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kingdom of God. And not, and not, not just living religion.

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Yeah, no, not not to be religious about it to do the

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kingdom of God, which is, you know, basically the Bible. Yeah.

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So which is a miles, miles, Monroe teaching or Pedro a day

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or one on non kingdom seekers, you know, he teaches the

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kingdom, kingdom living style, which is no fine print, you

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know, so Mike, for you, it's all about the dogmatic stuff,

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right? And so as long as you guys could either compromise or

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understand be, you know, lean into each other's dogmatic

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stuff, I'm sure you'll be okay. But obviously, there's dogmatic

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teachings in all religions, where it's like, you know, you

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have to believe or you're not, whatever. So I think if you

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could, you know, let her express maybe where she's at. And you

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know what, there's a lot of people that Catholics that, you

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know, because there's been meetings, right? Like, you know,

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Vatican one, Vatican two, and there's been a lot of

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discussion. And there's been discussion for about 1000 years

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since orthos and the Catholics had a schism and dumb.

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I was learning about like the Council of Nicaea. Yeah. And

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like, that story like of like, what went down there is just

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like, so like, tumultuous, like,

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yeah. So to put all that aside, Mike, you just got to link up

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with your girl, right? Yeah, we could talk about theology and

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dogmatic till the cows come home. Men have been talking

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about this for the last 2000 years. And yeah, what's the

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true church and stuff? I'm kind of over that. I just feel like

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it all depends on what you believe, and what your lady

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believes and what you're going to pass down to the kids. So

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and if you have a relationship, maybe I'm being soft on that.

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But well, no, like, okay, like, is there a true relationship

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with Jesus? And how you express that? Is, is, I think we all

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have this, like a very similar foundation. Yeah, we could talk

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about the Trinity and you know, why Jesus died. I mean, that's

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again, theology, more dogmatic. Yeah, I think I think everybody

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needs to cut each other, each other slack, because everybody

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is going to be at a different point with their walk with God.

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Yeah. But as long as as long as the their personal relationship

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with God, and what God makes them feel what's right and

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what's wrong for them. And whether if they have a good

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relationship with God, it doesn't matter what, what, what

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style of Christianity they have, as long as the relationship with

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God is good. And you guys, you guys can mesh, right? You know,

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like, yeah. And so I forgot to hit record to the cloud. So it's

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the 27th of April, you guys, we were just talking about I went

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on a date with a police officer yesterday, who happens to be

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Catholic as well. And it was a lot of fun. It was definitely a

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little different for me. You know, on you, because I really

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was trying to put Okay, you guys, when you're on a date, you

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proceed with try to do the whole point honor, right. And so and

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I've seen so many people, but it was really cool, because she's

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like, I invited her to church on Sunday. I was like, Hey, come

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check it out. Come listen to it. I was like, I hear God. And

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like, and if that's weird for you, that's cool. We're cool.

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Like, but I like, like, but that's just my normal thing. And

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so then today, I was helping her like, actually, I sent her

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Bethany Hicks book on God connection. And how if you guys

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ever want to get better at hearing God, there's God

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connection by Bethany Hicks really well done. And there's

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another one by have a look, Cunningham, Cunnington, but, but

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but the whole thing is Jesus relationship. I like I didn't

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get recorded. But I do really, I really when I went to a Catholic

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mass, I love the richness and everything they did. I just felt

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like everybody had no idea what what they were doing. Well, I

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was one of those people. Like, do I stand? Do I sit? We did

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communion. Yeah, the Catholic Church is not very good at like,

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if you're a brand new person, like, let's say you just found

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Jesus and you walk to a Catholic Church. Right? You would be

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confused. And this is where this is why I have my little

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gripe with the church. Like, for example, right at my in Fresno

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here, in a lot of the churches, they'll have a guy from like

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Africa or something, right. And, you know, I can't understand a

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word he's saying, dude, I'll be honest. And I'll be honest, it

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also frustrates me. But obviously, there's a book that

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goes over the first reading, second reading the gospel, and

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then you know, the priest talks after, right, so I'm able to

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read everything, because I go to church early, and I try to

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absorb the word and the message of the day, just in case the guy

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up there is from, I don't care where, because I can't

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understand him that well, because, hey, it's wonderful that

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Christianity is around the world, right? Yeah. So I'm not

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knocking it. I never will. But well, I

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You know?

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And so it just sucks because if you're, let's say you just found Jesus and you

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go into a Catholic church, it's going to feel holy and respectful and like

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almost like a quiet time to inner, inner, inner thoughts, but the whole, what do

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we do next?

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They're losing people.

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And then if you get a guy out there that doesn't speak English, I can just

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imagine that person being, you know what?

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I'm not coming back here and I get it.

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I get it guys.

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I'm a harsh critic.

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I'm a skeptic.

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I get it.

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So I feel you on that a hundred percent.

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So, and she had mentioned, she went to mass and the guy was from like

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Argentina or something and she couldn't under, I'm like, they rotate, but I

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wanted to let this run out and kind of talk about it because Jackie is talking

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to some Catholic group and bringing, trying to bring singles in.

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So I have to say, I really appreciate you guys explaining it because I'm, it's

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an, it's, it's fairly new to me, you know what I mean?

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Like I'm experiencing it.

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So it's, and it was really cool, but like to be able to meet both worlds.

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And, you know, so yeah, one of the things that I wanted to check in with everybody

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today is, well, I mean, Andy's obviously he's headed to, he's, he's heading on a

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trip, so he's dating, how are you guys doing on apps?

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How are you guys doing on dating and getting out and getting connected?

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Obviously I got upward, holy and arc at the moment.

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Um, and yeah, I'm not, I'm not even trying with anything online.

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No, Kevin, you're not trying anything online.

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All right.

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I'll, I'll share just cause I'm about to be to work, but I was, I will say there

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is a stark contrast between what I have do doing in the program than what I did

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before I was on multiple apps before and just like getting, I felt like the volume

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of messages I was sending and likes I was sending just wasn't like bringing any

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results.

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So I would have one person message me and I would just put all of my eggs in that

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one basket because it was like the one message I got at the 60 likes and I'm,

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um, this time around, and it just tells me that I was going about it wrong because

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this time around I was very out of my comfort zone, did what the program told

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me to do, follow Renee's advice.

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And I'm on holy and coffee meets bagel.

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I, I have been off those apps for a little bit now, just because I wasn't

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really prepared for the more, the increased interest and, and please hear

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my heart.

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I don't want to like brag.

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I just, I'm saying I got, I went, I was looking, you know, everyone and, and

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being very, and then I got a ton of messages and I, it just got very, very

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overwhelming, very quick.

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Over the practice and pushing to video, pushing to meeting in person.

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I can't hear you, Chris.

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You're breaking up.

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Oh yeah.

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I'm going over the hill.

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Give me just one second.

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Um, so I got to get over a lot to deal, to upkeep and do it well.

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And like with all the, all the added, you know, um, and so, you know,

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and you hear me guys now that I'm over the hill.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Sorry about that.

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Um, so the, uh, I've been trying to, to be very firm with, okay.

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I'm just meeting people.

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I'm just met setting up this date.

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Uh, went on a date on actually on the way back from my vacation.

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So that was a win that vacation was amazing.

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Um, went through reading to meet with somebody.

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Um, so Mike, you and me can meeting women in writing.

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Good night.

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Um, so, uh, another date, uh, someone more, uh, local near Santa's day.

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We've met halfway on Saturday, Sunday when I date on Walnut Creek and I

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started to get this feeling of, okay, this is, this is not something I would

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do, I would choose one and I would just date them until they hated me or,

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you know, and just be done.

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So trying to keep reminding myself, no, this is, we're doing it different.

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I'm just meeting people.

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I'm just seeing what the vibe is and just, you know, and, and so it is a weird

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thing, but I, I think it's good.

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I think I'm doing it.

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Right.

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No, absolutely.

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A way to go, dude.

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I just want to give you props, right?

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Chris, Chris, how many girls are you communicating with right now?

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I have five right now that have my number and we're actively texting.

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So, um, I've got, I just said those three dates, all of them.

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I'm going to try to get a second date.

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They were interested.

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I've got two more coming.

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One of them's actually in the last year single, um, program.

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Um, uh,

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Uh, and these are most of them from, from Holy.

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I think only one of them was from coffee meets bagel.

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So you guys haven't tried Holy apparently always good.

