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Okay, friends, I'm showing up looking like a little baby chicken hawk this morning to

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show you my new book, to show you the book that I've been telling you exists, right?

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Just kind of like your future spirit mate.

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See, here's proof.

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Here's proof that I am not a liar and that you have a future spirit mate.

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Just like this book has manifested, so will your spirit mate show up one of these days,

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one of these days.

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So you guys, I did a little reel on my social media, on my Instagram, go check it out, of

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a success story of some of you probably have been around long enough to know Ralph and

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Diana, but both of them were students or clients here in this, in this program.

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And Ralph started out as just a plain client.

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I want to tell you a little background here.

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So he, my daughter, my youngest daughter is an amazingly talented musician and singer

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songwriter.

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And she was involved with all the music people here in Austin when we moved here.

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And she got involved in all the worship stuff and all the different things.

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Okay.

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She went to two different worship schools.

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Just different things happened.

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As you guys can see, I'm walking around my house.

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This is why I keep my camera off during Supernatural Saturday, so I won't distract you with my

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gorgeous get out of bed looks and also with my constant movement because I'm always moving

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during this call.

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So she got involved in this big worship community here and she got involved with different musicians

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that have, that played all over the city.

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And one of these musicians is amazing bass player named Ralph Patterson.

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And I met Ralph at some of these music things.

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And she'd be like, mom, he's single.

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He's a widower.

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His wife passed away a long time ago, blah, blah, blah.

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Ralph had all these amazing grown sons that were also handsome.

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A couple of them were single.

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So I was like, well, ask him if he wants to have a chat with me.

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And so long story short, Ralph and I got on a phone call where he proceeded to tell me

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that he was madly in love with this one woman that was connected to this worship community.

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She was actually the mother of one of my daughter's friends.

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She was single.

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Don't, don't, don't get it twisted.

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She wasn't a married woman.

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She was the mother of one of my daughter's friends and she was single.

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So I started asking him some questions about the situation, trying to discern whether or

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not this was a possible love story.

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And I saw very quickly that it wasn't.

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I saw very quickly that it was one sided, it was on his side.

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She might've been leading him on some, cause she liked the attention.

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He was doing a lot of stuff for her and her daughter.

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So there might've been some hypergamous, if you guys don't know what hypergamous is, it's

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when, you know, you, your life gets elevated a little bit by someone else.

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And so there might've been some of that kind of motivation going on with her, but I could

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definitely see there was quite a bit of an age difference.

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And I could just see that this was not going to be a love story.

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And I told him so, and he really wasn't ready to hear that.

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And friends, I always want to tell you what I feel in my heart.

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And it's not because I want to rain on your parade.

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It's because I really want you to have the slate clean, so to speak, the space open for

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whatever it is that God wants to do in your life.

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And so I told him and I said, look, I'd love to work with you.

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You're an amazing man.

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Just because this woman's not interested in marrying you because he was very marriage

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minded. He was looking for a mate.

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He did not want to be single.

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He was already 60 years old and he wanted to be married.

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And he also was very active, very fit.

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I have never met a man in their 60s that was as fit as him.

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He was also, you know, a musician, talented, had a really good day job as well.

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I mean, he was the whole package, you guys.

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All right. So he became my client.

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After a little while, he saw he I think he told me he was going to give her till a

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specific time because he had made his intentions known.

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He wasn't like being mysterious.

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So, gentlemen, listen, if you like a woman and you're in community with her, be very

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upfront about what it is that you want from her.

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Do not be mysterious.

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Do not be mysterious.

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Do not just hang around in the friend zone, hoping that one day she's just going to

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wake up and be like, I love you.

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That's not what's going to happen, OK?

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She's going to see you as a friend because you have positioned yourself as a friend.

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And so let's make sure that we don't do that.

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Not that we don't want to be friends with the people that we marry, but there needs

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to be that romantic thread running through it if that's how you feel, because

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otherwise you're kind of being dishonest, don't you?

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If you're hiding your feelings for someone and just pretending that you just like them

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as a friend just so that you don't get rejected or they don't run away, that's not really

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being honest, is it?

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All right?

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So we want to be honest.

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And don't worry.

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We're going to do Supernatural Saturday today.

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We're going to do a lot of supernatural stuff, but I want to tell the story.

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So we started doing our work together.

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You guys, I remember those early conversations.

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He was very discouraged, very discouraged.

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He had been single for a while.

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Once again, the whole package, didn't understand.

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And ladies, I know that you get discouraged and you're like, oh, it's just hard for us.

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Men have it so easy.

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It's not true.

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It's not true.

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There are so many really good guys that have it together that are single because it's hard

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to find a woman who is marriage minded.

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It's hard to find a woman who has done her work and really has an open heart, you know,

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all the things.

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Okay.

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The next woman, I don't think Ralph would not mind me telling his whole story.

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So the next woman that he starts getting a thing for is our trainer, his trainer and

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my trainer, because I started going to the same gym as him.

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And she's amazing, you guys.

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And I love what God does in love stories because it's not just about one person.

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And that's what I want to talk to you about today.

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It's about all of us and we're all connected and there's so many ebbs and flows and nuances

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and threads that get to be pulled during these love stories.

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So I start talking to our trainer because they start dating, they start going on dates.

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And I start talking to her about where she's at and she's not marriage minded.

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So you guys, it's not about finding someone who will go on a date with you or even date

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you.

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It's about finding someone who's marriage minded.

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This woman had gone through a bad divorce and she had a single need son who was now

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19 years old.

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And he was very volatile in a lot of ways.

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And she was really the only person that could deal with him or calm him down.

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And while Ralph knew her son and her son liked him, she didn't want to bring anybody else

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into the mix.

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She's like, I'm never going to get married again.

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She's like, this is a hard life because her son was nonverbal.

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You know, it's just a lot.

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For those of you that have special needs children, you understand that it takes a really special

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person to partner with you and that person is out there, just FYI.

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But then also you might have the mindset that you don't want to burden another person or

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saddle another person with the life that you have to live, right?

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And that was her mindset.

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She's like, I don't want to bring anyone else in on this.

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She's like, I am not going to get remarried.

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She said, I like to date.

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I want to have companionship.

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She's like, but I can tell that he really wants marriage.

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That's what he's looking for.

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So guys, they only made it three or four dates in because she was honest about what she could

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and couldn't do, what she wanted and what she didn't want.

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And that is what my new book is going to help you really do is get really honest.

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So if you haven't purchased it yet, and if you got it in presale, it's coming, all right,

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you're going to have it this week and you're going to be happy.

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But I did send you an email with the PDF version so you can go ahead and start reading and

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your coupon for the book club.

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And I'll talk all about that in a second.

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Well, let me just go ahead and talk about that real quick.

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There's a book club that's going to start May 25th is Memorial Day.

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That will be the day that you're let into the club.

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Okay.

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And then we will be having the sessions, five sessions, one a week.

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And these are going to be sessions where I don't just read this book to you because this

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book you guys is not just a book.

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This book is a field guide to make this your summer of love.

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If you want to have a summer of love, this book is going to help you have one because

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we are going to get down into autopsying your dating life.

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We're going to truly build your non-negotiable and preferences list.

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We are going to get down into what to look for on the first couple of dates.

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I'm going to teach you basically how to date like a matchmaker.

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What I help Ralph do, what I've helped so many people do as their one-on-one coach,

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as their one-on-one matchmaker, I'm going to help you do for a fraction of the price,

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$25 for that book.

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And then if you go to the book club, you're going to actually get me as your coach.

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And if you bought it in pre-sale, then it's 47.

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And if you didn't, then it's 97 for the book club and worth every little tiny penny of

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that.

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We are going to do all this work that's in this book together over those five weeks.

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And by the end, you're going to be clear.

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You are not going to even entertain someone who's not on the same page as you.

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And you're going to know really quickly if they are.

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It's going to be beautiful.

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And then at the end of our five weeks together, I am going to teach you how to be the matchmaker.

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Yes.

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Because the girl that I'm talking about right now that was our trainer, that said...

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She wasn't ready for love.

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She wasn't ready for love.

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You guys.

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It didn't mean she was never going to be ready.

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It just meant when he crossed her path, she wasn't ready for

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love and I stayed her client.

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And I continue to sew into her faith and I continue to talk to

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her about, you know that she didn't have to be disqualified.

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And guess what?

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She got married to much later.

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She's happily married to now.

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Right much later than him, but she still got married and I'm

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just telling you guys it's it's doesn't make these people bad.

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I mean some of them are bad.

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Okay, but it doesn't make them all bad.

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If you show up and they're not ready.

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They're just not ready.

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They're not your person because it's not the right timing for

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them. They haven't done enough work to partner with you.

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And that's why you can turn their sails to the wind and you

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can send them on their way.

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Right because and this is and this is what gets rid of that

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dumb idea that we have that there's just one.

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There's not just one.

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I just told you about two amazing women that one client of

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mine encountered on his dating journey.

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Both of them would make amazing wives.

