WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:06.680 Welcome. 2 00:00:06.680 --> 00:00:09.120 I am so glad you're here. 3 00:00:09.120 --> 00:00:12.840 You are in for such a treat today. 4 00:00:12.840 --> 00:00:16.920 Today you're going to meet an amazing woman of God. 5 00:00:16.920 --> 00:00:23.120 Her friends know her affectionately as Kim Possible. 6 00:00:23.120 --> 00:00:25.440 You'll know more about that in a minute. 7 00:00:25.440 --> 00:00:28.240 She is Kim Rackham. 8 00:00:28.240 --> 00:00:31.480 She is founder of Nourish. 9 00:00:31.480 --> 00:00:34.240 She's an amazing coach to women. 10 00:00:34.240 --> 00:00:39.640 And I am so looking forward to you hearing some of the things that she's going to share. 11 00:00:39.640 --> 00:00:47.720 She specializes in helping you identify and eliminate self-sabotage. 12 00:00:47.720 --> 00:00:50.240 How many of you can relate to that? 13 00:00:50.240 --> 00:00:52.240 So Kim, welcome. 14 00:00:52.240 --> 00:00:58.920 I am so glad you're here and so excited to hear about Kim Possible. 15 00:00:58.920 --> 00:01:00.480 How did you get that name? 16 00:01:00.480 --> 00:01:02.320 Oh my gosh. 17 00:01:02.320 --> 00:01:06.720 First and foremost, Brenda, thank you so much for having me here today. 18 00:01:06.720 --> 00:01:10.080 I really appreciate the invitation. 19 00:01:10.080 --> 00:01:13.600 Kim Possible is an avatar. 20 00:01:13.600 --> 00:01:23.440 Many of you may know she was a furious and tenacious woman that went after the possibilities 21 00:01:23.440 --> 00:01:25.160 in life. 22 00:01:25.160 --> 00:01:32.520 And although her character was like a detective, and in my past part of my career kind of centered 23 00:01:32.520 --> 00:01:33.920 around that. 24 00:01:33.920 --> 00:01:39.120 And I received that nickname because I always pulled out the greatest information, the best 25 00:01:39.120 --> 00:01:40.120 in people. 26 00:01:40.120 --> 00:01:46.480 And I was able to just pull from their hearts and really an encourager, so in tenacious 27 00:01:46.480 --> 00:01:47.480 about that. 28 00:01:47.480 --> 00:01:56.920 So what I found is that the possibility, I love being a possibility coach because it 29 00:01:56.920 --> 00:02:03.360 allows me to help others reflect on what they believe is impossible. 30 00:02:03.360 --> 00:02:07.960 I say they are, I'm possible. 31 00:02:07.960 --> 00:02:08.960 Love that. 32 00:02:09.000 --> 00:02:12.560 So from Kim Possible to I'm possible. 33 00:02:12.560 --> 00:02:15.720 And if you want to experience that, talk to Kim Possible, right? 34 00:02:15.720 --> 00:02:16.720 Absolutely. 35 00:02:16.720 --> 00:02:17.720 I love that. 36 00:02:17.720 --> 00:02:19.480 That's so beautiful. 37 00:02:19.480 --> 00:02:26.320 So Kim, I know you're really passionate about helping women find their voice. 38 00:02:26.320 --> 00:02:29.480 In fact, you have an amazing acronym. 39 00:02:29.480 --> 00:02:34.720 You have knowing who they are, but you have a different acronym for who. 40 00:02:34.720 --> 00:02:36.800 What does who stand for for you? 41 00:02:36.800 --> 00:02:37.800 Yes. 42 00:02:37.800 --> 00:02:45.000 So, you know, I, the analogy of, you know, spiritually, we know who's we are, but the 43 00:02:45.000 --> 00:02:51.280 who is where we lose track is I call it women hiding out. 44 00:02:51.280 --> 00:02:55.960 Women hiding out, boy, isn't that common? 45 00:02:55.960 --> 00:03:01.760 Just playing smaller, not showing up, not using their voice. 46 00:03:01.760 --> 00:03:03.400 Let me ask you something. 47 00:03:03.400 --> 00:03:07.640 Are you speaking from personal experience when we're talking about women hiding out 48 00:03:08.480 --> 00:03:10.000 Were you that woman by chance? 49 00:03:10.000 --> 00:03:11.360 Oh, absolutely. 50 00:03:11.360 --> 00:03:15.360 They say that your mess ends up being your message. 51 00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:18.640 And that is why I'm here today. 52 00:03:18.640 --> 00:03:27.520 You know, when you start realizing in life the details, you know, family, career, you 53 00:03:27.520 --> 00:03:33.560 know, there's divorce, there's like all these seeds of change. 