WEBVTT

1
00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:08.080
Hello, beautiful, amazing people. It is always such a joy to be with you. And here we are

2
00:00:08.080 --> 00:00:13.520
in week six, like we're getting, we're trucking along, and we're going to find your tribe.

3
00:00:13.520 --> 00:00:19.280
We're going to actually identify what really makes you pump, what you love in other people,

4
00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:25.000
because actually what you love in other people is what you love in you. So today, I just

5
00:00:25.000 --> 00:00:31.320
want to share with you, first of all, actually, thank you for those who are doing the DIY

6
00:00:31.320 --> 00:00:35.360
course. I am so missing you because I don't get to see you in person, but it's been lovely

7
00:00:35.360 --> 00:00:39.320
to have your comments. It's been lovely to have your feedback. It's been great to know

8
00:00:39.320 --> 00:00:44.760
how you're getting on, which is amazing. So thank you for that. And for those who haven't

9
00:00:44.760 --> 00:00:49.440
touched base yet, I'd love to hear from you. I really would. And on the mentorship crew,

10
00:00:49.440 --> 00:00:53.400
it's great because I get to see you every week. So I get to see what's going on. And

11
00:00:53.480 --> 00:00:57.720
there's a couple of you that missed out this week on Monday. So I'm looking forward to seeing you

12
00:00:57.720 --> 00:01:04.599
this coming Monday. But right now, let's get into, it's fabulous Friday, let's get into what you need

13
00:01:04.599 --> 00:01:13.160
to do for the coming week. So here we go. So the joy of today is the fact that we get to talk about

14
00:01:13.160 --> 00:01:20.040
your winning lane, and actually what's connection for you. And it's interesting, before we get into

15
00:01:20.040 --> 00:01:24.760
this week, I do want you to do your recap, because you know how important that is. When we

16
00:01:24.760 --> 00:01:30.280
recap, when we really look, and we review and re-reflect, we get to see how far we've come,

17
00:01:30.280 --> 00:01:37.000
we get to see the progress, we get to see what's made a difference. So I just encourage you right

18
00:01:37.000 --> 00:01:46.840
now, to just pause for a moment and think about the takeaways from last week, and where you had

19
00:01:46.840 --> 00:01:53.000
that breakthrough on forgiveness. So, you know, what was the most impactful on forgiveness? And I

20
00:01:53.000 --> 00:01:59.160
think, you know, certainly those that I approached earlier this week, they were saying that the fact

21
00:01:59.160 --> 00:02:04.200
that forgiveness is about themselves, not the other person. So, you know, maybe that's something

22
00:02:04.200 --> 00:02:17.800
you took out. Or it may have been that forgiveness is actually not about condoning somebody else's

23
00:02:17.880 --> 00:02:28.680
behaviour. You know, sorry, I can't talk and try at the same time. Someone else's behaviour.

24
00:02:33.000 --> 00:02:35.400
It's actually just about setting yourself free.

25
00:02:42.040 --> 00:02:46.600
So, you know, last week was about putting the keys to happiness back in your hands. Don't let

26
00:02:46.680 --> 00:02:53.560
somebody else's comments, somebody else's hurt, somebody else's actions, stop you from being the

27
00:02:53.560 --> 00:02:59.240
most amazing person that you are. And so I don't know how you've applied this week, but I encourage

28
00:02:59.240 --> 00:03:05.720
you to consider how you've applied that concept. What have you done to choose forgiveness? Some of

29
00:03:05.720 --> 00:03:12.280
you may have used the God Box and literally said, Father, forgive me. Some of you may have, and I

30
00:03:12.280 --> 00:03:17.400
know somebody has this week, for me, and actually, we worked it through together.

31
00:03:23.320 --> 00:03:33.000
And released what needed to be released. And then we asked for the great exchange. We asked Jesus,

32
00:03:33.000 --> 00:03:39.560
God, Holy Spirit to exchange it to give us what it is that's the opposite. So to give us peace

33
00:03:40.280 --> 00:03:45.480
and rest, because you don't get that when you're holding unforgiveness. It's stressful,

34
00:03:45.480 --> 00:03:51.720
it's anxious, and it's horrid. So, you know, the exchange of giving that unforgiveness away

35
00:03:52.360 --> 00:03:58.440
allows you to receive peace and rest. And then, you know, think about how that's helped you,

36
00:03:58.440 --> 00:04:03.400
how that has changed your relationship. You know, the fact that you've got no stress,

37
00:04:03.400 --> 00:04:12.280
you've got no anxiety, everything's much more open. So more open, perhaps, more friendly,

38
00:04:15.160 --> 00:04:22.600
less worry. You know, those are great, great things that can come from your relationships

39
00:04:22.600 --> 00:04:28.840
with others. And then give yourself a score of how you reflect or how you find yourself right now,

40
00:04:28.840 --> 00:04:33.800
as we're coming into this training. You may be, I know one of our beautiful people was

41
00:04:33.800 --> 00:04:39.480
at A&E all last night, so that was pretty full on. So they actually might be quite tired.

42
00:04:40.920 --> 00:04:45.720
However, wherever you're at, whatever you're in, I'm going to say I'm an out, I'm ready for a new

43
00:04:45.720 --> 00:04:52.120
beginning. And of course, it's always actually refreshed. I've had a great day today, catching

44
00:04:52.120 --> 00:04:57.080
up with people and working through what we've needed to work through today, like lots of

45
00:04:57.080 --> 00:05:00.200
moments, you know, that's exactly

46
00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:01.200
exactly where I need to be.