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Both of them were not ready.

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Both of them had gone through tragic divorces.

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One of them had a special needs child.

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The other one was a single mom trying to make it happen wasn't

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ready to bring another person into her life.

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They weren't ready.

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They weren't and I've stayed in relationship with one of those

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women and she's an amazing incredible woman incredible wife

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incredible bonus mom to the new sons that she has now her son

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has brothers and guess what he's flourishing her special needs

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son is flourishing in this new dynamic.

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It's a really amazing situation and on all accounts and I got

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to be part of all these love stories and I love it.

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I love it so much.

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But here's the thing by the end of that five weeks.

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By the end of that five weeks.

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I'm going to teach you how to make connections connect the

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dots in your own friend groups in your own communities because

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this only works if we bring back the village and that is what

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this book is all about.

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This book is all about bringing back the village.

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We've got to bring back the village.

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That is what's missing it is and so if we bring back the village

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then guess what you get a spouse and you get a spouse and you

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get a spouse and everybody gets a spouse and so that's what

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we have to do.

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All right, so take three I tell Ralph look I have a lot of

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amazing marriage minded women in my community.

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I want you to join so he joined the community and he quickly

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became a star here because he is very gregarious and loves

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people and you know, he started he started doing exactly what

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I want you guys to do.

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He started loving on people.

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He started speaking life into people.

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He started telling women.

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Hey, you don't deserve that.

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You shouldn't settle for that.

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He wasn't flirting with them.

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He wasn't trying to match with them, but he was becoming a

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big brother.

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He was becoming a father in some ways to women here and then

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one of the women in our community.

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I was like, hey, I was like you guys what do you think you

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know, and here's what here's one of the things you guys and

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we'll do this in the book club.

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Some of you think that your preferences are non-negotiables.

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You do and Ralph had a preference disguised as a non-negotiable

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that he would not relocate.

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He thought it was a non-negotiable.

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I'm not going to relocate.

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He told me that from the very first day we talked he said

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Jackie he said this is this what I'm looking for and my only

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deal-breaker is I'm not going to I'm not going to relocate.

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I let him have it you guys.

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I let him have it knowing that there was no earthly reason

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why he couldn't.

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Relocate he's in his 60s.

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His kids are all grown.

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They have their own people.

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He doesn't have a job.

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He already works remotely for the job.

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He can work from anywhere.

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Right?

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He just didn't want to relocate and I get that he had a community

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here.

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He had a life here.

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Yeah, you know all the stuff.

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So he wasn't even willing and when he first talked to this

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woman that I'm talking about he didn't even in his mind give

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her a chance because she lives in New York and she still had

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two daughters in high school.

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So she could she couldn't relocate.

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Right?

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I'm talking to someone this morning.

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If the shoe fits you gonna put it on you gonna tie it up and

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you gonna wear it this morning.

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Okay.

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She all of a sudden supernaturally started to have to come

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to Austin for her job.

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She had to take business trips to Austin.

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So they ended up meeting in person and one of the crazy fun

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times that they met in person Ralph actually was entertaining

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another woman from.

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program that like there was a big group date and they invited her to come as well but he

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kind of had his eyes on and was trying to talk to or she was trying to talk to him and

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this other woman that he ended up marrying kind of felt like uh you know I don't really

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know that he was really paying any attention to me or whatever and once again it was because

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of the relocation.

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This marriage minded man knew he was only dating for mating and he wasn't interested

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in getting to know someone who did not live here but something shifted he realized that

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he was really attracted to this woman that she was really amazing and they had a lot

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in common and they began to talk long story short the stuff that I told him on all those

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calls hey there's someone for you I know that you're picking people that are not ready and

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that they're not interested but there's someone who's ready and interested and it happened

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you guys and I actually got to set up their proposal I was behind the camera in that video

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on my Instagram that's me with my camera in the way blocking the sink and getting down

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on the ground proposing and you didn't see it because I cut it off at the end but David

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Dorman and his beautiful big booty jumped in there and he was in the way and then I

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had to cut that part out so after the hug when they're talking to each other I had to

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cut all that out because David has his camera and he's all all up in the mix okay so they've

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been married for several years now and guess what the last daughter just graduated from

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high school and guess what I just heard that they're moving back to Austin yes it all ends

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well right doesn't it here's the other problem a lot of you aren't willing to do something

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that you don't want to do even temporarily not understanding that life is temporary life

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is temporary there isn't anything that's going on in your life right now that's permanent

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your life is seasonal life is seasonal you guys are you listening whether you hate what

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you have to do right now or you love what you have to do it's not going to continue

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it's going to pivot it's going to change it's going to morph it's going to be different

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and turn my camera off so I can run around faster because I'm done looking at y'all and

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you're done looking at me now I want to get into the nitty-gritty of the super naturalness

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of this Saturday because God is trying to make us willing to be willing in his day of

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power did you guys know that that's the scripture God make us willing to be made willing in

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your day of power I believe that we're living in the day of power I do I believe that we've

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been in the day of power for some time now we're here but your love story may really

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change your life in more ways than one I know you're like well it's gonna change my life

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because I'm gonna have this amazing partner to do life with yeah but it's gonna probably

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most likely most certainly change a lot more than just that and the reason why I want to

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focus on this is because so many people and this is the kind of work we're gonna do in

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this book club you might have made your little deal-breaker list when you are back in the

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heart work and there are some new people probably on here in heart work let's see your hands

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if you're kind of new and you're still in the heart work phase of our program don't

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mail that in Karen that's an important phase that's gonna be a life-changing phase you're

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gonna diffuse all the bombs all the bombs in your heart that you don't know about are gonna

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be diffused so that they don't blow up later and destroy your potential relationships look at all

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these heart workers you guys come on in the chat give them some hands up give them some hearts

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they're doing the real work right now they're doing the real work they're doing the real work

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look at all those people okay someone's unmuted gotta meet him okay so friends

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I've been watching I've been looking and the things that I felt were in the way of singles

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lives the most based on all the singles that I've worked with for the last six years only

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not even in my former life not even then just the last six years and I really unpack that

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coaching in this book so if you can't join the book club cool definitely get the book if you

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don't already have it if you ordered in pre-sale it's coming it is coming and in the meantime

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please open that email go look for it in your trash bin

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If you didn't see it, mark it safe so that you can get more emails and read that PDF.

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Just go ahead and start reading that, you know, that Kindle version of the book.

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So Father God, we're so thankful for your goodness and your love to us.

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We're so thankful, Lord, that you are making a way for us to have success in life.

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You are.

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It's not your intention that we be in small places.

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You've enlarged the space of our tent.

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You've told us to stretch so that we can enlarge the place of our tent.

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You want to give us more.

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You are the God of more.

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You are the God of blessing.

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You are the Father of lights from which good and perfect gifts come from.

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And so Lord, we thank you for that.

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We thank you for that this morning.

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We're asking that you would shift our belief systems towards that.

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In Jesus name.

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Amen.

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Guys, I made another funny Instagram reel.

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If you don't follow me on Instagram, you're missing out because I'm a kook, all right?

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And if you need a good laugh, you're going to have it over there with me.

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But I'm a kook that also is very wise.

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So I'm going to make you laugh while you're learning something because God has given me

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a revelation gift and I put it in the videos.

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I make you laugh and then I make you learn and it's good.

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But one of the videos I just did was of a sweet couple, this woman getting proposed

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to at 90 years old in the old folks home, in the nursing home.

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This man, bless his heart, he got down on one knee and I was like, he's not getting

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up without assistance.

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Like there is no way that man is getting up from that kneeled position without two nurses

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coming over and helping him.

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So he got down there and asked her to marry him and she said yes.

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And first of all, this video is adorable because it proves that there's someone for everyone.

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But the reason why the take I wanted to take on it, and so you watched the little clip

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of the video, it's called A Stitch, and then my big head pops up and I start talking, right?

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About the video.

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And what I said about this video is that the Christian theology around dating and marriage

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reminds me of this video because so many people believe that God has them in this endless

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waiting room.

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They're not ready yet.

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They're not ready.

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I want to explain something to you.

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Marriage between a man and a woman is for this life.

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It's not for the afterlife.

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It's not for eternity.

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We are all going to be connected in the beloved, in a place of intimacy with each other through

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Christ.

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And I don't mean sexually, so don't say, Jackie said heaven's a big orgy.

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No, I didn't.

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That's not what I'm saying.

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What I'm saying is, is that we are not the same in heaven, okay?

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The man and the woman marriage is a foreshadowing of the intimacy that's to come in heaven.

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It's for now.

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It's not for later.

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So why in the world would a God who's way smarter than any of us, way wiser than any

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of us, hold out on you in the very area of maturity he created to refine you?

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Please riddle me that.

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Riddle me that.

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Why?

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Is he waiting for your Medicare to kick in?

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Is that what needs to happen here?

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No.

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Friends, this is this theology that's been created.

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This is what happens.

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This is what happens in churches when there's some problem that cannot be explained.

