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- Welcome, everybody.

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Welcome to Mindset Monday, Hi, Amy.

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Hi, Linda.

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Come on in.

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We're just gonna enter into a peaceful state right now.

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Welcome, everybody.

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Hi, Linda, hey Lauren, hey, Jana, hey, Erin,

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hey, Adrienne.

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Welcome, everybody.

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Come on in.

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Pop in the chat.

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How are you feeling today?

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How are you feeling on this Monday, March 16th, 2026?

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How is everybody feeling today?

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How is everybody feeling today?

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Hey, Sherry.

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(soft music)

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All right, we're just gonna listen to this

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for a couple more seconds.

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And I want you guys to just pop in the chat.

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How are you feeling today?

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What feelings are you coming into Mindset Monday to day with?

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Remember our feelings are not right or wrong.

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They just are, and they usually are trying

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to tell us something, they're connected to a thought.

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So there's no judgment of feelings.

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Just be present for a moment.

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How is everyone feeling today, right now?

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All right, we've got unsettled.

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We have expected.

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We have calm, unfocused, excited,

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content, surprise, awesome.

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Any other feelings in the room today?

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Nice, Amy.

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I love that.

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Yes, the feeling wills the best.

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Helpful, overwhelmed and excited.

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All right, we have a lot of feelings in the room.

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That's great.

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I am feeling excited as well,

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and I'm feeling a little nervous,

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and I'm feeling peaceful.

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How I'm feeling this morning.

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And playing that song that I just did,

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wasn't that peaceful?

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Just even listening to that song that I played,

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it's actually a specific song

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that you can put onto help your nervous system

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enter into a place of peace.

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Even just listening to specific sound waves

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for like two or three minutes

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can really help your, like I said,

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your nervous system kind of enter into a place of peace.

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So today, 'cause we had talked,

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we have talked about this for a couple of weeks,

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but I definitely want to talk about the nervous system today.

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And I want to dig a little bit,

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just a little bit into the science.

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And then I want to leave you all

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with something very specific to take away,

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because building a business

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will upset your nervous system.

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Anybody ever felt that before?

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Anybody like, I am in fighter flight mode right now,

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and I have no idea how to get out of it.

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Anybody like nervous system,

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do you ever feel just not at peace or not at rest,

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which Margot, it seems like you've been looking

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into your nervous system lately, which is really great.

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So you might have some things to add to our,

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to this topic today, but the reality is,

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is that our nervous system is actually connected

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to every single part of our body.

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Our vagal nerve is what it's called.

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we're gonna take a small look at that,

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because it's really difficult to heal

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and to build and to grow

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when you are constantly in a state of fight or flight.

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It's actually near impossible.

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The reality is most people don't,

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they're not even connected to their nervous system.

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They don't even know,

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'cause it's, you can't actually see the nervous system,

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but how we know our nervous system is being affected

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is usually by stress or panic or can't rest.

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Your mind's like going at a million miles an hour.

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Do you have a hand out there?

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(laughing)

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He's like, yeah, I understand now.

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But, so get excited, get ready for this, okay?

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It's gonna be fun, it's gonna be easy.

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I'm gonna leave you with a couple of techniques.

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Again, all of you may have heard about

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the nervous system before,

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but as we know about our brains,

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it takes seven times to hear the same thing

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for it to really stick.

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So this is gonna really,

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some of you, some of this will be new information,

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some of you, this will be like a good takeaway

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for how to keep yourself at a peaceful state,

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because the reality of it is is,

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and I saw a stat the other day

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that the entrepreneur

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is one of the most stressful jobs out there.

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I don't look at it as a job,

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but at the same time to a degree it is, right?

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You're learning a lot of skills to the nervous system,

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goes into its own state when you're learning something new.

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And for some of you, you're still learning new things.

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And with AI and the way that even our business is going,

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we're teaching you how to leverage AI,

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how to build AI employees,

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how to leverage social media,

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that in and of itself is like 10 skilled,

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even just in social media, right?

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So the nervous system can really just get all kilter

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and off course pretty quickly actually.

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It doesn't really take much

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for our brains to go into a fight or flight.

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But before we get into that,

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I want to take a moment.

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It's Miracle March, okay?

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Anybody have any miracles in the last week they want to share?

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Remember, this is something you've been wanting

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to see fruit of and you finally saw fruit of this week

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or you've been praying about something.

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It finally happens.

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It's like, I can't even believe this happened.

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I got to share this.

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You know, like we're looking for miracles.

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We're training our particular activator system this month

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to be on the lookout for miracles or antennas, right?

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Like where are the miracles?

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Where are the things happening that are hard to explain

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or just something completely we're celebrating?

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So anybody have any miracles to share over the last week?

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Okay, Linda, start us off.

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Okay, I'll share.

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This has been happening over the course of the year,

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but over the last couple of weeks,

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we have seen an increase in our,

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we have our brick and mortar store as well as e-commerce.

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So we have seen an increase in our brick and mortar clients

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just finding us, the customer is just literally finding us.

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People have been referring us like nobody's business.

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Like we've been there for six years,

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I've never seen anything like this.

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So, yeah, people coming from not just people referring them

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from within the area that we're in,

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but outside of the area as well.

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People will come in and say,

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"I just looked on the internet and I found you."

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to increase, like PPC.

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We've done a few keywords and things,

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but it really, if you look us up, you'll find us

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'cause we have an unusual name,

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but it's not like people are saying that,

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they're either saying, "Oh, I just looked and I found you."

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Or, "I asked someone so how do I get this?"

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And they say, oh, that I call my husband the doctor.

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Oh, the doctor can fix it.

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And they'll just come up.

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And we've seen such an increase in that

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since the beginning of this month.

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And it's funny, 'cause last week I was like,

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well, what miracle can I share?

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- And I thought about it and I said,

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wow, that's truly a miracle.

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And we have been praying to God

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and we have been confessing the Word

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and thanking him for it and just so grateful.

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And he has come, he's been faithful to his Word

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and he's come through for us.

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It's like six years.

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You said, she said something really powerful.

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I want all of you to catch.

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It's been six years of toiling

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and putting yourself out there and being on the map

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and you've never seen anything like this in six years.

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And that is so powerful.

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And we need to remember this.

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We need to, everyone on here needs to be encouraged by this

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because I think about the bamboo tree,

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if you guys heard of the essence of the bamboo trees

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that it's planted.

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And I believe it takes root for almost six years.

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It might be five years.

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It's roots in the ground for years.

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And then when it sprouts up,

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it goes to its full potential in five weeks

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and then it's completely grown and it's done.

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So it's like years of underground work.

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And then boom, it just pops up.

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And it grows and then it's done.

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And we love bamboo.

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It's one of like, it's a great plant

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that we're like using in our world.

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So, but you wouldn't be able to harvest bamboo

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within years of after it's planted.

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And I think it's very, very similar to growing a business.

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And that was different for everyone.

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So we're celebrating you, Linda.

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This is exciting.

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Pop is the name of your business in the chat.

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We'd all love this.

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- Sure.

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- It's a unique name, I wanna know.

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- Well, it's my, I'll put it in the chat.

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- Pepper, whatever one you wanna pop in

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so we can see the name and everything.

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So it's exciting.

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God gave you a miracle to share this month, this week.

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- Yes, yes, yes.

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And I'm hoping to share it more next week.

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- Exactly.

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Thanks, starting us off, Linda, it's awesome.

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All right, Margot, let's celebrate your,

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your miracle.

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- I was kind of having trouble thinking of one.

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a little bit more obvious than, like,

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than we give them credit for.

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So, for example, I've been struggling a little bit

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with like, like bigger picture, like not struggling,

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but just like really rolling over like

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where I want my business to go.

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And how to like have a higher value offer

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and like what I want that to look like

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and how I tie that back into like everything

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I've already built and created.

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And I just had, sometimes I, sometimes I talk to myself

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when I'm trying to figure those things,

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those kinds of things out.

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I just talk out loud as though I'm talking to someone.

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And I have both sides of the conversation.

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I'm sure that sounds totally crazy.

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But in hearing myself say the answer to the questions

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or, you know, whatever that the other person is asking me,

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I find myself like going like deeper into like

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what I want to do or create or whatever.

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So I think I've actually landed on a like a workshop series

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that's gonna run over a number of months

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and it's gonna offer lots of things

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that I'm already doing in my life

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and incorporate my business in a couple of different ways.

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And it's like very aligned with what I'm the brand

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I'm trying to build and what I have already created,

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which is what I've been trying to be like,

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how do I merge the two together?

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So that is feeling like a bit of a answer to my call

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and also like a miracle to me.

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But at first I'm like, that's not a miracle.

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- It is.

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- Well, and how good does it feel to finally,

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what I'm hearing is there's some aligning

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that's going on, right?

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of the workshop series and thinking,

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see you're thinking higher, you're thinking greater,

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probably from the art of scaling business too,

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art book too and how we've just been kind of tapping

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into that topic, right?

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That is a miracle.

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'cause we live locally and that was so fun.

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Garema partnered with four influencers and she's getting her product out there and getting a lot more traffic from the influencers sharing her her product and so that's exciting and she's getting more

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Prime day and getting all of those things situated. So yay. That's exciting. That's the miracle

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Garema. We were talking, you know two years ago. She had no idea where her business would go and now she's like

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This is just the beginning. I want to start working with more influencers and getting my brand out there. It's essentially

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So it's actually not costing her anything to do that to get some of that traffic in those relationships, which are really powerful right in this space. So

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Awesome. Okay, Lindsey. I'm reading your miracle here

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Whoa a family anonymously

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anonymously donated hundreds of thousands of dollars to pay off your church mortgage

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He said we need a mindset change from scarcity to stewardship

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We often think the opposite of scarcity is abundance, but it's so much more than that. Ooh, I love that

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I think that's going to be a great topic. We're we'll we'll tap into

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And that is so cool. Thank you for sharing Lindsey and it's just like again

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Hundreds of thousands of dollars. That's a lot of money to give towards something

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And how cool would it be that we all get to be that person one day

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Well, how would that look right like we need these stories to see of people being generous and god working through them

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You can't just give away hundreds of thousands of dollars if you don't have it

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Right, like I'm like, I wouldn't even necessarily be considered for that kind of generosity at this point in my life

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But what would it look like to be able to have that and do that and that is powerful

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So thank you Lindsey for sharing that miracle. That is a miracle. That's cool

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And here's the miracle I'd like to share

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That is on the topic of nervous system, which is why I think

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Alliance with a lot of what we're going to talk about today, but

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So for my for my birthday, I take celebration really serious and

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I it's a way of being for me at this point and I've been celebrating pretty hardcore my birthday

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30 years 30 years old I shifted into making my birthday like a pretty big deal so about six years

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I just turned 36

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Maybe I won't like having these expectations of people like are they gonna remember

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Is so and so gonna say something am I worth celebrating? See here's why I think powerful about celebrating

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Is it touches on ourself worth?

