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You've already started stepping out into rest and starting to do things with intention,

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which was the commitment gesture.

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It's extremely important.

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So before you even knew what it was, some of y'all that I was even going to be talking

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about other than rest, you were actually already doing, you were already taking a step that

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is in the right direction.

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You're already starting to implement certain actions that we have to take as sons of God

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if we want to change, if we want to shift into rest.

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And so in the commitment gesture, you were using your power of intention and saying,

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this is what I desire, Lord, and I'm stepping into it, and this is how serious that I am.

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And that is actually setting you spiritually on a particular trajectory.

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And there is a bit of breakthrough that comes just because you made that step, and the amount

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of money did not matter.

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The reason that, and y'all know from having read this, that the money, that the actual

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amount was all about what that amount meant to you.

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Do you take $10 seriously or do you not?

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Do you take $2,000 seriously or do you not?

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It's all relative to you.

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You're trying to get your soul's attention.

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So when you are, but the important thing is that in moving forward with intention, we

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do it all from a place of rest, and you've already started that process.

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So we're going to continue that by me highly recommending to everyone, a very shocking

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thing, I highly recommend from experience with myself and with my clients to not take

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notes.

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So you will have the recordings, so you don't have to worry.

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It's all there.

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The reason why is you're, we are more than our mind.

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We're more than our, than what we can put through our brain.

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In fact, only 5% of our decisions, our activities, how we even send intention out into the world,

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only 5% of that actually scientists say, non-believing scientists say that goes through our brain.

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95% of our life and our decisions is driven by our subconscious.

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Our will is deeper than our mind.

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And that also means so that what that means is that there are, there's more to us than

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just what we can, that just what we can shovel and kind of funnel through, through our brain.

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And we're wanting to allow those other aspects of ourselves to have a part in our journey.

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They are all meant to function in a way that we don't consciously know how to direct them

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in, but they were created by God to function in a particular way.

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They know how to work.

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We don't, we don't know how they need to work.

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We need to let them be themselves and we need to allow our whole self, which is both, which

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is all spirit, soul, and body to have a part in the transition.

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So the aspect of not taking notes allows you to sit back and begin to practice receiving

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and allowing your soul and your spirit subconsciously to shift you into rest.

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Do you see how effortless it is?

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So it's not, we're not, we are not working hard so that we can finally rest.

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You can't have rest unless you rest.

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You can't have rest unless you stop.

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So that's what we're going to be talking about this whole weekend.

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Stop.

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Whatever you're doing, just stop.

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It's that easy because we're already everything we wanted to be.

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So I highly recommend that you don't take notes.

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You can do whatever you want.

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Some people can only pay attention if they're taking notes or, but I recommend you don't

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think about what you're writing.

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If you can just write just because you're listening to me and you're mindlessly writing,

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that's great.

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If you want to doodle, that's great.

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Highly recommend that whatever it is you do, you're not mentally engaging with it.

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That's the whole point.

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It's just allow, do whatever you need to do.

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Y'all are adults, free will beings, but that's what I would highly recommend.

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And that's one of the ways you can start practicing receiving.

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Jonathan, is this okay?

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I think it keeps changing the volume.

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So I'm wondering if I'm moving.

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Am I moving it?

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Are we good?

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Just your fluctuation.

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Okay, perfect.

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Just wanted to make sure.

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Okay, because remember, when we receive, the reason that we can receive is that there's

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nothing left to do.

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God's already died.

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He's already had the victory.

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He says that we're already one with him.

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We're already one with him in spirit.

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He says that we can't come to him by behavior.

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There's nothing left to do.

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So we just, we can receive everything.

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Another thing, how to receive some of the information that I'll be talking about.

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So some of it for, some of y'all have heard this before.

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Others of y'all have never heard it before.

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So I wanted to give y'all a recommendation of how to.

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Listen to new revelations from the Lord.

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I highly recommend, remember, you're not trying to be convinced by me.

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I am just up here telling you what I believe.

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I'm telling you how I live.

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I'm telling you what I've had to own in my life and what I literally live out, and it's transformed my life.

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You can choose to have part of it if you want, but you receive it from the Lord.

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You don't receive it from me.

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So when I'm talking, you just listen.

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What is your spirit saying?

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Where is your spirit coming alive?

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If your spirit comes alive, it means your spirit already knew that thing.

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You already knew it.

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It's between you and the Father, and you can 100% receive that revelation that the Lord is giving you in your spirit into yourself,

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because that will allow it to transform you.

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But if there's something that maybe I say and you're not really sure about that,

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I don't really know about that, I would highly recommend don't immediately reject it,

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because what that does is internally and spiritually we start shutting down, and that's an actual problem.

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What we want to do, this is what I recommend, is this is what I do.

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I have something that I call my Area 51 Warehouse,

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and when I hear something that I'm just not quite sure about,

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something that sounds a little out there, but I don't want to reject it, but I don't want to receive it,

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I just stick it in my Area 51 Warehouse and just tell the Lord,

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okay, Lord, you can pull it forward if ever it is time to reveal that to me,

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and I just am not currently ready to receive the truth.

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Maybe I don't have a grid for it, or maybe I'm not supposed to receive it at all.

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But right now, Lord, I can't figure it out.

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So I'm not going to reject it, but I'm not going to receive it either.

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So I'm just going to put it back there and just let it hang out.

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There's no problem with that.

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Then if God tells you something point blank in your spirit to reject, well, then that's different.

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But I wanted to mention about how I would recommend hearing people, not just me,

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just hearing people, coming across new ideas.

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There's a third option.

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We don't have to receive or reject.

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We can just kind of stick something back there, and you don't have to be worried

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that you could be threatened or corrupted by something that you hear here that you weren't quite sure about.

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All denominations are represented in this room.

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We have conservative, and then we have way out there, and we have everything in between.

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But what we're talking about when we're talking about rest is it's actually extremely foundational.

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It's the gospel.

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It's what we have as a result of the gospel.

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Therefore, it is for everyone.

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It is freely and effortlessly received by everyone.

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We're learning basically the building blocks from which to do everything else that we've been learning in life so far.

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So think of all of the other conferences that you've been through or sometimes you're a pastor or whatever,

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teachings, books that you've read.

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Some of those are like, think of it kind of like at the high school level or at the university level,

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the conferences that you're going to, things that you're trying to do with the Lord.

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We are going all the way back to kindergarten with this,

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because if you're frustrated with why you're hearing people that you highly respect,

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that you highly admire for what it is that they can do and have and be and experience in the Lord,

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and no matter how many years you've been in it, you can't seem to break through,

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there's something with that foundation.

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Go all the way back.

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Because everything, everything that we do, everything that all of those people talk about has to be done from rest.

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So if you're trying to implement it out of strife and get their same experiences out of strife, it won't work.

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They talk about rest, but so often people don't know, yeah, but how do I move into it?

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We'll be talking about how to move into it.

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So rest is actually very foundational.

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And once you get those building blocks in place and once you understand them, don't worry.

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We're not going all the way back to ground zero, scrapping all of this and starting over.

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We don't have to start over.

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We still have all of that, but now because we're getting a new foundation,

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now as the Lord will take us back to revisit all of these things, we will move very quickly.

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So I started to learn all of this when I was around 34 or 35, and I thought, oh my word.

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Once I got this new foundation, I thought, I'm going to have to learn everything all over again.

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I discovered I didn't.

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I was able to catch up really quickly, and then suddenly I took off.

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I had gotten to a point and I couldn't get past that point no matter how many years or decades that I spent on it.

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Finally, with that new foundation, I was able to come back up to that point and push past it.

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So we're just relaying a new foundation.

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We're learning how to read.

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So you can go to university.

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You can listen to a professor, talk to you about calculus.

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In the spirit and all kinds of stuff, but if you don't know how to read you can only go so far

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So that's what we're that's what we're going to do. It's very basic. Everything that we're talking about is our inheritance

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So it is something that you not only have a right to you already have

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We're just learning how to remove the layers that have kept us from understanding

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How to access it

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Okay, this is really important

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Okay, we'll be talking more about this, but I provide I try really

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My heart is to provide a very safe and supportive environment for people to be able to shift

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Because the what it is that we're going to be facing when we enter rest. We're going to be connecting with God

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That's where rest is rest is in God

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We haven't we haven't allowed ourselves to get close to him and it's because we're afraid of him

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So we're going to be removing that fear and we're going to be we're going to be experiencing God and we're going to be coming

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We're going to be entering him and then we're going to discover. Oh my word

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I was I was here, but I didn't realize that I was I was here

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So in order to do that, this is going to cut this is going to require some very serious choices

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So the phrase that I like to use is reckless abandon and I don't mean that I don't mean that gently

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It is as scary as all the power that you can think it is all the reasons why we've said no

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We have made our lives very complicated

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Trying to resist him and in all of that effort of saying no, that's how we built this up

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Remember that phrase remember the reckless abandon because that whenever you come up and up against an obstacle whenever you're afraid whenever you're scared

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You're more than welcome to let me know whenever that happens. I can walk you through it

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I have done it so many times over very extreme situations

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And remember in those times remember that phrase reckless abandon because that's what it requires

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And the fastest way that we can become like our father

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You know in in doing this in being like just recklessly abandoning ourselves to something

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The fastest way that we can actually become like our father is to start acting like him

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Not to learn about him

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Jump in before you know and figure it out on the ground

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And this is the last person in the world that I thought would ever tell you that I

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built my entire life

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Observing and waiting until everything was perfect before I would step in and so I got to a point where I was so desperate

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I realized nope, that's not going to work and I put everything on the line

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I put I literally put my life my family my relationships my

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relationship with God on the line in order to jump in because nothing was working and that's when I found the Lord and

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And in it did require that reckless abandon

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Okay, so I'm sorry. I want to try to make sure that hair stand off of that

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okay, so let me quickly go walk you through my

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Testimony really quick so I was I was very legalistic

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I did grow up in a charismatic home, but I was very legalistic. I took that on myself

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It was how I interpreted things it was

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It was some of the some of the school that I went to some of the some of the church that I was exposed to

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Certain things that I would hear someone say and I just interpreted it as very legalistic

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I read the Bible like that. So don't ask me how this worked, but I was a five-point Calvinist charismatic. I

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Don't know how that's possible. Yes

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How did what work oh

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Just said that well, there you get there you go. See you caught me there

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So the I don't know how it worked. That's the problem. That's why I'm I mean hi

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I got to the point I realized why isn't this working? Well, it doesn't so I

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Yes, it's very very legalistic. You understand you get things with five-point Calvinism are

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Are things like limited atonement only so many people can get saved

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And God God predestined them and you know, I don't know all kinds of things

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So I'm not I'm not talking about about whether those are right or wrong

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My point is just to mention those regardless of what it is that we believe even if you are a five-point Calvinist

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It is very extreme

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You know regardless of whether or not it's the truth. It is extreme. So I was extreme in everything

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but then I was also charismatic I

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Was baptized in the Holy Spirit when I was seven and so I started speaking in tongues

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And so I was saved on this for baptized in the Holy Spirit when I was seven baptized in water when I was nine

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But my life was very joyless, very joyless. It was very oppressed, and I didn't understand how I was supposed to—

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I didn't feel loved by God, and I didn't understand other people who liked being Christians.

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Now, I didn't tell anybody that, but that's what I was thinking. Also, I did not like Jesus.

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I really, really didn't like Jesus. God the Father was the one I would always focus on because he's the Father, and he makes all the rules.

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And that brought a lot of resentment. So that was where I came from.

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But, of course, you would never know that. I was a perfect little church girl and went to a very conservative Christian college.

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And finally, backtracking just a little bit to let you know what was going on in my professional life, because that plays into it.

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So I'm 36 now. At the time that the Lord brought me into this threshold, I was 34.

