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Hello. Good evening, everyone. Welcome to our evening session of HeartWork for this

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week. So glad to have you all joining us tonight. I see some of y'all already on screen. Hello.

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Hello. If you can come on screen, we'd love to see you. If you're new and you're joining

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us for the first time tonight, as in you've just joined the community, you've never been

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on a live session with us before, say hi to us. Let us know you're new so we can welcome

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you not only into the session tonight, but into the community. And we want to know who

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you are. For those of you rejoining us, coming back, it's great to have you with us tonight.

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My name is Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the master HeartWork coaches here in the community.

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And one of the success stories of the community, God's been doing a lot in my life in the last

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five and a half years. I can't believe it. Almost. Is that right? Something like that.

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But we're glad that you're here. And we want to hear from you not only tonight, but also

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in the group. I know we talked a few months ago about moving us over to the Facebook group.

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We are going to start moving on that a little more quickly in the next few weeks, you all.

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So we're just really looking forward to having it feel a little bit easier for y'all to communicate

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and catch up and see our responses, us see your responses, all of the things. So be looking

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forward to that. Don't worry about asking about it. As soon as it's ready to go, you

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guys are going to know it's ready. So just wait for us to announce it. And then we'll

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let you know how to get over there. And we'll put a link in the resources tab here. So it

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should be super easy for you to find it. But looking forward to that coming here in the

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next few weeks. So why do we encourage you to post in this group? Why do we encourage

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you to come on camera? Well, we believe hurt in community, healed in community, hurt in

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relationship, healed in relationship, part of the goal of the heartwork process. Obviously,

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there's a lot to it. But one of the things that we really want to help you do is come

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out of hiding, allow yourself to be seen, known and loved, heard, know that your voice

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you know, long time ago, you might be surprised what's still underneath the surface that has

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in many different ways caused you to back off from feeling like you have something valid

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to say or that what is on your heart actually matters. So that can show up in lots and lots

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of ways. One of the things that I often see in people that are really struggling with

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isolation or withdrawals that they don't ever come on camera. I had a lady say to us, to me

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in our church not that long ago, we were at an event and she had sat all the way in the back

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and we had these round tables set up in the front where everybody was sitting for this class

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thing we were doing. And I went over and I just said, Hey, do you want to come join us? You

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know, we're all sitting up at the tables, you know, and she said, Oh, I'm, I'm just a wall.

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She actually used the verbiage. I'm a wallflower. I prefer not to be seen. And I said, Well, we're

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all sitting up at these tables. I kind of try to encourage again, and she did come and but she

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still sat towards the back, which that's fine. It's not about pressuring you all. But the reason

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I bring that up is that, you know, I've learned from Jackie years ago, and I see it since I've

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been coaching so many times, that at some point, we believe the lie, that we were a

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wallflower that we were better, you know, to maybe be seen but not heard. And, and so we

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kind of stay on the outskirts, if you will, we're in a community, but we don't fully engage, we

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don't fully connect with our other sisters. And we don't even sometimes take the full advantage of

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the things that we sign up for, right. And so we want to encourage you like don't just sit at the

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back of the room, if you will, come up and sit at the table with us. You know, when there's

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opportunities for you to get coaching in the group, you know, via text or on these live sessions,

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when I encourage you to even when it's scary to ask the questions, because you all there are no

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dumb questions, I promise you, I promise you, every question matters. All right, distractions

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are going to come for you. Old guys are going to resurface. It's true. It happens all the time.

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Kids are going to start having problems. Some of you all I hope this doesn't happen to you, but you

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might face sickness arising. I don't know if you all have ever, you know, had something really

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important coming up. And then all of a sudden, you're sick out of nowhere. Well, I had that

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happen just this last week, we were getting ready. I was preaching on Sunday, yesterday, my

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husband got really sick, I caught whatever he had. And so it was a ripple effect that can happen.

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That might happen for you in the heart work. I want to encourage you that even though the enemy

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might be trying to hinder you from healing in your heart and your love.

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life, that you can stay focused. Don't give up. Every day, just

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take one step. That's what I try to encourage everybody. If we

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will just take that imperfect action, and I like to break it

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down into the, what can you do today to invest in your

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heartwork? Just, just one thing. If you can do more than one

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thing, awesome. But so many people will start to feel

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overwhelmed and then just shut down. But if we can just

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remember, God, I know that the same power that rose Jesus from

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the dead is available to me. Help me to tap into that power

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today to work on my heartwork and stay focused and not get

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distracted. So I want you all to kind of practice praying and

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inviting the Holy Spirit that is available to you to be your

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partner in this journey. He's your comforter. He's your

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counselor. He's your guide. He knows where to lead you and how

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to lead you and how quick to take you or slow to take you and

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all of the things. All right. The last housekeeping I have for

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you tonight is our Supernatural Saturday. Prophecy is a guide

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post, not a map. Wow. So many tools were given out on

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Saturday. If you didn't hear that replay, if you go into the

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Last Year Single app under the replays area, that tab there,

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you're going to find that replay. Definitely listen to it

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once, if not more than once, because there was a lot of

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things mentioned in there that are going to be really helpful

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to you, including that prophecy should line up with the Word of

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God. It should line up with what God is already saying to you.

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Just giving you a little teaser. There's a lot of goodness and

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truth packed in that. I hope you'll check it out. Let me go

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ahead and pray for us. And we're going to jump right in tonight.

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Father, thank you so much for everything that you're doing in

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our lives. God, we thank you for all of the revealings for

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healing that are going to happen. We thank you, God, that

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you can take all of the things out of darkness in our hearts

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and our lives and bring them to the surface at the appointed

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time, God, that you are the great dot connector. Nothing is

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too hard for you. God, I thank you that we won't despise the

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day of small beginnings, that we won't minimize any aspect of our

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heart work, God, that some days we're going to feel big

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breakthroughs and other days we might not, but God, it's all

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worth it. God, I thank you that in the still quiet moments that

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you would just come and minister to every wound in every area

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that has tripped them up in the past, God, that you would remove

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obstacles, God, that you would help them to hear what your

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spirit is saying louder than any voice of the enemy. Holy Spirit,

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I thank you for coming. We invite you to come and be with

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us here tonight, that you would guide our conversation and every

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aspect of the session that you would, Lord, help me to decrease

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so that you can increase and make yourself known. Lord, we

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thank you that you care about all of us and you have a divine

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plan and purpose for us. God, I pray that you would lead us all

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into the fullness of your plan for us a little bit more tonight

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in Jesus name. Amen. I'm so excited tonight to talk about

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supernatural surrender. A little bit later after your breakout

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session, I am going to touch on the Jesus Cares Board and that

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aspect of supernatural surrender, because I want to

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show you guys a couple pictures and ideas, but I just don't want

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to distract you right in the beginning where you start

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thinking too far into that. But in our community, Jackie, God

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led Jackie to basically do a Jesus Cares Board years ago, and

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she started using it, implementing it, and that has

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taught so many people in our community. And then now we are

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teaching other people as well. It's all about praying and asking

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God, asking Jesus like to take the cares off of us and put them

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on him, but it's actively doing it. So it's not just praying,

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but it's taking it, writing it out on a post-it note, and put

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it in up on that board, if you will. And I'm going to show you

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that you can do your board all different kinds of ways. And

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again, we'll dive into that a little bit more later tonight.

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So supernatural surrender is all about letting God add his super

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to our natural every single day that we are partnering with him

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in the journey, including surrendering the pen completely

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to him. We want to encourage you to release it all to allow

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something to move freely, to act freely in and through you,

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where in the past, you might have tried to Jesus, you know,

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take the wheel, where you're like giving it to him, then

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you're taking it back, you're giving it to him, and then

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you're taking it back. Why do we do that? Well, we tend to do

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that when we think that God isn't moving quick enough,

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right? Or that he's not doing it the way that we thought he would

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or wanted him to, or however that looks for everyone. It's a

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little bit different, right? We bring into every relationship,

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including our relationship with God, our history, the backstory

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behind us, how our parents raised us, the ways we learn to

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think, the way

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that we learn to live in everything.

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And so tonight we want you just to kind of partner

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with the truth from John 15, verses four through five.

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It's all about God saying,

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remain in me as I also remain in you.

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No branch can bear fruit by itself.

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It must remain in the vine.

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Jesus was actually talking at this time,

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but we know that God, the Father, Jesus Christ,

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and the Holy Spirit are all one, you all.

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So if Jesus is saying, hey, remain in me

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as I remain in you,

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he's saying to us that we're gonna,

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he's inviting us to do the same thing.

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Be with me like I am with my Father.

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That's what this scripture, there's so much more to it,

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but it's basically continuing to say over and over,

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like, you can't bear fruit unless you remain in me.

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I'm the vine, you're the branches.

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If you remain in me, then I'm gonna remain in you.

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And then you'll bear much fruit.

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So isn't it much greater to bear fruit

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versus walking away and feeling like

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we're not bearing anything?

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I know that I've had areas of my life before

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where I was just like, man, I just,

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nothing's happening there.

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I'm praying and I'm praying and I'm praying

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and nothing, it just, nothing's happening.

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I had an incorrect heart posture and perspective

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when I was looking at some of those situations.

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I needed some more healing

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that I didn't even know what I needed.

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We don't know what we don't know until we know it.

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And so God is gonna continue to help you

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as you surrender to him to see even blind spots,

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filters, things that have been holding you up in the past.

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Remember that God is a gentleman,

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so he's not gonna force his way in on you.

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I always like to liken it to a do not enter sign.

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That's the way at least,

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these are the kind of ways I relate to God.

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I literally one time was praying and it was like,

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God was like, you gotta do not enter sign in there

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and certain areas of your heart.

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It wasn't something I was even doing intentionally.

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It was literally just what was there

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because of what I had been through, right?

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he just kept inviting me to take the sign down.

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came through the revelation of listening

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to things that Jackie was saying through the empowerment

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and the leading of the Holy Spirit

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in this course years ago when I took it.

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And so oftentimes the reason we erect those signs

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is because we're scared somewhere.

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We're scared the little girl on the inside of us

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is still broken in some way, shape or form,

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and she's not sure it's safe to come out.

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and he's like, come out, come out wherever you are.

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And I know that's kind of like a kid's game, right?

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We used to play hide and seek

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and we would call out to one another

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to get people to come out of hiding.

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And the Holy Spirit is saying the same thing to us.

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He's asking us, will you come out so that you can be found?

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It's about giving God permission to access our hearts.

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Remember, he's not gonna force his way in

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so he has to get in somehow.

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Well, it's just the same thing

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when we accept Jesus as our savior,

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he doesn't come in, force us into relationship.

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No, we choose.

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We pray and we invite him to come in and live in us, right?

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So don't you think it's the same process

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when it comes to your heart healing?

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Now, I will tell you,

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God is gonna lovingly continue to nudge you

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and try to lead you towards what is best for you.

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And if you're like me,

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sometimes you think you know what's best for you

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and it's absolutely not good for you at all.

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I've talked about my prior relationship.

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I've had, you know, I was married before you all.

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I was married to my ex-husband for 12 years

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and it was not good, most of it.

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But I did not believe in divorce

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and I believed in just continuing to pray

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and those are all very noble things.

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for that to change.

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I'm glad I did.

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when it was abusive

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and it was becoming more and more destructive,

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Because I was crying out to him for a while,

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like, God help me, I don't, I'm trying,

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I don't know what to do.

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And he heard me and he answered me.

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But you know, I had to be willing

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to go on the journey that he took me on to.

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I went to some classes,

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overcoming power.

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and your relationships, I talked to a social worker.

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I mean, things I never thought I would have been doing,

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That wasn't the picture I had planned when I got married.

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Sitting in a class with a bunch of women

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talking about the different ways

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their spouses were abusing them.

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Not the picture I had planned.

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but I ended up meeting another woman.

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in a sense, you know,

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not that you all are getting necessarily out of marriages,

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but you're getting out of these places in your heart

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that have kept you in bondage and fear.

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like, hey, I'm standing at the door.

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I'm knocking on your heart.

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Will you choose to let me come in?

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If you hear my voice and open the door,

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not only is he gonna come in, but he's gonna sup with us.

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He's gonna have a meal.

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He wants to have fellowship.

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He wants to have intimacy.

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Just let me come in.

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And I'm gonna let you in.

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And I'm gonna let you in.

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just like Jesus is one with him, you know,

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he wants us to also be one with them.

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Andrea was coaching this afternoon

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and I loved the way she said something

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about supernatural surrender being active trust.

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I don't know if she heard that from Jackie

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or that God just gave her that,

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but it was really powerful when she said it.

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And so I want you to be thinking about

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how can you actively trust God tonight,

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asking God the same thing tomorrow.

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What does it look like to literally picture

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giving the things that you are worried about to him,

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you know, putting them on your board,

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but also even after it's on the board,

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looking at the board and reminding yourself,

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Jesus, thank you that you're working on these situations

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and call him out by name.

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Jesus, thank you that right now

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you're sitting at the right hand of the father

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interceding, let's say one of the things on my board

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is Michaela and Olivia Scott.

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Those are my spiritual daughters.

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Thank you that right now,

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I believe that you are bringing the light of the world

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into the great darkness that they are encountering,

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that you're gonna bring them out of that darkness

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into the light and that they are going to be transformed

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and they are going to ask for me in my house,

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serve the Lord.

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You know, that we start really leaning into that.

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I can't control their decisions,

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but I can't carry the weight of all of that either.

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I gotta give it to him.

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I gotta trust him and I think back,

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I wonder what it was like for my mom or my family

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or my friends.

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Some of my friends begged me to leave that relationship

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with the girl's dad and I just stayed

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and it was really bad.

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And so people were praying for me,

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just like I'm praying for my girls.

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I wanna encourage you to really lean into like

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the Lord helping you surrender that tonight.

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well, I've surrendered this thing

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over and over and over again.

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You know, I've been reading,

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I'm not gonna talk about the name of the book

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cause we focus on the heart work while y'all are here,

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but I've been reading this book

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on how to pray for your loved ones.

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And it's restoring my hope

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because just like all of you,

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sometimes, you know,

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even if you wanna relate this to your love story,

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right now I'm talking about interceding

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and praying for lost loved ones,

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but doesn't it get at points weary?

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you're praying for change,

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but the physical isn't lining up, right?

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to fill our hope tank,

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to give us a fresh revelation,

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a fresh understanding so that we can partner

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back in unison with him to keep believing

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for that thing to change,

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because he is a good father who has good gifts for us.

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And sometimes we're just not in alignment

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or the other person isn't,

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but that doesn't mean that he's not working.

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It doesn't mean that he's not trying

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to line things up for us.

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I 100% know that long before I officially gave my life

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to Jesus Christ, that he was wooing me and drawing me.

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You all, as a little girl, I can remember.

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Now back then, I don't know if I knew 100%

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if I was praying to God,

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but I also remember being in VBS and I cannot tell you

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tell you what happened, but I specifically remember where I was sitting.

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We were at the school and we were at these tables back behind this school and

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the sun was shining.

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have no clue what was said or any of those things.

