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So welcome to last year, single community night.

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We're going to do a spirit mate match event tonight.

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It's always a good time.

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Um, people really love the dating game.

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I actually was alive in the seventies and in the eighties, when I was a child,

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I remember seeing the dating game on, I remember seeing a show called

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love connection, which I thought was super fun when I was a kid.

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I thought that was fun.

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Now I look back at some of those episodes.

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I'm like, they were pretty racy.

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Those are some pretty racy, uh, situations that were going on there.

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And there were a lot of really weird people on that show as

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contestants, I can say that.

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And then there was a show called the dating game as well.

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I don't know if you guys remember seeing reruns of that.

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Um, I think that I might've seen it mostly in reruns cause I definitely

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was too young, probably to remember it, or maybe not even alive.

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Cause there was one during the seventies and all the bachelors or

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bachelorettes were behind a wall.

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And then the bachelor or bachelorette was here on the other side and they

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were asking questions, so they didn't see them.

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And then they saw the people that they didn't pick.

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They came around the wall and greeted them.

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In fact, I think there's a serial killer movie about that right now.

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Y'all, um, with, uh, what's her face from pitch perfect.

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I guess it's a true story that she actually met this guy

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on a dating game like that.

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I promise you that's not going to happen here.

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Okay.

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We've got these people out really well.

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So, um, everyone is in our community.

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They're in our student body.

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You know, we spend a lot of time getting to know them as far as the

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bachelors that we're presenting to you.

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And so you don't have to worry about that.

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They're known in the community.

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They're known by others in the community.

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And so, um, but anyway, probably a bad example for tonight.

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Starting out, but anyway, it's a fun game.

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And so we play it because I like the idea of getting to know someone

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without really seeing them first.

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I like that idea.

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But I will tell you that all three bachelorettes that have been chosen

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tonight to, to have fun with this game, with our bachelor, all of them

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are super compatible to this bachelor.

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Same with the last game that we had.

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All three were super compatible.

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I just want to say something.

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And that is that one of the bachelorettes from our last game, which

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was a little, uh, like a month or so ago, she already is in a relationship.

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Not with our bachelor from last game, but she met someone.

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This is what happens when you put yourself out there.

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Remember God is the best matchmaker.

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And I believe that we have a supernatural grace on this.

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She was really nervous about being on that game, about putting herself out

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there, and I believe that that really helped her to kick it in gear.

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And so now she's in a relationship and it's going really well.

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She's not talking herself out of it.

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She's not trying to sabotage it.

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And so that's how fast things can happen.

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But the other two bachelorettes, um, one of them, the one that our

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bachelor Mike from last time picked actually wasn't able to relocate.

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And neither is he because they both have shared parenting.

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So that was a spirit mate match flaw that we had in that matching.

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Otherwise they have tons in common, which is why he chose her during the game.

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But I do want to say that all three of these bachelorettes have a

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lot in common with this bachelor.

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And if for whatever reason, as he talks to the person that he chooses tonight,

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that he wants to, you know, they find out they're not really that compatible

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or not really that interested, uh, that he has the opportunity to talk

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to the other two ladies as well.

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Okay.

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This is not the TV show.

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The bachelor where you got to pick someone and then you got to marry

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them right on the spot or, you know, ask them to marry you.

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That's not what we're doing here.

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You guys, this isn't married in 12 weeks or less, right?

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It's not last week, single.

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That's not, that's not what we're doing here.

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All right.

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So I'm just buying a little time.

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I was waiting for the bachelor to get here.

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Um, are you here?

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Matthew don't see him yet.

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I do not see him.

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All right.

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He says he needs five more minutes.

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He's getting pretty.

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Don't tell him I said that.

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Cause you know what?

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He's not going to know.

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I said it because he's not here.

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All right.

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So you guys to have some fun because I'm so appreciative of those of you,

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139 of you that showed up tonight, even though it's holiday week, normally

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we have a much larger number, but I'm surprised we even have 140.

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And so if you want to go ahead and put where you're from, where you live,

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put your age, put some vital statistics about yourself.

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Bachelorettes do not do that.

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Bachelorette one, two, and three.

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Do not give anything away about yourself.

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Everybody else.

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If you want to, if you want to meet and greet in the chat while we're waiting

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on our, our bachelor for the game, you can go ahead and do that.

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You'll see that we have people from all over the country.

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We have some phase two ladies with us tonight.

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This is what you have to look forward to in phase three.

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This is our club level.

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This is our community level, and we have love seats.

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We have dating coaching.

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We have games like this where we can do community-based matchmaking, and we're going to be having

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a lot more of these.

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You guys, we're doing them once a month now, but starting in the new year, we're going

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to probably do them maybe every week.

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We're going to have some kind of single spotlight, because we want to start getting people meeting

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each other.

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Okay?

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We want to get people dating and mating.

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That's what we do around here.

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For those of you that are really new and you haven't really heard much from me, because

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I don't really talk to people in phase one and two very much.

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I do a lot in phase three, though.

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We have engagement announcements every week.

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Last weekend, we had three weddings, one engagement, several anniversaries.

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If you ever wonder, hey, do these people stay married?

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Yes, they do.

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They stay married.

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We have people from our movement that have been married going on four years in January.

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We have several couples in 2025 that will have been married for four years already from

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this movement, from getting married from this movement.

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Isn't that exciting?

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Very exciting.

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Okay, let me see.

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Let me check.

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All right, our bachelor is here.

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Let me just go ahead and I'm going to do some pinning right now, you guys.

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All right, so when you get ready, Matt, you're going to go ahead and put your camera on,

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and not that it matters, but I'm going to, because their cameras are not on, but I'm

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going to pin our bachelorettes as well.

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Yes, ma'am.

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All right.

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All right, how are you doing?

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Okay, got the hat.

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Everybody loves a cowboy.

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Okay, we're going to have a good time.

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We're going to have a good time.

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Let me just move my gallery over here so I can see everybody.

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I can take it off.

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I don't have to have it on.

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I just wear it on.

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My daughters require me to wear it as much as possible.

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They love it.

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They love dad as a cowboy.

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All right, so to get started, we're going to have Matt.

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We're going to have you introduce yourself, tell everyone a little bit about you before

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we start playing the game tonight.

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Where are you from?

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Tell us a little bit about what you do and how old you are, and you can tell us as much

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or as little as you want about your daughters, and we'll go ahead and talk to you just for

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a couple of minutes before we get started.

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My name is Matt Miller.

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I am, I like to say, 46 years young.

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I don't feel 46.

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I've been in construction for almost 30 years now.

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So I was a superintendent, project manager, quality control engineer, and now I'm

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environmental health and safety manager for a pretty large firm here in Austin.

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We're all over the world, though.

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I do that, enjoy what I do, but what I enjoy more than work is my three daughters.

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Single father, I have them majority of the time, and they're right here in the background.

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The little blonde one there is Abby.

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She's my eight-year-old.

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Emma on the other side of me, she is turning seven in two weeks.

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And then my little baby girl in there, she's four and a half.

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So Abby, Emma, and Lucy are, you know, why I do what I do, and they're a huge part of

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my life.

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They also help me pick out my outfits and tell me I have to wear my hat.

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So, but I love being a girl dad.

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People ask me, if you ever had a son, would you know what to do?

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And I said, probably not.

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All I know is girls.

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I went on YouTube.

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I learned how to do hair and help them pick out their outfits.

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We go shopping together.

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So I try to be as girly of a girl dad as I can be, but they also like me to, you know,

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show them how to fix stuff.

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I was a handyman.

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My dad taught me from a very young age how to do that.

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So yeah, I can build stuff.

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So that's, I guess, another bonus there.

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But anything else?

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I love it.

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When you said you went on YouTube to find out how to do hair for your daughters, every

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woman in here let out a huge sigh.

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Yeah.

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So I do.

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The only thing I can't do is the French braid, but yeah, I can, I can, uh, my middle one,

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her favorite hairdo is like the Cindy Lou Who style.

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So we'll go to church and her hair will be sticking up about 18 inches up in the air

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straight, no bends.

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So they asked me and I said, a lot of hair.

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a hair ties and a lot of patients.

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So.

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Oh my goodness.

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That's funny.

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They have three different hairstyles too.

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So I have to do, you know, detanglers.

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Absolutely.

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So it's like, it's nuts.

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Well, dad, we want to let you know

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that you're doing a good job

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and it's amazing that you're doing that.

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And we love it.

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And for all of us that didn't have a dad like that,

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we're just like, wow, we're so, we're so, you know,

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we're so glad that your daughters have a dad like that.

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But you want to-

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I have one more thing in there too.

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That's simple.

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That their faith and my faith are very important to me

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every day that they're with me.

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We start out there in the morning,

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we read something out of my Bible

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and then we do the children's storybook Bible

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and then we pray and we set off that day.

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So we, and we pray every night together.

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So my oldest two are asking me about,

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about more about God and stuff like that stuff.

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So that to me is more important than doing the hair

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and the clothes and stuff like that.

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Of course.

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Me being able to point my girls towards faith

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and them constantly starting to ask me questions

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and wanting to spend more time doing that stuff.

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And I also, I also play guitar too and sing.

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So I'm starting that up at church too.

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So like that's a huge part of our lives too,

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is prayer, Bible time, worship, stuff like that.

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So big part of our lives.

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Okay ladies.

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Now, just because we have three bachelorettes,

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you can write into us about Matt as well

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to admin at JackieDorman.com in the subject line,

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you can put Matt, okay, the singing cowboy.

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If you want, you can put that there and-

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I'm not a real cowboy.

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I'm just very Southern.

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You're listening to him talk.

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And if you're feeling like,

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hey, I'd be a really good match for this guy.

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You know, I love the same things.

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I want, I want this kind of life.

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Then we definitely want to hear from you.

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Now, all three bachelorettes,

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I feel like all three of them want this kind of life.

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I feel like all three of them are really,

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have a lot in common with Matthew.

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And so let's see, once again,

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he's going to pick someone tonight.

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They're going to go on a date virtually if necessary.

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If it's, you know, not a local situation,

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virtually if necessary,

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they're going to get to know each other better.

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Once again, he'll have access to all three names

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of all three bachelorettes tonight.

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If you know, they end up not clicking for whatever reason,

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want to stay friends,

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don't want to pursue anything else besides that.

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But we're hoping that we introduce Matt

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to his future bride tonight,

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either in the gallery or one of the bachelorettes

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or a friend of yours.

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Maybe you're looking at him, you're like, wow,

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he would be great for my friend, fill in the blank.

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We also want to hear from you because remember

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what we do here is community-based matchmaking.