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Whether it's why your person didn't get healed or why a person in your family didn't get

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healed or why you can't have a baby right now because it's not working out or why you're

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single and you don't want to be.

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We create theology to try to, you know, get people to stop talking about their pain, right?

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We're tired of hearing people harp about it.

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We don't have the answer to it.

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So we create theology that's like, oh, well, you know, you're just not ready yet.

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You know, just wait on God.

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It's going to be okay.

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Just wait on God.

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God just has you in a waiting season.

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What?

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No, he doesn't.

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Most of the things that people are waiting on in this life that we tell them they're

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waiting on are things that are only for this life.

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They're only for now.

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And what are they doing?

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They're refining you and getting you ready for what's next, for eternity.

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They're stretching you.

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They're stretching you.

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making you more like Christ.

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They're stretching you.

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Did you guys realize that marriage

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is a sanctification process?

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Marriage is going to sanctify you.

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It's going to stretch you.

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It is going to refine you.

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It is part of how you become more like Jesus

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if you're doing it right.

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If you're surrendering and not fighting,

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if you're releasing,

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if you're allowing the other person to be happy too

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by compromising some of the things that you want

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for what they want.

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You're stretching yourself.

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You're serving each other.

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You're submitting to one another in love.

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You know?

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It's for now, you guys.

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And so if you're one of the people

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that I made that video for

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that's just been believing that,

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you know, one of these days,

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God's finally going to pull your number in heaven

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like the terrible DMV that it is,

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and you're going to get called back to the desk

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and you're finally going to get

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winner winner chicken dinner.

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No, heaven is not a casino.

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God's not a mob boss.

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Right?

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Marriage is not a slot machine.

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None of that.

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None of that's true.

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What's really true is the curse.

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And the curse looks different on everybody's lives

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and it causes different problems for different people.

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Some of you have gotten married before

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and you did not have a good run of it.

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And whether you know it or not, you're still blocked.

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You're still suspicious.

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You still have a hard time letting people

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in and trusting people.

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Others of you are so anxious.

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You'll take anyone.

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I was going to say with a penis and a pulse.

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Jesus, forgive me.

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And one of those things you don't even need,

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and I won't tell you which one it is.

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So the bottom line is that we need you.

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Me and God need you this morning to understand

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that he's not holding out on you.

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If you don't get anything else

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from the Supernatural Saturday,

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except that God is not holding out on you, he's not.

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Friends, he refines us through relationship.

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You don't need to go sit in the waiting room and be refined.

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You can't even be refined there.

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If it's just you and God,

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you're only going to get to a certain level of maturity

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because it's human beings that refine you.

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00:27:30.100 --> 00:27:32.660
It's human beings that you have to do repair with

481
00:27:32.660 --> 00:27:33.780
in relationships.

482
00:27:33.780 --> 00:27:34.700
Am I right?

483
00:27:37.940 --> 00:27:40.380
It's human beings that rub you the wrong way.

484
00:27:40.380 --> 00:27:42.740
It's human beings that trigger you

485
00:27:42.740 --> 00:27:46.060
and cause stuff to come out from the deep places

486
00:27:46.060 --> 00:27:47.420
that you have to deal with.

487
00:27:47.420 --> 00:27:49.020
All of you that are in heart work,

488
00:27:49.020 --> 00:27:50.300
the revealing for the healing,

489
00:27:50.300 --> 00:27:52.340
it only happens with humans.

490
00:27:53.260 --> 00:27:55.420
We've got to have human relationship.

491
00:27:55.420 --> 00:27:57.020
That's why God said it wasn't good for man

492
00:27:57.020 --> 00:27:58.420
to be alone in the garden.

493
00:28:00.060 --> 00:28:02.780
All of this was foreshadowed, friends.

494
00:28:03.820 --> 00:28:05.500
Two are better than one.

495
00:28:05.500 --> 00:28:07.220
We're better together.

496
00:28:07.220 --> 00:28:09.780
We help each other see the fullness of God.

497
00:28:11.020 --> 00:28:13.900
He made us in his image and in each other,

498
00:28:13.900 --> 00:28:15.860
we should be able to see the fullness of God.

499
00:28:15.860 --> 00:28:17.460
Do you understand that?

500
00:28:17.460 --> 00:28:18.900
God is both masculine and feminine.

501
00:28:18.900 --> 00:28:20.460
When we come together,

502
00:28:20.460 --> 00:28:23.460
we should be able to see what God looks like.

503
00:28:26.340 --> 00:28:27.940
By the way, I'm thinking about the Catholics right now

504
00:28:27.940 --> 00:28:30.740
because I'm doing a thing with the Catholics on Sunday.

505
00:28:31.820 --> 00:28:33.140
I'm speaking at their singles thing,

506
00:28:33.140 --> 00:28:34.380
so the Catholic singles.

507
00:28:34.380 --> 00:28:37.340
So if that pertains to you, go look.

508
00:28:37.340 --> 00:28:40.500
I'll put it back up in, I think it's in my reels.

509
00:28:40.500 --> 00:28:41.340
If you look in my reels,

510
00:28:41.340 --> 00:28:44.060
you'll see the advertisement for it.

511
00:28:44.060 --> 00:28:45.220
But the reason why I'm thinking about that

512
00:28:45.260 --> 00:28:46.860
is because the Catholics believe

513
00:28:46.860 --> 00:28:50.420
that marriage is a sacrament, okay?

514
00:28:51.300 --> 00:28:52.580
Because I went to Catholic school.

515
00:28:52.580 --> 00:28:53.660
If you're like, Jackie, how do you know that?

516
00:28:53.660 --> 00:28:55.300
Because I went to Catholic school, that's why.

517
00:28:55.300 --> 00:28:57.340
All right, so bottom line is,

518
00:28:57.340 --> 00:29:02.340
is that you're endued with a gift and you are.

519
00:29:02.340 --> 00:29:03.460
You are.

520
00:29:05.100 --> 00:29:05.940
You are.

521
00:29:05.940 --> 00:29:09.340
Jesus talks about that gift in Matthew 17.

522
00:29:09.340 --> 00:29:12.620
Matthew 19 or 17.

523
00:29:12.620 --> 00:29:13.700
I'm not really sure right now

524
00:29:13.700 --> 00:29:18.220
because I just had a brain menopause fog come over my mind.

525
00:29:20.100 --> 00:29:21.100
But he talks about it.

526
00:29:21.100 --> 00:29:22.820
His disciples are like, marriage is hard.

527
00:29:22.820 --> 00:29:24.380
And he's like, you're not wrong.

528
00:29:24.380 --> 00:29:25.900
Marriage is hard.

529
00:29:25.900 --> 00:29:28.740
But if you've been given a gift,

530
00:29:28.740 --> 00:29:31.900
this sacrament, this gift, this grace,

531
00:29:33.140 --> 00:29:34.980
he's like, you should do it.

532
00:29:34.980 --> 00:29:37.420
This is the way your heavenly father created you.

533
00:29:39.020 --> 00:29:41.580
And then Paul uses the same word as Jesus

534
00:29:41.580 --> 00:29:45.180
in the famous speech to the Corinthians,

535
00:29:45.180 --> 00:29:48.140
1 Corinthians 7, 7, 7, actually,

536
00:29:48.140 --> 00:29:51.940
where he says, I wish all of you had the gift

537
00:29:54.980 --> 00:29:57.780
that I have, to be single.

538
00:29:58.820 --> 00:29:59.660
Why?

539
00:29:59.660 --> 00:30:00.660
Because Paul thought his life was over.

540
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:05.440
was easier. I don't know why. I mean, shipwrecks, snakebites, imprisonments. I mean, sounds

541
00:30:05.440 --> 00:30:15.280
like a fun time, Paul. Seriously. Sign me up. He had his own refining process, as you

542
00:30:15.280 --> 00:30:23.200
can see very clearly. It's funny that he would choose shipwrecks and snakebites and imprisonments

543
00:30:23.200 --> 00:30:30.200
over a woman in his house. Makes you wonder what women were doing back then. Nagging.

544
00:30:30.200 --> 00:30:41.000
Stop leaving your sandals everywhere. The stinky fish has been laying here for three

545
00:30:41.000 --> 00:30:48.160
days. When are you going to throw it away? I just assumed that all they ate was fish

546
00:30:48.160 --> 00:30:56.200
because I feel like that's all they ate and I don't know why. All right. So bottom line,

547
00:30:56.200 --> 00:31:04.800
it's only hard when your heart is hard. Right? And so when anything's hard in life, friends,

548
00:31:04.800 --> 00:31:10.400
we just need to say to God, hey, this is a really hard area of my life. It might not

549
00:31:10.400 --> 00:31:15.360
be your love life. It might be relationship with your kids, relationship in general, friendships,

550
00:31:15.560 --> 00:31:21.040
it could be finances, whatever it is. But when it's hard, we have to say, hey God,

551
00:31:21.040 --> 00:31:28.640
I need you to show me how my heart is hard. I need you to help me soften my heart in this

552
00:31:28.640 --> 00:31:34.880
area so you can get new information. What's the purpose of having a softened heart? Because the

553
00:31:34.880 --> 00:31:40.680
parable of the sower and the seed talks about how our hearts are the fertile soil of our lives.

