45.440 --> 00:30:48.200 have wondered the same thing for a long time. 568 00:30:48.200 --> 00:30:52.000 There's the phrase, you know, the synapses that fire together, wire together. 569 00:30:52.000 --> 00:30:57.640 So the way, when we try to develop a new habit, my understanding is that our synapses have 570 00:30:57.640 --> 00:31:02.800 to create a new pathways and basically build new structures in our brains. 571 00:31:02.800 --> 00:31:10.680 And when something happens that causes us to kind of stop the new pattern, one thing 572 00:31:10.680 --> 00:31:17.440 that can very easily happen is we go back to our old, very strong highway of wired together 573 00:31:17.440 --> 00:31:25.560 synapses that are old habit and taking the strength to say, I am going to keep on building 574 00:31:25.560 --> 00:31:32.040 kind of the new pathway in my brain, I think is, is something that can be very hard, especially 575 00:31:32.040 --> 00:31:38.240 because it seems like it takes energy to be very conscious that we need to do that sometimes. 576 00:31:38.240 --> 00:31:46.960 Yeah, no, that's exactly the thought process that I went through, because I'm not saying 577 00:31:46.960 --> 00:31:52.320 when you pick up from where you felt like you had progress and then you felt like you 578 00:31:52.320 --> 00:31:59.680 had a setback, I'm not saying that the pickup is just to make it easier. 579 00:31:59.680 --> 00:32:05.800 I'm saying that very thing is, is that it's kind of like when you're, if you've ever seen 580 00:32:05.800 --> 00:32:11.760 those machines that dig a tunnel, like for cars and trains through like a mountain, you 581 00:32:11.760 --> 00:32:17.600 know, those big, huge machines, it's like, what if you got so far and then you just decided 582 00:32:17.600 --> 00:32:21.520 to like, for whatever reason, you couldn't go any further. 583 00:32:21.520 --> 00:32:22.520 That would suck. 584 00:32:22.520 --> 00:32:29.160 It's like, you did all that work, you know, and you went all that way to accomplish this 585 00:32:29.160 --> 00:32:30.160 thing. 586 00:32:30.160 --> 00:32:34.400 It's just like, there isn't any other way except for forward. 587 00:32:34.400 --> 00:32:40.080 You know, it's like you get to a point where it's kind of like, it's like, look, I used 588 00:32:40.080 --> 00:32:44.480 to go back into the old patterns because I would get discouraged. 589 00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:45.480 I would get depressed. 590 00:32:45.480 --> 00:32:49.920 I would get, um, I would get, um, in shame cycle. 591 00:32:49.920 --> 00:32:55.800 I would get, you know, like I would just, you know, whatever I want to Medicaid or whatever. 592 00:32:55.800 --> 00:33:02.440 And so, but now I've come to the point of maturity, I feel like, or just age or whatever 593 00:33:02.440 --> 00:33:06.200 it is, or just like, you know, like I'm running out of, not running out of time. 594 00:33:06.200 --> 00:33:12.000 I don't want to fear time, but at this, but in the same way, I've come to a point where 595 00:33:12.000 --> 00:33:16.920 like, no, the only way is forward. 596 00:33:16.920 --> 00:33:28.280 The only way to what I want, what I'm after success, relationships, finances, um, whatever 597 00:33:28.280 --> 00:33:35.600 it is that your goal is, this is how I came to the goals thing is it's through forward 598 00:33:35.600 --> 00:33:37.080 and through. 599 00:33:37.080 --> 00:33:38.080 There is no round. 600 00:33:38.080 --> 00:33:39.880 There's no, there's no easier way. 601 00:33:39.880 --> 00:33:41.220 There's no roundabout. 602 00:33:41.220 --> 00:33:45.400 There's no like, you know, I, this is where I came to the point where it's like, I don't 603 00:33:45.400 --> 00:33:48.080 have time to go backwards. 604 00:33:48.080 --> 00:33:55.240 I only have time and only strength to continue moving forward and progress, even though it 605 00:33:55.240 --> 00:33:57.040 seems very difficult. 