47
00:05:01.200 --> 00:05:04.480
And in fact, I have the joy of working

48
00:05:04.480 --> 00:05:09.480
on my first proper newsletter for the month of April today.

49
00:05:10.720 --> 00:05:12.640
So it was actually good to get ahead of the game

50
00:05:12.640 --> 00:05:15.080
and start thinking about what am I gonna put into April?

51
00:05:15.080 --> 00:05:15.960
What's coming up?

52
00:05:15.960 --> 00:05:17.080
What's happening?

53
00:05:17.080 --> 00:05:19.440
What gold nuggets would you like from me?

54
00:05:19.440 --> 00:05:21.000
Anyway, so if you know of anybody

55
00:05:21.000 --> 00:05:22.560
who wants to get the monthly newsletter

56
00:05:22.560 --> 00:05:24.680
and it is only gonna be monthly,

57
00:05:24.680 --> 00:05:26.760
you know, pass the message on, pass the love on,

58
00:05:26.760 --> 00:05:29.880
encourage them to sign up for the newsletter.

59
00:05:29.880 --> 00:05:31.960
It's free, it doesn't cost them anything.

60
00:05:31.960 --> 00:05:35.240
And every month there will actually be a freebie in it.

61
00:05:35.240 --> 00:05:38.920
So there'll be some gold nugget that you get to take away

62
00:05:38.920 --> 00:05:42.200
just because I have the capacity to give it to you.

63
00:05:42.200 --> 00:05:45.000
So, however, right now, boom, boom,

64
00:05:45.000 --> 00:05:46.040
we're into the fun stuff.

65
00:05:46.040 --> 00:05:48.480
We're into that nitty gritty.

66
00:05:48.480 --> 00:05:51.240
I want you to think about exchanging

67
00:05:51.240 --> 00:05:54.760
an unfulfilling relationship for fulfilling relationships.

68
00:05:55.880 --> 00:05:57.840
So what we're gonna do, as always,

69
00:05:57.840 --> 00:05:59.840
because I'm rather into the good stuff

70
00:05:59.840 --> 00:06:01.560
rather than the ugly stuff,

71
00:06:01.560 --> 00:06:03.400
is I want you, first of all,

72
00:06:03.400 --> 00:06:06.080
to consider who do you want to have relationships with?

73
00:06:06.960 --> 00:06:10.840
So who do you admire and what are the qualities

74
00:06:10.840 --> 00:06:15.280
that they possess that resonate with you?

75
00:06:15.280 --> 00:06:20.280
So in my case, Dion, Bridget,

76
00:06:23.000 --> 00:06:26.480
I just love these couples.

77
00:06:26.480 --> 00:06:29.200
Bridget, I would put, for those people who know Ken

78
00:06:29.200 --> 00:06:31.280
and Lynette, they're very similar.

79
00:06:33.720 --> 00:06:38.720
And Graham and Teresa.

80
00:06:43.200 --> 00:06:45.240
Jenny would come into that space too.

81
00:06:45.240 --> 00:06:47.040
And why do I love these people?

82
00:06:47.040 --> 00:06:49.240
Why do I go, oh my goodness,

83
00:06:49.240 --> 00:06:53.240
they fill my heart with soul and joy and everything.

84
00:06:53.240 --> 00:06:54.960
I haven't even put my husband on there.

85
00:06:54.960 --> 00:06:57.000
I've just realized that when I fill my heart and soul,

86
00:06:57.000 --> 00:06:58.400
he fills my heart and soul.

87
00:06:59.320 --> 00:07:01.800
So it's like, what is it about these people?

88
00:07:01.800 --> 00:07:05.480
What is it that I love or I admire in them?

89
00:07:05.480 --> 00:07:07.920
And for me, it's their,

90
00:07:07.920 --> 00:07:11.160
so for some of them are highly apostolic.

91
00:07:14.280 --> 00:07:15.880
They are pastoral,

92
00:07:17.440 --> 00:07:19.840
because they actually care and know who you are.

93
00:07:21.240 --> 00:07:23.160
And they're prophetic.

94
00:07:25.800 --> 00:07:30.800
And actually, endless patience and love.

95
00:07:36.520 --> 00:07:39.720
All of them have endless patience and love.

96
00:07:39.720 --> 00:07:44.720
There's a grace and a mercy that all of them carry.

97
00:07:48.240 --> 00:07:49.920
And to be honest, to hang out with me,

98
00:07:49.920 --> 00:07:52.320
you need to have oodles of all of that stuff,

99
00:07:52.360 --> 00:07:55.400
because I am 100 miles an hour.

100
00:07:55.400 --> 00:07:59.040
So think for you who they are

101
00:07:59.040 --> 00:08:01.560
and what is it you admire in them.

102
00:08:01.560 --> 00:08:03.920
And then the next thing is to think about

103
00:08:03.920 --> 00:08:07.240
who has sown into your life, who has blessed you,

104
00:08:07.240 --> 00:08:10.520
who has lifted you up and encouraged you.

105
00:08:10.520 --> 00:08:12.760
And that could be past, present and future.

106
00:08:13.880 --> 00:08:15.760
And again, where have they sown in?

107
00:08:15.760 --> 00:08:18.320
What was the difference they really made for you?

108
00:08:19.240 --> 00:08:21.680
So a lot of the above ones would actually sit

109
00:08:21.680 --> 00:08:23.840
in the same space for me,

110
00:08:23.840 --> 00:08:25.200
but I'm not going to go there

111
00:08:25.200 --> 00:08:26.880
because I've already got them above.

