WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:06.720 All right, ladies, welcome to your Monday coaching session. 2 00:00:06.720 --> 00:00:10.720 I am your host and your coach, Jackie Dorman. 3 00:00:10.720 --> 00:00:17.000 If you don't know me, then you haven't been watching videos in your phase one heart work. 4 00:00:17.000 --> 00:00:24.520 I am the founder of Last Year Single, and I am filling in for your master coach, Bethany 5 00:00:24.520 --> 00:00:28.360 Cooper today, because she is out sick. 6 00:00:28.360 --> 00:00:32.400 And so I'm excited to be your coach today. 7 00:00:32.400 --> 00:00:34.200 Hopefully you guys are excited for me to be your coach. 8 00:00:34.200 --> 00:00:36.200 I have about six ladies on here live. 9 00:00:36.200 --> 00:00:42.000 We're just going to jump right in with some housekeeping that we want to cover. 10 00:00:42.000 --> 00:00:47.040 This is recorded, and I will be back here at 8 p.m. Eastern tonight to coach that session 11 00:00:47.040 --> 00:00:48.340 as well. 12 00:00:48.340 --> 00:00:53.880 So if you have, you know, desire to be at both sessions, they will both be different. 13 00:00:53.880 --> 00:00:55.240 I can promise you that. 14 00:00:55.520 --> 00:01:03.040 All right, so the housekeeping that your coach, Bethany, wanted you to remember is that show 15 00:01:03.040 --> 00:01:06.360 up to the replays. 16 00:01:06.360 --> 00:01:09.920 If you can't see it live, you definitely want to show up to the replays. 17 00:01:09.920 --> 00:01:15.000 Ladies, I'm just going to tell you that I have signed up for a lot of things in my life 18 00:01:15.000 --> 00:01:17.200 that I've also not shown up to. 19 00:01:17.200 --> 00:01:19.800 Okay, I think that we all can say that. 20 00:01:19.800 --> 00:01:23.920 Raise your hand if you've signed up for things that you haven't shown up for. 21 00:01:24.600 --> 00:01:28.760 Especially if those things are free, it's easy to sign up for those things and then 22 00:01:28.760 --> 00:01:32.160 just say, maybe I don't want to go after all. 23 00:01:32.160 --> 00:01:36.920 So whether it's some kind of event that has a free admission or, you know, you tell some 24 00:01:36.920 --> 00:01:41.400 friends, you sign up to go do something, and then you don't want to do it. 25 00:01:41.400 --> 00:01:46.880 I remember when I was going to these Pilates classes. 26 00:01:46.880 --> 00:01:49.800 This is where the rubber meets the road. 27 00:01:49.800 --> 00:01:54.760 So they have an app and you had to sign up for the classes that you wanted to be in. 28 00:01:54.760 --> 00:01:59.920 Okay, you're already paying a monthly fee to be part of the studio for Pilates. 29 00:01:59.920 --> 00:02:03.600 And then you have to sign up for the classes that you want to take, the Pilates classes. 30 00:02:03.600 --> 00:02:11.039 But if you do not cancel your reservation for that class 12 hours in advance, they charge 31 00:02:11.039 --> 00:02:14.360 you $25. 32 00:02:14.360 --> 00:02:16.000 And Pilates is already expensive. 33 00:02:16.000 --> 00:02:18.480 If you've ever done Pilates, it's really expensive. 34 00:02:18.480 --> 00:02:24.520 And so that is definitely kind of hitting you where it hurts and getting you to give 35 00:02:24.520 --> 00:02:25.520 your best yes. 36 00:02:25.520 --> 00:02:26.520 Right? 37 00:02:26.520 --> 00:02:31.440 And so I just want to let you know, you signed up for this because you had a divine appointment 38 00:02:31.440 --> 00:02:32.800 with the Lord. 39 00:02:32.800 --> 00:02:37.240 You were praying about your life, about your lineage, about your legacy, about your love 40 00:02:37.240 --> 00:02:38.240 life. 41 00:02:38.240 --> 00:02:41.080 And God led you to the last year single program. 42 00:02:41.080 --> 00:02:43.840 In one way, shape or form, you got led here. 43 00:02:43.840 --> 00:02:45.160 You know how I know that? 44 00:02:45.160 --> 00:02:46.720 Because we barely run ads. 45 00:02:46.720 --> 00:02:48.120 We hardly ever do. 46 00:02:48.120 --> 00:02:52.320 And so if you found us, you found us very supernaturally. 47 00:02:52.320 --> 00:02:56.720 A friend told you somehow you made it here. 48 00:02:56.720 --> 00:03:03.400 And I know that God has, you know, all kinds of desires to upgrade you in your life by 49 00:03:03.400 --> 00:03:05.880 bringing you here. 50 00:03:05.880 --> 00:03:07.760 You are not my first rodeo. 51 00:03:07.760 --> 00:03:12.680 I have been doing this for five years and we help women do extraordinary things with 52 00:03:12.680 --> 00:03:15.120 their lives besides just get married. 53 00:03:15.120 --> 00:03:18.120 Yes, we have 1600 plus success stories. 54 00:03:18.120 --> 00:03:21.240 But besides that, we help people lose weight. 55 00:03:21.240 --> 00:03:22.860 We help people get out of debt. 56 00:03:22.860 --> 00:03:29.680 We help people come out of sickness, you know, where they've just been chronically sick mentally, 57 00:03:29.680 --> 00:03:30.900 physically. 58 00:03:30.900 --> 00:03:35.600 We help people to reconnect with their faith in ways that they never imagined that they 59 00:03:35.600 --> 00:03:37.440 could have a relationship with God. 60 00:03:37.440 --> 00:03:41.380 We help people restore relationships with friends and family members and children and 61 00:03:41.380 --> 00:03:42.940 all kinds of things. 62 00:03:42.940 --> 00:03:47.260 We help people go through and walk through their court cases with their former spouses 63 00:03:47.260 --> 00:03:53.580 and custody things and just all kinds of amazing breakthrough awaits you here. 64 00:03:53.580 --> 00:03:55.740 But you got to show up. 65 00:03:55.740 --> 00:03:57.700 That's the one thing that we can't do for you. 66 00:03:57.700 --> 00:04:00.780 Okay, we're going to hear from the Lord. 67 00:04:00.780 --> 00:04:03.020 We're going to release what God is saying. 68 00:04:03.020 --> 00:04:06.900 We're going to give you the tools and the resources and the coaching to be able to have 69 00:04:06.900 --> 00:04:07.900 the breakthrough. 70 00:04:07.900 --> 00:04:09.940 But you're the one that has to show up. 71 00:04:09.940 --> 00:04:13.580 So once again, I've been guilty of signing up for things and not showing up for them. 72 00:04:13.580 --> 00:04:16.380 But you know what I've noticed? 73 00:04:16.380 --> 00:04:22.500 I've noticed that the things that I've signed up for that I also haven't shown up for are 74 00:04:22.500 --> 00:04:26.880 things that I really don't believe are going to be a game changer for me. 75 00:04:26.880 --> 00:04:28.660 Like inside, I have some doubt. 76 00:04:28.660 --> 00:04:30.720 I have some uncertainty. 77 00:04:30.720 --> 00:04:33.980 Can I tell you something about the word doubt? 78 00:04:33.980 --> 00:04:38.240 It has a definition that's very interesting, and I'm going to tell you what the definition 79 00:04:38.240 --> 00:04:39.520 of it is. 80 00:04:39.520 --> 00:04:44.320 Doubt is uncertainty, which we all have uncertainty in life in different areas. 81 00:04:44.320 --> 00:04:48.360 But it's uncertainty that causes something. 82 00:04:48.360 --> 00:04:51.440 Anyone want to guess what the last part of that definition is? 83 00:04:51.440 --> 00:04:54.880 Doubt is uncertainty that causes... 84 00:04:54.880 --> 00:04:56.640 Unmute yourself if you know the answer. 85 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:01.000 Fear? 86 00:05:01.000 --> 00:05:02.000 Fear? 87 00:05:02.000 --> 00:05:03.000 Probably. 88 00:05:03.000 --> 00:05:04.000 Yeah. 89 00:05:04.000 --> 00:05:05.000 Doubt. 90 00:05:05.000 --> 00:05:06.000 Uncertainty can definitely cause fear. 91 00:05:06.000 --> 00:05:07.000 That's a true statement, but it's not the definition. 92 00:05:07.000 --> 00:05:08.000 Distraction? 93 00:05:08.000 --> 00:05:09.000 For sure. 94 00:05:09.000 --> 00:05:10.000 Distraction is our enemy, y'all. 95 00:05:10.000 --> 00:05:11.000 Write that down. 96 00:05:11.000 --> 00:05:12.000 Whatever distracts me is my enemy, for sure. 97 00:05:12.000 --> 00:05:13.000 Is it unbelief? 98 00:05:13.000 --> 00:05:14.000 Unbelief has kind of a different sort of definition all by itself. 99 00:05:14.000 --> 00:05:21.000 Unbelief and doubt are kind of ugly stepsisters, but they're not the same. 100 00:05:21.000 --> 00:05:22.000 Go ahead. 101 00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:23.000 Um... 102 00:05:23.000 --> 00:05:24.000 Um... 103 00:05:24.000 --> 00:05:25.000 Um... 104 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:26.000 Um... 105 00:05:26.000 --> 00:05:27.000 Um... 106 00:05:27.000 --> 00:05:28.000 Um... 107 00:05:28.000 --> 00:05:29.000 Um... 108 00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:30.000 Um... 109 00:05:30.000 --> 00:05:31.000 Um... 110 00:05:31.000 --> 00:05:32.000 Um... 111 00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:33.000 Um... 112 00:05:33.000 --> 00:05:34.000 Um... 113 00:05:34.000 --> 00:05:35.000 Um... 114 00:05:35.000 --> 00:05:36.000 Um... 115 00:05:36.000 --> 00:05:37.000 Um... 116 00:05:37.000 --> 00:05:38.000 Um... 117 00:05:38.000 --> 00:05:39.000 Um... 118 00:05:39.000 --> 00:05:40.000 Um... 119 00:05:40.000 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--> 00:09:28.600 Um... 345 00:09:28.600 --> 00:09:29.600 Um... 346 00:09:29.600 --> 00:09:30.600 Um... 347 00:09:30.600 --> 00:09:31.600 Um... 348 00:09:31.600 --> 00:09:32.600 Um... 349 00:09:32.600 --> 00:09:33.600 Um... 350 00:09:33.600 --> 00:09:34.600 Um... 351 00:09:34.600 --> 00:09:35.600 Um... 352 00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:36.600 Um... 353 00:09:36.600 --> 00:09:37.600 Um... 354 00:09:37.600 --> 00:09:38.600 Um... 355 00:09:38.600 --> 00:09:39.600 Um... 356 00:09:39.600 --> 00:09:40.600 Um... 357 00:09:40.600 --> 00:09:41.600 Um... 358 00:09:41.600 --> 00:09:42.600 Um... 359 00:09:42.600 --> 00:09:43.600 Um... 360 00:09:43.600 --> 00:09:44.600 Um... 361 00:09:44.600 --> 00:09:45.600 Um... 362 00:09:45.600 --> 00:09:46.600 Um... 363 00:09:46.600 --> 00:09:47.600 Um... 364 00:09:47.600 --> 00:09:48.600 Um... 365 00:09:48.600 --> 00:09:49.600 Um... 366 00:09:49.600 --> 00:09:50.600 Um... 367 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:51.600 Um... 368 00:09:51.600 --> 00:09:52.600 Um... 369 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:53.600 Um... 370 00:09:53.600 --> 00:09:54.600 Um... 371 00:09:54.600 --> 00:09:55.600 Um... 372 00:09:55.600 --> 00:09:56.600 Um... 373 00:09:56.600 --> 00:09:57.600 Um... 374 00:09:57.600 --> 00:09:58.600 Um... 375 00:09:58.600 --> 00:09:59.600 Um... 376 00:09:59.600 --> 00:10:00.600 Um... 377 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:04.880 And so that's what you're here to do. 378 00:10:04.880 --> 00:10:07.520 You're here to allow Holy Spirit to come alongside of you. 379 00:10:07.520 --> 00:10:09.480 And some of you are going to be meeting Holy Spirit for the first time. 380 00:10:09.480 --> 00:10:13.520 You don't even really know Holy Spirit that well. 381 00:10:13.520 --> 00:10:15.820 You know that supernatural things happen to you. 382 00:10:15.820 --> 00:10:18.960 You have some intuition. 383 00:10:18.960 --> 00:10:22.760 You feel like sometimes God's involved in your life and he's speaking to you, but you 384 00:10:22.760 --> 00:10:27.620 don't fully understand how you can step into that every day. 385 00:10:27.620 --> 00:10:32.860 It's just kind of like when it happens, it happens and it's so exciting, right? 386 00:10:32.860 --> 00:10:37.140 Anyone raise their hand and say, yeah, you know, God speaks to me sometimes and you know, 387 00:10:37.140 --> 00:10:40.740 and I know it when he's speaking to me and it's so exciting, but it doesn't happen every 388 00:10:40.740 --> 00:10:41.740 day. 389 00:10:41.740 --> 00:10:48.100 Raise your hand if you don't feel like you're hearing him give you direction and instruction 390 00:10:48.100 --> 00:10:53.380 and clarity and guidance every single day. 391 00:10:53.380 --> 00:10:57.420 So you know what happens when we know that God's speaking to us and you know that he 392 00:10:57.420 --> 00:11:02.140 does speak and you love it when it happens, but it doesn't happen often is you get this 393 00:11:02.140 --> 00:11:07.340 idea that you just have to wait for the next supernatural moment in your life, right? 394 00:11:07.340 --> 00:11:11.380 You're just going to keep doing what you know to do. 395 00:11:11.380 --> 00:11:14.420 And then hopefully one of these days, God's going to give you some direction. 396 00:11:14.420 --> 00:11:18.780 He's going to give you, he's going to speak to you, you know, but the truth is, is that 397 00:11:18.780 --> 00:11:20.620 God's always speaking. 398 00:11:21.580 --> 00:11:24.340 He's always speaking to us. 399 00:11:24.340 --> 00:11:26.140 God's a chatty Kathy. 