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It was December 2018, and I was 34 years old, and I had been a turnaround business consultant with my best friend who's here, so her and her husband.

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I was turning consultants with them. They hired me, trained me.

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And the things that you have to go through in that industry, especially the type of people that we wanted to help, it's very extreme.

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So a turnaround business consultant takes on a company that is either about to go bankrupt, and you're trying to save them the 11th hour, because that's when they find you is in the 11th hour,

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or they've already settled for bankruptcy, and then they save turnaround consultants to grow them very radically so that they won't be like that again,

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or you're taking a company that's local and couldn't break through the glass ceiling into national, and you help them finally break through.

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Point in explaining that, it's extreme. It's beyond normal business consulting.

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It was fire all day, every day. Everybody that you work with, all of your friends and colleagues, all of their lives and their families,

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livelihoods are on the line for decisions that you are making like that, and I burnt out.

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So I burnt out personally because of how I was living my life. I felt that I was constantly oppressed, that God at least needed something from me,

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that it was about my behavior, not about who it is that I was. It's all about what it is that I did and didn't do.

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So I burnt out obviously in that, spiritually as well, and then as you can tell, I burnt out professionally,

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and I burnt out in all three of those areas multiple times, multiple times in my life,

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because I'm one of those people that drive so hard, I literally will drive to death, physical death.

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Physically, and in my professional life, I will risk whatever is necessary to do what I think is right,

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not what necessarily is right, but whatever it is that I'm thinking must be right.

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I will run everything into the ground, sacrifice everything, relationships.

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It was very, very extreme, so I was absolutely exhausted.

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December 2018, I had all of these dreams that I had built up for 34 years, and I just thought,

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oh, if I just endure, if I had faith, if I just keep doing the right thing, what I thought was the right thing,

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then finally I would get my reward.

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So December 2018, I was hit with the realization, something happened, I was triggered,

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and I realized that people around me had been given all, not some, literally all of the dreams

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and all of the gifts that I had ever asked God for, all of them.

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All of the people around me received all the dreams, and I didn't receive one, not even one, nothing, and I had it.

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And I had struggled with depression and PTSD when I was in college and then out of college for about seven years.

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Anxiety, you know, would hyperventilate, have terrible, terrible demonic nightmares,

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and I struggled with all of that for about seven years.

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Finally, thankfully, the Lord healed me and saved me from all of that,

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but I'd been healed from that for quite a while by the time I hit 34.

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So when I hit 34 and I was triggered again, I went down to suicide level again,

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because I'd been at suicide level back then.

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I went down to suicide level in hours.

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to suicidal in hours because my brain you know my emotions knew that path it

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was very very familiar so I had I realized I remember standing in my

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bathroom yeah I think it was December 27th 2018 and it was like I saw this

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open vision I had been literally crying for almost 48 hours my eyes were so

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swollen that they almost couldn't open and and I I was just I was plummeting

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fast and I saw it's like I saw this this vision or something it was like I could

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see myself outside of myself and I was and I was spiraling down and and and I

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was just feeling my soul just fall into the suicidal depression and and I and I

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thought okay Ashley you've been there before you've been in that pit now yes

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God is there God is that the low because I had been at what God told me was the

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lowest point that a human could get he said Ashley I was I remember I was down

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on my knees I was just I was just exhausted and God said Ashley when

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people lose spouses or children this is where they go he said this is as low as

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a human being can go and he said and he gave me a promise he said I promise you

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will never be here again but you've got to get out of this and you've got to

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choose me so all that I chose was that he was real I didn't even choose that he

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was good I just chose he was real and so that happened like 12 years ago or

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whatever so by the time that I'm now in this place where I'm watching myself

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spiral down again I'm thinking okay I've been there before and I am NOT

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going back because I can hear God there because God's everywhere so I know he's

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in that deep dark pit but it's really hard for me to hear him down there and to

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have the courage to make the choice that I need to I know that I'm going to but

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good night I don't want to go through that hell right because that it does

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that feels like hell right there so I what I did is I made a choice very an

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intentional decision that power of intention we'll be talking about that on

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Sunday and I reached out with my hand not literally with my hand but it's like

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I could see in this vision that this hand went out from me and I chose to

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grab myself up by the scruff of my neck and yank myself up and internally I felt

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my soul rise I'm like okay all right so that was a close one so I was actually

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spiritually doing that to my soul it's very very interesting I was very

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interesting experience I've never interacted with a vision before but hey

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you know when you're in that situation you don't question it all I knew is that

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I had made a choice I'd made a very powerful choice to save myself and so I

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then told the Lord okay God all I know is that everything that I have done so

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far in life hasn't worked nothing has worked I believed that your that your

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pleasure came through my through everyone's spiritual maturity so your

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pleasure came through my spiritual maturity more spiritually mature I

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became the more you were pleased with me and my spiritual maturity came through

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pain I thought that that's how we got spiritual maturity the more pain you go

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through the more spiritually mature you become and the more pleased God is with

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you so so that meant that I saw pain the higher the pain the greater God's

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pleasure very twisted idea of who it is that God is but I because I believed that

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the higher the pain the more God's pleasure I embraced pain when it came to

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me I didn't just I didn't just deal with it I embraced it and took it into

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me I made it harder and then if enough pain didn't come my way I would seek it

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out and create it because I'm trying so very hard to please my God so very hard

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to get close to him so I told God this is what I've been doing so far and Lord

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whenever I've made a decision I would not move forward or backward unless I

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heard your voice when we forward or backward unless she told me so and then

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unless somebody came to me and I absolutely had to do make a decision

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right then and then the way I would make a decision is okay what is it that I

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want to do then I won't do that one what is it that I not wanted that I don't

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want to do this one so this is the one I'm gonna do so I always did what I

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didn't want to do and would never allow myself to do what I wanted this is who I

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thought God was so this is that this is who God has saved me from so like I said

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in in that December I told God okay none of that worked but I don't know

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what does so until you show me I'm asking that you show me what really does

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work but until you show that to me I'm going to start doing the opposite of

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what I've done in life so far I'm gonna start living the opposite of what it is

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that I've lived so I thought okay well what would the opposite be because I'm

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not gonna walk away from God because you know I've chosen him so what am I

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gonna do and then I thought okay my decisions I'm not gonna do whatever I

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if I'm gonna do it that's what I'm gonna do so I started making decisions and

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that's when I found my God and I was so weird I still remember exactly where I

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was sitting where where my spirit or soul moved or something I made a

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decision God this is what I'm gonna do and then my insight my soul moved and it

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could breathe my spirit could breathe and I thought there's my God

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my word. I've been looking for him for 34 years. Then about six months later, I

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heard the gospel for the first time in a very transformative way. Obviously, I was

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saved when I was four, but I heard about it in such a way that when I interacted

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with the gospel in this way, when I interacted with Christ in this way, I

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finally felt that huge transformation that you hear about in other people's

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testimonies, you know, where they were like drug addicts and then they have

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this like moment of blinding light and whatever. And then they just

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immediately left their drugs. They had this epiphany. They had

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this ecstasy feeling. I thought, what must that be like? It's like everything turned

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into technicolor in their lives. I thought, that must be wonderful. But I was four and I

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don't feel any different. In fact, I don't like being a Christian. So what is all

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that about? I discovered what that was about. So some people remember their

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salvation date. My salvation date was July 11th, 2019, because that is when I

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found my God. So I listened to the gospel from a man that I'll be

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teaching a lot of my stuff from, Chris Blackaby. A lot of you know him. And I'd

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heard his message on YouTube. Didn't know a thing about him, just clicked on it.

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And he started talking about the gospel. And I told the Lord, I

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remember pausing it at one point, and I told God, I could just, I don't know, it's

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like my spirit could just sense him here. And so I talked to him and said, God, I'm about to

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go into that. And I don't know if it's right or wrong. I don't know if you

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created a relationship with you to look like that or not. All I know is that

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nothing else that I've done so far has worked. And that sounds wonderful. It

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sounds wonderful and absolutely perfect if a relationship with you could look

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like that. So I am choosing Lord, you know, before I wouldn't move forward or

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backward unless the Lord said, I didn't do that this time. I told the Lord, I'm

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gonna go into it. After I go into it, if I'm wrong, you can correct me. But I told,

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and I'm not recommending that you talk to God like that. But you know, we all have

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said things to the Lord in very desperate moments, and he's a big

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God. He can handle it. But I told him, I said, I'm going, I wasn't disrespectful, but I

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was very serious. I'm gonna go into that, and then if I'm wrong, Lord, you can

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correct me when I'm in it. So I jumped in with both feet. That's another thing

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that we're gonna be talking a lot about this weekend. It has to be all

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chipped in. That reckless abandon. None of this, oh, I'm gonna test this out. It

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won't work. I promise you it will not work. But I jumped a hundred percent in,

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and I was like, oh my word, this is God. I, this is the God that other people talk

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about. This is the God that people die in Colosseums and facing a lion for. I

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did not understand that until that time. So we'll be talking, so before we

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even talk about rest, we'll be talking about the gospel. But it's in a very

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different way than some of you have ever heard. Some of you have heard

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Chris Backeby, and then others who teach like him, who have understood that

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message from our Father. But for some of you, it might be very, very new, and it

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is completely, completely transforming. So then the Lord just has just walked me

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through a time where he was just teaching me what it is that, who it is

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that I was, how to operate in from this new place, with this new understanding of

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my identity in Christ, as to, based on this new gospel that I now had. And then

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I then, I then had to take it into other areas of my life, including my business.

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Okay, now I was a turnaround business consultant, but I was feeling that the

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Lord wanted me to do something different. What is this thing in me that

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needs to come out? So over about a year, year and a half, and the reason I'm going

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into this detail is for those of you who are holding on to a frustrated dream of

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like business or something else, that you feel something's inside of you, and it's

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frustrating that it's taking so long. Sometimes it just takes a long time. And

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my year and a half was, oh my word, that was so pressurized. It was very, very, very

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fast. And anyway, so about a year, year and a half, it took me for the Lord to

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finally begin to articulate, Ashley, what I have been teaching you about for years

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is rest. So remember what I said, that when you go back to your foundation, how

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you now see all of your life through a different paradigm. God didn't, God didn't

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obliterate everything it is that I had learned, everything it is that I

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experienced and accomplished, as if, oh well, that doesn't mean anything. You know,

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let's start all over, because that was just trash. God's like, no, no, no. Now let's

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just see it through a totally different way. And, and so he then began to show me,

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Ashley, I've been teaching you about rest, but you were doing it out of strife. You

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were trying to get the results that you were, that you were getting in life. You

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need to stop trying, because it's who you are, and it needs, and you need to let, you

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need to stop and finally let it out. So that is very, very brief testimony of my

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36 years with the Lord.

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But I'm very grateful to finally be in this place and to have received from the Lord the message of rest

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because it's transformed my life. It is, like I said, it's the basis from which we do everything else.

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So after this, you can go to all these other conferences and learn all of these different things

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about how to experience God this way or how to learn more about God in this way

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or how to be intimate with the Lord in this way.

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But you have to do it all from a place of rest or none of it will work.

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Or it can't be sustained. You might get glimpses of it, but it can't be sustained unless it's in rest.

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So what actually is rest?

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So rest is actually not inactivity, and it's not the absence of unpleasant circumstances.

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Rest is actually abiding in God. It's actually a place. That place is God himself.

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We are in him. We abide in him. So when we're in that place, we're in rest.

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And so rest is actually a place in God in which we are allowing him to be

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or understanding and acknowledging the fact that he is the source of everything in our life.

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He is the source of how we get our protection, our provision, our identity,

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the fact that we feel loved, liked, and comforted.

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The reason I point all those out are, and we'll be talking about that in a second,

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is actually that is where mother and father wounds stem from.

