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so honored and excited.

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This is our very first meeting together

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and I want you to know that I'm pretty selective

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on which groups that I dedicate my time to

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and I'll explain that here in a little bit

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because we're gonna talk about that today

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and how that lesson plays into your lives,

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especially around the holidays

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and when you're prioritizing

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what is going to get you the most leverage

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and what's gonna help you be with your families

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and also have some balance.

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So we're gonna talk about that

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but I'm really selective on the groups

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that I dedicate my time to

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and when Ray and Dion forged this vision

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because these masterminds and these groups

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we don't just create these for us at all.

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In fact, these groups are really a community

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coming together to create a bigger vision together

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that will go out and impact the world

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in whatever way that you're looking to do that

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and so when Ray and Dion forged this group

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and then asked me to be a part of it,

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I prayed about it,

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I dug into what was gonna be discussed here,

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I dug into after the event,

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I dug into who was a part of it

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and have been following you guys

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and watching what you're doing

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and I'm really, really excited

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because I feel in my spirit that there is something big

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that's going to be formed from this group,

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really, really big,

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possibly the biggest that has ever been formed

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from any group we've ever had

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and we've had some incredible groups.

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So all that to say that I'm excited,

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I'm sure some of you feel that too

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and remember that you have each other,

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you don't just have me,

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you don't just have Ray,

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you don't just have Dion,

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you have each other

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and there's some very high powerful people,

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high go-getters, high faith-getters in this group

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and so leverage each other.

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If you're struggling with something,

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of course, reach out to us

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but also utilize each other

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and if you're struggling with something,

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ask for prayer from another faith and finance master,

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my member, let's come together as a community

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and really create something absolutely amazing.

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So when I come into these meetings,

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I, of course, pray on what to share

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and like I said, I've been following a lot of you

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and the one word that kept coming up

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over and over again was sacrifice

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and I don't know who that resonates with

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but I think that there's a very positive shift happening

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in our world and in our culture specifically.

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I know not all of you are Americans

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but as an American in our culture specifically,

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there's a very positive shift happening

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where people are realizing

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that the gravy train doesn't last forever

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and that you're gonna have ups, you're gonna have downs,

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you're gonna have trials, you're gonna have tribulations,

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you're also gonna have mountains, massive mountains

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and you're gonna have valleys

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and sometimes those valleys are massive valleys

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and how does sacrifice play into your growth?

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How does it play into your role here on earth?

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I like how one of our pastors speaks about our bodies,

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she calls it an earth suit

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and so how does your sacrifice here

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relate to this earth suit

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and what you're meant to do here

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and are you completely dismissing sacrifice

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as something that doesn't need to happen

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or isn't something that is essentially required

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to get to where you wanna be

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because one thing that God values greatly

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is endurance and persistence

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and breeding that endurance within you

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and growing that within you

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and so sacrifice kept coming up over and over again

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and so if I look at our life, Ray and I's life

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and I am gonna open this up of course for,

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this is a mastermind,

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this is a participant-based meeting

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so I am gonna open this up for discussion,

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for questions, for just concerns,

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anything that you wanna talk about

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regarding your personal or business life

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but since this is a finance, faith and finance,

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uh, mentorship program, I want to talk about specifically the

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sacrifice that you're making towards your financial goals as

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well. Um, not just your, your spiritual goals, but your

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financial goals. And for years, for years, I looked at sacrifice

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as a four letter word. I looked at struggle. I looked at, um, um,

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I guess even endurance, I looked at it as a four letter word of

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something that I didn't require because I just go, go, go, go,

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go. And there's no need for that in my life. And at the end of

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the day, you know, we all need to learn to push through and

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create that growth as, as I mentioned. So specifically,

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financially, there's a couple of different areas where sacrifice

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plays a role. I'll just wait for a second while Ray's banging

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They can't hear. Okay, good. Um,

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we've, we've created and social media is such a blessing, and

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it's also can be such a curse at the same time. I think, I think

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you guys know what I'm talking about. Um, we've created a

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society and a system where we're trying to, we're trying to

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create a society and a system where we need more, we need

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more, we need more, we need more, and not only more money,

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but more leads. We feel like we need 1000s of leads a month,

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just to create a sustainable business or hundreds, depending

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on on where you're at in your business. And while more leads

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is not a bad thing, it's actually an amazing, beautiful

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thing. How we steward those leads, and the sacrifice that we

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do to steward those leads that come in, is way more important.

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Now hear me out here, it's way more important than the amount

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of leads coming in. And so I remember a time when you know, I

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would get like 10 leads a month and just keep following up, keep

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working them, keep keep talking to them, keep fostering those

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relationships. And that grew into a into a significant

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income. Now, was it a seven figure income? No. But it grew

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into a significant income to the point where I started to

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feel more comfortable and more confident in building my

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business. And so sacrifice isn't just applied to personally, what

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time are you willing to sacrifice and things like that?

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It's also business wise, how are you willing to sacrifice your

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nature? How are you willing to sacrifice fun? How are you

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willing to sacrifice doing the thing that you want to do versus

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the thing that you need to do, to really start moving forward

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in in your business and creating those financial goals. And step

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one is really I don't know, who has this? Does? Does everybody

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have our progress plan or have a some form of a calendar, or

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something that they can use? See, just like raise your hand

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if you have this. I just want to see who has this. Oh, wow.

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Okay, awesome. I'm going to have our team send this out to you

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guys. This is our progress planner. It's not dated. It's

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it's an incredible tool. But I'm going to have our team send this

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out to you guys. So be on the lookout for that. So the

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absolute first step to getting anywhere in where you want to be

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and getting anywhere in your goals, especially financially is

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knowing where you're at. And so few of us want to stare in the

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face where we're at, whether we're making millions of

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dollars, or we're struggling to pay the electric bill. So few of

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us want to stare in the face where we're at and and what's

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going on in our lives. Especially financially, I find

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I can speak to you from experience, you know, I, even

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when we were making millions of dollars, I would struggle to

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check the credit card bills. Every time I check the credit

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card bills, my heart would raise my my hands would get sweaty. I

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would I would feel this anxiety of like, oh, it's not in my

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stomach, like I'm doing something wrong. And this all

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stemmed from from childhood. And that I used to wake up in the

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middle of the night to my mom on the phone with creditors in

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the middle of the night trying to figure out her bills. And it

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would create so much anxiety in me that it was a trigger. So you

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have to know where you're at. And I would highly suggest even

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maybe as soon as we get off of this meeting, or you find time

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this week before the Christmas craziness, the Christmas craze

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and especially if you have young kids, it's always,

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or grandkids, it's always absolute mayhem.

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I would absolutely schedule time in your planner,

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in your calendar to figure out

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where are you in your financial journey?

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Exactly where are you at?

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And so here's some things to track.

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One, what are the absolute bare minimum

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personal expenses you need to meet, right?

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This is your mortgage, your groceries, your car,

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your electric bill, all the things, your utilities.

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These are all the things you need

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to live the current lifestyle that you're living, okay?

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And then from there, you go into,

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okay, what investments do I make into my business?

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Do you have, are you an entrepreneur?

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Do you have employees?

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Do you have contractors?

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Are you spending marketing dollars?

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You can input coaching dollars.

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These are investments to grow your business.

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okay, these are the current expenses of my business.

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but these are the current expenses of my business.

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So this is what I, bare minimum,

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that I need to run my business.

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if you're in a network marketing company,

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it's a few hundred dollars a month, right?

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for events and things like that.

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It's not significant,

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which is one of the amazing things about network marketing,

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as I know you all know.

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So, but write that down.

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Every little bit counts.

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And then when you get all of the categories,

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for all of you, this is gonna be very different

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and very across the board,

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especially depending on where you live in the country,

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right?

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is gonna be very different than your mortgage in Wisconsin.

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When you get all of these bare minimums written down,

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then you create like a goals bucket of,

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okay, this is ideally what extras,

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what fun, what travel, what things,

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how much do I wanna create per month?

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That will be my extras, okay?

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That could be a retirement goal.

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It could be a residual income goal,

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is to get all the bare minimums covered.

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Plus we want a joyous, fulfilled, peaceful,

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all the fruit of the spirit life

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so that we can pour into and give to others.

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I mean, that's really what it comes down to.

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if we're just meeting the bare minimum,

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we don't have anything to give.

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We don't have any breathing room,

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any heart to give, any volunteer hours to give

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because we're just trying to make ends meet.

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And that is definitely not the ultimate goal.

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And biblically, that's not the ultimate goal.

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So I really, really encourage you this week

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to set aside time to go through those different buckets.

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And then when you have each of those buckets,

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I want you to pray.

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Let's say you have five buckets.

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I want you to pray on each and every one of those

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and ask God, where am I not sacrificing enough?

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Where could I put more sacrifice to you, Lord,

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into each of these buckets?

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And this can look very, very different.

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So I don't want you to, again,

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I do not want you to think of sacrifice

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as a four-letter word.

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I don't want you to think of it as something bad.

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It actually is a beautiful thing

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that God comes alongside us with

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and helps us grow so amazingly

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that we can enjoy the sacrifice.

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Did you know that you can enjoy suffering?

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I know that's kind of an oxymoron

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because suffering in and of itself means being miserable.

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I guess I said that wrong, sacrifice.

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So sacrifice and suffering are two very different things.

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So you can enjoy the sacrifice.

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You can be at peace with it and actually,

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and learn through it, as we all know.

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But pray on where am I not sacrificing enough?

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you're not giving enough of your heart to these leads.

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You're not sacrificing enough of your time

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in this busy work to go over here

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and focus on really nurturing these people

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and seeing what they need.

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so that you can really focus in on people over here.

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It could be, you know what?

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spending way too much money on coffee, make your coffee at home, right?

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Make your coffee at home.

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Some of you will save hundreds of dollars a month this way.

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No question. No question. Some of you already have this dialed in,

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but praying on where God wants you to really hone in on the

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sacrifice to massively explode, uh,

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your 2025 without this portion.

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And this is what most people miss without this portion.

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There is no success because if you reach success without any form of

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sacrifice or very little sacrifice,

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there is no way that you are going to feel as fulfilled.

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And there is no way that you are going to help people who are in the bottom of

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the pit that need to be brought up and lifted up.

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And that is not what you're about. That's not what I'm about.

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And that's not what this group is about.

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We're about helping people from wherever they're at to come out of the bottom of

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the pit. And that may be you, you may be in the bottom of the pit. And this,

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this exercise will absolutely help you to see the blind spots,

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the spots where you're, you're completely missing it. Sacrifice could be,

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um, you know what, you're, you're treating your children too much as a God.

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You're treating your children too much as idols.

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You actually need to sacrifice some time to focus on

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the overall goal that you're building, show them by example,

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lead them by example, so that when they're older,

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you can create all of these experiences with them, right?

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For some of you, myself included, that's an absolute boundary.

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So I'm willing to sacrifice right now while the children are little until

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you know, three 30, when they're out of school.

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And then that time is flexible because that's where I give myself

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grace because that's my kid time.

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Now when they're at an age where they don't want to spend time with me,

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when they're, you know, out and about and,

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and teenagers and they're driving me crazy and all the things, right.

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And they just want to go, go, go. My business will look differently,

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but that's a boundary that I've set around sacrifice that I know may cost me

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in my business,

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but I literally don't care because I know that's where I'm being called right

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now. And I know that on this earth, in my earth suit,

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I will never get that time back with them ever.

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And so it's a sacrifice there. I sacrifice one,

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my business side to, to uplift my personal side.

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It's a sacrifice and a boundary that I'm willing to create.

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So these sacrifices look very different and they're beautiful things.

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And a lot of them show up personally.

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And a lot of them show up financially when you actually pray it out,

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when you pray through it, there's places in your life, there's,

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there's projects you need to let go.

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There's expenses that you need to let go and sacrifice.

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There's activities and even possibly

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joyous extracurriculars that you need to let go right now to,

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to move you along the path that God has for you.

