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hello hey hey looks looks really nice over there Gabi yeah oh my gosh we're

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like it we got really hot a couple weeks ago and it's like the high today

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is like yesterday it was like cloudy all day like 85 which was amazing today it's

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sunny and it's a high but right now in the shade it's like amazing that's

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amazing well it's snowed here overnight so

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how I'm feeling today I want to go to the office because I was like I'm not

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leaving my house it's not supposed to snow on the 7th of April I'm done that

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is wild yeah it's melting because the sun's warm but it's cold out so it's

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like sticking around for now yeah yeah well that's a cool mug whoa whoa I love

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that yeah it almost looks like a water pitcher or something it's huge too

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I have a vitamin drink in it because I hold lots of stuff yeah yeah it's um it

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dropped into the 30s overnight here and it was just in the 60s which is really

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nice for Ohio around this time so oh it's just deceiving because I was gonna

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go I was gonna go to the 645 a.m. CrossFit but I was like skirt no I'm not

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running outside in 30 degrees I'll just I'm gonna go in a couple hours where

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it's like 45 degrees so yeah cool well Gabby did you do we want to do the book

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first and then a check-in yeah sorry I'm sorry I'm trying to set up the live

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stream yeah my brain is know it I just I saw it go so so well we've got care

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what I said oh good it's working yeah it's working yeah okay Carrie and Margo

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did you all listen to or read the first portion of the book where's my cheese

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yeah what's it called is that what it's called who moved my cheese who moved my

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cheese I'm looking at my notes right now yeah what an interesting you know yeah

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let's let's talk about it Carrie's at a water party

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work. Girl, girl, how you got a water park right now? Bring me

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with you. Seriously. Um, well, actually, wait, Margo, you're

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not able to go to the event in San Diego, right? No. Okay. I

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believe I filled out the feedback multiple times. Now.

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Yeah, you did. Okay, got it. I got you and carry to we got

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you. Sweet. Cool. I just wanted to touch base on that real

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quick. In case anybody had any questions or any thoughts on

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that. I know Carrie and john will be there. So cool. Um,

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all right. Well, I let's dig into the beginning part of this

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book about you know, the sniff and scurry and hem and ha the

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the, the mice versus the humans in getting to this, you know,

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what do they call it the cheese station? See? So what were some

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of your any thoughts or questions you kind of had in the

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beginning part of this book?

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I like the way that I'm just the way it's format is very like

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compare and contrast between the different characters like it.

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You automatically start assigning yourself. Like, oh,

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that's me, or I do that or kind of things which was like an

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observation that I appreciated, like make it really easy for

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people to like, be honest with yourself. Like, you know, I go,

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yeah, that's me. That's me. Or dang it. That's me.

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I also really love how simplistic it is, like, when

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they get into the story, and they're, they're, they're

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telling, or whatever, I don't know if it's the author or

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whoever's reading, telling the story. It's like, there's

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creatures living in a maze, looking for cheese. Like, okay,

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so really, we're just looking for this one thing. And that's

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what our goal is. And that's gonna make us I mean, it's, I

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think I like how simplistic it is just for, like Gabby said,

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like, being able to see yourself in certain personalities, or

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being able to see like, Oh, I feel like I know where this is

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gonna go with their choices that they're making. So I, I know,

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right? Yeah, yeah. I was like, wait, I think this isn't okay.

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So Hem and Hall, they, you know, relied on their thinking and

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their learning and their past experiences, and they have

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feelings and they started to get a little comfy, you know, and

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like, set up shop and build their whole house and life

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around this big piece of cheese. Yeah, I was like, Oh, I see. Oh,

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this is an interesting way to look at life. I'm very curious

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to see where this book's gonna go. And, you know, it I wrote

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down cheese is what makes us happy. And if it's taken away,

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it can be traumatic. And like the author started out the book

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like that, saying that and he said living in constant white

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water can be stressful. And I have never thought about my life

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is like going down a whitewater rafting adventure. I can't say

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that I have. And yet, that's exactly how I have felt over

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this last year of my life. Like, there's actually been not really

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any constants. Except my feeling stuck, you know, which

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is exhausting. And I really appreciated, you know, if it's

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taken away, it can be traumatic. That's really stuck with me in

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two senses of the thought on one. I'll take it spiritual on

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my end for a minute, but it's like, okay, you know, I'm

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grasping on maybe too tightly to something for it to go. But

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then also, how can how do I not? How do I not go after things

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that bring me joy and make me happy? And how do I? How is it

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not traumatic? How do I keep loose hands on all of these

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amazing things? Because the reality is, is they can be here

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one day and gone the next. That is a sheer reality. But it's not

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a reality I'm necessarily always living in, you know. So

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that that just that statement really hit me. You know, I how

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is it not traumatic? I think it's just traumatic period, if

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things are taken away from us. But do I just, I think part of

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Where this is going and carry, you mentioned it in the chat about the mindset, you know, and.

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Because then they went to the reunion and they were like, you know, I looked, I look, I'm beginning to look at change differently. I'm looking at it from losing something to gaining something.

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And I'm like, huh, that's what that guy said and, like, in the little reunion circle and I'm like, yeah, that's a really great way to look at all this. So that it.

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It's not as traumatic, I guess, when things come and go.

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Yeah, I think. I mean, Danielle, you and I are having very similar experiences, but in different circumstances, like different, but like the I like the emotions and stuff is like the feels is the same or similar.

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And it's the one thing I noticed is that. It doesn't comment on, like, it's not wrong to, like, set up your life necessarily on this these, you know, it's like, OK, cool, like there's cheese here, we like it here, let's go make a life like they don't really comment on that necessarily being another that is bad or good, but just it's just neutral.

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Yeah. And I think the same for it didn't comment on, like, what emotions necessarily you might feel when the cheese gets moved.

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I think to me, like I've been wrestling that feeling, man, how do I.

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Not get so, I guess, essentially traumatized when certain things change.

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But also, I'm like, I don't want to just be the person like just waiting for the cheese to be moved always, you know, I mean, like, it's like that concept, like waiting for the shoe to drop and it's like, I don't want to be that either, and it's like, OK, I think where I've gotten so far for me is OK to have I feel some type of way about the cheese being that emotion is fine, nothing wrong with it.

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There's a time and a place, you know, for all emotions.

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I think it is like ultimately, though.

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It is like, I guess, like, what is your cheese like, you know, it is.

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And yeah, not that I don't do this well by any stretch of the imagination, but I just like I know the only I'm like, OK, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like.

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I know the only I'm like, I'm trying to hold on to truth.

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So I know that there's emotions are neither bad nor good.

