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Okay. Let's see. I did. Okay. Oh my gosh. Yeah. So I want you guys to get to know my

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Brian and because he's going to be a part of the community too. And so we're going to

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have fun tonight. So we have a few parts for tonight. I'm going to do some flash. I call

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them flash questions. So there's something in your house you have to go get, you have

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to come back and share it. So I have four flash questions tonight. Then I have three

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more thoughtful, but not deep, heavy questions that I'm going to open to everybody. And then

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I'm going to ask like, I'm going to have an opportunity where you guys get to ask the

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opposite sex some questions. So I'm going to let you put questions in the box. I'm

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going to feel them, see which ones I think are appropriate. And we're going to let the

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men answer and then men, you're going to put in questions you would like the women to answer.

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So we're going to kind of get some feedback there. Then I want you to guys get a chance

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to ask us anything that you want, especially, you know, how he roped me in, I don't know.

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And then we're going to, I'm going to spotlight like four or five of you to ask some new people

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to ask my fun, deep, deep questions. But if you guys, I'm going to give you just in case

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people are just coming on. So remember, this is single spotlight. He said, she said, so

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single spotlight, we will spotlight people at the end. He said, she said was always meant

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to be, what do the guys think? What do women think? And so we're going to be able to ask

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everybody that. The goal is for you to be camera ready, camera on, even sick. I put

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some lipstick on for y'all. I mean, I'm married and so I don't have to look camera ready,

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but I made sure I look camera ready for y'all. Um, but an idea that you guys might have since

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it's the new year and I know a lot of you did that's like, what time and season are

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you in? One of the things that we did, we knew it was going to rain on our honeymoon

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a few days. So I brought my laptop and I was like, Hey, we can work on our dreams and vision

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board. And so one of the things that if you guys are stuck on what to do for goals, him

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and I kind of came up with goals and we did it in five different categories. This is a

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sidebar. I'm just giving you sidebar because in case you're not camera ready, I'm giving

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you some new chicks and some men some time to get ready and look beautiful while I'm

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doing this. So I'm giving you a few minutes to look beautiful. Okay. So I picked five

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topics, faith, family and friends. That's number two, the future, where do we want to

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go together, fitness and financial. So we came up with a bunch of things and then I

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dumped it into chat GPT and I said, what are some common words, themes and verses that

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attribute it to it? And then chat GPT came across and they were like, Brian, we think

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based on your goals, steadfast should be your word. And here's why. And here's what it means

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practically and here are some scriptures and here's some visual symbolism. Then it did

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the same thing for me and it did it for us together. And then from that, I was able to

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create our little vision board y'all like, so it's just some visual pictures. So you

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can't really tell what our goals are for the year, but we're going to be hanging this up.

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And so as a single person, I encourage you to do this so that like, I like white space

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and you guys, I did not, I don't like, I'm so lazy. I don't like going to find magazines

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and they're so expensive. Magazines are so expensive. And so honestly, for images, I

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just Googled images and I just screenshot and I cut. And I'm sure I broke a lot of copyright

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rules doing it. I don't care. No, I may try to pick pictures. And just in case you guys

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don't think that Jesus care boards apply to married people, it does. And I know some of

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you guys have done, some of you are crafters and you're artists and you do like really

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fancy schmancy Jesus cares boards. And then you get me who like, we have the creativity

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of a three-year-old. And so I just have a whiteboard that says Jesus cares with the

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verse and post-its because guess where these now, Brian's got to fill up his, these are

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just mine. So he's got to fill up his because that's the first Peter verse that we always

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reference. But then I added another verse called Jesus delivers and I got Mark 11, 24.

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Therefore, I tell you, whatever you do, you ask for a prayer, believe that you received

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it and it will be yours. So that's the Jesus cares. And this is the Jesus answered. And

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so I just wanted you guys to know everything you learn in heart work applies after you're

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married to, for you guys to be a healthy unit. So practice all of that stuff now. Okay. Camera

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ready. Are we camera ready? All right.

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Your first question for Cameron.

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They want to know what your steadfast word was.

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Oh, you told them mine.

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Oh, yes.

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His was steadfast.

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Mine was grounded, which was really good.

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Because my whole life changed last year.

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And I'm about to graduate this year from seminary.

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And I still have no freaking clue

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what I'm going to do with it.

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But I better do something so I can pay off this student loan

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that I took out.

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And I wiped out my savings account to do it.

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But no, we have some ideas.

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I mean, I know completely I have this.

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So I thought grounded was a really good word for me.

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Like, I like the idea of me just feeling safe and grounded.

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Like, now that I'm married and trusting in somebody else

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to kind of shepherd me, y'all, I've

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been single my whole life.

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So that's really scary.

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And the word that it gave for us together

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was abide, which I really love that word abide.

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Abide means like abide with God, abide with one another.

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But it really focused a lot about us going to Him first

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and not just to each other.

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So great question.

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I'm glad.

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Thank you for checking in on that for me.

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Because you know I don't see out of my right eye

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in the chat bars over there.

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OK.

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Your first question, and there's no shame in this one.

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So your first question is, go get a Christmas decoration

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that's still lying around your house.

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It's January 16th, people.

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16th.

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Oh, it's the 15th.

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But it's after Epiphany.

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Now, if you have a whole tree hanging up,

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just grab an ornament from the tree,

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something that lets us know your tree is still up.

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So go grab.

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It could be a winter.

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You might be like, well, I've decorated for winter now.

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We still have his whole Pittsburgh Steelers,

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what do you call it, village?

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Christmas village still up.

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Because it kind of looks like a winter scene.

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So we still have that sticking up.

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I love it, Wisdeen.

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OK, so Wisdeen, you better go grab me an ornament.

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I want to see something from it.

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So once you have your item, raise your hand.

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And I'm going to call on you, and you're

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going to tell us what it is and why it's still up.

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OK, so I see a couple of you.

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So Gail, I think I saw your hand up.

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Gail, what's your item?

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It's a Christmas card.

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And it has my cat.

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Is your volume up?

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Wait, oh, my bad.

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My volume was turned off.

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Go ahead, do it again.

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It's a Christmas card.

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I love it.

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My little cat is on it.

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I got him to wear a Santa hat.

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I love it.

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Oh, I see a lot of people with their hands raised.

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I'm so excited to see what people still have up.

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I love it.

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Tamika, what do you got for us?

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I have poinsettias.

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I have about 10 poinsettias around the house

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alongside some other Christmas ornaments.

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I still have them up with my Christmas tree.

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Well, and they don't die.

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Poinsettias don't die, man.

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Those things can last.

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So I say keep those beautiful things up.

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I love it.

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Thank you.

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I love it.

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OK, Gail Harden, what you got?

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Hi, I have, it's like an ornament.

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Door hanger is what I use it for.

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And I decorate everywhere.

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Everything is put away, but this was still hanging around.

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I love that.

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OK, so Gail, normally every year there's

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always one item that somehow does not get packed away.

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It's like the potholder.

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It's hanging on the door.

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It's a something.

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And you find it, and you're like, well, dang it, crap.

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All my Christmas stuff is put away.

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So I feel you.

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It'll probably be somewhere in the closet or in a drawer

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until next year.

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I feel you.

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It's all good.

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OK, Bernice, Bernice, you're up.

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What you got for us, girl?

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OK, I never put up Christmas ornaments

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because I'm packing to move.

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But this was still out, so it's a manger.

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And it's a Christmas ornament.

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Oh, I love it.

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And Jesus is always the reason, man.

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So I think that's a good thing to keep up all the time.

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I love it.

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I love it.

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Marsha, what do you got?

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Oh, OK, can you hear me?

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Oh, OK.

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You still have your tree up.

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No shame in that game.

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One of my favorite ornaments.

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This is one of my late dogs.

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This is my late dog.

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This represents Daisy.

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I bought this ornament when she was still alive,

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while I was working at a craft store years ago.

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I also got my duchess.

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That represents my other late dog.

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These were great dogs.

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I love that.

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That's so precious.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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David Wright, what do you got for us, buddy?

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So I have my little, my grandma made me this.

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He's my little David gingerbread man.

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And she passed away a couple of years ago,

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and so I think she hand-painted it, and so I think about her.

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I love that.

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I was in the Nutcracker once, so I always

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have these little clips.

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those pegs that are all the different characters

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from Nutcracker.

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So I like to, it's hard,

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it's always hard for me to put them away.

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And then another one that represents grandma too.

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Those are always like,

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it takes me about a month

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and I always give myself till January

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and then they can go, they can go away.

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They can't be around until January but.

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I love it.

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I love it.

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Megan.

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I put up all my decorations,

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but the one ornament that I left out

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is a picture of my dog.

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She passed away this fall

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and it's the first Christmas without her.

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So my friend, one of my friends sent this to me

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like a couple of weeks before Christmas.

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And I just, it like just about wrecked me

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when I saw this.

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I was like, that's the sweetest, most thoughtful gift.

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And I'm like, I don't think I can ever put this up.

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So it's just staying on myself.

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So sweet.

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My friend, I lost one of my dogs

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on like Thanksgiving weekend

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and she got me a paw print with his name on it.

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And I like lost my cookie.

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So I feel you girl.

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I feel you girl.

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I have that too.

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I know.

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Oh my gosh.

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I love that.

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Kim, what do you have for us?

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Oh, hold on.

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Oh, I love it.

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Look at us.

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I love it.

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So y'all are so sentimental.

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I love how sentimental.

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I actually found this at a thrift store

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but I was born and raised in Anchorage, Alaska.

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So it's very special to me.

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Oh my gosh.

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I love that.

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You guys, do you see how

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I'm not just like having fun with you all tonight.

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Like this is a way for you guys to get to know the people

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in your community,

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either that you may want to date personally

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or it would be perfect for your sister or brother

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or uncle or cousin, right?

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So we believe in community matchmaking.

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I'm also giving you good dating ideas.

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Like you always say like, what do I say on level two dating?

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Like, what are some fun questions?

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I'm giving you fun examples tonight.

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This is how you have fun getting to know somebody

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without asking them, what do you do for a living?

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Where do you work?

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You know, all that stuff.

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Is it Alla?

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Am I saying that correctly?

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Yes.

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Okay.

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I have this little

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house.

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I know it's not really Christmas decoration,

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but I'm really happy to be a proud homeowner.

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I love that.

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I love it.

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I love it.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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I love it.

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Yesenia.

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Am I saying that correctly?

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Yesenia, I love that name.

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It's fun.

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Yeah, that was perfect.

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All right.

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So I still have my wintry trees up.

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Nice.

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I'm a very big tree person.

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I have branches here.

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Cool.

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I'm a very big tree person.

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That's the main thing I have up.

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I still have my Christmas tree up,

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but it's not Christmas tree anymore.

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It's a Valentine's day tree now.

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I love it.

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I saw Regina does a Valentine,

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that she keeps hers up all year long

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and it's just pink.

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I love it.

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So I never used to do that.

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And all of a sudden I've been,

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I guess it's the whole psychoactivation thing.

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And I bring a lot of love stuff up.

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I love it.

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That's awesome.

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I love it.

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Mary, what do you got for us?

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My Hallmark ornament collection's still out.

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Oh, I love that.

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I love that.

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That's awesome.

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You guys are all so sentimental.

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I love it.

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Karen, what do you got for us?

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This Karen?

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Karen, Liberty Hall.

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Oh, okay.

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Liberty Hill.

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Oh, Liberty Hill, sorry.

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This is my angel.

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Nice.

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And it's name is Listen Herald.

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Ooh, okay.

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Hark the Herald Angels Sing.

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So it's-

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I love that.

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Hark means listen.

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And then Herald, I just thought was kind of funny.

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I love it.

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Yeah.

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I love it.

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Thank you.

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What do you got?

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Forgotten decoration.

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It was on the table.

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Actually, my mom was into ceramics and she made it

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and her initials are on the back of it in 1979.

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Oh my gosh.

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I love that.

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I think she used to put candies on it,

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but since I'm healthy now, it was holding my chapstick.

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I love it.

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Crystal, that's so sweet.

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You'll treasure that.

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Helen, what you got?

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Hi, everybody.

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This was a season of firsts for me

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and it was my first time decorating my own place

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after years and years and years of roommates.

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Yeah.

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Not roommates, but I'm over that 100%,

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except for a roommate.

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Anyway, this ornaments that I got

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at a kind of thrift store in SoCal, here in SoCal.

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And I think it'll stay all year long.

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Awesome.

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Awesome.

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I love it.

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Abram, I saw you hold up something,

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but you're not raising your hand.

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Did I, did you have something?

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Yeah, I want you to tell us what you got.

355
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I like hearing from the guys, too.

356
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Oh, you might have to go get it now.

357
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While we're waiting for him, Tiffany, I'll let you go.

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This is a harp, because I'm a harpist, so my...

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You're a harpist. Oh, my gosh. That's awesome.

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So my tree is always full of harp ornaments.

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Oh, my gosh. I love that.

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Like, who doesn't love a good harp?

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I mean, my gosh, that's, like, one of the most romantic.

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It's up there with a saxophone for me.

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Oh, my gosh. I love knowing that you do that.

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See, y'all, like, we just learned something about Tiffany

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that would not have naturally just come up.

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Abram, what you got?

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All right. Can you hear me?

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Yeah.

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Oh, is it an ornament?

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I love it.

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I can't see. What is it?

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Is it the Wiseman?

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Oh, now I lost you. I lost your voice.

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We just lost your voice somehow.

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I know my earbuds don't always work, either.

378
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Can you hear me? I can't hear you.

379
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Dang it. All right.

380
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Type in the chat what it is.

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I love it. It's beautiful, but type in the chat what it is

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so we can be clear on what it is.

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It looks like the Wiseman, doesn't it?

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Kind of, yes.

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Like a Nativity scene or Wiseman.

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Yeah, yeah. We love it.

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All right. Candy, you're up. What you got?

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Yeah. I still have my Christmas tree up.

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So, this year, I find the wood from the thrift store,

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so I make my own ornament.

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And I have a Bible verse on it.

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I have a Bible verse. It's Roman 1513.

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I love it.

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May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace

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as you trust in Him

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so that you may overflow with hope

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by the power of the Holy Spirit.

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I made this, yeah, I made that this year.

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Congratulations. I love that. You guys, I love this.

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I'm so glad I asked this question.

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Jessica, what do you got?

402
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Well, let me see if I can, can you hear me?

403
00:17:05.920 --> 00:17:07.020
I can hear you.

404
00:17:07.020 --> 00:17:08.540
All right. Let me see if I can, oh, yeah.

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I have everything up yet.

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I love it.

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I am a Christmas tree.

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I love Christmas, and I just can't let it go.

409
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And what will happen, though, is sometime in the next two weeks.

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So, what is your typical,

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how long will you try to hang on for?

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Well, in the next two weeks sometime, one day I'll go,

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all right, I'm done, and then I'll get done.

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Yeah. Brian was really mad

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at how fast I took the decorations down.

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He's like, that's the fastest I've ever had them come down.

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And I was like, I just didn't want to come home

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from our honeymoon and have them still up.

419
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Not to mention, our condo's the size of a pea.

420
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So, like, it's real estate.

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It's space in my home that we desperately need.

422
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So, I love, Jessica, I love it.

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I mean-

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Well, and just so you know,

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I put it up a week before Thanksgiving, so.

426
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Okay. Wow.

427
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Well, you gotta, that's awesome.

428
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And you know what?

429
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I say, enjoy it, girl.

430
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You might've won the prize tonight.

431
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Gina, you're the last one.

432
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Okay, well, mine's not really an ornament.

433
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This is it.

434
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Everything else is put away.

435
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What is that?

436
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It's my little dog,

437
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and she's still wearing her little penguin sweater.

438
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Oh my gosh, I stinkin' love it.

439
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That is too cute.

440
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I love it.

441
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You can see her.

442
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She's busy.

443
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I love it.

444
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Oh my goodness, so adorable.

445
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All right, okay.

446
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All right, I'm making sure there was no other questions

447
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that I needed to ask.

448
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Okay.

449
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Well, somebody else said,

450
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Jessica, Tamika said,

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Tamika, do you still have all your decorations up too?

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You guys are awesome.

453
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I love it.

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Okay, I love that.

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I love that.

456
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So fun.

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Okay.

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Number two question.

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Go find us your,

460
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either your favorite slippers or your favorite blanket.

461
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Since it's cold for most of us, not all of us, it's cold.

462
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So what do you snuggle?

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It could be a little stuffed animal.

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It could be a blankie or your favorite slipper.

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So go get them and come on back and raise your hand.

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Oh, look it, some people are already ready.

467
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I'm gonna wait just a moment.

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So we can-

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They were probably already wrapped up in them.

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They were.

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Fair.

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I got one.

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I will be honest with y'all.

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I have my slippers, which Brian got matching slippers.

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I literally went to the Warby Parker store

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with them on today.

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I was like, I'm not even changed.

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I didn't even realize that.

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But I left the house with my slippers on.

480
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I don't care.

481
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It's 25 degrees in Nashville.

482
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Kim, what you got?

483
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Let me see them.

484
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You gotta show them.

485
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You can't just tell us.

486
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You gotta show it.

487
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Okay.

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What is it?

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What are you showing us?

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Slippers.

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They're cute. They're pink.

492
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It was my roommate got them for me.

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I love them.

494
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They're sweet.

495
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So super sweet.

496
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They look comfy and more.

497
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They are very comfy.

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Love it.

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Tammy, what you got?

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Oh, okay.

501
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I

502
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puppies on this throw the puppies, his little Christmas hats and different.

503
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And I got this a couple of years ago at Walmart and a dollar more in the store

504
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than it was the online price.

505
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And so I asked the cashier to give me the cheaper price for it.

506
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He said, well, it is Christmas.

507
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And he gave me that dollar off.

508
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So I got it for nine 99.

509
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It's a throw.

510
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I love it.

511
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Real soft.

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Love it.

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Hunter, what you got?

514
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My, I have, my mom was getting, giving me a lot of blankets all the time.

515
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And she got me this, this is so soft.

516
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I want to snuggle him and make me sleep.

517
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So darn soft.

518
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I just can't say no to it.

519
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Oh my gosh.

520
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I love it.

521
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I got really put, I got off the couch because if I sleep in so much, I would

522
00:21:05.080 --> 00:21:06.880
snuggle and I wouldn't want to get out of bed.

523
00:21:07.400 --> 00:21:08.400
Well, we feel you.

524
00:21:08.400 --> 00:21:09.480
We're right there with you.

525
00:21:09.560 --> 00:21:11.720
Karen Liberty, Liberty Hill.

526
00:21:11.720 --> 00:21:12.280
What you got?

527
00:21:12.360 --> 00:21:12.840
Okay.

528
00:21:12.840 --> 00:21:14.120
I've got my bombas.

529
00:21:14.800 --> 00:21:17.200
Uh, are they really as good as people say they are?

530
00:21:17.200 --> 00:21:18.560
They're incredible.

531
00:21:18.680 --> 00:21:19.160
Yes.

532
00:21:19.160 --> 00:21:24.240
I got all three of my kids, my girls, uh, them for Christmas.

533
00:21:24.280 --> 00:21:27.680
They come in the pink and then they come in like a caramel.

534
00:21:27.760 --> 00:21:28.360
They're amazing.

535
00:21:28.360 --> 00:21:29.800
Do they come in kid sizes?

536
00:21:29.960 --> 00:21:30.880
I don't know.

537
00:21:31.000 --> 00:21:32.200
I don't know if they do.

538
00:21:32.200 --> 00:21:33.080
That's a great idea though.

539
00:21:33.080 --> 00:21:34.160
Bombas size two.

540
00:21:34.160 --> 00:21:35.160
Children's two.

541
00:21:35.160 --> 00:21:35.800
Oh wow.

542
00:21:35.800 --> 00:21:36.240
I know.

543
00:21:36.280 --> 00:21:37.080
I got little feet.

544
00:21:37.120 --> 00:21:37.440
Wow.

545
00:21:37.680 --> 00:21:37.920
Yeah.

546
00:21:37.920 --> 00:21:38.800
They're amazing.

547
00:21:38.920 --> 00:21:39.200
They're amazing.

548
00:21:39.200 --> 00:21:39.760
Oh my gosh.

549
00:21:39.760 --> 00:21:40.760
So good to know.

550
00:21:41.120 --> 00:21:42.960
Marsha, what do you got for us?

551
00:21:46.200 --> 00:21:47.040
Okay.

552
00:21:47.440 --> 00:21:48.080
Okay.

553
00:21:48.080 --> 00:21:49.360
This is what I have.

554
00:21:49.400 --> 00:21:52.680
I have my knee slippers that I, that I got for Christmas.

555
00:21:52.720 --> 00:21:53.600
I love them.

556
00:21:53.600 --> 00:21:55.360
I've been wearing them as much as possible.

557
00:21:55.560 --> 00:21:58.560
I'm actually, I'm blessed with a great job right now.

558
00:21:58.560 --> 00:22:03.800
And of course, these are my shoes of choice, unless they decide to go

559
00:22:03.800 --> 00:22:08.080
outside on break, these slippers are.

560
00:22:08.120 --> 00:22:09.320
They're very warm.

561
00:22:09.400 --> 00:22:10.320
Can you see them?

562
00:22:11.000 --> 00:22:11.600
Oh my gosh.

563
00:22:11.600 --> 00:22:12.240
I love it.

564
00:22:12.480 --> 00:22:13.040
I love it.

565
00:22:13.040 --> 00:22:14.720
They look so warm and fuzzy.

566
00:22:14.960 --> 00:22:16.080
Thank you for sharing.

567
00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:17.520
Pam, what do you got girl?

568
00:22:18.360 --> 00:22:22.920
Well, I didn't have to go very far, but, um, these are moccasins

569
00:22:22.920 --> 00:22:26.080
that were made by, um, we've got lots of,

570
00:22:26.080 --> 00:22:29.640
I feel like we all have got like similar little shoes.

571
00:22:29.640 --> 00:22:31.040
First Nations around.

572
00:22:31.200 --> 00:22:36.600
And then I have my blanket that is suede on one side and a

573
00:22:36.760 --> 00:22:38.680
fuzzy lamb on the other side.

574
00:22:39.080 --> 00:22:39.800
Love it.

575
00:22:40.000 --> 00:22:41.840
Mary, what you got for us?

576
00:22:43.000 --> 00:22:45.200
I got my Bob slip-ons.

577
00:22:45.600 --> 00:22:47.040
I love it.

578
00:22:49.440 --> 00:22:50.200
I love it.

579
00:22:50.640 --> 00:22:51.320
I love it.

580
00:22:51.720 --> 00:22:53.360
Melissa Dawn, what you got girl?

581
00:22:53.840 --> 00:22:54.320
Okay.

582
00:22:54.320 --> 00:23:00.600
So, um, this is a very rich color turquoise, which I appreciate very much.

583
00:23:00.600 --> 00:23:05.200
However, this blanket is standing in as a representative for a different

584
00:23:05.200 --> 00:23:08.760
blanket that was not able to make it here to my chair this evening.

585
00:23:09.320 --> 00:23:16.320
Um, is actually desirable, incredibly soothing to the nervous system.

586
00:23:16.640 --> 00:23:18.640
And it is a weighted blanket.

587
00:23:18.720 --> 00:23:24.360
However, it's a boring gray and therefore this more shiny, happy

588
00:23:24.360 --> 00:23:28.120
representative, which also also accompanies that decided to come and

589
00:23:28.120 --> 00:23:31.920
speak on his behalf and celebrate its excellent quality.

590
00:23:32.440 --> 00:23:35.680
So do you, are you a big fan of the weighted blanket?

591
00:23:36.360 --> 00:23:37.120
I love it.

592
00:23:37.640 --> 00:23:38.200
Yeah.

593
00:23:38.400 --> 00:23:41.080
How many people are big weighted blanket fans?

594
00:23:41.080 --> 00:23:42.560
I bet you there's a lot of you guys.

595
00:23:42.560 --> 00:23:43.480
I've always wanted to do that.

596
00:23:43.680 --> 00:23:44.800
Go get our blanket.

597
00:23:44.920 --> 00:23:46.000
I want to show them our blanket.

598
00:23:46.800 --> 00:23:47.080
Okay.

599
00:23:48.040 --> 00:23:50.560
No, not your way, but you have a weighted blanket all the time.

600
00:23:50.560 --> 00:23:52.200
I didn't know you had a weighted blanket.

601
00:23:53.680 --> 00:23:54.440
Look at that y'all.

602
00:23:54.440 --> 00:23:55.880
I'm still learning things about them.

603
00:23:55.920 --> 00:23:56.480
Awesome.

604
00:23:56.520 --> 00:23:56.920
I love it.

605
00:23:56.920 --> 00:23:57.160
Okay.

606
00:23:57.160 --> 00:23:58.120
Rhonda, what do you got?

607
00:24:00.360 --> 00:24:02.040
Well, no surprise out in Canada.

608
00:24:02.080 --> 00:24:03.760
We all have blankets out here too.

609
00:24:03.760 --> 00:24:03.920
Yeah.