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Um, at least for me, I, there's one that, um, is in the singles community

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here that is kind of outside my, my age range, she's 46, I'm 39.

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I'm still at that cusp that that's the difficulty with her, because if I do

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pursue that, I'm basically saying, I don't want kids and I'm still kind

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of holding on to that, I want kids.

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Um, and I, you know, maybe God doesn't have that for me.

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I got a niece and nephew.

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Uh, I can pour into them.

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I know she's got nieces and nephews would always be fun.

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Aunt and uncle, but it's still going to be a big decision eventually.

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Um, if that does go further, but again, I'm just trying to be as open as possible.

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And you're, you're telling the girls, like you are talking to multiple

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people or what, how are you, how are you handling that?

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Um, I don't, I don't mention it unless it comes up.

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I do try to, the one that I am, uh, probably I'm going to try to

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get one more video with her, but, um, she's the most like pushing

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towards single being like, uh, committed exclusive, exclusive.

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Thank you.

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And I, I've been telling her, I was like, look, I am at the

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time where I am meeting people.

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I am seeing, you know, what's out there.

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What's what's interesting.

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Um, I, what's the word that I literally, I said, I just don't want to

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put any unrealistic expectations.

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Like I am not going to drive out to writing every weekend.

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It's just not where I'm at now.

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So in the future, if we continue on, of course we can start doing that.

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But right now that's not the level of commitment that, that I'm looking for.

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And she was very open for it, but that was a, an awkward conversation.

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But for, cause for her, she just, she wants to text every day.

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She wants to text all day.

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And I'm like, that's girlfriend levels.

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Interaction.

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I'm sorry.

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I'm not there.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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That's Chris.

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That sounds like, um, last year around this time, that's

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kind of what I was doing.

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I went on seven dates in two and a half weeks.

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Um, and then, and then I did a second date, uh, look at, you

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had a second date with a girl.

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And then it just unraveled for me.

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It just, it became too overwhelming for me.

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I just felt like, especially when I went on that second day with that girl, I'm

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like, I, this could go somewhere.

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And I realized at that point, I realized I wasn't ready.

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I wasn't ready for that commitment for that level of commitment.

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And, but anyhow, I love that.

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I love that you're doing that.

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That's great, Chris.

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Oh, and how long it's been two years for you, right?

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It's yeah.

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Two plus.

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And, and I remember where I was at at that time and I actually had a very,

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very similar, uh, thing happened to me where I'm like, I can't do this level

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of no, and then I had absolutely hit the eject button, so don't feel too bad about

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that.

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Um, I think that brings up a great point, you guys, right?

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Like, so, I mean, your guys are pushing through the process that you're learning,

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you're realizing you're about your, your, you know, your capacities for doing

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things.

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It can get super overwhelming.

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I mean, dude, I, I've been overwhelmed if I'm honest, right.

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You know, and I'm, and I'm, I've run a lot, right?

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So like, so when I get overwhelmed, it takes quite a bit to overwhelm me, but

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sometimes it's just a lot.

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And then like, Jesse, you're talking about, it's like, it shows you something.

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I mean, okay.

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You guys, any dates that you go on, you should be like, what do I like?

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What do I not like?

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You should like to be assessing what it, you know, what did I like about her?

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Like what drew me to her or what, or what repelled me, you know, like you can take

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really good information if you're from all of these things, you're like, Hey, I

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thought I was ready.

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I mean, I've had a lot of gals who are like, Hey, so are you ready for marriage?

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And they're like, I thought I was, but I realized I'm not right.

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And you know, those are, those are great conversations, by the way.

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There's so much fun.

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Well, and I'm, I'm right now, really.

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I want to get to these next two dates and meet these two different people.

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Cause what I've been through that I've had so far is, um, some of these like

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warnings and some of these things to look out for have popped up.

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I've got one that is worse than the way she talked about her divorce was, you

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know, I saw some of the things they weren't about was someone made you

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need some more healing there.

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Um, but I need to, I need to not willing to hit the eject button just

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because of that, a couple of comments.

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Um, but same thing with, uh, a couple other gals, like things one just wants

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to go as deep as possible, that deep conversation, intimacy, you know, I

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guarantee you, I could talk to her at two in the morning every day, you know,

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can my feet on my, uh, on my.

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Ed like a little high schooler, right?

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You know, you hang up first.

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I know I could do that and I'm fighting not doing it

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because that's not where we're at.

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We have to, and so I want to get to these next two

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because I'm learning, I am learning,

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and that's, I hate to learn, not at the expense,

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but to learn for these girls

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because I know if I was getting attached

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and they were still dating, it's weird.

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I'm trying to fight my nature.

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The trickiest part is if you fall in love

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with more than one of them

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and it's hard to choose between them.

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That's the clencher that I have run into in the past.

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If I may, but even, Christopher, it's so good.

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You're noticing things.

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You're realizing, oh, I need to set boundaries.

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You guys remember, I think, was it last week

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or the week before, whatever, we talked about

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where I had a gal I matched with

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and Chris, she was going deep, dude.

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She was like fricking deep sea fishing

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and I'm like, and unfortunately,

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I wasn't thinking about being the thermostat

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versus the thermometer, so I let it,

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it got a little too, I didn't keep it light.

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And she ended up getting overwhelmed.

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So you're doing a great job.

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Like you guys, we have to set the tone.

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You know, yeah, and Chris, it's like,

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you're going through your process, right?

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And, you know, getting good information

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and figuring out what you want.

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Like there was one of the gals, like the divorce.

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She's like, hey, my longest relationship's like two years.

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Is that a red flag for you?

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And I'm like, well, yellow.

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It's like, you know, where are you at now?

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You know, right?

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I mean, it can be a red flag, really.

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I was like, I'd like to see it turned to green.

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But then as we, as I got to talk to her,

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I realized, well, there's a reason she's divorced.

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And there's a reason why her longest relationship

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has been two years.

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And I'm already experiencing that in a week, right?

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And I actually, I asked her a question and kind of,

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I basically said, so, you know, when you get in conflict,

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like you said, you protect your peace.

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What does that look like?

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So I was like, because there's a lot of conflict

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in relationships, does that mean you leave?

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Or, you know, and like, and then she's like,

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I just can't do this anymore.

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But, you know, I wish I, you know,

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so in a way it was helpful, but at the other time,

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I could have let it, I should have let it better

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and not let it get that deep, that serious, that early.

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Right, and Chris, I think you're doing a great job in that.

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And I just want to applaud you.

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Well, no, and I want to thank you guys

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and the community in general,

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because this is the first time I feel like

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a confidence walking into this.

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Yeah, I'm nervous.

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Just get that like butterflies things that I still,

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I still have hormones, thank God.

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And I still like get excited.

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But, yeah, I'm, yeah, I still am capable.

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I'm not, I'm not dead.

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I'm still straight and still alive.

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But the, I have a confidence that I just haven't had

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because I feel like I have tools

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and that I aren't, I'm not just at the whim

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of whatever girl gives me some attention,

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which is where I was years ago.

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Yeah, no, and that's super.

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It sounds like you're having,

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it sounds like you're having fun, Chris.

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You're having fun.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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You know what, I, it's overwhelming a little bit

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to like try to schedule all of these things,

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but when I'm there, like, it's not unpleasant, so.

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Yeah, that's great.

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I'm proud of you, dude, that's amazing.

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It's always five at one time, you know,

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it can't be one every like other month.

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It's always five at one time.

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And then nothing.

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Isn't that so true?

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Yeah, then you're done for six months.

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Then you gotta take a break because you're overwhelmed.

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It's like, you smell different, Chris,

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and then all of a sudden, bam.

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I don't know why that happens.

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Well, and you guys, so anybody else like Tim,

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other Chris, where's everybody at dating-wise?

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Kevin, you know, I know you're,

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I mean, I'm not really in a remote place,

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but people in my age group makes,

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it feels really remote here in San Jose, right?

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And I've been to pretty much every church's single group.

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And, you know, but like, Kevin,

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is that one of your biggest things is

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you're not doing online and there's not a lot around you,

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if I remember right, right?

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Right, I stopped doing online just because

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I just get lied to so much online, you know,

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and it usually ends up being that my big no-no is

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don't start asking for money and for help.

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Oh.

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And I'm very open about my financial situation

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and I've been unemployed for six or seven months.

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I don't have the money to help people right now.

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And if I do, I got five kids, you know?

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And I got five brothers and sisters,

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and one of them's living up on my homestead in a cabin

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without running water and electric.