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Father wounds stem from issues that we've had with the masculine in our lives

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that can come from either a man or a woman.

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Typically, though, obviously it'll come from a man.

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Usually it'll come from a father, which is why it's called a father wound.

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But it's from the masculine, and the masculine is meant to help someone else understand

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that they're protected, provided for, and identified.

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And if they don't have that, and then they now suffer traumas and are coping

427
00:32:03.000 --> 00:32:07.000
and come up with all kinds of coping mechanisms as a result of it, it's called a father wound.

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00:32:07.000 --> 00:32:12.000
Mother wound is the other aspect of the father, other aspects that he provides.

429
00:32:12.000 --> 00:32:21.000
And it is where, a mother wound is where we have a lack in our lives of understanding

430
00:32:21.000 --> 00:32:25.000
that we are loved, liked, and can expect to be comforted.

431
00:32:25.000 --> 00:32:30.000
So if we have that, well then we can develop what's called a mother wound.

432
00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:33.000
We have all these traumas, and then that will manifest itself in particular ways,

433
00:32:33.000 --> 00:32:37.000
and we end up coping and using all kinds of things.

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00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:44.000
I'll mention some very specific things in just a second that are indicative of mother wounds

435
00:32:44.000 --> 00:32:47.000
and other things that are indicative of a father wound.

436
00:32:47.000 --> 00:32:50.000
But the whole point of all of this is to help us understand,

437
00:32:50.000 --> 00:32:54.000
to get some kind of a physical foothold of things in our lives that are going on

438
00:32:54.000 --> 00:32:57.000
and understanding it's not our father and our mother.

439
00:32:57.000 --> 00:33:01.000
The issue is we projected those things onto God, and that's how we interact with Him.

440
00:33:01.000 --> 00:33:05.000
So we have this father wound with God, or this mother wound with God,

441
00:33:05.000 --> 00:33:08.000
and that is what we need to overcome.

442
00:33:08.000 --> 00:33:15.000
We need to understand that we have not been given a very, have received a very clear picture

443
00:33:15.000 --> 00:33:19.000
in reality of who it is that God actually is.

444
00:33:19.000 --> 00:33:27.000
So rest is understanding that He is actually allowing him, not understanding.

445
00:33:27.000 --> 00:33:32.000
It's allowing him to be the source from which we receive all of those things

446
00:33:32.000 --> 00:33:35.000
and being the source of everything that happens in your life.

447
00:33:35.000 --> 00:33:42.000
Your clients, who you get, your business, your dreams, your heart's desires,

448
00:33:42.000 --> 00:33:50.000
your relationships with other people, your finances, everything needs to come from God,

449
00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:55.000
not by us working for it, thinking God has left us abandoned and alone,

450
00:33:55.000 --> 00:34:00.000
and that He's going to come back one day making sure that we got it right,

451
00:34:00.000 --> 00:34:06.000
that it's all on us, and that we have to carry that burden and that weight of that responsibility,

452
00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:13.000
because it's not. The Lord is the one that we need to rely on to provide for all those things.

453
00:34:13.000 --> 00:34:16.000
We'll be walking into that about how to literally, practically do that,

454
00:34:16.000 --> 00:34:21.000
because I have to live it, so I want to explain it to y'all about how you can live it that way too.

455
00:34:21.000 --> 00:34:28.000
So rest, why are we not in rest? Rest is actually our natural state.

456
00:34:29.000 --> 00:34:33.000
So to not be in rest is not natural for a son of God.

457
00:34:33.000 --> 00:34:39.000
So what is it that we're doing? We're actually in a constant state of resistance.

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I'll be drawing some visuals later to help us understand, but we're in a constant state of resistance.

459
00:34:45.000 --> 00:34:47.000
If you're not in rest, you're in resistance.

460
00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:51.000
You're actively doing something. You're not passively doing something.

461
00:34:51.000 --> 00:34:54.000
You are actively doing something.

462
00:34:54.000 --> 00:34:58.000
Now you may not be conscious of it, but we are resisting.

463
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.600
be going through, you'll come up against hurdles.

464
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And I want to walk you all through those.

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00:35:05.600 --> 00:35:07.440
So feel free to let me know when you run up

466
00:35:07.440 --> 00:35:09.520
against one of those and can't seem to go through.

467
00:35:09.520 --> 00:35:13.440
Because I can work with you to help identify that that is

468
00:35:13.440 --> 00:35:15.400
actually resistance.

469
00:35:15.400 --> 00:35:17.160
Because it feels like I'm doing everything

470
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and I can't go any further.

471
00:35:18.440 --> 00:35:19.740
You know, I'm not doing this, Ashley.

472
00:35:19.740 --> 00:35:20.240
I'm trying.

473
00:35:20.240 --> 00:35:21.400
I want this.

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00:35:21.400 --> 00:35:22.920
No, we're resisting.

475
00:35:22.920 --> 00:35:25.760
And to help us identify deep down where that resistance is

476
00:35:25.760 --> 00:35:27.240
coming from.

477
00:35:27.240 --> 00:35:29.960
So if we're not in rest, we're actually in resistance.

478
00:35:29.960 --> 00:35:32.320
And we're resisting God.

479
00:35:32.320 --> 00:35:37.400
If rest is in God, and we're not feeling at rest,

480
00:35:37.400 --> 00:35:39.120
it means we're in resistance against him.

481
00:35:39.120 --> 00:35:42.560
Why would we be in resistance against God?

482
00:35:42.560 --> 00:35:45.480
Because we don't feel safe with him.

483
00:35:45.480 --> 00:35:47.040
And why don't we feel safe with him?

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00:35:47.040 --> 00:35:48.800
We don't feel loved.

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00:35:48.800 --> 00:35:52.920
We don't feel provided for, protected, identified, loved,

486
00:35:52.920 --> 00:35:55.400
liked, or able to be comforted.

487
00:35:55.400 --> 00:35:57.760
And so we're in a constant state of resistance.

488
00:35:57.760 --> 00:35:58.920
We want to keep him at bay.

489
00:35:58.920 --> 00:36:00.080
We want to learn about him.

490
00:36:00.080 --> 00:36:01.440
And we want to get close to him.

491
00:36:01.440 --> 00:36:02.880
We want to feel him.

492
00:36:02.880 --> 00:36:04.800
But we don't want to move into him.

493
00:36:04.800 --> 00:36:06.920
And we don't want him to move into us.

494
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Because it's very, very vulnerable.

495
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And we have to overcome that.

496
00:36:11.960 --> 00:36:16.680
So that is the state that we're actually in.

497
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But I want to make sure to constantly layer

498
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in lots of encouragement in here.

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Excuse me.

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You are actually in a state of rest.

501
00:36:28.000 --> 00:36:30.480
You're just not aware of it.

502
00:36:30.480 --> 00:36:33.920
So we are trying to move our soul to the point

503
00:36:33.920 --> 00:36:37.680
where it stops resisting because our spirit's already in rest.

504
00:36:37.680 --> 00:36:38.960
It is already who you are.

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00:36:38.960 --> 00:36:41.560
That's why you have permission to move into it.

506
00:36:41.560 --> 00:36:46.400
You're not going to be doing something or becoming

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00:36:46.400 --> 00:36:49.840
something this weekend or from this message of rest

508
00:36:49.840 --> 00:36:51.360
that you're not already.

509
00:36:51.360 --> 00:36:56.200
You're going to realize that you are and choose to stand in it.

510
00:36:56.200 --> 00:36:57.360
That's all we're doing.

511
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You already have it.

512
00:36:58.840 --> 00:37:00.720
You're not gaining anything.

513
00:37:00.720 --> 00:37:03.320
Because God's already given you everything.

514
00:37:03.320 --> 00:37:05.400
You're not becoming something different.

515
00:37:05.400 --> 00:37:07.160
You don't have to change.

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00:37:07.160 --> 00:37:09.360
You're everything you've ever wanted to be.

517
00:37:09.360 --> 00:37:10.920
You were all of those commandments

518
00:37:10.920 --> 00:37:12.280
that Jesus told us to be.

519
00:37:12.280 --> 00:37:14.000
You're everything in the Ten Commandments,

520
00:37:14.000 --> 00:37:16.560
everything on the Sermon on the Mount,

521
00:37:16.560 --> 00:37:18.480
all of the edifications, all the encouragements,

522
00:37:18.480 --> 00:37:19.320
all the whatever.

523
00:37:19.320 --> 00:37:23.760
Those are actually descriptions of your character.

524
00:37:23.760 --> 00:37:25.880
But we don't believe that that is.

525
00:37:25.880 --> 00:37:27.360
And whatever it is that we believe

526
00:37:27.360 --> 00:37:28.840
is what has power in our lives.

527
00:37:28.840 --> 00:37:31.280
So we've got to shift our belief to actually believing

528
00:37:31.280 --> 00:37:34.680
that whatever God says about us is true.

529
00:37:34.680 --> 00:37:39.880
So when I was first learning, well,

530
00:37:39.880 --> 00:37:41.720
let me go back really quick.

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00:37:41.720 --> 00:37:43.880
So the reason why we don't feel safe with God

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00:37:43.880 --> 00:37:47.160
is we don't want to receive his love.

533
00:37:47.160 --> 00:37:50.360
It feels very, very dangerous, especially those of you

534
00:37:50.360 --> 00:37:53.200
who are married or those of you who have been married.

535
00:37:53.200 --> 00:37:57.280
You understand that love is a very, very vulnerable thing.

536
00:37:57.280 --> 00:37:59.200
You have to be vulnerable in order

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00:37:59.200 --> 00:38:01.440
to give and to receive love.

538
00:38:01.440 --> 00:38:03.960
So if you don't feel safe, you're

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00:38:03.960 --> 00:38:05.280
going to keep it at a distance.

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And you can't.

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00:38:07.840 --> 00:38:10.040
And you're not allowing the other one

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to love you if you're keeping them at a distance.

543
00:38:12.120 --> 00:38:13.120
So we're in resistance.

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And we're not able to receive or accept and move into God's love.

545
00:38:17.400 --> 00:38:19.480
But actually, what it is that we've chosen

546
00:38:19.480 --> 00:38:22.640
is, just like Brennan Manning says,

547
00:38:22.640 --> 00:38:25.000
so Brennan Manning was a man that God first

548
00:38:25.000 --> 00:38:29.440
introduced the extremity of his love to me through.

549
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And he talks about the fact that Christianity

550
00:38:33.320 --> 00:38:35.520
is not an ethical code.

551
00:38:35.520 --> 00:38:37.360
It's not a moral ethical code.

552
00:38:37.360 --> 00:38:40.160
It's actually a love affair.

553
00:38:40.160 --> 00:38:43.120
What it is that we've chosen, when we chose God,

554
00:38:43.120 --> 00:38:45.120
we didn't choose a religion.

555
00:38:45.120 --> 00:38:46.280
We didn't choose a faith.

556
00:38:46.280 --> 00:38:49.720
We did not choose something to believe in.

557
00:38:49.720 --> 00:38:54.400
We didn't choose a group or an organization

558
00:38:54.400 --> 00:39:00.960
to be a part of, to make us even get a sense of our world.

559
00:39:00.960 --> 00:39:03.760
We actually chose a husband.

560
00:39:03.760 --> 00:39:05.720
We chose a being to be united with

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00:39:05.720 --> 00:39:08.760
in the whole rest of our lives, everybody,

562
00:39:08.760 --> 00:39:13.120
the people that you've married, the businesses that you have,

563
00:39:13.120 --> 00:39:15.840
the decisions that you've made in life, where it is that you

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00:39:15.840 --> 00:39:17.140
go, how it is that you journey.

565
00:39:17.140 --> 00:39:21.860
All of that is for the purpose of directing and guiding

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00:39:21.860 --> 00:39:24.220
the development of our relationship with God.

