WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:12.620 Introduction. Start with the end in mind. The end of the matter is better than its beginning, 2 00:00:12.620 --> 00:00:21.100 and patience is better than pride. Ecclesiastes 7, verses 8 to 9 in IV. 3 00:00:21.100 --> 00:00:28.140 Welcome beautiful people to an inspiring perspective, where the great exchange enables you to win 4 00:00:28.140 --> 00:00:33.920 in the game of your life. Everything we do in our lives is for a purpose, whether it's 5 00:00:33.920 --> 00:00:39.360 going to the supermarket to get food, or walking the dog for exercise and companionship. I 6 00:00:39.360 --> 00:00:46.800 believe many of us function from fear rather than love. Fear of our own capacity to be 7 00:00:46.800 --> 00:00:54.840 amazing. We often put ourselves down due to lack of faith, self-belief or self-confidence, 8 00:00:54.840 --> 00:01:02.420 therefore being less than who we're actually uniquely designed to be. So many of us are 9 00:01:02.420 --> 00:01:08.420 trapped in the fear of getting it wrong, or what others might think or say, or of making 10 00:01:08.420 --> 00:01:15.420 a fool of ourselves. I was always trying to prove my worth or value, wanting to be liked, 11 00:01:15.420 --> 00:01:25.520 to fit in, looking for a sense of belonging, to be seen and heard, unknowingly desperate. 12 00:01:25.520 --> 00:01:31.080 This way of seeing the world led me to failing in my career, failing in my personal life, 13 00:01:31.080 --> 00:01:37.480 failing my children, and my one commitment before God, for richer, for poorer, for sickness 14 00:01:37.480 --> 00:01:45.540 and in health. I failed my marriage. My marriage monumentally stuffed up. Everything I had 15 00:01:45.540 --> 00:01:54.660 tried to do had failed. And then my world started to shift and change, moment by moment, 16 00:01:54.660 --> 00:02:01.340 day by day, week by week, month by month, quarter by quarter, and year by year. I was 17 00:02:01.340 --> 00:02:07.820 earning 18,000 a year, renting the tiniest, cheapest property in the area, and claiming 18 00:02:07.820 --> 00:02:14.000 what government support I could to make ends meet. I sit here today with three properties, 19 00:02:14.000 --> 00:02:21.480 95% mortgage-free, living my dream, running an international life alignment business, 20 00:02:21.480 --> 00:02:27.080 and that brings clarity and purpose to those I work with. Our three adult children are 21 00:02:27.080 --> 00:02:34.460 all carving out their own amazing lives, having fun and living out their dreams. I 22 00:02:34.460 --> 00:02:44.340 am living my life by design, not by default, and it is so much fun. Every day is an adventure 23 00:02:44.340 --> 00:02:51.580 filled with love, peace, joy, prosperity and abundance. I am like a child in a sweet shop 24 00:02:51.580 --> 00:02:58.540 every morning, wondering what new flavour the day holds for me. I have never been as 25 00:02:58.540 --> 00:03:05.880 happy and content as I am now, and my heart's desire is to pass this on to you. I have been 26 00:03:05.880 --> 00:03:14.300 blessed to be a blessing. I believe we are spiritual beings in a physical body. We are 27 00:03:14.300 --> 00:03:19.940 all uniquely designed to be brilliant, to work together collaboratively, bringing the 28 00:03:19.940 --> 00:03:27.140 best of ourselves to the table each day. To get it right, not to be right. It is my 29 00:03:27.140 --> 00:03:35.300 intention to pour out to you this honesty, truth and authenticity. Don't get me wrong, 30 00:03:35.300 --> 00:03:45.220 life isn't easy and it isn't fair. However, life can be exciting, simple and straightforward. 31 00:03:45.220 --> 00:03:51.400 There is an order to life and principles that fundamentally underpin success. There 32 00:03:51.400 --> 00:03:59.860 is massive value in lived experience. You can't give what you don't have. Real authority 33 00:03:59.860 --> 00:04:04.940 comes when you have lived through something and are standing on the other side of the 34 00:04:04.940 --> 00:04:12.380 breakthrough with a healed heart. You then have the wisdom and insight to pay it forward 35 00:04:12.500 --> 00:04:19.540 to others. There are key requirements to a fulfilling life as a human being, as so beautifully 36 00:04:19.540 --> 00:04:28.420 illustrated in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Maslow was one of the top ten most cited psychologists 37 00:04:28.420 --> 00:04:36.420 of the 20th century. He discovered an order that brings life and life in its fullness. 