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You guys, just 30 short years ago,

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almost everyone met their spouses,

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their mates through friends and family and community.

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Okay, now technology has taken over.

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And I realize that we're on technology now.

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So we're using it, it's kind of a love hate relationship.

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We're using it,

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but we're using it to do something more old-fashioned

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and that's community-based matchmaking, right?

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So we're using it for the purpose of doing

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what has fallen by the wayside.

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And that is meeting people through friends

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and through family,

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which is what we've all become to each other.

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And that's what this program is all about,

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healing our hearts and the revival of marriage and family.

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So without further ado, Matt,

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I can feed you questions that you can ask the bachelorettes.

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The way that it's going to work

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is you're going to address them, bachelorette one, two, three,

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whoever you're going to address the question to,

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you can address the same question to all of them,

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or you can say, hey,

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this question is just for bachelorette number one,

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or, you know, however you want to do it.

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And I will also help you

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because we want to move things along, okay?

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I didn't, did you introduce the bachelorettes?

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Because I didn't, I think I, when you were-

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I did not introduce them

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because they cannot introduce themselves

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because you're going to know little to nothing about them.

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Fantastic, all right.

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The only thing that you're going to know about them

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is their names.

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And so they're all going to introduce themselves,

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they're going to introduce themselves as their names

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because I don't want anything influencing you,

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nothing at all.

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Oh, I got it, I got it.

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Except the answers to the questions.

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All right, so bachelorette number one,

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you can unmute yourself.

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Don't un-video yourself, stay off video

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and go ahead and say hi,

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say hi to Matt and tell him what your name is.

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Hi Matt, my name is Darla.

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You want anything else?

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I can't tell you anything.

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No, no, that's it.

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Nothing else, Darla.

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Okay, bachelorette number two,

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why don't you greet Matt and tell him your name?

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Hey Matt, my name's Bethany Joy.

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Bethany Joy, bachelorette number three.

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Hey Matt, I'm Kelly.

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All right, so we have Kelly is bachelorette number three,

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Bethany Joy is number two and number one is Darla.

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All right, so what question would you like to ask

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the bachelorettes right out the gate, Matthew?

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Let's see.

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You put me on the spot here.

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It's a good one.

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And you guys, you can help Matt.

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You can help him too by putting up

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questions you think he should ask in the comments.

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That would be helpful.

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Yes, they will.

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I always think it's great to just start off

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with a general question of, hey, what

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do you love about your life?

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What are you up to?

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What do you love about your life?

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These are all some really good questions already.

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OK, first, like, a Hallmark movie poop

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is Bethany Joy a Hallmark movie star?

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I'll ask this.

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I'll ask this for all of you.

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Do you have kids?

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How many?

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And I mean, do you like kids?

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What do you like about kids in general?

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If you don't have them, that's fine too.

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I'm just curious.

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OK, you want to start out with Bachelorette number one

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and all three answer?

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Yes.

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OK, go ahead, Bachelorette number one.

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Do you have children?

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Do you like children?

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Do you want children?

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I do not have any children, but I do like children.

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I have, I was one of six kids growing up,

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so I had a really large family.

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And I have five, so five siblings,

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and they all have kids.

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And I have a sister who lives really close by.

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She has three kids, and I've just been really

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involved in their life.

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I got to play fun auntie.

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But yeah, I just love kids.

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I think that they're a gift from God,

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and they're just little lovers.

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They're so bright and fun and wonderful.

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Yeah, I love them.

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How are you, I'll follow up with another question.

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How are you with excessive snuggling and touching

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from the kids?

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Because my kids are excessive snugglers,

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and they will just, they'll be all over you.

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It will.

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Oh man, I could honestly use some excessive snuggling.

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I'm a little behind.

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Physical touch department, so I have years to prepare for.

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All three of them, I think, have a love language

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of personal touch.

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They just can't, they just, they want back rubs and hair

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being played with, and arm rubs when they go to sleep.

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So I'm very busy at naptime and nighttime.

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So all right, that's all I can say about that.

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No five point questions, all right?

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Bachelor number two, do you like kids?

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Do you want kids?

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Do you have kids?

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I absolutely love kids.

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I do not have any kids.

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It is a big desire of my heart to have children.

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I'm actually known as Aunt B at church,

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and I am always trusted with all of my friends' kids.

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We often do dates every Christmas.

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We dress up.

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I remember teaching a bunch of them

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how to dance, put on lipstick, take selfies,

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like all the things that little girls love to do.

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And I have always desired to have that.

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I've waited for marriage to be able to have children,

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because I know that that's a promise that the Lord has

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said he would be faithful to me for.

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And I know what an honor and a privilege it is to be a mother.

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I have the best mother in the world.

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My mom passed away a couple of years ago.

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And if I could be half of the woman that she is

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and the mother that she is, it would be such an honor.

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So yeah.

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And Matthew, I didn't do this on purpose,

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but I'm pretty sure that all three bachelorettes have not

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been married before and don't have any children.

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But bachelorette number three, you

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can answer the question as well.

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Hey, Matt.

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I'm Kelly again.

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So that's correct.

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I've never been married.

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And I love children.

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I nannied in college and then in graduate school.

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And God placed in my heart a desire

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to have children as young as a little girl.

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I knew as a child that I wanted to grow up and be a mom.

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I've always had that maternal instinct.

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And I'm extremely passionate about it.

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I don't have any nieces or nephews

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because my sister is younger.

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And she is not married yet either.

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And we both are waiting, of course, until marriage.

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But for me, when people ask me, what is your dream in life?

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For a lot of people, it's to achieve

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this or that or a career.

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But for me, I always say it's to be a wife and a mom.

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Wonderful.

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OK.

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So they all answered that question.

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Since you gave up that information,

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that actually gives me into my second question.

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OK, go ahead.

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This is a big thing for me too is

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because it's a huge responsibility for any person

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to come into a relationship and there

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be established kids already.

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Fortunately, my kids are very, very teachable.

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They've had the fortunate thing of having

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a lot of really good babysitters and stuff.

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They submit to these young ladies

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that they're going to be able to take care of their kids.

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that I've gotten through for friends.

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So coming in you, you know,

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if it goes towards the marriage part,

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you'd be a step-mom.

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How do you feel about that right off the bat?

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About having that level of responsibility

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of having, you know, three of those girls

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that are eight, seven and four years old.

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Okay, he's going to address this question

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to all three of you,

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but I just want to make one little slight change

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in our community.

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There are no steps ever, only bonuses, only blessings.

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Yes.

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Because step-mom kind of has a really evil connotation.

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I get it.

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You know, I meant it in the best way, sorry.

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We know that you did.

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Okay, so bonus mom,

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how do you feel about coming into a relationship

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that is a family set with children included?

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Bachelorette number three,

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we'll start and we'll go backwards.

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Okay, so I love the idea.

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I desire to have a big family

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and growing up I had kind of a small family,

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immediate family, but we were always very close,

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lots of games and spending time together

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and we traveled and did fun things.

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And I remember as a child watching,

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this might age me, but I think that shows step-by-step.

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I think with all the kids,

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I remember thinking, I want a big family.

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I want all of us together and go on road trips.

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And for me, I am open to,

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I want to have a biological child, of course,

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that is my desire and I pray for that.

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But I could never say no to any child,

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whether it's through adoption, through marriage,

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and accepting my husband's children.

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I would love them like they are my own.

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And it really, the way that I am with children,

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I don't know if I can,

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I don't think I can tell you what I do yet for work,

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but what I do for work requires me to be,

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I'm a caregiver, essentially, in a way.

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And so, you know, for me-

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That's right, number three,

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you can say what you do for work.

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Oh, okay.

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So I actually have my doctor of physical therapy degree.

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So I'm a licensed physical therapist.

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Thank God.

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What?

515
00:22:21.660 --> 00:22:22.500
You need one.

516
00:22:22.860 --> 00:22:23.940
I hear that a lot.

517
00:22:23.940 --> 00:22:26.060
I hear that a lot.

518
00:22:26.060 --> 00:22:27.180
I'm not cheap, though.

519
00:22:28.260 --> 00:22:30.220
But no, so I just, you know,

520
00:22:30.220 --> 00:22:32.280
what I do for work is I essentially,

521
00:22:32.280 --> 00:22:33.700
and I work with elderly people

522
00:22:33.700 --> 00:22:35.100
and then I work in pediatrics.

523
00:22:35.100 --> 00:22:38.380
So I work at the two ends of the spectrum.

524
00:22:38.380 --> 00:22:41.960
I don't typically treat a lot of, you know, regular adults.

525
00:22:41.960 --> 00:22:45.340
I tend to work with the kids and the elderly.

526
00:22:45.340 --> 00:22:48.740
And it requires a lot of patience,

527
00:22:48.780 --> 00:22:52.700
but when you spend time and you get to know

528
00:22:52.700 --> 00:22:55.020
and you build a rapport with them,

529
00:22:55.020 --> 00:22:57.700
just the love and the connection that you make

530
00:22:57.700 --> 00:23:01.700
is something that is just very precious to me.

531
00:23:01.700 --> 00:23:02.540
Absolutely.

532
00:23:02.540 --> 00:23:03.360
Well, Matt, you're in luck

533
00:23:03.360 --> 00:23:05.260
because you're not a regular adult.

534
00:23:05.260 --> 00:23:08.020
So I have a feeling that that'll work out.

535
00:23:08.020 --> 00:23:11.020
Bachelorette number two, you're next.

536
00:23:11.020 --> 00:23:11.860
Hey.

537
00:23:11.860 --> 00:23:13.620
Good answer, bachelorette number two.

538
00:23:13.620 --> 00:23:16.220
So I'll start with what I do for work also.

539
00:23:16.220 --> 00:23:18.020
That's a great idea, number three.

540
00:23:18.820 --> 00:23:21.380
I am a professional vocal coach

541
00:23:21.380 --> 00:23:24.520
and I teach internationally around the world

542
00:23:24.520 --> 00:23:26.860
with a lot of people overseas,

543
00:23:26.860 --> 00:23:30.060
as well as all the way down to like four years of age.

544
00:23:30.060 --> 00:23:32.060
And so I have the honor and privilege

545
00:23:32.060 --> 00:23:37.060
of working with a large group age demographic.

546
00:23:37.300 --> 00:23:40.900
And the thing that I feel that I get told the most

547
00:23:40.900 --> 00:23:43.420
with the kids that I work with by their parents

548
00:23:43.420 --> 00:23:45.740
is you're gonna be a great mom

549
00:23:45.740 --> 00:23:46.900
the way that you teach them,

550
00:23:46.900 --> 00:23:48.540
the way that you breathe life into them.

