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Well, amazing, beautiful people. It is always such a joy to be here with you. I haven't

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actually had a chance to catch up with any of you yet to find out how you're getting

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on with the first couple of weeks or the first couple of sessions that we've done. Now we're

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starting to get into a roll and we're into week three. So hopefully you are learning

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the kind of system where we reflect on what we've learned from last week, and then we

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do the training and then we set our targets of what we want to do with the training. We

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actually want to activate it because if this is just learning and head knowledge, it's

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going to be no use to you at all. This stuff is all about heart knowledge because actually

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what happens, it's our heart that informs our head, not our head that informs our heart.

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So I really encourage you, you know, print off the sheets that are there for you. Listen

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to the video at the same time as working through the sheets. I know some of you tend to listen

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to it first. That's cool. But then sit down again and sit down with the Holy Spirit. Sit

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down with God because he's been working this whole book and this all of this workshop with

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me to open up what the Holy Spirit is telling you. This isn't about me being in charge or

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me knowing having the wisdom. It's actually just he's using me as a vessel to open the

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doors for you to open the doors of understanding to open the doors so that you can go higher

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and higher in your relationship with him in the work of your hands and feet. And so that

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we can be his salt and his light in this world. And quite frankly, right now, it's pretty

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dark out there. So we're needed more than ever. So today, it's one of my favorite, favorite

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trainings. It has turned my upside down world the right way up and continues to do so as

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I focus on the one thing that can either bring death or life, this thing. So let's see what

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we can do with it. So welcome, welcome, welcome. I've just realized I probably actually haven't

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got the right worksheet up. So we'll just see if I've got the right thing. Look at that

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So unhelpful, but we are there now. So the third power of the words of the word and his

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words in you, it's about you and him, him and you, you are so united, you are one. So

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let him let the Holy Spirit rise up bubble up from your heart, the words that are right

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for you. So we're going to learn the right the words around God and also about you. But

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before we get into that, it's really important that we press the pause button. It's the most

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important button on your playlist is pause. And just take a moment to reflect on what

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you learned last week or last time. How have you been in referred? So we've got three areas

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here we can look at. And actually, we've made this worksheet a little bit bigger so that

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if you print it off, you've actually got space to write in helpful. So, you know, with

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getting your life in order, life alignment, and your priority order. So we looked last

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week at the people in your life. And then we looked at the things in your life, the

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things that bring you joy, the people that bring you joy, the people that empower you,

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what God has blessed you with that fills your heart, your body, your soul, your spirit,

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full of awesomeness. And then how do we work our priority order? And we all know that it's

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God first, seek me first and my righteousness, everything will be given to you. So let's

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sit in that space, him first, then what then our bodies are a temple, we are the light

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and the salt. So we don't look after ourselves, we're not shining the best light, we get a

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bit tarnished. So we know that that's the case. And then it's family, it's all about

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relationship, it's all about how he connects with us and how we connect with others. And

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then comes the finance, because at the end of the day, we're still on this earthly planet.

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So we have to make some money. Because actually, that's how we bless others. That's how it's

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a way that the world works. And with that, we can have some fun, we can go and so into

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our churches, so into each other, so into where we want to be, go and do the lifestyle

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choices that we have, whether it's going to concerts, whether it's going to, you know,

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conferences, whatever it is for us. And when we have fun, we find our tribe, because we

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find our vibe and we find our tribes, we find our friends. So just have a think for yourself

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of the insight that you have gained from last week's training, consider those takeaways

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and the power of love and forgiveness.

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the power actually of being in alignment and what were most impactful lessons for you?

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So it could have been about switching your order, my current order,

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to my true priority order.

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So whatever it is for you, I just encourage you to consider what were the insights that

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you gained? What did you learn? And then how did you integrate this? How did you

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bring what you learned from last week and put it into what's happened this week?

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Again, pressing the pause button,

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considering what relationships come first, what comes first,

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maybe you might have spent more time with God.

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You know, it could have been morning or night, morning, night, or all day, whatever it was for

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you. Maybe it reminded you to get your Bible app out and actually use that for the month,

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for the week. I don't know. And then engagement with others. How did this affect your relationships?

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When we have our lives in the right order and we build up before we go, we overflow out,

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we're meant to function from the overflow, from the more that we have been given,

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because as much has been given to us, but it's actually to flow out. So instead of sucking the

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living daylights out of everybody else, because my identity comes from my car or from my job or

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from the people or from people saying yes or thank you or whatever, that's lovely, but it's not necessary.

