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Hi, welcome everybody.

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Happy Monday evening.

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It's good to see everyone, or at least I see myself right now.

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I'd love for some of you ladies to come on screen with me if you're able, would love

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to see you.

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If I haven't met you before, I'm Bethany Cooper.

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I'm one of the Master Heart Work coaches here in our community, and I'm just super honored

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to be here with all of you tonight and to see what God's going to do.

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I want to go ahead and pray for us here in a minute, but I want to welcome any ladies

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that are joining us.

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This is your first live session.

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Is anyone here for the first time?

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If so, put that in the chat for us so we can welcome you, or maybe Skye's saying yes, Karen,

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I'm guessing yes as well.

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That's fine to do that too.

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Welcome ladies, and then all those that are joining us again for maybe additional time,

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we're so glad to have you back.

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Genuinely, ladies, when I can see you, when I'm coaching, I make a much deeper connection

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with you, and that's not to try to manipulate anybody that doesn't have their camera on,

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but genuinely people that go throughout the different phases, they stay in our community.

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I just am able to recall who they are more when they're on screen.

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I can make a connection with you all, whether you realize or not, when I see you and I'm

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coaching, sometimes there's just a different connection that happens versus when we're

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not on screen.

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I don't know if you all feel that way, but I definitely feel that way.

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For that reason, it's awesome for you to be on, but also for yourself.

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We have some ladies in this community, in this program that are in other phases now

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that literally they were really scared to come on screen because they didn't even like

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looking at themselves on screen or in a mirror or any of those kind of things.

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In this healing process, we coached and talked about really seeing yourself coming out of

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hiding and then embracing that can help you then do that in the days to come if you choose

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to step into dating.

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Really, really good steps for you all to take during this time.

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A couple of housekeeping things, Supernatural Saturday.

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If you all don't know, we do that every Saturday.

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Typically, it's Jackie that leads that.

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Sometimes, if she's not able, I might fill in and pinch hit.

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Candy is new.

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Welcome, Candy.

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This last week, Jackie did it, and it was really centered around making room for joy

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and living a life of deep inner joy.

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How can we do that?

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Even if you heard it before, you may want to listen to it again when you're driving

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and really let that get down in your spirit.

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If you haven't heard it already, definitely check that out under the replay tab.

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And just two other little reminders.

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Just to encourage you all to stay focused as you're going through the heart work.

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The enemy will try to bring all kinds of distractions.

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And I want to just encourage you just keep trying to keep your eyes on the prize, if

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you will, and just keep moving forward.

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Lean into everything that you're experiencing.

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Even some of you, you might be in a walk, and a memory will pop up.

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Or you wake up in the morning, and you're thinking about something that you were processing

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the night before.

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And just try to journal or jot down those things that come up as much as you can.

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Even if it's not in a book journal, but you're putting in your phone and then kind of putting

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those things together.

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Because those are all pieces and parts of your healing that God is trying to bring together

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in this season to give you a greater breakthrough.

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And then the last thing is just that one week of content per week.

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That's the best practice pace, okay?

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So if you go a little slower, that's fine.

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We really do not want you going faster.

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We can't force anyone to stay here five weeks, ladies.

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But we are going to lovingly encourage anyone that tries to move forward very quickly.

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We're going to encourage you lovingly to stay because we believe God has something

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supernatural for you in this five weeks.

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And we don't want you to miss it.

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So let me pray for us, and we're going to get started.

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Father, thank you so much for everything that you're doing.

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Thank you that you're a good father who brings good gifts to your children.

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We thank you, God, that you have plans to prosper us, to give us a hope and a future,

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not plans to harm us in any way.

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I pray that you would help us to shift a little bit more tonight in the spirit, in our spirit,

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in our soul, God, that you would heal every fiber of our being, God, that you would just

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come into the recesses, the dark places and meet us there.

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But not only meet us there, but bring those things that are in darkness to the light so

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that there can be revealings for healing happening, that revelation and breakthrough would be

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abundant, that it would be an acceleration on their lives in this healing process.

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We thank you, God, where, yes, Lord, where there's been questions and doubts and fears

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in the past where they felt stuck.

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God, we thank you for transitions and shifts.

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things getting shaken up in the spirit realm so that they can again continue to move forward and and

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Partner with you as they do where we thank you God that you sent the Holy Spirit

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Jesus when you ascended you sent the Holy Spirit you and the Father so that we never had to do life alone that we could

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Be empowered to do everything that we need to do and we just thank you for that Holy Spirit

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We thank you for your presence here

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Come and have your way in our hearts our minds our bodies our spirits and our souls in Jesus name. Amen

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Praise the Lord. He's so good you all tonight. We're gonna be talking about what is the broken heart? We're gonna talk a little bit about

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Just some reminders based off of the story of Candace if you haven't heard it already

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You will hear the story of Candace in your heart healing

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materials and

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Then I want to talk a little bit about the story of the prodigal son and the elder what I'm calling the elder brother

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Syndrome, okay, and how that can show in our lives in different ways without us realizing it as it does

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All right. So let's just dive right into our broken hearts

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Remember that as I'm talking about the heart tonight not talking about the healed places of our hearts and talking about the areas

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That still have brokenness that still have trauma and wounds in there and it's causing us to interpret information

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Distorted incorrectly all different kinds of things

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And so as I'm going tonight, I really want you to be in prayer and be asking the Lord Lord

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Is there an area of my heart that is still living into a counterfeit identity?

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Where there's still wounds and trauma that I'm living out of that's

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Tainting the way I show up in the world today

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You know whether that's with men with women as you know

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some people have issues with people in authority if they've not had a good relationship with their mom and all kinds of things that can

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Impact how we're showing up today

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So, what is your broken heart leading you into that's not a part of your true identity and

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Remember the true identity is that God-given identity that original identity that he created when he dreamed you up

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You know, he's planning us and he's

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Purposing us for something and I believe God was intentional as he put us together in our mother's womb as he knit us together

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Again even tonight as I prayed every fiber of our being and it was good

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He dreamed us up. He formed us

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He imagined us and he smiled upon us as we were being created and all of these things

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I don't know if all of you believe that if you don't believe that about yourself, that is true. It is true

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That is how God feels about us and he enjoyed creating us

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We were never a mistake. We were always planned

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We were always a

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Position for purpose God always had an identity for us that he wanted us to live into so as we are

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Unbecoming these false versions of ourself. God is wanting us to step further into the fullness of his original

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plan and design for us

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So as you're thinking about that some of you might have heard this before but I'm gonna touch on it again tonight

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it is from the heart workbook and it's about the flies and

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Lies and counterfeit lives. It's really tough to say fast y'all

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But all those things together and what do they all mean? Okay

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So if you're not familiar

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Satan who is you know

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The devil who comes to steal kill and destroy was given several names in the Bible and Beezlebub is one of them

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You don't hear it very often, but it is found in the Bible and the meaning of that name

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representing Satan is

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The Lord of the flies

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Okay, and here's where we pick up if he's the Lord of the flies think about this

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That means he's in control of all of the flies in a sense, but the flies

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Represent lies in our our context tonight, right?

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flies serve a purpose in the decomposition process of organic materials, but I still did it

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Sorry detest them. This is Jackie from the book

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However, knowing this nickname of the enemy helps us to understand how our heart wounds get infected with these lies

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what flies

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Do is they find an unhealed wound? Hey, so they're looking on anything

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That's why you see him on a back of a horse a lot in that deep those or cows and decaying area and all that

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But they're looking for an unhealed wound a sore or some place of decomposition and

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They lay their eggs inside of that place. They do this so that when the eggs hatch the larvae

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will then have an unlimited food source.

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These unhealed wounds, heart wounds in us,

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traumas and rejections become an ideal place

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for the enemy to sow his seeds,

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which are again, the lies.

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Because our hearts are fertile wombs, remember?

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So remember that everything that goes in to our hearts,

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everything we let into our, you know,

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the Bible talks about the eye gate, the ear gate.

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You know, we got a heart gate if you think about it too.

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And whatever's going in there is going to be reproduced.

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So for putting good stuff in,

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then good fruit should produce.

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You know, there's scriptures that talk about too,

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like we can't have good and evil

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coming out of the same places.

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But if we have unhealed wounds,

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then it can be that source of unhealthy decisions

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and things coming out, unhealthy fruit,

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the bad fruit, if you will, coming out of our hearts.

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I'm going to go on.

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These lies might not become evident immediately.

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In fact, they usually don't.

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So the lies are, the flies come in there

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and they lay their eggs.

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And we don't even know,

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we don't even know they're there sometimes.

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They're just kind of in the hidden places, ladies.

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We don't know they're there,

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but these seeds are well, guess what, seeds.

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And just like when you sow a seed in the ground

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and you don't see the plants spring up right away,

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the same is true here.

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There is an incubation or maturity process.

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It can take years for those seeds,

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the lies to mature in someone's life.

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And when they do,

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they bring with them fully formed false identities

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or what we call the fragmented heart.

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I'm going to read on tonight.

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I didn't do this earlier,

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but I'm just, I see something that's standing out to me

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and I want to lean into this.

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So she goes on, I'm not going to do this for a while,

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but I feel led to just read this additional part.

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For instance, say your parents got a divorce

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when you were very young or perhaps never married at all.

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Your father left the house

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and abandoned his responsibility towards you.

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Keep in mind, abandonment doesn't have to be physical.

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It can be also emotional, spiritual, or financial.

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While that would be a terrible thing to happen to you,

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the trauma doesn't even have to happen to you personally.

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It might've been your grandpa or your great grandpa

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that abandoned his family,

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but because it affected your mother or your father,

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they may have unconsciously passed those lies down to you.

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This is how we inherit emotional debt

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and heart wounds from our families.

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But whether it's a firsthand trauma or not,

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the event itself is not going to be the thing

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that keeps you from having a good life.

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It's the lies you believe

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that will as a result of the trauma.

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Remember, we talked about that before.

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So I want you guys to kind of lean into that

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as I keep moving forward.

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It might not be just your own trauma.

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It could be trauma or emotional debt

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that you had inherited from family members

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that passed it down and maybe they didn't know how to heal

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or maybe before they healed,

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but those things were passed down before that took place.

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So the broken heart we know is a liar.

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It's a puzzle and it's a pretender.

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And if you haven't heard those videos yet,

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again, if you're brand new, you'll hear them.

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And she's gonna go into that more in depth,

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Jackie, in her videos.

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But tonight we're gonna just kind of go over it real quick.

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So the liar means it's full of lies.

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So the broken heart has all kinds of lies in there.

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And we tend to be living out of those subconsciously

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pretty often without realizing it.

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It's a puzzle, so it's messed up.

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It says we want things that we don't really want.

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An example, a couple of examples, ladies here.

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Maybe you think you want a guy just to have a guy

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because you feel lonely,

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even though deep down you really want a healthy guy,

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but here's this guy that shows up.

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Maybe you move into phase two and he shows up

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and hey, he's got most of the things.

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He's got most of the things

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that we're trying to encourage y'all to look for,

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but he's really missing that marriage-minded piece

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and wanting to wait for sex piece.

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But I don't wanna be alone.

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And I'm afraid that if I don't move forward with this guy,

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then I might not end up with anybody.

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And we shift, some people shift right back

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into the lies they believed before they started heartwork.

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Okay?

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We have to know our value and our worth deep down

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enough to say, no, no, you seem like a really nice guy,

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but I'm waiting for a guy that has marriage-minded

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as a part of his character.

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And then he wants to wait until we're married to have sex.

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I hope, I hope you all want that too.

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And if you don't, if that's not where you're at in your heart, I would, I

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would encourage you to take some time with that, with the Lord.

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We all struggle.

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We've all had struggles.

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I, that was an area I absolutely struggled because of the things

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that happened from the past.

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My value when I was young, I was taught was my body.

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That isn't true.

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And so I had to unlearn that stuff so that I could put myself as valuable,

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worthy of a man waiting and not just waiting, but protecting it.

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That we would partner in protecting that.

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Okay.

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So another thing, sometimes we think that we want, that we really don't want

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anybody else ever eating food when you're really not even hungry, but man,

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I've been sad and I just, I got to feed that sadness or that loneliness.

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I've absolutely done that.

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You all what subconsciously without even knowing sometimes why I'm doing it,

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but it was a learned behavior.

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I saw my mom and my sister both do that growing up.

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I don't know if her mom did it too.

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And so I have to continue to unlearn that stuff.

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Even now today, the broken heart is also a pretender.

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It's a mask.

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It's telling us all the time.

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You got to pretend.

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You got to pretend.

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Let's see in the chat.

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I want to just get you all involved.

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What are some masks that you feel like you got to put up in the world today?

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Um, you know, let's see just what the thoughts are before I put anything in

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your minds about the different types of mask, but as you're doing that,

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sometimes the pretender also tells us we want expensive things.

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We want status.

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We want to say, I'm okay.

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That's all right.

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I'm good.

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I don't need your help.

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It's not bad to want nice things.

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I like nice things too, but if I want those things to achieve a status or some

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kind of attention from people or to feel good about myself, then that's where I

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can tell I'm totally out of balance with those things because I don't

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get my value from a purse.

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The first time I ever had an expensive purse, Brian bought it for me because

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I actually just wasn't even comfortable with it.

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I actually just wasn't even comfortable doing that, like buying a nice purse

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that was a couple hundred bucks or whatever.

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And some people might hear that and be like, Oh my gosh, you

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spent a hundred, a couple hundred bucks.

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Yes, we did.

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And you know what?

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God used it to really stretch me and heal me because I was

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uncomfortable buying those things, but God wanted me to have them.

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And so it was definitely a stretching moment for me.

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Um, being a pretender, that broken heart that leads us to pretend also

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causes us to live below our true identity, which ties to what I was

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talking about earlier, our true identity is value, worthy, honor, respect.

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But when we go and have, um, sex outside of marriage covenant, guess what?

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We're living below that identity, right?

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Right.

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We are.

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All right.

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Let me see what we got in here.

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This is going to be really good.

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All right.

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The mass that says I'm okay.

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Independence.

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So no one can hurt me that I can handle everything that I don't need help.

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I'm good.

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Indeed.

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Okay.

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She's agreeing.

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Okay.

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That I have to be an exemplary Christian.

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Yeah.

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We don't have to be perfect.

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Y'all I make mistakes all the time.

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I just got upset like 30 minutes ago about something with somebody from the

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church and I was like, Lord, forgive me.