400 00:11:26.140 --> 00:11:32.460 It's always talking, always talking to us, but we have to learn how to tune into that 401 00:11:32.460 --> 00:11:40.220 and we have to learn how God talks to us and how we specifically individually hear him 402 00:11:40.220 --> 00:11:43.100 because we don't all hear him the same way. 403 00:11:43.100 --> 00:11:45.860 And that's some of the stuff you're going to learn in the heart work. 404 00:11:45.860 --> 00:11:48.740 And then some of the stuff that you're going to learn on, Bethany put in the notes that 405 00:11:48.820 --> 00:11:50.860 to encourage you guys to come to Supernatural Saturday. 406 00:11:50.860 --> 00:11:51.860 Guess what you get there? 407 00:11:51.860 --> 00:11:56.900 Little old me, Jackie D. So come to Supernatural Saturday because I'll start to prime the pump 408 00:11:56.900 --> 00:11:59.060 of exactly what I'm talking about right now. 409 00:11:59.060 --> 00:12:03.580 God is speaking and he wants to lead and guide you. 410 00:12:03.580 --> 00:12:05.980 So grace, truth, and time. 411 00:12:05.980 --> 00:12:07.860 It doesn't have to take a long time, you guys. 412 00:12:07.860 --> 00:12:09.660 That's why we named this last year single. 413 00:12:09.660 --> 00:12:14.140 It used to be called Married in 12 Months or Less. 414 00:12:14.140 --> 00:12:16.620 Both of those, one year. 415 00:12:16.620 --> 00:12:17.620 One year increment. 416 00:12:17.620 --> 00:12:22.220 And it's not saying, okay, at the 365 day mark, that's when God's just going to drop 417 00:12:22.220 --> 00:12:24.260 your man out of heaven to you. 418 00:12:24.260 --> 00:12:32.060 No, it's saying that some point in this year that you've committed to really getting untangled 419 00:12:32.060 --> 00:12:40.060 from the lies and the obstacles, God is going to begin to help you to step into your love 420 00:12:40.060 --> 00:12:41.060 story. 421 00:12:41.060 --> 00:12:44.180 Because a lot of you, your love stories are actually staring you right in the face. 422 00:12:44.180 --> 00:12:47.980 You're missing the love that's right in front of you. 423 00:12:47.980 --> 00:12:52.620 Because of filters, because of blind spots, because of preconceived expectations and ideas 424 00:12:52.620 --> 00:12:54.720 that are not healthy or good. 425 00:12:54.720 --> 00:12:56.380 Because of religion. 426 00:12:56.380 --> 00:13:00.540 Religion can be a big block to your love story. 427 00:13:00.540 --> 00:13:02.420 And so that is what you're doing here. 428 00:13:02.420 --> 00:13:08.740 You're beginning to peel back the layers, the filters, clear off the heart lens, the 429 00:13:08.740 --> 00:13:10.540 blind spots. 430 00:13:10.540 --> 00:13:15.060 And I really want to encourage you to show up as much as you can or see the replays of 431 00:13:15.060 --> 00:13:17.900 your coaching sessions in phase one. 432 00:13:17.900 --> 00:13:21.300 I know next week's coaching session, because Bethany sent me the notes and she said, you 433 00:13:21.300 --> 00:13:22.300 can coach this for me. 434 00:13:22.300 --> 00:13:25.700 And I was like, nah, girl, I got to flow with the Holy Spirit. 435 00:13:25.700 --> 00:13:26.700 You can coach this. 436 00:13:26.700 --> 00:13:28.740 And I'm going to tell you, I read the notes. 437 00:13:28.740 --> 00:13:29.740 It's good. 438 00:13:29.740 --> 00:13:30.740 It's good stuff. 439 00:13:30.740 --> 00:13:32.420 So make sure you show up for that. 440 00:13:32.420 --> 00:13:33.420 All right. 441 00:13:33.420 --> 00:13:39.860 So what are some of the things that you guys are running into in your heart work? 442 00:13:39.860 --> 00:13:43.700 First of all, let me see in the chat, how long have you been with us? 443 00:13:43.700 --> 00:13:46.940 Are you in your first week, second week, third week, fourth week, or fifth week of heart 444 00:13:46.940 --> 00:13:47.940 work? 445 00:13:47.940 --> 00:13:48.440 Let me see that in the chat. 446 00:14:09.860 --> 00:14:22.360 Okay. 447 00:14:22.360 --> 00:14:23.360 Let's see what we got. 448 00:14:23.360 --> 00:14:24.360 All right. 449 00:14:24.360 --> 00:14:25.360 Nicole just graduated. 450 00:14:25.360 --> 00:14:26.360 She's headed over to phase two. 451 00:14:26.360 --> 00:14:27.360 Congratulations. 452 00:14:27.360 --> 00:14:28.360 You're going to jump into your dating challenge and Divine Feminine and Boundaries and Attachment 453 00:14:29.360 --> 00:14:30.360 styles. 454 00:14:30.360 --> 00:14:31.360 It's going to be great over there. 455 00:14:31.360 --> 00:14:32.360 You're going to love it. 456 00:14:32.360 --> 00:14:33.360 Middle of week five. 457 00:14:33.360 --> 00:14:34.360 So Rachel's getting ready to graduate, Kim's in her third week. 458 00:14:34.360 --> 00:14:35.360 So that's your confession and repentance week. 459 00:14:35.360 --> 00:14:36.360 Is it Arianne, Arianne? 460 00:14:36.360 --> 00:14:37.360 You're 12? 461 00:14:37.360 --> 00:14:38.360 You're 12? 462 00:14:38.360 --> 00:14:39.360 Okay. 463 00:14:39.360 --> 00:14:40.360 So that's the middle of week five. 464 00:14:40.360 --> 00:14:41.360 So Arianne, congratulations. 465 00:14:41.360 --> 00:14:42.360 So tough on. 466 00:14:42.360 --> 00:14:43.360 Tough on to stick with. 467 00:14:43.360 --> 00:14:44.360 To be here. 468 00:14:44.360 --> 00:14:45.360 Yeah. 469 00:14:45.360 --> 00:14:46.360 Common settings, if I may be so bolded. 470 00:14:46.360 --> 00:14:47.360 You used to be on school. 471 00:14:47.360 --> 00:14:48.360 Common settings. 472 00:14:48.360 --> 00:14:49.360 Yeah subtitles. 473 00:14:49.360 --> 00:14:50.360 Yeah, common settings. 474 00:14:50.360 --> 00:14:51.360 There we go. 475 00:14:51.360 --> 00:14:52.360 You used to be on school actually to be a teacher or to teach, 476 00:14:52.360 --> 00:14:53.360 I was so proud of you, to be there. 477 00:14:53.360 --> 00:14:54.360 When I was a kid, I still set uperca pandemic fingers and it 478 00:14:54.360 --> 00:14:55.360 used to just be a silly thing. 479 00:14:55.360 --> 00:14:56.360 But now having approached you are gone abruptly. 480 00:14:56.360 --> 00:14:57.360 And I get no intention of sharing your family motives with 481 00:14:57.360 --> 00:14:57.360 482 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.000 12, where are you at with the number 12? 483 00:15:12.920 --> 00:15:14.480 Karen is also on her final week. 484 00:15:14.480 --> 00:15:16.740 Sharon is just beginning. 485 00:15:16.740 --> 00:15:18.840 That's your supernatural surrender week. 486 00:15:18.840 --> 00:15:20.820 Sharon, don't mail that in. 487 00:15:20.820 --> 00:15:22.760 Make sure that you sign that permission slip. 488 00:15:22.760 --> 00:15:25.840 Make sure that you are continually asking God 489 00:15:25.840 --> 00:15:29.720 to take control and surrendering the pen to him. 490 00:15:29.800 --> 00:15:33.480 Ruth is heading into her confession and repentance week. 491 00:15:33.480 --> 00:15:35.260 Kelly's graduating soon. 492 00:15:35.260 --> 00:15:36.360 She's in week five. 493 00:15:36.360 --> 00:15:37.960 That's a real you. 494 00:15:37.960 --> 00:15:39.560 Guys, that's an important week. 495 00:15:39.560 --> 00:15:42.040 Don't just be like, oh, graduation's here. 496 00:15:42.040 --> 00:15:43.280 I'm not gonna really pay attention. 497 00:15:43.280 --> 00:15:45.600 Make sure you're paying attention. 498 00:15:45.600 --> 00:15:47.400 That's important. 499 00:15:47.400 --> 00:15:50.740 Week four, Diana and Tonya. 500 00:15:51.720 --> 00:15:52.920 Is it Tonya or? 501 00:15:53.800 --> 00:15:56.260 Guys, I have a hard time sounding things out, 502 00:15:56.260 --> 00:15:57.320 as I've said before. 503 00:15:57.320 --> 00:16:01.100 So if I butcher your name, I'm deeply sorry. 504 00:16:01.100 --> 00:16:02.940 They're both in the forgiveness week. 505 00:16:02.940 --> 00:16:04.980 You guys, you might have to take a couple weeks 506 00:16:04.980 --> 00:16:05.820 for that week. 507 00:16:05.820 --> 00:16:09.320 That week, it tends to hit differently. 508 00:16:09.320 --> 00:16:13.780 So make sure that you are giving yourself 509 00:16:13.780 --> 00:16:16.040 a lot of grace and a lot of space. 510 00:16:16.900 --> 00:16:17.740 All right. 511 00:16:19.060 --> 00:16:21.960 And then Bethany said she's starting week four as well. 512 00:16:24.780 --> 00:16:26.220 It says you finished the course 513 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:28.320 and how do you go to phase two? 514 00:16:28.320 --> 00:16:29.540 So there should be instructions. 515 00:16:29.540 --> 00:16:32.080 Isn't there instructions on how to go to phase two? 516 00:16:32.080 --> 00:16:34.440 Can someone tell her how to go to phase two? 517 00:16:35.720 --> 00:16:37.440 I know, but I wanna see if you guys know, 518 00:16:37.440 --> 00:16:40.080 because I wanna make sure there are instructions on that. 519 00:16:42.420 --> 00:16:43.260 Anybody? 520 00:16:50.960 --> 00:16:53.100 Does anybody know how you get to the next phase 521 00:16:53.100 --> 00:16:54.240 when you graduate? 522 00:16:55.220 --> 00:16:56.220 Does anybody know? 523 00:16:58.580 --> 00:16:59.860 Isn't it automatic? 524 00:16:59.860 --> 00:17:02.100 Like you automatically get sent to phase two. 525 00:17:02.100 --> 00:17:03.620 I don't think there are instructions, 526 00:17:03.620 --> 00:17:05.940 but one of my friends is doing the course as well. 527 00:17:05.940 --> 00:17:08.500 And she said she got stuck with like a glitch. 528 00:17:08.500 --> 00:17:12.060 So she was done, but it was stuck on 95%. 529 00:17:12.060 --> 00:17:14.260 And she reached out and they gave her like instructions 530 00:17:14.260 --> 00:17:17.900 how to restart the app and kind of work through the glitch. 531 00:17:17.900 --> 00:17:19.619 I don't know if that's the case here. 532 00:17:19.619 --> 00:17:22.540 But then when she like re-logged into the app, 533 00:17:22.540 --> 00:17:24.480 she was automatically in phase two. 534 00:17:24.480 --> 00:17:27.040 So my thing is that it's automatic 535 00:17:27.040 --> 00:17:28.319 and I didn't see instructions. 536 00:17:28.319 --> 00:17:30.760 I'm not sure if that's helpful. 537 00:17:30.760 --> 00:17:33.600 Okay, so that tells me everything that I need to know. 538 00:17:33.600 --> 00:17:36.400 And that is that nobody knows what happens next. 539 00:17:36.400 --> 00:17:38.160 It's kind of like after we pass away, 540 00:17:38.160 --> 00:17:39.640 we're like, we think Kevin's there, 541 00:17:39.640 --> 00:17:41.880 but we're really not sure what that looks like. 542 00:17:41.880 --> 00:17:46.620 Okay, so yeah, I'm pretty sure that you email, 543 00:17:46.620 --> 00:17:49.080 that it gives you instructions to email admin 544 00:17:49.100 --> 00:17:53.580 at jackydorman.com and ask to be granted 545 00:17:53.580 --> 00:17:55.980 the next phase of the course on your app. 546 00:17:55.980 --> 00:17:57.820 And it will just appear on your app. 547 00:17:57.820 --> 00:17:58.940 She is right about that. 548 00:17:58.940 --> 00:18:03.380 The next phase will appear and you can jump 549 00:18:03.380 --> 00:18:05.860 into that group on the app. 550 00:18:05.860 --> 00:18:07.620 But I'm pretty sure the instruction 551 00:18:07.620 --> 00:18:11.220 is to email admin at jackydorman.com. 552 00:18:13.180 --> 00:18:15.740 All right, so for those of you that are graduating, 553 00:18:16.640 --> 00:18:19.740 go ahead and get ready to do that 554 00:18:19.740 --> 00:18:23.460 so that you can graduate to the next phase. 555 00:18:24.720 --> 00:18:25.560 Now, I hope- 556 00:18:25.560 --> 00:18:28.840 So I did it, that I'm at 100%, 557 00:18:28.840 --> 00:18:30.960 but if I wanna stay in the forgiveness one 558 00:18:30.960 --> 00:18:32.660 for another week, I can. 559 00:18:33.560 --> 00:18:35.760 Because when I go to my group, I don't see a second group. 560 00:18:35.760 --> 00:18:37.720 So I'll just email admin. 561 00:18:37.720 --> 00:18:40.000 Well, there is a week after the forgiveness week. 562 00:18:40.000 --> 00:18:41.720 Week five is the real you. 563 00:18:41.720 --> 00:18:44.180 So are you talking about week five, the real you, 564 00:18:44.200 --> 00:18:46.600 or are you talking about week four, forgiveness? 565 00:18:48.080 --> 00:18:49.280 Five. 566 00:18:49.280 --> 00:18:54.200 I just finished video 11, the last, the fifth week. 567 00:18:54.200 --> 00:18:55.040 Okay, so- 568 00:18:55.040 --> 00:18:56.420 Like the fourth chapter in the book 569 00:18:56.420 --> 00:18:57.800 that I finished the book. 570 00:18:57.800 --> 00:18:59.560 So I was thinking fourth week, 571 00:18:59.560 --> 00:19:01.400 but it's actually, it was five weeks. 572 00:19:01.400 --> 00:19:02.240 So I just finished. 573 00:19:02.240 --> 00:19:06.580 It says, artwork course, 100% complete. 574 00:19:06.580 --> 00:19:08.920 So when I go to the groups, 575 00:19:08.920 --> 00:19:11.000 I still am just in the first phase. 576 00:19:11.000 --> 00:19:13.160 So I just have to email admin. 