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Alright, welcome you guys to a PATH session.

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We haven't had one in a while and we're going to have one tonight because God wants us to.

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That's why.

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Because we really need to get unstuck and we've been talking a lot in Supernatural Saturday

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about hitting limits and we're going to talk about that as it pertains to our love lives.

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You can apply everything that I've taught in the last couple Supernatural Saturdays

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to your whole life, okay?

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But tonight we're going to apply it to our love lives because it's important that we

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get ready for what's coming.

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I'm expecting exponential increase.

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I don't know about you, but that's what I'm expecting.

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I feel like there's a shift.

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I do.

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And so I'm going to add my faith to yours and we're going to believe for some amazing

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momentum.

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You guys, we're in wedding season right now and there's an engagement announcement every

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week.

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There's a wedding invitation every week.

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There's wedding pictures every week.

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You know, we're just in that season of time, like in our community.

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All kinds of our community, all kinds of people in our community are in Symbus.

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People are getting engaged.

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People are getting married.

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People that got engaged last season are getting married this season.

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That is what's happening.

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And so I'm surrounded by it.

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So it's not hard for me to not, it's not hard for me to have faith.

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It would be hard for me to not have faith because it's got a front row seat.

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But at the same time, I know what God told me in 2020 when he asked me if I would partner

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with this, when he invited me to become, you know, the matchmaker with him.

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I was already the matchmaker, but to be his matchmaker, to partner with him as a matchmaker

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and as a coach and as a, as a, you know, a heartwork practitioner, you know, when he

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asked me to specifically focus on you guys, his single sons and daughters, I know what

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he showed me.

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And even though we've had over 1600, probably closer to 2000 success stories now, it hasn't

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happened yet.

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What he showed me hasn't happened.

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I feel like what we've seen is the former rain.

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Now I need the latter rain and we need them both at the same time.

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And I really believe that we're going to have that.

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And so I'm believing for that tsunami wave of kingdom marriages.

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But I also know that we need to be ready for that.

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And there's a lot of you that if love knocked on your door tomorrow, you might just keep

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the door shut and you don't know that about yourself because you don't know your subcom,

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your subconscious limits.

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And so I want to talk about that.

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I want to teach about that.

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We do a lot of activations.

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Go ahead and get something to write with because there's a lot of questions that if you don't

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answer them tonight, you're going to answer them at some point.

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And I really want to encourage you to dig into this with Holy Spirit.

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Consider this, you know, your heart work, advanced heart work, okay?

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Because you need to dig into this.

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Every single one of you needs to dig into this.

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I will tell you that I believe that when God is ready to shift us, when he is ready to

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move us, when he is ready to offer us or invite us into something new, he seeds that.

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He seeds that.

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And I think he seeds it for a while.

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And you know why?

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Because I think he knows how stubborn we are really, honestly.

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He knows how hardheaded we can be.

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He knows how, you know, he said to his, Jesus said to his own disciples, you know, like

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you have little faith.

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What the heck?

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You've been with me this whole time.

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You've seen all the things that I've done and you still don't believe what's going on,

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right?

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What is that?

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That's the human condition.

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Sorry guys, I'm leaning forward because this is so far away from me now.

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My husband moved it.

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He's like, I can't reach it.

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So, but I do have the comments right here.

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I always tell him, I'm so, I want to see the comments.

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So he has them right here for me.

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So that's great.

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But now your faces are far away.

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So fix one thing, kind of change another, but he knows what we're like, he knows.

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He told you that in your flesh, there's going to be what death.

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There's going to be death in your flesh.

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And that doesn't mean just physical death.

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That means death to his ideas, to his ways, to opportunities.

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There's going to be death.

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If you follow your flesh, there's going to be death.

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There's going to be fallout.

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There's going to be loss and lack.

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There's going to be all of that.

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But if we fall after the spirit, we're going to have life and shalom.

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I think we kind of downplay peace a lot.

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Peace.

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Oh yes.

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Peace.

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Just being chill, feeling relaxed, not have any worries.

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No y'all shalom is a war word.

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It's a worrying word.

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It means devouring the chaos and confusion.

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That's what it means and so following after the spirit is life and shalom.

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That's a horse of a different color, right?

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All right, so we are going to press into our subconscious limitations. Do you want to do that?

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Of course you don't but we're going to do it anyway because we need to do it.

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Each and every one of us

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And this kind of advanced heart work because it plays into along the lines of heart work. I'm gonna pray first father

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God, I just thank you. We cannot receive this in our flesh. We have to receive it in our spirit

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We're asking lord that you would allow our spirit ears to be open to understand to receive

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So that we can commute it from here from our minds from our human reasoning

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That 18-inch journey down to our hearts where it can get rooted and planted and bear fruit

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At an accelerated pace god you spoke to me today and you said that we are living in the time

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Of accelerated harvest we are living in the time of amos 9 13

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We are living in the time of the reaper overtaking the sower

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And so lord we pray that our hearts would have accelerated harvest of your truth in them

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We ask holy spirit that you come alongside each and every one of us

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Be the teacher be the counselor help us be the comforter

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Let us see what we need to see revelation insight and wisdom in jesus name. Amen

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So

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I have some friends that are going through some storms, by the way

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I just want to mention this at the beginning of of what we're doing tonight together

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They're going through some storms. They've been going through some storms probably for the last year-ish amount of time and you guys they're pretty

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They're pretty strong storms that they're going through

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Okay, for those of you that haven't seen my storm video go watch it but also we're going to do supernatural

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Saturday on promotion storms not destruction storms. We're going to do that on saturday if you can be there live or watch the replay

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Anyway, I was on a call with this friend today

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They've gotten to a point where they just they just don't that's not worried about it anymore

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There's lots of things to worry about and they've just decided to you know

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Cast it cast it on jesus use their jesus cares board, right?

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Because he cares for them

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They have no idea how these situations are going to turn out. There's several situations

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It's not just one storm as soon as one storm starts to die down another one just whips up

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By the way, that's what's been happening in austin, texas as soon as one blows through another one's right on its heels

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It's just crazy town. You guys were a golf ball size hail yesterday

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And in some parts of austin there was baseball size hail

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I'm so glad that I was not in that part. Okay, so

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I was talking to this friend today and

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God gave me a word for them and you know, some of the some of the situation that they're in requires

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Is at the hands of unscrupulous people

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People who want things that they don't deserve people that are coming with their hands out for things that you know

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And you can't squeeze blood out of a turnip, can you?

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I never understood that saying when I was a kid. It just means that you can't get something that isn't there to get

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Doesn't matter how much you want it

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You can't get it because it's not there and that's kind of the attitude of my friend today like well, you know what?

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They created this situation by their dishonesty. So let them come and try to get something because there's nothing left to get

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Kind of thing and you know what holy spirit spoke to me in that moment

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He said oh no, there's plenty

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because my friend thinks that the abundance

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Their life and the business and all the things that they that they have and that they own that that has

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It's drying up, right?

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It looks it looks that way to the naked eye

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But the lord spoke to me in that in that moment and he said no

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He said there's there's just as much as there ever was there's a free-flowing conduit of my provision and my blessings

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He said but there's a kink in the hose

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Have you ever kinked a hose?

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Raise your hand if you've ever kinked a hose

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You're playing a prank. Someone's watering the garden

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Your brother's trying to get a drink out of the hose and he's got it up there and there's no water coming out because you're

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over here

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You got a kink in the hose

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You have it folded so that the water is not flowing freely

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And then as soon as he gets that hose right up to his face

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I may or may not be telling a true story right now. You go unkink it

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all the water just

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Floods him in the face, right?

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Just me

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I definitely have done that to many a cousin and many

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A friend or sibling because it's fun. It's funny

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But sometimes the hose is kinked and no one's kinking it. It's just caught on something. It's

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just stuck on something. It's just kinked, right? And the free

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flow is not flowing out. But that's what God said to me. He

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said, I have the hose kinked like he has it kinked. He's

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kinking it. And the reason why is because he doesn't want these

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unscrupulous people to get any more from it. He doesn't want

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that. And as soon as they give up and go away, which they're

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going to, because I felt in my heart that that season was

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coming to an end, that storm was ending. It had been a long

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storm, but it's ending now. And as soon as those folks, or that

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storm dissipates and walks away, God's gonna, he's gonna unkink

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the hose. There's gonna be lots coming out again. And maybe

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that's a word for some of you. Maybe it seems like things have

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been in short supply and you really can't figure out why.

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It's possible that the supply has been kinked or cut off just

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temporarily to keep you from maybe going the wrong direction,

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zigging instead of zagging. Or, you know, you've been praying

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and asking God. You've been putting things on your Jesus

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cares board, I hope. And you've also been praying and asking God

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to show you, teach you, show you, heal you, grow you. You've

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been giving God permission, you know, to write the story. You've

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been saying, Hey, I'll co-author this story with you, God, I need

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you to write, I need you to write with me. And so we've got

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to trust that what's happening right now is not for our

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destruction, but for our promotion. Amen. Amen. Okay. We

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all have, you guys, we all have a capacity, because remember,

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we're not gonna talk about our whole lives right now. We're

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only gonna talk about our love lives. We all have a capacity,

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an internal capacity to live, to love and to be loved, to receive

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love, to give love. We all have kind of a thermostat, a setting

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inside of us. And that setting has been set by your past

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experiences. It's been set by your origin family. For some of

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you, that has been set by inherited trauma. It's been set

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by things that didn't even happen to you, but they happened

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to people that came before you. Maybe even people that you never

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even knew. We all have this. Can you acknowledge that this is

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true? And if you don't believe it, you don't have to believe

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it. But that doesn't make it any less true. It doesn't make it

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any less true. At all. I have some notes here. Each of us has

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a limit. We have a limit. We have a watermark that we have

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never been past. Each and every one of us have never been past

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that. And every time we get close and we get up to it, we

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just fall right back down. We never go further. But you guys,

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we have to go further. We have to go further. You want to know

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why? Because this is the reason why we're divorced. This is the

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reason why we're not married. This is the reason why those

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relationships are not working out. Because of whatever your

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limit is. So we need to acknowledge it. And then we need

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to receive the grace to break through it. And you guys, it's

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not going to be easy. We're going to do it in God's power,

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not our own, but we're going to have to be conscious of it until

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we're fully free from it. Make sense? We're going to have to

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stay self aware of it. So we're not sabotaging ourselves. All

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right. So let's get into some activations here about this. So

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why do we push away the very thing that we've prayed for?

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Sometimes? Why do we do that? We do that in a lot of areas. But

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why do we do that? Because once again, we have an internal limit

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of how much love, how much success, how much intimacy that

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we will allow ourselves to have. If you follow me on Instagram,

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you'll see that I posted something that says love is not

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found, it's allowed. I know that a lot of you will find this

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really hard to believe, but you have a love affair with

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punishment. It's just part of the curse. You could have grown

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up in an amazing family that was really fair to you and kind to

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you, but you still have a love affair with punishment. And the

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reason why is because it's just the cursed flesh. And I know

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myself, and I'm assuming you are not following after the

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spirit 100% of the time either. And so when we don't follow

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after the spirit, remember, in the flesh, there's death, and

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that's part of it. Punishment. We won't allow ourselves to be

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happier than this. This is as happy as I'm allowed to be. If I

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go a little higher than this, nope. Now I got to punish

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myself. I got to work.

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Worry about something.

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Come on, you guys.

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How many times have you been having a really great day?

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Everything's going good.

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Your hair's looking great.

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And then all of a sudden,

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you just start thinking about something negative

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and start worrying about it.

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Raise your hand if you've ever done that.

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You're having a good week.

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You're having a good month.

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You're getting excited.

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You're making changes.

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You're making strides.

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You're kicking butt.

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You're taking names later.

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And then all of a sudden,

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you start worrying about something.

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You're picking a fight with somebody.

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Right?

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You stubbed your toe.

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You're like, well, Jackie, that was an accident.

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Was it though?