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I got to go coach in half an hour.

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Help me get myself right.

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You know, of course we all, we all have stuff.

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Let's see.

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I have to be strong, pretending to be happy.

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I'm resilient.

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I can do it myself doing great.

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I have it all together.

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Okay.

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I love that.

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That's really good.

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And I think the thing is, is we, the thing that feeds that is we believe the

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lie that we do have to have it all together.

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And so if we don't, what does that mean?

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So let's Julia unpack that or anyone else that that's resonating with.

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Why do we have to have it all together?

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Is someone going to not like us if we don't?

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Are we going to lose love from somebody if we don't have it all together?

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Okay.

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Keep going status that I'm fine.

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Even though feeling lonely or depressed, I can do things by myself.

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Then I'm okay with less than in re with less than in relationships.

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Never let them see you sweater hurting.

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Don't let yourself be vulnerable pretending.

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All right.

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Awesome.

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I'm okay.

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Oh, pretending I'm okay without a companion.

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Sorry about that.

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Finding value and being busy at work and productive vulnerability and

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weak is weakness.

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Pretending that I am doing better than I really am the mass that I don't need

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anyone that I need to be a hundred percent self-reliant.

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Okay.

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Hyper independence, not needing anyone value in my husband who passed.

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Okay.

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That's pretty deep.

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Sylvia too.

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So.

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is here's, here's a key tip for you. We need to know who we are

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apart from our spouses, even in a healthy spirit, make

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connection and relationship. Okay. And while you will

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continue to, you know, become a team and get to know each other

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more. And Sylvia says later value my kids. Yeah, we have to

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have our value and who we are like, who are we? What do we

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love? And really pray that God would help us bring that back

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into balance where we understand that our kids are blessings, our

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spouses are blessings, but they don't determine our value. Okay.

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All right, keep going being busy and distracted as a mask. Yeah,

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100% that is a mask. I totally can second that I've had to come

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out of that as well. And a lot of people it's not in just

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secular jobs. There's people that really wear mask in

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ministry, and they're just busy, busy, busy all the time, but

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they've got a love a deep love wound that's still open in their

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soul. Believing that living small is admirable. Okay. Oh,

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that's awesome. Gabriella. Gabriella says I bought my first

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expensive purse last week. And that actually helped me see that

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I don't have to keep waiting for a man to give me an expensive

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item. I love it. I love it. That's so great. All right, I'm

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gonna stop there. Audrina, I think says there that I have to

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take care of myself and protect myself need to be strong. Okay,

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there might be more but I want to go ahead and go back to the

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teaching. So ladies, those were great. Now when you have those

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masks. This week, I want you to unpack those a little bit more

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with the Lord. I want you to ask him, when is the first time I

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felt like I had to put this mask on? Okay. When is the first time

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I felt like I had to put this mask on? To what? To get love to

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get attention to be safe. To protect myself, you guys get to

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fill in the blank. Okay, but when was the first time and

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remember that you're just doing your best to ask the Lord hear

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what he says. Write down any thoughts that come and even if

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that's not the first one, just know that as you process that

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he'll start to lead you to the next thing if there is more that

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he's wanting to reveal to you. Perfect parent was one I said

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this afternoon, you know, perfect daughter, perfect

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spouse, perfect parent, you know, that mask of always trying

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to look like we've got it all together. A lot of people on

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social media do this, you know, now where they're posting just

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the highlight reels that their life has fallen apart behind the

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scenes. And I'm not saying we shouldn't post happy things,

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ladies. But we want to be and we don't need to post even all the

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stuff that's falling apart, but we need to be real people. Okay.

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So if our life is falling apart, let's not go and post like that

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it's like something different than it is. Okay. But those are

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some of the masks I think also, you know, people that are trying

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to project that they have money, when maybe they don't. That's

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another one that just came to mind. There's probably so many

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more, but we'll keep moving. Jeremiah 17, nine says the heart

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is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked who can

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know it. As we read last week in Proverbs 423, it says keep your

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heart with all vigilance for from it flows the springs of

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life. Why? Because our hearts are highly impressionable. So we

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have to protect our hearts so that not everything that's going

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on around the world is coming in and harming us. Okay, so I'm

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going to list a couple different lies for you all. There are

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probably so many more, okay. I'm just giving you the ones that

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over the years, I've started kind of just seeing a path like

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a common theme that comes up for people in heartwork. And I want

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to just really kind of hone in on what the root of that is

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these different lies to kind of help some of you start to unpack

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and understand why you have thoughts like you have that

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aren't truth and where they where they kind of are derived

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from essentially. All right, lie number one. And these are again

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are things the enemy is saying to you in different ways. He

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might not say it in the exact way that I'm saying it tonight.

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But there might be a different way. So be open to that as well.

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Lie number one, you are insignificant. Oh, Jeremiah 17

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nine was that scripture Damaris? Lie number one, you are

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insignificant. The definition of insignificant is not

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significant, lacking meaning not worth considering unimportant.

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Did anyone ever tell you that you weren't important?

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Or maybe they didn't tell you that you weren't important,

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but their behaviors and their actions

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were speaking something to you

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that caused you to believe that you weren't important.

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Because here's the reality,

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moms and dads that work a lot,

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it can also feel like you're not important

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if you believe that lie.

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If they're not really nurturing you

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through that process or that season

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where they're working a lot.

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Lie number two, you don't matter.

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Lie number three, you should be seen and not heard.

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We had a lot of people this afternoon,

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several this afternoon say that that is something

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that they've heard or that's been said to them.

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We know that that's not truth,

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but a lot of people actually believe that.

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Lie number four, you're not enough.

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The flip side is also a lot of people

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believe they're too much, okay?

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So that kind of goes together sometimes.

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Lie number five, your opinion doesn't matter.

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Your thoughts don't matter.

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You can kind of fill in whatever that,

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your whatever doesn't matter.

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Your wants don't matter.

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You see how that kind of goes in there?

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All right, lie number six,

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you're always going to have to beg.

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What I mean by this is you may not hear that lie,

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but maybe you believe the lie that,

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God, you bless everybody else but me.

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God, I feel like I have to beg

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for just my basic needs to be met.

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God, I feel like, you know, on the inside, ladies,

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this is what it is.

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It's not that we have words to even put to this sometimes,

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but there are times where we go through a situation

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and we feel like we're down under the table

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just begging for crumbs.

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I know that's how I felt sometimes,

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but God has so many good things to show you

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about the truth of that.

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That's not where we were meant to be.

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That's not the heart posture he ever wanted us to live into.

487
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He wants us to know there's a seat at the table

488
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that he's pulled out.

489
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It's already waiting for us,

490
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but we have to learn how to come out from under the table

491
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and get into that chair.

492
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And that shift happens in our minds,

493
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which is connected to our hearts.

494
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It happens through healing, ladies.

495
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But it also happens, let me say this,

496
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it also happens through recognizing

497
00:27:41.300 --> 00:27:42.800
the lies that we're believing.

498
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All right, here's the last one

499
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I'm gonna give you for tonight.

500
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Lie number seven, if they really knew me,

501
00:27:51.760 --> 00:27:55.980
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.

502
00:27:58.320 --> 00:27:59.480
If they really knew me,

503
00:27:59.480 --> 00:28:01.680
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.

504
00:28:01.680 --> 00:28:03.400
Here's how this can show up.

505
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If they really knew everything that I did,

506
00:28:09.000 --> 00:28:12.800
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.

507
00:28:12.800 --> 00:28:14.360
We hear it all the time.

508
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People, I went through it too,

509
00:28:16.400 --> 00:28:18.280
afraid initially to tell Brian

510
00:28:18.280 --> 00:28:21.040
about some things that happened to me

511
00:28:21.040 --> 00:28:24.400
because of prior treatment when I told my ex-husband,

512
00:28:24.400 --> 00:28:29.400
but also because it's just, it felt like a lot for me.

513
00:28:29.480 --> 00:28:32.460
And so, and I had had 30,

514
00:28:32.460 --> 00:28:36.580
well, by the time I met Brian, 40 some years to process it.

515
00:28:37.760 --> 00:28:41.320
And here he is, and he has just this little bit of time.

516
00:28:42.660 --> 00:28:45.080
But I had to lean into truth.

517
00:28:45.080 --> 00:28:48.160
He wasn't afraid by that, and he didn't go running away.

518
00:28:48.160 --> 00:28:50.560
He was just calm and like, okay,

519
00:28:50.560 --> 00:28:51.880
thank you for sharing that with me,

520
00:28:51.880 --> 00:28:55.080
and it was really great, and all the things.

521
00:28:55.080 --> 00:28:56.760
Here's another one.

522
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Sometimes people believe when they're single moms

523
00:29:00.200 --> 00:29:03.200
that people look at them like

524
00:29:03.200 --> 00:29:07.200
they're not a valued package in a sense.

525
00:29:07.200 --> 00:29:12.200
And so if they knew I was a single parent,

526
00:29:12.920 --> 00:29:15.840
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.

527
00:29:15.840 --> 00:29:17.600
If they knew I was divorced,

528
00:29:17.600 --> 00:29:20.680
they wouldn't accept me, love me, choose me.

529
00:29:20.680 --> 00:29:23.220
Whatever the blank is for you,

530
00:29:24.840 --> 00:29:28.960
I want you to just really ask the Lord about that.

531
00:29:28.960 --> 00:29:30.720
Sharon, is it the one that I just read,

532
00:29:30.720 --> 00:29:32.760
or do you mean line number six?

533
00:29:33.800 --> 00:29:35.800
The last one is just if they really knew me,

534
00:29:35.800 --> 00:29:37.360
they wouldn't, as I was saying,

535
00:29:37.360 --> 00:29:38.720
accept me, love me, choose me.

536
00:29:38.720 --> 00:29:40.080
The one right before that

537
00:29:40.080 --> 00:29:42.100
is you're always going to have to beg.

538
00:29:43.440 --> 00:29:44.280
All right.

539
00:29:46.840 --> 00:29:48.400
So as we're moving forward,

540
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what I want you to understand is all of these lies

541
00:29:53.200 --> 00:29:56.440
point to us having low self-esteem,

542
00:29:56.440 --> 00:29:59.680
not understanding our value and our worth,

543
00:29:59.680 --> 00:30:00.520
and then.

544
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:06.320
and pauper and or orphan mentalities that we are believing and living into.

545
00:30:06.320 --> 00:30:12.800
And so if you resonated with any of the lies that I talked about tonight on any level,

546
00:30:12.800 --> 00:30:19.860
I want to encourage you to pray and really ask the Lord to reveal to you what is at the

547
00:30:19.860 --> 00:30:28.200
root of you not valuing yourself, what's the root of the insecurities or low self-esteem,

548
00:30:28.200 --> 00:30:33.520
and or to reveal the pauper orphan mentalities of limiting belief systems that you might

549
00:30:33.520 --> 00:30:41.120
be currently living under and partnering with that are not serving you well, okay?

550
00:30:41.120 --> 00:30:42.280
They're not serving you well.

551
00:30:42.280 --> 00:30:45.640
They're not leading you into the good life he has for you.

552
00:30:45.640 --> 00:30:53.560
They're leading you into heartbreak and mistakes and living below that true potential and that

553
00:30:53.560 --> 00:30:56.240
original design that God had for you.

554
00:30:56.240 --> 00:30:59.440
And he wants to help you get onto the path, you know, there's that scripture that she

555
00:30:59.440 --> 00:31:05.520
has in the book about Lord help, you know, take my feet off the path of pain and put

556
00:31:05.520 --> 00:31:09.080
my feet on the path that leads me back to you.

557
00:31:09.080 --> 00:31:10.840
I love that scripture.

558
00:31:10.840 --> 00:31:12.480
And I don't remember where it's at right now.

559
00:31:12.480 --> 00:31:17.320
It's in the book, but it is a scripture and I love to read it because it's really ministered

560
00:31:17.320 --> 00:31:20.040
to me through the years.

561
00:31:20.040 --> 00:31:23.000
All right, so here are a couple truths for you.

562
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Proverbs 12 49 says this, a wife of noble characters or husband's crown.

563
00:31:32.760 --> 00:31:35.240
Proverbs 12 49 is what that was.

564
00:31:35.240 --> 00:31:39.460
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown.

565
00:31:39.460 --> 00:31:46.160
Do you all believe that you are your future husband's crown?

566
00:31:46.160 --> 00:31:50.000
I know like people will like be like, yeah, yeah.

567
00:31:50.000 --> 00:31:51.400
And we do.

568
00:31:51.400 --> 00:31:58.960
But deep down inside, if you don't know your true value and worth, and you don't really

569
00:31:58.960 --> 00:32:05.440
believe that you're going to find your spirit mate somewhere along that path, there is a

570
00:32:05.440 --> 00:32:11.120
little bit of, am I really this?

571
00:32:11.120 --> 00:32:17.440
Because those that believe it walk into it, okay?

572
00:32:17.440 --> 00:32:19.360
I know that's hard, but it's true.

573
00:32:19.360 --> 00:32:21.200
It's really, really true.

574
00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:25.920
When we struggle, if we're stuck somewhere, if any area that we're stuck is a revealing

575
00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:31.960
for healing, it's a signal saying, Hey, there's something under here that needs healing.

576
00:32:31.960 --> 00:32:35.880
And it's causing you to be stuck.

577
00:32:35.880 --> 00:32:41.520
Even if that what needs healing is you believing that you should just be okay being single

578
00:32:41.520 --> 00:32:49.760
because the church tells you to be, which God never says.

579
00:32:49.760 --> 00:32:55.520
Jackie talked a couple of Saturdays private a month or so ago now about the true meaning

580
00:32:55.520 --> 00:33:01.600
of the scripture that Paul was talking about, about being like living and called being called

581
00:33:01.600 --> 00:33:03.720
to being single and what that means.

582
00:33:03.720 --> 00:33:06.840
We have to make sure we're not living into things that are taken out of context when

583
00:33:06.840 --> 00:33:09.280
they come from the pulpit.

584
00:33:09.280 --> 00:33:15.240
Ephesians one five says in love, he predestined us to adoption, to sonship through Jesus

585
00:33:15.240 --> 00:33:19.000
Christ in accordance with his pleasure and will.

586
00:33:19.000 --> 00:33:24.240
I want you to kind of grab onto that word adoption.

587
00:33:24.240 --> 00:33:28.420
In love, he predestined you for adoption.

