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Hello, everyone. Hi there. Happy Monday, everyone. Welcome to our Monday evening heart check-in

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session coming live for you. I'm Bethany Cooper. I'm the master heart work coach, one of them,

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in our community, and super excited to be here with all of you tonight. I see some returning

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ladies. So great to have you back. If you are joining us for the first time tonight,

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this is your first live session, please put that in the chat for me so that I know that you're

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here joining us for the first time. If you're not sure what I mean by the chat, I didn't think of

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this this morning, if you hover over the bottom of your screen, there's a little button that says

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chat. If you click on that, there's like a little chat box that you can type in and you can let me

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know. Okay, so first time, Allison, is it Schaffner? Is that how you say your name? Welcome. So glad

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that you're here. Susan Buji is also here first time. Welcome, ladies. Kathy's first time, several

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first time ladies tonight again. So glad that, Steph, we're a growing community, and it's pretty

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exciting. God is setting his people free, and it's an honor to get to be a part of that small

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glimpse of that journey that you all are on right now. A couple housekeeping items to get us started

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tonight. As always, Supernatural Saturday, always want to encourage you all to listen to that. If

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you did not already hear it, you can catch it under the replay tab. There's also a quick link right

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now. I don't know if we'll keep that long term. But if you go into the app on the community tab,

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there's like a featured quick link. And that goes right to that replay for Supernatural Saturday as

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well. Jackie has been talking about discipline and all different aspects. And you all, it's not

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always something we want to focus on. But it's absolutely one of the most important things that

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we could ever focus on. So in relation to the heartwork process, I want to encourage you all to

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stay focused. The enemy will very quickly all throughout your journey, and he'll start very early

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on. But all throughout your journey, he will try to get you off track. He does not want you to heal.

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He does not want you to be set free. He does not want you to walk in victory. And so understand, we

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don't have to be afraid of it, but we need to understand it and stand firm. You know, I was

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looking at the scripture about the armor of God the other day, and I've read that so many times. But

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before we even put on the armor, it says to stand firm. And so I want to just give that to you all

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tonight in your process, stand firm, know that you're investing in yourself. And it's one of the

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best things you could ever do, no matter how much heartwork or coaching or counseling you've done

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before you came here. We believe God has something supernatural for you during this time. So lean in,

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stay focused, come out of hiding, you all have been doing such a great job. So many of you have been

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doing posts, you've been sharing, you've been doing your Jesus Cares Board and doing that the

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activations, it's been incredible. And so if if you are here, and you've never posted in the group, or

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maybe you've never shared on a live session, I want to encourage you take another step out of your

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comfort zone, because God wants to do something through that in your life. I believe that 100%

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because in reality, you're not showing up for us, which I love to see you, it's amazing to see all of

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you, but you're showing up for yourself. And if you learn how to show up for yourself in a new way

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during heart work in this process, I 100% believe that you will learn how to show up for yourself in

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a fresh way. When you start stepping into dating relationships again, so many times people lose

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themselves in relationships. But if we learn how to really honor ourselves and, and have confidence

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now come out of hiding now, y'all, it's going to be so much easier later on, whether that's an online

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video date or an in person video date, practicing showing up and showing yourself in vulnerability.

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Last night, my husband and I were doing a coaching session and I, we talked briefly about the

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difference between sharing and vulnerability. And there is a difference, ladies. So I want to

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encourage you to step a little bit more into vulnerability this week. And let's just see what

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God wants to do. All right, heart posture as you go through the journey is key. So basically, what I'm

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saying is be teachable, no matter if you're a counselor, minister, you've got degrees, you've got

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your doctorate, you know, whatever it is, no matter how much counseling you've had, I want to encourage

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you keep a very open heart. Everybody can learn something new every day. I learn stuff all like all

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the time new, even when I'm going back through the heart where God is speaking to me, he's talking to

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me about things. And so typically, where I see this show up is when people try to fly through the

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program and their responses, the Holy Spirit's leading me in this process. Well, the Holy Spirit's

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leading everyone in this process, you all guess what, discipline, disciplining ourselves to

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actually go the pace that's recommended.

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Don't y'all think there's some truth in that? Yeah. We don't always want to hear that stuff.

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So many times people will buck against the guidelines and the recommendations. Why do we do

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that? Well, there's something to that. And I hope if you, and I'm not shaming anyone, but I just

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feel like real talk, let's have some real talk. When we buck against things, there's something in

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us that's leading us to do that. And in the Christian world, sometimes we want to just say,

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well, it's just the Holy Spirit leading me. I need to be free. I'm free. It's the Holy Spirit. No,

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the Holy Spirit works decently in order y'all. And you're here in our program. And this is

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something we've done over and over and over in the people that really, you know, do that best

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practice one week of content per week. If you go a little slower, that's fine. But what we don't

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want is for you to fly through. So one of the things we will do, I just am giving y'all a heads

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up in advance is if you try to move to phase two really quickly. So for example, that happened

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recently and someone was here a week and a half and they were trying to move to week two or phase

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two, we're going to lovingly say, Hey, please go back and redo phase one. Now y'all are adults

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at the end of the day, you're still going to choose whatever you want to do. We can't force

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you to stay here. But the reason I'm saying this again tonight is that you will thank yourself

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later. I promise. I promise. I'm not leading you astray in this. Okay. So on that note, I'm going

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to pray. We're going to kick off the content and let's see what God wants to do tonight. Thank you

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again for everyone that's here. If you joined a little bit ago while I was chatting and welcoming

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everyone, if you're new for the first time, you've never been here before to a live session.

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Go ahead and share with me that you're here for the first time so that we can all share with

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everyone that you're here for the first time and we can welcome you that way. Father, thank you so

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much for everything that you're doing in our lives. We thank you Lord for revealing, for healing

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that's happening. We thank you that you, yes Lord, you have secrets from heaven that you want to

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speak to us and talk to us about. God, you're a good father who gives good gifts to your children.

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Help us to hear the upgrade from heaven over us tonight. God, we ask you to remove any fog,

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smog, anything that keeps us from being able to receive your voice, your heart, the

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things that you're speaking over us, every area where the enemies lied to us and deceived us.

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God, I thank you that you would reveal those things for healing, that you would bring things

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out of darkness into the light. Let there be revelation and illumination. Jesus, thank you that

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you are the light of the world. So come in and illuminate our hearts, our minds, our bodies, our

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spirits and souls. Help us to, yeah Lord, in this new season learn how to receive love in a fresh way

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that we would look at ourselves through the eyes and the lens of how you see us. And we just ask

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you to come Holy Spirit, have your way, be in and out of our conversation in the session tonight,

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and do what you do best. Bring healing, life, truth and revelation and freedom in Jesus name.

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Amen. He brings so much more, but those were the ones that came up in my spirit as I was praying.

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Welcome, welcome again to all those that continue to join. So glad to have you all. Tonight we're

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going to be talking about two aspects pertaining to the heart. We're going to talk about what is

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the broken heart? So not just what is the heart, but what is the broken heart? And then we're also

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going to talk about, excuse me, the heart being a wound and, you know, what we put into our heart

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and how that impacts us and how that causes us to show up differently in the world today.

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Damaris, welcome. Kelly, welcome. Oh, Sharon's a welcome person and a welcome person. You're a new

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person too. Welcome Sharon. So glad that y'all are here. All right. It's going to be a fun night

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y'all. I'm already having tongue twisters happening. I don't know what's going on. Pray for me.

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All right. So let's look at this broken heart that so many of us have and have had for years

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of our lives. Some of us have been on a healing journey, so you have been healing, but there's

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still things underneath the surface. If you remember, one of the things I talk a lot about,

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and Jackie says this too, is healing happens in layers. Forgiveness happens in layers. And so

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some of you might have already healed from some things and you come into this program and the

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Lord starts revealing those things to you. And you're like, wait a minute, I've already done

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this work. Why are you bringing this up, Lord? Well, it's because he's wanting you to take a

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peek under the hood. That's kind of the way I say it. He wants you to take another look at that

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situation because there's more revelation and insight.

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freedom that he wants to give to you. He wants to help you step further into freedom and you

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might not even realize that you still need more freedom in that area, but typically that is the

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case. Trauma doesn't just hurt us, ladies, it creates different versions of us. So I want you

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to already start thinking about over the years where your broken heart has led you away from

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God's best for your life. And even right now, maybe there's times where you're showing up in

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the world, you're here, you're coming, but yet you hold back a part of yourself. You put walls

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up to protect yourself at times. I shared a story this afternoon. I won't go as far into it just

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because I ran out of time for a second breakout this afternoon. I don't want to do that again,

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but there was a situation where I was chatting with someone from the church and we were having

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a very good conversation. There was a lot of time investment regarding on my behalf regarding,

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you know, Hey, where, where do you feel God calling you? What are you most passionate about?

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You know, how can we help you step into that? And I spent significant time on that. And then I

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started talking about some things that my husband and I are praying about, like the three things

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we're going to focus on, you know, for like this next six months. And in the midst of that part of

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the conversation, she started shifting where it was about us controlling. And I'm like, wait a

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minute and not letting people have the freedom to do whatever they want. And I said to her, I'm like,

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hold on just a minute. We just talked for like 20 minutes about you living into your passion. And you

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know, what does God, what does God really asking you to do to advance his kingdom? And let's find

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a way to help you do that. So how is it that, you know, all I'm doing is expressing what we're

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going to focus on for the next, you know, six months or something. Y'all guess why that kind

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of stuff happens. Something in her, she's hearing what I was saying through a filter she already has.

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Cause you know, I'm pretty, I'm pretty good at honestly like, okay, did I say something in a way

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that caused her to feel like I was controlling? Did I, you know, when I walk away, I definitely

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go to Lord, like, help me Lord, because I don't want to be prideful and I don't want to, you know,

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all these things. And what came out that day was that there were things she went through as a child

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where her dad, she's like, I know he loved me, but he was very hard on me. He was very smart at math

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and she struggled very much at math and she could never get anything right. He would tell her that

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she was stupid. Like, why can't you just get it? You know, all this kind of treatment and behavior.

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And so she struggles y'all with authority. That's what's going on there. So the reason I'm mentioning

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it is I want you to even be thinking about, as I'm talking about that story, maybe that's not

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your situation right now, but has there been any time in your life where someone in authority over

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you has asked you or share their heart or whatever, and your art, maybe you don't express it to them,

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but on the inside, you're pulling back, or maybe someone's expressed love to you, or, you know,

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maybe they want to get to know you. Maybe it's not at love yet, but you're putting walls up because

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automatically, you know, what do they want from me? Because all men want something from us, don't they?

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No, y'all. I'm saying that sarcastically, but we believe those things, especially if we've been

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hurt by men. And especially if at some point you believe the lie and started partnering with the

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lie that men only want sex. That's not truth, but it shows up in our life in all different ways.

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And so be thinking about where is your broken heart leading you away from God's original plan

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and design for you, your true identity. When God formed you, He created you, He decided, man, this

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is who I want Sue to be. This is who I want Leslie to be. I'm so excited about Julie, and, you know,

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He's dreaming us up, and He's forming us, and He has this vision for who we're going to be, our true

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identity. And then we start to encounter the sin and fallenness and the brokenness of this world.

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That's the true identity I'm talking about, though, not our understanding of identity. We do our best,

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don't we, to understand what our identity is in Christ. And every day, I do believe that we can

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heal more and see the fullness of that more, but we need heaven's understanding of our identity.

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I want you to also be thinking about the areas where, with these trauma situations and the wounds

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that you've been through, where has the enemy come and planted lies right in the middle of those

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areas? I'm going to read a little bit from the book for you. This is the part where Jackie's

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talking, the heart we're talking about, and Jackie's talking about the heart we're talking about,

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is the book I'm reading from,

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and Jackie's talking about the heart we're talking about, and Jackie's talking about the heart we're

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just so everyone is on the same page,

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where she's talking about Beezlebub,

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it's the Lord of the Flies, that's what it means.

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But if you want to understand a little bit about flies,

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they serve a purpose in the decomposition process.

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So that's kind of their value in a sense,

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but this is the thing, what they're looking for flies,

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what flies do is they find an unhealed wound,

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a sore or some place of decomposition

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and they lay their eggs inside of that place.

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So think about the wounds that I was talking about

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and asking you to think about in your own life

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and understand that the enemy's goal

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is always to find the sore, the wound, the trauma

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and lay eggs of lies, if you will, in those places.

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When the trauma happens, as well as throughout our lives,

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he will try to send additional things into our lives

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that are similar and cause them like to happen.

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And then we're like, oh yeah, see,

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God doesn't really love me.

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God really won't come through for me

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because there's another situation we go through.

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it looks like, oh, it partners with the same thing

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that happened before and it reinforces the lie.

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That's how strongholds end up being formed,

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is similar things over time.

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and we partner with it subconsciously.

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I'm not saying we're doing these things intentionally,

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just so everyone's clear on that,

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but that's what the enemy's doing.

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So the flies do this.

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They lay their eggs inside of that decomposing place.

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And then when those eggs hatch,

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they literally have an unlimited food source.

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So when we have hearts that are full of lies and unbelief

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and all the brokenness, it's like a feeding frenzy area

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for the enemy to come in and just wreak havoc in us.

