WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:07.000 Hello amazing beautiful people it is always a pleasure to be with you and here we are 2 00:00:07.000 --> 00:00:13.040 in session 7 and it's all about values. Now you know how it works before we go into session 3 00:00:13.040 --> 00:00:19.200 7 we want to reflect on what we've learnt from session 6 because if we don't take time 4 00:00:19.200 --> 00:00:26.200 to pause and reflect we don't get to draw the line in the sand because now a week later 5 00:00:26.200 --> 00:00:31.480 from last week's training your ceiling from last week becomes your floor for this week 6 00:00:31.480 --> 00:00:36.160 and what we're wanting to do is step and step and step have compound interest each week 7 00:00:36.160 --> 00:00:41.280 so that we're going higher and higher and higher that's the key to what we're doing. 8 00:00:41.280 --> 00:00:47.280 So welcome welcome good to see you you are well over halfway congratulations for getting 9 00:00:47.280 --> 00:00:53.640 to this point you're superstars let me share the screen and let's get going. So here we 10 00:00:53.640 --> 00:00:58.360 have week 7 and we're looking at your true value but before we go into that we want to 11 00:00:58.360 --> 00:01:04.080 reflect on the three keys that I gave you last week one was about not being alone so 12 00:01:04.080 --> 00:01:08.040 thinking about the people that you read those healthy relationships the people that lift 13 00:01:08.040 --> 00:01:13.720 you up the people that you admire the people that oh my goodness really float your boat 14 00:01:13.720 --> 00:01:18.680 or you just want to spend lots of time with and then we also looked at like onwards and 15 00:01:18.680 --> 00:01:24.360 upwards we looked at your mountain what mountain do you want to climb and then how are you 16 00:01:24.360 --> 00:01:29.040 going to get there the big three and the steps you need to take to get there so your mountain 17 00:01:29.040 --> 00:01:33.560 is really like what is the one thing we're going to get the mindset out the way and go 18 00:01:33.560 --> 00:01:37.520 oh my goodness and because actually what we're doing is we are moving that mountain we're 19 00:01:37.520 --> 00:01:42.840 moving the old mindsets and we're exchanging them for new we're you know old ways of thinking 20 00:01:42.840 --> 00:01:48.840 for new old relationships for new now some of our old relationships are amazing so we're 21 00:01:48.840 --> 00:01:52.920 not going to get rid of those but we just want to make sure that we're in our lane and 22 00:01:52.920 --> 00:01:58.580 then living a life fulfilled actually you running in your lane with others running in 23 00:01:58.580 --> 00:02:04.520 their lane and everyone wins so what this whole of last week was about was you really 24 00:02:04.520 --> 00:02:10.880 finding out who you are and what your identity is and so hopefully you've gained some insight 25 00:02:10.880 --> 00:02:16.720 in key takeaways so it could have been my goodness all the things that I admire in others 26 00:02:16.720 --> 00:02:22.640 ah it's all about people it's about prophecy it's about whatever it is about sport whatever 27 00:02:22.640 --> 00:02:29.720 it might be it's about learning scripture it's whatever it is for you what is it and 28 00:02:29.720 --> 00:02:34.480 identifying that because what you see is what you you know what you see is actually what 29 00:02:34.480 --> 00:02:39.080 you're looking for and so what am I looking for what are you looking for are you looking 30 00:02:39.080 --> 00:02:42.840 for creatives are you looking for people who've got amazing businesses and pottery 31 00:02:42.840 --> 00:02:48.600 or crafts or whatever it might be what is it that you're doing and then how did you 32 00:02:48.600 --> 00:02:55.080 integrate those learnings how did you apply who you are and it's interesting one of the 33 00:02:55.080 --> 00:03:00.680 things that I've been doing this week is reviewing and reflecting on what do I need to cut out 34 00:03:00.680 --> 00:03:07.520 what do I need to prune away that isn't in line with my zone of genius and my field of 35 00:03:07.520 --> 00:03:14.880 favour where am I using my time unproductively where am I getting caught up because actually 36 00:03:14.880 --> 00:03:19.280 my unproductive time is not in my lane so that's been one of the things that I've been 37 00:03:19.280 --> 00:03:24.640 working on this week and then looking at my relationships with others we've got last week 38 00:03:24.640 --> 00:03:32.120 stuff in here or what I've just written earlier um so engagement with others where are you 39 00:03:32.120 --> 00:03:37.960 going forward or how has it been when you've been talking to other people how has it changed 40 00:03:37.960 --> 00:03:42.520 what has it made you do has it made you stand up more has it made you connect more with 41 00:03:42.520 --> 00:03:47.600 the people you want to and actually step back and maybe take away some of the people that 42 00:03:47.600 --> 00:03:52.960 aren't in the team or you don't want to be part of that's fine