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Right it touches on am I worth celebrating am I worth being looked at am I worth being seen

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And I think children get this so well, right? They're so good at celebrating. I say this in another call like

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Think about your kids or your grandkids or kids, you know, you know, they're gonna they're talking about their birthday way in advance

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They're letting everyone know my birthday's in june

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Save the date, you know, it's like january they you know they um

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There will be a celebration right? They don't think twice about it

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I saw a pattern and a lot of women just didn't want to celebrate themselves, right for so many limiting beliefs

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And I used to just throw a really big big big celebration for my birthday. So like 30 I do a photo shoot every year

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So I started doing not at 30. I did a photo shoot and then I would throw it. It's just a big party

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So like at 30 after a big party at 31. I took myself on an all inclusive resort to mexico

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32 I threw a big party at church 33. I invited all the women

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Would have been a bridesmaid in my life if I would have been getting married I invited them to like a woman's bran

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Should I have like 20 women over and it was really intimate, but it was still like

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like a lot of purpose and I had a plant party um celebrating

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my little home. And then I threw a fundraiser for my best friend who went to Mexico and we raised

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over seven thousand dollars at my birthday party. So those are like some examples of my

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birthday parties. Okay, like one time I spent like thousands of dollars on one of my parties. So

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I'm just saying all this to say that this year I didn't do any of that. I didn't do any of that.

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I actually just invited my three closest local friends and their 12 combined kids over.

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And these 12 kids each of them made me cards and gifts and it just felt like so special

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and so intimate and just small and just this miracle of like I'm worth celebrating even if I don't

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plan anything. Even if it's not even extraordinary or a party. And then I cooked for my family. I

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had my family over my brother, my sister, my brother-in-law, and my mom and her husband.

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And I cooked for them and they were like that's weird. Why do you want to cook on your own birthday?

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meal, which I eat whole foods plant based. So it was just like really cool to invite them into

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the way that I eat. And in Spain that's actually the culture. They like pay for their own birthdays

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and like invite you into them and to like them doing all the work. And I'm like where did I learn

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that? Oh yeah I learned that in Spain. It was just like a really it was like a miracle to just kind

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of sit back and kind of not do much. Even though I did cook like that doesn't feel like a lot for me.

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Like actually felt really easy and really simple. And I felt so celebrated. And yeah that felt like

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a miracle for my nervous system. I didn't have to prove anything. I didn't have to throw a big thing

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and I just felt so loved. And I have to share this. Oh it's not down here. It's upstairs.

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But one of the girls, my best friend's kid, she like drew a picture of my husband.

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If anybody follows me online you would you would have seen it on my social media. But

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it was like a picture. Like I have to go give me a second. I'm gonna go get this. This is too funny.

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Like you guys are gonna laugh. Okay get ready to laugh. Okay I'll be right back.

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Oh no I'm thinking I'm thinking myself.

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Okay first of all this is all this stuff like that my friend's kids maybe. Like they're just

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you know kids. They're just so precious. And they're nervous. The sons are not wrecked with a bunch

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of stress and kiddos right. So they're just like so sweet and innocent and like you know they know

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how to be creative and like have fun. Okay so here's the picture. My friend's kid she's nine

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through of my husband. This is not hilarious. She was like she was like Danielle. He has your

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name tattooed on in three places. The chest and both of his biceps. She's like notice he has this

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six pack abs because he's strong. And then and then she was like and he's on his knees praying.

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And I'm like that's the sweetest thing. Like kids are so sweet and innocent. And I was like

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and then she literally painted me this. First of all um that's like literally so good.

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And she said dear Miss Danielle thank you for inviting me to your birthday party. I hope you

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get your husband's in. Like they're just the sweetest things. Like you know she got it.

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friend's kids. Like the um just the sheer impact of just even being around kids and like

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what's possible you know. And I think sometimes we can forget that or like take it for granted.

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You know and I'm like no I'm not taking anything for granted. I'm so grateful. Even though I would

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rap I deeply desire to be a wife and a mom. Like I can also celebrate all of my friends who have

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all those gifts and also celebrate that I don't have those yet and that's okay. And and that's

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a miracle because honestly I haven't been here for a lot of years of my life. And so

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and it just brings me to this to this topic of of the nervous system. Because I think

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hope deferred makes the heart sick. Hope deferred makes the heart sick and anybody here have a hope

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deferred. Anybody here have something they have wanted and waited on and have worked towards and

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you know have not seen yet. Here's what that heart sickness it also like literally can lead to like

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the nervous system not being okay. You know a hope deferred a goal deferred a and in my case

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like a big hope deferred in my life is getting married and having children like I can't escape

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but if I wanted to I can't escape the desire I tried I have tried to like think about other things

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desire other things and it's just not there but the question is okay how can I steward them the

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desires I do have how can I steward what I have been given and and if those roles are not for me

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right now then what is for me right and I think part of the nervous system can get really caught up

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and like no I need to look like this or I need to have that or if I don't have this result I've

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got to go go go the hustle culture right and so we're going to just tap into the the nervous

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system here for a second and then there's this little quiz that I'm going to take you through

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and then I'm going to leave you with a couple of things you can do for your nervous system and

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maybe you're at my goal is that you're taking away one one thing for this week that's going to help

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your body and your nervous system go into a just a deeper place of rest and peace is that sound good

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because we were made for rest and we were made for peace we are not made for stress and chaos all

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the time okay here we go all right I kind of already said this but true or false the nervous

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system is the one part of your body that is woven into it connected to every part of your body's

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system true or false

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all right I figured you all would know the answer it's true

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so take a look at this for a minute the nervous system has two main parts right it's the central

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nervous system it's the brain and this spinal cord and they're completely connected okay take a look

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take a look at this final cord and then take a look at your nervous system notice how it's just

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all connected it literally like goes into every literally every part of your of your nerve cells

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all right you're seeing you're seeing the the yellows the nervous system and then the central

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nervous system goes right down the middle from your brain to your spinal cord all right okay so

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okay your nervous system it's like a thermostat it brings the balance so as you all live in america

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we have there we have this thing called a thermostat but in other parts of the world they don't have

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all of them have central heating and air and maybe not every one of you do here but

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the idea is is that this controlled the entire temperature of your of your living space right

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and you want to make sure that it's just right when it's too hot you sweat okay we need to turn

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it down when it's too cold you get cold okay we need to turn it up it is a balance and that is

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exactly how all of those nerves that we saw in the picture before they all balance we ideally

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they're balanced ideally our nerves are all working together okay so this is all a bunch of

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info i wrote feel free to take a picture i'm not going to necessarily go like a ton into all of

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this but the vagus nerve is the largest nerve in the body and the actual word means wanderer

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or traveler in latin this is so cool so it begins at the brain stem like you know like right here

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where our c5 is right here and as that picture shows it goes all the way down and it goes to

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your ears your face your mouth neck and it goes into like i said almost every system and organ in

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our body it is a central role to our emotional and our physical health see a lot of people don't

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realize that the nervous system is also very very physical right you notice it's literally just

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connected to every part of of our body and so here are the benefits

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some of it does right it's linked to reduced inflammation chronic illness it can help overcome

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daily and chronic stress from modern life it can you know increase our hormones it helps with our

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digestion and absorption of nutrients okay that we're gonna actually talk about real quick we're

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gonna touch on nutrition that's why it's so important what we're feeding ourselves actually directly

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is connected to our vagus nerve which is connected to our nervous system and our physical health right

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feeling relaxed and renewed is actually directly connected to our vagus nerve okay the immune

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system is regulated through our vagus nerve our blood pressure lowers our heart rate improves our

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cardiovascular health okay our heart rate our blood sugar levels and even help prevent diabetes

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I mean you guys that's wild these are all the things that are connected to our vagus nerve

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would you say be honest looking at this list do you see one thing on this list that you're like

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I could probably use a little more of that I could use I could use you know feeling relaxed

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and renewed more will you type one in the chat that really is there one on this list that's like

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really like striking you right now like oh I need to my need my immune system to be popular

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right regulated or my blood sugar levels have been terrible

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which one is like oh if I could just get a better handle on that thing I'm curious type in the chat

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okay margos like hormones yep the oxytocin

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okay Melissa's like feeling relaxed and renewed I know right I feel good

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okay Cherie reduced inflammation

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anybody else for me the one that released six out to me is chronic stress

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as well Lindsay and then also reduced inflammation

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actually for me personally the reduced inflammation is what brought me on my journey

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to taking a look at my nervous system about almost four years ago now because I was so inflamed

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that I was like what is wrong with my body come to find out a lot of things

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but not anything that's not fixable or healable which is why I love talking about the nervous system

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okay Garina said better sleep Margot also chronic stress yeah

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and more relaxed and renewed on a regular basis yay okay well here's the beauty ladies

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our biggest nerve if we can stimulate that and we're going to talk about that that's what

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that's what the whole that's what like all these techniques I'm going to show you later

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it's to stimulate our biggest nerve which stimulates all these different parts of our body

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right it's kind of like the the heartbeat if you will of the nervous system is the biggest nerve

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yeah Lindsay yeah yeah you've got some stress traps in your body yeah that makes sense

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and that's partly your nervous system your nervous system is probably highly trained

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and very comfortable in a fight or flight state we're gonna talk about that we're gonna talk

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about that yeah Linda's like more sleep nightly sleep than they big y'all sleep is so so so so

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so valuable to our healing so I actually look at sleep when I go to bed I am like okay

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I'm literally giving my body a rest and a rejuvenation for the next day like sleep is not

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just oh I'm tired it's my biggest nerve needs a break it's my the it's the like myself and my body

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needs to literally regroup and rejuvenate that is what sleeping does sleeping actually quite

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literally have the power to heal our bodies but it is really difficult to sleep when you're dealing

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with these things. Am I right? It's really hard.