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These unhealed heart wounds, traumas, and rejections

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become an ideal place for the enemy to sow his seeds,

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the lies, because our hearts are fertile wombs.

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Remember, anything that gets in our hearts reproduces.

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So what's reproducing out of our hearts right now?

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I want you to think about this as well.

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The broken heart, again,

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we're not talking about a healed, healthy heart.

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This is the broken heart, is a liar, a puzzle,

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and a pretender.

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As I was just talking about, it tends to be full of lies.

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The puzzle is, you know, I said earlier today,

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I'm a big puzzle person.

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Anyone else here like puzzles?

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Anyone else do puzzles, some puzzle people?

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So I was kind of telling the story.

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I got two different people.

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They don't even know each other.

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Both got me because I tend,

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I can be kind of quick with puzzles, y'all.

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So these people are trying to challenge me now.

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So they got me the impossible puzzle for Christmas

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and y'all, I'm not a huge fan of it.

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I'm not.

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It has no color to it.

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The pieces all are kind of the same size, same shapes.

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I'm like, what's up with this, okay?

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So I'm gonna work on it and see if I can conquer it.

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I think I can, but here's why I bring it up.

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especially this puzzle, like you have,

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I have no clue where these pieces go

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because there's not even a color that matches, nothing.

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I have no picture to go from.

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That's sometimes how our broken heart can feel.

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It's just kind of stuff all over the place, if you will.

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Our puzzle broken heart also tells us

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that we want things that we don't really want.

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So I gave some examples today.

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It could look like eating food

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when you're not really hungry

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because you're trying to basically fill a void

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of loneliness or sadness or even just boredom

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or whatever the case may be.

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Sometimes it's just because we don't drink enough water.

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But sometimes the puzzle also tells us

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that we want sex when we don't really want it, you all,

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or that we need to have a man give us physical affection

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because that's how we believe love is to be expressed

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even very early on.

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oftentimes we will struggle with the fruits of the spirit,

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which includes self-control, okay?

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The pretender that comes from the broken heart has masks,

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tends to want expensive things.

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expensive things at all,

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but it's when it gets way out of balance,

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when it's about the status that someone might get

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from having these things.

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If we're looking for status,

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if we're looking for...

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someone to approve us, you know, approve of us

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because of our clothes or something like that.

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Ladies, that's not where we wanna live, right?

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We wanna be loved for who we are.

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Here's some other pretender and mask things

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that can surface.

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I'm okay.

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Anyone in here ever just say, I'm okay,

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even when you're not okay?

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Anyone else?

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I've done it.

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How about, I don't need any help?

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Thanks, I got it.

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I don't need any help.

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So ladies, those are masks that we hide behind.

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We don't have to do everything ourselves.

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We don't have to lie and say we're okay when we're not okay.

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Now we do need to use discernment and wisdom.

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We don't need to vomit on people our problems, you know,

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but where is that safe place to go

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when we need to tell someone how we're really doing?

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The pretender also causes us to live below

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that true identity that I was talking about earlier.

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Jeremiah 17, nine says this,

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the heart is deceitful above all things

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and desperately wicked who can know it.

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Proverbs 4, 23, ESV version says,

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keep your heart with all vigilance

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for from it flows the springs of life.

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We talked about that scripture quite a bit last week,

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but I'm tying it into the lesson this week as well.

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Our hearts are highly impressionable.

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can cause an oppression on our heart,

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which means oftentimes it can be marked by pressure.

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Like our hearts go through

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all these different kinds of things.

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But are we thinking about what we're taking in

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through the media, are the people that were around,

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everything is impressing upon us and causing pressure,

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especially the trauma and wounds from the past

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that we're not healed from.

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Excuse me one second.

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So all of that stuff is pressing, pressing,

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pressing on our heart.

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And God's like, I wanna set you free.

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I want you to give this to me

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so that I can come and help you come out of that place

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into the fullness of my love.

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I'm gonna list a couple of different lie examples

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to you all.

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These are different kinds of lies

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that God led me to put into this lesson.

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There can be so many more,

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but these are the ones I felt led to highlight tonight.

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Are you hearing lies like this

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or have you ever heard lies like this

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from the enemy to you?

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And that could be through any other people

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or however it shows up for you.

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It could be in your own mind.

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You are insignificant.

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You are insignificant.

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The definition of insignificant means not significant,

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lacking meaning, not worth considering, unimportant.

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Has anyone ever told you that you weren't important?

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Lie number two, you don't matter.

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Lie number three, you should be seen and not heard.

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Has anyone ever been told that before?

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Lots of people through this HeartWork program

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have told me that their parents were very strict.

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I've had people tell me that their hands

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would get smacked at the dinner table

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if they even tried to talk, all kinds of stuff.

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I've even heard people,

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I know that the teacher needs to keep control

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of the classroom, but I've heard people say

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about how teachers, there's a lot of amazing teachers,

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so when I say this, know that I know that, okay?

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But how the teacher would put them in the corner

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when every woman would go and play

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because they messed up spelling something.

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They were dyslexic and they really struggled

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or reading the things out loud.

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And I mean, that was back ages ago.

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I think that was kind of a lot

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of the way teachers did things back then,

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but still pretty harsh behavior

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and treatment of a little kid.

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Lie number four, you're not enough.

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And a lot of times, ladies, there's the flip side of that.

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You're not enough, you're too much.

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You're not enough, you're too much.

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And what does that mean?

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Well, a lot of times people believe the lie,

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one that I have heard quite a bit is,

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I don't even know if I can find someone

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that will really love me and my kids.

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They feel like their package, if you will, is too much.

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That's not truth.

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God can absolutely send you a spirit mate

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that has a heart for kids

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and whether they have them or not already,

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they can love your kids and be that person to come

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and be that helpmate in your life

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and as well as your kids' lives.

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I can say that because I've done it, you all.

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I'm actually a spiritual mom to two girls.

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I have a stepson and now with Brian's two daughters,

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I have two stepdaughters

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and God is using me in their lives to bring me joy.

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Healing and it's pretty amazing and Brian bringing healing for my girls as well. So

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understand that

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You're not too much and you are enough, but it's whether or not we believe those things lie number five

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Your opinion doesn't matter

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Lie number six, you're always going to have to beg

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Have any of you ever felt like you had to beg God to do something good in your life

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If so you all that's a signal that you're believing the lie that you have to beg God for his affection his

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attention his blessings

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His love whatever it is

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Internally subconsciously you believe you have to beg for that attention. We want to ask the Lord. Where is that coming from?

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When was the first time I believed the lie that I had to beg God to love me

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To be there for me to follow through. Yeah perform. That's another one Natalie

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Here's another lie. This is the last one. I'm going to say in this section if they really knew me

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They wouldn't accept me love me or choose me and I hear this a lot ladies

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In many different forms, but the one that I feel led to mention tonight is when people feel like they've made too many mistakes

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Their sin is too great and

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If or the trauma that they've been through is too much and if they tell their spirit mate

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They're really not going to love them if they tell their friend, you know, or whoever it is

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That they won't accept them love them and choose them. So I want to encourage you to come out of these lies

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Tonight, but here's one of the things I want to point out every lie that I mentioned tonight of those seven lies

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All have one common theme

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Low self-esteem

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Not understanding our value and worth

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Popper and or orphan mentalities those lies that I talked about have all of those themes in them

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Okay, so if you resonated with any of those I want you to understand God wants to help you grow in your self-esteem

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He wants to help you grow in your understanding of your value and worth. How does he see you?

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What is his heart towards you?

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He wants to help you come out of the popper and orphan mentalities the things that cause you to believe

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That you're always on the outside. You're always watching everyone else get blessed

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You're always at the back of the line

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And even when you think you're at the front of the line

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You believe the lie that the enemy always somehow somebody always gets in front of me

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I'm always waiting for God to bless me

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Here are some truths. I want to speak over you tonight from the from the word Proverbs 12

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49 says this a wife of noble character is her husband's crown

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Yeah, truth is what what does God see me? Yes, how does God see me joy?

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Thank you again for helping put those in there

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That Proverbs 12 49 again a wife of noble character is her husband's crown

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Do you truly believe that you are a crown to your husband's heart and life?

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That you bring value to him and that when you meet him, he is going to know that he is blessed a

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Lot of us will like yes. Yes, I believe that but deep down

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We may not subconsciously believe that and because we don't it's causing us to attract unhealthy people

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Okay, Ephesians 1 5 in love. He predestined us for adoption to Sonship through Jesus Christ and accordance with his pleasure and will

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Ladies, we are daughters were adopted at into the Sonship through Jesus Christ

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Isaiah 43 4 says since you are precious and honored in my sight and because I love you

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I will give people in exchange for you

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Nations in exchange for your life

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Have you ever seen a mom or dad go to bat for their kid?

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And they'll just do whatever it takes to help their kid

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Succeed or you know their kids face in a struggle and even when their kid has made a mistake

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They're just they're they're invested and they'll they'll do whatever it takes to get their kid out of the mess

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That they got into and yes healthy parents do give their kids consequences

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But you all they will go get their kid out of jail, won't they?

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for the most part if

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Their kid keeps perpetrating. They may have to let the kids stay there for a night. You know, we get that

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But I'm just trying to help you to see like God is saying I will give in exchange for you

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for you. Not just people, nations. Y'all that's wealth. He's saying I'm gonna go

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after you because I love you. I'm gonna pursue you with my loving-kindness and

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draw you into myself. Luke 12 7 says, Indeed the very hairs of your head are

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all numbered. Don't be afraid. You are worth more than sparrows. Your first

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breakout tonight is on this question. For our new ladies, the breakout sessions

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are digital so I'm gonna set up the breakout rooms here in a minute. When I

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get them ready, you'll be put in a breakout room with one or two other

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sisters in the group tonight and you'll talk about the question I'm about to

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give you and you'll be in there for a little while and then you'll come back

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and we'll do a group coaching session. When I do start the breakouts, you'll see

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a pop-up on your screen that'll say click to join the breakout room and you

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just click that and it takes you right into the room just so that everyone

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knows what that means. Alright, so here's your question. What lie or lies have you

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been believing that you need to invite God into to heal you in that area

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tonight? So if you have one or two or you know whatever's coming up in your spirit

443
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is the point, okay? So what lie or lies have you been believing that you need to

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invite God into so that he can heal those areas tonight? Alright, let me get

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these set up for you all.

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Okay, keep them short, brief, and powerful. Sharers, if you have extra time, get to

447
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know each other a little bit but talk about the question first. First and

448
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foremost, make sure you're not counseling or advising each other. Remember, you're

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gonna let your sister share. Even if somebody cries or gets emotional, just

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say, I'm gonna use Pat as an example, Pat, thank you so much for sharing your heart

451
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with us. And then the next person can go, yes, hi Pat. Alright ladies, go ahead and

452
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click to join those rooms. Go ahead and click to join those. I'll be praying for you all

453
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while you're in there. Okay, so those that aren't able to go into the breakout,

454
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maybe you're at work or for anyone that's watching the replay, once I get

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the ladies set up in their rooms, I will start to pray and we will go forward

456
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from there.

457
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Most of the rooms are good, almost.

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Alright, Father, thank you so much. I think I've gotten everyone in their rooms. Thank

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you for all the conversations that are happening right now. Thank you, Father, even those that

460
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will watch the replay, those that are here in the main room. God, that you would just

461
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work in their hearts and help them to hear what your Spirit is saying to them. God,

462
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that you would reveal any lies or areas where they have these wounds and trauma in their

463
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heart that are still causing them to live below your plan and promise for them. We thank

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you, Lord, for the revealings for healing that are happening. We thank you, Lord, that

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you would, yeah, Lord, just that you would place the balm of Gilead upon their hearts,

466
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their minds, their bodies, their spirits, their souls, that you would help them to receive

467
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the fullness of your love tonight, that you would help them to, yes, Lord, that they would

468
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be transformed by the renewing of their minds, that all old things have passed away and behold,

469
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everything has become new in you. So, Lord, we thank you for the shift in our mindsets.

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We thank you that you, as your Word declares in Jeremiah 29, 11, for I know the plans I

471
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have for you, says the Lord, they are plans for good and not for disaster to give you

472
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a future and hope. So, Lord, I thank you that you'll help us to cling to the truth, that

473
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you have good plans for us, that you have a future and a hope. So, Lord, I thank you

474
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that you would come into every area where hope has been deferred and our heart has become

475
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sick and that you would just breathe fresh hope into us tonight, that you would just

476
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rise that hope up, up, up, Lord, that we would not be able to contain it, that it would bubble

477
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up out of us like a river of living water flowing in us and out of us into the lives

478
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of those around us. We thank you, Lord, for, yeah, Lord, just helping us to lay aside every

479
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weight that so easily ensnares us and that we would press on toward the high calling

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of God for our life.