588
00:33:28.420 --> 00:33:30.480
You are already in the family.

589
00:33:30.480 --> 00:33:39.040
Well, if we're already in the family and he's the King of Kings, then again, doesn't that

590
00:33:39.800 --> 00:33:45.600
automatically make us a princess when we are his children?

591
00:33:45.600 --> 00:33:53.560
Adrena, it's one of the, it's one of the ones that's either at the end of chapters or in

592
00:33:53.560 --> 00:33:58.800
the mix, but it talks about taking our feet off a pathway of pain and putting our feet

593
00:33:58.800 --> 00:34:00.560
back onto the pathway that leads to him.

594
00:34:00.560 --> 00:34:05.000
It might be the message version or passion translation.

595
00:34:05.000 --> 00:34:11.639
That last scripture I just read was Ephesians one, five, I don't know if I said that right.

596
00:34:11.639 --> 00:34:14.360
Somebody helped me this afternoon with pronouncing their name.

597
00:34:14.360 --> 00:34:18.480
So if I ever say anybody's name wrong, if you put the pronunciation, pronunciation,

598
00:34:18.480 --> 00:34:24.280
I don't know how to say that word tonight in the chat for me, I will write it down and

599
00:34:24.280 --> 00:34:25.280
work on it.

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So I don't call you by the wrong name.

601
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Okay.

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00:34:27.760 --> 00:34:28.880
Isaiah 43, four.

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We got to keep moving.

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00:34:29.880 --> 00:34:34.159
Since you are precious and honored in my sight and because I love you, I will give people

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00:34:34.159 --> 00:34:38.920
in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life.

606
00:34:38.920 --> 00:34:43.960
I want y'all to understand back in that day, you know, there was a lot of bartering between

607
00:34:43.960 --> 00:34:51.760
nations and Kings and it meant a lot when a King would give up his nation, so to speak,

608
00:34:51.760 --> 00:34:58.000
his priceless jewels, his people, you know, they would give herds and all that's how they

609
00:34:58.000 --> 00:35:00.040
like, that was representative of their wealth.

610
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.960
off their livelihood. It was how they, they lived like they, I

611
00:35:04.960 --> 00:35:07.560
don't want to say they fed off of that. But like, that's how

612
00:35:07.560 --> 00:35:10.900
they got food. That's the real way, the really breakdown of

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00:35:10.900 --> 00:35:18.240
that. But think about this. God is basically saying, Hey, since

614
00:35:18.240 --> 00:35:21.360
you're precious and honored in my sight, and because I love

615
00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:25.080
you, I'm not just willing to give people in exchange for you.

616
00:35:25.080 --> 00:35:29.600
I'm willing to give up my nations, nations for you. And I

617
00:35:29.600 --> 00:35:31.960
just want you to understand that's just a reminder of the

618
00:35:31.960 --> 00:35:36.080
depth of his love for us. He went to the ends of the earth,

619
00:35:36.080 --> 00:35:41.240
he sent his one and only son to us so that we would be able to

620
00:35:41.240 --> 00:35:45.560
be in relationship with him. That's how much he wanted us.

621
00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:50.800
Luke 12, seven, and then we're going to get ready for

622
00:35:50.800 --> 00:35:55.360
breakouts, says this, indeed, the very hairs of your head are

623
00:35:55.360 --> 00:35:59.920
all numbered. Don't be afraid you are worth more than

624
00:35:59.920 --> 00:36:06.320
sparrows. Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

625
00:36:06.800 --> 00:36:13.200
Don't be afraid you are worth more than sparrows. Alina on

626
00:36:13.200 --> 00:36:17.080
your question there, I won't go into it too far. But I do feel

627
00:36:17.080 --> 00:36:20.600
like I should address it. Your question is why do I constantly

628
00:36:20.600 --> 00:36:26.680
feel disrespected and gaslit? Well, I think I'm just from the

629
00:36:26.680 --> 00:36:30.600
coaching we did a week or two ago, I would ask yourself a

630
00:36:30.600 --> 00:36:35.560
dish different question. I would ask yourself, is there healing

631
00:36:35.560 --> 00:36:41.240
that I need? So that I can set healthy boundaries to not be

632
00:36:41.240 --> 00:36:48.480
around people that treat me just disrespectfully. And recognize,

633
00:36:48.480 --> 00:36:55.840
you know, that unhealthy people do unhealthy things. Okay, we

634
00:36:55.840 --> 00:36:58.400
have to remember that ladies, and we don't need to keep being

635
00:36:58.400 --> 00:37:02.240
around these people that mistreat us all the time. Jackie

636
00:37:02.240 --> 00:37:05.920
talked about that two weeks ago, we need to ask the Lord, Lord,

637
00:37:06.200 --> 00:37:10.040
who do I have permission to let go of in this season? All right,

638
00:37:10.040 --> 00:37:13.240
here's your question for breakout. What lie have you been

639
00:37:13.240 --> 00:37:17.640
believing that you need to invite God into so that you can

640
00:37:17.680 --> 00:37:22.480
heal? What lie have you been believing that you need to

641
00:37:22.480 --> 00:37:33.800
invite God into so that you can heal? I just saw Renee's thing.

642
00:37:33.800 --> 00:37:38.360
Alina, you're welcome on that. Renee says, I know I am but men

643
00:37:38.360 --> 00:37:43.360
do not approach me. So maybe on the crown one. And we'll work on

644
00:37:43.360 --> 00:37:46.360
that through heart healing. Just make sure you open up in the in

645
00:37:46.360 --> 00:37:49.240
the group and share, you know, not just here during the live

646
00:37:49.240 --> 00:37:52.760
sessions, but even in our chat groups, you all when you post in

647
00:37:52.760 --> 00:37:56.480
their stuff that you're really struggling with in this regard,

648
00:37:56.480 --> 00:37:59.840
this is an area you feel stuck Renee, come in and post in the

649
00:38:00.000 --> 00:38:02.480
group and we can help you process and kind of start to

650
00:38:02.480 --> 00:38:04.200
unpack that a little more because I don't want you to

651
00:38:04.200 --> 00:38:08.400
leave phase one still in that place. Okay. Alright, so I'm

652
00:38:08.400 --> 00:38:14.360
about to put you on your groups. Okay, Jodi, that's fine. You can

653
00:38:14.360 --> 00:38:19.040
just stay in the main room. And if you all if somebody's at work,

654
00:38:19.040 --> 00:38:22.000
just put it in the chat. And I'll do my best to move people

655
00:38:22.000 --> 00:38:25.640
around. However, we need to tonight, I am going to do three

656
00:38:25.640 --> 00:38:29.760
people to a room to try to avoid a little bit more of that. And

657
00:38:29.760 --> 00:38:36.160
I'm going to give you all eight minutes. Okay, Ruth, that's

658
00:38:36.160 --> 00:38:38.640
totally fine. I'm going to give you eight minutes for this first

659
00:38:38.640 --> 00:38:42.240
conversation. Because I want you to have time. Now first,

660
00:38:42.240 --> 00:38:45.440
remember, you're talking about the lies that you have been

661
00:38:45.440 --> 00:38:48.400
believing that you need to invite God into heal. If you

662
00:38:48.400 --> 00:38:52.320
have extra time after everybody in the group has shared, I want

663
00:38:52.320 --> 00:38:54.320
you to try to get to know each other a little bit. Where are

664
00:38:54.320 --> 00:39:01.120
you from? What led you to this group? And you can talk about if

665
00:39:01.120 --> 00:39:05.640
you need extra questions, one of your favorite places to go you

666
00:39:05.640 --> 00:39:08.720
can talk about a restaurant you love, you know, anything ladies,

667
00:39:08.720 --> 00:39:11.400
okay, just just get to know each other a little bit. All right,

668
00:39:11.400 --> 00:39:19.360
here you go. Go ahead and click to join those. Okay, click those

669
00:39:19.360 --> 00:39:20.480
as quick as you can.

670
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All right, give me one second, ladies. And I'll pray here in

671
00:39:44.200 --> 00:39:48.360
just a minute. I think I've got everybody's at least got two

672
00:39:48.360 --> 00:39:53.480
people. All right, Father, we just thank you so much for this

673
00:39:53.480 --> 00:39:54.200
night.

674
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.040
We thank you Lord for revealings for healing that are happening. We thank you God for

675
00:40:06.520 --> 00:40:14.240
Just bringing any of the lies to the surface so that we can come to you and embrace your truth that we can learn

676
00:40:14.240 --> 00:40:16.160
How to navigate

677
00:40:16.160 --> 00:40:18.920
Every one of those areas for revealing for healing

678
00:40:19.720 --> 00:40:23.560
Let's see iPhone. Are you trying to maybe join with your mic now?

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00:40:24.160 --> 00:40:25.360
maybe

680
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or did you just join us because I want to put you in a breakout if

681
00:40:29.080 --> 00:40:31.080
You're wanting to join

682
00:40:32.520 --> 00:40:34.520
I'm not sure who that is

683
00:40:35.440 --> 00:40:37.440
so father we just ask you to

684
00:40:38.560 --> 00:40:43.560
Just come into all the breakouts into this main room that you administer to people on the replay

685
00:40:44.520 --> 00:40:51.200
And just really come into the quiet places the places that have been hidden for a long time

686
00:40:51.680 --> 00:40:58.080
Where they're afraid to let other people go into and I pray that you would help them to trust you

687
00:40:58.880 --> 00:41:06.200
Mm-hmm to allow you to go into those areas so that Lord they don't have to stay stuck going forward God

688
00:41:06.200 --> 00:41:11.880
We thank you that you would place the balm of Gilead upon their hearts their minds their bodies their spirits their souls

689
00:41:12.160 --> 00:41:19.080
God, we thank you for redemption. We thank you for grace. We thank you for life and healing. We thank you that

690
00:41:19.760 --> 00:41:27.360
You are making all things new that you're bringing streams in in the wasteland and rivers in the desert and

691
00:41:27.880 --> 00:41:32.040
God we thank you that you're washing over all the dead dry areas

692
00:41:32.280 --> 00:41:39.440
The areas that we have not had life or we've not had joy where we've not experienced your love and your grace God

693
00:41:39.440 --> 00:41:43.760
I thank you that you're coming into all of those cracks and crevices in those places

694
00:41:44.360 --> 00:41:46.200
tonight and you're

695
00:41:46.200 --> 00:41:52.480
How you're speaking your love you're speaking your truth. You're speaking your joy. We thank you God that you would help us to

696
00:41:53.200 --> 00:41:58.480
Yes, Lord forgive anybody that we need to forgive so that we can have

697
00:41:59.520 --> 00:42:06.480
healing power flowing into us and through us God because even in the in Scripture it does say ladies that

698
00:42:07.200 --> 00:42:12.600
You know when we hold bitterness and unforgiveness or we have evil intent in our hearts towards anyone

699
00:42:13.200 --> 00:42:20.880
It can hinder our prayers. And so Lord, I just pray that you would help us help us to relinquish control and allow you to

700
00:42:21.680 --> 00:42:23.720
Heal all of those areas and

701
00:42:25.000 --> 00:42:31.200
Yeah, Lord, just trust you with the outcome no matter what and I just thank you God that you're continuing

702
00:42:32.600 --> 00:42:38.360
To redefine the way that we look at you. I thank you God that you would just impart

703
00:42:40.240 --> 00:42:42.240
Divine revelation

704
00:42:42.360 --> 00:42:45.880
So that we can hear what your spirit is saying more clearly

705
00:42:45.880 --> 00:42:51.720
We thank you that your word declares that we are your sheep and your sheep hear your voice and we always obey what you tell

706
00:42:51.720 --> 00:42:57.640
Us to do we thank you God that just like a shepherd the sheep follow the shepherd. They know his voice

707
00:42:57.640 --> 00:43:00.360
We thank you God that that is the truth for us as well

708
00:43:00.360 --> 00:43:03.360
And we will hear your voice and we will respond to you

709
00:43:03.360 --> 00:43:09.440
and I thank you God that even things that have blocked our ability to hear you in the past God that you're removing those and

710
00:43:10.280 --> 00:43:13.860
Aligning us with your good and perfect and pleasing will for our lives

711
00:43:14.860 --> 00:43:20.060
Psalm 51 10 says create me a clean heart. Oh God and renew a steadfast spirit in me

712
00:43:20.060 --> 00:43:26.300
So we thank you God that you're doing cleansing tonight as people are talking about the lies that they've you know

713
00:43:26.300 --> 00:43:31.420
Been believing God that they're letting go of we thank you God that there's this cleansing this renewal

714
00:43:31.700 --> 00:43:38.540
This redemptive work that's happening and we thank you God that they're gonna walk away changed from tonight without even maybe fully

715
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Knowing that they're walking away and change that even conversations that are happening God that you're

716
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Connecting dots that aha's are happening that moments of transition and transformation are taking place

717
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We thank you God that even as your word declares that we're being

718
00:43:54.460 --> 00:43:58.860
transformed by the renewing of our minds that all old things have passed away and

719
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Behold behold everything is becoming new and you so Lord. We thank you that we will take

720
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Yeah apart are an active role and guarding our hearts and our minds for Christ Jesus

721
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we thank you that we will take every thought captive and

722
00:44:14.080 --> 00:44:20.560
Make it obedient to Jesus Christ and we will no longer just continue to believe every lie that the enemy presents to us

723
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we will choose to come out of alignment and agreement with things that don't sound like or look like heaven and the ways that we

724
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Can understand what is heaven sound like what does heaven look like as we can look at Jesus?

