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Hello, welcome, welcome. Hello everyone that is here so far. We have 15 ladies on. Hi Amy

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W. Good to see you. I love your Christmas tree in the background there. No, I don't

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have my Christmas tree up yet. I can't believe it. It's never, I never wait. Well, I shouldn't

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say that. I think last year I was running behind too, but because I'm in Florida, it

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just feels a little different this year. I'm finding that I don't feel as like it's

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Christmas time. I should be decorating even though it's Christmas time. So little tidbit

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here adjusting to Florida living. It's not, not complaining at all. I love it. It's warm,

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but uh, I'm finding that I need to cultivate Christmas spirit here. Welcome. I'm just chit

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chatting while people are jumping on. Hello. I see some ladies that are in phase two coming

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back to visit us tonight as well. Welcome back. My name's Bethany Cooper. I'm one of

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the heartwork coaches here in the community. If I've never met you before, or if you've

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never joined a live session before, can you put in the chat for me that you're here joining

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your first live session so we can say hi to you, myself in the ladies and welcome you

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into the group, into the community. If you're joining us for the first time live tonight,

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let me know in the chat. I'm going to go ahead and do our housekeeping. Raquel. Hi.

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First time live session. Ebony is one of our coaches in the community, but tonight she's

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joining us for the first time live heartwork session. She's here shadowing tonight. So

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you all will get to know her some in phase two. I'm so glad to have some new ladies joining.

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As you all know, we have new people joining all the time. And then we also have people

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moving into phase two all the time. It's kind of fun and new and it's been a journey and we

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will touch on different parts of the content for heartwork throughout your journey here.

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So sometimes I'm going to coach on things that you're just not on that week yet and it's totally

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okay. It's going to still prime the pump and help you heal. And then when you get to that content,

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it might even bring things up more for you when you get there. So don't worry about that.

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One of the things people get confused by is I thought I was supposed to bring questions to

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answer during this heart check-in. You can process those and put those in the group. So if you guys

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have questions that you're processing from heartwork and you're just not still not sure

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what to do with those, go ahead and post those in the group and the coaches will respond to you

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there. Um, because we may or may not cover those during a heartwork live session. Okay.

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Um, and it's totally fine. You all just so you know, this is super informal as far as if you

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need to come and go at different times, you just go ahead and, um, you can log off. I saw Raquel is

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not able to stay the whole time. We're just glad that you can be here at all. Okay. So super

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important for y'all to know that one of the things I do say though, sometimes people get nervous when

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we start doing the breakout sessions and not everybody that jumps off is because of that,

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but sometimes people will leave when we start breakout sessions. And I want you all to know,

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like breakout sessions is a time for you to connect with another sister in the community

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and process what you are learning and, uh, what we're unpacking in the heartwork.

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But it's also a time for you to get breakthrough. A lot of people get breakthrough in those breakout

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sessions. So I want to encourage you, even if it pushes you outside of your comfort zone,

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that you would be willing to try to do something a little bit different while you're here. Okay.

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We just want to plug a couple things for those of you that don't know this, or if you were not able

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to hear the supernatural Saturday this past weekend, it's always amazing. You guys are

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going to hear me say that all the time. A couple highlights from this past week. I want to encourage

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you all to listen to that replay when you get a chance. Um, but Jackie was talking about making

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space for God in this season, how God is not limited in his resources. That is about love

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over survival and how we are children and no longer orphans. Y'all those are just high level

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points. The whole thing, Holy spirit was really crushing it out of the park using Jackie. And

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it's really going to help you in your heart work process. 100%. If you listen to that replay.

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Um, so I want to encourage you all to do that. If you did not know, we have a special session

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coming up this Thursday. Yay. Y'all are getting a sneak peek preview to phase three. So we have

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multiple phases in this community. Phase one is the heartwork phase two is our love story

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accelerator curriculum. That's where you're going to get like in small group coaching like this.

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You're going to get coaching from our dating coaches, Ebony and Carla and some others.

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Um, and then we have phase three. And so phase three is community growth acceleration,

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and we continue to process of community together. It's really great. So this Thursday,

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our special session is how to hear from God with special guests, Bethany Hicks.

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If you've never heard of her before, she's incredible.

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y'all. She's well, well known in the prophetic movement. She and her, I don't know if it's

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co-owner, co-founder, I don't know what they call themselves, but Dana McCollum, they travel all

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over and teach people how to hear from God and operate in the prophetic. Even if you don't even

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know what the prophetic is, come, come and join us and learn how to hear from God in new ways.

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This is what we are considering also a prep training, if you will, for anyone that would

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be interested in our prophesy your year event. That is going to be on January 5th. It is an

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additional cost, but it is literally life-changing you all. And again, even if some of you are like,

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I don't even know if I believe in the prophetic, I don't know how to do that. I would encourage

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you come, come and see what God is doing and how he wants to speak to you and through you

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on January 5th as well. We'll have more information coming out about that prophesy your

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year event very, very soon. All right. One thing I want to say specifically about the heartwork

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process is this, your heart posture during this journey is key. Okay. What do I mean by that

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specifically tonight is that when you come into the heartwork or even on your process through

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your heart posture regarding what you can learn during this time is going to be pivotal for you.

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Some individuals will come in. Yes. It's Thursday at six or 8 PM, excuse me, 8 PM Eastern time,

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Thursday night. Thank you so much ladies for helping them. The link is already in Shelly.

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We need to get you connected over to the app, you and Laura and a few others that you're still

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finishing heartwork from our original group. So I will message you after and get you over

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connected to our admin team. But on our heart posture, sometimes we all, myself included,

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when we come into this group in this community, we've already done a lot of healing. We've done a

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lot of work and sometimes people come in and like, we've literally had people say,

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there's nothing new that I'm learning here. And y'all, I, I'm not saying we've got it all figured

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out or that nobody has other information that's similar, but that blows my mind when I hear that

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kind of stuff. Here's why, because I did a lot of learning and a lot of counseling and a lot of

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other courses before I came into this community and God rocked my world. So maybe that's not going

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to be your experience. I don't know, but I'm just saying, I think our heart posture has something to

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do with it. If we come into any situation and we think we already know everything, well, then we're

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probably not going to learn something new, right? No matter if it's this heart work or a class,

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I catch myself even sometimes going to other leadership conventions and thinking like,

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am I going to learn anything new here? And I really have to check my heart. So I want to

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encourage you all just keep your hearts in a really good teachable place. And it's going to go

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really, really well for you. Okay. That's my last announcement. I'm going to pray and we're

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going to get started father. Thank you so much. Um, everything that you're doing right now, even,

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even in the announcements, even in the preparations of bringing us all here, I just sense to something

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you want to do super special tonight and every lady's heart, their minds, their bodies, their

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spirits, their souls that we thank you for physical healings manifesting. We thank you for emotional,

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mental, uh, healings manifesting through tonight. We thank you God for revelation and insight. God,

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where we've been asking and seeking and knocking, and we've been wondering why we're going around

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the same mountain over and over God. And we just thank you that you're going to bring truth right

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to the core of those areas for some tonight for all. I hope for all, but Lord, we thank you for

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this. Um, we thank you God for, um, sending Jesus and Jesus. We thank you for coming,

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allowing your body to be broken and your blood to be shed for the forgiveness of our sins,

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for our healing, for our freedom, for our forgiveness, for our redemption. We thank

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you that you made a way for us to be one with you as you are one with the father.

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Yeah. So we are no longer orphans. We are no longer without a family. So if we,

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we believe we're on the outside, if we believe we're not getting picked, God, I pray that you

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would help us to see that the gate is already open. There is no gate. You, you sent Jesus to

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get rid of the gate. So we get to walk right into your arms father. And so I thank you tonight that

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you'll help us to be able to do that a little bit more to understand that you're a good father who

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has good gifts for us. And you also, Jesus, when you ascended, you sent the Holy spirit,

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Holy spirit. We thank you that you're here, that you're our comforter. You're our counselor. You're

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our guide. I thank you that you're going to weave in and out of conversations in this session. And

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you're just going to bring truth. We thank you that where the spirit of the Lord is there's

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freedom. There's Liberty for the captives. And we thank you that you're opening prison gates tonight

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right now and throughout the night in Jesus name. Amen. Y'all the gate.

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is removed. That was good. That was Holy Spirit. I know I talked about that. I don't know if it

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was last week or the week before, but that just, man, that visual, that kind of accelerated what

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God showed me before. Because what God showed me before that I told you all about was that

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he showed me the door, the gate was always open. And tonight he's like, I just got rid of the gate.

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So I don't know if y'all caught that. I don't know if you feel that, but I feel that. Maybe

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that's what I needed. So I'm just going to celebrate in this for a minute. Y'all, the gate,

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the things, what I mean by that is everything that we feel separates us from God or other people is

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removed. So those of you that feel like you struggle to connect and relationship with people,

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whether that's romantic or your family or friends, I just want you to receive that right

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now. That is removed in the Holy Spirit. Like God is saying to you tonight that Jesus came,

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he is the way, the truth, and the life. He came and he got rid of everything that separates us

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from the father. And he made a way for us to be one with him as he is one with the father.

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And guess what that means? They are, God is love. He himself is love. So if we're connected to them,

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then we can get an upgrade in our love understanding. Amen. So tonight that wasn't my

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plan. That's Holy Spirit's plan, I think. So we're getting an upgrade in love tonight.

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That's going to be the theme throughout. Even as I talk about the content, that's going to be our

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theme throughout. Okay. We're getting an upgrade in our ability to receive and give love. Y'all,

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we're going to talk about vows and forgiveness. So how does that connect to being able to receive

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and give love a whole lot? So I'm going to go ahead and dive right into it. Inner vows, what

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are they? Inner vows are a determination set in our mind and heart to protect us from pain.

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At some point in our life, we experienced some kind of trauma or wounds, some kind of pain.

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And when that happened, we believed a lie of the enemy. And because of that, we erected walls

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subconsciously. We don't do this physically, typically. This is a subconscious wall that we

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start to build and erect that not only keeps people out in our minds, it keeps us protected,

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but it's also keeping God out, y'all. And so tonight I want to encourage you just to already

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start asking the Lord. You might even think, well, I don't know if I have vows. I don't think I have

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vows. I hear that a lot. I will tell you that sometimes people have a hard time determining

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what the vows are, but hopefully tonight you'll gain a little bit more insight that will help you

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be able to do that. Romans 12.2 says, do not conform to the pattern of this world,

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but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test what God's will

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is. His good, pleasing, and perfect will. Y'all, I want you to think about the soil in your hearts.

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We talked about this a little bit last week, how the heart is a womb and everything that we put

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into our hearts, everything that we allow to enter in there is impacting our whole life.

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So the soil in your heart is important. That includes thoughts that we think, that includes

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things that are in our subconscious. Y'all, we can't change what, if something's in us

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and we don't know it's there, please don't guilt yourself or allow the enemy to shame

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and bring condemnation because you don't have revelation of something.

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And what I mean by that is sometimes you don't even know the vows you've made subconsciously

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out of pain. Sometimes you all won't remember things that happened to you

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because your body was built to defend you and protect you. And subconsciously it helps,

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you know, kind of keep something away from your mind until you get to a place where your body and

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your, your mind is able to begin processing it. There are reasons why we don't remember

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things that we go through. And so I want to encourage you that what like to consider,

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what are you putting into your heart? You know, what movies are you watching? What kind of music

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are you listening to? What kind of people are you surrounding yourself? What are they saying?

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You know, even not that I'm saying stop being with your family, but y'all want to consider

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around the holidays, like what is, what is the talk of the town, if you will, what's the talk

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of the town in your family? What is the storyline that's being conveyed when you're around family

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and friends? Is it blessing? Is it cursing? Is it making fun of men? Is it, you know, blessing men?

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Is it, you know, I don't know. Let's just, you know,

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unpack this. Let's let's see in the chat. What are some things

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that you're even right now recognizing is a storyline that

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your family has good or bad. And you can you can say a sentence,

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a phrase, a thought, it can be a word, it doesn't have to be the

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whole thing explained. It can just be like you put a word in

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the chat, and you know what it represents. That's totally fine.

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So just start to put those in the chat for me. What is going

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into the soil of your hearts by and from the people that you are

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surrounding yourself with? And sometimes again, those are

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family and you can't necessarily change that. Yeah, lots of

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politics and TV, no good men out there, pulling a Pam. Okay. I

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know that means something to you, Sarah. Criticism. My mom

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kind of pressures me because I'm not married yet. Yep. You all

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that's going to be really big for those of you that have

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parents or friends that are like that around the holidays. But

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praise God, God's already given you the shield of faith. So you

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can just erect that sucker and just block that stuff out. I

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know that sounds really easy, but you all that is effective.

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And you and we can kind of teach you all. And if you put if any

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of you all deal with that stuff with your family or friends, if

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you put a post in the group, I'll kind of give you some

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thoughts of how you can lovingly just shut that stuff down and

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move forward in a kind way. So unlucky in love, negative with

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politics, tons of TV. Brother does all the talking. All right.

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Yeah. Sometimes y'all got people in your family where they just

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take over. All right. gift giving time is my love

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language. All right. Need someone to take care of you when

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you get old. All right. These are good. Keep putting them in

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if you think of things I'm going to read something to you. We're

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going to start talking about these inner vows more. All

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right. As y'all remember, we can't just get rid of lies, we

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have to replace the lies with the truth. And that's what helps

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us overcome and defeat the lies of the enemy. It's it's

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replacing healing, healing in our hearts and replacing those

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lies with the truth. So that's where we're picking up. And she

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says here, you can replace the lies you believed and most

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importantly, the vows you made as a result of them. So again,

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the vows that we make are a result of the lies that we have

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believed because of trauma. When we experience these hurts

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in life, they make us sad. And when we are sad, that's when

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anger shows up. Anger is always the defender. So if you're

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someone where you just really have a lot of anger, even if

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it's not outward anger, y'all people experience a lot of anger

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internally, that may never do it externally. So if you feel anger

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and rage on the inside, or you feel like life is out of control

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and you feel anger because of it, anger is always the

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defender. It always shows up when those wounded and vulnerable

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parts of our hearts feel threatened. I think of it as

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her bodyguard. So when anger is around, we feel strong. And we

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start to make inner vows. Here are some of them nobody's ever

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going to hurt me again. I don't care about anyone. I can't trust

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anyone. I will never turn out like my mother or father. I

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won't be made a fool anymore. No one is ever going to tell me

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what to do. I can't tell anybody about this. I will be

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perfect from now on so that nobody can reject me. Those are

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just some of them that she listed in the book. We make a

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decision to harden our hearts, again, and it can even be that

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subconscious. Sometimes it's an overt decision. Sometimes we're

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literally like, I'm never doing that again. And we say it out

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loud, don't we? And then sometimes it's that internal, I

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am never gonna let anyone hurt me ever again. Okay, we make a

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decision and that decision heart, our hearts become harder

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and harder, the more that we make those vows. And it makes

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sense at the moment. Because it's a self protection

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mechanism. We think if we make these vows and build up these

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walls around our hearts that we can keep bad things out. But if

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you remember, even as I was praying, or maybe when I

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started, when we have these walls, it also keeps God out. It

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keeps people out, it keeps love out, keeps good things from

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getting in. So to stop surviving and start thriving, we are going

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to have to be able to let a lot of good things in. So how do we

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do that? We break away from these inner vows, we heal and we

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start to let the walls come down. And earlier today, I

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don't know if it was when I was praying at the ending of the

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session, but this just feel led to say this, God isn't looking

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to bring a wrecking ball, ladies. He's not just come in,

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looking to come with a big wrecking ball, just wreck that

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wall down. No, remember, he comes as a gentleman, and he

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knocks on the door of our hearts. And we have a choice

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whether or not we're going to take that do not enter sign

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down. We can bring our walls down.

