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Welcome to Supernatural Saturday.

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If you're new here, if this is your first Supernatural Saturday with us, please raise

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your hand.

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We'd love to see who is new.

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Maybe you just joined during this last challenge and this is it.

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This is your first time with us.

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LaKeisha, welcome.

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So glad you're here.

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All right.

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So what do we do on Supernatural Saturday?

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This is the day of the week where our community gathers together to look to the Lord and for

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current prophetic reality.

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What is the current prophetic reality?

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Not the old prophetic reality, not yesterday's manna, not the promises that we are all stewarding

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in our personal lives, but what does God have for us corporately?

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What is he saying to us?

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What instruction, what guidance does he want to give us?

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That is what we do on Saturdays and it's always something different.

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Sometimes it's something very practical.

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Sometimes it's something, you know, supernatural and practical.

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I feel like the practical can become supernatural when we invite God into it.

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Sometimes a little bit of course correction that God is doing for us and then sometimes

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it's just encouragement.

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It's just hope that's being released prophetically and so it's always a good time.

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I know I get a lot out of it.

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I know God always speaks to me, but he also speaks through me and so I love that about

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Supernatural Saturday.

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So I want to tell you something that I'm noticing in our community.

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It might not be happening anywhere else, but something that's happening in our community

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in the last year single community, extended community, is I'm seeing people that have

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been around for a while get breakthrough.

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Yeah, I'm seeing them get breakthrough.

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I've actually seen two ladies that have been around for a while actually step into marriage

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minded courtships and engagements and they've been around for a while.

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One of them is a private client.

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One of them has been a coach and a teacher in this movement even.

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And so I just want to let you guys know that I believe that they are harbingers of what's

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to come in a good way.

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I do.

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I believe that we've been pushing up against this thing for a while and it's moving.

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It's moving and both of them are old enough to know better.

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They're both in their mid to late sixties and I'm sorry, mid to late fifties.

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And I just want you to know that regardless of what's been going on in your life, just

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stay consistent.

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And that's what we're talking about today.

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We're going to talk about some practical stuff that once again, I believe if you apply the

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Supernatural to it, it can be life transforming because it's time for us to take our love

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stories, but actually just our own lives seriously.

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We got to take these things seriously.

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I think that we think that's just an added bonus.

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It's the cherry on top.

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If it happens, great, wonderful.

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The problem is, is that we don't take our individual lives seriously.

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So it's hard to take a love story seriously.

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It's hard to take a partnership seriously when we're not taking ourselves seriously.

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I know for a fact that two of these little popcorn kernels that have been in the oil

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for a while now that just popped, that's what we used to say at the beginning of this movement,

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like who's going to pop first?

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Who's going to meet someone first?

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Back then it was just women, who, who, who, who is actually now that Holy Spirit's reminded

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me, I actually have had several long time men, men, clients actually step into relationships

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to men that were super picky, men that were very avoidant, men that were not emotionally

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available, men that had to do heartwork, not just a month of heartwork, not just six months

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of heartwork.

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In fact, in one case, this guy has been with me since the very beginning.

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He's been with me since October, 2020.

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And I just had a one-on-one two days ago with him and the woman that he wants to marry.

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Come on.

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When I tell you that this guy didn't make it past two or three dates, I ain't lying,

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friend.

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And it's because he always would find some reason why they were not the one or God wasn't

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saying yes.

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It wasn't compatible.

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Really, it was all just fear.

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I'm not saying that this is not the best choice.

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She seems wonderful.

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She seems lovely.

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They seem very compatible.

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The most important thing is that they're both at a place in their life where they're willing

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to work through the yellow flags.

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They're willing to work through the stuff.

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When I first met this guy, when he first came into my program, he wasn't willing to work

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through any stuff.

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He just wanted a move-in ready house.

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He didn't want to have to put any work in.

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Can I tell you that if you don't have good habits, if you don't clean, if you don't steward,

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even moving into a move-in ready house, that place is going to be a wreck pretty soon.

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Isn't it?

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That place could look like an episode.

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set of hoarders before you turn around.

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Why is that?

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Because it's not just about the thing being perfect,

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the love story being perfect,

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it's about you being prepared for it.

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It's about you being able to steward it.

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And so I wanna talk to you about that

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because in all these cases,

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there were hardships that were necessary.

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There was transformation that was necessary.

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There was a moving around of priorities that was necessary.

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And so I want you to ask yourself the question,

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do you take yourself seriously?

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Do you believe that your life matters?

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Do you believe that your life matters

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or you're just here kind of coasting through it,

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just trying to get through it, trying to survive it?

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I mean, heaven will be better.

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It is true.

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It will definitely be better.

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It'll be a better version of this,

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but we can have a slice of heaven on earth.

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I believe that.

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I do believe that we are here to actually bring heaven

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to earth in situations.

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So let's talk a little bit about pruning

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in this spring conversation.

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You know what pruning really is?

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Pruning is you making a decision about what's important.

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That's all it is.

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It's about you and me,

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because I'm in a pruning season now right now too.

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And it's great because it's springtime, right?

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And summer abundance is ahead of us.

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But we have to make a decision about what's important.

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I do believe that you can have it all.

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As a child of God, I believe that God is a good father.

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I believe he's the giver of good and perfect gifts.

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I do.

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But I also believe that you cannot have it all

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at the same time.

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You're gonna have to prioritize, all of you.

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So as we're getting ready to go into summer,

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summer starts in June.

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We're about two months out,

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little less than two months out.

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New beginnings require endings.

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Some things in your life are going to have to die

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so that other things can live.

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You know what one of those things is not?

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Mentorship, accountability.

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So I don't want you to be like,

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oh, well, I'll just prune off last year's single.

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No.

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Mentorship, accountability,

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people to hold you accountable to your pruning,

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people for you to share what you're doing,

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to get feedback.

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That's always going to be necessary in our lives.

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But this morning I got up and I put on my weighted vest

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and I did my walk.

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I did my steps.

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Guys, I can think of, dude,

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if you gave me like a minute,

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I could think of at least 30 other things

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that I would have rather done besides that.

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Maybe more.

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Maybe more.

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I didn't want to do that.

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And I think this is important for you to understand that

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just because you're prioritizing something

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doesn't mean you like it.

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And it also doesn't mean that you want necessarily to do it.

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But I had a grace to do it.

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I have a grace in this season

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to try to get my body in order.

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I just turned 50 and I can see the writing on the wall

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that if I don't get some things in order

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and I just let year after year, after year,

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after year, after year, after year, after year go by

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saying I'm going to do it later,

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I'm going to do it in this season or that season

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or after the first of the year, this or that,

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it's never going to get done.

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And then at some point in time,

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I may cross over a line where I'm not able to get

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as much breakthrough in that area as I would have been

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if I had started now.

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I do believe in grace.

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I do believe in supernatural help from heaven, okay?

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So I don't want any of you to hear like,

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oh, it's too late.

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No, start now.

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A year from now, you will wish you had.

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You will.

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And listen, this is a message for everyone

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because it's not a Jackie thing.

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You have to prioritize muscle.

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I do not want this to turn into

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some kind of health coaching call

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because I am not a health coach, okay?

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Please do not follow me in this area.

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Please do not be looking for advice.

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I am just thrown against the wall and seeing what sticks.

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I am listening to voices that this is their thing.

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This is their anointing.

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This is their place in the world.

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This is their lane.

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But there's a lot of different voices out there

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saying a lot of different things.

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And I have come to believe,

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it's not about what God can do,

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it's about what you believe he can do

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and what you put your agreement with.

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And I believe that the organ of longevity is muscle.

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If you want to live a long life,

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you have to prioritize doing muscle building

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and bone building activity.

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All right, so if you guys, if you do follow me on Instagram, starting not next week but

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the week after, I will post some of my favorite things, tools I've been using.

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They're all inexpensive.

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You can find them on Amazon, okay?

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I like to do bougie on a budget, okay?

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That's who I am.

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I like it to be quality.

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I'm not going to buy some crap, especially with the tariffs, I'm not going to buy some

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crap from China that's going to fall apart in two seconds, okay?

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I want the best of the best, but on a beer budget, champagne and caviar on a beer budget,

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friends, okay?

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All right, so we have to prioritize these bodies.

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So many of you are hoping for spectacular relationships with your spirit mates and you

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should.

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You're expecting to travel, you're expecting to have sex, you're expecting all this stuff.

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Well, you know what?

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You got to get some stuff in order if you're expecting to do that.

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I travel quite a bit for this ministry and it's exhausting, right?

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Even the good kinds of travel, exhausting, hard on your body.

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You got to get yourself together.

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You got to get that immune system strong.

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You got to get that frame strong.

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You got to get that muscle strong.

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Do you know if you lose muscle in your glutes, that's one of the biggest muscle systems in

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your body, your glutes and your thighs, right?

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If you lose muscle in your glutes, it actually becomes really painful to sit as you get older.

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Your tailbone doesn't have anything protecting it.

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Your coccyx doesn't have anything protecting it.

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And that actually started happening to me, started happening to me because it doesn't

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matter if you have a booty there, you got some fat there.

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But if you don't have the muscle, the muscle is what's holding your body up.

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It's what's helping you.

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The core muscle, of course, is especially, also especially important.

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I don't want this to turn into a health call, but it looks like Holy Spirit's kind of leading

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us this way.

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A little bit of layman's knowledge.

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I'm a layman for sure.

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I'm not a master, but I'm just telling you, this is what I've prioritized.

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You know why I know so much about it, even though I'm not a master, is because I prioritized

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it.

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You know what's going to happen if you prioritize something?

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You're going to know some stuff about it.

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Why?

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Because it's important.

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You guys, in order to do what I'm doing right now in my life and prioritizing in my life,

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specifically my health, some other things had to end.

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New beginnings require endings.

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Did you know that?

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A lot of times we try to have new stuff and keep the old stuff too, and then we just have

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a cluttered schedule.

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We're overexhausted.

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We're overextended, and it doesn't work out, and guess what's the first thing to get pruned

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off then?

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The new thing, not the old thing.

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Why?

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Because we love familiarity.

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We are creatures of habit.

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So some things have to die, you guys.

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They have to die.