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So if I wanna help somebody, I got lots of people to help.

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And it's not a matter of whether I wanna help or not,

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because I do, that's my problem, I'm too soft-hearted.

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And used to be very gullible and naive,

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but just if it's long distance,

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the online, you know, I don't live in a big,

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right, and I don't have a big enough population here

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to really meet anybody online in town.

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Well, and it seems like, and you know, Kevin,

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for what it's worth, and I mean, obviously,

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you know, you were talking about,

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like, maybe the Lord is moving you out of there,

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so that way you have more opportunities, right?

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Like-

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Right, yeah, if I move up to North Polis,

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it's within 10 miles of Fairbanks,

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which is one of the two biggest cities in Alaska.

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And if I go down to Wyoming, Gillette's in the,

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in the, at least 80,000 range, if not 180,

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I don't know, I haven't been down there for quite a while.

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I mean, like I said, we were praying

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that you actually go where you're supposed to go,

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and then he brings you to where you're supposed to be.

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So cool.

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Right, wisdom and direction.

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Wisdom and direction.

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Andy, I know where you're at.

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Abram, what about you, bro?

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I mean, like, dude, you should be,

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you and, you know, Chris, you should,

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dude, Abram, you're one of the funnest dudes I've ever met,

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and I love it, dude.

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So how are you doing?

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Are you not dating?

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Where are you at with that?

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I'm on, like, six apps or something.

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It's crazy.

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It's toxic.

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Is it as toxic as-

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Oh, no, two, two, you gotta do two for 90 days.

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That's the two to three.

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Yeah, so I'm, so because of this factor

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that I put myself in, I'm shuffling through

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a lot of, I should say non-believers,

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just cut it short to that, so.

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Yeah.

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And so I'll match with some nice lady,

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but, you know, she's four hours away, five hours away,

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and that just, it's just hard, man.

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And-

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It's so, you know, Abram, I have to say,

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like, there's been a couple of gals who are in Fresno,

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and I'm like, dude, I'm gonna go hang out with Abram,

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and I'm gonna-

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Dude, come over, man, but it's just,

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again, you're gonna drive five hours, right?

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Is it, is it however?

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No, no, you're San Jose?

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You're like two and a half, one way.

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I did it in one and a half once.

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If you don't hit traffic, if you just hit-

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I did it in one and a half once.

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Oh, you were going like 80 miles an hour.

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I also got like a $300 ticket.

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I was gonna say, you're going 80 miles an hour.

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Honestly, one of the things that,

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like, joining this group,

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Jackie was talking about having

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your non-negotiables from God, right?

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And one of my non-negotiables that I had to admit

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wasn't necessarily from God

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was that I wanted to meet someone, like, locally.

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And I had to throw that one away

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because I was not meeting someone trying to do that.

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I mean, I was, you know, open to long distance

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within a short radius,

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but what I needed to do is I needed to expand it

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to be outside of this country

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because, like, I just, I learned that, like,

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I basically cannot be with an American woman

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because it's just, they're very,

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they have very particular, you know,

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what they're looking for,

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and I am just not on that list, you know?

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They're really spoiled.

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So I figured out that when I joined the-

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That's a lot of women.

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Eastern Filipina website, it was night and day.

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Like, I had no problems when I joined the website at all.

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So-

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I just want to pump the brakes just a skosh.

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Like, so, okay, you guys-

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Like, 300 million women are not, none of them are gay.

485
00:23:59.360 --> 00:24:01.920
Well, no, but, well, that too, but like-

486
00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:04.760
No, I'm open to long distance relationships,

487
00:24:04.760 --> 00:24:06.080
but I was having problems getting them

488
00:24:06.080 --> 00:24:08.560
to want to do video chat and stuff like that.

489
00:24:08.560 --> 00:24:09.520
So that's a-

490
00:24:09.520 --> 00:24:10.720
That's a red flag right there.

491
00:24:10.720 --> 00:24:11.560
Like, if they're-

492
00:24:11.560 --> 00:24:13.320
That tells me that they're not very serious

493
00:24:13.320 --> 00:24:15.280
and that they're looking for something else.

494
00:24:15.280 --> 00:24:16.440
Or they're-

495
00:24:17.160 --> 00:24:19.520
I just kind of got overwhelmed with it all.

496
00:24:19.520 --> 00:24:21.600
So I decided to take a break the last three,

497
00:24:21.600 --> 00:24:22.440
three or four months.

498
00:24:22.440 --> 00:24:23.280
No, and that's a good thing.

499
00:24:23.280 --> 00:24:24.280
Like, here, let me get-

500
00:24:24.280 --> 00:24:25.880
Sorry, I want us to-

501
00:24:25.880 --> 00:24:28.120
This is a really important point, you guys.

502
00:24:28.120 --> 00:24:29.480
And Daniel, I want to ask,

503
00:24:29.480 --> 00:24:31.240
I want to hear what you had questioned in a minute.

504
00:24:31.240 --> 00:24:32.080
I'm just-

505
00:24:32.080 --> 00:24:32.920
But like, you guys,

506
00:24:32.920 --> 00:24:35.600
you need to be listening to the Holy Spirit and Jesus.

507
00:24:35.600 --> 00:24:38.920
So there was like my dream girl in, on,

508
00:24:40.480 --> 00:24:41.320
is that, what is it?

509
00:24:41.320 --> 00:24:43.080
It's near Quebec, right?

510
00:24:43.080 --> 00:24:45.840
And I'm like, and she mounted a match.

511
00:24:46.680 --> 00:24:48.880
And you guys, I pray about every match.

512
00:24:48.880 --> 00:24:51.200
And I'm like, Lord, can I go?

513
00:24:51.200 --> 00:24:54.160
Because it was long distance, this commitment, you guys.

514
00:24:54.160 --> 00:24:55.000
Right?

515
00:24:55.000 --> 00:24:56.080
Like, I mean, like, and so,

516
00:24:56.080 --> 00:24:58.480
so before you get into a long distance,

517
00:24:58.480 --> 00:24:59.600
and I would say,

518
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:06.560
vetted in the group is such a better idea than what I've been doing. But he told me not,

519
00:25:06.560 --> 00:25:13.280
and I asked like seven times, and every single time the Lord's like, nope. And I'm like,

520
00:25:13.280 --> 00:25:21.040
can we negotiate? He's like, nope. And Andy, it is good.

521
00:25:24.800 --> 00:25:29.600
God has a path for all you guys, right? I mean, there's 1,400 women in our group, you guys,

522
00:25:29.600 --> 00:25:35.200
and there's like freaking 30 of us. So like the odds are like you're fishing in like the hatchery.

523
00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:40.640
It's just not fair. It's just a matter of like aligning.

524
00:25:40.640 --> 00:25:45.200
Yeah. And I think, Mike, one thing that you were talking about earlier, like Jackie wants to bring

525
00:25:45.200 --> 00:25:48.960
like Catholics on board with this. I think that was like the biggest issue I was running into,

526
00:25:48.960 --> 00:25:54.160
because like I am the type of person, I'm Catholic, and I kind of need to be with another

527
00:25:54.160 --> 00:25:58.640
Catholic. And there wasn't enough Catholics to be matched with in this community. And I think

528
00:25:58.640 --> 00:26:05.600
that would really help, you know. And it's an influx of different, like, and so you guys,

529
00:26:05.600 --> 00:26:10.000
Jackie does a lot. I don't know. I mean, I've known her for,

530
00:26:11.920 --> 00:26:17.600
I knew her before I was in the group, right? I met her, you know, in Reading. But like,

531
00:26:17.600 --> 00:26:25.600
she is on always trying to get people in. There's a, on First Year Single, there's

532
00:26:26.320 --> 00:26:29.840
kind of a dating thing on there to fill out and everything, a profile to get

533
00:26:29.840 --> 00:26:37.520
known by the group or whatever. Is that correct? I'm not sure. Usually, okay, so she has,

534
00:26:38.320 --> 00:26:45.040
you guys, because I had so much interest when I, like, I'm not doing long distance right now,

535
00:26:45.040 --> 00:26:50.000
right? Because like, I don't feel like I'm allowed to, you know, I've been asking for the Lord to

536
00:26:50.000 --> 00:26:57.040
remove that kibosh, because I'd be married in like, 15 minutes. But, you know, and I'm proceeding

537
00:26:57.040 --> 00:27:02.400
with caution in that, because it's, but that's between me and the Lord. But you guys, do a

