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So let's look at, you know, what is mentoring? There are so many different definitions of

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mentoring and there isn't one definition and often, you know, it changes as well and so

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I'm going to show you one definition and the thing I want to stress

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about this is that it is all about mutual learning, that the mentor is going to get as

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much out of the relationship as the mentee and I have many mentors come up to me and say,

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you know, I actually feel so embarrassed because I feel as though I've got more out of the mentoring

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relationship than my mentee. It's all about mutual learning and so also, if you are a mentee going

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into a relationship, you can also ask your mentor, what would you like to learn from me?

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And you may not think you've got anything to offer but you'll be surprised. You know, you may

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have a, okay, maybe you've got an older mentor and they've got kids or, you know, children that

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are your age and it's like, well, I'd like to know how to communicate better with my adult kids.

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If you have got, you know, a younger mentee, you may also want to learn, you know,

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some things that you don't know about them. So, you know, it's a two-way street, very important

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and also, it's all about building trust. As I said, if you don't have the trust, you're not going to

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get into the depth of the relationship that you need. Now, there's also many types of mentoring,

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one-to-one group mentoring, one-to-many but I know with MentorCloud, a lot of the focus is on

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one-to-one and really, where you're learning from a mentor who has got experience with the issue

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that you are going to be dealing with. So, that's the main difference also between mentoring and

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coaching. While the coach doesn't necessarily have to have the experience, they just follow

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a process, a mentor usually has the experience with that issue. Right in the beginning, we need

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to understand what our roles are, what is my role as a mentor, what is my role as a mentee and what

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are the expectations. If this isn't clarified up front, it could end up with a breakdown in trust,

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a breakdown in communication and they're going to be expectations that are not met. So, this is part

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of your ground rules that you're going to set right in the beginning. This is part of the first

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conversation that you will have with your mentor mentee. What is my role? What do I expect from you?

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What is your role? What do you expect from me? Just have those conversations because it will really

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make your whole journey so much easier.