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They're there and they can serve us.

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Yeah, but I don't know.

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So that's kind of why I thought the same thing in the beginning.

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I was just like, man, yeah, like I've had some cheese move in this last year and I really don't love it.

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And it doesn't feel good and it does feel very traumatic.

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And it's like, oh, I don't know how to like it makes it very hard to move forward.

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Yeah. Yeah, Carrie wrote, the more you love your cheese, the more you want to hold on to it.

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I it was something exactly like that.

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And I do I ask myself, how do I not love something?

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Because now, you know, now I'm thinking spiritual, like God tells us the only love.

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Like the number one commandment is I love God with all my heart, soul and mind.

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And then the second is I love my neighbors like that.

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And I just think, you know, how do I not love how do I not overly love good things on earth?

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Basically, how do I not overly love my home and my future lover and spouse and my kids and my wardrobe and my food and my hair?

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Like all these amazing things I've been given to steward.

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How do I not overly love them?

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Because I do think he started the book with a really powerful statement, which is like to the degree because I've been realizing this myself to the degree that I'm like holding on to something or white knuckling something or like loving something is the degree that it's going to hurt when it goes away.

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So like, aka trauma.

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But I'm like, OK, so is the antidote to love it less?

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How on earth do I try to seek out, you know, cheese or good things, but not make them the ultimate things?

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I mean, it's the ultimate human question, like from the get go.

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I don't know.

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I'm also extremely terrible at it.

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And I'm such a like I own being a deep feeler and like and I own really caring for things.

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And I think it can be to my demise.

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And, you know, like also not to mention in like I would say in America or like this side of the world, we are really big on this dream of like getting a home and establishing stability.

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And it looking like a home and set put, like in a home and like in a community.

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created in that.

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It's actually a lot less traumatic to create that safety, right?

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To kind of post up the home next to the cheese, decorate it, get comfy.

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And yet how, like I'm curious where this book's ultimately going to go because how do I not

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do that?

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Am I supposed to be a nomad?

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I don't think so, but it's just like, I find that difficult because last thing I'll say

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about this as a, as a single woman, buying this home was a really big deal for me.

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It was a really big deal.

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It was like, it was basically saying, I'm going to trust God and I'm going to trust

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myself to provide for this mortgage on my own and it's going to come no matter what.

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And I'm going to be planted probably.

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And I was a nomad actually living in four different States and been to 34 countries.

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Nomadic life is actually really also a part of my comfort zone.

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So it's interesting because I'm like, part of me is like, oh, I could leave and like

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But that's also when I think about that, I'm like, Emma, do I really mean that though?

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Because that also feels traumatic and scary and, you know, change that's change.

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And I'm resisting that and that's unknown and, ah, yeah, yeah.

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I think for me, I'm, I'm trying to hold on to like, okay, I don't need to love things

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necessarily any less, but, or at least not automatically any less, but it's, it is that

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you love them and still, it's this balance between, and still be able to react to what

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is and not necessarily what we wish was, um, yeah, I think, and then I think that just

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gets into like a mindset.

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Yeah, it does.

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Sorry, I got distracted by a work question.

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I think I'm very similar, Danielle, like, I, I feel very deeply, I, and it often gets

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me into bad situations, because I want to hold on to something that was like, happy

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and comfortable, and, you know, made me feel good and whatever, even when maybe it's not

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doing that anymore.

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Sometimes I hold on a little bit too long, but I'm learning not to and learning to, um,

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just like, I guess, be able to, like, love the thing or that part of my life or appreciate

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it, but also detach if, if the circumstances change, and that's really hard.

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But I think where I'm like a little bit stuck in this whole topic and conversation is, I've

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had a lot of people tell me, because I've always been the kind of person who like strives

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for like, the next thing, like, I'm always wanting to grow and learn.

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And I've had a lot of people be like, why can't you just be happy where you are?

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And so it almost feels like it's counteracting that, like, I've worked really happy on being

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happy where I am, and multiple times that didn't work out.

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My ex relationship is like, the biggest example of that.

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I tried so hard to make that work and make that happy, and it just didn't, like, for

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lots of reasons I don't need to go into, but.

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So then I think, like, should I be trying so hard to just be happy where I am, or should

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I just be like, anticipating the next change that's coming inevitably, because things are

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constantly changing and moving.

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So I don't know.

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That was well said, actually.

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I think my response to that is, as soon as we switch into, I don't know, I'm sure this

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is such a huge gray area, but my instinct is like, as soon as we start to switch our

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minds, whether we are conscious of it or not, into, I should just try to be happy here.

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I think we're being a little bit like him, and this should just be going the way that

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I want it to go, or the way that it used to go.

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I don't, I'm sure you can't make that a blanket statement over everything, because I agree

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with the concept of, like, joy and contentment in everything, but sometimes I think we also

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ignore that.

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indicators of like, time to move, time to kind of be

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proactive. I don't know, like, I just I feel like I've observed

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that maybe in life.

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Yeah, I think so. Oh, no, go ahead, Margo. I was just gonna

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say, I think, basically, like extension of what you were

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saying, like, sometimes when we are so happy and content with

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where we are now, and I was kind of saying this to previously,

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like, when something does come up, that's like a, you need to

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pivot, you need to make a change, you need to move. It's

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hard, because part of what we're used to, we've decided that

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that's happy and comfortable, even if it's not good, good,

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necessarily. So it's hard to, like, acknowledge that, that

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change or move or whatever is required. And we ignore it.

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Yeah, we just sit with our pile of cheese.

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I don't want to move.

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I totally side comment. I was laughing. I laugh at the concept

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of it being like cheese, because occasionally when I'm PMSing,

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not this doesn't happen every time, but like, I'll crave

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cheese to such an extent that I'll just I want a block of

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cheese, and I'll just take bites out of the block of cheese. And

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I was like, I'm feeling this cheese concept pretty hits close

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to home, honestly.

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I love cheese. I eat a lot of cheese.

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I did have a question. I kind of wanted to ask a more like,

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practical personal question of like, you know, where do you see

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in your in your life doesn't have to just be business. Any

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part of your life where you feel like you are sniffing, scurrying,

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where you feel like your hand where you feel like you're hot.

