WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:07.680 All right. Okay, so last night we talked about how to create and operate a business from 2 00:00:07.680 --> 00:00:12.120 a place of rest and lay a really good solid foundation. And it's not even, and you don't 3 00:00:12.120 --> 00:00:16.400 even just have to do this when you first started the business. It's literally any point in 4 00:00:16.400 --> 00:00:24.880 your business, especially when you are looking to, when you realize that, well, I say especially 5 00:00:24.880 --> 00:00:31.580 meaning that we particularly come to this point when we feel stuck and we think I need 6 00:00:31.580 --> 00:00:36.000 to change because a lot of times we don't think about a change being needed as long 7 00:00:36.000 --> 00:00:40.960 as everything's running smoothly and we're happy about it. Unless of course we're bored 8 00:00:40.960 --> 00:00:44.920 and we decided we had a challenge. But other than that, generally it's when we're stuck 9 00:00:44.920 --> 00:00:49.880 that we think, oh my goodness, the way that I've been doing things this far in life and 10 00:00:49.880 --> 00:00:57.920 business has worked and now it's not. So why isn't it working anymore? And we'll, so regardless 11 00:00:57.920 --> 00:01:02.880 of where it is that we are, it's the, if we can go ahead and make the shift of everything 12 00:01:02.880 --> 00:01:09.120 and incorporating everything that I talked about yesterday. But tonight, what we're going 13 00:01:09.120 --> 00:01:16.680 to be talking about is how to interact with clients. And, and with, by interacting with 14 00:01:16.680 --> 00:01:20.680 clients, it can be anybody. It's interacting with anybody that you encounter in your business, 15 00:01:20.680 --> 00:01:25.800 whether you have your own business or you manage employees because some people in here 16 00:01:25.800 --> 00:01:32.480 manage employees or you are, you have a very difficult boss. I've had those. And so I've 17 00:01:32.480 --> 00:01:38.200 used these principles with my employers as well, or it could be your vendors. It could 18 00:01:38.200 --> 00:01:43.280 be anyone, anybody that you're interacting with. But I wanted to mention specific names 19 00:01:43.280 --> 00:01:47.720 of categories so that if there's a specific category that you're particularly struggling 20 00:01:47.720 --> 00:01:53.880 with, you can make the connection, okay, this can actually pertain to X, Y, and Z. The things 21 00:01:53.880 --> 00:01:58.080 that I'm going to be talking about, remember, as y'all, as y'all, y'all heard my teachings 22 00:01:58.080 --> 00:02:04.280 before, remember me saying that, that any, that regardless of whether we are operating 23 00:02:04.280 --> 00:02:09.759 in business or in relationships or in finances, we give the same thing to everything. We're 24 00:02:09.759 --> 00:02:14.240 giving spirit. So what I'm going to be talking about, even though we're going to be talking 25 00:02:14.240 --> 00:02:20.960 about it in business terms, you can apply it to relationships with anything, relationships 26 00:02:20.960 --> 00:02:28.440 in interactions with people in any of those categories, business relationships, or finances. 27 00:02:28.440 --> 00:02:34.880 And the, and the reason for that is that what we're going to basically be talking about 28 00:02:34.880 --> 00:02:39.920 when we're talking about interacting is we're talking about interacting with creation. We're 29 00:02:39.920 --> 00:02:44.960 pointing out that, that the specific type of create of aspect of creation that we are 30 00:02:44.960 --> 00:02:51.040 using as examples of what we're talking about are people, but those are just examples of 31 00:02:51.040 --> 00:02:56.680 a much broader context that you can actually apply all of this stuff to. When you interact 32 00:02:56.680 --> 00:03:02.880 with creation, you can use these principles and it doesn't have to be people. It could 33 00:03:02.880 --> 00:03:08.600 be animals. It could be a business system. It could be a strategy. It could be, it could 34 00:03:08.600 --> 00:03:17.720 be money, could be anything. So while you can listen to what I'm talking about and be 35 00:03:17.720 --> 00:03:22.160 able to make specific connections to something that's particularly difficult for you, like 36 00:03:22.160 --> 00:03:28.400 maybe a particular difficult person, I, I recommend that as much as possible, you try 37 00:03:28.400 --> 00:03:36.200 to get to take these, everything I say as examples of an actual larger principle and 38 00:03:36.200 --> 00:03:41.800 grab the larger principle, if you can, so that you can then apply it in all kinds of 39 00:03:41.800 --> 00:03:48.520 other areas of your life. Now, something I did want to cover that I didn't, that I had 40 00:03:48.520 --> 00:03:53.360 written a note down about yesterday, and we just ran out of time and I wasn't able to 41 00:03:53.360 --> 00:04:00.120 cover it, is the fact that provision, remember, or let me, let me rephrase the sentence, that 42 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:07.760 business is not God's means of providing for us. This is important to talk about tonight 43 00:04:07.760 --> 00:04:14.520 because the reason, if we think that our business is God's means of providing for us, then the 44 00:04:14.520 --> 00:04:20.959 business has to work and be successful in order for God to provide for us. That's how 45 00:04:20.959 --> 00:04:26.720 that's the, that's the logical conclusion that we'd have to draw. And if we believe 46 00:04:26.720 --> 00:04:35.960 that, then who, who, where are we usually going to see the pressure that we feel under 47 00:04:35.960 --> 00:04:40.000 for our business to succeed? Where are we going to particularly find that we're going 48 00:04:40.000 --> 00:04:44.680 to particularly see that pressure come out in our relationships with other people, that 49 00:04:44.680 --> 00:04:48.200 we're going to try to micromanage the employees, that we're going to get very frustrated or 50 00:04:48.200 --> 00:04:54.960 very emotionally affected by our clients and our clients are responding to us, or whether 51 00:04:54.960 --> 00:05:00.000 or not a vendor is able to actually make the supply by the expected. 52 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:04.680 and pay for supply that we had ordered or not. 53 00:05:04.680 --> 00:05:08.520 That's when all of our, it's in situations like that, 54 00:05:08.520 --> 00:05:11.160 that what it is that we actually believe 55 00:05:11.160 --> 00:05:13.720 about whether or not God is providing for us, 56 00:05:13.720 --> 00:05:16.520 that's where it ends up showing out and showing up, 57 00:05:16.520 --> 00:05:19.280 what it is that we actually truly believe. 58 00:05:19.280 --> 00:05:21.080 It's important that we talk about this tonight 59 00:05:21.080 --> 00:05:22.700 instead of last night, actually. 60 00:05:22.700 --> 00:05:24.400 So it ends up working out really well. 61 00:05:24.400 --> 00:05:28.240 So remember that God is providing for us 62 00:05:28.240 --> 00:05:31.820 in the fact that we are in a state of provision, 63 00:05:31.820 --> 00:05:34.400 and y'all have all heard me talk about this before, 64 00:05:34.400 --> 00:05:38.480 that we're in a substance and an environment, 65 00:05:38.480 --> 00:05:39.440 we're gonna be talking tonight 66 00:05:39.440 --> 00:05:42.120 about how we provide that environment for others. 67 00:05:42.120 --> 00:05:43.280 How do we know to do that? 68 00:05:43.280 --> 00:05:46.800 Because our father is doing that for us. 69 00:05:46.800 --> 00:05:50.040 He's being a leader, he's being a king in our lives, 70 00:05:50.040 --> 00:05:53.440 and he's providing us with a particular environment 71 00:05:53.440 --> 00:05:56.120 that sustains us and supports us, 72 00:05:56.120 --> 00:05:58.400 and what it is, and operating according 73 00:05:58.400 --> 00:06:00.800 to the way he intended us to function. 74 00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:03.000 We then, trying to look like our father 75 00:06:03.000 --> 00:06:05.960 and trying to copy our father and act just like him, 76 00:06:05.960 --> 00:06:08.160 we then do that for other people. 77 00:06:08.160 --> 00:06:10.560 But we know that we're to do that for other people 78 00:06:10.560 --> 00:06:12.000 because we're looking at our father 79 00:06:12.000 --> 00:06:14.040 and watching him do that for us. 80 00:06:14.040 --> 00:06:16.880 It's very, very crucial that we go all the way back 81 00:06:16.880 --> 00:06:19.560 to the foundation of this and realize 82 00:06:19.560 --> 00:06:22.760 and truly let go of this belief 83 00:06:22.760 --> 00:06:25.840 that we are provided for by money 84 00:06:26.520 --> 00:06:28.160 or we are provided for by our business. 85 00:06:28.160 --> 00:06:31.240 And that, oh yeah, yeah, God gave us the business. 86 00:06:31.240 --> 00:06:35.000 So God's providing for us through the business, 87 00:06:35.000 --> 00:06:37.400 that the business is actually the thing 88 00:06:37.400 --> 00:06:38.880 that he gave us to provide for us. 89 00:06:38.880 --> 00:06:42.600 No, so your business can completely tank 90 00:06:42.600 --> 00:06:45.560 and it doesn't bear any weight whatsoever 91 00:06:45.560 --> 00:06:48.080 in whether or not God is actually continuing 92 00:06:48.080 --> 00:06:50.720 to provide for you. 93 00:06:50.720 --> 00:06:54.840 God provides for me all the time, constantly. 94 00:06:54.840 --> 00:06:58.120 I have the wildest stories, 95 00:06:58.120 --> 00:07:02.560 absolute, miraculous, wild stories 96 00:07:02.560 --> 00:07:04.360 of God providing for me all the time, 97 00:07:05.280 --> 00:07:09.520 even when I'm not engaging with 98 00:07:09.520 --> 00:07:14.280 or interacting with new clients or anything like that, 99 00:07:14.280 --> 00:07:16.680 anything that someone would think of as traditionally, 100 00:07:16.680 --> 00:07:20.120 oh, well, obviously this is how money flows 101 00:07:20.120 --> 00:07:22.560 in and out of Ashley's life. 102 00:07:22.560 --> 00:07:25.200 No, and that's not my provision. 103 00:07:25.200 --> 00:07:27.680 God is always providing for me. 104 00:07:27.680 --> 00:07:32.480 So therefore, what is money in business? 105 00:07:32.480 --> 00:07:35.760 Remember me talking in other teachings 106 00:07:35.760 --> 00:07:37.800 about the fact that business, 107 00:07:37.800 --> 00:07:41.320 the purpose of business is actually not money. 108 00:07:42.080 --> 00:07:44.480 The purpose of business is the movement of money. 109 00:07:44.480 --> 00:07:45.800 And even deeper than that, 110 00:07:45.800 --> 00:07:49.000 the purpose of business is movement. 111 00:07:49.000 --> 00:07:51.040 That's why we have business. 112 00:07:51.040 --> 00:07:52.920 That's why we operate in business 113 00:07:52.920 --> 00:07:56.560 is because God desires us to help, 114 00:07:56.560 --> 00:07:59.000 desires that to help, 115 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:02.640 to be something that engages with us 116 00:08:02.640 --> 00:08:06.840 in order to facilitate movement in some form and creation. 117 00:08:06.840 --> 00:08:09.920 And that's what we're being a part of. 118 00:08:09.920 --> 00:08:13.400 So the purpose of business is not the money. 119 00:08:13.400 --> 00:08:16.480 So therefore, what's this whole thing then about money? 120 00:08:16.480 --> 00:08:17.480 Why is it in there? 121 00:08:17.480 --> 00:08:20.320 And why do we feel that we need the business 122 00:08:20.320 --> 00:08:21.920 in order to have the money 123 00:08:21.920 --> 00:08:26.240 so we can have whatever it is, 124 00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:29.440 have a particular type of security 125 00:08:29.440 --> 00:08:31.840 that we feel that it is, quote, unquote, 126 00:08:31.840 --> 00:08:33.919 marks that the business is successful, 127 00:08:33.919 --> 00:08:36.320 meaning that therefore I'm okay. 128 00:08:36.320 --> 00:08:38.799 And I know therefore who I am because I have a title. 129 00:08:38.799 --> 00:08:40.480 I am, quote, unquote, life coach, 130 00:08:40.480 --> 00:08:42.559 or I am, quote, unquote, counselor, 131 00:08:42.559 --> 00:08:46.080 or I am whoever it is that you are. 132 00:08:46.080 --> 00:08:48.840 I'm network marketer, I'm whatnot. 133 00:08:48.880 --> 00:08:51.040 I'm CEO, I'm entrepreneur. 134 00:08:52.120 --> 00:08:57.120 We have to let go of this, of our hold on money 135 00:08:57.840 --> 00:09:01.200 or else in order to be at rest, 136 00:09:01.200 --> 00:09:03.280 because if we don't, 137 00:09:03.280 --> 00:09:05.880 then we're gonna continue to be in unrest 138 00:09:05.880 --> 00:09:08.200 and we're gonna have to continue to work for 139 00:09:08.200 --> 00:09:10.280 everything that comes into our business. 140 00:09:10.280 --> 00:09:14.640 Everything is, I always use the number 10 times harder, 141 00:09:14.640 --> 00:09:16.640 but it's probably even harder than that. 142 00:09:17.080 --> 00:09:22.080 It's, so our provision is not in the actual money. 143 00:09:24.000 --> 00:09:25.600 God's providing for us anyway. 144 00:09:25.600 --> 00:09:30.000 So the actual money itself is the way in which, 145 00:09:30.000 --> 00:09:31.640 okay, let me back up so that, 146 00:09:31.640 --> 00:09:34.920 so I can remind us of how we get to this conclusion. 147 00:09:34.920 --> 00:09:39.920 Remember that our destiny here on earth is to, 148 00:09:40.200 --> 00:09:43.880 excuse me, is to make the invisible visible. 149 00:09:43.920 --> 00:09:46.680 So if God is providing for us in the invisible, 150 00:09:46.680 --> 00:09:48.680 that's where our provision is. 151 00:09:48.680 --> 00:09:51.000 It's a state, it's an environment in which we exist 152 00:09:51.000 --> 00:09:53.360 that sustains and supports us to function 153 00:09:53.360 --> 00:09:55.880 according to the way that God intended us to function. 154 00:09:55.880 --> 00:09:59.840 The money is how that, that is something that we is. 155 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:06.480 is something that results when we co-labor with God to make the truth of what is in spirit 156 00:10:06.480 --> 00:10:12.960 actually visible down into the soul and finally down into the physical realm of the body and we 157 00:10:12.960 --> 00:10:20.880 actually see and experience money transfer in the world. That's the visible expression of the fact 158 00:10:20.880 --> 00:10:27.360 that God is already providing for us. We have to co-labor and co-partner with him in the fact that 159 00:10:27.360 --> 00:10:33.440 he gives us word and we believe that word. He says that he's provision. He says that he provides for 160 00:10:33.440 --> 00:10:38.240 us and then we receive that word. We truly in faith receive that word meaning that in order 161 00:10:38.240 --> 00:10:45.680 for it to be faith we have to step out on it. All of this before we ever see the money because 162 00:10:45.680 --> 00:10:54.800 us doing that creates the money. That is where money comes in in your business. You help create 163 00:10:54.800 --> 00:10:59.680 it by your co-laboring with the Lord that you believe that he is who he says that he is. 164 00:11:00.320 --> 00:11:07.200 It's proof. Now that being said that was actually a very simple way of describing a larger 165 00:11:07.200 --> 00:11:14.240 principle that's actually at play. Remember that money is only one form in which the 166 00:11:15.120 --> 00:11:22.240 which provision that in the spirit is actually physically manifest. Provision can manifest in a 167 00:11:22.240 --> 00:11:30.080 multitude of ways. Money is just one of them. So if you're not seeing a lot of money remember a lot 168 00:11:30.080 --> 00:11:36.880 in other words volume is a standard that the world uses in order to measure success or failure or 169 00:11:36.880 --> 00:11:46.320 whatever in order to measure money. But when you and the Lord are co-laboring together 170 00:11:47.040 --> 00:11:55.040 provision and everything else that that business is set in is meant to create movement of in the 171 00:11:55.040 --> 00:12:02.160 in the earth will take on a variety of forms. It won't just be money. It will be in the transformed 172 00:12:02.160 --> 00:12:10.240 lives of your employees, the transformed lives of your clients, or the fact that well there's 173 00:12:11.120 --> 00:12:14.320 my goodness there's so many different things I could say. You're talking about the implementation 174 00:12:14.320 --> 00:12:18.960 of a business systems that you have in your business and the different aspects of creation 175 00:12:18.960 --> 00:12:23.840 that all of the that that those systems are connected to and that those things are affecting. 176 00:12:23.840 --> 00:12:29.840 There's even stuff going on in that area as well that's part of creation that you are creating it 177 00:12:29.840 --> 00:12:34.560 you as the as um let's just make it simple and say as as the business owner but even if you're 178 00:12:34.560 --> 00:12:39.520 the employee you know whatever it is you're touching your projects your your systems whatever 179 00:12:39.520 --> 00:12:46.160 that you are it's almost like an aspect of a kingdom that you have an authority over and you 180 00:12:46.160 --> 00:12:54.160 are creating movement within creation in those various areas interpersonal relationships 181 00:12:54.160 --> 00:13:00.800 business systems and then sometimes in money. So I say that so that people won't think 182 00:13:01.360 --> 00:13:10.240 that okay well that that we so that we can stop um we can stop using money as this measure by 183 00:13:10.240 --> 00:13:16.720 which we are are determining that God is pleased with us that we picked the right business that 184 00:13:16.720 --> 00:13:22.320 we've heard God correctly that we're doing it right that if we're being successful whatever 185 00:13:23.120 --> 00:13:27.440 that we really are co-laboring with the Lord you know oh well Ashley says that you know we 186 00:13:27.520 --> 00:13:31.120 we'd see money you know if we co-labor with the Lord and I'm not saying money 187 00:13:31.120 --> 00:13:35.680 no no what we we see all kinds of other things remember the point of business isn't money the 188 00:13:35.680 --> 00:13:41.760 point of business is movement you're creating movement in various areas of your business 189 00:13:41.760 --> 00:13:50.720 money is just one of them. So excuse me uh so very very important reason why all of that 190 00:13:50.720 --> 00:13:56.400 is very important to mention now is when we are now going to be talking about clients 191 00:13:57.280 --> 00:14:03.760 we can get very sharp with clients we can get very sharp with vendors very sharp with employees 192 00:14:03.760 --> 00:14:09.680 wanting to micromanage the projects very aware of of the desire to do so I have lived through this 193 00:14:09.680 --> 00:14:18.240 many times uh and because we think that we are going somewhere in particular and that they are 194 00:14:18.240 --> 00:14:24.560 hindering it that they're hindering our ability to manifest into the earth they are hindering our 195 00:14:24.560 --> 00:14:34.640 co-laboring with the Lord no no they're not so we and also the uh for one thing they're not doing 196 00:14:34.640 --> 00:14:42.320 that and for for another that getting the result or not getting the results remember is up to the 197 00:14:42.320 --> 00:14:47.280 Lord not up to us we just go labor with them together and just enjoy the process we enjoy 198 00:14:47.280 --> 00:14:54.640 being part of it just like we allow aspects of creation to be part of our interaction with the 199 00:14:54.640 --> 00:15:00.400 earth but we and our spirit is what breathes life and creates life 200 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:05.080 creates the result through whatever, through whatever it is that we're doing. 201 00:15:05.080 --> 00:15:10.560 And it's not actually creation itself, that tool that we've used, that we used 202 00:15:10.560 --> 00:15:13.880 to think according to the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, that, uh, 203 00:15:13.920 --> 00:15:17.680 was actually creating the result and that we needed and that we were subjected to. 204 00:15:17.680 --> 00:15:18.880 And it was more powerful than us. 205 00:15:18.880 --> 00:15:20.440 And we needed it in order to get a result. 206 00:15:20.680 --> 00:15:22.120 We've learned, no, it's not. 207 00:15:22.400 --> 00:15:26.280 We actually create the result, but we allow that aspect of creation to 208 00:15:26.280 --> 00:15:29.440 partner with us in the dance and the journey. 209 00:15:29.880 --> 00:15:33.360 We can pick any part of creation to, uh, to, to do this with us. 210 00:15:33.520 --> 00:15:34.840 How do we want to form our business? 211 00:15:34.840 --> 00:15:38.680 And what, what, um, what, what does our business model look like? 212 00:15:39.000 --> 00:15:44.480 That is an aspect of creation that we have chosen to partner with how we want 213 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:50.400 to facilitate movement into the earth, but it doesn't create, we didn't need 214 00:15:50.400 --> 00:15:52.080 it in order to create the movement. 215 00:15:52.680 --> 00:15:54.280 We allowed it to partner with us. 216 00:15:54.960 --> 00:15:59.360 So when I mentioned that, so we need to relieve this, uh, uh, 217 00:15:59.640 --> 00:16:06.480 relieve our strangleholds on, on clients, on our employees, excuse me, 218 00:16:06.680 --> 00:16:09.040 and all these other people, the vendors, et cetera. 219 00:16:10.480 --> 00:16:12.240 Uh, now remember that. 220 00:16:12.240 --> 00:16:15.440 So let's first talk to talk about prospective clients. 221 00:16:15.640 --> 00:16:22.440 So when you've got clients that you, um, that you, well, when you have people 222 00:16:22.440 --> 00:16:27.560 that you want to become your client or that you're wondering if, you know, 223 00:16:27.560 --> 00:16:31.520 they've called, contacted you, they, um, he's going to get a little, little 224 00:16:31.520 --> 00:16:33.080 try and they've contacted you. 225 00:16:33.080 --> 00:16:34.000 They've sought you out. 226 00:16:38.680 --> 00:16:41.480 Basically that you are on a sales call. 227 00:16:42.720 --> 00:16:46.080 Um, remember that however you get someone is how you're 228 00:16:46.080 --> 00:16:47.360 going to have to maintain them. 229 00:16:48.520 --> 00:16:50.120 So you want them to come. 230 00:16:50.240 --> 00:16:51.600 You want them to do all the work. 231 00:16:52.520 --> 00:16:53.960 You want them to choose you. 232 00:16:54.920 --> 00:17:00.800 Now you get to choose whether or not you want to, whether or not you want to. 233 00:17:01.600 --> 00:17:06.319 Uh, uh, contribute because relationship is a two way street, whether or not 234 00:17:06.319 --> 00:17:11.960 this is relationship that you want to, but you, but you do want them to have 235 00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:16.800 to choose you out of their free roll choice, not because they were convinced. 236 00:17:17.960 --> 00:17:21.359 So however you get them is going to be how, how you maintain them. 237 00:17:21.359 --> 00:17:27.040 So if you get them because you've convinced them, you will find that you 238 00:17:27.040 --> 00:17:29.120 will have to continue convincing them. 239 00:17:30.040 --> 00:17:35.320 If, especially if you're a coach or, or a, or a counselor, but even, even, even 240 00:17:35.320 --> 00:17:39.920 if you are actually selling a product, selling an actual product or service, 241 00:17:39.920 --> 00:17:44.400 you will find that they will, because you've got them by trying to convince 242 00:17:44.400 --> 00:17:47.920 them, you will have, they, they lean on you. 243 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:51.920 They they've actually hired you to be the new person in their life 244 00:17:51.920 --> 00:17:53.200 that convinces them of things. 245 00:17:54.720 --> 00:17:56.960 That is, that is why they bought into you. 246 00:17:57.080 --> 00:17:59.600 That's why they bought your product and why they bought your service. 