481
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Lives including that we would lay aside these lies that we would come out of agreement and alignment with them lord

482
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And we would step into uh partnering with you and partnering with your truth god that we would spend time in your word

483
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Hi, jennifer

484
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They are in breakout rooms. Let me go ahead and put you into a breakout. They're talking about

485
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Lies that they need to ask god to heal them, uh from tonight so you can go ahead and jump into that conversation with them

486
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um

487
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I don't know what I was praying ladies, but i'm going to keep going

488
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John 10 10 says a thief has only one thing in mind. This is the passion translation of that scripture

489
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He wants to steal slaughter and destroy but I have come to give you everything in abundance

490
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More than you expect life in its fullness until you overflow

491
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So god wants us to live a life of abundance and overflow the blessing

492
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Um, but part of that is, you know

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Disciplining our minds casting down every thought and making it obedient to jesus christ to his truth to his word

494
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To the victory that he won on the cross

495
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And it's also us submitting our minds and our lives living for jesus christ and making good choices

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philippians 4 7 says then you will experience god's peace which exceeds anything we can understand his peace will guard your

497
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Hearts and minds as you live in christ jesus. So lord, we just thank you for peace tonight

498
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God, we thank you that you are the god of peace and that we can right now just where we're at whatever situations we're facing

499
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God asks you to come and bring your peace right in the midst of that situation

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We thank you that you would um, yeah lord

501
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We thank you that you do rule and reign over all the earth and we thank you that you are working

502
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Mightily on our behalf right now even where we don't see it lord that you're working

503
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We thank you that in isaiah 40 verse 31, which this was mentioned in supernatural saturday this past saturday

504
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Here's one of the scriptures it says but those who hope in the lord will renew their strength

505
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They will soar on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not be faint

506
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So lord, we thank you that you will lift us up

507
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Lord out of the miry clay and the areas of struggle and distress that we've been living in

508
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We thank you that you would set our feet upon the rock that you would help us to um

509
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What I just heard in my spirit is step into victory land

510
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So i'm going to go with that

511
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So lord, I thank you that you'll show us what victory looks like and that it wouldn't be something that is fake

512
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But that it would be eternal that we would receive the revelation of living in victory

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And that we would approach everything in our life from that that perspective that place

514
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Proverbs 23 23 says embrace the truth and hold it close. Don't let go of wisdom

515
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Instruction and life giving understanding

516
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So lord, I thank you that you'll help us to hold

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Your truth the truth of your word close to us that we would bind it upon our hearts

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um

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And right keep it on uh, it says on the tablets of our hearts and then there's also a scripture that talks about on our

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You know keeping it on our fingertips if you will

521
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And so that you know, that's keeping it if you I even think of like if i'm turning pages of a book

522
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You know keeping something at my fingertips. You want to keep it readily available

523
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And so I believe the lord wants us to know his word

524
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uh, not just to be uh, you know

525
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A ritual but because the more that we know the word the more the word can live in us and and you know

526
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Creates all the life inside of us. The word is living active and alive

527
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It's sharper than any double-edged sword

528
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And so it can cut through the bone and the marrow and it can get to the root of the matter in us

529
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So lord, I thank you that you'll help us

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To trust you with these areas of our hearts. I thank you that we will begin to um

531
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Yeah that we will begin to see your truth and your glory would be revealed in our lives I thank you that you would

532
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Illuminate the right path before us and that you would light that lamp unto our feet and uh be that light into our paths

533
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That we would know the way to go in any decisions that we are making

534
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And lord, we thank you that uh, psalm 147 3 through 4 says he heals the wounds of every shattered heart

535
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He sets his stars in place calling them all

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By their names y'all if he calls every star by a name and he knows them all

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Does he not know our name?

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Does he not know who we are god totally knows who we are if he knows the name of it

539
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Like every star in the sky that he named when he put it there

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So just want you to meditate on that a little bit tonight as god loves us so much

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Um that he calls us by name and jesus is sitting at the right hand of the father right now in our

542
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Interceding for you, interceding for you to get breakthrough, interceding for you to step further into the fullness of his plan and purpose for your life.

543
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And the best is yet to come. I used to pray all the time, because the Lord gave me the scripture years ago,

544
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that my former years would be greater than my latter years. And y'all, I'm starting to see that happening.

545
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And it's a prayer I've prayed for a really long time. But I want to encourage you, start praying that, start declaring that over yourself.

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That like, one of the things I would say, back in the day, my name was Stanko, I Bethany Stanko,

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that I believe that my former years are going to be greater than my latter years,

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that the things I experienced are not going to be what is going to be my tomorrow.

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And I would just declare the truth over myself, over and over and over.

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I made a list of the scriptures that I felt led to declare over myself.

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I kept them in my car. And every time I would drive from one place to another,

552
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I would declare those truths and those scriptures over myself. I would get them out at home.

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I don't know why I'm saying this, but other than that, some of you need to start doing this kind of stuff,

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because God's trying to bring breakthrough. And the more we align with the word and declare the word over ourselves,

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the more I believe that we'll meditate on it and we'll think on it.

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And those are the things that stir us to freedom and revelation and truth.

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So what scriptures? I figured that I got anyone that really ministered to me.

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So I would look up scriptures. Like, for example, anybody can go on Google and just type,

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scriptures that are about love and read them. And just, you know, what is God saying to you?

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What scriptures are speaking to you? And then start writing those down and then look up another topic.

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And I just started there and I just started declaring.

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Sometimes I would literally open my Bible at home and just start reading the Psalms and I would just start declaring.

563
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This is the stuff when the enemy is coming against us, ladies.

564
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Guess one of the fastest ways you can get him to leave you alone. Anyone want to guess?

565
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Worship? There's two. Worship and you get the word out and you just start saying the word out loud.

566
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Guess what? Darkness can't stay where the light is. He can't.

567
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And it's not always easy. I'm not going to lie. Sometimes the darkness, you know, he comes in heavy sometimes.

568
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But guess who's bigger? Guess who's stronger? Our daddy is. God, the father, so much bigger and stronger than anything we could ever go through.

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Yeah, I might have said it backwards, Sue. Yeah, my latter years are greater than my former years.

570
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Did I say it backwards when I said it out loud? Yeah. Yeah, I'm living in my latter.

571
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I feel like I have more latter years to come, but I am living in my latter years now than when I lived in my former years before.

572
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But anyways. All right. I'm going to stop that part. But I did feel led to share that at the end of the time I was praying for y'all.

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Hopefully you had an amazing time in your breakout session.

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Who is willing to share with the whole group what you shared in your private breakout?

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Steph, is it Stephie? Is that how you say it? OK, awesome. Go ahead.

576
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Hi, thanks. It was not in the heart work book, but it was in the 12 years or less to be married book.

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One of the lies that I really resonated with was that you've missed the boat.

578
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And I was reflecting on just my time, my being in my late 20s and then early to mid to late my whole 20s.

579
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I was thinking I would go to bed literally thinking thoughts similar to like I've missed the boat.

580
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The more I got like the more older I got, I like I wake up with this anxiety of like I've missed the boat.

581
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I miss the boat. So that's kind of the lie that it's still lingering.

582
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I'm 32 now, but it's definitely still lingering. Thank goodness.

583
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I don't really wake up with it as often or go to sleep with it as often, but it's still very present.

584
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OK, so, Stephie, when's the first time you remember having this thought that you've missed the boat?

585
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Has it always only been about romantic relationships or has it been about other things in your life as well?

586
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I would say that it started happening, if I'm being really honest, like when I was probably 15, 16.

587
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I remember thinking all my friends were already starting to drive and whatnot, and I wasn't.

588
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So I'm like missing, missing out on that.

589
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Because I started driving, I guess, late, is like 17, 18.

590
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Yeah, that just really came to me right now, just to give you an answer.

591
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Yeah, so did anyone give you a hard time for, I don't know, did you want to drive or did you just not have the desire to drive or what led you to wait a little while?

592
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No, I definitely wanted to drive.

593
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It was my dad that kind of delayed me driving, getting my hours in.

594
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I was home-schooled for driving, not public education, but for driving I was.

595
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So they had the reins on that, I suppose.

596
00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:49.000
Okay, so were you upset with your dad for the town?

597
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Constantly, constantly.

598
00:45:51.000 --> 00:45:54.000
Okay, have you forgiven your dad for that?

599
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I don't think so.

600
00:45:56.000 --> 00:45:58.000
Okay, so I'm going to encourage you to forgive your dad for that.

601
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Because here's the thing, this might have even started before 15, 16.

602
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Oh, I almost forgot, I wanted to ask you too.

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Did anyone give you a hard time because you didn't have your license when other people, or you weren't starting to drive when other people?

604
00:46:13.000 --> 00:46:15.000
Not that I can remember.

605
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Okay, that's good.

606
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I just wanted to kind of know that aspect of it as well.

607
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So, even if it started before this, right in that point, you know, the feeling left behind in a sense, and it's someone else's fault in our minds.

608
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If we don't forgive those people, that's why that lie is kind of reverberating in your spirit, even still today.

609
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Because then the enemies come along the way and then shown up in other areas and try to convince you that you're always missing the boat.

610
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Okay, and so I would encourage you to ask the Lord and just start jotting on a piece of paper.

611
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Like, you know, jot the first one down, like tonight, the first one that came to mind.

612
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And you might have other ones that show up for you.

613
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But make a line and just note that one.

614
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When I was starting wanting to drive.

615
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That's one of the first times.

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And then as the Lord shows you other areas, if there are more that you'll forgive anybody that you need to forgive along that, just surrounding that lie right now.

617
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Okay, and I just heard the Lord say as well, there might even have you ever maybe not felt like you forgiven yourself about something regarding to like, did you ever make a mistake where you felt like it's caused you to miss the boat?

618
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Okay, what does that look like and sound like in your life?

619
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I just recently called off my engagement in December.

620
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Okay.

621
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All right, so you're pretty fresh here out of that then.

622
00:47:55.000 --> 00:47:56.000
Yeah.

623
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Do you mind to share with us what led you to call it off?

624
00:48:01.000 --> 00:48:08.000
It's okay, if you're not comfortable, it's totally fine to say I'd rather not right now, but it's if you're able or willing, you can.

625
00:48:09.000 --> 00:48:11.000
It was a massive.

626
00:48:13.000 --> 00:48:17.000
There was far more bad times than there were good times, I think.

627
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That's, that's like the thing that I'll say to people is like irreconcilable differences, but really it was, it was far more bad times than there were good times.

628
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But that was also the second time calling off our engagement.

629
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Same guy?

630
00:48:36.000 --> 00:48:37.000
Same guy.

631
00:48:37.000 --> 00:48:38.000
Okay, that's okay.

632
00:48:38.000 --> 00:48:43.000
So it's, it's very, not saying it's not okay, but it's very unique, I guess.

633
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It's very outstanding.

634
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Like, I've never heard of that in my life.

635
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I've never seen it.

636
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So just, yeah, like just coming, I suppose, out of that.

637
00:48:56.000 --> 00:49:00.000
So would you say, are you struggling with any kind of shame?

638
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Because the way you just described that to me too, you've never heard of this, you've never heard, seen anybody call off an engagement with the same person.

639
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So I'm just wondering, are you feeling shameful about that?

640
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I, I don't know if it's shame more so than it is like a, like a going back and forth, like a distrust in my decision.

641
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I, I'm, I'm not positive.

642
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People ask me about shame and I'm like, shame is like, I'm bad, right?

643
00:49:27.000 --> 00:49:29.000
So I don't sense that.

644
00:49:29.000 --> 00:49:30.000
I sense more.

645
00:49:31.000 --> 00:49:32.000
Right.

646
00:49:32.000 --> 00:49:36.000
It can be other things though too, like embarrassment kind of makes me think.

647
00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:37.000
Okay, that, okay.

648
00:49:37.000 --> 00:49:38.000
Maybe that's more appropriate.

649
00:49:38.000 --> 00:49:45.000
I don't really feel like maybe shame, but maybe embarrassment is more along the lines of accurate.

650
00:49:46.000 --> 00:49:48.000
If it is like an undertone of shame, sure.

651
00:49:49.000 --> 00:49:50.000
But embarrassment, definitely.

652
00:49:50.000 --> 00:49:51.000
Sure.

653
00:49:51.000 --> 00:49:52.000
Yeah.

654
00:49:52.000 --> 00:49:54.000
Embarrassment, I would say is an undertone of shame.

655
00:49:54.000 --> 00:49:57.000
People typically feel like they are bad.

656
00:49:57.000 --> 00:50:00.000
They are, they are shameful for doing something like that.

657
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.520
It doesn't sound like you have that feeling, which is good, but the fact that you said

658
00:50:05.520 --> 00:50:08.960
maybe not trusting your own decisions, going back and forth.

659
00:50:08.960 --> 00:50:13.840
One of the things I want to encourage you to shift into is based on what you shared,

660
00:50:13.840 --> 00:50:16.000
that there were more bad times than good.

661
00:50:16.000 --> 00:50:23.360
It sounds like you're God-defended versus missing the boat here, okay?

662
00:50:23.360 --> 00:50:27.960
And so the enemy is trying to convince you that you're missing the boat, where actually

663
00:50:27.960 --> 00:50:34.000
what's happening is God's protecting you and you're stepping into the plan that God

664
00:50:34.000 --> 00:50:35.560
has for you.

665
00:50:35.560 --> 00:50:37.440
You're stepping closer to that.

666
00:50:37.440 --> 00:50:46.920
So the other reality here, ladies, is guess who is the driver of the boat?

667
00:50:46.920 --> 00:50:48.160
God is.

