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All right. Awesome. So I would love for y'all to introduce yourselves and just say what

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single city you represent. And once y'all are done with that, depending on what time

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it is, we will kind of do some connection things until Jackie's able to log in. So who

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wants to go first? Lacey, will you go first? Can I can I volunteer you?

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Yes, I was going to come off mute. My name is Lacey Miller, and I'm single city moderator

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for Colorado Springs. We just started in October, really. So well, actually, September. What month

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are we in? I have no idea. Yeah. And y'all had your first event. Yes. Yeah. We had an event on

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October 5th. Five people came there about, I guess, 19 people in our group. So I was pleased

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with the outcome and people were really thankful to get together. Yeah. And we're going to see

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that just continue to grow. I believe that I think there's a lot of good momentum there.

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So thank you. Who is willing to go next? I can go next really fast before I get bombarded.

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I'm Jackie Perry. I am from single city Nashville. And sorry, my kids are having a

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Christmas party. They put the Christmas tree up and a whole bunch of kids are coming over.

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But yes, and they've that group has been going on for a while. So I think there's like over 100

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people on the Facebook group. But really getting together there. There hasn't been that many

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consistent members. Yeah. And you just did. Okay, I forget what you called it. But I know

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there was a red barn in the picture, Jacqueline. Okay, so yeah, so I just posted for Arrington

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vineyards. They do like bluegrass music. So it's really pretty in the fall. And but we've done

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pins mechanical night, which was, which is like an arcade place. Yeah, that's free arcade machines,

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like old fashioned arcade things. And that was successful. And then we've done karaoke nights,

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which that has been really successful. And what was the other one? Oh, yeah, we just did one at

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the there's a place called the factory that is like an indoor food hall kind of thing. And that

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was super successful. So so do you prefer to go by Jackie or Jacqueline? Just so I know I

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saw my step in here. So no kids. I go by Jackie. Okay. I after I said it, I thought about that.

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And then the arcade is so interesting. I just put this on the list for ideas for new moderators as

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I'm doing training. Did the guys really come out for that? Like? Oh, yeah. Okay. So yes, we had,

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I would say about probably like 50 to 60 people show up for that. Because it's and it's and it

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was already busy there. That was like, I think that was the negative part of it. It was already

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really packed out. And they don't let you reserve tables. And I was able to get there and get a

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table put balloons up name tags. But the facility was so big. It's two stories. So on the bottom

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four is the arcade game. They have like bowling and they have games like outdoor games. And then

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the second floor was like, ski ball and Horn Hall. It's a huge and so I wouldn't ever do that one

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again, because people got lost. And like if you didn't bring a friend, and then you got there a

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little late, you couldn't you know, people were everywhere scattered everywhere. Great idea, though,

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huh? It's a I've gone on several dates there. It's a great because it's free. It's all free. So that's

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yeah, it's all free. Yeah. That's so cool. So good. Thank you so much for sharing. I know you

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got kiddos there to appreciate coming on video and talking with us. Who is willing to go next?

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I can go next. My name is Jill. I am one of the single city moderators in LA with Susan. I don't

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know if Susan's on today. But yeah, we've had a couple events that Bethany came to. I think that

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was the last time we did Bethany. Yeah, we need to get another one going there. Lots, lots of good

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stuff coming. I think we have a couple ideas to come out and help you all out there. That event

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was super fun that night. We all got together out there. Yeah, we What was that place called that?

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The bar? It was like a bar somewhere in Orange County. Yeah, I can't remember the name of it.

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But it was it was really nice. That was super fun. So that place had like people could get food at

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all different kind of vendors. So you know, you could, everyone would get their needs met,

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basically. And they did have live music, but we sat outside and just like, talked and we had a

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great time. There was one guy, Michael Erickson came to that. And then Brian, of course, was there

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too. But we just had a lot.

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of fun. Sorry, Jackie's saying the link's not working for her. Give me one sec. If someone

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else can go ahead and introduce yourself.

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Hey, Bethany, it didn't really work for me directly either. I had to copy and paste it.

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Really? So weird. Okay.

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Can someone else, maybe Christelle, do you mind to introduce yourself?

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Yeah. Hi, everyone. So Christelle Kincaid. I'm the moderator for Single City DC, Washington DC.

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So we just launched and we had our first event the, I think it was a week ago. Yes. So we,

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there were a few ladies who were traveling to DC for the Million Woman gathering. And so it was

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really powerful. We, some of us sat together and we participated in the event. It was like from

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9am to 7pm. So it was a full day of prayer and worship and hearing different testimonies. So

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it was really powerful. And then we went, we went out for dinner. And that was really nice. And

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there were about six people who participated and we have some other events coming up. We have some

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ladies from the community who are going to be in town. They're going to be staying with me. So I

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decided to just do like a informal dinner with some of the ladies but hoping to do a hike in

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November and then a Christmas themed event in December. So we're looking forward to that. And

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I've recently met some guys who are interested in helping me brainstorm and be a part of it. So I'm

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really excited about that. Yeah. Hi, they're just introducing themselves. So we're doing

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introductions and then just sharing a little bit about an event they had recently or awesome.

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Hi, ladies. Sorry. I couldn't get in from the messenger. I don't know if anyone else had that

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problem. But I don't know why that happened. So I apologize, y'all. So. All right. Awesome. Okay,

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well, let's finish the introductions until we're finished. And then we'll we'll just I don't want

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to keep you guys too long as have a couple things to share like vision of where we're headed here

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and then answer any questions. Okay, so thanks for everyone for coming tonight. Looks like there's

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nine or 10 of us here. So that's awesome. My name is Kelly. I'm representing Jacksonville,

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Florida. It recently started. And we did an escape room where we had several people.

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And it was really fun. A couple of us went out to St. Augustine today. It wasn't an official event.

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But I plan on I did it earlier with earlier this year in St. Augustine and a trolley ride.

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And it was super fun with a lot of people from Jacksonville. And I'm excited about hearing some

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of the other ideas that people have to. So I'm excited to be here tonight.

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Awesome. So Maggie and Mr. Last two, if y'all want to just introduce yourselves and say which

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single city you're representing. And Maggie has just been traveling. So she might want to share

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something different. But we're just sharing a recent event or you can share your favorite

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event that happened in your single city if you prefer.

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Emma, if you want to go ahead, I'm still trying to log in. I'm on my phone right now.

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So I'm trying to log in on my laptop. I've been having some problems. So

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if you give me a few more minutes, please. Yeah, and I'm driving. So I'll join in a sec.

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Okay. So do you want to go ahead and go, Jackie? And then we can have them do their

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introductions in a little bit. Sure. Sounds great. All right. So thanks,

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everyone for coming. Looks like we have Christelle and Lacey and Jill and Maggie and Jacqueline,

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Kelly and Emma, and of course, Bethany. And so we are going to have a meeting on Wednesday with

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the rest of the single city moderators. We didn't want to really have anyone listen and replay for

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this. We wanted to try to be live. Although you are recording this, right? Yeah, I'm recording

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if we have some new moderators that are going to be coming on in the next like few weeks. So

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okay. Awesome. Okay. So before we get started, let's just pray. Father God, we're so thankful.

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We're so thankful for all of the kingdom expansion that's happening in the earth right now and

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in every place, in every sphere, in every Metron. We are so thankful.

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and we're full of gratitude and honor to be part of the revival of marriage and family

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and all that you're doing that pertains to the original design of men and women,

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the reparations between the genders and sexes, the restoration, Malachi, of fathers and sons

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and sons and daughters and mothers and children. Lord, we thank you God that we are part of all

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of those things and we ask God that you continue to give us the resources and the wisdom,

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the revelation, the ability, the connectivity to finish this work that you've assigned us.

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Thank you for all of those that have partnered with us and have locked arms with us in this

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assignment and thank you for the grace upon us all in Jesus name, amen. All right, so I've been

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praying a lot about this, so raise your hand if you are, have you been with us circa 21 or 20.

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If you've been in this community since then. So Bethany who's married,

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Erin Joy is part of the OG club there. All right, Jill had her hand up I think and she should

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because she is and then Emma and I felt like, oh yeah, Maggie. All right, so a lot of the women

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actually in this little group right here have been with us since the beginning and that's exciting

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and we're so glad that you have decided to stick in with us for this long of a period of time that

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you believe in what God is doing here and you've seen it with your own eyes. Those of you that

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raised your hand, raise your hand again if you have seen God's power and his grace move through

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this movement. You might not be married yet but you've seen all kinds of other transformations

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happen in the lives of your sisters that were in the program with you and in your life as well.

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And so yeah, all hands are up because it's true. We cannot deny the supernatural grace upon this

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and you guys, I will tell you, I just have to be honest at the beginning here, I just want to say

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this that prior to 2020, prior to March of 2020, which is when I put out my first Facebook post

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on my own personal Facebook saying, hey, I'm launching this thing called Married in 12 Months

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or Less. If you want to be married, hit me up. And I think 30 or 40 women that are just in my

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sphere of influence, people that were following me on Facebook, people that were friends of friends

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or whatever, prior to that, my matchmaking endeavors were completely personal. I helped 15,

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actually, I think it's 17 of my friends. We counted a couple more that we forgot about

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get married over the course of my life. And that does not include all of the friends that I helped

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not get divorced or get divorced. I've always been involved in people's love lives. I've always been

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over-involved. Let me use the word over-involved in people's love lives. I'm that friend and I've

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always been that friend. And so I knew that I had a gift in this area. My mom said that I was

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talking about these kinds of subjects all the way back to her second marriage when I was probably

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about seven or eight years old, weighing in on, hey, I don't think that's a great guy. I don't

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think that you should see him. Weighing in on other people around her that were in our community,

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her friends saying, yeah, I think that that person's abusive. And then that person having

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to be rescued from an abusive marriage. I had a discernment. I just had a gift for it.

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So prior to 2020, it was just completely a personal gift. And I want to tell you that I

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never, it never crossed my mind. It's really important that I say this. It never crossed my

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mind to make this into any kind of ministry or business tree ever, ever. Okay. So this is

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completely a God idea completely. So when I left my mother's hospital room, when she passed away

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and I went back to Texas and I sat in my office surrounded by heart workshop, because that is what

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I was teaching at the time. To everyone, not, not single people, obviously. I just told the

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Lord, I was like, you know, I don't really feel like I want to do this anymore. I'm not really

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sure what the shift is, but I know that I'm shifting. And that is when the entire idea

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and the curriculum for the idea were downloaded to me. Okay. And so it was completely supernatural.

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I threw it against the wall to see if it would stick with what I just told you, the Facebook post

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to my private Facebook audience, the people that have friended me on Facebook, not public Facebook,

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but private Facebook. And within six months of that first post, we had our first marriage.

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We had our first marriage with those, those people that joined the 30 to 40 people that

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joined from the very beginning within six months.

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by January, so March is when I soft launched it.

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October is when I hard launched it, okay?

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So March, I think that I may have done a couple classes,

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maybe March, maybe May or June, I can't even remember,

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because that's how informal it was.

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Just trying out some of the curriculum

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that I was feeling from heaven,

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trying out some of the things.

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You guys, you know how your Facebook memories pop up?

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You'll see what you've been posting on Facebook

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over the years on that specific day.

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Who looks at their Facebook memories?

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You really should, because it'll show you,

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number one, how far you've come.

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That's really important, and number two,

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it'll show you what you were talking about

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or thinking about back then.

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And I will tell you, from the time that I joined Facebook,

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and I was an early adopter,

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because you guys know my background is television

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and media consulting, and so I got on Facebook,

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I think in like 2008, as soon as it was available

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for people that were not in college, maybe 2007,

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I was on Facebook, okay?

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And so I will have memories, and I was on Facebook a lot.

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I posted a lot, I did a lot of ministry on Facebook

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back in the day, and I will tell you,

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I have been talking about this far longer than 2020.

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Like, I will get posts from 2007, eight, nine,

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about, hey, you know, fixer-uppers are for houses,

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not spouses, you know, like,

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I have been saying this stuff for decades, okay?

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And so the reason why I'm saying that

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is because when we hard-launched,

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when I wasn't just kind of toying with the idea,

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but I was like, okay, yeah,

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I really feel like God is on this,

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this is really a God thing,

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I've tested out the word that God gave me in March of 2020,

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I see the fruit of this word,

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I see people getting transformed,

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I see people getting into relationships,

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I'm gonna go ahead and hard-launch this.

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In October, I ran my one and only ad.

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I did not start running ads again until last year, 2023.

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So I ran my one and only ad,

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and the whole thing just exploded.

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And some of y'all came in from that ad,

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Bethany, she came in from that,

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and so it was powerful, you guys,

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what God was doing, and it kept growing.

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And from the very beginning,

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if you're a new person to us, you need to know,

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from the very beginning, we established a prayer covering,

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and we also established a heavenly portal.

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I am an intercessor, that is what I do,

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that is my primary gift or ministry in the kingdom,

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is to be an intercessor,

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and everything that we see happening here

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is as a result of prayer and intercession,

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and not just from the last four years,

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but from the last 28 years, okay?

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And that's where I come in on the scene,

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the last 28 years, but in beyond,

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whoever came before me, whoever's been sowing into it,

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I'm not talking about singles,

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I'm talking about this movement,

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this movement right here, nothing else, okay?

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There's obviously all kinds of people out there

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that care about singles.

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I do believe that God has given us

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a very supernatural portion,

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and we have more success stories

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than any singles movement that exists right now,

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more success stories than any singles movement that exists.

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And I know a lot of them.

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I've become friends and acquainted with some of them

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over the years, and we've been offered to lock arms

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and do some cross-pollination,

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which we may actually do, I don't know if we will or not,

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and I'm gonna explain why in just a second.

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And so I have tried my best for the last four years,

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it'll be five this coming October,

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March if you wanna count the soft launch,

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I have tried my best to keep on assignment

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of what I felt like God told us to do.

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And you guys, that's really difficult.

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It's very difficult, and so that's why I wanted

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to gather you guys here, because it's difficult

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to stay on assignment, because there's so many things

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that you could do, right?

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There's so many things that we could do.

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There's so many needs that people have,

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and you guys, this is how megachurches are created.

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Someone gets an assignment from the Lord

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for a certain region, a certain area,

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they go in there, they plant a church pretty soon

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because they have a charismatic personality

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or they have good things to say,

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or people are just drawn because of the sheer grace

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on the assignment, that starts happening.

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And then if you get the right people on the seats

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on the bus, pretty soon it's big and it's like a wildfire,

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but then that presents people coming,

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and those people all have issues, don't they?

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They have problems that need solved, don't they?

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There's all kinds of people in that quote-unquote harvest

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that come in, and they got issues.

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Their dog is sick, they got single mama issues,

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single daddy issues, they have financial issues,

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they have transportation issues,

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they have all these issues.

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And what happens is, is that someone tries to meet that

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within an organization.

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And this is how Church Incorporated gets started,

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in my opinion, Church Inc.

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Is where you have this church and you wanna meet the needs

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of all the people that come, oh, well, we have childcare

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and we have this and we have this.

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And that's how a megachurch is birthed.

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And you know what happens in megachurch?

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People feel unseen and unknown, right?

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People feel disconnected in those big, huge honking cities

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that we call churches.

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And I don't wanna do that.

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Ever since the beginning, we've had all kinds of people come

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and guess what?

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They had 99 problems and being single ain't one.

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Right, they think that's the one, they've come,

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but their problem was not their problem.

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They're like, I'm single.

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And then you kind of look under the hood and you're like,

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oh baby, you don't even got an engine under here.

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It ain't what you think it is, all right?

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But then what happens is,

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is that the natural ministry kind of mindset,

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then we wanna kind of meet all those needs, don't we?

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And the good thing is, is that we've always had

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the hard work kind of to back us up.

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You know, we are Jehovah sneaky in the way

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that we bring people here to show them

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that what they think they need is not really what they want,

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it's not really what they really need

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so that we can help them to surrender

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to what God knows they need.

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And we've had a lot of success at that.

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But it has been very tempting

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to run off in a million different directions

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to try to meet the needs of the people

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is all that I'm trying to say.

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Does everyone get where I'm going here?

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It's very tempting to begin to do all kinds of things

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that God did not tell us to do.

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And you know what happens when that happens?

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It gets really convoluted

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and then you have to start pruning and cutting things off

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and maybe two or three or 10 or 15 or 25 people

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really liked that thing and they got used to it

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and now you're chopping it off

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because God never told you to do it in the first place

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and you don't have the staff to cover it

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or the volunteer power to implement it

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and then it's just a mess

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and we've tried to stay away from that as much as possible.

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So that brings us to single cities.

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So from the very beginning, like I said,

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we had implemented a prayer covering.

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You guys, at the very beginning,

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I led all the prayer times because I didn't have,

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I didn't know who my prayer leaders were yet

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because I didn't know the people that I was leading yet.

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But pretty soon God began to highlight

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that we had people that could lead prayer,

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that knew how to lead others in prayer

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and so before too long,

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I'd say within the first six months from October 2020 on,

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the first six months of that official launch,

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we had prayer leaders.

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I know it's hard to believe,

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but in the beginning of this movement,

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I used to do one-on-ones with all the students,

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every one of them, every one of them.

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We used Marco Polo, we had sister squads,

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we had, you guys, we had so much connectivity

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at the beginning that I'm sure that a lot of people

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that were there at the beginning

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kind of maybe a little resentful of how big we've grown

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because they're like, man, I liked it in the old days,

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right, when it was just us

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and we had a lot more time and attention and all the,

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you know, because that's what happens.

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But growth is a good thing as long as once again,

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we're not growing in a million different directions

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that God didn't tell us to grow in.

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So the way that you combat trying to grow

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and trying to diversify to a place

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where nothing's powerful anymore

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because it's all too diluted

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is by partnering with other organizations

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or business trees or ministries

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that do what you are not mandated to do.

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Does that make sense?

