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Okay, awesome. Well, welcome, ladies. It's so good to see you. This is the, um, it's

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already the end of September, September 30th. Goodness. Um, it's your phase two, one o'clock

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live check-in call. Um, for those of you that don't know me, I'm Carla Johnson. I'm one

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of your coaches here in last year, single in your phase two, the love story accelerator.

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For those of you that do not know me, I was, um, I found Jackie five years ago. Um, it's

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actually been exactly five years. I came through her program through Facebook ad on, um, through

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one of her challenges, like her free challenges. And that's when I jumped into, um, her program

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and did the heart work. And it took me through a journey for sure. And I been with her ever

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since. So I am a success story. All right. Took me, took me a little while. All right. I did,

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um, have the privilege and honor and blessing of finally having my husband find me. We've been

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married now for two years at the beginning of this month. Um, we are blending a family. I have

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a son, um, biologically, and he has two children, um, from his previous, um, marriage, their mother

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passed away. So we have lots of blending, lots of different challenges that we're facing. So, um,

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all big blessing. God is doing some incredible things, but heart work has been

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at the core. And so I just, I'm thankful and honored and privileged to be able to still

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be part of this program and be part of this community and, and be able to shed, um, my own

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wisdom, my own experience and pour into you ladies the same way that I was poured into. So

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just know that I've got your back. I'm going to be one of your biggest cheerleaders. Um, I'm also

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going to let you know that there are going to be times I'm going to be having to rip band-aids off,

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but know that I got you. Okay. And I'm not going to be ripping band-aids off.

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If I didn't love and care about you and know that God is here to heal you. And I needed band-aids

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ripped off of me. Trust me, Jackie had to rip a lot of band-aids off of me through those several

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years. And even in my marriage, sometimes that she had to come and rip band-aids off of me.

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Um, because truth be told, you're going to go through heartwork when you get into marriage too.

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Okay. Um, especially if you're even blended families. Um, if you have kids or you marry

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someone that has kids, um, Jackie always will, you'll hear her say, there's a reason that blended

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rhymes with offended. She's not joking. She blended a family, um, her and David, they,

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they had kids from previous as well. So, um, that's a little background about me. Um,

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so yeah, I'm here to be your sister of support. Okay. Um, I'm here to be your, your wise counsel,

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your wisdom here to be here to lift you up, but also to, to, to encourage you and to pour into

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you. Okay. Um, I'm going to go over these housekeeping things. I've got a lot. So if

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to write anything down, please do. Okay. Um, if you have questions in the house while I'm going

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over housekeeping, throw them up in the chat. And if anybody that's watching the chat can answer

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those for me, feel free to do so. And then once I get through housekeeping, I'll go and skim

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through those. But if there's anybody that sees a question, cause I know I got some, some ladies

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who've been here with me for a hot minute. Okay. So some of you ladies may already know the answers

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to some of the new girls questions. So help me in the chat if you can. Um, and then I'll skim

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through those and then we will dive into our activations and your questions and all that good

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stuff. Cool. I got everybody. All right. There's 11 of you plus me. Perfect. Kim is here with us.

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Fantastic. All right. Housekeeping. Okay. Already went through, um, ladies that are new here. We're

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glad to have you. If you're watching in replay, we're always happy to have you here. Please do

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your best to make it to a live call. This is the one o'clock Eastern. We also have eight o'clock

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Eastern. If you can't make it, we totally understand. We will have both in replay,

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at least try to come as to as many as you can before you shift over to the next phase. Um,

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I really think that you're going to get more from it. If you're here live,

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um, don't be afraid to ask questions because a lot of your questions will actually

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we bring breakthrough for a lot of your sisters here.

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I know that happened for me,

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and a lot of my questions that I would come and ask

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helped other sisters in the community as well.

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It's how we build community,

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and you open up,

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and that vulnerability really, really does shift things.

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So I just wanna encourage you to do that.

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We also understand life is busy,

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so we don't expect you to be here every week

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or to come to both,

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but if you can at least make it to one

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and then maybe watch the other one in replay,

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that would be awesome.

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If you can't come to either,

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do your best to watch both in replay.

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The best way to do things in replay for me

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is when I'm in the car driving.

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Now, I live in the DFW area now,

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and traffic is horrendous,

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so I always have opportunities

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to listen to stuff in the car.

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So just, you know,

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or, and I'm in car pickup line,

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and I have to get there like an hour early

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to fight all the car pickup parents.

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Y'all, they're crazy.

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So you have to be in line for an hour,

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and then I sit there with nothing to do,

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but listen to replays.

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So that's that.

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Speaking of replays, good news.

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Supernatural Saturdays are back to being recorded.

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Who's excited?

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Sarah Shelton's excited.

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Same is excited.

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I know, we're all excited, okay,

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because, you know, Jackie went on sabbatical.

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We were recording those.

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People were in a panic, like, where did these go?

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I was even like, whoa, what did I miss?

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So yes, Supernatural Saturday

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was recorded this past Saturday.

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So if you didn't catch live, y'all,

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Saturday was recorded.

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So go back and watch the replay.

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It was so good.

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Y'all, it was so on point.

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I had it planned.

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I was making breakfast,

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because we had baseball started up this weekend.

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We had tournaments.

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I was at the ball field all weekend long,

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and that's gonna be my weekends for the next five weeks.

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And so I had it blasting.

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So all my kids were hearing the good, like, words, too.

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And let me tell you, there were so many things

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that I was like, ah, my kids need to hear that.

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So, so good.

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So definitely go check that out in replay.

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Another thing, we still have tickets

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for the five-year anniversary party in Austin.

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That is going to be on October 26th.

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It's a Sunday night.

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So I would love to see you all in person

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if you can be there.

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I will be there.

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My husband's gonna be there.

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I know Bethany's gonna be there.

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Ebony's gonna be there.

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Bethany's husband's gonna be there.

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I think Renee, I don't know if Renee's gonna be there.

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I don't know about that.

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I don't know about that one.

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I would imagine she would be.

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But so many, so many women over the past five years

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and men, we are all there to celebrate the five years

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of this wonderful, awesome community that Jackie birthed.

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And it's just gonna be a fun night.

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So there is a retreat that weekend.

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That retreat is sold out,

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but it doesn't mean that you can't come on your own,

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spend a few days in Austin,

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connect with some sisters here in community,

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maybe book a hotel, whatever,

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and come to the anniversary party, okay?

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If you can make it, definitely check it out, okay?

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It'll be a lot of fun, I promise.

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For anybody that's never met Jackie before,

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like, she's a good time, y'all.

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Like, she is a really fun time.

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Really good time, her and David.

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Always, always, always, always a blast.

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So yeah, that information is on her website.

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So JackieDorman.com.

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So if you need tickets, that's where you're gonna find it.

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Okay, one more thing.

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No, a few more things.

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In the app, and I think I said this last week,

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but I know I got a few new ladies.

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When you are replying to us coaches in the app,

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so you've made a post,

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then us coaches have come and replied to you on your post.

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Instead of, like, and typically we ask you questions

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or we want your feedback on, like, what we've shared.

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If you would do us a solid and, like, do us a huge favor,

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go and make a comment under your post

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instead of replying to our comment.

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We don't, for some reason,

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we won't see your reply to our comment,

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but we will get a notification

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if you comment to your post.

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I think most people are doing that now,

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but I just want to give that reminder.

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And Searshall, I did just follow up and I was,

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and I apologize.

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I was under the impression that Bethany had replied to you from your post a couple like a

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week and a half ago. Yeah and I like I just saw she did not and so I did look that over.

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I'm if you I'll I'll let you go first we can unpack it here. If you would rather wait and

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have me reply to you in the app I'm going to let you decide how you want to do that.

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There's a lot of things that we can unpack we can pick one thing and do it here so that we

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can open the floor for everybody but I'm going to leave that up to you and then we'll go in

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and reply to you as well on any of the stuff that we don't cover. Okay yeah I haven't replied because

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I when I spoke to Bethany, Bethany said oh I will I'll go in and reply to her so I didn't

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follow through to make sure that she did that my guess is she thought she did or got sidetracked so

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I apologize for letting that go because I assume that she did so I want to make sure that we

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address that so I will take you first today if you want to talk about it on here but I'm going

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to leave that up to you okay because I don't want to put you on the spot if you don't want to be on

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the on the spot okay you don't want to be on the spot okay then I will go in and reply to you on

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the app does that sound good okay um so we'll do that um so yeah the ask ask the coach um I already

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covered the if you didn't make the one o'clock or the eight o'clock call and then last thing

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ladies I a lot lately a lot of ladies are not aware that myself and Ebony do we do take one-on-one

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coaching sessions we do it is an additional charge it's not included with your membership

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but I know lately a lot of ladies really do appreciate that so I do want to make sure you

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all are aware that if you feel like you just need a little extra one-on-one time you can book 50

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minute one-on-one sessions with us and it could be anything heartwork related dating situation

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whatever it is okay it's 50 minutes of one-on-one coaching okay because on here on these these group

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um coaching sessions that we hold we really can't deep dive and a lot of women do appreciate

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if they really get a solid 50 minutes of that okay again it's an additional charge it's not

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included with your membership but if it is something that you really feel like you would

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benefit from then we do want you to know that it is available to you okay you can look on the resource

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tab in the app and you can access our calendars in there okay and so um that is available to you

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um so the charges for that is you can book a single session for 125 and then or if you know

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that you're going to want multiple sessions we do offer a little bit of a discount if you book

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three sessions ahead okay so again that all that information is in the resource tab it will direct

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you to the website where you can see our calendars and then pick and choose okay

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so just know that is available um but again like don't feel like we can't coach you

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in the app or here in these group sessions like we're always here to do that okay but i know that

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some women just really appreciate having a 50 minutes instead of just like a short 5 or 10

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minutes or the back and forth on the app okay so that is available if if you need it okay um

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all right that's all the housekeeping did i have any questions in the chat i think i covered the

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questions about the fee for the one-on-one okay awesome people are connecting through

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facebook that's awesome and ladies um i do want to i i do want to share with you i we as coaches

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do get friend requests from you ladies and it kills me that i cannot accept your friend

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request so know that it is not because i don't want to be your friend it is just a rule that

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we have for our team that we cannot it kills me it pains me it frustrates me but i understand why

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it's there but if anyone has happened to ever friend request me or ebony or any of us coaches

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and we don't respond to you please don't take

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offense to that, like, it's just a requirement that we're not allowed to, okay? So, we love

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you. It doesn't mean that we don't love you. Trust me, I would love to be your friend on Facebook,

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but we just simply cannot, okay? All right, I think I got everybody's questions, so that's good.

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Good, good, good. Somebody's going to know birthday.

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Laura, it's your birthday on the 26th? That is awesome, and you're going to be there

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and it's your birthday. I love that, and I love that your birthday is on the 26th,

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because I have a birthday on the 26th, but it's in February. I love the number 26, so that is

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awesome. Perfect, perfect. Kathleen, you tried going to the single cities group on Facebook

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and asked for a code and posted the question. Okay, Kathleen, where are you? I know you were

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on camera. That answer to your question is also in the resource tab. Have you looked there?

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If you go on the resource tab in the app, there is a document for single cities,

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and it will have a code. When you go request it, there is going to be a prompt on the Facebook

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group for you to put that code in. You will just type that code in. That is so

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our moderators and admin that run those single cities know that you are a paid member.

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I totally get it. I'm not sure I have done a deep dive into the resources yet,

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but thank you for directing me there. Absolutely. Check it out. There is so

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much information there. Definitely check it out. Sorry, y'all, I'm on this medication that

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dries my mouth out, so I'm constantly having to put liquid. Definitely put that on your list,

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Kathleen, to comb through that resource tab. It will be a lifesaver for you.

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Since I'm on it, Carla, can I talk about, because I did do the single city and I have

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the resources. I'm in the single city Facebook Dallas. Reading through the instructions on

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Facebook, when you start out, it gives you all those things to look at. It tells you to also

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join single nation, but I wasn't able to. Single nation is shut down, so we just need to update

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that. Thank you for letting me know. I will pass that along to the team. Single nation and single

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nation, we started in 2023, possibly. Originally, we opened it up publicly, but there was bots,

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there was scammers, there was all this stuff. We had to clean it up. That's why now we require

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people to be paid members in order to join that community so that it's a way for us to do our

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best to filter. Now, when there's events, you can invite people that you know to those events.

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We just don't want to open that group up to any person on Facebook, because believe it or not,

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there are some interesting people out there that just want, I mean, y'all, some of the things,

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because I used to moderate the Tampa one when I lived in Florida and I was single.

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They would just join, and you could tell they were not faith-based. I'm trying to say it as

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politely as I can, but some of their photos that they had were very revealing, and it was not

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pretty. We had to just decide that the only way for us to do our best, because again,

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we can't control who's in that group. Again, you all need to use your discernment. Just because

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someone is in our program doesn't always mean that they've worked their heart work,

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and it doesn't mean that they don't still have heart work to work on. I know what happens is

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you're going to be like, okay, when do I get to meet men that have done their heart work? Ladies,

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there's a lot of us women in here that blow through heart work, and they come to me in phase

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two, and then they come into phase three, and there's still some heart work stuff that needs

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to get sorted out. Same thing happens with the men. Some of the men still have some heart work

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stuff. We all have layers of heart work. Just because we may have men in this community,

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it doesn't mean that we can't do our best, and it doesn't mean that we can't do our best.

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you ladies will still need to use your discernment

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and not just assume that you know there's not things that God

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will want to reveal to you okay.

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doesn't mean that a man hasn't done his heart work. I was

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actually on a call with a client last night

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and she asked me about my husband and she's like well oh did your

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husband go through heart work and I'm like well not through this program

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but having get I was getting to know him

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and pacing myself with him learning about him and I would see the

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fruit that he was teachable he was

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open to counseling he was open to growing as a person

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his he was um yeah he was just coachable he was teachable

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he was he was looking for ways just to grow as a person and I saw the fruit of

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that as I was continuing to get to know him

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I knew his stance on counseling I saw evidence of his counseling

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and so that's how I knew he had worked on

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his heart work just not through our program

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he just went to a therapist okay so just because a man hasn't gone

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through our program doesn't mean he hasn't worked on healing now it

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also doesn't mean that there isn't other heart work that they need to work

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on like my husband still has areas of heart

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work that he needs to work through I have areas of heart work that I need

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to work through that's what I've been doing for two

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years and so but I know that me going through

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my heart work is actually helping my husband and my kids recognize areas

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that they need to grow it actually like me I was resisting me

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doing my heart work because I was like they need to do their heart work

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when really it was like God was like Carla

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you do your heart work and they will follow

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model the heart work model the heart work for them

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be the model for that not because you know you want

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he's like I want to heal you but through your healing

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you're going to be able to pour into your family

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and it's going to heal them as well and then you're going to heal like

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I'm going to be able to heal you and I'm going to be able to heal your

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husband I'm going to be able to heal your kids

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and guess what through your family you are going to be able to pour into

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other families and I'm going to be able to heal

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even more families through your testimony

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and your kids testimony and your husband's testimony

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okay so that was holy spirit right there because I wasn't even going to talk

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about that so thank you Jesus for that

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so that's the single nation single city so there's no more single nation but the

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single cities that is and so um love that you

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are going to get connected in Dallas Daisy is the one that

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leads that group she's a good friend of mine

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eventually I'm going to get to one of those events

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unfortunately my kid has always got tournaments and so I'm always around

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Dallas all over the ball fields um and that's when usually events are

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happening so eventually I'm going to get to one of

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those so maybe I'll see you Sam

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um okay so that's that I'm trying to get

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through this as quickly as possible because I want to be able to take your

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questions um activations for last week um

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I prompted you ladies to you know spend some time just get ready

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whether it's like a little mascara a little lip gloss you know

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get out just just you know present yourself okay not because you need

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to but it does just like lift you up a

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little differently um and then I also again because we were

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taking sabbath for that whole month um if you were able to find time at any

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point last week or the month to find any sabbath if

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anybody wants to to take 30 seconds to unmute and share

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what you were able to do to find sabbath or what you experienced if you got

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yourself ready unmute 30 seconds I'm going to leave

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that space for you totally up to you cool

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anyone

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and I'm just looking through the chat so that gives you all a little bit of time

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yes yes oh I'm gonna write single nation

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been removed. So that I don't forget. How long were we dating before we got engaged?

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It was very accelerated. So my story is very different. I don't typically share it often

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because I don't want anyone to get a false understanding. But I want to say we had been

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known each other for four months. But again, he proposed to me on my 40th birthday and he is a

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year and a half younger than me. And he had been married previous. He was married for 11 years. His

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wife passed away. So we were a little bit older. And I do think that when you get to a certain age,

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there is a little bit of acceleration. But I wouldn't, I mean, again, we were long distance.

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So there was, again, some differences as to why it was accelerated. And we didn't ignore

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seeking the Lord. We weren't rushing things to a point that we weren't listening to the Lord.

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Like we, like there was a lot of supernatural confirmation that couldn't be explained. Like

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it wasn't like, Oh, like we were both crossing this at the same time. So that must be a sign.

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It was never like that. It was, well, that was not like, that was weird. That was like a

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coincidence. It would be like things that prophetically had been spoken to me years

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ago that God had shared with me that made no sense would get highlighted. For example,

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and I think I put ladies, I think go check out on the pin post under the all tab. I had posted

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an example of my social media, like coming out of hiding thing. And I listed my three

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non-negotiable. Y'all, my husband didn't have two of those. He lived in Texas and I wasn't

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going to move out of Florida. And I was certain I was going to have another baby because God told

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me I was going to have more kids. And if you look at my wording on that social media post,

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God wasn't lying to me. I just misinterpreted what he said to me. So when I met my husband,

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I went to the Lord and was like, God, like, I don't know. Like he can't, he doesn't want more

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kids. He's had a vasectomy. And I used to, I, when I find out a guy that I was dating on a

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first, second date, whatever, had a vasectomy. Non-negotiable. Bye. Nice guy. Y'all, I had to

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go to the Lord with this one. I was like, for some, like, I need to, I'm like, Lord, I don't,

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I don't know what to do here. Like, I, I kind of like this guy. He he's, he's really like,

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he's got the three M's. Like, it's a yes until to know there are some things that I want to cut

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and run for, but Jackie's sitting here just telling me to get off the ledge and just enjoy

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and have fun. And I'm like, okay, but Lord, you told me I was going to have more kids. Like you

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told me I was going to have more kids and y'all the Lord answered me right then and there. And

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he's like, I said, you were going to have more kids. I didn't say you were going to birth them.

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I was like, oh, dang, the Lord just got real with me. And my husband came with two kids

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and y'all in my, in my post, my son really wanted a sister. He really wanted a sister. Well, guess

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what? My husband had a daughter. I got a daughter. I wanted a daughter. I was certain my,

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my son was going to be a girl. And then he wasn't like, why? And he's a blessing.

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God gave me exactly what I needed when I needed it. But God knew that my daughter was coming in

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a different way. And she is my daughter on purpose. And I'm her mother on purpose.

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And it doesn't mean that we have an easy relationship right.

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Now y'all, because we don't, we're blending.

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She's been through some trauma.

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She's almost 14.

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We've all been through those preteen years, ladies.

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We remember what it was like.

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It's hard.

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And, but I know God literally purposed us for each other.

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So God, I just misinterpreted what God said,

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but God came and delivered.

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And then my other non-negotiable was,

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I wasn't moving, y'all.