554
00:31:40.680 --> 00:31:45.120
And if you feel like I'm recapping some heart work today, I am. And I know there's people that

555
00:31:45.120 --> 00:31:49.120
are just in the thick of it because they're in heart work phase in this program. But a lot of you

556
00:31:49.120 --> 00:31:56.960
haven't been there in a long time. And it's time to revisit that because that parable of the sower

557
00:31:56.960 --> 00:32:03.880
is really important. It's talking about how the quality of our lives come from the quality of

558
00:32:03.880 --> 00:32:10.880
our hearts. That is a scripture. The quality of your life comes and flows out of the quality of

559
00:32:11.000 --> 00:32:21.000
your heart. Guys, it's currently in America. It's still considered spring, even though here in Texas

560
00:32:21.000 --> 00:32:26.560
it's hotter than hell's front porch. But it's still considered spring. And that's the getting

561
00:32:26.560 --> 00:32:31.880
the ground ready season. That's the plowing season. That's the tilling season. That's where

562
00:32:31.880 --> 00:32:36.920
you're getting all the fallow ground, all the hard ground from winter broken up so that you can plant.

563
00:32:37.120 --> 00:32:45.920
It's the planting season. God wants to put new information in your heart. And in these areas where

564
00:32:45.960 --> 00:32:51.640
things have been so hard and you haven't gotten any fruit, nothing's growing in these hard areas of

565
00:32:51.640 --> 00:32:58.360
your finances or your job or your health or whatever, wherever you're stuck. It's time to pray

566
00:32:58.360 --> 00:33:04.920
that surrender prayer from heart work. It's time to supernaturally surrender and allow God to plow

567
00:33:04.920 --> 00:33:11.960
up that fallow ground, that hard ground in that area of your heart and all the lies in it and

568
00:33:11.960 --> 00:33:23.080
plant new truth inside of you. New things, new revelations, new opportunities. God wants us to

569
00:33:23.080 --> 00:33:32.720
bear fruit. He wants us to bear fruit. He prunes us so that we can bear fruit. He course corrects

570
00:33:32.760 --> 00:33:39.840
us so that we can bear fruit. When we're going the wrong way, a million miles an hour, he's the

571
00:33:39.840 --> 00:33:44.960
person that puts up the detours and the delays and the roadblocks so that we don't drive off the cliff.

572
00:33:50.640 --> 00:33:58.360
He loves us. He loves us in a way that we can't even comprehend because that love is so supernatural

573
00:33:58.360 --> 00:34:09.040
and it's so unconditional. He loves us. So stop fighting it. Gotta stop fighting it. It's time for

574
00:34:09.040 --> 00:34:13.080
supernatural surrender again. I was talking to someone on the phone. I was doing a coaching call

575
00:34:13.080 --> 00:34:22.560
this week and I was talking to them because they're very, very unhappy with their weight. I mean to the

576
00:34:22.560 --> 00:34:28.440
point where they sent me a video. And by the way, for those of you like, how do you coach with Jackie?

577
00:34:28.440 --> 00:34:32.960
I haven't been taking coaching clients. I've just been finishing up the ones that I have had in the

578
00:34:32.960 --> 00:34:38.800
past and I am going to open a window because I didn't travel this year. You guys, last year,

579
00:34:38.800 --> 00:34:45.320
a couple of years previous, I have had a huge, crazy, hectic schedule. The good news is I am

580
00:34:45.360 --> 00:34:52.320
going to come to some of your cities and have in-person book parties. Okay, that's going to be

581
00:34:52.320 --> 00:34:58.880
fun. But besides that, I have a pretty non-travel year and I'm going to take some coaching clients.

582
00:34:58.880 --> 00:34:59.960
So if that's something that you're

583
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:05.520
interested in, please remember that you're coaching with me and that means that the investment

584
00:35:05.520 --> 00:35:06.760
is higher.

585
00:35:06.760 --> 00:35:09.760
So do not get over here and get offended.

586
00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:13.320
But if you feel like that you're in that ballpark to do that, you can email us.

587
00:35:13.320 --> 00:35:17.360
Otherwise, we have other amazing one-on-one coaches for you.

588
00:35:17.360 --> 00:35:20.360
But I was coaching and I got the little video.

589
00:35:20.360 --> 00:35:21.680
They were trying on a dress.

590
00:35:21.680 --> 00:35:28.240
They have a wedding to go to and it just, you know, they were trying to just squeeze

591
00:35:28.240 --> 00:35:33.480
10 pounds of sausage in a five-pound casing, okay?

592
00:35:33.480 --> 00:35:36.960
And trust me, I'm through menopause now, okay?

593
00:35:36.960 --> 00:35:38.880
I'm considered, Jesus, help me.

594
00:35:38.880 --> 00:35:41.640
I'm considered post-menopausal.

595
00:35:41.640 --> 00:35:43.720
What has even happened?

596
00:35:43.720 --> 00:35:46.120
I don't even understand.

597
00:35:46.120 --> 00:35:48.920
One day, you know, you're just happy.

598
00:35:48.920 --> 00:35:53.820
You're just doing your life and the next day the hot flashes come for you and then this

599
00:35:53.820 --> 00:35:58.380
comes for you and then you don't eat any differently and then all of a sudden the scale

600
00:35:58.380 --> 00:36:03.660
goes up 35, 40 pounds, you're like, whoa, this is real right here.

601
00:36:03.660 --> 00:36:07.060
You look at yourself in the mirror, you look like the Crypt Keeper, you got all kinds of

602
00:36:07.060 --> 00:36:15.180
crepey skin that wasn't there literally the night before, literally the night before.

603
00:36:15.180 --> 00:36:17.220
And then you wake up and you're like, what happened?

604
00:36:17.220 --> 00:36:20.100
Did I get hit with the ugly stick in my dreams?

605
00:36:20.100 --> 00:36:22.540
Like what has happened here?

606
00:36:23.140 --> 00:36:26.900
Has the old mother of time come for me?

607
00:36:26.900 --> 00:36:29.700
I'm not sure, but that has happened.

608
00:36:29.700 --> 00:36:31.740
So no shade, friends.

609
00:36:31.740 --> 00:36:37.860
But in this particular person's life, I just felt a word of knowledge and this happens

610
00:36:37.860 --> 00:36:47.460
often that this was not purely physical and you guys, we're not purely physical beings.

611
00:36:47.460 --> 00:36:52.300
Nothing that's happening in your physical body is purely physical.

612
00:36:52.300 --> 00:36:55.580
It's tied to belief systems, it's tied to habits and patterns.

613
00:36:55.580 --> 00:36:58.220
And you know what those habits and patterns are tied to?

614
00:36:58.220 --> 00:37:00.860
Belief systems.

615
00:37:00.860 --> 00:37:03.140
Do you think that your habits and patterns came from nowhere?

616
00:37:03.140 --> 00:37:05.220
I really want you to answer that in the chat.

617
00:37:05.220 --> 00:37:09.940
Do you really believe that they came from nowhere?

618
00:37:09.940 --> 00:37:11.580
Behavior follows identity, friends.

619
00:37:11.580 --> 00:37:13.140
It's always an identity problem.

620
00:37:13.140 --> 00:37:17.660
It's always a problem of your belief systems and the lies that you're believing about yourself,

621
00:37:17.780 --> 00:37:22.700
about others, about God, about men, about women, about marriage, about community, about

622
00:37:22.700 --> 00:37:26.500
friendship, about health.

623
00:37:26.500 --> 00:37:32.700
Remember, hope deferred makes the heart sick.

624
00:37:32.700 --> 00:37:35.860
For those of you that are in heart work, you're going to do my hope session soon.

625
00:37:35.860 --> 00:37:37.820
Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

626
00:37:37.820 --> 00:37:39.140
And what do sick hearts do?

627
00:37:39.140 --> 00:37:41.020
They go looking for medication.

628
00:37:41.020 --> 00:37:42.140
That's what they do.

629
00:37:42.140 --> 00:37:47.300
And so many of us are in a dopamine loop where all we do is medicate, medicate, medicate,

630
00:37:47.300 --> 00:37:48.740
medicate, medicate.

631
00:37:48.740 --> 00:37:54.340
Whether it's scrolling on social media mindlessly, whether it's watching television mindlessly,

632
00:37:54.340 --> 00:38:00.780
whether it's eating mindlessly, we're just looking for comfort instead of change.

633
00:38:00.780 --> 00:38:02.420
And that's what was going on with this client.

634
00:38:02.420 --> 00:38:07.380
She had not dealt with the deeper wounds of sexual abuse.

635
00:38:07.380 --> 00:38:10.100
And I will tell you, and I know you're not going to want to hear it, but I'm going to

636
00:38:10.100 --> 00:38:17.940
tell you that if you have a problem with obesity, it's not just because you're big

637
00:38:17.940 --> 00:38:18.940
boned.