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I want you to think about every time

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that you've gotten hurt.

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Every single time that you've gotten hurt,

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I want you to write it down.

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I want you to write it down.

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Every time that you've gotten hurt,

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you've hurt yourself some way.

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You burned your hand on the curling iron.

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You stubbed your toe.

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You whatever.

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Okay?

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Broke your foot.

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Whatever.

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You started a exercise routine

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and all of a sudden, you have sciatica.

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All of a sudden, you've slipped a disc.

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I want you to write all that down

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and I want you to see if there's a pattern

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of when you start to break out,

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when you start to go forward,

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when you start to approach that watermark

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and start to break through,

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is that when you got hurt?

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Is that when it happened?

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Take some inventory.

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Guys, the Bible tells us that we should be wise.

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That we should know what's going on.

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There's a war going on out there

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and there's a war going on in here.

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I don't expect you to believe me right now.

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When God started talking to me about this subject,

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I didn't believe it either.

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But then I started doing a little bit of inventory.

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And I was like, oh yeah.

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When I had the wake up call with Jackie on Periscope,

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by the way, you guys, that was the first streaming service.

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The first streaming service on your phone was Periscope.

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Okay, live streaming, just like we're doing now.

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I had a show.

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The first podcast.

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I had a podcast, if you will,

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called the Wake Up Call with Jackie.

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And thousand people watched it every morning.

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It was a daily show.

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It happened at 10 a.m. Eastern.

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And y'all know it was fire, because you know me.

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I did it a hundred days in a row, you guys.

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Just like if I had a talk show on television.

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I did a hundred days in a row.

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People were getting set free.

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People were joining my heart workshop.

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People were meeting Jesus.

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All kinds of crazy stuff.

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I did it a hundred days in a row.

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I did it a hundred days in a row.

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People were meeting Jesus.

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All kinds of crazy stuff was happening.

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Woo-hoo!

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Amazing!

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Great!

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And then,

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there was a knock on my front door.

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Who could it be?

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It's my mother,

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who I have a very distant relationship with.

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And she's having a nervous breakdown on my front porch.

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Why is that?

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Because she just got diagnosed with breast cancer.

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And she came to my house.

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And she moved in my house.

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On that day.

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Guess what I no longer did after that day?

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Anyone want to guess?

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What do you think stopped?

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Go ahead and unmute yourself.

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Blurt it out.

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What do you think?

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Taking notes.

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Podcast.

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Podcast.

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Periscope.

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Yep.

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Yeah.

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I went a hundred miles an hour into a brick wall,

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y'all.

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And not only did I stop doing Periscope,

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I actually stayed in bed for three months.

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My body started hurting.

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I started worrying that I had cancer too.

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The bottom of my feet hurt so bad

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that I couldn't walk on them, you guys.

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I could not walk on my feet.

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Was there anything really wrong with me?

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No.

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I had just hit

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that glass ceiling and bounced back.

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I couldn't go any further.

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And you guys, sometimes we can't go any further

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because we really do have hard work to do

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and that's why we can't get past.

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But sometimes it's just demonic interference

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and sometimes it's just self-sabotage and punishment

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that's happening inside of ourselves.

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We won't allow ourselves to have anything more than this.

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And the reason why is because no one that came before us

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ever had any more than this.

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Our family never got higher than this.

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They never had better marriages than this.

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They never had better finances than this.

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Are you following me?

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I know you think that blessings or breakthrough

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or what's it called?

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Abundance is just for certain special people,

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but it isn't.

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It's for all of us.

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us it's the kingdom way but in order to have that we have to understand that

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whatever our limited capacity is we have to acknowledge it and then we have to

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do what what needs to be done in order to go past it

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okay all right so you guys a lot of times we're actually pushing away

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whether we know it or not we're pushing away the very thing that we prayed for

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the very thing that we say we want we're pushing it away because somewhere deep

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down inside we don't think we deserve it somewhere deep down inside we we believe

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that it's not going to be good for us and we'll go through some of those

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barriers here in a second okay so we're not second singleness because there's

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no one out there let's go ahead and just defuse that bomb before it goes off and

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blows up our destiny let's just let it go it's a lie it's a lie you guys we're

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not single because there's no other singles out there we're not single

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because of our lack of desirability we're not single because of any of these

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reasons we're not single because of where we live or what church we go to

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we're not single because of any of those things we're single because we're stuck

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in these limitations some of you have been single for decades decades and some

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of you are single because every time you choose someone you choose the same

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person different day different clothes different name same person all of this

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is the same thing it's those watermarks every single one of it all right so

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start thinking about yourself here as we go through some of this so when we do

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meet someone okay you're subconscious you know for those of you that are in

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in relationships sometimes when you get into relationship you begin to feel like

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this is scary I don't trust this you know this feels different what's going

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on here your soul your heart in the areas where it's been wounded and broken

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and traumatized where it's not been fully healed and none of us are fully

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healed it will resist expansion your heart is a resisting expansion okay all

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right so let's talk about some signs that you're hitting your love limit and

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you guys for those of you that haven't even stuck your toe in the water yet you

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can put this in your pocket for later for those of you that are actively out

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here dating meeting people you can put it now you can put it you can put it

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into practice now okay all right so here are some signs and I know that the

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psychologists call this you know anxious attachment avoid an attachment and all

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the different things but here are the signs that you're hitting a limit in

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your love life you catch feelings and then you immediately spiral into anxiety

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you start to get feelings for someone and then you immediately spiral into

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anxiety what if they don't like me back what if they're what if what if I did

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the wrong thing what if I said the wrong thing what if I texted the wrong thing

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what if they didn't like the way I look tonight they haven't talked to me in

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four hours what could it mean you catch feelings and then you spiral into this

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anxiety loop okay write it down if it's you okay here's another one you nitpick

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you nitpick at people you're just looking for things to criticize about

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people you nitpick you ghost you try to get to know someone and then you're like

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oh and then you just disappear as soon as someone tries to get close to you

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you're gone you're done okay you date people who aren't emotionally available

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that is your max I know we want to blame it on them oh they're not emotionally

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available no the reason why you're dating them or the reason why you

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continue to pick people that are emotionally unavailable is because you

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are hitting your watermark does that make sense it's your top shelf you guys

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I need to know that you're getting this because it's gonna get more complicated

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it's gonna get more complicated so are you tracking with me am I explaining

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this well okay when you date people habitually

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With any type of negative pattern, you are hitting your limit, not theirs.

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You're hitting your limit.

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Okay.

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All right.

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So we date people who are emotionally unavailable.

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And the reason why is because if they're emotionally unavailable, then we don't have to be either.

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You get spiritually, what did I write here?

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You get spiritually, yeah.

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So you get super, super, super involved with them by date three.

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And then by date four, you just hit the crash.

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Okay.

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So you're like flying high and then whoop.

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All right.

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Here's another one.

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Here's something that you guys need to know.

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You are not blocked because God is holding love back.

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There's the next lie.

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You're not single because there's no one out there.

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That's not true.

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And you're not single because God is blocking love.

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I had someone ask me today in a VIP session if it was possible that God just didn't want

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them to have what they so, so desired, which was marriage.

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So it's possible that God just, you know, isn't going to let me have this.

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You guys, God created you for this.

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And the evidence of that is the fact that you're here.

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Your desire is the only evidence that you need for God's plan and desire for you.

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Your desire is mirroring his divine design of you.

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So you're not blocked because God is holding love back.

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You're blocked because, and please write this down.

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And I know that I probably said this on Supernatural Saturday, but I'm going to say it again.

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You're blocked because your soul, okay, got your flesh.

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What are we?

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We are spirits, right?

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We're spirits.

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We're eternal beings.

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We're spirits.

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Your spirit is redeemed.

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When you have the new birth experience, your spirit is redeemed.

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It's going to heaven.

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Your spirit.

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Okay.

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Got to follow after the spirit so that you don't fulfill the lust of the flesh.

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You're a spirit that lives in a body that possesses a soul.

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That's your heart part.

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That's the epicenter of your mind, will, and emotions.

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And when we do the heart work, that's what we're dealing with because we're all the trauma,

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all the bad information.

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This is where the curse is trying to, you know, control and create false identities,

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cursed identities instead of your God identity as a son and daughter.

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Okay.

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So with that in context, let me say this.

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You are blocked because your soul cannot hold what your spirit has been asking for.

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And friends, this is in every area, not just your love life.

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And just so you know, it's not because, it's not because God doesn't think that you're

485
00:28:20.420 --> 00:28:24.700
good enough or you're not, you know, ready spiritually.

486
00:28:24.700 --> 00:28:36.060
It's because you are saying that you're not, you are showing that you cannot hold it.

487
00:28:36.060 --> 00:28:39.660
This doesn't have anything to do with God holding out on you.

488
00:28:39.660 --> 00:28:41.460
God gives us stuff to grow into.

489
00:28:41.460 --> 00:28:42.460
He trusts us.

490
00:28:42.460 --> 00:28:44.900
He stretches us past our comfort zones.

491
00:28:44.900 --> 00:28:45.900
Okay.

492
00:28:45.900 --> 00:28:47.900
All right.

493
00:28:47.900 --> 00:28:53.180
So let's talk about some common blocks.

494
00:28:53.180 --> 00:28:56.200
Okay.

495
00:28:56.200 --> 00:29:02.180
Some subconscious vows, some spiritual ceilings that we just can't get through.

496
00:29:02.180 --> 00:29:03.520
Let's talk about that.

497
00:29:03.520 --> 00:29:06.600
And then I'll go ahead and put up in the chat, which one you most resonate with.

498
00:29:06.600 --> 00:29:09.080
You want to do that?

499
00:29:09.080 --> 00:29:10.080
Let's do that.

500
00:29:10.080 --> 00:29:11.080
Okay.

501
00:29:11.080 --> 00:29:13.680
All right.

502
00:29:13.680 --> 00:29:18.460
Number one, there's something wrong with me.

503
00:29:18.460 --> 00:29:23.120
Any version of this, you guys, there's something wrong with me.

504
00:29:23.120 --> 00:29:26.160
I'm not normal.

505
00:29:26.160 --> 00:29:28.600
I remember all the time, just, I wish I was normal.

506
00:29:28.600 --> 00:29:30.160
I wish I could be normal.

507
00:29:30.160 --> 00:29:33.280
I believe this lie that I was intrinsically flawed.

508
00:29:33.280 --> 00:29:35.440
And this is very generational.

509
00:29:35.440 --> 00:29:37.080
This comes from inherited trauma.

510
00:29:37.080 --> 00:29:38.200
It comes from abuse.

511
00:29:38.200 --> 00:29:40.300
It comes from your childhood.

512
00:29:40.300 --> 00:29:43.780
It comes from you being born into a family that doesn't understand you because they're

513
00:29:43.780 --> 00:29:51.160
all scientists and you're a poet.

514
00:29:51.160 --> 00:29:53.240
There's something wrong with me.

515
00:29:53.240 --> 00:29:56.840
There's something wrong with me.

516
00:29:56.840 --> 00:29:59.760
And how that gets played out is when you're trying to.

517
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.760
be in relationship with other people, not even just love relationship,

518
00:30:04.760 --> 00:30:09.000
but friendships and community. You have this unconscious

519
00:30:10.560 --> 00:30:13.600
current inside of you. That's saying,

520
00:30:14.920 --> 00:30:19.320
if they really knew me, they wouldn't like me. Come on,

521
00:30:19.320 --> 00:30:23.240
y'all. If they really knew me, they wouldn't like me.

522
00:30:24.700 --> 00:30:25.960
I'm going to mess this up.

523
00:30:31.000 --> 00:30:31.920
I'm going to say the wrong thing.

524
00:30:31.920 --> 00:30:35.400
I'm going to do the wrong thing because I am just a train wreck.

525
00:30:36.560 --> 00:30:39.320
Not normal. I'm not like other people.

526
00:30:43.560 --> 00:30:44.720
I'm inherently flawed.