577 00:19:13.160 --> 00:19:14.540 Right, thank you. 578 00:19:14.540 --> 00:19:15.380 Yep. 579 00:19:16.620 --> 00:19:18.460 Okay. 580 00:19:18.460 --> 00:19:19.780 All right, you guys. 581 00:19:19.780 --> 00:19:24.420 All right, so for those of you that are in, 582 00:19:24.420 --> 00:19:28.020 so let's ask, let's do some Q&A, all right? 583 00:19:28.020 --> 00:19:31.460 So tell me, what are some of the biggest breakthroughs 584 00:19:31.460 --> 00:19:32.300 that you're having? 585 00:19:32.300 --> 00:19:34.100 What are some of your aha moments? 586 00:19:34.100 --> 00:19:37.420 And where are you maybe having a little bit 587 00:19:37.420 --> 00:19:38.260 of being stuck? 588 00:19:38.260 --> 00:19:40.540 Do you have a question? 589 00:19:40.540 --> 00:19:43.520 Is something coming up that you want input on? 590 00:19:43.520 --> 00:19:46.100 Let's go ahead and do that for a few minutes. 591 00:19:47.240 --> 00:19:48.800 You can put your questions in the chat, 592 00:19:48.800 --> 00:19:51.860 or because there's only 18 of you here, 593 00:19:51.860 --> 00:19:54.200 we can also just let you unmute 594 00:19:54.200 --> 00:19:58.240 as long as you ask your question very quickly 595 00:19:58.240 --> 00:20:00.240 and it doesn't have a lot of backstory. 596 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:04.400 Well, we still have access to our phase one group after we email admin. 597 00:20:04.400 --> 00:20:10.120 I think that there is a little bit of a period of time where you have access to both groups, 598 00:20:10.120 --> 00:20:15.000 and that includes when you go to two and three as well, before the first one kind of disappears. 599 00:20:15.000 --> 00:20:22.080 Ruth, I think that there's a little bit of a transitional time where you have access 600 00:20:22.080 --> 00:20:27.280 to both of the groups, the one you're graduating and the one that you're entering, whether 601 00:20:27.280 --> 00:20:30.840 that's one to two or two to three. 602 00:20:30.840 --> 00:20:34.160 So two of you had that question. 603 00:20:34.160 --> 00:20:36.400 You almost didn't follow through, but you're not gonna let the enemy win. 604 00:20:36.400 --> 00:20:37.400 Okay, you guys. 605 00:20:37.400 --> 00:20:38.400 So distraction is huge. 606 00:20:38.400 --> 00:20:46.280 I warned you guys about this in the what to expect portion of your heartwork materials. 607 00:20:46.280 --> 00:20:50.600 And you guys, I didn't just sit down one day and say, hmm, what can I just put on this 608 00:20:50.600 --> 00:20:55.360 list that they can expect when they start going through heartwork? 609 00:20:55.360 --> 00:20:58.320 Guys, I've been teaching the heartwork for a really long time. 610 00:20:58.320 --> 00:21:00.080 I was the first heartwork student. 611 00:21:00.080 --> 00:21:05.800 God downloaded the heartwork to me because I needed a practical way to get unstuck because 612 00:21:05.800 --> 00:21:10.280 of my childhood, because of the abuse that I had experienced, because of all the abundant 613 00:21:10.280 --> 00:21:15.260 life that I was missing out on, even though I was a devoted Christian and loved the Lord. 614 00:21:15.260 --> 00:21:19.320 And I prayed and prayed and prayed, God, why does my life not look like the Bible? 615 00:21:19.320 --> 00:21:22.380 Why does my life not look like what the word of God says that I can have? 616 00:21:22.380 --> 00:21:26.860 Why does my life not look like seemingly the other people around me at this church? 617 00:21:26.860 --> 00:21:31.300 Why does my life not look like what the preacher is saying from the pulpit my life should look 618 00:21:31.300 --> 00:21:32.300 like? 619 00:21:32.300 --> 00:21:33.300 Why, why, why? 620 00:21:33.300 --> 00:21:35.500 Why do I still have mental health issues? 621 00:21:35.500 --> 00:21:39.460 Why can't I find a job that pays me enough to even live on? 622 00:21:39.460 --> 00:21:42.620 You know, why am I having all these problems in my marriage? 623 00:21:42.620 --> 00:21:43.620 Why? 624 00:21:43.620 --> 00:21:44.620 Like, I don't understand. 625 00:21:44.620 --> 00:21:45.620 I love you. 626 00:21:45.620 --> 00:21:47.900 I'm doing everything that I'm told to do. 627 00:21:47.900 --> 00:21:49.520 It's not working. 628 00:21:49.520 --> 00:21:55.960 And so that is when the Lord answered my prayer by giving me a revelation of the heart and 629 00:21:55.960 --> 00:22:01.640 what the belief systems from the heart, how they create the quality of your life. 630 00:22:01.640 --> 00:22:05.280 And so, and it's not about what you know here, it's about what you believe here. 631 00:22:05.280 --> 00:22:09.360 And so the Lord taught me this himself, you guys. 632 00:22:09.360 --> 00:22:15.220 And I was the first student and then I began to teach it to others a long time ago. 633 00:22:15.220 --> 00:22:20.960 And now it's, you know, pretty much only used for people who are premarital or singles 634 00:22:20.960 --> 00:22:25.220 because we've incorporated it into last year's single program. 635 00:22:25.220 --> 00:22:29.900 But we will be allowing people to take the heart work that are married as well this year 636 00:22:29.900 --> 00:22:30.900 in 25. 637 00:22:30.900 --> 00:22:36.700 We're going to be launching a heart work only group for those people, but it works. 638 00:22:36.700 --> 00:22:38.940 It really does. 639 00:22:38.940 --> 00:22:41.300 But you have to do the work. 640 00:22:41.300 --> 00:22:47.820 And so that list that I created for you guys, that is based on all the students and myself 641 00:22:47.820 --> 00:22:50.380 and our experiences and going through heart work. 642 00:22:50.380 --> 00:22:52.060 There's tons of distractions. 643 00:22:52.060 --> 00:22:54.620 There's tons of disruptions. 644 00:22:54.620 --> 00:22:58.080 The opposing forces will try to get you to quit. 645 00:22:58.080 --> 00:23:00.200 They will try to get you offended. 646 00:23:00.200 --> 00:23:02.420 They will try to get you distracted. 647 00:23:02.420 --> 00:23:06.900 They will try to get you discouraged. 648 00:23:06.900 --> 00:23:11.860 All the dis words, discouraged, distracted, disappointed, right? 649 00:23:11.860 --> 00:23:12.860 All those words. 650 00:23:12.860 --> 00:23:15.960 But you have to stay the course. 651 00:23:15.960 --> 00:23:22.040 You have to ask God to give you grace to continue and to push forward to those wins. 652 00:23:22.040 --> 00:23:25.500 And there'll be stuff that comes up emotionally that's hard to handle because you did not 653 00:23:25.500 --> 00:23:28.500 process it when you went through it. 654 00:23:28.500 --> 00:23:30.940 You didn't have the tools or resources to process it. 655 00:23:30.940 --> 00:23:32.720 So you're going to feel all the feels now. 656 00:23:32.720 --> 00:23:34.500 I warned you guys about that. 657 00:23:34.500 --> 00:23:36.300 But we feel the feels to what? 658 00:23:36.300 --> 00:23:39.060 To heal the feels. 659 00:23:39.060 --> 00:23:42.720 A lot of you repressed stuff from before. 660 00:23:42.720 --> 00:23:48.060 And let's just admit when you're children, we don't have the tools or resources to process 661 00:23:48.060 --> 00:23:53.660 grief, to process loss, to process abuse or hurt or fear. 662 00:23:53.660 --> 00:23:58.300 And so we have to wait till we're older to process that, don't we? 663 00:23:58.300 --> 00:24:01.900 And so a lot of stuff from your childhood is actually affecting to you to this day and 664 00:24:01.900 --> 00:24:02.900 you don't know it. 665 00:24:03.300 --> 00:24:04.700 You're like, oh, that's when I was a little kid. 666 00:24:04.700 --> 00:24:05.700 Yeah. 667 00:24:05.700 --> 00:24:11.180 But that little kid still lives inside of you and they're still traumatized. 668 00:24:11.180 --> 00:24:12.380 But we can't stay here forever. 669 00:24:12.380 --> 00:24:13.900 That's why HeartWorks is only five weeks. 670 00:24:13.900 --> 00:24:15.820 If you need six weeks, fine. 671 00:24:15.820 --> 00:24:19.080 But we can't keep digging around and I don't want you digging at all. 672 00:24:19.080 --> 00:24:21.860 Don't take a shovel and try to dig up all your trauma. 673 00:24:21.860 --> 00:24:26.020 Just do the material and allow it to surface. 674 00:24:26.020 --> 00:24:31.460 Because what you think is your biggest trauma, because it's the worst thing that ever happened 675 00:24:32.180 --> 00:24:37.060 to you, may not be the thing that affected you the most. 676 00:24:37.060 --> 00:24:40.460 Isn't that crazy? 677 00:24:40.460 --> 00:24:45.260 People will come and be like, yeah, you know, my dad passed away when I was, you know, seven 678 00:24:45.260 --> 00:24:47.980 years old and it's really hard. 679 00:24:47.980 --> 00:24:50.860 And then my mom married an abusive man and blah, blah, blah. 680 00:24:50.860 --> 00:24:54.020 And you would think that that would be their biggest trauma, right? 681 00:24:54.020 --> 00:24:59.380 But their biggest trauma turns out to be when, you know, their best friend. 682 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:06.720 uh you know decided to break the relationship and go their own way and you know went no contact with 683 00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:11.680 them like this is their biggest trauma not this it's like whoa that's interesting this this 684 00:25:11.680 --> 00:25:17.360 affected you worse than this how because what you believed about yourself from this was now 685 00:25:17.360 --> 00:25:21.920 reinforced by this that people are going to abandon you that people are not going to stay 686 00:25:21.920 --> 00:25:25.680 that you know that people can't be trusted does that make sense 687 00:25:25.680 --> 00:25:33.200 so this actually is the bigger trauma because the belief system that was created by this trauma 688 00:25:34.080 --> 00:25:35.600 reinforced over here 689 00:25:38.240 --> 00:25:41.360 trauma doesn't just hurt us it creates different versions of us 690 00:25:43.360 --> 00:25:49.040 and the abundant life that jesus died to give us we won't live that if we are living in the lies 691 00:25:49.040 --> 00:25:53.200 that trauma created it's not just about the trauma it's about the lies that you believe 692 00:25:53.200 --> 00:25:56.000 because of the trauma all right i saw a hand up 693 00:26:00.560 --> 00:26:03.840 go ahead and unmute yourself you had your hand up go ahead and ask your question 694 00:26:06.400 --> 00:26:08.000 or share your biggest breakthrough 695 00:26:08.000 --> 00:26:22.800 change your mind 696 00:26:26.480 --> 00:26:29.600 did we get a mind change okay does anyone have anything 697 00:26:29.600 --> 00:26:41.280 i knew i'd love go ahead okay um i love what you just said about the big traumas 698 00:26:41.280 --> 00:26:48.000 because i was adopted at six months old to a mennonite religious conservative family so 699 00:26:48.000 --> 00:26:54.400 they're kind of off the amish so just growing up my identity looking this way and growing up that way 700 00:26:55.200 --> 00:27:00.240 um i thought that was like and still is there's like little pieces but as i'm like kind of driving 701 00:27:00.240 --> 00:27:07.440 and i'm talking to god there's other little pieces that were affecting i think there was 702 00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:14.160 only six asian people in my little town in indiana so when i moved um only two years ago 703 00:27:15.440 --> 00:27:23.280 i just was god just opened up this other place it was very uncomfortable and i think my question 704 00:27:23.280 --> 00:27:28.240 for you because i don't want to go into the whole thing was um that i married went to college did 705 00:27:28.240 --> 00:27:32.320 all the things that my parents were trying to explain tell me to do in the religious field 706 00:27:33.040 --> 00:27:39.040 um and i'm still working out a lot of those heart issues but it was a smaller little things when i'm 707 00:27:39.040 --> 00:27:46.800 just driving that i was like oh it was that friend that rejected me at school or it was me um it was 708 00:27:46.800 --> 00:27:56.000 more all my identity of religion of how god loved me i was supposed to love me so that one time you 709 00:27:56.000 --> 00:28:00.400 sinned the time you had sex before you got married the time you lived with your husband and then i 710 00:28:00.400 --> 00:28:05.680 decided to make him my husband because then i could justify like oh he's my husband because we're 711 00:28:05.680 --> 00:28:12.560 married now and um and just the the abuse in the in the excuse me in the marriage and then having 712 00:28:12.560 --> 00:28:19.200 three kids that are um biracial because he was uh virgin islands just the whole so i feel like 713 00:28:19.200 --> 00:28:24.320 there's like for me it's like an onion with layers like there's big big things that are 714 00:28:25.360 --> 00:28:30.320 that i'm still trying to figure out of course as you're adopted at six months old you're going to 715 00:28:30.320 --> 00:28:35.920 feel abandoned but i'm still just trying to work on like the truth my i think my question is i got 716 00:28:35.920 --> 00:28:41.920 on here a little bit later you were just talking about doubt like how or is it just going to be 717 00:28:41.920 --> 00:28:46.960 like a whole process my whole life to just be like i'm in a good place i know the truth i know 718 00:28:46.960 --> 00:28:52.480 god loves me i know my sins have been forgiven i i get all that but then i go back into the little 719 00:28:52.480 --> 00:28:56.640 bit of doubt does it ever like you take that captive and you like throw it out like the 720 00:28:56.640 --> 00:29:01.600 different ways that i've done inner healing and soza and spiritual direction i've done all that 721 00:29:01.600 --> 00:29:07.840 and now i'm kind of like i'm here and not like this is my like last hope but i'm just kind of 722 00:29:07.840 --> 00:29:14.480 like tired of i'm doing it all like god i'm doing it all but i do have to i wanted to say one thing 723 00:29:14.480 --> 00:29:21.200 yesterday i did the prayer group on sunday i've never done it um out of my comfort zone i typed 724 00:29:21.200 --> 00:29:28.560 in the chat she like saw it and she spoke it and one of those prayers and here's where the doubt is 725 00:29:28.560 --> 00:29:36.560 like i my my back has just been awful like awful and the back pain's gone but then this morning 726 00:29:36.560 --> 00:29:43.840 i wake up thinking is it just thank you lord for a wonderful night's sleep in like a year 727 00:29:43.840 --> 00:29:48.800 like oh my gosh but is this gonna come back so how do you i guess my question is how do 728 00:29:48.800 --> 00:29:52.240 is it just a process it's continuing trusting the process like 729 00:29:54.080 --> 00:29:59.840 god's sitting here with me and and it is it's it's a it's a in our service at church he's like 730 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:01.440 We will suffer. 