668
00:50:48.160 --> 00:50:53.840
So do you think God's going to take off in the boat and leave us behind?

669
00:50:53.840 --> 00:50:56.120
He's not.

670
00:50:56.120 --> 00:50:57.960
He's going to wait for us.

671
00:50:57.960 --> 00:50:59.760
So there's no missing the boat.

672
00:50:59.760 --> 00:51:02.320
Y'all, I dated someone for six years.

673
00:51:02.320 --> 00:51:04.720
I shouldn't have been dating.

674
00:51:04.720 --> 00:51:09.960
And I felt the same way, like, man, I wasted that time, which I gained amazing relationships

675
00:51:09.960 --> 00:51:12.120
with my spiritual daughters out of that time.

676
00:51:12.120 --> 00:51:13.120
I did.

677
00:51:13.120 --> 00:51:14.320
I see the value in all of it.

678
00:51:14.320 --> 00:51:17.320
I don't feel the same way now that I used to feel.

679
00:51:17.320 --> 00:51:24.520
But when I first ended that, I was like, oh my gosh, I wasted all of my baby making years

680
00:51:24.520 --> 00:51:27.280
on this guy.

681
00:51:27.280 --> 00:51:31.360
And I felt like I had ruined it, you know, my chances and all this stuff.

682
00:51:31.360 --> 00:51:32.560
Well, that's not true.

683
00:51:32.560 --> 00:51:38.440
And God can absolutely accelerate our healing and our love story.

684
00:51:38.440 --> 00:51:40.640
Supernatural things can happen.

685
00:51:40.640 --> 00:51:45.960
So when anyone that is worried about that stuff, we don't have to try to rush something

686
00:51:45.960 --> 00:51:47.040
along.

687
00:51:47.040 --> 00:51:53.480
We can trust God to do something supernatural when it's the right person.

688
00:51:53.480 --> 00:51:56.080
We don't have to make it be supernatural.

689
00:51:56.080 --> 00:51:57.080
Some people try to do that.

690
00:51:57.080 --> 00:52:03.320
They're trying to put somebody in that, you know, that what is that round peg into a square?

691
00:52:03.320 --> 00:52:04.320
However you say that.

692
00:52:04.320 --> 00:52:06.540
I'm saying things backwards, but you know what I mean.

693
00:52:06.540 --> 00:52:11.520
So let's not try to fit somebody, including ourselves, into a box that they were never

694
00:52:11.520 --> 00:52:12.520
intended to be in.

695
00:52:12.520 --> 00:52:16.640
Steffi, thank you for sharing that.

696
00:52:16.640 --> 00:52:17.640
Thank you.

697
00:52:17.640 --> 00:52:22.080
As the Lord reveals some of those other aspects of missing the boat to you, like I said, just

698
00:52:22.080 --> 00:52:23.800
try to jot those down.

699
00:52:23.800 --> 00:52:30.000
And then when you have those put together again, use the forgiveness prayer sheet.

700
00:52:30.000 --> 00:52:35.400
That's one of the worksheets and definitely start with the one with your dad this week

701
00:52:35.400 --> 00:52:41.240
and just start praying and using that sheet to work through forgiving him, you know, for

702
00:52:41.240 --> 00:52:46.680
that incident or any other times where he was doing things where you felt he delayed

703
00:52:46.680 --> 00:52:52.360
you from being able to move forward, which sometimes that is true or it's not, but it's

704
00:52:52.360 --> 00:52:54.000
how we are interpreting something.

705
00:52:54.000 --> 00:52:56.160
So we need to forgive people for those things.

706
00:52:56.160 --> 00:52:57.160
All right.

707
00:52:57.160 --> 00:52:58.160
So good.

708
00:52:58.160 --> 00:52:59.160
Laura, go ahead.

709
00:52:59.160 --> 00:53:09.480
So what I shared in my group, some of the lies that I have been believing is that I'm

710
00:53:09.480 --> 00:53:12.360
not worthy of finding love again.

711
00:53:12.360 --> 00:53:20.280
I'm now almost seven years since my divorce and that I'll never get married again.

712
00:53:20.280 --> 00:53:26.480
So because my mom, my parents divorced when I was six and she never remarried.

713
00:53:26.480 --> 00:53:29.880
And so, yeah, I just have that fear of falling in her footsteps.

714
00:53:29.880 --> 00:53:33.200
I mean, she did have like a couple of children that like proposed to her, but she was always

715
00:53:33.200 --> 00:53:37.000
afraid that it wouldn't work out a second time.

716
00:53:37.000 --> 00:53:38.000
So yeah.

717
00:53:38.000 --> 00:53:39.000
Okay.

718
00:53:39.000 --> 00:53:41.160
So I have an activation for you to do.

719
00:53:41.160 --> 00:53:44.360
I gave this to someone else recently.

720
00:53:44.360 --> 00:53:51.000
The situation wasn't the same, but her mom was a widow and she ended up being a widow

721
00:53:51.000 --> 00:53:53.440
and her mom never remarried.

722
00:53:53.440 --> 00:53:59.560
And so she was kind of living under this feeling like it wasn't okay.

723
00:53:59.560 --> 00:54:04.360
Like subconsciously she felt guilty about wanting to move forward.

724
00:54:04.360 --> 00:54:09.920
And so I encouraged her, if you remember last week, that release activation, I encouraged

725
00:54:09.920 --> 00:54:16.640
her to go buy some balloons and attach to the balloon, you know, an agreement, like

726
00:54:16.640 --> 00:54:22.200
I'm coming out of a agreement with the lie that I will never be married again.

727
00:54:22.200 --> 00:54:23.800
The generational lie.

728
00:54:23.800 --> 00:54:25.440
I mean, that's something generational.

729
00:54:25.440 --> 00:54:30.920
You just said something very similar and, you know, really pray before you release those

730
00:54:30.920 --> 00:54:37.120
balloons, but then let them go and come into agreement with the fact and the truth that

731
00:54:37.120 --> 00:54:42.520
God can lead you to your spirit mate and he can lead your spirit mate to you.

732
00:54:42.520 --> 00:54:44.460
You're not too late.

733
00:54:44.460 --> 00:54:48.980
On the not worthy of finding love, I really would love for you to lean into like, what

734
00:54:48.980 --> 00:54:50.640
makes you not worthy?

735
00:54:50.640 --> 00:54:56.920
What makes you any different than me or anybody else that is married that God has blessed

736
00:54:56.920 --> 00:54:57.920
with it?

737
00:54:57.920 --> 00:54:59.920
You know, good, healthy marriage.

738
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.280
you know, I didn't have a healthy marriage before and I was divorced for a long time.

739
00:55:05.280 --> 00:55:10.560
And then I was in those other relationships that weren't great. And now I have a healthy marriage

740
00:55:10.560 --> 00:55:14.720
and I'm learning how to do it in a whole different way than I knew how to do it before.

741
00:55:15.920 --> 00:55:22.480
So if I can do that, I know that you all can do it too. I know that God has that for you.

742
00:55:24.000 --> 00:55:28.560
Yeah. I mean, I just, I discussed it with my therapist too. And I know that she's also like

743
00:55:29.200 --> 00:55:35.040
gotten me to like, to think about like, why? I know that like, I was put down for like many

744
00:55:35.040 --> 00:55:43.120
years of my marriage. And so I think that has like some to do as far as like my self-esteem and just,

745
00:55:46.320 --> 00:55:49.840
yeah, just like my whole like image of myself. Yeah.

746
00:55:50.960 --> 00:55:56.320
So ladies, when we have this situation where maybe we were put down in our marriage or

747
00:55:56.400 --> 00:56:00.720
relationship that we're in, sometimes that can be the beginning place of that.

748
00:56:00.720 --> 00:56:06.480
But the low self-worth tends to typically be there before we get into those relationships.

749
00:56:07.200 --> 00:56:13.280
And then when those people talk down to us, it makes it worse. So I want to encourage anybody

750
00:56:13.280 --> 00:56:20.880
that has low self-worth to really ask the Lord to reveal the root of that. Where did that start?

751
00:56:21.840 --> 00:56:30.400
When's the first time you didn't feel worthy or valuable as a kid? You want to know the beginning

752
00:56:30.400 --> 00:56:34.640
root place, ladies, as much as you can. Again, we're not digging. Remember, we're not digging.

753
00:56:34.640 --> 00:56:40.880
We're just asking the Lord to reveal for healing and letting him do that. All right. So good. Laura,

754
00:56:40.880 --> 00:56:48.480
thanks for sharing. Kelly, go ahead. Hi. So the lie that I shared in my group was

755
00:56:49.280 --> 00:56:59.280
the you are not enough slash you are too much. And on one hand, the you are not enough. I know

756
00:56:59.280 --> 00:57:05.600
that that comes from the relationship that I had as a child with my dad. My parents were married.

757
00:57:05.600 --> 00:57:10.640
My father was in the house, but he worked all the time. And he was he was present, but wasn't

758
00:57:10.640 --> 00:57:20.480
present. And I struggled a lot with the feeling rejected by him. And so that has been kind of a

759
00:57:20.480 --> 00:57:26.480
theme and some of the relationships that I've had. And though I've done a lot of work and healing in

760
00:57:26.480 --> 00:57:37.200
that area. And then the you are too much. I was sharing that I had been introduced to a man

761
00:57:37.200 --> 00:57:46.720
through a mutual friend. And we were having a conversation and I was asking for clarity on kind

762
00:57:46.720 --> 00:57:53.680
of the direction and, you know, what was happening. And I was sharing in my group that as I was

763
00:57:54.400 --> 00:58:00.320
kind of debating if I was even going to ask, I the the internal kind of messaging to myself

764
00:58:00.320 --> 00:58:08.720
as Kelly, you're doing too much. You're asking for too much. And so that those were kind of the

765
00:58:08.720 --> 00:58:17.120
two things that that resonated with me. The other thing that I'll say in regards to the you are not

766
00:58:17.120 --> 00:58:28.400
enough is all of my best friend. I'm 43. All of my friends, all of my best friends, you know,

767
00:58:28.400 --> 00:58:37.280
are married, you know, they have children, their children's godmother, you know, and and many of the

768
00:58:37.280 --> 00:58:44.800
women in my family are have also been married, remarried, and I have not. And so that kind of has

769
00:58:44.800 --> 00:58:55.920
fed into this idea of, you know, like, you know, you are not enough. Okay. So this is really helpful.

770
00:58:55.920 --> 00:59:00.160
Just y'all know, when I'm not looking, I'm taking notes, just make sure everybody knows that it's

771
00:59:00.160 --> 00:59:06.080
not that I'm not paying attention. So Kelly, one of the first things as you were talking about

772
00:59:06.720 --> 00:59:14.400
the actually the aspect regarding the guy and like, that that lie that you're asking for too

773
00:59:14.400 --> 00:59:19.920
much, it made me think about what you said about your dad, that he worked a lot. He was present,

774
00:59:20.000 --> 00:59:26.160
but not present. I'm just curious, like when he was home, did you feel like you weren't allowed

775
00:59:26.160 --> 00:59:31.440
to approach him? You know, did mom want you to be quiet so dad could sleep? Like, what was that

776
00:59:31.440 --> 00:59:41.200
dynamic like? Yeah, that that was part of it. My dad worked nights. And so my mom would always and

777
00:59:41.200 --> 00:59:48.000
my parents are divorced now. But my mom would always, you know, strive to make sure everything

778
00:59:48.000 --> 00:59:57.440
was ready and you know, for him to go to work. So some of that, but also just feeling like,

779
00:59:58.080 --> 01:00:00.000
and this is something that my siblings and I

780
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.720
I have talked about, but just feeling kind of invisible when he was around in

781
01:00:04.720 --> 01:00:10.720
some ways and that despite our efforts, despite my efforts, you know, for his

782
01:00:10.720 --> 01:00:15.840
attention and to get him to do stuff with me and go places and show support.

783
01:00:15.880 --> 01:00:21.720
And, you know, even birthday parties, like things that, you know, you

784
01:00:21.720 --> 01:00:25.080
would expect a parent to be at.

785
01:00:25.400 --> 01:00:35.160
Um, it just never really changed his behavior, his interactions with me in

786
01:00:35.160 --> 01:00:35.680
that way.

787
01:00:36.600 --> 01:00:41.620
Um, so one of the things I'm going to encourage you to do is ask the Lord,

788
01:00:41.640 --> 01:00:45.320
normally ask y'all to invite Jesus into situations, but you can ask Jesus to

789
01:00:45.320 --> 01:00:46.320
come into this too.

790
01:00:46.920 --> 01:00:51.560
But I feel like you need to hear from God, the father, because this is about

791
01:00:51.560 --> 01:00:58.600
your dad and specifically for God to show you his perspective of your dad.

792
01:01:01.480 --> 01:01:06.320
Um, I do think, you know, sometimes our parents really struggle to connect.

793
01:01:06.560 --> 01:01:08.680
Um, I don't know your dad, of course.

794
01:01:09.120 --> 01:01:13.800
Um, but that came to mind that sometimes parents really struggle to connect,

795
01:01:14.080 --> 01:01:16.400
especially when they're gone a lot.

796
01:01:16.920 --> 01:01:21.520
And so they, they feel like they don't ever know how to reenter.