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You know, just to take a moment to reflect and observe our own

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I'll go first. I think that generally, with like, day to day

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circumstances, like day to day operations, I'm sniffing

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scurrying, like I'm very adaptive, adaptable is like one

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of my top five strengths. I think I I'm a my brain is very I'm a

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maximizer to some very like problem solving. So it's just

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like, and I'm very strategic. So I'm also like, I'm very

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strategic. So I'm very, I'm very, I'm very, I'm very

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some also, like, those are all my top five. So like, I'm always

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I look at I'm looking towards future and like game planning

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now and just like, I think I am that but ultimately, I think

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again, it's like we're talking about cheese. So when it's the

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things that are the cheese. I feel torn, I think a lot between

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him and it will be like, I think I feel like in my heart,

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I'm, I'm where it's like, I'm just like, so frustrated that

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this circumstance and it's changed or something unexpected

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or, and I just want to be upset about it. And then my brain

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sometimes is boring, like, okay, but like you, because I have all

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these, like, I am strategic. So it's just like, but you can do

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this or this and this, and getting them to be on the same

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page, sometimes really hard. But like, for instance, like in this

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last year, you know, just like, I would say friendships and

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relationships have shifted dramatically and very

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unexpectedly the whole time. And that is something that's a that's

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a big cheese for me. Like, my chosen friends are my family, my

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family's not my family in a way. And that's been the case ever

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since I was a little kid is a coping mechanism that I learned

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from very early on. And it's always been so hard and

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traumatic for me when like a close friendship has changed or

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something or conflict or something. And that's happened

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multiple times where, like I had a friendship just literally

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suddenly stopped in the summer. We switched, like we stopped

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going to the church we were at. So that church community went

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away. My two closest friends now both are moved or are moving.

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And so my access to people has drastically gone down. And it's

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just like, man, I feel like I'm just getting hit. And I feel

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like that's where I've been like, I just want to be upset

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and just like, cry or like kind of curl up in a ball or like, I

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don't feel like I have the energy to go and like, find the

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new cheese essentially. But

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i also think that and then on the same i'm just to kind of reiterate what i was saying is like but

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my brain is always like well you can do this you can do this do this and it's like i don't want to

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do that like i just i just wanted it to be how it was right you didn't want the change you didn't

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ask for the change i wanted all these friends to stay and it to look like this for however many

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years yep yep i feel like that's like a part of the grieving process too like when something changes

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i think it's healthy personal opinion to like sit with that for a time not forever but for a time

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and i guess depending on the level of the trauma or the change or the whatever like you might need

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more time or less time but i think that is part of the like healthy move to the new option right

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if you just like ignore how you feel and start moving that can sometimes end up badly so i'm

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always for like yeah sit with that feeling feel the anger or the frustration or the whatever

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discomfort whatever it is have your moment eat your chocolate or your cheese on the couch

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and then make a plan to move on but i mean doesn't it's not always that like clean and

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nice and tidy so i can see all the sides yeah i think that in the book of a point

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cause my journey like the thoughts is like very much like what we all like is very realistic

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you know it's like we start in this like okay just one just wanted to go back i'm just gonna

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wait for my cheese to come back and then it's like okay this isn't working but even along the

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journey he's like struggling you know in the sense of like getting weak why didn't i do this or i just

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want to go back or and it was this uh what i loved though about his character is i'm assuming it's a

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him right um is the persistence like the consistency and persistence once he does choose

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to go and then that's where it's like the joy comes from like realizing i'll actually just enjoy

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this journey essentially um

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yeah

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how about you danielle where are you sniffing scurry or hemming hawk

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yeah i think this kind of goes back to what i shared in our previous book study of like

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i used to really just be like sniffing scurry like i was like that for most of my 20s i mean

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i didn't really plant plant a lot of places i it's interesting but i had a job i've always

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had a consistent like form of income but i've already i've always really embraced change

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but i have currently just built a very comfortable life and lifestyle and it's not working so

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i think i'm currently a little more like him where i'm like i don't want it to change

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i was just telling i was just telling but it needs to like i need a change but i don't it

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doesn't mean that i asked for it or wanted it and actually may 5th we're coming up on a year

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when rainmakers like made the big the big shift too and um but i had already kind of shifted out

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of my full-time role at that point with this company you know anyways but i think just like

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the whole like i deserve it like kind of arrogance of success was mentioned i think

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that was part of what we were supposed to read it and i really could relate with that statement now

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and it's hard it's really humbling

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kind of admitting i guess that i don't really want things to change i don't want to be in the

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i don't really want things to change the way that they are but i they have to something has to

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change and i i know enough about the brain to know what i'm doing and i know it believes i'm

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believing and i know what my nervous system is telling me but i have this fear i realized this

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yesterday i have this fear still this fear thought that what's coming is gonna be worse

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than what i have so i somehow need to like still like hold on to where i'm at for as long as possible

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And I don't like that. I don't like that. I'm having carrying that thought.

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But I think it's a little like of my, you know, sympathetic nervous system response.

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I think I'm doing a little like really trying to keep myself safe because it I,

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there is some safety and comfort here, but it's not fully working either. So obviously, you know,

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I'm excited for just more of this book and just more of this influence of embracing change and

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looking at it like, actually, what if it's better? Like, what if? What if it's a doorway to heaven?

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That gets me excited. You know? Yeah. I think I know how to be scurry and sniffify if I need to,

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but I, I find myself naturally being maybe a little bit more like Heming Hall for sure. Well,

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hello. I'm an, I'm a human. Yeah. I don't know. I had one other thought I want to share was I was

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like, where is this going? Because I'm not a mouse and I never will be one. And I am a human and I'm

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proud of it. So I think I, I want to be a little careful on where this is going to go. Cause I

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ain't no mouse. I will never be one. And I don't want to be one. I am gladly a human.

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So I'm like, okay, we'll see where that goes. But, um, I, what you just described with your

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brain and stuff literally played out last week. So we started going to a new church

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and we've been trying to get involved with like a small group because I'm like, this is how I

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actually will get to know people and know if like, this is where we fit. And we went and had dinner

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with a family, um, who are like, and they'll help lead a small group or whatever. And we had

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honestly a really good time. Like I keep joking that it was like a good first date, you know,

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it's like we stayed longer than we thought we would cause we were talking. But then I went home

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and had like a pretty big anxiety attack. And I was just like spiraling because there was like,

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I was just like over, I was obsessing about certain couple of comments that they made.

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Um, it was about topics that I have very strong feelings and opinions on. And, um,

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and I was just like, I couldn't understand why I was spiraling. Cause it was, I, it was like,

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this is not rational, but upon reflecting on it for the rest of the week, it was funny. Cause I

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was just like, what you're saying is like, I'm just assuming it's going to be worse. Like things

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are just going to be worse. And it makes me want to just stay where we are now, even though that's

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very much not working. And I was assuming, you know, just like, Oh, people think this. And so

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because my beliefs are going to clash and because I, the way I am is honest and, um,

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blunt and open and people are going to respond badly because that's what they've done in the

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past. And there's going to be conflict. And then I'm just going to feel like an outsider. Like

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I went down the full, full, full rant. And, uh, yeah, like it just,

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it was like, it was everything we're talking about, like tied up in a perfect situation, but

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of like the trauma, um, the thoughts of beliefs and just like being, wanting to just like stay,

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even though I know staying is like weakening, you know, it was just all that.