527
00:30:47.760 --> 00:30:50.800
I need you to get honest, you guys, so you can get free. If this is you,

528
00:30:50.800 --> 00:30:54.360
I want to see you in the chat. Audra, thank you for being vulnerable.

529
00:30:55.480 --> 00:30:57.960
She has spoken that over herself so many times.

530
00:31:00.000 --> 00:31:00.820
Okay.

531
00:31:08.200 --> 00:31:09.840
Look at all of these people.

532
00:31:14.080 --> 00:31:17.520
Yes, yes, yes, yes. Okay. And so what happens sometimes,

533
00:31:17.520 --> 00:31:20.340
sometimes you'll just hide and you just won't put yourself out there.

534
00:31:20.340 --> 00:31:21.400
You won't be vulnerable.

535
00:31:21.400 --> 00:31:23.960
You won't allow other people in because you know that if they,

536
00:31:24.360 --> 00:31:27.240
you believe if they come in, they're just going to leave anyway, right?

537
00:31:27.240 --> 00:31:28.400
You're afraid of abandonment.

538
00:31:28.400 --> 00:31:31.000
So you'll just make sure that that never happens.

539
00:31:31.280 --> 00:31:34.400
But the rest of you become people pleasers.

540
00:31:36.840 --> 00:31:39.120
That's what happens with this block.

541
00:31:40.240 --> 00:31:44.800
We become people pleasers and you can be more than one.

542
00:31:44.800 --> 00:31:45.640
For those of you that are like, Oh,

543
00:31:45.640 --> 00:31:48.920
I need to wait and hear two, three, four before I decide if I'm number one.

544
00:31:49.160 --> 00:31:51.320
Now you can be more than one. You can have more than one block.

545
00:31:51.320 --> 00:31:54.400
Y'all there can be more than one kink in your hose.

546
00:31:54.680 --> 00:31:59.760
All right. Give me more than one kink in your hose.

547
00:32:00.480 --> 00:32:04.080
So for those of you that are not hiding and just avoiding relationship because

548
00:32:04.080 --> 00:32:05.920
you think that people are just not going to like you anyway,

549
00:32:05.920 --> 00:32:07.760
the rest of you are become people pleasers.

550
00:32:07.960 --> 00:32:11.080
You're overcompensating in relationships. You're over giving,

551
00:32:11.080 --> 00:32:14.040
you're over performing, you're over spiritualizing.

552
00:32:14.800 --> 00:32:18.800
You become the consummate giver that attracts takers.

553
00:32:19.600 --> 00:32:23.520
And that's a true story. Let's see you.

554
00:32:24.520 --> 00:32:29.360
Say it. You're a giver that attracts takers. Say me, me, me, me,

555
00:32:29.360 --> 00:32:34.360
me, me in the comments. Oh, I see lots of hands up. Yep. Yep. Yep.

556
00:32:35.480 --> 00:32:40.480
Yep. Because you know, I'm damaged goods. There's something wrong with me.

557
00:32:40.720 --> 00:32:42.840
I'm not normal. I'm not like other people.

558
00:32:44.640 --> 00:32:48.800
And so I have to overcompensate so that people won't run away from me.

559
00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:54.360
I got to hang some meat around my neck so the family dog will play with me.

560
00:32:55.240 --> 00:32:56.080
Right.

561
00:33:00.720 --> 00:33:04.440
And some people grow up and maybe get really successful at what they do for a

562
00:33:04.440 --> 00:33:07.080
career and stuff. And you know,

563
00:33:07.080 --> 00:33:11.120
you think that this is gone because now you're successful.

564
00:33:12.480 --> 00:33:16.200
Remember I told you that this is, this was one of mine. I'm inherently flawed.

565
00:33:16.200 --> 00:33:20.520
There's something wrong with me. I'm not normal. You know, I mean,

566
00:33:21.120 --> 00:33:23.760
I might not be the most beautiful woman in the world, but I'm good looking.

567
00:33:23.920 --> 00:33:27.960
I grew up to be good looking. I grew up to be smart and well-spoken.

568
00:33:28.320 --> 00:33:32.000
I grew up to be successful to some, to some level.

569
00:33:32.440 --> 00:33:35.440
But this, if I don't address it, it's still going to be there.

570
00:33:36.560 --> 00:33:38.120
None of that is going to change it.

571
00:33:38.120 --> 00:33:40.480
Do you guys understand that that's not going to change it?

572
00:33:40.560 --> 00:33:45.560
This is about identity and that's what causes these watermarks.

573
00:33:47.000 --> 00:33:48.720
You can't fake it till you make it.

574
00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:53.720
You will be it and they will see it. That is the way this works.

575
00:33:53.760 --> 00:33:58.760
Denise, you're so sweet.

576
00:34:01.840 --> 00:34:02.680
All right.

577
00:34:10.440 --> 00:34:12.600
So for those of you that said, I'm number one,

578
00:34:12.600 --> 00:34:15.120
remember you can be more than one. But for those of you said that,

579
00:34:15.159 --> 00:34:18.320
just said that you were number one, here is the breakthrough truth for you.

580
00:34:18.560 --> 00:34:19.400
Okay.

581
00:34:20.600 --> 00:34:24.920
You are not intrinsically flawed. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

582
00:34:26.320 --> 00:34:29.719
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You might be different,

583
00:34:29.960 --> 00:34:33.040
but that's because you're a Maverick. You might think differently.

584
00:34:33.040 --> 00:34:36.280
You might look differently. You might not have fit in your family.

585
00:34:36.280 --> 00:34:38.320
You might've been the black sheep is what they called you,

586
00:34:38.320 --> 00:34:39.600
but you're not the black sheep.

587
00:34:39.600 --> 00:34:42.120
You might've been what they called a square peg in a round hole,

588
00:34:42.120 --> 00:34:45.320
but you're not that you are made different on purpose.

589
00:34:45.320 --> 00:34:47.600
You think differently on purpose.

590
00:34:49.000 --> 00:34:53.679
It's a beautiful, wonderful, unique design. You're not too much.

591
00:34:53.679 --> 00:34:58.160
You're not too late. You're not disqualified.

592
00:34:58.160 --> 00:35:00.040
You're the answer to somebody's prayer.

593
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:06.100
out there and you always have been right as you are now, okay?

594
00:35:06.100 --> 00:35:09.080
So let's go to block two.

595
00:35:09.080 --> 00:35:15.200
If I step out, if I go past this watermark, because remember, nobody else has gone past

596
00:35:15.200 --> 00:35:16.200
this.

597
00:35:16.200 --> 00:35:18.780
A lot of times it's a family thing.

598
00:35:18.780 --> 00:35:21.500
If I go past this, I'll be alone.

599
00:35:21.500 --> 00:35:23.400
Let me give you an example.

600
00:35:23.400 --> 00:35:30.120
I'm the only person in my family that, you know, got divorced, got remarried, and then

601
00:35:30.120 --> 00:35:31.840
stayed remarried.

602
00:35:31.840 --> 00:35:36.120
I've been married for 18 years, right?

603
00:35:36.120 --> 00:35:40.800
Second time around.

604
00:35:40.800 --> 00:35:45.320
But I feel like people were judging me.

605
00:35:45.320 --> 00:35:50.320
Oh, who do you think you are, right?

606
00:35:50.320 --> 00:35:52.000
You think you're better than everybody else.

607
00:35:52.000 --> 00:35:55.480
I always felt like that was what was happening.

608
00:35:55.480 --> 00:35:57.520
And so that's part of this right here.

609
00:35:57.520 --> 00:36:05.280
If I go off to college, you know, no one else in my family has gone to college.

610
00:36:05.280 --> 00:36:09.480
If I'm not poor as a church mouse, like the rest of my family, if I have some money, if

611
00:36:09.480 --> 00:36:20.680
I go wherever the new frontier is, I'm going to be alone, I'm going to be ostracized.

612
00:36:20.680 --> 00:36:26.440
Once again, it's the fear of being different at some level.

613
00:36:26.440 --> 00:36:30.080
You're afraid of leaving people behind.

614
00:36:30.080 --> 00:36:41.360
You're afraid of not being included anymore because now you've leveled up.

615
00:36:41.360 --> 00:36:44.680
And so a lot of times we'll stay small to stay safe.

616
00:36:44.680 --> 00:36:46.440
We'll settle.

617
00:36:46.440 --> 00:36:49.560
We won't shine.

618
00:36:49.560 --> 00:36:51.960
If that's you, let's see it.

619
00:36:51.960 --> 00:36:56.800
You're afraid of people thinking you're too big for your britches.

620
00:36:56.800 --> 00:37:01.240
You're afraid of losing the people in your life because you've gone further than them

621
00:37:01.240 --> 00:37:17.640
and you don't want to be alone and you don't want people to think you've outgrown them.

622
00:37:17.640 --> 00:37:22.680
Some of you, this has become true.

623
00:37:22.680 --> 00:37:31.000
Ladies, this could be also, you know, if I'm who I am, then I'm not going to be able to

624
00:37:31.000 --> 00:37:36.840
get married because no man is going to want a woman that's a leader.

625
00:37:36.840 --> 00:37:41.320
The gifts that you have, the things that you carry, you think that you have to dumb yourself

626
00:37:41.320 --> 00:37:49.200
down because no man's going to want to partner with you if you're being your true self.

627
00:37:49.200 --> 00:37:52.440
And that's not true, okay?

628
00:37:52.440 --> 00:37:58.800
The truth is, is that when your person comes, I used to say to our first class, the inaugural

629
00:37:58.800 --> 00:38:02.720
class of this in 2020, you can fall down on the ground and flop around like a fish and

630
00:38:02.720 --> 00:38:06.600
they're still going to fall in love with you.

631
00:38:06.600 --> 00:38:10.920
When your person comes and you're willing to receive the love and allow it.

632
00:38:11.520 --> 00:38:12.520
That's the thing.

633
00:38:12.520 --> 00:38:13.680
That's what we're talking about today.

634
00:38:13.680 --> 00:38:15.280
It's not about whether you're worthy of love.

635
00:38:15.280 --> 00:38:19.080
It's about whether or not you'll allow yourself to be worthy of love.

636
00:38:19.080 --> 00:38:24.880
They're not going to ask you to shrink though, whoever that person is, okay?

637
00:38:24.880 --> 00:38:29.640
In fact, like my husband, they'll probably fan your flame.

638
00:38:29.640 --> 00:38:31.980
My husband fans my flame.

639
00:38:31.980 --> 00:38:33.400
He is a string to my kite.

640
00:38:33.400 --> 00:38:35.640
He likes to see me fly really high.

641
00:38:35.640 --> 00:38:41.480
He's got that string so that I don't fly away somewhere into the trees and hurt myself.

642
00:38:41.480 --> 00:38:42.480
Okay.

643
00:38:42.480 --> 00:38:48.520
All right, here's another one and you guys, a lot of you are living here secretly maybe

644
00:38:48.520 --> 00:38:49.600
to yourself.

645
00:38:49.600 --> 00:38:53.880
Maybe you don't know you're living here, but you're living here and here's the next one.

646
00:38:53.880 --> 00:39:00.720
You think that it's going to be too much trouble to go past this point.

647
00:39:00.720 --> 00:39:01.800
It's going to be hard.

648
00:39:01.800 --> 00:39:04.320
It's going to be a burden.

649
00:39:04.320 --> 00:39:06.640
You're going to have to change too much.

650
00:39:06.640 --> 00:39:10.760
It's going to be painful.

651
00:39:10.760 --> 00:39:17.120
This is a very common block and a lot of times it's unconscious, but it shows up in the way

652
00:39:17.120 --> 00:39:20.720
that you're sabotaging yourself.

653
00:39:20.720 --> 00:39:23.120
Okay.

654
00:39:23.120 --> 00:39:26.240
You're afraid to go deeper into relationship with people because they're going to need

655
00:39:26.240 --> 00:39:27.960
too much from you.

656
00:39:27.960 --> 00:39:28.960
Okay.