638
00:38:18.940 --> 00:38:19.940
All right.

639
00:38:19.940 --> 00:38:20.940
I love you.

640
00:38:20.940 --> 00:38:21.940
I bless you, but it's not.

641
00:38:21.940 --> 00:38:22.940
Okay.

642
00:38:22.940 --> 00:38:25.700
A lot of times it's actually hurt.

643
00:38:25.700 --> 00:38:28.500
It's actually hurt.

644
00:38:28.500 --> 00:38:31.760
And God wants to heal that hurt.

645
00:38:31.760 --> 00:38:36.140
It's an insulation process where you've insulated yourself and where you've comforted yourself

646
00:38:36.140 --> 00:38:38.260
and where your body has responded.

647
00:38:38.420 --> 00:38:41.220
I know so many people that deal with obesity that don't overeat.

648
00:38:41.220 --> 00:38:45.260
I know that there's a stereotype about, oh, you know, they must be pulling up to the buffet

649
00:38:45.260 --> 00:38:46.260
every day.

650
00:38:46.260 --> 00:38:47.980
That's not true.

651
00:38:47.980 --> 00:38:54.980
Your body is actually responding hormonally and physiologically to the pain that you're

652
00:38:54.980 --> 00:38:59.460
carrying.

653
00:38:59.460 --> 00:39:04.900
And I've also seen, you know, so many of my students have supernaturally lost like over

654
00:39:04.900 --> 00:39:13.060
a hundred pounds after they got healed in their hearts.

655
00:39:13.060 --> 00:39:16.100
It's like the things that they tried before didn't work and the things that they tried

656
00:39:16.100 --> 00:39:17.940
after worked.

657
00:39:17.940 --> 00:39:21.080
And so I want to just encourage someone out there that's listening.

658
00:39:21.080 --> 00:39:22.860
This client, I encouraged her the same way.

659
00:39:22.860 --> 00:39:26.660
I said, look, hon, I said, I know that, you know, you want to do this.

660
00:39:26.660 --> 00:39:27.660
You want to do that.

661
00:39:27.660 --> 00:39:33.140
I said, the GLP could be a Kickstarter for you because she was talking about the GLP.

662
00:39:33.140 --> 00:39:34.460
I'm not going to get into that stuff.

663
00:39:35.020 --> 00:39:36.020
Some of you may be really against it.

664
00:39:36.020 --> 00:39:40.140
Some of you guys might be really for it, but you know, for her getting a kickstart in the

665
00:39:40.140 --> 00:39:41.140
right direction.

666
00:39:41.140 --> 00:39:45.980
But here's the thing, friends, nothing is going to work until we do the heart work.

667
00:39:45.980 --> 00:39:52.020
It might work temporarily, but it's not going to work long term until our patterns and our

668
00:39:52.020 --> 00:39:53.580
identity shifts.

669
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.760
Got it?

670
00:40:02.760 --> 00:40:04.440
So let's heal from the inside out.

671
00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:06.480
Yes, do the outside stuff.

672
00:40:06.480 --> 00:40:07.680
Try the stuff.

673
00:40:07.680 --> 00:40:10.480
If you've been wanting to try it, try it.

674
00:40:10.480 --> 00:40:13.920
The half-life of that drug is... that peptide is five days.

675
00:40:13.920 --> 00:40:17.000
So if you don't like the ride, you can get off.

676
00:40:17.000 --> 00:40:20.100
You have to take... you have to take a shot of that every week.

677
00:40:20.100 --> 00:40:23.960
So if you don't like it, you can actually get off of it.

678
00:40:23.960 --> 00:40:27.080
And my advice about that would be, and once again, please don't write into me.

679
00:40:27.080 --> 00:40:28.240
I'm not a doctor.

680
00:40:28.240 --> 00:40:29.480
I'm not even a...

681
00:40:29.480 --> 00:40:30.480
I'm nothing.

682
00:40:30.480 --> 00:40:35.360
I'm just a person with nothing, no credentials in this area.

683
00:40:35.360 --> 00:40:39.000
But three of the people I love the most that live in... like one of them lives in my house,

684
00:40:39.000 --> 00:40:47.240
my husband, my daughter, my daughter-in-law-to-be have been on these peptides at a very micro

685
00:40:47.240 --> 00:40:48.240
dose.

686
00:40:48.240 --> 00:40:49.240
That is the key.

687
00:40:49.240 --> 00:40:50.240
At a very micro dose.

688
00:40:50.240 --> 00:40:54.760
These people that go on these high levels of this, almost all of them have very, very,

689
00:40:54.760 --> 00:40:57.560
very rapid weight loss, bone loss, muscle loss.

690
00:40:57.640 --> 00:41:00.680
And then as soon as they stop, they gain all the weight back and more.

691
00:41:00.680 --> 00:41:01.680
You guys don't do that.

692
00:41:01.680 --> 00:41:02.680
That's dumb.

693
00:41:02.680 --> 00:41:06.120
They've been on a micro dose of this and guess what?

694
00:41:06.120 --> 00:41:11.040
Their blood sugar has regulated, their insulin resistance has regulated.

695
00:41:11.040 --> 00:41:15.840
I'm talking about small doses, the smallest dose you can get, okay?

696
00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:18.080
And they feel really clear in their mind.

697
00:41:18.080 --> 00:41:21.000
Somehow it helps with ADD, I don't know how.

698
00:41:21.000 --> 00:41:25.820
And they also have lost a couple pounds here and there.

699
00:41:25.820 --> 00:41:31.180
But the inflammation loss is insane, you guys.

700
00:41:31.180 --> 00:41:37.140
Literally one week later, blood work looks completely different.

701
00:41:37.140 --> 00:41:39.300
My husband's high blood pressure is down.

702
00:41:39.300 --> 00:41:42.860
He's also taking something for that, but his blood pressure is down.

703
00:41:42.860 --> 00:41:47.340
Their faces look different because I guess you carry a lot of inflammation in your face.

704
00:41:47.340 --> 00:41:49.900
I don't know, friends.

705
00:41:49.900 --> 00:41:53.120
But it was enough for me to try it because I'm like, well, I'm not going to let this

706
00:41:53.120 --> 00:41:56.360
train pull out of the station without me on it.

707
00:41:56.360 --> 00:42:01.720
And so I tried it as well and I'm one week on a tirazepatide compounded GLP.

708
00:42:01.720 --> 00:42:06.640
Once again, this is not an advertisement for this, okay?

709
00:42:06.640 --> 00:42:07.640
You pray about it.

710
00:42:07.640 --> 00:42:13.520
But if this was your sign that you needed to go ahead and try, very, very low dose,

711
00:42:13.520 --> 00:42:18.560
functional health doctors, nurse practitioners, not from the internet.

712
00:42:18.560 --> 00:42:23.440
It's very inexpensive if you do it the way that I'm talking about, very inexpensive.

713
00:42:23.440 --> 00:42:27.200
And then very, very low, low dose.

714
00:42:27.200 --> 00:42:32.400
It barely, barely, barely, barely does anything with food noise or like herbs appetite.

715
00:42:32.400 --> 00:42:35.360
It just really lowers inflammation.

716
00:42:35.360 --> 00:42:41.420
And so I definitely am a proponent of that for myself and for the people that I'm observing.

717
00:42:41.420 --> 00:42:42.600
For you, I don't know.

718
00:42:42.600 --> 00:42:43.600
You'd have to pray about it.

719
00:42:43.600 --> 00:42:44.600
All right.

720
00:42:44.600 --> 00:42:48.440
I don't know what else I want to say about that, but there are things you can do that

721
00:42:48.440 --> 00:42:51.920
help the outside you guys, but we got to work on the inside.

722
00:42:51.920 --> 00:42:56.160
You'd be amazed at what happens when you get clear in your heart.

723
00:42:56.160 --> 00:42:58.760
You'd be amazed at what happens when you get clear in your heart.

724
00:42:58.760 --> 00:42:59.760
You'd be amazed.

725
00:42:59.760 --> 00:43:03.760
I'm going to say this so gently because I love you so much, but you'd be amazed at what

726
00:43:03.760 --> 00:43:13.520
happens when you stop hating yourself.

727
00:43:13.520 --> 00:43:18.440
I'll never forget when someone said this to me and you guys, they didn't say it gently.

728
00:43:18.440 --> 00:43:19.440
All right.

729
00:43:19.440 --> 00:43:22.880
Let me just say that.

730
00:43:22.880 --> 00:43:26.680
This is not a gentle person that said this to me.

731
00:43:26.680 --> 00:43:28.440
One day I was talking about doing something.

732
00:43:28.440 --> 00:43:29.800
I was always trying to fix the outside.

733
00:43:29.800 --> 00:43:31.840
I was always trying to fix something about myself.

734
00:43:31.840 --> 00:43:36.360
I was always trying to get up earlier and work harder and do all the things.