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Um, and I'm feeling, I don't know, I'm just kind of following my intuition right now, but like,

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I'm feeling like maybe I don't ever do this because I don't consider myself to be someone

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who has bandwidth to do stuff like this. And typically I, I don't necessarily, I don't want

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to say I don't need to, but like I do this naturally, but I'm just wondering if like we can

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maybe take a thought or something that we can take with us for this week between like now and

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between like now and the next week, like to, um, help reshape. Sorry.

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Wrong pipe. Maybe a fly got up in there.

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Sorry, that came out of nowhere. Your hair. Yeah, it's just really dry here. Yeah.

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But just like some, cause I feel like we all have a situation in mind or something in life where we

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are, and, and our fear is keeping us from taking action, but we all have awareness that that in

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awareness that that inaction is, this is different than him. Like we have awareness

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that that inaction is really not serving us. Right. Um, but Daniel, I kind of put you in

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charge of that cause you are the thoughts and beliefs queen. Well, I, uh, I think that's a

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good idea. I did want to just ask Margot or Carrie, did you all want to comment on that?

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That question that Gabby asked about Sniff and Scurry and Heaven Hole.

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About who we are?

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I think for me it depends on the day and depends on what's going on in my life.

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I definitely feel like I'm not so much the mice.

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I'm not so much like, okay, off to find the next cheese.

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I think I dwell a little bit more on the changes, but I definitely have been in both situations

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where I'm like, nope, I am staying right here.

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I am going to make this work.

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I am going to, you know, whatever.

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Stick it out.

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I'm going to be happy with what I have because so many people have told me that that's what

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I should do.

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And that's how I become more happy with my life is I just choose happiness.

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That doesn't always work.

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And then I have also, I don't remember which one's which.

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That's Ha.

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Him is the one who's like, let's go on an adventure.

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That one's Ha.

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That's Ha?

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Yeah.

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Anyways, I've also been that.

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I would say more often than not, I will, you know, go back to the routine, be like,

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this is not working.

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Let's figure out what else is out there.

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Yeah.

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Go see if there's a different cheese station somewhere in the maze of life.

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So I think it depends on the situation and the day.

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There's definitely days when I'm like, no, I'm just going to stay here and wait for my

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cheese to come back.

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No, that's really good.

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Yeah, well, yeah, why not?

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We can definitely wrap this up with like your question, Gabby, and then we can switch into,

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you know, chucking in.

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But yeah, maybe like you said, a thought, what's the thought we can take on this week

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that we want to think that would serve us?

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It's hard because I even have resistance to like, do I want the thought?

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Well, then that's usually probably the one you should choose.

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I think mine's going to be I've got to that one that popped up this morning for me, but

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God is my provider and there is good on the other side of a decision.

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I think I think that's gonna that's for me, that's what I'm going to take.

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I love that there is good on the other side of the decision.

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So often in like in hard situations, at least for me, like, I take a lot of confidence from

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like, okay, a decision has been made.

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And like, it's a little bit easy for me to commit once a decision has been made, I guess.

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Oh, well, that's how it happens, because you're not stuck anymore.

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It's the like, yeah, I'm stuck, though, which I think is partly what some of this books

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about.

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Yeah, like getting out of being stuck.

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What about you, Margo?

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I'm still thinking.

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I don't.

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I don't really know.

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I think something I've been thinking on lately is just that, like, change doesn't have to

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be so scary.

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like big change coming in my life soon that I've been some anxiety around, right?

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Because I don't know what's gonna happen.

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And I mean, ultimately, it doesn't matter.

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Like I, I, nothing is going to cause my death, or destruction.

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Like if I'm realistic, all of the options are going to be great, like all the possibility

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all the possible outcomes are going to be great, and they'll be met with whatever they

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need to be met with at the time.

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So I don't know why I'm getting all up in my concerns about it.

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But I think that's like change doesn't have to be scary is my biggest one that I'm thinking

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about lately.

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So if it doesn't have to be scary, what what could it be?

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Exciting.

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Okay, so change can be exciting.

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I think that would be good to make it more positive than like, not scary, then you're

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just saying scary all or a lot, right?

422
00:39:58.880 --> 00:40:00.040
Would you already believe so?

423
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.480
Oh, say it left.

424
00:40:02.480 --> 00:40:03.560
Say it left, okay.

425
00:40:07.560 --> 00:40:09.520
Change is exciting.

426
00:40:09.520 --> 00:40:10.360
It is.

427
00:40:10.360 --> 00:40:12.360
Okay, I'm taking that one too,

428
00:40:12.360 --> 00:40:14.580
because my friends keep telling me that

429
00:40:14.580 --> 00:40:17.000
and I cringe on the inside.

430
00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:19.580
I'm like, says you, not me.

431
00:40:20.680 --> 00:40:21.720
I'm writing that one down.

432
00:40:21.720 --> 00:40:23.260
Change is exciting.

433
00:40:31.000 --> 00:40:31.820
Good.

434
00:40:40.320 --> 00:40:42.700
I think for me, it's just like I,

435
00:40:44.120 --> 00:40:46.280
when I'm like struggling with making decisions,

436
00:40:46.280 --> 00:40:51.280
I focus on what is clear.

437
00:40:52.160 --> 00:40:54.000
Like sometimes it's like, there's a lot of noise

438
00:40:54.000 --> 00:40:55.760
and like, I don't know, like,

439
00:40:55.760 --> 00:40:59.560
I really like pinpoint on the threads that are clear.

440
00:40:59.560 --> 00:41:02.180
And so for me, like with the community relationship piece,

441
00:41:02.180 --> 00:41:04.480
it was kind of like, okay, it's clear that

442
00:41:08.840 --> 00:41:12.440
being, you know, I guess I'm trying to like

443
00:41:12.440 --> 00:41:13.720
put it in like a simple statement,

444
00:41:13.720 --> 00:41:18.720
but like not doing anything,

445
00:41:18.880 --> 00:41:23.060
not doing, taking action or making a shift,

446
00:41:23.780 --> 00:41:28.780
you know, was just, was going to result in more

447
00:41:33.920 --> 00:41:38.920
loneliness and depression and fear.

