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All right, friends, let's get started.

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Welcome to Supernatural Saturday.

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The summer is in full swing, friends, and there's all kinds of different things happening

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here at Jane Media.

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If you did not know, that's the name of my company, and we have all kinds of fun things

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planned for the summer and early fall.

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We just finished up our dates and calendars for the retreats and the singles events that

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will be coming up here over the next couple of months, August, September, October, November,

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and we will be allowing that calendar to be live and visible on JackieDorman.com here

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within the next couple of days.

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All right, so you'll be able to go there, you'll be able to look and see, hey, where's

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Jackie?

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Kind of like, where's Waldo?

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Where's she going to be?

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Where can I come and see her?

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One of the exciting events that you're going to see all throughout the calendar on the

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next few months are book parties.

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Modern Dating Sucks is ready to go into pre-sale, soft launch.

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You will not be able to buy that book unless you buy it from me or you buy it at one of

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these book parties.

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So we will be having book parties in Austin, in Dallas, in Nashville, in Florida, we haven't

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fully decided where, in the New York, New Jersey area, and out in California.

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If you want us to bring the book party, to bring the party to your city, to your state,

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to your church, then we want you to let us know and help us to make a way to do that,

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and we would be happy to do that as well.

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So Modern Dating Sucks is going to be a really awesome manifesto of what is out there, what

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is happening.

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Remember, the Ancient of Days, he has ancient ways, and that's what that book is all about.

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How can we shift back into the ancient ways of God in our love lives, and how can we get

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success in this area that God has hardwired us to want to have success in?

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And so that will be there on the calendar.

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There will also be a few retreats.

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There's an Austin retreat, there's the five year anniversary party in Austin for last

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year's single.

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We've been around for five years.

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We did go through a name change, as you know, married in 12 months or less, shifted a couple

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years ago to last year's single.

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So we'll be celebrating this movement in its five year, the number of grace anniversary.

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I really believe that after we celebrate this five years, I mean, obviously we get engagement

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announcements every week.

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We have all kinds of success here, but I really believe that there's going to be a special

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grace and momentum on us as we come together to celebrate being obedient to God's word,

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giving him our yes for five years.

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Yes, there's been a lot of high mountain top moments.

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Every time we get an engagement picture from one of you, every time we get to coach you

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into keeping it a yes and not allowing it to be a no, because it's an amazing relationship.

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I've been doing that.

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I've been doing some private coaching with some couples that I have been really rooting

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for for a long time that are finally getting down and doing their heart work and realizing

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that, hey, this is a really great relationship.

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I've just had a little bit of attachment style issues.

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It's always rewarding for me.

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Those are my wins.

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But you guys, there's a lot of low moments.

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There's a lot of hard moments.

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There's a lot of warfare, you know, dogs don't chase parked cars.

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So we've been moving for the last five years, creating momentum and the revival of marriage

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and family.

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And so as you can expect, we've had lots of warfare, you know, in our extended family

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with my brother's mental health, with my niece and nephew, with their mental health, also

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with just our physical health, with financial stuff, with all different types of just warfare

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types of things that have happened.

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Also to our team, continue to cover and pray for us that leads you here in this movement.

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Our team, same thing.

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They've all had all kinds of things happen that we can attribute back to warfare, in

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my opinion.

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So that is why we're celebrating five years of yes, because it has not been a smooth paved

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road.

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It's been a little bit of an off road.

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We've definitely had to kick it into four wheel drive many, many times and not give

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up.

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There's been all kinds of intrigue, all kinds of intrigue.

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And so I am very thankful that God gave us the grace to keep going.

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And here we are.

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And I believe this is just the beginning.

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So we'll be having that big party here in Austin in mid-October.

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So if you want to go ahead and mark your calendars, but you'll be able to see that master calendar

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here within the next couple of days.

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They're just putting the finishing touches on it, and it's going to be there and ready

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for you to write those dates down, ask off from your job, get ready to travel if need

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be, and come and lock arms with us at some of these fun events.

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parties. Also, if you follow me on Instagram, you might notice that I launched a summer book club.

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It's going to start next week. It's going to go for four weeks. It's on my bestseller,

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Married in 12 Months or Less. I just realized the other day that I haven't really done anything with

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this book. It has a lot of great content in it. Obviously, it's completely different than the

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heart work that we use here in our program to get that inner healing piece before we move forward

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into dating momentum. Married in 12 Months or Less is basically a manifesto of the divine

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masculine and feminine. I'm going to do a read along with activations and coaching for the next

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four weeks for the people that sign up for that book club. Then I'm going to put that baby to bed

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so that we can get focused on modern dating stocks because that book is full of all kinds of truth

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bombs and freedom for people that are out in these dating streets. Those are just a few

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announcements that I wanted to make on this Supernatural Saturday. If you are in the program,

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you haven't yet made it to our VIP group, which is phase three, last year's single community,

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continue to move towards that. We want to get you over there because we have all kinds of

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great things happening over there. One of those things is the halftime shift.

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Raise your hand if you're part of the halftime shift right now.

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Okay, lots of people in our VIP group. Some of you are just in the program.

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You're still doing your heart work. You're doing your love story accelerator. You have the

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opportunity to upgrade to our subscription, our VIP group. Then some of you are in what we call

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last year's single light. You haven't even entered the program yet. We're hoping that you go ahead

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and make that choice to enter the program because there's lots of success here for you. We'd love to

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see you here. All right, Supernatural Saturday is a time where we look to the Lord. We're asking Him,

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what is the current prophetic reality? God, what do you have for us? We don't want to miss it.

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What do you have for us? We want to be in tune, in an alignment with heaven. What are you saying

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right now? Let's look to the Lord. Father God, we thank you for your goodness and your love.

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We thank you, Lord, that you want us to succeed in life even more than we want to succeed in life.

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You are for us. You are with us. Life is for us. Father, I pray this morning that you would

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allow us to take the blinders off so that we can truly see what we need to see. Any places where

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we might be self-sabotaging, any places where we might be in our own way or even in your way,

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I pray that you would reveal and heal those things in Jesus' name. Amen.

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Now, friends, we live inside culture, so I want to just address, if you haven't seen or heard about

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what I'm about to say, then perhaps you're not on social media or any kind of media. Kudos to you.

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I know people are like, what are you living under a rock? Sometimes I would like to live

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under a rock. Anybody else? Sometimes I'd like to live under a rock because there's things that

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I would love to not know about, and this is kind of one of those things. So the world is making fun

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of a man and woman that were caught red-handed, so to speak, at a Coldplay concert in an affair.

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But they weren't in just any kind of affair, friends. They were in a workplace affair.

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They were in a co-worker tryst. And the reason why I want to address this on

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Supernatural Saturday just for a second is because this is so very common.

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It's much more common. Now, if this guy wasn't a billion-dollar CEO, this would not be big news.

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No one would care if someone was dating their co-worker and got caught on the kiss cam,

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dating their co-worker from In-N-Out or Burger King or

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whatever company down the street. It would have been like, oops, those people were having an

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affair, and then on with our lives. But the reason why it's big news is because these are

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big people. They're a big deal. They're a big deal, right? And so, of course, the internet

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detectives have gone down the rabbit hole looking for these people digging into their lives.

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And now, everywhere you look, companies are using this situation as marketing.

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I saw an ad for an airline this morning that said, hey, do you want to disappear like an

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executive at a Coldplay concert? Book your flight now. I saw another big, oh, StubHub that sells

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concert tickets. That's what the company does. It's a big company that sells a lot.

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of concert tickets to all different types of concerts or events.

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It had an ad that was basically making fun of the scenario as well.

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And everywhere you look, anything that you scroll, anytime you scroll right now, you're

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going to see this situation with this man and this woman.

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So first of all, I just want to say this, that we as believers are not called to judge

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people outside of the family of God.

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Did you know that?

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Did you know that when Paul talks about, you know, judging a tree by its fruit, he's not

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talking about us judging every tree.

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He's talking about the trees that are growing within the kingdom of God.

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He's talking about each other.

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In fact, in 1 Corinthians 5, 12, he says, it's not my business to judge those who are

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not part of the group of believers.

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God will judge them, but you must judge the people that are part of your group.

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And when we do judge, we want to judge righteously.

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And all the scriptures that talk about, you know, judge not lest you be judged and talk

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about, you know, dealing with the plank in your own eye before you try to pick the splinter

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out of your brother's eye, that is talking about your brothers and sisters in Christ.

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It's important that we understand that and know that.