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And then he'll give those back to you tenfold,

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but he will not provide that tenfold without the sacrifice or at least the

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willingness to sacrifice those things that he wants you to,

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because he knows what's going to grow you the most. So make sure that you,

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you schedule this in your, in your calendars. Again, I'm going to,

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I'm going to have our team send out one of these to each of you.

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It's an early Christmas gift. Hopefully they get, get there before Christmas.

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So that you have that. And, and I just want to open it up right now.

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I've talked for the first 20 minutes here.

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I just want to open it up right now to questions either around this or around

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anything that you have going on in your business or in your

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personal life that you'd like to share and, and just see,

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or just a share doesn't have to be a question,

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but just see if anybody has anything they'd like to, to speak on today.

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Cause this is not my show. This is our show. And I want to hear from you guys.

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I just want to say thank you. And this completely resonates because I've been

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looking at the year ahead and what it's going to

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take. And I had a lot of travel this year and I had a lot of fun this year.

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And I was actually thinking yesterday, like I'm not planning travel.

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I'm not doing any of that stuff.

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I'm going to focus solely on being in this mastermind and give my full self to

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it.

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Because it's time and it's what I'm being called into.

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So distractions need to be put aside for sure.

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Absolutely. I love that. Thank you for sharing. Sacrificing travel.

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Um, right now that's, that's a big one that, that hits multiple buckets.

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Um, financially too, that's a huge expense and, you know, I'm not, if

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your cashflow is, is incredibly lucrative by all means, don't, don't

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sacrifice where you don't need to in this moment, I'm just saying, pray

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about it and wherever God has you sacrifice, um, you know, do that.

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It's a lot of times it'll be where, where we really don't want to.

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And a lot of times it'll be, yeah, that doesn't really move the

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needle for me personally and my fulfillment.

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It doesn't move the needle for my business.

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I don't know why I'm doing it.

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It's something I've always done and that's why I keep doing it.

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And I need to cut that tie immediately to whatever that is.

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So thank you for sharing that.

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Who else has something that's on their heart that they'd like to share?

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I know that this group is not this quiet.

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I mean, I could share it.

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I can always share, um, sacrifices, man.

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There's, there's a lot that went through my mind.

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Like, um, when you go from my dead broke to like making money out of nowhere,

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even though it wasn't out of nowhere, you kind of do, do like take

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advantage of it a little bit.

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So like we go out to eat a lot.

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Um, and we just actually talked about this last night.

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We're like, you know, we don't need to be doing that.

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So we have, we can eat at home.

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And then if we eat at home, we actually could spend more time

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with our family, right together.

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So, um, that was definitely on my mind and like, um, I don't know, like a lot of,

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a lot of sacrifices, like a lot of it was more personal for me, like with my

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daughter, like, um, I mean, I had to just tick tock a video on how to talk to her.

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Cause she, you know, and it was like some really deep psychology stuff.

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Like I asked her a few questions and like, basically she's, she's a very

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passionate person, like most of us, I think, whatever we say in our head, we

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believe like that's who become.

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Right.

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So I asked her a few questions to see how she really looks at herself.

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And I'm like, that's like your reality, all that stuff becomes your reality.

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Right.

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So, um, but anyway, so I want to sacrifice, um, my ego sometimes of

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being like, parents are always right.

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You know, I think that's a huge one.

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I don't, I don't know.

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That's so hard for me because like, you know, do what we say type of thing, but

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like, yeah, so that's where I'm at right now, like sacrificing your ego.

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That's just, that's huge, huge.

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And, and when, when you look at that perspective, I'm so glad you, you

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mentioned that because when you look at that perspective, that, that literally

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encompasses most things that keeps us up at night, because at the end of the

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day, most of us, whether we want to admit it or not, we try our best to not be of

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this nature, but whether we want to admit it or not, most of us care a lot

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about what other people think.

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And when you are worried about certain things in your life, like, oh, I'm not

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getting to this next level of my business or, um, my kids aren't acting a certain

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way, uh, how am I going to pay this bill next month?

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What, what am I going to do here?

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When you worry about that stuff, it's also because you're worried

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about what people will think.

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And that's a total ego.

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I'm having a, I'm about to have a, like, um, huge breakthrough type thing.

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So since you said that, Jessica, so, um, you know, my, um, who I serve and,

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and what proud myself is like the help and the dad that's become dad.

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Sometimes I beat myself up.

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Like I'm not the best dad.

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How can I teach people to be a better dad if I screw up?

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You know what I mean?

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So that's like, so that just hit me even harder where I'm like, sometimes

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it prevents me from like, I feel like a fraud sharing dad tips on the internet

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sometimes, because I slip up sometimes I'll be honest, because you go back

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to your, like how you were raised.

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Right.

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Yeah.

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So, yeah.

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Oh, that was deep.

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Powerful.

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And we all screw up.

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We all screw up, um, being a parent.

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It's impossible not to.

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So just keep that in mind.

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Uh, you, you can't worry about what other people are going to think as you, as you

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go along that journey, um, because it'll keep you from everything.

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You know, when I first went into real estate, I was so worried what our community.

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would think. Are they going to think this? Are they going to think that? Are they going

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to think that, you know, um, Ray and I are having problems and some of them did and it's

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okay. Uh, but overwhelmingly the response was positive. So I just, and that freedom

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that's created when you move through where God has called you without that fear, without

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that, when you sacrifice that ego, as you so beautifully put it, when that freedom is

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created, you can, you feel like you can do anything because you've done it before. And

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that's really what God's trying to get us to do. Um, you know, if you're in a tough

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spot financially, let's say, and some of you are, some of you are in incredible financial

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positions. Um, but if you're in a tough spot financially, God is moving you through that

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so that that fear is removed and that freedom can come through. Uh, because you cannot,

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if you don't have that happen to you where you've been at the bottom, you, you can, you're

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always going to be afraid of it. You're always going to be afraid of it happening. Once you

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move through it and you know that you can handle it, whatever that circumstance is,

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and you know that God is by your side and he's got your back. Once you move through

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that circumstance, it becomes so much easier to handle it. If it happens again, that that

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fear is completely removed from you. Absolutely removed. For example, I had a, um, I had a

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real estate transaction that went South and I knew from the beginning that I should not

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work with these people. I knew it. And I let my ego get in the way. And I, I, it was a

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large transaction. So I said, you know what, I'm sure it's going to be fine. And all the

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while God was like, no, no, no. My gut was telling me don't work with them. Don't do

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this. And it ended up going South and I ended up being sued. Now I got through it because

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I ultimately didn't do anything. Um, but when, when you've never been sued personally, it's

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different when you've been sued, you know, business wise, but when you've never been

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sued personally and something like that happens, uh, it, it freaks you out. For those of you

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who have been sued or in the legal system, it's not fun. I mean, you had, you get subpoenaed

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for documents and, and it's, it's a long arduous process, but going, I'm so grateful that I

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was taken through that process and came out on the other side, perfectly fine, better

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than fine, because I now know how that works. And I, I know not to be scared of that anymore.

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Um, people are going to do that. People are going to sue you. And the more, the bigger

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that you get, I don't care what business it is, even in network marketing, the bigger

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that you get, the more people believe that they can take, um, the more people that you

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work with on a day-to-day basis, nine times out of 10, you're going to get sued. And so

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if you're not taken through that process of, of how that works, how are you going to handle

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that? You're going to stay small. The bigger that you get, you're going to need to get

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your finances in order because it's not going to be a gravy train forever. They're going

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to have ebbs and flows and ups and downs and, and it comes back, you know, but you need

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to get your finances in order. And if you operate on a just go, go, go, go basis without

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really honing in on what are these buckets? Where are they going to, where are they going

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to lay? Um, it can all come collapsing down on you and God wants you to steward that properly.

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And so for you who has had more success than you've ever had in your lifetime, it's very

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important for you to sit down with your wife and future baby and your family, even, um,

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sit down with them and go through, okay, what buckets are we really going to focus on? Where

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do we need to sacrifice more? And how are we going to provide for our future? Um, with,

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with this stewardship. And that doesn't mean that you don't rely on God for, for money.

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Um, sometimes when people, I've heard a lot of Christians talk about how there's, and

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it's just crazy to me how there's no need to plan for the future because God is your

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absolutely true. God is your provider. However, he's not going to give you more. He's not

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going to provide you with more if you don't know how to steward it properly. And it doesn't

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mean that you hoard your money and you just save it and keep it, you know, for a rainy

481
00:29:39.560 --> 00:29:45.000
day necessarily, but it does mean that you steward it properly. So when he calls you

482
00:29:45.000 --> 00:29:51.160
to do something with it, you have it available. And maybe he calls you to provide an education

483
00:29:51.200 --> 00:29:56.480
for your son or daughter. Maybe he calls you to, uh, donate to this charity. Maybe he calls

484
00:29:56.480 --> 00:29:59.880
you to buy a larger home so that you can entertain and bring

485
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:06.480
people into that home and create a safe space of fellowship and evangelism and all of the

486
00:30:06.480 --> 00:30:08.080
things, right?

487
00:30:08.080 --> 00:30:14.120
But he's never, and I actually had this conversation with Ray a few years ago, and we talked through

488
00:30:14.120 --> 00:30:16.640
this and prayed through this as a couple.

489
00:30:16.640 --> 00:30:25.000
He's never going to provide more talents if you don't start stewarding the ones that you

490
00:30:25.000 --> 00:30:27.200
have properly.

491
00:30:27.200 --> 00:30:29.880
And we hear that in the parable, right?

492
00:30:29.880 --> 00:30:36.200
So the minute that you start putting away, and this is part of the sacrifice, the minute

493
00:30:36.200 --> 00:30:43.900
that you start putting away whatever income that you have, whether it's $100 a week or

494
00:30:43.900 --> 00:30:50.480
a million dollars a month, the moment you start putting that aside in a bucket, and

495
00:30:50.480 --> 00:30:55.460
this is God's bucket, or whatever you pray through in that exercise and God tells you

496
00:30:55.460 --> 00:31:01.780
to label it as or where he wants you to shift around things and put that sacrifice in,

497
00:31:01.780 --> 00:31:09.380
the moment you do that, the heavens open, and it's a really amazing, beautiful thing,

498
00:31:09.380 --> 00:31:14.340
and start providing opportunity to grow that portion.

499
00:31:14.340 --> 00:31:19.920
So if you're making $100 a week in your business right now, take $10 a week and put it into

500
00:31:19.920 --> 00:31:23.380
a bucket, just put it into a separate bucket.

501
00:31:23.380 --> 00:31:30.700
Sacrifice that cup of coffee, sacrifice that whatever, that night out, and put it into

502
00:31:30.700 --> 00:31:32.020
a bucket.

503
00:31:32.020 --> 00:31:35.420
You will be so amazed at what happens when you start doing that.

504
00:31:35.420 --> 00:31:40.780
And so Ray and I have several buckets, and one of them is a giving account.

505
00:31:40.780 --> 00:31:44.740
So I'm sure he's talked with you about this, so forgive me if it's repetitive, but we have

506
00:31:44.740 --> 00:31:49.300
a giving account that we put money into there, and then we have an investment account, and

507
00:31:49.300 --> 00:31:53.940
we pray on each of those buckets of where is that going.

508
00:31:53.940 --> 00:31:59.820
And that's based on sales, it's not based on profit, and I'm not telling you how to

509
00:31:59.820 --> 00:32:03.380
do that because that's something you have to pray through, but we really love the David

510
00:32:03.380 --> 00:32:07.980
Green model, where he bases it off of his sales.

511
00:32:07.980 --> 00:32:16.440
And so this is just a really powerful, simple exercise that 90% of people do not do.

512
00:32:16.440 --> 00:32:21.320
They just don't sit down and take the time and put it in their planner to go through,

513
00:32:21.320 --> 00:32:27.680
here are, this is where we're at, this is where we want to be, and let's pray through

514
00:32:27.680 --> 00:32:35.080
how we can get there, where we can sacrifice more to God, where we can actually have a

515
00:32:35.080 --> 00:32:40.080
little more abundance, where we can pour more of our time.

