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Hello, everybody. Welcome to mindset Monday. Happy Monday is

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St. Patrick's Day. If y'all don't have green out, we're

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gonna virtually pinch y'all. I figured out how to do it. No,

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I'm kidding. Um, how do y'all celebrate St. Patrick's Day?

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Yeah. Is that like a thing for you guys? Yeah, I'm seeing some

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I'm seeing some people in green. Hey, I see Kara, I see Mildred

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in green. April, Natalie, myself. Um, hello, everybody.

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Welcome to mindset Monday. And happy St. Patrick's Day. It's

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actually a really cool holiday. And Natalie really likes it one

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of our success coaches. So we're not going to get it. We're not

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like going to talk about St. Patrick's Day. But it's just fun

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to acknowledge a fun holiday. I'm all about celebrating at

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any time that we can. So I got my green on. But yeah, welcome,

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everybody. So today we have something so special for you

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guys. You know, in this call, we've really stepped up this

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year on how to like step into being a whole person. Right?

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Like you've noticed, we've talked about health, we've

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talked, we talk about wealth, we talk about relationships, we

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want to touch on all of these things, because our minds are

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directly connected to all parts of our life. So it would be we

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would be like a myth to say, Okay, let me talk about our

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mind, but like not talk about relationships, right? And you

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hear Steven and Chelsea say, like, what's the point of

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becoming a millionaire, six, seven, eight figure business

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owner, but your relationships are like on fire, or you can

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barely like take care of yourself. We don't want that.

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Okay, we want to tend to the whole person. And as you know,

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the vision of this call every Monday is to get your mind

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right, and to get you pumped up for what is in store for you

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today, and this week. So before I bring Natalie on, I just want

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to all the success coaches, you guys know our team. But if you

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are a success coach, and on the call right now, if you could

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raise your virtual hand, so we can just say hello to you and

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welcome them. You guys know our success coach team, like our

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joy and our giftings, our superpowers are to walk alongside

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of you mentor you coach you to building a business. So we got

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Janine, we've got April, we've got Mildred, we've got Natalie,

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and we've got two others who are not able to be on the call in

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the moment. But this team is just all I love that Cynthia

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just said, Thank you, coaches. Like, that's so sweet, because,

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you know, they're here to walk alongside of you, and see you

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honestly, like reach your dreams, reach your goals, who

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knows, like, a lot of us need that in our lives for a season,

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right. And so, as as we you guys have been picking up, if it's

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your first time here, I'll just say after this call, we have a

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15 minute q&a after party on what does it look like to work

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with a success coach? Okay, so I'm answering all questions,

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success coach related hiring a coach working with a coach. I'm

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also going to share a little test, we share a little

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testimony of how this call relates to our personal lives.

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So that's also in the after party, and we just have a good

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time. So if any of you are on the fence, or you're like,

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what's this about? Stay on with us after and we will get you all

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the deets for that. Okay. And last thing I'm going to say is

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we've got March gladness going on this month. Okay, so and it

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just makes me smile every time I say it. And you know, I've got

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my green, I've got my little gold on because the end of the

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month, March 31, we're going to pull from the pot of gold. And I

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think eight of you are going to win a complimentary second eye

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session with each of the success coaches, myself, and Melissa,

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who is a month my like big into money mindset. Okay, so there's

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like, something on the table with all of us. And how do you

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get entered to be in that drawing for the 31st? Well,

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guess what, all you need to do is show up live on this Mindset

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Monday call for the next couple of weeks before the 31st, and

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you get your name entered into it. So with that said, April, if

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you could drop so April is about to drop all the links from our

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call. Mildred just dropped the March gladness form. So make

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sure you grab that and fill that out. And then I'm just like

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trying something new today where

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we're just like giving you all the links at once.

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So you can like copy and paste those and just have them all.

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So we're gonna drop you an attendance link.

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we're gonna, I don't remember what we're gonna do.

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we've got a link for that.

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If you wanna give us feedback, we got a link for that.

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Okay, so we wanna drop those links for you guys.

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April, are you okay?

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She's working on it, she's working on it.

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But in the meantime, grab the March Gladness form.

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That's for you guys for this month.

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And we're just, we're excited about this.

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Also get excited because the 31st

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is basically gonna be like a big party.

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Okay, we're gonna just celebrate.

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We're just gonna do something like fun,

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something different on the 31st.

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On top of, you know, getting all of the winners,

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we're going, drawing the winners.

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We're just gonna celebrate

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because celebration is so important for our lives, okay?

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For like the wellbeing of our minds

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and all of ours is just so excited.

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So the March Monday Gladness form

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was just dropped by Mildred.

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You should be able to get that.

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And then we're gonna have other links dropped

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for you here in a minute, okay?

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So we're gonna transition now into our topic for today.

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And it's something that's very, no, no, we're not.

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What I'm actually going to do is

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I'm going to also copy and paste

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and drop all of the calls in the community this week.

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Okay, and what to expect on Tuesday,

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what to expect on Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday.

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This is also at the top of the Facebook group

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and it's gonna be in the app

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and it's gonna be right here in the chat, okay?

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So make sure you take a picture of that or copy and paste,

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I just dropped that.

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That is what the rest of the calls are for this week

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in our community and our other coaching.

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And then we've got all the other links just dropped for you.

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And so make sure you grab all those.

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I don't want you to be overwhelmed.

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I just want you to take note, which one like is for me,

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right, do I wanna leave a testimonial?

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Do I wanna leave feedback?

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Do I want some one-on-one coaching?

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Attendance link and March Gladness form are there too.

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So we've got all the links for you.

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All right, so today is a special topic

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that Natalie is gonna bring to you all

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because she just has a lot of passion and compassion

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for the topic that we have today, okay?

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So kind of in the spirit of looking at who am I as a whole,

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like what does it mean for me to show up

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in business, what does it mean for me

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to show up in relationship?

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what does it mean to be whole?

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Like, what does that look like for me as a person?

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What does that look like for me in business?

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Okay, so y'all get excited because you matter.

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The whole of you matters.

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If you're excelling in one area, but you're not in others,

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then I, we wanna look at that.

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We wanna take a look at that.

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That's important to shed light to.

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So with that, I'm gonna pass it to you, Natalie.

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Thank you so much, Danielle.

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I appreciate you introing me, that was awesome.

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You guys, I'm super passionate about this subject

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because I've worked with so many people

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that deal with this issue.

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So my topic for today is the power

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and the purpose of singleness.

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We have a lot of single women on our platform,

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and so this is gonna apply to you all,

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but it's also gonna apply to all you married people too,

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because the power of singleness is that you know

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who you are as a singularly whole person,

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and you're operating out of that,

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whether you're single or you're married.

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And so this is for everybody as a human being.

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So we're gonna explore the power

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and the purpose of singleness and how it serves

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as the foundation for all our relationships,

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including marriage and business.

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And I'm gonna share with you some keys

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to get the most out of this training,

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because this isn't a training about singleness

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or how to survive it.

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It's life training on being singularly whole.

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So I want you to read between the lines

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because there's lots of questions in this training

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for a reason.

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It's to invoke responses in you to seek out more questions

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and more answers in this area of your life.

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So singleness is not just...

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a phase, it's a critical state of being

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that shapes your identity, your relationships,

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your businesses, and your very future, okay?

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is why is singleness more important in marriage

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and how does it impact my life,

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my relationships, and my business?

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So we're gonna start out at the foundation of singleness

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because when we are all born,

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we all start out as an individual.

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or in relationship with another person.

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We come in by ourselves and we leave by ourselves.

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Before entering into a committed relationship,

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our partners, individuals thrive

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when they first become established

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in a strong sense of identity,

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who they are, a purpose for their life,

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and the direction that they're supposed to take in life.

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Your singleness is the blueprint for your relationships.

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If you don't know how to be single

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or what I call singularly whole,

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you won't know how to be married either.

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for healthy relationships,

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it's also the foundation for a healthy business practices

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and partnerships.

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like being whole and independent on your own,

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you're really gonna struggle to lead well,

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to innovate and to build sustainable businesses

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that last long-term.

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So when we talk about singleness,

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there's some myths that everybody believes.

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And the first one is singleness means loneliness.

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This could not be further from the truth

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because singleness is actually a state of wholeness,

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of completeness and self-discovery.

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Being alone is about isolation.

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Singleness is about awareness and growth.

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not feel alone.

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because loneliness comes from a place

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of not being singularly whole.

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If you're lonely, you need to get to the root of why.

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It's that self-awareness of why am I lonely?

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Why am I feeling this way?

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where is this lonely coming from?

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It's that journey that we go on

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that brings us to this wholeness

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that we can walk in as a singular person.

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that you need to rely on others to fill your gaps

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or build your business for you in order to succeed.

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But the truth is success in business

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starts with self-mastery.

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Being singularly whole means that you're not dependent

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on anybody else for validation, direction, or confidence.

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strong decision-making skills,

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resilience, and true leadership.

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because I'm not saying that you don't have others

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on your team.

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But what it does mean is you've taken time

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to master the skills that you need to

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to be a strong business leader

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and that you know who you are as a business owner

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before you invite others along in on your journey.

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So now we're gonna go into the purpose of singleness.

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Your marriage is only gonna be as good as your singleness.

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Marriage doesn't improve your singleness.

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and everything's gonna be fine

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and like somehow, you know, you live happily ever after,

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it's just not true, right?

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it doesn't take very many days into the honeymoon

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for some sort of conflict to come up.

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that will manifest and all of a sudden,

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your spouse is gonna see a part of you

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that they never saw before

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because marriage exposes things about yourself

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that are often quite ugly.

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are you singularly whole and healthy

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and ready for a marriage commitment

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or is there still more work that you need to do on yourself?

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If you knew everything about yourself that you do,

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would you marry you?

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as a business leader,

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would you want to partner with yourself?

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Because your business partners are only as strong as your individual wholeness as well.

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And you bring to your team, the wholeness that you carry.

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So you can't do it all by yourself.

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on to your team in order to scale.

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But hiring people that you know are healthy, whole people and not just people that can

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rescue you from what you don't know how to do is a really important skill to have.

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do something and they don't know how to do it.

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And they feel like they can't fire that person because they don't know how to do that skill.

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And so there is this health that comes when you know how to do the skills, the basic skills

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that you need to be the business owner that you're called to be.

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And you're able to invite people along your journey, invite people into your business

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that are healthy and whole and can add value and strength to your company, but not have

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the element of codependency.

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heart because I can relate with the whole idea of being codependent.

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And I was able to be just totally honest with myself and say, I was actually looking for

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that person to give not maybe completely me, but more like give me something that I wasn't

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able to do or willing to learn how to do.

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whole and healthy and communicative and cares about themselves, then guess what?

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I need to be that person.

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I need to show up like that.

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And I know for some of us, this can be like kind of a touchy subject, like and Tara's

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like dropping some truth bombs.

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It's like, yes, like that's what we're here for, to bring truth and love, you know, together.

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And so, yeah, I just wanted to share that.

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That's really good.

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Really good.

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So the power of singleness comes when we understand that we are separate people that were unique,

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original and distinctive.

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And so what healthy self love here looks like is I am in a healthy state of love with myself

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because I know my value and I know my identity.

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You know, when I, when, when, for those of you who don't know, my husband passed away

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about five years ago.

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interdependent on each other.

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But I, a lot of my identity was wrapped up in, you know, being Dan's wife or being my

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kid's mother.

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And I really had to go on that journey of finding out who, who am I though, outside

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of that?

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Where is my identity and value outside of what I had put value and identity in, in that

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season of my life?

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And I know a lot of you have transitioned in marriage.

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Some of you have been divorced.

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And some of you are in marriages that are less than perfect, right?

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That, that you struggle with your relationship with your husband.

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because I know my value and my identity, that, that puts it back on you.

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And it doesn't matter what your spouse is doing, but can you love yourself and value

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yourself and have true identity, authentic identity with yourself so that you become

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singularly whole regardless of what your spouse is doing?

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Because ultimately when we act out of wholeness, we, we actually release grace.

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That's a real thing.

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Whether you believe in grace or not, grace is a real thing that we carry.

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And when we act out of wholeness and healing, it actually impacts the people around us and

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they can't help but respond to it.

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there will be a response in your family members.

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We see it all the time.

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you're complete and unified within yourself.

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I don't need someone else to complete me, I'm already whole.

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That frees that other person in your marriage so much,

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like you don't actually need them to be anything for you,

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but you get to enjoy them as a person in your life

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and they get to enjoy you as a person of your life.

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gross stuff that happens in a lot of marriages

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because you've worked on yourself and you know who you are,

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you know what you carry,

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you have your mission and you're doing that.

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for those who do believe in God

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and who do have a relationship with a higher being,

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with the Lord,

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also it's a place of receiving love, right?

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I don't need someone else to complete me,

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I am already whole.

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I am in a healthy state of love with myself

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because I know my value and my identity.

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to just be like honest with yourself right now.

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All right, you're gonna give yourself

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a percentage real quick here,

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of where do I fall from 0%,

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meaning I really don't believe these statements right now.