606 00:33:57.040 --> 00:34:00.160 And that's what I think we were talking about when you said like, yeah, it's hard work. 607 00:34:00.160 --> 00:34:02.360 Yeah, it is hard work. 608 00:34:02.360 --> 00:34:06.560 I'd like to tell you there's an easier way, but it's hard work to accomplish the things 609 00:34:06.560 --> 00:34:09.360 that you want to, to accomplish. 610 00:34:09.360 --> 00:34:13.199 So that's where I got with the whole goal setting, because I saw this video, anybody 611 00:34:13.199 --> 00:34:15.120 ever heard of Brian Tracy? 612 00:34:15.840 --> 00:34:21.239 He's a renowned Canadian, um, like Tony Robbins, kind of a guy, you know, he's like a motivational 613 00:34:21.239 --> 00:34:24.280 speaker, you know, like an old school kind of guy, we're still wear suit and tie and 614 00:34:24.280 --> 00:34:25.400 everything. 615 00:34:25.400 --> 00:34:28.440 And there was this little video short of him that he has this little exercise he does. 616 00:34:28.440 --> 00:34:30.320 And I thought it was really amazing. 617 00:34:30.320 --> 00:34:32.679 I thought it'd be a good activation for us. 618 00:34:32.679 --> 00:34:40.800 Um, but I want to know right now from each of you, like, is there something that what's 619 00:34:40.960 --> 00:34:46.040 like, what's the one thing that you would really like to accomplish, you know, in your 620 00:34:46.040 --> 00:34:47.679 life right now? 621 00:34:47.679 --> 00:34:50.400 You know, is it like, um, is it a health goal? 622 00:34:50.400 --> 00:34:51.840 Is it a spiritual goal? 623 00:34:51.840 --> 00:34:53.880 Is it a, is it a wealth goal? 624 00:34:53.880 --> 00:34:55.080 Is it a relational goal? 625 00:34:55.080 --> 00:35:00.040 Like what's the one thing right now that's kind of like bugging you like if, if, if there's 626 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:06.000 one thing that could really like bring about an incredible amount of change in your life, 627 00:35:06.640 --> 00:35:11.280 if that one thing were either accomplished or were different in your life, what would that be 628 00:35:12.240 --> 00:35:17.360 for you? For me, that'd be easy. It'd be a full-time job. I'm working five jobs right now. 629 00:35:18.080 --> 00:35:23.920 Okay. Okay. Yeah. And yeah, I mean, it's hard from, you know, get up in the morning to help 630 00:35:23.920 --> 00:35:28.960 somebody on the computer, go teaching kids in the afternoon, go driving Uber Eats at night. 631 00:35:30.000 --> 00:35:39.280 And yeah, seven days a week. So yeah, that's fine. Like crazy. And so that would be the one 632 00:35:39.280 --> 00:35:46.720 thing, if anything, if I could have a work-life balance and just be able to take a break. 633 00:35:47.920 --> 00:35:54.480 Okay. That's good. Thank you. Thank you for sharing that. Who else? What's one thing right 634 00:35:54.480 --> 00:35:59.040 now? It's just kind of like, what's one thing, if it was different or if it was accomplished, 635 00:36:00.080 --> 00:36:03.360 if something was changed in your life that would make all the difference in the world, what would 636 00:36:03.360 --> 00:36:19.600 it be? I'll jump in. So for me, like one of my callings requires a spouse, right? Like I'm, 637 00:36:19.600 --> 00:36:23.840 you know, and doing that stuff. And it's kind of annoying because I'm like, Lord, what am I, 638 00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:29.200 how am I going to get down that road without, and I've been pursuing and the apps are dry. And 639 00:36:29.200 --> 00:36:34.080 so it's like, like you said, what's annoying, like, Lord, but I'm trusting and obviously 640 00:36:34.080 --> 00:36:37.600 not forcing the issue. I mean, I've had plenty of people who wanted to be in a relationship that 641 00:36:37.600 --> 00:36:42.960 were good, but they weren't God. Right. And so like, there's a difference between a divine, 642 00:36:43.680 --> 00:36:49.600 I kind of have a higher ceiling that not everybody can walk alongside. Right. And so, 643 00:36:50.240 --> 00:36:56.080 so no, just like that. I just, you know, my Lord, I would like to really get on that road and go 644 00:36:56.880 --> 00:37:02.880 meet the right person. Yeah. Okay. That's good. Thank you, Mike. 645 00:37:06.080 --> 00:37:13.600 I think for me, something I've been really struggling and is balancing input and output. 