725
00:44:32.560 --> 00:44:37.040
we can look at the way that he was on the earth his example the things that he taught and

726
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Lord we can just

727
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Every day help us become more like him

728
00:44:42.520 --> 00:44:47.920
It doesn't mean we have to be perfect by any means but through your grace Lord help us to make choices

729
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that are in alignment with

730
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What Jesus demonstrated for us? We thank you that you'll help us to come out of alignment with fear and

731
00:44:58.240 --> 00:45:00.240
unbelief doubt worry

732
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be in any area of our lives. And I thank you, God, that you would just give us a new story

733
00:45:04.000 --> 00:45:10.560
tonight, that you would help us to partner with your truth. And yeah, Lord, just cling

734
00:45:10.560 --> 00:45:16.880
to it. I read a scripture this morning where it was talking about, you know, meditating

735
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on your word day and night, Lord, and that we would keep them as the apple of our eye

736
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and that we would literally, you know, tie them around our neck that, you know, if you

737
00:45:25.760 --> 00:45:29.800
think about a necklace and a locket, you know, you're keeping that thing close to you. So

738
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Lord, I thank you that you'll help us to fall in love with your word, to fall more in love

739
00:45:34.600 --> 00:45:42.320
with you, and to really honor and rightly divide the word of truth. And that we would,

740
00:45:42.320 --> 00:45:47.400
as we read your word, Lord, that we would have a newfound appreciation, a love and excitement,

741
00:45:47.400 --> 00:45:52.600
a joy, God, that as we read your word, that stuff would literally almost like leap off

742
00:45:52.600 --> 00:45:57.360
the page, add us to us, and that we would know, God, that you're trying to communicate

743
00:45:57.360 --> 00:46:02.520
something to us. And sometimes, Lord, it's that subtle thing. I just feel led to kind

744
00:46:02.520 --> 00:46:06.200
of talk into this tonight a little bit while they're in the breakout for those that watch

745
00:46:06.200 --> 00:46:09.960
the replay, or I'll encourage the ladies to go back and listen to this. But here's the

746
00:46:09.960 --> 00:46:13.920
thing, it's not always going to be that obvious jumping off the page at us. Sometimes it's

747
00:46:13.920 --> 00:46:20.640
just a gentle nudge in our spirit that we just are sensing, like, look a little deeper,

748
00:46:20.640 --> 00:46:25.200
where the Holy Spirit's just calling us to look a little deeper into a scripture to understand

749
00:46:25.200 --> 00:46:30.000
it more, to study it, and see what God is saying to us through it. What does he want

750
00:46:30.000 --> 00:46:36.160
to say to us today? Every single day that we would have an excitement to unpack the

751
00:46:36.160 --> 00:46:45.080
word and hear from him. First Peter 5.8 in the NLT says, stay alert, watch out for your

752
00:46:45.080 --> 00:46:52.480
great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.

753
00:46:52.480 --> 00:46:56.480
Keep in mind, ladies, like a roaring lion means he's not a lion. There's one lion and

754
00:46:56.480 --> 00:47:01.120
it's the lion of the tribe of Judah, and it's God the Father, Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit

755
00:47:01.120 --> 00:47:06.500
that we serve. So we don't have to fear what the devil is doing or trying. We can cling

756
00:47:06.500 --> 00:47:12.120
to the word and the truth and the mighty God that we serve. But we just need to be aware

757
00:47:12.120 --> 00:47:15.720
and we need to be alertly watchful as it declares. Hi, Glenna.

758
00:47:19.720 --> 00:47:20.220
Hi.

759
00:47:20.220 --> 00:47:20.720
They're about to...

760
00:47:20.720 --> 00:47:21.220
Hi.

761
00:47:21.720 --> 00:47:22.220
Go ahead.

762
00:47:23.080 --> 00:47:25.080
Hello. I'm sorry I was late.

763
00:47:25.080 --> 00:47:27.800
Oh, that's okay. They're about to come back. I saw you pop in,

764
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but I wasn't sure if you were wanting to be put in breakout tonight.

765
00:47:30.760 --> 00:47:37.320
Well, I couldn't get on with my iPad, and then I got on with my phone, and it's just been a day.

766
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I'm so glad you're here.

767
00:47:40.680 --> 00:47:41.180
Yeah.

768
00:47:41.720 --> 00:47:46.600
We are having just this time of talking about the lies we've been believing that we're coming

769
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out of alignment with, and the ladies are back with us here. Some are ready. We have 30 seconds,

770
00:47:52.040 --> 00:47:58.280
and everyone will be back. So ladies, as you're coming back, be thinking about, if you're willing,

771
00:47:58.280 --> 00:48:04.600
we'd love for you to share about the lie that you are going to invite God into to help you heal,

772
00:48:04.600 --> 00:48:07.640
and I'll ask the other ladies as they come back as well.

773
00:48:09.160 --> 00:48:13.640
God's doing something kind of wonderful. I feel it. I sense it.

774
00:48:14.680 --> 00:48:15.180
Great.

775
00:48:16.200 --> 00:48:21.080
Yeah. He's good, you all. All right. Here we go. The other ladies are coming back.

776
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Welcome back. All right. Who is willing to share with the whole group what you shared in your

777
00:48:28.920 --> 00:48:34.760
breakout room? If you raise your digital hand for me, that's the easiest way for me to see you,

778
00:48:35.320 --> 00:48:41.960
and it normally takes one or two to get us going. Okay. Joy, I might have you wait just for a

779
00:48:41.960 --> 00:48:46.680
minute just because I know that you got to share this afternoon, and if I have time, I'll come to

780
00:48:46.680 --> 00:48:57.080
you. Mika, if you will go ahead and share for us. Okay. So I will share. Mine was independence.

781
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I, just because of past friendships that I've had that have disappointed or hurt me, I realized

782
00:49:05.800 --> 00:49:15.800
that I can really set the limitation of telling myself that I am independent, and I can, you know,

783
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just out of a way of protecting myself and self-protection instead of leaning into the truth

784
00:49:21.720 --> 00:49:28.040
of what the Word of God says about me, that Jesus is my protector, and he's also put me in healthy

785
00:49:28.040 --> 00:49:34.600
community. I am in healthy community. Like with this, my church community, I have a lot of, like,

786
00:49:34.600 --> 00:49:41.640
godly people, friends, family that are healthy, and like what you mentioned on the call about, like,

787
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I like how you phrased it, Beth, you know, just I don't have to allow people into my space to

788
00:49:49.400 --> 00:49:57.000
people please or rescue, you know, either, but, and I don't have to always have it together on

789
00:49:57.000 --> 00:50:00.520
myself, do everything myself to protect myself from disappointment.

790
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or fear of hurt, rejection, or, you know, someone taking advantage of a situation.

791
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That's right. Mika, this is really good. So one of the things, ladies, if you tend to partner with,

792
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I'm independent. I don't need other people. Just kind of like she's saying the truth.

793
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You know, the flip side is, you know, God's put her in community. She has friends.

794
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Jesus is her protector. But what I want you to do is I want you to go and ask the Lord this week.

795
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You know, when is the first time I felt like I had to be independent to protect myself?

796
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Because again, you're going you're you want to look at with the Lord.

797
00:50:43.000 --> 00:50:47.000
When is the first time and ask him to heal that area?

798
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And there's probably going to be other things potentially connected to it.

799
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And then also any time we feel the need to partner with the lie, I'm independent.

800
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Make sure that we're not saying that or thinking that, but we're coming out of alignment agreement.

801
00:51:03.000 --> 00:51:09.000
So you might say, like for me, I put one up.

802
00:51:09.000 --> 00:51:19.000
Lord, I thank you that I am coming out of agreement with independence and coming into agreement with interdependence on you.

803
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I don't know if I'm saying that right right now. Interdependence on you.

804
00:51:23.000 --> 00:51:28.000
So basically it's saying, OK, I acknowledge that I don't want to be independent anymore.

805
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I want to depend on you, God. I want to depend on you.

806
00:51:35.000 --> 00:51:42.000
So I had to pray and ask God to help me come out of alignment with my independence.

807
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Because I learned independence at a young age because I didn't know other people would really come through for me.

808
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And there was just a lot of brokenness. And I felt like I had to take care of myself and all the things.

809
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But God didn't want me to live like that for the rest of my life. OK.

810
00:51:57.000 --> 00:52:01.000
All right. I'm going to let. Thank you for sharing on that, Mika.

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Alicia, go ahead. Hi.

812
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Sorry, the no was next. Yes.

813
00:52:10.000 --> 00:52:20.000
So I've been waiting on God to meet somebody for quite a while now, many years.

814
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And part of me that's been struggling over the years is that my self-image that I'm ugly, I'm not beautiful enough.

815
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And one of the things I resented in on waiting on God is that I've gotten so old. Right.

816
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And so during this five week course, because I actually finished my fifth week last week.

817
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Every week as I worked through God dealt with something inside me and a lot of the stuff I didn't even realize it was so surprising.

818
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But also wonderful, you know, and just releasing me from a lot of anger, bitterness, even soul ties.

819
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I didn't realize I had soul ties that he released me from.

820
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And and, you know, the supernatural Saturdays, you know, I spend most of the time crying through it because he's, you know, he's doing, you know, good work.

821
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And so I've just loved this first phase because I can actually feel free.

822
00:53:33.000 --> 00:53:41.000
And one of the things he showed me that I've been praying for for quite a long time is a breakthrough in just the joy,

823
00:53:41.000 --> 00:53:48.000
just that joy that we should have inside of us for, you know, for him, no matter our circumstances.

824
00:53:48.000 --> 00:53:55.000
You know, I've been praying a long time for that joy. And he said, this hard work, that is my breakthrough to joy.

825
00:53:55.000 --> 00:54:04.000
And and I'm actually starting to experience that feeling free in, you know, the loneliness, the depression around loneliness.

826
00:54:04.000 --> 00:54:09.000
I haven't experienced that in actually quite a while, to be honest.

827
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So, you know, I just wanted to share what this program's done for me.

828
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And and I really love it. And I'm nervous, but also excited for the next phase.

829
00:54:20.000 --> 00:54:24.000
Yeah. Yeah. Alicia, thank you for sharing that, man.

830
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I really felt the Holy Spirit when you said my heartwork is my breakthrough to joy.

831
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That's a powerful statement, you all. I want you all to understand that is so true that like our heartwork is key always.

832
00:54:41.000 --> 00:54:45.000
And here's the thing. I feel like this is really important to say right now just for our ladies.

833
00:54:45.000 --> 00:54:50.000
I know I have a couple that are moving to phase two and I'm so excited for you.

834
00:54:50.000 --> 00:54:54.000
But here's the thing. Ladies, heartwork continues in phase two.

835
00:54:54.000 --> 00:55:00.000
I don't want anyone to feel like you just feel like you have to have arrived when you get there or that you can't go.

836
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.120
go there because you have to have gotten all the healing,

837
00:55:03.120 --> 00:55:06.680
everything, every ounce, you know, some of y'all are going to

838
00:55:06.680 --> 00:55:10.760
go on a date. And it's going to bring things up. And you're

839
00:55:10.760 --> 00:55:14.600
going to be like, Oh, I didn't know that was there. You know,

840
00:55:14.840 --> 00:55:18.840
I mean, genuinely, that's going to happen. And even before you

841
00:55:18.840 --> 00:55:21.720
get to the date, some of you all just even having to face the

842
00:55:21.720 --> 00:55:24.840
thought of, you know, being on an app or meeting in person or

843
00:55:24.840 --> 00:55:27.880
whatever it is, is going to bring stuff up in you and just

844
00:55:27.880 --> 00:55:32.000
understand that. It's not like you finish heartwork, and then

845
00:55:32.000 --> 00:55:35.680
you don't do heart heartwork. Again, heartwork, the tools that

846
00:55:35.680 --> 00:55:38.720
you're learning here, our hearts desire is that you will use

847
00:55:38.720 --> 00:55:43.200
these as tools the rest of your life. Because you're going to

848
00:55:43.200 --> 00:55:46.080
need them. I've been married two and a half years, September will

849
00:55:46.080 --> 00:55:51.680
be three. And I promise you, I still do heartwork. Yeah, all

850
00:55:51.680 --> 00:55:55.200
the time. All right. Well, thanks for allowing me to share.

851
00:55:55.200 --> 00:56:00.880
Yes, thank you so much. And I wanted to say to, to everyone,

852
00:56:00.920 --> 00:56:05.280
if you all believe that you're ugly or not beautiful enough, or

853
00:56:05.280 --> 00:56:09.400
any of those things, remember that silhouette activation, if

854
00:56:09.400 --> 00:56:11.960
you haven't done it yet, it's going to help some of you with

855
00:56:11.960 --> 00:56:15.720
that, that right there. Okay, so just wanted to do that plug. I

856
00:56:15.720 --> 00:56:19.080
talked about the silhouette activation, maybe last week or

857
00:56:19.080 --> 00:56:21.200
the week before I can't remember which one. But thank you for

858
00:56:21.200 --> 00:56:23.560
sharing. That was awesome. Damaris, go ahead.

859
00:56:26.200 --> 00:56:33.600
Hi, everyone. Hi, Bethany. Yeah, I was going to talk about a lot

860
00:56:33.600 --> 00:56:38.440
of the lies that you were mentioning. I kind of relate to

861
00:56:38.480 --> 00:56:44.520
a lot of those. But there's about three that I, you know,

862
00:56:44.520 --> 00:56:49.120
come up more. And it was the one that is like, I'm not enough. I

863
00:56:49.120 --> 00:56:53.120
remember when I was younger as a child, and my dad, my mom will

864
00:56:53.120 --> 00:56:56.600
ask me for something. And if I didn't do it, right, she would

865
00:56:56.600 --> 00:57:00.520
say that I was good for nothing. And even though she didn't say

866
00:57:00.520 --> 00:57:06.920
it that many times, up to now, I still remember that. And she was

867
00:57:06.920 --> 00:57:09.520
a good mom and everything. I have a good relationship with

868
00:57:09.520 --> 00:57:13.400
her. Today's her birthday, and she's in Mexico. And so I'm not

869
00:57:13.400 --> 00:57:19.080
here. But anyway, so but that still, you know, it hurt me all

870
00:57:19.120 --> 00:57:25.160
these years. And also my dad, when I didn't do something

871
00:57:25.160 --> 00:57:30.920
right, as well. And he said something to me, like, why did

872
00:57:30.920 --> 00:57:34.200
you do that? Or he asked me a question. So that will be with

873
00:57:34.200 --> 00:57:39.360
the scene but not heard, where he would ask me a question, but

874
00:57:39.360 --> 00:57:44.960
I knew that even though he was asking me a question, I should

875
00:57:44.960 --> 00:57:47.680
not answer that question, because he could probably slap

876
00:57:47.680 --> 00:57:52.080
me if I answer him because that will be a sign of disrespect,

877
00:57:52.080 --> 00:57:57.120
like I'm talking back at him if I respond to him. And so I don't

878
00:57:57.120 --> 00:58:03.200
know if it was part of the culture. I'm Mexican. And so I

879
00:58:03.200 --> 00:58:06.080
don't know. But I knew, even though he's asking me a

880
00:58:06.080 --> 00:58:10.720
question, I better not answer, you know. And then with my ex

881
00:58:10.720 --> 00:58:14.640
husband, the end when we were, you know, at the end of our

882
00:58:14.720 --> 00:58:18.880
at the end of our marriage, he would tell me that I'm nobody

883
00:58:18.880 --> 00:58:22.960
and that I was ugly too. And even though I was kind of like,

884
00:58:24.400 --> 00:58:27.680
I will show like I was strong and it's like, well, it's your

885
00:58:27.680 --> 00:58:34.080
fault for marrying me. Inside of me, it broke me, you know, that

886
00:58:34.080 --> 00:58:37.920
somebody that I love would say that to me. Yeah, yeah.