54 00:03:33.560 --> 00:03:41.760 And in that, you start identifying that, you know, those dreams, those desires that 55 00:03:41.760 --> 00:03:49.640 you once held so tightly as a young child, right, growing up, and they kind of get laid 56 00:03:49.640 --> 00:03:51.800 to the wayside. 57 00:03:51.800 --> 00:03:56.120 So in letting your dreams go, just Oh, absolutely. 58 00:03:56.120 --> 00:03:57.840 And did you find that you did that? 59 00:03:57.840 --> 00:03:58.840 Yes. 60 00:03:58.840 --> 00:03:59.840 Oh, absolutely. 61 00:03:59.840 --> 00:04:07.400 And, you know, especially as women, you know, we are nurturers by nature, right? 62 00:04:07.400 --> 00:04:13.960 And so what I found with my identity is that I had lost it. 63 00:04:13.960 --> 00:04:17.880 And so I knew that something had to change. 64 00:04:17.880 --> 00:04:24.120 So lost identity, you just forgot about your dreams, you forgot who you were, you... 65 00:04:24.120 --> 00:04:25.120 What happened? 66 00:04:25.120 --> 00:04:26.120 Yes. 67 00:04:26.120 --> 00:04:30.760 And I just felt unheard, unnoticed. 68 00:04:30.760 --> 00:04:35.680 I felt like my voice no longer mattered. 69 00:04:35.680 --> 00:04:41.520 And for those that know me would never believe that to be a truth. 70 00:04:41.520 --> 00:04:48.960 But there were so many lies and untruths, the art of self-sabotage is what had taken 71 00:04:48.960 --> 00:04:51.520 hold of my life. 72 00:04:51.520 --> 00:04:54.760 And I just found that it didn't work for me anymore. 73 00:04:54.760 --> 00:04:59.600 I knew that God had a greater purpose for me, and He has a greater purpose for each 74 00:04:59.600 --> 00:05:00.100 and every one of us. 75 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:08.480 one of us. So you found, I remember you sharing your story working, and I remember you telling 76 00:05:08.480 --> 00:05:16.400 me that other people's reality, other people's world, their agendas, their dreams, they're for 77 00:05:16.400 --> 00:05:25.520 you, you just slipped into that and were living that, yes? Oh yes, it was their vision. At the 78 00:05:25.520 --> 00:05:32.800 end of the day, I had lost vision, right? And while I was waiting for life to live, 79 00:05:33.760 --> 00:05:39.920 life was waiting on me. Can you say that again? That's so good. Yeah, so while I was waiting for 80 00:05:39.920 --> 00:05:48.320 life to really truly live, to be alive, life was waiting for me. Wow. I was not showing up in the 81 00:05:48.320 --> 00:05:56.080 game. Wow. You talk about standing on the sidelines of your own life. Oh, absolutely. I 82 00:05:56.080 --> 00:06:06.480 felt like I was there, but the vision was gone. I was numb. I was overworked in a long career. 83 00:06:07.120 --> 00:06:14.160 And for most, they would say, that was a great career. It was safe, right? But you know what? 84 00:06:15.120 --> 00:06:21.120 Safe doesn't work at the end of our legacies, right? At the end of the day, I would come home 85 00:06:21.120 --> 00:06:28.880 exhausted. And the last thing that I wanted to do is try to work on me. So you just got pushed to 86 00:06:28.880 --> 00:06:34.400 the sidelines. You had family, you had work, you had all these things. And did you feel like you 87 00:06:34.400 --> 00:06:39.600 were just going through the motions almost? Did you feel disconnected? A lot of women tell me 88 00:06:40.320 --> 00:06:44.400 just really disconnected from yourself. Yeah, from the heart. Oh, absolutely. Yeah, 89 00:06:44.400 --> 00:06:53.600 especially in the heart. I felt that I would pray to God to open all of my life through my heart, 90 00:06:53.600 --> 00:07:02.960 to be heart centered. And you know, when the imposter syndrome comes in so many ways. 91 00:07:03.760 --> 00:07:07.760 Some people might not know what that is. What is an imposter syndrome? It's really just like, 92 00:07:07.760 --> 00:07:14.560 I guess I could say fake it till you make it. I see. Okay. You know, just the smile was great. 