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One brick at a time, we can let God do it supernaturally

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and bring the wall down,

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but he's not coming with a huge wrecking ball

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to wreck your life, okay?

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regarding this healing process.

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I wanna also mention just a couple other inner vowels.

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I said a lot of them from the book.

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I'll never be able to make anyone happy.

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I will never date or marry a Larry, John, Joseph,

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It can be someone that hurt us before,

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but people genuinely make these kinds of vowels,

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especially if for some reason,

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coincidentally they date or marry another person

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with a similar name and both of those men

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end up being people that hurt them,

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then they definitely decide that someone with that name

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is a no-go for them, okay?

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with a certain ethnicity.

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where their parents were in ministry

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or someone that they loved was in ministry,

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where they're just like, I'm never marrying someone

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that's gonna be a pastor in ministry.

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I hear it a lot regarding military, police officers,

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it's all kinds of stuff you all,

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I'll never let my guard down again.

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I will never be like my mother or father.

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what book is Bethany talking about

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from the heartwork book, ladies.

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So that what I read to you was from the heartwork book

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and I just never share pages because

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your ebook pages are different than my physical copy.

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that your mom or dad or somebody could be grandma,

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whoever did, if it wasn't a negative experience

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that you at some point said,

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yeah, I'm never gonna be like them.

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as we're processing this tonight.

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Do you ever make statements or have thoughts

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that include words like always or never?

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Always or never?

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They always do that.

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I always get passed over.

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Men never come through for me.

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Men never pick me.

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I'm never seen or noticed.

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or thoughts that we have can signal areas

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where we have inner vows at work.

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that shows up for me, even still now.

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Men never really clean.

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but growing up, my mom was a single mom with four kids

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and I had two older brothers and an older sister

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and my oldest brother was nine years older.

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but my other brother, he was still there.

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and leave us a chore list

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and my brother would not get out of bed.

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he wasn't the one that got in trouble by himself

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if his chores weren't done.

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to make sure he got his chores done.

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where I felt like they weren't doing something

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to help carry the load, I would just do it

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and then I would get resentful for doing it

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like because they weren't doing it.

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even if someone does help in some way,

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where they're not doing something and you feel,

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we feel like they're not contributing or they're not,

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we kind of take a stance like men never do this.

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as you continue through the heartwork

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of these always and never statements

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that tend to kind of percolate in your spirit

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and come to the surface at times.

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You're gonna go into your first breakout room.

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So Ebony, you'll stay with me.

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want you all to stay with me when I do the breakouts because I'll just rearrange the ladies.

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Your question ladies tonight that are in the heartwork course,

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what inner vows do you need to come out of alignment with?

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What inner vows do you need to come out of alignment with? Okay, I'm gonna set these breakouts up.

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I'm gonna set this first one up for eight minutes ladies. Okay, so if you have extra time after you

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talk about the vows then you can go ahead and talk about like where you're from, you know,

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what led you to the heartwork, but get to know each other a little bit, but first answer what

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inner vows do you need to come out of alignment with today, tonight. Go ahead and click to join

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those rooms. All right, if anyone's not able to join just put that in the chat for me so that I

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know to move other people around. All right, just trying to make sure we get everyone situated. Give

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me a minute ladies. All right, Father we just thank you right now for everything that you're

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already doing. We thank you God for revealings for healing that are taking place. God we thank

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you for helping us to see things that we don't see. We thank you that you're bringing everything

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out of darkness into the light and your perfect timing. We thank you God that you would just

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continue to accelerate supernatural healing and grace upon every one of these ladies in the groups

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as they're talking, those that are going to watch this replay later, those that are here in this

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chat room with me. God we thank you that you are the great physician and nothing is too hard for

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you. We thank you that you will, yes Lord, just remove any barriers or obstacles that the enemy

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has sent to derail our healing process. We thank you Lord for divine revelation and insight. We

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thank you God that you would help us to, yeah Lord, just anything from when we were children

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where the wounds are still fresh underneath the surface and they've just been scabbed over

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because of survival modes. We thank you that you would go into the recesses, into the core

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of our being and just wash over us with divine healing oil from heaven tonight. We thank you

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God that you would restore all of the broken and fallen places. God that you would make them better

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than they were before they were broken. God that you are more than able to do exceedingly,

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exceedingly, excuse me, abundantly above all we could ever ask or think or imagine. We thank you

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God for bringing life and redemption where there's been ashes. We thank you for the oil of joy for

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mourning and where there's been heaviness. We thank you God that you would remove heaviness.

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Ladies, I'm looking for something while I'm praying because it just, the Lord reminded me

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this week that I came across, and I don't know if I'll be able to find it, a list of things

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regarding, yeah, yeah, yeah, I found it. Okay, so the scripture that talks about, hi Natasha,

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they're in breakout rooms talking right now about what intervals do they need to come out

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of alignment with. I'm going to put you in a breakout. You can join the conversation with them.

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There you go. So it, it comes from the scripture, you know, fearfully and wonderfully made.

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In my mind, I can't think of what scripture that is right now, but I found all the definitions when

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I looked up the Greek of these words, and I just want to kind of read this over you all.

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Fearfully is to cause astonishment and awe, to be held in awe, to inspire reverence. So if we're

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fearfully made, it means that God made us in such a way to cause astonishment and awe,

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that he wanted us to be held in awe by other people, and he wanted to inspire reverence.

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It says wonderfully here, to be distinct, marked out, to be distinguished,

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wonderful. So if we are fearfully and wonderfully made, God caused us to cause astonishment and to

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be distinct, to be distinguished and set apart from other people. Marvelous, to be marvelous,

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to be wonderful, to be surpassing, to be extraordinary.

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These are the kind of things that God created us to be, ladies, and we don't need to feel guilt or

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shame or condemnation if we don't feel that way right now, but God wants us to have an upgrade.

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He wants to take us to the new level, to the new place, and he wants to bring healing and life and

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redemption in the places where we've experienced pain that causes us to live below these things.

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So if you are feeling any not like where you don't believe you're fearfully and wonderfully

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made or that you're marvelous, I want to encourage you to just really lean into that this week and be

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praying for God to give you an upgrade in your view of yourself and how he created you to be,

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because he did create you to be prosperous in every area, okay? Psalm 1-3 says,

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He will be standing firm like a flourishing tree, planted by God's design, deeply rooted by the

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brooks of bliss, bearing fruit in every season of his life. He is never dry, never fainting, ever blessed,

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and ever prosperous. Lord, let that be so for all of us. Let us go into seasons where we would be

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flourishing, no matter what the enemy brought in our lives from the past. Yes, Ariane, thank you.

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Psalm 139, 14, fearfully and wonderfully made. God, thank you that you would take us into seasons

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where we would be deeply rooted by the brooks of bliss, that we would bear fruit in every season.

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Hi, Marley. They're in breakouts talking about vows that they want to come out of alignment

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with today. I can put you in and you can just join a conversation or listen in until we come

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back together if you want to. That link is there for you. So Lord, we just thank you that Psalm 37, 8

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also says, stay away from anger and revenge. Keep envy far from you, for it only leads you into

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lies. Gosh, that's so good regarding the vows that we're talking about tonight. So Lord, I just thank

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you that as your daughters, as dearly beloved daughters, that you would help us to heal in

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every area. Lord, that you would help us to in places where we feel anger. God, that we would

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not seek revenge, that we would seek forgiveness, that we would seek grace and mercy, and not only

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to receive it for ourselves, but to give it away to other people. Lord, we thank you for just refining

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us and renewing us, transforming our understanding. Thank you, Lord, that you would help us to see

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other people through your eyes. It doesn't mean, Lord, that we have to forget what we've

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gone through, but thank you, God, that you give us the ability. You forgave us so that we can then

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forgive. Help us to walk in the same ways that Jesus walked, and to keep envy far away from us. We

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thank you that we don't have to walk in jealousy or envy. We can turn away from all of those things

421
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and walk in the pathways of righteousness for your name's sake. So, Lord, we thank you that you would

422
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lead us in that way tonight in a greater level. James 5, 11 through 12, says this, we give great

423
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honor to those who endure under suffering. For instance, you know about Job, a man of great

424
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endurance. You can see how the Lord was kind to him at the end, for the Lord is full of tenderness

425
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and mercy. So, again, a reminder, ladies, that no matter how our story began,

426
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no matter what the past years of our life have included, we can have the latter years be greater

427
00:33:34.160 --> 00:33:39.680
than the former years. The Bible actually talks about that as well. So, I want to encourage you

428
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to partner with the truth that God is kind, and he can convey his tender mercies towards us on a

429
00:33:49.360 --> 00:33:54.240
daily basis. So, do you need to receive more of his tender mercy today, tonight? I keep forgetting,

430
00:33:54.240 --> 00:34:02.000
it's nighttime, y'all. If you do, you can just pray, Lord, help me to receive your tender mercies

431
00:34:02.000 --> 00:34:06.320
a little bit more tonight. If there's anything that's causing me to believe that you're not

432
00:34:06.320 --> 00:34:13.360
a God of tender mercy and kindness, help me to receive the revelation that I need, the insights

433
00:34:13.360 --> 00:34:18.320
that I need, the healing that I need, so that I can receive an upgrade in my view and perspective,

434
00:34:18.320 --> 00:34:27.360
a view as God the Father. Jeremiah 24, 7 says, I will give them hearts that recognize me as the

435
00:34:27.360 --> 00:34:33.040
Lord. They will be my people, and I will be their God, for they will return to me wholeheartedly. So,

436
00:34:33.040 --> 00:34:37.920
Lord, we just thank you right now that you would give us hearts that recognize you, spirits that

437
00:34:37.920 --> 00:34:43.679
hear what you are saying, eyes that see what your spirit is doing, and that we would recognize that

438
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we are your daughters, that we are made in your image, and that you love us, that you are always

439
00:34:49.120 --> 00:34:53.760
in pursuit of our heart, that nothing can separate us from your love, not height, nor depth, nor

440
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principality, nor power, nor things in the present, nor things to come. So, Lord, help us to partner with that.

441
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:06.240
truth tonight and to receive your love in a fresh way. Help us to open up wide. We're

442
00:35:06.240 --> 00:35:11.540
going to talk about this in a little bit later, ladies, about literally what does it mean

443
00:35:11.540 --> 00:35:20.000
to open our arms up wide and receive everything that God has for us. Welcome back, everyone.

444
00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:23.480
I had a great little chat while y'all were gone. So if you want to go back and listen

445
00:35:23.480 --> 00:35:29.160
to that, you might want to catch that. I was talking about some definitions of the scripture

446
00:35:29.160 --> 00:35:33.440
fearfully and wonderfully made and praying some scriptures and all the kinds of things.

447
00:35:33.440 --> 00:35:37.900
Welcome back. Who is willing to share with the whole group what you shared in your private

448
00:35:37.900 --> 00:35:41.860
breakout group? Remember, it always tends to take one or two and then we get the thing

449
00:35:41.860 --> 00:35:48.540
rolling. Who is willing to share tonight? Oh, sorry. I just saw Samsung. I just saw

450
00:35:48.540 --> 00:35:55.700
your message. I apologize. Okay, Karen, go ahead.

451
00:35:55.700 --> 00:36:01.480
So it's not always or never statements and I might need help putting it into a statement.

452
00:36:01.480 --> 00:36:05.600
This has come up a lot and it's something I shared with the root of what I shared a

453
00:36:05.600 --> 00:36:12.900
few weeks ago that you commented on that when my dad got really sick when I was about 11

454
00:36:12.900 --> 00:36:17.760
and then he got really sick when I was 16. Both of those times I took away from that

455
00:36:17.760 --> 00:36:24.560
that to be married would be to be in that kind of pain. Like my mom was carrying the

456
00:36:24.560 --> 00:36:30.080
burden of the household. Her mom had just died. We had to use the inheritance to survive

457
00:36:30.080 --> 00:36:35.840
because my dad couldn't work. My sister was at college. My best friend of a grandma had

458
00:36:35.840 --> 00:36:39.480
just died. My brother was a senior and doing his own thing. So like I had to just figure

459
00:36:39.480 --> 00:36:47.880
out life on my own. Like nobody else had capacity for my emotional burdens. So it has bred and

460
00:36:47.880 --> 00:36:52.940
I remember like making a vow. I don't have the words for the vow, but I remember deciding

461
00:36:52.940 --> 00:36:58.740
like I'm never going to be in that spot that my mom's in. And I've tried to break that

462
00:36:58.740 --> 00:37:05.900
vow several times and it doesn't, it seems to still be a protective mechanism in me that

463
00:37:05.900 --> 00:37:16.260
it's safer to operate on my own, even though it's very lonely. It's not what I really want.

464
00:37:16.260 --> 00:37:21.980
So tell me when you say never going to be in the spot my mom was in. Tell me, like I

465
00:37:22.020 --> 00:37:27.500
know you just kind of explained it, but from an emotional perspective, tell me what that

466
00:37:27.500 --> 00:37:30.020
means.

467
00:37:30.020 --> 00:37:39.060
She was alone, even though she was in a marriage, holding the burden of like her husband was

468
00:37:39.060 --> 00:37:43.140
falling apart. He was in depression, anxiety, and it wasn't his fault. It's not like he

469
00:37:43.140 --> 00:37:45.820
chose that.

