WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.840 All right, there we go. 2 00:00:03.840 --> 00:00:05.880 So welcome. 3 00:00:05.880 --> 00:00:14.800 As we continue our study on the four agreements, and, you know, I am just absolutely convinced 4 00:00:14.800 --> 00:00:22.240 that if we can just really focus on this, if we can really master these four agreements, 5 00:00:22.240 --> 00:00:26.960 and I just want you all to know, this study is for me as much as for all of you. 6 00:00:26.960 --> 00:00:29.200 I know I tell you that often. 7 00:00:29.200 --> 00:00:32.000 We know that we teach that which we most need to learn. 8 00:00:32.000 --> 00:00:37.040 I've had so many opportunities to practice this, and I think probably as it's coming 9 00:00:37.040 --> 00:00:40.320 to your awareness, you probably have too, and be thinking about that if you have some 10 00:00:40.320 --> 00:00:41.320 good examples. 11 00:00:41.320 --> 00:00:43.920 I love interaction on this call. 12 00:00:43.920 --> 00:00:46.840 Share how this is helping you, share. 13 00:00:46.840 --> 00:00:54.800 But I had just a number of times this week where I applied this, and I can't tell you 14 00:00:55.040 --> 00:01:04.200 the pain, suffering, conflict, everything that ended by simply applying these four agreements. 15 00:01:04.200 --> 00:01:06.120 So excited to dig in today. 16 00:01:06.120 --> 00:01:12.000 So let's just invite the Holy Spirit to be our teacher, and just great to have you guys 17 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:14.520 all on the line. 18 00:01:14.520 --> 00:01:17.000 So Father, I just thank you for this opportunity. 19 00:01:17.000 --> 00:01:22.120 I thank you for this wisdom that you brought in my direction when I read this book a couple 20 00:01:22.120 --> 00:01:28.720 years ago, and just to be able to keep going back to it and realizing now that sometimes 21 00:01:28.720 --> 00:01:32.960 in simplicity, there's such profound truth that we can't eliminate. 22 00:01:32.960 --> 00:01:36.440 So much of the pain and the suffering, and realizing that we bring this pain and suffering 23 00:01:36.440 --> 00:01:41.480 on ourselves is not something you're doing to us, and that there's so much needless grief 24 00:01:41.480 --> 00:01:45.880 that doesn't need to happen, and you said the truth. 25 00:01:45.880 --> 00:01:50.000 The truth sets us free, and I believe this is a really deep truth that is setting a lot 26 00:01:50.000 --> 00:01:51.000 of people free. 27 00:01:51.000 --> 00:01:52.840 So thank you for the study, Holy Spirit. 28 00:01:52.840 --> 00:01:54.200 You be our teacher. 29 00:01:54.200 --> 00:01:55.200 You be our guide. 30 00:01:55.200 --> 00:01:56.200 You lead us. 31 00:01:56.200 --> 00:02:01.120 Let the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight. 32 00:02:01.120 --> 00:02:03.560 In Jesus' name, amen. 33 00:02:03.560 --> 00:02:08.800 Well, it's exciting to be going through this study, and we're making our way. 34 00:02:08.800 --> 00:02:14.200 Today we're beginning the third agreement, and I think you're seeing how they are all 35 00:02:14.200 --> 00:02:20.240 building on each other in such a powerful way, and our key verse that we've been using 36 00:02:20.240 --> 00:02:26.800 for this whole study has been Romans chapter 12, verses 1 and 2. 37 00:02:26.800 --> 00:02:35.480 And particularly in verse 2, when it's talking about not being conformed, or not being conformed, 38 00:02:35.480 --> 00:02:39.600 not being shaped, not being made in the image of. 39 00:02:39.600 --> 00:02:44.080 You're made in the image of God, and this is saying don't be made in the image. 40 00:02:44.080 --> 00:02:45.080 Don't be shaped. 41 00:02:45.080 --> 00:02:46.080 Don't be conformed. 42 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:48.800 Don't be patterned after. 43 00:02:48.800 --> 00:02:50.680 What's going on in the world? 44 00:02:50.680 --> 00:02:57.040 The way that things are done on television, or in the media, or in what you're reading, 45 00:02:57.040 --> 00:03:02.200 or because it's not based most often in truth. 46 00:03:02.200 --> 00:03:07.880 And instead it says, but be transformed. 47 00:03:07.880 --> 00:03:16.400 That means completely changed, and it says by the entire renewal of your mind. 48 00:03:16.400 --> 00:03:21.680 So this particular study is really about re-newing. 49 00:03:21.680 --> 00:03:23.280 Remember re means do again. 50 00:03:23.280 --> 00:03:27.400 Whenever you see re in front of a word it means do again, new, make new. 51 00:03:27.400 --> 00:03:35.640 So you came to earth with a fresh, clean slate, and then you had the different authorities 52 00:03:35.640 --> 00:03:45.520 in your life, your parents, your religious affiliation, your school teachers, etc., who 53 00:03:45.520 --> 00:03:47.120 were doing the best that they could. 54 00:03:47.120 --> 00:03:53.600 This is not coming from a place of judgment, but things were getting passed down generationally 55 00:03:53.600 --> 00:03:56.760 as to how we do things. 56 00:03:56.760 --> 00:03:59.200 How do we view the world? 57 00:03:59.200 --> 00:04:01.200 How do we dream? 58 00:04:01.200 --> 00:04:03.160 What is it okay to dream? 59 00:04:03.160 --> 00:04:05.480 How do we look at money? 60 00:04:05.480 --> 00:04:09.640 Are the rich people wicked and evil, and we don't want to be with them because we're on 61 00:04:09.640 --> 00:04:16.399 this side of the tracks and you just need to be happy with what you have, or was it 62 00:04:16.399 --> 00:04:17.399 opposite? 63 00:04:17.399 --> 00:04:22.120 Did you come from wealth and you look down on it, or did you just believe that you didn't 64 00:04:22.120 --> 00:04:29.800 deserve to have it, or did you believe that if you loved God you wouldn't love money? 65 00:04:29.800 --> 00:04:33.040 I just picked money, but we can do this with relationships. 66 00:04:33.040 --> 00:04:38.080 We can do this with any aspect of your life, but what happened is these people in your 67 00:04:38.080 --> 00:04:44.080 life hooked your attention before you had the thinking process to really sort through 68 00:04:44.080 --> 00:04:48.880 and say, is this true, and is this going to serve me in my life? 69 00:04:48.880 --> 00:04:50.360 You didn't get that opportunity. 70 00:04:50.360 --> 00:04:57.160 It simply became part of your belief system, and then by your observations, by your pain, 71 00:04:57.160 --> 00:04:59.600 you begin to add some more to that. 72 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:04.320 and I've shared my example that I came from a very wealthy home. I mean we had 73 00:05:04.320 --> 00:05:08.800 indoor swimming pools, I had horse arenas, I was at horse shows and 74 00:05:08.800 --> 00:05:12.160 so appeared to have it just all together but 75 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:17.120 within that there was a lot of craziness. We lived the Hollywood lifestyle and 76 00:05:17.120 --> 00:05:21.200 there was always parties at our house and drunken bodies all over 77 00:05:21.200 --> 00:05:25.440 and there was you know adultery and there was 78 00:05:25.440 --> 00:05:29.680 fighting and there was throwing things and breaking things and 79 00:05:29.680 --> 00:05:33.440 grabbing us out of bed and packing us in the car and getting us out of there 80 00:05:33.440 --> 00:05:36.080 and going to a hotel and there was all of 81 00:05:36.080 --> 00:05:40.880 this drama and so my little six, seven, eight 82 00:05:40.880 --> 00:05:44.240 year old brain didn't know what to do with that and so it made these 83 00:05:44.240 --> 00:05:48.400 these decisions. So it was both what was being fed 84 00:05:48.400 --> 00:05:52.400 into me and the decisions that your little subconscious makes like 85 00:05:52.400 --> 00:05:58.880 I don't desire any money because money brings craziness 86 00:05:58.880 --> 00:06:03.440 and then you know I grow up and in high school start going to church for the 87 00:06:03.440 --> 00:06:06.880 first time and I find out that the saying that 88 00:06:06.880 --> 00:06:11.920 money is the root of all evil which is an inaccurate translation it's not what 89 00:06:11.920 --> 00:06:15.280 it says and then I could easily just buy into 90 00:06:15.280 --> 00:06:19.040 that and say well yeah absolutely I don't want any and then you get where 91 00:06:19.040 --> 00:06:22.320 you can't pay your bills and you're an adult you're struggling and you can't 92 00:06:22.320 --> 00:06:25.360 break an income threshold and you wonder why 93 00:06:25.360 --> 00:06:29.280 well none of that had anything to do with God 94 00:06:29.280 --> 00:06:33.600 it all had to do with our stinking thinking 95 00:06:33.600 --> 00:06:37.840 it all had to do with belief systems that were not based on truth that we 96 00:06:37.840 --> 00:06:41.440 were subscribing and holding that were creating our reality 97 00:06:41.440 --> 00:06:48.320 so part of just all of this is increasing in awareness to understand 98 00:06:48.320 --> 00:06:51.680 how much of the results that you're experiencing the fruit 99 00:06:51.760 --> 00:06:58.320 in your life or the lack thereof the your basic reality and experience to 100 00:06:58.320 --> 00:07:03.520 realize how much you are causing them 101 00:07:03.520 --> 00:07:07.360 it's not God it's not the devil it's not Obama it's it's your 102 00:07:07.360 --> 00:07:11.600 thinking and this is scriptural from from Genesis to Revelation I can show 103 00:07:11.600 --> 00:07:13.840 you this I've spent a lot of time thinking about this 104 00:07:13.840 --> 