646 00:37:14.560 --> 00:37:23.920 So I have done far too much input, I think, and changing the habit to create output, whether it 647 00:37:23.920 --> 00:37:30.400 be bringing order to spaces around me, making sure that I'm on top of emails that need to be replied 648 00:37:30.400 --> 00:37:35.520 to taking time to write, taking time to paint, taking time to do all those kinds of things 649 00:37:35.520 --> 00:37:41.440 instead of continuing to learn and learn and learn and learn and learn, I think is something. And I 650 00:37:41.440 --> 00:37:48.880 feel like God told me if I wanted to meet my potential to do the exercises in a book called 651 00:37:48.880 --> 00:37:56.640 the second circle. So I've been working on it that way. But it's, it's not easy, it would change 652 00:37:56.640 --> 00:38:02.720 everything. But things are changing, thankfully. So did you say writing the book called the second 653 00:38:02.720 --> 00:38:09.200 circle? No, no, I have a book by Patsy Roddenberg, the foremost vocal coach in England called the 654 00:38:09.200 --> 00:38:16.320 second circle. She talks about when we live in primarily an input, she calls that first circle. 655 00:38:16.320 --> 00:38:20.880 When we live primarily in output, she calls that third. And then when we're doing both at the same 656 00:38:20.880 --> 00:38:27.520 time, she calls that second circle. Got it. Um, are you a writer, Thomas? 657 00:38:28.720 --> 00:38:35.680 I am working hard to try to become one. I'm excited about it. Do you have like a core 658 00:38:35.680 --> 00:38:41.040 message that you feel like is kind of like, one message is kind of like you're like, I know you 659 00:38:41.040 --> 00:38:45.120 like, I know you understand and know a lot of things, I get it, you have you draw from a tremendous 660 00:38:45.120 --> 00:38:48.880 amount of resources, I get it. But do you feel like there's this one thing that's kind of materializing 661 00:38:48.880 --> 00:38:56.640 into sort of like, this is kind of like my main thrust. I have four books, at least that I want 662 00:38:56.640 --> 00:39:04.720 to write. But one of them is about Jesus over religion. One of them would be probably a memoir, 663 00:39:04.720 --> 00:39:10.560 one of them is on the concept of procedural rhetoric. And then but I feel like God's told me 664 00:39:10.560 --> 00:39:15.920 that I'm a poet as well, which is unsurprising. So I've been really trying to take time every day to 665 00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:22.880 write poetry. That's awesome. But it's just I, when you were talking, before you said books or 666 00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:27.440 anything, or I even asked if you're a writer, I just saw that, you know, that there's definitely 667 00:39:27.440 --> 00:39:35.440 a work of writing for you, for sure that you must do. And so like, my question to you, 668 00:39:35.440 --> 00:39:39.360 my challenge to you is like, what's holding you back? Like, what's keeping you from doing that? 669 00:39:39.360 --> 00:39:42.880 And of course, you're addressing it, you know, you and I totally understand what you mean, 670 00:39:42.880 --> 00:39:48.320 when you say, I've got I'm doing the input output thing, like artists and creatives and people who 671 00:39:48.320 --> 00:39:53.760 like, are like, that, you know, do work, life's work, like writing and sculpting and painting and 672 00:39:54.320 --> 00:39:59.040 music and all that they have a body of work, you know, type thing. And that's kind of like, they're 673 00:39:59.040 --> 00:39:59.840 like, 674 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.100 Prince, before he died or when he died, 675 00:40:02.100 --> 00:40:04.940 he had more things that were musical pieces 676 00:40:04.940 --> 00:40:08.600 that were finished and virtually, 677 00:40:08.600 --> 00:40:10.640 but not published in any way, 678 00:40:10.640 --> 00:40:12.400 more than he ever made that was ever famous 679 00:40:12.400 --> 00:40:14.360 or that he earned money from or anything like that. 680 00:40:14.360 --> 00:40:17.000 So his body of work, so to speak. 