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impossible. So we're gonna talk about it. All right, so here's

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like the nervous is some water. Okay. Have you guys heard of

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parasympathetic versus sympathetic states? Okay, I know some

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of you are familiar with this. We're doing a quick review then.

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So parasympathetic, we all want to be in a parasympathetic

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state. This is like, Oh, this is like the state where we're like,

471
00:35:26.360 --> 00:35:32.720
I'm connected, I'm present, I have capacity to give to play to

472
00:35:32.720 --> 00:35:38.880
connect. Usually when you when your ventral vagal nerve is in a

473
00:35:38.880 --> 00:35:42.720
parasympathetic state, look at the very top. These are where

474
00:35:42.720 --> 00:35:46.560
you're gonna feel you're gonna feel rested. I put rest and

475
00:35:46.560 --> 00:35:49.880
digest because when our bodies rested, then it can digest our

476
00:35:49.880 --> 00:35:52.960
food. And that's really important. Some of you have a

477
00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:56.500
digestion issue, which is directly connected to actually

478
00:35:56.500 --> 00:36:01.960
stress. And the nervous system, you're feeling hopeful,

479
00:36:01.960 --> 00:36:09.680
ballads, load, happy, consent, I'm present, I'm positive. I

480
00:36:09.680 --> 00:36:13.080
want to feel parasympathetic like every day of my life, right?

481
00:36:13.080 --> 00:36:16.980
Like this is the goal. And guess what? It's possible. We were

482
00:36:16.980 --> 00:36:21.440
made for this. We were made to have a parasympathetic state.

483
00:36:22.240 --> 00:36:27.200
The reality is that a lot of you are not in that state, right?

484
00:36:27.200 --> 00:36:29.880
It actually takes maybe a little bit of work to get into that

485
00:36:29.880 --> 00:36:32.920
state. And so that's kind of what we're going to be tapping

486
00:36:32.920 --> 00:36:36.960
into. Here's where the other state sympathetic. This is where

487
00:36:36.960 --> 00:36:40.520
you're like in fighting or you're fleeing, you're stressed,

488
00:36:40.520 --> 00:36:43.440
you're anxious, you may feel danger, you may these are where

489
00:36:43.440 --> 00:36:46.800
those fear based thoughts, those circle loops we've talked

490
00:36:46.800 --> 00:36:51.240
about about going over and over and over and over again. Maybe

491
00:36:51.240 --> 00:36:54.680
you're constantly on the go feel like you can't relax and feel

492
00:36:54.680 --> 00:36:59.120
out of control. Anybody relate with that, right? Like that's

493
00:36:59.120 --> 00:37:04.880
a state, a sympathetic state we all wrestle with. And then

494
00:37:04.880 --> 00:37:08.680
there's a collapsed state. This is a dorsal vagal. When you're

495
00:37:08.680 --> 00:37:13.880
now feeling shut down, withdrawn, you may feel disconnected,

496
00:37:13.880 --> 00:37:17.760
hopeless, depressed. This may be, you know, you're withdrawing,

497
00:37:17.760 --> 00:37:20.360
you're staying away from certain people, you're desiring to stay

498
00:37:20.360 --> 00:37:25.720
in bed, difficulty speaking or focusing. We have all been in

499
00:37:25.720 --> 00:37:30.440
all three of these states at some point in our lives. Okay, we

500
00:37:30.440 --> 00:37:35.000
will all, you know, learn here's here's it. Okay, I'm gonna be

501
00:37:35.000 --> 00:37:37.680
totally honest with you guys. And this is partly why I wanted

502
00:37:37.680 --> 00:37:41.080
to talk about the nervous system because I this happens a

503
00:37:41.080 --> 00:37:45.840
lot. When you go to learn something new or you go to like

504
00:37:45.840 --> 00:37:50.080
be seen more in your business, or to put yourself out there.

505
00:37:50.080 --> 00:37:55.560
Sometimes you will actually go down the ladder and go into the

506
00:37:55.560 --> 00:37:58.920
dorsal vagal where you actually want to like not be seen and you

507
00:37:58.920 --> 00:38:02.120
want to shut down. And I know I have definitely like been in a

508
00:38:02.120 --> 00:38:06.440
state on and off for the past like six months of my life. It's

509
00:38:06.440 --> 00:38:13.200
like been really difficult. Here's the reality is that I

510
00:38:13.200 --> 00:38:16.160
think sometimes we can be really harsh judges of ourselves,

511
00:38:16.160 --> 00:38:19.080
right? Like, Oh my gosh, get out of bed, get it together. How

512
00:38:19.080 --> 00:38:23.240
can you feel like control, you know? But the reality is, is

513
00:38:23.240 --> 00:38:27.440
anytime you're like sensing one of these statuses, I want you

514
00:38:27.440 --> 00:38:29.400
to like, this is where you're going to be like, wait a minute,

515
00:38:29.400 --> 00:38:32.760
I need to do a nervous system check. I need to check my

516
00:38:32.760 --> 00:38:36.800
nervous system. What's really going on here? I need to check

517
00:38:36.800 --> 00:38:40.680
the status of it, which we're going to kind of talk about how

518
00:38:40.680 --> 00:38:45.520
to do that. And then I maybe I need to do something to care for

519
00:38:45.520 --> 00:38:49.040
my nervous system right now. Because sometimes, you know,

520
00:38:49.040 --> 00:38:52.400
especially for some of you who've had deep trauma and pain in

521
00:38:52.400 --> 00:38:55.720
your life, where you've had like traumatic events, big tea

522
00:38:55.720 --> 00:38:59.160
trauma, little tea trauma, like our nervous system does not I

523
00:38:59.160 --> 00:39:03.160
repeat does not forget what you have been through and what you

524
00:39:03.160 --> 00:39:09.080
have seen. It won't. But what what we can do is learn how to

525
00:39:09.840 --> 00:39:13.680
take care of our nervous system, how to be connected with

526
00:39:13.680 --> 00:39:17.840
ourselves connected with God, how to get into a place where you

527
00:39:17.840 --> 00:39:23.080
are feeling safe, so that you are able to heal. And you're able

528
00:39:23.080 --> 00:39:26.640
to create, you're able to build, you're able to even lose weight.

529
00:39:26.640 --> 00:39:30.280
Part of like, I've actually lost 45 pounds on my weight loss

530
00:39:30.280 --> 00:39:34.680
journey in my life. And the very beginning of my weight loss

531
00:39:34.680 --> 00:39:38.040
journey was acknowledging I don't even feel safe in my own

532
00:39:38.040 --> 00:39:40.760
body. Like I was very disconnected from my own body,

533
00:39:40.760 --> 00:39:43.760
making it really difficult to lose weight because even the

534
00:39:43.760 --> 00:39:47.240
body's feeling unsafe. It's it actually we were made to like

535
00:39:47.240 --> 00:39:51.280
hold on to fat and like hold on hold on to extra weight to feel

536
00:39:51.280 --> 00:39:56.520
safe. Right. So stuff like that. So it's wild. Our nervous

537
00:39:56.520 --> 00:40:00.040
system is incredible to me. All right.

538
00:40:01.600 --> 00:40:03.080
Okay, so here's what I'm gonna do.

539
00:40:03.080 --> 00:40:04.840
We're gonna do this, this will be fun.

540
00:40:04.840 --> 00:40:07.360
There's like four different,

541
00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:09.480
I'm gonna go through, hold on, I don't mean.

542
00:40:09.480 --> 00:40:13.640
Actually, no, before we move on,

543
00:40:13.640 --> 00:40:15.600
if you're open to being vulnerable,

544
00:40:15.600 --> 00:40:17.520
which I feel like this call is,

545
00:40:17.520 --> 00:40:19.200
I'd love for you to type in the chat,

546
00:40:19.200 --> 00:40:20.960
where do you feel like on the nervous system

547
00:40:20.960 --> 00:40:23.200
ladder you are right now?

548
00:40:23.200 --> 00:40:24.800
Not where you wish you would be,

549
00:40:24.800 --> 00:40:26.240
or not where you were yesterday,

550
00:40:26.240 --> 00:40:28.120
but just right now, presently,

551
00:40:29.160 --> 00:40:32.920
would you say you're at the ventral vagal,

552
00:40:32.920 --> 00:40:36.200
you're in your sympathetic or dorsal,

553
00:40:36.200 --> 00:40:39.480
just right now, in this moment.

554
00:40:39.480 --> 00:40:44.600
Or in the last, you know, 12 hours or something,

555
00:40:44.600 --> 00:40:45.760
the last day.

556
00:40:58.720 --> 00:41:00.920
Okay, I'm seeing a lot of sympathetic.

557
00:41:00.920 --> 00:41:05.480
Okay.

558
00:41:05.480 --> 00:41:10.040
Awesome, ventral.

559
00:41:10.040 --> 00:41:14.080
I would say I'm in sympathetic as well.

560
00:41:14.080 --> 00:41:16.200
I was in dorsal for a while,

561
00:41:16.200 --> 00:41:21.160
but I'm in sympathetic as well.

562
00:41:21.160 --> 00:41:25.080
All right.

563
00:41:25.080 --> 00:41:27.440
Got a lot of sympathetic.

564
00:41:27.440 --> 00:41:29.640
Okay, so like the fighting,

565
00:41:29.640 --> 00:41:31.360
earthling, distressing, anxiety,

566
00:41:31.360 --> 00:41:34.520
feeling scared, having those thoughts.

567
00:41:34.520 --> 00:41:36.520
Okay, thank you, everybody.

568
00:41:36.520 --> 00:41:38.400
I love you all so much.

