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Okay. Well, welcome, ladies. Today is, what is today? Today is December 10th. It's just

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flying by. This is your phase two live check-in here at one o'clock Eastern. I am Carla Johnson.

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I'm one of your dating coaches here in phase two. It's always such a pleasure and an honor

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to be here as I am a success story from Jackie's program. I joined in September, October of

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2020. And so it's just such a blessing to always still come here and be a support to

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you ladies as well and help you on your journey. Always brings me lots of joy. So just curious

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how many, I know we don't have a lot on our one o'clock call. There's a couple of you,

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but if you're new to phase two, if you can just put your little avatar hand up. Yes,

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Esther. So nice to see you. Thank you for turning your camera on. Totally appreciate

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it. And it was Lavina. She said she'll be right here. And then Suzanne is finishing

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up work. And she will get her camera on in a few minutes. That's awesome. I love it. Good,

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good, good to see you late ladies. And there'll probably be more that we'll jump on here in the

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next couple of minutes, but I'm going to go ahead and get us started. So we kind of stay on track

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for time. Want to be mindful of that. I know it's a busy time of year. Life is just crazy. I don't

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know. I can't speak for you all, but I know for me, it's just the holidays can get a little bit

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insane. So some housekeeping items to go over. I want to let you ladies know that this Thursday,

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the 12th at eight o'clock Eastern, there is a special session that you all are invited to. I

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want to encourage you ladies to go. It's going to be on the title is how to hear God. And it's,

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it's absolutely wonderful. Bethany Hicks is a friend of Jackie and she's the one that will

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be teaching on this. I've had the pleasure of sitting in on many of her sessions when she

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teaches on this and it will just fill you. It will unlock things that you just don't even realize.

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Like you'll, I always find like every time I go to these sessions, like I learn a new way to hear

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from God, like, and who doesn't want to hear from God, right? So, strongly encourage you to

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go to that. It is, the link is going to be under your events tab on our app. So make sure that

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you're, you're navigating that app and checking out that, that event page so that you get all of

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the things. Okay. So, you know, what's going on, where to be all that good stuff. So, but again,

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I'm going to emphasize it's super, super important for you ladies to check it out. Even if you can't

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make it live, catch it in the replay. All right. And then the other thing that I need to let you

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ladies know that's important to this session, this special session is we do a thing called

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prophesy your year. So it's something that Jackie's done since, gosh, I can remember. I mean, I think

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we did it even when I was in the program, like I was on one of the OGs. And so it started in 2020,

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but I think we even did it in 2021, the prophesy your year. So that's a special event.

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It does come at an additional cost, but it's, it's really, really great event. I would encourage

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you ladies to also sign up for that. But what's important to know is that if you are going to

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participate in prophesy your year, you have to watch the, how to hear from God. Okay. So it's

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like a prerequisite. So if you want to attend the prophesy your year, you have to also attend

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this Thursday's special session, how to hear from God taught by Bethany Hicks. Now, again,

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it doesn't mean if you can't make it to Thursday, cause maybe you got a full Christmas party to go

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to or a hot date that it's okay. We'll put it in replay. So you make sure that you watch it

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and replay if you want to attend the prophesy your year. Cool. Good. Thumbs up. Awesome. The next thing

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that's important to let you ladies know is if you haven't seen it already, there is the last trip

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single to Columbia. That is the second annual. Okay. So last year some ladies went to Columbia

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and they're doing it again. Okay. So that is under the resource resource tab.

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and the app.

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So if you are interested in signing up for that

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and want more information,

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definitely check out the resource tab.

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So don't miss those things if you want to be part of it.

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Okay?

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Just a friendly reminder,

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make sure you ladies are showing up on these live calls,

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which y'all are here with me right now.

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But if you're in replay,

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you're watching this in replay,

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put it on your calendar.

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Let's come live.

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We got one o'clock Eastern, eight o'clock Eastern, okay?

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PM for both of those.

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So put it on your calendar,

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make an effort to come live.

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It's always, you get so much more, I think, by coming live.

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Not that you can't get good stuff by listening to replay,

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but I always think the live calls

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always do me a better service than anything.

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So remember, one training video a week,

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share with us in the app,

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don't be a stranger in the app.

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Let us know what's going on in your life, okay?

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Super, super important

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so that you get the most out of this program, okay?

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And then when you've finished everything in phase two,

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so you've been here four to five weeks minimum,

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you've watched the five videos,

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you've come to lives,

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then you're good to go with phase three.

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That's when you would request

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through admin at JackieDorman.com to say,

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hey, I've completed phase two,

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I'm ready to move on to phase three,

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can you please put me there?

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So just keep that in mind

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and connect here with your sisters, all right?

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So with that being said, I'm curious,

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last week, for those of you that were here,

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we started putting up your contact information in the chat

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and I wanted to activate you ladies

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into connecting with your sisters here in this community

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and I'm curious, how many of you have done that?

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Jill did, anybody else?

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Laveena, she did as well, good.

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So I'm like, if you want, I would love to hear

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like, how's that going?

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Like, are you ladies finding it's easy to connect?

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Like, and while we do that,

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why don't we go ahead and start putting

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our contact information in the chat right now?

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All right, so.

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This is Holly.

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I popped on because I'm having trouble finding the chat.

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I'm on my phone.

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I'm having trouble finding the chat section.

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Oh, here it is.

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You got it?

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Okay, perfect.

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So yeah, I know our app is a little more tricky,

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like we can't direct message like you couldn't,

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like you can on Facebook,

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but that's why I want to encourage you ladies

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to go ahead and put your contact information

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in the chat here and start connecting,

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like put your email or your cell phone,

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and then maybe like where you live

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so that ladies see kind of your location,

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your demographic, like what's going on.

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And so I found when I was in this community,

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like linking arms with my sisters here

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and building relationship with the women here

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just poured more into my life in this experience.

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And, you know, I made lifelong friends in this community.

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Many of the women that I met in this community,

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and even some of the guys that were in our men's community,

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like they were invited to my wedding, you know,

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and a lot of those people came.

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And I had some that were in my wedding party.

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And so you'll be surprised,

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like it really is beneficial if you're able to do that.

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So I do want to like leave a little bit of space here early

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just to kind of let you ladies kind of share with me,

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like if you reach out to somebody,

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like what did you learn?

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Who did you connect with?

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Like how did that work?

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Also, if you were here last week or watched replay,

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I had you activate,

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like what has God done in your path that he was faithful?

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Like he answered a prayer.

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And I made a post and lots of you shared

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how he's been faithful to you.

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And so I'm going to just leave a little bit of space

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at the moment.

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If any of you want to unmute and take about like 90 seconds

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and share like how did those activations,

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how did those connections pan out for you this week?

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Can I go?

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Yes, Lavinia.

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Yeah, so it's a bit of a small one,

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but I relocated to Jersey about a year and a half ago.

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it's kind of like a channel island between UK and France.

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from the UK to Jersey, I had to open a new bank account

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and all new details and so forth.

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And I got a message to say that they were gonna close down

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my account because they changed their criteria and whatnot.

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in one of the group chats, one of the life prayers

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and that was on the eighth.

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So I was panicking a bit, but today I got an email.

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It was an apology letter from the bank

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and I hadn't even contacted them to say that,

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you know, everything's fine.

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They said, they're only gonna shut down.

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They're still shutting down people's bank accounts,

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but mine's not one of them, so.

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Oh, thank God.

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So yeah, like see, we can just,

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we can cast our cares on him.

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He like, he just knows, right?

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So good.

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I love that.

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Happy about that.

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Thank you for sharing.

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Suzanne, you are in the Sarasota area.

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That is awesome.

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That's where I was originally.

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I was living there.

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So that's so cool.

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Like when I joined this community,

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I swear I was like, there's no one in this area.

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that that's where you're at.

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Like I, my husband lives in the Dallas, Fort Worth area.

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So he pulled me from the sunny state of Florida.

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I told Jackie early on, I was like, I was not moving.

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And she was like, are you sure?

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You sure you don't wanna move?

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And once I released that pin,

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and it took me a couple of years,

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soon as I released that, my husband came

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and now I live in Dallas and it's a little chilly.

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But I see that you have some winter gear today

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because you are in Minnesota.

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Ah, so good to see you.

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So Sarasota, I wanna pick your brain a little bit here.

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So how did you land there?

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Yeah, hey, that's so fun that you still live there.

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That's awesome.

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I'm born and raised in Minnesota, Southern Minnesota.

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I just knew God was calling me, leading me,

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taking me on a wild adventure type of thing.

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And it's a really long story.

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I won't get into all that right now,

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but I knew it had to do with Florida.

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but like God was in it too.

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when I first moved there,

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I lived on the other coast for just a little bit,

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but my heart has always been drawn to that region.

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And I know a few people like not super well,

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but I was down there and I like this whole thing

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has been trusting God for every step of the way,

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like where I'm going, how I'm getting there,

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where I'm gonna live, all of it.

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And a door opened up in Sarasota

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about a year and a half ago

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with a couple that was going to Israel for two months.

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They needed a pet and house sitter.

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who's from Sarasota originally,

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but she was up in Minnesota like six years ago

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with some ministry that I was connected to.

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We became Facebook friends.

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And she was the link like between me and this couple

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that needed a pet house sitter for two months

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while they were in Israel.

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I didn't know where I was gonna be living yet.

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I just knew I was supposed to be there.

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So I'm like, I'm interested.

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So I lived in their house for, it was two months in Sarasota

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and I really liked this area a lot.

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It's beautiful.

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Then they had a little rental next door

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that I ended up renting from them for a while,

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which having mold and it turned to this huge thing

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and it's been part of this like health healing journey

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That's what got me to Sarasota.

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about maybe an hour South of there

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by like Northport Englewood area type of thing.

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I do love, it's been a great thing,

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but I'm up with family right now.

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My nephew just got married.

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That's so awesome.

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I love that.

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And one thing I just love about your story, ladies,

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Suzanne and what I wanna share with you ladies

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and what I really felt God and Holy Spirit

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kind of put on me when you were talking

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is God using people to connect you

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to somewhere where he wanted you.

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that same thing can happen in your love story.

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You never know who God wants to bring into your life

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because they're gonna be a connection to your spirit mate.

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And that's why I think it's so important

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for you ladies to connect to one another here

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because one of your sisters here

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may be that connection to your husband.

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Cause that's what happened to me.

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And that's what reminded me.

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I'm like, man, there's just, God knows.

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And Jackie's taught on this before, she has a story about this Candace woman, and I'm

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not sure if it's any of our trainings in phase two, but I've heard it a handful of times.

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So at some point, if you haven't heard it, you'll hear the story of Candace.

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And Jackie talks about God knows who you are, He knows where you are, He knows what you

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need, and He knows how to get it to you.

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And so I just, I'm always just blown away by God's goodness and His intricate details

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in that.

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And so that's what it reminded me of.

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And that's why I again, encourage you ladies to connect with some of your sisters here

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because you just never know what God wants to do to you and in you and bless you.

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Yeah, so yeah, I think it is phase one, Teresa, thank you, because I feel like I'm going back

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and I'm watching a lot of the phase one heartwork stuff currently, and I do, I think that's

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where I like rose reminded of it.

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So you're probably right.

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So good stuff.

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All right, anybody else want to take like 90 seconds if you guys want to unmute if somebody

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wants to unmute and kind of share how your week was with some of the activations connecting

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or, you know, the faithfulness of God that you were reminded of.

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This is Holly.

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I'm planning at school and I can't figure out how to put my camera on, but I got to

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connect with Jill since last time and that's been really encouraging and I think we're

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going to try to go ice skating or maybe find a meetup group event to do in town.

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And that's been encouraging.

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And then something in the activation God has played 25 years ago, God placed a desire

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in my heart to be a missionary and the TV and film industry and also for a Christ's

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honorary marriage.

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And now I'm 25 years later, the film part is starting to unfold and over Christmas break,

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I'm filming a proof of concept for a TV series I want to pitch to either Great American Family

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or Angel Studios, working with the acting coach on it.

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And it's evolved.

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At first I thought it was just something about my funny dating stories, but now it's evolved

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into something that's focused on kingdom marriage, kingdom minded families, and just the evolution

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of approaching dating from a worldly way to approaching it through like what Jackie does

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with the heart work in a godly way.

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And then just showing all phases of from singleness to dating, engagement, marriage, family.

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And I think it could be really encouraging because I don't think that's not being shown

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in the TV.

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Yeah, no, I think there's such, there's so much, I think, I mean, because like Jackie

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came into this and she's not the only one that has stuff like that, but, you know, just

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this strong belief that God wants his sons and daughters married.

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It is kingdom.

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Like he is pushing this movement through.

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So, you know, I, I totally think that he is just using lots of people and, and he wants

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to bring kingdom marriage back, back, you know?

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And so I think, I think that's amazing.

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I love it.

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Teresa, you have your hand up.

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I know I kind of see like, I don't want to catch you while you're doing this, but I want

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to give you like 90 seconds to share before we get into our session today.

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Making lunch.

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So got to multitask and all that.

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So it wasn't exactly your activations.

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It was more in the video.

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Was it the first one that the seven dates in whatever challenge?

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So I was thinking that, you know, like, as you know, I've been a little reluctant and

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I have to push myself into this whole dating thing.

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No, Teresa.

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Not at all.

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Well, I think it's part of being a widow though, you know, compared to absolutely going on

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your own journey.

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And that's totally fine.

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Like that's what even took me forever to stop saying I'm technically single, you know?

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So anyways, I, uh, before I went to my mission trip, I had sent out a message to three friends.

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And then when I got back from my mission trip, of course, nobody had anybody, which is what

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seems to happen.

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But, um, but then I felt ready to put up my profile.

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So I got a friend over and she helped me put up my profile and, uh, I've gone on, well,

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if you count the same guy, I've gone on like 50,000 dates, probably.

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So I had two duds, um, I jumped offline quickly.

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because they, the whole chatting was just excruciating.

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Yeah, they weren't my guy. So and the one guy I had kind of

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said, Well, you know, I'll give you a second date, because I

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thought he was kind of nervous and stuff like that. But then,

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then when I was on the way home, I started crying and missing my

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husband. And so I was like, I don't think that's a good sign

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that that he's probably not somebody I want to hang out with.

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Right? Yeah. So I just said online, basically, that I'm

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didn't feel we matched. So but then I've been chatting with

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someone who grew up in the same place that I did. And so it's

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strange, because I set my parameters for 80 miles. And I

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get this guy who lives where I used to live. Yes, I remember

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this. I put it in thing today. Anyway, so we chatted and it

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was super casual, because I thought, well, his his wife just

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died. Yeah, to go. And, and neither of us wanted to do

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distance. So it felt really safe.

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could ease into it.

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I felt like, okay, I can give this guy my phone number. I

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didn't give anyone else. But I gave him my phone number. And

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then we chatted a lot, like phoning and texting, but, you

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know, talking about our other dates.

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And he's having some companionship for sure. And he

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said, like in the beginning, he kind of said, Well, um, you

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know, I don't do distance, but I would practice flirting with

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you if you want to, because you know, neither of us have flirted

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for a while. And I said, Oh, yeah, I could do this. We met

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last week. And yeah, we're exclusive now.

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I know.

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I know. Isn't that crazy?

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Oh, Teresa,

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I'm so I get all giggly when I talk about him. So I could see

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it like, Oh, that's so good. Really well, holding it like

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ladies that all the time, like this loosely hold things. And

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you know, just that surrendering the pen, you know, and

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I didn't expect anything from it. So that's exactly what

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happened. I totally surrendered the pen. I thought, Oh, yeah,

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this will be, you know, fairly low key. And

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we really clicked. So a lot of times I think when we date and I

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don't I mean, I'm going to speak from my own experience. And even

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what I see here as a dating coach is when we put so much

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pressure on the dating, it just mucks things up. But when we can

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just enjoy the process and let God kind of move. Yeah, really

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does make make it enjoyable. And I always tell you ladies this

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like, I mean, I did this, okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna confess, I

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always before this program, and even the beginning when I

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started dating, being in this program, I looked at every date

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like, is this my husband? Like, you know, and I focused on that,

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like, Oh, I don't know, I don't know if I can marry a guy like

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this, or Oh, no, I don't like this about him, or I love this

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about him. And then I'd blow it up and fantasize about it. And

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it just really, it, it made things very confusing. And so I

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learned through this group, how to just enjoy the process and

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let God, you know, take the wheel, like Jesus, take the

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wheel, y'all. And when that happens, like, you know, God can

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really show up. I mean, God can show up any like, whether

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whatever, but I love that. I'm so thank you so much for sharing

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that, Teresa. I'm

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yeah, and actually, one of my friends really sees God's hand

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in the whole thing. Because I wasn't supposed to, like, we

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weren't supposed to match in the first place, because he put his

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parameters, local, and so did I. So we shouldn't have each

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other's profile. He actually recognized me, we weren't

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friends in high school. But he knew of you. Yeah, like, his

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sister was in my grade. So I knew who he was. And that's

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about it. Right. But he recognized me, I don't live

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there anymore. And yeah, so that's funny. It's funny you say

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that, because that's kind of even what happened with me and

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husband, I was not moving from Florida. I was like, that was

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just not a thing. And one of the sisters here, she saw his

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profile in a singles Christian Facebook group. And he shared

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that he traveled 10% of the year for work. And his work was based

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out of Clearwater, Florida. So in my mind, if his work is based

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there, that's where he's living. Right?

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He worked remotely living in Dallas and he would travel to Clearwater 10% of the year,

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but he didn't mention living in Texas anywhere in his profile. And so when I connected with him,

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I'm like, Oh, you're in Clearwater. I'm like an hour away in Sarasota. He's like, Oh, I,

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you know, I actually live in Texas. And a week prior, Jackie's like,

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Carla, you might need to just open the parameter. Like, I think you need to be open to moving.

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And I was like, you know what? My mentor said I need to, you know, be open to long distance and

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whatnot. So I said, we can give it a go. Like, so, and again, that's like you said, sometimes

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just God shows up and moves. And we, again, that was a non-negotiable for me was not moving.

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And y'all, I literally moved. So that was more of fear and, and also, and wanting to control

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a situation. And when I allowed God to kind of step in it, it, a beautiful love story unfolded.

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So I love it, Teresa. I'm so excited that you shared that. All right, ladies, let's go ahead

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and get started. I'm going to, I mean, we're like 27 minutes in here, but I think it's all good

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stuff. So yeah, we talked about activations that we did last week. Now I know I also gave you ladies

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an activation last week, and I didn't see anyone post about buying a Christmas gift for your future

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husband. So I'm going to leave that for this week. Cause I really feel this is going to unlock some

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partnership of, of taking hold of believing what God wants to do in your life. And he wants to

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bring you a husband. And sometimes when we, we can get in our minds and think like, oh, I want it,

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but I don't know if I can have it. I don't know if it's going to happen, but when we partner with

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it and we step into it and agree that that's going to happen and we do those steps, it just

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activates something in the spirit. And I don't, I think I shared this with you ladies last session

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that I purchased my wedding dress before I ever met my husband, because I was, you know, and that's

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a big purchase ladies. I mean, if y'all have ever even gone and looked at wedding dresses, you know,

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they're not cheap. And so that was a, and I was a single mom. And so it was a pretty penny, but I,

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I knew I needed a partner that I was a bride and God was going to bring me a husband and I was

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going to get to wear a wedding dress someday. And so I did that in 2021. And it wasn't until

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over a year is when I, after that, I met my husband and I ended up wearing my wedding,

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that wedding dress in like when I got married. And so, and that's why I think,

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I want you ladies to start thinking and asking Holy Spirit to highlight something about your

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husband, ask him to share with you something about him that will help you pick out a gift

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just for him. And I know, I think it was Joanna. I don't see her on here, but she shared in the app.

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She's like, I struggle at gift giving. And I was like, you know, I get that 100%. So I'm,

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and I've learned how to be a better gift giver over the years. And so I'm going to kind of share

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a little bit about that. And just one thing that was highlighted to me to, to share with you ladies

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is the possibility of asking Holy Spirit to highlight maybe what your husband's love language

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is. So, and those of you, I know Jackie's probably shared about love languages. It's

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been around, I think it's Chapman is his name. I can't, why I can't think of his first name

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is the author of the love languages. So there's five love languages. There's mine has transformed

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over the years. So mine used to be physical touch and quality time. But when I met my husband and I

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took the love language quiz during Symbus, acts of service was like moved to the top. Quality time

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and touch was still up there, but not the same way that acts of service was. So it can change over

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time. So just know that Gary Chapman. Yes. Thank you, Nicole. And Esther, appreciate it. So yeah,

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you've got quality time, physical touch acts of service, which is, is mine. You have words

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00:29:29.040 --> 00:29:37.920
of affirmation and gifts. So, you know, gift giving. And so, and that one for me is really low.

468
00:29:37.920 --> 00:29:46.560
Like it's a very small, like, like I love gifts, but it's not a way that I like need to feel loved

469
00:29:46.640 --> 00:29:52.640
by somebody, but I do, I do love gifts, but I think everybody does. But over the years,

470
00:29:52.640 --> 00:29:59.760
like I've learned how to, to pay attention on what people would like for gifts.