it's about running with 43 00:03:52.960 --> 00:03:57.880 the right people so you've got your lane and running with them and you know what I find 44 00:03:57.880 --> 00:04:02.760 the gold is when we run with the right people when we're in the right space then we're running 45 00:04:02.760 --> 00:04:09.880 in the lane we need to go in which is just amazing so I would encourage you to give yourself 46 00:04:09.880 --> 00:04:18.079 now as we're coming into this next step this next part how are you feeling and so I am 47 00:04:18.079 --> 00:04:24.560 actually 7 out of 10 and I'm excited to see what this is going to do for us and I did 48 00:04:24.560 --> 00:04:28.960 this earlier this week with a live group so I got to actually look at my values again 49 00:04:28.960 --> 00:04:33.840 which was so cool and to see how actually some of them had changed in fact many of them 50 00:04:33.840 --> 00:04:38.680 had changed it was quite interesting I didn't think that was going to happen anyway but 51 00:04:38.680 --> 00:04:44.880 as our seasons change and as we change and as we grow and we move things move with us 52 00:04:44.880 --> 00:04:48.880 so it's not a fixed thing this but for now we're going to look at your values for this 53 00:04:48.880 --> 00:04:56.720 season right now and so part of understanding values is let's have a wee look at what they're 54 00:04:56.720 --> 00:04:59.760 about so for me they're about getting my guardrails on 55 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:06.000 This is about me pointing in the right direction, being in the right lane and going the way that I've been called to go. 56 00:05:06.000 --> 00:05:11.000 And so we have good values, things that we love and we want to move towards. 57 00:05:11.000 --> 00:05:17.000 It could be love, it could be financial freedom, it could be faith, all those are the things we want. 58 00:05:17.000 --> 00:05:22.000 And we looked at some of that actually last week as we were looking at what we valued in other people. 59 00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:29.000 And there's some that we don't like. It could be rejection, fear of failure, all those ugly things, whatever it might be. 60 00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:34.000 And today we're going to exchange those ugly ones for you for some good ones. 61 00:05:34.000 --> 00:05:40.000 I'm going to show you how to cut those ugly ones, those painful ones off and make them better. 62 00:05:40.000 --> 00:05:44.000 And you know your good ones, I'm going to show you how to exchange them and make them even bigger. 63 00:05:44.000 --> 00:05:47.000 How cool is that? But let's have a look at some fun facts. 64 00:05:47.000 --> 00:05:52.000 So emotions, sorry, values don't have emotion. They're two separate things. 65 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:57.000 And that value only means something when we add emotion to it. 66 00:05:57.000 --> 00:06:06.000 For example, love itself doesn't mean anything until we add some emotions or some experiences to it. 67 00:06:06.000 --> 00:06:09.000 Now, some people say that love is actually about beating somebody up. 68 00:06:09.000 --> 00:06:15.000 And if we've learned that the emotions that go with that will sit with that value. 69 00:06:15.000 --> 00:06:19.000 But if we've learned that love is about joy and adoration and honoring each other, 70 00:06:19.000 --> 00:06:26.000 we've got those beautiful, warm feelings of joy and adoration that add to love. 71 00:06:26.000 --> 00:06:32.000 And what we want to do is we want to make these values so beautiful and cozy that they knit together beautifully. 72 00:06:32.000 --> 00:06:37.000 We don't want this. So and then again, failure. 73 00:06:37.000 --> 00:06:43.000 So failure is not always people's favorite. We don't like making mistakes. 74 00:06:43.000 --> 00:06:51.000 So because we've attached emotions of disappointment and disillusionment to failure. 75 00:06:51.000 --> 00:06:58.000 Whereas if we can cut that off and actually create a new path where failure is actually success, 76 00:06:58.000 --> 00:07:04.000 because it's taking us and leading us towards the next thing, boom, we're done. So good. 77 00:07:04.000 --> 00:07:10.000 So values are signposts indicating whether you're on the right track or not. 78 00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:16.000 And because our emotions, we link our emotions to values, our emotions are also signposts that help us. 79 00:07:16.000 --> 00:07:21.000 The values are clear signposts. Emotions can be a bit wobbly because they can take us in different directions. 80 00:07:21.000 --> 00:07:24.000 They come from your heart and your spirit. 81 00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:33.000 So we've got mind, body, soul and then our spirit that covers everything and inform your head and logic, not the other way around. 82 00:07:33.000 --> 00:07:39.000 So values are in your heart and they come up and they give you the information. 