681 00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:19.840 So the output, yeah, it's incredible. 682 00:40:19.840 --> 00:40:20.920 So I just pray that with you. 683 00:40:20.920 --> 00:40:23.440 I agree with you on all that. 684 00:40:23.440 --> 00:40:24.280 It's pretty cool. 685 00:40:26.160 --> 00:40:27.060 Who else? 686 00:40:27.060 --> 00:40:29.400 What's one thing that's kind of, 687 00:40:30.340 --> 00:40:32.980 not the one thing that's holding you back. 688 00:40:32.980 --> 00:40:35.180 The question is, is what is the thing 689 00:40:35.180 --> 00:40:38.520 that if it were different or it was completely changed 690 00:40:38.520 --> 00:40:41.300 or was accomplished, like it was finished, 691 00:40:41.300 --> 00:40:44.500 like a goal, what would that one thing be for you? 692 00:40:48.940 --> 00:40:51.220 I was gonna say just starting a PowerPoint 693 00:40:51.220 --> 00:40:52.700 and presenting it to people. 694 00:40:54.020 --> 00:40:54.860 Make a video. 695 00:40:54.860 --> 00:40:56.620 You're gonna do what with PowerPoint? 696 00:40:56.620 --> 00:40:58.140 Make a historic PowerPoint 697 00:40:58.160 --> 00:41:00.320 about God's plan for America. 698 00:41:00.320 --> 00:41:03.000 It's talking about how things came to be. 699 00:41:03.000 --> 00:41:06.840 I grow sick and tired of the negative historic views 700 00:41:06.840 --> 00:41:08.400 of the secular world. 701 00:41:08.400 --> 00:41:10.480 And some of it I find very hard to believe 702 00:41:10.480 --> 00:41:12.280 where people make their own narrative 703 00:41:12.280 --> 00:41:14.960 and you see how history can affect your view of the world. 704 00:41:14.960 --> 00:41:17.640 Well, I wanna see in a more positive Christ-centered outlook 705 00:41:17.640 --> 00:41:19.200 and see how God sees it. 706 00:41:19.200 --> 00:41:21.240 Not so much in what the History Channel says 707 00:41:21.240 --> 00:41:23.720 about history playing itself out. 708 00:41:23.720 --> 00:41:25.680 And remember, and seeing all the things 709 00:41:25.680 --> 00:41:26.840 that are not good in this world. 710 00:41:26.840 --> 00:41:28.040 Well, look back at history. 711 00:41:28.880 --> 00:41:29.720 Things weren't any better today. 712 00:41:29.720 --> 00:41:32.780 And I think it's just another evil trend of our time. 713 00:41:32.780 --> 00:41:34.580 Kind of like everyone's thinking about abortion 714 00:41:34.580 --> 00:41:36.100 and same-sex marriage being legal. 715 00:41:36.100 --> 00:41:39.020 Well, you look back in the day with racial segregation, 716 00:41:39.020 --> 00:41:41.620 I don't think it'd be the first time this has happened. 717 00:41:41.620 --> 00:41:43.200 Wow, okay. 718 00:41:43.200 --> 00:41:45.740 Wow, that's incredible. 719 00:41:45.740 --> 00:41:49.180 Accomplish like a teaching, a presentation, 720 00:41:49.180 --> 00:41:54.180 a final way to present historical biblical perspective, 721 00:41:54.920 --> 00:41:59.920 accuracy of what is it, American history specifically? 722 00:42:02.680 --> 00:42:03.880 Yeah, I should say so. 723 00:42:05.320 --> 00:42:08.320 Interesting, I love that. 724 00:42:08.320 --> 00:42:09.160 Who else? 725 00:42:11.600 --> 00:42:12.720 Joshua came on camera. 726 00:42:12.720 --> 00:42:13.920 I see you, Joshua. 727 00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:16.440 And I don't know if you came on camera 728 00:42:16.440 --> 00:42:20.100 to say something or what, but I am highlighting you now. 729 00:42:20.100 --> 00:42:20.940 Yeah. 730 00:42:23.520 --> 00:42:27.640 Well, the question you're asking 731 00:42:27.640 --> 00:42:29.760 is a question I've thought about a lot 732 00:42:29.760 --> 00:42:31.160 and I don't really know the answer. 