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Like that's their assignment.

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It's not your assignment.

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Your people need that service, but it's not your assignment.

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So instead of you trying to fulfill that assignment,

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you can just partner with someone

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who that is their assignment, right?

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And so I want to announce to you,

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this is a little bit of a vision casting,

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but we're gonna have a forum,

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a little town hall here in just a couple minutes.

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I want to vision cast to you that in 2025,

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kind of our fifth year of being alive,

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we've gone through a lot of pivots,

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including a brand change from married in 12 months or less

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to last year single.

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And that has to do with me

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ending my former radio business partnership

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and going on my own in mid 2022

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because I never should have gotten

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into that business partnership in the first place.

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I was naive, that's fine, but I'm thankful

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because a lot of people came in through the radio airwaves

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and their lives have been completely transformed.

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So has their lineage and their legacy.

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It was very hard on me, about killed me y'all, honestly.

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The stress from that, I had so much autoimmune situations,

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I had so much sickness from the stress of that partnership,

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but we're out of it now

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and a lot of people's lives have been changed,

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but guess what?

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I'm not getting into another one of those.

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I learned my lesson.

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I learned it the hard way.

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And we've learned a lot of things the hard way

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during these pivots.

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So the brand change to last year's single,

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which I prefer, I like it so much better.

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I still do have that forefront Simon & Schuster book

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out there, Married in 12 Months or Less,

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which you guys, I wanna talk about that

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in this little forum,

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because there's some things we can do with that.

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So it's time to pivot again,

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and I believe that the new vision for this year,

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it started a little bit this year, you guys,

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God's so kind to allow us to have a little bit

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of a beta launch in 2024.

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We went on one last trip single.

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You guys know that's a new brand of ours, last trip single.

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We wanna gather people for vacations and retreats

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and conferences.

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And we were able to do a couple things

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under that banner this year,

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most notably a international trip to Cartagena, Colombia,

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which was phenomenally successful.

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The news came, we were able to launch in that country,

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the whole movement,

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and we were able to have a conference there,

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and then plus a retreat for our ladies,

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which was just really powerful.

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But this coming year in 2025,

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so God gave me this,

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he gave me this word last year, this year in 2024,

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but it's carrying over to 2025.

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And that is the year of,

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you can write this down,

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because this is going to be the assignment

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of all of the things that are connected

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to what we do here.

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This is the year of in-person.

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I'm thankful for technology.

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Technology is wonderful.

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I'm glad that we can pray with each other all over the world

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and there is no distance in the spirit.

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There's no distance in the spirit.

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But people need in-person community.

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They need people that they can hug and not virtually.

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The best that you can do over online is poke each other,

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and we don't want to poke each other.

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That's weird.

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Who even came up with that?

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That's the weirdest thing in the world.

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So we want to be able to go to coffee.

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We want to be able to show up at each other's houses

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to dog sit or baby sit,

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because there's an emergency.

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We want to be able to feel supported in person.

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We want to be able to invite people to come

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to something that's honoring us.

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We're getting an award,

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some sort of celebration, right?

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We want, we have to have this.

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And so we want to begin to,

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we want to begin to continue,

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we want to continue to give people

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the life transforming information.

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And we are going to be changing up our curriculum.

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Bethany, you don't know about this yet.

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So I'm going to, I'm not going to announce that here.

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Bethany is going to say,

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Jenny, you guys, I just want to let you know,

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it's hard to work with me.

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Okay?

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Because everything's changing.com.

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All right?

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That's what a visionary kind of mind does.

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I have a thousand good ideas before breakfast

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and weeding out the good ideas to get to the God ideas.

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Sometimes, sometimes it's not that easy,

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but I will tell you that I put a lot of prayer into this,

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including this morning before this meeting,

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just really praying.

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And I have some scripture.

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Here's my Bible to show you that I really,

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I really know that God is telling us to do this, you guys.

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And he's actually even put in some,

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if you, if you will, I will kind of ideas in my heart.

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If you will do this, then I will do that.

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Okay?

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And so that's exciting.

466
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I love it when God attaches the promise to our obedience.

467
00:28:26.580 --> 00:28:27.860
Isn't that fun?

468
00:28:27.860 --> 00:28:29.420
That's always great.

469
00:28:29.420 --> 00:28:33.580
So I would like to see, you know,

470
00:28:33.580 --> 00:28:36.340
we stopped counting because we lost count,

471
00:28:36.340 --> 00:28:37.940
but Bethany and I are trying to put together

472
00:28:37.940 --> 00:28:39.660
a little project right now,

473
00:28:39.660 --> 00:28:41.860
where we actually count all of the engagements

474
00:28:41.860 --> 00:28:42.700
and marriages, you guys.

475
00:28:42.700 --> 00:28:44.780
We don't have time to count all of the people

476
00:28:44.780 --> 00:28:47.540
that are in a successful courtship right now,

477
00:28:48.060 --> 00:28:49.420
they're like in the marriage funnel.

478
00:28:49.420 --> 00:28:51.020
We'll count them once they get engaged

479
00:28:51.020 --> 00:28:51.980
because then we'll know,

480
00:28:51.980 --> 00:28:53.980
because they'll give us the engagement announcement.

481
00:28:53.980 --> 00:28:57.900
But we lost track after 850-ish.

482
00:28:57.900 --> 00:28:58.740
All right?

483
00:28:58.740 --> 00:29:02.260
So we're trying to gather it all up and get to it.

484
00:29:02.260 --> 00:29:06.540
My guess is it's between 850 and a thousand somewhere.

485
00:29:06.540 --> 00:29:09.860
Guys, in four years, what in the world?

486
00:29:09.860 --> 00:29:12.260
October is four years right now.

487
00:29:13.180 --> 00:29:14.340
It's crazy.

488
00:29:14.340 --> 00:29:15.500
It's crazy time.

489
00:29:15.500 --> 00:29:16.340
It's good.

490
00:29:16.340 --> 00:29:17.180
I love it.

491
00:29:17.820 --> 00:29:20.140
I want to tell you that I believe next year in 2025,

492
00:29:20.140 --> 00:29:22.540
we quadruple that number in one year,

493
00:29:22.540 --> 00:29:24.860
in one year with this new,

494
00:29:26.820 --> 00:29:29.700
the year of in-person, in-person.

495
00:29:29.700 --> 00:29:30.540
Okay?

496
00:29:30.540 --> 00:29:32.740
So I want to give you guys a little history of Single City.

497
00:29:32.740 --> 00:29:34.340
We launched them really early.

498
00:29:34.340 --> 00:29:36.460
They were called all different types of things.

499
00:29:36.460 --> 00:29:37.700
We settled on Single City

500
00:29:37.700 --> 00:29:39.380
because we were going to do something.

501
00:29:39.380 --> 00:29:41.860
We scrapped that idea with single nation and single cities.

502
00:29:41.860 --> 00:29:43.100
Now that we have spirit mate match,

503
00:29:43.100 --> 00:29:44.620
we don't need to do that anymore anyway.

504
00:29:44.620 --> 00:29:45.860
So it doesn't matter.

505
00:29:45.900 --> 00:29:47.420
But the Single Cities were birthed

506
00:29:47.420 --> 00:29:50.180
because people do want in-person community

507
00:29:50.180 --> 00:29:51.700
and people, especially the women,

508
00:29:51.700 --> 00:29:53.140
they wanted to hang out with each other.

509
00:29:53.140 --> 00:29:54.900
They wanted to know who lives in my city,

510
00:29:54.900 --> 00:29:56.380
who lives in proximity to me,

511
00:29:56.380 --> 00:29:57.460
who can I get together with?

512
00:29:57.460 --> 00:29:59.140
Because women are communal.

513
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.200
and not so much.

514
00:30:02.200 --> 00:30:04.160
Okay, I'm married to a man, y'all,

515
00:30:04.160 --> 00:30:06.000
and he's hanging out and going golfing

516
00:30:06.000 --> 00:30:07.160
with some dudes tomorrow,

517
00:30:07.160 --> 00:30:09.520
and that's probably like the fifth time in 17 years

518
00:30:09.520 --> 00:30:11.840
I've seen him go hang out with some guys.

519
00:30:11.840 --> 00:30:14.360
All right, men are not that communal.

520
00:30:14.360 --> 00:30:15.200
They're not.

521
00:30:16.560 --> 00:30:17.960
Unless they have like a group of guys

522
00:30:17.960 --> 00:30:19.520
that they grew up with that they're still friends with,

523
00:30:19.520 --> 00:30:22.040
and usually that's not a good thing.

524
00:30:22.040 --> 00:30:24.760
That's usually like boys' nights and video games

525
00:30:24.760 --> 00:30:27.320
and you know, sports and the bars,

526
00:30:27.320 --> 00:30:29.400
and you got a bunch of friends in that friend group

527
00:30:29.440 --> 00:30:31.160
that are not married, but you're married,

528
00:30:31.160 --> 00:30:32.400
and they're trying to get you to do things

529
00:30:32.400 --> 00:30:33.520
that married people shouldn't do,

530
00:30:33.520 --> 00:30:35.120
and it's not good.

531
00:30:35.120 --> 00:30:38.440
Okay, so women wanted to gather,

532
00:30:38.440 --> 00:30:40.480
so we didn't let them,

533
00:30:40.480 --> 00:30:43.280
but we gave them a vehicle for it.

534
00:30:43.280 --> 00:30:44.720
The single cities were born.

535
00:30:45.880 --> 00:30:48.840
And they really did okay,

536
00:30:48.840 --> 00:30:51.600
but then something started happening online.

537
00:30:52.640 --> 00:30:57.080
The era of the scammer and the spammer began, right?

538
00:30:57.520 --> 00:31:00.640
And you guys, can I tell you that I have a lot of friends

539
00:31:00.640 --> 00:31:05.640
that own online brands.

540
00:31:05.920 --> 00:31:09.200
So I have a lot of friends that own online brands,

541
00:31:09.200 --> 00:31:13.800
business brands, wealth building brands,

542
00:31:13.800 --> 00:31:14.840
you know, famous brands.

543
00:31:14.840 --> 00:31:15.880
I'm not here to name drop.

544
00:31:15.880 --> 00:31:17.880
I'm just saying I have friends that have huge communities,

545
00:31:17.880 --> 00:31:19.000
and I will tell you,

546
00:31:19.000 --> 00:31:21.600
all of them have had to shut down

547
00:31:21.600 --> 00:31:23.560
and archive their Facebook groups

548
00:31:23.560 --> 00:31:26.080
because of scammers and spammers.

549
00:31:26.320 --> 00:31:28.560
And so when we saw that happening,

550
00:31:28.560 --> 00:31:33.560
we started to put up membership questions.

551
00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:35.800
We started to kind of put up some gates, right?

552
00:31:35.800 --> 00:31:37.720
We started gatekeeping those groups

553
00:31:37.720 --> 00:31:40.040
to make sure that no one was getting in those groups

554
00:31:40.040 --> 00:31:41.280
that shouldn't be there.

555
00:31:42.360 --> 00:31:45.360
And then we went through an era,

556
00:31:45.360 --> 00:31:47.160
because you guys remember this, four years,

557
00:31:47.160 --> 00:31:49.600
we went through several different little eras here.

558
00:31:49.600 --> 00:31:53.560
We went through a season where our student body,

559
00:31:54.560 --> 00:31:57.080
what they appreciated about our movement

560
00:31:57.080 --> 00:32:01.080
was that there wasn't any randos in our movement.

561
00:32:02.360 --> 00:32:03.200
They were like, yeah,

562
00:32:03.200 --> 00:32:05.280
that's what I really hate about Christian dating apps.

563
00:32:05.280 --> 00:32:07.640
That's what I hate about other Christian groups.

564
00:32:07.640 --> 00:32:08.880
The people that are in those groups

565
00:32:08.880 --> 00:32:10.680
are not really truly Christian.

566
00:32:10.680 --> 00:32:12.920
They're not really truly single.

567
00:32:12.920 --> 00:32:15.280
You know, there's people in there with nefarious motives.

568
00:32:15.280 --> 00:32:16.120
You know, you're in there,

569
00:32:16.120 --> 00:32:18.280
your guard is down and you meet someone,

570
00:32:18.280 --> 00:32:19.240
and the next thing, you know,

571
00:32:19.240 --> 00:32:21.360
they're trying to send you a dick pic.

572
00:32:21.360 --> 00:32:22.320
I get it.

573
00:32:22.440 --> 00:32:24.800
And so we also listened to that feedback

574
00:32:24.800 --> 00:32:25.840
and we're like, okay,

575
00:32:27.760 --> 00:32:30.120
if that offends you, then penis, penis pic.

576
00:32:30.120 --> 00:32:32.480
Sorry, I'm from Cleveland.

577
00:32:32.480 --> 00:32:33.440
I'm from Cleveland.

578
00:32:33.440 --> 00:32:34.360
I don't know.

579
00:32:34.360 --> 00:32:36.920
Okay, so it's all the same, right?

580
00:32:39.800 --> 00:32:43.480
Okay, junk mail, junk, junk mail.

581
00:32:43.480 --> 00:32:44.560
All right, there you go.

582
00:32:44.560 --> 00:32:49.560
Okay, so we listened to our ladies,

583
00:32:50.240 --> 00:32:51.400
especially our ladies,

584
00:32:51.400 --> 00:32:52.240
and we're like, okay,

585
00:32:52.240 --> 00:32:54.120
so now we're gonna gatekeep even harder

586
00:32:54.120 --> 00:32:57.120
and we're not gonna let anyone come into this community,

587
00:32:57.120 --> 00:33:00.120
these, you know, this extended community

588
00:33:00.120 --> 00:33:01.320
that isn't a student.

589
00:33:01.320 --> 00:33:04.200
And so then that was when the season or the era was born

590
00:33:04.200 --> 00:33:06.480
where you couldn't join a single city

591
00:33:06.480 --> 00:33:08.600
unless you were a student.

592
00:33:08.600 --> 00:33:10.240
And I want to announce here today

593
00:33:10.240 --> 00:33:12.240
that that era is now coming to an end.

594
00:33:13.120 --> 00:33:14.840
I've been thinking about this for a long time

595
00:33:14.840 --> 00:33:15.920
and then Jacqueline Perry,

596
00:33:15.920 --> 00:33:18.840
one of our newer single city leaders,

597
00:33:18.840 --> 00:33:20.800
she said some things about some events

598
00:33:20.800 --> 00:33:22.320
that she was having in Nashville

599
00:33:22.320 --> 00:33:24.800
that really confirmed to me that it's time for us

600
00:33:24.800 --> 00:33:27.320
to open the single cities to all singles.

601
00:33:28.480 --> 00:33:32.520
But I feel like God has given me an idea

602
00:33:32.520 --> 00:33:37.520
of how we can keep the gatekeeping and the growth.

603
00:33:42.160 --> 00:33:43.720
Gatekeeping and growth, how we can,

604
00:33:43.720 --> 00:33:45.360
those two things can get married together,

605
00:33:45.360 --> 00:33:47.000
gatekeeping and growth, okay?

606
00:33:47.000 --> 00:33:48.040
So I'm gonna run this by you,

607
00:33:48.040 --> 00:33:50.320
and once again, this is now a town hall,

608
00:33:51.280 --> 00:33:53.160
the podium is open, the mic is open,

609
00:33:53.160 --> 00:33:54.280
so give me your feedback,

610
00:33:54.280 --> 00:33:55.760
but this is the idea that I have.

611
00:33:55.760 --> 00:33:58.480
We have the ability to have three membership questions

612
00:33:58.480 --> 00:34:03.480
and we also have the ability to employ Facebook AI, okay?

613
00:34:03.560 --> 00:34:06.320
Our administrative assistant on these groups,

614
00:34:06.320 --> 00:34:08.120
which means that we can set criteria

615
00:34:08.120 --> 00:34:11.239
of which the assistant would approve or deny

616
00:34:11.239 --> 00:34:14.040
requests to join these groups, okay?

617
00:34:14.040 --> 00:34:15.880
What would you guys think about

618
00:34:15.880 --> 00:34:18.679
for those of you that are having active events

619
00:34:18.679 --> 00:34:19.679
and for those of you that are not,

620
00:34:20.120 --> 00:34:21.040
you're gonna soon be,

621
00:34:21.040 --> 00:34:24.480
because God's gonna help us to invest

622
00:34:24.480 --> 00:34:27.400
not in the single city, but in you, the leader,

623
00:34:27.400 --> 00:34:30.920
so that you can then begin to do

624
00:34:30.920 --> 00:34:33.480
what you need to do in that area, okay?

625
00:34:33.480 --> 00:34:35.520
And that includes all different types of resources,

626
00:34:35.520 --> 00:34:38.280
including monetary resources behind an event

627
00:34:38.280 --> 00:34:40.320
maybe that you want to throw, okay?

628
00:34:40.320 --> 00:34:43.480
So we'll talk about that, that's a sidebar.

629
00:34:43.480 --> 00:34:47.040
But right now, what would you guys think about

630
00:34:47.040 --> 00:34:49.440
at those events, there'd be a QR code

631
00:34:50.199 --> 00:34:54.040
that people could scan to get to the information

632
00:34:56.040 --> 00:34:58.360
on our movement, but also on the single city

633
00:34:58.360 --> 00:35:00.720
that's nearest them, which is your single city.

634
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:01.860
So they scan that QR code,

635
00:35:01.860 --> 00:35:03.040
it would show them the stuff,

636
00:35:03.040 --> 00:35:05.260
including the Facebook link to join.

637
00:35:05.260 --> 00:35:08.480
If they join through that link,

638
00:35:08.480 --> 00:35:12.380
there could be a little password,

639
00:35:12.380 --> 00:35:13.560
a little referral code.

640
00:35:13.560 --> 00:35:15.440
I want to call it a referral code.