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Y'all, I lived in Sarasota, Florida.

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Like, it's paradise.

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If you've never been there, it's gorgeous.

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It's like one of the best beaches, okay?

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Like, I'm a beach gal, all right?

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I was like, uh-uh, I ain't moving.

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I ain't moving.

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And Jackie literally had to tell me,

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girl, I don't think your husband is in your area.

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But one of my things was I didn't want to move,

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but the big core reason was because my son

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did have a biological father that he did see

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only every other weekend, for one night every other weekend.

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It was important for me not to pull that away from my son.

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He wasn't a super involved father,

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but I never wanted to be the one

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to keep my son from his dad.

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Y'all, when my husband and I met,

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three weeks and a few days later,

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my son's dad called me out of the blue

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to tell me he was moving out of the state of Florida.

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That was supernatural.

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That was God saying, you can move out, Carla.

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I just opened the door for you.

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I already got it figured out.

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So it's not that you can't relocate.

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I opened the door for you.

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So that was God.

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I was like, this is my non-negotiable.

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I can't leave, and this is why I can't leave.

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God's like, well, you don't think you can leave.

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I've already got that in the works for you.

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So I'm gonna supernaturally show you

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that this is your husband.

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I had no control over it.

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Now, that wasn't the only thing.

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I'm just giving you that as an example

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of what supernatural confirmation can look like.

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Okay, when we're talking about this acceleration, okay?

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And I want to encourage you ladies,

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when you start dating and you're moving through level two

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and you potentially go into that level three,

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do not get quiet in this community.

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Show up, if anything,

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you need to show up more in this community.

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You need to come to your coaches

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and you need to let us know what's going on.

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We're here to walk you through the process.

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We are here to help you see the blind spots.

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We're here to help you see any red flags,

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if there are any, any yellow flags,

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and we're gonna help you guide

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how you see those yellow flags

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and if they're gonna turn green or red.

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We're gonna walk you through any of the patterns

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that your old patterns that might start surfacing,

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because ladies, I guarantee you,

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when you start dating, wounds are gonna surface.

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Triggers are gonna happen.

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Heart issues and heart wounds are gonna start surfacing.

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God is gonna start wanting to heal

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and work through some areas.

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I promise you, not to scare you,

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but to encourage you that you have a community here

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that is here to support you

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and you have coaches that have walked this

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and we know what you're experiencing

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and we are here to support you and guide you through, okay?

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And that's why we take these calls.

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That's why we have the app.

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We want you to share this with us

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because we will literally,

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we'll be your cheerleaders.

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We'll help you.

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Jackie often says she's not only a matchmaker,

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she's a matchbreaker.

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We've had to tell ladies

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and pull ladies out of some situationships.

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Like, I can't tell you, there's been a couple times

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I had to reach out to women and say,

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look, I'm concerned for you.

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This is a dangerous situation

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that you're putting yourself into.

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00:34:33.300 --> 00:34:36.219
You need to go report this to authorities.

450
00:34:37.360 --> 00:34:39.239
You need to go get a restraining order.

451
00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:41.100
This is toxic.

452
00:34:41.860 --> 00:34:43.320
This is an abusive situation.

453
00:34:44.880 --> 00:34:46.420
I've had to do that before, ladies.

454
00:34:47.360 --> 00:34:48.900
And it's, I'm not gonna lie,

455
00:34:48.960 --> 00:34:50.460
it sucks when we have to do that

456
00:34:51.179 --> 00:34:53.659
because sometimes ladies don't want to hear that.

457
00:34:54.219 --> 00:34:55.620
But ladies, we will.

458
00:34:57.400 --> 00:34:59.980
If I'm concerned for you, just know I am.

459
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:01.460
going to share that with you.

460
00:35:02.080 --> 00:35:04.520
And if it offends you, that's okay.

461
00:35:05.400 --> 00:35:07.420
Because what does Jackie say about offense, ladies?

462
00:35:09.920 --> 00:35:11.140
Does anybody want to unmute?

463
00:35:11.480 --> 00:35:13.500
What does Jackie tell us about offense?

464
00:35:16.720 --> 00:35:18.280
Anger is hurt bodyguard,

465
00:35:18.400 --> 00:35:20.340
so it's covering up an old wound that's toxic.

466
00:35:21.340 --> 00:35:21.820
Yeah.

467
00:35:23.480 --> 00:35:25.040
Offense is an N-word thing.

468
00:35:25.100 --> 00:35:26.580
That means there's a heart wound there.

469
00:35:26.880 --> 00:35:29.420
So if something us coaches say to you

470
00:35:29.420 --> 00:35:32.920
and you get triggered or offended, that's okay.

471
00:35:35.280 --> 00:35:38.300
Myself or Ebony, we're not going to take it personally.

472
00:35:38.980 --> 00:35:41.580
You can let us know something that we said

473
00:35:42.080 --> 00:35:43.600
like hurt you and offended you.

474
00:35:44.040 --> 00:35:45.040
We'll meet you there.

475
00:35:45.980 --> 00:35:47.200
We'll walk it through with you.

476
00:35:48.720 --> 00:35:49.600
We will.

477
00:35:50.940 --> 00:35:51.900
We're here to help you.

478
00:35:51.960 --> 00:35:53.020
This is not just dating.

479
00:35:53.580 --> 00:35:55.380
I know this is the dating phase.

480
00:35:55.660 --> 00:35:57.460
This is not just dating stuff.

481
00:35:58.280 --> 00:35:59.740
This is continued heart work.

482
00:36:00.380 --> 00:36:01.900
That is what we are here for.

483
00:36:02.520 --> 00:36:04.180
So I know sometimes like,

484
00:36:04.220 --> 00:36:06.460
ladies come into this phase and they're like,

485
00:36:06.720 --> 00:36:08.600
I miss heart work, can I go back?

486
00:36:09.760 --> 00:36:12.440
Ladies, bring your heart work stuff here too.

487
00:36:13.020 --> 00:36:14.800
That's one of my favorite things to do.

488
00:36:15.580 --> 00:36:19.620
I love bringing and surfacing the heart work stuff.

489
00:36:21.060 --> 00:36:24.520
Like there's nothing more like humbling and rewarding

490
00:36:25.500 --> 00:36:29.860
and just like, I thank God in those moments

491
00:36:31.160 --> 00:36:36.060
where I get to witness and be able to do

492
00:36:36.680 --> 00:36:39.240
like to partner with y'all and see the breakthrough

493
00:36:39.440 --> 00:36:42.200
that God does and works through in this program.

494
00:36:43.000 --> 00:36:44.220
Like I'm getting goosebumps.

495
00:36:44.360 --> 00:36:45.920
I'm getting goosebumps about it, ladies.

496
00:36:47.560 --> 00:36:52.920
Like that is one of the biggest gifts from this community.

497
00:36:53.980 --> 00:36:55.660
Is the healing that comes.

498
00:36:55.880 --> 00:36:58.000
It's not just the, I mean, the husband y'all

499
00:36:58.000 --> 00:36:59.040
is just the bonus.

500
00:37:01.060 --> 00:37:03.340
The relationships that you'll build in here

501
00:37:03.340 --> 00:37:05.580
and the healing that comes from this community

502
00:37:06.880 --> 00:37:08.200
is life changing.

503
00:37:09.140 --> 00:37:10.980
And it won't just change your life,

504
00:37:11.020 --> 00:37:12.920
it's gonna change so many other people's lives.

505
00:37:14.000 --> 00:37:17.420
Your family, your kids, people that you come

506
00:37:17.420 --> 00:37:20.080
in contact with, it will change their lives too.

507
00:37:20.660 --> 00:37:21.920
And that's kingdom, y'all.

508
00:37:24.680 --> 00:37:28.320
And so we just want you to show up, be vulnerable.

509
00:37:28.640 --> 00:37:30.320
We're here for you, okay?

510
00:37:31.580 --> 00:37:34.400
Just know that, all right?

511
00:37:37.460 --> 00:37:41.300
All right, I'm taking way too much time.

512
00:37:41.980 --> 00:37:45.020
Good thing is, is I'm okay to extend time

513
00:37:45.020 --> 00:37:46.720
by like 15 minutes today.

514
00:37:47.240 --> 00:37:49.780
Just don't tell on me, I don't wanna get recommended.

515
00:37:50.480 --> 00:37:55.720
I'm not supposed to go over an hour and 15 minutes,

516
00:37:56.320 --> 00:37:58.440
but it'll be our secret.

517
00:38:00.940 --> 00:38:03.980
For this coming week, I do wanna encourage you ladies,

518
00:38:04.200 --> 00:38:07.560
and this is my last thing and then we'll take questions.

519
00:38:08.200 --> 00:38:10.580
I know a lot of ladies in this community

520
00:38:10.660 --> 00:38:12.540
really struggle with the online dating.

521
00:38:12.860 --> 00:38:13.460
I get it.

522
00:38:13.460 --> 00:38:15.700
I didn't enjoy online dating myself.

523
00:38:17.640 --> 00:38:19.760
And so I get it, I get it.

524
00:38:19.760 --> 00:38:20.800
I hear you.

525
00:38:20.960 --> 00:38:23.480
I know online dating is not fun at times.

526
00:38:25.360 --> 00:38:29.460
And so we do prompt you ladies to give it a shot

527
00:38:29.460 --> 00:38:33.840
and we understand that there can be some resistance there.

528
00:38:33.860 --> 00:38:38.280
And so this week, I really want you ladies to focus,

529
00:38:39.220 --> 00:38:43.640
to share in this group this week, what are some new things?

530
00:38:44.580 --> 00:38:46.180
Okay, and write this down if you need to.

531
00:38:47.000 --> 00:38:49.140
What are some new things that you're gonna do this week

532
00:38:49.140 --> 00:38:53.460
to get out in real life to meet new people?

533
00:38:54.000 --> 00:38:58.460
Not just new guys, I'm saying new people, okay?

534
00:38:59.420 --> 00:39:01.300
What are you doing to come out of hiding

535
00:39:01.500 --> 00:39:02.800
that's different this week?

536
00:39:04.620 --> 00:39:07.720
Okay, now for some of you, this coming out of hiding

537
00:39:07.720 --> 00:39:08.880
is even gonna be scary.

538
00:39:08.960 --> 00:39:10.680
Not only is online dating scary

539
00:39:10.680 --> 00:39:12.160
and you're like, I don't wanna do it.

540
00:39:12.460 --> 00:39:14.800
Some of you ladies might be feeling like,

541
00:39:14.820 --> 00:39:16.420
I don't wanna come out of hiding.

542
00:39:17.180 --> 00:39:18.400
What do you mean?

543
00:39:18.440 --> 00:39:19.680
I don't wanna go meet people.

544
00:39:19.900 --> 00:39:20.780
I'm an introvert, Carla.

545
00:39:22.220 --> 00:39:23.800
Like people scare me.

546
00:39:25.040 --> 00:39:27.100
I get it, all right?

547
00:39:27.100 --> 00:39:31.820
If that's you, I'm gonna stretch you a little bit, okay?

548
00:39:33.260 --> 00:39:36.940
Come in the app and share with us.

549
00:39:37.220 --> 00:39:41.320
Hey, Carla, Ebony, this coming out of hiding thing,

550
00:39:41.720 --> 00:39:43.460
I'm uncomfortable with it.

551
00:39:44.460 --> 00:39:46.560
And let us know that you're uncomfortable with it

552
00:39:46.560 --> 00:39:50.100
and let us walk this through with you.

553
00:39:50.240 --> 00:39:55.380
We're here to give you feedback, tips, ideas, baby steps.

554
00:39:56.100 --> 00:39:59.980
We're here to unpack anything that's holding you.

555
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.500
hostage of like this fear of wanting to come out of hiding. This might be an area

556
00:40:06.500 --> 00:40:11.700
that the Lord is saying, hey we got to have some healing here. This is that

557
00:40:11.700 --> 00:40:16.420
preparation in order to meet your spirit mate. Jackie always says, with every

558
00:40:16.420 --> 00:40:22.740
promise there comes a process. This is the preparation period, not the waiting

559
00:40:22.740 --> 00:40:29.980
room. We're not waiting, we're preparing. So these relationships and the dating

560
00:40:29.980 --> 00:40:35.960
and everything that we're asking you to do will be a process that God will use

561
00:40:35.960 --> 00:40:43.100
to prepare you for the marriage he has for you. Y'all it took me two years to

562
00:40:43.100 --> 00:40:49.780
prepare me. I had to be willing to surrender and release this idea that I

563
00:40:49.780 --> 00:40:55.940
wasn't going to move. And God's timing had to be right. And God had it already

564
00:40:55.940 --> 00:41:02.200
taken care of. Because right when he brought my husband into my life, if he

565
00:41:02.200 --> 00:41:07.100
brought him sooner, one my husband wasn't ready. My husband was making all sorts

566
00:41:07.100 --> 00:41:11.460
of mistakes, dating women that were not good for him after his his late wife

567
00:41:11.380 --> 00:41:16.180
passed. He was doing some unhealthy things. He needed to go in counseling and

568
00:41:16.180 --> 00:41:21.140
work on his heart healing. And y'all if I met him any sooner I would have cut and

569
00:41:21.300 --> 00:41:26.620
run so far. I mean I wanted to cut and run at first. But I wasn't, I wouldn't

570
00:41:26.620 --> 00:41:29.640
have been ready. Even when I first came in this program I wouldn't have been

571
00:41:29.640 --> 00:41:35.860
ready. I was in this program for almost two years. And it wasn't until a week

572
00:41:36.500 --> 00:41:43.340
after Jackie had to be like, Carla just be open to a possibility of relocating.

573
00:41:43.440 --> 00:41:48.080
I'm not asking you to move to a different country, just be open. And I was

574
00:41:48.080 --> 00:41:54.240
like fine whatever. It was God's timing. And so finally when I was ready to

575
00:41:54.240 --> 00:42:01.880
release it, my husband was ready to accept who God had for him. We came

576
00:42:01.880 --> 00:42:10.140
into alignment and God opened the door. It was God's perfect timing. I had to

577
00:42:10.140 --> 00:42:17.340
surrender the pen and it all worked out. I had to be prepared. My husband had to

578
00:42:17.340 --> 00:42:21.380
do some preparation. I had to do some preparation. I had to prepare my heart

579
00:42:21.380 --> 00:42:29.620
for the idea of not staying in Florida. God even had me purge my church. My

580
00:42:29.620 --> 00:42:34.440
church family that had been going to for 10 years that supported me as a single

581
00:42:34.500 --> 00:42:40.940
mom. When I joined Jackie's community she's like, there's pruning that needs to

582
00:42:40.940 --> 00:42:46.060
take place. God gave her a word for us to prune things. And when God told me to

583
00:42:46.270 --> 00:42:51.870
prune my church I was like, what? I had to prune my church I had been to for over a

584
00:42:51.870 --> 00:42:56.650
decade who literally walked and supported me through one of the hardest

585
00:42:56.650 --> 00:43:04.050
seasons of my life of being pregnant with my son's father leaving me

586
00:43:04.050 --> 00:43:10.470
seven months pregnant for another woman, which I didn't find out about her until

587
00:43:10.470 --> 00:43:18.270
after my son was born and they supported me. They stood by me and God

588
00:43:18.270 --> 00:43:26.830
told me to prune them. It wasn't until after I met my husband I saw why because

589
00:43:26.830 --> 00:43:35.150
I had to be open to leaving this family and be able to release them. If I was so

590
00:43:35.150 --> 00:43:40.450
close to that church family and I didn't start moving myself back I wouldn't have

591
00:43:40.450 --> 00:43:46.110
been ready to walk away halfway across the country and be open to going to a

592
00:43:46.110 --> 00:43:53.370
new church and building a new church community. Does that make

593
00:43:53.170 --> 00:43:59.570
sense? Like I hope all this feedback like again I know I'm literally taking up so

594
00:43:59.570 --> 00:44:04.770
much time but I hope all of this is helpful and you're using as a resource

595
00:44:04.770 --> 00:44:12.190
and it's giving you hope encouragement it's pouring into you. I really do I

596
00:44:12.190 --> 00:44:16.770
don't I don't typically like to spend all this time I do always want to give

597
00:44:16.770 --> 00:44:22.950
you all the floor because that's what we're here for is here to coach you. So

598
00:44:23.890 --> 00:44:29.350
again if I took too much time let's hope that it was Holy Spirit and that you got

599
00:44:29.350 --> 00:44:36.270
something from it. Lori I'm gonna hold you last because I know you and I can go

600
00:44:36.270 --> 00:44:44.190
back and forth for a long period of time. I got Kim McKenzie HK sorry HK I don't

601
00:44:44.190 --> 00:44:48.910
know your first name you'll have to tell me. You are my four that have your hands

602
00:44:48.910 --> 00:44:54.910
up if anybody else has questions I will do my best to get to you. If you if you

603
00:44:54.910 --> 00:44:59.970
don't get a chance to get to your question put it in the in the

604
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.340
app. Okay, and then share show, I will get to your response, I

605
00:45:04.340 --> 00:45:07.160
will probably chunk it because there's a lot of things that I

606
00:45:07.160 --> 00:45:09.900
was processing when I was reading through your stuff. And

607
00:45:09.900 --> 00:45:13.260
so we'll take it in little bits. So just be prepared for that. We

608
00:45:13.260 --> 00:45:16.860
won't attack at all. But I do think there's a few things that

609
00:45:17.440 --> 00:45:21.420
God is highlighting to me to have us unpack together if

610
00:45:21.420 --> 00:45:25.500
you're if you're cool with that. Okay. Awesome. All right, Kim, I

611
00:45:25.500 --> 00:45:27.780
see you. I'm gonna let you go first. How are you?

612
00:45:28.660 --> 00:45:31.380
I'm good. It's been a New York minute. I haven't been in the

613
00:45:31.380 --> 00:45:35.960
12 o'clock class for a while, or the group. I've been going to

614
00:45:35.960 --> 00:45:38.500
Ebeneez. And then I missed the last two weeks. And I am getting

615
00:45:38.900 --> 00:45:43.780
over a little bit of a thing. So I'm sorry. So I'm not sure you

616
00:45:43.800 --> 00:45:47.720
probably are. Carl is not really caught up. But anyway, so I had

617
00:45:47.720 --> 00:45:54.460
a date. I'm getting ready to get my sixth date in. So I had two

618
00:45:54.600 --> 00:45:58.000
dates with one guy. And then now that's gone. And then I'm

619
00:45:58.000 --> 00:46:04.120
getting ready to have my fourth date with a guy tonight. So. So

620
00:46:04.200 --> 00:46:07.740
the thing about this guy is he's, he's wonderful. He was

621
00:46:07.740 --> 00:46:11.580
one of he looked great. He was clean cut. I was saying that all

622
00:46:11.580 --> 00:46:15.160
the guys that I'm seeing on Facebook dating are just I'm

623
00:46:15.160 --> 00:46:18.560
just like, I just can't like I just can't guys don't know how

624
00:46:18.560 --> 00:46:20.760
to take a picture. And I know you're supposed to give him

625
00:46:20.760 --> 00:46:24.580
grace. But I mean, I don't know. I just have trouble with that.