733 00:42:31.160 --> 00:42:32.600 I've had many different thoughts, 734 00:42:32.600 --> 00:42:37.600 but sometimes I feel like it's having the right spouse 735 00:42:39.640 --> 00:42:41.520 and it goes deeper than just the spouse 736 00:42:41.520 --> 00:42:46.040 because many years ago when I was an Asian, 737 00:42:46.040 --> 00:42:48.640 I basically lost everything and I had a choice 738 00:42:48.660 --> 00:42:52.100 to either quit or pursue the one I loved. 739 00:42:52.100 --> 00:42:56.820 I chose to do the unthinkable of pursuing the one I loved 740 00:42:56.820 --> 00:43:01.300 in territories I didn't know, languages I couldn't speak 741 00:43:01.300 --> 00:43:04.300 and places that were not safe to be. 742 00:43:04.300 --> 00:43:08.060 And I think the Holy Spirit gifted me with the, 743 00:43:08.060 --> 00:43:10.940 or just gave me a gift of revealing to me 744 00:43:10.940 --> 00:43:15.940 who I was with Christ in me from all of the time, 745 00:43:16.720 --> 00:43:20.840 the 15 some years I'd been reading the Bible 746 00:43:20.840 --> 00:43:23.680 and pursuing him, not knowing exactly what to look for. 747 00:43:23.680 --> 00:43:25.520 He connected all the dots. 748 00:43:25.520 --> 00:43:28.640 And for years, I was fought with the Lord 749 00:43:28.640 --> 00:43:32.660 for several years in that and growing. 750 00:43:32.660 --> 00:43:35.080 And then at one point I realized that, man, 751 00:43:35.080 --> 00:43:38.820 this knowledge of, it's like, 752 00:43:41.740 --> 00:43:43.360 if you know what the word says, 753 00:43:43.420 --> 00:43:46.900 if God said it, all you have to do is believe it 754 00:43:46.900 --> 00:43:48.860 and then live it, right? 755 00:43:48.860 --> 00:43:50.340 Easy to say, of course. 756 00:43:50.340 --> 00:43:51.540 Sounds easy, right. 757 00:43:51.540 --> 00:43:54.960 But that's where I was. 758 00:43:54.960 --> 00:43:57.300 I was hot with the Lord and he was allowing me 759 00:43:57.300 --> 00:44:00.740 to walk in it and it was easy to do. 760 00:44:00.740 --> 00:44:02.760 And it was amazing and it was wonderful. 761 00:44:02.760 --> 00:44:06.080 And I guess he spoke through me a lot 762 00:44:06.080 --> 00:44:07.980 to other people and whatever. 763 00:44:07.980 --> 00:44:10.140 But then I came to a point in the journey 764 00:44:10.140 --> 00:44:13.180 where I realized, man, God, all this knowledge 765 00:44:14.000 --> 00:44:16.880 that you're showing to me, week after week, 766 00:44:16.880 --> 00:44:20.040 when I spend time with you, I love it and it's good, 767 00:44:20.040 --> 00:44:25.040 but God, I can see how I could become tempted 768 00:44:25.780 --> 00:44:29.280 to become proud of this knowledge, 769 00:44:30.120 --> 00:44:32.640 even though it's good knowledge that you're showing me. 770 00:44:32.640 --> 00:44:34.440 And it's like, God, I would rather 771 00:44:34.440 --> 00:44:38.160 that you take this knowledge away from me, 772 00:44:38.160 --> 00:44:42.080 but to teach me how to live out love 773 00:44:42.340 --> 00:44:43.580 almost like in a way of like, 774 00:44:43.580 --> 00:44:45.460 I don't even know what the word says 775 00:44:45.460 --> 00:44:47.500 of who we are with Christ in us. 776 00:44:47.500 --> 00:44:50.900 And fast forwarding more, at some point, 777 00:44:50.900 --> 00:44:54.360 I realized that relationship is the key. 778 00:44:54.360 --> 00:44:58.100 And I don't exactly know how to do relationship 779 00:44:58.100 --> 00:45:00.140 because much of my life was... 780 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.000 is challenged in that area. 781 00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:05.080 But it brought me closer, 782 00:45:05.080 --> 00:45:06.920 the whole identity in Christ thing, 783 00:45:06.920 --> 00:45:11.000 it just brought me closer to the symbolism of marriage. 784 00:45:11.000 --> 00:45:12.740 And I feel like I could, 785 00:45:12.740 --> 00:45:16.220 he only would let me know so much, 786 00:45:16.220 --> 00:45:17.820 then it came up to that point of, 787 00:45:17.820 --> 00:45:19.520 hey, now you need to get married. 