WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:06.560 Sure. So I took that as being from the Lord. So I'm thinking through it of like, okay, so apparently 2 00:00:06.560 --> 00:00:12.800 the way I wrote the details isn't how it's supposed to work. And it needs to work a little different. 3 00:00:12.800 --> 00:00:18.080 So, I mean, cause I was, I was looking to, I was, I spent a few hours on it, you know, 4 00:00:18.080 --> 00:00:23.440 make sure that everyone had all the information they needed. Hey Steph, being sure everyone had 5 00:00:23.440 --> 00:00:27.680 all the deals that they would need to be able to make informed decisions about what it is they 6 00:00:27.680 --> 00:00:32.479 didn't want to do and the, and the amount of money for accommodations and all that good stuff. 7 00:00:33.120 --> 00:00:43.840 And, and it, and the file got corrupted. I'm like, how does that happen? I mean, 8 00:00:43.840 --> 00:00:49.120 like literally within minutes, I closed the laptop, went upstairs, opened the laptop, 9 00:00:49.120 --> 00:00:54.000 said files corrupted. I'm like, okay, Lord. Okay. I had to think through it a little bit 10 00:00:54.000 --> 00:00:57.520 and like, try to recover it. And it, and I could never figure out how to recover it. 11 00:00:58.160 --> 00:01:03.680 And, and cause I've worked with corrupted files before, you know, for, for years for, you know, 12 00:01:03.680 --> 00:01:11.440 how to uncorrupt them and whatever. Nope. So I don't have to kind of start all over. So anyway, 13 00:01:11.440 --> 00:01:17.120 so nothing's up, but yeah, I plan to do it. And then there's like three phases I'm going to do. 14 00:01:17.120 --> 00:01:22.720 I'm going to do it like all, maybe like within a day of each other mentioned it's the rest intensive. 15 00:01:22.720 --> 00:01:28.240 And then I'm going to, cause I want to give them the first, well, I say that I'm the way that I 16 00:01:28.240 --> 00:01:33.840 have it set up or really don't have to do them first. That's true. I do them at the same time 17 00:01:33.840 --> 00:01:44.560 because I'm offering them a, something, something special. And then, and then after that so, 18 00:01:44.560 --> 00:01:50.240 so because I'm not offering that same special thing to people that I'm going to post the details 19 00:01:50.240 --> 00:01:56.320 about to on my personal page, then I can post that same. There's a good special group that I 20 00:01:56.320 --> 00:02:01.760 said that, Hey, if you, if you let me know that you're interested, then I, when I first announced 21 00:02:01.760 --> 00:02:04.880 the save the date on my personal page, I said, if you let me know you're interested, I'll make sure 22 00:02:04.880 --> 00:02:10.240 that you're the first people that get to know about all the information. And so then I'll 23 00:02:10.240 --> 00:02:15.040 mention it to them probably at the same time that I do rest intensive, cause those are two different 24 00:02:15.040 --> 00:02:20.960 deals, so to speak two different details. And so they won't, they won't they won't conflict, 25 00:02:20.960 --> 00:02:27.200 but then at the same time. Yeah, I'll do them at the same time because their accommodations 26 00:02:27.200 --> 00:02:33.040 and their deals don't conflict. And I had to think through that just now. And then the day 27 00:02:33.040 --> 00:02:36.960 after though, I left the, the people who let me know that they were interested on my personal 28 00:02:36.960 --> 00:02:43.600 page the day after I, I posted all the information to them to get them approximately 12, 24 hours to, 29 00:02:44.320 --> 00:02:50.960 to make their choice first, then I'll post it to everybody. So, but I've already gotten a lot 30 00:02:50.960 --> 00:02:57.440 of interest. And so I'm excited about that. So we will just see, I've already gotten more interest 31 00:02:57.440 --> 00:03:10.320 than I was expecting. And so food, food, so the food Scott was busy. And so everyone is, 32 00:03:10.320 --> 00:03:16.800 is going to take care of their own food, but I am going to provide some catering options to bring 33 00:03:16.800 --> 00:03:24.320 stuff in where I just have it. I have it delivered and everyone has anybody who would like it signs 34 00:03:24.320 --> 00:03:30.160 up, pay for it. And I'm going to, I'm going to have them do it before they get there so that I 35 00:03:30.160 --> 00:03:34.080 can have all the stuff and I'm not in the middle of doing that kind of thing. And then I'll have 36 00:03:34.080 --> 00:03:40.640 like a friend or a family member of mine and help me during the event. So I don't have to 37 00:03:40.640 --> 00:03:48.080 think about it. So I'm trying to set up as much as possible beforehand so that during the thing, 38 00:03:48.080 --> 00:03:53.600 if I can just have a family member, like make sure that to call so-and-so the day of and make 39 00:03:53.600 --> 00:03:58.720 sure that they're still on schedule to deliver all of this stuff I knew. Firehouse subs, like 40 00:03:58.720 --> 00:04:04.240 firehouse subs does a half a sub, a chip and a drink. I mean, so it's like, there are a lot of. 41 00:04:04.240 --> 00:04:11.200 Yeah, exactly. See stuff like that. I was thinking things like the subway or Jimmy Don's or fire 42 00:04:11.200 --> 00:04:18.160 subs or, or like Chipotle or, you know, just something like that. And then, so some places 43 00:04:18.160 --> 00:04:25.120 that already have catering so-called baked into their catering options and setting all this up 44 00:04:25.120 --> 00:04:30.480 before I even get there and the scheduling, which day and which lunch. So the closer that it gets, 45 00:04:30.480 --> 00:04:37.280 I'll have people sign up as opposed to, and then send me the money. So it's all done beforehand. 46 00:04:37.280 --> 00:04:42.400 And then if they don't want to do that, that's fine. I'm letting everyone know that the, that 47 00:04:42.400 --> 00:04:48.080 all of their accommodations on site have kitchen. They have their own refrigerator. They can go to 48 00:04:48.080 --> 00:04:52.400 their grocery store on their own or bring their own stuff on the airplane, whatever they want to do. 49 00:04:52.400 --> 00:04:59.760 So that's why I'm doing it. Cause Scott was busy and it ends up being fine, you know, to. 50 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:05.760 to provide people this opportunity to not have to provide their own food. They'll still pay for it. 51 00:05:05.760 --> 00:05:12.320 I'll coordinate it, but it does have to be before we even get on site. So I'm doing it that way. So 52 00:05:12.320 --> 00:05:16.560 it'll provide people with an option, you know, to make it easier on them, but in order to take 53 00:05:16.560 --> 00:05:23.680 advantage of the easier, it needs to be done before we all get together. So anyway, so that 54 00:05:23.680 --> 00:05:30.160 is the plan. Yeah. But yeah, I thought that was kind of interesting about the file. So I'll get, 55 00:05:30.160 --> 00:05:35.840 I'll get it out pretty, I'll get it out soon. Well, and then at what point, like if we just 56 00:05:35.840 --> 00:05:42.400 have somebody who we think would like to come, I mean, when are they allowed to sign up? 57 00:05:43.360 --> 00:05:48.960 Okay. Yes. So as soon as I wanted to make sure that you knew that to make sure that, 58 00:05:49.920 --> 00:05:57.920 that, that people feel free to invite whoever they want to. The only special thing is that 59 00:05:58.720 --> 00:06:08.640 I have the coordinations for those, for three cabins and in the lodge, but then everything else 60 00:06:08.640 --> 00:06:16.080 is, you know, booked the way you and I discussed this, you know, and other options. 61 00:06:16.960 --> 00:06:24.960 Yeah. Yeah. And so therefore that can just, as soon as I publish it on my personal page, 62 00:06:26.560 --> 00:06:31.360 you know, people are people in the rest intensive are already talking to family members and friends 63 00:06:31.360 --> 00:06:37.040 that they want to bring, you know, and so, I mean, you could do the same with your, 64 00:06:37.040 --> 00:06:41.120 with people that, you know, that you typically reach out to that like, 65 00:06:41.120 --> 00:06:46.640 that like conferences at your place. You're welcome to do that. I don't have any restrictions 66 00:06:46.640 --> 00:06:51.040 on any of that. Do you have a schedule and a syllabus of what things you're going to cover? 