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Right, because we talk a lot about belief here, right?

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You guys know, when you have a feeling,

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it leads, it comes from a thought

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and our thoughts come from our beliefs.

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dig into your heart and your mind.

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meaning I do not believe this at all.

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I want you to give yourself a percentage.

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I am in a healthy state of love with myself

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because I know my value and my identity.

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I don't need someone else to complete me,

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I am already whole.

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So go ahead, yeah, take a moment.

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And this gets really vulnerable Danielle,

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because you can also sway the other direction

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with these statements.

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And honestly, I don't know that I've met anybody

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that I've coached on Rainmakers that's like this,

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but I have met people in the world that are like this,

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where they would read that statement this way.

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I don't need someone else to complete me,

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I'm already whole.

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That is not wholeness, that is defense.

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And it is coming across as there is pain

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that I am covering up

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and I don't need anyone else to complete me

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because I'm already whole.

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There is just as much unhealthiness

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in a person that says it like that

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as there is with somebody who can't believe

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that they're complete and that they're whole.

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And so recognizing that oftentimes

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you go from not believing the statement

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to over-correcting on the other side of the pendulum

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to I don't need anybody, right?

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It's a fight or flight mode that you go into

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because you've been hurt or you've been through trauma.

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But what we wanna do is help bring people back

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to the middle where they say,

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I don't need someone else to complete me,

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I'm already whole,

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but I also recognize that there is strength

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in interdependency on other relationships

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and I do need them.

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That's a good reminder.

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And, oh, so good.

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Man, this is so good for us to hear,

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especially in a community like this

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of men and women who are like go-getters

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and probably have some type of struggle in relationships

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coming to building a business.

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It's just the truth.

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We all need help in this area, right?

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We all like, let's just admit,

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yeah, I struggle to be single.

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And again, we've kind of talked about,

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Natalie's kind of talked about singleness

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isn't I'm literally not married.

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It's a, I am whole, I am a whole unit of myself.

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I enter as a whole single unit in marriage

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and there's two single whole units coming together

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to create a marriage.

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And so that's why this is so good for everybody

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regardless of your marital status or what has happened to you

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because we need more people in the world

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who are showing up as whole.

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We need more of that.

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And what we see in,

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a rainmaker so often is that people come in, they get eight weeks of coaching at the beginning.

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And we start to see this element where we can see where somebody is a healthy person,

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they're they're leaning on their coach to press in deeper, to build stronger, and and

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to launch and grow and scale their business as fast as they can. And then we see this

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other element who come in, and they're not so healthy. And they start to become codependent

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on their coach. And there's these unspoken expectations that somehow the coach is going

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to build your business for you. And that actually isn't healthy, right? Like we're going to

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give you the skills and the tools that you need. And we're going to empower you fully

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to build your business, but we cannot build your business for you. And so the identity

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of singleness and business looks like I'm in love with my vision, because I know its

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value. I don't need external validation for my coach to succeed. I'm already equipped,

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but I'm going to use my coach as a tool to help me go deeper in my vision, to go deeper

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and to know who I am as a valuable business owner, and to scale and grow my business successfully.

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Okay, so then when we when we are in this place, healthy relationships looks like happy

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marriages.

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Sorry, can you unmute yourself now? That was weird. Okay. So happy marriages consist of

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two single whole people. Relationships improve the more singularly whole you become and marriage

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is not the solution to loneliness. It magnifies it if you're not whole. You want to go to

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the next slide? Thanks. And then healthy businesses, partnerships look like business practices

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improve the more independent and self aware you become. And a business partner is not

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the solution to insecurity or a lack of direction. It magnifies these issues if you don't have

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direction if you are insecure. Okay, so there's a few warnings that I want to talk to you

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guys about. I don't like to give don'ts, but this is just like, you got to get black and

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white with this topic because it's real and people need to heal this, hear this. Do not

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marry someone or go into business with someone who doesn't know how to be singularly whole.

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These people become leeches, servants and followers and none of those people are people

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that you need in your life as a married person or as a business owner. You need someone who

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is going to be a healthy partner that will add value and add strength. Don't marry out

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of desperation, loneliness, need or pressure. If you get into a relationship and you're

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feeling any of those, you can consider those red flags that need to be worked through,

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whether it's on your side or the other person's. And you know, you need to know when to let

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go of that if it's not a healthy relationship. Do not confuse singleness with being unmarried

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and being a lone wolf in the business field. This is really big in Fortune 500 companies.

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You know, when you look at Wall Street, there's even movies about it, right? It's not healthy

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to be the lone wolf, right? Everybody needs people. We were created to live in relationship

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with other people, but it should be from a place of health and it should be from a place

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of wholeness, not a place of needing someone to fill something that you haven't filled

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yourself or had God help you fill. And it's not that unhealthy, like I'm going to do this

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business by myself because nobody's going to be there to help me. It's that middle round

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of, I know I have the skills I need. I'm building my business and I'm going to invite other

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people along to help me grow and scale faster. And then don't rush into relationships or

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partnerships without first becoming healthy and whole yourself. And you're like, well,

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that's all great, Natalie. That sounds awesome. But how do I become healthy and whole if I'm

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not? So I have a couple of practical applications for you guys. The pursuit. Oh, keep going.

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No, this is it. Sorry. The pursuit of singleness in life and business. Discover yourself. Know

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who you are, your purpose, your mission, your vision. No, go back, please. Your vision and

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your goals. And if you've gone through a divorce, go forward. Yeah. If you've gone through a

489
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divorce or you've gone through a loss or you have been traumatized by somebody else,

490
00:29:57.100 --> 00:29:59.900
right? Like this is going to be.

491
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.500
you going back to basics? Who are you? What is your purpose?

492
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What is your mission? You know, I had to redefine where what my

493
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mission was, because so much of my mission and vision was wrapped

494
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up in the marriage that Dan and I had together. We went to 14

495
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different countries, we did missions trips all over the

496
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world, right? I had prophetic words that were all about me

497
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being married to this man. And then all of a sudden, like, what

498
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do I do with that? Right? Like, do I just throw out everything?

499
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Or do I have to like pull out? What was me in that? And what

500
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can I use to point me towards hope of a good future for

501
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myself. And that is a process and a journey. So you get to go

502
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on that journey of discovering who am I, what still fits? And

503
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what do I need to let go of?

504
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Oh, sorry. No, go ahead.

505
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Well, maybe you can also speak to the moms and dads in the

506
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room, like being a parent, because I haven't stepped into

507
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that role yet. But I know that. And you that's like a lot of you

508
00:31:13.600 --> 00:31:17.000
guys are have those roles in your life. And it can just be

509
00:31:17.000 --> 00:31:22.280
super easy to for to put yourself second, third, fourth,

510
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fifth, and just kind of forget. You know, what's important to

511
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you and like forgetting self care and forgetting, you know,

512
00:31:30.960 --> 00:31:33.600
what's important to you all the while you're stepping into

513
00:31:33.600 --> 00:31:38.280
building a business to support your family, right to support

514
00:31:38.280 --> 00:31:42.560
your, your kids or your husband or your wife or your kids, kids.

515
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So yeah, I don't know if you had anything else to speak to that

516
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particular.

517
00:31:46.280 --> 00:31:52.040
No, that's so good, Danielle. In fact, you know, like when, when

518
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Dan and I were dating, I told him, I said, Look, I said, I

519
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know that I'm called to, to work with kids that are not my own. I

520
00:32:03.120 --> 00:32:05.840
know that I'm going to do foster care. I know that I'm going to

521
00:32:05.840 --> 00:32:09.320
do adoption. If that's not something that you feel like you

522
00:32:09.320 --> 00:32:13.160
can come into alignment with, we are not a good match. Because I

523
00:32:13.160 --> 00:32:16.280
knew that was something as a whole healthy person, I knew

524
00:32:16.280 --> 00:32:18.600
that was something that I was called to, it was part of my

525
00:32:18.600 --> 00:32:22.120
mission and my purpose. And I was going to step into that no

526
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matter what. And he had the choice, you know, whether to be

527
00:32:26.320 --> 00:32:30.000
like, yeah, I can do that. I'm on board. We, we had over 80

528
00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:33.560
kids in 10 years that we took care of. And I'm still in

529
00:32:33.560 --> 00:32:36.920
contact with a lot of those those people now. But do you

530
00:32:36.920 --> 00:32:44.800
think that I didn't always lose myself in some of that, like we

531
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took we took therapeutic foster care kids, the kids that came

532
00:32:48.800 --> 00:32:52.360
to us, they came to us, because if they didn't come to us, they

533
00:32:52.360 --> 00:32:57.640
would be in an institution. And it was hard work. And there were

534
00:32:57.640 --> 00:33:00.600
nights that I went to bed absolutely exhausted, because I

535
00:33:00.600 --> 00:33:04.800
also had a special needs daughter. And I was doing a lot,

536
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a lot, a lot. And I remember the day somebody told me, where is

537
00:33:12.120 --> 00:33:15.480
your time? And I was like, I don't get time. And they were

538
00:33:15.480 --> 00:33:19.400
like, you won't get time as long as you have that attitude. Like

539
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you have to take care of yourself, you have to fall in

540
00:33:24.560 --> 00:33:29.200
love with yourself, and your own uniqueness and the value that

541
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you carry, because your value is only as powerful as what you

542
00:33:34.200 --> 00:33:38.240
give to it. And if you don't value yourself, other people

543
00:33:38.240 --> 00:33:41.480
will not value you either. And they will walk all over you and

544
00:33:41.480 --> 00:33:45.680
you will put yourself last again and again and again. And

545
00:33:45.680 --> 00:33:49.960
the truth of the matter is when you live like that, you aren't

546
00:33:49.960 --> 00:33:55.920
actually loving anybody very well. You just aren't. It

547
00:33:55.920 --> 00:34:01.480
becomes unhealthy and kind of icky because you're you're

548
00:34:01.680 --> 00:34:06.320
trying to debase your own value and put other people's value

549
00:34:06.360 --> 00:34:10.040
above you. And that's not a healthy mindset to live in. So

550
00:34:10.040 --> 00:34:13.159
you have to learn your own value and you have to hold that

551
00:34:13.159 --> 00:34:16.280
steady. You have to draw boundaries with your kids, you

552
00:34:16.280 --> 00:34:19.080
have to draw boundaries with your spouse and your friends.

553
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And you have to somehow learn that balance of I need

554
00:34:23.280 --> 00:34:28.639
friendship, I need my spouse, I need my my children to have

555
00:34:28.639 --> 00:34:33.159
relationships with all of them. But I also need time where I am

556
00:34:33.159 --> 00:34:36.440
pouring into my own uniqueness and my own value, whether that's

557
00:34:36.480 --> 00:34:39.719
through self care, whether that's through a hobby, whether

558
00:34:39.719 --> 00:34:45.000
that's through some sort of, you know, side hustle where you're

559
00:34:45.000 --> 00:34:48.920
learning something of value to yourself and sowing into

560
00:34:48.920 --> 00:34:52.679
yourself. Did that help, Daniel?

561
00:34:54.120 --> 00:34:59.080
Yeah, that was fire. That was on a nap that this was not

562
00:34:59.080 --> 00:34:59.960
necessarily in the

563
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:08.620
here who just got blessed by her testimony because again, we get, we get to create these

564
00:35:08.620 --> 00:35:11.960
things and don't hear us out. We, we have, we actually have quite a few mindset Mondays

565
00:35:11.960 --> 00:35:16.760
on self care, how to create, you know, space in your schedule for yourself. But I don't

566
00:35:16.760 --> 00:35:21.080
want your brains to hear, Oh my gosh, how am I going to do that? This is going to come

567
00:35:21.080 --> 00:35:25.400
at a cost of ABCD, but you don't know my life. I've got to do this. I've got to do that.

568
00:35:25.400 --> 00:35:33.840
And it's like, actually we do know, like Natalie does know we are here with you in how to create

569
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all, you know, space for all of these things. And a quick little plug from my personal life

570
00:35:40.160 --> 00:35:45.600
is I'm stepping into being a foster mom and I did not know this about Natalie's story.

571
00:35:45.600 --> 00:35:51.080
So I'm like feeling really emotional right now because I haven't married yet and I've

572
00:35:51.080 --> 00:35:57.360
had this lie. I need, I don't want to do this till I'm married. I need, I need another

573
00:35:57.360 --> 00:36:03.600
person. Meanwhile, I do think of myself as a whole person, but just this idea of no,

574
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like I want a team to look like this, but you know what, this is what I'm called to.