610
00:24:03.920 --> 00:24:04.320
Yeah.

611
00:24:05.000 --> 00:24:11.240
I'm double whammying because I refuse to have hot feet in cold winters.

612
00:24:12.000 --> 00:24:12.360
Yeah.

613
00:24:12.400 --> 00:24:15.000
So I never have cozy shoes on in the winter.

614
00:24:15.000 --> 00:24:16.240
That is hilarious.

615
00:24:16.400 --> 00:24:17.960
Cause my feet are claustrophobic.

616
00:24:18.560 --> 00:24:19.680
Oh my gosh.

617
00:24:20.320 --> 00:24:22.000
I have my favorite blanket.

618
00:24:22.280 --> 00:24:24.520
You guys, do you see what we're learning about each other?

619
00:24:24.520 --> 00:24:25.240
I love it.

620
00:24:26.040 --> 00:24:30.240
My mom made this for me almost 20 years ago when I moved out of the city.

621
00:24:30.960 --> 00:24:37.800
And it's got, um, some of the, the thread in it is like a woven with gold.

622
00:24:38.680 --> 00:24:42.760
And so that was when God was talking to me about just gold in our lives.

623
00:24:42.760 --> 00:24:43.880
And so she had made this with me.

624
00:24:44.360 --> 00:24:45.200
I love it.

625
00:24:45.440 --> 00:24:46.040
I love it.

626
00:24:46.280 --> 00:24:47.680
Yesenia, what do you got?

627
00:24:50.080 --> 00:24:55.800
So my youngest son gave me this blanket for a Christmas, but he, um, worked like

628
00:24:55.800 --> 00:24:57.520
did chores and earned some money.

629
00:24:58.080 --> 00:25:00.040
And then I was in the blanket, blanket comes out.

630
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:02.120
Oh, so does Kiwi.

631
00:25:03.320 --> 00:25:06.280
So yeah, this is my cuddle buddy.

632
00:25:06.280 --> 00:25:07.960
Oh, I love that.

633
00:25:07.960 --> 00:25:10.040
I was wondering how many people would bring their pet

634
00:25:10.040 --> 00:25:12.360
to the cuddle session.

635
00:25:12.360 --> 00:25:13.200
I love that.

636
00:25:13.200 --> 00:25:14.040
Bernice.

637
00:25:16.200 --> 00:25:20.320
Okay, I don't have slippers, but I love fuzzy socks.

638
00:25:20.320 --> 00:25:22.800
Oh, I'm a fuzzy sock girl.

639
00:25:25.400 --> 00:25:27.880
Y'all, I think I brought him on my honeymoon.

640
00:25:27.880 --> 00:25:29.480
I'm not gonna lie.

641
00:25:29.520 --> 00:25:33.280
The lingerie and the fuzzy socks all at the same time.

642
00:25:33.280 --> 00:25:34.440
To Jamaica.

643
00:25:35.320 --> 00:25:36.440
It's true.

644
00:25:36.440 --> 00:25:37.600
It's true.

645
00:25:37.600 --> 00:25:38.680
I feel you, girl.

646
00:25:38.680 --> 00:25:39.960
All right, Tiffany.

647
00:25:41.960 --> 00:25:43.960
I could only find one, but

648
00:25:46.840 --> 00:25:48.920
she's looking for Gryffindor.

649
00:25:48.920 --> 00:25:50.680
What is it?

650
00:25:50.680 --> 00:25:51.920
Harry Potter.

651
00:25:51.920 --> 00:25:53.640
Oh my gosh, Harry Potter.

652
00:25:53.640 --> 00:25:55.480
Yeah, the Gryffindor house.

653
00:25:55.480 --> 00:25:58.600
Yep, see, we just learned she's a Harry Potter girl, y'all.

654
00:25:58.600 --> 00:26:00.320
I love it.

655
00:26:00.320 --> 00:26:04.000
Look it, we learned Tiffany does the harp, right?

656
00:26:04.000 --> 00:26:05.160
And you love that.

657
00:26:05.160 --> 00:26:06.000
I love it.

658
00:26:06.000 --> 00:26:07.880
Okay, I'm not gonna say your name correctly.

659
00:26:07.880 --> 00:26:09.000
Is it Hoke?

660
00:26:09.000 --> 00:26:09.840
Hoke?

661
00:26:09.840 --> 00:26:10.680
Hoke?

662
00:26:10.680 --> 00:26:12.640
Tell me how to pronounce your name.

663
00:26:12.640 --> 00:26:14.400
It's Hokehe.

664
00:26:14.400 --> 00:26:15.440
Hokehe.

665
00:26:15.440 --> 00:26:16.840
Ooh, I like that.

666
00:26:16.840 --> 00:26:18.320
That's pretty.

667
00:26:18.320 --> 00:26:19.640
Thank you.

668
00:26:19.640 --> 00:26:22.520
I have my blanket I love to cuddle with,

669
00:26:22.520 --> 00:26:26.680
and it's, how would I describe this?

670
00:26:26.680 --> 00:26:28.000
It's really smooth on this side,

671
00:26:28.400 --> 00:26:29.560
and then it's fuzzy on this side.

672
00:26:29.560 --> 00:26:30.400
Nice.

673
00:26:30.400 --> 00:26:31.240
It's really warm.

674
00:26:31.240 --> 00:26:32.560
Nice, I love it.

675
00:26:32.560 --> 00:26:33.680
All right, we have a couple more.

676
00:26:33.680 --> 00:26:34.520
Tameka.

677
00:26:38.560 --> 00:26:41.840
Yes, I have a, I think it's called a Snuggie.

678
00:26:41.840 --> 00:26:43.240
Oh, yeah.

679
00:26:43.240 --> 00:26:46.640
It's from my alma mater, Auburn University,

680
00:26:46.640 --> 00:26:51.440
but I can put my arms in it and sit back and watch TV

681
00:26:51.440 --> 00:26:53.640
and just be comfortable.

682
00:26:53.640 --> 00:26:54.760
So this is one of my-

683
00:26:54.760 --> 00:26:55.920
I love it.

684
00:26:55.920 --> 00:26:58.160
I can't believe you're the first Snuggie we're seeing.

685
00:26:58.160 --> 00:26:59.680
That's awesome.

686
00:26:59.680 --> 00:27:00.640
Brenda.

687
00:27:02.560 --> 00:27:06.000
I have my slippers, and they're kind of well-worn,

688
00:27:06.000 --> 00:27:09.320
but they're good, so.

689
00:27:09.320 --> 00:27:10.560
Oh my gosh.

690
00:27:10.560 --> 00:27:12.880
Oh my gosh, I love that.

691
00:27:12.880 --> 00:27:13.720
I love that.

692
00:27:13.720 --> 00:27:16.200
I just have them on my feet, so.

693
00:27:16.200 --> 00:27:17.040
I love it.

694
00:27:17.040 --> 00:27:19.360
Okay, now I'm just sliding through.

695
00:27:19.360 --> 00:27:20.800
All right.

696
00:27:20.800 --> 00:27:24.560
All right, I'm gonna show you our very own Cheryl,

697
00:27:24.560 --> 00:27:26.840
and Amber got this for me as a,

698
00:27:26.840 --> 00:27:28.920
me and Brian, as a wedding gift,

699
00:27:28.920 --> 00:27:31.120
and it was the first item I got

700
00:27:31.120 --> 00:27:33.200
with my new last name on it.

701
00:27:33.200 --> 00:27:36.280
It is, it says, well, you can't really,

702
00:27:36.280 --> 00:27:37.120
it's too far back.

703
00:27:37.120 --> 00:27:41.920
It says, Mr. and Mrs. DeVore established 10-18-2025.

704
00:27:43.800 --> 00:27:46.640
So it has our wedding date on there, too.

705
00:27:46.640 --> 00:27:49.400
So now it's one of my favorite blankets, right?

706
00:27:49.400 --> 00:27:50.240
It is her favorite blanket.

707
00:27:50.240 --> 00:27:51.440
It is my favorite blanket.

708
00:27:51.440 --> 00:27:52.720
She's wrapped up in it all the time.

709
00:27:52.720 --> 00:27:54.240
I am wrapped up in it all the time,

710
00:27:54.920 --> 00:27:57.480
because the couch, I swear, has a draft by the window,

711
00:27:57.480 --> 00:27:59.920
and so it's the perfect little size for it.

712
00:27:59.920 --> 00:28:01.800
Okay, you guys, we took a lot of time

713
00:28:01.800 --> 00:28:02.760
for those two questions.

714
00:28:02.760 --> 00:28:03.720
I'm not gonna do the other two,

715
00:28:03.720 --> 00:28:05.800
because we have a lot of other fun questions,

716
00:28:05.800 --> 00:28:08.520
but I hope this is helping you.

717
00:28:08.520 --> 00:28:10.240
What a great way for you guys

718
00:28:10.240 --> 00:28:12.080
to get to know each other, right?

719
00:28:12.080 --> 00:28:14.000
And these are great date questions,

720
00:28:14.000 --> 00:28:18.200
because it's a way for people to unpack family heirlooms

721
00:28:18.200 --> 00:28:20.120
and things that matter to you

722
00:28:20.120 --> 00:28:22.000
without you going, what's your favorite color?

723
00:28:22.000 --> 00:28:23.480
What are your favorite shows?

724
00:28:23.480 --> 00:28:25.120
This is a fun way to do it.

725
00:28:25.120 --> 00:28:28.240
Okay, the next question,

726
00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:31.080
so I'm gonna have the next three questions.

727
00:28:31.080 --> 00:28:33.200
You're gonna just get in and get out

728
00:28:33.200 --> 00:28:36.440
in less than 45 seconds with your answer.

729
00:28:36.440 --> 00:28:38.240
So this could be applied to anybody.

730
00:28:38.240 --> 00:28:41.600
The first question is, since it's the new year,

731
00:28:41.600 --> 00:28:42.920
what are you getting rid of?

732
00:28:42.920 --> 00:28:44.400
What did you, what are you,

733
00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:47.800
or what did you get rid of in your life this year, and why?

734
00:28:49.400 --> 00:28:51.880
So something that you're gonna not do anymore.

735
00:28:51.880 --> 00:28:55.120
It could be a tangible item that you got out of your house.

736
00:28:56.080 --> 00:28:58.320
It could be like the old boyfriend

737
00:28:58.320 --> 00:29:00.600
or girlfriend's gifts to you,

738
00:29:00.600 --> 00:29:02.760
or it could be an activity you're not gonna do anymore

739
00:29:02.760 --> 00:29:05.480
because you're making room for the new, the good.

740
00:29:05.480 --> 00:29:06.880
David.

741
00:29:06.880 --> 00:29:09.120
I am no longer working nights.

742
00:29:09.120 --> 00:29:11.360
So I worked overnights for 10 years

743
00:29:11.360 --> 00:29:14.320
and now we're making time for a spirit mate.

744
00:29:14.320 --> 00:29:17.600
So no more nights and now I'm full days, so.

745
00:29:17.600 --> 00:29:19.360
I love it.

746
00:29:19.360 --> 00:29:20.200
I love that.

747
00:29:20.200 --> 00:29:21.240
That's so good.

748
00:29:21.600 --> 00:29:23.400
I love that you're making space for that.

749
00:29:23.400 --> 00:29:24.880
Crystal Parrot, what about you?

750
00:29:24.880 --> 00:29:26.480
What are you not doing anymore?

751
00:29:27.320 --> 00:29:30.240
It's not a not doing, but I cleaned out my closet

752
00:29:30.240 --> 00:29:31.720
because I'm the kind of person

753
00:29:31.720 --> 00:29:35.080
that can keep their clothes very nice for a long time.

754
00:29:35.080 --> 00:29:37.640
But I decided to, I haven't gone shopping yet,

755
00:29:37.640 --> 00:29:38.560
but I've cleaned it out.

756
00:29:38.560 --> 00:29:39.400
I actually took a picture.

757
00:29:39.400 --> 00:29:41.040
I was gonna post it in the group of,

758
00:29:41.040 --> 00:29:43.520
I cleaned out all my pajamas, my socks, my shirts,

759
00:29:43.520 --> 00:29:45.640
my sweaters, my pants, everything.

760
00:29:45.640 --> 00:29:48.840
So there's like all this big, huge open space in my closet.

761
00:29:48.840 --> 00:29:50.000
Love it.

762
00:29:50.040 --> 00:29:51.520
And I need to go get new stuff.

763
00:29:51.520 --> 00:29:52.560
I love that.

764
00:29:52.560 --> 00:29:53.520
I love that.

765
00:29:53.520 --> 00:29:55.080
I just saw your message, Megan.

766
00:29:55.080 --> 00:29:56.880
I promise you, if I could have taken my dog

767
00:29:56.880 --> 00:29:58.400
on my honeymoon, I would have.

768
00:29:59.480 --> 00:30:00.320
Brian got.

769
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.960
me a Christmas gift from faith and it's a mug and it's a picture of her in the

770
00:30:04.960 --> 00:30:08.200
dress that she wore as my flower girl in the wedding because y'all know she

771
00:30:08.200 --> 00:30:13.840
walked down the aisle in my wedding and she's such a princess and it says I know

772
00:30:13.840 --> 00:30:19.520
you adopted me but I own you and she miss princess she totally does she

773
00:30:19.520 --> 00:30:28.960
totally owns me um okay Kim um I got rid of a lot of things my ex-boyfriend got

774
00:30:28.960 --> 00:30:35.240
me um and then I actually mailed it back to him with his address as the

775
00:30:35.240 --> 00:30:40.480
return address so I can make room for my husband that's coming I love that yes

776
00:30:40.480 --> 00:30:43.480
ma'am yes ma'am and he's gonna have to be

777
00:30:43.480 --> 00:30:50.000
Renee and Brian approved we are meeting on zoom your man I'm telling you um Gail

778
00:30:50.000 --> 00:30:57.280
what about you girl I did a lot of purging but I got rid of my Peloton I

779
00:30:57.280 --> 00:31:06.640
sold it and I joined a gym Wow cuz I know you adored your Peloton I did but

780
00:31:06.640 --> 00:31:12.880
you know what with it keeps you alone in the house that I was isolating myself

781
00:31:12.880 --> 00:31:24.360
yeah I joined a gym and it's a mixture but I have to actually walk in to this

782
00:31:24.360 --> 00:31:30.240
gym and there's a lot of people there today there was a lot of people it was

783
00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:36.760
kind of so I'm trying not to isolate I love that you guys that's a great

784
00:31:36.760 --> 00:31:42.200
activation I always say when you work out like do things different like I used

785
00:31:42.200 --> 00:31:45.360
to be in a bar studio with a bunch of women well I'm never gonna meet a man

786
00:31:45.360 --> 00:31:51.160
there you know and so if every activity that you do either keeps you isolated in

787
00:31:51.160 --> 00:31:56.720
your home or only with your gender then you're really decreasing your chances of

788
00:31:56.720 --> 00:31:59.600
meeting somebody in the wild because a lot of you're like I don't want to meet

789
00:31:59.600 --> 00:32:03.120
him online I don't want to meet him online okay but then what you do every

790
00:32:03.120 --> 00:32:10.200
day needs to put you outside your house and there's an extra it's not just yeah

791
00:32:10.200 --> 00:32:14.720
I love it I think that's a really good example of you kind of getting out there

792
00:32:14.720 --> 00:32:18.240
Regina you asked if I'm taking hyphenating look and I just had to

793
00:32:18.240 --> 00:32:22.200
rename it because I keep forgetting that my Yahoo account keeps showing up

794
00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:27.840
just my old name I don't have a middle name so I'm taking Brian's last name and

795
00:32:27.840 --> 00:32:31.840
I'm moving my last name to become my middle name just because I'm kind of my

796
00:32:31.840 --> 00:32:36.960
websites got my last name and Rizzo I mean literally 90% of the people I know

797
00:32:36.960 --> 00:32:41.560
that are friends with me locally call me by my last name so to get rid of Rizzo

798
00:32:41.560 --> 00:32:45.720
completely would be like getting rid of my first name so that feels weird so

799
00:32:45.720 --> 00:32:49.440
it's gonna be Renee Rizzo DeVore but DeVore will be my official last name and

800
00:32:49.440 --> 00:32:53.760
y'all I'm just doing the paperwork now like I'm so lazy I knew it wasn't gonna

801
00:32:53.760 --> 00:32:58.640
get time to go out of the country with my passport so I'm like I've never had

802
00:32:58.640 --> 00:33:02.080
to do this so I don't even know send the list of all the places I need to call

803
00:33:02.080 --> 00:33:05.520
because I'm traumatized thinking about all the places I need to do to get

804
00:33:05.520 --> 00:33:08.920
everything switched okay Victoria what do you got what are you getting rid of

805
00:33:08.920 --> 00:33:19.720
or ending I want to show you my snuggly parka that I wear and so I'm in the

806
00:33:19.720 --> 00:33:25.320
bathhouse right now and I too cold to walk with hardly any clothes on so I

807
00:33:25.320 --> 00:33:31.600
wear my parka to and from the okay it's really cold you guys in Florida it's

808
00:33:31.600 --> 00:33:37.480
gonna be 30 tomorrow and I got rid of everything that I could see that was my

809
00:33:37.480 --> 00:33:43.600
old boyfriend's his shirt this funny little hand thing that wiggles and yeah

810
00:33:43.600 --> 00:33:46.840
I got rid of it a few weeks months back and there was some homeless guys that

811
00:33:46.840 --> 00:33:50.120
were around the corner I'm like you know what can you do you want this and it

812
00:33:50.120 --> 00:33:56.520
just blessed them and I love the trailer and put it in a storage because I didn't

813
00:33:56.520 --> 00:34:00.080
have time to actually give it or throw it but definitely it's out of my space

814
00:34:00.080 --> 00:34:06.120
and clean the entire trailer from front to back left to right up to bottom love

815
00:34:06.120 --> 00:34:13.000
it I love it I love it Helen would you getting rid of or stopping um I got rid

816
00:34:13.000 --> 00:34:17.800
of my old bed and got a new adjustable one and I figured you know if I work two

817
00:34:17.800 --> 00:34:21.880
three jobs I don't see why not if I'm killing myself at work I don't see why I

818
00:34:21.880 --> 00:34:26.679
shouldn't rest comfortably at night I'm no longer working three jobs though so I

819
00:34:26.679 --> 00:34:33.239
got rid of one and I love it so I'm making room margin margin margin I love

820
00:34:33.239 --> 00:34:39.600
it I love it okay Cheryl is let me know at some point Linda you hide your hand

821
00:34:39.600 --> 00:34:42.760
raised and I missed it it might have been because I asked you to go get your

822
00:34:42.760 --> 00:34:47.159
flip-flops so if you are still around Linda are you still around can you come

823
00:34:47.159 --> 00:34:54.760
on camera come chat with everybody all right put your hand back up Linda if

824
00:34:54.760 --> 00:34:58.160
you're there all right I didn't much I didn't mean to blow you off okay Bernice

825
00:34:58.160 --> 00:35:02.120
what you got what are you getting rid

826
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:07.000
I'm getting rid of overstaying grace when I need to let go.

827
00:35:07.000 --> 00:35:08.000
Yes.

828
00:35:08.000 --> 00:35:10.440
Overextended grace to being a pushover.

829
00:35:10.440 --> 00:35:11.440
That's good, girl.

830
00:35:11.440 --> 00:35:12.440
That's good.

831
00:35:12.440 --> 00:35:15.440
I love it.

832
00:35:15.440 --> 00:35:17.600
Tiffany?

833
00:35:17.600 --> 00:35:20.920
I had three jobs as well and I got rid of one.

834
00:35:20.920 --> 00:35:29.800
So I've been with this program for a while, like for a few years, but I usually just listen

835
00:35:29.800 --> 00:35:34.800
to it as a replay because I'm not able to attend any of them.

836
00:35:34.800 --> 00:35:37.800
And look how much we got to hear from you tonight.

837
00:35:37.800 --> 00:35:41.800
Tiffany, that's why I didn't know any of this stuff about you.

838
00:35:41.800 --> 00:35:42.800
I love it.

839
00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:43.800
I love it.

840
00:35:43.800 --> 00:35:44.800
I love it.

841
00:35:44.800 --> 00:35:47.800
Tammy, what do you got?

842
00:35:47.800 --> 00:35:58.280
Well, I had SOZO Thursday morning last week at 10 a.m. and it was absolutely fantastic.

843
00:35:58.280 --> 00:36:01.720
It was the best one I've ever had.

844
00:36:01.720 --> 00:36:08.520
And I got rid of a bunch of old beliefs about my identity and about others and I let go

845
00:36:08.520 --> 00:36:12.520
of a lot of things and forgave a lot of people and I really, really felt like I was truly

846
00:36:12.520 --> 00:36:15.080
letting go this time.

847
00:36:15.080 --> 00:36:19.700
I've probably forgiven the same people before in a minute, but I just wasn't fully able

848
00:36:19.700 --> 00:36:21.480
to really let go.

849
00:36:21.480 --> 00:36:24.120
It felt like at this time, it felt like I was.

850
00:36:24.120 --> 00:36:25.120
I love that.

851
00:36:25.120 --> 00:36:29.000
And so I have a little bit of the processing to go back and redo some things.

852
00:36:29.000 --> 00:36:31.840
A few more things may come up related to that.

853
00:36:31.840 --> 00:36:38.120
I get triggered a little bit sometimes and I think, okay, what's up here, why am I believing?

854
00:36:38.120 --> 00:36:39.800
It's a work in progress, girl.

855
00:36:39.800 --> 00:36:41.160
It's a daily assessment.

856
00:36:41.160 --> 00:36:42.440
So I love it.

857
00:36:42.440 --> 00:36:46.720
Okay, Paul, you wrote in the thing, you got rid of 20 pounds.

858
00:36:46.720 --> 00:36:48.440
That is freaking awesome.

859
00:36:48.440 --> 00:36:52.240
Tell us how long did it take you to get rid of that 20?

860
00:36:53.040 --> 00:36:56.840
Was it just diet, diet and exercise?

861
00:36:56.840 --> 00:36:59.280
About six months, mostly just diet.

862
00:36:59.280 --> 00:37:04.560
I got some bad labs at the beginning of the year and I thought I needed to do something.

863
00:37:04.560 --> 00:37:08.480
So it really wasn't, I had to eat differently.

864
00:37:08.480 --> 00:37:12.800
That was the only hard thing about it, but it wasn't my intention to lose weight.

865
00:37:12.800 --> 00:37:15.720
It was my intention to get some labs in line.

866
00:37:15.720 --> 00:37:17.200
Oh, that's so good.

867
00:37:17.200 --> 00:37:19.200
So you got healthy and then the next-

868
00:37:19.200 --> 00:37:20.200
As a by-product.

869
00:37:20.200 --> 00:37:21.760
It was just a by-product bonus.

870
00:37:21.760 --> 00:37:22.760
I love that.

871
00:37:22.760 --> 00:37:25.080
Well, I wanted to give you props for that.

872
00:37:25.080 --> 00:37:26.080
Great job, Eddie.

873
00:37:26.080 --> 00:37:27.720
That's awesome.

874
00:37:27.720 --> 00:37:29.720
And are the numbers better?

875
00:37:29.720 --> 00:37:34.200
Oh yeah, everything's a lot better.

876
00:37:34.200 --> 00:37:35.200
It was just-

877
00:37:35.200 --> 00:37:36.200
Awesome.

878
00:37:36.200 --> 00:37:39.880
I drank 60 to 80 ounces of coffee a day and maybe a bottle of water.

879
00:37:39.880 --> 00:37:44.840
So it looked like I had kidney disease and I was just dehydrated, but it was enough to

880
00:37:44.840 --> 00:37:51.440
scare me and make me take a better look at how much coffee I was consuming.

881
00:37:52.120 --> 00:37:53.120
Yeah.

882
00:37:53.120 --> 00:37:57.360
Brian and I have learned, I was drinking way too much coffee and he drinks way too much

883
00:37:57.360 --> 00:37:58.360
Diet Coke.

884
00:37:58.360 --> 00:38:00.760
So we're both really, really working on-

885
00:38:00.760 --> 00:38:01.760
I used to do both.

886
00:38:01.760 --> 00:38:02.760
Oh goodness.

887
00:38:02.760 --> 00:38:03.760
Oh goodness.

888
00:38:03.760 --> 00:38:06.440
He's like, I'm getting a hundred ounces of liquid every day.

889
00:38:06.440 --> 00:38:09.760
I'm like, I don't think Diet Coke counts, but I love that.

890
00:38:09.760 --> 00:38:11.760
Hunter, did you have your hand raised?

891
00:38:11.760 --> 00:38:12.760
Yes, I did.

892
00:38:12.760 --> 00:38:14.440
What do you got for us, buddy?

893
00:38:14.440 --> 00:38:16.440
What are you letting go of?

894
00:38:16.440 --> 00:38:21.400
Letting go of my need to travel because I just spent two weeks in Greece and Malta and

895
00:38:21.400 --> 00:38:23.600
I went on a cruise in the Bahamas.