567
00:39:24.220 --> 00:39:26.060
That is the whole point of everything,

568
00:39:26.060 --> 00:39:28.540
is the development of relationship.

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And so Christianity is actually a love affair.

570
00:39:31.740 --> 00:39:35.020
It is our love affair with a being.

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And so we have to allow that being.

572
00:39:37.420 --> 00:39:39.460
He's not there giving us lists, not there

573
00:39:39.460 --> 00:39:41.220
giving us 10 commandments.

574
00:39:41.220 --> 00:39:44.620
He's there trying to say, I want to show you who I am.

575
00:39:44.620 --> 00:39:47.300
I want you to know my favorite color.

576
00:39:47.300 --> 00:39:52.140
I want you to know how to, I want you to feel me.

577
00:39:52.140 --> 00:39:55.260
I want to feel you.

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00:39:55.260 --> 00:39:58.140
I want to be affected by you.

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00:39:58.140 --> 00:40:01.340
I don't just want you to be affected.

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00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.860
by me. I went to be affected by you. I created you so I could be affected by

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00:40:04.860 --> 00:40:15.220
you. It's very, very, very powerful. So we have a little, so, so very backwards, I

582
00:40:15.220 --> 00:40:19.140
did, so very, very backwards, and it made life so hard because it's actually not

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00:40:19.140 --> 00:40:23.740
the way that it, that it is. Everything is, everything that the Lord is, is

584
00:40:23.740 --> 00:40:29.500
beautiful, is good, is love, and it's freedom. All of your trials and all of

585
00:40:29.500 --> 00:40:34.660
your struggles are actually thresholds that God is using as an invitation. Okay,

586
00:40:34.660 --> 00:40:39.420
you know, I can, I would love and accept you unconditionally right here, but

587
00:40:39.420 --> 00:40:44.580
wouldn't you like more love and freedom? That's what your trial is. The trial is

588
00:40:44.580 --> 00:40:49.180
an invitation. It's not a test of, okay, you know, I've been teaching you all

589
00:40:49.180 --> 00:40:53.020
these years. Let's see what you know. Let's see if you pass this test. That's

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00:40:53.020 --> 00:40:57.020
not what God's asking. God is saying, you know, I know you're going through a hard

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00:40:57.020 --> 00:41:04.460
time. I want, I want you to know you have this choice. Do you want to move into

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00:41:04.460 --> 00:41:08.860
more love and freedom? Because this will enable you to cross that threshold. Do

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00:41:08.860 --> 00:41:13.700
you want to choose that or not? If you don't choose that, that's fine, but this

594
00:41:13.700 --> 00:41:19.020
is an invitation. What are you going to do? It's not a sinner in the hand of an angry

595
00:41:19.020 --> 00:41:24.620
God. He's not looking at us, you know, just like, you know, like the school

596
00:41:24.620 --> 00:41:29.540
master or this, you know, this, this business master. Okay, you know, here's

597
00:41:29.540 --> 00:41:33.780
your test. What are you going to do about it? And holding us accountable to it, he's

598
00:41:33.780 --> 00:41:37.420
saying, no, no, no, I'm inviting you. Wouldn't you like to move into more love

599
00:41:37.420 --> 00:41:41.980
and freedom? Wouldn't you like to experience more of this? Okay, so let's

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00:41:41.980 --> 00:41:47.380
look at some scripture references really quick. We're not going to be looking at

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it up on the screen for just a second. I'm just going to say them really fast.

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00:41:50.860 --> 00:41:56.380
So when God loves us in a variety of ways, he loves us very tenderly, which is

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00:41:56.380 --> 00:42:02.060
what we're very used to. We're used to that, the lamb and the

604
00:42:02.060 --> 00:42:09.900
shepherd and the child, the parents, and it's all very nice because it's safe. But

605
00:42:09.900 --> 00:42:14.060
what about the other aspects of God's love that he talks about in scripture? So

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00:42:14.060 --> 00:42:19.020
in Hosea 2.6, I want to talk about the intimacy that he talks about really

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00:42:19.020 --> 00:42:23.380
quick. In that day, declares the Lord, you will call me my husband. That doesn't

608
00:42:23.380 --> 00:42:27.580
sound like a parent to me. It doesn't sound like a shepherd. In that day, you will

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00:42:27.580 --> 00:42:33.500
call me my husband. You will no longer call me my master. In Song of Solomon 4.9,

610
00:42:33.500 --> 00:42:38.580
it says, you have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride. You have stolen my heart

611
00:42:38.580 --> 00:42:44.300
with one glance of your eyes. God said that. We didn't ask him to say that. That

612
00:42:44.300 --> 00:42:48.740
was him voluntarily giving something of himself to us. Then in Song of Solomon

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00:42:48.740 --> 00:42:54.860
6.5, it says, turn your eyes from me. They overwhelm me. That is how we affect God.

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00:42:54.860 --> 00:42:59.380
So he had just said, you've stolen my heart, my sister, my bride. You've stolen

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00:42:59.380 --> 00:43:04.780
my heart with one glance of your eyes. Then he says, turn your eyes from me. They

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00:43:04.780 --> 00:43:11.180
overwhelm me. You affect the Lord like that. You have permission to step into

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00:43:11.180 --> 00:43:18.340
that love because he's affected by you and he desires you. He created what he

618
00:43:18.340 --> 00:43:25.020
would desire. We have power over God's heart because he gave it and what that

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00:43:25.020 --> 00:43:30.620
means is he had to put himself in a vulnerable position to do so. He made, the

620
00:43:30.620 --> 00:43:37.660
God of the universe made himself vulnerable to you as an individual. So

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00:43:37.660 --> 00:43:42.820
he does have, he does have that tender love. He does have love like friends. He

622
00:43:42.820 --> 00:43:46.620
has the love like parent to a child, but he also has a very wild and

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00:43:46.620 --> 00:43:50.780
compassionate love. The reason I want to bring that up is it's very forceful, it's

624
00:43:50.780 --> 00:43:54.820
very strong, and that's what we're afraid of. But that is the highest form of

625
00:43:54.820 --> 00:43:59.580
intimacy with God. So if all we want to be settled with is the five-year-old

626
00:43:59.580 --> 00:44:03.180
Sunday school version of, you know, a shepherd and a lamb, that's all we're

627
00:44:03.180 --> 00:44:08.220
going to get of God. And there's a lot of distance there. Yes, we all had to

628
00:44:08.220 --> 00:44:12.700
start there. So that's fine. There's nothing wrong with that. And there's still

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00:44:12.700 --> 00:44:16.540
aspects, no matter how mature that we get, where God still interacts with us as a

630
00:44:16.540 --> 00:44:20.620
shepherd and a lamb. But there are other aspects that we're wanting to move

631
00:44:20.620 --> 00:44:26.300
into intimacy with the Lord that can only be had between a husband and a

632
00:44:26.300 --> 00:44:35.180
bride, and they can only be had with that intimacy. So if we look in Song of

633
00:44:35.180 --> 00:44:42.220
Solomon, it talks about the fact that, so this is a very interesting subject for

634
00:44:42.220 --> 00:44:46.860
me to have to talk about, excuse me, because most people are just like, oh

635
00:44:46.860 --> 00:44:50.580
okay, okay, I got it. And then other people, it's really bothered, so I

636
00:44:50.580 --> 00:44:53.900
try to be very careful with it. But hey, it's in the Bible. And that's the fact

637
00:44:53.900 --> 00:45:01.500
that in Song of Solomon, we can see that actually our

638
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:08.000
The picture that God has put on earth of our interaction with him is as lovers.

639
00:45:08.000 --> 00:45:13.000
The most intimate way that we can be connected with God is as lovers.

640
00:45:13.000 --> 00:45:15.000
So, as a husband and a wife.

641
00:45:15.000 --> 00:45:21.000
And that means that, as you can read in the Beloved and the Lover talking to each other

642
00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:25.000
Talking to each other in the Song of Solomon.

643
00:45:40.000 --> 00:45:45.000
So, the fact that with a husband and wife, if we're looking at the Beloved and the Lover and how they talk to each other,

644
00:45:45.000 --> 00:45:53.000
you can tell that, by their language, God created us to be sexually aroused by us.

645
00:45:53.000 --> 00:45:55.000
Now, bear with me for just a second.

646
00:45:55.000 --> 00:45:59.000
We're not talking about earthly sexual arousal.

647
00:45:59.000 --> 00:46:07.000
Sexual arousal is the type and shadow on this earth of something that we don't even have a grid for in the Spirit.

648
00:46:07.000 --> 00:46:09.000
So, let's not all get caught up with,

649
00:46:09.000 --> 00:46:13.000
wait a minute, so what are you saying, that God wants to, no, no.

650
00:46:13.000 --> 00:46:19.000
That's an early picture that kind of gives us some ideas, because of how physical anatomy works and whatever.

651
00:46:19.000 --> 00:46:23.000
What our interaction with the Lord looks like in the Spirit.

652
00:46:23.000 --> 00:46:24.000
So, think of it kind of like this.

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00:46:24.000 --> 00:46:32.000
Think of the grid that a baby would have for being able to understand the consummation in a marriage between a man and a woman.

654
00:46:32.000 --> 00:46:33.000
No grid.

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00:46:34.000 --> 00:46:44.000
I mean, how much logic has to develop spiritually, mentally, emotionally, logically, whatever, to be able to get to that point?

656
00:46:44.000 --> 00:46:47.000
There's decades in order to get to that point.

657
00:46:47.000 --> 00:46:56.000
That is how it is with us trying to compare the consummation of marriage between a man and a woman and what God actually means.

658
00:46:57.000 --> 00:47:03.000
So, break the shock value off of yourself for just a second.

659
00:47:03.000 --> 00:47:12.000
It's not what God doesn't mean literally, but he's using that as a type and a shadow so that we can look at these pictures,

660
00:47:12.000 --> 00:47:19.000
look at the interaction and be able to understand what we can expect and what we should desire out of a type of intimacy with him.

661
00:47:19.000 --> 00:47:25.000
Now, it requires a vulnerability on both sides.

662
00:47:25.000 --> 00:47:29.000
Intimacy between a man and a woman requires a vulnerability on both sides.

663
00:47:29.000 --> 00:47:32.000
It's very extreme.

664
00:47:32.000 --> 00:47:34.000
It's not just physical vulnerability.

665
00:47:34.000 --> 00:47:36.000
We're all very aware of that.

666
00:47:36.000 --> 00:47:37.000
It's not just physical vulnerability.

667
00:47:37.000 --> 00:47:43.000
There's obviously the taking off of garments, etc., but it's more than that.

668
00:47:43.000 --> 00:47:46.000
You have to be emotionally vulnerable.

669
00:47:46.000 --> 00:47:50.000
So, this goes back to the mother wound and the father wound.

670
00:47:50.000 --> 00:47:56.000
This is the part in this teaching that I like to bring this up because it really helps to drive some things home.

671
00:48:06.000 --> 00:48:13.000
It's easy to understand why somebody who's not married might struggle with certain addictions because we would think in the physical,

672
00:48:13.000 --> 00:48:18.000
well, there's no place for them to be able to express themselves in their need or whatever.

673
00:48:18.000 --> 00:48:23.000
But then when they get married, why do people still struggle with those types of addictions, still sexual addictions?

674
00:48:23.000 --> 00:48:26.000
Because it's not just the physical intimacy.

675
00:48:26.000 --> 00:48:29.000
It's the emotional vulnerability that's required.

676
00:48:29.000 --> 00:48:36.000
So, if there's still a struggle, it means that there's a lack of emotional vulnerability to some degree.

677
00:48:36.000 --> 00:48:45.000
So, the two examples that I want to give, usually an addiction like pornography will come out of a mother wound.

