WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.820 Hi, my friends, welcome to launch your big dream course. 2 00:00:04.820 --> 00:00:09.560 My name is Jennifer Miller, and this is week three, choose your path. 3 00:00:09.560 --> 00:00:15.020 I am so excited that you are here today and we're ready to jump in. 4 00:00:15.020 --> 00:00:18.260 So this is probably my favorite week of all four weeks. 5 00:00:18.260 --> 00:00:25.120 I am a high strategic thinking, Clifton StrengthsFinder, my number one strength is strategic. 6 00:00:25.120 --> 00:00:32.240 And so it is effortless for me to get an idea or get a dream or even identify a problem 7 00:00:32.240 --> 00:00:39.120 and then quickly roadmap the milestones, the goals, the little mini steps, like exactly 8 00:00:39.120 --> 00:00:44.040 the path to take to achieve a goal or to pursue a dream. 9 00:00:44.040 --> 00:00:46.360 But that can get me in trouble. 10 00:00:46.360 --> 00:00:52.520 You see, Proverbs three, five through six says, trust in the Lord with all of your heart. 11 00:00:52.520 --> 00:00:58.600 Even not on your own understanding and in all your ways, acknowledge him and he will 12 00:00:58.600 --> 00:01:00.160 direct your path. 13 00:01:00.160 --> 00:01:06.280 You see, sometimes when we're naturally gifted as high achievers or the ability to think 14 00:01:06.280 --> 00:01:13.920 big and pursue goals or dreams, we can get ourselves in trouble because we can create 15 00:01:13.920 --> 00:01:17.680 a path or start to take action in our own strength. 16 00:01:17.680 --> 00:01:23.320 And so as we go through this week's lesson and this week's content, I'm excited to just 17 00:01:23.320 --> 00:01:28.280 invite you to partner with God, you know, look at this from a different perspective, 18 00:01:28.280 --> 00:01:33.400 not just your mind, but also your heart and ask God in the Holy Spirit, like, what is 19 00:01:33.400 --> 00:01:36.000 the path you want me to take for my dream? 20 00:01:36.000 --> 00:01:41.940 So the main points that we are going to cover today are number one, map your route. 21 00:01:41.940 --> 00:01:44.220 Number two, set smart goals. 22 00:01:44.220 --> 00:01:46.440 And number three, create many steps. 23 00:01:46.440 --> 00:01:48.260 And then we'll do some exercises. 24 00:01:48.260 --> 00:01:51.420 Okay, so mapping your route. 25 00:01:51.420 --> 00:01:57.900 Mel Robbins has this quote, a dream is a guiding beacon, pulling you towards what you want, 26 00:01:57.900 --> 00:02:03.020 while a goal is the actionable path you take to reach that dream. 27 00:02:03.020 --> 00:02:09.380 Essentially, a dream is the big picture vision and a goal is the concrete step to achieve 28 00:02:09.380 --> 00:02:13.900 it, requiring action to turn the dream into reality. 29 00:02:13.900 --> 00:02:17.220 She also says that the dream is imaginative. 30 00:02:17.220 --> 00:02:23.100 It's a feeling and you can technically just find fulfillment in dreaming. 31 00:02:23.100 --> 00:02:29.180 But if you want to achieve a dream, you actually have to bring yourself into a place of execution 32 00:02:29.180 --> 00:02:34.820 and in the natural, you know, physical abilities, set a goal so that you can achieve it. 33 00:02:34.820 --> 00:02:40.220 And so here's, you know, kind of the path I take in creating my route with God. 34 00:02:40.220 --> 00:02:44.220 First, find your starting place, you know, your starting point. 35 00:02:44.220 --> 00:02:45.540 Where are you today? 36 00:02:45.540 --> 00:02:48.300 You know, one, it's a place of finding your identity. 37 00:02:48.300 --> 00:02:50.500 Like who are you in God? 38 00:02:50.500 --> 00:02:51.980 Start with abundance. 39 00:02:51.980 --> 00:02:53.100 We talked about that. 40 00:02:53.100 --> 00:02:55.180 Like you are a daughter of God. 41 00:02:55.180 --> 00:02:57.460 You have, you are worthy in Him. 42 00:02:57.460 --> 00:02:58.460 You're valuable. 43 00:02:58.460 --> 00:03:03.540 You know, start from a place of significance, but also be honest with your starting point. 44 00:03:03.540 --> 00:03:05.220 You know, do you have clarity? 45 00:03:05.220 --> 00:03:07.500 Do you, you know, have the finances? 46 00:03:07.500 --> 00:03:13.540 Do you, you know, know the timing, like be honest with yourself about where you're starting. 47 00:03:13.540 --> 00:03:15.780 Then define your finish line. 48 00:03:15.780 --> 00:03:20.660 You see, sometimes we don't achieve goals or dreams because we continuously move the 49 00:03:20.660 --> 00:03:21.860 finish line. 50 00:03:21.860 --> 00:03:23.460 And I am notorious for that. 51 00:03:23.460 --> 00:03:27.340 I love to tweak and refine and modify. 52 00:03:27.340 --> 00:03:30.140 I've done that with this own, you know, course creation. 53 00:03:30.140 --> 00:03:33.660 I've probably changed the layout five times. 54 00:03:33.660 --> 00:03:37.860 And yet in order to achieve something, we have to be willing to really define what the 55 00:03:37.860 --> 00:03:41.500 end is so that we can reach it. 56 00:03:41.500 --> 00:03:43.820 Number three, set your divine GPS. 57 00:03:43.820 --> 00:03:45.460 Oh, I love this. 58 00:03:45.460 --> 00:03:51.740 You know, I, for some reason, just love brainstorming while I'm driving or daydreaming. 59 00:03:51.740 --> 00:03:55.340 And I start to just think, you know, in the shower or driving. 