641
00:35:15.440 --> 00:35:17.880
One of the questions when they join that group is,

642
00:35:17.880 --> 00:35:19.660
what's your referral code?

643
00:35:19.660 --> 00:35:22.760
Then they type that in and then immediately,

644
00:35:22.760 --> 00:35:26.520
the AI assistant on Facebook knows that if that's there,

645
00:35:26.520 --> 00:35:29.160
then that person can get approved to join the group.

646
00:35:29.480 --> 00:35:31.200
If you, a human moderator,

647
00:35:31.200 --> 00:35:32.560
is looking through the requests

648
00:35:32.560 --> 00:35:33.920
and approving them manually,

649
00:35:33.920 --> 00:35:36.740
you also will know that if that word is there,

650
00:35:36.740 --> 00:35:38.520
that safe word, that referral word,

651
00:35:38.520 --> 00:35:40.760
then you can just go ahead and approve that person.

652
00:35:40.760 --> 00:35:42.760
Because that means that, number one,

653
00:35:42.760 --> 00:35:45.960
they got it from an existing member of our group.

654
00:35:47.320 --> 00:35:48.560
We'll tell our members,

655
00:35:48.560 --> 00:35:50.440
hey, don't give this out to just anyone.

656
00:35:50.440 --> 00:35:53.920
We want to have high-quality singles in these groups.

657
00:35:53.920 --> 00:35:56.200
Give it out to someone that you know is safe,

658
00:35:56.200 --> 00:35:58.040
someone that you think is good of good moral character,

659
00:35:58.080 --> 00:36:01.440
someone that you think is actually a Christian.

660
00:36:01.440 --> 00:36:02.280
Hello?

661
00:36:03.280 --> 00:36:04.920
Guys, there's all kinds of other dating groups

662
00:36:04.920 --> 00:36:05.920
for people that are not Christians.

663
00:36:05.920 --> 00:36:07.600
Let them go there.

664
00:36:07.600 --> 00:36:10.080
Unless they have potential, they're a pre-believer,

665
00:36:10.080 --> 00:36:12.240
and you think that being part of the group

666
00:36:12.240 --> 00:36:13.800
because they have good morals

667
00:36:13.800 --> 00:36:17.240
is actually going to tip them, be their tipping point,

668
00:36:17.240 --> 00:36:18.520
then that's fine as well.

669
00:36:18.520 --> 00:36:20.460
But they either got it through someone

670
00:36:20.460 --> 00:36:22.960
who's in the group already, a member in good standing,

671
00:36:22.960 --> 00:36:27.960
or they got it from an event that they came to.

672
00:36:29.040 --> 00:36:30.080
And then, of course, you guys,

673
00:36:30.080 --> 00:36:32.800
if you see anyone in your groups behaving badly,

674
00:36:32.800 --> 00:36:33.720
one strike, they're out.

675
00:36:33.720 --> 00:36:35.960
If they're behaving badly, just delete them.

676
00:36:35.960 --> 00:36:37.400
You don't even have to.

677
00:36:37.400 --> 00:36:38.240
There's certain things

678
00:36:38.240 --> 00:36:39.440
that you don't even have to put up with

679
00:36:39.440 --> 00:36:40.640
if you see it happening.

680
00:36:41.560 --> 00:36:45.240
And if you think that somehow, accidentally,

681
00:36:45.240 --> 00:36:46.720
some scammer got in,

682
00:36:46.720 --> 00:36:49.640
it shouldn't be able to happen with membership questions.

683
00:36:51.160 --> 00:36:54.220
Bots can't answer membership questions.

684
00:36:54.220 --> 00:36:56.080
They don't have the technology for that yet.

685
00:36:56.120 --> 00:36:58.440
So bots are not gonna answer membership questions

686
00:36:58.440 --> 00:37:01.520
like sex bots and those types of chat bots

687
00:37:01.520 --> 00:37:02.580
and different things.

688
00:37:02.580 --> 00:37:06.400
But a scammer, someone who sees a singles group,

689
00:37:06.400 --> 00:37:07.980
just like a singles dating app,

690
00:37:07.980 --> 00:37:09.520
and they wanna get in there

691
00:37:09.520 --> 00:37:12.200
because they wanna manipulate people,

692
00:37:12.200 --> 00:37:14.320
you should be able to see that person pretty quickly,

693
00:37:14.320 --> 00:37:16.360
and they wouldn't have the password.

694
00:37:18.200 --> 00:37:19.020
You feel me?

695
00:37:20.240 --> 00:37:23.160
Okay, that's important.

696
00:37:23.160 --> 00:37:25.580
And you guys can have a little fresher

697
00:37:26.100 --> 00:37:29.060
in your groups of telling people what to look for.

698
00:37:29.060 --> 00:37:30.540
That's another thing that we can have happening

699
00:37:30.540 --> 00:37:33.260
in the single cities is just some information,

700
00:37:33.260 --> 00:37:38.260
some good information on how to be safe online.

701
00:37:38.380 --> 00:37:39.800
We teach that in our movement,

702
00:37:39.800 --> 00:37:43.260
but you also could have a little bit of that

703
00:37:43.260 --> 00:37:45.100
there in the single city online groups

704
00:37:45.100 --> 00:37:48.020
so that people know how to stay safe online.

705
00:37:48.020 --> 00:37:51.740
Okay, so that's my first idea.

706
00:37:51.740 --> 00:37:55.240
So we can grow, but also gatekeep.

707
00:37:55.900 --> 00:37:57.200
So now that the floor is open, the mic is open,

708
00:37:57.200 --> 00:37:58.760
what do y'all think about that?

709
00:38:03.720 --> 00:38:06.200
Jackie, Bethany knows that I've been talking to her

710
00:38:06.200 --> 00:38:07.280
about this for a while,

711
00:38:07.280 --> 00:38:10.180
because I think it's a great way,

712
00:38:10.180 --> 00:38:15.180
a segue to introduce singles to your program

713
00:38:16.080 --> 00:38:20.280
through that Facebook community as well.

714
00:38:20.280 --> 00:38:22.120
Especially if we're weeding people out,

715
00:38:22.120 --> 00:38:25.480
like you were saying, we can also promote your program

716
00:38:25.480 --> 00:38:28.840
on that Facebook page while we're meeting in person

717
00:38:28.840 --> 00:38:30.280
as well as on that page.

718
00:38:30.280 --> 00:38:32.300
So I think it's a great idea.

719
00:38:33.640 --> 00:38:38.640
Right, and very soon, we've been redoing

720
00:38:38.640 --> 00:38:41.540
and redoing and redoing the actual main site.

721
00:38:42.400 --> 00:38:45.080
And there will be a lot of things that people can do

722
00:38:45.080 --> 00:38:48.160
as far as one and done classes and webinars

723
00:38:48.160 --> 00:38:50.340
on certain subjects like attachment styles

724
00:38:50.340 --> 00:38:54.940
or online dating or boundaries or Enneagram personality,

725
00:38:54.940 --> 00:38:57.060
complimentary opposite connections,

726
00:38:57.060 --> 00:38:59.120
all different types of things that people can do

727
00:38:59.120 --> 00:39:01.660
besides just take the last year single program.

728
00:39:02.500 --> 00:39:04.140
So, all right, who else?

729
00:39:04.140 --> 00:39:04.980
So that's good.

730
00:39:04.980 --> 00:39:06.780
So Kelly's gives a thumb up on that.

731
00:39:06.780 --> 00:39:08.300
Erin's got a thumb up.

732
00:39:08.300 --> 00:39:09.860
I think it's a great idea

733
00:39:09.860 --> 00:39:12.760
because what was happening at the events I was hosting,

734
00:39:12.760 --> 00:39:14.460
there were so many people showing up.

735
00:39:14.460 --> 00:39:17.240
Like one of them, there was 80 people that showed up.

736
00:39:17.240 --> 00:39:19.160
And so they were asking questions.

737
00:39:19.200 --> 00:39:21.960
I didn't have enough time to tell every single person

738
00:39:21.960 --> 00:39:24.000
about the program at all.

739
00:39:24.000 --> 00:39:27.320
Like I was like answering questions, getting name tags,

740
00:39:27.320 --> 00:39:28.560
getting mixer cards.

741
00:39:28.560 --> 00:39:30.000
And then they were like,

742
00:39:30.000 --> 00:39:31.640
was there a Facebook group I can join?

743
00:39:31.640 --> 00:39:34.400
But there was, they couldn't unless they're a member.

744
00:39:34.400 --> 00:39:37.120
And then my friend Bev has a free one,

745
00:39:37.120 --> 00:39:38.640
like it's called Your New Friend Group.

746
00:39:38.640 --> 00:39:40.880
And she's like, just join mine and we'll keep you posted.

747
00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:45.880
Well, her group grew from 100 people to 260 people

748
00:39:45.960 --> 00:39:50.320
within the two events we hosted together.

749
00:39:50.320 --> 00:39:52.520
And so I'm like, that's a huge amount of people

750
00:39:52.520 --> 00:39:55.400
that could have like funneled through to,

751
00:39:55.400 --> 00:39:56.240
you know what I mean?

752
00:39:56.240 --> 00:39:57.060
And found out.

753
00:39:57.060 --> 00:39:58.360
And so I think the QR code,

754
00:39:58.360 --> 00:39:59.960
because also I found.

755
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.160
of the people were embarrassed, like they didn't want to talk about, you know, I mean,

756
00:40:04.160 --> 00:40:08.880
if they had the QR code, they could see, you know, discreetly scan it and, and find out the

757
00:40:08.880 --> 00:40:13.120
information instead of being like, let me hear all about it. Do you know what I mean? At the event?

758
00:40:13.120 --> 00:40:18.720
And sure. And getting embarrassed, because there's like a stigma of like, you know, I don't,

759
00:40:18.720 --> 00:40:22.000
you know, all that stuff. So anyways, I think it's a great idea. I'm excited.

760
00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:30.160
So, so you guys know, obviously, you see that it was never about control, it was about quality

761
00:40:30.160 --> 00:40:35.200
control. So, and the quality control is still really important to me, but I also don't want

762
00:40:35.200 --> 00:40:39.600
to strangle the movement. Okay. And so that's where these scriptures come into play. You know,

763
00:40:39.600 --> 00:40:47.600
in Acts chapter 15, you see that the new church, which was all Jews up until this point,

764
00:40:48.160 --> 00:40:52.960
it started spreading to the Gentiles. And there was a lot of talk about what was that going to

765
00:40:52.960 --> 00:40:59.840
look like? Because once again, quality control, right? Gentiles are pagans, they don't, you know,

766
00:40:59.840 --> 00:41:07.360
they don't know, and they also don't follow Judaic law, or feasts, or, you know, the rituals and

767
00:41:07.360 --> 00:41:12.560
stuff that the Jews did. And so like, what are we going to do? Are we going to, are we going to

768
00:41:12.560 --> 00:41:19.760
prioritize, like being purists of having things kind of go the way that we want them to? Or are

769
00:41:19.760 --> 00:41:27.440
we going to prioritize movement or momentum? And so I want to prioritize momentum. You know, I mean,

770
00:41:28.880 --> 00:41:33.440
is it a possibility that, you know, someone's going to end up, you know, going out with someone

771
00:41:33.440 --> 00:41:38.080
who's not really a Christian, and they met them through our page or whatever? Yeah, but you know

772
00:41:38.080 --> 00:41:42.320
what, there comes a certain point in time when people just have to be grownups and deal with

773
00:41:42.320 --> 00:41:49.680
it themselves. Can't keep everyone safe. We have to, we can give people the teaching on how to stay

774
00:41:49.680 --> 00:41:54.080
safe out there, and we definitely will do that. But then that, that's up to them, what they're

775
00:41:54.080 --> 00:41:58.560
going to do after that. Is it a possibility that, you know, some other dating group is going to come

776
00:41:58.560 --> 00:42:02.880
to one of our events and try to steal a bunch of people that are part of our, you know, part of our

777
00:42:02.880 --> 00:42:08.240
thing? Yeah. And if they do that, then, you know, whatever, you know, hopefully those people get,

778
00:42:08.880 --> 00:42:17.280
you know, some quality results. Oh, I forgot this. Early, not early, but about two years in,

779
00:42:17.280 --> 00:42:21.520
someone came into our group. I don't know who they were, but they started dropping in the DMs

780
00:42:21.520 --> 00:42:26.480
of all of the people in the group and like, asking them if they were happy in our group,

781
00:42:26.480 --> 00:42:32.480
and if not, to join their group. And, and, you know, something else. I mean, it was just so stupid.

782
00:42:33.280 --> 00:42:42.000
But at the same time, you know, if someone, if someone wants to give someone a chance like that,

783
00:42:42.000 --> 00:42:46.800
that, you know, does something like that kind of thing, then, you know, that's on them.

784
00:42:46.800 --> 00:42:50.720
So we can't worry about any of that stuff. And we're not going to, because we want momentum.

785
00:42:50.720 --> 00:42:56.400
We want momentum. And, and so that's what we're going to do. And so that's what Acts chapter 15,

786
00:42:56.400 --> 00:43:00.400
you guys can go read it yourself. It's called the Council at Jerusalem. It's where, you know,

787
00:43:00.480 --> 00:43:05.280
all the Jewish leaders like Peter and all of them, Paul, they got together and they made the decision,

788
00:43:05.280 --> 00:43:11.200
you know, are we going to cut off this wild branch pretty much into the Gentile world of,

789
00:43:11.840 --> 00:43:16.720
of, you know, the kingdom, the gospel, or are we going to let it ride? And they decided to

790
00:43:16.720 --> 00:43:24.080
let it ride. And I think tonight we're deciding to let it ride as well. And I'm excited about that.

791
00:43:24.080 --> 00:43:29.600
We'll see what happens. We want to add value to people. We want to help people. I want to tell

792
00:43:29.600 --> 00:43:35.200
you guys that there have been so many people that have really had success as far as their love lives

793
00:43:35.200 --> 00:43:39.520
and they've met people and they've gotten into relationships. I just heard from a girl today.

794
00:43:39.520 --> 00:43:43.840
She's been in a 10 month relationship and then she had to call it off because she just didn't

795
00:43:43.840 --> 00:43:48.480
have the heart healing to go forward. And so that is kind of what we're here to do. Remember I said

796
00:43:48.480 --> 00:43:52.960
at the beginning that there's a few things that God's mandated us to do. We're not here just to

797
00:43:52.960 --> 00:43:58.800
make marriages. We're here to make marriages that last. Marriage is super hard, y'all. I thought

798
00:43:58.800 --> 00:44:04.080
about putting out a book called Marriage is Hard. And then the tagline would be because your heart's

799
00:44:04.080 --> 00:44:11.840
hard. No, I'm sorry. It wouldn't be called that, but it could be. All right. So, but at the same time

800
00:44:12.880 --> 00:44:19.440
it is hard and it is hard to sustain relationship and there's just so many things just battling

801
00:44:19.440 --> 00:44:25.120
against it everywhere all the time. And so our mandate is to help people to be able to connect

802
00:44:25.120 --> 00:44:30.800
long-term and to support people as they connect long-term. And so you'll hear it here first.

803
00:44:31.360 --> 00:44:35.520
We're going to announce it anyway. We have a premarital course, but we actually have a group

804
00:44:35.520 --> 00:44:38.800
of married folks called Last Year's Single Marriage Group. It used to be called, you know,

805
00:44:39.440 --> 00:44:45.680
something else. I don't remember. But we want to do life with people after they have success.

806
00:44:45.680 --> 00:44:51.920
But mainly what we want to do is we want to give them community, not just online, but in person.

807
00:44:51.920 --> 00:44:56.720
So some married couples might come to y'all's thing. People that met through this movement.

808
00:44:56.720 --> 00:44:59.920
People that want to stay connected to the movement. People that want family.

809
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.720
family and they want, you know, couples hanging out with couples is good anyway.

810
00:45:04.080 --> 00:45:05.560
And so, um, you need that.

811
00:45:05.560 --> 00:45:06.480
You have to have that.

812
00:45:06.480 --> 00:45:10.000
So also I don't think that your, your thing should just be for

813
00:45:10.000 --> 00:45:11.680
marriage, should just be for singles.

814
00:45:12.040 --> 00:45:14.000
I think it, listen to what I'm about to say.

815
00:45:14.200 --> 00:45:16.440
I think it could be for couples too.

816
00:45:16.720 --> 00:45:20.800
Not married singles, meaning like just the man or just the woman that's married

817
00:45:20.800 --> 00:45:22.720
shows up, but couples that show up.

818
00:45:22.860 --> 00:45:23.360
Okay.

819
00:45:23.880 --> 00:45:27.060
Um, you don't just want some married man showing up or just some married

820
00:45:27.060 --> 00:45:28.880
woman showing up without their spouse.

821
00:45:28.880 --> 00:45:34.520
You want the couple to show up because you know, we don't want that anyway.

822
00:45:34.680 --> 00:45:36.240
Um, can I just speak into that?

823
00:45:36.240 --> 00:45:40.480
Actually, that's something I would appreciate if you could direct married

824
00:45:40.480 --> 00:45:46.200
people, because they could keep an eye out too, for things that might be going,

825
00:45:46.220 --> 00:45:51.640
you know, cause they have discernment and wisdom and they could help out maybe

826
00:45:51.640 --> 00:45:56.800
in things that, you know, someone else might not see, is there any way of like

827
00:45:56.920 --> 00:46:01.240
adding, I don't know, getting moderators to have like access to those married

828
00:46:01.240 --> 00:46:03.280
couples that would be willing to come to events?

829
00:46:04.120 --> 00:46:04.600
Yeah, no.

830
00:46:04.600 --> 00:46:07.560
I mean, I'm saying that those single cities, you know, there are some

831
00:46:07.560 --> 00:46:10.880
married people that are still in those single cities that have never left, but

832
00:46:10.880 --> 00:46:16.200
I'm just saying those people would be able to come to those events because you

833
00:46:16.200 --> 00:46:20.640
guys, the first and foremost thing is family and community is what we're

834
00:46:20.640 --> 00:46:22.240
trying to foster by single city.