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And that I just felt different from other kids,

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but it didn't feel like a bad different.

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And then years later, just sitting in the sun and I was drawing.

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And I just kept looking up at the sun and y'all, and I'm not trying to sound

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kooky, but I just,

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I just felt this connection and it wasn't with the sun.

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You all pay, not the physical sun as in the

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sunlight. But I believe I, I knew that there, God was,

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he was there and I just felt connected to him.

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At one point I had my Bible and, and I was highlighting scriptures.

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I wasn't doing that because anybody told me to,

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there were things the preacher was saying. And I was like, wow,

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that that's speaking to me. Now I didn't have that language back then,

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but I knew there was something God was, God was calling out to

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me. I mean, I was young then.

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I didn't give my life to the Lord until I was 20.

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That was 20 years old.

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Praise the Lord that I finally did, but it took a while,

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but God was wooing me and calling me that whole time

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and pursuing me. And so for some of you that

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you're like, I've been praying for a husband for 20 years.

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I want you to understand it's similar to what I just explained to you.

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God is wooing you and he's drawing you to the fullness of his promise for you.

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Some of you have chosen one bad guy after another and God's not mad at you.

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I did it too, but he's trying to help you learn how to choose better,

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to learn how to know that you're worth, I feel the Holy spirit. Yep.

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To know that you are worth someone who is great,

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who will love the fullness of who you are,

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not just for what your body can give them,

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y'all our bodies change. It's real.

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And guess what? If, if it's all wrapped up in the physical,

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what are we going to do when that's not able to function the same? Or,

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you know, my husband had a surgery not long after we got married and guess what?

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We couldn't have sex for a while because of that.

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what are we going to do when it's all wrapped up in the physical?

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Well, what are we going to do then?

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It has to be about more than that.

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he's trying to teach us tools and boundaries and security in Christ to know who

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you are, to know your value and your worth.

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There's this story about, you know, this guy years ago,

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I was at a retreat and he was talking about,

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I'm probably going to muck this up a little bit,

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but he was talking about, you know, the cows and back in the day,

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you know, it was a big deal for someone to come and buy cows.

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They had to have a lot of money to do that. And, uh,

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I remember sitting in this retreat and listening and this preacher was telling

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this story. And again, I'm not gonna, I'm not going to do it any justice,

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but at just the glimpse of what I remember is he was talking about how

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the guy was saying, I'll give you weight.

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Like he wanted to double and triple the price of what it was,

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what he would have paid for the cows, for the daughter.

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like she was worth so much more than all like the,

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the fullness of what they would have paid back then and how he was willing,

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like he wanted to pay above and beyond that,

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because that's how valuable she was.

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And you might hear that and think, well, you know, paying for a woman, what?

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Well, they did that back then. Okay. So it wasn't weird back then,

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but it's more about the point of what I'm trying to say is like,

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God sees our value all the time and he can show an

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healthy man how to see that value too. But if you don't see that value,

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if I don't see that value, well,

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then we're going to keep choosing people that treat us with less than that

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value. So it has to start with us.

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It has to start with how we view ourselves, how we posture ourselves.

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Are we going to settle for less?

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Are we going to just wait for God to drop him on?

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doorstep. Y'all, I totally wanted God to bring him right to my door. I did. I didn't want to

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have to do anything. That did not happen. I actually, God led me to go right back.

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Yes, the 10 Cow Bride. I don't, yes, whoever personal, it says personal phone. I'm not sure

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what your name is, but that is the story. Yes. So if y'all want to look it up, it's the 10 Cow Bride.

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So if I messed it up really bad, forgive me. But, um, where was I going? I'm sorry. That

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totally got me that, that I got all excited about that. I don't know. I'll remember later

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if it's important, but I'm trying to just get to that you and I, hopefully we see our value.

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And this is where surrendering the pen is going to be really, really important.

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Oh, dropping a man at my door. Audrey, Audrey, thank you so much. Yes. No, God did not drop

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the person at my door. Um, actually God led me to go back online, which is what I did not want

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to do because I met the girl's dad that way. And so I swore that I would never date online ever

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again, because dating online, it's just creepers and users and cheaters. That is what I believed.

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Well, I got some healing and through Jackie continuing to nudge me, I went back online

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and I'm not saying it's going to be like this for everyone, but I'm not joking when I say this,

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I went back, I went online on September 4th on September 6th. God told me to change my demographics

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because I was only willing to go two and a half hours. I was not moving. That was the other thing

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I said, it was not moving. I told the Lord over and over. Oh, he's so funny.

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He told me to change my demographics. And I did. And that same day, Brian reached out to me

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and, uh, he asked me my non-negotiables and I was like, what? This guy's asking me the same thing

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Jackie talks about. I mean, I'd never heard anybody ever say that before. And, uh, I had

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gone on dates before this y'all couple, not a lot, but a couple, but by this time I'd already,

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not a lot, but a couple, but by this time I'd already, I kind of gotten my practice a little

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bit, figured out a little more what I was looking for. Um, but I told him, you know,

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my number one is God, God, non-negotiable. And I said, if you want to know anymore after Jackie's

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coaching, if you want to know the others, uh, we could get together and talk about it in person.

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And he said, how about this Sunday? And so you all, he drove four and a half hours to have coffee

468
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with me. He did. And, uh, we dated ever since. And I'm his wife. I've been his wife for several

469
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years now. And, you know, it was definitely a supernatural story. Um, again, not everybody's

470
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is going to happen that quick or like that. We did get married a year later, but I definitely know I

471
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had to surrender to what God was saying. Not only just because Jackie was nudging me, I actually

472
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knew in my heart. Cause at first, the first couple of times she was like, you need to do this. I'm

473
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like, no, I don't think, I don't think I'm ready. And then when she finally came back around, I was

474
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like, you know, I think you're right. I think it is time. And even in the changing my demographic,

475
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Brian didn't live in my state. I had no intention of moving, but God led me to follow, follow him

476
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first and foremost. And, you know, God has led me through every step of the way. And so when we

477
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surrender the pen, man, God writes some great stories. Doesn't make it always easy, but it's

478
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definitely worth it. So I want you to be thinking about areas where you're, you know, maybe you've

479
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been partnering with, you know, like when we're toddlers, this thing that we develop inside of us,

480
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you know, that partners with our flesh that says, I do it myself. I'm going to do it myself.

481
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I don't need anybody's help. How many of you, even as single ladies have partnered with,

482
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I don't need anybody to help me. I've got this. Anybody? Yeah. Hi, Christie. I see you,

483
00:29:18.480 --> 00:29:21.680
Michelle, raising her hand. I think I saw a couple other hands going up.

484
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We have to come out of alignment with that. And so that wasn't in my notes for tonight. So if

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that's something that you tend to say to yourself, even when people try to hold the door for you,

486
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even ladies or gentlemen, other people that you don't know, they're trying to help you. And you're

487
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like, no, I got it. We got to stop that. Let's receive from people. If somebody wants to buy

488
00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:52.080
you lunch after church, I would love that. Don't feel guilty. Receive it. Practice receiving,

489
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because you know what, when you meet a man who walks in chivalry, guess what, ladies,

490
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they want to take care.

491
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of you. They want to hold the door for you. They want to open the car door. They

492
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want to carry your food. At least this is my my experience with Brian. I had never

493
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gone through this before. I remember the first time he just was so excited to

494
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carry my shopping bags. I was like, I can carry them. He's like, I know but I want

495
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to. I'm like giddy excited to carry my shopping bags. What does this have to do

496
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with supernatural surrender? Well I had to surrender to my ability to do

497
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everything myself. I grew up in a home where you know I really couldn't rely on

498
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other people. I learned very young if it's gonna get done I'm gonna have to do

499
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it. When my brother wouldn't do his chores my mom would get so mad about the

500
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chores not being done that it didn't matter that he didn't do them. We all

501
00:30:57.900 --> 00:31:02.780
got in trouble for it. So it started turning into I had to become responsible

502
00:31:02.780 --> 00:31:09.180
for my brother who was four years older than me to make sure he did his chores.

503
00:31:09.180 --> 00:31:15.980
That he got out of bed wasn't an easy task. I know this again is a small

504
00:31:15.980 --> 00:31:23.180
example but I have a high responsibility within me like it's in a

505
00:31:23.180 --> 00:31:28.580
strength finders. It's like one of my top things. Well that got overextended in

506
00:31:28.580 --> 00:31:33.900
my childhood and I still have to really watch that as an adult because the enemy

507
00:31:33.900 --> 00:31:39.180
loves to try to lead me to feel responsible for everybody else's stuff

508
00:31:39.180 --> 00:31:46.700
including my own. So I have to even surrender that stuff to the Lord. Do you

509
00:31:46.700 --> 00:31:51.660
see how this supernatural surrender works in all different aspects ladies? We

510
00:31:51.660 --> 00:31:54.900
don't have to do it ourselves. God never intended for us to do it ourselves. He

511
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intended for us to be in family and community, friendship, relationship. So get

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good at thank you so much that would be lovely. Smiling, thank you. You know just

513
00:32:10.020 --> 00:32:15.100
receiving and and letting yourself be loved on it's it's a wonderful thing. One

514
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of the main reasons we don't want to depend on anyone else is because we

515
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don't want to be disappointed. I want you to think back. I'm gonna go ahead and

516
00:32:24.500 --> 00:32:29.460
activate you. I want you to think back and it's okay if you're not a hundred

517
00:32:29.460 --> 00:32:32.740
percent sure if it's the first time ever but I just want to kind of get you guys

518
00:32:32.740 --> 00:32:37.180
engaged with me a little bit. I want you to pause where you're at and ask the

519
00:32:37.180 --> 00:32:43.580
Lord when was the first time I was disappointed and whatever pops up in

520
00:32:43.580 --> 00:32:47.140
your mind it doesn't matter if it's the exact first time ever put that in the

521
00:32:47.140 --> 00:32:55.620
chat for me. When was the first time Lord that I was disappointed and someone

522
00:32:55.620 --> 00:33:01.540
and something whatever that is for you go ahead and put that in the chat for us

523
00:33:01.540 --> 00:33:06.820
and as you're doing that I'm gonna keep kind of chatting but be thinking about

524
00:33:06.820 --> 00:33:09.700
that and if it doesn't come to you right away that's okay just start putting it

525
00:33:09.700 --> 00:33:14.200
in there when you when it comes to you. I want you to remember that control is an

526
00:33:14.200 --> 00:33:18.280
illusion ladies and out of control can be a good and even healthy place to be.

527
00:33:18.280 --> 00:33:23.320
If we want to be real we're never really in control of anything except ourselves

528
00:33:23.320 --> 00:33:29.520
our beliefs and our response. The more hurt we are the more we try to control

529
00:33:29.520 --> 00:33:36.080
our environment. Keep everybody right where we want them so they cannot hurt

530
00:33:36.080 --> 00:33:42.080
us but when we do that we cannot live abundantly right? We have to make a

531
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decision. Are we ready to surrender? Are we ready to wave the white flag and say

532
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God I cannot do it. I've tried. I'm sorry that I've tried to do it on my own. I'm

533
00:33:52.160 --> 00:33:57.520
sorry that I've tried to think I can do better than you. God I I'm yielding to

534
00:33:57.520 --> 00:34:05.720
you. I give up and I choose to surrender it all. Is that where you're at tonight?

535
00:34:05.720 --> 00:34:10.920
Because some of you are like yes yes I'm all there and then tomorrow something's

536
00:34:10.920 --> 00:34:17.400
gonna happen and you're gonna be like God why is this happening? You know

537
00:34:17.400 --> 00:34:20.360
you're gonna be upset with him because it's not happening fast enough or

538
00:34:20.360 --> 00:34:24.000
whatever and it might not be tomorrow. I'm kind of a you know exaggerating but

539
00:34:24.000 --> 00:34:29.159
it might be a week from now. Yeah so some of these are coming in the chat I'm

540
00:34:29.159 --> 00:34:35.080
gonna go ahead and I'm gonna try to grab as many of them as I can. So our downy

541
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when you put three to four years old make sure you ask the Lord and you might

542
00:34:38.080 --> 00:34:42.159
know what it is but ask the Lord what the situation was and I'm activating you

543
00:34:42.159 --> 00:34:44.800
all in this for a purpose. We're gonna I'm gonna talk about it here in just a

544
00:34:44.800 --> 00:34:48.920
minute and Chrissy says I have a feeling it was in kindergarten. It had something

545
00:34:48.920 --> 00:34:53.480
to do with my dad. Elementary seven years old at ballet class. Everyone else got to

546
00:34:53.480 --> 00:34:56.840
go to their parents but I had to keep on dancing. I felt that I was a

547
00:34:56.840 --> 00:35:01.560
disappointment because I could not finish.

548
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.660
was five. That's huge. That is probably connected is some

549
00:35:04.660 --> 00:35:07.640
significant things we've been coaching you on Megan. Okay, so

550
00:35:07.640 --> 00:35:10.680
I think that's a really important one. Seventh grade.

551
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Jamie says when my mom got a ticket and didn't have enough

552
00:35:13.840 --> 00:35:16.640
cash to take us to the movie and get burgers as we planned. We

553
00:35:16.640 --> 00:35:20.200
never got to do that kind of thing. So we were so excited. I

554
00:35:20.200 --> 00:35:26.000
saw so much pain on her and was so disappointed. So that Jamie

555
00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:29.320
think about that too. So that's two layers of disappointment.

556
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Not only did you feel but you saw her feeling that

557
00:35:31.800 --> 00:35:34.200
disappointment so that there might be some kind of

558
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generational not even just in that moment, but generational

559
00:35:37.840 --> 00:35:41.960
layers of disappointment when you saw mom disappointed, that

560
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God's just highlighting that to me. So I would encourage you to

561
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lean into that a little bit. Grace says when I was a little

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girl, and my dad would tell me that he would take me on

563
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adventures in the car with him, but he wouldn't show up. Grace,

564
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I'm so sorry that that happened. My dad used to say he

565
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was going to come to my plays in high school and he didn't show

566
00:36:02.200 --> 00:36:06.440
up either. And man, that hurt me so much. So I, I resonate with

567
00:36:06.440 --> 00:36:08.840
what you shared in there. And if anyone else had that kind of

568
00:36:08.840 --> 00:36:12.720
stuff happen. I knew that God's heart is sorry. He's sad that

569
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that broke his heart when your heart was breaking. And he loves

570
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you so much. Kristen says when my cousin and my cousin and

571
00:36:23.440 --> 00:36:26.600
sister and I all received the same present at Christmas from

572
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my grandma. But my cousin had gum and candy and hers and my

573
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sister and I did not. I was so looking forward to the treat

574
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since my cousin opened her present first. These things

575
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that seem like they're small deals, ladies. These end up

576
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being big things when they haven't been healed and dealt

577
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with. Sally said my father died when I was young. And so much.