797
01:01:21.640 --> 01:01:23.800
Does that make sense to make connection again?

798
01:01:24.040 --> 01:01:26.160
And so then that chasm, it doesn't make it okay.

799
01:01:26.400 --> 01:01:29.680
But I'm just saying that's that chasm starts to get bigger and bigger and

800
01:01:29.680 --> 01:01:31.240
they feel farther and farther away.

801
01:01:31.640 --> 01:01:37.120
And so, um, but I, I feel like God wants to show you something about your dad.

802
01:01:38.320 --> 01:01:39.280
Specifically.

803
01:01:39.760 --> 01:01:45.400
Um, and then on the flip side of that, just, you know, ask God to show you.

804
01:01:45.800 --> 01:01:49.520
How does he feel when you ask him for things?

805
01:01:53.240 --> 01:01:55.880
God, isn't going to get tired of hearing from you, Kelly.

806
01:01:58.080 --> 01:02:01.280
And he's never going to feel like you're asking him for too much.

807
01:02:03.720 --> 01:02:04.160
Okay.

808
01:02:04.400 --> 01:02:08.320
So I want you to really take some time this week to meditate on that truth.

809
01:02:09.160 --> 01:02:11.480
He doesn't get tired of listening to you.

810
01:02:11.480 --> 01:02:13.920
He doesn't get wearied by your presence.

811
01:02:14.120 --> 01:02:21.040
He loves you and he enjoys hearing from you and he, um, doesn't get

812
01:02:21.040 --> 01:02:23.120
tired of you asking him for things.

813
01:02:23.360 --> 01:02:27.000
So where you're really meditating on that and letting God, the father

814
01:02:27.320 --> 01:02:32.240
come in and minister to those areas where you need, you need healing from

815
01:02:32.240 --> 01:02:37.480
that, that, that wound and rejection from your dad and, you know, potentially

816
01:02:37.480 --> 01:02:41.640
other things there as well, but let's start there and see what he wants to do.

817
01:02:42.120 --> 01:02:45.640
Um, I believe there's going to be additional revealings for healing

818
01:02:45.640 --> 01:02:48.320
that are going to come out of this, but let's, let's start there this

819
01:02:48.320 --> 01:02:50.320
week and see what happens.

820
01:02:50.320 --> 01:02:52.080
And I would love for you to do a post in the group.

821
01:02:52.080 --> 01:02:54.040
Once you kind of have some time to process that.

822
01:02:54.040 --> 01:02:54.440
Okay.

823
01:02:55.280 --> 01:02:55.800
Thank you.

824
01:02:55.880 --> 01:02:56.720
You're welcome.

825
01:02:56.720 --> 01:02:57.400
So good.

826
01:02:57.400 --> 01:02:58.480
Denise, go ahead.

827
01:02:59.720 --> 01:03:00.160
Hi there.

828
01:03:00.200 --> 01:03:04.240
Uh, I shared in my group that my, uh, what I'm struggling with right now

829
01:03:04.240 --> 01:03:08.800
lies are, um, not necessarily about relationship, but it's about finances

830
01:03:09.800 --> 01:03:15.240
So, um, I come from a, uh, I, I believe there's a stronghold of poverty on

831
01:03:15.240 --> 01:03:17.440
both, both my mom and dad side.

832
01:03:17.840 --> 01:03:21.960
So there it's not like we grew up really poor, but they just have a

833
01:03:21.960 --> 01:03:25.160
poor mindset, if you will, mentality.

834
01:03:25.160 --> 01:03:26.520
And it's in my whole family.

835
01:03:26.520 --> 01:03:27.440
It's not their fault.

836
01:03:27.440 --> 01:03:29.400
It's back to their parents and their parents.

837
01:03:30.080 --> 01:03:36.760
Um, but I feel like I'm trying to learn how to break that mindset or mentality

838
01:03:37.480 --> 01:03:42.120
and receive from an abundant God, from like a God who wants exceedingly

839
01:03:42.120 --> 01:03:43.560
abundantly above and beyond.

840
01:03:43.880 --> 01:03:47.600
And like you were saying, I've been meditating and confessing scriptures

841
01:03:47.600 --> 01:03:49.960
of that, just that right there.

842
01:03:49.960 --> 01:03:52.080
And other ones of about abundance.

843
01:03:52.080 --> 01:03:56.920
And he wants us to be the lender and not the borrower and the rich or

844
01:03:56.920 --> 01:03:58.960
the, the borrower is slave to the lender.

845
01:03:59.000 --> 01:04:01.960
And, you know, just meditating on those and trying to, like you said,

846
01:04:01.960 --> 01:04:05.240
replace that wrong with the right.

847
01:04:05.840 --> 01:04:07.800
So that's what I shared in my group.

848
01:04:08.440 --> 01:04:09.080
I love that.

849
01:04:09.080 --> 01:04:13.640
So one of the things that really opened my eyes when I was going through my

850
01:04:13.640 --> 01:04:19.680
heartwork journey, ladies is, uh, even regarding finances and shifts like this.

851
01:04:19.800 --> 01:04:20.600
Guess what?

852
01:04:20.720 --> 01:04:21.680
We need healing.

853
01:04:22.640 --> 01:04:23.400
We need healing.

854
01:04:23.400 --> 01:04:29.600
We need breakthrough in our hearts so that we can shift into those other mindsets.

855
01:04:29.600 --> 01:04:32.360
Not just the declaring is half the battle, right?

856
01:04:32.600 --> 01:04:32.800
Okay.

857
01:04:32.800 --> 01:04:33.600
That's a good thing.

858
01:04:33.600 --> 01:04:34.680
That's a great start.

859
01:04:34.880 --> 01:04:41.280
But when we heal, um, so for example, growing up in my household, similar

860
01:04:41.280 --> 01:04:43.360
thing, it came down through family lines.

861
01:04:43.680 --> 01:04:44.880
Now we did struggle.

862
01:04:44.880 --> 01:04:47.800
Thank God I had my grandparents on my dad's side.

863
01:04:47.800 --> 01:04:49.160
They took care of us a great deal.

864
01:04:49.160 --> 01:04:50.240
My mom did her best.

865
01:04:50.240 --> 01:04:51.560
She worked multiple jobs.

866
01:04:51.920 --> 01:04:55.960
She had four kids on her own and, and all of that, but.

867
01:04:56.880 --> 01:04:59.880
You all definitely poverty things.

868
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:03.720
All kind of, you know, even my grandparents did an amazing job.

869
01:05:03.720 --> 01:05:06.360
They had stocks and things like that, but they, they didn't

870
01:05:06.360 --> 01:05:08.020
never talk about them openly.

871
01:05:08.020 --> 01:05:12.940
It was, I knew they had them as I got older, but, um, you know,

872
01:05:12.940 --> 01:05:15.620
just some of the shifts that I had to make guess where they

873
01:05:15.620 --> 01:05:21.620
started in my heart, because my heart didn't believe there was

874
01:05:21.620 --> 01:05:25.500
abundance and if there was abundance, I surely didn't

875
01:05:25.500 --> 01:05:31.980
believe it was for me because I grew up the baby of four kids

876
01:05:32.440 --> 01:05:35.340
and I was left alone a lot.

877
01:05:37.020 --> 01:05:39.740
And I told this story this afternoon, um, when I was

878
01:05:39.740 --> 01:05:42.340
younger, I used to go to my grandparents all the time, but

879
01:05:42.340 --> 01:05:45.140
when I got to a certain age, I don't remember if it was 12 or

880
01:05:45.140 --> 01:05:49.100
13 or whatever, or maybe a little younger, I don't recall,

881
01:05:49.600 --> 01:05:53.460
but my mom would not let me go to their house after school

882
01:05:54.460 --> 01:05:58.460
because I was too old and I'm, I should be grown up now.

883
01:05:58.460 --> 01:05:59.660
It's time to stay home.

884
01:05:59.900 --> 01:06:05.940
We all had a severe fear of the dark and my mom was working

885
01:06:06.020 --> 01:06:07.300
a lot of times two jobs.

886
01:06:07.300 --> 01:06:08.220
So guess what?

887
01:06:08.220 --> 01:06:10.780
She wasn't home when it was dark.

888
01:06:11.060 --> 01:06:13.500
I, my sister was three years older than me.

889
01:06:13.540 --> 01:06:16.120
My younger brother of the two was four years.

890
01:06:16.120 --> 01:06:17.860
And then my oldest brother was nine years old.

891
01:06:18.100 --> 01:06:19.420
So big difference.

892
01:06:19.420 --> 01:06:21.100
They were gone a lot working.

893
01:06:21.140 --> 01:06:23.020
So I was home alone.

894
01:06:23.340 --> 01:06:27.780
So back in the day, I never understood why my mom made

895
01:06:27.780 --> 01:06:30.420
me stay home by myself.

896
01:06:31.700 --> 01:06:34.420
And I had this, uh, you know, I was so afraid people were going

897
01:06:34.420 --> 01:06:35.540
to look in the windows and all this stuff.

898
01:06:35.540 --> 01:06:40.140
The reason I'm sharing this is because that played into the fear

899
01:06:40.140 --> 01:06:44.180
in the poverty and all that, because I wasn't even allowed to

900
01:06:44.180 --> 01:06:50.020
have an idea or an opinion about anything, including whether or

901
01:06:50.020 --> 01:06:53.460
not I wanted to be with my grandparents instead of being

902
01:06:53.460 --> 01:06:57.980
home by myself alone, that trickled into finances.

903
01:06:58.060 --> 01:07:01.140
I used to, you know, save my money and my brother would sneak

904
01:07:01.140 --> 01:07:03.180
into my room and steal money from me.

905
01:07:04.980 --> 01:07:07.900
So this showed up my whole life, even to the point that when

906
01:07:07.900 --> 01:07:14.900
I met Brian, I have been processing men that have stolen

907
01:07:14.900 --> 01:07:18.300
money from me or my family throughout my life.

908
01:07:18.820 --> 01:07:24.780
And learning how to trust a man with my, with our money, it's

909
01:07:24.780 --> 01:07:29.260
our money, you know, so those are the kinds of shifts and those

910
01:07:29.260 --> 01:07:32.140
are just a couple, but like, start praying into where do,

911
01:07:32.180 --> 01:07:34.500
where does the heart need to shift?

912
01:07:34.980 --> 01:07:37.380
You know, where we're coming out of fear, where we're coming

913
01:07:37.380 --> 01:07:41.700
out of lack, where we're coming out of less than mentalities

914
01:07:41.700 --> 01:07:42.580
and things like that.

915
01:07:43.180 --> 01:07:46.380
Well, can I just, so like you were saying, it's layers.

916
01:07:46.380 --> 01:07:49.900
So I have already recognized this and previously forgiven

917
01:07:49.900 --> 01:07:50.820
both my parents.

918
01:07:50.820 --> 01:07:52.860
I'm like, they didn't know any better.

919
01:07:52.860 --> 01:07:54.020
They did the best they could.

920
01:07:54.340 --> 01:07:56.860
And logically, you know, that in your head, but what the Holy

921
01:07:56.860 --> 01:07:59.980
Spirit showed me just in these last couple of weeks is it's

922
01:07:59.980 --> 01:08:01.500
the hurt that's not healed.

923
01:08:01.980 --> 01:08:04.980
So the forgiveness is already done, but he's like, you gotta

924
01:08:04.980 --> 01:08:06.980
let me in and let me heal that hurt.

925
01:08:06.980 --> 01:08:08.700
And you gotta let go of the resentment.

926
01:08:09.260 --> 01:08:13.620
So I prayed the balm of Gilead scripture on myself a lot.

927
01:08:13.620 --> 01:08:15.140
Ladies, and you can look it up.

928
01:08:15.540 --> 01:08:18.779
It doesn't even say exactly to pray it this way, but God led

929
01:08:18.779 --> 01:08:20.819
me to start praying this over myself years ago.

930
01:08:21.300 --> 01:08:24.899
I just pray and God, thank you so much for placing the balm

931
01:08:24.899 --> 01:08:27.779
of Gilead upon my heart, my body, my mind, my spirit, and

932
01:08:27.779 --> 01:08:30.620
my soul and healing me from the inside out.

933
01:08:30.939 --> 01:08:34.740
The balm of Gilead was a very medicinal balm that was very

934
01:08:34.740 --> 01:08:37.460
well known in the old Testament for healing properties.

935
01:08:38.180 --> 01:08:40.899
And so that's why, if you ever hear me pray that, that's why

936
01:08:40.899 --> 01:08:41.380
I pray it.

937
01:08:41.380 --> 01:08:44.420
Over us, over the people going through heart work and all

938
01:08:44.420 --> 01:08:44.899
of the things.

939
01:08:44.899 --> 01:08:47.460
So that might be something to just start praying over yourself

940
01:08:47.460 --> 01:08:47.939
as well.

941
01:08:48.340 --> 01:08:49.540
Great shares, ladies.

942
01:08:49.540 --> 01:08:50.580
Okay, Lisa.

943
01:08:50.580 --> 01:08:52.260
And then is it Sharice?

944
01:08:52.979 --> 01:08:53.460
I think.