60 00:03:55.340 --> 00:04:00.300 And I frequently just pass my, you know, pass the stop that I wanted to take or the 61 00:04:00.300 --> 00:04:01.300 exit. 62 00:04:01.300 --> 00:04:06.980 And so I, even though I might be driving 10 minutes from my house, I have to set the GPS 63 00:04:06.980 --> 00:04:11.940 because if I don't do that, I'm going to end up like 10 miles down away from where I actually 64 00:04:11.940 --> 00:04:13.100 wanted to go. 65 00:04:13.100 --> 00:04:18.660 And so just like that with driving, we can absentmindedly miss the direction God has 66 00:04:18.660 --> 00:04:23.020 for us when we're not inviting him in every step of the way to direct us. 67 00:04:23.020 --> 00:04:24.660 You know, Holy Spirit guide us. 68 00:04:24.660 --> 00:04:28.740 We just talked about in the Proverbs, you know, be the one to light our step, illuminate 69 00:04:28.740 --> 00:04:31.900 the path in front of us, and then confirm your speed. 70 00:04:31.900 --> 00:04:33.820 You know, watch out for the speed limit signs. 71 00:04:33.820 --> 00:04:36.380 They can change and you don't want to get a ticket. 72 00:04:36.380 --> 00:04:40.980 But when you're pursuing your dream, what I mean by that is don't push yourself to go 73 00:04:40.980 --> 00:04:42.220 too fast. 74 00:04:42.220 --> 00:04:47.300 Make sure you're balancing, you know, at a steady pace with God so that you don't burn 75 00:04:47.300 --> 00:04:51.220 yourself out within two weeks of starting your dream journey. 76 00:04:51.460 --> 00:04:55.820 Number, you know, the next step is mark your milestones, number five. 77 00:04:55.820 --> 00:05:00.020 So we'll talk about that in just a moment, but make sure you're clear on what those 78 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:03.360 as big objectives are in order to reach your dream goal. 79 00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:07.600 And then set specific goals, or SMART goals specifically. 80 00:05:07.600 --> 00:05:10.560 And SMART goals, we'll talk about, 81 00:05:10.560 --> 00:05:14.360 but those are just very clear, time-bound, achievable. 82 00:05:14.360 --> 00:05:16.200 You know, we've all probably set them in our life, 83 00:05:16.200 --> 00:05:18.560 but those help to take the ethereal dream 84 00:05:18.560 --> 00:05:21.320 and bring it into something that you can take action on. 85 00:05:21.320 --> 00:05:24.320 And then last, create mini steps. 86 00:05:25.880 --> 00:05:27.480 Okay, so map your route. 87 00:05:27.480 --> 00:05:30.280 I'm using my own dream right now as an example 88 00:05:30.280 --> 00:05:33.520 to help you so that you know how to do this for your dreams. 89 00:05:33.520 --> 00:05:36.360 And so for me, I'm gonna start with the end in mind, 90 00:05:36.360 --> 00:05:37.200 finish line. 91 00:05:37.200 --> 00:05:39.560 What is the end of this kind of current version 92 00:05:39.560 --> 00:05:40.920 of this dream look like? 93 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:43.640 Well, for me, my dream is to create a company 94 00:05:43.640 --> 00:05:45.880 and a community that empowers women 95 00:05:45.880 --> 00:05:48.400 to achieve their dreams and prosper with God. 96 00:05:48.400 --> 00:05:51.060 I love helping women achieve dreams, 97 00:05:51.060 --> 00:05:53.360 but I also wanna create a tribe and community 98 00:05:53.360 --> 00:05:56.360 that supports women, gives them friendship 99 00:05:56.360 --> 00:05:58.280 and accountability and encouragement 100 00:05:58.280 --> 00:06:00.440 because pursuing dreams is difficult. 101 00:06:00.440 --> 00:06:04.680 And I wanna provide resources and events and services 102 00:06:04.680 --> 00:06:07.700 to be able to support their dream journey. 103 00:06:07.700 --> 00:06:09.600 Going back to my starting place, 104 00:06:09.600 --> 00:06:11.920 I write down my identity statement 105 00:06:11.920 --> 00:06:14.680 that I am a beloved daughter of God. 106 00:06:14.680 --> 00:06:18.460 I am more than enough to achieve this big dream 107 00:06:18.460 --> 00:06:20.520 because I'm empowered by Him, right? 108 00:06:20.520 --> 00:06:23.200 Okay, so the first mile marker for me 109 00:06:23.200 --> 00:06:25.280 on this dream big adventure 110 00:06:25.280 --> 00:06:28.080 was to launch this dream big course. 111 00:06:28.080 --> 00:06:31.880 In doing so, God showed me that He wanted to rebrand. 112 00:06:31.880 --> 00:06:34.440 At the time, I was, you know, my current platform 113 00:06:34.440 --> 00:06:37.080 and website and everything has been Prosper Always, 114 00:06:37.080 --> 00:06:39.960 something that I created back in 2021. 115 00:06:39.960 --> 00:06:43.680 And I felt like in this pursuit of this dream, 116 00:06:43.680 --> 00:06:47.080 God just gave me clarity as I started to take action 117 00:06:47.080 --> 00:06:50.760 that He wanted me to create a new brand and DBA it 118 00:06:50.760 --> 00:06:52.720 and to go create a new platform 119 00:06:52.720 --> 00:06:56.040 and a new brand identity under dream big adventure. 120 00:06:56.040 --> 00:06:58.880 And so now the next steps of this journey 121 00:06:58.880 --> 00:07:00.960 are for me to launch a new social media, 122 00:07:00.960 --> 00:07:03.640 finish my website, redo. 123 00:07:03.640 --> 00:07:04.760 And then with that, 124 00:07:04.760 --> 00:07:07.360 I'm launching a 12 week adventure challenge 125 00:07:07.360 --> 00:07:09.360 that kind of goes into more detail 126 00:07:09.360 --> 00:07:11.200 of how to pursue your dreams with God 127 00:07:11.200 --> 00:07:14.200 in a fun kind of girl's trip adventure way. 128 00:07:14.200 --> 00:07:17.280 And I have two kids, one's 11 and 14. 