569
00:41:38.400 --> 00:41:39.600
And guess what?

570
00:41:39.600 --> 00:41:40.800
It doesn't end here.

571
00:41:40.800 --> 00:41:42.200
This is the good news,

572
00:41:42.200 --> 00:41:44.120
but we gotta be aware of where we're at, right?

573
00:41:44.120 --> 00:41:46.280
To be able to move to make it shift.

574
00:41:46.280 --> 00:41:49.080
So I'm gonna show you four different types

575
00:41:49.080 --> 00:41:52.440
of like fight or flight responses.

576
00:41:52.440 --> 00:41:54.960
Well, there's four different types of responses.

577
00:41:54.960 --> 00:41:57.520
I want you to take note of like,

578
00:41:57.520 --> 00:41:59.880
which one do you connect with the most?

579
00:41:59.880 --> 00:42:01.960
So I'm just gonna go over four.

580
00:42:01.960 --> 00:42:03.440
And when I'm reading them,

581
00:42:03.440 --> 00:42:05.840
if you're nervous, is done, or your body's like,

582
00:42:05.840 --> 00:42:07.360
"I'm today."

583
00:42:07.360 --> 00:42:08.920
Okay, that's probably you.

584
00:42:08.920 --> 00:42:12.480
So there might be a little of you in each one,

585
00:42:12.480 --> 00:42:14.360
but I want you to really pay attention

586
00:42:14.360 --> 00:42:19.200
of which one do you most relate with as a person.

587
00:42:19.200 --> 00:42:20.720
Okay, does that make sense?

588
00:42:20.720 --> 00:42:23.400
All right, cool, here we go.

589
00:42:23.400 --> 00:42:26.160
Okay, we've got the Miss Cheetah.

590
00:42:26.160 --> 00:42:28.400
She's the I have to.

591
00:42:28.400 --> 00:42:31.600
Always in a sense of urgency, juggles all the things,

592
00:42:31.600 --> 00:42:34.280
often feels worried, anxious, or stressed.

593
00:42:34.280 --> 00:42:36.720
Many fear-based and fast thoughts,

594
00:42:36.720 --> 00:42:40.400
like they just come on like really quick.

595
00:42:40.400 --> 00:42:42.520
You have a hard time turning off your brain,

596
00:42:42.520 --> 00:42:44.040
even when you want to.

597
00:42:44.040 --> 00:42:46.240
She tends to overwork people, please,

598
00:42:46.240 --> 00:42:48.040
and have perfectionism.

599
00:42:48.040 --> 00:42:49.280
Even if she makes good money,

600
00:42:49.280 --> 00:42:51.280
she's still stressed about it.

601
00:42:51.280 --> 00:42:53.880
Her thoughts may include, "I have to do this now."

602
00:42:53.880 --> 00:42:57.040
Or, "If I slow down, everything will fall apart."

603
00:42:57.040 --> 00:42:58.560
Okay, this is Miss Cheetah.

604
00:42:58.560 --> 00:43:02.320
Okay, take notes, by the way.

605
00:43:02.320 --> 00:43:04.440
And at the end of all, 'cause I got four,

606
00:43:04.440 --> 00:43:06.440
I've got four here, and at the end I want to know

607
00:43:06.440 --> 00:43:09.960
which one is like, "Oh, that's totally me."

608
00:43:09.960 --> 00:43:12.760
Marga's already knows, I had a feeling.

609
00:43:12.760 --> 00:43:17.280
I had a feeling you were gonna say that, Marga.

610
00:43:18.960 --> 00:43:20.920
Okay, so Miss Cheetah.

611
00:43:20.920 --> 00:43:22.520
All right, we're going on to the next one.

612
00:43:22.520 --> 00:43:27.520
Miss Deer, I want to, but I can't.

613
00:43:27.520 --> 00:43:32.440
She is always overthinking, second-guessing,

614
00:43:32.440 --> 00:43:34.800
scared to get it wrong.

615
00:43:34.800 --> 00:43:36.360
Goes back and forth on things

616
00:43:36.360 --> 00:43:40.080
until she's stuck and overwhelmed.

617
00:43:40.080 --> 00:43:42.560
She goes hard, and then she goes.

618
00:43:42.560 --> 00:43:45.840
She has these huge goals and wonders

619
00:43:45.840 --> 00:43:48.120
why it's hard for her to accomplish them.

620
00:43:49.120 --> 00:43:50.680
And she compares herself to others

621
00:43:50.680 --> 00:43:53.200
and often ends up shaming and blaming herself.

622
00:43:53.200 --> 00:43:56.880
Maybe even feeling like small.

623
00:43:56.880 --> 00:44:00.880
Okay, this is Miss Deer.

624
00:44:00.880 --> 00:44:06.760
All right, okay, we've got the next one.

625
00:44:06.760 --> 00:44:09.200
Little Miss Bear.

626
00:44:09.200 --> 00:44:11.720
I can't.

627
00:44:11.720 --> 00:44:15.000
Very little energy.

628
00:44:15.000 --> 00:44:19.200
Her thoughts are slow, sad, or indifferent.

629
00:44:19.200 --> 00:44:21.040
Most of the time, she wants to throw in the towel

630
00:44:21.040 --> 00:44:22.520
and just stay in bed.

631
00:44:22.520 --> 00:44:27.240
Feels depressed and numb, finds it difficult

632
00:44:27.240 --> 00:44:28.920
to be social and connected,

633
00:44:28.920 --> 00:44:33.000
disconnected from people or activities she wants enjoyed.

634
00:44:33.000 --> 00:44:36.280
How does the little Miss Bear?

635
00:44:36.280 --> 00:44:41.200
All right, and here's the last one.

636
00:44:41.200 --> 00:44:43.960
(mouse clicking)

637
00:44:43.960 --> 00:44:48.360
Little Miss Cat.

638
00:44:48.360 --> 00:44:51.200
I am capable, understands her energy levels

639
00:44:51.200 --> 00:44:52.680
and knows her limits.

640
00:44:52.680 --> 00:44:53.800
She can push when needed,

641
00:44:53.800 --> 00:44:56.280
but also knows when it's time to rest.

642
00:44:56.280 --> 00:44:57.840
She's often in flow.

643
00:44:57.840 --> 00:44:59.760
Her thoughts are calm and grounded.

644
00:45:03.040 --> 00:45:06.360
Thoughts aren't too fast or too slow, they're just right.

645
00:45:06.360 --> 00:45:10.520
And she has content and feels connected to herself and others.

646
00:45:10.520 --> 00:45:13.500
Little Miss Cat.

647
00:45:13.500 --> 00:45:14.640
All right.

648
00:45:14.640 --> 00:45:21.160
I want you to just be honest with like where you are right now

649
00:45:21.160 --> 00:45:21.740
in your life.

650
00:45:21.740 --> 00:45:24.400
This could be over the course of like the last six months,

651
00:45:24.400 --> 00:45:26.840
couple of months, years even.

652
00:45:26.840 --> 00:45:29.480
But which one do you tend to relate with?

653
00:45:29.480 --> 00:45:30.960
Oh, wait.

654
00:45:30.960 --> 00:45:31.760
Here we go.

655
00:45:31.760 --> 00:45:32.960
Here they are.

656
00:45:32.960 --> 00:45:36.160
Which one do you live in most of the time?

657
00:45:36.160 --> 00:45:40.280
Like your natural like go to status.

658
00:45:40.280 --> 00:45:41.280
Pop it in the chat.

659
00:45:41.280 --> 00:45:44.000
Which one are you?

660
00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:46.960
The cheetah, the deer, the bear, or the cat?

661
00:45:46.960 --> 00:45:47.460
Yes.

662
00:45:47.460 --> 00:46:08.960
So these are all different responses

663
00:46:08.960 --> 00:46:12.000
or nervous system we'll have.

664
00:46:12.000 --> 00:46:17.200
You've probably have heard of these before.

665
00:46:17.200 --> 00:46:20.360
Maybe fight, flight, freeze, or fawn

666
00:46:20.360 --> 00:46:22.720
is like another also language for it.

667
00:46:22.720 --> 00:46:25.280
I'm using different language today.

668
00:46:25.280 --> 00:46:26.400
OK, let's take a look.

669
00:46:26.400 --> 00:46:27.880
Where are you all at today?

670
00:46:27.880 --> 00:46:30.120
Where do you often live in most of the time?

671
00:46:30.120 --> 00:46:34.920
OK, we've got cheetah, Little Miss Deer.

672
00:46:34.920 --> 00:46:38.920
Sure, I figured you would say that.

673
00:46:38.920 --> 00:46:41.280
Lindsay Deer, yep, yep.

674
00:46:41.280 --> 00:46:44.960
I feel like I know you all like enough, where I'm like,

675
00:46:44.960 --> 00:46:47.480
I'm pretty sure I know where each person's going to go.

676
00:46:47.480 --> 00:46:49.160
But do you know?

677
00:46:49.160 --> 00:46:51.880
Where do you know where you live?

678
00:46:51.880 --> 00:46:54.200
What status do you find yourself in?

679
00:46:54.200 --> 00:46:56.560
OK, yep, sure, you feel like you're

680
00:46:56.560 --> 00:46:58.200
going towards uncapable.

681
00:46:58.200 --> 00:46:59.360
I agree.

682
00:46:59.360 --> 00:47:02.120
I would say 100%.

683
00:47:02.120 --> 00:47:03.600
I would say every single one of you

684
00:47:03.600 --> 00:47:05.280
are in your own ways.

685
00:47:05.280 --> 00:47:08.760
And maybe you feel like you are there most of the time.

686
00:47:08.760 --> 00:47:12.640
Aww, Little Miss Bear needs a hug, yes.

687
00:47:12.640 --> 00:47:16.120
Cheetah, cheetah and the cat.

688
00:47:16.120 --> 00:47:18.640
Cheetah.

689
00:47:18.640 --> 00:47:21.040
OK, Lindsay, yep, cheetah and deer.

690
00:47:21.040 --> 00:47:22.720
OK, cheetah.

691
00:47:22.720 --> 00:47:28.720
Oh, yeah, Gerima, that makes sense.