575
00:36:07.280 --> 00:36:11.120
This is my vision. And we talked, we're going to talk about this a little bit more. What's

576
00:36:11.120 --> 00:36:15.880
your vision? What are you called to? Right? I get to step into that no matter whether

577
00:36:15.880 --> 00:36:23.160
I'm single, married, divorced, widowed, dating, that should not impede, ooh, those should

578
00:36:23.160 --> 00:36:31.840
not impede the vision. They're supposed to come alongside of the vision. Yes. And I think

579
00:36:31.840 --> 00:36:36.600
that goes right into this next point, like beautifully. Yeah. You have to build your

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00:36:36.600 --> 00:36:40.880
independence, learn to thrive on your own before inviting someone else into your life

581
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and business. You know, when I look at history, I've done a lot of study of, um, of single

582
00:36:46.600 --> 00:36:51.880
women, mostly because I was studying, you know, foster care and adoption and orphans

583
00:36:51.880 --> 00:36:56.800
and widows and all of that. Right. But some of the most powerful women in history were

584
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single and they impacted the world on a scale that you would not be able to impact if you

585
00:37:04.200 --> 00:37:11.320
were married and you had a family. And so the fact that we somehow as a society make

586
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it sound like if you're single, you're less, you're like a second class citizen and the,

587
00:37:18.320 --> 00:37:23.560
to attain like the fullness of life, you have to be married. That's not necessarily true

588
00:37:23.560 --> 00:37:30.960
for everyone. I know a lot, like I know a man who is an amazing man and he travels to

589
00:37:31.200 --> 00:37:38.720
the most remote villages and he impacts, um, villages that have never been touched by mankind.

590
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And there is no way that he could take a wife or children into those situations that he

591
00:37:44.040 --> 00:37:49.800
would end up dead in his family would, but because he has chosen that as his purpose

592
00:37:49.800 --> 00:37:57.040
and his mission, he is powerfully impacting, um, unreached people groups, uh, that nobody's

593
00:37:57.040 --> 00:38:03.320
ever heard of. And he'll just walk in and has incredible favor with people. And, and

594
00:38:03.320 --> 00:38:09.320
so it depends on what your purpose, your mission, and your vision is as to whether marriage

595
00:38:09.320 --> 00:38:14.480
will fit into that for you. And that's something that only you can decide and nobody around

596
00:38:14.480 --> 00:38:21.360
you can tell you, Oh, are you dating anybody right now? You know, the well-meaning people,

597
00:38:21.360 --> 00:38:25.320
right? Why aren't you married yet? Don't you want to have kids? Like there's, you're going

598
00:38:25.320 --> 00:38:32.680
to get all of that stuff as a single person, but you have to know your mission, your purpose,

599
00:38:32.680 --> 00:38:39.920
your vision, and what you are called to do. And when you are in that place, those people,

600
00:38:39.920 --> 00:38:45.160
they don't have the revelation that you have. They're not walking in the independence and

601
00:38:45.160 --> 00:38:50.280
the power that you carry because you have taken the time to define your purpose and

602
00:38:50.280 --> 00:38:53.560
your mission and your vision, and you're walking it out and living it.

603
00:38:53.840 --> 00:38:59.120
Well, and this also shows up. I know a lot of you have shared that this shows up in your

604
00:38:59.120 --> 00:39:06.800
own family with your Rainmaker vision, with you building a business, you know, and people

605
00:39:06.800 --> 00:39:14.240
not understanding or asking, you know coming from a place of doubt or skepticism. And so

606
00:39:14.240 --> 00:39:20.600
that also is why it's really important to, to be in alignment with your vision and because

607
00:39:20.600 --> 00:39:24.760
things are going to constantly come up that are going to want to knock us down, that are

608
00:39:24.760 --> 00:39:29.640
going to question our identity. We're in a spiritual warfare all the time with ourselves.

609
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That's why this next one, love yourself, fall in love with your uniqueness and value is

610
00:39:34.080 --> 00:39:43.880
actually super imperative. It's very necessary. And, and a lot of people, well, anyways, I'll

611
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stop you go from there.

612
00:39:45.400 --> 00:39:50.480
Yeah. Well, you're so right. And that's why we have like a success coach team, right?

613
00:39:50.560 --> 00:39:56.840
Each one of us has our own superpowers. None of us is the same. I told Daniel earlier, I

614
00:39:56.840 --> 00:39:59.920
was like, what would it look like if the whole platform was a

615
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.080
bunch of Stevens. Like that wouldn't be fun and innovative

616
00:40:04.080 --> 00:40:08.080
and creative at all, because we would all look the same. And and

617
00:40:08.080 --> 00:40:12.040
by the way, that's what an unhealthy leader does is they

618
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hire more people exactly like them. Don't do that. Like, be

619
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the person that finds the person that you need that's healthy

620
00:40:21.040 --> 00:40:25.440
that can add strength and value, but can also complement those

621
00:40:25.440 --> 00:40:30.560
areas where you're not may not be as strong. And, and so, you

622
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know, like, I have a different superpower than Danielle, April

623
00:40:33.640 --> 00:40:37.640
has a super different superpower than Danielle, and all of the

624
00:40:37.640 --> 00:40:41.320
other coaches, we all have our individual strengths, we come

625
00:40:41.320 --> 00:40:45.240
together, you guys should be on our team meetings, like it

626
00:40:45.240 --> 00:40:49.640
blows my mind every single day when I get on a call with these

627
00:40:49.640 --> 00:40:53.640
women. And we talk about how to serve you guys better. Because

628
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if we were all the same, and we thought all the same, this

629
00:40:57.280 --> 00:41:01.360
platform would not get as far as it's been. The creativity and

630
00:41:01.360 --> 00:41:05.040
the breakthrough and the power that comes from us getting on a

631
00:41:05.040 --> 00:41:09.760
call together every day, you guys experience on a weekly

632
00:41:09.760 --> 00:41:13.080
basis on Monday Mindset and in our coaching calls on a daily

633
00:41:13.080 --> 00:41:18.280
basis. And that all comes from each one of us knowing our

634
00:41:18.280 --> 00:41:21.800
uniqueness and our value. And this is not a team of women that

635
00:41:21.800 --> 00:41:26.000
is competing against each other. This is not a team of

636
00:41:26.000 --> 00:41:29.440
unhealthy women that are like, let me step on your head so that

637
00:41:29.440 --> 00:41:32.560
I can get higher up and you go further down. That's in the

638
00:41:32.560 --> 00:41:36.480
world that is not here. Like we champion each other. I have

639
00:41:36.480 --> 00:41:41.840
never been told by anybody on the staff at all, that I was

640
00:41:41.840 --> 00:41:45.680
lesser than or that I couldn't do something. I am always

641
00:41:45.680 --> 00:41:51.480
getting cheerleaded 100% always. And when you are when you get to

642
00:41:51.480 --> 00:41:57.880
work in or be a business that works with people like that,

643
00:41:58.000 --> 00:42:01.000
that is what takes you to the higher levels. That is what

644
00:42:01.000 --> 00:42:04.480
takes you to the life that you've been longing for. And

645
00:42:04.480 --> 00:42:07.960
that only comes from each person knowing their uniqueness and

646
00:42:07.960 --> 00:42:12.240
their value. So I want to go into some self reflection

647
00:42:12.240 --> 00:42:16.640
questions because this is where it goes deep for you. Okay. So

648
00:42:16.640 --> 00:42:20.800
do you know who you are and where you're going? And if you

649
00:42:20.800 --> 00:42:27.960
don't, that's an invitation to a discovery time for you. It's

650
00:42:27.960 --> 00:42:32.440
time for you to go on a journey. Am I whole and complete within

651
00:42:32.440 --> 00:42:37.680
myself? Would I want to live with what I bring to a marriage?

652
00:42:38.040 --> 00:42:41.520
Dang, that one hits me every day. I'm like, would I really

653
00:42:41.520 --> 00:42:43.840
want to bring this into a marriage? Would I want my

654
00:42:43.840 --> 00:42:49.200
spouse to see this about me? Do I know my business vision and

655
00:42:49.200 --> 00:42:53.280
where I'm going with my business? Am I confident in my

656
00:42:53.280 --> 00:42:57.680
skills and value as a professional? And would I want

657
00:42:57.680 --> 00:43:02.960
to be in business with somebody like myself? And these are hard

658
00:43:02.960 --> 00:43:07.320
hitting questions. I have these on my wall because I'm constantly

659
00:43:07.320 --> 00:43:12.360
calling myself up to another level. Because we get

660
00:43:12.360 --> 00:43:15.360
comfortable where we're at, right? And then we stop going

661
00:43:15.360 --> 00:43:19.400
after that next level or that breakthrough that we need to

662
00:43:19.400 --> 00:43:22.760
become the person that we want to be in marriage to become the

663
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business owner that we want to be. And it's just, it's so

664
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powerful.

665
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So before we move on from this, I'd love for you guys to take a

666
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picture of this. screenshot this. Because we believe that

667
00:43:44.200 --> 00:43:48.800
self reflection really helps you remember what Natalie said in

668
00:43:48.800 --> 00:43:53.400
the beginning, like be be self mastery, right? How can one be a

669
00:43:53.400 --> 00:43:58.600
master of how can I master myself? If I'm not if I don't

670
00:43:58.600 --> 00:44:03.280
know myself, or I'm not willing to look at what's really going

671
00:44:03.280 --> 00:44:07.320
on with me right now. And so we Natalie thought these were just

672
00:44:07.320 --> 00:44:10.960
some really good questions. And I totally agree. And honestly,

673
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they are they do hit places. And I just want to release right now

674
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to also be gracious with yourself. Okay, so you're gonna

675
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you're gonna answer some of these questions. And there may

676
00:44:26.240 --> 00:44:31.280
be a point where you're like, I do not. I do not like this about

677
00:44:31.280 --> 00:44:35.000
myself. And what we do not want you to do is go into a shame

678
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spiral, or a I'm not good enough spiral, or Oh, my gosh, I need

679
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to like, pick, get my stuff together. Like, no, like, I have

680
00:44:45.560 --> 00:44:50.520
to do more. Like, that's not the point. Okay, that's where your

681
00:44:50.520 --> 00:44:53.360
mind would need probably a little bit of, you know,

682
00:44:53.560 --> 00:44:56.200
creating some new thoughts for yourself around yourself. So

683
00:44:56.200 --> 00:44:58.520
that may even be, you know, telling them kind of where

684
00:44:58.520 --> 00:44:59.880
you're at. But

685
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.200
Gracious to yourself, but also just like I look at this is like, okay

686
00:45:05.280 --> 00:45:09.840
Since I have not married yet. I have dated on and off for about 15 years

687
00:45:10.440 --> 00:45:13.320
Okay, I'm kind of a master dater at this point

688
00:45:13.320 --> 00:45:17.880
I'm a really fun person to go out on a date with and so I've just asked myself

689
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What does it look like to go on a date with me?

690
00:45:20.760 --> 00:45:27.920
And so I think these self-reflection questions are like a great time to like if you can say I'm gonna go on a date with myself

691
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Like I'm gonna get to know myself where I'm at today where I'm at this week, right?

692
00:45:34.200 --> 00:45:38.400
Maybe there's parts of you that you have, you know that are

693
00:45:39.320 --> 00:45:44.560
Subconscious so there you're not able to see them yet. But when you take some time to journal, I know Natalie

694
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You're really big on journaling and self-reflecting some powerful things can come up and you can come aware of

695
00:45:50.960 --> 00:45:54.640
Yourself when you take the time to do this because you're worth getting to know

696
00:45:55.000 --> 00:46:01.240
You're worth being honest with yourself and it's in that space that you're then gonna be able to show up in other

697
00:46:01.600 --> 00:46:05.040
Relationships, right kind of what Natalie's been talking about showing up in

698
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Business relationships knowing yourself being confident, you know

699
00:46:10.920 --> 00:46:13.800
Looking at am I confident in my skills and value as a professional?