00:07:19.280 and it's it's why you know I would say if you define what I do and prosper in 105 00:07:19.280 --> 00:07:22.320 all things I'm a spiritual mindset coach that's really what I do 106 00:07:22.320 --> 00:07:28.320 because if you can understand the spiritual laws that you're violating 107 00:07:28.320 --> 00:07:32.320 and they're just as much as gravity and if you can 108 00:07:32.320 --> 00:07:36.240 understand the mindset that you're holding those two things are keeping you 109 00:07:36.240 --> 00:07:39.360 where you are and so for things to be different we 110 00:07:39.360 --> 00:07:43.920 have to be different and what I want to talk about or desire to 111 00:07:43.920 --> 00:07:49.200 talk about with these four agreements is a way to break so much 112 00:07:49.320 --> 00:07:55.440 conflict internal conflict just the depression and the anxiety and 113 00:07:55.440 --> 00:07:59.760 the world worry external conflict the division 114 00:07:59.760 --> 00:08:03.040 and I'm going to give you examples scripturally today the division that 115 00:08:03.040 --> 00:08:08.400 happens in marriage and families in countries 116 00:08:08.400 --> 00:08:14.640 in churches I mean you know the the amount of church splits is 117 00:08:14.640 --> 00:08:18.160 unbelievable how can you be a Christ follower and 118 00:08:18.160 --> 00:08:22.480 having the same faith and you're constantly splitting into two churches 119 00:08:22.480 --> 00:08:29.680 you know marriage the same way I mean I was one I'm I'm divorced woman right so 120 00:08:29.680 --> 00:08:34.960 um this is a serious thing that is causing a lot of division 121 00:08:34.960 --> 00:08:39.280 and it's causing a a lot of 122 00:08:39.520 --> 00:08:43.840 in our reality that is completely unnecessary 123 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:48.240 completely unnecessary and so when we begin to have the awareness the 124 00:08:48.240 --> 00:08:51.200 consciousness to realize where this conflict is 125 00:08:51.200 --> 00:08:54.800 coming from and I have found that these four 126 00:08:54.800 --> 00:08:58.400 agreements is the simplest way the absolute 127 00:08:58.400 --> 00:09:03.360 simplest way to eliminate 90 if not all 128 00:09:03.360 --> 00:09:07.520 I think if the world subscribed to these we wouldn't we would no longer have 129 00:09:07.520 --> 00:09:11.920 conflict we no longer have us versus them we 130 00:09:11.920 --> 00:09:16.160 have all this internal strife and and stress and so on 131 00:09:16.160 --> 00:09:22.960 so roman 12 here is is saying that how how transformation happens is by 132 00:09:22.960 --> 00:09:30.640 renewing our minds so we begin to have a new mindset that serves us 133 00:09:30.640 --> 00:09:36.320 that is um based in in in a truth and not based on assumptions and not based 134 00:09:36.320 --> 00:09:40.320 on taking things personally and and interesting what 135 00:09:40.320 --> 00:09:45.200 tags at the end of this verse is so that then you can prove for yourself 136 00:09:45.200 --> 00:09:48.880 what is the good and acceptable perfect will of God 137 00:09:48.880 --> 00:09:52.560 so most of you that come and talk to me you're like 138 00:09:52.560 --> 00:09:58.880 I want to do God's will well here it is renew your mind be transformed renew 139 00:09:58.880 --> 00:10:02.000 your mind and you 140 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:08.160 Know it you will be living it you will be it because it's in you the kingdom of God is within you 141 00:10:08.760 --> 00:10:15.480 So so here we are, you know in a place where we can we can break these beliefs that have held us back 142 00:10:15.480 --> 00:10:17.480 You know Jesus talked about 143 00:10:17.680 --> 00:10:24.000 In Matthew 15 that we we actually cancel the Word of God because of our traditions 144 00:10:24.480 --> 00:10:29.120 He actually said our worship can be a farce. This is Jesus 145 00:10:30.120 --> 00:10:37.480 You think you're being religious you think you're in the right church you think you know all of this and your worship is a farce 146 00:10:38.240 --> 00:10:44.280 because it's man-made ideas and and and they're being taught as commands from God and 147 00:10:45.440 --> 00:10:47.960 so we're able to break these 148 00:10:48.480 --> 00:10:51.400 lessons of agreements that we've made with ourselves and 149 00:10:51.960 --> 00:10:53.960 with others and 150 00:10:54.080 --> 00:10:59.240 We can begin to step into this place of joy and peace 151 00:10:59.760 --> 00:11:03.960 So we went through the first one we went through was being 152 00:11:04.720 --> 00:11:05.720 impeccable 153 00:11:05.720 --> 00:11:14.080 With our word that was the first agreement being impeccable. And when we looked at the the Latin 154 00:11:15.080 --> 00:11:20.480 It it comes from care means sin and M means not to 155 00:11:21.320 --> 00:11:23.320 Idea is not 156 00:11:23.560 --> 00:11:25.560 sinning with your words 157 00:11:26.080 --> 00:11:27.320 not 158 00:11:27.320 --> 00:11:32.080 using and so this is this is so powerful, of course because 159 00:11:32.800 --> 00:11:34.640 for for 160 00:11:34.640 --> 00:11:36.640 manifesting your 161 00:11:37.080 --> 00:11:39.080 goals dreams desires 162 00:11:39.560 --> 00:11:43.640 You must understand spiritual principles. You must understand 163 00:11:44.240 --> 00:11:49.320 How the world is made how God made us when he formed us and he made us in his image 164 00:11:49.480 --> 00:11:53.600 He put in place he put you in a universe he puts you in a world 165 00:11:54.480 --> 00:11:56.560 spiritual principles and laws and 166 00:11:57.800 --> 00:12:01.160 He made it for you to be able to manifest 167 00:12:01.520 --> 00:12:05.920 You must understand the mind heart mouth connection 168 00:12:06.440 --> 00:12:08.440 That what you're thinking 169 00:12:09.320 --> 00:12:16.120 The the predominant thoughts that you're holding the predominant belief systems, which is a group of thoughts that you're holding 170 00:12:16.400 --> 00:12:21.000 Okay, I can hear you guys moving your phone around so go ahead and mute if you're not talking 171 00:12:21.000 --> 00:12:23.840 Please this is gonna make the recording have a lot of static 172 00:12:24.600 --> 00:12:26.600 so 173 00:12:27.320 --> 00:12:31.120 When you realize that the mind heart mouth 174 00:12:31.600 --> 00:12:37.560 Connection and I teach this in my manifest program and it is why the people who go through the manifest program 175 00:12:37.880 --> 00:12:45.280 Manifests their goals dreams and desires in 90 days. There's a reason because it's not violating themselves and it's not violating 176 00:12:45.760 --> 00:12:51.640 Spiritual principles so must be aware of your thoughts your belief systems. That's the mind heart 177 00:12:51.640 --> 00:12:59.800 You must understand the emotions is what's driving. That's creating the neuropeptides. That's affecting every cell in your body your release 178 00:13:00.960 --> 00:13:06.800 He's that's activating the law of attraction and bringing things into your life or repelling things from your life 179 00:13:06.920 --> 00:13:11.200 That's the heart and the third part of that is the mouth the words 180 00:13:11.560 --> 00:13:16.680 And you see this with salvation in the Bible if you believe with your heart, right 181 00:13:16.680 --> 00:13:22.200 So there's you got you got your mind and heart if you believe with all your heart and you confess with your mouth that Jesus 182 00:13:22.200 --> 00:13:27.600 Is Lord you shall be saved there you see it the plan of salvation has the mind heart mouth connection 183 00:13:27.600 --> 00:13:33.280 I can show you that from Genesis to Revelation. This is how God hardwired the universe 184 00:13:34.120 --> 00:13:37.240 Understanding of it right now. I you know, I give myself Liberty 185 00:13:37.240 --> 00:13:40.400 I'm still gonna grow what I teach could you know add more truth 186 00:13:40.400 --> 00:13:47.880 But this is what I found so far. So when you understand the power of words that life and death is in the tongue 187 00:13:48.680 --> 00:13:54.760 When you understand that the entire universe was was spoken into existence 188 00:13:55.400 --> 00:14:02.080 When you understand then you will begin to understand the power of words and you'll be very very 189 00:14:03.000 --> 00:14:04.760 careful and selective 190 00:14:04.760 --> 00:14:06.760 with what comes 191 00:14:07.040 --> 00:14:08.520 mouth 192 00:14:08.520 --> 00:14:12.440 Because your words have the power to create 193 00:14:12.960 --> 00:14:20.600 Your words have the power to allow you to manifest so your words need to be very deliberate and you must 194 00:14:21.200 --> 00:14:23.200 understand 195 00:14:23.240 --> 00:14:24.600 Vocabulary 196 00:14:24.600 --> 00:14:26.600 everything has a 197 00:14:26.880 --> 00:14:31.880 Vocabulary and they're very different fear and faith are two 198 00:14:32.640 --> 00:14:33.880 different 199 00:14:33.880 --> 00:14:35.240 vocabularies 200 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:39.040 The wealthy and the poor speak to 201 00:14:41.400 --> 00:14:45.920 Vocabularies, do you understand so you you begin to learn a new 202 00:14:46.800 --> 00:14:54.360 vocabulary that matches that which you desire so death and life are in the power of the tongue and and 203 00:14:54.480 --> 00:14:57.920 And and language gives us dominion 204 00:14:58.760 --> 00:15:00.760 Language is your 205 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.600 way of taking dominion over your situation and your authority. It's your way of communing with 206 00:15:05.600 --> 00:15:11.360 God. It's your way of taking mastery over your situation. It's your way to bring about healing. 