578
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So much heartbreak and sadness. Ladies, make sure you lean into

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these. Remember what you wrote down tonight. Spend some time

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this week with the Lord. Jennifer says when I was 25,

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when I directly asked for something, I think that's what

582
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you mean, Jennifer, Sandra, as a toddler, I wanted to help mom in

583
00:37:04.400 --> 00:37:08.800
the kitchen, and she wouldn't let me. My dad's wife, telling

584
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me they had a gift for me to travel to Europe all expenses

585
00:37:11.320 --> 00:37:14.560
paid, but because I had used remaining scholarship money to

586
00:37:14.560 --> 00:37:17.160
you hostile Europe that that they wouldn't be gifting this

587
00:37:17.160 --> 00:37:20.520
trip to me. That was not my dad's character. The trip was

588
00:37:20.520 --> 00:37:24.440
supposed to be my graduation gift from university. Eloise

589
00:37:24.440 --> 00:37:26.920
says first time I was disappointed as a child always

590
00:37:26.920 --> 00:37:30.320
felt unseen and unheard and not celebrated, which is something

591
00:37:30.320 --> 00:37:34.160
that you often struggle with still in the groups and things

592
00:37:34.160 --> 00:37:37.640
that you've been in. But we know that people have changed then

593
00:37:37.680 --> 00:37:40.880
and actually said, How can we celebrate you praise the Lord.

594
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That's some breakthrough. Eloise is experiencing that we've been

595
00:37:44.360 --> 00:37:47.600
praying for. Nikki said when one of my team members rejected me,

596
00:37:47.600 --> 00:37:51.800
she didn't want to be paired with me. Trisha first big

597
00:37:51.840 --> 00:37:54.600
disappointment was my first day of college many years ago, I had

598
00:37:54.600 --> 00:37:58.120
to buy all my books and carry them all to my dorm, which was a

599
00:37:58.120 --> 00:38:01.680
few blocks away by myself, I felt very alone and decided I

600
00:38:01.680 --> 00:38:04.920
need to do everything on my own. Hannah, not the first memory,

601
00:38:04.920 --> 00:38:08.000
but not getting to go to high school with my friends since it

602
00:38:08.000 --> 00:38:10.920
was a different district, Jenna, so many things I can't even

603
00:38:10.920 --> 00:38:14.040
pinpoint. Peggy, my older brother sexually abused me when

604
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I was a preschooler and told me I was never to tell anyone and I

605
00:38:17.240 --> 00:38:20.200
didn't. He gave me money to stay silent. So I had to lie

606
00:38:20.200 --> 00:38:24.040
about how I got the money. Michelle, I'm going to do my

607
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best to read all these and then we're going to move forward from

608
00:38:26.720 --> 00:38:29.720
here. I do not recall the context. But I remember clearly

609
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as a three to four year old or so but I kept repeating in my

610
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mind. But Daddy, Daddy, I'm just a little girl. I'm just a little

611
00:38:37.280 --> 00:38:42.520
girl. And when I think back to this, I just want to cry. Chrissy

612
00:38:42.520 --> 00:38:45.080
says junior high in high school couldn't lean on parents

613
00:38:45.080 --> 00:38:48.240
emotionally moving a lot in junior high, especially parents

614
00:38:48.240 --> 00:38:51.200
were missionaries and a lot of moves. Dad had to be gone a lot

615
00:38:51.200 --> 00:38:56.520
in those years, felt like I had to just deal and handle things,

616
00:38:56.680 --> 00:39:01.080
social things, emotional things myself. Jessica says seventh

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grade, the whole class ganged up on me in the playground and it

618
00:39:04.160 --> 00:39:07.040
was it was not my fault. I was accused of taking someone's

619
00:39:07.040 --> 00:39:10.440
headphones. The teacher placed me in front of the class to

620
00:39:10.440 --> 00:39:14.080
explain bullying is not acceptable. I cried so much in

621
00:39:14.080 --> 00:39:18.640
front of all of them. My mom put violent men in front of me.

622
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Stepfather compared me with a different girl and praise her

623
00:39:21.840 --> 00:39:25.080
over me. I have a twin brother and growing up I always tried my

624
00:39:25.080 --> 00:39:28.360
best to earn love and get attention because my brother

625
00:39:28.520 --> 00:39:32.240
would get the attention so I felt like I was never enough and

626
00:39:32.240 --> 00:39:36.240
tried to earn my parents love. Ex husband insecurity looked down

627
00:39:36.240 --> 00:39:40.320
devalued and degraded and spoke negative about me. And then

628
00:39:40.360 --> 00:39:43.560
Jodi says disappointed my parents never understood or

629
00:39:43.560 --> 00:39:48.440
comforted me. I had you all do that and I read them out loud

630
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because I want you to know that these are valid things that God

631
00:39:53.920 --> 00:39:56.920
wants to place the balm of Gilead upon every one of these

632
00:39:56.920 --> 00:39:59.960
wounds tonight. I did not have any of

633
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planned. So I just want you to know like this is something God led me to do as I

634
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was reading that in the book. He's going after the truth that you're seeing

635
00:40:10.400 --> 00:40:15.240
tonight that keeps coming up in my spirit. So as you continue to surrender

636
00:40:15.240 --> 00:40:18.480
these things, I saw Roseanne put one in here the first time I remember being

637
00:40:18.480 --> 00:40:22.880
disappointed when I was in the third grade when my baby sister was born. She

638
00:40:22.880 --> 00:40:26.520
did not come get to come home with my mom because, sorry that just bumped

639
00:40:26.520 --> 00:40:32.480
around, because she was a premature baby. Scary, right? As kids we don't understand

640
00:40:32.480 --> 00:40:36.320
this stuff. Tammy being abused by a trusted adult that formed my thoughts

641
00:40:36.320 --> 00:40:43.720
about what men are very young, still struggle with it. Lisa says, important

642
00:40:43.720 --> 00:40:47.000
note that I left out, the Europe trip was something I did not know about that they

643
00:40:47.000 --> 00:40:50.920
were planning to give me, gotcha. My dad's wife told me after the fact.

644
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Constant disappointment, can't remember the first time. Christmas, my birthdays,

645
00:40:54.480 --> 00:40:58.960
graduations, and on and on. When I was in the third grade I made a card for my

646
00:40:58.960 --> 00:41:02.440
teacher. The other students thought I that I had told her about the party my

647
00:41:02.440 --> 00:41:05.120
classroom was planning. I didn't even know about it. After school they all

648
00:41:05.120 --> 00:41:09.120
ganged up on me and started to hit me. Thank God my mom intervened and my

649
00:41:09.120 --> 00:41:13.120
teacher dealt with the students. If you guys feel led to put more in, you can. I'm

650
00:41:13.120 --> 00:41:16.720
probably not going to keep pausing but I did want to just honor those additional

651
00:41:16.720 --> 00:41:21.280
couple people. And so the other thing I was going to say why I felt led to do

652
00:41:21.320 --> 00:41:26.040
that is that not only to have you all put them in the chat to help you process

653
00:41:26.040 --> 00:41:31.640
that and start to think about those things, but hearing what each other have

654
00:41:31.640 --> 00:41:36.520
been through, it also can help bring things to surface in you. And because

655
00:41:36.520 --> 00:41:40.560
we're in the heart work and I believe God wants to accelerate even that heart

656
00:41:40.560 --> 00:41:44.840
healing process for you, sometimes hearing again the stories of other

657
00:41:44.840 --> 00:41:48.320
people who are like, oh my gosh I went through something like that too, or I

658
00:41:48.640 --> 00:41:53.200
remember this now because you heard something from someone else. And so as

659
00:41:53.200 --> 00:41:56.960
you are facing these disappointments rising to the surface tonight,

660
00:41:58.320 --> 00:42:02.320
absolutely want to encourage you all to utilize that forgiveness prayer sheet.

661
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You can find that no matter what week you're on under the welcome tab in the

662
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heart work course. You're going to go ahead and forgive those people that

663
00:42:11.920 --> 00:42:15.560
hurt you, forgive those people that disappointed you. And I want you to be

664
00:42:15.560 --> 00:42:21.360
specific. I want you to write out what you put in the chat here tonight and

665
00:42:21.360 --> 00:42:26.720
forgive those people and allow God to come in and heal these areas in your

666
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heart and your life. I want to show you some practical ways we tend to say, I'm

667
00:42:32.720 --> 00:42:36.200
just going to do it myself. God, I've got this. These are how these show up in

668
00:42:36.200 --> 00:42:39.880
our daily lives. I'm going to give you a couple tonight, relationship areas,

669
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controlling conversations or outcomes during conflict rather than seeking

670
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God's wisdom first. Making major relationship decisions without prayer or

671
00:42:48.560 --> 00:42:53.960
godly counsel. Trying to earn love through performance instead of resting

672
00:42:53.960 --> 00:42:58.400
in God's unconditional love. In the financial and career area, it can show

673
00:42:58.400 --> 00:43:01.920
up like this, making financial decisions based solely on our own understanding

674
00:43:01.920 --> 00:43:06.880
again without seeking God's direction. Hoarding resources out of fear instead

675
00:43:06.880 --> 00:43:14.520
of trusting God as our provider. Parenting and family, trying to control

676
00:43:14.520 --> 00:43:20.200
our children's every choice instead of training them and trusting God with

677
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their hearts. Training them to trust God with their hearts, that sounded funny

678
00:43:25.120 --> 00:43:30.480
when I said it. Fixing every problem for our kids rather than allowing them to

679
00:43:30.480 --> 00:43:37.360
learn and grow through challenges. I know that we all love our kids, but in

680
00:43:37.360 --> 00:43:43.640
our world, in our society, so many people have become helicopter parents, right? Our

681
00:43:43.640 --> 00:43:50.080
kids have not been developing in the same way being able to make decisions. So

682
00:43:50.080 --> 00:43:56.520
many young kids are struggling to make decisions at all. Personal growth,

683
00:43:56.520 --> 00:43:59.400
white-knuckling through bad habits instead of inviting God into the

684
00:43:59.400 --> 00:44:07.560
transformation process. Do you have any bad habits, ladies? Are you trying to face

685
00:44:07.560 --> 00:44:12.840
these alone? I'm not saying it's always going to be an easy solution, but I even

686
00:44:12.840 --> 00:44:17.360
recently, some of the challenges that I'm going through with the weight gain is

687
00:44:17.360 --> 00:44:21.680
hormonal. Some of it I don't even know. I feel like it's some of it's the enemy

688
00:44:21.680 --> 00:44:26.480
just warring against me as I'm trying, like I'm going to chiropractors, I'm

689
00:44:26.480 --> 00:44:30.560
taking supplements, I'm walking, I'm doing, I'm eating healthy, I'm doing all

690
00:44:30.560 --> 00:44:35.160
the things and I'm like, feels like it's all attracting to me, what is happening?

691
00:44:35.160 --> 00:44:42.080
And I'm making light of it a little bit, but it's a real struggle. And I've had

692
00:44:42.080 --> 00:44:45.640
this posted up, I don't have it right now because I'm in a different room

693
00:44:45.640 --> 00:44:52.800
tonight, but that when I feel overwhelmed that I will turn to God before I turn to

694
00:44:52.800 --> 00:44:57.480
food for comfort. And that's what I wrote out on a post-it note. And so I

695
00:44:57.480 --> 00:45:01.640
would see that every day, like hanging up.

696
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.560
It's like right on my ring light.

697
00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:05.280
Um, and so when I would sit at my desk, that ring light just sits right there in

698
00:45:05.280 --> 00:45:05.580
front.

699
00:45:06.040 --> 00:45:10.800
And so maybe yours is not that maybe it's something else, but where you are just

700
00:45:10.800 --> 00:45:16.280
going to choose to not white knuckle it anymore, but to ask God to supernaturally

701
00:45:16.280 --> 00:45:21.000
surrender that process to him and ask him to help you because we have to be

702
00:45:21.000 --> 00:45:25.440
intentional about these things, trying to heal our own emotional wounds without

703
00:45:25.440 --> 00:45:29.520
letting God into the painful places, comparing our journey to others, trying

704
00:45:29.520 --> 00:45:34.160
to fast track our growth, some of the other white knuckling, you know, through

705
00:45:34.160 --> 00:45:34.720
bad habits.

706
00:45:34.720 --> 00:45:37.720
Remember, we're not looking for short, short term behavior change.

707
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Ladies.

708
00:45:38.960 --> 00:45:39.200
Okay.

709
00:45:39.200 --> 00:45:42.040
We're not, we don't want you to come in here and be like, you got to get all

710
00:45:42.040 --> 00:45:42.960
cleaned up.

711
00:45:43.880 --> 00:45:48.200
No, like, of course I would love, I want you all to break free.

712
00:45:48.400 --> 00:45:49.640
I want to see you grow.

713
00:45:49.640 --> 00:45:52.560
I want to see you heal, but I don't want it to be fake.

714
00:45:52.960 --> 00:45:56.120
You don't need to perform for me or anybody else in here.

715
00:45:58.160 --> 00:45:58.640
Okay.

716
00:45:59.760 --> 00:46:04.160
The best thing you can do is be real with yourself and be real with each

717
00:46:04.160 --> 00:46:09.800
other and the process with the Lord, even being real with the Lord and, and

718
00:46:09.800 --> 00:46:11.840
asking him a lot of really good questions.

719
00:46:11.840 --> 00:46:15.200
When something comes up in your spirit, please don't think things are too

720
00:46:15.200 --> 00:46:16.920
small and be like, well, that's weird.

721
00:46:17.360 --> 00:46:19.080
That's how we tend to treat ourselves.

722
00:46:19.440 --> 00:46:23.720
If we haven't learned how to treat ourselves while growing up, if a thought

723
00:46:23.720 --> 00:46:29.000
bubbles up in your spirit, I want you to like, pause like, oh, I haven't

724
00:46:29.000 --> 00:46:30.440
thought of that in a long time.

725
00:46:31.000 --> 00:46:33.320
Lord, are you trying to show me something through that?

726
00:46:35.760 --> 00:46:38.760
If you start seeing the same scripture over and over, there might be something

727
00:46:38.760 --> 00:46:40.800
God's trying to say to you through that scripture.

728
00:46:41.400 --> 00:46:43.960
Those are the kinds of things you want to lean into and you want to ask the

729
00:46:43.960 --> 00:46:46.920
Lord to search you and know you.

730
00:46:48.400 --> 00:46:48.920
Right.

731
00:46:49.760 --> 00:46:52.080
Creating you a clean heart, creating me a clean heart.

732
00:46:52.080 --> 00:46:56.600
Oh God, renew a steadfast spirit in me that he would cleanse us from all

733
00:46:56.600 --> 00:47:00.840
unrighteousness and that he would heal us in the depths of our souls.

734
00:47:00.840 --> 00:47:06.200
John 14, 25 through 27 says this, all this I've spoken while still with you,

735
00:47:06.200 --> 00:47:11.600
but the advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the father will send in my name.

736
00:47:11.600 --> 00:47:15.440
This is Jesus talking, will teach you all things and will remind you of

737
00:47:15.440 --> 00:47:16.640
everything I've said to you.

738
00:47:16.640 --> 00:47:18.680
Peace I leave with you.

739
00:47:19.240 --> 00:47:20.840
My peace I give you.

740
00:47:21.640 --> 00:47:23.840
I do not give to you as the world gives.