516
00:32:40.080 --> 00:32:44.360
And I want to also share about leads.

517
00:32:44.360 --> 00:32:51.600
So many of us have people in our phones, we have people in our Facebook messages, we

518
00:32:51.600 --> 00:32:58.000
have people in our activity trackers, I don't know if you guys have this or not also, but

519
00:32:58.000 --> 00:33:07.160
this, I have dozens of these filled with prospects in here.

520
00:33:07.160 --> 00:33:10.640
And I like to keep it physical because it makes it really easy for me to go back and

521
00:33:10.640 --> 00:33:17.560
find people versus the search in Facebook or Messenger or anything like that.

522
00:33:17.560 --> 00:33:26.920
I have dozens of these filled, and that is really the key to me getting so many people

523
00:33:26.920 --> 00:33:34.280
signed up in whatever programs we offer or things that we're doing, is just harnessing

524
00:33:34.280 --> 00:33:43.680
those relationships and getting people involved in what we're doing, because if you are not

525
00:33:43.680 --> 00:33:48.400
following up at least five times with somebody, you're missing it.

526
00:33:48.400 --> 00:33:52.080
Now, I'm not saying to be annoying and follow up five times in one day, but if you're not

527
00:33:52.080 --> 00:33:56.200
following up at least five times throughout the year with somebody, you're missing the

528
00:33:56.200 --> 00:33:57.440
boat.

529
00:33:57.440 --> 00:33:58.960
And so am I perfect at this?

530
00:33:58.960 --> 00:34:01.960
Do I hit each and every person?

531
00:34:01.960 --> 00:34:02.960
Absolutely not.

532
00:34:02.960 --> 00:34:03.960
I'm not perfect at it.

533
00:34:04.160 --> 00:34:06.160
Am I better than most?

534
00:34:06.160 --> 00:34:14.360
Yeah, definitely, because I'm not about, okay, let me get a million leads and then just hit

535
00:34:14.360 --> 00:34:16.920
them one time and then try and get a million more.

536
00:34:16.920 --> 00:34:19.679
To me, that seems absolutely exhausting.

537
00:34:19.679 --> 00:34:23.040
To you, to some of you, this seems absolutely exhausting, right?

538
00:34:23.040 --> 00:34:26.679
But to me, that seems absolutely exhausting.

539
00:34:26.679 --> 00:34:32.040
I would much rather have a good system where I'm harnessing those relationships, creating

540
00:34:32.080 --> 00:34:36.000
leverage because they actually know me and they actually see what I'm doing.

541
00:34:36.000 --> 00:34:40.000
And this is something very simple that most people can do.

542
00:34:40.000 --> 00:34:47.320
So that duplication effort and do it that way and really harness those leads, cultivate

543
00:34:47.320 --> 00:34:52.280
those leads so that the harvest is much more beneficial.

544
00:34:52.280 --> 00:34:57.520
So this may be something that you've heard before to follow up, follow up, follow up.

545
00:34:57.520 --> 00:34:59.960
In fact, I'm positive that you have because.

546
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.280
We talked about it at our event.

547
00:35:02.280 --> 00:35:05.840
And I'm sure your events, your company events,

548
00:35:05.840 --> 00:35:08.360
your leadership, your company as a whole

549
00:35:08.360 --> 00:35:10.400
has talked about this.

550
00:35:10.400 --> 00:35:13.920
However, ask yourself, are you doing it?

551
00:35:15.160 --> 00:35:18.400
Are you actually doing it and doing it well?

552
00:35:18.400 --> 00:35:20.840
Are you actually going back through your leads

553
00:35:20.840 --> 00:35:23.440
and looking at, okay, these are the people I've talked to,

554
00:35:23.440 --> 00:35:25.400
this is what they've said, this is the no's,

555
00:35:25.400 --> 00:35:27.080
this is the yes's, this is the maybe's,

556
00:35:27.080 --> 00:35:28.920
this is the ones that said not right now.

557
00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:32.680
Are you actually going back through everyone that you know,

558
00:35:32.680 --> 00:35:36.440
every piece of Rolodex that you have,

559
00:35:36.440 --> 00:35:38.800
every Facebook message, every Instagram message

560
00:35:38.800 --> 00:35:43.080
that you've ever done and following up,

561
00:35:44.360 --> 00:35:45.320
going back to them?

562
00:35:46.720 --> 00:35:49.480
And my guess is the answer is no.

563
00:35:49.480 --> 00:35:52.240
And again, I'm not perfect at it.

564
00:35:52.240 --> 00:35:54.600
I'm certainly not touching every single person

565
00:35:54.600 --> 00:35:58.120
that's ever come through our database or that I've talked to.

566
00:35:58.120 --> 00:35:59.840
I definitely am not.

567
00:35:59.840 --> 00:36:03.400
My guess is I'm following up with about 50%

568
00:36:03.400 --> 00:36:04.920
in a diligent way.

569
00:36:06.880 --> 00:36:08.840
And sometimes that number changes.

570
00:36:08.840 --> 00:36:11.520
But again, I'm doing more than most.

571
00:36:11.520 --> 00:36:14.560
And all success really is, is showing up.

572
00:36:14.560 --> 00:36:16.680
It's 80% showing up.

573
00:36:16.680 --> 00:36:20.920
And the other half of that is doing more than most.

574
00:36:20.920 --> 00:36:23.840
If you do more than most people do,

575
00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:25.960
you'll get more than most people have.

576
00:36:26.560 --> 00:36:30.040
Because to whom much is given, much is required.

577
00:36:30.040 --> 00:36:33.040
So that does not mean that you have to sacrifice

578
00:36:33.040 --> 00:36:35.400
your boundary areas.

579
00:36:35.400 --> 00:36:38.600
That may cause you to be sacrificial in other areas

580
00:36:38.600 --> 00:36:42.080
like income, but it's good enough.

581
00:36:42.080 --> 00:36:43.160
It's good enough right now.

582
00:36:43.160 --> 00:36:45.720
If you have small children and that's a boundary

583
00:36:45.720 --> 00:36:49.360
that you're not willing to cross, wonderful.

584
00:36:49.360 --> 00:36:51.480
I'm all for that.

585
00:36:51.480 --> 00:36:54.600
Just be careful with setting boundaries

586
00:36:55.600 --> 00:36:57.880
around things that are really important to you

587
00:36:57.880 --> 00:37:01.360
that may be idolatry.

588
00:37:01.360 --> 00:37:05.120
Like maybe there's a sport that you absolutely love,

589
00:37:05.120 --> 00:37:09.320
but it's taking you away from really focusing it

590
00:37:09.320 --> 00:37:11.800
on your calling and where you know you need to be right now

591
00:37:11.800 --> 00:37:13.560
and you know God wants you.

592
00:37:13.560 --> 00:37:15.240
And you set that boundary.

593
00:37:15.240 --> 00:37:17.880
Nope, I gotta do my tennis on Thursdays

594
00:37:17.880 --> 00:37:20.600
or I gotta do this on Monday, Wednesday, Friday

595
00:37:20.600 --> 00:37:22.240
or every day or whatever.

596
00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:24.360
Get golf on Saturday all day,

597
00:37:24.360 --> 00:37:27.080
whatever the case may be, you set that boundary.

598
00:37:27.080 --> 00:37:30.240
But in actuality, it's not.

599
00:37:31.120 --> 00:37:33.880
It's a sacrifice that God wants you to do.

600
00:37:33.880 --> 00:37:37.520
It's not really what you're meant to be doing right now.

601
00:37:37.520 --> 00:37:42.240
Sacrifice now so you can do it seven, eight days a week

602
00:37:42.240 --> 00:37:44.320
later if you want to.

603
00:37:44.320 --> 00:37:45.800
Of course, you're not gonna do it eight days a week,

604
00:37:45.800 --> 00:37:48.280
but that was a joke, bad joke, okay.

605
00:37:48.640 --> 00:37:52.360
Who else wants to share?

606
00:37:52.360 --> 00:37:54.400
I'd love to hear from you

607
00:37:54.400 --> 00:37:59.400
on some different breakthroughs that you're having.

608
00:38:01.000 --> 00:38:06.000
I just ordered 10 for Christmas for my team, awesome.

609
00:38:07.320 --> 00:38:09.440
Yeah, if I can talk?

610
00:38:09.440 --> 00:38:10.840
Yes, absolutely.

611
00:38:10.840 --> 00:38:14.040
Okay, I do have a story that I wanna share.

612
00:38:14.040 --> 00:38:15.440
Please.

613
00:38:15.440 --> 00:38:16.920
I don't know if it has anything to do

614
00:38:16.920 --> 00:38:17.920
with what we're talking about.

615
00:38:18.560 --> 00:38:19.880
I feel like it does.

616
00:38:19.880 --> 00:38:21.680
We just had a Black Friday sale

617
00:38:21.680 --> 00:38:26.320
and I have a friend in the States who bought our skincare.

618
00:38:26.320 --> 00:38:29.360
And she was telling me that her sister came to visit

619
00:38:29.360 --> 00:38:31.880
and she tried her skincare and she loved it,

620
00:38:31.880 --> 00:38:34.280
but she doesn't have two nickels to rub together.

621
00:38:34.280 --> 00:38:36.040
And she works at a homeless shelter

622
00:38:36.040 --> 00:38:37.720
and she lives paycheck to paycheck.

623
00:38:37.720 --> 00:38:40.240
She just got out of a three-year relationship

624
00:38:40.240 --> 00:38:42.520
with a narcissist and she was crushed

625
00:38:42.520 --> 00:38:44.560
and her health suffered and all that.

626
00:38:44.560 --> 00:38:46.680
But she loved the products.

627
00:38:46.680 --> 00:38:51.680
And I was called to send her a gift.

628
00:38:52.480 --> 00:38:53.800
So I did.

629
00:38:53.800 --> 00:38:56.560
And I can't tell you how good that made me feel.

630
00:38:56.560 --> 00:38:59.760
So if that's a sacrifice, that's what I'm willing to make.

631
00:38:59.760 --> 00:39:01.640
And I don't have a particular bucket

632
00:39:01.640 --> 00:39:03.440
to put money into for that.

633
00:39:03.440 --> 00:39:05.840
I'm just gonna go with what my heart tells me.

634
00:39:05.840 --> 00:39:07.560
That's the first time I've ever done that.

635
00:39:07.560 --> 00:39:10.840
But, and my friend was just crying on the phone

636
00:39:10.840 --> 00:39:15.000
and I said, stop, it just, it happened.

637
00:39:15.000 --> 00:39:17.800
And I felt it and she needs some love.

638
00:39:17.800 --> 00:39:21.640
And so I just sent it to her and I said,

639
00:39:21.640 --> 00:39:24.400
tell her not to freak out when it gets there.

640
00:39:24.400 --> 00:39:28.200
Just tell her it's Santa and I hope she enjoys it.

641
00:39:28.200 --> 00:39:29.720
So.

642
00:39:29.720 --> 00:39:31.040
That's an amazing story.

643
00:39:31.040 --> 00:39:31.880
Thank you for sharing.

644
00:39:31.880 --> 00:39:32.720
My story.

645
00:39:32.720 --> 00:39:35.840
And I was gonna further what Stephanie said

646
00:39:35.840 --> 00:39:37.640
that I'm basically gonna sacrifice

647
00:39:37.640 --> 00:39:39.400
whatever I have to for this mastermind

648
00:39:39.400 --> 00:39:40.960
because I'm here for it.

649
00:39:40.960 --> 00:39:43.000
And it's long overdue for me.

650
00:39:43.000 --> 00:39:45.160
I've been lost for a lot of years

651
00:39:45.160 --> 00:39:47.280
and I need to get sorted out.