896
00:38:23.600 --> 00:38:25.560
After that, I'm just not going to do travel for a while.

897
00:38:25.560 --> 00:38:27.560
I'm going to build on my life.

898
00:38:27.560 --> 00:38:32.080
And of course the person that was, that girl, Christina, is interested in me.

899
00:38:32.080 --> 00:38:36.040
I haven't heard back from them, but I guess I'll wait till tomorrow, hear back, make time

900
00:38:36.040 --> 00:38:37.040
for that.

901
00:38:37.040 --> 00:38:38.040
All right.

902
00:38:38.040 --> 00:38:39.040
Well, I love it.

903
00:38:39.040 --> 00:38:45.040
I love that you are making room to meet people in person and be available in your own community.

904
00:38:45.040 --> 00:38:46.040
So I love that.

905
00:38:46.040 --> 00:38:48.960
Gina, what do you got for us?

906
00:38:49.960 --> 00:38:59.720
Honestly, this past year, I've really learned to let go of just friendships that don't actually

907
00:38:59.720 --> 00:39:01.080
serve me anymore.

908
00:39:01.080 --> 00:39:06.720
And not that I, you know, not that I don't care about these people anymore, but I don't,

909
00:39:06.720 --> 00:39:16.520
I no longer feel obligated to retain the closeness that we used to have because they were, it

910
00:39:16.520 --> 00:39:19.560
was for a season and the seasons passed.

911
00:39:19.560 --> 00:39:20.560
Yeah.

912
00:39:20.560 --> 00:39:21.560
Yeah.

913
00:39:21.560 --> 00:39:22.560
Amen, girl.

914
00:39:22.560 --> 00:39:23.560
I love that.

915
00:39:23.560 --> 00:39:24.560
Okay.

916
00:39:24.560 --> 00:39:25.560
Real quick.

917
00:39:25.560 --> 00:39:30.000
The next question, if you can only imagine, since you are getting rid of stuff, share

918
00:39:30.000 --> 00:39:35.920
us either a stretch goal or a goal that you know that you're going to hit this year.

919
00:39:35.920 --> 00:39:38.720
Or like, I'm hitting this goal this year.

920
00:39:38.720 --> 00:39:41.120
And I don't want 50 people to say, get married.

921
00:39:41.120 --> 00:39:43.960
I mean, you can say that.

922
00:39:43.960 --> 00:39:46.320
But I'd love to see what other things that God has for you.

923
00:39:47.120 --> 00:39:48.120
I know I'm graduating in May.

924
00:39:48.120 --> 00:39:49.120
Y'all, can you believe it?

925
00:39:49.120 --> 00:39:52.520
Y'all, some of you remember when I started seminary, I graduate in May.

926
00:39:52.520 --> 00:39:57.400
So I know that was a big goal, getting my master's was a big goal for a really long

927
00:39:57.400 --> 00:39:58.400
time.

928
00:39:58.400 --> 00:40:00.040
And I can't believe my graduation is happening.

929
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.360
So Dawn, what are you doing?

930
00:40:01.360 --> 00:40:03.120
What's happening this year?

931
00:40:03.120 --> 00:40:05.720
Well, God willing, I do hope,

932
00:40:05.720 --> 00:40:09.280
and I am working toward being able

933
00:40:09.280 --> 00:40:11.840
to deadlift my body weight.

934
00:40:11.840 --> 00:40:12.680
What?

935
00:40:12.680 --> 00:40:14.960
Get it, girl.

936
00:40:14.960 --> 00:40:17.920
I don't really know exactly what I want,

937
00:40:17.920 --> 00:40:22.200
but I keep increasing my weight,

938
00:40:22.200 --> 00:40:25.720
and so, I mean, for my, like the bar.

939
00:40:25.720 --> 00:40:26.640
Yeah.

940
00:40:26.640 --> 00:40:31.640
So maybe I will lift 100 or 120 pounds sometimes,

941
00:40:31.800 --> 00:40:34.200
so that will be great.

942
00:40:34.200 --> 00:40:35.200
I love it.

943
00:40:35.200 --> 00:40:37.880
And now that you're saying that, I'm like thinking,

944
00:40:37.880 --> 00:40:40.840
I'm very close to being able to deadlift my,

945
00:40:40.840 --> 00:40:43.140
with help from a Smith machine.

946
00:40:43.140 --> 00:40:44.840
I don't know if I could do it all by myself

947
00:40:44.840 --> 00:40:47.920
without a Smith machine, but that's a big goal.

948
00:40:47.920 --> 00:40:48.760
I love it.

949
00:40:48.760 --> 00:40:50.160
Wisdeen, what's your goal?

950
00:40:50.160 --> 00:40:51.840
What are you going after?

951
00:40:51.840 --> 00:40:54.520
Well, I already was kind of mentioning it in the chat,

952
00:40:54.520 --> 00:40:57.320
but last year I did not do these goals I wrote,

953
00:40:57.320 --> 00:41:00.960
which was learn how to play pickleball and do Pilates.

954
00:41:00.960 --> 00:41:02.400
I didn't do either of those.

955
00:41:02.400 --> 00:41:05.320
So I finally joined a pickleball league locally,

956
00:41:05.320 --> 00:41:07.480
and it's only 10 minutes away from me.

957
00:41:07.480 --> 00:41:09.240
I thought it'd be really fun to learn

958
00:41:09.240 --> 00:41:13.340
and just be out meeting new friends, whoever they may be.

959
00:41:13.340 --> 00:41:14.720
And yeah, so I'm excited.

960
00:41:14.720 --> 00:41:15.560
I love it.

961
00:41:15.560 --> 00:41:16.380
I love it.

962
00:41:16.380 --> 00:41:18.520
And you guys, this is hopefully spurring some of you guys

963
00:41:18.520 --> 00:41:19.800
to come up with some of your ideas.

964
00:41:19.800 --> 00:41:20.640
Tamika.

965
00:41:21.240 --> 00:41:22.080
Yes.

966
00:41:22.080 --> 00:41:24.680
I'm saying this so you all can hold me accountable.

967
00:41:24.680 --> 00:41:27.560
I'm looking to publish my second book this year

968
00:41:27.560 --> 00:41:29.120
and launch my website.

969
00:41:29.120 --> 00:41:31.040
So keep me accountable, everyone.

970
00:41:31.040 --> 00:41:31.880
I love that.

971
00:41:31.880 --> 00:41:32.920
I love that.

972
00:41:32.920 --> 00:41:34.320
David, what are you doing?

973
00:41:35.920 --> 00:41:38.160
I, my goal is to downsize.

974
00:41:38.160 --> 00:41:41.720
So to be like totally downsized by September

975
00:41:41.720 --> 00:41:43.680
and sell the art collection.

976
00:41:43.680 --> 00:41:44.520
That's the goal.

977
00:41:45.880 --> 00:41:46.720
Oh, I love it.

978
00:41:46.720 --> 00:41:47.560
All right.

979
00:41:47.560 --> 00:41:48.600
Bernice, how about you?

980
00:41:49.600 --> 00:41:52.560
I'm going to be traveling for the first time

981
00:41:52.560 --> 00:41:54.680
by myself to Switzerland.

982
00:41:54.680 --> 00:41:56.000
So that's the goal.

983
00:41:56.920 --> 00:41:58.240
Oh, I love that.

984
00:41:58.240 --> 00:41:59.920
Wow, definitely.

985
00:41:59.920 --> 00:42:01.240
Nice.

986
00:42:01.240 --> 00:42:02.080
Tiffany.

987
00:42:04.360 --> 00:42:06.600
Well, now that I have time,

988
00:42:06.600 --> 00:42:09.400
I'd actually like to attempt to go on dates.

989
00:42:09.400 --> 00:42:13.520
I haven't gone on a date in like two years,

990
00:42:13.520 --> 00:42:14.360
two and a half years.

991
00:42:14.360 --> 00:42:15.200
I don't know.

992
00:42:16.200 --> 00:42:19.160
Two years, two and a half years.

993
00:42:19.160 --> 00:42:22.040
Tiffany, you live in Seattle.

994
00:42:22.040 --> 00:42:22.920
Is that what it is?

995
00:42:22.920 --> 00:42:24.040
You live in Seattle.

996
00:42:24.040 --> 00:42:24.880
Okay.

997
00:42:24.880 --> 00:42:27.800
Y'all, we got to get Tiffany on a date this year.

998
00:42:27.800 --> 00:42:30.040
She got rid of one of her three jobs.

999
00:42:30.040 --> 00:42:32.760
She plays the harp, right?

1000
00:42:33.920 --> 00:42:35.000
I mean, I'm just saying,

1001
00:42:35.000 --> 00:42:36.520
what was the other like a little fun fact

1002
00:42:36.520 --> 00:42:37.440
we learned about you?

1003
00:42:37.440 --> 00:42:38.960
I forget already.

1004
00:42:38.960 --> 00:42:39.960
Harry Potter, but I'm a little more-

1005
00:42:39.960 --> 00:42:41.520
Harry Potter, yeah.

1006
00:42:41.520 --> 00:42:42.360
Okay.

1007
00:42:42.960 --> 00:42:46.200
There's a harp-loving Harry Potter person out there for you.

1008
00:42:46.200 --> 00:42:47.040
I just didn't know.

1009
00:42:47.040 --> 00:42:49.880
She helped find the other Harry Potter slipper too.

1010
00:42:49.880 --> 00:42:50.720
Oh, yeah.

1011
00:42:50.720 --> 00:42:52.400
Yeah, that's true.

1012
00:42:52.400 --> 00:42:53.480
I love it.

1013
00:42:53.480 --> 00:42:54.560
Okay.

1014
00:42:57.080 --> 00:43:00.040
Girl, I'm gonna butcher your name.

1015
00:43:00.040 --> 00:43:00.880
Help me out.

1016
00:43:00.880 --> 00:43:02.440
Pronounce your name for me.

1017
00:43:02.440 --> 00:43:04.000
It's Yelizaveta.

1018
00:43:04.000 --> 00:43:05.920
Oh my gosh, that sounded so gorgeous,

1019
00:43:05.920 --> 00:43:07.960
but I don't think I can do it.

1020
00:43:07.960 --> 00:43:10.280
Like you rolled the R in everything.

1021
00:43:10.280 --> 00:43:11.720
That was so good.

1022
00:43:11.720 --> 00:43:13.600
All right, where do you live?

1023
00:43:13.600 --> 00:43:15.200
I'm in LA.

1024
00:43:15.200 --> 00:43:16.040
Really?

1025
00:43:16.040 --> 00:43:17.640
Okay, wow.

1026
00:43:17.640 --> 00:43:18.480
Cool beans.

1027
00:43:18.480 --> 00:43:20.840
Okay, so what are you gonna do this year?

1028
00:43:20.840 --> 00:43:24.840
Okay, so in 2025, God told me to finish a screenplay

1029
00:43:24.840 --> 00:43:26.800
and I couldn't because I got stuck.

1030
00:43:26.800 --> 00:43:28.600
And after doing the hard work,

1031
00:43:28.600 --> 00:43:30.240
I actually was able to write again

1032
00:43:30.240 --> 00:43:32.360
for the first time like in four years.

1033
00:43:32.360 --> 00:43:35.720
So, and I went on a writer's retreat over winter break

1034
00:43:35.720 --> 00:43:37.080
and I'm like, I actually got stuff done.

1035
00:43:37.080 --> 00:43:38.480
So I'm like, you know what?

1036
00:43:38.480 --> 00:43:39.800
It's gonna happen this year.

1037
00:43:39.800 --> 00:43:40.640
I love it.

1038
00:43:40.640 --> 00:43:41.480
Sweet.

1039
00:43:42.480 --> 00:43:45.960
Okay, you guys, for the next section,

1040
00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:50.960
guys put in there a question you want to know about girls.

1041
00:43:51.360 --> 00:43:53.800
Like girls, why do you guys do this?

1042
00:43:53.800 --> 00:43:55.600
Or what do you think of a guy did this?

1043
00:43:55.600 --> 00:43:57.120
Like if you want a girls,

1044
00:43:57.120 --> 00:43:59.040
I'm gonna pick a few girls being willing

1045
00:43:59.040 --> 00:44:00.600
to answer your questions.

1046
00:44:00.600 --> 00:44:02.920
And of course, if I pick three or four women,

1047
00:44:02.920 --> 00:44:04.800
that doesn't speak for all women.

1048
00:44:04.800 --> 00:44:07.040
It just speaks for three or four women.

1049
00:44:07.040 --> 00:44:11.440
Ladies, I see at least four guys on here tonight.

1050
00:44:12.280 --> 00:44:15.040
So if you have questions you've always wondered about men,

1051
00:44:15.040 --> 00:44:17.760
go ahead and put them in the chat.

1052
00:44:17.760 --> 00:44:20.880
And I feel like it's an appropriate question.

1053
00:44:20.880 --> 00:44:24.120
I will pull it and I will ask for a few people

1054
00:44:24.120 --> 00:44:27.840
to volunteer to raise their hand and answer the question.

1055
00:44:27.840 --> 00:44:31.280
So we're moving into these section where it's he said,

1056
00:44:31.280 --> 00:44:33.080
she said, which is, you know,

1057
00:44:33.080 --> 00:44:34.560
what do women think about this?

1058
00:44:34.560 --> 00:44:36.080
And what do men think about that?

1059
00:44:36.080 --> 00:44:40.360
While you are willing to put that question in the box,

1060
00:44:40.360 --> 00:44:44.400
if you have a question for me or a question for Brian,

1061
00:44:44.400 --> 00:44:46.440
also feel free to raise your hand

1062
00:44:46.440 --> 00:44:48.280
and ask that question directly.

1063
00:44:51.280 --> 00:44:53.000
Ooh, that's good.

1064
00:44:53.000 --> 00:44:55.400
Kim, do you have a question for moi?

1065
00:44:56.800 --> 00:44:59.160
Yes, and I'm very nervous.

1066
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:09.880
I've been talking to a guy for about two weeks now, and he says that he will not kiss

1067
00:45:09.880 --> 00:45:10.880
until he's married.

1068
00:45:10.880 --> 00:45:14.720
Oh, you know, I had a friend who did that, man.

1069
00:45:14.720 --> 00:45:16.960
They sucked face big time up at the altar.

1070
00:45:16.960 --> 00:45:22.840
I'll tell you what, I was like, I don't think they're ever going to stop.

1071
00:45:22.840 --> 00:45:25.360
Did he have a reason for that?

1072
00:45:25.360 --> 00:45:26.360
It's temptation.

1073
00:45:26.360 --> 00:45:27.360
Okay.

1074
00:45:27.360 --> 00:45:28.360
Yeah.

1075
00:45:28.360 --> 00:45:29.360
Okay.

1076
00:45:29.360 --> 00:45:32.720
Is that the same guy that you messaged about on the page?

1077
00:45:32.720 --> 00:45:33.720
Yes.

1078
00:45:33.720 --> 00:45:34.720
Okay.

1079
00:45:34.720 --> 00:45:35.720
No, no.

1080
00:45:35.720 --> 00:45:36.720
Yes.

1081
00:45:36.720 --> 00:45:37.720
Yes.

1082
00:45:37.720 --> 00:45:38.720
Yeah, I think so.

1083
00:45:38.720 --> 00:45:39.720
It is.

1084
00:45:39.720 --> 00:45:40.720
He actually asked permission to hold my hand.

1085
00:45:40.720 --> 00:45:41.720
Yeah.

1086
00:45:41.720 --> 00:45:42.720
Yeah.

1087
00:45:42.720 --> 00:45:43.720
He seems like a good quality guy.

1088
00:45:43.720 --> 00:45:52.040
Does he have a past addiction that he's worried about that he has an accountability team on?

1089
00:45:52.040 --> 00:45:55.000
Non-addiction, something that he had done.

1090
00:45:55.000 --> 00:45:56.000
Yeah.

1091
00:45:56.000 --> 00:45:57.000
Okay.

1092
00:45:57.000 --> 00:45:58.000
Yeah.

1093
00:45:58.000 --> 00:46:00.360
Is he nervous about not being able to make out with him?

1094
00:46:00.360 --> 00:46:01.360
Yeah.

1095
00:46:01.360 --> 00:46:02.360
Okay.

1096
00:46:02.360 --> 00:46:05.000
So is he allowed to kiss you anywhere else?

1097
00:46:05.000 --> 00:46:10.000
Because this girl that did that, he was allowed to kiss her on her forehead, on her cheek,

1098
00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:11.800
on her neck, on her nose.

1099
00:46:11.800 --> 00:46:14.800
They just weren't able to do muah, muah, muah.

1100
00:46:14.800 --> 00:46:19.400
So I really liked his profile that you sent me.

1101
00:46:19.400 --> 00:46:20.520
Me too.

1102
00:46:20.520 --> 00:46:22.640
I really want you to hang in there.

1103
00:46:22.640 --> 00:46:23.640
Okay.

1104
00:46:23.640 --> 00:46:25.340
I really want you to hang in there.

1105
00:46:25.340 --> 00:46:26.340
He might be a really good guy.

1106
00:46:26.660 --> 00:46:28.660
And if you're really not sure, look a little deeper.

1107
00:46:28.660 --> 00:46:29.660
Oh, I'm sure.

1108
00:46:29.660 --> 00:46:30.660
Yes.

1109
00:46:30.660 --> 00:46:32.220
No, but he seems like a good man.

1110
00:46:32.220 --> 00:46:33.220
He is awesome.

1111
00:46:33.220 --> 00:46:34.220
He has the three M's.

1112
00:46:34.220 --> 00:46:35.220
Brian.

1113
00:46:35.220 --> 00:46:36.220
Yeah.

1114
00:46:36.220 --> 00:46:40.420
And he is the exact opposite of some of the men that you've dated.

1115
00:46:40.420 --> 00:46:41.420
Exactly.

1116
00:46:41.420 --> 00:46:48.300
And I feel like the Lord is really going to challenge you in this in a good way, in a

1117
00:46:48.300 --> 00:46:49.300
good way.

1118
00:46:49.300 --> 00:46:53.580
Y'all, I mean, I'll tell you what, like what a noble thing.

1119
00:46:53.580 --> 00:46:54.580
And so, and you'll learn.

1120
00:46:54.900 --> 00:46:59.340
Here's the good part about it, Kim, you guys, if you're not making out, it means you're

1121
00:46:59.340 --> 00:47:01.780
really going to get to know him for him.

1122
00:47:01.780 --> 00:47:07.020
And if he's going to be your guy, he's going to be your guy, not because he's a hot kisser.

1123
00:47:07.020 --> 00:47:13.540
And so sometimes as women, our picker gets a little broken when we start making out with

1124
00:47:13.540 --> 00:47:14.820
a guy.

1125
00:47:14.820 --> 00:47:16.500
And that can be true for the men too.

1126
00:47:16.500 --> 00:47:19.580
So I would say honor that.

1127
00:47:19.580 --> 00:47:21.580
Yeah, man.

1128
00:47:21.580 --> 00:47:22.580
Okay.

1129
00:47:23.580 --> 00:47:24.580
Wait, I want to answer this question.

1130
00:47:24.580 --> 00:47:25.580
Okay.

1131
00:47:25.580 --> 00:47:26.580
No, keep going.

1132
00:47:26.580 --> 00:47:27.580
Who wrote it?

1133
00:47:27.580 --> 00:47:28.580
David.

1134
00:47:28.580 --> 00:47:29.580
David.

1135
00:47:29.580 --> 00:47:30.580
Brian wants to answer your question.

1136
00:47:30.580 --> 00:47:31.580
Listen.

1137
00:47:31.580 --> 00:47:32.580
Where do you meet single Christian women?

1138
00:47:32.580 --> 00:47:33.580
You've not heard?

1139
00:47:33.580 --> 00:47:34.580
In the wild.

1140
00:47:34.580 --> 00:47:35.580
Go to Target.

1141
00:47:35.580 --> 00:47:39.260
They're already there looking for stuff they don't need.

1142
00:47:39.260 --> 00:47:40.260
So go to Target.

1143
00:47:40.260 --> 00:47:42.900
No, I mean, if you, if you want to.

1144
00:47:42.900 --> 00:47:44.180
He's not wrong about that.

1145
00:47:44.180 --> 00:47:45.180
Go to Target.

1146
00:47:45.180 --> 00:47:46.180
We don't have targets though.

1147
00:47:46.180 --> 00:47:48.420
They outnumber the men like 50 to one.

1148
00:47:48.420 --> 00:47:51.780
It's crazy.

1149
00:47:51.780 --> 00:47:52.780
We're out here in Canada.

1150
00:47:52.780 --> 00:47:53.780
We don't have Target.

1151
00:47:53.780 --> 00:47:54.780
Okay.

1152
00:47:54.780 --> 00:48:00.060
Oh, do you have like a home good, a home, a home good.

1153
00:48:00.060 --> 00:48:03.020
Like you know how they have the TJ Maxx attached to the home goods.

1154
00:48:03.020 --> 00:48:05.060
Do you guys have that option?

1155
00:48:05.060 --> 00:48:06.060
Women are there.

1156
00:48:06.060 --> 00:48:07.060
Similar.

1157
00:48:07.060 --> 00:48:08.060
Similar.

1158
00:48:08.060 --> 00:48:09.060
Yeah.

1159
00:48:09.060 --> 00:48:10.060
Yeah.

1160
00:48:10.060 --> 00:48:11.060
Yeah.

1161
00:48:11.060 --> 00:48:12.060
You need to go there.

1162
00:48:12.060 --> 00:48:15.420
You need to go to a shoe store and you can say you're looking for shoes for your niece

1163
00:48:15.420 --> 00:48:19.580
or something because why else, because we don't want you to come off gay.

1164
00:48:19.580 --> 00:48:28.460
So, you know, but you can say that you, oh my gosh, okay.

1165
00:48:28.460 --> 00:48:33.180
Opposite sex friendships, dated a guy with a ton of girlfriends.

1166
00:48:33.180 --> 00:48:37.180
Is that a flag?

1167
00:48:37.180 --> 00:48:39.380
That's a good question.

1168
00:48:39.380 --> 00:48:45.260
You know, I think you have to be careful with opposite sex friendships.

1169
00:48:45.260 --> 00:48:53.480
Like it depends on ages too, like I don't know how old you are.

1170
00:48:53.480 --> 00:48:58.420
I don't love it when a guy has no guy friends and he has a ton of girlfriends or when a

1171
00:48:58.420 --> 00:49:00.900
girl has no girlfriends and a ton of guy friends.

1172
00:49:00.900 --> 00:49:04.180
I don't love it.

1173
00:49:04.180 --> 00:49:09.520
And as long as those friends are like meeting in a group setting, I can kind of get okay

1174
00:49:09.520 --> 00:49:10.520
with it.

1175
00:49:10.520 --> 00:49:17.920
But like once you start dating those one-on-one relationships really need to be backburnered.

1176
00:49:17.920 --> 00:49:22.480
You know, but I grew up in the era of when Harry met Sally, when Billy Crystal says that

1177
00:49:22.480 --> 00:49:26.600
men and women can't be friends, you know, he's like, they're either thinking about having

1178
00:49:26.600 --> 00:49:31.080
sex or not thinking about having sex, which means they're thinking about having sex.

1179
00:49:31.080 --> 00:49:36.200
And so I think it's rare that you can have friends of the opposite sex.

1180
00:49:36.200 --> 00:49:38.660
So it's not a red flag.

1181
00:49:38.660 --> 00:49:40.080
It's just pay attention to that.

1182
00:49:40.080 --> 00:49:41.960
I would say pay attention to that.

1183
00:49:41.960 --> 00:49:48.080
I would be more concerned about what their other friendships look like and why they don't

1184
00:49:48.080 --> 00:49:54.480
have, I would be more concerned why they don't have friends of their own gender.

1185
00:49:54.480 --> 00:49:59.200
Because that says actually more to me than them having friends of the opposite sex.

1186
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.400
Girl, I'm not gonna say your name again.

1187
00:50:02.400 --> 00:50:04.080
Do you have a nickname you can give me?

1188
00:50:04.080 --> 00:50:05.680
Cause I'm gonna mess it up.

1189
00:50:05.680 --> 00:50:07.920
Yela, oh my gosh, can you try?

1190
00:50:07.920 --> 00:50:08.740
No.

1191
00:50:08.740 --> 00:50:09.580
No, see, you might.

1192
00:50:09.580 --> 00:50:10.920
I gotta hear it one more time.

1193
00:50:10.920 --> 00:50:12.440
Yelizaveta.

1194
00:50:12.440 --> 00:50:13.280
Okay, do you have a name?

1195
00:50:13.280 --> 00:50:14.120
Yelizaveta.

1196
00:50:14.120 --> 00:50:15.520
Yelizaveta.

1197
00:50:15.520 --> 00:50:16.360
Okay, what was your?

1198
00:50:16.360 --> 00:50:17.600
It sounds, it's just like it's spelled.

1199
00:50:17.600 --> 00:50:19.320
I know, but I can't get it out.

1200
00:50:19.320 --> 00:50:20.160
It sounds just like it's spelled.