207 00:15:11.360 --> 00:15:16.800 It's your way that causes dis-ease if you don't follow this. So words are extremely powerful and 208 00:15:16.800 --> 00:15:25.520 so when you're talking about being impeccable with your word, the idea is not sinning with your word 209 00:15:25.520 --> 00:15:33.440 and he uses a definition of sin in this book, The Four Agreements, that's very similar to 210 00:15:34.080 --> 00:15:40.080 what Jonathan Butler teaches which is sin as self-inflicted nonsense. In other words, 211 00:15:41.040 --> 00:15:48.400 sin is violating yourself with your words. So not just the biblical standard of sin of missing 212 00:15:48.400 --> 00:15:56.400 the mark, I want to use it in a broader definition here of sinning when you are violating yourself 213 00:15:56.400 --> 00:16:03.040 with your words. If God says you're made in his image, if God says you're the apple of his eye, 214 00:16:03.040 --> 00:16:09.600 if God says you're perfect, if God says you're beautiful, if God says that he's making all 215 00:16:09.600 --> 00:16:15.440 things beautiful this time and you're speaking the opposite of God over yourself and you're 216 00:16:15.440 --> 00:16:22.000 saying I'm so fat, I'm so stupid, I'm so ugly, I just can't get this right, this will never work, 217 00:16:22.000 --> 00:16:28.080 you're sinning with your words because you're in direct conflict with God's view of you, 218 00:16:28.880 --> 00:16:37.040 with you being made in the image of God, you're speaking something contrary to yourself and you're 219 00:16:37.040 --> 00:16:44.160 no longer being impeccable with your words or if you do the same thing to another, if you begin 220 00:16:44.160 --> 00:16:52.960 to verbally abuse another, and sometimes we just do it out of ignorance. 221 00:16:53.760 --> 00:17:01.840 We have no idea how much our words are shaping the child that we're speaking into their life 222 00:17:01.840 --> 00:17:08.560 for positive or for negative and so being impeccable with our words is being very careful 223 00:17:09.280 --> 00:17:17.920 what we speak, that it is honoring, that it is edifying. Scripture talks about having all our 224 00:17:17.920 --> 00:17:30.720 words being seasoned with grace, that it may build up the listener and we know that praise, 225 00:17:31.680 --> 00:17:38.400 what's the word I want to use besides praise, when you're praising another, when you're 226 00:17:38.400 --> 00:17:46.880 appreciating another, we know that praise and appreciation is one of the highest frequencies 227 00:17:46.880 --> 00:17:52.960 and one of the closest to our source, so if we could be using our words as scripture says to 228 00:17:52.960 --> 00:18:00.000 edify and the word edify means to build up, like an edifice, like you're building up a 229 00:18:00.000 --> 00:18:06.720 building and you put that edifice around to build it up, if we could be using our words to build up 230 00:18:06.720 --> 00:18:15.040 and not tear down, how different would our world be and if we could be using our words to build 231 00:18:15.040 --> 00:18:23.760 ourself up, this is where affirmations come in and I teach all of this in the manifest program, 232 00:18:23.760 --> 00:18:29.040 how to do biblical affirmations, not just any affirmations and understand how to get results 233 00:18:29.040 --> 00:18:39.920 with affirmations, but do you know that science is catching up with what the bible has taught for 234 00:18:39.920 --> 00:18:50.400 thousands and thousands of years, we're beginning to understand why our words change, hold on just 235 00:18:50.400 --> 00:19:14.640 one second here, why our words can create health or disease, for example, we now know the science 236 00:19:14.640 --> 00:19:24.560 is there now that your dna, hear this carefully and I can send you an article, your dna actually 237 00:19:24.560 --> 00:19:31.360 responds to your words, if you have bought into the teaching that your dna is fixed and it's in 238 00:19:31.360 --> 00:19:36.560 the genes and that's why you're this way and that's why you have that, I want you to understand what we 239 00:19:36.560 --> 00:19:42.400 now know, I mean geneticists know how to split you know dna and move apart from one to another 240 00:19:42.400 --> 00:19:51.360 and do all of that, you can do that same effect with your words, your dna responds to your words, 241 00:19:52.480 --> 00:19:59.520 this is how powerful being impeccable with your word is, you are shaping your life, your fruit, 242 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:06.000 says that the power of life and death is in the tongue and we eat the fruit thereof. 243 00:20:06.000 --> 00:20:13.560 You are shaping the very fruit of your life and all the way down into every cell in your 244 00:20:13.560 --> 00:20:21.000 body all the way down to your DNA by your words. 245 00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:23.800 I just want to take a pause and let you comment on that. 246 00:20:23.800 --> 00:20:30.040 Does that just change how you might view what comes out of your mouth? 247 00:20:30.040 --> 00:20:31.480 I'd love to hear from you guys. 248 00:20:31.480 --> 00:20:38.520 This is a good time for feedback. 249 00:20:38.520 --> 00:20:46.680 Any questions, comments before I move on? 250 00:20:46.680 --> 00:20:47.680 Are you there? 251 00:20:47.680 --> 00:20:48.680 Can you hear me? 252 00:20:49.680 --> 00:20:52.680 Yes, I can hear you Brenda. 253 00:20:52.680 --> 00:20:53.680 Okay, good. 254 00:20:53.680 --> 00:20:58.160 When you're all silent, I start to wonder if I'm talking to myself. 255 00:20:58.160 --> 00:21:03.680 Just reflect on that so that as we move on, we're super careful. 256 00:21:03.680 --> 00:21:08.800 Do you know, I don't know if you played this game and I know kids still play it, but when 257 00:21:08.800 --> 00:21:14.600 I was a kid, we had a game called cutting and it was how we would keep cutting each 258 00:21:14.600 --> 00:21:18.640 other down and that was just humorous, right? 259 00:21:18.640 --> 00:21:23.240 And you've seen all the jokes, you know, your mom is so ugly that or your mom is so 260 00:21:23.240 --> 00:21:30.400 fat that, you know, all these kinds of ways that we're carelessly using our words. 261 00:21:30.400 --> 00:21:35.160 But when we understand that the power of life and death is in the tongue and we're shaping 262 00:21:35.160 --> 00:21:42.600 our entire reality by our mind, heart, mouth connection. 263 00:21:42.600 --> 00:21:48.600 No questions, comments, feedback on that one before I move on? 264 00:21:48.600 --> 00:21:53.600 Okay, I guess you got it. 265 00:21:53.600 --> 00:21:59.240 Secondly, that's the first agreement, be impeccable with your word. 266 00:21:59.240 --> 00:22:06.680 Second agreement, don't take anything personally. 267 00:22:06.680 --> 00:22:09.480 Don't take anything personally. 268 00:22:09.480 --> 00:22:15.040 Now in order to take things personally, it's rooted in the belief system that whatever's 269 00:22:15.040 --> 00:22:17.640 going on is about you. 270 00:22:17.640 --> 00:22:21.640 He talks about it in the definition of personal importance. 271 00:22:21.640 --> 00:22:27.240 In other words, here's what you need to understand about this. 272 00:22:27.240 --> 00:22:33.120 Every single person has whatever metaphor you want to use, has a movie going on in their 273 00:22:33.120 --> 00:22:36.720 head or has a book that they're writing in their head, they are the script writer, they 274 00:22:36.720 --> 00:22:38.240 are the producer. 275 00:22:38.240 --> 00:22:42.680 They are creating their own dream in their mind, they're imagining it the way they want 276 00:22:42.680 --> 00:22:47.080 to imagine it, they're visioning it the way that they want to vision, and it's a completely 277 00:22:47.080 --> 00:22:51.200 different world than what's going on in your mind. 278 00:22:51.200 --> 00:22:56.560 When we take things personally, we make the assumption that what they're thinking is the 279 00:22:56.560 --> 00:22:58.760 same as what we're thinking. 280 00:22:58.760 --> 00:23:04.160 And we talked about this at length, biblically that's called taking offense. 281 00:23:04.160 --> 00:23:09.960 And what happens when you take offense and you take things personally is that now you're 282 00:23:09.960 --> 00:23:13.520 assuming that your movie is the true one. 283 00:23:13.520 --> 00:23:17.080 And because it's the true one, you're assuming theirs is not. 284 00:23:17.080 --> 00:23:18.080 There's the conflict. 285 00:23:18.080 --> 00:23:19.080 Okay? 286 00:23:19.080 --> 00:23:23.320 And I'm setting us up for the one we're doing today about not making assumptions. 287 00:23:23.320 --> 00:23:29.000 So now you get in a position where you have to defend your beliefs and you need to be 288 00:23:29.000 --> 00:23:30.000 right. 289 00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:33.820 And you need to rally people around you to show why you're right. 290 00:23:34.480 --> 00:23:39.060 So now you get gossip, now you get division, and how do you think you get church splits 291 00:23:39.060 --> 00:23:43.780 or country splits or marriage splits or any other split? 292 00:23:43.780 --> 00:23:49.060 It comes with taking something personally, believing something, getting offended about 293 00:23:49.060 --> 00:23:54.900 it, proving that you're right, and bringing other people into the mix. 294 00:23:54.900 --> 00:23:59.740 And we saw over the last few weeks that this taking things personally or what the Bible 295 00:23:59.740 --> 00:24:04.260 calls taking offense keeps us from seeing the truth. 