471
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.960
So sometimes you can tie that even to their love language.

472
00:30:02.960 --> 00:30:07.680
So my husband, his love language is quality time.

473
00:30:09.200 --> 00:30:13.360
And for him, date night once a week

474
00:30:13.360 --> 00:30:15.980
was super, super important to him.

475
00:30:15.980 --> 00:30:19.400
And so that was like a prerequisite.

476
00:30:19.400 --> 00:30:22.320
Like that's what he was like, look, when we get married,

477
00:30:22.320 --> 00:30:25.060
we are going on date night once a week.

478
00:30:25.060 --> 00:30:26.400
And we have three kids, y'all.

479
00:30:26.400 --> 00:30:29.040
Now, luckily they're older, so we can leave them at home.

480
00:30:29.080 --> 00:30:31.720
We got like a, you know, alarm system, security system,

481
00:30:31.720 --> 00:30:33.440
cameras and things like that.

482
00:30:33.440 --> 00:30:36.240
But that was important to him.

483
00:30:36.240 --> 00:30:39.640
But what's happened over this last like year

484
00:30:39.640 --> 00:30:41.260
and three months that we've been married

485
00:30:41.260 --> 00:30:45.500
is our date nights just tend to be going out to eat,

486
00:30:45.500 --> 00:30:47.680
coming home, Netflix, right?

487
00:30:47.680 --> 00:30:51.800
There's just no, there's time spent, but there's not quality.

488
00:30:51.800 --> 00:30:56.640
And so God highlighted to me a really good gift for him

489
00:30:56.640 --> 00:31:00.240
would be adventure.

490
00:31:00.240 --> 00:31:03.400
And so there are all sorts of things,

491
00:31:03.400 --> 00:31:07.000
especially now at Christmas time, all these things.

492
00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:10.160
And so I found, it's called the Adventure Challenge

493
00:31:10.160 --> 00:31:11.400
for couples.

494
00:31:11.400 --> 00:31:13.120
And it's like, you get to scratch off

495
00:31:13.120 --> 00:31:16.060
these little activities and do like a date night

496
00:31:16.060 --> 00:31:17.800
with your husband.

497
00:31:17.800 --> 00:31:21.080
And so I just knew that was a good gift for my husband

498
00:31:21.080 --> 00:31:23.100
because he likes quality time

499
00:31:23.100 --> 00:31:25.880
and it allows us time to do things together.

500
00:31:25.920 --> 00:31:28.480
So if you believe that God's speaking to you

501
00:31:28.480 --> 00:31:31.200
that your husband's love language is quality time,

502
00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:32.460
that's an idea.

503
00:31:33.520 --> 00:31:37.200
And then I also got another one where

504
00:31:38.920 --> 00:31:42.240
it's, they do bucket lists for states.

505
00:31:42.240 --> 00:31:44.860
And so we like to travel,

506
00:31:44.860 --> 00:31:47.680
like we both have this desire and dream to travel.

507
00:31:47.680 --> 00:31:51.560
And so I also got something where we can do bucket lists

508
00:31:51.560 --> 00:31:55.080
around the state of Texas and travel a little bit.

509
00:31:55.080 --> 00:31:59.600
So maybe travel is something that God is highlighting to you

510
00:31:59.600 --> 00:32:02.360
that your husband is, it's important to him.

511
00:32:02.360 --> 00:32:05.320
And so maybe you'll find something with that.

512
00:32:05.320 --> 00:32:07.480
In the past, I'm just trying to think of other things

513
00:32:07.480 --> 00:32:08.440
that I've done.

514
00:32:08.440 --> 00:32:10.980
I just always try to listen and think like,

515
00:32:10.980 --> 00:32:13.680
what would be meaningful?

516
00:32:13.680 --> 00:32:17.320
Maybe God is telling you that your husband

517
00:32:17.320 --> 00:32:19.400
is gonna be fashion forward.

518
00:32:19.400 --> 00:32:22.240
And maybe there's like a cool tie or bow tie

519
00:32:22.240 --> 00:32:24.200
or something that's special

520
00:32:24.200 --> 00:32:27.040
and you wanna purchase that for him.

521
00:32:27.040 --> 00:32:31.440
But invite Holy Spirit into this process,

522
00:32:31.440 --> 00:32:36.280
ask him to share with you something about your husband,

523
00:32:36.280 --> 00:32:38.240
about your future husband,

524
00:32:38.240 --> 00:32:42.000
and just be on the lookout for what would be a good gift.

525
00:32:42.000 --> 00:32:43.520
Okay?

526
00:32:43.520 --> 00:32:46.960
And when you buy it,

527
00:32:46.960 --> 00:32:49.240
or you're thinking about buying it or whatever,

528
00:32:49.240 --> 00:32:52.600
share with us about it in the app.

529
00:32:52.600 --> 00:32:53.560
So whether if you buy it,

530
00:32:53.560 --> 00:32:55.600
you wanna take a picture of it and share,

531
00:32:55.600 --> 00:32:59.200
or you have some ideas and you wanna share it

532
00:32:59.200 --> 00:33:02.600
because that might help your sisters in the community

533
00:33:02.600 --> 00:33:04.960
kind of generate some ideas as well.

534
00:33:04.960 --> 00:33:06.680
Okay?

535
00:33:06.680 --> 00:33:08.120
Good.

536
00:33:08.120 --> 00:33:09.800
I know some of y'all were like, what?

537
00:33:09.800 --> 00:33:11.880
Like, I don't, but I haven't met my husband.

538
00:33:11.880 --> 00:33:13.280
I don't know anything about him.

539
00:33:13.280 --> 00:33:15.280
Doesn't mean that God can't share

540
00:33:15.280 --> 00:33:17.640
a little bit of information about him.

541
00:33:17.640 --> 00:33:19.940
Because believe it or not, like God told me,

542
00:33:19.940 --> 00:33:22.320
my husband and I were gonna go into business together.

543
00:33:23.040 --> 00:33:23.880
And I thought, that's crazy.

544
00:33:23.880 --> 00:33:25.920
Cause that's not me at all.

545
00:33:25.920 --> 00:33:27.400
You know, I have a lot of ideas,

546
00:33:27.400 --> 00:33:30.440
but I'm not the throw it together.

547
00:33:30.440 --> 00:33:33.280
But one of the first conversations,

548
00:33:33.280 --> 00:33:35.160
actually it was our first phone conversation.

549
00:33:35.160 --> 00:33:38.580
It was the day before we met in person.

550
00:33:38.580 --> 00:33:43.320
That was one of the first things that my husband said to me

551
00:33:43.320 --> 00:33:44.680
when I was sharing with him something

552
00:33:44.680 --> 00:33:46.440
that I was passionate about.

553
00:33:46.440 --> 00:33:48.320
He said, that's a really great business model.

554
00:33:48.320 --> 00:33:50.780
That's, that would make a really good business.

555
00:33:50.780 --> 00:33:52.520
You should do that.

556
00:33:52.520 --> 00:33:53.920
And I was like, oh no,

557
00:33:53.920 --> 00:33:57.180
I'm not really business minded like that.

558
00:33:57.180 --> 00:33:59.780
And he's like, well, that's okay, cause I am.

559
00:33:59.780 --> 00:34:01.060
I was like, what?

560
00:34:01.060 --> 00:34:06.060
Like, and I remember Holy Spirit saying, see, I told you.

561
00:34:07.740 --> 00:34:08.699
I told you your husband

562
00:34:08.699 --> 00:34:10.199
and you were gonna go into business together.

563
00:34:10.199 --> 00:34:11.239
It was just a little reminder.

564
00:34:11.239 --> 00:34:13.620
And I kind of just like pushed it aside a little bit.

565
00:34:13.620 --> 00:34:17.100
But as I got to know him, that really did come up.

566
00:34:17.100 --> 00:34:19.940
And I saw how God was confirming

567
00:34:19.940 --> 00:34:22.460
that this man was in fact my husband.

568
00:34:22.460 --> 00:34:24.540
It was who God had created for me.

569
00:34:24.540 --> 00:34:26.139
And I was created for my husband.

570
00:34:26.139 --> 00:34:29.179
And it was just a little bit of our story.

571
00:34:29.179 --> 00:34:33.300
So God can share with you details about your husband,

572
00:34:33.300 --> 00:34:34.139
believe it or not.

573
00:34:34.139 --> 00:34:35.860
Just spend some time with him

574
00:34:35.860 --> 00:34:38.880
and invite him in to highlight some things to you.

575
00:34:38.880 --> 00:34:40.699
I really think some of you ladies

576
00:34:40.699 --> 00:34:42.739
are gonna be really excited

577
00:34:42.739 --> 00:34:46.300
and I can't wait to hear all about it, okay?

578
00:34:46.300 --> 00:34:49.020
And so I'm gonna give that to you as an activation.

579
00:34:49.020 --> 00:34:53.500
I also, because this is the second Tuesday in December,

580
00:34:53.500 --> 00:34:56.900
we're gonna just touch on our Divine Feminine video.

581
00:34:57.900 --> 00:34:59.920
Like this is my favorite video.

582
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.340
the week or of the of the trainings and

583
00:35:04.680 --> 00:35:07.020
One of the reasons why is because I really like

584
00:35:07.880 --> 00:35:10.460
activating you ladies to step into your divine feminine and

585
00:35:11.420 --> 00:35:18.440
One ways that we do one way that we do that is that we encourage you ladies to revamp your wardrobe

586
00:35:19.040 --> 00:35:21.640
Go out and buy something nice for yourself

587
00:35:22.320 --> 00:35:25.440
Put on a dress wear some bright colors

588
00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:30.920
And I I was thinking about this this morning and I thought to myself and I'm curious

589
00:35:31.760 --> 00:35:35.220
Okay, cuz we got I got lots of like, you know, it's the holidays

590
00:35:35.220 --> 00:35:39.320
there's all sorts of like dinners and stuff like that that you get invited to I

591
00:35:39.840 --> 00:35:44.000
don't know about you all but sometimes when I get invited to those things I

592
00:35:45.120 --> 00:35:49.800
Decline them and one of the reasons that I decline them is because I don't feel like I have anything to wear

593
00:35:50.240 --> 00:35:55.000
If that happens to you raise your avatar hand. I'm just curious. Have you ever?

594
00:35:55.640 --> 00:35:59.800
Not decided to go to an event because you're like, I don't have anything to wear that

595
00:35:59.800 --> 00:36:05.240
I'm excited to wear and I'm not sure I you know, like know what if you want to feel good

596
00:36:05.240 --> 00:36:08.880
But you don't feel good because you don't have anything that you feel like you look good in

597
00:36:09.200 --> 00:36:12.720
All right. So Lavina you feel me like you're right there with me

598
00:36:14.200 --> 00:36:20.480
Anybody else no, but everyone else is just like okay. So if I invited y'all to an event tonight

599
00:36:20.480 --> 00:36:24.800
You would be able to go in your closet and be like, ooh, I can't wait to wear this to the event

600
00:36:27.440 --> 00:36:29.440
Awesome

601
00:36:30.000 --> 00:36:35.160
So Teresa's like absolutely Nicole she's like, yep, I got a hot outfit that I can't wait to wear

602
00:36:37.080 --> 00:36:40.000
So everybody else I only saw two people not in their heads

603
00:36:42.600 --> 00:36:44.600
Too many clothes

604
00:36:44.600 --> 00:36:48.400
Girl, I will come raid your closet then because I need help

605
00:36:48.520 --> 00:36:50.200
All right, so

606
00:36:50.200 --> 00:36:55.800
if if any of that resonates with any of you ladies and you feel like you want it like maybe you just want an

607
00:36:55.800 --> 00:37:00.120
excuse to go by maybe you asked her maybe you want an excuse to have another outfit. I

608
00:37:00.680 --> 00:37:08.320
Want you ladies to go and activate your divine feminine and go out and purchase a cute outfit that you will be excited to wear

609
00:37:08.320 --> 00:37:11.800
And post it in the app. Let us see your cute clothes

610
00:37:12.440 --> 00:37:14.440
alright, or

611
00:37:14.440 --> 00:37:16.440
I even just asked her

612
00:37:16.440 --> 00:37:18.440
I want to see you put on one of your cute outfits

613
00:37:18.640 --> 00:37:25.520
That you already have and show us your style because I need some help. I need help with my style y'all like I feel

614
00:37:26.400 --> 00:37:30.520
Like I've been out of like, I don't know what I don't know. What's cool to wear anymore

615
00:37:30.520 --> 00:37:34.360
I have a 13 year old daughter and sometimes I'm like, she's like mom

616
00:37:38.000 --> 00:37:40.000
So

617
00:37:40.480 --> 00:37:42.480
So

618
00:37:42.600 --> 00:37:46.760
Buy a new outfit show us if you're like no I have too many

619
00:37:47.800 --> 00:37:52.240
Jill put something cute on let us see your divine feminine and

620
00:37:52.800 --> 00:37:56.520
We want to we want to see some cute cute styles. Okay

621
00:37:57.600 --> 00:38:04.480
Suzanne got a new dress and some amazing shoes for a wedding last weekend and she totally would wear it again

622
00:38:04.480 --> 00:38:05.240
I love that

623
00:38:05.240 --> 00:38:10.400
I love wearing it like you buy an outfit for a special event and then being able to wear it again

624
00:38:11.160 --> 00:38:16.000
Love that. Um, oh my goodness. You had mold in your house. Oh

625
00:38:17.800 --> 00:38:25.560
I've heard like that's that's I mean we could just go off on a whole nother tangent, but I just pray that

626
00:38:26.520 --> 00:38:28.160
You know

627
00:38:28.160 --> 00:38:35.200
You got rid of those clothes and God is just gonna bless you with lots of cute things for your wardrobe

628
00:38:36.240 --> 00:38:38.720
Yes, Black Friday sales. Awesome

629
00:38:39.360 --> 00:38:42.760
Okay, we're good on activations for the week

630
00:38:44.760 --> 00:38:50.840
So yeah speaking of divine feminine raise your hand if you have watched the divine feminine video

631
00:38:52.840 --> 00:38:54.840
Put your little avatar hands up

632
00:38:58.520 --> 00:39:04.840
Awesome awesome. I know there's a few newbies so you might not have gotten to that yet. Totally cool. Totally fine

633
00:39:06.240 --> 00:39:13.040
If you've watched the divine feminine put in the chat something that really stuck out to you in that video

634
00:39:15.520 --> 00:39:17.160
What what was

635
00:39:17.160 --> 00:39:21.000
Highlighted to you in that video let your sisters who maybe haven't seen it yet

636
00:39:21.160 --> 00:39:27.680
Let them see just give them like a sneak peek of some good of the good info. That's in that video

637
00:39:27.680 --> 00:39:29.680
That's what it's one of my favorites. I

638
00:39:30.120 --> 00:39:31.480
love

639
00:39:31.480 --> 00:39:33.480
the divine feminine video I

640
00:39:34.040 --> 00:39:41.240
Love Jackie sharing the perspective of the garden and God's original design in the garden and

641
00:39:42.080 --> 00:39:43.440
what he

642
00:39:43.440 --> 00:39:46.200
purposed feminine and masculine for and

643
00:39:46.800 --> 00:39:53.480
also the perspective of how because of the fall and the sin it has skewed our

644
00:39:54.080 --> 00:39:56.080
worldly view of what feminine and

645
00:39:56.600 --> 00:39:59.920
Masculine is and sometimes that can show up in a toxic

646
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:07.840
way when we're interacting in the world or on dates even and so that was good

647
00:40:07.840 --> 00:40:14.120
perspective for me to kind of see like oh when I behave or I operate in that

648
00:40:14.120 --> 00:40:20.280
that's really a toxic feminine and realizing what the divine feminine

649
00:40:20.280 --> 00:40:24.760
actually looks like and what God intended it for and being able to kind

650
00:40:24.760 --> 00:40:31.280
of see that through that perspective and be mindful of that so so let's see

651
00:40:31.280 --> 00:40:36.240
Esther to not walk ahead and how to ask for help that's good to walk beside a

652
00:40:36.240 --> 00:40:41.440
man and not in front or behind him absolutely being reminded of being the

653
00:40:41.440 --> 00:40:46.720
easer and that God uses that to describe himself yes like a helpmate or the easer

654
00:40:46.720 --> 00:40:54.400
I love that all good stuff so yeah so the divine feminine just to kind of

655
00:40:54.400 --> 00:40:58.360
touch on on this and some of you might have heard me talk a little bit about

656
00:40:58.360 --> 00:41:03.080
this in the past but some of the characteristic traits of the divine

657
00:41:03.080 --> 00:41:10.880
feminine is a nurturer comforter a counselor we're wise and intuitive or

658
00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:17.920
receptive like we're just naturally built to receive spiritually emotionally

659
00:41:17.920 --> 00:41:23.840
physically like we just receive there's a meekness about the divine feminine so

660
00:41:23.840 --> 00:41:28.240
those are all characteristic traits and so we want to make sure that we're

661
00:41:28.240 --> 00:41:34.000
stepping into those type of ways and so how might that look in everyday life

662
00:41:34.000 --> 00:41:39.320
okay whether you're dating or not okay it's gonna be you know someone who's

663
00:41:39.320 --> 00:41:47.680
pressing into Holy Spirit you know and walking in wisdom and confidence I think

664
00:41:47.680 --> 00:41:54.920
the divine feminine is confident all right she trusts her Heavenly Father and

665
00:41:54.920 --> 00:42:02.280
so she's God defended so she can walk in and know she's why she's got good

666
00:42:02.280 --> 00:42:07.880
counsel she's partnered with her Heavenly Father and approaching

667
00:42:07.880 --> 00:42:13.480
situations and relationships in that way now what can happen is when we don't and

668
00:42:13.480 --> 00:42:18.640
we walk into a you know where we're not God defended and we're not confident we

669
00:42:18.640 --> 00:42:24.840
start stepping into this toxic feminine where we might be judgmental or

670
00:42:24.840 --> 00:42:29.440
suspicious we might start using manipulation because we feel like we

671
00:42:29.440 --> 00:42:36.160
have to strive and earn for ourselves and so it really is just relaxing and

672
00:42:36.160 --> 00:42:42.280
just being soft and vulnerable not being rigid and cold and so stepping into that

673
00:42:42.280 --> 00:42:47.000
so when we notice us when you notice yourself responding and reacting in a

674
00:42:47.000 --> 00:42:52.200
way that's rigid cold judgmental suspicious you know I want you to

675
00:42:52.200 --> 00:42:57.040
practice stepping back and being reminded okay but what's what's God's

676
00:42:57.040 --> 00:43:04.040
divine for you as as as female and and start practicing those types of things

677
00:43:04.040 --> 00:43:09.840
okay the divine feminine is encouraging you know she's sharing positive things

678
00:43:09.840 --> 00:43:15.040
she's pouring in okay but not from a people-pleasing place okay and we're not

679
00:43:15.040 --> 00:43:18.840
and we're not enabling people either we're being encouragers but we're

680
00:43:18.840 --> 00:43:24.800
allowing people to do for themselves okay we're not doing for them okay

681
00:43:24.800 --> 00:43:28.960
because that's a caretaker okay if you're a mother or maybe you're having

682
00:43:28.960 --> 00:43:33.800
to care for you know your your elderly parents that's caretaking okay that's

683
00:43:33.800 --> 00:43:38.480
just a natural heart posture but as a feminine you just want to be encouraging

684
00:43:38.480 --> 00:43:41.800
but you don't want to do things for people so when you're dating you don't

685
00:43:41.800 --> 00:43:46.520
want to do things for like the people you're dating okay you want to step and

686
00:43:46.520 --> 00:43:51.120
you want to walk alongside them and encourage them because they have the

687
00:43:51.120 --> 00:43:56.600
capacity to do for themselves I will tell you men do not want a mother and if

688
00:43:56.600 --> 00:44:02.280
they do it's because they're coming from a wounded place and so you don't want to

689
00:44:02.280 --> 00:44:07.240
start partnering with that either you want a partner who is you know the

690
00:44:07.240 --> 00:44:12.000
divine masculine some who's going to be a provider protector and so Jackie does

691
00:44:12.000 --> 00:44:17.040
talk about that in the in the divine feminine as well you know we she briefly

692
00:44:17.040 --> 00:44:21.520
touches on the masculine and what that looks like as well we talk about you

693
00:44:21.520 --> 00:44:25.440
know when you ladies are out there looking at dating and you're interacting

694
00:44:25.440 --> 00:44:28.560
with men we're looking for the three M's we're looking at a man that is

695
00:44:28.560 --> 00:44:34.760
marriage-minded okay because we want to get married all right someone who's

696
00:44:34.760 --> 00:44:40.560
going to show that they have the capacity to step into marriage because

697
00:44:40.560 --> 00:44:48.000
that is marriages God's maturity plan for people right and so you want a

698
00:44:48.000 --> 00:44:53.440
marriage-minded man you want to you want a mature man and you want a masculine

699
00:44:53.440 --> 00:44:58.000
man okay a man that's going to handle his affairs and it's going to want a

700
00:44:58.000 --> 00:45:02.000
partner to

701
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.440
walk alongside him and support him as well.