247 00:17:59.640 --> 00:18:01.720 They bought you to support them. 248 00:18:02.800 --> 00:18:06.760 In other words, to give them whatever it is that they need to be supported 249 00:18:06.760 --> 00:18:10.400 and bolstered or to, to understand the right decision, you know, to be 250 00:18:10.400 --> 00:18:13.000 informed or whatever, they're not taking ownership of their lives. 251 00:18:13.520 --> 00:18:17.800 And those types of clients are extremely difficult to work with or customers. 252 00:18:17.800 --> 00:18:22.040 You know, even if it's like buying a product that they're very difficult. 253 00:18:22.400 --> 00:18:26.400 We think that, well, we all have these great intentions. 254 00:18:26.400 --> 00:18:27.360 We all have these great ideas. 255 00:18:27.360 --> 00:18:31.720 Like, well, I just know that once they get in it, once they get in it, they're 256 00:18:31.720 --> 00:18:34.280 going to see, and once they get in it, well, then they're going to own it. 257 00:18:34.760 --> 00:18:38.760 I'm telling you what, that, that is extremely rare. 258 00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:42.080 I have been in a lot of industries. 259 00:18:42.080 --> 00:18:43.800 I don't know how many industries I've been in. 260 00:18:44.160 --> 00:18:46.280 I've been in over 10. 261 00:18:46.280 --> 00:18:50.560 I think it's probably at least 15 now, at least. 262 00:18:50.600 --> 00:18:51.680 And it might be more than that. 263 00:18:52.280 --> 00:18:53.680 Um, and that's just industry. 264 00:18:53.680 --> 00:18:55.000 So it doesn't even include companies. 265 00:18:56.520 --> 00:19:01.720 It's very, very, very, very, very, very, very rare that, that people begin 266 00:19:01.720 --> 00:19:03.640 to own something after they get in. 267 00:19:03.880 --> 00:19:08.320 Even if they get excited about it and they start and they become convinced. 268 00:19:08.920 --> 00:19:14.480 They still don't know how to transition into owning it for themselves. 269 00:19:14.640 --> 00:19:20.200 So you want them to own it for themselves from the get go, because it sets up a 270 00:19:20.200 --> 00:19:25.720 very healthy spiritual atmosphere that they have been in that the two 271 00:19:25.720 --> 00:19:27.280 of you have been entered into. 272 00:19:28.760 --> 00:19:31.960 Um, so just remember that however you get them is how you maintain them. 273 00:19:31.960 --> 00:19:35.720 So if you get them in rest and you interact with them in rest, including, 274 00:19:36.040 --> 00:19:38.880 I'm going to throw this wild thing in here, um, this random thing 275 00:19:38.880 --> 00:19:40.040 here, including your friends. 276 00:19:40.240 --> 00:19:42.840 If you get your friends in rest, you get to keep them in rest without 277 00:19:42.840 --> 00:19:45.800 having to work so hard for them and trying to make them happy and keep 278 00:19:45.800 --> 00:19:50.680 them happy because you got them because they liked you and, and they, and 279 00:19:50.680 --> 00:19:52.560 you got them because you liked them. 280 00:19:53.400 --> 00:19:55.920 It is just very, very easy and very effortless. 281 00:19:56.160 --> 00:19:58.160 So however you get something, it's how you maintain it. 282 00:19:58.160 --> 00:20:00.040 So if you work for it, you're going to have to continue. 283 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:04.320 need to work for it in order to keep it. But if you do it and if you attract it and rest, 284 00:20:04.320 --> 00:20:09.360 just by being who it is that you are, and are attracted to that because that resonates with them, 285 00:20:09.920 --> 00:20:15.280 then, excuse me, then that's how you get to keep it. It's very effortless. 286 00:20:16.960 --> 00:20:20.320 One of the reasons we don't like it is because we don't get to control it. 287 00:20:20.960 --> 00:20:27.200 But remember, if we're relying on the Lord to provide for us, and we realize that it's 288 00:20:27.200 --> 00:20:30.640 not our business that's providing for us, and our business is not even the means by 289 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:37.200 which God is providing for us, technically speaking, then we've released our stranglehold 290 00:20:37.200 --> 00:20:45.200 on this situation. And therefore, it doesn't matter whether they join us or not. The majority 291 00:20:45.200 --> 00:20:53.200 of the people, and I'm just using my recent situation as an example, the majority of people 292 00:20:53.200 --> 00:21:02.000 that I have everybody seek me out about the rest intensive or anything like the conferences or 293 00:21:02.000 --> 00:21:09.040 anything. I have them seek me out. And in fact, it was months and months and months. I don't know 294 00:21:09.040 --> 00:21:15.040 how many months, like 10, 8, 10 months before I even started mentioning what it is I did unless 295 00:21:15.040 --> 00:21:24.400 someone asked. So I have just learned that it's just so much easier if I let them work for it, 296 00:21:24.400 --> 00:21:29.520 if I let them ask questions and seek it out. And would you know that of all of the people 297 00:21:29.520 --> 00:21:37.760 that seek me out, and we're talking like they did through a lot of effort, they will contact me, 298 00:21:37.760 --> 00:21:42.960 you know, who's usually a stranger, they'll contact me, and then they will go back and 299 00:21:42.960 --> 00:21:47.200 forth. And then they will say, Yes, I do want to do this. So they're committing to set aside time 300 00:21:47.200 --> 00:21:51.040 to meet with a stranger about something that's very personal that I don't know might make them 301 00:21:51.040 --> 00:21:56.720 feel very vulnerable. I have no idea what that is. That make them might make them feel very 302 00:21:56.720 --> 00:22:00.320 vulnerable. And then they set aside time and rework their schedule, especially if they're if 303 00:22:00.320 --> 00:22:03.760 they have if they have children, then they have to make sure that they're that they've got child 304 00:22:03.760 --> 00:22:10.000 care and all of that in order to meet that in order to meet that particular time with me. And 305 00:22:10.000 --> 00:22:17.600 then they sit with me an hour and we talk about things. And I and more than half of them, 306 00:22:17.600 --> 00:22:23.120 the majority of them do not join. I spent hours and hours and hours and hours and hours 307 00:22:23.120 --> 00:22:28.080 on video calls with people. And they all love it. They all love it. They all think it's a wonderful 308 00:22:28.080 --> 00:22:35.520 idea. But when push comes to shove, they don't actually do it. And in so the majority of the 309 00:22:35.520 --> 00:22:42.320 people that I interact with don't ever end up joining. And that's fine. So I don't go in with 310 00:22:42.320 --> 00:22:48.880 this expectation that, oh, I bet you that they're going to join or whatever. I just go in to meet 311 00:22:48.880 --> 00:22:56.960 someone new, get to visit with them and and me show up. Because otherwise, if I don't show up, 312 00:22:56.960 --> 00:23:02.480 I'm not giving them anything to respond to and then to and then to have anything to make a decision 313 00:23:02.480 --> 00:23:08.560 about. So I need to put on my own oxygen mask person. I need to be present in order to allow 314 00:23:09.280 --> 00:23:13.440 them to have something to respond to. And like I said, make a decision about 315 00:23:13.440 --> 00:23:16.960 if I want them to own their own lives, I need to give them something to own, 316 00:23:18.160 --> 00:23:26.800 so to speak, in that in that particular situation. So you really do need to to just kind of let go 317 00:23:26.800 --> 00:23:35.360 of all of that. And then you want to attract by being who you want. So this is this is how I 318 00:23:35.360 --> 00:23:43.840 recommend attracting that you want to be who you want to attract. So in other words, you want to 319 00:23:43.840 --> 00:23:52.800 create the environment that someone that someone else you want to create a particular environment 320 00:23:52.800 --> 00:23:59.760 that you want to work in. And then and then the people that that type of environment resonates 321 00:23:59.760 --> 00:24:05.360 with will be attracted to you. That is how I recommend doing that, as opposed to 322 00:24:07.200 --> 00:24:13.520 figuring out what it is that other people want, because every we all know that cliche, what is 323 00:24:13.520 --> 00:24:17.680 that cliche? I'd say we all know it. And then here I am thinking about it, which I think is pretty 324 00:24:17.680 --> 00:24:28.560 funny. But the the cliche that you that I may not I may not phrase it exactly right. But basically, 325 00:24:29.360 --> 00:24:34.800 for who, however many people you ask, you get that many different answers to the same question. 326 00:24:34.800 --> 00:24:42.160 I mean, because everybody has a has a different opinion on the subject. Everybody, everybody that 327 00:24:42.160 --> 00:24:48.720 you ask is going to give you a new grocery list of what it is that they think is best and what it 328 00:24:48.720 --> 00:24:54.160 is that they want. What I recommend, because I've done it both ways, I've taught people how to do 329 00:24:54.160 --> 00:24:59.920 that. I've done it myself. It's so hard. That work is just so very hard. And again, however you. 330 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:04.000 However, you get something is how you have to maintain it. 331 00:25:04.000 --> 00:25:10.000 So what I recommend doing is you put on your own oxygen mask first. 332 00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:14.000 You operate out of the spirit. You live out loud. 333 00:25:14.000 --> 00:25:23.000 And then you create a particular environment that provides someone something to be attracted to. 334 00:25:23.000 --> 00:25:32.000 And then just allow them to allow who it is that you are in the spirit of the Lord coming out of you, which has the ability to breathe life into them. 335 00:25:32.000 --> 00:25:41.000 Allow that to be something that they want that they can choose to resonate with and desire to have for themselves. 336 00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:52.000 Everything is effortless, then you're running your business by being you're running your business by living, not by having learned something and then trying to implement it, etc. 337 00:25:52.000 --> 00:25:58.000 So attract by by being who you want to attract. 338 00:25:58.000 --> 00:26:09.000 Because and be who it is just that you are, you are yourself don't become something that you think don't decide who you want to work with. 339 00:26:09.000 --> 00:26:12.000 I know that's what business business like coaches always say, right? 340 00:26:12.000 --> 00:26:17.000 You know, who's your ideal client? Nothing wrong with that. 341 00:26:17.000 --> 00:26:26.000 But the thing is that usually what we do is we go outside of ourselves to try to try to decide what it is that we want. 342 00:26:26.000 --> 00:26:33.000 No, no, no. We need to be the thing. And then when we be the thing, the people that we want to work with will come to us. 343 00:26:33.000 --> 00:26:38.000 Those that will be who is attracted to that is who will resonate with you. 344 00:26:38.000 --> 00:26:44.000 It happens to be the people you like to work with that that that's who we like to work with the people that resonate with us. 345 00:26:44.000 --> 00:26:59.000 So if you just start from that end, instead of from this one, you will everything will be done in rest and you will attract the people that you actually want to work with, as opposed to having to define that on the outside. 346 00:26:59.000 --> 00:27:11.000 Again, there's nothing wrong with that. It's just that usually the way we end up doing it is we are looking outside of ourselves to determine what who is out there and who might I want to work with. 347 00:27:11.000 --> 00:27:16.000 No, you just be and you just put yourself out there and then and then they'll be attracted. 348 00:27:16.000 --> 00:27:25.000 So like I said, live out loud. Just live out loud. Just be who it is that you are. And it just live out loud. 349 00:27:25.000 --> 00:27:36.000 I'm telling you what I it is so much fun. I do these business conferences because they're fun. I do. Well, I mean, this is the first one that I've done that specifically only about business and nothing else. 350 00:27:36.000 --> 00:27:47.000 But, well, since I've talked to started talking about rest prior to rest. That's all I did for business conferences, but I would or business teaching session. 351 00:27:47.000 --> 00:27:56.000 But the conference that I just did in the interest rest conference or the fact that I'm doing the rest intensive. I'm doing that because that's what I wanted to do. 352 00:27:56.000 --> 00:28:04.000 That's how I wanted to live life. That's what I thought was fun because it's what naturally comes up out of me without me trying. 353 00:28:04.000 --> 00:28:15.000 And so that's why I recommend that people build their businesses or their ministries out of who it is that they are. So you're going to want to create an environment that others want to be part of. 354 00:28:16.000 --> 00:28:33.000 This goes for network marketers as well. All of this goes for ministries, for brick and mortars, for network marketers, for coaches, counselors, mentors, whoever. 355 00:28:34.000 --> 00:28:48.000 But I'm specifically going to mention something about the network marketing because it kind of has an interest, its own type of structure and the fact that you have a downline and an upline. 356 00:28:48.000 --> 00:28:57.000 So when you're wanting to attract people, not just to buy a particular product or service, but you're wanting to attract people to be part of your team. 357 00:28:58.000 --> 00:29:09.000 Again, create an environment that you want to work in. Again, whoever it is that you are, create that environment. 358 00:29:09.000 --> 00:29:18.000 And then whoever wants to be part of that environment is who will be attracted to it. You will find that the people that end up coming to your downline are a lot easier to work with. 359 00:29:18.000 --> 00:29:37.000 They're a lot easier to, they don't, because you've allowed them, you've attracted them by, you've attracted people who own their own lives, who own their own decisions, as opposed to being convinced that they could get what it is that they're wanting by joining network marketing. 360 00:29:38.000 --> 00:29:44.000 Because, hey, then you can just stay at home and then you can have your own flexible schedule and, you know, all the usual stuff that's talked about with network marketing. 361 00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:58.000 Instead of the convincing of, hey, this can get you what you want, it's instead from this perspective of they decide for themselves what it is that they want to do out of who it is that they are. 362 00:29:58.000 --> 00:29:59.000 Not what thing. 363 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.360 will get them what they want. 364 00:30:02.360 --> 00:30:06.120 Because we all know that there's a lot of effort and exertion 365 00:30:06.120 --> 00:30:09.640 that has to go into getting the result that 366 00:30:09.640 --> 00:30:11.520 will give them what they want. 367 00:30:11.520 --> 00:30:13.880 And people are going to get frustrated. 368 00:30:13.880 --> 00:30:15.720 They are very difficult to manage. 369 00:30:15.720 --> 00:30:18.440 They're very difficult to lead because they haven't owned 370 00:30:18.440 --> 00:30:19.520 something for themselves. 371 00:30:19.520 --> 00:30:23.240 They're not doing something out of their own will, 372 00:30:23.240 --> 00:30:24.800 out of their own intention. 373 00:30:24.800 --> 00:30:29.440 They're acting more like victims where 374 00:30:29.480 --> 00:30:32.040 they are in a situation that they don't want to be in 375 00:30:32.040 --> 00:30:35.040 and that they want to be saved from. 376 00:30:35.040 --> 00:30:36.680 And so if they want to be saved from it, 377 00:30:36.680 --> 00:30:40.120 they're already not taking ownership enough of their lives 378 00:30:40.120 --> 00:30:42.680 to understand that they actually have to put forth 379 00:30:42.680 --> 00:30:45.320 a lot of work and a lot of effort, usually, 380 00:30:46.400 --> 00:30:48.600 if you're not, because most people operate 381 00:30:48.600 --> 00:30:50.640 according to the truth, knowledge, good and evil, 382 00:30:50.640 --> 00:30:53.480 and put forth a lot of work and a lot of effort 383 00:30:53.480 --> 00:30:56.000 in order to get a result. 384 00:30:56.000 --> 00:30:59.000 And it's the very opposite of what it is 385 00:30:59.040 --> 00:31:00.520 that they're actually wanting. 386 00:31:01.720 --> 00:31:05.080 They like the result, but they don't like how it is 387 00:31:05.080 --> 00:31:07.000 that they have to get the result. 388 00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:11.440 So that's, so you'll want to attract people. 389 00:31:11.440 --> 00:31:13.720 You want to create an environment that attracts people 390 00:31:13.720 --> 00:31:17.080 who already own their own lives and are doing things 391 00:31:17.080 --> 00:31:19.560 because they choose, this is what I want to do. 392 00:31:19.560 --> 00:31:21.400 Not, I want that result. 393 00:31:21.400 --> 00:31:24.200 Okay, what out here can get me that? 394 00:31:25.920 --> 00:31:28.640 There's too much that is required of themselves 395 00:31:29.280 --> 00:31:30.120 in order to get the result 396 00:31:30.120 --> 00:31:33.800 that they're extremely difficult downlines. 397 00:31:35.960 --> 00:31:37.080 So throwing that in there, 398 00:31:37.080 --> 00:31:40.640 because I coached network marketers as well. 399 00:31:42.440 --> 00:31:44.960 And well, about REST. 400 00:31:44.960 --> 00:31:47.560 And before I did the REST intensive, 401 00:31:47.560 --> 00:31:50.280 I had people that I would work with 402 00:31:50.280 --> 00:31:54.000 that had a network marketing company. 403 00:31:54.000 --> 00:31:57.720 And okay, then, so, okay, now, 404 00:31:57.720 --> 00:31:59.840 also in prospective clients, 405 00:31:59.840 --> 00:32:02.160 when you are visiting with them, 406 00:32:02.160 --> 00:32:06.040 when you're on a sales call, 407 00:32:06.040 --> 00:32:08.400 you know, you're on a clarity call, 408 00:32:08.400 --> 00:32:11.600 which sounds just a lot softer and a lot nicer, 409 00:32:11.600 --> 00:32:12.920 but it's been used so often 410 00:32:12.920 --> 00:32:14.640 that everybody knows what that is. 411 00:32:16.040 --> 00:32:18.280 Everybody's trying to see if we're a good fit. 412 00:32:18.280 --> 00:32:20.240 It's new, I think it's really fun. 413 00:32:20.240 --> 00:32:21.280 I've completely used it. 414 00:32:21.280 --> 00:32:23.920 I just noticed that everybody else is using it too. 415 00:32:23.920 --> 00:32:25.400 I just thought, this is hilarious. 416 00:32:25.400 --> 00:32:27.240 It's the new trend in business. 417 00:32:27.240 --> 00:32:29.680 But anyway, so it's very clever. 418 00:32:29.680 --> 00:32:31.640 Whoever came up with the inspirations, 419 00:32:31.640 --> 00:32:34.520 it's really good. 420 00:32:34.520 --> 00:32:36.440 And it is closer to the truth 421 00:32:36.440 --> 00:32:38.800 as the way that we ought to be interacting with people. 422 00:32:38.800 --> 00:32:42.440 So, you know, even the world is learning 423 00:32:42.440 --> 00:32:45.960 that the old systems are not working as, 424 00:32:47.120 --> 00:32:49.960 and that actually they're a lot harder. 425 00:32:49.960 --> 00:32:53.240 And so they are noticing new systems and new principles 426 00:32:53.240 --> 00:32:55.160 the Lord has actually had in place 427 00:32:55.160 --> 00:32:58.000 for thousands and thousands and thousands of years. 428 00:32:58.000 --> 00:33:01.120 But in regardless of whether it's clarity calls, 429 00:33:01.120 --> 00:33:03.200 sales call, whatever you wanna call it, 430 00:33:04.680 --> 00:33:06.960 what you're actually trying to do 431 00:33:06.960 --> 00:33:09.520 is you were trying to empower the person, 432 00:33:10.720 --> 00:33:12.760 not convince them. 433 00:33:12.760 --> 00:33:17.760 You're trying to empower them by helping them clear the, 434 00:33:17.800 --> 00:33:22.800 excuse me, by helping them clear the fog 435 00:33:23.640 --> 00:33:25.480 in their own minds. 436 00:33:25.480 --> 00:33:27.400 That's not allowing them to make the decision 437 00:33:27.400 --> 00:33:29.880 because they don't, there's too much noise. 438 00:33:29.880 --> 00:33:31.600 They don't know what it is that they want. 439 00:33:31.600 --> 00:33:35.000 And so they're coming to you to try to tell them 440 00:33:35.000 --> 00:33:39.520 to try to overpower the noise in their own mind. 441 00:33:39.520 --> 00:33:42.360 That is a lot of work on your part. 442 00:33:43.320 --> 00:33:45.320 And then what they're gonna do is 443 00:33:45.320 --> 00:33:48.360 because they're not used to quieting their own noise 444 00:33:48.360 --> 00:33:49.840 to make their own decision. 445 00:33:49.840 --> 00:33:51.160 If you do convince them 446 00:33:51.200 --> 00:33:52.880 because you overpower the noise, 447 00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:55.520 the white noise in their own mind 448 00:33:55.520 --> 00:33:57.720 and you overpower the fog, 449 00:33:57.720 --> 00:33:59.720 then they're gonna always rely on you 450 00:33:59.720 --> 00:34:01.320 to continue to do that. 451 00:34:01.320 --> 00:34:03.160 Again, they're not owning it for themselves. 452 00:34:03.160 --> 00:34:05.240 So what I highly recommend is you go in 453 00:34:05.240 --> 00:34:08.719 and you help them clear the fog from their own mind 454 00:34:08.719 --> 00:34:13.120 so that they can empower them 455 00:34:13.120 --> 00:34:15.679 to make a decision based on their own values 456 00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:17.760 as opposed to convincing them 457 00:34:17.760 --> 00:34:21.280 that they should have different values than they do, 458 00:34:21.280 --> 00:34:24.159 that they should want what it is that you have, 459 00:34:24.159 --> 00:34:26.320 that you have to give them and that you have to offer them, 460 00:34:26.320 --> 00:34:27.840 that they should want freedom. 461 00:34:28.880 --> 00:34:31.280 They should want rest. 462 00:34:31.280 --> 00:34:33.840 They should want, and I'm just using my own things. 463 00:34:33.840 --> 00:34:36.239 I mean, whatever it is that y'all, 464 00:34:36.239 --> 00:34:38.719 that you sell or you coach about or whatever, 465 00:34:38.719 --> 00:34:40.800 that they should want healing. 466 00:34:40.800 --> 00:34:43.679 No, I don't convince anybody of any of that. 467 00:34:43.679 --> 00:34:45.880 I just figure out, okay, do they want this? 468 00:34:46.239 --> 00:34:48.520 You know, and I talk to them about different things. 469 00:34:48.520 --> 00:34:49.800 I ask them a lot of questions. 