470
00:37:45.820 --> 00:37:50.860
So for you as a kid though, looking at it through the lens, try to like, and it's okay

471
00:37:50.860 --> 00:37:56.620
if you don't know it tonight, but little Karen, try to think kind of like, what did

472
00:37:56.620 --> 00:38:03.260
that feel like to see your mom feeling alone or being that burden carrier? Because that's

473
00:38:03.260 --> 00:38:04.260
the emotion.

474
00:38:04.260 --> 00:38:07.980
Yeah. Pressure, lots of pressure.

475
00:38:07.980 --> 00:38:12.340
So you felt pressure or you feel like your mom felt pressure?

476
00:38:12.340 --> 00:38:20.300
I know my mom felt pressure cause we've talked about it. For me as a kid, it was scary. Like

477
00:38:20.300 --> 00:38:27.700
there was definitely moments where I thought, are my parents going to stay together? I,

478
00:38:27.700 --> 00:38:33.340
when I was 16, we were in California. We moved there for family support. Didn't get it. I

479
00:38:33.340 --> 00:38:39.220
ended up flying back to New Hampshire to finish my senior year. And I left thinking, are both

480
00:38:39.220 --> 00:38:43.700
parents coming back to New Hampshire or we'll just one. Like I seriously went for two weeks

481
00:38:43.700 --> 00:38:46.540
thinking my parents aren't going to stay together.

482
00:38:46.540 --> 00:38:53.340
Okay. So underlying what I'm hearing you say, cause you said it felt scary. So the

483
00:38:53.340 --> 00:39:00.260
underlying emotion is fear. Okay. So we kind of worked through that a little bit last week.

484
00:39:00.260 --> 00:39:04.260
If you weren't here, definitely check out that replay or even maybe go watch it again.

485
00:39:04.260 --> 00:39:10.100
Cause I think additional revelation. But I do think you're already onto the vow because

486
00:39:10.100 --> 00:39:20.620
you said I'm never going to be in that spot. So that spot is married and alone. Is that

487
00:39:20.620 --> 00:39:27.740
what that spot is? Maybe it's more of the fear factor of like the provision. Cause that's

488
00:39:27.740 --> 00:39:37.780
a huge driver in my life is, am I secure provision wise, like money security roof over the head

489
00:39:37.780 --> 00:39:38.780
food on the table.

490
00:39:38.780 --> 00:39:47.660
Okay. So we're getting to the core here. Do you see why I was asking some of those questions?

491
00:39:47.660 --> 00:39:55.700
So underlying this whole thing is a spirit of fear. Okay. So, um, fear about provision

492
00:39:55.700 --> 00:39:59.980
fear about being alone. Um, and so we don't want to dig.

493
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But I do want to nudge you to go like this week, spend some time with the Lord to kind

494
00:40:06.460 --> 00:40:17.060
of just ask him, like, what other specific memories is the fear connected to?

495
00:40:17.060 --> 00:40:21.820
For example, right now, you're telling us kind of the overarching very quick, which

496
00:40:21.820 --> 00:40:23.220
makes sense.

497
00:40:23.220 --> 00:40:27.940
But like, you, you specifically said 11 and 16.

498
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Okay.

499
00:40:28.940 --> 00:40:33.940
So I almost wonder if there's some specific fear things when those two timeframes, but

500
00:40:33.940 --> 00:40:37.500
I don't want to speak like I want the Lord to guide this for you.

501
00:40:37.500 --> 00:40:46.060
But that specific question is Lord, reveal to me the times where the fear took root.

502
00:40:46.060 --> 00:40:52.340
Okay, because we need him to reveal to you where that fear started.

503
00:40:52.340 --> 00:40:56.620
Okay, so that initial again, remember, ladies, like this is for everyone, I'm just going

504
00:40:56.620 --> 00:41:02.060
to kind of speak to everyone now to any time we have dynamics like this, where, you know,

505
00:41:02.060 --> 00:41:05.340
she's saying she's done work with this before, but she's still feeling like there's that

506
00:41:05.340 --> 00:41:06.340
stronghold.

507
00:41:06.340 --> 00:41:08.140
Okay, because that's what's happening.

508
00:41:08.140 --> 00:41:11.580
There's a stronghold there, most likely.

509
00:41:11.580 --> 00:41:16.700
And so what we need is we need revelation to the root.

510
00:41:16.700 --> 00:41:21.420
And so the best thing that we can do is ask the Lord to reveal and trust whatever comes

511
00:41:21.420 --> 00:41:22.420
up.

512
00:41:22.420 --> 00:41:27.380
Because if we pursue that, and we find out, okay, that's not actually the initial time,

513
00:41:27.380 --> 00:41:31.180
the Lord will eventually reveal to you what the initial thing is.

514
00:41:31.180 --> 00:41:36.020
But a lot of times, you need to process as you go.

515
00:41:36.020 --> 00:41:41.380
And there's a reason that he reveals the things that need to be revealed at this certain timing.

516
00:41:41.380 --> 00:41:42.380
Okay.

517
00:41:42.380 --> 00:41:47.300
So just start with whatever he reveals when you seek him about that specifically.

518
00:41:47.300 --> 00:41:49.900
And you can even come into the group and do a post about it.

519
00:41:49.900 --> 00:41:53.260
And we can kind of coach you further through that.

520
00:41:53.260 --> 00:41:57.660
Because I do think there's, I have a feeling there's a couple things connected to that.

521
00:41:57.660 --> 00:42:01.500
Because typically, like the verbiage that you said is, I've worked on this before, but

522
00:42:01.500 --> 00:42:06.580
I feel like that still, you said something that made me think strongholds.

523
00:42:06.580 --> 00:42:12.460
So a lot of times when that's the case, it's not just this current thing.

524
00:42:12.460 --> 00:42:17.740
It's a lot of other things that happened before that each time it happened, it built stronger

525
00:42:17.740 --> 00:42:20.900
and stronger that fortified place.

526
00:42:20.900 --> 00:42:25.020
When we, because it basically, we believed the lie over and over and over.

527
00:42:25.020 --> 00:42:26.020
Does that make sense?

528
00:42:26.020 --> 00:42:27.020
It does.

529
00:42:27.020 --> 00:42:28.020
Yeah.

530
00:42:28.020 --> 00:42:29.020
Very much so.

531
00:42:29.020 --> 00:42:30.020
Yeah.

532
00:42:30.020 --> 00:42:33.500
So I look forward to as, and again, ladies don't ever put pressure on yourself.

533
00:42:33.500 --> 00:42:34.500
Just trust the process.

534
00:42:34.500 --> 00:42:37.100
So hopefully it comes up this week.

535
00:42:37.100 --> 00:42:38.700
It might even come up tonight while you're sleeping.

536
00:42:38.700 --> 00:42:43.940
I mean, it could come up anytime, but it doesn't come up right away.

537
00:42:43.940 --> 00:42:44.940
Just trust the process.

538
00:42:44.940 --> 00:42:45.940
Okay.

539
00:42:45.940 --> 00:42:46.940
All right.

540
00:42:47.140 --> 00:42:48.140
Yeah.

541
00:42:48.140 --> 00:42:49.140
Thanks for sharing.

542
00:42:49.140 --> 00:42:50.140
Thank you.

543
00:42:50.140 --> 00:42:51.140
Great.

544
00:42:51.140 --> 00:42:52.140
You're welcome.

545
00:42:52.140 --> 00:43:03.140
Anyone else who else is going to share for us tonight?

546
00:43:03.140 --> 00:43:07.300
I know some of y'all have some stuff to work through tonight's the night.

547
00:43:07.300 --> 00:43:08.300
Let's do it.

548
00:43:08.300 --> 00:43:09.300
Who's willing?

549
00:43:09.300 --> 00:43:10.300
Okay.

550
00:43:10.300 --> 00:43:11.300
I'll go.

551
00:43:11.300 --> 00:43:12.300
Awesome.

552
00:43:12.300 --> 00:43:13.300
Go ahead, Stephanie.

553
00:43:13.300 --> 00:43:20.740
I want to thank Nikki in the room, sorry if I lose my voice singing all day.

554
00:43:20.740 --> 00:43:26.940
And I didn't, by talking to her, when we went through what you told us, it let me realize

555
00:43:26.940 --> 00:43:32.180
so many other issues that I was having by the questions she asked me.

556
00:43:32.180 --> 00:43:43.260
And so I shared about my body, how my body is, because my ex-husband used to tell me

557
00:43:43.260 --> 00:43:45.100
that I degrade my body.

558
00:43:45.100 --> 00:43:51.940
So I'm very like overcompensating areas.

559
00:43:51.940 --> 00:43:58.420
I think thinking that if I hide it, you know, and I try to do things hoping that I don't

560
00:43:58.420 --> 00:44:00.460
attract somebody like that.

561
00:44:00.460 --> 00:44:06.420
But then in my head, I'm thinking that's why, because I don't have a big bottom or I don't,

562
00:44:06.420 --> 00:44:10.940
because I don't have this tiny waistline, I'm thinking that's why I'm not attracting

563
00:44:10.940 --> 00:44:11.940
anybody.

564
00:44:12.620 --> 00:44:17.660
I can't believe I just said that aloud, attracted anybody.

565
00:44:17.660 --> 00:44:26.260
And so it was, that was like a really a moment for me because I never realized how much it

566
00:44:26.260 --> 00:44:28.420
really affected me.

567
00:44:28.420 --> 00:44:33.580
And by, you know, but Nikki was able to help me to help me through it by talking me through

568
00:44:33.580 --> 00:44:34.580
it.

569
00:44:34.580 --> 00:44:38.460
So it was, it was just something really good for me tonight, like that way.

570
00:44:38.460 --> 00:44:39.460
Okay.

571
00:44:39.460 --> 00:44:40.460
This is really good.

572
00:44:40.460 --> 00:44:41.460
So Stephanie, what is the vow?

573
00:44:41.980 --> 00:44:44.700
What do you think is the vow that you made?

574
00:44:44.700 --> 00:44:49.020
Because you're saying sometimes you do things to overcompensate regarding your body.

575
00:44:49.020 --> 00:44:53.980
So do you know, and it's okay if not, like I said, do you know what the vow is that you

576
00:44:53.980 --> 00:44:54.980
made?

577
00:44:54.980 --> 00:44:59.740
That I would never find somebody who would degrade my body like that.

578
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:08.720
But then I, I will do things in order to like, not take care of my body thinking that, you

579
00:45:08.720 --> 00:45:14.040
know, because of how I feel about it, I don't know if that makes sense.

580
00:45:14.040 --> 00:45:15.040
It does.

581
00:45:15.040 --> 00:45:16.040
It does.

582
00:45:16.040 --> 00:45:18.440
So here, here's some of the things I'm going to help you all do as well.

583
00:45:18.440 --> 00:45:26.280
So if we say things like, I don't want to date someone and not that Stephanie saying

584
00:45:26.280 --> 00:45:28.160
this, but I'm just using this as an example.

585
00:45:28.160 --> 00:45:29.880
I don't want to date someone abusive.

586
00:45:29.880 --> 00:45:30.880
Okay.

587
00:45:30.880 --> 00:45:32.040
That's a God non-negotiable.

588
00:45:32.040 --> 00:45:34.840
So that's a little different than a vow.

589
00:45:34.840 --> 00:45:39.120
And so Stephanie is saying she doesn't want to be with someone who's going to degrade

590
00:45:39.120 --> 00:45:40.540
her body.

591
00:45:40.540 --> 00:45:42.440
That's a good thing to like that.

592
00:45:42.440 --> 00:45:46.760
We shouldn't want to be with someone that is going to not value us.

593
00:45:46.760 --> 00:45:47.840
Okay.

594
00:45:47.840 --> 00:45:53.400
But underneath of that, what she's saying is that then sometimes she would, if I'm understanding

595
00:45:53.400 --> 00:45:58.920
correctly, and you can correct me, Stephanie, if I'm not, sometimes you might have chosen

596
00:45:58.920 --> 00:46:04.640
things where you were actually devaluing yourself.

597
00:46:04.640 --> 00:46:05.640
Is that correct?

598
00:46:05.640 --> 00:46:08.640
You hit it on the head.

599
00:46:08.640 --> 00:46:11.720
Thank you for saying it the way I should.

600
00:46:11.720 --> 00:46:12.720
It's okay.

601
00:46:12.720 --> 00:46:14.080
This, and this is how we all learn ladies.

602
00:46:14.080 --> 00:46:15.080
I want you all to know.

603
00:46:15.080 --> 00:46:16.080
Nope.

604
00:46:16.080 --> 00:46:19.080
There's never a dumb thing anybody says in here ever.

605
00:46:19.080 --> 00:46:21.360
And they're like, this is how we unpack things.

606
00:46:21.360 --> 00:46:26.120
And it's okay for y'all to even say, I don't, I don't actually know what my vow is.

607
00:46:26.120 --> 00:46:29.520
I should have told you all that before you went into the breakout I meant to.

608
00:46:29.520 --> 00:46:30.680
So I'll tell you that now.

609
00:46:30.680 --> 00:46:31.680
It's okay.

610
00:46:31.680 --> 00:46:34.920
If you don't know what it is yet, that's part of the process because we need the Lord to

611
00:46:34.920 --> 00:46:37.120
reveal these things to us.

612
00:46:37.120 --> 00:46:45.600
And so the vow, maybe at some point is, you know, where's my list at, sorry, I gotta look

613
00:46:45.600 --> 00:46:47.880
and see what I said here.

614
00:46:47.880 --> 00:46:53.480
You know, I'm never going to let anyone hurt me ever again.

615
00:46:53.480 --> 00:46:54.480
That's a vow.

616
00:46:54.480 --> 00:46:56.160
Do you see the difference there?

617
00:46:56.160 --> 00:46:57.160
Okay.

618
00:46:57.160 --> 00:47:02.440
So, but then why do we then let people hurt us, like do those things and not treat us

619
00:47:02.440 --> 00:47:03.440
with value?

620
00:47:03.440 --> 00:47:10.200
Well, it's because internally we don't value ourself to some level or degree.

621
00:47:10.200 --> 00:47:14.840
And sometimes we like, I used to feel like I valued myself, but then when I was looking

622
00:47:14.840 --> 00:47:20.000
at that past relationship that I got into and how I let myself be treated again, even

623
00:47:20.000 --> 00:47:24.280
after I had gone through that horrible marriage and divorce, and I said, I was never going

624
00:47:24.280 --> 00:47:25.520
to be with people like that again.