38 00:04:36.460 --> 00:04:42.940 It starts with our physical needs like water, shelter, moving into safety, to love, belonging 39 00:04:42.940 --> 00:04:49.560 and self-esteem and then to the pinnacle of self-actualisation, being who you are truly 40 00:04:49.560 --> 00:04:56.420 called to be. This book will reveal much of my journey of discovery and adventure, working 41 00:04:56.420 --> 00:05:00.020 my way through these layers with key examples and milestones. 42 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:06.560 and inviting you to do the same. We live forward but measure our lives 43 00:05:06.560 --> 00:05:11.960 backwards. It therefore makes sense for me to take you back from where I am now 44 00:05:11.960 --> 00:05:18.520 to where it all began. I encourage you to look back with me through the lens of 45 00:05:18.520 --> 00:05:27.120 grace, favor, compassion and empathy as I pass on a new and inspiring perspective. 46 00:05:27.120 --> 00:05:34.160 The feelings of loneliness, sadness, rejection and hopelessness I experienced 47 00:05:34.160 --> 00:05:41.600 in my past have all gone. Somewhere deep in my heart I always had a sense that 48 00:05:41.600 --> 00:05:47.800 whatever happened I'd be okay. There has always been something deep inside of me, 49 00:05:47.800 --> 00:05:55.240 a tug from my conscience, a knowing from my spirit that has centered me. I have 50 00:05:55.240 --> 00:06:00.480 come through deep grief, a loss of identity, a failed marriage and being 51 00:06:00.480 --> 00:06:06.960 asked to leave my job. Life has not been a box of fluffies. I have fallen over 52 00:06:06.960 --> 00:06:13.480 more times than I care to remember. However that's not what counts. The thing 53 00:06:13.480 --> 00:06:19.120 is never the thing and the key is how many times I have got back up, dusted 54 00:06:19.120 --> 00:06:27.560 myself off and had the courage to keep going. How to read this book? Preparing 55 00:06:27.560 --> 00:06:34.920 for a life fulfilled, not a life filled full. In each chapter I'm going to expose 56 00:06:34.920 --> 00:06:40.800 the lies and replace them with the truth, using my life story as a demonstration 57 00:06:40.800 --> 00:06:48.280 from both perspectives. I give you my best insights, wisdom and discernment so 58 00:06:48.280 --> 00:06:54.840 that you too can be free from unhelpful thinking, being and actions and to make 59 00:06:54.840 --> 00:07:00.840 the rest of your life the best of your life. One full of love, insight, freedom 60 00:07:00.840 --> 00:07:09.120 and engagement, where you thrive in your life and relationships and your work. 61 00:07:09.120 --> 00:07:16.840 Love. I will be opening up my heart and mind to you, using my life story to 62 00:07:16.840 --> 00:07:24.040 illustrate the great exchange from fear to love. Love is a fundamental need in 63 00:07:24.040 --> 00:07:31.760 all of us. Through love we get rid of any lies we may be believing. There is no 64 00:07:31.760 --> 00:07:42.520 fear in love but perfect love casts out fear. John 4 18 ESV. Fear causes our love 65 00:07:42.520 --> 00:07:48.160 bucket to have holes and leak. When we replace it with love the holes get 66 00:07:48.160 --> 00:07:56.800 filled so our bucket overflows. Insight. Wisdom and insight are the keys to the 67 00:07:56.800 --> 00:08:02.600 gold and the treasure trove within. The reflection and reframing which bring 68 00:08:02.600 --> 00:08:08.920 insight and wisdom thread through every chapter of this book. Insight unlocks the 69 00:08:08.920 --> 00:08:15.120 mysteries around poor health and helps you reign victorious in mind, body, soul 70 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:24.040 and spirit. In the words of Dr. Caroline Leaf, 75 to 98 percent of mental and 71 00:08:24.040 --> 00:08:33.559 physical illness comes from one's thought life. Freedom. Freedom is a true 72 00:08:34.039 --> 00:08:40.120 gift from God that allows you to fulfill your destiny. My heart is that this book 73 00:08:40.120 --> 00:08:46.120 will give you permission to be free, to be real, authentic, unstoppable, limitless, 74 00:08:46.120 --> 00:08:52.480 amazing, incredible you. The dear reader sections in this chapter invite you to 75 00:08:52.480 --> 00:09:01.560 step into your freedom and love and truth. Engagement. Engagement is all about 76 00:09:01.560 --> 00:09:09.240 relationship. It is about our depth of character and connection. I passionately 77 00:09:09.240 --> 00:09:13.840 believe that we are better together and when our relationships are in alignment 78 00:09:13.840 --> 00:09:20.240 and in the right order everything flows from there. The call to adventure in each 79 00:09:20.240 --> 00:09:26.040 chapter encourages you to take action to engage with a fulfilling and rewarding 80 00:09:26.040 --> 00:09:33.120 life now and in the future. When we change the way we were and we see the 81 00:09:33.120 --> 00:09:40.360 world, the world that we see changes. My