702
00:45:02.440 --> 00:45:04.080
But he wants to support and protect

703
00:45:04.080 --> 00:45:05.760
and provide for you as well.

704
00:45:05.760 --> 00:45:07.640
Okay, so all good things.

705
00:45:07.640 --> 00:45:10.600
A few things here, I'm gonna go back to the chat.

706
00:45:10.600 --> 00:45:12.880
Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh.

707
00:45:12.880 --> 00:45:15.080
Yes, meant to be partners.

708
00:45:15.080 --> 00:45:18.720
I just love the story of Genesis as actually,

709
00:45:20.520 --> 00:45:23.200
that's just, again, I think it's probably why

710
00:45:23.200 --> 00:45:26.160
I love the Divine Feminine video

711
00:45:26.160 --> 00:45:28.640
is because we really go back to the garden

712
00:45:29.240 --> 00:45:32.920
and the creation of what God's original plan was.

713
00:45:34.160 --> 00:45:35.600
For those of you that might not know,

714
00:45:35.600 --> 00:45:39.880
when I got married, Jackie actually officiated my wedding.

715
00:45:39.880 --> 00:45:44.000
And so this was part of our wedding ceremony

716
00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:45.520
and she shared a lot about it,

717
00:45:45.520 --> 00:45:50.160
which she didn't know, she knew, but she didn't know.

718
00:45:50.160 --> 00:45:53.400
I never told her, I want you to talk about

719
00:45:53.400 --> 00:45:55.400
the story of Genesis and that

720
00:45:55.400 --> 00:45:58.360
and the divine plan of husband and wife.

721
00:45:59.040 --> 00:46:01.480
But she did, it was like Holy Spirit spoke to her.

722
00:46:03.200 --> 00:46:05.640
But it is, it's really, again,

723
00:46:05.640 --> 00:46:07.480
if you haven't watched the video yet,

724
00:46:07.480 --> 00:46:10.960
you'll get to it, it's good, good, good, good.

725
00:46:12.280 --> 00:46:15.440
Yes, Suzanne, to embrace and love the gentle spirit

726
00:46:15.440 --> 00:46:18.120
God has given me rather than to believe I'm too sensitive.

727
00:46:18.120 --> 00:46:20.960
Yes, all right, it's actually,

728
00:46:20.960 --> 00:46:24.720
it's okay to be meek and soft and vulnerable.

729
00:46:25.520 --> 00:46:29.400
That's not weak, it's actually strong

730
00:46:29.400 --> 00:46:32.280
and it's not being too sensitive,

731
00:46:32.280 --> 00:46:34.160
but it's something special about you.

732
00:46:34.160 --> 00:46:37.640
And again, remembering we're created in God's image.

733
00:46:38.600 --> 00:46:42.680
So those characteristics about us is God's image.

734
00:46:42.680 --> 00:46:45.880
When we're healed and we've got a heart,

735
00:46:45.880 --> 00:46:47.200
or like we've gone through a heart work

736
00:46:47.200 --> 00:46:48.760
and we've healed through that,

737
00:46:48.760 --> 00:46:51.760
it really, it's a beautiful thing.

738
00:46:51.760 --> 00:46:54.520
So some practical tips on how you're gonna

739
00:46:55.320 --> 00:46:57.360
put that into practice, whether you're dating or not.

740
00:46:57.360 --> 00:46:59.560
Value yourself because you're a gift.

741
00:47:02.640 --> 00:47:05.840
You are a gift, that's why you're created.

742
00:47:06.800 --> 00:47:09.240
But also remember men are gifts too.

743
00:47:09.240 --> 00:47:12.920
I know what sometimes happens, we've stepped into this,

744
00:47:13.840 --> 00:47:15.600
like we step into this program

745
00:47:15.600 --> 00:47:18.200
and many, many of us have been hurt by men.

746
00:47:19.440 --> 00:47:24.440
I mean, I did, I was, I mean, I can go on and on and on.

747
00:47:25.400 --> 00:47:30.400
And I had to learn that men were not the enemy,

748
00:47:30.520 --> 00:47:33.080
that there were good men out there.

749
00:47:34.040 --> 00:47:35.640
And remembering that they were a gift

750
00:47:35.640 --> 00:47:38.600
and my husband was gonna be a gift to me too.

751
00:47:38.600 --> 00:47:40.400
You know, and God walked me through that

752
00:47:40.400 --> 00:47:42.680
in the guys that I dated.

753
00:47:42.680 --> 00:47:45.240
I mean, I had to date a lot of, I mean, not like a lot,

754
00:47:45.240 --> 00:47:48.320
but I dated several guys that were great guys.

755
00:47:48.320 --> 00:47:50.320
They weren't my spirit mate,

756
00:47:50.320 --> 00:47:53.160
but I learned to appreciate those dates

757
00:47:53.160 --> 00:47:56.880
because God was highlighting to me

758
00:47:56.880 --> 00:48:00.040
that men are not the enemy, there are good men out there

759
00:48:00.040 --> 00:48:01.400
and your husband's gonna be a gift

760
00:48:01.400 --> 00:48:03.400
just like you're a gift to your husband.

761
00:48:04.440 --> 00:48:07.960
Another way of putting it into practice is,

762
00:48:07.960 --> 00:48:10.320
which I've shared with you, like wearing dresses,

763
00:48:10.320 --> 00:48:13.400
wearing bright colors, doing your hair and makeup,

764
00:48:13.400 --> 00:48:16.640
wearing some jewelry, all right.

765
00:48:16.640 --> 00:48:18.360
I'm not a big makeup person,

766
00:48:18.360 --> 00:48:20.440
like I'm not wearing makeup right now.

767
00:48:21.400 --> 00:48:24.680
But occasionally I do that just to like,

768
00:48:25.640 --> 00:48:27.880
you know, step into my feminine.

769
00:48:27.880 --> 00:48:30.200
And when I do, I enjoy it, like I do like it,

770
00:48:30.200 --> 00:48:31.800
but you don't have to do it all the time,

771
00:48:31.800 --> 00:48:34.960
but just pick and choose, okay.

772
00:48:34.960 --> 00:48:37.120
Asking men for help is another way.

773
00:48:37.120 --> 00:48:38.240
And this doesn't have to be a man

774
00:48:38.240 --> 00:48:39.680
that you are interested in.

775
00:48:39.680 --> 00:48:42.960
You could be at Target and there's something on a high shelf

776
00:48:42.960 --> 00:48:44.320
and there's a man walking by and be like,

777
00:48:44.320 --> 00:48:47.200
hey, excuse me, can you help me with that?

778
00:48:48.240 --> 00:48:49.600
I mean, how many of you've been traveling

779
00:48:49.960 --> 00:48:52.920
on a plane before and you have that overhead compartment?

780
00:48:52.920 --> 00:48:55.800
Y'all, I'm 5'3", I'm short.

781
00:48:55.800 --> 00:48:59.120
And I can't reach those overhead compartments.

782
00:48:59.120 --> 00:49:02.080
So if you're traveling this holiday season,

783
00:49:02.080 --> 00:49:04.280
and you know, maybe you are tall and you can reach,

784
00:49:04.280 --> 00:49:07.360
girl, ask a man to help you.

785
00:49:07.360 --> 00:49:10.120
Even if you can do it for yourself, ask a man to help you.

786
00:49:10.120 --> 00:49:13.520
Because let me tell you, men love to help.

787
00:49:14.880 --> 00:49:16.440
My husband is like that.

788
00:49:17.440 --> 00:49:20.400
He refuses for me to open a door.

789
00:49:20.400 --> 00:49:22.640
And sometimes, y'all have heard me say this,

790
00:49:22.640 --> 00:49:25.520
if you've been in here for a little bit, drives me crazy.

791
00:49:25.520 --> 00:49:30.080
Cause I'm like, I just want to get out of the car quickly,

792
00:49:30.080 --> 00:49:33.520
especially when it's summertime here and it's hot.

793
00:49:33.520 --> 00:49:36.320
I'm like, get me, like, I just,

794
00:49:36.320 --> 00:49:37.880
I need to get out of the hot car.

795
00:49:37.880 --> 00:49:41.280
I do not want to sit in this hot car, please hurry it up.

796
00:49:41.280 --> 00:49:43.240
But he loves that.

797
00:49:43.240 --> 00:49:45.320
He loves to be able to help me.

798
00:49:45.320 --> 00:49:46.840
He doesn't want me to open doors.

799
00:49:46.840 --> 00:49:50.440
So again, like I had to learn to step into

800
00:49:50.440 --> 00:49:53.120
some divine feminine because I was independent

801
00:49:53.120 --> 00:49:54.440
for 40 years, y'all.

802
00:49:54.440 --> 00:49:57.800
Like I didn't, I wasn't married, never been married.

803
00:49:57.800 --> 00:50:00.000
And so I've had to learn like God's gently.

804
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.720
reminded me that I'm a gift to my husband.

805
00:50:04.720 --> 00:50:06.240
I'm feminine.

806
00:50:06.240 --> 00:50:09.240
It's OK to allow a man to help me.

807
00:50:09.240 --> 00:50:13.160
And it blesses my husband to be able to do that.

808
00:50:13.160 --> 00:50:17.000
And so for my husband, I let him do that for me.

809
00:50:17.000 --> 00:50:17.600
It's good.

810
00:50:17.600 --> 00:50:19.440
It's good practice.

811
00:50:19.440 --> 00:50:21.800
So if you're walking in a store and there's a guy there,

812
00:50:21.800 --> 00:50:24.360
let the guy open your door.

813
00:50:24.360 --> 00:50:28.120
Excuse me, can you get that for me?

814
00:50:28.120 --> 00:50:31.480
Give a little smile.

815
00:50:31.480 --> 00:50:32.560
You'll be surprised.

816
00:50:32.560 --> 00:50:35.280
You'll be surprised at some of the attention,

817
00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:39.320
some healthy, good attention that you can draw in.

818
00:50:39.320 --> 00:50:40.920
It doesn't have to be sexual.

819
00:50:40.920 --> 00:50:42.360
It doesn't have to be bad.

820
00:50:42.360 --> 00:50:44.240
It doesn't have to be romantic.

821
00:50:44.240 --> 00:50:47.160
It just can be a gentle, like you're

822
00:50:47.160 --> 00:50:48.440
stepping into that feminine.

823
00:50:48.440 --> 00:50:52.160
So ask a man for help.

824
00:50:52.160 --> 00:50:56.000
And then accepting when people offer to do nice things for you.

825
00:50:56.040 --> 00:50:58.160
And then just go out and have fun.

826
00:50:58.160 --> 00:51:04.520
Do things that you enjoy and be around people that you enjoy.

827
00:51:04.520 --> 00:51:09.600
Just let that joy come off of you.

828
00:51:09.600 --> 00:51:12.200
Those are all ways that you can step into divine feminine.

829
00:51:12.200 --> 00:51:15.560
It doesn't have to be if you have a date or not.

830
00:51:15.560 --> 00:51:18.160
You can just do this out in the real world.

831
00:51:21.280 --> 00:51:22.960
A couple more things I want to touch on,

832
00:51:22.960 --> 00:51:24.720
and then I'm going to let you ladies have

833
00:51:24.720 --> 00:51:27.360
your questions, a couple of things

834
00:51:27.360 --> 00:51:30.640
that I saw pop up in the app this week

835
00:51:30.640 --> 00:51:35.320
was the dropping of the hanky.

836
00:51:35.320 --> 00:51:39.080
Raise your hand if you know what I'm talking about.

837
00:51:39.080 --> 00:51:41.200
Raise your avatar hand.

838
00:51:41.200 --> 00:51:44.520
You've heard the dropping of the hanky.

839
00:51:44.520 --> 00:51:49.240
Is anybody confused by what that is?

840
00:51:54.720 --> 00:51:56.240
Anybody?

841
00:51:56.240 --> 00:51:59.360
Jill and Esther, you forget what that is.

842
00:51:59.360 --> 00:52:01.480
Laveena, you're not sure what that means.

843
00:52:01.480 --> 00:52:02.240
Yes.

844
00:52:02.240 --> 00:52:06.040
Yes, Adrena, I'm going to explain dropping the hanky.

845
00:52:06.040 --> 00:52:07.160
Absolutely.

846
00:52:10.240 --> 00:52:13.760
Real quick here, I want to see, how many do we have on?

847
00:52:18.280 --> 00:52:20.920
OK, we got 12 of you ladies on.

848
00:52:20.920 --> 00:52:21.600
Awesome.

849
00:52:21.600 --> 00:52:23.800
So you're dropping the hanky and what that looks like.

850
00:52:24.560 --> 00:52:31.160
So when you're first meeting people, we have this idea.

851
00:52:31.160 --> 00:52:34.720
I feel like this has just been over the years

852
00:52:34.720 --> 00:52:37.040
and just what kind of society makes it look like.

853
00:52:37.040 --> 00:52:39.120
And I hear a lot of Christian women say it,

854
00:52:39.120 --> 00:52:41.200
like, I want to be pursued.

855
00:52:41.200 --> 00:52:45.320
I want a man to do everything.

856
00:52:45.320 --> 00:52:49.440
And Jackie always like, this was a new concept for me

857
00:52:49.440 --> 00:52:50.640
that I had to learn.

858
00:52:50.640 --> 00:52:53.960
Jackie's like, in the Bible, it doesn't

859
00:52:53.960 --> 00:52:56.720
talk about men pursuing a wife.

860
00:52:56.720 --> 00:52:58.600
There's no pursuit.

861
00:52:58.600 --> 00:53:01.880
You pursue things that you got to chase.

862
00:53:01.880 --> 00:53:04.000
If you're running, someone's going to pursue you.

863
00:53:04.000 --> 00:53:06.680
So we're not trying to run away.

864
00:53:06.680 --> 00:53:12.120
And so there's a thing called dropping the hanky that

865
00:53:12.120 --> 00:53:15.600
we talked about years ago that Jackie brought to us

866
00:53:15.600 --> 00:53:17.600
and it's just going to suck.

867
00:53:17.600 --> 00:53:21.280
And she shared with us that back in the 1800s

868
00:53:21.280 --> 00:53:27.200
in high society when there was courting happening

869
00:53:27.200 --> 00:53:34.720
and there was the socialites and you put the women kind of came

870
00:53:34.720 --> 00:53:36.600
to the scene like, I'm ready to date.

871
00:53:36.600 --> 00:53:37.720
I'm ready for marriage.

872
00:53:37.720 --> 00:53:39.440
I'm ready to be courted.

873
00:53:39.440 --> 00:53:42.520
And so there was all these little society things

874
00:53:42.520 --> 00:53:44.800
that you went to.

875
00:53:44.840 --> 00:53:47.000
And so there would be men and women

876
00:53:47.000 --> 00:53:51.120
and kind of walking around the park or whatever.

877
00:53:51.120 --> 00:53:53.760
And so there would be interaction,

878
00:53:53.760 --> 00:53:55.360
male and female interaction.

879
00:53:55.360 --> 00:54:00.480
And so when a woman wanted to get to know

880
00:54:00.480 --> 00:54:04.320
or wanted a man to notice her and talk to her,

881
00:54:04.320 --> 00:54:06.040
she'd drop her hanky down.

882
00:54:06.040 --> 00:54:08.520
And it was an invitation for the man

883
00:54:08.520 --> 00:54:13.200
to pick it up and engage in conversation with her.

884
00:54:13.240 --> 00:54:17.000
So we talk about dropping the hanky to let these guys know

885
00:54:17.000 --> 00:54:20.120
you are interested in getting to know them better.

886
00:54:20.120 --> 00:54:23.040
So I see this question all the time,

887
00:54:23.040 --> 00:54:24.520
especially when you're online dating

888
00:54:24.520 --> 00:54:27.600
and there's the texting back and forth and the messaging.

889
00:54:27.600 --> 00:54:30.840
And they're like, but he hasn't asked me out on a date yet.

890
00:54:30.840 --> 00:54:32.560
Like we're messaging back and forth.

891
00:54:32.560 --> 00:54:34.480
Maybe you've had a phone call.

892
00:54:34.480 --> 00:54:38.160
He's not inviting me on a date.

893
00:54:38.160 --> 00:54:39.960
So this is where we say, ladies, it's

894
00:54:39.960 --> 00:54:43.080
OK to initiate and drop that hanky.

895
00:54:43.080 --> 00:54:47.680
And say, hey, it's been really enjoyable getting

896
00:54:47.680 --> 00:54:48.840
to know you a little better.

897
00:54:48.840 --> 00:54:52.240
I would love, if you're free, for us

898
00:54:52.240 --> 00:54:56.720
to get together for breakfast or coffee.

899
00:54:56.720 --> 00:54:58.120
Or maybe we can go on a hike.

900
00:54:58.120 --> 00:54:59.440
Or maybe we could go bowling.

901
00:54:59.440 --> 00:55:01.920
Or maybe we can go to the beach.

902
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:06.720
axe throwing, maybe come up with an activity, whatever it is, and just say, if you're free,

903
00:55:06.720 --> 00:55:12.480
I would be open to that if we want to take this offline or take this off text and get to know

904
00:55:12.480 --> 00:55:21.040
each other face-to-face. It's okay to signal and it's okay to drop that hanky and let that guy know

905
00:55:21.040 --> 00:55:29.600
I'm interested in getting to know you more. Then after that, you allow the man to reciprocate

906
00:55:30.000 --> 00:55:40.960
and take the invitation and go from there. It sounds difficult, but it's really not.

907
00:55:42.480 --> 00:55:48.720
It's really a simple process. It's when we overthink it, it gets a little mucky. Again,

908
00:55:48.720 --> 00:55:54.800
it's okay to initiate. It's okay to let a guy know, hey, I'm interested. Would you be up for

909
00:55:54.800 --> 00:56:02.480
this? This is when we want the reciprocation. Now at this point, you're reciprocating back and

910
00:56:02.480 --> 00:56:10.480
forth. If you initiate, then you're going to want the guy to reciprocate back. Then we always say

911
00:56:10.480 --> 00:56:16.080
after that first date, let them know, hey, I had a really good time, if you did, and say,

912
00:56:16.080 --> 00:56:23.280
I'd be open to doing this again. You may have to, another 24 hours later, you may have to message

913
00:56:23.280 --> 00:56:31.520
him or say, that was really fun. I'd be open to do that again. You might have to remind him

914
00:56:31.520 --> 00:56:40.800
even after the first date and then let him reciprocate back and initiate a second date.

915
00:56:42.880 --> 00:56:46.240
Again, bring those types of questions and those situations to us

916
00:56:46.800 --> 00:56:55.040
in the app. Us coaches can kind of help walk you through a more relaxed way where it doesn't feel

917
00:56:55.040 --> 00:57:04.000
so rigid. Maybe we can help you take the edge off of that as well. Any more questions about

918
00:57:04.000 --> 00:57:10.480
what that looks like? Lavina, I think you had your hand up, but is that because I had you

919
00:57:10.480 --> 00:57:18.560
raise your hand before? Okay. I just wanted to make sure. Awesome. Okay. Then the last thing I

920
00:57:18.560 --> 00:57:23.600
really want to touch on, because I think there was one or two of the women in here, one of your

921
00:57:23.600 --> 00:57:31.280
sisters, I kind of noticed this, and this happens, this happened with me. I know if it happened with

922
00:57:31.280 --> 00:57:36.000
me and I'm seeing it in, and I see it often in phase two and any of the phases, really,

923
00:57:36.960 --> 00:57:44.880
this scarcity poverty mindset when it comes to dating. I'm an anxious attacher,

924
00:57:44.880 --> 00:57:52.960
so this was always really heavy for me. I always felt like I had to compete with other people

925
00:57:52.960 --> 00:57:59.040
for my spirit mate. Ladies, I just want to give encouragement that that's not how God operates.

926
00:57:59.040 --> 00:58:04.160
You don't have to compete for your spirit mate. That really is a belief that's tied to a scarcity

927
00:58:04.240 --> 00:58:13.120
poverty mindset. There's not enough, or God doesn't care about me, so I have to strive and

928
00:58:14.000 --> 00:58:18.880
I have to compete because I need this guy to notice me. There's these other girls over here,

929
00:58:18.880 --> 00:58:23.200
and it seems like he's interested in them, but he's not interested in me. Ladies, you don't have

930
00:58:23.200 --> 00:58:29.920
to strive for your spirit mate. You don't have to compete for his attention. I really want you

931
00:58:29.920 --> 00:58:37.200
ladies to, if I'm speaking to you right now and you're like, yeah, I get that sometimes,

932
00:58:37.200 --> 00:58:44.080
I want you ladies to start processing through and allow God to come in and heal

933
00:58:45.120 --> 00:58:51.440
where that might come from. Let me tell you, ladies, God wants to give you his best.

934
00:58:52.720 --> 00:58:58.400
He has good, good gifts for his daughters and his sons because you're a gift to your husband.

935
00:59:00.240 --> 00:59:08.400
He gives the best to his kids. Sometimes what happens is if there's something in our past,

936
00:59:08.400 --> 00:59:17.200
in our childhood, where we felt like we had to earn certain things or there wasn't enough,

937
00:59:17.200 --> 00:59:23.120
we didn't get enough attention, that can be an area where we might need some healing still.