835
00:46:22.240 --> 00:46:23.720
It's not just a matchmaking group.

836
00:46:24.240 --> 00:46:25.560
It's not just a matchmaking group.

837
00:46:26.180 --> 00:46:26.680
Right.

838
00:46:26.680 --> 00:46:29.520
Now that brings me to the next thing, microphones open.

839
00:46:29.960 --> 00:46:34.000
What I want to use spirit mate match technology for right now is I want to

840
00:46:34.000 --> 00:46:37.720
use it, or I should say immediately what I want to use it for is to

841
00:46:37.720 --> 00:46:42.720
curate events for your regions.

842
00:46:44.320 --> 00:46:44.820
Okay.

843
00:46:45.040 --> 00:46:51.460
So people would be invited to come to an event, using the spirit mate match

844
00:46:51.460 --> 00:46:57.740
technology to do a sync, like a dating shuffle or a, I personally, as the

845
00:46:57.740 --> 00:47:00.980
matchmaker, I like, I don't like one-on-one.

846
00:47:01.340 --> 00:47:01.500
Okay.

847
00:47:01.500 --> 00:47:03.140
I don't like, that's why I don't like speed dating.

848
00:47:03.180 --> 00:47:05.380
I don't like just one person talking to one person.

849
00:47:05.700 --> 00:47:12.900
I like the idea of, you know, three guys and five girls talking that are all

850
00:47:13.020 --> 00:47:14.820
matched by the spirit mate match app.

851
00:47:14.860 --> 00:47:18.220
And no one knows who's matched with who or what in what, you know, in what

852
00:47:18.220 --> 00:47:21.580
order, but they're at the, they're at the same table with each other.

853
00:47:21.980 --> 00:47:22.480
Right.

854
00:47:22.860 --> 00:47:23.540
I like that.

855
00:47:23.860 --> 00:47:27.700
I like, you know, maybe one couple being assigned to one-on-one going over here

856
00:47:27.700 --> 00:47:31.700
and doing this kind of activity together while the group stays together over here.

857
00:47:32.020 --> 00:47:36.500
Or there's two, you know, three girls and two guys that go over here and do this.

858
00:47:36.540 --> 00:47:39.340
I've asked, to me, that's what a single shuffle should look like.

859
00:47:39.900 --> 00:47:43.220
It's shuffling the people that are at the event around and getting

860
00:47:43.220 --> 00:47:44.620
them in different scenarios.

861
00:47:45.020 --> 00:47:49.060
So, um, what we could do is, you know, we could create all the cards for that

862
00:47:49.060 --> 00:47:52.540
using single mate, single, uh, spirit mate match.

863
00:47:52.820 --> 00:47:57.340
And then when they get there, they can pull out their cards and very random,

864
00:47:57.340 --> 00:47:58.540
they can pull out their cards.

865
00:47:58.580 --> 00:48:02.180
And then during the course of the night, it can just basically say at eight

866
00:48:02.180 --> 00:48:06.260
o'clock, you know, you need to be in the green room or you need to be like, so

867
00:48:06.260 --> 00:48:07.780
it assigns them to different places.

868
00:48:07.980 --> 00:48:10.700
And when they get there, there's different things to do with different

869
00:48:10.700 --> 00:48:12.140
groups of people at the party.

870
00:48:12.500 --> 00:48:13.220
Makes sense.

871
00:48:14.220 --> 00:48:15.060
And what does this do?

872
00:48:15.380 --> 00:48:16.020
This is allowed.

873
00:48:16.020 --> 00:48:19.940
There's to be no pressure on, Oh, the algorithm said that this person's my

874
00:48:19.940 --> 00:48:20.340
match.

875
00:48:20.340 --> 00:48:23.540
And so I'm pressured now to feel something or not feel something for them.

876
00:48:23.860 --> 00:48:24.060
No.

877
00:48:24.060 --> 00:48:28.940
What happens then is you get to experience everybody at that party, not

878
00:48:28.940 --> 00:48:33.140
really knowing who your match was supposed to be, or who are your two or

879
00:48:33.140 --> 00:48:34.220
three matches were.

880
00:48:34.540 --> 00:48:37.340
And then at the end of the night, you get to kind of write down who you

881
00:48:37.340 --> 00:48:38.540
felt the most connected to.

882
00:48:41.180 --> 00:48:41.620
Right.

883
00:48:42.060 --> 00:48:44.100
So you can either ask those people for their phone numbers.

884
00:48:44.100 --> 00:48:47.660
You know, we're not going to keep anyone from connecting at the event, but you

885
00:48:47.660 --> 00:48:50.660
could also, if you're too shy to do that, you could write those things down.

886
00:48:50.660 --> 00:48:54.100
We can have like a last card and they can write the things down and then they

887
00:48:54.100 --> 00:48:56.860
could put it in the, you know, in the thing.

888
00:48:57.140 --> 00:49:01.140
And then the moderator of that single city or the host of that event at the end

889
00:49:01.140 --> 00:49:05.660
of the night could go through those cards and see if there's any matches of who

890
00:49:05.660 --> 00:49:08.060
wants to meet who fun.

891
00:49:09.540 --> 00:49:09.900
Fun.

892
00:49:11.860 --> 00:49:13.980
I like to have fun and that sounds fun to me.

893
00:49:14.180 --> 00:49:18.500
And that way no one feels pressured to, you know, fall in love with whoever the

894
00:49:18.500 --> 00:49:19.700
computer said they should like.

895
00:49:20.380 --> 00:49:23.100
So, um, so anyway, just things like that.

896
00:49:23.140 --> 00:49:25.540
We want to do those in your regions.

897
00:49:26.180 --> 00:49:30.220
Um, we do like the idea of you partnering with, um, you know, other

898
00:49:30.220 --> 00:49:31.700
singles groups in the regions.

899
00:49:32.140 --> 00:49:36.020
Um, if it's our event, we, we definitely should get the marketing

900
00:49:36.020 --> 00:49:37.180
precedent for the list.

901
00:49:37.980 --> 00:49:38.420
Okay.

902
00:49:38.620 --> 00:49:41.420
If it's their event and we're just partnering, then they can have a list.

903
00:49:41.420 --> 00:49:45.180
But if it's our event and we're partnering, we're allowing them to invite

904
00:49:45.180 --> 00:49:46.060
their people to come.

905
00:49:46.300 --> 00:49:49.340
Then if people fill out something, it should be our thing.

906
00:49:49.540 --> 00:49:50.020
Okay.

907
00:49:50.260 --> 00:49:54.460
If they want to join that other thing too, they can, but as far as at the

908
00:49:54.460 --> 00:49:57.260
registration table or whatever, our stuff should be there for the

909
00:49:57.260 --> 00:49:58.380
main sponsor of the event.

910
00:49:58.380 --> 00:49:58.980
Makes sense.

911
00:49:58.980 --> 00:49:59.860
That's just the way that.

912
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.840
work. Okay. And then churches. Do you want to touch on too, though, with the singles

913
00:50:05.840 --> 00:50:10.720
groups like that? We don't want them to be singles groups that have dating coaching,

914
00:50:10.720 --> 00:50:15.880
or we don't want them to be doing any of the same stuff we're doing. So there, I don't

915
00:50:15.880 --> 00:50:21.880
think anybody is. Well, part of dating in Nashville, you know, I, I know them and we're

916
00:50:21.880 --> 00:50:26.360
probably going to have a joint event with them soon. Um, but you know, that's, that's

917
00:50:26.360 --> 00:50:32.160
definitely a younger crowd. That's definitely more geared towards millennials. Um, do you

918
00:50:32.160 --> 00:50:39.080
guys know that we are the number one Christian, um, you know, Christian single place for,

919
00:50:39.080 --> 00:50:46.320
uh, our age group for Gen X and above. I mean, no offense to any of y'all, but all of you

920
00:50:46.320 --> 00:50:53.320
that are like over 40, people don't care about you being single. They're not trying to help.

921
00:50:53.520 --> 00:50:57.600
Okay. And things get weirder and weirder when you're older and single as far as meeting

922
00:50:57.600 --> 00:51:02.680
people. And that's why we really, we got to make sure that we're going after this demographic

923
00:51:02.680 --> 00:51:08.360
because there are a lot of single people that are over 40. They're Christian. Um, so, so

924
00:51:08.360 --> 00:51:13.360
yes, Bethany makes a good point. We don't want to partner with any other businesses.

925
00:51:13.360 --> 00:51:20.000
Okay. That being said, we do want to partner with churches and some churches kind of are

926
00:51:20.000 --> 00:51:24.440
like businesses. Um, but a lot of churches do not have anything, especially for their

927
00:51:24.440 --> 00:51:29.040
singles over 30. They have a young adults group that goes up to 30 years old and then

928
00:51:29.040 --> 00:51:33.560
that's all they have. And so you guys, we can put together marketing materials for the

929
00:51:33.560 --> 00:51:37.840
churches in your area. If you want to go talk to those churches, if you want me to fly in

930
00:51:37.840 --> 00:51:42.920
and talk to those churches, if we want to make a presentation to those churches, I also

931
00:51:42.920 --> 00:51:47.760
Bethany and I are working on curriculum that churches can have to teach their singles.

932
00:51:47.760 --> 00:51:52.720
You know, if people, if people want to believe, you know what it is that we teach about how,

933
00:51:52.720 --> 00:51:58.000
you know, this is divine design. A lot of churches really like to downplay divine design

934
00:51:58.000 --> 00:52:01.880
as far as marriage is concerned with their older singles. Cause I think they don't have

935
00:52:01.880 --> 00:52:06.680
faith that it's going to happen for them and they don't want to give people's hopes up.

936
00:52:06.680 --> 00:52:12.440
This is why a lot of churches, you're not allowed to prophesy dates, mates or babies.

937
00:52:12.440 --> 00:52:18.520
Cause God forbid, God forbid that we tell someone that God has a husband for them or,

938
00:52:18.520 --> 00:52:24.240
you know, that there's children in their future because hello, isn't that why we're here?

939
00:52:24.240 --> 00:52:29.680
I mean, you don't even need God to tell you that you don't even need him to, it's in the

940
00:52:29.680 --> 00:52:34.720
book of Genesis. It is divine design. It is the way we've been created. Now there's a

941
00:52:34.720 --> 00:52:39.520
lot of things that get in the way of us really taking action on that. A lot of people don't

942
00:52:39.520 --> 00:52:44.280
want babies unless they came from their own vagina. I get it. I get it. I have a vagina baby,

943
00:52:44.280 --> 00:52:50.320
but I have two babies that did not come out of my own womb and I love them just as much.

944
00:52:50.320 --> 00:52:57.040
So there's all different ways to be a mother, to be a father, to, you know,

945
00:52:57.040 --> 00:53:02.120
but the people are just stuck in, no, I want it. I want it. It's about ego, right? You might be

946
00:53:02.120 --> 00:53:06.400
like Jackie, that's easy for you to say because you have a, you know, a biological child. I

947
00:53:06.520 --> 00:53:10.120
understand that, but I'm just going to tell you if I didn't have a biological child,

948
00:53:10.120 --> 00:53:15.320
I'm a hundred percent sure I would still have kids. I'm a hundred percent sure. I'm just the

949
00:53:15.320 --> 00:53:20.560
kind of person that would have kids. I have, I would have them somehow, some way, you know?

950
00:53:20.560 --> 00:53:26.920
And so I think that it's time for us to understand that churches are afraid of disappointing people.

951
00:53:26.920 --> 00:53:31.640
They don't want people to get disappointed. They don't want to be the person that said

952
00:53:31.640 --> 00:53:35.080
the thing that didn't happen. But I'm here to tell you that if it doesn't happen,

953
00:53:35.320 --> 00:53:38.840
I believe it's because we're in the way of it. And that is what our movement is about,

954
00:53:38.840 --> 00:53:42.960
is helping people get out of the way of it. Get out of the way of you doing what God's

955
00:53:42.960 --> 00:53:48.680
called you to do. And that is to be the divine feminine in the earth. Okay? To partner. You

956
00:53:48.680 --> 00:53:53.560
guys, do you realize, not the divine masculine, yes, but the divine feminine has been created

957
00:53:53.560 --> 00:54:04.800
specifically to partner. It's our natural DNA. Now, you've not been specifically created to

958
00:54:04.800 --> 00:54:14.280
partner with 6-5, finance, blue eyes, trust fund. Okay? You got to get over it. And Maggie,

959
00:54:14.280 --> 00:54:18.760
you can laugh all you want, but you have a very specific physical list of your dude.

960
00:54:18.760 --> 00:54:22.760
You used to, maybe you don't anymore. But you guys, I understand we all want to feel

961
00:54:22.760 --> 00:54:27.920
little and feminine. I get it. I understand. I really do. And I am very blessed by all of

962
00:54:27.920 --> 00:54:31.760
the success story pictures I've been receiving of women in our movement that have been taking

963
00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:36.480
me up on my challenge and marrying men that are either the same height as them or shorter than

964
00:54:36.480 --> 00:54:46.000
them. I'm blessed by this as a girl that's married to a shorter man. Okay? So bottom line is, is that

965
00:54:46.000 --> 00:54:52.400
if we can get churches to allow us to stoke the fires of hope of their singles, then we want to

966
00:54:52.400 --> 00:54:59.200
do it. Right? And we want to give them, since they don't have their own ministry for singles,

967
00:54:59.200 --> 00:55:00.040
we want to give them.

968
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.960
an outlet in that city for their singles to come to,

969
00:55:02.960 --> 00:55:04.600
and that would be y'all's groups.

970
00:55:05.500 --> 00:55:08.720
You guys, I don't care if you have a brunch

971
00:55:08.720 --> 00:55:11.800
with four ladies, hey, one week,

972
00:55:11.800 --> 00:55:14.440
and then the next week you have a, like Jacqueline said,

973
00:55:14.440 --> 00:55:15.680
a party that 80 people

974
00:55:15.680 --> 00:55:18.720
and another singles group partners with.

975
00:55:18.720 --> 00:55:20.880
Anything is better than nothing.

976
00:55:23.160 --> 00:55:25.280
Anything is better than nothing.

977
00:55:25.280 --> 00:55:27.160
Give people a reason to connect,

978
00:55:27.160 --> 00:55:29.160
a reason to want to get together.

979
00:55:29.200 --> 00:55:31.580
If you have a single city like Christelle,

980
00:55:31.580 --> 00:55:34.640
that spans a whole bunch of different places.

981
00:55:34.640 --> 00:55:35.920
By the way, we're gonna give you some help.

982
00:55:35.920 --> 00:55:39.000
It looks like we're gonna start a Jersey single city.

983
00:55:39.000 --> 00:55:40.400
Okay?

984
00:55:40.400 --> 00:55:43.440
Also, I've been invited to do a singles conference

985
00:55:43.440 --> 00:55:45.600
for a church in Jersey in March,

986
00:55:45.600 --> 00:55:50.080
and singles groups from Boston, Massachusetts,

987
00:55:50.080 --> 00:55:52.320
and Connecticut are coming down.

988
00:55:52.320 --> 00:55:54.800
DC can come up, New York's gonna come over,

989
00:55:54.800 --> 00:55:57.160
and so that'll be a really big deal, okay?

990
00:55:57.200 --> 00:55:59.120
So we'll hopefully launch some,

991
00:55:59.120 --> 00:56:02.560
maybe a Boston single city off of that.

992
00:56:02.560 --> 00:56:05.160
Definitely Boston, we have quite a few people

993
00:56:05.160 --> 00:56:07.000
in our group from there.

994
00:56:07.000 --> 00:56:10.260
Baltimore could be another place that could end up at that

995
00:56:10.260 --> 00:56:12.340
and could possibly have something launched

996
00:56:12.340 --> 00:56:13.720
as a result of that.

997
00:56:13.720 --> 00:56:17.360
Harrisburg, Pennsylvania's another place.

998
00:56:18.440 --> 00:56:20.920
So anyway, I don't care if you have,

999
00:56:20.920 --> 00:56:23.040
our biggest single cities, just so you guys know,

1000
00:56:23.040 --> 00:56:26.160
are Austin, Redding, California,

1001
00:56:26.160 --> 00:56:27.640
because I've been out there so often

1002
00:56:27.640 --> 00:56:29.400
and there's so many singles there.

1003
00:56:30.440 --> 00:56:35.440
Redding, I think Florida would be next.

1004
00:56:35.640 --> 00:56:37.640
I'm pretty sure Dallas is in the running

1005
00:56:37.640 --> 00:56:41.460
to be kind of the next biggest one.

1006
00:56:41.460 --> 00:56:46.460
Los Angeles, and of course Nashville.

1007
00:56:47.040 --> 00:56:48.320
I forgot to say Nashville.

1008
00:56:49.480 --> 00:56:52.320
Yeah, and you guys, we're also launching one in Arizona.

1009
00:56:53.160 --> 00:56:57.200
So Scottsdale, Phoenix, we're launching that as well.

1010
00:56:57.200 --> 00:57:00.240
So it doesn't matter how big or how small,

1011
00:57:00.240 --> 00:57:02.920
we just want you to start gathering people together.

1012
00:57:02.920 --> 00:57:04.980
And I'm gonna tell you right now,

1013
00:57:04.980 --> 00:57:07.280
if you start doing this, people will start sending,

1014
00:57:07.280 --> 00:57:08.780
God will start sending people.

1015
00:57:09.760 --> 00:57:11.760
He'll start sending people to your stuff.

1016
00:57:13.640 --> 00:57:15.280
He will.

1017
00:57:15.280 --> 00:57:19.020
Lonely people, people that can't find community,

1018
00:57:19.020 --> 00:57:22.120
people that are single, maybe even newly single,

1019
00:57:22.800 --> 00:57:25.120
people that are divorced or getting divorced, separated.