657
00:39:28.960 --> 00:39:30.320
They're going to drain you.

658
00:39:30.320 --> 00:39:31.840
You're going to lose yourself.

659
00:39:31.840 --> 00:39:34.720
You're going to feel controlled.

660
00:39:34.720 --> 00:39:41.280
You're going to have to compromise and do things that you don't want to do.

661
00:39:41.280 --> 00:39:44.280
Every time I say that, you got to let go of me to become we.

662
00:39:44.280 --> 00:39:49.640
You just cringe because you don't want to let go of me to become we.

663
00:39:49.640 --> 00:39:54.600
You want to stay me and have we.

664
00:39:54.600 --> 00:39:57.520
Yes.

665
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.040
You already feel like you're at capacity in your life and even though you say you want

666
00:40:04.040 --> 00:40:09.720
love and you want marriage, you also don't know where you're going to get the juice from

667
00:40:09.720 --> 00:40:18.480
to sustain that because you're already maxed out.

668
00:40:18.480 --> 00:40:19.480
This should be a lot of you.

669
00:40:19.480 --> 00:40:30.360
I want to see whoever, who all this is, let's see it.

670
00:40:30.360 --> 00:40:36.200
It's just too much trouble, it's too much trouble.

671
00:40:36.200 --> 00:40:41.480
You meet someone, they're great, but then they're, they're wanting to communicate and

672
00:40:41.480 --> 00:40:42.860
you're just tired.

673
00:40:42.860 --> 00:40:45.040
You don't have any more words.

674
00:40:45.040 --> 00:40:46.640
You used all your words.

675
00:40:46.640 --> 00:40:49.000
You don't have any more words, gentlemen.

676
00:40:49.000 --> 00:40:52.920
There's this girl, she was great, we hung out, but now she's texting me and she wants

677
00:40:52.920 --> 00:40:53.920
to communicate.

678
00:40:53.920 --> 00:40:54.920
She wants to get on the phone.

679
00:40:54.920 --> 00:40:58.520
It's like, oh, I don't got any more words.

680
00:40:58.520 --> 00:41:03.200
I don't have anything more to give here.

681
00:41:03.200 --> 00:41:05.200
I feel stretched thin.

682
00:41:05.200 --> 00:41:08.400
Ladies, you too.

683
00:41:08.400 --> 00:41:11.000
The next morning he's like, good morning.

684
00:41:11.000 --> 00:41:12.280
I hope you have a good day.

685
00:41:12.280 --> 00:41:16.880
You're like, nope, delete block.

686
00:41:16.880 --> 00:41:22.640
That's going to be too high maintenance.

687
00:41:22.640 --> 00:41:27.120
Can I just only talk to you when I want to and can't we just like get married and then

688
00:41:27.120 --> 00:41:31.000
when I want to cuddle, we'll cuddle and watch a movie or something, but then we'll just

689
00:41:31.000 --> 00:41:36.960
go to our separate lives and separate corners of the house and life so that we can just

690
00:41:36.960 --> 00:41:39.840
not exhaust each other.

691
00:41:39.840 --> 00:41:46.000
Yes, Jesse, will it be worth it?

692
00:41:46.000 --> 00:41:51.480
These are all part of the same block.

693
00:41:51.480 --> 00:41:52.480
Same block.

694
00:41:52.480 --> 00:41:53.480
Yeah.

695
00:41:53.480 --> 00:41:55.800
Can we just be married on the weekends, John?

696
00:41:55.800 --> 00:42:01.640
Can we just be on the, can we just be weekend, weekend warriors?

697
00:42:01.640 --> 00:42:02.640
Can we do that?

698
00:42:02.640 --> 00:42:07.760
And you guys, I know that we're all laughing right now, but I promise you some of you unconsciously

699
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:10.360
have these blocks.

700
00:42:10.360 --> 00:42:11.360
You do.

701
00:42:11.920 --> 00:42:17.240
And it's part of the reason why you're here and you don't have the thing that you say

702
00:42:17.240 --> 00:42:18.240
you want.

703
00:42:18.240 --> 00:42:19.240
Let's buy a duplex.

704
00:42:19.240 --> 00:42:20.240
Yeah, let's live next door.

705
00:42:20.240 --> 00:42:21.240
Let's be neighbors.

706
00:42:21.240 --> 00:42:22.240
David and I started as neighbors.

707
00:42:22.240 --> 00:42:30.280
Why can't we just be neighbors now?

708
00:42:30.280 --> 00:42:39.280
Conjugal visits, just like prison.

709
00:42:39.280 --> 00:42:40.480
I think Dave is on here.

710
00:42:40.600 --> 00:42:41.600
Babe, are you here?

711
00:42:41.600 --> 00:42:44.480
I'm just, I'm just being funny, but are you here?

712
00:42:44.480 --> 00:42:45.480
I see you.

713
00:42:45.480 --> 00:42:46.480
Are you here?

714
00:42:46.480 --> 00:42:52.480
I am here and I am scared.

715
00:42:52.480 --> 00:42:53.480
Joking.

716
00:42:53.480 --> 00:42:57.480
No, you're doing a great job, babe.

717
00:42:57.480 --> 00:42:58.480
It's awesome.

718
00:42:58.480 --> 00:42:59.480
It's good stuff.

719
00:42:59.480 --> 00:43:00.480
Thank you, honey.

720
00:43:00.480 --> 00:43:01.480
Love you.

721
00:43:01.480 --> 00:43:08.520
So you guys, the secret fears of this, of this block are they're going to need too much

722
00:43:08.520 --> 00:43:09.520
from me.

723
00:43:09.560 --> 00:43:10.560
They're going to drain me.

724
00:43:10.560 --> 00:43:11.560
They're going to, I'm going to lose myself.

725
00:43:11.560 --> 00:43:13.760
I'm going to feel controlled.

726
00:43:13.760 --> 00:43:16.240
They're going to want to do things that I don't want to do.

727
00:43:16.240 --> 00:43:20.080
Some somewhere along the line in this relationship, they're going to make decisions that I just

728
00:43:20.080 --> 00:43:22.400
don't agree with, that I just don't want.

729
00:43:22.400 --> 00:43:27.540
And I'm going to have to just suck it up buttercup, right?

730
00:43:27.540 --> 00:43:30.240
Not that they're going to be in charge, but you guys in marriage, there's always going

731
00:43:30.240 --> 00:43:35.920
to be some moment where you're not going to see things eye to eye and someone's going

732
00:43:35.920 --> 00:43:39.680
to have to concede, okay?

733
00:43:39.680 --> 00:43:43.180
So this is, this block is why we sit in the waiting room.

734
00:43:43.180 --> 00:43:44.180
Not because God's late.

735
00:43:44.180 --> 00:43:49.200
You guys, I really want you to let go of the lies where you're blaming God for everything.

736
00:43:49.200 --> 00:43:50.320
Okay?

737
00:43:50.320 --> 00:43:51.560
God lives outside of time.

738
00:43:51.560 --> 00:43:53.640
He's not late for anything.

739
00:43:53.640 --> 00:43:58.440
We live inside the time continuum, not him.

740
00:43:58.440 --> 00:44:00.980
That's why heaven's eternal.

741
00:44:00.980 --> 00:44:05.560
And that's why the, you know, the next dimension is eternal without time and none of us can

742
00:44:05.560 --> 00:44:06.920
wrap our heads around that.

743
00:44:06.920 --> 00:44:10.480
I bet you if you try to think about eternity, it just starts to either scare you and you

744
00:44:10.480 --> 00:44:13.520
get panicked or your mind just explode.

745
00:44:13.520 --> 00:44:18.680
You're like, I don't, I don't understand.

746
00:44:18.680 --> 00:44:19.680
Will we sleep?

747
00:44:19.680 --> 00:44:20.680
Will we eat?

748
00:44:20.680 --> 00:44:21.680
How will we know what to do next?

749
00:44:21.680 --> 00:44:22.680
What do you mean?

750
00:44:22.680 --> 00:44:23.680
It never ends.

751
00:44:23.680 --> 00:44:24.680
It never ever ends.

752
00:44:24.680 --> 00:44:28.400
What do you mean?

753
00:44:28.400 --> 00:44:30.480
He lives there in that dimension.

754
00:44:30.480 --> 00:44:33.160
Of course, we're inside of him too, but you understand what I'm saying.

755
00:44:33.160 --> 00:44:34.940
He has that paradigm.

756
00:44:34.940 --> 00:44:37.860
We don't necessarily have it, but it's inside of us, right?

757
00:44:37.860 --> 00:44:41.940
We're carrying eternity inside of us somewhere, but this is why we stay in the waiting room.

758
00:44:41.940 --> 00:44:47.900
Not because God's late, but because our heart is too tired and love hasn't even gotten here

759
00:44:47.900 --> 00:44:52.460
yet.

760
00:44:52.460 --> 00:44:59.980
Our love, our capacity to allow love, you guys, it's really a lot lower than we think.

761
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.480
And I just want to tell you something it's not it's not about you you're not fatally flawed

762
00:45:04.480 --> 00:45:10.160
you're not broken but the culture is broken that we're living in and this is why we're having these

763
00:45:10.160 --> 00:45:18.320
blocks it's been broken obviously ever since the curse but in more modern times ever since the

764
00:45:18.320 --> 00:45:25.440
you know the the gasoline powered motor and technology and lights you guys know that they

765
00:45:25.440 --> 00:45:30.880
used to sleep twice they got to sleep two times we barely get to sleep once

766
00:45:32.640 --> 00:45:37.440
these folks went to bed as soon as the sun went down because there was no electricity

767
00:45:38.560 --> 00:45:43.680
there was nothing to do you know how your parents may have said nothing good happens after midnight

768
00:45:43.680 --> 00:45:49.600
well these folks believe nothing good happens after sunset as soon as the sun goes down you're

769
00:45:49.680 --> 00:45:56.240
going to bed so they would go to bed and you can imagine like depending on where you lived

770
00:45:56.800 --> 00:46:00.720
the sun could be setting at five six o'clock in the winter time so you're going to bed but then

771
00:46:00.720 --> 00:46:07.680
what are they doing they get up they get up like at three four o'clock in the morning with a candle

772
00:46:07.680 --> 00:46:11.920
and they read and they eat something and they do something they have like they're like hobbits they

773
00:46:11.920 --> 00:46:19.200
have first and second breakfast and these folks have first and second sleep time and we barely

774
00:46:19.200 --> 00:46:25.840
get to sleep at all because it's not the same world and I know that we're like the frog in

775
00:46:25.840 --> 00:46:31.520
the boiling pot you guys know what that means right raise your hand if you don't know what

776
00:46:31.520 --> 00:46:38.960
that means if it's some kind of American ism and you're like I don't know what that means okay

777
00:46:38.960 --> 00:46:46.240
so it just means that if you put something in a pot of water when it's just regular water and

778
00:46:46.240 --> 00:46:53.600
then you turn on the you turn on the heat you know it's it's it's different if you get throw

779
00:46:53.600 --> 00:46:58.720
it into the boiling water right it's like ah but it's different it's it's but if you are in the

780
00:46:58.720 --> 00:47:03.280
water and the water's slowly heating up and slowly heating up you don't notice it as much right it's

781
00:47:03.280 --> 00:47:09.120
like being desensitized we're desensitized is a better way to say it so I know that we are the

782
00:47:09.120 --> 00:47:17.200
frogs in the boiling pot because we are born into this and that's why we also have all these

783
00:47:17.200 --> 00:47:23.920
limitations you guys because these are presets does anyone have any presets on anything do you

784
00:47:23.920 --> 00:47:27.840
have presets I know not a lot of people listen to the radio anymore but you guys know what presets

785
00:47:27.840 --> 00:47:34.880
are right that's what we're talking about here we have presets a lot of you okay your thermostat

786
00:47:34.880 --> 00:47:40.800
in your house is probably preset you might even be the kind of person that gets mad if someone