700
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okay for me, there's a skill that I really struggle with and it's

701
00:46:19.200 --> 00:46:22.960
It's honestly money. Like I really struggle with

702
00:46:23.800 --> 00:46:27.640
Managing my money. So I do I have hired somebody to help me with this

703
00:46:27.640 --> 00:46:29.640
I shared this last week in the after party

704
00:46:29.720 --> 00:46:35.840
but there's some ownership that I get to step into and take more of as I

705
00:46:35.920 --> 00:46:40.760
Bring somebody alongside of me to help me and I get to calm I get to sharpen my skills

706
00:46:41.400 --> 00:46:46.480
Okay, so so take take some time to think about these this week

707
00:46:47.120 --> 00:46:52.680
Yeah, we were we were discussing earlier the movie runaway bride where one of the guys

708
00:46:52.960 --> 00:46:54.840
like

709
00:46:54.840 --> 00:46:56.840
challenges

710
00:46:57.160 --> 00:47:01.720
What's her name the redhead? I don't remember her name, too. I don't know

711
00:47:02.640 --> 00:47:03.840
and

712
00:47:03.840 --> 00:47:05.240
he says

713
00:47:05.240 --> 00:47:09.960
What kind of eggs do you like and she realizes that she's been you know

714
00:47:10.440 --> 00:47:16.960
Engaged to all these different men and she's never yeah, Julia Roberts. She's never followed through with actually getting married and

715
00:47:17.960 --> 00:47:24.120
Every man cooked eggs the way they liked it and she just ate them, but she didn't really recognize

716
00:47:24.800 --> 00:47:31.480
what kind of eggs she even liked how many of you are in marriages where you don't even really know what you like because

717
00:47:32.120 --> 00:47:36.120
You're just doing what your husband does or you're just doing what your spouse does

718
00:47:36.520 --> 00:47:41.200
You know, I was telling Danielle when I was married to Dan I went fishing with him

719
00:47:41.360 --> 00:47:43.880
I hate fishing, you know

720
00:47:43.880 --> 00:47:47.520
But because I was married to him because I wanted to be in relationship with him

721
00:47:47.520 --> 00:47:51.480
I went fishing but I'm actually really excited that you know

722
00:47:51.480 --> 00:47:58.120
Like I get I I get to not ever go fishing again if I want to right like and it's not that I didn't love

723
00:47:58.120 --> 00:47:59.760
Him and it's not that I

724
00:47:59.760 --> 00:48:06.760
Minded fishing. It's just not something that I really found enjoyment in and so like knowing that about myself

725
00:48:07.600 --> 00:48:15.600
Like when I start to date somebody if if they are a fisherman and they spend all of their free time fishing

726
00:48:15.600 --> 00:48:18.680
That's probably not gonna be a good fit for me

727
00:48:18.680 --> 00:48:19.400
right

728
00:48:19.400 --> 00:48:26.520
but even know having the self-awareness to know that and and if a guy on a date is talking about fishing all the time being

729
00:48:26.520 --> 00:48:32.580
Like this is not gonna work. This is not gonna work for me. And and so even in your marriage

730
00:48:33.440 --> 00:48:36.000
Knowing who you are knowing how you like your eggs

731
00:48:36.840 --> 00:48:38.280
knowing how

732
00:48:38.280 --> 00:48:39.400
knowing

733
00:48:39.400 --> 00:48:47.040
How you feel loved? What's your love language? Does your husband is your wife know your love language these things all go

734
00:48:47.640 --> 00:48:54.920
Get wrapped up into do you know your value and can you express that to the people in your life in a way?

735
00:48:54.920 --> 00:48:59.040
that's healthy and not out of fight-or-flight or

736
00:49:00.960 --> 00:49:04.840
Like hyper independence either like it's that healthy

737
00:49:05.520 --> 00:49:07.520
Interrelationship that you're in

738
00:49:08.400 --> 00:49:10.480
So let's just recap a couple of things

739
00:49:11.080 --> 00:49:17.560
Singleness is the foundation of all relationships and all business successes. It's that state of wholeness

740
00:49:18.880 --> 00:49:25.440
Self-discovery and purpose marriage and business partners do not solve problems. It exposes them and

741
00:49:26.080 --> 00:49:33.360
So final thought for today is singleness is not a curse. It's not a lesser way of living or a second-class citizenship

742
00:49:33.400 --> 00:49:36.560
It's actually a gift to each one of us whether we're married or single

743
00:49:37.240 --> 00:49:41.240
So embrace it master it and watch how it translate

744
00:49:41.800 --> 00:49:46.440
Transforms your personal life, but also your relationships in your businesses as well

745
00:49:48.880 --> 00:49:50.880
Boom baby

746
00:49:52.320 --> 00:49:55.720
That was so good

747
00:49:56.880 --> 00:50:00.040
Who it agrees with me like was?

748
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.760
This good, was this, did this hit some of you guys today?

749
00:50:04.760 --> 00:50:07.560
There's some gold you guys get to take away today

750
00:50:07.560 --> 00:50:11.560
from this about being whole,

751
00:50:11.560 --> 00:50:16.560
about showing up fully as a whole individual,

752
00:50:18.880 --> 00:50:23.880
knowing your strengths, stepping into what you are good at.

753
00:50:24.180 --> 00:50:29.180
Like these things matter because you matter.

754
00:50:29.940 --> 00:50:33.980
Amanda said, this is the gold at the end of the rainbow.

755
00:50:33.980 --> 00:50:38.980
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

756
00:50:39.300 --> 00:50:44.300
Okay, because we need more people showing up

757
00:50:45.140 --> 00:50:50.140
in the world as whole individuals, single people.

758
00:50:51.020 --> 00:50:53.060
Again, you've probably looked at singleness

759
00:50:53.060 --> 00:50:54.180
in a different way now.

760
00:50:54.180 --> 00:50:57.740
It's not just being not married.

761
00:50:57.740 --> 00:51:00.100
It's so much more than that.

762
00:51:00.100 --> 00:51:01.940
And if you are married,

763
00:51:01.940 --> 00:51:04.460
then you also get to look at yourself

764
00:51:04.460 --> 00:51:06.460
and look at who you are.

765
00:51:06.460 --> 00:51:09.860
That's, we, I tell people, I say this a lot,

766
00:51:09.860 --> 00:51:14.220
like even if you go to bed with somebody next to you,

767
00:51:14.220 --> 00:51:17.100
they don't live in your head.

768
00:51:17.100 --> 00:51:19.860
People live and hang out in your head

769
00:51:19.860 --> 00:51:21.460
as if it's like a living room.

770
00:51:21.460 --> 00:51:23.220
You know, who do you let sit on your couch?

771
00:51:23.220 --> 00:51:26.740
Who do you let sit, you know, in the lazy boy chair?

772
00:51:26.740 --> 00:51:29.860
Like you get to decide what lives in your mind.

773
00:51:29.860 --> 00:51:33.980
And when you go to bed at night, you are, it's you.

774
00:51:33.980 --> 00:51:35.940
You know, even you can share your deepest,

775
00:51:35.940 --> 00:51:37.660
darkest everything with your spouse.

776
00:51:37.660 --> 00:51:39.060
And I hope that you guys are,

777
00:51:39.060 --> 00:51:40.420
and you're creating that intimacy

778
00:51:40.420 --> 00:51:43.180
and you're creating that wholeness in your marriage.

779
00:51:43.180 --> 00:51:45.780
But there's also something so important to be like,

780
00:51:45.780 --> 00:51:47.340
who am I?

781
00:51:47.340 --> 00:51:48.580
What's important to me?

782
00:51:48.580 --> 00:51:49.620
What's my vision?

783
00:51:49.620 --> 00:51:51.420
Where do I want to go?

784
00:51:51.420 --> 00:51:55.740
And I mean, Natalie just does such a like gentle

785
00:51:55.740 --> 00:51:58.380
and genuine job at doing that.

786
00:51:58.380 --> 00:52:01.180
So thank you so much, Natalie.

787
00:52:02.380 --> 00:52:05.300
Any other last thoughts you'd like to share?

788
00:52:05.300 --> 00:52:08.380
Yeah, I wanna, I see a couple of comments.

789
00:52:09.980 --> 00:52:13.020
Man, Jennifer, I feel you.

790
00:52:14.300 --> 00:52:16.940
You have to understand,

791
00:52:16.940 --> 00:52:19.780
like I'm on the other side of all the pain, right?

792
00:52:19.780 --> 00:52:23.020
Like I'm bringing authority to the situation,

793
00:52:23.980 --> 00:52:26.180
but I didn't start here.

794
00:52:26.180 --> 00:52:30.540
This has been a five year journey of health and healing

795
00:52:30.540 --> 00:52:33.740
into coming into singular wholeness,

796
00:52:33.740 --> 00:52:36.780
because I was so broken when my husband died

797
00:52:36.780 --> 00:52:39.500
and I did not know how to have healthy relationship.

798
00:52:39.500 --> 00:52:43.740
And I did not know how to, I didn't know my value.

799
00:52:43.740 --> 00:52:44.820
I didn't know my worth.

800
00:52:44.820 --> 00:52:48.380
I definitely didn't know my mission or my purpose.

801
00:52:48.380 --> 00:52:51.220
It all got obliterated when he died

802
00:52:51.220 --> 00:52:53.140
and it all had to be redefined.

803
00:52:53.140 --> 00:52:57.620
And so I feel you, pain is real.

804
00:52:57.620 --> 00:53:02.260
And I know where you're at

805
00:53:02.260 --> 00:53:05.180
and it's okay to be where you're at,

806
00:53:05.180 --> 00:53:06.740
but it's not gonna be forever.

807
00:53:07.860 --> 00:53:09.380
You will heal.

808
00:53:09.380 --> 00:53:10.220
Yeah.

809
00:53:10.220 --> 00:53:12.140
It will take time and it will take the journey

810
00:53:12.140 --> 00:53:14.100
and you do have to do the hard work.

811
00:53:14.100 --> 00:53:16.340
Man, do I wish there was a way.

812
00:53:16.340 --> 00:53:20.180
Do I wish there was a shortcut through the pain,

813
00:53:20.180 --> 00:53:21.380
but there just isn't,

814
00:53:21.380 --> 00:53:23.980
but we're with you and you're not alone.

815
00:53:23.980 --> 00:53:24.820
That's right.

816
00:53:25.860 --> 00:53:29.860
And the truth is, is the pain comes

817
00:53:29.860 --> 00:53:33.700
and we get to decide who we wanna be

818
00:53:33.700 --> 00:53:35.860
in the middle of feeling pain,

819
00:53:35.860 --> 00:53:37.260
in the middle of disappointment,

820
00:53:37.260 --> 00:53:40.740
in the middle of things not going the way we intended,

821
00:53:40.740 --> 00:53:43.180
both in relationship and business.

822
00:53:44.580 --> 00:53:49.260
And what's so beautiful is you get to keep showing up.

823
00:53:49.620 --> 00:53:53.660
And this is not a one day you're healed

824
00:53:53.660 --> 00:53:55.380
and the next you're not like,

825
00:53:55.380 --> 00:53:57.420
Natalie, I know you mentioned this,

826
00:53:57.420 --> 00:53:59.220
like this is a journey.

827
00:53:59.220 --> 00:54:02.860
Becoming a single whole individual is also a journey too.

828
00:54:02.860 --> 00:54:05.780
So let's like also give ourselves some grace.

829
00:54:05.780 --> 00:54:10.140
But what I love is this is a community of men and women

830
00:54:10.140 --> 00:54:12.380
who are stepping into a mastermind,

831
00:54:12.380 --> 00:54:15.900
stepping into building products on Amazon, off Amazon,

832
00:54:15.900 --> 00:54:20.900
taking risks, hiring coaches, getting support

833
00:54:21.220 --> 00:54:22.380
and saying, you know what?

834
00:54:22.380 --> 00:54:23.940
I may feel A, B and C.

835
00:54:23.940 --> 00:54:25.220
I may have pain here.

836
00:54:25.220 --> 00:54:27.260
I may not be exactly where I wanna be,

837
00:54:27.260 --> 00:54:29.380
but I'm showing up today.

838
00:54:29.380 --> 00:54:30.220
That's right.

839
00:54:30.220 --> 00:54:32.740
And today is all that we have.

840
00:54:32.740 --> 00:54:34.060
Oh, I'm getting emotional.

841
00:54:40.100 --> 00:54:44.580
And for you all to continue to show up on this call,

842
00:54:44.580 --> 00:54:47.020
like you should like be very proud of yourselves.

843
00:54:48.060 --> 00:54:49.140
Because I know some of you,

844
00:54:49.140 --> 00:54:52.660
maybe this was actually a really painful thing to hear,

845
00:54:52.660 --> 00:54:54.740
but it's not the end.

846
00:54:54.740 --> 00:54:56.900
And we all get to go through,

847
00:54:56.900 --> 00:55:00.220
see our biggest testimonies are from our biggest tests.

848
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.840
and tests are painful.

849
00:55:05.140 --> 00:55:07.980
They just, look, I'm even laughing saying it's painful.

850
00:55:07.980 --> 00:55:09.300
That's my way of, I don't know,

851
00:55:09.300 --> 00:55:12.580
trying to take away from the pain of the comment.

852
00:55:12.580 --> 00:55:14.160
Like it is.

853
00:55:15.520 --> 00:55:18.580
And, you know, a lot of you are fighting

854
00:55:18.580 --> 00:55:22.160
to create something that you do not have right now.

855
00:55:22.160 --> 00:55:23.940
That's the whole point of a vision, right?

856
00:55:23.940 --> 00:55:26.220
Is you don't see it yet.

857
00:55:26.220 --> 00:55:30.040
It has yet to be seen, but it can.

858
00:55:30.040 --> 00:55:34.100
And it is showing up consistently for yourself

859
00:55:34.100 --> 00:55:38.780
that is going to multiply in other areas of your life.

860
00:55:41.240 --> 00:55:43.500
Ooh, I could keep going, but you guys,

861
00:55:43.500 --> 00:55:46.020
we have a powerful community here.

862
00:55:46.020 --> 00:55:49.020
I just gotta call someone out real quick, Daniel.

863
00:55:49.020 --> 00:55:49.860
Okay.

864
00:55:49.860 --> 00:55:51.900
There's just, Wozniak,

865
00:55:51.900 --> 00:55:55.140
there's just such a grace for business on your life.

866
00:55:55.140 --> 00:55:56.020
There really is.

867
00:55:56.820 --> 00:55:58.420
And you've said yes to something.