470 00:34:49.800 --> 00:34:52.960 Basically, I basically have them talk themselves into it 471 00:34:52.960 --> 00:34:54.120 is all I do. 472 00:34:54.120 --> 00:34:57.760 And I tell them what it is that after I let them talk, 473 00:34:57.760 --> 00:34:59.960 I let them talk, and sometimes they'll talk. 474 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:08.000 45 minutes. And then, and then I'll ask them if they would like to hear what it is that, 475 00:35:08.000 --> 00:35:13.520 you know, I have a response to what it is they say. And then I'll ask them that, you know, 476 00:35:13.520 --> 00:35:18.240 did you want to hear about the rest intensive? Was that something that you wanted me to go over? 477 00:35:18.240 --> 00:35:21.760 And then they'll, and then they usually say, in fact, they all the time that they've said, 478 00:35:21.760 --> 00:35:27.120 Oh yeah, yeah. You know, we'd like to know, but I ask them, I ask them if they want to hear it. 479 00:35:27.120 --> 00:35:32.400 And, and I do it in such a way that they could say, no, they don't want to, if they really don't 480 00:35:32.400 --> 00:35:43.520 want to, because I, because I don't want them to do it. How would I word that? I want them to, 481 00:35:45.360 --> 00:35:51.760 that's part of the empowering process is I am actually presenting them with opportunities 482 00:35:51.760 --> 00:35:57.200 to make decisions and by interacting with them like that and honoring them and showing them 483 00:35:57.200 --> 00:36:02.000 respect as opposed to, well, I'm, I'm the expert. I'm the one who knows all of this stuff and you 484 00:36:02.000 --> 00:36:07.040 don't know. And so do you want this or not? You know, you know, cause I'm busy and I've got other 485 00:36:07.040 --> 00:36:11.440 things to do. You know, that was the old mindset and that old in those old business strategies 486 00:36:11.440 --> 00:36:17.040 and traditions. Instead, it's, it's an honoring of the person who's coming to us and treating 487 00:36:17.040 --> 00:36:23.440 them with dignity and asking, is this something that you would like? Because this is, you are 488 00:36:23.440 --> 00:36:31.200 deferring to them in a conversation as opposed to holding the power. If you don't feel threatened 489 00:36:31.200 --> 00:36:37.360 because you're in Christ, then there's no power play to pull. You don't need to, you don't. 490 00:36:37.360 --> 00:36:41.840 So it's not, it's, you're not vying for power and control of the conversation. 491 00:36:42.160 --> 00:36:47.920 Anyway, so I, I just, that's one of the ways in which I, I try to empower other people is I'm 492 00:36:47.920 --> 00:36:54.160 providing them with opportunities to make decisions and the way and the, the, the, um, 493 00:36:55.760 --> 00:37:01.520 I, cause I have to put on my own oxygen mask first, like we've talked about so many times. 494 00:37:01.520 --> 00:37:10.240 In fact, that I know who I am in the Lord, but also that as a result of that, I don't feel 495 00:37:10.480 --> 00:37:18.480 I don't feel threatened. So therefore I can just, I can, and I also see them as God sees them 496 00:37:18.480 --> 00:37:23.520 and I honor that. And so I just ask them, you know, would you like this? And they'll tell me, 497 00:37:23.520 --> 00:37:29.280 yes, they do. I'm like, okay, well then this is how it works. And I don't take a superiority seat 498 00:37:29.280 --> 00:37:35.760 in my own belief system. Understand we're not talking about, well, okay, change your tone 499 00:37:35.760 --> 00:37:40.080 and do this and do that. No, it's all, those are all put ons. It's fake. And it's from the tree of 500 00:37:40.080 --> 00:37:45.360 the knowledge of good and evil. And therefore it can't bring anything but death being the thing 501 00:37:46.560 --> 00:37:51.360 in order. If you want, if there's something that you want to give, find that in Christ, 502 00:37:51.360 --> 00:38:00.240 find the genuine thing and give that don't try to make it up and make it look like like a particular 503 00:38:00.240 --> 00:38:04.400 thing, look like, or sound like that you love them or that you care about them or whatever. 504 00:38:04.400 --> 00:38:10.720 If someone needs something, give it to them, but you have to have it first before you can give it. 505 00:38:10.720 --> 00:38:17.040 So you actually have to have love for them. You actually have to respect them. You have to, 506 00:38:18.960 --> 00:38:25.520 you have to view them as valuable and, and worthy of dignity in order for it to come 507 00:38:25.520 --> 00:38:29.680 across in your tone, come across near whatever, because it's not just the tone 508 00:38:29.680 --> 00:38:35.040 it's coming across in the spirit. It's not the tone that's going to convince them. It's the way 509 00:38:35.040 --> 00:38:39.440 that your spirit impacts them. And by the way, I'll be, again, I'm talking about, even though 510 00:38:39.440 --> 00:38:46.960 we're talking about clients and go for, go for patrons, they can go for, you know, employees, 511 00:38:47.920 --> 00:38:54.080 whoever, but so you're going to want to clear the fog, help them clear the fog in their own 512 00:38:54.080 --> 00:38:58.320 mind. And then, and then help them understand by the way that you're interacting with them, 513 00:38:58.320 --> 00:39:03.440 that you believe that they can make good and wise decisions. And you might be the first person 514 00:39:03.440 --> 00:39:09.680 in their life who's ever treated them in a way that let them know that you valued their decision. 515 00:39:10.320 --> 00:39:15.680 There was something that someone said the other day, what was it? Someone wrote me something. 516 00:39:16.560 --> 00:39:23.120 Oh, I remember. In fact, this happens more, this, this happens, you know, periodically, 517 00:39:23.120 --> 00:39:30.080 someone will write me that they have done that is some of these are clients. Some of these are 518 00:39:30.080 --> 00:39:36.000 not clients. And so, so several days ago, maybe in a few weeks ago, someone wrote me that, Oh, 519 00:39:36.000 --> 00:39:41.040 you know, Oh, this happened in my life. And, and, and there was this and dah, dah, dah, dah. And so 520 00:39:41.040 --> 00:39:46.640 I made this decision. I told, and in my mind, I'm thinking, I don't agree with that decision, 521 00:39:47.360 --> 00:39:56.240 but I didn't tell them that. I, and so instead, I, I just poured into them and I spoke into them 522 00:39:56.240 --> 00:39:59.840 and I said, I am so excited for you. I'm, Oh, now I remember who I wrote. 523 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.120 I was writing to somebody that I didn't even know. 524 00:40:05.120 --> 00:40:07.480 And I was telling them that they were like, 525 00:40:07.480 --> 00:40:08.440 oh, that's what it was. 526 00:40:08.440 --> 00:40:10.960 It was somebody that had decided to not, 527 00:40:10.960 --> 00:40:12.880 as I'm switching stories on you, because this 528 00:40:12.880 --> 00:40:14.160 is a really good one. 529 00:40:14.160 --> 00:40:18.720 They had decided to not even purchase. 530 00:40:18.720 --> 00:40:22.000 They had reached out to me wanting 531 00:40:22.000 --> 00:40:26.680 to make a commitment gesture for the interest for us 532 00:40:26.680 --> 00:40:29.400 conference to be able to have access to all the recordings. 533 00:40:29.480 --> 00:40:33.240 And they were going back and forth and back and forth with me. 534 00:40:33.240 --> 00:40:35.200 And then finally, they said, you know what? 535 00:40:35.200 --> 00:40:35.920 I've decided. 536 00:40:35.920 --> 00:40:36.960 I've decided not to. 537 00:40:36.960 --> 00:40:38.360 And here's all of the reasons. 538 00:40:38.360 --> 00:40:39.320 So I read them back. 539 00:40:39.320 --> 00:40:41.600 And I said, I think that is great. 540 00:40:41.600 --> 00:40:47.600 I am so excited for you that you know what 541 00:40:47.600 --> 00:40:48.720 it is that you want to do. 542 00:40:48.720 --> 00:40:51.120 And you're actually following through with it. 543 00:40:51.120 --> 00:40:52.920 You're actually doing it. 544 00:40:52.920 --> 00:40:53.600 What am I doing? 545 00:40:53.600 --> 00:40:57.240 I'm empowering them that they make good decisions 546 00:40:57.240 --> 00:41:01.080 and that they actually follow through with them. 547 00:41:01.080 --> 00:41:04.440 In other words, they owned it as opposed to, well, 548 00:41:04.440 --> 00:41:06.240 just kind of what I'm going to do. 549 00:41:06.240 --> 00:41:08.600 Even if they were doing it out of fear, which I honestly 550 00:41:08.600 --> 00:41:10.800 believe was because of the type of the conversations 551 00:41:10.800 --> 00:41:14.920 that we had, that there was some kind of a fear involved. 552 00:41:14.920 --> 00:41:18.360 Even if it was fear, even if that was the reason, 553 00:41:18.360 --> 00:41:19.720 they owned it. 554 00:41:19.720 --> 00:41:22.520 And they actually acted on it. 555 00:41:22.520 --> 00:41:24.160 And I affirmed that. 556 00:41:24.720 --> 00:41:27.880 Because it was actually born. 557 00:41:27.880 --> 00:41:30.400 It's from a very good thing. 558 00:41:30.400 --> 00:41:33.960 Now, they're doing it out of fear, which isn't good. 559 00:41:33.960 --> 00:41:36.760 But the act of making one's own decision, 560 00:41:36.760 --> 00:41:38.720 choosing what it is that one believes, 561 00:41:38.720 --> 00:41:42.000 and actually having the courage to act on it, 562 00:41:42.000 --> 00:41:44.080 especially when they had gotten so far with me, 563 00:41:44.080 --> 00:41:45.880 of like, what about this, what about this, 564 00:41:45.880 --> 00:41:49.760 and questioning things, and writing quite a bit. 565 00:41:49.760 --> 00:41:55.280 Then it's very important that I sewed into them and let them. 566 00:41:55.280 --> 00:41:57.200 Because remember, they're who I'm 567 00:41:57.200 --> 00:42:00.160 sewing into as an individual. 568 00:42:00.160 --> 00:42:04.600 It's not whether or not they join the rest intensive 569 00:42:04.600 --> 00:42:08.400 or whether or not they choose to listen to a teaching. 570 00:42:08.400 --> 00:42:10.320 That's their decision. 571 00:42:10.320 --> 00:42:14.920 I am providing things for people that they 572 00:42:14.920 --> 00:42:17.560 can choose whether or not it resonates with them. 573 00:42:17.560 --> 00:42:20.360 Or if now's the time that it's going to resonate with them. 574 00:42:20.360 --> 00:42:21.520 Totally get to them. 575 00:42:21.520 --> 00:42:25.440 I need to respect their relationship with the Lord 576 00:42:25.440 --> 00:42:27.680 and the journey that they're on. 577 00:42:27.680 --> 00:42:31.720 And just allow them to and allow it to be what it is. 578 00:42:31.720 --> 00:42:34.240 Excuse me, allow it to be what it is. 579 00:42:34.240 --> 00:42:40.920 And see them for who it is that they are in the spirit. 580 00:42:40.920 --> 00:42:44.440 And to speak to that and to interact with that. 581 00:42:44.440 --> 00:42:46.920 And so even if they end up not making 582 00:42:46.920 --> 00:42:51.480 a decision for the product, for the service, 583 00:42:51.480 --> 00:42:54.640 or whatever it is that you offer, 584 00:42:54.640 --> 00:42:56.680 because your interaction with them 585 00:42:56.680 --> 00:42:59.600 is about empowering another individual, 586 00:42:59.600 --> 00:43:03.040 not about them buying into you. 587 00:43:03.040 --> 00:43:08.720 Then you've actually done, with every single interaction 588 00:43:08.720 --> 00:43:10.920 you have with a prospective client or an employer, 589 00:43:10.920 --> 00:43:12.480 whatever, you've actually accomplished 590 00:43:12.520 --> 00:43:15.440 what it is you set out to do. 591 00:43:15.440 --> 00:43:17.960 The whole thing of whether or not they join you 592 00:43:17.960 --> 00:43:20.040 is up to them. 593 00:43:20.040 --> 00:43:23.560 The call and the power is always on their side. 594 00:43:23.560 --> 00:43:25.680 You just present yourself by just being. 595 00:43:25.680 --> 00:43:28.760 But see, God doesn't provide or not provide for you 596 00:43:28.760 --> 00:43:31.760 based on the result of that phone call. 597 00:43:31.760 --> 00:43:33.800 It has nothing whatsoever to do with that phone call. 598 00:43:33.800 --> 00:43:36.760 That's you facilitating movement in the earth 599 00:43:36.760 --> 00:43:38.640 by having conversations with other people. 600 00:43:39.640 --> 00:43:40.640 Excuse me. 601 00:43:40.640 --> 00:43:42.520 I don't know why I'm coughing so much tonight. 602 00:43:46.520 --> 00:43:53.440 Now, once you actually get into the thing, 603 00:43:53.440 --> 00:43:55.640 so whether we're talking about prospective clients 604 00:43:55.640 --> 00:43:57.400 or you've actually sold them on something, 605 00:43:57.400 --> 00:43:59.520 and say, for instance, you're actually coaching them, 606 00:43:59.520 --> 00:44:01.560 or these are employees, and you're guiding them 607 00:44:01.560 --> 00:44:03.440 throughout the day, whether you're teaching 608 00:44:03.440 --> 00:44:04.960 or you're guiding them, you'll have 609 00:44:04.960 --> 00:44:07.160 heard me talk about before, that you 610 00:44:07.160 --> 00:44:11.280 interact with people without any agenda, with no agenda. 611 00:44:11.280 --> 00:44:13.760 In other words, there's not a specific outcome 612 00:44:13.760 --> 00:44:20.640 that you have to get from the exchange, from the interaction. 613 00:44:20.640 --> 00:44:25.200 Now, you can have an idea in mind, like, OK. 614 00:44:25.200 --> 00:44:26.640 I mean, because otherwise, I mean, 615 00:44:26.640 --> 00:44:28.240 why did you walk up to talk to them? 616 00:44:28.240 --> 00:44:29.960 You had a reason, right? 617 00:44:29.960 --> 00:44:33.960 However, what we can do with other people 618 00:44:34.680 --> 00:44:36.800 is the same thing that we do with the Lord, which 619 00:44:36.800 --> 00:44:41.280 is we can then emotionally hold them responsible 620 00:44:41.280 --> 00:44:44.160 if they don't give us the result that we came 621 00:44:44.160 --> 00:44:47.200 to the conversation wanting. 622 00:44:47.200 --> 00:44:49.760 And that emotional responsibility 623 00:44:49.760 --> 00:44:54.560 that we put on them is not honoring, 624 00:44:54.560 --> 00:44:57.160 and it's not of our God. 625 00:44:57.160 --> 00:44:58.320 It's not of our Father. 626 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:08.840 So, and it will taint the conversation because we're trying to convince, and the only reason 627 00:45:08.840 --> 00:45:13.200 why we're trying to convince is because we feel threatened. 628 00:45:13.200 --> 00:45:18.580 We feel threatened that if we don't get the result or outcome of the exchange and the 629 00:45:18.580 --> 00:45:25.540 interaction that we want, then we're going to suffer particular consequences for it. 630 00:45:25.540 --> 00:45:32.100 And why would those consequences matter unless God isn't who he says that he is and he's 631 00:45:32.100 --> 00:45:35.860 providing for us and protecting us regardless. 632 00:45:35.860 --> 00:45:41.380 If we think that the thing that we want that conversation, that interaction to result in 633 00:45:41.380 --> 00:45:46.180 is going to do something for us and we're not being given it and they are standing in 634 00:45:46.180 --> 00:45:49.060 our way, then we feel threatened. 635 00:45:49.060 --> 00:45:52.780 But God says that we're never in a place that we should feel threatened. 636 00:45:52.780 --> 00:45:56.100 That we're completely free at that. 637 00:45:56.100 --> 00:46:04.780 So I recommend not talking with an agenda, also it stifles the spirit flow in allowing 638 00:46:04.780 --> 00:46:10.580 the spirit to just talk in the moment and to be able to transform the person to be able 639 00:46:10.580 --> 00:46:17.140 to speak spiritually into the situation and be able to say things that you have no idea 640 00:46:17.140 --> 00:46:19.940 that they needed to hear in that particular moment. 641 00:46:19.940 --> 00:46:27.420 Remember what it says in the new Testament that where Jesus said, even if you're called 642 00:46:27.420 --> 00:46:36.100 before the court to make an account of something, he said, do not prepare beforehand. 643 00:46:36.100 --> 00:46:40.460 He said, the Holy spirit will give you the words that you need in the moment. 644 00:46:40.460 --> 00:46:41.460 Just operate out of spirit. 645 00:46:41.460 --> 00:46:44.100 I mean, that was a very serious situation. 646 00:46:44.100 --> 00:46:49.220 So if God is saying to do that about serious situation, you know, then, then God's meaning 647 00:46:49.340 --> 00:46:51.380 You do that in every situation. 648 00:46:51.380 --> 00:46:54.580 You don't have to do, you don't have to prepare. 649 00:46:54.580 --> 00:47:00.460 Now you can, there's nothing wrong with preparing, but if you're relying on the preparing, if 650 00:47:00.460 --> 00:47:04.140 you're thinking that it's that if you don't prepare that you're going to be in lack, or 651 00:47:04.140 --> 00:47:08.300 if you're not, if, or if having prepared, in other words, having like prepared yourself 652 00:47:08.300 --> 00:47:12.420 spiritually and thought through some thoughts and ideas and yeah, I'm remembering this and 653 00:47:12.420 --> 00:47:19.200 I thought about this and this is a situation and, but then you come to the situation and 654 00:47:20.180 --> 00:47:25.160 And if you're just trying to remember the bullet points that have in the, in the highlights 655 00:47:25.160 --> 00:47:28.480 and the little catchy phrases that you thought of that you thought, oh, well, this is really 656 00:47:28.480 --> 00:47:29.960 going to, you know, tickle their ears. 657 00:47:29.960 --> 00:47:34.920 And this is really going to, I think, convince them or whatever, then you're not in the moment. 658 00:47:34.920 --> 00:47:38.600 You're not present, you're distant from them. 659 00:47:38.600 --> 00:47:43.800 And you are actually in your own head and not allowing the spirit to flow. 660 00:47:43.800 --> 00:47:51.400 So it's actually stifling the, the spirit flow and it is bringing death into the situation 661 00:47:51.400 --> 00:47:57.760 and it can actually result it's, it's a lot harder to interact with someone that way. 662 00:47:57.760 --> 00:48:03.320 And this, and what it is that you are inserting into that situation, like I said, is death 663 00:48:03.320 --> 00:48:04.960 and not life. 664 00:48:04.960 --> 00:48:11.240 And it can it, what's the word for that? 665 00:48:11.240 --> 00:48:16.560 Well, it can create, not just stagnant, not just there's this, there's this concept I'm 666 00:48:16.560 --> 00:48:23.000 trying to, trying to figure out how to, how to articulate, but it can, it can just create, 667 00:48:23.000 --> 00:48:32.400 create some stagnation between, between the two of you, it, it changes everything to from 668 00:48:32.400 --> 00:48:36.560 a gift to a wage in the exchange. 669 00:48:36.560 --> 00:48:39.880 And everything has to be worked for because remember, however, you get some things, how 670 00:48:39.880 --> 00:48:43.400 you're going to have to maintain it, especially if you're working with a difficult employee 671 00:48:43.400 --> 00:48:47.400 and you're trying to get past the hurdle and trying to get past the threshold, however, 672 00:48:47.400 --> 00:48:51.840 you handle that threshold, however, you get the thing, however, you get the result is 673 00:48:51.840 --> 00:48:55.400 how you're going to have to maintain it in order to keep that result going with that 674 00:48:55.400 --> 00:48:56.400 person. 675 00:48:56.400 --> 00:48:59.280 And with that difficult employee, that's going to have to continue to be maintained. 676 00:48:59.280 --> 00:49:01.720 And it is very, very hard. 677 00:49:01.720 --> 00:49:11.360 Another thing that I recommend is when you are trying to sell something online, or, you 678 00:49:11.360 --> 00:49:18.880 know, it's, it's another, going back to the interchange between you and someone else that 679 00:49:18.880 --> 00:49:20.240 I said, don't have an agenda. 680 00:49:20.240 --> 00:49:31.600 I also recommend don't speak from a script, prepare yourself by remembering, by, by 681 00:49:31.680 --> 00:49:36.120 owning, by teaching what it is that you own. 682 00:49:36.120 --> 00:49:43.320 And operate out of who it, how, who it is that you are, and how you live, not something 683 00:49:43.320 --> 00:49:49.880 that you think that they should know, or that you want them to know, or that you think that 684 00:49:49.880 --> 00:49:55.560 they would find important or valuable, or you think would convince them. 685 00:49:55.560 --> 00:50:00.040 Because people smell it, the vast, vast, vast majority. 686 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:08.840 vast majority, I would say 90 some odd percent of the teachings, 687 00:50:08.840 --> 00:50:11.600 lives, whatever that I come across on Facebook, 688 00:50:11.600 --> 00:50:15.360 at least 90, probably it's got to be more than that. 689 00:50:15.360 --> 00:50:18.360 It's probably 95 percent, something like that. 690 00:50:20.440 --> 00:50:23.240 It feels stagnant. 691 00:50:23.240 --> 00:50:26.240 It feels very stale. 692 00:50:26.240 --> 00:50:29.160 They may not be reading a script, 693 00:50:29.320 --> 00:50:33.040 but they're so reliant on their notes that I, 694 00:50:33.040 --> 00:50:35.600 oh, trust me, trust me. 695 00:50:35.600 --> 00:50:38.400 You can tell, you can tell. 696 00:50:38.400 --> 00:50:40.720 I mean, they can have their notes right here. 697 00:50:40.720 --> 00:50:43.680 I mean, just right next to the camera here. 698 00:50:43.680 --> 00:50:45.840 Totally tell, totally tell. 699 00:50:45.840 --> 00:50:50.400 And they need to look every few sentences, 700 00:50:50.400 --> 00:50:54.840 not every few paragraphs or every few minutes. 701 00:50:54.840 --> 00:50:57.600 No, every few sentences they're having to look over 702 00:50:57.600 --> 00:51:00.760 because you can tell they're trying to convince, 703 00:51:00.760 --> 00:51:03.360 as opposed to it just being something that they live 704 00:51:03.360 --> 00:51:04.800 and that they own, 705 00:51:04.800 --> 00:51:06.520 and that they're just speaking out of what it is 706 00:51:06.520 --> 00:51:07.360 that they know. 707 00:51:08.360 --> 00:51:10.200 One of the things though that I've noticed 708 00:51:10.200 --> 00:51:14.720 that preparation and notes are good for 709 00:51:14.720 --> 00:51:18.320 is remembering how to articulate something. 710 00:51:18.320 --> 00:51:21.880 Because we can own something and sometimes struggle a bit 711 00:51:21.880 --> 00:51:25.960 in what is it that I, what do you call this thing? 712 00:51:25.960 --> 00:51:29.240 How can I say it in English? 713 00:51:29.240 --> 00:51:31.000 Because I only know it in spirit. 714 00:51:31.000 --> 00:51:32.360 How do I say it in English? 715 00:51:32.360 --> 00:51:35.280 So whenever I'm doing preparatory work for, 716 00:51:36.640 --> 00:51:39.720 for, I don't know, like say for instance, 717 00:51:39.720 --> 00:51:42.440 for this business conference or whatever, 718 00:51:42.440 --> 00:51:44.000 what it is that I'm looking over 719 00:51:44.000 --> 00:51:46.480 when I'm looking over at notes is, 720 00:51:46.480 --> 00:51:49.080 or even when I'm looking down at my notes over here, 721 00:51:49.080 --> 00:51:50.920 is I'm trying to remember, okay, 722 00:51:50.920 --> 00:51:55.360 how do I articulate to other people in a very, 723 00:51:56.280 --> 00:51:59.920 how have I articulated this concept to people before 724 00:51:59.920 --> 00:52:02.320 that actually got the idea across? 725 00:52:02.320 --> 00:52:04.440 Because I've tried it in multiple different ways. 726 00:52:04.440 --> 00:52:06.800 I try all kinds of different things with different people. 727 00:52:06.800 --> 00:52:10.040 And so I finally start figuring out, okay, this one, 728 00:52:10.040 --> 00:52:12.240 this one, if I word it, in other words, 729 00:52:12.240 --> 00:52:14.800 if I use this type of an example, 730 00:52:16.280 --> 00:52:19.920 that helps people get a grasp of what it is 731 00:52:19.920 --> 00:52:21.200 that I'm talking about. 732 00:52:21.200 --> 00:52:25.560 So sometimes when you are trying to remind yourself 733 00:52:26.120 --> 00:52:27.800 of how to articulate something, 734 00:52:27.800 --> 00:52:30.400 then that's when notes are very helpful, 735 00:52:30.400 --> 00:52:33.440 but they should be very, very few and far between. 736 00:52:33.440 --> 00:52:38.360 I've tested all kinds of things with notes. 737 00:52:38.360 --> 00:52:42.880 I have done the verbatim script, maybe. 738 00:52:42.880 --> 00:52:44.640 Have I done the verbatim script? 739 00:52:44.640 --> 00:52:45.480 I don't know. 740 00:52:45.480 --> 00:52:47.280 Surely I have at some point, but I don't remember. 741 00:52:47.280 --> 00:52:50.200 But I've done a pretty close to verbatim script. 742 00:52:50.200 --> 00:52:52.440 And then I have done bullet points. 743 00:52:52.440 --> 00:52:54.200 I have just done one words. 744 00:52:54.200 --> 00:52:55.520 I have done little phrases. 745 00:52:56.320 --> 00:52:57.160 I've done all kinds of things. 746 00:52:57.160 --> 00:53:00.240 The shorter and the fewer, the better. 747 00:53:00.240 --> 00:53:02.080 They're also there just in case you get off track 748 00:53:02.080 --> 00:53:03.680 and you have to remind yourself. 