538
00:27:02.400 --> 00:27:12.400
spotlight, right? You know, and, and there, this thing, there's, they're doing a lot behind the

539
00:27:12.400 --> 00:27:16.320
scenes, they're tweaking a lot of things, they're getting a lot of things better, right? And do

540
00:27:16.320 --> 00:27:21.360
spotlights. Like, like I said, my Facebook blew up. So if you don't, if you wonder why I'm not on

541
00:27:21.360 --> 00:27:28.160
the co-ed calls, I want to come in as Antigua by Toya and have my freaking, and have my, my video

542
00:27:28.160 --> 00:27:34.800
off just so I can hang out. But, but because, so, but if you're ready, like, get spotlighted, get

543
00:27:34.800 --> 00:27:42.640
connected, right? So, yeah. Did you have something to say? Or Dan, you want, you want to, did you

544
00:27:42.640 --> 00:27:52.000
have something to say, Dan? All right, cool. All right. I know Hunter's, dude, Hunter, you shaved,

545
00:27:52.000 --> 00:27:58.080
you shaved, bro. You're looking clean, dude. Baby face. Come on. Like, who is that guy? Someone said

546
00:27:58.080 --> 00:28:03.520
I'm like five or ten years younger now. You do. Yeah. And I had to get the haircut and the beard

547
00:28:03.520 --> 00:28:08.640
because I was becoming a shaggy dog and my boss was like, when are you going to shave? Well, I did.

548
00:28:09.360 --> 00:28:17.520
And look, my ear's all fixed. That's cool. No more call for our era. No, but I'm just spend this week,

549
00:28:17.520 --> 00:28:20.880
rest of this week healed. And I'm going to next week, go ahead and for the rest of the month, I'm going to go

550
00:28:20.880 --> 00:28:26.800
back to jujitsu. That's cool. So, I know, Hunter, you've been talking to ladies. So we're kind of

551
00:28:26.800 --> 00:28:32.960
just checking in and see where everybody's at. Well, Abram's on the apps. Andy's heading on a trip.

552
00:28:33.600 --> 00:28:38.720
Kevin's going to looks like he's going to be maybe transitioning to a new place with new faces.

553
00:28:40.400 --> 00:28:43.840
Dan, what about you? Are you on any apps? Are you doing any?

554
00:28:49.040 --> 00:28:49.600
Where are you at?

555
00:28:55.520 --> 00:28:59.120
Is he really low for anybody but me? Yeah, I can barely hear you. It's hard to hear you, Dan.

556
00:29:03.280 --> 00:29:05.040
Try again, bro.

557
00:29:10.160 --> 00:29:14.080
You sound kind of like a robot. Yeah. Like a muffled robot.

558
00:29:14.080 --> 00:29:15.680
Like, yeah, I can't hear a word you're saying.

559
00:29:17.760 --> 00:29:19.520
Try again. Get closer. Get closer.

560
00:29:20.880 --> 00:29:25.280
They're in his ears. The mics are... So, Dan, we just...

561
00:29:25.280 --> 00:29:27.120
You can take one out. What if you took one out and put it...

562
00:29:28.080 --> 00:29:34.000
I don't... I've never used... I don't like Bluetooth near my brain. I just thought,

563
00:29:34.000 --> 00:29:36.800
like, with all that, it just doesn't seem like a great idea to me.

564
00:29:38.160 --> 00:29:42.800
The only thing I know is that my hair, even though, ladies, I think the beard's masculine,

565
00:29:42.800 --> 00:29:47.040
I will say this. Relax, girls. And so, my spearmint, it will always grow back.

566
00:29:47.760 --> 00:29:53.680
Yeah. So, I actually grew my goat back out because I had, like, 20-year-olds hitting on me.

567
00:29:53.680 --> 00:29:59.040
And I'm like, dude, I can introduce you to my son. He's your age.

568
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:10.240
So, Mr. Henshaw, yeah, hang on, I'm just checking, Mr. Henshaw, are you around?

569
00:30:10.240 --> 00:30:11.240
You feel like chatting?

570
00:30:11.240 --> 00:30:12.240
Mr. Tim?

571
00:30:12.240 --> 00:30:13.240
I'm here.

572
00:30:13.240 --> 00:30:14.240
I got here late tonight.

573
00:30:14.240 --> 00:30:15.240
How you doing, bud?

574
00:30:15.240 --> 00:30:16.240
I'm doing all right.

575
00:30:16.240 --> 00:30:27.040
I ran into a situation today just going around doing DoorDash that, like, I wasn't expecting

576
00:30:27.040 --> 00:30:30.640
at all, but I think it was helpful.

577
00:30:30.640 --> 00:30:37.480
I just ran into somebody, like, out and about, but it was not, it was, like, they were friendly

578
00:30:37.480 --> 00:30:43.000
in that, but something was very off with them, and I think they were trying to, like, push

579
00:30:43.000 --> 00:30:44.280
for something more.

580
00:30:44.280 --> 00:30:49.800
Just a cool stranger I bumped into at a restaurant, and they ended up getting the help they needed

581
00:30:49.800 --> 00:30:51.440
with somebody else.

582
00:30:51.440 --> 00:30:55.840
They asked me for a ride across the town, and I'm just like, that's kind of weird, you

583
00:30:55.840 --> 00:30:56.840
know?

584
00:30:57.640 --> 00:30:58.640
Yeah, it's pretty bizarre.

585
00:30:58.640 --> 00:31:06.640
But the good thing about it is that, yeah, in the past, that could have been, like, a

586
00:31:06.640 --> 00:31:11.880
tempting situation to go the wrong way, but, like, it didn't even faze me.

587
00:31:11.880 --> 00:31:17.320
Like, I felt, like, almost instantly that something was off about this person, so, yeah.

588
00:31:17.320 --> 00:31:20.720
Even though they were young and cute, you know, so, yeah.

589
00:31:20.720 --> 00:31:22.480
Way to go.

590
00:31:22.480 --> 00:31:23.480
And so, how are you doing?

591
00:31:23.480 --> 00:31:24.480
I mean, are you back dating?

592
00:31:25.480 --> 00:31:30.200
Are you still processing, getting, are you on the apps or anything?

593
00:31:30.200 --> 00:31:36.320
I think with what someone just mentioned, I guess I still have some non-negotiables

594
00:31:36.320 --> 00:31:39.760
that are all about me and not really real, real ones.

595
00:31:39.760 --> 00:31:43.760
Well, their preference is to not, non-negotiables, right?

596
00:31:43.760 --> 00:31:44.760
Yeah.

597
00:31:44.760 --> 00:31:48.080
And, dude, you guys, that's hard.

598
00:31:48.080 --> 00:31:51.560
Sometimes it's really hard to figure out which one those are, right?

599
00:31:51.560 --> 00:31:52.560
Yeah.

600
00:31:52.560 --> 00:31:53.560
Sorry.

601
00:31:53.640 --> 00:31:58.120
Like Jackie said, if the person, I loved how she said it, she said it, she was like, if

602
00:31:58.120 --> 00:32:04.600
the person, you're dating a person and everything else is perfect but this one thing, you know,

603
00:32:04.600 --> 00:32:07.800
if that's a deal-breaker for you, then that's a non-negotiable, right?

604
00:32:07.800 --> 00:32:11.840
Yeah, I have to be honest, I'm almost like the opposite of Andy.

605
00:32:11.840 --> 00:32:15.520
It's just, like, there's a part of me that's like, I'm not interested if they are local

606
00:32:15.520 --> 00:32:21.400
because I don't really, I really kind of want to move to someplace new, to be honest, so

607
00:32:21.400 --> 00:32:23.280
I'm kind of weird that way.

608
00:32:24.000 --> 00:32:27.080
Well, I mean, everybody has their lane, right?

609
00:32:27.080 --> 00:32:31.120
I mean, and everybody has their way of doing things.

610
00:32:31.120 --> 00:32:38.280
I mean, long distance is, I mean, it's kind of a, it's a sprint versus, like, local, you

611
00:32:38.280 --> 00:32:44.640
can have, you can savor it, you can take your time a little more, but long distance, you

612
00:32:44.640 --> 00:32:48.560
kind of need to get in person and you need to move and see if you actually want that

613
00:32:48.600 --> 00:32:55.480
because, and you guys, I've shared this before and I'll probably share it again.

614
00:32:55.480 --> 00:33:04.720
I've had two or three, I don't know, several experiences where our online was phenomenal,

615
00:33:04.720 --> 00:33:05.720
right?