731 00:30:01.440 --> 00:30:03.400 It's not like, okay, I have no God. 732 00:30:03.400 --> 00:30:05.760 I got baptized and now my life is perfect. 733 00:30:05.760 --> 00:30:08.600 We are gonna suffer through different things. 734 00:30:08.600 --> 00:30:10.440 I'm just trying to figure out like... 735 00:30:11.720 --> 00:30:14.480 Okay, so I think that I understand your question. 736 00:30:14.480 --> 00:30:17.360 So I'm gonna try to answer what I think your question is. 737 00:30:17.360 --> 00:30:20.540 So first of all, you guys, yes, we are in a process 738 00:30:20.540 --> 00:30:23.360 for the rest of our life on earth, right? 739 00:30:23.360 --> 00:30:25.680 If you wanna think of yourself as an eternal being, 740 00:30:25.680 --> 00:30:28.240 because you are, you're an eternal being, 741 00:30:28.320 --> 00:30:33.320 and Jesus died to make heaven our eternal home, right? 742 00:30:34.320 --> 00:30:37.760 So he died to reconnect us to our heritage 743 00:30:37.760 --> 00:30:40.960 and to our inheritance of being children of God, 744 00:30:40.960 --> 00:30:42.080 which is important. 745 00:30:42.080 --> 00:30:44.040 And so, but because we're eternal, 746 00:30:44.040 --> 00:30:48.460 this life, this earthly life that we're experiencing, 747 00:30:48.460 --> 00:30:49.920 so you're an eternal being 748 00:30:49.920 --> 00:30:53.360 that's having a temporary experience right now on earth. 749 00:30:53.360 --> 00:30:55.480 It's kind of like your childhood. 750 00:30:55.480 --> 00:30:57.580 You know, we are gonna make mistakes here. 751 00:30:57.940 --> 00:30:58.780 We're gonna fall down. 752 00:30:58.780 --> 00:30:59.700 We're gonna skin our knees. 753 00:30:59.700 --> 00:31:01.700 You know, Papa God's gonna pick us up. 754 00:31:01.700 --> 00:31:02.860 He's gonna brush us off. 755 00:31:02.860 --> 00:31:05.140 He's gonna redirect our course. 756 00:31:05.140 --> 00:31:07.220 You know, when God talks about correcting the children 757 00:31:07.220 --> 00:31:09.740 that he loves, it's more like a course correction 758 00:31:09.740 --> 00:31:12.300 than it is like a spanking correction. 759 00:31:12.300 --> 00:31:15.420 It's not about punishment as much as it's about clarity 760 00:31:15.420 --> 00:31:18.660 and wisdom and redirection, okay? 761 00:31:18.660 --> 00:31:21.500 So that's what that correction actually means in the Bible. 762 00:31:21.500 --> 00:31:25.180 So think of it as you're going the wrong way. 763 00:31:25.180 --> 00:31:28.180 Let me show you the right way to go, you know? 764 00:31:28.180 --> 00:31:31.180 So it's kind of like the continual supernatural surrender. 765 00:31:31.180 --> 00:31:33.780 And so, yes, you guys, we're all gonna be in process, 766 00:31:33.780 --> 00:31:37.700 but the beauty of the heart work is it's like a tool belt, 767 00:31:37.700 --> 00:31:41.980 and it's a set of tools that now makes things much easier 768 00:31:41.980 --> 00:31:45.300 as far as when you come upon something, 769 00:31:45.300 --> 00:31:48.020 you're not gonna think the way that you thought in the past. 770 00:31:48.020 --> 00:31:49.900 If you really truly do your heart work 771 00:31:49.900 --> 00:31:53.460 and you allow Holy Spirit to teach you 772 00:31:53.460 --> 00:31:56.220 during this season of time, 773 00:31:56.220 --> 00:31:59.180 you're gonna be very self-aware in the future 774 00:31:59.180 --> 00:32:02.700 of your triggers, of where they're coming from. 775 00:32:02.700 --> 00:32:05.620 You're not gonna just say, you know, this is how I feel. 776 00:32:05.620 --> 00:32:08.580 You're gonna know why you feel the way you feel, 777 00:32:08.580 --> 00:32:11.060 and you can unpack the bigger thing there. 778 00:32:11.060 --> 00:32:13.100 So that's gonna be helpful. 779 00:32:13.100 --> 00:32:15.260 I think that the thing that our sister 780 00:32:15.260 --> 00:32:18.420 is mostly asking about is the constant struggle 781 00:32:18.420 --> 00:32:21.220 between the flesh and the spirit. 782 00:32:21.220 --> 00:32:23.420 Guys, we're gonna live in this flesh 783 00:32:23.420 --> 00:32:25.060 for our entire time on earth, 784 00:32:25.060 --> 00:32:27.660 and this flesh does not trust God. 785 00:32:27.660 --> 00:32:31.580 This flesh does not believe in supernatural things. 786 00:32:31.580 --> 00:32:33.140 This flesh is very carnal. 787 00:32:33.140 --> 00:32:35.940 This flesh only cares about what it cares about right now. 788 00:32:35.940 --> 00:32:37.620 It doesn't care about the future. 789 00:32:37.620 --> 00:32:39.980 It only wants instant gratification. 790 00:32:39.980 --> 00:32:42.140 You know, it is corrupt. 791 00:32:42.140 --> 00:32:45.060 That is what it is, and you live inside of it, okay? 792 00:32:45.060 --> 00:32:48.220 You're having your life, your spirit lives inside of it. 793 00:32:48.220 --> 00:32:51.100 So the Bible has lots of instruction 794 00:32:51.820 --> 00:32:52.660 on what to do about this. 795 00:32:52.660 --> 00:32:54.980 Follow after the spirit, so you will not what? 796 00:32:54.980 --> 00:32:56.420 Fulfill the lusts of the flesh. 797 00:32:56.420 --> 00:32:59.820 Doubt, unbelief, those are lusts of the flesh. 798 00:32:59.820 --> 00:33:04.340 You know, skepticism, you know, yeah. 799 00:33:04.340 --> 00:33:07.140 We want to, the more that we exercise 800 00:33:07.140 --> 00:33:09.380 the supernatural parts of ourself, 801 00:33:09.380 --> 00:33:12.180 kind of almost like going to the gym and building muscle, 802 00:33:12.180 --> 00:33:15.860 the more that you exercise those supernatural parts of you, 803 00:33:15.860 --> 00:33:18.820 the easier it's going to be for you to believe 804 00:33:18.820 --> 00:33:20.340 what God is saying rather than 805 00:33:20.340 --> 00:33:22.260 what your flesh is worrying about. 806 00:33:23.780 --> 00:33:26.700 Okay, it's just, that's what has to happen. 807 00:33:26.700 --> 00:33:31.540 And so, there's no shame in being like, 808 00:33:31.540 --> 00:33:33.420 oh, you know, is this for real? 809 00:33:33.420 --> 00:33:35.380 You know, well, your flesh doesn't think it's for real. 810 00:33:35.380 --> 00:33:36.740 Your flesh is always going to be waiting 811 00:33:36.740 --> 00:33:38.460 for the other shoe to drop. 812 00:33:38.460 --> 00:33:40.620 But your spirit is connected to God, 813 00:33:40.620 --> 00:33:44.020 and your spirit is going to begin to help you, 814 00:33:44.020 --> 00:33:47.300 your person, begin to speak what God is speaking 815 00:33:47.300 --> 00:33:50.260 and not speak what, you know, 816 00:33:50.260 --> 00:33:52.780 what your flesh would rather speak. 817 00:33:52.780 --> 00:33:55.020 Instead of complaining, instead of worrying, 818 00:33:55.020 --> 00:33:56.300 you're going to start speaking faith. 819 00:33:56.300 --> 00:33:57.540 You're going to start speaking life. 820 00:33:57.540 --> 00:33:59.100 You're going to start coming into agreement 821 00:33:59.100 --> 00:34:03.100 with what God is doing and not what, you know, 822 00:34:03.100 --> 00:34:04.540 your carnal reasoning. 823 00:34:04.540 --> 00:34:05.700 There's another scripture that says 824 00:34:05.700 --> 00:34:07.940 that the carnal reasoning, okay, 825 00:34:07.940 --> 00:34:09.739 so that's the way that we think just as humans, 826 00:34:09.739 --> 00:34:13.540 our human thinking, that it's actually the enemy 827 00:34:13.540 --> 00:34:16.060 of the supernatural or it's the enemy of God. 828 00:34:16.100 --> 00:34:19.780 So the carnal mind is the enmity against God 829 00:34:19.780 --> 00:34:22.820 or against the supernatural process that we're in. 830 00:34:22.820 --> 00:34:25.900 And so we don't want to lean into our own understanding. 831 00:34:25.900 --> 00:34:27.300 What does Proverbs say? 832 00:34:27.300 --> 00:34:29.300 Trust the Lord with all your heart 833 00:34:29.300 --> 00:34:31.260 and lean not to your own understanding. 834 00:34:31.260 --> 00:34:32.900 Once again, that's your carnal mind, 835 00:34:32.900 --> 00:34:35.860 but in all your ways, acknowledge him 836 00:34:35.860 --> 00:34:37.900 and he will direct your path, right? 837 00:34:37.900 --> 00:34:39.699 And so there's so many scriptures. 838 00:34:39.699 --> 00:34:42.540 And so my advice to you would be get in the word, 839 00:34:42.540 --> 00:34:45.940 know the word, rehearse the word, repeat the word, 840 00:34:46.780 --> 00:34:51.100 get it in you so it can come out of you, right? 841 00:34:51.100 --> 00:34:53.659 And that's how we follow after the spirit, you guys. 842 00:34:53.659 --> 00:34:57.100 And I talk about this in past Supernatural Saturdays, 843 00:34:57.100 --> 00:34:59.380 the war between the flesh and the spirit. 844 00:34:59.380 --> 00:35:00.580 That's what you're here. 845 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.280 do. You're not just here to prepare for a love story. You're here to improve your relationship 846 00:35:05.280 --> 00:35:11.600 with God, yourself, and then of course others. And so we want you to come alive spiritually. 847 00:35:11.600 --> 00:35:16.800 So Tanya, that is, now that you are, it sounds like a charismatic Christian, 848 00:35:17.680 --> 00:35:22.080 what is it, how do your, what are your parents, what's your relationship with your parents? 849 00:35:22.080 --> 00:35:29.440 Um, it's good. I mean, that's the type that it's very kind of, my parents are very passive. 850 00:35:30.320 --> 00:35:37.600 So, um, yeah. Are they still really religious? They're pretty Mennonite with their religion, 851 00:35:37.600 --> 00:35:43.360 with the big things, but, um, probably in the last two years after I moved out of the town, 852 00:35:43.360 --> 00:35:49.440 um, I'm seeing, and just, it's by prayer that, um, I definitely need to have more conversations 853 00:35:49.440 --> 00:35:56.000 with them. I can see and feel the hurt in the, in both of them. Um, my dad has just been this big, 854 00:35:56.000 --> 00:36:02.240 huge, um, business person in our town. So, so just growing up, I had that. I was the oldest child 855 00:36:02.240 --> 00:36:07.680 perfectionism. So I was the perfectionistic person. Are you the only adopted child or all 856 00:36:07.680 --> 00:36:13.360 the children adopted? It's a very, I'm, I was the first adopted and then my sister came two years 857 00:36:13.360 --> 00:36:18.960 later, but she's not biological and they did a lot of mission work. So they were gone doing all 858 00:36:18.960 --> 00:36:25.760 of God's work, which, you know, left us alone a lot, or just, um, you had to be certain way because 859 00:36:25.760 --> 00:36:32.560 you're these people's children. They would, they, we have, I have four others, uh, like sisters and 860 00:36:32.560 --> 00:36:38.240 brothers, but they were never by law adopted. They actually had parents. My mom would bring, 861 00:36:38.240 --> 00:36:42.960 they brought one person from Haiti. So he became my brother. They brought up my brother from Nepal. 