868
00:55:58.420 --> 00:56:00.260
You're just at the beginning,

869
00:56:00.260 --> 00:56:05.020
but you are going to see incredible favor in this process.

870
00:56:05.020 --> 00:56:07.860
And there's going to be an ease to it.

871
00:56:07.860 --> 00:56:10.220
And there's a strength that is coming to you

872
00:56:10.220 --> 00:56:12.740
that you've not seen yet in your life.

873
00:56:12.740 --> 00:56:17.500
And it's literally going to be so, so life-changing

874
00:56:17.500 --> 00:56:19.460
that it's going to have you like shaking your head going,

875
00:56:19.460 --> 00:56:22.580
I cannot believe that life has gotten this good.

876
00:56:23.020 --> 00:56:23.860
Amen.

877
00:56:23.860 --> 00:56:24.700
Thank you.

878
00:56:26.700 --> 00:56:27.540
Amen.

879
00:56:35.300 --> 00:56:36.620
Ooh, yeah.

880
00:56:39.660 --> 00:56:42.300
I don't have a lot of words at the moment.

881
00:56:42.300 --> 00:56:45.860
I'm kind of just sitting in this moment,

882
00:56:45.860 --> 00:56:48.740
just feeling a lot, very grateful for all of you

883
00:56:48.740 --> 00:56:50.180
because see, the coaches,

884
00:56:50.180 --> 00:56:52.940
we all also build things outside of here.

885
00:56:52.940 --> 00:56:55.100
So we also are taking risks

886
00:56:55.100 --> 00:56:57.620
and showing up in our lives as well.

887
00:56:57.620 --> 00:56:59.780
And so it's like seeing all of you come,

888
00:56:59.780 --> 00:57:03.900
it's like, it's just so incredibly encouraging.

889
00:57:07.340 --> 00:57:08.420
And we can't do it alone.

890
00:57:08.420 --> 00:57:10.340
And that's why we have a community like this.

891
00:57:10.340 --> 00:57:13.940
This is why you guys show up every Monday.

892
00:57:13.940 --> 00:57:15.860
And we do not take that lightly.

893
00:57:15.860 --> 00:57:17.140
And we care for you guys.

894
00:57:19.140 --> 00:57:22.500
So thanks for trusting us too,

895
00:57:22.500 --> 00:57:26.460
and coming on here and really participating

896
00:57:26.460 --> 00:57:28.260
and really opening up your hearts

897
00:57:28.260 --> 00:57:30.820
because it's very easy to come to these kind of calls

898
00:57:30.820 --> 00:57:32.780
and just kind of sit back.

899
00:57:32.780 --> 00:57:34.300
But I just don't see that here.

900
00:57:34.300 --> 00:57:37.180
I consistently see people showing up,

901
00:57:37.180 --> 00:57:40.340
being givers, being solutionaries,

902
00:57:40.340 --> 00:57:42.580
and being there for one another.

903
00:57:42.580 --> 00:57:45.860
So I wish I could give you all hugs.

904
00:57:46.300 --> 00:57:48.900
Can we give each other like a virtual hug right now?

905
00:57:50.060 --> 00:57:51.300
Hugs to all of you.

906
00:57:51.300 --> 00:57:54.420
You've all done amazing work and great job.

907
00:57:56.700 --> 00:57:57.540
Sweet.

908
00:57:57.540 --> 00:57:58.940
Wow.

909
00:57:58.940 --> 00:57:59.780
I know hugs.

910
00:57:59.780 --> 00:58:02.180
Okay, well, I don't know how to end this.

911
00:58:05.180 --> 00:58:07.380
How about with seven links all in a row

912
00:58:07.380 --> 00:58:09.140
that you can't really click on?

913
00:58:09.700 --> 00:58:12.700
We tried something new with dropping the links.

914
00:58:12.700 --> 00:58:15.380
I know it seems that that didn't work very well.

915
00:58:15.380 --> 00:58:19.420
So we will try to spread them out.

916
00:58:19.420 --> 00:58:21.100
Could you guys just,

917
00:58:21.100 --> 00:58:23.260
all the links were just re-dropped by April.

918
00:58:23.260 --> 00:58:26.700
So make sure you grab the one that is for you.

919
00:58:27.620 --> 00:58:30.020
All those links we've actually dropped every week.

920
00:58:30.020 --> 00:58:31.460
It's just, we kind of spread them out,

921
00:58:31.460 --> 00:58:33.180
but it seems like putting them all together

922
00:58:33.180 --> 00:58:34.020
didn't really work.

923
00:58:34.020 --> 00:58:35.980
So we'll just kind of go back to April.

924
00:58:35.980 --> 00:58:37.380
It seems like putting them all together

925
00:58:37.380 --> 00:58:38.220
didn't really work.

926
00:58:38.220 --> 00:58:41.140
So we'll just kind of go back to like spreading them out

927
00:58:41.140 --> 00:58:43.660
so that you guys have access to them.

928
00:58:43.660 --> 00:58:47.540
But mainly the attendance form and the March Gladness form.

929
00:58:47.540 --> 00:58:51.420
Could you drop those, just those two, April or Mildred?

930
00:58:51.420 --> 00:58:52.780
Make sure you guys get that.

931
00:58:52.780 --> 00:58:57.780
And yeah, have an amazing week of just being whole,

932
00:58:57.860 --> 00:59:01.740
showing up the way that you deserve

933
00:59:01.740 --> 00:59:03.460
and just like in your identity

934
00:59:03.460 --> 00:59:05.900
and in the person that you are.

935
00:59:06.740 --> 00:59:11.740
Big things are coming and let's keep going.

936
00:59:11.780 --> 00:59:12.980
Let's keep going.

937
00:59:12.980 --> 00:59:16.820
We wanna see how things end and where things go

938
00:59:16.820 --> 00:59:17.780
in your lives.

939
00:59:17.780 --> 00:59:20.300
So keep showing up this week, okay?

940
00:59:20.300 --> 00:59:21.380
Grab those two links,

941
00:59:21.380 --> 00:59:23.580
the attendance and the March Gladness.

942
00:59:23.580 --> 00:59:25.900
And then I'm gonna officially dismiss you

943
00:59:25.900 --> 00:59:27.580
from Mindset Monday.

944
00:59:27.580 --> 00:59:31.220
And we are gonna shift into the Q&A after party.

945
00:59:31.220 --> 00:59:34.460
And this is a place to ask questions about coaching

946
00:59:34.500 --> 00:59:35.340
and how you guys coach teams.

947
00:59:35.340 --> 00:59:39.500
So with all that, bye for those of you who are leaving

948
00:59:39.500 --> 00:59:41.220
the Mindset Monday call.

949
00:59:44.460 --> 00:59:46.380
Bye.

950
00:59:46.380 --> 00:59:47.340
Thank you guys.

951
00:59:47.340 --> 00:59:49.620
Thank you all so much.

952
00:59:49.620 --> 00:59:50.620
So good.

953
00:59:50.620 --> 00:59:52.180
So good to see you all.

954
00:59:54.620 --> 00:59:59.620
Okay, we are going to gracefully and emotionally

955
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.000
Because I feel like I'm on the verge of VR.

956
01:00:05.240 --> 01:00:09.000
Oh, I'm so good to be vulnerable.

957
01:00:09.920 --> 01:00:13.800
All right, we're gonna shift into the q&a after party. And

958
01:00:13.800 --> 01:00:17.760
this is just a place to talk about coaching, talk about, you

959
01:00:17.760 --> 01:00:20.400
know, kind of where you're at in your journey, if you want to

960
01:00:20.400 --> 01:00:22.840
work with a coach, kind of giving you some next steps with

961
01:00:22.840 --> 01:00:28.000
that. I have. So speaking of, I want to share a little

962
01:00:28.000 --> 01:00:30.600
testimony real quick about my life. And then we're gonna get

963
01:00:30.600 --> 01:00:33.280
into some questions. Unless Natalie, you have something else

964
01:00:33.320 --> 01:00:37.000
that you feel like you want to share right now? No. Okay. Yeah.

965
01:00:37.160 --> 01:00:41.120
Okay, cool. I feel like you just released a lot in our call. But

966
01:00:41.120 --> 01:00:44.960
something that kind of came up for me in the whole, like

967
01:00:45.080 --> 01:00:51.520
wholeness journey is I actually went through a broken engagement

968
01:00:51.520 --> 01:00:55.240
when I was 26. And it was just like the man of my dreams. He

969
01:00:55.240 --> 01:00:57.560
was everything I could ever imagined and more. And he was

970
01:00:57.560 --> 01:01:01.920
also my best friend. And so we were like, besties, since high

971
01:01:01.920 --> 01:01:05.600
school, see a lot of people married that person in high

972
01:01:05.600 --> 01:01:08.160
school and like went on to build a life with them. Whereas I got

973
01:01:08.160 --> 01:01:11.640
engaged to him, and then he left me right before the wedding. And

974
01:01:11.640 --> 01:01:15.000
honestly, just like broke, broke my heart, like quite literally

975
01:01:15.000 --> 01:01:20.040
destroyed what I thought love was at the time. And so I kind

976
01:01:20.040 --> 01:01:24.240
of had a similar moment. Not obviously different, Natalie,

977
01:01:24.240 --> 01:01:29.880
our stories, but my heart was crushed. And my vision for my

978
01:01:29.880 --> 01:01:33.360
life was completely crushed. And anything that I thought we were

979
01:01:33.360 --> 01:01:35.720
going to see, we were going to go on and foster together, we

980
01:01:35.720 --> 01:01:37.880
were going to adopt together, we were going to have this

981
01:01:37.880 --> 01:01:42.200
beautiful family of like, I don't know how many kids however

982
01:01:42.200 --> 01:01:46.120
many God wanted. That was like the vision, it was set in stone,

983
01:01:46.120 --> 01:01:48.800
it was going to happen. And then in a moment, you know, it's all

984
01:01:48.800 --> 01:01:52.560
gone. And that's just devastating. Maybe some of you

985
01:01:52.560 --> 01:01:56.640
have like, gone through loss, or like something sudden happens

986
01:01:56.640 --> 01:02:01.640
in your life. And I had to ask myself, like, Who am I? And

987
01:02:01.640 --> 01:02:08.280
honestly, I began to realize I had codependency tendencies, I

988
01:02:08.280 --> 01:02:13.160
was actually looking to at the time at that time fiance to

989
01:02:14.280 --> 01:02:18.840
honestly be like a security blanket, mainly financially, so

990
01:02:18.840 --> 01:02:23.960
that I didn't have to like work as hard. And I realized my heart,

991
01:02:24.720 --> 01:02:32.040
I was actually squashing my own gifts and my own, like, self,

992
01:02:32.120 --> 01:02:35.200
honestly, to like, make this relationship work. And it took

993
01:02:35.200 --> 01:02:39.040
the separating for me to be able to see that. And it was very

994
01:02:39.040 --> 01:02:43.280
painful. It was very painful for me to admit and to acknowledge

995
01:02:43.720 --> 01:02:49.080
that I was looking to him to be somebody that he literally

996
01:02:49.080 --> 01:02:52.400
couldn't. He just couldn't. I mean, it would have been just

997
01:02:52.400 --> 01:02:57.040
like a disaster. And some people do go on to marry, I don't know

998
01:02:57.040 --> 01:02:59.280
if I'm talking to someone in the room here. And then you do

999
01:02:59.280 --> 01:03:02.160
realize that in the middle of marriage, and then you get to

1000
01:03:02.160 --> 01:03:06.440
work through that as a married person. So you know, I don't, I

1001
01:03:06.440 --> 01:03:09.560
don't necessarily like to use the language I dodged a bullet.

1002
01:03:10.000 --> 01:03:12.600
Because, you know, I don't really know what would have

1003
01:03:12.600 --> 01:03:16.880
happened if we married. I don't know. But I do know that it

1004
01:03:16.880 --> 01:03:19.840
didn't happen. And I've been on a long journey of healing ever

1005
01:03:19.840 --> 01:03:23.160
since and like showing up as a whole woman. And to this day, I

1006
01:03:23.160 --> 01:03:27.440
would say I do feel like more whole and do show up in my

1007
01:03:27.440 --> 01:03:30.720
gifts than I ever have in my entire life. And, but it's a

1008
01:03:30.720 --> 01:03:35.320
journey. It's a journey to do that. And it takes so much

1009
01:03:35.320 --> 01:03:42.960
courage to say, I do not I need help. And also I keep relying on

1010
01:03:42.960 --> 01:03:46.960
these dudes and I don't know how to like, get hold myself. That's

1011
01:03:46.960 --> 01:03:50.880
a vulnerable thing to admit, you know, but it is in that

1012
01:03:50.880 --> 01:03:54.480
vulnerability to say yes, I need help. Yes, I'm I need support

1013
01:03:54.480 --> 01:03:57.800
that I was actually able to heal. So I hired. So this is

1014
01:03:57.800 --> 01:04:00.080
kind of like where we kind of get into the whole coaching

1015
01:04:00.080 --> 01:04:03.000
realm. And kind of what brought me into coaching is because I

1016
01:04:03.000 --> 01:04:06.880
ended up hiring a therapist, and working with a therapist for

1017
01:04:06.880 --> 01:04:11.400
the first time in my life, and completely changed my life. And

1018
01:04:11.400 --> 01:04:15.760
that was an investment. That was an investment. That was a

1019
01:04:15.760 --> 01:04:19.680
consistent investment that I made every single week. And it

1020
01:04:19.680 --> 01:04:23.800
was a literally only for me. And I needed somebody to come into

1021
01:04:23.800 --> 01:04:28.720
my life to ask me the hard questions. To tell me you're

1022
01:04:28.720 --> 01:04:32.880
going to get through this and to give me tools and support in

1023
01:04:32.880 --> 01:04:36.680
this very specific realm of relationships. Because see, I'll

1024
01:04:36.680 --> 01:04:40.600
end here. I come from my mother is an alcoholic. My dad was

1025
01:04:40.600 --> 01:04:46.320
abusive in any way you can think of just the nicest, easiest way

1026
01:04:46.320 --> 01:04:50.920
to just say that. So I kind of grew up in a home like that. And

1027
01:04:50.920 --> 01:04:54.480
so no wonder I would go on to be, you know, deal with

1028
01:04:54.480 --> 01:04:57.680
codependency issues and male issues. And then I was hyper

1029
01:04:57.680 --> 01:05:00.040
independent. And then I was like, Oh my gosh, no.