652
00:39:47.280 --> 00:39:49.240
I think I know what my calling is

653
00:39:49.240 --> 00:39:52.760
and I'm gonna focus on that over pretty much everything else

654
00:39:52.760 --> 00:39:55.120
except maybe taking care of my animals

655
00:39:55.120 --> 00:39:57.400
because they need that every day.

656
00:39:57.400 --> 00:39:59.320
So that's me.

657
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.000
I love that.

658
00:40:01.000 --> 00:40:06.840
What a, what a powerful story and blessings come in different ways, right?

659
00:40:06.840 --> 00:40:11.400
So you doing that, you know, it may not mean that you sponsored 10 more people from that.

660
00:40:11.400 --> 00:40:16.320
It may, I don't know, but, um, blessings come in other ways.

661
00:40:16.320 --> 00:40:22.600
And that's another lesson I had to learn from sacrifice is that sometimes when I sacrificed,

662
00:40:22.600 --> 00:40:28.080
um, in the past money, for example, you know, I'm not going to buy that thing or I'm going

663
00:40:28.080 --> 00:40:32.880
to, um, or I am going to give that money, I'm going to, you know, tie them, going to

664
00:40:32.880 --> 00:40:33.880
do that.

665
00:40:33.880 --> 00:40:41.320
I expected a financial reward and one, and I'm not, I know you did this out of the kindness

666
00:40:41.320 --> 00:40:43.880
and love of your heart and what God was calling you to do.

667
00:40:43.880 --> 00:40:46.760
Um, so I'm not saying you're expecting that.

668
00:40:46.760 --> 00:40:52.120
Just I know that this message will, will resonate with some on here, um, because your story

669
00:40:52.120 --> 00:40:56.640
is so powerful and I want to, I want to get this across.

670
00:40:56.640 --> 00:41:03.800
So I expected a financial return, like, oh, God is going to, and it wasn't out of, I wasn't

671
00:41:03.800 --> 00:41:07.600
trying to be conceited or like, oh yeah, I deserve this or anything like that.

672
00:41:07.600 --> 00:41:10.520
It was so just, um, subconscious.

673
00:41:10.520 --> 00:41:11.760
I wasn't even aware of it.

674
00:41:11.760 --> 00:41:15.480
Like, oh, I'm doing this to receive a financial reward.

675
00:41:15.480 --> 00:41:16.480
Um, right.

676
00:41:16.480 --> 00:41:17.960
I mean, that's what you do.

677
00:41:17.960 --> 00:41:23.520
And, and I'm being a good person and I'm doing this to receive more from God and, and he

678
00:41:23.520 --> 00:41:25.600
hit me over the head with the ton of bricks.

679
00:41:25.600 --> 00:41:32.320
One day when we had given, we had made a significant investment, hundreds of thousands of dollars

680
00:41:32.320 --> 00:41:39.000
to this individual for a real estate deal that went completely South.

681
00:41:39.000 --> 00:41:43.080
And I was, I was just sick over it.

682
00:41:43.080 --> 00:41:51.320
And, um, God called us to, to forgive this person and to give it as a gift, which took

683
00:41:51.320 --> 00:41:57.960
a lot of prayer, a lot, a lot of prayer, a lot of, uh, a lot of just back and forth.

684
00:41:57.960 --> 00:41:58.960
Like, are you sure?

685
00:41:58.960 --> 00:42:03.160
Are you sure, um, to give it as a gift.

686
00:42:03.160 --> 00:42:06.760
And it hit me like a ton of bricks.

687
00:42:06.760 --> 00:42:17.120
And he said to me, Jess, cause he calls me Jess, said to me, Jess, um, not every blessing

688
00:42:17.120 --> 00:42:19.080
is financial.

689
00:42:19.080 --> 00:42:24.320
And by you doing this, you're really helping a family that's desperately in need right

690
00:42:24.320 --> 00:42:25.760
now.

691
00:42:25.760 --> 00:42:32.720
And so I bless you with the feeling of helping this family, um, you know, that, that is struggling,

692
00:42:32.720 --> 00:42:37.480
that just had a new baby and has another one on the way that really needs this blessing

693
00:42:37.480 --> 00:42:41.800
because they didn't mean to, for the deal to fall through or anything like that.

694
00:42:41.800 --> 00:42:44.520
It was just a bad set of circumstances.

695
00:42:44.520 --> 00:42:50.920
And so that's when I realized in that moment, um, and became aware and awareness is very,

696
00:42:50.920 --> 00:42:56.240
a very powerful tool in everything you do, just be more aware of your thoughts and, and,

697
00:42:56.240 --> 00:42:57.560
and why you do certain things.

698
00:42:57.560 --> 00:43:02.560
But I became aware that every blessing is not necessarily a financial blessing.

699
00:43:02.560 --> 00:43:07.640
And so many times when we give money, we expect the blessing in return to be money.

700
00:43:07.640 --> 00:43:12.400
And it was the feeling of knowing I blessed that family and they're, they're going to

701
00:43:12.400 --> 00:43:13.480
be there.

702
00:43:13.480 --> 00:43:18.560
Their kids are going to be able to eat now because we forgave that debt.

703
00:43:18.560 --> 00:43:21.440
That was more of a blessing than I could have ever hoped for then.

704
00:43:21.440 --> 00:43:24.920
Oh, instead of, you know, hundreds of thousands, you're going to get millions back.

705
00:43:24.920 --> 00:43:29.200
And then, you know, who knows, maybe would have made a dumb decision with it or put it

706
00:43:29.200 --> 00:43:31.520
into another bad investment or whatever.

707
00:43:31.520 --> 00:43:36.320
You don't know, you can't ever possibly know what the future holds.

708
00:43:36.320 --> 00:43:37.680
Only God knows that obviously.

709
00:43:37.680 --> 00:43:46.800
So if you've, if you've put money into things, um, or, you know, like sent people things

710
00:43:46.800 --> 00:43:51.760
and expected a financial return or what have you, um, and again, not saying you did this

711
00:43:51.760 --> 00:43:57.200
Leslie, just in general, just remember that some of the blessings that God wants to bless

712
00:43:57.200 --> 00:44:02.600
you with 10 times over are not necessarily monetary.

713
00:44:02.600 --> 00:44:06.960
It may be an awareness on, on what you're doing with that money, but it may not be the

714
00:44:07.000 --> 00:44:09.480
blessing of, of a monetary financial reward.

715
00:44:10.280 --> 00:44:15.640
Well, I'll tell you, I'm going to tell you another, it's not a really story, but I, I

716
00:44:15.640 --> 00:44:19.920
poured into someone that I thought I was going to be with forever.

717
00:44:20.400 --> 00:44:21.760
And this is after my divorce.

718
00:44:21.760 --> 00:44:28.480
So it's not that person, but, um, I poured into a family that was needy and, you know,

719
00:44:28.480 --> 00:44:32.720
scraping by and this guy I thought was my soulmate.

720
00:44:33.600 --> 00:44:38.880
And it turned really South for, you know, a couple of million dollars.

721
00:44:38.960 --> 00:44:46.200
And it took me two years to learn that pouring into someone hoping for love in return is

722
00:44:46.200 --> 00:44:49.640
not, not the way to do it, not the way to do it.

723
00:44:49.640 --> 00:44:52.520
I, I don't know why I thought, I don't know.

724
00:44:52.600 --> 00:44:57.000
I just, I really believed we were in this thing together and then poof, it turned out

725
00:44:57.080 --> 00:44:58.320
he was into it for the money.

726
00:44:58.320 --> 00:44:59.080
And that was all.

727
00:44:59.600 --> 00:45:00.000
Um,

728
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:06.240
But I do believe that I did get a blessing from that because it taught me that I'm worth

729
00:45:06.960 --> 00:45:12.960
what I'm worth, whether I have money or not. And if a person isn't just going to love me for me,

730
00:45:14.160 --> 00:45:20.800
then I need to get out and I need to see it sooner. And it grew me exponentially. So I did

731
00:45:20.800 --> 00:45:25.760
get a blessing out of that. And then the lady that I sent the stuff to, I knew going into it,

732
00:45:25.760 --> 00:45:29.600
there was never going to be a purchase and I didn't care. I didn't care. I just wanted to

733
00:45:29.600 --> 00:45:36.240
love on her and let her know, especially being a fellow survivor of narcissistic abuse, that

734
00:45:36.240 --> 00:45:41.760
someone out there is thinking about her and just wants to shower her with a little bit of

735
00:45:41.760 --> 00:45:47.680
self-care. So, yeah. Love that. Love that. Absolutely.

736
00:45:49.040 --> 00:45:53.040
Thank you for sharing that. I know that's vulnerable and appreciate it.

737
00:45:53.040 --> 00:45:59.760
Yeah. Can I, I raised my hand cause I thought about something real quick. I want to use a

738
00:45:59.760 --> 00:46:06.160
real life example real quick. So this happened to me. So this year, so we were dead broke like

739
00:46:06.720 --> 00:46:11.440
December, right? And we were in church. That's how we build our relationship, me and Megan. And

740
00:46:12.080 --> 00:46:17.040
I remember like we had $40, like we, we had $40. That was literally what we had to give to the

741
00:46:17.040 --> 00:46:22.480
church. It was the end of the year. And we gave it to the church and I was like, I feel something.

742
00:46:22.480 --> 00:46:26.480
I don't know what it is, but anyway, a couple of days later, long story short, gotten the

743
00:46:26.480 --> 00:46:30.080
opportunity we're in made like a few thousand dollars the first week and then just started

744
00:46:30.080 --> 00:46:38.640
going crazy. And a few, like two or three months later at our church, they had a, like an offer.

745
00:46:38.640 --> 00:46:44.480
So a bunch of the people were going to, to Ecuador, to the Amazon jungle to build clean water,

746
00:46:44.480 --> 00:46:49.760
like water infiltrate, like water filtration system. So they can drink clean water. Right.

747
00:46:50.480 --> 00:46:54.160
And we're like, okay, we have enough money. Now we're going to help. We gave him a thousand

748
00:46:54.160 --> 00:46:59.360
dollars to go build a couple. It was like helped like three families drink clean water in the

749
00:46:59.360 --> 00:47:03.920
Amazon jungle. But like the deal was like, Oh, they're going to tag us and put up faith, do a

750
00:47:03.920 --> 00:47:09.840
Facebook post because of their company, stuff like that. And then I noticed like, they never tagged

751
00:47:09.840 --> 00:47:14.320
me in a Facebook post or hold up a sign in the Amazon jungle. They held up like our local DA,

752
00:47:15.040 --> 00:47:20.320
the big businesses in the area, the like, you know, the, the town sheriff, stuff like that,

753
00:47:20.320 --> 00:47:26.320
the county sheriff, but not like little Kyle Devine. Right. So I got hurt about it then,

754
00:47:26.320 --> 00:47:31.280
but now, now I like learned a lesson that like, I was able to literally help people,

755
00:47:31.280 --> 00:47:37.360
the Amazon jungle, like, come on now, like somebody, you know, so that was a huge lesson

756
00:47:37.360 --> 00:47:42.800
for me. I was like, that's, that's patients out. I'm just like, you know, appreciate what

757
00:47:42.800 --> 00:47:49.200
we're blessed with that we can actually, you know, serve. So, yeah. I, I, I love that you

758
00:47:49.200 --> 00:47:58.320
shared this because this is where awareness becomes so important, becoming aware of where

759
00:47:58.320 --> 00:48:04.480
you're not aware. So you were totally unaware that you were actually expecting something

760
00:48:05.680 --> 00:48:11.680
for doing, for doing this. Not that you didn't do it out of, you know, your heart and wanting to

761
00:48:11.680 --> 00:48:18.000
help you did, but there was also a part of you that was like, Hey, and Hey, and if I do this,

762
00:48:18.720 --> 00:48:24.400
I'm going to get this maybe. And it's, it's normal. I'm not chastising you for that. It's

763
00:48:24.400 --> 00:48:31.360
human. We're human, but, but become aware of those moments and those teaching moments,

764
00:48:31.360 --> 00:48:36.320
because there's always a bigger blessing on these, on the other side of them. And that's both,

765
00:48:37.120 --> 00:48:45.280
you know, personally and financially becoming aware of why did, okay. Why am I offended here?