129 00:07:17.280 --> 00:07:18.760 And so God showed me He wants me 130 00:07:18.760 --> 00:07:20.680 to create a kid's version of this, 131 00:07:21.480 --> 00:07:23.040 kind of the dream big explorers. 132 00:07:23.040 --> 00:07:25.720 So they too can know who they are in God. 133 00:07:25.720 --> 00:07:27.000 After that's done, 134 00:07:27.000 --> 00:07:30.760 God showed me He wanted me to relaunch my podcast, 135 00:07:30.760 --> 00:07:32.920 but more so in a style of dreaming big 136 00:07:32.920 --> 00:07:34.600 with adventures with God. 137 00:07:34.600 --> 00:07:37.760 And then I've started on a book and guide book 138 00:07:37.760 --> 00:07:40.000 and He wants me to finish that. 139 00:07:40.000 --> 00:07:42.560 And then last, I have this dream with God 140 00:07:42.560 --> 00:07:45.200 to actually start hosting dream big adventure trips 141 00:07:45.200 --> 00:07:48.480 for women and that just to build community, 142 00:07:48.520 --> 00:07:50.880 but also a time of refreshing and relaxing 143 00:07:50.880 --> 00:07:52.120 and dreaming big with God. 144 00:07:52.120 --> 00:07:54.600 And so these are the milestones for this year 145 00:07:54.600 --> 00:07:56.760 that I feel like God wants me to take. 146 00:07:56.760 --> 00:07:59.320 Okay, so now that we've mapped our route, 147 00:07:59.320 --> 00:08:02.600 then we actually take those and create SMART goals. 148 00:08:02.600 --> 00:08:05.120 So SMART goals are specific. 149 00:08:05.120 --> 00:08:08.040 You know, you narrow it down and you're detailed. 150 00:08:08.040 --> 00:08:09.040 They're measurable. 151 00:08:09.040 --> 00:08:10.640 You know, when you hit them again, 152 00:08:10.640 --> 00:08:12.400 that's like, what is done look like? 153 00:08:12.400 --> 00:08:13.840 What is the finish line? 154 00:08:13.840 --> 00:08:15.960 They're achievable with God. 155 00:08:15.960 --> 00:08:17.760 And then four, they're relevant, 156 00:08:17.760 --> 00:08:21.720 meaning they support your end goal and dream. 157 00:08:21.720 --> 00:08:23.840 And then last, they're time bound, 158 00:08:23.840 --> 00:08:26.320 meaning you have a specific date and time 159 00:08:26.320 --> 00:08:28.440 of when you actually wanna achieve them. 160 00:08:28.440 --> 00:08:31.800 Tony Robbins says, setting goals is the first step 161 00:08:31.800 --> 00:08:34.640 in turning the invisible into the visible. 162 00:08:35.760 --> 00:08:38.320 Gary Keller, who wrote the One Thing book, 163 00:08:38.320 --> 00:08:41.720 he talks about, you know, hyper-focusing on dominoes 164 00:08:41.720 --> 00:08:44.760 and, you know, figure out what's the first domino 165 00:08:44.760 --> 00:08:47.880 that will then, you know, knock over the next bigger domino 166 00:08:47.880 --> 00:08:49.560 and the next bigger domino. 167 00:08:49.560 --> 00:08:51.960 And, you know, his book is really good, 168 00:08:51.960 --> 00:08:53.760 you know, called The One Thing. 169 00:08:53.760 --> 00:08:55.680 So he quotes, or his quote is, 170 00:08:55.680 --> 00:08:58.760 extraordinary results are directly determined 171 00:08:58.760 --> 00:09:01.160 by how narrow you can make your focus. 172 00:09:01.160 --> 00:09:04.480 When you spread yourself out, you end up spread thin. 173 00:09:04.480 --> 00:09:05.880 And I am guilty of that. 174 00:09:05.880 --> 00:09:09.400 Man, someone who is high with ideation, which is me, 175 00:09:09.400 --> 00:09:11.560 and just always sees possibilities, 176 00:09:11.560 --> 00:09:14.520 I start getting into a dream and all of a sudden I'm like, 177 00:09:15.280 --> 00:09:17.120 oh, I could start that company or what about this? 178 00:09:17.120 --> 00:09:18.600 And I could write these 10 books 179 00:09:18.600 --> 00:09:21.240 or I could create these 10 courses. 180 00:09:21.240 --> 00:09:23.120 And my brain can just, you know, 181 00:09:23.120 --> 00:09:26.080 because I'm in this process of creating with God 182 00:09:26.080 --> 00:09:29.960 and inspiration, I can start getting all of these ideas. 183 00:09:29.960 --> 00:09:33.600 And, you know, this is the time to really narrow in 184 00:09:33.600 --> 00:09:35.000 on what God has for you, 185 00:09:35.000 --> 00:09:37.560 where the territory he wants you to go possess 186 00:09:37.560 --> 00:09:39.440 and to take and to take dominion of, 187 00:09:39.440 --> 00:09:42.040 and to not allow yourself to be distracted 188 00:09:42.040 --> 00:09:44.960 by all the, you know, what if possibilities, 189 00:09:44.960 --> 00:09:47.840 asking for discernment about any of those 190 00:09:47.840 --> 00:09:50.640 that should be, you know, just ignored 191 00:09:50.640 --> 00:09:52.320 or saved for a later day. 192 00:09:52.320 --> 00:09:55.360 And so this process of setting smart goals with God 193 00:09:55.360 --> 00:09:58.040 allows you to narrow down on the roadmap 194 00:09:58.040 --> 00:10:00.280 and the milestones that he wants you to take. 195 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:04.740 So specifically, you know, these are the questions that are going to be your exercise questions 196 00:10:04.740 --> 00:10:05.740 this week. 197 00:10:05.740 --> 00:10:10.680 But, you know, as for specific, what dream goal does God want you to achieve first? 198 00:10:10.680 --> 00:10:11.680 Measurable. 199 00:10:11.680 --> 00:10:13.460 How will I know when I've reached this goal? 200 00:10:13.460 --> 00:10:15.100 What does done look like? 201 00:10:15.100 --> 00:10:16.600 Last, achievable. 