788 00:45:20.520 --> 00:45:25.380 Because it's like you spend time in theory, right? 789 00:45:25.380 --> 00:45:28.100 And then it's totally different when it comes to practice. 790 00:45:28.960 --> 00:45:32.280 How many testimonies I've heard from people 791 00:45:32.280 --> 00:45:34.480 who've been married for decades, 792 00:45:34.480 --> 00:45:37.360 of the challenges of marriage, 793 00:45:37.360 --> 00:45:40.480 but then how all of that, when it's in a healthy way, 794 00:45:40.480 --> 00:45:42.620 how that journey comes out to show, 795 00:45:43.720 --> 00:45:47.640 or it comes out like a reflection of the relationship 796 00:45:47.640 --> 00:45:49.680 God wants to have with us. 797 00:45:49.680 --> 00:45:52.040 I mean, there's so many of these gold nuggets in there 798 00:45:52.040 --> 00:45:54.080 that I could see that's like, man, 799 00:45:54.080 --> 00:45:56.400 that there's so much more in that 800 00:45:57.140 --> 00:45:59.540 than just standing on your feet, 801 00:45:59.540 --> 00:46:01.140 knowing who you are with Christ in you, 802 00:46:01.140 --> 00:46:04.760 because it's in the word of God, that's good too. 803 00:46:05.700 --> 00:46:09.020 But then when you couple it with something like that, 804 00:46:09.020 --> 00:46:10.840 somehow to me, it just comes out that way. 805 00:46:10.840 --> 00:46:12.780 It's like, man, that's, 806 00:46:14.300 --> 00:46:15.940 I'm not saying marriage is easy, 807 00:46:17.580 --> 00:46:21.180 but I think there's a fruit and a reward and a joy 808 00:46:21.180 --> 00:46:23.880 that comes through the persistence and endurance. 809 00:46:23.900 --> 00:46:26.900 And it's like, not only that, but in that journey, 810 00:46:28.620 --> 00:46:31.140 I would hope for all, myself included, 811 00:46:31.140 --> 00:46:32.880 that you get closer to God, 812 00:46:33.740 --> 00:46:36.660 realizing how much as an individual, 813 00:46:36.660 --> 00:46:40.380 a husband or whatever, man, I need Jesus. 814 00:46:40.380 --> 00:46:42.140 And you give him that place, 815 00:46:43.220 --> 00:46:45.740 through vulnerability to him, 816 00:46:45.740 --> 00:46:47.660 that you just give it to him. 817 00:46:47.660 --> 00:46:49.980 And then when he comes through, 818 00:46:49.980 --> 00:46:52.220 and then that relationship grows stronger, 819 00:46:52.240 --> 00:46:54.880 just like it did when you were growing up in Christ 820 00:46:54.880 --> 00:46:57.080 as a single person. 821 00:46:57.080 --> 00:46:59.200 And there'd be times when the Holy Spirit 822 00:46:59.200 --> 00:47:00.280 would interact with you. 823 00:47:00.280 --> 00:47:02.320 And then when you were doubting him, 824 00:47:02.320 --> 00:47:03.160 he showed you that, 825 00:47:03.160 --> 00:47:05.520 no, I was there for you the whole time. 826 00:47:05.520 --> 00:47:08.880 And then he shows you and you see that he was, 827 00:47:08.880 --> 00:47:11.400 and then your faith gets stronger in him. 828 00:47:11.400 --> 00:47:14.800 That's what I'm, that's where my mind is at. 829 00:47:14.800 --> 00:47:18.380 But of course I'm single and I made bad choices, so. 830 00:47:19.240 --> 00:47:20.320 I'm just. 831 00:47:20.320 --> 00:47:22.920 I'm incredibly intrigued by what you're saying, 832 00:47:22.920 --> 00:47:26.240 because you've just opened like a whole nother Pandora's box 833 00:47:26.240 --> 00:47:30.400 but at the same time, Josh, that was the most live 834 00:47:30.400 --> 00:47:35.120 I've ever seen you in any interaction on these calls. 835 00:47:35.120 --> 00:47:37.400 And you got very passionate 836 00:47:37.400 --> 00:47:38.720 about what you were talking about. 837 00:47:38.720 --> 00:47:39.560 And I wanna honor that. 838 00:47:39.560 --> 00:47:41.720 And I wanna reveal, reflect that back to you, 839 00:47:41.720 --> 00:47:46.720 because I feel that's something that you are going to, 840 00:47:47.340 --> 00:47:49.500 that you need and you want, 841 00:47:49.500 --> 00:47:52.340 but at the same time that you're going to experience, 842 00:47:52.340 --> 00:47:54.780 because I believe there's something happening in you. 843 00:47:54.780 --> 00:47:56.380 I think there's a light bulb coming on. 844 00:47:56.380 --> 00:47:59.400 Not to say that you didn't know this before, 845 00:47:59.400 --> 00:48:01.500 but I'm hearing it in your voice. 