296 00:24:04.260 --> 00:24:08.100 It blinds us for really finding out what's really going on. 297 00:24:08.100 --> 00:24:11.500 We also saw that it keeps the miraculous away. 298 00:24:11.500 --> 00:24:12.500 Okay? 299 00:24:12.500 --> 00:24:18.540 And we also saw that the antidote is love and humility and realizing that we're all 300 00:24:18.540 --> 00:24:23.260 on this journey with our own perspectives. 301 00:24:23.260 --> 00:24:31.500 And so the option that we taught is understanding that each of us, all we really have is our 302 00:24:31.500 --> 00:24:36.680 opinion and knowing that we each have that. 303 00:24:36.680 --> 00:24:43.380 So I had shared with you a kind of a parallel book with this one in terms of taking things 304 00:24:43.380 --> 00:24:49.300 personally and it is Katie Byron's book called Loving What Is. 305 00:24:49.300 --> 00:24:54.900 And she has four questions that also help kind of break this taking it personally idea. 306 00:24:54.900 --> 00:24:59.060 And the first thing is, is it true? 307 00:24:59.060 --> 00:25:00.060 And the second question is... 308 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:07.360 can I absolutely know it's true and the third is how does this how is this 309 00:25:07.360 --> 00:25:13.800 affecting me how do I react when I think that thought and then the fourth is can 310 00:25:13.800 --> 00:25:19.040 I can I see a reason not to drop this thought I mean what would I be without 311 00:25:19.040 --> 00:25:25.260 this thought and so what usually happens in this process is is it true well 312 00:25:25.260 --> 00:25:29.200 sometimes yeah you get in defending yourself and you're like yeah it's true 313 00:25:29.200 --> 00:25:33.580 I know it's true and then when you say well can you absolutely know it's true 314 00:25:33.580 --> 00:25:37.180 how can you absolutely know it's true well then you're like hmm I guess 315 00:25:37.180 --> 00:25:42.040 there's the possibility you allow in the possibility that it might not be true 316 00:25:42.040 --> 00:25:46.140 and then you look at how it's serving you and and so what is holding this 317 00:25:46.140 --> 00:25:50.700 thought doing to you well it's making me really angry I had an experience like 318 00:25:50.700 --> 00:25:54.700 this just just a couple days ago there was something that someone was doing or 319 00:25:54.700 --> 00:26:01.360 not doing that was was just really the longer I went on the longer I started 320 00:26:01.360 --> 00:26:07.480 taking it personally and thinking that that this was directly attributed to me 321 00:26:07.480 --> 00:26:12.280 and I was thinking that it was disrespectful that it was dishonoring 322 00:26:12.280 --> 00:26:21.220 and that it was devaluing and I really got myself worked up and I thought about 323 00:26:21.360 --> 00:26:27.100 this study and I went okay is there a possibility that what I'm thinking isn't 324 00:26:27.100 --> 00:26:33.160 based on truth and in this particular case sometimes you might want to do this 325 00:26:33.160 --> 00:26:37.400 sometimes you got to get out of your own head and you have to find someone that 326 00:26:37.400 --> 00:26:41.020 is really clear thinking because otherwise you'll just create gossip and 327 00:26:41.020 --> 00:26:44.360 factions and they'll defend your lies and then you'll just have two of you you 328 00:26:44.360 --> 00:26:48.200 know believing lies or whatever and then you've got gossip and all that so but if 329 00:26:48.200 --> 00:26:52.580 you can find someone really genuine and say look I'm just trying to make sure 330 00:26:52.580 --> 00:26:57.300 that what I'm thinking right here is based on truth what's your perspective 331 00:26:57.300 --> 00:27:03.580 and I did that and that person gave me a totally different perspective to where I 332 00:27:03.580 --> 00:27:10.980 realized it's not based on truth and I was willing to release it and it saved 333 00:27:10.980 --> 00:27:16.060 me because I was really starting to get angry and it saved it completely took 334 00:27:16.060 --> 00:27:22.680 away my anger and it saved all conflict and this is why I say doing this can 335 00:27:22.680 --> 00:27:28.240 eliminate 90% of conflicts or it can eliminate 90% of what we call pain or 336 00:27:28.240 --> 00:27:38.320 suffering and so I'm just giving you a way to reduce stress and anxiety in 337 00:27:38.320 --> 00:27:44.360 your life so anyway that that was the second one third one was not taking 338 00:27:44.860 --> 00:27:52.820 things personally and so today I want to move into this idea of the last of the 339 00:27:52.820 --> 00:27:58.300 next one which is do not make assumptions and it goes right along with 340 00:27:58.300 --> 00:28:01.780 taking things personally because the reason you take things personally is 341 00:28:01.780 --> 00:28:04.900 because you make an assumption you make an assumption that what they were 342 00:28:04.900 --> 00:28:08.460 thinking was about you you make an assumption that what they're thinking 343 00:28:08.460 --> 00:28:12.860 is not right you make an assumption that what you're thinking is right and you 344 00:28:12.860 --> 00:28:16.480 start making you start making all these assumptions then you take it personally 345 00:28:16.480 --> 00:28:20.800 then you take offense and then you've got conflict okay that's the pattern 346 00:28:20.800 --> 00:28:25.680 that's the role that happens so let me read you just as a way of opening this 347 00:28:25.680 --> 00:28:33.680 what he wrote in in in the book the four agreements about making assumptions and 348 00:28:33.680 --> 00:28:40.400 it's it's really really very powerful he said we have a tendency to make 349 00:28:40.460 --> 00:28:48.740 assumptions about everything so this is true we just go through life making 350 00:28:48.740 --> 00:28:53.100 assumptions assumptions mean that you take your belief system and assume that 351 00:28:53.100 --> 00:28:56.980 it's true you assume that you know that you really know what's going on you 352 00:28:56.980 --> 00:29:01.880 assume that you're thinking or your opinion is the right one that your 353 00:29:01.880 --> 00:29:06.900 brains view your perspective your brains opinion is the right one so he says we 354 00:29:06.900 --> 00:29:13.440 have a tendency to make assumptions about everything the problem with 355 00:29:13.440 --> 00:29:20.040 making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth fact we could swear 356 00:29:20.040 --> 00:29:26.920 they are real we make assumptions about what we're what others are doing or 357 00:29:26.920 --> 00:29:33.800 thinking and we take it personally whenever we make assumptions we're 358 00:29:33.800 --> 00:29:41.020 asking for problems we make an assumption we misunderstand we take it 359 00:29:41.020 --> 00:29:48.700 personally and we end up creating a whole big drama for all the sadness and 360 00:29:48.700 --> 00:29:54.740 drama you've lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking 361 00:29:54.740 --> 00:30:02.020 things personally take a moment to consider the truth of 362 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:07.280 statement from now on every time you feel stressed or angry or there is a 363 00:30:07.280 --> 00:30:14.280 conflict just stop for a second and say am I making an assumption that my brain's 364 00:30:14.280 --> 00:30:17.760 opinion is true and right and that I really understand and have an 365 00:30:17.760 --> 00:30:23.440 understanding on it and am I taking this personally and just doing that will 366 00:30:23.440 --> 00:30:28.760 completely turn it around well what's the answer what's the antidote for not 367 00:30:28.760 --> 00:30:34.680 making assumptions the antidote is three letters I want you to write this 368 00:30:34.680 --> 00:30:40.240 in great big across your notes three very important letters that form one 369 00:30:40.240 --> 00:30:46.440 very small world one small word that will eliminate this whole idea of 370 00:30:46.440 --> 00:30:50.640 assumptions are you ready for can anyone guess what the three-letter word is that 371 00:30:50.640 --> 00:30:55.640 breaks the assumption 372 00:30:55.640 --> 00:30:59.920 anybody guess what I'm going to say 373 00:30:59.920 --> 00:31:02.920 come on you guys this is an interactive study you're leaving me hanging out here 374 00:31:02.920 --> 00:31:05.920 all by myself come on jump in 375 00:31:05.920 --> 00:31:19.960 thank you ask A S K ask assumptions happen because we're afraid to ask for 376 00:31:20.040 --> 00:31:26.320 clarification and there's a lot of reasons that we're afraid to ask for 377 00:31:26.320 --> 00:31:33.160 clarification we don't want to upset the other person we don't want to be wrong 378 00:31:33.160 --> 00:31:38.480 we I mean there's all kinds of reasons we don't want to be rejected we have a 379 00:31:38.480 --> 00:31:46.640 lot of reasons but instead of asking we just come to our own conclusions we just 380 00:31:46.640 --> 00:31:53.480 produce our movie and we believe we're right about those assumptions and so now 381 00:31:53.480 --> 00:31:58.720 we believe we're right about these assumptions and Don Miguel goes on to 382 00:31:58.720 --> 00:32:03.040 say because we believe we're right about the assumptions then we defend our 383 00:32:03.040 --> 00:32:08.760 assumptions and we try to make someone else wrong it's always better he says to 384 