787
00:47:40.800 --> 00:47:47.200
messes with it it's preset to the exact temperature that you want it at guys these are presets that we

788
00:47:47.200 --> 00:47:52.880
have and we were born with them you guys some of them some of them happened as a result of

789
00:47:52.880 --> 00:47:56.800
the trauma that we've experienced but a lot of them we were already born with

790
00:47:57.760 --> 00:48:03.360
yes Rachel Rochelle I don't know if it's Rachel or Rochelle but she has preset photo filters

791
00:48:04.960 --> 00:48:12.640
yeah Swarna I explained that the impression is just being a frog in a pot is just about

792
00:48:12.640 --> 00:48:19.840
being desensitized about how things are slowly heating up and you don't notice it because you've

793
00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:24.480
you've been in the water the whole time as it's been heating up by degree and by degree and pretty

794
00:48:24.560 --> 00:48:28.880
degree and by degree and pretty soon you're boiled you're cooked and you didn't even know

795
00:48:32.400 --> 00:48:39.120
okay so these are the presets you guys our heart is tired already this last block we're already

796
00:48:39.120 --> 00:48:44.000
tired you guys we're already exhausted and this can be really practical can be what you're eating

797
00:48:44.000 --> 00:48:50.000
what you're doing what you're not doing it could be like a family preset you just come from a whole

798
00:48:50.000 --> 00:48:55.360
line of people with low capacity for relationship well anyone to say that in the comments right now

799
00:48:55.360 --> 00:49:01.440
you come from a family line that just has like limited bandwidth for intimacy and vulnerability

800
00:49:01.440 --> 00:49:06.160
in relationship with people they call themselves introverts they call themselves shy they just

801
00:49:06.160 --> 00:49:12.080
can't handle to be around people for any amount of time they just have very very very low capacity

802
00:49:12.640 --> 00:49:18.080
come on let's see it let's see it let's see it you weren't you weren't created that way

803
00:49:18.880 --> 00:49:19.840
this is a preset

804
00:49:22.480 --> 00:49:23.760
this is a preset

805
00:49:26.560 --> 00:49:30.400
some of you the exact opposite you need a room full of people all the time you can never have

806
00:49:30.400 --> 00:49:34.720
a quiet moment you don't like to be in the quiet you don't like to be alone you're always looking

807
00:49:34.720 --> 00:49:38.640
for the party you're always looking for the fun we call you extroverts but really what it is is

808
00:49:38.640 --> 00:49:42.960
that you don't want to be alone with your own self and your own thoughts you don't want to have a

809
00:49:42.960 --> 00:49:47.760
chance to think you want to fill up your schedule every waking moment with something to distract you

810
00:49:48.400 --> 00:49:49.360
and that's a problem

811
00:49:52.800 --> 00:49:59.520
when we see those folks you need all the attention we may even call you a main character at times

812
00:49:59.520 --> 00:50:02.320
lovingly

813
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:19.280
You're not just the life of the party, you are the party.

814
00:50:19.280 --> 00:50:21.920
And you guys, I think a lot less people are like that nowadays.

815
00:50:21.920 --> 00:50:26.840
I don't know if it happened after COVID or before COVID, but people are just, we have

816
00:50:26.840 --> 00:50:30.680
a lot lower capacity, have you noticed that?

817
00:50:30.680 --> 00:50:39.200
Have you noticed that we have a lot of excuses of why we just really don't have the bandwidth

818
00:50:39.200 --> 00:50:40.200
to connect?

819
00:50:40.200 --> 00:50:45.720
Okay, so we're moving forward, all right.

820
00:50:45.720 --> 00:50:50.640
So here's your breakthrough truth if you were one of those people that says, yeah, I feel

821
00:50:50.640 --> 00:50:56.680
like love is going to be too hard, too difficult, it's going to be a burden.

822
00:50:56.680 --> 00:51:01.960
Here's your breakthrough truth, healthy love will feel like shalom.

823
00:51:01.960 --> 00:51:06.280
It'll feel like peace, not pressure, it really will.

824
00:51:06.280 --> 00:51:11.360
It's not going to be perfect, that's not a P word that we're using here.

825
00:51:11.360 --> 00:51:15.720
We don't want perfection, we want peace.

826
00:51:15.720 --> 00:51:24.940
The right relationship won't cost you yourself, your wholeness, okay?

827
00:51:24.940 --> 00:51:30.280
It will magnify your wholeness, it will multiply your wholeness.

828
00:51:30.280 --> 00:51:35.480
Yeah, it'll feel like home.

829
00:51:35.480 --> 00:51:38.520
I like that, Michelle, I agree.

830
00:51:38.520 --> 00:51:42.160
But we have to remember that some people's home was not a good place and it wasn't a

831
00:51:42.160 --> 00:51:43.480
safe place.

832
00:51:43.480 --> 00:51:47.320
So whatever you would think of when you think of a home that's safe, that's what it should

833
00:51:47.320 --> 00:51:48.560
feel like.

834
00:51:48.560 --> 00:51:54.440
But for some of you, if it feels like home and the home you came from ain't a good place

835
00:51:54.440 --> 00:51:59.200
like me, then you want to definitely watch for that, right?

836
00:51:59.200 --> 00:52:03.160
Okay, all right.

837
00:52:03.160 --> 00:52:08.000
And here's the last one, it's kind of like number two but a little bit different and

838
00:52:08.000 --> 00:52:14.320
that is that you've just been told and you've internalized this and the people before you

839
00:52:14.320 --> 00:52:18.600
might have been told this too and a lot of times we get told this as women and gentlemen,

840
00:52:18.600 --> 00:52:24.080
I think sometimes you get told this as well, but you're too much, you're too intimidating,

841
00:52:24.080 --> 00:52:32.960
you're too demanding, you're too independent, you're too something, T-O-O, that's this block.

842
00:52:32.960 --> 00:52:36.880
And so you believe that you're too much of whatever that is.

843
00:52:36.880 --> 00:52:44.420
And so in order for you to connect, now you believe that you have to lower something.

844
00:52:44.420 --> 00:52:46.000
You get it?

845
00:52:46.000 --> 00:52:58.160
Now you believe that because I've been told that I'm a lot, now I have to become less.

846
00:52:58.160 --> 00:53:00.960
I have to become less.

847
00:53:00.960 --> 00:53:04.080
I have to dumb myself down.

848
00:53:04.080 --> 00:53:06.880
I have to dim my light.

849
00:53:06.880 --> 00:53:18.040
I got to dull my wit in order to be chosen.

850
00:53:18.040 --> 00:53:25.320
I want you to, I want truth now you guys, how many of you emotionally and mentally high

851
00:53:25.320 --> 00:53:31.040
maintenance people and the reason why I say that is because you're a sapiosexual, you

852
00:53:31.040 --> 00:53:33.840
need conversation, you need connection.

853
00:53:33.840 --> 00:53:34.840
Okay.

854
00:53:34.840 --> 00:53:35.840
You need humor.

855
00:53:35.840 --> 00:53:36.840
You need banter.

856
00:53:36.840 --> 00:53:45.640
How many of you pretend to be low maintenance just to get someone to like you?

857
00:53:45.640 --> 00:53:59.480
Ladies, you pretend like you just don't know the answer.

858
00:53:59.480 --> 00:54:08.920
What?

859
00:54:08.920 --> 00:54:15.400
You pretend like you haven't, haven't read a bazillion books.

860
00:54:16.160 --> 00:54:28.720
You're so smart and that you're not a rocket scientist because you actually might be one.

861
00:54:28.720 --> 00:54:29.720
Yep.

862
00:54:29.720 --> 00:54:30.720
Lots of you.

863
00:54:30.720 --> 00:54:31.720
Okay.

864
00:54:31.720 --> 00:54:35.680
How many, how many of you guys, men included, men and women, these questions are for everybody.

865
00:54:35.680 --> 00:54:43.360
How many of you, hold on.

866
00:54:43.360 --> 00:54:45.520
Okay.

867
00:54:45.520 --> 00:54:47.520
Sorry.

868
00:54:47.520 --> 00:54:56.640
How many of you have been told that you talk too much?

869
00:54:56.640 --> 00:54:58.720
Just be honest.

870
00:54:58.720 --> 00:54:59.960
How many of you have been told that?

871
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:10.200
You talk too much, all right.

872
00:55:10.200 --> 00:55:20.000
How many of you got detention in school for talking?

873
00:55:20.000 --> 00:55:25.120
How many of you have been told that you need too much attention?

874
00:55:25.120 --> 00:55:26.120
Keep putting it in.

875
00:55:27.120 --> 00:55:29.960
You've been told that you need too much attention.

876
00:55:29.960 --> 00:55:32.360
You're too emotionally high maintenance.

877
00:55:32.360 --> 00:55:32.960
Let's see it.

878
00:55:46.640 --> 00:55:48.600
How many of you have been told that you

879
00:55:48.600 --> 00:55:51.080
think that you're better than other people,

880
00:55:51.080 --> 00:55:53.760
or you're smarter than other people, or that you're arrogant?

881
00:55:56.120 --> 00:56:02.400
Guys, this is what happens.

882
00:56:02.400 --> 00:56:04.120
This is how we get blocked.

883
00:56:04.120 --> 00:56:08.400
Come on, put it up, put it up, put it up, put it up, put it up.

884
00:56:08.400 --> 00:56:13.040
OK, and you guys, no one is going to think that you're actually this.

885
00:56:13.040 --> 00:56:17.360
Only 0.01% of the population actually is this as far as a mental illness.

886
00:56:17.360 --> 00:56:21.920
But how many of you have been accused of being a narcissist?

887
00:56:21.920 --> 00:56:23.920
I have.

888
00:56:23.920 --> 00:56:26.920
You guys, I had a want ad for an assistant,

889
00:56:26.920 --> 00:56:30.800
and I really just, you know, I bullet pointed everything that I needed.

890
00:56:30.800 --> 00:56:35.440
And this mean girl said, you sound like a narcissist.

891
00:56:35.440 --> 00:56:38.960
And I was like, I need an assistant.

892
00:56:38.960 --> 00:56:40.160
What am I, Cruella de Vil?

893
00:56:47.600 --> 00:56:49.240
How many people?

894
00:56:49.240 --> 00:56:51.160
You've been told you're a narcissist.

895
00:56:51.200 --> 00:56:53.120
You've been told you're selfish.

896
00:56:53.120 --> 00:56:57.960
You've been told that you lack empathy.

897
00:57:00.760 --> 00:57:03.080
You don't know when to stop talking.

898
00:57:03.080 --> 00:57:06.160
You don't know.

899
00:57:06.160 --> 00:57:07.200
You don't read the room.

900
00:57:11.560 --> 00:57:15.200
Oh, yeah, that word is way overused, you guys.

901
00:57:15.200 --> 00:57:16.880
But I'm just saying.

902
00:57:16.880 --> 00:57:20.560
It's OK for you to say that here, because that just

903
00:57:20.560 --> 00:57:24.400
goes along with this block.

904
00:57:24.400 --> 00:57:28.720
People are accusing you of being too much, OK?

905
00:57:32.280 --> 00:57:36.120
Guys, just because other people, and listen,

906
00:57:36.120 --> 00:57:38.440
I'm not saying that you don't have some toxic traits.

907
00:57:38.440 --> 00:57:40.760
I don't know each and every one of you personally.

908
00:57:40.760 --> 00:57:43.400
So let Holy Spirit show you, because there

909
00:57:43.400 --> 00:57:45.680
might be some things in each one of these blocks

910
00:57:45.680 --> 00:57:49.200
that you need to work on, that you need to come into agreement with

911
00:57:49.200 --> 00:57:52.200
or come out of agreement with so that you can move forward here.

912
00:57:52.200 --> 00:57:55.200
That's what this whole session is about, about you

913
00:57:55.200 --> 00:57:58.040
asking supernatural questions so that you

914
00:57:58.040 --> 00:57:59.400
can get supernatural answers.