112
00:08:26.880 --> 00:08:28.480
But I think about my dad,

113
00:08:30.240 --> 00:08:31.840
because he sowed in love.

114
00:08:33.159 --> 00:08:35.919
Actually, he sowed in unconditional love.

115
00:08:39.039 --> 00:08:40.880
And I think about my mum who,

116
00:08:40.880 --> 00:08:42.840
for those of you who've read the book or reading the book,

117
00:08:42.840 --> 00:08:45.080
I don't, you know, my mum and I don't really connect.

118
00:08:45.080 --> 00:08:47.880
We really struggle to connect.

119
00:08:48.440 --> 00:08:50.840
But she's taught me how to be resilient.

120
00:08:53.480 --> 00:08:56.360
You know, and so I've got that blessing from here.

121
00:08:56.360 --> 00:08:59.240
You know, who else has sown into your life?

122
00:08:59.240 --> 00:09:02.680
You know, my godmother was always there

123
00:09:02.680 --> 00:09:06.200
with a kind heart and a kind word.

124
00:09:07.280 --> 00:09:09.280
You know, that was always her gig.

125
00:09:10.520 --> 00:09:12.000
So who is it for you?

126
00:09:12.000 --> 00:09:14.960
Who are they and what did they sow into you?

127
00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:18.040
And Mrs. B, my needlework teacher,

128
00:09:18.040 --> 00:09:19.720
she just thought I was awesome.

129
00:09:22.040 --> 00:09:27.040
You know, and she actually always brought the best out in me.

130
00:09:28.560 --> 00:09:30.280
You know, it was just gold.

131
00:09:32.040 --> 00:09:34.280
Now, the next one is what are the qualities you admire?

132
00:09:34.280 --> 00:09:35.360
Oh, I've already done that one.

133
00:09:35.360 --> 00:09:37.240
You know, what goodness did they bring into your life?

134
00:09:37.240 --> 00:09:39.560
I actually need to move this one up here,

135
00:09:39.560 --> 00:09:41.680
but nevermind, we've got it for now.

136
00:09:41.680 --> 00:09:43.840
And then, so you could use this bottom,

137
00:09:43.840 --> 00:09:45.560
the next one in there,

138
00:09:45.560 --> 00:09:47.560
but we've answered the question in here.

139
00:09:47.560 --> 00:09:48.400
So that's fine.

140
00:09:48.400 --> 00:09:50.080
We've done those three questions.

141
00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:51.920
And now, what have you learned

142
00:09:51.920 --> 00:09:54.240
from those who've challenged you?

143
00:09:54.240 --> 00:09:58.880
So this is, now this is an exchange.

144
00:09:58.880 --> 00:10:00.880
What we're going to do is we're going to.

145
00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:02.680
and to exchange the pain for the promise.

146
00:10:02.680 --> 00:10:05.920
So my mum wasn't the kindest to me,

147
00:10:05.920 --> 00:10:10.920
but I learned, so I learned to be resilient.

148
00:10:12.720 --> 00:10:15.480
I learned to stand on my own feet.

149
00:10:15.480 --> 00:10:18.320
So what did I learn from those that challenged me

150
00:10:18.320 --> 00:10:20.360
is resilience,

151
00:10:24.360 --> 00:10:28.800
how to stand on my own two feet,

152
00:10:31.000 --> 00:10:35.920
and I suppose independence,

153
00:10:35.920 --> 00:10:38.360
because actually I had to get on and do stuff myself.

154
00:10:38.360 --> 00:10:40.000
No one was going to do it for me.

155
00:10:41.720 --> 00:10:44.600
I'm just trying to think whoever, you know,

156
00:10:44.600 --> 00:10:46.400
and actually I think of Cliff,

157
00:10:46.400 --> 00:10:48.320
and for those of you who are part of our church

158
00:10:48.320 --> 00:10:49.760
and have read the book,

159
00:10:49.760 --> 00:10:53.760
you know, Cliff used to speak out in the sermon

160
00:10:53.760 --> 00:10:55.840
and I'd be like, I can't believe he just said that.

161
00:10:55.840 --> 00:10:57.080
And it was never him.

162
00:10:57.080 --> 00:10:59.560
It was always something in me.

163
00:10:59.600 --> 00:11:03.800
So I can thank Cliff for a healed heart

164
00:11:03.800 --> 00:11:05.680
because every week there was something

165
00:11:05.680 --> 00:11:08.360
pulled out of my heart, something that wasn't right.

166
00:11:08.360 --> 00:11:12.000
So I can thank him, even though I found him challenging.

167
00:11:12.000 --> 00:11:13.880
And I still to this, to be fair,

168
00:11:13.880 --> 00:11:15.440
there has, I haven't been challenged for a while.

169
00:11:15.440 --> 00:11:17.200
I'm starting to be challenged again.

170
00:11:17.200 --> 00:11:19.840
So it's stuff that needs to be worked out in me,

171
00:11:19.840 --> 00:11:23.840
which is great because then I become a better person for it.

172
00:11:24.760 --> 00:11:29.760
So I just, the summary of this particular key

173
00:11:29.800 --> 00:11:34.800
is the fact that whatever you see in others

174
00:11:35.040 --> 00:11:37.800
is a mirror of who you are

175
00:11:37.800 --> 00:11:40.960
because we only see what we are looking for.