448
00:41:41.300 --> 00:41:46.300
And so the making, not making decisions,

449
00:41:46.300 --> 00:41:51.300
but like continuing to follow through on the decision,

450
00:41:58.140 --> 00:42:02.020
I guess is where,

451
00:42:09.740 --> 00:42:13.140
I'm hesitating to say, I suppose, like is where joy is.

452
00:42:13.140 --> 00:42:16.180
I don't necessarily think I mean it where I'm like,

453
00:42:17.020 --> 00:42:19.540
I'm just waiting for this one thing to feel joyful.

454
00:42:19.540 --> 00:42:23.740
But I think I'm meaning it in like a,

455
00:42:23.740 --> 00:42:27.240
I want to feel joy in this area of life, I guess.

456
00:42:28.100 --> 00:42:29.180
What area?

457
00:42:29.180 --> 00:42:30.300
Friendship?

458
00:42:30.300 --> 00:42:31.660
Yeah, so I'm specifically talking about

459
00:42:31.660 --> 00:42:33.980
community and friendship and relationships.

460
00:42:33.980 --> 00:42:37.360
Okay, so something like finding new friends is joyful?

461
00:42:37.360 --> 00:42:39.620
Yeah, there you go, thank you.

462
00:42:39.620 --> 00:42:40.900
Is that helpful?

463
00:42:40.900 --> 00:42:42.420
Yeah, that was very helpful.

464
00:42:42.420 --> 00:42:45.060
My brain is like over-complicating it, but yeah.

465
00:42:45.060 --> 00:42:46.700
That's okay, I think because you're trying

466
00:42:46.700 --> 00:42:49.540
to protect yourself and not actually say

467
00:42:49.540 --> 00:42:50.580
what you really mean.

468
00:42:50.580 --> 00:42:55.580
So for you it's finding new friends is joyful.

469
00:42:57.900 --> 00:43:01.080
Okay, good, write that down, that's for you.

470
00:43:02.020 --> 00:43:03.340
Like cringe.

471
00:43:03.340 --> 00:43:05.740
Exactly, we want to say cringey things

472
00:43:05.740 --> 00:43:07.060
so they're not so cringey.

473
00:43:07.060 --> 00:43:09.620
That's good, good work everybody.

474
00:43:09.620 --> 00:43:11.720
We all found a thought that was cringey.

475
00:43:12.160 --> 00:43:13.000
Yeah.

476
00:43:13.000 --> 00:43:15.280
That's good, that means it's triggering

477
00:43:15.280 --> 00:43:16.920
is another word for cringey.

478
00:43:18.160 --> 00:43:20.560
So we don't want that, we want to break through from that.

479
00:43:20.560 --> 00:43:24.320
That's good, good, good, good everyone.

480
00:43:26.600 --> 00:43:30.700
Amazing, well we've got about 17 minutes left, so.

481
00:43:30.700 --> 00:43:31.600
Yeah.

482
00:43:31.600 --> 00:43:34.520
Did you have a specific check-in question, Gabby, or?

483
00:43:34.520 --> 00:43:36.440
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I kind of want to tie in

484
00:43:36.440 --> 00:43:40.000
what we're discussing now with also our business check-in.

485
00:43:40.040 --> 00:43:41.960
So like with this new thought,

486
00:43:45.040 --> 00:43:48.560
how will you take either this new thought

487
00:43:48.560 --> 00:43:51.320
or what we're reading in the book this week

488
00:43:51.320 --> 00:43:53.720
and apply it in your life?

489
00:43:53.720 --> 00:43:56.320
And I kind of want to go into business, I think.

490
00:43:56.320 --> 00:43:57.840
I mean, your personal life counts too,

491
00:43:57.840 --> 00:44:00.680
but I do want to hear something business-related.

492
00:44:02.600 --> 00:44:04.380
Business work-related.

493
00:44:10.680 --> 00:44:11.520
Yeah.

494
00:44:15.320 --> 00:44:18.840
I think for me, so I just, like last night,

495
00:44:18.840 --> 00:44:23.280
launched my website and my first season

496
00:44:23.280 --> 00:44:27.360
of my 12-month workshop series.

497
00:44:29.920 --> 00:44:32.960
And I posted it in like a local Facebook group

498
00:44:32.960 --> 00:44:35.560
and I had someone sign up this morning for the series.

499
00:44:35.560 --> 00:44:39.800
So I was super stressed and scared.

500
00:44:40.640 --> 00:44:42.000
I was like, well, doing it,

501
00:44:42.000 --> 00:44:45.120
but knowing I was also really excited about it.

502
00:44:45.120 --> 00:44:49.240
So it was one of those, like, this is different,

503
00:44:49.240 --> 00:44:51.560
but it's exciting because change is exciting.

504
00:44:51.560 --> 00:44:52.400
Yes, it is.

505
00:44:55.320 --> 00:44:58.960
And I think for me, it's going to be,

506
00:44:58.960 --> 00:45:01.360
there's a lot still, done is better than perfect.

507
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.280
so it's not perfect. So there's still lots of things to like update and tweak but I wanted to

508
00:45:06.080 --> 00:45:11.920
get it up and posted so I could start promoting it because the first event is in April so it's soon.

509
00:45:14.640 --> 00:45:21.760
But I think like the fact that somebody signed up this morning for like April, May, June was so

510
00:45:21.760 --> 00:45:26.720
gratifying and I feel like that's, I know this is like past tense because it already happened, but

511
00:45:27.600 --> 00:45:31.680
it's still very fresh so I want to share it because I think it is that mindset that I have

512
00:45:31.680 --> 00:45:38.240
already been working on that change is exciting and I'm now even more looking forward to like

513
00:45:38.240 --> 00:45:43.440
continuing to work on it and I'm gonna, I'm gonna keep that forefront as I'm building out the rest

514
00:45:43.440 --> 00:45:52.160
of the workshops and thinking about how I want to like continue down that path and not like settle

515
00:45:52.160 --> 00:46:02.080
back into some of my old habits business-wise. So I'm gonna keep the like scary big change ones

516
00:46:02.080 --> 00:46:11.360
forefront and move towards them. That's good. Awesome. So exciting.

517
00:46:12.720 --> 00:46:18.320
Like conversion, that feels so good. Yeah and I didn't even know the person.