749 00:53:05.200 --> 00:53:07.680 And just kind of remember as well, 750 00:53:07.680 --> 00:53:08.920 kind of keeping track of the time. 751 00:53:08.920 --> 00:53:10.600 Okay, like I have got this much 752 00:53:10.600 --> 00:53:14.560 and I have however many minutes to go. 753 00:53:14.560 --> 00:53:16.640 And I've been in it however many minutes 754 00:53:16.640 --> 00:53:18.000 and I've gotten like this far. 755 00:53:18.000 --> 00:53:19.800 Like, okay, so I need to speed it up 756 00:53:19.800 --> 00:53:22.000 in order to be able to get through or whatever. 757 00:53:22.000 --> 00:53:24.200 So that can kind of help. 758 00:53:24.240 --> 00:53:26.520 But again, all of these things should just, 759 00:53:26.520 --> 00:53:28.080 you're flowing in the spirit 760 00:53:28.080 --> 00:53:30.600 and it should just be very general guidelines. 761 00:53:31.640 --> 00:53:32.920 You would probably be very shocked 762 00:53:32.920 --> 00:53:35.400 to discover how short my little notes are here. 763 00:53:35.400 --> 00:53:38.080 I've had to learn though to trust that 764 00:53:38.080 --> 00:53:39.680 because it's very scary. 765 00:53:39.680 --> 00:53:40.720 I thought that I need it. 766 00:53:40.720 --> 00:53:42.320 I thought in order for anything 767 00:53:42.320 --> 00:53:45.400 that I spoke to be valuable and to have weight 768 00:53:45.400 --> 00:53:49.320 that I had to have a lot more down 769 00:53:49.320 --> 00:53:52.120 because I was just gonna run out of things to say. 770 00:53:52.120 --> 00:53:54.160 But you don't when you actually own it. 771 00:53:54.160 --> 00:53:56.120 All you need to do is have a phrase 772 00:53:56.120 --> 00:53:57.680 to trigger you and remind you, 773 00:53:57.680 --> 00:53:59.160 oh yeah, that part of my life. 774 00:53:59.160 --> 00:54:01.320 Okay, we're gonna be talking about that part of my life now. 775 00:54:01.320 --> 00:54:03.880 Okay, here's how this part of my life works. 776 00:54:03.880 --> 00:54:07.280 And that's really what it is that you're wanting to do. 777 00:54:07.280 --> 00:54:11.600 Okay, remember that your clients, once you have them, 778 00:54:11.600 --> 00:54:14.480 your client, well, even if it's a potential client, 779 00:54:15.560 --> 00:54:16.520 it goes for them as well 780 00:54:16.520 --> 00:54:19.120 because people can still experience this desire 781 00:54:19.120 --> 00:54:20.440 in them as well. 782 00:54:20.440 --> 00:54:22.480 Remember that they're the Lords 783 00:54:22.480 --> 00:54:25.640 for him to meet their needs, not us. 784 00:54:27.080 --> 00:54:31.680 It's extremely, extremely important to remember. 785 00:54:31.680 --> 00:54:32.520 They're the Lords. 786 00:54:32.520 --> 00:54:33.400 We all know it. 787 00:54:33.400 --> 00:54:35.760 We could all speak this to each other 788 00:54:35.760 --> 00:54:40.760 and we could reach it to the choir. 789 00:54:40.800 --> 00:54:45.800 But when you'll notice that if something, 790 00:54:48.040 --> 00:54:50.160 that if they're really struggling with something, 791 00:54:50.880 --> 00:54:52.760 I mean, like really struggling with it, 792 00:54:54.040 --> 00:54:56.800 you'll notice if you take that on 793 00:54:56.800 --> 00:55:00.160 as you either start defending yourself. 794 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.360 yourself, well, I've just done the best I can. 795 00:55:02.360 --> 00:55:05.120 Or you'll start doing the opposite of thinking, 796 00:55:05.120 --> 00:55:08.240 oh my goodness, what is it that I could have done 797 00:55:08.240 --> 00:55:10.200 or can do to make things better? 798 00:55:10.200 --> 00:55:12.360 And if you're just thinking of that a little bit, 799 00:55:12.360 --> 00:55:15.820 because it's part of the service you provide, that's fine. 800 00:55:15.820 --> 00:55:19.640 But if you're getting too desperate about it, 801 00:55:19.640 --> 00:55:24.640 then there's some kind of a hold that we have on it, 802 00:55:24.640 --> 00:55:26.320 which is some kind of an accusation that we have 803 00:55:26.320 --> 00:55:28.440 against the Lord that we're not okay, 804 00:55:28.440 --> 00:55:29.720 or that they're not okay, 805 00:55:29.720 --> 00:55:31.120 and that they're not gonna be taken care of, 806 00:55:31.120 --> 00:55:32.800 or we're being held responsible for them, 807 00:55:32.800 --> 00:55:34.400 and their blood is on our hands. 808 00:55:35.740 --> 00:55:38.400 Because, but remember that they are the Lords 809 00:55:38.400 --> 00:55:40.040 for the Lord to meet their needs. 810 00:55:40.960 --> 00:55:45.960 He didn't give them to you to meet their needs. 811 00:55:47.200 --> 00:55:50.920 You can sort of. 812 00:55:50.920 --> 00:55:55.920 You can give to them, 813 00:55:56.760 --> 00:55:59.600 and you can be a means through, 814 00:55:59.600 --> 00:56:02.360 you can supply them with something 815 00:56:02.360 --> 00:56:04.160 that they feel that they're lacking, 816 00:56:04.160 --> 00:56:09.160 like love, or security, or what have you. 817 00:56:10.320 --> 00:56:11.920 Because we've talked about that before, 818 00:56:11.920 --> 00:56:14.440 how to interact with someone in their spirit 819 00:56:14.440 --> 00:56:17.920 according to what it is that they feel that they need. 820 00:56:17.920 --> 00:56:21.040 But, or what it is that you are sensing that they need, 821 00:56:21.040 --> 00:56:23.880 which is, and you know that because of the brokenness 822 00:56:23.880 --> 00:56:25.200 in which they're coming to you and thinking, 823 00:56:25.200 --> 00:56:26.520 okay, they don't feel love. 824 00:56:26.520 --> 00:56:28.320 That's what's really going on. 825 00:56:28.320 --> 00:56:30.120 So therefore, give them love. 826 00:56:30.120 --> 00:56:31.520 You know, actually, truly love them. 827 00:56:31.520 --> 00:56:33.720 That's what I'm referring to. 828 00:56:33.720 --> 00:56:36.920 There is that aspect that we can offer to them, 829 00:56:36.920 --> 00:56:39.520 that it's coming from spirit anyway, 830 00:56:39.520 --> 00:56:41.840 and they have to choose to receive it. 831 00:56:41.840 --> 00:56:45.220 But it's their God that actually meets 832 00:56:45.220 --> 00:56:46.160 all of their provision. 833 00:56:46.160 --> 00:56:49.760 Just like he provides for you, God provides for them. 834 00:56:49.760 --> 00:56:52.920 Other people can't fix your life, 835 00:56:52.920 --> 00:56:54.400 and they can't be what it is 836 00:56:54.400 --> 00:56:56.600 that you actually, truly, really need. 837 00:56:56.600 --> 00:56:58.200 If you're in a desperate situation, 838 00:56:58.200 --> 00:57:01.760 and you're really struggling with something, 839 00:57:01.760 --> 00:57:04.400 someone else, you know, a coach, a counselor, 840 00:57:04.400 --> 00:57:07.280 you know, a mentor, whatever, they can't fix it. 841 00:57:07.280 --> 00:57:09.360 They can't change the situation. 842 00:57:10.200 --> 00:57:14.120 The person themselves has to actually do it. 843 00:57:14.120 --> 00:57:18.080 And the Lord desires very jealously in the relationship 844 00:57:18.080 --> 00:57:20.320 to be the one through whom that need 845 00:57:21.160 --> 00:57:23.120 is actually fulfilled. 846 00:57:23.120 --> 00:57:26.600 So, okay, I've already talked about that. 847 00:57:28.960 --> 00:57:30.080 Okay, let's see. 848 00:57:30.080 --> 00:57:33.080 The last couple of things we're gonna talk about, 849 00:57:33.080 --> 00:57:35.480 and then we'll have just a little bit of a break. 850 00:57:36.880 --> 00:57:41.480 And that is, I've already talked about these quite a bit, 851 00:57:41.480 --> 00:57:45.040 so we're just gonna touch on them just really briefly. 852 00:57:45.040 --> 00:57:48.120 Y'all have all heard me say these things before. 853 00:57:48.120 --> 00:57:51.480 And that is, be careful about your motivation. 854 00:57:51.480 --> 00:57:53.360 Remember, your motivation in your business, 855 00:57:53.360 --> 00:57:55.880 your motivation interacting with your clients, 856 00:57:55.880 --> 00:57:58.240 or interacting with an employee, 857 00:57:58.240 --> 00:58:03.240 is based on you developing your relationship with the Lord 858 00:58:04.320 --> 00:58:07.360 and who it is that the two of you are together. 859 00:58:07.360 --> 00:58:10.320 And you're just living that, and you are just being that. 860 00:58:12.640 --> 00:58:15.760 Instead of thinking, I am in this business, 861 00:58:15.760 --> 00:58:17.760 and I want this business, 862 00:58:18.400 --> 00:58:20.720 and I want to do it like this, 863 00:58:20.720 --> 00:58:22.800 because I want to help people. 864 00:58:24.920 --> 00:58:29.920 I just couldn't, I couldn't have a whole two days 865 00:58:29.920 --> 00:58:32.640 set aside for talking about the business conference, 866 00:58:34.080 --> 00:58:36.560 talking about business, and not bring these things up again. 867 00:58:36.560 --> 00:58:38.520 So I'm bringing it up yet again, 868 00:58:38.520 --> 00:58:40.560 that it's very important that we don't, 869 00:58:40.560 --> 00:58:45.080 that we're not, we're not getting up in the morning 870 00:58:45.600 --> 00:58:46.920 interacting in our business 871 00:58:46.920 --> 00:58:50.720 and interacting with our clients in order to help them. 872 00:58:50.720 --> 00:58:54.760 We can want to help them, but wanting to help them 873 00:58:54.760 --> 00:58:59.040 and actually doing something from that base, 874 00:58:59.040 --> 00:59:03.960 using that as our base, two totally different things. 875 00:59:03.960 --> 00:59:08.760 And if we rely on that as our motivation, 876 00:59:08.760 --> 00:59:13.760 then it will mean that we are subject to, 877 00:59:14.000 --> 00:59:16.480 whether or not they're choosing to receive our help, 878 00:59:16.480 --> 00:59:18.120 because we can't control it. 879 00:59:18.120 --> 00:59:21.360 So the success of our business can, 880 00:59:22.280 --> 00:59:26.240 is then, we're then leaving that very purposefully 881 00:59:26.240 --> 00:59:29.720 in the hands of someone that we can't control. 882 00:59:29.720 --> 00:59:31.440 And the whole point of our business 883 00:59:31.440 --> 00:59:35.040 is just the development of our relationship with the Lord. 884 00:59:35.040 --> 00:59:36.360 That's what that is. 885 00:59:36.360 --> 00:59:38.640 It is the development of our relationship with the Lord 886 00:59:38.640 --> 00:59:41.120 and things that will happen in the business 887 00:59:41.120 --> 00:59:43.000 that will trigger us, 888 00:59:43.000 --> 00:59:45.520 that will prompt us to develop a relationship with the Lord 889 00:59:45.520 --> 00:59:46.480 in a particular way. 890 00:59:46.480 --> 00:59:48.320 It'll help mold it and shape it. 891 00:59:49.280 --> 00:59:52.160 And as well, it is actually, 892 00:59:52.160 --> 00:59:55.520 and the fact that it will trigger a molding and a shaping, 893 00:59:55.520 --> 00:59:59.520 but also then from that molding and that shaping, 894 00:59:59.520 --> 01:00:00.360 we then. 895 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:07.680 take that, that thing, I've heard it referred to as folding into ourselves, creating something, 896 01:00:07.680 --> 01:00:14.880 and then unfolding out into our business, the thing that we actually then have created. So 897 01:00:15.600 --> 01:00:22.320 we are, we're finding what it is that we need in the Lord, and then we are giving it out into our 898 01:00:22.320 --> 01:00:28.880 business, and we're giving it out and to our clients. So we're living and being, and we are 899 01:00:28.880 --> 01:00:36.880 visibly expressing our relationship, not with the Lord. We're not trying to help someone, 900 01:00:37.760 --> 01:00:44.000 trying to serve them. We are helping them. We are serving them, but that's not what we're trying to 901 01:00:44.000 --> 01:00:52.560 do. That's a byproduct. Helping someone is a byproduct. It's not the reason. It's just something 902 01:00:52.560 --> 01:01:01.840 that happens. Serving someone is something that happens. It's a byproduct. It's not the motivation. 903 01:01:01.840 --> 01:01:08.640 It's not the engine, and it's not the fuel. Very, very important. Again, I'm talking about 904 01:01:08.640 --> 01:01:14.960 things from a perspective of rest. So not trying to villainize other things, but I'm just talking 905 01:01:14.960 --> 01:01:22.320 about if you're wanting to truly understand the depth to which we can go in interacting in 906 01:01:22.320 --> 01:01:30.400 business from a place of rest, I wanted to touch on those points. And then also the same thing, 907 01:01:30.400 --> 01:01:39.360 just like the help, to not base our motivation on what it is that we talk to them about. 908 01:01:39.920 --> 01:01:46.320 The type of service or product that we provide cannot be based, if we're doing it from a place 909 01:01:46.320 --> 01:01:55.040 of rest, should not be based on what it is that we want them to have. 910 01:01:56.080 --> 01:02:03.760 I want them to know that God loves them. I want other people to be free. I want 911 01:02:03.760 --> 01:02:07.120 other people to be healed. I don't want them to have to go through what I went through. 912 01:02:08.000 --> 01:02:13.760 I've heard all of these things, and I have been motivated by all of those. 913 01:02:17.600 --> 01:02:24.240 But when I started the rest intensive, and actually maybe even a little bit prior to that, 914 01:02:24.240 --> 01:02:28.640 or maybe even when I was doing a bit of the one-on-one coaching as well prior to that, 915 01:02:28.640 --> 01:02:34.320 I was starting to have to let... I was having to learn that I had to let all of that go. 916 01:02:34.960 --> 01:02:38.800 That it had to be because this is how God and I were living together. 917 01:02:39.680 --> 01:02:47.040 And that I couldn't be... And that my business and what it is that I did for a living, 918 01:02:47.840 --> 01:02:54.640 needed to be based on who he and I were together, not on what I wished someone else knew, 919 01:02:54.640 --> 01:03:00.240 that I now know. Oh my word, if only everybody knew how much God loves them. If only everybody 920 01:03:00.240 --> 01:03:08.480 knew how much that... How free that we were. If only everybody knew... I'll say something here 921 01:03:09.840 --> 01:03:14.240 that... Remember what we talked about yesterday, that usually people get into businesses 922 01:03:15.520 --> 01:03:18.160 based on whatever it is that they want for themselves. 923 01:03:19.680 --> 01:03:26.560 Then now they might be healed, and that might not be the case. But 924 01:03:26.560 --> 01:03:32.480 I would say the vast majority of the time that, and I've lived through this myself, 925 01:03:33.120 --> 01:03:41.440 of why we do something is because it's... There's still something in it that we want for ourselves, 926 01:03:41.440 --> 01:03:49.600 and we don't yet have. But when we get a revelation, we get so excited, and it's still a knowing, 927 01:03:49.600 --> 01:03:57.280 and it's still a knowing, as opposed to an owning yet, that we will begin to... 928 01:03:58.000 --> 01:04:07.760 That we want everyone else to now know the same thing. But the... I'm trying to figure out how to 929 01:04:07.760 --> 01:04:23.840 read this. It's what we... It is not a stable and solid foundation for a business to be in existence, 930 01:04:23.840 --> 01:04:31.200 because we want something for someone else. We want them to... It's in the foundation. You can 931 01:04:31.200 --> 01:04:36.640 want that for someone else. Absolutely. I want rest for everybody. I want freedom for everybody. 932 01:04:36.640 --> 01:04:42.240 Yes, obviously. It comes across in all my passion and all my excitement, whatever. Well, no, 933 01:04:42.240 --> 01:04:49.280 it doesn't feel my passion and excitement. That worded that a little inaccurately. It... I have 934 01:04:49.280 --> 01:04:54.800 it in what it is that I do, but my passion and my excitement is out of what it is that I live, 935 01:04:54.800 --> 01:04:59.520 because that's who it is that I am. I get that passion about it. I get that excited, because 936 01:04:59.520 --> 01:04:59.840 it's that... 937 01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.200 wonderful. And I'm just, I'm just so thrilled. The Lord would do this. 938 01:05:04.440 --> 01:05:07.160 So thrilled that this is the gift that he's given to me. 939 01:05:07.160 --> 01:05:09.400 And I'm just rejoicing it and I just celebrate in it. 940 01:05:09.400 --> 01:05:13.280 And that's how the passion comes across. But anyway, 941 01:05:14.040 --> 01:05:14.400 it's a, 942 01:05:14.400 --> 01:05:19.000 it's not a solid foundation on which to build a business to do something 943 01:05:19.000 --> 01:05:20.960 because, uh, to pick, 944 01:05:21.520 --> 01:05:26.360 to base a business on what it is that we want for someone else 945 01:05:26.680 --> 01:05:30.120 because we want other people to have this. 946 01:05:31.880 --> 01:05:33.520 You can want it again, 947 01:05:35.200 --> 01:05:37.720 but that shouldn't be the reason you're doing it. 948 01:05:38.040 --> 01:05:42.800 The reason that you're doing the business should be because 949 01:05:43.040 --> 01:05:44.880 that's who you and the Lord are. 950 01:05:45.160 --> 01:05:48.440 And when your spirit comes up and it overflows, 951 01:05:48.760 --> 01:05:50.360 it could have any message. 952 01:05:50.520 --> 01:05:55.400 And that happens to be the message that comes up and out because it's what it 953 01:05:55.400 --> 01:05:59.080 is that you live. That needs to be the motivation. 954 01:05:59.240 --> 01:06:04.000 That needs to be the fuel that needs to be the engine. Once that, 955 01:06:04.040 --> 01:06:08.480 once that's taken care of in there, you can want it for other people. 956 01:06:09.360 --> 01:06:13.760 You can want them to have this thing and be so excited for them when they have 957 01:06:13.760 --> 01:06:16.080 it, but that can't be your fuel. 958 01:06:16.920 --> 01:06:20.840 Can't be the engine or anything. It can't, it, 959 01:06:20.880 --> 01:06:24.160 it can have nothing whatsoever to do with, um, 960 01:06:24.440 --> 01:06:27.640 with the source from which everything is being birthed. 961 01:06:28.600 --> 01:06:33.040 So hopefully that makes sense. Um, okay. 962 01:06:33.080 --> 01:06:36.440 I've already, oh, wow. I've already said that. Okay. So I'm going to leave the, 963 01:06:36.480 --> 01:06:39.640 the, well, no, I'm, 964 01:06:41.800 --> 01:06:46.400 uh, oh no, I've already, I've already touched it. I've already touched on it. 965 01:06:46.400 --> 01:06:47.120 I thought, oh no, 966 01:06:47.320 --> 01:06:50.960 I really probably need to squeeze this in because it goes with this, 967 01:06:51.040 --> 01:06:55.280 with this topic. Um, before we cut it off and go into the second half, 968 01:06:55.280 --> 01:06:57.960 the second half, we'll take just a five minute break. 969 01:06:58.480 --> 01:07:02.720 And if anybody wants a drink or to any facilities, and then, um, 970 01:07:02.760 --> 01:07:05.960 we will then come back and we'll talk about leadership. 971 01:07:06.320 --> 01:07:07.880 They actually have leadership. Um, 972 01:07:07.920 --> 01:07:12.880 I'll be talking about my own testimony and the wild things that I experienced 973 01:07:13.280 --> 01:07:18.040 in when I was leading a group of about 45 people and, um, 974 01:07:18.120 --> 01:07:21.360 and how they were, uh, how they started out, 975 01:07:21.360 --> 01:07:25.680 how this group of people started out not respecting me and how I had to, 976 01:07:26.160 --> 01:07:29.560 um, how I had, the Lord had to teach me trial by fire, 977 01:07:30.360 --> 01:07:35.360 how to become a leader to a deeper it with a deeper understanding that I'd have 978 01:07:35.760 --> 01:07:40.160 this far. Um, and it was just so eyeopening, 979 01:07:40.600 --> 01:07:45.600 more eyeopening than any of the previous leadership stuff that I'd learned in 980 01:07:45.600 --> 01:07:50.720 the past, that everything just totally felt like it totally changed based on 981 01:07:50.720 --> 01:07:54.320 this, um, this one, um, project that I was part of. 982 01:07:54.640 --> 01:07:58.640 And so I'll be talking about that. Um, and, um, 983 01:07:59.200 --> 01:08:00.760 then, um, yeah, 984 01:08:00.920 --> 01:08:03.520 and then we'll just be going into some other aspects of leadership. 985 01:08:03.920 --> 01:08:07.640 Then we will have the Q and A. So, uh, 986 01:08:07.720 --> 01:08:09.760 I'm just going to leave this running, 987 01:08:09.760 --> 01:08:14.480 but I'm going to turn my mic and my video off, but I will, um, still here. 988 01:08:15.200 --> 01:08:18.800 And, um, we will be back at eight. 989 01:08:20.160 --> 01:08:22.760 Oh, wow. Okay. I'm a little, I'm a little confused. Okay. 990 01:08:22.760 --> 01:08:26.399 So we'll be back in five minutes, which according to this clock says 815, 991 01:08:26.399 --> 01:08:30.600 according to that clock, sorry, 817, according to that one, it says 815, 992 01:08:30.760 --> 01:08:34.680 regardless it's five minutes. I'll see y'all y'all in just a minute. 993 01:08:37.640 --> 01:08:38.479 Okay. 994 01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:02.060 you 995 01:10:30.000 --> 01:10:32.060 you 996 01:11:00.000 --> 01:11:02.060 you 997 01:11:30.000 --> 01:11:32.060 you 998 01:12:00.000 --> 01:12:02.060 you 999 01:12:30.000 --> 01:12:32.060 you 1000 01:13:00.000 --> 01:13:02.060 you 1001 01:13:30.000 --> 01:13:32.060 you 1002 01:13:40.000 --> 01:13:44.060 all right, excuse me, we're back 1003 01:13:47.000 --> 01:13:51.060 excuse me, okay, so talking about leadership 1004 01:13:52.000 --> 01:13:58.060 again, it could be clients, it could be your employer, if you're a network marketing, it could be your upline or your downline 1005 01:13:58.060 --> 01:14:06.120 remember leadership is related to spiritual leadership, it's in who it is that we are in a position where we are in Christ 1006 01:14:06.120 --> 01:14:12.120 and then from that perspective we are speaking as a son of God into creation 1007 01:14:12.120 --> 01:14:17.120 whether it be to a human soul, I mean to a human soul or a business system or whatever 1008 01:14:17.120 --> 01:14:21.120 specifically tonight we're going to be talking about talking to other human souls 1009 01:14:21.120 --> 01:14:30.180 so as a leader in a business environment specifically because that's what we're talking about tonight 1010 01:14:30.180 --> 01:14:38.180 the leader's responsibility is to not control, is to actually bear responsibility 1011 01:14:38.180 --> 01:14:46.180 it's not meant to create a result 1012 01:14:46.240 --> 01:14:53.240 he is meant to create an environment that supports those underneath him 1013 01:14:53.240 --> 01:14:57.240 or that supports the business system or whatever 1014 01:14:57.240 --> 01:15:00.240 that is what a leader does, a leader actually is 1015 01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:04.880 is there to create an environment, not to get a result. 1016 01:15:04.880 --> 01:15:07.000 Now that's very difficult. 1017 01:15:07.000 --> 01:15:09.200 And trust me, I know from personal experience 1018 01:15:09.200 --> 01:15:11.200 of having worked in these situations, 1019 01:15:11.200 --> 01:15:16.200 where you're in a situation where the business 1020 01:15:17.320 --> 01:15:21.880 that the people above you are expecting a particular result 1021 01:15:21.880 --> 01:15:25.200 and they're holding you responsible for results, 1022 01:15:26.080 --> 01:15:28.680 but you're not a leader. 1023 01:15:28.680 --> 01:15:31.480 And I've had to actually walk this out. 1024 01:15:31.480 --> 01:15:34.760 I had to choose that I was going to operate 1025 01:15:34.760 --> 01:15:39.600 as a true leader should, not according to what it was 1026 01:15:39.600 --> 01:15:41.680 that they were holding me accountable for. 1027 01:15:42.760 --> 01:15:46.000 And by doing that, kind of like seeking the kingdom, 1028 01:15:46.000 --> 01:15:48.320 if you seek the kingdom first 1029 01:15:48.320 --> 01:15:50.400 and all these things will be added into you, 1030 01:15:50.400 --> 01:15:51.800 the same principle. 1031 01:15:51.800 --> 01:15:54.720 If I operated as a leader that provided 1032 01:15:54.720 --> 01:15:58.240 the right environment for my people, 1033 01:15:58.240 --> 01:16:00.240 then they got the results. 