938
00:59:24.080 --> 00:59:30.480
So I just want you to be mindful of that. If you notice that you're scoping out,

939
00:59:30.480 --> 00:59:35.760
you're worried about your single girlfriends, knowing that you like some guy that's in your

940
00:59:35.760 --> 00:59:39.920
community and you're afraid that she's going to go after him, or maybe that's happened in the past.

941
00:59:40.800 --> 00:59:44.320
Maybe there's been some hurt with some of your girlfriends, your single girlfriends.

942
00:59:45.520 --> 00:59:50.640
I want to invite you into a process of going through that heart. You all have the heart work

943
00:59:50.640 --> 00:59:54.960
tools and there will always be continual heart work that you'll do. These are just

944
00:59:54.960 --> 00:59:57.920
opportunities for growth and upgrade. Okay. So

945
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:05.000
And one thing that helped me and what I had to go through

946
01:00:05.680 --> 01:00:09.760
when I was dating guys that I thought were great,

947
01:00:09.760 --> 01:00:13.080
I mean, there was one guy that I was like, he's handsome.

948
01:00:13.080 --> 01:00:15.160
He lives in my area.

949
01:00:15.160 --> 01:00:19.640
He's got a lot of great energy.

950
01:00:19.640 --> 01:00:22.440
I mean, ladies, and this guy was cute, okay?

951
01:00:22.440 --> 01:00:25.520
Like he was good looking, okay?

952
01:00:25.520 --> 01:00:28.400
He knew Jackie was in her program, all right?

953
01:00:28.400 --> 01:00:30.560
So he met her through a different way.

954
01:00:30.560 --> 01:00:33.560
And so like, I knew he knew about heart work.

955
01:00:33.560 --> 01:00:38.560
And so I was like, man, this guy, he was a great guy.

956
01:00:38.840 --> 01:00:40.520
And I went out on a date with him.

957
01:00:40.520 --> 01:00:41.440
I mean, it took him a while.

958
01:00:41.440 --> 01:00:44.080
Like he didn't, he was not interested in me at first.

959
01:00:44.080 --> 01:00:46.360
And I think Jackie probably had to like,

960
01:00:46.360 --> 01:00:50.440
nudge him a year later, like go out on a date with her.

961
01:00:50.440 --> 01:00:53.000
And he did, and we went out on a date.

962
01:00:53.000 --> 01:00:56.120
And ladies, he wasn't my person, okay?

963
01:00:56.120 --> 01:00:57.160
He was a great guy.

964
01:00:57.160 --> 01:01:00.160
We actually, we still occasionally will chat.

965
01:01:01.760 --> 01:01:04.760
But what happened two weeks after our date

966
01:01:04.760 --> 01:01:08.040
is he went on a ski trip and he met somebody else.

967
01:01:09.040 --> 01:01:11.680
And then I found out through women that I worked with

968
01:01:12.720 --> 01:01:15.520
that the girl that he dated was like best friends

969
01:01:15.520 --> 01:01:17.560
with one of my good friends at work.

970
01:01:17.560 --> 01:01:20.040
And I was like, you gotta be kidding me.

971
01:01:20.040 --> 01:01:22.560
Like there was so much that came up.

972
01:01:22.560 --> 01:01:27.560
And so it, like I say, this is because I was upset.

973
01:01:27.800 --> 01:01:32.800
Like I was hurt, not because he was my spirit mate,

974
01:01:33.840 --> 01:01:36.440
but because I felt like I was being left out.

975
01:01:37.480 --> 01:01:42.480
Why is this guy now going on double dates with my friends

976
01:01:43.400 --> 01:01:48.320
and their significant others with some other girl?

977
01:01:48.320 --> 01:01:50.120
Like, what are we talking about?

978
01:01:51.080 --> 01:01:56.080
And I had to be reminded that God had a spirit mate

979
01:01:57.160 --> 01:01:58.880
for him too.

980
01:01:58.880 --> 01:02:02.160
And if I valued him as a person,

981
01:02:02.160 --> 01:02:07.160
I want him to be connected to his spirit mate.

982
01:02:08.640 --> 01:02:10.240
And it wasn't me.

983
01:02:10.240 --> 01:02:12.280
And I was okay with that.

984
01:02:12.280 --> 01:02:16.240
Because here's the thing, I had a young son.

985
01:02:16.240 --> 01:02:18.680
I needed someone that was going to step

986
01:02:18.840 --> 01:02:22.760
into a father role because my son's biological father

987
01:02:22.760 --> 01:02:24.160
was very absent.

988
01:02:24.160 --> 01:02:27.800
Like he's very minimal in my son's life.

989
01:02:27.800 --> 01:02:30.200
And I knew that my husband was going to be part

990
01:02:30.200 --> 01:02:31.600
of my son's love story.

991
01:02:32.840 --> 01:02:35.880
You know, because ladies, if you have children,

992
01:02:35.880 --> 01:02:37.560
your love story isn't just your own,

993
01:02:37.560 --> 01:02:39.120
it's your kid's love story too.

994
01:02:40.600 --> 01:02:44.320
And so I had to learn, like I had to be reminded

995
01:02:44.400 --> 01:02:49.400
that this guy is dreamy and as handsome as he was,

996
01:02:50.840 --> 01:02:54.880
and like he is, like he is a great, cool guy,

997
01:02:54.880 --> 01:02:57.560
loves the Lord, but he was the guy

998
01:02:57.560 --> 01:02:59.480
that was like the fun uncle.

999
01:03:00.720 --> 01:03:05.280
He wasn't like ready to step into a father role.

1000
01:03:05.280 --> 01:03:07.120
Doesn't mean that he's not going to be a great father

1001
01:03:07.120 --> 01:03:10.200
someday, because I do believe that he's going to have

1002
01:03:10.200 --> 01:03:13.560
children and he's going to be a great dad.

1003
01:03:14.080 --> 01:03:17.360
Like it wasn't a godly match.

1004
01:03:17.360 --> 01:03:20.200
And so I had to learn that it was okay,

1005
01:03:20.200 --> 01:03:23.400
that God still had somebody for me.

1006
01:03:23.400 --> 01:03:27.280
And I could celebrate that God was possibly bringing

1007
01:03:27.280 --> 01:03:31.720
this guy his spirit mate and her, her spirit mate.

1008
01:03:31.720 --> 01:03:36.720
Like it's stepping into and accepting the fact that ladies,

1009
01:03:36.720 --> 01:03:41.720
we are all children of God and God wants all of us married.

1010
01:03:44.280 --> 01:03:47.120
To who he has created each of us for.

1011
01:03:48.000 --> 01:03:50.960
And the last thing that you ladies are going to want to do,

1012
01:03:50.960 --> 01:03:52.960
and I know this is not anybody's heart,

1013
01:03:52.960 --> 01:03:56.080
is to keep someone else from their spirit mate.

1014
01:03:57.360 --> 01:04:01.840
So if you can just let go of when things don't work out

1015
01:04:01.840 --> 01:04:04.520
or worry that, oh, what if he's,

1016
01:04:04.520 --> 01:04:07.480
what if he likes her over me?

1017
01:04:07.480 --> 01:04:11.240
That's okay, because God's got the perfect person for you.

1018
01:04:11.240 --> 01:04:14.880
And I know that's hard to hear and it's hard to believe

1019
01:04:14.880 --> 01:04:18.040
because I, I mean, I was in y'all's shoes too.

1020
01:04:18.040 --> 01:04:20.440
I was single for a time and people were saying this to me

1021
01:04:20.440 --> 01:04:24.720
and I'm like, you just don't get it, you don't get it.

1022
01:04:24.720 --> 01:04:28.320
Like it's, it's hard, it's, you know, it's sad.

1023
01:04:28.320 --> 01:04:32.200
I just want my person, you know,

1024
01:04:32.200 --> 01:04:36.640
it was easy for when people had their person to say that.

1025
01:04:36.640 --> 01:04:38.280
And I get it, like, I get it.

1026
01:04:38.280 --> 01:04:41.040
And now I say it to you all, like,

1027
01:04:41.040 --> 01:04:45.440
I met my husband and it all made sense.

1028
01:04:45.440 --> 01:04:48.400
It made sense why none of those other guys were my person

1029
01:04:48.400 --> 01:04:51.640
because my husband is perfectly matched for me.

1030
01:04:52.520 --> 01:04:54.960
You know, it doesn't mean that we don't have hard times.

1031
01:04:54.960 --> 01:04:56.520
It doesn't mean that we don't have arguments.

1032
01:04:56.520 --> 01:04:58.720
It doesn't mean that there are not areas

1033
01:04:58.720 --> 01:05:00.200
where we both need hard work.

1034
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.280
because there is but that's why I also believe that's why we're brought

1035
01:05:04.280 --> 01:05:09.660
together is because we're supposed to to work together to allow those things to

1036
01:05:09.660 --> 01:05:15.580
kind of surface and heal and and we help each other and that's another reason why

1037
01:05:15.580 --> 01:05:20.400
we are perfectly matched so I hope that gives encouragement especially to some

1038
01:05:20.400 --> 01:05:24.240
of those that you know maybe if you're watching and replaying you've come to

1039
01:05:24.240 --> 01:05:28.600
our community and you've shared some of your heart and how you're struggling I

1040
01:05:28.600 --> 01:05:34.480
hope that you hear this and you're encouraged and that you remember God's

1041
01:05:34.480 --> 01:05:41.520
got you he's got a good spirit mate for you and the last thing you want is to

1042
01:05:41.520 --> 01:05:46.360
not be with the person that God has for you and you don't want any of those

1043
01:05:46.360 --> 01:05:50.480
other people that you would hope would be your spirit mate but not you don't

1044
01:05:50.480 --> 01:05:54.960
want to keep them from their spirit mate too and I had like that was hard for me

1045
01:05:54.960 --> 01:06:02.440
and I say that because I get it okay so just know I relate all right you can

1046
01:06:02.440 --> 01:06:08.240
come here you can share I'm here for you to lean on all of us coaches are here

1047
01:06:08.240 --> 01:06:12.880
for you to lean on so don't be afraid don't hesitate to come and share that

1048
01:06:12.880 --> 01:06:17.920
with us in the app whatever you're struggling with and we also want to hear

1049
01:06:17.920 --> 01:06:22.640
your praise reports too so I always love hearing those stories too so with that

1050
01:06:22.640 --> 01:06:26.440
being said I'm gonna open the floor to you ladies I'm gonna read through some

1051
01:06:26.440 --> 01:06:31.160
of these comments but if you have a question or something that you want to

1052
01:06:31.160 --> 01:06:35.000
share with us that you're excited about want to celebrate if you have a struggle

1053
01:06:35.000 --> 01:06:38.680
if there was something in any of the videos that you've watched that you

1054
01:06:38.680 --> 01:06:42.600
have questions about and you want some feedback maybe you're in a dating

1055
01:06:42.600 --> 01:06:47.000
situation and you want to know like how to navigate it maybe you're not dating

1056
01:06:47.000 --> 01:06:50.960
right now and you're just in a season and you want to share about that too

1057
01:06:50.960 --> 01:06:57.600
this is your time to let me know okay this is I'm gonna open the floor with

1058
01:06:57.600 --> 01:07:03.480
you for you but I will ask you yeah go ahead and put your hands up if you want

1059
01:07:03.480 --> 01:07:07.760
to share something because we kind of want to keep mind of time but that

1060
01:07:07.760 --> 01:07:11.560
doesn't mean that you can't share okay don't let the enemy sit there and tell

1061
01:07:11.560 --> 01:07:18.400
you oh we're cutting you know low on time so I can't share no we will if you

1062
01:07:18.400 --> 01:07:23.000
ladies have to leave you're always welcome to leave it's in replay I will

1063
01:07:23.000 --> 01:07:29.680
stay here and answer your questions all right don't don't let the enemy like

1064
01:07:29.680 --> 01:07:33.760
trick you but I am gonna ask that we keep things short brief and powerful

1065
01:07:33.760 --> 01:07:40.480
okay let's try to just give us the highlight all right so I see Nicole's

1066
01:07:40.480 --> 01:07:45.760
hand up so Nicole and I think you push posted in the chat too so what is your

1067
01:07:45.760 --> 01:07:49.680
question comment what do you want to share with us today I also was

1068
01:07:49.680 --> 01:07:57.080
struggling like some of the others on on the whole online dating yeah my goal was

1069
01:07:57.080 --> 01:08:04.000
just get the profile up on two sites and then get used to the whole idea of my

1070
01:08:04.000 --> 01:08:12.920
profile being reviewed by men yes thank for me and so I live in the Virgin

1071
01:08:12.920 --> 01:08:16.439
Islands and so there's it's a smaller market that we have people coming in

1072
01:08:16.439 --> 01:08:22.760
and out yes in groups of men that are here that come but a lot of the people

1073
01:08:22.760 --> 01:08:26.120
that are hitting on that site I'm saying trying to be friends with they are all

1074
01:08:26.120 --> 01:08:32.319
in Puerto Rico speaking in Spanish to me and I don't speak any of that so what

1075
01:08:32.319 --> 01:08:37.200
I've realized in another someone else said being on online dating apps I also

1076
01:08:37.200 --> 01:08:40.920
have to be careful of the dopamine hit that you get when people are just

1077
01:08:41.359 --> 01:08:48.840
oh I like you I like you it feels good absolutely

1078
01:08:48.840 --> 01:08:54.720
don't respond I don't know I'm not there yet and and then the second thing so I

1079
01:08:54.720 --> 01:09:00.080
wanted to try to figure out how to get out of the that dopamine feeling and

1080
01:09:00.080 --> 01:09:05.479
then although I'm not gonna fly over to Puerto Rico you know do you notice so

1081
01:09:05.479 --> 01:09:10.240
let me ask you I know you've got another question let me ask you are you finding

1082
01:09:10.240 --> 01:09:16.800
that when those likes are not coming that it is affecting you differently

1083
01:09:16.800 --> 01:09:21.439
well so far they come and I didn't know this is at least three four a day and I

1084
01:09:21.439 --> 01:09:26.720
kind of look through it and I just you know and then my friends are taking

1085
01:09:26.720 --> 01:09:30.359
control of this now they're saying okay we will go with you let's fly over to

1086
01:09:30.359 --> 01:09:33.880
Puerto Rico and have a weekend together and then we'll go out on a date with you

1087
01:09:33.880 --> 01:09:40.399
with this guy and I was like you know I don't know it's not like that idea I

1088
01:09:40.399 --> 01:09:46.040
mean so it's a safe one but I mean I have a conversation so I'm just like

1089
01:09:46.040 --> 01:09:49.560
here's the thing if you make it like a girl's trip you're there for a girl's

1090
01:09:49.560 --> 01:09:54.800
trip you can step away for an hour or two just to go meet somebody up but then

1091
01:09:54.800 --> 01:09:59.680
you're just you're only on an hour to two hour date like so ladies when you

1092
01:09:59.680 --> 01:10:02.120
all do

1093
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:02.920
these first dates, we really do encourage,

1094
01:10:02.920 --> 01:10:07.640
keep those first dates to an hour to two hours tops.

1095
01:10:07.640 --> 01:10:11.520
And so I would say, if you wanna make a girls trip,

1096
01:10:11.520 --> 01:10:13.200
then it gives you a reason like,

1097
01:10:13.200 --> 01:10:14.880
hey, I'm here with my friends,

1098
01:10:14.880 --> 01:10:17.180
but I wanted to meet you for coffee.

1099
01:10:17.180 --> 01:10:19.560
I wanted to, you know, whatever.

1100
01:10:19.560 --> 01:10:21.440
But I do, I'm here with my girlfriend,

1101
01:10:21.440 --> 01:10:22.720
so I am gonna have to get back,

1102
01:10:22.720 --> 01:10:24.800
but I did wanna, I wanted to,

1103
01:10:24.800 --> 01:10:26.640
I wanted to meet you in person.

1104
01:10:26.640 --> 01:10:29.680
And so that's, I like that idea.

1105
01:10:29.720 --> 01:10:30.560
I really do.

1106
01:10:30.560 --> 01:10:32.160
A real quick thing is that,

1107
01:10:32.160 --> 01:10:34.600
because it's a low resource area,

1108
01:10:34.600 --> 01:10:37.640
I would, I traveled to New York and Washington DC,

1109
01:10:37.640 --> 01:10:38.480
and that's hard.

1110
01:10:38.480 --> 01:10:41.800
There's not a way on an app, I don't think,

1111
01:10:41.800 --> 01:10:44.240
to fully, I think, may have,

1112
01:10:44.240 --> 01:10:45.640
you're in New York or something like that.

1113
01:10:45.640 --> 01:10:47.520
So I'm more open to that.

1114
01:10:47.520 --> 01:10:48.760
So I'm just trying to work it out.

1115
01:10:48.760 --> 01:10:51.320
And then because I do conferences,

1116
01:10:51.320 --> 01:10:52.160
my friends are saying,

1117
01:10:52.160 --> 01:10:53.680
oh, just find someone at a conference.

1118
01:10:53.680 --> 01:10:55.640
I'm like, no, because that's where hookups happen

1119
01:10:55.640 --> 01:10:56.760
all the time.

1120
01:10:56.760 --> 01:10:57.720
We go for a three or 40.

1121
01:10:57.720 --> 01:10:59.080
I'm not doing that.

1122
01:10:59.440 --> 01:11:00.280
Well, here's the thing,

1123
01:11:00.280 --> 01:11:01.960
like when you're at conferences,

1124
01:11:02.880 --> 01:11:03.800
when you're at conferences,

1125
01:11:03.800 --> 01:11:05.280
I wouldn't say like go and like,

1126
01:11:05.280 --> 01:11:06.720
you're searching to hook up,

1127
01:11:06.720 --> 01:11:11.720
but I would say, be open to meeting both men and women.

1128
01:11:12.200 --> 01:11:13.040
Yeah.

1129
01:11:13.040 --> 01:11:15.480
No, that's why I'm a headhunter.

1130
01:11:15.480 --> 01:11:17.480
So I'm willing to meet people,

1131
01:11:17.480 --> 01:11:20.960
and I've never thought, headhunt your own partner.

1132
01:11:21.840 --> 01:11:23.240
It feels weird to me.

1133
01:11:23.240 --> 01:11:24.080
Right?

1134
01:11:25.000 --> 01:11:26.720
But again, it's like, take that pressure off.

1135
01:11:26.720 --> 01:11:28.640
Like you're not headhunting for a husband.

1136
01:11:29.200 --> 01:11:31.520
You are just engaging and learning more

1137
01:11:31.520 --> 01:11:34.480
about one of God's children.

1138
01:11:34.480 --> 01:11:36.600
Like learning something new about somebody,

1139
01:11:36.600 --> 01:11:38.760
and you never know what friendship,

1140
01:11:38.760 --> 01:11:39.600
because here's the thing,

1141
01:11:39.600 --> 01:11:40.960
I can't tell you ladies like,

1142
01:11:42.320 --> 01:11:45.080
y'all are gonna wanna marry your best friend.

1143
01:11:45.960 --> 01:11:49.400
You're gonna want your husband to be your best friend.

1144
01:11:49.400 --> 01:11:51.240
So I always say, go in,

1145
01:11:51.240 --> 01:11:52.560
and I tell this to my kids.

1146
01:11:52.560 --> 01:11:55.760
I have a 15 year old, a 13 year old, and a nine year old.

1147
01:11:55.760 --> 01:11:57.840
And my 13 year old daughter is like,

1148
01:11:58.240 --> 01:12:01.200
she's been ready to date, gosh, for a while.

1149
01:12:01.200 --> 01:12:05.440
Like, no, you're 13, that's not gonna happen.

1150
01:12:05.440 --> 01:12:07.280
But I always tell my kids,

1151
01:12:07.280 --> 01:12:10.280
you're not gonna romantically date.

1152
01:12:10.280 --> 01:12:12.360
That's just not gonna be a thing right now.

1153
01:12:12.360 --> 01:12:15.320
I said, y'all can have friends,

1154
01:12:15.320 --> 01:12:18.720
and it's good to get to know someone as a friend.

1155
01:12:18.720 --> 01:12:20.160
And so I would, you know,

1156
01:12:20.160 --> 01:12:21.480
if you're out of those conferences,

1157
01:12:21.480 --> 01:12:23.520
just go in with the mindset,

1158
01:12:23.520 --> 01:12:25.320
I'm gonna go meet new friends.

1159
01:12:25.320 --> 01:12:26.160
Yeah.

1160
01:12:26.200 --> 01:12:28.280
So the only last thing I'll say just for context,

1161
01:12:28.280 --> 01:12:30.560
like Teresa, my husband passed.

1162
01:12:30.560 --> 01:12:31.560
My husband was killed.

1163
01:12:31.560 --> 01:12:34.240
He was killed by the Taliban in Afghanistan.

1164
01:12:34.240 --> 01:12:36.960
It was in a terrorist bomb.

1165
01:12:36.960 --> 01:12:39.400
So part of my heart feeling is,

1166
01:12:39.400 --> 01:12:40.520
it's been six years now.