692
00:47:28.720 --> 00:47:31.640
Kind of went from deer into cheetah.

693
00:47:31.640 --> 00:47:35.600
Linda Deercat.

694
00:47:35.600 --> 00:47:39.040
[LAUGHS]

695
00:47:39.040 --> 00:47:40.880
I like that closer to cat.

696
00:47:40.880 --> 00:47:43.440
I've definitely seen that in you, Linda, for sure.

697
00:47:43.440 --> 00:47:48.920
OK, Melissa, yeah.

698
00:47:48.920 --> 00:47:51.920
Kind of like different times of the day, even, right?

699
00:47:51.920 --> 00:47:55.600
You can find yourself responding.

700
00:47:55.600 --> 00:47:59.280
I'm a deer at night, stretches of cat, dabble in the bear.

701
00:48:02.800 --> 00:48:06.640
Isn't that so real?

702
00:48:06.640 --> 00:48:09.880
See, OK, so notice, we're not comparing ourselves,

703
00:48:09.880 --> 00:48:10.920
which I love this group.

704
00:48:10.920 --> 00:48:12.840
We know that it's not about comparing.

705
00:48:12.840 --> 00:48:15.120
It's about awareness and being connected

706
00:48:15.120 --> 00:48:16.640
and knowing yourself, right?

707
00:48:16.640 --> 00:48:19.560
And it does not mean, like, obviously, we all

708
00:48:19.560 --> 00:48:22.640
want to be I'm capable, right?

709
00:48:22.640 --> 00:48:25.880
We all want to be Little Miss Cat,

710
00:48:25.880 --> 00:48:29.960
where it's like my ventral system is in alignment.

711
00:48:29.960 --> 00:48:31.120
I'm feeling capable.

712
00:48:31.120 --> 00:48:32.160
I'm feeling powerful.

713
00:48:32.160 --> 00:48:36.520
I'm feeling, like, able to take risks.

714
00:48:36.520 --> 00:48:38.400
And it doesn't feel so scary.

715
00:48:38.400 --> 00:48:42.600
Like, I think that is partly a north star.

716
00:48:42.600 --> 00:48:44.200
And that, to me, is like, there's

717
00:48:44.200 --> 00:48:46.360
a lot of healing that's happened there.

718
00:48:46.360 --> 00:48:51.880
There's a lot of, you know, positive neuro pathways

719
00:48:51.880 --> 00:48:55.440
going on with the I'm capable.

720
00:48:55.440 --> 00:48:57.280
Here's what's the reality, though,

721
00:48:57.280 --> 00:48:59.800
is that we aren't all there all the time,

722
00:48:59.800 --> 00:49:01.440
even though we would like to be.

723
00:49:01.440 --> 00:49:05.440
So the question is, like, how do we tend--

724
00:49:05.440 --> 00:49:10.680
how do we take care of this thing, this vagal nerve?

725
00:49:10.680 --> 00:49:13.000
We can't even see.

726
00:49:13.000 --> 00:49:15.560
You can't even see your nervous system.

727
00:49:15.560 --> 00:49:16.720
Isn't that wild?

728
00:49:16.720 --> 00:49:18.960
It's literally invisible to the eye.

729
00:49:18.960 --> 00:49:20.720
We can't see it.

730
00:49:20.720 --> 00:49:25.640
But we can operate it.

731
00:49:25.640 --> 00:49:28.880
We can be in control of it.

732
00:49:28.880 --> 00:49:32.080
We can be connected to it.

733
00:49:32.080 --> 00:49:39.120
And we can begin to see changes in our status.

734
00:49:39.120 --> 00:49:40.800
Who's excited about that?

735
00:49:40.800 --> 00:49:44.200
I want you to get excited about the fact that it is very--

736
00:49:44.200 --> 00:49:45.600
it's actually very normal.

737
00:49:45.600 --> 00:49:47.160
And hear me out here, women.

738
00:49:47.160 --> 00:49:49.040
There's all women on this call.

739
00:49:49.040 --> 00:49:53.000
We didn't even have rights to vote--

740
00:49:53.000 --> 00:49:55.520
not even 100 years ago, right?

741
00:49:55.520 --> 00:50:00.000
106 years ago, like some women in the world.

742
00:50:05.780 --> 00:50:09.380
They're not allowed to make decisions without a husband still.

743
00:50:09.380 --> 00:50:12.260
So if we're looking at a global perspective,

744
00:50:12.260 --> 00:50:16.860
women on this side of the country and it's not even perfect.

745
00:50:16.860 --> 00:50:21.780
Obviously, there's still like enslavement going on in our country.

746
00:50:21.780 --> 00:50:27.700
As a whole, we have a lot of rights that we did not have once.

747
00:50:27.700 --> 00:50:32.660
And I'll tell you what, that can really mess up our nervous system.

748
00:50:32.660 --> 00:50:34.540
Like going back and forth, back and forth.

749
00:50:34.540 --> 00:50:37.940
And especially with all the trauma or the things

750
00:50:37.940 --> 00:50:41.860
that your own eyes have seen and witnessed or your own body

751
00:50:41.860 --> 00:50:45.420
has experienced, our nervous system or a vagal nerve

752
00:50:45.420 --> 00:50:46.740
doesn't forget it.

753
00:50:46.740 --> 00:50:49.980
But here's what's possible is that it can be healed.

754
00:50:49.980 --> 00:50:51.260
And I don't care what you've been through.

755
00:50:51.260 --> 00:50:52.340
I don't care what you've seen.

756
00:50:52.340 --> 00:50:56.540
I don't care if you continue to go into I have to, but I can't.

757
00:50:56.540 --> 00:51:01.500
I can't or I have to.

758
00:51:01.500 --> 00:51:04.780
You all can go into I'm capable.

759
00:51:04.780 --> 00:51:08.580
Just for some of you, you have to do things a little different

760
00:51:08.580 --> 00:51:11.620
to kind of take care of yourself, to get there.

761
00:51:11.620 --> 00:51:13.340
Does that make sense?

762
00:51:13.340 --> 00:51:19.300
So a lot of this is actually about healing.

763
00:51:19.300 --> 00:51:24.060
And this is about, it's basically about healing.

764
00:51:24.060 --> 00:51:25.340
I'm just going to call it out there.

765
00:51:25.340 --> 00:51:27.940
Science would not say this, but I will say this.

766
00:51:27.940 --> 00:51:30.940
This is like, we can heal.

767
00:51:30.940 --> 00:51:35.260
God actually made our vagal nerves to heal.

768
00:51:35.260 --> 00:51:36.740
He gave us rest.

769
00:51:36.740 --> 00:51:39.340
He gave us a lot of things actually to help us heal.

770
00:51:39.340 --> 00:51:43.220
We are also in a state where we are so disconnected

771
00:51:43.220 --> 00:51:44.500
from like working on the ground.

772
00:51:44.500 --> 00:51:46.100
You've got to remember we have to work on the ground.

773
00:51:46.100 --> 00:51:47.340
We used to be outside a lot.

774
00:51:47.340 --> 00:51:50.420
We used to have to fight or flight like for our food, right?

775
00:51:50.420 --> 00:51:52.700
So we're also have to acknowledge humans.

776
00:51:52.700 --> 00:51:55.420
Like as a race, we have like evolved a lot

777
00:51:55.420 --> 00:51:56.940
and we have changed a lot.

778
00:51:56.940 --> 00:51:59.780
And I don't mean that to be like, you know,

779
00:51:59.780 --> 00:52:02.020
we come from monkeys or anything like that.

780
00:52:02.020 --> 00:52:05.980
But like we, you know, there is something to our bodies

781
00:52:05.980 --> 00:52:09.860
that we actually have been given a lot of things to heal.

782
00:52:09.860 --> 00:52:10.700
They want to heal.

783
00:52:10.700 --> 00:52:14.340
We exactly, Margot, here's the question,

784
00:52:14.340 --> 00:52:17.580
are you willing to do what it takes to heal though?

785
00:52:17.580 --> 00:52:20.860
'Cause see, this is now, now we're talking about habits.

786
00:52:20.860 --> 00:52:23.420
Now we're talking about daily rhythms.

787
00:52:23.420 --> 00:52:24.860
And they show up really, really small.

788
00:52:24.860 --> 00:52:28.020
So I acknowledge we've got six minutes left.

789
00:52:28.020 --> 00:52:30.820
So practice is to come back into balance.

790
00:52:30.820 --> 00:52:32.420
'Cause remember how the beginning I told you

791
00:52:32.420 --> 00:52:34.900
how our nervous system is like a thermostat?

792
00:52:34.900 --> 00:52:36.980
If it's too hot, it's not going to work, it's too cold.

793
00:52:36.980 --> 00:52:39.380
Okay, so how do we come into balance?

794
00:52:39.380 --> 00:52:42.260
And I believe when our nervous system is balanced,

795
00:52:42.260 --> 00:52:44.380
I'm not talking about time.

796
00:52:44.380 --> 00:52:45.220
Okay, we talk a lot about,

797
00:52:45.220 --> 00:52:47.220
I need to balance my time and my work.

798
00:52:47.220 --> 00:52:48.060
No.

799
00:52:48.060 --> 00:52:50.940
I'm talking about my internal system.

800
00:52:50.940 --> 00:52:52.860
Do I feel balanced?

801
00:52:52.860 --> 00:52:55.340
Do I feel at peace?

802
00:52:55.340 --> 00:52:58.320
That's what balance is, y'all, peace.

803
00:52:58.320 --> 00:53:00.420
Peace.

804
00:53:00.420 --> 00:53:01.660
I'm gonna say it again.

805
00:53:01.660 --> 00:53:05.100
We were made for peace.

806
00:53:05.100 --> 00:53:10.980
We were made to be at rest while we're working.

807
00:53:10.980 --> 00:53:16.540
Okay, so boom.

808
00:53:16.540 --> 00:53:18.340
I wrote all these out,

809
00:53:18.340 --> 00:53:19.260
but I want you to take a look.

810
00:53:19.260 --> 00:53:22.260
We're gonna go through these pretty quick.