176
00:11:42.320 --> 00:11:45.400
So if, for example, I mean, this is great

177
00:11:45.400 --> 00:11:47.000
because it means that actually

178
00:11:47.000 --> 00:11:49.440
I'm going in the right direction for me.

179
00:11:49.440 --> 00:11:52.640
I'm looking towards that, I'm seeing the apostolic,

180
00:11:53.640 --> 00:11:57.400
I'm seeing the pastoral, I'm seeing the prophetic.

181
00:11:57.400 --> 00:11:58.560
That's where I want to go.

182
00:11:58.560 --> 00:12:02.080
These guys are way ahead of me, but I want to follow.

183
00:12:02.080 --> 00:12:03.760
I want to look in that direction

184
00:12:03.760 --> 00:12:06.080
because that's what actually motivates me.

185
00:12:06.080 --> 00:12:09.160
That's what gets me out of bed in the morning.

186
00:12:09.160 --> 00:12:12.200
And those that have sewn in love, resilience,

187
00:12:12.200 --> 00:12:15.480
kind hearts, kind, this is who I am.

188
00:12:16.480 --> 00:12:17.440
And it's who you are.

189
00:12:17.440 --> 00:12:20.840
So whatever you've written down, it's actually who you are.

190
00:12:20.880 --> 00:12:24.360
And again, here, healed heart, bring it on.

191
00:12:24.360 --> 00:12:28.600
Resilience, capacity to stand on my own two feet.

192
00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:30.560
I love people, but I don't need them.

193
00:12:32.120 --> 00:12:32.960
There's a difference.

194
00:12:32.960 --> 00:12:37.160
I don't need anybody, but I want to hang out

195
00:12:37.160 --> 00:12:38.680
with all of you.

196
00:12:38.680 --> 00:12:39.520
It's brilliant.

197
00:12:40.360 --> 00:12:42.360
There's no, you know, no strings attached.

198
00:12:42.360 --> 00:12:44.480
Okay, so that's the first things kind of,

199
00:12:44.480 --> 00:12:47.360
and those, these people are your tribe.

200
00:12:47.360 --> 00:12:49.160
This is your tribe.

201
00:12:50.040 --> 00:12:53.040
So that helps you see who's good for you,

202
00:12:53.040 --> 00:12:54.960
see who's not so good for you.

203
00:12:54.960 --> 00:12:56.920
And of course, I'm not going to hang out.

204
00:12:56.920 --> 00:12:58.760
I mean, I go and hang out with Cliff every week

205
00:12:58.760 --> 00:12:59.880
because actually it's not a bad thing

206
00:12:59.880 --> 00:13:01.920
to have my heart healed and sort it out.

207
00:13:01.920 --> 00:13:03.920
I don't particularly hang out with my mum every week

208
00:13:03.920 --> 00:13:04.760
and that's okay.

209
00:13:04.760 --> 00:13:06.760
I'm in my fifties, I don't need to right now.

210
00:13:06.760 --> 00:13:08.120
And she's the other side of the world.

211
00:13:08.120 --> 00:13:10.400
So no, we don't always, but you know,

212
00:13:10.400 --> 00:13:14.080
embracing what we're learning and iron sharpens iron.

213
00:13:15.200 --> 00:13:18.520
Okay, so we now have exchanging the gap

214
00:13:19.000 --> 00:13:20.520
for the gain, bring it on.

215
00:13:20.520 --> 00:13:22.800
This is just such gold.

216
00:13:22.800 --> 00:13:27.520
So right now, what mountain do you want to climb?

217
00:13:27.520 --> 00:13:30.440
And for me, the mountain I want to climb at the moment,

218
00:13:30.440 --> 00:13:33.200
there's two or three mountains I've got on at the moment.

219
00:13:33.200 --> 00:13:37.280
The first one is our radio show,

220
00:13:38.800 --> 00:13:43.320
which is going to be called past the message on

221
00:13:45.440 --> 00:13:46.760
and it gets launched.

222
00:13:48.640 --> 00:13:53.600
On Easter Sunday at 8 p.m.

223
00:13:57.360 --> 00:14:02.360
And that's on Radio Hawke's Bay, love it.

224
00:14:03.280 --> 00:14:04.960
So that's a mountain.

225
00:14:04.960 --> 00:14:06.240
We are not there yet.

226
00:14:06.240 --> 00:14:07.840
The graphics haven't been done.

227
00:14:07.840 --> 00:14:09.720
The little jingle hasn't been done.

228
00:14:09.720 --> 00:14:13.040
There's a lot to be done to go from where we are now

229
00:14:13.040 --> 00:14:13.880
to get there.

230
00:14:13.880 --> 00:14:16.120
So that's my first mountain.

231
00:14:16.120 --> 00:14:18.480
The second mountain I'm actually not climbing now,

232
00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:21.360
but it's ahead of me is the podcast

233
00:14:21.360 --> 00:14:23.640
because that's separate to the radio show.

234
00:14:23.640 --> 00:14:26.360
It will actually, the radio show will become a podcast

235
00:14:26.360 --> 00:14:29.760
as well, but that's with Phil, it's a separate thing.

236
00:14:30.800 --> 00:14:35.800
So this is, we're going to have the inspiring perspective

237
00:14:41.560 --> 00:14:42.520
podcast.

238
00:14:42.520 --> 00:14:44.960
So that's cool, that's coming up.

239
00:14:44.960 --> 00:14:49.240
And the other mountain I'm looking at climbing

240
00:14:49.240 --> 00:14:52.840
is doing a collaborative book.