551
00:23:48.540 --> 00:23:51.060
And I think that that's so important

552
00:23:51.060 --> 00:23:54.100
when coming into a family where there is a family established

553
00:23:54.100 --> 00:23:55.900
and there's already kids,

554
00:23:55.900 --> 00:23:58.500
that your goal is really to just encourage

555
00:23:58.500 --> 00:24:01.640
and champion the father and those decisions

556
00:24:01.640 --> 00:24:03.640
and to come into agreement.

557
00:24:03.640 --> 00:24:06.860
I think it's so important to have that peace in the home

558
00:24:06.860 --> 00:24:09.220
and that safe space for the kids.

559
00:24:09.220 --> 00:24:11.740
And that's something that was demonstrated to me

560
00:24:11.740 --> 00:24:14.220
and something that I have always desired

561
00:24:14.220 --> 00:24:17.700
to be able to create that safe space with my husband

562
00:24:18.620 --> 00:24:21.980
for those children, giving them that security.

563
00:24:21.980 --> 00:24:24.540
And so that's something that I was demonstrated.

564
00:24:24.540 --> 00:24:28.460
And then my sister comes from also a blended family

565
00:24:28.460 --> 00:24:31.900
and it has been the most beautiful thing to watch

566
00:24:31.900 --> 00:24:34.620
her mother kids that are not necessarily hers.

567
00:24:34.620 --> 00:24:36.220
And so I really feel like I've had

568
00:24:36.220 --> 00:24:39.420
some beautiful examples of that

569
00:24:39.420 --> 00:24:41.660
and have learned so much

570
00:24:41.660 --> 00:24:43.260
and look forward to the privilege.

571
00:24:43.260 --> 00:24:46.580
And God actually spoke to me back in 2022

572
00:24:46.580 --> 00:24:50.200
that he was preparing my heart for a family

573
00:24:50.200 --> 00:24:51.700
and for somebody that was like

574
00:24:51.700 --> 00:24:54.420
already an established father with children.

575
00:24:54.420 --> 00:24:57.540
And so that has been a part of my prayer time

576
00:24:57.540 --> 00:25:00.140
with the Lord is continuing to reveal to me.

577
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.640
how I can come into that type of a situation

578
00:25:03.640 --> 00:25:06.440
and be the best example that I can be for them,

579
00:25:06.440 --> 00:25:08.560
support them, breathe life into them.

580
00:25:08.560 --> 00:25:13.560
And I think that it's just such a beautiful opportunity

581
00:25:13.640 --> 00:25:15.120
to be able to do that.

582
00:25:15.120 --> 00:25:16.720
And yeah, so.

583
00:25:16.720 --> 00:25:18.640
Yes, amen.

584
00:25:18.640 --> 00:25:19.920
And all of you in the community,

585
00:25:19.920 --> 00:25:23.240
you know that at our ages that we are in this community,

586
00:25:23.240 --> 00:25:25.380
that the chances of you marrying someone

587
00:25:25.380 --> 00:25:28.040
who already has children is pretty high.

588
00:25:28.040 --> 00:25:29.560
And so being open to that

589
00:25:29.560 --> 00:25:32.680
and allowing like bachelorette number two said,

590
00:25:32.680 --> 00:25:37.120
to have your heart prepared in advance is very wise.

591
00:25:37.120 --> 00:25:38.760
And we do a lot of that in this community

592
00:25:38.760 --> 00:25:39.580
and I'm proud of that.

593
00:25:39.580 --> 00:25:41.680
So bachelorette number one, same question.

594
00:25:41.680 --> 00:25:46.100
How do you feel about joining an already established family?

595
00:25:47.240 --> 00:25:49.920
Do you want me to say what I do for work first

596
00:25:49.920 --> 00:25:50.920
since everybody else?

597
00:25:50.920 --> 00:25:52.520
Yeah, you can, you can do whatever you like.

598
00:25:52.520 --> 00:25:53.360
Okay.

599
00:25:53.360 --> 00:25:54.880
Well, I work as a longshoreman,

600
00:25:54.880 --> 00:25:56.800
which has nothing to do with children.

601
00:25:56.800 --> 00:25:57.800
It's in shipping.

602
00:26:00.440 --> 00:26:04.160
But the way that I look at joining

603
00:26:07.320 --> 00:26:10.800
someone who already has children is just having like,

604
00:26:16.240 --> 00:26:19.800
like family is one of the most amazing things,

605
00:26:19.800 --> 00:26:21.480
if not the most amazing thing,

606
00:26:21.480 --> 00:26:24.660
I think to experience in this life.

607
00:26:24.660 --> 00:26:27.080
So it's just a bonus.

608
00:26:27.080 --> 00:26:30.760
It's like being thrown into something wonderful, right?

609
00:26:30.760 --> 00:26:35.760
So yeah, I'm just open and I wanna be in a family.

610
00:26:37.000 --> 00:26:40.640
So, cause that's what I've grown up with.

611
00:26:40.640 --> 00:26:42.760
And I just think when it's done right,

612
00:26:42.760 --> 00:26:44.280
it's the most beautiful thing.

613
00:26:44.280 --> 00:26:47.680
So I also would see it as like an adventure.

614
00:26:47.680 --> 00:26:49.020
Like I love adventure.

615
00:26:49.020 --> 00:26:50.200
I love trying new things.

616
00:26:50.200 --> 00:26:52.060
I'm a fan of change.

617
00:26:53.480 --> 00:26:56.320
And so it just seems like it'd be a fun

618
00:26:56.320 --> 00:26:57.740
and beautiful adventure.

619
00:26:57.740 --> 00:27:00.440
And I know that God would be with me in it

620
00:27:00.440 --> 00:27:02.980
and help me to be a good mom.

621
00:27:04.440 --> 00:27:05.320
I love that.

622
00:27:05.320 --> 00:27:07.680
And as a 17 year blended mom,

623
00:27:07.680 --> 00:27:10.480
I can tell you it is the greatest adventure.

624
00:27:10.480 --> 00:27:12.800
All right, Matthew, what do you got?

625
00:27:12.800 --> 00:27:13.640
Next question.

626
00:27:13.640 --> 00:27:16.880
And you can direct it towards just one person at a time,

627
00:27:16.880 --> 00:27:19.320
or you can give everyone else a different question.

628
00:27:19.320 --> 00:27:21.800
Like not all three of them have to answer every question.

629
00:27:21.800 --> 00:27:24.520
That's, if you wanna change it up.

630
00:27:24.520 --> 00:27:25.600
Cause I see it going this route.

631
00:27:25.920 --> 00:27:29.520
So I just have a curious for bachelorette number three.

632
00:27:29.520 --> 00:27:32.600
Do you, I know you're a physical therapist.

633
00:27:32.600 --> 00:27:37.000
Do you see yourself the desire to be more

634
00:27:37.000 --> 00:27:39.320
of a stay at home mom,

635
00:27:39.320 --> 00:27:42.760
or especially having one of your own?

636
00:27:42.760 --> 00:27:44.760
Or do you see yourself wanting to be able to work

637
00:27:44.760 --> 00:27:47.080
at least part-time or something like that?

638
00:27:47.080 --> 00:27:52.000
Okay, so I love this question.

639
00:27:52.000 --> 00:27:55.360
And I'm gonna be very honest with you.

640
00:27:56.120 --> 00:27:58.800
And even if it's not okay,

641
00:27:58.800 --> 00:28:01.560
I did put a lot of time into my education,

642
00:28:01.560 --> 00:28:06.560
but I would give my job up in a heartbeat.

643
00:28:06.680 --> 00:28:10.240
And it's not because I don't like what I do.

644
00:28:10.240 --> 00:28:15.240
But I, when I say that I feel that I'm not doing

645
00:28:16.980 --> 00:28:18.760
what I'm meant to do on this earth,

646
00:28:18.760 --> 00:28:22.400
it's because my heart wants to be a wife and a mom.

647
00:28:22.760 --> 00:28:25.960
And I 100% want to be a stay at home mom.

648
00:28:25.960 --> 00:28:29.360
I have been told that I'm crazy for thinking that,

649
00:28:29.360 --> 00:28:32.560
but when you've desired that for so long,

650
00:28:32.560 --> 00:28:35.120
and like I said, what I do for work,

651
00:28:35.120 --> 00:28:39.360
it's the transition won't be difficult.

652
00:28:40.480 --> 00:28:44.400
And so, yes, I will be honest.

653
00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:46.480
I do want to stay at home.

654
00:28:46.480 --> 00:28:49.480
I will always keep my license active,

655
00:28:49.480 --> 00:28:54.160
but no, I don't plan to, you know, down the road,

656
00:28:54.160 --> 00:28:56.320
you know, might I do something wellness,

657
00:28:56.320 --> 00:28:58.280
like, you know, kind of on the side.

658
00:28:58.280 --> 00:29:00.320
And I've done wellness stuff at church.

659
00:29:00.320 --> 00:29:03.600
I've taught elderly balance classes at church,

660
00:29:03.600 --> 00:29:07.800
but no, I don't have this desire to be a career woman.

661
00:29:07.800 --> 00:29:11.320
And that's not to put down any woman that does,

662
00:29:11.320 --> 00:29:14.840
but I can tell you as somebody who has been working,

663
00:29:14.840 --> 00:29:17.760
it's not fulfilling.

664
00:29:17.760 --> 00:29:22.760
And I have many, many nights priding myself to sleep,

665
00:29:24.520 --> 00:29:27.640
just hoping that I always joke with my friends.

666
00:29:27.640 --> 00:29:30.520
I say, I wish that there was,

667
00:29:30.520 --> 00:29:33.160
I could go apply to be a stay at home wife.

668
00:29:33.160 --> 00:29:35.680
Like, why doesn't that job exist?

669
00:29:35.680 --> 00:29:40.680
So I'm 100% want to be stay at home because, you know,

670
00:29:42.800 --> 00:29:45.760
whatever society says that is a full-time job

671
00:29:45.760 --> 00:29:47.840
and mamas are the glue.

672
00:29:47.840 --> 00:29:50.320
Mamas hold it all together.

673
00:29:50.320 --> 00:29:55.320
They, I'm the kind of woman that I want to make sure

674
00:29:55.320 --> 00:29:57.440
my husband has his lunch, my kids have his lunch.

675
00:29:57.440 --> 00:29:59.800
You know, I'm running around, like making sure.

676
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.520
you know, the commander of the ship, making sure it's all running smoothly.

677
00:30:04.240 --> 00:30:07.640
Well, Kelly, I'm about to marry you now. Listen. All right.