1201
00:50:20.160 --> 00:50:23.440
Yelizaveta, I just, I can't get it out.

1202
00:50:23.440 --> 00:50:25.800
It's so beautiful though, so please, it's not you.

1203
00:50:25.800 --> 00:50:26.760
It's a beautiful name.

1204
00:50:26.760 --> 00:50:28.880
All right, what's your question?

1205
00:50:28.880 --> 00:50:32.000
Okay, so I actually met someone at church

1206
00:50:32.000 --> 00:50:35.000
and this is the first time in my life

1207
00:50:35.000 --> 00:50:38.680
where I ever like lit up 100%

1208
00:50:38.680 --> 00:50:40.760
and felt like I don't have to hide who I am

1209
00:50:40.760 --> 00:50:43.480
and I don't have to hide like the attraction.

1210
00:50:44.560 --> 00:50:48.720
And we found out that we're like identical personality types

1211
00:50:48.720 --> 00:50:52.320
and that we even like relate to each other the same.

1212
00:50:52.320 --> 00:50:54.920
It's really, it's crazy chemistry.

1213
00:50:54.920 --> 00:50:56.280
Like I've never experienced before,

1214
00:50:56.280 --> 00:50:58.160
like soul level chemistry.

1215
00:50:58.200 --> 00:51:01.560
But it's moving really, really slow.

1216
00:51:01.560 --> 00:51:05.080
It's been like 16 weeks and he hasn't asked me out.

1217
00:51:05.080 --> 00:51:07.160
But at the same time.

1218
00:51:08.120 --> 00:51:09.720
So how do you guys talk to each other?

1219
00:51:09.720 --> 00:51:10.960
Only at church?

1220
00:51:10.960 --> 00:51:15.960
Yeah, but the thing is he's like very intentional

1221
00:51:16.200 --> 00:51:17.680
and every time, like there were seven weeks.

1222
00:51:17.680 --> 00:51:18.960
Does he call you?

1223
00:51:18.960 --> 00:51:20.200
No.

1224
00:51:20.200 --> 00:51:24.000
Okay, girl, you gotta drop this damn hanky then.

1225
00:51:24.000 --> 00:51:25.600
All right, you gotta be like,

1226
00:51:25.600 --> 00:51:28.960
hey, so do you even know if he's interested in you

1227
00:51:28.960 --> 00:51:31.200
more than just being friends at church?

1228
00:51:31.200 --> 00:51:32.160
Yeah.

1229
00:51:32.160 --> 00:51:34.840
So, okay, so 16 weeks seems like a long time,

1230
00:51:34.840 --> 00:51:37.760
but there were seven weeks where we didn't see each other

1231
00:51:37.760 --> 00:51:40.280
and at that point we didn't have each other's contact info.

1232
00:51:40.280 --> 00:51:41.600
But here's the thing.

1233
00:51:41.600 --> 00:51:46.600
He, like two weeks ago, I think he finally realized

1234
00:51:46.880 --> 00:51:49.160
that it was romantic attraction

1235
00:51:49.160 --> 00:51:52.480
because our personality type, like the male version,

1236
00:51:53.440 --> 00:51:55.720
they don't realize it's chemistry.

1237
00:51:55.720 --> 00:51:58.400
They think it's like ministry or whatever at first.

1238
00:51:58.400 --> 00:52:01.000
So, but now like every time I see him,

1239
00:52:01.000 --> 00:52:02.440
it's like a huge leap for me.

1240
00:52:02.440 --> 00:52:05.000
I'm like, oh my gosh, like what just happened?

1241
00:52:05.000 --> 00:52:08.160
Because I don't see his internal processing on his end.

1242
00:52:08.160 --> 00:52:09.000
So like.

1243
00:52:09.000 --> 00:52:10.560
Okay, so here's what you need to do

1244
00:52:10.560 --> 00:52:12.960
because we wanna get out of fantasy land.

1245
00:52:12.960 --> 00:52:16.680
And so we have to find out what he's going to do with this.

1246
00:52:16.680 --> 00:52:18.880
So you're gonna have your phone number

1247
00:52:18.880 --> 00:52:21.760
either on a business card or handwritten

1248
00:52:21.760 --> 00:52:22.600
and you're just gonna say,

1249
00:52:22.600 --> 00:52:25.160
hey, I have loved getting to talk to you.

1250
00:52:25.160 --> 00:52:28.200
I have no idea what you really think about me

1251
00:52:28.200 --> 00:52:29.720
or where you could see this going,

1252
00:52:29.720 --> 00:52:32.640
but I'd love to meet offline and get to know you,

1253
00:52:32.640 --> 00:52:35.360
have coffee with you, have a drink, go get lunch.

1254
00:52:35.360 --> 00:52:37.440
If it goes nowhere, no big deal.

1255
00:52:37.440 --> 00:52:39.640
If that's not at all what you were thinking of

1256
00:52:39.640 --> 00:52:42.240
and you just think we're just pals, that's okay too.

1257
00:52:42.240 --> 00:52:43.800
But I just wanted you to know,

1258
00:52:43.800 --> 00:52:46.980
right now I'm in a season where I'm dating with intention

1259
00:52:46.980 --> 00:52:49.520
and I don't wanna leave anything dangling.

1260
00:52:49.520 --> 00:52:51.320
And so if you weren't sure,

1261
00:52:51.880 --> 00:52:52.720
I just thought I would put it out there.

1262
00:52:52.720 --> 00:52:55.940
Again, no harm, no foul if you're not at all interested.

1263
00:52:55.940 --> 00:52:59.480
How many women and men think she needs to just lay it down,

1264
00:52:59.480 --> 00:53:02.960
drop that dang hanky, find out, right?

1265
00:53:04.040 --> 00:53:05.560
Raise your hand if you agree with me.

1266
00:53:05.560 --> 00:53:08.840
She just needs to pull, yeah, everyone's agreeing.

1267
00:53:08.840 --> 00:53:12.980
Okay, girl, so you're gonna report back to us.

1268
00:53:12.980 --> 00:53:15.920
I feel like God told me to wait at the well though.

1269
00:53:15.920 --> 00:53:17.920
So that's the thing.

1270
00:53:17.920 --> 00:53:19.160
What does that mean, wait at the well?

1271
00:53:19.160 --> 00:53:22.840
That's not what we, okay.

1272
00:53:22.840 --> 00:53:25.760
So you mean waiting for him to reach out to you

1273
00:53:25.760 --> 00:53:27.060
and make the first move?

1274
00:53:28.720 --> 00:53:32.180
Not, okay, so we're beyond the,

1275
00:53:32.180 --> 00:53:34.000
we're attracted to each other phase.

1276
00:53:34.000 --> 00:53:36.720
Like I'm not living in fantasy land.

1277
00:53:36.720 --> 00:53:39.080
I know it sounds like I am, but I'm really not.

1278
00:53:39.080 --> 00:53:41.240
I know, but you want it to go to the next level.

1279
00:53:41.240 --> 00:53:43.200
You need to start having conversations

1280
00:53:43.200 --> 00:53:46.000
outside of running into him at church.

1281
00:53:46.000 --> 00:53:48.000
But see, we're not just running into each other.

1282
00:53:48.840 --> 00:53:51.920
He's been approaching intentionally.

1283
00:53:51.920 --> 00:53:56.160
I know, but do you see him anywhere else outside of church?

1284
00:53:57.440 --> 00:53:59.080
Okay, so you see him once a week?

1285
00:54:00.240 --> 00:54:02.040
And you talk either at the beginning of service

1286
00:54:02.040 --> 00:54:04.120
or at the end of service?

1287
00:54:04.120 --> 00:54:06.200
It's been both the past few weeks.

1288
00:54:06.200 --> 00:54:07.880
All right, well, I'm just giving you,

1289
00:54:07.880 --> 00:54:10.400
you raised your hand, you asked my advice.

1290
00:54:10.400 --> 00:54:14.320
I'm telling you, I think that you can wait at the well

1291
00:54:14.320 --> 00:54:15.920
and still give your name and number

1292
00:54:15.920 --> 00:54:17.800
because what you're doing is you're putting the ball

1293
00:54:17.800 --> 00:54:20.280
back in his court, but you're just saying like,

1294
00:54:20.280 --> 00:54:23.060
hey, I've enjoyed getting to talk to you.

1295
00:54:23.060 --> 00:54:25.080
I'm in a season in my life where I'm kind of dating

1296
00:54:25.080 --> 00:54:26.780
with intention and purpose.

1297
00:54:26.780 --> 00:54:31.200
I would love to get to know you offsite, not at church.

1298
00:54:31.200 --> 00:54:33.080
If that's something you're interested in, great.

1299
00:54:33.080 --> 00:54:35.160
If that's not something you're interested in too,

1300
00:54:35.160 --> 00:54:37.240
I'll keep hanging out talking to you

1301
00:54:37.240 --> 00:54:41.840
because 17 weeks is four months.

1302
00:54:42.680 --> 00:54:43.520
It's four months.

1303
00:54:43.520 --> 00:54:44.360
And I know there was a season

1304
00:54:44.360 --> 00:54:46.440
where you weren't running into each other,

1305
00:54:46.440 --> 00:54:48.280
but that's just my encouragement.

1306
00:54:48.280 --> 00:54:49.640
You lay it down before the Lord.

1307
00:54:49.640 --> 00:54:52.240
If the Lord continues to tell you to do nothing,

1308
00:54:52.240 --> 00:54:53.680
then I'm not gonna tell you to do something

1309
00:54:53.680 --> 00:54:55.460
the Lord's not telling you to do.

1310
00:54:56.280 --> 00:54:59.680
Okay, I'm gonna flip over and go back to these questions

1311
00:54:59.680 --> 00:55:00.520
because I...

1312
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.440
offered that other people would answer.

1313
00:55:03.440 --> 00:55:07.120
So David asked where to meet women.

1314
00:55:07.120 --> 00:55:10.200
We joked and said Target or HomeGoods,

1315
00:55:10.200 --> 00:55:13.860
but ladies, so I'm gonna take down some hands for a second.

1316
00:55:15.160 --> 00:55:18.880
Raise your hand only if you have suggestions for Dave,

1317
00:55:18.880 --> 00:55:22.280
where, so this is for the ladies.

1318
00:55:22.280 --> 00:55:23.720
So you're gonna only answer,

1319
00:55:23.720 --> 00:55:25.440
Adrienne, do you have an answer for?

1320
00:55:25.440 --> 00:55:27.440
Okay, so ladies, raise your hand

1321
00:55:27.440 --> 00:55:29.740
if you're willing to give some suggestions to David

1322
00:55:29.740 --> 00:55:31.180
where to meet women.

1323
00:55:32.220 --> 00:55:33.860
Where do you hang out?

1324
00:55:34.740 --> 00:55:36.300
Crystal Pear, where do you hang out?

1325
00:55:36.300 --> 00:55:38.700
Where can he meet you or meet women like you?

1326
00:55:38.700 --> 00:55:42.380
Hang out, but I mean, like I belong to a Christian,

1327
00:55:42.380 --> 00:55:43.540
I own my own business,

1328
00:55:43.540 --> 00:55:46.420
so I belong to a Christian like business group,

1329
00:55:46.420 --> 00:55:50.500
but like my group is 98% men and then me.

1330
00:55:50.500 --> 00:55:52.580
So he could find the opposite,

1331
00:55:52.580 --> 00:55:54.940
where there's 98% women and him.

1332
00:55:54.940 --> 00:55:56.500
Every week I tell the guys, I say,

1333
00:55:56.500 --> 00:55:58.220
hey, if anybody knows anybody

1334
00:55:58.220 --> 00:55:59.980
or anybody has a buddy or a brother, so.

1335
00:55:59.980 --> 00:56:01.100
And networking, you guys,

1336
00:56:01.100 --> 00:56:02.140
cause we have that week,

1337
00:56:02.140 --> 00:56:04.780
we have Christian Chambers of Commerce is here

1338
00:56:04.780 --> 00:56:08.020
and we have connect groups, like business networking groups.

1339
00:56:08.020 --> 00:56:09.100
That's a great idea,

1340
00:56:09.100 --> 00:56:10.700
like different kinds of networking groups

1341
00:56:10.700 --> 00:56:11.580
and that's a great idea.

1342
00:56:11.580 --> 00:56:13.500
Tiffany, what's another idea?

1343
00:56:14.900 --> 00:56:17.980
Taking ballroom dance lessons,

1344
00:56:17.980 --> 00:56:20.700
because you can show up by yourself

1345
00:56:20.700 --> 00:56:24.440
and then as you're practicing, they have you.

1346
00:56:24.440 --> 00:56:25.900
They do those parties.

1347
00:56:26.820 --> 00:56:29.500
Um, well, they're like group lessons.

1348
00:56:29.500 --> 00:56:31.660
And yes, they do group lessons as well.

1349
00:56:31.660 --> 00:56:34.460
But in a group lesson, you will dance with one person

1350
00:56:34.460 --> 00:56:35.620
and then you move down the line

1351
00:56:35.620 --> 00:56:37.540
and then you dance with the next person.

1352
00:56:37.540 --> 00:56:39.380
I love that.

1353
00:56:39.380 --> 00:56:42.500
It's such a good way of just talking with someone

1354
00:56:42.500 --> 00:56:43.900
and finding out who they are

1355
00:56:43.900 --> 00:56:48.100
without making it like money.

1356
00:56:48.100 --> 00:56:49.660
I don't know, just find out.

1357
00:56:49.660 --> 00:56:53.460
It's a really easy way of learning information about people

1358
00:56:53.460 --> 00:56:55.020
or just meeting them.

1359
00:56:55.060 --> 00:56:56.940
Oh my gosh, okay.

1360
00:56:56.940 --> 00:56:57.780
I love it.

1361
00:56:57.780 --> 00:56:58.600
That's a great idea.

1362
00:56:58.600 --> 00:56:59.440
Anybody else got a good idea?

1363
00:56:59.440 --> 00:57:01.620
I think those are some good ideas.

1364
00:57:01.620 --> 00:57:05.220
Another thing is, is nurses, hospitals.

1365
00:57:07.580 --> 00:57:10.820
Well, except nurses are working and Brian's a nurse.

1366
00:57:10.820 --> 00:57:12.860
So I think it's a misnomer.

1367
00:57:12.860 --> 00:57:15.860
Hospitals, I see women outnumber the men 10 to one.

1368
00:57:15.860 --> 00:57:16.940
Very true.

1369
00:57:16.940 --> 00:57:17.780
But...

1370
00:57:17.780 --> 00:57:19.540
Well, and I will say this though,

1371
00:57:19.540 --> 00:57:21.260
because she talked about,

1372
00:57:21.260 --> 00:57:24.140
we were talking about same sex relationships

1373
00:57:24.140 --> 00:57:26.100
or opposite sex relationships.

1374
00:57:26.100 --> 00:57:28.900
And that was something that she and I had to work with

1375
00:57:28.900 --> 00:57:32.420
because A, I was a nurse or am a nurse

1376
00:57:32.420 --> 00:57:34.600
and B, I'm in nursing education.

1377
00:57:34.600 --> 00:57:38.060
So I have a bunch of nursing students who are women.

1378
00:57:38.060 --> 00:57:40.700
I work in a hospital with a bunch of women

1379
00:57:40.700 --> 00:57:43.380
and there aren't very many men that are there.

1380
00:57:43.380 --> 00:57:45.900
So it was a little difficult.

1381
00:57:45.900 --> 00:57:48.900
I was like, okay, here's my friend, Eric.

1382
00:57:51.540 --> 00:57:53.100
Yeah, he doesn't have a lot of female.

1383
00:57:53.100 --> 00:57:53.940
So you're right.

1384
00:57:54.740 --> 00:57:55.740
I mean, I didn't have a lot of thing,

1385
00:57:55.740 --> 00:57:59.740
but again, as to those others, I worked three jobs too.

1386
00:57:59.740 --> 00:58:02.940
So I didn't have time to do any of the other things anyway.

1387
00:58:02.940 --> 00:58:03.860
Yeah.

1388
00:58:03.860 --> 00:58:06.540
And he makes sure that when he goes on the business trips

1389
00:58:06.540 --> 00:58:07.660
with the schools that,

1390
00:58:07.660 --> 00:58:09.380
if it's a group of eight women

1391
00:58:09.380 --> 00:58:12.620
and they're having dinner after a class thing, he'll go.

1392
00:58:12.620 --> 00:58:13.940
But if it's just one or two,

1393
00:58:13.940 --> 00:58:15.620
he just goes out back to his room.

1394
00:58:15.620 --> 00:58:17.380
Bernice, do you have ideas?

1395
00:58:17.380 --> 00:58:19.740
Yeah, group meetups.

1396
00:58:19.740 --> 00:58:21.220
Yep, I agree.

1397
00:58:21.220 --> 00:58:22.180
Those group meetups.

1398
00:58:22.180 --> 00:58:25.460
I always say volunteer groups and group meetups.

1399
00:58:25.460 --> 00:58:27.220
Those are great places to meet people.

1400
00:58:27.220 --> 00:58:29.980
Okay, I wanna get to somebody's question.

1401
00:58:29.980 --> 00:58:34.500
Crystal and other women, men, you can speak to this

1402
00:58:34.500 --> 00:58:38.180
because a lot of times you're stuck for opening lines online.

1403
00:58:38.180 --> 00:58:42.220
It says, do all men send crazy opening lines

1404
00:58:42.220 --> 00:58:44.380
even if they've done the hard work?

1405
00:58:44.380 --> 00:58:45.620
Hey, beautiful.

1406
00:58:45.620 --> 00:58:49.220
Hey, I see you're my new best friend, my Disney princess.

1407
00:58:49.220 --> 00:58:51.100
You're so beautiful, let's get married.

1408
00:58:51.140 --> 00:58:53.500
Okay, a lot of those are extreme,

1409
00:58:53.500 --> 00:58:57.620
but I think that sometimes guys have run out of things

1410
00:58:57.620 --> 00:58:59.540
to say as opening lines.

1411
00:58:59.540 --> 00:59:02.660
Brian, what was your opening line to me?

1412
00:59:02.660 --> 00:59:07.660
So my opening line to Renee was, nice pick.

1413
00:59:08.100 --> 00:59:10.500
That's it, y'all.

1414
00:59:10.500 --> 00:59:13.540
I mean, it was eloquent.

1415
00:59:13.540 --> 00:59:14.940
And so I was so ticked.

1416
00:59:14.940 --> 00:59:16.180
A man of many words.

1417
00:59:16.180 --> 00:59:19.180
A man of, and he said it was because for so long

1418
00:59:19.220 --> 00:59:22.740
he was writing really engaging opening messages

1419
00:59:22.740 --> 00:59:24.820
and so many women weren't responding

1420
00:59:24.820 --> 00:59:26.420
that he was like, well, screw it.

1421
00:59:26.420 --> 00:59:28.500
I'm just gonna say something short and simple

1422
00:59:28.500 --> 00:59:29.900
and if she responds,

1423
00:59:29.900 --> 00:59:32.980
then I'll come in with the eloquent, long response.

1424
00:59:32.980 --> 00:59:35.100
So I was like, nice smile.

1425
00:59:35.100 --> 00:59:35.940
Like, that's it.

1426
00:59:35.940 --> 00:59:38.020
And I never just answer that flippantly.

1427
00:59:38.020 --> 00:59:40.060
So I would say,

1428
00:59:40.060 --> 00:59:42.700
give anybody a chance past the first message.

1429
00:59:42.700 --> 00:59:45.380
It's really hard, you guys, to get out there.

1430
00:59:46.980 --> 00:59:48.900
Anybody else wanna speak to that?

1431
00:59:49.620 --> 00:59:50.460
Any of the men?

1432
00:59:50.460 --> 00:59:52.460
Can you feel Brian's pain here

1433
00:59:52.460 --> 00:59:55.300
that it's hard to come up with that opening line sometimes?

1434
00:59:55.300 --> 00:59:57.460
Abram's like, yeah, man.

1435
00:59:57.460 --> 00:59:59.580
Yeah, it is hard.

1436
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.000
you put a lot of effort into the line

1437
01:00:02.000 --> 01:00:03.360
and you write your own line and then it says,

1438
01:00:03.360 --> 01:00:04.840
oh, you just got that from chat, GBT.

1439
01:00:04.840 --> 01:00:07.160
And it's like, no, I actually wrote a line

1440
01:00:07.160 --> 01:00:08.240
and I put effort into it.

1441
01:00:08.240 --> 01:00:09.840
And they're like, oh, you just Googled that.

1442
01:00:09.840 --> 01:00:10.680
And it's like, no.

1443
01:00:10.680 --> 01:00:14.380
And so I think it's always like get to the Zoom date

1444
01:00:14.380 --> 01:00:16.880
because like a guy is trying really, really hard

1445
01:00:16.880 --> 01:00:19.320
and most men don't have the same reading

1446
01:00:19.320 --> 01:00:20.880
and writing skills that women do.

1447
01:00:20.880 --> 01:00:22.840
So just get to the Zoom date.

1448
01:00:22.840 --> 01:00:24.360
Yeah, that's my thing.

1449
01:00:24.360 --> 01:00:25.500
Yep.

1450
01:00:25.500 --> 01:00:26.820
Oh my gosh, you guys, by the way,

1451
01:00:26.820 --> 01:00:28.520
I love these other ideas.

1452
01:00:28.600 --> 01:00:32.840
Marshall's, Michael's, Costco, totally at Costco, man.

1453
01:00:32.840 --> 01:00:34.240
She's always there.

1454
01:00:34.240 --> 01:00:35.080
I love those ideas.

1455
01:00:35.080 --> 01:00:36.160
Those are so good.

1456
01:00:38.080 --> 01:00:38.920
Let's see.

1457
01:00:38.920 --> 01:00:42.640
It will keep you really clear-minded Canadian.

1458
01:00:42.640 --> 01:00:43.520
I'm looking through.

1459
01:00:43.520 --> 01:00:45.640
I'm trying to catch up y'all.

1460
01:00:45.640 --> 01:00:46.840
Okay.

1461
01:00:51.400 --> 01:00:52.960
Okay.

1462
01:00:52.960 --> 01:00:55.680
All right, any more questions for me and Brian

1463
01:00:55.680 --> 01:00:57.960
while I'm scanning through to make sure.

1464
01:00:58.240 --> 01:00:59.960
Okay, Erin has a question for guys.

1465
01:00:59.960 --> 01:01:02.340
Have you ever had a girl in the friend zone

1466
01:01:02.340 --> 01:01:05.280
and then she moved over to maybe a girl to date?

1467
01:01:05.280 --> 01:01:06.720
What made that shift happen?

1468
01:01:06.720 --> 01:01:08.820
Ooh, good question, Erin.

1469
01:01:08.820 --> 01:01:10.160
Men.

1470
01:01:10.160 --> 01:01:13.360
So Abram, David, Paul, Brandon.

1471
01:01:13.360 --> 01:01:15.140
Ooh, Brandon, I haven't heard you speak up today.

1472
01:01:15.140 --> 01:01:16.340
You need to speak up.

1473
01:01:16.340 --> 01:01:20.200
Have you ever seen you or one of your male friends

1474
01:01:20.200 --> 01:01:23.840
move a girl from the friend zone out of the friend zone?

1475
01:01:23.840 --> 01:01:25.200
Let us hear from you.

1476
01:01:26.200 --> 01:01:29.280
Have you ever seen that?

1477
01:01:29.280 --> 01:01:30.460
Brian's going with no.

1478
01:01:32.280 --> 01:01:34.200
Abram's shaking his head no.

1479
01:01:36.680 --> 01:01:37.520
Brandon?

1480
01:01:39.680 --> 01:01:40.600
It's a no.

1481
01:01:41.560 --> 01:01:45.320
So once a guy has friend zoned you, is that it?

1482
01:01:45.320 --> 01:01:47.640
I think it's almost the same both ways though.

1483
01:01:47.640 --> 01:01:49.840
I've not seen it the other way either.

1484
01:01:49.840 --> 01:01:51.560
Ladies, we have given no,

1485
01:01:51.560 --> 01:01:54.920
because Jackie teaches us it's a yes until it's a no.

1486
01:01:55.640 --> 01:01:58.160
And there are a number of women who have married men

1487
01:01:58.160 --> 01:02:00.240
in this program who would say

1488
01:02:00.240 --> 01:02:02.640
that in their first meeting with the men,

1489
01:02:02.640 --> 01:02:06.500
they were like, he wasn't my typical type, right?

1490
01:02:06.500 --> 01:02:09.680
It's a kind way of saying, eh,

1491
01:02:09.680 --> 01:02:11.520
I'm not sure I was feeling it, right?

1492
01:02:11.520 --> 01:02:13.280
But, and I'm not gonna name names

1493
01:02:13.280 --> 01:02:17.040
because I wouldn't want to keep saying that about you.

1494
01:02:17.040 --> 01:02:18.760
Like, oh, well, Brian wasn't somebody

1495
01:02:18.760 --> 01:02:20.240
I would have been normally attracted to.

1496
01:02:20.240 --> 01:02:22.000
Like, I don't know, but that's true.