241
00:14:56.840 --> 00:14:59.720
So that's the next part that's coming.

242
00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:06.000
Which is quite exciting. So those are some bits that you might not have known about that's coming up.

243
00:15:06.000 --> 00:15:14.000
And then, so what steps do you need to take? So whatever your mountains are to climb, whatever they are for you.

244
00:15:14.000 --> 00:15:21.000
I want to buy a house. Great news this week. I had a lovely lady that I coached back in January.

245
00:15:21.000 --> 00:15:27.000
And we'd put it on her, you know, she put it on that she wanted to buy a house by the end of the year.

246
00:15:27.000 --> 00:15:34.000
She bought it last week. So cool. Within three months, boom, she got it done. Very exciting.

247
00:15:34.000 --> 00:15:42.000
So if buying a house, if I don't know, whatever it might be for you guys that you want to do, put it in there.

248
00:15:42.000 --> 00:15:52.000
And then what steps do you need to take? So in my case, some of the steps I need to take the radio station is getting the graphics sorted.

249
00:15:52.000 --> 00:15:56.000
Phil's sorting the jingle, so I don't have to do too much about that.

250
00:15:56.000 --> 00:16:02.000
And then we need to be able to sort out an outro because we haven't done that yet.

251
00:16:02.000 --> 00:16:08.000
We need to look at our calendar.

252
00:16:08.000 --> 00:16:17.000
Or. For the month, for the like how the months are going to go for the show.

253
00:16:17.000 --> 00:16:33.000
We need to source content. And guests.

254
00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:38.000
So having this in like proper time and then the Inspiring Perspectives podcast.

255
00:16:38.000 --> 00:16:54.000
What I need to do is I need to start interviewing. The people I do.

256
00:16:55.000 --> 00:17:04.000
So I'm doing live with you guys right now. So whoever is in my life in this season is to interview some of those people.

257
00:17:04.000 --> 00:17:08.000
Ask them, why do you hang out with me? Why are you doing this course?

258
00:17:08.000 --> 00:17:12.000
Why do you come on our master's mind every week? What makes you show up?

259
00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:16.000
Whatever it might be. So I've got some interviewing to do.

260
00:17:16.000 --> 00:17:28.000
And then the collaborative book, I have paid to do it and I have been interviewed.

261
00:17:28.000 --> 00:17:38.000
So that's the first two things. And then the next thing is the ball is actually in the other person's court that's organising it.

262
00:17:38.000 --> 00:17:48.000
So I just need to respond to. I or Rick's emails.

263
00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:54.000
As I come through. As they sort out what they need to do, that'll be done.

264
00:17:54.000 --> 00:17:59.000
It's not going to come out to August, but we're doing the work now. So that's that.

265
00:17:59.000 --> 00:18:03.000
And then what you focus. So you. Sorry, I keep going ahead.

266
00:18:03.000 --> 00:18:09.000
So what you need to make sure is that you've got some key steps that you can start putting in that productivity planner.

267
00:18:09.000 --> 00:18:12.000
I'm going to do this towards it today. I'm going to do this towards it next week.

268
00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:16.000
I'm going to do to make sure that you get done what you want to get done.

269
00:18:16.000 --> 00:18:24.000
And then what you focus on expands. So we know that if you focus on what's noble, right and true, you'll get what's noble, right and true.

270
00:18:24.000 --> 00:18:27.000
If you focus on other things, it's going to go the other way.

271
00:18:27.000 --> 00:18:31.000
So, again, if this is the mountain you want to climb, we want to focus.

272
00:18:31.000 --> 00:18:37.000
This is where the gap in the game comes in. We want to focus on progress.

273
00:18:37.000 --> 00:18:46.000
We don't want to focus if this sort of here, if this is where we're starting from and this is the top of your mountain or this is where you want to get to.

274
00:18:46.000 --> 00:18:54.000
What happens is as you climb your mountain, your map, because you'll get there'll be something else and then there'll be something else and then there'll be something else.

275
00:18:54.000 --> 00:19:02.000
So the gap actually never gets less because as you grow your aspirations or where you want to go goes.

276
00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:09.000
So what we do is we measure from where you are now to where you are next week or tomorrow or today.

277
00:19:09.000 --> 00:19:12.000
You know, like and then the next bit and then the next bit and then the next bit.

278
00:19:12.000 --> 00:19:16.000
And before you know it, you've actually made that progress.

279
00:19:16.000 --> 00:19:19.000
Yes, the mountain is still ahead of you, but look what you've done.

280
00:19:20.000 --> 00:19:22.000
And Jesus said it is done.

281
00:19:22.000 --> 00:19:31.000
Winners track done lists, not look at to-do lists, which is the gap between where I am now and where I want to be.

282
00:19:31.000 --> 00:19:39.000
Winners track done lists. I did this today. I did this today. I did this today. I did this this week.

283
00:19:39.000 --> 00:19:46.000
Phil and I recorded the first part of our show this week. Done. Brilliant.

284
00:19:46.000 --> 00:19:52.000
So what I encourage you to do is to focus on what you've done and to measure.

285
00:19:55.000 --> 00:20:00.000
Again, not the gap, so measure what you've achieved.