735
00:43:36.360 --> 00:43:40.160
And they just literally said one day there was like, well, Jack, you just hate yourself.

736
00:43:40.160 --> 00:43:42.360
And I was like, I thought they were kidding.

737
00:43:42.360 --> 00:43:43.720
And I was like, I just laughed.

738
00:43:43.720 --> 00:43:45.720
And they were like, no, they're like, you have a lot of self-hatred.

739
00:43:45.720 --> 00:43:53.240
This has been a while ago.

740
00:43:53.240 --> 00:43:55.760
And I was like, okay.

741
00:43:55.760 --> 00:43:58.840
You know, in the moment I was like, okay, whatever.

742
00:43:58.840 --> 00:44:03.800
And then I left that moment and I was like, God, is that true?

743
00:44:03.800 --> 00:44:04.800
And he's like, yeah.

744
00:44:04.800 --> 00:44:08.360
And I'm like, oh, no.

745
00:44:08.360 --> 00:44:14.240
Guys, I was just running myself into the ground.

746
00:44:14.240 --> 00:44:17.440
And the funny thing is, is that, that's not funny.

747
00:44:17.440 --> 00:44:23.600
I was caring for all kinds of other people because I've always been a person that serves

748
00:44:23.600 --> 00:44:26.880
others and loves others and helps others.

749
00:44:26.880 --> 00:44:31.520
And I was literally destroying myself helping others because I hated myself.

750
00:44:31.520 --> 00:44:33.040
I wanted good things for other people.

751
00:44:33.040 --> 00:44:34.960
I didn't want good things for me.

752
00:44:34.960 --> 00:44:36.160
Who does that resonate with?

753
00:44:36.160 --> 00:44:44.360
Let's see.

754
00:44:44.360 --> 00:44:46.800
Anybody else?

755
00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:51.000
Anybody else hurting themselves, helping other people?

756
00:44:51.000 --> 00:44:58.040
Okay, Suzanne's asking GOP.

757
00:44:58.040 --> 00:45:00.040
Isn't that like the name of the Republican Party or something?

758
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.760
thing? No, not the G-O-P, the G-L as in love P.

759
00:45:31.000 --> 00:45:37.000
Yeah, I tried all that stuff, Regina. None of that worked for me. So, I did all of that.

760
00:45:37.000 --> 00:45:43.000
Different strokes for different folks. You guys, let's not turn this into a health thing.

761
00:45:43.000 --> 00:45:47.000
This is why we very rarely talk about stuff like this because people just run down this

762
00:45:47.000 --> 00:45:56.000
road. I want to talk about your heart work right now. Yes, Tina, thank you for reminding

763
00:45:56.000 --> 00:45:59.000
me. So, the dream I had last night, well, the dream that I had this morning right before

764
00:45:59.000 --> 00:46:11.000
I woke up was that I was being presented with a bride's, what is it called? I'm sure this

765
00:46:11.000 --> 00:46:18.000
is just for really rich people or royalty, but I was being presented with like a case

766
00:46:18.000 --> 00:46:24.000
and when you open the case, it had all the bridal jewelry in it. All the necklaces for

767
00:46:24.000 --> 00:46:33.000
the wedding, all the rings and the ring was going to be an emerald, not a diamond. Yeah,

768
00:46:33.000 --> 00:46:40.000
a dowry. Yeah, kind of Lauren, sort of a dowry, but also like all of the fabric samples of

769
00:46:40.000 --> 00:46:44.000
all the different dresses that I was going to wear during all the different events of

770
00:46:44.000 --> 00:46:52.000
the wedding. It's an interesting dream, isn't it? I mean, obviously, I'm a married woman,

771
00:46:52.000 --> 00:46:59.000
but for those of you that want to grab ahold of that, your father loves you. That's how

772
00:46:59.000 --> 00:47:10.000
brides get treated. Gentlemen, you are the bride of Christ as well. Do not forget. And

773
00:47:10.000 --> 00:47:22.000
all of the stuff was really very customized to my taste. And some of it was like a surprise.

774
00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:26.000
Some of it was like, yeah, that makes sense. I really love that. And then some of it was

775
00:47:26.000 --> 00:47:31.000
like very nice, but kind of a surprise, sort of an invitation into something different

776
00:47:31.000 --> 00:47:42.000
and more. Does that make sense? All right. Well, I know for those of you that show up

777
00:47:42.000 --> 00:47:47.000
tomorrow night, you're going to get some more heart work going on because I believe Bethany

778
00:47:47.000 --> 00:47:52.000
will be with you tomorrow night because Candy has other obligations. And so it'll either

779
00:47:52.000 --> 00:47:58.000
be Bethany or David with you tomorrow night to continue this conversation. But I want

780
00:47:58.000 --> 00:48:02.000
to ask you guys some old heart work questions. And for those of you that are brand new in

781
00:48:02.000 --> 00:48:07.000
the heart work, just know that we are revisiting this and we don't usually do this on Supernatural

782
00:48:07.000 --> 00:48:12.000
Saturday, but I think it's really important. So I'm going to ask you some questions from

783
00:48:12.000 --> 00:48:16.000
the very first chapter of the book and you're going to answer in the comments. Do you believe

784
00:48:16.000 --> 00:48:21.000
that God is emotionally involved in your life? You guys don't lie. Do you believe that God

785
00:48:21.000 --> 00:48:29.000
is emotionally involved and invested in your life? You, not someone else. I know you believe

786
00:48:29.000 --> 00:48:35.000
good things for other people, but you believe that God deeply cares about every single thing

787
00:48:35.000 --> 00:48:43.000
that happens to you. Some people being honest here, they're like, sometimes I do. Other

788
00:48:43.000 --> 00:48:49.000
people say, no, I don't feel that way. Not completely. Other people saying at times I

789
00:48:49.000 --> 00:48:55.000
do. Other people saying I'm trying to. I love these answers, you guys. Sometimes, but

790
00:48:55.000 --> 00:49:01.000
mostly no. Someone said he showed me this week. So this week, yes. Yes, I do this week

791
00:49:01.000 --> 00:49:09.000
because he showed me, but not always probably. When it isn't too much in my head, but in

792
00:49:09.000 --> 00:49:20.000
my heart, I doubt it. You guys, these are such good answers. For those of you that come

793
00:49:20.000 --> 00:49:27.000
on Sunday, I want you guys to answer the question of when you knew God was reaching out to you

794
00:49:27.000 --> 00:49:32.000
in a specific way through a person, a sign, experience, any other encounter. That's going

795
00:49:32.000 --> 00:49:38.000
to be the assignment. David will probably be with you because he didn't get to do faith

796
00:49:38.000 --> 00:49:43.000
Friday. You guys get to tell your testimonies of when you knew God was emotionally involved,

797
00:49:43.000 --> 00:49:47.000
the moment that you saw him reaching out to you, whether it was through a person, a sign,

798
00:49:47.000 --> 00:49:56.000
experience, any other encounter. That's going to be a fun testimony time of the different

799
00:49:56.000 --> 00:49:58.000
ways that you've seen God reach out.

800
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.520
But I want to skip down to the next question.

801
00:50:07.520 --> 00:50:16.000
What are you hoping will happen in your life before the end of May?

802
00:50:18.480 --> 00:50:22.200
Even this coming week, what do you hope will happen in your life?

803
00:50:27.040 --> 00:50:28.600
It could just be the beginning of it.

804
00:50:31.000 --> 00:50:33.200
People need clarity.

805
00:50:33.200 --> 00:50:41.000
Other people, they just want to meet the man, get a job, get a full-time job, an interview,

806
00:50:41.000 --> 00:50:50.240
a new job, clarity, direction, healing, work will be less stressful, finish some paintings,

807
00:50:50.240 --> 00:50:52.840
deep healing, motivation.

808
00:50:52.840 --> 00:50:54.480
Jodi wants motivation to come.

809
00:51:01.000 --> 00:51:11.000
Michelle wants to go on another date with her David, David, new job opportunities.

810
00:51:11.000 --> 00:51:13.800
Joy needs healing in her shoulder, in Jesus' name.

811
00:51:17.400 --> 00:51:18.800
Leslie's like, I don't care.

812
00:51:18.800 --> 00:51:19.800
I just want a surprise.

813
00:51:19.800 --> 00:51:21.000
Just surprise me, Lord.

814
00:51:22.000 --> 00:51:26.000
Alexa wants the most stuff to happen in one week.

815
00:51:26.000 --> 00:51:31.000
She wants a man of God, more kids, she wants to start a nonprofit.

816
00:51:31.000 --> 00:51:35.000
Alexa, you probably mean just in general, what do you want?

817
00:51:35.000 --> 00:51:39.000
If all that happened in one week, that would be a lot of stuff.

818
00:51:39.000 --> 00:51:45.000
Before the end of May, you want to know where you're going to work, where you're going to

819
00:51:46.000 --> 00:51:52.000
You want to know where you're going to work.

820
00:51:52.000 --> 00:51:54.000
Allison just wants to start dating.