93 00:07:15.280 --> 00:07:23.200 But the intention really wasn't drawn from an authentic and raw point of view. We're so busy 94 00:07:23.200 --> 00:07:31.360 with comparison and social conditioning that we lose in touch, insight with really who we are, 95 00:07:31.360 --> 00:07:40.480 our talents, our gifts. How do we define that perfect written novel, that bestseller in our 96 00:07:40.480 --> 00:07:48.080 life? The bestseller of our life. Yeah, absolutely. Beautiful, beautiful. So here you were, and I 97 00:07:48.080 --> 00:07:53.200 assume it was years that this was happening. It was kind of collectively, the vision was put up 98 00:07:53.200 --> 00:07:59.840 on a shelf and not dusted off and you lost sight of who you were and you were just busy, look good 99 00:07:59.840 --> 00:08:07.680 on the outside. You had the success. You had all of that. Yeah. How did you break out of that? How 100 00:08:07.680 --> 00:08:15.920 did you step into the true Kim possible that you are today? On fire, vivacious, showing up, 101 00:08:15.920 --> 00:08:21.920 you're anything but hiding, you know, or being on the sidelines. What changed for you? How did 102 00:08:21.920 --> 00:08:32.159 you change that? You know, um, I was in a career for almost 33 years. Wow. If you can imagine that. 103 00:08:32.159 --> 00:08:38.159 Yeah. Some think that I might've started at 10. Yeah. Right. Part of your life. But in, in the 104 00:08:38.159 --> 00:08:45.520 mix of it, I started working into like self-development. I felt it was so important to 105 00:08:45.520 --> 00:08:52.400 know myself better because I had indeed lost myself. And so in that, it was amazing. It was 106 00:08:52.400 --> 00:08:58.480 like, just God just really tapped into my heart and said, you know, you're, you have so much 107 00:08:58.480 --> 00:09:04.720 greatness. Go out in the world and show this. And he knew my heart. He knew that I love to encourage. 108 00:09:04.720 --> 00:09:12.800 He knew that I had been mentoring people for years in health and, and in my career in, you know, 109 00:09:12.800 --> 00:09:21.200 in positions that always led to mentoring. So it was already in me, but the, but one day I 110 00:09:21.200 --> 00:09:28.960 seriously woke up and said, you know what? I'm retiring from my JOB because there's something 111 00:09:28.960 --> 00:09:38.960 greater to give my legacy to. Yeah. And I wanted to be the person that my, my children looked to, 112 00:09:39.680 --> 00:09:49.760 my grandchildren looked to, and say that she did this. Right. So I started encouraging myself to 113 00:09:49.760 --> 00:09:57.360 challenge myself. I said, there's a song by Mercy Me called Say You Won't. Right. And I wanted to 114 00:09:57.360 --> 00:09:59.840 actually live my life. Right. 115 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:04.880 Not just to live, but to really be alive in life. 116 00:10:04.880 --> 00:10:08.920 I wanted to encourage other women to do so. 117 00:10:08.920 --> 00:10:13.040 And so I started into self-development. 118 00:10:13.040 --> 00:10:16.640 I had been a health coach for six years prior to this 119 00:10:16.640 --> 00:10:20.000 and loved coaching people. 120 00:10:20.000 --> 00:10:26.760 But I found that it really comes down to health is your wealth. 121 00:10:26.760 --> 00:10:31.600 But health defines three different dimensions. 122 00:10:31.600 --> 00:10:34.480 It's mind, body, and spirit. 123 00:10:34.480 --> 00:10:38.280 And I know how important that all three of those factors are. 124 00:10:38.280 --> 00:10:40.960 And I had been missing some of those elements. 125 00:10:40.960 --> 00:10:46.520 So I started with self-development, the mindset. 126 00:10:46.520 --> 00:10:50.720 Mental fitness is so important. 127 00:10:50.720 --> 00:10:55.160 And so I started certifying, getting certified. 128 00:10:55.160 --> 00:10:59.560 I decided to become a coach. 129 00:10:59.560 --> 00:11:05.440 And I had to hire a coach to understand how to coach. 130 00:11:05.440 --> 00:11:07.200 And you may have met her before. 131 00:11:07.200 --> 00:11:10.160 She's incredible. 132 00:11:10.160 --> 00:11:13.560 And I thought, this is it. 133 00:11:13.560 --> 00:11:17.000 And I have never looked back. 134 00:11:17.000 --> 00:11:22.720 And more than ever, I'm overjoyed with the journey 135 00:11:22.720 --> 00:11:27.360 that I'm given every day to step out into my boldness, 136 00:11:27.360 --> 00:11:30.720 step out of the fear and the sabotage. 