678
00:30:08.440 --> 00:30:10.760
All of you listen, all you ladies,

679
00:30:10.880 --> 00:30:13.440
you never need to be ashamed that you want,

680
00:30:13.520 --> 00:30:17.000
especially if you've been waiting all your life to, you know, do this.

681
00:30:17.040 --> 00:30:19.440
You don't ever have to be ashamed that you're not going to,

682
00:30:19.800 --> 00:30:21.000
I believe women can have it all,

683
00:30:21.000 --> 00:30:23.840
but we don't necessarily have to have it all at one time. Okay.

684
00:30:24.000 --> 00:30:28.720
We can just focus on things. Um, you know, come compartmentalize those things.

685
00:30:29.000 --> 00:30:31.920
I want bachelorette two and one, both answer that question to you guys.

686
00:30:31.920 --> 00:30:34.320
We don't want to run out of time. You guys are giving beautiful answers,

687
00:30:34.320 --> 00:30:37.760
heartfelt answers. We love it. Let's make them sure that they're, um,

688
00:30:38.200 --> 00:30:41.720
powerful and shorter. So bachelorette number two,

689
00:30:41.760 --> 00:30:43.600
you go next to the bachelorette. Number one,

690
00:30:43.800 --> 00:30:46.000
how do you feel about being a stay at home mom?

691
00:30:48.360 --> 00:30:49.520
Can I say my age?

692
00:30:52.400 --> 00:30:55.240
Well, yeah, sure. Yeah. You can say, yeah, you can say your age.

693
00:30:55.360 --> 00:31:00.360
Okay. I was just going to say I'm 41 and I have waited to be a mom for a very,

694
00:31:00.360 --> 00:31:02.480
very long time. Um,

695
00:31:02.480 --> 00:31:05.920
and so I think it would be an absolute honor and privilege to be able to do

696
00:31:05.920 --> 00:31:09.360
that. I do think it's important as somebody that would be a stay at home mom,

697
00:31:09.360 --> 00:31:13.480
that you still have those passions, um, that you are being, you know,

698
00:31:13.520 --> 00:31:18.440
being fulfilled by like what I do going maybe over a weekend to work with a

699
00:31:18.440 --> 00:31:22.400
worship team. Um, sometimes occasionally every few months, um,

700
00:31:22.400 --> 00:31:26.760
working with worshipers because God told me also that I was to help mother the

701
00:31:26.760 --> 00:31:29.240
sound of worship going around the world.

702
00:31:29.240 --> 00:31:32.680
And I want to be able to continue to do that.

703
00:31:32.880 --> 00:31:37.680
But number one is home. Home is the first ministry always. Um,

704
00:31:37.720 --> 00:31:40.720
and that's the most important thing to me. So yes to that.

705
00:31:40.960 --> 00:31:44.240
And also to the keeping the passions and things like that going.

706
00:31:46.080 --> 00:31:48.960
So good. Okay. Bachelor number one, same question.

707
00:31:49.960 --> 00:31:54.040
Um, yeah, I think I'm open to being a stay at home mom. Um,

708
00:31:54.080 --> 00:31:57.120
with that, with the idea like bachelor number two said,

709
00:31:57.120 --> 00:31:59.880
where I still get to do, I still get to do some things.

710
00:31:59.880 --> 00:32:01.600
I don't need to have a career, but I,

711
00:32:01.640 --> 00:32:06.720
I do have passions and on other things that I, I want to work

712
00:32:06.720 --> 00:32:11.800
towards. Um, I don't like, uh,

713
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:17.560
like teaching or doing different art things. Um,

714
00:32:17.920 --> 00:32:22.680
um, so yeah, I think that there's a way to incorporate like raising kids and

715
00:32:22.680 --> 00:32:26.120
taking care of kids and doing those things at the same time.

716
00:32:27.040 --> 00:32:31.440
Absolutely. I was a stay at home mom as blended mom. And you know,

717
00:32:31.720 --> 00:32:35.440
we need, our kids need to see us being passionate about other things besides

718
00:32:35.440 --> 00:32:36.720
just, you know,

719
00:32:36.760 --> 00:32:40.960
the daily caretaking of them because it helps them to hone and develop their

720
00:32:40.960 --> 00:32:43.440
gifts and talents as well. So good answer.

721
00:32:43.480 --> 00:32:46.760
What's your next question, Matthew, and who do you want to direct it to?

722
00:32:48.040 --> 00:32:49.760
This is a lot of pressure to answer this.

723
00:32:49.760 --> 00:32:52.920
Guys help Matthew out. Come on. Let's you guys are so good on the last one.

724
00:32:52.920 --> 00:32:58.000
You know what? I saw a good one before. I like this too, because I want to ask

725
00:32:58.000 --> 00:33:02.480
this because it's important. Cause I want to, I want,

726
00:33:03.200 --> 00:33:08.080
I want to date my wife. I don't believe in dating beforehand.

727
00:33:09.040 --> 00:33:11.520
I want dating to be a huge priority of the marriage,

728
00:33:12.080 --> 00:33:14.080
making sure that there is a babysitter.

729
00:33:14.080 --> 00:33:16.080
There's a set time of the week where we are.

730
00:33:16.520 --> 00:33:19.320
It is something we know we can look forward to whether or not that's,

731
00:33:19.480 --> 00:33:22.480
I mean, Friday night is perfect. Saturday night's difficult.

732
00:33:22.520 --> 00:33:24.680
You've got church the next day, something like that. But Friday night,

733
00:33:24.680 --> 00:33:26.120
I want it to be a priority. So

734
00:33:28.240 --> 00:33:32.000
I'm directing this to all three of you. What is, I know we're going to say,

735
00:33:32.000 --> 00:33:35.400
Oh, what's your ideal perfect date? What, what would you, if it was your date,

736
00:33:35.720 --> 00:33:39.920
what's some things that you'd like to do? We're not talking like a guest.

737
00:33:39.920 --> 00:33:42.280
If you want to go to a four-star restaurant every once in a while, I get it,

738
00:33:42.280 --> 00:33:45.400
but that's not going to be every single time. Let's be honest. But what's,

739
00:33:45.400 --> 00:33:48.440
what would be an ideal fun date to do, even if it's not extravagant,

740
00:33:48.440 --> 00:33:52.680
but something simple and fun or something very nice. Just give me some,

741
00:33:53.800 --> 00:33:54.800
give me some ideas on that.

742
00:33:55.840 --> 00:33:57.320
All right. Pick one. Where are you going to start?

743
00:33:57.600 --> 00:34:00.440
Let's start with, let's just go one. Let's go, let's go one to one,

744
00:34:00.440 --> 00:34:02.040
two, three and go around the horn. One, two, three.

745
00:34:02.160 --> 00:34:06.280
All right. Darla, what's your ideal date? And don't say April 4th.

746
00:34:06.280 --> 00:34:11.280
Did you guys ever see that movie where she's like in the pageant and they're

747
00:34:14.520 --> 00:34:15.639
like, what's your ideal date?

748
00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:20.320
Just like I think April 20th cause it's not too cold and it's not too hot.

749
00:34:20.840 --> 00:34:23.320
Now what do we got?

750
00:34:24.280 --> 00:34:29.280
I like, I like I do like good food and like a good dinner date,

751
00:34:30.360 --> 00:34:34.000
but I, I, I like variety. So I like being surprised.

752
00:34:34.080 --> 00:34:38.520
I like a good picnic. I like an event in a park.

753
00:34:38.920 --> 00:34:43.440
I don't know. I like paddle boarding. I like, um,

754
00:34:44.080 --> 00:34:47.880
yeah, actually I think maybe the sweetest date is just a good picnic.

755
00:34:47.920 --> 00:34:50.239
If it's planned well, um,

756
00:34:50.760 --> 00:34:55.400
with a blanket on the grass where you can just chat and like sit in the sun and

757
00:34:55.800 --> 00:34:57.760
yeah, pet some dogs. It's great.

758
00:34:59.280 --> 00:34:59.720
Love it.

759
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.920
All right, that's right. Number two. I love hiking. And that is usually one of my favorite

760
00:35:05.920 --> 00:35:11.560
things to do. Just the conversation also getting the workout in, you know, and then when you

761
00:35:11.560 --> 00:35:16.760
get to the top, you know, have your sandwiches in your backpack, and enjoy the view and enjoy

762
00:35:16.760 --> 00:35:22.480
each other. That's I love that. And it's just super simple, super easy, not expensive. And

763
00:35:22.480 --> 00:35:25.320
honestly, just being with my person is what I love. So

764
00:35:25.320 --> 00:35:34.720
great. Bachelor number three, same question. And so I love sports, and I love country music.

765
00:35:34.720 --> 00:35:41.720
So a country music concert. And the last one I saw was George Strait. It was so much fun.

766
00:35:41.720 --> 00:35:48.480
Or like a football game, something like that, where I love those moments, because you're

767
00:35:48.480 --> 00:35:55.440
not necessarily in this super romantic setting, but you're like, it's it's sweet. It's like

768
00:35:55.440 --> 00:36:03.560
friendship. And, you know, but you love each other. And you get to see how each other act

769
00:36:03.560 --> 00:36:10.400
in kind of an exciting environment. I love football games. I love concerts.

770
00:36:10.400 --> 00:36:15.760
All right, that's so good. I'm gonna ask a couple questions for you, Matthew, because

771
00:36:15.760 --> 00:36:21.160
I think it's important, because we're seeing such different personalities here. All three

772
00:36:21.160 --> 00:36:27.280
of you starting with Bachelorette number one, what is your love language?

773
00:36:27.280 --> 00:36:37.880
Ooh, I think I'm a quality time number one. And then okay. What is it? Words? Words of

774
00:36:37.880 --> 00:36:44.920
affirmation? Yep. Yeah. All right. That's great. Number two, Bachelorette two.

775
00:36:44.920 --> 00:36:53.840
All of them. But probably the most important are going to be words of affirmation and gifts actually.

776
00:36:53.840 --> 00:36:57.960
And that's not even like, it's an expensive thing. That's like, I cried and you bought

777
00:36:57.960 --> 00:37:04.400
me tissues kind of thing. You just like thought of me. So those are my those are my top two.

778
00:37:04.400 --> 00:37:06.880
That's good. Bachelorette number three.

779
00:37:06.880 --> 00:37:09.800
Words of affirmation and touch.

780
00:37:10.360 --> 00:37:15.920
Okay, so we have three with words of affirmation in there. And then we have quality time, gifts

781
00:37:15.920 --> 00:37:22.720
and touch as the as the differentiators. All right. Okay, let's come up with another question

782
00:37:22.720 --> 00:37:29.400
here. Do you guys know Bachelorette one, two and three extrovert, introvert, ambivert?