862 00:36:42.960 --> 00:36:47.120 He became, they don't have any biological children, no biological children. And I'm 863 00:36:47.120 --> 00:36:51.680 just hearing that story, like in the last two years of the reasons that they had told us versus 864 00:36:51.680 --> 00:36:56.000 what was really true. And so they just have a lot of deep heart. When I went through my divorce 865 00:36:56.000 --> 00:37:01.520 because of multiple affairs, they couldn't be there for me because my dad was having affairs. 866 00:37:01.520 --> 00:37:06.160 So, and my mom couldn't be there because she basically told me in the Bible, it says to turn 867 00:37:06.160 --> 00:37:11.920 the other cheek. And so, okay. Yikes. All right. So lots, lots of, lots of stuff going on there, 868 00:37:11.920 --> 00:37:15.520 but you guys, for those of you raise your hand, if you were, if you were raised in some kind of 869 00:37:15.520 --> 00:37:22.240 legalistic religion, just like God, you know, sin. And if you do wrong, you're going to get punished. 870 00:37:22.240 --> 00:37:27.760 And, you know, just, I have a hard time connecting with God as a good father because of, you know, 871 00:37:27.760 --> 00:37:33.520 religious upbringings. Let's see those hands, quite a few of you raising your hands. Okay. 872 00:37:33.520 --> 00:37:38.880 It's going to be, you're peeling back. Like your sister said, onion layers, there are going to be 873 00:37:38.880 --> 00:37:45.040 layers of this because it's really important for us to be able to trust Lord. And we're not going 874 00:37:45.120 --> 00:37:51.280 to trust him overnight. We're not, we're not going to trust him overnight. Okay. He wants to prove to 875 00:37:51.280 --> 00:37:55.680 you that he is trustworthy, but you have to give him opportunities to do that by not controlling 876 00:37:55.680 --> 00:38:00.400 everything. And so that is what your Jesus cares board is for. How many of you have one? Let me see 877 00:38:00.400 --> 00:38:06.160 your hands. You should be making those in week one. Everyone's hand should be up guys. The Jesus 878 00:38:06.160 --> 00:38:13.600 cares board changed my life. Okay. It was a idea from the Lord. He gave me the idea to do it. 879 00:38:13.600 --> 00:38:19.600 It's like a prophetic activation of me removing my worry and all the things I was trying to control. 880 00:38:20.720 --> 00:38:27.840 Okay. I was a control freak. I was, I used to think that I was afraid of heights until my kids 881 00:38:27.840 --> 00:38:33.440 bought me a zip lining day for my birth for mother's day. I was like, what, why would you 882 00:38:33.440 --> 00:38:37.520 buy me a zip lining day? I don't like heights. I'm afraid of heights. They're like, mom, it'll be fun. 883 00:38:38.480 --> 00:38:42.880 And I'm like, this is terrible. I do not want to do this. And then when I got up there on the 884 00:38:42.880 --> 00:38:48.800 little platform, high, high, high above the trees, I looked down and I realized I'm not afraid of 885 00:38:48.800 --> 00:38:55.680 heights. I'm just a control freak. I do not want to put my wellbeing in the hands of something else 886 00:38:55.680 --> 00:39:01.120 or someone else. And that is really what I figured out that day. It was a, it was a revealing for 887 00:39:01.120 --> 00:39:07.520 healing. And so I just want to let you know that being in control is overrated because so many 888 00:39:07.520 --> 00:39:11.520 things that you think you're in control of, you really have very little to little control over. 889 00:39:12.240 --> 00:39:17.920 Um, and so that's what that board is all about. It's about you casting your care upon him because 890 00:39:17.920 --> 00:39:23.120 he cares for you. It's about you giving him control in areas where you continue to make 891 00:39:23.120 --> 00:39:29.920 matters worse. You're making matters worse and you need to give it to him. Some of those things 892 00:39:29.920 --> 00:39:34.240 you'll take down eventually because the problem will be solved. They'll, there'll be a resolution 893 00:39:34.240 --> 00:39:39.760 of some kind. And some of those things, they were never problems to begin with. You just made them 894 00:39:39.760 --> 00:39:46.080 problems. And so they'll just kind of fade away because they didn't need a resolution because 895 00:39:46.080 --> 00:39:52.000 they weren't problems. You just were creating a problem, a mountain where there was a molehill. 896 00:39:52.000 --> 00:39:56.960 Okay. So please make it, raise your hand if you haven't made it. 897 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.300 Looks like everyone made it. Oh, I saw one little hand go up. 898 00:40:04.000 --> 00:40:08.600 Guys, it doesn't have to be complicated. If you're not a crafty or creative person, it doesn't have to be a craft. 899 00:40:09.760 --> 00:40:11.760 It doesn't. 900 00:40:12.320 --> 00:40:14.400 It can just be, it can be a 901 00:40:15.160 --> 00:40:20.520 post-it note with some other post-it notes next to it. It doesn't have to be anything. That's what mine looks like. 902 00:40:21.160 --> 00:40:23.160 Mine's just a big post-it note 903 00:40:23.520 --> 00:40:25.520 with post-it notes on it. 904 00:40:25.520 --> 00:40:33.280 All right, but you guys, when I put stuff on there, I know that I'm giving that to the God. I'm giving it to him. 905 00:40:33.280 --> 00:40:36.520 I'm giving it to him, and I'm taking my hands off of it, and 906 00:40:37.120 --> 00:40:42.640 then I'm continually praying over my Jesus Cares Board, God, you know, I've given you permission to 907 00:40:43.200 --> 00:40:48.400 move in these areas, in these situations. I'm trusting that if you need my help, 908 00:40:49.520 --> 00:40:52.840 if there's something that I need to do in any of these areas in 909 00:40:52.880 --> 00:40:59.240 order for there to be breakthrough, that you will let me know, because I have given this over to you. Cool? 910 00:41:02.440 --> 00:41:07.520 All right, so I think that we got to an answer for Tanya, and that is that, yeah, 911 00:41:07.520 --> 00:41:12.560 we're going to be in process, but can I ask you something? Are you enjoying the process? A 912 00:41:13.720 --> 00:41:19.080 lot of times people don't stop to just enjoy their life where they are, because they're not where they want to be, and that's 913 00:41:19.080 --> 00:41:20.760 not what you want. 914 00:41:20.760 --> 00:41:27.160 Just enjoy your life right where you want to be, you know? That is something he told me last night, so. 915 00:41:27.600 --> 00:41:30.840 Yes, well, here's your confirmation. It is so big. 916 00:41:31.360 --> 00:41:34.520 And the forgiveness one was key. For anybody, 917 00:41:35.080 --> 00:41:42.320 we always, we know, like, forgive so we can be forgiven. Says it, we always hear it, but to truly forgive ourself 918 00:41:42.920 --> 00:41:44.920 for being controlling, 919 00:41:44.960 --> 00:41:46.600 surrendering your kids, 920 00:41:46.600 --> 00:41:51.600 trying to control your health, trying to control your wealth, trying to control your future. 921 00:41:51.680 --> 00:41:56.160 Like, those were big forgiveness things that I didn't realize I was holding on to myself. 922 00:41:56.160 --> 00:42:02.880 So, it's easier now that I've done this to go back and read who I'm forgiving. 923 00:42:03.280 --> 00:42:08.520 It just, it feels different. In my heart, even, it feels different to forgive an ex, to forgive. 924 00:42:09.480 --> 00:42:15.240 That's why, you guys, this is why I teach forgiveness the way that I do, and this is why God explained it to me the way 925 00:42:15.240 --> 00:42:19.600 that he did for it to become part of heart work. I had a lot of people to forgive. 926 00:42:19.920 --> 00:42:24.680 There are people that have done some heinous things to me on this earth ever since I was a child. 927 00:42:24.680 --> 00:42:29.000 I came out of my mother's womb running for my life, literally, okay? 928 00:42:29.000 --> 00:42:35.600 And so, how do you forgive stuff like that? How do you forgive stuff that's unforgivable? What does that even look like? 929 00:42:35.880 --> 00:42:39.080 Well, I'll tell you what it doesn't look like. It does not look like a feeling. 930 00:42:39.400 --> 00:42:48.200 It doesn't look like emotions at all. And that's why the Lord showed me, like, a ledger, like a ledger model, you know? 931 00:42:48.200 --> 00:42:52.040 Everyone knows what a ledger is. We're all old enough or young enough to understand. 932 00:42:52.040 --> 00:42:59.560 So, this is a book. Just say this is a ledger and say there's just a bunch of things that are owed in this ledger, debts, okay? 933 00:42:59.560 --> 00:43:05.120 An accounting ledger. And so, that is how you want to treat forgiveness. 934 00:43:05.240 --> 00:43:07.800 That's why I teach you how to make forgiveness templates. 935 00:43:08.360 --> 00:43:12.240 So, you can write down all the things that someone owes you. They owe you those debts. 936 00:43:12.240 --> 00:43:15.160 Remember our Lord's Prayer. What does it say? 937 00:43:15.160 --> 00:43:19.440 Forgive us of our debts as we forgive our debtors. That's what it says, right? 938 00:43:20.600 --> 00:43:24.720 So, you write down the debts that someone else owes you because they lied to you, because they cheated on you, 939 00:43:24.720 --> 00:43:31.080 because they hurt you, abused you, because they abandoned you, whatever it is, whatever they owe. 940 00:43:31.440 --> 00:43:38.800 And then you, by the power of the Holy Spirit, by the power that's been given to you to cancel someone else's debts, 941 00:43:38.800 --> 00:43:44.760 the Bible says the sin that you remit, the sin that is committed towards you that you retain will be retained. 942 00:43:45.600 --> 00:43:48.640 And the sin that you release and remit will be remitted. 943 00:43:48.640 --> 00:43:51.320 Do you know that you can hold on to someone else's sin? 944 00:43:52.560 --> 00:43:59.640 You're going to hold on? Someone else can be held in their sin because it was against you? 945 00:44:00.320 --> 00:44:04.600 And you only have the authority. Of course, God is the only one that forgives sin, right? 946 00:44:04.600 --> 00:44:11.400 But we saw Jesus show us the template of forgiving sin and releasing people from the things that they had done. 947 00:44:11.400 --> 00:44:15.320 And so, the bottom line is, is that we have to release these people. 948 00:44:15.320 --> 00:44:18.600 They are not their sin, just like you are not your pain. 949 00:44:20.000 --> 00:44:22.240 Their identity is not their sin. 950 00:44:22.240 --> 00:44:25.360 Yeah, maybe they cheated, but that doesn't make them a cheater. 951 00:44:25.360 --> 00:44:27.560 See how that crosses over into identity? 952 00:44:29.680 --> 00:44:31.520 They did something wrong. 953 00:44:31.520 --> 00:44:34.680 They abused, but that does not make them an abuser. 954 00:44:35.720 --> 00:44:37.800 You know why that can't be their identity? 955 00:44:37.800 --> 00:44:41.160 Because if that's their identity, then that has to be your identity too. 956 00:44:42.360 --> 00:44:44.640 Do you want to be the abused for the rest of your life? 957 00:44:44.640 --> 00:44:47.000 Do you want to be the cheated on for the rest of your life? 958 00:44:47.000 --> 00:44:49.160 Do you want to be the lied to for the rest of your life? 959 00:44:49.160 --> 00:44:52.680 No. So, we release them and then that's up to God. 960 00:44:52.680 --> 00:44:56.400 It's up to them and God if they want to step into their true identity. 961 00:44:56.400 --> 00:45:00.360 We release them from their sin and now that's on. 962 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.800 them, whether or not they want to step fully into their real identity in Jesus. 963 00:45:04.800 --> 00:45:05.800 But guess what? 964 00:45:05.800 --> 00:45:11.800 When we release them, it releases us from the identity of being the abused, from being 965 00:45:11.800 --> 00:45:14.960 the victim, from being the all those things. 966 00:45:14.960 --> 00:45:16.680 Isn't that amazing? 967 00:45:16.680 --> 00:45:19.620 It's a supernatural transaction. 968 00:45:19.620 --> 00:45:22.920 So write it down like a ledger and just simply cross it off. 969 00:45:22.920 --> 00:45:24.880 Do that forgiveness prayer for each one of you. 970 00:45:24.880 --> 00:45:27.520 I'm like, Jackie, it seems so ritualistic. 971 00:45:27.520 --> 00:45:30.600 You're just being obedient to the word of God. 972 00:45:30.600 --> 00:45:32.820 The Bible commands us to do this. 973 00:45:32.820 --> 00:45:35.460 He doesn't command us to feel like doing it. 974 00:45:35.460 --> 00:45:37.520 He doesn't command us to want to do it. 975 00:45:37.520 --> 00:45:44.080 He just commands us to forgive and you will be forgiven. 976 00:45:44.080 --> 00:45:46.800 Forgive your debtors and your debts will be canceled. 977 00:45:46.800 --> 00:45:48.280 That's it. 978 00:45:48.280 --> 00:45:51.480 And that's why it's important that feeling doesn't come into it because feeling will 979 00:45:51.480 --> 00:45:52.480 change. 