67 00:06:52.480 --> 00:06:56.880 No, not yet. I was, that was the thing after the, after getting out the details about the 68 00:06:56.880 --> 00:07:02.160 accommodations and the, and the registration, all of that, then I was going to, I don't want to 69 00:07:02.160 --> 00:07:06.720 mention too much about what I'm going to do. I can mention some things, but there are a few 70 00:07:06.720 --> 00:07:14.080 things that are like the, my standard stuff that I cover that I can go ahead and, and, and, and, 71 00:07:14.080 --> 00:07:18.160 you know, post and tell people because that's already stuff that I already have together, 72 00:07:18.160 --> 00:07:22.880 but there are some special new things that the rest intensive, even the rest intensive people 73 00:07:22.880 --> 00:07:27.440 don't know about and the rest intensive people haven't heard me speak on that I want to do, 74 00:07:27.440 --> 00:07:32.080 but that stuff, I'm still kind of planning about which of those things I'm going to add, but like 75 00:07:32.080 --> 00:07:37.760 the majority, like I, I would have enough to be able to tell other people what I'm doing, you know, 76 00:07:37.760 --> 00:07:44.560 like it's all my normal stuff. Doing the dream book thing or have you not thought that far? Oh, I, I 77 00:07:44.560 --> 00:07:53.680 really appreciate you sending that to me. No, I am, I, I'm not going to do that, but I mean, 78 00:07:53.680 --> 00:07:59.600 I thought it was a great idea and it's a really, really neat resource. That's just not the direction 79 00:07:59.600 --> 00:08:06.800 that I'm going to go with it, but I haven't quite figured out everything that, how exactly it is 80 00:08:06.800 --> 00:08:11.760 that it's that and everything's going to work, but I do have a particular direction. Okay. And so, 81 00:08:11.760 --> 00:08:16.800 yeah, but thank you so much for saying that. I thought that that was really, that, that was a 82 00:08:16.800 --> 00:08:22.800 really, really good idea. That was really neat that you had that, that you've been to a conference 83 00:08:22.800 --> 00:08:27.680 that provided that. It's really suited you to like mock it up and send it to me. I'm not doing the, 84 00:08:27.680 --> 00:08:32.159 I'm not going to let anybody have the bunks so that if you end up getting more people, 85 00:08:32.159 --> 00:08:36.720 you will know that you've got that option. Oh, okay. All right. Well, I hate for you to have 86 00:08:36.720 --> 00:08:42.720 to do that, but that's not, that's not something we normally, that really is more conference-y stuff. 87 00:08:42.720 --> 00:08:50.000 So yeah, so it's not a big deal. Okay. All right. Okay. Well, good. Hey, Misty. 88 00:08:50.000 --> 00:09:00.320 Okay. So does anyone have anything that we could, that, that they wanted to start us off with 89 00:09:01.760 --> 00:09:04.320 for tonight? Any questions or anything? 90 00:09:10.080 --> 00:09:12.880 Everybody come on for hoping somebody else to have a question. 91 00:09:12.880 --> 00:09:19.440 I don't know. I could, there's something I could start us off with. 92 00:09:22.400 --> 00:09:27.200 So I would ask you, how are you, is meditation part of what you do? 93 00:09:28.960 --> 00:09:34.000 Um, no, I have talked about it. Oh, you mean me personally? I have done meditation. Yes. 94 00:09:34.960 --> 00:09:41.760 But I haven't talked about it in, I don't know, six, eight months in the rest intensive. 95 00:09:43.280 --> 00:09:51.120 So it was, yes, that was like probably April, probably the first group that I mentioned some 96 00:09:51.120 --> 00:09:58.480 stuff about meditation. Um, but, uh, and it's probably like an, an old Q and a, um, from April, 97 00:09:59.120 --> 00:09:59.840 but I know I, 98 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:01.920 I haven't, I haven't done much meditation. 99 00:10:01.920 --> 00:10:06.080 The, the only thing that I talk about related to meditation 100 00:10:06.080 --> 00:10:09.680 is, is getting the noise to stop. 101 00:10:09.680 --> 00:10:11.920 There are a few, a few different things, 102 00:10:11.920 --> 00:10:16.160 a few different, a few different like modalities 103 00:10:16.160 --> 00:10:18.280 or whatever methods of doing the meditation 104 00:10:18.280 --> 00:10:19.560 that I recommend. 105 00:10:20.600 --> 00:10:24.000 And the whole purpose of them 106 00:10:24.000 --> 00:10:27.080 is to practice quieting the noise, 107 00:10:27.080 --> 00:10:31.820 which gets us practice in, 108 00:10:32.960 --> 00:10:36.800 in stopping being driven so much 109 00:10:36.800 --> 00:10:41.800 by the external and making willful, intentional decisions. 110 00:10:44.360 --> 00:10:49.040 And so that's what I talked about related to meditation. 111 00:10:49.040 --> 00:10:53.600 It was things like how to stop thinking thoughts. 112 00:10:54.520 --> 00:10:59.520 And then, and then I think that there was something 113 00:10:59.520 --> 00:11:01.880 that I did and I'd have to remember 114 00:11:01.880 --> 00:11:03.720 something that I did related to thoughts. 115 00:11:03.720 --> 00:11:05.880 Oh, that's what it was related to thoughts 116 00:11:05.880 --> 00:11:08.600 where you allow thoughts to come up 117 00:11:08.600 --> 00:11:13.600 and you just kind of watch them and you don't judge them. 118 00:11:13.800 --> 00:11:17.520 And that's another exercise of how to, 119 00:11:17.520 --> 00:11:22.520 how to expose your, how to teaching us to not be afraid 120 00:11:24.280 --> 00:11:26.280 of ourselves. 121 00:11:26.280 --> 00:11:28.760 And it's not that we like everything that comes up 122 00:11:28.760 --> 00:11:30.160 and it's not that everything that comes up 123 00:11:30.160 --> 00:11:32.320 is beautiful and godly and whatever, 124 00:11:32.320 --> 00:11:35.080 but it's to, to not be afraid of them 125 00:11:35.080 --> 00:11:37.800 and to realize that we're above them. 126 00:11:37.800 --> 00:11:41.120 And we can choose that we're seated in heavenly places 127 00:11:41.120 --> 00:11:44.120 and that our seat of our identity is in our spirit. 128 00:11:44.120 --> 00:11:48.320 And so, as opposed to being so afraid 129 00:11:48.320 --> 00:11:53.320 that we, of experiencing a thought 130 00:11:53.400 --> 00:11:55.800 and feeling threatened by it. 131 00:11:56.680 --> 00:11:59.320 So it kind of gives us practice of being exposed 132 00:11:59.320 --> 00:12:04.320 to something without, and practice not being triggered 133 00:12:05.440 --> 00:12:07.000 to feeling threatened. 134 00:12:07.000 --> 00:12:09.600 So I have that one as well, 135 00:12:09.600 --> 00:12:12.160 but that's a very long time ago. 136 00:12:12.160 --> 00:12:15.520 So, and there might've been something 137 00:12:15.520 --> 00:12:16.920 about focusing on the Lord. 138 00:12:16.920 --> 00:12:21.920 Some of it though, I mentioned, in the very first one, 139 00:12:23.320 --> 00:12:26.880 the love affair of seeing Jesus come 140 00:12:26.880 --> 00:12:28.960 and sitting and visiting with us 141 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:31.160 and then just looking him directly in the eye. 142 00:12:31.160 --> 00:12:33.360 That's really a meditation in a way 143 00:12:33.360 --> 00:12:35.920 because you're focusing, you're focusing on him. 144 00:12:37.160 --> 00:12:41.320 And so, that's one that I've kept 145 00:12:41.320 --> 00:12:43.280 and I've continued to talk about. 146 00:12:43.280 --> 00:12:45.880 The other ones I haven't talked about much. 147 00:12:45.880 --> 00:12:47.320 I did in, like I said, a Q and A, 148 00:12:47.320 --> 00:12:49.240 I think being someone asked me a question, 149 00:12:49.240 --> 00:12:51.080 is meditation okay? 150 00:12:51.640 --> 00:12:55.160 What part of it, how could you do meditation 151 00:12:55.160 --> 00:12:57.640 in a safe way where you're not inviting 152 00:12:58.880 --> 00:13:01.160 and exposing yourself to evil spirits? 153 00:13:01.160 --> 00:13:04.200 You're exposing yourself instead of to the Lord. 154 00:13:04.200 --> 00:13:05.640 How do you protect yourself? 155 00:13:05.640 --> 00:13:07.640 How do you do meditation within the blood 156 00:13:07.640 --> 00:13:11.280 as opposed to just like through another gateway? 157 00:13:16.640 --> 00:13:18.600 So that's what I talked about related to meditation. 158 00:13:18.640 --> 00:13:21.360 And those things really did help me in the beginning 159 00:13:21.360 --> 00:13:26.360 when I was first learning to shift more into rest. 160 00:13:27.280 --> 00:13:29.880 Practically, like in my daily life, 161 00:13:29.880 --> 00:13:31.760 those types of meditations really did help 162 00:13:31.760 --> 00:13:35.000 because it taught me how to gain, 163 00:13:35.000 --> 00:13:37.640 I don't wanna say control, but intention. 164 00:13:37.640 --> 00:13:41.480 Take back control of myself and directing my intention 165 00:13:41.480 --> 00:13:45.720 as opposed to being victim to my feelings 166 00:13:45.720 --> 00:13:48.840 or a thought that came to me 167 00:13:48.840 --> 00:13:52.120 or the noise of my environment. 168 00:13:52.120 --> 00:13:55.480 But to choose to, mm-mm, doesn't matter. 169 00:13:55.480 --> 00:13:59.320 I'm my own individual and I can choose. 170 00:13:59.320 --> 00:14:01.280 It taught me choice, taught me how to take back 171 00:14:01.280 --> 00:14:04.040 my own control of my own intention. 172 00:14:04.040 --> 00:14:07.800 So I suppose it would be a good teaching to do. 173 00:14:07.800 --> 00:14:09.280 I hadn't thought about that. 174 00:14:09.280 --> 00:14:11.320 So I'm glad you brought it up. 175 00:14:11.320 --> 00:14:12.240 Yeah. 176 00:14:12.240 --> 00:14:13.240 Hey Alana. 