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Some things have to be put on pause, and some things have to be canceled, straight up canceled.

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You might need to cancel your Netflix account.

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It always cracks me up when people come to ... It doesn't crack me up, it actually makes

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me sad, but it also is kind of sardonically funny when people show up in our emails at

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Admin and say, oh, I just don't have time for this.

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I'm just not using it.

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I don't have time for it.

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Really, what are you doing?

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Because I guarantee that you're watching Netflix.

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I guarantee that you're sitting down at the end of the day, instead of looking at something

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that is going to accelerate your life, you are looking at something that's just going

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to medicate your broken heart.

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That's all.

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It's going to entertain you for a very short amount of time.

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It's going to entertain you for a very short amount of time, and oftentimes after we're

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done watching it, we're like, ugh, we feel icky, we feel slimed.

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There was a bunch of things that happened in that movie or in that show that are not

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Kingdom, and then we just feel crappy about watching it because it didn't leave us full

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of hope.

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It left us full of leh.

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Am I wrong?

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I've lived it.

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I know.

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I've watched very, very little television, but I will tell you this, you could be scrolling.

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You could be scrolling, just mindlessly scrolling, watching other people live their lives on

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social media, looking at other people's highlight reels, looking at other people's vacations,

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looking at other people's relationships, reading the news.

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God forbid, there's so much news when you scroll and all of it's bad news.

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Be honest.

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If you've ever just seen someone that you barely know on Facebook for whatever reason,

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you're friends with them, and you see them post about some tragedy that happened to someone

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they know, and then you go down the rabbit hole trying to research this person and find

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out what happened to them.

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Even though they're not your friends.

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You don't even know them.

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You barely know the person that posted about them.

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Raise your hand if you've ever just tried

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to like find out the bad news.

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Like what in the world?

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What happened?

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I wanna know.

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And then you spend the next 15, 20 minutes

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trying to find out what happened.

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Just trying to read about something

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that's gonna definitely depress you.

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Why?

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Why do we do this?

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Why is this human nature?

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Because it is.

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You know?

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It is.

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The old folks used to say that an idle ground,

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an idle ground is the devil's playground.

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An idle mind is the devil's playground.

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Remember?

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The older folks saying that back in the day?

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An idle mind?

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Oh, we should be engaged.

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What should we be engaged with?

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We should be engaged with our plans.

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We should be engaged with God's purposes over our lives.

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We should be focused on what Philippians says

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to focus on, the things that are good and perfect

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and true and of good report.

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That's what we should be focused on.

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We should be going after those things.

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We should be going to bed every night

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at a decent hour to get enough sleep

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in order for us to have enough readiness for the next day

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with nothing on our mind except excitement

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about how we are gonna continue to implement

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the plan that we've come into agreement with with God

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that we are working through in the season of our life

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to our goal.

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We shouldn't be going to bed, rolling in bed late,

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fat and bloated from a bunch of crap that we ate

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that our body doesn't like.

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But we are binging at nighttime

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because we're bored with nothing else to do,

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scrolling on social media, watching the news

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or watching the television or whatever.

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Dragging our tired bodies, weak muscles into bed

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dreading the fact that now we only have six hours to sleep

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before we have to roll out of bed and do it all again.

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No friends, Jesus did not die on a cross

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for you to live that life.

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Every single one of you without exception

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should have a reason to roll out of bed in the morning,

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super excited about your life

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because you're working towards something.

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Guys, I've had very little in my life.

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I've had very, very little in my life for long seasons,

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decades of my life, I'm only 50 years old.

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I've only been living in the fruition of my prayers

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for less than five years.

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All the rest of my life, I had to use what I had.

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I had to use what I had, but God's given me a gift.

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He's given me the gift of being a visionary.

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He's given me the gift of looking at the future

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with hope and excitement.

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He's given me the gift of hope.

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I have a supernatural gift of hope.

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He's given me the gift to be able to make a plan

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and start to work it, not perfectly.

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Look, I'm not a hustle and grind kind of girl,

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but not perfectly, but working it

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and being excited about what I could accomplish.

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He's given me a gift of believing

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that if I partner with heaven, if I pray,

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but then I also take action

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that I can have what I have asked for.

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And I release that over you

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because people that aren't preparing,

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people that are not taking action,

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it's usually down to a lack of hope.

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It's usually comes down to a lack of belief

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that anything can change.

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So I want you to ask yourself,

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are you someone who avoids endings?

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Are you someone who's hanging on to old

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and useless things in your life?

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You guys, this is not just stuff.

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All of us have stuff in our closets

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that we could get rid of.

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And that may be where you have to start.

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Guys, something happens energetically.

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And I know the new agers use that word

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and then we have to shy away from it,

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but you guys, we can't shy away from it

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because it is what it is.

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Just because they have a kingdom without a king,

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listen to me, just because they have the kingdom,

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but they don't want the king,

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doesn't mean they don't have any of the kingdom.

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A lot of their ideas are very kingdom ideas.

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They're not religious ideas, they're not churchy ideas,

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but they are very spiritual ideas.

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They're very kingdom mindsets.

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They just don't want the king with them.

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They don't want the king with the kingdom.

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And that's why it can only work to a certain point.

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Don't mistake what I'm saying, it does work.

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It does work.

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The laws that God put into order

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when he put the universe in order,

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the laws that govern the universe, they do work.

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They do.

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The problem is, is that Jesus is the way,

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the truth, and the life.

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Jesus is the king of that kingdom.

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And so it doesn't matter how.

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you feel on earth, if you don't have the king,

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then you don't have eternity,

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you don't have eternal actualization.

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And a lot of times what happens

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because they don't want the king is they end up,

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you know, they end up making other things,

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other things their masters, right?

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In that paradigm that they are living in.

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So energetically, it does make a difference.

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If you need to start at just doing

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some spring cleaning in your house, yes, do it.

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Do some spring cleaning.

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Get rid of those dust bunnies in the corner.

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Do stuff that you don't usually do.

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Wash the windows.

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Yeah, you're gonna feel so good,

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you're gonna feel so accomplished.

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And you know what?

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It's going to feel hopeful.

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That change is on the horizon,

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that the winds of change are blowing.

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Go in that closet, get rid of those clothes.

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Get rid of those clothes that you haven't worn in years

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because they don't fit.

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And actually get rid of some of the clothes

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that you have worn for years.

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They do fit.

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Some of you, you're just the same size

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that you were in high school,

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and you're always bragging about,

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look at this dress.

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Look at this dress.

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I wore this dress in high school.

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Well, maybe it's time for someone else to wear that dress.

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All right, unless it's vintage, friends,

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unless it's vintage,

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maybe it's time for you to let go of that.

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If you have the same hairdo that you had in high school,

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it might be time for a change.

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You might need to prune your hairdo.

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Guys, we helped several people early in this movement

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have makeovers, like we did makeovers on them.

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We had a women's retreat here in Austin.

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By the way, we're gonna have one again.

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I promise you, we're just trying to look for dates.

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Austin's kind of a weird bird.

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We have a lot of big festivals that happen here,

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and I don't ever want to plan a retreat

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around you guys coming,

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and there being really expensive flights

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and really expensive hotels and all the things

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because of these festivals.

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And the problem with the festivals

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is that they happen in the spring and the fall

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because the summer is hell's front porch here.

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We're not having anything in the summer here.

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Okay, it's so hot,

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and the people that organize these festivals know that,

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and that's why they took up the spring and the fall.

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So we're trying to figure out

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possibly November of this year.

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You can kind of put an earmark on that

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way before the holiday

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is when we're thinking about trying to make that happen.

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You guys, we need new.

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So we help those ladies have makeovers.

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You guys, they look like totally different people.

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They've been wearing the same ugly glasses forever.

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I mean, ugly, guys.

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I just can't mince words here

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because glasses were just straight up ugly.

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They made them look harsh.

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They were not the right shape for their face.

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One of them, the girl was in her 20s.

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I actually match made her.

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She's married now.

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She had transition lenses as a 26 year old.

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Running around looking like a little old lady

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with her little transition lenses glasses, you know?

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You'd be talking to her inside

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and her lenses wouldn't have transitioned yet.

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So they weren't sunglasses,

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but they weren't glasses either.

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They just made her look dark and brooding and older,

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way older than she was.

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Guys, you would be amazed at how much little tweaks,

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I wanna use that word with you guys today, tweaks.

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You don't need a major overhaul, you need tweaks.

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Little tweaks, you'd be amazing

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how little tweaks can change your mindset,

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can change your outlook.

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Some of you are all or nothing kind of people

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and you're gonna go into your house

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and you're gonna like,

513
00:23:45.800 --> 00:23:47.960
you're gonna tear that sucker down to the studs

514
00:23:47.960 --> 00:23:49.320
after this conversation.

515
00:23:49.320 --> 00:23:53.280
And okay, if that's what you feel like you need to do,

516
00:23:53.280 --> 00:23:55.400
all or nothing people,

517
00:23:55.400 --> 00:23:57.520
I may or may not be one of those people.

518
00:23:58.720 --> 00:24:00.280
Moderation, what's that?

519
00:24:00.280 --> 00:24:01.120
I don't know.

520
00:24:02.600 --> 00:24:03.440
I've learned.

521
00:24:03.440 --> 00:24:06.000
I've learned to be a lot more moderate with myself.

522
00:24:06.960 --> 00:24:08.200
Because what often happens

523
00:24:08.200 --> 00:24:10.000
is you get into a project like that

524
00:24:10.000 --> 00:24:12.840
and you don't finish it if you have ADHD like me

525
00:24:12.960 --> 00:24:16.160
and you end up sitting on the floor in your closet

526
00:24:16.160 --> 00:24:20.440
with like your homecoming sash on and your wedding dress

527
00:24:20.440 --> 00:24:23.520
and crying over some old pictures and nothing's done,

528
00:24:23.520 --> 00:24:25.360
everything's a wreck.

529
00:24:25.360 --> 00:24:28.320
Things might've been semi-organized before you got in there

530
00:24:28.320 --> 00:24:30.280
but now you've torn everything apart

531
00:24:30.280 --> 00:24:32.640
and you're gonna leave it like that if you're me.