741
00:47:24.400 --> 00:47:29.200
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

742
00:47:30.360 --> 00:47:35.120
I want to remind you all in this process, it's called supernatural surrender.

743
00:47:35.720 --> 00:47:39.360
It's not called, get your shovels out and it's time to dig.

744
00:47:40.080 --> 00:47:40.640
Okay.

745
00:47:41.680 --> 00:47:43.040
What do I mean by that?

746
00:47:43.600 --> 00:47:47.280
I mean, literally, I don't want you to go digging for answers.

747
00:47:47.280 --> 00:47:50.800
I don't want you calling out all of your aunts and all your moms and, you

748
00:47:50.800 --> 00:47:55.760
know, all the things trying to piece it all together for yourself.

749
00:47:56.560 --> 00:47:59.600
If God does lead you to have a conversation, that's fine.

750
00:48:00.000 --> 00:48:04.480
But what I have found in myself, I did this years ago as well.

751
00:48:04.880 --> 00:48:06.200
It doesn't end up well.

752
00:48:06.200 --> 00:48:11.880
You all, I started asking all kinds of questions, talking to my aunt, talking

753
00:48:11.880 --> 00:48:16.160
to my sister, trying to figure out where all the cracks were because I

754
00:48:16.160 --> 00:48:18.160
wanted it all healed at one time.

755
00:48:18.360 --> 00:48:19.080
I'm not kidding.

756
00:48:19.320 --> 00:48:20.720
I was a little detective.

757
00:48:22.240 --> 00:48:23.240
I love detective shows.

758
00:48:23.240 --> 00:48:28.000
You all, my husband and I, it's so funny watching the show.

759
00:48:28.000 --> 00:48:30.800
We were watching this little, uh, shoot.

760
00:48:30.800 --> 00:48:33.640
I forget even a little teeny bopper investigator show.

761
00:48:33.640 --> 00:48:36.240
Literally he, he was making fun of me at first.

762
00:48:36.240 --> 00:48:37.880
You're watching another teeny bopper show.

763
00:48:37.880 --> 00:48:40.400
And, and before long, he sucked into it with me.

764
00:48:40.400 --> 00:48:41.320
I'm like, uh-huh.

765
00:48:41.360 --> 00:48:42.080
You like it too.

766
00:48:42.360 --> 00:48:47.800
But I'm bringing that up because we are teasing each other because he got

767
00:48:47.800 --> 00:48:51.240
something right last night about the investigative show and I got

768
00:48:51.240 --> 00:48:56.120
something right tonight, but I'm saying that because I, I even remember

769
00:48:56.120 --> 00:48:57.080
like, that's how I felt.

770
00:48:57.080 --> 00:48:59.360
I was like, I'm going to, I'm going to figure this out.

771
00:49:00.360 --> 00:49:01.480
I'm going to piece it all together.

772
00:49:01.480 --> 00:49:04.120
I'm going to finally break the code in our family.

773
00:49:06.000 --> 00:49:08.320
And, uh, it didn't go well.

774
00:49:08.320 --> 00:49:12.680
I ended up having a lot of pain because the things that I unsurfaced, I was not

775
00:49:12.680 --> 00:49:15.880
ready for, it was way bigger than I even knew.

776
00:49:16.880 --> 00:49:18.960
And so I want to encourage you, please don't do that.

777
00:49:19.080 --> 00:49:19.600
Okay.

778
00:49:20.160 --> 00:49:23.880
You're going to pray and you're going to ask the Lord to reveal things for

779
00:49:23.880 --> 00:49:24.320
healing.

780
00:49:24.320 --> 00:49:29.640
And you're going to trust that what he reveals at the right time is what you

781
00:49:29.640 --> 00:49:30.880
need to know at that time.

782
00:49:31.400 --> 00:49:36.440
And you know, there might come a day when he will reveal more to you and maybe he

783
00:49:36.440 --> 00:49:40.000
won't y'all there's huge chunks of my life that I don't remember.

784
00:49:40.680 --> 00:49:41.560
And you know what?

785
00:49:42.160 --> 00:49:43.680
I'm kind of good with that now.

786
00:49:44.440 --> 00:49:48.440
If there's anything God wants me to remember, he'll show me.

787
00:49:50.360 --> 00:49:54.800
And it is kind of sad because I think, oh, well, I literally don't remember like

788
00:49:54.800 --> 00:49:59.000
anything from when I was little from this age to this age, literally.

789
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:07.280
I have pictures to prove things, but I don't remember that. I don't remember those things.

790
00:50:08.800 --> 00:50:15.360
But God is protecting me and I know that. Okay, back then I didn't understand that. So,

791
00:50:16.480 --> 00:50:21.280
don't dig. You want to pull the thread. Okay, so when I was talking earlier,

792
00:50:21.280 --> 00:50:26.960
this is the little thing I've kind of coined is pull the thread. When a memory comes up

793
00:50:27.680 --> 00:50:31.600
that you don't push it down, you just kind of lightly like pull the thread. Okay,

794
00:50:31.600 --> 00:50:37.600
Lord, what is this about? Is there anything you want to show me connected to this? And that's

795
00:50:37.600 --> 00:50:42.320
what I mean by pulling thread. If you've ever pulled a thread in your shirt, it starts to

796
00:50:42.320 --> 00:50:49.040
unravel other things at times, right? Okay, so that's what I mean by that. If you haven't already

797
00:50:49.040 --> 00:50:53.920
done so throughout, you know, all of this process, maybe you just started yesterday,

798
00:50:53.920 --> 00:51:00.000
maybe you're three or four weeks in, that every day that you would, this is going to be part of

799
00:51:00.000 --> 00:51:05.040
our activations for this week, you would get that permission slip out. That's also under the welcome

800
00:51:05.040 --> 00:51:11.360
tab, the welcome area inside the Heart Work Core. Sorry, I said the welcome tab. That you print that

801
00:51:11.360 --> 00:51:16.880
permission slip out, you'll literally fill it out, genuinely put it up somewhere where you see it

802
00:51:16.880 --> 00:51:23.440
every day you will, and pray it out loud over yourself every day. Because it's an every day

803
00:51:23.440 --> 00:51:28.480
surrendering the pen. It's an everyday partnering with God, okay? All right, I'm going to put you

804
00:51:28.480 --> 00:51:35.920
on breakout session. The question tonight is, what are some things God is nudging you to surrender

805
00:51:35.920 --> 00:51:40.320
tonight? And you're just going to open up and talk to your sisters. I'm going to probably pair you

806
00:51:40.320 --> 00:51:45.760
two to a room. If you can't go into breakouts, please put that in the chat. And then I'll move

807
00:51:45.760 --> 00:51:50.400
people around. So if you get into your room and the other person doesn't show up, just wait for a

808
00:51:50.400 --> 00:51:57.600
few minutes. I'll try to move all of you as quickly as I can, all right? Totally fine, Lizzie.

809
00:51:59.360 --> 00:52:04.640
All right, I have some people already jumping off. All right, I'm losing some people here.

810
00:52:05.920 --> 00:52:08.720
Sorry y'all, I gotta keep adjusting this as people are jumping off.

811
00:52:10.640 --> 00:52:15.280
Some people can't do breakouts, and some people are afraid to do breakouts. Please don't leave

812
00:52:15.360 --> 00:52:19.520
if you're afraid. Let's press into it, okay? Let's do it afraid.

813
00:52:21.520 --> 00:52:26.640
All right, we're going to do six minutes. Go ahead and click to join those rooms as quick as you can.

814
00:52:28.800 --> 00:52:32.320
And it's totally fine if you can't do the breakout. You guys can stay here in the main room

815
00:52:33.120 --> 00:52:40.400
while I'm praying. All right, I gotta wait to see if these people get in there. Okay, here we go.

816
00:52:41.360 --> 00:52:45.680
As soon as I get everyone situated, I will start to pray for us.

817
00:52:51.280 --> 00:52:52.720
Who is that? That's nine.

818
00:52:55.840 --> 00:53:00.640
All right, Father, thank you so much for everything that you're already doing tonight.

819
00:53:00.640 --> 00:53:06.160
Thank you for even just showing me to pause and focus on the area of disappointment.

820
00:53:06.720 --> 00:53:12.560
God, I'm asking you to heal every area where there's been disappointment, even shame or guilt

821
00:53:13.600 --> 00:53:18.640
over different things, maybe even seeing things other kids had and that they couldn't have.

822
00:53:19.920 --> 00:53:22.800
I know that was some of the things in the chat. Lord, I thank you for

823
00:53:22.800 --> 00:53:26.480
revealing these things for healing. God, I'm asking you to give all the ladies that are

824
00:53:26.480 --> 00:53:31.360
talking right now about what they need to surrender tonight and in the days to come.

825
00:53:32.320 --> 00:53:37.280
And even those that are here in the main room, those that are going to watch the replay,

826
00:53:38.400 --> 00:53:44.880
that you would just help them to experience the fullness of your presence, the fullness of your

827
00:53:44.880 --> 00:53:51.760
joy, God, that you would help them to remember that. I just keep hearing that song, this is

828
00:53:51.760 --> 00:54:00.160
amazing, Grace. So that's for somebody tonight. I don't like to sing. I used to love to sing in the

829
00:54:00.160 --> 00:54:06.640
choir, but I don't like to sing by myself. But that goes on to say, this is unfailing love.

830
00:54:06.640 --> 00:54:13.360
I don't remember that you would take my place right up on the cross. It says something like that.

831
00:54:14.960 --> 00:54:18.720
I love that song, but that literally just came up in my spirit. So praise the Lord,

832
00:54:18.720 --> 00:54:24.720
that's for someone. The reminder tonight is that, you know, he took our place. He already

833
00:54:24.720 --> 00:54:31.600
bore the debt on the cross. He literally bought our freedom when he died for us. And he made a

834
00:54:31.600 --> 00:54:38.000
way for us to walk into healing, into redemption, into freedom. And so basically what we have to do

835
00:54:38.000 --> 00:54:43.760
on the earth is we have to walk it out to catch the physical realm up with the spiritual realm.

836
00:54:43.760 --> 00:54:49.760
It's already done. It's already done. Our healing is already done. The blessing of the promise of

837
00:54:49.840 --> 00:54:54.560
God's spirit made for you and who is best for you. He can help you walk that out.

838
00:54:55.600 --> 00:54:59.280
And we don't have to over-spiritualize it or make it too supernatural.

839
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.160
We just day by day by day.

840
00:55:02.280 --> 00:55:04.140
That's how I walked mine out every day.

841
00:55:04.140 --> 00:55:05.680
I was like, God, what can I do today?

842
00:55:06.040 --> 00:55:08.960
I mean, literal things that he would lead me to even pray.

843
00:55:10.000 --> 00:55:13.920
I remember the first time he said, say over yourself, I am a bride.

844
00:55:14.820 --> 00:55:17.880
And so in my, in my house, in my apartment, that's what I had at the time.

845
00:55:17.880 --> 00:55:20.600
I'd walk around and I would say, I am a bride.

846
00:55:21.120 --> 00:55:23.040
I, Bethany Stanko, I'm a bride.

847
00:55:23.480 --> 00:55:25.240
God, I thank you that I'm a bride.

848
00:55:25.480 --> 00:55:29.600
And I just started speaking over my spirit because that's what God told me to do.

849
00:55:30.040 --> 00:55:34.320
Maybe that's not what God will lead you to do, but this is where asking God and,

850
00:55:34.520 --> 00:55:37.560
and being in the word, there were things I would be reading scripture and he would

851
00:55:37.560 --> 00:55:41.720
say something to me and he'd say, profess this over yourself and I would write it

852
00:55:41.720 --> 00:55:44.960
out and I'd hang it up and I would start declaring that thing over myself.

853
00:55:46.280 --> 00:55:52.360
I remember one time Jackie talked about, you know, coming out of agreement with,

854
00:55:52.480 --> 00:55:58.920
um, independence and coming into agreement with dependence on God wrote

855
00:55:58.920 --> 00:56:02.320
that on a sticky note because that spoke to me a lot too, because I'm

856
00:56:02.320 --> 00:56:05.160
misindependent, I can do it myself.

857
00:56:05.360 --> 00:56:09.240
I prided myself on that, but you know what really underneath of that pride.

858
00:56:10.000 --> 00:56:15.200
And I wasn't trying to be prideful, but underneath that pride was really pain

859
00:56:16.600 --> 00:56:23.000
and sadness because people weren't there for me, not everybody, but the people

860
00:56:23.000 --> 00:56:26.640
that, you know, that I would consider my mom and my dad, the people that I really

861
00:56:26.640 --> 00:56:28.200
needed to be there.

862
00:56:28.880 --> 00:56:32.920
And it wasn't that my mom completely abandoned me, but she neglected me a lot.

863
00:56:34.240 --> 00:56:36.440
Um, but she was pretty broken too.

864
00:56:36.720 --> 00:56:38.800
And there, I have a lot of love for her.

865
00:56:38.800 --> 00:56:40.840
My mom passed away in 2022.

866
00:56:42.040 --> 00:56:45.120
And I'm thankful for all the good things that she did for me too.

867
00:56:45.120 --> 00:56:50.600
So let's be thankful, um, for whatever, whatever God is showing us tonight, even

868
00:56:50.600 --> 00:56:57.160
in that, maybe it's supernaturally surrendering anger, sadness, upset

869
00:56:57.160 --> 00:57:01.360
towards parents or guardians or brothers and sisters who let us down.

870
00:57:01.360 --> 00:57:03.200
So father, I just pray over that right now.

871
00:57:03.880 --> 00:57:07.160
Father, I thank you that you would help us to surrender these things.

872
00:57:08.560 --> 00:57:14.360
Um, I'm hearing too, the people that have harmed us abusers, people

873
00:57:14.360 --> 00:57:15.760
that have walked out on us.

874
00:57:15.760 --> 00:57:19.960
God, I thank you that you would heal the depths of our heart and souls in these

875
00:57:19.960 --> 00:57:25.080
areas, God, where there have been these chasms and the crevices of our soul.

876
00:57:25.240 --> 00:57:27.760
They're, they're harboring resentment and bitterness.

877
00:57:27.800 --> 00:57:32.720
God, I just ask you Holy spirit to release right now in the name of Jesus

878
00:57:32.720 --> 00:57:38.160
Christ, a spirit of forgiveness, a spirit of healing, a spirit of reconciliation.

879
00:57:38.600 --> 00:57:39.200
Yes, Lord.

880
00:57:39.200 --> 00:57:43.680
I declare a reckoning in the spirit realm, God, that you would lose

881
00:57:43.680 --> 00:57:46.160
angels to come and war on our behalf.

882
00:57:46.600 --> 00:57:50.520
God, that you would send warring angels for everybody.

883
00:57:50.520 --> 00:57:53.800
That's a part of the heartwork, this community, God, that you would just

884
00:57:54.320 --> 00:57:59.240
literally continue to help us to have nighttime dreams, daydreams, God, that

885
00:57:59.240 --> 00:58:04.000
we would have divine connection and revelation with you, God, I thank you

886
00:58:04.000 --> 00:58:08.760
that you would help us to definitely, yes, Lord, literally have a divine

887
00:58:08.760 --> 00:58:13.040
channel, like pick up the phone and Lord, I can hear you where there's been things

888
00:58:13.040 --> 00:58:15.400
that have been hindering our ability to hear you, God.