1030
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:03.160
I'm gonna shift back over here and be like helpless.

1031
01:05:03.160 --> 01:05:04.360
No, that doesn't work.

1032
01:05:04.360 --> 01:05:05.720
I'm gonna shift back and be like,

1033
01:05:05.720 --> 01:05:07.560
I can do it all by myself.

1034
01:05:07.560 --> 01:05:09.640
Like, right, like kind of what Natalie talked about,

1035
01:05:09.640 --> 01:05:11.760
like none of those work.

1036
01:05:11.760 --> 01:05:14.720
And so I just know the power of,

1037
01:05:14.720 --> 01:05:16.080
it was through working with a therapist

1038
01:05:16.080 --> 01:05:18.280
that I actually ended up going into the coaching realm.

1039
01:05:18.280 --> 01:05:20.480
And I've been here for quite a few years

1040
01:05:20.480 --> 01:05:22.960
because I saw a lot of breakthrough in my own heart

1041
01:05:22.960 --> 01:05:25.920
and just the power of having somebody alongside of me

1042
01:05:25.920 --> 01:05:27.560
in times of my life when I need it.

1043
01:05:27.560 --> 01:05:29.640
And I think that that's part of the heart behind

1044
01:05:29.760 --> 01:05:31.280
the coach is here, right?

1045
01:05:31.280 --> 01:05:34.240
Like having a coach to work with you,

1046
01:05:34.240 --> 01:05:37.160
walk through with you around your Amazon business,

1047
01:05:37.160 --> 01:05:38.880
around your mindset,

1048
01:05:38.880 --> 01:05:41.080
your personal things that are going on.

1049
01:05:41.960 --> 01:05:45.320
And so, yeah.

1050
01:05:45.320 --> 01:05:46.160
That's good, Danielle.

1051
01:05:46.160 --> 01:05:47.200
Can I add something to,

1052
01:05:47.200 --> 01:05:48.880
or can I add my experience to that?

1053
01:05:48.880 --> 01:05:53.640
So up until the time that my husband passed away,

1054
01:05:53.640 --> 01:05:56.560
I'd only been a pastor only.

1055
01:05:56.560 --> 01:05:58.760
That's a big thing actually.

1056
01:05:58.800 --> 01:06:02.520
But I had not worked in the marketplace at all.

1057
01:06:02.520 --> 01:06:04.080
I had either been a part-time

1058
01:06:04.080 --> 01:06:07.240
or a full-time staff member for 35 years.

1059
01:06:07.240 --> 01:06:11.800
And when my husband passed,

1060
01:06:11.800 --> 01:06:16.800
I was like, my skills don't actually translate

1061
01:06:17.280 --> 01:06:19.040
to the marketplace.

1062
01:06:19.040 --> 01:06:24.040
And in my moment of worst pain and suffering,

1063
01:06:24.640 --> 01:06:27.280
I hired a mentor for $10,000 a year.

1064
01:06:28.160 --> 01:06:30.960
That was my first coaching experience.

1065
01:06:31.840 --> 01:06:35.800
And that $10,000 coaching program

1066
01:06:35.800 --> 01:06:40.240
gave me a return on investment that year of another 10,000.

1067
01:06:40.240 --> 01:06:44.200
And then I hired him again for another year.

1068
01:06:44.200 --> 01:06:48.720
And that was when I was 100% sold

1069
01:06:48.720 --> 01:06:50.800
on having the right coach.

1070
01:06:50.800 --> 01:06:53.440
Because when you have the right coach

1071
01:06:53.440 --> 01:06:55.400
in the right moment in your life,

1072
01:06:55.600 --> 01:06:57.800
it is life-changing.

1073
01:06:57.800 --> 01:07:00.680
And what I have seen on the Rainmakers platform

1074
01:07:00.680 --> 01:07:03.240
is that that's when we get a lot of these women.

1075
01:07:03.240 --> 01:07:05.840
They are in a moment where they need something

1076
01:07:05.840 --> 01:07:07.440
in their life to change.

1077
01:07:07.440 --> 01:07:10.240
And they are at that place where they're like,

1078
01:07:10.240 --> 01:07:11.520
yes, I'm gonna do this.

1079
01:07:11.520 --> 01:07:12.560
And they get this coach

1080
01:07:12.560 --> 01:07:15.320
and they don't even know what coaching is like, right?

1081
01:07:15.320 --> 01:07:16.400
They come into it and they're like,

1082
01:07:16.400 --> 01:07:19.200
wow, this is not what I was expecting.

1083
01:07:19.200 --> 01:07:23.080
But the power of it is life-changing.

1084
01:07:23.080 --> 01:07:24.040
It really is.

1085
01:07:24.040 --> 01:07:26.320
And when you spend a year with a coach

1086
01:07:26.320 --> 01:07:29.920
that is willing to pour into you, raise you up,

1087
01:07:29.920 --> 01:07:34.280
speak life into you, give you skills, give you mentorship,

1088
01:07:34.280 --> 01:07:37.520
there is such a return on investment in that

1089
01:07:37.520 --> 01:07:39.520
that it makes it so worth it.

1090
01:07:39.520 --> 01:07:42.320
And I can't even imagine now

1091
01:07:42.320 --> 01:07:44.560
not having coaching a part of my life.

1092
01:07:47.880 --> 01:07:48.800
Same.

1093
01:07:51.160 --> 01:07:53.760
But remember when you made that first investment,

1094
01:07:54.440 --> 01:07:55.920
how incredibly scared-

1095
01:07:55.920 --> 01:07:57.440
Oh, I was terrified.

1096
01:07:57.440 --> 01:07:58.960
Absolutely terrified.

1097
01:07:58.960 --> 01:08:01.200
Like, oh, is this gonna work?

1098
01:08:01.200 --> 01:08:03.600
Like, am I crazy?

1099
01:08:03.600 --> 01:08:05.560
Like, you know?

1100
01:08:05.560 --> 01:08:07.080
Because it wasn't with a program.

1101
01:08:07.080 --> 01:08:09.800
Like, there was no, like,

1102
01:08:09.800 --> 01:08:12.800
he was just gonna mentor me, right?

1103
01:08:12.800 --> 01:08:17.439
And so the skills that I learned from that person

1104
01:08:17.439 --> 01:08:20.760
were definitely marketable, right?

1105
01:08:20.760 --> 01:08:24.319
But Rainmakers gives you an actual business to build,

1106
01:08:24.319 --> 01:08:26.040
which is, like, next level.

1107
01:08:26.040 --> 01:08:26.880
So right.

1108
01:08:26.880 --> 01:08:28.680
Yeah, honestly.

1109
01:08:28.680 --> 01:08:30.840
And I just wanna, like, take a moment,

1110
01:08:30.840 --> 01:08:31.960
maybe we all can,

1111
01:08:31.960 --> 01:08:36.040
to just see the vulnerability in the chat of,

1112
01:08:36.040 --> 01:08:39.640
I wanna see you, Lindsay.

1113
01:08:39.640 --> 01:08:40.960
I see you.

1114
01:08:40.960 --> 01:08:42.279
Thank you for sharing.

1115
01:08:44.319 --> 01:08:46.240
That's a lot.

1116
01:08:46.240 --> 01:08:47.600
That's hard.

1117
01:08:48.120 --> 01:08:51.120
I wanna see you, Lauren.

1118
01:08:51.120 --> 01:08:56.120
We acknowledge you and your wrath of unmet expectations.

1119
01:08:57.840 --> 01:08:59.319
The deep feels.

1120
01:08:59.319 --> 01:09:01.600
It's very real in life.

1121
01:09:01.600 --> 01:09:03.720
I see you showing up.

1122
01:09:03.720 --> 01:09:08.680
I wanna just take a moment to acknowledge Olivia

1123
01:09:08.680 --> 01:09:11.279
and this being your first call

1124
01:09:11.279 --> 01:09:14.800
and you just, like, showing up and being vulnerable

1125
01:09:14.800 --> 01:09:19.040
and you're already getting tons of emojis

1126
01:09:19.040 --> 01:09:20.960
and that's our way of, like, showing, hey, I see you.

1127
01:09:20.960 --> 01:09:24.680
We, like, drop a lot of emojis, comments in the chat.

1128
01:09:24.680 --> 01:09:28.600
And so, yeah, just thank you, ladies, for showing up.

1129
01:09:28.600 --> 01:09:30.840
We believe vulnerability is a superpower

1130
01:09:30.840 --> 01:09:34.880
because it is through vulnerability and admitting,

1131
01:09:34.880 --> 01:09:36.120
I don't even like the word admit.

1132
01:09:36.120 --> 01:09:37.319
Maybe there's a better word,

1133
01:09:37.319 --> 01:09:39.080
but just acknowledging, like-

1134
01:09:39.080 --> 01:09:40.600
Confessing, declaring.

1135
01:09:40.600 --> 01:09:42.479
Declaring, I love, yes.

1136
01:09:42.479 --> 01:09:44.359
Declaring, confessing.

1137
01:09:44.399 --> 01:09:46.240
This is what's really going on in my life right now

1138
01:09:46.240 --> 01:09:47.840
because, you know, it's with that honesty

1139
01:09:47.840 --> 01:09:50.319
and with that awareness that things can shift

1140
01:09:50.319 --> 01:09:52.000
and breakthrough can come.

1141
01:09:52.000 --> 01:09:54.000
And we're really big on breakthrough.

1142
01:09:54.000 --> 01:09:56.400
Like, all of this, like, yeah,

1143
01:09:56.400 --> 01:10:00.320
big on, like, breaking through your limiting beliefs.

1144
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:03.400
leaves breaking through what's keeping you stuck. We want to

1145
01:10:03.400 --> 01:10:07.760
see you break through that. So that's essentially the heart of

1146
01:10:07.760 --> 01:10:09.640
our coaching team. That's what we do.

1147
01:10:10.040 --> 01:10:13.440
And you know, what lights me up more than anything, is watching

1148
01:10:13.440 --> 01:10:17.360
a woman get in three weeks what it took me a year to get. Yeah,

1149
01:10:17.400 --> 01:10:20.920
I mean, like, I have this one person that I'm coaching right

1150
01:10:20.920 --> 01:10:24.720
now. And, and, and I've been with her three weeks. And I'm

1151
01:10:24.720 --> 01:10:29.920
like, man, does she understand what has just happened? Like, I

1152
01:10:29.960 --> 01:10:34.080
it took me a year to get from step one to step three, where

1153
01:10:34.080 --> 01:10:39.120
she's at. And that's part of what you get with coaching, like

1154
01:10:39.120 --> 01:10:44.360
they shorten your window of time that it takes to get where they

1155
01:10:44.400 --> 01:10:46.400
took a lot of years to get.

1156
01:10:48.800 --> 01:10:56.680
Yeah, that's so good. Um, I okay, so I want to drop two

1157
01:10:56.680 --> 01:11:01.720
links, I want to drop the, um, March gladness link that you

1158
01:11:01.720 --> 01:11:06.280
guys like get for being here in the after party. So I'm dropping

1159
01:11:06.280 --> 01:11:09.600
that. So please grab that. So you all are here. Part of the

1160
01:11:09.600 --> 01:11:12.800
after party, you get your name put in our pot of gold

1161
01:11:13.480 --> 01:11:18.960
celebration on March 31. So I just dropped that for you. So

1162
01:11:18.960 --> 01:11:21.840
make sure you get that. See, this is such a powerful time to

1163
01:11:21.840 --> 01:11:25.680
be right hearing testimonies, like see, testimonies encourage

1164
01:11:25.680 --> 01:11:29.120
one another, they break, that's right, Julie, they break chains

1165
01:11:29.120 --> 01:11:34.040
from other people. That's so real. And honestly, I could

1166
01:11:34.040 --> 01:11:36.920
probably even be more vulnerable. I think like, you

1167
01:11:36.920 --> 01:11:39.560
know, we were getting there, we're getting there, sharing our

1168
01:11:39.560 --> 01:11:42.920
stories and sharing that takes vulnerability, right? To be

1169
01:11:42.920 --> 01:11:45.720
like, hey, this is what happened to me. Because you know, we

1170
01:11:45.720 --> 01:11:49.640
really aren't alone. I remember when my fiance left me, I

1171
01:11:49.640 --> 01:11:52.280
literally had this thought I was like, nobody's ever gone through

1172
01:11:52.280 --> 01:11:56.120
broken engagement. I'm the only one. Like, I'm alone, right?