1167
01:12:40.520 --> 01:12:42.720
So I feel, I'm getting there,

1168
01:12:42.720 --> 01:12:46.200
but it's like, I get this panic about,

1169
01:12:46.200 --> 01:12:48.920
what if, you know, so that I don't,

1170
01:12:48.920 --> 01:12:50.960
and it's hard as a widow,

1171
01:12:50.960 --> 01:12:52.960
I don't see myself as single.

1172
01:12:52.960 --> 01:12:56.440
I see myself as a married person without a husband.

1173
01:12:56.440 --> 01:12:57.720
And it's a weird feeling.

1174
01:12:57.720 --> 01:12:59.040
So that's the other thing is like,

1175
01:12:59.040 --> 01:13:00.920
I don't feel like dating anyone,

1176
01:13:00.920 --> 01:13:02.800
but I have to put myself out there.

1177
01:13:02.800 --> 01:13:05.000
So, okay, that's enough for me.

1178
01:13:05.000 --> 01:13:07.160
Well, Nicole, I love everything that you shared.

1179
01:13:07.160 --> 01:13:08.800
I thank you so much.

1180
01:13:10.880 --> 01:13:12.120
So yeah, I like that idea.

1181
01:13:12.120 --> 01:13:14.720
Now what I, and I'm not on,

1182
01:13:14.720 --> 01:13:16.600
obviously I'm married, so I'm not on the apps right now.

1183
01:13:16.600 --> 01:13:20.560
And the apps I feel like have changed even since I've been.

1184
01:13:20.560 --> 01:13:22.320
And I mean, I've only been married a year

1185
01:13:22.680 --> 01:13:25.160
and three months, two months, three months.

1186
01:13:25.160 --> 01:13:26.280
I can't even remember.

1187
01:13:27.720 --> 01:13:28.960
And they've changed a little bit,

1188
01:13:28.960 --> 01:13:30.960
but I do believe that,

1189
01:13:30.960 --> 01:13:34.360
and some of you ladies can chime in on the app as well,

1190
01:13:34.360 --> 01:13:35.960
or in the chat,

1191
01:13:35.960 --> 01:13:39.880
that there are some of these apps that wherever you are,

1192
01:13:39.880 --> 01:13:44.040
that will, it will throw up who's in your area

1193
01:13:44.040 --> 01:13:45.200
with wherever you're at.

1194
01:13:45.200 --> 01:13:48.480
And I'm not sure if any of you ladies are on apps

1195
01:13:48.480 --> 01:13:49.320
that do that,

1196
01:13:49.320 --> 01:13:52.480
but will you just put what apps you're on in the chat?

1197
01:13:52.480 --> 01:13:53.680
Because Nicole,

1198
01:13:53.680 --> 01:13:56.320
so if you say you're traveling to DC in New York,

1199
01:13:56.320 --> 01:14:00.280
there may be an app or two that you haven't decided to be on

1200
01:14:00.280 --> 01:14:05.000
that it might be something that you could do and get on

1201
01:14:05.000 --> 01:14:08.920
so that when you're in New York, DC or traveling,

1202
01:14:08.920 --> 01:14:11.320
it will pull up matches for that area.

1203
01:14:11.320 --> 01:14:13.480
So I do think that there are some.

1204
01:14:14.400 --> 01:14:17.400
Okay, I'm going back in the chat here

1205
01:14:17.400 --> 01:14:19.200
so that I can scroll down.

1206
01:14:19.200 --> 01:14:21.720
You lost access to phase one in the heart work.

1207
01:14:21.720 --> 01:14:22.680
Okay, yeah.

1208
01:14:25.640 --> 01:14:27.880
They said they still go back.

1209
01:14:27.880 --> 01:14:30.680
Yeah, I'll talk with Bethany and Jackie

1210
01:14:30.680 --> 01:14:33.800
and I'll see what we're doing with that

1211
01:14:33.800 --> 01:14:35.880
because I think that's been a request for people

1212
01:14:35.880 --> 01:14:38.920
to be able to access some of the past material.

1213
01:14:38.920 --> 01:14:41.000
So I will follow up with that.

1214
01:14:41.160 --> 01:14:44.560
And if somebody wants to put that in the app as a question

1215
01:14:44.560 --> 01:14:47.400
so that it stays in front of us so that we don't forget.

1216
01:14:49.600 --> 01:14:53.000
Nicole, you said what I said was super powerful.

1217
01:14:53.000 --> 01:14:55.120
Pray for the guy you meet,

1218
01:14:55.120 --> 01:14:56.680
pray for them to meet your spirit mate

1219
01:14:56.680 --> 01:14:57.880
because if it's not,

1220
01:14:57.880 --> 01:15:00.360
you're not going to be able to meet your spirit mate.

1221
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:07.440
as we want that. Yes, absolutely. Do we have to do the multiple dates before going to phase three?

1222
01:15:00.360 --> 01:15:02.600
So I will follow up with that.

1223
01:15:02.600 --> 01:15:06.200
And if somebody wants to put that in the app as a question

1224
01:15:06.200 --> 01:15:09.160
so that it stays in front of us so that we don't forget.

1225
01:15:07.440 --> 01:15:14.400
So no, Audrina, you don't. Okay. A lot of you won't get your seven dates before moving to phase

1226
01:15:14.400 --> 01:15:19.440
three. I mean, if you're like me, like I was, I was a busy, I was a busy single mom. So I would,

1227
01:15:19.440 --> 01:15:24.560
there was, I maybe could fit two or three dates in a month. And so you're only going to be in

1228
01:15:24.560 --> 01:15:29.920
phase two at the, at the minimum, like four to five weeks, if you're doing one video a week.

1229
01:15:30.560 --> 01:15:36.640
So you may only get two or three dates in. And I will say, there's a lot of ladies in phase two,

1230
01:15:36.640 --> 01:15:39.920
that they don't feel like they've been given the green light to date. And they're just kind

1231
01:15:39.920 --> 01:15:45.360
of sitting and soaking in and they're waiting, um, to get ready. Cause there's some other things

1232
01:15:45.360 --> 01:15:51.280
that God is, is working in them. Okay. So this is not like we all fit in a box and we all have to,

1233
01:15:52.000 --> 01:15:57.120
um, have our seven dates by this, you know, by the time we moved to phase three, there's some

1234
01:15:57.120 --> 01:16:03.200
women that have, but not everybody. I would say most, most women that come from phase two have

1235
01:16:03.200 --> 01:16:13.200
not gotten their seven dates before moving to phase three. Um, um, good, good, good.

1236
01:16:15.680 --> 01:16:18.480
Okay. So yeah, like Lavinia, she said she doesn't want to date until the new year.

1237
01:16:19.120 --> 01:16:23.760
So that's totally fine. Um, and you don't have to stay here in phase two. Once you're finished

1238
01:16:23.760 --> 01:16:29.200
with the content, because there's several coaches and there's a lot of, like a lot of the women are

1239
01:16:29.200 --> 01:16:35.120
dating in phase three or not dating. And there are some that are in level three relationships

1240
01:16:35.120 --> 01:16:42.240
and there's some that still haven't dated yet. So again, like you, you can, if you want to hang

1241
01:16:42.240 --> 01:16:48.880
in phase two for like another little bit, you can, we don't typically want to see you ladies

1242
01:16:48.880 --> 01:16:54.960
in here for more than three months. I would say in phase two, we do want you to shift out of here.

1243
01:16:55.760 --> 01:17:00.240
I know it feels good and cozy and I love y'all. Like I get sad when y'all leave me.

1244
01:17:02.000 --> 01:17:08.080
You know, I'm in phase three, but I'm not, I'm not active in phase three because my focus is,

1245
01:17:08.160 --> 01:17:15.680
is you ladies in phase two, but, um, yeah, so you don't have to rush over to phase two.

1246
01:17:15.680 --> 01:17:20.960
If you don't feel ready, but don't, don't get too cozy in here because we will kick you out.

1247
01:17:21.600 --> 01:17:28.160
We'll kick it at phase three, but we'll do it gently. I promise. All right. Um, so Holly,

1248
01:17:28.160 --> 01:17:34.560
you're honestly not interested in doing online dating again. I totally get it. Um, totally

1249
01:17:34.560 --> 01:17:42.160
understand. Yes. Okay. Um, I don't even know is Holly still on here, Holly. I will, if you are,

1250
01:17:42.160 --> 01:17:47.760
I'm going to get to you in a moment, but I'm going to let, um, Jill and then Joanne and Esther and

1251
01:17:47.760 --> 01:17:54.960
Suzanne, they got their hands up. And so Holly, we can come back and circle around that. Um, so

1252
01:17:54.960 --> 01:18:00.240
Jill, if you want to unmute, I know you, you've got a busy work schedule, so yeah. Thank you.

1253
01:18:01.040 --> 01:18:10.240
Um, I really value this time. So thank you guys very much. Um, I keep going through cycles of

1254
01:18:10.240 --> 01:18:16.080
like being really hopeful and really discouraged. Yeah. So I apologize. I'm probably going to cry,

1255
01:18:17.520 --> 01:18:24.160
but I'm in a really discouraging spot right now. I realized part of it is I've always been able to

1256
01:18:24.160 --> 01:18:30.480
hear really clearly from the Lord. And with what happened with my ex, it blindsided me.

1257
01:18:31.200 --> 01:18:40.560
It was really taken up. I hit me knowing like, do I hear from God? Um, the other thing is like

1258
01:18:41.520 --> 01:18:48.560
all my matches online and I'm having like guys, very interested in me. I'm having phone dates.

1259
01:18:49.440 --> 01:18:56.480
They're just not, they're red flags or inappropriate or nice guys, just not my guy

1260
01:18:57.040 --> 01:19:04.160
kind of things. I'm giving them many opportunities, not just one and done. Um, but I really feel in my

1261
01:19:04.160 --> 01:19:13.120
heart that this is not where it's supposed to be. And my guy is not in the 150, 200 mile radius that

1262
01:19:13.120 --> 01:19:21.360
these apps allow me to go. Um, so I'm just really sorry. It's okay. I'm really

1263
01:19:22.960 --> 01:19:32.400
feeling not hopeless, but really discouraged. Um, cause where I live, like Holly and I were

1264
01:19:32.400 --> 01:19:39.920
talking about this, there's kind of like similar for kind of similar guys in the area. They're all

1265
01:19:39.920 --> 01:19:44.880
different shades of kind of the same thing. And it's just not my person. So I don't really know

1266
01:19:44.880 --> 01:19:52.160
how to keep like, you know, I'm going back over what I have taken notes for the heart work and

1267
01:19:52.160 --> 01:19:59.440
kind of letting God speak into that healing, hearing him. Um, but I don't know how to just like,

1268
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:05.680
stay consistent with my hopefulness and not keep it's like every other day, hopeful, discouraged,

1269
01:20:05.680 --> 01:20:12.240
hopeful, discouraged, you know? So I can totally relate when I was, cause ladies, for those that

1270
01:20:12.240 --> 01:20:17.600
you don't know, I was, I joined in 2020 and I didn't meet my husband until 2022, the end of

1271
01:20:17.600 --> 01:20:23.760
2022. And I really thought I was going to get married in 2022. Like I had been in this group

1272
01:20:23.760 --> 01:20:28.640
for over a year. And at the time it was called married in 12 months or less. And so we've now,

1273
01:20:29.200 --> 01:20:37.760
we call it last year single now, but I've been where you've been Jill. I have. So

1274
01:20:41.040 --> 01:20:48.240
like my heart is with you. Like I just, I just, I have a tug, like I get emotional too. Like

1275
01:20:50.000 --> 01:20:56.960
I just want you to know that you have a community here of women that are here

1276
01:20:57.920 --> 01:21:04.960
for you to have a shoulder to cry on. Okay. And it's okay to be sad at times,

1277
01:21:05.680 --> 01:21:10.880
but what we, what I want to encourage you with is not allow yourself to stay stuck there.

1278
01:21:12.080 --> 01:21:17.680
And it sounds like you go back and forth. Okay. So that's good. Now you mentioned, you know,

1279
01:21:17.680 --> 01:21:22.480
not feeling like you can always hear from God. And I, I, I think there's a divine appointment

1280
01:21:22.480 --> 01:21:29.840
here for you that so ladies that maybe jumped on a little late, um, Thursday, there is a special

1281
01:21:29.840 --> 01:21:37.280
session. Um, Jackie's friend, Bethany Hicks is going to do a teaching on how to hear from God.

1282
01:21:37.280 --> 01:21:42.240
And so Jill, I want to encourage you. I think it's a divine appointment. I think there's just

1283
01:21:42.240 --> 01:21:50.080
going to be something unlocked there for you that God's just going to highlight to you something

1284
01:21:50.080 --> 01:21:59.280
of just comfort and just know that he's got you. He's, you are here by divine appointment.

1285
01:22:00.160 --> 01:22:08.080
You're, you're here on purpose. God brought you here for a special reason and he wants to do a

1286
01:22:08.080 --> 01:22:14.720
good work in you. He has been doing a good work in you. And I just want you to feel encouraged.

1287
01:22:15.440 --> 01:22:21.440
I've been where you've been. I mean, I was ready to throw in the towel right before I met my

1288
01:22:21.440 --> 01:22:29.040
husband. I was like, I'm done. I've been doing this for two years. And I'm like, I don't, maybe

1289
01:22:29.040 --> 01:22:34.800
it's not for me, but I was like, I'm tired of getting my hopes up and feeling like I'm being

1290
01:22:34.800 --> 01:22:42.720
let down. And I let it go. And Jackie was like, borrow my faith, borrow my faith because God

1291
01:22:42.800 --> 01:22:48.160
showed me that you're a bride. And I have faith that he's going to deliver on that.

1292
01:22:49.360 --> 01:22:53.440
And I was like, okay, well, he's going to have to do something crazy.

1293
01:22:54.960 --> 01:23:01.200
And he did, but just know, like, I hope it just gives you encouragement knowing that you have

1294
01:23:01.200 --> 01:23:06.800
sisters here that I'm sure ladies just nod your head. If you're on camera, if you have been

1295
01:23:07.600 --> 01:23:13.760
where Jill is at right now, you have moments of discouragement. You have moments of

1296
01:23:13.760 --> 01:23:20.560
being hopeful and discouraged, hopeful and discouraged. You just don't feel like he's

1297
01:23:20.560 --> 01:23:27.920
in your area. And so I just, you know, ask God to highlight for you, if there's something that

1298
01:23:27.920 --> 01:23:34.480
he wants you to do, you know, maybe there's a trip that you need to go on. Yeah. I have this

1299
01:23:35.200 --> 01:23:39.040
and just so you know, like, I think I know where he's calling me, but it's like,

1300
01:23:40.480 --> 01:23:44.960
it's cross country. Like I'm not in Southern California. I'm so far from Southern California.

1301
01:23:46.640 --> 01:23:50.560
And I don't know how I can afford to go out, you know, to live out there. So

1302
01:23:51.600 --> 01:24:00.400
I want, it just feels impossible, but it feels impossible because we're in our own mind. We

1303
01:24:00.400 --> 01:24:06.560
think, and like, I know at times when I feel like, well, that's completely impossible is because I'm

1304
01:24:07.200 --> 01:24:11.360
thinking of all the things that I need to do. And I'm like, I don't know how to do that,

1305
01:24:12.320 --> 01:24:19.200
but you know, who, who can God, God is the God of the impossible.

1306
01:24:21.040 --> 01:24:27.680
So I'm just going to encourage you to just, you know, continue to pray. And I, Jackie,

1307
01:24:28.240 --> 01:24:31.360
um, I don't know if, did you get to listen to supernatural Saturday?

1308
01:24:33.600 --> 01:24:42.480
Ask, ask God, keep persevering. Ask what you, what you want him to deliver on. God, I need you to

1309
01:24:42.480 --> 01:24:48.720
bring the finances so that you can take me to Southern California. God, I know that you're

1310
01:24:48.720 --> 01:24:53.600
telling me I need to be there for whatever reason. And God, you're the God of possible.

1311
01:24:53.680 --> 01:24:57.840
You're, you're going to have to, I'm asking you to deliver on this.

1312
01:24:57.840 --> 01:24:59.840
I'm asking you for you to make the way.

1313
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:03.000
or it feels like there's no way.

1314
01:25:03.000 --> 01:25:04.920
God, I need you to part the sea.

1315
01:25:06.180 --> 01:25:08.500
And just keep asking, keep pushing,

1316
01:25:08.500 --> 01:25:10.740
keep persevering through that.

1317
01:25:13.420 --> 01:25:18.260
And, cause he's not, he's the God of impossible.

1318
01:25:18.260 --> 01:25:20.620
So I just want you to feel encouraged

1319
01:25:21.700 --> 01:25:25.100
and seen and heard and known

1320
01:25:26.460 --> 01:25:27.300
and

1321
01:25:30.000 --> 01:25:31.200
just sit with that, but I do,

1322
01:25:31.200 --> 01:25:34.000
I think you need to get to the Thursday special session

1323
01:25:34.000 --> 01:25:37.120
for sure, or watch it in replay.

1324
01:25:37.120 --> 01:25:39.040
And I'm gonna be praying for you.

1325
01:25:39.040 --> 01:25:42.040
Your sisters here are gonna be praying for you as well.

1326
01:25:42.040 --> 01:25:44.900
Just know that you are not alone.

1327
01:25:44.900 --> 01:25:45.740
Okay?

1328
01:25:46.920 --> 01:25:48.720
Love you so much.

1329
01:25:50.480 --> 01:25:51.520
Ladies.

1330
01:25:52.560 --> 01:25:55.240
All right, Joanne, I hope that helped you, Jill.

1331
01:25:57.160 --> 01:25:58.580
Okay.

1332
01:25:58.580 --> 01:26:01.340
Joanne, I see your hand up.

1333
01:26:01.340 --> 01:26:02.740
How are you?

1334
01:26:03.780 --> 01:26:05.380
Me, Joanne, or someone else?

1335
01:26:06.580 --> 01:26:07.940
What's that?

1336
01:26:07.940 --> 01:26:09.260
Me, Joanne, or someone else?

1337
01:26:09.260 --> 01:26:10.100
Yes, you.

1338
01:26:11.100 --> 01:26:13.200
Yeah, no, I see you're in your car.

1339
01:26:13.200 --> 01:26:16.900
Yeah, I didn't want the movement to distract you.

1340
01:26:16.900 --> 01:26:18.380
So, hi.

1341
01:26:18.380 --> 01:26:19.220
Hi.

1342
01:26:20.060 --> 01:26:21.400
Good to see you.

1343
01:26:22.660 --> 01:26:27.660
So, I've been in phase two for,

1344
01:26:27.740 --> 01:26:29.180
I guess, October.

1345
01:26:29.180 --> 01:26:31.220
So, hopefully you're not kicking me out

1346
01:26:31.220 --> 01:26:33.060
because I'm learning a lot.

1347
01:26:36.100 --> 01:26:39.100
So, my question is, I've been,

1348
01:26:39.100 --> 01:26:40.820
I know my schedule's been crazy.

1349
01:26:40.820 --> 01:26:42.460
And then, of course, the added thing

1350
01:26:42.460 --> 01:26:44.180
with my dad being in the hospital,

1351
01:26:44.180 --> 01:26:47.720
so that actually made it a little bit more.

1352
01:26:47.720 --> 01:26:51.940
But how do I get these guys to say,

1353
01:26:51.940 --> 01:26:54.280
I have a couple of them that they understand

1354
01:26:54.280 --> 01:26:55.960
and they know we can't go on a date,

1355
01:26:55.960 --> 01:26:58.960
but at least they put forth the like,

1356
01:26:58.960 --> 01:27:01.280
okay, they're waiting on me for a date.

1357
01:27:01.280 --> 01:27:02.640
So, that's fine.

1358
01:27:02.640 --> 01:27:06.480
But the others, I'm like, hello, hello.

1359
01:27:06.480 --> 01:27:08.920
So, I don't know what to do with those.

1360
01:27:08.920 --> 01:27:11.160
So, okay, because yeah, you gave me,

1361
01:27:11.160 --> 01:27:15.040
like, I recall seeing you got Massachusetts guy,

1362
01:27:15.040 --> 01:27:18.720
you got BC guy, I think, is what you call.

1363
01:27:18.720 --> 01:27:23.420
Yeah, I haven't forgotten about your comments and stuff.

1364
01:27:23.420 --> 01:27:24.820
So, I was gonna get to that.

1365
01:27:25.780 --> 01:27:27.460
For the sake of time, so yeah,

1366
01:27:27.460 --> 01:27:29.900
let's kind of dive into this.

1367
01:27:29.900 --> 01:27:34.900
What do we do when guys are not showing interest, right?

1368
01:27:35.380 --> 01:27:36.960
So, is that kind of what you're saying here?

1369
01:27:36.960 --> 01:27:40.700
Now, let me ask you, have you dropped the hanky

1370
01:27:40.700 --> 01:27:43.460
and thrown out, like, you want to get to know them,

1371
01:27:43.460 --> 01:27:44.820
you wanna do a video chat,

1372
01:27:44.820 --> 01:27:47.140
you wanna meet them in person when it's time?