766
00:48:45.280 --> 00:48:50.800
How did, how did this upset me? Where, where can I learn from this? So becoming aware of where

767
00:48:50.800 --> 00:48:55.360
you're not aware. Most people think that they're totally aware, especially in this business.

768
00:48:55.360 --> 00:49:01.120
Are you kidding me? Entrepreneurship business owners. We know everything we're aware. We,

769
00:49:01.120 --> 00:49:06.000
we are so personally developed. We read the Bible every day. We are so aware.

770
00:49:07.040 --> 00:49:09.680
And the fact of the matter is there's always another level.

771
00:49:10.400 --> 00:49:14.720
I'm going to, I'm going to, I'm going to tune in one more thing real quick. I just want to like

772
00:49:15.280 --> 00:49:21.680
land this plane real quick. So it goes back to play to win season two. When I was the first

773
00:49:21.680 --> 00:49:26.560
person, I was like the first person voted off on that couch. And like, why have I always been like,

774
00:49:27.520 --> 00:49:30.240
picked last in high school, like on all the sports teams. Right.

775
00:49:31.040 --> 00:49:36.000
It's because I even on that show, like I remember rated interviews, everybody's not like me. They

776
00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:43.520
didn't like me because I would always portray this person to feel loved that I had to be,

777
00:49:43.520 --> 00:49:47.840
I would have to become somebody and like stick out, you know, and be like that,

778
00:49:48.640 --> 00:49:54.320
that person that goes so extra to try to, you know, fit in. And that was it. Like that's,

779
00:49:54.320 --> 00:49:56.640
that's how, that's a lesson I learned just like that. Like I,

780
00:49:57.520 --> 00:49:59.840
like your true heart, like, what are you really doing?

781
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.520
things for in life, not like, like you're saying now what other people are thinking,

782
00:50:04.240 --> 00:50:10.880
you're doing it for you and God, like that's, that's, that's it, you know? And yeah, so

783
00:50:10.880 --> 00:50:14.640
that was it. So that's why I kept going. I'm still here.

784
00:50:15.360 --> 00:50:22.880
Yeah. So, so, so powerful. You know, the, I think I find that the number one reason people are held

785
00:50:22.880 --> 00:50:28.960
back is because they're not honest with themselves. That's, that's mainly it. They're not being honest

786
00:50:28.960 --> 00:50:34.400
with themselves. Where are they not doing their best? Where are they not going where they're

787
00:50:34.400 --> 00:50:38.480
called? Where are they still hanging on to their strongholds? Where are they not sacrificing?

788
00:50:38.480 --> 00:50:44.240
Where are they not aware that they're not aware? Just be honest, be as honest with yourself,

789
00:50:44.240 --> 00:50:51.200
brutally honest. And that goes into repentance, right? Switching from, okay, now that I'm honest

790
00:50:51.200 --> 00:50:57.440
about these things and I'm aware of these things, switching my trajectory, which repentance actually

791
00:50:57.440 --> 00:51:02.800
means switching your trajectory, not necessarily confession. Those are two different things.

792
00:51:05.200 --> 00:51:12.640
Switching that trajectory to, oh, okay. That's where I need to be. That's the path I need to be

793
00:51:12.640 --> 00:51:21.280
on. And, and so you being aware of that is huge, massive. Anybody have a question

794
00:51:21.680 --> 00:51:23.920
while we're on here? Yes.

795
00:51:27.200 --> 00:51:30.160
I didn't have a question. So if you want to field questions, we were just going to share.

796
00:51:30.160 --> 00:51:32.240
No, no, no. Go ahead. Share, share away.

797
00:51:32.240 --> 00:51:35.840
Um, well, first of all, just thank you because it's always a timely discussion to talk about,

798
00:51:35.840 --> 00:51:39.520
but for us, especially like we were literally starting to have these conversations because

799
00:51:39.520 --> 00:51:45.200
we just got married, we had two houses full of stuff. And so coming together and two businesses.

800
00:51:45.360 --> 00:51:50.560
So as entrepreneurs, we just really have to take a look at everything that we're doing,

801
00:51:50.560 --> 00:51:57.280
looking at not only our finances, but our, our resources as time and something that I'm learning

802
00:51:57.280 --> 00:52:01.520
right now. So there's kind of a flip to the sacrificial thing that I'd love to share too.

803
00:52:01.520 --> 00:52:09.680
Like being, um, a health practitioner, I would say that I have led a sacrificial business from this,

804
00:52:10.080 --> 00:52:15.280
led a sacrificial business from this, from the way that I just want my clients to win.

805
00:52:15.280 --> 00:52:19.920
Like I want them to be successful and always putting that money back into the business.

806
00:52:19.920 --> 00:52:25.920
So we have more reach, right. To, um, get some more people and building that up over, you know,

807
00:52:26.800 --> 00:52:31.920
six or so years and getting to be between like, you know, multiple six figures working on a

808
00:52:31.920 --> 00:52:40.160
million dollars a year, and then having the bottom fall out underneath you. Um, when you're

809
00:52:40.160 --> 00:52:45.280
always operating from that sacrificial place to go get and help more people, but you don't,

810
00:52:46.000 --> 00:52:51.280
you know, prepare, that's the lesson that I'm learning right now. Um, being in a season where

811
00:52:51.840 --> 00:52:58.720
things shifted lots of things, multiply all at the same time, um, where we just have to reassess

812
00:52:58.720 --> 00:53:07.680
everything. Um, that I'm realizing how much I was sacrificing of myself, you know, um, that I can't

813
00:53:07.680 --> 00:53:13.040
do for my family and our future right now, we're having to really look at things differently.

814
00:53:13.600 --> 00:53:18.640
Um, and the blessings of that sacrifice, like coming into like having this beautiful man,

815
00:53:18.640 --> 00:53:24.960
join our family and things like that. It's not always financial. Um, but this is a really awesome

816
00:53:24.960 --> 00:53:30.560
conversation that, um, that we, we just need to have, cause there's always going to be another

817
00:53:30.560 --> 00:53:40.640
level to the lesson. Like, um, like I couldn't have even seen like six figures when I put like

818
00:53:40.640 --> 00:53:45.600
education on a credit card. They didn't have as a single mom with no income. I couldn't have seen

819
00:53:46.320 --> 00:53:52.560
like the financial state that we have right now, which is an amazing abundance compared to

820
00:53:53.280 --> 00:53:56.960
where we were. Right. So there's always going to be a next level to that,

821
00:53:57.680 --> 00:54:04.560
that risk-taking or that sacrifice or that faith. Um, and some, one of the, I forget who gave me

822
00:54:04.560 --> 00:54:09.680
this lesson, but I really loved it. It just really hit me that for the level of abundance that you're

823
00:54:09.680 --> 00:54:17.120
looking for the, the level of sacrifice, but to be able to hold the duality of the good and the

824
00:54:17.120 --> 00:54:22.880
bad at the same time. So the, the severity of the, or the intensity, like you're talking about

825
00:54:22.880 --> 00:54:28.560
legal battles, like having been sued, been there, done that, like, you know, you have to, you have

826
00:54:28.560 --> 00:54:36.480
to build that skillset or that grit or the, you know, the knowledge or, you know, um, the wisdom

827
00:54:36.480 --> 00:54:42.800
that comes out of what, what did I not, was I not aware of that? I now know to go through that.

828
00:54:42.800 --> 00:54:47.760
And so that's also a sacrifice. I think as an entrepreneur that we have to, you know, when

829
00:54:47.760 --> 00:54:51.040
things get hard or whatever, we have to give ourselves a little grace for, for going through

830
00:54:51.040 --> 00:54:54.880
that. And, and I love that you brought up blessings that aren't necessarily financial.

831
00:54:54.880 --> 00:54:59.840
Um, cause you know, even though we're in like a place where we're starting over.

832
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.760
in lots of different ways. And finances are tighter than they've been in a minute.

833
00:55:05.760 --> 00:55:11.280
The blessing is going to be exponential for taking a look at the things that we didn't

834
00:55:11.280 --> 00:55:17.920
know before, having the help, leaning into the conversation. And that's another thing too,

835
00:55:17.920 --> 00:55:23.840
just appreciate everybody's vulnerability. That's an amazing skill set. The more you can reach out

836
00:55:23.840 --> 00:55:28.240
and ask for help, like that's been the lesson that I've learned over and over and over again,

837
00:55:28.240 --> 00:55:34.000
is don't try to do it by yourself. People are there to help you. So I just want to shout out,

838
00:55:34.000 --> 00:55:42.640
was it Lisa? I couldn't see your face on, Leslie. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse,

839
00:55:42.640 --> 00:55:46.960
nearly murdered by that and endured that, thank you for doing that for that person.

840
00:55:47.920 --> 00:55:52.800
I know if that something had hit me like that, it would have been a life-changing thing for me. So

841
00:55:52.800 --> 00:55:59.520
just a shout out to you for doing that. But yeah, so it's just a really, you know, time,

842
00:55:59.520 --> 00:56:03.680
God is good, right? He always lines things up and you need to hear them and just affirming that

843
00:56:03.680 --> 00:56:08.320
we're doing the things that we need to be doing and adding things to the list that we need to take

844
00:56:08.320 --> 00:56:14.160
a look of in awareness and that we're not doing it alone, right? So we appreciate the example that

845
00:56:14.160 --> 00:56:20.560
you and Ray share here and everybody that shows up to be a part of this conversation. So do you

846
00:56:20.560 --> 00:56:27.360
have anything to add to that? Yeah, no, it's, you know, hearing Miranda's, I mean, we met in March,

847
00:56:27.360 --> 00:56:34.400
right? So we're eight months going on nine months into this thing and hearing the stories of people

848
00:56:34.400 --> 00:56:43.600
that she has entrusted, went to for help and they were in it for themselves or to take her excellence

849
00:56:43.600 --> 00:56:49.760
and her name and her reputation, her integrity, her character and use it for their financial gain.

850
00:56:51.200 --> 00:56:57.120
And, you know, and then just for her to step up again and go, nope, we're going to, you know, I'm

851
00:56:57.120 --> 00:57:01.200
going to, I'm going to seek out counsel again. I'm going to seek out coaching and leadership again.

852
00:57:01.920 --> 00:57:08.000
You know, it is when we all have those stories where we thought this person was going to

853
00:57:08.640 --> 00:57:12.480
take us to the promised land and ended up taking us to the wilderness. And it's like,

854
00:57:12.480 --> 00:57:19.520
that's not what you promised me. I'm looking for milk and honey and big grapes. Okay. What are you

855
00:57:19.520 --> 00:57:27.200
serving? I'm stuck with manna and quail. So, but all that to say that, you know, it's like,

856
00:57:28.320 --> 00:57:34.560
without faith, it is impossible to please God. So if we want to be pleasing, we've got to be able

857
00:57:34.560 --> 00:57:39.840
to, we've got to be willing to step out and trust that, you know, it's that scene in Indiana Jones,

858
00:57:39.840 --> 00:57:45.440
when he's at the, he's told that there's this, you know, this bridge to go to cross the gap, but

859
00:57:46.080 --> 00:57:50.000
he has to close his eyes and just step out and trust that step is going to be there. He's not

860
00:57:50.000 --> 00:57:55.680
going to, you know, fall into the, the cavern bottomless pit there. And so that's, that's what

861
00:57:56.480 --> 00:58:01.680
this life requires. This is what this opportunity requires. It's what our faith requires. Our walk

862
00:58:01.680 --> 00:58:07.360
with the Lord is like, we got to believe that he's good and that his word is true. He said,

863
00:58:07.360 --> 00:58:11.680
I've never seen the righteous forsaken nor the seed begging bread. Like take no thought for

864
00:58:11.680 --> 00:58:16.880
tomorrow. Tomorrow, take care. Hey, if I clothe the lilies and I feed the sparrows, I got you,

865
00:58:16.880 --> 00:58:22.240
like, you're good. Like I've, and it's just a faith to believe that he is who he says he is,

866
00:58:22.800 --> 00:58:29.280
that he keeps his word, his promises never return void. And it's just the power of the belief in

867
00:58:29.280 --> 00:58:34.800
that. And, and although, you know, it's that way maker song, even when I don't see it, you're

868
00:58:34.800 --> 00:58:39.200
working. Even when I don't know what you're working like, and just believe he is always

869
00:58:39.200 --> 00:58:45.920
working everything for our good, for his glory. And, and so it's an exciting opportunity to just

870
00:58:45.920 --> 00:58:52.080
partner with all of you all. And let's, let's just see God show up and show off in all of our lives

871
00:58:52.080 --> 00:58:56.640
and all of our marriages and relationship with all of our kids and our finances and everything

872
00:58:56.640 --> 00:59:03.280
that concerns us. The scripture says that he always leads us into a victorious place. If our

873
00:59:03.280 --> 00:59:07.920
eyes are on him, we're following him. The only option is victory on the other side of it.