00:32:08.760 --> 00:32:14.200 ask questions then make an assumption because assumptions set us up for 385 00:32:14.200 --> 00:32:20.400 suffering the big metote he calls that all the voices in your head in the human 386 00:32:20.400 --> 00:32:27.800 mind create a lot of chaos which causes us to misinterpret everything and 387 00:32:27.800 --> 00:32:35.120 misunderstand everything we only see what we want to see and we hear what we 388 00:32:35.120 --> 00:32:41.600 want to hear we don't perceive things the way they are we have the habit of 389 00:32:41.600 --> 00:32:46.880 dreaming with no basis in reality we literally dream things up in our 390 00:32:46.880 --> 00:32:52.480 imagination because we don't understand something we make an assumption about 391 00:32:52.480 --> 00:32:58.320 the meaning so what happens is you see something with your eyes or you feel 392 00:32:58.320 --> 00:33:02.280 something with your heart you see something with your senses and the 393 00:33:02.280 --> 00:33:06.360 assumption is where you jump from what you see or what you're experiencing to 394 00:33:06.360 --> 00:33:10.760 putting a meaning attaching a meaning to it this is what happens with assumptions 395 00:33:10.760 --> 00:33:15.040 you're attaching a meaning to what's going on so a person looks at you funny 396 00:33:15.040 --> 00:33:20.040 and it could be that that person went oh no in their head I'm just making up a 397 00:33:20.040 --> 00:33:25.520 scenario okay a person standing there next to you and all of a sudden they 398 00:33:25.520 --> 00:33:31.880 think oh my gosh I left the oven on and their whole face changes now you're 399 00:33:31.880 --> 00:33:35.880 talking you're telling them a story or you're talking something and you see 400 00:33:35.880 --> 00:33:39.600 their whole face change when the metote in their head just reminded them they 401 00:33:39.600 --> 00:33:44.000 left the oven on in their whole facial changes and now you attach meaning to 402 00:33:44.000 --> 00:33:50.120 the facial change and you say they're not interested in what I'm saying you 403 00:33:50.120 --> 00:33:53.480 know what they're never interested in what I'm saying and look at the way that 404 00:33:53.480 --> 00:33:57.000 they just judged me and that look of horror that came across in that look of 405 00:33:57.000 --> 00:34:01.360 just do you see how we just attached a meaning to something and it was totally 406 00:34:01.360 --> 00:34:07.720 not based in reality so it says we make an assumption about the meaning when the 407 00:34:07.720 --> 00:34:14.280 truth comes out later and the bubble of our dream pops we find out it was not 408 00:34:14.280 --> 00:34:21.120 the right thought at all have you ever done this by the way I can hear you guys 409 00:34:21.120 --> 00:34:25.199 like moving on your phone and all of that have you ever done that have you 410 00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:29.960 ever thought something and then when the truth comes out it's far from what you 411 00:34:29.960 --> 00:34:32.960 thought it was have you ever done that 412 00:34:35.400 --> 00:34:38.400 any of you have that experience 413 00:34:44.960 --> 00:34:47.960 are you there with me 414 00:34:50.239 --> 00:34:53.239 ok Greg's with me is anyone else with me 415 00:34:53.280 --> 00:34:56.280 you guys on the phone 416 00:34:57.280 --> 00:34:58.280 ok 417 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.000 Okay, so, go ahead. 418 00:35:06.200 --> 00:35:09.900 I've had that experience, and the issue with it is that 419 00:35:11.100 --> 00:35:12.900 you have to hear it from that person. 420 00:35:13.200 --> 00:35:13.900 You have to. 421 00:35:14.400 --> 00:35:16.200 And then I even had that experience. 422 00:35:16.200 --> 00:35:17.400 I heard it from the person. 423 00:35:17.400 --> 00:35:21.200 They clarified it, justified it, and then I still felt like, 424 00:35:21.200 --> 00:35:23.900 okay, they're probably not telling the truth. 425 00:35:23.900 --> 00:35:25.500 They're just trying to flip it over. 426 00:35:25.600 --> 00:35:26.400 Wow. 427 00:35:26.400 --> 00:35:28.400 I went through a lot and I grow back with it. 428 00:35:28.600 --> 00:35:31.800 Wow, all those mental gymnastics, huh? 429 00:35:32.100 --> 00:35:34.600 That's amazing. 430 00:35:34.600 --> 00:35:38.000 You know, I was thinking of, and I can't remember. 431 00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:39.500 It's been a while now. 432 00:35:39.500 --> 00:35:44.800 It's probably been a year or something, but I was talking 433 00:35:44.800 --> 00:35:49.200 to someone and I confessed that I had made an assumption 434 00:35:49.400 --> 00:35:52.700 to them, and it opened them up to confess. 435 00:35:52.700 --> 00:35:56.100 And they said, oh, well, now that we're making 436 00:35:56.100 --> 00:36:00.200 confessions, I just wondered why you never ever asked 437 00:36:00.200 --> 00:36:01.900 me to do X, Y, Z. 438 00:36:01.900 --> 00:36:03.000 Why you never chose me? 439 00:36:03.000 --> 00:36:05.200 Why you didn't think that I would be good enough to do 440 00:36:05.200 --> 00:36:09.900 X, Y, Z. And had to do with, as a presentation I was 441 00:36:09.900 --> 00:36:15.100 doing, and it was so my reality. 442 00:36:15.100 --> 00:36:19.500 I had never, it wasn't that I wasn't asking, it never 443 00:36:19.500 --> 00:36:22.100 even crossed my mind that that person was interested 444 00:36:22.100 --> 00:36:24.700 in even doing what they were wondering why I didn't 445 00:36:24.700 --> 00:36:26.200 ask them if that makes sense. 446 00:36:26.700 --> 00:36:30.900 And so there's these things that they're thinking, wow, 447 00:36:32.000 --> 00:36:34.100 she doesn't think I'm good enough to do that. 448 00:36:34.100 --> 00:36:35.400 So she didn't choose me. 449 00:36:35.400 --> 00:36:38.200 She doesn't think that, you know, and you just go on 450 00:36:38.200 --> 00:36:42.700 and on and on and it never even crossed their mind. 451 00:36:42.700 --> 00:36:46.200 They were so far in another reality. 452 00:36:46.600 --> 00:36:48.800 Well, let's get some scriptural examples. 453 00:36:49.500 --> 00:36:50.100 Yeah. 454 00:36:54.700 --> 00:37:12.700 Yeah, yeah, well, you know, the only thing that you 455 00:37:12.700 --> 00:37:15.500 can be responsible is yourself. 456 00:37:16.000 --> 00:37:19.700 You, you cannot choose the response of another. 457 00:37:20.700 --> 00:37:24.400 So all you can do is say, what can I do on my end? 458 00:37:24.700 --> 00:37:27.300 To be impeccable with my words, not take things personally, 459 00:37:27.300 --> 00:37:28.500 not make an assumption. 460 00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:31.800 And what can I do so that what I'm doing is love-based 461 00:37:31.800 --> 00:37:33.000 and not fear-based. 462 00:37:33.400 --> 00:37:37.400 So, you know, if you know, there's some people that 463 00:37:38.100 --> 00:37:42.200 here's, here's, let me answer again with a conversation 464 00:37:42.200 --> 00:37:45.000 that I had actually, I mean, you guys are bringing 465 00:37:45.000 --> 00:37:46.800 up conversations I had this week. 466 00:37:47.500 --> 00:37:51.900 A friend of mine, you know, ex-wife, completely 467 00:37:51.900 --> 00:37:53.900 unreasonable. 468 00:37:53.900 --> 00:37:57.900 You can't, you can't talk and, and it just creates so 469 00:37:57.900 --> 00:37:59.000 much conflict. 470 00:37:59.200 --> 00:38:03.400 And what I said is you have to understand something 471 00:38:03.400 --> 00:38:06.300 in general and, and Latonya, this is true for you. 472 00:38:06.500 --> 00:38:09.700 You have to understand that for the most part, number 473 00:38:09.700 --> 00:38:13.000 one, we have not been taught how to communicate. 474 00:38:13.000 --> 00:38:14.200 That's the first thing. 475 00:38:14.800 --> 00:38:18.400 Number two, we have not been taught how to communicate 476 00:38:18.400 --> 00:38:19.500 maturely. 477 00:38:20.200 --> 00:38:25.200 So when I find someone that can communicate with me, 478 00:38:26.600 --> 00:38:30.200 it's such a blessing and such a welcome gift. 479 00:38:30.600 --> 00:38:35.100 Most people have a very low EQ, emotional quotient. 480 00:38:35.300 --> 00:38:39.300 We know about IQ, but we now know success is much more 481 00:38:39.300 --> 00:38:41.000 determined by EQ. 482 00:38:41.500 --> 00:38:46.200 And so they have such a low that, that instead they 483 00:38:46.200 --> 00:38:49.600 immediately respond defensively, they immediately 484 00:38:49.600 --> 00:38:50.400 attack. 485 00:38:50.700 --> 00:38:53.900 And, and what I was saying to this person is understand 486 00:38:53.900 --> 00:38:59.900 that when you speak and they respond that way, what 487 00:38:59.900 --> 00:39:03.100 has happened is what you've said has touched a pain 488 00:39:03.100 --> 00:39:07.500 point, a past memory in them and you've pushed them 489 00:39:07.500 --> 00:39:08.500 into fear. 490 00:39:08.900 --> 00:39:11.500 How do people respond out of fear? 491 00:39:11.600 --> 00:39:15.400 Well, they withdraw, you know, fight or flight, right? 492 00:39:15.500 --> 00:39:16.400 They fight. 493 00:39:16.400 --> 00:39:19.100 So you've got the people that when you push their fear, 494 00:39:19.100 --> 00:39:21.400 they get angry and they're going to come back at you 495 00:39:21.400 --> 00:39:22.300 with anger. 496 00:39:22.600 --> 00:39:25.400 You get other people when you push their fear, they're 497 00:39:25.400 --> 00:39:28.100 going to retreat or they'll use withdraw. 