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There is a YouTube show, I believe, it's probably on other stations too, but I

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know you can find it on YouTube, called Gotcha Life. And Gotcha Life actually

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has episodes about maps. Well, if I didn't know what that was and I was simply

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scrolling through, you know, what kids show, because it's all animated, it looks

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harmless when you're just looking at it. It looks like just a bunch of animated

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characters, so you would think it would be kid-friendly.

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Hi guys and welcome to another edition of Truth Talk with Wendy. I am excited to

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be with you again today. I do have a subject matter that is actually kind of

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shocking for me, which is saying a lot. I don't know how I have been involved in

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helping kids with sexual abuse and girls who've been sex trafficked for as

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long as I have and literally had never heard of this until the past several

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months. So, I want to bring this information to you because I feel like

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there is so much, you know, like when you're kids, if some of you have

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teenagers or even you know preteens, the language is so different

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obviously than when we grew up. And they say things and I'm like, you know, like

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if they say something like, that is sick, mom. And I'm like, okay, is that good or

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bad? You know, you just never know what it is that they are referring to because the

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language has changed so much. And there are so many different letters that

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represent things like LOL, which is one we all know. But that is one of

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about 10,000. Like I never knew what, let's see, I-C-Y-M-I, I think it is, in case you

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missed it. But in receiving texts from my kids and they put things in there that I

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have no idea what that even means. I first of all could not even believe what

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I was hearing and reading. I'm like, okay, there is this whole conversation going

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on that unless you're paying attention, you could miss it. And so, when I ran

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across this, I thought, you know, this is all just part of this culture that

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we're in now. Everything has to have a politically correct way of sounding or

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some kind of, you know, maybe there's an ulterior motive for, you know, like

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hiding it and not knowing. I remember the first time I found out that a Molly was

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referring to drugs when I just thought it was one of my kids' friends. You know,

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it's just as a parent, sometimes we can be overwhelmed with the language

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differences and the barriers between us and our children. So, I just want to talk

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to you about a new term that I learned. And the term sounds very, very friendly.

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When I asked my husband what it was, he referred to the obvious thing you think

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it is, which is the term MAP. M-A-P. And no, I am not referring to what comes up

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on your GPS when you are trying to find a restaurant in a town you've never been

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in or, in my case, in a town you've lived in for almost 20 years and you still

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pull up your GPS to get everywhere. But now, the term MAP stands for minor

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attracted person. Incognito for pedophile, which clearly most people

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have heard of. And the argument is that pedophile has a certain stigma to it,

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which, in all honesty, it should have a stigma because it's like the word

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murderer. That should have a stigma because it is not a good thing to be a

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murderer, as it is not a good thing to be a pedophile.

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But instead of being able to call a pedophile, a pedophile or child molester, they now prefer

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for us to refer to them as MAP, Minor Attracted Persons, or MAPs.

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So I just, I have so much to say on this, but quite honestly, I am still in the middle

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of quite a bit of research.

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Unfortunately, it's been around much longer than I have even had time to go back and research.

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And I felt the urgency of letting people know, because if I don't know, and this is an area

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of which I dig and dig and dig into research to be able to combat things that I went through

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in my childhood and fulfill the call on my life that I feel the Lord has me here for.

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And I was unaware of it.

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It really made me feel as though most people probably have not heard of it.

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Or if they have, they're not, you know, very educated in it as well either.

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And let me just say, just right out of the gate here, I am of the firm belief that sin,

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any sin that we commit, i.e., you know, lying all the way to murder, okay, and, you know,

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repeated pedophilia in that, whatever our sin is, that disqualifies us from heaven,

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period, end of story.

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All sin is covered under the blood of Jesus.

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And if we are going to condemn other people or think that those people are not forgivable

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or they are, their sin is so much worse than ours that Jesus' blood is not strong enough

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to cover them, you know, whatever our rationale is, then we should be more concerned about

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our heart than what they're doing.