678
00:48:46.000 --> 00:48:51.000
This belief that we're not loved, liked, or can expect to be comforted, and it's a form of self-comfort.

679
00:48:51.000 --> 00:48:55.000
And the reason for that is there's distance because there's no one else involved.

680
00:48:55.000 --> 00:49:01.000
Because they don't like to be emotionally vulnerable.

681
00:49:01.000 --> 00:49:02.000
They don't feel safe.

682
00:49:02.000 --> 00:49:04.000
And so, they can't do that with their spouse.

683
00:49:04.000 --> 00:49:10.000
So, that's why you can be married and still struggle with some of these addictions because the physical isn't the problem.

684
00:49:10.000 --> 00:49:21.000
So, then on the other side, a father wound is what can actually end up dealing, people who deal with father wounds can end up in homosexuality.

685
00:49:21.000 --> 00:49:24.000
And that, yes, that is both gay and lesbian.

686
00:49:24.000 --> 00:49:25.000
It's both.

687
00:49:25.000 --> 00:49:28.000
And I've actually heard that from someone who used to be homosexual.

688
00:49:28.000 --> 00:49:30.000
They said that it doesn't matter what gender.

689
00:49:30.000 --> 00:49:36.000
It comes from a father wound because fathers identify us.

690
00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:41.000
It is by the masculine that we come to know who it is that we are.

691
00:49:41.000 --> 00:49:48.000
Protection, provision, and identity comes from the masculine, love, like, and the expectation to be able to be comforted.

692
00:49:48.000 --> 00:49:50.000
The nurturing aspect comes from a mother.

693
00:49:50.000 --> 00:50:00.000
So, I wanted to point out, the reason I wanted to point out those two perversions is there is a, we need to see that all of these things are types and shadows.

694
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.720
So many times, especially non-believers don't understand,

695
00:50:02.720 --> 00:50:04.360
well, why is all of that wrong?

696
00:50:04.360 --> 00:50:06.680
Because it's a type and a shadow

697
00:50:06.680 --> 00:50:08.200
of what is happening in the spirit,

698
00:50:08.200 --> 00:50:10.280
and that's a very serious thing.

699
00:50:10.280 --> 00:50:11.920
So in not having emotion,

700
00:50:11.920 --> 00:50:14.480
or not allowing ourselves to be emotionally vulnerable

701
00:50:14.480 --> 00:50:16.320
with the Lord, we'll come to the Lord and say,

702
00:50:16.320 --> 00:50:18.520
okay, God, I'm here.

703
00:50:18.520 --> 00:50:21.400
I'm here in my quiet time, and why aren't you meeting me?

704
00:50:21.400 --> 00:50:22.840
Well, if we're not allowing ourselves

705
00:50:22.840 --> 00:50:25.120
to be emotionally vulnerable past a point,

706
00:50:25.120 --> 00:50:29.920
he's not going to violate our free will and pass that.

707
00:50:29.920 --> 00:50:34.920
So we have to learn, in some of these practice exercises,

708
00:50:36.760 --> 00:50:41.360
that how to actually push past that,

709
00:50:41.360 --> 00:50:44.000
how to allow ourselves, how to expose ourselves

710
00:50:44.000 --> 00:50:47.600
to finally be emotionally vulnerable with the Lord.

711
00:50:47.600 --> 00:50:48.880
There's also that aspect of, you know,

712
00:50:48.880 --> 00:50:50.320
where I talked about, you know, father wounds,

713
00:50:50.320 --> 00:50:53.320
you know, and how, in the physical,

714
00:50:53.320 --> 00:50:55.200
it manifests a lot of times as struggles

715
00:50:55.200 --> 00:50:58.160
with, like, your identity as in, like, homosexuality

716
00:50:58.160 --> 00:51:00.840
or some other transgender, you know, issue.

717
00:51:01.880 --> 00:51:05.120
And, of course, in the spirit,

718
00:51:05.120 --> 00:51:07.080
if we're not allowing ourselves to be close to the Lord,

719
00:51:07.080 --> 00:51:10.720
because we don't, we are not getting our identity from him,

720
00:51:10.720 --> 00:51:13.360
we're getting our identity by something it is that we do,

721
00:51:13.360 --> 00:51:16.780
or how it is that we behave, our career,

722
00:51:18.280 --> 00:51:19.680
I don't know, just all kinds of ways

723
00:51:19.680 --> 00:51:21.960
that we use to identify ourselves,

724
00:51:21.960 --> 00:51:23.880
then it's a perversion,

725
00:51:23.880 --> 00:51:26.520
and it's also not letting us be close to the Lord

726
00:51:26.520 --> 00:51:29.240
and have the intimacy in the only way that we can have it.

727
00:51:29.240 --> 00:51:31.040
So these, so I mention those things

728
00:51:31.040 --> 00:51:34.040
because those, it kind of gets us,

729
00:51:34.040 --> 00:51:36.200
something that we understand, okay,

730
00:51:36.200 --> 00:51:38.120
we got a grip of these types of,

731
00:51:38.120 --> 00:51:42.600
these types of addictions or of issues or whatever,

732
00:51:42.600 --> 00:51:44.920
this is how it translates into the spiritual

733
00:51:44.920 --> 00:51:49.920
so that we can understand that we are all doing that,

734
00:51:50.880 --> 00:51:53.160
that version in the spirit,

735
00:51:53.160 --> 00:51:55.360
and that's why we're not at rest,

736
00:51:55.360 --> 00:51:56.840
and this is a big issue.

737
00:51:56.840 --> 00:51:59.320
It's the lack of emotional vulnerability,

738
00:51:59.320 --> 00:52:02.480
and the lack of, and then us choosing to be identified

739
00:52:02.480 --> 00:52:05.040
by something outside of God.

740
00:52:05.040 --> 00:52:09.120
So there, we can see the seriousness of it in the physical,

741
00:52:09.120 --> 00:52:11.200
but it's, there were just pictures

742
00:52:11.200 --> 00:52:14.960
of the seriousness of it in the spiritual as well.

743
00:52:16.320 --> 00:52:20.120
Now, and so intimacy can only come

744
00:52:20.120 --> 00:52:21.860
through complete vulnerability,

745
00:52:21.860 --> 00:52:25.080
not halfway, not one toe in, not trying,

746
00:52:25.760 --> 00:52:27.400
complete, and yeah, it's hard.

747
00:52:27.400 --> 00:52:30.320
It is really, really, really hard.

748
00:52:30.320 --> 00:52:32.640
We're gonna be walking through an exercise in a second

749
00:52:32.640 --> 00:52:37.640
that I don't like to do because I have to go to Jesus,

750
00:52:37.800 --> 00:52:39.640
and I love Jesus now.

751
00:52:39.640 --> 00:52:42.280
I love Jesus, but so I don't have that same problem

752
00:52:42.280 --> 00:52:43.760
with Jesus that I used to have.

753
00:52:43.760 --> 00:52:45.480
I love Jesus now, I talk to him all the time.

754
00:52:45.480 --> 00:52:47.440
I probably talk to him, I may talk to him

755
00:52:47.440 --> 00:52:49.280
more than I talk to God the Father, I'm not sure,

756
00:52:49.280 --> 00:52:54.000
but I have to allow him to love me,

757
00:52:54.000 --> 00:52:57.320
and I have to receive it, and I don't,

758
00:52:57.320 --> 00:53:00.960
and it scares me every time, and I know how wonderful it is

759
00:53:00.960 --> 00:53:03.560
because it's changed my life, and it's that scary

760
00:53:03.560 --> 00:53:04.920
that even after all of this time,

761
00:53:04.920 --> 00:53:07.440
I still don't like doing it, but I get to a point,

762
00:53:07.440 --> 00:53:09.800
now, I can move further into it than I used to.

763
00:53:09.800 --> 00:53:12.000
I can allow him to love me more than I used to,

764
00:53:12.000 --> 00:53:14.280
but I, even I hit a point, and I'm like, oh my word,

765
00:53:14.280 --> 00:53:16.880
there you go, there's that, and I don't wanna open myself

766
00:53:16.880 --> 00:53:20.320
up that much, Lord, so we'll be walking through that,

767
00:53:20.320 --> 00:53:22.880
but it is very, very challenging,

768
00:53:22.880 --> 00:53:26.720
but that is where everything we've ever wanted is.

769
00:53:27.840 --> 00:53:30.080
We're already in that place.

770
00:53:30.080 --> 00:53:32.040
We're just bringing ourselves to acknowledge

771
00:53:32.040 --> 00:53:33.280
that we're already there.

772
00:53:34.640 --> 00:53:37.520
Now, love is his nature.

773
00:53:37.520 --> 00:53:39.840
It's his essence, it's his DNA.

774
00:53:39.840 --> 00:53:42.680
It's not something he does.

775
00:53:42.680 --> 00:53:45.340
It is in, it's in the fiber of his being.

776
00:53:45.340 --> 00:53:49.080
It is actually what defines love out here.

777
00:53:49.080 --> 00:53:52.280
It's something in here that comes out,

778
00:53:52.280 --> 00:53:54.720
so it's the very essence and the very DNA

779
00:53:54.720 --> 00:53:56.680
of who it is that he is, so he subjects

780
00:53:56.680 --> 00:53:59.760
all of his character to love, all of it,

781
00:53:59.760 --> 00:54:01.680
even his might, even his power.

782
00:54:01.680 --> 00:54:03.600
Everything is subject to his love.

783
00:54:03.600 --> 00:54:06.600
Everything in the universe is subject to God,

784
00:54:06.600 --> 00:54:08.740
and God subjects all of his character,

785
00:54:08.740 --> 00:54:11.480
all the aspects of his character to his love,

786
00:54:11.480 --> 00:54:13.860
and you are the object of that love,

787
00:54:14.760 --> 00:54:16.920
so now we know why Satan doesn't like us.

788
00:54:17.920 --> 00:54:22.140
Now we understand we are the object of God's focus,

789
00:54:22.140 --> 00:54:24.720
God's character, of his DNA, and his essence

790
00:54:24.720 --> 00:54:26.020
that is coming out.

791
00:54:26.020 --> 00:54:27.560
It is coming out towards us,

792
00:54:28.480 --> 00:54:31.780
so it's very, very powerful.

793
00:54:31.780 --> 00:54:35.840
That is, and, okay, so could we look

794
00:54:35.840 --> 00:54:38.560
at Ezekiel 16 really quick, Jonathan?

795
00:54:40.400 --> 00:54:44.360
This is talking about God's love of us

796
00:54:44.360 --> 00:54:46.420
during our lack of it.

797
00:54:47.280 --> 00:54:50.640
And, which I think is really, really fascinating.

798
00:54:56.160 --> 00:55:00.040
Thank you, I think, I think maybe it starts in verse six.

799
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.000
We'll be reading, I don't remember, maybe through verse 14?

800
00:55:04.000 --> 00:55:08.000
Perfect, okay.

801
00:55:08.000 --> 00:55:12.000
So, then I passed by and saw you kicking about in your

802
00:55:12.000 --> 00:55:16.000
blood, and as you lay there in your blood, sorry for the gruesome picture,

803
00:55:16.000 --> 00:55:20.000
but as you lay there in your blood, I said to you, live.

804
00:55:20.000 --> 00:55:24.000
I love that that's God's first word to us. Looked at us

805
00:55:24.000 --> 00:55:28.000
and said, live. He speaks life over us. I made you grow like a

806
00:55:28.000 --> 00:55:32.000
plant of the field. You grew and developed and entered puberty. Your breasts had

807
00:55:32.000 --> 00:55:36.000
formed and your hair had grown, yet you were stark naked.