915
00:58:02.880 --> 00:58:05.000
It's OK for there to be silence.

916
00:58:05.000 --> 00:58:08.200
You don't have to fill it with all kinds of words all the time.

917
00:58:11.080 --> 00:58:14.400
Some of you might be afraid of silence, because it was during the silence

918
00:58:14.400 --> 00:58:16.960
that people said things to you that you didn't want to hear.

919
00:58:16.960 --> 00:58:20.960
It was during the silence that abuse or hurt happened.

920
00:58:20.960 --> 00:58:24.720
It was during the silence where you felt rejected and not wanted.

921
00:58:24.720 --> 00:58:29.600
And so you try to fill up all the silence with words.

922
00:58:29.600 --> 00:58:32.320
Some of you just, frankly, spend way too much time alone

923
00:58:32.320 --> 00:58:35.440
so that when you get with other people, you use all your words.

924
00:58:35.440 --> 00:58:37.480
And you have a surplus of them now, because you

925
00:58:37.480 --> 00:58:39.200
haven't been talking to anybody.

926
00:58:43.840 --> 00:58:46.320
If you had 25,000 words to use this week,

927
00:58:46.320 --> 00:58:49.800
and you haven't talked to anyone, you're going to use 25,000 words on that date.

928
00:58:49.800 --> 00:58:50.360
And guess what?

929
00:58:50.360 --> 00:58:51.440
It ain't going to be good.

930
00:58:59.120 --> 00:59:03.280
So Dawn, I want you to dig deeper into, I can't stand silence, says Dawn.

931
00:59:03.280 --> 00:59:05.400
Our sister, she doesn't like silence.

932
00:59:05.400 --> 00:59:10.880
But the Bible says that God's not in the earthquake,

933
00:59:10.880 --> 00:59:16.760
and he's not in the storm, but he's in the still, small voice.

934
00:59:16.760 --> 00:59:21.960
You can only hear that voice in the silence, getting quiet.

935
00:59:21.960 --> 00:59:24.480
So ask yourself why you can't stand it.

936
00:59:24.480 --> 00:59:27.200
It's important to dig deeper into that.

937
00:59:27.200 --> 00:59:28.720
There's a breakthrough there for you.

938
00:59:34.200 --> 00:59:35.760
Maddie, pets don't say much.

939
00:59:35.760 --> 00:59:37.760
OK.

940
00:59:37.760 --> 00:59:38.760
All right.

941
00:59:46.760 --> 00:59:48.840
You guys, we want to be who we really are.

942
00:59:48.840 --> 00:59:52.760
So we're not going to shrink just to get someone to choose us.

943
00:59:52.760 --> 00:59:57.760
But at the same time, you're going to have to be who you really are.

944
00:59:57.760 --> 01:00:00.760
And you're going to have to be who you really are.

945
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:09.200
You know, we want to understand that there might be some attributes and some aspects of

946
01:00:00.760 --> 01:00:03.760
And you're going to have to be who you really are.

947
01:00:10.640 --> 01:00:18.080
this block that need to be addressed and need to be changed, okay? Not all of them but some of them.

948
01:00:19.440 --> 01:00:23.200
And so here's your breakthrough truth for those of you that have this block. The one

949
01:00:24.000 --> 01:00:34.080
and not the one like the one but the one who sees you fully is going to love you.

950
01:00:35.120 --> 01:00:40.400
They're going to love every part of you. Your eccentricities. You guys, I'm very eccentric

951
01:00:40.400 --> 01:00:46.480
and my husband loves me and guess what? He's very eccentric and I love him, okay?

952
01:00:49.280 --> 01:00:50.720
We are eccentric people.

953
01:00:54.080 --> 01:00:59.840
So the one who sees you really sees you. You let them really see you.

954
01:01:01.120 --> 01:01:06.640
You know, they're going to love you. They are. That person's going to fully love you.

955
01:01:07.520 --> 01:01:13.200
Your light is not going to be too bright for their eyes. It's true.

956
01:01:13.200 --> 01:01:22.320
It's true. Oh wow, someone works at a prison with 700 inmates. That's a lot. Okay.

957
01:01:24.320 --> 01:01:26.640
Okay, you guys. Okay, we're gonna move on here.

958
01:01:30.400 --> 01:01:35.280
So go ahead and put your numbers up. One, two, three, four. If you had more than one,

959
01:01:35.280 --> 01:01:40.960
go ahead and put them in the chat. Say like I'm one and three, two and four. Let's see those.

960
01:01:40.960 --> 01:01:45.040
If you resonated with anything about any of those presets.

961
01:01:48.080 --> 01:01:52.240
Janine's one, three and four. We have three and four. We have one, three and four. One and two.

962
01:01:53.040 --> 01:02:00.480
I'm all of them says Juliana. One and two, one and three, four, two, four.

963
01:02:02.240 --> 01:02:06.320
Look and see who has the same ones as you. You guys are not rowing those boats alone.

964
01:02:06.560 --> 01:02:12.080
All right, so we're going to go back up to the beginning about these sabotages. Okay,

965
01:02:12.080 --> 01:02:18.000
these preset sabotage blocks. And I'm just going to give you a little bit of teaching over those.

966
01:02:18.000 --> 01:02:24.880
So when you are the kind of person that sabotage, you sabotage the relationship or the connection

967
01:02:24.880 --> 01:02:30.320
with getting too close too fast. Okay, you're planning the date. You're planning the wedding

968
01:02:30.320 --> 01:02:35.760
by date three and then by date four, it's over with. Okay, you're planning the wedding by date

969
01:02:35.760 --> 01:02:41.520
four and then by date five, it's over with. Okay, so if you sabotage by getting too close too fast,

970
01:02:43.680 --> 01:02:49.600
because you're rushing in, if you're all in on day three, you barely even know this person.

971
01:02:50.640 --> 01:02:54.400
You know, you have a tendency to trauma bond instead of build.

972
01:02:58.720 --> 01:03:03.840
The reason why, one of the reasons why that could be happening. This is just one of the reasons why.

973
01:03:03.840 --> 01:03:09.520
Okay, is that you are afraid that if you don't lock it down, lock it in that you're going to be

974
01:03:09.520 --> 01:03:14.080
left behind, that you're going to be rejected. You're going to give them way too much time to

975
01:03:14.080 --> 01:03:18.480
get to know you and they're not going to like you anymore. You want to kind of really surf that wave

976
01:03:18.480 --> 01:03:27.600
of infatuation fast. Lock it in, lock it down, get them hooked. And of course you're not consciously

977
01:03:27.600 --> 01:03:31.200
thinking this. You guys understand this is all unconscious behavior. That's the problem.

978
01:03:31.920 --> 01:03:36.480
But the lie behind that is, is that if I give them any time to really get to know me,

979
01:03:37.120 --> 01:03:41.200
if I'm not doing my song and dance and showing them my highlight reels from the very beginning

980
01:03:41.200 --> 01:03:43.920
to try to get them to fall in love with me, then they're not going to like me.

981
01:03:48.240 --> 01:03:48.800
No, you guys.

982
01:03:53.280 --> 01:03:57.840
One of our single spotlights from the last single spotlight met someone right after the single

983
01:03:58.800 --> 01:04:02.960
spotlight. They've known each other for three weeks and they're already engaged.

984
01:04:05.760 --> 01:04:06.640
Praise the Lord.

985
01:04:09.520 --> 01:04:17.040
So now I'm not saying it's not going to work out. That's not for me to say, but I'm just saying,

986
01:04:17.760 --> 01:04:22.800
if you're the kind of person that tries to lock it down fast, this is probably the reason why.

987
01:04:22.880 --> 01:04:28.080
All right. So here are some signs that you are sabotaging connections with this type of intensity.

988
01:04:30.160 --> 01:04:35.120
You ready? If you see yourself in any of these, put the key words in the chat.

989
01:04:37.360 --> 01:04:43.120
Oh no, Hunter, I'm not exaggerating. Three weeks and they're engaged. The wedding is in December.

990
01:04:43.520 --> 01:04:45.040
Promise. Okay.

991
01:04:51.520 --> 01:04:53.920
Here are some signs. You overshare.

992
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:07.880
Quickly to speed up the intimacy you overshare really fast to speed up the emotional connection in the intimacy

993
01:05:08.640 --> 01:05:15.040
To make an emotional connection fast. Remember you guys you're not doing it on purpose. It's not conscious behavior. These are presets

994
01:05:20.040 --> 01:05:25.040
You assume God sent them because you prayed about it

995
01:05:26.960 --> 01:05:29.040
You prayed God

996
01:05:30.160 --> 01:05:36.360
I really really want to meet someone and then you opened up your app and someone swiped on you. Well, that must be them

997
01:05:39.600 --> 01:05:41.600
No

998
01:05:43.720 --> 01:05:47.540
You wrap the connection up in spiritual language with a nice bow

999
01:05:50.120 --> 01:05:55.400
You're over spiritualizing it before you've really tested it out in real life

1000
01:05:55.400 --> 01:05:59.920
Gina I love how you guys I love how honest you guys are being tonight vulnerable

1001
01:05:59.920 --> 01:06:02.800
But being vulnerable is really the key to breakthrough

1002
01:06:03.320 --> 01:06:07.600
She says I met someone who shared my birthday and I thought maybe that was a sign

1003
01:06:10.920 --> 01:06:13.720
It's a sign that your mom's got pregnant about the same time

1004
01:06:17.680 --> 01:06:19.680
Okay

1005
01:06:19.680 --> 01:06:22.720
Next you need constant reassurance

1006
01:06:22.760 --> 01:06:30.080
From the trauma of your childhood or even possibly the trauma of you know, a parent or a grandparent it's not even your trauma

1007
01:06:31.480 --> 01:06:36.360
But you've internalized the idea that if someone isn't constantly telling you that they love you

1008
01:06:36.360 --> 01:06:41.280
They're not constantly paying attention to you. Then that means that they don't they don't want you anymore

1009
01:06:41.800 --> 01:06:43.800
They're about to leave they're gonna abandon you

1010
01:06:44.800 --> 01:06:46.800
You need constant reassurance

1011
01:06:47.760 --> 01:06:52.400
So you you need constant reassurance or attention so you're performing for it you're performing for it all the time

1012
01:06:53.040 --> 01:06:56.480
You're trying to make connections. You're trying to up the intimacy

1013
01:06:56.480 --> 01:07:02.600
some of you will even go as far as having sex in order to keep the attention and the reassurance alive

1014
01:07:03.800 --> 01:07:08.160
I'm not gonna ask for those of you that do that to tell me but I promise you

1015
01:07:09.800 --> 01:07:12.800
I'm not gonna ask for you to be all the way like you were

1016
01:07:12.800 --> 01:07:19.280
I'm not gonna ask for those of you that do that to tell me but I promise you that is a barrier

1017
01:07:21.240 --> 01:07:27.760
If you have never been able to be in a relationship without ending up in the sheets you guys that's a preset

1018
01:07:32.360 --> 01:07:35.560
And whether you know it or not, it's not a high sex drive it's not

1019
01:07:35.560 --> 01:07:41.840
Oh, I thought they loved me and we're gonna get married. No if it's a pattern it is because you are trying to buy

1020
01:07:42.600 --> 01:07:44.600
Reassurance with your body

1021
01:07:47.120 --> 01:07:54.920
It doesn't work those relationships almost always end right afterwards or you just become a friend with benefits

1022
01:07:54.920 --> 01:07:56.920
And that's even worse

1023
01:07:58.880 --> 01:08:01.920
You get emotionally married before your

1024
01:08:02.680 --> 01:08:07.540
Relationship is really secure. So you're acting like married folk anyone do that

1025
01:08:07.860 --> 01:08:14.900
You're emotionally acting like you've been married for 20 years you'll say things like well, we feel like we've known each other our whole lives. No

1026
01:08:16.580 --> 01:08:18.580
That's a preset

1027
01:08:24.020 --> 01:08:26.020
Okay

1028
01:08:26.020 --> 01:08:33.020
Guys it's not about rushing to the promise. I it's it's good for you to understand that the person that is really going to be able to walk out