887
00:58:38.320 --> 00:58:41.440
Well, I'm so sorry, number one, that these things were said to

888
00:58:41.520 --> 00:58:46.000
you. I want to encourage you. Well, let me ask you a question

889
00:58:46.000 --> 00:58:50.160
first. Have you ever told your mom that when she said that,

890
00:58:50.160 --> 00:58:56.560
that that hurt you? No. I want I want you to pray about having

891
00:58:56.560 --> 00:58:59.600
that conversation. Is your mom a healthy? Is she able to have a

892
00:58:59.600 --> 00:59:04.880
healthy conversation? Yes. Okay, so let's pray about that.

893
00:59:05.440 --> 00:59:08.000
Because it's still even though you know, she's a good mom, and

894
00:59:08.000 --> 00:59:10.400
you guys have a good relationship. This is still

895
00:59:10.400 --> 00:59:15.360
hurting you. And bringing it out of the darkness into the

896
00:59:15.360 --> 00:59:18.960
light might bring a lot of understanding. I'm wondering if

897
00:59:18.960 --> 00:59:22.880
maybe someone said that to your mom. But we don't, you know, we

898
00:59:22.880 --> 00:59:25.920
can spend all time, all kinds of time guessing. But if we just

899
00:59:25.920 --> 00:59:29.920
go to the source, and say, don't and I wouldn't necessarily go to

900
00:59:29.920 --> 00:59:32.960
her and say, I'm wondering if somebody said this to you. But

901
00:59:32.960 --> 00:59:35.760
you need to like express, hey, mom, like I've been in this

902
00:59:35.760 --> 00:59:40.160
heart healing program. And this is something that's been coming

903
00:59:40.160 --> 00:59:42.880
up. And I just needed to talk to you about it. Because when I

904
00:59:42.880 --> 00:59:45.760
was a kid, this really hurt me. And I've just still struggled

905
00:59:45.760 --> 00:59:51.280
with it, even to being an adult, and kind of see what she says.

906
00:59:51.280 --> 00:59:56.320
Okay. Now, if she responds, then y'all have a great hopefully

907
00:59:56.320 --> 00:59:59.920
conversation and interaction and there's healing. If she reacts.

908
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:06.200
then we can help coach you from there. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Cause I think that's super important.

909
01:00:06.200 --> 01:00:11.840
And then with your dad, um, you know, I'm not necessarily that you need to go to him.

910
01:00:11.840 --> 01:00:17.400
I just felt specifically about this thing with your mom. He passed away already. Okay.

911
01:00:17.400 --> 01:00:24.720
Okay. Um, but when someone says that we're ugly or they say stuff to us, or even like,

912
01:00:24.720 --> 01:00:27.640
you know, you're good for nothing ladies, what's really important when these things

913
01:00:27.640 --> 01:00:31.360
come up, and this is what I would encourage you to also do before you talk to your mom

914
01:00:31.360 --> 01:00:38.800
about it. Damaris is really pray and allow yourself to feel the fields of that moment

915
01:00:38.800 --> 01:00:43.160
so that God can heal those fields. So allow yourself to feel and process that with the

916
01:00:43.160 --> 01:00:49.520
Lord so that you have a little bit healing before you have that conversation. Okay. Thank

917
01:00:49.520 --> 01:00:54.880
you. All right. You're welcome. And this is ladies, how we also come out of, uh, believing

918
01:00:54.880 --> 01:00:59.200
those lies is we, we get healing and then we start to believe the truth about ourselves

919
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because we grow in value and worth and everything that we already were. We start to see it more

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01:01:04.160 --> 01:01:10.400
clearly and then we can walk more confidently in relationships with people. And that's romantic

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01:01:10.400 --> 01:01:17.560
non-romantic relationships. The same. Thank you for sharing Damaris. Thank you, Karen.

922
01:01:17.560 --> 01:01:30.920
Go ahead. Hi. Oh yeah. I have to Karen, Karen, Karen with just Karen. Um, well, first of

923
01:01:30.920 --> 01:01:34.280
all, I just want to say it's a pleasure to be here. This is my first week, so I just

924
01:01:34.280 --> 01:01:43.120
finished my week one. Um, so one of the lies actually like, um, Damaris, a lot of the lies

925
01:01:43.120 --> 01:01:52.080
that you stated really resonated. Um, but one was you're not enough. And I realized that a lot

926
01:01:52.080 --> 01:02:01.840
of, um, my history had involved striving. So it's like when you're so busy trying to work so hard

927
01:02:02.640 --> 01:02:10.560
to be validated for validation. Um, but there was also, um, I was, I grew up in very competitive

928
01:02:10.560 --> 01:02:19.760
situations where it was really very workspace, very much. How, how much could I do? How far

929
01:02:19.760 --> 01:02:27.280
could I go? How much could I push my body? How good did the grades be? You know, um, if I got

930
01:02:27.280 --> 01:02:32.960
to be on something, why was it not in a, um, and all of those things, which has of course,

931
01:02:33.920 --> 01:02:41.040
just carried over more and more into my life. And then, um, also in dating somebody who had

932
01:02:41.040 --> 01:02:48.800
an unhealthy addiction, um, to pornography. Um, and so then it turned into much more of

933
01:02:48.800 --> 01:02:53.760
a physicality of, uh, your body's not enough. You're just not enough, you know, and all of

934
01:02:53.840 --> 01:03:02.720
those things. Um, which, which has totally, um, this week, I will say that, um, the first part

935
01:03:02.720 --> 01:03:09.920
of heart work was almost reintroducing me to the fact that I am a princess, which was something

936
01:03:09.920 --> 01:03:15.120
that I used to cling to, you know, I, I love, like, I mean, I'm old enough to have seen princess

937
01:03:15.120 --> 01:03:22.320
dive wedding, you know? So, um, so I remember wanting to be that princess and just really

938
01:03:22.320 --> 01:03:28.960
wanting to have that. Um, and so this week God actually did lead me to Defender by Stephanie,

939
01:03:28.960 --> 01:03:35.440
that was thing by Stephanie Gretzinger, which talks about, um, when I lost me, you, you,

940
01:03:35.440 --> 01:03:42.320
you showed me where I left me, you know, you, you reintroduced me to your, you know, you reintroduced

941
01:03:42.320 --> 01:03:49.280
me. And, um, I just really felt that so deeply, but, um, I do want to say that that's probably

942
01:03:49.280 --> 01:03:54.000
something that is a lie. And the other one was the last one. If they really knew me,

943
01:03:55.120 --> 01:04:00.800
they wouldn't accept me or love me or choose me. And what stood out to me was choose me,

944
01:04:01.600 --> 01:04:05.600
because I feel like there's that part of me that wants to be chosen.

945
01:04:06.560 --> 01:04:14.160
And, um, and once again, I think that goes back to the striving portion of that whole thing,

946
01:04:14.880 --> 01:04:21.200
of that whole idea of works, but the fact that it's not about being who God created me to be.

947
01:04:21.920 --> 01:04:30.000
So thank you all for letting me go Defender by, it's by Stephanie Gretzinger and Francesca, um,

948
01:04:31.120 --> 01:04:37.680
Battistelli, I think, but anyway, thank you. That was such a sweet share and thank you for

949
01:04:37.680 --> 01:04:44.080
your vulnerability and sharing with us, um, your parts of your story. Um, I want to just say in

950
01:04:44.080 --> 01:04:51.440
here too, ladies, when we have that striving for validation, um, you know, be sure that you're

951
01:04:51.440 --> 01:04:57.200
asking the Lord to help you hear what is His Spirit saying over you? Like, what does He have

952
01:04:57.200 --> 01:04:59.840
to say to you in those moments, even where you felt that?

953
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.080
pressure to have, you know, to push your body for the grades or with, you know, the guy

954
01:05:05.080 --> 01:05:07.040
that you dated that had the porn addiction.

955
01:05:07.040 --> 01:05:11.000
You know, what was Jesus saying to you in that situation?

956
01:05:11.000 --> 01:05:13.600
Because he was there.

957
01:05:13.600 --> 01:05:19.680
And so when we tap into asking him those kind of things, and he reveals to us like, okay,

958
01:05:19.680 --> 01:05:23.400
this is what I want you to know, like, not that he's saying it exactly like that.

959
01:05:23.400 --> 01:05:28.160
But typically, he'll hear something, a phrase, a statement, you'll hear, you know, some kind

960
01:05:28.160 --> 01:05:29.160
of response.

961
01:05:29.160 --> 01:05:30.680
And ladies, I don't want you to get discouraged.

962
01:05:30.680 --> 01:05:34.400
Some of you if you pray and you don't hear something right away, you get discouraged

963
01:05:34.400 --> 01:05:37.840
and you start believing the lie that you don't hear from God.

964
01:05:37.840 --> 01:05:40.880
And I really want to encourage you as we're talking about coming out of agreement with

965
01:05:40.880 --> 01:05:42.440
lies tonight.

966
01:05:42.440 --> 01:05:44.800
Let's not partner with that lie.

967
01:05:44.800 --> 01:05:49.500
As you all were in the session tonight, I was praying the scripture that says that we

968
01:05:49.500 --> 01:05:53.440
are his sheep and his sheep know his voice.

969
01:05:53.440 --> 01:05:57.480
Pray that over yourself and let's declare even when you don't hear it, we can declare

970
01:05:57.480 --> 01:05:59.040
it and pray that over ourselves.

971
01:05:59.040 --> 01:06:00.880
Okay, super important.

972
01:06:00.880 --> 01:06:05.200
But I would be encouraging you to be praying about that Karen, because as Jesus comes and

973
01:06:05.200 --> 01:06:11.280
meets you in those moments from when you were a kid, so many healing ripples are going to

974
01:06:11.280 --> 01:06:13.260
start to happen throughout.

975
01:06:13.260 --> 01:06:19.000
You're going to start to recognize times where even now you may be putting pressure on yourself

976
01:06:19.000 --> 01:06:24.880
that it's not the expectation that the Father has of you.

977
01:06:24.880 --> 01:06:26.000
Okay.

978
01:06:26.000 --> 01:06:33.400
And then the last thing I want to share here, the fact that the choose me word stood out

979
01:06:33.400 --> 01:06:40.240
a lot, makes a lot of sense for everything that you shared, but the Lord is also saying

980
01:06:40.240 --> 01:06:43.640
that he wants you to choose you too.

981
01:06:43.640 --> 01:06:45.600
Okay.

982
01:06:45.600 --> 01:06:47.520
So that can mean all different kinds of things.

983
01:06:47.520 --> 01:06:51.720
I think I know what it means, but I want you to just sit with that and see what God wants

984
01:06:51.720 --> 01:06:53.880
to say to you personally about it.

985
01:06:53.880 --> 01:07:00.520
He wants you to choose you too and yeah, not put you on the back burners.

986
01:07:00.520 --> 01:07:07.720
One thing I do feel it's okay for me to say, okay, right now and just see what else unfolds

987
01:07:07.720 --> 01:07:09.720
for you in that this week.

988
01:07:09.720 --> 01:07:10.720
Okay.

989
01:07:10.720 --> 01:07:11.720
Awesome.

990
01:07:11.720 --> 01:07:13.040
Thank you for sharing.

991
01:07:13.040 --> 01:07:14.040
That was really great.

992
01:07:14.040 --> 01:07:15.040
Okay.

993
01:07:15.040 --> 01:07:21.960
I have time for probably see, I know Wadzie, go ahead, let's see how many we can get in

994
01:07:21.960 --> 01:07:22.960
in the next few minutes.

995
01:07:22.960 --> 01:07:27.400
And I don't want to rush anybody, but I just don't generally want to do the additional

996
01:07:27.400 --> 01:07:29.960
context and stuff I brought for y'all tonight.

997
01:07:29.960 --> 01:07:34.960
So Wadzie, go ahead and then we'll go Adrena and then we'll go Alina.

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Okay.

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01:07:35.960 --> 01:07:45.000
Hi everyone from Australia, it's 11am now, we finally caught you guys second session.

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Thank you all for sharing.

1001
01:07:47.600 --> 01:07:49.440
I always feel so encouraged.

1002
01:07:49.440 --> 01:07:55.840
And what I discovered is that with doing this course and today that the lies, some

1003
01:07:55.840 --> 01:08:04.040
of them were like a mishmash, like they're all like made into a bowl of like, as a resulting

1004
01:08:04.040 --> 01:08:05.040
in something.

1005
01:08:05.040 --> 01:08:12.200
And basically what I shared with the group was, it was like, most of it was probably

1006
01:08:12.200 --> 01:08:15.640
the, that it's not important.

1007
01:08:15.640 --> 01:08:22.680
So in the end, I stopped putting my wants forward because I never got a response or

1008
01:08:22.680 --> 01:08:28.080
I never got any kind of validation or care to it.

1009
01:08:28.080 --> 01:08:33.880
And I was been doing this course and I was raised, I love my mom, but she was a single

1010
01:08:33.880 --> 01:08:36.000
mom and I'm the oldest.

1011
01:08:36.000 --> 01:08:44.979
So as a child, I lost, there was like, I was more of her partner than I was a child.

1012
01:08:44.979 --> 01:08:50.380
So when it comes to certain things, when I, and I have a younger brother and he needed

1013
01:08:50.380 --> 01:08:56.180
a, like, he had the freedom to like scream and cry and throw tantrums and do all those

1014
01:08:56.180 --> 01:09:02.100
things that I could never do because I saw that it was putting a lot of stress on her.

1015
01:09:02.100 --> 01:09:07.620
So I sucked a lot of my emotions and I put a lot of things on the back banner because

1016
01:09:07.620 --> 01:09:14.859
it just wasn't feasible or, and, you know, just at the time when I looked at it, I'm

1017
01:09:14.859 --> 01:09:16.859
like, I just can't put this on top of her.

1018
01:09:16.859 --> 01:09:20.460
So I sort of sucked in and became a lot more independent.

