WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:12.960 All right, guys. Welcome to Men's Heartwork. Monday night, April 21st, 2025 is the date. 2 00:00:12.960 --> 00:00:18.400 So I'm glad you all could be here. There's probably going to be a couple more that jump 3 00:00:18.400 --> 00:00:28.120 on. There kind of usually is. And so just want to say that if this is your first time, 4 00:00:28.120 --> 00:00:34.480 looks like we do have one person that is new. Winston, is this your first time to heart 5 00:00:34.480 --> 00:00:42.080 check? Yeah, I just joined. I just signed up last week and went through everything but 6 00:00:42.080 --> 00:00:50.560 the last two videos for the first week section. Yeah, I'm almost done with that. Yeah. Wonderful. 7 00:00:50.560 --> 00:00:56.840 Where do you tell us a little bit about yourself? Where are you from? What do you do? Yeah, 8 00:00:56.840 --> 00:01:03.840 so I'm originally from Bay Area, California. I lived in New York City for 12 years. And 9 00:01:03.840 --> 00:01:12.600 then I moved to Colorado during COVID. And I've been here since. I'm in the kind of my 10 00:01:12.600 --> 00:01:22.360 backgrounds in finance and mortgages and real estate. And I'm kind of getting back into 11 00:01:22.360 --> 00:01:29.680 some kind of real estate stuff like investing. But I had kind of a long sabbatical, I guess 12 00:01:29.680 --> 00:01:39.760 you could say transition. And then I was visiting. I was on a trip with some friends last week. 13 00:01:39.760 --> 00:01:44.840 And one of our friends we were visiting kind of brought up this program. And so I thought 14 00:01:44.840 --> 00:01:50.360 it would be good. And I got one of my friends who's still living in New York to join as 15 00:01:50.360 --> 00:01:56.840 well. He couldn't be here tonight. But he'll be on next week's. What's his name? His name 16 00:01:56.840 --> 00:02:04.640 is Noel. Okay, yeah, I think I saw that. Yeah. So just let me get this straight. So you're 17 00:02:04.640 --> 00:02:10.080 not in New York, but you're in not in the Bay Area either. You're in Arizona? I'm in 18 00:02:10.080 --> 00:02:16.160 Denver, Denver. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Got it. Oh, wonderful. So in Denver, now you're in 19 00:02:16.160 --> 00:02:23.120 finance a little bit doing some things and getting some things back on point. Who are 20 00:02:23.120 --> 00:02:26.760 the friends that you were with that mentioned last year's thing? I'm just curious to see 21 00:02:26.760 --> 00:02:33.040 if I know them. It's my friend. It's a woman. It's my friend, Alessandra. She's in New Mexico 22 00:02:33.040 --> 00:02:37.760 City. Alessandra. Yeah, yeah. I think she's one of our affiliates as well. She's one of 23 00:02:37.760 --> 00:02:43.440 our students and she likes to. Yeah. Cool. That's awesome. She's the one that told us 24 00:02:43.440 --> 00:02:50.960 about it. Yeah. Super cool. Well, welcome then Winston. We take an opportunity on Monday 25 00:02:50.960 --> 00:03:00.600 nights to gather just the guys, whoever would like to join. And we just do a little heart 26 00:03:00.600 --> 00:03:09.000 check in. Sometimes we have an agenda. Sometimes we have just a chat. Sometimes we go down. 27 00:03:09.000 --> 00:03:15.000 Who's wanting to process something, process a relationship, process, you know, like certain 28 00:03:15.000 --> 00:03:21.000 aspect of what's going, what they're going through. So it can be a little random, but 29 00:03:21.000 --> 00:03:25.640 at the same time, it's usually pretty good discussion altogether. A lot of these guys 30 00:03:25.640 --> 00:03:30.400 are, most of these guys, all of these guys really are kind of our regular guys plus, plus 31 00:03:30.400 --> 00:03:40.320 others. So, um, um, so there's, there's good things to be had. Um, couple announcements, 32 00:03:40.320 --> 00:03:48.880 guys, Jackie is definitely in need of guys to be spotlighted tomorrow night on tomorrow 33 00:03:48.880 --> 00:03:53.960 night's single spotlight. That is on your calendar. That's one of the all community 34 00:03:54.520 --> 00:04:00.680 have, um, at least once a month, sometimes more than once a month, but, um, she's in 35 00:04:00.680 --> 00:04:09.320 need of guys to be spotlighted. So if you'd like to, um, volunteer for that, um, definitely 36 00:04:09.320 --> 00:04:17.920 write in to the admin at Jackie doorman.com and let them know. So take a note, do it now, 37 00:04:18.880 --> 00:04:26.160 make sure that you're getting spotlighted. And I want to encourage you to do it even 38 00:04:26.160 --> 00:04:32.560 if you don't want to, because it's necessary. It's important. The odds are in your favor, 39 00:04:32.560 --> 00:04:39.520 so to speak, even in the sense that just there's more women than there are guys. So this is 40 00:04:39.520 --> 00:04:45.200 your opportunity to just kind of put your best foot forward and practice and like, you 41 00:04:45.200 --> 00:04:51.600 know, just kind of put yourself out there. So tomorrow night, seven central eight Eastern, 42 00:04:51.600 --> 00:04:57.040 just like this time, um, all community channel it's in, it's on the calendar on the app there. 43 00:04:59.040 --> 00:04:59.760 Single spotlight. 44 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:01.400 Yes. 45 00:05:01.400 --> 00:05:03.040 Is it possible to be spotlighted 46 00:05:03.040 --> 00:05:04.840 if you've already been spotlighted? 47 00:05:09.320 --> 00:05:11.520 I think it was just recently that you were spotlighted. 48 00:05:11.520 --> 00:05:12.680 Is that correct, Andy? 49 00:05:13.680 --> 00:05:15.160 I was spotlighted like... 50 00:05:16.120 --> 00:05:17.040 A couple of weeks ago. 51 00:05:17.040 --> 00:05:18.520 I think two months ago. 52 00:05:18.520 --> 00:05:19.800 A couple of months ago. 53 00:05:19.800 --> 00:05:22.000 A couple of months, about, yeah. 54 00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:22.840 Okay. 55 00:05:22.840 --> 00:05:25.320 I don't know how she's wanting to do that. 56 00:05:27.000 --> 00:05:29.640 I mean, she always wanted to get fresh faces 57 00:05:29.640 --> 00:05:30.560 and that kind of stuff. 58 00:05:30.560 --> 00:05:34.360 But at the same time, I don't know. 59 00:05:34.360 --> 00:05:35.440 You're just going to have to write in 60 00:05:35.440 --> 00:05:36.800 and they'll schedule it. 61 00:05:36.800 --> 00:05:37.840 Can't answer that question, 62 00:05:37.840 --> 00:05:39.200 because that's her deal. 63 00:05:41.160 --> 00:05:44.200 I just was told to make the announcement. 64 00:05:44.200 --> 00:05:45.040 How's that? 65 00:05:47.160 --> 00:05:48.120 That work for you? 66 00:05:48.120 --> 00:05:49.080 But definitely write in. 67 00:05:49.080 --> 00:05:53.120 Don't not write in, okay? 68 00:05:53.120 --> 00:05:57.000 To the email to get single spotlighted for tomorrow. 69 00:05:57.880 --> 00:06:01.320 And then next on the agenda, 70 00:06:01.320 --> 00:06:04.200 there will not be a men's heart check-in next week. 71 00:06:05.880 --> 00:06:08.520 There will not be one next week. 72 00:06:08.520 --> 00:06:10.160 Just wanted to give you that heads up. 73 00:06:10.160 --> 00:06:12.760 So we'll miss a week next week. 74 00:06:12.760 --> 00:06:17.760 And that is how that's going to go for next week. 75 00:06:19.480 --> 00:06:20.960 So I just want to give you a heads up for that. 76 00:06:20.960 --> 00:06:23.400 But we will resume the following week 77 00:06:23.400 --> 00:06:25.080 and get back after it. 78 00:06:25.840 --> 00:06:26.680 Okay. 79 00:06:28.120 --> 00:06:29.880 Kenton, I'll get to your hand in just a moment, 80 00:06:29.880 --> 00:06:31.440 but I want to go around. 81 00:06:33.160 --> 00:06:34.400 Easter was this past weekend. 82 00:06:34.400 --> 00:06:35.880 I hope y'all had a great Easter 83 00:06:35.880 --> 00:06:40.320 and hope you had a good time celebrating the risen Lord. 84 00:06:43.240 --> 00:06:46.320 And it was kind of cool on Faith Friday. 85 00:06:46.320 --> 00:06:48.520 We kind of went around, 86 00:06:48.520 --> 00:06:51.160 instead of bragging on Jesus 87 00:06:51.160 --> 00:06:53.560 on what he's doing in our lives, 88 00:06:53.800 --> 00:06:55.000 typically on Faith Friday, 89 00:06:55.000 --> 00:06:58.480 we use the opportunity to tell our testimonies 90 00:06:58.480 --> 00:07:01.080 with regard to what the Lord did this week, 91 00:07:01.080 --> 00:07:02.920 what the Lord, little breakthroughs 92 00:07:02.920 --> 00:07:05.560 and little just like God winks and different things 93 00:07:05.560 --> 00:07:09.960 and just what, like brag on Jesus sort of thing. 94 00:07:09.960 --> 00:07:12.320 And we did it in a different way. 95 00:07:12.320 --> 00:07:15.880 We took the opportunity to share some of the sort of like, 96 00:07:15.880 --> 00:07:19.560 what was your initial Jesus experience? 97 00:07:19.560 --> 00:07:24.200 What was your initial moment where you really met the Lord? 98 00:07:24.200 --> 00:07:27.760 Some people were like, I prayed a prayer a long time ago, 99 00:07:27.760 --> 00:07:31.360 but it wasn't until this moment or this thing 100 00:07:31.360 --> 00:07:32.400 or this something happened. 101 00:07:32.400 --> 00:07:33.920 I was going through something 102 00:07:33.920 --> 00:07:35.240 and the Lord really met me like, 103 00:07:35.240 --> 00:07:38.640 and I really understood that I was really truly saved 104 00:07:38.640 --> 00:07:40.160 and my life really changed. 105 00:07:40.160 --> 00:07:42.160 So it was just really kind of cool hearing those testimonies. 106 00:07:42.160 --> 00:07:44.960 Some people, they had that initial experience 107 00:07:44.960 --> 00:07:46.360 and then that's how they got saved. 108 00:07:46.360 --> 00:07:48.040 So it's just, it's different for everybody. 109 00:07:48.040 --> 00:07:49.760 I love to hear those stories. 110 00:07:49.760 --> 00:07:51.680 If somebody wants to share that tonight 111 00:07:51.680 --> 00:07:53.240 and if it's really on your heart to do, 112 00:07:53.240 --> 00:07:56.880 I wouldn't mind hearing that story 113 00:07:58.000 --> 00:07:59.240 if you wanted to share that tonight. 114 00:07:59.240 --> 00:08:02.760 But does anybody have a win? 115 00:08:02.760 --> 00:08:04.880 Anybody, something that you came like, 116 00:08:04.880 --> 00:08:07.480 hey, I want to share this on men's heartwork tonight. 117 00:08:07.480 --> 00:08:11.800 You got something that you came with to share specifically. 118 00:08:12.880 --> 00:08:14.200 Not that you just thought it up. 119 00:08:14.200 --> 00:08:15.640 I mean, I'm like, you came with it. 120 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:18.120 Like, hey, I'm going to share this on men's heartwork. 121 00:08:18.120 --> 00:08:18.960 Anybody? 122 00:08:21.520 --> 00:08:22.800 Anybody, anybody, anybody? 123 00:08:24.200 --> 00:08:26.040 All right, no takers. 124 00:08:26.040 --> 00:08:27.640 All right, I'm going to go with you, Kenton. 125 00:08:27.640 --> 00:08:29.040 You get your hand raised. 126 00:08:29.040 --> 00:08:30.160 What's on your heart, man? 127 00:08:30.160 --> 00:08:31.800 Well, I just wanted to ask the question 128 00:08:31.800 --> 00:08:34.440 is that they started that algorithm system. 129 00:08:34.440 --> 00:08:36.880 Have they, are they still using it now? 130 00:08:36.880 --> 00:08:38.799 Cause I haven't, we haven't heard much more from it 131 00:08:38.799 --> 00:08:39.919 or about it. 132 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:41.679 What do you mean? 133 00:08:41.679 --> 00:08:43.520 Well, she had the, you know, 134 00:08:43.720 --> 00:08:44.960 the match. 135 00:08:44.960 --> 00:08:45.800 Yes. 136 00:08:46.720 --> 00:08:47.920 Yeah. 137 00:08:47.920 --> 00:08:52.560 That is, that is actually sort of internal for us 138 00:08:52.560 --> 00:08:56.240 to see what matches come up. 139 00:08:56.240 --> 00:08:57.920 And yeah, we're still using that. 140 00:08:58.800 --> 00:09:00.520 It's kind of cool. 141 00:09:00.520 --> 00:09:03.320 Jackie, just about a week ago, two weeks ago, 142 00:09:04.600 --> 00:09:09.080 had a conversation with an app called Arc. 143 00:09:09.080 --> 00:09:10.960 Has anybody ever heard of Arc app? 144 00:09:10.960 --> 00:09:13.200 She was talking about that last week, I think. 