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So if we're not called to judge unbelievers, we're certainly not called to gossip about

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them.

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And so I really want to encourage you.

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I made a reel.

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You know, people obviously wanted to know what's your take on this, Jackie?

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It's adultery.

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It's about marriage.

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It falls in your wheelhouse.

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Are you going to weigh in?

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And so I did.

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I created a reel about it and I posted on my Instagram if you want to go over there

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and check it out.

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And it's basically about how this is a slippery slope.

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It is.

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It's a very slippery slope.

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I remember a long time ago, long time ago in my first marriage, you guys, I was holding

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on for dear life in that marriage.

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I was white knuckling it through every single year in that marriage because it was so unhealthy.

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It was so unsafe.

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Some would call it abusive.

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I don't use that word lightly, but it definitely was verbally and mentally, emotionally and

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spiritually abusive.

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And I was trying my best to not do the unpardonable sin, get divorced.

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I was trying my hardest, you guys.

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I was snotting up the carpet, praying for my marriage, interceding for my marriage.

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I changed my hair.

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I changed the wall color.

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I changed the decorations.

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I cooked better food.

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I did everything and anything I could possibly do.

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I softened my heart.

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I tried to be submissive.

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And y'all know that that was probably a big feat for me, especially as a younger believer.

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I've softened up a lot over the years.

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I didn't know anything about the divine feminine.

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Look at you guys.

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Look.

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You guys get heads and shoulders above the rest because you guys get to start out from

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So exciting, right?

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The ceiling is the floor kind of thing.

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So I did.

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And there was this guy that started coming to our church and he was estranged from his

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wife and he had been raised.

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He was in ministry.

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So he was someone that was well known as a worship leader and a pastor.

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And he kind of came to our church for refuge because he knew our pastor.

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And so he was going there during the separation.

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And people were doing what they did to me.

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They were encouraging to reconcile.

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And he's like, no, I'm not going to reconcile.

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I'm going to get a divorce.

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And he was just pretty matter of fact about it.

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No, you know, I'm going to get a divorce.

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We're going to get divorced.

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You know, we're, we're going to be done with this.

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And I felt so judgy about that.

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Like in my heart, y'all, I was like, Judge Judy, I was like, what do you mean you're

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going to get a divorce?

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It just so offended me that someone else was so flippant about, you know, this pain that

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I was in trying to save this marriage.

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God's going to heal it.

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God's going to fix it.

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It's going to be transformed.

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And I'm not making fun of those things.

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I think for some people that happens, but for me, it wasn't going to happen because

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it takes free will being surrendered to the Lord, not on just one person's part, but both

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people's part.

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Got to have two people in a marriage wanting it to be healed, not just one.

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And this guy was just like, I'm going to get divorced.

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And I felt so judgmental towards him.

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You guys, I did.

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I remember thinking, Oh, well, you know, you're not, you're not really a Christian and just

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all kinds of crazy things.

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I finally felt, I finally.

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finally decided to get my own divorce, which was years after this,

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I remembered how I felt about that guy.

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And I realized that the judgment that I was, that I was, you know,

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hurling towards him,

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that I was pointing towards him was just because I was kind of envious that he

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was getting to do something so easily that, you know,

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that I wasn't able to do myself,

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you know? So I say that to say this, when we judge others,

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there's always something going on in our own hearts.

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Point a finger at one, someone else.

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And there's three fingers pointing back at you. Have you ever heard that?

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Right? There's always something going on in our own hearts.

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So if you feel particularly judgy about a certain behavior that someone else has,

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right? Something that you feel really judgmental about them.

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I want you to look in your own heart and ask yourself,

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why does this bother me so much? First of all, it's not my business, right?

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It's their free will. They're doing this thing,

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but why does it bother me so much?

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Is it because I haven't forgiven someone in my life who did this?

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Something similar to me, deceived me, was dishonest, lied to me.

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This thing with Coldplay,

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with this CEO and his human resource director is triggering so many people

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because so many people have been cheated on.

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That's why there's such an uproar.

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That's why so many people feel so judgmental and so harsh.

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There's a lot of harshness towards these people. I mean,

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people have office affairs all the time.

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And if you go and watch the reel that I made,

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you will see that I talk about how public collapse starts as private integrity

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issues, right?

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There's never a big, huge public scandal that didn't start in private somewhere.

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People were compromising, they were neglecting, they were overlooking.

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And so it's a really good lesson for all of us to learn. So first of all,

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if there's something that you feel particularly judgmental about,

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let's look in our own hearts and find out, Hey,

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is there something that I need to forgive and let go of here so that I can see

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clearly? Is there something that I need to forgive myself for,

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to forgive someone else for?

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Is this triggering a fear that I've always had in my life that I need to

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forgive myself for? Is this triggering a fear that I've always had?

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Some of you are afraid you've never been cheated on,

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but that's your biggest fear.

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Your biggest fear is that you're going to marry someone who is not faithful,

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someone who's going to cheat on you.

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And that fear comes from someone else being cheated on in your life,

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whether it was your mother or father,

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whether it was your best friend or a cousin or whoever it was,

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or it could just be from all the adultery and all the infidelity that you see in

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people.

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And that's the biggest fear is that you're going to marry someone who's not

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faithful. If I find out that the love affair that's happening is happening as an

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adulterous situation.

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I remember I really wanted to watch this series that came on because I love

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music and had a lot of live music in it and it was called Daisy and the Six or

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something like that. I forget what it was called.

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But I really wanted to watch it because I love that era of the seventies music

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and I realized that the two people that the romance was centered around were a

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guy and a girl in his band that he wasn't married to,

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but he was married to somebody else.

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And so the entire love story is going to be an adulterous affair for the entire

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series. And I was like, nah, I can't, can't do that.

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Why can't I do that? It's not me that's having the affair.

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It's not even them that's having the affair because quite frankly,

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it's fiction, right?

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I can't do it because I don't want to romanticize that in my mind and in my

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heart. You know, I don't know why, because I've been part of affairs.

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And so here's where James five 16 comes in.

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Confess your faults and your failures to one another and be healed.

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In my first marriage before I knew Jesus,

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I was married for two years before I met Jesus.

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I was 20 years old from the years 20 to 22.

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I was separated several times from my husband then because I didn't understand

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him. I felt like he was verbally and emotionally abusive.

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There was also a lot of pornography involved and all kinds of crazy stuff.

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And I just didn't want to be married to him,

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but I was still married to him when I met other people,

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tried to have relationships and build relationships with other people during

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those first two years. And then I met Jesus.

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And then I was convinced by the church to get back together with my husband who

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I was still legally married to. So we got back together.

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And the marriage never improved. My relationship with Jesus improved.

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I started being on fire for Jesus as we say,

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and things started to progress for me in my spiritual life.

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But my marriage never improved. In fact, it got worse and worse.

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I didn't see any.

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till years later that I think it was a jealousy

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that was there as well,

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because God was favoring me so much.

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He was opening so many doors for me spiritually

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and in ministry.

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And my former husband had grown up in the church

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and that had not happened for him.

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So it was kind of like a prodigal elder brother

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type of situation happening between us as well.

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I didn't see that then, didn't understand that then,

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but I will tell you that I never physically cheated

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on my husband after I met Jesus ever again.

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But I had a lot of emotional affairs.

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And I wanna address that with all of you,

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because if your emotional needs are not being met

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within a relationship, it's a very slippery slope.

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And oftentimes it's going to happen

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because of someone that is fulfilling your emotional needs

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or at least trying to, that you're not married to,

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that you're in close proximity with.

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Maybe they're a ministry partner, a prayer partner.

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Perhaps they are someone that you work with,

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someone that you're around a lot.

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They could be the parent of another child

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in your child's friend group,

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someone that you see frequently,

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that tells you how nice you look, how nice you smell,

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that tells you how smart you are,

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that just verbally affirms you, how talented you are,

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how funny you are, whatever it is.

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And it can be sincere what they're saying.

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They can really see those traits in you

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and they really admire you.

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But if you're not getting that from your relationship,

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it's going to be like crack cocaine.

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You're gonna be an addict, friends.

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It's gonna be like heroin.

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Because if you're not getting that, everyone needs that.

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Everyone needs to be told that they're good,

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that they're loved.

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And if you're not getting it from a marriage,

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then you're going to need to get it from somewhere else.

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And when I tell you that it is written across your forehead

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in the spirit realm where you cannot see it,

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but the spirits that drive these situations can see it,

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then when I tell you that that's true, it is.