498 00:39:28.100 --> 00:39:30.900 They'll withdraw their love or they'll stop communicating 499 00:39:30.900 --> 00:39:31.700 or they'll go in there. 500 00:39:33.100 --> 00:39:34.200 Their way of doing it. 501 00:39:34.200 --> 00:39:37.300 You'll get other people that will go into manipulation 502 00:39:37.500 --> 00:39:39.500 to try to get you to see things their way. 503 00:39:39.600 --> 00:39:42.000 So there's all these ways that we deal with our fear. 504 00:39:42.200 --> 00:39:46.400 So the first thing is to not get in the mud and play 505 00:39:46.400 --> 00:39:47.400 in that field. 506 00:39:47.400 --> 00:39:49.300 And this is what I'm about to teach right now from 507 00:39:49.300 --> 00:39:51.300 scripture for the rest of this study. 508 00:39:51.300 --> 00:39:54.300 I think it'll apply to you is the first thing is understand 509 00:39:54.300 --> 00:39:55.900 that they're reacting to their own pain. 510 00:39:55.900 --> 00:39:57.600 They're not reacting to you. 511 00:39:57.900 --> 00:40:00.100 So that first keeps you from getting into. 512 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:07.000 to the game. So now your only responsibility, LaTanya, is for you to be impeccable with 513 00:40:07.000 --> 00:40:12.560 your word, not take things personally, not make assumptions, and do it in love. Keep 514 00:40:12.560 --> 00:40:16.920 your intentions in love. So the answer is you couch it and you begin and say, look, 515 00:40:16.920 --> 00:40:22.820 I want to ask you this because I don't want to make assumptions. My brain can go in my 516 00:40:22.820 --> 00:40:28.080 own head and start spinning and it won't be based on truth. So I've learned that my best 517 00:40:28.160 --> 00:40:33.880 way is to ask so I can really understand you. And I'm doing this out of love and I'm doing 518 00:40:33.880 --> 00:40:40.880 this because I really value our relationship. So can I ask you, it appears to me that you 519 00:40:40.880 --> 00:40:45.520 were dishonoring me or it appears to me that you were not valuing me in this situation 520 00:40:45.520 --> 00:40:51.480 or it appears to me, my perception, my brain's opinion is that you were ignoring me or that 521 00:40:51.480 --> 00:40:56.320 you were putting me last on your list or whatever it is that you're picking up, right? You were 522 00:40:56.320 --> 00:41:02.120 disrespectful, whatever. And I need to know what was going on for you so I can better 523 00:41:02.120 --> 00:41:08.120 understand you. Would you help me understand you? And if they still, you know, choose to 524 00:41:08.120 --> 00:41:13.720 take it personally or take offense, you're not responsible. You can't control other people. 525 00:41:13.720 --> 00:41:20.880 All you can do is control what you do. So let's look at some examples in scripture of 526 00:41:21.000 --> 00:41:28.000 this and how we can see this played out. So turn to Matthew 16. Let's watch this played 527 00:41:28.760 --> 00:41:35.760 out in real life situations. Matthew 16. Matthew 16 verse 6. Matthew 16 verse 6. And we're 528 00:41:43.160 --> 00:41:48.720 going to go through quite a few verses. We're just going to work our way down there. So 529 00:41:48.840 --> 00:41:54.440 Jesus said to them, he makes a comment. So this is an example of how this works. So here's 530 00:41:54.440 --> 00:42:01.440 Jesus' comment. Jesus is teaching. He says, be careful and on your guard against the leaven 531 00:42:02.040 --> 00:42:08.200 or the ferment of the Pharisees and the Sadducees. Okay, so here he's making a generalized statement, 532 00:42:08.200 --> 00:42:14.160 right? Jesus says, look, be careful. You got to watch out for the leaven of the Pharisees 533 00:42:14.160 --> 00:42:21.160 and Sadducees. Verse 7. They reason amongst themselves. Now this was a group that starts 534 00:42:22.120 --> 00:42:26.600 talking about what he said. We might reason just amongst ourself. It might be that we 535 00:42:26.600 --> 00:42:31.120 hear that and we start reasoning in our head or it might be like them. They were a group. 536 00:42:31.120 --> 00:42:38.120 They reasoned amongst themselves about it. And then they say, huh, is it because we did 537 00:42:38.600 --> 00:42:45.280 not bring any bread? Okay, do you see this? He's about, as we go through, to give them 538 00:42:45.280 --> 00:42:52.280 a spiritual principle that can change their life. What do they do? They turn it into their 539 00:42:52.280 --> 00:42:59.280 own idea in verse 7 and they say, oh, it's because we didn't bring any bread. Now Jesus 540 00:42:59.560 --> 00:43:05.480 was very in tune spiritually. He was being very prophetic and it says Jesus is aware 541 00:43:05.560 --> 00:43:10.560 of this. He's aware of what they're saying over there and how far off the market it is. 542 00:43:10.560 --> 00:43:17.560 He asks a question to bring clarity. He says, why are you discussing amongst yourself the 543 00:43:18.760 --> 00:43:25.760 fact that you have no bread? The Bible says, oh you men, how little trust you have in me, 544 00:43:27.200 --> 00:43:33.400 how little faith. So here they come to their own conclusion. Here they come to their own 545 00:43:33.440 --> 00:43:39.360 brain's opinion. Oh, he's talking the fact that we didn't bring any bread. And he's going, 546 00:43:39.360 --> 00:43:44.920 why are you even saying it has anything to do with that? And he goes on in verse 9. Do 547 00:43:44.920 --> 00:43:51.920 you not yet discern? Do you not yet perceive? Do you not yet understand, the Amplified says? 548 00:43:52.040 --> 00:43:59.040 Bread, he says, don't you remember the five loaves? Any baskets you gathered? In other 549 00:43:59.600 --> 00:44:04.960 words, he's going, do you understand? I'm not operating in lack. I'm not worried that 550 00:44:04.960 --> 00:44:08.560 you didn't bring any bread. You're making the assumption that I'm upset that you didn't 551 00:44:08.560 --> 00:44:15.120 bring bread on the boat. Have you already forgotten the miracle that I took five loaves 552 00:44:15.120 --> 00:44:19.520 and five fishes and fed 5,000? Have you already forgotten about it? Already your brain has 553 00:44:19.520 --> 00:44:23.200 formed a whole new opinion and you're worried that you didn't bring bread and that's not 554 00:44:23.280 --> 00:44:29.360 what I was saying. And he goes on in verse 10, nor the seven loaves for the 4,000 and 555 00:44:29.360 --> 00:44:36.360 how many large provision baskets you took up. Verse 11, how is it that you fail to understand 556 00:44:37.560 --> 00:44:44.560 that I was not talking to you about bread, but beware of the leaven ferment of the Pharisees 557 00:44:45.440 --> 00:44:52.440 and the Sadducees? So do you see we're having two parallel conversations going on? He's 558 00:44:53.880 --> 00:44:59.280 trying to give them a religious teaching and they're thinking in the natural that they 559 00:44:59.280 --> 00:45:00.040 didn't do so. 560 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.040 Something and they're going into all of those mental jargon. You see it right here in the scriptures 561 00:45:05.040 --> 00:45:11.520 The more you study these principles the more you'll see it in every single biblical conversation 562 00:45:11.520 --> 00:45:15.760 you'll see these principles in every single biblical character and 563 00:45:16.920 --> 00:45:18.600 so then 564 00:45:18.600 --> 00:45:24.200 Because Jesus asked questions and clarified in verse 12 and he addressed it Latonya 565 00:45:24.200 --> 00:45:28.280 Do you see he did address it even if it was at the risk of upsetting them? 566 00:45:29.280 --> 00:45:32.720 You noticed that he did bring it up. He didn't let him go on with it 567 00:45:32.720 --> 00:45:35.800 He addressed it because he understood the problem with making 568 00:45:37.080 --> 00:45:41.120 So then because he asked the question in verse 12, it says then 569 00:45:41.840 --> 00:45:46.520 They discerned that he didn't tell him to be beware of the leaven of the bread 570 00:45:46.760 --> 00:45:52.100 But it was the teaching of the Pharisees and Sadducees. Well, would you agree? 571 00:45:52.100 --> 00:45:55.040 There's a big difference between physical bread and teaching. I 572 00:45:55.680 --> 00:45:59.880 Mean how can you get any more different? So they both have movies in their head 573 00:46:00.640 --> 00:46:03.840 Totally different don't even on the same page 574 00:46:05.280 --> 00:46:06.840 and 575 00:46:06.840 --> 00:46:09.280 They could begin to see what is true 576 00:46:09.920 --> 00:46:11.920 What's not true? 577 00:46:12.160 --> 00:46:16.880 It jumps again in verse 13 Jesus comes in to Cesare Philippi 578 00:46:17.280 --> 00:46:23.200 I've been there in that spot and he asked his disciples a question. Who do people say the Son of Man is and 579 00:46:23.680 --> 00:46:25.160 They answered 580 00:46:25.160 --> 00:46:31.960 Some say John the Baptist others say Elijah others Jeremiah or one of the prophets 581 00:46:32.680 --> 00:46:38.040 We have very different movies going on as to who? 582 00:46:38.920 --> 00:46:40.920 Jesus is 583 00:46:41.040 --> 00:46:42.800 Some say it's a real 584 00:46:42.800 --> 00:46:44.320 on the Baptist 585 00:46:44.320 --> 00:46:47.160 Other people say it's Elijah that was prophesied 586 00:46:47.840 --> 00:46:50.240 Others Jeremiah others just think he's a prophet 587 00:46:51.000 --> 00:46:53.600 Now he's gonna take it home, but who do you 588 00:46:54.240 --> 00:46:58.960 Say that I am now watch something that happens here. This is the main thing 589 00:46:58.960 --> 00:47:02.600 I want you to get out of this as far as assumptions Peter 