821
00:51:54.000 --> 00:51:57.000
Guys, these are all really good.

822
00:51:57.000 --> 00:52:02.000
And pieces and parts of this can for sure happen in one week.

823
00:52:02.000 --> 00:52:04.000
And a lot can happen.

824
00:52:04.000 --> 00:52:05.000
Can I tell you something?

825
00:52:05.000 --> 00:52:07.000
A lot can happen in a month.

826
00:52:07.000 --> 00:52:09.000
A lot can happen in six months.

827
00:52:09.000 --> 00:52:11.000
And a lot can happen in a year.

828
00:52:12.000 --> 00:52:16.000
I want to revisit my heartwork season when I was doing my heartwork, you guys.

829
00:52:16.000 --> 00:52:21.000
When God was giving me heartwork and teaching me about heartwork.

830
00:52:21.000 --> 00:52:22.000
And I was doing that.

831
00:52:24.000 --> 00:52:32.000
And then one day, out of nowhere, a man and his two kids moved in next door to me.

832
00:52:35.000 --> 00:52:37.000
And the rest is history.

833
00:52:37.000 --> 00:52:45.000
Did you guys know that we're going to celebrate 20 years of marriage next year?

834
00:52:45.000 --> 00:52:47.000
Like, yeah, Jackie, you're going to celebrate it someday.

835
00:52:47.000 --> 00:52:48.000
No, next year.

836
00:52:48.000 --> 00:52:50.000
20 years of marriage.

837
00:52:50.000 --> 00:52:51.000
And we're already trying to plan.

838
00:52:51.000 --> 00:52:52.000
Like, what do we want to do?

839
00:52:52.000 --> 00:52:54.000
Do we want to have a vow renewal?

840
00:52:54.000 --> 00:52:56.000
Would all of you come to our vow renewal?

841
00:52:56.000 --> 00:52:58.000
Wouldn't that be fun?

842
00:52:58.000 --> 00:53:00.000
We threw ourselves a 20-year wedding.

843
00:53:00.000 --> 00:53:01.000
Oh, my gosh.

844
00:53:01.000 --> 00:53:05.000
I feel like I'm starting to have a kooky, crazy hairball.

845
00:53:05.000 --> 00:53:09.000
I'm starting to have a kooky, crazy hairbrain scheme coming in my mind.

846
00:53:09.000 --> 00:53:11.000
My favorite kind.

847
00:53:14.000 --> 00:53:15.000
Oh, my gosh.

848
00:53:15.000 --> 00:53:19.000
Wouldn't it be fun if everyone brought their person and came to that?

849
00:53:22.000 --> 00:53:26.000
And then we had, like, a singles thing the day before for everyone who didn't have a person.

850
00:53:26.000 --> 00:53:29.000
And then more people met their people before it.

851
00:53:29.000 --> 00:53:30.000
Oh, my gosh.

852
00:53:30.000 --> 00:53:31.000
Oh, my gosh.

853
00:53:34.000 --> 00:53:35.000
Don't tell David.

854
00:53:42.000 --> 00:53:45.000
I will very lightly float the idea to him.

855
00:53:47.000 --> 00:53:48.000
Okay.

856
00:53:53.000 --> 00:53:57.000
So much can change, you guys, in a week, in a month, in six months, in a year.

857
00:53:57.000 --> 00:53:59.000
So much can change when we change.

858
00:53:59.000 --> 00:54:00.000
That's what I want to add to the end of it.

859
00:54:00.000 --> 00:54:03.000
So much can change when we change.

860
00:54:03.000 --> 00:54:05.000
And here's the thing that should really help you.

861
00:54:05.000 --> 00:54:07.000
Change is not on you.

862
00:54:07.000 --> 00:54:08.000
It's on God.

863
00:54:11.000 --> 00:54:12.000
You can't change yourself.

864
00:54:12.000 --> 00:54:14.000
All you can do is surrender.

865
00:54:14.000 --> 00:54:16.000
Karen put up her hand.

866
00:54:16.000 --> 00:54:17.000
She's in the heart work right now.

867
00:54:17.000 --> 00:54:18.000
Karen, you can't change yourself.

868
00:54:18.000 --> 00:54:20.000
Only God can change.

869
00:54:20.000 --> 00:54:22.000
All you can do is surrender.

870
00:54:22.000 --> 00:54:24.000
I don't remember who else put their hands up.

871
00:54:24.000 --> 00:54:26.000
I just remember seeing Karen.

872
00:54:26.000 --> 00:54:28.000
You guys, listen.

873
00:54:28.000 --> 00:54:33.000
If you surrender every single day.

874
00:54:33.000 --> 00:54:35.000
Remember, that permission slip wasn't just a one and done.

875
00:54:35.000 --> 00:54:36.000
Every single day.

876
00:54:36.000 --> 00:54:37.000
Go get your book.

877
00:54:37.000 --> 00:54:38.000
Go dig it out.

878
00:54:41.000 --> 00:54:43.000
God can shift stuff overnight.

879
00:54:43.000 --> 00:54:44.000
Right, Mandy?

880
00:54:44.000 --> 00:54:45.000
He can.

881
00:54:45.000 --> 00:54:46.000
Mandy and I are thinking alike.

882
00:54:48.000 --> 00:54:49.000
He can do it.

883
00:54:53.000 --> 00:54:57.000
You don't need to go sit in some waiting room to get ready.

884
00:54:57.000 --> 00:55:00.000
The way that you get ready is through God.

885
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:01.240
from supernatural surrender.

886
00:55:01.240 --> 00:55:05.340
The way that you get ready is from relationships and repair.

887
00:55:05.340 --> 00:55:07.080
That is how it happens.

888
00:55:07.080 --> 00:55:09.780
Yes, you will date a few people that aren't the person.

889
00:55:09.780 --> 00:55:12.900
Yes, you will have encounters that don't lead to marriage.

890
00:55:12.900 --> 00:55:14.300
That's the point.

891
00:55:16.180 --> 00:55:19.660
With every encounter, you're going to become more clear

892
00:55:19.660 --> 00:55:21.900
about what it is that you need and what you want

893
00:55:21.900 --> 00:55:23.700
and where you are.

894
00:55:23.700 --> 00:55:25.400
And that's just in your love life.

895
00:55:26.400 --> 00:55:30.200
Some of you have been entertaining jobs way below

896
00:55:30.200 --> 00:55:33.300
your talent, your gift level,

897
00:55:33.300 --> 00:55:35.100
because you've just gotten to a comfort zone.

898
00:55:35.100 --> 00:55:37.500
It's like, well, you know, it almost pays the bills.

899
00:55:37.500 --> 00:55:38.800
So, you know, it's...

900
00:55:38.800 --> 00:55:41.500
And you've also bought into the belief

901
00:55:41.500 --> 00:55:43.900
that we're in a scarcity economy.

902
00:55:43.900 --> 00:55:45.800
You guys let that go.

903
00:55:45.800 --> 00:55:48.200
That crap is always on the television.

904
00:55:48.200 --> 00:55:49.800
Turn the TV off.

905
00:55:49.800 --> 00:55:51.400
You're like, well, the gas is high.

906
00:55:51.400 --> 00:55:52.800
I don't care.

907
00:55:52.800 --> 00:55:54.700
That's called politics.

908
00:55:55.500 --> 00:55:57.400
All the money is still on the earth.

909
00:55:57.400 --> 00:55:59.100
No money has left the earth.

910
00:55:59.100 --> 00:56:01.000
There's no scarcity economy.

911
00:56:01.000 --> 00:56:02.800
Will you hear me, please?

912
00:56:02.800 --> 00:56:05.100
If you believe that and buy into that,

913
00:56:05.100 --> 00:56:07.100
it's going to affect you.

914
00:56:08.300 --> 00:56:10.200
You are going to live in scarcity

915
00:56:10.200 --> 00:56:12.300
because you believe that there's scarcity.

916
00:56:12.300 --> 00:56:14.800
I promise you, there's all the resources that were here

917
00:56:14.800 --> 00:56:16.000
are still here.

918
00:56:16.000 --> 00:56:18.600
Just because we're not taking someone else's oil anymore

919
00:56:18.600 --> 00:56:20.500
and we're not drilling our own, that's on them.

920
00:56:20.500 --> 00:56:22.400
This is politics we're talking about.

921
00:56:22.400 --> 00:56:23.800
This is not real.

922
00:56:25.700 --> 00:56:27.200
All the gold's still here.

923
00:56:27.200 --> 00:56:28.600
All the jewels are still here.

924
00:56:28.600 --> 00:56:29.800
All the money's still here.

925
00:56:29.800 --> 00:56:31.600
All the resources are still here.

926
00:56:31.600 --> 00:56:32.800
It's all here.

927
00:56:33.800 --> 00:56:35.300
Everything is here still.

928
00:56:35.300 --> 00:56:36.000
And guess what?

929
00:56:36.000 --> 00:56:38.300
The gifts and talents, the treasure that you are,

930
00:56:38.300 --> 00:56:41.400
because the Bible says that he hid treasure in earthen vessels.