811
00:53:22.260 --> 00:53:23.940
And again, you've heard these before,

812
00:53:23.940 --> 00:53:26.220
but do you do them?

813
00:53:26.220 --> 00:53:28.260
Number one, and number two,

814
00:53:28.260 --> 00:53:30.700
maybe there's something on here you've not heard of,

815
00:53:30.700 --> 00:53:33.460
and then not something you can explore this week.

816
00:53:33.460 --> 00:53:35.700
Okay, so prioritizing sleep.

817
00:53:35.700 --> 00:53:39.340
Now, it's not just the amount of time that you sleep.

818
00:53:39.340 --> 00:53:43.220
Are you not looking at screens 90 minutes before you go to bed?

819
00:53:43.220 --> 00:53:45.460
Did you drink enough water for the day

820
00:53:45.460 --> 00:53:47.620
and hydrate yourself?

821
00:53:47.620 --> 00:53:49.880
Did you stick to your word?

822
00:53:49.880 --> 00:53:56.140
Did you, you know, like that all goes into sleep?

823
00:53:56.140 --> 00:53:58.420
Is your room?

824
00:53:58.420 --> 00:54:02.540
Is there light blocked out to help you fall asleep?

825
00:54:02.540 --> 00:54:05.260
Okay, I mean, I could just talk about sleep

826
00:54:05.260 --> 00:54:06.420
for the next six minutes.

827
00:54:06.420 --> 00:54:09.660
Okay, but if you're not prioritizing sleep,

828
00:54:09.660 --> 00:54:12.340
then your job this week is to kind of take

829
00:54:12.340 --> 00:54:14.660
a little look at how's my sleep?

830
00:54:15.620 --> 00:54:17.380
Okay, some of you maybe track your sleep.

831
00:54:17.380 --> 00:54:19.140
Maybe some of you can start tracking it

832
00:54:19.140 --> 00:54:21.180
'cause now it's like, what kind of sleep?

833
00:54:21.180 --> 00:54:23.500
And are you waking up constantly tired?

834
00:54:23.500 --> 00:54:28.220
If you are, then not something we need to take a look at.

835
00:54:28.220 --> 00:54:29.340
Okay, you get to take a look at.

836
00:54:29.340 --> 00:54:31.380
Okay, get in the sun.

837
00:54:31.380 --> 00:54:33.580
So getting literal sun on your face,

838
00:54:33.580 --> 00:54:35.460
even if it's for five minutes, three minutes.

839
00:54:35.460 --> 00:54:38.420
So what I do in the morning is I,

840
00:54:38.420 --> 00:54:41.260
one of the first things I do when I wake up,

841
00:54:41.260 --> 00:54:43.380
I mean, I usually wake up before the sun,

842
00:54:43.380 --> 00:54:45.580
but I will go outside.

843
00:54:45.580 --> 00:54:48.220
The very first thing I do is I get outside

844
00:54:48.220 --> 00:54:49.900
and I touch my feet on the ground.

845
00:54:49.900 --> 00:54:50.940
I go outside barefoot.

846
00:54:50.940 --> 00:54:52.900
So that's actually grounding,

847
00:54:52.900 --> 00:54:54.780
which we're gonna talk all mention.

848
00:54:54.780 --> 00:55:00.300
So, okay, I'm seeing that.

849
00:55:06.560 --> 00:55:14.520
Yeah, I love that. Okay, exactly. Kind of like, how do each of you get back into balance? That is what this is.

850
00:55:14.520 --> 00:55:28.240
Some of you are out of balance in a lot of ways. Some of you, maybe it's just one tweak this week, right? But don't get overwhelmed. What we do not one is your body, your nervous system to go into fight or flight, just talking about how to take care of it. We don't want that.

851
00:55:28.640 --> 00:55:40.040
All right, so deep breathing, as Margo said, so this can look like box breathing for seven, eight breathing when you breathe in for four, hold for seven and blow out slow for eight.

852
00:55:40.040 --> 00:55:48.560
Or there's another way you can breathe, which is like you take two breaths in and then you slowly go out. So too fast, like

853
00:55:55.280 --> 00:56:09.720
Something like that takes five seconds. Literally, my brain's already like feeling better because I got, I rushed some oxygen to it. Okay. So exercise really important. Again, you've heard this. Are you doing it?

854
00:56:09.720 --> 00:56:16.000
A wall, a swim, a literal five hear me out, ladies, a five minute walk

855
00:56:17.280 --> 00:56:25.280
Outside. Oh, that's like, that's like giving your nervous system a celebration party. It's like, oh, thank you.

856
00:56:25.280 --> 00:56:36.720
Like walking is one of the most underrated forms of exercise. In fact, I was talking with my CrossFit people yesterday or Saturday and they were saying how there's new studies coming out with walking

857
00:56:37.720 --> 00:56:45.400
And just how powerful walking is. So that's free and it actually doesn't have to take a lot of time. Also, Margo, that's a good point.

858
00:56:45.400 --> 00:56:55.520
Eating, walking after you eat also helps your digestion. And guess what? Healthy digestion makes your nervous system, your vagal nerve, very happy.

859
00:56:55.520 --> 00:57:04.680
Okay, because your body's now doing what it was made to do. So it feels balanced. It's not fight or flight. It's like, okay, I ate and now I'm

860
00:57:05.360 --> 00:57:07.920
Yes, Lindsay, exactly walking barefoot. Okay.

861
00:57:07.920 --> 00:57:21.040
Social or religious connection. So making sure you're connecting with people you love on a weekly daily basis. Okay, whether that's with God or church or your people stretching and movement.

862
00:57:21.040 --> 00:57:34.720
Okay, somatic stretching and movement. Sorry. Um, if you guys don't know what that is, you can look it up. It's a specific type of stretching that targets the vagal nerve. It actually

863
00:57:35.040 --> 00:57:54.600
Is called somatic. Some people think it's weird. I actually do somatic stretching on Tuesdays and Thursdays. And it really helps my nervous system. So you can Google that if that sounds like something new for you. It's not yoga either. It's different. It's somatic stretching. It's to put your body into a state of rest.

864
00:57:55.200 --> 00:58:04.080
And again, it doesn't make you tired. Remember, this is about, okay, my vagal nerve is balanced. So therefore, I'm happy and safe.

865
00:58:04.080 --> 00:58:16.120
And then you're going to have that energy to go out and like do the things you're called to for the day. Hey, trauma therapy. Some of you have a lot of trauma you haven't liked out with or maybe you have or maybe there's something that keeps coming up in memory.

866
00:58:16.680 --> 00:58:33.880
Um, that's, that's a more of a deeper way to heal. I've done EMDR. I did trauma therapy on an offer about four and a half years in my 20s. And that really helped me, you know, because our brain, again, with those memories and how our body doesn't forget.

867
00:58:34.560 --> 00:58:43.960
My body would actually go into a state of shock and it would freeze and I couldn't get out of bed. And I realized, Oh, that's not normal. I should probably take a look at that.

868
00:58:43.960 --> 00:59:04.000
That was connected to a trauma that I had experienced. That was really terrible. And so kind of working through that. I don't have those. I don't have that anymore. So maybe that's for some of you sufficient hydration. Make sure you're hydrating yourself again. It's so simple drinking up water. But are you

869
00:59:04.220 --> 00:59:29.040
going to go through some salt in the water, do some elements. He, you know, I wanted a healthy, in my opinion, my professional humble opinion, coconut water is one of the best natural hydrators for your body and for your skin. So I try to drink coconut water. I don't drink it every day because I don't like it still. So every other day.

870
00:59:29.680 --> 00:59:48.120
Self care like doing things that you love that bring you joy. Like for me, I go dancing. I used to go weekly. I go maybe monthly now and that's just the form of self care. It's also exercise. It just makes me smile a lot. So self care think like what makes me smile. Are you doing that? You know,

871
00:59:49.120 --> 01:00:00.000
I actually have a whole training I do on just self care because self care like has to do a lot of with, you know, talking, look at your senses.

872
01:00:10.320 --> 01:00:26.560
And then grounding that is like putting your key on the ground, literally touching the ground, the dirt. So I try to walk outside barefoot multiple times in my day. Like, if I go to the mailbox, for example, then if you do that, go, go get it barefoot.

873
01:00:27.160 --> 01:00:39.160
For example, that could be like a grounding technique for five minutes, three minutes. I don't know how long it takes you all to get your mailbox. Also, if you have like, if there, if it's dangerous to do that, don't do that. Okay, but

874
01:00:39.160 --> 01:00:50.880
If it's not, that's like an easy way to like get your feet on the ground. Yes, I do go barefoot in this now. Yes. When it snows, I would, I go out barefoot. Yeah.

875
01:00:52.560 --> 01:01:00.360
Yeah, it's incredible. So don't you already got me get see now you get me all excited because we're about to get the cold exposure therapy, but

876
01:01:00.360 --> 01:01:16.000
The five, five, four, three, two, one technique. You can Google it. It's like, okay, five, look for five things in the room that you can see four things you can hear three things you can smell two things you can take something like that's like a grounding technique.

877
01:01:16.360 --> 01:01:24.560
That the whole idea that it gets you present grounding. Yeah, grounding. All it is is. How do I get present. That's all that it is.

878
01:01:24.560 --> 01:01:39.520
People are like, oh, that's hippie. No, it's like smart because when your feet are constantly covered by socks and like not like inside that's like you forget there's like a whole another world out there.

879
01:01:39.760 --> 01:01:55.360
But all you have to do is step outside and touch like get your feet touching. Okay, breathing exercises. Oh, I already talked about that. And then cold exposure therapy. So like I used to do I if you guys remember I did ice baths pretty regularly. I did them pretty regularly. I turned my half of my garage into a spa.

880
01:01:55.360 --> 01:02:01.840
And I was doing it for a while. I actually took a break from it because I wanted to see how I was feeling

881
01:02:02.640 --> 01:02:13.040
Without doing the cold baths. And I just do like, for example, I turn the most times when I shower. I'll just turn the cold on at the very end for like 30 seconds.