889
00:58:15.680 --> 00:58:18.840
Maybe some people think they can't even hear you, God at all.

890
00:58:19.200 --> 00:58:22.760
I pray that you would surprise them with fun things that all of a sudden they

891
00:58:22.760 --> 00:58:26.720
would just start to recognize, like even in scripture, like, Oh God, you're

892
00:58:26.720 --> 00:58:28.280
speaking to me through that right now.

893
00:58:28.800 --> 00:58:32.560
Or something that they read in a book or something that someone says to them

894
00:58:32.560 --> 00:58:36.600
or a sermon that they hear, God, that they would start to know that you love

895
00:58:36.600 --> 00:58:41.120
them, that you speak, you're always speaking God, and you're excited for

896
00:58:41.120 --> 00:58:44.160
them to have a two-way conversation.

897
00:58:44.600 --> 00:58:46.400
So Lord, we just thank you for that blessing.

898
00:58:46.400 --> 00:58:52.560
We thank you, God, for the ability to supernaturally surrender in every area of

899
00:58:52.560 --> 00:58:56.880
our lives, that everything that has been broken in the past, God is going to be

900
00:58:57.120 --> 00:59:03.120
restored, I thank you, God, for reminding us of all the good things that have

901
00:59:03.120 --> 00:59:07.320
happened in the past, the good things that are still yet to come, that we

902
00:59:07.320 --> 00:59:13.360
would, yeah, Lord, receive a fresh word from heaven and declare God, your

903
00:59:13.360 --> 00:59:19.000
goodness and your mercy and the full measure of your grace over our lives

904
00:59:19.000 --> 00:59:21.520
and other people, in Jesus' name.

905
00:59:21.520 --> 00:59:24.600
I'm looking for something real quick, ladies, because I want to bring

906
00:59:24.600 --> 00:59:29.520
something up and show you, and I thought I had it somewhere else and I could not

907
00:59:29.520 --> 00:59:31.920
find it, so give me one second.

908
00:59:33.480 --> 00:59:34.480
Here we go.

909
00:59:34.480 --> 00:59:44.200
Got to share my screen with you.

910
00:59:45.640 --> 00:59:48.080
All right, I'm going to talk real quick about the Jesus Cares Board.

911
00:59:48.560 --> 00:59:52.360
Everybody's boards are different, so yours doesn't, does not have to look

912
00:59:52.360 --> 00:59:56.840
like this, but this is an example of one of our ladies, she felt led to do

913
00:59:56.840 --> 00:59:58.640
post-it notes that were heart-shaped.

914
00:59:58.640 --> 00:59:59.800
You can do whatever you want.

915
00:59:59.800 --> 01:00:00.000
She.

916
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.240
beltlet to put scriptures. You don't have to do that if you don't want. This is, again,

917
01:00:04.240 --> 01:00:07.960
tonight I'm just showing you some different aspects, ladies, of what you can do because

918
01:00:07.960 --> 01:00:14.960
I want you to see how simple it is, okay? This lady just used a board that she put in

919
01:00:14.960 --> 01:00:21.200
her kitchen and had her Post-Its on there. I do want to encourage you all, while family

920
01:00:21.200 --> 01:00:24.880
is good, okay, there's nothing wrong with that. She didn't do anything wrong, okay?

921
01:00:24.880 --> 01:00:28.720
You guys are never going to get in trouble, okay? So those of you that got in trouble

922
01:00:28.840 --> 01:00:32.960
for assignments in school and you're afraid to turn anything in, it's not going to be

923
01:00:32.960 --> 01:00:37.840
like that here, okay? I might encourage you to stretch a little bit more. In this case,

924
01:00:37.840 --> 01:00:42.900
that's why I want to point this out. Now, she might have had kids in her home, too,

925
01:00:42.900 --> 01:00:46.280
so that might be why she didn't list these things out. I don't know. But I'm just using

926
01:00:46.280 --> 01:00:52.680
this as an example. I want to encourage you all to get specific. Like, if you have needs

927
01:00:52.680 --> 01:00:58.120
in your family, like, what are they specifically? Like, what area do you need Jesus to work

928
01:00:58.120 --> 01:01:03.080
in your family right now? What area in your health or your finances, okay?

929
01:01:03.080 --> 01:01:06.800
Alright, here's another one. Again, I'm going to kind of go through these kind of quick.

930
01:01:06.800 --> 01:01:11.120
I just want to plant some seeds for you. This one is, this one excites, they all excite

931
01:01:11.120 --> 01:01:15.960
me, but this one I remember when I first saw it. She put herself on Jesus Cares board.

932
01:01:15.960 --> 01:01:22.080
I loved this. I was like, well, I never thought of that. I think this is great. She just wanted

933
01:01:22.080 --> 01:01:25.600
to remember every day that when she looked at her Jesus Cares board that she could trust

934
01:01:25.600 --> 01:01:32.040
Jesus with herself. Even though all those things have to do with her, that she actually

935
01:01:32.040 --> 01:01:37.640
could trust him with herself. The reason I wanted to show you this one, again, another

936
01:01:37.640 --> 01:01:41.620
example, different words and things she put on here, but at the bottom, she put these

937
01:01:41.620 --> 01:01:47.400
two little heart boxes. Can you all see that? Let me make that a little bigger. One for

938
01:01:47.400 --> 01:01:52.920
childhood and one for adult. She had kids in her home, and she did not want her kids

939
01:01:52.920 --> 01:01:59.920
to see these private areas. She made these little boxes and put the note things inside

940
01:02:00.440 --> 01:02:06.080
the box. I was like, that is so creative. She knew what those represented, and I thought

941
01:02:06.080 --> 01:02:11.280
that was great. This lady just used a door in her house. Great. This is perfect. They're

942
01:02:11.280 --> 01:02:16.720
all amazing ladies. Here's another one, the last one I was going to show you. Again, some

943
01:02:16.720 --> 01:02:21.120
people are scrapbookers, so they have some of that kind of stuff. They really feel led

944
01:02:21.120 --> 01:02:26.800
to make it a little more creative. There's no right or wrong. Everybody's is going to

945
01:02:26.800 --> 01:02:33.800
be amazing and great. The point is to do it. Let's not wait for it to be perfect. Again,

946
01:02:35.280 --> 01:02:40.220
you're going to learn more about it as you go. The goal, one of your first activations

947
01:02:40.220 --> 01:02:45.480
for this week is to A, do the permission slip that I already talked about. Number two is

948
01:02:45.480 --> 01:02:50.240
to do your Jesus Cares Board. Some of you that are in here, if you've already done your

949
01:02:50.240 --> 01:02:54.720
Jesus Cares Board, I want to encourage you to pray and ask the Lord if there's anything

950
01:02:54.720 --> 01:02:59.840
new you need to put on there. Is there anything on there that God already answered? Now you

951
01:02:59.840 --> 01:03:05.680
can put it under your Answered Prayers area. I started taking my Answered Prayers off and

952
01:03:05.680 --> 01:03:09.640
putting them on a different sheet of paper that I have hanging up in my office. I love

953
01:03:09.640 --> 01:03:16.640
to just go stand and look at that paper sometimes. Yes, God did that. God answered that. It encourages

954
01:03:16.960 --> 01:03:22.320
me. That's something I started doing. I hope if you choose to do that, it encourages you

955
01:03:22.320 --> 01:03:28.440
too. I'll put these in the group for you all. I call them morning and evening surrender

956
01:03:28.440 --> 01:03:32.840
moments. In the morning, before getting out of bed, place your hand on your heart and

957
01:03:32.840 --> 01:03:38.840
ask, Holy Spirit, what am I trying to control today that belongs to you? Then speak it out.

958
01:03:38.840 --> 01:03:45.360
I surrender my need to control whatever it is today. Before you go to bed, put your hand

959
01:03:45.360 --> 01:03:52.880
on your heart. Ask the Lord, what did I pick back up today that I had given to you? Then

960
01:03:52.880 --> 01:03:59.280
resurrender it. Jesus, I place whatever it is back into your hands before I go to sleep

961
01:03:59.280 --> 01:04:04.580
tonight. I think I even need to do this. It's been a while since I did this, but even reading

962
01:04:04.580 --> 01:04:08.460
it out loud, sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night with things on my mind. Anybody

963
01:04:08.460 --> 01:04:13.200
else relate to that? This might be one of those ways we can really work on releasing

964
01:04:13.200 --> 01:04:17.960
these things off of us before we go to bed. They also say if you just write a couple things

965
01:04:17.960 --> 01:04:21.760
that are on your mind before you go to bed. I saw a lot of people shaking their heads

966
01:04:21.760 --> 01:04:25.400
about waking up in the middle of the night, but if we write those things down, that might

967
01:04:25.400 --> 01:04:31.200
be helpful. Some of it, too, for the ladies that are probably around my age, it's our

968
01:04:31.200 --> 01:04:38.200
bodies and unfortunately, there's not much we can do about that right now. I would love

969
01:04:38.240 --> 01:04:43.840
for you, whoever is willing, to share with the whole group what you shared in your private

970
01:04:43.840 --> 01:04:50.680
breakout session about what is God nudging you to surrender to Him tonight. Joy's going

971
01:04:50.680 --> 01:04:57.280
to go first. Is there anyone else? Joy's going to go, but if you want to also go after Joy,

972
01:04:57.280 --> 01:05:00.040
you can raise your hand. We have until 9.30 tonight, ladies.

973
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:03.800
Okay, Joy, what are you gonna surrender tonight?

974
01:05:05.560 --> 01:05:09.900
I want to surrender my will and the time,

975
01:05:10.800 --> 01:05:13.320
plans, balance, emotion.

976
01:05:13.320 --> 01:05:18.320
I told that to, yeah, sister in the breakout room.

977
01:05:20.200 --> 01:05:22.080
I want to surrender, but the thing,

978
01:05:22.080 --> 01:05:26.200
I decide to surrender, but then I think sometimes

979
01:05:26.200 --> 01:05:31.200
my will really, maybe because the past wounds and trauma,

980
01:05:32.520 --> 01:05:37.520
so I have like a whole, sometimes I desire something.

981
01:05:39.760 --> 01:05:42.440
With them, I would desire to spend time with Laurie

982
01:05:42.440 --> 01:05:46.560
and to spend the time to know him and see his face

983
01:05:46.560 --> 01:05:48.020
and declutter my room.

984
01:05:48.960 --> 01:05:51.120
I just want to use the time,

985
01:05:51.120 --> 01:05:55.680
and, but I did not search for job,

986
01:05:55.720 --> 01:05:59.020
because right now I don't have the work permit right now.

987
01:05:59.020 --> 01:06:04.020
So I have to really to wait to seek for a job,

988
01:06:05.880 --> 01:06:08.960
but I do need money to pay rent,

989
01:06:08.960 --> 01:06:12.880
and so I have to really to help myself.

990
01:06:12.880 --> 01:06:15.880
I need God's help to help me to surrender my will,

991
01:06:15.880 --> 01:06:20.880
my time, my schedule, my emotion, my finance, my plan.

992
01:06:21.360 --> 01:06:22.960
I just need help.

993
01:06:22.960 --> 01:06:27.000
Sometimes I don't want to say I have a strong will

994
01:06:27.000 --> 01:06:30.360
or strong desire, but I just need help.

995
01:06:30.360 --> 01:06:31.400
I want to surrender.

996
01:06:31.400 --> 01:06:34.080
I want to align God's perfect will and plan.

997
01:06:34.080 --> 01:06:38.440
I want it, but then there's a war between,

998
01:06:38.440 --> 01:06:42.080
battle between two, and sometimes I need to know,

999
01:06:42.080 --> 01:06:45.720
is this your desire or is my own fresh desire

1000
01:06:45.720 --> 01:06:47.620
or my own hard desire?

1001
01:06:47.620 --> 01:06:50.780
So clarity needed, yeah.

1002
01:06:50.780 --> 01:06:52.020
It's really good, Joy.

1003
01:06:52.020 --> 01:06:53.700
One of the things as you were talking,

1004
01:06:53.700 --> 01:06:55.740
I was just thinking about years ago,

1005
01:06:57.540 --> 01:06:59.180
as a parent, I was reading,

1006
01:06:59.180 --> 01:07:01.380
I don't even remember what it's exactly called,

1007
01:07:01.380 --> 01:07:03.620
but it was about like when you have strong-willed children,

1008
01:07:03.620 --> 01:07:05.620
how to not break that in them, you know,

1009
01:07:05.620 --> 01:07:09.420
because that's actually a gift that God puts in us.

1010
01:07:09.420 --> 01:07:14.140
And so we want to surrender,

1011
01:07:14.140 --> 01:07:17.300
and we want to be willing to be made willing

1012
01:07:17.300 --> 01:07:19.380
to do what the Lord is leading us to do, right,

1013
01:07:19.380 --> 01:07:20.540
and follow through.

1014
01:07:21.500 --> 01:07:22.500
But when you said,

1015
01:07:22.500 --> 01:07:24.860
I don't know if I'm strong-willed or what,

1016
01:07:24.860 --> 01:07:26.540
I just heard persistence.

1017
01:07:26.540 --> 01:07:29.340
And we talk a lot, like Jackie has shared,

1018
01:07:29.340 --> 01:07:33.060
if we have a gift and it gets overextended, right,

1019
01:07:33.060 --> 01:07:35.700
it can lead us in the opposite direction.

1020
01:07:35.700 --> 01:07:38.060
And so I think maybe with some of the things

1021
01:07:38.060 --> 01:07:39.480
you've had to go through,

1022
01:07:40.420 --> 01:07:44.540
that you've developed this persistence within yourself,

1023
01:07:44.540 --> 01:07:47.260
you know, this self-reliance.

1024
01:07:47.260 --> 01:07:49.380
When you all were in the breakout sessions,

1025
01:07:49.380 --> 01:07:51.580
one of the things that came up,

1026
01:07:51.580 --> 01:07:53.300
you know, different things bubble up in my spirit.

1027
01:07:53.300 --> 01:07:55.940
Sometimes I pray, sometimes I talk,

1028
01:07:55.940 --> 01:07:58.480
but it was something that Jackie said,

1029
01:07:58.480 --> 01:08:00.300
and I put it on a Post-it note years ago,

1030
01:08:00.300 --> 01:08:02.300
and she said to pray,

1031
01:08:02.300 --> 01:08:05.660
to come out of alignment with independence,

1032
01:08:06.660 --> 01:08:11.660
and to come into alignment with dependence on God.

1033
01:08:12.380 --> 01:08:16.040
And so one of the ways I think that you or anyone else

1034
01:08:16.040 --> 01:08:20.080
that is struggling with this self-will, if you will,

1035
01:08:20.080 --> 01:08:21.680
a lot of wills in there,

1036
01:08:21.680 --> 01:08:26.359
is to pray to become more dependent on God,

1037
01:08:27.279 --> 01:08:31.359
and to walk out the things that he is leading us to do.