874
00:59:09.360 --> 00:59:13.840
Hmm. Amen. So many talk anymore. I'll have to take up an offering. So I'm going to stop.

875
00:59:15.200 --> 00:59:22.560
Yes, yes, yes. Thank you for bringing up the opposite of sacrifice as well. You know,

876
00:59:22.560 --> 00:59:27.440
being at the other end of sacrificing too much when you're actually not called to sacrifice that

877
00:59:27.440 --> 00:59:33.840
much. It's almost like a, a, that's an ego thing too. And that was an awareness that I had to,

878
00:59:34.400 --> 00:59:43.760
to, to realize a little while ago is that sometimes we over-sacrifice to show how humble

879
00:59:43.760 --> 00:59:51.600
we are to show how, uh, how much we have to give to, and, and again, this is not intentional.

880
00:59:51.600 --> 00:59:58.400
None of it is a show off like, Hey, I'm so conceited and self-absorbed. It's a lack of

881
00:59:58.400 --> 00:59:59.840
awareness that we're even.

882
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:05.880
doing it that we our ego is so strong, the enemy knows how to

883
01:00:06.000 --> 01:00:09.680
how to get in there and just redirect us where it's so on

884
01:00:09.680 --> 01:00:13.000
autopilot, we don't even know what's happening. So that that

885
01:00:13.000 --> 01:00:19.400
level of self sacrifice that can take over can almost, you know,

886
01:00:19.400 --> 01:00:23.200
be a total ego driven thing that we have to be aware of, too. So

887
01:00:23.200 --> 01:00:26.680
like you were mentioning that balance is is difficult and

888
01:00:26.680 --> 01:00:27.720
huge. Yes.

889
01:00:27.960 --> 01:00:30.520
Yeah, Jessica, you know, Philippians two says prefer one

890
01:00:30.520 --> 01:00:33.640
another above ourselves. One thing the Lord said to me a

891
01:00:33.640 --> 01:00:35.560
while back, because Jeremy, I never said don't prefer

892
01:00:35.560 --> 01:00:40.120
yourself. Like, like, you matter. So I just everybody else

893
01:00:40.120 --> 01:00:43.080
matters. You actually matter, as well, to your point of what

894
01:00:43.080 --> 01:00:46.760
you're saying. It's like, sometimes we forget that, you

895
01:00:46.760 --> 01:00:50.960
know, we've got to, you know, we've got to get filled ourself

896
01:00:51.320 --> 01:00:54.280
in in the mountains for his highest, I think it's February

897
01:00:54.280 --> 01:00:58.240
18th or 19. Oswald chamber, the devotion that day is are you

898
01:00:58.240 --> 01:01:01.600
spiritually exhausted? He's like, you should be like, you

899
01:01:01.600 --> 01:01:04.640
should be constantly pouring yourself out. But you have

900
01:01:04.640 --> 01:01:06.640
responsibility to make sure you're taking time to fill

901
01:01:06.640 --> 01:01:10.840
yourself, get filled back up, and not not run on not run an

902
01:01:10.840 --> 01:01:14.240
empty constantly give and give and give and not receiving to

903
01:01:14.240 --> 01:01:15.400
get your tank filled again.

904
01:01:16.520 --> 01:01:19.600
So powerful. I'd love to add I don't know how many people here

905
01:01:19.600 --> 01:01:22.680
have a business where you can set your own pricing based on

906
01:01:22.680 --> 01:01:24.720
your costs and stuff. Because if people are network marketers,

907
01:01:24.720 --> 01:01:28.160
you have a system in place. But as someone that charges for

908
01:01:28.160 --> 01:01:31.640
time, like, that's the big thing, right? Because you're

909
01:01:31.640 --> 01:01:34.800
having to figure out your bottom line. And when you're constantly

910
01:01:34.800 --> 01:01:38.920
putting time into it, it's really hard to do that. So that

911
01:01:38.920 --> 01:01:43.840
is a major, major shift that we're doing is and you know,

912
01:01:43.840 --> 01:01:46.800
it's tricky to go like into this lack place. Well, are people

913
01:01:46.800 --> 01:01:50.480
going to pay that you have to set like a boundary for it to

914
01:01:50.480 --> 01:01:52.760
kind of get yourself out of that. So that's a whole nother

915
01:01:52.760 --> 01:01:57.440
level of growing, of, you know, being able to accept, you know,

916
01:01:57.480 --> 01:02:01.880
your worth, and the way that that the Lord loves you and what

917
01:02:01.880 --> 01:02:06.280
you want to have, like, you have to establish that. And when you

918
01:02:06.280 --> 01:02:08.960
can create it, you create those boundaries, like I have, you

919
01:02:08.960 --> 01:02:11.480
know, full autonomy of doing that, and selling it at

920
01:02:11.480 --> 01:02:13.560
whatever price that I want to and making it what it's worth.

921
01:02:13.560 --> 01:02:19.240
And so and when things get not good, you want to like run a

922
01:02:19.240 --> 01:02:22.880
sale or something to and so it's just it's those things

923
01:02:22.880 --> 01:02:27.440
have, there's a lot of lessons over the past, you know, several

924
01:02:27.440 --> 01:02:32.760
years of doing that. And so just want to put that out there as

925
01:02:32.760 --> 01:02:35.680
like a powerful thing that we have in this group is to be able

926
01:02:35.680 --> 01:02:37.640
to talk about those kinds of things that we've all

927
01:02:37.640 --> 01:02:42.000
experienced. So that when we're, you know, working with all of

928
01:02:42.000 --> 01:02:45.120
you all, you know, Ray and Jess, you and Deon, and like, we're

929
01:02:45.120 --> 01:02:49.040
throwing these things out, like, don't hesitate to speak up about

930
01:02:49.040 --> 01:02:51.960
something that you've learned in a lesson, when it comes to

931
01:02:51.960 --> 01:02:55.480
sacrificing and all that stuff, because it's so powerful in that

932
01:02:55.480 --> 01:02:59.160
awareness model of like, you want to walk into another, you

933
01:02:59.160 --> 01:03:03.240
know, another situation that somebody else has been into that

934
01:03:03.240 --> 01:03:05.840
can kind of help you from that, like, that's why we're, we're

935
01:03:05.840 --> 01:03:08.920
here. But that's, that's definitely a big part of the,

936
01:03:09.680 --> 01:03:12.320
you know, in the way of sacrifice, and just take an

937
01:03:12.320 --> 01:03:15.200
assessment of where we are from things from a financial

938
01:03:15.200 --> 01:03:18.480
standpoint, we've been blessed abundantly in every other way

939
01:03:18.480 --> 01:03:21.720
that we can imagine. It's just a restructuring and for what's

940
01:03:21.720 --> 01:03:24.440
to come, right, so that we can be better stewards of

941
01:03:24.480 --> 01:03:25.120
to pruning,

942
01:03:25.120 --> 01:03:28.040
yeah, cutting away the things we don't need, definitely when we

943
01:03:28.040 --> 01:03:30.920
have two businesses and two homes, and all these things that

944
01:03:30.920 --> 01:03:34.320
we don't need, and two electric bills and all that stuff. It

945
01:03:34.320 --> 01:03:37.440
just takes time to work through that stuff, too, right. So and

946
01:03:37.440 --> 01:03:39.560
actually sitting down and doing that work. So we appreciate the

947
01:03:39.560 --> 01:03:40.520
conversation for sure.

948
01:03:40.800 --> 01:03:43.960
Yeah, yeah. I mean, sometimes it just takes that little tweak of

949
01:03:43.960 --> 01:03:48.600
direction to say, go do this now. Go schedule it now.

950
01:03:48.640 --> 01:03:52.360
Because a lot of us are just so on GOMA, we don't, we don't make

951
01:03:52.360 --> 01:03:55.920
that time to schedule. And many of you two are in amazing

952
01:03:55.920 --> 01:04:00.800
financial positions. And there are projects that you need to

953
01:04:00.800 --> 01:04:04.680
let go of. So sacrificing the time and the effort and the

954
01:04:04.680 --> 01:04:08.640
energy that you put into it already to say, No, I'm gonna,

955
01:04:08.680 --> 01:04:12.800
I'm gonna let that go is very hard. Sometimes it's even most

956
01:04:12.800 --> 01:04:17.120
times, it's harder than saying yes, to sacrifice that and let

957
01:04:17.120 --> 01:04:22.920
that go. So make sure that you're you're really, you're

958
01:04:22.920 --> 01:04:26.760
really thinking about the projects and where you need to

959
01:04:26.760 --> 01:04:30.880
say no, and praying over those buckets as well, to increase

960
01:04:30.880 --> 01:04:36.320
that even more, because there's, I cannot tell you how many

961
01:04:37.400 --> 01:04:41.720
mentors of ours and how many business leaders that we've

962
01:04:41.720 --> 01:04:46.360
studied, that, and ourselves included, that we've implemented

963
01:04:46.360 --> 01:04:50.160
this just from learning it that have said no to multiple things.

964
01:04:50.400 --> 01:04:54.080
And when we said no to multiple things, and honed in on the one

965
01:04:54.080 --> 01:04:58.520
thing that was going to move the needle, exponentially, things

966
01:04:58.560 --> 01:05:00.040
10x. And that

967
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.000
process can take a little time and it can take sacrifice.

968
01:05:05.800 --> 01:05:09.960
It takes some different financial decisions too,

969
01:05:09.960 --> 01:05:13.200
but ultimately, and time sacrifice as well,

970
01:05:13.200 --> 01:05:16.880
but ultimately, honing down some of the major projects

971
01:05:16.880 --> 01:05:19.400
that we have to really focus in on the one.

972
01:05:19.400 --> 01:05:22.520
That's why over each of these buckets,

973
01:05:22.520 --> 01:05:26.320
just praying through what does this ultimate goal look like?

974
01:05:26.320 --> 01:05:28.280
What does that look like?

975
01:05:28.280 --> 01:05:32.480
And I don't care if it's, I want an extra $500 a month

976
01:05:32.480 --> 01:05:34.840
or I want an extra million dollars a month

977
01:05:34.840 --> 01:05:37.180
because these are the projects that I have in place,

978
01:05:37.180 --> 01:05:40.300
which for some of you, you're right on the cusp of.

979
01:05:41.520 --> 01:05:44.180
Those projects, you need to make sure

980
01:05:44.180 --> 01:05:46.000
that it's where you're being called

981
01:05:46.000 --> 01:05:48.680
and not just you being aware,

982
01:05:48.680 --> 01:05:52.200
not just you just charging through

983
01:05:52.200 --> 01:05:53.420
and trying to make it happen

984
01:05:53.420 --> 01:05:55.480
because you know it would be a good thing

985
01:05:55.480 --> 01:05:57.720
because then ultimately it'll fall apart.

986
01:05:57.720 --> 01:05:59.120
You'll take on too much.