145 00:09:13.880 --> 00:09:15.600 Oh, she, she mentioned it even last week 146 00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:16.960 on our men's call, right? 147 00:09:18.880 --> 00:09:23.880 And we are sort of starting an affiliation 148 00:09:23.920 --> 00:09:25.520 with that as a reference. 149 00:09:25.520 --> 00:09:30.520 They want there to be sort of relationship coaching, 150 00:09:32.680 --> 00:09:34.120 sort of a protocol. 151 00:09:35.120 --> 00:09:38.440 Our community, our protocol, 152 00:09:38.440 --> 00:09:41.360 and what we teach in last year's single on the heart work 153 00:09:41.360 --> 00:09:42.840 really fits with them. 154 00:09:43.480 --> 00:09:47.720 They really like the content and they've heard about it. 155 00:09:47.720 --> 00:09:50.120 They've been, you know, they came to us 156 00:09:50.120 --> 00:09:54.360 and people within our community connected with them 157 00:09:54.360 --> 00:09:56.400 and said, hey, you need to really reach out to Jackie. 158 00:09:56.400 --> 00:10:00.080 And so they reached out to us looking for a partner. 159 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:02.800 on the relationship coaching side. 160 00:10:02.800 --> 00:10:06.880 And then they wanted to partner with us to offer 161 00:10:06.880 --> 00:10:11.880 when we have like as a sort of a bonus 162 00:10:12.060 --> 00:10:14.640 or sort of an add on to last year single program 163 00:10:14.640 --> 00:10:18.580 for our members and new people to get, 164 00:10:19.960 --> 00:10:21.920 I don't know if it's three months free or something, 165 00:10:21.920 --> 00:10:26.800 but a deal with signing up with a ARC dating app. 166 00:10:26.800 --> 00:10:29.700 And I know dating apps are notorious, I get it. 167 00:10:29.700 --> 00:10:31.200 Everybody hates the dating apps, 168 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:35.500 but this particular app is an app 169 00:10:35.500 --> 00:10:38.660 that is for Christians made by Christians. 170 00:10:38.660 --> 00:10:42.060 All of the other Christian dating apps 171 00:10:42.060 --> 00:10:47.060 or sort of like good dating apps that are like nice, 172 00:10:47.300 --> 00:10:48.500 they're not Christian owned 173 00:10:48.500 --> 00:10:51.060 and they don't really actually have Christian people 174 00:10:51.060 --> 00:10:53.380 with Christian principles backing them. 175 00:10:53.380 --> 00:10:55.700 They're actually just someone who 176 00:10:55.700 --> 00:10:56.660 is really good with tech, 177 00:10:56.660 --> 00:10:57.700 they're really good with dating apps 178 00:10:57.700 --> 00:10:59.820 and they're really good at putting the marketing together 179 00:10:59.820 --> 00:11:04.020 and they see the Christian space as a market share. 180 00:11:04.020 --> 00:11:06.660 And so it's kind of cool that this is really an app 181 00:11:06.660 --> 00:11:10.140 that truly is made for Christians by Christians 182 00:11:10.140 --> 00:11:11.820 with Christian principles. 183 00:11:11.820 --> 00:11:14.380 And they don't make it overly religious and churchy 184 00:11:14.380 --> 00:11:15.320 and just like weird. 185 00:11:15.320 --> 00:11:16.780 So it's actually kind of pretty cool. 186 00:11:16.780 --> 00:11:19.920 And so anyway, we're very optimistic 187 00:11:19.920 --> 00:11:23.540 about what that might bring to the community 188 00:11:23.540 --> 00:11:27.500 and what it might bring to our community 189 00:11:28.260 --> 00:11:30.700 with regard to making increased matches. 190 00:11:30.700 --> 00:11:34.740 So again, we're not in the business really 191 00:11:34.740 --> 00:11:36.900 of trying to make matches, 192 00:11:36.900 --> 00:11:39.580 even though we do introduce people. 193 00:11:39.580 --> 00:11:43.780 So we're not trying to do matchmaking 194 00:11:43.780 --> 00:11:47.340 as much as we are trying to help people prepare 195 00:11:47.340 --> 00:11:51.060 for the time when they meet their significant other, 196 00:11:51.060 --> 00:11:52.060 when they meet their spirit mate, 197 00:11:52.060 --> 00:11:55.860 because there's so many different ways 198 00:11:55.860 --> 00:11:59.460 that people actually meet their spirit mate. 199 00:11:59.460 --> 00:12:01.800 And when you see it from our side of things, 200 00:12:03.740 --> 00:12:08.420 it's like when you, it's just like field of dreams. 201 00:12:09.460 --> 00:12:12.940 You build it, they will come, seriously. 202 00:12:12.940 --> 00:12:15.700 And it is, if you prepare your heart, 203 00:12:15.700 --> 00:12:18.100 we've seen this time and time and time again 204 00:12:18.100 --> 00:12:22.660 where somebody does the work to shift their heart, 205 00:12:22.660 --> 00:12:24.220 to take care of some of their trauma, 206 00:12:24.220 --> 00:12:28.660 to really just step into a healthier version of themself, 207 00:12:28.660 --> 00:12:31.500 step into a more authentic version of who they are 208 00:12:32.560 --> 00:12:36.760 as a son or daughter of God, and things begin to shift. 209 00:12:36.760 --> 00:12:37.780 It happens every time. 210 00:12:37.780 --> 00:12:40.020 It's biblical, it's kingdom. 211 00:12:40.020 --> 00:12:42.340 It's not something that like, oh, we figured it out. 212 00:12:42.340 --> 00:12:45.340 No, it's just, we just grabbed on to the kingdom principle 213 00:12:45.340 --> 00:12:49.020 and said, hey, this is important. 214 00:12:49.020 --> 00:12:51.680 And it's something that's not really being valued 215 00:12:51.680 --> 00:12:54.440 in the relationship space today, right? 216 00:12:54.440 --> 00:12:56.640 Our whole culture is just like, 217 00:12:56.640 --> 00:12:59.000 oh, turn them and burn them. 218 00:12:59.000 --> 00:13:02.080 That's why the apps are so disparaging 219 00:13:02.080 --> 00:13:04.840 is because it's just like, you're just flipping through, 220 00:13:04.840 --> 00:13:08.880 and you're weighing an entire big relationship 221 00:13:08.880 --> 00:13:13.080 on such a minimal inkling of data, 222 00:13:13.080 --> 00:13:14.880 which is like the way they look, 223 00:13:14.880 --> 00:13:16.760 like, oh, not ugly, ugly, ugly. 224 00:13:16.760 --> 00:13:18.960 And so it's like, it's just so dismissive. 225 00:13:18.960 --> 00:13:21.520 And it's just not a healthy, good way 226 00:13:21.520 --> 00:13:25.960 to actually find your spirit mate, 227 00:13:25.960 --> 00:13:30.560 even though, ironically, we ask a lot of people, 228 00:13:30.560 --> 00:13:31.400 hey, how'd you meet? 229 00:13:31.400 --> 00:13:33.160 And they're like, oh, I met it on a dating app. 230 00:13:33.160 --> 00:13:34.200 I'm like, that's amazing. 231 00:13:34.200 --> 00:13:36.800 Like, it's amazing that you connected initially that way. 232 00:13:36.800 --> 00:13:39.200 So there's nothing wrong with it. 233 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:41.380 It's just how you use it, right? 234 00:13:42.560 --> 00:13:46.440 So anyway, I say all that to say 235 00:13:46.440 --> 00:13:49.080 that that's kind of what we're trying to do. 236 00:13:49.080 --> 00:13:50.720 We're just trying to really be in the business 237 00:13:50.720 --> 00:13:53.560 of just really helping people 238 00:13:53.560 --> 00:13:56.200 establish better relationships. 239 00:13:56.200 --> 00:14:01.040 So with that being said, who wants to dive in tonight? 240 00:14:02.720 --> 00:14:05.360 Who's got somethings on your mind? 241 00:14:05.360 --> 00:14:09.480 You got a relationship situation, question, 242 00:14:09.480 --> 00:14:11.880 something posed to the rest of the group? 243 00:14:12.640 --> 00:14:14.960 I have something. 244 00:14:14.960 --> 00:14:16.440 Go ahead, Andy. 245 00:14:16.440 --> 00:14:19.840 So David, you've talked about 246 00:14:19.840 --> 00:14:22.200 how you and Jackie both have ADHD. 247 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:25.600 And I've been thinking about my own ADHD 248 00:14:26.520 --> 00:14:27.560 more recently again. 249 00:14:27.560 --> 00:14:30.680 And it's like, I feel like there's not really much hope 250 00:14:30.680 --> 00:14:34.080 for me to meet someone who will be understanding of me. 251 00:14:34.080 --> 00:14:36.920 It's just, sometimes it can be very difficult. 252 00:14:36.920 --> 00:14:40.520 Like all my past relationships ended because of it. 253 00:14:40.520 --> 00:14:43.960 And I'm just afraid that that's gonna keep happening 254 00:14:43.960 --> 00:14:45.040 over and over again. 255 00:14:46.800 --> 00:14:50.200 Well, I mean, I just, 256 00:14:50.200 --> 00:14:54.000 I'm very hopeful to every end. 257 00:14:54.000 --> 00:14:55.600 This may sound really cliche. 258 00:14:55.600 --> 00:14:58.760 It may sound really like, just like basic, 259 00:14:58.760 --> 00:15:00.240 but I don't know. 260 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:02.400 I honestly believe there's someone for everyone. 261 00:15:02.400 --> 00:15:03.720 I really do. 262 00:15:03.720 --> 00:15:05.440 I mean, we don't really teach the one, 263 00:15:05.440 --> 00:15:07.240 like, oh, there's one person, you know, 264 00:15:07.240 --> 00:15:10.360 like, because obviously the math doesn't work on that. 265 00:15:10.360 --> 00:15:12.240 But I really believe there's definitely 266 00:15:12.240 --> 00:15:14.840 someone fashioned for everyone. 267 00:15:14.840 --> 00:15:18.040 That just, I mean, there's just too many, 268 00:15:18.040 --> 00:15:21.320 there's too many possibilities that, 269 00:15:21.320 --> 00:15:22.680 number one, that that's not true. 270 00:15:22.680 --> 00:15:26.760 And then number two, just the sheer goodness of God. 271 00:15:26.920 --> 00:15:30.400 So don't accept that as, 272 00:15:30.400 --> 00:15:32.200 don't accept that as a rule of thumb. 273 00:15:32.200 --> 00:15:33.280 Like, I'm just too afraid, 274 00:15:33.280 --> 00:15:35.680 as you know, it's happened so many times. 275 00:15:35.680 --> 00:15:40.080 So many incredible stories started with, 276 00:15:40.080 --> 00:15:42.080 I did this over and over and over and over 277 00:15:42.080 --> 00:15:45.000 and over and over again, and then one day, you know? 278 00:15:45.000 --> 00:15:45.960 Yeah. 279 00:15:45.960 --> 00:15:47.600 So just be hopeful in that. 280 00:15:47.600 --> 00:15:51.360 I really feel like your story is not gonna end with just, 281 00:15:51.360 --> 00:15:54.160 oh, Andy can't ever find anybody. 282 00:15:54.160 --> 00:15:55.200 Yeah. 283 00:15:55.200 --> 00:16:00.200 But, you know, attention deficit, man, it's a thing. 284 00:16:02.600 --> 00:16:05.520 And just like I said about, like, you know, 285 00:16:05.520 --> 00:16:10.520 it's not a matter of like if there's a sexuality problem, 286 00:16:12.200 --> 00:16:14.200 you know, like with most men, 287 00:16:14.200 --> 00:16:17.160 it's just a matter of like when and how. 288 00:16:17.160 --> 00:16:21.920 Because as, like I was saying, like as a generation, 289 00:16:21.920 --> 00:16:26.400 we have literally been like sexually assaulted. 290 00:16:27.440 --> 00:16:32.440 And we as a generation literally have been just confined 291 00:16:33.800 --> 00:16:36.480 to that eight second soundbite. 292 00:16:36.480 --> 00:16:41.480 Like our attention span has been, you know, abducted 293 00:16:42.760 --> 00:16:47.760 because of the way we're just fed completely with media 294 00:16:48.440 --> 00:16:53.440 and just the instantaneous gratification. 295 00:16:53.560 --> 00:16:55.800 You know, many call it 30 years ago, 296 00:16:55.800 --> 00:16:57.480 the microwave society. 297 00:16:57.480 --> 00:16:59.320 I mean, it's just really true. 298 00:16:59.320 --> 00:17:00.760 We expect to like, when you go, 299 00:17:00.760 --> 00:17:03.680 how many times have you lost your patience 300 00:17:03.680 --> 00:17:05.040 in the last week, anybody? 301 00:17:06.319 --> 00:17:08.280 Lost your patience at the traffic light. 302 00:17:08.280 --> 00:17:10.800 Lost your patience in the line. 303 00:17:10.800 --> 00:17:12.880 Lost your patience in the drive-thru. 304 00:17:12.880 --> 00:17:15.640 Lost your patience in the, you know, 305 00:17:15.640 --> 00:17:17.720 the internet didn't respond. 