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Hi, it's the 9th of June, we're with all these amazing mighty men of valor and we're just

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we're going to discuss what what wins we had and welcome all, Christopher, James, Joel,

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Abraham, Stephen.

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So anybody have any wins?

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Any wins anything that like you're like, you're just excited, or even if you're not excited

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to talk about it, but like, like, officially, calling a gal that I'm pursuing and dating

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a girlfriend, because I introduced her to my family on a FaceTime call saying, Oh, hey,

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this is my friend that I'm pursuing and dating because I thought that was a professional

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doesn't make someone feel like forced to rush and she's like, really, I'm a friend that

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you're dating.

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Wow.

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I've walked into a trap.

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Like that Star Wars meme.

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It's a trap.

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It's a trap.

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Yeah.

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I was like, well, what word would you like me to use or name or state that makes you

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feel comfortable and not feel like I almost feel like I'm talking to a kindergartner.

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But hopefully, you'll never see this recording.

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But

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I don't know.

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Yeah.

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Kind of gated.

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Right.

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But you're in a stage that would be stage three, then right?

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Well, it's still stage two to me just based on the timeframe, because we've only known

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each other a month, like since I introduced myself to her, but you just did you say girlfriend?

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I said girlfriend.

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I told her that I'm still talking to other people.

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I know it feels it feels like a weird terminology.

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It feels like we're speaking two different languages.

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Like, I know that I'm only pursuing her.

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Really?

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Yeah.

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Like, just like everyone that I've opened up to in or extended a opportunity for conversation

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and community just feels very like, no disrespect to them, like the members of the LIS community

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that I'm chatted with or other people in the world.

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It's just that they're all cool people.

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I just don't feel like and I don't mean like feel like a weird somatic expression, but

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just like just something just doesn't click with anyone really.

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But with her it's it's a lot of things kind of in a scary way all at once like confirmations

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of things I've been praying about for a long time and same thing for myself to her things

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that she'd been praying about for a long time and setting up boundaries and I'm driving

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from again, Vegas, a cross country, a buddy from my church here in Vegas that moved away

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to get married in Ohio, then go attend church with this girl in Pennsylvania, only to turn

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around and go back to Iowa and unpack all my stuff that I'm hopefully shipping out tomorrow.

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Oh, great way to actually get in.

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I mean, like you're heading towards it sounds like you're heading towards a level three.

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Yeah, like I feel like sweater collection.

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That's why is that why you wear as she has one.

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It's not really ugly.

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It's actually looks like pretty.

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But you know, I mean, like the whole point of a ugly Christmas sweater is that it looks

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gaudy and ridiculous or like general wear, which is why I think they're all awesome.

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Yeah.

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Not that not that they're actually hideous.

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And unfortunately, I've already packed mine away.

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So I can't just actually wait, I take that back.

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Oh, no.

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There's one right here that she asked if I could come work out with her at her CrossFit

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gym.

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Like the following day after church, and I'm like, Oh, yes, I can.

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She's like, you're gonna wear something appropriate.

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I'm like, are they all Christians?

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I've got something appropriate.

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What is it?

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What does it say?

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I can't read it.

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It says yellow.

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Just kidding.

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Happy Easter.

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That's cool.

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And it's pink.

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So I think it just looks that much more ridiculous on me.

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Yeah.

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But yeah, you know, introduce myself to her.

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Yeah, introduce myself to her.

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And like a fun creative way.

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She said, let's talk about everything on her dating profile.

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And I was like, if you could be a lion, what type of lion would you be?

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Like Daniel Delgado and I were messaging each other back and forth.

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And he's like, there is no way that she responds back.

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And I just send him back an exclamation mark.

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She responds.

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That's so funny.

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negative way. So, you know, you guys, I don't, I wouldn't always

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say, you know, ask those questions. But I do think that

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creative questions, fun questions are a nice, easy way

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to break in. So that's it. That's awesome. David, any

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other anybody else got something they want to share?

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Hey, David, what if she told you what kind and then she said

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she was lying?

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I was I was I was almost expecting her to go. Well, I'm

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a feline. No, no, she said she would be a fierce lion. And then

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I literally gave a synopsis of Lafcadio. And for those of you

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who don't know, that's a Shel Silverstein poem about a lion

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that just wants to chill and eat marshmallows, but it's totally

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capable of eating a hunter that's trying to kill him, and

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then steal his gun, and then steal his clothes, and then use

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his gun to shoot other hunters, and then take their clothes and

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take their guns and create like a small little conglomeracy of

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lions with clothes and guns. Just so we can move to New York

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and move into a little mansion and fill in a hot tub and eat

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marshmallows all day only to realize this life kind of sucks.

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I really, I really just want to go back to being a lion.

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You know, when you get outside your identity, you know, a lot

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of times you think, Oh, if I just do this, and I've just be

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this, then I'll be better. Right. But like, you know, being

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grounded in who you are in your identity in Christ is really

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huge. You know, because there's only one you.

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I'm so glad that you caught on to that. Because that was like,

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part of me projecting that inner sense of like a metaphor for my

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life as a whole. But she just kind of read it as that's a

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peculiar response, because she'd never heard of that poem.

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Neither. And so she just thought I was a little bit crazy, wacky,

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but funny. And she's still talking to me.

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Well, let's see. And you guys are headed towards level three.

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All right. John, anything new and exciting?

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None. I just came back from Portland. I went to my

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grandson's birthday. Once two and once for that was nice.

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That's cool. Yeah, they're actually in cameras in

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Washington, right by Portland. But it was pretty. It's like 80

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degrees.

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That's nice. Yeah, you know, when I've gone to Oregon and

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Seattle, both time, you know, the times I've gone, it's been

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beautiful. And then you get this, like, they're lying to us.

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It's not the weather's. They just don't want us here. But I

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guess in the winter and stuff, it gets gloomy.

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So like my mom lives, my family lives in Washington. They count

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how many days are sunny, just so you know, how many

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California I don't think I counted how many days were

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sunny. Just saying.

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No, you might count the cloudy days. But yeah,

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it's usually rainy days. You're like, yeah, there was like five

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last year.

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Yeah. So I know it's crazy.

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Well, if not, what's it? Hey, Daniel, welcome. We're just

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checking in. You got any wins, Daniel, we're just talking

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about this what's going on. I got one to share, but I want to

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make sure everybody got their their shot.

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Yeah, I think Hey, good to see you guys. I don't think I have

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any new wins. I mentioned kind of going level three with

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somebody a few weeks ago. Yeah. So that's going great. It's

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going great. Yeah. So

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you guys have you have you had your meetup yet? Or is it still

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to come? Right?

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It's still to come. Sure. Yeah, she's gonna visit June 20th.

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Through the 25th or something. So yeah,

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I was like, was it the 12th? Because I'm looking at the 12th.

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I wish.

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Well, Lord, may your favor be on that hope that meeting and Jesus

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name. So um, so you know, I am. Hey, James. Hey, James. I'm

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Mike, by the way. And I'm in the Silicon Valley. I do. I'm a

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master machinist, basically. And that's kind of what I do. You

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know, I do a lot of ministry and a lot of different things. But

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James, where are you from?

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I'm from Los Angeles. I'm working in Nashville for the

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next two months. So I, I opened mental health clinics out here

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and other places. So yeah, it's good to be here.

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That's cool. Welcome. Are you? Is it just I haven't been around

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and because I don't, I didn't recognize Joel either. So

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yeah, I've been coming a bit just kind of staying with the

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book and doing some of the work. That's pretty much it.

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Cool. Well, welcome.

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So, you know, I've had a lot going on lately. And, you know,

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I really felt like God was going to do something and I was supposed to switch to this one church.

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And that was about four-ish months ago, right?

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And I had a really kind of distinct picture of what it was going to look like and who

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was going to be with me going there.

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And then it all kind of fell apart.

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And I was like, man, what's going on?

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I don't understand.

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I guess I'm not going there.

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Right.

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Well, this is my first week there and it was amazing.

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And so like, and it was exactly how I saw it six months ago.

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But like, you know, so, um, you know, things, sometimes things come around, you know, you

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know, not that, not that you guys have ever heard this on this call, but like sometimes

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things come full circle, you know, like, you know, and so I had a full circle Sunday, you

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Um, and, uh, yeah, so that was, it was pretty cool.

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So, um, Joey, Joey, you got anything you want to chat about?

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Are you good?

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Uh, not too much going on.

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Um, I'm actually on vacation right now with my, my family.

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Um, but, uh, so that's nice, but nothing, nothing too much going on.

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Cool.

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All right.

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You know, Abram, you can chat if you want.

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If not, I understand.

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Right.

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Like, you know, I just, I just, I love you, bro.

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And so, um, does anybody have any topics that they wanted to want to cover and get

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to talk about?

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I guess I have a, sorry, go ahead, man.

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Oh, go for it.

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I just had a question as to, uh, sorry, I'm trying to take a TV off a wall, uh, by myself.

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There we go.

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I'm on camera now.

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Um, so I guess with level three is level three exclusive, or is it level four that's exclusive

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level four is the engagement process.

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Yep.

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But which is it?

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So four is the engagement.

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You were correct.

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Three is three is exclusive.

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Two is, you know, talking three goes like, we're gonna, we're going to, you know, choose

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each other.

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And four is like, we're going, we like each other and we're going farther.

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And five is marriage.

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If I remember right.

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Don't quote me.

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Well, and I guess that's, uh, how do I proceed?

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Like things are moving kind of quick.

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Like we've only known each other a month or it feel like, I guess, comfortably call it

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a level two.

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Well, you're already at, if you're talking with her, you're already at a level two.

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No, but I mean like, but I mean like that, I want to still call it a level two before

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like declaring it a three, um, even though we've already had a lot of conversations about

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like theoretically, how would marriage look theoretically this, that, because it is long

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distance.

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Um, well, and you know, a lot of those questions come up.

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What's that?

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You know, long distance is one of those things where long distance is hard.

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So it's kind of an accelerated timeframe.

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Oh, I did not know that.

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Oh yeah.

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Because all the other ones have been like really slow, really intermittent conversations

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with anyone else.

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Well, that's, well, it's really hard to generate.

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So you, have you met her in person?