1038
01:08:31.359 --> 01:08:34.060
And so I wanna encourage you to also pray

1039
01:08:34.060 --> 01:08:38.560
that if that persistence in you that is a good quality,

1040
01:08:38.560 --> 01:08:41.140
because it's that fighter in you that keeps going,

1041
01:08:41.140 --> 01:08:42.899
no matter what you've been through,

1042
01:08:43.859 --> 01:08:46.859
if that's gotten overextended at all,

1043
01:08:46.859 --> 01:08:50.859
that God would bring that back into balance,

1044
01:08:50.859 --> 01:08:52.220
and really help you in the days ahead.

1045
01:08:52.220 --> 01:08:53.560
And yeah, I love that.

1046
01:08:53.560 --> 01:08:58.260
Let us all, when I say this, I'm like,

1047
01:08:58.260 --> 01:08:59.220
ooh, do I wanna say it?

1048
01:08:59.220 --> 01:09:01.720
Because it means I'm declaring it over myself too.

1049
01:09:02.979 --> 01:09:05.660
Let us all surrender our calendars.

1050
01:09:06.819 --> 01:09:08.140
What's that look like?

1051
01:09:10.300 --> 01:09:12.260
Even sometimes, ladies, I've been,

1052
01:09:12.660 --> 01:09:14.060
this is one of the ways I've even,

1053
01:09:14.060 --> 01:09:16.779
it might not sound like surrender, but it really is.

1054
01:09:16.779 --> 01:09:18.859
I've been putting blocks of time

1055
01:09:18.859 --> 01:09:21.740
for rest and recovery on my calendar.

1056
01:09:21.740 --> 01:09:24.540
I've literally been scheduling it in there,

1057
01:09:24.540 --> 01:09:28.700
because I'm working with Last Year Single,

1058
01:09:28.700 --> 01:09:31.340
I'm helping run a church with my husband,

1059
01:09:31.340 --> 01:09:32.620
I'm trying to write a book,

1060
01:09:32.620 --> 01:09:35.340
I have all these things that we're trying to do right now,

1061
01:09:35.340 --> 01:09:37.300
and it's all great stuff,

1062
01:09:38.300 --> 01:09:43.300
but I gotta make sure that I have enough of me left, right?

1063
01:09:43.740 --> 01:09:44.859
I wanna rest.

1064
01:09:45.859 --> 01:09:49.500
And so some of you might need to surrender

1065
01:09:49.500 --> 01:09:51.100
some things on your calendar

1066
01:09:51.100 --> 01:09:53.899
that are taking up the calendar right now,

1067
01:09:53.899 --> 01:09:55.140
and say no to some people.

1068
01:09:55.140 --> 01:09:56.980
Do you know how many people want,

1069
01:09:56.980 --> 01:09:58.180
and I don't mean this privately,

1070
01:09:58.180 --> 01:10:00.080
so many people want my time, but like,

1071
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:06.000
Like genuinely, I have to like, even when it's urgent for them, sometimes I have to say,

1072
01:10:06.000 --> 01:10:09.000
Hey, I love you, but I can't do this right now.

1073
01:10:09.000 --> 01:10:16.000
You know, and I'm learning how to do that at the church, even like a lot of expectations on a pastor's wife.

1074
01:10:16.000 --> 01:10:22.000
But praise the Lord, I'm learning how to lovingly be like, that's a great idea.

1075
01:10:22.000 --> 01:10:24.000
I don't think I'm going to do that right now.

1076
01:10:25.000 --> 01:10:31.000
You know, so again, I don't know who I'm giving these things to, but this isn't just about pastor's wives.

1077
01:10:31.000 --> 01:10:35.000
This is about having boundaries, right?

1078
01:10:35.000 --> 01:10:40.000
So as we have boundaries and we heal, we can come into this balance.

1079
01:10:40.000 --> 01:10:43.000
We come out of the overextension and whatever those gifts are.

1080
01:10:43.000 --> 01:10:48.000
We create space on our calendars for us to connect with God.

1081
01:10:48.000 --> 01:10:53.000
I've been doing these little diamond paintings and I just feel so peaceful when I'm doing them.

1082
01:10:53.000 --> 01:10:57.000
I don't have to think, I don't have to have an answer for anybody.

1083
01:10:57.000 --> 01:11:00.000
I just think I take the little thing and I put it on there.

1084
01:11:00.000 --> 01:11:02.000
I don't know if y'all have ever seen those.

1085
01:11:02.000 --> 01:11:03.000
It's very tedious.

1086
01:11:03.000 --> 01:11:12.000
And at first I was like, I don't know if I'm going to like this, but there's something about this calmness that I'm feeling in myself that I'm really liking.

1087
01:11:12.000 --> 01:11:15.000
And so find some things like that for yourself.

1088
01:11:15.000 --> 01:11:18.000
I know like, how does that connect to strong will?

1089
01:11:19.000 --> 01:11:23.000
If you know me, I love to take time.

1090
01:11:23.000 --> 01:11:24.000
I'm a puzzle girl.

1091
01:11:24.000 --> 01:11:36.000
Y'all, I love to do things to just kind of shift down, but to do things where I'm not constantly having my brain going or working and doing things is a whole other story.

1092
01:11:36.000 --> 01:11:41.000
So this diamond painting stuff, I'm not having to think.

1093
01:11:41.000 --> 01:11:46.000
I'm not having to overwork my mental or emotional state.

1094
01:11:46.000 --> 01:11:48.000
Does that make sense?

1095
01:11:48.000 --> 01:11:52.000
And even in that, I am surrendering.

1096
01:11:52.000 --> 01:12:02.000
So for some of you boss babes, you've just worked forever or your parents, you know, maybe you just, some of you don't feel good enough ever.

1097
01:12:02.000 --> 01:12:12.000
Those are the kind, maybe for you, it's not going to be diamond painting, but yeah, I see someone saying coloring books, you know, find the stuff that's going to bring, bring your stress level down.

1098
01:12:12.000 --> 01:12:13.000
All right.

1099
01:12:13.000 --> 01:12:14.000
Okay.

1100
01:12:14.000 --> 01:12:17.000
Chrissy.

1101
01:12:17.000 --> 01:12:21.000
Oh, before, before that, I didn't quickly mention one thing.

1102
01:12:21.000 --> 01:12:25.000
Yesterday I spoke to a sister from Virginia.

1103
01:12:26.000 --> 01:12:32.000
And she said she has, she has a mentioned big house.

1104
01:12:32.000 --> 01:12:45.000
He said you can just, just no longer move out the current space where I live and move to her place, Virginia.

1105
01:12:45.000 --> 01:12:54.000
And so, but, and she has a, she partnered with somebody have a restaurant.

1106
01:12:54.000 --> 01:12:57.000
And she said, maybe you can walk a restaurant to help me.

1107
01:12:57.000 --> 01:13:04.000
But then I have, it's kind of tempting for me to try.

1108
01:13:04.000 --> 01:13:12.000
But I mean, then I know in the church, I was, I was worship kind of leader, you know, kind.

1109
01:13:12.000 --> 01:13:18.000
So I'm people, several people told me, he said, I said, I must be able to worship.

1110
01:13:18.000 --> 01:13:24.000
So I know that at one time, several years ago, I left that church and something happened to that church, you know.

1111
01:13:24.000 --> 01:13:25.000
Okay.

1112
01:13:25.000 --> 01:13:26.000
But remember, that's God's church.

1113
01:13:26.000 --> 01:13:27.000
Okay.

1114
01:13:27.000 --> 01:13:30.000
God is in charge of the atmosphere there, sweetie.

1115
01:13:30.000 --> 01:13:31.000
Okay.

1116
01:13:31.000 --> 01:13:33.000
So you don't have to take responsibility for that.

1117
01:13:33.000 --> 01:13:38.000
If God is calling you and leading you to a place of provision, which is what you've been praying for.

1118
01:13:38.000 --> 01:13:44.000
I want to encourage you, you know, read your word, really, you know, step into the answer.

1119
01:13:44.000 --> 01:13:51.000
If that's the provision and the answer that you've been praying for, you don't need to keep looking back at this other thing again.

1120
01:13:51.000 --> 01:14:03.000
If something happens just because we're not in a place, well, then that church, I'm going to say this lovingly, hasn't raised up enough other people to do the ministry of Christ in that place.

1121
01:14:03.000 --> 01:14:04.000
Okay.

1122
01:14:04.000 --> 01:14:08.000
So that can get into a whole savior complex if we're not careful.

1123
01:14:08.000 --> 01:14:11.000
It's really important to not get caught up in that kind of stuff.

1124
01:14:12.000 --> 01:14:14.000
So Joy, thank you so much for sharing.

1125
01:14:14.000 --> 01:14:16.000
We can chat more about that.

1126
01:14:16.000 --> 01:14:19.000
If you post in the group, we can chat more about that there.

1127
01:14:19.000 --> 01:14:20.000
Okay.

1128
01:14:20.000 --> 01:14:21.000
All right.

1129
01:14:21.000 --> 01:14:22.000
Awesome.

1130
01:14:22.000 --> 01:14:23.000
Thank you.

1131
01:14:23.000 --> 01:14:27.000
Chrissy, go ahead.

1132
01:14:27.000 --> 01:14:30.000
Okay.

1133
01:14:30.000 --> 01:14:37.000
So I really, I mean, you called me, you said my name while you were talking about it.

1134
01:14:37.000 --> 01:14:40.000
But being hyper independent, I mean, that's for sure.

1135
01:14:40.000 --> 01:14:48.000
I have, and I shared this with Cindy, I have worked on that a lot over the years.

1136
01:14:48.000 --> 01:14:57.000
And like little things like that, accepting somebody's, you know, lunch offer or somebody to open the door or help me with my groceries or something.

1137
01:14:57.000 --> 01:15:00.000
But he's really.

1138
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:02.800
they've been kind of bringing that back up again.

1139
01:15:02.800 --> 01:15:04.720
And I just had a conversation with my mom,

1140
01:15:04.720 --> 01:15:06.600
I'm pretty sure it was yesterday,

1141
01:15:06.600 --> 01:15:08.680
might've been day four, I don't know,

1142
01:15:08.680 --> 01:15:10.120
days run by together,

1143
01:15:12.160 --> 01:15:16.000
specifically about that and like picking back up

1144
01:15:16.000 --> 01:15:18.700
that hyper responsibility,

1145
01:15:20.720 --> 01:15:22.880
but because it looks different

1146
01:15:22.880 --> 01:15:26.080
than it did the first time around,

1147
01:15:26.080 --> 01:15:27.920
I didn't pick up on that.

1148
01:15:28.760 --> 01:15:30.480
Yeah, and make sure you're just being

1149
01:15:30.480 --> 01:15:32.120
really gracious towards yourself,

1150
01:15:32.120 --> 01:15:32.940
not that you're not,

1151
01:15:32.940 --> 01:15:35.040
but just for you or anyone else,

1152
01:15:35.040 --> 01:15:38.800
when something trips us up again,

1153
01:15:38.800 --> 01:15:41.360
sometimes we can have a tendency to be like,

1154
01:15:41.360 --> 01:15:42.840
why didn't I catch that sooner?

1155
01:15:42.840 --> 01:15:45.400
Kind of be like hard on ourself a little bit.

1156
01:15:45.400 --> 01:15:47.480
And so what I wanna encourage you in

1157
01:15:47.480 --> 01:15:51.200
is that you're learning the different things

1158
01:15:51.200 --> 01:15:52.960
that the tactics of the enemy,

1159
01:15:52.960 --> 01:15:55.060
and not that you're gonna focus on him,

1160
01:15:55.060 --> 01:15:56.400
but it's gonna be really helpful

1161
01:15:56.400 --> 01:15:57.680
because before long,

1162
01:15:57.680 --> 01:16:00.280
he's not gonna be able to trip you up with it, okay?

1163
01:16:00.280 --> 01:16:03.640
So you're learning some important things along the way.

1164
01:16:03.640 --> 01:16:06.640
This week, I wanna encourage you

1165
01:16:06.640 --> 01:16:10.200
to do some things opposite, okay?

1166
01:16:10.200 --> 01:16:12.920
So if you were feeling, tell me again,

1167
01:16:12.920 --> 01:16:15.000
the last thing that where you were stepping back

1168
01:16:15.000 --> 01:16:15.960
into doing some things,

1169
01:16:15.960 --> 01:16:17.080
what were some things you were doing

1170
01:16:17.080 --> 01:16:19.320
to be hyper responsible?

1171
01:16:19.320 --> 01:16:22.040
What were things you were picking up for other people?

1172
01:16:22.040 --> 01:16:26.080
I was, I think mainly with this women's ministry

1173
01:16:26.760 --> 01:16:27.600
that I had stepped into,

1174
01:16:27.600 --> 01:16:28.800
like I stepped into at first

1175
01:16:28.800 --> 01:16:33.600
because I just kind of secluded myself

1176
01:16:33.600 --> 01:16:35.080
and I had to step out

1177
01:16:35.080 --> 01:16:37.040
and they were doing a Bible study on Daniel,

1178
01:16:37.040 --> 01:16:38.480
so it picked me up.

1179
01:16:38.480 --> 01:16:41.640
But then I started picking up everything

1180
01:16:41.640 --> 01:16:43.080
and I became a board member

1181
01:16:43.080 --> 01:16:44.320
and I have to go to meetings

1182
01:16:44.320 --> 01:16:45.560
and then I have to go to this meeting

1183
01:16:45.560 --> 01:16:47.280
and we're doing a 5K.

1184
01:16:47.280 --> 01:16:49.180
And every time I go in there,

1185
01:16:50.200 --> 01:16:53.460
somehow end up facing the leader

1186
01:16:53.500 --> 01:16:58.380
and she, I can feel her looking to me

1187
01:16:58.380 --> 01:17:00.460
to give her the next mark,

1188
01:17:00.460 --> 01:17:02.220
like to lead her in something.

1189
01:17:02.220 --> 01:17:05.820
And I will constantly sit in the room,

1190
01:17:05.820 --> 01:17:08.260
whatever we're doing with my head down

1191
01:17:08.260 --> 01:17:10.180
so she doesn't look at me.

1192
01:17:10.180 --> 01:17:11.740
So I don't catch eyes with her

1193
01:17:11.740 --> 01:17:14.020
because I don't want to do any of that.

1194
01:17:14.020 --> 01:17:17.320
Like I don't want to have that.

1195
01:17:17.320 --> 01:17:19.540
But then I started doing,

1196
01:17:19.540 --> 01:17:21.500
I was doing like three studies at once

1197
01:17:21.500 --> 01:17:22.900
and I was going to a different church

1198
01:17:23.100 --> 01:17:24.060
and then this other church

1199
01:17:24.060 --> 01:17:25.740
and I just, I was like,

1200
01:17:26.900 --> 01:17:27.980
God said I was hiding.