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And I say that because if you look at what Jesus did when he walked on the earth and

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set the example for us, he went to the least of these.

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He went to the worst sinners, and I say worst in air quotes.

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He went and hung out with them because that alone is what got the Pharisees, the Sadducees,

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that's what worked them all up.

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These religious people totally wanted to discount Jesus because, you know, he was hanging out

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with the prostitutes and the tax collectors and, you know, these harlots.

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And, you know, we have to really examine ourselves when we are casting judgment like that.

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So I simply am bringing this information for reasons that I feel like, just like the term

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molly, if I heard my kids talking about, even if they were referring to a girl molly, I

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would want some clarification from them simply because I want to make sure I know what's

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going on in my kids' lives.

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There is a YouTube show, I believe, it's probably on other stations too, but I know you can

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find it on YouTube, called Gotcha Life.

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And Gotcha Life actually has episodes about maps.

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Well, if I didn't know what that was and I was simply scrolling through, you know,

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what kids show, because it's all animated, it looks harmless when you're just looking

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at it.

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It looks like just a bunch of animated characters, so you would think it would be kid-friendly.

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And if you don't know what map is, then you might not think it's that big of a deal.

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So the reason I want people to understand and to know what this is, and just be aware

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of the term, is simply so that if you see it, if it comes up in a conversation with

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your kids, whatever, that you know what it is that they may be referring to.

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But again, Jesus never condemned the person.

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He condemned their sin, and He never tolerated their sin.

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What He did was He loved them in their sin, because the Bible tells very clearly.

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That while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us, which is so beautiful because that

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means we don't have to get our lives all cleaned up before we come to Jesus.

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He meets us in the middle of our big ole mess, right?

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And so for me, in my background, especially coming out of the trashy world of dancing

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and just everything that comes with that, I needed to know that it was okay to approach

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Jesus in that state.

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And with my upbringing, where everything was so much about behavior and the outside, you

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know, nobody could see what was going on inside, but the outside, man, it just had to be perfect.

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And those are very hard to balance.

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Those are very difficult concepts to try to manage in your brain if you don't really

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understand the love of Jesus.

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His love has no strings attached.

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It does not matter what you've done ever.

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As long as you are in a position of repentance, then he's the one that's going to change your

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behavior.

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It's not our job to change someone's behavior.

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It's our job to tell them about Jesus and to let them know of his amazing grace.

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And then from there, the Holy Spirit does the work.

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So anyway, I just wanted to say that.

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Also, I want you to be aware, because this is something that I found while I was researching.

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There is now, and I think so many people now are used to these hashtags, you know, although

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y'all probably know way more about it than I do.

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I am not very social media savvy, but a lot of what they're now calling maps, when they

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do any kind of post or hashtagging, some of them will say, hashtag pro-C or hashtag anti-C.

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What that means is pro-contact or anti-contact.

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And when I say contact, that is exactly what you think it is.

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It's do they believe in having contact with whoever they're attracted to, i.e. the minor.

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And some people have the argument that all pedophiles are not child molesters.

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Not only all child molesters are pedophiles, but just because someone is attracted to a

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minor does not make them a pedophile.

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And here's what I will say to that.

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More power to you, but do not be posting about that and asking me to call you something that

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makes you comfortable.

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What you should be spending your time doing is getting help for your abnormal attraction

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and asking God to fix that.

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Just like if I have an attraction to anything that is against God's word, I'm not going

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to force my attraction down someone's throat to ask them to be able to make me feel better.

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I would rather them call me this or accept my sin in a politically correct way.

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No, I'm going to be trying to find a counselor who can truly help me, and I'm going to be

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on my face asking the Lord to forgive me.

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And it might be the thorn in my flesh where when I ask the Lord, he never relieves me

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of that, whatever that is, but he tells me, like he told Paul, my grace is sufficient.

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And that may be something I have to learn to live with, but never will I expect or even

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ask for anyone to accept that or to make me feel comfortable with it.