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So it went for two weeks and then because I was driving cross country in DC, she mentioned

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DC, that's right by Pennsylvania where I live at.

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And I'm like, you know, I hate to like sound this vulnerable and trying to get to know

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someone.

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But was that you dropping the hanky like straight up wrote it down?

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Cause I was like, well, I either she is and I go for it or she isn't.

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And I gladly know that before I suggest and rush things, but she admitted, yes, that was

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me dropping the hanky.

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I'm like, cool.

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Would you like to meet up for an in-person date?

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We met May 27th when I did my return trip, drove two hours out of the way.

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So one of the reasons why I asked you this really important to get.

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So I was in a online relationship and it was amazing.

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And then we got in person and it was horrific, right?

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So like, it doesn't always translate, right.

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You know, because people feel, people are, feel safer.

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Sometimes they have, there's a lot, there's a myriad of issues that happens when, you

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know, they're, they may be introverted and then they get into a public setting and they

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kind of freak out.

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Right.

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You know?

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So.

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Cool.

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So cool.

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I get, I think that's just good to hear that from you, that it is an accelerated thing.

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Like I said, you were talking about boundaries earlier, right?

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Yeah.

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Boundaries.

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Yeah.

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I mean, like when I met her, I only shook her hand and she said the fact that I didn't

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try to hug her, didn't try to kiss her like every other date has ever done.

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And that just made her like so much more comfortable with me and just feel like I was

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a point of security.

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for and asking to pray and yeah.

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So, you know, you guys like when you get, okay.

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So I would encourage you all.

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I mean, every, you guys are all adults, right?

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But when the physical side comes in,

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whether it be a hug or this or that, hugs,

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it can be, it's better to slow play it

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and just be friends and be cool and get to know the person

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because like, you know, when, you know, people,

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a lot of people start kissing and all that

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and it kind of sets the clock on the physical, right?

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Like, you know, and it puts an extra tension

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where you actually don't get to really,

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it kind of muddles the senses and stuff

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because now you have the physical part in it.

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And it's just cool to get to know somebody

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and like, because great relationships

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are built on friendships, right?

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And friends, you know, and so not that you can't hug

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and it's like, it's not a fast rule,

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but I would just encourage you take it slow.

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And like David was saying, you know, she,

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a lot of ladies are oppressed

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and they actually appreciate

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not being pushed into that right away, right?

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So, is it Stefan or Steven?

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Are you there?

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Hey, Mike, it's Stefan.

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It's Stefan, I thought so, yeah.

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What's going on?

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Just a quick question.

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I've been in a level three, four,

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question to the group or especially those guys

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that's been in long-term relationships

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or marriages before, but I'm divorced,

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but I'm in a level three for just over four months

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and the lady is also on part of our group last year single.

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She actually introduced me to it.

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And I've, I think I'm picking up

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that her previous relationship,

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which is about two years or ended two years ago,

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there's still a couple of things that frazzles her,

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especially if the guy pops a message or something.

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She has tried to block him as far as possible

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because he didn't sound like a healthy individual.

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And I'm just wondering how,

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if anyone's had experience with something like this

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and how best to help or to, yeah.

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And timelines, because we, yeah,

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we both like each other a lot and we've seen each other,

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we long-term or distance dating,

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but we've seen each other quite a lot

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in the past four, say four and a half months.

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And she is looking to relocate to where I am.

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I've got a little boy, so I can't move.

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So it's pretty serious,

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but it just feels like there's maybe something

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on that side that might need some healing or assistance.

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I want to make sure,

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because I'm not quite sure I heard you correctly, right?

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So she had a relationship two years ago

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that's still calling her.

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Is that what you were saying?

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So her previous relationship ended two years ago.

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And it seems, yeah, that ended two years ago.

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And shortly, or probably six to 12 months after that,

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she joined last year single.

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And she's done everything she can to block this guy.

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He does seem to be a, I don't know,

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not a healthy individual in general.

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Functional, but not healthy.

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Okay, okay, so sorry.

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That's what I thought you said.

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Okay, so basically she's trying to,

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this dude's still pinging her,

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even though she said, go away.

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And like, they have had no relationship, right?

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Yeah, yeah, so the thing that happened last

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is she's blocked him on every form of communication she has.

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And he's sent a physical package

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to where she lives in the past short while ago.

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And I just, it frazzled her,

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because she's trying to get away as soon as possible

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Understandably, right?

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You know, you said, dude, we're done.

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And he's still, anybody have,

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I don't have anything in this realm,

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but anybody else had anything similar to this?

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Were they in close proximity to each other?

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They also did long distance,

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but long distance for them were say two hour drive.

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Long distance for us is a two hour flight.

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Yeah, so he's actually, he's closer than,

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closer.

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Yeah, he's way closer to her than I am.

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Yeah, I have experience with this.

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I was dating.

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a woman like in a social group and an ex was kind of like hovering in the group and

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you know I guess like he hugged her one time and like hands went kind of low you know and

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he it was like a previously like unhealthy relationship I guess you'd say so I wasn't

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in denial about that and I think she just to her it was like something that fascinated her

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I think from her past and was familiar and so I think it was like just having a conversation with

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her like hey like look this is a boundary for me how can I support you I'm not sure if you

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kind of have the insight around this and so just kind of like supported her through it and

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yeah just not criticizing her about it or not getting insecure I think it was just

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staying rooted and being like I can support you and like for me yes it's not gonna work so

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yeah that's my experience so cool thanks James that's quite an awful thing

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yeah so I think really this is an opportunity for you to be there for her

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and to like and to be that strong refuge right I mean obviously prayer you know

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acknowledge and validate that it's I mean it is frazzling right I mean especially because

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women's number one need is security right and this is messing with her security big time

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100 percent and I'm sorry that's hard right I just want to acknowledge that but it does

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give you a great opportunity to be there for her right in the best way you can I mean I mean

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obviously you're a couple of our flight apart but have you guys talked about I mean like so

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I'm not I don't want to put you on the spot but have you thought about

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going to a stage four I mean have you been where have you with that yeah no that's

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did you cut out so is that that's on the table

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oh do we lose him I lost him okay so you guys like

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one of the things you know I might come back oh you're back oh even though yours says muted

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it's okay all right so you were thinking about going level four or is that kind of where you're

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at yeah yeah it's we just before that um we're doing Simbas with with Jackie that's right I

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remember that that is an amazing ritual that is amazing you guys any of you guys do get into like

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a serious relationship do Simbas basically it's a it's a assessment tool you answer questions she

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answers questions and then they put them together and they're like hey here's areas where you're

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really good and here's areas where you might struggle on how and then you can discuss how to

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to navigate um where where you might be hitting heads a little bit um so yeah save your marriage

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before it starts is what Simbas stands for um sorry just just so you know um but so yeah I just

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be there for her as much as you can that you know that um that's a hard position and lord Jesus we

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just pray that um your hand of protection would be over that relationship you over his um his I

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don't know her name but his future his girlfriend his level three girlfriend and that um lord I just

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pray your head your hand of protection would be around him you release angels to watch over her

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and that you get give um wisdom and what to do about the situation and that actually lord that

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I pray that right now and Jesus name it go away and um we just thank you lord that you're amazing

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and that you love us amen all right amen sorry you're going through that but I'll be praying

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I'll keep I'll continue praying um all right thank you hey I just want to add just to just double

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check Stefan did that address your concern or was yeah I I sensed an additional concern about

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and maybe this is me reading too much into it it almost sounded like you felt like there was still

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a soul tie there or some kind of unfinished business is that am I reading into that or was

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that a secondary concern that you had it's a secondary concern Daniel but I I know she has

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done some work in terms of soul ties and breaking some of those um I was

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I was just surprised to see how frazzled, or how frazzled she was, or what it caused in her reaction.

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And I think there's probably a little bit more work to be done on her side regarding the history.

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But yeah, I was just wondering from my side, because I can mention a couple of things and support her, as Mike said,

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I can't do anything physically from where I am. I'm praying for her, and we're praying at the same time, or together, when we are on the call.

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So, yeah.

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Well, and it's understandable for her to be frazzled. Right? That's violating boundaries, and that's violating safety.

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Right? And you guys, don't ever do that. When a lady puts up a boundary, honor it.

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A no is a no.

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Right? And so, but yeah. And so, like I said, I mean, did you guys all know that safety is in a woman's court?

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So the gold digger, like, whatever, stereotype, right, really is just a woman looking for safety, and they find it in money, and whatever.

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But like, their core need is to feel safe and protected. Right?

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And so, that's the cool thing about the divine masculinity, is we have a, you know, we can use our strength to be a safe place.

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To be a refuge. To be a, you basically, like, I like to use the word, like a greenhouse.

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We can be a greenhouse where they can flourish in it and feel safe.

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And that's what masculinity is made, you know, you can slay a dragon, but you're actually, you know, you can also be gentle and hear her heart.

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Right? I mean, like, David, you look at David, he was a mighty warrior, but like, you read the Psalms, and the dude, his heart was amazing.

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I thought you were talking about me.

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You know, David, there's some truth to that too, but you know, I was talking, you know, biblical David, you know.

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I don't know how, I don't know your history, David, you may have slayed a million, 10,000, but you know, but it's key.

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And like, and whatever they're going through, whether it's at work or, that they feel heard.

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Seen. Known.

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And so, I don't know how, what your guys' relationship history is, but like, when a woman asks you, how was your day?

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That's really her attempt to connect.

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It's kind of like, your day is a connection point, but really what she's saying is, I want to connect with you.

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And I miss that quite often where it was like, oh, my day sucked.

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And then I went on, right?

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You know, like, I don't even talk about my day, but you know, and I would miss that connection point because really what she's like, I haven't seen you all day.

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I really want to know where you, you know, and it's a safety connection.

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Emotional, like if you guys, a lot of you guys are all pretty solid from what I know, but like, you know, every guy has a need for sex, right?

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Every woman has a need for emotional connectivity and like our need for sex, their need for emotional, they're the same.

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It's the same thing.

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So really knowing, like being emotionally available.

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Right.

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And I know for me, that was a real struggle.

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I literally had a piece of paper with all the emotions on it.

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And I'd be like, what am I feeling today?