616
00:33:05.720 --> 00:33:09.560
Like, and I'm like, oh my gosh, I found the one, you know, and then we met in person and

617
00:33:09.560 --> 00:33:17.640
I'm like, oh, this is a trainer and so, like, because sometimes it's, they feel safe in

618
00:33:17.720 --> 00:33:21.240
the online realm, but then you get in person and they have triggers and that was kind of

619
00:33:21.240 --> 00:33:22.240
what happened with me.

620
00:33:22.240 --> 00:33:23.240
And I'm a ginormous dude.

621
00:33:23.240 --> 00:33:29.440
And like, so if you have issues with men and masculine men and giant masculine men, then,

622
00:33:29.440 --> 00:33:32.240
you know, but yeah.

623
00:33:32.240 --> 00:33:41.760
So David, I just, take some steps, you know, I would encourage you, Mr. Henshaw, like.

624
00:33:41.760 --> 00:33:45.200
I'm not on the apps now or anything, really, I haven't really been doing anything.

625
00:33:45.760 --> 00:33:50.920
Lately, I've been working a long hours for like the past 10 days, but I kind of need

626
00:33:50.920 --> 00:33:51.920
to.

627
00:33:51.920 --> 00:33:57.040
So in working the long hours, what would it look, would it be possible, would it be possible

628
00:33:57.040 --> 00:34:01.080
for you to distill your non-negotiable list?

629
00:34:01.080 --> 00:34:06.120
So when you do have the opportunity that you can move forward, does that make sense?

630
00:34:06.120 --> 00:34:10.360
Yeah, it's definitely something to look into, like, yeah.

631
00:34:10.360 --> 00:34:15.440
So, so can we, can we, I mean, next week, can we chat about it?

632
00:34:15.440 --> 00:34:20.320
Like what you kind of, or wrestle with it if you have things to think about, does that

633
00:34:20.320 --> 00:34:24.000
sound like a plan for two weeks?

634
00:34:24.000 --> 00:34:26.239
I just want to get you moving, bro.

635
00:34:26.239 --> 00:34:31.719
You know, like you're an amazing dude and I know you've had, the enemy always comes

636
00:34:31.719 --> 00:34:37.440
at us to like try to stop us, but whoever gets to marry you is going to be a one blessed

637
00:34:37.440 --> 00:34:38.440
gal.

638
00:34:38.520 --> 00:34:45.800
And I just really want you to, if I can help like to get you there and rejoice, right?

639
00:34:45.800 --> 00:34:46.800
Yeah.

640
00:34:46.800 --> 00:34:49.080
And I know you've been through the fire, right?

641
00:34:49.080 --> 00:34:50.480
I've been through the fire, bro.

642
00:34:50.480 --> 00:34:56.040
I can understand why you're reticent to do things, but you know, I would love it if you

643
00:34:56.040 --> 00:35:00.040
got that list down and like, and really kind of just thought about it.

644
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.240
And so that way, when you do find somebody,

645
00:35:03.240 --> 00:35:05.120
you can be like, yeah.

646
00:35:05.120 --> 00:35:06.600
Like this gal that I'm dating right now,

647
00:35:06.600 --> 00:35:09.080
like the police officer, never actually,

648
00:35:09.080 --> 00:35:13.280
dude, you guys, that was never even in my grid.

649
00:35:13.280 --> 00:35:15.480
And then I'm like, I don't even know how I feel about this.

650
00:35:15.480 --> 00:35:17.560
I'm like, well, it's not a non-negotiable

651
00:35:17.560 --> 00:35:19.560
because it was never even on my list,

652
00:35:19.560 --> 00:35:23.880
but I'm like, and it's a yes until it's a no.

653
00:35:23.880 --> 00:35:26.320
But like, then I'm like, I wonder if she could take me.

654
00:35:26.320 --> 00:35:31.280
Like, I was like, no, she just tased me

655
00:35:31.280 --> 00:35:33.080
and that wouldn't be any fun, right?

656
00:35:35.440 --> 00:35:38.280
My previous one was a yes until it was a no.

657
00:35:38.280 --> 00:35:40.960
You know, one where I had two video chats.

658
00:35:40.960 --> 00:35:41.960
Yeah.

659
00:35:41.960 --> 00:35:44.000
Well, and when I was talking about you guys

660
00:35:44.000 --> 00:35:45.800
and why we're asking and why we're doing this

661
00:35:45.800 --> 00:35:46.720
and why I'm trying to encourage,

662
00:35:46.720 --> 00:35:49.120
and I love Christopher's, you know,

663
00:35:49.120 --> 00:35:52.120
and like you guys were, if you're not in it,

664
00:35:52.120 --> 00:35:54.120
you can't win it, right?

665
00:35:54.720 --> 00:35:59.720
And not to be in it just to get bludgeoned and bloodied,

666
00:36:01.360 --> 00:36:03.760
right, but like to be growing and like,

667
00:36:03.760 --> 00:36:07.120
oh, like my online skills have gotten

668
00:36:07.120 --> 00:36:08.560
a heck of a lot better.

669
00:36:08.560 --> 00:36:09.480
Still not great.

670
00:36:10.640 --> 00:36:14.800
You know, I've run into so many bear traps,

671
00:36:14.800 --> 00:36:18.680
but so yeah, and I saw Tim a minute ago.

672
00:36:18.680 --> 00:36:19.520
Sorry, Tim, are you-

673
00:36:19.520 --> 00:36:20.360
Let's try Dan.

674
00:36:20.360 --> 00:36:21.200
Let's try Dan.

675
00:36:21.200 --> 00:36:22.520
He's got new gear on.

676
00:36:22.520 --> 00:36:23.440
He's got new hardware.

677
00:36:23.560 --> 00:36:24.400
Dan's got new gears on?

678
00:36:24.400 --> 00:36:25.480
He's got new hardware on, yeah.

679
00:36:25.480 --> 00:36:26.320
All right.

680
00:36:26.320 --> 00:36:28.320
Okay, Dan, can we hear you now?

681
00:36:28.320 --> 00:36:29.160
Hopefully.

682
00:36:29.160 --> 00:36:30.080
Yes!

683
00:36:30.080 --> 00:36:30.920
Touchdown!

684
00:36:32.120 --> 00:36:35.040
All I had to do was just switch to my gym gear, so.

685
00:36:35.040 --> 00:36:35.960
Oh yeah.

686
00:36:35.960 --> 00:36:38.720
So are you in the game?

687
00:36:38.720 --> 00:36:40.560
I suppose so.

688
00:36:41.800 --> 00:36:45.440
I started, I already did the hard work thing.

689
00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:47.400
I got in contact with a coach.

690
00:36:48.800 --> 00:36:52.280
I'm just kind of like following like what her advice is.

691
00:36:52.320 --> 00:36:53.160
She recommends-

692
00:36:53.160 --> 00:36:54.440
Dude, go!

693
00:36:54.440 --> 00:36:56.040
Well, the thing is like she recommends,

694
00:36:56.040 --> 00:36:57.720
she's like, how do you feel about online dating?

695
00:36:57.720 --> 00:37:00.160
I'm like, let's like, let me tell you something.

696
00:37:01.640 --> 00:37:04.560
Six different dating apps in five years,

697
00:37:04.560 --> 00:37:06.680
not a single like a response thing.

698
00:37:06.680 --> 00:37:08.560
I don't know if I have the heart to do that again,

699
00:37:08.560 --> 00:37:10.960
unless I get help or something like that.

700
00:37:10.960 --> 00:37:11.800
Yeah.

701
00:37:11.800 --> 00:37:12.840
So then she was like, okay,

702
00:37:12.840 --> 00:37:16.280
just go spend these next two weeks or so

703
00:37:16.280 --> 00:37:17.400
going to some events,

704
00:37:17.400 --> 00:37:20.040
just like have a pad handy,

705
00:37:20.040 --> 00:37:24.000
write down like what somebody says that like interests me

706
00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:25.480
and you know, why I go.

707
00:37:25.480 --> 00:37:27.720
And then we'll take it from there

708
00:37:27.720 --> 00:37:31.200
in terms of how I could connect with these people.

709
00:37:31.200 --> 00:37:34.240
And I'm just waiting to hear back from that coach,

710
00:37:34.240 --> 00:37:37.080
but we'll see what happens.

711
00:37:37.080 --> 00:37:38.680
So like, Dan, get out there, right?