83 00:07:39.000 --> 00:07:44.000 Your head cannot inform your heart. Your heart can only inform your head. 84 00:07:45.000 --> 00:07:49.000 Values are internal and they're your true self drive. 85 00:07:49.000 --> 00:07:54.000 They're that internal, you're intrinsically motivated by them. 86 00:07:54.000 --> 00:07:58.000 They're not, but what they do is the inside that reflects the outside. 87 00:07:58.000 --> 00:08:01.000 They're not outside in, they're inside out. 88 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:05.000 And then when we live in line with our values, we feel peace, contentment and reduce stress. 89 00:08:05.000 --> 00:08:08.000 Sound good? Never get stressed again? 90 00:08:08.000 --> 00:08:11.000 Oh, that would be lovely. 91 00:08:11.000 --> 00:08:16.000 And then when we take action towards our values, we feel integrity, alignment and increase self-confidence. 92 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:21.000 Oh, so into that. Wouldn't you just love to feel really confident every moment of every day? 93 00:08:21.000 --> 00:08:24.000 Oh, so good. I love it. 94 00:08:24.000 --> 00:08:33.000 Okay, so what we're going to do is I'm actually going to flick to my screen and I'm going to show you all the values, the good ones. 95 00:08:33.000 --> 00:08:39.000 And what I want you to do, so in a minute, I'm going to show you the screen with a whole heap of values on. 96 00:08:39.000 --> 00:08:44.000 It's not like an ever ending list. It's just a biggest list as I can do for now. 97 00:08:44.000 --> 00:08:52.000 If you've got a positive value or a value that you want to promise value that is that is not on that list, add it in, have it. 98 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:57.000 That's fine. But what I want you to do is get down to the top five. 99 00:08:57.000 --> 00:09:02.000 And the reason I want you to do that is because your top five values are the top 20 percent. 100 00:09:02.000 --> 00:09:14.000 And your top 20 percent are going to give you 80 percent of your sense of health and well-being and increased confidence and decreased stress, anxiety or worry. 101 00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:18.000 So we're going to do top five of the good ones and top five of the bad ones. 102 00:09:18.000 --> 00:09:23.000 But for now, we're going to look at the good ones. So what I want you to do, there's a list here. 103 00:09:24.000 --> 00:09:33.000 And what I'm going to suggest you do is you pause now and you write down or when I finish speaking, you pause. 104 00:09:33.000 --> 00:09:38.000 You write down all of the ones that like, oh, my goodness, that's me, that's me. 105 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:45.000 And only I only want your ten out of tens, the ones that you really cannot live without. 106 00:09:45.000 --> 00:09:50.000 Like, oh, my goodness, for me, faith or love or family. 107 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:55.000 They're clearly very high on my list. And life's not worth living without them, quite frankly. 108 00:09:55.000 --> 00:09:59.000 It's just no good for me. Now, that doesn't have to be the same for you. 109 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:05.920 it could be significance, or it could be Jesus, it could be whatever it is for you 110 00:10:05.920 --> 00:10:10.120 it could be feeling physically fit, being fit and healthy, whatever it is for you 111 00:10:10.120 --> 00:10:16.400 you choose your top five. So I encourage you now, pause this, find your top five 112 00:10:16.400 --> 00:10:19.480 and then we'll go again. 113 00:10:20.640 --> 00:10:25.840 Brilliant, welcome back, congratulations for getting your top five, even if you 114 00:10:25.840 --> 00:10:31.040 had a few more and you've whittled them down you have done really well. Now 115 00:10:31.040 --> 00:10:35.840 you're going to do the same but with the uglies and I know you might have to 116 00:10:35.840 --> 00:10:40.400 expand your screens to see these because there's only so much because you will 117 00:10:40.400 --> 00:10:44.680 have to do that from your end I'm afraid. So expand the screens and what I want 118 00:10:44.680 --> 00:10:50.720 you to do this time is pick your zero out of tens, the ones that you really 119 00:10:50.720 --> 00:10:57.000 don't like. Now you won't like them and other people, you won't like them in 120 00:10:57.000 --> 00:11:04.720 other people. So for example if lying was one of those, you won't lie and you won't 121 00:11:04.720 --> 00:11:10.000 you can't bear it when other people lie. So again I'm going to encourage you in a 122 00:11:10.000 --> 00:11:15.600 moment to pause this, take the time, work out your top five and your top five are 123 00:11:15.600 --> 00:11:22.240 your worst ones on the planet, the ones you would avoid at all costs. So have 124 00:11:22.240 --> 00:11:28.040 fun, write your list, get them down to your bottom five as it were, your worst 125 00:11:28.040 --> 00:11:32.400 of your worst of your worst. Have fun. 126 00:11:35.200 --> 00:11:41.000 Welcome back, what I'd like you to do right now is write your top five in 127 