1029
01:08:33.020 --> 01:08:35.020
This with you with longevity

1030
01:08:36.020 --> 01:08:38.020
That you don't have to be in a rush

1031
01:08:39.540 --> 01:08:41.540
Okay

1032
01:08:41.540 --> 01:08:47.460
God wants you to become the person who can handle this and steward this and have capacity to get past this mark

1033
01:08:47.460 --> 01:08:49.500
So this relationship has to be successful

1034
01:08:50.220 --> 01:08:54.899
God wants you to become the person who can handle this and steward this and have capacity to get past this mark

1035
01:08:54.899 --> 01:08:56.899
So this relationship has longevity

1036
01:08:57.580 --> 01:09:01.740
You guys we're not good. We're not here for a good time. We're here for a long time

1037
01:09:02.740 --> 01:09:08.220
Okay, that needs to be the motto of your relationships. I'm not here for a good time. I'm here for a long time

1038
01:09:09.100 --> 01:09:11.100
I want to be able to sustain this

1039
01:09:11.540 --> 01:09:13.540
sustain it

1040
01:09:14.020 --> 01:09:18.700
Proverbs 19 to if you want to write this down, I think this is an amazing scripture right here for this

1041
01:09:19.420 --> 01:09:21.420
desire without knowledge

1042
01:09:22.060 --> 01:09:26.180
Desire without knowledge. So desire for someone without knowing them is

1043
01:09:27.540 --> 01:09:31.800
Not good that scripture desire without knowledge is not good

1044
01:09:36.580 --> 01:09:38.020
And

1045
01:09:38.020 --> 01:09:43.819
Then here's the second part how much more will hasty feet miss the path

1046
01:09:47.060 --> 01:09:51.819
Hasty means rushing. Have you guys ever heard the saying haste makes waste?

1047
01:09:54.980 --> 01:10:00.100
It just means that if you're rushing around you're gonna forget something you're gonna break something you're gonna spend

1048
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:06.080
coffee on your shirt. You're trying to get to work, you're late, you're being hasty,

1049
01:10:06.080 --> 01:10:12.480
get a flat tire, make things even worse. Haste makes waste. Desire without knowledge is not

1050
01:10:12.480 --> 01:10:22.880
good. How much more will hasty feet miss the path? It's not a great scripture. It's a great

1051
01:10:22.880 --> 01:10:28.480
one. So guys, I know that you're just going fast because you think that's what's safe,

1052
01:10:28.480 --> 01:10:36.000
but speed does not equal safety. Real love is not urgent. Fear is urgent. Isn't fear

1053
01:10:36.000 --> 01:10:38.960
always rushing us? Hurry up, hurry up, hurry up. You're going to be late. You're going

1054
01:10:38.960 --> 01:10:48.920
to miss out. You're going to miss the boat. FOMO, FOMO, FOMO. And remember, the opposite

1055
01:10:48.920 --> 01:10:55.840
of love is fear. So fear comes from the kingdom of darkness and the enemy is always rushing

1056
01:10:55.840 --> 01:10:58.840
us. You don't want to know how you can tell whether it's God or the devil when you're

1057
01:10:58.840 --> 01:11:05.480
having these thoughts in your mind or if it's just your broken flesh. The enemy always likes

1058
01:11:05.480 --> 01:11:13.040
to try to masquerade as a divine voice. Okay, remember, Lucifer fell from heaven. He knows

1059
01:11:13.040 --> 01:11:22.080
the language. Come on, y'all. He knows the language. He speaks spiritually. You know

1060
01:11:22.080 --> 01:11:29.640
that, right? But he doesn't speak from love because he doesn't have that. He can only

1061
01:11:29.640 --> 01:11:37.440
speak from the opposite of love, which is fear. Fear is the reigning commodity in the

1062
01:11:37.440 --> 01:11:42.480
kingdom of darkness. And so anything that's laced with fear or punishment, that is not

1063
01:11:42.480 --> 01:11:46.480
God's voice. Anything that makes you feel like if you don't hurry up, if you don't do

1064
01:11:46.480 --> 01:11:52.800
it right now. And there's even preaching out there that tries to reinforce that. Delayed

1065
01:11:52.800 --> 01:11:58.760
obedience is disobedience. No, friends. I told you at the beginning of this tonight,

1066
01:11:58.760 --> 01:12:05.920
God seeds our heart. He seeds our heart. He sows seeds in our heart before he starts inviting

1067
01:12:05.920 --> 01:12:10.400
us into things. He's preparing us because he knows what we're made out of, which is

1068
01:12:10.400 --> 01:12:21.200
dust. Okay? This frame that we're in is part, is cursed. And he knows that. So he is patient.

1069
01:12:21.200 --> 01:12:29.920
These are the fruit of the spirit. Patience, love, peace, joy. If God's talking to you,

1070
01:12:29.920 --> 01:12:34.040
he is going to, even when he's bringing correction, it's going to feel hopeful. It's going to

1071
01:12:34.040 --> 01:12:39.920
feel positive. It's going to feel merciful. It's not going to feel rushed. It's not going

1072
01:12:39.920 --> 01:12:45.760
to feel like pressure. It's not going to feel like punishment. Okay? So I don't know

1073
01:12:45.760 --> 01:12:50.880
who that's for, but it's for somebody. All right. Real love is not urgent. It's steady.

1074
01:12:50.880 --> 01:13:00.040
It's steady. It's steady. Steady the course. Your person, your person, your partner will

1075
01:13:00.040 --> 01:13:09.960
not need you to hurry. They will want you to be whole. They will want you to be sure.

1076
01:13:09.960 --> 01:13:13.680
I have the privilege to go to a wedding in August, right here, down here in Dripping

1077
01:13:13.680 --> 01:13:21.120
Springs, private client. She came to me with horrible avoidant attachment. Her, um, her

1078
01:13:21.120 --> 01:13:25.760
block was preset. Love is going to be a burden. It's going to be too much. They're going to

1079
01:13:25.760 --> 01:13:29.600
ask for too much from me. I'm not emotionally available. I can't give it to them. It's just

1080
01:13:29.600 --> 01:13:37.320
too much. And I walked with her in her singleness and then she met someone because that usually

1081
01:13:37.320 --> 01:13:41.200
happens when I'm working with someone. She met someone and then they began to date. She

1082
01:13:41.200 --> 01:13:47.000
tried to cut and run probably a million times, but this man was so patient. He was so kind.

1083
01:13:47.000 --> 01:13:51.560
He didn't rush her. He didn't give her ultimatums. He didn't say, I need to know whether or not

1084
01:13:51.560 --> 01:13:58.240
you're my girlfriend right now. He prayed for her. He helped her. He made her feel safe

1085
01:13:58.240 --> 01:14:03.000
and they dated for a whole year like this. And then they got engaged and now she's happy

1086
01:14:03.000 --> 01:14:08.640
to marry him. God knows what you need and how to get it to you.

1087
01:14:16.640 --> 01:14:23.040
All right. And last but not least, you guys, love takes capacity. Go watch that storm video

1088
01:14:23.040 --> 01:14:26.760
that I posted in all your groups. There's a pruning happening. There's a purging happening.

1089
01:14:26.760 --> 01:14:32.960
We have to make room. We don't need to manifest more love. We need to make room for more love.

1090
01:14:32.960 --> 01:14:42.000
Beloved, I pray that you prosper and be in good health even as your soul prospers. That's

1091
01:14:42.000 --> 01:14:49.320
third John 1 and 2, 1 verse 2. What does this mean? This means that love will only grow

1092
01:14:49.320 --> 01:14:59.440
to the level that our soul can expand. We're only going to be able to grow.

1093
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:05.420
Or receive I should say to the level of our expansion

1094
01:15:06.520 --> 01:15:09.820
So let's go ahead and expand now. Do you guys want to put some expanders in?

1095
01:15:11.940 --> 01:15:13.800
Go ahead and stretch

1096
01:15:13.800 --> 01:15:16.080
Get some more capacity going here. I

1097
01:15:17.240 --> 01:15:19.240
Remember when I learned how to swim underwater

1098
01:15:19.680 --> 01:15:26.680
It takes practice holding your breath so you can hold it longer and longer and longer and longer because you're expanding your lung capacity

1099
01:15:26.680 --> 01:15:32.040
And God wants to expand our heart capacity so we can break through these blocks

1100
01:15:35.200 --> 01:15:40.980
Yes, I was thinking about Isaiah 54 to Megan stretcher stretch your tent pegs

1101
01:15:41.680 --> 01:15:43.680
Expand its expansion time

1102
01:15:44.120 --> 01:15:51.160
For those of you that are not familiar with Isaiah 54 go read it. It just basically is saying that it's time to break forth

1103
01:15:52.200 --> 01:15:55.080
Where we've been boxed in and make room for more

1104
01:15:56.080 --> 01:15:57.840
Okay

1105
01:15:57.840 --> 01:15:58.480
All right

1106
01:15:58.480 --> 01:16:01.920
So guys if you feel like you've hit a ceiling if you really believe like tonight's

1107
01:16:02.320 --> 01:16:04.800
Path session is really speaking to you

1108
01:16:04.920 --> 01:16:07.200
You've hit a ceiling in different areas of your life

1109
01:16:07.400 --> 01:16:11.760
This can apply to any area of your life where you just haven't gotten past the same place

1110
01:16:12.120 --> 01:16:17.920
Every time you get close to going past it you just take you know, three steps forward and five steps back

1111
01:16:18.600 --> 01:16:20.600
You fall back down

1112
01:16:20.680 --> 01:16:22.320
alright

1113
01:16:22.320 --> 01:16:24.320
It's not because love isn't available

1114
01:16:25.320 --> 01:16:28.120
It's because we need a bigger container

1115
01:16:30.320 --> 01:16:32.320
It's time for us to have a bigger container

1116
01:16:33.880 --> 01:16:41.440
Luke 537 and I I spoke about this on the on the supernatural Saturday, but no one puts new wine into old skins

1117
01:16:43.680 --> 01:16:48.720
New love requires new capacity new alignment new discernment and

1118
01:16:51.280 --> 01:16:53.280
Here's your activation

1119
01:16:55.320 --> 01:16:56.200
All right

1120
01:16:56.200 --> 01:17:01.440
So if you believe these things you want to activate these things I will copy and paste these into the group so you can have

1121
01:17:01.440 --> 01:17:03.440
them but here they are I

1122
01:17:05.080 --> 01:17:10.000
Will no longer sabotage the love that God is trying to send

1123
01:17:13.560 --> 01:17:15.560
God will show me

1124
01:17:16.280 --> 01:17:18.120
where I

1125
01:17:18.120 --> 01:17:20.120
have presets and

1126
01:17:20.640 --> 01:17:22.640
blocks and

1127
01:17:22.640 --> 01:17:24.640
I will allow him to

1128
01:17:25.680 --> 01:17:27.680
Stretch me past

1129
01:17:28.400 --> 01:17:30.520
These beliefs I

1130
01:17:35.000 --> 01:17:37.000
Expand in love

1131
01:17:37.560 --> 01:17:39.560
intimacy and joy

1132
01:17:40.480 --> 01:17:42.480
every day

1133
01:17:42.720 --> 01:17:50.160
Every day I'm expanding in love joy and intimacy. I move at the pace of peace

1134
01:17:50.920 --> 01:17:52.920
Not panic I

1135
01:17:54.000 --> 01:17:58.760
Am ready for the relationship I am preparing for I

1136
01:18:01.440 --> 01:18:03.440
Take a

1137
01:18:03.800 --> 01:18:11.320
Big step into love fully fearlessly and faithfully

1138
01:18:15.640 --> 01:18:19.280
Okay, you guys I'm gonna put some journal prompts let me see

1139
01:18:21.120 --> 01:18:26.480
I'm gonna put some journal prompts for you and this will be your homework and

1140
01:18:27.120 --> 01:18:31.160
You guys this can be part of what we activate on Sunday night

1141
01:18:32.920 --> 01:18:38.320
Because we're not gonna go to get off this subject because God is showing me that this is the real reason why we're not having

1142
01:18:38.320 --> 01:18:39.680
success

1143
01:18:39.680 --> 01:18:46.280
So many of us we don't realize it, but we just really do not have the bandwidth to be able to

1144
01:18:47.200 --> 01:18:52.600
Receive what it is that we're asking for and it's really important. It's really really important

1145
01:18:53.840 --> 01:18:57.400
Okay, this is not letting me copy and paste for some reason which is really annoying

1146
01:19:04.600 --> 01:19:06.600
Can someone remind me of

1147
01:19:07.160 --> 01:19:09.160
on the keyboard how you

1148
01:19:09.840 --> 01:19:14.480
Copy something since the mouse isn't working. I don't remember. I'm not a man see

1149
01:19:15.480 --> 01:19:21.760
Command C. Thank you. You're amazing. I love you. Thank you. Thank you very much. Okay

1150
01:19:29.160 --> 01:19:29.760
Oh

1151
01:19:29.760 --> 01:19:32.320
That's not letting me do that either. Okay, let me see

1152
01:19:32.800 --> 01:19:37.240
Is there a chat up here then the chat down here is not

1153
01:19:38.000 --> 01:19:40.000
Allowing me to do anything

1154
01:19:44.760 --> 01:19:52.560
Okay, I'll say these questions and then I'll post them in your group here the questions what's my preset in love

1155
01:19:54.040 --> 01:19:56.040
Where do I start to self-sabotage?