626
00:46:25.340 --> 00:46:28.720
But anyway, so this guy popped up and I was like, Oh, now there

627
00:46:28.720 --> 00:46:31.700
you go. And he had a nice smile. He looked genuine and everything

628
00:46:31.700 --> 00:46:35.580
was great. But then I looked down and I saw his age and he's

629
00:46:35.660 --> 00:46:39.360
he's I told I was in the evening class, but he's he's like 12

630
00:46:39.360 --> 00:46:45.020
years older than I am. Okay. But he was. But he looks better than

631
00:46:45.100 --> 00:46:48.780
most of the people my age. I'm just saying so. You know what?

632
00:46:48.840 --> 00:46:51.340
And he had a genuine look to him. I'm like, I'm going I'm

633
00:46:51.340 --> 00:46:53.600
going to go I'm going to go on the date. At least it's a date

634
00:46:53.600 --> 00:46:57.840
like right. So but we had a great day. We had a lunch date.

635
00:46:58.000 --> 00:47:02.940
It was wonderful. So then we went on a second date. So

636
00:47:02.940 --> 00:47:04.760
anyway, I'm getting ready to have my fourth date with him.

637
00:47:04.760 --> 00:47:08.640
He's amazing, like, amazing. So tell me things that you like

638
00:47:08.640 --> 00:47:11.600
about him. Like what? Well, he I'm seeing the fruits of the

639
00:47:11.600 --> 00:47:16.000
spirit. He's he's so patient. He I mean, he's, he's very kind.

640
00:47:16.060 --> 00:47:19.700
He's he's he's just definitely mature and masculine. The only

641
00:47:19.700 --> 00:47:21.760
thing that was holding out was the marriage minded and I

642
00:47:21.940 --> 00:47:22.160
didn't know what to do. And so I just, I just, I just, I just

643
00:47:22.160 --> 00:47:25.880
brought it up on our third date because he's a widow. Okay. And

644
00:47:25.880 --> 00:47:28.400
I thought he's probably thinking, well, I've had my

645
00:47:28.400 --> 00:47:30.320
marriage, I'm not going to probably get married again. So

646
00:47:30.320 --> 00:47:33.740
I was like, I asked him what he was looking for. And he said,

647
00:47:33.840 --> 00:47:36.280
Well, I'm obviously I'm looking for a long term relationship.

648
00:47:36.280 --> 00:47:40.320
And I said, I said, Do you think marriage is something that you

649
00:47:40.320 --> 00:47:44.420
would ever consider again? And he goes, Well, I don't know. He

650
00:47:44.420 --> 00:47:47.720
said, you know, it kind of gets complicated at this age, because,

651
00:47:48.120 --> 00:47:50.660
you know, he's lived most of his life. And, you know, we've all

652
00:47:50.660 --> 00:47:54.160
accumulated what we have. And, you know, the financial end of

653
00:47:54.160 --> 00:47:58.300
things. And I said, Oh, I totally get that. I said, he

654
00:47:58.300 --> 00:48:00.940
goes, Why are you? Are you looking for marriage? And I

655
00:48:01.540 --> 00:48:06.940
said, Yeah. I said, Yeah, I'm kind of done being the

656
00:48:06.720 --> 00:48:13.320
girlfriend. Like, I don't. And so I said, So yeah, if it's the

657
00:48:13.320 --> 00:48:16.120
right person and the right thing that Yeah, that's kind of

658
00:48:16.120 --> 00:48:19.780
what I'm looking for. And he goes, Oh, so he just he didn't

659
00:48:19.780 --> 00:48:23.920
really say much about it. And so he just goes, Okay. And so I

660
00:48:23.920 --> 00:48:26.520
thought, well, I might have just, you know, knocked it out,

661
00:48:26.600 --> 00:48:31.300
which is fine. And then I also told him, I said, I gotta tell

662
00:48:31.300 --> 00:48:35.500
you something else. And he goes, What's that? I said, Well, I'm

663
00:48:35.500 --> 00:48:39.220
not just doing this dating thing on my own. And he goes, What do

664
00:48:39.220 --> 00:48:44.300
you mean? And I go, I go, Well, I said, I kind of a partner in

665
00:48:44.540 --> 00:48:50.780
this. And he said, Okay. And he and I go, I go, Yeah, I said,

666
00:48:51.180 --> 00:48:51.180


667
00:48:51.180 --> 00:48:54.020
I can only imagine what he's thinking at this point. Oh, I

668
00:48:55.120 --> 00:48:58.880
know. There's another like, you're, you're already married,

669
00:48:58.880 --> 00:49:02.220
and you're trying to only imagine that's probably

670
00:49:02.820 --> 00:49:03.380
he's probably

671
00:49:05.600 --> 00:49:09.760
wild one. So I said, No, no, I said, so I said, the thing

672
00:49:09.760 --> 00:49:12.560
about this is, I said, I was married and divorced, which he

673
00:49:12.560 --> 00:49:16.520
already kind of knew. And I said, and I have just gone full

674
00:49:16.520 --> 00:49:20.380
force into dating in my life, all on my own. And, and blah,

675
00:49:20.380 --> 00:49:23.420
blah, blah. But I said, this time, I said, I'm involving God

676
00:49:23.420 --> 00:49:27.220
in my, in my dating life. And I said, so God is my partner in

677
00:49:27.220 --> 00:49:31.040
this. That's what I'm talking about. And I said, and I pray

678
00:49:31.040 --> 00:49:34.660
about it. And I said, I want him to be here with me every

679
00:49:34.660 --> 00:49:39.160
step of the way. And he goes, Oh, okay. And he goes, so he

680
00:49:39.020 --> 00:49:43.540
goes, so I've got to, I not only have to get you to your

681
00:49:43.540 --> 00:49:46.160
permission, but I also have to get I have to get his and I

682
00:49:46.160 --> 00:49:52.580
said, Yeah, pretty much. Anyway, so I felt so good that I said

683
00:49:52.580 --> 00:49:55.360
that because in the past, like I probably it would have taken me

684
00:49:55.360 --> 00:49:57.280
forever to say something like that. So I felt like God gave

685
00:49:57.280 --> 00:49:59.980
me the courage. I prayed before the date. I said, Lord, give

686
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.540
the words I need to speak, help me, you know, be authentic. I want to be honest. I just want to be

687
00:50:05.540 --> 00:50:17.820
up front. And so he's still pursuing me. And he's, he's just been so good. And so the second, well,

688
00:50:17.820 --> 00:50:21.980
my second date was my birthday, and he wanted to take me something special, someplace special for

689
00:50:21.980 --> 00:50:33.680
my birthday. So at the end of the day, he asked if he could kiss me. And I said, I said, I really

690
00:50:33.680 --> 00:50:40.360
would like to wait on that. And I was like, I heard my story, right? Huh? Have you heard my

691
00:50:40.120 --> 00:50:51.960
story? I don't know if I have or not. My husband did the same thing asked on my first date. He

692
00:50:51.960 --> 00:50:58.740
Yeah, that's great. Well, so he goes, I said, maybe we just need to wait on that a little bit.

693
00:50:58.840 --> 00:51:06.960
And he's like, Okay, I don't you know. So anyway, so then, I don't know, we had a text or something.

694
00:51:06.960 --> 00:51:17.000
And he said something about something about a kiss. I don't know. And I and I told him he said

695
00:51:17.000 --> 00:51:21.620
Oh, I know. He, he played golf, and he got a 79 on his golf score, which is credible.

696
00:51:21.740 --> 00:51:26.900
And I told him, I said, Boy, you maybe you could go on the senior tour. And then, and he said,

697
00:51:26.900 --> 00:51:30.460
he was wanting to give me a big hug. And he goes, and something about it. He goes, I don't know,

698
00:51:30.500 --> 00:51:35.240
maybe, maybe a kiss. He goes, but I got to wait and see the rules or something like that. And,

699
00:51:36.160 --> 00:51:42.140
and so I said, like, that sounds like honoring yet he has a sense of humor about it. But

700
00:51:42.140 --> 00:51:48.780
he's not. He's not pushing. He's not pushing. He's lighthearted about it. He's respectful about

701
00:51:48.960 --> 00:51:55.780
it. Which I obviously clearly see that he's interested. Yeah, no, it's, I mean, it's,

702
00:51:55.820 --> 00:52:00.860
it's been great. So I said, Yeah, well, I said, I'm definitely looking forward to that hug. And

703
00:52:00.860 --> 00:52:04.300
I said, you know, that kiss will just, you know, we're just gonna have to wait and see about that.

704
00:52:04.960 --> 00:52:08.580
But, you know, that's just gonna be it. Let's just wait and see type of thing. But

705
00:52:09.620 --> 00:52:15.640
but anyway, yeah, it's just, I don't know, he's just been very intentional, consistent.

706
00:52:17.060 --> 00:52:21.780
He's just showing me I well, Ebony had told me I told her the only thing that's holding me out

707
00:52:21.780 --> 00:52:28.400
is the age thing. And I that was giving me pause. And then Ebony said, Well, maybe this is a gift

708
00:52:28.400 --> 00:52:32.880
from God showing you what how you need to be treated. And maybe you know, someone else is

709
00:52:32.880 --> 00:52:37.820
coming that will do the same. But I'm starting to get a little bit of feeling here. So it's like,

710
00:52:37.820 --> 00:52:42.520
you know, and I'm like, I don't want to take this on too long. If it's well, here's the thing.

711
00:52:42.520 --> 00:52:46.440
Like God hasn't given me a no, I pray about it. And I've not heard any no's.

712
00:52:46.620 --> 00:52:52.680
It's a yes until it's a no. And you know, and I can imagine Ebony is giving you that wisdom to

713
00:52:52.680 --> 00:52:58.640
help you kind of release and enjoy the process. My understanding is she's going to give you that

714
00:52:58.640 --> 00:53:04.940
feedback. So you can kind of take that off your mind. Okay, it's like, look, we don't have to

715
00:53:04.940 --> 00:53:11.440
about the future right now. Now, what Jackie will teach on, and you'll hear this often,

716
00:53:11.700 --> 00:53:21.700
through the program. It's not about the age, it's about the season. Okay, this is again,

717
00:53:21.800 --> 00:53:27.040
we don't give hard rules. It's more like guardrails. Okay, every person is going to be

718
00:53:27.040 --> 00:53:34.320
different. For me, I was like, five years older or five years younger, but it wasn't a hard like,

719
00:53:34.940 --> 00:53:42.560
you're five years, two months older than me, that was a hard no. Obviously, the age didn't really,

720
00:53:42.900 --> 00:53:48.560
it was kind of there as a guardrail, but I was open to shifting if I needed to. Okay.

721
00:53:49.900 --> 00:53:58.560
I was looking more for the season, where we were at in life. Okay, I obviously had

722
00:53:59.520 --> 00:54:04.300
my son at the time when I joined this community was five years old.

723
00:54:05.940 --> 00:54:09.980
Like I had a young kid. All right, I was in my mid 30s.

724
00:54:11.360 --> 00:54:20.820
I was not opposed to dating like a 40 year old guy or even 43 or 44.

725
00:54:20.820 --> 00:54:29.040
But if he already had kids that were grown, it was, we weren't going to be in the same season,

726
00:54:29.960 --> 00:54:36.960
unless he was open to wanting to step in a role and go through that season of life again,

727
00:54:37.240 --> 00:54:43.060
with a new wife. And again, I remember I wanted to, I wanted to have more kids.

728
00:54:43.860 --> 00:54:47.880
So in my mind, I was like, I'm having more babies. So if he didn't want to have more babies, like

729
00:54:47.880 --> 00:54:56.380
bye. So again, it was just matching seasons. And so it sounds like this guy is active. He's good

730
00:54:56.380 --> 00:54:59.980
looking. You guys are clicking and like getting along us.

731
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.860
many levels, you're still, you're still like, this is a

732
00:55:02.860 --> 00:55:06.040
fourth date, you're still seeing where these things are going.

733
00:55:07.440 --> 00:55:14.860
Like, it's okay, if he's 12 years older. He sometimes it's

734
00:55:14.860 --> 00:55:19.180
like, if he's still in good health, he potentially could be

735
00:55:19.180 --> 00:55:22.960
in better health than some other men that are more your age that

736
00:55:22.960 --> 00:55:27.200
are younger, especially nowadays, you never know. You

737
00:55:27.200 --> 00:55:35.000
know, and so I will encourage you to continue to pace it and

738
00:55:35.000 --> 00:55:40.280
just enjoy the process. One thing I want to highlight for a

739
00:55:40.280 --> 00:55:44.360
teachable moment for all you ladies, I want you ladies to

740
00:55:44.360 --> 00:55:50.040
take note of what Kim did here. She waited until that third

741
00:55:50.280 --> 00:55:55.620
date to have that marriage conversation. She's not coming

742
00:55:55.620 --> 00:55:59.380
out the gate to talk about marriage and faith, and a first

743
00:55:59.380 --> 00:56:02.920
and second date. And I know some of you ladies are gonna get

744
00:56:02.920 --> 00:56:11.300
feisty with me. But I don't want to waste my time. His faith is

745
00:56:11.300 --> 00:56:14.600
so important. Like I want to marry a Jesus loving man. Well,

746
00:56:14.600 --> 00:56:19.800
I get that. Okay, we're not saying that you don't. But it's

747
00:56:19.800 --> 00:56:26.300
okay to reel that in and get to know the person and look for the

748
00:56:26.300 --> 00:56:31.820
fruit first. And then bring that conversation. And so she waited

749
00:56:31.820 --> 00:56:37.320
to that third date to feel comfortable enough to say, Yeah,

750
00:56:38.060 --> 00:56:42.840
like, you're looking for long term. I'm looking for marriage.

751
00:56:42.840 --> 00:56:49.580
Is that an option? She's not coming out the gate saying, Do

752
00:56:49.580 --> 00:56:52.760
you want to get married? Are you looking to get married out of

753
00:56:52.760 --> 00:56:56.000
the first date? Ladies, men will like cut and run, especially I

754
00:56:56.100 --> 00:57:00.840
mean, they will unless they are marriage minded, like, but

755
00:57:00.840 --> 00:57:04.120
again, if they're marriage minded and not a healthy person

756
00:57:04.120 --> 00:57:07.860
and you're having that conversation. You don't want

757
00:57:08.060 --> 00:57:13.560
that person getting attached to quickly to you either. Like,

758
00:57:14.220 --> 00:57:17.980
hold those conversations once you've had a couple dates with

759
00:57:17.980 --> 00:57:24.800
them. And again, if y'all are like, but Carla, I just don't

760
00:57:24.800 --> 00:57:30.000
want to waste my time. Then y'all ask me the questions. Let

761
00:57:30.000 --> 00:57:32.740
me know you're having those kind of feelings posted in the app

762
00:57:32.740 --> 00:57:35.720
and we're going to walk you through it. Because there's some

763
00:57:35.720 --> 00:57:39.560
there's some heart stuff that we're going to work on. That

764
00:57:39.560 --> 00:57:43.560
tells me there's a trigger. There's an unhealed trauma

765
00:57:43.380 --> 00:57:47.460
there. There's a there's something that you're holding on

766
00:57:47.460 --> 00:57:51.500
to if you think I have to find out right now, if he loves

767
00:57:53.900 --> 00:57:59.600
Jesus. God wants you with someone who's going to be in

768
00:57:59.600 --> 00:58:04.240
alignment with you. It's about surrendering that pen and

769
00:58:04.240 --> 00:58:10.380
trusting that Lord, the Lord God has that for you. He's not

770
00:58:10.380 --> 00:58:14.480
going to he's going to he's your God defended and God protected.

771
00:58:17.700 --> 00:58:20.240
He's going to let you know what you need to know when you need

772
00:58:20.240 --> 00:58:26.480
to know it. He will. We don't have to rush that conversation.

773
00:58:27.540 --> 00:58:31.760
I assure you, if a man is not aligned with the Lord, you're

774
00:58:31.760 --> 00:58:35.700
going to find out probably before the third date, there's

775
00:58:35.700 --> 00:58:38.660
going to be something that's going to get revealed. He will

776
00:58:38.840 --> 00:58:42.900
either check himself out, he will ghost you, he will show his

777
00:58:42.900 --> 00:58:47.300
true colors, something will happen. And if you're scared of

778
00:58:47.380 --> 00:58:51.100
it, or you're afraid that you were in a relationship in the

779
00:58:51.100 --> 00:58:54.620
past where you got blinded, then again, we're going to go back

780
00:58:54.620 --> 00:58:58.140
and we're going to heal that trauma. We're going to go sift

781
00:58:58.140 --> 00:59:05.100
out those lies. God is wanting to reveal whatever trauma put

782
00:59:05.100 --> 00:59:09.580
that lie there. Okay, Stephanie, are you doing okay

783
00:59:09.580 --> 00:59:19.040
with me? No. Do you want to unmute? Or do you just need a

784
00:59:19.040 --> 00:59:19.920
moment to process?

785
00:59:20.640 --> 00:59:24.440
No, I don't want other people's spot, but I'm

786
00:59:24.440 --> 00:59:26.180
will you post in the app?

787
00:59:26.600 --> 00:59:29.220
I'm working out what I want. Okay.

788
00:59:29.480 --> 00:59:34.620
Yeah, go process it. And we'll walk it through with you in the

789
00:59:34.620 --> 00:59:41.520
app. Okay, thanks. Okay, I got you, girl. That's what I'm here

790
00:59:43.060 --> 00:59:48.140
for. All right, so hopefully that helps. So Kim, um,

791
00:59:48.140 --> 00:59:51.340
well, the only one more thing I wanted to say was so the only

792
00:59:51.340 --> 00:59:56.940
thing I did notice, um, I think he's, I, he was in my Facebook

793
00:59:56.940 --> 00:59:59.980
dating thing, and he's on my my matches. And the other

794
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.740
day I was in there and he's gone.

795
01:00:02.760 --> 01:00:04.640
So I think he got off Facebook dating.

796
01:00:05.000 --> 01:00:10.460
So that kind of was telling me, I think he's thinking I found somebody I'm

797
01:00:10.460 --> 01:00:13.140
interested in and he's very old fashioned.

798
01:00:13.260 --> 01:00:15.340
So I think he's probably thinking, I'm just going to date her.

799
01:00:16.100 --> 01:00:19.600
I, we haven't had that conversation and I, I'm not dating anybody else.

800
01:00:19.600 --> 01:00:22.600
There's nobody that I've even seen an interest in right now.

801
01:00:23.440 --> 01:00:28.600
Um, but I'm still on there and I'm like, we haven't, we haven't had the

802
01:00:28.600 --> 01:00:32.040
conversation to be dating anybody right now, as long as you're pacing it.

803
01:00:32.140 --> 01:00:36.760
Well, you know, as, and ladies, as you get into that level two phase and

804
01:00:36.760 --> 01:00:40.380
you've, you start getting like four or five, six days in, and you're

805
01:00:40.640 --> 01:00:45.160
showing like you are kind of gaining interest in sickness, person is kind

806
01:00:45.160 --> 01:00:49.780
of rising to the occasion and you're seeing the fruit and you're having

807
01:00:49.780 --> 01:00:55.540
and enjoying your time, you don't have to be dating other people at that time.

808
01:00:55.540 --> 01:01:01.880
Like when you're in the beginning stages of phase level two, yeah, like we're not

809
01:01:01.880 --> 01:01:06.700
putting all our eggs in one basket, but clearly like they're processing and

810
01:01:06.700 --> 01:01:09.580
walking through this and that now they're, they're reaching that.

811
01:01:09.780 --> 01:01:09.780


812
01:01:10.100 --> 01:01:13.480
Now we're going to invest in this one person and see where this goes,

813
01:01:13.580 --> 01:01:14.680
but we're not rushing it.