1020
00:57:25.120 --> 00:57:26.160
Let's talk about this real quick.

1021
00:57:26.160 --> 00:57:28.480
Can separated people come to your events?

1022
00:57:32.520 --> 00:57:33.360
I think so.

1023
00:57:35.360 --> 00:57:37.800
I mean, if you see someone, use your discernment,

1024
00:57:37.800 --> 00:57:39.960
if you see someone that you feel that you know

1025
00:57:39.960 --> 00:57:42.680
is still married and you think that they're just

1026
00:57:42.680 --> 00:57:46.560
trying to pick people up, then of course,

1027
00:57:47.920 --> 00:57:49.880
make sure that you kick them out of the single city

1028
00:57:49.880 --> 00:57:51.200
and don't invite them to anything more

1029
00:57:51.200 --> 00:57:52.960
because they obviously aren't healthy,

1030
00:57:52.960 --> 00:57:55.600
but they need friends, they need community

1031
00:57:55.600 --> 00:57:57.600
as they're going through probably one of the hardest times

1032
00:57:57.600 --> 00:57:58.560
in their lives, right?

1033
00:57:58.560 --> 00:57:59.720
What do you guys think?

1034
00:58:05.640 --> 00:58:08.640
I think they come, but I think it just would be

1035
00:58:08.640 --> 00:58:10.760
really healthy for us to set some boundaries

1036
00:58:10.760 --> 00:58:14.640
because what if the person that is separated,

1037
00:58:15.600 --> 00:58:17.440
I don't know, as a single person,

1038
00:58:17.440 --> 00:58:20.480
I think that would be tough if there was a guy

1039
00:58:20.480 --> 00:58:23.480
that was coming and then they start liking the person

1040
00:58:23.480 --> 00:58:26.960
that's separated and not even divorced yet.

1041
00:58:26.960 --> 00:58:29.560
But I don't know how we would police that, to be honest.

1042
00:58:29.560 --> 00:58:30.400
You know what I'm saying?

1043
00:58:30.400 --> 00:58:32.240
And that's, yeah, and that's kind of where I was at

1044
00:58:32.240 --> 00:58:34.160
at the beginning of this conversation.

1045
00:58:34.160 --> 00:58:36.760
I don't feel like we can police things anymore, y'all.

1046
00:58:36.760 --> 00:58:37.600
No, I mean-

1047
00:58:37.600 --> 00:58:38.440
People are just gonna have to make grownup decisions.

1048
00:58:38.440 --> 00:58:41.160
What if they're already filed for divorce?

1049
00:58:41.160 --> 00:58:42.000
Do what?

1050
00:58:42.960 --> 00:58:44.800
What if they're just in the process of divorce,

1051
00:58:44.800 --> 00:58:47.120
like they've already filed at least?

1052
00:58:47.120 --> 00:58:49.040
I mean, I don't even think we can split hairs.

1053
00:58:49.040 --> 00:58:52.840
I think that if someone comes and they have good behavior,

1054
00:58:52.840 --> 00:58:55.960
I mean, where they are personally with that,

1055
00:58:55.960 --> 00:58:57.680
I don't really think we need to worry about it.

1056
00:58:57.680 --> 00:58:59.280
What do you guys think?

1057
00:58:59.280 --> 00:59:01.160
Yeah, I mean, I'm gonna lean towards that

1058
00:59:01.160 --> 00:59:02.360
just from my perspective too,

1059
00:59:02.360 --> 00:59:04.160
because even when you were talking earlier,

1060
00:59:04.160 --> 00:59:06.680
you know, we're giving people dating and advice,

1061
00:59:06.680 --> 00:59:08.960
like not advice, but you're coaching people on stuff

1062
00:59:08.960 --> 00:59:11.520
and some people aren't listening to that already.

1063
00:59:11.520 --> 00:59:13.960
So the reality is, is that's already happening.

1064
00:59:13.960 --> 00:59:15.320
So-

1065
00:59:15.320 --> 00:59:17.040
Y'all, so many people are having sex.

1066
00:59:17.040 --> 00:59:17.880
It's not funny.

1067
00:59:17.880 --> 00:59:18.720
I'm just gonna let you know.

1068
00:59:18.720 --> 00:59:19.560
In our community,

1069
00:59:19.560 --> 00:59:22.640
so many people are still having sex with people they meet.

1070
00:59:22.640 --> 00:59:24.360
I mean, we can say it till we're blue in the face,

1071
00:59:24.360 --> 00:59:26.080
but at the end of the day,

1072
00:59:26.080 --> 00:59:28.600
we're all adults here and everyone has free will.

1073
00:59:29.960 --> 00:59:32.640
I was gonna say, like, I've had both experiences.

1074
00:59:32.640 --> 00:59:35.600
I went on a date with someone and they didn't disclose

1075
00:59:35.600 --> 00:59:36.960
they were not divorced yet.

1076
00:59:36.960 --> 00:59:38.480
They had just started the process.

1077
00:59:38.480 --> 00:59:42.080
And so, I mean, that was my fault for not asking

1078
00:59:42.080 --> 00:59:43.680
before I went on the date, right?

1079
00:59:43.680 --> 00:59:45.520
And if that was my conviction,

1080
00:59:45.800 --> 00:59:49.080
and then secondly, I met a guy at one of the mixers

1081
00:59:49.080 --> 00:59:51.000
who then ended up ending it with me

1082
00:59:51.000 --> 00:59:54.800
because he said that I was too close of a relationship

1083
00:59:54.800 --> 00:59:56.600
with God and he was an atheist,

1084
00:59:56.600 --> 00:59:59.120
but had told me he was a Christian.

1085
00:59:59.120 --> 00:59:59.960
Again.

1086
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.200
that, you know, that's on me to know that.

1087
01:00:04.200 --> 01:00:05.800
I believe in the God defense system,

1088
01:00:05.800 --> 01:00:07.400
let them weed themselves out.

1089
01:00:07.400 --> 01:00:09.960
As long as we're healthy, y'all, like really healthy,

1090
01:00:09.960 --> 01:00:11.320
we're not anxiously attaching,

1091
01:00:11.320 --> 01:00:13.160
we're not trying to make a relationship

1092
01:00:13.160 --> 01:00:14.600
out of nothing at all.

1093
01:00:14.600 --> 01:00:18.040
And we are just, you know, have our eyes wide open,

1094
01:00:18.040 --> 01:00:20.040
praying before we meet up with these people

1095
01:00:20.040 --> 01:00:20.920
and go on these dates,

1096
01:00:20.920 --> 01:00:23.040
God will show you what you need to see.

1097
01:00:23.040 --> 01:00:23.880
He will.

1098
01:00:24.800 --> 01:00:27.200
And you guys, we wanna have lots,

1099
01:00:27.280 --> 01:00:30.120
we wanna have lots of materials for couples too,

1100
01:00:30.120 --> 01:00:31.640
people that are at the very beginning

1101
01:00:31.640 --> 01:00:32.840
of their dating relationship,

1102
01:00:32.840 --> 01:00:35.040
all the way to engagement in marriage,

1103
01:00:35.040 --> 01:00:38.560
because they are going to go into rough spots.

1104
01:00:38.560 --> 01:00:41.000
And I've seen so many people in this community

1105
01:00:41.000 --> 01:00:43.160
break up when they oughtn't have.

1106
01:00:43.160 --> 01:00:44.520
They really shouldn't have broke up,

1107
01:00:44.520 --> 01:00:46.800
but they just, both of them reached a place

1108
01:00:46.800 --> 01:00:49.080
where they did not have the tools to go forward.

1109
01:00:49.080 --> 01:00:51.800
And instead of getting the tools, they broke up.

1110
01:00:52.800 --> 01:00:55.160
So we wanna supply the tools

1111
01:00:55.160 --> 01:00:57.560
to keep people learning and growing together.

1112
01:00:57.560 --> 01:01:00.040
And then if it has to be a no someday, fine, it's a no,

1113
01:01:00.040 --> 01:01:01.160
but I've seen a lot of people

1114
01:01:01.160 --> 01:01:04.000
when it should have still been a yes, it became a no,

1115
01:01:04.000 --> 01:01:06.760
because they weren't leaning into community

1116
01:01:06.760 --> 01:01:08.200
and getting the tools.

1117
01:01:10.840 --> 01:01:12.000
Does that make sense?

1118
01:01:12.000 --> 01:01:14.400
So you guys, I want your single cities to be a place of,

1119
01:01:14.400 --> 01:01:16.520
I want it to be a tool belt too.

1120
01:01:16.520 --> 01:01:18.600
I want it to be a place where people can find tools,

1121
01:01:18.600 --> 01:01:21.040
where people can find tools, some free tools

1122
01:01:21.040 --> 01:01:24.080
and some tools that they're gonna have to pay for.

1123
01:01:25.240 --> 01:01:27.520
I do wanna let you guys know that we are toying around

1124
01:01:27.520 --> 01:01:30.840
about the idea of allowing people to join

1125
01:01:30.840 --> 01:01:33.840
some level of the movement just for the subscription

1126
01:01:33.840 --> 01:01:38.840
and not have to pay the down payment kind of thing.

1127
01:01:39.000 --> 01:01:41.480
Now that will still be there for certain courses

1128
01:01:41.480 --> 01:01:42.480
and classes and things,

1129
01:01:42.480 --> 01:01:44.520
because it's just not sustainable for us

1130
01:01:44.520 --> 01:01:47.000
because of the coaches and people that we have to pay.

1131
01:01:47.000 --> 01:01:49.520
But for just the subscription,

1132
01:01:49.520 --> 01:01:51.200
which can include all kinds of things,

1133
01:01:51.200 --> 01:01:52.560
including SpiritMate Match.

1134
01:01:52.560 --> 01:01:55.160
And so there is a possibility at these events

1135
01:01:55.160 --> 01:01:56.800
that you're having that people can go ahead

1136
01:01:56.800 --> 01:02:01.800
and just jump in at a very, very small monetary level

1137
01:02:01.820 --> 01:02:04.140
and get some really good perks.

1138
01:02:06.880 --> 01:02:09.880
So, all right, well, I'm excited

1139
01:02:09.880 --> 01:02:11.400
about all the single cities that we have.

1140
01:02:11.400 --> 01:02:13.320
We have several in Florida and that's another thing.

1141
01:02:13.320 --> 01:02:16.640
If you have several in the same place that you are,

1142
01:02:17.200 --> 01:02:18.600
get together with each other.

1143
01:02:19.600 --> 01:02:22.960
Have regional, have community events,

1144
01:02:22.960 --> 01:02:24.560
but then have regional events.

1145
01:02:25.920 --> 01:02:28.000
Partner with each other.

1146
01:02:28.000 --> 01:02:29.560
There's all kinds of different things that you can do.

1147
01:02:29.560 --> 01:02:31.280
We have Orlando and Tampa.

1148
01:02:31.280 --> 01:02:35.000
That's not even two hours away from each other.

1149
01:02:35.000 --> 01:02:36.600
And then Jacksonville's up there,

1150
01:02:36.600 --> 01:02:39.240
but there's different things that you guys can do

1151
01:02:39.240 --> 01:02:41.000
at least once a year and different things.

1152
01:02:41.000 --> 01:02:43.480
Oh, and also Last Trip Single is gonna be launching

1153
01:02:43.480 --> 01:02:46.040
to a greater degree in 2025,

1154
01:02:46.040 --> 01:02:47.780
because it's our in-person era.

1155
01:02:48.960 --> 01:02:51.020
And when I say in-person, you guys know that I won't mean,

1156
01:02:51.020 --> 01:02:53.040
I mean in-person, like people being in-person

1157
01:02:53.040 --> 01:02:54.280
with each other.

1158
01:02:54.280 --> 01:02:56.440
We will back you up in your single cities

1159
01:02:56.440 --> 01:02:59.840
by having retreats in the single cities

1160
01:02:59.840 --> 01:03:02.020
that have strong leadership.

1161
01:03:02.020 --> 01:03:06.280
So if you're strongly leading your area, your region,

1162
01:03:06.280 --> 01:03:07.880
and we wanna support you in leading it,

1163
01:03:07.880 --> 01:03:10.240
we don't wanna just leave you high and dry.

1164
01:03:10.240 --> 01:03:13.720
If you're doing that, then that region would be a place

1165
01:03:13.720 --> 01:03:15.920
where we could have a Last Trip Single.

1166
01:03:18.120 --> 01:03:20.360
Everyone, for instance, wants to come to Austin.

1167
01:03:20.360 --> 01:03:23.360
A lot of people wanna go to Nashville.

1168
01:03:23.360 --> 01:03:25.160
A lot of people wanna go to Florida.

1169
01:03:25.160 --> 01:03:27.000
A lot of people wanna go to New York.

1170
01:03:28.840 --> 01:03:30.760
There's other places on here that are being represented.

1171
01:03:30.760 --> 01:03:33.040
A lot of people wanna go to Southern Florida.

1172
01:03:33.040 --> 01:03:34.640
I did a conference in Boca Raton.

1173
01:03:34.640 --> 01:03:36.720
It's gorgeous there in Southern Florida.

1174
01:03:36.720 --> 01:03:38.640
A lot of people wanna go down there, Miami,

1175
01:03:38.640 --> 01:03:43.000
all those areas, Dallas.

1176
01:03:43.000 --> 01:03:44.360
Daisy's not on here.

1177
01:03:44.360 --> 01:03:46.600
You guys, I know that a lot of you have felt,

1178
01:03:46.600 --> 01:03:48.160
a lot of people wanna go to the Pacific Northwest.

1179
01:03:48.160 --> 01:03:50.680
It's gorgeous out there, okay?

1180
01:03:50.680 --> 01:03:52.500
Lacey, where are you a leader at?

1181
01:03:52.500 --> 01:03:53.340
Oh, Colorado.

1182
01:03:53.340 --> 01:03:56.200
Oh, everyone wants to go to Colorado Springs, come on.

1183
01:03:56.200 --> 01:03:58.320
Gonna get in the hot springs, gonna do the things.

1184
01:03:58.320 --> 01:04:02.480
LA, everyone wants to go to LA, right?

1185
01:04:03.480 --> 01:04:08.440
Raleigh, Charlotte, everyone wants to go to all these areas.

1186
01:04:08.440 --> 01:04:10.960
There's someone on here on a phone, phone number.

1187
01:04:10.960 --> 01:04:11.800
Where are you at?

1188
01:04:11.800 --> 01:04:13.440
Who's the phone, the green phone?

1189
01:04:16.680 --> 01:04:17.800
Who's the green phone?

1190
01:04:17.800 --> 01:04:19.640
Is it 503 area code?

1191
01:04:19.640 --> 01:04:20.480
Yeah, hi.

1192
01:04:21.560 --> 01:04:23.400
Hi, Emma from Pacific Northwest.

1193
01:04:23.400 --> 01:04:26.600
My Zoom isn't working the regular way.

1194
01:04:26.600 --> 01:04:28.280
All right, so everyone, Pacific Northwest,

1195
01:04:28.280 --> 01:04:32.360
Oregon, Washington, everyone wants to go there, for sure.

1196
01:04:32.360 --> 01:04:34.560
So there isn't a reason why we can't have retreats.

1197
01:04:34.560 --> 01:04:36.280
And you guys, your boots on the ground.

1198
01:04:36.280 --> 01:04:38.160
If you see a place, you're like,

1199
01:04:38.160 --> 01:04:39.760
man, this would be a great event.

1200
01:04:39.800 --> 01:04:41.800
All you have to do is let us know.

1201
01:04:41.800 --> 01:04:45.160
Hey, Jackie, can you invest financially

1202
01:04:45.160 --> 01:04:47.120
into us throwing an event at this place?

1203
01:04:47.120 --> 01:04:48.720
It'd be a great event.

1204
01:04:48.720 --> 01:04:51.760
But this is what the rental cost is.

1205
01:04:51.760 --> 01:04:54.320
We don't want to charge tickets.

1206
01:04:54.320 --> 01:04:55.440
We think that it would be a great,

1207
01:04:55.440 --> 01:04:56.960
if it's not a ticketed event.

1208
01:04:56.960 --> 01:04:58.080
Or you might be like, hey,

1209
01:04:58.080 --> 01:04:59.520
this would be a great ticketed event.

1210
01:04:59.520 --> 01:05:00.360
This is how much.

1211
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:02.200
which I think we should charge for this.

1212
01:05:02.200 --> 01:05:04.160
But also we're gonna need, you know,

1213
01:05:04.160 --> 01:05:05.640
we're gonna need some sponsorship.

1214
01:05:05.640 --> 01:05:09.300
Can last year's single sponsor this single city event?

1215
01:05:09.300 --> 01:05:11.480
Yes, probably.

1216
01:05:13.400 --> 01:05:18.400
And also we can help you find people within the community

1217
01:05:18.400 --> 01:05:20.780
that can help volunteer and be part of that.

1218
01:05:21.700 --> 01:05:24.080
If you're like, hey Jackie, I'd love for you to come.

1219
01:05:24.080 --> 01:05:26.600
I'd love for you to come speak like my church.

1220
01:05:26.600 --> 01:05:28.120
I've been talking to my church about this

1221
01:05:28.120 --> 01:05:29.800
and I'd love for you to come meet my pastor.

1222
01:05:29.800 --> 01:05:31.320
I'd love for you to, you know,

1223
01:05:31.320 --> 01:05:33.400
come and talk to our singles group at our church,

1224
01:05:33.400 --> 01:05:35.400
you know, like just tell me

1225
01:05:35.400 --> 01:05:38.640
and if we can find out ahead of time,

1226
01:05:38.640 --> 01:05:40.600
you know, someone can come.

1227
01:05:40.600 --> 01:05:43.960
Possibly me, depending, I'm only one person.