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I cannot tell you, every place that I ever went to work

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in my first marriage, there was always some man

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who wanted to woo me and not even into bed.

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Because once again, I didn't have any sexual connection

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with any of these people, not a handhold,

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not a kiss, nothing.

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But work, wives and husbands, you know how we talk

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about that.

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And by the way, guys, that's not good, right?

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You shouldn't use that vocabulary when you're

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in a relationship with somebody else.

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You shouldn't.

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It's not good and it's a slippery slope.

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But they would tell me how wonderful I was

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and how beautiful I was.

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And it wouldn't start out level 10, 10.

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It would always start out level one.

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Like, hey, let me help you with that.

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Let me be kind to you.

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Let me do you a favor that you didn't ask for.

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Let me show you favor or attention, right?

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And they were always peer-to-peer relationships.

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They were never bosses of mine.

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They were always just coworkers of mine.

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And it started out, you know, very innocuous

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and then it grew and grew.

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Why?

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Because I was starving and now I was sitting

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at a buffet table being asked not to eat, right?

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And so the neglect at home, this is what happens

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when people start working long hours

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and they start being away from their spouse.

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Or in my case, you're already coming from a relationship

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that doesn't have any kind of emotional connection

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where you don't feel loved.

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You don't feel seen.

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You don't feel known.

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And you want that.

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We all want that, right?

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And so it's a dangerous position to be in.

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And like I said, it will be written across your forehead

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that you want that and you need that.

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I mean, why would I get picked every single place that I go?

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Why would it be me?

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Because I can tell you this.

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I have been married to David now for 18 years.

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You know what has never happened to me

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in my marriage to David?

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This.

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I've never had a coworker come and try to show,

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you know, even though I run my own company now

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for years and years of our marriage, I worked places.

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I worked places with handsome men, single men.

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Am I any less attractive than I was then?

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No.

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Am I any less charming and funny than I was

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when I was married to my first husband?

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No.

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There wasn't a hunger for that.

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There wasn't a desire for that.

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My emotional needs were being fulfilled

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by a healthy marriage that we were intentionally

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keeping track of, intentionally connecting in.

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And so that spiritual intrigue,

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that stuff that's happening in the spirit realm

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and the unseen, I know that you just think

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that you're funny and cute and.

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That's why all the people like you,

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but it's more spiritual than you think it is.

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It has not even happened one time in 18 years. And you guys, I coach men.

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I coach men, men come,

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I do one-on-one coaching with men in specific situations.

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I have a men's group. So it's not just simply, you know,

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cause I know that the church is like, Oh, well, men and women, you know,

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make sure that you're not alone together and make sure no friends.

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That's not where the integrity fails.

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The integrity fails when your heart is not satisfied with your current

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relationship. When it's being neglected,

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when it's not being nurtured, neglect can be very subtle too.

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So David and I, as you guys know, cause I said this on a different call,

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we are meant to be in Portugal right now. We are meant to be in Europe,

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but we had to travel a lot at the beginning of this year for conferences and

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different things that I was involved in.

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And it wasn't because we were too tired to travel.

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It was because we realized that we've been on the go so much for this first half

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of the year that we haven't really had a lot of intentional time together.

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Do you know that you can have quantity of time with your significant other

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someday, but not quality time,

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where you're really just focused on the relationship?

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Does this mean our marriage is struggling? No, it means our marriage is sacred.

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And so I just wanted to release that over you. I know most of you are single.

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A lot of you are not even in a relationship yet,

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but an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

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It's super important for you to understand that this relationship that you're

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asking God for is going to be the most important relationship of your life

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outside of your relationship with him.

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And you're going to need to invest in it.

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You're going to need to pay attention to it.

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You cannot just put it on autopilot.

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I'm not going to judge the CEO and his human resource director,

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because I know that we all live in glass houses.

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We all live in glass houses.

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So it's important for us to understand that as we go forward.

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And so friends, and also just a little tiny blurb about gossip.

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Let's be careful with that. I know it's funny, you know,

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the memes that are out, but sharing them, you know, basically, you know,

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having a laugh at someone else's expense, that's not kingdom.

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And I even fell for it because I wasn't thinking that way.

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And so I had yellow nail polish on my head,

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and so I had yellow nail polish.

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And so I posted a little picture of my yellow nails with the song yellow by

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cold play. It's like, well, Jackie, probably not a good idea.

473
00:27:58.440 --> 00:28:00.760
Let's not do that. And then I shifted,

474
00:28:01.360 --> 00:28:05.600
I shifted my narrative about this to something more redeeming. Guys,

475
00:28:05.600 --> 00:28:07.760
we are the family of God.

476
00:28:08.720 --> 00:28:11.080
We hold each other accountable in this family.

477
00:28:11.080 --> 00:28:14.720
We do not hold unbelievers accountable to the truth that we know.

478
00:28:14.920 --> 00:28:17.360
We hold each other accountable to the truth that we know.

479
00:28:17.600 --> 00:28:21.680
And when your brother falls, you help correct him, right?

480
00:28:22.520 --> 00:28:25.720
The Bible says, if you're holy, you help and then be,

481
00:28:25.800 --> 00:28:28.640
and be careful lest you fall too, right?

482
00:28:28.920 --> 00:28:31.520
That's what we're doing in the family, but guess what?

483
00:28:31.640 --> 00:28:34.240
Guess who's watching the family, everybody else.

484
00:28:34.680 --> 00:28:38.000
And so we have to have the right posture, heart posture.

485
00:28:38.200 --> 00:28:39.640
We have to have the right narratives.

486
00:28:39.640 --> 00:28:43.920
We have to have the right response to things that happen out in the unbeliever

487
00:28:44.080 --> 00:28:48.720
community. We really have to, it's very important.

488
00:28:51.880 --> 00:28:54.160
And let's do our heart work so that when we get married,

489
00:28:54.160 --> 00:28:58.160
we don't have needy written across our forehead in the spirit realm that

490
00:28:58.160 --> 00:29:02.680
attracts all kinds of attention from people who really

491
00:29:03.160 --> 00:29:07.080
do not respect your marriage vows.

492
00:29:08.760 --> 00:29:12.400
I know you think they're being nice and they're being so kind to you and they

493
00:29:12.400 --> 00:29:14.880
can't help it that they find you attractive. No,

494
00:29:16.480 --> 00:29:18.960
they're disrespecting the vows that you have made.

495
00:29:22.320 --> 00:29:24.600
All right. So that was just a little blurb.

496
00:29:24.600 --> 00:29:27.200
I'm going to go ahead and go into what I really want to talk about today,

497
00:29:27.200 --> 00:29:29.320
but I really wanted to address that.

498
00:29:30.760 --> 00:29:32.680
Pop culture right now, it's happening.

499
00:29:32.720 --> 00:29:35.720
And the reason why it affects us is because we need to have the right response

500
00:29:35.720 --> 00:29:40.080
to it. It's important for us to have the right response. All right.

501
00:29:40.080 --> 00:29:44.120
So we're going to talk about some things that we're learning in our halftime

502
00:29:44.160 --> 00:29:47.040
shift. For those of you that didn't go to that

503
00:29:48.360 --> 00:29:53.000
live on Thursday, please watch the replay so that you can make the framework.

504
00:29:53.560 --> 00:29:53.720
Okay.

505
00:29:53.720 --> 00:29:58.160
There's eight different steps to make the framework that I want you to make in

506
00:29:58.160 --> 00:30:00.000
order to end this year well.

507
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.720
For those of you that are still in phase two,

508
00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:07.640
you can definitely, if you are just in the program,

509
00:30:07.640 --> 00:30:13.160
so you just bought the program and so you're not part of the VIP community,

510
00:30:13.160 --> 00:30:15.840
you will need to upgrade into subscription.

511
00:30:15.840 --> 00:30:18.960
For those of you whose program includes subscription,

512
00:30:18.960 --> 00:30:24.960
you can go ahead and get a hold of that and move along forward with us.

513
00:30:24.960 --> 00:30:27.400
For those of you that are in last year single lights,

514
00:30:27.440 --> 00:30:31.880
you're going to need to upgrade to the program itself in order to be able to

515
00:30:31.880 --> 00:30:34.920
move forward into the VIP community. All right.