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I felt like this big, you know, I felt so dumb, but like emotional connectivity is like oxygen.

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Right.

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And it's great.

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It was great for me.

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All right.

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Just so like feeling heard, supported, not fixed.

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You know, I'm really like I know it's so hard to not want to fix things, but a lot of times they just a lot of a lot of times they just need to talk about it and they figure it out on their own.

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And I know a lot of you.

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I don't know about the new guys.

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Yeah, the emotional wheel.

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Yeah, I haven't seen the wheel.

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I had a page.

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I think the wheel probably was pretty cool, too.

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But like if you guys haven't really connected with your emotions and and for guys, it's not something that we naturally do.

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We actually naturally stuff them because, you know, we got to be tough.

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Right.

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I used to be thinking Superman was whatever she was looking for.

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But really, she was just looking for me to connect with her.

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Right.

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And so and and the beauty of it is, is when you don't have to be strong.

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time, you actually get to be known as who you are for all of

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you and not just it's pretty exhausting trying to be the

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strong guy all the time. You know that I'm tough, you know,

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it's like, yeah. So, so like, the divine masculine, you know,

471
00:30:17.920 --> 00:30:21.240
you can slay a dragon, but yet you're a mate, but you can love

472
00:30:21.240 --> 00:30:27.480
people. Well, right. And I think Jesus, Jesus, you know, you ever

473
00:30:27.480 --> 00:30:32.040
think about the the money changers in the temple? I mean,

474
00:30:32.040 --> 00:30:37.080
that's like the mafia, right? Like, so you got the the Jewish

475
00:30:37.080 --> 00:30:40.040
mafia sitting on the steps of the temple, and he drove them

476
00:30:40.040 --> 00:30:45.760
out. So, Jesus is no milk toast dude, right? How he actually got

477
00:30:45.760 --> 00:30:50.800
the, I'm like, I still, I have a hard time, you know, my little

478
00:30:50.800 --> 00:30:53.880
gentle Jesus and, you know, driving out the money changers.

479
00:30:53.880 --> 00:30:57.000
I mean, he had to be a rough and tough dude, especially to be a

480
00:30:57.000 --> 00:31:00.080
carpenter in a place that doesn't have big trees. I mean,

481
00:31:00.080 --> 00:31:04.760
that's, that had to have been a rough gig too. Hey, Hunter. So

482
00:31:04.760 --> 00:31:12.960
like, anybody stuck? Or like, has anybody been trying to been on

483
00:31:12.960 --> 00:31:15.800
the apps or anybody in a place where they feel stuck on

484
00:31:15.800 --> 00:31:20.000
anything? What's going on, Hunter? What are you feeling

485
00:31:20.000 --> 00:31:20.280
stuck?

486
00:31:20.640 --> 00:31:23.920
Right. I tell you, I had two phone dates from salt. I met

487
00:31:23.920 --> 00:31:27.960
somebody on salt, but they're in the UK. Yeah. But a I trust

488
00:31:27.960 --> 00:31:31.200
going confidence and they started the conversation. So I

489
00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:36.280
texted and I told him about the I spend too much of the third of

490
00:31:36.280 --> 00:31:39.520
the time on each phone chat about our geographic location.

491
00:31:39.920 --> 00:31:43.000
And then, and I tried to ask something about herself and and

492
00:31:43.000 --> 00:31:46.640
then finally died down. She lost interest. So then after that, I

493
00:31:46.640 --> 00:31:48.840
was like, you know what, I didn't think this was gonna keep

494
00:31:48.840 --> 00:31:51.800
going anyways, because that would mean one of us can

495
00:31:51.800 --> 00:31:54.720
relocate. And I am my non negotiable is leaving my

496
00:31:54.720 --> 00:31:58.600
country because I love my country. I left salt and I might

497
00:31:58.600 --> 00:32:00.360
go on the dating app.

498
00:32:01.560 --> 00:32:05.760
Okay. Yeah, you know, starting out where you're crossing a non

499
00:32:05.760 --> 00:32:09.240
negotiable is probably not the best plan. You know, you know,

500
00:32:09.360 --> 00:32:12.360
but I mean, did you know the non negotiable before you started

501
00:32:12.360 --> 00:32:15.080
it? You know, sometimes it's a good thing when you actually get

502
00:32:15.080 --> 00:32:17.560
on a date. You're like, Yeah, you know what, I didn't realize

503
00:32:17.560 --> 00:32:20.600
this is a non negotiable, but it was.

504
00:32:20.920 --> 00:32:24.160
Well, I didn't ask about being a non negotiable. It's probably

505
00:32:24.160 --> 00:32:27.640
because she was, she was tired and everything. And, and I think

506
00:32:27.640 --> 00:32:30.760
about another thing that she was interested in is a connection

507
00:32:30.760 --> 00:32:34.040
because she started saying, Hey, how are you? And I responded.

508
00:32:34.440 --> 00:32:38.520
And I, and I try to make it make the conversation interesting. My

509
00:32:38.520 --> 00:32:42.920
first one was phone chat was 20 minutes, the other one was 27.

510
00:32:43.400 --> 00:32:46.440
And then, and then she went, we went a couple of days, I

511
00:32:46.440 --> 00:32:50.240
respond, no response for 48 hours, I was thinking. So I went

512
00:32:50.240 --> 00:32:53.440
back on it. And I, I led by saying, you want to meet again?

513
00:32:53.480 --> 00:32:56.680
She goes, Yeah. And that's time she was too tired and didn't

514
00:32:56.680 --> 00:32:59.680
want to be involved. And I didn't think she's going to be

515
00:32:59.680 --> 00:33:04.240
interested. So I think, you know, I'm moving on. So and I

516
00:33:04.240 --> 00:33:06.720
figure, oh, I'm not gonna feel bad. That's there's great

517
00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:07.960
tragedies in the world.

518
00:33:08.800 --> 00:33:11.400
Yeah, well, and there's and you learn something, right? You

519
00:33:11.400 --> 00:33:13.760
learn that you have non negotiable about moving, you

520
00:33:13.760 --> 00:33:15.160
know, in your country.

521
00:33:15.560 --> 00:33:18.680
I know. And I'm, and I'm already got something going anyways.

522
00:33:18.880 --> 00:33:20.560
So great. Good job.

523
00:33:20.880 --> 00:33:23.880
Like, I tell you, I'm going to Singles Cruise in January.

524
00:33:23.920 --> 00:33:24.800
That's exciting.

525
00:33:25.200 --> 00:33:27.880
Figured, and I'm going to Greece, hopefully in the fall,

526
00:33:27.880 --> 00:33:31.160
and then do a multi extension and be gone for two weeks.

527
00:33:31.360 --> 00:33:34.760
Figured, you know what, like I said, why just married? Why just

528
00:33:34.760 --> 00:33:36.800
go on these trips before marriage? Because if I'm

529
00:33:36.800 --> 00:33:39.480
married, it'd be a lot harder to go on them.

530
00:33:39.920 --> 00:33:43.280
Not necessarily. You know, you know, I would challenge that

531
00:33:43.280 --> 00:33:46.720
because, you know, a lot of times, you know, doing those

532
00:33:46.720 --> 00:33:49.400
trips, when you're married, you actually have a developing

533
00:33:49.400 --> 00:33:52.960
memories together. But no, you know, and like, and who knows

534
00:33:52.960 --> 00:33:55.880
how much she's gonna make? It may be an issue. Money may not

535
00:33:55.880 --> 00:33:57.760
be an issue. So you could actually travel a lot more.

536
00:33:58.160 --> 00:34:03.280
I know. Well, no. Well, that's the thing. Well, or just or how

537
00:34:03.280 --> 00:34:06.600
about just go because because it'll make me happy. Remember,

538
00:34:06.640 --> 00:34:10.080
happiness starts with me. And the part spearman would just be

539
00:34:10.080 --> 00:34:12.159
an extension of my happiness.

540
00:34:12.960 --> 00:34:16.080
Yeah. Well, I mean, you want to live your best life now. Like

541
00:34:16.080 --> 00:34:18.440
you don't wait, you don't wait for a woman to come into your

542
00:34:18.440 --> 00:34:22.400
life. Because it's to start living. It's because because

543
00:34:22.400 --> 00:34:25.080
some door that's why I mean, it's because this door might

544
00:34:25.080 --> 00:34:28.040
close, because I wait till I'm married. Well, by the time you're

545
00:34:28.040 --> 00:34:31.280
married, that opportunity door is closed. So enjoy while you

546
00:34:31.280 --> 00:34:31.760
can.

547
00:34:31.840 --> 00:34:35.080
Yeah, no. And there's, there's some validity to that. I just

548
00:34:35.080 --> 00:34:38.760
wanted to say don't be, you know, like, be too on a cruise

549
00:34:38.760 --> 00:34:45.600
is cool, too. I guess I'll just leave it at that. So, Daniel,

550
00:34:45.600 --> 00:34:49.639
we talked to Christopher, you got anything going on? Are you

551
00:34:49.639 --> 00:34:59.000
busy? You know, I know. But, uh, not really. All right. Um,

552
00:34:59.560 --> 00:34:59.960
happy

553
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:01.920
Have you guys taken any shots?

554
00:35:01.920 --> 00:35:04.400
You know, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, right?

555
00:35:04.400 --> 00:35:08.320
You know, like, that's what I always tell myself.

556
00:35:09.600 --> 00:35:12.000
Like, you know, it's better to swing and miss

557
00:35:12.000 --> 00:35:14.480
than to go back home and go,

558
00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:16.960
man, I wish I'd have taken that swing, right?

559
00:35:18.800 --> 00:35:22.080
And I'm looking really bad taking some swings,

560
00:35:22.080 --> 00:35:22.800
by the way, guys.

561
00:35:22.800 --> 00:35:26.000
Like, you know, I'm like, oh, that really did not

562
00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:28.160
come out the way I thought it would.

563
00:35:28.160 --> 00:35:31.520
But, you know, getting reps is really important, right?

564
00:35:31.520 --> 00:35:33.760
Because getting reps, like Hunter, he's got a...

565
00:35:34.880 --> 00:35:36.640
I'm Babe Ruth with the swings.

566
00:35:36.640 --> 00:35:40.800
There you go, Babe Ruth, you know, Hall of Famer.