1019
01:09:20.460 --> 01:09:25.340
And then when I got a bit older, I sort of tried to have this conversation and it didn't

1020
01:09:25.340 --> 01:09:31.500
turn out well because I was a teenager, I think I was trying to, you know, have this

1021
01:09:31.500 --> 01:09:36.260
conversation probably not the right way, full of hormones.

1022
01:09:36.260 --> 01:09:40.380
So but because of that, I'm once bitten, twice shy.

1023
01:09:40.380 --> 01:09:47.620
I've never ever brought that up again because I've just, it was such a helpful interaction.

1024
01:09:47.620 --> 01:09:55.260
So it has really, doing this Hardware course, it showed me that there's areas that I needed

1025
01:09:55.260 --> 01:09:59.980
to work on because for some reason, which is now linked to all this, I've never

1026
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:06.720
worked on myself. I've just lived life. Life has come to me and I've just been and I've realized

1027
01:10:06.720 --> 01:10:12.400
doing this course is because I haven't even thought that I was important. I cared more about

1028
01:10:12.400 --> 01:10:20.320
my family, the two people in my life, that I hadn't even had room to care take for myself.

1029
01:10:20.320 --> 01:10:26.560
So this last couple of weeks God has been like revealing things to me and even these sessions

1030
01:10:26.640 --> 01:10:34.080
that I listen to sometimes, it just showed me and I think and I'm so glad that you shared that

1031
01:10:34.880 --> 01:10:39.840
Proverbs are saying with their group that the Proverbs about me being a crown to my future

1032
01:10:39.840 --> 01:10:46.320
husband and I was and it just resonated with me then and I was like one I've read that Proverbs

1033
01:10:46.320 --> 01:10:52.160
in my life and it's never clicked in my head and so I was so encouraged by that that even as God

1034
01:10:52.160 --> 01:10:59.360
has revealed these things to me about how important I am it just he always what's it called

1035
01:11:00.080 --> 01:11:05.200
I love when God speaks to me I call them hoary spirit smackdowns because I'm a very like stubborn

1036
01:11:05.200 --> 01:11:09.920
and also like I'm like I'm living life I don't have time for you to talk to me God so God has

1037
01:11:09.920 --> 01:11:15.680
to give me a hoary spirit smackdown to get my attention but he always gives me a cuddle afterwards

1038
01:11:16.640 --> 01:11:23.520
so well we love the cuddles afterwards that's good but I need a smack to get me to you know get

1039
01:11:23.520 --> 01:11:29.520
my eyes focused so I've just yet thank you all for I'm sharing and yeah yeah sorry so hopefully

1040
01:11:29.520 --> 01:11:34.000
this makes sense this was good no need to apologize that made so much sense it was great

1041
01:11:34.720 --> 01:11:41.280
and I'm so glad that you are getting the healing that you're needing and you're taking this time

1042
01:11:41.360 --> 01:11:47.360
to really invest in yourself and recognize how important you are you're important to just this

1043
01:11:47.360 --> 01:11:52.560
night and the fact that you're sharing and contributing you're important to the world

1044
01:11:52.560 --> 01:11:57.680
like you you matter massively and that's something I said this afternoon and I hope all of you hear

1045
01:11:57.680 --> 01:12:07.200
that like every one of us are here now because God wants us here for a purpose you were predestined

1046
01:12:07.200 --> 01:12:13.520
you were chosen for some amazing incredible adventure adventure and some of you haven't

1047
01:12:13.520 --> 01:12:18.720
lived into the incredible adventure part yet because your your latter years are going to be

1048
01:12:18.720 --> 01:12:23.600
greater than your former years I don't know about any of you but that was a scripture I clung to

1049
01:12:24.640 --> 01:12:30.400
for years because I I was like yeah my former years were horrible so I hope my latter years

1050
01:12:30.400 --> 01:12:35.360
are better and praise the Lord they are but um Wadsy one of the things I just want to say real

1051
01:12:35.360 --> 01:12:42.480
quick and then Audrina I'm going to come over to you is um I can't share my needs I can't put this

1052
01:12:42.480 --> 01:12:49.520
on top of her I want to encourage you this next and in more than just next week but in the weeks

1053
01:12:49.520 --> 01:12:59.440
ahead to really um ask the Lord to show you how much of a load you can put on him okay because

1054
01:12:59.440 --> 01:13:05.520
you need to unbecome the person that worries about putting a load on somebody and sometimes

1055
01:13:05.520 --> 01:13:10.160
even to the point that you're not putting the load on to the Lord as fully as you can

1056
01:13:10.720 --> 01:13:15.280
because that inner subconscious part of yourself whether you realize it or not

1057
01:13:15.280 --> 01:13:23.360
is still in the mode of I can't put this on anyone including the Lord because I have to figure out I

1058
01:13:23.360 --> 01:13:31.040
have to take care of it okay and so the more that you can lean into God is your care caregiver

1059
01:13:31.040 --> 01:13:36.560
he's your protector he's your provider he wants to help you and that he wants to bring people

1060
01:13:36.560 --> 01:13:44.080
around you in this season that will also help you um and to come out of alignment and agreement with

1061
01:13:44.080 --> 01:13:49.520
um I just heard the Lord say that you have to be in the background because you don't

1062
01:13:50.080 --> 01:13:58.080
so God's about to bring you to the forefront okay okay yeah and so just embrace that and see what

1063
01:13:58.080 --> 01:14:02.320
what he says about that more what does it look like God for me to be in the forefront what is it

1064
01:14:02.320 --> 01:14:06.560
it doesn't mean that you're making yourself something that you know like where you're always

1065
01:14:06.560 --> 01:14:11.200
having to be that center of attention but being in the forefront can mean all kinds of things

1066
01:14:11.200 --> 01:14:16.480
it might mean that there's leadership he has for you it might mean just leading yourself really

1067
01:14:16.480 --> 01:14:22.560
well and then other people just are automatically minister minister to or you know impacted because

1068
01:14:22.560 --> 01:14:31.120
you're living your life you know fully alive and no longer holding back parts of yourself that you

1069
01:14:31.120 --> 01:14:36.480
know the enemy has tried to convince you don't matter because someone else has a need um and I

1070
01:14:36.480 --> 01:14:43.440
think it's going to be actually really exciting for you so I'm excited to see where this will go

1071
01:14:43.600 --> 01:14:49.200
I'm excited to see where this will go oh who just had their hand up that just put their hand down I

1072
01:14:49.200 --> 01:14:56.240
forget oh Audrina so Wadzi thank you for sharing so appreciate you thank you thank you so much

1073
01:14:56.240 --> 01:14:59.760
you're welcome Audrina go ahead hi

1074
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:08.160
Hi, um, okay, so two of the lies that I have been believing that

1075
01:15:08.160 --> 01:15:12.040
really stood out to me were you aren't enough, or you're too

1076
01:15:12.040 --> 01:15:18.000
much. And then also, you should be seen but not heard. For the

1077
01:15:18.000 --> 01:15:21.560
you aren't enough, you're too much. As I was meditating on

1078
01:15:21.560 --> 01:15:26.080
that, I think it came from previous relation, romantic

1079
01:15:26.080 --> 01:15:31.320
relationships that I have been in, that unfortunately, have

1080
01:15:31.320 --> 01:15:37.080
spoke that over me when it came to sharing how I feel about

1081
01:15:37.080 --> 01:15:42.600
something or just any type of communication, like in general.

1082
01:15:43.840 --> 01:15:47.520
So then that kind of led me into the other lie of you should be

1083
01:15:47.520 --> 01:15:51.560
seen but not heard. Because of the unhealthy romantic

1084
01:15:51.560 --> 01:15:54.840
relationships, and then also just general dysfunctional

1085
01:15:54.840 --> 01:15:58.760
communication with like my close family members. So it

1086
01:15:58.760 --> 01:16:05.400
kind of felt easier to, you know, not share than to be told

1087
01:16:05.400 --> 01:16:08.320
the fear of like being told like, Oh, you're too much. Or,

1088
01:16:08.560 --> 01:16:15.560
you know, you know, you have too many things that, you know, you

1089
01:16:15.560 --> 01:16:19.760
need to work on or work through. And it just made me feel like

1090
01:16:19.760 --> 01:16:24.480
just not enough. And yeah, so it kind of led to that. And I'm

1091
01:16:24.480 --> 01:16:30.520
trying to work on communication, like being more open and like

1092
01:16:30.520 --> 01:16:34.320
vulnerable, but it kind of shut me down over time.

1093
01:16:35.240 --> 01:16:40.400
Yeah, I can understand why I'm doing a great job, Audrina, I

1094
01:16:40.400 --> 01:16:42.960
feel like just keep going on the path you're on. And it's going

1095
01:16:42.960 --> 01:16:46.680
to really, it's going to be really helpful to continue your

1096
01:16:46.680 --> 01:16:49.720
healing process. And that one of the things ladies that in

1097
01:16:49.720 --> 01:16:52.520
Audrina, when I say this, I don't want you to think you, I

1098
01:16:52.520 --> 01:16:54.800
don't want you to think you said something wrong, but it got

1099
01:16:54.800 --> 01:16:57.360
highlighted when you said it. So maybe somebody else said it

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01:16:57.360 --> 01:17:01.040
tonight, but I just now heard it. Ladies, when we're

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01:17:01.040 --> 01:17:06.280
expressing our feelings and things that happened to us, I

1102
01:17:06.280 --> 01:17:14.240
want you all to really shift out of they made me feel this. Okay.

1103
01:17:15.320 --> 01:17:21.800
Here's why we feel they did something. Okay, separate

1104
01:17:21.800 --> 01:17:27.760
things. So when we put when we kind of partner with they made

1105
01:17:27.760 --> 01:17:32.800
me feel this way, we're basically giving that person

1106
01:17:32.800 --> 01:17:39.880
complete control over us. Y'all understand? So, and I have to

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01:17:39.880 --> 01:17:47.280
work at this still sometimes. I feel sad, I feel hurt, I feel

1108
01:17:47.280 --> 01:17:52.760
angry is different than, you know, me saying, they made me

1109
01:17:52.760 --> 01:17:59.040
feel angry. And I don't want someone else to have complete

1110
01:17:59.040 --> 01:18:03.640
control over my emotions, my thoughts, the way I react or act

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01:18:03.680 --> 01:18:07.840
hopefully respond, but you get what I'm saying. And so the more

1112
01:18:07.840 --> 01:18:11.080
that you all look at even thoughts that you have that kind

1113
01:18:11.080 --> 01:18:15.720
of subconsciously come like that. They're making me so mad.

1114
01:18:16.400 --> 01:18:23.840
Well, no, you feel mad, you feel anger. Because of something,

1115
01:18:24.360 --> 01:18:28.160
because of whatever action they're doing. And you're

1116
01:18:28.160 --> 01:18:32.840
separating people's actions from your feelings. Everyone understand

1117
01:18:32.840 --> 01:18:36.920
that? All right, super important, because even you

1118
01:18:36.920 --> 01:18:39.880
know, as I said, I had that situation before I got on

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01:18:39.880 --> 01:18:46.840
tonight. Well, I feel angry. It doesn't mean that even what they

1120
01:18:46.840 --> 01:18:50.240
did should have caused me to feel angry. But that is how I

1121
01:18:50.240 --> 01:18:56.120
felt. So I can look at Okay, Lord, I don't know, like if this

1122
01:18:56.120 --> 01:19:01.160
anger was what needed to happen in this situation, help me to

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01:19:01.160 --> 01:19:06.880
understand what's why did I feel so angry about this. And I'll

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work through that. And then I can address that situation. Does

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01:19:11.000 --> 01:19:15.600
that make sense? In a healthy way, versus giving them complete

1126
01:19:15.600 --> 01:19:18.920
control and ownership, and then trying to deal with it in a

1127
01:19:18.920 --> 01:19:22.240
really unhealthy way later on, it tends to go bad that way,

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01:19:22.400 --> 01:19:26.280
even for us. And so Audrina, thank you for sharing. And I

1129
01:19:26.280 --> 01:19:30.200
hope that just as you're continuing to move forward, I'm,

1130
01:19:31.160 --> 01:19:34.960
you know, really in that part of you're too much, you're not

1131
01:19:34.960 --> 01:19:38.200
enough. One of the best things I ever prayed was Lord, help me

1132
01:19:38.200 --> 01:19:44.720
to see myself through your eyes more helped me to become more

1133
01:19:44.720 --> 01:19:51.200
and more secure in you. So that I'm not trying to find my

1134
01:19:51.200 --> 01:19:56.320
security and other people, and things and jobs and whatever,

1135
01:19:56.320 --> 01:19:59.840
you know, and that genuinely transformed

1136
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:02.420
my relationship with the Lord and myself.

1137
01:20:02.420 --> 01:20:07.020
I also prayed a lot for God to show me who he was as love.

1138
01:20:07.020 --> 01:20:10.020
Because again, as we talked about last week,

1139
01:20:10.020 --> 01:20:13.520
if we're rooted and grounded in the love of Christ,

1140
01:20:13.520 --> 01:20:15.260
there's no room for fear.

1141
01:20:15.260 --> 01:20:20.260
There's no, and the lies partner with the fear, remember?

1142
01:20:20.900 --> 01:20:22.980
Anxious thoughts and fear and lies.

1143
01:20:22.980 --> 01:20:24.840
They all kind of play games together.

1144
01:20:24.840 --> 01:20:27.260
They're all in that little pack.

1145
01:20:27.280 --> 01:20:30.140
And so we come out of agreement with the lies

1146
01:20:30.140 --> 01:20:32.900
and the fears and the anxious thoughts that we have,

1147
01:20:32.900 --> 01:20:35.120
and we come into agreement with the truth.

1148
01:20:36.260 --> 01:20:39.640
Adrena, God says you're fearfully and wonderfully made.

1149
01:20:42.220 --> 01:20:45.620
So that's what we partner with, okay?

1150
01:20:46.700 --> 01:20:48.700
All right, Alina, go ahead.

1151
01:20:48.700 --> 01:20:50.020
Y'all, we're already at 921.

1152
01:20:50.020 --> 01:20:51.740
I can't believe it, but this has been so good.

1153
01:20:51.740 --> 01:20:54.900
Let's see what's going, what's gonna happen next.

1154
01:20:54.900 --> 01:20:57.620
Hi, Bethany, hello, everyone.