516
00:30:34.920 --> 00:30:37.920
So for those of us that are doing the halftime reset, and of course,

517
00:30:37.920 --> 00:30:42.480
this is good for all of you. Okay. Even if you're not, you know,

518
00:30:42.480 --> 00:30:46.680
having access to that teaching because affirmations are something that all of

519
00:30:46.700 --> 00:30:50.920
you should be doing. It's really important that we do affirmations,

520
00:30:50.940 --> 00:30:55.940
but this is part of our supernatural shift affirmations to bring us back into

521
00:30:56.820 --> 00:30:58.940
supernatural alignment. Now, friends,

522
00:30:58.940 --> 00:31:02.900
I want you to put together affirmations that you can speak daily.

523
00:31:03.980 --> 00:31:06.300
It's important to do it in the morning, in my opinion,

524
00:31:06.300 --> 00:31:08.540
because that is when you're going to go out into the world.

525
00:31:08.540 --> 00:31:12.260
And that's when you are going to be challenged the most in what you think about

526
00:31:12.260 --> 00:31:15.780
yourself. Okay. When your feelings don't match,

527
00:31:16.020 --> 00:31:19.340
that's the most important time to speak the affirmations,

528
00:31:19.340 --> 00:31:22.180
because I know a lot of people are waiting for their feelings to come into

529
00:31:22.180 --> 00:31:25.020
alignment with their faith. And that's really not a real thing.

530
00:31:26.780 --> 00:31:27.620
It's not.

531
00:31:29.340 --> 00:31:33.180
And remember the Bible tells us that faith actually increases by hearing,

532
00:31:33.180 --> 00:31:35.900
hearing what? Hearing the words of God.

533
00:31:36.060 --> 00:31:38.660
And that doesn't just mean you quoting scripture over yourself.

534
00:31:38.660 --> 00:31:43.660
Although I do recommend that is also quoting the Ramos of God.

535
00:31:44.500 --> 00:31:47.100
What is he speaking over you? What has he said about you?

536
00:31:47.100 --> 00:31:51.100
What has he said you could do? We want to speak that not just the Logos,

537
00:31:51.100 --> 00:31:53.580
not just the written word, but the spoken word of God.

538
00:31:56.700 --> 00:32:00.660
The Ramah, the Ramah of God.

539
00:32:03.980 --> 00:32:06.780
So when you hear yourself speaking,

540
00:32:06.780 --> 00:32:10.900
what God is speaking about you, that actually increases your faith.

541
00:32:12.500 --> 00:32:14.860
So I want to go over some affirmations that I have written down.

542
00:32:14.860 --> 00:32:17.900
Do you guys want to do that? All right.

543
00:32:17.900 --> 00:32:20.580
And I'm going to let you guys put some that you've been working on up in the

544
00:32:20.580 --> 00:32:23.260
chat as well. So let's do some of these.

545
00:32:24.260 --> 00:32:25.660
Actually first before that,

546
00:32:25.660 --> 00:32:30.660
what I think I'm going to do is talk a little bit about how important it is to

547
00:32:30.900 --> 00:32:34.140
speak it, to not just think it, to speak it.

548
00:32:34.140 --> 00:32:37.340
The power of your words are so it's,

549
00:32:37.340 --> 00:32:40.140
it's such a life changing thing when you finally get ahold of it.

550
00:32:40.660 --> 00:32:44.660
Let's look at Proverbs 18 21 death and life are in the power of the tongue and

551
00:32:44.660 --> 00:32:47.580
those who love it will eat its fruit. Those that love what?

552
00:32:47.780 --> 00:32:51.260
Those that love to talk. Do you love to talk?

553
00:32:51.580 --> 00:32:55.020
Raise your hand if you love to talk. We already know who I am.

554
00:32:55.020 --> 00:32:57.620
The queen of detention for talking in class. Me, me, me.

555
00:32:59.620 --> 00:33:03.780
Love to talk. You're a verbal, you're a verbal processor.

556
00:33:03.780 --> 00:33:05.700
You're an external processor.

557
00:33:12.540 --> 00:33:13.780
Come on. Love to talk.

558
00:33:15.220 --> 00:33:16.740
Doesn't mean you love to talk to everybody,

559
00:33:16.740 --> 00:33:21.140
but you have some solid friendships, relationships where you just like to chat.

560
00:33:21.140 --> 00:33:23.540
You can just chat for hours about different things.

561
00:33:24.020 --> 00:33:26.820
Love to call up your sister, your mother,

562
00:33:27.060 --> 00:33:30.180
your best friend and just shoot the breeze.

563
00:33:33.460 --> 00:33:37.900
You're verbal. I noticed that none of the men are raising their hands.

564
00:33:37.900 --> 00:33:38.900
I'm confused.

565
00:33:41.940 --> 00:33:44.820
Kenton, you love to talk. Oh, there his hands up. All right.

566
00:33:45.540 --> 00:33:49.020
I was going to call him out if he didn't have his hand up because I've been on

567
00:33:49.020 --> 00:33:51.020
the phone with him and he's a talker too.

568
00:33:52.140 --> 00:33:55.900
Him and I were talking our little heads off. All right.

569
00:33:59.900 --> 00:34:02.860
All right. So what's it saying? It's saying the more you talk,

570
00:34:04.780 --> 00:34:06.140
the more fruit you're going to have.

571
00:34:07.380 --> 00:34:10.820
So for all of you that are internal processors, you're more introverted,

572
00:34:10.820 --> 00:34:14.420
you're more quiet. You don't talk until you have something to say. That's good.

573
00:34:14.940 --> 00:34:17.739
You're going to weigh your, your, your words more carefully.

574
00:34:17.860 --> 00:34:20.219
Just because you don't talk as much doesn't mean,

575
00:34:20.420 --> 00:34:24.860
doesn't mean you do weigh your words more carefully, but I'm asking you,

576
00:34:25.100 --> 00:34:27.780
you should, we all should,

577
00:34:28.659 --> 00:34:31.340
we should be careful about what's coming out of that pie hole in the middle of

578
00:34:31.340 --> 00:34:35.739
our face because the Bible says that death and life are in its power.

579
00:34:38.780 --> 00:34:41.020
And the more we talk, the more fruit we're going to have.

580
00:34:41.139 --> 00:34:45.940
Luke 6, 4, 5, Luke 6, verse 45 says,

581
00:34:45.940 --> 00:34:49.139
out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.

582
00:34:49.739 --> 00:34:53.100
And all of these scriptures are in my book, the heart work.

583
00:34:54.739 --> 00:34:56.739
So I want to talk about the heart work.

584
00:34:57.740 --> 00:35:00.340
So the heart work is the work of the mouth.

585
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.160
But look at that for a second, that's important

586
00:35:01.340 --> 00:35:03.340
So the heart work is the work of the mouth.

587
00:35:02.160 --> 00:35:04.040
because it's saying that our words

588
00:35:04.040 --> 00:35:05.720
don't just come out of nowhere.

589
00:35:04.340 --> 00:35:06.340
And the heart work is the work of the mouth.

590
00:35:06.960 --> 00:35:08.800
They don't just come out of thin air.

591
00:35:08.800 --> 00:35:12.460
They come out of a heart where they have been marinating.

592
00:35:14.280 --> 00:35:16.800
They come out of the overflow of our hearts,

593
00:35:16.800 --> 00:35:18.720
out of the abundance of the heart.

594
00:35:18.720 --> 00:35:20.360
That means that you haven't just been thinking

595
00:35:20.360 --> 00:35:21.840
about the stuff in your heart a little bit,

596
00:35:21.840 --> 00:35:23.640
you've been thinking about it a lot.

597
00:35:30.080 --> 00:35:31.760
So we need to take inventory.

598
00:35:33.320 --> 00:35:36.320
If you wanna do a heart check-in with yourself,

599
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:38.120
listen to your own words.

600
00:35:40.480 --> 00:35:41.720
And it might not be things,

601
00:35:41.720 --> 00:35:43.440
I don't know if you guys talk to yourselves, I do.

602
00:35:43.440 --> 00:35:45.040
I talk to myself all the time.

603
00:35:46.280 --> 00:35:47.840
And by the way, science says that people

604
00:35:47.840 --> 00:35:49.760
that talk to themselves are very intelligent.

605
00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:51.760
So I don't feel bad about talking to myself anymore,

606
00:35:51.760 --> 00:35:54.460
but if you see me in public and it appears that I'm singing,

607
00:35:54.460 --> 00:35:56.960
I'm not, I'm talking to myself, just so you know.

608
00:36:01.000 --> 00:36:02.600
And I also answer myself.

609
00:36:02.600 --> 00:36:04.040
I know people are like, you can talk to yourself

610
00:36:04.040 --> 00:36:05.160
as long as you don't answer yourself.

611
00:36:05.160 --> 00:36:07.000
Well, I do, I do answer myself.