532
00:24:32.640 --> 00:24:37.440
Because now you have gone down the rabbit hole of nostalgia

533
00:24:37.440 --> 00:24:39.760
with the things that you found there

534
00:24:39.760 --> 00:24:41.840
and then it's just a hot mess.

535
00:24:41.840 --> 00:24:43.600
And then that closet's gonna stay like that

536
00:24:43.600 --> 00:24:46.240
for the next six and a half months.

537
00:24:46.240 --> 00:24:50.000
I'm just calling myself out, all right?

538
00:24:51.920 --> 00:24:53.160
Just calling myself out.

539
00:24:53.160 --> 00:24:56.320
So you guys, bite-sized pieces that you can actually finish

540
00:24:56.320 --> 00:24:58.760
if you're gonna prune like that practically.

541
00:24:58.760 --> 00:25:00.480
If you're gonna go in your closet.

542
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:04.000
Just go ahead, you know, for most of us, spring is here as far as weather.

543
00:25:04.000 --> 00:25:09.000
Go ahead and take, go through all your winter clothes that you're not likely to wear anymore

544
00:25:09.000 --> 00:25:11.760
this season and prune them.

545
00:25:11.760 --> 00:25:16.280
What do you not want to wear next year, next cold weather season?

546
00:25:16.280 --> 00:25:17.920
What do you, what do you not see yourself wearing?

547
00:25:17.920 --> 00:25:18.920
What doesn't fit?

548
00:25:18.920 --> 00:25:19.920
What has stains on it?

549
00:25:19.920 --> 00:25:21.080
What isn't good?

550
00:25:21.080 --> 00:25:23.200
Let's go ahead and Marie Kondo that crap.

551
00:25:23.200 --> 00:25:24.200
Okay.

552
00:25:24.200 --> 00:25:25.840
Thank it and let it go.

553
00:25:25.840 --> 00:25:29.160
Some of it's going to go to the dumpster and some of it's going to go to the local Goodwill.

554
00:25:29.160 --> 00:25:34.120
You guys try to find charities that actually give things away to the unfortunate instead

555
00:25:34.120 --> 00:25:36.800
of selling it to them.

556
00:25:36.800 --> 00:25:37.800
Frickin hate that.

557
00:25:37.800 --> 00:25:40.720
It's like I'm giving this to you and then you're going to sell it and you're like, oh,

558
00:25:40.720 --> 00:25:42.240
well they use the money for good things.

559
00:25:42.240 --> 00:25:43.240
Do they?

560
00:25:43.240 --> 00:25:44.240
Do they?

561
00:25:44.240 --> 00:25:45.240
I don't think they do.

562
00:25:45.240 --> 00:25:46.240
Okay.

563
00:25:46.240 --> 00:25:48.480
And so I think they use it to get rich.

564
00:25:48.480 --> 00:25:49.480
That's what I think they do.

565
00:25:49.480 --> 00:25:55.320
And so let's give it to charity that gives it to people in the spirit of charity.

566
00:25:55.320 --> 00:25:57.280
I mean, that's just, that's my soapbox.

567
00:25:57.280 --> 00:25:59.240
You can do what you want, but that's what I would do.

568
00:25:59.240 --> 00:26:05.800
So go through your season and print it and then take what you're not going to wear and

569
00:26:05.800 --> 00:26:07.600
put it to the back of the closet.

570
00:26:07.600 --> 00:26:10.640
If you have another closet in your house that you can put it in, great.

571
00:26:10.640 --> 00:26:15.640
If not, put it to the back of your closet or put it in a bin.

572
00:26:15.640 --> 00:26:16.640
Store it.

573
00:26:16.640 --> 00:26:18.320
You're like, I'm going to wear this next season.

574
00:26:18.320 --> 00:26:19.320
This stuff is good.

575
00:26:19.320 --> 00:26:20.320
It's stylish.

576
00:26:20.320 --> 00:26:22.760
It's going to be in style when winter rolls back around.

577
00:26:22.760 --> 00:26:23.760
I just bought it.

578
00:26:23.760 --> 00:26:24.760
It's nice.

579
00:26:24.760 --> 00:26:25.760
It's this, it's that.

580
00:26:25.760 --> 00:26:26.760
I really like it.

581
00:26:27.320 --> 00:26:30.600
Don't keep anything that you don't really love.

582
00:26:30.600 --> 00:26:33.520
Don't keep anything that doesn't bring you joy.

583
00:26:33.520 --> 00:26:35.720
I think that is the Marie Kondo thing, right?

584
00:26:35.720 --> 00:26:37.920
If it doesn't bring you joy, release it, let it go.

585
00:26:37.920 --> 00:26:41.360
Remember when that craze was happening?

586
00:26:41.360 --> 00:26:42.780
I know because I use the marketing.

587
00:26:42.780 --> 00:26:48.120
Back then I was just launching heartwork, not LYS, but heartwork.

588
00:26:48.120 --> 00:26:52.000
And I was like, let's go through the boxes in your heart and anything that doesn't bring

589
00:26:52.000 --> 00:26:54.560
you joy, let's let it go.

590
00:26:54.560 --> 00:26:59.320
Let's thank it and let it go because I remember that being one of the videos that I made back

591
00:26:59.320 --> 00:27:00.320
in the day.

592
00:27:00.320 --> 00:27:02.720
So guys, we're getting ready for abundance.

593
00:27:02.720 --> 00:27:06.000
That's what we're doing, but we have to have endings.

594
00:27:06.000 --> 00:27:09.280
And so if you have to start practically with just things that are right in front of you

595
00:27:09.280 --> 00:27:11.440
to kind of get in the spirit of this, then that's great.

596
00:27:11.440 --> 00:27:12.720
Do that.

597
00:27:12.720 --> 00:27:16.680
We don't want to be hoarders, not in our houses and not in our hearts.

598
00:27:16.680 --> 00:27:21.660
We don't want to hang on to old, useless things, things that have outlived their purposes.

599
00:27:21.660 --> 00:27:26.820
If you have skis, but you haven't hit the slopes since 1993, you got to let go of those

600
00:27:26.820 --> 00:27:27.820
skis.

601
00:27:27.820 --> 00:27:29.660
You don't need them.

602
00:27:29.660 --> 00:27:31.540
Now if you go skiing, you're going to break a hip.

603
00:27:31.540 --> 00:27:32.540
You got to let it go.

604
00:27:32.540 --> 00:27:34.300
It's done.

605
00:27:34.300 --> 00:27:39.100
You can find something else to fill that hobby with since you don't do that hobby anymore.

606
00:27:39.100 --> 00:27:40.500
You can go play pickleball.

607
00:27:40.500 --> 00:27:45.180
You can guys, do you understand that if we let go of old things, we will actually end

608
00:27:45.180 --> 00:27:47.700
up with new things.

609
00:27:47.700 --> 00:27:53.820
Years ago, it's probably been, I think about, let's see, Reagan's 24 or eight, about eight

610
00:27:53.820 --> 00:27:58.020
years ago, my family was on the Steve Harvey show.

611
00:27:58.020 --> 00:28:00.380
If you guys haven't heard this, it was a crazy time.

612
00:28:00.380 --> 00:28:01.380
We went Amish.

613
00:28:01.380 --> 00:28:02.380
They sent us to Amish country.

614
00:28:02.380 --> 00:28:04.300
We dressed like Amish people.

615
00:28:04.300 --> 00:28:05.820
You know, Steve's camera crew was there.

616
00:28:05.820 --> 00:28:08.580
It was like a reality show with my family as the stars.

617
00:28:08.580 --> 00:28:09.580
And it was hilarious.

618
00:28:09.580 --> 00:28:15.380
I think you could just imagine me, imagine me walking into an Amish house and looking

619
00:28:15.380 --> 00:28:17.860
at the dresses and being like, I'm not an off the rack size.

620
00:28:17.860 --> 00:28:20.140
None of this stuff's going to fit me.

621
00:28:20.140 --> 00:28:21.980
These Amish ladies are super small.

622
00:28:21.980 --> 00:28:22.980
I put on the dress.

623
00:28:22.980 --> 00:28:26.780
I was real skinny there then, thank God, but I put on the dress and I promise you, it was

624
00:28:26.780 --> 00:28:31.580
like a mini dress on me.

625
00:28:31.580 --> 00:28:37.020
I milked a goat, made shoo fly pie, all kinds of crazy stuff happened.

626
00:28:37.020 --> 00:28:43.580
Got chased by a donkey, just fun times, good times, but we were on the Steve Harvey show

627
00:28:43.820 --> 00:28:49.020
and Steve has a famous story and his story is this, but he was up and coming comedian.

628
00:28:49.020 --> 00:28:52.860
He's still living at home with his mama because he couldn't afford to live anywhere else and

629
00:28:52.860 --> 00:28:55.580
he was trying to make it in comedy.

630
00:28:55.580 --> 00:28:58.820
He had an old car that he had kept going forever.

631
00:28:58.820 --> 00:29:00.640
This car had been faithful to him.

632
00:29:00.640 --> 00:29:04.220
He knew how to work on cars, so did his buddies and he just kept it going.

633
00:29:04.220 --> 00:29:08.100
You guys, he was going to ride it till the wheels fell off and one day that's what happened.

634
00:29:08.100 --> 00:29:09.220
That car gave up the ghost.

635
00:29:09.220 --> 00:29:10.220
It was done.

636
00:29:10.220 --> 00:29:11.660
There was no fixing it.

637
00:29:11.740 --> 00:29:15.020
It didn't make any sense to put the kind of money into it that would need to be put into

638
00:29:15.020 --> 00:29:22.460
it to fix it, so he needed a new car and he started coming home after bumming rides and

639
00:29:22.460 --> 00:29:24.860
complaining to his mom about his need for a car.

640
00:29:24.860 --> 00:29:26.180
Mama, I don't know what I'm going to do.

641
00:29:26.180 --> 00:29:27.180
Mama, you better pray.

642
00:29:27.180 --> 00:29:28.180
Mama, I need a car.

643
00:29:28.180 --> 00:29:31.300
Mama, and she continued to give him the same answer every time.