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So maybe, you know, your engagement with others has been more uplifting or maybe it's been more

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freeing because you no longer need anything from anyone. Maybe it has just been a bundle

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of joy to connect because you're so full of the energy and the love of God that you need to pass

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it on. So just pause, have a think, have a reflect for yourself. What has that meant this week?

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And then I encourage you to rate yourself out of 10 about where you're feeling you are today.

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Now it's mid-afternoon as I'm doing this video for you and so therefore I would say I'm probably

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actually sitting, I'm going to say at a six because my energy levels have dropped a little bit

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as I've poured out this morning, as I've been in meetings, as I've been pumping. And the word that

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I'm, what I've got is I feel like I'm still empowered. So I'm empowered to hang out with you,

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empowered because I've connected with me, whatever it might be. And so funny, six is the number of

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human beings. I'm feeling very human at this moment in time. Okay, so whatever it is for you,

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just mark yourself, make you work it out. Where am I at? What am I doing? Okay, so we have done this

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exercise. I have done this exercise over and over and over and over again. It isn't just a one-off

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and done. It's one that's quite handy to do to bring yourself into alignment with where you are

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and to remind yourself how important your words are and also what you can do with words spoken

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over you. So this exercise is to remind you that words have power, they affect your emotions,

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and as they affect your emotions, your emotions affect what you do. So it is a straight line,

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words, emotions, outcomes. So just pause and think about that. So here we go, some scenario,

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I want you to think about this. Think of a time when somebody said something negative or unkind

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to you or over you. They've said something that's been unhelpful, and then I want you to think

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about how it made you feel. So unkind, I'm just trying to think, I can't think of one right at

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this moment. I'm trying to think of something that will come to me. So pause this video and

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think for yourself where somebody has said something unkind to you and how it's made you feel.

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I'll just use, it's the only thing I can think of off the top of my head.

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Every time I think about, you know, somebody says, Oh, you put on weight or

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you know, which is what my kids will tell me

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and they're quite right.

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How does it make you feel?

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It feels less than, I feel like a failure.

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I feel like, you know, I'm not good enough.

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We know where that comes from.

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And then what's the outcome?

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To be honest, the outcome is when I'm feeling in that space,

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I then focus on it, so I eat more,

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which is really unhelpful.

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that I'm feeling less than or a failure,

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I then go to food for comfort, which is super unhelpful.

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So if somebody says you put on weight or you're overweight,

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I then absorb it, feel like rubbish, eat more.

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It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Okay, let's flip it to the other side of the fence

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and the other side of the equation

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and consider what kind words or positive

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or encouraging words that have been spoken over you.

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And I have to say, coming in my direction,

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they're fairly few and far between,

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but I'm just trying to think

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if anyone has said anything positive

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or encouraging to me in the last week.

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that your book is bringing me closer

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to God.

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And it was actually like a double negative,

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different person said, I've got you all wrong,

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which actually from that particular person's perspective

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means that they think I've probably got

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a little bit more wisdom or insight than they thought,

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or I'm more connected with God than they originally thought.

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And how did it make me feel?

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How does it make you feel

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when somebody says something kind or uplifting

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or they're there for you?

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And I get excited.

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The fact that people are finding this book,

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it's taking them closer to God,

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it's making them wanna lean in,

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it's making them see difference.

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It's like, yeah, bring it on.

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I'm like, bring it on.

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I'm excited.

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I'm like, go Holy Spirit.

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Just quietly, it gets me so excited

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because I'm not doing the work.

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It's already been done.

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We've done up, I've done my part with God

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and now it's down to the Holy Spirit.

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And what's the outcome?

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It encourages me to share the message more.

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You know, it encourages me, engages me,

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it makes me feel connected.

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Whereas this here makes me feel even more disconnected

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with who I really am.

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It's not much fun, eh?

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So if you think pause, so think about negatives,

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think about positives and then pause.

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What do you notice about the impact of words?

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And it is, you know, the tongue is a double-edged sword.

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It can either break you down or it can build you up.

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And we can see that in my scenarios here,

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this is breaking me down and this is building me up.

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And the outcome for me is I either want to lean out

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or I want to lean in.

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I either want to run away or hide

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or I want to lean in and do more.

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So it disconnects or connects.

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It cuts off or it connects and makes me lean in.

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So just have a think about that for yourself,

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whether that sits for you too in that space.

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Now, it's all very well about other people.

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Oh my goodness, we've got, oh, that's right.

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Kev's got a bit of a thing going on with,

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we haven't actually sorted the programming on this.

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So just bear with, I'm gonna take this in here.

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Okay, so what I want you to do is consider now your words.