1497
01:02:22.000 --> 01:02:24.240
I mean, I was attracted to him right away.

1498
01:02:24.240 --> 01:02:27.100
But let's see.

1499
01:02:31.720 --> 01:02:34.480
Oh, Perla, you have a question about an 18 year age gap.

1500
01:02:34.480 --> 01:02:35.440
How am I missing that?

1501
01:02:35.440 --> 01:02:37.040
Thank you for checking in on me.

1502
01:02:38.000 --> 01:02:41.560
Okay, so we're saying most of the time, Aaron,

1503
01:02:41.560 --> 01:02:43.360
and I think all the guys nodded.

1504
01:02:43.360 --> 01:02:44.680
Paul, what did you think?

1505
01:02:44.680 --> 01:02:46.600
I didn't see what your reaction was.

1506
01:02:49.080 --> 01:02:53.200
I've not seen anybody, but I'm sure it happens a lot.

1507
01:02:53.200 --> 01:02:55.080
I don't know if anybody's ever done it.

1508
01:02:55.080 --> 01:02:55.920
Yeah.

1509
01:02:55.920 --> 01:02:57.320
Anything's possible, right?

1510
01:02:57.320 --> 01:02:59.480
I mean, I would say-

1511
01:02:59.480 --> 01:03:01.200
I don't think it's a long shot kind of thing.

1512
01:03:01.200 --> 01:03:02.320
It's not a long shot.

1513
01:03:02.320 --> 01:03:04.640
I would say, you know how Jackie says

1514
01:03:04.640 --> 01:03:07.280
that you shouldn't redate an ex

1515
01:03:07.280 --> 01:03:10.200
unless something significant has changed?

1516
01:03:10.200 --> 01:03:12.180
I would say the same is probably true

1517
01:03:12.180 --> 01:03:14.200
to get somebody out of the friend zone.

1518
01:03:14.200 --> 01:03:16.040
And I'm not trying to be a jerk about it,

1519
01:03:16.040 --> 01:03:17.520
but men are visual.

1520
01:03:17.520 --> 01:03:20.920
So like, say you lost a hundred pounds

1521
01:03:20.920 --> 01:03:25.560
or you went from being a long, dark haired brunette

1522
01:03:25.560 --> 01:03:28.620
to a short pixie blonde and he likes blondes.

1523
01:03:28.620 --> 01:03:31.880
Or you suddenly, like, you know, Sandra Bullock,

1524
01:03:31.880 --> 01:03:34.920
and you suddenly got a makeover and it's like, va-voom.

1525
01:03:34.920 --> 01:03:36.520
Like you just kind of showed up.

1526
01:03:36.520 --> 01:03:41.520
And so I would suspect, or you really got your mojo.

1527
01:03:41.600 --> 01:03:42.560
Like, you know how I just,

1528
01:03:42.560 --> 01:03:44.600
I made Brian watch on our honeymoon,

1529
01:03:44.600 --> 01:03:46.760
the holiday with Kate Winslet.

1530
01:03:46.760 --> 01:03:50.000
And you know how like Kate Winslet character was like,

1531
01:03:50.040 --> 01:03:52.960
the guy always said, you're acting like the best friend,

1532
01:03:52.960 --> 01:03:54.920
but you need to behave like the leading lady.

1533
01:03:54.920 --> 01:03:57.040
So she kind of got some chutzpah.

1534
01:03:57.040 --> 01:04:00.800
And so that kind of really like made her more attractive.

1535
01:04:00.800 --> 01:04:04.840
So I would say something dramatic has to really shift

1536
01:04:04.840 --> 01:04:08.880
either in your internal or your visual

1537
01:04:08.880 --> 01:04:11.340
for a guy's perception to change.

1538
01:04:11.340 --> 01:04:14.080
That might be what it would have to take.

1539
01:04:14.080 --> 01:04:18.340
That would be, that would be my suggestion.

1540
01:04:18.580 --> 01:04:22.020
Ask a friend to ask him, sounds shy.

1541
01:04:22.020 --> 01:04:23.380
Is that was it?

1542
01:04:23.380 --> 01:04:24.460
Okay.

1543
01:04:24.460 --> 01:04:25.940
I'm trying to keep up with all your questions.

1544
01:04:25.940 --> 01:04:27.420
Okay, Perla, what was your question

1545
01:04:27.420 --> 01:04:28.860
about an 18 year age gap?

1546
01:04:28.860 --> 01:04:29.700
I will say this.

1547
01:04:29.700 --> 01:04:32.020
Jackie always says it's not so much the age,

1548
01:04:32.020 --> 01:04:33.520
it's season of life.

1549
01:04:33.520 --> 01:04:36.940
Like I, we just had two of our dearest friends break up.

1550
01:04:36.940 --> 01:04:41.140
Really, you guys, it was because they have a 13 year age gap

1551
01:04:41.140 --> 01:04:44.660
but she's mid forties and he's late, late, late fifties.

1552
01:04:44.660 --> 01:04:47.540
About to be 60 and his two adult kids are grown.

1553
01:04:47.580 --> 01:04:52.340
And she has four littles from the age of like five to 13

1554
01:04:52.340 --> 01:04:56.300
and choosing to re-enter becoming a parent

1555
01:04:56.300 --> 01:04:59.340
to young kids and teenagers is a big decision to make.

1556
01:04:59.340 --> 01:05:00.180
And you're either.

1557
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:02.600
ready and willing to do that or you're not.

1558
01:05:02.600 --> 01:05:05.960
And so I would say, that Jackie would say,

1559
01:05:05.960 --> 01:05:07.640
it's always about season of life.

1560
01:05:07.640 --> 01:05:10.240
Are you in the same season of life?

1561
01:05:10.240 --> 01:05:14.980
Otherwise, it's gonna be really, really hard to do that.

1562
01:05:17.400 --> 01:05:20.480
Yeah, I'm skeptical, just, yeah,

1563
01:05:20.480 --> 01:05:22.980
you're saying you're skeptical with men with friends.

1564
01:05:22.980 --> 01:05:26.000
Yeah, it's just, it's, hmm,

1565
01:05:26.000 --> 01:05:29.360
where physical progression begins, depth progression ends.

1566
01:05:29.400 --> 01:05:30.640
Ooh, that was good.

1567
01:05:30.640 --> 01:05:31.800
Look at you, Brandon.

1568
01:05:31.800 --> 01:05:32.740
You're not speaking up,

1569
01:05:32.740 --> 01:05:34.420
but you're saying some good stuff over here.

1570
01:05:34.420 --> 01:05:35.400
I love that.

1571
01:05:35.400 --> 01:05:38.160
Y'all, like, I'm trying to keep up with everybody.

1572
01:05:38.160 --> 01:05:39.720
There's like a million, here's what I love.

1573
01:05:39.720 --> 01:05:42.560
Y'all are like conversing so much that,

1574
01:05:42.560 --> 01:05:45.120
question, what does a guy say when he's interested

1575
01:05:45.120 --> 01:05:47.080
versus when he wants to be friends?

1576
01:05:47.080 --> 01:05:48.040
Ooh, good.

1577
01:05:48.040 --> 01:05:49.560
All right, men, you can't just nod your head.

1578
01:05:49.560 --> 01:05:51.040
You're gonna have to speak up.

1579
01:05:51.040 --> 01:05:54.720
What does a guy say when he's interested in you

1580
01:05:54.720 --> 01:05:56.640
versus he just wants to be friend?

1581
01:05:56.640 --> 01:05:59.240
How do you behave differently letting her know that?

1582
01:06:01.200 --> 01:06:04.120
He might consider just saying those words.

1583
01:06:04.120 --> 01:06:05.540
He might, you think?

1584
01:06:07.480 --> 01:06:08.320
It works.

1585
01:06:08.320 --> 01:06:11.040
Okay, well, hey, I'm all for honesty.

1586
01:06:11.040 --> 01:06:11.860
Yeah.

1587
01:06:13.520 --> 01:06:16.080
I think clear communication is key.

1588
01:06:16.080 --> 01:06:17.200
Yeah.

1589
01:06:17.200 --> 01:06:18.840
My phone died for the friend zone one,

1590
01:06:18.840 --> 01:06:22.660
but I have actually seen that happen probably 100 times

1591
01:06:22.660 --> 01:06:27.500
with a girl and it always is the same thing

1592
01:06:27.500 --> 01:06:29.180
is that because guys really love a woman

1593
01:06:29.180 --> 01:06:31.780
who's self-confident and has clear communication.

1594
01:06:31.780 --> 01:06:35.540
So if the guy says, hey, I just wanna be friends

1595
01:06:35.540 --> 01:06:37.020
and the girl says, hey, that's cool,

1596
01:06:37.020 --> 01:06:38.300
but I'm looking for a partner.

1597
01:06:38.300 --> 01:06:42.260
And so if you wanna date me, then like, hey, like,

1598
01:06:42.260 --> 01:06:44.380
and they're really clear about how they communicate

1599
01:06:44.380 --> 01:06:46.700
and say like, hey, like, if we're gonna be hanging out,

1600
01:06:46.700 --> 01:06:49.060
it's gonna be because we're in a dating context

1601
01:06:49.060 --> 01:06:50.740
and not in a friend context.

1602
01:06:50.740 --> 01:06:52.660
And when they draw that line,

1603
01:06:52.660 --> 01:06:55.380
almost always the guy says, you're right, you're right.

1604
01:06:55.380 --> 01:06:57.780
Yeah, because they love a woman who's self-confident.

1605
01:06:57.780 --> 01:07:00.620
And so that, I've seen that happen probably 100 times,

1606
01:07:00.620 --> 01:07:02.860
even for me, if I say to a girl,

1607
01:07:02.860 --> 01:07:04.700
hey, I just wanna be friends and she says,

1608
01:07:04.700 --> 01:07:06.740
no, we're not friends, we're in a dating context

1609
01:07:06.740 --> 01:07:09.260
and either we're gonna continue that or not.

1610
01:07:09.260 --> 01:07:10.820
And see, and here's what you're saying though,

1611
01:07:10.820 --> 01:07:13.420
because it's, remember I said she gets the chutzpah.

1612
01:07:13.420 --> 01:07:16.020
So I said something either has to change externally

1613
01:07:16.020 --> 01:07:18.980
or internally for him to see her in a different light.

1614
01:07:19.020 --> 01:07:22.300
So it's her kind of coming in with that feminine energy

1615
01:07:22.300 --> 01:07:23.300
to be like, boom.

1616
01:07:23.300 --> 01:07:25.060
And here's the thing, you guys,

1617
01:07:26.340 --> 01:07:29.060
I think, and this has been true for me,

1618
01:07:29.060 --> 01:07:31.340
if you, and this is true for men and women,

1619
01:07:31.340 --> 01:07:34.180
if you like somebody more than they like you

1620
01:07:34.180 --> 01:07:36.260
and you keep being friends with them

1621
01:07:36.260 --> 01:07:39.100
and you give them all the benefits of dating you

1622
01:07:39.100 --> 01:07:40.980
without actually dating you,

1623
01:07:40.980 --> 01:07:43.440
you do run the risk of being hurt though,

1624
01:07:43.440 --> 01:07:45.860
because their needs are getting met,

1625
01:07:45.860 --> 01:07:47.300
but your needs aren't getting met.

1626
01:07:47.300 --> 01:07:48.900
So once you've kind of declared,

1627
01:07:48.900 --> 01:07:50.740
hey, I'd like to see you,

1628
01:07:50.740 --> 01:07:53.380
I'd like to kind of not just be buddies.

1629
01:07:53.380 --> 01:07:57.020
And if they say, no, I still just see you as a friend

1630
01:07:57.020 --> 01:07:58.580
and you keep being friends with them,

1631
01:07:58.580 --> 01:07:59.420
I don't know about you,

1632
01:07:59.420 --> 01:08:01.840
but like if I was interested in a guy

1633
01:08:01.840 --> 01:08:03.220
and he didn't wanna be friends,

1634
01:08:03.220 --> 01:08:04.260
he didn't wanna date me,

1635
01:08:04.260 --> 01:08:06.180
I needed to stop seeing him so much.

1636
01:08:06.180 --> 01:08:08.580
Like that's the only way I'm gonna get over him

1637
01:08:08.580 --> 01:08:10.340
because I'm gonna always be holding

1638
01:08:10.340 --> 01:08:11.660
kind of a candle to him.

1639
01:08:11.660 --> 01:08:14.060
Like I just literally, I've had to leave jobs.

1640
01:08:14.060 --> 01:08:17.140
Like I've had to like change social circles.

1641
01:08:17.979 --> 01:08:19.340
Like if I really liked a guy

1642
01:08:19.340 --> 01:08:21.620
and like I was seeing them too much

1643
01:08:21.620 --> 01:08:23.939
and especially if their needs were getting met

1644
01:08:23.939 --> 01:08:25.580
in the relationship.

1645
01:08:25.580 --> 01:08:28.020
And so you have to pay attention to that.

1646
01:08:28.939 --> 01:08:31.260
Okay, so Megan was asking,

1647
01:08:31.260 --> 01:08:33.380
what does a guy say when he's interested?

1648
01:08:33.380 --> 01:08:35.899
I will say this Megan,

1649
01:08:35.899 --> 01:08:39.100
and I think that's true when I was watching Brian do it.

1650
01:08:39.100 --> 01:08:42.140
A guy who is pursuing you

1651
01:08:42.140 --> 01:08:44.380
doesn't give you any doubts about it.

1652
01:08:44.380 --> 01:08:47.060
You aren't sitting there questioning your text message

1653
01:08:48.020 --> 01:08:49.460
you're not questioning whether

1654
01:08:49.460 --> 01:08:52.060
did he put his hand on my back?

1655
01:08:52.060 --> 01:08:53.340
Cause he was being kind.

1656
01:08:53.340 --> 01:08:54.420
Did he grab my hand?

1657
01:08:54.420 --> 01:08:55.859
Like, oh my gosh, you guys,

1658
01:08:55.859 --> 01:08:57.020
I can't tell you how many times

1659
01:08:57.020 --> 01:08:58.660
I used to play stories in my head.

1660
01:08:58.660 --> 01:08:59.939
Like I was in theater like,

1661
01:08:59.939 --> 01:09:01.859
oh my gosh, he stood next to me during,

1662
01:09:01.859 --> 01:09:03.340
cause in theater you do that opening.

1663
01:09:03.340 --> 01:09:06.460
Like I forget what it's called when you're in a circle.

1664
01:09:06.460 --> 01:09:09.020
He stood next to me, he grabbed my hand.

1665
01:09:09.020 --> 01:09:10.979
Like if a guy is interested,

1666
01:09:10.979 --> 01:09:12.740
he's usually making it clear.

1667
01:09:12.740 --> 01:09:14.420
Especially if he's a marriage minded,

1668
01:09:14.420 --> 01:09:16.140
masculine, mature man.

1669
01:09:16.140 --> 01:09:18.180
We don't want to date men

1670
01:09:18.180 --> 01:09:20.540
who are on the fence and giving mixed signals.

1671
01:09:20.540 --> 01:09:22.620
We wanna date men who are sure.

1672
01:09:22.620 --> 01:09:24.500
So I think he's sure.

1673
01:09:24.500 --> 01:09:26.819
Now, if you smile and flirt,

1674
01:09:28.260 --> 01:09:31.300
you know, like if I liked a guy on a date,

1675
01:09:31.300 --> 01:09:33.340
I would find an excuse to touch them.

1676
01:09:33.340 --> 01:09:34.300
Like a little bit here, like,

1677
01:09:34.300 --> 01:09:35.500
oh my gosh, thank you so much.

1678
01:09:35.500 --> 01:09:37.180
I would, you know, I'd find a way

1679
01:09:37.180 --> 01:09:38.819
I would look at them longer.

1680
01:09:38.819 --> 01:09:41.460
I would lean into the conversation a little bit more.

1681
01:09:41.460 --> 01:09:43.060
If I could tell halfway through the date,

1682
01:09:43.060 --> 01:09:44.180
I'm not into him.

1683
01:09:44.180 --> 01:09:45.740
I start backing up.

1684
01:09:46.340 --> 01:09:47.580
I make sure I don't touch him.

1685
01:09:47.580 --> 01:09:49.100
I'm sitting a little further back.

1686
01:09:49.100 --> 01:09:50.779
Like I create space.

1687
01:09:50.779 --> 01:09:52.779
Like Abram, you got your hand up.

1688
01:09:52.779 --> 01:09:53.979
What do you wanna share?

1689
01:09:58.300 --> 01:09:59.900
Oh dang it, I can't hear you.

1690
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:04.160
Take the earbuds out.

1691
01:10:04.160 --> 01:10:06.280
This is what happened to me when I wear my earbuds.

1692
01:10:06.280 --> 01:10:07.920
For some reason, they don't always work on Zoom.

1693
01:10:07.920 --> 01:10:10.080
I don't know what's going on.

1694
01:10:10.080 --> 01:10:13.240
I think it's the enemy trying to not let you speak, because I just think you've got some

1695
01:10:13.240 --> 01:10:15.240
good stuff to say.

1696
01:10:15.240 --> 01:10:19.960
Sammy, what do you got for us?

1697
01:10:19.960 --> 01:10:20.960
I'm going to wait for...

1698
01:10:20.960 --> 01:10:23.680
I'm going to find a way for Abram to say what he has to say.

1699
01:10:23.680 --> 01:10:29.520
Oh, I was just going to say regarding the being friends first, and then, you know, getting

1700
01:10:29.520 --> 01:10:30.520
out of the friend zone.

1701
01:10:30.520 --> 01:10:33.600
I knew a girl in college who was friends with...

1702
01:10:33.600 --> 01:10:35.040
Well, she was dating some other guy.

1703
01:10:35.040 --> 01:10:36.040
She asked us...

1704
01:10:36.040 --> 01:10:40.760
Our little female all-girl musical group at the BSU asked us to pray about breaking up

1705
01:10:40.760 --> 01:10:41.760
with this guy she was dating.

1706
01:10:41.760 --> 01:10:44.880
Well, the next thing we knew, she had broken up with him.

1707
01:10:44.880 --> 01:10:48.800
And then there was this guy she already knew as friends for a long time named Kevin, and

1708
01:10:48.800 --> 01:10:53.560
they realized they were in love with each other, and they got married.

1709
01:10:53.560 --> 01:10:54.560
It happens.

1710
01:10:54.560 --> 01:10:55.800
I mean, it happens, you guys.

1711
01:10:55.800 --> 01:10:56.800
We flew in here.

1712
01:10:56.800 --> 01:10:57.800
We met Sally.

1713
01:10:57.800 --> 01:10:58.800
For goodness sake.

1714
01:10:58.800 --> 01:10:59.800
What was that, 15 years?

1715
01:10:59.800 --> 01:11:03.200
You guys, I'm so dating myself with that damn movie.

1716
01:11:03.200 --> 01:11:06.280
But I mean, so you could wait 20 years.

1717
01:11:06.280 --> 01:11:08.400
I don't know about y'all, but I'm not waiting 20 years.

1718
01:11:08.400 --> 01:11:09.960
I didn't wait 20 years.

1719
01:11:09.960 --> 01:11:10.960
Okay.

1720
01:11:10.960 --> 01:11:11.960
Debra has a good question.

1721
01:11:11.960 --> 01:11:14.640
Abram, if you can figure out a way to start talking in us here, you just...

1722
01:11:14.640 --> 01:11:15.640
Can you hear me?

1723
01:11:15.640 --> 01:11:16.640
Yes.

1724
01:11:16.640 --> 01:11:17.640
I can hear you.

1725
01:11:17.640 --> 01:11:18.640
Can you hear me?

1726
01:11:18.640 --> 01:11:19.640
Yes.

1727
01:11:19.640 --> 01:11:20.640
Are you sure?

1728
01:11:20.640 --> 01:11:21.640
Yes.

1729
01:11:21.640 --> 01:11:22.640
Okay.

1730
01:11:22.640 --> 01:11:26.640
I think if a man is complimenting you, that's pretty...

1731
01:11:26.640 --> 01:11:30.720
As long as he's not getting dirty or nothing, nothing disrespectful, I think compliments

1732
01:11:30.720 --> 01:11:32.640
are very simple.

1733
01:11:32.640 --> 01:11:36.600
When he sees you, if he has any kind of charm, he will compliment you.

1734
01:11:36.600 --> 01:11:40.520
Maybe not on you physically, but he will compliment your earrings.

1735
01:11:40.520 --> 01:11:42.520
He will compliment your dress.

1736
01:11:42.520 --> 01:11:46.120
He will maybe even go a little nice shoes.

1737
01:11:46.120 --> 01:11:47.120
I don't know.

1738
01:11:47.120 --> 01:11:48.600
But I think compliments are a number one sign.

1739
01:11:48.600 --> 01:11:51.880
You don't compliment chicks that are your friends, really.

1740
01:11:52.120 --> 01:11:54.120
I mean, unless you've known for a long time.

1741
01:11:54.120 --> 01:11:55.120
Yeah.

1742
01:11:55.120 --> 01:11:59.400
Look, I'll compliment my friend's wife when we have a nice dinner.

1743
01:11:59.400 --> 01:12:02.880
Hey, Jessica, you look lovely tonight.

1744
01:12:02.880 --> 01:12:06.440
But it's just a way to make people feel good.

1745
01:12:06.440 --> 01:12:08.960
It's just a genuine...

1746
01:12:08.960 --> 01:12:10.200
You want to make someone feel good.

1747
01:12:10.200 --> 01:12:13.360
So I think compliments are obviously a number one.

1748
01:12:13.360 --> 01:12:16.640
You don't compliment your homies, these guys.

1749
01:12:16.640 --> 01:12:20.880
We don't really like, hey, Todd, you're looking really good today, Todd.

1750
01:12:20.880 --> 01:12:24.240
So maybe once in a while, we'll all get dressed up for a wedding.

1751
01:12:24.240 --> 01:12:25.920
Because girls will do that for each other.

1752
01:12:25.920 --> 01:12:28.120
Girls, you guys are always hyping each other up, dudes.

1753
01:12:28.120 --> 01:12:31.000
We're like, we're calling each other names and we're kind of mean to each other.

1754
01:12:31.000 --> 01:12:32.000
That's kind of more normal.

1755
01:12:32.000 --> 01:12:33.000
That's so good.

1756
01:12:33.000 --> 01:12:34.440
I think compliments for sure.

1757
01:12:34.440 --> 01:12:35.440
I love that.

1758
01:12:35.440 --> 01:12:37.360
That's so good.

1759
01:12:37.360 --> 01:12:43.080
Deborah asked, when guys comment like on Facebook, are they signaling interest?

1760
01:12:43.080 --> 01:12:45.000
Do men drop pinkies too?

1761
01:12:45.000 --> 01:12:47.080
Guys, do you want to answer that question?

1762
01:12:47.080 --> 01:12:53.560
So if you see a girl on Facebook and you're starting to like it or comment, is that you're

1763
01:12:53.560 --> 01:12:55.800
dropping the hanky a little bit?

1764
01:12:55.800 --> 01:12:58.520
Abram, oh, maybe.

1765
01:12:58.520 --> 01:12:59.760
You're saying maybe.

1766
01:12:59.760 --> 01:13:01.160
A little bit?

1767
01:13:01.160 --> 01:13:04.400
It can be.

1768
01:13:04.400 --> 01:13:06.000
It's easier to tell in person.

1769
01:13:06.000 --> 01:13:10.480
If a guy likes you and he's dropping the hanky, he's going to be making eye contact.

1770
01:13:10.480 --> 01:13:15.280
He's going to be, his body language is going to be clear that he wants to talk to you.

1771
01:13:15.280 --> 01:13:16.960
So he's going to be making little glances.

1772
01:13:16.960 --> 01:13:19.560
He's going to come over and talk to you.

1773
01:13:19.560 --> 01:13:22.000
That's really how guys do it.

1774
01:13:22.000 --> 01:13:24.800
So how can a girl get past that stage?

1775
01:13:24.800 --> 01:13:27.880
So some guys start showing, but you guys, it is weird.

1776
01:13:27.880 --> 01:13:28.880
I have ex-boyfriends.

1777
01:13:28.880 --> 01:13:31.120
I don't even know if I want to call them.

1778
01:13:31.120 --> 01:13:36.360
I have ex level two dating people on Facebook that I've somehow saved friends with.

1779
01:13:36.360 --> 01:13:37.840
They have liked so many of my posts.

1780
01:13:37.840 --> 01:13:39.600
They even liked my post with Brian.

1781
01:13:39.600 --> 01:13:43.840
So sometimes like people, like we just don't know.

1782
01:13:43.840 --> 01:13:45.860
I think you have to get more information.

1783
01:13:45.860 --> 01:13:51.660
So guys, what can a woman do to figure out if he's just liking it because he's curious

1784
01:13:51.660 --> 01:13:58.100
or interested to more, does she start liking and commenting on his posts?

1785
01:13:58.100 --> 01:14:05.980
What do we need to do to find out if it's something?