783
00:37:29.400 --> 00:37:33.760
What would you describe? What would your friends describe you as not yourself? Bachelorette

784
00:37:33.760 --> 00:37:39.080
number three, would your friends describe you as an introvert or an extrovert?

785
00:37:39.200 --> 00:37:45.320
Oh, to be very honest, they probably describe me as a little bit of both. In college, I

786
00:37:45.320 --> 00:37:53.920
was very extroverted in a sorority, very social, had lots of friends. And as I've gotten older,

787
00:37:53.920 --> 00:38:01.680
my personality's changed. And I like quiet time and I love to read. And so I honestly

788
00:38:01.680 --> 00:38:04.520
would say a mix of both. To be fair,

789
00:38:04.520 --> 00:38:09.920
Ambivert is what we kind of call that. Oh, okay. Yeah. Yep. That's good. Bachelorette

790
00:38:09.920 --> 00:38:14.600
number two. What about you? Definitely used to be more extrovert. My friends would say

791
00:38:14.600 --> 00:38:18.040
I was the life of the party because I love to have everybody included. So I'm always

792
00:38:18.040 --> 00:38:24.160
gathering everybody. I lean more towards that. But definitely, like she also said, like I've

793
00:38:24.160 --> 00:38:30.400
started to become more of an ambivert as well. Quiet time, not being with friends and different

794
00:38:30.400 --> 00:38:34.240
things like that has become very important. Just being able to, you know, wind down, watch

795
00:38:34.240 --> 00:38:40.760
a show or read the word or do worship without anybody there. Yeah. Good. That's great. Bachelorette

796
00:38:40.760 --> 00:38:47.960
number one. On all the tests I've taken, it puts me kind of in the middle towards but

797
00:38:47.960 --> 00:38:53.000
towards introvert. I think my friends would consider me an extrovert. People at work would

798
00:38:53.000 --> 00:39:00.960
call me an introvert. And I think I that would be an ambivert. But I think that I'm recharged

799
00:39:01.000 --> 00:39:10.160
by spending time alone. So that would be introvert. Matthew, what what what what would you say

800
00:39:10.160 --> 00:39:15.120
you are? I'm definitely an ambivert. Everybody thinks of me like when they meet me. They're

801
00:39:15.120 --> 00:39:23.120
like, oh, you're an extrovert. The reason I say that is because, yes, I do like I do

802
00:39:23.120 --> 00:39:29.760
like to go out and do stuff. But man, I've when I've had a rough week or something like

803
00:39:29.800 --> 00:39:33.440
that. And when I don't have the girls, I could sit at home for 48 hours and do absolutely

804
00:39:33.440 --> 00:39:40.480
nothing. Just do laundry, play some guitar, write a new song. Go on a walk myself, just

805
00:39:40.480 --> 00:39:45.440
drive in the middle of nowhere with my truck or go eat, get to go, bring it back, watch

806
00:39:45.440 --> 00:39:51.120
a show like sometimes being alone for me is fun. I mean, I like going out with other people,

807
00:39:51.120 --> 00:39:56.960
but sometimes people can be exhausting. So and sometimes you need a break. So it's like

808
00:39:56.960 --> 00:40:00.480
I kind of travel between the both. And I think it also depends.

809
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.880
on the person that I'm with too.

810
00:40:02.880 --> 00:40:05.560
If it's an ambivert, it's going to be very easy to say,

811
00:40:05.560 --> 00:40:06.760
hey, do you feel like staying in?

812
00:40:06.760 --> 00:40:07.680
Oh my God, thank God.

813
00:40:07.680 --> 00:40:08.840
I'm glad you want to stay in tonight

814
00:40:08.840 --> 00:40:09.920
because I really don't feel like going out.

815
00:40:09.920 --> 00:40:11.160
Or like, hey, I really want to go out.

816
00:40:11.160 --> 00:40:12.580
Okay, let's do it.

817
00:40:12.580 --> 00:40:16.200
So I can find that fifth gear to be able to go out

818
00:40:16.200 --> 00:40:20.840
if I have to, if it's something for my mate,

819
00:40:20.840 --> 00:40:22.520
I want them to be happy.

820
00:40:22.520 --> 00:40:25.900
And I'm, you know, I want to go out and do that fun stuff.

821
00:40:25.900 --> 00:40:27.840
But sometimes, hey, if I want to stay in,

822
00:40:27.840 --> 00:40:30.460
I'm hoping that reciprocation will be there as well too.

823
00:40:30.460 --> 00:40:32.440
Because sometimes it's just kind of nice,

824
00:40:32.440 --> 00:40:33.280
just the two of you,

825
00:40:33.280 --> 00:40:35.620
or just if it's just the kids and the kids go down,

826
00:40:35.620 --> 00:40:38.240
even a stay date inside the house,

827
00:40:38.240 --> 00:40:41.240
like make something and have a glass of wine

828
00:40:41.240 --> 00:40:42.720
and watch a show and just relax on the couch

829
00:40:42.720 --> 00:40:45.540
and not do anything is nice for me as well too.

830
00:40:46.680 --> 00:40:47.660
That's good.

831
00:40:47.660 --> 00:40:49.240
Because we're at the holidays right now,

832
00:40:49.240 --> 00:40:52.280
I think it'd be fun for you to ask a question about,

833
00:40:52.280 --> 00:40:55.240
you know, you have traditions with the girls.

834
00:40:55.240 --> 00:40:58.400
Tell a little bit about what your family holiday tradition

835
00:40:58.400 --> 00:40:59.680
is, Thanksgiving or Christmas.

836
00:40:59.680 --> 00:41:01.080
And then briefly, ladies,

837
00:41:01.080 --> 00:41:02.600
if you would just kind of tell us

838
00:41:02.600 --> 00:41:05.200
what your holiday tradition with your family is,

839
00:41:05.200 --> 00:41:07.080
because you guys, you're not just, you don't,

840
00:41:07.080 --> 00:41:08.900
if we made a love connection,

841
00:41:08.900 --> 00:41:10.240
we're not just marrying a person,

842
00:41:10.240 --> 00:41:13.480
we're marrying a whole ecosystem of family and traditions

843
00:41:13.480 --> 00:41:14.320
and different things.

844
00:41:14.320 --> 00:41:17.200
And it's fun to see what people have grown up with

845
00:41:17.200 --> 00:41:18.540
and whether that's a match.

846
00:41:18.540 --> 00:41:20.420
Okay, so why don't we start with you, Matthew,

847
00:41:20.420 --> 00:41:21.320
and then you can ask the ladies.

848
00:41:21.320 --> 00:41:22.800
Because this involves family,

849
00:41:22.800 --> 00:41:26.520
I need to ask a very key question before we go into this.

850
00:41:26.520 --> 00:41:30.240
Do any of you like board and card games?

851
00:41:30.240 --> 00:41:32.560
Because that's a huge part of the holidays for my family.

852
00:41:32.560 --> 00:41:35.820
I need to know, do you like boards and card games?

853
00:41:35.820 --> 00:41:37.920
Can you deal with a little bit of competitiveness

854
00:41:37.920 --> 00:41:38.760
from my siblings?

855
00:41:38.760 --> 00:41:40.480
Are you talking like hand and foot?

856
00:41:40.480 --> 00:41:42.640
What are you talking like card games?

857
00:41:42.640 --> 00:41:43.480
Oh, my in-law.

858
00:41:43.480 --> 00:41:46.600
No, no, I'm talking like things like Settlers of Catan

859
00:41:46.600 --> 00:41:51.000
or things like different card games or like stuff like that.

860
00:41:51.000 --> 00:41:51.840
Board games.

861
00:41:51.840 --> 00:41:53.600
Go ahead, Bachelorette, one, two, and three.

862
00:41:53.600 --> 00:41:54.600
One, go first.

863
00:41:54.600 --> 00:41:56.640
Cards, board games, can you do it?

864
00:41:56.640 --> 00:41:57.480
I do.

865
00:41:57.480 --> 00:41:59.760
I consider myself a gamer, yes.

866
00:41:59.760 --> 00:42:00.600
I like them all.

867
00:42:00.600 --> 00:42:02.360
Okay, Bachelorette, two.

868
00:42:02.360 --> 00:42:04.400
Absolutely, Catan is king.

869
00:42:05.520 --> 00:42:07.400
Somebody said Catan, somebody like.

870
00:42:07.400 --> 00:42:10.160
That game lasts for like 800 years.

871
00:42:10.160 --> 00:42:11.000
What about Bachelorette number three?

872
00:42:11.000 --> 00:42:13.800
It can go anywhere from 30 minutes to four hours, so.

873
00:42:15.200 --> 00:42:17.760
Wait to 40 hours, go ahead, Bachelorette.

874
00:42:17.760 --> 00:42:20.240
We are huge game players.

875
00:42:20.240 --> 00:42:23.920
Every holiday, we play Pictionary, we play Uno,

876
00:42:23.920 --> 00:42:26.440
we play Spoons, I mean, hardcore.

877
00:42:26.440 --> 00:42:31.440
In fact, my second cousins are coming on Thanksgiving

878
00:42:32.200 --> 00:42:34.480
and they literally texted me and said,

879
00:42:34.480 --> 00:42:36.880
we cannot wait to beat you in Spoons.

880
00:42:36.880 --> 00:42:39.760
So huge game players over here.

881
00:42:39.760 --> 00:42:41.120
Spoons can become violent.

882
00:42:41.120 --> 00:42:43.080
That's gonna be a violent game.

883
00:42:43.080 --> 00:42:44.480
Quick follow-up question.

884
00:42:45.520 --> 00:42:48.320
My family is very, extremely competitive,

885
00:42:48.320 --> 00:42:49.720
especially my middle brother.

886
00:42:50.200 --> 00:42:52.760
Are you willing to talk trash to them

887
00:42:52.760 --> 00:42:55.520
if you are in the lead, just to rub it in a little bit?

888
00:42:56.400 --> 00:42:57.480
For me?

889
00:42:57.480 --> 00:42:59.800
Number one, number three, let's go number three.

890
00:42:59.800 --> 00:43:01.360
Are you willing to talk trash?

891
00:43:01.360 --> 00:43:02.880
Oh, yeah.

892
00:43:02.880 --> 00:43:03.720
Trash talk, good.

893
00:43:03.720 --> 00:43:05.960
Oh, I love, I'm competitive.

894
00:43:05.960 --> 00:43:07.200
Okay, number two?