644
00:29:31.300 --> 00:29:36.860
Well, Steve, you know you got that car out in the driveway and he's like, Mama, I know

645
00:29:36.860 --> 00:29:39.780
I've explained to you a million times that that car is done.

646
00:29:39.780 --> 00:29:40.780
I can't fix it.

647
00:29:40.900 --> 00:29:41.900
It's too expensive.

648
00:29:41.900 --> 00:29:42.900
It doesn't make sense.

649
00:29:42.900 --> 00:29:43.900
I need to get a new car.

650
00:29:43.900 --> 00:29:47.900
I need to find a new car, but I don't really have a lot of money and I need to find a car

651
00:29:47.900 --> 00:29:48.900
that I can afford.

652
00:29:48.900 --> 00:29:53.380
And every time he would come to her with this problem, just, you know, venting about it

653
00:29:53.380 --> 00:29:55.580
because they lived in the same house, she would say the same thing.

654
00:29:55.580 --> 00:29:58.980
Well, you know, Steve, you got that car out in the driveway and finally he was just like,

655
00:29:58.980 --> 00:30:00.060
Mom, I need you to stop.

656
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:07.280
saying that. I told you, that car is done. And she said, I understand that, son. But I just want

657
00:30:07.280 --> 00:30:11.920
you to remember that you have that car out in the driveway and you need to do something with it

658
00:30:11.920 --> 00:30:18.640
because it doesn't work anymore. And where are you going to park your new car? She's being very

659
00:30:18.640 --> 00:30:24.960
practical, but also very spiritual. This is what our lives look like. We want something new,

660
00:30:24.960 --> 00:30:29.280
but the old things are still sitting in the driveway. She's still sitting there,

661
00:30:29.840 --> 00:30:36.000
up on blocks in the driveway. And so the story goes that Steve had the tow truck company,

662
00:30:36.000 --> 00:30:42.000
the Junkyard, come and tow that car away. And not very long after that car was gone,

663
00:30:42.720 --> 00:30:48.720
he was able to get a new car. He got into a situation where God blessed him and he was

664
00:30:48.720 --> 00:30:54.800
able to get another car. So you guys, very practical, but it's important that we remember

665
00:30:55.600 --> 00:31:00.320
that we have to make space. We have to make room. And if I was going to title today's

666
00:31:00.320 --> 00:31:05.360
People Natural Saturday, that is what it would be. We've got to make room for what's important.

667
00:31:06.160 --> 00:31:12.000
We do. I say this with all sincerity, you guys, and I say it with a heavy heart,

668
00:31:12.560 --> 00:31:18.240
but I have seen couples come into this. I have seen singles come into this program

669
00:31:18.240 --> 00:31:24.080
and get success in this area of their life and get married. And then because they haven't made

670
00:31:24.080 --> 00:31:28.720
room in their lives, in their hearts, in their schedule for relationship, they start to really

671
00:31:28.720 --> 00:31:34.240
struggle in the first year, like really struggle because they wanted the old life, but they just

672
00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:40.160
wanted to add someone new to it. They didn't want a new life. They wanted the old life with a new

673
00:31:40.160 --> 00:31:46.720
person. And that's not the way it works. I've told you this before, and I'm going to tell you again,

674
00:31:46.720 --> 00:31:53.280
your life's going to change. It's going to change. It might not all change immediately,

675
00:31:53.280 --> 00:32:02.480
but eventually it will all change. All of it. It has to. It's not the same life.

676
00:32:03.840 --> 00:32:07.920
When you get married and you partner, God will open new doors for you as a couple.

677
00:32:07.920 --> 00:32:12.000
New things will happen, and you have to be willing to let go of the old things,

678
00:32:12.000 --> 00:32:17.680
old friendships, old communities, old churches, possibly. You might find a new church together.

679
00:32:17.680 --> 00:32:21.040
You have to let go of old mindsets. It's not me anymore. It's we.

680
00:32:24.960 --> 00:32:26.160
It's not me. It's we.

681
00:32:29.840 --> 00:32:33.520
You have to be able to do that. And if you don't, you're going to have a lot of conflict,

682
00:32:34.160 --> 00:32:38.080
a lot of conflict in that first one or two years of marriage, and you might not make it.

683
00:32:38.960 --> 00:32:44.080
I can think of at least one marriage that ended because of very superficial reasons like this,

684
00:32:45.120 --> 00:32:49.280
not wanting to make room, not wanting to change lifestyle or habits.

685
00:32:51.840 --> 00:32:57.120
Guys, we even had one bride that after the honeymoon, her husband was supposed to move in.

686
00:32:57.120 --> 00:33:01.680
He wasn't officially living with her, of course, until after they were married,

687
00:33:01.680 --> 00:33:06.560
but they went straight from the wedding to the honeymoon. Not everyone does that nowadays,

688
00:33:07.520 --> 00:33:12.080
but they did. And so he was supposed to move in after they got back from the honeymoon.

689
00:33:13.040 --> 00:33:16.720
And after the honeymoon, you know, when he's going to move in,

690
00:33:16.720 --> 00:33:18.400
she doesn't want him to bring any of his stuff.

691
00:33:21.280 --> 00:33:27.440
She likes her furniture. She likes her stuff. She doesn't want anything from his house in her house.

692
00:33:27.600 --> 00:33:35.600
Guys, this is real talk, okay? That was just the beginning of a long list of change that didn't

693
00:33:35.600 --> 00:33:40.400
happen in that relationship. And guess what? They're divorced now. That's right.

694
00:33:42.480 --> 00:33:48.400
Waited 50-ish years to get married, finally got married, and now divorced because you can get

695
00:33:48.480 --> 00:33:55.280
into a rut. You can get into this idea of life and you're just looking for someone who's willing

696
00:33:55.280 --> 00:33:59.280
to live that life with you instead of you being willing to change your life.

697
00:34:05.840 --> 00:34:08.239
Guys, we have another couple that's divorced over a cat.

698
00:34:10.320 --> 00:34:14.400
And just so you know, I add a lot of different details to these stories,

699
00:34:14.400 --> 00:34:17.600
so no one could ever figure out who it is. So, like, I mixed, like,

700
00:34:17.600 --> 00:34:20.719
a lot of different stories into one story, but it's still true.

701
00:34:23.040 --> 00:34:27.679
But we do have, because I, you know, because I'm not here to put people on blast,

702
00:34:27.679 --> 00:34:34.400
but I am here to use other people's experiences to help you avoid disaster.

703
00:34:36.880 --> 00:34:38.880
We have another couple that's divorced over a cat.

704
00:34:39.440 --> 00:34:41.760
They agreed on the cat during courtship.

705
00:34:44.000 --> 00:34:47.679
Can I tell you something that is probably a little crass?

706
00:34:49.280 --> 00:34:53.280
You got to make sure that you really agree and that you don't just want to have sex.

707
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:07.840
Because when we're caught up in the infatuation of the relationship, we're so excited about

708
00:35:07.840 --> 00:35:10.960
this person that we're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, whatever you want, whatever, I'm sure you

709
00:35:10.960 --> 00:35:11.960
have a cat.

710
00:35:11.960 --> 00:35:14.000
Yeah, I'm definitely allergic, but bring it on.

711
00:35:14.000 --> 00:35:15.000
It's all good.

712
00:35:15.000 --> 00:35:20.480
We're laughing, you guys, but this is real talk.

713
00:35:20.480 --> 00:35:26.040
It is because I've seen it happen in so many different instances with so many different

714
00:35:26.040 --> 00:35:27.040
things.

715
00:35:27.040 --> 00:35:28.040
Like, oh, I'm okay with that.

716
00:35:28.040 --> 00:35:29.040
Yeah, I'm great with that.

717
00:35:29.040 --> 00:35:34.760
Then after you're married and the marriage is consummated and the kind of infatuation

718
00:35:34.760 --> 00:35:38.960
starts to wear off, because it will, I'm not saying you're not going to like that person

719
00:35:38.960 --> 00:35:44.920
or be attracted to them anymore, but that crazy, those rose-colored glasses of infatuation

720
00:35:44.920 --> 00:35:50.680
and love and lust and desire, that fades pretty fast.

721
00:35:50.680 --> 00:35:52.760
And then, you know what you're left with after that?

722
00:35:52.760 --> 00:36:04.400
A cat that you were never okay with, that you somehow magically thought that your love

723
00:36:04.400 --> 00:36:10.560
could overcome your hate for this cat, and specifically cat hair.

724
00:36:10.560 --> 00:36:15.440
And that's what, that's literally what this couple got separated over, cat hair.

725
00:36:15.440 --> 00:36:21.080
This cat was a long-haired cat, it was a shedding cat, and one of them could not handle, the

726
00:36:21.080 --> 00:36:26.000
one that didn't own the cat, could not handle cat hair.

727
00:36:26.000 --> 00:36:32.840
They weren't allergic, they just were a neat freak, and they could not handle pet hair

728
00:36:32.840 --> 00:36:38.240
on the couch, in the house, all right?

729
00:36:38.240 --> 00:36:41.320
You guys, these are really important things.

730
00:36:41.320 --> 00:36:46.160
They're very important things that you have to take into consideration.

731
00:36:46.160 --> 00:36:50.080
It's not going to be me, it's going to be we.

732
00:36:51.080 --> 00:36:52.080
Right?

733
00:36:53.800 --> 00:36:54.800
Yes.

734
00:36:55.520 --> 00:36:59.360
All right, it's not going to be you, it's going to be two.

735
00:37:01.280 --> 00:37:02.280
Two, two, two.

736
00:37:02.280 --> 00:37:07.640
All right, so Holy Spirit took us on that little rabbit trail, and that was important,

737
00:37:07.640 --> 00:37:12.480
and a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, so that's good.

738
00:37:12.480 --> 00:37:14.040
A little fun there.

739
00:37:14.040 --> 00:37:18.920
Okay, so, endings are necessary, you guys, but the truth is, and this is really what

740
00:37:18.920 --> 00:37:22.960
I want to get at today, is that we don't do endings really well.

741
00:37:22.960 --> 00:37:26.080
We're not taught to do endings well.

742
00:37:26.080 --> 00:37:27.080
Think about it.

743
00:37:27.080 --> 00:37:31.280
All the stuff out there is how to begin something, not how to end something.