808
00:55:36.000 --> 00:55:40.000
You were vulnerable. Later I passed by and when I

809
00:55:40.000 --> 00:55:44.000
looked at you and saw that you were old enough for love, I spread the corner of my

810
00:55:44.000 --> 00:55:48.000
garment over you. When we come to God in vulnerability, He covers us.

811
00:55:48.000 --> 00:55:52.000
So, vulnerability in God is a safe

812
00:55:52.000 --> 00:55:56.000
place. Vulnerability isn't bad and it's not

813
00:55:56.000 --> 00:56:00.000
unsafe. We don't have to feel unsafe in our vulnerability. The vulnerability was made

814
00:56:00.000 --> 00:56:04.000
to be covered by God. It's the fact that Adam and Eve

815
00:56:04.000 --> 00:56:08.000
moved us out from under it, you know, before Christ died,

816
00:56:08.000 --> 00:56:12.000
we were just out from under it, that we suddenly realized the exposure because it was always

817
00:56:12.000 --> 00:56:16.000
meant to be covered. There's nothing wrong with it. It's not being hidden.

818
00:56:16.000 --> 00:56:20.000
We and our spirits, you know, being covered by God, we're not being hidden.

819
00:56:20.000 --> 00:56:24.000
We're just being covered by the one that we were intended to be covered by.

820
00:56:24.000 --> 00:56:28.000
And then also I thought, I love it, where it says

821
00:56:28.000 --> 00:56:32.000
I saw that you were old enough for love. You were old enough for

822
00:56:32.000 --> 00:56:36.000
you to be affected by God and for God to be affected by you.

823
00:56:36.000 --> 00:56:40.000
I gave you my

824
00:56:40.000 --> 00:56:44.000
psalm oath and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Sovereign Lord, and you became

825
00:56:44.000 --> 00:56:48.000
mine. He always talks throughout the Bible in terms of possession.

826
00:56:48.000 --> 00:56:52.000
I bathed you with water and washed the blood from you and put ointments on you.

827
00:56:52.000 --> 00:56:56.000
I bathed you with water. You remember in Ephesians, we're going to be talking about this

828
00:56:56.000 --> 00:57:00.000
tomorrow, you washed the bride with the washing of water by the word.

829
00:57:00.000 --> 00:57:04.000
I clothed you with an embroidered dress and put

830
00:57:04.000 --> 00:57:08.000
sandals of fine leather on you. So this is very important. I know it's a long passage,

831
00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:12.000
but this part is really important. I dressed you in fine linen and covered

832
00:57:12.000 --> 00:57:16.000
you with costly garments. I adorned you with jewelry. I put bracelets on your arms

833
00:57:16.000 --> 00:57:20.000
and a necklace around your neck. And I put a ring on your nose, earrings on your ears, and a

834
00:57:20.000 --> 00:57:24.000
beautiful crown on your head. So you were adorned with gold and silver. Your clothes were

835
00:57:24.000 --> 00:57:28.000
of fine linen and costly fabric and embroidered cloth. Your

836
00:57:28.000 --> 00:57:32.000
food was honey, olive oil, and the finest flour. You became very

837
00:57:32.000 --> 00:57:36.000
beautiful and rose to be a queen. And your fame spread among the nations on account of

838
00:57:36.000 --> 00:57:40.000
your beauty, because the splendor I had given you made your beauty perfect,

839
00:57:40.000 --> 00:57:44.000
declares the Sovereign Lord. So the reason I wanted to

840
00:57:44.000 --> 00:57:48.000
go through that passage is the reason that God is giving all of those clothes

841
00:57:48.000 --> 00:57:52.000
and all of that jewelry is not to cover us or to make us into something that we're

842
00:57:52.000 --> 00:57:56.000
not. Because you don't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.

843
00:57:56.000 --> 00:58:00.000
Putting a gold ring in a pig's nose isn't going to change

844
00:58:00.000 --> 00:58:04.000
it from being a pig. It can't change us. He's not covering

845
00:58:04.000 --> 00:58:08.000
us up, hiding us, like, oh my goodness, we can't look at that.

846
00:58:08.000 --> 00:58:12.000
That's not pretty, so let's just make it look better. The reason that a king

847
00:58:12.000 --> 00:58:16.000
is giving all of that to his bride is that the value of what he

848
00:58:16.000 --> 00:58:20.000
gives her has to match her value.

849
00:58:20.000 --> 00:58:24.000
Otherwise, there's going to be an imbalance.

850
00:58:24.000 --> 00:58:28.000
It can actually corrupt the things, or you can be

851
00:58:28.000 --> 00:58:32.000
not fully clothed

852
00:58:32.000 --> 00:58:36.000
and appropriately honored if what you're given

853
00:58:36.000 --> 00:58:40.000
is less than what you are. So what this is actually saying

854
00:58:40.000 --> 00:58:44.000
is this is how God sees us. This is the value that He's

855
00:58:44.000 --> 00:58:48.000
giving us an actual picture of the value that we can

856
00:58:48.000 --> 00:58:52.000
understand the value in which He sees that we already are. He's not

857
00:58:52.000 --> 00:58:56.000
giving us value, more value than He says that we have. He's saying that we

858
00:58:56.000 --> 00:59:00.000
are that. So I wanted to just really

859
00:59:00.000 --> 00:59:04.000
point that out. God is just declaring all of these things over us. We don't have

860
00:59:04.000 --> 00:59:08.000
to be afraid when we come to Him and we want to be loved. Or we want

861
00:59:08.000 --> 00:59:12.000
to receive His love. He's given us all of this. All of it.

862
00:59:12.000 --> 00:59:16.000
We didn't even ask for it.

863
00:59:16.000 --> 00:59:20.000
Last few things before we go into the practical exercise.

864
00:59:20.000 --> 00:59:24.000
It's very important when learning to

865
00:59:24.000 --> 00:59:28.000
learn to be loved by the Lord. That all sounds

866
00:59:28.000 --> 00:59:32.000
great. How do I learn to be loved by God? Because I want to be loved

867
00:59:32.000 --> 00:59:36.000
by God. If you're like me, I thought, well God, I love you

868
00:59:36.000 --> 00:59:40.000
and I'm here. You say that you love me, but I don't feel it.

869
00:59:40.000 --> 00:59:44.000
Even though I didn't want to say it out loud, I was thinking, God, this is all in you.

870
00:59:44.000 --> 00:59:48.000
I'm doing everything, but I don't feel loved.

871
00:59:48.000 --> 00:59:52.000
You need to do more things so that I'll feel loved. You need to have this

872
00:59:52.000 --> 00:59:56.000
happen in my business. You need to have this happen in my relationships. You need to

873
00:59:56.000 --> 01:00:00.000
have this happen in my finances. Then I'll know that I'm loved.

874
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:09.000
Goodness, I guess I've been talking for a while and so it's getting drier.

875
01:00:09.000 --> 01:00:16.400
So in order to, I didn't know what else to do, I thought I'm doing everything that God

876
01:00:16.400 --> 01:00:17.400
says to do.

877
01:00:17.400 --> 01:00:20.120
God says if I love him, I'm going to follow his commandments, so I'm following his commandments,

878
01:00:20.120 --> 01:00:21.120
you know.

879
01:00:21.120 --> 01:00:24.720
And he says that he loves me and he's showing me all of the time, but I'm just not feeling

880
01:00:24.720 --> 01:00:28.400
it and I'm just not seeing it, there must be something wrong with me or God's just not

881
01:00:28.400 --> 01:00:30.600
holding up his end of the bargain.

882
01:00:30.600 --> 01:00:32.320
So how did I move past that?

883
01:00:32.320 --> 01:00:37.320
And this is what I recommend for y'all, again, remember Reckless Abandon.

884
01:00:37.320 --> 01:00:44.040
I began to realize in the Bible that there, I had no, God gave me no obligation to love

885
01:00:44.040 --> 01:00:48.120
him back, none.

886
01:00:48.120 --> 01:00:53.760
So the first thing to do if you want to start not just loving the Lord, but being able to

887
01:00:53.760 --> 01:01:02.400
receive his love, is to finally release yourself from being obligated to love God.

888
01:01:02.400 --> 01:01:06.840
The reason we feel, you are a new man, you're not the old man.

889
01:01:06.840 --> 01:01:12.040
The new man lives, the old man has died, the new man always loves his father.

890
01:01:12.040 --> 01:01:15.680
God's not worried you're not going to love him back if you don't feel obligated, you're

891
01:01:15.680 --> 01:01:19.400
always going to love him, because you already do, but it's the old man that we keep trying

892
01:01:19.400 --> 01:01:22.480
to resurrect that our soul still thinks is alive, that it's holding onto, and we think

893
01:01:22.560 --> 01:01:23.560
we have to try to love God.

894
01:01:23.560 --> 01:01:27.000
You don't need to try to love him, God's not worried that you're not going to love him.

895
01:01:27.000 --> 01:01:31.920
But you have to, remember what I talked about, about rest, what we're going to be saying

896
01:01:31.920 --> 01:01:35.080
repeatedly, stop.

897
01:01:35.080 --> 01:01:37.200
Whatever it is you're doing, stop.

898
01:01:37.200 --> 01:01:39.380
Stop loving him.

899
01:01:39.380 --> 01:01:42.040
Stop trying, because you already do.

900
01:01:42.040 --> 01:01:46.500
And as soon as you, because the only way that we know how to love is to try, so stop.

901
01:01:46.500 --> 01:01:50.560
And then you'll discover this other aspect of you that loves very, very powerfully from

902
01:01:50.560 --> 01:01:53.760
the Spirit, and that is how God wants to be loved.

903
01:01:53.760 --> 01:01:57.760
You already have it, you already do it, but we've been hiding it, thinking that we didn't

904
01:01:57.760 --> 01:01:59.560
have it and had to try.

905
01:01:59.560 --> 01:02:03.220
So stop trying.

906
01:02:03.220 --> 01:02:05.120
Stop trying to love God.

907
01:02:05.120 --> 01:02:06.120
Stop loving him.

908
01:02:06.120 --> 01:02:08.080
I'm not saying hate him, I'm not saying that.

909
01:02:08.080 --> 01:02:11.040
Stop loving him, and then you find out that you do.

910
01:02:11.040 --> 01:02:15.640
So we're removing all of that trying, we're removing everything that we're actually doing

911
01:02:15.640 --> 01:02:18.560
that's actually creating resistance.

912
01:02:18.560 --> 01:02:19.560
So that's what it is.

913
01:02:19.560 --> 01:02:20.560
When we're trying, we're resisting.

914
01:02:20.560 --> 01:02:21.560
I'm trying, Lord.

915
01:02:21.560 --> 01:02:22.560
I'm trying.

916
01:02:22.560 --> 01:02:26.140
We don't under, we think that we're moving forward, and we're resisting.

917
01:02:26.140 --> 01:02:28.440
That trying is resisting.

918
01:02:28.440 --> 01:02:30.600
So release yourself from obligation.

919
01:02:30.600 --> 01:02:35.320
Remember that someone, when someone loves you, you're not, and this goes for God, and

920
01:02:35.320 --> 01:02:36.320
it goes for people.

921
01:02:36.320 --> 01:02:40.880
When someone loves you, you're not obligated to love them back, and you're not obligated

922
01:02:40.880 --> 01:02:43.360
to receive their love.

923
01:02:43.360 --> 01:02:48.000
Because love has to be freely given in order for it to be love.

924
01:02:48.000 --> 01:02:51.220
If it's not freely given, it's not love.

925
01:02:51.220 --> 01:02:55.560
So if we're loving out of obligation, you're not even loving anyway.

926
01:02:55.560 --> 01:02:56.560
So just stop.

927
01:02:56.560 --> 01:02:59.840
But you already are it, so there's nothing to be afraid of.

928
01:02:59.840 --> 01:03:01.280
You're going to find it there.