567
00:35:40.800 --> 00:35:42.880
But you learn things.

568
00:35:42.880 --> 00:35:44.800
The thing about dating and getting the reps in is,

569
00:35:45.360 --> 00:35:48.560
you know, every time I swing and miss or, you know,

570
00:35:48.560 --> 00:35:50.560
fall out of the batter's box when I was swinging

571
00:35:50.560 --> 00:35:52.080
because it was so awkward.

572
00:35:52.080 --> 00:35:54.240
But, you know, I learned.

573
00:35:54.240 --> 00:35:55.760
I'm like, yeah, let's not do that again.

574
00:35:55.760 --> 00:35:57.280
You know, but like you grow

575
00:35:57.760 --> 00:36:00.800
and you're closer to hitting a home run.

576
00:36:01.520 --> 00:36:04.000
You know, you're learning what your non-negotiables are

577
00:36:04.720 --> 00:36:07.200
and what is actually important to you.

578
00:36:07.920 --> 00:36:10.400
One of the things, like, I mean, I've learned

579
00:36:10.400 --> 00:36:13.200
what I like about different dates.

580
00:36:13.200 --> 00:36:14.480
I'd be like, oh, I really like,

581
00:36:14.480 --> 00:36:15.680
what did I like about that gal?

582
00:36:16.400 --> 00:36:17.840
You know, there's things that I didn't like,

583
00:36:17.840 --> 00:36:19.280
but like, I really like this part.

584
00:36:19.280 --> 00:36:25.120
And now I can take that and that's one of those things

585
00:36:25.120 --> 00:36:26.080
I'm going to start looking for

586
00:36:27.040 --> 00:36:28.240
when I meet somebody, right?

587
00:36:28.960 --> 00:36:32.320
And the more you do it,

588
00:36:32.320 --> 00:36:34.640
the more it becomes second nature, right?

589
00:36:34.640 --> 00:36:39.600
You know, but so, all right.

590
00:36:39.600 --> 00:36:40.560
Anybody on apps?

591
00:36:42.000 --> 00:36:43.600
I might think I was going to say,

592
00:36:43.600 --> 00:36:44.480
oh, go ahead, man.

593
00:36:45.520 --> 00:36:47.520
I was thinking about joining the,

594
00:36:47.520 --> 00:36:50.240
I might join the, what's that called again?

595
00:36:51.360 --> 00:36:52.560
Yeah, archive.

596
00:36:52.560 --> 00:36:53.600
I already have it on there.

597
00:36:53.600 --> 00:36:55.760
And I think about taking advantage of it

598
00:36:56.400 --> 00:36:57.200
the discount.

599
00:36:58.000 --> 00:36:59.840
Yeah, that'd be a good plan.

600
00:36:59.840 --> 00:37:00.560
I encourage you.

601
00:37:01.120 --> 00:37:02.480
You know, apps can be terrible,

602
00:37:02.480 --> 00:37:05.520
but I mean, I know half a dozen people

603
00:37:05.520 --> 00:37:08.800
who actually got married off apps, right?

604
00:37:08.800 --> 00:37:11.280
Like, you know, so I just, you know,

605
00:37:11.280 --> 00:37:14.560
sometimes they can be brutal, you know,

606
00:37:14.560 --> 00:37:17.440
but at the same time, you know, take your swings.

607
00:37:18.160 --> 00:37:19.920
So was that you, David?

608
00:37:19.920 --> 00:37:20.880
Do you want to say something?

609
00:37:20.880 --> 00:37:21.360
Sorry.

610
00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:22.080
Yeah, yeah.

611
00:37:22.080 --> 00:37:23.680
I just wanted to say something real quick.

612
00:37:23.680 --> 00:37:27.360
It was Arc that I met the young lady on

613
00:37:27.360 --> 00:37:28.480
that I'm currently pursuing.

614
00:37:28.480 --> 00:37:30.800
Sorry, I'm in the garage trying to find

615
00:37:30.800 --> 00:37:32.320
the right socket wrench.

616
00:37:34.240 --> 00:37:37.520
But so I met her on Arc

617
00:37:37.520 --> 00:37:40.880
and I also met 20 other women on Arc

618
00:37:41.760 --> 00:37:46.560
that all like had snappy, good, creative, whatever.

619
00:37:46.560 --> 00:37:48.240
I even met one of them in person

620
00:37:48.240 --> 00:37:49.920
when I was in DC proper,

621
00:37:50.800 --> 00:37:52.960
the day after the event on Memorial Day.

622
00:37:53.680 --> 00:37:55.120
Went out and just checked in.

623
00:37:56.160 --> 00:37:57.440
Had a great time with her.

624
00:37:57.440 --> 00:37:59.280
She apparently was a former tour guide.

625
00:37:59.280 --> 00:38:03.200
So I learned a lot about Washington Monument

626
00:38:03.200 --> 00:38:04.240
and all the other things

627
00:38:04.240 --> 00:38:06.400
that I haven't really learned before.

628
00:38:06.400 --> 00:38:08.480
And I was like, oh, this is actually really cool.

629
00:38:08.480 --> 00:38:10.880
We even sang on the date randomly,

630
00:38:10.880 --> 00:38:12.000
Bohemian Rhapsody,

631
00:38:12.640 --> 00:38:14.000
thought it was a really great date,

632
00:38:14.000 --> 00:38:15.120
exchanged phone numbers,

633
00:38:15.680 --> 00:38:16.880
gave her a peck on the cheek

634
00:38:16.880 --> 00:38:17.440
because she was like,

635
00:38:17.440 --> 00:38:18.480
can I have a kiss before I go?

636
00:38:18.480 --> 00:38:19.120
I was like, sure.

637
00:38:19.680 --> 00:38:21.680
And never heard from her again.

638
00:38:23.680 --> 00:38:26.960
So it was like, whatever.

639
00:38:27.680 --> 00:38:28.720
I don't read into it.

640
00:38:28.720 --> 00:38:30.480
I'm not fixated on,

641
00:38:31.440 --> 00:38:34.640
but, but, but, this didn't work out

642
00:38:34.640 --> 00:38:35.600
or that didn't work out.

643
00:38:35.600 --> 00:38:37.120
It was just like, hey, you know what?

644
00:38:37.120 --> 00:38:40.240
I got to experience a nice date with someone as a rep.

645
00:38:40.880 --> 00:38:43.440
Got to learn a little bit more about myself

646
00:38:43.440 --> 00:38:47.600
and how I am in crowds still.

647
00:38:47.600 --> 00:38:49.040
Like I'm a lot better than I was,

648
00:38:49.040 --> 00:38:50.960
but still kind of a little bit anxious.

649
00:38:50.960 --> 00:38:56.480
Like, you know, a fair amount of it

650
00:38:56.480 --> 00:38:59.440
is actually you learning about yourself in these reps.

651
00:38:59.440 --> 00:39:01.120
It's not just going out and doing it

652
00:39:01.120 --> 00:39:04.640
and being like, oh, hey, I did one rep today.

653
00:39:04.640 --> 00:39:07.040
I did 2000 reps today.

654
00:39:07.040 --> 00:39:09.760
It's more about like that artwork

655
00:39:09.760 --> 00:39:11.600
and that introspection of,

656
00:39:11.600 --> 00:39:14.000
hey, you know, when I'm presented with this,

657
00:39:14.000 --> 00:39:15.920
here's how I react or respond.

658
00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:18.720
When this situation comes up,

659
00:39:18.720 --> 00:39:21.040
here's a little bit more in-depth about me.

660
00:39:21.040 --> 00:39:23.360
Like even with this girl that I'm pursuing now,

661
00:39:24.960 --> 00:39:26.640
just talking with me on the phone

662
00:39:26.640 --> 00:39:28.960
after she asked me about trust and relationships

663
00:39:28.960 --> 00:39:33.440
and this relationship that I had years ago,

664
00:39:33.440 --> 00:39:37.040
that I like, I must have blocked out in my mind

665
00:39:37.040 --> 00:39:40.480
that I completely forgot about doing my heart work

666
00:39:40.480 --> 00:39:42.000
and it's stuff that since then,

667
00:39:42.000 --> 00:39:43.440
I've gone back and prayed over

668
00:39:44.000 --> 00:39:45.920
and prayed for that person in that relationship

669
00:39:45.920 --> 00:39:48.880
where someone basically stole stuff from me

670
00:39:48.880 --> 00:39:50.000
during the relationship

671
00:39:50.000 --> 00:39:52.400
and it made me super paranoid

672
00:39:53.280 --> 00:39:55.840
that I couldn't trust anyone in a relationship.

673
00:39:57.200 --> 00:39:59.440
But like, for some reason, I just started sharing it.

674
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.840
almost like a trauma dump, but it was like,

675
00:40:02.840 --> 00:40:05.800
like she asked specifically like,

676
00:40:05.800 --> 00:40:07.880
whoa, what was the first relationship you had

677
00:40:07.880 --> 00:40:08.840
when you got out of the army?

678
00:40:08.840 --> 00:40:13.840
And I shared and I'm like, oh yeah, ooh.

679
00:40:14.200 --> 00:40:15.200
Maybe I shouldn't have shared that,

680
00:40:15.200 --> 00:40:19.220
but she prayed for me instantly over the phone.

681
00:40:20.440 --> 00:40:23.400
And it just made me that much more.

682
00:40:23.400 --> 00:40:24.760
No, and that's a really good point.

683
00:40:24.760 --> 00:40:26.960
There's a couple of things that I wanna pull out of that.

684
00:40:27.960 --> 00:40:30.000
Like David had a great date, went great,

685
00:40:30.000 --> 00:40:32.200
and then nothing, right?

686
00:40:32.200 --> 00:40:34.480
So you know, you guys like online dating world,

687
00:40:34.480 --> 00:40:36.280
like you never know, right?

688
00:40:36.280 --> 00:40:39.240
Like, you know, so don't, until it's something,

689
00:40:39.240 --> 00:40:42.760
don't make something of it, but like just flow with it.

690
00:40:42.760 --> 00:40:44.520
But also I think he makes it,

691
00:40:44.520 --> 00:40:46.800
Jackie talks about what's broken in relationship

692
00:40:46.800 --> 00:40:48.840
is healed in relationship, right?