1201
01:17:27.980 --> 01:17:29.340
So I kind of like,

1202
01:17:29.340 --> 01:17:30.660
I was like, oh, okay, well, if I'm hiding,

1203
01:17:30.660 --> 01:17:33.500
I gotta go do this, this and this everywhere.

1204
01:17:33.500 --> 01:17:36.740
Well, okay, so let's talk this through a little bit more.

1205
01:17:36.740 --> 01:17:38.220
So God did lead you out of hiding,

1206
01:17:38.220 --> 01:17:39.980
but here's the tricky thing.

1207
01:17:41.420 --> 01:17:43.280
And I understand why, okay?

1208
01:17:45.540 --> 01:17:48.140
I can walk into a room and start talking

1209
01:17:48.140 --> 01:17:51.300
and even when we first moved here to Florida,

1210
01:17:51.300 --> 01:17:53.860
I said to them for months,

1211
01:17:53.860 --> 01:17:55.980
I have a full-time job,

1212
01:17:55.980 --> 01:17:58.180
I'm not gonna work for the church right now.

1213
01:17:58.180 --> 01:17:59.500
You know, I literally,

1214
01:17:59.500 --> 01:18:01.620
and I didn't for a while,

1215
01:18:01.620 --> 01:18:03.640
but before long they were kept kind of,

1216
01:18:03.640 --> 01:18:04.480
when are you gonna do?

1217
01:18:04.480 --> 01:18:06.700
When are you gonna do that?

1218
01:18:06.700 --> 01:18:08.540
Because I would talk about ideas and stuff

1219
01:18:08.540 --> 01:18:09.800
and they were just getting excited.

1220
01:18:09.800 --> 01:18:11.900
But I'm saying all that to say

1221
01:18:11.900 --> 01:18:14.420
is that it's up to us to set the boundaries,

1222
01:18:14.420 --> 01:18:17.460
no matter if these people come calling or not, if you will.

1223
01:18:17.460 --> 01:18:20.900
And so something that I really want you to work on

1224
01:18:21.540 --> 01:18:23.460
is don't avoid eye contact.

1225
01:18:23.460 --> 01:18:25.060
Even when it feels awkward

1226
01:18:25.060 --> 01:18:27.180
and you know she wants something from you

1227
01:18:27.180 --> 01:18:29.020
or the enemy does,

1228
01:18:29.020 --> 01:18:32.160
because remember this is how the enemy is working

1229
01:18:32.160 --> 01:18:33.860
to get you out of balance.

1230
01:18:33.860 --> 01:18:37.140
And so I want you to kind of stand firm

1231
01:18:37.140 --> 01:18:41.180
and feel that tension and don't run away from it, okay?

1232
01:18:41.180 --> 01:18:42.980
Because what needs to happen is

1233
01:18:42.980 --> 01:18:45.260
if that woman then asks you to do something

1234
01:18:45.260 --> 01:18:48.700
and you already know that you shouldn't,

1235
01:18:48.700 --> 01:18:51.620
then it's about practicing using your voice

1236
01:18:51.620 --> 01:18:53.780
to set a healthy boundary.

1237
01:18:53.780 --> 01:18:56.260
And I think that's gonna be really important factor for you.

1238
01:18:56.260 --> 01:18:57.780
Because even though you're a strong leader,

1239
01:18:57.780 --> 01:19:00.700
I'm just getting the sense that it's almost like,

1240
01:19:00.700 --> 01:19:03.020
well, if they ask me, then I have to do it.

1241
01:19:03.940 --> 01:19:06.420
Or if I see a need, then I have to,

1242
01:19:06.420 --> 01:19:08.980
somebody's got to fill that need, you know?

1243
01:19:08.980 --> 01:19:10.860
And we don't always have to do that.

1244
01:19:10.860 --> 01:19:12.580
And sometimes when we don't,

1245
01:19:12.580 --> 01:19:15.540
someone else will eventually rise up.

1246
01:19:16.540 --> 01:19:20.340
And so practice maintaining eye contact, even again,

1247
01:19:20.340 --> 01:19:22.740
even when if it feels awkward,

1248
01:19:22.740 --> 01:19:24.460
if she asks you to do something,

1249
01:19:24.460 --> 01:19:27.580
if you're already maxed out, get really good at,

1250
01:19:27.580 --> 01:19:30.240
thank you so much for asking,

1251
01:19:30.240 --> 01:19:33.380
but the Lord is not leading me to do that right now.

1252
01:19:33.380 --> 01:19:35.160
And here's the thing,

1253
01:19:35.160 --> 01:19:37.040
some of those people are gonna push back,

1254
01:19:37.040 --> 01:19:38.700
ladies, not just talking to Chrissy,

1255
01:19:38.700 --> 01:19:40.420
some of y'all might go through this too.

1256
01:19:40.420 --> 01:19:41.980
They might push back and be like,

1257
01:19:41.980 --> 01:19:45.460
well, I believe the Lord is telling me that you should.

1258
01:19:46.220 --> 01:19:48.540
No joke, I've been in that situation before.

1259
01:19:48.540 --> 01:19:51.940
I see some people laughing, so maybe you relate as well.

1260
01:19:51.940 --> 01:19:53.380
And I love it.

1261
01:19:53.380 --> 01:19:55.060
And this was my mentor years ago,

1262
01:19:55.060 --> 01:19:57.020
literally, and I still to this day,

1263
01:19:57.020 --> 01:19:59.500
like genuinely, she changed my life.

1264
01:19:59.500 --> 01:20:00.340
I'm so.

1265
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:06.600
grateful for her. Her name is Carol. But in this situation, it wasn't her finest moment.

1266
01:20:06.600 --> 01:20:11.680
And when she said that to me, and I said, well, that's great and all, but God isn't

1267
01:20:11.680 --> 01:20:17.720
telling me that. And I stood up for myself. I wouldn't have done that in the past. But

1268
01:20:17.720 --> 01:20:24.720
God wasn't telling me that. Yes, being voluntold, that is exactly right. And y'all, I was, I

1269
01:20:24.720 --> 01:20:29.520
was not someone, I helped in all, I mean, I helped to redo bathrooms at that church.

1270
01:20:29.520 --> 01:20:34.080
I had already been helping in the nursery, and I did not feel called to that. And I love

1271
01:20:34.080 --> 01:20:41.480
kids, you all. I love kids. But I felt like I was out of place in that season of my life

1272
01:20:41.480 --> 01:20:46.080
being in the Sunday school room every Sunday night, or the nursery, excuse me, every Sunday

1273
01:20:46.080 --> 01:20:54.080
night. But I had to, the point of that was I had to learn how to stand up for myself.

1274
01:20:54.080 --> 01:21:00.520
It was a game changer. Okay. Because I needed to be in a different place. God actually had

1275
01:21:00.520 --> 01:21:07.240
something else he wanted me to do. And it was okay that she didn't see that. I saw it.

1276
01:21:07.240 --> 01:21:12.840
And I knew where God was leading me. So Chrissy, practice that. All right. And let us know

1277
01:21:12.840 --> 01:21:16.640
how that goes. Because again, sometimes it's going to feel awkward and it's okay to come

1278
01:21:16.640 --> 01:21:20.040
and tell us like, Hey, I tried to practice this. And, and then she started saying all

1279
01:21:20.040 --> 01:21:24.440
this stuff. And then I still felt cornered. And I felt like I had to say, yes, it like

1280
01:21:24.440 --> 01:21:27.920
come and tell on yourself if that happens, because that's how we're going to be able

1281
01:21:27.920 --> 01:21:33.080
to coach you through it of like, okay, this is some verbiage or, or whatever that you

1282
01:21:33.080 --> 01:21:39.080
might be able to do in the meantime. But also let's ask God to reveal when is the first

1283
01:21:39.080 --> 01:21:47.200
time you were supposed to say no to someone and you didn't, you know, where we get to

1284
01:21:47.200 --> 01:21:52.600
the root of where those boundaries kind of got blown past and get some healing in those

1285
01:21:52.600 --> 01:22:00.840
areas. Does that make sense? Yeah. Now we had a meeting just yesterday and I, my dad

1286
01:22:00.840 --> 01:22:06.080
asked me when I got home, he's like, did you stand, did you stand up for yourself? I said,

1287
01:22:06.080 --> 01:22:13.960
I said yes. I think I did well, I did catch myself a couple of times, like really staring

1288
01:22:13.960 --> 01:22:22.440
into my, so do you feel afraid to let people down, Chrissy? Uh, yeah. Okay. So that's people

1289
01:22:22.440 --> 01:22:27.680
pleasing at work at, at its finest. Okay. People pleasing comes out of all different

1290
01:22:27.680 --> 01:22:34.960
kinds of things, but it, a lot of times really thrives in a root of rejection. And so if,

1291
01:22:34.960 --> 01:22:41.000
if even though it, a lot of times it's subconscious ladies in us, we can fear that someone will

1292
01:22:41.080 --> 01:22:46.760
reject us if we say no to them. And so we will back away from having boundaries and

1293
01:22:46.760 --> 01:22:54.840
things. And so, um, way to go on practicing, keep doing it and keep us posted on how that

1294
01:22:54.840 --> 01:22:58.680
goes. And let's see if, you know, what might be tied to maybe a roots of rejection and

1295
01:22:58.680 --> 01:23:03.400
that other stuff I mentioned to you. Okay. That, um, we're quick question. The activation

1296
01:23:03.400 --> 01:23:09.800
earlier before this breakout room, can we post that in the chat as well? Um, on the

1297
01:23:10.440 --> 01:23:15.080
Oh yeah. You guys can post anything that, that I activate you guys in anything that

1298
01:23:15.080 --> 01:23:19.320
you put in this chat, you can absolutely put that in the group and we can coach you more

1299
01:23:19.320 --> 01:23:25.400
on that as well. Okay. Thank you. Yeah. You're welcome. Great question. Megan, go ahead.

1300
01:23:26.520 --> 01:23:33.880
Hi. Hi. Um, for me, one of the things that I was really thinking about was with surrender was,

1301
01:23:33.960 --> 01:23:40.920
um, I think fear with trusting God, I've been very much noticing I've been in kind of like a

1302
01:23:40.920 --> 01:23:49.720
state of paralysis when it comes to, um, trying to move forward. Like whenever I try to apply

1303
01:23:49.720 --> 01:23:55.240
for jobs or look at things and like even trying to figure out where I'm supposed to be going,

1304
01:23:55.240 --> 01:24:02.120
like I feel a release to move forward. And it was like kind of a word for the year was

1305
01:24:02.120 --> 01:24:07.320
to keep moving forward. But it's like every time I tried to do something about it,

1306
01:24:07.320 --> 01:24:15.640
I keep getting feeling really stuck. And, um, it's like this trust part has been really hard.

1307
01:24:15.640 --> 01:24:22.360
Like I just, I see God do it for other people that I really don't see for myself. And so

1308
01:24:23.720 --> 01:24:29.000
it's like, I'm really genuinely happy for other people. And I do know God does move and he has

1309
01:24:29.000 --> 01:24:35.400
good things, but like my heart really can't accept that. Well, part of it too, I'm trying

1310
01:24:35.400 --> 01:24:40.760
to find right now. I was trying to remember what you said about the disappointment here.

1311
01:24:41.400 --> 01:24:44.440
Mine was the ballet class. Yeah. Yeah. I found you finally. Okay. So

1312
01:24:46.440 --> 01:24:52.840
I, for some reason, I feel like those might be linked up somewhere, you know, there's,

1313
01:24:52.840 --> 01:24:59.800
there's this deep, um, like when you share, I can sense this level of,

1314
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:07.000
Almost disappointment in yourself. I don't know. Does that resonate for you?

1315
01:25:07.000 --> 01:25:08.000
Yeah.

1316
01:25:08.000 --> 01:25:14.000
Yeah. And so that kind of makes me think of analysis paralysis too.

1317
01:25:14.000 --> 01:25:18.000
Sometimes we're analyzing things so much that we don't do anything.

1318
01:25:18.000 --> 01:25:20.000
Sometimes it's religion.

1319
01:25:20.000 --> 01:25:25.000
You know, we've learned so much religion that we're afraid to get out of the boat at all,

1320
01:25:25.000 --> 01:25:29.000
because if we mess up, then that's it, right?

1321
01:25:29.000 --> 01:25:31.000
We think we have failed.

1322
01:25:31.000 --> 01:25:36.000
But I'm going to give to you what someone said to me years ago.

1323
01:25:36.000 --> 01:25:40.000
And, you know, we'll have to study the word out together to see if it's biblically sound.

1324
01:25:40.000 --> 01:25:43.000
But it really set me free years ago. So I hope it blesses you.

1325
01:25:43.000 --> 01:25:48.000
But she said, you know, do you think God's not big enough to catch you if you get out of the boat?

1326
01:25:48.000 --> 01:25:54.000
Like basically saying, like, if you step out of the boat, even if it's a mistake,

1327
01:25:54.000 --> 01:25:58.000
do you think God's not big enough to, like, catch you and recorrect that?

1328
01:25:58.000 --> 01:26:03.000
You know, and so I do think that that shows up with you, Megan.

1329
01:26:03.000 --> 01:26:05.000
I think that you're really afraid to make a mistake.

1330
01:26:05.000 --> 01:26:10.000
And so that's where you start to fall into that paralysis and overwhelm.

1331
01:26:10.000 --> 01:26:15.000
And then what happens is then you cycle into the little girl aspects of the disappointment,

1332
01:26:15.000 --> 01:26:19.000
you know, that we see showing up in what came up in your spirit tonight.

1333
01:26:19.000 --> 01:26:25.000
And so, you know, I'm looking forward to the day when you feel really proud of yourself.

1334
01:26:25.000 --> 01:26:28.000
And I think that that day can be now.

1335
01:26:28.000 --> 01:26:37.000
But it's the inner dialogue of shaming yourself and the things that are going through your mind.

1336
01:26:37.000 --> 01:26:43.000
Really getting a hold of your thoughts is going to be really critical for you.

1337
01:26:43.000 --> 01:26:47.000
And even that, I want you to know, ladies, this is really important.

1338
01:26:47.000 --> 01:26:50.000
Not every thought is our own.

1339
01:26:51.000 --> 01:26:56.000
You know, sometimes we go through seasons, too, where the enemy is just assaulting our mind

1340
01:26:56.000 --> 01:27:01.000
and assaulting our mind and assault because he's trying to wear us down.

1341
01:27:01.000 --> 01:27:06.000
And so if that's happening to you, I want to encourage you, like, get prayer.

1342
01:27:06.000 --> 01:27:11.000
Get around some people, you know, that can pray over you, anoint you,

1343
01:27:11.000 --> 01:27:18.000
and, like, help you continue to, like, have some accountability and love in the process.

1344
01:27:19.000 --> 01:27:24.000
And so the step forward for you, like, literally to partner is...

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I really think that I would encourage you to actually, like, you're looking for a place to...

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01:27:33.000 --> 01:27:37.000
a new job and a place to live or just a new job?

1347
01:27:37.000 --> 01:27:38.000
Both.

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Both, right. I didn't know if I heard you correctly.

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All right. So, I mean, I want you...

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What does it look like for you to dream about the job that you want?