202 00:10:16.600 --> 00:10:19.860 Is this goal achievable with God's help? 203 00:10:19.860 --> 00:10:22.180 Then is it, you know, relatable? 204 00:10:22.180 --> 00:10:24.460 Why is this goal important? 205 00:10:24.460 --> 00:10:26.740 You know, you need to, you don't just do something to do it. 206 00:10:26.740 --> 00:10:31.500 You know, ask God, if you're not clear, Hey, why, why am I supposed to do this goal for 207 00:10:31.500 --> 00:10:32.500 me? 208 00:10:32.500 --> 00:10:37.420 You know, again, I'm like, okay, God, like I just finished, you know, upgrading my website 209 00:10:37.420 --> 00:10:42.380 and launching social media consistently, you know, all of these things under my current, 210 00:10:42.380 --> 00:10:43.380 you know, platform. 211 00:10:43.380 --> 00:10:46.640 God, why do you want me to start over and do all of this? 212 00:10:46.640 --> 00:10:51.440 And he showed me that, you know, I started prosper always back in 2021, right after my 213 00:10:51.440 --> 00:10:53.420 father passed away. 214 00:10:53.420 --> 00:10:57.500 And so even though, you know, it was close to my heart and I've put a lot of effort into 215 00:10:57.500 --> 00:11:02.860 it, there was these roots of, of grief that I haven't, you know, fully been able to kind 216 00:11:02.860 --> 00:11:09.060 of move past, um, in, in this, you know, way of being able to create and to go after this 217 00:11:09.060 --> 00:11:10.060 dream. 218 00:11:10.060 --> 00:11:12.260 And so God said, Hey, I have a new dream for you. 219 00:11:12.260 --> 00:11:17.000 You know, dream big adventure, which, um, is just this fun idea of pursuing our dreams 220 00:11:17.000 --> 00:11:20.760 with God in a light and easy kind of girl strip adventure way. 221 00:11:20.760 --> 00:11:26.360 And he wants me to enter a season of just joy and fun and help the women around me to 222 00:11:26.360 --> 00:11:27.620 do that as well. 223 00:11:27.620 --> 00:11:32.200 And so that's my why, you know, is to lay down in obedience, something that he's asking 224 00:11:32.200 --> 00:11:36.960 me to do, and then to pick up something new, not out of like failure for not doing the 225 00:11:36.960 --> 00:11:40.760 first thing, but because obedience, God rewards that. 226 00:11:40.760 --> 00:11:45.460 And sometimes there could be, you know, goals that you have that you're not seeing the fruit 227 00:11:45.460 --> 00:11:47.160 or God blessing. 228 00:11:47.160 --> 00:11:51.520 And it's because he's wanting you to do something new and let go of the previous season of a 229 00:11:51.520 --> 00:11:53.280 word that he might've given you. 230 00:11:53.280 --> 00:11:54.280 Okay. 231 00:11:54.280 --> 00:11:55.920 Last, what is the timeline for this goal? 232 00:11:55.920 --> 00:11:58.600 You know, ask God, is this a now word? 233 00:11:58.600 --> 00:12:03.080 You know, there have been dreams that God gave me from 10 years ago that I'm just now 234 00:12:03.080 --> 00:12:05.420 starting to step into. 235 00:12:05.420 --> 00:12:08.240 And I tried thinking that, Oh, this is from God. 236 00:12:08.240 --> 00:12:09.460 I need to do it. 237 00:12:09.460 --> 00:12:16.640 And what's funny is I had LOCs that I started in Texas, maybe six or so years ago, and they 238 00:12:17.120 --> 00:12:18.120 didn't go anywhere. 239 00:12:18.120 --> 00:12:19.120 Like I started them. 240 00:12:19.120 --> 00:12:20.120 I'm like, I have this dream from God. 241 00:12:20.120 --> 00:12:21.120 I'm starting these LOCs. 242 00:12:21.120 --> 00:12:22.120 I bought the domain. 243 00:12:22.120 --> 00:12:23.120 I built the website. 244 00:12:23.120 --> 00:12:25.800 And then God's like, Nope, not the right timing. 245 00:12:25.800 --> 00:12:27.280 And so they laid there dormant. 246 00:12:27.280 --> 00:12:29.880 And part of me was frustrated, you know, like, God, what the heck? 247 00:12:29.880 --> 00:12:33.200 Like you gave me this dream and I took action on it. 248 00:12:33.200 --> 00:12:34.200 Nothing's happening. 249 00:12:34.200 --> 00:12:39.840 And now I'm seeing God actually starting to fulfill those words from years ago. 250 00:12:39.840 --> 00:12:41.360 Okay. 251 00:12:41.360 --> 00:12:42.560 Step number three. 252 00:12:42.560 --> 00:12:44.440 So create mini steps. 253 00:12:44.440 --> 00:12:49.840 Greg McCohen wrote a book called Essentialism followed by a book called Effortless. 254 00:12:49.840 --> 00:12:53.480 If you haven't read Effortless out of anything this week, read Effortless. 255 00:12:53.480 --> 00:12:54.480 It is amazing. 256 00:12:54.480 --> 00:13:01.280 And he talks about the fact that so often we try to do things too complicated and too 257 00:13:01.280 --> 00:13:07.240 hard, but in order to achieve great things, how can we make it easy, simple, fun, and 258 00:13:07.240 --> 00:13:09.520 in his book title Effortless. 259 00:13:09.520 --> 00:13:11.040 And so this is his quote. 260 00:13:11.040 --> 00:13:16.520 What if the biggest thing keeping us from doing what matters is the false assumption 261 00:13:16.520 --> 00:13:19.520 that it has to take tremendous effort? 262 00:13:19.520 --> 00:13:25.640 What if instead we consider the possibility that the reason something feels hard is that 263 00:13:25.640 --> 00:13:29.440 we haven't yet found the easier way to do it. 264 00:13:29.440 --> 00:13:34.440 And so reading, rereading his book, you know, this past weekend just reminded me again, 265 00:13:34.440 --> 00:13:37.320 you know, sometimes we make life hard with God. 266 00:13:37.320 --> 00:13:41.880 You know, we just think this lie that, oh, in order to like, you know, be blessed or 267 00:13:41.880 --> 00:13:47.240 to do God's will, it has to be the cost and the pain and that can happen, you know, that 268 00:13:47.240 --> 00:13:48.240 does happen, right? 