882
01:02:13.040 --> 01:02:21.520
Or you can like splash your face with cold water or you probably seen influencers put like ice cubes in a bowl and you like wake up and you put your

883
01:02:21.800 --> 01:02:41.000
Your face into the ice water for a couple of minutes. So that all is exposing your body to cold because we actually were made for the cold as well. And some of us never actually feel it. So what it does is it, it helps you again. It helps you get present and helps you balance your your bagel nerve.

884
01:02:41.000 --> 01:02:46.880
Okay. Yeah. Cold water after workout. Right. Sure. That's the best. Yes.

885
01:02:47.960 --> 01:02:50.800
Green walking on there on grass. Yes.

886
01:02:50.800 --> 01:02:57.120
Okay. Cool. That's a cool question. Green, but before I ask myself, is this real food.

887
01:02:57.120 --> 01:03:02.480
Um, all right. Cool.

888
01:03:03.120 --> 01:03:19.200
Are you all are getting this and adding some really cool things was it. I hope you learned something different about this is your nervous system, your bagel nerve kind of this this the status you keep yourself in. And here's what's really cool to get to that place where I'm capable and I am safe.

889
01:03:19.200 --> 01:03:26.640
Boom. Here's like some things that help you. It is all in the name of am I balanced and my state and my piece.

890
01:03:28.440 --> 01:03:33.760
And God has given us. Look, most of these things don't actually cost anything.

891
01:03:33.760 --> 01:03:42.800
It's free. Maybe trauma therapy might cost you something eating whole foods cost me something.

892
01:03:42.800 --> 01:03:55.560
Some of our self care like getting my nails done. That's it's for myself care a massage. So this past week, I got a massage and got my nails done like that self care. I did my hair when I look nice that self care for me. Right.

893
01:03:56.240 --> 01:03:58.680
But a lot of these things don't actually cost us much money.

894
01:03:58.680 --> 01:04:06.800
All right, was this helpful. Okay, I'd like for you to drop in the chat right now. I know that we're five minutes over six minutes over.

895
01:04:06.800 --> 01:04:16.960
Well, I do have a whole training on self care. Would that be helpful to do at some point and we kind of dig a little deeper into that and what that looks like for each of you.

896
01:04:18.000 --> 01:04:27.920
Okay, yeah. All right, I can do that. Actually, I could teach on all of this because I lit you guys. I literally do all of this all the time. I know that sounds crazy, but

897
01:04:27.920 --> 01:04:36.480
I've been through so much that it's like if I don't like I am a mess. I am a literal mass so

898
01:04:36.480 --> 01:04:47.640
God has healed me and like I was even talking with my therapist last month and she was like Danielle, you already do all of these things like the average person doesn't even do two of these things on this list.

899
01:04:48.280 --> 01:04:59.960
And like my first therapist. I talked with two. She was like, you have a lot of this is about how do I keep myself balanced and we are each called to control ourselves and to

900
01:05:02.900 --> 01:05:06.060
And then, right, a lot of you are moms, like,

901
01:05:06.060 --> 01:05:07.740
it's really hard to care and love somebody else

902
01:05:07.740 --> 01:05:09.900
when you're not feeling cared and loved for.

903
01:05:09.900 --> 01:05:12.800
And here's the thing, it can actually be as simple

904
01:05:12.800 --> 01:05:17.020
as walking to the mailbox barefoot,

905
01:05:17.020 --> 01:05:18.660
where like getting your face outside

906
01:05:18.660 --> 01:05:19.940
in the sun for two minutes.

907
01:05:19.940 --> 01:05:22.440
I have a hammock, so I try to lay in my hammock,

908
01:05:22.440 --> 01:05:24.380
like every other day, and I just read,

909
01:05:24.380 --> 01:05:27.260
and I just rest in my hammock for like 20 minutes.

910
01:05:27.260 --> 01:05:30.260
That's something I do for my nervous system.

911
01:05:30.260 --> 01:05:33.360
Okay, I'd like for you each to drop in the chat.

912
01:05:33.360 --> 01:05:37.120
What is one thing you'd like to try this week?

913
01:05:37.120 --> 01:05:43.020
That's new, or maybe it's old habit,

914
01:05:43.020 --> 01:05:44.860
and you haven't done it in a while,

915
01:05:44.860 --> 01:05:47.300
but you know it's really good for you.

916
01:05:47.300 --> 01:05:49.740
It's just one thing you wanna try this week.

917
01:05:49.740 --> 01:05:51.380
I'm gonna need to pop it in the chat.

918
01:05:51.380 --> 01:05:54.060
(mouse clicking)

919
01:05:54.060 --> 01:06:00.660
Or maybe something not even on my list,

920
01:06:00.660 --> 01:06:02.420
something that came to your mind.

921
01:06:02.420 --> 01:06:11.540
I know, Margot, it can be hard to do,

922
01:06:11.540 --> 01:06:12.760
grounding in the winter.

923
01:06:12.760 --> 01:06:19.420
Do it, walk outside barefoot, in the windside.

924
01:06:20.380 --> 01:06:23.180
Okay, Shari said the same thing, barefoot in the cold.

925
01:06:23.180 --> 01:06:24.100
That's cool.

926
01:06:24.100 --> 01:06:28.020
All right, deep breathing.

927
01:06:28.020 --> 01:06:29.340
Awesome, Jana.

928
01:06:29.340 --> 01:06:32.140
Looking forward to how that's gonna serve you this week.

929
01:06:32.140 --> 01:06:34.780
And again, take this and like Google it.

930
01:06:34.780 --> 01:06:37.060
Do a three minute Google to give you

931
01:06:37.060 --> 01:06:39.500
some more even expanded ideas,

932
01:06:39.500 --> 01:06:41.540
because I kind of went through these fast.

933
01:06:41.540 --> 01:06:45.800
Okay, green is gonna walk barefoot in your garden this week.

934
01:06:45.800 --> 01:06:49.020
Okay, Lindsey's gonna walk this week.

935
01:06:50.020 --> 01:06:51.100
(mouse clicking)

936
01:06:51.100 --> 01:06:53.860
Okay, Melissa's gonna do some more dancing

937
01:06:53.860 --> 01:06:57.540
and invite your kids into it.

938
01:06:57.540 --> 01:07:00.060
(laughs)

939
01:07:00.060 --> 01:07:00.900
I love that.

940
01:07:00.900 --> 01:07:05.380
Okay, awesome Linda.

941
01:07:05.380 --> 01:07:09.460
You're gonna aim to turn your phone off before bed.

942
01:07:09.460 --> 01:07:10.300
I love that.

943
01:07:10.300 --> 01:07:12.140
You can even, I remember for this habit,

944
01:07:12.140 --> 01:07:14.460
I started with like even 30 minutes.

945
01:07:14.460 --> 01:07:16.540
If 60 to 90 feels like too much, right?

946
01:07:16.540 --> 01:07:18.580
You can always just start with like 30.

947
01:07:19.060 --> 01:07:21.380
I also put my phone,

948
01:07:21.380 --> 01:07:23.220
I don't even keep my phone in my bedroom actually.

949
01:07:23.220 --> 01:07:24.740
I like keep it out of my bedroom,

950
01:07:24.740 --> 01:07:26.380
but I've worked towards that.

951
01:07:26.380 --> 01:07:27.220
(laughs)

952
01:07:27.220 --> 01:07:29.820
Yeah, that's why I aim to not have it in my room at all.

953
01:07:29.820 --> 01:07:31.980
Okay, yeah, it's possible.

954
01:07:31.980 --> 01:07:33.780
Yep.

955
01:07:33.780 --> 01:07:37.020
'Cause you'll notice how like connected you are to it, right?

956
01:07:37.020 --> 01:07:39.700
It's like, oh man, I need to just connect from this, right?

957
01:07:39.700 --> 01:07:42.260
Okay, insufficient hydration.

958
01:07:42.260 --> 01:07:44.140
I think Linda pop in the chat

959
01:07:44.140 --> 01:07:45.380
what that looks like for you this week.

960
01:07:45.380 --> 01:07:46.820
Like is that more water?

961
01:07:46.820 --> 01:07:47.780
Is that coconut water?

962
01:07:47.780 --> 01:07:51.540
Is that salt water or just drinking enough for the day?

963
01:07:51.540 --> 01:07:52.980
Same for you, Melissa.

964
01:07:52.980 --> 01:07:54.940
What does like better hydration look like?

965
01:07:54.940 --> 01:07:58.220
Okay, Amy is gonna exercise the three.

966
01:07:58.220 --> 01:07:59.060
Yay.

967
01:07:59.060 --> 01:08:02.020
I see you girl.

968
01:08:02.020 --> 01:08:05.780
All right, hydration and sleep also.

969
01:08:05.780 --> 01:08:09.180
Okay, I see a lot of hydration, sleep

970
01:08:09.180 --> 01:08:11.580
and walking and breathing.

971
01:08:11.580 --> 01:08:12.580
This is great.

972
01:08:15.100 --> 01:08:18.660
Yeah, Margot, I used to do that too.

973
01:08:18.660 --> 01:08:21.380
'Cause even like with my phone not being in my room,

974
01:08:21.380 --> 01:08:22.979
here's the craziest thing I've noticed.

975
01:08:22.979 --> 01:08:25.939
Is my brain not, I'm not thinking about it.

976
01:08:25.939 --> 01:08:27.260
When it's right there, you know,

977
01:08:27.260 --> 01:08:29.580
we think about what we put our eyes to, right?

978
01:08:29.580 --> 01:08:31.300
So when my phone's right next to my bed,

979
01:08:31.300 --> 01:08:34.500
I'm like looking at it and I'm like, oh, well, I mean,

980
01:08:34.500 --> 01:08:37.620
well, I'll just, I'll just 10 more minutes.

981
01:08:37.620 --> 01:08:39.540
Or even in the middle of the night,

982
01:08:39.540 --> 01:08:42.899
when I was, when I struggled to sleep through the night,

983
01:08:42.899 --> 01:08:44.340
you know, when it was there,

984
01:08:44.340 --> 01:08:46.180
I'd grab it and the little nights are scrolling

985
01:08:46.180 --> 01:08:47.540
and it's just terrible, right?