1173
01:11:56.120 --> 01:11:59.960
Like, just not true. So false. Like that was my limiting

1174
01:11:59.960 --> 01:12:02.840
belief coming up so quick to keep me safe and keep me in this

1175
01:12:02.840 --> 01:12:06.640
like little pile of depression. And it's just like, not true.

1176
01:12:07.200 --> 01:12:09.280
That's why we need that's why you like you said, we need

1177
01:12:09.280 --> 01:12:12.440
people. And like, we've all got gotten to go through things. And

1178
01:12:12.440 --> 01:12:19.160
that's why we show up in this, you know, space of coaching. And

1179
01:12:19.160 --> 01:12:26.200
so powerful things happen in coaching. So I just want to

1180
01:12:26.240 --> 01:12:30.720
does anybody have any questions that I can support you with?

1181
01:12:31.200 --> 01:12:36.520
With coaching specifically, any questions? Feel free to like

1182
01:12:36.520 --> 01:12:40.920
unmute yourself or raise your virtual hand. We'll want to open

1183
01:12:40.920 --> 01:12:41.920
that space right now.

1184
01:12:41.920 --> 01:12:47.200
I have a question. Yeah. And number one, I'm just really,

1185
01:12:47.200 --> 01:12:50.760
really thankful. And I am pregnant, but I'm extra

1186
01:12:50.760 --> 01:12:55.360
emotional, just because I know that God uses both of you in

1187
01:12:55.360 --> 01:13:00.680
these all of you, but use you guys in these in this call, just

1188
01:13:00.680 --> 01:13:04.600
to really know that I'm in the right place. I'm almost done

1189
01:13:04.640 --> 01:13:08.280
with my first year of mastermind. And I'm almost

1190
01:13:08.280 --> 01:13:12.240
with my first year of mastermind. And I'm almost about

1191
01:13:12.240 --> 01:13:16.760
to like move to phase three of launching my product. But I've

1192
01:13:16.760 --> 01:13:22.440
run into so many internal mindset things that I feel like

1193
01:13:22.440 --> 01:13:25.720
I need to work on a lot of things. Like how does that work?

1194
01:13:25.720 --> 01:13:30.560
Like you guys? I'm determined like one to start with? Or is

1195
01:13:30.560 --> 01:13:34.440
it like, you just get a coach for a certain amount of time?

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01:13:35.160 --> 01:13:38.920
Yeah, so can I speak to that, Daniel? So Sheree, what we're

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01:13:38.920 --> 01:13:43.520
finding is that year two is actually even more essential

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01:13:43.560 --> 01:13:47.120
than year one, year one is essential. But when you get to

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phases three and four, and you're coming into year two,

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01:13:50.920 --> 01:13:55.400
like, you haven't quite seen that exponential growth that yet

1201
01:13:55.400 --> 01:13:58.600
that Steven talks about, like that doesn't happen in the

1202
01:13:58.600 --> 01:14:04.600
middle of year two and three, right? So like, finances start

1203
01:14:04.600 --> 01:14:08.360
to get rough, right? And so do you have a plan for that? Or is

1204
01:14:08.360 --> 01:14:14.560
your mindset just getting shut down by that lie that I'm out

1205
01:14:14.560 --> 01:14:19.200
of finances? Yeah. Because that's not how that's not how a

1206
01:14:19.200 --> 01:14:25.560
creative mindset thinks, right? Right. That is like, okay. Not

1207
01:14:25.560 --> 01:14:28.760
seeing anything in my bank account. So how do I partner?

1208
01:14:29.160 --> 01:14:32.560
Yeah, spirit of creativity to create the money that I need to

1209
01:14:32.560 --> 01:14:35.200
keep moving my business forward until I see the return on

1210
01:14:35.200 --> 01:14:35.800
investment.

1211
01:14:36.400 --> 01:14:39.400
That's exactly where I'm at. And I know that I'm even the

1212
01:14:39.400 --> 01:14:43.320
mastermind has trained me to think of like, well, how can I

1213
01:14:43.320 --> 01:14:48.840
do that? How can I and really, I'm using the strategy that I

1214
01:14:48.880 --> 01:14:51.280
it's already awakened in me through the first year of

1215
01:14:51.280 --> 01:14:54.920
mastermind. Like I joined mastermind thinking I was going

1216
01:14:54.920 --> 01:14:57.160
to launch a product, I was going to get all my answers and

1217
01:14:57.160 --> 01:14:59.840
I was going to be financially successful in one year.

1218
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:03.880
And I've gone through the journey and there's just so much hope I know is coming.

1219
01:15:03.880 --> 01:15:06.480
So like your word to me was so timely.

1220
01:15:06.480 --> 01:15:09.960
Cause I'm like, this is like, this has to work.

1221
01:15:10.040 --> 01:15:13.120
Otherwise, like, I don't know where I'm going to go.

1222
01:15:13.680 --> 01:15:18.320
So, um, but like sticking with it, like this is the hard point

1223
01:15:18.320 --> 01:15:20.040
where I normally pivot by now.

1224
01:15:20.040 --> 01:15:21.960
I normally like, I can't do it.

1225
01:15:21.960 --> 01:15:22.680
I'm pivoting.

1226
01:15:22.760 --> 01:15:27.400
Um, so this is the longest I've even like stayed with it almost there.

1227
01:15:27.920 --> 01:15:35.440
But it's just a matter of how can I, and then realistically, like, how can I see

1228
01:15:35.440 --> 01:15:41.840
that so I can keep going, if that makes sense, financially, I feel like I'm ready

1229
01:15:41.840 --> 01:15:45.880
to experience all the beauty that the Lord still has with mastermind, but I'm

1230
01:15:45.880 --> 01:15:51.120
like, but money, um, there's a lot, but there's also just so many things of

1231
01:15:51.120 --> 01:15:55.800
like why pivot or like why I don't think that I'm supposed to be financially

1232
01:15:55.800 --> 01:15:57.120
successful, all those things.

1233
01:15:57.120 --> 01:16:03.240
So I just was like, how do I, how do I move forward in just knowing what, where

1234
01:16:03.240 --> 01:16:05.240
I go first, I guess, and what kind of coaching.

1235
01:16:06.480 --> 01:16:08.240
Ooh, see, I'm on the edge of my seat.

1236
01:16:08.240 --> 01:16:09.520
You got me all perked up.

1237
01:16:09.560 --> 01:16:14.520
My like, I got the chills because you know what it is in you're in about, you've

1238
01:16:14.520 --> 01:16:16.000
hit a valley of disappointment.

1239
01:16:16.440 --> 01:16:22.120
Um, and we, and I, and I tell people with so much love, do not camp there.

1240
01:16:22.160 --> 01:16:23.840
Do not make a bed there.

1241
01:16:23.840 --> 01:16:26.360
And you're not, yeah, not.

1242
01:16:26.960 --> 01:16:27.280
Okay.

1243
01:16:27.280 --> 01:16:31.800
Can we just like put some love in the chat for Shari and the word that Natalie

1244
01:16:31.800 --> 01:16:34.960
had for Shari that was unprompted.

1245
01:16:35.120 --> 01:16:38.000
We like, we don't, we don't mess, you know, we're not going to just

1246
01:16:38.000 --> 01:16:39.640
say things willy nilly like that.

1247
01:16:40.000 --> 01:16:42.960
So obviously God's really trying to speak to you here.

1248
01:16:43.360 --> 01:16:46.880
And, um, we want to support you.

1249
01:16:47.920 --> 01:16:53.720
So, well, so go ahead, Daniel, go ahead, Natalie.

1250
01:16:56.640 --> 01:16:59.760
Um, well, so this is what I want to share for you.

1251
01:16:59.800 --> 01:17:05.160
Cause the first time I heard Steven talk about like fast ways to make money, I

1252
01:17:05.160 --> 01:17:09.200
think it was like, I don't know, cashflow creation or something like that.

1253
01:17:09.240 --> 01:17:11.000
The first time he ever taught it.

1254
01:17:11.800 --> 01:17:14.240
Um, and it was like, I'm not going to lie.

1255
01:17:14.240 --> 01:17:15.800
It was probably six hour training.

1256
01:17:15.840 --> 01:17:18.880
Like we all just sat online for six hours and listened to him and

1257
01:17:18.880 --> 01:17:20.160
talk about how to make cash.

1258
01:17:20.160 --> 01:17:20.520
Right.

1259
01:17:21.440 --> 01:17:26.400
Um, and, and it was very much like work with the spirit of creativity

1260
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and listen to what it says.

1261
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Right.

1262
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So the first time I heard it, I heard do do a garage sale.

1263
01:17:37.360 --> 01:17:42.840
And I was like, but you don't understand, like, I need $5,000.

1264
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I'm not going to make $5,000 on a garage sale.

1265
01:17:47.200 --> 01:17:49.680
So I had a choice in that moment.

1266
01:17:50.080 --> 01:17:52.200
Was I gonna do the garage sale?

1267
01:17:52.200 --> 01:17:55.520
Like the spirit of creativity said, or was I going to just

1268
01:17:55.520 --> 01:17:57.280
try and do it somewhere else?

1269
01:17:58.160 --> 01:18:03.520
And, and so I was like, well, regardless of how it turns out, I'm going to be obedient.

1270
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I'm going to do that.

1271
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What that voice is saying.

1272
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And so I set a date, started preparing for my garage sale and three days before

1273
01:18:13.840 --> 01:18:16.520
the garage sale took off was started.

1274
01:18:16.920 --> 01:18:21.280
I had four women from my church reach out and say, Hey, we don't have

1275
01:18:21.280 --> 01:18:22.800
time for garage sales this summer.

1276
01:18:22.800 --> 01:18:24.000
Do you want our stuff?

1277
01:18:25.440 --> 01:18:29.320
I made $7,000 on my garage sale.

1278
01:18:30.160 --> 01:18:31.040
No way.

1279
01:18:31.200 --> 01:18:31.600
Yes.

1280
01:18:32.200 --> 01:18:38.600
So the next year when I need $5,000 again, I was like, I'm going to throw a garage sale.

1281
01:18:39.520 --> 01:18:39.920
Yep.

1282
01:18:40.040 --> 01:18:41.160
And I threw a garage sale.

1283
01:18:41.160 --> 01:18:42.800
I made $200.

1284
01:18:43.280 --> 01:18:47.880
The, the flowers were blooming outside and I was allergic to them.

1285
01:18:47.880 --> 01:18:53.720
So I got super sick and as I laid in bed, I heard the spirit of creativity.

1286
01:18:54.560 --> 01:18:57.480
Did you ask me whether that was what you wanted me to do?

1287
01:18:58.880 --> 01:19:02.080
And I was like, no, I just thought it worked last year.

1288
01:19:02.360 --> 01:19:03.760
Why would it not work this year?

1289
01:19:03.760 --> 01:19:06.000
He goes, you got to check in with me.

1290
01:19:06.800 --> 01:19:10.120
And so I was like, okay, how do you want me to make money this time?

1291
01:19:10.120 --> 01:19:12.360
And he said, I want you to take the three paintings that you

1292
01:19:12.360 --> 01:19:13.800
have and take them and sell them.

1293
01:19:15.120 --> 01:19:16.480
And like, okay.

1294
01:19:16.480 --> 01:19:20.720
So I paint it's a hobby of mine, but I'm not like a gallery

1295
01:19:20.720 --> 01:19:21.920
artist or anything like that.

1296
01:19:21.920 --> 01:19:24.280
I sold one for $1,800.

1297
01:19:24.320 --> 01:19:27.360
I sold one for 1,200 and one for 800.

1298
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And, and it was because I didn't put a price on them.

1299
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I told people you pay me what you think it's worth.

1300
01:19:35.520 --> 01:19:38.280
I let them establish the value of that painting.

1301
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And so it like, I cannot stress to you how important it is to listen and do what it

1302
01:19:48.040 --> 01:19:52.520
says, because that's where you'll see the increase and that's where you see

1303
01:19:52.520 --> 01:19:55.440
the trust developed too, with the process.

1304
01:19:56.120 --> 01:19:56.640
Okay.

1305
01:19:56.920 --> 01:19:57.520
So good.

1306
01:19:57.720 --> 01:19:58.720
Thank you.

1307
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:04.560
That's really true. I know. Tell me how and then actually do it. Okay. Yeah.