269 00:13:48.240 --> 00:13:52.000 God says, you know, that like him, we're going to bear cross and we're going to, you know, 270 00:13:52.000 --> 00:13:54.280 be persecuted and there's going to be trials. 271 00:13:54.280 --> 00:13:55.880 So not diminishing that. 272 00:13:55.880 --> 00:14:01.280 But I also think that we in and of ourselves can make things way more difficult because 273 00:14:01.280 --> 00:14:03.360 we're thinking it should be. 274 00:14:03.400 --> 00:14:09.080 And we create, you know, we go from like complexity and chaos and the creative cycle versus flowing 275 00:14:09.080 --> 00:14:13.960 with the Holy Spirit and doing things in an easy, simple way. 276 00:14:13.960 --> 00:14:18.880 So these are some steps from his book, kind of adjusted for my own lingo, but number one 277 00:14:18.880 --> 00:14:21.000 is define what done looks like. 278 00:14:21.000 --> 00:14:24.560 Again, the finish line, where is your end goal? 279 00:14:24.560 --> 00:14:28.880 You know, if you're starting to run a race or a marathon and you keep seeing that end 280 00:14:28.880 --> 00:14:33.920 flag keep moving, you know, the thing that you need to run through that finish line 281 00:14:33.920 --> 00:14:34.920 ribbon. 282 00:14:34.920 --> 00:14:38.800 I mean, that would be so discouraging or, you know, you tell your kids that they need 283 00:14:38.800 --> 00:14:43.120 to do something in their room and do some chores and you keep adding every time they 284 00:14:43.120 --> 00:14:47.080 come back to you and tell you that that chore is done, you know, and you're like, oh, and 285 00:14:47.080 --> 00:14:49.080 another one and another one and another one. 286 00:14:49.080 --> 00:14:51.880 And man, like I'm guilty of doing that occasionally. 287 00:14:51.880 --> 00:14:55.160 And you know, that's so discouraging, right? 288 00:14:55.160 --> 00:14:59.400 For a kid who is excited that they've been able to accomplish something and they think 289 00:14:59.400 --> 00:15:00.120 that they're done. 290 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:01.600 So don't do that to yourself, right? 291 00:15:01.600 --> 00:15:03.480 You wouldn't want to do that to your kids, 292 00:15:03.480 --> 00:15:05.600 so don't treat yourself that way. 293 00:15:05.600 --> 00:15:07.800 So define what done looks like. 294 00:15:07.800 --> 00:15:09.600 Second, start with the first thing. 295 00:15:09.600 --> 00:15:11.480 This goes back to the other book, 296 00:15:11.480 --> 00:15:14.580 the one thing and that one domino. 297 00:15:14.580 --> 00:15:16.800 So start with the first thing. 298 00:15:16.800 --> 00:15:20.700 So often we don't actually accomplish our goals 299 00:15:20.700 --> 00:15:22.600 because they feel overwhelming. 300 00:15:22.600 --> 00:15:24.680 We're like, oh, all these milestones 301 00:15:24.680 --> 00:15:25.680 and I need to do the website 302 00:15:25.680 --> 00:15:28.280 at the same time of doing the social media 303 00:15:28.280 --> 00:15:29.580 and I need to be writing my book 304 00:15:29.580 --> 00:15:31.420 and I need to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? 305 00:15:31.420 --> 00:15:35.040 Like we just create chaos and overwhelm. 306 00:15:35.040 --> 00:15:38.140 But stepping back, like if you don't accomplish 307 00:15:38.140 --> 00:15:40.580 the first thing, what's the point of all the others? 308 00:15:40.580 --> 00:15:43.100 You know, just do the, be faithful. 309 00:15:43.100 --> 00:15:44.560 You know, God says be faithful a little 310 00:15:44.560 --> 00:15:45.860 and he'll give you more. 311 00:15:45.860 --> 00:15:47.860 You know, be faithful with where you're starting. 312 00:15:47.860 --> 00:15:51.180 Do it, you know, well, but don't overdo it. 313 00:15:51.180 --> 00:15:54.300 Finish that thing and then move on to the next thing. 314 00:15:54.300 --> 00:15:57.000 And so that goes back to simplify the process. 315 00:15:57.000 --> 00:15:59.080 What are the minimum number of steps 316 00:15:59.580 --> 00:16:02.280 that you need to take in order to get something achieved? 317 00:16:02.280 --> 00:16:04.960 He has a funny quote in his book, Effortless, 318 00:16:04.960 --> 00:16:07.440 like be willing to birth an ugly baby. 319 00:16:07.440 --> 00:16:11.280 In other words, don't try to have this thing be perfect. 320 00:16:11.280 --> 00:16:13.520 You know, don't have it be so complicated 321 00:16:13.520 --> 00:16:17.560 that it's too difficult for you to, you know, to achieve. 322 00:16:17.560 --> 00:16:20.140 Like have something where it's like not even draft one, 323 00:16:20.140 --> 00:16:22.360 but draft zero, like produce an ugly book, 324 00:16:22.360 --> 00:16:24.880 produce an ugly course, produce an ugly website. 325 00:16:24.880 --> 00:16:26.880 And then you can tweak it, 326 00:16:26.880 --> 00:16:29.120 but it's so much easier to achieve something 327 00:16:29.120 --> 00:16:32.240 if all you're doing is fine tuning and refining 328 00:16:32.240 --> 00:16:35.320 than never actually accomplishing version one. 329 00:16:35.320 --> 00:16:38.000 And then he talks about slow and steady pace. 330 00:16:38.000 --> 00:16:39.840 And we talked about that before, you know, 331 00:16:39.840 --> 00:16:42.380 the Holy Spirit and God, they're not in a hurry. 