1156
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:04.160
Yeah, Vicki, I did all that, it doesn't work.

1157
01:20:04.160 --> 01:20:06.920
I don't think the mouse is connected.

1158
01:20:06.920 --> 01:20:09.280
What's my upper limit in love?

1159
01:20:09.280 --> 01:20:11.140
Where do I start to self-sabotage?

1160
01:20:11.140 --> 01:20:12.240
What's my preset?

1161
01:20:12.240 --> 01:20:15.760
What's my highest limit?

1162
01:20:15.760 --> 01:20:26.480
Which of the four blocks is the loudest in this season?

1163
01:20:26.480 --> 01:20:30.640
And if someone wants to scribe this and write it down, that'd be great.

1164
01:20:30.640 --> 01:20:36.640
Which of the four blocks is the loudest in this season?

1165
01:20:36.640 --> 01:20:40.920
Do I sabotage by retreating or by rushing?

1166
01:20:40.920 --> 01:20:54.000
And you guys, it's not when you're in a relationship, it's before you even get into a relationship.

1167
01:20:54.040 --> 01:21:02.020
And then four, what would it look like to stay rooted, steady, and open to real love?

1168
01:21:02.020 --> 01:21:05.040
What would it look like for you to stay open to real love?

1169
01:21:05.040 --> 01:21:09.280
For you to stay open to real love, what would that look like?

1170
01:21:09.280 --> 01:21:12.040
What would need to shift?

1171
01:21:12.040 --> 01:21:13.640
What would need to shift in your schedule?

1172
01:21:13.640 --> 01:21:16.360
What would need to shift in your surroundings?

1173
01:21:16.360 --> 01:21:17.360
What would need to be pruned?

1174
01:21:17.360 --> 01:21:22.000
What would need to be purged in order for you to have the capacity, the bandwidth to

1175
01:21:22.000 --> 01:21:26.240
expand and stay open to real love?

1176
01:21:26.240 --> 01:21:28.560
What needs to change?

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01:21:28.560 --> 01:21:29.560
What mindsets?

1178
01:21:29.560 --> 01:21:36.200
What beliefs?

1179
01:21:36.200 --> 01:21:39.240
What input?

1180
01:21:39.240 --> 01:21:51.280
What community?

1181
01:21:51.280 --> 01:22:02.240
And last but not least, who are you when you stop resisting and start receiving?

1182
01:22:02.240 --> 01:22:05.140
Who are you?

1183
01:22:05.140 --> 01:22:06.600
What does that person look like?

1184
01:22:06.600 --> 01:22:17.000
The person that stops resisting more and starts receiving.

1185
01:22:17.000 --> 01:22:20.420
God told me this years ago and I'm going to release it over you guys right now.

1186
01:22:20.420 --> 01:22:27.140
If you want the more, you have to let go of the less.

1187
01:22:27.140 --> 01:22:30.460
If you want the more, you have to let go of the less.

1188
01:22:30.460 --> 01:22:36.940
What's the less that you're letting go of?

1189
01:22:36.940 --> 01:22:44.360
Who are you when you stop resisting and start receiving?

1190
01:22:44.360 --> 01:22:49.360
You might even want to give that person a nickname.

1191
01:22:49.360 --> 01:22:55.360
I know that God, in prayer one day, God had been talking to me about butterflies and how

1192
01:22:55.360 --> 01:22:58.960
I was in a metamorphosis, I was in a transformation.

1193
01:22:58.960 --> 01:23:00.640
He was talking to me about that.

1194
01:23:00.640 --> 01:23:09.800
And then one day in prayer, God just very gently and very fatherly said, oh, my sweet

1195
01:23:09.800 --> 01:23:10.800
little Vanessa.

1196
01:23:10.800 --> 01:23:12.600
Well, my name is not Vanessa, y'all.

1197
01:23:12.600 --> 01:23:14.300
My middle name is not Vanessa.

1198
01:23:14.300 --> 01:23:16.160
No one in my family's name is Vanessa.

1199
01:23:16.160 --> 01:23:18.260
There's no Vanessa that lives here.

1200
01:23:18.260 --> 01:23:22.540
So immediately I'm like, God, you don't even know my name.

1201
01:23:22.540 --> 01:23:28.780
I don't understand, you know, because I wasn't that mature in the Lord yet.

1202
01:23:28.780 --> 01:23:33.460
Anyway, I felt like the God, I felt like, you know, Holy Spirit was like, go, go, go

1203
01:23:33.460 --> 01:23:34.460
look up the name Vanessa.

1204
01:23:34.460 --> 01:23:36.500
And you guys, this is before Google.

1205
01:23:36.500 --> 01:23:38.820
This is before being able to do it like this.

1206
01:23:38.820 --> 01:23:44.860
I had to actually go and look up Vanessa.

1207
01:23:44.860 --> 01:23:45.860
And you know what it means?

1208
01:23:45.860 --> 01:23:47.980
It means butterfly.

1209
01:23:47.980 --> 01:23:48.980
That's what the name means.

1210
01:23:48.980 --> 01:23:50.580
It actually means butterfly.

1211
01:23:50.580 --> 01:23:54.540
And that was what God had me studying and that's what he had been saying to me and talking

1212
01:23:54.540 --> 01:23:55.540
to me about.

1213
01:23:55.540 --> 01:23:58.300
Yes, Michelle, it means butterfly.

1214
01:23:58.300 --> 01:24:12.420
And so, um, so perhaps there's even some, you know, name that can be a spiritual sort

1215
01:24:12.420 --> 01:24:17.940
of alter ego of you expanding, you know, in a good way.

1216
01:24:18.100 --> 01:24:20.980
Names are powerful.

1217
01:24:20.980 --> 01:24:21.980
They are.

1218
01:24:21.980 --> 01:24:22.980
All right.

1219
01:24:22.980 --> 01:24:24.060
So Father God, we thank you for this time together.

1220
01:24:24.060 --> 01:24:28.780
Lord, we thank you that we don't have to stay stuck, that you're inviting us into the more.

1221
01:24:28.780 --> 01:24:32.080
But in order for us to have the more, we have to let go of the less.

1222
01:24:32.080 --> 01:24:37.020
We have to let go of the less, not just from our own lives, not from trauma, but also from

1223
01:24:37.020 --> 01:24:38.020
our generations.

1224
01:24:38.020 --> 01:24:43.780
It's time for us to embrace the abundance that Jesus died to give us in every area.

1225
01:24:43.780 --> 01:24:46.620
Help us to see the areas where we're resisting.

1226
01:24:47.620 --> 01:24:48.620
Where we are not receiving.

1227
01:24:48.620 --> 01:24:50.620
It's not that you're not trying to give to us.

1228
01:24:50.620 --> 01:24:52.620
It's that we are not receiving.

1229
01:24:52.620 --> 01:24:59.620
And so Lord, I pray that you would expand us, expand our capacity, expand our capacity

1230
01:24:59.620 --> 01:25:01.620
to receive.

1231
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:06.520
To love to be loved because we are from love and we've been created to love

1232
01:25:07.520 --> 01:25:11.720
For love and so God we just thank you for all of these things all these truths tonight

1233
01:25:11.720 --> 01:25:15.440
Help us to see ourselves very clearly help us to not hold on to anything

1234
01:25:15.440 --> 01:25:18.840
That's familiar just for the sake of familiarity or safety

1235
01:25:18.960 --> 01:25:25.480
Help us to see that that thing that we think is keeping us safe is actually the thing that is destroying us

1236
01:25:25.720 --> 01:25:31.080
It's time for us to let that go and allow you to fill that space with something that is going to

1237
01:25:31.200 --> 01:25:36.880
Help us to receive the very things that you have always wanted to give us in

1238
01:25:37.480 --> 01:25:39.480
Jesus name a

1239
01:25:39.720 --> 01:25:41.000
man

1240
01:25:41.000 --> 01:25:45.640
Alright friends, please answer those questions. I will make sure that you get those questions

1241
01:25:46.240 --> 01:25:50.640
You'll get the declarations and the questions. We can't activate this

1242
01:25:51.440 --> 01:25:53.440
Sunday night and

1243
01:25:53.480 --> 01:25:55.480
Supernatural Saturday will be all about

1244
01:25:56.920 --> 01:25:59.480
It'll be all about the storm that's promotion

1245
01:26:00.000 --> 01:26:04.280
But we will go back to single spotlights. We'll even do a dating game next you guys

1246
01:26:04.560 --> 01:26:08.600
So I know that those of you like I want the dating game. I want this I want that

1247
01:26:08.600 --> 01:26:09.120
Well, yeah

1248
01:26:09.120 --> 01:26:10.720
We have to have this

1249
01:26:10.720 --> 01:26:12.280
So that we can have that

1250
01:26:12.280 --> 01:26:18.440
Because what good is doing any of that if we don't have the capacity to receive the very thing that's being offered to us

1251
01:26:18.640 --> 01:26:25.160
All right, so let's do this work so that we can actually have some success from these spotlights, all right, okay

1252
01:26:25.160 --> 01:26:29.680
I'll see you soon. Bye everyone. Oh wait one little thing for those of you that join the arc dating app

1253
01:26:30.200 --> 01:26:34.080
Those speed dating events are going to be listed. There's three of them in June

1254
01:26:34.640 --> 01:26:37.040
You will be able to go to those they are virtual

1255
01:26:37.040 --> 01:26:41.200
They are on this app and they have a lot of different really cool things

1256
01:26:41.440 --> 01:26:45.640
That we are going to have as a community that is an affiliate of them

1257
01:26:45.760 --> 01:26:50.400
So you just have to hang tight all you have to do now is click the affiliate link download the app

1258
01:26:50.600 --> 01:26:56.160
You don't have to find people on there. If you don't want to you can just download the app being waiting for these speed dating events

1259
01:26:56.160 --> 01:27:02.320
That's awesome. They're coming in June. We have the dates already. We'll post that stuff. We're gonna keep you informed

1260
01:27:02.320 --> 01:27:05.040
But this is just the beginning. We're gonna do a bunch of stuff with the arc

1261
01:27:05.720 --> 01:27:06.880
Okay

1262
01:27:06.880 --> 01:27:09.000
So let's all get on the arc

1263
01:27:09.600 --> 01:27:13.960
Cool. All right. See you soon. Bye. Thank you Jackie. Bye. Bye