625
00:47:25.520 --> 00:47:31.520
And then two times after that attracted people that were not only similar, but to some extent

626
00:47:31.520 --> 00:47:33.760
worse.

627
00:47:33.760 --> 00:47:39.520
And I had to look at underlying because I needed healing.

628
00:47:39.520 --> 00:47:46.600
My counterfeit identity was like basically subconsciously convincing me that I could

629
00:47:46.600 --> 00:47:52.480
not get someone better.

630
00:47:52.480 --> 00:47:55.620
That says right there, that's it.

631
00:47:55.620 --> 00:48:00.480
And you all, you can, there are good men out there.

632
00:48:00.480 --> 00:48:08.040
We as we heal, God will take us into new circles, new spheres of influence, new people, you

633
00:48:08.040 --> 00:48:15.680
know, but if we continue to stay where we are or where we were not only physically or

634
00:48:15.680 --> 00:48:22.040
emotionally or spiritually, but mentally are what we think is like half the battle.

635
00:48:22.040 --> 00:48:24.080
It's also what's going on in here.

636
00:48:24.080 --> 00:48:28.800
Remember Jackie said, you know, we want to get what's up here down into our hearts.

637
00:48:28.800 --> 00:48:32.040
And that happens through healing and revelation.

638
00:48:32.040 --> 00:48:33.040
Okay.

639
00:48:33.040 --> 00:48:37.940
So for Stephanie and anyone else, let's see the hands.

640
00:48:37.940 --> 00:48:42.660
Anyone else struggle with, um, thinking good things about your body and valuing yourself.

641
00:48:42.660 --> 00:48:45.740
You can raise, if y'all don't know how for our newbies, if you don't know how to raise

642
00:48:45.740 --> 00:48:50.820
your hand digitally, if you hover over your screen, um, there is an actually a raise hand,

643
00:48:50.820 --> 00:48:52.460
a little button that you can push.

644
00:48:52.460 --> 00:48:56.300
If you don't see that, there's also a more button, anyone else, or you can put it in

645
00:48:56.300 --> 00:48:57.300
the chat too.

646
00:48:57.300 --> 00:49:01.460
If you, if you're not comfortable doing that, it's totally fine.

647
00:49:01.460 --> 00:49:03.260
Put in the chat for us if that's you.

648
00:49:03.260 --> 00:49:04.260
Okay.

649
00:49:04.260 --> 00:49:07.340
So now we know a couple people can relate to you, Stephanie.

650
00:49:07.340 --> 00:49:08.340
So you're not alone.

651
00:49:08.340 --> 00:49:10.300
Not that we're like, yes, that's great.

652
00:49:10.300 --> 00:49:14.540
But here's the thing, ladies, we have to get to a place where we see really where we're

653
00:49:14.540 --> 00:49:20.380
at and acknowledge that so that we can move forward in a healthier way.

654
00:49:20.380 --> 00:49:26.700
So I had to be willing to, um, really own my side of the street, if you will.

655
00:49:26.700 --> 00:49:34.180
And I needed to see that I was a common denominator in those relationships.

656
00:49:34.180 --> 00:49:40.480
Not because I was so unhealthy and so bad, but I did need healing and I needed more healing

657
00:49:40.480 --> 00:49:45.380
than I even knew regarding the sexual abuse I had gone through as a kid.

658
00:49:45.380 --> 00:49:50.260
And I had already gone through extensive healing from that, but there was so much more the

659
00:49:50.260 --> 00:49:51.740
Lord wanted to do in me.

660
00:49:51.740 --> 00:49:57.060
And even, um, my dad was a drug addict and alcoholic, and I just had so much abandonment.

661
00:49:57.060 --> 00:49:59.980
My mom, um, thank God stayed, but she was.

662
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.680
miserable most of my life. And it was just tough. Like she

663
00:50:03.680 --> 00:50:07.360
didn't want to get out of bed. And there's just a lot of stuff,

664
00:50:07.360 --> 00:50:11.640
you know. And so sometimes it just takes some time. And so I

665
00:50:11.640 --> 00:50:14.080
want to encourage you all sometimes some of us it might

666
00:50:14.080 --> 00:50:17.240
take a little bit longer because we've been through a whole lot.

667
00:50:18.120 --> 00:50:20.680
But by God's grace, he will get you there and you're going to

668
00:50:20.680 --> 00:50:23.840
have a great life. It will be better. Just keep moving forward.

669
00:50:23.840 --> 00:50:26.960
Don't stop. Don't take the lies of the enemy and start living

670
00:50:26.960 --> 00:50:30.440
back into those. Because you have a divine opportunity

671
00:50:30.440 --> 00:50:35.760
literally let God transform your whole life. Seriously, I promise.

672
00:50:36.080 --> 00:50:39.960
So keep sticking with the truth. And I believe he's going to set

673
00:50:39.960 --> 00:50:42.320
you free in ways you couldn't even imagine right now. All

674
00:50:42.320 --> 00:50:46.240
right, we're going to start to talk about forgiveness. I want

675
00:50:46.240 --> 00:50:51.840
to encourage you all that God has good things in store for you

676
00:50:51.840 --> 00:50:54.880
regarding forgiveness tonight. Forgiveness is what breaks the

677
00:50:54.880 --> 00:50:57.320
tether. So I gave a couple examples this afternoon. I want

678
00:50:57.320 --> 00:51:00.200
to give both of those very quickly again tonight. I like to

679
00:51:00.200 --> 00:51:02.760
give the tether ball example just because I like to talk

680
00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:05.280
about it because in elementary school I played tether ball. I

681
00:51:05.280 --> 00:51:09.040
loved it. It was a game that we played. It was a pole on the

682
00:51:09.040 --> 00:51:12.280
playground and it had a rope with a ball connected to it. And

683
00:51:12.280 --> 00:51:15.160
we would just hit that ball around. But the point is, is

684
00:51:15.160 --> 00:51:19.640
that the ball was always tethered to the pole until

685
00:51:19.640 --> 00:51:23.480
somebody would remove it. I also gave the example of a hot air

686
00:51:23.480 --> 00:51:26.320
balloon. If you can imagine a hot air balloon when they're

687
00:51:26.320 --> 00:51:30.960
setting it up, and they're getting it ready to basically,

688
00:51:31.000 --> 00:51:34.320
you know, lift it off before that it's like tethered multiple

689
00:51:34.320 --> 00:51:37.880
ropes, you know, tether that basket to the ground, if you

690
00:51:37.880 --> 00:51:40.600
will, that hot air balloon to the ground, so that when they

691
00:51:40.600 --> 00:51:44.720
start to fill it, it doesn't just start to take off. Well,

692
00:51:44.720 --> 00:51:48.600
here's the reality. Unforgiveness in our hearts,

693
00:51:49.160 --> 00:51:52.360
unforgiveness, okay, not forgiveness, unforgiveness

694
00:51:52.440 --> 00:52:01.160
tethers us to what? Does anyone know? People that have hurt us,

695
00:52:01.920 --> 00:52:05.120
the trauma that we've been through it actually, if we don't

696
00:52:05.120 --> 00:52:09.280
forgive it tethers us right to them into those situations. I

697
00:52:09.280 --> 00:52:12.000
know a lot of people don't like to think about it that way. But

698
00:52:12.000 --> 00:52:15.840
that is the truth. And so what we want to do as we begin to

699
00:52:15.840 --> 00:52:21.680
forgive, we start to become untethered to them, them to us,

700
00:52:21.680 --> 00:52:24.880
the freedom comes, we might not always feel that massive

701
00:52:24.880 --> 00:52:27.400
breakthrough right in the moment that we choose to forgive because

702
00:52:27.400 --> 00:52:30.560
y'all forgiveness isn't always feeling you're not there.

703
00:52:30.560 --> 00:52:32.920
Sometimes you're going to downright not feel like

704
00:52:32.920 --> 00:52:36.720
forgiving, but it's a choice. It's it's something that God

705
00:52:36.720 --> 00:52:40.480
actually asked us to obey him in. Okay, and we're going to

706
00:52:40.480 --> 00:52:44.840
talk about those scriptures here in just a few minutes. Crystal,

707
00:52:44.840 --> 00:52:48.520
I'm curious, do you have your sunglasses? Yeah, girl. She

708
00:52:48.520 --> 00:52:52.440
helped me out this afternoon, this afternoon. So okay, imagine

709
00:52:52.440 --> 00:52:55.760
your crystal, and you've just put on your really snazzy

710
00:52:55.760 --> 00:53:00.720
sunglasses there. Okay, sunglasses, what do they do? A

711
00:53:00.720 --> 00:53:03.400
lot of the sunglasses, especially now they come out

712
00:53:03.400 --> 00:53:06.720
with the special coloring where it's really protecting you from

713
00:53:06.720 --> 00:53:10.720
the rays of the sun. And it causes you to see the world

714
00:53:10.720 --> 00:53:13.640
around you with some different colors. And, you know, you're

715
00:53:13.640 --> 00:53:16.640
looking at everything through the lenses that are on your

716
00:53:16.640 --> 00:53:20.400
face now. Okay, imagine or think about even when you put your own

717
00:53:20.400 --> 00:53:25.960
sunglasses on, I want you to think about brokenness from the

718
00:53:25.960 --> 00:53:32.360
past and filters that you have because of them. And how is it

719
00:53:32.360 --> 00:53:35.880
causing you to see the world around you? How is the

720
00:53:35.880 --> 00:53:40.200
unforgiveness and your heart and soul causing you to see the

721
00:53:40.200 --> 00:53:46.080
people in the world around you right now? Some of y'all need to

722
00:53:46.080 --> 00:53:50.840
forgive your kids. I just heard the Holy Spirit say that so, so

723
00:53:50.840 --> 00:53:54.520
loud in my spirit. Some of y'all your kids have done things that

724
00:53:54.520 --> 00:54:01.560
have hurt you. And it's time to forgive. Okay, I'm going to keep

725
00:54:01.560 --> 00:54:04.560
going. But I felt that heard that so I got to speak it out.

726
00:54:05.560 --> 00:54:08.560
Um, okay, I thought someone was saying a man was on with us

727
00:54:08.560 --> 00:54:11.040
right now. And I was like, Wait, what? They're telling me a

728
00:54:11.040 --> 00:54:14.800
story. Okay. Sorry, I got got distracted there for a second.

729
00:54:15.200 --> 00:54:19.320
Alright, so I want to read a little bit to you. Um, as we're

730
00:54:19.320 --> 00:54:21.960
talking about this brokenness and these filters, I want you

731
00:54:21.960 --> 00:54:25.920
all to hear just a little bit about the blind spots and

732
00:54:25.920 --> 00:54:28.400
filters from the book. Again, this is the heartwork book.

733
00:54:28.640 --> 00:54:31.360
Y'all have the ebook. If you don't know where that's at, it's

734
00:54:31.360 --> 00:54:35.800
in the welcome section. And yeah, you download it from

735
00:54:35.800 --> 00:54:38.800
there. All right, blind spots when you walk into any

736
00:54:38.800 --> 00:54:42.120
situation, it doesn't matter what it is bad or good. Okay,

737
00:54:42.120 --> 00:54:45.160
so this is not just about bad situations. This is also good

738
00:54:45.160 --> 00:54:47.600
situations where those sunglasses that Crystal gave us

739
00:54:47.600 --> 00:54:50.040
that awesome example. She you don't have to put them back on.

740
00:54:50.040 --> 00:54:52.840
It's okay. Thank you. Yeah, there you go. She looks great.

741
00:54:52.840 --> 00:54:57.720
Doesn't she? Um, it also causes us to see good situations. So

742
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.080
differently too. Y'all, some of you are having good people come

743
00:55:05.080 --> 00:55:08.000
in your life, but because of the blind spots and the brokenness

744
00:55:08.000 --> 00:55:13.440
in your own life, you are having a hard time receiving them. Okay,

745
00:55:13.640 --> 00:55:16.080
so you don't have to feel guilt, shame or condemnation because of

746
00:55:16.080 --> 00:55:18.520
that. But it's just important to recognize it. All right, I'm

747
00:55:18.520 --> 00:55:21.420
going to keep going. You don't see that thing that plays those

748
00:55:21.420 --> 00:55:25.640
people the way they are, you see them the way that you are on the

749
00:55:25.640 --> 00:55:29.400
inside. She says, let me say that again. So you can get ahold

750
00:55:29.400 --> 00:55:34.560
of it. We don't see things the way they truly are. We see them

751
00:55:34.560 --> 00:55:41.320
the way that we are. So how are we doing on the inside ladies?

752
00:55:43.560 --> 00:55:46.200
For instance, say you were severely hurt by a group of

753
00:55:46.200 --> 00:55:50.720
people. They mistreated you lied about you and then discarded

754
00:55:50.720 --> 00:55:54.640
you. The heart wounds and lies that were created as a result of

755
00:55:54.640 --> 00:55:58.920
that trauma will give you a skewed perception of groups in

756
00:55:58.920 --> 00:56:03.080
the future. You might avoid groups or communities of people

757
00:56:03.080 --> 00:56:06.640
like the plague convincing yourself that they are all bad.

758
00:56:07.080 --> 00:56:09.800
Or you might try again to search for community. But if you do

759
00:56:09.800 --> 00:56:12.840
decide to join a similar group in the future, your most

760
00:56:12.840 --> 00:56:17.440
significant obstacle to be longing will be the filter that

761
00:56:17.440 --> 00:56:20.440
was created by your prior experience.

762
00:56:21.920 --> 00:56:24.800
Thought it's interesting, I didn't even see this person's

763
00:56:24.800 --> 00:56:28.520
post. This app before I did the session this afternoon, I saw it

764
00:56:28.520 --> 00:56:32.440
after and they they were talking about. And if I'm

765
00:56:32.440 --> 00:56:34.480
talking about you, I don't remember who wrote it. So I

766
00:56:34.480 --> 00:56:39.160
apologize. But they were saying that God was really ministering

767
00:56:39.160 --> 00:56:43.080
to them about like their need, like the want to be in community

768
00:56:43.080 --> 00:56:47.400
and belong. And, and how he was ministering to them regarding

769
00:56:47.400 --> 00:56:50.560
that you all sometimes we can be right in the middle of community

770
00:56:50.560 --> 00:56:54.160
and feel like we don't belong. The enemy will will literally

771
00:56:54.160 --> 00:56:57.280
come to you if that is your wound, if that's your core wound

772
00:56:57.280 --> 00:57:01.280
and belief system. He's going to tell you all through this whole

773
00:57:01.280 --> 00:57:04.560
program that you don't fit here that you don't belong that the

774
00:57:04.560 --> 00:57:08.080
people don't like you and all the kind of stuff that kind of

775
00:57:08.080 --> 00:57:12.320
goes with those types of lies. So I want to encourage you to

776
00:57:12.320 --> 00:57:16.360
really ask the Lord if that is the kind of stuff you hear.