00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:46.960 here of your goodies, your promise values and then your bottom five of your 128 00:11:46.960 --> 00:11:52.400 pain values. So whatever they are for you I want you to write those down and 129 00:11:52.400 --> 00:11:58.560 actually if I just took one moment right now I could stick mine in so that we 130 00:11:58.560 --> 00:12:09.280 have got, oh, just so that you can see. 131 00:12:14.240 --> 00:12:19.880 Now they're not necessarily in the right order but they are my top five and then 132 00:12:19.880 --> 00:12:28.240 oh that's interesting and be down there to sort that out. I'm taking them off the 133 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:34.240 top now, that's unhelpful, oh that's okay and then 134 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:44.400 oh look, good old lying's popped up there. Okay so whatever it is for you I want 135 00:12:44.400 --> 00:12:49.240 you to pop your top five in and then you're gonna learn, oh, Kim's put them in, 136 00:12:49.240 --> 00:12:52.800 bless him, he's actually put the rules in, he's just popped them in the wrong place, 137 00:12:52.800 --> 00:12:58.040 bless his cotton socks. Okay then what I want you to do is I want you to ignore 138 00:12:58.040 --> 00:13:02.240 this lot for a moment and we're going to go to the Pareto Principle and what 139 00:13:02.240 --> 00:13:06.760 we're going to do here is we're going to look at, I've just talked about it, the 140 00:13:06.760 --> 00:13:12.040 top five is 20% gives you 80% of your health and well-being and feel 141 00:13:12.040 --> 00:13:15.920 good. So what we're going to do is we're going to make these top ones, these 142 00:13:15.920 --> 00:13:20.400 promise values, feel amazing. You've currently got a three-lane highway 143 00:13:20.400 --> 00:13:24.360 towards them, we're going to make a six-lane highway, we're going to double 144 00:13:24.360 --> 00:13:31.320 how more time that you feel in these values and the way that we do that is we 145 00:13:31.320 --> 00:13:36.800 want to feel them every moment of every day if we can because that we want to 146 00:13:36.800 --> 00:13:41.880 make them as easy as possible so we want to be broad in here to see how easy we 147 00:13:41.880 --> 00:13:47.800 can do it. So love, so for example these sentences are going to start every time 148 00:13:47.800 --> 00:13:59.560 I, whenever I, or anytime I, to make it open and broad. So every time I hang out 149 00:13:59.560 --> 00:14:08.080 with God, Jesus, Holy Spirit, so the Trinity, 150 00:14:09.080 --> 00:14:20.040 I'm in the word, in worship or praise, you know I think in thankfulness, let's put 151 00:14:20.040 --> 00:14:30.160 thankful, so anywhere in that space. Hang out with, it could be my 152 00:14:30.160 --> 00:14:36.280 husband, it could be friends, for me it could be just about any human on the 153 00:14:36.280 --> 00:14:44.360 planet to be fair, with people, with nature, 154 00:14:44.840 --> 00:14:52.240 or walking the dog, or, or, because I want to do it as many times, so I'm not always 155 00:14:52.240 --> 00:15:00.720 walking the dog, I'm not always with people, I feel them. 156 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:06.160 So I'm either hanging out with family or the Trinity or I'm in the Word or I'm 157 00:15:06.160 --> 00:15:10.320 thankful or I'm with my husband or I'm with friends or I'm walking the dog. 158 00:15:10.320 --> 00:15:16.120 Brilliant! So at no point in my day can I not feel love because all of those 159 00:15:16.120 --> 00:15:20.840 things are now in my rule. They're now in my rule that I'm gonna read in my head 160 00:15:20.840 --> 00:15:26.520 to make sure I feel love every moment of every day and the joy of hanging out 161 00:15:26.520 --> 00:15:30.360 with Jesus, God and the Holy Spirit as they hang. The Holy Spirit's in me, hangs out 162 00:15:30.360 --> 00:15:36.880 with me all the time. So actually that's it. I'm done. It's brilliant! Okay I could 163 00:15:36.880 --> 00:15:42.320 use almost the same. I've got faith next and I could almost sit in the same space 164 00:15:42.320 --> 00:15:47.600 for faith but I'll try and I'll do it. I'll just do some different things for 165 00:15:47.600 --> 00:15:59.400 that. So whenever, so look at that, whenever I am connected with God, Jesus 166 00:16:00.160 --> 00:16:05.600 and or the Holy Spirit, all the same really. 167 00:16:05.600 --> 00:16:26.560 And what else would bring me faith? Pray. Brings me faith. Worship again. 