177 00:14:14.080 --> 00:14:14.920 Hi. 178 00:14:14.920 --> 00:14:18.600 So just saying, does anyone have anything else? 179 00:14:23.320 --> 00:14:24.440 I don't know, I'm trying to think, 180 00:14:24.440 --> 00:14:26.840 but I've been talking to people about this week. 181 00:14:27.720 --> 00:14:28.720 Things come up. 182 00:14:33.800 --> 00:14:38.800 I would say like most things have been pretty good. 183 00:14:39.320 --> 00:14:41.720 I have noticed this week, 184 00:14:42.720 --> 00:14:47.520 I don't know why, but my pain has been a little bit worse. 185 00:14:48.680 --> 00:14:52.880 And I actually, you know what? 186 00:14:52.880 --> 00:14:54.240 I know what part of it is. 187 00:14:54.240 --> 00:14:55.080 I was just thinking, 188 00:14:55.080 --> 00:14:57.520 cause I'm like, there's a root to this. 189 00:14:57.520 --> 00:14:59.440 I've been worried about my daughter. 190 00:15:00.960 --> 00:15:09.280 She's five, for those of you that don't know, and she's been struggling with mental health stuff. 191 00:15:09.280 --> 00:15:14.960 She's so joyful. 90% of the time, the happiest little girl in the world, 10% of the time, 192 00:15:14.960 --> 00:15:25.680 she sinks really low. She's so sad. She can't get out of it. She gets angry. She is frustrated. 193 00:15:25.680 --> 00:15:32.160 She's a perfectionist in a lot of ways. She gets really frustrated with herself when she doesn't 194 00:15:32.160 --> 00:15:39.120 do something right. She likes to control. She wants things to look a certain way. I know she's 195 00:15:39.120 --> 00:15:48.560 five, but she's stronger in these areas than I've noticed in a lot of other kids. I could say to her, 196 00:15:48.560 --> 00:15:57.200 Avea, stop it. She thinks that's shouting. She starts to cry. She beats herself up. She hides 197 00:15:57.200 --> 00:16:07.120 in the corner. She's so down. It's usually about something that's worthy of me speaking to her 198 00:16:07.120 --> 00:16:16.160 like that, which is not very often. The other day, I was really struggling. I don't think she knows 199 00:16:16.160 --> 00:16:23.280 what this means fully, but she said she was really sad. She said, Mommy, I don't even want to live. 200 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:29.360 Like I said, I don't think she fully understands what that means, 201 00:16:30.080 --> 00:16:38.720 but she just gets down like that. I've struggled. I contacted a counselor that I know so I could 202 00:16:38.720 --> 00:16:44.880 talk to her about it. I have an appointment with her. Then I contacted a children's center here 203 00:16:44.880 --> 00:16:53.520 in my city that was referred by my MD. It's like they help kids that are struggling a little bit. 204 00:16:54.160 --> 00:17:00.320 I contacted them, but part of me wonders if it's some kind of generational thing because I know 205 00:17:00.320 --> 00:17:07.839 I've historically had some of these tendencies for sure. I don't know if I'm supposed to pray 206 00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:13.680 away this generational thing. I love her to pieces. We treat her well. She's never been 207 00:17:13.680 --> 00:17:21.839 abused. She's never been hurt. She's just loved so much. I don't think it's necessarily something 208 00:17:21.839 --> 00:17:27.920 we're doing wrong, although we have blind spots. I'm open to hearing if I could do something better, 209 00:17:27.920 --> 00:17:32.000 but at the same time, I feel like there's a big spiritual element. I want to know how to 210 00:17:32.720 --> 00:17:41.040 help her. I think you're right. Something like that from a little five-year-old 211 00:17:41.760 --> 00:17:48.960 is when you said it, that's something that a lot of times, and I'm not trying to make this 212 00:17:48.960 --> 00:17:54.000 sound very, very scary because there are ways for us to deal with it because we're spirit. 213 00:17:54.560 --> 00:18:05.040 The reason why those are the types of things that the demonic whispers to children, 214 00:18:06.000 --> 00:18:13.200 whispers to people, but a phrase like that, that a child doesn't understand 215 00:18:13.200 --> 00:18:18.880 what they're saying, something like that is there are things that the demonic can whisper 216 00:18:19.440 --> 00:18:24.880 whispers to people, regardless of how old or young they are. They can even do it to children 217 00:18:24.880 --> 00:18:29.600 that can't even articulate themselves, even in words. Before they've learned to speak, 218 00:18:30.240 --> 00:18:39.360 they can hear these whispers in their body and their emotions respond. You can watch children, 219 00:18:39.360 --> 00:18:47.840 even in hospitals, dip down. They're like babies because they're listening to things because we're 220 00:18:47.840 --> 00:18:54.400 more than what we can funnel through our and articulate through our consciousness. Anyway, 221 00:18:54.400 --> 00:18:58.720 I didn't want to scare you with that. The point is we're above that and we can take authority in 222 00:18:58.720 --> 00:19:08.800 that. In other words, you're right. It's not natural. That's not wrong. The good thing is, 223 00:19:11.360 --> 00:19:16.800 yes, it can be a generational thing about something that's carried through in the DNA 224 00:19:16.800 --> 00:19:23.200 or whatever, but still it is spiritual and it can be dealt with spiritually. You as a parent 225 00:19:23.200 --> 00:19:33.440 have spiritual authority in your home and can take in the spirit, you can take that authority 226 00:19:33.440 --> 00:19:40.160 and take that position intentionally. You have it, but you have to take it intentionally 227 00:19:40.720 --> 00:19:52.480 and over your child and whatever. I've had experience with children in my life that I 228 00:19:52.480 --> 00:19:59.760 would be around and I would take authority when I would babysit them. 229 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:03.800 because they would talk about the fact they would be afraid because monsters would come out. 230 00:20:04.320 --> 00:20:09.840 Or they would talk to me in the daylight about, oh, monsters that come and visit them. 231 00:20:09.840 --> 00:20:11.520 I'm like, oh, really? 232 00:20:11.520 --> 00:20:14.520 You know, what do these monsters look like? And they would describe them to me. 233 00:20:14.640 --> 00:20:19.080 They would tell me what the monsters would tell them. And so it depends on the child. 234 00:20:19.080 --> 00:20:23.400 It depends on what's going on. Sometimes the monsters could very well be angels 235 00:20:23.840 --> 00:20:25.960 because the children don't seem afraid of them. 236 00:20:26.480 --> 00:20:29.560 And either it could be a demon making themselves very familiar to the child, 237 00:20:29.560 --> 00:20:31.160 or it could be an angel. 238 00:20:31.160 --> 00:20:34.600 And the fact that I mean, there's a reason why adults had to be told, 239 00:20:34.640 --> 00:20:37.240 do not be afraid, you know, when they would see an angel. 240 00:20:37.360 --> 00:20:39.720 So in other words, and so that's why the kids aren't afraid. 241 00:20:39.720 --> 00:20:42.960 But the only thing they could think of is like, well, it didn't look like a human. 242 00:20:43.320 --> 00:20:47.040 You know, so the thing is that they get visited by 243 00:20:48.080 --> 00:20:51.160 by we all did. I did when I was a child. 244 00:20:51.840 --> 00:20:55.320 Now I didn't see anything, but I could hear things and I could feel things. 245 00:20:55.320 --> 00:20:59.040 And it wasn't until I was an adult that I realized those footsteps 246 00:20:59.040 --> 00:21:01.520 I was hearing, hearing on the carpet were spiritual. 247 00:21:02.240 --> 00:21:06.320 And in fact, you can alter using the rest intensive. 248 00:21:06.320 --> 00:21:07.720 She and I used to sleep in the same room. 249 00:21:07.720 --> 00:21:12.040 We were really little from like, well, I say that actually, you know, or her loss. 250 00:21:12.440 --> 00:21:16.960 But there was particularly a room that I was thinking of that we shared 251 00:21:17.320 --> 00:21:18.720 for like seven years. 252 00:21:18.720 --> 00:21:23.240 And we and neither one of us ever talked about the fact until maybe like a year 253 00:21:23.240 --> 00:21:26.800 or two ago that we both heard footsteps on the carpet at night. 254 00:21:27.800 --> 00:21:30.320 I thought it was in my imagination as a child. 255 00:21:30.360 --> 00:21:33.160 She thought it was in hers until just a couple of years ago 256 00:21:33.160 --> 00:21:35.480 when we compared stories and like, wait just a second. 257 00:21:35.880 --> 00:21:39.560 So, I mean, the point is that you can take 258 00:21:40.240 --> 00:21:44.320 that as an adult now realizing that when I when I babysit children 259 00:21:44.320 --> 00:21:47.200 and they start telling me about the fact that they're afraid, 260 00:21:47.200 --> 00:21:51.000 even if they don't tell me they're afraid, I I take spiritual authority 261 00:21:51.000 --> 00:21:53.480 before when I put them into it, when I put them to bed, 262 00:21:53.480 --> 00:21:55.200 before I leave them alone or whatever. 