945
01:08:54.340 --> 01:08:58.500
Yeah, sorry, you can tell me in a minute, two more, and then

946
01:08:58.500 --> 01:09:00.420
I'm going to do the last part of our content because I want

947
01:09:00.420 --> 01:09:02.819
to make sure you all get into another breakout tonight.

948
01:09:02.819 --> 01:09:03.300
Okay.

949
01:09:03.620 --> 01:09:04.899
All right, Lisa, go ahead.

950
01:09:06.819 --> 01:09:07.620
Thank you, Bethany.

951
01:09:08.100 --> 01:09:08.899
Same thing.

952
01:09:08.899 --> 01:09:17.060
I am very hard on myself and everything I do, even let's say

953
01:09:17.060 --> 01:09:18.979
it's work or it's gym.

954
01:09:18.979 --> 01:09:23.460
I was so hard on myself at the gym that I put a muscle and

955
01:09:23.460 --> 01:09:27.140
I could not do my gym for two months, and it was aching me

956
01:09:27.140 --> 01:09:28.899
really bad because I overdid it.

957
01:09:28.899 --> 01:09:33.380
I did two hours for seven months and I got 20 pounds down.

958
01:09:33.380 --> 01:09:37.620
Seven months and I got 20 pounds down, but that was so,

959
01:09:37.620 --> 01:09:39.939
so overdoing it.

960
01:09:39.939 --> 01:09:40.819
Same thing at work.

961
01:09:40.819 --> 01:09:42.260
I'm very hard on myself.

962
01:09:42.260 --> 01:09:48.180
Like I give myself hard time until I do that thing to

963
01:09:49.300 --> 01:09:55.140
perfection, which is not what I should be striving for.

964
01:09:55.940 --> 01:09:56.180
Yeah.

965
01:09:57.540 --> 01:09:59.780
So what's the lie that you're believing that's

966
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:06.000
What is it that you think is so important to you?

967
01:10:06.000 --> 01:10:12.000
What is it that is leading you to be so hard on yourself?

968
01:10:12.000 --> 01:10:16.000
That it has to be good.

969
01:10:16.000 --> 01:10:21.000
Whatever I'm doing, it has to be better.

970
01:10:21.000 --> 01:10:24.000
Does it have to be good or better or perfect?

971
01:10:24.000 --> 01:10:27.000
Perfect.

972
01:10:27.000 --> 01:10:30.000
I want you to take a piece of paper like a sign.

973
01:10:30.000 --> 01:10:33.000
An 8.5 by 11.

974
01:10:33.000 --> 01:10:36.000
It's okay to take a break.

975
01:10:36.000 --> 01:10:39.000
I want you to put that up.

976
01:10:39.000 --> 01:10:42.000
I want you to see that often.

977
01:10:42.000 --> 01:10:45.000
You can even add to that,

978
01:10:45.000 --> 01:10:49.000
it's okay to go have fun.

979
01:10:49.000 --> 01:10:53.000
People that struggle with perfectionism,

980
01:10:53.000 --> 01:10:56.000
it's okay to take a break.

981
01:10:56.000 --> 01:10:59.000
It's okay to do better.

982
01:10:59.000 --> 01:11:02.000
It's kind of this idea that it's never enough.

983
01:11:02.000 --> 01:11:05.000
I can never stop.

984
01:11:05.000 --> 01:11:08.000
I have to keep pushing.

985
01:11:08.000 --> 01:11:11.000
That gets out of balance.

986
01:11:11.000 --> 01:11:14.000
Anything out of balance is where it gets into unhealthy patterns.

987
01:11:14.000 --> 01:11:17.000
Giving yourself permission to rest.

988
01:11:17.000 --> 01:11:20.000
Giving yourself permission to go have fun.

989
01:11:20.000 --> 01:11:23.000
I want you to remember that.

990
01:11:23.000 --> 01:11:28.000
I want you to remember that you're not going to be committed to

991
01:11:28.000 --> 01:11:31.000
workout for 30 minutes and be done.

992
01:11:31.000 --> 01:11:34.000
That might be really hard for you in the beginning.

993
01:11:34.000 --> 01:11:38.000
If you have to write it on your hand before you go to the gym,

994
01:11:38.000 --> 01:11:41.000
so you can look at it the whole time you're there,

995
01:11:41.000 --> 01:11:44.000
today I'm committing to only 30 minutes.

996
01:11:44.000 --> 01:11:47.000
I also want to go do something fun.

997
01:11:47.000 --> 01:11:50.000
I want you to remember that.

998
01:11:50.000 --> 01:11:53.000
I want you to give yourself that permission.

999
01:11:53.000 --> 01:11:55.000
To be done in that timeframe.

1000
01:11:55.000 --> 01:11:56.000
It always feels like.

1001
01:11:56.000 --> 01:12:01.000
I'm not appreciated.

1002
01:12:01.000 --> 01:12:05.000
So when, let's say for one example, if I give in economics in,

1003
01:12:05.000 --> 01:12:07.000
in school, if I would have, if I would get 95.

1004
01:12:07.000 --> 01:12:08.000
Out of a hundred.

1005
01:12:08.000 --> 01:12:10.000
Then what dad would say is where is five.

1006
01:12:10.000 --> 01:12:14.000
Like I was never appreciated for getting 95.

1007
01:12:15.000 --> 01:12:17.000
I'm going to ask you a question.

1008
01:12:17.000 --> 01:12:20.000
I'm going to ask you a question to help you process this.

1009
01:12:20.000 --> 01:12:22.000
And you're going to still go through this,

1010
01:12:22.000 --> 01:12:25.000
this process regarding forgiving your parents and forgiving.

1011
01:12:25.000 --> 01:12:28.000
The culture and all of the kinds of things,

1012
01:12:28.000 --> 01:12:30.000
but here's my question for you.

1013
01:12:30.000 --> 01:12:33.000
While others may not appreciate you.

1014
01:12:33.000 --> 01:12:36.000
Do you appreciate yourself?

1015
01:12:37.000 --> 01:12:41.000
Because here's the key ladies. If we don't like ourselves,

1016
01:12:41.000 --> 01:12:43.000
if we think we're not good enough,

1017
01:12:43.000 --> 01:12:45.000
if we don't appreciate ourselves.

1018
01:12:45.000 --> 01:12:46.000
That's going to cut.

1019
01:12:46.000 --> 01:12:49.000
That's going to feed right into all the things that the other people were

1020
01:12:49.000 --> 01:12:50.000
telling us.

1021
01:12:50.000 --> 01:12:53.000
But we have a choice to come out of agreement and alignment with the

1022
01:12:53.000 --> 01:12:56.000
things that were drilled into us by other people.

1023
01:12:56.000 --> 01:12:57.000
And so, you know what?

1024
01:12:58.000 --> 01:13:01.000
I like myself, not just love yourself,

1025
01:13:01.000 --> 01:13:03.000
because the church tells you, you have to love yourself.

1026
01:13:03.000 --> 01:13:06.000
And the Bible tells you to, but do you like yourself?

1027
01:13:06.000 --> 01:13:09.000
And if you do tell me,

1028
01:13:09.000 --> 01:13:12.000
start to get it into words and put a post in the group.

1029
01:13:12.000 --> 01:13:15.000
What do you like about yourself?

1030
01:13:15.000 --> 01:13:19.000
Some people, I will ask them, what are your hobbies?

1031
01:13:19.000 --> 01:13:20.000
What are your hobbies?

1032
01:13:20.000 --> 01:13:22.000
And I will say, you know what?

1033
01:13:22.000 --> 01:13:23.000
I'm not going to get into that.

1034
01:13:23.000 --> 01:13:27.000
Some people I will ask them, what are your hobbies?

1035
01:13:27.000 --> 01:13:29.000
What are some things you enjoy doing for fun? And,

1036
01:13:29.000 --> 01:13:34.000
and do you know how many women cannot tell me the answer to that?

1037
01:13:34.000 --> 01:13:36.000
A lot.

1038
01:13:36.000 --> 01:13:37.000
And I got revelation.

1039
01:13:37.000 --> 01:13:40.000
I started asking people that as a part of their breakthrough process,

1040
01:13:40.000 --> 01:13:42.000
you want to know how I had that understanding?

1041
01:13:42.000 --> 01:13:46.000
Because I didn't know mine at one point I had always had a lot of

1042
01:13:46.000 --> 01:13:51.000
hobbies. I've been a vibrant person, but when I would get into relationships,

1043
01:13:51.000 --> 01:13:55.000
I would lose myself in those people. And so, you know,

1044
01:13:55.000 --> 01:13:59.000
Brian and I are very committed to, even when we're together a lot,

1045
01:13:59.000 --> 01:14:01.000
you know, we live together, we're married,

1046
01:14:01.000 --> 01:14:06.000
but that we do things a couple like nights a week where even if it's him

1047
01:14:06.000 --> 01:14:07.000
playing a game, you know,

1048
01:14:07.000 --> 01:14:10.000
on his computer and I'm watching a show that I want to watch where we're

1049
01:14:10.000 --> 01:14:15.000
having our own time separate of each other. But.

1050
01:14:15.000 --> 01:14:18.000
First and foremost, I got to know what I like.

1051
01:14:18.000 --> 01:14:21.000
What do I need? What do I want?

1052
01:14:21.000 --> 01:14:24.000
Okay. That's totally fine.

1053
01:14:24.000 --> 01:14:29.000
I saw your message in the chat there. So think about,

1054
01:14:29.000 --> 01:14:33.000
do you appreciate yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you like yourself?

1055
01:14:33.000 --> 01:14:36.000
And if so, what do you like about yourself?

1056
01:14:36.000 --> 01:14:39.000
And start leaning into that because at the end of the day,

1057
01:14:39.000 --> 01:14:41.000
there are going to be people that are never going to appreciate us

1058
01:14:41.000 --> 01:14:43.000
sincerely.

1059
01:14:43.000 --> 01:14:47.000
And we have to get to the point where whether they appreciate us or not

1060
01:14:47.000 --> 01:14:50.000
that we are confident in who we are.

1061
01:14:50.000 --> 01:14:51.000
I will tell you though,

1062
01:14:51.000 --> 01:14:54.000
I believe that you're going to be able to attract a spirit mate.

1063
01:14:54.000 --> 01:14:57.000
The more that you heal, that is going to appreciate you.

1064
01:14:57.000 --> 01:14:59.000
And I believe God can heal those parts.

1065
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:04.900
of your heart. But we don't want to be starving people. We don't

1066
01:15:04.900 --> 01:15:07.900
want to be starving ladies for affection and attention. It's

1067
01:15:07.900 --> 01:15:11.260
an it's okay for us to want healthy doses of that. But where

1068
01:15:11.260 --> 01:15:14.940
we turn into that neediness, where if they're not giving us

1069
01:15:14.940 --> 01:15:18.500
those words of affirmation, or that over the top affection,

1070
01:15:18.700 --> 01:15:21.700
people will struggle to believe that they're actually being

1071
01:15:21.700 --> 01:15:25.780
loved when they are. And so we got to make sure that the

1072
01:15:25.780 --> 01:15:28.860
healing is happening. So we we walk into those relationships

1073
01:15:28.860 --> 01:15:31.600
and balance. All right, the heart is a womb, ladies, we're

1074
01:15:31.600 --> 01:15:35.640
going to start to go into this content real quick. I want you

1075
01:15:35.640 --> 01:15:39.060
to think about again, everything that's planted in our hearts

1076
01:15:39.060 --> 01:15:42.280
gets reproduced. So what's getting reproduced out of your

1077
01:15:42.280 --> 01:15:45.420
heart right now, the fruits of the Spirit is talked about in

1078
01:15:45.420 --> 01:15:48.800
scripture fruits of the Spirit of our love, joy, peace,

1079
01:15:48.840 --> 01:15:53.460
kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, self control, if I

1080
01:15:53.460 --> 01:15:56.760
missed one, y'all can look it up. But to give you an example,

1081
01:15:56.760 --> 01:16:00.460
they're all good things. That's what the fruit of the Spirit

1082
01:16:00.460 --> 01:16:05.520
looks like and sounds like. Or does your heart have coming out

1083
01:16:05.520 --> 01:16:11.700
of it, anger, wrath, malice, jealousy, envy, rebellion, you

1084
01:16:11.700 --> 01:16:15.500
know, any of those kinds of things, grumbling, complaining,

1085
01:16:16.080 --> 01:16:20.060
bitterness, unforgiveness, what's coming out of our hearts?