1786
01:14:05.980 --> 01:14:11.180
I feel like girls have rules for the, for like social media liking, but guys don't really

1787
01:14:11.180 --> 01:14:14.380
fall like know them or follow the same ones.

1788
01:14:14.900 --> 01:14:16.300
It's a bit more random.

1789
01:14:16.300 --> 01:14:17.300
Yeah.

1790
01:14:17.300 --> 01:14:20.180
It's kind of like, I'll just like a post cause I'm like, Oh, that's a cool picture in the

1791
01:14:20.180 --> 01:14:21.180
background.

1792
01:14:21.180 --> 01:14:22.940
Like, and someone's like, Oh, like you liked their post.

1793
01:14:22.940 --> 01:14:24.740
And I was like, Oh, I didn't think about it.

1794
01:14:24.740 --> 01:14:28.180
So I don't think most men don't really think about it.

1795
01:14:28.180 --> 01:14:29.180
Yeah.

1796
01:14:29.180 --> 01:14:30.180
Yeah.

1797
01:14:30.180 --> 01:14:31.180
Okay.

1798
01:14:31.180 --> 01:14:32.180
Yeah.

1799
01:14:32.180 --> 01:14:39.380
I think you're commenting on the post a lot on all their posts.

1800
01:14:39.380 --> 01:14:43.980
I mean, other than just a like, you know, showing some interest there possibly.

1801
01:14:44.580 --> 01:14:45.580
Okay.

1802
01:14:45.580 --> 01:14:49.220
So basically we have to be looking for more than just the likes, we have to be looking

1803
01:14:49.220 --> 01:14:50.220
for the comments.

1804
01:14:50.220 --> 01:14:51.220
I think that's

1805
01:14:51.220 --> 01:14:52.220
Oh yeah.

1806
01:14:52.220 --> 01:14:53.220
The guy would definitely comment.

1807
01:14:53.220 --> 01:14:54.220
Okay.

1808
01:14:54.220 --> 01:14:56.060
Abram, what you got?

1809
01:14:56.060 --> 01:15:00.020
I would say that like, there's been women online that I've.

1810
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:03.000
like a friend request.

1811
01:15:03.000 --> 01:15:04.400
And then they'll find out that, you know,

1812
01:15:04.400 --> 01:15:06.120
it's kind of really not what I'm looking for,

1813
01:15:06.120 --> 01:15:07.520
but I will still remain friends with them.

1814
01:15:07.520 --> 01:15:10.320
And kind of liking their post for me is like a,

1815
01:15:10.320 --> 01:15:12.680
you know, just keeping the positivity going.

1816
01:15:12.680 --> 01:15:15.440
So it's not, I'm not doing the hovering thing

1817
01:15:15.440 --> 01:15:17.200
because that's, to me, that's weird.

1818
01:15:17.200 --> 01:15:18.400
You know, like you ask the chick out,

1819
01:15:18.400 --> 01:15:20.340
you give her a message, you know,

1820
01:15:20.340 --> 01:15:23.520
and make sure if she likes you back or she's interested,

1821
01:15:23.520 --> 01:15:25.420
because women will let you know most of the time.

1822
01:15:25.420 --> 01:15:27.760
If they don't respond, that's also a response.

1823
01:15:28.000 --> 01:15:31.600
So I think that there's a lot of people on social media

1824
01:15:31.600 --> 01:15:34.960
that we've kind of become, not like friends,

1825
01:15:34.960 --> 01:15:37.880
but almost kind of like, you know,

1826
01:15:37.880 --> 01:15:40.160
liking each other's posts, just like in a genuine way.

1827
01:15:40.160 --> 01:15:43.540
I don't, it's way past the, I'm hitting on you

1828
01:15:43.540 --> 01:15:45.160
and I'm friend zone now kind of deal.

1829
01:15:45.160 --> 01:15:47.940
I think it's just, because you never know

1830
01:15:47.940 --> 01:15:50.200
who's going to be in one of her accounts

1831
01:15:50.200 --> 01:15:53.840
or who could see you liking her stuff.

1832
01:15:53.840 --> 01:15:56.080
So it's just like a keep positivity going.

1833
01:15:56.480 --> 01:15:58.000
I don't think it's that weird.

1834
01:15:58.000 --> 01:16:00.320
Yeah, I don't know.

1835
01:16:00.320 --> 01:16:02.400
That's good, that's good.

1836
01:16:02.400 --> 01:16:04.880
Perla, I finally see the response to your thing.

1837
01:16:04.880 --> 01:16:06.840
You said, I don't know what yet his season is.

1838
01:16:06.840 --> 01:16:09.000
I'm 40 and he's late 50s.

1839
01:16:09.000 --> 01:16:11.160
I would say this right off the bat.

1840
01:16:11.160 --> 01:16:15.280
If you know you want kids or you have kids

1841
01:16:16.560 --> 01:16:19.720
or he doesn't want kids or he doesn't want kids,

1842
01:16:19.720 --> 01:16:22.640
and that's like if children are part of your story,

1843
01:16:22.640 --> 01:16:24.960
you'll find out soon enough when you start dating.

1844
01:16:24.960 --> 01:16:27.040
So sometimes it's a yes until it's a no.

1845
01:16:27.040 --> 01:16:28.120
That's why you just don't know

1846
01:16:28.120 --> 01:16:29.960
some of that stuff right away.

1847
01:16:29.960 --> 01:16:33.440
But like, here's a good example of that.

1848
01:16:33.440 --> 01:16:34.960
So my friend that we were talking about,

1849
01:16:34.960 --> 01:16:36.360
she has four kids.

1850
01:16:36.360 --> 01:16:38.720
This was the phrase he said.

1851
01:16:38.720 --> 01:16:40.920
I would be willing to pray to see

1852
01:16:40.920 --> 01:16:44.360
if I would be open to having kids again.

1853
01:16:44.360 --> 01:16:45.200
I don't know about y'all,

1854
01:16:45.200 --> 01:16:47.240
but that wouldn't be a good enough for me.

1855
01:16:47.240 --> 01:16:49.400
I would need to know that I,

1856
01:16:49.400 --> 01:16:51.920
because I know I've heard David Wright say this.

1857
01:16:51.920 --> 01:16:55.120
I've heard him say, I would be more than willing

1858
01:16:55.120 --> 01:16:57.200
if God's plan is for me to meet somebody

1859
01:16:57.200 --> 01:16:58.600
who's already got kids,

1860
01:16:58.600 --> 01:17:00.480
I think I'm ready to be a step-parent.

1861
01:17:00.480 --> 01:17:03.640
That's somebody who has already decided

1862
01:17:03.640 --> 01:17:05.960
that if his spirit mate already has kids,

1863
01:17:05.960 --> 01:17:08.040
he's willing to be on board with that.

1864
01:17:08.040 --> 01:17:11.740
So to me, when I talk about season of life,

1865
01:17:11.740 --> 01:17:14.640
it's like the things that you know that you're sure of,

1866
01:17:14.640 --> 01:17:16.240
you wanna start to hear when you have

1867
01:17:16.240 --> 01:17:18.260
those first few dates with them,

1868
01:17:18.260 --> 01:17:20.560
that those are things that they're open to.

1869
01:17:22.440 --> 01:17:24.420
And not like, well, I'll pray about it

1870
01:17:24.420 --> 01:17:27.480
to see if I might be open to that, or I might like,

1871
01:17:27.480 --> 01:17:30.180
you just, you wanna pay attention to that

1872
01:17:30.180 --> 01:17:32.160
because you could be setting yourself up,

1873
01:17:32.160 --> 01:17:35.080
but none of this you're gonna know in the first date or two.

1874
01:17:35.080 --> 01:17:37.280
That's why you have to just get to know him.

1875
01:17:39.640 --> 01:17:43.320
Yeah, I mean, and so age gaps can,

1876
01:17:43.320 --> 01:17:46.280
age gaps can be a lot of reasons.

1877
01:17:46.280 --> 01:17:48.400
It could be he's retired

1878
01:17:48.400 --> 01:17:50.360
and he doesn't want her working full-time

1879
01:17:50.360 --> 01:17:54.160
because he wants to travel and she wants to work full-time.

1880
01:17:54.160 --> 01:17:56.360
So it's not just children.

1881
01:17:56.360 --> 01:17:59.080
It could be anything, which you just don't know

1882
01:17:59.080 --> 01:18:00.320
until you start to get to know them

1883
01:18:00.320 --> 01:18:01.620
and keep talking to them.

1884
01:18:03.160 --> 01:18:06.000
Okay, I'm glad that you guys are answering each other

1885
01:18:06.000 --> 01:18:07.240
in the chat too.

1886
01:18:07.240 --> 01:18:09.120
Like if women are asking questions,

1887
01:18:09.120 --> 01:18:12.000
men, if I'm not getting to you or the answer,

1888
01:18:12.000 --> 01:18:14.300
please go and answer them directly in the chat.

1889
01:18:14.300 --> 01:18:15.480
Like, I feel like this is really,

1890
01:18:15.480 --> 01:18:17.260
really a good way to do that.

1891
01:18:17.420 --> 01:18:22.260
Okay, I wanna switch over.

1892
01:18:22.260 --> 01:18:23.220
I feel like this was fun.

1893
01:18:23.220 --> 01:18:24.420
Do you guys feel like this was helpful?

1894
01:18:24.420 --> 01:18:25.700
Kind of like asking good questions.

1895
01:18:25.700 --> 01:18:26.540
Okay.

1896
01:18:26.540 --> 01:18:27.500
You can say that again.

1897
01:18:27.500 --> 01:18:28.740
For the net, what do you got Hunter?

1898
01:18:28.740 --> 01:18:29.980
Say it really quick.

1899
01:18:29.980 --> 01:18:32.260
Oh, it's about this Christina girl

1900
01:18:32.260 --> 01:18:34.220
who said is interested in me.

1901
01:18:34.220 --> 01:18:35.740
I was looking today for the email

1902
01:18:35.740 --> 01:18:37.460
and I found it, it said,

1903
01:18:37.460 --> 01:18:39.860
introduction to each other, both are emails.

1904
01:18:39.860 --> 01:18:42.580
I emailed her a nice intro to you and to her,

1905
01:18:42.580 --> 01:18:44.260
but I don't know if it's gonna work out.

1906
01:18:44.260 --> 01:18:45.860
But I think if she's interested,

1907
01:18:45.860 --> 01:18:47.540
but now if I don't hear back,

1908
01:18:47.540 --> 01:18:49.040
I think you're interest down.

1909
01:18:49.040 --> 01:18:51.300
My problem is they first, they say they're interested,

1910
01:18:51.300 --> 01:18:52.420
but then they back out.

1911
01:18:52.420 --> 01:18:54.180
I don't know what's the problem.

1912
01:18:54.180 --> 01:18:56.220
Well, I think here's what happens sometimes.

1913
01:18:56.220 --> 01:18:58.300
I think that on both sides,

1914
01:18:58.300 --> 01:19:00.820
men and women appear to be interested

1915
01:19:00.820 --> 01:19:03.740
because they don't know how to say no, thank you.

1916
01:19:03.740 --> 01:19:05.980
And so they say something polite

1917
01:19:06.940 --> 01:19:10.100
and it gives us the perception that they're in.

1918
01:19:10.100 --> 01:19:11.220
But then when you have to,

1919
01:19:11.220 --> 01:19:13.020
then when you kind of call them on that

1920
01:19:13.020 --> 01:19:15.340
and you want them to make good on that,

1921
01:19:15.380 --> 01:19:17.300
then they kind of back off.

1922
01:19:17.300 --> 01:19:21.380
And so Jackie always says match their energy.

1923
01:19:21.380 --> 01:19:23.900
So Hunter, I don't think it just happens to you.

1924
01:19:23.900 --> 01:19:25.660
I think we've all experienced that

1925
01:19:25.660 --> 01:19:28.580
where we feel like somebody seemed to show interest.

1926
01:19:28.580 --> 01:19:29.820
Many of us have been ghosted.

1927
01:19:29.820 --> 01:19:31.380
I mean, I dated a guy for four weeks

1928
01:19:31.380 --> 01:19:33.020
that just completely disappeared.

1929
01:19:34.020 --> 01:19:36.980
And so I don't understand why it happens sometimes.

1930
01:19:36.980 --> 01:19:39.620
I think sometimes people think it's a maybe.

1931
01:19:39.620 --> 01:19:43.540
They think, eh, maybe, maybe, and then it's a no.

1932
01:19:43.540 --> 01:19:44.700
And sometimes the no is just

1933
01:19:45.060 --> 01:19:46.060
because they've thought about it.

1934
01:19:46.060 --> 01:19:48.700
Sometimes it's a no because they found somebody else

1935
01:19:48.700 --> 01:19:50.820
that they're more interested in pursuing.

1936
01:19:50.820 --> 01:19:52.940
So I feel you, Hunter.

1937
01:19:52.940 --> 01:19:54.660
Your girl will be consistent.

1938
01:19:54.660 --> 01:19:57.500
Her yes will be a yes more than one time.

1939
01:19:57.500 --> 01:19:58.460
Okay.

1940
01:19:58.460 --> 01:19:59.860
I wrote about my.

1941
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:02.600
I have my high and I want kids naturally.

1942
01:20:02.600 --> 01:20:05.240
Hey, Hunter, I'm going to ask you to save that for the guys

1943
01:20:05.240 --> 01:20:09.040
talk on Monday night, because that's really not the direction

1944
01:20:09.040 --> 01:20:10.080
I need to go in right now.

1945
01:20:10.080 --> 01:20:10.600
That's cool.

1946
01:20:10.600 --> 01:20:11.840
No, no, I appreciate it, though.

1947
01:20:11.840 --> 01:20:13.520
Because I have a feeling David and the guys

1948
01:20:13.520 --> 01:20:15.840
might be able to help you out a little bit more specific

1949
01:20:15.840 --> 01:20:18.480
so that you get all the airtime that you need on it.

1950
01:20:18.480 --> 01:20:21.840
OK, so we're going to go to some more,

1951
01:20:21.840 --> 01:20:24.960
like there is more serious questions.

1952
01:20:24.960 --> 01:20:27.160
So it's more serious, but you're going to get really short.

1953
01:20:27.160 --> 01:20:28.280
You're going to give me short answers.

1954
01:20:28.280 --> 01:20:30.160
And I'm going to highlight like four of you.

1955
01:20:30.160 --> 01:20:32.640
So if you are camera ready and you have not

1956
01:20:32.640 --> 01:20:36.720
been highlighted by me in the last like seven months,

1957
01:20:36.720 --> 01:20:38.760
and I haven't asked you like these series of seven

1958
01:20:38.760 --> 01:20:41.120
questions, you guys have seen these questions before.

1959
01:20:41.120 --> 01:20:42.200
But they're fun questions.

1960
01:20:42.200 --> 01:20:45.680
I want you to raise your hand so that we can highlight you.

1961
01:20:45.680 --> 01:20:49.600
And I'm going to interview like four people.

1962
01:20:49.600 --> 01:20:52.520
And I'm only picking people that I can see you

1963
01:20:52.520 --> 01:20:55.640
and that you're nice and camera ready.

1964
01:20:55.640 --> 01:20:58.100
Oh, and while you guys are doing that,

1965
01:20:58.620 --> 01:21:00.220
Melissa Dawn has a good question for us.

1966
01:21:00.220 --> 01:21:03.180
What surprised each of you most about marriage?

1967
01:21:03.180 --> 01:21:06.660
Ooh, given it's your first marriage that you didn't even

1968
01:21:06.660 --> 01:21:09.980
know to expect.

1969
01:21:09.980 --> 01:21:13.100
What has surprised me?

1970
01:21:13.100 --> 01:21:15.740
The fact that he's not going anywhere.

1971
01:21:15.740 --> 01:21:17.140
He's there all the time.

1972
01:21:17.140 --> 01:21:20.140
I think what really surprised her was the fact that, oh my

1973
01:21:20.140 --> 01:21:23.460
gosh, he's still here.

1974
01:21:23.460 --> 01:21:24.460
Every day.

1975
01:21:24.460 --> 01:21:25.260
You know what?

1976
01:21:25.260 --> 01:21:26.060
Day and night.

1977
01:21:29.100 --> 01:21:33.300
But here's what has surprised me, in a good way,

1978
01:21:33.300 --> 01:21:36.020
that like literally on my honeymoon,

1979
01:21:36.020 --> 01:21:38.300
I'm hacking up a lung, like seriously.

1980
01:21:38.300 --> 01:21:40.740
Like I was trying to look hot and sexy in my lingerie

1981
01:21:40.740 --> 01:21:45.700
and fuzzy socks while I was hacking up a lung.

1982
01:21:45.700 --> 01:21:47.620
And the fact that he still finds me

1983
01:21:47.620 --> 01:21:51.100
beautiful in what I think is my ugliest moment,

1984
01:21:51.100 --> 01:21:54.220
like I always knew that.

1985
01:21:54.220 --> 01:21:57.540
And that is the power of marrying your best friend.

1986
01:21:57.540 --> 01:21:59.580
Because while he thinks I'm beautiful

1987
01:21:59.580 --> 01:22:02.660
and I think he's good looking, we have both been sick

1988
01:22:02.660 --> 01:22:06.060
and we have seen each other like look pretty darn ugly.

1989
01:22:06.060 --> 01:22:11.820
And so I think I am surprised and grateful

1990
01:22:11.820 --> 01:22:15.700
that our desire to be together is not

1991
01:22:15.700 --> 01:22:17.740
contingent on how we physically look,

1992
01:22:17.740 --> 01:22:20.140
or even our mental attitude on a given day.

1993
01:22:22.820 --> 01:22:26.540
And how should we date knowing what you all know?

1994
01:22:26.540 --> 01:22:29.660
I would say this, I think that the thing I learned

1995
01:22:29.660 --> 01:22:35.460
is I wasted too much time trying to decipher

1996
01:22:35.460 --> 01:22:37.740
what people thought.

1997
01:22:37.740 --> 01:22:40.900
I mean, I spent too many times dating people

1998
01:22:40.900 --> 01:22:44.620
that bread crumbed me.

1999
01:22:44.620 --> 01:22:46.620
And I was trying to figure out what,

2000
01:22:46.620 --> 01:22:48.700
I gave him a lot of allowances.

2001
01:22:48.700 --> 01:22:50.700
Well, he works for NASA.

2002
01:22:50.700 --> 01:22:52.140
Well, he's got children.

2003
01:22:52.340 --> 01:22:56.660
I made a lot of excuses that I shouldn't have made.

2004
01:22:56.660 --> 01:22:59.540
And what I learned with Brian is,

2005
01:22:59.540 --> 01:23:03.500
it's back to that phrase that Jackie said flippantly,

2006
01:23:03.500 --> 01:23:04.900
and it's so true.

2007
01:23:04.900 --> 01:23:07.460
If a man likes you, he will cut off his arm

2008
01:23:07.460 --> 01:23:10.540
and use it as an oar to swim upstream to you.

2009
01:23:10.540 --> 01:23:12.900
It was such a graphic image, but I truly

2010
01:23:12.900 --> 01:23:16.020
believe that it is an example of that.

2011
01:23:16.020 --> 01:23:18.780
Brian had three jobs, lived three and a half hours away

2012
01:23:18.780 --> 01:23:21.580
from me, and made time to see me every single week

2013
01:23:21.580 --> 01:23:24.940
in those first two months until he moved here.

2014
01:23:24.940 --> 01:23:27.780
And so I would say, be intentional.

2015
01:23:27.780 --> 01:23:28.780
Be super intentional.

2016
01:23:28.780 --> 01:23:30.780
That's why I wouldn't hang out with a guy waiting

2017
01:23:30.780 --> 01:23:32.180
six months at church.

2018
01:23:32.180 --> 01:23:34.900
I'd be like, I would want to know, is he into me

2019
01:23:34.900 --> 01:23:35.780
or is he not into me?

2020
01:23:35.780 --> 01:23:37.700
And he might be into me, but does he actually

2021
01:23:37.700 --> 01:23:38.460
want to date me?

2022
01:23:38.460 --> 01:23:42.100
Does he want to pursue a marriage relationship?

2023
01:23:42.100 --> 01:23:43.900
Those are OK things to ask.

2024
01:23:43.900 --> 01:23:47.260
And I used to be embarrassed by some men that would be like,

2025
01:23:47.260 --> 01:23:49.380
well, why are you asking me that on the first date?

2026
01:23:49.420 --> 01:23:51.540
Well, because you've been divorced twice

2027
01:23:51.540 --> 01:23:53.500
or you were married for 30 years and you just

2028
01:23:53.500 --> 01:23:55.620
told me you never want to get married again.

2029
01:23:55.620 --> 01:23:58.700
That's OK, but that's not where I am.

2030
01:23:58.700 --> 01:24:02.460
So I would say, and Jackie always says,

2031
01:24:02.460 --> 01:24:04.500
it doesn't have to be easy.

2032
01:24:04.500 --> 01:24:06.340
It just has to be worth it.

2033
01:24:06.340 --> 01:24:10.140
I took that to the extreme in my relationship before Brian.

2034
01:24:10.140 --> 01:24:13.260
I let someone behave almost very abusively to me

2035
01:24:13.260 --> 01:24:16.740
because I kept thinking, well, it doesn't have to be easy.

2036
01:24:16.740 --> 01:24:17.540
It can be hard.

2037
01:24:17.540 --> 01:24:19.020
It just has to be worth it.

2038
01:24:20.020 --> 01:24:23.780
That doesn't mean let somebody treat you like crap.

2039
01:24:23.780 --> 01:24:27.660
So I'll tag onto that because I firmly

2040
01:24:27.660 --> 01:24:31.780
believe that we talk about, oh, it's been easy, whatever.

2041
01:24:31.780 --> 01:24:33.060
But you're right.

2042
01:24:33.060 --> 01:24:38.540
It doesn't have to be easy, but it has to be peaceful.

2043
01:24:38.540 --> 01:24:40.780
And that was what was so different

2044
01:24:40.780 --> 01:24:44.100
about our relationship is that regardless

2045
01:24:44.100 --> 01:24:47.300
of how hard it rained, how much water was coming up

2046
01:24:47.420 --> 01:24:53.420
on the interstate, how far apart we were, it was still peaceful.

2047
01:24:53.420 --> 01:24:56.860
There was never a doubt.

2048
01:24:56.860 --> 01:24:58.020
I never had a doubt.

2049
01:24:58.020 --> 01:25:00.460
She never had a doubt.

2050
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:02.600
And to me, that was the best way to put it.

2051
01:25:02.600 --> 01:25:04.960
It was probably the most peaceful relationship

2052
01:25:04.960 --> 01:25:05.800
that I've ever had.

2053
01:25:05.800 --> 01:25:08.920
Now, that's not saying that we didn't have conversation,

2054
01:25:08.920 --> 01:25:10.840
we didn't have ups and downs.

2055
01:25:10.840 --> 01:25:12.440
It was just peaceful.

2056
01:25:12.440 --> 01:25:14.600
We were able to sit down.

2057
01:25:14.600 --> 01:25:17.280
One of the things that we talked about early was like,

2058
01:25:17.280 --> 01:25:18.440
I'm like, hey, Renee,

2059
01:25:19.480 --> 01:25:21.240
I just wanna get one thing straight.

2060
01:25:21.240 --> 01:25:23.640
I just want you to know when I'm in a relationship,

2061
01:25:23.640 --> 01:25:25.480
I just want you to know this.

2062
01:25:25.480 --> 01:25:29.360
When there is confrontation, it's not me against you.

2063
01:25:29.360 --> 01:25:32.160
It's not you trying to win, me trying to win,

2064
01:25:32.160 --> 01:25:34.280
it's us against the problem.

2065
01:25:34.280 --> 01:25:38.560
And that is, I think that just steered the bus

2066
01:25:38.560 --> 01:25:40.600
in an entirely different direction.

2067
01:25:40.600 --> 01:25:42.400
Yeah, that's good.

2068
01:25:43.480 --> 01:25:46.000
Another question I missed, that's a really good one.

2069
01:25:46.000 --> 01:25:49.040
Candy, I've been texting a guy for five days.

2070
01:25:49.040 --> 01:25:50.560
I told him I wanna talk on the phone.

2071
01:25:50.560 --> 01:25:52.080
He said, not yet, let's go slowly.

2072
01:25:52.080 --> 01:25:53.720
What do you think?

2073
01:25:53.720 --> 01:25:56.360
I just had this rule, I don't even talk on the phone.

2074
01:25:56.360 --> 01:25:59.080
I need to make sure he is who he says he is.

2075
01:25:59.800 --> 01:26:01.200
I need to make sure that that photo is real

2076
01:26:01.200 --> 01:26:03.240
and or it's not 25 years old.

2077
01:26:03.240 --> 01:26:06.160
So usually after five or six days, I would say,

2078
01:26:06.160 --> 01:26:08.880
hey, those are really great questions.

2079
01:26:08.880 --> 01:26:12.080
I just feel like communication is not just words,

2080
01:26:12.080 --> 01:26:14.440
but tone and inflection and body language.