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Okay, we've looked at other people's words

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and I'm gonna show you how to deal with those in a minute,

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but I want you, because it's the same for both,

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I want you to think about your words.

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So what negative words have you spoken

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over yourself or others, but mainly over you?

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Because I think we're particularly hard on ourselves.

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You know, what do you say to yourself?

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You know, duh, you know, you could have done better.

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Did you do that for?

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You know, putting duh, putting yourself down.

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Choose that for now, because you guys can think of your own.

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So what do you say to yourself?

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And then how does duh, what did I do that for make me feel?

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It makes me feel funny, less than again.

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And it makes me feel like I'm a failure.

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Interesting, there's a pattern there.

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And again, not good enough, because I could have done better.

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I could have done better.

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And what was the outcome?

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The outcome was, I focused on the problem.

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And I actually pointed the finger at myself.

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Interesting dynamic, this.

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This pointy finger thing.

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Because when I'm being accusatory of myself,

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it's not how God works.

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It's not how Jesus works.

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You know, none of those scenarios in the Bible,

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none of those stories in the Bible did he go,

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I mean, there were times when he said to the disciples,

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are you flipping serious?

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Like I feel in today's language,

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like you guys have been hanging out with me for ages.

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You've been hanging out with me forever.

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Come on, right, let's come and see.

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You just sort yourself out.

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Right, we're all sorted now.

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Great, let's move on.

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But he never said, oh my goodness, you guys are useless.

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He used to get frustrated at times, I'm sure.

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But with love, he never went, oh my goodness, you're useless.

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You know, and when Peter stuffed up

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and denied him three times,

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does he go, oh my goodness, Peter, that was terrible.

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You denied me three times.

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That's it, you're out and that, no, that's it, you're done.

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No, he didn't.

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He said, do you love me?

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Come on, come on, let me raise you up.

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Let me put this right.

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Let me work with you.

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Do you love me?

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now go and look after my sheep.

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The Holy Spirit lives inside of us.

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How dare we be so disrespectful to God?

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Instead, lean on him, lean on him

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and not my own understanding.

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Let him take me and guide me.

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are we honouring?

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Are we honouring ourselves?

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Are we honouring the beautiful bodies that we've got?

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Are we, you know, our bodies are a temple.

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We're meant to shine the light.

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Time to be lighthouses, girls and boys.

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Okay, and then positive works you've spoken over you.

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So that's the negatives and then it brings us down

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just like it does with others.

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best-selling

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author.

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That is so exciting.

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How does that make me feel?

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Nuts!

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It's off the Richter scale.

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It's crazy good.

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It's not me, I admit.

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Well, it is me.

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It's like me and Jesus together,

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but I didn't write that book on my own, let me tell you.

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with the love of Jesus.

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You know, I feel truly, truly blessed.

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I might write another book.

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I'm inspired to see where this goes, where he leads me.

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to doing it again.

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So, I mean, I'm leaning in, I'm wanting to hear more,

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I'm wanting to know more.

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I'm like, come on.

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So again, pause.

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What did you notice about the impact of your own words?

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And for me, it's all about Jesus.

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So in one set, I'm dishonoring

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God and the way I'm made.

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In fact, it's my learning journey.

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He doesn't expect me to be perfect,

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so why should I be expecting myself to be perfect?

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and I'm honoring the God who loves me.

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And that's you. Because he loves me. Because he loves me.

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That's it.

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Hey, it blows me away. There's nothing I can do to make him

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love me more. And there's nothing I can do to let make me

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love make him love me less. So best I just let go of some of

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this stuff and start focusing on what's noble, right and true.

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So on that note, let's have a wee look at unpacking some of

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these words. We've looked at the two sides, there's negative,

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there's positive, there's good, there's bad, and we can lift up

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or break down bottom line. So key eight is about the shield,

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my shield of faith, or a mirror. So you can use this in both

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ways. So ultimately, somebody says something unkind to me,

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boff, up goes my shield of faith, fiery dart of unkindness,

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boff drops to the floor. And what I love about it is my

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shield of faith when somebody says something accusatory, or

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unkind, or whatever it might be to me, so they're coming like a

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punch bag, instead of me punching back and arguing, which

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causes that headlock and unhelpfulness and grows it and

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makes it worse. That shield of faith, that's not for me, allows

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me to know that this person is hurting because hurt people hurt

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people. So I can come healed because that arrow hasn't gone

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into my heart. And I can come with love. And say, Are you

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okay? So someone said something unkind to me, what's up? That's

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not like you. That's not how we roll. And we can end up coming

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together in love and peace and joy. Bring it on, I say. And all

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because I didn't let that fiery dart touch me. Oh, no, that

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unkind word, every word that Sally Webb speaks is about

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herself. It comes out of my heart. It comes out of my mouth.