168 00:16:26.560 --> 00:16:52.120 Or I'm thankful for all I have. I'm building my faith or I feel faith, whichever. So any of 169 00:16:52.120 --> 00:16:56.440 those things, one or that or that or that. I'm doing it every day, every 170 00:16:56.480 --> 00:17:03.720 moment. Brilliant. Boom. I'll give you one more. Anytime. So we've got this. Anytime I 171 00:17:03.720 --> 00:17:14.640 and my next one was peace. Anytime I, here we go, breathe. Yeah. Yeah, way. Every 172 00:17:14.640 --> 00:17:23.839 time I breathe, if you take a deep breath, if you do this actually four times, deep 173 00:17:23.839 --> 00:17:37.720 breath. Let it out. Breathe. Let it out. It brings you peace, brings you calm. 174 00:17:37.720 --> 00:17:58.400 It's nuts. So anytime I breathe, pause, take a moment to tune in and be present. I 175 00:17:58.400 --> 00:18:06.800 feel peace. And you can do that. I can do that any moment to any day, even when I'm 176 00:18:06.840 --> 00:18:12.120 not feeling peace. I can breathe. I can take a moment to just press the pause 177 00:18:12.120 --> 00:18:16.600 button. I can step out of something if I need to when I press the pause button. 178 00:18:17.920 --> 00:18:23.680 Just take a moment to be present. When I'm present, I'm actually activating all my 179 00:18:23.680 --> 00:18:30.040 senses. What can I see? What can I hear? What can I smell? And it just brings me 180 00:18:30.040 --> 00:18:35.600 back to a place of peace, even if there's carnage going on around me. So have some 181 00:18:35.600 --> 00:18:39.160 fun with these. So these are the these are the ones we you know, we just want to make 182 00:18:39.160 --> 00:18:44.080 them as broad and as easy so that we can feel it all the time. And when we get into 183 00:18:44.080 --> 00:18:48.600 this space, and we now you are going to read these every morning and night for the 184 00:18:48.600 --> 00:18:53.720 next 21 days, and technically three cycles of the next 21 days. However, if you read 185 00:18:53.720 --> 00:19:00.600 them until they're autopilot, you can shorten that time from 21 days to until it 186 00:19:00.600 --> 00:19:04.640 becomes autopilot because that's what we're looking for until your subconscious 187 00:19:04.640 --> 00:19:08.960 gets it. And that's the pathway you go down so that you are feeling more 188 00:19:08.960 --> 00:19:14.440 confident, self confident, you're just on fire. It's amazing. So I encourage you to 189 00:19:14.440 --> 00:19:21.400 do this. Okay, let's look at the uglies. These are my favorites. Because these are 190 00:19:21.400 --> 00:19:30.520 the ones you are gonna never feel again. Never feel again. They're not going to 191 00:19:30.520 --> 00:19:34.600 have any emotions attached to them. They're not good. The enemy is not going 192 00:19:34.600 --> 00:19:40.120 to be able to get his squirmy little hooky worm in. You are going to be free 193 00:19:40.240 --> 00:19:47.560 from today. Trust me. And this is one of the keys that unlock the door allowed me 194 00:19:47.560 --> 00:19:52.520 to be able to speak to my ex husband, who used to throw me across hallways throw me 195 00:19:52.520 --> 00:19:58.600 across driveways who I had a police order against. allows me to chat to him just 196 00:19:58.600 --> 00:20:00.040 like I'm chatting to you now. 197 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:10.400 Karmas, no emotion, no worry, no tears, no fear, it's all gone, completely gone. 198 00:20:10.400 --> 00:20:16.600 So I'm blessing you with what I was blessed with because that for me has been a blessing. 199 00:20:16.600 --> 00:20:18.820 So let's have a wee look. 200 00:20:18.820 --> 00:20:27.040 Now these ones we want to make almost impossible, like it is so hard, so where we went broad 201 00:20:27.040 --> 00:20:33.560 to make it easy as possible for you to feel, now we're going to go super narrow and make 202 00:20:33.560 --> 00:20:36.480 it almost impossible for you to feel. 203 00:20:36.480 --> 00:20:43.520 So we can only, there's two sentence openers for this one, only when I or the only time 204 00:20:43.520 --> 00:20:44.520 I. 205 00:20:44.520 --> 00:20:45.520 That's it. 206 00:20:45.520 --> 00:20:53.400 So let's use one of mine, cold hearted, oh my goodness, oh my goodness, bear with, only 207 00:20:53.400 --> 00:20:54.400 when. 208 00:20:54.400 --> 00:21:02.160 Now the key here is to write a sentence that has absolutely nothing to do with what I already 209 00:21:02.160 --> 00:21:05.240 see as cold hearted. 210 00:21:05.240 --> 00:21:25.640 So only when I, only when I jump around in a pink panther suit, will I feel cold hearted. 211 00:21:25.640 --> 00:21:34.640 Now the chance is, in fact jump around, only when I live, let's make it even, like I am 212 00:21:34.640 --> 00:21:40.840 not going to live in a pink panther suit, like that's nuts, it's absolutely nuts. 213 00:21:40.840 --> 00:21:45.120 And you know what, it's got nothing to do with cold hearted, now I was going to put 214 00:21:45.120 --> 00:21:50.400 only when I've eaten all the chocolate on the planet, because actually I'd love to do 215 00:21:50.400 --> 00:21:53.000 that but I'd probably feel sick. 216 00:21:53.000 --> 00:21:57.520 You know and not shared it with anybody would I feel cold hearted but actually not sharing 217 00:21:57.520 --> 00:21:59.840 for me is cold hearted. 