137 00:11:30.720 --> 00:11:33.760 Even greater is to be able to help women do the same. 138 00:11:33.760 --> 00:11:35.520 I love that. 139 00:11:35.520 --> 00:11:39.120 And as your coach, I have watched 140 00:11:39.120 --> 00:11:44.320 you just completely transform, like a flower opening up. 141 00:11:44.320 --> 00:11:48.760 One of the things that, when you're talking about mindset, 142 00:11:48.760 --> 00:11:51.200 I think this really distinguishes you. 143 00:11:51.200 --> 00:11:52.920 And I think it's really powerful. 144 00:11:52.920 --> 00:11:55.840 And a lot of women will relate to this. 145 00:11:55.840 --> 00:12:00.280 That is this idea of self-sabotage. 146 00:12:00.280 --> 00:12:04.120 And so maybe start to go in a direction, 147 00:12:04.120 --> 00:12:06.680 but somehow block it off. 148 00:12:06.680 --> 00:12:11.440 And so it's a lot of these false starts, yes, 149 00:12:11.440 --> 00:12:15.720 and never going all the way, never just crossing 150 00:12:15.720 --> 00:12:17.480 the finish line, right? 151 00:12:17.480 --> 00:12:21.680 So tell us about self-sabotage. 152 00:12:21.680 --> 00:12:25.240 And especially, you have something interesting, 153 00:12:25.240 --> 00:12:27.800 which is saboteurs. 154 00:12:27.800 --> 00:12:29.480 Yeah, so tell us about that. 155 00:12:29.480 --> 00:12:30.800 Tell us about self-sabotage. 156 00:12:30.800 --> 00:12:31.880 What is that? 157 00:12:31.880 --> 00:12:36.600 And where does a woman even begin to identify these? 158 00:12:36.600 --> 00:12:37.880 What's the journey there? 159 00:12:37.880 --> 00:12:38.720 Yes, that's great. 160 00:12:38.720 --> 00:12:41.720 And I had to pause for a minute while you're talking. 161 00:12:41.720 --> 00:12:44.920 I almost got teary-eyed. 162 00:12:44.920 --> 00:12:48.640 And that's really what led me to that greater 163 00:12:48.640 --> 00:12:52.560 good of being able to, when I'm being coached, 164 00:12:52.560 --> 00:12:55.160 and you've seen that transformation, 165 00:12:55.160 --> 00:12:59.560 how powerful is it to help women to do the same? 166 00:12:59.560 --> 00:13:03.960 And that really, it got me excited. 167 00:13:03.960 --> 00:13:07.160 But what was the greatest takeaway 168 00:13:07.160 --> 00:13:11.240 in the last couple of years is mental fitness. 169 00:13:11.240 --> 00:13:14.240 And in a time such as this, right, 170 00:13:14.360 --> 00:13:18.800 as you know, Brenda, I find that mental fitness, 171 00:13:18.800 --> 00:13:22.440 and I interview friends and family and colleagues 172 00:13:22.440 --> 00:13:24.640 and women in the grocery store, 173 00:13:24.640 --> 00:13:27.320 and just start tapping into their mind 174 00:13:27.320 --> 00:13:32.040 and asking them, what keeps you stuck? 175 00:13:32.040 --> 00:13:35.880 What keeps you sitting on those sidelines, right? 176 00:13:35.880 --> 00:13:37.680 And that thing is the saboteur 177 00:13:37.680 --> 00:13:38.520 that you're talking about? 178 00:13:38.520 --> 00:13:39.360 It is the saboteurs. 179 00:13:39.360 --> 00:13:40.560 What's a saboteur? 180 00:13:40.560 --> 00:13:41.400 What the heck is that? 181 00:13:41.400 --> 00:13:45.000 A saboteur is like if, layman's term, 182 00:13:45.000 --> 00:13:48.000 it's kind of like the gremlins that keep you playing small. 183 00:13:48.000 --> 00:13:48.840 Okay. 184 00:13:48.840 --> 00:13:49.680 Right? 185 00:13:49.680 --> 00:13:53.440 And so there's different layers of saboteurs 186 00:13:53.440 --> 00:13:56.800 that create the self-sabotage 187 00:13:56.800 --> 00:13:59.720 that keeps us playing right here. 188 00:13:59.720 --> 00:14:00.760 Can you give me an example? 189 00:14:00.760 --> 00:14:01.760 Like, what's a saboteur? 190 00:14:01.760 --> 00:14:02.600 Like, give me an example. 191 00:14:02.600 --> 00:14:03.440 Yes, so. 192 00:14:03.440 --> 00:14:05.400 I didn't know that word before you shared it with me. 193 00:14:05.400 --> 00:14:08.240 Everyone has saboteurs, by the way. 194 00:14:08.240 --> 00:14:09.280 Oh, so we all have this. 195 00:14:09.280 --> 00:14:11.120 Okay, so we all have gremlins, guys. 196 00:14:11.160 --> 00:14:12.800 Okay, we all have gremlins. 197 00:14:12.800 --> 00:14:13.640 Okay. 198 00:14:13.640 --> 00:14:15.120 Okay? 199 00:14:15.120 --> 00:14:16.280 I say that with a smile. 