1034 01:16:00.240 --> 01:16:05.200 In fact, they over-delivered every time. 1035 01:16:06.560 --> 01:16:07.720 It was amazing. 1036 01:16:07.720 --> 01:16:12.400 So by not actually, goodness, 1037 01:16:14.120 --> 01:16:16.280 by not actually focusing on the thing, 1038 01:16:16.280 --> 01:16:20.920 but by focusing on what we would think of as the opposite 1039 01:16:20.920 --> 01:16:25.000 or as just kind of a luxury, I actually got the result. 1040 01:16:28.760 --> 01:16:30.800 Because in creating an environment, 1041 01:16:30.800 --> 01:16:32.760 what it is that you're doing 1042 01:16:32.760 --> 01:16:36.080 is you were preparing something to be birthed. 1043 01:16:37.640 --> 01:16:38.920 That's what you're doing. 1044 01:16:40.800 --> 01:16:45.680 Think of our relationship with the Lord, 1045 01:16:45.680 --> 01:16:49.760 where he's, if you think about our relationship 1046 01:16:49.760 --> 01:16:53.640 for like male and female, Christ, his bride, 1047 01:16:53.640 --> 01:16:55.920 male, female, masculine, feminine, 1048 01:16:56.760 --> 01:16:59.440 where the masculine initiates. 1049 01:16:59.440 --> 01:17:03.800 And in God, in the case of the Lord, he provides word. 1050 01:17:03.800 --> 01:17:08.800 We, as the female bride of Christ, we receive that word. 1051 01:17:09.720 --> 01:17:12.920 And then we provide our own seed. 1052 01:17:12.920 --> 01:17:16.360 And so the two seeds together actually conceive something, 1053 01:17:16.360 --> 01:17:20.560 but who, where's the seed 1054 01:17:20.560 --> 01:17:23.720 and that conjoined seed actually implanted? 1055 01:17:24.000 --> 01:17:26.160 Whose field is it implanted in? 1056 01:17:26.160 --> 01:17:27.440 The woman's. 1057 01:17:27.440 --> 01:17:29.040 It's planted in the female 1058 01:17:29.040 --> 01:17:31.120 and then the female nurtures it 1059 01:17:31.120 --> 01:17:33.920 during the gestation period and then births it. 1060 01:17:35.120 --> 01:17:38.440 So we're taking the leadership position, 1061 01:17:40.000 --> 01:17:42.160 excuse me, and the situation 1062 01:17:42.160 --> 01:17:46.640 and the fact that we are providing an environment 1063 01:17:46.640 --> 01:17:49.840 of protection and provision for the people 1064 01:17:49.840 --> 01:17:52.800 because the seed, in other words, 1065 01:17:52.800 --> 01:17:54.640 and what will result from the seed, 1066 01:17:54.640 --> 01:17:57.440 like what is actually supposed to be birthed, 1067 01:17:57.440 --> 01:17:59.680 that will be housed in, 1068 01:17:59.680 --> 01:18:04.120 planted in the field of the employees 1069 01:18:04.120 --> 01:18:06.200 or the client or whoever, 1070 01:18:06.200 --> 01:18:09.680 and then it will be nurtured there by them 1071 01:18:10.560 --> 01:18:13.960 and then it will be delivered by them. 1072 01:18:15.240 --> 01:18:17.880 So we can't micromanage anything. 1073 01:18:20.680 --> 01:18:22.040 And if we leave it alone, 1074 01:18:22.040 --> 01:18:24.360 it will actually perform best. 1075 01:18:24.360 --> 01:18:29.360 So our responsibility is to prepare the environment 1076 01:18:29.680 --> 01:18:32.880 so that whatever is being, 1077 01:18:32.880 --> 01:18:37.640 whatever is being nurtured or what have you, 1078 01:18:37.640 --> 01:18:40.440 and during the gestation period 1079 01:18:40.440 --> 01:18:43.720 can actually have what it needs in order to function 1080 01:18:43.720 --> 01:18:45.840 according to the way it was always intended to function. 1081 01:18:45.840 --> 01:18:47.320 And it knows how to do its job. 1082 01:18:47.320 --> 01:18:49.360 It doesn't have to be micromanaged. 1083 01:18:49.360 --> 01:18:53.920 We see this all throughout principles of science, 1084 01:18:53.920 --> 01:18:57.640 that we don't have to micromanage our own bodies. 1085 01:18:57.640 --> 01:18:59.640 We don't have to tell our bodies how to, 1086 01:18:59.640 --> 01:19:00.840 in fact, we have to go to school 1087 01:19:00.840 --> 01:19:02.480 to learn how our bodies function. 1088 01:19:02.480 --> 01:19:04.040 I mean, they just function on their own. 1089 01:19:04.040 --> 01:19:05.240 We don't have to micromanage them. 1090 01:19:05.240 --> 01:19:06.560 We don't have to tell them how to breathe. 1091 01:19:06.560 --> 01:19:08.960 We don't have to tell the cells how to duplicate. 1092 01:19:08.960 --> 01:19:12.160 We don't have to tell DNA how to, 1093 01:19:12.160 --> 01:19:17.160 and RNA how to do their thing. 1094 01:19:18.160 --> 01:19:20.400 And I think it's the RNA, 1095 01:19:20.400 --> 01:19:21.960 is it the RNA that reads the DNA? 1096 01:19:21.960 --> 01:19:22.800 Is that right? 1097 01:19:22.800 --> 01:19:23.720 Do I have that correct? 1098 01:19:23.720 --> 01:19:26.440 And that unzips the DNA and then reads it 1099 01:19:26.440 --> 01:19:29.840 and then copies it and does all of this stuff. 1100 01:19:29.840 --> 01:19:33.480 We didn't have to micromanage all of that. 1101 01:19:33.480 --> 01:19:34.920 We don't do all of that. 1102 01:19:34.920 --> 01:19:36.080 It knows how to function, 1103 01:19:36.080 --> 01:19:38.680 but what we need to do is we need to provide it 1104 01:19:38.680 --> 01:19:40.680 with an environment, including with our soul 1105 01:19:40.680 --> 01:19:42.000 and what it is that we believe, 1106 01:19:42.000 --> 01:19:43.720 because our body's going to visibly manifest 1107 01:19:43.720 --> 01:19:45.400 what it is that we actually believe. 1108 01:19:45.400 --> 01:19:47.000 We provided an environment 1109 01:19:47.000 --> 01:19:50.200 that allows it to actually be successful. 1110 01:19:50.200 --> 01:19:53.240 So we provide for and protect it. 1111 01:19:53.240 --> 01:19:56.840 We create an umbrella with our authority. 1112 01:19:56.840 --> 01:19:59.680 That's what we use our authority and power for as a leader. 1113 01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:07.600 to create an umbrella of protection so that to protect them from outside forces coming in 1114 01:20:07.600 --> 01:20:11.840 corrupting with messing, messing it, messing with it, threatening it. 1115 01:20:14.160 --> 01:20:18.960 And it also means that we deal with anything that uprises in the in the middle of it, 1116 01:20:18.960 --> 01:20:22.320 you know, front from from the inside as well, because that can be very damaging. 1117 01:20:23.360 --> 01:20:28.640 And we just provide we seek to provide a healthy environment for them to do what they need to do 1118 01:20:28.640 --> 01:20:33.120 and what they know how to do best, better than we know how, how it should be done. 1119 01:20:33.920 --> 01:20:36.560 That's why they have that position. They're not 1120 01:20:37.760 --> 01:20:43.440 cogs in a wheel. They are not machines that a leader is manipulating. 1121 01:20:44.560 --> 01:20:51.440 The leader actually, it's so odd that leaders are usually, usually rise that through the 1122 01:20:51.440 --> 01:20:56.960 ranks because they performed at their jobs very well. But being a leader, you don't actually do 1123 01:20:56.960 --> 01:21:04.000 the job anymore. As a leader, you provide an environment that facilitates it's everything 1124 01:21:04.000 --> 01:21:10.560 such that all of their needs are met so that they can they don't have to expend all of their effort 1125 01:21:10.560 --> 01:21:16.080 and energy trying to provide for and protect themselves. They can just do their job because 1126 01:21:16.080 --> 01:21:21.520 you're providing for and protecting them. You are being God to them, so to speak. And the fact that 1127 01:21:21.520 --> 01:21:26.960 we're looking up, we're looking like our own father, just like God does that for us. We are 1128 01:21:26.960 --> 01:21:31.120 looking like our father and we're we're copying our father and he's does that with us. We're like, 1129 01:21:31.120 --> 01:21:35.360 OK, so we'll do that for our kingdom and we provide and we do that as well. 1130 01:21:37.680 --> 01:21:42.400 So we're not supposed to we are not to micromanage. We're actually to guide. 1131 01:21:43.440 --> 01:21:48.720 And that's what we that what we do for others, just like I talked about with perspective and 1132 01:21:49.280 --> 01:21:57.600 perspective clients, we empower them. We when when you're talking about employees or your downline 1133 01:21:57.600 --> 01:22:02.960 or I know can even be your vendors could even be your bosses. I have done this with my bosses 1134 01:22:03.520 --> 01:22:08.240 many, many, many times and provided a safe environment for them to make mistakes. 1135 01:22:09.920 --> 01:22:14.240 That's what a leader does, provides them a safe environment to make mistakes. And that's a good 1136 01:22:14.240 --> 01:22:21.760 segue to talk about to tell you about the experience that I had. I was I was the lowest 1137 01:22:21.760 --> 01:22:32.560 man on the totem pole. Yes, Michelle. Yeah. You're like children as well. Correct. I was I was a 1138 01:22:32.560 --> 01:22:38.880 manager of a project of about 45 people, something like that. And I was the lowest man on the totem 1139 01:22:38.880 --> 01:22:46.720 pole. And for a bunch of detail that I won't go into, I oh, well, no, no, actually, y'all are 1140 01:22:46.720 --> 01:22:50.720 already familiar with it. You remember me talking about that, that verbally, verbally abusive 1141 01:22:50.720 --> 01:22:56.880 situation I was in. This was that situation. Well, before I had written before I've been 1142 01:22:56.880 --> 01:23:02.800 promoted to the point of being a peer with him, I was, like I said, the lowest man on the totem 1143 01:23:02.800 --> 01:23:09.440 pole. And they did not that everybody liked me until he showed that he didn't respect my work. 1144 01:23:09.440 --> 01:23:14.160 He didn't think that I did a good job and all of that. And he would publicly say this and he 1145 01:23:14.160 --> 01:23:19.360 and he would just get on to me and treat me honestly, very much like a like a little child. 1146 01:23:20.080 --> 01:23:26.640 And so they were because they because they were intimidated by him and they respected him, 1147 01:23:27.360 --> 01:23:30.880 then whatever it is that he believes they're going to think must be right. 1148 01:23:30.880 --> 01:23:36.720 So while everybody liked me as a person, people did not respect me or my role, especially when 1149 01:23:36.720 --> 01:23:42.080 I got to be a peer with him and was actually was actually managing the project and telling 1150 01:23:42.080 --> 01:23:52.480 them what to do. So I had to then go from having no one respect me to figure out, OK, how do I get 1151 01:23:52.480 --> 01:24:01.440 this job done and how can I turn the table so that they do respect me? And I and I couldn't 1152 01:24:01.440 --> 01:24:10.160 figure it out for the life of me. No one had any good suggestions other than other than force 1153 01:24:11.040 --> 01:24:16.320 and other than making them. And, you know, whatever other worldly advice they were giving me 1154 01:24:16.320 --> 01:24:23.680 at the time. And so I I didn't have a precedent. I didn't couldn't even think of someone in my life 1155 01:24:23.680 --> 01:24:29.600 that I had known had been in a situation similar to mine that could tell me what it is that they 1156 01:24:29.600 --> 01:24:33.760 had that I had that I knew that they'd handled in a particular way. And I thought, oh, that 1157 01:24:33.760 --> 01:24:39.120 that's how I think God does does it. And so I would like to learn. I didn't have that. And so 1158 01:24:39.120 --> 01:24:44.640 I just had to obviously do what any of us should do. I just asked the Lord, Lord, how do I handle 1159 01:24:44.640 --> 01:24:52.480 the situation? And and so he began to tell me how to handle the verbally abusive situation 1160 01:24:52.480 --> 01:24:59.360 and how partly how I handled that. That brought respect for my team, but also how I treated them, 1161 01:24:59.360 --> 01:24:59.840 because. 1162 01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:04.560 understand that they were always very kind to me, 1163 01:25:04.560 --> 01:25:07.320 but they did not treat me with respect, 1164 01:25:07.320 --> 01:25:10.220 and I had to, just like I had to with the man, 1165 01:25:10.220 --> 01:25:12.820 I had to treat them with respect, 1166 01:25:12.820 --> 01:25:14.800 and I had to be humble, 1167 01:25:14.800 --> 01:25:17.000 even though I am their manager, 1168 01:25:17.000 --> 01:25:19.920 I had to be humble in how I interacted with them. 1169 01:25:19.920 --> 01:25:22.240 I had to continue to stay in my position, 1170 01:25:22.240 --> 01:25:24.280 and I wasn't at one of their peers, 1171 01:25:24.280 --> 01:25:25.720 and I wasn't below them. 1172 01:25:25.720 --> 01:25:27.340 I was in my position, 1173 01:25:27.460 --> 01:25:30.580 but I was a very humble learner, 1174 01:25:30.580 --> 01:25:32.460 and I would constantly ask their advice, 1175 01:25:32.460 --> 01:25:34.300 constantly ask their opinion. 1176 01:25:34.300 --> 01:25:36.580 I would tell them what it is that I wanted them to do, 1177 01:25:36.580 --> 01:25:37.580 and then they would say, 1178 01:25:37.580 --> 01:25:39.060 well, actually, actually, 1179 01:25:39.060 --> 01:25:41.020 actually, we think that we should do this, 1180 01:25:41.020 --> 01:25:42.460 da, da, da, da, da, da, da, 1181 01:25:42.460 --> 01:25:43.300 and so I'd ask them, 1182 01:25:43.300 --> 01:25:47.220 okay, why is that? 1183 01:25:47.220 --> 01:25:48.480 And so they would tell me, 1184 01:25:48.480 --> 01:25:50.080 and so they'd explain it to me and whatever, 1185 01:25:50.080 --> 01:25:51.980 and so I'd understand the best of my ability, 1186 01:25:51.980 --> 01:25:53.780 whether or not I thought it would be a good idea, 1187 01:25:53.780 --> 01:25:56.900 and sometimes I didn't think it would be a good idea, 1188 01:25:57.660 --> 01:25:58.940 it depended on the situation 1189 01:25:58.940 --> 01:26:00.400 as to whether I would say, 1190 01:26:00.400 --> 01:26:01.460 I really appreciate that, 1191 01:26:01.460 --> 01:26:02.500 I think it's actually, 1192 01:26:04.580 --> 01:26:07.400 I think that in such and such a situation, 1193 01:26:07.400 --> 01:26:08.240 we can do that, 1194 01:26:08.240 --> 01:26:10.380 but in this particular situation, 1195 01:26:10.380 --> 01:26:12.040 we better do this one, 1196 01:26:12.040 --> 01:26:13.380 and then I would have veto rights, 1197 01:26:13.380 --> 01:26:14.620 and so whatever I said went, 1198 01:26:14.620 --> 01:26:16.120 so that's what we would do, 1199 01:26:16.120 --> 01:26:18.020 but very often, in fact, 1200 01:26:18.020 --> 01:26:20.380 what ended up usually happening 1201 01:26:20.380 --> 01:26:22.820 is I would ask them for their, 1202 01:26:22.820 --> 01:26:24.420 they would tell me what it is they thought, 1203 01:26:24.420 --> 01:26:26.380 sometimes I would ask them, 1204 01:26:26.380 --> 01:26:28.180 well, do y'all think that this is a good idea, 1205 01:26:28.180 --> 01:26:29.420 this is the idea that I came up with, 1206 01:26:29.420 --> 01:26:30.900 or maybe I wouldn't come up with an idea, 1207 01:26:30.900 --> 01:26:32.020 and I would tell them, 1208 01:26:32.020 --> 01:26:32.860 what do y'all think? 1209 01:26:32.860 --> 01:26:33.940 I wanna know what y'all think, 1210 01:26:33.940 --> 01:26:35.380 y'all are in there, 1211 01:26:35.380 --> 01:26:36.200 day in and day out, 1212 01:26:36.200 --> 01:26:38.020 y'all see all of these systems, 1213 01:26:38.020 --> 01:26:39.340 what do you see? 1214 01:26:40.420 --> 01:26:41.500 Do you see any, 1215 01:26:42.340 --> 01:26:45.100 I spoke in such a way that I, 1216 01:26:45.100 --> 01:26:48.980 to let them know I expected them to be wise, 1217 01:26:48.980 --> 01:26:52.200 I expected good things from them, 1218 01:26:52.200 --> 01:26:54.860 not that, oh, I believed that they could, 1219 01:26:54.860 --> 01:26:57.180 or I know that they have potential, 1220 01:26:57.180 --> 01:26:59.020 no, that's patronizing, 1221 01:26:59.020 --> 01:27:00.820 no, I had to actually believe 1222 01:27:00.820 --> 01:27:03.740 that they really make good decisions, 1223 01:27:03.740 --> 01:27:05.460 even if I didn't agree with all of the decisions 1224 01:27:05.460 --> 01:27:06.380 all of the time, 1225 01:27:06.380 --> 01:27:09.380 but that they were good decision makers, 1226 01:27:09.380 --> 01:27:10.860 that they were good at their job, 1227 01:27:10.860 --> 01:27:12.140 and I valued that, 1228 01:27:12.140 --> 01:27:15.380 and I had to truly be the thing, 1229 01:27:15.380 --> 01:27:16.940 remember, I had to actually believe it, 1230 01:27:16.940 --> 01:27:17.780 I had to own it, 1231 01:27:17.780 --> 01:27:20.540 I had to put on my own oxygen mask first, 1232 01:27:20.540 --> 01:27:22.100 otherwise they'd see right through it, 1233 01:27:22.100 --> 01:27:23.900 so, well, I mean, 1234 01:27:23.900 --> 01:27:25.620 that's not the reason that you shouldn't do it, 1235 01:27:25.620 --> 01:27:27.380 you shouldn't do it because you shouldn't do it, 1236 01:27:27.380 --> 01:27:29.020 but also in addition, 1237 01:27:29.020 --> 01:27:30.900 they can't see right through all of that, 1238 01:27:30.900 --> 01:27:34.020 but so I would ask them, 1239 01:27:34.020 --> 01:27:34.860 okay, well, what do you think? 1240 01:27:34.860 --> 01:27:36.140 And so they'd tell me, 1241 01:27:36.140 --> 01:27:37.620 and often when I would think, 1242 01:27:37.620 --> 01:27:39.380 I don't think that that's a good idea, 1243 01:27:39.380 --> 01:27:41.500 I would want to sow into them, 1244 01:27:41.500 --> 01:27:43.340 and to let them know that, 1245 01:27:43.340 --> 01:27:46.760 and to allow them to contribute, 1246 01:27:46.760 --> 01:27:49.020 because this project was not mine, 1247 01:27:49.020 --> 01:27:50.060 it was all of ours, 1248 01:27:50.060 --> 01:27:52.300 and I would tell them that all of the time, 1249 01:27:52.300 --> 01:27:55.780 I was constantly trying to be given, 1250 01:27:55.780 --> 01:27:57.340 the team did so well, 1251 01:27:57.340 --> 01:28:01.400 that as a manager in that particular company, 1252 01:28:01.400 --> 01:28:02.340 the way that it works is, 1253 01:28:02.340 --> 01:28:03.980 I was the one who got all the, 1254 01:28:03.980 --> 01:28:05.260 would get the rewards, 1255 01:28:05.260 --> 01:28:06.540 get the awards, 1256 01:28:06.540 --> 01:28:07.860 because, and sometimes, 1257 01:28:07.860 --> 01:28:10.060 I'm trying to think if there were any monetary rewards 1258 01:28:10.060 --> 01:28:10.900 for all of that, 1259 01:28:10.900 --> 01:28:13.420 there were definitely like awards, recognition, et cetera, 1260 01:28:13.420 --> 01:28:15.340 and I would get them, 1261 01:28:15.340 --> 01:28:17.900 and because that's how that particular company worked, 1262 01:28:17.900 --> 01:28:19.540 is the manager would get them, 1263 01:28:19.580 --> 01:28:22.020 well, I didn't think that that was, 1264 01:28:22.020 --> 01:28:24.020 I didn't think it was truthful, 1265 01:28:24.020 --> 01:28:26.060 I mean, like I genuinely did not think it was truthful, 1266 01:28:26.060 --> 01:28:27.540 and so therefore, 1267 01:28:27.540 --> 01:28:30.820 I would give that award to the team, 1268 01:28:30.820 --> 01:28:34.160 and I would do an award ceremony for the team, 1269 01:28:35.380 --> 01:28:38.500 and give them those awards, 1270 01:28:38.500 --> 01:28:40.860 because I would remind them, 1271 01:28:40.860 --> 01:28:42.700 look, we all do this together, 1272 01:28:42.700 --> 01:28:44.740 we all come up with these good ideas, 1273 01:28:44.740 --> 01:28:46.620 we're all in various parts of it, 1274 01:28:46.620 --> 01:28:50.260 we together are what makes this actually work, 1275 01:28:50.260 --> 01:28:51.580 we have fun together, 1276 01:28:51.580 --> 01:28:53.420 and we treat each other with respect, 1277 01:28:53.420 --> 01:28:55.460 and this is going to be all of us together, 1278 01:28:55.460 --> 01:28:56.620 this isn't me, 1279 01:28:56.620 --> 01:28:59.340 y'all are the ones that came up with these great ideas, 1280 01:28:59.340 --> 01:29:00.860 that ended up succeeding, 1281 01:29:00.860 --> 01:29:04.340 so this award is for all of us, 1282 01:29:04.340 --> 01:29:06.420 so, I mean, 1283 01:29:06.420 --> 01:29:10.060 we actually have to believe the thing in the Lord, 1284 01:29:10.060 --> 01:29:12.940 so I would pour into them by thinking, 1285 01:29:12.940 --> 01:29:16.180 I want them to actually, 1286 01:29:16.700 --> 01:29:18.540 I want them to continue to come up with good ideas, 1287 01:29:18.540 --> 01:29:20.020 I want them to be interested, 1288 01:29:20.020 --> 01:29:21.620 invested in their job, 1289 01:29:21.620 --> 01:29:23.660 and feel that they own their own job, 1290 01:29:23.660 --> 01:29:24.780 dadgummit, 1291 01:29:24.780 --> 01:29:26.820 that their manager does not own their job, 1292 01:29:26.820 --> 01:29:28.140 they get to own their job, 1293 01:29:28.140 --> 01:29:29.460 they get to own their tasks, 1294 01:29:29.460 --> 01:29:32.460 they get to own their responsibility, 1295 01:29:32.460 --> 01:29:34.380 they will do so much better with it, 1296 01:29:35.300 --> 01:29:36.580 sure, they're gonna make mistakes, 1297 01:29:36.580 --> 01:29:39.440 and sure, they're gonna make unwise decisions sometimes, 1298 01:29:39.440 --> 01:29:40.640 but the vast, 1299 01:29:42.900 --> 01:29:43.820 for one thing, 1300 01:29:43.820 --> 01:29:45.300 the safer environment that we make 1301 01:29:45.340 --> 01:29:46.340 for people to make mistakes, 1302 01:29:46.340 --> 01:29:47.860 the fewer mistakes they make, 1303 01:29:51.820 --> 01:29:53.500 let me pull this out, 1304 01:29:53.500 --> 01:29:55.420 let me plug in my iPhone, 1305 01:29:55.420 --> 01:29:57.460 it's deciding it wants to die again, 1306 01:29:58.780 --> 01:30:00.100 but anyway. 1307 01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:03.760 So I would tell them, 1308 01:30:03.760 --> 01:30:08.360 okay, then let's go with your idea. 1309 01:30:08.360 --> 01:30:10.760 And I said, let's do that. 1310 01:30:10.760 --> 01:30:12.000 And they could tell sometimes 1311 01:30:12.000 --> 01:30:13.740 that I didn't agree with it. 1312 01:30:13.740 --> 01:30:15.580 But not that I ever acted like that, 1313 01:30:15.580 --> 01:30:17.360 but they could kind of tell by, 1314 01:30:17.360 --> 01:30:19.320 you know, little things here and there. 1315 01:30:19.320 --> 01:30:21.180 You know, sometimes people just know in the spirit, 1316 01:30:21.180 --> 01:30:23.220 okay, well, they don't actually, 1317 01:30:23.220 --> 01:30:25.880 they're concerned that this may not actually be 1318 01:30:25.880 --> 01:30:28.040 the right idea because understand that 1319 01:30:28.040 --> 01:30:29.280 when you're investing in someone, 1320 01:30:29.280 --> 01:30:32.600 you're not investing in their idea. 1321 01:30:32.600 --> 01:30:34.400 You're investing in them, 1322 01:30:34.400 --> 01:30:36.160 who it is that they are as a person. 1323 01:30:36.160 --> 01:30:37.700 That's what it is that you're pouring into. 1324 01:30:37.700 --> 01:30:39.400 And the way that they're getting that picture 1325 01:30:39.400 --> 01:30:41.200 and that expression in that moment 1326 01:30:41.200 --> 01:30:44.440 is the fact that you're saying that we can do your idea, 1327 01:30:44.440 --> 01:30:46.120 but you're not investing in the idea. 1328 01:30:46.120 --> 01:30:48.040 You're investing in the person who came up with it. 1329 01:30:48.040 --> 01:30:51.440 You're investing in their contributory power. 1330 01:30:51.440 --> 01:30:54.000 You're showing the fact that you value that 1331 01:30:54.000 --> 01:30:57.680 and that you continue to invite more of that. 1332 01:30:58.520 --> 01:31:00.880 And because if you show that you're open to it, 1333 01:31:00.880 --> 01:31:05.680 they take ownership and responsibility of their job more, 1334 01:31:05.680 --> 01:31:08.380 even to the point where if they make their own mistakes, 1335 01:31:08.380 --> 01:31:10.840 they will come and tell you themselves 1336 01:31:10.840 --> 01:31:12.680 because they understand that they're safe with you 1337 01:31:12.680 --> 01:31:14.000 because you actually value them 1338 01:31:14.000 --> 01:31:16.280 as opposed to them always having to defend themselves 1339 01:31:16.280 --> 01:31:17.120 against you. 1340 01:31:18.080 --> 01:31:20.440 Instead, I put myself in a position 1341 01:31:20.440 --> 01:31:23.640 where I always defended them against everyone else. 1342 01:31:23.640 --> 01:31:26.860 So my team had to know that they were safe with me. 1343 01:31:26.860 --> 01:31:30.700 And that means that if they made mistakes, 1344 01:31:30.700 --> 01:31:32.300 guess whose head was on the chopping block? 