612
00:36:10.600 --> 00:36:12.160
I even talk to myself at therapy like,

613
00:36:12.160 --> 00:36:14.400
Jackie, this is what you need to do.

614
00:36:20.480 --> 00:36:24.020
But we need to take inventory about what's coming out of us.

615
00:36:25.280 --> 00:36:27.160
We're not defiled by what goes in us,

616
00:36:27.160 --> 00:36:30.160
we're defiled by what comes out of us, right?

617
00:36:31.120 --> 00:36:34.240
That's what derails us, what's coming out of us,

618
00:36:34.240 --> 00:36:35.640
because that's what's in our heart.

619
00:36:35.640 --> 00:36:37.320
And what does the Bible say about our hearts?

620
00:36:37.320 --> 00:36:40.520
It says, man sees the outside, but God looks at the heart.

621
00:36:42.040 --> 00:36:44.320
Let me ask you something about your heart.

622
00:36:44.320 --> 00:36:49.320
Has it become a sanctuary for shame, for sin?

623
00:36:51.600 --> 00:36:55.620
Has it become a refuge for rejection?

624
00:36:57.160 --> 00:37:02.160
A place where unforgiveness is hiding, resentment,

625
00:37:04.160 --> 00:37:07.580
even towards yourself, judgment, is it a place of judgment?

626
00:37:09.920 --> 00:37:11.160
One thing I say in the heart work

627
00:37:11.160 --> 00:37:13.120
that is pertinent to this conversation,

628
00:37:13.120 --> 00:37:15.000
because we already talked about judgment,

629
00:37:15.000 --> 00:37:18.500
is a critical heart is a hurting and broken heart.

630
00:37:19.820 --> 00:37:22.820
If you find yourself being overjudgmental of others,

631
00:37:23.660 --> 00:37:28.660
critical of others, not having grace, not showing mercy,

632
00:37:31.180 --> 00:37:34.180
that's a hurting heart, that's a heart that needs healed.

633
00:37:34.180 --> 00:37:35.940
And if you think you're just gonna turn that off

634
00:37:35.940 --> 00:37:37.620
with the right people, you're not.

635
00:37:41.300 --> 00:37:43.260
You're not going to be able to do that,

636
00:37:43.260 --> 00:37:44.580
because your heart needs healed.

637
00:37:44.580 --> 00:37:47.780
And that's why I have a mercy gift,

638
00:37:47.780 --> 00:37:49.820
I have to be careful with it.

639
00:37:50.580 --> 00:37:53.540
Because any gift overextended becomes a weakness.

640
00:37:53.540 --> 00:37:55.580
We don't want to overextend our gifts.

641
00:37:55.580 --> 00:37:59.300
My first and foremost response

642
00:37:59.300 --> 00:38:03.360
to other people's failings and fallings is mercy.

643
00:38:07.980 --> 00:38:10.820
But sometimes people need to not feel judgment,

644
00:38:10.820 --> 00:38:13.620
but they do need to feel correction in order to change.

645
00:38:15.780 --> 00:38:18.180
If every time someone that we love,

646
00:38:18.460 --> 00:38:21.860
just someone in the earth, it doesn't matter who they are,

647
00:38:21.860 --> 00:38:26.060
if every time they make a mistake,

648
00:38:26.060 --> 00:38:27.460
they're just met with someone saying,

649
00:38:27.460 --> 00:38:29.220
oh, it's okay, God loves you.

650
00:38:29.220 --> 00:38:30.780
Well, God does love them.

651
00:38:30.780 --> 00:38:33.260
But God loves us enough to not leave us

652
00:38:34.460 --> 00:38:37.320
in places where we're destroying ourselves and others.

653
00:38:41.220 --> 00:38:43.220
Some of you need to hear this for your children.

654
00:38:43.220 --> 00:38:47.920
You keep circumventing the natural consequences

655
00:38:48.560 --> 00:38:49.400
of their actions.

656
00:38:49.400 --> 00:38:50.280
You keep stepping in.

657
00:38:52.520 --> 00:38:55.240
You keep lightening the blow.

658
00:38:57.760 --> 00:38:58.620
That's coming.

659
00:39:00.640 --> 00:39:03.640
I have a teenage niece, she's 19 years old right now

660
00:39:03.640 --> 00:39:05.320
that that's happening to.

661
00:39:05.320 --> 00:39:09.380
It's happening from her manager at work.

662
00:39:11.460 --> 00:39:12.300
Why?

663
00:39:12.300 --> 00:39:13.880
Because he can't find anyone to work

664
00:39:13.880 --> 00:39:15.480
at this pizza parlor, right?

665
00:39:18.160 --> 00:39:20.600
By the way, the days when we were all kids

666
00:39:20.600 --> 00:39:22.040
and we all had jobs, you know,

667
00:39:22.040 --> 00:39:24.240
because we needed to pay for our cars or our insurance

668
00:39:24.240 --> 00:39:26.800
or whatever it was that we were doing when we were kids,

669
00:39:26.800 --> 00:39:28.320
going out on Friday night.

670
00:39:28.320 --> 00:39:31.040
And we had all these little jobs at fast food restaurants

671
00:39:31.040 --> 00:39:32.680
and stores and stuff.

672
00:39:32.680 --> 00:39:34.440
Kids don't do this as much anymore.

673
00:39:35.680 --> 00:39:37.760
Their parents are giving them money.

674
00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:41.040
They're living way more entitled, especially Gen Z.

675
00:39:41.040 --> 00:39:44.120
So this young woman who I love dearly

676
00:39:44.120 --> 00:39:46.720
has been calling off work whenever she wants to

677
00:39:46.720 --> 00:39:47.680
and feels like it.

678
00:39:49.400 --> 00:39:51.720
In some cases, not even showing up.

679
00:39:52.680 --> 00:39:55.640
Okay, when I was a kid, no call, no show, no job.

680
00:39:57.480 --> 00:39:58.720
Right?

681
00:39:58.720 --> 00:39:59.960
When I was a kid,

682
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.160
You better like be dying.

683
00:40:03.160 --> 00:40:06.400
You, you better need a kidney if you're going to call off work.

684
00:40:07.340 --> 00:40:07.720
Why?

685
00:40:07.720 --> 00:40:12.720
Because if you call off, then they try to call other people in, people aren't coming.

686
00:40:13.080 --> 00:40:15.440
And then the managers have to take your shift, right?

687
00:40:15.640 --> 00:40:19.520
That's why being a manager is no fun because basically it's just a, a big

688
00:40:19.560 --> 00:40:22.920
name put over the universal employee.

689
00:40:25.520 --> 00:40:26.540
You're not really the manager.

690
00:40:26.540 --> 00:40:30.460
You're the universal employee, meaning like you're the universal blood donor.

691
00:40:30.460 --> 00:40:34.500
If anything happens, you're the person that has to fill in.

692
00:40:37.380 --> 00:40:39.740
No matter what, that's your job.

693
00:40:43.020 --> 00:40:46.780
And so what's happening here, her manager, who's also really young, he doesn't want

694
00:40:46.780 --> 00:40:50.300
to fire her because he needs her because he doesn't have a lot of people working

695
00:40:50.300 --> 00:40:50.620
there.

696
00:40:50.940 --> 00:40:56.060
So he's willing to put up with this, with her just calling out whenever she feels

697
00:40:56.100 --> 00:40:56.420
like it.

698
00:40:56.420 --> 00:40:57.300
Oh, I'm hungry.

699
00:40:57.300 --> 00:40:58.500
I want to go home from work.

700
00:40:59.580 --> 00:41:00.780
Oh, I'm tired.

701
00:41:01.780 --> 00:41:03.220
I don't think I'm going to come in today.

702
00:41:04.180 --> 00:41:05.580
So what is he doing right now?

703
00:41:05.580 --> 00:41:10.780
He's setting her up for failure in life because do you think other places are

704
00:41:10.780 --> 00:41:11.780
going to let her do that?

705
00:41:13.740 --> 00:41:14.500
Probably not.

706
00:41:17.100 --> 00:41:18.860
She's starting college in the fall.

707
00:41:18.900 --> 00:41:21.860
He's going to have another job away when she's at school.

708
00:41:21.860 --> 00:41:23.540
Cause it's far away from where she lives now.

709
00:41:23.540 --> 00:41:25.380
So she'll have a new job over there.

710
00:41:25.780 --> 00:41:30.180
At the same pizza chain, that manager is probably not going to put up with that

711
00:41:30.180 --> 00:41:32.700
because this is a very isolated situation.