693
00:40:48.840 --> 00:40:51.560
Like, and so sometimes like just getting out there,

694
00:40:51.560 --> 00:40:55.720
like the first time, first person I dated after,

695
00:40:55.720 --> 00:40:59.120
I mean, I hadn't dated anybody since my ex

696
00:40:59.120 --> 00:41:01.800
in like 25 years, right?

697
00:41:01.800 --> 00:41:04.760
And the first date I went on, I started disassociating,

698
00:41:06.200 --> 00:41:10.080
which I was, which was really crazy, you know?

699
00:41:10.080 --> 00:41:12.560
And I was like, and so it, you know,

700
00:41:12.560 --> 00:41:14.800
a lot of times what's revealed is to be healed.

701
00:41:14.800 --> 00:41:17.120
So when things come up like that,

702
00:41:17.120 --> 00:41:20.200
I realized that she's triggering some trauma in me.

703
00:41:20.200 --> 00:41:21.480
And you know, when you, okay, you guys,

704
00:41:21.480 --> 00:41:25.560
when you're triggered, there's something in you.

705
00:41:26.400 --> 00:41:27.560
It's your responsibility to deal with the trigger.

706
00:41:27.560 --> 00:41:28.520
It's not theirs.

707
00:41:28.520 --> 00:41:30.680
They can be gentle and kind and work

708
00:41:30.680 --> 00:41:32.400
and do their best to work around it,

709
00:41:32.400 --> 00:41:33.920
but it's your job to get that.

710
00:41:33.920 --> 00:41:35.440
I just posted something on Facebook.

711
00:41:35.440 --> 00:41:36.720
It was like talking about like,

712
00:41:36.720 --> 00:41:38.760
it's like an explosive trap in you

713
00:41:38.760 --> 00:41:40.840
and you need to disarm it, right?

714
00:41:40.840 --> 00:41:44.000
And which I thought was a really good analogy.

715
00:41:44.000 --> 00:41:48.040
And it's based on pain, based on something.

716
00:41:48.040 --> 00:41:51.640
I was disassociating because I had a trauma.

717
00:41:51.640 --> 00:41:56.640
And if you have a female relationship

718
00:41:57.040 --> 00:41:58.800
and then you start a new female relationship,

719
00:41:58.800 --> 00:42:03.200
your subconscious just sees female relationship.

720
00:42:03.200 --> 00:42:04.880
They don't see person.

721
00:42:04.880 --> 00:42:08.000
So you could have three different women in your life,

722
00:42:08.000 --> 00:42:11.520
but your subconscious is only recognizing

723
00:42:11.520 --> 00:42:13.800
that this is a love interest.

724
00:42:13.800 --> 00:42:17.240
So if you have a bad experience with a love interest,

725
00:42:17.240 --> 00:42:22.240
that's all your subconscious is basically trying

726
00:42:22.520 --> 00:42:25.920
to guard you in your next relationship.

727
00:42:25.920 --> 00:42:28.760
And there was a time where I actually had to say,

728
00:42:28.760 --> 00:42:32.120
I had to distinguish so my subconscious could change.

729
00:42:32.120 --> 00:42:36.000
I would have to say, this person is not this person.

730
00:42:36.000 --> 00:42:39.560
So my mind would consciously flip.

731
00:42:39.560 --> 00:42:41.760
And I had to do, I was doing that like for the,

732
00:42:41.760 --> 00:42:44.440
at the beginning, 10 or 20 times a day

733
00:42:44.440 --> 00:42:46.240
because it would come up and my mind

734
00:42:46.240 --> 00:42:48.400
and my body would have a reaction.

735
00:42:48.400 --> 00:42:51.320
And then I was able to distinguish,

736
00:42:52.320 --> 00:42:53.600
my brain was able to distinguish

737
00:42:53.600 --> 00:42:55.360
that this isn't that person.

738
00:42:55.360 --> 00:42:57.600
So I don't know if that sounds like it was important

739
00:42:57.600 --> 00:43:00.600
for somebody like, and it's the same with women.

740
00:43:00.600 --> 00:43:05.240
Like your subconscious is there, it's programmed

741
00:43:05.240 --> 00:43:06.640
by your life.

742
00:43:06.640 --> 00:43:08.520
And if things have hurt you,

743
00:43:08.520 --> 00:43:10.200
that's why the heart work is so important.

744
00:43:10.200 --> 00:43:11.840
And David, I love that you brought that up.

745
00:43:11.840 --> 00:43:15.720
Like there's things that your subconscious stuffs,

746
00:43:15.720 --> 00:43:17.680
that you're really not even aware of.

747
00:43:17.680 --> 00:43:20.280
And then you get into a situation and all of a sudden,

748
00:43:20.280 --> 00:43:23.480
hello, it's there, revealed to be healed.

749
00:43:24.920 --> 00:43:28.480
And everything, and you guys, I've been through so much.

750
00:43:28.480 --> 00:43:31.000
There's nothing that God can't heal.

751
00:43:31.000 --> 00:43:34.080
And I'm glad you guys are all doing the heart work.

752
00:43:34.080 --> 00:43:36.640
And if you guys ever need to reach out,

753
00:43:36.640 --> 00:43:39.160
I'm pretty good at, I've done a lot of trauma therapy,

754
00:43:39.160 --> 00:43:44.160
like personally, and I know the struggle,

755
00:43:44.480 --> 00:43:49.040
but I can tell you that I had so much PTSD that's gone.

756
00:43:49.040 --> 00:43:51.080
I mean, I used to not be able to walk through the mall

757
00:43:51.080 --> 00:43:52.880
without freaking out.

758
00:43:52.880 --> 00:43:55.040
I couldn't have anybody behind me.

759
00:43:55.040 --> 00:43:58.120
Right, and now I'm walking around the mall

760
00:43:58.120 --> 00:43:59.600
and I don't even care who's behind me,

761
00:43:59.600 --> 00:44:02.760
which is, it's kind of surreal, but like how God heals.

762
00:44:02.760 --> 00:44:06.520
Right, and so, and that's such a good thing.

763
00:44:06.520 --> 00:44:09.800
I love that, David, that I don't love that it brought it up,

764
00:44:09.800 --> 00:44:14.000
but I'm glad that, like, no,

765
00:44:14.840 --> 00:44:19.160
absolutely, because I used to not be able to walk

766
00:44:19.160 --> 00:44:21.120
into Costco unless it was like 30 minutes

767
00:44:21.120 --> 00:44:22.720
before it closed, brother.

768
00:44:22.720 --> 00:44:25.640
And a lot of stuff's changed.

769
00:44:25.640 --> 00:44:28.760
I'd say more stuff changed in the last year

770
00:44:28.760 --> 00:44:31.720
since starting heart work that like,

771
00:44:32.640 --> 00:44:34.760
it opened up areas that needed healing

772
00:44:34.760 --> 00:44:38.600
that I didn't even recognize needed healing, you know?

773
00:44:38.600 --> 00:44:40.960
And, but even more so than that,

774
00:44:40.960 --> 00:44:43.680
it changed how I approach dating.

775
00:44:44.360 --> 00:44:47.680
I don't know if it was David or Jackie saying it,

776
00:44:47.680 --> 00:44:50.200
but the second I heard that, you know,

777
00:44:52.600 --> 00:44:55.240
marriage is a spiritual responsibility,

778
00:44:55.240 --> 00:44:58.880
sex in marriage is a spiritual act.

779
00:44:58.880 --> 00:45:00.440
And all of a sudden I was like.

780
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.120
I have been dating wrong for the last.

781
00:45:04.320 --> 00:45:06.320
However long I've been dating.

782
00:45:06.520 --> 00:45:08.480
No, it's intensely spiritual.

783
00:45:08.480 --> 00:45:10.160
That's why it's so painful when you break up.

784
00:45:10.360 --> 00:45:13.880
I mean, you can glue in two boards together and you rip them apart.

785
00:45:13.880 --> 00:45:15.360
They're going to be splintered.

786
00:45:15.560 --> 00:45:20.720
That's why breaking soul ties is really important, because when you have sex,

787
00:45:20.920 --> 00:45:29.600
you have soul ties that you're generating, and I think Jackie goes in.

788
00:45:29.760 --> 00:45:33.240
You guys, the heart work, just so you know, it's not just, hey,

789
00:45:33.440 --> 00:45:36.640
I got to do the heart work to get into the into the course, right?

790
00:45:36.840 --> 00:45:39.520
No, the heart work is something that

791
00:45:39.720 --> 00:45:43.160
when these things come up, you just go back to the heart work.

792
00:45:43.160 --> 00:45:44.880
OK, I'll do this. This is all right.

793
00:45:45.080 --> 00:45:50.360
And it's a tool to extract all the junk that has happened in your life.

794
00:45:50.560 --> 00:45:54.080
Right. And and there's

795
00:45:54.280 --> 00:45:57.520
the coaches, there's a lot of.

796
00:45:58.240 --> 00:46:00.760
There are Jackie's really about getting

797
00:46:00.960 --> 00:46:03.720
people free, right, and helping people get free.

798
00:46:03.920 --> 00:46:07.120
She's really helped me like the heart work.

799
00:46:07.320 --> 00:46:09.440
There was a gal.

800
00:46:09.880 --> 00:46:11.920
I was stuck on for like a year and a half.

801
00:46:12.120 --> 00:46:15.720
I couldn't I did I did everything I could

802
00:46:15.920 --> 00:46:19.560
to try to, like, put it put it behind me and I couldn't.

803
00:46:19.760 --> 00:46:22.960
And then I went through the heart work and it broke.

804
00:46:23.160 --> 00:46:28.160
And I was one of you know, and I've I've done a lot of inner healing

805
00:46:28.360 --> 00:46:32.240
and the way Jackie consolidates a lot of different modalities is really,

806
00:46:32.440 --> 00:46:35.720
really spectacular, is really good.

807
00:46:36.000 --> 00:46:39.520
So anybody have any questions about heart work?

808
00:46:39.720 --> 00:46:41.360
Well, I'm here.

809
00:46:42.480 --> 00:46:43.840
Like.