744
00:37:31.280 --> 00:37:35.960
How to start something, not how to finish something, but how we finish is important,

745
00:37:35.960 --> 00:37:40.920
and that we finish is important, and things have a natural life cycle, and when their

746
00:37:40.920 --> 00:37:44.760
natural life cycle has ended, we have to release them.

747
00:37:44.760 --> 00:37:46.480
We have to let them go.

748
00:37:46.480 --> 00:37:50.200
All of you that have owned pets, you understand that.

749
00:37:50.200 --> 00:37:53.160
That pet came into your life as a little fur angel.

750
00:37:53.160 --> 00:37:57.960
I believe that God assigns animals to us when we need them, and they're with us, they're

751
00:37:57.960 --> 00:38:04.720
our companions, they love us unconditionally, they're therapeutic, they reduce our anxiety,

752
00:38:04.720 --> 00:38:10.560
they make us feel loved, but when we no longer need that pet, it goes on.

753
00:38:10.560 --> 00:38:17.040
The creation goes back to its creator.

754
00:38:17.040 --> 00:38:18.040
We have to let go.

755
00:38:18.040 --> 00:38:20.160
There's a natural life cycle.

756
00:38:20.160 --> 00:38:22.800
Endings are necessary, but the truth is that we don't do them well.

757
00:38:22.800 --> 00:38:28.200
Okay, but we do need them in order for us to have good results in our life.

758
00:38:28.200 --> 00:38:30.440
Endings are important for bad situations to be resolved.

759
00:38:30.440 --> 00:38:36.400
You guys, we want bad situations to be resolved, but that requires an ending.

760
00:38:36.400 --> 00:38:39.840
So I want to talk about a couple things that I have written down here, and you guys, and

761
00:38:39.840 --> 00:38:42.200
I've been teaching this message for years.

762
00:38:42.200 --> 00:38:45.280
I used to teach this back to my wow women back in the day.

763
00:38:45.280 --> 00:38:49.720
I taught this to my very first heart workshoppers when it was just a heart workshop and it wasn't

764
00:38:49.720 --> 00:38:51.720
a ministry for singles.

765
00:38:51.720 --> 00:38:53.720
And so I want you to write this down.

766
00:38:53.720 --> 00:38:57.640
This will be available in replay, you can come back and look at it.

767
00:38:57.640 --> 00:39:03.280
The number one reason, here's some of the reasons that, here's a list of reasons that

768
00:39:03.280 --> 00:39:06.980
I've written down about why we botch endings.

769
00:39:06.980 --> 00:39:11.740
We hang on too long when we should have ended it right now.

770
00:39:11.740 --> 00:39:16.900
Guys, a lot of times we're looking for like the easy way out, and especially when it's

771
00:39:16.900 --> 00:39:19.820
concerning people, like we don't want to do it abruptly.

772
00:39:19.820 --> 00:39:21.820
We want to be kind about it.

773
00:39:21.820 --> 00:39:25.060
We're kind of people pleasers in the ending.

774
00:39:25.060 --> 00:39:28.580
When you just, you were worried about what other people will think of us.

775
00:39:28.580 --> 00:39:32.300
You just, if it's time to end it, then you just have to end it.

776
00:39:32.300 --> 00:39:33.780
Clean breaks heal the fastest.

777
00:39:33.780 --> 00:39:36.180
You just got to do it.

778
00:39:36.180 --> 00:39:37.180
You do it.

779
00:39:37.180 --> 00:39:38.180
You have to do it.

780
00:39:38.180 --> 00:39:39.180
That's where you need accountability.

781
00:39:39.180 --> 00:39:41.540
That's where this community can come in to support you.

782
00:39:41.540 --> 00:39:42.620
Here's the next reason.

783
00:39:42.620 --> 00:39:44.660
We don't know if an ending is actually necessary.

784
00:39:44.660 --> 00:39:45.860
We're confused.

785
00:39:45.860 --> 00:39:49.700
We actually really don't know whether we should end it or not.

786
00:39:49.700 --> 00:39:51.860
We kind of think we can fix everything.

787
00:39:51.860 --> 00:39:52.860
Are you one of those people?

788
00:39:52.860 --> 00:39:54.540
I can fix it.

789
00:39:54.540 --> 00:39:55.540
I don't need to throw it away.

790
00:39:55.540 --> 00:39:57.140
I can fix it.

791
00:39:57.140 --> 00:39:58.380
I don't need to let go of this.

792
00:39:58.380 --> 00:40:00.060
Oh, it'll work itself out.

793
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.200
No, it won't, it's done, it's over.

794
00:40:02.200 --> 00:40:05.400
It had a life cycle and the life cycle is finished.

795
00:40:05.400 --> 00:40:06.840
It is.

796
00:40:06.840 --> 00:40:09.040
Here's another reason why we don't end things.

797
00:40:09.040 --> 00:40:10.440
We're afraid of the unknown.

798
00:40:11.720 --> 00:40:12.720
What does it look like

799
00:40:12.720 --> 00:40:14.520
to not have this thing in my life anymore?

800
00:40:14.520 --> 00:40:16.440
What does it look like to not go to this place

801
00:40:16.440 --> 00:40:18.880
every Saturday, every Sunday, every week?

802
00:40:18.880 --> 00:40:20.920
What's it look like to move to this place

803
00:40:20.920 --> 00:40:22.840
instead of living where I live now?

804
00:40:22.840 --> 00:40:24.220
We're afraid of the unknown.

805
00:40:24.220 --> 00:40:27.400
We don't know what we don't know and we don't like it.

806
00:40:27.400 --> 00:40:29.540
The next thing is we fear confrontation.

807
00:40:30.560 --> 00:40:31.840
How are other people gonna act?

808
00:40:31.840 --> 00:40:33.120
How are they gonna feel?

809
00:40:33.120 --> 00:40:34.300
What's gonna happen?

810
00:40:36.200 --> 00:40:39.420
You know, it's noble to not wanna hurt someone,

811
00:40:39.420 --> 00:40:40.440
but that's the next reason.

812
00:40:40.440 --> 00:40:41.560
We're afraid of hurting people.

813
00:40:41.560 --> 00:40:43.440
We don't wanna hurt people.

814
00:40:43.440 --> 00:40:45.480
Guys, sometimes you have to let other people

815
00:40:45.480 --> 00:40:48.980
dislike you for a season in order for you to love yourself.

816
00:40:50.200 --> 00:40:55.200
Codependent connections are hard to untangle ourselves from.

817
00:40:56.200 --> 00:40:58.840
I had, you guys, this is a true story.

818
00:41:00.480 --> 00:41:05.320
I had a client who I introduced them

819
00:41:05.320 --> 00:41:06.360
to someone long distance

820
00:41:06.360 --> 00:41:08.960
because they said they were open to long distance.

821
00:41:08.960 --> 00:41:11.240
And I introduced them to someone long distance

822
00:41:11.240 --> 00:41:12.960
and they started seeing this person

823
00:41:12.960 --> 00:41:15.460
and it was going really, really well.

824
00:41:15.460 --> 00:41:17.680
They were traveling to see each other.

825
00:41:17.680 --> 00:41:19.000
It was going really well.

826
00:41:19.000 --> 00:41:20.280
And it came to that point

827
00:41:20.280 --> 00:41:23.200
that all long distance relationships come to

828
00:41:23.240 --> 00:41:26.120
where there needed to be a move.

829
00:41:26.120 --> 00:41:27.720
There needed to be someone moving

830
00:41:27.720 --> 00:41:30.000
so that they could get deeper into intimacy

831
00:41:30.000 --> 00:41:34.760
and date every day and get to a place.

832
00:41:34.760 --> 00:41:36.200
They were an exclusive relationship,

833
00:41:36.200 --> 00:41:39.440
but get to the place of getting engaged, getting married.

834
00:41:39.440 --> 00:41:44.440
And so the woman in this story, she's a teacher

835
00:41:45.000 --> 00:41:46.600
and she had been a teacher for years

836
00:41:46.600 --> 00:41:51.120
and she had been an integral part of her community

837
00:41:51.120 --> 00:41:54.480
that she taught in the school system where she taught.

838
00:41:54.480 --> 00:41:57.360
In fact, she had one teacher of the year even.

839
00:42:00.640 --> 00:42:05.640
And so she went to talk to the administrator of the school

840
00:42:08.000 --> 00:42:11.720
about moving on, about, hey, I'm gonna,

841
00:42:11.720 --> 00:42:13.520
I think I'm gonna move out of state.

842
00:42:14.700 --> 00:42:18.800
And the administrator actually not only

843
00:42:18.840 --> 00:42:21.600
were they not in favor of her doing that,

844
00:42:21.600 --> 00:42:24.320
they tried to talk her out of it by using fear.

845
00:42:24.320 --> 00:42:28.080
Oh, well, I guess we're gonna have to tell the board

846
00:42:28.080 --> 00:42:30.560
and they're gonna revoke your teaching license.

847
00:42:30.560 --> 00:42:32.880
This teacher had been a faithful teacher,

848
00:42:32.880 --> 00:42:35.040
had been one of the best of the best,

849
00:42:35.040 --> 00:42:40.040
had served this school district for many years,

850
00:42:41.400 --> 00:42:44.380
faithfully going above and beyond.

851
00:42:45.240 --> 00:42:48.160
And then as a single woman showing up and saying,

852
00:42:48.160 --> 00:42:49.840
hey, I think I met someone,

853
00:42:49.840 --> 00:42:51.600
I really wanna explore this relationship.

854
00:42:51.600 --> 00:42:56.600
I need to move.

855
00:42:57.160 --> 00:43:00.160
Instead of that being, oh, yes, we're so excited for you,

856
00:43:00.160 --> 00:43:03.480
let us try to figure this out, let's get a sub,

857
00:43:03.480 --> 00:43:04.680
let's do this, let's do that.

858
00:43:04.680 --> 00:43:07.920
No, instead it was met with, oh, no, you can't leave

859
00:43:07.920 --> 00:43:10.920
because if you do, we're gonna revoke your teaching license.

860
00:43:13.460 --> 00:43:14.300
You know what that is?

861
00:43:14.300 --> 00:43:15.480
That's codependency.