286
00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:02.000
not what you're still to do and

287
00:20:02.680 --> 00:20:06.680
Every time you look at what you're still to do and that's okay to look at that and do that

288
00:20:06.680 --> 00:20:08.680
But don't measure yourself on it

289
00:20:09.000 --> 00:20:11.000
Measure yourself on what you've achieved

290
00:20:11.560 --> 00:20:15.320
The amount of times I have to have this conversation and my husband didn't think he'd already got it

291
00:20:15.320 --> 00:20:18.120
But no matter you think by living with me, I've got it

292
00:20:18.840 --> 00:20:22.760
So what we're going to focus on just as we do in our calendars

293
00:20:22.800 --> 00:20:28.400
We focus on the big three and as you know from the book and for my productivity planner

294
00:20:28.800 --> 00:20:31.320
You my big three faith

295
00:20:32.080 --> 00:20:33.240
family

296
00:20:33.240 --> 00:20:38.440
Finance, so those are the three hinges that are gonna massive doors for me

297
00:20:39.200 --> 00:20:41.200
so we've got

298
00:20:42.160 --> 00:20:44.160
Faith

299
00:20:44.320 --> 00:20:49.080
Family and yours might be different and then finance

300
00:20:51.280 --> 00:20:58.000
And then we focus on so this is how again here we go shift your mindset from a to-do list to a done list and

301
00:20:58.000 --> 00:21:00.000
Recognize your accomplishments

302
00:21:00.200 --> 00:21:02.200
start tracking those

303
00:21:02.800 --> 00:21:03.960
wins

304
00:21:03.960 --> 00:21:07.320
So today I have been on

305
00:21:08.840 --> 00:21:12.080
Seven calls today. So I've had seven meetings today. I

306
00:21:14.320 --> 00:21:16.320
Have now recorded

307
00:21:20.600 --> 00:21:23.160
Session six. Oh

308
00:21:25.640 --> 00:21:27.640
Great exchange

309
00:21:28.520 --> 00:21:30.520
I have

310
00:21:30.720 --> 00:21:37.000
What else have I done today? There's been some really good stuff today. So you think about what you've done today

311
00:21:38.320 --> 00:21:41.040
We saw what worship practice tonight for vocalists

312
00:21:41.680 --> 00:21:45.760
And other bits and pieces going on and I need to pack as well

313
00:21:45.760 --> 00:21:52.920
So I've still got some bits to do but at the moment that is what I have at all and I've moved my

314
00:21:54.520 --> 00:21:56.280
Physio

315
00:21:56.360 --> 00:21:58.360
Appointment

316
00:22:00.760 --> 00:22:02.760
Yeah, nice and

317
00:22:03.240 --> 00:22:07.640
Then just remember this is good job that I did this at the time that I've done this today

318
00:22:07.640 --> 00:22:12.080
So still got time to go and pick calves trainers up, but I've been forgetting to do all week

319
00:22:12.080 --> 00:22:14.080
So I need to go and do those

320
00:22:14.120 --> 00:22:19.840
So I've still got some to do is but I'm gonna measure my duns. That's what I've done. That's what I've done

321
00:22:19.840 --> 00:22:23.320
That's what I've done and then raise your floor. So I

322
00:22:23.720 --> 00:22:31.160
Understand that each small win contributes to your overhaul overall growth and progress in other words, what was my ceiling?

323
00:22:31.680 --> 00:22:34.280
Yesterday, so where I left off yesterday is

324
00:22:35.120 --> 00:22:37.680
The floor that I start on today

325
00:22:38.160 --> 00:22:44.280
and what's going to happen is I'm then going to lift up as I do things and that becomes my new floor for tomorrow and

326
00:22:44.720 --> 00:22:51.200
Then I do some more stuff and that becomes my new floor for the next day. And that's how compound interest works

327
00:22:51.960 --> 00:22:56.960
It's how my book got written. It's how this course gets written. I just

328
00:22:57.480 --> 00:23:00.600
Everywhere. So I've now written the course. I think I've got one more

329
00:23:01.400 --> 00:23:04.000
thing to do Kev now is working on

330
00:23:04.360 --> 00:23:10.120
Sessions nine through because he's got to finish those off and then I check them again, you know

331
00:23:10.120 --> 00:23:15.400
And then we go from there. So there's a lot of bouncing around. I thought I'd check these see I hadn't checked it properly

332
00:23:15.680 --> 00:23:20.560
So, you know, we do a lot of backwards and forwards to bounce this and make it work

333
00:23:20.880 --> 00:23:24.840
But at the end of the day, so my new floor I am

334
00:23:27.760 --> 00:23:29.760
A number one

335
00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:31.560
best

336
00:23:31.560 --> 00:23:38.200
Selling author and that's where I start from when I speak to people when they ask me what I do or whatever it might be

337
00:23:38.200 --> 00:23:40.200
That's my new floor

338
00:23:40.840 --> 00:23:43.880
I'm also, you know a leading

339
00:23:46.240 --> 00:23:48.240
Breakthrough coach

340
00:23:51.240 --> 00:23:53.240
You

341
00:23:55.880 --> 00:23:57.840
You know, so

342
00:23:57.840 --> 00:24:04.440
Whatever it is. You're ready. Have your identity is whatever you've achieved, you know, I've written the great exchange course

343
00:24:04.440 --> 00:24:08.080
I've written the great exchange book boom

344
00:24:09.600 --> 00:24:15.060
I've started my new radio show with Phil burn. So now

345
00:24:15.800 --> 00:24:17.880
I'm now a radio show host

346
00:24:18.520 --> 00:24:20.160
What the heck?