895
00:43:07.200 --> 00:43:09.600
Absolutely, I'm Cajun and from Houston, Texas,

896
00:43:09.600 --> 00:43:11.160
so I will talk all the trash.

897
00:43:12.160 --> 00:43:14.400
And number one, Longshoreman, I.

898
00:43:14.400 --> 00:43:16.920
I might disappoint you in the trash talk department.

899
00:43:16.920 --> 00:43:19.680
No, Longshoreman, I didn't put that past you.

900
00:43:20.680 --> 00:43:22.120
I mean, maybe, I don't know.

901
00:43:23.000 --> 00:43:24.560
Do they have that on Duolingo?

902
00:43:24.560 --> 00:43:25.480
I could learn.

903
00:43:27.520 --> 00:43:30.400
Listen, Matt, I'm not gonna give you any hints,

904
00:43:30.400 --> 00:43:33.720
but my team, we put together these bachelorettes for you.

905
00:43:33.720 --> 00:43:36.480
I did see a picture of all of them,

906
00:43:36.480 --> 00:43:41.000
and I don't want you to think about how feminine

907
00:43:41.000 --> 00:43:43.920
or not feminine, in fact, I want you to ask that question,

908
00:43:43.920 --> 00:43:46.000
because I know you're a man, a masculine man,

909
00:43:46.000 --> 00:43:47.960
who's looking for a feminine wife,

910
00:43:47.960 --> 00:43:52.800
and not like ladies, when you think feminine,

911
00:43:52.800 --> 00:43:54.320
you can think a whole lot of different things,

912
00:43:54.320 --> 00:43:56.760
but soft and gentle and kind,

913
00:43:56.760 --> 00:43:58.720
but also a little feisty, a little trash talking,

914
00:43:58.720 --> 00:44:00.880
sounds like, but just because people

915
00:44:00.880 --> 00:44:02.440
have different professions,

916
00:44:02.440 --> 00:44:04.280
I don't want you to get a picture in your head

917
00:44:04.280 --> 00:44:06.320
of what you think they look like,

918
00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:08.960
because you're gonna be wrong if you do that.

919
00:44:08.960 --> 00:44:13.680
Okay, so ladies, would you describe yourself as feminine?

920
00:44:13.680 --> 00:44:15.320
Would other people describe you as feminine?

921
00:44:15.360 --> 00:44:19.440
What do you think is the most feminine thing about you?

922
00:44:19.440 --> 00:44:22.160
Bachelorette one, two, and three, starting with one.

923
00:44:23.600 --> 00:44:25.720
Yeah, I think I'm feminine.

924
00:44:28.840 --> 00:44:31.320
My sister says I have dainty wrists.

925
00:44:31.320 --> 00:44:34.800
That's the most feminine thing about me.

926
00:44:36.720 --> 00:44:41.720
Yeah, I like flowers and hugs and all the pretty things.

927
00:44:42.720 --> 00:44:46.000
I like things that smell good.

928
00:44:46.000 --> 00:44:47.840
What else makes you feminine?

929
00:44:47.840 --> 00:44:48.960
I think I am soft.

930
00:44:48.960 --> 00:44:52.760
I think I am feisty though, as well.

931
00:44:52.760 --> 00:44:54.360
A little bit of both.

932
00:44:54.360 --> 00:44:55.200
I agree.

933
00:44:55.200 --> 00:44:56.800
I know that, Bachelorette, and I agree with her.

934
00:44:56.800 --> 00:45:00.200
Bachelorette number two, same question.

935
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:08.640
Definitely soft, definitely known for being just the lover of all things girly.

936
00:45:08.640 --> 00:45:10.320
But I'm also a black belt in karate.

937
00:45:10.320 --> 00:45:15.820
So it depends what what side you know, if I see somebody acting crazy, I might have

938
00:45:15.820 --> 00:45:17.320
to go that direction.

939
00:45:17.320 --> 00:45:21.560
But yes, very, very girly, very feminine.

940
00:45:21.560 --> 00:45:22.760
I love to get dressed up.

941
00:45:22.760 --> 00:45:25.280
But I also love sweats and leggings just the same.

942
00:45:25.280 --> 00:45:29.880
So all right, that's what three same question.

943
00:45:29.880 --> 00:45:39.040
Um, so I'm, I'm very feminine, and we will sassy, but I definitely trend toward feminine.

944
00:45:39.040 --> 00:45:42.000
I was a ballet dancer in college.

945
00:45:42.000 --> 00:45:47.400
And then a couple years after college, I actually started doing CrossFit.

946
00:45:47.400 --> 00:45:52.440
And for probably a year, everyone in my gym made fun of me.

947
00:45:52.440 --> 00:45:57.360
Because when I would drop weights, I would like point my toes and stretch my arms out

948
00:45:57.360 --> 00:45:59.520
like a ballet dancer.

949
00:45:59.520 --> 00:46:06.720
And so I just think that, you know, um, yeah, I'm probably pretty I'm a southern girl.

950
00:46:06.720 --> 00:46:09.480
I'm very feminine.

951
00:46:09.480 --> 00:46:11.200
Bless your heart.

952
00:46:11.200 --> 00:46:12.200
I think so.

953
00:46:12.200 --> 00:46:13.200
All right.

954
00:46:13.200 --> 00:46:14.200
What do we got?

955
00:46:14.200 --> 00:46:15.200
Now?

956
00:46:15.200 --> 00:46:18.240
Now we're talking about the holidays.

957
00:46:18.240 --> 00:46:24.160
So for ask something very specific, you asked about games, like ask favorite holiday movie

958
00:46:24.160 --> 00:46:27.560
they're like, like, what's the favorite tradition of their family?

959
00:46:27.560 --> 00:46:28.560
A tradition?

960
00:46:28.600 --> 00:46:29.600
Yeah.

961
00:46:29.600 --> 00:46:31.360
So you want me to tell mine first?

962
00:46:31.360 --> 00:46:32.360
Yes.

963
00:46:32.360 --> 00:46:38.440
So the girls always like when on Thanksgiving, we always start watching our first Christmas

964
00:46:38.440 --> 00:46:39.440
movie.

965
00:46:39.440 --> 00:46:42.000
Usually they like to watch the Grinch.

966
00:46:42.000 --> 00:46:46.280
I like to watch Christmas Vacation, but they can't watch that.

967
00:46:46.280 --> 00:46:51.440
Um, I've been watching that every Thanksgiving, probably for the past 25 years.

968
00:46:51.440 --> 00:46:56.160
So um, but we love watching Christmas movies.

969
00:46:56.160 --> 00:47:00.160
So one thing we like to do that we fell out of the habit of doing a recently, we try to

970
00:47:00.160 --> 00:47:01.160
make cookies.

971
00:47:01.160 --> 00:47:05.760
Um, we like doing cookies and then on Christmas Eve, they always like to open up one present

972
00:47:05.760 --> 00:47:09.000
on Christmas Eve and then the rest of them are for the Christmas morning.

973
00:47:09.000 --> 00:47:12.320
So I love those traditions.

974
00:47:12.320 --> 00:47:13.840
Some of those are the similar to my family.

975
00:47:13.840 --> 00:47:14.840
I love that.

976
00:47:14.840 --> 00:47:15.840
Okay.

977
00:47:15.840 --> 00:47:16.840
Bachelorette three.

978
00:47:16.840 --> 00:47:17.840
We'll start backwards.

979
00:47:17.840 --> 00:47:18.840
What are what just one?

980
00:47:18.840 --> 00:47:19.840
Cause we were running out of time.

981
00:47:19.840 --> 00:47:22.000
Y'all we have 10 more minutes.

982
00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:23.000
Bachelorette number three.

983
00:47:23.000 --> 00:47:24.000
What you got?

984
00:47:24.000 --> 00:47:25.000
Okay.

985
00:47:25.080 --> 00:47:27.080
So we have a Christmas movie, White Christmas.

986
00:47:27.080 --> 00:47:28.080
Watch it every year.

987
00:47:28.080 --> 00:47:33.400
We watch it in this old, like 1900 theater in downtown Birmingham, Alabama.

988
00:47:33.400 --> 00:47:38.440
And then, um, we open a gift on Christmas Eve too, and it's all of our family.

989
00:47:38.440 --> 00:47:41.360
We do matching Christmas pajamas.

990
00:47:41.360 --> 00:47:42.560
Love it.

991
00:47:42.560 --> 00:47:43.560
I love it.

992
00:47:43.560 --> 00:47:44.560
Bachelorette number two.

993
00:47:44.560 --> 00:47:47.400
Actually, White Christmas as well.

994
00:47:47.400 --> 00:47:48.400
That's actually a tradition.

995
00:47:48.400 --> 00:47:54.080
We always watch it on Christmas Eve and we always make, um, peppermint bark.

996
00:47:54.160 --> 00:47:58.840
So while we're watching it, we make peppermint bark together and, um, we always, uh, make

997
00:47:58.840 --> 00:48:00.960
sure that we actually go look at all of the lights.

998
00:48:00.960 --> 00:48:02.360
We get hot chocolate.

999
00:48:02.360 --> 00:48:06.240
We find all the hot light spots, uh, cause I live in Texas.

1000
00:48:06.240 --> 00:48:08.160
There's, it's always very hot.

1001
00:48:08.160 --> 00:48:09.320
So we act like it's cold.

1002
00:48:09.320 --> 00:48:14.000
We blast the AC and we go look at all the Christmas lights around town.

1003
00:48:14.000 --> 00:48:15.000
Earl peppermint bark.

1004
00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:17.880
You had me at peppermint.

1005
00:48:17.880 --> 00:48:20.040
Bachelorette number one.

1006
00:48:20.040 --> 00:48:23.980
When my family gets together for Christmas, it's probably about 30 of us.

1007
00:48:24.880 --> 00:48:26.460
So we do it every other year.

1008
00:48:26.460 --> 00:48:32.300
And then in the off year we have Christmas in February at a random, we just pick a spot

1009
00:48:32.300 --> 00:48:36.340
like a cabin and we get together, which February always ends up being everybody's favorite

1010
00:48:36.340 --> 00:48:39.260
cause it doesn't have the pressure of the holidays.

1011
00:48:39.260 --> 00:48:42.060
And we stay there for probably like three days.

1012
00:48:42.060 --> 00:48:47.260
Um, and we always still do Christmas though with matching jammies and the gift exchange

1013
00:48:47.260 --> 00:48:49.580
where everybody gets one.

1014
00:48:49.580 --> 00:48:52.860
We draw names and so you buy one gift.

1015
00:48:52.860 --> 00:48:53.860
White elephant.