332 00:16:42.380 --> 00:16:44.240 I mean, you look at the stories in the Bible 333 00:16:44.240 --> 00:16:46.780 and they give someone a, you know, a calling 334 00:16:46.780 --> 00:16:48.840 or, you know, anoint David King, 335 00:16:48.840 --> 00:16:52.240 or, you know, call someone into, you know, Moses. 336 00:16:52.240 --> 00:16:54.800 And they're like, and there's a process, right? 337 00:16:54.880 --> 00:16:58.040 And so remembering that this whole journey with God 338 00:16:58.040 --> 00:17:00.920 to pursue your dreams is about your faith 339 00:17:00.920 --> 00:17:04.560 and your relationship with him and refining your character. 340 00:17:04.560 --> 00:17:07.520 And so there are times where there's going to be delays 341 00:17:07.520 --> 00:17:10.839 and setbacks and struggles, or God tells you just like, 342 00:17:10.839 --> 00:17:13.440 hey, you know what, the next few weeks seek me, 343 00:17:13.440 --> 00:17:15.480 you know, stop, we're gonna just like pause. 344 00:17:15.480 --> 00:17:18.839 And so being sensitive to the cadence of the Holy Spirit, 345 00:17:18.839 --> 00:17:20.680 but also not pushing yourself. 346 00:17:20.680 --> 00:17:23.359 So, you know, Greg McCohen talks about 347 00:17:23.359 --> 00:17:24.760 setting mins and maxes. 348 00:17:24.760 --> 00:17:28.160 Like I will at least put in 10 minutes a day of effort. 349 00:17:28.160 --> 00:17:31.640 And at the maximum, I'm gonna put in two hours of effort, 350 00:17:31.640 --> 00:17:32.920 or I'm gonna write this book 351 00:17:32.920 --> 00:17:36.880 and I'm gonna do 500 words minimum and 1000 words maximum. 352 00:17:36.880 --> 00:17:39.440 Because what you don't wanna do is put all your effort in, 353 00:17:39.440 --> 00:17:41.160 like work a 12 hour day, 354 00:17:41.160 --> 00:17:43.560 and then you have to take the rest of the week off. 355 00:17:43.560 --> 00:17:46.480 And when you create these weird cadences 356 00:17:46.480 --> 00:17:49.400 of like tons of effort, no effort, tons of effort, 357 00:17:49.400 --> 00:17:52.320 the odds are you're not going to actually achieve your goal. 358 00:17:52.320 --> 00:17:54.000 You need to actually be that turtle, 359 00:17:54.000 --> 00:17:55.800 the slow and steady pace. 360 00:17:56.960 --> 00:17:59.920 And then we talked about this with the ugly baby, 361 00:17:59.920 --> 00:18:03.600 but progress, not perfection, like stop tinkering. 362 00:18:03.600 --> 00:18:05.520 And I do this all the time, right? 363 00:18:05.520 --> 00:18:09.320 I'll start to write a book or create a course or a product. 364 00:18:09.320 --> 00:18:11.560 And I'm constantly refining, oh, the hex codes 365 00:18:11.560 --> 00:18:13.120 and the colors and the fonts. 366 00:18:13.120 --> 00:18:15.560 And what if I could add a different picture here? 367 00:18:15.560 --> 00:18:20.560 Like just stop, hands off, like make this, you know, finish. 368 00:18:21.000 --> 00:18:23.720 And I actually did that today and hurt myself. 369 00:18:23.720 --> 00:18:27.800 Like I was making soup and it tasted absolutely amazing. 370 00:18:27.800 --> 00:18:29.320 And then I started to think, 371 00:18:29.320 --> 00:18:32.840 hmm, I was making some keto gumbo, like healthy gumbo. 372 00:18:32.840 --> 00:18:36.200 And I was like, I could just add a smidge more, 373 00:18:36.200 --> 00:18:38.480 you know, chicken, you know, stock to this. 374 00:18:38.480 --> 00:18:40.160 And it would probably be like perfect, right? 375 00:18:40.160 --> 00:18:42.080 It was like 99% there. 376 00:18:42.080 --> 00:18:45.400 So I go and I open the jar and I'm like trying to go stir it. 377 00:18:45.400 --> 00:18:47.560 And all of a sudden I realized I put my hands 378 00:18:47.560 --> 00:18:50.240 on the left burner that had just been on. 379 00:18:50.920 --> 00:18:53.160 And I burnt my two fingers like really bad. 380 00:18:53.160 --> 00:18:56.720 And I was laughing at like the direct correlation 381 00:18:56.720 --> 00:18:58.880 to what I'm creating in this course. 382 00:18:58.880 --> 00:19:01.600 And that we can get burned when we constantly 383 00:19:01.600 --> 00:19:05.000 try to keep tinkering versus letting something be done at, 384 00:19:05.000 --> 00:19:08.160 you know, the 80-20 rule or 90% good enough. 385 00:19:08.160 --> 00:19:10.000 Like just stop there. 386 00:19:10.000 --> 00:19:11.680 Like don't keep trying for perfection 387 00:19:11.680 --> 00:19:14.000 because often going for perfection ruins the thing 388 00:19:14.000 --> 00:19:14.840 that you're creating. 389 00:19:14.840 --> 00:19:16.240 Now my soup's not ruined, thankfully. 390 00:19:16.240 --> 00:19:17.760 It's delicious and yummy. 391 00:19:17.760 --> 00:19:20.960 But I do have like two fingers that really hurt right now. 392 00:19:20.960 --> 00:19:22.880 And it's a really good lesson for me to learn 393 00:19:22.880 --> 00:19:25.200 of like stop while you're ahead. 394 00:19:25.200 --> 00:19:28.120 And then last, set those clear and easy steps. 395 00:19:28.120 --> 00:19:30.160 And we're gonna talk about this next. 396 00:19:30.160 --> 00:19:33.400 But going back to what does 10 or 15 minutes look like? 397 00:19:33.400 --> 00:19:36.240 And if you can't achieve something in 10 or 15 minutes, 398 00:19:36.240 --> 00:19:38.060 then the step is too big. 399 00:19:38.060 --> 00:19:41.400 Meaning if it's gonna take you an hour to do that, 400 00:19:41.400 --> 00:19:43.320 then you actually need to rewrite that step 401 00:19:43.320 --> 00:19:46.360 into a 10 or 15 minute chunk. 