1351
01:27:48.000 --> 01:27:52.000
What does it look like for you to dream a little bit about the place that you want to end up living?

1352
01:27:52.000 --> 01:27:57.000
You know, part of it, sometimes, ladies, is that we don't even allow a dream to form.

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And then we're afraid it won't even actually happen.

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And so then we don't even let ourselves dream.

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01:28:03.000 --> 01:28:06.000
So if we can't even dream about it...

1356
01:28:06.000 --> 01:28:08.000
Yeah, it's like this whole big cycle thing.

1357
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If we can't dream about it, then oftentimes we can't stop to do it.

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And faith without works is dead. It takes both, right?

1359
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We have to have faith. That's where the dream...

1360
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Like, what do we believe? You know, what are we praying for?

1361
01:28:22.000 --> 01:28:24.000
What are we excited about? What would we love to have?

1362
01:28:24.000 --> 01:28:27.000
Those things might not always come, right?

1363
01:28:27.000 --> 01:28:33.000
But the dream board I made for my wedding, I ended up getting a dress almost exactly like...

1364
01:28:33.000 --> 01:28:38.000
And I didn't even remember that, like, it didn't even dawn on me that I picked a dress

1365
01:28:38.000 --> 01:28:43.000
that looked like all these pictures I had put in my dream board for my wedding

1366
01:28:43.000 --> 01:28:48.000
until, like, months after when I was going back through that board, just kind of reminiscing.

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And so praying over your life, you know, really taking hold of your mind.

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You know, when you have the permission slip that you would, you know, pray

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01:29:00.000 --> 01:29:05.000
and just, God, I just surrender my mind to you today.

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You know, will you guard my mind and my heart through Christ Jesus?

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I plead the blood of Jesus Christ over my mind that you would help me to walk in boldness and courage

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to remember that I'm not a disappointment and that you're with me everywhere I go.

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The Bible says that he's a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path.

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And so he is showing us ways to go, but so often we're like, I can't.

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And if that shows up in us, ladies, I'm not saying fear is legit, okay?

1376
01:29:35.000 --> 01:29:41.000
We're all going to feel afraid of things at some point or scared to do something.

1377
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But fear, deep fear and panic, that is a whole other ballgame.

1378
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That's probably connected to a spirit of fear that got a root in there at some point.

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And if that's the case, then we need to ask God, when did that take root?

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Because it's time for us to overcome that stuff.

1381
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:05.760
about praying for your lost loved ones. I was talking about the different aspects of how

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01:30:05.760 --> 01:30:10.640
strongholds are formed and principalities and things like that impact people from believing

1383
01:30:11.680 --> 01:30:17.760
is very helpful. Just kind of understand the process and the breakdown of how the enemy uses

1384
01:30:17.760 --> 01:30:21.840
those things. And again, it doesn't focus too much on the enemy, but it's just kind of helping

1385
01:30:22.960 --> 01:30:29.520
me understand, oh yeah, there's layers to this. So we got to pray through layers for people,

1386
01:30:29.520 --> 01:30:35.360
you know, so same thing here. Yeah, you've got this. You can do this.

1387
01:30:36.960 --> 01:30:40.880
Appreciate it. You're welcome. Yeah. Thank you for sharing. Audrey, go ahead.

1388
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And then right after Audrey, we're going to be done for tonight. Just so everyone knows,

1389
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Audrey, you don't have to rush through, but I just want kind of to set the expectation.

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It is 9 31. So if anyone needs to log off, it's been so great to be with you tonight and we

1391
01:30:55.920 --> 01:31:02.800
bless you and we'll see you soon. Audrey, go ahead. Okay. Thank you. This one was quite hard

1392
01:31:02.800 --> 01:31:07.200
for me. I couldn't even write it on the chat, but the thing that came in my heart as part of first

1393
01:31:07.200 --> 01:31:12.560
disappointment I ever experienced was being molested by a trusted friend when I was seven.

1394
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And before then I was really carefree. I loved the people around me. I thought everybody loved

1395
01:31:17.760 --> 01:31:22.480
me. But when that happened, I could no longer trust people, especially those from the men

1396
01:31:22.480 --> 01:31:27.760
category. Like I was even afraid of my own brothers. At least for me, I had nothing to do

1397
01:31:27.760 --> 01:31:34.640
with it. So I just became very guarded. And I felt like I lost it just over my body. My body was not

1398
01:31:34.640 --> 01:31:42.320
mine. So growing up, I was really guarded. I just wanted to hide or disappear. Eventually I ended up

1399
01:31:42.320 --> 01:31:46.640
becoming friends with somebody and I considered him to be my best friend. And I got married to

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01:31:46.640 --> 01:31:51.520
him because he was the only person I could trust after like 20 plus years. And we got married at

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01:31:51.520 --> 01:31:57.280
the end of being the worst decision ever. It ended up being worse than whatever happened the

1402
01:31:57.280 --> 01:32:01.920
first time. So God had to come up with a rescue mission to get me out of that marriage last year

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01:32:01.920 --> 01:32:11.280
too. So I feel like the men I've trusted so far have broken that trust. And I think God wants to

1404
01:32:11.280 --> 01:32:18.640
hit that part. Yeah, I can relate to what you're saying. And I don't know, Audrey, if you know this

1405
01:32:18.720 --> 01:32:23.360
part of my story, but I was sexually abused by both of my brothers and my sister, actually.

1406
01:32:24.720 --> 01:32:33.280
And so I really resonate on so many levels with what you're sharing. And I do want you to know

1407
01:32:33.280 --> 01:32:39.520
that you can find somebody good and you can attract good people. Part of that is us healing

1408
01:32:39.520 --> 01:32:44.560
on the inside so that, you know, the thieves aren't attracted to us. You know, when we're big

1409
01:32:44.560 --> 01:32:49.360
givers, takers come our way, and we don't have to be afraid of that, ladies, but we have to

1410
01:32:49.360 --> 01:32:57.200
understand it, right? And not fall prey to that. And so what I would recommend for tonight, when

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01:32:57.200 --> 01:33:05.680
you were talking about before that, I was very carefree. Before that, you know, or after that,

1412
01:33:05.680 --> 01:33:12.000
excuse me, you became very guarded. And so, you know, what comes to mind is innocence being

1413
01:33:12.000 --> 01:33:19.280
restored to you. And I believe God wants to really help that. And I think that he wants to

1414
01:33:19.280 --> 01:33:26.640
go, you know, I try to be very careful in the way of leading people in this, but, you know, Jesus

1415
01:33:26.640 --> 01:33:35.200
wants to meet you right where you were at as a little girl when you were seven. And he wants to

1416
01:33:35.200 --> 01:33:43.040
heal the core of that part of your life. And not only heal you, but, you know, what the Lord

1417
01:33:43.040 --> 01:33:48.880
showed me years ago is there's this convergence that he wants to have happen. There's the little

1418
01:33:48.880 --> 01:33:53.120
version of us that was broken and destroyed by these different dynamics and situations. And

1419
01:33:53.120 --> 01:33:59.520
there's this grown up version of us, and he wants those to come back together. But so we can be whole

1420
01:33:59.520 --> 01:34:05.120
that's part of being completely whole, lacking, no good thing, ladies is for this convergence.

1421
01:34:07.360 --> 01:34:13.360
For our identity to be restored. You said I was before that I was carefree. I was bubbly.

1422
01:34:14.000 --> 01:34:18.080
I think that you are still those things, but they're hidden under the rubble right now.

1423
01:34:18.720 --> 01:34:26.240
And God wants to heal you. And, and I don't know what cartoon this was. I'm sorry. I'm laughing.

1424
01:34:26.240 --> 01:34:31.520
I just saw this visual. Sometimes God is so funny. You all being so serious right now. And

1425
01:34:32.160 --> 01:34:36.240
there's this cartoon back in the day. Some of y'all might have to help me.

1426
01:34:37.920 --> 01:34:43.280
Was he called Mighty Dog? Where there would be this rubble and he was that white dog and he would,

1427
01:34:43.280 --> 01:34:47.760
he was like a super dog and he would come up under. Am I imagining something or making something up?

1428
01:34:47.760 --> 01:34:56.640
I feel like I saw this when I was little. And that is what I saw. Underdog. Yes. Yes.

1429
01:34:56.640 --> 01:34:59.920
Somebody knows what I've seen.

1430
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:09.480
Audrey, I just saw that image for you, that literally Jesus has already, He's like, if you will, bear with me,

1431
01:35:09.480 --> 01:35:17.800
underdog in this situation, like all the rubble, all the mess from this dynamic when you were seven,

1432
01:35:17.800 --> 01:35:28.000
that feels like it's still over you, and even regarding this marriage, like literally, almost as if you are under there, okay?

1433
01:35:28.000 --> 01:35:36.000
I want it kind of like you and anyone else this is resonating with, like under the rubble, imagine Jesus, He's holding you,

1434
01:35:36.000 --> 01:35:42.000
and then all of a sudden, whether it's superman or underdog, you can pick which one you want, but like,

1435
01:35:42.000 --> 01:35:49.000
that Jesus is literally going to take you through all the rubble, and He's just going to carry you right out of there,

1436
01:35:49.000 --> 01:35:54.000
and everything that's been holding you back, and ladies, I know sometimes it can be like, well, I have forgiven,

1437
01:35:54.000 --> 01:36:02.000
I've processed that situation before, and I still feel stuck by this, but here's the thing, when we enter a new revelation or a new,

1438
01:36:02.000 --> 01:36:10.000
like we're here, you are not the same today as you were yesterday, and tomorrow, hopefully because you're healing more and more and more,

1439
01:36:10.000 --> 01:36:19.000
you're going to be different tomorrow than you are today, and so every single day, we literally can receive fresh revelation,

1440
01:36:19.000 --> 01:36:27.000
layers of healing, layers of forgiveness, forgiveness is not a one-time thing, for some situations, yeah, it's not that big of a deal,

1441
01:36:27.000 --> 01:36:34.000
I forgive that person, and I can walk on, but the ones where there's been a stronghold, well, think about that,

1442
01:36:34.000 --> 01:36:42.000
I was literally just talking about strongholds and how they have layers, so if a stronghold has layers,

1443
01:36:43.000 --> 01:36:49.000
why would we believe the lie of the enemy, that there's something wrong with us, or we messed up somehow,

1444
01:36:49.000 --> 01:36:58.000
that when we chose to forgive, and we're facing that situation again, that we did something wrong, we didn't get it right,

1445
01:36:58.000 --> 01:37:07.000
but that's not true, it's just that forgiveness happens in layers too, as we have, even though it's the same situation,

1446
01:37:07.000 --> 01:37:13.000
this is what I try to tell people, I want to encourage you, if you can imagine someone popping the hood of a car,

1447
01:37:13.000 --> 01:37:18.000
but they don't open the car hood all the way, but they just kind of peek up under the hood a little bit,

1448
01:37:18.000 --> 01:37:22.000
it's like when that situation comes back up, that you would just ask the Lord,

1449
01:37:22.000 --> 01:37:28.000
Lord, I know that I've forgiven them of this, I've processed this with you before, but you're bringing it up,

1450
01:37:29.000 --> 01:37:36.000
once I've come into the heart work again, is there new information that you want me to know?

1451
01:37:38.000 --> 01:37:44.000
And I believe part of that information and revelation, I really think it's centered around your innocence being restored,

1452
01:37:44.000 --> 01:37:52.000
I really do, and you might have heard that word before, but I feel like even in the understanding of how God wants to do that in your life,

1453
01:37:52.000 --> 01:37:58.000
I think that's the revelation that's going to be new for you, I think it's going to be different than how you thought,

1454
01:37:58.000 --> 01:38:07.000
but in a good way, you don't have to be afraid of it, and so as you have this situation, like I said, go ahead and pray through that,

1455
01:38:07.000 --> 01:38:14.000
ask the Lord, regarding the marriage, that might have re-triggered that old stuff somehow,

1456
01:38:15.000 --> 01:38:22.000
you might need to forgive yourself for some things, just process that out, and like I told the other ladies,

1457
01:38:22.000 --> 01:38:26.000
if you have more questions, you can come into the group, and we'll give you some feedback,

1458
01:38:26.000 --> 01:38:33.000
I know that some of you responded to me the other day, because I was preaching on Sunday, I was really slammed on Saturday,

1459
01:38:33.000 --> 01:38:41.000
so tomorrow I'll be in responding, and I was worn out yesterday, you all, I did good, but I was worn out last night,

1460
01:38:41.000 --> 01:38:47.000
so Lisa, I know I owe you a couple of responses, I think there's a couple of other people,

1461
01:38:47.000 --> 01:38:54.000
so I will be back in there tomorrow, and responding to those responses, but Audrey, that was a great share,

1462
01:38:54.000 --> 01:38:58.000
thank you for having courage and trusting us with that part of your story,

1463
01:38:58.000 --> 01:39:07.000
praying for you to receive all that God has for you in this new innocence chapter.

1464
01:39:07.000 --> 01:39:09.000
Amen, thank you.

1465
01:39:09.000 --> 01:39:10.000
You're welcome.

1466
01:39:10.000 --> 01:39:16.000
God is so great at rewriting stories, ladies, He really, really is.

1467
01:39:16.000 --> 01:39:20.000
Alright, so remember, the disappointment areas, let's spend some time on those this week,

1468
01:39:20.000 --> 01:39:23.000
and see what God wants to heal in those too, alright?

1469
01:39:23.000 --> 01:39:24.000
Let me pray for us.

1470
01:39:24.000 --> 01:39:26.000
Father, thank you so much for this night.

1471
01:39:26.000 --> 01:39:32.000
God, I thank you that you have brought us here for such a time as this.

1472
01:39:32.000 --> 01:39:38.000
Lord, if there's any rocks that need unturned, so to speak, God, I pray that you would be the one to turn them over.

1473
01:39:38.000 --> 01:39:46.000
We're asking for divine revealings for healing to happen, and suddenlies to happen,

1474
01:39:46.000 --> 01:39:49.000
breakthroughs after breakthroughs after breakthroughs.

1475
01:39:49.000 --> 01:39:56.000
God, we thank you for your supernatural spirit and your presence here.

1476
01:39:56.000 --> 01:39:58.000
We know that we can't do anything apart from you.

1477
01:39:58.000 --> 01:40:00.000
God, we ask you to help us.

1478
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:03.280
Give us courage to trust you in this process.

1479
01:40:03.280 --> 01:40:07.040
Guard and protect and keep watch over us and our families tonight and in the days to come.

1480
01:40:07.840 --> 01:40:10.000
In Jesus name, amen.

1481
01:40:10.000 --> 01:40:11.360
God bless you all.

1482
01:40:11.360 --> 01:40:14.320
We'll be seeing you in the group and I'll talk to y'all soon.

1483
01:40:15.600 --> 01:40:16.480
Bye-bye, everyone.

1484
01:40:17.360 --> 01:40:17.860
Bye.

1485
01:40:18.160 --> 01:40:19.360
It was wonderful.

1486
01:40:19.360 --> 01:40:19.920
Good night, everyone.