1016
00:48:53.860 --> 00:48:54.860
Yes.

1017
00:48:54.860 --> 00:48:55.860
And not, not white elephant.

1018
00:48:55.860 --> 00:48:58.620
It actually like a nice gift for the person you draw names.

1019
00:48:58.620 --> 00:48:59.620
Okay, cool.

1020
00:48:59.620 --> 00:49:00.620
Yeah.

1021
00:49:00.620 --> 00:49:01.620
We draw names.

1022
00:49:01.620 --> 00:49:02.620
So you give one gift.

1023
00:49:02.620 --> 00:49:05.380
Um, and then also we have a prompt.

1024
00:49:05.380 --> 00:49:11.220
So it will be like, if my person was a color, they would be this color and this is why.

1025
00:49:11.220 --> 00:49:14.220
So then you get to stand up and like say something cute about them.

1026
00:49:14.220 --> 00:49:17.180
I think last Christmas we did a song.

1027
00:49:17.180 --> 00:49:21.700
So it was like, if my, I think say I had my dad, I'd be like, if my dad was a song, it

1028
00:49:21.700 --> 00:49:22.700
would be this.

1029
00:49:22.700 --> 00:49:24.100
And we play the song and then we tell why.

1030
00:49:24.100 --> 00:49:27.140
And then, then you give them the gift and it's always, Oh, that's so cute.

1031
00:49:27.140 --> 00:49:28.140
So it's a secret.

1032
00:49:28.140 --> 00:49:29.140
It's like secret Santa.

1033
00:49:29.140 --> 00:49:30.140
Yes.

1034
00:49:30.140 --> 00:49:31.140
Yes.

1035
00:49:31.140 --> 00:49:32.140
Yes.

1036
00:49:32.140 --> 00:49:35.140
So they, you, you don't, you reveal when you do the gift exchange who you, who you picked.

1037
00:49:35.140 --> 00:49:36.900
Oh, I love that.

1038
00:49:36.900 --> 00:49:40.660
We also in our family, we do, there's too many of us to buy a present for everybody.

1039
00:49:40.660 --> 00:49:43.300
So we pick names as well, but we don't do that.

1040
00:49:43.300 --> 00:49:45.100
And that sounds super fun.

1041
00:49:45.100 --> 00:49:47.020
So I may have to steal that.

1042
00:49:47.020 --> 00:49:48.020
Okay.

1043
00:49:48.020 --> 00:49:50.580
Um, we have time for one last question and then you're going to have to pick, I know

1044
00:49:50.580 --> 00:49:54.340
it's hard to pick, but remember you're going to get the contact information for all three

1045
00:49:54.340 --> 00:49:55.340
of them.

1046
00:49:55.340 --> 00:49:58.820
Um, so no harm, no foul.

1047
00:49:58.820 --> 00:49:59.820
Okay.

1048
00:49:59.820 --> 00:49:59.820


1049
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.080
In this community, it's about meeting people.

1050
00:50:04.080 --> 00:50:07.040
It's about creating connection with people.

1051
00:50:07.040 --> 00:50:11.200
It's not just about trying to, you know, lock down the first person you meet.

1052
00:50:11.200 --> 00:50:13.680
So all three of these ladies are very compatible to you,

1053
00:50:13.680 --> 00:50:15.680
but it's fun to see the chemistry of this game.

1054
00:50:16.320 --> 00:50:18.960
And that will be the lady that you get to talk to first.

1055
00:50:18.960 --> 00:50:20.880
And maybe that will be the only one you talk to.

1056
00:50:21.840 --> 00:50:24.240
And so we're going to decide that here in just one second.

1057
00:50:24.240 --> 00:50:25.920
Final question.

1058
00:50:27.680 --> 00:50:28.240
Make it good.

1059
00:50:28.960 --> 00:50:30.160
Make it important.

1060
00:50:30.160 --> 00:50:31.600
Ladies, let's get an important one.

1061
00:50:31.600 --> 00:50:34.560
If I can get one that's super, super important here.

1062
00:50:36.560 --> 00:50:38.240
Oh, this has got to be a good one.

1063
00:50:38.960 --> 00:50:40.000
A lot of pressure, ladies.

1064
00:50:43.120 --> 00:50:44.880
I'm looking through because people have...

1065
00:50:44.880 --> 00:50:46.560
Somebody said your favorite cheese.

1066
00:50:50.480 --> 00:50:51.760
I think that's super important.

1067
00:50:53.200 --> 00:50:55.600
You know what's even more important is if they don't like cheese.

1068
00:50:55.600 --> 00:50:57.280
That's an absolute deal breaker.

1069
00:50:58.240 --> 00:51:00.960
Somebody says, what is your cowboy hat size?

1070
00:51:00.960 --> 00:51:01.840
Wow. Nice.

1071
00:51:03.600 --> 00:51:05.360
Oh, that is a good one.

1072
00:51:05.360 --> 00:51:06.400
That is such a good one.

1073
00:51:07.120 --> 00:51:07.760
Okay.

1074
00:51:07.760 --> 00:51:08.720
Can I have two?

1075
00:51:08.720 --> 00:51:09.600
Just two.

1076
00:51:09.600 --> 00:51:10.960
These are both going to be quick answers.

1077
00:51:10.960 --> 00:51:15.440
You can only have two if the Bachelorettes promise to answer within 20 seconds.

1078
00:51:15.440 --> 00:51:18.320
One is going to be one is very favorite worship song.

1079
00:51:19.040 --> 00:51:20.160
Oh, okay.

1080
00:51:20.160 --> 00:51:21.040
I like that question.

1081
00:51:21.040 --> 00:51:22.000
Whoever put that up there.

1082
00:51:22.000 --> 00:51:23.120
That's perfect.

1083
00:51:23.120 --> 00:51:24.560
All right. Let's do that real quick.

1084
00:51:24.560 --> 00:51:25.680
Bachelorette one, two, and three.

1085
00:51:25.680 --> 00:51:26.800
Starting with one favorite.

1086
00:51:27.440 --> 00:51:28.480
So hard to pick though.

1087
00:51:28.480 --> 00:51:30.320
Favorite worship song right now.

1088
00:51:30.320 --> 00:51:31.680
Currently, not all time.

1089
00:51:32.400 --> 00:51:36.720
This is kind of old, but I like how he loves us by John Mark McMillan.

1090
00:51:37.280 --> 00:51:38.080
Totally.

1091
00:51:38.080 --> 00:51:40.160
Oh, that is a very good one.

1092
00:51:40.160 --> 00:51:44.800
Do you guys know that that song really set modern worship?

1093
00:51:44.800 --> 00:51:47.520
You know, not being sung by him, but being sung by Kim Walker.

1094
00:51:47.520 --> 00:51:49.200
I mean, that changed everything.

1095
00:51:49.200 --> 00:51:50.240
You know that, right?

1096
00:51:50.240 --> 00:51:50.480
Okay.

1097
00:51:50.480 --> 00:51:51.520
Bachelorette number two.

1098
00:51:51.520 --> 00:51:51.920
You're up.

1099
00:51:52.800 --> 00:51:55.440
Um, definitely show me your face.

1100
00:51:56.720 --> 00:51:57.680
Oh, love that one.

1101
00:51:57.680 --> 00:51:57.920
Yeah.

1102
00:51:59.200 --> 00:51:59.440
Okay.

1103
00:52:00.160 --> 00:52:00.880
That's a good one.

1104
00:52:00.880 --> 00:52:01.600
Bachelorette three.

1105
00:52:02.320 --> 00:52:07.040
This is just on my mind because a friend of mine just sang this on The Voice,

1106
00:52:07.040 --> 00:52:09.440
but Oceans by Hillsong.

1107
00:52:10.320 --> 00:52:13.600
It's, I'm like, it's not, it may not be my all time favorite,

1108
00:52:13.600 --> 00:52:17.040
but it's one that I, I play on repeat often.

1109
00:52:17.600 --> 00:52:17.760
Yeah.

1110
00:52:18.800 --> 00:52:19.760
Oldie, but goodie.

1111
00:52:19.760 --> 00:52:20.560
Love it.

1112
00:52:20.560 --> 00:52:20.960
Okay.

1113
00:52:20.960 --> 00:52:21.760
Second question.

1114
00:52:23.200 --> 00:52:24.000
Okay.

1115
00:52:24.000 --> 00:52:24.480
Let's see.

1116
00:52:25.840 --> 00:52:26.880
Oh, you don't have it yet.

1117
00:52:27.440 --> 00:52:30.720
No, I'm, I'm just, this one's this, I want this one to be really good.

1118
00:52:30.720 --> 00:52:33.920
Look, look, listen, listen, listen, forget what they're putting in the chat.

1119
00:52:33.920 --> 00:52:35.520
Let me talk to you for a second.

1120
00:52:35.520 --> 00:52:39.120
I know that you probably, cause we all feel, you know,

1121
00:52:39.120 --> 00:52:42.400
drawn towards chemistry or voices or different things.

1122
00:52:42.400 --> 00:52:46.640
Ask something that is going to, you know, really bring it home for you.

1123
00:52:48.240 --> 00:52:48.480
Okay.

1124
00:52:49.040 --> 00:52:49.360
Got it.

1125
00:52:49.360 --> 00:52:50.400
Cause I was thinking this already.

1126
00:52:50.400 --> 00:52:51.440
So that actually helps me.

1127
00:52:51.440 --> 00:52:51.600
So.

1128
00:52:52.400 --> 00:52:52.640
Okay.

1129
00:52:53.760 --> 00:53:02.880
Um, gosh, it might be about being, being in the word, reading the Bible and prayer.

1130
00:53:03.680 --> 00:53:07.120
Um, please be honest.

1131
00:53:07.120 --> 00:53:09.600
How, how consistent are you in it?

1132
00:53:09.600 --> 00:53:10.480
How much do you do it?

1133
00:53:10.480 --> 00:53:15.040
And like, you know, and, and yeah, pretty much that.

1134
00:53:15.040 --> 00:53:17.440
Like what, what is, what is your prayer life like?

1135
00:53:17.520 --> 00:53:21.200
And what is a, like the time that you spend in the word daily or weekly?

1136
00:53:22.320 --> 00:53:27.440
Asking about your consecration practices daily kind of lifestyle, Christianity,

1137
00:53:27.440 --> 00:53:28.000
bachelorette.

1138
00:53:28.000 --> 00:53:30.160
We'll start with three and go back ladies.

1139
00:53:30.160 --> 00:53:32.400
We have five more minutes and he's got to pick someone.