814
01:01:14.880 --> 01:01:17.040
She's going to allow him to take the lead.

815
01:01:17.460 --> 01:01:17.980
Okay.

816
01:01:19.420 --> 01:01:25.360
And again, she, she threw out that there she's, she's, she's working

817
01:01:25.360 --> 01:01:27.200
and reciprocating the conversation.

818
01:01:29.180 --> 01:01:29.400
Okay.

819
01:01:29.820 --> 01:01:34.060
And again, if you're unsure of where you're at, when you're dating somebody

820
01:01:34.200 --> 01:01:37.520
and you're not sure when to have those conversations, that's when you come

821
01:01:37.600 --> 01:01:42.220
here with us and let us know, and we'll walk you through that for everyone.

822
01:01:42.220 --> 01:01:46.000
It's going to be different because it's just going to depend on your

823
01:01:46.020 --> 01:01:51.420
communication style, your attachment style what you're experiencing,

824
01:01:51.540 --> 01:01:53.140
what emotions are surfacing.

825
01:01:53.140 --> 01:01:57.260
If you've got some anxious attachment, like we might, I mean, we might.

826
01:01:57.840 --> 01:01:59.120
Shift you in one direction.

827
01:01:59.120 --> 01:02:01.320
If you have avoidant attachment, we're going to shift you another,

828
01:02:01.360 --> 01:02:03.420
if you're secure attachment, we're going to shift you in another.

829
01:02:03.840 --> 01:02:05.900
So everyone's situation is going to be slightly different.

830
01:02:05.920 --> 01:02:09.020
We're coaching the individual, but we also use these opportunities

831
01:02:09.200 --> 01:02:11.400
to kind of coach the group.

832
01:02:11.500 --> 01:02:12.380
Does that make sense?

833
01:02:12.840 --> 01:02:17.220
Not one size fits all, but everyone can learn something from

834
01:02:17.900 --> 01:02:18.980
everybody's coaching experience.

835
01:02:19.040 --> 01:02:19.700
Makes sense.

836
01:02:21.260 --> 01:02:21.740
Okay.

837
01:02:21.740 --> 01:02:24.300
Um, I think I lost you.

838
01:02:24.980 --> 01:02:25.820
You're welcome.

839
01:02:26.220 --> 01:02:28.260
Sonia, were you on an HK?

840
01:02:29.320 --> 01:02:31.620
She HK, did you have, do you have to leave?

841
01:02:31.700 --> 01:02:34.860
Is that why you dropped off or you can't.

842
01:02:39.540 --> 01:02:39.980
Oh,

843
01:02:44.040 --> 01:02:45.860
I'm guessing that she might not be able to.

844
01:02:45.900 --> 01:02:49.280
And I, for some reason, my chat, like stopped scrolling.

845
01:02:49.280 --> 01:02:52.820
So I'm going to have to go read through those, which I will do right before I get

846
01:02:52.820 --> 01:02:58.560
off so that, um, if you have to jump off, you can, but I will try to address these

847
01:02:58.560 --> 01:02:59.500
before I sign off.

848
01:02:59.620 --> 01:03:02.940
So if you want to watch and replay, I can do that.

849
01:03:03.320 --> 01:03:07.720
So HK, if you are listening, just so you know, HK said yes.

850
01:03:07.920 --> 01:03:09.320
Whatever question you had asked.

851
01:03:12.620 --> 01:03:18.860
So she can't unmute if HK, if you want to type your question before I sign off,

852
01:03:18.860 --> 01:03:20.940
I will answer it to the best of my ability.

853
01:03:21.320 --> 01:03:26.360
And if you have to jump off, if you watch it and replay, I will do my best to answer

854
01:03:26.360 --> 01:03:26.740
it.

855
01:03:27.460 --> 01:03:32.860
And if I somehow can't answer your question, I need more information, then post it in

856
01:03:32.860 --> 01:03:34.360
the app and I will get to it there.

857
01:03:35.780 --> 01:03:36.580
Sound good.

858
01:03:37.820 --> 01:03:39.720
And Sonia, I know you had your hand raised.

859
01:03:40.380 --> 01:03:41.740
I want you to do the same thing.

860
01:03:43.740 --> 01:03:49.500
I'm going to go to Mackenzie, then Sonia, and then Lori, because Lori, you and I will,

861
01:03:49.720 --> 01:03:50.700
we will, we will take time.

862
01:03:50.840 --> 01:03:51.620
I know we do.

863
01:03:52.700 --> 01:03:55.300
All right, Mackenzie, short, brief, powerful.

864
01:03:57.160 --> 01:03:58.500
Hey, all right.

865
01:03:59.020 --> 01:03:59.460
Good.

866
01:04:00.100 --> 01:04:02.320
Um, yeah, thanks for taking my question.

867
01:04:02.620 --> 01:04:07.960
I'm going to jump into the coaching after I watched the replays last week and trying

868
01:04:07.960 --> 01:04:09.680
to apply some of the things I learned.

869
01:04:09.680 --> 01:04:16.620
Um, cause I had a similar story, someone in there where they, um, had some prophetic

870
01:04:16.960 --> 01:04:24.840
words and then it kind of hindered them from being able to, uh, you know, pursue any

871
01:04:24.840 --> 01:04:26.060
relationship for years and years.

872
01:04:26.380 --> 01:04:33.040
Um, I have similar where like, I've had dreams of this specific guy.

873
01:04:33.460 --> 01:04:37.020
Um, since I was in high school, I kind of ignored those dreams.

874
01:04:37.020 --> 01:04:39.640
Then I got married, was married for 10 years.

875
01:04:39.900 --> 01:04:44.280
And then the month after I got married, I started having dreams about the same guy

876
01:04:44.540 --> 01:04:45.020
again.

877
01:04:46.500 --> 01:04:50.980
Um, and I just named him Elijah and he has black hair in all my dreams.

878
01:04:51.160 --> 01:04:52.260
Anyway, that's his name.

879
01:04:52.700 --> 01:04:53.180
Yeah.

880
01:04:53.500 --> 01:04:57.960
Well, I don't know if that's actually his name, but like in my dreams, that's his

881
01:04:58.040 --> 01:04:58.520
name.

882
01:04:58.760 --> 01:04:59.980
Um, it could be just.

883
01:05:00.800 --> 01:05:04.300
This guy that you dream about, do you know who he is?

884
01:05:05.120 --> 01:05:06.660
No, I've never met him.

885
01:05:06.820 --> 01:05:07.760
I don't know if he's real.

886
01:05:07.920 --> 01:05:09.600
I don't know if it's a representation of Jesus.

887
01:05:09.740 --> 01:05:11.000
I don't know, but.

888
01:05:11.480 --> 01:05:15.520
But the name Elijah is what you're associating him with.

889
01:05:16.200 --> 01:05:18.940
Yeah, just maybe that he just has the gifting,

890
01:05:19.400 --> 01:05:20.280
like, you know.

891
01:05:20.280 --> 01:05:20.820
Yeah.

892
01:05:20.820 --> 01:05:22.520
So I'm holding it all loosely.

893
01:05:23.500 --> 01:05:26.160
I wasn't originally holding it super loosely, but.

894
01:05:26.900 --> 01:05:29.000
I am getting to where I am.

895
01:05:30.000 --> 01:05:31.620
Because I don't want to miss, like you said,

896
01:05:31.740 --> 01:05:34.400
I don't want to miss God writing my story, what he's doing,

897
01:05:34.860 --> 01:05:36.500
just because he has black hair in my dreams,

898
01:05:36.560 --> 01:05:37.940
just because he's named Elijah in my dreams.

899
01:05:38.320 --> 01:05:40.480
The core thing that I'm looking for

900
01:05:41.260 --> 01:05:44.060
is that unconditional love, you know, that connection.

901
01:05:44.280 --> 01:05:46.400
All my dreams, it's not like sexual or anything.

902
01:05:46.400 --> 01:05:48.020
It's just like, we'll touch hands,

903
01:05:48.020 --> 01:05:51.080
and there's just like this electricity that happens,

904
01:05:52.720 --> 01:05:56.060
and understanding that we have, and care he has for me.

905
01:05:56.060 --> 01:06:00.500
So, yeah, but I find that kind of,

906
01:06:01.360 --> 01:06:03.560
I'm afraid of missing it, you know?

907
01:06:03.780 --> 01:06:06.660
And so I've been watching the coaching,

908
01:06:06.760 --> 01:06:08.360
and like, you know, we're dating for discovery.

909
01:06:08.640 --> 01:06:11.640
And I did date, I did jump in the apps last summer,

910
01:06:12.000 --> 01:06:14.180
and looking at my profiles from last summer,

911
01:06:14.180 --> 01:06:16.440
I'm like, okay, the heartwork has helped.

912
01:06:16.920 --> 01:06:17.760
Yes, it always does.

913
01:06:19.460 --> 01:06:21.220
So I feel like I'm in a better place.

914
01:06:22.420 --> 01:06:24.460
But yeah, I guess my question is just like,

915
01:06:24.460 --> 01:06:25.940
how do you get in a good headspace

916
01:06:26.340 --> 01:06:27.720
around like prophetic words,

917
01:06:27.780 --> 01:06:30.060
and like promises that you feel in your heart?

918
01:06:30.140 --> 01:06:32.560
But like, I still want to go through the process,

919
01:06:32.600 --> 01:06:36.140
and I do feel like I jumped into this program for a reason.

920
01:06:36.600 --> 01:06:39.060
So one thing that I learned in this,

921
01:06:39.220 --> 01:06:41.500
what was a blessing to me in this program is,

922
01:06:41.640 --> 01:06:44.280
you know, my background is, I mean,

923
01:06:44.280 --> 01:06:46.300
I didn't grow up with, you know,

924
01:06:46.300 --> 01:06:48.420
my parents are not like religious,

925
01:06:48.780 --> 01:06:50.500
like church was like, we didn't,

926
01:06:50.500 --> 01:06:54.220
I didn't grow up in a Jesus centered home.

927
01:06:55.040 --> 01:06:57.420
Okay, like, I don't have that background.

928
01:06:58.640 --> 01:07:02.720
God just pursued me throughout my years,

929
01:07:03.020 --> 01:07:04.200
especially in high school.

930
01:07:04.560 --> 01:07:10.320
Then I kind of went away in my, you know, 20s,

931
01:07:10.320 --> 01:07:11.960
and then God brought me back.

932
01:07:12.520 --> 01:07:15.100
And so I didn't have this whole understanding

933
01:07:15.100 --> 01:07:19.500
of the prophetic until I came into this program.

934
01:07:19.500 --> 01:07:24.700
And before this program, I was getting visions.

935
01:07:26.320 --> 01:07:31.920
And I was like, I shared this sometimes with people,

936
01:07:32.060 --> 01:07:33.320
I actually shared this with Jackie,

937
01:07:34.020 --> 01:07:36.260
and even my husband, and he thought it was funny.

938
01:07:38.040 --> 01:07:40.020
There was a time where I thought

939
01:07:40.020 --> 01:07:41.940
I possibly had a brain tumor,

940
01:07:42.040 --> 01:07:46.980
because I would wake up and close my eyes and be awake,

941
01:07:46.980 --> 01:07:48.000
and I would see things.

942
01:07:48.720 --> 01:07:51.340
And I'm like, clearly I have a brain tumor.

943
01:07:51.580 --> 01:07:52.680
Like, this is so weird.

944
01:07:52.780 --> 01:07:55.180
Like, I'm awake, and I'm seeing stuff.

945
01:07:55.980 --> 01:08:00.140
So for years, that's what's happening.

946
01:08:00.320 --> 01:08:02.640
I didn't, I was scared to tell anybody.

947
01:08:03.020 --> 01:08:04.920
And so I joined this community

948
01:08:04.920 --> 01:08:06.980
and like really started learning.

949
01:08:07.380 --> 01:08:11.560
So I'm still learning this through this program and Jackie.

950
01:08:12.220 --> 01:08:15.320
And so, but one thing that I remember Jackie sharing,

951
01:08:16.240 --> 01:08:18.899
and just again, all the women that are in this community,

952
01:08:20.939 --> 01:08:22.600
is again, like you said,

953
01:08:22.840 --> 01:08:24.380
holding those prophetic words loosely.

954
01:08:26.300 --> 01:08:29.140
And one thing that I've learned in the five years

955
01:08:29.140 --> 01:08:30.240
that I've been in this community,

956
01:08:33.180 --> 01:08:38.700
is it's important to always go back to God

957
01:08:38.700 --> 01:08:40.160
and get more clarification.

958
01:08:41.260 --> 01:08:43.880
I've learned through my years is that one time,

959
01:08:43.880 --> 01:08:46.020
like I'll think I'll hear something,

960
01:08:46.880 --> 01:08:49.040
but God will only give me parts.

961
01:08:49.960 --> 01:08:53.420
And so then I go back later and He reveals something else,

962
01:08:53.520 --> 01:08:55.120
or I misunderstood something,

963
01:08:55.140 --> 01:08:58.300
kind of like how I shared about what my non-negotiables were.

964
01:08:59.740 --> 01:09:01.660
I had a misunderstanding of it,

965
01:09:01.660 --> 01:09:03.160
because I thought I heard it,

966
01:09:03.380 --> 01:09:05.260
but I heard it in a different lens.

967
01:09:05.300 --> 01:09:10.660
And so we have to take it to the Lord through His lens

968
01:09:10.660 --> 01:09:12.180
and not always our own.

969
01:09:12.740 --> 01:09:16.040
And so I love that you're recognizing to hold that loosely.

970
01:09:17.080 --> 01:09:18.279
And so when you were talking,

971
01:09:19.960 --> 01:09:20.859
and this is why I ask,

972
01:09:21.520 --> 01:09:23.859
because before you even shared this with me,

973
01:09:24.359 --> 01:09:26.319
and you were talking about this dream,

974
01:09:26.640 --> 01:09:29.460
my first thought and when you were going to be done,

975
01:09:29.520 --> 01:09:32.180
I was going to ask you, what's His name?

976
01:09:33.939 --> 01:09:35.660
Because I thought you knew the person

977
01:09:35.660 --> 01:09:36.920
that you were dreaming about.

978
01:09:38.520 --> 01:09:40.560
And then when I was thinking that,

979
01:09:40.560 --> 01:09:44.960
Holy Spirit's telling me, ask her what His name is.

980
01:09:46.779 --> 01:09:50.340
And then you told me, without even me asking the question,

981
01:09:51.479 --> 01:09:52.520
you named Him Elijah.

982
01:09:54.160 --> 01:09:56.820
So I want you to sit with that.

983
01:09:57.580 --> 01:09:59.980
And Jackie's done this, she did this with us early on.

984
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:05.920
on. Um, and I don't know if you've heard this before, like if you go back and listen, I mean,

985
01:10:06.720 --> 01:10:13.360
I go back and listen to replays from her, like, and I feel like even on a Supernatural Saturday,

986
01:10:13.540 --> 01:10:19.300
she shared, she shared this multiple times. I've heard this story multiple times, and I have a

987
01:10:19.300 --> 01:10:25.280
pretty good memory. And so that's why I'm always able to recall many of the stories that she

988
01:10:25.380 --> 01:10:33.040
shares. Like that's kind of one of the things that, um, even Bethany's like, you literally

989
01:10:33.040 --> 01:10:38.240
can like regurgitate things that Jackie is taught on, because I will remember things that Jackie

990
01:10:38.300 --> 01:10:47.140
said. Jackie was telling us about a dream, and it was a woman that when she opened the door,

991
01:10:47.480 --> 01:10:54.080
this woman was pregnant and her, the woman's name was Joy. And then every time she would turn

992
01:10:54.080 --> 01:10:59.460
around, the woman would be more pregnant. And the next thing you know, she had a baby in her hand.

993
01:10:59.500 --> 01:11:02.880
And the next thing you know, she turned around and the baby was a toddler. And there was this

994
01:11:03.080 --> 01:11:08.580
like exhilarated process. And it had to do with like birthing seasons and joy and all this stuff.

995
01:11:09.000 --> 01:11:15.600
And it wasn't, had nothing to do with that woman, but it had something to do with her name.

996
01:11:17.100 --> 01:11:24.500
So I want you to sit and take that name to the Lord and ask him to reveal to you,

997
01:11:25.840 --> 01:11:33.060
what about the name Elijah speaks to you? And y'all, I'm not really great at this. I know like

998
01:11:33.060 --> 01:11:39.280
Elijah is a biblical name and somebody in here might know the meaning of that. I know. I mean,

999
01:11:39.280 --> 01:11:43.740
I know there's a strong meaning of the, of the name Elijah and I apologize.

1000
01:11:43.740 --> 01:11:53.620
He is God. He is my God. So Jah is God and Eli is like, yeah. Okay. Something like that.

1001
01:11:53.980 --> 01:11:58.700
So again, what is God wanting to speak to you through that dream?

1002
01:12:00.260 --> 01:12:08.700
He's wanting, again, you said, I wrote this down. Unconditional love and care.

1003
01:12:13.740 --> 01:12:18.940
It, it may be like, God is showing you that he has such love and conditional care

1004
01:12:20.240 --> 01:12:25.200
in the spirit mate that he has for you. Trust that God.

1005
01:12:29.760 --> 01:12:32.140
God's intentionally writing your love story.

1006
01:12:37.160 --> 01:12:41.420
And that's who he's designed you for. Someone that's going to have love and an

1007
01:12:41.420 --> 01:12:46.880
unconditional care for you. Unconditional love and care. He's created that for you because

1008
01:12:47.480 --> 01:12:55.480
that's his love for you. That's God's love for you. And he's again, ladies, marriage

1009
01:12:56.980 --> 01:13:04.120
is the perfect image of God. It's the divine and the masculine brought together

1010
01:13:05.640 --> 01:13:07.520
because we're all made in his image.

1011
01:13:09.680 --> 01:13:16.200
Adam was created in his image. And then he's like, something's not, not right there. He needs a

1012
01:13:16.200 --> 01:13:25.560
partner. So he pulled a part of him out of Adam and created the feminine. So in order for there

1013
01:13:25.560 --> 01:13:28.760
to be the perfect image of God, we have to come together in marriage.

1014
01:13:31.080 --> 01:13:35.060
So when you come to get like, that's what that creates there.

1015
01:13:37.940 --> 01:13:45.340
And so he's so intentional about bringing that together. He really, really is. And so

1016
01:13:46.420 --> 01:13:51.540
sit and pray on that, what God wants to show you there. And like you said, don't hold it loose,

1017
01:13:51.740 --> 01:13:55.580
loosely. Again, I know a lot of women would be like, that means my husband's name is going to

1018
01:13:55.580 --> 01:14:02.300
be Elijah. Well, that's not how prophetic words always work. I know when I joined this community,

1019
01:14:02.300 --> 01:14:09.680
we had one woman, you know, I think she had a dream or God told her like some name,

1020
01:14:09.680 --> 01:14:15.340
like a man named Michael. And even her daughters were like, Michael's your husband or something.

1021
01:14:15.480 --> 01:14:20.560
And then she met a guy and dated a guy and his name was Michael, but it turned out that wasn't

1022
01:14:20.560 --> 01:14:29.240
her husband. And it like, again, it was, he was part of the preparation for her, her husband,

1023
01:14:29.240 --> 01:14:35.360
but he wasn't her husband. Does that make sense? And so it's, again, it's holding that loosely.