218 00:21:59.840 --> 00:22:03.480 So although that would be quite funny, it wouldn't be helpful because it's linked to 219 00:22:03.480 --> 00:22:09.220 why I already feel about cold hearted and if in this new sentence I've got anything 220 00:22:09.220 --> 00:22:13.720 that links to the old, it's going to grow the old without me knowing it, so we don't 221 00:22:13.720 --> 00:22:15.840 want that. 222 00:22:15.840 --> 00:22:24.760 So only when I live, only when I choose to live, only when I choose to, there we go I've 223 00:22:24.760 --> 00:22:30.040 made it even harder, choose to live in a pink panther suit will I feel cold hearted. 224 00:22:30.040 --> 00:22:36.680 Now if I read that rule enough times, when somebody or something happens and I see them 225 00:22:36.680 --> 00:22:42.200 as cold hearted, instead of me getting upset, instead of me getting triggered by it, I'm 226 00:22:42.200 --> 00:22:47.680 not going to feel anything, oh that's right, no no, I'm not in a pink panther suit, so 227 00:22:47.680 --> 00:22:52.560 I'm not living in a pink panther suit, so I can come instead of being emotionally charged, 228 00:22:52.560 --> 00:22:58.520 I can come with a lovely cool head and speak light and life into that situation instead 229 00:22:58.520 --> 00:23:02.600 of being triggered, which masks us and closes us down. 230 00:23:02.600 --> 00:23:18.720 Okay, my next one was rudderless, so the only time I will feel rudderless is when I have 231 00:23:18.720 --> 00:23:30.080 been abducted by aliens. 232 00:23:30.080 --> 00:23:37.600 Now for me, being rudderless is actually about not having a plan, it's not having a vision 233 00:23:37.600 --> 00:23:44.920 and you know, if I've been abducted by aliens, maybe that is linked, because if I'm abducted 234 00:23:44.920 --> 00:23:52.880 by aliens, then I can't have a vision, because I've got no way of knowing where I'm going. 235 00:23:52.880 --> 00:24:04.320 So the only time I will feel rudderless is when, we're going to change that one, is when 236 00:24:04.320 --> 00:24:26.200 I can no longer put my socks on, or my undies on, or whatever it might be, put my socks 237 00:24:26.200 --> 00:24:27.200 on. 238 00:24:27.200 --> 00:24:31.840 So as long as I can put my socks on, I'm all good to go, and that's got nothing to do with 239 00:24:31.840 --> 00:24:32.840 being rudderless. 240 00:24:32.840 --> 00:24:45.160 I can just put my socks on, even better, when I can no longer, got a better one, rip a tissue. 241 00:24:45.160 --> 00:24:52.840 Everybody can rip a tissue, it's not hard, so that's the only time, if I can't rip a 242 00:24:52.840 --> 00:24:58.400 tissue, then I'm allowed to be rudderless, but otherwise, it's all good, there you go. 243 00:24:58.400 --> 00:24:59.840 So I've just gone, there we go. 244 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.680 giving you a genuine like oh no hold on a minute that's still attached oh 245 00:25:03.680 --> 00:25:08.320 no that's attached so if i'd use the other sentences that were still attached 246 00:25:08.320 --> 00:25:12.240 the way that my brain thought about that so you've got to be really good and you 247 00:25:12.240 --> 00:25:14.960 know what feel free there's a small group doing this 248 00:25:14.960 --> 00:25:18.640 if you want to send your values rules to me i'm happy to check them 249 00:25:18.640 --> 00:25:22.320 and flick them back to you to make sure that nothing 250 00:25:22.320 --> 00:25:27.280 is you know in your old ways i'll do one more just for you guys so 251 00:25:27.280 --> 00:25:31.760 you've got three of each just to give you only 252 00:25:31.840 --> 00:25:34.880 when i 253 00:25:35.360 --> 00:25:41.120 that's a lying i've got this time only when i 254 00:25:42.400 --> 00:25:46.960 lying only when i 255 00:25:46.960 --> 00:25:57.280 i've chosen to 256 00:25:57.280 --> 00:26:01.920 live with penguins 257 00:26:07.280 --> 00:26:12.880 um well i feel 258 00:26:16.960 --> 00:26:20.800 lying because the reality is i'm never going to live with penguins quite 259 00:26:20.800 --> 00:26:24.640 frankly well as far as i'm aware i'm not going 260 00:26:24.640 --> 00:26:30.080 to choose to live with penguins uh far too cold for one so 261 00:26:30.080 --> 00:26:36.160 and lying for me is around um 262 00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:40.400 oh maybe that is linked because that's about integrity 263 00:26:40.400 --> 00:26:46.320 and i wouldn't maybe only when i've chosen to live with penguins 264 00:26:46.320 --> 00:26:50.000 well i feel lying because i wouldn't choose that so it would be a lie so that 265 00:26:50.000 --> 00:26:54.880 actually doesn't work because it's with it's with that sits in 266 00:26:54.880 --> 00:27:01.040 exactly what i see lying as so only when 267 00:27:02.160 --> 00:27:06.720 only when i have 268 00:27:07.280 --> 00:27:13.120 gosh this has got me stumped only when i have 269 00:27:19.120 --> 00:27:24.240 only when i fly to the 270 00:27:24.240 --> 00:27:27.760 only when i have 271 00:27:32.240 --> 00:27:38.560 only when i fly to the moon 272 00:27:38.560 --> 00:27:43.360 well i feel fine 273 00:27:44.160 --> 00:27:51.200 um so unless i am flying to the moon i'm standing in the truth and i can't 274 00:27:51.200 --> 00:27:54.480 have it anything to do with the truth or anything to do with lying because that 275 00:27:54.480 --> 00:27:59.600 links the brain