986
01:08:47.540 --> 01:08:50.819
So not having any access to it.

987
01:08:50.819 --> 01:08:51.740
And if you think about it,

988
01:08:51.740 --> 01:08:55.220
we weren't made to be so dependent on our phones.

989
01:08:55.220 --> 01:08:57.380
And so it kind of helps break some of that addiction

990
01:08:57.380 --> 01:09:01.859
and that need that actually then can put our bodies

991
01:09:01.859 --> 01:09:04.859
into the parasympathetic state of being a chamois piece

992
01:09:04.859 --> 01:09:06.260
I don't need that right now.

993
01:09:06.260 --> 01:09:10.420
Okay, I see you Melissa, awesome.

994
01:09:10.420 --> 01:09:12.779
Okay.

995
01:09:13.859 --> 01:09:16.340
Okay, Cher, Cher, you already know.

996
01:09:16.340 --> 01:09:17.380
Okay.

997
01:09:17.380 --> 01:09:18.620
Yay.

998
01:09:18.620 --> 01:09:19.979
I'm so proud of you all.

999
01:09:19.979 --> 01:09:24.060
Isn't this fun talking about our nervous systems

1000
01:09:24.060 --> 01:09:26.060
and how we can take better care of ourselves

1001
01:09:26.060 --> 01:09:28.260
and how we remain to heal?

1002
01:09:28.260 --> 01:09:31.819
That even though some of us have that natural,

1003
01:09:31.819 --> 01:09:36.660
I can't or I can, but I can't, I won't state,

1004
01:09:36.660 --> 01:09:40.100
we have the ability to heal that and just take a look at that.

1005
01:09:40.100 --> 01:09:42.380
And again, it's not about being perfect.

1006
01:09:42.380 --> 01:09:45.020
It's just about what's one thing I can do differently

1007
01:09:45.020 --> 01:09:47.899
to take care of my nervous system this week,

1008
01:09:47.899 --> 01:09:50.899
which ultimately is really just taking care of yourself,

1009
01:09:50.899 --> 01:09:55.020
which I find so incredibly empowering.

1010
01:09:55.020 --> 01:09:58.020
I just feel so good when I take care of myself

1011
01:09:58.020 --> 01:10:00.580
and do those little, little things in the journey.

1012
01:10:04.200 --> 01:10:06.280
that's a whole nother thing. That's a whole self care thing.

1013
01:10:06.280 --> 01:10:11.920
All right, you all are amazing. You can do it. It's going to be

1014
01:10:11.920 --> 01:10:15.800
a fun week. So I bet you some miracles are going to take

1015
01:10:15.800 --> 01:10:21.560
place this week from simply deciding to take care of your

1016
01:10:21.560 --> 01:10:24.960
nervous system. Because I'll tell you what, from a spiritual

1017
01:10:24.960 --> 01:10:28.760
perspective, the enemy loves when we are in fight or flight.

1018
01:10:29.640 --> 01:10:33.680
And when our system is completely unbalanced, because it's from

1019
01:10:33.680 --> 01:10:36.880
that place that we end up doing things we regret or don't doing

1020
01:10:36.880 --> 01:10:40.720
things, right? Like, and it's also just like the reality, the

1021
01:10:40.720 --> 01:10:43.400
more that science like the more research they've done on our

1022
01:10:43.400 --> 01:10:47.920
nervous system, we see how how connected it is. And we're

1023
01:10:47.920 --> 01:10:51.440
going to see more success in your business overall. That's why we

1024
01:10:51.440 --> 01:10:54.840
do these things, right? Take care of your nervous systems to take

1025
01:10:54.840 --> 01:10:59.280
care of you, to then be able to go do these these beautiful

1026
01:10:59.280 --> 01:11:02.400
things, like building a business, being a present mom, being a

1027
01:11:02.400 --> 01:11:06.160
wife, being, you know, juggling, you all are juggling a lot of

1028
01:11:06.160 --> 01:11:12.120
things. And your nervous system needs to be at a safe, healthy

1029
01:11:12.120 --> 01:11:16.320
place, right, to be able to do that. So it starts with just

1030
01:11:16.320 --> 01:11:20.920
taking a little stuff like this. Awesome. Yeah, you're welcome.

1031
01:11:20.920 --> 01:11:27.240
I am so passionate about this that I went 10 minutes over.

1032
01:11:28.240 --> 01:11:34.000
13, actually. And I feel like I could, I actually was putting on

1033
01:11:34.000 --> 01:11:39.920
a retreat for women with endometriosis. I was like, get

1034
01:11:39.920 --> 01:11:43.120
doing that. I'm actually, okay, vulnerable here, I'm going to

1035
01:11:43.120 --> 01:11:50.720
stop sharing. I was getting a retreat together, and I put out a

1036
01:11:50.720 --> 01:11:54.320
like, feelers and it just felt so easy, because it was all about

1037
01:11:54.320 --> 01:11:57.640
like, self care and like taking care of the nervous system,

1038
01:11:57.640 --> 01:12:00.280
because a lot of women with chronic pain and endometriosis,

1039
01:12:00.280 --> 01:12:03.520
which is something I've been healed of. It's extremely,

1040
01:12:03.520 --> 01:12:08.400
extremely difficult to do those things. And so, but a lot of

1041
01:12:08.400 --> 01:12:12.280
the women were like blown away by even just the ideas to take

1042
01:12:12.280 --> 01:12:15.080
care of yourself. And I'm like, Oh, these are like so normal to

1043
01:12:15.080 --> 01:12:19.080
me. And I just forget, like, you know, it's just easy to forget

1044
01:12:19.080 --> 01:12:23.080
that all these habits, you know, can be really transformative in

1045
01:12:23.080 --> 01:12:26.680
our lives. And I've just been doing it for years. So I'm

1046
01:12:26.680 --> 01:12:29.320
excited. I'll definitely do a self care one. I'm going to do

1047
01:12:29.320 --> 01:12:31.880
I'm going to do a topic on self care. It's very near and dear

1048
01:12:31.880 --> 01:12:35.640
to my heart. And I think it's going to be really powerful. I'll

1049
01:12:35.640 --> 01:12:38.040
do that at some point, maybe in the next couple weeks, maybe in

1050
01:12:38.040 --> 01:12:42.680
April. But yeah, our nervous system can heal, we remain safe

1051
01:12:42.680 --> 01:12:48.640
to heal and to live at peace. So have an amazing week, ladies.

1052
01:12:48.640 --> 01:12:55.480
Be at peace, do this one little thing and just see how it

1053
01:12:55.480 --> 01:13:00.920
like transforms how you show up for the week, right? See, we can

1054
01:13:00.920 --> 01:13:04.120
start little and then work our way up to bigger so that our

1055
01:13:04.120 --> 01:13:07.880
nervous system is like, we can do this. Okay, it's fine. Right?

1056
01:13:07.880 --> 01:13:11.520
Because this is what I wanted to share. I was planning this

1057
01:13:11.520 --> 01:13:14.920
retreat. And then my nervous system was like, Oh, Lord, I can

1058
01:13:14.920 --> 01:13:18.840
not do this. This is insane. I do not have energy for this. And I

1059
01:13:18.840 --> 01:13:21.880
actually decided to put it on pause. And I think I'm going to

1060
01:13:21.880 --> 01:13:24.600
just do it a little bit later. I already have all the contacts.

1061
01:13:24.600 --> 01:13:28.360
I've done a lot of like, upfront work. And I'm just, I had to be

1062
01:13:28.360 --> 01:13:30.680
completely honest with myself. Like, is this really worth

1063
01:13:30.680 --> 01:13:33.360
putting on a self care retreat when my own nervous system is

1064
01:13:33.360 --> 01:13:38.960
going haywire. And I'm not okay. They're like, that's it. I

1065
01:13:38.960 --> 01:13:42.600
have to take a look at that. Like, wait, what's like going on

1066
01:13:42.600 --> 01:13:45.280
here? Right? I'm passionate about this. I love this. There's

1067
01:13:45.280 --> 01:13:48.840
people who are willing to do it. But my, my nervous system

1068
01:13:48.840 --> 01:13:51.960
actually went into dorsal and was like, Oh, God, no, I don't want

1069
01:13:51.960 --> 01:13:55.320
anyone to see me. This is scary. Right? And so it's like, okay,

1070
01:13:55.320 --> 01:13:59.840
I'm taking a look at that. Instead of it being like an I quit,

1071
01:13:59.840 --> 01:14:04.400
it's an I am not ready for that right now. But what can I do?

1072
01:14:04.400 --> 01:14:08.680
What needs to be looked at? What needs to be healed? What what's

1073
01:14:08.680 --> 01:14:12.240
my next step for myself? And that can just be like really

1074
01:14:12.240 --> 01:14:15.640
difficult decision to make. But I think it's also a really

1075
01:14:15.640 --> 01:14:20.240
powerful one. And it does not make sense to do things. When

1076
01:14:20.240 --> 01:14:22.960
our nervous systems are in fight or flight constantly, like, it's

1077
01:14:22.960 --> 01:14:26.240
just not going to happen. And that's where it's like, okay,

1078
01:14:26.240 --> 01:14:30.920
then how, how can I heal? What is my next step? Right? And

1079
01:14:30.920 --> 01:14:37.680
Oh, wow, I'm reading the system for the chat. Oh, Sherry, you

1080
01:14:37.680 --> 01:14:45.280
have, you had enemy chairs as well. Yeah, it's wild. Wild

1081
01:14:45.280 --> 01:14:49.280
times. Yeah, exactly. Sherry, what can I do now?

1082
01:14:49.280 --> 01:14:52.480
Exactly. And it's small. And in small can turn in really big

1083
01:14:52.480 --> 01:14:55.800
things. Okay, so everybody, have an amazing week. I'm looking

1084
01:14:55.800 --> 01:14:58.520
forward to hearing how this goes for you. I'm going to start

1085
01:14:58.520 --> 01:15:00.080
our call up with this next week. And

1086
01:15:03.960 --> 01:15:08.280
Bye!

1087
01:15:08.280 --> 01:15:10.280
You