1024
01:14:35.520 --> 01:14:42.600
Like we don't need to take things so literal, like doesn't mean that God can't be literal with us.

1025
01:14:42.600 --> 01:14:48.200
But I also, in my just, again, my five years of kind of experiencing with the prophetic,

1026
01:14:48.360 --> 01:14:53.640
which again, I'm no expert. Okay. I'm not going to say that I am. I've often learned that

1027
01:14:55.160 --> 01:14:59.980
it sometimes isn't so literal. And again, it's like,

1028
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:05.860
just sometimes it's very subtle and God doesn't always release the knowledge right away. He'll

1029
01:15:05.860 --> 01:15:11.940
release it in part. You know there's a lot of dreams that I've had and visions that I've had

1030
01:15:11.940 --> 01:15:18.420
over the years that he's only let me know bits and pieces and then there's been another layer

1031
01:15:18.420 --> 01:15:25.080
to it like years down the road. He gave me a vision of the wedding date that I was going to have

1032
01:15:25.880 --> 01:15:31.460
but there were so many other things that that showed me which gave me the confirmation of

1033
01:15:32.280 --> 01:15:41.340
my husband. That was another thing and it didn't click until like after we were engaged and after

1034
01:15:41.340 --> 01:15:47.620
we got married and like I mean I was pregnant in this dream and I was like about to pop

1035
01:15:47.880 --> 01:15:51.920
and I was like okay maybe I'm gonna burst something on September 3rd like I saw a calendar

1036
01:15:51.920 --> 01:15:55.680
was September 3rd. September 3rd we were all around I'm like am I meeting my husband

1037
01:15:56.340 --> 01:16:01.320
and it didn't happen. In fact Bethany got married the weekend of September 3rd a year

1038
01:16:01.320 --> 01:16:06.880
before I got married and she told me your husband's coming and I'm like I don't think so.

1039
01:16:08.100 --> 01:16:12.380
Y'all it didn't dawn on me until after I got engaged and when we were planning our wedding

1040
01:16:15.980 --> 01:16:23.220
the time that my husband and I met was December 3rd when we met in person.

1041
01:16:24.280 --> 01:16:27.580
We got married on September 3rd which was nine months.

1042
01:16:29.180 --> 01:16:37.800
When you think of pregnancy nine months that didn't even dawn on me. God revealed that to

1043
01:16:37.800 --> 01:16:45.240
after we were engaged. I was like whoa like so there's times like we don't even see it right

1044
01:16:45.240 --> 01:16:52.840
away so I just want you ladies to be open to leaving that loosely and then again I'm not like

1045
01:16:54.300 --> 01:17:02.440
dream interpretation is just not a gift that I feel strongly that I have.

1046
01:17:04.120 --> 01:17:10.380
There's times God will reveal like interpretations of things where I will get a strong sense.

1047
01:17:11.240 --> 01:17:18.200
That's just not an area that I feel like I've really grown in or that God's had me focus on

1048
01:17:18.960 --> 01:17:22.980
but I'm sure there's something to do because you mentioned it a couple times there's something with

1049
01:17:22.980 --> 01:17:30.000
black hair. Again prophetically I have no idea what black hair has to do so again take that to

1050
01:17:30.000 --> 01:17:37.780
Lord. He might reveal to you something significant about black hair and again hold it loosely.

1051
01:17:39.320 --> 01:17:42.220
He's going to show you something and it might not be right away.

1052
01:17:43.160 --> 01:17:47.680
He might reveal it to you later down the road. Does that make sense?

1053
01:17:50.160 --> 01:17:55.700
Yeah thank you. You're welcome. I'm so glad that you came and asked your question. I love that.

1054
01:17:55.700 --> 01:18:03.080
Thank you for taking the time. Absolutely. All right Sonia then Lori. Sonia. Okay so my question

1055
01:18:03.080 --> 01:18:08.440
should be quick and I'm sure it's somewhere already. Does the phone count as a date or

1056
01:18:08.440 --> 01:18:15.240
does it have to be a video chat? I prefer the video chat is considered a date not the phone

1057
01:18:15.240 --> 01:18:22.480
call because you want to see because this way you're getting face interaction. You're seeing

1058
01:18:22.480 --> 01:18:28.440
someone's response to you and I only say that because there was one time that I did have a

1059
01:18:28.440 --> 01:18:34.520
video chat with this guy. Y'all he had like no shirt on and he was like walking through.

1060
01:18:36.860 --> 01:18:40.040
Yeah again you have to give grace to these men sometimes y'all.

1061
01:18:41.840 --> 01:18:46.320
And again what I will say like again this is again Holy Spirit you must be prompting me to

1062
01:18:46.320 --> 01:18:51.580
say this because I know before heart work I probably would have gotten really offended by

1063
01:18:51.580 --> 01:18:57.920
that. I would have probably been bent sideways so if that me just sharing that so anybody that's

1064
01:18:57.920 --> 01:19:03.320
watching a replay or is on with us live and you got offended by the thought that a man wants to

1065
01:19:03.320 --> 01:19:10.340
FaceTime you and they have no shirt on and you are so offended by that there's probably an area of

1066
01:19:10.340 --> 01:19:14.580
heart work that we would want to work through. Luckily I had been through some heart healing

1067
01:19:14.580 --> 01:19:20.120
so I didn't allow that to phase me. I was just like yeah I'm not attracted to that.

1068
01:19:20.860 --> 01:19:25.600
Where in the past I probably would have been or I wouldn't have seen that as like a

1069
01:19:25.600 --> 01:19:30.860
like a yellow flag. I would have been like I probably would have been attracted to that

1070
01:19:30.860 --> 01:19:38.680
but I was kind of like yeah no I don't I don't think that's like marriage material like three

1071
01:19:38.680 --> 01:19:43.340
the three M's and I know someone I think did ask that what are the three M's and that's mature

1072
01:19:43.340 --> 01:19:50.520
masculine marriage-minded but yeah I was like this guy doesn't even look interested in me

1073
01:19:51.180 --> 01:19:55.400
and y'all like it was it was at night because again I had a I had a child so I wasn't going

1074
01:19:55.400 --> 01:19:59.980
to FaceTime somebody when my kid was awake this was probably like nine o'clock at night and so

1075
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:02.400
So it's dark and he's like walking around with no shirt.

1076
01:20:03.460 --> 01:20:08.640
And then I see him like, you know, pop a squat in his couch

1077
01:20:08.840 --> 01:20:12.300
and I see that you could see the television on.

1078
01:20:13.000 --> 01:20:14.720
He's watching television

1079
01:20:15.300 --> 01:20:17.340
while having a conversation with me.

1080
01:20:17.360 --> 01:20:19.400
His eyes weren't looking at me.

1081
01:20:19.600 --> 01:20:23.940
And y'all, this was the time when like Jackie would coach us

1082
01:20:23.940 --> 01:20:26.920
and we would come on lives with Jackie

1083
01:20:27.440 --> 01:20:30.440
and we would show up with like,

1084
01:20:30.560 --> 01:20:33.140
how to show up to a video call.

1085
01:20:33.200 --> 01:20:36.220
Cause this was like, this was the,

1086
01:20:37.180 --> 01:20:40.040
in the 2020 when I joined Jackie's community, okay?

1087
01:20:40.040 --> 01:20:41.420
So whenever the world was shut down

1088
01:20:41.420 --> 01:20:43.340
and everybody was doing Zoom, okay?

1089
01:20:43.340 --> 01:20:45.180
So some of the world wasn't opened up yet.

1090
01:20:45.180 --> 01:20:49.040
So people were having to do video dates, right?

1091
01:20:49.320 --> 01:20:54.580
And so we like, Jackie coached us to get ready

1092
01:20:54.580 --> 01:20:56.820
and put makeup on and do our hair

1093
01:20:56.860 --> 01:21:00.380
and show up with a nice blouse and have cute earrings on.

1094
01:21:00.640 --> 01:21:04.140
And so I showed up like I was gonna go out on a date

1095
01:21:04.280 --> 01:21:07.340
and this guy's walking around like with messy hair

1096
01:21:07.340 --> 01:21:09.360
and no shirt on and watching TV.

1097
01:21:09.420 --> 01:21:12.840
I'm like, I don't really like that.

1098
01:21:13.900 --> 01:21:15.460
Like that kind of stinks.

1099
01:21:16.300 --> 01:21:21.620
And so I will encourage you to count a date as a video chat.

1100
01:21:22.260 --> 01:21:22.820
Okay.

1101
01:21:23.240 --> 01:21:23.880
Thank you.

1102
01:21:24.040 --> 01:21:25.100
That makes sense and that helps.

1103
01:21:25.740 --> 01:21:26.220
Okay, good.

1104
01:21:26.860 --> 01:21:26.920
Glad.

1105
01:21:29.240 --> 01:21:32.200
All right, Lori, should we challenge ourselves

1106
01:21:32.300 --> 01:21:35.140
of how much time it's gonna take us to get through?

1107
01:21:36.800 --> 01:21:39.960
Actually, I don't really have anything to process

1108
01:21:40.000 --> 01:21:41.380
just to report.

1109
01:21:42.480 --> 01:21:43.160
I'm so thankful.

1110
01:21:43.160 --> 01:21:44.460
So we're doing a report, no question?

1111
01:21:46.040 --> 01:21:47.080
Do you have a question?

1112
01:21:48.640 --> 01:21:50.320
No, I don't really have a question.

1113
01:21:50.320 --> 01:21:54.580
All right, report and do you wanna do a time limit?

1114
01:21:55.020 --> 01:21:55.900
Do you think we could do that?

1115
01:21:56.960 --> 01:21:58.840
Oh yeah, just a few minutes is fine.

1116
01:21:59.060 --> 01:22:00.640
Okay, because then I'm gonna go through the chat

1117
01:22:00.640 --> 01:22:03.140
because I've got 42 new messages that I'm not looking at

1118
01:22:03.140 --> 01:22:04.180
that I haven't looked at yet.

1119
01:22:04.280 --> 01:22:05.420
I do wanna answer questions.

1120
01:22:05.760 --> 01:22:10.960
Yeah, I just feel really proud of myself that I am standing.

1121
01:22:12.680 --> 01:22:17.140
And the biggest thing is that I chose to trust myself.

1122
01:22:17.780 --> 01:22:18.160
Yes.

1123
01:22:18.440 --> 01:22:20.360
I chose to trust myself.

1124
01:22:20.960 --> 01:22:22.400
Instead of saying, did God say that?

1125
01:22:22.620 --> 01:22:23.680
Did God not say that?

1126
01:22:23.860 --> 01:22:25.960
Like just the word just stand

1127
01:22:25.960 --> 01:22:28.580
and then the fact that it came out as a book title

1128
01:22:30.200 --> 01:22:31.900
was such a big deal.

1129
01:22:32.020 --> 01:22:35.780
And so despite all the feelings that were circulating

1130
01:22:36.660 --> 01:22:39.600
around, it was really a lot of adrenaline,

1131
01:22:39.880 --> 01:22:44.680
a lot of attention, a lot of being liked and that's fun.

1132
01:22:44.680 --> 01:22:46.560
I mean, that's enjoyable,

1133
01:22:46.760 --> 01:22:50.220
especially with a really gorgeous guy.

1134
01:22:51.960 --> 01:22:54.580
But I'm really proud of myself that,

1135
01:22:54.780 --> 01:22:57.400
so I would say like this month of September,

1136
01:22:57.620 --> 01:23:00.480
this rest has been so profound for me.

1137
01:23:00.480 --> 01:23:03.840
It's not been perfect, but I'm learning to be like,

1138
01:23:03.860 --> 01:23:06.420
it's okay, wasn't looking for perfect.

1139
01:23:06.540 --> 01:23:09.340
So even that is like a big deal for me to be like,

1140
01:23:09.340 --> 01:23:13.480
I didn't go scouring to like replace.

1141
01:23:13.480 --> 01:23:15.400
I just literally rested.

1142
01:23:16.420 --> 01:23:19.180
And I like the things that are coming out of the rest

1143
01:23:19.180 --> 01:23:20.180
are so beautiful.

1144
01:23:20.180 --> 01:23:23.260
So it's not like I didn't ever go online,

1145
01:23:23.280 --> 01:23:27.100
but I just literally leaned back into the arms of the Father

1146
01:23:27.520 --> 01:23:29.840
when I'd have something come up and go,

1147
01:23:30.340 --> 01:23:33.180
oh, what is the question that's running through my mind?

1148
01:23:33.200 --> 01:23:36.300
That's the fear that God wants to speak to.

1149
01:23:36.480 --> 01:23:39.320
And I would just like pause into that.

1150
01:23:40.160 --> 01:23:42.400
And it's just been so beautiful,

1151
01:23:42.400 --> 01:23:43.840
not without pain.

1152
01:23:44.900 --> 01:23:46.060
It's been painful.

1153
01:23:46.620 --> 01:23:47.060
Yeah.

1154
01:23:47.500 --> 01:23:50.180
Not without anxiety,

1155
01:23:50.240 --> 01:23:53.880
but I am coming into a place of peace.

1156
01:23:55.300 --> 01:23:57.480
And instead of like putting,

1157
01:23:57.780 --> 01:24:00.500
kind of regrounding in the Lord of like,

1158
01:24:00.580 --> 01:24:03.340
instead of putting my faith in my profile,

1159
01:24:05.080 --> 01:24:07.600
or, you know, I love to show up.

1160
01:24:07.720 --> 01:24:09.620
I love to show up nice for myself.

1161
01:24:09.620 --> 01:24:15.440
So it's like, but beyond what I would normally do,

1162
01:24:15.540 --> 01:24:18.060
like, I'm not putting my faith in,

1163
01:24:18.520 --> 01:24:19.460
because I was always like,

1164
01:24:19.560 --> 01:24:21.280
I'm now back in Holland, Michigan.

1165
01:24:21.280 --> 01:24:22.720
It's a real conservative area.

1166
01:24:22.720 --> 01:24:24.840
And I'm like, I'll never find my husband in Holland.

1167
01:24:24.840 --> 01:24:28.920
I've got to go someplace else that's like, anyway.

1168
01:24:29.520 --> 01:24:29.760
Yeah.

1169
01:24:29.760 --> 01:24:30.620
But I've changed.

1170
01:24:31.340 --> 01:24:31.860
Yes.

1171
01:24:32.500 --> 01:24:35.980
And so it's like not putting my faith in Holland.

1172
01:24:36.040 --> 01:24:38.020
God could do anything.

1173
01:24:38.020 --> 01:24:40.500
I could meet somebody from anywhere.

1174
01:24:41.100 --> 01:24:41.980
Not putting my faith.

1175
01:24:42.060 --> 01:24:45.920
I'm putting myself out there, online,

1176
01:24:46.560 --> 01:24:48.100
as I have capacity.

1177
01:24:48.780 --> 01:24:50.760
I'm not making it my whole world.

1178
01:24:51.940 --> 01:24:53.000
Giving yourself grace.

1179
01:24:53.140 --> 01:24:57.040
Giving myself grace, pausing for heart work.

1180
01:24:57.500 --> 01:24:58.640
And like,

1181
01:24:59.780 --> 01:24:59.980
I just,

1182
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:03.000
just kept on saying, Oh, like, just having this really big

1183
01:25:03.000 --> 01:25:06.240
belief that like, something profound was going to come out

1184
01:25:06.240 --> 01:25:12.060
of this rest. And what's come out of it is me finding myself

1185
01:25:11.920 --> 01:25:16.620
again. And I've been so blessed, because like, I've just felt the

1186
01:25:16.620 --> 01:25:20.200
Holy Spirit because like coming back here, is like a lot of

1187
01:25:20.200 --> 01:25:23.780
memories of like raising family. And so it's a full circle

1188
01:25:23.780 --> 01:25:27.420
moment for me to have gone out through California. Yeah,

1189
01:25:27.420 --> 01:25:30.160
ministry school, experienced a lot of healing, then come back

1190
01:25:30.140 --> 01:25:36.500
here, and was in a relationship, almost engaged, chose out of

1191
01:25:36.500 --> 01:25:41.500
that and came back and just trusted the Lord. And like,

1192
01:25:41.500 --> 01:25:46.700
it's been so, so painful. But now, it's like the just

1193
01:25:46.700 --> 01:25:50.900
standing is so profound. But he said, I felt a shift in the last

1194
01:25:50.900 --> 01:25:54.260
couple of weeks. So I was at a church in Grand Rapids, and I

1195
01:25:54.260 --> 01:26:00.060
felt to find a church here in Holland, to start to live here,

1196
01:26:00.120 --> 01:26:02.160
because I've been going to be just south of here going to

1197
01:26:02.160 --> 01:26:06.940
church in Grand Rapids and not really living here. And I just

1198
01:26:06.940 --> 01:26:11.520
felt to look again, when I looked at the landscape of

1199
01:26:11.520 --> 01:26:16.180
churches, I could not see anything. And I felt to look

1200
01:26:16.020 --> 01:26:20.780
again. And this last week, I landed upon the 20th

1201
01:26:20.780 --> 01:26:27.200
anniversary of a church here. And they have gone from being a

1202
01:26:27.200 --> 01:26:31.580
really great evangelical church to an on fire for the Lord,

1203
01:26:32.580 --> 01:26:38.340
spirit filled church. And I am literally so stunned that five

1204
01:26:38.340 --> 01:26:43.440
minutes down the road is this sea of all these spirit filled

1205
01:26:43.440 --> 01:26:49.780
believers that are really hungry for God. And I just I'm, I'm

1206
01:26:49.880 --> 01:26:52.900
stunned, like I happened upon this thing that was called

1207
01:26:52.900 --> 01:26:55.500
awakened nights. And it was three nights, I got there on

1208
01:26:55.500 --> 01:26:59.140
this their second night. And I came home, I'm just like, in the

1209
01:26:59.140 --> 01:27:02.860
world, Lord, like you are overwhelming me. Like that is

1210
01:27:02.860 --> 01:27:04.920
just so profound. And like,

1211
01:27:04.980 --> 01:27:08.660
no, what is can I say for a minute, I want you to soak in

1212
01:27:08.660 --> 01:27:13.100
love it there, ladies, like soak in that, like, just sit there

1213
01:27:13.100 --> 01:27:18.280
and soak in of what God is literally showing you right now

1214
01:27:18.280 --> 01:27:24.380
in this moment. Soak in that. If he's going to do that right

1215
01:27:24.500 --> 01:27:25.100
now,

1216
01:27:25.600 --> 01:27:30.840
into agreement with everything I need, is right here.

1217
01:27:31.120 --> 01:27:35.380
Yes. If he's going to do that in that moment there. Yeah. What do

1218
01:27:35.380 --> 01:27:40.560
you think he's got for your love story? Lady that ladies that

1219
01:27:40.560 --> 01:27:47.200
goes for all of you out of rest. Like, he's such an intentional,

1220
01:27:47.800 --> 01:27:56.080
loving father. Soak in his love and his consideration and what

1221
01:27:56.080 --> 01:28:04.160
he wants to bring in your life. Not just in marriage and in the

1222
01:28:04.160 --> 01:28:09.040
spirit, mate, but just all around you. Yeah. And Laurie,

1223
01:28:09.200 --> 01:28:12.420
like, I'm proud of you. Like, I'm proud that you're proud of

1224
01:28:12.420 --> 01:28:17.480
yourself. Because you're allowing yourself to just sit

1225
01:28:17.760 --> 01:28:23.580
and be with the father and allow him to orchestrate all of it.