402 00:19:46.360 --> 00:19:49.240 And they should be like microbursts or mini steps 403 00:19:49.240 --> 00:19:52.780 and think about like what is the next step you need to take? 404 00:19:55.080 --> 00:19:57.720 So I came up with this little saying, you know, 405 00:19:57.720 --> 00:20:00.160 map it, milestone it, mini step it. 406 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:04.560 You know, you can kind of add some like groovy music to it, and that just gets in my mind of 407 00:20:04.560 --> 00:20:09.840 like how you're going to achieve your goals and your dreams with God. So on the left, you know, 408 00:20:09.840 --> 00:20:16.800 the dream is the big end, you know, destination, that finish line. The milestone are the six to 409 00:20:16.800 --> 00:20:22.560 eight or however many God says of those milestones that you need to take, the big deliverables. 410 00:20:22.560 --> 00:20:28.400 And then the smart goals are underneath each of those milestones. So for example, on the right, 411 00:20:28.400 --> 00:20:33.920 we're going to go through my next milestone. And then you create simple mini steps that should be 412 00:20:33.920 --> 00:20:40.400 able to be done in about 10 or 15 minutes. So if my big goal, again, is to create a company and 413 00:20:40.400 --> 00:20:45.920 community empowers women to achieve their dreams and prosper, then, you know, now that I've 414 00:20:45.920 --> 00:20:50.400 accomplished this course, my next milestone is launching my new social media platform. 415 00:20:50.400 --> 00:20:56.160 So then to make it a smart goal, well, I'm going to launch my social media platform on March 10, 416 00:20:56.160 --> 00:21:02.720 and start to post once daily. So going to simple mini steps, there's nine of them, you know, number 417 00:21:02.720 --> 00:21:07.840 one would be finalize the branding to create a social media content, three, set up new social 418 00:21:07.840 --> 00:21:13.280 media accounts, and you can read the rest of it. But then underneath number one, you actually start 419 00:21:13.280 --> 00:21:18.320 to break those out. And those become your, you know, from steps to mini steps. So I need to 420 00:21:18.320 --> 00:21:22.560 confirm the look and the feel, which I've done, you can kind of see it here in some of this branding, 421 00:21:22.560 --> 00:21:28.560 selecting the colors, fonts, and icons basically done, design my logo variations. So you should 422 00:21:28.560 --> 00:21:33.040 have like three logo variations with your, you know, favorite con and the little icons. 423 00:21:33.040 --> 00:21:37.280 And then I need to export the logos and then create templates for social media. So to be honest, 424 00:21:37.280 --> 00:21:44.000 the only part I still need to do is D and E of this step. And that to me feels way overwhelming, 425 00:21:44.000 --> 00:21:49.360 then I need to launch social media by March 10. And so doing this really gives you traction and 426 00:21:49.360 --> 00:21:55.920 empowers you to be able to take clear, concise action. And then from here, you actually put it 427 00:21:55.920 --> 00:22:02.320 on a calendar. You know, you write, I do a lot of things in Excel. So I create 30 day Excel calendar 428 00:22:02.320 --> 00:22:07.600 templates. And I put, you know, the date and the day of the week. And I go and like, this is the 429 00:22:07.600 --> 00:22:12.960 one thing, the one thing that I need to accomplish that day. What often happens is by saying I only 430 00:22:12.960 --> 00:22:18.880 have to accomplish one thing, I end up accomplishing a lot more. But if I were to write that I was going 431 00:22:18.880 --> 00:22:24.480 to do all 10 of these steps in a day or in a week, I probably wouldn't take any action because 432 00:22:24.480 --> 00:22:29.680 it would feel too overwhelming. But taking the first action step, open up the door for you to 433 00:22:29.680 --> 00:22:36.000 actually take more. And again, all of this do an alignment with your heart, with how you're feeling, 434 00:22:36.000 --> 00:22:42.880 you know, as a woman, man, my creative cycle, I have to align with my, you know, period cycle, 435 00:22:42.880 --> 00:22:49.760 like, maybe a little TMI. But I know that the first part of my cycle, wow, I am like high energy, 436 00:22:49.760 --> 00:22:57.120 motivated, you know, can clearly hear God, like I am in a good place. So I purposely try to align 437 00:22:57.120 --> 00:23:02.160 kind of big bursts of creativity around that time, close to when I'm about to start my period, 438 00:23:02.800 --> 00:23:08.720 I am tired, I'm grumpy, you know, I'm hungry, like, that is not the time to try to launch 439 00:23:08.720 --> 00:23:15.120 something, you know, at the very end of my cycle. And so as a woman, like, be aware of that, like, 440 00:23:15.120 --> 00:23:20.800 honor your body, honor your hormones, like, honor how God made you. And then look at your family, 441 00:23:20.800 --> 00:23:24.640 you know, their needs come first, like, you make sure that you're aligning all of this in 442 00:23:24.640 --> 00:23:30.240 accordance to, you know, who God created you to be the priorities of your family, and then also 443 00:23:30.240 --> 00:23:37.120 your body and take time to rest. Okay, so that concludes, you know, for the most part, what we 444 00:23:37.120 --> 00:23:43.040 just