980 00:45:52.480 --> 00:45:54.760 One day you'll be like, yes, this is the right thing to do. 981 00:45:54.760 --> 00:45:57.120 And the next day you'll be like, I hate that person. 982 00:45:57.120 --> 00:46:01.240 They're a dirty rod and no good. 983 00:46:01.240 --> 00:46:07.680 And that's why it's important that you understand that the healing from this forgiveness that 984 00:46:07.680 --> 00:46:10.840 we're doing will come in layers. 985 00:46:10.840 --> 00:46:16.000 Pretty soon you will not have any ill feelings towards that person anymore. 986 00:46:16.000 --> 00:46:17.200 You won't. 987 00:46:17.200 --> 00:46:23.720 But the reason why you still do is because healing takes some time. 988 00:46:23.720 --> 00:46:30.480 And so every time that a bad, negative thought about that person pops up in your head, all 989 00:46:30.480 --> 00:46:36.120 you have to do is bring out your receipts and be like, I forgave them. 990 00:46:36.120 --> 00:46:39.280 You know what, enemy flesh? 991 00:46:39.280 --> 00:46:40.600 I forgave them. 992 00:46:40.600 --> 00:46:41.600 Yep. 993 00:46:41.600 --> 00:46:44.560 I know what they did when it starts whispering in your ear, but you know what they did to 994 00:46:44.560 --> 00:46:45.560 you? 995 00:46:45.560 --> 00:46:46.560 Yes. 996 00:46:46.560 --> 00:46:47.560 But I released them from that. 997 00:46:47.560 --> 00:46:48.560 And guess what? 998 00:46:48.560 --> 00:46:51.760 That means I'm released from it too. 999 00:46:51.800 --> 00:46:55.560 And you might have to do that at first, depending on if you're still in a situation with that, 1000 00:46:55.560 --> 00:47:00.280 like say it's your former spouse and you're in a nasty custody battle with them. 1001 00:47:00.280 --> 00:47:03.960 You do a forgiveness template for all the things that they did to you in the marriage. 1002 00:47:03.960 --> 00:47:08.440 They lied, they cheated, there was spiritual abuse, there was financial abuse, and then 1003 00:47:08.440 --> 00:47:12.820 they have the audacity to try to sue you for custody of your children. 1004 00:47:12.820 --> 00:47:16.680 They have the audacity to try to get finances from you. 1005 00:47:16.680 --> 00:47:19.840 I mean, it's like insult to injury, right? 1006 00:47:19.840 --> 00:47:21.360 It's hard stuff to go through. 1007 00:47:21.360 --> 00:47:22.360 And I've walked with that. 1008 00:47:22.360 --> 00:47:26.520 I've walked through that scenario with so many women, so, so, so many people. 1009 00:47:26.520 --> 00:47:31.920 But the bottom line is, is that even if you're in a season with this person where it's still 1010 00:47:31.920 --> 00:47:38.720 volatile, if you do this, every time those feelings start to rise up inside of you about 1011 00:47:38.720 --> 00:47:44.920 how you feel about this person and what they've done to you, you can remind the opposing forces, 1012 00:47:44.920 --> 00:47:46.760 the devil, Satan, Lucifer, whatever. 1013 00:47:46.760 --> 00:47:54.900 You can remind that and you can remind your flesh that you have forgiven and released 1014 00:47:54.900 --> 00:47:58.760 and now you get to be forgiven and released, right? 1015 00:47:58.760 --> 00:48:00.080 And what does that include? 1016 00:48:00.080 --> 00:48:03.280 That includes from the aftermath of this. 1017 00:48:03.280 --> 00:48:09.600 I believe that when we forgive, God will allow us to have breakthrough in areas like this. 1018 00:48:09.600 --> 00:48:15.800 Now, it might not come overnight, but it will come and you just have to trust the Lord. 1019 00:48:15.840 --> 00:48:17.320 You know how I know that? 1020 00:48:17.320 --> 00:48:23.840 Because everything that Jesus died to give us on the cross is dependent on that verse, 1021 00:48:23.840 --> 00:48:26.400 forgive and you will be forgiven. 1022 00:48:26.400 --> 00:48:28.000 He died for us and as us. 1023 00:48:28.000 --> 00:48:32.200 And if we want to step into what that looks like to be on the finished work of the cross 1024 00:48:32.200 --> 00:48:37.720 with him seated in heavenly places, where all of the enemy's tactics and his ploys and 1025 00:48:37.720 --> 00:48:43.480 plots including the people that he uses are under our feet, we have to operate in forgiveness 1026 00:48:43.480 --> 00:48:45.080 first ourselves. 1027 00:48:45.080 --> 00:48:47.360 So we have access to that finished work of the cross. 1028 00:48:47.360 --> 00:48:49.360 Sharon, what do you got? 1029 00:48:53.360 --> 00:48:54.360 I'll take this. 1030 00:48:54.360 --> 00:48:56.520 Well, a couple of things. 1031 00:48:56.520 --> 00:49:04.160 What about contractors that did work, performed work that cost a lot of money and then I had 1032 00:49:04.160 --> 00:49:10.040 to hire somebody else to do it and when you say forgive them, does that mean like not 1033 00:49:10.040 --> 00:49:13.920 take them to small claims court to hold them accountable, like just forgive it? 1034 00:49:14.760 --> 00:49:19.320 That has to be something that you take up with the Lord, you know, that has to be something 1035 00:49:19.320 --> 00:49:20.800 that you take up with the Lord. 1036 00:49:20.800 --> 00:49:26.280 If restitution has to be paid, you guys, let me talk about forgiveness really quickly in 1037 00:49:26.280 --> 00:49:29.520 relationship with someone ongoing, okay? 1038 00:49:29.520 --> 00:49:33.600 For those of you that have kids that you're going to be raising with a former spouse, 1039 00:49:33.600 --> 00:49:34.600 let's talk about that. 1040 00:49:34.600 --> 00:49:41.720 Or maybe a parent that has, you know, been abusive in your life and you've forgiven them. 1041 00:49:41.720 --> 00:49:45.680 There's something called toxic forgiveness, believe it or not. 1042 00:49:45.680 --> 00:49:49.560 Now we are going to erase the ledger because God tells us to. 1043 00:49:49.560 --> 00:49:53.720 We're going to cancel the debts, but it's important that we understand that doesn't 1044 00:49:53.720 --> 00:49:58.200 mean forgiveness, doesn't mean reconciliation. 1045 00:49:58.200 --> 00:49:59.560 It's important that you understand that. 1046 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:03.740 This is why because a lot of people like for instance Tanya's mom 1047 00:50:04.240 --> 00:50:09.600 Like Tonya needed to get a divorce. It wasn't a divorce. It was a rescue mission. God wanted her out of there 1048 00:50:09.600 --> 00:50:12.280 She was being cheated on she was being abused 1049 00:50:12.520 --> 00:50:14.160 God wanted her out of there 1050 00:50:14.160 --> 00:50:20.840 But she couldn't go to her parents for advice and they couldn't understand what she was doing because mom had already been putting up with 1051 00:50:20.840 --> 00:50:22.720 the same thing 1052 00:50:22.720 --> 00:50:26.520 For a long time and mom was using a scripture out of contact 1053 00:50:26.520 --> 00:50:32.000 She was saying well, God tells us to forgive or God tells us to turn the other cheek because that's toxic forgiveness 1054 00:50:32.520 --> 00:50:35.840 when we allow someone to continue to abuse us and 1055 00:50:36.440 --> 00:50:39.540 We say we forgive them because that would be godly 1056 00:50:40.320 --> 00:50:43.080 Forgiveness requires changed behavior. It requires accountability 1057 00:50:43.760 --> 00:50:50.240 That's what it requires if we're going to stay in relationship. You can forgive someone and release them 1058 00:50:51.040 --> 00:50:56.380 But if you're gonna be in relationship with them still you cannot offer them forgiveness with 1059 00:50:56.840 --> 00:50:59.600 Reconciliation attached unless there's changed behavior and accountability 1060 00:51:00.500 --> 00:51:02.120 Got it 1061 00:51:02.120 --> 00:51:08.200 Now in Sharon's situation when someone has caused you financial ruin and they owe you legally 1062 00:51:08.300 --> 00:51:13.100 What happens if they have not just committed a sin, but they've also broken the law 1063 00:51:13.940 --> 00:51:15.940 Well, there's courts for that 1064 00:51:16.740 --> 00:51:19.420 There are and I know the Bible says not to take other 1065 00:51:19.820 --> 00:51:25.580 Brothers and sisters to court and I think that that is out of context. I think that that more has to do with 1066 00:51:26.300 --> 00:51:27.500 You know 1067 00:51:27.500 --> 00:51:35.540 partnerships that you were in together and different things like that and you know, just different like deeper kind of minutia of 1068 00:51:36.220 --> 00:51:38.220 relationships between believers 1069 00:51:38.220 --> 00:51:41.780 That only came together because they were both believers 1070 00:51:42.580 --> 00:51:47.540 Like I trusted you because you were a brother or sister in the faith and we did this financially together 1071 00:51:47.540 --> 00:51:50.540 You took advantage of me or this happened or that happened 1072 00:51:50.540 --> 00:51:54.180 I think it has to do with more of settling that kind of in a court of 1073 00:51:54.900 --> 00:51:58.220 your peers of other like believers and 1074 00:51:58.900 --> 00:52:02.060 Mediating that instead of taking it to the courts of the land 1075 00:52:03.180 --> 00:52:07.780 but if it's just a regular business arrangement that is governed by 1076 00:52:08.420 --> 00:52:10.420 legal things then 1077 00:52:10.620 --> 00:52:15.780 You know if you feel before the Lord that you need to go to small claims court because your 1078 00:52:16.380 --> 00:52:18.340 Person that rented your house 1079 00:52:18.340 --> 00:52:21.180 Ruined it or because you know, I mean then do it 1080 00:52:22.060 --> 00:52:24.260 Doesn't mean you can't forgive them. But yeah 1081 00:52:24.980 --> 00:52:26.980 Yeah 1082 00:52:27.780 --> 00:52:29.780 Okay, the thing is 1083 00:52:30.700 --> 00:52:36.140 So this is hard for me to talk about but I'm so glad you're here. So 1084 00:52:37.140 --> 00:52:41.900 Basically, I've kind of grown comfortable in my life. I'm not young. I 1085 00:52:42.900 --> 00:52:46.020 Haven't dated in probably 20 years or longer maybe 1086 00:52:47.140 --> 00:52:50.860 and so I'll join something and then just slam on the brakes and 1087 00:52:51.860 --> 00:52:57.260 Just because I don't know I guess I don't know why that's why I'm asking you 1088 00:52:57.260 --> 00:53:04.260 I don't understand why I want something so bad and I have the opportunity and then but this time I dove back in last night 1089 00:53:04.260 --> 00:53:07.660 I'm like, no, we're not going to join this and then not 1090 00:53:09.340 --> 00:53:11.340 Go through the program, you know, but 1091 00:53:12.100 --> 00:53:17.740 It's so easy for me to do that. Just just to just blow it off and not think twice 1092 00:53:18.500 --> 00:53:22.660 Okay. So here's what I want you to do. I want you to stop thinking about this program as 1093 00:53:23.620 --> 00:53:28.780 You dipping your foot back into the dating pool. I want you to be here for heart work right now 1094 00:53:28.780 --> 00:53:34.060 I want you to be here for an upgrade in your relationship with God and your relationship with yourself 1095 00:53:34.620 --> 00:53:38.020 Okay, the rest will come the desire for that 1096 00:53:38.900 --> 00:53:44.260 Will come and so a lot of you like I even saw someone put in the chat. Hey, I graduated from phase one 1097 00:53:44.260 --> 00:53:49.220 I did all the heart work, but I'm not ready to go to phase two. I'm not ready to talk about dating 1098 00:53:49.220 --> 00:53:51.340 I'm not ready to go be part of a dating challenge 1099 00:53:51.340 --> 00:53:54.860 You guys just want you to know that when you go to phase two, you're not gonna be forced into anything 1100 00:53:55.420 --> 00:54:01.540 You're not gonna get behind or have FOMO if you don't do like the dating challenge the dating challenge is optional 1101 00:54:01.540 --> 00:54:04.740 It's just something to help people get some momentum if that's what they want 1102 00:54:04.900 --> 00:54:08.820 But if that's not what you want, then this is your time 1103 00:54:09.500 --> 00:54:16.220 This this course belongs to you. Okay, the last year single. It's your last year single. It's not my last year single 1104 00:54:16.220 --> 00:54:21.740 It's not Karen's last year single. It is but hers is not the same as Kim's who's not the same as Tanya's or Lydia's 1105 00:54:21.980 --> 00:54:25.580 It's important. You understand that it's about what you feel grace for 1106 00:54:26.340 --> 00:54:30.740 We have all the tools and all the resources no matter what kind of pace you want to have 1107 00:54:30.740 --> 00:54:35.220 And so just know that that we're gonna be with you. We're gonna be in it with you 1108 00:54:35.220 --> 00:54:39.940 I'm gonna tell you some of you God's gonna put on a health journey before you ever start dating again 1109 00:54:40.460 --> 00:54:43.780 Because you've let yourself go you do not care for yourself 1110 00:54:43.780 --> 00:54:45.900 And how can you expect anyone else to care for you? 1111 00:54:45.900 --> 00:54:51.140 And you don't care for you if you're expecting to go find some man who's gonna treat you better than you treat yourself 1112 00:54:51.140 --> 00:54:52.500 And you're wrong 1113 00:54:52.500 --> 00:54:55.620 How you treat yourself is how other people won't treat you 1114 00:54:56.380 --> 00:55:00.020 Right and you haven't treated yourself. Well, and you're like 1115 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:01.360 Well, how do people know that? 1116 00:55:01.360 --> 00:55:02.860 They know by the way you look. 1117 00:55:04.680 --> 00:55:07.080 You can tell a woman who's been stressed out, 1118 00:55:07.080 --> 00:55:08.800 who's been a people pleaser, 1119 00:55:08.800 --> 00:55:11.080 who has put others before herself 1120 00:55:11.080 --> 00:55:13.200 toxically most of her life, 1121 00:55:13.200 --> 00:55:15.780 you can tell what she looks like in midlife. 