1226
01:28:24.280 --> 01:28:28.400
You don't need to be in a rush for it. You don't need to work.

1227
01:28:28.500 --> 01:28:33.820
You don't need to you. This isn't a job. Yeah, he wants you

1228
01:28:33.820 --> 01:28:38.260
to sit and rest and enjoy his presence and what he is

1229
01:28:38.260 --> 01:28:44.540
bringing to you every single day. Yeah. And in that, he's got

1230
01:28:44.540 --> 01:28:50.100
it all worked out. And he's got a marriage for you. Yeah. And

1231
01:28:50.100 --> 01:28:54.740
his perfect timing, not ours. Ladies, remember that it's his

1232
01:28:54.740 --> 01:29:01.680
perfect timing, not ours. Yeah. So I'm starting to dream again,

1233
01:29:01.720 --> 01:29:06.820
it feels like full circle on textile business that I had

1234
01:29:06.820 --> 01:29:11.920
started up before I went through a divorce. I'm all

1235
01:29:11.760 --> 01:29:15.900
ladies. This is what the heartwork does. This is the

1236
01:29:15.900 --> 01:29:19.300
process. This is the preparation. This is why

1237
01:29:19.300 --> 01:29:22.400
heartwork is so important. Because these are the fruits

1238
01:29:22.400 --> 01:29:26.340
that you're going to see these are the things that make this

1239
01:29:26.920 --> 01:29:35.480
community so fruitful. And so I'm calm like this is this is

1240
01:29:35.480 --> 01:29:39.880
why we see the success stories that we do. Because it's that

1241
01:29:41.320 --> 01:29:46.160
process. Like you are starting to apply this heartwork in every

1242
01:29:46.160 --> 01:29:50.380
area of your life. Yeah. And you're walking through this,

1243
01:29:50.380 --> 01:29:53.640
like, that's what I wrote down. Like, you're naturally going

1244
01:29:53.640 --> 01:29:57.820
through heartwork process. Yeah, which is preparing you for

1245
01:29:57.820 --> 01:29:59.840
marriage. Yeah, which is preparing

1246
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:05.940
for the gift that God is going to bring you when he's ready for you and your spirit mate to come

1247
01:30:05.660 --> 01:30:15.740
together. He's working all of this stuff out. Ladies, when we resist fighting the Lord and

1248
01:30:15.740 --> 01:30:21.380
wanting the control of our own stories out of our own fears and out of our own concern because we've

1249
01:30:21.380 --> 01:30:26.960
been hurt and wounded and we're scared and we haven't, you know, released some of this stuff,

1250
01:30:26.960 --> 01:30:35.020
and I get it. Y'all, there was so much. Even still, there's still so much that I have to

1251
01:30:35.020 --> 01:30:40.660
work through. And thank God we have such a loving father that just doesn't expect us to be perfect.

1252
01:30:42.400 --> 01:30:54.720
Thank you, Jesus. And also talking to one guy on eHarmony and I'm getting to experience what

1253
01:30:54.730 --> 01:31:05.830
um emotionally secure feels like. Embrace those men and they don't have to be your spirit mate.

1254
01:31:06.370 --> 01:31:14.450
I'm now dating for discovery and so it's so much less like this is the one. He's handsome,

1255
01:31:14.730 --> 01:31:22.430
he's grounded, he's um and just through his like he's worked at the same company for 35 years,

1256
01:31:22.430 --> 01:31:28.830
has people that have supported him for 25. Like I'm just some of the things that I'm noticing.

1257
01:31:29.110 --> 01:31:35.830
We message. They're a little longer messages but maybe a couple times a week. Yeah. And it's been

1258
01:31:35.890 --> 01:31:42.150
two weeks now. I don't forget about him but he doesn't consume my life.

1259
01:31:42.750 --> 01:31:46.110
Think he's attractive. And if you sell off like you're not gonna be

1260
01:31:46.840 --> 01:31:51.720
tore up from the floor up. No and this other one was like oh my word.

1261
01:31:52.200 --> 01:31:57.880
Value like what that person brought and what that person showed you and you can thank God. Thank you

1262
01:31:57.880 --> 01:32:02.580
for that opportunity just to connect with that person in that season of my life. Because ladies

1263
01:32:02.860 --> 01:32:09.500
like that is another thing like that I had to work through in this program. I was afraid of rejection.

1264
01:32:10.840 --> 01:32:15.180
Like I thought it had something to do with me. Once I worked through my heart work

1265
01:32:16.060 --> 01:32:22.300
and I had it go through this experience and really not take offense of when these nice

1266
01:32:22.300 --> 01:32:27.500
guys were just not my spirit mate but could really just embrace like what God was doing.

1267
01:32:28.360 --> 01:32:37.240
How he was using these men to bring healing in my life. Yeah. I wasn't hurt when it didn't work

1268
01:32:37.240 --> 01:32:44.080
out with them. And that you know ladies and like Laurie said it doesn't mean that it's not

1269
01:32:44.640 --> 01:32:51.680
easy. It doesn't mean that there's not some pain that happens. Like there is some healing that

1270
01:32:51.680 --> 01:32:57.080
takes place. Like I always think of you know if you've ever been hurt and wounded and there's

1271
01:32:57.080 --> 01:33:04.760
like think of an infection. You've ever had like a deep infection. In order for that infection to

1272
01:33:04.760 --> 01:33:11.080
heal like you sometimes have to cut open that wound and like literally like pull out the

1273
01:33:11.640 --> 01:33:19.080
infection. And y'all if you've ever had to go to the doctor or the ER because you have like

1274
01:33:19.920 --> 01:33:27.480
an infection under your skin because of a wound. That just it's gross. It's disgusting. It's like

1275
01:33:27.760 --> 01:33:36.020
and it smells. It's gross. Like it's nasty. They have to cut that. I mean that's kind of what

1276
01:33:36.020 --> 01:33:39.560
sometimes like I remember that's kind of what heart work felt like the first time I went through

1277
01:33:39.560 --> 01:33:46.560
it. I mean Jackie tells you in phase one it's kind of like scheduled heart surgery. Right.

1278
01:33:46.640 --> 01:33:55.240
There is a procedure. It's there's recovery time. It's it's not always easy. Okay. It just has to

1279
01:33:55.240 --> 01:33:59.860
worth it. And so you're going to go and you're going to pull that out and it's not going to be

1280
01:33:59.860 --> 01:34:04.920
comfortable. There's going to be a little pain that's involved with that. But once you remove

1281
01:34:05.120 --> 01:34:14.700
all of that infection all that disease then there's healing. And now that that disease is gone

1282
01:34:15.040 --> 01:34:19.520
that's when the healing takes place. Doesn't mean that there might not be a little scar there

1283
01:34:19.520 --> 01:34:23.660
and that there's not gonna be times that you know that might surface.

1284
01:34:25.140 --> 01:34:30.940
But God is going to use that again to mold and shape you and grow you and continue to work on

1285
01:34:31.040 --> 01:34:37.520
relationship. And you know and it will come up. It will come up in relationship. It will come up in

1286
01:34:37.520 --> 01:34:45.280
marriage. It comes up in my marriage. There's things that I thought I dealt with. And my kids

1287
01:34:45.280 --> 01:34:50.000
my my you know my bonus children. I don't really call them my bonus children. They're my kids. I

1288
01:34:50.000 --> 01:34:55.960
have three kids. But there's things that they've done that have triggered me and it's taken me

1289
01:34:55.960 --> 01:34:59.980
back to old wounds from like old boyfriends in my 20s.

1290
01:35:00.880 --> 01:35:03.180
that I thought I dealt with.

1291
01:35:03.420 --> 01:35:03.940
Yeah.

1292
01:35:03.960 --> 01:35:05.740
It's just a new layer.

1293
01:35:06.200 --> 01:35:08.560
Oh, that's me coming back here.

1294
01:35:08.560 --> 01:35:09.060
Yeah.

1295
01:35:09.060 --> 01:35:11.260
You know, going out to California to heal,

1296
01:35:11.340 --> 01:35:14.940
then coming back here and being with familiar surroundings

1297
01:35:15.720 --> 01:35:17.340
is another layer.

1298
01:35:18.460 --> 01:35:18.980
Absolutely.

1299
01:35:19.120 --> 01:35:19.520
Okay.

1300
01:35:19.560 --> 01:35:20.300
Yeah, it's good.

1301
01:35:20.300 --> 01:35:21.900
I'm gonna go through all these chats.

1302
01:35:21.900 --> 01:35:23.380
Ladies, if you have to jump off,

1303
01:35:23.440 --> 01:35:25.680
I know a few people jumped off, that's totally fine.

1304
01:35:25.700 --> 01:35:27.100
I'm gonna go through these questions

1305
01:35:27.100 --> 01:35:28.880
so that if anybody asked a question,

1306
01:35:28.880 --> 01:35:30.240
they're gonna come back to the replay.

1307
01:35:30.400 --> 01:35:31.960
I'm gonna do my best to answer them.

1308
01:35:33.600 --> 01:35:37.640
If you think of a question, definitely throw it in the app

1309
01:35:37.640 --> 01:35:39.220
and we will get to those.

1310
01:35:40.240 --> 01:35:42.860
Sarah Shaw, I will touch base with you.

1311
01:35:43.480 --> 01:35:45.280
We'll process, we'll probably do some back and forth

1312
01:35:45.280 --> 01:35:47.460
because I don't wanna, there's a lot of things

1313
01:35:47.460 --> 01:35:49.680
that I think we can probably unpack,

1314
01:35:50.060 --> 01:35:51.380
but I'm not gonna just dump it all.

1315
01:35:51.540 --> 01:35:53.280
We're gonna just pick it apart

1316
01:35:53.280 --> 01:35:55.040
and we'll just do it little by little.

1317
01:35:55.360 --> 01:35:55.600
Cool?

1318
01:35:57.460 --> 01:35:59.060
Stephanie, do you have a quick question?

1319
01:36:02.520 --> 01:36:02.840
Stephanie, how?

1320
01:36:04.980 --> 01:36:06.400
Yes, can you hear me?

1321
01:36:06.820 --> 01:36:07.160
I can.

1322
01:36:08.060 --> 01:36:09.020
Okay, one second.

1323
01:36:09.320 --> 01:36:11.140
I put this in the chat that I needed

1324
01:36:11.140 --> 01:36:15.140
to step away from my desk to say it, but,

1325
01:36:15.860 --> 01:36:17.640
hold on, go to the wrong video.

1326
01:36:17.980 --> 01:36:18.160
Hi.

1327
01:36:18.360 --> 01:36:18.780
Hey.

1328
01:36:19.120 --> 01:36:20.220
Yeah, super quick.

1329
01:36:20.360 --> 01:36:23.840
I think that I'm gonna graduate to the next phase.

1330
01:36:24.200 --> 01:36:24.800
Yay!

1331
01:36:25.660 --> 01:36:26.620
Come on.

1332
01:36:27.880 --> 01:36:30.200
Like, I remember my first call with Ebony

1333
01:36:30.200 --> 01:36:31.520
and just telling her, like,

1334
01:36:31.520 --> 01:36:34.340
she'd probably have to kick me out of this phase, but.

1335
01:36:36.660 --> 01:36:39.640
But I just wanted to take the time

1336
01:36:39.640 --> 01:36:42.260
to say thank you so much for your coaching

1337
01:36:42.820 --> 01:36:44.620
and all that you've been doing,

1338
01:36:44.640 --> 01:36:47.220
but I wanted to finish, like,

1339
01:36:47.220 --> 01:36:48.540
God was just really putting on my heart

1340
01:36:48.540 --> 01:36:51.580
for the month of September

1341
01:36:52.400 --> 01:36:56.360
that this is to be really intentional about Sabbath,

1342
01:36:56.720 --> 01:36:59.140
but then also really soaking into the season.

1343
01:36:59.660 --> 01:37:01.360
And since this is the last day of September,

1344
01:37:02.220 --> 01:37:04.520
he's just really been speaking to my heart

1345
01:37:04.520 --> 01:37:06.360
and saying, okay, all right, baby bird,

1346
01:37:06.480 --> 01:37:08.700
it's time to move on to the next phase.

1347
01:37:09.280 --> 01:37:09.920
Time to fly out of the nest.

1348
01:37:10.220 --> 01:37:12.800
Yeah, so I don't wanna go,

1349
01:37:13.020 --> 01:37:13.900
but then at the same time,

1350
01:37:13.900 --> 01:37:17.760
I feel like that push by Holy Spirit to.

1351
01:37:17.760 --> 01:37:19.580
Yeah, definitely be obedient to the Lord.

1352
01:37:20.140 --> 01:37:21.660
We're always gonna encourage that.

1353
01:37:22.120 --> 01:37:24.180
Stephanie, just know, Ebony and I are not,

1354
01:37:24.500 --> 01:37:25.820
we're still in this program, okay?

1355
01:37:26.180 --> 01:37:28.480
We're still here for you, okay?

1356
01:37:31.400 --> 01:37:36.680
We're in the app, we're in the Facebook group as well.

1357
01:37:37.120 --> 01:37:40.060
I do some, like, I don't do a lot of coaching

1358
01:37:40.340 --> 01:37:43.680
in the Facebook group in phase three,

1359
01:37:43.740 --> 01:37:47.760
but I will occasionally share something,

1360
01:37:47.760 --> 01:37:49.420
especially for the ladies.

1361
01:37:49.720 --> 01:37:53.360
Like, if you've been present here and I'll see something,

1362
01:37:54.540 --> 01:37:56.460
like, I'll say something in those chats.

1363
01:37:56.540 --> 01:37:59.300
I just leave the coaching for the ladies

1364
01:37:59.300 --> 01:38:00.980
that are coaching in phase three,

1365
01:38:01.200 --> 01:38:04.560
but don't think that I won't chime in and say hi to you.

1366
01:38:06.000 --> 01:38:07.540
I've done it a few times

1367
01:38:07.540 --> 01:38:11.320
and I haven't got reprimanded for it, so we're not far.

1368
01:38:12.860 --> 01:38:13.880
You can tag us.

1369
01:38:14.000 --> 01:38:14.400
What does that look like?

1370
01:38:14.680 --> 01:38:16.160
Yeah, what does that phase look like?

1371
01:38:16.160 --> 01:38:17.980
So, it's bigger.

1372
01:38:18.360 --> 01:38:19.160
It's a bigger community.

1373
01:38:20.160 --> 01:38:21.640
You'll have access to the Facebook group.

1374
01:38:21.780 --> 01:38:23.520
You'll also have access in the app as well.

1375
01:38:23.780 --> 01:38:25.340
So, the app doesn't go away,

1376
01:38:25.400 --> 01:38:27.460
but there's also an opportunity if you don't do Facebook.

1377
01:38:27.920 --> 01:38:32.040
You can tag me and Ebony in your post for Facebook.

1378
01:38:32.280 --> 01:38:34.380
I don't think you can do that in the app.

1379
01:38:34.500 --> 01:38:36.500
I occasionally still check back on the app

1380
01:38:36.500 --> 01:38:37.300
because I have access.

1381
01:38:37.680 --> 01:38:40.120
I just, I don't have admin,

1382
01:38:44.200 --> 01:38:45.260
what am I trying to say?

1383
01:38:45.260 --> 01:38:49.040
Admin things that I can do in there,

1384
01:38:49.040 --> 01:38:50.100
like I do in phase two.

1385
01:38:50.220 --> 01:38:51.700
I don't have approval of doing things,

1386
01:38:51.780 --> 01:38:53.220
but I still can see posts.

1387
01:38:53.920 --> 01:38:55.620
I mean, I can still obviously respond,

1388
01:38:55.720 --> 01:38:57.080
but I don't go in there as much.

1389
01:38:57.600 --> 01:39:00.160
But if you're in Facebook, you can tag my name

1390
01:39:00.960 --> 01:39:05.840
and I can see your post if you want to catch up with me.

1391
01:39:07.060 --> 01:39:07.780
Obviously-

1392
01:39:07.780 --> 01:39:09.620
I think someone just asked if there's a call or something.

1393
01:39:09.880 --> 01:39:13.540
I saw that question pop up also, if there's a call.

1394
01:39:14.220 --> 01:39:17.140
Those, it'll be under events, under your app.

1395
01:39:17.200 --> 01:39:19.480
So, you'll still want the app for all the events.

1396
01:39:20.360 --> 01:39:22.160
And sometimes, I'll be on,

1397
01:39:22.740 --> 01:39:24.540
sometimes I go on Supernatural Saturdays.

1398
01:39:24.660 --> 01:39:27.520
Sometimes I jump in on phase three events as well,

1399
01:39:27.620 --> 01:39:28.440
like when I can.

1400
01:39:29.040 --> 01:39:32.020
My husband and I, we've sometimes done the love stories.

1401
01:39:32.380 --> 01:39:32.940
Okay.

1402
01:39:33.120 --> 01:39:35.760
So, once a month or once every two months,

1403
01:39:36.200 --> 01:39:38.560
we'll bring in success stories

1404
01:39:39.000 --> 01:39:42.940
and do a whole session with a couple of people

1405
01:39:42.940 --> 01:39:44.140
that are married or engaged.

1406
01:39:45.040 --> 01:39:48.800
And we'll kind of do like a question answer session

1407
01:39:48.800 --> 01:39:49.720
with couples.

1408
01:39:50.000 --> 01:39:51.420
So, my husband and I have done that before.

1409
01:39:51.860 --> 01:39:53.520
So, those replays are in there.

1410
01:39:54.660 --> 01:39:58.060
So, you, I'll still be around and so will Ebony.

1411
01:39:58.240 --> 01:39:59.980
So, you don't have to completely leave.

1412
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:04.540
We're just, you're not going to see us every week, but we're still accessible to you.

1413
01:40:04.680 --> 01:40:10.520
And like I said, if any of you ladies ever need a like 50 minute session coaching, like

1414
01:40:10.520 --> 01:40:12.000
you have access to us.

1415
01:40:12.400 --> 01:40:12.920
Okay.

1416
01:40:13.540 --> 01:40:15.560
So we're not, we're not gone.

1417
01:40:15.900 --> 01:40:17.560
We're still praying for you.

1418
01:40:17.580 --> 01:40:19.340
We're still cheering you on.

1419
01:40:19.900 --> 01:40:19.900


1420
01:40:20.380 --> 01:40:20.620
Yeah.

1421
01:40:20.620 --> 01:40:26.440
And we're just, I like, I'm like, y'all are my girls.

1422
01:40:26.440 --> 01:40:31.240
Like, and I always tell like Bethany and Jackie, like, don't think that I don't have eyes on

1423
01:40:31.240 --> 01:40:31.800
my ladies.

1424
01:40:32.520 --> 01:40:39.460
Like I do like my girls that show up on my calls and that I have poured into, like, I

1425
01:40:39.480 --> 01:40:41.400
always want to know how you're doing.

1426
01:40:41.620 --> 01:40:47.140
And I like when y'all like I'll get ladies that they celebrate when they meet somebody

1427
01:40:47.140 --> 01:40:48.120
and they'll post it.

1428
01:40:48.180 --> 01:40:52.740
I mean, y'all like, I will just have tears of joy celebrating y'all.

1429
01:40:52.740 --> 01:40:57.860
Like, I love it when I see my ladies from this group, because I've been coaching now

1430
01:40:58.660 --> 01:41:01.840
a year and a half, almost two years in this community.