862
00:43:16.480 --> 00:43:19.400
Sometimes codependency gets ugly

863
00:43:19.400 --> 00:43:22.040
if you try to remove yourself from it.

864
00:43:22.040 --> 00:43:24.900
You think it's all great, wonderful.

865
00:43:24.900 --> 00:43:26.600
You try to leave your job that you've been at

866
00:43:26.600 --> 00:43:29.580
for a long time and then they start acting ugly to you.

867
00:43:29.580 --> 00:43:30.420
Why?

868
00:43:30.420 --> 00:43:33.600
Because no one's gonna do what you did there for 25 years

869
00:43:33.600 --> 00:43:36.840
and they know it, they know it.

870
00:43:36.840 --> 00:43:39.280
They know that you were going above and beyond

871
00:43:39.280 --> 00:43:41.760
and a lot of times because you're a people pleaser,

872
00:43:41.760 --> 00:43:43.000
you were going above and beyond,

873
00:43:43.000 --> 00:43:44.400
you shouldn't have even been doing that stuff

874
00:43:44.400 --> 00:43:47.320
in the first place and they put a lot of stuff on you

875
00:43:47.320 --> 00:43:48.480
that they shouldn't have put on you

876
00:43:48.480 --> 00:43:50.520
and now you're trying to leave

877
00:43:50.520 --> 00:43:51.680
and they don't want you to leave

878
00:43:51.680 --> 00:43:54.140
because who are they gonna use now?

879
00:43:56.060 --> 00:43:57.340
Who are they gonna get to do things

880
00:43:57.340 --> 00:44:01.800
that are not with good boundaries now?

881
00:44:02.960 --> 00:44:06.320
So that's another thing that happens so often, you guys,

882
00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:11.160
so, so often when we try to end things with relationships,

883
00:44:11.160 --> 00:44:14.320
communities, jobs, places where we haven't had

884
00:44:14.320 --> 00:44:16.260
good boundaries and we've been the giver

885
00:44:16.260 --> 00:44:19.840
and they've been the taker, that happens a lot.

886
00:44:19.840 --> 00:44:20.880
All right, the other thing is,

887
00:44:20.880 --> 00:44:23.280
is that we're afraid of the sadness of letting go,

888
00:44:23.280 --> 00:44:24.920
the sadness with endings.

889
00:44:24.920 --> 00:44:27.440
We don't possess the skills to execute the ending,

890
00:44:27.440 --> 00:44:29.480
like we don't even know how to do it.

891
00:44:29.480 --> 00:44:32.000
We don't know the right words to use

892
00:44:32.000 --> 00:44:35.960
and then a lot of us have had way too many painful endings

893
00:44:35.960 --> 00:44:40.040
in our own personal history that were out of our control.

894
00:44:41.440 --> 00:44:44.520
Other people brought endings to you,

895
00:44:44.520 --> 00:44:47.840
someone died suddenly, someone divorced you

896
00:44:47.840 --> 00:44:50.040
and you thought you were gonna be married to them forever,

897
00:44:50.040 --> 00:44:51.640
they were your forever love,

898
00:44:52.880 --> 00:44:56.520
a parent left the home abruptly,

899
00:44:56.520 --> 00:45:00.240
something happened, painful endings with your.

900
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.200
your pets, with your children, with your friends,

901
00:45:03.200 --> 00:45:05.260
and you didn't have any control over those endings.

902
00:45:05.260 --> 00:45:07.240
Those endings just came to visit one day

903
00:45:07.240 --> 00:45:10.320
without any advanced notice.

904
00:45:10.320 --> 00:45:13.340
And because of that, we avoid endings

905
00:45:13.340 --> 00:45:15.240
because we know how painful they are

906
00:45:15.240 --> 00:45:17.440
and we don't want any more of them.

907
00:45:17.440 --> 00:45:20.940
Because, but it's a natural life cycle for things to end.

908
00:45:22.520 --> 00:45:26.320
So we're going to unpack this on Friday night.

909
00:45:26.320 --> 00:45:29.300
I'm sorry, on Sunday night, tomorrow night,

910
00:45:29.300 --> 00:45:31.060
we're going to unpack more of this.

911
00:45:35.540 --> 00:45:38.800
We're going to unpack more of this, okay?

912
00:45:40.180 --> 00:45:42.440
But in order to unpack more of this,

913
00:45:43.900 --> 00:45:47.100
I need to give you these three categories of pruning.

914
00:45:47.100 --> 00:45:48.940
And I want to release this scripture over you.

915
00:45:48.940 --> 00:45:50.540
Everything has a life cycle.

916
00:45:51.560 --> 00:45:53.820
We read that in the book of Ecclesiastes.

917
00:45:53.820 --> 00:45:55.940
There's a time to be born, a time to die,

918
00:45:55.940 --> 00:45:58.460
a time to build, a time to tear down.

919
00:45:58.500 --> 00:46:02.200
There is a time you guys, there's a time.

920
00:46:04.100 --> 00:46:05.540
And if you feel like your life

921
00:46:05.540 --> 00:46:09.160
is not full of abundance right now, in any area,

922
00:46:09.160 --> 00:46:10.540
if you feel like you're just not abundant,

923
00:46:10.540 --> 00:46:12.900
it's probably because you've not been respecting

924
00:46:12.900 --> 00:46:14.420
the process of pruning.

925
00:46:15.960 --> 00:46:17.300
I'm talking to myself.

926
00:46:18.200 --> 00:46:21.940
We've got to respect the process of pruning, okay?

927
00:46:23.160 --> 00:46:27.680
All right, so good for great is the hardest pruning

928
00:46:27.720 --> 00:46:29.580
because oftentimes God is asking us

929
00:46:29.580 --> 00:46:33.000
to let go of something that's not that bad.

930
00:46:33.000 --> 00:46:35.400
It's not really broken, so why should we fix it?

931
00:46:37.480 --> 00:46:38.480
It's not broken.

932
00:46:38.480 --> 00:46:40.880
Why would we fix it if it's not broken?

933
00:46:45.860 --> 00:46:49.340
But we have to let it go because God is asking us

934
00:46:49.340 --> 00:46:52.860
to let it go, or at least to prune it back.

935
00:46:54.280 --> 00:46:55.520
Why?

936
00:46:55.520 --> 00:46:58.080
Because let's just use my rosebush

937
00:46:58.080 --> 00:46:59.920
in front of my house as an example.

938
00:46:59.920 --> 00:47:02.180
I had this gorgeous rosebush.

939
00:47:02.180 --> 00:47:03.020
I loved it.

940
00:47:03.020 --> 00:47:05.160
It was there when we rented the house.

941
00:47:05.160 --> 00:47:06.280
I didn't plant it.

942
00:47:06.280 --> 00:47:08.440
I'm not a green thumb kind of person.

943
00:47:08.440 --> 00:47:09.760
I mean, I keep plants alive,

944
00:47:09.760 --> 00:47:12.800
but I'm not outside planting plants, okay?

945
00:47:12.800 --> 00:47:15.240
And so my husband, at the end of the season,

946
00:47:15.240 --> 00:47:16.200
went out and pruned it

947
00:47:16.200 --> 00:47:19.200
because he watched a YouTube video about pruning.

948
00:47:19.200 --> 00:47:21.040
He didn't even tell me he was gonna do this,

949
00:47:21.040 --> 00:47:21.880
and he did it.

950
00:47:21.880 --> 00:47:23.880
And you guys, he cut it down to the nubs.

951
00:47:24.720 --> 00:47:27.080
I called that bush nubby after that day

952
00:47:27.080 --> 00:47:30.000
because it was all nubbed out.

953
00:47:30.000 --> 00:47:31.600
And I really did not believe

954
00:47:31.600 --> 00:47:33.460
that it was gonna come back to its previous glory,

955
00:47:33.460 --> 00:47:34.720
but it did.

956
00:47:34.720 --> 00:47:39.080
And what it was about was there were too many rosebuds.

957
00:47:39.080 --> 00:47:41.280
Yeah, it was gorgeous, but there were too many rosebuds.

958
00:47:41.280 --> 00:47:44.480
And when there's overcrowding with rosebuds,

959
00:47:44.480 --> 00:47:48.200
it will divert the energy and resources to all of them

960
00:47:48.200 --> 00:47:49.940
instead of to the best of them.

961
00:47:50.880 --> 00:47:52.000
Does that make sense?

962
00:47:54.560 --> 00:47:57.840
Well, it didn't make sense to me, but it worked.

963
00:47:57.840 --> 00:48:02.160
And that rosebush was even more beautiful the next spring,

964
00:48:02.160 --> 00:48:04.400
and I just couldn't believe it.

965
00:48:04.400 --> 00:48:06.480
Couldn't believe it, you guys.

966
00:48:06.480 --> 00:48:08.880
So what does this kind of pruning require?

967
00:48:08.880 --> 00:48:10.560
It requires the word no.

968
00:48:12.040 --> 00:48:13.640
A lot, you guys.

969
00:48:13.640 --> 00:48:15.760
It requires the word no a lot.

970
00:48:15.760 --> 00:48:19.600
Just because it's good, just because it's a fun idea

971
00:48:19.600 --> 00:48:22.360
or maybe a quote-unquote good opportunity

972
00:48:22.400 --> 00:48:24.160
does not mean it's a God opportunity.

973
00:48:24.160 --> 00:48:26.380
It doesn't mean it's God's best for you.

974
00:48:27.580 --> 00:48:29.280
Let's just apply this to dating.

975
00:48:29.280 --> 00:48:30.780
You can't have them all.

976
00:48:32.040 --> 00:48:34.140
Maybe all of a sudden you're on a great streak

977
00:48:34.140 --> 00:48:37.000
and you got like four or five great suitors, ladies,

978
00:48:37.000 --> 00:48:38.980
or gentlemen prospects,

979
00:48:39.900 --> 00:48:42.040
but you're gonna have to prune it down, aren't you?

980
00:48:42.040 --> 00:48:43.560
Because you can only have one.

981
00:48:45.160 --> 00:48:46.600
You can only have one.

982
00:48:46.600 --> 00:48:47.440
True story.