1308
01:20:06.080 --> 01:20:11.200
Okay. So here's a very practical next step. I'm going to drop a link and literally you

1309
01:20:11.200 --> 01:20:19.840
fill this out and a success coach reaches out to you. Okay. Okay. Yeah. And then you,

1310
01:20:20.560 --> 01:20:25.120
you kind of like tell them a little bit more about where you're at, what you need. We kind

1311
01:20:25.120 --> 01:20:31.840
of look at, you know, the different coaches and that's, that's it. That's your simple next step.

1312
01:20:31.840 --> 01:20:37.040
That doesn't cost. It just costs you your time. Time I can do. Sounds good.

1313
01:20:39.680 --> 01:20:43.120
Thank you. All right. I'm looking forward to seeing your name pop up in the back,

1314
01:20:43.120 --> 01:20:49.840
in the back here. All right. Sure. You're awesome. And make sure you check this chat

1315
01:20:49.840 --> 01:20:54.880
for all the encouragement. I am so blessed. Thank you. Y'all are awesome. Such a powerful

1316
01:20:54.880 --> 01:21:05.120
group here. Okay. Connie, how can I support you? Hello everyone. Thank you so much coaches. This

1317
01:21:05.120 --> 01:21:09.200
is a blessing. I'm over here literally trying to keep my composure because I just want to break

1318
01:21:09.200 --> 01:21:15.680
down in tears because I'm like, I'm feeling all of, I'm feeling everything everybody's talking

1319
01:21:15.680 --> 01:21:23.760
about. So I'm like, I went through the Reign Gain Challenge and then I joined

1320
01:21:27.200 --> 01:21:33.520
the Rainmaker Mastermind Program. So I'm new. I'm just getting started. I'm trying to review

1321
01:21:34.480 --> 01:21:38.640
like all the courses and stuff. And so, but I'm feeling like I'm

1322
01:21:39.360 --> 01:21:46.080
reviewing the courses and I'm seeing a lot of the same stuff. So I'm like, kind of like,

1323
01:21:46.080 --> 01:21:51.440
I don't know where I haven't gotten paired with my coach yet. So I don't know which one of you

1324
01:21:51.440 --> 01:22:00.720
wonderful coaches I'll be with yet. And so my question is, do I wait to start the phase course,

1325
01:22:00.720 --> 01:22:10.960
the phases, until I get with you with the coaches or, because I like did the media course

1326
01:22:10.960 --> 01:22:19.760
and like the five-day bootcamp. And so like when I submitted my, my application for the coach

1327
01:22:19.760 --> 01:22:24.960
pairing and stuff, I did kind of push it out a couple of weeks because I was like, wanted to

1328
01:22:25.120 --> 01:22:30.640
review as much as I could to make sure I stayed with that same momentum.

1329
01:22:32.720 --> 01:22:37.840
So I may need to get with a coach soon. So I don't lose my momentum because I'm starting to

1330
01:22:37.840 --> 01:22:43.040
get in my head, like, is this the right thing for me? Did I make the right choice? Am I doing right?

1331
01:22:43.040 --> 01:22:48.800
Then I'm thinking about stuff I have to worry about outside of this. And so I'm like,

1332
01:22:48.800 --> 01:22:55.200
I don't know where I need to go right now. So do I just go ahead and jump into

1333
01:22:55.200 --> 01:23:03.280
reviewing the phase one? Yeah, I would, I would definitely sign up for a coach,

1334
01:23:03.280 --> 01:23:09.280
go through that onboarding mini course. And at the end of it, it'll show the, the coaches thing.

1335
01:23:09.280 --> 01:23:14.480
If, if you, it looks like is your last name, what's your last name, Cole? It's Cole. So I did

1336
01:23:14.480 --> 01:23:18.720
go through that and I did submit it, but I put, you know, I did put my date out,

1337
01:23:18.720 --> 01:23:25.280
I think for like Monday or so. Do you want me to change it to this week?

1338
01:23:28.320 --> 01:23:33.200
So let me look at my calendar. I would suggest that you get with a coach as soon as possible

1339
01:23:33.200 --> 01:23:38.960
because you're right. You don't want to lose momentum moving forward. And so the easiest way

1340
01:23:38.960 --> 01:23:45.040
for you to know where to go next and what to do, what to partner with would be to have a meeting

1341
01:23:45.040 --> 01:23:51.920
with a coach with the coach. Okay. So yes, if we could get that moved up so that way I can,

1342
01:23:51.920 --> 01:23:57.600
yeah, kind of get in there and get yeah. The necessary information that I need

1343
01:23:58.800 --> 01:24:04.400
as well as yeah. Start like my training in the phases and things like that would be great.

1344
01:24:04.960 --> 01:24:07.920
Cause yeah, I don't want to lose my window and then I don't want to sit over here. Like,

1345
01:24:07.920 --> 01:24:12.640
I don't know what to do. I don't know where to go. I don't know what I'm looking at.

1346
01:24:14.240 --> 01:24:20.320
I just want to acknowledge you showing up on this call today. So way to go. You're in the right spot.

1347
01:24:20.320 --> 01:24:25.280
You showed up for a call in the community on Monday. So good job, Connie. And then I always

1348
01:24:25.280 --> 01:24:30.320
tell people, if you say, I don't, I want to encourage you to not partner anymore with,

1349
01:24:30.320 --> 01:24:38.800
I don't know, because our brains now there may be a realistic, like you don't know, but you're

1350
01:24:38.800 --> 01:24:45.840
only one or two or five steps away from knowing. So I would say if I did know, what would it be?

1351
01:24:45.840 --> 01:24:52.000
Or what would I do? So, right. Kind of getting into that new, like problem solving spirit that

1352
01:24:52.000 --> 01:24:58.720
we call solutionary. So I think you did great by hopping on here, asking your question, making

1353
01:24:58.720 --> 01:24:59.840
sure you're getting connected with the.

1354
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:04.640
coach and you actually do know what you're doing. You're supposed to be getting on your app,

1355
01:25:05.200 --> 01:25:10.080
looking up some of your, watching some of the phases and getting connected with the coach. So

1356
01:25:10.080 --> 01:25:16.480
Connie, you do, you do know. Yes. All right. Yes. Yes, I do. You're right. I do know. I do know. I

1357
01:25:16.480 --> 01:25:22.000
just, yeah. Don't want to be missing anything that I should be doing. Yeah. And so that's why you

1358
01:25:22.000 --> 01:25:26.320
double checked with those who would know and now you're good. Yes. So we're going to, you're going

1359
01:25:26.320 --> 01:25:30.320
to get connected with the coach. All right. Thank you, ladies. You're welcome, Connie.

1360
01:25:32.400 --> 01:25:40.400
Any other questions I can support, we can support you with in, in coaching, any coaching questions?

1361
01:25:44.640 --> 01:25:52.400
I have a quick question. Hey, Ann Marie. Hey. So if we, if we do decide to go with a coach and,

1362
01:25:53.360 --> 01:25:56.800
and then we submit, like, say just like a one month, do we get

1363
01:25:58.240 --> 01:26:02.960
to specify what we really are going to focus on to find the right coach or

1364
01:26:06.320 --> 01:26:11.920
will you sort of match us with who is best? Or like, I just, I've already done my call. Would

1365
01:26:11.920 --> 01:26:17.840
I just be definitely matched with who I was able to connect with? Or, you know, how do you make

1366
01:26:17.840 --> 01:26:24.320
sure that it's the right fit is kind of what I'm. Yeah. Natalie, did you want to hop in here?

1367
01:26:24.320 --> 01:26:28.480
Well, I mean, you can always request if there's a specific coach that you want on that call.

1368
01:26:29.520 --> 01:26:35.520
And if there is like, let me know and I can put that in your notes. But also if you don't know

1369
01:26:35.520 --> 01:26:41.040
who the best coaches usually will read what you have said, and then we'll assign you with a coach

1370
01:26:41.040 --> 01:26:46.720
that best fits what your need is for that time. Yeah. I don't feel like I really know who would

1371
01:26:46.720 --> 01:26:54.640
be the best. I don't think I know. But you felt that you filled out on the on the form,

1372
01:26:54.640 --> 01:26:59.760
like what you're looking where you're at and what you're looking for. Yeah, well, I had my phone

1373
01:26:59.760 --> 01:27:05.360
call already. It just now I can say I'm just sort of debating on whether to proceed, you know.

1374
01:27:05.920 --> 01:27:10.880
Got you. Well, if you need another call, we can definitely hook you up with another call if you'd

1375
01:27:10.880 --> 01:27:16.160
like. Yeah, I support you and me to kind of get you unstuck.

1376
01:27:19.120 --> 01:27:24.160
Say that again. Would that support you to help you make a decision having another call? Or what

1377
01:27:24.160 --> 01:27:30.960
do you mean? Maybe? I don't know. I think I just need a little time to to get through some steps

1378
01:27:30.960 --> 01:27:36.720
and think it over. Well, you it would be really easy for a coach to get on with you, though,

1379
01:27:36.720 --> 01:27:41.840
and see where you're at, see what what's going on and kind of give you an assessment of

1380
01:27:41.840 --> 01:27:49.440
what your best step would be at this point. OK. OK, I can I can have somebody reach out to you.

1381
01:27:49.440 --> 01:27:58.640
I got your name. OK. Yeah, that'd be great. Yeah. All right. Awesome. And then, Olivia, I see you.

1382
01:27:59.440 --> 01:28:08.960
I'm reading your reading what you wrote. So you're going to be assigned a coach, Olivia,

1383
01:28:08.960 --> 01:28:15.280
with your first eight weeks. OK, great. Olivia is also just starting with us. Yeah, that's right.

1384
01:28:15.280 --> 01:28:20.080
I know you mentioned that earlier. So that's that's fine. So kind of what was just said to Connie,

1385
01:28:21.040 --> 01:28:25.680
you will once you complete the onboarding course that you will get to say what date

1386
01:28:25.680 --> 01:28:29.920
you like to start with a coach and then they will assign you a coach based on that.

1387
01:28:32.240 --> 01:28:36.000
And you do get two months. Yes, you get two months with a success coach.

1388
01:28:36.800 --> 01:28:38.880
Once you start, you're welcome.

1389
01:28:42.080 --> 01:28:46.640
Any other questions? Can I support anybody else?

1390
01:28:47.360 --> 01:28:51.760
All right. This might be it, then. It's good to see you, Amanda. I've seen you on the after

1391
01:28:51.760 --> 01:28:56.160
party a couple of times. Julie, I've really appreciated you showing up in the

1392
01:28:56.160 --> 01:29:03.280
chat today, just being so encouraging. Yeah. Any any other questions? Kendall, Anna,

1393
01:29:03.280 --> 01:29:12.400
can I support you ladies with anything? Are you good? You're good? OK. Julie, did you have a question?

1394
01:29:12.640 --> 01:29:19.520
You're good? OK. Julie, did you have a question or something? Yeah. Yeah. You noticed I had

1395
01:29:19.520 --> 01:29:28.080
muted. So that was very good. You're very good, Daniel. Very good. I I'm past phase four and I

1396
01:29:28.080 --> 01:29:33.680
have a question. I need some help with that. Would I sign up for a second set of eyes for

1397
01:29:33.680 --> 01:29:38.720
looking at my listing to optimize that? Or what would be my next step on

1398
01:29:39.280 --> 01:29:48.960
looking at that? OK, so go ahead, Natalie. Where are you at in your in your membership?

1399
01:29:48.960 --> 01:29:57.040
Like, are you at the end or have you been making good time? I'm at the end. OK.

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So have you hopped on a call?

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with one of the coaches about what year two looks like yet and whether you'd be interested in that?

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Um, yes, Mildred and I have connected Dutch bases a few times on that. Okay. Awesome. So you can,

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you can, that's one of your options is to renew and, and that's really helpful for second year,

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but yeah, you can fill out a second eye session and you can get on with them to kind of problem

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shoot, uh, where you're at, uh, just know that like renewal comes with unlimited

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second eye sessions and those add up pretty quickly. So just be thinking long-term instead

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of like, what's the solution right now, you know, really think through what's the best thing for my

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buck when it comes to, um, those second eye sessions. Okay. Thank you.

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All right. Anybody else, any other questions?

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Okay. Everyone feeling good about their next steps after this call? Yeah. Okay, good. That's

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what we love to see in the after party. All right. And Linda, thank you for sharing. So glad you are

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here. We do, we do, we do, we need each other. So, so desperately, but not too desperate.

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Oh, I'm just making myself laugh now. Let me stop. Um, okay. Just saw your, um,

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comment Kendall. So good. So good. Thank you so much for sharing that. So good. Yeah.

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Yeah. God is absolutely calling you into it. Yep. Imagine, imagine you showing up whole,

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like what is Kendall Burns, like whole Kendall Burns look like, you know? So thank you for

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sharing that. So glad you're here. All right. Well, without further ado, we can all go on to

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our next things we're called to for the day. Have an amazing rest of your day and we will see you

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all next week. Bye.