712
00:37:38.680 --> 00:37:39.960
And when you're out there,

713
00:37:42.280 --> 00:37:46.200
get gussied up, take good pictures for your profile.

714
00:37:46.200 --> 00:37:49.520
Think of every time you go out somewhere as a profile thing,

715
00:37:49.520 --> 00:37:51.880
because really what people want to see on profiles

716
00:37:51.880 --> 00:37:52.720
is you living.

717
00:37:52.720 --> 00:37:55.520
So go out and live and take pictures of it.

718
00:37:55.520 --> 00:37:58.960
You know, no gym, fish pictures.

719
00:37:58.960 --> 00:38:00.280
I don't forget what it was.

720
00:38:00.280 --> 00:38:04.440
Like if you combine all the worst pictures in the world,

721
00:38:04.440 --> 00:38:05.280
like, you know.

722
00:38:06.600 --> 00:38:09.880
I traveled abroad and I hope I picked up some good selfies.

723
00:38:09.880 --> 00:38:10.720
Yeah.

724
00:38:10.720 --> 00:38:12.480
And so I would like, I have my friend,

725
00:38:12.480 --> 00:38:15.120
like my profile pictures, my friend took.

726
00:38:15.120 --> 00:38:16.160
I was like, hey, you know,

727
00:38:16.160 --> 00:38:17.920
well, I mean, I was doing an event with her.

728
00:38:18.920 --> 00:38:23.920
But like, I think that's a thing that I take terrible pictures.

729
00:38:24.680 --> 00:38:28.080
So like having somebody has been super helpful.

730
00:38:29.280 --> 00:38:30.120
Cool.

731
00:38:30.120 --> 00:38:32.640
Well, hey, Dan, I'm really glad that you're in the game.

732
00:38:32.640 --> 00:38:33.920
And dude, I get the whole,

733
00:38:33.920 --> 00:38:36.240
like the first time I was on 12 apps

734
00:38:36.240 --> 00:38:39.800
and it was brutal, right?

735
00:38:39.800 --> 00:38:42.480
Like, well, and I was not,

736
00:38:43.480 --> 00:38:48.320
the height was 12 because some of them were just terrible.

737
00:38:48.320 --> 00:38:49.920
And I mean, I got on them and I'm like,

738
00:38:49.920 --> 00:38:51.520
yeah, no, we're good.

739
00:38:51.520 --> 00:38:54.200
So I, but I had 12 at one time.

740
00:38:54.200 --> 00:38:55.600
That's my record.

741
00:38:55.600 --> 00:38:56.760
Now I'm on three.

742
00:38:58.280 --> 00:39:00.320
I don't do Bumble or Hinge anymore

743
00:39:00.320 --> 00:39:03.400
because I was having escorts offer me services.

744
00:39:03.400 --> 00:39:06.960
And it just seems to just boobs everyone.

745
00:39:06.960 --> 00:39:10.200
And you guys, to keep your purity, some of these things,

746
00:39:10.200 --> 00:39:12.040
you need to limit your exposure

747
00:39:12.600 --> 00:39:14.840
because even if they're unattractive,

748
00:39:14.840 --> 00:39:17.320
like just the constant looking at,

749
00:39:17.320 --> 00:39:19.400
it's gonna get your testosterone up.

750
00:39:19.400 --> 00:39:23.080
So be careful of that little pitfall

751
00:39:23.080 --> 00:39:24.760
because that's not super awesome.

752
00:39:24.760 --> 00:39:26.080
Right.

753
00:39:26.080 --> 00:39:28.360
And then, like I say, dude,

754
00:39:28.360 --> 00:39:29.960
I have like escorts messaging me.

755
00:39:29.960 --> 00:39:33.960
They're like, hey, and I'm like, look, see you later.

756
00:39:34.920 --> 00:39:37.120
Anyways, but like, that's why I'm on Arc and Holy.

757
00:39:37.120 --> 00:39:39.240
And I really, yeah.

758
00:39:39.240 --> 00:39:40.080
Oh, okay.

759
00:39:40.960 --> 00:39:41.800
All right.

760
00:39:42.560 --> 00:39:44.160
So, hey, Tim, can you just talk to me?

761
00:39:44.160 --> 00:39:45.080
Sorry, sorry, Tim.

762
00:39:45.080 --> 00:39:46.080
I was reading Tim's thing.

763
00:39:46.080 --> 00:39:47.840
So just be careful with that.

764
00:39:49.160 --> 00:39:50.840
You know, Coffee Meets Bagel is pretty cool,

765
00:39:50.840 --> 00:39:53.440
but I think they're area specific.

766
00:39:53.440 --> 00:39:57.840
And they're, for me, this is gonna sound super terrible,

767
00:39:57.840 --> 00:39:58.680
but oh well.

768
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.000
I find Asian women beautiful, but not attractive, if that makes sense.

769
00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:10.000
And so coffee meets bagel in my area is like 95% Asian.

770
00:40:10.000 --> 00:40:11.000
Right?

771
00:40:11.000 --> 00:40:15.200
Like, and so, and dude, I got so many freaking hits on that.

772
00:40:15.200 --> 00:40:17.000
Do you like pho, Mike?

773
00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:19.000
Do you like pho and ramen?

774
00:40:19.000 --> 00:40:20.000
I hate pho.

775
00:40:20.000 --> 00:40:21.000
Do you like pho?

776
00:40:21.000 --> 00:40:22.000
You hate pho?

777
00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:23.000
I'm not a soup, dude.

778
00:40:23.000 --> 00:40:24.000
Give me a steak.

779
00:40:24.000 --> 00:40:25.000
You're not a soup?

780
00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:26.000
Well, it's not going to work out with the Asians.

781
00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:27.000
That's it.

782
00:40:27.000 --> 00:40:28.000
Boom.

783
00:40:28.000 --> 00:40:29.000
It's over.

784
00:40:30.000 --> 00:40:31.000
And I don't like fish.

785
00:40:31.000 --> 00:40:33.000
And I don't like fish.

786
00:40:33.000 --> 00:40:34.000
You don't like fish eyeballs?

787
00:40:34.000 --> 00:40:35.000
Oh, okay.

788
00:40:35.000 --> 00:40:39.000
This was before I started puking on my computer.

789
00:40:39.000 --> 00:40:41.000
So anyway, so like, um,

790
00:40:41.000 --> 00:40:43.000
Sounds like a big problem to have, man.

791
00:40:43.000 --> 00:40:50.000
So, and, and the thing is, so anyway, watch now.

792
00:40:50.000 --> 00:40:51.000
That's great.

793
00:40:51.000 --> 00:40:56.000
Anyway, like, you know, it's funny because usually when you have something,

794
00:40:56.000 --> 00:40:57.000
the lawyer's like, oh, let's work on that.

795
00:40:57.000 --> 00:41:01.000
But, um, but my, my whole thing, coffee meets bagel for me that,

796
00:41:01.000 --> 00:41:04.000
but if, if you like Asian women, like it started by an Asian couple,

797
00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:05.000
if I remember, right.

798
00:41:05.000 --> 00:41:07.000
I really like it.

799
00:41:07.000 --> 00:41:08.000
I really like it.

800
00:41:08.000 --> 00:41:09.000
I like how they did it.

801
00:41:09.000 --> 00:41:10.000
It's limited.

802
00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:15.000
Um, but, uh, Arc Holy upward and Holy are the ones that have been really

803
00:41:15.000 --> 00:41:16.000
hitting for me.

804
00:41:16.000 --> 00:41:19.000
Um, Arc, I've had a couple of really quality.

805
00:41:19.000 --> 00:41:22.000
Um, it just didn't work.

806
00:41:22.000 --> 00:41:23.000
Right.

807
00:41:23.000 --> 00:41:24.000
Yeah.

808
00:41:24.000 --> 00:41:25.000
And so, um,

809
00:41:25.000 --> 00:41:27.000
I'm going to be in Fresno one of these days and I'm going to hang out with

810
00:41:27.000 --> 00:41:29.000
Abram. I'm going to go on a date, you know?

811
00:41:29.000 --> 00:41:31.000
Uh, well, and, and that's something to you guys.

812
00:41:31.000 --> 00:41:33.000
I mean, I wish I had a place where I'd be like, Hey,

813
00:41:33.000 --> 00:41:35.000
if there's something that says they come crash on my pad and, um,

814
00:41:35.000 --> 00:41:37.000
hopefully the Lord will bring that.