987
01:05:59.120 --> 01:06:00.740
You won't have the infrastructure.

988
01:06:00.740 --> 01:06:04.860
You won't have the wisdom that comes to you from God

989
01:06:04.860 --> 01:06:07.000
to know how to steward that properly.

990
01:06:07.000 --> 01:06:11.040
And you could have saved yourself that whole thing.

991
01:06:11.040 --> 01:06:16.040
So faith and finance are of course one in the same

992
01:06:16.080 --> 01:06:17.440
and that's why we created this.

993
01:06:17.440 --> 01:06:20.040
So before we wrap up here,

994
01:06:22.560 --> 01:06:26.340
I wanna just encourage all of you to pray about something

995
01:06:26.380 --> 01:06:28.780
because you've really inspired me

996
01:06:28.780 --> 01:06:33.780
and talking through those of you who have suffered

997
01:06:34.860 --> 01:06:39.220
from a narcissistic relationship or just abuse in general,

998
01:06:39.220 --> 01:06:42.620
obviously a lot of us struggle with similar things

999
01:06:42.620 --> 01:06:44.300
that have happened in our lives.

1000
01:06:44.300 --> 01:06:46.100
And so, like I said, I want this group

1001
01:06:46.100 --> 01:06:47.660
to really move forward as a body,

1002
01:06:47.660 --> 01:06:52.100
as a moving momentum entity, if you will,

1003
01:06:52.100 --> 01:06:55.440
that's really helping the masses.

1004
01:06:55.440 --> 01:06:59.080
So if each of us would commit,

1005
01:06:59.080 --> 01:07:00.880
we're coming up on the Christmas season,

1006
01:07:00.880 --> 01:07:05.560
if each of us would commit to doing something similar

1007
01:07:05.560 --> 01:07:08.120
to what Leslie did, only if you feel called,

1008
01:07:08.120 --> 01:07:09.280
this is not out of guilt,

1009
01:07:09.280 --> 01:07:12.000
it's not out of, cause Jess said this would be a good idea,

1010
01:07:12.000 --> 01:07:13.940
only if you feel called to do it.

1011
01:07:13.940 --> 01:07:17.400
But if each of us would commit to whatever our product

1012
01:07:17.400 --> 01:07:21.560
or service is, gifting that to somebody this holiday season,

1013
01:07:22.760 --> 01:07:24.320
that would be really, really cool.

1014
01:07:24.320 --> 01:07:25.760
That would be really awesome.

1015
01:07:26.800 --> 01:07:29.600
And encouraging maybe your organizations,

1016
01:07:29.600 --> 01:07:31.320
not only your employees, your contractors,

1017
01:07:31.320 --> 01:07:33.720
but your teams to do that as well.

1018
01:07:35.100 --> 01:07:36.760
Those that can, right?

1019
01:07:36.760 --> 01:07:40.200
That would be amazing, an amazing way to move forward

1020
01:07:40.200 --> 01:07:42.020
this holiday season and make an impact.

1021
01:07:42.020 --> 01:07:44.640
So I appreciate you all.

1022
01:07:44.640 --> 01:07:46.440
I don't wanna do a hard stop.

1023
01:07:46.440 --> 01:07:49.360
If any of you have to jump off, I understand,

1024
01:07:49.360 --> 01:07:51.720
but if any of you have an extra question

1025
01:07:52.720 --> 01:07:55.080
that you'd like to ask,

1026
01:07:55.080 --> 01:07:58.720
I'm happy to answer it quickly while we're on here

1027
01:07:58.720 --> 01:08:00.720
if somebody has another question.

1028
01:08:04.080 --> 01:08:06.040
I got a question.

1029
01:08:06.040 --> 01:08:06.880
Yeah.

1030
01:08:06.880 --> 01:08:09.500
It's a curve ball, so it's gonna throw you for a curve ball

1031
01:08:09.500 --> 01:08:11.000
or any other bombs on here.

1032
01:08:11.000 --> 01:08:11.840
Try me.

1033
01:08:11.840 --> 01:08:14.040
So, okay, so Megan,

1034
01:08:14.040 --> 01:08:17.040
so I didn't get to really experience Kennedy.

1035
01:08:17.040 --> 01:08:18.240
Like I learned about her,

1036
01:08:18.240 --> 01:08:20.920
like when she was like a year and a half old, right?

1037
01:08:20.920 --> 01:08:24.080
So your best advice for the husband

1038
01:08:25.240 --> 01:08:28.240
with a mom about to like, you know, 25 weeks pregnant,

1039
01:08:28.240 --> 01:08:29.680
like what's your best advice?

1040
01:08:31.439 --> 01:08:35.840
Just support, support, support, support.

1041
01:08:35.840 --> 01:08:37.880
Just be there for her.

1042
01:08:37.880 --> 01:08:41.040
She may go through some emotional rollercoasters.

1043
01:08:41.040 --> 01:08:41.880
She may not,

1044
01:08:41.880 --> 01:08:45.399
but I can tell you that I'm a very happy,

1045
01:08:45.399 --> 01:08:48.240
happy-go-lucky person, bubbly.

1046
01:08:48.240 --> 01:08:50.680
Like they used to call me bubbles, okay?

1047
01:08:51.399 --> 01:08:53.520
And when I first had Sabrina,

1048
01:08:53.520 --> 01:08:55.640
I didn't realize it at the time because you don't,

1049
01:08:55.640 --> 01:08:59.240
but I had postpartum depression and it completely,

1050
01:08:59.240 --> 01:09:01.420
she's already had, you know, a daughter,

1051
01:09:01.420 --> 01:09:03.359
so it's not that new to her,

1052
01:09:03.359 --> 01:09:05.399
but it just completely alters your life.

1053
01:09:05.399 --> 01:09:07.319
And you never know when those hormones are gonna show up.

1054
01:09:07.319 --> 01:09:09.640
Well, no, this is Megan's first kid ever.

1055
01:09:09.640 --> 01:09:14.240
Like my daughter is from like a girl I met

1056
01:09:14.240 --> 01:09:17.120
on Facebook years ago, stuff like that.

1057
01:09:17.120 --> 01:09:20.120
Well, she's, but she's already, you know,

1058
01:09:20.720 --> 01:09:23.520
she's already kind of in a stage of taking care,

1059
01:09:23.520 --> 01:09:24.819
but yeah, her first,

1060
01:09:25.700 --> 01:09:29.319
it's definitely gonna be a big change for her,

1061
01:09:29.319 --> 01:09:30.520
at least for a little while.

1062
01:09:30.520 --> 01:09:33.000
I mean, for the rest of your guys' lives, of course,

1063
01:09:33.000 --> 01:09:37.640
but that first six months or so, like just support.

1064
01:09:37.640 --> 01:09:40.319
She may sound crazy at times.

1065
01:09:40.319 --> 01:09:42.380
She may be emotional, all the things,

1066
01:09:42.380 --> 01:09:47.359
all the moms can tell you, just what do you need?

1067
01:09:47.359 --> 01:09:48.200
How can I help?

1068
01:09:48.200 --> 01:09:49.040
What do you need?

1069
01:09:49.040 --> 01:09:49.859
How can I help?

1070
01:09:50.500 --> 01:09:52.859
Putting that ego aside, we're gonna drive you nuts.

1071
01:09:52.859 --> 01:09:55.500
And so is the baby, but what do you need?

1072
01:09:55.500 --> 01:09:56.400
How can I help?

1073
01:09:56.400 --> 01:09:58.860
That's, that would be my biggest advice.

1074
01:09:58.860 --> 01:10:00.460
I'm sure there's other moms on.

1075
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:04.520
here that have other advice, but just that alone is huge.

1076
01:10:05.880 --> 01:10:06.700
That's good.

1077
01:10:06.700 --> 01:10:07.940
All right, thank you for that.

1078
01:10:07.940 --> 01:10:09.360
Yeah, great question.

1079
01:10:09.360 --> 01:10:11.120
Thank you for asking.

1080
01:10:11.120 --> 01:10:11.960
Yeah, I know.

1081
01:10:11.960 --> 01:10:13.360
I think you asked.

1082
01:10:13.360 --> 01:10:14.860
I gotta get better at this stuff.

1083
01:10:14.860 --> 01:10:16.520
Like, I don't know.

1084
01:10:16.520 --> 01:10:18.840
That's what I'm here for, you know?

1085
01:10:18.840 --> 01:10:21.180
Yeah, absolutely.

1086
01:10:23.000 --> 01:10:24.800
Anybody else have a question?

1087
01:10:26.120 --> 01:10:28.620
Yeah, patience, Kim said, absolutely.

1088
01:10:31.000 --> 01:10:32.920
So Jessica talked to us about,

1089
01:10:32.920 --> 01:10:36.360
and I'm sure you've had this conversation before,

1090
01:10:36.360 --> 01:10:39.740
like you and Ray are both,

1091
01:10:41.560 --> 01:10:42.920
I could use the worldly term,

1092
01:10:42.920 --> 01:10:47.920
but like you're both like driven and ambitious

1093
01:10:48.360 --> 01:10:51.160
and you're type A's and you know,

1094
01:10:51.160 --> 01:10:53.400
you're go-getters, like how to,

1095
01:10:53.400 --> 01:10:56.560
cause the, you know, exhibit A, like right here,

1096
01:10:56.560 --> 01:10:58.200
like we're both wired that way.

1097
01:10:58.720 --> 01:11:03.480
You know, what, how have you all found the ways

1098
01:11:03.480 --> 01:11:05.800
to honor one another's giftings?

1099
01:11:05.800 --> 01:11:07.200
You know, when Miranda and I,

1100
01:11:07.200 --> 01:11:10.640
one of my favorite talks we had was a few mornings ago,

1101
01:11:10.640 --> 01:11:12.420
because there's so many strengths that she has,

1102
01:11:12.420 --> 01:11:17.420
like she is, she's like, I see A, I see Z.

1103
01:11:18.540 --> 01:11:19.380
I know where I wanna go.

1104
01:11:19.380 --> 01:11:22.080
I have no idea B through Y, how I'm gonna get there.

1105
01:11:22.080 --> 01:11:23.560
I just know where I wanna go.

1106
01:11:23.560 --> 01:11:26.200
And so follow through up to now

1107
01:11:26.240 --> 01:11:28.340
has not been one of my strongest points.

1108
01:11:29.120 --> 01:11:32.000
And, but what the Lord showed me is

1109
01:11:32.000 --> 01:11:35.080
what I've been seeing as deficiencies in me

1110
01:11:36.200 --> 01:11:38.680
are actually, I'm a puzzle piece and she is,

1111
01:11:38.680 --> 01:11:41.000
God has designed her perfectly

1112
01:11:41.000 --> 01:11:43.980
to fit into what I consider deficiencies,

1113
01:11:43.980 --> 01:11:46.080
but really they're not deficiencies.

1114
01:11:46.080 --> 01:11:50.120
He has designed her and I to perfectly fit,

1115
01:11:50.120 --> 01:11:51.940
compliment one another.

1116
01:11:51.940 --> 01:11:54.040
So how have you and Ray,

1117
01:11:54.080 --> 01:11:56.040
how do you all navigate the strengths

1118
01:11:56.040 --> 01:11:57.200
and the weaknesses of each

1119
01:11:57.200 --> 01:11:59.480
and honor one another in the process?

1120
01:12:00.720 --> 01:12:05.080
Well, it's been a long journey for that, for sure,

1121
01:12:05.080 --> 01:12:08.080
because we did both start that way

1122
01:12:09.480 --> 01:12:14.480
and probably had a decade of almost,

1123
01:12:15.680 --> 01:12:18.080
not necessarily being in competition,

1124
01:12:18.080 --> 01:12:21.540
but being in competition with each other.

1125
01:12:21.740 --> 01:12:24.540
And it wasn't healthy.

1126
01:12:25.420 --> 01:12:29.540
And there was a time about five years ago

1127
01:12:29.540 --> 01:12:32.380
where we almost separated

1128
01:12:32.380 --> 01:12:36.260
because I didn't want to live that way anymore.