heart is to share with you the before 82 00:09:40.360 --> 00:09:47.120 and after perspective, to open up a whole new world for you, one of love, peace, joy, 83 00:09:47.120 --> 00:09:53.520 patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, self-control and goodness. I have spent 84 00:09:53.520 --> 00:09:58.320 most of my life feeling the opposite of these, like I was out in the wilderness 85 00:09:58.320 --> 00:10:01.880 with no one to help me. 86 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:08.800 help, no one to look out for me, support or be there for me. I felt alone and empty, useless, 87 00:10:08.800 --> 00:10:17.680 unloved and worthless. Although my world view is that God is real and redemptive, this book 88 00:10:17.680 --> 00:10:25.440 is not about religion. I have had my heart broken at how man has twisted the love of 89 00:10:25.440 --> 00:10:32.880 Christ and made it into some performance driven, hierarchical, legalistic ritual where fear and 90 00:10:32.880 --> 00:10:40.880 poverty spirit are rife. This is not good news and throughout the centuries man has done some 91 00:10:40.880 --> 00:10:49.600 horrendous acts in the name of God. I encourage you to consider churches as a restaurant. We all 92 00:10:49.600 --> 00:10:55.760 have our favourites and they all feed us. Just like any restaurant, we can choose the healthy 93 00:10:55.760 --> 00:11:02.400 options or not. And while people visit the restaurant and eat there, it doesn't make them a 94 00:11:02.400 --> 00:11:09.200 chef. Just because people go and visit a church and eat there, doesn't make them a healthy man or 95 00:11:09.200 --> 00:11:16.400 woman of God. I believe true Christians are measured by the fruit they produce, from the 96 00:11:16.400 --> 00:11:21.040 healing and revelation they bring to others through their personal relationship with him. 97 00:11:22.240 --> 00:11:34.160 The be-do-have versus have-to-be is clear here. Those who be with God first, then do or take 98 00:11:34.160 --> 00:11:41.280 action from this place and then they have more than they could ever ask or think of. 99 00:11:42.240 --> 00:11:48.880 I'm overseeing people working hard to earn their status or credits from the opposite end of the 100 00:11:48.880 --> 00:11:56.640 spectrum, being trapped in the poverty or performance culture. They say, when I have X, 101 00:11:57.520 --> 00:12:07.680 I'll do Y and be happy, content, fulfilled, etc. The sad thing is it never ends and they never get there. 102 00:12:08.240 --> 00:12:13.840 Sticking to the rules and earning your stripes to be at the top of the food chain in the system of 103 00:12:13.840 --> 00:12:21.200 the church structures is not going to get you there. And unsurprisingly, Maniseh Church is boring, 104 00:12:21.200 --> 00:12:29.600 dull, dictating and unforgiving, the complete opposite to my experience. I have never had so 105 00:12:30.080 --> 00:12:36.560 much fun, been so happy or so fulfilled in my life as I am now. Giving my life to Jesus on New 106 00:12:36.560 --> 00:12:42.400 Year's Eve, six years ago, was the quietest, most significant action I have ever taken. 107 00:12:43.840 --> 00:12:49.920 There were no bells and whistles, no fireworks, just deep conviction in my heart that there was 108 00:12:49.920 --> 00:12:58.560 a missing piece in my life and Jesus was that missing piece. The God I know is the one who 109 00:12:58.880 --> 00:13:06.560 the God I know is kind and compassionate, loves in all circumstances and gives me everything I 110 00:13:06.560 --> 00:13:13.600 need to live a beautiful, fulfilling and wonderful life. Gone are the days when the only way to hear 111 00:13:13.600 --> 00:13:20.160 God was to go and hang out in a cold building with a priest reading from the Bible. We all 112 00:13:20.160 --> 00:13:30.160 have free access both to God and to his book. Brilliant! The book is not about being self-righteous, 113 00:13:30.160 --> 00:13:36.400 entitled, obnoxious or telling you how to live your life. I have quite frankly had enough of 114 00:13:36.400 --> 00:13:41.600 that to last a lifetime and I have given some of that advice out myself too in the past. 115 00:13:42.480 --> 00:13:49.840 It is about being real and raw and having those experiences. How my upside down world has been 116 00:13:49.840 --> 00:13:56.640 turned the right way up. How I went from being a nobody who was perceived as a complete failure 117 00:13:57.680 --> 00:14:03.200 to being someone of authority, highly valued and favoured, winning in the game of her life. 118 00:14:04.240 --> 00:14:09.280 I didn't get here by following the rules or by doing what someone else told me to. 119 00:14:11.600 --> 00:14:19.680 The book is deep to deep, heart to heart