712
00:41:32.980 --> 00:41:39.060
When she grows up in life, other people that she works for, she's going to be an

713
00:41:39.060 --> 00:41:39.700
illustrator.

714
00:41:39.700 --> 00:41:40.900
She's going to be in design.

715
00:41:41.140 --> 00:41:42.620
They're not going to put up with that.

716
00:41:43.060 --> 00:41:46.740
And so what's happening here is he's actually setting her up from failure.

717
00:41:47.020 --> 00:41:52.460
Yes, he's, he's delaying the rejection and the pain that she's going to feel.

718
00:41:52.740 --> 00:41:57.820
When she gets corrected, but it's still common, there's a payday coming, isn't

719
00:41:57.820 --> 00:42:02.740
there with these types of character traits, there's a payday coming.

720
00:42:04.300 --> 00:42:13.260
And so you really can not keep your child or your friend or your parent, whoever

721
00:42:13.260 --> 00:42:18.140
you're trying to lighten the blow for, whoever you're trying to circumvent the

722
00:42:18.140 --> 00:42:23.980
process for by bailing them out time after time, after time, after time, you

723
00:42:23.980 --> 00:42:28.220
are just ensuring that when the hammer falls, it's going to fall really hard.

724
00:42:32.180 --> 00:42:33.860
I had no intention of saying any of that.

725
00:42:33.860 --> 00:42:36.940
So that is a personal word for someone who's listening live.

726
00:42:38.420 --> 00:42:42.180
You have to take yourself out of the middle of this and you have to allow

727
00:42:42.180 --> 00:42:44.380
people to experience their natural consequences.

728
00:42:44.380 --> 00:42:49.900
And in those natural consequences, that is when people usually reach out for God.

729
00:42:53.620 --> 00:42:57.980
That is when they know their need of a savior and it ain't you.

730
00:43:01.380 --> 00:43:02.140
It's not you.

731
00:43:02.980 --> 00:43:04.620
Some of you are doing this with your coworkers.

732
00:43:05.020 --> 00:43:07.780
They don't, they don't carry their load.

733
00:43:08.180 --> 00:43:09.460
They don't do their share.

734
00:43:09.860 --> 00:43:11.060
They're always there for you.

735
00:43:11.060 --> 00:43:12.660
And you continue to cover for them.

736
00:43:13.140 --> 00:43:16.740
You continue to make up the gap.

737
00:43:17.020 --> 00:43:20.980
You got to stop doing it because you're starting to get resentful.

738
00:43:21.700 --> 00:43:26.260
People who are over givers, over helpers, people, pleasers, they almost always

739
00:43:26.500 --> 00:43:30.500
somewhere in their life and you never know when it's coming, but they get to a

740
00:43:30.500 --> 00:43:33.260
place that I like to call my give a dams busted.

741
00:43:34.260 --> 00:43:37.900
And when that happens, friends, you're going to have to do something about it.

742
00:43:37.900 --> 00:43:40.820
People are going to come thinking that they're going to find the nice people

743
00:43:40.820 --> 00:43:42.500
pleaser that always says yes.

744
00:43:42.740 --> 00:43:45.940
And they're going to be like, who are you?

745
00:43:47.220 --> 00:43:49.100
That pendulum swing ain't going to be nice.

746
00:43:49.100 --> 00:43:50.340
It's not going to be good.

747
00:43:51.820 --> 00:43:55.180
And so let's go ahead and get ahead of the blast now, shall we?

748
00:43:56.740 --> 00:43:59.940
And start using this fun little word that I like to call no.

749
00:44:00.940 --> 00:44:04.740
And I like to call no, because it's a fun little word that I like to call no.

750
00:44:04.740 --> 00:44:07.660
Start using this fun little word that I like to call no.

751
00:44:12.420 --> 00:44:16.340
Did you know that you should be saying no at least twice as much as you're saying

752
00:44:16.340 --> 00:44:20.220
yes, probably four times as much as you're saying yes.

753
00:44:25.340 --> 00:44:26.020
So let's go back.

754
00:44:26.020 --> 00:44:27.020
What's coming out of our mouths.

755
00:44:27.020 --> 00:44:28.500
Let's take inventory of our words.

756
00:44:28.500 --> 00:44:29.820
Let's monitor our words.

757
00:44:30.660 --> 00:44:31.540
Let's monitor them.

758
00:44:31.940 --> 00:44:33.180
Let's inventory them.

759
00:44:33.180 --> 00:44:34.980
And then let's trace them back to the root.

760
00:44:35.460 --> 00:44:37.180
Where are those words coming from?

761
00:44:37.180 --> 00:44:38.380
Are they coming from bitterness?

762
00:44:38.820 --> 00:44:39.140
Where?

763
00:44:40.420 --> 00:44:41.220
What bitterness?

764
00:44:41.340 --> 00:44:41.980
From what?

765
00:44:42.500 --> 00:44:45.220
Bitterness is just matured resentment, friends.

766
00:44:45.420 --> 00:44:49.260
Bitterness is what unforgiveness looks like when it grows up and matures.

767
00:44:52.540 --> 00:44:53.260
Is it rejection?

768
00:44:53.260 --> 00:44:53.820
Is it fear?

769
00:44:53.820 --> 00:44:54.500
Is it unbelief?

770
00:44:54.500 --> 00:44:55.020
What is it?

771
00:44:57.580 --> 00:44:59.220
So here is something to write down.

772
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.920
What have I been saying, this is you talking to yourself,

773
00:45:03.920 --> 00:45:08.920
about my love life, my body, my future, my relationships,

774
00:45:12.040 --> 00:45:17.040
God, fill in the blank, make a little list there.

775
00:45:17.720 --> 00:45:19.880
What have I been saying about these things?

776
00:45:21.920 --> 00:45:24.680
Not just every once in a while, but chronically,

777
00:45:24.680 --> 00:45:29.080
how do you describe these areas of your life?

778
00:45:29.080 --> 00:45:30.320
Is it positive?

779
00:45:30.320 --> 00:45:31.320
Is it affirming?

780
00:45:31.320 --> 00:45:33.280
Is it life-giving?

781
00:45:33.280 --> 00:45:36.620
Is it filled with hope or the opposite?

782
00:45:41.040 --> 00:45:43.040
Because remember friends, if your words are filled

783
00:45:43.040 --> 00:45:45.360
with fear and all the byproducts of fear,

784
00:45:46.480 --> 00:45:48.440
all the negative things are byproducts of fear,

785
00:45:48.440 --> 00:45:50.360
all the positive things are byproducts of love,

786
00:45:50.360 --> 00:45:52.160
love and fear are opposites.

787
00:45:52.160 --> 00:45:54.240
So if your words are filled with any type of fear,

788
00:45:54.240 --> 00:45:57.120
any of its byproducts, your heart is broken.

789
00:45:58.120 --> 00:45:59.480
Need some hard work there.

790
00:46:01.600 --> 00:46:03.880
Negativity doesn't just show up.

791
00:46:03.880 --> 00:46:06.120
There's all kinds of sources of negativity,

792
00:46:06.120 --> 00:46:08.920
past traumas, disappointments.

793
00:46:08.920 --> 00:46:11.440
The world that we live in is super negative.

794
00:46:11.440 --> 00:46:16.160
Remember, I told you to really be careful of your scrolling

795
00:46:16.160 --> 00:46:18.440
because there's all kinds of cultural scripts,

796
00:46:18.440 --> 00:46:21.120
so to speak, that you're looking at.

797
00:46:21.120 --> 00:46:23.000
I know they're just pictures, they're not words,

798
00:46:23.000 --> 00:46:25.440
but they're cultural scripts that are getting in our hearts

799
00:46:25.440 --> 00:46:27.000
of what we're supposed to look like,

800
00:46:27.840 --> 00:46:28.680
how we're supposed to behave,

801
00:46:28.680 --> 00:46:30.160
how much money we're supposed to have,

802
00:46:30.160 --> 00:46:32.080
what our marriage is to be like.

803
00:46:32.080 --> 00:46:34.400
We're getting that, we're taking that in.

804
00:46:34.400 --> 00:46:37.320
Don't forget that you are a masterpiece made by God.

805
00:46:38.880 --> 00:46:40.600
You're a masterpiece.

806
00:46:40.600 --> 00:46:43.200
You're like a human computer.

807
00:46:43.200 --> 00:46:46.240
It's amazing what you're able to do.