929
01:03:01.280 --> 01:03:03.360
Again, reckless abandon.

930
01:03:03.360 --> 01:03:06.400
These radical things that we're doing that we're thinking, oh my goodness, I'm going

931
01:03:06.400 --> 01:03:07.400
to risk my relationship with the Lord.

932
01:03:07.400 --> 01:03:10.520
You know, that's what I thought I was going to do.

933
01:03:10.520 --> 01:03:14.520
But I had to take that step, and I promise you that's where you find him, is if you make

934
01:03:14.520 --> 01:03:19.040
those very radical decisions.

935
01:03:19.040 --> 01:03:30.800
Remember that, here's proof, that when Christ died, he died with us hating him.

936
01:03:30.800 --> 01:03:33.180
He didn't die when we loved him.

937
01:03:33.180 --> 01:03:39.120
So if God would die because he loved us, in order to restore back to himself someone who

938
01:03:39.120 --> 01:03:45.440
is not only hating him, but actually causing the killing, then we apparently really are

939
01:03:45.440 --> 01:03:48.440
not obligated to love God in order for him to love us back.

940
01:03:48.440 --> 01:03:49.440
He already did it.

941
01:03:49.440 --> 01:03:53.720
He went as far, greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his

942
01:03:53.720 --> 01:03:54.720
friends.

943
01:03:54.720 --> 01:03:57.420
He's already gone as far as he can possibly go.

944
01:03:57.420 --> 01:04:00.800
So we're truly under no obligation to love the Lord back.

945
01:04:00.800 --> 01:04:08.120
So that's proof that we've actually already been there in spirit, because God says that

946
01:04:08.120 --> 01:04:15.600
actually we all killed Christ, and so we've already done all of that in spirit, and there's

947
01:04:15.600 --> 01:04:18.080
nowhere else to go.

948
01:04:18.080 --> 01:04:23.640
Your desiring him is not required for him to desire you.

949
01:04:23.640 --> 01:04:29.040
And you can't lose it, and you don't have to love him back, so just let it go.

950
01:04:29.040 --> 01:04:33.800
You have to let, okay, this is the crux of rest right here.

951
01:04:33.800 --> 01:04:36.320
Rest is release.

952
01:04:36.320 --> 01:04:38.400
Rest is letting go.

953
01:04:38.400 --> 01:04:44.240
You have to let go in order to love, because everything in God has to be freely given and

954
01:04:44.240 --> 01:04:48.600
freely received, so it's all about having open hands and letting go.

955
01:04:48.600 --> 01:04:50.440
And then we find that everything works.

956
01:04:50.440 --> 01:04:52.680
We find that we already are that thing.

957
01:04:52.680 --> 01:04:57.720
So you have to let go first before you can actually receive God's love, and before you

958
01:04:57.720 --> 01:05:00.080
can love him back.

959
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:03.000
you love him because of who it is that you are, not because of something that

960
01:05:03.000 --> 01:05:13.500
you learn or try to do. Okay, so we're about to get into the practical

961
01:05:13.500 --> 01:05:23.320
exercise just really quick. One of the few things I wanted to prepare us

962
01:05:23.320 --> 01:05:33.460
for is that how do we know that we're loved is we have to observe. We have to

963
01:05:33.460 --> 01:05:40.120
watch and we have to receive. We can't try. We can't try to understand. We just

964
01:05:40.120 --> 01:05:44.320
have to let it come. And here's the thing, you can't just let it come at you like

965
01:05:44.320 --> 01:05:47.680
because we're gonna be sitting there and looking at Jesus and we don't just let

966
01:05:47.680 --> 01:05:53.200
it come at us. We have to let it come in and that's what's not gonna feel good.

967
01:05:53.200 --> 01:05:58.600
Meaning like, you know, that right before, now it feels good once it goes in, but

968
01:05:58.600 --> 01:06:02.560
that that moment right before all of the resistance of no I can't receive that, I

969
01:06:02.560 --> 01:06:06.800
don't I don't deserve it. I don't want him to see what he what I think he might

970
01:06:06.800 --> 01:06:11.360
see. I didn't know how he might respond. I didn't know what he might say. We

971
01:06:11.360 --> 01:06:15.960
have to we have to push through all of that and we have to allow ourselves to

972
01:06:16.040 --> 01:06:22.080
just observe what it is that he wants to give us because the gift or the love is

973
01:06:22.080 --> 01:06:28.280
all about the giver. It's not about the receiver. So God's love is not about us.

974
01:06:28.280 --> 01:06:33.760
It's about who it is that he is. So when you go to God, this is very important if

975
01:06:33.760 --> 01:06:38.720
you remember nothing else from this whole weekend, please remember this, that

976
01:06:38.720 --> 01:06:45.200
we need to come to God and allow him to be who he wants to be with us. We don't

977
01:06:45.240 --> 01:06:50.520
get to dictate. We don't get to have a say-so. We need to come to God and allow

978
01:06:50.520 --> 01:06:55.480
him to and just come to and say, okay God, whoever it is that you are, give me that.

979
01:06:55.480 --> 01:07:00.800
Just allow him to allow him to love us because that is the greatest way to love

980
01:07:00.800 --> 01:07:05.000
someone is to not do those five love languages and I'm not saying that

981
01:07:05.000 --> 01:07:08.600
there's not value in them and that that's like a stepping stone. It is not

982
01:07:08.600 --> 01:07:14.040
a mature way to love. Those five love languages are not a mature way to love.

983
01:07:14.040 --> 01:07:17.960
They're a way to grow in love and that's fine but they're not a mature way.

984
01:07:17.960 --> 01:07:22.760
A mature way is not, hey look, this is how I feel loved if you give these

985
01:07:22.760 --> 01:07:26.960
things to me. So I need you to change what you're doing. I need you

986
01:07:26.960 --> 01:07:31.280
to understand I feel loved when people give me gifts. I feel loved when da-da-da-da.

987
01:07:31.280 --> 01:07:35.240
Well, that's not how I give love. Well, that's how I receive it. So if you

988
01:07:35.240 --> 01:07:38.240
want me to feel loved, you know you need to do that. These are the

989
01:07:38.240 --> 01:07:41.640
conversations that husbands and wives have had ever since that book came

990
01:07:41.640 --> 01:07:45.040
out. The problem is we're demanding something of somebody else that has to

991
01:07:45.040 --> 01:07:49.040
be freely given in order for it to be real. So when you love someone, the best

992
01:07:49.040 --> 01:07:53.080
way to love someone is to allow them to be whoever it is that they are

993
01:07:53.080 --> 01:07:56.360
and whatever it is that they want to give you to give it and you to choose

994
01:07:56.360 --> 01:08:00.800
that you're receiving that person. That is what we're choosing in a marriage. Who

995
01:08:00.800 --> 01:08:06.400
do we want to receive from unconditionally without rules? Allowing

996
01:08:06.400 --> 01:08:10.600
them to be who it is that they are. Now we're not talking about

997
01:08:10.600 --> 01:08:14.320
abuse. We're not taking this into some really weird, very extreme. I'm just

998
01:08:14.320 --> 01:08:17.260
talking about healthy relationships. We need to allow

999
01:08:17.260 --> 01:08:20.840
someone to be who it is that they are and to express of themselves what they

1000
01:08:20.840 --> 01:08:24.279
want to give us because what they want to give us is themselves. So if we are

1001
01:08:24.279 --> 01:08:27.720
dictating to them what it is that we're giving to them, what we want from them,

1002
01:08:27.720 --> 01:08:32.760
what's going to make us feel good, that's like taking a drug. It's fake. It doesn't

1003
01:08:32.760 --> 01:08:37.520
work. They have to give of themselves, not be dictated to about

1004
01:08:37.520 --> 01:08:40.279
something. Okay, I'm going to give you this grocery list. This is how I feel

1005
01:08:40.279 --> 01:08:45.939
loved. That is how we honor and truly love someone else is by

1006
01:08:45.939 --> 01:08:50.200
allowing them to be themselves. So we do the same with the Lord. It's all about

1007
01:08:50.200 --> 01:08:55.520
the giver. Love is all about the giver and not about the receiver. So it's

1008
01:08:55.520 --> 01:08:59.880
sensing what he delights in. When he's looking at you, when we go through this

1009
01:08:59.880 --> 01:09:03.600
in a second, he's looking at you and you're receiving all of this. Just sense

1010
01:09:03.600 --> 01:09:12.680
what he's delighting in in you. So in this exercise, what we're going to do

1011
01:09:12.680 --> 01:09:18.640
is, I didn't learn this from anybody. I just started doing it and I realized how

1012
01:09:18.640 --> 01:09:21.479
powerful it was and then I started telling other people about it, my

1013
01:09:21.479 --> 01:09:24.439
clients or whatever, and you wouldn't believe the number of people who said,

1014
01:09:24.439 --> 01:09:28.000
oh my word, I actually can do it. Because it sounds so simple. It's such an easy

1015
01:09:28.000 --> 01:09:32.520
thing, but that emotional vulnerability, they finally came head-to-head with, oh

1016
01:09:32.520 --> 01:09:37.080
that's my problem. I'm not doing that, am I, whenever I go to the Lord. So it

1017
01:09:37.080 --> 01:09:40.479
highlights what areas in which we don't feel, how we're not feeling safe with

1018
01:09:40.479 --> 01:09:45.240
the Lord. So what I recommend is that you can do whatever you want. You can stay

1019
01:09:45.240 --> 01:09:49.240
exactly where you are. If it was me and I was sitting out there, my personality is

1020
01:09:49.240 --> 01:09:52.720
I would like get in a corner and sit on the floor and do it. You can do whatever

1021
01:09:52.720 --> 01:09:56.160
you want. You can stay in your chair. You can turn your chair around and move your

1022
01:09:56.160 --> 01:10:02.240
chair somewhere, but just get whatever, whatever in

1023
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:04.480
that you need to create for yourself, you can lay down, whatnot, whatever environment

1024
01:10:04.480 --> 01:10:11.360
that you need to create for yourself in order to allow yourself to focus on the Lord and

1025
01:10:11.360 --> 01:10:17.760
to give yourself a chance and a supportive environment for you to feel safe to move in

1026
01:10:17.760 --> 01:10:23.080
the Lord in a way that you haven't felt safe to do so before, in order to risk, in order

1027
01:10:23.080 --> 01:10:29.520
to have that courage and to risk being vulnerable and move into a place that you don't feel

1028
01:10:29.520 --> 01:10:30.520
safe.

1029
01:10:30.520 --> 01:10:38.640
So when you come up against some of this resistance, then just realize, okay, I don't feel safe

1030
01:10:38.640 --> 01:10:43.400
there, so I'm going to free fall into where I don't feel safe.

1031
01:10:43.400 --> 01:10:46.560
So there's no safety net, I'm afraid.

1032
01:10:46.560 --> 01:10:50.680
Now there is a safety net, I mean, it's God, but there's no safety net I can logically

1033
01:10:50.680 --> 01:10:53.520
walk you through to help you cope.

1034
01:10:53.520 --> 01:10:54.520
There's nothing.

1035
01:10:54.520 --> 01:10:56.840
But God says he's there.

1036
01:10:56.840 --> 01:11:00.280
It's this risky, it's this reckless abandon.

1037
01:11:00.280 --> 01:11:02.240
This is the foundation of rest.

1038
01:11:02.240 --> 01:11:03.920
This is why we're talking about it.

1039
01:11:03.920 --> 01:11:08.320
If we do not, are not able to receive God's love, we can't shift into rest because he

1040
01:11:08.320 --> 01:11:09.840
is rest.

1041
01:11:09.840 --> 01:11:11.960
That is the place we're going into.

1042
01:11:11.960 --> 01:11:17.200
So anyway, that's why it's important and that's why we needed to talk about it tonight.