talked through. Again, here's some book recommendations. Effortless, we talked about the 445 00:23:43.040 --> 00:23:48.960 one thing, and then obviously a classic Atomic Habits, you know, setting those little habits 446 00:23:48.960 --> 00:23:55.680 connected to rituals to make them easier for you to do. I love Ziegler, he has amazing books, 447 00:23:55.680 --> 00:24:00.880 the one he has on goals that kind of helps you identify how to achieve things. And then Mel Robbins, 448 00:24:00.880 --> 00:24:05.360 I talked, I had one of her quotes at the beginning, she wrote a book called Five Second Rule. 449 00:24:05.360 --> 00:24:09.200 And, you know, this book, if you haven't read it, you know, her new book, Let Them Theory, 450 00:24:09.200 --> 00:24:15.040 has come out. But this book talks about if you feel immobilized by fear or, you know, resistance 451 00:24:15.040 --> 00:24:19.920 or taking action, just start to count down from, like, five, four, three, two, one, and take action. 452 00:24:19.920 --> 00:24:24.080 And she has the whole science backed by it, but that's a fun book, too, to just help you, like, 453 00:24:24.800 --> 00:24:30.720 push past, you know, the inertia and actually start taking action. Okay, so the exercises for 454 00:24:30.720 --> 00:24:36.080 this week, I'm incredibly excited for you guys to do these exercises, they're in your workbook. 455 00:24:36.080 --> 00:24:40.160 So start on it, starting on the left is the map your route, take time with God, 456 00:24:40.960 --> 00:24:46.320 go through, you know, define your finish line, what done looks like, write down a sentence of 457 00:24:46.320 --> 00:24:50.960 your starting place, and then go through, you know, you can write this on paper, do it in Excel, 458 00:24:50.960 --> 00:24:56.000 use this, you know, template if you want to go through and list at least, you know, 459 00:24:56.000 --> 00:24:59.840 four to six different milestones that you're going to achieve that 460 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:06.400 going to help you get to your dream goal and dream destination. Okay, then take the first one 461 00:25:07.120 --> 00:25:12.560 and then create a smart action goal around that, you know, and make it time bound. Like what date 462 00:25:12.560 --> 00:25:18.480 are you going to get this first thing done and why is it important? You know, is it attainable 463 00:25:18.480 --> 00:25:23.760 or achievable with God? How do I measure what done looks like not just in the big, you know, 464 00:25:23.760 --> 00:25:29.840 dream destination finish but specifically that first milestone? And then you have a 30-day 465 00:25:29.840 --> 00:25:33.440 mini action plan. You know, it can be the first day of the month, the first, you know, starting 466 00:25:33.440 --> 00:25:40.000 today, whatever day you want to use this and map out like, hey, what is one thing I'm going to do? 467 00:25:40.000 --> 00:25:44.960 Now, you should be taking one day a week, preferably Sunday, Saturday, whatever day, 468 00:25:44.960 --> 00:25:49.520 and having a Sabbath and day with God where you're not taking action on your dream. But that day, 469 00:25:49.520 --> 00:25:54.800 your action goal can be, I'm going to rest, I'm going to journal with God, I'm going to read my 470 00:25:54.800 --> 00:25:59.040 Bible, you know, I'm going to go to church, I'm going to connect with a friend. Like spending 471 00:25:59.040 --> 00:26:04.560 time resting is action. It's, you know, making sure that you're prioritizing your well-being, 472 00:26:04.560 --> 00:26:09.840 going to the gym, like all these things are important, not just the tangible checklist 473 00:26:09.840 --> 00:26:15.440 that you're achieving towards your dream. And so make sure you're encompassing date nights or, 474 00:26:15.440 --> 00:26:21.280 you know, time with friends or time to slow down and honor your body and God and your spirit. 475 00:26:21.280 --> 00:26:26.160 But also put in here a goal every day for 30 days of what you're going to take action on. 476 00:26:27.040 --> 00:26:33.280 Okay, my friends, I am so excited for you to be starting to take action and starting to, 477 00:26:33.280 --> 00:26:38.480 you know, clarify your dream and put things down for goals. Next week, we're going to talk about 478 00:26:38.480 --> 00:26:44.080 courageously taking action and taking everything that we have done here and putting it into action 479 00:26:44.080 --> 00:26:49.440 with God and co-creating with the Holy Spirit. So I want to pray for you before we go and just 480 00:26:49.440 --> 00:26:55.360 to bless you. And so God, I bless my friends right now in the name of Jesus, Lord, that you would 481 00:26:55.360 --> 00:27:01.520 meet them in the strategic planning phase of their dream. God, that you would give them clear 482 00:27:01.520 --> 00:27:07.680 milestones and the goals that you have for them and the actions that they can take in faith to 483 00:27:07.680 --> 00:27:15.040 move from any place of fear or resistance, God, to taking steps with you and to boldly going after 484 00:27:15.040 --> 00:27:19.920 their dream and the territory and promised land that you have given to them. Lord, I pray for you 485 00:27:19.920 --> 00:27:26.320 to give them creativity, for you to give them peace and show them the easy, effortless, and fun path 486 00:27:26.320 --> 00:27:32.960 that you want them to take in Jesus name. Amen. All right. Bye my friends. See you next week.