931
00:56:41.400 --> 00:56:42.300
So, guess what?

932
00:56:42.300 --> 00:56:43.400
You're the treasure.

933
00:56:45.800 --> 00:56:47.200
You're the treasure.

934
00:56:48.400 --> 00:56:49.400
And you're still here.

935
00:56:49.400 --> 00:56:53.400
And some company is going to thank their lucky stars

936
00:56:53.400 --> 00:56:54.400
if they don't know God.

937
00:56:54.400 --> 00:56:55.900
Or they're going to thank God in heaven

938
00:56:55.900 --> 00:56:57.500
that you came across their path

939
00:56:57.500 --> 00:56:58.900
and you became part of their team.

940
00:56:59.700 --> 00:57:01.700
And they're going to pay you what you're worth.

941
00:57:04.200 --> 00:57:06.600
Do not hang out with people that have a scarcity mentality.

942
00:57:06.600 --> 00:57:09.100
Do not be a person who has a scarcity mentality.

943
00:57:09.100 --> 00:57:12.400
Do not work for people who have a scarcity mentality.

944
00:57:12.400 --> 00:57:14.300
If your company has a scarcity mentality,

945
00:57:14.300 --> 00:57:18.600
they don't reward their employees, their team members.

946
00:57:18.600 --> 00:57:20.600
They don't treat them well.

947
00:57:20.600 --> 00:57:22.900
They use them to build their thing.

948
00:57:24.200 --> 00:57:27.500
You want to work for a company that uses its thing to build you,

949
00:57:27.500 --> 00:57:28.800
not the other way around.

950
00:57:28.800 --> 00:57:30.500
So, start praying for that.

951
00:57:31.300 --> 00:57:32.700
Not everyone's an entrepreneur.

952
00:57:32.700 --> 00:57:34.000
I'm not going to sit here and tell you,

953
00:57:34.000 --> 00:57:35.300
oh, well, go build your own business,

954
00:57:35.300 --> 00:57:36.500
because that's not a real thing.

955
00:57:37.100 --> 00:57:38.800
Being an entrepreneur is really hard

956
00:57:38.800 --> 00:57:40.600
and not everyone's cut out for that.

957
00:57:40.600 --> 00:57:42.900
And if you are, then you know what?

958
00:57:42.900 --> 00:57:43.900
You got to go after it.

959
00:57:43.900 --> 00:57:46.400
Yes, you're going to fail, but that's part of success.

960
00:57:46.400 --> 00:57:48.300
And you need to fail if you're an entrepreneur.

961
00:57:48.300 --> 00:57:50.800
The rest of you are going to build people,

962
00:57:50.800 --> 00:57:52.300
other people's visions,

963
00:57:52.400 --> 00:57:55.000
but those visions should be building you at the same time

964
00:57:55.000 --> 00:57:57.300
if you work for the right people and for the right companies.

965
00:57:57.300 --> 00:57:58.400
And you're going to love your life.

966
00:57:58.400 --> 00:57:59.800
You're going to love your job.

967
00:57:59.800 --> 00:58:01.400
You're going to love the people that you work with.

968
00:58:01.400 --> 00:58:03.700
You're going to love what you get to do every day.

969
00:58:03.700 --> 00:58:05.200
And if that is not your reality,

970
00:58:05.200 --> 00:58:06.200
then you need to start praying,

971
00:58:06.200 --> 00:58:09.000
God, give me something to do with my gifts and talents

972
00:58:09.000 --> 00:58:10.800
that helps other people,

973
00:58:10.800 --> 00:58:12.200
that I get to work in an environment

974
00:58:12.200 --> 00:58:13.700
where I love my co-workers,

975
00:58:13.700 --> 00:58:14.800
I love going to work,

976
00:58:14.800 --> 00:58:15.900
I love what I get to do,

977
00:58:15.900 --> 00:58:17.100
I love how I'm treated,

978
00:58:17.100 --> 00:58:19.200
and I love how I'm compensated.

979
00:58:20.200 --> 00:58:22.100
Do you hear me?

980
00:58:26.100 --> 00:58:27.600
Come on.

981
00:58:40.100 --> 00:58:41.100
All right.

982
00:58:43.600 --> 00:58:45.900
I'm going to pray the permission prayer over you all,

983
00:58:45.900 --> 00:58:48.000
and then we are going to go ahead and let you go.

984
00:58:48.800 --> 00:58:50.500
Because I want you to revisit this.

985
00:58:51.200 --> 00:58:52.500
It's important to me.

986
00:58:57.300 --> 00:58:59.500
And then you guys can go dig it out somewhere

987
00:58:59.500 --> 00:59:01.000
and show up on Sunday night.

988
00:59:01.800 --> 00:59:03.700
Father God, I give you permission.

989
00:59:04.700 --> 00:59:06.200
Father, if you guys agree with this,

990
00:59:06.200 --> 00:59:07.300
just agree with it,

991
00:59:07.300 --> 00:59:11.500
as I just declared over you.

992
00:59:13.500 --> 00:59:15.800
Father God, we give you permission to search us

993
00:59:15.800 --> 00:59:17.600
and to reveal anything in our hearts

994
00:59:17.600 --> 00:59:20.100
that does not belong to our true identity.

995
00:59:20.900 --> 00:59:23.000
Anything that's hindering us from living the life

996
00:59:23.000 --> 00:59:24.300
that you created us to live.

997
00:59:24.900 --> 00:59:27.100
Holy Spirit, we invite you

998
00:59:27.100 --> 00:59:29.000
into the darkest places of our hearts.

999
00:59:29.500 --> 00:59:31.800
Show us the areas that are still wounded,

1000
00:59:31.800 --> 00:59:32.800
that are still hurting.

1001
00:59:33.400 --> 00:59:36.200
And when you reveal these broken places to us,

1002
00:59:36.500 --> 00:59:39.100
we covenant with you to release them into your care

1003
00:59:39.500 --> 00:59:42.600
and to respond with forgiveness and repentance.

1004
00:59:43.100 --> 00:59:45.300
We set aside this season of our lives

1005
00:59:45.300 --> 00:59:48.400
for a time of healing, wholeness and abundance.

1006
00:59:49.200 --> 00:59:52.100
And we ask Holy Spirit to take charge of this process.

1007
00:59:52.900 --> 00:59:54.900
We ask that you dwell with us and in us.

1008
00:59:54.900 --> 00:59:55.600
We need you.

1009
00:59:55.600 --> 00:59:56.900
We cannot heal ourselves.

1010
00:59:57.200 --> 00:59:58.700
We want to be free from the past,

1011
00:59:58.900 --> 01:00:00.200
free to be who we truly are.

1012
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.600
are, help us to become who you created us to be.

1013
01:00:04.600 --> 01:00:08.840
Show us the lies we've believed about ourself, our lives, our surroundings, even the lies

1014
01:00:08.840 --> 01:00:10.940
that we have believed about you.

1015
01:00:10.940 --> 01:00:12.480
Teach us the greater truth.

1016
01:00:12.480 --> 01:00:13.880
Teach us your ways.

1017
01:00:13.880 --> 01:00:16.720
Teach us how to think and how to live abundantly.

1018
01:00:16.720 --> 01:00:19.440
Teach us, show us, heal us, and grow us.

1019
01:00:19.440 --> 01:00:20.440
Amen.

1020
01:00:20.440 --> 01:00:24.800
Okay, friends, don't forget, if you are Catholic, please join me on Sunday.

1021
01:00:24.800 --> 01:00:25.800
Go look on my Instagram.

1022
01:00:25.800 --> 01:00:29.140
In the Reels section, you will find that advertisement for that.

1023
01:00:29.140 --> 01:00:30.140
Get the book.

1024
01:00:30.140 --> 01:00:31.140
It's available on Amazon.

1025
01:00:31.140 --> 01:00:35.060
It's also available on my website, JackieDorman.com.

1026
01:00:35.060 --> 01:00:36.060
Join the book club.

1027
01:00:36.060 --> 01:00:37.060
There is a limited amount of seats.

1028
01:00:37.060 --> 01:00:38.060
It can't be crazy.

1029
01:00:38.060 --> 01:00:44.140
It can't be a thousand people, because then I won't be able to coach all the people.

1030
01:00:44.140 --> 01:00:47.460
And I do respond personally to your questions there.

1031
01:00:47.460 --> 01:00:49.220
I do coach you personally.

1032
01:00:49.220 --> 01:00:54.900
I go through and I do personal responses to all the questions and to all the feedback

1033
01:00:54.900 --> 01:00:55.900
and all the things.

1034
01:00:55.900 --> 01:00:57.140
And it's going to be a great time.

1035
01:00:57.140 --> 01:01:02.540
And remember, it is a field guide, so you are going to walk away very clear about what

1036
01:01:02.540 --> 01:01:04.540
to do to have a summer of love.

1037
01:01:04.540 --> 01:01:05.040
See you soon.