1129
01:12:36.260 --> 01:12:39.580
I was burnt out as a female, as a woman.

1130
01:12:40.620 --> 01:12:43.300
And what I didn't realize is I had taken away

1131
01:12:43.300 --> 01:12:47.660
a lot of the things that made him feel masculine,

1132
01:12:47.660 --> 01:12:49.020
made him feel like a man.

1133
01:12:49.580 --> 01:12:52.380
I had taken those away, not realizing it.

1134
01:12:52.380 --> 01:12:56.540
Again, being unaware of what I was unaware of.

1135
01:12:56.540 --> 01:13:01.540
I took on everything, the finances.

1136
01:13:02.220 --> 01:13:05.540
I mean, he made a lot of money, obviously.

1137
01:13:05.540 --> 01:13:06.800
He was very good at what he did,

1138
01:13:06.800 --> 01:13:09.220
but he stayed in his lane

1139
01:13:09.220 --> 01:13:11.820
and he did his one thing very well.

1140
01:13:11.820 --> 01:13:15.020
And I took on everything else thinking I was helping

1141
01:13:15.020 --> 01:13:19.020
when in actuality I was creating more and more resentment

1142
01:13:19.020 --> 01:13:20.500
towards him as I did it,

1143
01:13:20.500 --> 01:13:24.340
unbeknownst to me, completely just unaware,

1144
01:13:24.340 --> 01:13:28.780
and was actually hindering him

1145
01:13:28.780 --> 01:13:33.780
and hurting his masculine energy, his ego,

1146
01:13:36.620 --> 01:13:39.980
his reason, his purpose for living,

1147
01:13:39.980 --> 01:13:43.980
which is to provide for me,

1148
01:13:43.980 --> 01:13:45.700
at least in a marriage, right?

1149
01:13:45.700 --> 01:13:50.700
And so I would say it took a lot of prayer,

1150
01:13:52.660 --> 01:13:57.380
it took a lot of mentorship for me to realize

1151
01:13:57.380 --> 01:13:59.380
that I was actually the problem

1152
01:13:59.380 --> 01:14:01.380
because I thought he was the problem,

1153
01:14:01.380 --> 01:14:04.300
but I was the problem because every woman,

1154
01:14:04.300 --> 01:14:07.620
I don't care what she says, okay?

1155
01:14:07.620 --> 01:14:10.060
And there may be some pushback on this.

1156
01:14:10.060 --> 01:14:11.500
Some of you may not like this,

1157
01:14:11.500 --> 01:14:13.580
and I'm willing to step out there and say it

1158
01:14:14.540 --> 01:14:18.140
if you don't like it, just sit with it and ask yourself why.

1159
01:14:18.140 --> 01:14:21.300
Every woman wants to be taken care of.

1160
01:14:21.300 --> 01:14:25.340
I don't care what she says, she wants to be taken care of.

1161
01:14:25.340 --> 01:14:27.900
That may look differently for different women,

1162
01:14:27.900 --> 01:14:32.540
but she wants to be provided for in some way, shape or form.

1163
01:14:32.540 --> 01:14:37.540
And when you take that from your husband, it's tough

1164
01:14:38.580 --> 01:14:40.740
because he doesn't know where to go,

1165
01:14:40.740 --> 01:14:42.660
he doesn't know his identity, he doesn't know his place.

1166
01:14:42.700 --> 01:14:47.700
Now, I don't suspect that you two are in as deep of a pit

1167
01:14:47.740 --> 01:14:50.260
as we were in that regard of a personalities

1168
01:14:50.260 --> 01:14:54.180
because you're both very godly, you're both very biblical.

1169
01:14:54.180 --> 01:14:56.740
We just came to Christ a few years ago, right?

1170
01:14:56.740 --> 01:14:58.500
So it's things that we're learning.

1171
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:03.320
But even going through the new age phase,

1172
01:15:03.320 --> 01:15:05.480
it did help us in our relationship

1173
01:15:05.480 --> 01:15:08.720
because I learned to harness more of the feminine energy

1174
01:15:08.720 --> 01:15:10.180
that God gave me.

1175
01:15:10.180 --> 01:15:15.180
So my suggestion would be to remember

1176
01:15:16.980 --> 01:15:19.760
as two type A personalities

1177
01:15:19.760 --> 01:15:24.420
that whatever you take on as a couple,

1178
01:15:25.360 --> 01:15:30.360
you also take away from the other spouse doing

1179
01:15:30.780 --> 01:15:33.740
or the other spouse stepping in and filling in that gap.

1180
01:15:33.740 --> 01:15:37.460
And so if it doesn't bring you joy and fulfillment

1181
01:15:37.460 --> 01:15:39.360
and it's not where you feel you're called,

1182
01:15:39.360 --> 01:15:40.920
and sometimes we have to do that.

1183
01:15:40.920 --> 01:15:43.680
Sometimes we have to step in and take over those roles,

1184
01:15:43.680 --> 01:15:48.680
but having very clear expectations of where you're growing,

1185
01:15:48.940 --> 01:15:52.800
where you fit as a couple into the vision

1186
01:15:52.800 --> 01:15:57.200
and knowing what makes both of you happy,

1187
01:15:57.200 --> 01:16:00.360
like where are both of you happy or deepest desire,

1188
01:16:01.640 --> 01:16:06.640
that's huge because I thought that I was actually helping him

1189
01:16:07.220 --> 01:16:11.320
and that he didn't wanna take over those responsibilities

1190
01:16:11.320 --> 01:16:15.280
like managing the finances and the credit cards

1191
01:16:15.280 --> 01:16:17.080
and all these different things

1192
01:16:17.080 --> 01:16:18.360
and the operations of the business.

1193
01:16:18.360 --> 01:16:21.040
I thought I was helping there when in actuality,

1194
01:16:21.040 --> 01:16:24.760
he was dying to take over those things for me,

1195
01:16:24.760 --> 01:16:27.360
but thought that I was thriving off of that

1196
01:16:27.360 --> 01:16:28.880
and didn't wanna take that away from me

1197
01:16:28.880 --> 01:16:31.440
because he was so supportive.

1198
01:16:31.440 --> 01:16:34.280
And so I hindered his muscle for building

1199
01:16:34.280 --> 01:16:37.840
this operations mind and financial mind.

1200
01:16:37.840 --> 01:16:39.240
And I also took on something

1201
01:16:39.240 --> 01:16:41.360
that made me more and more better.

1202
01:16:42.440 --> 01:16:44.320
So just having that communication

1203
01:16:44.320 --> 01:16:47.720
of what do you ultimately want from one another

1204
01:16:47.720 --> 01:16:51.600
and how can I be of service is everything

1205
01:16:51.600 --> 01:16:55.400
because I guarantee you guys want very similar things.

1206
01:16:55.400 --> 01:16:57.560
You just, sometimes at times,

1207
01:16:57.560 --> 01:16:59.720
I'm sure are scared to share with the other,

1208
01:16:59.720 --> 01:17:02.420
communicate that because you're worried that it might,

1209
01:17:04.560 --> 01:17:06.600
it might not be what the other one wants.

1210
01:17:08.920 --> 01:17:09.760
It's great.

1211
01:17:09.760 --> 01:17:10.600
So I hope that that helps.

1212
01:17:10.600 --> 01:17:11.420
It's a good step, thank you.

1213
01:17:11.420 --> 01:17:13.480
We're definitely living it.

1214
01:17:13.480 --> 01:17:14.320
Good.

1215
01:17:14.320 --> 01:17:15.360
In a good way, a very good way.

1216
01:17:16.320 --> 01:17:18.400
I will say that we've been very,

1217
01:17:20.160 --> 01:17:22.040
we've dated differently.

1218
01:17:22.040 --> 01:17:25.240
I would say that many people that are middle-aged,

1219
01:17:25.240 --> 01:17:27.520
going in with an intention and laying all that stuff out,

1220
01:17:27.520 --> 01:17:30.080
but there's always, again, there's always a next level

1221
01:17:30.080 --> 01:17:32.920
and it takes time to get all that stuff weeded out,

1222
01:17:32.920 --> 01:17:34.120
but that's great advice.

1223
01:17:34.120 --> 01:17:37.120
We're definitely seeing the benefit of what you're sharing.

1224
01:17:37.120 --> 01:17:39.200
She being nice to you guys?

1225
01:17:39.200 --> 01:17:40.040
Very nice.

1226
01:17:40.040 --> 01:17:41.360
She can be tough.

1227
01:17:41.360 --> 01:17:43.280
She's so nice.

1228
01:17:43.280 --> 01:17:44.280
So nice.

1229
01:17:46.360 --> 01:17:47.200
Awesome, guys.

1230
01:17:47.200 --> 01:17:48.040
Appreciate that.

1231
01:17:48.040 --> 01:17:48.860
Yeah.

1232
01:17:48.860 --> 01:17:50.160
Thank you for asking that question.

1233
01:17:50.160 --> 01:17:51.000
It's great.

1234
01:17:53.600 --> 01:17:58.060
Well, I hope that you all have the most amazing week.

1235
01:17:58.060 --> 01:18:01.360
We will be getting these planners out to all of you,

1236
01:18:01.360 --> 01:18:04.160
but don't wait, make the time,

1237
01:18:04.160 --> 01:18:05.520
don't wait for the planner to come,

1238
01:18:05.520 --> 01:18:10.520
but I'm curious to see how this helps you in your journey,

1239
01:18:10.880 --> 01:18:11.960
and I want to hear from you.

1240
01:18:11.960 --> 01:18:14.600
So make sure you reach out to me around this.

1241
01:18:14.680 --> 01:18:18.240
Thank you so much for being on here and sharing your hearts.

1242
01:18:18.240 --> 01:18:19.360
I really appreciate it.

1243
01:18:19.360 --> 01:18:21.560
And I look forward to hearing the stories too

1244
01:18:21.560 --> 01:18:25.840
of what you decide to give this holiday season,

1245
01:18:25.840 --> 01:18:29.480
whether it's a service, your time, your product,

1246
01:18:29.480 --> 01:18:32.520
be cool to find someone in need to send it to

1247
01:18:32.520 --> 01:18:34.720
and see what blessings come from that.

1248
01:18:34.720 --> 01:18:36.120
So love you guys.

1249
01:18:38.240 --> 01:18:39.080
Oh, what was that?

1250
01:18:39.080 --> 01:18:40.200
Sorry.

1251
01:18:40.200 --> 01:18:41.560
Ken wants to say hi to you.

1252
01:18:42.560 --> 01:18:45.320
Kennedy wanted to say hi to you, my daughter.

1253
01:18:45.320 --> 01:18:47.480
Oh, hi Kennedy.

1254
01:18:48.400 --> 01:18:49.640
I don't see you.

1255
01:18:49.640 --> 01:18:52.040
Oh, I don't know how to change this background.

1256
01:18:56.640 --> 01:18:57.520
I don't know how to change it.

1257
01:18:57.520 --> 01:18:58.720
Okay, well, I'll show them.

1258
01:18:58.720 --> 01:19:00.880
Well, tell hi Kennedy, if you can hear me.

1259
01:19:00.880 --> 01:19:01.960
Oh, there she is.

1260
01:19:03.880 --> 01:19:04.840
Hi.

1261
01:19:04.840 --> 01:19:06.280
Your dad treating you right?

1262
01:19:07.800 --> 01:19:09.240
Friend loves to say hi too.

1263
01:19:11.960 --> 01:19:14.280
Hi bud, so cute.

1264
01:19:14.280 --> 01:19:15.120
Yeah.

1265
01:19:16.880 --> 01:19:17.960
All right, thank you.

1266
01:19:17.960 --> 01:19:19.240
Yeah, good to see you.

1267
01:19:19.240 --> 01:19:20.680
You guys have an amazing week

1268
01:19:20.680 --> 01:19:23.040
and we'll see you on the next one.