263 00:21:55.200 --> 00:22:00.000 And, you know, because I have the spiritual authority 264 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:03.600 to be able to declare that angels come in and protect them, 265 00:22:03.600 --> 00:22:06.400 to call them forth and to protect them. 266 00:22:06.400 --> 00:22:10.960 And anyway, so the thing is, it's not anything to be afraid of. 267 00:22:11.160 --> 00:22:15.080 I just wanted to give what I think might very well be what's going on. 268 00:22:15.480 --> 00:22:16.800 It's very normal. 269 00:22:16.800 --> 00:22:19.160 I mean, I'm not saying I'm not making it light. 270 00:22:19.360 --> 00:22:21.640 I'm just saying that is very usual. 271 00:22:21.920 --> 00:22:26.160 We're not aware of the spiritual activity that goes on in all of our lives, 272 00:22:26.400 --> 00:22:27.800 including with children. 273 00:22:27.800 --> 00:22:31.160 And so therefore, being very aware of it, we can be intentional about it. 274 00:22:31.160 --> 00:22:33.320 Like, OK, this is what I declare is going to happen. 275 00:22:33.320 --> 00:22:36.600 Not in fear. It's like, oh, my goodness, I hope I can take authority. 276 00:22:36.600 --> 00:22:37.960 Absolutely not. 277 00:22:37.960 --> 00:22:41.280 We come in and we expect it to happen because we say so. 278 00:22:41.760 --> 00:22:45.040 And and then just leave it and then just leave it like that. 279 00:22:45.360 --> 00:22:49.200 If we come into those situations without fear and with intentionality, 280 00:22:49.640 --> 00:22:52.720 it will obey us because it's meant to. 281 00:22:52.880 --> 00:22:56.280 And there's no reason for us to come in like all of this demanding all this, 282 00:22:56.960 --> 00:23:01.040 you know, yelling down and spiritually demanding fire and brimstone. 283 00:23:02.160 --> 00:23:06.160 That is someone who feels threatened and afraid that unless they work up 284 00:23:06.160 --> 00:23:10.240 enough emotion and they talk loud enough and forcefully enough, 285 00:23:10.360 --> 00:23:11.680 it's not going to happen. 286 00:23:11.680 --> 00:23:16.160 Hogwash, we shift into who it is that we are in our identity 287 00:23:16.400 --> 00:23:19.640 and in our authority, and we speak with that authority 288 00:23:19.640 --> 00:23:23.280 and we expect it to be done because we've we've intended it to. 289 00:23:24.200 --> 00:23:27.200 So it's and you will notice a shift. 290 00:23:27.720 --> 00:23:30.000 I noticed it with the children that I babysat. 291 00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:32.080 Children, I prayed over whatever. 292 00:23:32.080 --> 00:23:35.320 There was a very distinctive shift with them 293 00:23:35.520 --> 00:23:38.280 that they were because I just took the authority. 294 00:23:38.280 --> 00:23:41.280 So like I said, it's nothing to be afraid of because of who it is 295 00:23:41.280 --> 00:23:42.200 that we are. 296 00:23:42.200 --> 00:23:45.040 The thing is that we have to realize who it is that we are and speak from that 297 00:23:45.040 --> 00:23:48.160 place and that everything's taken care of because it's supposed to. 298 00:23:48.240 --> 00:23:51.080 It's best to work according to those laws. 299 00:23:51.960 --> 00:23:54.440 So, yeah. Yeah. 300 00:23:54.680 --> 00:23:58.640 So then if that's the case, because I love that, what 301 00:23:59.280 --> 00:24:03.160 what do you think would be best for me to kind of. 302 00:24:04.120 --> 00:24:07.320 Like shift into exactly or say 303 00:24:07.320 --> 00:24:12.600 or to her or out loud with her or in my head or what do you think? 304 00:24:14.080 --> 00:24:17.320 Well, it would just be things such as, you know, understanding first, 305 00:24:17.320 --> 00:24:19.840 you know, shifting into our identity, recognizing and acknowledging 306 00:24:19.840 --> 00:24:25.360 who it is that you are and and that and that God is everything 307 00:24:25.360 --> 00:24:28.560 that he says that he is and expanding yourself internally, 308 00:24:28.560 --> 00:24:33.040 expanding yourself into to receive that and to stand in that place 309 00:24:33.040 --> 00:24:35.560 without having to think in your head, OK, wait a minute. 310 00:24:35.560 --> 00:24:37.480 OK, so what are the what's the list? 311 00:24:37.480 --> 00:24:39.800 OK, God says he's righteous. God says he's holy. 312 00:24:39.800 --> 00:24:42.240 You don't need you don't need to like go through all of those things 313 00:24:42.240 --> 00:24:46.040 if you need to in order to kind of like shift into, OK, what direction 314 00:24:46.040 --> 00:24:48.400 is my mind going or what direction? 315 00:24:48.400 --> 00:24:50.160 What is it that I'm supposed to believe? 316 00:24:50.160 --> 00:24:53.440 But but once you really kind of have that place, you just shift into, 317 00:24:53.440 --> 00:24:54.560 no, I'm going to receive it. 318 00:24:54.560 --> 00:24:55.680 I'm going to choose it. 319 00:24:55.680 --> 00:24:59.120 And now I can start acting like it without having to articulate to yourself 320 00:24:59.120 --> 00:25:00.040 what it is that you're believing. 321 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:04.320 I'm believing I'm righteous. I'm believing God is this, that, and the other. 322 00:25:04.320 --> 00:25:08.400 You just know, this is who I am. And I have, I'm anchored in that. 323 00:25:08.400 --> 00:25:13.960 And it's from that position that I can, uh, you can, um, ask the, you know, ask the angels 324 00:25:13.960 --> 00:25:15.840 to come in. And this is what I do with children. 325 00:25:15.840 --> 00:25:22.800 I do, I do pray it out loud, uh, as you know, ask the angels to come in and it's around 326 00:25:22.800 --> 00:25:28.040 you and, and protect you and to fill the room with light and, you know, all of the things 327 00:25:28.040 --> 00:25:32.840 that, that kids like, and they're really pleasant. Oh, you know, give you, give you good dreams 328 00:25:32.840 --> 00:25:36.720 and tuck you in. And I don't know, just things that make them 329 00:25:36.720 --> 00:25:40.440 feel very calm. But it, but when I'm saying all those things, 330 00:25:40.440 --> 00:25:46.200 the position of my heart is I'm giving the angels direction and I, and I, and, um, and 331 00:25:46.200 --> 00:25:52.840 it's, and I'm not, not as if I'm separate as if I'm like, um, oh, well, I'm hoping they're 332 00:25:52.840 --> 00:25:57.120 going to do it. No, I'm giving them intentional direction. 333 00:25:57.120 --> 00:26:01.520 Always in a very honoring way because angels are to be honored. 334 00:26:01.520 --> 00:26:05.880 We're not like dictators demanding to them what it is that they do and don't need to, 335 00:26:05.880 --> 00:26:10.240 because that's not how, that's not how a godly King who looks like our father acts. 336 00:26:10.240 --> 00:26:16.040 We always honor that, honor those things. But at the same time, we, we give them direction. 337 00:26:16.040 --> 00:26:20.920 They're not going to, they're not going to rebel against us. 338 00:26:20.920 --> 00:26:24.080 They were sent to service and they delight to do so. 339 00:26:24.080 --> 00:26:28.240 And so we honor them and then just get them direction, like, you know, it, um, in the 340 00:26:28.240 --> 00:26:33.960 intention of our heart, you know, okay, we'll surround them and do this and do that. 341 00:26:33.960 --> 00:26:39.840 And then we'll, you know, I, you know, declare certain things like, um, yeah, I talk, I speak 342 00:26:39.840 --> 00:26:43.400 over them sometimes say, you know, you are not going to be afraid tonight. 343 00:26:43.400 --> 00:26:45.760 You are going to have nothing but pleasant dreams. 344 00:26:45.760 --> 00:26:50.800 You are going to, as opposed to, so in other words, you hear everything I'm talking about 345 00:26:50.800 --> 00:26:57.920 is positive as opposed to, oh, well, you know, any monsters come, well, then this is 346 00:26:57.920 --> 00:26:58.920 what's going to happen. 347 00:26:58.920 --> 00:27:05.520 And I can, I command that no monsters come in here and no, you know, there's no need 348 00:27:05.520 --> 00:27:08.960 to be talking about all of the negatives, no need to be focusing on the negative and 349 00:27:08.960 --> 00:27:14.640 battling it with enough light and enough truth that pushes out the darkness. 350 00:27:14.640 --> 00:27:20.680 Um, so the only thing I would say is if, when you're doing all of that, if there's a part 351 00:27:21.560 --> 00:27:27.760 of you in the sensitivity of the spirit, if you think that you're struggling, um, to if, 352 00:27:27.760 --> 00:27:29.880 uh, how would I read that? 353 00:27:29.880 --> 00:27:32.480 You're struggling to believe it. 354 00:27:32.480 --> 00:27:38.400 You're struggling to choose it without battling it. 355 00:27:38.400 --> 00:27:42.000 Then I, I have, and I've done this myself before. 356 00:27:42.000 --> 00:27:46.720 If I realize, you know what, for some reason, my faith is struggling and I need to give 357 00:27:46.720 --> 00:27:54.200 it a bit of a, a bit of help, then I do face the darkness and I tell it that it has no 358 00:27:54.200 --> 00:27:55.200 right. 359 00:27:55.200 --> 00:28:00.320 And I don't say that loud because I don't want to scare the kids, but intentionally 360 00:28:00.320 --> 00:28:03.520 I do, or I say to my head or, or whatever. 