518
00:46:18.800 --> 00:46:23.680
Get it girl. Yeah so I was, I, when she emailed me to ask me a question about like, because the

519
00:46:23.680 --> 00:46:30.240
registration's a little bit clunky, but I, anyways, I got it sorted. Okay. But she emailed me to ask a

520
00:46:30.240 --> 00:46:36.240
question and I said, oh you just have to do this, this, and then I said, also how did you find the

521
00:46:36.240 --> 00:46:40.800
classes? And she was like, oh I just saw an ad on Facebook, which is not true, there's no ad, she

522
00:46:40.800 --> 00:46:45.680
saw the post that I put in the local group. So I was like, whatever, it's working, it's working.

523
00:46:46.640 --> 00:46:55.040
Did she pay for this? Did she pay? Is it pay? Yeah. Yeah. Okay, cool. Awesome. Yeah, so it's,

524
00:46:55.040 --> 00:47:00.080
uh, the individual courses are like one rate and then if you sign up for the whole season, it's,

525
00:47:00.080 --> 00:47:04.640
uh, there's a discounted rate. So, and she signed up for the whole season, which was like,

526
00:47:06.480 --> 00:47:12.080
really exciting. Well, Margo, that is so exciting. Absolutely. Yeah.

527
00:47:13.040 --> 00:47:26.720
Can't wait for you to get started so we can hear, like, week by week, like, how it's going to. Yeah.

528
00:47:29.040 --> 00:47:34.880
Yes. Yeah. Um, Carrie says, I want to try and stay flexible like Smith and Scurry,

529
00:47:34.880 --> 00:47:38.480
keep it simple and try not to overthink or overcomplicate. Carrie, this is like your

530
00:47:39.200 --> 00:47:44.640
theme for the year, like, and I think you've been making like a lot of progress in this.

531
00:47:45.520 --> 00:47:52.880
Um, so I just want to like, affirm that in you. Me too. Yeah. It's just like, I think sometimes

532
00:47:53.520 --> 00:47:57.600
when we're, we feel like we're not changing in one area, but we're like, when we're like,

533
00:47:57.600 --> 00:48:02.400
focused on it consistently, I think we make a lot more progress than we're able to realize

534
00:48:02.400 --> 00:48:07.360
from day to day. Like, I just want you to know that, like, we see it.

535
00:48:10.240 --> 00:48:13.600
It's awesome. Yeah. I agree with that, Carrie. It's amazing.

536
00:48:15.680 --> 00:48:20.560
I know. I feel like, yes, I understand.

537
00:48:23.600 --> 00:48:31.120
Yeah. All of us here, we love our emotions. Oh my gosh. I love my emotions when this morning

538
00:48:31.120 --> 00:48:35.680
where I was like, it's too cold. I ain't going to the hospital this morning. I'm saying it's

539
00:48:35.680 --> 00:48:44.720
not going up in this, but my ass was sorry. My butt was up at 6.00 AM. I had no excuses.

540
00:48:44.720 --> 00:48:50.720
I just said, I ain't getting all the covers though. And I was like, okay, is this wise?

541
00:48:50.720 --> 00:48:54.080
Or did I listen to my feelings? And I'm like, no, I listened to my feelings, but I was like,

542
00:48:54.720 --> 00:48:59.760
I made the decision. I'm gonna go right back to bed. We're committed to the decision.

543
00:48:59.760 --> 00:49:06.240
I mean, like I really, you know, I didn't, I could, when I can go to CrossFit one or two other

544
00:49:06.240 --> 00:49:12.640
times in my day, I tend to sometimes let the 6.45 AM go, you know, and there's just grace in that.

545
00:49:12.640 --> 00:49:20.480
So anyways, I gotta, yeah. I'm just thinking about that. I literally laid in my bed. I'm like,

546
00:49:20.480 --> 00:49:25.520
I'm letting my emotions win right now. And I'm okay with that. It happens.

547
00:49:26.480 --> 00:49:30.960
I did the same thing. I was supposed to go to the office today and I looked out the window

548
00:49:30.960 --> 00:49:37.360
to check on our ducks because we finally let them out of the barn a while ago. And I was like,

549
00:49:37.360 --> 00:49:43.840
oh my gosh, it's white everywhere. So then I had to go outside and lock them back into the barn

550
00:49:43.840 --> 00:49:48.320
because they get, their feet get too cold in the snow and they don't think about it. They're kind

551
00:49:48.320 --> 00:49:54.720
of dopey, but yeah, I was like, I'm not going to the office. I'm just going to say the roads are

552
00:49:54.720 --> 00:49:59.680
bad. I don't want to go anywhere. Stay with my wood stove.

553
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.840
It was discussed. That was my emotion. Yes, yes. No, not doing

554
00:50:05.840 --> 00:50:07.400
anything on that one.

555
00:50:15.960 --> 00:50:20.320
I think for me, the like making new friends is joyful

556
00:50:20.320 --> 00:50:24.640
statement, like I can insert a few things in the making new

557
00:50:24.640 --> 00:50:32.720
blah, blah, blah. And it will apply. I feel like I feel like

558
00:50:32.720 --> 00:50:35.000
Daniel was saying earlier in the call, like, the whole last

559
00:50:35.000 --> 00:50:37.960
year, like nothing has felt constant in a way except for

560
00:50:38.000 --> 00:50:44.160
maybe chaos and stress. And my brain was to say, like, in the

561
00:50:44.160 --> 00:50:48.800
future, like, there's more of that. And so like, in any

562
00:50:48.800 --> 00:50:55.000
regard, you know, and I just want to like, try to take that,

563
00:50:55.040 --> 00:50:58.000
I guess, and adapt it to every big situation that like me and

564
00:50:58.000 --> 00:51:00.080
my husband are kind of like walking through right now.

565
00:51:01.320 --> 00:51:06.320
There's a there's a few. And it's like equally hard for him

566
00:51:06.320 --> 00:51:11.280
to like, we each have our own individual way of being him and

567
00:51:11.280 --> 00:51:16.120
ha, you know what I mean? So hopefully, like, just walk it

568
00:51:16.120 --> 00:51:20.320
out a little bit more intentionally this week. Just

569
00:51:20.320 --> 00:51:23.040
like, this new thing is joyful.

570
00:51:25.640 --> 00:51:28.880
Yeah, it's amazing. I love it.

571
00:51:30.400 --> 00:51:35.440
Um, I'd love to know if anybody has any thoughts or anything, or

572
00:51:35.440 --> 00:51:38.960
questions or anything you need support on or if you'd like for

573
00:51:38.960 --> 00:51:41.360
us to just be like thinking about something for you or

574
00:51:41.360 --> 00:51:44.400
praying something for you like any request, I guess any type of

575
00:51:44.400 --> 00:51:45.080
request.

576
00:51:47.120 --> 00:51:48.200
Before we wrap up.