306 00:17:18.560 --> 00:17:19.800 Lost your patience when, you know, whatever. 307 00:17:19.800 --> 00:17:22.440 Like, I mean, we're so used to like things like, 308 00:17:22.440 --> 00:17:23.440 why is this happening? 309 00:17:23.440 --> 00:17:24.920 Why is it happening now? 310 00:17:24.920 --> 00:17:26.480 You know? 311 00:17:26.480 --> 00:17:27.319 Yeah. 312 00:17:27.319 --> 00:17:29.600 We're just conditioned to have that. 313 00:17:29.600 --> 00:17:33.160 So like your attention is, you know, 314 00:17:33.160 --> 00:17:34.480 being affected by that. 315 00:17:35.320 --> 00:17:38.000 And so obviously there's things we can do. 316 00:17:38.000 --> 00:17:38.960 There's things we should do. 317 00:17:38.960 --> 00:17:39.920 You know, meditation. 318 00:17:39.920 --> 00:17:42.520 There's all kinds of things we should do 319 00:17:42.520 --> 00:17:44.080 in order to combat that. 320 00:17:44.080 --> 00:17:47.120 And I really feel like spending time with the Lord 321 00:17:47.920 --> 00:17:51.320 in prayer and in just quiet time 322 00:17:51.320 --> 00:17:54.920 and solitude and worship and nature, 323 00:17:54.920 --> 00:17:58.680 wherever it is you connect with God, that's valuable. 324 00:18:00.560 --> 00:18:02.640 You have to cultivate that. 325 00:18:02.640 --> 00:18:06.320 That will help, I think, to sort of bring that, 326 00:18:06.320 --> 00:18:09.320 bring everything back into focus and daily. 327 00:18:09.320 --> 00:18:10.160 You know? 328 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:14.800 That's something that I struggle with all the time. 329 00:18:14.800 --> 00:18:17.480 I'm like, why don't I do this every day? 330 00:18:18.240 --> 00:18:22.240 I ask myself, like, I'm so silly. 331 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:23.080 Why don't I do, why? 332 00:18:23.080 --> 00:18:24.960 And like, this is so good. 333 00:18:24.960 --> 00:18:26.200 This is so refreshing. 334 00:18:26.200 --> 00:18:29.520 This is so, it's like, why wouldn't I do this every day? 335 00:18:30.680 --> 00:18:31.520 You know? 336 00:18:31.520 --> 00:18:34.320 And it's just, I don't have a reason for it. 337 00:18:35.280 --> 00:18:36.880 We endeavor to do it. 338 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:38.000 We should. 339 00:18:38.000 --> 00:18:38.840 We need it. 340 00:18:39.760 --> 00:18:42.600 And we'll still contend for it. 341 00:18:43.960 --> 00:18:45.720 Super important. 342 00:18:46.480 --> 00:18:50.080 Who's got something on your heart, Mark? 343 00:18:50.080 --> 00:18:51.200 David? 344 00:18:51.200 --> 00:18:52.240 Well, two things. 345 00:18:52.240 --> 00:18:53.400 I just wanted to share. 346 00:18:55.120 --> 00:18:57.760 I had a cool joy moment. 347 00:18:57.760 --> 00:18:59.120 David from Vegas? 348 00:18:59.120 --> 00:19:00.440 Yeah. 349 00:19:00.440 --> 00:19:02.400 David headshot his hand up. 350 00:19:02.400 --> 00:19:03.240 Oh, I'm sorry. 351 00:19:03.240 --> 00:19:04.640 Let me go with him first and then we'll get to it. 352 00:19:04.640 --> 00:19:05.480 Yeah. 353 00:19:08.560 --> 00:19:11.680 You can't see it sitting way back there on your, 354 00:19:11.680 --> 00:19:12.800 way back there on your work. 355 00:19:12.800 --> 00:19:14.160 I'm over here doing my stuff. 356 00:19:14.160 --> 00:19:15.000 Sorry. 357 00:19:16.000 --> 00:19:17.000 Go ahead, Henshaw. 358 00:19:20.400 --> 00:19:22.800 I really like that Andy brought up this topic 359 00:19:22.800 --> 00:19:27.720 because being now 50 years old, 360 00:19:27.720 --> 00:19:29.000 basically about a month ago, 361 00:19:29.000 --> 00:19:31.360 I came into a revelation that I probably have it 362 00:19:31.360 --> 00:19:35.480 and I'm still trying to get diagnosed for ADHD 363 00:19:35.480 --> 00:19:38.800 and realize it's caused a lot of problems all my life 364 00:19:38.800 --> 00:19:41.920 with earning income, to relationships, to everything else. 365 00:19:41.960 --> 00:19:46.960 So yeah, but now knowing that it's there, 366 00:19:47.000 --> 00:19:48.520 now I can do something about it. 367 00:19:48.520 --> 00:19:51.440 So that's like a huge win after being in this group. 368 00:19:51.440 --> 00:19:53.320 So I just wanted to share that, 369 00:19:53.320 --> 00:19:56.960 but I'm still in process of mapping out 370 00:19:58.800 --> 00:20:00.000 all the details of that. 371 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:01.760 So it's kind of like overwhelming. 372 00:20:01.760 --> 00:20:03.280 It's like a lot of moving pieces. 373 00:20:03.280 --> 00:20:06.160 You know, I think Jackie mentioned that like last week. 374 00:20:06.160 --> 00:20:09.720 It's like, I don't know if it was on the men's call 375 00:20:09.720 --> 00:20:11.820 or one of the sessions, but you know, 376 00:20:11.820 --> 00:20:14.520 some people are kind of hesitant to move forward 377 00:20:14.520 --> 00:20:17.180 because they got a lot of moving pieces. 378 00:20:17.180 --> 00:20:21.280 Then on top of that, I feel like God's calling me to, 379 00:20:22.680 --> 00:20:27.680 I guess, like move to, 380 00:20:27.680 --> 00:20:31.520 move to Austin. 381 00:20:31.520 --> 00:20:36.120 So I'm trying to still seeking confirmation on that, 382 00:20:36.120 --> 00:20:37.760 but it seems like it keeps coming up 383 00:20:37.760 --> 00:20:39.520 and I can't hide from it. 384 00:20:39.520 --> 00:20:42.520 So, but I mean, there's a few loose ends 385 00:20:42.520 --> 00:20:44.200 I need to tie up here before I do that, 386 00:20:44.200 --> 00:20:45.520 but it's, you know, 387 00:20:46.960 --> 00:20:49.560 within the next couple of months or something. 388 00:20:49.560 --> 00:20:51.920 So, so yeah. 389 00:20:51.920 --> 00:20:53.180 We talk about, you know, 390 00:20:53.180 --> 00:20:54.800 there's a couple of things coming up here now 391 00:20:54.800 --> 00:20:56.920 that they're now that you're mentioning this 392 00:20:56.920 --> 00:21:01.560 is I think Supernatural Saturday, 393 00:21:01.560 --> 00:21:03.120 Jackie was talking about pruning 394 00:21:04.040 --> 00:21:07.000 and she definitely was on Kingdom Seekers this morning. 395 00:21:07.000 --> 00:21:11.760 Kingdom Seekers is a part of a 100X movement. 396 00:21:11.760 --> 00:21:12.720 It's an entrepreneurial, 397 00:21:12.720 --> 00:21:14.240 sort of kingdom entrepreneurial movement. 398 00:21:14.240 --> 00:21:18.240 And Jackie guest speaks on that every occasionally, 399 00:21:18.240 --> 00:21:21.120 like once or twice a month in Kingdom Seekers. 400 00:21:21.120 --> 00:21:23.520 And she talked this morning about pruning 401 00:21:24.400 --> 00:21:26.540 and it's definitely a season. 402 00:21:27.160 --> 00:21:28.000 There's something happening. 403 00:21:28.000 --> 00:21:30.780 You know, there's an intrigue. 404 00:21:30.780 --> 00:21:35.580 There's a mystery in the spirit, in the world, 405 00:21:35.580 --> 00:21:37.700 a shaking, you know, 406 00:21:37.700 --> 00:21:41.580 regardless of how you're looking at the political landscape, 407 00:21:41.580 --> 00:21:43.480 the economic landscape, 408 00:21:43.480 --> 00:21:48.380 the world geographic and militaristic landscape 409 00:21:48.380 --> 00:21:51.080 and what you're thinking about this and that, 410 00:21:51.080 --> 00:21:52.980 whether you think it's turning for the good 411 00:21:52.980 --> 00:21:54.580 or the worst or whatever, 412 00:21:54.580 --> 00:21:57.420 there's just definitely an unsettling. 413 00:21:57.420 --> 00:22:01.100 Does anybody know, everybody know that the Pope died today? 414 00:22:01.100 --> 00:22:04.300 And I don't know if you knew that or not. 415 00:22:05.940 --> 00:22:09.660 And there's something like in that, 416 00:22:09.660 --> 00:22:11.660 it's just like, I don't know what it is. 417 00:22:13.340 --> 00:22:14.580 I'm not trying to focus on the Pope. 418 00:22:14.580 --> 00:22:15.660 What I'm just trying to say is, 419 00:22:15.660 --> 00:22:18.020 is that these things that happen, 420 00:22:18.020 --> 00:22:22.620 they're significant in terms of their occurrences 421 00:22:22.620 --> 00:22:25.900 and the underlying sort of spiritual weight 422 00:22:25.900 --> 00:22:26.740 that's happening. 423 00:22:26.740 --> 00:22:29.540 And there's a lot of people that are definitely 424 00:22:30.500 --> 00:22:35.500 very spiritually sensitive to like, 425 00:22:35.580 --> 00:22:39.540 why is like in a manifest sometimes in your personal life 426 00:22:40.460 --> 00:22:43.580 to where it's kind of like, why isn't this working out? 427 00:22:43.580 --> 00:22:46.140 Like, why is there just seem to be like this ceiling 428 00:22:46.140 --> 00:22:48.000 or this wall or this thing? 429 00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:50.420 Like, what is like, why is there this opposition? 430 00:22:50.420 --> 00:22:53.140 Why do I like, why am I processing this 431 00:22:53.140 --> 00:22:54.540 the way I'm processing it? 432 00:22:54.540 --> 00:22:59.540 Jackie was just kind of sharing her own struggles today 433 00:22:59.740 --> 00:23:01.980 and over the weekend and this kind of thing. 434 00:23:01.980 --> 00:23:05.700 And so there's definitely something, 435 00:23:05.700 --> 00:23:09.580 what I call current prophetic realities, 436 00:23:09.580 --> 00:23:13.600 which is basically a word that describes 437 00:23:13.600 --> 00:23:17.260 the time and space prophetically where we live, right? 438 00:23:18.180 --> 00:23:21.100 The time and space prophetically where we live today 439 00:23:21.100 --> 00:23:23.820 is different than the time and space prophetically 440 00:23:23.820 --> 00:23:26.620 that people lived in a hundred years ago, 441 00:23:26.620 --> 00:23:28.260 500 years ago, a thousand years ago. 442 00:23:28.260 --> 00:23:29.660 You know what I'm saying? 443 00:23:29.660 --> 00:23:32.040 Like, what is the current prophetic reality 444 00:23:32.040 --> 00:23:33.620 that we're living in? 445 00:23:33.620 --> 00:23:37.900 Even though the human experience tends to be cyclical, 446 00:23:37.900 --> 00:23:40.820 history is cyclical, you know, 447 00:23:40.820 --> 00:23:44.220 the experience of mankind turns over and over again. 448 00:23:44.220 --> 00:23:45.860 There's times of war, times of peace, 449 00:23:45.860 --> 00:23:46.780 you know, all that kind of stuff. 450 00:23:47.300 --> 00:23:48.940 And they cycle through. 451 00:23:48.940 --> 00:23:51.740 And even though those cycles are real, 452 00:23:51.740 --> 00:23:54.100 in some ways we're experienced humanity 453 00:23:54.100 --> 00:23:57.280 the way some other people did in certain other peacetimes, 454 00:23:58.140 --> 00:24:02.060 there still is a current trend of prophetic reality 455 00:24:02.060 --> 00:24:05.200 that is occurring where we live today. 456 00:24:06.340 --> 00:24:09.140 And so like, what does that mean to you? 457 00:24:09.140 --> 00:24:13.220 Like, what that means to you in some ways is that, 458 00:24:13.220 --> 00:24:16.260 hey, what's going on in you, you know, 459 00:24:16.700 --> 00:24:21.300 it isn't necessarily, you know, you just being a screw up, 460 00:24:21.300 --> 00:24:24.700 you just not being able to get it together. 461 00:24:24.700 --> 00:24:27.620 You just like, you know, my life sucks. 462 00:24:28.780 --> 00:24:31.220 We always, as individuals, 463 00:24:31.220 --> 00:24:33.740 that's a very human characteristic 464 00:24:33.740 --> 00:24:37.420 to basically process things through our own filter. 465 00:24:38.260 --> 00:24:41.060 Like my life's not going the way I want it to go, 466 00:24:41.060 --> 00:24:43.160 therefore I'm having a hard time. 467 00:24:44.160 --> 00:24:48.480 And of course, then immediately human nature is just like, 468 00:24:48.480 --> 00:24:50.760 it's my fault, you know? 469 00:24:50.760 --> 00:24:53.560 So we start internalizing that, what's wrong with me? 470 00:24:53.560 --> 00:24:57.040 What's wrong, why, you know, what's wrong with my life? 471 00:24:57.040 --> 00:25:00.040 And maybe it's not me, but it's my life that happened to me. 472 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:01.700 and therefore this is the way, 473 00:25:01.700 --> 00:25:05.240 this is why I am the way I am, right? 