1345 01:31:32.300 --> 01:31:35.420 With my boss and their boss and their boss. 1346 01:31:35.420 --> 01:31:37.300 Because I would generally work very, very closely 1347 01:31:37.300 --> 01:31:38.660 with all three levels. 1348 01:31:38.660 --> 01:31:40.540 And then sometimes they would even work 1349 01:31:40.540 --> 01:31:42.780 with the fourth level up, which is the vice president. 1350 01:31:42.780 --> 01:31:44.420 Excuse me. 1351 01:31:44.420 --> 01:31:46.700 But regardless for whether it was three or four levels, 1352 01:31:46.700 --> 01:31:48.980 it was all the time, very close. 1353 01:31:48.980 --> 01:31:51.340 And my head was on the chopping block if it didn't work. 1354 01:31:51.340 --> 01:31:52.660 And if it didn't work, 1355 01:31:52.660 --> 01:31:55.060 I didn't tell them who had made the mistake. 1356 01:31:55.060 --> 01:31:56.860 In fact, I didn't even tell them 1357 01:31:56.860 --> 01:31:58.220 that they had made a mistake. 1358 01:31:58.220 --> 01:32:02.420 I would take ownership as this is me as part of the team. 1359 01:32:02.420 --> 01:32:04.020 And this is what happened. 1360 01:32:04.020 --> 01:32:05.780 This is what we did. 1361 01:32:06.620 --> 01:32:08.260 This is how it happened. 1362 01:32:09.100 --> 01:32:11.460 But I would put myself with them as opposed to, 1363 01:32:11.460 --> 01:32:13.820 well, I told them that that wasn't a good idea. 1364 01:32:15.380 --> 01:32:16.220 I didn't. 1365 01:32:16.220 --> 01:32:20.140 And so they knew that even if they made mistakes 1366 01:32:20.140 --> 01:32:22.900 that I would take, that I would bear the weight of that. 1367 01:32:22.900 --> 01:32:24.920 I would bear the responsibility of that. 1368 01:32:25.680 --> 01:32:26.520 So they felt safe with me. 1369 01:32:26.520 --> 01:32:28.640 So you see that a leader provides, 1370 01:32:28.640 --> 01:32:31.000 just using all, just my own personal example 1371 01:32:31.000 --> 01:32:34.440 as a story that you can hopefully, 1372 01:32:35.440 --> 01:32:38.920 that will hopefully help to drive this idea home, 1373 01:32:38.920 --> 01:32:41.840 that I've actually lived in some very extreme situations. 1374 01:32:41.840 --> 01:32:45.760 And y'all might remember that this happened to be a project 1375 01:32:45.760 --> 01:32:50.760 that was one of the only projects out of however many, 1376 01:32:51.120 --> 01:32:54.000 I don't know, several hundred thousands, 1377 01:32:54.000 --> 01:32:55.880 if not millions of projects 1378 01:32:55.880 --> 01:32:57.480 that were going on in that company. 1379 01:32:57.480 --> 01:33:00.480 And one of the few that were actually reported 1380 01:33:00.480 --> 01:33:05.480 on a regular basis to the man who owned the company 1381 01:33:05.680 --> 01:33:08.160 of half a million people worldwide. 1382 01:33:08.160 --> 01:33:10.960 And so these were not small, 1383 01:33:10.960 --> 01:33:15.220 these were not small risks that I was taking. 1384 01:33:16.140 --> 01:33:19.400 I was choosing people over a project. 1385 01:33:19.400 --> 01:33:23.320 Now you have to balance it in the fact that, 1386 01:33:24.000 --> 01:33:26.640 is you have to balance the situation, figure out, 1387 01:33:26.640 --> 01:33:30.200 okay, well, to make sure that whatever responsibility 1388 01:33:30.200 --> 01:33:32.720 that you're giving to someone can, 1389 01:33:32.720 --> 01:33:36.440 are they to the point where they're mature enough 1390 01:33:36.440 --> 01:33:38.920 in their job, in their emotional response, 1391 01:33:38.920 --> 01:33:41.600 in their emotions, whatever, 1392 01:33:41.600 --> 01:33:45.400 are they mature enough to bear the responsibility 1393 01:33:45.400 --> 01:33:47.880 of the fact that you are giving them 1394 01:33:48.840 --> 01:33:52.560 of by you agreeing to carry, 1395 01:33:52.560 --> 01:33:54.820 that they can carry out their idea. 1396 01:33:56.320 --> 01:33:58.920 You don't wanna give a knife to a two-year-old. 1397 01:33:59.880 --> 01:34:02.120 Now, so there are certain things 1398 01:34:02.120 --> 01:34:04.240 that you can give to a two-year-old, not a knife, 1399 01:34:04.240 --> 01:34:06.120 but other things you can give to a two-year-old 1400 01:34:06.120 --> 01:34:08.000 that you don't leave the two-year-old alone 1401 01:34:08.000 --> 01:34:10.680 in the room with, but you allow them 1402 01:34:10.680 --> 01:34:12.440 in a protective and safe environment 1403 01:34:12.440 --> 01:34:14.600 to learn how to use the thing. 1404 01:34:14.600 --> 01:34:16.960 But you don't leave them alone with it. 1405 01:34:16.960 --> 01:34:19.600 But, so you can do that, 1406 01:34:19.600 --> 01:34:21.280 but there are certain things that you, 1407 01:34:21.280 --> 01:34:22.720 but just because you do that, 1408 01:34:22.720 --> 01:34:26.280 does it mean that you can give anything to a two-year-old? 1409 01:34:26.280 --> 01:34:29.000 So don't think that just because someone comes, 1410 01:34:29.000 --> 01:34:30.640 that what I'm saying is that just 1411 01:34:30.640 --> 01:34:32.480 because someone comes up with an idea 1412 01:34:33.800 --> 01:34:35.760 or a client wants to do something, 1413 01:34:35.760 --> 01:34:37.600 or comes up with an idea, or I don't know, 1414 01:34:37.600 --> 01:34:39.920 whatever the situation may be, 1415 01:34:39.920 --> 01:34:41.520 that just because someone comes up with it, 1416 01:34:41.520 --> 01:34:45.200 that in order for you to sew into it and sew into them, 1417 01:34:45.200 --> 01:34:48.160 that the answer is always that you have to agree 1418 01:34:48.160 --> 01:34:50.120 with their idea, agree to go along with their idea. 1419 01:34:50.120 --> 01:34:53.880 No, you're weighing multiple things here 1420 01:34:53.880 --> 01:34:55.720 because you also have to continue 1421 01:34:55.720 --> 01:34:59.520 to provide a safe environment in which for them to operate. 1422 01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:04.640 what it is that they've just done could either damage them in a very major way. If it damages 1423 01:35:04.640 --> 01:35:09.120 them a little bit and it damaged the project a little bit, then those are the types of risks 1424 01:35:09.120 --> 01:35:16.080 that I would take. But if it would like destroy them or destroy you or not you, 1425 01:35:16.080 --> 01:35:22.000 it destroyed the project, well then it would destroy the environment that you're trying 1426 01:35:22.000 --> 01:35:26.560 to create for them. So it's actually not for their best. So there's just different things 1427 01:35:26.560 --> 01:35:33.040 that you're weighing in here. So don't make a tried and true perfect one-way formula for 1428 01:35:33.040 --> 01:35:41.440 what I'm saying. Take a broader context from what I'm describing here. So let's see. 1429 01:35:42.640 --> 01:35:51.840 What else was I going to say about that? But it was to the point where I would even tell my 1430 01:35:51.840 --> 01:35:59.520 bosses no. If they, I was providing me a protective environment such for my employees 1431 01:35:59.520 --> 01:36:05.920 that they, that my bosses were holding me responsible for providing a protective environment 1432 01:36:05.920 --> 01:36:11.200 for them, for them, you know, so that they, so that the employees could get a particular result 1433 01:36:11.200 --> 01:36:18.000 and all and whatever. So if they, if that was what they had told me to do, I would choose that 1434 01:36:18.000 --> 01:36:24.240 over new direction that they would give me that actually would destroy the thing that they told 1435 01:36:24.240 --> 01:36:29.920 me to protect. So if they came up with an idea that would actually destroy the higher thing 1436 01:36:29.920 --> 01:36:34.000 that they had told me to do, which was to make sure that the people were protected, and no, 1437 01:36:34.000 --> 01:36:39.120 they hadn't told me that. I'm just saying that that is the position that I had to realize that 1438 01:36:39.120 --> 01:36:50.720 I was in. And so I had to choose that over the particular ins and outs of, and instructions 1439 01:36:50.720 --> 01:36:54.880 of what it is they wanted and why. I would sometimes have to tell them no. 1440 01:36:56.160 --> 01:37:02.400 There were other times that they just put their foot down and they insisted and this is how it 1441 01:37:02.400 --> 01:37:09.680 was going to be. So I would set up the expectation of what it is that they could expect 1442 01:37:10.480 --> 01:37:16.400 from us following that so that there was that clear expectation. But then I would mention the 1443 01:37:16.400 --> 01:37:24.240 same, I wouldn't also set an expectation for the team because it can seem then that something is 1444 01:37:24.240 --> 01:37:29.200 coming in to be able to attack them, but I needed them to understand that's part of the protective 1445 01:37:29.200 --> 01:37:33.040 environment that I was continuing to provide for them is, okay, this thing is coming in, 1446 01:37:33.040 --> 01:37:39.440 and you now need to know what it is that I expect of you. That this, yes, we do know that these 1447 01:37:39.440 --> 01:37:44.720 things can happen and that these things will happen, and that we're not going to like the 1448 01:37:44.720 --> 01:37:50.640 result because we all know that they shouldn't, that the upper lines shouldn't have made these 1449 01:37:50.640 --> 01:37:57.200 decisions, but they're requiring that we go through with it. So we are going to do it, 1450 01:37:57.200 --> 01:38:02.160 but I just want you to know that I am fully aware on the outside and I just want you to 1451 01:38:02.160 --> 01:38:09.520 do your best. I just want you to do as good of a job as you know how to do to get a positive, 1452 01:38:10.160 --> 01:38:17.840 valuable, as good of a scenario result as you can get for them, even though you don't agree with it. 1453 01:38:18.480 --> 01:38:24.080 You put your best into it and you honor them, and that's all that I'm asking. I'm not asking for 1454 01:38:24.080 --> 01:38:32.080 you to make it work because we all don't know how to get it to work, but I'm asking you to try 1455 01:38:32.080 --> 01:38:38.720 your darndest to try to get it to succeed, and that is all that I'm going to require, 1456 01:38:38.720 --> 01:38:44.800 but I'm not going to hold you responsible for it not working. Now, I didn't use that language. I 1457 01:38:44.800 --> 01:38:48.080 don't remember exactly what language that I would use because I would have to be in the actual 1458 01:38:48.080 --> 01:38:54.960 situation, but I needed them to know that they and the results of their hands were still safe 1459 01:38:54.960 --> 01:38:59.120 with me. Otherwise, they think, well, wait a minute. I was just going to think, you know, 1460 01:38:59.120 --> 01:39:03.440 you know, she's just giving me the impossible to do, and then she's going to hold me responsible 1461 01:39:03.440 --> 01:39:08.800 for the fact that I didn't hit the impossible. So because it can look like a threat that's coming 1462 01:39:08.800 --> 01:39:15.600 in from the outside, I'm having to set up a new type of, and I expect, re-communicate the fact 1463 01:39:16.080 --> 01:39:21.920 of how it is that I'm now providing, that I am continuing to provide them a protective and safe 1464 01:39:21.920 --> 01:39:28.480 environment for them to feel safe in their jobs, safe with me, etc. So I had to set up those types 1465 01:39:28.480 --> 01:39:33.840 of expectations, but anyway, well, some of the stuff I have not thought all about in a very long 1466 01:39:33.840 --> 01:39:44.560 time, and you're providing a supportive environment for them to rise up, not be raised up. You're not 1467 01:39:44.560 --> 01:39:50.400 raising up your employees. You're setting up an environment for them to choose to rise to. 1468 01:39:52.000 --> 01:39:59.840 So I would speak, I would treat people according to how it is that I saw them in. 1469 01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:05.880 And with my spiritual eyes, according to how it is that I saw them in the spirit, even 1470 01:40:05.880 --> 01:40:11.960 if they weren't acting like it yet, and then when I continue to operate like that and talk 1471 01:40:11.960 --> 01:40:16.440 with them like that, they would eventually over time, and it might take a while, trust 1472 01:40:16.440 --> 01:40:23.480 me, I'm fully aware of time passing and not seeing results, trying to say in very difficult 1473 01:40:23.480 --> 01:40:24.480 situations. 1474 01:40:24.480 --> 01:40:28.600 And if you feel like you're having to bear all the consequences, trust me, I'm fully 1475 01:40:28.600 --> 01:40:32.960 aware, but you give it, you're investing in people, you're not trying to get a result, 1476 01:40:32.960 --> 01:40:35.880 you're pouring into people, and they will eventually rise. 1477 01:40:35.880 --> 01:40:41.160 It is so neat to watch, it is absolutely wild. 1478 01:40:41.160 --> 01:40:45.560 That now they all get to choose, I've had certain relationships that I was in that did 1479 01:40:45.560 --> 01:40:52.840 not choose to rise, and that poor little thing, in fact, as soon as my situation was over 1480 01:40:52.840 --> 01:40:59.080 with, I was over for, for that man, that was, that was abusing me. 1481 01:40:59.080 --> 01:41:03.040 And he and I got to be just like the best of friends, I mean, the best buds, we were 1482 01:41:03.040 --> 01:41:05.280 very, very tight. 1483 01:41:05.280 --> 01:41:11.120 As after that was over, I went from what felt like the front from, from the frying pan into 1484 01:41:11.120 --> 01:41:12.800 the fire. 1485 01:41:12.800 --> 01:41:18.600 Because the person that I literally sat next to, started to hate me. 1486 01:41:18.600 --> 01:41:19.600 I mean, hate me. 1487 01:41:19.600 --> 01:41:20.600 And I'm thinking, I'm not used to people. 1488 01:41:20.600 --> 01:41:21.600 Lord, what do I do? 1489 01:41:21.600 --> 01:41:30.600 I'm just like, Oh, my Lord, I just finished the other situation. 1490 01:41:30.600 --> 01:41:37.840 So okay, now I know, from having gone through that situation, how do you want me to handle 1491 01:41:37.840 --> 01:41:38.840 this one? 1492 01:41:38.840 --> 01:41:43.440 But the reason that that one was so difficult for the other person is, I had boundaries. 1493 01:41:43.440 --> 01:41:49.240 And, and meaning that I had, and they, and they didn't, with their work. 1494 01:41:49.240 --> 01:41:57.760 And I, and they, they were, they would, they emotionally held that against me, oh, my word, 1495 01:41:57.760 --> 01:41:58.760 the animosity. 1496 01:41:58.760 --> 01:41:59.760 Oh, my. 1497 01:41:59.760 --> 01:42:00.760 Oh, my gosh. 1498 01:42:00.760 --> 01:42:01.760 Yeah. 1499 01:42:01.760 --> 01:42:05.280 I mean, I'm sitting in the same cubicle with them, you can feel it, you can feel that, 1500 01:42:05.280 --> 01:42:06.280 feel the hate. 1501 01:42:06.280 --> 01:42:08.360 It was pretty, pretty extreme. 1502 01:42:08.360 --> 01:42:09.600 And we didn't turn out like that. 1503 01:42:09.600 --> 01:42:11.480 So all of a sudden happened. 1504 01:42:11.480 --> 01:42:12.480 Anyway. 1505 01:42:12.520 --> 01:42:18.360 So, um, but yes, a lot, a lot went on in that, in that, in that interesting places, which 1506 01:42:18.360 --> 01:42:22.480 you believe it was actually an amazing company to work for and with, and my time there was 1507 01:42:22.480 --> 01:42:23.480 amazing. 1508 01:42:23.480 --> 01:42:27.720 But I went through some very, very big trials while I was there. 1509 01:42:27.720 --> 01:42:35.880 But like I said, let them rise up and encourage them and empower them to rise up so that they're 1510 01:42:35.880 --> 01:42:37.560 not relying on you. 1511 01:42:37.560 --> 01:42:39.280 You're not raising them up. 1512 01:42:39.280 --> 01:42:44.560 You're providing them with an environment that makes it easier for them to make choices, 1513 01:42:44.560 --> 01:42:49.520 very difficult choices that they've been able to have the courage to make this for. 1514 01:42:49.520 --> 01:42:52.440 That's what you're, that's what you're doing for them. 1515 01:42:52.440 --> 01:42:57.800 And there's an, and it's, it's, it's difficult to provide, to have the leadership where you're 1516 01:42:57.800 --> 01:43:07.400 willing to sacrifice yourself to, to, um, to provide a type of environment for someone 1517 01:43:07.400 --> 01:43:13.200 that feels like not only are they threatening you, you know, and attacking you, but that 1518 01:43:13.200 --> 01:43:20.080 also they're trying to destroy the environment that you're trying to create. 1519 01:43:20.080 --> 01:43:25.400 And so all of this can just feel like, you know, just, just like Jesus, like we, we, 1520 01:43:25.400 --> 01:43:29.480 he was, he was loving us and dying for us while we were killing him. 1521 01:43:29.480 --> 01:43:31.760 And so we're called to do the same thing for others. 1522 01:43:31.760 --> 01:43:36.040 So if ever you find you're finding yourself thinking, oh my word, this is so hard. 1523 01:43:36.040 --> 01:43:37.040 This is not fair. 1524 01:43:37.680 --> 01:43:45.840 Jesus knows he's been through that with you and look at that turned out great turned out 1525 01:43:45.840 --> 01:43:46.840 wonderful. 1526 01:43:46.840 --> 01:43:51.240 So, um, all right, so you're sewing into them. 1527 01:43:51.240 --> 01:43:55.680 You are making it and making it a safe place for them to make mistakes by taking on a certain 1528 01:43:55.680 --> 01:44:00.880 aspect of responsibility does not mean that they won't bear consequences of their decisions. 1529 01:44:00.880 --> 01:44:07.120 It just means that, um, there's an aspect of the, um, uh, an aspect of the responsibility 1530 01:44:07.120 --> 01:44:08.120 that you take. 1531 01:44:08.120 --> 01:44:11.800 Um, and, uh, you know, I won't go too deep into that. 1532 01:44:11.800 --> 01:44:12.800 Um, okay. 1533 01:44:12.800 --> 01:44:17.840 So the last thing that I want to talk about before we get into the, uh, Q and a, cause 1534 01:44:17.840 --> 01:44:21.840 I want to make sure we've got plenty of time for the Q and a is how to specifically handle 1535 01:44:21.840 --> 01:44:29.800 difficult, uh, people, difficult clients, difficult employees, vendors, who are bosses. 1536 01:44:29.800 --> 01:44:33.960 I go in this category to remember, oh, you know, all of these things already, we've talked 1537 01:44:33.960 --> 01:44:36.480 about them multiple times, but we're going to go through them again. 1538 01:44:36.480 --> 01:44:38.840 Always put on your own oxygen mask first. 1539 01:44:38.840 --> 01:44:43.120 If you don't put on your own oxygen mask first, anything that you want for your business or 1540 01:44:43.120 --> 01:44:45.720 your clients or your employees won't work period. 1541 01:44:45.720 --> 01:44:48.000 I mean, from a place of rest. 1542 01:44:48.000 --> 01:44:52.440 Now you can get something to work if you use the truth, knowledge of good and evil and 1543 01:44:52.440 --> 01:44:53.880 you, and you do all of that. 1544 01:44:53.880 --> 01:44:58.880 I mean, yeah, you can get all kinds of results, but, um, we're talking specifically about 1545 01:44:58.880 --> 01:45:00.000 how to do things. 1546 01:45:00.000 --> 01:45:05.840 from a place of rest and as learning how to do it at greater levels whenever we uh if we choose to 1547 01:45:06.560 --> 01:45:11.280 and for that remember that in everything you have to put on your own oxygen mask first. 1548 01:45:11.920 --> 01:45:19.520 We can't want something for someone for someone else um without having to go through the thing 1549 01:45:19.520 --> 01:45:28.960 ourselves first. Not at the same time first. So if you want to create a business because you want 1550 01:45:28.960 --> 01:45:32.800 something for someone else you will have to go through it first. You can't go through it at the 1551 01:45:32.800 --> 01:45:38.720 same time. I mean there's an aspect of us learning things at the same time sure but what I'm talking 1552 01:45:38.720 --> 01:45:42.560 about is I'm talking about the fact that you have you can only get what it is that you have so you 1553 01:45:42.560 --> 01:45:50.400 have to have it first. So you have to walk through and ahead if you want to provide something for 1554 01:45:50.400 --> 01:45:55.440 someone else you have to go ahead of them and um and they're going to have it easier and you're 1555 01:45:55.440 --> 01:46:00.960 going to have it harder and that is what it is that you sacrifice and give um of yourself. So 1556 01:46:00.960 --> 01:46:05.040 you put it on your own oxygen mask first so that you can have something to give to them. It's not 1557 01:46:05.040 --> 01:46:10.400 why you do it. You do it completely devoid of them regardless of them. You put on your own 1558 01:46:10.400 --> 01:46:15.760 oxygen mask first between you and the lord but then you also now have that then to be able to 1559 01:46:15.760 --> 01:46:21.920 give them. When they're coming when difficult people are coming to you uh how to interact 1560 01:46:21.920 --> 01:46:27.280 with them. I've talked to the talked to this you know so much about seeing them in the spirit 1561 01:46:27.280 --> 01:46:31.120 seeing who it is that they are in spirit as opposed to in the brokenness in which they're 1562 01:46:31.120 --> 01:46:34.640 coming to you. I think I usually do this like brokenness in which they're coming to you we're 1563 01:46:34.640 --> 01:46:38.400 thinking that they're you know their identities and their soul or their body. If you're talking 1564 01:46:38.400 --> 01:46:43.600 to this person you're acknowledging all their woes and whatever well then it's not calling them to 1565 01:46:43.600 --> 01:46:49.840 rise up. You have to be looking at this and talking to this person to their spirit in order for them 1566 01:46:49.840 --> 01:46:54.480 to have something to rise up to. The reason they're not up there is they don't know it exists. 1567 01:46:54.480 --> 01:47:00.800 So you're talking to it sheds light on it and helps them realize oh my word I didn't realize 1568 01:47:00.800 --> 01:47:04.800 that that was there on the corner. You know I didn't realize that that was that that was there 1569 01:47:04.800 --> 01:47:10.080 now that I know it there well I want it. So they'll voluntarily of their own volition choose 1570 01:47:10.080 --> 01:47:15.120 whether or not they want to to own um and whether or not they want to make the decision 1571 01:47:15.120 --> 01:47:20.160 of of doing what they need to do and releasing what they need to release in order to shift into 1572 01:47:20.160 --> 01:47:27.040 that place and rise up. And so you'll want to talk to that person and as far as like how you 1573 01:47:27.040 --> 01:47:31.520 actually do it a couple of things that are hopefully helpful especially for someone who's 1574 01:47:31.520 --> 01:47:37.920 being very very difficult with you is they're basically coming to you wanting you to judge 1575 01:47:37.920 --> 01:47:46.000 the situation. Wanting you to judge um not necessarily them but well you are judging them but 1576 01:47:46.960 --> 01:47:49.920 okay so let me say it this way because I think it'll make it easier to understand. 