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I don't want to feel comfortable in my sin, and I'm certainly not going to contribute

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to someone else feeling comfortable in their sin.

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And I'm sorry, but anyone who looks at a minor with lustful thoughts and feelings is a breath

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away from acting on that.

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So whether you're anti-contact or pro-contact is not even the issue.

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The Bible says, as a man thinks in his heart.

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So is he.

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Now, that means all of us have things

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that we have to work on

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to not have thoughts in our head, okay?

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Like you can get really, really mad at somebody

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and you can dwell on that

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or you can let it pass.

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You can figure out how to ask the Lord

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to help you with that anger.

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You can go and work it out with whoever you're mad at,

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but something that you do

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has to make that anger go away.

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It doesn't mean as long as you live in that anger

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and you don't act on that anger,

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that that is okay

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because that anger will eventually get the best of you.

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Just like being attracted to the wrong person

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and especially when it could hurt a child,

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that is just not something that we need

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to allow ourselves to live on

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and live with day after day after day after day after day.

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So I just wanted to say that.

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Also, there is a type of map slash pedophile

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who are now even trying to glom on

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to the LGBTQIA plus plus plus plus plus

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group and they are now identifying

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as trans age, okay?

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So here is where now we are entering the danger field

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of how the LGBTQ, T being transgender,

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these people that think they can just wake up one day a girl

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and decide to be a boy and wake up the next day

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and say, okay, everyone has to call me Bob now

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because I know I was Mary yesterday,

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but now I'm Bob and I'm gonna dress like a boy,

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I'm gonna do everything that a boy can do

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and y'all just have to live with it, okay?

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So if we're gonna accept that as a society

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and these crazy people that call themselves scientists

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say that that is actually a possibility,

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then what is to keep a 40-year-old man

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from identifying as a 14-year-old boy

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and having sex with a 10-year-old girl

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and then not getting in trouble

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because they're quote unquote both minors.

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And there is actual posts of people

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who identify as trans age.

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So this is no joke.

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The moms and dads listening right now,

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y'all need to be aware that these are premeditated,

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motivated, grown adults who are taking advantage

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of the compromise and tolerance society

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that we live in today

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and they are coming after our kids, period, end of story.

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There's an entire song about it

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and if you haven't seen it,

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I suggest you look up the gay choir

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that literally came out and sang a song,

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We're Coming For Your Kids.

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It is the most infuriating song as a parent to listen to

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and quite honestly, the main guy

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that does the beginning of the song at least,

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has a smirk on his face

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that will literally make you want to throw up in your mouth.

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It is so devious and premeditated

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and they just don't care.

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They're literally telling you

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they're coming after your kids

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and they don't care if you know.

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They're just being honest with you.

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I'm wondering at what point in our society,

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the more we tolerate, the more we accept,

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the more we become politically correct,

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at some point there's going to be someone

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who kills someone and asks for people

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to not refer to them as the murderer

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but as a murder fantasizing person, maybe an MFP.

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I mean, at what point do people use the God-given brain

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that he gave us to say enough is enough?

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At what point does it have to affect your child?

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for you to get involved? Does it have to come into your living room for you to

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take a stand? At some point there has to be no more and I for one reached that

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point a while back and I'm so disgusted at so-called you know Republicans and

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or Christians who just tolerate for the sake of getting along to go along. It is

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it is not helping it's actually encouraging their behavior and here's

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the deal we can boycott we can do all kinds of you know canceling so-called of

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our own but we do not have I don't know of a product in fact someone made the

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joke the slab under the tile in your living room or the carpet in your house

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or whatever the slab has some company involved that probably donated to

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something you don't believe in. I remember when you know Target did all

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the stuff about the bathrooms and everybody's like we are never going to

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Target again and I have family members that you know took that stance which you

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know if that's what God tells you to do then that's exactly what you should do

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but I'm saying as a whole that is not going to do anything because eventually

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you're going to be out of everything because there's not a company that