and spirit to spirit. So if you want a quick fix, 120 00:14:20.240 --> 00:14:24.880 some shortcut on how to become a millionaire or a magic pill to make everything better, 121 00:14:24.880 --> 00:14:32.400 please pass this book on. It is not for you. This book will give you practical tools and proven 122 00:14:32.400 --> 00:14:40.720 life-giving tips on how to live your best life every moment of every day. I will share my heart 123 00:14:40.720 --> 00:14:47.280 and mind with you. I will be an open book, giving you my best understanding at this stage in my 124 00:14:47.280 --> 00:14:54.000 life. I will bring together scripture, science and personal experience to bring you clear purpose 125 00:14:54.000 --> 00:15:00.000 and understanding. We are not meant to do life alone. We are related. 126 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.720 beings who are meant to have fun and go on this incredible journey of discovery 127 00:15:05.720 --> 00:15:11.040 we call life together. I invite you to go on a journey of adventure and discovery 128 00:15:11.040 --> 00:15:19.520 with me to grow into the person you were meant to be. I pray as you read your eyes 129 00:15:19.520 --> 00:15:25.120 and ears will be opened to your own brilliance that you will find your 130 00:15:25.120 --> 00:15:31.560 runway, clear the debris, confirm your next desired destination and acquire the 131 00:15:31.560 --> 00:15:38.240 flight path. Are you ready to take off to go to new heights and levels you never 132 00:15:38.240 --> 00:15:45.160 thought were possible? To see things from a new and uplifting perspective? 133 00:15:45.160 --> 00:15:51.360 Welcome aboard the V2DCM flight on how to live in heaven on earth and enjoy 134 00:15:51.360 --> 00:15:57.720 every moment of every day regardless of the circumstances or situation. V2 is 135 00:15:57.720 --> 00:16:05.560 the takeoff safety speed and DCM is the flight tracking system. Victor Frankel 136 00:16:05.560 --> 00:16:12.280 shared this in his book Man's Search for Meaning. The search for life's meaning as 137 00:16:12.280 --> 00:16:19.520 a central human motivational force. My hope is that this book opens your heart 138 00:16:19.520 --> 00:16:26.560 to your true meaning for being here. I believe Jesus came to bring life and 139 00:16:26.560 --> 00:16:33.000 life in all its fullness. I encourage you to park the head knowledge about God 140 00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:40.800 and open up the thoughts to heart knowledge. To a dad who wants the best 141 00:16:40.800 --> 00:16:48.280 for you and has the best gifts to give you, God. A brother who wants to hang with 142 00:16:48.280 --> 00:16:55.360 you, hear you and share his best wisdom with you, Jesus. And a mum who knows 143 00:16:55.360 --> 00:17:01.120 everything about you, who loves you unconditionally and has the best wisdom 144 00:17:01.120 --> 00:17:05.680 and insight on the planet in all situations and circumstances, that's the 145 00:17:05.680 --> 00:17:11.480 Holy Spirit. This is how I see the Trinity. They are not some characters in 146 00:17:11.480 --> 00:17:14.800 a dead book full of rules and regulations trying to make you feel less 147 00:17:14.800 --> 00:17:20.640 than or not good enough. That belongs to man-made religion. They are alive and 148 00:17:20.640 --> 00:17:31.040 well and have written this book with me. Enjoy. Life. Welcome to a whole new world 149 00:17:31.040 --> 00:17:37.920 of love, peace, joy, connection, celebration, exceptional growth and 150 00:17:37.920 --> 00:17:43.520 transformation. As we walk together on my journey of discovery and adventure we 151 00:17:43.520 --> 00:17:50.480 will be sharing facts about my life. We will then pause and I will share 152 00:17:50.480 --> 00:17:56.000 commentary with you, giving you the seeds that were planted so long ago and have 153 00:17:56.000 --> 00:18:02.040 now germinated and grown me into being who I am today. I pray that this will 154 00:18:02.040 --> 00:18:07.720 open the doors to your heart and eyes for you to see life through an inspiring 155 00:18:07.840 --> 00:18:13.720 perspective so you too can live your dreams every day free of doubt, worry, 156 00:18:13.720 --> 00:18:20.680 anxiety or stress. May this book be the promise of hope and a future for you 157 00:18:20.680 --> 00:18:26.200 that I would have loved to have had. Are you ready to go on a wonderful journey 158 00:18:26.200 --> 00:18:31.480 of discovery and adventure? Are you ready to release what is not of you and to 159 00:18:31.480 --> 00:18:37.000 bring on more of the true, awesome, talented, beautiful, amazing, unstoppable, 160 00:18:37.000 --> 00:18:49.160 lovable, victorious you? Out with the old and in with the new. Let's go.