474 00:25:05.240 --> 00:25:10.140 And we have to like, we have to war against that. 475 00:25:12.600 --> 00:25:14.600 We have to come against that. 476 00:25:16.620 --> 00:25:19.380 Part of heart work is dealing with the trauma 477 00:25:19.380 --> 00:25:23.480 that yes, happened to you and happened with you 478 00:25:23.480 --> 00:25:25.820 and happened even possibly even through you 479 00:25:26.820 --> 00:25:29.980 and dealing with that and coming into a healthy state. 480 00:25:31.820 --> 00:25:36.820 But it also requires us to cast off heaviness. 481 00:25:41.440 --> 00:25:46.340 It requires us to cast off and by faith 482 00:25:46.340 --> 00:25:50.980 exchange our weariness, our heaviness 483 00:25:50.980 --> 00:25:52.320 with a garment of praise. 484 00:25:52.820 --> 00:25:54.920 This may not be what you want to hear today, 485 00:25:57.220 --> 00:26:01.560 but it requires us to like, get out of the funk 486 00:26:03.400 --> 00:26:08.400 by either praising our way through, 487 00:26:10.200 --> 00:26:14.440 practicing gratitude, getting a different perspective 488 00:26:14.440 --> 00:26:16.240 on, hey, this really isn't, 489 00:26:16.240 --> 00:26:19.280 a lot of this doesn't have anything to do with me. 490 00:26:19.280 --> 00:26:21.480 I'm just being affected by this. 491 00:26:22.320 --> 00:26:23.980 By the current prophetic reality. 492 00:26:25.820 --> 00:26:30.080 And the word says that I can have abundant life. 493 00:26:30.080 --> 00:26:32.220 The word says that I can have an overcoming life. 494 00:26:32.220 --> 00:26:34.000 The word says that I can have it different. 495 00:26:34.000 --> 00:26:36.760 The word says that I'm above and not beneath. 496 00:26:39.260 --> 00:26:42.400 And so I want to start stepping into that, 497 00:26:42.400 --> 00:26:46.940 not just because I want to be prosperous 498 00:26:46.940 --> 00:26:49.880 or like better than other people, 499 00:26:49.880 --> 00:26:51.720 but because you want to come into the fullness 500 00:26:52.240 --> 00:26:53.240 of who you really are. 501 00:26:54.320 --> 00:26:59.320 God didn't call you to be less than what your potential is. 502 00:27:00.960 --> 00:27:05.960 God didn't call you to be down in the muck and mire 503 00:27:08.300 --> 00:27:10.100 of your existence. 504 00:27:10.100 --> 00:27:12.260 God didn't call you to, 505 00:27:13.500 --> 00:27:15.440 even though that's part of life a little bit, 506 00:27:15.440 --> 00:27:16.800 to walk through the valley, 507 00:27:18.140 --> 00:27:21.280 but he's calling you up to a higher place. 508 00:27:22.720 --> 00:27:25.620 Some of that is casting off the heaviness. 509 00:27:25.620 --> 00:27:30.620 And then some of that also is accepting the responsibility 510 00:27:31.320 --> 00:27:34.860 and stepping into a higher level of activity, 511 00:27:34.860 --> 00:27:36.560 a higher level of responsibility, 512 00:27:36.560 --> 00:27:38.820 a higher level of accountability, 513 00:27:38.820 --> 00:27:41.840 a higher level of, you know what? 514 00:27:41.840 --> 00:27:42.800 This is not right for me. 515 00:27:42.800 --> 00:27:44.000 This is not good for me. 516 00:27:45.160 --> 00:27:50.180 There's, I can do better with God's help, 517 00:27:51.060 --> 00:27:52.600 with the help of Holy Spirit. 518 00:27:52.600 --> 00:27:56.080 I can be more of who I really am as a son of God. 519 00:27:58.140 --> 00:28:00.640 And when you start processing that and working that, 520 00:28:00.640 --> 00:28:01.820 and that is your work, 521 00:28:03.920 --> 00:28:06.320 then you start really getting some breakthrough. 522 00:28:08.280 --> 00:28:09.780 Is this tracking with anybody? 523 00:28:11.520 --> 00:28:12.360 Yep. 524 00:28:13.320 --> 00:28:14.160 Good stuff? 525 00:28:15.020 --> 00:28:16.160 Yeah. 526 00:28:16.160 --> 00:28:17.000 Encouraging? 527 00:28:17.000 --> 00:28:18.920 Well, from your perspective. 528 00:28:18.920 --> 00:28:19.760 What's that? 529 00:28:20.700 --> 00:28:22.600 Grateful for your perspective on that. 530 00:28:24.140 --> 00:28:26.700 Well, and I think, I hear what you're saying, Thomas. 531 00:28:26.700 --> 00:28:29.140 I just, I didn't, I'm missing one of the words 532 00:28:29.140 --> 00:28:29.980 you're saying there. 533 00:28:29.980 --> 00:28:33.580 Oh, I said, I'm grateful for your perspective on that. 534 00:28:33.580 --> 00:28:34.680 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. 535 00:28:35.980 --> 00:28:37.380 Well, and I think, you know, there's, you know, 536 00:28:37.380 --> 00:28:39.720 there's that song, Praise Before You Breakthrough. 537 00:28:39.720 --> 00:28:40.820 That's one of my favorite songs, 538 00:28:40.820 --> 00:28:42.420 like one of my favorite warfare songs. 539 00:28:42.420 --> 00:28:45.620 And, you know, like transitions are hard. 540 00:28:45.620 --> 00:28:48.500 Like when you're, when one thing's dying 541 00:28:48.540 --> 00:28:50.420 before the new thing's growing, 542 00:28:50.420 --> 00:28:52.140 and like, unless the seed falls into the ground, 543 00:28:52.140 --> 00:28:53.900 it can't bear much fruit, right? 544 00:28:53.900 --> 00:28:55.740 And, you know, I've been in that season for, 545 00:28:55.740 --> 00:28:57.100 seems like forever. 546 00:28:57.100 --> 00:29:00.980 And, you know, and like, just depression is, you know, 547 00:29:00.980 --> 00:29:03.700 every day, like wanting to overtake me. 548 00:29:03.700 --> 00:29:05.460 But it's like, Lord, I'm gonna, like, even if, 549 00:29:05.460 --> 00:29:07.740 I've just like, like, even if, 550 00:29:07.740 --> 00:29:11.180 even if none of this changes, I'm still gonna praise you. 551 00:29:11.180 --> 00:29:13.740 I mean, I was doing worship, writing, you know, 552 00:29:13.740 --> 00:29:16.380 I don't really write songs, but I play songs. 553 00:29:16.380 --> 00:29:17.980 You know, I was just doing worship songs. 554 00:29:18.500 --> 00:29:20.700 I'm like, you know, enemy, you can come at me, 555 00:29:20.700 --> 00:29:22.500 but I'm just gonna praise the Lord. 556 00:29:22.500 --> 00:29:23.660 And you can watch me worship, 557 00:29:23.660 --> 00:29:27.060 even in the midst of a rough season, you know? 558 00:29:27.060 --> 00:29:29.580 But like, I guess, like, you know, 559 00:29:29.580 --> 00:29:32.780 transition is usually, I mean, one thing's dying, 560 00:29:32.780 --> 00:29:34.900 and then for another thing going, right? 561 00:29:34.900 --> 00:29:36.780 And so, and that's- 562 00:29:36.780 --> 00:29:38.740 Yeah, it causes you to start paying attention 563 00:29:38.740 --> 00:29:42.860 to what is dying and what needs to die. 564 00:29:42.860 --> 00:29:44.900 Yeah, yeah, and kill it. 565 00:29:45.900 --> 00:29:50.900 And what needs to come to life, your life. 566 00:29:50.900 --> 00:29:53.860 Anybody have anything that's like that? 567 00:29:53.860 --> 00:29:56.340 It's like, I realize, I'm thinking about this, 568 00:29:56.340 --> 00:29:59.700 like, anything need to die in your life? 569 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:11.000 anything need to like go away in your life my feeling of being the jailer the 570 00:30:11.000 --> 00:30:19.040 jailer yeah like in the terms of like child rearing my niece's developmentally 571 00:30:19.040 --> 00:30:27.100 delayed largely in part to how my brother and his ex-wife attempt to be 572 00:30:27.100 --> 00:30:33.180 parents he goes over to her mom's house and they pretty much treat her like a 573 00:30:33.180 --> 00:30:38.220 princess and she can do no wrong and she comes over here to order and 574 00:30:38.220 --> 00:30:45.780 structure and resist it by like screaming or hitting my brother hissing 575 00:30:45.780 --> 00:30:52.500 at him hitting my mom and I just walk in the room I'm like hey eat your food you 576 00:30:52.500 --> 00:30:57.500 know in a loud bellowing voice and I don't like doing that but at the same 577 00:30:57.500 --> 00:31:03.940 time I know that that gets results lickety-split with no arguments because 578 00:31:03.940 --> 00:31:10.340 that's how my grandfather raised me but I don't like when I have children I 579 00:31:10.340 --> 00:31:18.580 don't want to be like that ever you know like yeah there's a whole other 580 00:31:18.580 --> 00:31:22.820 discussion we could have on child rearing and I have a thing about that 581 00:31:22.820 --> 00:31:29.140 but I don't necessarily there's that there's a very very fine line between a 582 00:31:29.140 --> 00:31:35.980 voice of authority and a voice that's abusive and I'm not saying that's good 583 00:31:35.980 --> 00:31:40.740 I'm just saying there is a line there is a difference like you can have an 584 00:31:40.740 --> 00:31:45.340 assertive voice of authority I just had my two and a half year old grandchildren 585 00:31:45.340 --> 00:31:52.140 here for a week and I love my kids and I love my grandkids but those little 586 00:31:52.140 --> 00:31:59.380 babies they will run you ragged man and I love my daughter and she is she's 587 00:31:59.380 --> 00:32:04.220 mother of the year she really is she's incredible she like makes like she 588 00:32:04.220 --> 00:32:07.620 doesn't like just prepare food I mean she actually makes the food like she's 589 00:32:07.620 --> 00:32:13.580 really holistic and she's very concerned and she's very like into research the 590 00:32:13.580 --> 00:32:17.140 well-being of her children and she's just she's amazing right she's 591 00:32:17.140 --> 00:32:22.580 incredible my son-in-law is incredible he's a tremendous provider he's a kind 592 00:32:22.580 --> 00:32:29.700 man he's a good husband they're good people but those little babies run them 593 00:32:29.700 --> 00:32:36.980 like they ain't the parents and I'm like man like I ain't like but the what's 594 00:32:36.980 --> 00:32:41.180 funny about it is they literally said because there was one night we like 595 00:32:41.180 --> 00:32:44.740 watch the babies why they went out well over here was hey you guys go out you 596 00:32:44.740 --> 00:32:48.820 know what's watch the babies right and like yeah they'll probably be better for 597 00:32:48.820 --> 00:32:53.180 you and everybody tells us they're always better for people when we're not 598 00:32:53.180 --> 00:33:01.060 around I'm like really like yeah and the thing about it is is just I'm just gonna 599 00:33:01.060 --> 00:33:07.860 lovingly say this on my kids my kids haven't come to the point where they 600 00:33:07.860 --> 00:33:16.020 have well let me tell you a story first my mother raised me with like an iron 601 00:33:16.020 --> 00:33:20.820 fist all right like just like not not abusively but she was just really like 602 00:33:20.820 --> 00:33:24.060 look you're gonna do this and you're gonna like finish your homework and you 603 00:33:24.060 --> 00:33:27.900 like she just wanted to make sure I was going to do all the things I was 604 00:33:27.900 --> 00:33:32.780 supposed to do and she fed me well and she vitamins and you know always made 605 00:33:32.820 --> 00:33:38.300 sure that I had clothes provided for and clean she was a great mom wonderful but 606 00:33:38.300 --> 00:33:43.540 she told me the story when I was about I think three or four years old I was 607 00:33:43.540 --> 00:33:48.860 pitching a tantrum I was pitching a fit I was down on the floor I was giving it 608 00:33:48.860 --> 00:33:55.860 the best toddler tantrum I could do and she said no we're not doing this and I 609 00:33:55.860 --> 00:33:59.740 don't even know what it was I can't remember and she said no we're not doing 610 00:33:59.740 --> 00:34:04.140 this and so I went into this tantrum and she just was like what in the world 611 00:34:04.140 --> 00:34:09.420 has gotten in with you like what what is wrong with you child like why are you so 612 00:34:09.420 --> 00:34:15.219 you know just basically dramatizing your antics here right like was this going 613 00:34:15.219 --> 00:34:21.060 away overboard and I literally stopped in my tears this is what she told me 614 00:34:21.060 --> 00:34:28.460 four years old three years old whatever it was and I said sometimes when I cry 615 00:34:28.460 --> 00:34:38.340 and scream you change your mind and I knew at three or four years old that I 616 00:34:38.340 --> 00:34:44.380 could manipulate the situation with my antics and children even at two and a 617 00:34:44.380 --> 00:34:49.380 half know that they can manipulate you with their antics and it was at that 618 00:34:49.380 --> 00:34:56.139 point my mom said oh no you're not going to be in charge of this situation I'm 619 00:34:56.139 --> 00:35:01.980 going to be the mother and that's she was she became very firm at that point 620 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.760 And she was a wonderful mother in that way. 621 00:35:02.760 --> 00:35:05.600 And so I just knew instinctively when I raised my children, 622 00:35:05.600 --> 00:35:08.640 I was not gonna have those kids. 623 00:35:08.640 --> 00:35:12.680 They just weren't gonna be, I mean, I will pull them aside. 