1431
01:41:02.440 --> 01:41:11.640
And so when I see my girls meet their spirit mates, y'all like, I get excited and there's

1432
01:41:11.640 --> 01:41:14.820
still women that were in my community when I joined five years ago and they're still

1433
01:41:14.820 --> 01:41:15.160
in here.

1434
01:41:15.160 --> 01:41:18.660
And then when they get to celebrate, I'm like, yes, yes.

1435
01:41:18.660 --> 01:41:21.280
And I get to show my husband, I'm like, oh my gosh, this is one of my girls.

1436
01:41:21.280 --> 01:41:24.240
They met their spirit mate, you know, all sorts of things.

1437
01:41:25.280 --> 01:41:26.840
So we're not far.

1438
01:41:28.380 --> 01:41:29.080
All right.

1439
01:41:29.100 --> 01:41:37.260
So just make sure that you stay in touch and stay active in communities so that we can

1440
01:41:37.380 --> 01:41:39.780
pray for you, celebrate you.

1441
01:41:40.720 --> 01:41:44.380
And we, you know, we could be here to support you.

1442
01:41:44.820 --> 01:41:45.320
Yeah.

1443
01:41:45.320 --> 01:41:46.240
Thank you so much.

1444
01:41:46.340 --> 01:41:47.140
Good luck, girl.

1445
01:41:47.740 --> 01:41:51.120
I just want to encourage the other ladies, get the most out of it.

1446
01:41:51.920 --> 01:41:57.680
The bride activation that you did wrecked me and it wrecked me in a good way.

1447
01:41:58.920 --> 01:42:06.240
And it was that that helped me with the breakthrough with realizing that I needed to celebrate

1448
01:42:06.820 --> 01:42:12.940
myself and that I had trouble with celebrating myself, which was why I had so much trouble

1449
01:42:12.940 --> 01:42:20.120
with seeing myself as a bride, which then with this being my birthday month, it was

1450
01:42:20.120 --> 01:42:21.260
all connected with that.

1451
01:42:21.420 --> 01:42:26.640
So God was using my birthday month also as an opportunity for me to activate in that

1452
01:42:26.640 --> 01:42:34.680
way and actually plan and go through with doing birthday celebrations, which I haven't

1453
01:42:34.680 --> 01:42:37.340
done in the past because I dreaded it.

1454
01:42:37.340 --> 01:42:44.940
Not that I dreaded my birthday or getting older, but it was a disconnection with celebrating

1455
01:42:44.940 --> 01:42:48.780
and feeling celebrated, which had to do with daddy wounds as well.

1456
01:42:49.520 --> 01:42:49.520


1457
01:42:49.520 --> 01:42:50.320
So, yeah.

1458
01:42:50.620 --> 01:42:53.260
Stephanie, thank you so much for sharing that with me.

1459
01:42:54.020 --> 01:42:54.860
That means a lot.

1460
01:42:55.460 --> 01:42:56.400
It really does.

1461
01:42:57.620 --> 01:42:58.480
It fills me.

1462
01:42:59.040 --> 01:43:04.100
It just humbles me that, you know, when God speaks those things on my heart, like that

1463
01:43:04.100 --> 01:43:08.280
he is working, like there's a purpose when he puts those things on my heart.

1464
01:43:08.320 --> 01:43:13.520
And I'm so thankful that that blessed you and that healed you and helped you.

1465
01:43:14.360 --> 01:43:17.120
Like that just, oh, that fills me with so much joy.

1466
01:43:17.120 --> 01:43:19.720
And so thank you for sharing that with me.

1467
01:43:19.720 --> 01:43:21.180
I really appreciate it.

1468
01:43:21.380 --> 01:43:22.060
Thank you.

1469
01:43:22.520 --> 01:43:24.740
Are you, are you, are you going to Austin?

1470
01:43:24.820 --> 01:43:25.760
Are you able to go to Austin?

1471
01:43:26.060 --> 01:43:27.180
I'm going to try.

1472
01:43:27.220 --> 01:43:30.420
I'm trying to figure out how I can make that happen because I live in L.A.

1473
01:43:30.920 --> 01:43:31.800
Well, I'm going to try.

1474
01:43:31.800 --> 01:43:35.440
If you're going to be there, make sure you find me and say hi to me.

1475
01:43:35.760 --> 01:43:36.400
Oh, yeah.

1476
01:43:36.880 --> 01:43:37.200
Okay.

1477
01:43:37.740 --> 01:43:38.240
All right.

1478
01:43:38.540 --> 01:43:38.800
Okay.

1479
01:43:38.800 --> 01:43:38.980
Thank you.

1480
01:43:39.180 --> 01:43:42.160
Let me get through some of these questions and then we'll sign off.

1481
01:43:42.260 --> 01:43:46.020
Like I said, ladies, if you have to go, like, I'm not going to hold you hostage down here.

1482
01:43:46.100 --> 01:43:46.260
Okay.

1483
01:43:46.260 --> 01:43:48.360
I'm just doing this for anybody that wants to jump on the replay.

1484
01:43:50.200 --> 01:43:55.100
Sonia, you were wondering how long we were dating, that I noticed that he was doing hard work.

1485
01:43:55.980 --> 01:44:02.600
I kind of started picking that up within the first month through some of our conversations

1486
01:44:06.260 --> 01:44:12.720
because, and I will tell you, like, he, he kind of deep dived with me.

1487
01:44:12.760 --> 01:44:16.820
And that was kind of one of the reasons why I wanted to cut and run because he wasn't

1488
01:44:16.920 --> 01:44:20.160
following the advice that Jackie was giving us because he wasn't in hard work.

1489
01:44:20.400 --> 01:44:24.940
And so he kind of like shared some stuff that I was like, whoa, dude, like that's too much

1490
01:44:24.940 --> 01:44:25.280
too quick.

1491
01:44:25.320 --> 01:44:28.420
It was kind of why I was like, I don't know about this guy.

1492
01:44:28.520 --> 01:44:33.920
But again, I extended grace and just, again, like I put up boundaries.

1493
01:44:34.480 --> 01:44:35.360
I redirected.

1494
01:44:35.760 --> 01:44:41.600
Again, I was coming to community, expressing what I was seeing and hearing and what was

1495
01:44:41.600 --> 01:44:42.380
going through my head.

1496
01:44:42.480 --> 01:44:45.740
And Jackie's like, Carla, slow down.

1497
01:44:46.140 --> 01:44:47.460
Like, just go enjoy it.

1498
01:44:47.460 --> 01:44:48.900
Let the guy take you on a date.

1499
01:44:49.720 --> 01:44:53.260
So that was about how long I know, like it was, it was a little while.

1500
01:44:53.260 --> 01:44:55.860
So he was talking to me about the counseling stuff.

1501
01:44:56.620 --> 01:44:59.980
So when you were with your husband for 16 years, hoping, okay, for his heart.

1502
01:45:00.000 --> 01:45:09.020
yeah so yeah I mean that was just again I was just noticing that he was he was

1503
01:45:09.020 --> 01:45:14.840
open to doing that that was one area where again I needed to pace it and see

1504
01:45:14.940 --> 01:45:22.340
because he my husband did share with me how destructive and toxic toxic his

1505
01:45:22.340 --> 01:45:26.640
previous marriage was and that freaked me out because I was like I'm not

1506
01:45:26.640 --> 01:45:31.260
getting into a marriage with somebody that had an unhealthy marriage but

1507
01:45:31.300 --> 01:45:37.740
that's when I learned he was able to own his side of the street of it but he did

1508
01:45:37.740 --> 01:45:41.640
share with me like some of her stuff and I'm like she's not even here on this

1509
01:45:41.640 --> 01:45:45.560
earth to be able to defend herself so that's where I was like whoa but then

1510
01:45:45.980 --> 01:45:51.560
again just pacing it and knowing when to ask the questions and waiting to ask the

1511
01:45:51.660 --> 01:45:56.820
questions and looking for the fruit was super helpful so I hope that kind of

1512
01:45:58.440 --> 01:46:04.020
helps okay so I'm gonna try to do this without having to like jump sometimes my

1513
01:46:04.020 --> 01:46:09.240
scroll does that okay so Stephanie was blessed with the Sabbath I think that's

1514
01:46:09.240 --> 01:46:14.600
what she was grateful to confirm that God was saying to me okay gave me

1515
01:46:14.600 --> 01:46:23.380
January 25th was my b-day awesome she was sharing that okay perfect okay and I

1516
01:46:23.380 --> 01:46:30.800
answered your question about the phone call date yes thank you Sam yep yep the

1517
01:46:32.580 --> 01:46:41.160
video Naples to I think that might have been Florida I was commenting on you

1518
01:46:41.160 --> 01:46:45.780
Sarasota was a beautiful beach and I said so is Naples yes yes I've been to

1519
01:46:45.780 --> 01:46:50.520
Naples yep yeah I used to live there I want to go back yes and yes so then

1520
01:46:50.520 --> 01:46:58.340
Laura's talking about Orlando Disney yes it is humid Laura totally get that but

1521
01:46:58.340 --> 01:47:05.380
we I've been to Disney like a million times I love seeing a few a few ladies

1522
01:47:05.380 --> 01:47:10.900
follow Jackie like she just did the Disney World trip in Orlando for a

1523
01:47:10.900 --> 01:47:16.280
that was awesome to see all those pictures so again just always be

1524
01:47:16.280 --> 01:47:20.480
looking at that resource page ladies because we do trips Jackie will do trips

1525
01:47:20.480 --> 01:47:25.520
and I've been to Disney with Jackie and it is a good time like I tell you Jackie

1526
01:47:25.520 --> 01:47:31.040
is a fun person to hang out with her and David they're just wonderful wonderful

1527
01:47:32.360 --> 01:47:37.520
people yep Lori moved to the beach yep okay

1528
01:47:38.420 --> 01:47:42.700
Kathleen is asking do you have to leave the house I don't know if she's still on

1529
01:47:43.640 --> 01:47:49.520
Kathleen if you're listening to this replay I want you to come to the app I

1530
01:47:49.520 --> 01:47:53.880
want you to share with me what you mean by leaving the house is there something

1531
01:47:53.880 --> 01:47:59.680
that is causing you to not leave the house or is it a fear that you have that

1532
01:47:59.680 --> 01:48:03.500
you don't want to leave the house so help me understand that a little better

1533
01:48:03.500 --> 01:48:09.600
and we can unpack that some more in the app or on next week's call I think it

1534
01:48:09.600 --> 01:48:13.420
was in response to the activation about doing some new things that's what I was

1535
01:48:13.420 --> 01:48:19.020
thinking too yeah yeah so I just yeah I'm curious to know that so Kathleen if

1536
01:48:19.060 --> 01:48:26.600
you if you hear this in replay shoot me a message in the app under the ask the

1537
01:48:27.380 --> 01:48:30.380
coach so Laura a part of a local chamber of

1538
01:48:30.600 --> 01:48:34.620
commerce she's going to a ribbon-cutting that's exciting so again

1539
01:48:34.620 --> 01:48:39.560
she's gonna get out and meet some people probably network you know ladies

1540
01:48:39.740 --> 01:48:44.960
anything that is community like don't hesitate to go out to those things you

1541
01:48:44.960 --> 01:48:51.280
can meet a lot of people like work your work your you know charismatic you know

1542
01:48:51.280 --> 01:48:57.740
charm if you don't have it like practice it you know if there's a fear there

1543
01:48:57.740 --> 01:49:02.020
let's talk about it how can you start getting out of your comfort zone and

1544
01:49:02.020 --> 01:49:06.440
meeting people and striking up small talk with people I was telling my

1545
01:49:06.440 --> 01:49:10.800
husband this the other night I used to be a very shy person and he looked at

1546
01:49:10.800 --> 01:49:15.200
me he's like no you weren't I'm like oh yes I was I wasn't shy with people that

1547
01:49:15.200 --> 01:49:23.180
I knew like I had to be comfortable with them but I was 100% very very not

1548
01:49:23.180 --> 01:49:29.660
outgoing and very shy I said I had to grow in that he's still he's like no I

1549
01:49:29.660 --> 01:49:32.660
don't believe it because I will literally just strike up conversations

1550
01:49:32.660 --> 01:49:37.000
with anybody as long as I've been recharged because I am like an

1551
01:49:37.300 --> 01:49:41.680
ambivert I'm like I recharge as an introvert but then I'm like extroverted

1552
01:49:41.680 --> 01:49:49.340
to like you know be connected with people but I get drained when I give out

1553
01:49:49.340 --> 01:49:54.320
too much energy so I have to kind of be by myself to recharge so he stills like

1554
01:49:54.320 --> 01:49:58.880
I don't believe you I'm like trust me I was I was definitely very very shy as a

1555
01:49:58.880 --> 01:49:59.980
kid and as a teen

1556
01:50:00.000 --> 01:50:06.580
as well. Yes, I had to prune my church family. It was very difficult. It was even difficult

1557
01:50:06.580 --> 01:50:11.780
for some of my friends and community, like church community. Like, there was some wounds

1558
01:50:11.780 --> 01:50:18.560
there. Like, some people, they struggled with it. And, like, I had to work through that

1559
01:50:18.560 --> 01:50:25.720
with them. They realized that they would have gotten offended when I stepped away. So, there

1560
01:50:25.720 --> 01:50:33.900
was a lot of stuff that went on with that. Okay. Italy after college. Okay. So, I think

1561
01:50:33.900 --> 01:50:40.880
that was when I was talking about, you know, the women that we coach all over. Love it,

1562
01:50:40.980 --> 01:50:44.240
love it, love it. Yeah. Like, ladies, this community, we have so many people from so

1563
01:50:44.240 --> 01:50:50.100
many different countries. And just getting connected with the women in this community,

1564
01:50:50.700 --> 01:50:56.340
then when you are ready to go over to the next phase, like, honestly, like, you can

1565
01:50:56.620 --> 01:51:03.700
literally have a vacation spot anywhere. Like, when I was in this community, it was much

1566
01:51:03.960 --> 01:51:11.940
smaller, but I had so many connections with people all over the country. We had a woman

1567
01:51:12.120 --> 01:51:18.620
that was, lived in Australia, and she actually got married. She and her husband were Australian.

1568
01:51:19.300 --> 01:51:26.020
They flew to the United States, got married in Austin, Texas. It was about a couple months

1569
01:51:26.020 --> 01:51:33.860
after my husband and I got married. And my husband and I went to their wedding. So, like,

1570
01:51:34.200 --> 01:51:37.660
we're like, well, if we ever decide to go to Australia, like, we're gonna go visit them.

1571
01:51:37.900 --> 01:51:48.600
We were at their wedding. So, it's really cool. New things for your week, Sam. You're

1572
01:51:48.600 --> 01:51:52.540
awesome. Pearl, do you do a lot of homeless ministry stuff?

1573
01:51:54.460 --> 01:52:01.540
I'm involved with a group called Petunia House. They are a nonprofit that is designed to put

1574
01:52:01.540 --> 01:52:06.300
the lonely in families. And so, it's got a lot of people from different churches in the area

1575
01:52:06.300 --> 01:52:10.940
that are single of various ages. And they get together and do all kinds of things. You know,

1576
01:52:10.980 --> 01:52:15.060
and one of the things we're doing is helping a homeless ministry that's every Tuesday.

1577
01:52:15.060 --> 01:52:21.120
But we're doing it, we do only do it once a month with them. It's called Catharos is the group that

1578
01:52:21.120 --> 01:52:28.400
does the weekly. Okay. The reason I ask, are you going to be at the anniversary party?

1579
01:52:28.980 --> 01:52:32.140
No, I can't make it. Okay.

1580
01:52:34.840 --> 01:52:41.420
Austin, not Austin, Dallas, single city. When you get in there,

1581
01:52:42.600 --> 01:52:48.040
do an introduction post that I see that you're in there. I did. I have already. You have? Okay.

1582
01:52:48.500 --> 01:52:53.640
Well, I think following the instructions, I didn't do one separate from the directory,

1583
01:52:53.640 --> 01:52:59.680
I don't think. That's okay. Any of the events that you're going to,

1584
01:52:59.860 --> 01:53:06.300
let me know if you're in, if you're going. Yeah. The reason I share that is my daughter,

1585
01:53:08.300 --> 01:53:19.220
she has a calling on her life to start a nonprofit when she's older to do something with homeless

1586
01:53:18.920 --> 01:53:27.340
people. And so I really at some point in her future, I want to start helping her grow in

1587
01:53:28.380 --> 01:53:35.920
that and start getting her connected. And so I'm always listening for things to help her get

1588
01:53:35.920 --> 01:53:40.880
involved, because I think God wants to grow that in her. I think he's just, again, I think he's

1589
01:53:40.880 --> 01:53:45.440
orchestrating some really great things. My hairdresser was telling me about this idea.

1590
01:53:45.560 --> 01:53:54.280
And I was like, that was not by coincidence, or that was purposeful. And so, and again,

1591
01:53:55.100 --> 01:53:59.840
she's my bonus daughter, and there's a lot of stuff there. And so I'm always just trying to

1592
01:54:00.060 --> 01:54:08.000
ways to bond with her. And so that's why I asked, because I'd love to pick your ear at some point.

1593
01:54:08.500 --> 01:54:13.260
Yeah, there's ways to get connected with that, with that. Yeah, I don't know, just to find out

1594
01:54:13.260 --> 01:54:18.420
this area. Like, again, I'm always just trying to look and see like, what can I do to help her

1595
01:54:18.420 --> 01:54:22.900
get plugged in those areas? Yeah, I don't know what age she is. But I know a lot of people

1596
01:54:23.820 --> 01:54:28.200
already is about to be 14. So I know she's a little young. So that's why I'm like, I'm still

1597
01:54:28.200 --> 01:54:34.360
kind of cautious with that. And like I said, like she's, she's going through a season herself. And

1598
01:54:35.260 --> 01:54:45.380
so but like I said, I just want to be open to what God is showing me and directing me. So that's why

1599
01:54:45.780 --> 01:54:53.500
I ask. Awesome. So then you're going to dinner with strangers. That's awesome. Friday's lunch

1600
01:54:53.500 --> 01:54:57.720
with a new girl from church. I love see, I love it. You're just getting yourself out there and

1601
01:54:57.720 --> 01:54:59.980
like, that's what this is.