361 00:28:03.520 --> 00:28:07.720 Um, but that is kind of like a tool for myself. 362 00:28:07.720 --> 00:28:14.760 If for whatever reason I'm struggling and I need a bit of help, then I grab a tool of 363 00:28:14.760 --> 00:28:19.760 spiritual warfare and I tell them, look, I'm standing in one place. 364 00:28:19.760 --> 00:28:20.760 I know who I am. 365 00:28:20.760 --> 00:28:29.800 I, and you know who I am and therefore you have no authority, but I, I try to, um, it, 366 00:28:29.800 --> 00:28:34.760 I prefer to focus on the positive, but I do have that to fall back on. 367 00:28:34.760 --> 00:28:42.560 If my soul is struggling, um, then I, then I turn to, to the evil and tell it what I 368 00:28:42.560 --> 00:28:47.560 think and tell it how it can't do it because I'm a child of God. 369 00:28:47.560 --> 00:28:48.560 Anyway. 370 00:28:48.560 --> 00:28:51.560 So I just wanted to mention that because I like to make sure that people have options. 371 00:28:51.560 --> 00:28:55.560 If they're struggling with something to know that, Hey, here's, here's the fallback. 372 00:28:55.560 --> 00:29:01.560 Here's, here's another thing that does work, spiritual warfare, head to head, you know, 373 00:29:01.560 --> 00:29:06.560 my knowledge, mature knowledge, you know, you know, the spirit and, um, and, and you 374 00:29:06.560 --> 00:29:07.560 can do that too. 375 00:29:07.560 --> 00:29:08.560 So I do it. 376 00:29:09.560 --> 00:29:14.560 If ever I'm struggling at a particular night in my faith, I'll turn and I'll battle the, 377 00:29:14.560 --> 00:29:16.560 the, um, evil cause it helps my soul. 378 00:29:16.560 --> 00:29:19.560 It's a leverage for my soul to shift into the faith. 379 00:29:19.560 --> 00:29:21.560 Yeah, no, that's good. 380 00:29:21.560 --> 00:29:24.560 And so basically it's just a simple shift. 381 00:29:24.560 --> 00:29:31.560 Like when she's really sad, when she's taking things really hard, it's like out loud or 382 00:29:31.560 --> 00:29:36.560 in my head, just, I know I can shift into my identity in him. 383 00:29:37.560 --> 00:29:44.560 Um, but with her, like, I can say, you know, I love you and, you know, it's okay, sweetie, 384 00:29:44.560 --> 00:29:46.560 you know, that kind of stuff. 385 00:29:46.560 --> 00:29:52.560 But would I say anything about, you know, sweetie, I'm just going to pray right now 386 00:29:52.560 --> 00:29:53.560 or something. 387 00:29:53.560 --> 00:29:57.560 Like, I don't know what to actually say, if, if I should be saying something to comfort 388 00:29:57.560 --> 00:29:59.560 her, or if me just shifting into. 389 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:06.000 You know, my identity in him is enough. Okay. Two things you absolutely can talk to her. 390 00:30:06.000 --> 00:30:09.200 Cause see everything I'm talking about. I just think about like at night, 391 00:30:09.200 --> 00:30:13.120 cause that's a lot of times when kids are, uh, when, um, kids feel very, 392 00:30:13.120 --> 00:30:15.520 especially vulnerable or whatever, but yeah, you're right. 393 00:30:15.520 --> 00:30:20.480 Like in the middle of the day or whatnot. Um, the, I do, I do both of those things. 394 00:30:21.520 --> 00:30:27.120 I pray with them. And then I also shift into my identity and interact with them like that. 395 00:30:27.120 --> 00:30:32.160 You know, how I was talking about, um, uh, you know, not talking to somebody, 396 00:30:33.360 --> 00:30:39.440 uh, in their brokenness and addressing them down here, like that sadness and not addressing it, 397 00:30:39.440 --> 00:30:44.640 but talking to this person and how, when we talk to this person and we interact with them like this, 398 00:30:44.640 --> 00:30:47.840 we give them what it is we, they think that they're lacking. 399 00:30:47.840 --> 00:30:51.520 So instead of telling them that I love them, though, I do say it. 400 00:30:52.480 --> 00:31:01.120 My instead of focusing my intention on and, and my interaction with them on my words and trying 401 00:31:01.120 --> 00:31:10.400 to convince them, I actually give it to them. So I, I intentionally, um, sacrifice in my, 402 00:31:10.400 --> 00:31:17.600 myself by giving them something of me. I love them. I whatever. And then how, when I'm loving them, 403 00:31:18.560 --> 00:31:27.680 what, uh, what action does that prompt me to in the moment? What words does that prompt me to say 404 00:31:27.680 --> 00:31:32.160 in the moment to them? Not trying to convince them. I'm not talking about like trying to come 405 00:31:32.160 --> 00:31:37.280 up with all of these things like, oh, what worse does that prompt me to say of like, oh, well, 406 00:31:37.840 --> 00:31:42.880 um, you know, don't you realize you're this and don't you realize you're that now that's trying 407 00:31:42.880 --> 00:31:49.600 to convince someone. And that really won't, that'll only go so far. Uh, it's not that that's 408 00:31:49.600 --> 00:31:54.320 not good. It's just, it's only going to go so far. What they need is they need to be touched 409 00:31:54.320 --> 00:32:02.240 in their spirit. So, um, I, I love on them and I just, and I just figure out how to actually 410 00:32:02.240 --> 00:32:08.880 spiritually be pouring into them at that time. And, um, and then, okay, well, now that I'm pouring 411 00:32:08.880 --> 00:32:14.880 into them, what is it that naturally comes up with me to do with them or to, or to say to them 412 00:32:14.880 --> 00:32:22.400 or whatever. And then in addition to that, I do talk to them and I pray to them and pray with 413 00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:27.600 them. Hey, so let's pray. I'm sorry that you're not feeling that you're not feeling good. And then 414 00:32:27.600 --> 00:32:32.400 I'll just let's whenever we're not feeling good, whenever we're feeling sad or whenever we're 415 00:32:32.400 --> 00:32:38.800 feeling aggregate out, uh, angry, we don't have to be afraid. We don't have to be afraid that 416 00:32:38.800 --> 00:32:42.960 we're sad. We don't have to be afraid that whatever, in other words, reminding them, 417 00:32:44.240 --> 00:32:50.560 helping them know from their parent that they are not something to be afraid of. 418 00:32:50.560 --> 00:32:57.040 Even if that's something negative is coming up out of them. Uh, and, uh, that they are not, 419 00:32:57.040 --> 00:33:00.720 in other words, what this is doing is they're learning from their parent, 420 00:33:00.720 --> 00:33:07.040 that there is no need for them to feel intrinsically ashamed of themselves, because that's 421 00:33:07.040 --> 00:33:12.560 where things like, like the, the whole thing of like, you know, if you say stop it and then they 422 00:33:12.560 --> 00:33:17.040 retreat, there's this, there's this thing that they're battling with. Uh, there's something 423 00:33:17.040 --> 00:33:25.600 inherently wrong with me. And they, and so it's trying, so it's instead trying to, um, teach the, 424 00:33:25.600 --> 00:33:32.160 teach them, Hey, look, I fully accept you and receive you when you're sad, when you're angry, 425 00:33:32.160 --> 00:33:37.680 and when you're fearful, and there's no reason, even if you're sad, angry, or fearful for you to 426 00:33:37.680 --> 00:33:42.800 be afraid of yourself, mommy's not afraid of you, you know, and you don't need to be afraid of you. 427 00:33:42.800 --> 00:33:46.560 We're going to, so we're going to pray the Lord about it. If you're sad or angry, let's talk to 428 00:33:46.560 --> 00:33:52.400 God about it. And let's ask him, now help me not to be angry. I'm not to be sad. So to also let 429 00:33:52.400 --> 00:33:58.960 him know when we have negative feelings, we are not so bad that God doesn't want to hear from us 430 00:33:59.600 --> 00:34:07.120 that we go to him. When we feel negative, when we have this scared, uh, when we have negative 431 00:34:07.120 --> 00:34:12.159 feelings, as opposed to let's try to deal with them so that we can come back to God again. 432 00:34:12.159 --> 00:34:17.520 It's like, no, no, no. When you feel negative, there's this openness that we can teach the 433 00:34:17.520 --> 00:34:23.040 children to have of like, okay, God, God, God, this is how I feel. You know, I don't know why 434 00:34:23.040 --> 00:34:31.679 I feel this way to let him know. He's he, that they, um, that he's a safe place when they're 435 00:34:31.679 --> 00:34:38.239 feeling negative. Um, as opposed to the fact that, well, God only, only wants to, God doesn't like 436 00:34:38.239 --> 00:34:43.199 the negative and he just wants to, he wants you to deal with that before he wants to deal with you. 437 00:34:43.360 --> 00:34:50.320 No, no, no. That's not great of you. You know, being negative, we can deal with the negative. 438 00:34:50.320 --> 00:34:55.360 He can deal with negativity as opposed to us dealing with it in order to make us pleasing 439 00:34:55.360 --> 00:34:59.840 to him. And I know when we had negative, that's, you know, we come to God. 440 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:06.080 because the negative gets dealt with in the presence of God. The negative gets released 441 00:35:06.080 --> 00:35:12.160 and removed. So he is the healing for the negative, as opposed to something we need to fix 442 00:35:12.160 --> 00:35:18.000 before we go to him. So stuff like that helps. Because it's intrinsically an idea that there's 443 00:35:18.000 --> 00:35:25.440 something about me that's wrong, that shame, and it's starting to show the release of shame. 