2081
01:26:14.440 --> 01:26:16.760
And especially when I'm talking to a complete stranger,

2082
01:26:16.760 --> 01:26:19.400
the best way to make sure we're communicating correctly

2083
01:26:19.400 --> 01:26:20.720
is to have a video chat.

2084
01:26:20.720 --> 01:26:23.640
And so I'm looking to date in real life.

2085
01:26:23.640 --> 01:26:27.680
When you're ready to do that, hit me up and let's do it.

2086
01:26:27.680 --> 01:26:29.400
And I would just stop texting.

2087
01:26:29.400 --> 01:26:31.600
There were probably hundreds of guys

2088
01:26:31.600 --> 01:26:33.400
that stopped talking to me right at that point

2089
01:26:33.400 --> 01:26:34.240
because I wouldn't do that.

2090
01:26:34.240 --> 01:26:35.840
Again, that's just me.

2091
01:26:35.840 --> 01:26:38.560
I'm not gonna wait and keep texting and keep texting

2092
01:26:38.560 --> 01:26:41.000
because I said it to him.

2093
01:26:41.000 --> 01:26:43.000
I basically kept saying the same thing.

2094
01:26:43.000 --> 01:26:44.480
That's a really great question.

2095
01:26:44.480 --> 01:26:46.480
It's too clunky to do by text.

2096
01:26:46.480 --> 01:26:49.000
I'd be happy to answer that question on a video chat.

2097
01:26:49.000 --> 01:26:50.560
And I just kept saying that.

2098
01:26:50.560 --> 01:26:51.400
I would be happy.

2099
01:26:51.400 --> 01:26:52.240
And if he kept saying,

2100
01:26:52.240 --> 01:26:54.400
so I would just stop answering the questions.

2101
01:26:54.400 --> 01:26:57.480
And so he's either going to want to see me

2102
01:26:58.240 --> 01:26:59.400
or he's going to move on

2103
01:26:59.400 --> 01:27:01.680
and you need to be kind of okay with that.

2104
01:27:01.680 --> 01:27:05.720
So it's not even just that, is he real or not?

2105
01:27:05.720 --> 01:27:09.040
Is he really interested in moving past this texting stage?

2106
01:27:09.040 --> 01:27:12.520
Again, we don't want to just have a digital relationship

2107
01:27:12.520 --> 01:27:13.360
with somebody.

2108
01:27:13.360 --> 01:27:15.360
So having a video chat with them

2109
01:27:15.360 --> 01:27:17.280
is not rushing the relationship.

2110
01:27:17.280 --> 01:27:19.800
It's just making it four dimensional.

2111
01:27:19.800 --> 01:27:21.400
Like it's just that.

2112
01:27:21.400 --> 01:27:23.320
Okay, I digressed.

2113
01:27:23.320 --> 01:27:26.440
All right, I've got Tiffany, I got Bernice.

2114
01:27:27.400 --> 01:27:29.840
Okay, let's see if I can remember how to do this.

2115
01:27:33.440 --> 01:27:34.440
Where'd you go, Bernice?

2116
01:27:34.440 --> 01:27:35.400
I want to get you.

2117
01:27:35.400 --> 01:27:36.800
I want to get you.

2118
01:27:36.800 --> 01:27:38.280
All right, men, I've got, come on.

2119
01:27:38.280 --> 01:27:40.200
I've got some men on the group.

2120
01:27:40.200 --> 01:27:44.880
Abram, Paul, any of you guys willing to be spotlighted?

2121
01:27:50.520 --> 01:27:52.080
I want you to raise your hand for me.

2122
01:27:52.080 --> 01:27:54.160
Tell me, come off the mic.

2123
01:27:54.160 --> 01:27:55.000
Wait, where's it going?

2124
01:27:55.160 --> 01:27:56.440
Why am I not able to do it now?

2125
01:27:56.440 --> 01:27:57.440
What did I just do?

2126
01:27:58.480 --> 01:28:00.040
Yeah, sure, I'm in.

2127
01:28:00.040 --> 01:28:01.560
Who just said, oh, Abram, awesome.

2128
01:28:01.560 --> 01:28:02.400
Okay.

2129
01:28:03.600 --> 01:28:04.640
Add spotlight.

2130
01:28:08.240 --> 01:28:11.680
Okay, all right, I'm going to pick one more.

2131
01:28:11.680 --> 01:28:13.560
Okay, here we go.

2132
01:28:13.560 --> 01:28:15.800
All right, you four, I'm going with you four

2133
01:28:15.800 --> 01:28:17.000
because you guys had your hands up.

2134
01:28:17.000 --> 01:28:19.080
And Kim, I think I did you, I did somewhere.

2135
01:28:19.080 --> 01:28:21.160
I know I did you, I'm pretty sure.

2136
01:28:21.160 --> 01:28:22.400
And if I didn't get you the last time,

2137
01:28:22.400 --> 01:28:24.360
Kim, I'll get you next time.

2138
01:28:24.360 --> 01:28:29.360
Okay, so Tiffany, Bernice, Abram, Crystal,

2139
01:28:29.680 --> 01:28:31.640
that's the order we're going to go in.

2140
01:28:31.640 --> 01:28:34.120
Quick answers because it's already 8.27,

2141
01:28:34.120 --> 01:28:36.000
but I love doing this part.

2142
01:28:36.000 --> 01:28:38.240
So just give us your answers

2143
01:28:38.240 --> 01:28:40.720
and we're going to go for another 10 more minutes

2144
01:28:40.720 --> 01:28:42.400
and maybe 15 more minutes.

2145
01:28:42.400 --> 01:28:43.720
Okay, first question.

2146
01:28:43.720 --> 01:28:47.400
Do you have a nickname and is there a story behind it?

2147
01:28:47.400 --> 01:28:48.640
Tiffany, you're up first.

2148
01:28:49.480 --> 01:28:51.440
I don't really have a nickname.

2149
01:28:51.600 --> 01:28:56.600
Well, I guess it's my nerdy side.

2150
01:28:58.440 --> 01:29:03.440
A Telaga one, so I'm a fan of Lord of the Rings

2151
01:29:06.280 --> 01:29:09.800
and Telaga means Harper, so Harpist.

2152
01:29:09.800 --> 01:29:14.400
And we just add one on like Arwen and Eowyn, so.

2153
01:29:14.400 --> 01:29:17.000
I love it, see girl, I knew you had an answer.

2154
01:29:17.000 --> 01:29:19.000
I knew you had an answer, Bernice.

2155
01:29:19.840 --> 01:29:22.480
Yes, I do have a nickname, it's Nisi.

2156
01:29:22.480 --> 01:29:26.400
And the reason why I chose Nisi

2157
01:29:26.400 --> 01:29:31.000
is because I didn't like Bernice because it's so old fashioned.

2158
01:29:31.000 --> 01:29:35.680
But I do like Bernice because it means bringer of victory

2159
01:29:35.680 --> 01:29:39.680
and Nisi means beautiful, so that's it.

2160
01:29:39.680 --> 01:29:42.400
I love it, I love it, that's awesome, Abram.

2161
01:29:43.360 --> 01:29:46.960
So my name is Abram, but growing up,

2162
01:29:47.360 --> 01:29:49.600
my younger brother had a Italian accent

2163
01:29:49.600 --> 01:29:51.640
so he couldn't say his R's.

2164
01:29:51.640 --> 01:29:54.760
So he couldn't say Abram, he said Abum.

2165
01:29:54.760 --> 01:29:56.360
And then my fam took off the A

2166
01:29:56.360 --> 01:29:59.640
and I've been bum for like 30 years.

2167
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:02.540
All the homies, all my friends, they call me bum.

2168
01:30:03.840 --> 01:30:06.640
My niece and nephew called me uncle bum.

2169
01:30:06.640 --> 01:30:09.440
And so yeah, bum.

2170
01:30:09.440 --> 01:30:10.280
Sweet.

2171
01:30:11.400 --> 01:30:12.380
I love it.

2172
01:30:12.380 --> 01:30:13.720
I love it.

2173
01:30:13.720 --> 01:30:15.160
That's so adorable.

2174
01:30:15.160 --> 01:30:16.000
Crystal.

2175
01:30:17.120 --> 01:30:19.640
Well, my brother, the same thing actually.

2176
01:30:19.640 --> 01:30:22.480
As Abraham, my brother couldn't pronounce my name Crystal

2177
01:30:22.480 --> 01:30:23.960
and he called me Deedle.

2178
01:30:23.960 --> 01:30:26.720
I don't even know how that comes from Crystal,

2179
01:30:26.720 --> 01:30:28.060
but that's what they called me.

2180
01:30:28.060 --> 01:30:28.980
But since my dad's gone,

2181
01:30:28.980 --> 01:30:30.360
actually it's kind of gone away.

2182
01:30:30.360 --> 01:30:33.320
He was the one that called me at most afterwards.

2183
01:30:33.320 --> 01:30:34.160
I love it.

2184
01:30:34.160 --> 01:30:35.360
I love it.

2185
01:30:35.360 --> 01:30:37.800
It's so funny how we all have that like can't pronounce

2186
01:30:37.800 --> 01:30:39.600
because I was always Nay Nay

2187
01:30:39.600 --> 01:30:42.040
because little kids can't get Renee out.

2188
01:30:42.040 --> 01:30:43.600
So I was always, and then when they grew up,

2189
01:30:43.600 --> 01:30:45.440
now I'm just Aunt Nay Nay.

2190
01:30:45.440 --> 01:30:47.320
Now they're adults and they're having their own kids.

2191
01:30:47.320 --> 01:30:48.280
I'm still Aunt Nay Nay.

2192
01:30:48.280 --> 01:30:50.480
So I love learning the nicknames.

2193
01:30:50.480 --> 01:30:51.600
Okay.

2194
01:30:51.600 --> 01:30:53.360
These are like fun, silly questions

2195
01:30:53.360 --> 01:30:55.960
about your habits around the house.

2196
01:30:55.960 --> 01:30:57.480
Do you make your bed every day

2197
01:30:57.480 --> 01:30:59.300
and do you leave dishes in the sink?

2198
01:30:59.300 --> 01:31:00.140
Tiffany.

2199
01:31:01.060 --> 01:31:03.780
I do not make my bed every day.

2200
01:31:03.780 --> 01:31:06.020
I kind of put the blankets kind of over.

2201
01:31:06.020 --> 01:31:08.280
So I kind of half done,

2202
01:31:09.300 --> 01:31:14.180
but I'm very good at putting the dishes away.

2203
01:31:14.180 --> 01:31:15.180
Awesome.

2204
01:31:15.180 --> 01:31:16.380
Bernice.

2205
01:31:16.380 --> 01:31:18.020
I'm the opposite of that.

2206
01:31:18.020 --> 01:31:19.660
I make my bed every day,

2207
01:31:19.660 --> 01:31:24.660
but if there's a few dishes, I'll leave them in the sink.

2208
01:31:25.020 --> 01:31:25.860
I love it.

2209
01:31:25.860 --> 01:31:26.680
I love it.

2210
01:31:26.740 --> 01:31:27.860
Jerome.

2211
01:31:27.860 --> 01:31:29.900
I don't have a bunch of fancy like pillows,

2212
01:31:29.900 --> 01:31:31.140
but yeah, I will like, you know,

2213
01:31:31.140 --> 01:31:32.820
cover everything up, a couple of pillows

2214
01:31:32.820 --> 01:31:34.140
and yeah, kind of like, you know,

2215
01:31:34.140 --> 01:31:36.520
pull a few things to kind of straighten it out.

2216
01:31:36.520 --> 01:31:39.300
The dishes, I will leave a couple of dishes

2217
01:31:39.300 --> 01:31:41.340
in the sink that are like pre-washed

2218
01:31:41.340 --> 01:31:43.900
and then I'll eventually put them in the dishwasher.

2219
01:31:43.900 --> 01:31:45.940
So, you know, not too big of a mess.

2220
01:31:45.940 --> 01:31:46.780
I love it.

2221
01:31:46.780 --> 01:31:48.340
Crystal.

2222
01:31:48.340 --> 01:31:50.500
Ridiculous to both answers of yes,

2223
01:31:50.500 --> 01:31:52.860
that made everything clean.

2224
01:31:52.860 --> 01:31:54.580
Why does that not surprise me, girl?

2225
01:31:54.580 --> 01:31:56.760
I could tell you were on the ball.

2226
01:31:56.760 --> 01:31:59.520
Brian, he's like the guy that makes his bed

2227
01:31:59.520 --> 01:32:01.400
40 seconds after he wakes up.

2228
01:32:01.400 --> 01:32:04.160
So I just make sure I always wake up before him.

2229
01:32:04.160 --> 01:32:05.440
I come back from the bathroom

2230
01:32:05.440 --> 01:32:08.340
and the bed's miraculously made every single morning.

2231
01:32:09.400 --> 01:32:10.240
Okay.

2232
01:32:10.240 --> 01:32:15.240
Squeeze the toupees from the middle or the bottom?

2233
01:32:16.400 --> 01:32:17.480
Tiffany.

2234
01:32:17.480 --> 01:32:18.940
Bottom.

2235
01:32:18.940 --> 01:32:19.780
Okay.

2236
01:32:19.780 --> 01:32:21.600
So you bottom and roll.

2237
01:32:21.600 --> 01:32:23.480
What's the question?

2238
01:32:23.500 --> 01:32:25.500
Do you squeeze the toothpaste from the middle

2239
01:32:25.500 --> 01:32:27.380
so it gets all properly?

2240
01:32:27.380 --> 01:32:29.500
Or do you neatly roll from the bottom?

2241
01:32:29.500 --> 01:32:30.340
Bernice.

2242
01:32:30.340 --> 01:32:31.780
Bottom.

2243
01:32:31.780 --> 01:32:32.620
Bottom.

2244
01:32:32.620 --> 01:32:33.440
Oh my gosh.

2245
01:32:33.440 --> 01:32:34.280
Okay.

2246
01:32:34.280 --> 01:32:35.140
Abram.

2247
01:32:35.140 --> 01:32:37.660
You get the toothpaste and you get your toothbrush

2248
01:32:37.660 --> 01:32:39.700
and you know, and you, you know,

2249
01:32:39.700 --> 01:32:41.960
and you got to get it all the way to the top.

2250
01:32:43.700 --> 01:32:44.860
You are like him.

2251
01:32:44.860 --> 01:32:45.680
Oh my gosh.

2252
01:32:45.680 --> 01:32:46.520
That's hilarious.

2253
01:32:46.520 --> 01:32:47.540
Crystal.

2254
01:32:47.540 --> 01:32:49.900
Neither because I use healthy toothpaste

2255
01:32:49.900 --> 01:32:51.620
so it doesn't work like that.

2256
01:32:51.880 --> 01:32:53.880
Oh, you use the crunchy stuff.

2257
01:32:53.880 --> 01:32:54.720
Okay.

2258
01:32:54.720 --> 01:32:55.540
And then I cut it open

2259
01:32:55.540 --> 01:32:58.240
and I dip my toothbrush in to get the rest out

2260
01:32:58.240 --> 01:33:00.000
so I don't waste any money.

2261
01:33:00.000 --> 01:33:00.840
I love it.

2262
01:33:00.840 --> 01:33:01.680
Awesome.

2263
01:33:01.680 --> 01:33:02.640
Okay.

2264
01:33:02.640 --> 01:33:04.520
If you could have a superpower,

2265
01:33:04.520 --> 01:33:06.900
what would it be, Tiffany?

2266
01:33:10.120 --> 01:33:11.600
Healing.

2267
01:33:11.600 --> 01:33:12.840
Healing?

2268
01:33:12.840 --> 01:33:13.720
Oh yeah.

2269
01:33:13.720 --> 01:33:14.760
Oh, I love that.

2270
01:33:14.760 --> 01:33:16.040
You guys are altruistic.

2271
01:33:16.040 --> 01:33:18.440
I was like, I like to fly.

2272
01:33:18.440 --> 01:33:19.280
Bernie.

2273
01:33:19.280 --> 01:33:20.100
Oh, that's awesome too.

2274
01:33:20.100 --> 01:33:21.920
Between the two of you, I just, I just remember.

2275
01:33:21.920 --> 01:33:22.880
That's good, man.

2276
01:33:22.880 --> 01:33:23.720
I like it.

2277
01:33:23.720 --> 01:33:25.420
Bernice, how about you?

2278
01:33:25.420 --> 01:33:27.880
I don't know if it's a superpower,

2279
01:33:27.880 --> 01:33:29.420
but I love Tinkerbell.

2280
01:33:30.800 --> 01:33:31.640
I love it.

2281
01:33:31.640 --> 01:33:33.160
Well, she just spread magic everywhere.

2282
01:33:33.160 --> 01:33:34.000
I love that.

2283
01:33:34.000 --> 01:33:35.420
Abram.

2284
01:33:35.420 --> 01:33:38.440
Favorite like hero comic person is the Hulk.

2285
01:33:38.440 --> 01:33:43.400
So if I could experience the Hulk experience,

2286
01:33:43.400 --> 01:33:44.960
that'd be pretty cool.

2287
01:33:44.960 --> 01:33:46.380
That is hilarious.

2288
01:33:48.920 --> 01:33:49.760
Crystal.

2289
01:33:51.080 --> 01:33:52.920
I don't really know if it's a superpower,

2290
01:33:52.920 --> 01:33:54.920
but like eyes in the back of my head.

2291
01:33:54.920 --> 01:33:57.680
Yeah, man, that would be, that'd be good.

2292
01:33:57.680 --> 01:33:58.520
So I could, I don't know.

2293
01:33:58.520 --> 01:34:01.720
I like it just so that I can see to help more people.

2294
01:34:01.720 --> 01:34:02.540
I love it.

2295
01:34:02.540 --> 01:34:03.380
I love it.

2296
01:34:03.380 --> 01:34:04.220
Okay.

2297
01:34:04.220 --> 01:34:05.040
You're going on vacation.

2298
01:34:05.040 --> 01:34:08.320
Beach, mountains, snow, or tourist city?

2299
01:34:10.340 --> 01:34:11.180
Tiffany.

2300
01:34:12.280 --> 01:34:13.520
Roller coasters.

2301
01:34:16.680 --> 01:34:17.520
Theme park.

2302
01:34:17.520 --> 01:34:18.560
Theme park.

2303
01:34:18.560 --> 01:34:20.380
So you're a theme park girl.

2304
01:34:20.380 --> 01:34:21.220
Okay.

2305
01:34:21.220 --> 01:34:22.040
Oh, yes.

2306
01:34:22.040 --> 01:34:23.420
Disney World, Universal Studios,

2307
01:34:23.420 --> 01:34:25.540
going there this April.

2308
01:34:25.540 --> 01:34:26.700
Love it.

2309
01:34:26.700 --> 01:34:27.540
Love it.

2310
01:34:27.540 --> 01:34:28.820
Bernice.

2311
01:34:28.820 --> 01:34:32.980
Tourist city because I love to get immersed in the culture.

2312
01:34:32.980 --> 01:34:33.940
Love it.

2313
01:34:33.940 --> 01:34:35.420
Abram.

2314
01:34:35.420 --> 01:34:37.780
I would ask my lady what she'd want to do first,

2315
01:34:37.780 --> 01:34:39.740
but I think I'm a mountains guy.

2316
01:34:39.740 --> 01:34:42.880
If it was just up to me, I love the mountains.

2317
01:34:42.880 --> 01:34:43.720
Okay.

2318
01:34:43.720 --> 01:34:44.540
Abram is 40.

2319
01:34:44.540 --> 01:34:46.380
And Abram, where do you live?

2320
01:34:46.380 --> 01:34:47.540
Fresno, California.

2321
01:34:47.560 --> 01:34:49.920
So I'm like in the middle of California.

2322
01:34:49.920 --> 01:34:50.760
Okay.

2323
01:34:50.760 --> 01:34:52.560
Are you open to dating right now?

2324
01:34:52.560 --> 01:34:53.400
Yes.

2325
01:34:53.400 --> 01:34:54.240
Okay.

2326
01:34:54.240 --> 01:34:57.200
Y'all, somebody needs to drop some hankies to Abram.

2327
01:34:57.200 --> 01:34:58.040
Scoop me up.

2328
01:34:58.040 --> 01:34:58.860
Please.

2329
01:34:58.860 --> 01:34:59.700
Scoop him up.

2330
01:34:59.700 --> 01:35:00.540
Please.

2331
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:01.000
Seems like a good guy.

2332
01:35:01.000 --> 01:35:03.400
Because you and I have talked during men's nights too, right?

2333
01:35:03.400 --> 01:35:05.040
Like you've been on some of those calls.

2334
01:35:05.040 --> 01:35:07.800
You all need to, we all need to find some guy.

2335
01:35:07.800 --> 01:35:11.000
Because Fresno, just so you all don't know, Northern California,

2336
01:35:11.000 --> 01:35:12.120
right?

2337
01:35:12.120 --> 01:35:13.600
It's kind of central, I would say.

2338
01:35:13.600 --> 01:35:14.400
Really?

2339
01:35:14.400 --> 01:35:15.960
Kind of in the middle.

2340
01:35:15.960 --> 01:35:16.960
Yeah, it's below Sac.

2341
01:35:16.960 --> 01:35:18.720
It's like right in between the big cities.

2342
01:35:18.720 --> 01:35:21.240
It's in the middle, like farm, like more farmland.

2343
01:35:21.240 --> 01:35:22.480
OK, good to know.

2344
01:35:22.480 --> 01:35:26.280
All right, Crystal, where are you going on vacation?

2345
01:35:26.280 --> 01:35:29.280
Beach with multiple excursions.

2346
01:35:29.280 --> 01:35:31.840
Love it, I love it, I love it.

2347
01:35:31.840 --> 01:35:33.920
OK, question number six.

2348
01:35:33.920 --> 01:35:36.040
You are going to a potluck.

2349
01:35:36.040 --> 01:35:38.960
What is your go-to item to bring to the potluck?

2350
01:35:38.960 --> 01:35:41.920
Tiffany?

2351
01:35:41.920 --> 01:35:44.160
Fruit salad.

2352
01:35:44.160 --> 01:35:45.160
Nice.

2353
01:35:45.160 --> 01:35:46.560
With yogurt.

2354
01:35:46.560 --> 01:35:49.080
OK, to dip?

2355
01:35:49.080 --> 01:35:53.400
No, I just mix it all in with the perries and the strawberries

2356
01:35:53.400 --> 01:35:56.240
and blueberries and things like that.

2357
01:35:56.240 --> 01:35:57.760
Nice, I love that.

2358
01:35:57.760 --> 01:35:59.800
OK, Bernice.

2359
01:35:59.800 --> 01:36:04.000
I was going to say fruit salad, but I also like to bring wings.

2360
01:36:04.000 --> 01:36:04.800
Wings?

2361
01:36:04.800 --> 01:36:05.520
Uh-huh.

2362
01:36:05.520 --> 01:36:07.840
OK, how are you cooking those wings, girlfriend?

2363
01:36:07.840 --> 01:36:08.840
You need to invite me.

2364
01:36:08.840 --> 01:36:09.600
I buy them.

2365
01:36:09.600 --> 01:36:10.400
Oh, yeah.

2366
01:36:10.400 --> 01:36:15.280
Oh, that was great.

2367
01:36:15.280 --> 01:36:16.960
But you say that you cooked them, right?

2368
01:36:16.960 --> 01:36:18.360
But you say you cooked them, right?

2369
01:36:18.360 --> 01:36:19.160
Oh, yeah.

2370
01:36:19.160 --> 01:36:22.920
Taste the box and everything, 100%.

2371
01:36:22.920 --> 01:36:24.320
They're good.

2372
01:36:24.320 --> 01:36:25.960
Oh my gosh, Abram.

2373
01:36:25.960 --> 01:36:27.320
So I'm a foodie.

2374
01:36:27.320 --> 01:36:30.600
I'm an Italian guy, so it's all about you have to ask,

2375
01:36:30.600 --> 01:36:31.760
is that theme to the party?

2376
01:36:31.760 --> 01:36:33.360
You always coordinate with the person.

2377
01:36:33.360 --> 01:36:35.280
You don't want any doubles of anything.

2378
01:36:35.280 --> 01:36:38.800
But probably something Italian.

2379
01:36:38.800 --> 01:36:42.760
I love the tomatoes with the mozzarella with the balsamic

2380
01:36:42.760 --> 01:36:44.120
and the caprese, they call it.

2381
01:36:44.120 --> 01:36:46.960
So stuff like that, or whatever the theme is,

2382
01:36:46.960 --> 01:36:48.760
you just try to help out.

2383
01:36:48.760 --> 01:36:50.240
I love that.

2384
01:36:50.240 --> 01:36:51.560
I love dinner parties.

2385
01:36:51.560 --> 01:36:53.320
Oh my gosh.

2386
01:36:53.320 --> 01:36:55.680
Man, you've got to come out to Nashville, Tennessee

2387
01:36:55.680 --> 01:36:56.640
and come hang with us.

2388
01:36:56.640 --> 01:36:59.880
We would love to cook with you.

2389
01:36:59.880 --> 01:37:01.560
Crystal.