983
00:48:47.440 --> 00:48:49.440
I almost partnered with a guy

984
00:48:49.440 --> 00:48:51.040
at the beginning of this movement

985
00:48:51.120 --> 00:48:54.880
who had a singles community that was growing rapidly.

986
00:48:54.880 --> 00:48:57.320
I was on his podcast several times.

987
00:48:57.320 --> 00:49:00.280
He was a newer believer but really loved Jesus,

988
00:49:00.280 --> 00:49:01.640
but he wasn't really getting discipled.

989
00:49:01.640 --> 00:49:04.160
He didn't have a lot of mentorship in his life.

990
00:49:04.160 --> 00:49:05.800
Guys, mentorship is so important.

991
00:49:05.800 --> 00:49:08.200
He didn't have a lot of oversight in his life,

992
00:49:08.200 --> 00:49:11.740
and long story short, he became a polygamist.

993
00:49:13.560 --> 00:49:15.840
He believed that he saw in the Old Testament

994
00:49:15.840 --> 00:49:17.440
that you could have more than one wife.

995
00:49:17.440 --> 00:49:20.160
Why should he just pick one when he could have many?

996
00:49:20.160 --> 00:49:21.840
And he did that, okay?

997
00:49:21.840 --> 00:49:23.760
So, no friends.

998
00:49:23.760 --> 00:49:25.160
You can only have one.

999
00:49:26.120 --> 00:49:29.680
I'm so glad that I did not.

1000
00:49:29.680 --> 00:49:30.520
True story, you guys.

1001
00:49:30.520 --> 00:49:32.720
I was on my way to do a photo shoot with him

1002
00:49:32.720 --> 00:49:36.260
to launch a co-brand, and I got super sick.

1003
00:49:36.260 --> 00:49:37.440
Not that God made me sick,

1004
00:49:37.440 --> 00:49:40.240
but sometimes things happen at the greatest times,

1005
00:49:40.240 --> 00:49:42.400
and I didn't make it to that photo shoot,

1006
00:49:42.400 --> 00:49:43.800
and right after that,

1007
00:49:45.200 --> 00:49:47.100
a whole bunch of crazy stuff happened with him

1008
00:49:47.100 --> 00:49:49.640
that let me know that God was saying no, no, no, no,

1009
00:49:49.680 --> 00:49:52.760
and then he came out later as a polygamist.

1010
00:49:52.760 --> 00:49:54.600
I was like, no!

1011
00:49:54.600 --> 00:49:56.360
God, thank you, Jesus!

1012
00:49:56.360 --> 00:49:57.920
Thank you, Jesus!

1013
00:49:57.920 --> 00:49:59.640
Yes, I am God-defended.

1014
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.720
all God defended. Okay, so it requires the word no, you guys. If you're going to reach

1015
00:50:04.720 --> 00:50:13.040
your full potential, you're going to have to give things your best yes. Your best yes.

1016
00:50:13.040 --> 00:50:17.600
And a lot of times that's just about you having identity. This is something that God spoke

1017
00:50:17.600 --> 00:50:22.480
to me during a one-on-one call the other day. I was with a private client talking to them

1018
00:50:22.480 --> 00:50:27.400
and I found myself saying from the Holy Spirit, you don't need more choices, you need more

1019
00:50:27.400 --> 00:50:37.200
identity. Guys, we think that's why dating apps don't work. It's a smorgasbord of choices,

1020
00:50:37.200 --> 00:50:41.000
but when you don't know what you're looking for or what you want, more choices is not

1021
00:50:41.000 --> 00:50:47.880
what you need. In fact, choosing leads to confusion. Have you ever shown up at a restaurant

1022
00:50:47.880 --> 00:50:50.720
and you're not really that hungry and then you get the menu and you don't know what to

1023
00:50:50.720 --> 00:50:54.280
choose because you really don't know what you want because you're not really in the

1024
00:50:54.280 --> 00:51:05.040
mood for anything? Yeah, that's not good. It's not good. And I hate big, fat menus.

1025
00:51:05.040 --> 00:51:08.360
You guys know how I feel about the Cheesecake Factory menu. It's like no restaurant can

1026
00:51:08.360 --> 00:51:14.960
do American and Mexican and Italian and Asian food, all that food well. One restaurant,

1027
00:51:14.960 --> 00:51:19.360
an American restaurant called Cheesecake Factory. Let me take a guess. I think that what you

1028
00:51:19.360 --> 00:51:29.760
specialize in is cheesecake, not Mexican, Asian, Italian, American food. And yet their

1029
00:51:29.760 --> 00:51:36.760
menu is like 20 pages long with every food in the world you can think of. And so I don't

1030
00:51:36.760 --> 00:51:40.400
like eating there because you know darn well you're just going to pick the same thing that

1031
00:51:40.400 --> 00:51:43.640
you pick at every restaurant. You're going to get a salmon and some rice. You're going

1032
00:51:43.640 --> 00:51:48.720
to get a chicken with some Brussels sprouts, whatever it is that you eat, that's what you're

1033
00:51:48.720 --> 00:51:54.120
going to eat. You're not going to try something crazy. You're like, oh, today I think I'm

1034
00:51:54.120 --> 00:51:59.760
going to do the ratatouille. No, you're not. You're not going to do the ratatouille unless

1035
00:51:59.760 --> 00:52:05.520
you're a ratatouille person. You're not all of a sudden going to wake up one day and have

1036
00:52:05.520 --> 00:52:13.280
a hankering for some ratatouille from the Cheesecake Factory. No, it's not going to

1037
00:52:13.280 --> 00:52:18.800
happen. So it's important that we start having more identity so that we understand how to

1038
00:52:18.800 --> 00:52:23.160
prune. Some of you don't even know what to prune. In fact, you're feeling anxious during

1039
00:52:23.160 --> 00:52:28.960
this entire call because you don't know what to do. And the problem is not that there isn't

1040
00:52:28.960 --> 00:52:33.960
pruning that's necessary. The problem is that you cannot prune from a heart that really

1041
00:52:33.960 --> 00:52:41.080
doesn't know where it's going. How can you make room for what's important in this season

1042
00:52:41.080 --> 00:52:48.920
if you don't already know what's important in this season? OK, so the best yes. Outsourcing,

1043
00:52:48.920 --> 00:52:52.400
delegating if you own a business, if you're at a business where everyone's putting everything

1044
00:52:52.400 --> 00:52:57.640
on you, start doing just your job. Start putting up boundaries. Don't do other people's jobs

1045
00:52:57.640 --> 00:53:03.960
anymore. Let them do their jobs. You do your job. Stop saying yes to overtime. Stop saying

1046
00:53:03.960 --> 00:53:14.960
yes to things that do not fit the plan of where you want to be by the end of this year.

1047
00:53:14.960 --> 00:53:21.320
The second type of pruning is sick and dying. You know that this thing has not been working

1048
00:53:21.320 --> 00:53:24.960
for a while. This relationship's not been working for a while. You guys, we hate to

1049
00:53:24.960 --> 00:53:29.840
let go of relationships, but relationships are for reasons and seasons. And you don't

1050
00:53:29.840 --> 00:53:32.720
live by that person anymore. You were great friends when you were next door neighbors,

1051
00:53:32.720 --> 00:53:36.080
but you haven't lived next door to each other forever. And yeah, you might see each other

1052
00:53:36.080 --> 00:53:38.920
a couple times a year. That's great, but they can't be your best friend. You need people

1053
00:53:38.920 --> 00:53:44.880
in proximity to you. God has new friendships for you. You might have a friend that you're

1054
00:53:44.880 --> 00:53:48.320
just doing all the heavy lifting. You only get together when you reach out, when you're

1055
00:53:48.320 --> 00:53:51.240
the only one to text. You're the only one that calls. Yeah, they pick up. Yeah, they

1056
00:53:51.240 --> 00:53:56.880
text back. But there's no reciprocation. And you can't let go because that used to be your

1057
00:53:56.880 --> 00:54:02.880
best friend. Well, you guys, once again, reasons and seasons for friendships. God has

1058
00:54:02.880 --> 00:54:07.720
a new best friend for you. He has a new support system for you, but you're not going to get

1059
00:54:07.720 --> 00:54:13.640
it unless you make room for it. You're not. All right. And then there's a category of

1060
00:54:13.640 --> 00:54:17.040
the thing that's just super dead. And the other category, sick and dying, you have to

1061
00:54:17.040 --> 00:54:21.600
decide what needs more of my attention, what just needs a little TLC, and it's going to

1062
00:54:21.600 --> 00:54:26.280
come back to life. And what do I need to just let go? I need to sign the DNR on it, the

1063
00:54:26.280 --> 00:54:31.120
do not resuscitate. You need to stop trying to put energy into this because it's not going

1064
00:54:31.120 --> 00:54:35.320
to come back to its full glory ever again. I just have to accept that its life cycle

1065
00:54:35.320 --> 00:54:42.200
is over and let it go. All right. And then the last one is it's dead, baby. It's been

1066
00:54:42.200 --> 00:54:48.080
dead for a long time. You've been dragging it around with you. You've got dead bodies

1067
00:54:48.080 --> 00:54:55.160
in your trunk. You need to stop and bury them. It's time to bury the bodies in your trunk.

1068
00:54:55.160 --> 00:54:58.520
You got to let it go. It stinks.

1069
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.440
These are things that they haven't been good for your life for a long time.

1070
00:55:03.680 --> 00:55:06.360
They haven't borne any fruit in years.

1071
00:55:07.840 --> 00:55:12.800
And yet you're still trying to believe it's going to come back to life again.

1072
00:55:14.920 --> 00:55:17.120
It's not, it's done.

1073
00:55:17.640 --> 00:55:18.280
It's over.

1074
00:55:18.920 --> 00:55:22.320
Make room for things that are alive and good and fruitful.

1075
00:55:22.920 --> 00:55:23.280
Okay.

1076
00:55:25.040 --> 00:55:25.960
All right, you guys.

1077
00:55:26.440 --> 00:55:29.600
And then many people, including myself, we fall into the trap of only going

1078
00:55:29.600 --> 00:55:33.880
halfway with this kind of change, but we're going to pray now as we're ending

1079
00:55:33.880 --> 00:55:40.320
this call, if you want to show up tomorrow night and work through some of

1080
00:55:40.320 --> 00:55:43.080
this kind of dig in, we'll make some lists.