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Every word that you speak is about yourself. So when we're

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speaking unkind words, it's not about the person, the situation,

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the whatever. It's about something in us that God wants

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to change. He wants to remove, he wants to take away and he

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wants to shift, he wants to bring back into alignment with

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what's noble, right and true. So the reality is every word I

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speak, that's the mirror part. Every word I speak is about me.

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So I need to think if I'm saying something unkind, or I've got

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gone gossamus. And as we know, that's that grumbly, grumbly,

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grumbly, grumbly. And as many of you know, I do get into that

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space. And I chunter along, because I'm grumpy about

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something. I have to look in the mirror. God, what are you

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showing me? What do you see that I can't see? Because I'm

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uncomfortable with this. So what's it about? But if someone

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else speaks it, I've got the shield of faith. So you have a

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choice, you can accept or reject your own words or others words

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spoken over you. Now I think this is brilliant, that the

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world is not against you, it's for you. God has made everything

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on this planet for us. It's for us. He created it for us. And

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what happens in my life is because of me. That's because of

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a choice I make here to go unhelpful, or a choice on the

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right to be good. So what about my choices, my choices is why

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I'm here right now today, in this moment, I have chosen to be

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here, I've chosen to hang out with God and work this stuff out

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for you, because I want us all to have a brilliant life. So we

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can accept or reject and I absolutely shield up for the

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rubbish stuff, suck it like a sponge, bring it on for the good

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stuff. Because the more good that flows in and through me,

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the more good that can flow out of me. So I'm all for lifting

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each other up, encourage each other, cheering each other on,

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and accepting, learning to receive. Can I just say

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Christians are probably the worst at that, just quietly,

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receiving, great at giving, great at pouring it out,

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absolutely rubbish at receiving. But if we don't, you know what

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God initiates everything. It's not about, it's for us, but it's

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not about us, it's about him. So if he initiates, we need to

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respond. And initiate means we need to receive to believe, but

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we need to receive to respond. Doesn't

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come from us, it comes to us and through us.

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Flipping brilliant.

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Anyway, so the world is for you.

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Everything that happens, good or bad, is to build us,

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is to grow us, is to take us from glory to glory.

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And often the battle is within ourselves,

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it's not with each other, we know that.

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And we always say the battle is upstairs,

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like it's in the heavenly realms.

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It's upstairs in here too,

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because that's where the battle often goes on.

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It's not even flipping real and in front of us,

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it's the stories we make up.

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And every challenge or every problem

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comes with a possibility.

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Every challenge comes with a solution or a promise.

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Just look.

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Brilliant.

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And together, everyone achieves more.

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So find the support in your journey.

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Find the people to stand with you and walk with you.

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Find those that will lift you up, that will cheer you on.

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And you know what?

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Prune out the people who don't.

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Doesn't mean to say you don't love them,

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doesn't mean to say you don't bless them,

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but just don't have them in your everyday life if you can.

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And if you can, just go to God, hang out with him.

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But it's time for us personally to own our journey

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and speak love and light and truth over others.

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So hopefully today, what you have learnt

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is your words shape your reality.

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If you're speaking unkind words over yourself or others,

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guess what you're gonna get?

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More of it.

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If you're speaking kind words over yourself and others,

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you're gonna get more of that too.

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So you choose which words from others to accept

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and yourself or reject.

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What I encourage you to do is really be aware.

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The awareness of your words, then the emotions,

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and then the outcomes is gold.

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Because when we can be aware of it, when we can see it,

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we can choose the path that we want.

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And at the end of the day,

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none of us can read the label from inside the jar.

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So my job is to encourage people,

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is to witness to them what I see that's brilliant about them.

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The awesomeness that I see in them,

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the gems that they are, is to speak it out.

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Some of us think it, but we never speak it.

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And that poor soul, whoever it is, doesn't get the thank you.

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We think it in our head and then we don't thank them.

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We see the love inside of them,

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but we don't tell it, say it.

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And they don't know, because they're inside the jar.

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So I encourage you today to really consider

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who you can lift up and respond to.

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And then think about your call to action

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for the coming week.

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So a call to action from today,

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thinking about our words,

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could be just to be aware of my words and track them.

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So I could just every night, pause, consider,

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have I been encouraging?

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Have I been empowering?

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Have I put myself down today?

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And if so, why and what for?

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And how can I flip that the next time?

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Another thing that I might look at

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with the power of my words is,

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actually, so aware of my words,

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but also tracking how many times I have encouraged

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or empowered somebody that day.