777
00:57:17.280 --> 00:57:21.080
Where is the root of that? When did that start for you the first

778
00:57:21.080 --> 00:57:25.640
when was the first time someone did something or you got wounded

779
00:57:25.640 --> 00:57:31.480
in some way? And you believe the lie that you don't belong? And

780
00:57:31.480 --> 00:57:35.080
that you're an outsider? Okay. All right, I'm going to keep

781
00:57:35.080 --> 00:57:38.840
going. So we interact with people differently situations

782
00:57:38.840 --> 00:57:42.440
differently, it impacts our ability to truly connect. And if

783
00:57:42.440 --> 00:57:45.320
you remember, I was saying a little bit ago, I want to really

784
00:57:45.320 --> 00:57:49.080
lean into y'all, I want you to think about like arms wide open.

785
00:57:49.280 --> 00:57:53.440
Like if you were to literally encounter someone, and you're

786
00:57:53.440 --> 00:57:56.480
just like, I'm just I'm gonna let all the walls down. And I'm

787
00:57:56.480 --> 00:58:01.520
just gonna go into this heart wide open. That's what I'm

788
00:58:01.520 --> 00:58:06.320
conveying to you right now. Some of you if that was like if that

789
00:58:06.320 --> 00:58:10.560
was you, and that's what you'd be freaking out right now. But I

790
00:58:10.560 --> 00:58:15.600
want you to kind of consider Jesus on the cross. He held

791
00:58:15.600 --> 00:58:25.040
nothing back. And so if we're scared to love, if we're scared

792
00:58:25.040 --> 00:58:28.640
to receive love, I want to encourage you that Jesus can

793
00:58:28.640 --> 00:58:33.720
show you how because in the moment of his greatest surrender,

794
00:58:33.760 --> 00:58:37.680
he also had his moments of his greatest receiving, did he not?

795
00:58:38.240 --> 00:58:44.560
When he died, he was being received by the Father. And he

796
00:58:44.560 --> 00:58:48.720
chose it. He chose it so that you and I could be in

797
00:58:48.720 --> 00:58:51.320
relationship with him just like he is in relationship with the

798
00:58:51.320 --> 00:58:57.080
Father. So that gives us the way the path to follow to be in

799
00:58:57.080 --> 00:59:01.880
relationship with other people. Matthew 2239 says love your

800
00:59:01.880 --> 00:59:06.640
neighbor as you love yourself. So we were talking a little bit

801
00:59:06.640 --> 00:59:09.320
ago about the importance of valuing ourself knowing our

802
00:59:09.320 --> 00:59:12.680
self worth, ladies, this is this is super important to our

803
00:59:12.680 --> 00:59:17.480
ability to love other people. Do you find yourself any of you

804
00:59:17.520 --> 00:59:25.840
I just be curious if there's anyone in here where and you

805
00:59:25.840 --> 00:59:28.200
might not want to admit it and that's okay. So don't feel like

806
00:59:28.200 --> 00:59:32.080
you have to put your hands up. But maybe you struggle with

807
00:59:32.480 --> 00:59:35.200
thinking negative things about other women a lot like you

808
00:59:35.200 --> 00:59:37.920
criticize women in your thoughts. Maybe you don't do it

809
00:59:37.920 --> 00:59:41.760
overtly with your words, but you criticize women a lot. And if

810
00:59:41.760 --> 00:59:45.400
that's you, I want to say again, there's no shame or guilt

811
00:59:45.400 --> 00:59:48.000
condemnation, but recognize it and ask the Lord where that's

812
00:59:48.000 --> 00:59:50.760
coming from. Because typically, that's actually because you

813
00:59:50.760 --> 00:59:55.920
don't like yourself. Okay, in some way, shape or form.

814
00:59:58.280 --> 00:59:59.920
Forgiveness is not a feeling but a

815
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:06.400
choice. Ephesians 4.23 says this, forgive one another just as God forgave you because of what

816
01:00:06.400 --> 01:00:14.640
Christ has done for you. Colossians 3.13 says, remember the Lord forgave you so you must forgive,

817
01:00:14.640 --> 01:00:20.320
you must also forgive others. We want to forgive all the characters in the story,

818
01:00:20.320 --> 01:00:26.400
ladies, including ourselves. Some of you all need to forgive God.

819
01:00:26.400 --> 01:00:36.560
And I get this question a lot, wait a minute, what? Forgive God? Like, is that a real thing?

820
01:00:36.560 --> 01:00:44.800
Yes, it is. Does God, did he do anything to us in such a way that we need to forgive him? No,

821
01:00:44.800 --> 01:00:51.040
he didn't do anything to us, but it's our heart posture and the lies that we believed because of

822
01:00:51.040 --> 01:00:55.760
pain we went through that some of us are holding unforgiveness in our hearts towards God. We're

823
01:00:55.760 --> 01:01:03.600
offended at him. And so we have to be willing to look at that stuff. Where do we not trust him?

824
01:01:04.240 --> 01:01:08.480
Because that's probably going to signal to you somewhere where you just don't believe he is who

825
01:01:08.480 --> 01:01:18.480
he says he is. And you may or may not even like believe he is good because you don't like him

826
01:01:18.480 --> 01:01:22.720
in some way, which I know that might blow people's mind. Like, wait a minute, I love God.

827
01:01:23.680 --> 01:01:32.560
Yeah, I know. But some of you all really don't like him as well. You want to, but your pain

828
01:01:32.560 --> 01:01:39.840
of your past has led you to a place where you're just not really sure. And again, ladies, this is

829
01:01:39.840 --> 01:01:44.080
where we really like the rubber meets the road, if you will, where we're really getting into the

830
01:01:44.080 --> 01:01:49.760
like, okay, what do I really think? What do I really feel? Do I trust that God is good?

831
01:01:50.720 --> 01:01:57.920
Do I have any offense towards God? And we really let God come into the deep places. Again, we're

832
01:01:57.920 --> 01:02:03.520
taking down do not enter signs, ladies, in this course, and we're saying come right on in. Holy

833
01:02:03.520 --> 01:02:11.840
Spirit come, Jesus come. Okay. All right. Forgiveness happens in layers, just like healing.

834
01:02:11.840 --> 01:02:17.920
So for some of you, while you're in this course, you may have done work with people before in

835
01:02:18.000 --> 01:02:22.640
certain scenarios and situations. You may have done counseling regarding certain family members

836
01:02:23.200 --> 01:02:29.920
before, and you might have kind of like, I've already done all that mindset, and that's okay.

837
01:02:29.920 --> 01:02:34.880
But I want to encourage you to just take a peek under the hood. If the Holy Spirit brings that

838
01:02:34.880 --> 01:02:40.640
person in that situation up, again, there's probably a reason. Okay. It doesn't mean you

839
01:02:40.640 --> 01:02:44.240
have to walk all the way back through all that stuff again, because sometimes that stuff's

840
01:02:44.240 --> 01:02:50.000
painful. But just ask the Holy Spirit, ask the Lord, you know, Lord, I've worked on this before,

841
01:02:50.000 --> 01:02:54.480
but you're bringing this person or this situation up again. Is there something else you're trying to

842
01:02:54.480 --> 01:03:02.640
show me about it? Here's why, ladies. Years ago, I worked a ton, like I said, on the stuff that

843
01:03:02.640 --> 01:03:09.520
I went through regarding the sexual abuse. And many, many years later, there was this nagging

844
01:03:09.520 --> 01:03:16.000
memory that I had that kept bugging me. And it was different than the others, but it was

845
01:03:16.000 --> 01:03:21.760
still connected to all of that similar stuff. And through additional healing work I did,

846
01:03:22.400 --> 01:03:29.920
God opened that memory for me. And that brought a whole nother layer of healing to that situation.

847
01:03:29.920 --> 01:03:35.440
Okay. So sometimes that's going to happen, but it didn't happen until I started seeking the Lord

848
01:03:35.440 --> 01:03:42.160
about that other piece. Does that make sense, everyone? Okay. Awesome. All right. So I'm going

849
01:03:42.160 --> 01:03:46.560
to put you in your breakout rooms. You're going to talk about who do you need to forgive tonight

850
01:03:46.560 --> 01:03:52.800
and why? Who do you need to forgive tonight and why? Okay. I'm going to recreate these.

851
01:03:56.320 --> 01:04:02.320
Awesome. Ebony and any other leaders, stay with me. Go ahead and click to join those ladies. You

852
01:04:02.320 --> 01:04:04.640
have eight minutes. Keep it short, brief, and powerful. Okay.

853
01:04:09.440 --> 01:04:13.680
Yeah. Okay. So Christina, stay with me. Ebony, stay with me.

854
01:04:32.400 --> 01:04:33.680
Oh, sure.

855
01:04:40.640 --> 01:04:45.360
All right. Lord, we just thank you right now for revealings for healing that are happening.

856
01:04:45.360 --> 01:04:50.880
Lord, we thank you, God, that you're bringing forgiveness and, Lord, that we would have

857
01:04:50.880 --> 01:04:58.240
repentant hearts in the sense of that we wouldn't stay in postures of offense, bitterness, resentment,

858
01:04:58.240 --> 01:04:59.920
unforgiveness. God, I thank you.

859
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.680
that in Jesus name I bind and I break the spirits of unforgiveness, the spirits of bitterness,

860
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the spirits of resentment off of every one of these ladies, off of this community. We thank you

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Jesus that you came to abolish sin and death and I thank you that by your power Jesus and

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and through your blood I am able to stand in your authority and also lose the spirit of love and of

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power and of a sound mind, a spirit of forgiveness, a spirit of healing, a spirit of reconciliation.

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And we just thank you God for the work that you're doing in us, in our families,

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the ripple effects that are caused for eternity tonight as we choose to forgive.

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God I thank you for the people that are being brought up in our hearts Lord, the offenses that

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have come, the hardships that we have endured. God I thank you that we can place every one of

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these things at your feet and trust that you will work in them God, that you're doing a new

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thing in our hearts, in our lives, that we don't have to be a slave to the past, that we don't have

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to be ensnared by the weights and the things that bog us down, but Lord God we can be set free

871
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and experience just the yeah the glory and the joy and the internal peace God, that we don't have

872
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to strive for peace, that we can receive the fullness of who you are God as peace in the

873
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midst of every situation we go through. God we thank you that you would yes Lord refine us as

874
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if with refiners fire and you Lord would just remove the chaff anything that keeps us separated

875
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from you in any way we thank you Lord that you would just come right now and yeah Lord.

876
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Lord that you would just take I just keep seeing like a not it's not like a cleaning cloth but it

877
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looks like a white medical cloth and that God is just coming and he's cleaning up like as if the

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wounds were open and bloody and he's just cleaning up all the mess of the pain of the past that we've

879
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been through and Lord I just thank you for this I thank you God that you in a sense are in the

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supernatural um ICU room the ER rooms God that you're you're restoring um yes Lord stories from

881
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the foundations of the world you're redeeming family timelines right now Lord we thank you that

882
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in the supernatural realm Jesus you're you're interceding on our behalf I thank you God that

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even through tears and pain that these ladies will choose to forgive that they will trust that you're

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a good father who's working on their behalf yes Lord and even if we don't see the result of it in

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this world on this earth God we thank you that we can choose forgiveness that you've given us

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forgiveness and we can choose it too Lord I thank you that I do believe that we will see the goodness

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of God in the land of the living but even like Abraham and Sarah they waited Lord they they

888
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tarried and they waited and sometimes we we tarry and we wait for the promises to be fulfilled so

889
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Lord I thank you that you'll help us to not become weary and while doing for in due season we'll reap

890
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if we don't faint yes Lord I have the book turned right to this scripture Isaiah 66 9 and it says

891
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this I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born so Lord I thank you

892
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for the new things that are being born tonight yes Lord that even the pain of releasing these

893
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wounds that some of these ladies have Lord I thank you that as they release these into your care

894
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God that you're going to come and you're going to birth something new in them that there's purpose

895
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in their pain and I thank you that you're going to use it all for your glory as they surrender

896
01:08:47.200 --> 01:08:52.479
it to you God it wasn't your plan for them to suffer it wasn't your plan for them to go through

897
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the hardships that they endured God that that was an onslaught of the enemy to assault them

898
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to hinder them to derail them from your plans and your purpose but God I thank you that you sent Jesus

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to be the one to bring truth in life and to bring a way for us to live abundantly that he conquered

900
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sin and death as I said earlier and he gave us a way to victory that he is the victory so we fight

901
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from a place of victory we live from a place of victory we don't live for it we live from it so

902
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Lord I thank you that you'll help us to step into that truth tonight yes Lord help us to see all the

903
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ways that Jesus died and gave us the victory help us to recognize the thoughts in the areas where

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we're still living below your calling and your plan yes Lord I just saw in the in the spirit like a

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an image of like a little girl in a bush like just afraid to come out and I just heard the Holy

906
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Spirit just say to her it's okay it's safe now to come out so I just want to pray into that we're

907
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you that you are safe. Yes, Lord, that you're helping your

908
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daughters to come out a little bit further out of hiding

909
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tonight. I thank you that we don't have to be afraid. We

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don't have to cower in the bush and hide and be afraid to live

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in this world. Thank you, God. Yes, Lord, that you're a good

912
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father. I pray that you would help your daughters just to feel

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your presence and your loving and tender care just that you

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would wrap your arms around them in a safe way tonight and

915
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help them to experience your. Yeah, just the freedom that

916
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comes from recognizing that they are safe in you. We come against

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in Jesus name and by the power of your blood, Jesus, every

918
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spirit of fear and timidity. And we tell you to go in Jesus name

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that you can't reside here any longer. And we thank you, Holy

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Spirit, that you would just come and fill those places afresh,

921
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fill them up, Holy Spirit, to overflowing, help them to

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experience you, Holy Spirit, in a new and fresh way. We thank

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you, God, that you would bring truth and life. And yes, Lord,

924
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that you would prepare a table for them in the presence of

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their enemies. Yes, ladies, that's what happens when we turn

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things over to the father. We don't have to seek revenge. God

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just brings he brings so much good in our lives. And he

928
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prepares a table for us in the presence of our enemies, not

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just the people that we encounter in the world, but our

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the supernatural enemies that we are literally having to fight

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against. And we are gaining victory over these things. God

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has given us the victory and every day we can step more into

933
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that freedom and that victory. I thank you Lord that you're

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helping us take land y'all that's been in my spirit a lot

935
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for 2025. And it's already started in 2024 that he's

936
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leading us to places where we're going to take land for

937
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him, not only in our own life, but in our family's lives, in

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our kids lives and generations to come in our communities, that

939
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we can be those lights in a dark world that that Jesus is the

940
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light but he sent us to also be that that that city on a hill

941
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that lamp that's on a lampstand that shouldn't be hidden. So

942
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we just thank you that you'll continue to heal us and shine

943
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through us and that we can trust you in the process. Luke

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817 through 19 says this and I y'all these did not plan this

945
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because this revelation lamp now shines within you nothing will

946
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be hidden from you it will all be revealed every secret of the

947
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kingdom will be unveiled and out in the open made known by the

948
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revelation light. So pay careful attention to your hearts. As you

949
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hear my teaching for to those who have open hearts, even more

950
01:12:44.840 --> 01:12:48.960
revelation will be given to them until it overflows. And for

951
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those who do not listen with open hearts, what little light

952
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they imagine to have will be taken away. So Lord, we thank

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you for the light. We thank you for open hearts that would

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receive your truth, that we would be able to receive more

955
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and more of your revelation until it's overflowing in us

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for that we would not settle for less than your best that God

957
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every day that we would rise up and have a new hunger and

958
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thirst for your righteousness, for your word for relationship

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with you. Yes, Lord, that even in revelation, I forget where

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the scriptures at, but that we would return to our first love

961
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ladies, that we would return to our first love. What does that

962
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mean? Well, what was it like when you first gave your life to

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Jesus? How did that feel? And if you haven't given your life to

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Jesus yet, I hope you will. And if you haven't, I hope you'll

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talk to me about that. Okay. God is so good. You all a lot of

966
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freedom happening tonight. Some things again, Holy Spirit's

967
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bringing up a lot, even while y'all are in the breakout

968
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sessions. I hope it was really good while you were in there.