810
00:46:46.640 --> 00:46:48.880
I notice that

811
00:46:49.120 --> 00:46:55.000
so also, but I also wanted to let go of the lost and worshiping the partner,

812
00:46:55.200 --> 00:46:59.000
because your contentment comes from the Lord, not with being with some way,

813
00:46:59.200 --> 00:47:02.640
because when you want somebody in a relationship all this time, I've been

814
00:47:02.840 --> 00:47:07.320
wanting to date someone because I treated at first I thought it was a goal

815
00:47:07.520 --> 00:47:11.640
for personal growth. Later, I see that you got time on there

816
00:47:11.840 --> 00:47:15.040
and there's any and you got to make the most of it with age.

817
00:47:15.240 --> 00:47:17.520
You got to make the most of your time in life.

818
00:47:17.520 --> 00:47:19.200
Life's short, you got to make the most of it.

819
00:47:19.400 --> 00:47:23.920
So I treated like a aging rat race to get it done, to get it done, like homework.

820
00:47:24.120 --> 00:47:27.000
See, but Hunter, Hunter, OK.

821
00:47:27.200 --> 00:47:31.080
So, you know, like.

822
00:47:31.280 --> 00:47:34.520
And if you're running a rat race, if you're running into a relationship

823
00:47:34.720 --> 00:47:40.760
because you're in this, I have a rat race, like it's not a rat race.

824
00:47:40.960 --> 00:47:45.400
It's a divine orchestration, like, you know,

825
00:47:45.600 --> 00:47:51.000
like I see so many people rush into relationships because I need to be

826
00:47:51.000 --> 00:47:52.840
in a relationship. If you're in a place where you're like,

827
00:47:52.840 --> 00:47:56.160
I need to be in a relationship, then you should not be in a relationship.

828
00:47:56.360 --> 00:47:58.560
You need to be content in you because

829
00:47:58.760 --> 00:48:01.720
a relationship is only going to exacerbate the issues.

830
00:48:01.920 --> 00:48:04.840
Right. And now I'm not saying that you have

831
00:48:04.840 --> 00:48:07.320
having a desire is bad. That's not what I hear me.

832
00:48:07.320 --> 00:48:08.280
That's not what I'm saying.

833
00:48:08.480 --> 00:48:14.440
But if you have this compulsion and this need to absolutely be in a relationship,

834
00:48:14.640 --> 00:48:20.280
you're going to be open, opening yourself up to myriads of issues

835
00:48:20.480 --> 00:48:23.840
and connecting with somebody who is really not good for you.

836
00:48:24.040 --> 00:48:29.280
And the other thing about heartwork, David, and like I used to call it,

837
00:48:29.480 --> 00:48:33.320
I need to fix the crazy in me that's attracted to the crazy in others.

838
00:48:33.520 --> 00:48:35.800
Like there's pieces of me that are like,

839
00:48:36.000 --> 00:48:38.840
I really want that person who's really bad for me.

840
00:48:39.040 --> 00:48:41.600
What is in me that is actually desiring that? Right.

841
00:48:41.840 --> 00:48:45.480
And so I had to look back at my do my heartwork.

842
00:48:45.680 --> 00:48:48.040
Right. And I'm like, oh, that's because of this.

843
00:48:48.240 --> 00:48:49.880
And then I fix that crazy.

844
00:48:50.080 --> 00:48:55.400
And because you get two crazy things together and it isn't it isn't beautiful.

845
00:48:55.600 --> 00:48:58.200
I mean, God can make anything work more or less.

846
00:48:58.400 --> 00:49:01.760
But I would I want you guys to win.

847
00:49:01.960 --> 00:49:02.960
Right now.

848
00:49:03.160 --> 00:49:05.240
Hey, James. Hey, I'm going to.

849
00:49:05.440 --> 00:49:07.720
Hey, James, did you have a question?

850
00:49:07.920 --> 00:49:10.000
I thought I saw you reaching.

851
00:49:10.640 --> 00:49:14.160
I was going to say something real quick, but oh, go ahead.

852
00:49:14.360 --> 00:49:16.240
You start talking, you go.

853
00:49:16.920 --> 00:49:20.880
OK, yeah, I was just wondering about the

854
00:49:21.760 --> 00:49:27.120
like, you know, I guess spiritual strings like disconnecting them, like maybe.

855
00:49:27.320 --> 00:49:29.280
Oh, you're talking like the soul ties.

856
00:49:29.480 --> 00:49:31.840
Yeah. Yeah.

857
00:49:32.040 --> 00:49:33.920
What's involved in that or what is that?

858
00:49:34.120 --> 00:49:36.480
Basically, OK, so like,

859
00:49:36.680 --> 00:49:38.600
you know, let me grab my phone real quick.

860
00:49:38.840 --> 00:49:41.080
I actually have a really good app.

861
00:49:41.280 --> 00:49:43.120
There's nothing in ministry.

862
00:49:43.320 --> 00:49:44.600
Anyways,

863
00:49:44.960 --> 00:49:48.840
I really like this this model breaking so tight.

864
00:49:49.040 --> 00:49:51.360
Right. You guys mind if I just read this to you guys?

865
00:49:51.560 --> 00:49:53.760
So you guys have an idea, right?

866
00:49:54.960 --> 00:49:59.840
In the name of Jesus, I break the power of all ungodly spiritual spirit.

867
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.600
and bodily ties forged between the person and me.

868
00:50:04.600 --> 00:50:09.560
Do you guys actually, you know what, if you want, like here, how about, if there's things

869
00:50:09.560 --> 00:50:13.960
that, let's just give it a second, and then I'll read this, and you guys don't have to

870
00:50:13.960 --> 00:50:17.200
acknowledge that you're doing it or not, but maybe there's somebody in your life that you

871
00:50:17.200 --> 00:50:19.480
think you might have a soul tie with, let's just break it today.

872
00:50:19.480 --> 00:50:20.480
How's that?

873
00:50:20.480 --> 00:50:21.480
Right?

874
00:50:21.480 --> 00:50:27.840
Like, so, Jesus, would you just reveal to all these guys what, if any, soul ties they

875
00:50:27.840 --> 00:50:29.520
need to break?

876
00:50:29.520 --> 00:50:32.720
And bring that name to mind right now in Jesus' name.

877
00:50:32.720 --> 00:50:40.400
All right, so, and I bless all of you, I'm gonna, I bless all you guys' spirits to lead

878
00:50:40.400 --> 00:50:45.320
your soul, body, and mind and connect with the Holy Spirit as he leads you into all truth.

879
00:50:45.320 --> 00:50:49.600
And right now, so you guys, to yourself, you can mute yourself or whatever, but if you

880
00:50:49.600 --> 00:50:54.680
want to pray this prayer, in the name of Jesus, I break the power of all ungodly spirit, soul,

881
00:50:54.680 --> 00:51:00.320
and bodily ties forged between the person that came to mind and me.

882
00:51:00.320 --> 00:51:08.480
By power of the cross, I send back to that person all parts of her that she gave to me

883
00:51:08.480 --> 00:51:10.580
that never belonged to me.

884
00:51:10.580 --> 00:51:17.000
And I take back from her all the parts of me that I gave to her that never belonged

885
00:51:17.000 --> 00:51:18.000
to her.

886
00:51:18.000 --> 00:51:24.060
Father, I ask you set a guard over my spirit, soul, and body to never again connect with

887
00:51:24.060 --> 00:51:26.980
that person in this ungodly way.

888
00:51:26.980 --> 00:51:32.980
I nail to the cross the lie that joining with this person in any of these ungodly ways was

889
00:51:32.980 --> 00:51:35.980
necessarily needed or wanted on my part.

890
00:51:35.980 --> 00:51:40.860
I break all agreements I've made with this lie, known or unknown, and I turn away from

891
00:51:40.860 --> 00:51:41.860
joining with it.

892
00:51:41.860 --> 00:51:46.540
Father, as you send this lie away from me, what is the truth about the situation you

893
00:51:46.540 --> 00:51:47.540
want to know?

894
00:51:47.540 --> 00:51:51.620
What, Father, what is the situation, the truth about the situation you want these men to

895
00:51:51.620 --> 00:51:51.820
know?

896
00:51:54.060 --> 00:52:13.020
Lord, I just bless their bodies to be reintegrated with, and the other individuals to be integrated

897
00:52:13.020 --> 00:52:20.140
well that their spirits would become whole, each man would become more whole.

898
00:52:20.140 --> 00:52:24.660
And that if you reveal any more, like, Lord, if there's anything more that you would reveal

899
00:52:24.660 --> 00:52:29.700
so they can come into the fullness and wholeness of who you've made them to be.

900
00:52:29.700 --> 00:52:33.700
And we just say your past does not determine your future.

901
00:52:33.700 --> 00:52:35.460
Your past does not determine your future.

902
00:52:35.460 --> 00:52:38.620
We thank you, Jesus, that you set the captives free.

903
00:52:38.620 --> 00:52:40.300
And we just, you're amazing, Jesus.

904
00:52:40.300 --> 00:52:41.300
We love you.

905
00:52:41.300 --> 00:52:42.300
Amen.

906
00:52:42.300 --> 00:52:45.020
All right.

907
00:52:45.020 --> 00:52:46.020
Was that helpful, guys?

908
00:52:46.020 --> 00:52:47.020
Sorry.

909
00:52:47.020 --> 00:52:53.500
That was, that was, so I had to do that with this girl, right?

910
00:52:53.500 --> 00:52:58.220
And we weren't intimate, but like, just, just, so that's a whole nother, that's another point

911
00:52:58.220 --> 00:53:02.620
is sometimes you can have a connection and you develop a soul tie, right?

912
00:53:02.620 --> 00:53:03.620
Like, you know what I mean?

913
00:53:03.620 --> 00:53:07.300
It's an, if it's an intense connection.

914
00:53:07.300 --> 00:53:10.700
And so, I mean, we only got a couple more minutes.

915
00:53:10.700 --> 00:53:15.340
Hey, I was just going to chime in real quick.

916
00:53:15.340 --> 00:53:18.060
Was that James that asked about the soul ties?

917
00:53:18.060 --> 00:53:19.060
Yeah.

918
00:53:19.060 --> 00:53:25.340
Somewhere on the app, I think it's on either the replays or the like resources.