444 00:35:25.600 --> 00:35:29.520 I mean, it's a shame to the Lord. 445 00:35:30.160 --> 00:35:35.280 Yeah, no, it's definitely shame. You named it. I didn't know how to name it. But yeah, 446 00:35:35.840 --> 00:35:41.200 she gets these shame attacks almost, which is obviously the enemy and it's not God. So 447 00:35:41.200 --> 00:35:44.400 for me to help her with that, I just shift into the spirit. And I'm like, 448 00:35:45.280 --> 00:35:50.480 sweetie, it's okay. I love you. And I'm going to pray for you. And you know, you can be in this 449 00:35:50.480 --> 00:35:55.760 space and God loves you. And I love you. And that's okay type of thing. And is that yeah, 450 00:35:55.760 --> 00:36:00.080 that's okay. Right? Just to kind of like speak those words over her and then pray. 451 00:36:00.080 --> 00:36:07.120 Oh, yeah. Yeah. And here's a huge, huge, huge, huge thing. Huge for children. And it's hard 452 00:36:07.120 --> 00:36:11.760 for us because we don't like being around negativity. And we don't want to feel like 453 00:36:11.760 --> 00:36:17.440 we are enabling it. So what we tend what people tend to do is they tend to isolate children 454 00:36:18.240 --> 00:36:24.720 when they're upset, you know, hey, you go think about it. Or you, you know, if you know, 455 00:36:24.720 --> 00:36:31.520 I'll put you in timeout or whatever. What that teaches the child is that teaches separation 456 00:36:31.520 --> 00:36:38.080 from relationship based on their behavior. And that, that really solidifies shame 457 00:36:39.360 --> 00:36:45.600 is and that's where we can get this whole idea that unless I behave a particular way, 458 00:36:46.160 --> 00:36:54.640 God and other people are then I'm abandoned. I'm abandoned based on my behavior. And my behavior 459 00:36:54.640 --> 00:37:00.560 is is revelatory of the fact that something's intrinsically wrong with me. And the least the 460 00:37:00.560 --> 00:37:08.960 less that we can separate relations that we can keep them keep from separating them from our 461 00:37:08.960 --> 00:37:15.520 presence. And then from our relationship, when they feel negative, the lot of the more that they 462 00:37:15.520 --> 00:37:25.200 will heal from from internalizing correction as shame. Does that make sense? Yeah. So what do you 463 00:37:25.200 --> 00:37:30.560 do? Because like, she doesn't, we don't separate her from us very often, like once in a while, 464 00:37:30.560 --> 00:37:34.480 she'll get a timeout. She used to get more, but now she doesn't really get them very often. But 465 00:37:35.200 --> 00:37:40.560 like, what would you do instead, if she's acting out, and she, like, say, you know, she hits one 466 00:37:40.560 --> 00:37:46.080 of us, which she doesn't do very often, again, but like, she does, right. And we say, you know, 467 00:37:46.080 --> 00:37:49.920 go to timeout or she or she hits the cat or something, right? Like, we're like, you need 468 00:37:49.920 --> 00:37:56.800 to go timeout. What what do we do instead? Um, well, I mean, every child's a bit different how 469 00:37:56.800 --> 00:38:02.560 you deal with it. But here's some like possibilities is, instead of separating the child, 470 00:38:03.200 --> 00:38:10.640 the child stays with the parent, but the child doesn't get to do what it's been doing, whether 471 00:38:10.640 --> 00:38:14.160 it's a good thing or a bad thing that they were doing, like if they just get a kick, kick the 472 00:38:14.160 --> 00:38:17.840 cat with them, you know, I don't know, but I'm talking about like, if they're playing, 473 00:38:18.400 --> 00:38:23.440 if they're playing with something, you can't play with that, you can still be with me, 474 00:38:23.440 --> 00:38:30.000 but you can't play with that. And instead, I want you, I want you to sit here, and we'll be and and 475 00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:33.920 I don't know, they can talk to you while you're making dinner, or they can, you know, for five 476 00:38:33.920 --> 00:38:40.000 minutes, or, you know, because she's only five or so that the attention span so long, or the, 477 00:38:40.880 --> 00:38:49.600 the, in other words, that whatever thing that they're doing, isn't a isn't seen as a punishment. 478 00:38:50.480 --> 00:38:55.600 But they don't get to but they see a difference between what it is that they were being allowed 479 00:38:55.600 --> 00:39:01.040 to do, versus what it is that they're doing now. Like, in other words, okay, well, there's something 480 00:39:01.040 --> 00:39:07.440 that's changed, like you were getting to play with your toys, can't play with your toys. But I'm not 481 00:39:07.440 --> 00:39:12.720 separating you from me, there's nothing wrong with you. Don't I'm just trying to get you to not do 482 00:39:12.720 --> 00:39:17.920 this behavior anymore. So and then whatever you want it like, like, okay, well, let's, you know, 483 00:39:17.920 --> 00:39:21.760 you've got some options here, you can't do this for the next 10 minutes, 15 minutes, five minutes, 484 00:39:21.760 --> 00:39:27.600 whatever it is. But, you know, I'm making dinner. So I so sit here with me, because I like to have 485 00:39:27.600 --> 00:39:33.040 you with me. And then, you know, it's you can you can color, or you can do this. I don't know what 486 00:39:33.040 --> 00:39:36.960 it would be. I don't, I don't know if like, coloring is just so wonderful. It would feel 487 00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:41.440 like a like a reward. I'm just trying to come up with something or if it would be something like, 488 00:39:41.440 --> 00:39:48.080 hey, I just want you to sit here. But sometimes it can even be silent, that I just need you to 489 00:39:48.080 --> 00:39:54.000 sit here and you can't. And or if you think that that's not going well, and you think, well, no, 490 00:39:54.000 --> 00:39:59.760 I think that even though she gets to stay in my presence, the demand that she be silent. 491 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.120 still feels like separation, and that may not work with Aveya. 492 00:40:05.120 --> 00:40:07.720 And it might be something where you don't mention anything, 493 00:40:07.720 --> 00:40:09.280 like she can't talk. 494 00:40:09.280 --> 00:40:12.520 But it's like, you can't do what you were doing. 495 00:40:12.520 --> 00:40:15.200 And you need to do this right now. 496 00:40:15.200 --> 00:40:17.320 But you get a choice. 497 00:40:17.320 --> 00:40:19.160 You can color, or you can do this. 498 00:40:19.160 --> 00:40:21.480 Which one is it that you're going to do? 499 00:40:21.480 --> 00:40:22.080 I don't know. 500 00:40:22.080 --> 00:40:25.680 I'm just throwing out ideas. 501 00:40:25.680 --> 00:40:29.920 And you're going to know as the parent what 502 00:40:29.920 --> 00:40:31.240 and you feel this in the spirit. 503 00:40:31.240 --> 00:40:32.360 You just sense it in your spirit. 504 00:40:32.360 --> 00:40:33.880 And then you just make a decision. 505 00:40:33.880 --> 00:40:35.160 You don't have to worry like, oh my goodness, 506 00:40:35.160 --> 00:40:37.760 I wonder if this is going to be a reward. 507 00:40:37.760 --> 00:40:39.200 Is this not going to be a reward? 508 00:40:39.200 --> 00:40:40.560 Don't overthink it. 509 00:40:40.560 --> 00:40:44.800 Just think, in my spirit, what feels appropriate at this time? 510 00:40:44.800 --> 00:40:45.640 And then just do it. 511 00:40:45.640 --> 00:40:48.000 You may do it differently next time. 512 00:40:48.000 --> 00:40:51.160 But just right now, what are you going to do? 513 00:40:51.160 --> 00:40:53.160 Get a general sort of idea before you 514 00:40:53.160 --> 00:40:55.440 get into that situation so that the situation doesn't 515 00:40:55.440 --> 00:40:56.200 catch you off guard. 516 00:40:56.200 --> 00:40:58.240 You're trying to figure out in the middle of it, 517 00:40:58.240 --> 00:41:01.320 what's this new thing that I'm going to do? 518 00:41:01.320 --> 00:41:02.480 Now's not the time. 519 00:41:02.480 --> 00:41:04.640 Prepare yourself before you get in the situation. 520 00:41:04.640 --> 00:41:07.000 But just know that when you're in the situation, 521 00:41:07.000 --> 00:41:10.560 don't you add shame to yourself, just 522 00:41:10.560 --> 00:41:12.320 like you're trying to avoid Aveya doing. 523 00:41:12.320 --> 00:41:13.520 Don't add shame to yourself. 524 00:41:13.520 --> 00:41:15.800 Like, I wonder if I'm going to make the right decision. 525 00:41:15.800 --> 00:41:17.880 I wonder if I'm going to do this right or whatever. 