1602
01:55:00.000 --> 01:55:08.180
all about. Like, it really, really is. So that's awesome. My husband, men in age groups,

1603
01:55:08.240 --> 01:55:12.180
seem hesitant to go on dates. Okay, so Stephanie, I know she's probably going to reach out to

1604
01:55:12.180 --> 01:55:26.800
me on the app. If you're shooting for 120 and above, or 12 years is no big deal. Okay,

1605
01:55:26.800 --> 01:55:32.380
I literally had a guy who was 16 match with me on Christian dating and asked, Okay, right out

1606
01:55:32.380 --> 01:55:39.280
the gate. Do you want kids? This was before I was coached on about Yes. Yeah. Again, just waiting

1607
01:55:39.280 --> 01:55:50.980
on those conversations. Yeah, totally, totally get that. He wasn't gonna wait, he was 60 years. Sam,

1608
01:55:50.980 --> 01:56:00.060
he was 60 years old. Yeah. That's weird. And he wanted kids of his own. Yeah, that's super weird

1609
01:56:00.060 --> 01:56:05.960
to me. Yeah, that's, I was like, willing to give it. Maybe it was a good thing that he asked you

1610
01:56:05.960 --> 01:56:14.720
so you could say, Yeah, no, thank you. And, and he could just, yeah, I'm telling you. Okay, but

1611
01:56:14.720 --> 01:56:20.480
then God defended and God protected for sure. Like God shows you what you need to see when you need

1612
01:56:20.480 --> 01:56:25.660
to see it. Trust that. Okay. And again, we don't have to take offense to it. We don't have to be

1613
01:56:25.660 --> 01:56:29.800
all bent out of shape about it. We can just be like, Okay, thank you, God. Just want to let you

1614
01:56:29.800 --> 01:56:36.260
know, I'm part of a prayer team out downtown Wichita on Sunday. And I prayed for a gentleman

1615
01:56:36.280 --> 01:56:45.360
80 years old, with a one year old. Wow, he had his whole family there. And it was like, Okay, and

1616
01:56:45.460 --> 01:56:50.140
I have a one year old, he goes, I need my heart cleared. I was like, not a problem. Lord can do

1617
01:56:50.140 --> 01:56:55.480
it. I've seen a new before. Here we go. You know, and it was like, and I've been I declared 120

1618
01:56:55.480 --> 01:57:02.160
over him so that his kid could have his father. There you go life. And then he also had, she was

1619
01:57:02.160 --> 01:57:07.620
about four, I would say four or five years old. Yeah, daughter. Absolutely. So he had a one year

1620
01:57:07.620 --> 01:57:11.920
old son and like a five year old daughter, and then he had older kids and stuff. So exactly. I

1621
01:57:11.920 --> 01:57:16.900
mean, that's what I'm saying. Let God do the miracles, y'all. Let God do it. Let God do it.

1622
01:57:16.900 --> 01:57:28.520
Absolutely. Amen. 100% Okay, yep. You said God's protection, not a man's rejection. Absolutely.

1623
01:57:31.180 --> 01:57:38.060
Yeah. And so again, you allow that opportunity to reveal something to you to go back and take it to

1624
01:57:38.060 --> 01:57:43.200
the Lord and get some healing. That's what I love about this program. And again, for the ladies that

1625
01:57:43.200 --> 01:57:49.320
are watching it and replay because I know I'm taking forever. Like, that's what this is all

1626
01:57:49.320 --> 01:57:55.380
all about. Okay, so HK is gonna ask her question in the evening. So I want to make sure I let Ebony

1627
01:57:57.340 --> 01:58:08.200
know. I'll reach out to Ebony here in a minute. Awesome, awesome. I love that Sarah shell like

1628
01:58:08.200 --> 01:58:13.660
your visions and dreams. I love that. I saw you kind of when I was explaining that like you you

1629
01:58:13.660 --> 01:58:21.740
got it. You understood it. Like that was just a whole new world for me. Like, yeah, God, Lord

1630
01:58:22.040 --> 01:58:28.100
strength of the Lord. God is Jehovah, my God of Yes, I love that. Thank you for sharing that with

1631
01:58:28.020 --> 01:58:35.600
Mackenzie. I have three sons and they never want to wear shirts or any clothes. Yeah, I need to do

1632
01:58:35.600 --> 01:58:49.180
my sons. Let's see. Yeah, when you prepare for a video day, and they are not. Again, you just learn

1633
01:58:49.180 --> 01:58:54.600
to just let it roll. Like you get it again. It's when you just show grace. They don't know what

1634
01:58:54.600 --> 01:58:59.820
they don't know. You know, they don't. So again, and we're not there to teach them and make them

1635
01:58:59.820 --> 01:59:07.060
feel bad about it. Exactly. Like, it is what it is. Again, if we can kind of look past it, and again,

1636
01:59:07.100 --> 01:59:12.200
that's when we we want to be fruit inspectors. Like, if they're patient, if they're kind, if

1637
01:59:12.200 --> 01:59:18.480
they're joyful, if they have love in their heart, like that's, that's the stuff that we're looking

1638
01:59:19.140 --> 01:59:28.020
for. Y'all like my husband did not know how to dress. I've changed that. Still not 100%. Don't

1639
01:59:28.020 --> 01:59:37.560
almost said that. But he has such a servant's heart. He really cares and loves people. He just

1640
01:59:37.560 --> 01:59:44.200
loves the Lord. And but he connects with people and he's not I mean, you wouldn't he doesn't.

1641
01:59:45.380 --> 01:59:51.460
Like this is the one thing like my husband when I first met him, I wouldn't think he was all in it

1642
01:59:51.460 --> 01:59:59.980
for God. Because he's just a real guy. Like, he approaches everybody and but

1643
02:00:00.000 --> 02:00:02.060
That's what makes him so awesome,

1644
02:00:02.780 --> 02:00:06.540
that he could literally just make friends

1645
02:00:06.540 --> 02:00:08.220
and just get to know people.

1646
02:00:10.100 --> 02:00:13.100
But his heart for the Lord is so beautiful,

1647
02:00:13.280 --> 02:00:15.600
but you wouldn't know that until you really got to know him.

1648
02:00:16.500 --> 02:00:19.220
And it's not something that he would just openly share.

1649
02:00:20.960 --> 02:00:23.160
Like, it was important to him,

1650
02:00:23.760 --> 02:00:27.160
so obviously in his profile,

1651
02:00:27.720 --> 02:00:30.860
and he was in a Christian Facebook dating group,

1652
02:00:31.340 --> 02:00:35.860
so I knew, but I didn't judge him

1653
02:00:35.860 --> 02:00:37.360
because he didn't show up,

1654
02:00:37.440 --> 02:00:39.620
because it wasn't like he was praying in tongues

1655
02:00:39.620 --> 02:00:40.680
and da, da, da, da.

1656
02:00:41.460 --> 02:00:44.660
We didn't have a lot of those conversations early on,

1657
02:00:44.660 --> 02:00:46.360
I just got to know him as a person.

1658
02:00:47.220 --> 02:00:50.360
And it's really awesome because even in marriage,

1659
02:00:50.600 --> 02:00:52.840
like when we're at church and I can look over at him

1660
02:00:52.840 --> 02:00:54.960
and I just see how he just honors the Lord

1661
02:00:55.540 --> 02:00:58.360
in new ways that I learn about it,

1662
02:00:58.360 --> 02:01:00.760
I'm like, how beautiful is that?

1663
02:01:01.200 --> 02:01:03.820
So I hope, like if anybody's watching this in replay,

1664
02:01:03.960 --> 02:01:07.600
like I know I often get women that are like,

1665
02:01:07.700 --> 02:01:08.920
first date, they just want to know

1666
02:01:08.920 --> 02:01:10.220
this man's on fire for the Lord

1667
02:01:10.220 --> 02:01:11.580
and it has to look a certain way.

1668
02:01:12.600 --> 02:01:15.820
Like, just, I want to tell you there's such a gift

1669
02:01:15.820 --> 02:01:18.840
and a beauty of looking at your husband

1670
02:01:19.800 --> 02:01:21.480
after being married for a little while

1671
02:01:21.480 --> 02:01:25.120
and seeing these beautiful moments

1672
02:01:25.120 --> 02:01:28.400
of how they just praise and honor and worship the Lord

1673
02:01:28.440 --> 02:01:29.960
that you never get to see

1674
02:01:29.960 --> 02:01:31.400
until like you've been married to them.

1675
02:01:31.960 --> 02:01:33.820
So don't like take that for granted.

1676
02:01:35.180 --> 02:01:37.520
Like, so anybody that needs to hear that.

1677
02:01:39.540 --> 02:01:41.380
When it comes to changing wardrobes,

1678
02:01:41.460 --> 02:01:44.820
it's amazing how many things shrunk after we got married.

1679
02:01:45.900 --> 02:01:47.860
Sorry, Lord, sorry, honey, it shrunk,

1680
02:01:47.920 --> 02:01:49.580
but I bought you these new things.

1681
02:01:50.140 --> 02:01:50.760
And you look amazing.

1682
02:01:50.760 --> 02:01:52.300
And it happened to my husband too.

1683
02:01:52.600 --> 02:01:54.540
And he's like, how is it all my stuff shrinks?

1684
02:01:54.680 --> 02:01:55.340
I'm like, I don't know.

1685
02:01:55.340 --> 02:01:57.080
He's like, babe, I gained some weight.

1686
02:01:57.120 --> 02:01:58.540
I'm like, honey, that's fine.

1687
02:01:59.000 --> 02:02:00.240
Like, it's totally fine.

1688
02:02:01.680 --> 02:02:03.300
Yeah, replace it with the good stuff.

1689
02:02:03.740 --> 02:02:05.340
We've been working on my health.

1690
02:02:05.460 --> 02:02:07.860
And so now that my health is like all in check,

1691
02:02:07.880 --> 02:02:10.480
because ladies that are hearing this,

1692
02:02:10.580 --> 02:02:11.640
like I'm in my forties,

1693
02:02:11.980 --> 02:02:14.660
perimenopause is a real thing that no one ever talks about.

1694
02:02:16.620 --> 02:02:18.660
So I've had a lot of health things.

1695
02:02:18.660 --> 02:02:20.860
I know y'all have been praying for Jackie

1696
02:02:20.860 --> 02:02:21.960
and all her health stuff.

1697
02:02:22.440 --> 02:02:24.500
Like that is like a thing.

1698
02:02:24.500 --> 02:02:26.160
So if you're in your thirties, your forties,

1699
02:02:26.240 --> 02:02:28.000
your fifties, sixties, like that is a thing.

1700
02:02:28.040 --> 02:02:30.020
So now I'm encouraging my husband

1701
02:02:30.020 --> 02:02:31.800
to get all of his blood work done.

1702
02:02:31.960 --> 02:02:34.540
Like we got my health hopefully now in check.

1703
02:02:34.860 --> 02:02:36.680
Now it's like focusing my husband.

1704
02:02:36.780 --> 02:02:39.580
He's like, I need to figure out this weight thing.

1705
02:02:39.580 --> 02:02:41.800
Cause he's like, I always worked out and lost weight easily.

1706
02:02:41.880 --> 02:02:43.280
And now he's in his forties,

1707
02:02:43.420 --> 02:02:45.260
weight doesn't come off like it used to.

1708
02:02:45.360 --> 02:02:46.360
And I don't care.

1709
02:02:46.360 --> 02:02:48.740
Like, I'm like, I didn't marry you for your looks.

1710
02:02:49.360 --> 02:02:51.240
You know, I mean, I think he's very attractive,

1711
02:02:51.480 --> 02:02:54.220
but I also joke that I didn't find him physically attracted

1712
02:02:54.220 --> 02:02:55.820
when I saw pictures of him.

1713
02:02:56.640 --> 02:02:58.800
And obviously like I married him

1714
02:02:58.800 --> 02:03:00.420
because I find him very attractive.

1715
02:03:01.060 --> 02:03:04.120
Not at first, it grew, but again,

1716
02:03:04.120 --> 02:03:06.400
I was attracted to the qualities and characteristics.

1717
02:03:07.400 --> 02:03:09.640
Like I'm very attracted to my husband,

1718
02:03:10.540 --> 02:03:13.760
physically, spiritually, emotionally, and always.

1719
02:03:13.760 --> 02:03:16.740
Like there is an intimacy that we have built over time

1720
02:03:16.860 --> 02:03:19.460
and it still continues to grow in marriage.

1721
02:03:20.960 --> 02:03:21.680
All right.

1722
02:03:22.240 --> 02:03:23.720
I still got a lot of these questions.

1723
02:03:24.460 --> 02:03:27.020
What is it about 12 years older that you're fearful about?

1724
02:03:27.240 --> 02:03:27.600
Yes.

1725
02:03:30.500 --> 02:03:33.260
So yeah, I think we kind of unpacked that.

1726
02:03:37.280 --> 02:03:37.760
Okay.

1727
02:03:39.100 --> 02:03:41.100
Got it, got it, got it.

1728
02:03:42.100 --> 02:03:46.380
Good, good, good, good, good, awesome, awesome.

1729
02:03:46.520 --> 02:03:49.720
I think I'm just trying to get through here.

1730
02:03:51.900 --> 02:03:52.420
Perfect.

1731
02:03:55.160 --> 02:03:55.680
Awesome.

1732
02:03:56.800 --> 02:03:58.440
Is there a call like this in phase three?

1733
02:03:58.780 --> 02:03:59.780
So Sam, good question.

1734
02:04:00.480 --> 02:04:02.200
We do have calls.

1735
02:04:03.060 --> 02:04:05.000
Jackie will do what's called love seats.

1736
02:04:05.500 --> 02:04:07.900
And so you'll have to kind of sign up

1737
02:04:07.900 --> 02:04:10.020
to be put in the love seat to ask her questions.

1738
02:04:10.020 --> 02:04:11.360
So those will be posted.

1739
02:04:11.920 --> 02:04:13.400
Anybody wants to get in the love seat.

1740
02:04:13.500 --> 02:04:15.900
And there is occasionally a time that like,

1741
02:04:16.500 --> 02:04:18.700
if there's not people signed up for love seat,

1742
02:04:18.780 --> 02:04:21.160
she might ask and people can volunteer themselves

1743
02:04:21.160 --> 02:04:21.880
for a love seat.

1744
02:04:22.320 --> 02:04:23.840
We also do, it's called Ask Jackie,

1745
02:04:23.920 --> 02:04:26.340
where there's a form in phase three

1746
02:04:26.400 --> 02:04:28.860
where you can ask your dating question

1747
02:04:29.220 --> 02:04:32.500
and Jackie will do a recording typically once a month

1748
02:04:32.500 --> 02:04:35.140
to go and answer all of those dating questions.

1749
02:04:35.140 --> 02:04:38.320
And she'll either do it live or post a video of it.

1750
02:04:38.320 --> 02:04:39.540
So it is very similar.

1751
02:04:39.540 --> 02:04:41.360
It is just a bigger community.

1752
02:04:41.540 --> 02:04:44.820
So if you've ever been to any of our prayer calls

1753
02:04:44.900 --> 02:04:46.380
or Supernatural Saturday,

1754
02:04:46.540 --> 02:04:49.220
you'll see like we have like hundreds of people.

1755
02:04:49.540 --> 02:04:53.840
So it is not as intimate as our phase two.

1756
02:04:54.300 --> 02:04:56.740
And so that's what makes this space special

1757
02:04:56.740 --> 02:04:58.720
and why we allow,

1758
02:05:00.000 --> 02:05:05.860
we don't like we have this space so that as you ladies are getting started on dating

1759
02:05:06.620 --> 02:05:12.380
it helps kind of get your feet wet so that it's not overwhelming and so that you feel

1760
02:05:12.380 --> 02:05:18.960
more comfortable in a very like quaint smaller community before going out there. Does that make

1761
02:05:18.840 --> 02:05:25.060
sense? Yeah and I definitely need it and you're probably going to have to kick me out. I get it

1762
02:05:26.960 --> 02:05:33.260
and and God will prompt you to like he did with Stephanie like and again we want to be obedient

1763
02:05:33.260 --> 02:05:39.620
to the Lord and and there's and that's the thing there are some really impactful powerful things

1764
02:05:39.860 --> 02:05:45.000
in phase three too that you don't want to miss out on. You don't want to stay in here forever

1765
02:05:45.000 --> 02:05:50.240
because there's so much good valuable content there too. I mean we do advanced heartwork in

1766
02:05:50.240 --> 02:05:54.280
there as well not that we don't do heartwork in here because I always try to always bring

1767
02:05:54.280 --> 02:05:59.580
things back to heartwork for you ladies because you're going to do that in marriage so that's

1768
02:06:00.560 --> 02:06:05.240
important like heartwork is never finished. I heard that you can't go backwards once you're

1769
02:06:05.240 --> 02:06:09.380
in phase three you can't come back to phase two or if you're in phase two and you feel like you

1770
02:06:09.380 --> 02:06:17.300
need to go back to phase one you can't. No no but we will do like whatever you need in each phase

1771
02:06:17.300 --> 02:06:25.120
it's there for you. So like women that come here and they want to go back to heartwork like

1772
02:06:25.480 --> 02:06:32.180
you don't lose heartwork you know. Ebony and myself we went through heartwork we've been

1773
02:06:32.180 --> 02:06:39.000
trained on heartwork you know we can still do heartwork for you. I'm just saying I've seen a

1774
02:06:39.000 --> 02:06:44.020
I saw a couple women. Yeah no I know because again it's like when I was there that heartwork is a

1775
02:06:44.220 --> 02:06:51.580
place like y'all I didn't start dating for a year after doing my heartwork so I get it like you're

1776
02:06:51.580 --> 02:06:57.420
like but no I don't want to go out there I want to stay in my cozy little warm blanket so we get it.

1777
02:06:58.740 --> 02:07:02.840
I don't want to date where I'm at because I don't I don't plan on staying here I refuse

1778
02:07:03.300 --> 02:07:09.700
to stay here you know so I'm like I don't want to lead anybody on I don't want to risk my heart on

1779
02:07:09.700 --> 02:07:13.380
you know yeah the good person but unless he's willing to leave this place.

1780
02:07:14.960 --> 02:07:20.500
Yeah no which again like you never again you never know what God will want to do does it

1781
02:07:20.500 --> 02:07:26.580
mean that there's not a man out there that could be you know in your town that wants to move but

1782
02:07:26.580 --> 02:07:34.040
again it's just that's how God just work in your heart and and whatever we need to kind of

1783
02:07:34.040 --> 02:07:39.780
back whatever layers we're just going to allow God to help you process that okay we don't have

1784
02:07:39.780 --> 02:07:47.140
to rush it it doesn't have to be overwhelming we're not here to freak you out. I've learned

1785
02:07:47.140 --> 02:07:55.480
my lesson from the past he told me no and I was like okay fine you will yeah I was like cool.

1786
02:07:56.040 --> 02:08:05.000
Yes so we're here for you we are here for you okay keep going yep there's definitely a couple

1787
02:08:05.920 --> 02:08:12.520
all right yep Stephanie they responded that okay yep Kim had to run awesome

1788
02:08:13.380 --> 02:08:25.200
oh yes Stephanie did do the Disney retreat I thought she I was like I think she was at the

1789
02:08:25.940 --> 02:08:30.160
and here he did it he just did it I didn't have to do it it just

1790
02:08:30.740 --> 02:08:34.320
like where'd they all go he goes they're not for the next season I'm like okay

1791
02:08:35.680 --> 02:08:41.500
there you go there you go all right I got through all the comments all right I know this went long

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so those that stuck it out through the replay I appreciate it I do not typically go this long

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but I did feel that Holy Spirit really spoke some good encouragement and so I hope that

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um y'all got something really good from it and that you feel encouraged and um that you're feeling

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lifted and ready for the week and we're praying for you and don't be a stranger come to app

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let us coach you don't be afraid to be offended and let us know what offenses you have

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we're here to work the heartwork for you we're here to kind of pull out the dross okay I always

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love like God gave me this beautiful image of you know heating up the gold

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purifying gold and getting it like it melts down and what happens is all of the impurities

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float to the top so you can clear all of that out and it is the same vision like so beautiful

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so don't be afraid of that okay I know at times it can be painful it can feel hot

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like pressure like oh my gosh like I'm under the fire but God has

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such a process that's so beautiful and you know we're here to walk it with you

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there's nothing that you're going through that we probably haven't had to

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walk through some of the same feelings emotions stuff okay we're here to give

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you grace and understanding okay we're here to partner with God with you all

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right so just know that we love you and we're here for you all right ladies have

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a blessed rest of your week bye you next week