1373
01:27:47.140 --> 01:27:51.140
Have you done any of that with any of them?

1374
01:27:51.180 --> 01:27:54.380
So, with the Bronx guy, yes.

1375
01:27:54.380 --> 01:27:59.380
When we first moved out of the community into texting,

1376
01:28:00.060 --> 01:28:03.020
I was just like, and it was supposed to be happening

1377
01:28:03.020 --> 01:28:04.980
during Thanksgiving week, and I was like,

1378
01:28:04.980 --> 01:28:08.420
oh, great, you're on vacation, I have a day off,

1379
01:28:08.420 --> 01:28:12.620
let's pick a day and let's go out.

1380
01:28:12.620 --> 01:28:15.580
And that whole week, as you can see, came and gone,

1381
01:28:15.580 --> 01:28:18.080
and he never said, hey, let's do this.

1382
01:28:18.080 --> 01:28:22.000
All he kept saying was like, I'm on vacation

1383
01:28:22.000 --> 01:28:24.040
and I'm hanging out with family and friends

1384
01:28:24.040 --> 01:28:27.600
and blah, blah, blah, and I'm like, and, so.

1385
01:28:27.600 --> 01:28:31.800
So, that's where, and I don't know if you have jumped on

1386
01:28:31.800 --> 01:28:33.680
when I was talking about dropping the hanky

1387
01:28:33.680 --> 01:28:35.660
and the reciprocation and stuff.

1388
01:28:37.160 --> 01:28:38.000
That's where-

1389
01:28:38.000 --> 01:28:39.400
I think I was just coming on here.

1390
01:28:39.400 --> 01:28:40.760
Just coming on, okay.

1391
01:28:40.760 --> 01:28:42.560
So, yeah, this is where, so, ladies,

1392
01:28:42.560 --> 01:28:44.000
I want you to hear, like, Joanna,

1393
01:28:44.000 --> 01:28:46.520
she's putting forth effort, she's dropping the hanky,

1394
01:28:46.520 --> 01:28:49.320
she's letting guys know that she's interested.

1395
01:28:49.320 --> 01:28:52.560
Now she's waiting to see that reciprocation.

1396
01:28:52.560 --> 01:28:54.440
And if they're not reciprocating

1397
01:28:54.440 --> 01:28:56.880
and they're not making it a priority,

1398
01:28:56.880 --> 01:28:59.920
it's okay to continue to move on, okay?

1399
01:28:59.920 --> 01:29:02.440
You don't have to give a long explanation.

1400
01:29:02.440 --> 01:29:05.160
You don't have to say, well, you know,

1401
01:29:05.160 --> 01:29:07.320
I just don't think that you're giving me any time,

1402
01:29:07.320 --> 01:29:09.040
so I'm gonna move on.

1403
01:29:09.040 --> 01:29:14.040
Like, we don't wanna respond out of being defensive, okay?

1404
01:29:14.280 --> 01:29:17.040
So, and it doesn't sound, Joanna, that you're finding,

1405
01:29:17.040 --> 01:29:19.960
like, it's not like you're harboring any, like, hurt

1406
01:29:19.960 --> 01:29:22.440
or offense, like, it doesn't sound like you're offended.

1407
01:29:22.440 --> 01:29:24.240
Okay, so that's good.

1408
01:29:24.240 --> 01:29:26.880
Okay, so, ladies, if you find yourself in a situation

1409
01:29:26.880 --> 01:29:28.760
and you're finding that you're being offended,

1410
01:29:28.760 --> 01:29:30.920
that's a heart thing, and that's what,

1411
01:29:30.920 --> 01:29:33.360
then we need to go do some heart work, okay?

1412
01:29:33.360 --> 01:29:36.520
We need to, you know, do some healing there.

1413
01:29:36.520 --> 01:29:38.440
But for Joanna, it sounds like, you know,

1414
01:29:38.440 --> 01:29:41.120
she's just, she's, you know, mingling

1415
01:29:41.120 --> 01:29:42.840
and getting to know people.

1416
01:29:42.880 --> 01:29:45.000
So, again, like, if you've dropped the hanky

1417
01:29:45.000 --> 01:29:48.600
and there's no reciprocation, it's okay to just let it sit.

1418
01:29:48.600 --> 01:29:52.600
Now, it, you don't wanna completely cut it off, necessarily,

1419
01:29:52.600 --> 01:29:54.880
so you can always leave an open door.

1420
01:29:54.880 --> 01:29:56.360
So that's why you don't wanna go in

1421
01:29:56.360 --> 01:29:59.240
and be all defensive with these guys, like, well,

1422
01:29:59.240 --> 01:30:00.080
you didn't, you know,

1423
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:02.680
you're not doing this, and duh, duh, duh, duh, right?

1424
01:30:02.680 --> 01:30:05.200
We're not gonna jump down their throats,

1425
01:30:05.200 --> 01:30:06.720
but we're leaving it open,

1426
01:30:06.720 --> 01:30:08.920
and if they're not reciprocating,

1427
01:30:08.920 --> 01:30:12.600
it's okay for us to back off the conversation too.

1428
01:30:12.600 --> 01:30:14.680
We wanna match effort.

1429
01:30:14.680 --> 01:30:17.080
So if they're giving some effort,

1430
01:30:17.080 --> 01:30:19.040
you're gonna match that same effort,

1431
01:30:19.040 --> 01:30:22.080
and it's just a back and forth.

1432
01:30:22.080 --> 01:30:26.720
It should feel ease, it shouldn't feel strenuous, okay?

1433
01:30:26.720 --> 01:30:30.280
We also don't wanna be the one that we're like

1434
01:30:30.280 --> 01:30:32.120
constantly pushing, pushing, pushing,

1435
01:30:32.120 --> 01:30:36.000
and then they're not, if we're pushing a lot,

1436
01:30:36.000 --> 01:30:38.400
and they're not reciprocating back,

1437
01:30:39.320 --> 01:30:42.000
we need to recognize, okay,

1438
01:30:42.000 --> 01:30:44.200
am I kind of throwing it out there?

1439
01:30:44.200 --> 01:30:47.720
That was me, ladies, I was anxious attach,

1440
01:30:47.720 --> 01:30:49.280
and I was always like, oh my gosh,

1441
01:30:49.280 --> 01:30:50.120
I gotta get in front of them,

1442
01:30:50.120 --> 01:30:52.040
I gotta put myself out here,

1443
01:30:52.040 --> 01:30:53.640
I gotta do this, I gotta do that,

1444
01:30:53.640 --> 01:30:56.000
and then when they weren't reciprocating

1445
01:30:56.000 --> 01:30:59.560
the same effort, it just allowed me to get more anxious

1446
01:30:59.560 --> 01:31:02.960
to wanna reach out more.

1447
01:31:02.960 --> 01:31:04.240
And that wasn't good either,

1448
01:31:04.240 --> 01:31:07.560
and so it literally is that reciprocated,

1449
01:31:07.560 --> 01:31:11.280
if he's not making the effort, making the priority,

1450
01:31:11.280 --> 01:31:12.240
you've put it out there,

1451
01:31:12.240 --> 01:31:14.720
I would be interested in a date with you,

1452
01:31:14.720 --> 01:31:16.560
let him lead that.

1453
01:31:16.560 --> 01:31:20.400
As long as you've communicated what you're open to,

1454
01:31:20.400 --> 01:31:23.000
and you've had some healthy communication there,

1455
01:31:23.000 --> 01:31:25.800
let them reciprocate it back.

1456
01:31:26.680 --> 01:31:30.400
It's reciprocate efforts, okay?

1457
01:31:30.400 --> 01:31:31.480
Does that help?

1458
01:31:33.360 --> 01:31:34.760
Yeah, that helps.

1459
01:31:34.760 --> 01:31:35.880
Yeah, and then you just let,

1460
01:31:35.880 --> 01:31:37.680
you let the men kind of lead,

1461
01:31:37.680 --> 01:31:39.440
like that's when it just kind of,

1462
01:31:39.440 --> 01:31:42.000
okay, who's gonna rise to the top?

1463
01:31:42.000 --> 01:31:44.920
Who does God want me to spend my time with?

1464
01:31:44.920 --> 01:31:47.440
Who's gonna rise to the occasion?

1465
01:31:47.440 --> 01:31:49.680
I've communicated, I'm open to dating,

1466
01:31:49.680 --> 01:31:52.440
I'm not exclusive with anybody,

1467
01:31:52.440 --> 01:31:55.120
so I'm gonna show interest, I'm gonna engage,

1468
01:31:55.160 --> 01:31:56.120
I'm gonna get to know people,

1469
01:31:56.120 --> 01:31:58.360
and I'm gonna let them decide

1470
01:31:58.360 --> 01:31:59.400
if they wanna get to know me

1471
01:31:59.400 --> 01:32:01.840
and show me that they wanna get to know me as well.

1472
01:32:01.840 --> 01:32:02.680
Cool?

1473
01:32:04.160 --> 01:32:05.000
Awesome.

1474
01:32:05.000 --> 01:32:05.840
Thank you.

1475
01:32:05.840 --> 01:32:07.080
You are welcome.

1476
01:32:08.720 --> 01:32:10.200
Esther, did you take your hand down?

1477
01:32:10.200 --> 01:32:12.640
Did we get to, did that answer your question?

1478
01:32:15.200 --> 01:32:18.920
I know, and I was thinking, do I actually have a question?

1479
01:32:18.920 --> 01:32:21.080
I don't, I don't think I do.

1480
01:32:21.080 --> 01:32:24.640
I got super anxious when I went back on the app.

1481
01:32:25.160 --> 01:32:26.240
I've been married for 30 years,

1482
01:32:26.240 --> 01:32:28.720
so the last time I dated was when I was 17,

1483
01:32:28.720 --> 01:32:32.440
so when I started dating the beginning of the year,

1484
01:32:32.440 --> 01:32:36.960
there were so many traps I stepped into

1485
01:32:36.960 --> 01:32:39.400
and so many mistakes I made,

1486
01:32:40.400 --> 01:32:43.080
and so I could relate to what Jill was saying.

1487
01:32:43.080 --> 01:32:44.240
My heart bleeds for her,

1488
01:32:44.240 --> 01:32:45.640
because I can sense it.

1489
01:32:45.640 --> 01:32:46.480
She's gone now.

1490
01:32:46.480 --> 01:32:47.560
I would love to say something to her,

1491
01:32:47.560 --> 01:32:49.760
because something really helped me,

1492
01:32:49.760 --> 01:32:51.800
because I just felt that I needed to be held.

1493
01:32:51.800 --> 01:32:54.200
You know, I just needed to be held by Jesus,

1494
01:32:54.760 --> 01:32:57.280
and that was where my focus went in the mornings,

1495
01:32:57.280 --> 01:32:58.600
just to sit with him for a bit

1496
01:32:58.600 --> 01:33:02.400
and not let it get to my head and heart too much.

1497
01:33:02.400 --> 01:33:04.760
Anyway, so this whole dating thing,

1498
01:33:04.760 --> 01:33:06.440
I'm back on the app since yesterday.

1499
01:33:06.440 --> 01:33:08.800
I'm like, oh my God, I see all these people,

1500
01:33:08.800 --> 01:33:10.800
and now I got a date for fun.

1501
01:33:10.800 --> 01:33:12.720
Like, how is that, how does that work?

1502
01:33:12.720 --> 01:33:16.760
So I do think that it helps me to hear you all say that,

1503
01:33:16.760 --> 01:33:18.200
you know, don't look for your husband,

1504
01:33:18.200 --> 01:33:20.760
just go on dates and don't take it too seriously,

1505
01:33:20.760 --> 01:33:23.080
because that's totally what I tripped into

1506
01:33:23.120 --> 01:33:24.960
with the few dates I went on,

1507
01:33:24.960 --> 01:33:26.800
which led to so much like, ugh.

1508
01:33:27.880 --> 01:33:30.560
So I'm trying to look at it that way.

1509
01:33:30.560 --> 01:33:32.520
Like, let's have fun.

1510
01:33:32.520 --> 01:33:33.440
Well, and here's the thing,

1511
01:33:33.440 --> 01:33:37.160
like, the cool thing is you have this community.

1512
01:33:37.160 --> 01:33:38.000
Yeah.

1513
01:33:38.000 --> 01:33:39.200
You have coaches here.

1514
01:33:39.200 --> 01:33:41.280
So you're not doing this alone.

1515
01:33:41.280 --> 01:33:43.880
Like, it's not like a year ago,

1516
01:33:43.880 --> 01:33:45.360
because now you have us.

1517
01:33:45.360 --> 01:33:46.200
Yeah.

1518
01:33:46.200 --> 01:33:47.040
And we're here, and let me tell you,

1519
01:33:47.040 --> 01:33:49.520
us coaches, we're here to help you with those blind spots.

1520
01:33:49.520 --> 01:33:50.360
Okay?

1521
01:33:50.360 --> 01:33:51.760
Thank you.

1522
01:33:51.760 --> 01:33:53.680
Jackie did that for me,

1523
01:33:53.680 --> 01:33:54.640
and that's what I'm saying.

1524
01:33:54.640 --> 01:33:56.480
Like, I'm blessed that, you know,

1525
01:33:56.480 --> 01:33:58.840
she allowed me to be on her team,

1526
01:33:58.840 --> 01:34:01.880
because let me tell you, I've experienced it all,

1527
01:34:01.880 --> 01:34:03.120
and we're just really good

1528
01:34:03.120 --> 01:34:04.800
at being able to help you ladies out.

1529
01:34:04.800 --> 01:34:07.880
Like, I don't give you ladies advice

1530
01:34:07.880 --> 01:34:09.800
of things that I didn't do, okay?

1531
01:34:09.800 --> 01:34:11.640
And I'll be real, and I'll be honest with you.

1532
01:34:11.640 --> 01:34:13.320
And that's the thing, like, ladies,

1533
01:34:13.320 --> 01:34:15.000
we sit here and tell you,

1534
01:34:15.000 --> 01:34:16.360
like, I was just thinking about this today,

1535
01:34:16.360 --> 01:34:18.800
like, you know, make sure

1536
01:34:18.800 --> 01:34:20.440
that if you're dating long distance

1537
01:34:20.440 --> 01:34:22.320
that you get off the texting

1538
01:34:22.320 --> 01:34:25.720
and you get on a video chat or in person or something.

1539
01:34:25.720 --> 01:34:27.360
Ladies, I didn't do that with my husband.

1540
01:34:27.360 --> 01:34:29.680
I didn't get on the phone with him

1541
01:34:29.680 --> 01:34:32.360
until the night before I was meeting him in person,

1542
01:34:32.360 --> 01:34:35.720
and that was almost three weeks after being, like, introduced.

1543
01:34:35.720 --> 01:34:38.800
So, like, we tell you to do these things,

1544
01:34:38.800 --> 01:34:41.120
but just know, like, there's no, like,

1545
01:34:41.120 --> 01:34:42.320
right way or wrong way.

1546
01:34:42.320 --> 01:34:43.560
We're just here to help you.

1547
01:34:43.560 --> 01:34:47.320
We see what is a good practice, okay?

1548
01:34:47.320 --> 01:34:49.560
And it doesn't mean that I didn't do this way,

1549
01:34:49.560 --> 01:34:50.600
so I messed it up.

1550
01:34:50.600 --> 01:34:52.000
No, there's not.

1551
01:34:52.000 --> 01:34:53.920
You can't mess it up, okay?

1552
01:34:53.920 --> 01:34:56.440
So, just know you're here, you're supported.

1553
01:34:56.440 --> 01:34:59.280
You have us to lean on,

1554
01:34:59.280 --> 01:35:00.400
so when the panic...

1555
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:02.160
it comes, just come share it with us.

1556
01:35:02.160 --> 01:35:03.680
Like, oh my gosh, this is what's going on.

1557
01:35:03.680 --> 01:35:05.800
Help me out, help a sister out.

1558
01:35:05.800 --> 01:35:09.440
We're here to walk alongside with you on that.

1559
01:35:09.440 --> 01:35:11.480
And again, and we'll let you know,

1560
01:35:11.480 --> 01:35:13.760
and there's probably women that have been on here

1561
01:35:13.760 --> 01:35:15.920
and have heard me pull some Band-Aids

1562
01:35:15.920 --> 01:35:18.160
off of some of the ladies that have been here.

1563
01:35:18.160 --> 01:35:20.160
If you go back at some of the replays,

1564
01:35:20.160 --> 01:35:23.480
I've definitely pulled Band-Aids just off of people.

1565
01:35:23.480 --> 01:35:25.560
All right, I'm not, I'm one of those,

1566
01:35:25.560 --> 01:35:28.920
I've always shared, like I was one of those friends.

1567
01:35:29.000 --> 01:35:30.680
I will tell you what you need to hear.

1568
01:35:30.680 --> 01:35:33.320
I won't always tell you what you want to hear,

1569
01:35:33.320 --> 01:35:35.360
but I will do it in a loving way

1570
01:35:35.360 --> 01:35:38.240
because that's my heart, it's my nature.

1571
01:35:38.240 --> 01:35:41.360
And I know all the coaches that are here,

1572
01:35:41.360 --> 01:35:43.320
we all have that heart to help you.

1573
01:35:43.320 --> 01:35:46.840
So Esther, like you got your sister squad.

1574
01:35:46.840 --> 01:35:50.320
You've got amazing coaches here, not just myself,

1575
01:35:50.320 --> 01:35:53.640
but Ebony, Bethany, the coaches in phase three

1576
01:35:53.640 --> 01:35:55.680
are incredible.

1577
01:35:55.680 --> 01:35:58.000
Jackie is great.

1578
01:35:58.000 --> 01:36:01.960
Like you, you are in good hands, okay?

1579
01:36:01.960 --> 01:36:05.160
You don't have to do online dating.

1580
01:36:05.160 --> 01:36:09.760
Because I know I, ladies, when I first joined this community

1581
01:36:09.760 --> 01:36:11.160
I didn't date for a year.

1582
01:36:11.160 --> 01:36:13.000
Now I wouldn't suggest it.

1583
01:36:13.000 --> 01:36:16.400
Now I will say God took me on my own journey.

1584
01:36:16.400 --> 01:36:19.000
There was things I needed to heal from.

1585
01:36:19.000 --> 01:36:21.960
There was things that he needed to highlight to me.

1586
01:36:21.960 --> 01:36:23.080
There was reluctance.

1587
01:36:23.080 --> 01:36:25.080
There was fear as to why I didn't step

1588
01:36:25.080 --> 01:36:27.120
into the whole dating scene right away.

1589
01:36:28.240 --> 01:36:31.280
But like I said, like we're all here on a journey.

1590
01:36:31.280 --> 01:36:33.600
Like there's so much that you're gonna get from it.

1591
01:36:33.600 --> 01:36:38.600
And yeah, it's just good stuff, all right?

1592
01:36:39.320 --> 01:36:41.040
Suzanne, I see your hand up.

1593
01:36:41.040 --> 01:36:42.760
What's that?

1594
01:36:42.760 --> 01:36:45.480
My other Sarasota sister.

1595
01:36:47.520 --> 01:36:48.480
Oh, you're muted.

1596
01:36:50.520 --> 01:36:51.840
I do that all the time.

1597
01:36:51.840 --> 01:36:54.160
I hit the, okay, there we go.

1598
01:36:54.160 --> 01:36:55.000
I got you.

1599
01:36:56.000 --> 01:36:58.560
Okay, so I'll try to be really brief in this.

1600
01:36:58.560 --> 01:37:01.600
I got back onto online dating about probably three weeks.

1601
01:37:01.600 --> 01:37:04.240
So it was right near the beginning of November.

1602
01:37:04.240 --> 01:37:07.320
I had been off of like doing any dates

1603
01:37:07.320 --> 01:37:10.000
or anything for like a whole, a solid year.

1604
01:37:10.000 --> 01:37:11.880
So it was kind of like, I just felt like,

1605
01:37:11.880 --> 01:37:13.080
okay, I've done the heart work.

1606
01:37:13.080 --> 01:37:15.120
I kind of put a pause on some things for a bit

1607
01:37:15.120 --> 01:37:17.200
because there was some health stuff I was healing from

1608
01:37:17.200 --> 01:37:18.920
and all some things.

1609
01:37:18.920 --> 01:37:21.440
And I was like, I feel like it's time.

1610
01:37:21.440 --> 01:37:24.360
So I got back on a couple of different apps.

1611
01:37:25.000 --> 01:37:28.880
And for the first, I don't know, weekish or so,

1612
01:37:28.880 --> 01:37:32.240
it was a few chats here and there and whatnot.

1613
01:37:32.240 --> 01:37:34.760
And then there was a guy who ended up being down

1614
01:37:34.760 --> 01:37:36.640
in the area where I was living in November,

1615
01:37:36.640 --> 01:37:39.960
which was South of Sarasota, matched up.

1616
01:37:39.960 --> 01:37:42.560
And we started chatting and I'm like, oh, this is good.