919
00:53:25.340 --> 00:53:27.460
There's a lesson about the soul ties.

920
00:53:27.460 --> 00:53:33.020
And if I remember correctly, there's either like a Word doc attachment or in the lesson

921
00:53:33.020 --> 00:53:36.960
description there are a couple of different variations of what we just went through.

922
00:53:36.960 --> 00:53:42.540
So if it's something you wanted to repeat for yourself, it is available on the app somewhere.

923
00:53:42.540 --> 00:53:43.900
Thank you, Daniel.

924
00:53:43.900 --> 00:53:44.900
Yeah.

925
00:53:45.460 --> 00:53:46.460
Awesome.

926
00:53:46.460 --> 00:53:50.500
I knew it was, I didn't know where to point it out to, but yeah.

927
00:53:50.500 --> 00:53:51.900
I got you.

928
00:53:51.900 --> 00:53:52.900
It's amazing.

929
00:53:52.900 --> 00:53:56.860
You know, you guys are all, you guys are all phenomenal.

930
00:53:56.860 --> 00:54:01.740
I want to say like many men wouldn't even bother being on this and whoever you end up

931
00:54:01.740 --> 00:54:06.020
marrying is going to be far better for all the work that you're doing.

932
00:54:06.020 --> 00:54:09.140
And I just want to applaud you for that, right?

933
00:54:09.140 --> 00:54:13.220
It's you guys, you don't have to be perfect.

934
00:54:13.660 --> 00:54:16.980
You just need to know when you blow it and repair.

935
00:54:16.980 --> 00:54:17.980
You know, that's another thing.

936
00:54:17.980 --> 00:54:18.980
Okay.

937
00:54:18.980 --> 00:54:23.260
So when I talked about the women's need for safety, it's not that you have to be perfect

938
00:54:23.260 --> 00:54:25.300
and you're going to blow it.

939
00:54:25.300 --> 00:54:31.620
I just hope you guys know, but what do you do?

940
00:54:31.620 --> 00:54:35.700
What makes a safe person is not that they make mistakes, that they don't make mistakes.

941
00:54:35.700 --> 00:54:38.820
It's what they do when they do make the mistakes.

942
00:54:38.820 --> 00:54:40.740
Do they own their stuff?

943
00:54:40.740 --> 00:54:42.980
Do they come back and they repair?

944
00:54:43.020 --> 00:54:47.620
Are they looking to do something different or to, so it doesn't happen again.

945
00:54:47.620 --> 00:54:48.620
Right.

946
00:54:48.620 --> 00:54:51.940
You know, I mean, and I know this, a lot of this is probably review because you guys are

947
00:54:51.940 --> 00:54:56.420
all pretty brilliant, but I just, you know, I need to, I need to tell this to me too,

948
00:54:56.420 --> 00:54:58.940
because I got to remember, like, I don't have to be perfect.

949
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.420
I just have to own my stuff when I miss, right?

950
00:55:03.420 --> 00:55:07.900
And really you guys, you don't have to be perfect for love.

951
00:55:07.900 --> 00:55:10.420
I just want you guys to let that settle in.

952
00:55:10.420 --> 00:55:13.940
You don't have to be perfect to be loved.

953
00:55:13.940 --> 00:55:16.140
And you're already perfectly loved by the Father

954
00:55:16.140 --> 00:55:18.100
and the Son and the Holy Spirit, right?

955
00:55:18.100 --> 00:55:21.500
I just wanna, you know, and I love you all.

956
00:55:21.500 --> 00:55:26.220
And like I say, if you ever need to reach out, hit me up.

957
00:55:26.220 --> 00:55:28.260
You know, because I'm here for, we want,

958
00:55:28.340 --> 00:55:31.980
the whole point of this group is that you guys win, right?

959
00:55:31.980 --> 00:55:33.780
And you know, that's why we celebrate our wins

960
00:55:33.780 --> 00:55:35.180
and we try to encourage.

961
00:55:35.180 --> 00:55:37.020
And Abram, I love you, bro.

962
00:55:37.020 --> 00:55:42.020
I just, yeah.

963
00:55:42.980 --> 00:55:45.180
And be there for each other when we can,

964
00:55:45.180 --> 00:55:47.220
and to the best way.

965
00:55:47.220 --> 00:55:48.180
It's kind of hard.

966
00:55:48.180 --> 00:55:49.980
I wish we were all local where I could like,

967
00:55:49.980 --> 00:55:52.740
we could hang out and play some football or something.

968
00:55:52.740 --> 00:55:53.580
I don't know.

969
00:55:53.580 --> 00:55:57.420
But like, the reality is we're all family, right?

970
00:55:57.420 --> 00:56:01.580
And you know, and David, I love that you're winning

971
00:56:01.580 --> 00:56:05.140
and that the Lord's, the Lord is healing your PTSD

972
00:56:05.140 --> 00:56:07.660
and he's healing all the things that the enemy,

973
00:56:07.660 --> 00:56:10.700
the way the enemy has bound you and he's setting you free.

974
00:56:11.540 --> 00:56:13.700
And it's beautiful.

975
00:56:13.700 --> 00:56:16.540
A soul tie can be something somebody said when you,

976
00:56:16.540 --> 00:56:18.660
oh, so yeah, that's a word curse too.

977
00:56:18.660 --> 00:56:19.940
Yeah, so, okay.

978
00:56:19.940 --> 00:56:20.780
So there, okay.

979
00:56:20.780 --> 00:56:23.740
So there's soul ties where you like have a connection

980
00:56:23.740 --> 00:56:26.260
with somebody and then there's word curses.

981
00:56:26.300 --> 00:56:28.140
Like when some, like my stepdad said,

982
00:56:28.140 --> 00:56:29.300
you're a piece of whatever

983
00:56:29.300 --> 00:56:31.020
and you'll never amount to anything.

984
00:56:31.020 --> 00:56:32.660
That is a word curse.

985
00:56:32.660 --> 00:56:35.180
And you can, in the way we broke the soul tie,

986
00:56:35.180 --> 00:56:38.260
you can actually break word curses.

987
00:56:38.260 --> 00:56:40.900
But I would also encourage you,

988
00:56:42.300 --> 00:56:45.820
whatever the lie was in that word curse,

989
00:56:45.820 --> 00:56:50.300
find the truth in God's word that counters it.

990
00:56:50.300 --> 00:56:53.620
Because he always comes at your identity.

991
00:56:53.620 --> 00:56:55.140
And the God says, you're amazing.

992
00:56:55.140 --> 00:56:58.020
God says, you're his masterpiece, right?

993
00:56:58.020 --> 00:56:59.420
The devil says, you're junk.

994
00:56:59.420 --> 00:57:01.540
God says, you're my masterpiece.

995
00:57:01.540 --> 00:57:03.540
The devil points out your sin.

996
00:57:04.380 --> 00:57:07.780
The father says, you're a son, right?

997
00:57:07.780 --> 00:57:09.620
Yeah, not that he's a fan of sin,

998
00:57:09.620 --> 00:57:12.180
but he loves you as a son, right?

999
00:57:12.180 --> 00:57:16.300
When my sons blow it, I'm like, not really super excited.

1000
00:57:16.300 --> 00:57:17.140
Right?

1001
00:57:17.140 --> 00:57:18.980
Because like I can tell you,

1002
00:57:18.980 --> 00:57:22.660
my boys are really kind of having issues right now.

1003
00:57:22.660 --> 00:57:26.980
My love never changes for my boys.

1004
00:57:26.980 --> 00:57:28.700
Now I have sadness.

1005
00:57:28.700 --> 00:57:29.900
I grieve because I can see

1006
00:57:29.900 --> 00:57:32.500
that there's gonna be consequences to their actions.

1007
00:57:32.500 --> 00:57:36.660
And I try to encourage them to make better choices.

1008
00:57:36.660 --> 00:57:38.860
But the reality is, is I love them.

1009
00:57:38.860 --> 00:57:41.620
And I'm an earthly father who's broken

1010
00:57:41.620 --> 00:57:43.740
and like doing his best.

1011
00:57:43.740 --> 00:57:48.620
Our heavenly father loves us with a perfect love.

1012
00:57:48.620 --> 00:57:50.700
And perfect love casts out all fear.

1013
00:57:50.700 --> 00:57:52.580
So I just wanna encourage you guys.

1014
00:57:52.580 --> 00:57:53.420
You're amazing.

1015
00:57:53.420 --> 00:57:55.260
You're all world-changing.

1016
00:57:56.740 --> 00:57:59.980
Anybody have anything before we close out?

1017
00:57:59.980 --> 00:58:00.820
I'd like-

1018
00:58:00.820 --> 00:58:03.660
Yeah, I was just gonna add that the thing

1019
00:58:03.660 --> 00:58:05.020
that you're working on or the thing

1020
00:58:05.020 --> 00:58:06.940
that you're having a win over

1021
00:58:06.940 --> 00:58:10.740
in your own personal prayer life is honestly the stuff

1022
00:58:10.740 --> 00:58:13.540
that your future spouse is praying for,

1023
00:58:13.540 --> 00:58:18.220
for her own security in her future husband.

1024
00:58:18.260 --> 00:58:22.980
And perfect example, about two months back,

1025
00:58:22.980 --> 00:58:25.780
I started working on not using profanity anymore.

1026
00:58:26.980 --> 00:58:31.980
And all of last week, three weeks of not cussing came out

1027
00:58:32.380 --> 00:58:35.380
in about 30 seconds of trying to close on a house.

1028
00:58:35.380 --> 00:58:36.220
Yeah.

1029
00:58:36.220 --> 00:58:37.740
But, you know, work in progress.

1030
00:58:39.020 --> 00:58:40.860
It's about progress, not perfection.

1031
00:58:40.860 --> 00:58:41.700
Absolutely.

1032
00:58:41.700 --> 00:58:44.220
And the tongue's never truly gonna be tamed,

1033
00:58:44.220 --> 00:58:46.100
but I can still put in the work on it.

1034
00:58:47.100 --> 00:58:52.100
The young lady I'm pursuing does not like dark humor,

1035
00:58:52.500 --> 00:58:55.820
does not stand for any man that uses profanity.