1577 01:47:51.360 --> 01:47:56.160 They are calling you to judge them but whether you're calling you to judge they're calling you 1578 01:47:56.160 --> 01:48:03.120 wanting you to judge is is to is in discernment of whether what it is that they're doing and who 1579 01:48:03.120 --> 01:48:09.520 it is that they are not what is they're doing really but who it is that they are is right that 1580 01:48:09.520 --> 01:48:16.000 it's all okay that it's appropriate that it's accurate that it's the correct decision that 1581 01:48:16.000 --> 01:48:27.600 it's whatever they're wanting you to actually judge it um and um excuse me so judge it but 1582 01:48:27.600 --> 01:48:34.880 judge it as the son of god with discernment meaning that if they are doing something that 1583 01:48:34.880 --> 01:48:42.880 you don't agree with how they're doing it you can judge and and call attention to highlight 1584 01:48:42.880 --> 01:48:52.880 praise and affirm and speak to their this the the spirit in which they are acting that is actually 1585 01:48:52.880 --> 01:48:58.800 reflective of their father's character even though the way that they're operating that how 1586 01:48:58.800 --> 01:49:08.000 they're actually um fueling that thing is from fear so you're not affirming the fear in which 1587 01:49:08.000 --> 01:49:13.040 they're operating oops you're not affirming the fear in which they're operating you're actually 1588 01:49:13.040 --> 01:49:21.440 just affirming the spirit of the lord in them and you're affirming the aspects in which they are 1589 01:49:21.520 --> 01:49:28.400 reflecting his character even though they're doing it right now through uh through fear 1590 01:49:28.400 --> 01:49:34.000 and the result that they're getting is um desire or what it is that they're desiring out of the 1591 01:49:34.000 --> 01:49:40.400 result is to provide for and protect themselves you're not affirming that you're speaking to 1592 01:49:41.200 --> 01:49:48.080 when i talk about judging it basically discerning it calling it out and shedding light on it and 1593 01:49:48.080 --> 01:49:54.080 reflecting of the truth yes calling out their hundred fold yes exactly what you are doing is 1594 01:49:54.080 --> 01:49:59.520 you are just affirming cubitus that they are truly in the spirit the seed of their actual identity 1595 01:49:59.520 --> 01:49:59.920 not where they 1596 01:50:00.000 --> 01:50:07.920 think that their identity is. So judge that, in other words, discern that and talk to that as 1597 01:50:07.920 --> 01:50:12.880 opposed to talking about what it is they shouldn't be doing and whatever. There is a time and a place 1598 01:50:12.880 --> 01:50:22.080 for that, but that the time and the place for that comes when you've created an environment 1599 01:50:22.080 --> 01:50:27.760 in which they feel safe with you that they can receive it. If they do not feel safe with you, 1600 01:50:28.400 --> 01:50:40.160 then they will receive the insight and wisdom as condemnation and they will usually come out 1601 01:50:40.160 --> 01:50:46.000 fighting and it can create tremendous amount of shame. They can choose to receive it as a 1602 01:50:48.480 --> 01:50:55.760 tremendous amount of shame. In their defense, they might come out swinging, but then when they go 1603 01:50:55.760 --> 01:51:00.640 back, they can either, you know, and they're by themselves, they feel worse about themselves and 1604 01:51:00.640 --> 01:51:06.800 they're less likely to try. They're less, because you've proven in their minds that you aren't a 1605 01:51:06.800 --> 01:51:17.040 safe place for them to make mistakes. So yes, there's cleanup with, okay, it's kind of like 1606 01:51:17.040 --> 01:51:22.560 kids. When kids are learning to eat at the breakfast table, it is a very messy affair. 1607 01:51:22.560 --> 01:51:27.600 It just is. And there's a lot of milk that needs to be cleaned up and Cheerios that have to be 1608 01:51:27.600 --> 01:51:35.040 picked up out of the couch, you know, when they're eating them for a snack, you know, and there's 1609 01:51:35.040 --> 01:51:40.160 all kinds of cleanup. And so it looks like, if we think about it in a particular way, it's just, 1610 01:51:40.160 --> 01:51:46.640 it looks like destruction, it's disorder, it's whatever, but it's just all part of the process. 1611 01:51:46.640 --> 01:51:52.240 They're learning. Their faces get ridiculously messy when they are trying to learn how to eat, 1612 01:51:52.480 --> 01:51:55.920 they grab a whole fistful of spaghetti, try to shove it in there, it goes everywhere. 1613 01:51:57.200 --> 01:52:01.440 They're just learning. And so just because you know how to eat with a knife and a fork, 1614 01:52:02.320 --> 01:52:11.040 doesn't obligate them to at one and a half. So it's like that with emotionally immature 1615 01:52:11.600 --> 01:52:20.720 or professionally immature people. It's just going to look really messy. So when they are coming with 1616 01:52:22.320 --> 01:52:26.400 instead of focusing on all of the negative all of the time, like what it is they shouldn't be doing, 1617 01:52:26.400 --> 01:52:31.600 or how that was a really bad idea. Yes, in certain situations, if you're if you're a boss, 1618 01:52:31.600 --> 01:52:37.440 you have to mention those things. But I'm talking about like focusing on it. It's important that 1619 01:52:37.440 --> 01:52:42.720 you've created enough of a safe environment that they don't take this as shame. And they don't take 1620 01:52:43.440 --> 01:52:53.840 that, that they don't take it as, as, as condemnation. But it's so important to sew 1621 01:52:53.840 --> 01:53:02.560 into them tremendously. By, by call it by always talking to who it is that they are 1622 01:53:02.560 --> 01:53:10.640 in actual spirit. And in part of how you can do that is speaking to and affirming 1623 01:53:11.600 --> 01:53:19.680 the aspects of themselves that are good, that came out and manifested themselves in a mistake. 1624 01:53:20.640 --> 01:53:26.160 Just because it's a mistake, doesn't mean that what it is that it was coming out of originally, 1625 01:53:26.160 --> 01:53:30.400 and I mean, like beyond the fear, I mean, because it's coming out of fear, but beyond the fear, 1626 01:53:31.120 --> 01:53:35.280 what was coming out? Well, you know, sometimes people make mistakes and it has nothing whatsoever 1627 01:53:35.280 --> 01:53:40.400 to do with fear, they're just learning. But I'm talking about it more of a situation that we think 1628 01:53:40.400 --> 01:53:44.880 of as a really big, bad mistake where, where, I don't know, that they did something that they 1629 01:53:44.880 --> 01:53:49.680 knew that they weren't supposed to do or, or, or whatever. So we're talking about something that 1630 01:53:49.680 --> 01:53:56.640 actually we think of as very, very negative. And, or that there was some kind of a malicious intent 1631 01:53:56.640 --> 01:54:01.520 or feeling in it. And so I'm using, you know, me, I like to use more extreme examples to let us all 1632 01:54:01.520 --> 01:54:07.840 know that these that what it is I talk about lies in across everything, including extreme examples. 1633 01:54:07.840 --> 01:54:16.560 So including extreme situations, anyway, that they, that even when it's something that, 1634 01:54:16.560 --> 01:54:23.440 that we think comes from a more of a negative place, but where, what, what aspects of the 1635 01:54:23.440 --> 01:54:30.640 character of the Lord are they actually putting on display? They're just not operating in it in a 1636 01:54:30.640 --> 01:54:37.600 very effective way. Say they, the, maybe they knocked on it. It was like a kid knocking something 1637 01:54:37.600 --> 01:54:44.240 off the table while they showed a tremendous amount of power there, but they knocked the, 1638 01:54:44.240 --> 01:54:48.880 the full glass of milk off the table and they need to learn not to do that again. Right. But 1639 01:54:49.600 --> 01:54:54.560 they didn't stay, especially in a situation like they didn't intend to, but oh my word, 1640 01:54:54.560 --> 01:54:59.760 they were very, very powerful. Right. So it's really kind of a weird, weird example to mention. 1641 01:55:00.000 --> 01:55:05.760 moment that kind of like that kind of idea think about that you know in a when you're talking to 1642 01:55:05.760 --> 01:55:13.040 about a person who's made a mistake whether it's malicious or not about honoring and acknowledging 1643 01:55:14.000 --> 01:55:20.960 that the good things in them and helping them know that those that you're not stifling and 1644 01:55:20.960 --> 01:55:26.480 rejecting who it is that they are that actually who it is that they are is a good thing but they 1645 01:55:26.480 --> 01:55:33.680 need to guide it in a particular way and the way that they guided it can actually create damage for 1646 01:55:33.680 --> 01:55:38.160 themselves instead of something positive for themselves which is what they were trying to do 1647 01:55:38.160 --> 01:55:42.960 they were trying to get a positive result for themselves including if they did it out of fear 1648 01:55:42.960 --> 01:55:46.880 and provision production they were trying to get a positive result for themselves but whatever it 1649 01:55:46.880 --> 01:55:51.040 is that they did won't get them a positive result so you're you're helping to guide them 1650 01:55:51.840 --> 01:55:56.480 that hey what it is that they were that that the aspect of character that they were exemplifying 1651 01:55:57.200 --> 01:56:00.960 just needs to be guided in a different way to get them the type of result that they're actually 1652 01:56:00.960 --> 01:56:07.520 wanting so it's that kind of thing um second thing that i wanted to mention is um get what 1653 01:56:07.520 --> 01:56:14.400 they're lacking uh if they are coming to you and they could be complaining about i don't know well 1654 01:56:14.400 --> 01:56:20.720 you know uh someone said that i was working with today they treated me like this and they did this 1655 01:56:21.200 --> 01:56:27.600 and then instead of telling them that they should be convinced instead of trying to convince them 1656 01:56:27.600 --> 01:56:35.280 that they should know differently or believe differently actually give them what it is that 1657 01:56:35.280 --> 01:56:44.560 that's a lack in their lives that they are trying to use this situation to fulfill they're trying to 1658 01:56:44.560 --> 01:56:49.040 get that situation to make them feel loved or to make them feel secure because it made them feel 1659 01:56:49.040 --> 01:56:54.000 very insecure or made them feel very unloved or whatever so therefore they just need to be loved 1660 01:56:54.720 --> 01:56:59.840 therefore they need to they need to be given security not told where they can go get it not 1661 01:56:59.840 --> 01:57:03.680 told that they should believe differently not tell them that well god tells you differently 1662 01:57:03.680 --> 01:57:07.920 i mean how many times people have told us that and how and how's that worked for out for us 1663 01:57:09.280 --> 01:57:13.680 you know it just doesn't help when somebody says yeah well it says in scripture okay that's great 1664 01:57:13.680 --> 01:57:20.640 i know that it has not helped they need to actually be given it you know give them love 1665 01:57:21.360 --> 01:57:26.560 actually love them don't tell them where they need to go get it and i and this is the scripture 1666 01:57:26.560 --> 01:57:31.760 reference that i always refer to you know someone comes to you cold or hungry you know send them 1667 01:57:31.760 --> 01:57:36.640 off and say oh may the lord warn you and may give you food may supply what it is you need god said 1668 01:57:36.640 --> 01:57:44.560 no give them a coat feed them they say that they're in need do something about it it requires 1669 01:57:44.560 --> 01:57:48.480 you to do something so either the person had to pay money to go and get a coat or they had to 1670 01:57:48.480 --> 01:57:53.200 give them their own so they're now without a coat or they're with or they have two coats and they 1671 01:57:53.200 --> 01:57:59.760 give me other i don't know whatever the situation was it actually required something of themselves 1672 01:57:59.760 --> 01:58:05.360 so the same thing with all of your clients employees employers vendors whoever when you 1673 01:58:05.360 --> 01:58:13.040 want something for someone else or they come to you with a need if you want to be part of the 1674 01:58:13.040 --> 01:58:19.840 process you have to have something out of you that is given you're part of the process isn't 1675 01:58:19.840 --> 01:58:25.760 to steer them in another direction because well that shows that you're very wise because you knew 1676 01:58:25.760 --> 01:58:31.520 where they were they could go get it no it requires you to be the one to give it to them 1677 01:58:32.320 --> 01:58:39.200 meaning that it needs to come out of you and now the nice thing is you're not going to have lack 1678 01:58:39.200 --> 01:58:43.120 because it's going to come out of you it's not like you only have so much love and you only have 1679 01:58:43.120 --> 01:58:48.320 so much security and you only have so much of i will not abandon you you know you don't only have 1680 01:58:48.320 --> 01:58:54.240 like you're not limited god says that you know that will that when we are filled with him we 1681 01:58:54.240 --> 01:58:59.680 never thirst again because we have rivers of living water that come out of us there's no end 1682 01:58:59.680 --> 01:59:06.320 to it remember our hands are open in the river of the spirit therefore we get to experience all of 1683 01:59:06.320 --> 01:59:12.240 this spirit as opposed to only having bits of it we get to have all of it it's limitless we are the 1684 01:59:12.240 --> 01:59:20.800 son living on the father's estate we whatever he has has always been ours so we're not ever in lack 1685 01:59:20.800 --> 01:59:26.400 of it but but if you would like to tell if you would like to submit yourself to the lord in 1686 01:59:26.400 --> 01:59:35.440 people's lives um then uh to be part of their journey that helped something click for them 1687 01:59:35.440 --> 01:59:41.840 and that you were part of the journey where their life was transformed it actually requires 1688 01:59:42.480 --> 01:59:47.040 something out of yourself not because you knew where they could go get it 1689 01:59:48.560 --> 01:59:55.440 it requires it requires you to you to give it from you and not for you to go find it from 1690 01:59:55.440 --> 01:59:59.760 somewhere else give it to them no it has to come out of you 1691 02:00:00.000 --> 02:00:05.360 And the only way it can come out of you is if you have it first. So you have to get it first. 1692 02:00:06.640 --> 02:00:13.280 You know, in other words, you have to put yourself in that vulnerable position with the Lord 1693 02:00:15.120 --> 02:00:21.280 in order to gain that intimacy through which you can receive the thing. So to speak, 1694 02:00:21.280 --> 02:00:25.760 in other words, we already have it, but you know what, we're actually choosing now to receive it. 1695 02:00:25.760 --> 02:00:29.680 Then we have it to actually pour out to other people's lives and be able to give it to them. 1696 02:00:30.240 --> 02:00:33.280 So that is going to cover it. 1697 02:00:36.160 --> 02:00:46.240 Now, we can have set aside time for the Q&A. So I'm going to unmute people. 1698 02:00:46.880 --> 02:00:52.640 And oh, wow, I've been apparently missing chats, maybe. Oh, no. Good. Hi. 1699 02:00:52.640 --> 02:01:02.240 Okay. All right. Let me see if I can unmute everybody. Or not unmute everybody, but allow 1700 02:01:02.240 --> 02:01:10.000 you to unmute yourselves. Okay. All right. So does anyone have any questions that they would 1701 02:01:10.560 --> 02:01:14.960 like to start us off with? I do, Ashley. 1702 02:01:17.360 --> 02:01:21.520 Because I actually just went through this today. So somebody reached out to me that I 1703 02:01:21.520 --> 02:01:25.360 hadn't heard from in a little bit. And she, you know, had a new situation, and we were chatting 1704 02:01:25.360 --> 02:01:34.880 and visiting. And then kind of just like, all of a sudden, she was like, okay, well, you know, 1705 02:01:34.880 --> 02:01:40.320 I appreciate that. But here's where I am right now. I really just don't want you to share those 1706 02:01:40.320 --> 02:01:46.160 things with me anymore. It was about Christ. I know. I was like, what? I was so glad I was on 1707 02:01:46.160 --> 02:01:52.560 the phone. Because there was no way I could have hidden my reaction. I was like, oh, and she's like, 1708 02:01:52.560 --> 02:01:58.080 you know, I'm sure that comes out of left field. But like, I don't want to hear any more of A, 1709 02:01:58.080 --> 02:02:04.160 about Christ. I want to, I only want to tell I only want you to hear where I'm at, 1710 02:02:04.160 --> 02:02:08.400 kind of with Christ. Oh, okay. And one of the questions that she explained, 1711 02:02:09.440 --> 02:02:13.200 like some of the carpet experiences, she's like, I don't want to hear about the carpet 1712 02:02:13.200 --> 02:02:21.840 experiences anymore. It's more than I can process. It's made me feel lied to. And I just need to hear 1713 02:02:21.840 --> 02:02:27.040 about the Christ that I've always felt safe with. And so listening to you tonight, I'm like, 1714 02:02:27.040 --> 02:02:31.200 oh, well, I said no, I met with her later on in the day, I was able to have coffee with her, 1715 02:02:31.840 --> 02:02:37.680 go for a walk with her later on in the day, because I just needed the love on her. But I was 1716 02:02:37.680 --> 02:02:44.000 like, okay, you know, a lot more verbiage and a lot more where she's at, you know, in a really 1717 02:02:45.360 --> 02:02:51.280 broken place. And I'm like, can I just ask you, which now listening to you, I'm like, okay, 1718 02:02:51.280 --> 02:02:56.000 that was probably totally wrong. So my question is twofold. How do I go back from the mistake I may 1719 02:02:56.000 --> 02:03:02.000 have made today? And asking her, if you know that there's, if you know that you're learning more 1720 02:03:02.000 --> 02:03:07.200 freeing, more wonderful things about Jesus, why does that make you feel lied to and betrayed? 1721 02:03:07.280 --> 02:03:11.840 And she kind of couldn't answer that. She's like, I don't know, because I just need to be mad right 1722 02:03:11.840 --> 02:03:17.760 now. And I was like, okay. And this is such an interesting person. I need to meet this person. 1723 02:03:20.560 --> 02:03:24.080 I love it. She's so honest, because she's saying the things that we all think. 1724 02:03:24.080 --> 02:03:29.520 So I'm finding her very fascinating, whoever this person is. Yeah, I like her, whoever she is. 1725 02:03:30.000 --> 02:03:38.720 I do too. I just adore her. But I was like, okay, well, you know, so do you want to keep talking to 1726 02:03:38.720 --> 02:03:44.640 me about Jesus? Because if you don't, I've got some great books. I've got some great people. 1727 02:03:44.640 --> 02:03:48.800 I'm like, there's this girl. I did. I told her about you. I told her about Chris. I'm like, 1728 02:03:49.360 --> 02:03:53.040 and she was like, well, I don't know. Let me think about it. I'm kind of, 1729 02:03:53.040 --> 02:03:56.720 I kind of just want to be mad at God right now. And I know he's okay with that. And I'm like, 1730 02:03:56.720 --> 02:04:05.680 you're right. He is. Okay. Talk to you soon. Yeah. Yes. I'm sorry. So what was your question? 1731 02:04:07.040 --> 02:04:11.600 You asked it. I forgot. Sorry. How can I, when she gives me the opportunity to, 1732 02:04:12.800 --> 02:04:18.080 I don't know if I need to repair that relationship or like, because I did kind of like, okay, well, 1733 02:04:18.080 --> 02:04:21.840 this is what you can do. Okay. Well, why do you feel that way? You know, the very, the, 1734 02:04:21.840 --> 02:04:35.280 the normal. Yeah. So it's actually, actually might sound like a really odd way to say this, 1735 02:04:35.280 --> 02:04:42.400 but it's actually really fun position for you to, for you to be in because you can know that 1736 02:04:42.400 --> 02:04:54.400 you are relieved of needing to do anything because she is going to, because what you can do 1737 02:04:54.400 --> 02:04:59.760 is you can actually give her what it is that she feels that she's lacking. So. 1738 02:05:00.000 --> 02:05:17.000 My goodness, there's so many things going on in my head. Okay, I mean, like, but I'm trying to say it and I'm like, Okay, one at a time. First of all, you're giving your, you can provide her with a safe environment. 1739 02:05:17.000 --> 02:05:39.000 You can provide her with a safe environment to just be, to be mad, to be broken, to be ugly about it, too. And I'm just, I'm just, you know, I don't know what she's what she if she's being ugly about it. I'm just saying that, you know, if it were that case, you know, to be ugly about it. Now, she's like being ugly to you as in like, verbally abusive, you know, in the relationship. 1740 02:05:39.000 --> 02:06:00.000 That's a little different. But you can provide a space for them there. Obviously have it at some point. But it doesn't, I'm saying I'm not saying that you have to put up with all kinds of behavior. I'm just talking like, if she's just upset, and she's not like, you know, directing it at you or whatever, unless being villainous, 1741 02:06:01.000 --> 02:06:26.000 then you can provide just a safe environment where she can actually be okay with you without changing. Because that can actually finally help her realize, okay, if I am not realized, but realize that, okay, I really truly am safe. Because we tell people that we're safe, but we don't allow them to be safe when they're not okay. 1742 02:06:27.000 --> 02:06:38.000 So if we finally show that they can't if we finally give them what it is that they need, which is safety and security and love and acceptance without conditions. 1743 02:06:38.000 --> 02:06:52.000 Because, because talking about it all in theory of hey, it's unconditional. It's great. But actually when we're in the middle of the thing that we would normally that we all of a sudden just got didn't realize, wait a minute, you know, these are conditions. 1744 02:06:52.000 --> 02:06:54.000 We tend to abandon them. 1745 02:06:55.000 --> 02:07:03.000 And anyway, so and I'm saying if the Lord has put this person on your heart, if he's not put this person on your heart, and this person is not for you, you don't have to like hang around them. 1746 02:07:03.000 --> 02:07:18.000 But I'm saying if God has put this person on your heart, and so you don't mind continuing to be around them, you know that God has given them to you during this time, then you can just be a place in which they realize that they're safe with you not being okay. 1747 02:07:19.000 --> 02:07:21.000 And that you don't. 1748 02:07:21.000 --> 02:07:39.000 Not only do you not require them to change, you don't try to help them change you fully accept them as if they if they never ever change from being exactly how they are. 1749 02:07:40.000 --> 02:07:54.000 They really will figure it out. They really will figure out that that's what that that is what you have chosen that you've chosen them, not you chosen them when they're okay, or you've chosen them being okay, or you've chosen them because of their potential. 1750 02:07:54.000 --> 02:08:04.000 You don't just choose them, who it is that they are they in their ugliness, and I'm just using that because you know if it's if it's such a situation where it's very extreme. 1751 02:08:04.000 --> 02:08:10.000 Even in their, in their ugliness about this situation can't threaten you. 1752 02:08:10.000 --> 02:08:22.000 So, what why do we worry when other people are ugly about something to matter around people who you know who are ugly about things, and it doesn't bother me. 1753 02:08:22.000 --> 02:08:33.000 If I remember who it is that I am, because I'm not, I'm not there, I'm there for them I'm not there in that situation in that relationship to be entertained. 1754 02:08:33.000 --> 02:08:35.000 Because that's conditional. 1755 02:08:35.000 --> 02:08:51.000 And if that is some of our relationships and that's fine, you know, God hasn't given us every single person in the world, you know, but for particular people that he has given us to that he has given for us to love on and to be there for whatever they've given you the grace for. 1756 02:08:51.000 --> 02:09:04.000 Then you can, you can be a safe place for them to be who it is that they are, whereas they are in them when they fought when they realize that they're safe where they are, and that they don't have to change. 