969
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Who is willing to share with everyone what you shared? Here,

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let me do this first. I almost forgot. I wanted to do this

971
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tonight because I didn't do it this afternoon. I think it'd be

972
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really good because I want to activate everybody because some

973
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of you all are you don't you're not sure yet if you want to

974
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share out loud and that's okay. So this is how we're going to

975
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get everybody involved. I want you to put in the chat for me if

976
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you're willing. Who are you forgiving tonight? And why? You

977
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don't have to write a big paragraph, but first name, you

978
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don't have to say their last name, first name, and why? Who

979
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are you forgiving tonight? Let's start to see those in the chat

980
01:14:28.880 --> 01:14:30.920
ladies. Let's just start to activate this. You're going to

981
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step right into it. Okay. Carly's forgiving her dad,

982
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anyone else? Anna's forgiving ex-boyfriend for manipulation.

983
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And Epi, Crystal, because she needs to let go of her mistakes.

984
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Okay, thank you, Crystal, for giving moms, forgiving

985
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yourselves. Yes, sister for betrayal. Y'all keep them

986
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coming. Okay, as as you're doing that, I'm going to start to chat

987
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with Shelly. Shelly would love to hear what you have to say.

988
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Oh, okay. Can you hear me? Okay. Yep. Okay. Yes. I did post it to this in the group, but

989
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I just didn't go back yet to see if there was a response. So I'm sorry if it's repetitive.

990
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I, um, I was just saying in the group, like sometimes I get worried. I'm like, Oh my gosh,

991
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am I actually able ever to forgive my parents? Like, I think I just, you know, my parents

992
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were very supportive growing up in one end. And then on another end, there was just a

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lot of rejection. And so, um, it's just something I feel like I've tried to forgive and tried

994
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to forgive and tried to forgive. And it's like, I never seem to be able to do it. But

995
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I was saying in the group, I wonder if part of the problem is maybe I do forgive, but

996
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then that's familiar feeling comes back up or a familiar experience comes back up. And

997
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instead of saying, no, I already forgave them. I agree with that familiar feeling or whatever.

998
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And then the next thing, you know, I'm just right back into it again. You know, yes, this

999
01:16:01.520 --> 01:16:06.880
is so good, Shelly. This is a very valid point, ladies. So what do we do if there's someone

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that's hurt us and we are still in relationship with us and they continue to hurt us, we gotta

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keep forgiving. Don't we? Yeah. And sometimes it can feel like, Oh my gosh, I'm not making

1002
01:16:18.160 --> 01:16:22.840
any progress where you are making progress, but what's happening is they maybe aren't

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changing. Okay. So for example, I feel, I feel bad. I feel bad. My mom's not on the

1004
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earth anymore, but she's a lot of my examples, partially because my dad just, it hasn't been

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01:16:34.640 --> 01:16:42.120
in my life really much at all. Um, but my mom, even just weeks before she passed away,

1006
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like was saying and doing things that were super hurtful and very public on social media,

1007
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uh, very mismanagement of social media, if I might say. And so that was difficult,

1008
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Shelly. So I can relate to you in the sense that what you're saying is, you know, that familiar

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thing happens, that familiar experience, and then we're taken right back in, not only to that

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01:17:05.360 --> 01:17:12.480
current thing, but a lot of times it can lead us back to core pain. And so we do have to remember

1011
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that hurt people, hurt people. Okay. And that doesn't excuse it. It doesn't minimize it ladies,

1012
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but we have to acknowledge that if we go into a situation and a dynamic expecting someone to be

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01:17:26.320 --> 01:17:33.840
healthy when they're not, when they're not healthy, we're expecting something of them that

1014
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they're not going to be able to give us. Yeah. Now, should we stop praying for them and believing

1015
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for change? No, of course we should keep praying, but I don't know if you all remember, again,

1016
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I don't remember when I talk about certain things sometimes, but we got to like, consider what hat

1017
01:17:52.720 --> 01:17:59.440
are we going into this dynamic with? Are we going in with the hat where we like God are in my heart's

1018
01:17:59.440 --> 01:18:05.520
wide open to anything they say to me, or even though I'm daughter, am I going to go in with

1019
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my hat of, you know what, I'm going to go in with the ministry mindset tonight

1020
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and understand that my mom is saying things to me through brokenness.

1021
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And I'm using your mom. It could be your dad too. Now, am I saying, I always was able to do that

1022
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perfectly? No. Some days it was like, you know, the enemy would always send things like that.

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At the times I was the most tired. Yeah. Right. So our defenses are down more. Aren't they ladies

1024
01:18:36.800 --> 01:18:42.000
when we're tired or hungry y'all in those, I forget what those couple things are. The tired,

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the hungry, whatever y'all probably know what I'm talking about, but like the enemy will come in

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those moments. And so Shelly want to encourage you. If that happens again, reach out to someone

1027
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like you can even come in the community and say, okay, this happened, you know, can, can you remind

1028
01:18:57.840 --> 01:19:05.600
me what's the truth? Okay. Okay. Because see, we, we are getting to know you as well. And we can

1029
01:19:05.600 --> 01:19:10.640
speak truth into you about who you are, no matter what other people are saying to you and ladies,

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that's the value of, of doing life with people. Now people can only speak into your life as much

1031
01:19:15.600 --> 01:19:20.800
as you like, let them into your life. Okay. So there's that reality too, especially online

1032
01:19:20.880 --> 01:19:25.920
ministry. We don't see you in the day to day. You know, we see you in the group as much as you share,

1033
01:19:25.920 --> 01:19:33.520
but that's, as far as that goes, unless we start to have in life in person interaction, but yeah,

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Shelly, that was a great example. And so you just do your best to forgive the most recent situation.

1035
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If God reveals other things to you along the way. Okay, great. Then process that. But it's probably

1036
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because this is a re these are recurring things, but one thing I wanted to ask you in particular,

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was on the rejection stuff. What is, what does that typically sound like?

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for you? Like, when you feel like they reject you, what does that sound like?

1039
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I mean, right now, I guess it sounds like, I think first and foremost, it's like they,

1040
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my, my parents just kind of in general, they are, I guess, peace at all costs kind of people.

1041
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So they don't, you know, when you're taught, if you bring up something, or you're talking about

1042
01:20:26.880 --> 01:20:32.640
something that's not pleasant, it's like they're, you know, even if it's worry, I mean, it doesn't

1043
01:20:32.640 --> 01:20:37.920
have to be like a mean thing, you know, it's like, this don't, they want to quickly change

1044
01:20:37.920 --> 01:20:42.240
the subject, they don't really want to talk about it, they kind of want to blow it off.

1045
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And somehow, I end up feeling like I did something wrong, like, oh, my gosh, I upset them, or,

1046
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oh, I wasn't like, the happy fun one in that moment. And so then it's like, I'll feel bad

1047
01:20:57.760 --> 01:21:05.280
about myself. Okay. So the reason I asked you that is because, as you were sharing,

1048
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you said they when you bring things up, even if it's something like worry, or, you know, basically,

1049
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what I'm hearing you say, let me say this as well, Shelly, is I hear you saying you have real life

1050
01:21:16.320 --> 01:21:23.600
emotions. Right? And sometimes you don't feel like you can actually share those real emotions

1051
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with your parents. And so I wrote down internalize emotions. So basically, you have to store those

1052
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and stuff those. And so I would encourage you just to ask the Lord to show you if there's any

1053
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areas where you have also at times rejected your own feelings or felt like you kind of expressed

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their felt like bad or guilt because you actually had feelings and emotions.

1055
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Right? My mom even growing up, like she used to say, you know, like you're a teenager. And I was

1056
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in that popular group of girls where there's always an excessive amount of drama. I mean,

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for heaven's sakes, just an excessive amount. I was on the dance team was just not. So it's like

1058
01:22:04.080 --> 01:22:10.080
you would I would come home and talk to my mom about those things. And like looking back, you

1059
01:22:10.080 --> 01:22:14.480
know, there was a lot of fun things that happened at school that day, too. But it was like, I think

1060
01:22:14.480 --> 01:22:19.760
that the drama with the girls, you know, it's like overwhelming to deal with. So that was the thing

1061
01:22:20.400 --> 01:22:25.520
I would come home and talk to my mom about, because, you know, you weren't sure what to do

1062
01:22:25.520 --> 01:22:30.320
with it, or you were worried, or it was unpleasant. And oh, my gosh, someone helped me feeling,

1063
01:22:30.320 --> 01:22:35.200
you know, and my mom would say to me, sometimes, don't you ever have anything good to say to me,

1064
01:22:35.200 --> 01:22:41.520
I want to hear good things. And that was like a common comment, you know, so I think sometimes I,

1065
01:22:41.520 --> 01:22:48.560
like I took it as like, I need to be responsible for my, like my parents emotions, you know,

1066
01:22:48.560 --> 01:22:53.680
and they and they are, they don't, they're not, they much prefer not to be emotional,

1067
01:22:53.680 --> 01:23:00.160
you know, just in general. And I think some of that not to excuse them, but just being a parent.

1068
01:23:00.800 --> 01:23:09.440
Sometimes, the flip side of that is that if we and I'm not saying you do Shelly, but if we think

1069
01:23:09.440 --> 01:23:13.200
because Jackie's even shared this about her daughter, Reagan before Reagan really struggled

1070
01:23:13.200 --> 01:23:18.480
with negativity when she was younger. And so Jackie would try to get her to think about the

1071
01:23:18.480 --> 01:23:24.720
positive things that happen, and and whatnot. But I do think there's a level of when I heard you

1072
01:23:24.720 --> 01:23:33.360
talking, I wrote down the word pain. You know, when we go through excessive drama with a girl

1073
01:23:33.360 --> 01:23:39.600
group, there can actually be pain underlying. And even though we're talking about all the drama,

1074
01:23:39.600 --> 01:23:45.680
really what we're trying to, we're trying to tell them that we're hurt in some way, or, you know,

1075
01:23:45.680 --> 01:23:51.920
we're feeling frustrated or angry, but like we're using all these words that sometimes people that

1076
01:23:51.920 --> 01:23:55.440
don't know how to handle emotion, or they don't want to live in that space.

1077
01:23:56.240 --> 01:24:01.200
They redirect it because they don't know what to do with it. Does that make sense?

1078
01:24:01.760 --> 01:24:08.560
Yeah, definitely. Okay. So as you move forward, I do want to encourage you just to really ask the

1079
01:24:08.560 --> 01:24:13.680
Lord if there's any self rejection, and if there's any pain from those situations that's still

1080
01:24:13.680 --> 01:24:19.600
residing there that needs healed. Like, like you mean pain from girl drama?

1081
01:24:20.160 --> 01:24:24.640
Yeah, pain from girl drama, because I do think that there could be some level of that still

1082
01:24:24.640 --> 01:24:30.000
underneath the surface, which could cause you to feel stuck regarding forgiving your mom or your

1083
01:24:30.000 --> 01:24:37.200
dad. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Thank you, Bethany. You're welcome. Anyone else who else is willing to share

1084
01:24:37.200 --> 01:24:42.240
tonight? Who are you forgiving? You want to say it out loud and share? I'm willing to share.

1085
01:24:42.800 --> 01:24:49.760
Awesome. Go ahead. I have, I tend to forgive other people pretty easily. I still have a couple

1086
01:24:49.760 --> 01:24:56.000
of people just kind of for not huge things, but I have a hard time and I don't really blame God

1087
01:24:56.000 --> 01:24:59.600
because I feel like everything that I've created the last

1088
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:02.760
really 15 years is my mess.

1089
01:25:02.760 --> 01:25:04.780
I'm the one that made the choices.

1090
01:25:04.780 --> 01:25:07.340
And so, and I have asked God for forgiveness

1091
01:25:07.340 --> 01:25:09.540
and I feel like he's forgiven me,

1092
01:25:09.540 --> 01:25:11.360
but I'm still, I kind of go back.

1093
01:25:11.360 --> 01:25:13.460
I still hold myself responsible.

1094
01:25:13.460 --> 01:25:15.300
Like, oh, you've created a mess.

1095
01:25:15.300 --> 01:25:17.540
And the little voices I hear in my head,

1096
01:25:18.500 --> 01:25:20.220
not as much anymore,

1097
01:25:20.220 --> 01:25:22.580
but still I have some bad days where I'm telling myself

1098
01:25:22.580 --> 01:25:25.300
because of everything you've done, you should be alone.

1099
01:25:25.300 --> 01:25:26.120
You need to be alone.

1100
01:25:26.120 --> 01:25:27.420
You need to be by yourself.