590 00:47:03.720 --> 00:47:05.720 steps into direct revelation 591 00:47:06.920 --> 00:47:13.880 Peter says you are the Christ the Son of the Living God and Jesus says ah 592 00:47:15.200 --> 00:47:19.600 Now in a realm of truth Jesus says blessed 593 00:47:20.240 --> 00:47:26.440 Are you Simon Barjana for flesh and blood didn't reveal this to you. You're not operating in the flesh here 594 00:47:26.440 --> 00:47:29.880 You're not making assumptions here. My father in heaven 595 00:47:30.760 --> 00:47:34.640 Revealed to you. See I want you to understand that 596 00:47:35.120 --> 00:47:42.200 Assumptions cause division and I want you to get that point in your notes. You could put point number one, you know 597 00:47:42.840 --> 00:47:44.840 assumptions cause division 598 00:47:45.120 --> 00:47:47.120 point number two 599 00:47:47.240 --> 00:47:49.880 Assumptions come when we're operating in the flesh 600 00:47:50.880 --> 00:47:54.920 Assumptions do not come when we're operating in the spirit 601 00:47:54.920 --> 00:48:02.040 so I want to teach you that the antidote for assumptions is a ask and be asked for 602 00:48:02.840 --> 00:48:04.840 revelation from heaven 603 00:48:06.080 --> 00:48:08.080 So, let's do another example 604 00:48:08.960 --> 00:48:13.160 And it comes from John. I believe it's John 4. I didn't write the verse here 605 00:48:13.160 --> 00:48:16.800 But I'm pretty sure it's John 4 the woman at the well 606 00:48:17.760 --> 00:48:21.400 Jesus goes through Samaria now once you understand assumptions cause 607 00:48:22.200 --> 00:48:25.280 I'm under that point right now assumptions cause division 608 00:48:26.320 --> 00:48:30.400 The division was so strong. The assumptions were so high 609 00:48:31.400 --> 00:48:32.360 that 610 00:48:32.360 --> 00:48:37.440 That people would not walk through Samaria the Jews 611 00:48:38.240 --> 00:48:40.280 Specifically would not walk through Samaria 612 00:48:40.280 --> 00:48:46.600 They'd rather go the extra miles to go around to stay away from those Samaritans those half breeds those dogs 613 00:48:47.400 --> 00:48:53.300 There was major division going on. Jesus walks right through Samaria. He sits down at the well 614 00:48:53.320 --> 00:48:56.600 so he already violated Jewish law to go through the 615 00:48:57.880 --> 00:49:05.760 Samaria not law, but you know assumptions and then he violates the second one because he's a rabbi and he's gonna start talking 616 00:49:05.760 --> 00:49:10.080 To a woman so we're gonna break assumptions that rabbis don't talk to women 617 00:49:10.080 --> 00:49:16.240 okay, and so he sits there at the well and he makes a conversation with her and you can read that conversation in John 4 and 618 00:49:16.800 --> 00:49:18.920 The woman says to him sir 619 00:49:18.920 --> 00:49:24.840 I see and understand that you're a prophet because he starts prophesying about her life about the number of husbands 620 00:49:24.840 --> 00:49:27.640 She's had and the one she's with now is not her husband 621 00:49:28.280 --> 00:49:32.160 Watch the division and the assumptions come out in verse 20 622 00:49:32.440 --> 00:49:36.040 She says our forefathers worshiped on this mountain 623 00:49:36.320 --> 00:49:41.720 But you Jews say Jerusalem is the place where it's necessary and proper to worship 624 00:49:42.160 --> 00:49:46.000 Okay, do you see the assumptions and you see that taking it personally? 625 00:49:46.640 --> 00:49:51.520 Hey, we say our mountains better. Our church is better. This is the right church. This is the only church 626 00:49:51.520 --> 00:49:56.000 This is the right religion. This is the only religion we worship on this mountain, but you Jews 627 00:49:56.840 --> 00:50:00.200 You say Jerusalem's the place that it's necessary 628 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.920 to worship and Jesus breaks down the assumptions and he says woman believe me 629 00:50:05.920 --> 00:50:13.120 a time is coming when you'll worship the Father not merely in this mountain nor 630 00:50:13.120 --> 00:50:17.320 in Jerusalem guess what all that division is going to come crashing down 631 00:50:17.320 --> 00:50:22.800 we'll understand the unity of all of humanity worshiping one God we'll 632 00:50:22.800 --> 00:50:28.440 understand that all these man-made traditions all these assumptions all 633 00:50:28.440 --> 00:50:37.720 these dividing countries is going to come to an end 22 he says you Samaritans 634 00:50:37.720 --> 00:50:41.600 don't know what you're worshiping you're worshiping what you don't comprehend we 635 00:50:41.600 --> 00:50:45.000 do know what we're worshiping we have knowledge and understanding because 636 00:50:45.000 --> 00:50:50.360 salvation comes from the Jews he says a time will come however indeed it's 637 00:50:50.360 --> 00:50:57.960 already here where true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and in 638 00:50:57.960 --> 00:51:06.560 truth for the Father is seeking just such people as his worshipers I want you 639 00:51:06.560 --> 00:51:14.200 to get this opponents to worship worshiping in spirit and worshiping in 640 00:51:14.200 --> 00:51:19.520 truth this is why we must begin to look at every assumption and say is this 641 00:51:19.520 --> 00:51:27.120 based on truth is it fear-based or is it love based is it based on truth and 642 00:51:27.120 --> 00:51:32.200 did I get this from the spirit or did I get this from my own flesh did I get 643 00:51:32.200 --> 00:51:36.880 this from my own past memories that triggered a past fear response am I 644 00:51:36.880 --> 00:51:42.400 operating in the spirit or am I operating in the flesh am I operating in 645 00:51:42.400 --> 00:51:47.520 assumptions it's right here in verse 23 a time will come and it's already here 646 00:51:47.520 --> 00:51:52.960 where the true worshipers will worship the Father in both spirit and in truth 647 00:51:52.960 --> 00:51:58.240 for the Father seeking such worshipers I would propose to you that scripture 648 00:51:58.240 --> 00:52:03.720 teaches worship much broader than you've been taught worship I would propose that 649 00:52:03.720 --> 00:52:07.520 some of you think of worship if you say I'm going to worship today you think of 650 00:52:07.520 --> 00:52:11.600 going to church and three fast songs and two slow songs and a 15-minute sermon 651 00:52:11.600 --> 00:52:16.800 and you say I worship today I propose that scripture talks about a 652 00:52:16.800 --> 00:52:22.240 whole bunch of other worships Romans 12 one talks about worship being you 653 00:52:22.240 --> 00:52:27.440 dedicating your body taking care of your body making your body a living sacrifice 654 00:52:27.440 --> 00:52:33.480 which is a holy and reasonable form of service I would propose to you that 655 00:52:33.480 --> 00:52:39.280 offering and giving to the poor is a form of worship scripture says I would 656 00:52:39.280 --> 00:52:45.000 propose to you that loving the unlovable is a form of worship and here you see 657 00:52:45.080 --> 00:52:52.400 him proposing that spirit and truth so get a broader definition of making your 658 00:52:52.400 --> 00:53:03.160 life worship goes on in verse 24 he says God is a spirit a spiritual being and 659 00:53:03.160 --> 00:53:07.120 those who worship must worship him in spirit and truth the woman says to him 660 00:53:07.120 --> 00:53:12.960 in 25 I know the Messiah is coming he who's called the Christ the anointed one 661 00:53:13.200 --> 00:53:17.560 he arrives he'll tell us everything we need to know there's an assumption again 662 00:53:17.560 --> 00:53:24.600 that Messiah is coming they've been taught and he bring guess what it's me 663 00:53:24.600 --> 00:53:32.320 I'm right here the Messiah the infinite wisdom infinite love infinite truth was 664 00:53:32.320 --> 00:53:37.960 right in front of her and she hadn't even seen it yet because she was so in 665 00:53:37.960 --> 00:53:42.600 her own assumptions about is it this mountain or is it that mountain is it 666 00:53:42.600 --> 00:53:47.640 us Samaritans and our forefathers or you Jews and your forefathers is it this 667 00:53:47.640 --> 00:53:55.800 or is it that you see assumptions cause division it creates us and them in South 668 00:53:55.800 --> 00:54:01.560 Korea if you will it creates you know Eastern Eastern block and Western block 669 00:54:01.560 --> 00:54:06.680 it creates all of this division and you can't even see infinite love and 670 00:54:06.680 --> 00:54:12.280 infinite wisdom when it's standing right in front of you so here's the answer 671 00:54:12.760 --> 00:54:22.920 James 1 5 to making assumptions James 1 5 remember we said ask a ask a look at 672 00:54:22.920 --> 00:54:27.040 the different levels of asking so the first thing and this is answering your 673 00:54:27.040 --> 00:54:31.760 question on you the first quiet first thing and what you're saying is get 674 00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:36.440 yourself right get yourself in the spirit before you begin the conversation 675 00:54:36.520 --> 00:54:45.720 so James 1 5 if any of you is deficient in wisdom let him ask there's those 676 00:54:45.720 --> 00:54:51.560 words again of the giving God who gives to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly 677 00:54:51.560 --> 00:54:55.160 God's not going to hold out on you he gives liberally gives ungrudgingly he's 678 00:54:55.160 --> 00:54:59.080 not a holdout without reproach or fault-finding when you ask God for 679 00:54:59.080 --> 00:55:02.200 wisdom he's not going to say 680 