1086
01:16:20.880 --> 01:16:23.420
What are we currently planting into our hearts? Like, what are

1087
01:16:23.420 --> 01:16:27.320
you listening to? What are you spending time like doing? And

1088
01:16:27.360 --> 01:16:31.520
who are the people around you? What type of fruit are you

1089
01:16:31.520 --> 01:16:36.200
producing? And this is an excerpt from the heartwork book

1090
01:16:36.200 --> 01:16:39.360
as well. It says when God uses the word good, he isn't talking

1091
01:16:39.360 --> 01:16:42.240
about our human standard of good, he is referring to his

1092
01:16:42.240 --> 01:16:46.940
standard of good. So maybe you do have a little something

1093
01:16:46.940 --> 01:16:50.760
working out, but is it God's version of good yet in your

1094
01:16:50.760 --> 01:16:54.780
life? There is an upgrade available for every one of us in

1095
01:16:54.780 --> 01:16:59.420
every area of our lives. If we are willing to be shown what we

1096
01:16:59.420 --> 01:17:06.860
cannot see yet. Some of you need to get very comfortable with the

1097
01:17:06.860 --> 01:17:12.120
word yet. You don't have your spirit mate yet. I don't have

1098
01:17:12.140 --> 01:17:16.380
the new job yet. That yet leaves that space in there for God to

1099
01:17:16.380 --> 01:17:19.860
come in and work and do miracles and, you know, work super

1100
01:17:19.860 --> 01:17:23.600
naturally in our lives as we're continuing to heal, God has an

1101
01:17:23.600 --> 01:17:28.280
upgrade available for you. The problem areas in our lives are

1102
01:17:28.280 --> 01:17:32.040
typically the signal, you know, if we have these recurring

1103
01:17:32.040 --> 01:17:35.340
areas, they keep surfacing over and over, and we feel like we're

1104
01:17:35.340 --> 01:17:39.600
going around the same mountain ladies. That's a signal that we

1105
01:17:39.600 --> 01:17:44.000
have unhealed wounds in those areas. So I want you to, again,

1106
01:17:44.000 --> 01:17:48.720
be thinking about what's going on in your heart, where you have

1107
01:17:48.720 --> 01:17:52.780
brokenness and the cycles that are not healthy mindsets and

1108
01:17:52.780 --> 01:17:57.260
patterns and habits that are not serving you. What is the healing

1109
01:17:57.260 --> 01:18:01.060
that needs to happen in those areas? Proverbs 23 seven says

1110
01:18:01.060 --> 01:18:07.460
this, for as a person thinks in their heart, so are they as a

1111
01:18:07.460 --> 01:18:13.680
person thinks in their heart, so are they. Remember that it can

1112
01:18:13.680 --> 01:18:17.580
take years for the seeds, the lies to mature in our, in our

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01:18:17.600 --> 01:18:21.000
lives. And when they do, they bring with them fully formed

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01:18:21.000 --> 01:18:25.920
false identities, or what we call the fragmented heart. For

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01:18:25.920 --> 01:18:28.400
instance, say your parents got a divorce when you were very

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01:18:28.400 --> 01:18:31.320
young, or perhaps never married at all. Your father left the

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01:18:31.320 --> 01:18:34.620
household and abandoned his responsibility towards you. Keep

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01:18:34.620 --> 01:18:38.400
in mind, abandonment doesn't have to be physical. It can also

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01:18:38.400 --> 01:18:42.040
be emotional, spiritual, or financial. While that would be a

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01:18:42.040 --> 01:18:44.960
terrible thing to happen to you, the trauma doesn't even have to

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01:18:44.960 --> 01:18:49.180
happen to you. Personally, it might have been to your grandpa,

1122
01:18:49.180 --> 01:18:52.880
great grandpa, that abandoned his family, but because it

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01:18:52.880 --> 01:18:57.200
affected your mother or father, they might have unconsciously

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01:18:57.200 --> 01:19:02.980
passed those lies down to you. That's called inherited trauma,

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01:19:02.980 --> 01:19:07.540
ladies, inherited lies that we're believing. Whether it's a

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01:19:07.540 --> 01:19:10.820
firsthand trauma or not, the event itself is not going to be

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01:19:10.820 --> 01:19:14.660
the thing that keeps you from having a good, good life. It's

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01:19:14.660 --> 01:19:19.280
the lies that you believe. Okay, so as we're looking at the

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01:19:19.280 --> 01:19:23.680
flies, the lies, and these counterfeit lives that we start

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01:19:23.680 --> 01:19:27.500
living, that's where the fragmented parts of us lead us

1131
01:19:27.500 --> 01:19:33.880
to live into decisions. The guy that I dated before, my

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01:19:33.880 --> 01:19:40.360
spiritual girl's dad, y'all, I really believed in the beginning

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01:19:40.360 --> 01:19:45.160
that God led me to him. Very quickly, I started seeing red

1134
01:19:45.160 --> 01:19:48.640
flags, and I just blew right past him, because I was so caught

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01:19:48.640 --> 01:19:53.500
up in the fantasy of what I saw in the first few weeks that I

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01:19:53.500 --> 01:19:59.300
thought was going to be our life. So much so that I built

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01:19:59.300 --> 01:20:00.100
this counterfeit life.

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01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:05.180
life and I chose that man out of a counterfeit identity, out of my

1139
01:20:05.180 --> 01:20:11.980
insecurity. I kept choosing him out of those insecure places. So I want you to

1140
01:20:11.980 --> 01:20:15.180
be thinking about who knows what a squatter is. Anyone know what a squatter

1141
01:20:15.180 --> 01:20:20.860
is? Okay, some of you know. I'm gonna read it just in case if you don't. A squatter

1142
01:20:20.860 --> 01:20:27.380
is someone who takes over a building or land without permission. They believe the

1143
01:20:27.380 --> 01:20:33.740
land or building to be unoccupied, but they actually are occupied sometimes.

1144
01:20:33.740 --> 01:20:38.180
Sometimes they're empty, but here's the thing. I'm bringing this up tonight

1145
01:20:38.180 --> 01:20:43.700
because the enemy has come in with his lies and his cronies and his squatters

1146
01:20:43.700 --> 01:20:50.300
and he's set up camp in your heart because he's believed it to be

1147
01:20:50.300 --> 01:20:58.120
unoccupied, unattended, that we just continue to allow this stuff to be there.

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01:20:58.120 --> 01:21:02.360
Squatters we have in our hearts are enemies to our breakthrough in our

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01:21:02.360 --> 01:21:06.500
progress. I'm gonna give you some examples again. There's so many more, but

1150
01:21:06.500 --> 01:21:12.200
these are some of the types of squatters that we can experience. Passivity. Maybe

1151
01:21:12.200 --> 01:21:16.880
we're inactive. Maybe we're unreactive. Maybe we're inert, so we're lacking the

1152
01:21:16.880 --> 01:21:22.100
power to actually move forward. Maybe we have poverty mindsets. Maybe we have

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01:21:22.100 --> 01:21:26.280
scarcity mindsets, which is the quality or state of being scarce. We don't

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01:21:26.280 --> 01:21:31.400
believe in plentiful or abundance. We don't believe that God has everything in

1155
01:21:31.400 --> 01:21:38.800
heaven and he's able to disperse it to his kids. We believe in lack. We believe

1156
01:21:38.800 --> 01:21:44.960
that he withholds from us. Maybe your squatter is inferiority. Maybe your

1157
01:21:45.000 --> 01:21:48.640
squatter is victimhood. No matter what you go through in your life, you're

1158
01:21:48.640 --> 01:21:55.720
always the victim. Maybe your squatter is an addictive personality to some degree.

1159
01:21:55.720 --> 01:22:02.220
You're wanting medication or pornography or, you know, food to self-medicate and

1160
01:22:02.220 --> 01:22:07.240
soothe. You know, addictive natures can also, like, we're consuming massive

1161
01:22:07.240 --> 01:22:14.480
amounts of TV over and we're just not living, ladies. Maybe it's a cultural or

1162
01:22:14.480 --> 01:22:19.200
family norm. As we've talked about this quite a bit tonight already, sometimes

1163
01:22:19.200 --> 01:22:23.480
there's things that come down in the culture that you are in and have grown

1164
01:22:23.480 --> 01:22:30.040
up in or your family that it's normal, but it's actually not God's version of

1165
01:22:30.040 --> 01:22:35.720
kingdom. And they've taken up residence in your heart. Maybe it's mindsets about

1166
01:22:35.720 --> 01:22:41.600
certain ethnicities. Maybe it's mindsets and norms about, like, men. Like, there's a

1167
01:22:41.600 --> 01:22:45.720
lot of moms that are very bitter towards their husbands or even they

1168
01:22:45.720 --> 01:22:50.280
heard it from their mom. And so, you know, generations of women are negative

1169
01:22:50.280 --> 01:22:55.160
towards men. Men are lazy. Men don't really pursue God. In our culture, I don't

1170
01:22:55.160 --> 01:23:01.080
know about you all, but for years, all I heard about was men don't really pursue

1171
01:23:01.080 --> 01:23:08.800
God. They're just leaving it all up to the women. Y'all, that's not truth. It's

1172
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not truth. Okay, so religious mindsets is also another squatter. Bitterness is

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01:23:15.240 --> 01:23:19.160
another one. And that's where I'm going to kind of land tonight. Hebrews 12 15

1174
01:23:19.160 --> 01:23:24.000
says this, see to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and see to it

1175
01:23:24.000 --> 01:23:31.360
that no bitter root springs up and causes trouble and by it many are defiled.

1176
01:23:31.360 --> 01:23:34.640
I'm going to put you in your breakout session. We're going to do a quick one on

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01:23:34.640 --> 01:23:41.320
this. So, be short, brief, and powerful. Oh, I already have it open. Let me

1178
01:23:41.320 --> 01:23:48.720
recreate these real quick. And I'm just going to put you in there for like four

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01:23:48.720 --> 01:23:54.200
minutes. This is your question. What squatters are you going to evict this

1180
01:23:54.200 --> 01:23:57.420
week? You're going to serve them an eviction notice and tell them they can

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01:23:57.420 --> 01:24:01.880
no longer take residence, take up residence in your heart, in your home, and

1182
01:24:01.880 --> 01:24:06.120
it's time to get out. So, that's what we're talking about right now. All right,

1183
01:24:06.120 --> 01:24:09.240
here you go.

1184
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Then click to join those real quick.

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All right, thank you, Father, for this night. God, thank you for every

1186
01:24:42.400 --> 01:24:48.400
conversation that's happening. Oh, Steph, did you get kicked out?

1187
01:24:53.720 --> 01:24:56.520
All right, I don't know what's going on there. I don't know if you got kicked out

1188
01:24:56.520 --> 01:24:59.240
or what, but I went ahead and moved the other person. So, if you want to go back

1189
01:24:59.240 --> 01:25:02.080
in the room just

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Let me know.

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01:25:01.520 --> 01:25:02.360
We can go there.

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01:25:02.360 --> 01:25:03.920
All right, Father, thank you so much

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01:25:03.920 --> 01:25:06.080
for everything we've already been covering tonight.

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01:25:06.080 --> 01:25:07.600
Thank you for the conversations

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01:25:07.600 --> 01:25:09.440
that are happening even right now.

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01:25:09.440 --> 01:25:10.920
God, we thank you that you're gonna help us

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01:25:10.920 --> 01:25:13.600
to serve eviction notices to these squatters

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that are living in our lives,

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where there's been bitterness, resentment, unforgiveness.

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God, we thank you that you would bind and break

1201
01:25:19.600 --> 01:25:23.280
those spirits off of us, off of our family lines.

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01:25:23.280 --> 01:25:25.520
God, by the power of your spirit, Jesus,

1203
01:25:25.520 --> 01:25:26.880
and by the power of your blood,

1204
01:25:26.880 --> 01:25:31.040
we thank you that you would bind and break them off of us

1205
01:25:31.040 --> 01:25:34.560
and lose a spirit of love and of power and of a sound mind,

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01:25:34.560 --> 01:25:37.640
a spirit of forgiveness, a spirit of reconciliation.

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01:25:37.640 --> 01:25:40.680
In Jesus' name, that we would walk in your ways,

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01:25:40.680 --> 01:25:45.680
that we would look to know you more, Lord, every single day.

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01:25:46.160 --> 01:25:51.160
We ask you, Lord, to help us to lean into Jeremiah 24, 7.

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01:25:51.640 --> 01:25:52.880
It says, I will give them hearts

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01:25:52.880 --> 01:25:54.960
that recognize me as the Lord.

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01:25:55.000 --> 01:25:57.080
They will be my people and I will be their God

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01:25:57.080 --> 01:25:59.800
for they will return to me wholeheartedly.

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So Lord, I thank you that we would have repentant hearts.

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01:26:03.960 --> 01:26:07.000
God, help us to hear you, to see you,

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01:26:07.000 --> 01:26:10.080
to know the ways and areas that we can come

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01:26:10.080 --> 01:26:12.600
a little closer to your heart.

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01:26:12.600 --> 01:26:15.480
Help us to recognize everything

1219
01:26:15.480 --> 01:26:17.380
that you're doing in our life,

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01:26:18.920 --> 01:26:23.160
and help us to step into the truth of who you are, God,

1221
01:26:23.160 --> 01:26:26.000
as a good, faithful, kind father

1222
01:26:27.120 --> 01:26:29.720
who does have forgiveness towards us.

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And yes, Lord, for your grace and your mercy

1224
01:26:32.800 --> 01:26:34.800
is new every morning.

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01:26:34.800 --> 01:26:37.480
We thank you that you lead us to repentance

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01:26:37.480 --> 01:26:38.680
through loving kindness,

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01:26:38.680 --> 01:26:42.440
not through forcing us and pushing us into it.

1228
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Psalm 139.14 in the amplified version says this,

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01:26:45.400 --> 01:26:47.160
I will give thanks and praise to you

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for I'm fearfully and wonderfully made.

1231
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Wonderful are your works and my soul knows it very well.