200 00:14:16.280 --> 00:14:17.120 Kind of scary, but. 201 00:14:17.120 --> 00:14:18.920 No, I'm like, seriously. 202 00:14:18.920 --> 00:14:20.720 All right, tell us about our gremlins. 203 00:14:20.720 --> 00:14:22.960 But those gremlins, those saboteurs, 204 00:14:22.960 --> 00:14:24.360 come in different layers. 205 00:14:24.360 --> 00:14:25.200 Layers, okay. 206 00:14:25.200 --> 00:14:29.280 And so the judge, we'll talk about the judge 207 00:14:29.280 --> 00:14:32.760 because every one of us, that is like part of our DNA. 208 00:14:32.760 --> 00:14:34.360 So that's the saboteur, the judge. 209 00:14:34.360 --> 00:14:36.920 Oh, yeah, that's the top saboteur. 210 00:14:36.920 --> 00:14:38.040 So when you say layers, 211 00:14:38.040 --> 00:14:40.560 it's like once one saboteur is handled, 212 00:14:40.920 --> 00:14:42.080 you'll see the next one and the next one. 213 00:14:42.080 --> 00:14:42.920 Is that what you mean by layers? 214 00:14:42.920 --> 00:14:46.000 Yes, actually, I go through an assessment process. 215 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:46.920 Okay, okay. 216 00:14:46.920 --> 00:14:49.000 Okay, and to identify what they are. 217 00:14:49.000 --> 00:14:50.000 Oh, absolutely. 218 00:14:50.000 --> 00:14:51.880 And so once you identify them, 219 00:14:51.880 --> 00:14:53.840 some are avoiders. 220 00:14:53.840 --> 00:14:54.680 Avoiders. 221 00:14:54.680 --> 00:14:55.680 I was a huge avoider. 222 00:14:55.680 --> 00:14:59.160 Talk about procrastination, oh my gosh. 223 00:14:59.160 --> 00:15:00.000 But, 224 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.760 The judge I want to speak on that because each and every one of us have our judge we judge others 225 00:15:05.760 --> 00:15:11.320 We all know that okay. Yeah, we may say that we try not to but we do at the end of the day, right? 226 00:15:11.400 --> 00:15:12.840 We're different 227 00:15:12.840 --> 00:15:18.040 But what does that look like like give me an example of judging? Oh, you know, especially women 228 00:15:18.040 --> 00:15:24.480 Yeah, you know like judging their clothes wearing that. Okay, really? She she speaks like that 229 00:15:24.920 --> 00:15:30.320 Okay, she's doing that she doesn't look very confident, okay, okay the comparison game 230 00:15:31.080 --> 00:15:32.120 and 231 00:15:32.120 --> 00:15:34.120 But the greater 232 00:15:34.320 --> 00:15:39.680 Honestly of those evils is that we're judging ourselves even greater. Mm-hmm 233 00:15:40.320 --> 00:15:42.640 And that for me 234 00:15:43.320 --> 00:15:46.040 In in seeing that and seeing the layers 235 00:15:46.440 --> 00:15:54.160 There's ten different layers of saboteurs, by the way. All right, okay, and and in an assessment 236 00:15:54.160 --> 00:16:00.000 You'll find that you have two or three that are your greatest saboteurs. Okay, so that's where you start 237 00:16:00.000 --> 00:16:04.160 That's where you start. Okay, and then it's really great. It's kind of a three 238 00:16:05.400 --> 00:16:13.320 Three prong approach so to speak. It's really being able to first identify and going through that process and I'll have to tell you 239 00:16:13.320 --> 00:16:20.280 It's not an easy feat. Okay. Okay, you have to own up to what these look like and how they enter into your life 240 00:16:21.040 --> 00:16:23.040 Okay, but once you do 241 00:16:23.600 --> 00:16:27.120 You start becoming aware. Yeah, and you know 242 00:16:27.880 --> 00:16:35.120 Transformation just really is for changes awareness awareness is the first step. It's a very fresh step first 243 00:16:35.120 --> 00:16:40.320 So, okay once you acknowledge where they're coming from then you can start making those 244 00:16:41.120 --> 00:16:44.840 transformational changes and you can identify them and 245 00:16:45.680 --> 00:16:47.680 Then you can start deciding 246 00:16:48.680 --> 00:16:50.680 How you're going to 247 00:16:51.480 --> 00:16:53.160 Own them 248 00:16:53.160 --> 00:16:59.680 Because honestly, we never get rid of our saboteurs. Okay, but we can certainly diffuse them. Okay? 249 00:17:00.000 --> 00:17:05.680 Okay, and if you're able to do that, so