so i'm just going to pause and stop the 276 00:27:59.600 --> 00:28:03.440 share and just share some science with you so you can 277 00:28:03.440 --> 00:28:06.000 understand how this stuff works because god has been 278 00:28:06.000 --> 00:28:11.120 amazing in how he has created us what these rules are doing is they are 279 00:28:11.120 --> 00:28:14.240 creating a new neural pathway in your brain so 280 00:28:14.240 --> 00:28:17.520 every time you read them and say them out loud 281 00:28:17.600 --> 00:28:21.440 you are literally telling your brain and you are recreating so 282 00:28:21.440 --> 00:28:25.360 the 700 neurons produced in your hippocampus every day responsible for 283 00:28:25.360 --> 00:28:29.040 memory and learning and so you're using those neurons to 284 00:28:29.040 --> 00:28:32.160 build a new neural pathway and a neural pathway is 285 00:28:32.160 --> 00:28:37.920 like a physical path in your brain and so after 23 cycles of 21 286 00:28:37.920 --> 00:28:41.360 days you've actually built a three-lane highway so what we're doing 287 00:28:41.360 --> 00:28:44.320 is we're building a new three and making it double because you're 288 00:28:44.320 --> 00:28:49.040 adding to it for the good ones now when we've got 289 00:28:49.040 --> 00:28:52.880 things that we don't use in our brain so we've got old 290 00:28:52.880 --> 00:28:56.000 information that we're not using we've got some because you know the 291 00:28:56.000 --> 00:28:59.840 brain needs is constantly regenerating it's so it's using 292 00:28:59.840 --> 00:29:03.040 it's all the bits that are firing and as you're thinking about these things 293 00:29:03.040 --> 00:29:06.560 it's all firing and working but if there's some bits in your brain that 294 00:29:06.560 --> 00:29:12.560 you're not thinking about in the night god restores us he restores 295 00:29:12.560 --> 00:29:16.800 our bodies and so what he does is he's sent in the glial cells and they're 296 00:29:16.800 --> 00:29:19.680 like vacuum cleaners they come in they go 297 00:29:19.680 --> 00:29:24.240 and they suck up all the stuff that you don't need anymore 298 00:29:24.240 --> 00:29:27.920 and so using that brilliant bit of science 299 00:29:27.920 --> 00:29:31.760 we get to reprogram our minds we get to move mountains 300 00:29:31.760 --> 00:29:38.000 so if we create those new rules that are nuts that make us laugh 301 00:29:38.000 --> 00:29:41.200 like pink panther suits and flying to the moon and like 302 00:29:41.200 --> 00:29:44.240 nuts stuff like that that make us chuckle make us laugh 303 00:29:44.240 --> 00:29:48.800 we're physically changing this their cell structure in our bodies 304 00:29:48.800 --> 00:29:52.080 so we're making ourselves happier healthier 305 00:29:52.080 --> 00:29:56.160 whatever but also while we're in that zone 306 00:29:56.160 --> 00:30:01.920 the glial cells are taking the old emotions away it's brilliant 307 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:09.380 So then lying won't trigger me anymore. How cool is that? No longer will I feel horrible 308 00:30:09.380 --> 00:30:13.880 when people are cold hearted and I want to punch their lights out when they're cold hearted 309 00:30:13.880 --> 00:30:21.640 just quietly. But instead of having that punch the lights out or that real pulling away from 310 00:30:21.640 --> 00:30:27.040 things that have been painful, the glial cells will deal with that. And you know that's what 311 00:30:27.040 --> 00:30:32.480 the Holy Spirit does for us. There's three rooms. I'm just digressing slightly got a 312 00:30:32.480 --> 00:30:36.200 bit of extra training here. There's three rooms that we work. We have a room that we 313 00:30:36.200 --> 00:30:41.600 work with. That's our workroom. We work with God in that room. We have a sitting room where 314 00:30:41.600 --> 00:30:46.200 we hang out with Jesus, probably where you do your quiet stuff, you know, and you're 315 00:30:46.200 --> 00:30:50.120 thinking and you're chatting and you're nutting stuff out and having your coffee or your cup 316 00:30:50.120 --> 00:30:57.000 of tea with them. And then there's the storeroom. Now the Holy Spirit has the key to the storeroom. 317 00:30:57.320 --> 00:31:06.240 And all our gone goodness, our horrible stuff, our pain, our guilt, our shame, our baggage 318 00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:15.880 goes to the storeroom. And the Holy Spirit does the work. And we get to be set free to hang 319 00:31:15.880 --> 00:31:21.680 out with Jesus, chat, yarn, work things out, a little bit like doing home groups. And then we 320 00:31:21.680 --> 00:31:27.680 have God to guide us. Because all our other stuff is locked in the storeroom. Not for you to 321 00:31:27.680 --> 00:31:32.120 deal with, not for you to look at. And one day, the Holy Spirit will open that storeroom, and 322 00:31:32.120 --> 00:31:36.840 they'll be cleared, be cleared of all your baggage. So what we're going to do now, is 323 00:31:36.840 --> 00:31:44.040 you're going to use those new rules to carve your new neural pathway and let God and