1232
01:26:54.280 --> 01:26:57.640
1 John 3.20 says, whenever our hearts make us feel guilty

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and remind us of our failures,

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we know that God is much greater

1235
01:27:02.000 --> 01:27:04.240
and more merciful than our conscience,

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and he knows everything there is to know about it.

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Luke 5.31-32 in the message version says this,

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Jesus heard about it and spoke up.

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01:27:14.360 --> 01:27:18.000
Who needs a doctor, the healthy or the sick?

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01:27:18.000 --> 01:27:21.360
I'm here inviting outsiders, not insiders,

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01:27:21.360 --> 01:27:26.280
an invitation to a changed life, inside and out.

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01:27:26.280 --> 01:27:29.720
God, we thank you that you're giving us an invitation

1243
01:27:29.720 --> 01:27:33.360
to a changed life on the inside and the outside.

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01:27:34.360 --> 01:27:38.360
Help us to accept that invitation to take you by the hand.

1245
01:27:38.360 --> 01:27:41.080
Lord, I pray that you would reveal the areas for healing

1246
01:27:41.080 --> 01:27:43.280
where we still struggle to trust you.

1247
01:27:44.280 --> 01:27:47.440
Help us to, yeah, Lord,

1248
01:27:47.440 --> 01:27:50.360
help us to have revelation of those areas and turn to you

1249
01:27:50.360 --> 01:27:54.280
and allow you to come in and heal us and set us free

1250
01:27:55.200 --> 01:27:58.280
so that we can step into the fullness of your plans

1251
01:27:58.280 --> 01:28:00.680
and your promises for our life.

1252
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Thank you, Lord, that as we confess our sins to each other

1253
01:28:03.680 --> 01:28:06.440
and pray for each other so that we might be healed,

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01:28:06.440 --> 01:28:10.640
the earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power

1255
01:28:10.640 --> 01:28:12.680
and produces wonderful results.

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Lord, we thank you that as we confess our sins

1257
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to those who are safe,

1258
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God, that you are doing a great work

1259
01:28:19.600 --> 01:28:21.200
in our hearts and our lives.

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I thank you, Lord, that in Revelation 21, four,

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it says he will wipe away every tear from their eyes

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and eliminate death entirely.

1263
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No one will mourn or weep any longer.

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01:28:33.480 --> 01:28:35.920
The pain of wounds will no longer exist

1265
01:28:35.920 --> 01:28:37.960
for the old order has ceased.

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God, I thank you that you would help us

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01:28:39.480 --> 01:28:42.880
experience heaven a little bit more tonight.

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We ask you to come and just hover over every one

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01:28:45.400 --> 01:28:47.440
of the ladies that are a part of this community

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01:28:47.440 --> 01:28:49.640
and in this heart work process,

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and that you would just do supernatural heart surgery

1272
01:28:53.520 --> 01:28:56.520
on them in their hearts, their minds, their bodies,

1273
01:28:56.520 --> 01:28:58.120
their spirits, and their souls.

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We ask you to align them to your good and perfect

1275
01:29:00.640 --> 01:29:02.280
and pleasing will for their lives.

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We speak, Selah, rest over them.

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We also thank you, Lord, that as they read your word

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and seek your face,

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that they would have a fresh revelation of you,

1280
01:29:12.680 --> 01:29:15.360
of who you are, of their relationship with you,

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01:29:15.360 --> 01:29:18.440
and that you would draw them further into intimacy with you

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in Jesus' name.

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01:29:19.680 --> 01:29:21.560
Welcome back.

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01:29:21.560 --> 01:29:22.960
Oh, Steph, you didn't have audio.

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01:29:22.960 --> 01:29:23.920
Sorry about that.

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01:29:25.560 --> 01:29:28.740
Oh, Laura said, what do I mean by religious mindset?

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01:29:28.740 --> 01:29:30.000
Glad you asked.

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I'm not gonna share a lot about it tonight,

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but ladies, there are times when things that we learn

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01:29:36.880 --> 01:29:40.000
in some of our upbringings in church

1291
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are actually very religious.

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01:29:42.160 --> 01:29:45.920
It's not, it's more about the law than about grace.

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It's more about rules and ritual than being free

1294
01:29:50.360 --> 01:29:54.040
and really embracing the love.

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You know, the Bible talks about

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that we can have all the gifts,

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but if we don't have love, we have nothing.

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But so many people are so caught up in all the gifts and, you know, today, this afternoon,

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I talked about different denominations and some people won't even date certain people

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01:30:12.120 --> 01:30:16.600
if there's a certain denomination and we're really deciding, you know, things about people

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01:30:16.600 --> 01:30:19.840
before we're even getting to know them.

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Let's get to know people, okay?

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01:30:22.460 --> 01:30:28.900
Let's really open up and let go of religious ideas and mindsets that are keeping us from,

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you know, even if it's a friend, like potential friendships and things like that.

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Anyways, I could go on in that more, but because of the time, I'm going to stop there tonight

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on that.

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I hope you all enjoyed the last breakout and everything that God is doing tonight.

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Here are your activations for this week.

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I have two for you.

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The first one is a never will I ever list.

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Some of you have been here for a little while, so you might have already done that.

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If you've done your never will I ever list, you don't have to do it again.

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01:31:00.020 --> 01:31:03.960
The never will I ever list, here's what it is.

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If you have preferences about who you will date or not date, that's what I'm looking

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01:31:10.820 --> 01:31:12.660
for, okay?

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01:31:12.660 --> 01:31:17.700
Your list, and we're going to help you process whether or not your list is actually from

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01:31:17.700 --> 01:31:25.060
God the Father as a God non-negotiable, or is it just because, A, you don't like guys

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with dark hair.

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01:31:26.580 --> 01:31:27.860
I don't know what your thing is.

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01:31:27.860 --> 01:31:30.060
Some people have like certain things like that.

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01:31:30.060 --> 01:31:34.900
Some people that are taller, especially ladies, do not want to date a guy that's shorter than

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them.

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And y'all, some of these women are passing up some really awesome guys because the guy's

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two inches shorter than them.

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No joke.

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Real conversations.

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This is happening in our community.

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But that guy's amazing.

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Why are you passing on him?

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So these are some of the things we need God to work in our hearts.

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I'm not saying y'all need to be with someone super short, but I will tell you, it's kind

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01:31:58.420 --> 01:31:59.420
of funny.

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I never thought I would date someone tall and Brian's like significantly taller than

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me.

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It was just, it wasn't like I was against it, but I really, I just had never dated someone

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as tall as him.

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So God has the best for you, but it might not always, you know, come in the container

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that you thought it would.

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Let me just say it that way.

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Does that mean the person's not going to be attractive and God's going to force you to

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be in relationship with someone?

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No, that's not what we're saying.

1343
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But what we are saying is let's look at where are these things coming from that are, that

1344
01:32:32.300 --> 01:32:34.700
have created our list.

1345
01:32:34.700 --> 01:32:38.500
Some of you, it's come from the pain and the hurt that you've been through.

1346
01:32:38.500 --> 01:32:39.500
Okay.

1347
01:32:39.780 --> 01:32:47.260
Now, when we say this, create the list, y'all don't have to put things on there like this.

1348
01:32:47.260 --> 01:32:49.500
Never will I ever date someone who's abusive.

1349
01:32:49.500 --> 01:32:51.540
Well, I hope not.

1350
01:32:51.540 --> 01:32:52.540
Let's not do that.

1351
01:32:52.540 --> 01:32:53.540
Okay.

1352
01:32:53.540 --> 01:32:55.260
That's not what we're asking for in the list.

1353
01:32:55.260 --> 01:32:59.140
You don't have to put those kinds of things because we don't want you to do those things.

1354
01:32:59.140 --> 01:33:04.440
So it's more about the preferences and the list that you've now formed that kind of go

1355
01:33:04.440 --> 01:33:05.440
along with that.

1356
01:33:05.440 --> 01:33:06.440
Does that make sense?

1357
01:33:07.440 --> 01:33:10.480
If you put something down and you're just not sure, it's okay.

1358
01:33:10.480 --> 01:33:14.800
I'd rather you create the post and we can teach you how to separate, you know, those

1359
01:33:14.800 --> 01:33:15.800
different things.

1360
01:33:15.800 --> 01:33:16.800
All right.

1361
01:33:16.800 --> 01:33:19.000
Activation number two.

1362
01:33:19.000 --> 01:33:23.600
I had y'all talk in breakout rooms tonight about the squatters that you're going to evict,

1363
01:33:23.600 --> 01:33:28.600
but I would love to have you all either do a mini video and y'all please, it can't be

1364
01:33:28.600 --> 01:33:30.280
longer than three minutes.

1365
01:33:30.280 --> 01:33:31.280
Okay.

1366
01:33:31.280 --> 01:33:35.840
My team and I don't have a lot of time to watch, you know, 10 minute videos.

1367
01:33:35.840 --> 01:33:40.000
We love you and we would want to do it, but I just won't be able to listen to him if they're

1368
01:33:40.000 --> 01:33:41.680
that long.

1369
01:33:41.680 --> 01:33:47.520
But you can either go live if you would prefer to do that or create a post and share about

1370
01:33:47.520 --> 01:33:52.160
the squatters that God is showing you that you need to evict.

1371
01:33:52.160 --> 01:33:53.160
Okay.

1372
01:33:53.160 --> 01:33:58.600
It literally could be super short and just share why and want to do that in the group.

1373
01:33:58.600 --> 01:34:01.960
And here's the reason I'm going to nudge you all towards, you know, again, you can do a

1374
01:34:01.960 --> 01:34:03.000
video or a post.

1375
01:34:03.000 --> 01:34:05.800
I don't care which one.

1376
01:34:05.800 --> 01:34:09.800
But some of you all, again, I want you to get out of your comfort zone.

1377
01:34:09.800 --> 01:34:11.360
You're here in this community.

1378
01:34:11.360 --> 01:34:13.360
Let's connect with each other.

1379
01:34:13.360 --> 01:34:16.520
Some of you all are going to get breakthrough because you're going and reading what other

1380
01:34:16.520 --> 01:34:17.760
people are posting.

1381
01:34:17.760 --> 01:34:19.920
You're listening to what they're sharing.

1382
01:34:19.920 --> 01:34:24.760
I imagine some of you, your conversations in the breakout rooms was also stirring up

1383
01:34:24.760 --> 01:34:28.800
stuff, hearing questions that other people were asking or things they were sharing and

1384
01:34:28.800 --> 01:34:30.120
then they're getting coached.

1385
01:34:30.120 --> 01:34:31.120
Yeah.

1386
01:34:31.120 --> 01:34:33.440
That's going to help you if you're here.

1387
01:34:33.440 --> 01:34:37.840
So if you meet someone else in this community and they're not coming to the live sessions,

1388
01:34:37.840 --> 01:34:40.760
please encourage them to come to the live sessions.

1389
01:34:40.760 --> 01:34:46.880
I'm very aware that we have like 430 some people in this phase and we don't have 430

1390
01:34:46.880 --> 01:34:51.840
people that show up to the live, you know, let's, let's all show up for ourselves and

1391
01:34:51.840 --> 01:34:53.120
come in and do this.

1392
01:34:53.120 --> 01:34:54.120
Yes.

1393
01:34:54.120 --> 01:34:56.960
You can create those posts in the all section.

1394
01:34:56.960 --> 01:34:57.960
That's perfect.

1395
01:34:57.960 --> 01:34:58.960
Yeah.

1396
01:34:58.960 --> 01:34:59.960
You guys can put in.

1397
01:34:59.960 --> 01:35:00.960
Yeah.

1398
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:04.080
in there. That'll be just fine. All right, ladies, let me pray for us and close us out. Father,

1399
01:35:00.960 --> 01:35:00.960


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thank you so much, God, for these amazing, incredible ladies. Thank you for the gift that

1401
01:35:10.000 --> 01:35:14.720
they are to me and to each other. God, I thank you that you would give them a glimpse a little

1402
01:35:14.720 --> 01:35:20.240
bit more tonight and in the days to come of how you see them. God, your view of them. God,

1403
01:35:20.240 --> 01:35:25.680
help them to hear heaven's heartbeat towards them. We thank you that you would place your

1404
01:35:25.680 --> 01:35:30.000
hedge of protection around them, that you would guard and keep watch over them, and that, Lord,

1405
01:35:30.000 --> 01:35:36.640
even that you would dispatch angels to minister to them this week in supernatural ways. We thank

1406
01:35:36.640 --> 01:35:40.800
you that you're warring on their behalf. And Lord, no matter what they came in with, Lord,

1407
01:35:40.800 --> 01:35:46.400
we thank you that you are the God of victory, that Jesus already came and won their victory

1408
01:35:46.400 --> 01:35:52.000
for us. He died on the cross to set us free. So, Lord, help us to step further into that victory,

1409
01:35:52.000 --> 01:35:57.680
into that truth this week, in Jesus' name. God bless you all. I'll be seeing you in the group

1410
01:35:57.680 --> 01:36:03.920
or on prayer throughout the week. Have an amazing night, everyone. Bye. Thank you, Bethany. Good

1411
01:36:03.920 --> 01:36:06.400
night. Bye, ladies. Good night, ladies.