2390
01:37:01.560 --> 01:37:03.440
I was going to say the same thing, actually,

2391
01:37:03.440 --> 01:37:05.920
that you would ask what the theme of the party was.

2392
01:37:05.920 --> 01:37:09.200
But my thing that I like to take, actually,

2393
01:37:09.200 --> 01:37:11.640
if I'm not asked, is roast a lamb.

2394
01:37:11.640 --> 01:37:14.600
Because I like to prove to people,

2395
01:37:14.600 --> 01:37:16.520
because a lot of people don't like lamb.

2396
01:37:16.520 --> 01:37:20.000
And I would say that I make the best lamb in the universe.

2397
01:37:20.000 --> 01:37:22.800
And the Crock-Pot always goes home empty.

2398
01:37:22.800 --> 01:37:24.320
And people were like, what was that?

2399
01:37:24.320 --> 01:37:26.880
And they don't even realize it's lamb.

2400
01:37:26.880 --> 01:37:27.880
Wow.

2401
01:37:27.880 --> 01:37:28.400
Sounds good.

2402
01:37:28.400 --> 01:37:29.000
I love it.

2403
01:37:29.000 --> 01:37:30.280
We found some good lamb.

2404
01:37:30.280 --> 01:37:33.040
That is the best way to my Greek heart.

2405
01:37:33.040 --> 01:37:35.080
We got some good lamb when we run our honeymoon.

2406
01:37:35.080 --> 01:37:35.680
That's awesome.

2407
01:37:35.680 --> 01:37:36.200
I love it.

2408
01:37:36.200 --> 01:37:37.320
OK.

2409
01:37:37.320 --> 01:37:42.320
What do friends say they love most about you, Tiffany?

2410
01:37:42.320 --> 01:37:44.800
Oh, gee.

2411
01:37:44.800 --> 01:37:46.680
This is where you get to celebrate yourself

2412
01:37:46.680 --> 01:37:47.200
a little bit.

2413
01:37:47.200 --> 01:37:48.280
We're moving into that.

2414
01:37:50.880 --> 01:37:53.800
Bubbly, honest.

2415
01:37:53.800 --> 01:37:55.480
Bubbly and honest.

2416
01:37:55.480 --> 01:37:56.440
Oh, bubbly and honest.

2417
01:37:56.440 --> 01:37:57.640
Perfect.

2418
01:37:57.640 --> 01:37:58.160
I love it.

2419
01:37:58.160 --> 01:37:59.840
Bernice.

2420
01:37:59.840 --> 01:38:02.600
My faith in sweetness.

2421
01:38:02.600 --> 01:38:04.800
Aw, I love that.

2422
01:38:04.800 --> 01:38:06.240
Abram.

2423
01:38:06.240 --> 01:38:09.800
Helpful and a little stubborn.

2424
01:38:09.800 --> 01:38:11.160
Mm, OK.

2425
01:38:11.160 --> 01:38:12.680
That's the Italian streak, right?

2426
01:38:12.680 --> 01:38:13.480
Yeah.

2427
01:38:13.480 --> 01:38:16.320
Have you seen that in me?

2428
01:38:16.320 --> 01:38:19.600
Did you just see him roll his eyes?

2429
01:38:19.600 --> 01:38:21.480
Good answer.

2430
01:38:21.480 --> 01:38:23.600
You played that well.

2431
01:38:23.600 --> 01:38:25.360
Crystal.

2432
01:38:25.360 --> 01:38:28.360
My ability and my heart to help people.

2433
01:38:28.360 --> 01:38:29.760
Oh, I love that.

2434
01:38:29.760 --> 01:38:30.920
So sweet.

2435
01:38:30.920 --> 01:38:32.440
So sweet.

2436
01:38:32.440 --> 01:38:37.920
What do you wish more people knew about you, Tiffany?

2437
01:38:37.920 --> 01:38:41.400
Oh, darn.

2438
01:38:41.400 --> 01:38:42.840
That's a good question.

2439
01:38:42.840 --> 01:38:44.200
Can you come back to me, or?

2440
01:38:47.160 --> 01:38:48.640
I can.

2441
01:38:48.640 --> 01:38:51.200
Do you want me to?

2442
01:38:51.200 --> 01:38:51.880
Yes.

2443
01:38:51.880 --> 01:38:52.480
OK.

2444
01:38:52.480 --> 01:38:56.680
Bernice, what do you wish more people knew about you?

2445
01:38:56.680 --> 01:39:00.520
That I'm more than a pretty face, pretty smile.

2446
01:39:00.520 --> 01:39:02.720
I don't say that arrogantly, but.

2447
01:39:02.720 --> 01:39:03.920
I like you should.

2448
01:39:03.920 --> 01:39:05.000
That's good, girl.

2449
01:39:05.000 --> 01:39:05.800
I like it.

2450
01:39:05.800 --> 01:39:07.480
Embrace your beauty.

2451
01:39:07.480 --> 01:39:08.600
I love it.

2452
01:39:08.600 --> 01:39:09.680
I love it.

2453
01:39:09.680 --> 01:39:10.200
Abram.

2454
01:39:12.840 --> 01:39:13.840
I don't know what to say here.

2455
01:39:13.840 --> 01:39:14.520
I mean, I don't know.

2456
01:39:14.520 --> 01:39:16.920
Maybe I'm just a regular, normal guy.

2457
01:39:16.920 --> 01:39:17.960
OK.

2458
01:39:17.960 --> 01:39:18.440
Yeah.

2459
01:39:18.440 --> 01:39:19.440
Awesome.

2460
01:39:19.440 --> 01:39:21.240
I love it.

2461
01:39:21.280 --> 01:39:23.760
Here's my impression, Abram.

2462
01:39:23.760 --> 01:39:27.240
Like, I'm so glad I made you get on tonight,

2463
01:39:27.240 --> 01:39:32.280
because there's way more depth to you than first comes out

2464
01:39:32.280 --> 01:39:35.080
when I've seen you on these group calls and stuff.

2465
01:39:35.080 --> 01:39:37.080
Like, I feel like you've got a lot more depth

2466
01:39:37.080 --> 01:39:38.800
than people realize.

2467
01:39:38.800 --> 01:39:41.120
Like, I feel like you've got some profound things to say.

2468
01:39:41.120 --> 01:39:43.120
That's just my prophetic word over you.

2469
01:39:43.120 --> 01:39:43.640
Crystal.

2470
01:39:43.640 --> 01:39:46.120
Thank you.

2471
01:39:46.120 --> 01:39:49.880
I would like to clarify a couple of things.

2472
01:39:49.880 --> 01:39:51.520
One, I'm super healthy.

2473
01:39:51.520 --> 01:39:54.160
Two, I didn't choose my gray hair.

2474
01:39:54.160 --> 01:39:59.480
I shaved my head bald to achieve this gray hair to the bald.

2475
01:39:59.480 --> 01:40:01.320
Like, to not.

2476
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:04.960
even a hair on my head. So I grew it out because I do blood

2477
01:40:04.960 --> 01:40:08.280
under a microscope. And one day a client asked me to see my

2478
01:40:08.280 --> 01:40:12.440
blood and I prized myself by my good blood. Miss great baby

2479
01:40:12.440 --> 01:40:15.560
grace no under the microscope. So I took my blood and I showed

2480
01:40:15.560 --> 01:40:19.040
it to them under the microscope. And there was a big old black

2481
01:40:19.200 --> 01:40:22.240
splurge there on the microscope thing. And the lady's like

2482
01:40:22.240 --> 01:40:25.360
what's that? And I was like, that's my hair dye. The next

2483
01:40:25.360 --> 01:40:30.800
day I shaved my head. Wow. That's committed girl. I'm

2484
01:40:30.880 --> 01:40:34.720
there's no I'm going to die with hair color on my head. It's just

2485
01:40:34.720 --> 01:40:37.880
happening. Someone's going to pluck the chin hairs when I'm

2486
01:40:37.880 --> 01:40:41.480
old and gray. Okay, babe, make sure it happens. And I will

2487
01:40:41.480 --> 01:40:46.360
always have my hair. So I love that about you. But I will have

2488
01:40:46.360 --> 01:40:49.120
gray hair. I didn't say I was gonna have chin hair. Okay.

2489
01:40:49.240 --> 01:40:53.840
Okay, that's good. All right. Um, Tiffany, do you want to

2490
01:40:53.840 --> 01:40:58.160
answer that question? Um, would you wish more people knew about

2491
01:40:58.160 --> 01:40:58.560
you?

2492
01:41:02.120 --> 01:41:04.200
That I always try my best.

2493
01:41:06.000 --> 01:41:13.480
Perfect. Oh, I love that. I love that. I love that. Okay. Um, if

2494
01:41:13.480 --> 01:41:16.560
you could go back to your high school self and give yourself a

2495
01:41:16.560 --> 01:41:19.400
piece of advice, high school or college, what one piece of

2496
01:41:19.400 --> 01:41:21.680
advice would you give yourself? Tiffany?

2497
01:41:22.680 --> 01:41:28.720
Oh, um, don't sweat the small stuff. Just have fun. Enjoy

2498
01:41:28.720 --> 01:41:32.000
life. That one test that you thought was gonna like make or

2499
01:41:32.000 --> 01:41:36.560
break your career. It does not. Yes. And I always tell my

2500
01:41:36.560 --> 01:41:39.560
students that. Yeah. Bernice, how about you?

2501
01:41:40.680 --> 01:41:45.520
I had too much fun. So I think studying and being a better

2502
01:41:45.520 --> 01:41:46.080
student.

2503
01:41:46.240 --> 01:41:49.840
Oh, okay. He went the other end. Okay. I love it. Abram.

2504
01:41:50.840 --> 01:41:53.400
Yeah, in high school, I kind of got caught up with just the

2505
01:41:53.400 --> 01:41:57.160
normal, you know, like, chasing girls trying to be a cool guy.

2506
01:41:57.160 --> 01:42:01.440
So if I could talk to myself, you know, just get back to my

2507
01:42:01.440 --> 01:42:03.880
roots. Like I was raised Catholic and just, you know, get

2508
01:42:03.880 --> 01:42:07.040
back to that man. It's a better place. It's a better way to live.

2509
01:42:07.040 --> 01:42:10.720
And so I'd give myself a little slow myself down. Try to help

2510
01:42:10.720 --> 01:42:13.880
myself prioritize what the truth is. Yeah.

2511
01:42:14.680 --> 01:42:16.440
I love it. Crystal.

2512
01:42:17.880 --> 01:42:21.840
Same thing not to get caught up in the caught up in the with

2513
01:42:21.840 --> 01:42:25.280
the what's going on around me with the you know, the the shiny

2514
01:42:25.280 --> 01:42:29.080
objects, I guess, you know, when I was pretty set on my set on my

2515
01:42:29.080 --> 01:42:32.840
faith, somehow I let it get get a little bit to the side in into

2516
01:42:32.840 --> 01:42:33.600
university.

2517
01:42:33.920 --> 01:42:40.520
Yep. I love it. Okay. Good stuff, you guys. Um, which I

2518
01:42:40.520 --> 01:42:44.640
like this one. And this might need to be. It's 41. Okay, we

2519
01:42:44.640 --> 01:42:48.320
got room for we got time for two more questions. And of course,

2520
01:42:48.320 --> 01:42:50.840
you guys know, the last question I'm going to ask you so already

2521
01:42:50.840 --> 01:42:53.600
be thinking about it is what are you looking for in a spirit

2522
01:42:53.600 --> 01:42:55.800
mate? Because obviously, people here are going to help you find

2523
01:42:55.800 --> 01:42:59.720
your person. So we need to know. But the question before that is,

2524
01:42:59.960 --> 01:43:04.880
which person of the Trinity are you leaning into these days? And

2525
01:43:04.880 --> 01:43:08.000
tell us a little bit about that. Because they got the Father God

2526
01:43:08.000 --> 01:43:12.240
the Son and God the Holy Spirit. And just to kind of give you an

2527
01:43:12.240 --> 01:43:16.560
example, like a lot of times people say, Jesus, because he's

2528
01:43:16.560 --> 01:43:19.240
like, obviously was a person. So it's easy for people connect

2529
01:43:19.240 --> 01:43:22.000
with that. A lot of our Pentecostals will say the Holy

2530
01:43:22.000 --> 01:43:26.360
Spirit. And I will say, especially after I dealt with my

2531
01:43:26.360 --> 01:43:30.160
dad's home going to heaven. In the last year in seminary, I've

2532
01:43:30.160 --> 01:43:34.280
really leaned into God as my father and really finally

2533
01:43:34.280 --> 01:43:38.600
embracing that in its fullness and realizing that Daddy has

2534
01:43:38.600 --> 01:43:42.720
good things for me. And so you can have no answer or any

2535
01:43:42.720 --> 01:43:45.680
answer. But I'm just curious. So Tiffany, share with us if you

2536
01:43:45.680 --> 01:43:48.440
feel like you lean or you like balance between all three.

2537
01:43:49.560 --> 01:43:54.480
I do bounce between all three. At the moment, I'm focusing more

2538
01:43:54.480 --> 01:44:01.200
on Holy Spirit because I want to try to differentiate from when

2539
01:44:01.200 --> 01:44:06.800
I hear him speaking as opposed to myself. Yeah, I love it.

2540
01:44:07.160 --> 01:44:13.200
Bernice. I love that as my father, but I would say the Holy

2541
01:44:13.200 --> 01:44:17.520
Spirit because it's a season where everything is new and it's a

2542
01:44:17.520 --> 01:44:21.960
new beginning with my moving in a new church. So I really

2543
01:44:21.960 --> 01:44:24.920
want to find out like what God has for me and the new

2544
01:44:24.920 --> 01:44:28.640
church and lean into the Holy Spirit and see if there's something

2545
01:44:29.000 --> 01:44:32.400
he wants me to do. I love it. I love it. Abram.

2546
01:44:33.280 --> 01:44:39.160
I've never thought about this. But off the top of my head, I do

2547
01:44:39.160 --> 01:44:45.000
like the man part, the Jesus part, just because he did it. He

2548
01:44:45.000 --> 01:44:50.280
did what he said he was going to do. So I do like living it. I

2549
01:44:50.280 --> 01:44:53.400
like that idea. You got to figure things out and you got to

2550
01:44:53.400 --> 01:44:56.240
try to do it. I like that.

2551
01:44:56.240 --> 01:44:58.280
I love that. Crystal.

2552
01:45:00.000 --> 01:45:05.360
I'd say the Holy Spirit right now, one for some more direction, because I think God's

2553
01:45:05.360 --> 01:45:06.840
got a different direction in my life.

2554
01:45:06.840 --> 01:45:13.360
But I work with a lot of clients and a lot of clients who don't have any faith that come

2555
01:45:13.360 --> 01:45:15.720
to me about their health.

2556
01:45:15.720 --> 01:45:21.320
And I really like to lean into the Holy Spirit to get a word from them so that they ask.

2557
01:45:21.320 --> 01:45:24.560
Because typically, when I see their blood and I put it up, and I know nothing but their

2558
01:45:24.560 --> 01:45:27.760
name and their age, I can tell them all about them.

2559
01:45:27.760 --> 01:45:32.440
And then if I can give them a word, then I can lead into sharing something about God

2560
01:45:32.440 --> 01:45:33.440
with them.

2561
01:45:33.440 --> 01:45:34.440
I love that.

2562
01:45:34.440 --> 01:45:35.440
I love that.

2563
01:45:35.440 --> 01:45:36.440
So good.

2564
01:45:36.440 --> 01:45:37.440
Okay.

2565
01:45:37.440 --> 01:45:42.320
So our final question of the evening, tell us what you're looking for in a spirit mate.

2566
01:45:42.320 --> 01:45:43.320
Tiffany.

2567
01:45:43.320 --> 01:45:47.560
The three Ms, obviously.

2568
01:45:47.560 --> 01:45:52.760
I also, so obviously I'm a musician.

2569
01:45:52.760 --> 01:45:58.320
I also have a master's degree in opera, and I teach elementary school music.

2570
01:45:58.320 --> 01:46:05.960
So I do need to have someone who understands that, because if they don't, they're missing

2571
01:46:05.960 --> 01:46:11.120
a big part of who I am, and they won't understand me.

2572
01:46:11.120 --> 01:46:14.520
So at least an appreciation for your music, right?

2573
01:46:14.520 --> 01:46:18.000
Or what do you mean by that?

2574
01:46:18.000 --> 01:46:26.200
Maybe a little bit deeper.

2575
01:46:26.200 --> 01:46:27.200
It's hard to describe.

2576
01:46:27.200 --> 01:46:29.120
So you want another creative?

2577
01:46:29.120 --> 01:46:30.120
Yes.

2578
01:46:30.120 --> 01:46:31.120
Yeah.

2579
01:46:31.120 --> 01:46:33.680
That's okay to say that.

2580
01:46:33.680 --> 01:46:34.680
That's okay to say that.

2581
01:46:34.680 --> 01:46:35.680
Yes.

2582
01:46:35.680 --> 01:46:44.160
And when we're talking about mature, but also have a silly side, for sure.

2583
01:46:44.160 --> 01:46:45.240
I love that.

2584
01:46:45.240 --> 01:46:46.240
I love that.

2585
01:46:46.240 --> 01:46:47.240
Bernice, how about you?

2586
01:46:47.480 --> 01:46:49.200
What are you looking for?

2587
01:46:49.200 --> 01:46:57.320
I want to be accepted for who I am so I can be myself, regardless of who I am.

2588
01:46:57.320 --> 01:47:02.280
Also I agree, I love someone that makes me laugh.

2589
01:47:02.280 --> 01:47:06.920
And also that he really loves God and wants to serve God.

2590
01:47:06.920 --> 01:47:07.920
Yeah.

2591
01:47:07.920 --> 01:47:08.920
I love that.

2592
01:47:08.920 --> 01:47:09.920
And he can dance.

2593
01:47:09.920 --> 01:47:10.920
Oh, okay.

2594
01:47:10.920 --> 01:47:19.640
So I've been working on changing the mindset, right?

2595
01:47:19.640 --> 01:47:21.680
I'm not looking for deal breakers.

2596
01:47:21.680 --> 01:47:24.840
I'm trying to get away from all that, and reasons not to.

2597
01:47:24.840 --> 01:47:29.240
So I'm pretty open to a bunch of different kinds of people.

2598
01:47:29.240 --> 01:47:30.240
You never know.

2599
01:47:30.240 --> 01:47:33.160
But I don't know, I'm kind of a goof.

2600
01:47:33.160 --> 01:47:34.160
I like to have fun.

2601
01:47:34.160 --> 01:47:36.360
I like to joke around.

2602
01:47:36.360 --> 01:47:41.880
And so maybe somebody with a sense of humor, maybe not offended all the time by every little

2603
01:47:41.880 --> 01:47:48.120
thing people say to them, or maybe I might say something.

2604
01:47:48.120 --> 01:47:51.600
So yeah, maybe someone that wants to have some fun, hang out, I don't know.

2605
01:47:51.600 --> 01:47:52.600
This is a hard question.

2606
01:47:52.600 --> 01:47:53.600
This is a deep question, actually.

2607
01:47:53.600 --> 01:47:54.600
This is a super deep question.

2608
01:47:54.600 --> 01:47:55.600
It is.

2609
01:47:55.600 --> 01:47:56.600
I mean, it's the final question.

2610
01:47:56.600 --> 01:47:57.600
Yeah.

2611
01:47:57.600 --> 01:47:58.600
Someone that wants a family.

2612
01:47:58.600 --> 01:48:02.400
Maybe I can go to some deal breakers.

2613
01:48:02.400 --> 01:48:07.720
Someone that wants a family, someone that wants to be a little health conscious with

2614
01:48:07.720 --> 01:48:08.720
me.

2615
01:48:08.720 --> 01:48:09.720
I'm not the food police.

2616
01:48:09.720 --> 01:48:10.720
I'm not doing that.

2617
01:48:10.720 --> 01:48:11.720
Yeah.

2618
01:48:11.720 --> 01:48:16.440
Yeah, maybe someone to go to the gym with a little bit here and there, drink some coffee

2619
01:48:16.440 --> 01:48:17.440
with.

2620
01:48:17.440 --> 01:48:20.360
I'm getting more basic the older I get.

2621
01:48:20.360 --> 01:48:25.720
All this little knick-knack stuff doesn't matter to me like it once did.

2622
01:48:25.720 --> 01:48:27.440
I don't know if I answered that very well, but.

2623
01:48:27.440 --> 01:48:28.440
No, that's good.

2624
01:48:28.440 --> 01:48:29.440
That's good.

2625
01:48:29.440 --> 01:48:31.000
I mean, I hear a lot of openness too.

2626
01:48:31.000 --> 01:48:32.000
Crystal, how about you?

2627
01:48:32.600 --> 01:48:33.600
What are you looking for?

2628
01:48:33.600 --> 01:48:41.680
All right, so I am looking for definitely because of I'm 49, but I would still like

2629
01:48:41.680 --> 01:48:46.960
to have a family, whatever God has that to look like for me.

2630
01:48:46.960 --> 01:48:52.440
I foster kids, so I find it a little bit easier now because people like in my dating profile

2631
01:48:52.440 --> 01:48:56.640
that I just did, when people see the foster baby, like I put her in there with a heart

2632
01:48:56.640 --> 01:49:01.000
over her head, they kind of, it's a question, you know, is that something you're into doing?

2633
01:49:01.000 --> 01:49:05.240
Because I guess at 49, not a lot of people are in that season of life and I still want

2634
01:49:05.240 --> 01:49:09.520
to be in that season of my life because I didn't have kids.

2635
01:49:09.520 --> 01:49:12.960
I want someone who's a little bit health conscious.

2636
01:49:12.960 --> 01:49:17.200
Obviously I'm super health conscious, you know, and I cook.

2637
01:49:17.200 --> 01:49:21.360
I mean, I'm a chef, so I went to culinary school as well, but I don't cook with any

2638
01:49:21.360 --> 01:49:22.480
wheat, dairy or sugar.

2639
01:49:22.480 --> 01:49:26.960
So I mean, they could go and they could eat other things, but I mean, obviously I would

2640
01:49:26.960 --> 01:49:30.600
like them to eat, to like a lot of healthy things.

2641
01:49:30.600 --> 01:49:34.400
Somebody that loves God, you know, wants to travel.

2642
01:49:34.400 --> 01:49:40.920
I'm like someone who wants to raise a generation for like unreasonable success, because I'm

2643
01:49:40.920 --> 01:49:41.920
a business owner.

2644
01:49:41.920 --> 01:49:43.800
I want to groom the next generation for success.

2645
01:49:43.800 --> 01:49:48.120
I want to leave a big legacy behind me, even still at 49.

2646
01:49:48.120 --> 01:49:53.640
I want to really groom some kids to be debt free, to really just lead the way and pave

2647
01:49:53.640 --> 01:49:55.560
the way in the world.

2648
01:49:55.560 --> 01:49:56.560
I love it.

2649
01:49:56.560 --> 01:49:57.560
I love it.

2650
01:49:57.560 --> 01:49:58.560
So good, you guys.

2651
01:49:58.560 --> 01:50:00.040
You guys, you all did so good.

2652
01:50:00.000 --> 01:50:05.680
I love it. I'm going to remove the spotlights real quick so I can say our parting goodbyes.

2653
01:50:06.320 --> 01:50:11.040
I went way too long tonight. Don't tell Jackie. She's going to get upset with me. But I feel like

2654
01:50:11.040 --> 01:50:16.160
we had a lot of fun tonight. Like, I feel like we asked silly questions. We got to know you guys.

2655
01:50:16.160 --> 01:50:21.600
A little bit more serious questions. We gave you guys a chance to ask each other questions. You

2656
01:50:21.600 --> 01:50:27.440
got to ask us questions. And then we got to do a little spotlight at the end. And so if you're

2657
01:50:27.440 --> 01:50:31.200
watching this in replay, you can just watch it faster. See, that's the beauty with replay. You

2658
01:50:31.200 --> 01:50:36.960
can do 1.5 speed, which is now my best friend since I did seminary. I watch everything at 1.5

2659
01:50:36.960 --> 01:50:46.240
speed. Okay. David or Paul, I've not called on you enough. Paul, would you be willing to close

2660
01:50:46.240 --> 01:50:56.880
us out in prayer? Did I just embarrass you? No, no, let me unmute. Father, we thank you for

2661
01:50:57.600 --> 01:51:04.320
just this group, Lord, this community that David and Jackie have started, God, and just what you

2662
01:51:04.320 --> 01:51:09.520
were doing in it. And we just look forward to more, God, just more of what you have for everyone

2663
01:51:09.520 --> 01:51:15.360
here, Lord, the spirit mates, Lord, and just what you'll be doing through the couples, Lord, that

2664
01:51:15.360 --> 01:51:22.400
you're bringing together in the future. We just thank you, Lord, in Jesus' name. Amen. Amen. Y'all

2665
01:51:22.400 --> 01:51:30.080
guys have a great weekend. See y'all soon. Bye. Thank you. Thank you. Good night.