808
00:46:46.240 --> 00:46:50.640
You have no idea how much you're taking in all the time.

809
00:46:53.800 --> 00:46:55.800
All the time, you're incredible.

810
00:46:55.840 --> 00:46:58.440
You're incredibly, fearfully, and wonderfully made.

811
00:47:00.600 --> 00:47:01.440
And I know that we think

812
00:47:01.440 --> 00:47:03.160
we're not even paying attention to these things,

813
00:47:03.160 --> 00:47:05.360
but we are, we are paying attention.

814
00:47:05.360 --> 00:47:07.680
Our unconscious is paying attention.

815
00:47:07.680 --> 00:47:10.400
It is alert, it is that attention,

816
00:47:10.400 --> 00:47:12.560
and it is taking it in.

817
00:47:26.800 --> 00:47:29.160
So we have all those scripts coming at us all the time,

818
00:47:29.160 --> 00:47:31.680
all the time, all the time, all the time.

819
00:47:31.680 --> 00:47:34.440
What you should be as a woman, what you should be as a man,

820
00:47:34.440 --> 00:47:36.560
and they're affecting us more than we know.

821
00:47:37.880 --> 00:47:40.160
Ideas like we're too old, we're not enough,

822
00:47:40.160 --> 00:47:42.400
we're not this, we're not that,

823
00:47:42.400 --> 00:47:45.440
we can never succeed, it's too late.

824
00:47:46.520 --> 00:47:48.840
And then of course we have the opposing forces.

825
00:47:50.480 --> 00:47:53.000
And these are, if you read the book, The Heart Work,

826
00:47:53.040 --> 00:47:54.720
if you read the book, The Heart Work,

827
00:47:54.720 --> 00:47:58.120
you know that this is the father of lies,

828
00:47:58.120 --> 00:48:00.240
the father of flies, Beelzebub.

829
00:48:00.240 --> 00:48:03.160
We know that these lies get into infected wounds

830
00:48:03.160 --> 00:48:05.240
and places in our hearts that are broken,

831
00:48:06.400 --> 00:48:08.320
in the traumas.

832
00:48:08.320 --> 00:48:10.920
It's not the trauma that's going to keep you

833
00:48:10.920 --> 00:48:13.200
from living the big, beautiful life God has for you,

834
00:48:13.200 --> 00:48:16.240
it's the lies that you believe because of the trauma.

835
00:48:16.240 --> 00:48:19.800
And remember, those lies mature, and they become words,

836
00:48:19.800 --> 00:48:21.560
and those words become actions,

837
00:48:21.560 --> 00:48:24.800
and those actions become our identity, amen?

838
00:48:29.880 --> 00:48:33.360
So we have to partner with God's truth.

839
00:48:33.360 --> 00:48:36.520
And friends, all that negative stuff you believe,

840
00:48:36.520 --> 00:48:38.840
you've been rehearsing it for a really long time.

841
00:48:38.840 --> 00:48:41.000
And so it's not gonna let go overnight,

842
00:48:41.000 --> 00:48:44.080
and that's why the truth has to also be rehearsed.

843
00:48:44.080 --> 00:48:46.040
We have to repeat these new messages

844
00:48:46.040 --> 00:48:47.680
in order to make them part of our identity,

845
00:48:47.680 --> 00:48:49.760
and that's where affirmations come in.

846
00:48:49.800 --> 00:48:52.200
Our agreement is our alignment.

847
00:48:52.200 --> 00:48:54.520
When we speak it, we're agreeing with it,

848
00:48:54.520 --> 00:48:56.080
and we're aligning with heaven.

849
00:48:57.360 --> 00:48:59.440
I know a lot of people think affirmations are just woo-woo,

850
00:48:59.440 --> 00:49:01.600
but they're not, they're warfare.

851
00:49:01.600 --> 00:49:02.600
They're not woo-woo.

852
00:49:03.680 --> 00:49:05.120
How can words change things?

853
00:49:05.120 --> 00:49:07.520
Well, words are what got you here in the first place,

854
00:49:07.520 --> 00:49:08.880
whether you know it or not.

855
00:49:13.480 --> 00:49:15.160
Affirmations are going to build your faith,

856
00:49:15.160 --> 00:49:17.960
I already told you that, Romans 10, 17.

857
00:49:17.960 --> 00:49:20.360
Faith cometh by hearing, hearing by the word of God.

858
00:49:20.360 --> 00:49:23.400
They're also gonna rewire your brain pathways,

859
00:49:23.400 --> 00:49:26.000
for those of you that are into that kind of science.

860
00:49:27.320 --> 00:49:29.200
And I believe that our affirmations

861
00:49:29.200 --> 00:49:30.360
are gonna frame our future,

862
00:49:30.360 --> 00:49:32.000
especially for the next six months,

863
00:49:32.000 --> 00:49:33.880
because that is what we're looking at.

864
00:49:34.960 --> 00:49:38.600
We gotta focus on smaller units of time,

865
00:49:38.600 --> 00:49:39.600
not the next five years.

866
00:49:39.600 --> 00:49:44.160
Let's just focus on the next five months, okay?

867
00:49:44.160 --> 00:49:46.760
All right, so let's go ahead and go into some affirmations.

868
00:49:46.760 --> 00:49:47.920
Oh, I also have written down here

869
00:49:47.920 --> 00:49:50.800
that Jesus used affirmations, he did.

870
00:49:50.800 --> 00:49:53.080
He said, I am the way, I'm the truth, I'm the life.

871
00:49:53.080 --> 00:49:55.800
He declared who he was before it was fully recognized

872
00:49:55.800 --> 00:49:58.160
or fully revealed to the earth.

873
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:11.000
He was speaking his identity into being, you see that?

874
00:50:11.000 --> 00:50:20.560
Right, so let's talk about some unconscious affirmations, if you want to call them that,

875
00:50:20.560 --> 00:50:22.200
that you might have already been saying.

876
00:50:22.200 --> 00:50:26.800
You might say stuff like nothing ever works out for me, no one wants someone like me,

877
00:50:26.800 --> 00:50:31.280
I've never been chosen, I've heard at least five women in the last week say, I've just

878
00:50:31.280 --> 00:50:35.000
never been chosen, I'm never the one that's chosen, I'm never chosen, I'm never chosen,

879
00:50:35.000 --> 00:50:38.680
I'm never chosen.

880
00:50:38.680 --> 00:50:45.160
They're speaking that, that's become their truth, they're speaking it.

881
00:50:45.160 --> 00:50:48.640
They're giving power to that.

882
00:50:48.640 --> 00:50:54.200
All the good ones are taken, I've heard that a million times from a million people.

883
00:50:54.200 --> 00:50:57.640
So whatever it is, go ahead, what do you have on repeat?

884
00:50:57.640 --> 00:50:59.200
What record do you have on repeat?

885
00:50:59.200 --> 00:51:01.960
Remember, you're going to take inventory.

886
00:51:01.960 --> 00:51:10.480
Yes, we want to start doing positive affirmations, but it's important for you to understand that

887
00:51:10.480 --> 00:51:13.680
this is not positive mental attitude.

888
00:51:13.680 --> 00:51:16.640
What is in your heart will come out.

889
00:51:16.640 --> 00:51:19.520
I know you're going to write down affirmations, you're going to rehearse those daily because

890
00:51:19.520 --> 00:51:24.720
I'm asking you to, but what you do when you're not paying attention, what you do unconsciously,

891
00:51:24.720 --> 00:51:31.000
what you do unintentionally is who you really are.

892
00:51:31.000 --> 00:51:34.920
And so when you, when you find out what that stuff is, because you hear yourself saying

893
00:51:34.920 --> 00:51:40.680
it, that's when I want us to take that thing and shift that thing and turn it into its

894
00:51:40.680 --> 00:51:41.680
own affirmation.

895
00:51:41.840 --> 00:51:42.840
Does that make sense?

896
00:51:51.680 --> 00:51:56.640
So to some of these that I just said, nothing ever works out for me, you know, no one wants

897
00:51:56.640 --> 00:51:59.520
someone like me, I'll never be chosen.

898
00:51:59.520 --> 00:52:04.000
You need to take that and you need to turn that into a truth statement.

899
00:52:11.680 --> 00:52:17.440
I see some of you guys putting some stuff up in the chat.

900
00:52:17.440 --> 00:52:18.440
That's great.

901
00:52:18.440 --> 00:52:29.360
All right, so here's going to be your activation.

902
00:52:29.360 --> 00:52:31.000
And I don't know what tomorrow night is.