526 00:41:17.880 --> 00:41:19.040 Trust your spirit more. 527 00:41:19.040 --> 00:41:20.040 Trust your spirit more. 528 00:41:20.040 --> 00:41:22.120 You know, of all of the people in the world that 529 00:41:22.120 --> 00:41:24.640 have ever lived, Aveya was given to you 530 00:41:24.640 --> 00:41:26.840 because you were the best for her. 531 00:41:26.840 --> 00:41:28.280 You were the best based on what it 532 00:41:28.280 --> 00:41:30.280 is that Aveya was going to need in her life. 533 00:41:30.280 --> 00:41:31.440 You were it. 534 00:41:31.440 --> 00:41:33.640 You were the thing that God was like, that 535 00:41:33.640 --> 00:41:35.000 will help prepare her. 536 00:41:35.000 --> 00:41:41.760 So just trust your spirit and trust in the Lord and all that. 537 00:41:41.760 --> 00:41:45.520 So always focus on who it is that you are, 538 00:41:45.520 --> 00:41:48.720 who it is that she is, not how she's behaving 539 00:41:48.720 --> 00:41:50.400 and what decisions you're making. 540 00:41:53.640 --> 00:41:54.280 Perfect. 541 00:41:54.280 --> 00:41:55.280 Yeah, that's great. 542 00:41:55.280 --> 00:41:55.880 Thank you. 543 00:41:55.880 --> 00:41:59.640 And things won't look beautiful maybe the first time. 544 00:41:59.640 --> 00:42:01.640 Often they do look beautiful the first time 545 00:42:01.640 --> 00:42:04.160 and everyone thinks, oh my goodness, this just works. 546 00:42:04.160 --> 00:42:06.360 And then the next time things all go haywire 547 00:42:06.360 --> 00:42:08.520 and like, oh my goodness, what's going on? 548 00:42:08.520 --> 00:42:13.880 Well, it's just we just need to hold everything very loosely 549 00:42:13.880 --> 00:42:16.240 and understand that we're not moving from one formula 550 00:42:16.240 --> 00:42:19.160 to a different lifestyle or different formulas. 551 00:42:19.160 --> 00:42:22.640 And we're moving to no formulas and understand more things 552 00:42:22.640 --> 00:42:23.280 in spirit. 553 00:42:23.320 --> 00:42:25.840 And we're not always going to, things aren't always 554 00:42:25.840 --> 00:42:27.200 going to look beautiful. 555 00:42:27.200 --> 00:42:28.960 Things aren't going to always look perfect. 556 00:42:28.960 --> 00:42:30.520 It's going to look like it was wrong. 557 00:42:30.520 --> 00:42:32.080 But think about all of the other things 558 00:42:32.080 --> 00:42:34.760 that you've tried so hard to do right by following formulas. 559 00:42:34.760 --> 00:42:36.080 Have they always worked? 560 00:42:36.080 --> 00:42:37.480 No. 561 00:42:37.480 --> 00:42:40.640 And so therefore, we're just going to a different one, 562 00:42:40.640 --> 00:42:43.040 but this one's being led more by the spirit. 563 00:42:43.040 --> 00:42:45.480 And so, and there are people that you're dealing with. 564 00:42:45.480 --> 00:42:47.920 And she, in a veya, regardless of what choices you make, 565 00:42:47.920 --> 00:42:50.080 she has a choice about whether or not she's going to receive it 566 00:42:50.080 --> 00:42:51.880 and how she's going to receive it. 567 00:42:51.880 --> 00:42:54.920 So you just present her as much as you can to the Lord 568 00:42:54.920 --> 00:42:56.640 and the authority that's been given to you. 569 00:42:56.640 --> 00:42:58.760 And God loves her more than you do. 570 00:42:58.760 --> 00:43:02.080 So you just follow whatever you're feeling. 571 00:43:02.080 --> 00:43:05.160 And so the things that I'm telling you 572 00:43:05.160 --> 00:43:08.200 aren't like these perfect formulas of, OK, well, 573 00:43:08.200 --> 00:43:11.240 how to deal with this issue. 574 00:43:11.240 --> 00:43:14.720 These are just some ideas of a different approach 575 00:43:14.720 --> 00:43:18.240 that you could take to these types of situations. 576 00:43:18.240 --> 00:43:21.600 And then so maybe what this does is 577 00:43:21.600 --> 00:43:25.240 it's expanding your mind as to possibilities. 578 00:43:25.240 --> 00:43:27.760 So you may not do what it is I'm talking about. 579 00:43:27.760 --> 00:43:29.840 You may not do what it is that I'm 580 00:43:29.840 --> 00:43:31.960 throwing out there as an option. 581 00:43:31.960 --> 00:43:35.240 I'm not even saying it's a good option about like, OK, well, 582 00:43:35.240 --> 00:43:37.520 instead of doing this, sit at the table. 583 00:43:37.520 --> 00:43:39.240 I'm not even saying that's a good option. 584 00:43:39.240 --> 00:43:42.640 I'm just throwing something out there that maybe you've never 585 00:43:42.640 --> 00:43:43.200 thought of. 586 00:43:43.200 --> 00:43:45.480 And all it does, and maybe the whole point 587 00:43:45.480 --> 00:43:47.600 in us having this conversation, is simply 588 00:43:47.600 --> 00:43:51.880 to break out of the box that you thought in based 589 00:43:51.880 --> 00:43:53.760 on your experience of how you were raised 590 00:43:53.760 --> 00:43:55.800 or how you'd always heard other people raise their children 591 00:43:55.800 --> 00:43:56.600 or whatever. 592 00:43:56.600 --> 00:43:59.480 And understand, OK, wait, wait, there's more possibilities. 593 00:43:59.480 --> 00:44:04.520 And then just ask the Lord, OK, what outside of my box 594 00:44:04.520 --> 00:44:06.600 do you want me to start doing? 595 00:44:06.600 --> 00:44:10.200 Not what Ashley suggested or thought of as an idea 596 00:44:10.200 --> 00:44:12.640 or as an option, but just kind of like, hey, Lord, 597 00:44:12.640 --> 00:44:15.000 that gave me an idea that apparently there's 598 00:44:15.000 --> 00:44:17.480 other ways that I can do it other than the way 599 00:44:17.480 --> 00:44:18.720 I've been doing it. 600 00:44:18.720 --> 00:44:20.360 What other options are out there? 601 00:44:20.360 --> 00:44:23.680 So I'm just saying all of this to kind of break out of the box 602 00:44:23.680 --> 00:44:26.760 but not saying, hey, this is the new direction. 603 00:44:26.760 --> 00:44:27.280 So. 604 00:44:27.280 --> 00:44:27.960 That's great. 605 00:44:27.960 --> 00:44:28.760 I appreciate it. 606 00:44:28.760 --> 00:44:29.720 Thank you. 607 00:44:29.720 --> 00:44:31.200 You're welcome. 608 00:44:31.200 --> 00:44:32.600 Welcome. 609 00:44:32.600 --> 00:44:35.560 So it will work for Avea, won't work for the kids. 610 00:44:35.560 --> 00:44:37.520 It will work for the kids, won't work for Avea. 611 00:44:37.520 --> 00:44:39.360 So yeah, we're all people. 612 00:44:39.360 --> 00:44:41.160 That's why all marriages look different, 613 00:44:41.160 --> 00:44:42.840 because it's all based on relationships. 614 00:44:42.840 --> 00:44:45.320 It's not based on behavior. 615 00:44:45.320 --> 00:44:46.800 That's true. 616 00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:47.800 Yeah. 617 00:44:47.800 --> 00:44:53.280 And she's very committed to God for her little age. 618 00:44:53.280 --> 00:44:55.600 So that's a good place to be in too. 619 00:44:55.600 --> 00:44:56.240 Yeah. 620 00:44:56.240 --> 00:44:58.720 So it's nice. 621 00:44:58.720 --> 00:45:00.280 Yeah. 622 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.040 I was laughing earlier because your little chat came up that you like when I say hogwash. 623 00:45:07.040 --> 00:45:08.040 I know. 624 00:45:08.040 --> 00:45:13.040 I wish that I had another phrase to use that wasn't so southern, but I don't know. 625 00:45:13.040 --> 00:45:15.640 It's the one that comes to my mind. 626 00:45:15.640 --> 00:45:19.560 I like that it means you're being real serious. 627 00:45:19.560 --> 00:45:21.600 Whatever you're saying, it's important. 628 00:45:21.600 --> 00:45:22.600 Okay? 629 00:45:22.600 --> 00:45:23.600 That's right. 630 00:45:23.600 --> 00:45:24.600 You're right. 631 00:45:24.600 --> 00:45:25.600 It's hogwash. 632 00:45:25.600 --> 00:45:26.600 It's a pig's will. 633 00:45:26.600 --> 00:45:38.040 You can tell I grew up on a farm, so of course my granddaddy's only had pigs like once when 634 00:45:38.040 --> 00:45:39.040 I was growing up. 635 00:45:39.040 --> 00:45:42.440 The rest were all cattle, so been donkeys. 636 00:45:42.440 --> 00:45:46.680 Anyway, so does anyone have anything else? 637 00:45:46.680 --> 00:45:49.080 There's Steph. 638 00:45:49.080 --> 00:45:55.120 She's been hiding in the dark. 639 00:45:55.120 --> 00:45:56.120 Yes. 640 00:45:56.120 --> 00:46:05.160 I figure there's no sense in having my camera on if I'm in the dark. 641 00:46:05.160 --> 00:46:08.600 So does anyone have anything else? 642 00:46:08.600 --> 00:46:10.600 Linda, did you have something? 643 00:46:10.600 --> 00:46:12.600 I see that you were unmuted. 644 00:46:12.600 --> 00:46:18.000 Well, I was just checking to see whether or not you have any suggestions because when 645 00:46:18.000 --> 00:46:21.800 she was talking about her daughter, I mean, her daughter is obviously under the age of 646 00:46:21.800 --> 00:46:22.800 18. 647 00:46:23.200 --> 00:46:30.640 I have a son who decided to buy a $70,000 pickup truck when he just went back to work 648 00:46:30.640 --> 00:46:34.520 for the first time for four months and four years. 649 00:46:34.520 --> 00:46:41.040 I was hoping that there would be no way the dealership would even consider giving him 650 00:46:41.040 --> 00:46:42.040 a loan. 651 00:46:42.040 --> 00:46:50.600 Of course, you know, he got like 10% interest instead of two, but they let him drive the 652 00:46:50.600 --> 00:46:55.880 truck and I'm beside myself. 