1101
01:25:27.420 --> 01:25:29.340
God doesn't want you to have anyone

1102
01:25:29.340 --> 01:25:31.460
because he gave you a chance and you messed everything up.

1103
01:25:31.460 --> 01:25:34.220
So I have a really hard time,

1104
01:25:37.340 --> 01:25:39.640
forgiving what I've done.

1105
01:25:39.640 --> 01:25:43.500
And I'm turning 51 soon.

1106
01:25:43.500 --> 01:25:45.660
And it's kind of like, I've kind of,

1107
01:25:45.660 --> 01:25:46.780
that's what brought me to this group.

1108
01:25:46.780 --> 01:25:48.220
I was going to a counselor and I've kind of,

1109
01:25:48.220 --> 01:25:49.700
I'm kind of having a midlife crisis.

1110
01:25:49.700 --> 01:25:52.420
Like, oh, but at this point in my life, I'm alone.

1111
01:25:52.420 --> 01:25:54.220
And God wants me to be alone.

1112
01:25:54.220 --> 01:25:56.940
So, and I don't really,

1113
01:25:57.300 --> 01:25:58.460
and on the other side of that,

1114
01:25:58.460 --> 01:26:00.540
I don't really blame him because I feel like

1115
01:26:00.540 --> 01:26:03.060
he wants me to be alone because of everything I've done.

1116
01:26:03.060 --> 01:26:04.460
He didn't do it to me.

1117
01:26:04.460 --> 01:26:05.620
Everything bad that's happened,

1118
01:26:05.620 --> 01:26:07.340
he gave me a great life growing up,

1119
01:26:07.340 --> 01:26:11.580
but I kind of screwed it up once I hit 25

1120
01:26:11.580 --> 01:26:14.460
and all the bad choices I made with men, so.

1121
01:26:17.300 --> 01:26:18.540
Thank you so much for sharing.

1122
01:26:18.540 --> 01:26:21.340
I was just trying to think where God wants me to take this.

1123
01:26:21.340 --> 01:26:24.780
So Susan, I have a couple of things.

1124
01:26:26.940 --> 01:26:27.940
As you started sharing,

1125
01:26:27.940 --> 01:26:29.660
there was a lot of kind of lies

1126
01:26:29.660 --> 01:26:30.900
that started surfacing there,

1127
01:26:30.900 --> 01:26:32.860
the things that I know that you've been processing

1128
01:26:32.860 --> 01:26:33.980
while you've been here in HeartWork,

1129
01:26:33.980 --> 01:26:38.180
but I want to encourage you to potentially write those down.

1130
01:26:39.540 --> 01:26:43.780
And so for example, one of the things you said was

1131
01:26:44.780 --> 01:26:49.180
God gave you a good life and you screwed it up, okay?

1132
01:26:49.180 --> 01:26:51.140
But I want you to write it down and ask God

1133
01:26:51.140 --> 01:26:53.660
for what the truth is from his perspective.

1134
01:26:54.100 --> 01:26:56.300
So what does he want to tell you about it?

1135
01:26:57.220 --> 01:27:00.900
What does he want to tell you about the gift of the last,

1136
01:27:00.900 --> 01:27:02.860
let's just say, 25 years?

1137
01:27:04.980 --> 01:27:07.140
And here's the reality, ladies,

1138
01:27:07.140 --> 01:27:09.580
is that God can make something new

1139
01:27:09.580 --> 01:27:11.540
and make it like redeem time.

1140
01:27:11.540 --> 01:27:13.100
I'm not saying it's going to be like,

1141
01:27:13.100 --> 01:27:14.820
we didn't live those 25 years

1142
01:27:14.820 --> 01:27:16.660
like that you're talking about, Susan,

1143
01:27:16.660 --> 01:27:18.860
but I can tell you, like, even myself,

1144
01:27:18.860 --> 01:27:21.100
I felt like, man, I wasted six years

1145
01:27:21.220 --> 01:27:24.020
and God told me not to keep going with that guy and I did.

1146
01:27:24.020 --> 01:27:24.860
And, you know, like,

1147
01:27:24.860 --> 01:27:27.820
that's what the enemy wanted me to get stuck there.

1148
01:27:27.820 --> 01:27:30.780
Just like not letting myself be free

1149
01:27:30.780 --> 01:27:32.380
and feeling like I ruined everything

1150
01:27:32.380 --> 01:27:33.460
and I wasted six years.

1151
01:27:33.460 --> 01:27:34.900
And that was six years I could have been having,

1152
01:27:34.900 --> 01:27:36.260
like working on having a baby.

1153
01:27:36.260 --> 01:27:37.860
And, you know, all these things

1154
01:27:37.860 --> 01:27:40.420
that the enemy wanted me to go down that path.

1155
01:27:41.700 --> 01:27:43.580
But I had to choose like, you know what?

1156
01:27:43.580 --> 01:27:47.420
No, not today, devil, not today.

1157
01:27:47.420 --> 01:27:49.500
I'm not going to let that happen.

1158
01:27:49.860 --> 01:27:53.180
I'm not going on that journey with you today

1159
01:27:53.180 --> 01:27:54.580
or tomorrow or the next day.

1160
01:27:54.580 --> 01:27:56.980
But you know why, you know how it changed

1161
01:27:56.980 --> 01:27:59.100
is I started writing the lies out

1162
01:27:59.100 --> 01:28:00.660
and then I would cross the lies out

1163
01:28:00.660 --> 01:28:01.980
and I put the truth on the paper

1164
01:28:01.980 --> 01:28:03.820
and I would hang that stuff up

1165
01:28:03.820 --> 01:28:05.580
and I would look at it and I would read it

1166
01:28:05.580 --> 01:28:07.900
and I would declare the truth over myself

1167
01:28:07.900 --> 01:28:10.220
because God is not a man that he should lie.

1168
01:28:10.220 --> 01:28:12.220
And if he says he can make all things new,

1169
01:28:12.220 --> 01:28:14.020
then he can make all things new.

1170
01:28:14.020 --> 01:28:16.500
And if I'm his daughter and he says he forgives me

1171
01:28:16.500 --> 01:28:20.100
and he removes my sins as far as the East is from the West,

1172
01:28:21.060 --> 01:28:24.580
then he can do that right now for that last six years

1173
01:28:24.580 --> 01:28:27.380
that I felt like I wasted that time.

1174
01:28:27.380 --> 01:28:28.220
But you know what?

1175
01:28:28.220 --> 01:28:30.300
It wasn't wasted, one second of it.

1176
01:28:30.300 --> 01:28:32.140
You know, I learned, I said this this afternoon,

1177
01:28:32.140 --> 01:28:34.460
I learned so much from that time.

1178
01:28:35.540 --> 01:28:38.220
And it's a lot of my content that I coach from.

1179
01:28:38.220 --> 01:28:39.660
I mean, I coach from my marriage too,

1180
01:28:39.660 --> 01:28:43.060
but like, so there was so much heartache in that time.

1181
01:28:43.060 --> 01:28:44.820
Would I wish that on myself again?

1182
01:28:44.820 --> 01:28:46.140
No, absolutely not.

1183
01:28:47.020 --> 01:28:49.500
I wouldn't, but I wouldn't have my girls.

1184
01:28:49.500 --> 01:28:51.900
I wouldn't have the understanding that I have.

1185
01:28:51.900 --> 01:28:54.620
I wouldn't, you know, there's so many things

1186
01:28:54.620 --> 01:28:57.700
that I learned about even psychological things

1187
01:28:57.700 --> 01:29:00.020
that people experience and go through

1188
01:29:00.020 --> 01:29:03.740
that I just didn't have that level of revelation.

1189
01:29:03.740 --> 01:29:05.500
I don't think God did that to me.

1190
01:29:05.500 --> 01:29:09.060
Y'all, he was trying to lead me out of that all the time.

1191
01:29:10.020 --> 01:29:10.860
Yeah.

1192
01:29:10.860 --> 01:29:14.060
But here's the thing, even though I chose that,

1193
01:29:15.660 --> 01:29:18.500
he knows in his grace and love for me,

1194
01:29:18.500 --> 01:29:20.300
he knows why I chose that.

1195
01:29:21.820 --> 01:29:23.540
It was because I was broken.

1196
01:29:24.860 --> 01:29:28.980
So why would he hold that over me and like chain me to it?

1197
01:29:31.940 --> 01:29:34.900
Yeah, I can completely relate to all that.

1198
01:29:34.900 --> 01:29:37.660
Yeah, so here's my next thing for you.

1199
01:29:37.660 --> 01:29:40.820
What I saw in the spirit is if, and again,

1200
01:29:40.820 --> 01:29:42.020
ladies, when I give you these things,

1201
01:29:42.020 --> 01:29:43.180
you don't have to be an artist, okay?

1202
01:29:43.180 --> 01:29:46.060
It can be a stick figure, okay, literally.

1203
01:29:46.060 --> 01:29:48.460
But I wanna encourage you to like,

1204
01:29:48.460 --> 01:29:50.500
if it's a stick figure or however you wanna draw it,

1205
01:29:50.500 --> 01:29:53.180
but you want a piece of paper with chains on you.

1206
01:29:53.180 --> 01:29:55.540
And what I saw in the spirit was like God coming

1207
01:29:55.540 --> 01:29:58.580
and putting his heart on every one of those chains

1208
01:29:58.580 --> 01:30:00.220
and the chains just breaking off.

1209
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:06.540
of you, but you have to see that and receive that in your spirit because you're not chained

1210
01:30:06.540 --> 01:30:09.060
to that stuff anymore.

1211
01:30:09.060 --> 01:30:15.840
If you believe you're free, but his love is what penetrates and brings the truth to those

1212
01:30:15.840 --> 01:30:23.040
places in our lives, ladies.

1213
01:30:23.040 --> 01:30:24.040
Thank you.

1214
01:30:24.040 --> 01:30:25.040
Yeah, that, that does help.

1215
01:30:26.040 --> 01:30:27.040
I make progress.

1216
01:30:27.040 --> 01:30:28.040
Yeah.

1217
01:30:28.040 --> 01:30:34.480
And you are, I make progress, but then sometimes I'll backtrack, I'll have bad days and, and

1218
01:30:34.480 --> 01:30:35.480
I'll backtrack.

1219
01:30:35.480 --> 01:30:40.160
Um, so, and I know that's the enemy of kind of, you know, I'm trying, I'm doing a lot

1220
01:30:40.160 --> 01:30:43.840
of stuff with my life right now and the, and I think the, I feel like I'm under attack

1221
01:30:43.840 --> 01:30:44.840
some days.

1222
01:30:44.840 --> 01:30:49.180
Um, cause I'll have a great day and then there'll just be one day that's really, really hard

1223
01:30:49.180 --> 01:30:51.680
and I'll start to hear the lies again.

1224
01:30:51.680 --> 01:30:58.200
So I like the idea of, of putting the lie, I have, I have some stuff on, I put some things

1225
01:30:58.200 --> 01:31:02.640
on my mirror, some, you know, positive things on my mirror and a verse as well.

1226
01:31:02.640 --> 01:31:09.840
I basically put on my mirror, um, you know, God, God has an amazing soulmate, you know,

1227
01:31:09.840 --> 01:31:11.160
waiting for you.

1228
01:31:11.160 --> 01:31:15.720
And then, um, or I think it says that God is actually preparing me for my soulmate and

1229
01:31:15.720 --> 01:31:18.000
then God is preparing my soulmate for me.

1230
01:31:18.000 --> 01:31:21.520
And then I have a verse, the one that says basically with God, all things are possible.

1231
01:31:21.520 --> 01:31:26.960
And so that helps to read it, but I like, I like the idea of basically the lie, crossing

1232
01:31:26.960 --> 01:31:29.400
it out and putting the truth.

1233
01:31:29.400 --> 01:31:34.840
Um, because yeah, I think that, I think it, it is all about the enemy because I'm doing,

1234
01:31:34.840 --> 01:31:39.360
you know, amazing things with my life right now and, you know, look, you know, my calling

1235
01:31:39.360 --> 01:31:40.360
and stuff.

1236
01:31:40.360 --> 01:31:42.400
I've, I'm starting to pursue that and I've never done that before.

1237
01:31:42.400 --> 01:31:47.600
So out of all of the bad that's that happened, I think it, you know, God, same thing.

1238
01:31:47.600 --> 01:31:52.080
God was trying to get me out of the abusive relationship for eight years and I just kept

1239
01:31:52.080 --> 01:31:53.280
staying.

1240
01:31:53.280 --> 01:31:58.160
But I think out of, you know, God can create amazing things out of bad things that, that

1241
01:31:58.160 --> 01:31:59.160
happened to you.

1242
01:31:59.160 --> 01:32:04.120
So I think that he's trying to create something good now and the enemy doesn't like that.

1243
01:32:04.120 --> 01:32:05.120
So yes.

1244
01:32:05.120 --> 01:32:06.120
Yes.

1245
01:32:06.120 --> 01:32:07.120
So good.

1246
01:32:07.120 --> 01:32:11.920
And ladies who, who can relate, anyone relate to what she said, how you'll start doing good

1247
01:32:11.920 --> 01:32:16.600
and then something will happen and you feel like maybe you took a few steps back.

1248
01:32:16.600 --> 01:32:19.560
Anyone else struggle with your thoughts?

1249
01:32:19.560 --> 01:32:20.560
Anybody else?

1250
01:32:20.560 --> 01:32:21.560
Yeah.

1251
01:32:21.560 --> 01:32:22.560
A lot of people.

1252
01:32:22.560 --> 01:32:23.560
I see people raising hands.

1253
01:32:23.560 --> 01:32:24.560
So here's the thing.

1254
01:32:24.560 --> 01:32:25.560
I wrote down the word inroads.

1255
01:32:25.560 --> 01:32:26.560
Okay.

1256
01:32:26.560 --> 01:32:32.760
I want you all to think about sometimes the reason that we struggle when pressure is applied

1257
01:32:32.760 --> 01:32:36.680
is because there's still areas there that there's inroads.

1258
01:32:36.680 --> 01:32:41.000
The enemy can kind of go take us down because we still have some more healing.

1259
01:32:41.000 --> 01:32:45.600
So want you all when that happens, even though we know some of it is just literally the enemy

1260
01:32:45.600 --> 01:32:46.600
attacking us.

1261
01:32:46.600 --> 01:32:47.600
Okay.

1262
01:32:47.600 --> 01:32:52.880
But if we start journeying down that road with him, typically it's because we're believing

1263
01:32:52.880 --> 01:32:57.560
a lie still, and we need healing there.