903
00:52:31.000 --> 00:52:35.160
Can one of the team members tell me, is it all community tomorrow night or is it just

904
00:52:35.160 --> 00:52:38.080
a regular activation night on Sunday?

905
00:52:42.480 --> 00:52:47.200
Tomorrow night is the regular activation and then prophetic night is next Sunday evening.

906
00:52:47.200 --> 00:52:48.200
All right.

907
00:52:48.200 --> 00:52:49.200
Thanks.

908
00:52:49.200 --> 00:52:50.200
All right.

909
00:52:50.200 --> 00:52:52.120
So what I want you guys to do, and this is all of you, not just people that are doing

910
00:52:52.120 --> 00:52:55.080
the halftime shift.

911
00:52:55.080 --> 00:53:01.200
Everyone is to write down three negative things that you've been saying recently, right?

912
00:53:01.200 --> 00:53:04.160
Maybe there are things that you've been saying all your life, but let's just, let's deal

913
00:53:04.160 --> 00:53:06.240
with where you are right now.

914
00:53:06.240 --> 00:53:09.200
Three negative things that you've been saying recently.

915
00:53:09.200 --> 00:53:11.560
And then I want you to ask Holy Spirit, do some heart work around it.

916
00:53:11.560 --> 00:53:16.120
You know, what, what, what pain is this rooted in?

917
00:53:16.120 --> 00:53:17.720
Where's this lie coming from?

918
00:53:17.720 --> 00:53:19.480
Where's the trauma?

919
00:53:19.480 --> 00:53:20.800
Right.

920
00:53:20.800 --> 00:53:25.600
And then we're going to renounce the lie.

921
00:53:25.600 --> 00:53:32.320
And then we're going to write for those three things, three spirit led affirmations.

922
00:53:32.320 --> 00:53:33.320
Okay.

923
00:53:33.320 --> 00:53:41.400
So number one, take a little heart inventory, write down at least three things that have

924
00:53:41.400 --> 00:53:46.400
been coming from your heart out of your mouth that are not building your future, that are

925
00:53:46.400 --> 00:53:49.280
not speaking your true identity.

926
00:53:49.280 --> 00:53:53.520
Ask Holy Spirit to show you where those things are rooted, where are they coming from?

927
00:53:53.520 --> 00:53:57.720
Why do you believe that lie?

928
00:53:57.720 --> 00:54:00.800
And the next step is we're going to repent.

929
00:54:00.800 --> 00:54:05.360
Remember I always say you can't erase, you have to replace.

930
00:54:05.360 --> 00:54:07.320
Remember how I write that in the heart work?

931
00:54:07.320 --> 00:54:08.320
You can't erase this.

932
00:54:08.320 --> 00:54:10.520
You're not going to say, Oh, I'm not going to do this anymore.

933
00:54:10.520 --> 00:54:15.840
No, yes, you are going to do it because it's rooted in something.

934
00:54:15.840 --> 00:54:17.480
We got to, we got to dig out the roots.

935
00:54:17.480 --> 00:54:18.480
And so we can't.

936
00:54:18.480 --> 00:54:22.800
And the way we dig out the roots is with repentance and forgiveness, confession, repentance, and

937
00:54:22.800 --> 00:54:23.800
forgiveness.

938
00:54:23.800 --> 00:54:26.320
So when you find out where those things are coming from, you're going to repent, you're

939
00:54:26.320 --> 00:54:30.120
going to forgive, you're going to confess whatever fits.

940
00:54:30.120 --> 00:54:32.160
And then we're going to not erase, we're going to replace.

941
00:54:32.160 --> 00:54:36.040
We're going to renounce the lie and then we're going to speak the truth.

942
00:54:36.040 --> 00:54:41.360
So I want you to shift those three negative things into three powerful spirit filled affirmations

943
00:54:41.360 --> 00:54:44.920
that you're going to begin to declare over yourself and others.

944
00:54:44.920 --> 00:54:46.000
And then you're going to speak it.

945
00:54:46.000 --> 00:54:49.680
And here's the third step that most people, this is where everyone falls off, including

946
00:54:49.680 --> 00:54:50.920
myself.

947
00:54:50.920 --> 00:54:58.200
You're going to speak it until you see it.

948
00:54:58.200 --> 00:55:00.040
You walk by faith and not by sight.

949
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:09.280
right? We already know that. But I believe that we don't have what we pray, we have what we say.

950
00:55:16.080 --> 00:55:21.280
We don't have the things that we, oh, I wish, I wish, I wish, I wish. No, pray it and say it.

951
00:55:30.640 --> 00:55:34.560
So I want you to do whatever you need to do to make sure that you're saying this every single

952
00:55:34.560 --> 00:55:39.680
day. If you need to set an alarm on your phone for the next 30 days, whatever you need to do,

953
00:55:39.680 --> 00:55:43.360
I want you to see the power of your words. And I believe that if you take this challenge,

954
00:55:43.360 --> 00:55:49.600
you will see them. I know that it seems ridiculous, like how in the world is that going to work?

955
00:55:54.080 --> 00:55:54.800
It's going to work.

956
00:55:55.520 --> 00:56:00.640
God wants to prove to you that your words have power. So will you take him up on this challenge?

957
00:56:03.760 --> 00:56:06.400
I'm going to leave you with one more scripture, Job 22, 28.

958
00:56:07.760 --> 00:56:11.200
You will decree a thing and it will be established for you.

959
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Now, friends, this is not an opportunity for you to blab it and grab it, okay? This is not

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toxic prosperity gospel that I'm preaching here.

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This is truly anchored in God's word. Our words have power.

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And so I don't want you to say, oh, well, I'm going to manifest. I'm going to go over here and

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I'm going to find a bunch of things and I'm going to, you know, make affirmations and I'm going to

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speak them for 30 days and I'm going to believe God to give me all that stuff. No, that's not what

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I'm asking you to do. I'm asking you to take inventory of your heart and I'm going to make

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I'm asking you to take inventory of your heart, find at least three things there that are out of

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alignment with heaven that you've been speaking over yourself and others. I want you to do the

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heart work, confess, forgive, confess, repent, forgive. And then I want you to create three

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truth statements, three affirmations, at least, that cover those things. And then I want you to

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see the shift. So I'm going to speak some affirmations over you right now that I have here.

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And then I want you guys to do this work if you want to do it with us tomorrow night on activation.

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Awesome. For those of you that have access to that session, the rest of you, I want you to

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take the challenge from the Lord. Holy Spirit is challenging you. God wants you to see the power

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of your words. So I'm going to go through these really quickly. I have about a minute and a half

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left. I'm deeply loved, fully seen, and completely chosen by God. And I attract love that reflects

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that truth. I am emotionally whole and I attract someone who is too. I am not behind. I am being

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prepared for love that lasts. I am not hard to love. I'm easy to love by the right person.

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I break agreement with delay, disappointment, and disillusionment. My love story is moving forward.

979
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I release the counterfeit and make room for God's covenant. I'm not who I was. I am who God says I

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am. I'm not defined by my past, my pain, or my patterns. I am worthy of love, favor, and new

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beginnings. I carry the presence of God and I change atmospheres when I walk in. I do not shrink

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to be accepted. I expand to be aligned. I am not too much. I'm exactly right for my assignment.

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My mind is clear, focused, and aligned with truth. I take every thought captive and make

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it submit to God's promises. I no longer rehearse the worst case scenario. I partner with heaven's

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best for me. I am free from overthinking, fear-based loops, and spirals. My mind is a sanctuary, not a

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battlefield. I am no longer bonded to my wounds. I'm bonded to God's word. I release trauma, grief,

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and unforgiveness. I am safe in love. I am safe with myself. I am safe with God. My broken places

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are now testimonies of His power. I am not stuck. I am surrendering, healing, and rising. I am called,

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chosen, and anointed for such a time as this, and I show up with boldness, power, and love.

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I don't compete. I complete what God has assigned to me, and nobody else can have what God has set

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aside for me. I take up space with grace and authority. I walk in rooms already accepted,

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not trying to be approved or to please people that I do not need in my life. Rejection is

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God's selection, raising me up higher to a new direction. I love that one.

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God is expanding my territory, and I am ready for it. Come on, y'all.

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Yes, I will post these. These are mine. They can be yours.

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They can be yours, but I do want you to let Holy Spirit help you make

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your own, because that's where the power is. The power is in your affirmations, your declarations

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that are coming from where God is taking you. All right? All right. I love y'all.

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Have an amazing Supernatural Saturday, and we'll see you soon.