1122 00:55:16.820 --> 00:55:18.280 By the time she gets to midlife, 1123 00:55:18.280 --> 00:55:19.680 she's usually overweight, 1124 00:55:19.680 --> 00:55:22.800 she's got all kinds of hormone issues, all right? 1125 00:55:22.800 --> 00:55:27.400 She, a bug just tried to fly in my mouth. 1126 00:55:27.400 --> 00:55:28.760 Where'd that bug come from? 1127 00:55:30.320 --> 00:55:32.840 The Lord of flies, the father of flies, y'all, 1128 00:55:32.840 --> 00:55:34.880 little fly just trying to fly in my mouth. 1129 00:55:34.880 --> 00:55:37.280 All right, seriously, I'm not over spiritualizing that, 1130 00:55:37.280 --> 00:55:38.780 I'm just joking. 1131 00:55:38.780 --> 00:55:42.160 But you can tell, you can tell. 1132 00:55:42.160 --> 00:55:44.840 If you have bad habits when you're younger, 1133 00:55:44.840 --> 00:55:48.420 not so much anymore, but back in the older days, 1134 00:55:48.420 --> 00:55:50.960 before all the crap that they put in our food 1135 00:55:50.960 --> 00:55:52.360 and all the hormone disruptors 1136 00:55:52.360 --> 00:55:54.520 and the stuff that we're dealing with now, 1137 00:55:54.520 --> 00:55:56.720 when you were young, you could have a lot of bad, 1138 00:55:56.720 --> 00:55:58.800 toxic habits, but no one would know it 1139 00:55:58.880 --> 00:56:02.640 because it hasn't taken its toll yet, right? 1140 00:56:03.840 --> 00:56:06.040 But that's not true anymore, right? 1141 00:56:06.040 --> 00:56:08.640 So a lot of you, you're gonna go to phase two, 1142 00:56:08.640 --> 00:56:12.080 but you're gonna be like trying to go find someone 1143 00:56:12.080 --> 00:56:14.400 to love you and to make you feel significant 1144 00:56:14.400 --> 00:56:16.360 and to make you feel like you're worth something, 1145 00:56:16.360 --> 00:56:18.400 but God's like, oh, hey, I wanna do that. 1146 00:56:19.640 --> 00:56:21.360 I want you to be the person 1147 00:56:21.360 --> 00:56:23.000 that thinks that you're worth something. 1148 00:56:23.000 --> 00:56:25.600 I want to heal your relationship with yourself 1149 00:56:25.600 --> 00:56:27.980 before we add another person in here. 1150 00:56:27.980 --> 00:56:30.980 We've had people lose over 100 pounds 1151 00:56:30.980 --> 00:56:32.220 in this program, you guys. 1152 00:56:32.220 --> 00:56:35.340 I know it's not a weight loss program, but it's not fat. 1153 00:56:35.340 --> 00:56:38.960 It's hurt, it's fear, it's abuse. 1154 00:56:38.960 --> 00:56:40.600 That's what it really was. 1155 00:56:40.600 --> 00:56:45.300 It was people-pleasing and lack of self-love. 1156 00:56:45.300 --> 00:56:46.960 And so we've had people lose weight. 1157 00:56:46.960 --> 00:56:49.620 We've had people heal autoimmune disorders. 1158 00:56:49.620 --> 00:56:54.140 We've had people overcome mental and physical illnesses. 1159 00:56:54.140 --> 00:56:57.780 We've had all kinds of people have gotten great makeovers 1160 00:56:58.580 --> 00:56:59.780 because they started caring for themselves. 1161 00:56:59.780 --> 00:57:00.620 They started looking. 1162 00:57:00.620 --> 00:57:04.020 I wish I had some pictures right now that I could show you. 1163 00:57:04.020 --> 00:57:08.260 I'll post them in your app 1164 00:57:08.260 --> 00:57:11.040 of just what people looked like when they came in 1165 00:57:11.040 --> 00:57:13.360 and what people looked like when they graduated. 1166 00:57:13.360 --> 00:57:15.900 They didn't look the same, all right? 1167 00:57:15.900 --> 00:57:18.040 They looked very different. 1168 00:57:18.040 --> 00:57:20.780 And so, yes, beauty from the inside, 1169 00:57:20.780 --> 00:57:23.580 but beauty from the inside, when we're beautiful inside, 1170 00:57:23.580 --> 00:57:26.660 it actually looks like something on the outside. 1171 00:57:26.660 --> 00:57:28.060 It does. 1172 00:57:28.060 --> 00:57:31.620 It looks like restored youth, restored vitality. 1173 00:57:31.620 --> 00:57:34.460 It looks like healthy BMI. 1174 00:57:34.460 --> 00:57:36.300 I'm not telling you you need to be a skinny mini 1175 00:57:36.300 --> 00:57:37.180 to attract a man. 1176 00:57:37.180 --> 00:57:39.000 We've had women of all shapes and sizes 1177 00:57:39.000 --> 00:57:40.500 get married through this program. 1178 00:57:40.500 --> 00:57:45.260 But I am telling you that if you're unhealthy, 1179 00:57:45.260 --> 00:57:47.760 you might not be able to enjoy that marriage for very long 1180 00:57:47.760 --> 00:57:50.740 before health problems start showing up at your doorstep. 1181 00:57:52.380 --> 00:57:55.260 And the number one predictor of health problems is obesity, 1182 00:57:55.260 --> 00:57:56.580 just so you know. 1183 00:57:57.340 --> 00:58:00.340 And then number two, if the way your body looks 1184 00:58:00.340 --> 00:58:05.260 is connected to some sort of toxic heart wound, 1185 00:58:05.260 --> 00:58:07.900 then that's definitely gonna have to be healed 1186 00:58:07.900 --> 00:58:09.940 before you get going forward. 1187 00:58:09.940 --> 00:58:10.760 Cool? 1188 00:58:11.980 --> 00:58:15.300 Well, hey, can I get a shout out to Pedro real quick? 1189 00:58:15.300 --> 00:58:18.100 He has a new program that's starting tonight 1190 00:58:18.100 --> 00:58:21.220 for the whole world. 1191 00:58:21.220 --> 00:58:26.220 He's doing YouTube at 4.30 starting tonight on Monday night. 1192 00:58:26.900 --> 00:58:28.980 On YouTube, on his channel. 1193 00:58:28.980 --> 00:58:31.420 We definitely wanna make sure that everyone's 1194 00:58:31.420 --> 00:58:32.980 in this program on Monday night. 1195 00:58:32.980 --> 00:58:35.580 So let's maybe not give that shout out here. 1196 00:58:35.580 --> 00:58:38.020 But 4.30, I don't know if you know about it, 1197 00:58:38.020 --> 00:58:41.700 but he just made the announcement today. 1198 00:58:41.700 --> 00:58:46.420 It's 4.30 every Monday night on his YouTube. 1199 00:58:46.420 --> 00:58:48.020 Okay, is it Sarah Shell? 1200 00:58:48.020 --> 00:58:49.780 Is that how we say your name? 1201 00:58:49.780 --> 00:58:50.860 Sarah Shell? 1202 00:58:50.860 --> 00:58:52.140 Okay, go ahead. 1203 00:58:53.140 --> 00:58:54.220 Like the first two weeks, 1204 00:58:54.220 --> 00:58:56.620 there was tons of memories just showing up, 1205 00:58:56.620 --> 00:58:58.380 but he wasn't saying necessarily 1206 00:58:58.380 --> 00:59:00.900 like what lies were associated with them. 1207 00:59:00.900 --> 00:59:01.980 Is that normal? 1208 00:59:01.980 --> 00:59:03.620 I mean, there's some memories that he's like, 1209 00:59:03.620 --> 00:59:05.540 and here's the lie that you believed about it. 1210 00:59:05.540 --> 00:59:06.380 Like, you know, like, 1211 00:59:06.380 --> 00:59:08.660 what do you want me to know about this, Lord? 1212 00:59:08.660 --> 00:59:12.220 And others, it was just like memories, you know, 1213 00:59:12.220 --> 00:59:13.500 of things that were just popping up. 1214 00:59:13.500 --> 00:59:14.540 And I just put them in my journal. 1215 00:59:14.540 --> 00:59:16.700 I'm like, okay, I'm just gonna trust you. 1216 00:59:16.700 --> 00:59:19.780 You're gonna tell me what I need to know about this. 1217 00:59:19.780 --> 00:59:22.060 Right, you know, sometimes it's just like a puzzle piece. 1218 00:59:22.060 --> 00:59:23.620 You know, sometimes we'll just have a feeling 1219 00:59:23.740 --> 00:59:26.020 like when we do a releasing of like forgiveness, 1220 00:59:26.020 --> 00:59:27.460 for instance, forgiveness template. 1221 00:59:27.460 --> 00:59:30.100 And then at the bottom of that, it says, you know, 1222 00:59:30.100 --> 00:59:32.300 tell me more about this situation. 1223 00:59:32.300 --> 00:59:33.460 You might not feel the more, 1224 00:59:33.460 --> 00:59:35.220 but you might just feel peace. 1225 00:59:35.220 --> 00:59:36.700 You might just feel like, you know, 1226 00:59:36.700 --> 00:59:37.940 weight has lifted off of you. 1227 00:59:37.940 --> 00:59:39.580 You might just feel like the release 1228 00:59:39.580 --> 00:59:41.740 that I'm talking about, and that's fine. 1229 00:59:41.740 --> 00:59:42.820 Just write that in your nose. 1230 00:59:42.820 --> 00:59:43.820 I just felt release. 1231 00:59:43.820 --> 00:59:45.580 I actually felt joy. 1232 00:59:45.580 --> 00:59:46.580 I felt happy. 1233 00:59:46.580 --> 00:59:48.500 I remembered a good thing. 1234 00:59:48.500 --> 00:59:49.540 Like for instance, you guys, 1235 00:59:49.540 --> 00:59:51.740 when I was doing the forgiveness template for my mom, 1236 00:59:51.780 --> 00:59:54.620 who was my biggest abuser, okay? 1237 00:59:54.620 --> 00:59:55.740 She didn't try to be. 1238 00:59:55.740 --> 00:59:57.140 She wasn't an evil person, 1239 00:59:57.140 --> 00:59:58.660 but she was a very broken person 1240 00:59:58.660 --> 01:00:00.260 and broken people break people. 1241 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:01.000 Okay. 1242 01:00:01.000 --> 01:00:06.040 So when I did the forgiveness template for her, I had like pages of stuff from my mom 1243 01:00:06.040 --> 01:00:10.560 of just incidents where she embarrassed me or humiliated me, where she verbally abused 1244 01:00:10.560 --> 01:00:11.560 me. 1245 01:00:11.560 --> 01:00:14.240 Like I went through you guys and I forgave my mom for each thing. 1246 01:00:14.240 --> 01:00:16.960 I didn't lump stuff together. 1247 01:00:16.960 --> 01:00:21.800 I said, I forgive my mom for the time that she slapped me in front of, in my face in 1248 01:00:21.800 --> 01:00:22.800 front of my friend. 1249 01:00:22.800 --> 01:00:26.080 I forgive the time where my mom dumped lemonade over my head. 1250 01:00:26.080 --> 01:00:27.080 I forgive the time. 1251 01:00:27.080 --> 01:00:28.400 I mean, I've got stuff. 1252 01:00:28.400 --> 01:00:29.400 Okay. 1253 01:00:29.400 --> 01:00:31.640 These are real, real things that happen. 1254 01:00:31.640 --> 01:00:36.800 But I will tell you that what happened as a result of that, you know, sometimes God 1255 01:00:36.800 --> 01:00:39.120 would tell me like what was going on in her own life. 1256 01:00:39.120 --> 01:00:42.440 My mom, first of all, she had me really young at 20 years old. 1257 01:00:42.440 --> 01:00:45.360 She was married three times before I was 10 years old. 1258 01:00:45.360 --> 01:00:46.360 Okay. 1259 01:00:46.360 --> 01:00:48.360 To three different abusive men. 1260 01:00:48.360 --> 01:00:51.120 And so my mom had a lot of stuff going on. 1261 01:00:51.120 --> 01:00:52.120 Okay. 1262 01:00:52.120 --> 01:00:57.000 But the bottom line is that one thing that started happening for me is I actually started 1263 01:00:57.000 --> 01:00:59.760 remembering good memories. 1264 01:00:59.760 --> 01:01:04.920 Like I had no good memories of my childhood, like nothing. 1265 01:01:04.920 --> 01:01:11.680 And as I begin to release all of this abuse and trauma and drama, I started to remember 1266 01:01:11.680 --> 01:01:13.840 some good things that happened. 1267 01:01:13.840 --> 01:01:18.080 Oh, that time that my mom and I sat under the pine tree up in the woods in Pennsylvania 1268 01:01:18.080 --> 01:01:23.200 and wrote a song together when I was like 11 years old, the time that, you know, start 1269 01:01:23.200 --> 01:01:25.640 remembering some good stuff. 1270 01:01:25.640 --> 01:01:26.640 Okay. 1271 01:01:27.280 --> 01:01:29.600 And so that kind of stuff will happen too. 1272 01:01:29.600 --> 01:01:32.320 So, so you're right on the right track there, sister. 1273 01:01:32.320 --> 01:01:33.320 Just keep going. 1274 01:01:33.320 --> 01:01:34.320 All right. 1275 01:01:34.320 --> 01:01:35.320 Nicole, what do you got? 1276 01:01:35.320 --> 01:01:36.320 Hi. 1277 01:01:36.320 --> 01:01:45.440 Um, I kind of just wanted to like share like a quick like testimony, um, that this program 1278 01:01:45.440 --> 01:01:47.880 really has been doing in my life. 1279 01:01:47.880 --> 01:01:53.720 Uh, I don't know if you, well, I know, you know, Tammy, Tammy, I go to a Life Center 1280 01:01:53.720 --> 01:01:54.720 Church, J-Hop. 1281 01:01:54.720 --> 01:01:55.720 Yeah. 1282 01:01:55.800 --> 01:01:56.800 Awesome. 1283 01:01:57.800 --> 01:01:58.800 Yeah. 1284 01:01:58.800 --> 01:01:59.800 She's my lead pastor. 