846 00:48:01.500 --> 00:48:05.940 I mean, it's been a while since I've seen any kind of like 847 00:48:05.940 --> 00:48:07.380 passion excitement in you. 848 00:48:07.380 --> 00:48:08.940 So I think this is a good thing. 849 00:48:08.940 --> 00:48:10.300 I think it's awesome. 850 00:48:10.300 --> 00:48:12.140 And you're exactly right. 851 00:48:12.140 --> 00:48:14.380 It's like the whole scenario when I was talking earlier 852 00:48:14.380 --> 00:48:16.880 about, you know, like there's only one way forward, 853 00:48:16.880 --> 00:48:19.600 there's only one way, which is forward and through 854 00:48:19.600 --> 00:48:23.040 and relationship, marriage relationship is just like that. 855 00:48:23.040 --> 00:48:25.060 We talk about, you know, Jackie says it all the time. 856 00:48:25.060 --> 00:48:28.640 It's like God, you know, marriage is God's maturity plan. 857 00:48:28.640 --> 00:48:33.640 And it is the most refining, the most frustrating, 858 00:48:34.080 --> 00:48:38.560 the most difficult, the most rewarding, the most glorious, 859 00:48:38.560 --> 00:48:42.720 the most incredibly awesome experience 860 00:48:42.720 --> 00:48:44.500 that I think humans can go through. 861 00:48:44.500 --> 00:48:46.340 And this is why scripture talks about, 862 00:48:46.340 --> 00:48:49.980 like when a man and a woman leave their mother 863 00:48:49.980 --> 00:48:51.340 and their father and they come together 864 00:48:51.340 --> 00:48:53.660 and it talks about like, and it's a whole mystery. 865 00:48:53.660 --> 00:48:55.100 And it's like, it's just like, 866 00:48:55.100 --> 00:48:56.900 it's like in Christ and the church. 867 00:48:56.900 --> 00:48:59.260 And then they bring, like that whole scripture is so weird 868 00:48:59.260 --> 00:49:00.540 because it's talking about marriage, marriage, marriage, 869 00:49:00.540 --> 00:49:02.820 and all of a sudden it just twists and it goes, 870 00:49:02.820 --> 00:49:05.180 and this is what it's like with Jesus and his church 871 00:49:05.180 --> 00:49:06.020 and so forth. 872 00:49:06.020 --> 00:49:07.380 And we're like, and then it's a mystery. 873 00:49:07.380 --> 00:49:08.860 And we're like, what? 874 00:49:08.860 --> 00:49:09.700 What are we saying? 875 00:49:09.700 --> 00:49:10.980 Like, what is that scripture even saying? 876 00:49:10.980 --> 00:49:12.700 But I think you just said it. 877 00:49:13.640 --> 00:49:16.840 It's kind of like this, like beautiful, messed up, 878 00:49:16.840 --> 00:49:20.400 creative, like terrible, awful, glorious, 879 00:49:20.400 --> 00:49:24.520 tremendous experience. 880 00:49:24.520 --> 00:49:25.760 And it is true. 881 00:49:25.760 --> 00:49:27.380 I just saw an old couple. 882 00:49:27.380 --> 00:49:28.220 It was kind of funny. 883 00:49:28.220 --> 00:49:30.160 It was kind of like this video short. 884 00:49:30.160 --> 00:49:31.680 And it was like this older couple, 885 00:49:31.680 --> 00:49:34.720 they'd been married for 50 plus years and so forth. 886 00:49:34.720 --> 00:49:38.120 And he was speaking at a wedding and he was with notes. 887 00:49:38.120 --> 00:49:40.360 His wife was standing right beside him. 888 00:49:40.380 --> 00:49:43.460 And he said, he said, you know, I'll test it. 889 00:49:43.460 --> 00:49:44.540 I'll tell you about this. 890 00:49:44.540 --> 00:49:46.620 He's kind of toasting, you know, I think somebody. 891 00:49:46.620 --> 00:49:50.420 And he said, you know, we never talked about divorce, 892 00:49:50.420 --> 00:49:51.780 you know, the two of us. 893 00:49:51.780 --> 00:49:52.720 And he looks at his wife. 894 00:49:52.720 --> 00:49:57.720 He said, we talked about murder, but never divorce. 