1264
01:32:57.560 --> 01:33:02.240
And so just be willing to ask him, you know, if there's a lie, you're still believing that's

1265
01:33:02.240 --> 01:33:09.840
causing you to get, you know, to go back into that thought process with him or journey down

1266
01:33:09.840 --> 01:33:11.440
that road with him, if you will.

1267
01:33:11.440 --> 01:33:16.000
And that doesn't mean you've gone completely back, but it just, I even do it.

1268
01:33:16.000 --> 01:33:17.000
Some days I even do it.

1269
01:33:17.000 --> 01:33:21.880
You all just that, that you start journeying down the road, like, and then it's like, wait

1270
01:33:21.880 --> 01:33:24.640
a minute, this isn't the road I'm supposed to be on.

1271
01:33:24.640 --> 01:33:28.560
And y'all, then we can just get in our car, if you will, spiritual car and drive to the

1272
01:33:28.560 --> 01:33:30.040
other road.

1273
01:33:30.040 --> 01:33:34.040
And I'm not trying to simplify it, but that is literally what we can do.

1274
01:33:34.040 --> 01:33:35.440
Okay.

1275
01:33:35.440 --> 01:33:37.640
So I'm going to start to close tonight.

1276
01:33:37.640 --> 01:33:41.680
Here are your activations for this week.

1277
01:33:41.680 --> 01:33:44.600
And there are two.

1278
01:33:44.600 --> 01:33:49.480
We were talking earlier about vows that you all have made, whether you know what they

1279
01:33:49.480 --> 01:33:55.360
are yet or not that, you know, happen subconsciously that impact us, but I want to talk about never

1280
01:33:55.360 --> 01:33:56.360
will I ever list.

1281
01:33:56.360 --> 01:33:59.720
And I'm going to do this real quick.

1282
01:33:59.720 --> 01:34:03.720
Some of you all will, when I ask you to make this list, you're going to make a never will

1283
01:34:03.720 --> 01:34:06.760
I ever list, and you're going to share it in the group.

1284
01:34:06.880 --> 01:34:07.880
Okay.

1285
01:34:07.880 --> 01:34:10.680
You're going to create a post and you're going to say, this is what my current never will

1286
01:34:10.680 --> 01:34:12.440
I ever list is.

1287
01:34:12.440 --> 01:34:18.560
So never will I ever date someone that does this looks like this, you know, whatever,

1288
01:34:18.560 --> 01:34:20.160
that's what your list is going to be.

1289
01:34:20.160 --> 01:34:27.360
And these are going to be made up of your preferences or never will I evers that have

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formed out of trauma or pain or hurt that you've been through.

1291
01:34:32.760 --> 01:34:36.720
You do not have to, and it's okay if you do, cause we'll just redirect you, but you

1292
01:34:36.720 --> 01:34:43.040
do not have to say things like never will I ever date someone abusive.

1293
01:34:43.040 --> 01:34:44.640
We hope you will not do that.

1294
01:34:44.640 --> 01:34:45.640
Okay.

1295
01:34:45.640 --> 01:34:46.640
So that is a given.

1296
01:34:46.640 --> 01:34:47.640
Okay.

1297
01:34:47.640 --> 01:34:51.640
So don't feel like you have to say those kinds of things.

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01:34:51.640 --> 01:34:56.440
What we are looking for when you put these, there's going to be some that basically will

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01:34:56.440 --> 01:34:59.680
reveal to us some areas you might need some more healing.

1300
01:34:59.680 --> 01:35:00.680
Okay.

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01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:04.280
Cause some of our never will I ever, as I said, come out of pain.

1302
01:35:04.280 --> 01:35:09.120
So never will I ever date Larry or John, you know, I gave that example earlier.

1303
01:35:09.120 --> 01:35:11.440
Never will I ever date someone who's in ministry.

1304
01:35:11.440 --> 01:35:16.080
Never will I ever, I know this might sound like silly, but we had someone this last week

1305
01:35:16.080 --> 01:35:21.180
in the community, they were like, I came across this guy and I don't know that this person

1306
01:35:21.180 --> 01:35:25.040
is her spirit mate, but she wasn't sure she wanted to continue dating him.

1307
01:35:25.040 --> 01:35:29.320
There was a couple of reasons, but one of the reasons is he has two big dogs and I think

1308
01:35:29.320 --> 01:35:33.280
his house is dirty, but she's never been in his house.

1309
01:35:33.280 --> 01:35:35.720
So here's the deal.

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01:35:35.720 --> 01:35:41.880
You all, I lovingly asked her some questions, kind of nudged on that.

1311
01:35:41.880 --> 01:35:47.400
And lo and behold, when she was younger, her uncle, they used to go visit him all the time.

1312
01:35:47.400 --> 01:35:54.000
I think she said he had a farm, but his house was really dirty and he had a bunch of dogs.

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01:35:54.000 --> 01:36:01.360
So sometimes there's things that we, we have these thoughts, Aubrey, they can be however

1314
01:36:01.360 --> 01:36:03.600
many you need to write down.

1315
01:36:03.600 --> 01:36:04.600
Okay.

1316
01:36:04.600 --> 01:36:07.440
If your list is long, go ahead and write the long list.

1317
01:36:07.440 --> 01:36:10.280
Cause we're going to help you unpack that list.

1318
01:36:10.280 --> 01:36:13.240
Here's the other thing that we're going to teach you how to do.

1319
01:36:13.240 --> 01:36:15.880
So go ahead and put them on your list if you have them, but we're going to start to help

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01:36:15.880 --> 01:36:20.600
you identify God non-negotiables.

1321
01:36:20.600 --> 01:36:28.440
So what these mean is if you are someone that still wants to have a baby, that's a God non-negotiable.

1322
01:36:28.440 --> 01:36:30.440
Okay.

1323
01:36:30.440 --> 01:36:38.120
If you are someone that, you know, you like for me, I have a calling on my life for ministry.

1324
01:36:38.120 --> 01:36:45.380
I knew I had to find someone that also had a calling on their life for ministry because

1325
01:36:45.380 --> 01:36:49.760
of the way that God and I are running the race.

1326
01:36:49.920 --> 01:36:56.440
Now, ladies, I'm not saying this means I have to say and decide what my husband's relationship

1327
01:36:56.440 --> 01:37:01.240
with the Lord looks like, sounds like, how he prays, when he prays, how much does he

1328
01:37:01.240 --> 01:37:02.240
read his Bible?

1329
01:37:02.240 --> 01:37:03.240
That's not what I'm saying.

1330
01:37:03.240 --> 01:37:04.240
Okay.

1331
01:37:04.240 --> 01:37:06.320
I want to make sure that's real clear.

1332
01:37:06.320 --> 01:37:10.960
Y'all will learn more about this in the days ahead, but I'm just talking about, I knew

1333
01:37:10.960 --> 01:37:14.640
that I needed to be able to look over and see my spirit mate run.

1334
01:37:14.640 --> 01:37:15.640
And here's why.

1335
01:37:15.640 --> 01:37:19.620
I had been in multiple relationships before where that was not the case.

1336
01:37:19.620 --> 01:37:23.080
And I've, I always felt like I was trying to pull people along.

1337
01:37:23.080 --> 01:37:26.080
That was not God's plan for me.

1338
01:37:26.080 --> 01:37:29.480
And I knew that this last time around more than ever.

1339
01:37:29.480 --> 01:37:30.480
Okay.

1340
01:37:30.480 --> 01:37:31.480
All right.

1341
01:37:31.480 --> 01:37:32.840
So never will I ever list.

1342
01:37:32.840 --> 01:37:33.840
Here's your other one.

1343
01:37:33.840 --> 01:37:34.840
This one's a quicker explanation.

1344
01:37:34.840 --> 01:37:37.200
We're going to do a clean out and purge.

1345
01:37:37.200 --> 01:37:40.760
You all were, we're nearing the end of the year.

1346
01:37:40.760 --> 01:37:44.960
And some of you all are going to be finishing up your heartwork and this week, next week,

1347
01:37:44.960 --> 01:37:48.720
the next week after that, but in December, a lot of you all are going to finish up your

1348
01:37:48.720 --> 01:37:53.280
heartwork and I want you to start your new year with less weight in the spirit.

1349
01:37:53.280 --> 01:38:00.080
So you're going to ask the Lord to show you, what do you need to get rid of?

1350
01:38:00.080 --> 01:38:02.120
What do you need to purge?

1351
01:38:02.120 --> 01:38:05.360
Some of y'all need to declutter in your houses.

1352
01:38:05.360 --> 01:38:11.200
Some of you need to go through your phones and get rid of old boyfriend, text messages,

1353
01:38:11.200 --> 01:38:12.200
photos.

1354
01:38:12.200 --> 01:38:13.200
Some of you all.

1355
01:38:13.200 --> 01:38:16.720
And I always say this because if some of you all are in court cases, totally different

1356
01:38:16.720 --> 01:38:17.720
advice for you.

1357
01:38:17.720 --> 01:38:20.720
You need to listen to lawyers and all of that stuff.

1358
01:38:20.720 --> 01:38:26.200
But some of you all like myself, I did not have a court case, but I kept evidence on

1359
01:38:26.200 --> 01:38:32.640
my ex quite frequently because he cheated so many times and I was searching and trying

1360
01:38:32.640 --> 01:38:33.640
to protect myself.

1361
01:38:33.640 --> 01:38:38.200
And so I had all these screenshots of all these women that were halfway dressed.

1362
01:38:38.200 --> 01:38:42.080
And I would go through my phone sometimes not looking for that stuff, forgot that it

1363
01:38:42.080 --> 01:38:46.320
was there and like, Oh man, take me right back to that moment.

1364
01:38:46.320 --> 01:38:47.320
Okay.

1365
01:38:47.320 --> 01:38:50.560
I needed to get rid of that stuff.

1366
01:38:50.560 --> 01:38:55.120
Some of you all will need to get rid of, you know, shirts or things that people gave you

1367
01:38:55.120 --> 01:39:00.200
that every time you wear it or see it, even if it's in your drawer and in the seasons

1368
01:39:00.200 --> 01:39:03.120
change, you see that thing and you feel something.

1369
01:39:03.120 --> 01:39:04.120
Okay.

1370
01:39:04.120 --> 01:39:08.040
I can't tell you what to get rid of, but that's something that you will need to pray about

1371
01:39:08.880 --> 01:39:09.880
and ask the Lord.

1372
01:39:09.880 --> 01:39:10.920
It can be all kinds of things.

1373
01:39:10.920 --> 01:39:17.080
So just stay open to whatever the Lord shows you, even if you don't understand it, obey,

1374
01:39:17.080 --> 01:39:18.080
obey and get rid of it.

1375
01:39:18.080 --> 01:39:19.080
Okay.

1376
01:39:19.080 --> 01:39:20.080
All right.

1377
01:39:20.080 --> 01:39:21.080
We're at nine 39.

1378
01:39:21.080 --> 01:39:23.000
So I'm going to close this out.

1379
01:39:23.000 --> 01:39:27.040
You all, I want to hear more about the forgiveness and stuff in the group this week.

1380
01:39:27.040 --> 01:39:30.200
You know, who's God leading you to forgive as you're processing.

1381
01:39:30.200 --> 01:39:34.040
If you guys have questions about the content that you're going through, please ask, just

1382
01:39:34.040 --> 01:39:35.320
ask questions.

1383
01:39:35.320 --> 01:39:36.520
We'll help you.

1384
01:39:36.520 --> 01:39:39.920
We'll get in there and answer them as quick as we can.

1385
01:39:39.920 --> 01:39:41.320
And we're going to have a good time.

1386
01:39:41.320 --> 01:39:43.320
So I'm going to go ahead and pray for us, father.

1387
01:39:43.320 --> 01:39:45.520
Thank you so much.

1388
01:39:45.520 --> 01:39:48.120
Oh, crystal.

1389
01:39:48.120 --> 01:39:49.120
Yes.

1390
01:39:49.120 --> 01:39:50.120
One more thing.

1391
01:39:50.120 --> 01:39:52.680
Crystal made a sheet to help you all.

1392
01:39:52.680 --> 01:39:57.360
Well, she did it for herself, but she's offering it to you all where you can write down the

1393
01:39:57.360 --> 01:39:58.560
revealing for healing.

1394
01:39:58.560 --> 01:39:59.560
So if you all.

1395
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:03.680
need or want that you can post in the group that you would love to have that

1396
01:40:04.400 --> 01:40:10.720
and we'll try to get you connected with crystal to do that okay all right father thank you so

1397
01:40:10.720 --> 01:40:16.400
much for just everything you've already done tonight god thank you for lord just that reminder

1398
01:40:16.400 --> 01:40:22.640
of the forgiveness that jesus died on the cross to give us help us to give forgiveness away we

1399
01:40:22.640 --> 01:40:27.680
thank you for the reminder that forgiveness is not a feeling it's a choice help us to choose

1400
01:40:27.760 --> 01:40:32.480
to forgive this week help us to let go of bitterness and resentments and unforgiveness

1401
01:40:32.480 --> 01:40:38.640
and help us to step into the healing waters the living waters that are flowing help us to step

1402
01:40:38.640 --> 01:40:44.240
into that place with you jesus to be washed and renewed by the washing of the water of the word

1403
01:40:44.240 --> 01:40:49.040
to be renewed and transformed by the renewing of our minds that all old things would pass away and

1404
01:40:49.040 --> 01:40:54.560
behold everything would become new in you and i thank you lord that you remind us of your love

1405
01:40:54.560 --> 01:41:00.720
for us help us to have a fresh vision of who you are as our good father and what it feels like

1406
01:41:00.720 --> 01:41:07.600
and looks like to just be adored by you i thank you lord that you would give them upgrades

1407
01:41:07.600 --> 01:41:13.520
supernaturally even tonight while they sleep god i pray that you would um yeah lord we thank you

1408
01:41:13.520 --> 01:41:18.800
for supernatural surgeries that are going to happen tonight while ladies are sleeping that

1409
01:41:18.800 --> 01:41:23.360
you're just they're going to wake up and just feel different i thank you lord that you would

1410
01:41:23.360 --> 01:41:27.840
give them revelation insight where it's needed the most god where they're struggling where they

1411
01:41:27.840 --> 01:41:35.600
feel overwhelmed we just speak peace be still in jesus name amen ladies we love you we're so glad

1412
01:41:35.600 --> 01:41:39.600
that you're here a part of this community and we look forward to seeing you in the group have an

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01:41:39.600 --> 01:41:44.960
amazing night everyone bye bye thank you bethany bye