1285 01:01:59.800 --> 01:02:00.800 I love pastor Tammy. 1286 01:02:00.800 --> 01:02:01.800 She's great. 1287 01:02:01.800 --> 01:02:02.800 Yeah. 1288 01:02:02.800 --> 01:02:06.560 She's, she's super passionate and sweet and I love her. 1289 01:02:06.560 --> 01:02:14.080 But, uh, in August she had given me like your book and I was like, okay, I'll read it. 1290 01:02:14.080 --> 01:02:18.080 And I mean, I had just broken up with somebody like a few months before and it was like this 1291 01:02:18.080 --> 01:02:19.080 crazy situation. 1292 01:02:19.080 --> 01:02:20.080 So I was like, okay, whatever. 1293 01:02:20.080 --> 01:02:21.080 I'll read it. 1294 01:02:21.440 --> 01:02:26.040 Um, and I read it and yeah, you know, like I feel like the Lord did honor that time that 1295 01:02:26.040 --> 01:02:31.320 I, I read it and I felt like I did have some like kind of breakthrough, but, um, several 1296 01:02:31.320 --> 01:02:36.200 months later, like I sort of like, well, not several months later, I have feelings for 1297 01:02:36.200 --> 01:02:37.200 this person. 1298 01:02:37.200 --> 01:02:38.200 And I was like, God, take this out. 1299 01:02:38.200 --> 01:02:39.880 I don't want to have feelings for anybody. 1300 01:02:39.880 --> 01:02:42.560 And he's like, can you please give me a year? 1301 01:02:42.560 --> 01:02:43.960 And I was like, okay. 1302 01:02:43.960 --> 01:02:48.160 And then Tammy ends up like being like, Hey, Nicole, do you want me to get married? 1303 01:02:48.160 --> 01:02:49.720 And I'm like, yeah, of course. 1304 01:02:49.720 --> 01:02:54.440 Like that's a desire in my heart long story short, she introduces me to your program and 1305 01:02:54.440 --> 01:02:55.920 it says last year single. 1306 01:02:55.920 --> 01:02:59.320 And I was like, okay, God, why are you doing that? 1307 01:02:59.320 --> 01:03:02.080 Like you just helped me to give you a year anyway. 1308 01:03:02.080 --> 01:03:07.400 So I go and I stopped in my heart and I'm like, okay, fine, I'll join the program. 1309 01:03:07.400 --> 01:03:13.480 I mean, I've spoken with you before at the church and I just think you're just a wonderful 1310 01:03:13.480 --> 01:03:14.720 God fearing woman. 1311 01:03:14.720 --> 01:03:17.440 And I'm like, I trust that. 1312 01:03:17.440 --> 01:03:25.400 And in this process, like the way that the Lord has like, undone me and deepened my relationship 1313 01:03:25.400 --> 01:03:30.000 with him is absolutely it's just crazy. 1314 01:03:30.000 --> 01:03:37.040 I feel so good about all the like the things that like showed up that if I if they would 1315 01:03:37.040 --> 01:03:43.840 have showed up in August, I don't think I would have genuinely accepted the process 1316 01:03:43.840 --> 01:03:47.880 of healing and the forgiveness of like the things I needed to forgive and especially 1317 01:03:47.880 --> 01:03:53.480 when it came to me and like even how I have relationship with God. 1318 01:03:53.480 --> 01:03:58.840 So I just wanted to share that testimony because it's just been really encouraging and I don't 1319 01:03:58.840 --> 01:04:03.520 know what phase two has and I don't know what God has when it comes to this person I like, 1320 01:04:03.520 --> 01:04:07.880 but I'm just really I'm just enjoying just like the sweetness of just like letting go 1321 01:04:07.880 --> 01:04:13.840 of like this hard part and just softening it to like God's like process and letting 1322 01:04:13.840 --> 01:04:17.800 go of like control or my understanding of things. 1323 01:04:17.800 --> 01:04:21.440 So yeah, I just wanted to share that that testimony with you. 1324 01:04:21.440 --> 01:04:23.000 That's awesome, Nicole. 1325 01:04:23.000 --> 01:04:24.000 I love it. 1326 01:04:24.000 --> 01:04:25.000 I love that. 1327 01:04:25.000 --> 01:04:27.400 And you guys, that's often how God works. 1328 01:04:27.400 --> 01:04:34.400 You know, he just works in, you know, just not not the timing that we're expecting, but 1329 01:04:34.400 --> 01:04:35.720 you know, we have tipping points. 1330 01:04:35.720 --> 01:04:40.800 We have moments where God calls us into a tipping point where it's like things that 1331 01:04:40.800 --> 01:04:42.160 we've tried in the past. 1332 01:04:42.160 --> 01:04:43.160 Nothing ever happened with that. 1333 01:04:43.160 --> 01:04:48.280 And then all of a sudden we're doing something similar to it and boom, we're having breakthrough. 1334 01:04:48.280 --> 01:04:52.800 And that's because it's a situation where things were being chipped away and now we're 1335 01:04:52.800 --> 01:04:54.580 having this tipping point. 1336 01:04:54.580 --> 01:04:57.820 And if you want that kind of momentum, you have to keep going. 1337 01:04:57.820 --> 01:04:59.320 You have to keep going. 1338 01:04:59.320 --> 01:05:00.040 That's the most important. 1339 01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:03.840 thing. For those of you that live in the New York, New Jersey area, this month, at the end of the 1340 01:05:03.840 --> 01:05:08.480 month, we're having a conference up in Jersey at the King of Kings Church. So if you want to come 1341 01:05:08.480 --> 01:05:14.080 and see me in person up there, we'll be putting out the registration info in all of your groups. 1342 01:05:14.080 --> 01:05:18.160 It should be in your resource section of your groups. If it's not already there, it will be 1343 01:05:18.160 --> 01:05:23.200 there very soon. And we'd love to see you guys in person. So come see us in person. 1344 01:05:24.160 --> 01:05:30.000 Can I say something to what you just said? Because it's so true. Because the fact that I 1345 01:05:30.000 --> 01:05:36.000 had just finished this fifth week, something came up to try to discourage me. And I was like, 1346 01:05:36.000 --> 01:05:40.080 what am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? And I almost didn't even hop on this call. 1347 01:05:40.080 --> 01:05:46.320 And then now I'm just like, wow, it's so true. Something will always try to steal what God is 1348 01:05:46.320 --> 01:05:50.400 trying to do in your life. But you just have to keep moving forward. And that's something that 1349 01:05:50.400 --> 01:05:56.080 I've never really done myself. It's like, keep going. I'll always stop in something. But it 1350 01:05:56.080 --> 01:06:01.760 feels good to keep going. You guys, we have to. We have to keep going. We will never know. 1351 01:06:01.760 --> 01:06:07.680 Look, if you believe that you prayed and you asked God for help, and then all of a sudden 1352 01:06:07.680 --> 01:06:13.040 help comes, and maybe it's not always in the package that you expected to be in, but you just 1353 01:06:13.040 --> 01:06:20.000 prayed and now help is here, right? You just have to go with it. And you have to stick with it 1354 01:06:20.000 --> 01:06:24.560 until that breakthrough comes. You just have to. That's what's the most important thing. 1355 01:06:24.560 --> 01:06:29.200 So whether it's an exercise routine, whether it's a diet, a lot of people quit diets because they 1356 01:06:29.200 --> 01:06:34.320 don't get fast results. You're not supposed to get fast results with something that's healthy. 1357 01:06:35.200 --> 01:06:40.320 Okay? You're going to get results. It's important to get results, but they might be kind of slow at 1358 01:06:40.320 --> 01:06:46.480 first until they start ramping up. Same thing with anything. And so that's why that, once again, 1359 01:06:46.480 --> 01:06:51.280 that list of things that try to get us derailed at the beginning of this process, I put that at 1360 01:06:51.280 --> 01:06:57.360 the beginning of your program. Distractions, disruptions, all different types of hell trying 1361 01:06:57.360 --> 01:07:03.520 to break loose on you. You have the authority to speak peace to those storms, especially since all 1362 01:07:03.520 --> 01:07:08.160 they're trying to do is distract you. Nothing's a coincidence, you guys. And if something starts 1363 01:07:08.160 --> 01:07:12.000 happening right when you're trying to better yourself, you bet your bottom dollar that the 1364 01:07:12.000 --> 01:07:18.960 enemy is trying to get you to back up and sit down. And so don't do it. All right? Because it's not 1365 01:07:18.960 --> 01:07:24.320 just about you. Just so you know, this is about your lineage and legacy. It's not just about you 1366 01:07:24.320 --> 01:07:30.800 getting breakthrough. It's about you setting the tone and the cadence of breakthrough for all the 1367 01:07:30.800 --> 01:07:36.480 people that are coming after you in this family line. You get to be the person, the kinsman, 1368 01:07:36.480 --> 01:07:41.840 redeemer, if you want to be. And so I believe that that's why you're here. In fact, I used to 1369 01:07:41.840 --> 01:07:45.680 say this is a program for kinsmen redeemers because, you know, there's eight plus billion 1370 01:07:45.680 --> 01:07:51.280 people in the world. And I think that to date, we've only served like 3000. You do the math. 1371 01:07:51.280 --> 01:07:55.840 We've helped 1600 people get married. We've only served 3000. How many of those people you think 1372 01:07:55.840 --> 01:08:01.600 stayed on the course? A lot of people drop out. They quit. You know, those are crazy good numbers, 1373 01:08:01.600 --> 01:08:06.560 I would say, as far as helping people get engaged and married in the last four years, 1374 01:08:07.280 --> 01:08:11.600 especially when you juxtaposition it with how many people have actually signed up for this course. 1375 01:08:12.400 --> 01:08:17.840 That's more than half. Okay. And I'm going to tell you, a lot of people quit before they ever 1376 01:08:17.840 --> 01:08:22.880 get started in here. And so if you're one of the people that actually gets all the way through 1377 01:08:22.880 --> 01:08:30.240 into phase three, then you're going to be in the minority. And those are the people that get 1378 01:08:30.240 --> 01:08:36.000 success because that's why God has you here. And some people get quicker success than others as far 1379 01:08:36.000 --> 01:08:41.520 as just meeting the guy that they marry. Some people meet them as soon as they start in phase 1380 01:08:41.520 --> 01:08:45.920 two, like boom. Some of them meet them in phase one and have to push them off until they get to 1381 01:08:45.920 --> 01:08:49.520 phase two because they're in a dating sabbatical. And some people don't meet them until they're in 1382 01:08:49.520 --> 01:08:55.120 phase three for a while. But I'm telling you, if you do the hard work, which is the work, 1383 01:08:55.120 --> 01:09:01.200 if you do the work, you will get the results. This is where it all stems from right here. Phase 1384 01:09:01.200 --> 01:09:06.960 one is the secret sauce. And you're going to use these tools throughout phase two. They're 1385 01:09:06.960 --> 01:09:11.120 going to be strengthened and reinforced. You're going to use these tools all throughout phase three 1386 01:09:11.840 --> 01:09:16.880 and it's going to be great. All right, you guys, I got to run. Some of you got to run 1387 01:09:16.880 --> 01:09:21.760 too. I see that. It's been a pleasure to coach you. I'll be here again tonight because Bethany 1388 01:09:21.760 --> 01:09:27.359 is sick. Say a prayer for her. We want her back feeling healthy. And this is in recording and so 1389 01:09:27.359 --> 01:09:32.800 will the 8 p.m. session. And you can find it in your replays in your app. Check out your resource 1390 01:09:32.800 --> 01:09:39.680 section. We do have a singles cruise coming up. All of you will be graduated by then. It's January 1391 01:09:39.680 --> 01:09:45.279 2026. It's very affordable. I think that the down payment is only $120 and then you can make like 1392 01:09:45.279 --> 01:09:52.160 $100 payments for, you know, a year or something. I don't know all the details of it, but the 1393 01:09:52.160 --> 01:09:59.040 details are there in your resource page. Can't wait to go to Cartagena on our last trip single 1394 01:09:59.040 --> 01:09:59.920 at the end of April with 1395 01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:01.480 those ladies that are going on that. 1396 01:10:01.480 --> 01:10:05.120 We do have a singles conference up in Jersey. 1397 01:10:05.120 --> 01:10:07.600 We will be having a single conference here 1398 01:10:07.600 --> 01:10:08.600 in Austin, Texas. 1399 01:10:08.600 --> 01:10:09.560 Dates to be announced, 1400 01:10:09.560 --> 01:10:12.080 but it will be late spring, early summer. 1401 01:10:12.080 --> 01:10:13.320 That's gonna be really amazing 1402 01:10:13.320 --> 01:10:16.400 if you can come in person and be here for that. 1403 01:10:16.400 --> 01:10:19.840 And I think that's it for now, all right? 1404 01:10:19.840 --> 01:10:20.920 I'll talk to you guys soon. 1405 01:10:20.920 --> 01:10:21.760 Have a great one. 1406 01:10:21.760 --> 01:10:22.600 Bye, everyone.