1036
00:58:57.540 --> 00:58:59.460
And I told her, I'm working on it.

1037
00:58:59.460 --> 00:59:02.660
Like, you'll never hear me cuss, honestly.

1038
00:59:02.660 --> 00:59:03.980
Like, if I cuss, it's gonna be out in the middle

1039
00:59:03.980 --> 00:59:06.620
of the woods or around a group of other vets.

1040
00:59:08.340 --> 00:59:11.020
But even then, it's like, they know that I'm trying

1041
00:59:11.020 --> 00:59:12.300
to work on not using profanity

1042
00:59:12.300 --> 00:59:14.420
and they all give me a hard time about it.

1043
00:59:15.260 --> 00:59:17.060
And I think you made a really good point.

1044
00:59:17.060 --> 00:59:19.780
Like, you know, a lot of our future spouses

1045
00:59:19.780 --> 00:59:21.700
are praying for us, right?

1046
00:59:21.700 --> 00:59:25.220
And when we allow God to do, like doing the hard work

1047
00:59:25.220 --> 00:59:26.220
and you're doing the hard work.

1048
00:59:26.220 --> 00:59:27.500
Hard work stinks, guys.

1049
00:59:27.500 --> 00:59:29.540
I don't know about you, but like going through my crap,

1050
00:59:29.540 --> 00:59:31.780
I don't really, it's not something where I'm like,

1051
00:59:31.780 --> 00:59:33.580
hey, look, it's Disneyland, right?

1052
00:59:33.580 --> 00:59:38.580
But yet I'm free and I'm becoming whole and wholer.

1053
00:59:39.100 --> 00:59:42.020
And then looking for somebody who is whole.

1054
00:59:42.020 --> 00:59:44.420
Remember I said the crazy and fix the crazy in me

1055
00:59:44.420 --> 00:59:45.780
so I don't not attract it.

1056
00:59:45.780 --> 00:59:49.980
So when you're 50% of a person because of all your trauma,

1057
00:59:49.980 --> 00:59:53.060
and then the other person is a 50% of a person,

1058
00:59:53.060 --> 00:59:57.100
two 50%s make 100%, but you're looking for 200, right?

1059
00:59:57.100 --> 00:59:58.140
So, you know, you're looking,

1060
00:59:58.140 --> 01:00:00.260
I want your 50% fixes my 50%.

1061
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.000
No, that's a recipe for disaster.

1062
01:00:03.000 --> 01:00:09.000
Two 80s is amazing because you guys can work out the other 20% together.

1063
01:00:09.000 --> 01:00:11.000
Does that make sense?

1064
01:00:11.000 --> 01:00:14.000
By doing the hard work, and I guess what I'm trying to equate that,

1065
01:00:14.000 --> 01:00:19.000
doing the hard work gets you to the 80, to the 90, ideally to the 100.

1066
01:00:19.000 --> 01:00:24.000
I don't know if you can get 100 on this side of heaven, but I'm going to try.

1067
01:00:24.000 --> 01:00:28.000
And if we can help you in any way, I mean, if I can help you in any way,

1068
01:00:28.000 --> 01:00:31.000
hit me up and I'll be glad to.

1069
01:00:31.000 --> 01:00:32.000
I'm going to pray.

1070
01:00:32.000 --> 01:00:34.000
Real quick, Mike, just to share this one thing,

1071
01:00:34.000 --> 01:00:37.000
because you missed out on it from like two weeks ago when I was on,

1072
01:00:37.000 --> 01:00:39.000
and Abram as well, because he wasn't there.

1073
01:00:39.000 --> 01:00:41.000
He said yes to a pig fight.

1074
01:00:41.000 --> 01:00:43.000
Y'all are invited to the wedding.

1075
01:00:43.000 --> 01:00:45.000
No, you talked about that last week.

1076
01:00:45.000 --> 01:00:46.000
We got that, you know.

1077
01:00:46.000 --> 01:00:49.000
Well, Abram wasn't there, so I have to re-admit it.

1078
01:00:49.000 --> 01:00:52.000
All things are possible, but not all things are profitable, David.

1079
01:00:53.000 --> 01:00:57.000
A cake fight off of a wedding cake is a wedding cake

1080
01:00:57.000 --> 01:00:59.000
that makes memories forever.

1081
01:00:59.000 --> 01:01:01.000
It pays dividends on itself.

1082
01:01:01.000 --> 01:01:03.000
Buy ponchos.

1083
01:01:03.000 --> 01:01:04.000
Put it over the dress.

1084
01:01:04.000 --> 01:01:06.000
Do something, please.

1085
01:01:06.000 --> 01:01:08.000
Or bring a change of clothes.

1086
01:01:08.000 --> 01:01:10.000
Yeah, and do it again.

1087
01:01:10.000 --> 01:01:14.000
Why would I do that?

1088
01:01:14.000 --> 01:01:18.000
Before we close out, everybody good?

1089
01:01:18.000 --> 01:01:19.000
Yes.

1090
01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:24.000
Another thing is I asked about being on the spotlight,

1091
01:01:24.000 --> 01:01:25.000
and I want to know.

1092
01:01:25.000 --> 01:01:29.000
Hey, Hunter, I am not in charge of any of that stuff,

1093
01:01:29.000 --> 01:01:33.000
so hit Jackie up or admin at JackieDorman.com.

1094
01:01:33.000 --> 01:01:37.000
That's outside of my purview.

1095
01:01:37.000 --> 01:01:41.000
I thought you were the job coach.

1096
01:01:41.000 --> 01:01:43.000
I asked you about it, but they said you have to get a job.

1097
01:01:43.000 --> 01:01:46.000
We're working on that, but there's some semantics.

1098
01:01:47.000 --> 01:01:49.000
Ask Jackie.

1099
01:01:49.000 --> 01:01:52.000
We've had a couple of conversations about it.

1100
01:01:52.000 --> 01:01:55.000
My life has been pretty insane the last several months.

1101
01:01:55.000 --> 01:01:57.000
It's been pretty rough.

1102
01:01:57.000 --> 01:02:00.000
I haven't really been in a place where I could actually be helped.

1103
01:02:00.000 --> 01:02:03.000
I guess I can always be helpful.

1104
01:02:03.000 --> 01:02:06.000
I want you to have 100% of me,

1105
01:02:06.000 --> 01:02:09.000
not the one that's been beat up.

1106
01:02:09.000 --> 01:02:13.000
Email the admins.

1107
01:02:14.000 --> 01:02:16.000
Anytime you guys have any questions,

1108
01:02:16.000 --> 01:02:18.000
admin at JackieDorman.com.

1109
01:02:18.000 --> 01:02:21.000
You can get one-on-one coaching.

1110
01:02:21.000 --> 01:02:28.000
I had a relationship that I had issues with.

1111
01:02:28.000 --> 01:02:31.000
I had questions about it.

1112
01:02:31.000 --> 01:02:35.000
I actually paid and met with Jackie,

1113
01:02:35.000 --> 01:02:38.000
and it was super helpful.

1114
01:02:38.000 --> 01:02:40.000
She's also very straight to the point.

1115
01:02:40.000 --> 01:02:42.000
She says the truth in love,

1116
01:02:43.000 --> 01:02:45.000
but she's the matchmaker and the matchbreaker.

1117
01:02:45.000 --> 01:02:47.000
She says that.

1118
01:02:47.000 --> 01:02:51.000
I actually needed it to be broken.

1119
01:02:51.000 --> 01:02:54.000
Lord Jesus, I just thank you for every one of these men.

1120
01:02:54.000 --> 01:02:57.000
I just pray that your love would surround them as a shield

1121
01:02:57.000 --> 01:03:01.000
and that you would guide them into the fullness of who they are

1122
01:03:01.000 --> 01:03:04.000
and the fullness of the identity as their sonship

1123
01:03:04.000 --> 01:03:09.000
and that they would really feel your love as a son.

1124
01:03:10.000 --> 01:03:13.000
I just pray that all of our future spouses,

1125
01:03:13.000 --> 01:03:17.000
Lord, and the ladies in our group would be getting to wholeness too.

1126
01:03:17.000 --> 01:03:19.000
All the guys who are going to watch this future,

1127
01:03:19.000 --> 01:03:23.000
I just pray for their wholeness and their future spouses as well.

1128
01:03:23.000 --> 01:03:29.000
My heart's desire is that this whole group would turn into a marriage

1129
01:03:29.000 --> 01:03:31.000
group instead of a singles group,

1130
01:03:31.000 --> 01:03:35.000
and we would all get to just be married couples talking

1131
01:03:35.000 --> 01:03:36.000
and communing together.

1132
01:03:36.000 --> 01:03:38.000
Lord, I just pray you protect them as they go.

1133
01:03:38.000 --> 01:03:39.000
Give them wisdom.

1134
01:03:39.000 --> 01:03:40.000
Give them strength.

1135
01:03:40.000 --> 01:03:41.000
Give them courage.

1136
01:03:41.000 --> 01:03:47.000
Lord, I just pray that every person here would have an opportunity

1137
01:03:47.000 --> 01:03:51.000
to take one or two shots this week and that they would sink them

1138
01:03:51.000 --> 01:03:54.000
and that next week we would have a lot of wins.

1139
01:03:54.000 --> 01:03:55.000
Lord, we love you,

1140
01:03:55.000 --> 01:03:57.000
and we just thank you for all the work that you're doing

1141
01:03:57.000 --> 01:03:59.000
and that you came to set us free.

1142
01:03:59.000 --> 01:04:00.000
We love you, Jesus.

1143
01:04:00.000 --> 01:04:01.000
Amen.

1144
01:04:01.000 --> 01:04:02.000
Love y'all.

1145
01:04:02.000 --> 01:04:03.000
You're amazing.

1146
01:04:03.000 --> 01:04:05.000
Keep it up, dude.

1147
01:04:05.000 --> 01:04:06.000
You're awesome.

1148
01:04:06.000 --> 01:04:07.000
Thanks.

1149
01:04:07.000 --> 01:04:08.000
Love y'all.

1150
01:04:08.000 --> 01:04:09.000
Bye.

1151
01:04:09.000 --> 01:04:10.000
Bye.

1152
01:04:10.000 --> 01:04:11.000
Thank you.