1617
01:37:42.560 --> 01:37:47.120
And I don't know about like three or four days into it,

1618
01:37:47.120 --> 01:37:48.640
he's like, hey, would you be interested

1619
01:37:48.640 --> 01:37:49.880
in talking on the phone sometime?

1620
01:37:49.880 --> 01:37:52.080
And I'm like, yeah, how about right after Thanksgiving?

1621
01:37:52.080 --> 01:37:53.760
Cause I had just traveled up to Minnesota.

1622
01:37:54.400 --> 01:37:57.560
Shortly after Thanksgiving, we had a phone conversation

1623
01:37:57.560 --> 01:37:59.120
and it was just, I don't know,

1624
01:37:59.120 --> 01:38:01.120
I felt we kind of hit it off in that sense,

1625
01:38:01.120 --> 01:38:03.120
like easy, good.

1626
01:38:04.680 --> 01:38:06.800
And then a little bit after that, he's like,

1627
01:38:06.800 --> 01:38:08.560
would you like to do like a video chat?

1628
01:38:08.560 --> 01:38:09.720
And I'm like, yeah, that'd be great.

1629
01:38:09.720 --> 01:38:13.280
So we did that last week, some point,

1630
01:38:13.280 --> 01:38:15.200
I don't remember what day it was.

1631
01:38:15.200 --> 01:38:17.400
Early on in the chat, before we talked on the phone,

1632
01:38:17.400 --> 01:38:19.680
he mentioned in one of his messages,

1633
01:38:19.680 --> 01:38:21.560
he's like, hey, I'm recently divorced.

1634
01:38:21.560 --> 01:38:24.000
He didn't go into like great detail.

1635
01:38:24.920 --> 01:38:27.720
Divorce itself isn't like, oh my gosh, ah,

1636
01:38:27.720 --> 01:38:29.360
but I was like, I had some questions,

1637
01:38:29.360 --> 01:38:32.360
but I didn't feel like I wanted to go there right away.

1638
01:38:33.560 --> 01:38:34.400
We hadn't even talked.

1639
01:38:34.400 --> 01:38:35.360
Yeah, we definitely advise like,

1640
01:38:35.360 --> 01:38:37.480
don't dig in those exiles yet.

1641
01:38:37.480 --> 01:38:39.200
Like this is level two.

1642
01:38:39.200 --> 01:38:42.400
You're just getting to know them in the here and now.

1643
01:38:42.400 --> 01:38:43.960
You don't want to start diving

1644
01:38:43.960 --> 01:38:46.880
into any of the drama trauma sort of things.

1645
01:38:46.880 --> 01:38:51.360
But it's something that as you get to know him,

1646
01:38:52.200 --> 01:38:53.280
you will start seeing,

1647
01:38:53.280 --> 01:38:57.440
this is when to watch for those healthy behaviors

1648
01:38:57.440 --> 01:39:01.400
in his, like what happened and things like that.

1649
01:39:01.400 --> 01:39:03.760
Let that kind of naturally unfold.

1650
01:39:03.760 --> 01:39:05.440
I wouldn't probe.

1651
01:39:05.440 --> 01:39:07.920
I even say like, be careful people

1652
01:39:07.920 --> 01:39:10.160
that want to just come early on

1653
01:39:10.160 --> 01:39:13.400
and start dumping all of their stuff.

1654
01:39:13.400 --> 01:39:18.400
And there's early on, I would say redirect, okay?

1655
01:39:18.600 --> 01:39:21.120
Get listening ear and then just try to redirect

1656
01:39:21.880 --> 01:39:24.360
with like a different question or say, you know what?

1657
01:39:24.360 --> 01:39:27.240
Or if they ask you about past relationships

1658
01:39:27.240 --> 01:39:30.000
or they want to tell you more, be like, you know what?

1659
01:39:30.000 --> 01:39:34.400
I'm glad that you feel open enough to share that with me.

1660
01:39:34.400 --> 01:39:36.720
How about for now, until we get to know each other,

1661
01:39:36.720 --> 01:39:40.160
we hold those conversations until later

1662
01:39:40.160 --> 01:39:41.680
as we continue to get to know each other.

1663
01:39:41.680 --> 01:39:42.840
Would that be okay?

1664
01:39:42.840 --> 01:39:46.040
It's just setting healthy boundaries, okay?

1665
01:39:47.520 --> 01:39:49.080
And yeah, just be open.

1666
01:39:49.080 --> 01:39:50.960
Like just be open to hearing and seeing

1667
01:39:51.800 --> 01:39:53.720
because again, ladies, like you're getting to know somebody

1668
01:39:53.720 --> 01:39:57.200
so it's going to take several interactions with them

1669
01:39:57.200 --> 01:40:00.240
to start seeing their character.

1670
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:04.200
and the qualities about them were, we're, we're, we're inspecting for fruit.

1671
01:40:04.200 --> 01:40:06.540
Like, do they have, are they patient?

1672
01:40:06.540 --> 01:40:07.500
Are they kind?

1673
01:40:07.500 --> 01:40:08.400
Are they joyful?

1674
01:40:08.400 --> 01:40:09.480
Are they gentle?

1675
01:40:09.880 --> 01:40:11.520
You know, do they have self-control?

1676
01:40:11.520 --> 01:40:16.200
Those are things that you look for as you get to know them, as you put yourself

1677
01:40:16.200 --> 01:40:18.200
in interactions and situations with them.

1678
01:40:18.680 --> 01:40:23.720
So for example, my, my husband now was married before he's a widow.

1679
01:40:24.520 --> 01:40:28.640
And so he did kind of dump some stuff on me early on.

1680
01:40:28.640 --> 01:40:31.600
And I kind of just held back on a lot of that.

1681
01:40:32.080 --> 01:40:36.920
Um, I mean, I honestly wanted to run because I was like, he's getting too

1682
01:40:36.920 --> 01:40:41.240
like serious, he's like deep diving, you know, and Jackie's like, chill out, girl.

1683
01:40:41.560 --> 01:40:43.280
He's like, let's enjoy the process.

1684
01:40:43.280 --> 01:40:46.800
Let this guy like, so interested in you and go on a date.

1685
01:40:47.520 --> 01:40:55.480
And, but as I got to know him, I saw how he worked through it in a healthy way.

1686
01:40:55.520 --> 01:40:59.640
Like I saw his open-minded us open-mindedness.

1687
01:40:59.680 --> 01:41:01.320
I saw how he was teachable.

1688
01:41:01.680 --> 01:41:09.800
I saw how he wasn't wounded and damaged from the toxic, you know, marriage that

1689
01:41:09.800 --> 01:41:17.560
he was in, as well as the trauma that he went through with his, his late wife,

1690
01:41:17.600 --> 01:41:19.880
having cancer and passing in that way.

1691
01:41:20.320 --> 01:41:26.680
So just be open and mindful and be watchful of those things, but don't, don't probe.

1692
01:41:26.680 --> 01:41:30.000
Don't ask a bunch of questions early on this.

1693
01:41:30.000 --> 01:41:35.320
You're still in level two, getting to know them in the present.

1694
01:41:35.640 --> 01:41:40.080
You know, it doesn't mean that you're not going to talk about, you know, things

1695
01:41:40.080 --> 01:41:46.600
that are important to y'all as you get to know each other, but again, just come to

1696
01:41:46.640 --> 01:41:50.920
us, let us know what's happening and we can kind of help and guide like, Hey, this

1697
01:41:50.920 --> 01:41:52.880
situation happened, this is how I handled it.

1698
01:41:53.640 --> 01:41:55.440
This situation happened, help me.

1699
01:41:55.440 --> 01:41:56.760
I don't know how to handle this.

1700
01:41:56.800 --> 01:42:00.040
We're here to kind of walk alongside you in that.

1701
01:42:00.080 --> 01:42:00.720
Okay.

1702
01:42:01.800 --> 01:42:02.080
Yeah.

1703
01:42:02.120 --> 01:42:02.440
Okay.

1704
01:42:03.040 --> 01:42:05.800
More there's, there's a more to the, go ahead.

1705
01:42:05.840 --> 01:42:06.040
Yeah.

1706
01:42:06.040 --> 01:42:07.000
Cause I know I cut you off.

1707
01:42:07.000 --> 01:42:07.600
I apologize.

1708
01:42:09.360 --> 01:42:11.800
Where I was at in it, you know, and I'm like, I'm not going to ask anything

1709
01:42:11.800 --> 01:42:12.880
and to even send that first message.

1710
01:42:12.880 --> 01:42:14.840
He's like, you know, if we talk more, I can share more.

1711
01:42:14.840 --> 01:42:15.400
And I'm like, great.

1712
01:42:15.400 --> 01:42:16.760
You know, like perfect.

1713
01:42:17.280 --> 01:42:20.680
Like there's been a lot of things, but after our FaceTime video last week, I'm

1714
01:42:20.680 --> 01:42:24.400
telling you the last like three or four days, I just, I, I really felt like Holy

1715
01:42:24.400 --> 01:42:29.880
spirit was, was like guiding me to ask just the question, like don't need details.

1716
01:42:29.880 --> 01:42:33.840
Like how recently, like, did this go through like two weeks ago or

1717
01:42:33.840 --> 01:42:35.000
was this a few months ago?

1718
01:42:35.720 --> 01:42:36.200
Oh no.

1719
01:42:38.120 --> 01:42:39.160
I still, I still see you.

1720
01:42:39.160 --> 01:42:39.840
I still hear you.

1721
01:42:40.160 --> 01:42:40.480
All right.

1722
01:42:40.520 --> 01:42:45.280
I realized my phone's like dying, but, um, um, and so

1723
01:42:45.320 --> 01:42:47.880
we talked last night and I know you just said, don't do this.

1724
01:42:47.880 --> 01:42:50.120
But I, I just asked the question last night.

1725
01:42:50.120 --> 01:42:52.000
Cause I felt like I was supposed to.

1726
01:42:52.520 --> 01:42:57.760
And, um, he answered really honestly and I found out that he wasn't totally

1727
01:42:57.760 --> 01:43:05.000
honest, like filed for, but it has not fully gone through and had this moment

1728
01:43:05.000 --> 01:43:10.000
last night, I'm like, I've actually been talking to a man that's officially

1729
01:43:10.000 --> 01:43:12.600
not divorced yet, like in his heart.

1730
01:43:13.080 --> 01:43:15.160
Is anyway, there's some stuff with that.

1731
01:43:15.560 --> 01:43:22.680
And I can't, I just like, I'm not, I can't like communicate.

1732
01:43:23.000 --> 01:43:26.920
I just, in my heart, I'm like, it's like, I'm still like, I was

1733
01:43:26.920 --> 01:43:28.040
talking to a married man.

1734
01:43:28.040 --> 01:43:28.680
I didn't know.

1735
01:43:28.680 --> 01:43:30.720
And I kind of had to walk through some stuff and I feel like that's

1736
01:43:30.720 --> 01:43:32.320
part, maybe why Holy spirit guided.

1737
01:43:32.360 --> 01:43:34.920
Like, I really felt like I needed to ask that question for summer.

1738
01:43:35.920 --> 01:43:36.440
So, yeah.

1739
01:43:36.480 --> 01:43:37.200
So that's what I'm saying.

1740
01:43:37.200 --> 01:43:40.240
Like, I like that you're partnering with Holy spirit because again, Holy

1741
01:43:40.240 --> 01:43:41.480
spirit's going to speak to you.

1742
01:43:41.720 --> 01:43:42.200
Yeah.

1743
01:43:43.200 --> 01:43:46.760
I would just say, be open and communicating with him and be like, look,

1744
01:43:46.800 --> 01:43:50.160
you know, I, I've enjoyed getting to know you.

1745
01:43:50.600 --> 01:43:58.000
Um, it would be, and, and again, you, you, you'll go to Holy spirit with this.

1746
01:43:58.760 --> 01:44:02.920
You could even, you could say, look, I'm, I really enjoy getting to know you and

1747
01:44:02.920 --> 01:44:05.600
I would be open to continuing, get to know you.

1748
01:44:06.040 --> 01:44:11.120
Um, but I would feel more comfortable if we maybe waited until you, the, the

1749
01:44:11.240 --> 01:44:13.560
divorce was final, would that be okay?

1750
01:44:13.960 --> 01:44:18.560
And after that, you know, if you want to connect with me, I would totally

1751
01:44:18.560 --> 01:44:20.240
like, we can pick things back up.

1752
01:44:20.600 --> 01:44:34.560
Now, what I will also preface is, um, I know, I don't know how much you've

1753
01:44:34.560 --> 01:44:38.920
heard of Jackie's story, but she obviously like David was her neighbor.

1754
01:44:39.080 --> 01:44:39.720
Okay.

1755
01:44:40.040 --> 01:44:48.480
And so they were not like, they were, I think getting to know each other when

1756
01:44:48.640 --> 01:44:55.320
they were not fully divorced yet, but the marriage was over.

1757
01:44:55.320 --> 01:45:00.000
So sometimes there's certain technicalities, but again, like you just said, this guy.

1758
01:45:00.000 --> 01:45:06.560
just filed so you you never really know like it's more about where their heart is and what

1759
01:45:06.560 --> 01:45:13.440
happened but again like it's still fresh like still literally we're not encouraging ladies

1760
01:45:13.440 --> 01:45:19.760
to find out that information again using holy spirit to kind of guide you but like i said you

1761
01:45:19.760 --> 01:45:26.720
can communicate with him like hey it i enjoy getting to know you can we just shelf this until

1762
01:45:26.720 --> 01:45:34.640
maybe things are more final yeah you gotta you have to follow peace with what holy spirit is

1763
01:45:34.640 --> 01:45:41.040
speaking to you but i'm just here to give you the perspective that it's not always cut and dry

1764
01:45:41.040 --> 01:45:46.560
like that like i know sometimes people are like oh they're not fully divorced i'm you know the

1765
01:45:46.560 --> 01:45:54.720
whole i get that but i will say there's been situations where the the marriage is over it's

1766
01:45:54.720 --> 01:46:02.960
just the the courts sometimes take a while to go through and finish yeah finalize it doesn't

1767
01:46:02.960 --> 01:46:12.240
mean that there can't be now obviously ladies we i say this because we're not getting physical with

1768
01:46:12.240 --> 01:46:22.080
any of the men that we're we're dating like we like i cannot preface enough like no sex before

1769
01:46:22.080 --> 01:46:31.280
marriage absolutely like that is like that to us is like that's jackie is firm on that okay now we

1770
01:46:31.280 --> 01:46:37.680
get it we get that you know we all are big girls like you know we can all make our big girl decisions

1771
01:46:37.680 --> 01:46:45.040
but we will just share from our own perspective of just why that's important and so again like

1772
01:46:45.680 --> 01:46:53.280
i could say like if you're not romantically involved in that way it's you're still

1773
01:46:54.320 --> 01:47:01.120
you know good but again it's it's about learning and letting holy spirit highlight because every

1774
01:47:01.120 --> 01:47:07.360
situation is going to be different there's no like black or white in this area so again keep

1775
01:47:07.360 --> 01:47:14.800
following holy spirit like you are and keep us posted let us know what happens okay i appreciate

1776
01:47:14.800 --> 01:47:18.240
that that's a lot of confidence for what i had been sensing because i really spent some time

1777
01:47:18.240 --> 01:47:22.320
with the lord last night after that conversation and i talked to one of my best friends today too

1778
01:47:22.320 --> 01:47:30.080
and and i just felt like i know what holy spirit was leading me to do as a next step of like pause

1779
01:47:30.080 --> 01:47:36.400
you know and just to honor myself and the such like just everything immediate yeah you want to

1780
01:47:36.400 --> 01:47:42.800
be like ladies we want to be obedient to what god is asking of us so and it kind of surprised me

1781
01:47:42.800 --> 01:47:46.320
i feel like in the past i've been like oh my gosh there's just no way and i'm not like hanging my

1782
01:47:46.320 --> 01:47:51.520
hat on hope for like i just i just feel really at peace and it's been kind of an interesting

1783
01:47:51.520 --> 01:47:57.440
journey the last 24 hours but i that's just confirmation what you said again like some of

1784
01:47:57.440 --> 01:48:03.200
these guys ladies that you're dating like they're in there for something that god wants to highlight

1785
01:48:03.200 --> 01:48:09.440
to you so maybe this situation you were to meet him just to help again give you confirmation know

1786
01:48:09.440 --> 01:48:14.480
that you hear from the lord giving you peace just again showing you your own growth and your own

1787
01:48:14.480 --> 01:48:22.560
opportunity like god can use all of that like again we're not just on a love story journey

1788
01:48:22.560 --> 01:48:30.160
we're on like i always communicate this to everyone i talk about to about this program is

1789
01:48:31.120 --> 01:48:36.480
the the husband is the bonus when you step into this community and you get married that's just

1790
01:48:36.480 --> 01:48:42.400
the bonus it's like okay great this is wonderful but i will tell you there's so many greater gifts

1791
01:48:42.400 --> 01:48:49.920
that you'll get in this program and for me having a stronger intimacy with the lord

1792
01:48:50.880 --> 01:48:58.640
was the bigger blessing like my husband is great i love him i'm blessed i'm thankful for him but

1793
01:49:00.160 --> 01:49:05.840
i'll tell him and i'll tell everybody my relationship with the lord and with jesus

1794
01:49:06.400 --> 01:49:14.400
is the bigger blessing because he's number one to me and my husband appreciates that that's my focus

1795
01:49:15.200 --> 01:49:25.360
and so that ladies i can't stress enough like drawing into him and connecting with holy spirit

1796
01:49:25.360 --> 01:49:34.480
and building your intimacy with with the lord is it will just pour abundance and what we have

1797
01:49:34.480 --> 01:49:40.480
here to offer you ladies in last year single okay all right there's a couple questions in the chat

1798
01:49:40.480 --> 01:49:46.720
so i'm going to get to that so um adrena she's still here good so should you be dating within

1799
01:49:46.720 --> 01:49:52.080
your community or online if we plan to move next august to another state to go to bible college

1800
01:49:52.160 --> 01:49:55.680
or put a pause on it i say again like what is the lord leading you

1801
01:49:56.240 --> 01:49:59.840
i honestly i'd say if you are open to dating

1802
01:50:00.000 --> 01:50:02.840
in your community and online, go for it.

1803
01:50:02.840 --> 01:50:06.460
Like just have opportunity, put that dating into practice,

1804
01:50:06.460 --> 01:50:09.200
get to know people you never know,

1805
01:50:09.200 --> 01:50:12.140
who you connect with, who's gonna lead you

1806
01:50:12.140 --> 01:50:14.400
to other opportunities and other areas

1807
01:50:14.400 --> 01:50:17.340
that God just wants to just pour into you.

1808
01:50:17.340 --> 01:50:19.880
So I don't think, for me, I don't ever think

1809
01:50:19.880 --> 01:50:23.040
that there's anything wrong with meeting more people.

1810
01:50:23.040 --> 01:50:27.020
If God is giving you the green light, I say go for it.

1811
01:50:27.020 --> 01:50:30.820
Suzanne and Esther suggested Upward and Bumble.

1812
01:50:30.820 --> 01:50:35.060
So I know we talked about, Nicole, about like the area.

1813
01:50:35.060 --> 01:50:36.880
So if you're on Upward or Bumble,

1814
01:50:36.880 --> 01:50:41.100
try those out because they will let you know

1815
01:50:41.100 --> 01:50:42.220
who's in your area.

1816
01:50:42.220 --> 01:50:45.000
So if you're traveling to New York or DC,

1817
01:50:45.000 --> 01:50:47.300
it's gonna give you men that are available

1818
01:50:47.300 --> 01:50:48.580
wherever you are.

1819
01:50:50.580 --> 01:50:53.580
So Teresa said, Nicole, I do think dating

1820
01:50:53.580 --> 01:50:54.580
is different as a widow.

1821
01:50:54.580 --> 01:50:58.140
So yes, Nicole and Teresa, you both have experience.

1822
01:50:58.140 --> 01:51:01.080
So it looks like, Nicole, you got to that perfect.

1823
01:51:02.860 --> 01:51:05.460
And Facebook, you can put in different locations

1824
01:51:05.460 --> 01:51:06.820
as well on it.

1825
01:51:06.820 --> 01:51:07.860
So that's what I used.

1826
01:51:07.860 --> 01:51:08.980
I used Facebook dating.

1827
01:51:08.980 --> 01:51:11.020
I had positive things.

1828
01:51:11.020 --> 01:51:13.380
I didn't meet my husband off Facebook dating.

1829
01:51:13.380 --> 01:51:16.780
Now he was a Facebook connection

1830
01:51:16.780 --> 01:51:19.760
through a different community that I wasn't in,

1831
01:51:19.760 --> 01:51:23.140
but my sisters from this community were also in that

1832
01:51:23.140 --> 01:51:26.020
and they like looked out and he dropped

1833
01:51:26.020 --> 01:51:30.620
into my Facebook DMs and luckily I didn't ignore him.

1834
01:51:32.700 --> 01:51:34.780
So yeah, Facebook will do that.

1835
01:51:39.060 --> 01:51:41.000
So as we move into the holiday period,

1836
01:51:41.000 --> 01:51:44.320
might we be going through enhanced emotional states

1837
01:51:44.320 --> 01:51:46.340
because of it missing the past feeling left?