624 00:35:12.680 --> 00:35:14.680 I whisper in their ear things like, 625 00:35:14.680 --> 00:35:16.560 if you don't settle down right now, 626 00:35:16.560 --> 00:35:19.600 I will take you out into the car 627 00:35:19.600 --> 00:35:21.840 and we will have a very serious talk 628 00:35:21.840 --> 00:35:23.160 and you're not gonna like it at all. 629 00:35:23.160 --> 00:35:25.060 Do you understand me? 630 00:35:25.060 --> 00:35:27.760 That was what I would whisper into my child's ear. 631 00:35:27.760 --> 00:35:29.120 And that's what I sound like, so. 632 00:35:29.160 --> 00:35:30.440 Yeah, and they straightened up. 633 00:35:30.440 --> 00:35:32.760 So there's nothing wrong with a voice of authority 634 00:35:32.760 --> 00:35:37.760 that's firm versus a voice of sternness 635 00:35:38.320 --> 00:35:41.160 to be cruel and punishing and just overbearing 636 00:35:41.160 --> 00:35:43.360 and controlling and abusive. 637 00:35:45.120 --> 00:35:48.960 So there's a world of difference in how it comes out 638 00:35:48.960 --> 00:35:51.240 and the love from which it comes 639 00:35:51.240 --> 00:35:54.480 versus the bitterness from which other comes, 640 00:35:54.480 --> 00:35:55.640 especially in parenting. 641 00:35:55.640 --> 00:35:57.360 And if you're not a parent, like a good uncle, 642 00:35:57.360 --> 00:35:59.880 a good family member, a good grandfather, 643 00:35:59.880 --> 00:36:03.440 a good, you know, a good man, period. 644 00:36:03.440 --> 00:36:04.280 And that's what I was gonna- 645 00:36:04.280 --> 00:36:05.520 You don't have to have your own children. 646 00:36:05.520 --> 00:36:09.360 You can just be a good man to other people's kids. 647 00:36:09.360 --> 00:36:12.280 That's a wonderful, wonderful thing. 648 00:36:13.360 --> 00:36:15.480 Like I took my niece to the park. 649 00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:18.440 I said, listen, Melody, you're gonna listen to me. 650 00:36:18.440 --> 00:36:20.400 You're gonna hold my hand the entire time 651 00:36:20.400 --> 00:36:22.880 until I release you to the playground 652 00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:24.960 because there could be a wild dog out here. 653 00:36:24.960 --> 00:36:28.560 There could be tigers and lions and bears on my, 654 00:36:28.560 --> 00:36:30.760 or however the phrase goes. 655 00:36:30.760 --> 00:36:31.600 How old is she? 656 00:36:31.600 --> 00:36:33.520 And she just turned four yesterday. 657 00:36:33.520 --> 00:36:34.360 Four, okay, yeah. 658 00:36:34.360 --> 00:36:35.520 Yeah. 659 00:36:35.520 --> 00:36:38.800 He listened to me 100%, didn't throw a fit, nothing. 660 00:36:38.800 --> 00:36:41.600 When she's around her dad or her mom, she throws a fit. 661 00:36:41.600 --> 00:36:43.880 Here's why, because children not only know 662 00:36:43.880 --> 00:36:45.360 that they can manipulate you, 663 00:36:45.360 --> 00:36:49.560 children are instinctively geared to know 664 00:36:49.560 --> 00:36:51.520 who they can trust and who's in charge. 665 00:36:52.560 --> 00:36:54.600 And it just blows my mind, though. 666 00:36:55.240 --> 00:36:57.360 Especially at that age of innocence, 667 00:36:57.360 --> 00:37:01.400 they're going to trust somebody who they feel safe with. 668 00:37:01.400 --> 00:37:03.320 And somebody who is firm with them, 669 00:37:03.320 --> 00:37:05.560 that lovingly is firm with them, 670 00:37:05.560 --> 00:37:08.320 and is playful and loving and all that kind of stuff, 671 00:37:08.320 --> 00:37:11.800 but at the same time, also willing to go firm 672 00:37:11.800 --> 00:37:15.080 for the sake of safety and all that kind of stuff, 673 00:37:15.080 --> 00:37:17.320 that person, they will trust that. 674 00:37:17.320 --> 00:37:20.680 They know that, oh, this person's safe. 675 00:37:20.680 --> 00:37:22.840 This person has my best interest. 676 00:37:22.840 --> 00:37:24.920 And they're learning at that age, 677 00:37:25.840 --> 00:37:27.320 everything they need to know 678 00:37:27.320 --> 00:37:29.960 about whether the world is safe or dangerous. 679 00:37:30.960 --> 00:37:33.560 Before the age of five, psychologists say 680 00:37:33.560 --> 00:37:36.360 that we literally intrinsically know, 681 00:37:36.360 --> 00:37:39.480 based on our childhood, whether the world is safe, 682 00:37:39.480 --> 00:37:40.760 whether the world is dangerous, 683 00:37:40.760 --> 00:37:43.800 whether the world, all these things 684 00:37:43.800 --> 00:37:45.600 in terms of relationship. 685 00:37:46.880 --> 00:37:49.720 So if you want to know how you became who you are, 686 00:37:49.720 --> 00:37:52.320 go back to five years old, 687 00:37:52.320 --> 00:37:55.400 and kind of think of like, what was going on in my life? 688 00:37:57.320 --> 00:37:59.080 Up until five years old, what was happening? 689 00:37:59.080 --> 00:38:00.640 What was my family situation like? 690 00:38:00.640 --> 00:38:01.640 Da, da, da, da, da. 691 00:38:02.680 --> 00:38:05.680 And probably just be some very, very valuable insight. 692 00:38:07.280 --> 00:38:08.840 Definitely stuff for heart work. 693 00:38:08.840 --> 00:38:10.040 Good stuff, yeah. 694 00:38:10.040 --> 00:38:10.880 Yeah. 695 00:38:10.880 --> 00:38:11.800 Thomas, did you have your hand raised? 696 00:38:11.800 --> 00:38:12.920 I thought I had your hand raised, 697 00:38:12.920 --> 00:38:14.440 or you were just responding to something earlier. 698 00:38:14.440 --> 00:38:15.880 I don't, I can't remember. 699 00:38:15.880 --> 00:38:17.360 Sorry, were you talking to me? 700 00:38:17.360 --> 00:38:18.200 Yes. 701 00:38:18.240 --> 00:38:20.280 Yes, yeah, absolutely. 702 00:38:20.280 --> 00:38:21.320 Yeah. 703 00:38:21.320 --> 00:38:25.320 Yeah, when you were asking kind of about this process, 704 00:38:25.320 --> 00:38:27.200 but David, you just raised your hand again. 705 00:38:27.200 --> 00:38:31.120 Well, I'll go after you, share yours, Thomas. 706 00:38:31.120 --> 00:38:33.120 I just had one question, but it was, 707 00:38:33.120 --> 00:38:34.320 I'll share it after you. 708 00:38:35.520 --> 00:38:38.520 Yeah, so I was reading a book 709 00:38:38.520 --> 00:38:40.040 called The Fifth Discipline this morning 710 00:38:40.040 --> 00:38:41.120 about systems theory, 711 00:38:41.120 --> 00:38:43.480 and it was talking about learning organizations 712 00:38:43.480 --> 00:38:47.080 and how it's not enough to just learn things. 713 00:38:47.080 --> 00:38:49.600 You have to actually like apply your learning 714 00:38:49.600 --> 00:38:51.080 in what you do. 715 00:38:51.080 --> 00:38:53.880 It was pretty painful, I felt like, to read that. 716 00:38:53.880 --> 00:38:56.280 And so I think something, 717 00:38:56.280 --> 00:38:57.840 a lot of things kind of came to mind. 718 00:38:57.840 --> 00:38:59.680 I realized how easy it is for me 719 00:38:59.680 --> 00:39:03.640 to just keep on absorbing information 720 00:39:03.640 --> 00:39:08.640 and not kind of like integrate that kind of information 721 00:39:09.200 --> 00:39:10.840 into what I'm actually doing. 722 00:39:10.840 --> 00:39:12.760 So looking around my room, I was like, 723 00:39:12.760 --> 00:39:14.400 wow, you know, my room could really stand 724 00:39:14.400 --> 00:39:17.160 to be more orderly. 725 00:39:17.160 --> 00:39:19.800 There are dishes kind of like by the sink, 726 00:39:19.800 --> 00:39:21.720 and yet it's easy for me to like sit here 727 00:39:21.720 --> 00:39:24.840 and watch Shark Tank because I think that, 728 00:39:24.840 --> 00:39:26.880 you know, I need to learn about business, 729 00:39:26.880 --> 00:39:29.400 you know, and like that kind of stuff. 730 00:39:29.400 --> 00:39:32.360 So I think, I don't know. 731 00:39:32.360 --> 00:39:34.600 I think that's something, I just, 732 00:39:34.600 --> 00:39:37.040 in the book they said that Harley Davidson, 733 00:39:37.040 --> 00:39:39.920 they have a phrase called AFP, 734 00:39:39.920 --> 00:39:42.000 which means another effing program. 735 00:39:42.840 --> 00:39:44.160 Yeah. 736 00:39:44.160 --> 00:39:47.360 And so figuring out how to not just kind of keep doing that, 737 00:39:47.360 --> 00:39:50.000 I think that's something that needs to die for me. 738 00:39:50.000 --> 00:39:50.840 That's good. 739 00:39:50.840 --> 00:39:51.680 I love that. 740 00:39:53.760 --> 00:39:55.080 You know, something you said about 741 00:39:55.080 --> 00:39:59.360 in terms of like taking knowledge and applying it, 742 00:39:59.360 --> 00:40:00.200 one of the best. 743 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.000 ways that I think anybody can do that is take a body of knowledge or maybe in a 744 00:40:06.000 --> 00:40:11.920 lesson or something and prepare to teach it and a lot of people will say oh I'm 745 00:40:11.920 --> 00:40:15.240 not a teacher or I'm not really a like you know they they think like formal 746 00:40:15.240 --> 00:40:18.680 educator or like even just in like layman's terms like no I've never I'm 747 00:40:18.680 --> 00:40:22.480 not really a teacher I don't teach anything but I tell you what it's a 748 00:40:22.480 --> 00:40:27.000 really good lesson and just self-development to prepare a lesson as 749 00:40:27.000 --> 00:40:32.880 if you were to teach something even though you have nowhere to teach it and 750 00:40:32.880 --> 00:40:37.080 I actually did this before I actually ever became a teacher I was a teacher 751 00:40:37.080 --> 00:40:43.040 for nine years and I was in ministry and it was a great honor to be able to have 752 00:40:43.040 --> 00:40:49.280 been considered having something to say to teach and I taught Bible college for 753 00:40:49.280 --> 00:40:54.560 nine years and I taught high school now that is really really it like you don't 754 00:40:54.560 --> 00:40:58.920 you all don't understand this about me but what's because what you don't 755 00:40:58.920 --> 00:41:05.960 understand is like when I was growing up I mean I was always lost I was lost in 756 00:41:05.960 --> 00:41:13.080 my thoughts I was lost in the hinterlands I was a dreamer I was always 757 00:41:13.080 --> 00:41:18.720 just imagining things and creating things and architecting things and I was 758 00:41:18.720 --> 00:41:24.360 constantly in trouble for that like my parents were trying to teach me to be so 759 00:41:24.360 --> 00:41:32.120 responsible they could not embrace the fact that I was a creative so therefore 760 00:41:32.120 --> 00:41:38.000 in their effort to try to train me to quote be present responsible do your 761 00:41:38.000 --> 00:41:43.160 duties da da da da da da they sort of like would beat out the creativity out 762 00:41:43.160 --> 00:41:52.400 of me or wouldn't let me or wouldn't fan the flames of my creativity they 763 00:41:52.480 --> 00:41:56.880 wouldn't champion oh you're so amazing at this we need to help you get into a 764 00:41:56.880 --> 00:42:04.000 program or a discipline or he said something to sort of enhance that right 765 00:42:04.000 --> 00:42:09.400 I know this now because I understand a lot of things and I've lived some life 766 00:42:09.400 --> 00:42:13.120 and I can look back and see that not trying to hold that against my parents 767 