1228
01:05:43.960 --> 01:05:47.680
I can't be everywhere at once, but I can try.

1229
01:05:47.680 --> 01:05:48.980
And I'm willing to try.

1230
01:05:50.300 --> 01:05:52.320
There are, some of you guys are in areas

1231
01:05:52.320 --> 01:05:54.040
where I have a lot of boots on the ground

1232
01:05:54.040 --> 01:05:56.480
as far as I have a lot of people

1233
01:05:56.480 --> 01:05:57.560
that I already partner with

1234
01:05:57.560 --> 01:05:59.180
that have different businesses and things.

1235
01:05:59.180 --> 01:06:00.920
LA is one of those places.

1236
01:06:00.920 --> 01:06:02.320
Nashville is one of those places.

1237
01:06:02.320 --> 01:06:04.000
New York is one of those places.

1238
01:06:05.040 --> 01:06:07.920
Florida, Tampa, Orlando, and Southern Florida.

1239
01:06:07.920 --> 01:06:10.360
I don't really have a lot of contacts in Jacksonville.

1240
01:06:10.360 --> 01:06:12.660
Those are all places, Pacific Northwest.

1241
01:06:12.660 --> 01:06:17.160
So I do have Colorado Springs in Colorado.

1242
01:06:17.160 --> 01:06:19.440
I've got a growing kind of following

1243
01:06:19.440 --> 01:06:22.640
with the Karis situation too.

1244
01:06:22.640 --> 01:06:24.880
And so yeah, let's do this.

1245
01:06:25.640 --> 01:06:27.920
I guess what I want you to do is what I'm trying to say,

1246
01:06:27.920 --> 01:06:30.280
guys, is I really need you to own your region.

1247
01:06:30.280 --> 01:06:35.200
I need you to believe that God put you in that region

1248
01:06:35.200 --> 01:06:37.400
so that you could, you know,

1249
01:06:37.400 --> 01:06:40.180
carry a piece of the grace of this movement

1250
01:06:40.180 --> 01:06:42.320
and make it explode there.

1251
01:06:42.320 --> 01:06:44.560
And we're not asking you to do it by yourself,

1252
01:06:44.560 --> 01:06:48.440
but we are asking you to pray, come up with some ideas,

1253
01:06:48.440 --> 01:06:50.640
get some vision for your region,

1254
01:06:50.640 --> 01:06:53.080
and then let us know how we can support

1255
01:06:53.080 --> 01:06:56.080
and sow into you and your single city.

1256
01:06:56.080 --> 01:06:58.040
Yeah, and I wanted to just say one of the things

1257
01:06:58.040 --> 01:07:00.080
that's just kind of coming up in my mind too,

1258
01:07:00.080 --> 01:07:01.600
it's really important for y'all to know,

1259
01:07:01.600 --> 01:07:05.840
like if you feel like you just don't have a lot of energy

1260
01:07:05.840 --> 01:07:07.600
in your single city area right now,

1261
01:07:07.600 --> 01:07:11.080
like we want to know that, like how we can help you.

1262
01:07:11.080 --> 01:07:12.520
Because I've noticed even we've gone

1263
01:07:12.520 --> 01:07:13.880
into a couple of groups recently

1264
01:07:13.880 --> 01:07:16.200
and just done like a new announcement,

1265
01:07:16.200 --> 01:07:18.040
like in asking people to interact.

1266
01:07:18.040 --> 01:07:19.920
And it just kind of has brought a little bit of life

1267
01:07:19.920 --> 01:07:21.520
back into the group.

1268
01:07:21.520 --> 01:07:25.920
And so we're trying to figure out ways to stir that up.

1269
01:07:25.920 --> 01:07:27.360
And even as Jackie's talking tonight,

1270
01:07:27.360 --> 01:07:30.440
I mean, this isn't anything I've run by Jackie,

1271
01:07:30.440 --> 01:07:32.280
but I think it's gonna be important for us

1272
01:07:32.280 --> 01:07:34.440
to come up with like a game plan

1273
01:07:34.440 --> 01:07:37.600
of how often we put content from last year's single

1274
01:07:37.600 --> 01:07:40.640
or stuff from our movement into those pages

1275
01:07:40.640 --> 01:07:42.720
to kind of spark some conversation.

1276
01:07:42.720 --> 01:07:45.000
But we can talk about that kind of stuff,

1277
01:07:45.000 --> 01:07:49.320
like what do you all need so that people are excited

1278
01:07:49.320 --> 01:07:50.920
to come to the events,

1279
01:07:50.920 --> 01:07:55.520
but also to catch that bigger vision of what God is doing,

1280
01:07:55.520 --> 01:07:57.240
like in your lives,

1281
01:07:57.240 --> 01:07:58.520
because you all are the ones there,

1282
01:07:58.520 --> 01:08:01.400
but also in the movement as a whole.

1283
01:08:01.400 --> 01:08:03.080
And you guys right away,

1284
01:08:03.080 --> 01:08:06.400
you need to all post a picture of yourself in a short bio,

1285
01:08:06.400 --> 01:08:09.920
introducing yourself as the single city leader

1286
01:08:09.920 --> 01:08:14.920
of your single city and pin it to the top of your page.

1287
01:08:14.920 --> 01:08:16.439
Yeah. Okay?

1288
01:08:16.439 --> 01:08:17.399
Gotta pin that.

1289
01:08:18.399 --> 01:08:21.680
So take a cute picture of yourself that you have,

1290
01:08:21.680 --> 01:08:24.520
post it with a little bio of who you are,

1291
01:08:24.520 --> 01:08:26.080
and you don't have to tell people

1292
01:08:26.080 --> 01:08:27.479
exactly where you live and stuff.

1293
01:08:27.479 --> 01:08:28.960
Cause you know, like, remember,

1294
01:08:28.960 --> 01:08:31.479
we're opening these groups up to anyone

1295
01:08:31.479 --> 01:08:32.319
who has the password.

1296
01:08:32.319 --> 01:08:34.200
I have a quick question.

1297
01:08:34.200 --> 01:08:37.120
Something that had worked before

1298
01:08:37.120 --> 01:08:40.359
was when we had the women's directory

1299
01:08:40.359 --> 01:08:42.960
and the men's directory.

1300
01:08:42.960 --> 01:08:45.800
And there was a lot of participation with that,

1301
01:08:45.840 --> 01:08:47.359
with introducing themselves.

1302
01:08:47.359 --> 01:08:49.200
Are we going to be doing that again?

1303
01:08:50.080 --> 01:08:52.399
We only ever had that in single nation.

1304
01:08:54.439 --> 01:08:57.359
Several years ago, it was in the single cities as well.

1305
01:08:57.359 --> 01:09:00.080
It was in several of the single cities, Jackie,

1306
01:09:00.080 --> 01:09:01.479
but that was one of my,

1307
01:09:02.319 --> 01:09:05.000
we need to chat about whether we want to continue that

1308
01:09:05.000 --> 01:09:05.840
or not.

1309
01:09:05.840 --> 01:09:09.200
And if so, like how we want to kind of carry that out.

1310
01:09:09.200 --> 01:09:12.160
I would love for you guys to focus on your single cities

1311
01:09:12.160 --> 01:09:14.359
being about community and not matchmaking.

1312
01:09:15.840 --> 01:09:18.600
So just, you know, about community.

1313
01:09:18.600 --> 01:09:22.640
I'm gonna, there were some issues

1314
01:09:22.640 --> 01:09:24.439
with the men's and women's directories.

1315
01:09:24.439 --> 01:09:27.160
And that's what Bethany is alluding to right now.

1316
01:09:28.520 --> 01:09:30.279
It doesn't mean that we won't do that.

1317
01:09:30.279 --> 01:09:33.560
It just means that there's a reason why we don't do that.

1318
01:09:33.560 --> 01:09:38.560
And yeah, well, let us talk about that and see Kelly.

1319
01:09:39.359 --> 01:09:40.800
But in the meantime, you guys,

1320
01:09:40.800 --> 01:09:43.000
make sure that you're visible.

1321
01:09:43.000 --> 01:09:44.439
Pin a picture, pin a little,

1322
01:09:45.160 --> 01:09:46.279
hi, how are you?

1323
01:09:46.279 --> 01:09:47.319
So glad you're here.

1324
01:09:47.319 --> 01:09:48.560
This is my name.

1325
01:09:49.720 --> 01:09:53.200
You know, I personally wouldn't allow people

1326
01:09:53.200 --> 01:09:55.600
from your single city to friend you on Facebook.

1327
01:09:56.840 --> 01:09:59.160
I personally would just,

1328
01:09:59.160 --> 01:10:00.200
let all of your.

1329
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:02.640
correspondence with people be there.

1330
01:10:02.860 --> 01:10:06.600
You can put up a post once a week and pin it to the top.

1331
01:10:06.600 --> 01:10:09.180
It says, Hey, does anyone have any questions for me?

1332
01:10:09.580 --> 01:10:12.460
Um, I wouldn't start, I would not start answering messenger

1333
01:10:12.460 --> 01:10:15.960
chats if I were you and I wouldn't start friending people

1334
01:10:15.960 --> 01:10:18.360
that request you unless you already know them and they're

1335
01:10:18.360 --> 01:10:20.680
like someone that you're meeting with in person and you like

1336
01:10:20.680 --> 01:10:24.680
them a lot and you're, you know, whatever, because if you give

1337
01:10:24.680 --> 01:10:26.080
people an inch, they will take a mile.

1338
01:10:26.320 --> 01:10:27.080
Yes, you all.

1339
01:10:27.080 --> 01:10:28.960
And here's, here's another important thing.

1340
01:10:28.960 --> 01:10:30.600
We'll start asking you for money.

1341
01:10:31.000 --> 01:10:33.400
They will start bothering you all kinds of stuff.

1342
01:10:33.720 --> 01:10:37.880
If people need coaching, they need to come into the app and

1343
01:10:37.880 --> 01:10:40.360
the Facebook group or where we're doing that.

1344
01:10:40.360 --> 01:10:42.220
They need to send in to ask Jackie.

1345
01:10:42.480 --> 01:10:45.560
So you all in the single cities do not have to coach

1346
01:10:45.560 --> 01:10:46.800
people in that way.

1347
01:10:47.080 --> 01:10:47.580
Okay.

1348
01:10:48.040 --> 01:10:51.540
So you don't, but if you have good dating advice, you know,

1349
01:10:51.600 --> 01:10:54.400
if you have some good dating advice to, you know, to give

1350
01:10:54.400 --> 01:10:56.920
and people are posting dating questions in the single city,

1351
01:10:57.200 --> 01:10:59.280
you, you don't have to not answer it.

1352
01:10:59.480 --> 01:11:02.760
I remember we're not counselors and we're not therapists.

1353
01:11:02.780 --> 01:11:03.280
Okay.

1354
01:11:03.800 --> 01:11:08.520
So if anyone ever says they're depressed, if anyone ever says

1355
01:11:08.520 --> 01:11:11.840
they're going to commit suicide immediately in writing, tell

1356
01:11:11.840 --> 01:11:15.720
them to call the hotline, put the number up and make sure

1357
01:11:15.720 --> 01:11:17.440
that you do that publicly.

1358
01:11:17.440 --> 01:11:17.940
Okay.

1359
01:11:18.560 --> 01:11:19.960
Cause we just want to cover ourselves.

1360
01:11:20.000 --> 01:11:22.040
All Facebook groups are supposed to do that.

1361
01:11:22.040 --> 01:11:24.280
If someone, and you're, you're honestly, you're actually

1362
01:11:24.280 --> 01:11:26.600
supposed to report that person to Facebook.

1363
01:11:27.880 --> 01:11:31.600
I mean, I don't know about that, but I do know that you need to

1364
01:11:31.600 --> 01:11:36.680
publicly respond to any comments like that with, Hey, you know,

1365
01:11:36.680 --> 01:11:39.200
we're praying for you, but you know, you need to reach out

1366
01:11:39.200 --> 01:11:40.000
to someone right away.

1367
01:11:40.000 --> 01:11:42.040
Here's the number, make sure that you do this.

1368
01:11:42.080 --> 01:11:42.580
Okay.

1369
01:11:43.440 --> 01:11:46.840
And then let us know, let Bethany know, because we're

1370
01:11:46.840 --> 01:11:49.240
probably going to have to remove that person from the group.

1371
01:11:50.640 --> 01:11:54.120
Um, especially if that's like a chronic situation where someone's

1372
01:11:54.120 --> 01:11:56.400
always like threatening to kill themselves or saying that

1373
01:11:56.400 --> 01:11:58.200
they're so depressed that they wish they were dead or

1374
01:11:58.200 --> 01:11:59.080
something like that.

1375
01:11:59.400 --> 01:12:02.640
We want to help people, but we also cannot help people

1376
01:12:03.440 --> 01:12:04.640
on a Facebook page.

1377
01:12:04.960 --> 01:12:06.560
And it's for everyone's safety.

1378
01:12:06.600 --> 01:12:09.440
It's for the group as a whole safety, as well as that

1379
01:12:09.440 --> 01:12:11.600
person that is seeing those things.

1380
01:12:12.160 --> 01:12:12.320
Yeah.

1381
01:12:12.320 --> 01:12:14.840
But you guys feel free, you know, feel free to, you know,

1382
01:12:14.840 --> 01:12:16.000
give people feedback.

1383
01:12:16.000 --> 01:12:18.400
If they're asking dating questions, what we don't want

1384
01:12:18.400 --> 01:12:20.120
you to do, cause they are coed groups.

1385
01:12:20.880 --> 01:12:24.200
Don't let people get into big debates on religion

1386
01:12:24.200 --> 01:12:25.200
and crap like that.

1387
01:12:25.280 --> 01:12:28.200
Don't let people like start like snarking at each other.

1388
01:12:28.520 --> 01:12:31.200
Um, one of the Royal rules of all of our single cities

1389
01:12:31.200 --> 01:12:34.880
and all of our groups is, you know, we have to show kindness.

1390
01:12:34.880 --> 01:12:37.800
We have to show tolerance for people that don't necessarily

1391
01:12:37.800 --> 01:12:39.920
believe exactly what we believe and don't have the same

1392
01:12:39.920 --> 01:12:40.840
opinions as us.

1393
01:12:41.480 --> 01:12:45.600
And so if someone is always causing trouble and has strong

1394
01:12:45.600 --> 01:12:48.720
opinions and is always pushing back or, you know, arguing,

1395
01:12:48.720 --> 01:12:52.320
make sure that you mark that person and let them know that

1396
01:12:52.320 --> 01:12:54.960
Bethany know or team member knows so that they can get

1397
01:12:54.960 --> 01:12:55.560
a warning.

1398
01:12:55.760 --> 01:12:57.440
And if they keep doing it, then they're going to have

1399
01:12:57.440 --> 01:12:57.960
to get leave.

1400
01:12:59.200 --> 01:13:02.040
We've had guys, we've had men that we've had to kick out

1401
01:13:02.040 --> 01:13:05.040
of groups, specifically men that have had really strong

1402
01:13:05.040 --> 01:13:08.840
opinions about pretty misogynistic stuff.

1403
01:13:09.640 --> 01:13:12.200
So, and then women start arguing with them and then it's

1404
01:13:12.200 --> 01:13:16.000
a big, like about modesty and different things like weird

1405
01:13:16.000 --> 01:13:16.680
stuff like that.

1406
01:13:18.120 --> 01:13:18.520
Okay.

1407
01:13:19.520 --> 01:13:23.840
You guys, the only criteria we have for events is we don't

1408
01:13:23.840 --> 01:13:27.000
want events where people are just going to get just

1409
01:13:27.000 --> 01:13:28.880
completely hammered.

1410
01:13:29.800 --> 01:13:30.520
Okay.

1411
01:13:31.000 --> 01:13:34.120
Like we can't control if people drink and if they drink

1412
01:13:34.120 --> 01:13:35.600
too much, that's on them.

1413
01:13:35.600 --> 01:13:40.280
But we don't want the event to be an event specifically

1414
01:13:40.280 --> 01:13:41.640
about getting drunk.

1415
01:13:42.240 --> 01:13:43.120
Does that make sense?

1416
01:13:44.040 --> 01:13:45.440
So we're not going to throw a kegger.

1417
01:13:45.920 --> 01:13:46.400
Okay.

1418
01:13:48.720 --> 01:13:52.360
We're not, we're not going to, people might go to a

1419
01:13:52.360 --> 01:13:54.760
pub crawl, but we're not going to throw a pub crawl.

1420
01:13:54.760 --> 01:13:55.600
See the difference?

1421
01:13:55.880 --> 01:13:58.000
People might go to an October fest, but we're not

1422
01:13:58.000 --> 01:13:59.680
going to throw the October fest.

1423
01:14:00.320 --> 01:14:02.160
People might go to a wine tasting, but we're not

1424
01:14:02.160 --> 01:14:03.600
going to throw the wine tasting.

1425
01:14:04.320 --> 01:14:06.560
So meaning that it's okay for people in our group

1426
01:14:06.560 --> 01:14:08.720
to gather up and go to stuff like that together.

1427
01:14:08.760 --> 01:14:11.800
It's just, we're not, we're not, it's not our event.

1428
01:14:13.440 --> 01:14:13.640
Okay.

1429
01:14:15.240 --> 01:14:16.320
So much liability.

1430
01:14:16.440 --> 01:14:21.320
So Jackie, what's the best way to communicate?

1431
01:14:21.360 --> 01:14:26.240
Um, so I have some suggestions and some ideas for like

1432
01:14:26.240 --> 01:14:29.400
single city, Tampa and Orlando.

1433
01:14:29.440 --> 01:14:32.200
So should I go through Bethany or how do I communicate?

1434
01:14:32.600 --> 01:14:33.280
Here's the thing.

1435
01:14:33.320 --> 01:14:34.560
How do you guys want to do that?