1838
01:51:46.340 --> 01:51:47.940
Yeah, absolutely.

1839
01:51:47.940 --> 01:51:51.340
Like even if you're not single,

1840
01:51:51.340 --> 01:51:54.260
like a lot of people this time of year

1841
01:51:54.260 --> 01:51:59.260
have emotional things that happen

1842
01:52:00.900 --> 01:52:02.580
because it's tied to memory.

1843
01:52:02.580 --> 01:52:03.900
There's all sorts of stuff.

1844
01:52:03.900 --> 01:52:07.100
There's could be like trauma that people experience,

1845
01:52:07.100 --> 01:52:10.700
whether they've lost somebody or maybe even in the past

1846
01:52:10.700 --> 01:52:13.540
of Christmas just brought up poor memories for you.

1847
01:52:13.540 --> 01:52:18.540
Like that can come, people losing parents.

1848
01:52:19.060 --> 01:52:22.740
And I know oftentimes that people have lost parents

1849
01:52:22.740 --> 01:52:25.900
and the next Christmas is harder

1850
01:52:25.900 --> 01:52:29.060
because they're not with those people.

1851
01:52:29.060 --> 01:52:33.140
I mean, both of my parents are still living,

1852
01:52:33.140 --> 01:52:38.140
but I lived in Florida for over 15 years.

1853
01:52:38.900 --> 01:52:40.820
And so there was just traditions and things

1854
01:52:40.820 --> 01:52:43.380
that I did in Florida that I just miss.

1855
01:52:43.380 --> 01:52:45.360
So this is my second Christmas here

1856
01:52:45.360 --> 01:52:46.920
in the Dallas Fort Worth area.

1857
01:52:47.360 --> 01:52:50.040
My parents lived two hours from me

1858
01:52:50.040 --> 01:52:51.080
when I was living in Florida.

1859
01:52:51.080 --> 01:52:53.440
And so I don't have my family.

1860
01:52:53.440 --> 01:52:55.560
And so last Christmas, it was harder,

1861
01:52:55.560 --> 01:53:00.560
even though I had a husband and I had two new kids,

1862
01:53:01.560 --> 01:53:04.860
it still was a hard season.

1863
01:53:04.860 --> 01:53:07.360
And even this year, it's a little bit better this year,

1864
01:53:07.360 --> 01:53:10.640
but there are moments that I catch myself

1865
01:53:10.640 --> 01:53:15.520
being a little sad of what it was like in the past.

1866
01:53:15.720 --> 01:53:18.920
So ladies, even when you get married,

1867
01:53:18.920 --> 01:53:21.080
there will be times you'll miss

1868
01:53:21.080 --> 01:53:23.880
some parts of your singlehood.

1869
01:53:23.880 --> 01:53:27.480
I experienced that, that sometimes I'm like,

1870
01:53:27.480 --> 01:53:31.200
oh, it's not just me and my son anymore.

1871
01:53:31.200 --> 01:53:33.760
And there were special times that I had with him.

1872
01:53:33.760 --> 01:53:36.120
And so now it's learning to blend things

1873
01:53:36.120 --> 01:53:39.840
and Christmas is different these years.

1874
01:53:41.080 --> 01:53:43.440
And I'm not around my family,

1875
01:53:43.440 --> 01:53:45.360
I'm around my husband's family more.

1876
01:53:46.200 --> 01:53:47.040
And so I miss them.

1877
01:53:47.040 --> 01:53:49.640
So there's all sorts of things that can be coming up.

1878
01:53:49.640 --> 01:53:51.800
But what I will say is that your heavenly father

1879
01:53:51.800 --> 01:53:53.760
is there for you and loves you.

1880
01:53:53.760 --> 01:53:57.960
And when we lean on him and we use our hard work tools,

1881
01:53:57.960 --> 01:54:00.280
like there can be healing and growth and upgrades

1882
01:54:00.280 --> 01:54:02.440
and all sorts of stuff.

1883
01:54:02.440 --> 01:54:06.680
So yes, Nicole, I relate to that.

1884
01:54:08.160 --> 01:54:09.520
I think I'm almost through some of these.

1885
01:54:09.520 --> 01:54:12.600
I like to make sure I read the comments.

1886
01:54:12.640 --> 01:54:17.640
So yes, Jill, Holly, yes, and I didn't forget your hand.

1887
01:54:19.640 --> 01:54:21.160
I see that as well.

1888
01:54:21.160 --> 01:54:24.480
Does anyone feel that the apps are a distraction?

1889
01:54:24.480 --> 01:54:26.640
Yes, so again, I will tell you ladies,

1890
01:54:26.640 --> 01:54:29.680
the apps and stuff, it's just manager time.

1891
01:54:29.680 --> 01:54:31.480
And next week we'll go a little bit more

1892
01:54:31.480 --> 01:54:33.000
into online dating as well.

1893
01:54:33.000 --> 01:54:36.160
And the online dating video that you'll watch

1894
01:54:36.160 --> 01:54:37.520
will help with that as well.

1895
01:54:37.520 --> 01:54:41.560
But I would say just, it's all about healthy balance.

1896
01:54:41.560 --> 01:54:45.240
It's setting boundaries for yourself when you're on the app.

1897
01:54:45.240 --> 01:54:48.200
And I had to set time parameters for me

1898
01:54:48.200 --> 01:54:50.160
in certain days of the week.

1899
01:54:50.160 --> 01:54:52.320
Otherwise it could be too consuming

1900
01:54:52.320 --> 01:54:55.040
and I just had a busy life.

1901
01:54:55.040 --> 01:54:58.480
And so just keeping that in mind as well.

1902
01:54:58.480 --> 01:54:59.840
Cool, all right.

1903
01:55:00.000 --> 01:55:03.200
Holly, I see your hand, so I'm gonna give you the floor.

1904
01:55:03.200 --> 01:55:05.120
If you can help me keep it short, brief, and powerful,

1905
01:55:05.120 --> 01:55:07.600
because we're now going close to two hours.

1906
01:55:07.600 --> 01:55:10.080
And Lord, I hope Jackie, you don't have to leave.

1907
01:55:10.080 --> 01:55:10.920
No, I only put my hand up because you.

1908
01:55:10.920 --> 01:55:13.720
But I wanted to leave the space for you, so.

1909
01:55:13.720 --> 01:55:15.080
Oh, that was sweet of you.

1910
01:55:15.080 --> 01:55:17.480
No, I don't really, I'm fine.

1911
01:55:17.480 --> 01:55:18.320
Okay.

1912
01:55:18.320 --> 01:55:19.600
You just said you wanted to circle around

1913
01:55:19.600 --> 01:55:22.080
about the comment I made about not really interested

1914
01:55:22.080 --> 01:55:23.600
in doing online dating again,

1915
01:55:23.600 --> 01:55:26.760
but I don't really need to talk about it, so.

1916
01:55:26.760 --> 01:55:28.920
Yeah, I mean, and we can talk about that next week, too.

1917
01:55:28.960 --> 01:55:31.880
So yeah, that whole online, ladies, I get it.

1918
01:55:31.880 --> 01:55:34.640
Let's dive into that a little bit next week,

1919
01:55:34.640 --> 01:55:38.040
because I know, like, I did not wanna do

1920
01:55:38.040 --> 01:55:39.480
the whole online dating thing.

1921
01:55:39.480 --> 01:55:41.280
I mean, we all have our own reasons

1922
01:55:41.280 --> 01:55:45.000
why we don't wanna do it or why we are cool doing it.

1923
01:55:45.000 --> 01:55:47.000
I will just, again, just preface,

1924
01:55:47.000 --> 01:55:48.720
press into Holy Spirit, you know,

1925
01:55:48.720 --> 01:55:51.840
let him give you peace on what, how to navigate that,

1926
01:55:51.840 --> 01:55:53.720
whether you jump on or not.

1927
01:55:53.720 --> 01:55:56.480
We do say that if you're not gonna do online dating,

1928
01:55:56.480 --> 01:55:59.360
which it's totally fine if you don't feel led to do that,

1929
01:55:59.360 --> 01:56:02.000
but make sure that you are finding other ways

1930
01:56:02.000 --> 01:56:03.240
to get yourself out there.

1931
01:56:03.240 --> 01:56:04.640
Like, come out of hiding.

1932
01:56:04.640 --> 01:56:07.600
How else are you putting yourself out there to meet people

1933
01:56:07.600 --> 01:56:09.880
and to let people know that you're open to dating

1934
01:56:09.880 --> 01:56:10.720
and you want that?

1935
01:56:10.720 --> 01:56:13.720
So that's what we would encourage,

1936
01:56:13.720 --> 01:56:15.080
but we'll definitely dive more

1937
01:56:15.080 --> 01:56:17.680
into online dating next week for sure.

1938
01:56:19.040 --> 01:56:21.560
I think there was an iPhone user, they popped off.

1939
01:56:21.560 --> 01:56:23.720
Oh, no, wait, I see iPhone user.

1940
01:56:23.720 --> 01:56:24.760
I saw your hand up.

1941
01:56:24.760 --> 01:56:27.760
I wanna make sure that I didn't scare you

1942
01:56:27.760 --> 01:56:29.720
from sharing whatever it is.

1943
01:56:29.720 --> 01:56:30.800
I know you had your hand up.

1944
01:56:30.800 --> 01:56:33.680
So if you, hi, I don't know your name

1945
01:56:33.680 --> 01:56:35.640
because it just says iPhone user.

1946
01:56:35.640 --> 01:56:38.320
Sorry, I didn't know I had the video on.

1947
01:56:38.320 --> 01:56:41.240
I'm like getting ready for work and taking the dogs out.

1948
01:56:41.240 --> 01:56:42.840
We can talk next week.

1949
01:56:42.840 --> 01:56:43.680
Okay.

1950
01:56:43.680 --> 01:56:45.960
It's probably a little bit more of a question

1951
01:56:45.960 --> 01:56:50.000
that might even, you know, a little longer, yeah.

1952
01:56:50.000 --> 01:56:51.600
Well, first of all, what is your name?

1953
01:56:51.600 --> 01:56:52.760
Sophie.

1954
01:56:52.760 --> 01:56:54.560
Sophie, so nice to see you.

1955
01:56:55.360 --> 01:56:57.120
Is this your first week in phase two?

1956
01:56:57.120 --> 01:56:58.280
It is.

1957
01:56:58.280 --> 01:56:59.240
Welcome.

1958
01:56:59.240 --> 01:57:00.080
Thank you.

1959
01:57:00.080 --> 01:57:01.640
And also, have you been in our app?

1960
01:57:02.720 --> 01:57:04.200
Yes, I'm on the app.

1961
01:57:04.200 --> 01:57:07.280
Okay, if you wanna put your question up

1962
01:57:07.280 --> 01:57:09.960
in the ask the coach or let us know,

1963
01:57:09.960 --> 01:57:12.360
like we can also respond there.

1964
01:57:12.360 --> 01:57:13.200
Okay.

1965
01:57:13.200 --> 01:57:17.640
Okay, so I don't want you to wait a whole week if, you know.

1966
01:57:17.640 --> 01:57:20.200
Yeah, it's only, I had met this guy.

1967
01:57:20.200 --> 01:57:23.120
We went on several dates, then I did this work

1968
01:57:23.120 --> 01:57:24.480
and I told him I can't date.

1969
01:57:25.320 --> 01:57:26.160
I'm doing the heart work.

1970
01:57:26.160 --> 01:57:27.120
He was fine with it.

1971
01:57:27.120 --> 01:57:27.960
Good.

1972
01:57:27.960 --> 01:57:29.880
And then, so it's been two weeks

1973
01:57:29.880 --> 01:57:31.080
that I switched to phase two,

1974
01:57:31.080 --> 01:57:34.320
but I haven't really gotten into it yet until this week.

1975
01:57:34.320 --> 01:57:37.800
But he, I found out that he really doesn't believe in God

1976
01:57:37.800 --> 01:57:40.760
and he didn't put any of that on his information.

1977
01:57:40.760 --> 01:57:42.640
He said, look, I'll go to church with you,

1978
01:57:42.640 --> 01:57:46.000
but I've had experiences that have kept me from it.

1979
01:57:46.000 --> 01:57:49.760
And so I don't wanna continue going out with this guy

1980
01:57:49.760 --> 01:57:52.440
and have that kind of relationship.

1981
01:57:52.440 --> 01:57:55.000
But I just, you know, some people are like,

1982
01:57:55.000 --> 01:57:57.760
hey, you never know, you know, maybe you're to bring him.

1983
01:57:57.760 --> 01:58:01.240
But so that's my point is that

1984
01:58:01.240 --> 01:58:02.960
we can talk about it next week.

1985
01:58:02.960 --> 01:58:03.800
I'm not gonna-

1986
01:58:03.800 --> 01:58:06.520
Just briefly too, like I know, yeah,

1987
01:58:06.520 --> 01:58:09.440
like I don't like the whole missionary dating.

1988
01:58:09.440 --> 01:58:12.880
Like I'm dating you on a mission to bring you to Jesus.

1989
01:58:12.880 --> 01:58:17.840
Like that's again, like follow the Lord.

1990
01:58:17.840 --> 01:58:19.280
What is the Lord speaking to you?

1991
01:58:19.280 --> 01:58:20.840
What is he giving you peace about?

1992
01:58:20.840 --> 01:58:22.880
We always say it's a yes until it's a no.

1993
01:58:22.880 --> 01:58:26.400
And if it's a no, it's a no, and that's totally okay.

1994
01:58:26.400 --> 01:58:28.080
So sometimes the way of, you know,

1995
01:58:28.080 --> 01:58:30.160
if you decide like this is a no,

1996
01:58:30.160 --> 01:58:33.480
like he's a great guy or whatever, just say, look,

1997
01:58:33.480 --> 01:58:36.360
you know, I've enjoyed getting to know you.

1998
01:58:38.280 --> 01:58:41.680
I don't see this going anywhere romantic,

1999
01:58:41.680 --> 01:58:46.000
but I'm out looking because I wanna find a partner

2000
01:58:46.000 --> 01:58:48.960
that, you know, is going in the same direction

2001
01:58:48.960 --> 01:58:50.480
for their hunger for the Lord,

2002
01:58:51.120 --> 01:58:52.440
the way that I am.

2003
01:58:52.440 --> 01:58:55.240
And so that's why we're not a romantic match,

2004
01:58:55.240 --> 01:58:57.560
but I have enjoyed getting to know you.

2005
01:58:57.560 --> 01:58:58.800
I wish you the best.

2006
01:58:58.800 --> 01:59:01.800
Like there's ways of being able to do that.

2007
01:59:03.040 --> 01:59:05.160
Yeah, we always say it's a yes until it's a no.

2008
01:59:05.160 --> 01:59:06.480
And ladies, it's okay, it's a no.

2009
01:59:06.480 --> 01:59:10.720
Now I will say like, I always encourage ladies

2010
01:59:10.720 --> 01:59:13.120
to just go on a date or two,

2011
01:59:13.120 --> 01:59:15.840
even if you don't feel like they're like sold out

2012
01:59:15.840 --> 01:59:19.640
for the Lord, because again, you never know,

2013
01:59:19.640 --> 01:59:22.040
but, you know, and that's why I always say,

2014
01:59:22.040 --> 01:59:25.000
go into it with the attitude that you're just going

2015
01:59:25.000 --> 01:59:28.000
to get to know a new person, to make a new friend.

2016
01:59:28.000 --> 01:59:29.800
You're not looking, is this guy my husband,

2017
01:59:29.800 --> 01:59:31.760
but you're just trying to build connection

2018
01:59:31.760 --> 01:59:33.640
and get to know somebody.

2019
01:59:33.640 --> 01:59:36.360
And then as things get revealed, you'll see that,

2020
01:59:36.360 --> 01:59:38.200
okay, this is not a romantic match,

2021
01:59:38.200 --> 01:59:39.360
but it was a nice person.

2022
01:59:39.360 --> 01:59:42.000
I can't tell you how many guys I dated

2023
01:59:42.000 --> 01:59:44.040
that were just nice guys.

2024
01:59:44.040 --> 01:59:45.040
They didn't love the Lord

2025
01:59:45.040 --> 01:59:46.920
and they weren't going in that direction.

2026
01:59:46.920 --> 01:59:48.840
And so I knew that and it was okay.

2027
01:59:48.840 --> 01:59:53.560
And the door would like softly close and it was fine.

2028
01:59:53.560 --> 01:59:56.760
So I see nothing wrong with that,

2029
01:59:56.760 --> 02:00:00.120
if you know like, I need someone.

2030
02:00:00.000 --> 02:00:06.240
don't we want you ladies to partner with someone who is moving in the same direction and

2031
02:00:07.240 --> 02:00:09.240
Going after Jesus in the same

2032
02:00:09.640 --> 02:00:14.120
Direction. It doesn't mean that they have to have been on the same path as you

2033
02:00:14.560 --> 02:00:19.220
Okay, I always emphasize there's some people like oh, well, he doesn't go to church

2034
02:00:20.200 --> 02:00:24.500
Ladies, somebody doesn't have to go to church in order then to have a relationship with the Lord

2035
02:00:24.940 --> 02:00:31.060
Okay, there was a time that God told me to step away from going to church for a little while

2036
02:00:31.780 --> 02:00:37.540
I was like, but I need it. I need to leave my church that I've been with for you know, ten plus years and

2037
02:00:38.620 --> 02:00:44.220
You know, I dabbled in a few other churches, but I never got fully involved, but it didn't mean that I didn't have

2038
02:00:44.940 --> 02:00:50.140
Community I had this community and that's where I was doing prayer calls like several days a week

2039
02:00:50.140 --> 02:00:54.340
I was you know jumping on these zoom calls, you know going to

2040
02:00:54.500 --> 02:00:58.660
The special sessions like how to hear from God and the prophetic things

2041
02:00:58.660 --> 02:01:04.180
And so I was doing other things to grow my relationship in a different sense community

2042
02:01:04.180 --> 02:01:07.660
It wasn't on church on a Sunday, but it was in a different way

2043
02:01:07.660 --> 02:01:14.360
So don't be so quick to jump on the like, but he doesn't go to church sort of thing

2044
02:01:15.780 --> 02:01:21.380
Just leave that open again. I always say hold things loosely and allow God to kind of highlight to you

2045
02:01:21.980 --> 02:01:24.620
So I hope that helps and then we like I said

2046
02:01:24.620 --> 02:01:27.420
We can dive into a little more if you want to post it in the app

2047
02:01:27.420 --> 02:01:32.340
And we'll get to the question to answer your question in more detail. Thank you

2048
02:01:33.420 --> 02:01:41.940
Ladies, it's been such a pleasure. I always enjoy this time and I I pray that you guys have a great rest of your week

2049
02:01:42.460 --> 02:01:45.860
don't forget about the special session Thursday and

2050
02:01:46.740 --> 02:01:50.700
Don't forget about your activations and please come to the app

2051
02:01:51.460 --> 02:01:55.300
And share with us what's going on in your life. Don't be stranger all week long

2052
02:01:56.100 --> 02:02:02.620
Okay, so have a blessed rest of your day ladies. Thank you so much. What's the special session on Thursday?

2053
02:02:02.620 --> 02:02:04.780
Oh, so the special session is

2054
02:02:05.980 --> 02:02:08.020
It's how to hear God

2055
02:02:08.780 --> 02:02:13.380
It's in the events tab. So you'll get your zoom link in the events tab

2056
02:02:14.380 --> 02:02:17.260
Jackie's friend Bethany Hicks is teaching it

2057
02:02:18.020 --> 02:02:19.620
She's been

2058
02:02:19.620 --> 02:02:24.740
When I first joined the community, she did a special session very similar and it's good

2059
02:02:25.060 --> 02:02:29.340
so what I will say is we do a prophesy your year and

2060
02:02:29.940 --> 02:02:33.020
If you want to be part of that now, that's an additional

2061
02:02:33.900 --> 02:02:35.540
cost

2062
02:02:35.540 --> 02:02:38.340
event for last year single

2063
02:02:39.180 --> 02:02:42.580
If you want to sign up and do that

2064
02:02:42.980 --> 02:02:49.500
You have that you have to attend the how to hear God session on Thursday

2065
02:02:49.860 --> 02:02:52.700
If you can't make it live, it will be in replay

2066
02:02:53.180 --> 02:02:56.700
But you have to make sure that you watch it and replay if you want to do the prophesy your year

2067
02:02:56.940 --> 02:02:58.940
so again, it's events tab and

2068
02:02:59.420 --> 02:03:03.980
Then don't forget about the last trip single that's under the resource tab

2069
02:03:03.980 --> 02:03:10.180
If you are interested in meeting up with some of the ladies here last year single in Columbia

2070
02:03:10.540 --> 02:03:18.420
With Jackie and David they have a trip plan. So the registration is open for that and all the details are in the registration

2071
02:03:19.420 --> 02:03:26.620
Okay, awesome ladies so good to see you all have a blessed week and I will see you all next week

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02:03:27.900 --> 02:03:29.900
Bye. Bye