00:42:13.120 --> 00:42:15.720 and I'm trying to hold you know I'm trying to be angry about it although I 768 00:42:15.720 --> 00:42:20.840 was frustrated for a period of time in my life about that because I'm like but 769 00:42:20.840 --> 00:42:25.360 then I realized I can't just sit there and blame my parents for whatever right 770 00:42:25.360 --> 00:42:32.560 but at the same time me teaching me talking in front of people and 771 00:42:32.560 --> 00:42:37.720 articulating an idea and coming across that anything that made sense was just 772 00:42:37.720 --> 00:42:43.600 like never David a little Davy Dorman no he could never do anything like that and 773 00:42:43.600 --> 00:42:50.720 I got into ministry work and I was sort of like you know trying to that was like 774 00:42:50.720 --> 00:42:54.960 I was getting a lot of fulfillment I was doing and I saw I was never in a 775 00:42:54.960 --> 00:42:59.240 position to be asked to be a teacher because I was like oh man that would be 776 00:42:59.240 --> 00:43:03.640 incredible if I if somebody ever asked me to teach a class that'd be incredible 777 00:43:03.640 --> 00:43:11.200 and one day I got the opportunity but I had this inkling anybody have you ever 778 00:43:11.200 --> 00:43:15.200 had sort of a feeling in your gut like you were gonna do something but you've 779 00:43:15.200 --> 00:43:20.120 never did it before but you're like I feel like this is gonna happen to me I 780 00:43:20.120 --> 00:43:23.480 feel like in this next season there's gonna be like I'm gonna be doing this 781 00:43:23.480 --> 00:43:30.320 and such right that happened to me with teaching and it was 2000 when I got my 782 00:43:30.320 --> 00:43:43.440 first class and but I began to prepare to teach before I was ever a teacher and 783 00:43:43.440 --> 00:43:49.200 I would talk out loud to the mirrors the wall to the empty room whatever and I 784 00:43:49.200 --> 00:43:52.480 would be thinking about an idea and then I would just start talking about it 785 00:43:52.480 --> 00:43:56.920 as if I was teaching it as if I was talking about if I was training other 786 00:43:56.920 --> 00:44:03.440 people in it and preparing to teach something is the absolute best way to 787 00:44:03.440 --> 00:44:07.920 learn something and actually have it part of who you are part of your 788 00:44:07.920 --> 00:44:12.560 repertoire to where you can actually sound authoritative on it because it's 789 00:44:12.560 --> 00:44:16.440 one thing to learn something it's one day to think something but then once you 790 00:44:16.440 --> 00:44:24.040 articulate it and try to make it sense to someone else it becomes a real strong 791 00:44:24.040 --> 00:44:31.120 part of like you learn way more like I think hearing and listening and 792 00:44:31.120 --> 00:44:37.400 understanding a concept you get about 20 30 40 percent maybe of the of the 793 00:44:37.400 --> 00:44:42.080 understanding the true understanding of whatever it is you're studying versus 794 00:44:42.240 --> 00:44:47.760 you prepare to teach it you go into the 70 and 80th percentile of understanding 795 00:44:47.760 --> 00:44:52.320 what you're really saying because you prepared the information enough to where 796 00:44:52.320 --> 00:44:57.960 you can articulate it and teach it back to somebody so I encourage you to do 797 00:44:57.960 --> 00:45:01.840 that Thomas and 798 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.160 I really believe that you might have an opportunity 799 00:45:02.160 --> 00:45:07.360 to teach, or train, or use that gift set, that knowledge set, 800 00:45:07.360 --> 00:45:09.000 to be able to help others. 801 00:45:09.000 --> 00:45:10.400 I don't know what that looks like. 802 00:45:10.400 --> 00:45:11.600 It may be a classroom. 803 00:45:11.600 --> 00:45:15.160 It may be, I don't know if it's formal education. 804 00:45:15.160 --> 00:45:16.080 Maybe it's not. 805 00:45:16.080 --> 00:45:18.540 Maybe it's like training in the marketplace. 806 00:45:18.540 --> 00:45:19.120 I don't know. 807 00:45:19.120 --> 00:45:20.580 I don't know what that looks like. 808 00:45:20.580 --> 00:45:23.240 It could be hundreds of different iterations. 809 00:45:23.240 --> 00:45:25.680 I just taught a workshop last week here on campus. 810 00:45:25.680 --> 00:45:27.520 Love it. 811 00:45:27.520 --> 00:45:29.800 And that was your, is the first time you've done that? 812 00:45:29.800 --> 00:45:31.080 Or you do that often? 813 00:45:31.080 --> 00:45:33.440 No, pretty often. 814 00:45:33.440 --> 00:45:34.160 Pretty often. 815 00:45:34.160 --> 00:45:35.400 Love it. 816 00:45:35.400 --> 00:45:38.720 So you're already in the space to where 817 00:45:38.720 --> 00:45:40.000 that's an opportunity for you. 818 00:45:40.000 --> 00:45:41.360 I love that. 819 00:45:41.360 --> 00:45:44.560 And that makes total sense. 820 00:45:44.560 --> 00:45:46.640 And do you feel fulfilled in that? 821 00:45:46.640 --> 00:45:49.040 You feel like you're helping and changing people's lives 822 00:45:49.040 --> 00:45:51.280 by teaching and training? 823 00:45:51.280 --> 00:45:52.120 Sometimes. 824 00:45:52.120 --> 00:45:58.200 I think my family, I feel like my family has a teacher gift. 825 00:45:58.240 --> 00:46:02.720 But we don't really have an application gift. 826 00:46:02.720 --> 00:46:03.920 So I think that. 827 00:46:03.920 --> 00:46:05.760 What do you mean by that? 828 00:46:05.760 --> 00:46:12.800 I mean that, and I want to be very careful 829 00:46:12.800 --> 00:46:14.520 to honor everyone in my family. 830 00:46:14.520 --> 00:46:17.360 So I'll just say maybe for me and some patterns 831 00:46:17.360 --> 00:46:23.160 that I picked up, that there can be things that I've heard 832 00:46:23.160 --> 00:46:24.680 that I can explain to other people 833 00:46:24.680 --> 00:46:26.760 that I don't do myself in ways that 834 00:46:27.200 --> 00:46:29.560 are hypocritical and pharisaical. 835 00:46:29.560 --> 00:46:31.560 Not only in the religious context, 836 00:46:31.560 --> 00:46:34.400 but also in a lot of other contexts. 837 00:46:34.400 --> 00:46:37.280 So I think it's very easy for me to be like, oh, yeah, 838 00:46:37.280 --> 00:46:39.800 well, you should do this, and you should do that. 839 00:46:39.800 --> 00:46:45.280 When my own situation needs to receive some attention. 840 00:46:45.280 --> 00:46:48.040 Well, there's a beauty in that, though. 841 00:46:48.040 --> 00:46:51.080 Because it really does challenge you. 842 00:46:51.080 --> 00:46:55.840 Because in my life, OK, so take it out of the teaching thing. 843 00:46:55.840 --> 00:46:58.400 Say I don't really teach anymore in classes 844 00:46:58.400 --> 00:47:01.320 like I used to. 845 00:47:01.320 --> 00:47:04.320 But maybe stewarding a group like this, 846 00:47:04.320 --> 00:47:08.440 or maybe trying to do a business like we're doing now. 847 00:47:08.440 --> 00:47:09.680 Incidentally, I don't know. 848 00:47:09.680 --> 00:47:11.840 I think I mentioned the wheelhouse last week, 849 00:47:11.840 --> 00:47:14.640 or Jackie did, or I might have talked about it before. 850 00:47:14.640 --> 00:47:18.200 And if you don't understand what that is, I'll tell you. 851 00:47:18.200 --> 00:47:24.680 But stepping into a level of stewardship 852 00:47:24.720 --> 00:47:27.360 requires you to kind of have that response 853 00:47:27.360 --> 00:47:30.680 to where it's like, you don't feel worthy 854 00:47:30.680 --> 00:47:34.280 in a lot of ways sometimes because of that very reason. 855 00:47:34.280 --> 00:47:36.760 Like, well, I'm not that, so how can I teach that? 856 00:47:36.760 --> 00:47:37.600 Or how can I show that? 857 00:47:37.600 --> 00:47:38.640 Whatever. 858 00:47:38.640 --> 00:47:40.680 But it's an invitation. 859 00:47:40.680 --> 00:47:45.160 It's a beautiful thing for whatever you're working through. 860 00:47:45.160 --> 00:47:47.400 Because first of all, you have to realize 861 00:47:47.400 --> 00:47:49.640 that there's a divinity in the skill set 862 00:47:49.640 --> 00:47:52.080 that God gave you for this purpose 863 00:47:52.080 --> 00:47:54.080 that's trying to be worked out in you. 864 00:47:54.600 --> 00:47:58.240 It's not a way to say, you can't do this. 865 00:47:58.240 --> 00:48:02.520 It's a way to say, hey, I need you to do this. 866 00:48:02.520 --> 00:48:04.520 And in order for you to do this well, 867 00:48:04.520 --> 00:48:07.360 I'm inviting you to step into the truth 868 00:48:07.360 --> 00:48:10.440 or the power of what it is you're teaching 869 00:48:10.440 --> 00:48:12.960 or whatever it is you're putting forth. 870 00:48:12.960 --> 00:48:17.880 So it's a beautiful way to transition yourself 871 00:48:17.880 --> 00:48:22.560 into like, hey, I'm not only going to teach this, 872 00:48:22.560 --> 00:48:24.440 but I'm going to live this. 873 00:48:24.440 --> 00:48:25.680 I'm going to change this about me 874 00:48:25.680 --> 00:48:30.160 and I'm going to step into a greater purpose. 875 00:48:30.160 --> 00:48:31.240 And that's awesome. 876 00:48:31.240 --> 00:48:33.000 That's a good thing, actually. 877 00:48:34.000 --> 00:48:35.000 I know, because I know, 878 00:48:35.000 --> 00:48:36.600 and I've struggled with it though before, 879 00:48:36.600 --> 00:48:38.920 because I'm like, oh, how could I? 880 00:48:38.920 --> 00:48:41.240 Because I'm not this and that, blah, blah, blah. 881 00:48:41.240 --> 00:48:46.240 And then, you know, like, even my fatherhood, 882 00:48:46.640 --> 00:48:48.640 I'm like, I'm not that great of a father. 883 00:48:48.640 --> 00:48:52.480 I'm not like, you know, whatever ideal I think of, 884 00:48:53.240 --> 00:48:54.080 whatever. 885 00:48:54.080 --> 00:48:55.560 And then your kids come along and they go, 886 00:48:55.560 --> 00:48:57.120 dad, you're so great. 887 00:48:57.120 --> 00:48:58.440 I'm like, really? 888 00:48:58.440 --> 00:48:59.720 Like, why? 889 00:48:59.720 --> 00:49:01.040 Why do you think that? 890 00:49:01.040 --> 00:49:02.680 Because you're my dad and you're good. 891 00:49:02.680 --> 00:49:03.520 And I love you. 892 00:49:03.520 --> 00:49:06.240 And, you know, there was that one time when blah, blah, blah 893 00:49:06.240 --> 00:49:07.920 and they're like, and it just blows you away. 894 00:49:07.920 --> 00:49:10.120 You're like, I had no idea. 895 00:49:10.120 --> 00:49:11.600 That's incredible. 896 00:49:11.600 --> 00:49:12.520 That's powerful. 897 00:49:12.520 --> 00:49:14.000 And that's just like, okay. 898 00:49:15.360 --> 00:49:17.480 You know, and then that encourages me to step 899 00:49:17.480 --> 00:49:19.240 into being a better father, 900 00:49:19.680 --> 00:49:21.800 being a better father, even to other people 901 00:49:21.800 --> 00:49:23.200 that aren't even my kids. 902 00:49:24.360 --> 00:49:29.360 So I have now a season of life where, like Jackie and I, 903 00:49:29.680 --> 00:49:32.280 we're starting, we have influence with a lot 904 00:49:32.280 --> 00:49:36.200 of young people, not teenagers, but like a lot of like, 905 00:49:36.200 --> 00:49:37.960 sort of like young adults. 906 00:49:39.160 --> 00:49:41.560 In entrepreneur, and this is part of the reason 907 00:49:41.560 --> 00:49:43.680 what we're doing with Wheelhouse. 908 00:49:43.680 --> 00:49:48.200 We have just leased a 2,900 square foot space 909 00:49:49.160 --> 00:49:54.160 that's dedicated to creatives who want to belong. 910 00:49:58.520 --> 00:49:59.920 So it's like our tagline. 911 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.480 playing as a wheelhouse, a creative space to belong. 912 00:50:05.680 --> 00:50:10.680 So there are individuals that have entrepreneurial gifts 913 00:50:11.240 --> 00:50:16.240 that need a little bit more relationship with Jesus. 914 00:50:16.920 --> 00:50:17.880 And there are other people 915 00:50:17.880 --> 00:50:19.560 who have a good relationship with Jesus, 916 00:50:19.560 --> 00:50:22.880 but they need an expansion of their entrepreneurial gift set 917 00:50:22.880 --> 00:50:24.560 and their creative gift set. 918 00:50:24.560 --> 00:50:28.080 So we have a space now dedicated to foster that 919 00:50:28.960 --> 00:50:30.760 with all kinds of things. 