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And you know what?

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Sometimes it can just be,

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it could just be a message.

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It could be a phone call.

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You don't have to actually physically be with them.

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So it could be,

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have I just flicked somebody a message and encouraged them?

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Which is a bit of a laugh

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with the messy middle chat this week.

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It's been quite funny.

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Because Janice, bless her, from our office said,

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oh, can you just let us know who's carrying the message?

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So I said, yeah,

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and I've got two groups that are actually

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doing a bit of a check in,

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because they're not currently in your groups,

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because they're just doing like a bit of a check

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to see who's actually being looked after

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within the home groups, within our church.

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And I was like, yep, here are our regulars.

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And I'm like, hold on a minute,

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these are the ones that are on my WhatsApp.

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They're like, they're part of our group

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and they don't come that regularly.

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So I better just check.

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I know one of them has moved into another group,

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which is fantastic and is rocking up every week.

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Those guys who are not quite so regular, let me know.

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And all the regulars are like,

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well, you still got me, you still got me,

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you still got me.

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It's like hilarious, it's nuts.

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But all it took was,

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and then that little interaction of,

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yeah, I know you guys, I know you're here.

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And actually without you we're lost,

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because we're all a hand, a foot, a nail, a whatever,

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and everybody makes a difference.

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So sometimes it's just actually

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having those interactive discussions.

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And, you know, again, for me,

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I hadn't realized how important it was for those.

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actually, who we don't see regularly, I messaged them just

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one on one, and said, Hey, look, you know, we'd love to see you,

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we're missing you, what's happening, or whatever it might

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be. And just somebody just getting a message, they said,

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that really means a lot for you just to message me. I'm like,

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wow, we just don't realise the difference we make to people

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when we just take the time to pause, listen to God, and ask

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him who he wants us to message today. Who does he want me to

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pray for today? Who does, where does he want me to use my words

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today? So, again, now, I'm all ready to go and catch up with

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people. So it's like, right, what's your number now? And

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what's your feeling? And I am like on fire now, funny, you

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know, I came in as a six because I'm like, oh, it's the middle of

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the afternoon. Now I'm ready to go again. I'm like busting to

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get going again, because I've hung out with you guys. And I

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have shared one of my favourite sessions. So I hope this has

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been helpful to you. I'm not sure whether I've set up a chat

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yet for this. But that's going to be my next job is to set up a

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chat for this lovely DIY group, I would love you to share in

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here, how you're getting on with this, how you're finding this,

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what's working for you, maybe I have set it up already. And I'm

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just being a bit of a doer brain. I've got so many, see,

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look, put myself out down already. But I have quite a few

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groups. But I'm really, it's engagement that makes a

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difference. Remember, life is about love. It's about insight,

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listening to God. It's about the freedom to be who we're called

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to be. And it's about the engagement. If we're not in the

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chats, if we're not sharing either what we're finding

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difficult, or we're finding good, then how can we lock arms

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and encourage each other? If we're just hiding away, just

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quietly doing this on our own. That's great. But what's it for?

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And this coaching is not yes, it is for you personally. But as

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you get revelation, share it with others. One of the things

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that I think our church isn't very good at, and actually

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possibly not many are, is celebrating success is about

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sharing testimonies. You know what, it's time we shared our

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testimonies, every moment of every day, because when you get

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breakthrough, you give permission for someone else to

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get breakthrough. And it is time to break through. So I love you

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all dearly. I hope this has been helpful. And please message me,

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get in the chat, email me, Sally, this was awesome. It was

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really helpful. Sally, this was absolutely no good to me at all.

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I really struggled with it. Let me know. Because if you

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struggled with it, I need to help you. And if it was awesome,

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we need to know and others need to know. So have an amazing God

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blessed day and week. I will see many of you on Monday, so that

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we can unpack this. Remember, you need to watch this, build

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your sheets out. And then on Monday, I want to hear your

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wins. I want to hear what you learned, I want to hear how you

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grew, I want to hear what made a difference to you. I then want

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to look at if there's any unpacking any questions, we do

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that in the middle. And then what are you going to do in your

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coming week, and we'll get the chats out and we'll work out so

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that you're accountable. So you're moving forward. And we're

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not just wishy washy coming along and doing head learning.

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We're doing heart learning that changes the world. Because God

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didn't say he'd write it on your head. He said he'd write it on

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your heart, not tablets of stone, but he'd write it on your

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heart. So let this be written on your heart. And let's do

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something about it. Because out of your heart, your mouth speaks.

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Boom. Have an amazing week. I love you. God bless you. And

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we'll see you Monday. Take care.