1043
01:11:17.200 --> 01:11:18.400
It's the foundation to everything.

1044
01:11:18.400 --> 01:11:24.880
So when you're in that place, you know, when you've got your little environment set up,

1045
01:11:24.920 --> 01:11:28.440
I imagine Jesus coming to you.

1046
01:11:28.440 --> 01:11:31.280
I personally like to, my favorite place is to sit on my bed.

1047
01:11:31.280 --> 01:11:36.080
I just sit on the side of my bed, you know, where Jesus can come, and I position myself

1048
01:11:36.080 --> 01:11:38.240
where Jesus can come and also sit on my bed.

1049
01:11:38.240 --> 01:11:41.320
And I think I like that because it just feels relaxed.

1050
01:11:41.320 --> 01:11:45.880
And it feels kind of like, I don't know, like close, because I can't do anything.

1051
01:11:45.880 --> 01:11:50.800
I don't like doing it standing because I feel active, feel on the go, and you know, my body

1052
01:11:50.800 --> 01:11:51.800
wants to run and whatever.

1053
01:11:51.960 --> 01:11:55.400
I just, I put myself in, where do I feel is safe?

1054
01:11:55.400 --> 01:11:59.840
And then I invite my Jesus to come, and he just sits there, and then I let him look at

1055
01:11:59.840 --> 01:12:00.840
me.

1056
01:12:00.840 --> 01:12:07.000
So I advise, look him in the eyes, and there's two things that I recommend, do not break

1057
01:12:07.000 --> 01:12:09.120
eye contact.

1058
01:12:09.120 --> 01:12:12.640
Because what happens is when you just sit there and you allow the Lord to love you,

1059
01:12:12.640 --> 01:12:17.720
look at you, you know, like he loves you, you know, how you would imagine somebody who

1060
01:12:17.720 --> 01:12:22.080
loves you would look like, allow him to just love you.

1061
01:12:22.080 --> 01:12:28.280
And it's not going to increase incrementally, like one, two, three, four, five, and feeling

1062
01:12:28.280 --> 01:12:31.320
stronger slowly, it compounds.

1063
01:12:31.320 --> 01:12:35.680
And it goes one, two, four, sixteen, a hundred and thirty-two.

1064
01:12:35.680 --> 01:12:39.120
It goes really fast, and what you're going to want to do is you're going to want to break

1065
01:12:39.120 --> 01:12:41.800
eye contact because that gives you relief.

1066
01:12:41.800 --> 01:12:44.800
It breaks it, and you have to start all over again at one.

1067
01:12:44.800 --> 01:12:49.720
You get up to like sixteen, oh my word, that's too hard, okay, okay, now I'm at one again.

1068
01:12:49.720 --> 01:12:51.000
It creates a bit of relief.

1069
01:12:51.000 --> 01:12:54.840
So I highly recommend that you just, you know, try to stay in eye contact with him as long

1070
01:12:54.840 --> 01:12:58.240
as possible and allow yourself to be loved.

1071
01:12:58.240 --> 01:13:04.240
Here's the other very, very important thing, do not love him back.

1072
01:13:04.240 --> 01:13:06.320
In the exercise, do not love him back.

1073
01:13:06.320 --> 01:13:08.800
I'm not saying hate him, that's not what I'm saying.

1074
01:13:08.800 --> 01:13:13.680
Don't take, you're going to feel a force coming at you, don't, and you're going to want relief

1075
01:13:13.680 --> 01:13:14.680
from it.

1076
01:13:14.680 --> 01:13:17.720
He's going to love you, and you're going to feel intense, and you're going to want to

1077
01:13:17.720 --> 01:13:19.640
try to relieve yourself by giving it back.

1078
01:13:19.640 --> 01:13:25.240
Oh Lord, oh my goodness, this is so amazing, I love you too, and don't do that.

1079
01:13:25.240 --> 01:13:31.800
Now if you, you know, you can't help it, you know, because you're his son, and you're his

1080
01:13:31.800 --> 01:13:35.040
bride, so you are going to love him back, so don't worry about that, don't like try

1081
01:13:35.040 --> 01:13:36.800
really hard to not love him or something.

1082
01:13:36.800 --> 01:13:45.000
My point is be very aware of not giving into a flow, because then, because what we're trying

1083
01:13:45.000 --> 01:13:48.160
to do is we're trying to not receive.

1084
01:13:48.160 --> 01:13:53.520
We're trying to do whatever we can, including godly things of loving him back, trying to

1085
01:13:53.520 --> 01:13:58.280
avoid receiving, and you, and so that's what rest is.

1086
01:13:58.280 --> 01:14:05.400
We have to receive, so anyway, that is what the exercise is, so let him love you how he

1087
01:14:05.400 --> 01:14:11.880
wants to, and let him give you of himself what he wants, and so, and be vulnerable,

1088
01:14:11.880 --> 01:14:15.360
so when you're there, be very vulnerable, and you're going to feel the resistance, and

1089
01:14:15.360 --> 01:14:20.680
you're, and give, and so give in to the lack of control that you're going to feel.

1090
01:14:20.680 --> 01:14:25.120
Just do that kind of free fall into the, into the unsafe, where you, where you don't allow

1091
01:14:25.120 --> 01:14:28.040
yourself any safety net.

1092
01:14:28.040 --> 01:14:32.760
I mean, I can, I can already feel it, and I'm telling you, it really is very scary.

1093
01:14:32.840 --> 01:14:37.360
I'm kind of doing that a bit in the spirit already, and I'm like, oh wow, so give in

1094
01:14:37.360 --> 01:14:44.080
to not being safe, give in to what he might see in you, and then give in to what he might

1095
01:14:44.080 --> 01:14:50.000
know, and then give in, meaning like give in, you know, just surrender to it, give in

1096
01:14:50.000 --> 01:14:52.000
to what he, how he might respond.

1097
01:14:52.000 --> 01:14:55.200
Is he going to be disappointed?

1098
01:14:55.200 --> 01:14:57.880
Is he going to chastise me?

1099
01:14:57.880 --> 01:14:59.960
Are all of my worst fears of what god

1100
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:03.440
thinks about me or what I think about myself,

1101
01:15:03.440 --> 01:15:07.280
am I going to discover that they're actually true

1102
01:15:07.280 --> 01:15:09.800
and fall into it?

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And you're going to discover that they're not.

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But only he can tell you that.

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Going through the rest intensive and hearing teachings

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isn't going to do that.

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Your God is the only one who can convince you

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that you're worth enough.

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So anyway, that's what we're going to do.

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Before we do that, though, I would like to play.

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We're going to play a song and just remind ourselves

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of who it is that God is called, a son of God.

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Just kind of remind ourselves of the strength and power that

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is embodied in who our God actually is.

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So I advise you don't listen.

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She's going to be talking about different things

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that God does or Jesus did, like his miracles and whatever.

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I highly recommend don't focus on those outside things of,

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oh my goodness, my God, he's so big.

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And oh my word, he can do all of these things

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and all these miracles.

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Because again, we're trying to move things away from us

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because we don't feel safe.

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So we're trying to think of who it

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is that God is, who it is that I'm observing.

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It's out here.

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I highly recommend don't do that.

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Just listen to the music and allow it to just kind of like

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open yourself up spiritually and vulnerably

1130
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and receive in the power and the love of who it is that he is

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and receive that into yourself.

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I hope that all makes sense because I

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don't mean this to sound really hokey of like receive it

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into yourself.

1135
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But there's this feeling that I've

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learned that I've realized, oh my word, that's resisting

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because I don't want it to be part of me.

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Let it become part of you and hit you.

1139
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Don't think about it.

1140
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Don't observe it.

1141
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Don't try to figure it out.

1142
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That's all out here.

1143
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And that's keeping you safe.

1144
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And that's what you've been doing your whole life.

1145
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And we're in resistance.

1146
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And so we're trying to figure, we're trying to take baby steps.

1147
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Actually, baby, we're taking a big, huge step in.

1148
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But we're starting here.

1149
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We're going to go other places from here

1150
01:17:00.880 --> 01:17:03.320
but throughout this weekend.

1151
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But we're trying to learn how to identify our resistance

1152
01:17:07.760 --> 01:17:09.360
and to start giving into it.

1153
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So just even allow the music to come in.

1154
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So yeah, if you could start that for us, thanks.

1155
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Oh, son of God, oh, son of God, you have made me,

1156
01:17:33.320 --> 01:17:35.760
you have made me whole.

1157
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Oh, oh, son of God.

1158
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Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.

1159
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I was born a slave to the water,

1160
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casting nets in a sea of disbelief.

1161
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There you were saying, don't you be afraid.

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Then you called me, you called me.

1163
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Oh, son of God, oh, son of God, you have made me,

1164
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you have made me whole.

1165
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Oh, son of God.

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All my life, I was just a lowly beggar,

1167
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paralyzed by the shame that held me down.

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But there you were saying, stand up and go home.

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And you healed me, you healed me.

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Oh, son of God, oh, son of God, you have made me,

1171
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you have made me whole.

1172
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Oh, son of God.

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I will follow you.

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Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.

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I will follow you.

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O Son of God, O Son of God, You have made me, You have made me whole. O Son of God.

1178
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O Son of God, O Son of God, You have made me whole. O Son of God.

1179
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O Son of God, O Son of God, You have made me whole. O Son of God.

1180
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O Son of God, O Son of God, You have made me whole. O Son of God.

1181
01:22:01.140 --> 01:22:21.140
O Son of God, O Son of God, You have made me whole. O Son of God.

1182
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Allow, don't try to fix yourself up and break down your own walls and overcome yourself and all of this in order to be able to receive God's love.

1183
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Come to God's love. Make yourself as vulnerable as possible and His love will break down the walls.

1184
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Again, if there's nothing that we can do to get into the kingdom, then there's nothing that we can do in order to receive God's love.

1185
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We don't need to try. You don't need to try to overcome yourself. You just need to stop.

1186
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You need to present yourself to your Father and allow the ways of His love or however it is that you might experience it.

1187
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And this might be a development thing. You might not experience much tonight, but you may tomorrow.

1188
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So don't worry about it. As you can tell, I'm still experiencing things.

1189
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But just allow His love to topple your walls and to break down your walls.

1190
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Your walls were not meant for you to tear down.

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01:23:20.140 --> 01:23:25.140
They were meant for them to be completely demolished when you exposed them to His love.

1192
01:23:25.140 --> 01:23:31.140
Allow them to fall. Don't keep holding them up when He's trying to knock them down.

1193
01:23:31.140 --> 01:23:36.140
Just let all of those walls of resistance be just broken down by His love.

1194
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That's it. We're just going to play a song. We're going to play it just a couple of times.

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It's going to be about 10-11 minutes because I want to give people a really good time to settle into this.

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But that's all it's going to be, so don't be terrified that you have to be there looking at Jesus for 10 minutes.

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Because trust me, it can be a long 10 minutes.

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And then after that, everyone can leave and we'll see you all tomorrow at 9 o'clock here.

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And we'll be talking about the fact that God says that we are one spirit with Him.

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We're one with Him. We're going to be talking about the tree of life versus the tree of the knowledge of evil.

1201
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The idea of resting versus how we've been living life, choosing to strive for everything.

1202
01:24:19.140 --> 01:24:22.140
And then we'll be talking about spirit, soul, and body.

1203
01:24:22.140 --> 01:24:29.140
How we operate in those three different realms and how to shift up into our identity, which is in our spirit.

1204
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And also some more practical exercises tomorrow.

1205
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After we're done, y'all have a really good night.

1206
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I recommend you practicing this as much as possible with your Lord while you're here.

1207
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Thank you, John.

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Amen.

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Anyway, you all have a wonderful night, and I will see y'all tomorrow morning.