577
00:51:51.680 --> 00:51:55.440
Um, I think my request has to do with like actual functionality

578
00:51:55.440 --> 00:51:56.200
of like,

579
00:51:57.760 --> 00:52:03.680
rainflow and stuff. I need to work on the online portion of

580
00:52:03.680 --> 00:52:06.920
this course program that I'm building because I've had a lot

581
00:52:06.920 --> 00:52:12.520
of requests for it. And I think I can do that on rainflow. I've

582
00:52:13.400 --> 00:52:17.920
also because I started looking into it, like, that platform

583
00:52:17.920 --> 00:52:21.480
school has been like advertising to me constantly. And I'm like,

584
00:52:21.480 --> 00:52:25.240
should I just go that route? Because it's already set up? Or

585
00:52:25.640 --> 00:52:28.040
so I don't know if there's feedback or if I should get on a

586
00:52:28.040 --> 00:52:29.960
call and ask someone or

587
00:52:30.720 --> 00:52:33.520
so you're talking about online like courses or

588
00:52:33.560 --> 00:52:36.160
Yeah, yeah, I do it on rainflow.

589
00:52:37.320 --> 00:52:40.440
Yeah, but they're like pre recorded. If I want to, I guess

590
00:52:40.680 --> 00:52:43.240
if I want to do live one, I would set it up as a webinar and

591
00:52:43.280 --> 00:52:44.440
just do it through zoom.

592
00:52:45.120 --> 00:52:48.320
Well, they're pre recorded, you can still create a course, I'm

593
00:52:48.320 --> 00:52:51.080
assuming you can like embed it somehow. I'm can't remember

594
00:52:51.120 --> 00:52:55.240
exactly how. But honestly, with the new AI features on there, it

595
00:52:55.240 --> 00:52:59.400
might change everything. Like, you can give it because it has

596
00:52:59.400 --> 00:53:03.840
the whole AI agent now. Yeah. So you could be like, I want to

597
00:53:03.840 --> 00:53:07.920
create a course, here's my pre recorded videos, here's the

598
00:53:07.920 --> 00:53:11.800
layout, you know, and give that a try first, honestly.

599
00:53:13.480 --> 00:53:18.280
Okay, I would say you can do it, do it on do it on rainflow. You

600
00:53:18.280 --> 00:53:22.240
already have it. Yeah, that was my thing. Yeah, if you run into

601
00:53:22.240 --> 00:53:26.760
any issues, you can get on tomorrow's call with you or

602
00:53:26.760 --> 00:53:29.400
Tuesday call with Megan.

603
00:53:33.120 --> 00:53:36.160
Okay, that's kind of what I was thinking. I was not trying not

604
00:53:36.160 --> 00:53:40.640
to worry about it in order to get the in person portion like

605
00:53:40.640 --> 00:53:44.920
launched. Yeah, I'll do the online portion later. Yeah, I

606
00:53:44.920 --> 00:53:47.120
can record that anytime. Right.

607
00:53:49.280 --> 00:53:51.720
Yeah, I would start there before I was at least I would start

608
00:53:51.720 --> 00:53:54.680
there before moving on to school, I guess is what I would

609
00:53:54.680 --> 00:53:57.240
say. Oh, would I? Yeah. Okay.

610
00:54:00.400 --> 00:54:03.480
Harry, do you have anything? Any requests you want to put in the

611
00:54:03.480 --> 00:54:06.280
chat? Danielle, do you have any requests?

612
00:54:07.760 --> 00:54:08.600
Um,

613
00:54:12.760 --> 00:54:17.600
I am. Well, I'll let you all know this. I am looking for a

614
00:54:17.600 --> 00:54:18.240
job.

615
00:54:19.600 --> 00:54:20.960
haven't looked for a job

616
00:54:22.880 --> 00:54:24.720
ever. So

617
00:54:26.320 --> 00:54:27.200
I've been spoiled.

618
00:54:28.360 --> 00:54:30.960
Well, I had a career and then I left it and then I built a

619
00:54:31.000 --> 00:54:36.560
business for six years. So I'm blessed. I have say spoiled. I

620
00:54:36.560 --> 00:54:39.880
just feel like I've just gotten everything I needed. And it's

621
00:54:39.880 --> 00:54:44.120
been amazing. And I just my nervous system has taken a big

622
00:54:44.120 --> 00:54:47.240
hit like going up and down with income for so many years. I

623
00:54:47.240 --> 00:54:51.400
don't want this to scare anybody. This is just a decision

624
00:54:51.400 --> 00:54:56.880
I made. I just need something on the side. So it's actually like

625
00:54:56.880 --> 00:54:58.040
proven to be

626
00:54:59.080 --> 00:54:59.960
not as easy

627
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:08.320
I thought it would be. So it feels like dating in the sense of I can do whatever I want. And it's

628
00:55:08.320 --> 00:55:12.880
not all not everything is what I want. I'm actually very extremely particular at this

629
00:55:12.880 --> 00:55:18.560
point on what I do want and what my nervous system needs and what I need. So I'm not saying

630
00:55:18.560 --> 00:55:25.440
I'm leaving Rainmakers or anything like that. I might. I don't know. But my role here is very

631
00:55:25.440 --> 00:55:34.640
part time at the moment. So, you know, let's just see. But, yeah. So prayers or, you know.

632
00:55:36.160 --> 00:55:41.920
Yeah. Postings. Send your way. Yeah. I guess if you see something that's like that's Danielle,

633
00:55:41.920 --> 00:55:48.560
like send me it. Yeah. Which I don't even know. What are you looking for? What kind of job?

634
00:55:48.560 --> 00:55:57.440
So the the most recent wording was customer success manager. So basically working to make

635
00:55:57.440 --> 00:56:02.880
the customers happy. Kind of what I did here before. Margot, I don't even know if you knew

636
00:56:02.880 --> 00:56:08.160
me when I was doing that role here. Basically, Gabby's role before it was Gabby's role before

637
00:56:08.160 --> 00:56:13.600
it turned into what it is right now. So, yeah, I would love to manage people who are like working

638
00:56:13.600 --> 00:56:21.120
on the front like the front lines with people or something, you know, just heavily relational.

639
00:56:23.280 --> 00:56:27.520
With a hint of sales, I can do a hint of that. I'm really good at sales, but I need a break

640
00:56:27.520 --> 00:56:33.600
from sales actually is what I nervous system needs a break from. I need a base pay. Yeah.

641
00:56:34.480 --> 00:56:41.760
Your girl needs a base. So, yeah, I've got like a few clients. I even just had it's funny. I just

642
00:56:41.760 --> 00:56:48.640
had two people reach out to me asking me to coach them. So I might take them up on that. I might not.