1436
01:14:34.560 --> 01:14:37.760
Because I think that all of you should see each

1437
01:14:37.760 --> 01:14:41.000
other's ideas, even if you're not in the same state,

1438
01:14:41.000 --> 01:14:43.440
because it might jog an idea in someone else.

1439
01:14:43.440 --> 01:14:45.040
Like we need a place of creativity.

1440
01:14:45.040 --> 01:14:46.000
Don't you guys agree?

1441
01:14:46.520 --> 01:14:50.840
Well, this is specifically with you because I know that

1442
01:14:50.840 --> 01:14:54.920
you come to Davenport because you know, you have

1443
01:14:54.920 --> 01:14:55.760
family and things.

1444
01:14:55.760 --> 01:14:57.360
So this is including you.

1445
01:14:57.440 --> 01:14:59.720
Um, it's an idea that I have with, oh yeah.

1446
01:14:59.760 --> 01:15:00.000
Yeah.

1447
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:04.080
If you have an idea for a specific event and you want, yeah, yeah, absolutely.

1448
01:15:04.080 --> 01:15:07.040
All you have to do is just, um, to just let Bethany know.

1449
01:15:07.740 --> 01:15:10.440
You can email us admin at Jackie Dorman.com.

1450
01:15:10.840 --> 01:15:13.280
Just put single city event idea in the subject line.

1451
01:15:13.280 --> 01:15:15.600
Just let us know what you want to do.

1452
01:15:16.240 --> 01:15:17.240
That's for all of you.

1453
01:15:17.440 --> 01:15:19.720
Just email us admin at Jackie Dorman.com.

1454
01:15:19.960 --> 01:15:23.060
If Reagan thinks that it needs to go to Bethany, he will forward it to her.

1455
01:15:23.060 --> 01:15:26.580
If it's something that, you know, we can bring to a staff meeting and talk about,

1456
01:15:26.800 --> 01:15:29.800
if it's something we need to talk about on a single city meeting, you guys, you

1457
01:15:29.800 --> 01:15:34.560
know, we really appreciate you guys, your ministry, basically, this is what this

1458
01:15:34.560 --> 01:15:34.880
is.

1459
01:15:34.880 --> 01:15:35.320
Okay.

1460
01:15:35.560 --> 01:15:37.080
And we have perks for you.

1461
01:15:37.080 --> 01:15:41.320
And if you don't know what those are, and you're not utilizing those perks, please

1462
01:15:41.680 --> 01:15:46.120
send us an email so Bethany can reach out to you because we want to make sure that

1463
01:15:46.120 --> 01:15:46.600
you're perked.

1464
01:15:47.520 --> 01:15:47.840
Okay.

1465
01:15:47.840 --> 01:15:51.040
And there's some good perks in there that you should be taking advantage of.

1466
01:15:51.680 --> 01:15:55.400
So, um, yeah, I'm excited about this.

1467
01:15:55.640 --> 01:16:00.480
Who thinks that, that it really is God that the era of in-person is now who really

1468
01:16:00.480 --> 01:16:03.840
believes that that's God you're feeling that resonate in your heart.

1469
01:16:03.960 --> 01:16:04.360
Okay.

1470
01:16:05.240 --> 01:16:05.600
All right.

1471
01:16:05.760 --> 01:16:07.000
So we want to support you.

1472
01:16:07.000 --> 01:16:09.440
We want to invest in you, but we cannot invest in you.

1473
01:16:09.440 --> 01:16:13.000
If you do not tell us what you're thinking about doing, right.

1474
01:16:13.000 --> 01:16:16.080
If you do not let us in on it, then we cannot get behind it.

1475
01:16:16.080 --> 01:16:17.180
We cannot support it.

1476
01:16:17.180 --> 01:16:21.400
We cannot market it because we have a huge list.

1477
01:16:22.400 --> 01:16:28.160
We have a list of like, I don't know how many people like 30,000, you know, we can

1478
01:16:28.160 --> 01:16:30.360
market your stuff, right?

1479
01:16:30.360 --> 01:16:34.760
We can market these events and have people sign up because there's a lot of

1480
01:16:34.760 --> 01:16:36.760
registration engines that are free.

1481
01:16:36.760 --> 01:16:40.160
And we have the ability to have a registration engine right on our site.

1482
01:16:41.560 --> 01:16:43.240
Guys have seen those last trip singles.

1483
01:16:43.240 --> 01:16:48.000
We put out, we can put out one of those for your event and people can register.

1484
01:16:48.400 --> 01:16:51.640
And if it's a ticketed event, the money can go in right there and all

1485
01:16:51.640 --> 01:16:53.040
of the things can happen there.

1486
01:16:53.400 --> 01:16:57.840
Now I will tell you, as we grow, I would like to see, Oh, that's the other thing.

1487
01:16:58.040 --> 01:17:01.520
If people do sign up, listen to this.

1488
01:17:02.040 --> 01:17:08.720
If people do sign up for the program or for a class or for subscription at your

1489
01:17:08.720 --> 01:17:11.600
event, you will get the affiliate from it.

1490
01:17:13.920 --> 01:17:14.320
Okay.

1491
01:17:14.320 --> 01:17:18.760
If someone else at your event invites their friends and they're an affiliate,

1492
01:17:18.760 --> 01:17:21.760
the person that invites them, then they would give them their affiliate link.

1493
01:17:22.040 --> 01:17:26.280
But you, as a single city moderator, we're going to have a whole different

1494
01:17:26.280 --> 01:17:30.960
level of affiliation for you than the, just the regular people in our community.

1495
01:17:31.840 --> 01:17:32.040
Okay.

1496
01:17:32.040 --> 01:17:37.240
The regular people in our community, they only get $75 off a $297, which

1497
01:17:37.240 --> 01:17:39.760
is really good affiliate there.

1498
01:17:39.960 --> 01:17:43.000
But what if it's only $37?

1499
01:17:43.000 --> 01:17:45.960
What if it's a $47 class, a webinar?

1500
01:17:45.960 --> 01:17:49.360
What if it's an in-person webinar at one of your churches that we're sponsoring

1501
01:17:49.360 --> 01:17:52.560
and people are signing up and paying $50 for it, because it comes with

1502
01:17:52.560 --> 01:17:53.800
a book and a workbook or whatever.

1503
01:17:54.200 --> 01:17:57.520
We're coming up with an affiliate program for you, single city

1504
01:17:57.520 --> 01:18:02.640
moderators, that if people sign up and for anything, any of our products,

1505
01:18:02.680 --> 01:18:04.680
you will get a certain percentage of that sale.

1506
01:18:05.920 --> 01:18:08.280
If they sign up through someone else's affiliate link for like the

1507
01:18:08.280 --> 01:18:11.000
full blown program, 297, then okay, whatever.

1508
01:18:11.200 --> 01:18:15.760
But if they sign up for anything else from your event and from the, you

1509
01:18:15.760 --> 01:18:19.760
know, the thing, the signup on the QR code, then you can get,

1510
01:18:20.240 --> 01:18:21.640
you can make money that way.

1511
01:18:21.880 --> 01:18:24.280
And that's another way that we can perk you, because we're already

1512
01:18:24.280 --> 01:18:27.120
perking you, and pay you for your service.

1513
01:18:27.280 --> 01:18:27.760
Okay.

1514
01:18:28.800 --> 01:18:29.520
That sounds great.

1515
01:18:29.520 --> 01:18:30.000
Right?

1516
01:18:30.040 --> 01:18:31.200
I think that's amazing.

1517
01:18:31.200 --> 01:18:32.840
And I want that to happen.

1518
01:18:34.520 --> 01:18:36.560
So I think that's it.

1519
01:18:37.120 --> 01:18:37.960
That's all that I have.

1520
01:18:38.400 --> 01:18:40.440
Anyone else have any questions before we let y'all go?

1521
01:18:41.000 --> 01:18:49.720
I have a question.

1522
01:18:51.360 --> 01:18:51.760
Go ahead.

1523
01:18:56.080 --> 01:18:56.640
Hi everyone.

1524
01:18:57.960 --> 01:18:58.400
Oh, okay.

1525
01:18:58.400 --> 01:19:04.240
Well, I'll ask like, when will, when will the groups be opened with, with codes?

1526
01:19:05.920 --> 01:19:08.000
Oh, that's, we have to decide what the code should be.

1527
01:19:08.000 --> 01:19:10.400
And you guys, I think that all of you should just make a

1528
01:19:10.400 --> 01:19:11.840
different password for your group.

1529
01:19:12.680 --> 01:19:14.880
So figure out what you want the password to be.

1530
01:19:14.920 --> 01:19:16.480
Should it be numerical?

1531
01:19:16.800 --> 01:19:18.480
Should it be just a word?

1532
01:19:18.600 --> 01:19:20.680
How often should that word change?

1533
01:19:20.720 --> 01:19:21.760
See, these are all things.

1534
01:19:22.160 --> 01:19:22.400
Yeah.

1535
01:19:22.400 --> 01:19:26.480
We probably need to look into if there's any parameters within the AI as well.

1536
01:19:26.480 --> 01:19:28.280
It's my guess, Jackie.

1537
01:19:29.240 --> 01:19:32.200
Well, here's the thing, you guys, we haven't been having the

1538
01:19:32.200 --> 01:19:36.880
moderators approve requests because we were only letting in students and you

1539
01:19:36.880 --> 01:19:40.360
guys had no way of telling whether they were student or not, but once we go to

1540
01:19:40.360 --> 01:19:44.680
this system, you could also be the person approving the request to join.

1541
01:19:45.040 --> 01:19:46.560
And all you have to do is look for the password.

1542
01:19:47.320 --> 01:19:47.600
Yeah.

1543
01:19:47.760 --> 01:19:48.120
Okay.

1544
01:19:48.600 --> 01:19:53.200
And, or, oh, sorry, I had to come inside because the

1545
01:19:53.200 --> 01:19:54.360
mosquitoes were eating me alive.

1546
01:19:54.760 --> 01:19:58.560
We'll work that out.

1547
01:19:58.560 --> 01:19:59.960
We'll work the technical part of that.

1548
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:03.800
out because there will be people joining your single cities that are students and they wouldn't

1549
01:20:03.800 --> 01:20:07.940
have that password, but they would have something else, okay?

1550
01:20:07.940 --> 01:20:12.960
And so, we will work that out.

1551
01:20:12.960 --> 01:20:19.320
But if the administrative assistant, the AI on Facebook, can't approve the requests based

1552
01:20:19.320 --> 01:20:28.260
on the criteria that we would set, then you guys would be responsible for manually approving

1553
01:20:28.260 --> 01:20:29.440
the requests.

1554
01:20:29.440 --> 01:20:31.760
And we would do a training on that, just so y'all know.

1555
01:20:31.760 --> 01:20:36.420
Just anything before we officially launch it, we'll make sure you know exactly how we're

1556
01:20:36.420 --> 01:20:39.940
going to do it, all that kind of stuff.

1557
01:20:39.940 --> 01:20:41.940
But you guys, this is not something that's far off.

1558
01:20:41.940 --> 01:20:42.940
It's like now.

1559
01:20:42.940 --> 01:20:45.540
It's like this week, okay?

1560
01:20:45.540 --> 01:20:46.540
We want to start...

1561
01:20:46.540 --> 01:20:48.540
Who's got an event coming up?

1562
01:20:48.540 --> 01:20:49.540
Anybody?

1563
01:20:49.540 --> 01:20:51.300
Anyone got anything this month?

1564
01:20:51.300 --> 01:20:54.260
Anyone got a Halloween party, a little costume party action?

1565
01:20:54.260 --> 01:20:56.260
Jacqueline, what do you got?

1566
01:20:56.260 --> 01:20:57.260
I got...

1567
01:20:57.260 --> 01:21:02.620
We're going to Arrington Vineyard to listen to bluegrass music next Sunday.

1568
01:21:02.620 --> 01:21:07.940
And then also, I have a kind of a standing thing with the karaoke host at Kings Bowl.

1569
01:21:07.940 --> 01:21:15.120
We made it a singles every first and third Wednesday night of the month, it's for singing

1570
01:21:15.120 --> 01:21:16.120
for singles.

1571
01:21:16.120 --> 01:21:17.120
So...

1572
01:21:17.120 --> 01:21:18.120
I like it.

1573
01:21:18.120 --> 01:21:19.120
Yeah.

1574
01:21:19.120 --> 01:21:23.420
And listen, if any of you need any graphics for anything, you know, for your calendar,

1575
01:21:23.420 --> 01:21:24.420
you need graphics.

1576
01:21:24.420 --> 01:21:28.900
Also, you guys, you should be employing your calendars.

1577
01:21:28.900 --> 01:21:32.700
Your calendars are there, it's built into your Facebook group, you know, you can use

1578
01:21:32.700 --> 01:21:33.700
it.

1579
01:21:33.700 --> 01:21:34.700
Okay.

1580
01:21:34.700 --> 01:21:35.700
Let me ask you this.

1581
01:21:35.700 --> 01:21:45.380
Do you guys think that we should move to each of your single cities having its own group

1582
01:21:45.380 --> 01:21:46.380
on the app?

1583
01:21:46.380 --> 01:21:48.380
Or do you think we should just leave it on Facebook?

1584
01:21:48.380 --> 01:21:49.380
Facebook.

1585
01:21:49.380 --> 01:21:50.380
Okay.

1586
01:21:50.420 --> 01:21:51.420
Facebook.

1587
01:21:51.420 --> 01:21:52.420
Okay.

1588
01:21:52.420 --> 01:21:55.420
So you guys have to use your events then.

1589
01:21:55.420 --> 01:21:57.540
You guys have to use your events.

1590
01:21:57.540 --> 01:21:59.140
You guys hate my app.

1591
01:21:59.140 --> 01:22:01.140
You know how much money that thing costs?

1592
01:22:01.140 --> 01:22:05.780
Oh my God, it just makes me so sick when I think about it.

1593
01:22:05.780 --> 01:22:06.780
Oh Lord.

1594
01:22:06.780 --> 01:22:07.780
Okay.

1595
01:22:07.780 --> 01:22:12.500
It's just because I have four kids and homeschool and I have a million trillion apps.

1596
01:22:12.500 --> 01:22:14.860
I have the dance studio app, the homeschool app.

1597
01:22:14.860 --> 01:22:17.540
I have this app, that app, it's just another...

1598
01:22:17.540 --> 01:22:19.260
And Facebook is so easy.

1599
01:22:19.340 --> 01:22:26.020
I also want to know if we could somehow make the things from last year single or the single

1600
01:22:26.020 --> 01:22:27.020
city.

1601
01:22:27.020 --> 01:22:32.260
So if I put an event in single city, then can it be open so I can cross post it into

1602
01:22:32.260 --> 01:22:39.860
all the groups and then they can RSVP through that and then friend request single city through

1603
01:22:39.860 --> 01:22:40.860
that way?

1604
01:22:40.860 --> 01:22:41.860
Does that make sense?

1605
01:22:41.860 --> 01:22:46.300
Because like this is still Christian Singles, it has like 30,000 members in it.

1606
01:22:46.300 --> 01:22:47.300
Yeah.

1607
01:22:47.340 --> 01:22:49.540
All kinds of settings in the groups.

1608
01:22:49.540 --> 01:22:50.540
Yeah.

1609
01:22:50.540 --> 01:22:54.580
Because that would be so much easier because what I've been doing is I've had to create

1610
01:22:54.580 --> 01:23:00.380
posts in every single solitary and I actually, that's why I didn't post that much this month

1611
01:23:00.380 --> 01:23:06.500
because you guys, I had so many men PMing me and so then my friend Joe did them for

1612
01:23:06.500 --> 01:23:09.500
me, like started posting them for me.

1613
01:23:09.500 --> 01:23:14.140
And he didn't like it because then he had women PMing him and it just, I mean, some

1614
01:23:14.140 --> 01:23:15.140
people might like that.

1615
01:23:15.140 --> 01:23:16.140
I don't.

1616
01:23:16.900 --> 01:23:17.900
Why?

1617
01:23:17.900 --> 01:23:18.900
I don't understand what happened.

1618
01:23:18.900 --> 01:23:20.620
Why did the men PM you?

1619
01:23:20.620 --> 01:23:24.740
Because I posted the event in different groups.

1620
01:23:24.740 --> 01:23:27.180
Oh, you as you, you as you.

1621
01:23:27.180 --> 01:23:28.180
As me.

1622
01:23:28.180 --> 01:23:29.260
As me because you can't.

1623
01:23:29.260 --> 01:23:35.620
And so then I had, I'm not joking you, so many men, I was like, and some people might

1624
01:23:35.620 --> 01:23:36.620
like that.

1625
01:23:36.620 --> 01:23:37.620
I did not.

1626
01:23:37.620 --> 01:23:38.620
So.

1627
01:23:38.620 --> 01:23:39.620
Well, we want to recruit the good ones.

1628
01:23:39.620 --> 01:23:40.620
We want to recruit them.

1629
01:23:40.620 --> 01:23:47.140
So, um, but Bethany, how can, how can you share an event from a group that's private,

1630
01:23:47.140 --> 01:23:48.140
but not hidden?

1631
01:23:48.140 --> 01:23:50.940
How does that work?

1632
01:23:50.940 --> 01:23:53.420
I think, yeah, so that might be the catch.

1633
01:23:53.420 --> 01:23:59.940
Cause if we are, if we're private and hidden or one or the other, we just need to do some

1634
01:23:59.940 --> 01:24:00.940
research on that.

1635
01:24:00.940 --> 01:24:03.580
I don't know.

1636
01:24:03.580 --> 01:24:07.180
I don't know if we'll be able to share that into other groups or not.

1637
01:24:07.180 --> 01:24:08.180
Yeah.

1638
01:24:08.180 --> 01:24:10.620
I think we've got to troubleshoot that because she does make a really good point.

1639
01:24:10.620 --> 01:24:13.020
We really do need it to be able to be shared.