815
00:41:37.000 --> 00:41:39.000
But, um, oh shoot.

816
00:41:39.000 --> 00:41:40.000
It's five 55.

817
00:41:40.000 --> 00:41:41.000
What the heck?

818
00:41:41.000 --> 00:41:44.000
How did we go through the almost a whole hour?

819
00:41:44.000 --> 00:41:48.000
Hey, uh, so Tim, can you just, can you speak on audio?

820
00:41:48.000 --> 00:41:49.000
Where are you at?

821
00:41:49.000 --> 00:41:50.000
Where you at?

822
00:41:50.000 --> 00:41:52.000
How you doing?

823
00:41:52.000 --> 00:41:54.000
I know you got bad.

824
00:41:54.000 --> 00:41:56.000
Um, if not, that's okay, dude.

825
00:41:56.000 --> 00:41:57.000
I know.

826
00:41:57.000 --> 00:41:59.000
I know sometimes when I'm on my phone,

827
00:41:59.000 --> 00:42:02.000
I want to throw it through a fricking wall because like, you know,

828
00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:03.000
I'll be trying to hear you guys.

829
00:42:03.000 --> 00:42:04.000
It is.

830
00:42:04.000 --> 00:42:07.000
All right.

831
00:42:07.000 --> 00:42:10.000
Uh, I think we lost him.

832
00:42:10.000 --> 00:42:12.000
Um, all right, you guys, you know what?

833
00:42:12.000 --> 00:42:16.000
One of the, sorry, I was looking at the supernatural Saturday.

834
00:42:17.000 --> 00:42:18.000
Um,

835
00:42:18.000 --> 00:42:22.000
so one of the things in,

836
00:42:22.000 --> 00:42:26.000
in across the board, you guys, um,

837
00:42:26.000 --> 00:42:29.000
you guys got to kill passivity.

838
00:42:29.000 --> 00:42:30.000
Like, so what?

839
00:42:30.000 --> 00:42:31.000
Okay.

840
00:42:31.000 --> 00:42:32.000
So, uh, Mr.

841
00:42:32.000 --> 00:42:34.000
Henshaw, one of the reasons why I'm like the non-negotiate,

842
00:42:34.000 --> 00:42:35.000
like everybody, like everybody,

843
00:42:35.000 --> 00:42:37.000
like the one of the reasons why I was saying like the non-negotiables

844
00:42:37.000 --> 00:42:40.000
are really important is, and you need to know.

845
00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:41.000
Okay.

846
00:42:41.000 --> 00:42:42.000
So let me refer to this.

847
00:42:43.000 --> 00:42:44.000
Guys.

848
00:42:44.000 --> 00:42:45.000
Hang on.

849
00:42:45.000 --> 00:42:46.000
Hang on one sec, Mr.

850
00:42:46.000 --> 00:42:47.000
Hunter.

851
00:42:47.000 --> 00:42:48.000
I want to articulate.

852
00:42:48.000 --> 00:42:51.000
I'm going to try to articulate this better when you know what you like,

853
00:42:51.000 --> 00:42:54.000
and you know what you want, when you see it, you can go get it.

854
00:42:54.000 --> 00:42:57.000
But if you're coming into situations where you're like,

855
00:42:57.000 --> 00:42:59.000
I don't really know what I want.

856
00:42:59.000 --> 00:43:00.000
Do I like that?

857
00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:01.000
Like yesterday, the cop thing, right?

858
00:43:01.000 --> 00:43:02.000
I froze.

859
00:43:02.000 --> 00:43:04.000
Because it wasn't even in my grid.

860
00:43:04.000 --> 00:43:06.000
And then I'm like, it's kind of attractive.

861
00:43:06.000 --> 00:43:08.000
I think she, you know, like, you know, you know what I mean?

862
00:43:08.000 --> 00:43:09.000
Like, uh,

863
00:43:09.000 --> 00:43:12.000
And I don't have anything to hide, so I'm not really worried, but like,

864
00:43:12.000 --> 00:43:13.000
but I wasn't able.

865
00:43:13.000 --> 00:43:16.000
I mean, I literally, it stunned me for a second.

866
00:43:16.000 --> 00:43:17.000
Which.

867
00:43:17.000 --> 00:43:21.000
And so, which is, which I became passive in that versus commanding the

868
00:43:21.000 --> 00:43:22.000
plate.

869
00:43:22.000 --> 00:43:23.000
You know what I'm saying?

870
00:43:23.000 --> 00:43:26.000
So the more you get reps in the more app, even if you have.

871
00:43:26.000 --> 00:43:29.000
Even if you're not having things come to fruition,

872
00:43:29.000 --> 00:43:31.000
the process gets you to know what you want.

873
00:43:31.000 --> 00:43:33.000
And then the more you get reps in the more app,

874
00:43:33.000 --> 00:43:36.000
even if you have, even if you're not having things come to fruition,

875
00:43:37.000 --> 00:43:39.000
The process gets you to know what you want.

876
00:43:39.000 --> 00:43:42.000
So when you do see what you want, you can go get it.

877
00:43:42.000 --> 00:43:43.000
You can be the full you.

878
00:43:43.000 --> 00:43:44.000
You can be the presence.

879
00:43:44.000 --> 00:43:49.000
You can be masculine and you can go seize it versus like coming up.

880
00:43:49.000 --> 00:43:50.000
Well, I might like you.

881
00:43:50.000 --> 00:43:51.000
I might not like you.

882
00:43:51.000 --> 00:43:52.000
They feel that dude.

883
00:43:52.000 --> 00:43:55.000
If you come in and you go, dude, I want, you know, like I'm,

884
00:43:55.000 --> 00:43:59.000
I'm a stud and I'm valuable, but I want you.

885
00:43:59.000 --> 00:44:01.000
And you're not like a pushover where you're like,

886
00:44:01.000 --> 00:44:03.000
let me kiss the ground that you walk on.

887
00:44:03.000 --> 00:44:06.000
You guys, dude, if, if you're kissing, if you're doing that,

888
00:44:06.000 --> 00:44:08.000
you're never going to, it's never going to,

889
00:44:08.000 --> 00:44:10.000
they lose respect instantaneously.

890
00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:13.000
And so, so you need to be masculine.

891
00:44:13.000 --> 00:44:16.000
You need to be walking in your strength, not idiocy,

892
00:44:16.000 --> 00:44:19.000
not toxic masculinity, but your strength.

893
00:44:19.000 --> 00:44:23.000
And a man with a plan or a man who knows what he wants is a powerful thing.

894
00:44:23.000 --> 00:44:26.000
So when you come into these situations versus like, oh my gosh,

895
00:44:26.000 --> 00:44:28.000
this is a blood bath.

896
00:44:28.000 --> 00:44:29.000
It's the dating pool.

897
00:44:29.000 --> 00:44:32.000
You know, like that's all going to kill your vibe.

898
00:44:32.000 --> 00:44:33.000
Right.

899
00:44:33.000 --> 00:44:34.000
Where you're like, you know what?

900
00:44:34.000 --> 00:44:35.000
I'm going to go into this opportunity.

901
00:44:35.000 --> 00:44:36.000
I'm going to have some fun.

902
00:44:36.000 --> 00:44:37.000
Right.

903
00:44:37.000 --> 00:44:38.000
I'm going to go, I'm going to,

904
00:44:38.000 --> 00:44:41.000
I got a hot woman that I'm going to see and don't know if it's going to

905
00:44:41.000 --> 00:44:44.000
work out or not, but man, I'm going to have a great time.

906
00:44:44.000 --> 00:44:45.000
And I'm going to be fully me.

907
00:44:45.000 --> 00:44:47.000
I'm in the gal.

908
00:44:47.000 --> 00:44:50.000
I mean, I course corrected yesterday really well because, you know, like,

909
00:44:50.000 --> 00:44:53.000
but like, but I could feel that I got passive.

910
00:44:53.000 --> 00:44:55.000
Cause I'm like, Ooh, shoot.

911
00:44:55.000 --> 00:44:56.000
What do I do?

912
00:44:56.000 --> 00:44:58.000
Cause I, I, I, I had this, what do I do?

913
00:44:58.000 --> 00:44:59.000
I didn't think.