643
00:56:48.640 --> 00:56:53.760
I'm not sure. I'm not sure. So, you know what? Thought that you should listen to me, but do it.

644
00:56:55.520 --> 00:56:59.520
Even with my nervous system, everything in me is like, oh, gosh, I don't know.

645
00:57:00.320 --> 00:57:04.320
Are you attaching like permanence to that? Like you coach them and just feels like a permanent

646
00:57:04.320 --> 00:57:11.760
decision. It's just the person. Oh, that's a good discernment thing, though. I know.

647
00:57:11.760 --> 00:57:17.040
That's why this is so hard for me. I'm struggling with my own discernment lately. It's like.

648
00:57:18.800 --> 00:57:23.360
And then I go to my I'll say this is a really cool thing. I went to my therapist this morning

649
00:57:23.360 --> 00:57:27.520
who's working on my arm and he's one hundred and twenty dollars an hour, which is actually like

650
00:57:27.520 --> 00:57:33.360
pretty decent considering the field. And I just I'm just not in a position where that's like top

651
00:57:33.360 --> 00:57:38.480
priority, but my health is a priority to me. So it actually tends to be top for me regardless if

652
00:57:38.480 --> 00:57:42.720
I'm not like able to pay my Internet. I think I would see a therapist before I pay my Internet

653
00:57:42.720 --> 00:57:48.640
kind of thing because my health affects every other thing, part of my life. And so anyways,

654
00:57:48.640 --> 00:57:53.840
I went and saw him this morning and he told me this. He said, because I think what God's been

655
00:57:53.840 --> 00:57:59.040
doing is breaking off the idol of self-reliance and just relying on God for my provision.

656
00:57:59.760 --> 00:58:07.280
And he said to me, he said, just so you know, God put you on my heart to to take care of you.

657
00:58:07.280 --> 00:58:15.600
And so going forward, you are not going to pay me anything. Yeah, I love it. And I'm going to

658
00:58:15.600 --> 00:58:22.720
I'm going to work on your arm until you are better. That's amazing. I know. And I said,

659
00:58:22.720 --> 00:58:26.080
OK, God's going to provide. He's like, God's got things for you. You just don't have that.

660
00:58:26.080 --> 00:58:31.920
They're just not aligned yet. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, I agree with that. So let's see.

661
00:58:32.480 --> 00:58:41.840
Let's see what happens. I I've never worked corporate. I could do it. I don't know if I

662
00:58:41.840 --> 00:58:48.800
want to, but some of the jobs I'm looking for, like 120 to 150 range and they seem like really

663
00:58:48.800 --> 00:59:00.800
fun. Some of them seem really fun. So let's see. Yeah. That's exciting. It changes, exciting

664
00:59:02.800 --> 00:59:10.240
changes, exciting. That's right. I've worked in the corporate world for many, many, many years.

665
00:59:11.920 --> 00:59:18.080
Well, I know that's why we're so on opposite ends of this right now. I'm also what I'm doing is I'm

666
00:59:18.080 --> 00:59:23.840
finding companies I align with their vision and their mission first. Yeah. Then checking to see

667
00:59:23.840 --> 00:59:29.760
what positions they have and then I'm hiring. I'm applying accordingly. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm really

668
00:59:29.760 --> 00:59:34.080
happy about that. That's like the feeler in me. Like, you know, I'm not going to go burn out and

669
00:59:34.080 --> 00:59:39.520
work for some company I don't align with. Yeah. So I believe something's going to pop up that

670
00:59:39.520 --> 00:59:42.720
I'm going to be excited. They're going to be excited to have me on the team. And I think

671
00:59:42.720 --> 00:59:46.880
something's going to align. I just don't know when that is because this is proven to be I mean,

672
00:59:46.880 --> 00:59:54.560
I've been doing this for a little bit now. So let's see. Yeah.

673
00:59:58.080 --> 00:59:59.840
I don't know if I want to share everything.

674
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:17.520
I feel like Danielle's got a pretty good idea, but I think I would just request...

675
01:00:17.520 --> 01:00:18.520
I don't know.

676
01:00:18.520 --> 01:00:19.520
Ugh, a bug in my ear.

677
01:00:19.520 --> 01:00:20.520
Not that.

678
01:00:20.520 --> 01:00:21.520
I don't want that.

679
01:00:21.520 --> 01:00:22.520
I have to go do another call.

680
01:00:22.520 --> 01:00:23.520
Sorry.

681
01:00:23.520 --> 01:00:24.520
Love you.

682
01:00:24.520 --> 01:00:25.520
Talk to you soon.

683
01:00:25.520 --> 01:00:26.520
Bye.

684
01:00:26.520 --> 01:00:27.520
Bye.

685
01:00:27.520 --> 01:00:28.520
Bye.

686
01:00:28.520 --> 01:00:32.080
My request is just encouragement, I guess.

687
01:00:32.080 --> 01:00:33.080
Just encouragement.

688
01:00:33.080 --> 01:00:37.400
I just could use encouragement for certain things and keep going.

689
01:00:37.400 --> 01:00:38.400
Keep going.

690
01:00:38.400 --> 01:00:39.400
Keep going.

691
01:00:39.400 --> 01:00:40.400
Just keep going.

692
01:00:40.400 --> 01:00:43.000
I think that's where I'm at.

693
01:00:43.000 --> 01:00:44.360
I would happily encourage you.

694
01:00:44.360 --> 01:00:47.720
I don't know what I'm encouraging you with, but...

695
01:00:47.720 --> 01:00:48.720
Keep pressing on.

696
01:00:48.720 --> 01:00:49.720
Yeah.

697
01:00:49.720 --> 01:00:50.720
Yeah.

698
01:00:50.720 --> 01:00:57.320
Keep pressing on to certain things that are just hard and scary and uncomfortable and

699
01:00:57.320 --> 01:00:59.560
all those good things.

700
01:00:59.560 --> 01:01:02.560
Well, this was fun.

701
01:01:02.560 --> 01:01:07.760
So I hope everyone who watches the recording gets something out of this discussion and

702
01:01:07.760 --> 01:01:08.760
is reading the book.

703
01:01:08.760 --> 01:01:12.200
And we'll do it again next week for week two.

704
01:01:12.200 --> 01:01:13.200
Sounds good.

705
01:01:13.200 --> 01:01:14.200
Bye, Margo.

706
01:01:14.200 --> 01:01:15.200
Bye.

707
01:01:15.200 --> 01:01:16.200
Bye.

708
01:01:16.200 --> 01:01:16.200