1640
01:24:13.020 --> 01:24:18.260
I was kind of brainstorming with, um, and we don't have to go too far into this with

1641
01:24:18.260 --> 01:24:21.260
a Christie, your, your track today.

1642
01:24:21.260 --> 01:24:23.820
I've kind of been at Columbus single city.

1643
01:24:23.820 --> 01:24:24.820
Yeah.

1644
01:24:24.820 --> 01:24:31.460
Wondering if we did like, I mean, it's really, it'd be great to do them right in Facebook,

1645
01:24:31.460 --> 01:24:33.820
but if we did them in event, right.

1646
01:24:33.820 --> 01:24:36.660
And then you can share that link anywhere.

1647
01:24:36.660 --> 01:24:39.220
But we want to make sure it's always centered on last year, single.

1648
01:24:39.220 --> 01:24:42.780
So I don't, cause like, I'm just wondering if we do that people, you know, they don't

1649
01:24:42.780 --> 01:24:45.060
see the single city thing and they don't join it.

1650
01:24:45.060 --> 01:24:49.140
Like that's why I'm saying would have to always be grounded in the single city group.

1651
01:24:49.140 --> 01:24:51.180
I'm just not sure like that.

1652
01:24:51.180 --> 01:24:53.900
You can share an event, but they can't join.

1653
01:24:53.900 --> 01:24:54.900
They'd have to join.

1654
01:24:54.900 --> 01:24:58.940
They can join the event, but they can't join the Facebook group without going through that.

1655
01:24:58.940 --> 01:24:59.940
Yeah.

1656
01:24:59.940 --> 01:24:59.940


1657
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:04.960
And we have that for our church group to like when we share events out of our church group

1658
01:25:05.440 --> 01:25:10.320
Uh, which is a facebook page. So that's a little different than a single city group

1659
01:25:11.040 --> 01:25:16.000
but the same thing people they would have to follow us as a church to

1660
01:25:16.800 --> 01:25:22.960
Get access. Let me ask you a question this 30 000 member singles group. Is it is it private?

1661
01:25:23.760 --> 01:25:24.800
No

1662
01:25:24.800 --> 01:25:29.120
Anyone can join. I mean you have to answer questions. You have to so it's a private group

1663
01:25:29.280 --> 01:25:31.280
That's a that's called a private group

1664
01:25:31.280 --> 01:25:35.440
If you if if there's any gate on joining and you don't just click on it

1665
01:25:35.440 --> 01:25:39.120
And you're automatically in you have to be approved to be in then that's a private group

1666
01:25:40.400 --> 01:25:43.120
And so how do they share their events?

1667
01:25:44.000 --> 01:25:50.640
With that. I don't know. I don't know. So it's just if there's a way or if I could log in

1668
01:25:51.520 --> 01:25:52.720
as a

1669
01:25:52.720 --> 01:26:00.640
Single city so then my my login is single city and then i'm creating a an event in the other groups

1670
01:26:00.800 --> 01:26:05.840
But logged in as single city if that makes sense most most pages don't allow other pages to join

1671
01:26:06.480 --> 01:26:07.760
Okay

1672
01:26:07.760 --> 01:26:11.540
So let me ask you this is this is the thing though. Bethany. We need to troubleshoot

1673
01:26:12.000 --> 01:26:17.760
Can events when you're creating the event in facebook? It didn't used to be this way, but the facebooks are always changing

1674
01:26:18.320 --> 01:26:22.720
Can you when you make the event can you mark the event public or private

1675
01:26:23.680 --> 01:26:29.200
Because if the event itself if we can mark it public then she can post it anywhere and anyone could join it

1676
01:26:29.280 --> 01:26:32.800
I think we're gonna feel jacqueline is still gonna be posted as you in those groups

1677
01:26:33.280 --> 01:26:39.200
Yeah, I don't and that's like the so I had so many it was and then what happened at the last event

1678
01:26:39.440 --> 01:26:43.280
I'm, not joking you men came because some of them are not

1679
01:26:43.920 --> 01:26:46.800
Mentally all there and they thought that they were coming for me

1680
01:26:47.440 --> 01:26:52.000
And so then they were no. Yes. So then they were like I came to meet you and i'm like

1681
01:26:52.960 --> 01:26:56.320
i'm, sorry, and thankfully I had my guy friends with me and they like

1682
01:26:56.880 --> 01:27:00.160
And then they're like this is a problem jackie. We don't we don't feel safe with you doing this

1683
01:27:00.240 --> 01:27:05.280
i'm, like I know like but then I had men following me like these weirdos, so I mean

1684
01:27:06.400 --> 01:27:13.280
Yeah, you can't establishing yourself as a single city moderator for lash or single may help a little bit with that like

1685
01:27:13.920 --> 01:27:17.520
People that struggle meant just because with some of the background stuff

1686
01:27:17.520 --> 01:27:20.740
I used to do like when we were very public front-facing

1687
01:27:21.520 --> 01:27:23.520
some similar things and so

1688
01:27:24.080 --> 01:27:25.040
um

1689
01:27:25.040 --> 01:27:27.360
You kind of just even in your engaging with them

1690
01:27:27.920 --> 01:27:29.920
Hey, i'm the single city moderator

1691
01:27:30.240 --> 01:27:36.880
You know as on behalf of last year single you're being invited to this event where versus like feeling feeling very personal

1692
01:27:37.840 --> 01:27:40.960
They may or may not still be able to discern that but it will help

1693
01:27:41.360 --> 01:27:44.400
To create a little bit of a distinction. Let me ask you this

1694
01:27:44.400 --> 01:27:50.320
Is there any way that you can um partner with the moderators of those pages and ask them to share the event?

1695
01:27:50.960 --> 01:27:57.120
I guess yeah, I guess I can ask but then they don't get that then it doesn't link them to last year single

1696
01:27:57.520 --> 01:28:01.200
Do you know what I mean? So if it was shared then they automatically see the logo

1697
01:28:01.840 --> 01:28:05.520
They see the thing and then they go in there and they're like, oh I want to join that group

1698
01:28:06.480 --> 01:28:09.520
That group sounds fun and then they get the information. Does that make sense?

1699
01:28:09.680 --> 01:28:10.480
So yeah, yeah

1700
01:28:10.480 --> 01:28:14.720
No, yeah, it makes sense and then it's all coming through me and then what was happening too

1701
01:28:15.200 --> 01:28:18.720
Like I must admit I was really exhausted after the pins mccann or the last one

1702
01:28:18.960 --> 01:28:22.880
I had a lot of people complaining to me like women coming up. I didn't meet anyone tonight

1703
01:28:22.880 --> 01:28:25.200
i'm not coming back to any of your events and i'm like

1704
01:28:26.080 --> 01:28:30.640
i'm, sorry, like just have fun like this is just to have fun and then like

1705
01:28:31.040 --> 01:28:37.680
Um, my friend bev who was co-hosting got letter emails from people saying this was you guys were so rude

1706
01:28:38.080 --> 01:28:43.760
You it looked like everyone was clicky and not talking to anyone and it was like, oh my gosh, like it was stressful

1707
01:28:43.840 --> 01:28:45.840
Y'all welcome to my world

1708
01:28:46.400 --> 01:28:52.560
Welcome to my world y'all i'm telling you. Listen, this is why people listen. This is why these people are single

1709
01:28:56.480 --> 01:28:58.480
Therapy and then come back

1710
01:28:58.800 --> 01:29:05.120
Yeah, well hello, yeah, that's exactly right. Okay, so we're not gonna waste it we're gonna troubleshoot this jacqueline

1711
01:29:05.120 --> 01:29:07.300
Thanks for bringing this up you guys we are technology

1712
01:29:08.480 --> 01:29:13.680
Gonna we're gonna technologically troubleshoot this we're gonna figure out how to overcome this problem

1713
01:29:14.160 --> 01:29:20.000
Of you guys being sitting ducks out there getting spammed getting docked because people guys

1714
01:29:20.720 --> 01:29:23.520
Direct message me and ask to marry me like frequently

1715
01:29:24.080 --> 01:29:26.080
Okay, and i'm like, um

1716
01:29:26.720 --> 01:29:28.480
Did you miss the memo?

1717
01:29:28.480 --> 01:29:29.840
uh married

1718
01:29:29.840 --> 01:29:36.640
Okay, so I mean because of what I post about singles and so it is definitely a topic that will get you targeted by

1719
01:29:36.880 --> 01:29:38.640
some strange people

1720
01:29:38.640 --> 01:29:43.600
um, I remember an event in new york city where I saw a guy in the audience who had been like

1721
01:29:43.820 --> 01:29:46.800
Harassing me and he showed up at this event that I was at

1722
01:29:47.200 --> 01:29:51.200
In new york city and you guys I was actually afraid for my life to come out and speak

1723
01:29:51.600 --> 01:29:53.600
Because they're afraid he's gonna like shoot me or something

1724
01:29:53.600 --> 01:29:59.920
You know, so i'm not even kidding like I like called my husband I said that guy is

1725
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:03.880
here and then he went out and he kind of like, he took some of the ushers from the church

1726
01:30:03.880 --> 01:30:09.800
and they talked to this guy and it was just to make sure that he wasn't packing because

1727
01:30:09.800 --> 01:30:15.240
like I was, I was very firm with him about when he was messaging me, I was very firm

1728
01:30:15.240 --> 01:30:18.320
with him about the issues that he was having.

1729
01:30:18.320 --> 01:30:22.600
So anyway, there's a lot out there, but we're going to find out how to put up a firewall

1730
01:30:22.600 --> 01:30:23.600
for y'all.

1731
01:30:23.600 --> 01:30:24.600
We'll find it out.

1732
01:30:24.600 --> 01:30:25.600
We'll figure it out.

1733
01:30:25.600 --> 01:30:26.600
Okay.

1734
01:30:27.600 --> 01:30:29.400
No one else has any events this month.

1735
01:30:29.400 --> 01:30:30.400
Just Jacqueline.

1736
01:30:30.400 --> 01:30:31.400
That's it.

1737
01:30:31.400 --> 01:30:32.400
Anybody?

1738
01:30:32.400 --> 01:30:33.400
Okay.

1739
01:30:33.400 --> 01:30:36.120
You guys, we want to be brainstorming events for each other.

1740
01:30:36.120 --> 01:30:37.600
Let's help brainstorm events.

1741
01:30:37.600 --> 01:30:38.600
Let's help.

1742
01:30:38.600 --> 01:30:44.440
Um, you guys, if there's someone that is really, uh, very connected in your, in your group,

1743
01:30:44.440 --> 01:30:47.400
like, like they're always showing up, they're always posting or they're always reaching

1744
01:30:47.400 --> 01:30:49.040
out to you to find out what's going on.

1745
01:30:49.040 --> 01:30:54.340
See if you can recruit them as your volunteer, guys who recruit people within your group

1746
01:30:54.340 --> 01:30:55.620
to help you.

1747
01:30:55.620 --> 01:31:01.980
And also we will find people who here would raise their hand and say, I need an assistant.

1748
01:31:01.980 --> 01:31:02.980
Okay.

1749
01:31:02.980 --> 01:31:04.500
Jacqueline needs an assistant for sure.

1750
01:31:04.500 --> 01:31:06.860
I mean, I was supposed to help you.

1751
01:31:06.860 --> 01:31:07.860
Yeah.

1752
01:31:07.860 --> 01:31:11.860
And I did reach out to a lot of people to help like, Hey, do you want to do like coffee

1753
01:31:11.860 --> 01:31:12.860
meetups?

1754
01:31:12.860 --> 01:31:14.580
And not one of them got back to me.

1755
01:31:14.580 --> 01:31:19.180
They all said they'd pray about it and they said, no, no, no brother.

1756
01:31:19.180 --> 01:31:22.540
Everybody wants to get married, but no one wants to help anybody else get married.

1757
01:31:22.540 --> 01:31:23.540
Okay.

1758
01:31:23.740 --> 01:31:28.140
I honestly, I was really burnt out after the two events, cause I put in so much work.

1759
01:31:28.140 --> 01:31:29.580
I did.

1760
01:31:29.580 --> 01:31:35.060
And then I had all the complaints and, um, and I already have a really healthy, thriving

1761
01:31:35.060 --> 01:31:38.740
friend group of like 17 of us, like guys and girls, we do life together.

1762
01:31:38.740 --> 01:31:41.760
Like we're, we're like really close.

1763
01:31:41.760 --> 01:31:43.940
And so I'm like, you guys, I don't need this.

1764
01:31:43.940 --> 01:31:48.740
I'm doing this because I have a heart for you and this, you know, I love you guys.

1765
01:31:48.740 --> 01:31:51.100
And then it's like, I get that.

1766
01:31:51.100 --> 01:31:52.100
So I feel you.

1767
01:31:52.100 --> 01:31:53.100
I'm married.

1768
01:31:53.660 --> 01:31:57.420
I don't need to do singles ministry.

1769
01:31:57.420 --> 01:31:58.420
Okay.

1770
01:31:58.420 --> 01:32:02.540
So all I'm saying is, is that there are people, you guys, if we, I believe as we start this

1771
01:32:02.540 --> 01:32:05.260
new era, God is going to give us people to help.

1772
01:32:05.260 --> 01:32:06.260
I really do.

1773
01:32:06.260 --> 01:32:07.980
We don't want you getting burnt out.

1774
01:32:07.980 --> 01:32:12.020
Um, even if we just plan a few things a year in that region, I think that that would be

1775
01:32:12.020 --> 01:32:15.020
enough to cause a lot of momentum.

1776
01:32:15.020 --> 01:32:20.540
Also the church is getting involved and the people that are single in those churches,

1777
01:32:20.540 --> 01:32:24.460
finding a place, um, where they can have a second home within the single city groups.

1778
01:32:24.460 --> 01:32:25.820
I think that's important too.

1779
01:32:25.820 --> 01:32:27.940
And so Bethany and I are working on projects for churches.

1780
01:32:27.940 --> 01:32:32.340
If you guys know any churches in your area that you would like us to approach about this

1781
01:32:32.340 --> 01:32:37.260
kind of stuff about, you know, partnering and allowing their singles to become part

1782
01:32:37.260 --> 01:32:42.060
of this, it's kind of like young life, you know, young life is not affiliated with any

1783
01:32:42.060 --> 01:32:46.980
one church, but all the high schools and colleges have it, right.

1784
01:32:46.980 --> 01:32:52.300
And so same with this, all the churches could have an affiliation with single city, um,

1785
01:32:52.300 --> 01:32:55.540
with last year, single, single city, whatever it is that they want to call it.

1786
01:32:55.540 --> 01:32:58.460
A lot of people would probably have a hard time calling it last year, single, cause they

1787
01:32:58.460 --> 01:32:59.700
don't want to promote that.

1788
01:32:59.700 --> 01:33:05.220
Um, but the single city is the single nation and helping people find community and just

1789
01:33:05.220 --> 01:33:06.220
camaraderie.

1790
01:33:06.220 --> 01:33:07.220
That's it.

1791
01:33:07.220 --> 01:33:08.220
All right.

1792
01:33:08.220 --> 01:33:09.220
All right.

1793
01:33:09.220 --> 01:33:10.220
So Father God, we thank you for this time together.

1794
01:33:10.220 --> 01:33:11.220
Anyone else have any questions?

1795
01:33:11.220 --> 01:33:12.220
I'm going to cut you off.

1796
01:33:12.220 --> 01:33:16.380
No, I was just going to say, just so y'all know, just as a reminder, if you all ever

1797
01:33:16.780 --> 01:33:21.380
have any issues in your single cities, please let us know and we will help.

1798
01:33:21.380 --> 01:33:23.340
We will be the ones to communicate to those people.

1799
01:33:23.340 --> 01:33:24.340
Okay.

1800
01:33:24.340 --> 01:33:25.340
We'll be bad cop.

1801
01:33:25.340 --> 01:33:26.340
Yeah.

1802
01:33:26.340 --> 01:33:27.340
We're okay to be bad cop.

1803
01:33:27.340 --> 01:33:28.340
Okay.

1804
01:33:28.340 --> 01:33:29.620
So Father God, we thank you for your goodness, Lord.

1805
01:33:29.620 --> 01:33:34.740
We thank you God that yes, this isn't easy definitely, but it is worth it, Lord.

1806
01:33:34.740 --> 01:33:39.780
And so Father, we thank you God that you give us new grace, Lord, that you give us new refreshing

1807
01:33:39.780 --> 01:33:41.340
end in our sales.

1808
01:33:41.340 --> 01:33:46.100
We ask God that you give us favor in our regions, that you would draw people to us.

1809
01:33:46.820 --> 01:33:51.060
In fact, before this week is even over, this coming week, before it's over, each and every

1810
01:33:51.060 --> 01:33:55.980
one of these moderators, it gets confirmed to them that you have called them to be a

1811
01:33:55.980 --> 01:34:02.820
revivalist of marriage and family in their region through this program by something happening,

1812
01:34:02.820 --> 01:34:07.140
someone coming to them and testifying that, you know, what you did was transforming for

1813
01:34:07.140 --> 01:34:08.140
me.

1814
01:34:08.140 --> 01:34:10.260
Just encourage them in some way, shape, or form.

1815
01:34:10.260 --> 01:34:12.540
Give them that confirmation in Jesus name.

1816
01:34:12.540 --> 01:34:13.540
Amen.

1817
01:34:13.540 --> 01:34:14.540
All right.

1818
01:34:14.540 --> 01:34:15.540
Appreciate you guys.

1819
01:34:15.980 --> 01:34:16.980
I know it's been long, but we'll see you soon.

1820
01:34:16.980 --> 01:34:19.100
If you guys have any questions, just send us an email.

1821
01:34:19.100 --> 01:34:20.100
Okay.

1822
01:34:20.100 --> 01:34:21.100
Talk to you soon.

1823
01:34:21.100 --> 01:34:21.100