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produces something that does not donate somewhere somehow. I'm sure I say there's

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not a company there's probably a very limited number if any because I have not

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come up with a list and if anyone has one please email it to me but but that's

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like not even solving the problem and in regards to the Target thing like for

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me every time I'm at Target with my daughter and I have to go to the

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bathroom or she has to go to the bath I almost hope that there is some pervert

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in the bathroom waiting to see if he can get away with doing something when

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we walk in there because I can promise you that he probably won't come back if

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he were to encounter me and my daughter and I think at some point there has to

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be enough righteous anger that we have and are willing to act on for this to

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stop. I think God's grace and God's mercy and God's forgiveness are so focused on

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in the church and in our circles that people forget about his holiness his

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righteousness and his righteous anger when Jesus flipped the temp the tables

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over in the temple because these people were making a mockery out of the house

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of God and making money okay what do you think is behind every single thing

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that's going on today it's all driven by power and money and until we are willing

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to take a stand no matter what that costs us then we are going to just

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continue to slide deeper and deeper into this pit and before we know it it's

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going to overtake our country in fact I don't know at some point you know is is

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the is the train going so fast it can even stop at this point and I just

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believe that God is so much bigger but he is waiting on his people to take a

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stand another thing that I found that I thought was very interesting in regards

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to research that it did not apply to me so much which a lot of people you know

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when we're looking at a situation we view through our lens of our past and

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what we experience that made us you know do make a certain decision or that

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influence something that happened to us or whatever

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But this wasn't necessarily what happened with me.

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And for new listeners, you may wanna go back

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and watch the first episode of season one

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to understand fully what I'm talking about.

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But my sexual abuse as a child stemmed from my father

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who was also our pastor, and it was very difficult

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because he was my hero.

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And I had a great relationship with him

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until that moment where he crossed that line with me.

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But what I also found was there are specific pedophiles

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that look for young girls that have father issues

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or a child who does not get as much attention at home.

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that requires quite a bit of attention,

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and that child either has a disability

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or is just a harder child,

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like more rambunctious or more defiant.

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very compliant, and maybe that child

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does not require as much parenting,

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quote unquote parenting, as another child does.

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by the fourth one that comes along.

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in one area versus another area.

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That child that you think is compliant and easy

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sometimes can become an easier target for that pedophile

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because what they do, their method of operation

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is they will build that child up

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and literally lavish them with compliments

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and build their self-esteem to a place where,

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and if you can just imagine for a minute,

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when they're around whoever is grooming them,

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and it's not always the pedophile.

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like younger, like teenage girls or teenage boys,

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like the boyfriend is really the groomer

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and then brings them to the pedophile.

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But somebody that makes them feel good

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and compliments them and they can do no wrong.

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they're kind of, not mistreated,

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but just not lavished on like that

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because so much of the parenting

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and the energy goes into another child

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or the marriage is having problems or whatever it is.

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But your children, if you are not engaging with them

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and you are not asking some pretty pointed questions,

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and I mean age appropriate questions

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and getting involved in their life,

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sometimes that just lack of connection with us

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can set them up as an easy target for these sick perverts

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that are specifically looking to use that vulnerability

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to their benefit.

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And I had a great relationship with my dad

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and I was such a perfectionist

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and always wanted to make A's

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and always wanted to learn all my Bible verses

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and all of that.

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So I was not in that category,

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but my danger came from within the home.

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And my dad used my worship of him

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and thinking how wonderful he was

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and he could do no wrong.

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You know, that's what my dad used against me.

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And even years later, years, decades later,

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has made the statement to my face, to my husband,

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that of all six children,

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he knows that I love him the most,

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which, you know, still just blows my mind

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that if you know that, you know,

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why would you hurt someone like that?

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is that it's just so important in today's day and age

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and always, I'm sure, but specifically today

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with the amount of deception and just tolerance

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that we are expected to just, you know,

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now just call these people minor attractive persons

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or maps so that they'll feel better.