1081
00:55:43.080 --> 00:55:49.120
We'll do some practical application of how to identify where you should put

1082
00:55:49.120 --> 00:55:53.360
stuff in your life into these three categories, but go ahead, take a piece

1083
00:55:53.360 --> 00:55:54.920
of paper and make three categories.

1084
00:55:56.040 --> 00:55:57.040
Overcrowding.

1085
00:55:57.240 --> 00:55:58.520
This is all good stuff.

1086
00:55:58.560 --> 00:55:59.440
None of it's bad.

1087
00:55:59.440 --> 00:56:03.280
It's all fruitful, but I can't keep it all because I'm just one person just

1088
00:56:03.280 --> 00:56:05.600
with one life with 24 hours in a day.

1089
00:56:06.320 --> 00:56:08.560
And then the second category is this stuff.

1090
00:56:09.320 --> 00:56:13.320
It might be on its way out, or I might need to prune back some other things to

1091
00:56:13.320 --> 00:56:16.520
give this thing some more attention because it could be a fruitful again.

1092
00:56:16.520 --> 00:56:20.160
And I want it to be fruitful again, and God wants it to be fruitful again,

1093
00:56:20.160 --> 00:56:21.680
but I'm just neglecting it.

1094
00:56:21.880 --> 00:56:24.240
Or do I need to sign the DNR and let it go?

1095
00:56:24.440 --> 00:56:27.200
And then the third category on your paper is this is dead.

1096
00:56:28.280 --> 00:56:31.400
I just got to admit it to myself and you guys, you might have to grieve it.

1097
00:56:31.920 --> 00:56:33.200
You might have to grieve it.

1098
00:56:33.240 --> 00:56:34.320
It's totally dead.

1099
00:56:34.320 --> 00:56:35.840
There's no fruit coming from it.

1100
00:56:37.440 --> 00:56:38.880
You're so sad about it.

1101
00:56:39.000 --> 00:56:44.280
You want it to not be dead, but it is dead and you have to let it go.

1102
00:56:46.280 --> 00:56:46.680
Okay.

1103
00:56:49.280 --> 00:56:53.120
And another thing that I want you to watch out for is when we make space, we

1104
00:56:53.120 --> 00:56:58.000
finally submit to pruning, which is the natural part of our spiritual life.

1105
00:56:58.440 --> 00:57:05.640
When we finally admit that we need to prune and we do it, we might even ask God

1106
00:57:05.640 --> 00:57:07.120
to remove what's dead in our life.

1107
00:57:07.800 --> 00:57:09.880
And we're going to pray that today right now.

1108
00:57:10.640 --> 00:57:15.400
But when he does do that, you guys, it's going to leave a space.

1109
00:57:16.440 --> 00:57:18.400
It's going to leave an empty space, a hole.

1110
00:57:19.320 --> 00:57:22.720
And some people will just immediately take that as an invitation to fill that

1111
00:57:22.720 --> 00:57:27.120
hole back up with something that is equally as limiting and inferior as the

1112
00:57:27.120 --> 00:57:29.240
first thing that was in that space.

1113
00:57:30.040 --> 00:57:32.080
Do not jump out of the frying pan and into the fire.

1114
00:57:32.800 --> 00:57:36.200
The key to transformational change, you can write this down,

1115
00:57:36.240 --> 00:57:39.280
is leaving that space empty.

1116
00:57:40.480 --> 00:57:42.080
We've got to leave that space empty.

1117
00:57:44.880 --> 00:57:46.040
Do not rebound.

1118
00:57:46.160 --> 00:57:47.200
Process.

1119
00:57:48.080 --> 00:57:50.240
Wait for the good, good.

1120
00:57:50.720 --> 00:57:52.600
God has the good, good for you.

1121
00:57:52.600 --> 00:57:56.320
If you don't know what I'm talking about, then you didn't do hard work because I

1122
00:57:56.320 --> 00:57:57.480
talk about the good, good.

1123
00:57:57.480 --> 00:57:58.360
What's the good, good?

1124
00:57:58.360 --> 00:58:00.400
The John 10, 10 life, you guys.

1125
00:58:01.920 --> 00:58:04.080
You're like, well, what am I going to do with that empty space, with that empty

1126
00:58:04.080 --> 00:58:04.520
time?

1127
00:58:04.920 --> 00:58:05.760
I don't know.

1128
00:58:06.240 --> 00:58:08.240
How about just be instead of do?

1129
00:58:08.680 --> 00:58:11.280
How about take some extra time for prayer, for intercession?

1130
00:58:11.280 --> 00:58:13.200
How about take a walk in nature?

1131
00:58:14.000 --> 00:58:17.600
You don't need to fill every moment of your life up with something.

1132
00:58:20.880 --> 00:58:21.400
You don't.

1133
00:58:22.080 --> 00:58:23.480
And some of you, the opposite is true.

1134
00:58:23.480 --> 00:58:27.760
You have way too much downtime and it's time for you to commit to some things.

1135
00:58:29.040 --> 00:58:30.120
You're afraid of commitment.

1136
00:58:33.200 --> 00:58:35.240
How are you going to get married if you're afraid of commitment?

1137
00:58:38.440 --> 00:58:40.480
It's time for you to say yes to some things.

1138
00:58:40.480 --> 00:58:42.440
You've been no, no, no, no, no.

1139
00:58:42.440 --> 00:58:43.640
No is your favorite word.

1140
00:58:43.640 --> 00:58:46.880
You've been just your little pendulum needs to swing the other direction.

1141
00:58:47.760 --> 00:58:49.280
It's time for you to say yes.

1142
00:58:49.720 --> 00:58:51.200
This is your season for yes.

1143
00:58:51.200 --> 00:58:53.160
This is your season for community.

1144
00:58:53.160 --> 00:58:56.880
This is your season of yes to all kinds of things.

1145
00:59:02.800 --> 00:59:03.240
All right.

1146
00:59:04.560 --> 00:59:08.520
So Father, we are giving you permission to prune us.

1147
00:59:09.800 --> 00:59:14.680
John 15, two says that every branch in you, Jesus, that does not bear fruit, you

1148
00:59:14.680 --> 00:59:19.600
take away, but every branch that bears fruit, you prune it so that it can bear

1149
00:59:19.600 --> 00:59:20.240
more fruit.

1150
00:59:20.640 --> 00:59:24.400
And we know that you are the vine, but we are the branches and we are fruitful

1151
00:59:24.640 --> 00:59:26.080
branches, every one of us.

1152
00:59:26.920 --> 00:59:30.920
But we want to be more fruitful, not just for ourselves, but for your kingdom.

1153
00:59:31.160 --> 00:59:33.480
And so we're asking you, Lord, to help us.

1154
00:59:34.840 --> 00:59:37.040
We're asking you to show us what needs to go.

1155
00:59:37.040 --> 00:59:40.640
In fact, we're giving you permission to remove what's dead in our life.

1156
00:59:41.440 --> 00:59:45.440
And when that space is created, we will hold out for you to fill it with

1157
00:59:45.440 --> 00:59:48.640
something that is superior to what was removed.

1158
00:59:48.640 --> 00:59:52.600
Something that is supernatural, something that is important to the season of our

1159
00:59:52.600 --> 00:59:53.040
life.

1160
00:59:54.240 --> 00:59:56.720
We're not going to be afraid of divine rejection anymore.

1161
00:59:57.320 --> 01:00:00.000
We're going to allow you to prune us.

1162
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:01.520
so that we're not wasting our time,

1163
01:00:01.520 --> 01:00:02.600
we're not wasting our gifts,

1164
01:00:02.600 --> 01:00:04.240
we're not wasting our talents,

1165
01:00:04.240 --> 01:00:05.920
we're not wasting this one and only life

1166
01:00:05.920 --> 01:00:07.060
that you've given us.

1167
01:00:08.480 --> 01:00:09.520
We're not gonna be afraid,

1168
01:00:09.520 --> 01:00:11.960
we're not gonna be anxious, Lord.

1169
01:00:11.960 --> 01:00:13.880
We're going to allow you to be our peace

1170
01:00:13.880 --> 01:00:17.200
and we are going to allow you to show us what's good.

1171
01:00:18.840 --> 01:00:20.960
Bring us new things.

1172
01:00:20.960 --> 01:00:23.180
Help us to end old things.

1173
01:00:23.180 --> 01:00:26.620
Highlight to us the things that need our focus,

1174
01:00:26.620 --> 01:00:28.760
that need our attention, that need our TLC,

1175
01:00:28.840 --> 01:00:31.680
that need our action, that need our energy.

1176
01:00:31.680 --> 01:00:33.280
And also highlight to us things

1177
01:00:33.280 --> 01:00:34.840
that we need to release to you.

1178
01:00:35.920 --> 01:00:38.460
Comfort our hearts if we have to grieve that, Lord.

1179
01:00:38.460 --> 01:00:40.580
Comfort our hearts if things didn't end up

1180
01:00:40.580 --> 01:00:41.920
the way that we thought they would

1181
01:00:41.920 --> 01:00:44.660
when we first started with whatever that thing was.

1182
01:00:46.280 --> 01:00:47.480
Comfort us, Lord.

1183
01:00:47.480 --> 01:00:49.300
Bring us peace.

1184
01:00:49.300 --> 01:00:50.960
Show us the good road, Lord,

1185
01:00:50.960 --> 01:00:52.320
so that we can take it.

1186
01:00:52.320 --> 01:00:53.980
In Jesus' name, amen.

1187
01:00:54.880 --> 01:00:56.700
All right, friends, show up tomorrow night

1188
01:00:56.700 --> 01:00:59.540
if you wanna dig into this even more.

1189
01:00:59.540 --> 01:01:01.260
But we will go ahead and record tomorrow night

1190
01:01:01.260 --> 01:01:03.340
for those of you that can't be there live.

1191
01:01:03.340 --> 01:01:05.260
And looking forward to next week, guys,

1192
01:01:05.260 --> 01:01:06.180
some fun things ahead.

1193
01:01:06.180 --> 01:01:07.020
See you soon.