347
00:24:20.160 --> 00:24:25.880
Anyway, so just I encourage you to just think and just work that through for yourself

348
00:24:26.520 --> 00:24:29.000
Because your floor your ceiling now

349
00:24:29.760 --> 00:24:33.560
So whatever that is, I'm gonna step up tomorrow and do some more

350
00:24:34.320 --> 00:24:36.320
So that's just a little bit of stuff for you

351
00:24:36.960 --> 00:24:40.880
And then our last key in this training is lanes

352
00:24:41.680 --> 00:24:45.080
exchanging exchanging competition for collaboration

353
00:24:45.880 --> 00:24:49.200
We are meant to work together and fit together

354
00:24:50.200 --> 00:24:57.480
Not big, you know, I'm doing it my way. I'm doing it my way. So what I'd encourage you to do is

355
00:24:59.080 --> 00:25:01.080
Identify your

356
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:07.120
own unique gifts. Everyone has a winning lane that adds value to the world. What are you

357
00:25:07.120 --> 00:25:14.720
naturally brilliant at? What would you do if everything that you needed was in front of you,

358
00:25:14.720 --> 00:25:21.600
including finance, what would you do? So just take a moment. I would probably do, to be fair,

359
00:25:21.600 --> 00:25:28.240
I'd probably do what I do now. I don't think my life would change much at all because it's all,

360
00:25:28.240 --> 00:25:41.360
for me, it's about serving, which is about empowering and uplifting people and it's all

361
00:25:41.360 --> 00:25:56.240
about growing and building a kingdom here on earth. While we're here, we've got stuff to do

362
00:25:56.800 --> 00:26:01.760
and it's about, for me, it's about my world peace. You'll know about that in the book.

363
00:26:02.720 --> 00:26:08.880
So it's really interesting, you know, think about the things that are important to you

364
00:26:10.000 --> 00:26:13.920
and what are you brilliant at? I'm brilliant at growing people, I'm brilliant at empowering

365
00:26:13.920 --> 00:26:21.280
people, I'm brilliant at gathering people. In fact, that's what the new, gathering people

366
00:26:21.280 --> 00:26:28.800
and having fun. It's actually upgrading people. I think I should mention that already,

367
00:26:28.800 --> 00:26:36.720
but you know, growing people. That's that gathering, growing, building, that's my gig.

368
00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:42.400
What's yours? Now, for some of the people on this course, I know that they are phenomenal artists.

369
00:26:43.200 --> 00:26:49.200
I know they have a gift for languages. I can speak one language, English, that's it,

370
00:26:49.200 --> 00:26:54.240
but they can speak two or three. So they can communicate to many people in different ways.

371
00:26:54.240 --> 00:27:01.760
They have dominant musical pillars that allow them to be empathetic, allow them to tune into

372
00:27:01.760 --> 00:27:07.760
the people in the environment around them. In fact, many of you are creatives. Many of you

373
00:27:07.760 --> 00:27:14.240
sit in that creative space. There are others that have amazing analytical and scientific brains

374
00:27:14.800 --> 00:27:20.080
and they have a capacity to stick at things and work things out and want to know how does this

375
00:27:20.080 --> 00:27:25.520
work and how does that work, that lovely logical mathematical. It's brilliant because they dot

376
00:27:25.520 --> 00:27:31.280
the i's and cross the t's and they come at everything brave and courageous. So that's

377
00:27:31.280 --> 00:27:36.000
another thing. Some of you are brave and courageous. In fact, many of you are brave and courageous.

378
00:27:36.960 --> 00:27:42.080
And then what are others, you know, in your team or your world brilliant at?

379
00:27:42.080 --> 00:27:50.720
Where do they add value? So, for example, you know, we've got an amazing worship leader,

380
00:27:50.720 --> 00:27:57.200
so Nati, you know, and she just brings the joy and musicianship.

381
00:27:57.840 --> 00:28:06.560
And joy and musicianship to the space that we're in. And then, you know, Kier, bless his heart,

382
00:28:07.760 --> 00:28:18.160
does all these workbooks for me. It looks after the website and then I've got lovely Ella who's

383
00:28:18.480 --> 00:28:25.600
doing my social media for me. And they've all got different skill sets. So Ella can do the visual

384
00:28:25.600 --> 00:28:35.040
spatial. And she can also do all the strategy stuff. She's trying to be a lawyer. It's so cool.

385
00:28:35.040 --> 00:28:40.240
So she's got that, you know, she's got that, you know, she's got that, you know, she's got that

386
00:28:40.800 --> 00:28:47.200
and she can also do all the strategy stuff. She's trying to be a lawyer. It's so cool.

387
00:28:47.200 --> 00:28:54.720
So she's got that strategic brain and she can process stuff so easily. So think about who

388
00:28:54.720 --> 00:29:00.480
you've got around you and how they slot in, how they compliment you. Because actually, when we

389
00:29:00.480 --> 00:29:05.360
all run in our lanes and do the things that we're brilliant at, we work with others, we all win.

390
00:29:05.360 --> 00:29:14.160
It's gold. And then how can we work together to achieve more? So if we run in our lanes and not

391
00:29:15.520 --> 00:29:19.200
try and be in others, you know, we win our race.

392
00:29:21.920 --> 00:29:27.280
When we run with others, when others run in their lanes

393
00:29:27.600 --> 00:29:32.400
and don't try and get into somebody else's, they win their race.

394
00:29:35.440 --> 00:29:37.200
And when we run together,

395
00:29:40.880 --> 00:29:52.240
funnily enough, we achieve more and everyone wins. There is a hurdles. I think it's a 400

396
00:29:52.240 --> 00:29:59.840
hurdles. No, maybe it's just the 400 meters at the Olympics. And I feel like

397
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.680
It was the Tokyo Olympics, but I could be completely wrong.