920 00:50:30.760 --> 00:50:34.080 So on its face, it's just an event space. 921 00:50:34.080 --> 00:50:36.680 It's a space that people could rent out. 922 00:50:36.680 --> 00:50:38.060 But at the same time, 923 00:50:38.060 --> 00:50:40.840 it's a space for us to conduct workshops, 924 00:50:40.840 --> 00:50:45.080 to conduct trainings, to conduct gatherings, 925 00:50:45.080 --> 00:50:48.320 to conduct meetups, to conduct business, 926 00:50:48.320 --> 00:50:50.260 to actually have pop-up stores, 927 00:50:50.260 --> 00:50:53.340 to conduct spiritual gatherings 928 00:50:53.340 --> 00:50:58.260 where we're really just there to do a worship night 929 00:50:58.260 --> 00:51:03.260 or do somebody's film, what do you call them? 930 00:51:04.060 --> 00:51:06.100 Like a red carpet event, like a film. 931 00:51:06.100 --> 00:51:07.220 Like a premiere. 932 00:51:07.220 --> 00:51:08.060 Premiere, that's what it is. 933 00:51:08.060 --> 00:51:09.300 Montage. 934 00:51:09.300 --> 00:51:13.820 Yeah, to open it up for an open mic night. 935 00:51:13.820 --> 00:51:16.080 So there's this space and it's so cool 936 00:51:16.080 --> 00:51:20.460 because during the day, 937 00:51:20.460 --> 00:51:23.220 we'll have hours that we can open it up 938 00:51:23.220 --> 00:51:25.780 for people to come in and do coworking. 939 00:51:25.780 --> 00:51:27.400 My son-in-law has a coffee cart. 940 00:51:27.400 --> 00:51:31.340 He's gonna be serving coffee and he loves to serve people. 941 00:51:31.340 --> 00:51:35.300 He loves to just make people feel good with coffee. 942 00:51:35.300 --> 00:51:36.500 So he has that heart. 943 00:51:36.500 --> 00:51:38.940 He just likes to make people feel welcome. 944 00:51:38.940 --> 00:51:41.340 And so he has a hospitality sort of gifting going on. 945 00:51:41.340 --> 00:51:42.780 He just loves people. 946 00:51:42.780 --> 00:51:44.620 So he's gonna have that going. 947 00:51:44.620 --> 00:51:49.140 And my son has a design business. 948 00:51:49.140 --> 00:51:50.500 So he'll be running his design business 949 00:51:50.500 --> 00:51:53.660 out of that place in the back office. 950 00:51:53.660 --> 00:51:57.780 So you can just imagine this place that's dedicated. 951 00:51:57.780 --> 00:52:02.340 It's almost guys like, wow, unbelievable. 952 00:52:02.340 --> 00:52:04.700 It's almost like a church. 953 00:52:04.700 --> 00:52:08.180 It's almost like a place where people can come 954 00:52:08.180 --> 00:52:12.460 and gather and be infused with kingdom. 955 00:52:12.460 --> 00:52:14.060 But it's not a church. 956 00:52:14.060 --> 00:52:15.660 You see what I mean? 957 00:52:15.660 --> 00:52:19.380 It's like, what I feel is like the new version, 958 00:52:19.380 --> 00:52:20.380 a sort of a new model, 959 00:52:20.380 --> 00:52:25.060 sort of a new way of doing kingdom work. 960 00:52:25.060 --> 00:52:26.340 And we're very excited about it. 961 00:52:26.340 --> 00:52:31.340 So we want you all come, visit, take a gander. 962 00:52:32.020 --> 00:52:33.660 David Henshaw's thinking about moving to Austin. 963 00:52:33.660 --> 00:52:35.540 Maybe y'all think about moving to Austin. 964 00:52:35.540 --> 00:52:37.180 Austin's a great town, I love it. 965 00:52:38.540 --> 00:52:39.540 It's a great place. 966 00:52:40.500 --> 00:52:45.500 So that was sort of my just way of encouraging you, 967 00:52:45.500 --> 00:52:49.060 way of pitching our new thing 968 00:52:49.060 --> 00:52:53.340 and responding to Thomas's stuff. 969 00:52:56.620 --> 00:52:58.300 Who else got something? 970 00:52:58.300 --> 00:53:00.460 David, you had another question or another? 971 00:53:00.460 --> 00:53:02.060 Yeah, I just had a quick question. 972 00:53:02.060 --> 00:53:06.460 It was something I asked on the last year single app 973 00:53:06.460 --> 00:53:08.340 and didn't see a response to it. 974 00:53:10.540 --> 00:53:13.980 So if someone says that they have, 975 00:53:13.980 --> 00:53:16.220 their love language is words of affirmation 976 00:53:17.380 --> 00:53:20.780 and we are not very good, like for instance, myself, 977 00:53:20.780 --> 00:53:21.620 I'm not there. 978 00:53:21.620 --> 00:53:23.580 I don't think I'm very good at 979 00:53:26.220 --> 00:53:29.980 speaking to someone in a romantic relationship 980 00:53:31.420 --> 00:53:32.900 in an encouraging way. 981 00:53:32.900 --> 00:53:34.500 Should I avoid that person? 982 00:53:34.500 --> 00:53:37.340 Like how anxious attachment 983 00:53:37.900 --> 00:53:42.060 and avoidant attachment don't play well together 984 00:53:42.060 --> 00:53:47.060 or is it something that I should pursue 985 00:53:47.300 --> 00:53:51.220 in the sense of allowing my organic, 986 00:53:52.420 --> 00:53:54.220 awkward self to build? 987 00:53:55.260 --> 00:53:58.340 Yeah, I don't think it should be a deal breaker. 988 00:53:58.340 --> 00:54:00.380 I don't think it has to be a deal breaker 989 00:54:00.380 --> 00:54:02.060 like right off its face 990 00:54:02.060 --> 00:54:03.380 because there's so many other things 991 00:54:03.380 --> 00:54:08.060 that are part of the potential of the relationship. 992 00:54:09.420 --> 00:54:14.060 If you think, oh, this person looks interesting, 993 00:54:14.060 --> 00:54:16.060 I'd like to try to get to know them. 994 00:54:16.060 --> 00:54:17.540 Maybe you've heard of them, 995 00:54:17.540 --> 00:54:18.620 maybe you know something about them. 996 00:54:18.620 --> 00:54:21.540 You're like, oh, I wanna know more, 997 00:54:21.540 --> 00:54:25.180 but you're like, oh, but I don't know how to do 998 00:54:25.180 --> 00:54:26.300 words of affirmation. 999 00:54:26.300 --> 00:54:27.780 So therefore I should just not, 1000 00:54:27.780 --> 00:54:29.980 like that should not be a deal breaker from the beginning. 1001 00:54:29.980 --> 00:54:32.580 That should be an invitation for you to go, huh, 1002 00:54:32.580 --> 00:54:37.580 I wonder if I could learn to say a phrase. 1003 00:54:37.660 --> 00:54:40.460 Yeah, that's pretty much it, 1004 00:54:40.460 --> 00:54:45.460 which by the way for all of you wondering about the arc, 1005 00:54:46.500 --> 00:54:47.340 I jumped on it. 1006 00:54:47.340 --> 00:54:50.500 And one of the things I first loved about it 1007 00:54:50.500 --> 00:54:54.420 was every single person I've interacted with 1008 00:54:54.420 --> 00:54:57.420 is verified as an actual human being, 1009 00:54:57.420 --> 00:55:00.020 not about not someone trying to, 1010 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:07.600 you know, yeah, get one over on me type of thing. And so far, it's been organic conversations. 1011 00:55:09.280 --> 00:55:12.720 But it just like one of those things, every time I see words of affirmation, I'm like, 1012 00:55:12.720 --> 00:55:21.680 Oh, you not gonna be able to not sound like Ben Stiller from meet the parents. 1013 00:55:22.320 --> 00:55:25.440 Yeah, praying at the dinner table, like we pray day by day. 1014 00:55:26.080 --> 00:55:31.120 I would, I would encourage you, I don't know, we're trying to roll out our affiliation with 1015 00:55:31.120 --> 00:55:36.560 ARC. So like, give us a second, because there might be there might be a deal or an opportunity. 1016 00:55:37.120 --> 00:55:40.160 Oh, yeah. Jackie, it's a Monday. 1017 00:55:40.960 --> 00:55:44.480 Yeah, we're gonna try to roll something else just so so I mean, just kind of like, 1018 00:55:44.480 --> 00:55:50.000 put a pause on that. Because it might be advantageous for all of our members to be able to 1019 00:55:50.880 --> 00:55:56.080 step into this because, because, because the potential there. So anyway, this one out there. 1020 00:55:56.960 --> 00:56:02.480 Yeah, Jackie had said last Monday to just, if you jump on, just get the free membership, 1021 00:56:02.480 --> 00:56:07.440 don't do don't pay for anything, pay for anything until they are able to negotiate 1022 00:56:07.440 --> 00:56:14.080 whatever it is that we can get for our community. So do easy. Also, other cool news, I'll be doing 1023 00:56:14.080 --> 00:56:22.640 a cross country trip to DC for Memorial Day. So I'll probably try to figure out how to make a 1024 00:56:22.640 --> 00:56:29.840 straight line from DC to Austin back to Vegas. I know it's going to be more of like a pyramid 1025 00:56:30.800 --> 00:56:37.280 or triangle upside down. Herb line, what are you gonna do a forest dumps? 1026 00:56:39.120 --> 00:56:41.280 I just felt like running No, I'm gonna get in the car. 1027 00:56:41.840 --> 00:56:49.360 Okay. Yeah, no, I so I'm I'm driving out a week early. One of the kids that I used to mentor 1028 00:56:51.280 --> 00:56:57.520 the gold star family member when she was nine years old, and I was still in the army. 1029 00:57:00.560 --> 00:57:05.280 He's graduating high school and asked me to be there. And it's a week before the National 1030 00:57:05.280 --> 00:57:10.880 Military Survivor Seminar for taps, which I try to do every Memorial Day. I was like, okay, 1031 00:57:11.280 --> 00:57:18.480 sure. I'll, I'll stop in Davenport, check on the house hunting thing, see if I can 1032 00:57:19.360 --> 00:57:24.160 try to get closed on a house before July starts, because that's when school starts. 1033 00:57:26.320 --> 00:57:31.120 See some friends down in Illinois, drive over to North Carolina, see some friends there, 1034 00:57:31.120 --> 00:57:36.000 some other gold star family members I've known from the past, go to her high school graduation, 1035 00:57:36.000 --> 00:57:40.400 go back down to North Carolina for a few days with folks that I call family, 1036 00:57:41.120 --> 00:57:46.400 you know, chosen family, not blood family. And then the event in DC is, 1037 00:57:49.040 --> 00:57:52.560 well, it's like my birthday and Christmas rolled into one. 1038 00:57:53.760 --> 00:58:01.040 So it's just an awesome experience of being around kids without the expectation side of 1039 00:58:01.040 --> 00:58:05.520 teaching. So it's just, it's just to me, it's just like pure joy and me being a big kid. 1040 00:58:06.080 --> 00:58:12.000 Good stuff. Good stuff. And then on the way back, I have Austin, definitely make sure to 1041 00:58:12.880 --> 00:58:17.040 reach out to us. If we're in town, we are going to be out of town a lot, man, between 1042 00:58:17.840 --> 00:58:23.040 May, June and July. It's going to be crazy. But yeah, I'll reach out to you. Let us know. 1043 00:58:23.760 --> 00:58:31.520 All day. Anything else? Anybody else? All hearts clear, they used to say. 1044 00:58:35.520 --> 00:58:40.400 Oh, yeah, I just had a quick question about some of the Zoom get togethers. And so, you know, 1045 00:58:40.400 --> 00:58:43.680 there's events, hard check in, which is like the main thing. And then there's like, 1046 00:58:44.240 --> 00:58:46.960 a couple other things. There's like the all community events, 1047 00:58:47.920 --> 00:58:55.280 um, single spotlight, and then the Sunday Night Prayer, Supernatural, Saturday and Faith Friday. 1048 00:58:55.280 --> 00:59:01.760 And so the all community and single spotlight, what are the, are those things that people join 1049 00:59:01.760 --> 00:59:07.440 every week? Or is it just depend? I just wasn't really sure. There's a couple different versions 1050 00:59:07.440 --> 00:59:11.040 of all community. Sometimes it's a love story. Sometimes it's a love seats. It's kind of like 1051 00:59:11.040 --> 00:59:16.240 a hot seat sort of situation. We do the single spotlights. So it kind of rotates throughout the 1052 00:59:16.240 --> 00:59:22.560 month. So at least there's usually one of those, one of those types a month, um, in terms of like, 1053 00:59:23.280 --> 00:59:31.200 but, but the all communities are like, like, usually every week. Um, not every week, 1054 00:59:31.200 --> 00:59:36.160 but usually every week, there's usually something to go to. So, you know, there's about 1055 00:59:37.680 --> 00:59:42.800 four or five different lives to show up to every week. If it's works with your schedule, 1056 00:59:42.800 --> 00:59:48.720 and then most of it, we have a replay. Okay. Typically we don't do the prayer times in 1057 00:59:48.720 --> 00:59:52.720 recording those. Those are just kind of like, because we just do seven days a week prayer, 1058 00:59:52.720 --> 00:59:59.840 some version of prayer, seven days a week. Okay. And then the replays are on that. 1059 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.760 app, I guess, right? Yes, there's a replay section on the 1060 01:00:03.760 --> 01:00:07.000 tab at the top. Gotcha. Okay, great. 