914
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.280
of this and so the more you have your list of non-negotiables and I think when you if you think

915
00:45:07.280 --> 00:45:14.080
about all your preferences that's a massive list right like you know so but if you're like hey

916
00:45:15.040 --> 00:45:20.240
um this thing that just came up cop that's not on my top three it's not my non-negotiables we're

917
00:45:20.240 --> 00:45:25.120
good I mean two seconds and I'm through does that does that make sense where you you're actually

918
00:45:25.120 --> 00:45:29.440
establishing what you know and what you want so you can walk in confidence in it because

919
00:45:29.440 --> 00:45:35.440
every woman wants somebody who to lead them I don't know how many women I hear like oh he's

920
00:45:35.440 --> 00:45:40.000
passive he's this and that and they just want you but how I know I'm not the only one trying to in

921
00:45:40.000 --> 00:45:45.200
but we have to have self-respect where I have to be the instigator and try to make this a one-sided

922
00:45:45.200 --> 00:45:52.720
relationship but I can't have that either well so so okay being strong doesn't and not passive

923
00:45:52.720 --> 00:45:57.200
doesn't mean you're the you're carrying everything actually if you're carrying everything that means

924
00:45:57.200 --> 00:46:03.280
you're not being strong because you can be like you gotta allow for like hey you gotta come you

925
00:46:03.280 --> 00:46:09.040
gotta come across the table too if you're carrying the whole thing that's not a relationship that's

926
00:46:09.040 --> 00:46:15.920
that you need them to come but if you don't give them that's the most awkward thing is that like

927
00:46:15.920 --> 00:46:23.760
giving the pause and letting it rest for a minute and letting them engage right you know um and if

928
00:46:23.760 --> 00:46:30.800
you can't do that um because you're freaking out that's not there there needs to be that tension

929
00:46:30.800 --> 00:46:35.600
tension I guess yeah that's the right word like when you you make room for them you break you

930
00:46:36.400 --> 00:46:42.880
you stay strong you be tension not a jerk but you're just like you don't enable that

931
00:46:44.480 --> 00:46:47.920
they have to come play too I guess it's the way you know you make sure that it's ping pong

932
00:46:48.880 --> 00:46:55.360
right and you're working together but but that you come in with you know what because I mean

933
00:46:55.360 --> 00:47:01.200
there's a there's a lot of tests crap tests right they'll be like you think you could I mean like

934
00:47:01.200 --> 00:47:09.040
can you handle me being sassy right and if they're being a little snarky do you react or do you like

935
00:47:09.040 --> 00:47:14.480
like whatever like you know like you know I mean they're I don't know why they do it but they do it

936
00:47:14.560 --> 00:47:20.720
a lot of times and healthier women don't do it as much right you know and so and and I and you guys

937
00:47:20.720 --> 00:47:27.920
I really really really really I've been on the apps I've been doing all that I get spotlighted

938
00:47:27.920 --> 00:47:32.240
and try to find somebody in the group because here's here's the thing about that you guys

939
00:47:32.880 --> 00:47:37.200
is I know we're over time and I want to wrap this up in a minute but the ladies in the group

940
00:47:37.200 --> 00:47:43.760
have coaches you guys have similar you've been through the heart work you have um similarities

941
00:47:44.160 --> 00:47:49.840
like you have a similar framework and that's that can help you walk into it confidently too

942
00:47:50.480 --> 00:48:02.160
right and so um I know there's um and as soon as the Lord said for me I know if I if I I'm allowed

943
00:48:02.160 --> 00:48:08.640
to date long distance but if I do it's going to shift a lot of things for me and so I have taken

944
00:48:08.640 --> 00:48:16.160
that with like very um weighty because I know where I'm at I'm supposed to be where I'm at right

945
00:48:16.160 --> 00:48:24.160
now um and so do I want to date long distance dude there's been so many girls I'm like um and

946
00:48:24.160 --> 00:48:34.160
but I know that I'm not you know and so but if you can dude go because you know um and and Kevin

947
00:48:34.720 --> 00:48:39.360
I'm actually kind of really excited for you Kevin because you know a lot of times change we hate it

948
00:48:39.360 --> 00:48:47.120
but like it's what leads to life so um can I pray us out and um anything before I go but

949
00:48:47.120 --> 00:48:51.920
hey guys you guys all good yeah you guys gonna get your non-negotiable so you can walk in there

950
00:48:51.920 --> 00:48:57.920
with swag and be like yo baby let's go I got good news I'm gonna see a camp I'm gonna see a

951
00:48:57.920 --> 00:49:05.280
counselor this week uh that's paid by my work my workplace awesome he says her mental health is

952
00:49:05.280 --> 00:49:12.720
important uh yeah you got to get your ducks in a row so you you don't chase other people's ducks

953
00:49:12.720 --> 00:49:20.880
that are on the rope it's not what it's cracked up to be ask me how I know man like you know

954
00:49:20.880 --> 00:49:22.480
one of the things I realized I've had

955
00:49:24.880 --> 00:49:31.600
probably a dozen of the woman I married approached me in the same way and now I'm like

956
00:49:34.080 --> 00:49:41.200
run but before I'd have been like yes you know I'd walk right into the trap why because I did

957
00:49:41.200 --> 00:49:46.480
the heartwork and I'm still doing the heartwork like due to Sunday Saturday you guys I was in

958
00:49:46.480 --> 00:49:51.280
the heartwork again so the heartwork isn't something you do just to get in the club into

959
00:49:51.280 --> 00:49:56.960
the group it's something that helps you get maintain good relationships and live well

960
00:49:57.760 --> 00:49:59.840
you know do the heartwork for you

961
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Not to get in a relationship.

962
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Yeah.

963
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See, Christopher? Yeah, you're learning your type.

964
00:50:06.000 --> 00:50:08.000
Like, you don't even know, I mean, honestly,

965
00:50:08.000 --> 00:50:10.000
you don't know your type, and you're like, I think this is my type.

966
00:50:10.000 --> 00:50:12.000
I don't know how many people, I'm like, this is my type.

967
00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:15.000
And then I'm like, no, it's actually not my type.

968
00:50:15.000 --> 00:50:18.000
Um, and, um,

969
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so, but,

970
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here, let's pray this out then. Lord Jesus,

971
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I just thank you for all these men and all the ones that will listen

972
00:50:24.000 --> 00:50:26.000
to this recording.

973
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Lord, would you bring their spirit mates,

974
00:50:28.000 --> 00:50:30.000
would you align their hearts and their minds

975
00:50:30.000 --> 00:50:32.000
and help them to be living in their masculine

976
00:50:32.000 --> 00:50:34.000
and fully healed

977
00:50:34.000 --> 00:50:36.000
and fully whole, and would you bring their

978
00:50:36.000 --> 00:50:38.000
spirit mates and be working in them as well?

979
00:50:38.000 --> 00:50:40.000
And, um, would you bring

980
00:50:40.000 --> 00:50:42.000
wisdom on whether

981
00:50:42.000 --> 00:50:44.000
long distance, long distance,

982
00:50:44.000 --> 00:50:46.000
no distance, um,

983
00:50:46.000 --> 00:50:48.000
whether it's on apps, whether it's in the group,

984
00:50:48.000 --> 00:50:50.000
but Lord, I just pray

985
00:50:50.000 --> 00:50:52.000
every one of these men, you would just touch

986
00:50:52.000 --> 00:50:54.000
and heal their hearts, their minds, their spirits,

987
00:50:54.000 --> 00:50:56.000
and give them eyes to see

988
00:50:56.000 --> 00:50:58.000
and ears to hear their spouse.

989
00:50:58.000 --> 00:51:00.000
And I just pray that their, um,

990
00:51:00.000 --> 00:51:02.000
their spirit mates' hearts would

991
00:51:02.000 --> 00:51:04.000
also be enlarged

992
00:51:04.000 --> 00:51:06.000
to see them as well.

993
00:51:06.000 --> 00:51:08.000
But Lord, we just thank you that you're amazing

994
00:51:08.000 --> 00:51:10.000
and that you have great plans and a future

995
00:51:10.000 --> 00:51:12.000
and a hope for everybody here.

996
00:51:12.000 --> 00:51:14.000
And Lord, help us to seize everything

997
00:51:14.000 --> 00:51:16.000
that you have for us. In Jesus' name,

998
00:51:16.000 --> 00:51:18.000
Amen.

999
00:51:18.000 --> 00:51:20.000
Love you guys, man. You guys are awesome.

1000
00:51:20.000 --> 00:51:22.000
Keep it up. We'll talk next week.

1001
00:51:22.000 --> 00:51:24.000
More testimonies, baby. Let's get some

1002
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testimonies.

1003
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Later.