what we call is we it's called self-command 250 00:17:06.079 --> 00:17:12.599 And so we have modalities to do that. Okay, and then you can take it one step further and you can accept them 251 00:17:13.680 --> 00:17:20.400 And or you can even create a gift from them. Believe it or not. And that's really powerful where 252 00:17:20.680 --> 00:17:25.200 I love to see women go that's powerful, right and and it's so 253 00:17:25.640 --> 00:17:31.320 When one of the greatest gifts is to see a woman walk in her power 254 00:17:32.080 --> 00:17:34.080 and know that 255 00:17:35.040 --> 00:17:37.960 Perfections out the window ladies. Yeah, I 256 00:17:38.960 --> 00:17:40.800 mean 257 00:17:40.800 --> 00:17:44.480 Own who you are in your raw authentic being 258 00:17:46.200 --> 00:17:48.080 Allow the 259 00:17:48.080 --> 00:17:51.220 Chapters in your story to be 260 00:17:52.160 --> 00:17:54.040 rewritten 261 00:17:54.040 --> 00:17:56.040 we have a a 262 00:17:57.080 --> 00:18:02.800 Bestseller, I always call it your perfectly written novel nice 263 00:18:03.600 --> 00:18:07.000 So this is taking your life story and with awareness 264 00:18:07.240 --> 00:18:11.320 It's choosing differently. It's it's rewriting your story 265 00:18:11.320 --> 00:18:16.840 And so that your life story becomes that life that you love and that best-selling 266 00:18:17.600 --> 00:18:19.000 Novel I 267 00:18:19.000 --> 00:18:21.000 Love that. That's so powerful 268 00:18:21.240 --> 00:18:21.920 You know 269 00:18:21.920 --> 00:18:28.200 You told me that one of the things that you do a woman comes to you and one of the first things 270 00:18:28.280 --> 00:18:35.440 That you do with her is you say take inventory and I found that fascinating 271 00:18:35.440 --> 00:18:41.600 What does it mean to take inventory? What do you do? What does a woman do to take inventory? Oh my goodness 272 00:18:41.600 --> 00:18:45.840 Um, I just love this. I think it's one of the greatest things you can do for yourself 273 00:18:46.600 --> 00:18:49.120 Taking inventory is really a 274 00:18:49.920 --> 00:18:56.680 Matter of sitting down and writing out the areas of your life that no longer serve you 275 00:18:57.280 --> 00:18:58.960 the untruths 276 00:18:58.960 --> 00:19:00.560 the lies 277 00:19:00.560 --> 00:19:04.360 Mm-hmm. It's amazing. The rest of the self-sabotage, right? 278 00:19:04.360 --> 00:19:11.280 Okay, and then on on the other side start writing your vision that dream 279 00:19:12.080 --> 00:19:13.760 start writing 280 00:19:13.760 --> 00:19:17.680 What your intentions in life are for most women in 281 00:19:18.280 --> 00:19:24.280 Interviewing them. They don't even know it's such a starting point. It breaks my heart 282 00:19:25.800 --> 00:19:27.800 Because I was that girl 283 00:19:28.480 --> 00:19:30.480 but 284 00:19:31.800 --> 00:19:33.800 It is such a transformation 285 00:19:36.400 --> 00:19:38.600 Such a transformation to watch 286 00:19:39.600 --> 00:19:44.280 That you can watch a woman step into her glory 287 00:19:45.360 --> 00:19:47.360 step into 288 00:19:47.880 --> 00:19:51.600 Living a life that's vivacious 289 00:19:52.960 --> 00:19:54.960 Loving Oh 290 00:19:55.280 --> 00:19:59.120 Loving so graciously from that open heart 291 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:10.240 And then being able to express boldly like your dreams, your desires, your 292 00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:16.680 talents, your individual gifts because the world's waiting for you even if it's 293 00:20:16.680 --> 00:20:24.800 just one person. Maybe it's your child, maybe it is your co-worker, a 294 00:20:24.800 --> 00:20:32.280 colleague, whoever or how many that you can bring to life. Then we really truly 295 00:20:32.280 --> 00:20:38.120 are changing the world. Wow. One person at a time. One person at a time. Yeah. One 296 00:20:38.120 --> 00:20:45.040 transformed person. Yes. And isn't that just almost as you were talking it's 297 00:20:45.040 --> 00:20:50.320 almost like getting your wings. It's like freedom when you start to say this is 298 00:20:50.320 --> 00:20:55.840 who I am and this is the vision and this is my purpose and these are my 299 