1757 02:09:04.000 --> 02:09:17.000 Then it finally gives them the courage. Now that they realize the reason they don't want to leave is they don't feel safe. And so they're like, Oh my goodness, you know, this is as much security as I'm able to conjure up out of my environment for myself. 1758 02:09:17.000 --> 02:09:29.000 I really don't want to stay out there, step out there because that's where I'm not safe. So if we show them that they're, they're safe here they finally start to get the courage that, well maybe I'd be safe there too. 1759 02:09:29.000 --> 02:09:33.000 And they finally have the courage to start stepping out into something new. 1760 02:09:34.000 --> 02:09:48.000 But if it's providing a safe place for people to make mistakes, including making mistakes in the so called spirit and six and soul, making mistakes in the metaphysical being ugly about it, you know, being ugly in there and in the fact that they're just I mean just having this like 1761 02:09:49.000 --> 02:09:53.000 I'm just mad and I'm just angry and I was like you say said it all of these lies. 1762 02:09:53.000 --> 02:10:00.000 You know, just, just allowing it to be okay without having to feel threatened by somebody else's behavior, or somebody else's belief. 1763 02:10:00.000 --> 02:10:08.200 So, and that will, that's the way that we all imagine, and we all know that Jesus is 1764 02:10:08.200 --> 02:10:09.200 with us. 1765 02:10:09.200 --> 02:10:12.560 And if that's who we're supposed to exemplify, well, he's already given us the example. 1766 02:10:12.560 --> 02:10:15.440 And so that's apparently what we do. 1767 02:10:15.440 --> 02:10:18.800 So, does that help? 1768 02:10:18.800 --> 02:10:20.440 Yes, it does. 1769 02:10:20.440 --> 02:10:24.360 It reminded me of several things and gave me some new things. 1770 02:10:24.360 --> 02:10:25.360 Thank you. 1771 02:10:25.360 --> 02:10:26.360 Yes. 1772 02:10:26.360 --> 02:10:27.360 Good. 1773 02:10:27.600 --> 02:10:32.840 She loves you because, I can tell that she loves being around you because of how she 1774 02:10:32.840 --> 02:10:36.120 feels about herself when she's around you. 1775 02:10:36.120 --> 02:10:40.960 And so you're already providing that kind of environment for her. 1776 02:10:40.960 --> 02:10:44.060 And you already, in other words, you already are enough. 1777 02:10:44.060 --> 02:10:50.160 You don't have to know something that she doesn't know and give it to her. 1778 02:10:50.160 --> 02:10:55.080 You being who it is that you are, is what's giving something to her. 1779 02:10:55.080 --> 02:10:59.680 And you can allow that to be enough, even for you. 1780 02:10:59.680 --> 02:11:00.680 That's so good. 1781 02:11:00.680 --> 02:11:01.680 That's so good. 1782 02:11:01.680 --> 02:11:02.680 Thank you. 1783 02:11:02.680 --> 02:11:03.680 You're welcome. 1784 02:11:03.680 --> 02:11:05.680 So, and did I answer all the questions? 1785 02:11:05.680 --> 02:11:07.680 Is that all the questions? 1786 02:11:07.680 --> 02:11:08.680 Yeah, you did. 1787 02:11:08.680 --> 02:11:09.680 Okay. 1788 02:11:09.680 --> 02:11:10.680 Okay, good. 1789 02:11:10.680 --> 02:11:13.120 Did someone else have a question? 1790 02:11:13.120 --> 02:11:20.360 I think a few people, yeah, so a few people on, a few people had to leave already. 1791 02:11:20.360 --> 02:11:21.360 Did anyone else have a question? 1792 02:11:21.360 --> 02:11:27.360 Let me see if I'm missing something in the chat. 1793 02:11:27.360 --> 02:11:34.860 Sorry, if anybody has a question, feel free to ask it. 1794 02:11:34.860 --> 02:11:39.360 I'm just looking through this chart real quick. 1795 02:11:39.360 --> 02:11:41.360 Okay. 1796 02:11:41.360 --> 02:11:49.360 Someone came back in. 1797 02:11:50.360 --> 02:11:53.360 If nobody else has a question. 1798 02:11:53.360 --> 02:11:54.360 Yeah, go for it. 1799 02:11:54.360 --> 02:11:57.360 Yeah, it doesn't look like anyone has a question right now. 1800 02:11:57.360 --> 02:12:03.360 There was one at the very beginning of the chat that I thought was really, but I'm like, 1801 02:12:03.360 --> 02:12:05.360 oh, and I think she's had to log off. 1802 02:12:05.360 --> 02:12:08.360 And it was, why is movement important to God? 1803 02:12:08.360 --> 02:12:12.360 Like I thought of some reasons that I thought movement is important. 1804 02:12:12.360 --> 02:12:16.360 I'm like, that's a, that's a good question. 1805 02:12:16.360 --> 02:12:20.360 I'm like, yeah, I'd like to hear, cause you can say it so much more eloquently. 1806 02:12:20.360 --> 02:12:21.360 Why movement? 1807 02:12:21.360 --> 02:12:22.360 Oh, I don't know about that. 1808 02:12:22.360 --> 02:12:24.360 Cause we all, we all, we're all in spirit. 1809 02:12:24.360 --> 02:12:26.360 We all, it's all the same racial. 1810 02:12:26.360 --> 02:12:32.360 The, so because God is spirit with capital S, God is spirit. 1811 02:12:32.360 --> 02:12:38.360 And, and spirit is always in movement and life is in movement. 1812 02:12:39.360 --> 02:12:46.360 So it's, it's the very nature of God to always be moving because it's the, 1813 02:12:46.360 --> 02:12:50.360 it's the property and aspect of spirit itself. 1814 02:12:50.360 --> 02:12:53.360 So that's why movement is always very, very important to the Lord. 1815 02:12:53.360 --> 02:12:56.360 Instead of stagnation, instead of yeah. 1816 02:12:56.360 --> 02:13:00.360 I mean, even the universe is expanding. 1817 02:13:00.360 --> 02:13:05.360 The universe itself is always in, is always moving, moving. 1818 02:13:05.360 --> 02:13:06.360 So it's not just in, it's, 1819 02:13:06.360 --> 02:13:09.360 it's not that just everything in the universe is moving. 1820 02:13:09.360 --> 02:13:11.360 The universe itself is moving. 1821 02:13:11.360 --> 02:13:15.360 And what else is, is it. 1822 02:13:15.360 --> 02:13:17.360 Is it our galaxy? 1823 02:13:17.360 --> 02:13:20.360 That's moving through space as well. 1824 02:13:20.360 --> 02:13:22.360 Something's moving through space. 1825 02:13:22.360 --> 02:13:26.360 Trying to remember there's something. So, I mean, just everything. 1826 02:13:26.360 --> 02:13:29.360 And all of these different fascinating aspects. 1827 02:13:29.360 --> 02:13:33.360 It's not just that the planets are, are moving like this, 1828 02:13:33.360 --> 02:13:34.360 but they're moving around the sun. 1829 02:13:34.360 --> 02:13:39.360 And then, and then I think that that. 1830 02:13:39.360 --> 02:13:42.360 Is it the, and then of course our solar system is in, 1831 02:13:42.360 --> 02:13:45.360 it's in the galaxy and I believe that the Milky way galaxy, 1832 02:13:45.360 --> 02:13:48.360 I thought was actually moving through space. 1833 02:13:48.360 --> 02:13:50.360 Something is moving through space where you're just kind of like, 1834 02:13:50.360 --> 02:13:52.360 well, it's just that kind of oddest thing. 1835 02:13:52.360 --> 02:13:54.360 You know, but even the universe itself is moving. 1836 02:13:54.360 --> 02:13:58.360 It's expanding in God. That's the, that's an example. 1837 02:13:58.360 --> 02:14:00.360 I believe of, of the Lord. 1838 02:14:00.360 --> 02:14:03.360 God is always expanding and we're in him and we're always expanding 1839 02:14:03.360 --> 02:14:12.360 everything. 1840 02:14:12.360 --> 02:14:13.360 It's a, 1841 02:14:13.360 --> 02:14:15.360 because it's of the very nature and essence of that of which it was 1842 02:14:15.360 --> 02:14:16.360 born, which is spirit. 1843 02:14:16.360 --> 02:14:18.360 And spirit always has to move because in movement, there's life. 1844 02:14:18.360 --> 02:14:23.360 If I want something ceases to move. 1845 02:14:23.360 --> 02:14:25.360 Because movement is a property of life. 1846 02:14:25.360 --> 02:14:27.360 When something ceases to move that that is death. 1847 02:14:27.360 --> 02:14:28.360 Stagnation. 1848 02:14:28.360 --> 02:14:29.360 And so it's a, it's a, 1849 02:14:29.360 --> 02:14:32.360 it's a process of movement in the earth through business relationships, 1850 02:14:32.360 --> 02:14:33.360 finances. 1851 02:14:33.360 --> 02:14:38.360 So there's lots of movement. 1852 02:14:38.360 --> 02:14:40.360 Another question that she had. 1853 02:14:40.360 --> 02:14:44.360 Was. 1854 02:14:44.360 --> 02:14:48.360 I want them to get there. Okay. She said. 1855 02:14:48.360 --> 02:14:52.360 She said, I want them to get their money's worth when I work with them. 1856 02:14:52.360 --> 02:14:55.360 So we ended up in a trying space to serve them, invest in them, etc. 1857 02:14:55.360 --> 02:14:59.360 Okay. So that's because it's, it's going, it's from a foundation. 1858 02:15:00.000 --> 02:15:09.960 It can trip us up if we're coming at it from the belief in the foundation that the point 1859 02:15:09.960 --> 02:15:12.120 of business is money. 1860 02:15:12.120 --> 02:15:17.280 Or that what's going on there in our interaction with the client is a transaction. 1861 02:15:17.280 --> 02:15:18.760 It's not a transaction. 1862 02:15:18.760 --> 02:15:22.200 It is a transaction according to the tree of knowledge of good and evil. 1863 02:15:22.200 --> 02:15:23.920 According to certain principles, yes. 1864 02:15:23.920 --> 02:15:30.880 But if we're wanting to operate by rest, then, so if we're wanting to operate by the tree 1865 02:15:30.880 --> 02:15:34.640 of knowledge of good and evil and operate believing that we're subject to the laws and 1866 02:15:34.640 --> 02:15:37.520 rules and whatever, yes, we want them to get their money's worth. 1867 02:15:37.520 --> 02:15:38.520 It's a transaction. 1868 02:15:38.520 --> 02:15:39.520 It's whatever. 1869 02:15:39.520 --> 02:15:41.880 And those principles are still in play. 1870 02:15:41.880 --> 02:15:44.800 They're not abolished because God didn't come to abolish the law. 1871 02:15:44.800 --> 02:15:45.800 He came to fulfill it. 1872 02:15:45.800 --> 02:15:50.360 So the law isn't abolished, even though we're shifted into rest, but we're not subject to 1873 02:15:50.360 --> 02:15:51.360 it. 1874 02:15:51.360 --> 02:15:56.040 So if we want to operate from a place of rest, we're not that our interactions with our clients 1875 02:15:56.040 --> 02:16:01.840 are not in exchange of service for money. 1876 02:16:01.840 --> 02:16:11.560 It's they are, excuse me, they are making an actual investment for themselves. 1877 02:16:11.560 --> 02:16:21.240 They are, let's see, what's another way to see it? 1878 02:16:22.120 --> 02:16:24.040 They're putting, obviously, their own skin in the game. 1879 02:16:24.040 --> 02:16:26.280 They're making their own decisions. 1880 02:16:26.280 --> 02:16:29.000 They're making their own movement towards the thing. 1881 02:16:29.000 --> 02:16:31.680 Again, movement, it generates movement. 1882 02:16:31.680 --> 02:16:40.080 That's what money is because it's creating movement back and forth between a client and 1883 02:16:40.080 --> 02:16:50.000 the owner of the business, but it's not, and from rest, it's not that it's this equal exchange 1884 02:16:50.000 --> 02:16:58.559 that we are, it's not this exchange where we think they are buying us or they are buying 1885 02:16:58.559 --> 02:16:59.559 something. 1886 02:16:59.559 --> 02:17:04.559 Everything, if it's being done from rest, it's being done from the kingdom of God and 1887 02:17:04.559 --> 02:17:12.200 everything from the kingdom of God has to be freely given and freely received. 1888 02:17:12.200 --> 02:17:13.559 It can't be bought. 1889 02:17:13.559 --> 02:17:20.879 Even if there is money involved, it's not the buying of a result because it can't be 1890 02:17:20.879 --> 02:17:24.040 bought if we're operating out of rest. 1891 02:17:24.040 --> 02:17:34.320 If we're operating out of rest and we in operating out of rest are, I don't know why the grammatical 1892 02:17:34.320 --> 02:17:46.959 way of wording that sentence, I lost it there, but that we are bringing the authority into 1893 02:17:46.959 --> 02:17:54.520 that place that the kingdom principles will supersede any other principles because we're 1894 02:17:54.520 --> 02:17:59.120 in the place of rest, we're in the kingdom, and therefore we are saying then because we're 1895 02:17:59.120 --> 02:18:05.920 coming at it from that position, we are then saying that it's kingdom principles that have 1896 02:18:05.920 --> 02:18:16.840 the higher, that have the higher power over any other laws and principles that could, 1897 02:18:16.840 --> 02:18:26.559 that could operate or be in operation, they will supersede them, but we have to actually 1898 02:18:26.559 --> 02:18:32.639 be in rest and come at it from, in order to be able to come at it, in order to bring 1899 02:18:32.639 --> 02:18:34.680 in that authority of the kingdom. 1900 02:18:34.680 --> 02:18:36.600 We can't just want it. 1901 02:18:36.600 --> 02:18:43.320 We actually have to be in the place and come from it in order for it to actual, in order 1902 02:18:43.320 --> 02:18:48.480 for us to put that authority of the kingdom principles being in it, that will then supersede 1903 02:18:48.480 --> 02:18:53.320 any, any other spiritual or earthly laws. 1904 02:18:53.320 --> 02:18:56.920 We can't just want it and claim it and decide that that's how it is. 1905 02:18:56.920 --> 02:19:00.959 We have to be it and remember, how do we be it? 1906 02:19:00.959 --> 02:19:06.360 We have to vulnerable, we have to be very vulnerable with the Lord and we have to vulnerably 1907 02:19:06.360 --> 02:19:12.639 present ourselves to him, releasing the things that we have been holding onto for our protection, 1908 02:19:12.639 --> 02:19:18.559 provision, security, you know, thought that it was giving us a sense that we were being 1909 02:19:18.559 --> 02:19:20.480 loved, liked, and comforted. 1910 02:19:20.480 --> 02:19:23.520 We have to release it and let it go. 1911 02:19:23.520 --> 02:19:25.000 And that's hard. 1912 02:19:25.000 --> 02:19:27.799 It's hard for all the reasons we haven't done it. 1913 02:19:27.799 --> 02:19:33.780 That's what we have to let go of in order to move to this place. 1914 02:19:33.780 --> 02:19:40.440 We can't simply move to this place because we claim it and want it without releasing. 1915 02:19:40.440 --> 02:19:44.520 It's the releasing that shifts us. 1916 02:19:44.520 --> 02:19:49.240 So I, yeah, so that's, that's my answer to that question. 1917 02:19:49.320 --> 02:19:51.760 I think that I answered all of all of those questions. 1918 02:19:52.520 --> 02:19:54.440 Let's see. Yeah, I did. 1919 02:19:54.600 --> 02:20:00.120 So does anyone have anything? 1920 02:20:00.000 --> 02:20:06.000 anything else before we go. If 1921 02:20:06.000 --> 02:20:07.000 we don't have anything else, we 1922 02:20:07.000 --> 02:20:09.000 can go. Yes, I have just just a 1923 02:20:09.000 --> 02:20:12.000 couple quick ones because I um a 1924 02:20:12.000 --> 02:20:13.000 couple things were said and I 1925 02:20:13.000 --> 02:20:15.000 just wanted to know what they 1926 02:20:15.000 --> 02:20:16.000 meant and that's maybe because I 1927 02:20:16.000 --> 02:20:18.000 haven't listened to it or heard 1928 02:20:18.000 --> 02:20:23.000 it. One of them was um releasing 1929 02:20:23.000 --> 02:20:26.000 the hundredfold. Oh, uh huh. 1930 02:20:26.000 --> 02:20:28.000 What is what is meant by that? 1931 02:20:28.000 --> 02:20:29.000 Okay. So, the hundredfold, you 1932 02:20:29.000 --> 02:20:32.000 know, it's a it's a it's a 1933 02:20:32.000 --> 02:20:35.000 concept that we have in our soul 1934 02:20:35.000 --> 02:20:38.000 and body as uh and uh that we 1935 02:20:38.000 --> 02:20:39.000 receive from the lord because 1936 02:20:39.000 --> 02:20:41.000 god's given us everything he's 1937 02:20:41.000 --> 02:20:43.000 given us a hundred but we only 1938 02:20:43.000 --> 02:20:45.000 receive from the lord according 1939 02:20:45.000 --> 02:20:47.000 to we only get to see manifest 1940 02:20:47.000 --> 02:20:49.000 in our life according to the 1941 02:20:49.000 --> 02:20:51.000 degree that we have of how much 1942 02:20:51.000 --> 02:20:53.000 of what he's given us that we've 1943 02:20:53.000 --> 02:20:56.000 chosen to receive and uh in the 1944 02:20:56.000 --> 02:20:57.000 whole thirty sixteen hundred 1945 02:20:57.000 --> 02:20:58.000 like thirty if we if we believe 1946 02:20:58.000 --> 02:21:00.000 thirty percent and this is 1947 02:21:00.000 --> 02:21:01.000 these are just numbers but we 1948 02:21:01.000 --> 02:21:04.000 see thirty percent of uh of what 1949 02:21:04.000 --> 02:21:06.000 it is that god at the hundred 1950 02:21:06.000 --> 02:21:07.000 percent that god actually gave 1951 02:21:07.000 --> 02:21:08.000 us so we're only seeing thirty 1952 02:21:08.000 --> 02:21:11.000 percent of the inheritance that 1953 02:21:11.000 --> 02:21:12.000 god has given us actually 1954 02:21:12.000 --> 02:21:14.000 manifest in our life or or for 1955 02:21:14.000 --> 02:21:16.000 believe our our identity is in 1956 02:21:16.000 --> 02:21:17.000 our soul then we're receiving 1957 02:21:17.000 --> 02:21:19.000 sixty percent of the hundred but 1958 02:21:19.000 --> 02:21:20.000 if we're in the spirit then we 1959 02:21:20.000 --> 02:21:22.000 we we're choosing to agree with 1960 02:21:22.000 --> 02:21:23.000 the lord that he has given us 1961 02:21:23.000 --> 02:21:24.000 a hundred percent and we're 1962 02:21:24.000 --> 02:21:25.000 choosing to receive a hundred 1963 02:21:25.000 --> 02:21:27.000 percent and we choose to receive 1964 02:21:27.000 --> 02:21:28.000 a hundred percent and we're 1965 02:21:28.000 --> 02:21:29.000 actually vulnerably presenting 1966 02:21:29.000 --> 02:21:30.000 ourselves and doing everything 1967 02:21:30.000 --> 02:21:31.000 that I just described where we 1968 02:21:31.000 --> 02:21:33.000 have to release everything in 1969 02:21:33.000 --> 02:21:34.000 order to be able to receive the 1970 02:21:34.000 --> 02:21:36.000 hundred and that's what that's 1971 02:21:36.000 --> 02:21:37.000 referring to and of course the 1972 02:21:37.000 --> 02:21:38.000 hundreds the thirty sixteen 1973 02:21:38.000 --> 02:21:40.000 hundred it comes from the 1974 02:21:40.000 --> 02:21:44.000 parable of um of uh the farmer 1975 02:21:44.000 --> 02:21:46.000 sowing the seed and how the 1976 02:21:46.000 --> 02:21:48.000 seed that went on the good 1977 02:21:48.000 --> 02:21:50.000 ground even though it was one 1978 02:21:50.000 --> 02:21:52.000 one aspect of a ground because 1979 02:21:52.000 --> 02:21:53.000 all the others were like rocky 1980 02:21:53.000 --> 02:21:54.000 ground and shallow ground 1981 02:21:54.000 --> 02:21:56.000 whatever on the good ground it 1982 02:21:56.000 --> 02:21:58.000 reached different amounts it 1983 02:21:58.000 --> 02:22:00.000 said it reached thirty sixty and 1984 02:22:00.000 --> 02:22:01.000 a hundred so that's where those 1985 02:22:01.000 --> 02:22:03.000 numbers come in um I first heard 1986 02:22:03.000 --> 02:22:05.000 uh that that all of that 1987 02:22:05.000 --> 02:22:08.000 connection from a man that that 1988 02:22:08.000 --> 02:22:09.000 michelle was mentioning just 1989 02:22:09.000 --> 02:22:11.000 earlier um uh chris so chris 1990 02:22:11.000 --> 02:22:13.000 buckley so he's the one who who 1991 02:22:13.000 --> 02:22:15.000 um I first heard that um all 1992 02:22:15.000 --> 02:22:16.000 that from so that's what the 1993 02:22:16.000 --> 02:22:18.000 hundred is referring to okay and 1994 02:22:18.000 --> 02:22:20.000 then somebody said something 1995 02:22:20.000 --> 02:22:23.000 about carpet experience uh same 1996 02:22:23.000 --> 02:22:25.000 thing it that's a that's a um 1997 02:22:25.000 --> 02:22:27.000 that's a chris black could be 1998 02:22:27.000 --> 02:22:30.000 um uh story a personal story of 1999 02:22:30.000 --> 02:22:32.000 his that he tells and it is in 2000 02:22:32.000 --> 02:22:33.000 his sermons about trying to 2001 02:22:33.000 --> 02:22:35.000 engage lord and he was stepping 2002 02:22:35.000 --> 02:22:37.000 in and off of a carpet and 2003 02:22:37.000 --> 02:22:39.000 choosing that god's that what 2004 02:22:39.000 --> 02:22:40.000 god says is true and then 2005 02:22:40.000 --> 02:22:42.000 stepping out stepping out of it 2006 02:22:42.000 --> 02:22:43.000 and then choosing that what god 2007 02:22:43.000 --> 02:22:44.000 said was true and stepping out 2008 02:22:44.000 --> 02:22:46.000 of it in order to engage with 2009 02:22:46.000 --> 02:22:48.000 intention that whatever god said 2010 02:22:48.000 --> 02:22:49.000 really was true as opposed to 2011 02:22:49.000 --> 02:22:51.000 just okay well i'm believing it 2012 02:22:51.000 --> 02:22:52.000 he said he needed something for 2013 02:22:53.000 --> 02:22:55.000 his body to do to choose to to 2014 02:22:55.000 --> 02:22:58.000 trigger i am choosing i'm not 2015 02:22:58.000 --> 02:23:00.000 choosing i'm choosing i'm not 2016 02:23:00.000 --> 02:23:01.000 choosing and so that's how he 2017 02:23:01.000 --> 02:23:03.000 did it okay so that's what the 2018 02:23:03.000 --> 02:23:06.000 carpet was okay all right thanks 2019 02:23:06.000 --> 02:23:08.000 you're welcome you were awesome 2020 02:23:08.000 --> 02:23:10.000 again as usual thank you so much 2021 02:23:10.000 --> 02:23:12.000 i'm glad you enjoyed it hope it 2022 02:23:12.000 --> 02:23:15.000 was helpful yeah as if this will 2023 02:23:15.000 --> 02:23:18.000 be 2024 02:23:18.000 --> 02:23:21.000 yes 2025 02:23:21.000 --> 02:23:23.000 okay so does anyone have anything 2026 02:23:23.000 --> 02:23:25.000 before we go 2027 02:23:25.000 --> 02:23:29.000 i have everyone good you're welcome 2028 02:23:29.000 --> 02:23:31.000 so someone was just messaging me in 2029 02:23:31.000 --> 02:23:33.000 the chat 2030 02:23:33.000 --> 02:23:35.000 okay i guess that's it well i'm glad 2031 02:23:35.000 --> 02:23:37.000 that y'all um joined me 2032 02:23:37.000 --> 02:23:39.000 for um excuse me for the business 2033 02:23:39.000 --> 02:23:41.000 conference it's been very fast 2034 02:23:41.000 --> 02:23:43.000 oh my word i am leaving out i'm 2035 02:23:43.000 --> 02:23:45.000 flying out of the country day after 2036 02:23:45.000 --> 02:23:46.000 tomorrow 2037 02:23:46.000 --> 02:23:49.000 it's all very very fast so anyway 2038 02:23:49.000 --> 02:23:51.000 excuse me we are by the way going to 2039 02:23:51.000 --> 02:23:53.000 have our our 2040 02:23:53.000 --> 02:23:55.000 weekly call for those in the rest 2041 02:23:55.000 --> 02:23:56.000 intensive we are going to have that 2042 02:23:56.000 --> 02:23:57.000 tomorrow night 2043 02:23:57.000 --> 02:23:59.000 it's my last night in the state we are 2044 02:23:59.000 --> 02:24:01.000 going to have that then so just fyi 2045 02:24:01.000 --> 02:24:03.000 that that is still on the agenda but 2046 02:24:03.000 --> 02:24:05.000 i'm so glad that y'all could all 2047 02:24:05.000 --> 02:24:07.000 join me and i hope that it was very 2048 02:24:07.000 --> 02:24:08.000 helpful 2049 02:24:08.000 --> 02:24:11.000 um if you have any testimonies of 2050 02:24:11.000 --> 02:24:12.000 course from things that the lord has 2051 02:24:12.000 --> 02:24:13.000 shown you 2052 02:24:13.000 --> 02:24:15.000 or um ways that you implement any of 2053 02:24:15.000 --> 02:24:17.000 these things and then 2054 02:24:17.000 --> 02:24:19.000 see the effect of it in your lives i 2055 02:24:19.000 --> 02:24:21.000 always it always builds my faith 2056 02:24:21.000 --> 02:24:22.000 and it's always very exciting so always 2057 02:24:22.000 --> 02:24:24.000 feel free to um either private message 2058 02:24:24.000 --> 02:24:25.000 me i 2059 02:24:25.000 --> 02:24:27.000 much prefer public posts because it 2060 02:24:27.000 --> 02:24:28.000 helps other people know that these 2061 02:24:28.000 --> 02:24:31.000 things don't just happen to ashley 2062 02:24:31.000 --> 02:24:33.000 so but i would love to hear about it 2063 02:24:33.000 --> 02:24:35.000 regardless of how you how you send it 2064 02:24:35.000 --> 02:24:37.000 so anyway i love all of y'all and i hope 2065 02:24:37.000 --> 02:24:40.000 y'all have a good night 2066 02:24:40.000 --> 02:24:44.000 bye good night 2067 02:24:47.000 --> 02:24:51.000 bye 2068 02:25:00.000 --> 02:25:02.060 you