1155
01:20:57.620 --> 01:20:59.100
Hi.

1156
01:20:59.100 --> 01:21:03.380
So you mentioned about being able to be transparent

1157
01:21:03.380 --> 01:21:04.500
as we work through all these

1158
01:21:04.500 --> 01:21:08.820
and not come across as different than we really are,

1159
01:21:10.140 --> 01:21:13.540
even though sometimes I'm afraid that I'll be misunderstood

1160
01:21:13.540 --> 01:21:16.540
if I show people things I've gone through

1161
01:21:16.540 --> 01:21:19.940
or really show them that I may be struggling

1162
01:21:19.940 --> 01:21:21.340
through something or hurting

1163
01:21:23.020 --> 01:21:26.300
that I'll be looked down on or less than,

1164
01:21:27.940 --> 01:21:31.700
and was just wanting some direction

1165
01:21:31.700 --> 01:21:34.340
because I'm wanting to build some healthy community,

1166
01:21:34.340 --> 01:21:35.980
healthy friendships.

1167
01:21:35.980 --> 01:21:39.260
And I've had a little bit of a hard time.

1168
01:21:40.340 --> 01:21:43.260
And yeah, I do need to,

1169
01:21:43.260 --> 01:21:48.220
that was a good pointer to make healthier choices,

1170
01:21:48.340 --> 01:21:50.340
especially when I see things come up

1171
01:21:50.340 --> 01:21:52.660
that are not good character,

1172
01:21:54.540 --> 01:21:56.420
are not treated honorably,

1173
01:21:58.460 --> 01:22:00.220
instead of keep trying to fix it.

1174
01:22:04.580 --> 01:22:05.620
Sorry, is there a lie

1175
01:22:05.620 --> 01:22:07.860
that you were wanting to share about tonight?

1176
01:22:13.780 --> 01:22:15.900
Do you recommend I build trust with people

1177
01:22:15.980 --> 01:22:18.220
before I'm more transparent with them?

1178
01:22:18.220 --> 01:22:20.100
Because sometimes-

1179
01:22:20.100 --> 01:22:21.300
Yes, absolutely.

1180
01:22:21.300 --> 01:22:23.620
I find myself sharing too much

1181
01:22:23.620 --> 01:22:25.500
and then I find out who they really are

1182
01:22:25.500 --> 01:22:26.860
and I'm like, oh, wow,

1183
01:22:26.860 --> 01:22:31.500
you're not able to hold all this with integrity.

1184
01:22:33.900 --> 01:22:34.860
Yes.

1185
01:22:34.860 --> 01:22:38.540
Yes, so as you all continue into the other phases,

1186
01:22:38.540 --> 01:22:40.700
you're gonna learn a lot about boundaries

1187
01:22:40.700 --> 01:22:42.260
and how to set healthy boundaries.

1188
01:22:42.260 --> 01:22:44.900
And that also includes how to connect

1189
01:22:44.900 --> 01:22:47.460
in a healthy way in relationship.

1190
01:22:47.460 --> 01:22:51.020
And anything you learn in a romantic relationship,

1191
01:22:51.020 --> 01:22:53.740
the coaching that comes with that piece,

1192
01:22:53.740 --> 01:22:55.540
y'all are gonna totally be able to apply it

1193
01:22:55.540 --> 01:22:57.340
to other relationships as well.

1194
01:22:57.340 --> 01:22:58.380
So for example,

1195
01:22:58.380 --> 01:23:01.180
when you meet someone for the first time in community,

1196
01:23:01.180 --> 01:23:03.620
you don't wanna just share your whole life story with them.

1197
01:23:03.620 --> 01:23:04.900
And even if they try to,

1198
01:23:04.900 --> 01:23:08.420
you wanna really kind of keep it kind and get to know them,

1199
01:23:08.420 --> 01:23:10.820
but keep it kind of surface for now

1200
01:23:10.820 --> 01:23:15.700
because you don't wanna just trauma bond with people

1201
01:23:15.700 --> 01:23:17.340
on the first interaction.

1202
01:23:17.340 --> 01:23:19.820
And that's what can happen when people overshare

1203
01:23:19.820 --> 01:23:21.940
and then they get all kind of enmeshed with each other.

1204
01:23:21.940 --> 01:23:23.940
It can be really unhealthy.

1205
01:23:23.940 --> 01:23:28.940
So yeah, definitely ask the Lord just to really help you

1206
01:23:30.620 --> 01:23:34.100
like hone in your words, okay?

1207
01:23:34.100 --> 01:23:38.860
And know that, discern if someone is trustworthy

1208
01:23:38.860 --> 01:23:40.940
to begin getting to know them,

1209
01:23:40.940 --> 01:23:44.100
not to just go in sharing your life with them

1210
01:23:44.100 --> 01:23:46.740
out of the gate, but like, okay, Lord,

1211
01:23:46.740 --> 01:23:49.140
is this someone that's healthy for me

1212
01:23:49.140 --> 01:23:51.700
to get to know and interact with?

1213
01:23:51.700 --> 01:23:54.380
And you can kind of gauge that as you go.

1214
01:23:54.380 --> 01:23:56.140
And if someone isn't healthy,

1215
01:23:56.140 --> 01:23:58.540
that you wouldn't just continue to unpack your life

1216
01:23:58.540 --> 01:24:01.140
with them, that you would keep that healthy boundary

1217
01:24:01.140 --> 01:24:03.900
and you can keep that surface interaction potentially,

1218
01:24:03.900 --> 01:24:07.020
but I wouldn't go much deeper ladies with people

1219
01:24:07.020 --> 01:24:10.220
that are presenting unhealthy to you,

1220
01:24:10.220 --> 01:24:13.340
even in a surface level connection.

1221
01:24:13.340 --> 01:24:15.540
But that was a great question, Alina.

1222
01:24:15.540 --> 01:24:17.300
I'm gonna go ahead and try to hurry

1223
01:24:17.300 --> 01:24:19.780
through the rest of my content here, you all.

1224
01:24:19.780 --> 01:24:22.940
I'm gonna focus on, and I did this this afternoon,

1225
01:24:22.940 --> 01:24:26.180
so I should have known this would be happening again

1226
01:24:26.180 --> 01:24:27.020
tonight.

1227
01:24:27.020 --> 01:24:29.900
I have been so blessed by all the coaching today,

1228
01:24:29.900 --> 01:24:32.460
honestly, and everybody that shared.

1229
01:24:32.460 --> 01:24:34.140
This is a good problem for us to have,

1230
01:24:34.140 --> 01:24:34.980
it's not even a problem,

1231
01:24:34.980 --> 01:24:37.380
but I hope you all know, everybody that shared,

1232
01:24:37.380 --> 01:24:39.100
this was incredible tonight.

1233
01:24:39.100 --> 01:24:41.500
And this is what we want to have happen.

1234
01:24:41.500 --> 01:24:43.740
I typically come with lots of content

1235
01:24:43.740 --> 01:24:47.260
because I never know how many people are gonna share.

1236
01:24:47.260 --> 01:24:48.860
So what I am gonna share with you tonight

1237
01:24:48.860 --> 01:24:52.620
is about the prodigal son story.

1238
01:24:52.620 --> 01:24:54.240
We're probably not gonna do another breakout,

1239
01:24:54.240 --> 01:24:56.020
but I'm just gonna give you all the same assignment

1240
01:24:56.020 --> 01:24:58.420
I gave the ladies this afternoon,

1241
01:24:58.420 --> 01:25:00.740
and hopefully you all will enjoy it.

1242
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:01.160
We'll jump on that assignment.

1243
01:25:01.560 --> 01:25:05.200
Um, in the prodigal son story, there's two sons.

1244
01:25:05.280 --> 01:25:08.440
We're not going to focus on the son that left tonight.

1245
01:25:08.760 --> 01:25:10.600
We're going to focus on the son that stayed.

1246
01:25:12.660 --> 01:25:18.540
And I want y'all to understand that there are a lot of times, the

1247
01:25:18.540 --> 01:25:20.420
reason we're focusing on him tonight.

1248
01:25:22.460 --> 01:25:28.960
There's a lot of times that we have an improper, an improper view of God in our

1249
01:25:28.960 --> 01:25:30.520
relationship with him.

1250
01:25:30.560 --> 01:25:36.060
And it causes us to have heart postures that are similar to the elder brother.

1251
01:25:36.120 --> 01:25:38.300
And that's why I call it the elder brother syndrome.

1252
01:25:38.860 --> 01:25:39.360
Okay.

1253
01:25:39.780 --> 01:25:45.020
So the son was still in the house all along with the father, and I'm going to

1254
01:25:45.020 --> 01:25:51.300
point this out in scripture, but he had limiting beliefs and mindset mindsets

1255
01:25:51.300 --> 01:25:56.840
that kept him from receiving the blessing that he literally was already living in

1256
01:25:56.840 --> 01:25:57.340
you all.

1257
01:25:57.340 --> 01:26:03.280
And the provision that was always there, it was always available to him, but he

1258
01:26:03.280 --> 01:26:04.740
did not partake of it.

1259
01:26:05.220 --> 01:26:05.420
Okay.

1260
01:26:05.420 --> 01:26:13.260
Here it is in scripture, Luke chapter 15, verse 28 through 32, the older

1261
01:26:13.260 --> 01:26:15.120
brother became angry.

1262
01:26:16.220 --> 01:26:19.500
Did you see how this, this is even showing ownership of feelings.

1263
01:26:19.500 --> 01:26:21.000
Like what I just said, that's kind of funny.

1264
01:26:21.000 --> 01:26:26.260
I didn't even know that the older brother became angry and refused to go in.

1265
01:26:27.260 --> 01:26:31.380
So this is after the son came home and the father went out and put the, the

1266
01:26:31.380 --> 01:26:33.780
robe on him and the signet ring and all of that.

1267
01:26:33.780 --> 01:26:35.100
And they're having this party.

1268
01:26:35.280 --> 01:26:39.400
Just y'all know, that's what happened before verse 28, the older brother

1269
01:26:39.400 --> 01:26:42.300
became angry and refused to go inside.

1270
01:26:42.880 --> 01:26:44.200
Here's what happens next.

1271
01:26:44.520 --> 01:26:54.340
So his father went out, the father went out to him and pursued him and pleaded

1272
01:26:54.340 --> 01:26:58.220
with him, but this is the elder brother's response.

1273
01:26:59.060 --> 01:26:59.900
He answered his father.

1274
01:26:59.900 --> 01:27:06.380
Look all these years, I have been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders.

1275
01:27:06.700 --> 01:27:12.180
Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends.

1276
01:27:12.460 --> 01:27:18.740
But when this son of yours, interesting, he's calling the other guy, the son,

1277
01:27:19.140 --> 01:27:20.380
boy, aren't you a son?

1278
01:27:20.660 --> 01:27:22.540
No, he's calling himself a slave.

1279
01:27:23.540 --> 01:27:24.300
Let's keep going.

1280
01:27:24.700 --> 01:27:27.900
Of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home.

1281
01:27:27.900 --> 01:27:30.180
You kill the fat and calf for him.

1282
01:27:30.820 --> 01:27:37.580
My son, the father said, you are always with me and everything that I have is

1283
01:27:37.580 --> 01:27:42.700
yours, but we had to celebrate and be glad because this brother of yours

1284
01:27:42.700 --> 01:27:44.820
was dead and is alive again.

1285
01:27:45.420 --> 01:27:48.140
He was lost and is found.

1286
01:27:48.140 --> 01:27:51.060
I'm curious for you all to be thinking about this.

1287
01:27:51.540 --> 01:27:55.300
Where has the elder brother syndrome shown up in your life?

1288
01:27:58.900 --> 01:28:03.500
Have you believed, like, have you ever had the thoughts like, God, I've done

1289
01:28:03.500 --> 01:28:08.740
everything you asked me to do, and you're still not giving me the blessing of a

1290
01:28:08.740 --> 01:28:12.940
spirit mate, like, you know, you're serving and you're doing all the things

1291
01:28:12.940 --> 01:28:15.700
and you're asking God, but he's not doing it for you.

1292
01:28:15.740 --> 01:28:17.620
Well, that's the elder brother showing up.

1293
01:28:19.780 --> 01:28:21.020
That's what's happening there.

1294
01:28:23.060 --> 01:28:24.780
And y'all, it's not your fault.

1295
01:28:25.020 --> 01:28:29.740
It's just, you have learned an incorrect view of who the father is.

1296
01:28:31.300 --> 01:28:34.900
And you've learned an incorrect view of who you are in relation to the father.

1297
01:28:36.500 --> 01:28:37.540
Just like that.

1298
01:28:37.660 --> 01:28:40.540
Like, and even this afternoon, I didn't even realize I was going to be

1299
01:28:40.540 --> 01:28:42.740
talking about this, but I was talking about the father.

1300
01:28:43.700 --> 01:28:46.660
Like, and even this afternoon, I didn't even make the connection.

1301
01:28:46.660 --> 01:28:49.260
Like he's saying this son of yours, like, okay, wait a minute.

1302
01:28:49.260 --> 01:28:50.540
You are a son too.

1303
01:28:53.100 --> 01:28:54.140
You're a son too.

1304
01:28:54.700 --> 01:28:55.860
So you're a daughter.

1305
01:28:56.820 --> 01:28:57.420
You're a daughter.

1306
01:28:57.420 --> 01:29:00.340
And maybe you don't really feel like you're in the kingdom.

1307
01:29:00.380 --> 01:29:04.340
You, you don't feel like you're in the palace because life has been hard.

1308
01:29:06.260 --> 01:29:06.980
But guess what?

1309
01:29:07.020 --> 01:29:09.140
Esther figured out her way to get there.

1310
01:29:09.140 --> 01:29:09.780
Didn't she?

1311
01:29:10.500 --> 01:29:12.060
She just went right up on in there.

1312
01:29:12.900 --> 01:29:16.740
Now God opened that door for her, but here's the thing.

1313
01:29:17.140 --> 01:29:19.460
Esther did not sit waiting.

1314
01:29:20.420 --> 01:29:20.780
Yes.

1315
01:29:20.780 --> 01:29:24.220
She had the preparation processes, but she was doing stuff.

1316
01:29:24.220 --> 01:29:24.860
You all.

1317
01:29:27.060 --> 01:29:29.580
Some of you, I really sensed it earlier.

1318
01:29:29.660 --> 01:29:33.940
And as we start to close tonight, I want to give you this, some of you.