00:20:55.840 --> 00:21:03.520 desires. And it's not selfish. I think we've been programmed that we're 300 00:21:03.520 --> 00:21:08.520 supposed to focus on everybody else but like you're saying aren't you even more 301 00:21:08.520 --> 00:21:16.320 other focused when you have that level of self-awareness. You know as we've 302 00:21:16.320 --> 00:21:21.960 gone through a pandemic we're in the middle of a pandemic right now. Have 303 00:21:21.960 --> 00:21:28.320 you done things differently during this? You know everything has shifted. What's 304 00:21:28.320 --> 00:21:32.440 what's different for you taking all of that change and transformation that's 305 00:21:32.440 --> 00:21:38.800 happened for you and then boom there's this outer you know world change. Yes 306 00:21:38.800 --> 00:21:45.960 that's a great question Brenda. You know for me personally I started Marie 307 00:21:45.960 --> 00:21:53.840 Kondo. It's for many of you may know that. It went to a deeper level. I started 308 00:21:53.840 --> 00:21:59.280 taking going back to taking inventory right. I started looking at how I could 309 00:21:59.280 --> 00:22:06.640 declutter my life. Like you know between social media and social conditioning 310 00:22:06.640 --> 00:22:14.560 right. We're supposed to walk and present and be this a certain way in 311 00:22:14.560 --> 00:22:21.640 life. And I thought no more. I like to call it the kiss of life. Keep it simple 312 00:22:21.640 --> 00:22:29.720 sister right. So I started decluttering and decluttering is more than just your 313 00:22:29.720 --> 00:22:37.840 physical space okay right. But I started there and I found it to be freeing. Like 314 00:22:37.840 --> 00:22:43.000 you said like that angel with their wings right. I found it so freeing that I 315 00:22:43.000 --> 00:22:49.720 realized that it opens space for me to think clearer. Yes. It opens space to free 316 00:22:49.720 --> 00:22:56.140 me from all of the news and the media and you know unfortunately everything 317 00:22:56.140 --> 00:23:04.480 that's going on during this time. And I found that the mental clutter is I was 318 00:23:04.480 --> 00:23:10.880 freeing up my physical space. The mental space I started noticing that it freed 319 00:23:10.880 --> 00:23:16.360 it up. It started freeing just piece by piece and in that I really started 320 00:23:16.360 --> 00:23:25.480 reflecting like what's next. That's where what's possible. Yes. Right. Yeah. And most 321 00:23:25.480 --> 00:23:30.800 people right now are in the impossible stage and I just want to say and I know 322 00:23:30.800 --> 00:23:37.160 this could be cliche because it's a I think it's Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn 323 00:23:37.160 --> 00:23:44.320 one of those amazing women. They said I'm possible. I am possible. Yeah. Right. 324 00:23:44.320 --> 00:23:50.160 So just I started learning that I am possible for anything that is brought 325 00:23:50.160 --> 00:23:56.080 into my life and it is for every woman that's out there. So you chose to use 326 00:23:56.080 --> 00:24:01.320 this time to make shifts. Yes. And so in your physical environment you began 327 00:24:01.320 --> 00:24:05.800 creating space in your mental, in your spiritual environment and the more 328 00:24:05.800 --> 00:24:10.760 spacious that you became you opened up room and space for what you're doing 329 00:24:10.760 --> 00:24:16.360 right now. Things just started happening in such huge ways. Yeah. Just incredible. 330 00:24:16.360 --> 00:24:23.800 I mean I opened space for a vehicle that I saw. I manifested it. Nice. I mean you 331 00:24:23.800 --> 00:24:28.360 know in a short and not just tangible ideas. Yeah. I'm talking the deepest of 332 00:24:28.360 --> 00:24:34.200 your heart. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Who you are. Yeah. Like to really dig deep and reflect 333 00:24:34.200 --> 00:24:40.800 on and and and to study about who you are. Like we are unique. Yeah. We are 334 00:24:40.800 --> 00:24:46.760 incredible beings. Yeah. And the only way that we will find true success at the 335 00:24:46.760 --> 00:24:51.920 end of the day I think about our legacies that we leave at the end of our 336 00:24:51.920 --> 00:25:01.240 lives. I really am looking forward to seeing that. 337 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:09.200 that I changed lives. But more than anything, that my inner peace and joy, my inner self-confidence, 338 00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:18.560 right? That inner being, walking in who you are being so that you can do and you can have 339 00:25:18.560 --> 00:25:25.680 the greatest successes in life, that's power. Yes, I love it. That's power. 340 00:25:25.680 --> 00:25:32.640 So for the woman who is watching right now, and maybe she's not feeling so empowered, 341 00:25:32.640 --> 00:25:38.400 and maybe she's in the impossible, or she's anxious, or she's discouraged, or she's confused, 342 00:25:38.400 --> 00:25:44.160 there's a lot of emotion right now, a lot of frustration, a lot of change that's hard for 343 00:25:44.160 --> 00:25:55.360 some people. What would you say to that woman? Ladies, you have got this. You have been born 344 00:25:56.080 --> 00:26:06.480 so uniquely, wonderfully, and fearfully made. We have this one life. Invest in who you are. 345 00:26:06.960 --> 00:26:17.040 Find out deeply. Start a journal. Start talking to yourself. Talk to yourself well, 346 00:26:17.040 --> 00:26:26.000 with love, with respect, right? Like you would care for a small child. Be empathetic 347 00:26:26.000 --> 00:26:32.960 for that small childlike faith that you had because you're still that same woman. 348 00:26:32.960 --> 00:26:40.880 You just have more wisdom. Sometimes we leave that on the sidelines. 349 00:26:42.320 --> 00:26:49.600 It's time to look at the seed of change. There's always going to be seasons, right? But if you're 350 00:26:49.600 --> 00:26:55.360 looking to the inner being, that God-given talent, those gifts that you've been given, 351 00:26:56.160 --> 00:27:03.760 then you will find that you'll start seeding. Those seeds of change will flourish. 352 00:27:03.760 --> 00:27:08.560 They're going to start seeding you. In doing that, start rewriting your chapters. 353 00:27:11.360 --> 00:27:21.040 Don't let life sit by for you. Start evolving around your life. Start giving the best self-love 354 00:27:21.360 --> 00:27:26.880 that you can give to yourself as saying, do this for 30 days. I am enough. 355 00:27:28.400 --> 00:27:34.320 Every time, think about that. I am enough. Write it on your mirror. 356 00:27:35.680 --> 00:27:43.760 Put it on a post-it note. Put it on your phone. I am enough. 30 days. Watch the magic happen. 357 00:27:44.160 --> 00:27:53.040 I love that. Wow. Such richness. So much to share with so many people. If someone wants to reach you, 358 00:27:53.840 --> 00:27:59.760 Kim, what's the best way? I called you Kim possible, but you're Kim Rackham. And so they 359 00:27:59.760 --> 00:28:04.160 can find you on all the social media channels and so on. But what's the best way to connect with you? 360 00:28:04.800 --> 00:28:10.000 Yes. I would love for you to connect with me. If you go to my website, it's 361 00:28:10.320 --> 00:28:21.360 kimrackham.com. If you go there, I have a 60-minute discovery call. Just hit the let's chat. Let's 362 00:28:21.360 --> 00:28:31.440 connect. I would love to help you start defining your best written novel, that perfectly written 363 00:28:31.600 --> 00:28:50.400 novel. We can start today. So, kimrackham.com. Choose you because you are possible. 364 00:28:52.160 --> 00:28:57.600 Love that. Kim possible. Thank you. Thank you for being here, 365 00:28:58.480 --> 00:29:05.440 sharing. I think this is an important word for a lot of people in this season when things start 366 00:29:05.440 --> 00:29:11.360 to look impossible. I don't think we're going to forget Kim possible. Kim Rackham, 367 00:29:11.360 --> 00:29:17.920 kimrackham.com. Thanks for being here. What a blessing. What a blessing you are. And thank you 368 00:29:17.920 --> 00:29:23.760 for choosing you to know that you're enough and to want to share and bless so many women 369 00:29:23.760 --> 00:29:28.720 with what you do. Thank you, Brenda. I am just so honored to be here. 370 00:29:29.840 --> 00:29:33.760 I'm looking forward to helping women change their view.