1061 01:00:08.680 --> 01:00:10.440 Stefan, do you have a comment? 1062 01:00:11.480 --> 01:00:17.280 Yeah, quick question, David. So I got online quite late, but I'm 1063 01:00:17.280 --> 01:00:23.760 glad I caught you guys. So I have been dating a lady from 1064 01:00:24.280 --> 01:00:30.200 this group for the past about three months. And it's long 1065 01:00:30.200 --> 01:00:34.400 distance. I've been to hers four times. She's been down where I 1066 01:00:34.400 --> 01:00:40.800 am also four times. And I've met some of her. So, so far, it's 1067 01:00:40.800 --> 01:00:47.040 going really well. I think, in both our minds. I have met some 1068 01:00:47.040 --> 01:00:51.680 of her friends, not a lot, probably three or four really 1069 01:00:51.680 --> 01:00:57.000 good friends. I've been to with her to her church. And she's 1070 01:00:57.000 --> 01:01:01.200 met a lot of mine, almost everyone that is local. Yeah, 1071 01:01:01.280 --> 01:01:06.320 we've asked international so, or experts. And so I was just 1072 01:01:06.320 --> 01:01:10.880 wondering, she made a comment about just saying she might 1073 01:01:10.880 --> 01:01:15.960 contact some of my friends, ask them one or two questions. And I 1074 01:01:15.960 --> 01:01:19.880 thought, Oh, well, I don't know if that actually hurts or not. 1075 01:01:19.880 --> 01:01:22.880 But you've you're welcome to do that. And then I thought, well, 1076 01:01:22.880 --> 01:01:26.320 what should I do the same because I feel quite comfortable 1077 01:01:26.320 --> 01:01:31.000 with her. And I was just I just want to check that with you and 1078 01:01:31.000 --> 01:01:36.560 the guys is how far due diligence is definitely a thing. 1079 01:01:36.560 --> 01:01:43.560 So also, I'm divorced. She's not. She's we both in our 40s. I 1080 01:01:43.560 --> 01:01:46.760 have a young, young son. 1081 01:01:47.680 --> 01:01:52.360 Yeah. No, it's, it's, it's really wonderful to be able to 1082 01:01:54.360 --> 01:01:58.240 get in relationship with somebody, and then meet people 1083 01:01:58.240 --> 01:02:02.680 that know them, because you are getting to know them. And they 1084 01:02:02.680 --> 01:02:06.000 know them. And they say wonderful things about the 1085 01:02:06.000 --> 01:02:10.440 person or good things, if they're good people, not trying 1086 01:02:10.440 --> 01:02:14.480 to hide bad things. But the, you know, the good people, good 1087 01:02:14.480 --> 01:02:18.360 friends say nice things about you. And that gives the person 1088 01:02:18.360 --> 01:02:21.480 that you're trying to be in relationship with, it gives 1089 01:02:21.480 --> 01:02:26.240 them a sense of like, wow, not only do I think this person is 1090 01:02:26.240 --> 01:02:28.760 great, but other people think this person is great, like, 1091 01:02:29.440 --> 01:02:31.680 almost to the point where it's kind of like, I can't find 1092 01:02:31.680 --> 01:02:34.600 anybody that could say anything negative about this person. Now 1093 01:02:34.600 --> 01:02:39.600 that's not not always the case, right? Because not everybody has 1094 01:02:39.600 --> 01:02:45.080 that reputation, so to speak. But it can be a reassuring thing 1095 01:02:45.680 --> 01:02:50.960 for someone to know the people. And I think that's kind of 1096 01:02:50.960 --> 01:02:54.880 common, especially for women. They're like, women typically 1097 01:02:54.880 --> 01:02:57.600 like one of the first things that Jackie did with me when she 1098 01:02:57.600 --> 01:03:01.040 was kind of like, hanging around, like we were hanging 1099 01:03:01.040 --> 01:03:07.200 out, is she started, you know, introducing me to her people. 1100 01:03:08.040 --> 01:03:13.480 Because the context in which we met, I was sort of entrenched in 1101 01:03:13.480 --> 01:03:21.040 a organization, it was easy for her to know my people because of 1102 01:03:21.080 --> 01:03:24.000 just by association, it was where we were going to church 1103 01:03:24.000 --> 01:03:26.960 and different things. But I didn't know any of her people. 1104 01:03:26.960 --> 01:03:31.800 And so she started introducing me to her people, not 1105 01:03:31.800 --> 01:03:37.040 necessarily for me to meet them, but for them to vet me. 1106 01:03:37.920 --> 01:03:41.960 Okay, from her perspective, and there's nothing wrong with that 1107 01:03:41.960 --> 01:03:46.080 from just a just a very casual, like, hey, this is my really 1108 01:03:46.080 --> 01:03:50.320 good friend. These are my people that I've known since, you know, 1109 01:03:50.360 --> 01:03:54.480 certainly well before you and I enjoy them and I like them. 1110 01:03:54.840 --> 01:03:59.000 Doesn't mean that those friendships have to continue on 1111 01:03:59.000 --> 01:04:03.040 because a lot of those relationships that my wife had 1112 01:04:03.040 --> 01:04:06.560 then, they're not as the way they are now because just things 1113 01:04:06.560 --> 01:04:09.440 change, life changes, our life has changed, blah, blah, blah, 1114 01:04:09.440 --> 01:04:12.320 all that kind of stuff. What I'm saying is, is that it can be a 1115 01:04:12.320 --> 01:04:15.560 source of assurance for people that are getting to know each 1116 01:04:15.560 --> 01:04:19.200 other, for them to be introduced to those other people's people, 1117 01:04:20.720 --> 01:04:24.320 family, friends, that kind of thing. Family is one thing 1118 01:04:24.320 --> 01:04:26.120 because it's kind of like, this is my family, I can't do anything 1119 01:04:26.120 --> 01:04:28.680 about my family, this is my family, right? You know, like, 1120 01:04:29.240 --> 01:04:33.240 friends have a way of sort of like, hey, this is my friends, 1121 01:04:33.240 --> 01:04:36.360 because they want to be my friend. Like, you know, they 1122 01:04:36.360 --> 01:04:39.440 don't, I'm saying it's different than family, like family, they're 1123 01:04:39.440 --> 01:04:43.240 my family, you know, but friends, it helps to be able to 1124 01:04:43.240 --> 01:04:45.960 be like, oh, this is my friend. And I this is what I enjoy about 1125 01:04:45.960 --> 01:04:49.680 Stefan, this is what I enjoy about so and so. So it can be 1126 01:04:49.680 --> 01:04:55.040 very, very good thing. Obviously, there are some people 1127 01:04:55.480 --> 01:04:59.000 that have difficulties with their past or whatever. And so 1128 01:04:59.040 --> 01:04:59.800 somebody goes, 1129 01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:01.640 snooping around or trying to find people, 1130 01:05:01.640 --> 01:05:03.560 dig dirt up on people. 1131 01:05:03.560 --> 01:05:04.800 That's probably not a healthy way 1132 01:05:04.800 --> 01:05:06.120 to try to get to know somebody, 1133 01:05:06.120 --> 01:05:07.720 to try to dig dirt up on somebody 1134 01:05:07.720 --> 01:05:10.000 because you're suspicious of them. 1135 01:05:10.000 --> 01:05:12.640 That's probably not going to end well. 1136 01:05:12.640 --> 01:05:16.120 Regardless of whether they have something to hide or not, 1137 01:05:16.120 --> 01:05:18.320 the person starting out with suspicion, 1138 01:05:18.320 --> 01:05:19.160 you're going to have to, 1139 01:05:19.160 --> 01:05:20.240 there's going to be some reset. 1140 01:05:20.240 --> 01:05:22.960 It doesn't sound like that's what's going on here though. 1141 01:05:22.960 --> 01:05:24.960 No, no, I don't think it is. 1142 01:05:24.960 --> 01:05:26.120 Yeah. 1143 01:05:26.640 --> 01:05:30.280 She's been in one or two toxic relationships. 1144 01:05:30.280 --> 01:05:33.280 So I think she's just a bit cautious. 1145 01:05:33.280 --> 01:05:34.120 Yeah. 1146 01:05:34.120 --> 01:05:34.960 Yeah. 1147 01:05:34.960 --> 01:05:35.920 But it's very reassuring. 1148 01:05:35.920 --> 01:05:38.680 If you meet somebody that's hurt people 1149 01:05:38.680 --> 01:05:40.880 and they're like, yeah, I love, 1150 01:05:40.880 --> 01:05:43.640 I don't know what her name is, but I love, yeah, 1151 01:05:43.640 --> 01:05:44.480 we're great friends. 1152 01:05:44.480 --> 01:05:45.480 We've been friends for 20 years. 1153 01:05:45.480 --> 01:05:47.160 Oh wow, that's really great. 1154 01:05:47.160 --> 01:05:48.000 Yeah. 1155 01:05:48.000 --> 01:05:48.840 That says something. 1156 01:05:48.840 --> 01:05:50.200 I mean, you don't even have to know anything about them, 1157 01:05:50.200 --> 01:05:51.120 but it says something that, 1158 01:05:51.120 --> 01:05:53.880 hey, you've had a friend for some time. 1159 01:05:53.880 --> 01:05:57.560 It says something about their ability to maintain healthy, 1160 01:05:58.440 --> 01:06:00.000 you know, good relationships. 1161 01:06:00.000 --> 01:06:00.840 Yeah. 1162 01:06:00.840 --> 01:06:01.680 Yeah. 1163 01:06:01.680 --> 01:06:02.520 No, I agree. 1164 01:06:02.520 --> 01:06:05.200 And we both met our friends, 1165 01:06:05.200 --> 01:06:09.720 some are 20 plus year relationships and I'm 15, 20. 1166 01:06:09.720 --> 01:06:14.720 So I don't find it too difficult to, 1167 01:06:14.720 --> 01:06:17.680 to agree that she is a good person 1168 01:06:17.680 --> 01:06:20.480 apart from what you see anyway. 1169 01:06:20.480 --> 01:06:21.320 Yeah. 1170 01:06:21.320 --> 01:06:23.480 And we've met each other's experiences on Zoom too. 1171 01:06:24.120 --> 01:06:25.480 Well, she was here when I visited 1172 01:06:25.480 --> 01:06:28.720 and I met hers on Zoom, which is pretty cool. 1173 01:06:28.720 --> 01:06:31.520 And they seem like a nice family. 1174 01:06:31.520 --> 01:06:32.360 Yeah. 1175 01:06:32.360 --> 01:06:33.680 Well, congratulations, you know, 1176 01:06:33.680 --> 01:06:38.680 on your getting into month three, four, whatever it is. 1177 01:06:39.680 --> 01:06:41.600 And that's really awesome. 1178 01:06:42.520 --> 01:06:43.360 Yeah. 1179 01:06:43.360 --> 01:06:44.200 Thank you. 1180 01:06:44.200 --> 01:06:45.360 It's very exciting, I must say. 1181 01:06:45.360 --> 01:06:47.640 Keep us up to date for sure. 1182 01:06:48.640 --> 01:06:49.480 I'll do that, David. 1183 01:06:49.480 --> 01:06:50.480 Thanks. 1184 01:06:50.480 --> 01:06:52.040 You're welcome. 1185 01:06:52.040 --> 01:06:53.160 All right, guys, God bless. 1186 01:06:53.840 --> 01:06:56.440 Have a great, great night, the rest of your week. 1187 01:06:56.440 --> 01:06:58.720 And we'll see you on the flip side. 1188 01:06:58.720 --> 01:07:02.640 Remember, tomorrow, sign up for a single spotlight, 1189 01:07:02.640 --> 01:07:05.080 email in admin at JackieDoran.com. 1190 01:07:05.080 --> 01:07:05.920 Real quick, David. 1191 01:07:05.920 --> 01:07:06.880 Spotlight in tomorrow. 1192 01:07:06.880 --> 01:07:10.160 And then no heart, men's heart chicken next week. 1193 01:07:11.000 --> 01:07:11.840 Cool, real quick. 1194 01:07:11.840 --> 01:07:13.160 What's the address of the wheelhouse? 1195 01:07:13.160 --> 01:07:15.400 Cause I just typed it in and it showed a bar. 1196 01:07:16.600 --> 01:07:17.440 No, no, no. 1197 01:07:18.320 --> 01:07:19.560 I mean, it's nothing really to see there. 1198 01:07:19.560 --> 01:07:20.400 It's 20, 1199 01:07:23.280 --> 01:07:27.040 I'm just picking a point to like drive toward in Austin. 1200 01:07:27.040 --> 01:07:30.280 6910 Shirley Avenue. 1201 01:07:30.280 --> 01:07:32.120 Shirley, like the woman's name. 1202 01:07:34.880 --> 01:07:35.720 Cool beans. 1203 01:07:35.720 --> 01:07:36.560 Like airplane. 1204 01:07:36.560 --> 01:07:38.480 There's not much to look at yet. 1205 01:07:38.480 --> 01:07:39.320 Yep. 1206 01:07:39.320 --> 01:07:40.160 No worries. 1207 01:07:40.160 --> 01:07:41.240 See you guys later. 1208 01:07:41.240 --> 01:07:42.080 All right, see you, man. 1209 01:07:42.080 --> 01:07:42.920 Have a good night. 1210 01:07:42.920 --> 01:07:43.760 God bless.