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It is their way of normalizing this pedophilia,

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which is why you also see some states

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trying to fight the age of consent.

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That's also another hashtag.

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Oh, AOC, age of consent, and there's another one, too.

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I need to find that one out.

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I didn't know what it meant.

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It looked very strange, but it's talking about the age

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that someone prefers because there are people

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that literally want to see or have contact with babies.

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Yes, you heard me right, six-month-old babies and up.

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you know that he was just found guilty of child pornography.

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This man was able to take his computer that he had covenant

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eyes on, which is a program for men who have sexual tendencies

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and go on and look at porn and, you know,

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or go on places they shouldn't go.

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And it sends a, you know, you put this on your device

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and if you go somewhere you're not supposed to go,

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it sends an alert to whoever your accountability person is.

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Well, he partitioned his computer

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and had a basically another computer within his computer

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that covenant eyes didn't recognize.

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all the way down to six-months-old.

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And the problem, guys, is that we have got to,

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got to spend the time talking to our kids, asking kids questions,

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not to scare them, not to scare them, and not to be paranoid,

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not to make them paranoid or not for us to live in fear.

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But to be informed and to give them the understanding

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that if anyone at any time makes them feel uncomfortable

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for any reason whatsoever, I mean any reason.

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Let me tell you something.

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I am a mom who loves pictures.

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I have a picture every year until my kids were too old,

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my boys were too old, of them on Santa's lap.

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But you know something?

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My daughter, the last time we sat on Santa's lap, she said,

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I don't like him, Mommy.

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And I was like, okay, I don't want to sit

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on that strange man's lap.

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I was like, all right, we'll never do that again.

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And we have no more pictures.

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Okay, well, you know, the little, you know,

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Mrs. Claus in me really misses those pictures.

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And I think, oh my goodness, you know, I really,

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really want those pictures, you know.

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But what's more important for my daughter to be able to say

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that man makes me uncomfortable?

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I don't care if he is supposed

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to be bringing me presents on Christmas.

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I don't want to sit in his lap.

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Then that's fine.

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We have got to listen to our kids.

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We have to start conversations with our kids

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to give them the ability and the comfort to say things to us

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that may even be uncomfortable for us.

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And we have to practice our I'm not going to freak out face.

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And I'm speaking to myself right now.

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I'm not going to freak out.

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Okay, when they say that, Wendy, you just use your poker face.

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I've heard that poker is one of those games

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that you're not allowed to make a face or something.

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I don't understand poker.

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But some of you all know what I'm talking about.

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So I really just want to encourage you to start thinking

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about having some conversations, you know,

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little conversation starters.

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If there's anything that you are questioning or wondering,

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you know, what might be age appropriate,

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definitely leave a comment if you're on our Facebook

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or on YouTube and maybe your email

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and I can get some information to you.

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I just know that there is an agenda for these people

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who want access to your kids.

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And if you're not paying attention, then you're going

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to be sorry that you didn't know when you look back

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if this is something that does reach your child

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or your living room.

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And I would hate, hate, hate to have any of my listeners

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that I am really trying hard to just get the information

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and read so much stuff.

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It is so time consuming.

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And it is very hard to read the level of depravity that are

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in some people, but I want to do it

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because I don't want anything ever, ever,

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ever to happen ever again to a child like what happened to me.

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And if I have to, you know, read it and study it.

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and have it in my mind to keep one child

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from ever experiencing something like that again,

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whether it's my child or your child,

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then it has all been worth it as far as I'm concerned.

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So I just wanna thank you guys for tuning in.

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I'm so thankful that you guys are still with me

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on this journey and I just want to encourage you

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to really, really take the time to help develop

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that conversation with your kids to the comfort level

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that they will be able to say anything to you

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and ask anything of you,

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and you guys can really keep up with what's going on.

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Thank you so much for tuning in today

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and we look forward to seeing you

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on the next episode of Truth Talk with Wendy.

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