1140
00:53:32.400 --> 00:53:33.360
So you gotta be quick with this.

1141
00:53:33.360 --> 00:53:34.400
Bachelorette three.

1142
00:53:34.400 --> 00:53:34.720
Okay.

1143
00:53:34.720 --> 00:53:35.280
I'll be quick.

1144
00:53:35.920 --> 00:53:38.480
So I do a devotional every day.

1145
00:53:38.480 --> 00:53:40.800
I do a clear charity devotional.

1146
00:53:40.800 --> 00:53:41.680
Love it.

1147
00:53:41.680 --> 00:53:45.360
Also do, um, prayer kind of separate.

1148
00:53:45.840 --> 00:53:49.520
Um, and then I of course go to church.

1149
00:53:49.520 --> 00:53:52.240
Um, and I actually go to church with my family still.

1150
00:53:52.720 --> 00:53:54.160
Um, and so, yeah.

1151
00:53:56.080 --> 00:53:56.320
Okay.

1152
00:53:56.320 --> 00:53:57.200
Bachelorette number two.

1153
00:53:58.240 --> 00:54:00.960
Um, for me, Jesus is everything.

1154
00:54:00.960 --> 00:54:02.640
He's always been everything to me.

1155
00:54:02.640 --> 00:54:05.120
And at 11, I prayed a strange prayer.

1156
00:54:05.120 --> 00:54:08.240
God, I don't want to know you because this is who my parents say you are.

1157
00:54:08.240 --> 00:54:09.760
I want to know you for myself.

1158
00:54:09.760 --> 00:54:12.720
And I've had a beautiful journey with the Lord my whole life.

1159
00:54:12.720 --> 00:54:14.240
Um, I love the word.

1160
00:54:14.240 --> 00:54:15.600
I love his presence.

1161
00:54:15.600 --> 00:54:19.360
I never want to know what it's like to be outside of his presence ever.

1162
00:54:20.240 --> 00:54:26.240
And so I really guard that very, very, um, closely and carefully and being a worship

1163
00:54:26.240 --> 00:54:29.520
leader to me, that's not just the job or the profession.

1164
00:54:29.520 --> 00:54:31.040
It is an honor and a privilege.

1165
00:54:31.040 --> 00:54:36.240
And it is something that if I don't live a worship lifestyle, I should not be, um,

1166
00:54:36.240 --> 00:54:37.600
leading anybody in worship.

1167
00:54:37.600 --> 00:54:40.720
And so it's very, very important to me in a big part of my life.

1168
00:54:41.760 --> 00:54:42.320
Okay.

1169
00:54:42.320 --> 00:54:43.280
That's wonderful.

1170
00:54:43.360 --> 00:54:47.840
I love that answer, but also answer the question of what, what's it look like daily for you?

1171
00:54:47.840 --> 00:54:50.800
What's your, do you read the Bible every day?

1172
00:54:50.800 --> 00:54:51.520
Do you pray?

1173
00:54:51.520 --> 00:54:52.160
What's it look like?

1174
00:54:52.800 --> 00:54:54.720
Yes, I read the word every single day.

1175
00:54:54.720 --> 00:54:58.000
I also do a lot of, um, audible.

1176
00:54:58.000 --> 00:54:59.840
So I'll have my time in the word and then.

1177
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.000
I do a lot of audible teachings, like right now I'm listening to Danny Silk's Keep Your Love On.

1178
00:55:04.000 --> 00:55:09.040
So I'm always constantly like switching through different teachings. And then I do a lot of

1179
00:55:09.040 --> 00:55:15.040
worship just at home. And then I also help weekly at the church, we have something called dwell sets.

1180
00:55:15.040 --> 00:55:20.480
And it's just unscripted time where we minister to the Lord. And we're in the word and in prayer

1181
00:55:20.480 --> 00:55:26.800
and all that. And then I also lead worship. So yeah. Awesome. Thank you. Bachelorette number one.

1182
00:55:26.800 --> 00:55:35.360
I grew up in the church, and I've been to Bible school, I've read a lot of the Bible,

1183
00:55:35.360 --> 00:55:44.960
most of my life. At this point, I don't read it every day. I but I it is a part of me. So I think

1184
00:55:44.960 --> 00:55:53.680
about it every day. And I'm talking to God on like, I feel like constantly. Like, it's just a

1185
00:55:53.680 --> 00:56:00.480
part of my, my life and my thoughts are like connected to God. But it does go I go through

1186
00:56:00.480 --> 00:56:06.080
seasons of what that looks like for me. So sometimes I will get up and set a timer in the

1187
00:56:06.080 --> 00:56:12.320
morning and actually journal for like 15 minutes and listen to God or or read part of the Bible.

1188
00:56:14.080 --> 00:56:22.160
And I and I, or sometimes I end up meditating on the parts of the Bibles that come to my mind.

1189
00:56:22.160 --> 00:56:26.160
But, but again, sometimes I go through seasons where I'm actually reading it, which I feel like

1190
00:56:26.160 --> 00:56:32.400
I'm coming up into where I might just start read it again, start to finish, like, for old time's

1191
00:56:32.400 --> 00:56:41.280
sake. Yeah, so now I'm saying, yeah, when you spend lots and lots of years in consecration,

1192
00:56:41.280 --> 00:56:46.480
like even me as a minister for 28 years, you know, the Bible lives in me, because remember,

1193
00:56:46.480 --> 00:56:52.400
the word is alive. And so it lives in me. And I'm always thinking about it. I'm always talking

1194
00:56:52.400 --> 00:56:55.840
to the Lord. And so I understand what you're saying as well. So that's really great.

1195
00:56:56.560 --> 00:57:02.960
Matt, just really quickly, take a minute, get yourself together a little bit, kind of think

1196
00:57:02.960 --> 00:57:08.160
about what you're thinking about. And then you're going to tell us who you've decided to have that

1197
00:57:08.160 --> 00:57:14.400
first initial conversation with to get the contact information for as the person that, you know,

1198
00:57:14.400 --> 00:57:18.720
sticks out to you the most during this session. And then you're going to meet the other two ladies

1199
00:57:18.720 --> 00:57:23.360
first, and you're going to meet your choice last. We're going to have them turn their camera on.

1200
00:57:23.360 --> 00:57:28.000
They're going to greet you. They're going to tell you, you know, a little bit more about themselves

1201
00:57:28.000 --> 00:57:33.680
like, Hey, I'm so-and-so I'm this age, this is where I live. And, and then you're going to meet

1202
00:57:33.680 --> 00:57:37.760
the next one that you didn't pick tonight. And then you're going to make the one that you did

1203
00:57:37.760 --> 00:57:42.640
pick tonight last. All right. So anyone have a drum roll? That'd be fun.

1204
00:57:48.640 --> 00:57:50.480
Okay. Let's just do something really fun

1205
00:57:52.560 --> 00:57:56.800
before he chooses and Matt, don't look at this. Cause this cannot influence you,

1206
00:57:56.800 --> 00:58:01.680
but it's not, I've already made a choice. So I know. Okay. Who do you guys think that Matt had

1207
00:58:01.680 --> 00:58:06.080
the most kind of conversational chemistry with? If you were going to guess who you think he's

1208
00:58:06.080 --> 00:58:12.320
going to pick. Wow. Almost everyone is saying that. Okay. All right. Without further ado, Matt,

1209
00:58:12.320 --> 00:58:14.880
which bachelorette do you want to have that initial conversation with?

1210
00:58:15.600 --> 00:58:18.960
Oh, the, uh, the ladies are absolutely right. It's number three.

1211
00:58:19.680 --> 00:58:25.600
All right. Okay. That's what I thought too. Um, all once again, all of these ladies have

1212
00:58:25.600 --> 00:58:32.240
been curated. They all have amazing, uh, things in common with Matthew, um, bachelorette number

1213
00:58:32.320 --> 00:58:39.360
two, um, on come on camera, unmute yourself and introduce yourself to Matt fully.

1214
00:58:41.200 --> 00:58:45.600
And this is Bethany joy, Bethany joy. I wrote the names down. I know Bethany joy.

1215
00:58:48.160 --> 00:58:52.480
I'm wonderful. This was fun and different. Definitely was nervous the whole time.

1216
00:58:54.800 --> 00:58:59.440
So we know Bethany joy that you're 41 and you live in the Houston area, right? And you lead

1217
00:58:59.440 --> 00:59:07.840
worship and you're gorgeous. And, um, yeah, you're welcome. And, um, uh, yeah. So, um, it's,

1218
00:59:07.840 --> 00:59:12.640
it's great to have you here. We're so thankful that you came and, uh, and we have lots and lots

1219
00:59:12.640 --> 00:59:17.440
and lots of other eligible bachelors as well. And bachelorette number one, who I actually know

1220
00:59:17.440 --> 00:59:25.440
in real life, unmute yourself and. Hi Matt. I'm Darla. I'm Ms. Darla. How are you?

1221
00:59:25.840 --> 00:59:32.080
Good. I'm 44 years old and I live in Tacoma, Washington with my Corgi name bird.

1222
00:59:32.880 --> 00:59:36.320
And I also picked bachelorette number three. So I'm excited to see her.

1223
00:59:38.000 --> 00:59:41.920
All right. And then without further ado, bachelorette number three,

1224
00:59:41.920 --> 00:59:44.160
go ahead and come on camera. Introduce yourself.

1225
00:59:44.160 --> 00:59:48.720
Oh,

1226
00:59:55.680 --> 01:00:02.720
no, you're muted though. You're muted.

1227
01:00:00.640 --> 01:00:01.320
hey.

1228
01:00:02.720 --> 01:00:03.440
hey.

1229
01:00:04.960 --> 01:00:16.680
i'm Kelly i'm from Alabama a little town in Alabama and just outside of Birmingham I am 39 just recently 39 and yeah.

1230
01:00:17.840 --> 01:00:19.280
That is yay yay.

1231
01:00:20.680 --> 01:00:27.960
Alabama all right, make sure that we get y'all contact information look at me turn into a turn up green saying y'all.

1232
01:00:28.480 --> 01:00:34.080
we're going to get your contact information to each other, and we will go from there.

1233
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You guys Thank you so much for joining us for our spirit mate match event we're going to have a lot more of these probably in the new year every single week.

1234
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Lots of bachelors and bachelorettes not just one, at a time, but panels of people and all kinds of different fun things.

1235
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And so, if you want to participate in Community based matchmaking this is the place to be all right have an amazing thanksgiving we love you guys and we'll see you soon bye everyone.

1236
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Thank you.

1237
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But good night happy thanksgiving everyone.

1238
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To thank you bye bye.