398
00:30:03.000 --> 00:30:05.760
So one of the Olympics in Tokyo,

399
00:30:06.520 --> 00:30:10.440
relatively recently, there was a 400 meters men's hurdles.

400
00:30:11.040 --> 00:30:15.200
And in all of the lanes, everyone broke a record.

401
00:30:15.800 --> 00:30:19.120
It was either a personal best, a country, a national best,

402
00:30:19.560 --> 00:30:24.280
or it was, you know, that broke the Olympic Games record.

403
00:30:24.680 --> 00:30:27.920
But in that one race, everyone won.

404
00:30:28.800 --> 00:30:32.920
Somebody might've got the gold for the Olympics, but everyone won.

405
00:30:33.400 --> 00:30:35.320
And that is what we're trying to achieve.

406
00:30:36.320 --> 00:30:40.960
So I encourage you to consider who your tribe is, how you track progress,

407
00:30:41.600 --> 00:30:42.960
because it's all about uplifting.

408
00:30:42.960 --> 00:30:45.360
It's all about growing and it's all about working together.

409
00:30:45.960 --> 00:30:48.640
And I encourage you to consider what you're going to do this week

410
00:30:49.600 --> 00:30:51.560
to power equip and raise up.

411
00:30:51.880 --> 00:30:55.480
So what are you going to do to consider your tribe

412
00:30:56.000 --> 00:30:58.200
or how you track progress?

413
00:30:58.200 --> 00:31:01.720
And one of the things I'm going to do is I'm going to be consistent.

414
00:31:03.440 --> 00:31:09.000
With my. Productivity planner.

415
00:31:14.760 --> 00:31:18.160
I'm going to keep on top of comms.

416
00:31:20.280 --> 00:31:24.360
Because that's been a mission for me, the amount of stuff that comes through.

417
00:31:26.480 --> 00:31:30.000
And there was something I was going to look towards was communication,

418
00:31:30.000 --> 00:31:33.960
you know, communication is sound and communication is good.

419
00:31:34.320 --> 00:31:36.920
I know what I was going to do. I was going to follow up.

420
00:31:39.000 --> 00:31:42.960
On all my links, because I've copied links from been on a chat,

421
00:31:42.960 --> 00:31:45.880
we've been somewhere and I copied a link and I haven't gone there

422
00:31:46.200 --> 00:31:49.360
because I've just been too busy, so I'm like, no, I'm going to do.

423
00:31:49.360 --> 00:31:51.440
That's one of the things I'm going to slow down,

424
00:31:52.320 --> 00:31:54.640
going to copy the links, I'm going to take the action.

425
00:31:55.080 --> 00:31:59.360
So that's my plan, which is about tracking my progress.

426
00:31:59.360 --> 00:32:02.480
I want to track how much better I get at that.

427
00:32:04.280 --> 00:32:08.960
And then in terms of my gifting, I am.

428
00:32:12.640 --> 00:32:16.440
Actually, I'm going to ask people, for those of you who have read the book,

429
00:32:17.000 --> 00:32:20.000
I'm going to ask those who have read the book

430
00:32:20.880 --> 00:32:31.560
to leave Google and Amazon review,

431
00:32:32.360 --> 00:32:34.680
because that will really, really help me

432
00:32:34.680 --> 00:32:37.000
and it will help others to find the right book for them.

433
00:32:37.840 --> 00:32:43.320
So ultimately, right now, I want you to review how you've got on with this

434
00:32:43.320 --> 00:32:45.800
and you can obviously pause the videos as you've gone along

435
00:32:45.800 --> 00:32:50.600
and how you feel moving forward now to go and think about your tribe,

436
00:32:50.600 --> 00:32:53.440
think about your vibe, think about raising your floor,

437
00:32:53.720 --> 00:32:56.520
think about what you're focusing on and who you're focusing with.

438
00:32:56.880 --> 00:32:59.000
And as usual, it's all about people.

439
00:32:59.000 --> 00:33:01.160
I'm getting super excited, so I'm now 12.

440
00:33:01.520 --> 00:33:03.080
I'm like a 12 out of 10.

441
00:33:03.320 --> 00:33:04.200
Let me at it.

442
00:33:04.200 --> 00:33:09.880
Let me work with the beautiful people I get to work with and for.

443
00:33:10.480 --> 00:33:13.240
And how does that make me feel? Amazing.

444
00:33:14.040 --> 00:33:17.120
So. That is pretty much.

445
00:33:18.000 --> 00:33:22.200
I'm finishing the training, having the opportunity to work with you.

446
00:33:22.880 --> 00:33:25.040
I know I don't see you, which makes me a little bit sad,

447
00:33:25.400 --> 00:33:30.000
but I know you're at the other end of this and I love every single one of you.

448
00:33:30.000 --> 00:33:32.120
I'd love to hear how you're getting on with the training.

449
00:33:32.400 --> 00:33:34.320
I'd love to know whether it's working for you.

450
00:33:34.560 --> 00:33:37.640
And if it's not, tell me that, too, because I need to make it better.

451
00:33:38.480 --> 00:33:40.640
And if there's anything that you would suggest.

452
00:33:40.640 --> 00:33:43.280
And in the meantime, have an amazing, God blessed week.

453
00:33:43.640 --> 00:33:47.840
Some of you I'll see on Monday and some of you I will see this time next week.

454
00:33:48.080 --> 00:33:50.600
God bless. Take care. I love you. Bye.