895 00:49:57.900 --> 00:50:00.180 And, you know, so it was like. 896 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:08.880 I was like, yes, I totally understand that, I get it, but that's the invitation, 897 00:50:09.920 --> 00:50:18.160 not only in that relationship, but just in life, period, that there is no other way, 898 00:50:18.160 --> 00:50:21.920 like whatever it is that you're putting before you, that God has put before you, 899 00:50:21.920 --> 00:50:25.440 or that you're seeing revealed before you, that is your assignment, 900 00:50:25.440 --> 00:50:33.440 and you can put it into a goal form, there is no other way towards that, or 901 00:50:34.640 --> 00:50:41.120 other than just through and forward, however difficult and challenging that is. 902 00:50:42.000 --> 00:50:47.120 That is the assignment, and that is life. I want to share with you the five goals that 903 00:50:47.120 --> 00:50:51.680 I wrote down, and I want you guys to write five goals between now and next week. 904 00:50:52.640 --> 00:50:57.440 And they're I am statements, and so this is, I was inspired by Brian Tracy's teaching, 905 00:50:57.440 --> 00:51:02.560 he teaches to make goal statements in I am, in present form, or even a past tense, 906 00:51:03.440 --> 00:51:09.760 where I have, or I am, or I am doing, or whatever, and my five statements are this, 907 00:51:09.760 --> 00:51:14.160 I am maintaining my ideal weight of 190 pounds, feeling fit, strong, and energetic. 908 00:51:15.040 --> 00:51:18.240 I'm the CEO of a business generating two million dollars in revenue, 909 00:51:18.880 --> 00:51:24.880 growing exponentially exponentially each year. I am confident wearing a personal clothing style 910 00:51:24.880 --> 00:51:29.920 that reflects my unique identity and values. I am in meaningful direct communication with 911 00:51:29.920 --> 00:51:36.960 my parents and children every week. I am living in a clutter-free organized home 912 00:51:36.960 --> 00:51:45.360 where every room and drawer is functional and tidy. Now my house is actually not a crazy pig 913 00:51:45.360 --> 00:51:49.840 pen, or I don't want to give the impression of that, but I'm actually going for 100% 914 00:51:50.960 --> 00:51:57.280 like in my house, like literally every nook and cranny, every closet, everything, you know. 915 00:51:58.560 --> 00:52:04.080 So I'm going hardcore with these things. And the thing about my parents and my children, 916 00:52:05.440 --> 00:52:09.600 I love my parents, I love my children, but I don't feel like I am like intentionally like 917 00:52:09.600 --> 00:52:16.720 connecting with them consistently enough. I'm not having the impact that I can have in their life 918 00:52:16.720 --> 00:52:22.960 and that they have in my life directly. Like I live like in proximity to all of that, and we 919 00:52:22.960 --> 00:52:29.840 have like a healthy community conversation going all the time, because I know what they're doing, 920 00:52:29.840 --> 00:52:35.920 and I know where they're at, I know what's going on. But I need that direct, I need that direct 921 00:52:35.920 --> 00:52:43.200 connection that I think is important, and other things. So, and then the losing the weight, 922 00:52:44.080 --> 00:52:51.120 that's the thing. So I want you to write five I am, or I've, you know, that doesn't have to be I am, 923 00:52:51.120 --> 00:53:04.560 but like, you know, present tense. I have, I am doing, I am, I, you know, I possess, I own, I 924 00:53:05.680 --> 00:53:13.600 am involved, you know, whatever the verb is, but it's present tense statements that are articulating 925 00:53:13.600 --> 00:53:23.600 very specifically with numerical qualitative, quantitative, excuse me, and time bound as well, 926 00:53:25.360 --> 00:53:32.240 if you can. Okay, by next week, write those statements down, 927 00:53:32.960 --> 00:53:36.160 and then we'll continue to talk about those next time. 928 00:53:36.480 --> 00:53:43.520 Hi, guys, God bless you. Have a great week. I'm glad to be back with you and just want to keep 929 00:53:43.520 --> 00:53:49.920 moving forward doing good things. God bless. Have a best week. Thank you. Talk to y'all soon.