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.200 you're not you're not you're not studied enough for wisdom, you're not the right 681 00:55:04.200 --> 00:55:08.600 age, you're not the right color, you're not the right gender, no he gives without 682 00:55:08.600 --> 00:55:14.280 reproach or fault finding and it will be given to him. So step number one in 683 00:55:14.280 --> 00:55:23.520 assumptions is ask for wisdom, ask before you even begin just go man I'm operating 684 00:55:23.520 --> 00:55:30.720 in my brain's opinion and right now I'm looking at my emotions and my emotions 685 00:55:30.720 --> 00:55:37.680 are very low frequency emotions, I'm angry right now, I'm depressed right now, I'm 686 00:55:37.680 --> 00:55:42.000 frustrated right now, you're looking at your emotions and you're knowing that 687 00:55:42.000 --> 00:55:46.760 they're low frequency emotions and you don't want to stay there. So the first 688 00:55:46.760 --> 00:55:50.760 thing to get out of those low frequency emotions is God I need wisdom about this 689 00:55:50.760 --> 00:55:59.080 situation, I need insight. Now what I do to really have something that I can go 690 00:55:59.080 --> 00:56:04.120 back to again and again and it's completely changed my life is I sit down 691 00:56:04.120 --> 00:56:13.000 I open my journal and and I pray and I pray in the Spirit and I ask for this 692 00:56:13.000 --> 00:56:17.560 wisdom and I say speak Lord your servants listening, speak Lord I am a 693 00:56:17.560 --> 00:56:23.000 friend of God, I'm ready Holy Spirit to hear the truth in this situation, I'm 694 00:56:23.000 --> 00:56:29.160 ready to be seated with Christ in high places, I'm ready to get out of my own 695 00:56:29.160 --> 00:56:34.680 assumptions, out of my own metote, out of my own voices and choir in my head and 696 00:56:34.680 --> 00:56:39.840 I'm ready to hear it from your perspective so please speak right now 697 00:56:39.840 --> 00:56:46.160 and you'll get just a word typically I get like one word or two words start 698 00:56:46.160 --> 00:56:53.680 writing, don't correct, don't stop the flow just write until it stops in other 699 00:56:53.680 --> 00:56:58.360 words let the book write you, let the prayer write you, just let your hand go 700 00:56:58.360 --> 00:57:02.880 and just ask God and just write and don't judge it, don't look at it, don't 701 00:57:02.880 --> 00:57:08.360 even think about it yet just let it flow and then I guarantee you you will go 702 00:57:08.360 --> 00:57:13.760 back to that again and again so that you're getting wisdom from on high it's 703 00:57:13.760 --> 00:57:19.080 helped me make decisions it's helped me bring the most powerful things into my 704 00:57:19.080 --> 00:57:32.420 life that simple activity so James 1 5 ask John 16 John 16 verse 12 John 16 705 00:57:32.420 --> 00:57:38.360 verse 12 Jesus said I still have so many things to say to you but you're not able 706 00:57:38.600 --> 00:57:43.880 to bear them now you're not able to grasp them see Jesus has so much truth 707 00:57:43.880 --> 00:57:48.640 that he wants to share with you but because of your past fears because of 708 00:57:48.640 --> 00:57:52.880 the the dream because of your religion because of the agreements that you've 709 00:57:52.880 --> 00:57:58.320 made because of the false belief systems that you've held you're not grasping 710 00:57:58.320 --> 00:58:02.400 like the woman at the well she couldn't see infinite love and infinite wisdom 711 00:58:02.400 --> 00:58:07.400 when it was standing right in front of her like the two men walking on the road 712 00:58:07.400 --> 00:58:12.600 to Damascus and and Jesus is walking with them and they have no idea that 713 00:58:12.600 --> 00:58:16.120 they are right with infinite love and infinite wisdom they don't even 714 00:58:16.120 --> 00:58:23.800 recognize him like Mary and Martha Martha was so busy making sandwiches she 715 00:58:23.800 --> 00:58:27.080 didn't understand infinite love and infinite wisdom was in her midst you 716 00:58:27.080 --> 00:58:31.720 understand Jesus walking on the water coming toward him and they're thinking 717 00:58:31.720 --> 00:58:35.760 it's a ghost they're not understanding infinite love and infinite wisdom do you 718 00:58:35.760 --> 00:58:39.800 understand all the times that infinite love and infinite wisdom wanted to speak 719 00:58:39.800 --> 00:58:43.640 with you but you couldn't grasp it because you were so busy with your own 720 00:58:43.640 --> 00:58:47.960 assumptions and your own reality and your own dream you missed infinite love 721 00:58:47.960 --> 00:58:51.040 and infinite wisdom 722 00:58:51.040 --> 00:58:57.920 to that James 1 5 is ask John 16 I have many things to say to you you're not 723 00:58:57.920 --> 00:59:06.080 grasping him but verse 13 but the spirit of truth the Holy Spirit he will 724 00:59:06.080 --> 00:59:13.640 guide you into all truth the Amplified version says the whole the full truth 725 00:59:13.640 --> 00:59:17.520 it's time for you to get out of your opinions and calling him truth and it's 726 00:59:17.520 --> 00:59:21.240 time for you to get in the spirit and ask the Holy Spirit to give you the full 727 00:59:21.240 --> 00:59:25.640 truth he will not speak his own message on his own authority he'll tell you what 728 00:59:25.640 --> 00:59:30.600 he hears from the father he gives the message that's been given to him he'll 729 00:59:30.600 --> 00:59:36.520 announce and declare to you those things that are to come in the future so he 730 00:59:36.520 --> 00:59:41.480 guides us into all truth and he shows us things to come you can know your future 731 00:59:41.480 --> 00:59:46.800 before it even hits that's when we went through supernatural living series and I 732 00:59:46.800 --> 00:59:50.560 taught you about the gifts of the spirit and the word of knowledge and the word 733 00:59:50.560 --> 00:59:54.520 of wisdom that can actually show you your future and give you the answer how 734 00:59:54.520 --> 01:00:00.160 to respond in the future before it even hits in your present now 735 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:08.480 Romans 8 teaches us that those that are led by the Spirit are the sons you could 736 01:00:08.480 --> 01:00:14.080 say the sons and daughters of God those that are led by the Spirit are the sons 737 01:00:14.080 --> 01:00:23.000 and daughters of God Romans 8 verse 13 and 14 Romans 8 13 and 14 if you live 738 01:00:23.000 --> 01:00:28.400 according to the dictates of the flesh you're going to die okay the making 739 01:00:28.400 --> 01:00:35.920 assumptions calling your opinions truth getting emotionally reactive and taking 740 01:00:35.920 --> 01:00:39.880 it personally taking offense those are all living in the flesh let me just 741 01:00:39.880 --> 01:00:46.000 inform you they're your senses that perceived it and you took it as truth 742 01:00:46.000 --> 01:00:49.640 and as gospel and you responded and you took offense and you took it personally 743 01:00:49.640 --> 01:00:53.640 that's called living according to the dictates of the flesh you got upset 744 01:00:53.640 --> 01:00:59.200 about it and Romans 8 13 says if you live according to the flesh you're gonna 745 01:00:59.200 --> 01:01:04.120 die you're gonna die emotionally you're gonna die physically you're gonna die 746 01:01:04.120 --> 01:01:07.640 spiritually you're gonna die if you live according to the dictates of the flesh 747 01:01:07.640 --> 01:01:13.280 if you let your senses what you see what you hear and you take offense you take 748 01:01:13.280 --> 01:01:17.840 it personally and you allow that to happen but every time I see a butt in 749 01:01:17.840 --> 01:01:22.360 scripture great big butt I circle those okay so circle the big butt right there 750 01:01:22.360 --> 01:01:30.680 but if through the power of the Holy Spirit you're habitually putting to 751 01:01:30.680 --> 01:01:36.880 death you're making extinct you're deadening those evil deeds prompted by 752 01:01:36.880 --> 01:01:44.160 the body you shall really and genuinely live forever verse 14 for all who are 753 01:01:44.160 --> 01:01:54.880 led by the Spirit are the sons of God Romans 8 is very interesting because 754 01:01:54.880 --> 01:02:00.920 many go around quoting myself included go around quoting Romans 8 28 that says 755 01:02:00.920 --> 01:02:06.720 all things work together for good for those who love God and they assume that 756 01:02:06.720 --> 01:02:11.000 it means that I just sit around and I wait for God to work all things together 757 01:02:11.000 --> 01:02:15.680 he's gonna fix my finances even though I was irresponsible and got myself in 758 01:02:15.680 --> 01:02:20.560 debt he's gonna fix my disease even though I'm killing myself with my fork 759 01:02:20.560 --> 01:02:26.200 he's gonna come in and fix all these assumptions and conflicts even though I 760 01:02:26.200 --> 01:02:29.920 caused them by making the assumptions he's gonna come in and fix everything in 761 01:02:29.920 --> 01:02:35.760 Romans 8 28 they don't read what came right before Romans 8 28 which is 762 01:02:35.760 --> 01:02:42.880 talking about praying in the Spirit praying in tongues that gets you in the 763 01:02:42.880 --> 01:02:46.640 right place they don't go up a little further before that that talks about 764 01:02:46.640 --> 01:02:52.240 crucifying the flesh and being led by the Spirit how is it that all things are 765 01:02:52.240 --> 01:02:57.480 going to work together let me give you this draw three circles on top of each 766 01:02:57.480 --> 01:02:59.720 other