1319
01:29:34.340 --> 01:29:37.500
And again, there's no shame, guilt, or condemnation.

1320
01:29:37.500 --> 01:29:38.620
Please don't receive that.

1321
01:29:38.620 --> 01:29:45.180
When I say this, some of you have been angry at God and you need to forgive him.

1322
01:29:46.540 --> 01:29:49.300
And you've been angry at him because you've been waiting and God

1323
01:29:49.300 --> 01:29:51.340
hasn't provided your spirit mate.

1324
01:29:52.700 --> 01:29:53.900
But here's the truth.

1325
01:29:54.980 --> 01:29:59.820
Part of the problem is you've been waiting and waiting in the sense of not.

1326
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:06.880
with him in the process. You've been just waiting for him to bring that person to you.

1327
01:30:06.880 --> 01:30:12.040
And that's not how that's we have to be actively walking with the Lord and and shifting and

1328
01:30:12.040 --> 01:30:17.800
changing and healing and growing and partnering with him in the process. The other flip side

1329
01:30:17.800 --> 01:30:25.240
is some of you have been so hurt in the past by other people that you're in the Father's

1330
01:30:25.240 --> 01:30:33.360
house and the blessing is there for you. But you don't either a think you can have it or

1331
01:30:33.360 --> 01:30:41.480
be you don't even think it's there. And so this week I want to encourage you to ask the

1332
01:30:41.480 --> 01:30:49.640
Lord to show you a fresh revelation of what it looks like and feels like for you to live

1333
01:30:49.640 --> 01:31:02.920
as a daughter of the King who has access to the kingdom, everything, everything in it.

1334
01:31:02.920 --> 01:31:06.320
And y'all, yes, God is going to protect us. Sometimes he's not going to always give us

1335
01:31:06.320 --> 01:31:14.720
everything we want all in all in one swoop because y'all we just we would mishandle it.

1336
01:31:14.720 --> 01:31:19.360
I can tell you that from experience. Sometimes you get blessing poured on you and it's like,

1337
01:31:20.080 --> 01:31:24.240
I don't know if I can, I don't know if I'm mature enough to even handle this.

1338
01:31:26.160 --> 01:31:32.560
Okay, but God has it for you. And it's not just for everybody else. Some of you,

1339
01:31:33.200 --> 01:31:39.200
that's kind of where your elder brother syndrome is kicking in. You really believe that God just

1340
01:31:39.200 --> 01:31:45.200
blesses everybody else, but not you. You kind of feel like Cinderella in the up locked away

1341
01:31:45.280 --> 01:31:51.680
in the whatever tower. And God wants to help you come out of that tower. And he already opened

1342
01:31:51.680 --> 01:31:59.760
the door for you to come out. I've never said that before in this session. So I feel like that

1343
01:31:59.760 --> 01:32:06.560
is something from the Lord to, you know, that Cinderella, you know, she was put there by the

1344
01:32:06.560 --> 01:32:12.480
evil stepmother and locked in that palace tower. And God's wanting you to know that door has

1345
01:32:12.480 --> 01:32:18.000
already been unlocked. And the healing is yours, you can have it and he wants to help you come out

1346
01:32:18.960 --> 01:32:23.920
and just be who he's called you to be. You're called to be Cinderella, the princess, whatever,

1347
01:32:23.920 --> 01:32:27.600
you know, kind of like what Karen was saying, but we have to have a revelation of what it

1348
01:32:27.600 --> 01:32:33.920
even means to be a princess. And a couple weeks ago, the Lord led me to say something that I

1349
01:32:33.920 --> 01:32:38.800
also had never said before in one of our ladies this afternoon, I don't know that she's here

1350
01:32:38.800 --> 01:32:43.120
tonight, was saying how this is still ministering to her. And I just thought of it again. So I want

1351
01:32:43.120 --> 01:32:48.720
to give it to you before we start before we start to close here is some of you are trying to be

1352
01:32:48.720 --> 01:32:56.240
queens when you haven't learned how to be a princess yet. You know, in our day and age,

1353
01:32:56.240 --> 01:33:01.600
everybody's talking about queen this queen that she's a queen, and I'm not knocking that. Okay.

1354
01:33:02.560 --> 01:33:10.560
But how can we be a queen if we don't know what it's like to be loved as a little girl as a princess?

1355
01:33:14.640 --> 01:33:21.120
Let's be a princess first and see what that feels like. Some of you all I'm going to go

1356
01:33:21.120 --> 01:33:25.360
give an activation I didn't give this afternoon, and I haven't given it for a couple weeks,

1357
01:33:25.360 --> 01:33:30.480
but feel led to give it tonight. I want to encourage you to be praying. I'm not crying,

1358
01:33:30.640 --> 01:33:39.680
y'all. I have these allergies. So don't mind me. Be praying about how you can activate your princess.

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What does it look like for you in the next couple weeks to activate the princess who you already are?

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Is it to go get a tiara, a crown? Is it some kind of veil? Maybe, maybe, you know, maybe it's not

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your forever wedding veil, but maybe it's to get a veil. And, you know, y'all don't have to wear

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01:34:00.000 --> 01:34:04.800
these things out and about if you don't want to, but, like, get used to it in your house. Why?

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01:34:05.440 --> 01:34:10.880
Because even putting a tiara on some, like, for some of you all, standing in front of a mirror

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01:34:10.880 --> 01:34:17.120
and putting a tiara on yourself, I'm just going to imagine it. It might cause some, like,

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uncomfortableness, some crying. Some of you might have a hard time actually, like, really seeing

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yourself that way. Maybe for some of you it's ordering a bride-to-be sash and, like, starting

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01:34:30.800 --> 01:34:37.760
to wear it and partnering with, God has this for me. I'm a princess. God wants to provide

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01:34:37.760 --> 01:34:45.360
the spirit mate for me. A tiara is, like, I don't know how else to explain it. It's like a little

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01:34:45.360 --> 01:34:55.040
princess crown. Diamonds. And, you know, they can be not real diamonds, but, you know, really cute.

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But a crown, you know, goes all the way around. A tiara is kind of like

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just goes on the sides, typically.

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You know, the front and the sides,

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and the combs go down in.

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01:35:07.440 --> 01:35:10.780
One last thing, as we're saying this,

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I keep seeing the word royalty the other day.

1376
01:35:12.440 --> 01:35:15.800
Yeah, I think that's going in partnership with this.

1377
01:35:15.800 --> 01:35:17.320
Yeah, you can find them at Claire's,

1378
01:35:17.320 --> 01:35:20.560
you can find them Amazon, anywhere, you all.

1379
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So that's an inactivation, you all can do that.

1380
01:35:24.760 --> 01:35:26.020
Here's the other one.

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01:35:26.860 --> 01:35:30.340
Your question at the end of this, elder brother,

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that I would love for you all to post about

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01:35:33.660 --> 01:35:36.820
in the group this week, okay?

1384
01:35:36.820 --> 01:35:37.700
What group?

1385
01:35:37.700 --> 01:35:40.020
The Last Year Single app, if you go in there,

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01:35:40.020 --> 01:35:42.960
there's a button that says, create a post,

1387
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and you can create a post in there.

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01:35:44.420 --> 01:35:46.180
And I would love for you to share about

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01:35:46.180 --> 01:35:50.540
when was the first time you believed a lie,

1390
01:35:51.460 --> 01:35:53.160
excuse me, believed a lie,

1391
01:35:54.160 --> 01:35:56.680
that God wasn't a good father,

1392
01:36:00.040 --> 01:36:04.160
and that he did not come through on his promises for you?

1393
01:36:07.040 --> 01:36:09.680
When was the first time you believed a lie,

1394
01:36:10.580 --> 01:36:12.780
that God wasn't a good father,

1395
01:36:13.820 --> 01:36:17.660
and that he did not come through on his promises for you?

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01:36:18.660 --> 01:36:21.660
And here's why this question and answer is important, okay?

1397
01:36:21.660 --> 01:36:22.580
This is why I want you all,

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01:36:22.580 --> 01:36:23.980
we were gonna do it in a breakout tonight,

1399
01:36:23.980 --> 01:36:25.680
but we just don't have time.

1400
01:36:27.300 --> 01:36:30.260
Because some of you really need to get to the root

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01:36:30.260 --> 01:36:35.260
of your, the brokenness in the relationship

1402
01:36:35.260 --> 01:36:39.260
you have with God, the father, okay?

1403
01:36:39.260 --> 01:36:41.100
And this is gonna help you start to unpack

1404
01:36:41.100 --> 01:36:42.300
that a little bit more.

1405
01:36:43.620 --> 01:36:44.980
All right, your other question,

1406
01:36:45.180 --> 01:36:50.460
all right, your other activation is shifting to positive.

1407
01:36:50.460 --> 01:36:53.640
So this goes in alignment with the making room for joy.

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01:36:54.540 --> 01:36:58.040
I want you all to ask God to show you the gold in yourself,

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01:37:01.620 --> 01:37:03.900
as well as other people around you.

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01:37:04.740 --> 01:37:06.460
Now, if someone's toxic,

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01:37:06.460 --> 01:37:09.540
you still wanna acknowledge the toxic behaviors.

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01:37:09.540 --> 01:37:13.380
We don't wanna just have this, you know,

1413
01:37:13.380 --> 01:37:16.900
non-reality, you know, in life when we're looking at people,

1414
01:37:16.900 --> 01:37:20.540
but here's the thing, God can show us the gold in anybody

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01:37:20.540 --> 01:37:22.360
because he put it there.

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01:37:24.920 --> 01:37:29.420
He made every person in his image, okay?

1417
01:37:30.300 --> 01:37:33.580
And the reason this will help you on your healing journey

1418
01:37:33.580 --> 01:37:38.580
is because, you know, as you're shifting, as you're healing,

1419
01:37:39.300 --> 01:37:41.820
you wanna really partner with,

1420
01:37:41.820 --> 01:37:45.620
okay, God, I know that you created this person.

1421
01:37:45.620 --> 01:37:48.580
I don't like how they're behaving

1422
01:37:48.580 --> 01:37:51.600
and I can choose to not allow, if someone's toxic,

1423
01:37:51.600 --> 01:37:54.820
I can choose to not allow myself to be with that person

1424
01:37:54.820 --> 01:37:56.100
and spend time with them,

1425
01:37:56.100 --> 01:37:58.900
but I can still see value in who they are

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01:37:58.900 --> 01:38:01.980
as a son or daughter, okay?

1427
01:38:01.980 --> 01:38:03.260
Now, they're not sons or daughters

1428
01:38:03.260 --> 01:38:04.500
until they accept Jesus Christ.

1429
01:38:04.500 --> 01:38:06.100
That's when we become part of the family,

1430
01:38:06.100 --> 01:38:08.140
but he created them all, okay?

1431
01:38:08.140 --> 01:38:10.340
He created everyone.

1432
01:38:10.340 --> 01:38:11.980
And so he put the good,

1433
01:38:11.980 --> 01:38:14.620
he put his image in each person and it's there.

1434
01:38:14.620 --> 01:38:17.600
It's whether or not they want to live into that or not.

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01:38:17.600 --> 01:38:20.740
That's a part of the journey for them as well.

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01:38:20.740 --> 01:38:24.700
But let's be gold finders, okay?

1437
01:38:24.700 --> 01:38:26.540
Let's be gold finders.

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01:38:26.540 --> 01:38:30.180
And I'm gonna pray and close us out.

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01:38:30.180 --> 01:38:31.520
Father, thank you.

1440
01:38:33.340 --> 01:38:35.560
Thank you for your glory.

1441
01:38:35.560 --> 01:38:38.460
God, we believe that it can cover the earth.

1442
01:38:38.460 --> 01:38:41.660
We pray that you would help us to be gold finders this week

1443
01:38:41.660 --> 01:38:43.460
and in the next weeks ahead.

1444
01:38:43.460 --> 01:38:46.420
God, that you would transform us from the inside out,

1445
01:38:46.420 --> 01:38:49.060
that you would, Lord, thank you,

1446
01:38:49.060 --> 01:38:51.140
that you would prepare a table for us

1447
01:38:51.140 --> 01:38:52.580
in the presence of our enemies,

1448
01:38:52.580 --> 01:38:56.060
that you would reveal to us all the ways

1449
01:38:56.060 --> 01:38:57.900
that we're living in the kingdom,

1450
01:38:57.900 --> 01:39:00.860
that we're living in your house, the King of Kings,

1451
01:39:00.860 --> 01:39:05.060
and we're living below what you have for us.

1452
01:39:05.060 --> 01:39:08.360
We're not even taking part or partaking of the blessings

1453
01:39:09.200 --> 01:39:10.040
that are in the house.

1454
01:39:10.040 --> 01:39:12.480
So Lord, help us to heal in such a way

1455
01:39:12.480 --> 01:39:15.200
that we would come out of alignment with mindsets,

1456
01:39:15.200 --> 01:39:17.720
beliefs, belief systems, heart postures,

1457
01:39:18.960 --> 01:39:22.160
brokenness that cause us to be in the house

1458
01:39:22.160 --> 01:39:24.760
and believe that we're a slave.

1459
01:39:24.760 --> 01:39:26.760
So we thank you for revealings, for healing

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01:39:26.760 --> 01:39:28.020
that are gonna continue to happen.

1461
01:39:28.020 --> 01:39:30.880
We thank you for supernatural breakthroughs,

1462
01:39:30.880 --> 01:39:34.360
redemption, reconciliation, and families and relationships.

1463
01:39:34.360 --> 01:39:37.560
God, where there's been brokenness for years,

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01:39:37.600 --> 01:39:42.480
God, we speak and declare healing power in Jesus' name,

1465
01:39:42.480 --> 01:39:45.120
that your virtue would go into us

1466
01:39:45.120 --> 01:39:47.760
and then also move through us to other people.

1467
01:39:47.760 --> 01:39:50.280
And we just thank you in advance for that.

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01:39:50.280 --> 01:39:52.800
Help us to see ourselves more and more and more

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01:39:52.800 --> 01:39:55.120
through your eyes every day, Father.

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01:39:55.120 --> 01:39:57.280
In Jesus' name, amen.

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01:39:57.280 --> 01:39:58.360
God bless you.

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01:39:58.360 --> 01:39:59.200
We love you.

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01:39:59.200 --> 01:40:00.040
We're so glad.

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01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:06.000
here, and I will be seeing you all in the group this week. Have a great night, everyone. Bye.