the 324 00:31:44.040 --> 00:31:48.320 Holy Spirit do the stuff they need to do with your other baggage, because it doesn't belong 325 00:31:48.320 --> 00:31:54.240 to you. It's not yours. It's not yours to carry. So carve your new path, go and have some fun in 326 00:31:54.240 --> 00:31:58.440 panther, pink panther suits or whatever it is that you need to do. Have that fun and move 327 00:31:58.440 --> 00:32:06.040 forward. Right, I'll finish sharing so we can wrap up. So we've got, we've now got top five, 328 00:32:06.040 --> 00:32:12.160 bottom five. Top five are going to make you feel amazing. And like full of confidence. And 329 00:32:12.160 --> 00:32:17.960 getting rid of those bottom five will take away anxiety, stress, worry, out the door, you are 330 00:32:17.960 --> 00:32:23.360 the weakest link, goodbye. And so what we're doing is we're wanting that increased peace 331 00:32:23.360 --> 00:32:28.680 and contentment. And we're wanting to make sure that we've got that increased self confident. 332 00:32:28.680 --> 00:32:34.720 So read those every day, send them to me if you need to, but read them every day, morning 333 00:32:34.720 --> 00:32:39.520 and night for the next 21 days or 63 days, because it's three cycles. Or just keep reading 334 00:32:39.520 --> 00:32:44.040 them and keep reading them and keep putting them in your brain and keep until the other 335 00:32:44.040 --> 00:32:51.480 stuff has no hold. And these are in your subconscious. So your call to adventure, I 336 00:32:51.480 --> 00:32:57.240 would highly recommend that you read. So you the first thing you've got to do is write 337 00:32:57.240 --> 00:33:12.680 my new rules, which actually what you're doing is rewiring or you're rewriting your life. 338 00:33:12.680 --> 00:33:21.160 You're rewriting your new chapter, your new, your future, new chapter. And then you may 339 00:33:21.160 --> 00:33:36.000 want to send them to me, send to Sally to check. And then you need to read them morning 340 00:33:36.000 --> 00:33:53.760 and night until they are automatic. And you are no longer triggered by the old stuff. 341 00:33:53.760 --> 00:33:57.480 Do not look at the old stuff. Do not notice it. Just keep walking in that direction. Keep 342 00:33:57.480 --> 00:34:02.680 going in the direction you've written your rules. Alrighty, so there's some suggestions. 343 00:34:02.680 --> 00:34:10.440 I suggest you do now is how are you feeling? Like I am now super excited. So I'm actually 344 00:34:10.440 --> 00:34:17.639 probably I'm going to give myself a 10 because I am literally on fire to kick the enemy's 345 00:34:17.639 --> 00:34:25.679 backside into touch. So I'm on fire to live my dream. And I'm going to live my dream with 346 00:34:25.679 --> 00:34:32.280 nothing to hold me back. And that was what today was about. So well done. You've got 347 00:34:32.280 --> 00:34:37.080 here next week, we're going to look at a couple of exciting things. We're going to look at 348 00:34:37.080 --> 00:34:43.800 the elite system from chapter six, seven. And we're also going to look at your value, 349 00:34:43.800 --> 00:34:49.719 your true value, why you were here for such a time as this, and your why. So two biggies 350 00:34:49.719 --> 00:34:58.120 next week, your why and late how to really move things forward for you. So beautiful, 351 00:34:58.120 --> 00:35:00.120 beautiful people have an amazing 352 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.160 in God Blessed Week. I would love to hear how you're getting on. Now, my people, the 353 00:35:05.160 --> 00:35:09.960 guys that are part of mentorship, I get to see you Monday anyway and it's lovely to hear 354 00:35:09.960 --> 00:35:14.840 your revelations and what has happened. It's so much fun. And for those of you who are 355 00:35:14.840 --> 00:35:19.000 doing the DIY, you know I actually do, I'm going to be in church on Sunday, haven't been 356 00:35:19.000 --> 00:35:23.720 for a while because we've been away and we're away again next week, but it'll be lovely 357 00:35:23.720 --> 00:35:27.560 to hear, for those of you who are part of our church, it'll be lovely to hear how you're 358 00:35:27.560 --> 00:35:32.360 getting on with the DIY course. And for those of you who are outside of that circle but 359 00:35:32.360 --> 00:35:37.600 have signed up to do this, I would genuinely love to hear how you're getting on. Because 360 00:35:37.600 --> 00:35:41.000 if there's something I can do differently, there's something I can do better, if there's 361 00:35:41.000 --> 00:35:46.160 something you want more of or somewhere where you've got stuck, please don't let that be 362 00:35:46.160 --> 00:35:52.480 something that stops you moving forward. This stuff transforms lives and I want you to live 363 00:35:52.480 --> 00:35:57.540 the best life possible. So I'm making myself available because this is a small group currently 364 00:35:57.540 --> 00:36:02.740 so please let me know how you're getting on and I look forward to hearing from you. 365 00:36:02.740 --> 00:36:05.100 Have an amazing, God blessed week. God bless.