653 00:46:55.880 --> 00:47:00.040 So when she's saying that about him, I'm like, do you have the same authority over him once 654 00:47:00.040 --> 00:47:02.560 they turn 18? 655 00:47:02.560 --> 00:47:13.480 No, but you still have, because even when they're five, even when they're five, there's 656 00:47:13.480 --> 00:47:20.840 a spiritual authority that we have, if we are of like protection, that they still have 657 00:47:20.840 --> 00:47:21.840 free will. 658 00:47:21.840 --> 00:47:29.600 And it's very challenging for a parent to provide that kind of authority and protection 659 00:47:29.600 --> 00:47:37.600 without violating the free will. 660 00:47:37.600 --> 00:47:39.760 That is a very difficult balance. 661 00:47:39.760 --> 00:47:44.440 And I know that from personal experience in working, like, say, for instance, with children 662 00:47:44.440 --> 00:47:54.160 that are babysat, my friends' kids, or my nieces or nephew, so I'm very, very even experientially 663 00:47:54.160 --> 00:48:02.480 understanding of that challenge of how to honor their free will, but still provide them 664 00:48:02.480 --> 00:48:08.520 with the appropriate authoritative covering, which is only to benefit them, not to control 665 00:48:08.520 --> 00:48:09.520 them. 666 00:48:10.280 --> 00:48:13.480 But somebody who's like over 18, I know it's really hard. 667 00:48:13.480 --> 00:48:18.920 It's really, really hard, but we have, there's something, there's things that we can do on 668 00:48:18.920 --> 00:48:25.120 behalf of other people that you would do the same thing with your child, with an offspring, 669 00:48:25.120 --> 00:48:36.120 you know, regardless how old they are, where you are one with them in Christ, and you can 670 00:48:36.120 --> 00:48:38.560 speak to them in the spirit. 671 00:48:38.560 --> 00:48:45.760 You can, I talk to people's souls and body and call them to, even when I'm not near them, 672 00:48:45.760 --> 00:48:50.880 you know, call them to rise up and to remember who it is that they are, whatever, but they 673 00:48:50.880 --> 00:48:58.560 have an opportunity to respond to it, respond to hearing a son of God, making wise decisions, 674 00:48:58.560 --> 00:49:08.600 asking their spirit on behalf of them to come in and present wisdom to their soul, 675 00:49:08.600 --> 00:49:16.000 to present wisdom to their body or whatever, as opposed to trying to, okay, as opposed 676 00:49:16.000 --> 00:49:22.200 to manipulation, which is, so I'm trying to like give you an idea about what it is that 677 00:49:22.200 --> 00:49:23.480 I'm not saying. 678 00:49:23.480 --> 00:49:32.840 So that, as opposed to what we typically can fall back on in our desire to help somebody 679 00:49:32.840 --> 00:49:40.360 is we think that we're giving them, we think, well, we can't control them, but I can, I 680 00:49:40.360 --> 00:49:47.520 can convince them and there's this, there's this, oh man, there's this delicate balance 681 00:49:47.680 --> 00:49:53.320 to having a conversation with someone and then moving into manipulation, which is where 682 00:49:53.320 --> 00:49:59.960 we are taking someone's own standards of judgment, according to the true logic of evil. 683 00:50:00.720 --> 00:50:06.080 and using them and getting them to use them against themselves. Like, and what we typically 684 00:50:06.080 --> 00:50:13.760 do is we use guilt or shame. Like, have we ever been told by our parents or have we ever told the 685 00:50:13.760 --> 00:50:20.480 child, um, you know, I taught you better. Well, things like that, you know, so I'm not saying 686 00:50:20.480 --> 00:50:27.040 that. Yeah. I use the example that we went to look at a house one time and we thought it was the 687 00:50:27.040 --> 00:50:33.520 house for us and I had a check. And so we didn't buy the house because I couldn't sign the 688 00:50:33.520 --> 00:50:42.480 paperwork on it. And two weeks later, Greg lost his job. So had we signed on a house at that point, 689 00:50:42.480 --> 00:50:49.760 we could legitimately have had, we would have been no way to pay. I mean, so it was just one 690 00:50:49.760 --> 00:50:55.520 of those checks. And then just like three years ago, we had looked at a summer home at like the 691 00:50:55.520 --> 00:51:00.080 Ozarks, which is like an hour and a half from here to have a second place to get away. And we 692 00:51:00.080 --> 00:51:07.120 had $20,000 down getting ready to go put the check as a down payment. And Greg got down there and 693 00:51:07.120 --> 00:51:13.920 said, I just couldn't do it. I didn't have peace. So I use that example in those two instances where 694 00:51:14.640 --> 00:51:22.400 one person in the family didn't have peace and it was okay not to, but I shared that 695 00:51:23.200 --> 00:51:29.280 with my daughter-in-law. Without her signature, it wouldn't have gone through because she was the 696 00:51:29.280 --> 00:51:36.000 only one that's had the long-term thing. Well, she showed it to my son and then I got the phone call 697 00:51:36.000 --> 00:51:43.040 and it was like, I was not going behind his back. She had already talked to me about not being 698 00:51:43.040 --> 00:51:50.080 comfortable about it. So I didn't tell him she'd already talked to me. But the reason why I texted 699 00:51:50.080 --> 00:51:56.240 her was because if this is going through, you don't have to sign even if you're not comfortable. 700 00:51:56.240 --> 00:52:03.120 So she threw me under the bus. I did not throw her on the bus, but I did get in trouble with my son. 701 00:52:03.120 --> 00:52:09.120 It's already gone through $1,500 a month payment. He hasn't made that much money except for three 702 00:52:09.120 --> 00:52:16.320 months in the last five years. We've been paying his bills on a very consistent basis. It's like, 703 00:52:16.320 --> 00:52:25.440 what are you thinking? So of course, it's like you get three months of good money 704 00:52:25.440 --> 00:52:35.040 and this is what you do with it. So I'm, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I'm sorry. I'm sorry about that. 705 00:52:35.040 --> 00:52:43.760 But that is an issue that the two of them might personally be struggling with in their relationship 706 00:52:44.720 --> 00:52:53.680 and therefore it's easier for them to outsource an issue to someone outside the marriage. 707 00:52:54.880 --> 00:53:00.320 So I'm sorry that that's what it sounds like may have happened. So it doesn't have anything 708 00:53:00.320 --> 00:53:05.680 to do with you. I'm really sorry. Did I do? Because he said, well, you could have come 709 00:53:05.680 --> 00:53:09.600 and talked to me. I said, I'm not going to come and talk to you. I know you're the one 710 00:53:09.680 --> 00:53:14.720 that wants the truck. You know, there is no reason that you're not going to not sign it. 711 00:53:15.280 --> 00:53:20.080 She's the one that if you, you know, if you didn't have her income, there'd be no way it 712 00:53:20.080 --> 00:53:26.640 would be going through. But, but because of it, I mean, now he's got the truck, he's happy and 713 00:53:27.280 --> 00:53:32.240 love you, mom. You know, so like it didn't work, mom. I got my truck. I mean, that's 714 00:53:33.200 --> 00:53:44.400 the way it came across. Sorry. I will say so. So two things here that as much as we 715 00:53:46.480 --> 00:53:54.880 want to help our help other people, regardless of whether it's a, it's a child or spouse or 716 00:53:54.880 --> 00:54:00.480 someone else, you know, we're like, oh my word, I could just see the pain coming or the potential 717 00:54:00.480 --> 00:54:09.440 for pain or whatever. Well, we learned so much through it that it can, someone's life can be 718 00:54:09.440 --> 00:54:15.280 tremendously enriched by making a particular decision that they could have been saved from. 719 00:54:16.480 --> 00:54:21.760 And, and I'm not saying that, oh, well, you know, you should just like embrace pain and whatever. 720 00:54:21.760 --> 00:54:28.240 My, my point is that, so there is a redemption aspect. It's not just all gone to, to hell and 721 00:54:28.240 --> 00:54:34.960 a handbasket. The other thing is that, and then God loves them more than we do. And the other 722 00:54:34.960 --> 00:54:40.080 thing is that we, as we, as a person, regardless of our relationship with them, regardless of if 723 00:54:40.080 --> 00:54:48.640 it's a parent, child, or spouse or friend or whatever it is, there is an aspect in which we 724 00:54:48.640 --> 00:54:54.560 can what it is that we can give someone is the same thing that I talk about when I talk about 725 00:54:54.560 --> 00:54:59.840 talking to someone in the spirit. It's honoring and respecting. 726 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:07.480 them as their own person to them to provide them a safe place to be themselves, even if 727 00:55:07.480 --> 00:55:12.280 who it is that they are and what it is that they're expressing is bringing a tremendous 728 00:55:12.280 --> 00:55:19.880 is very unwise, because what they end up doing is by providing someone else a safe place 729 00:55:19.880 --> 00:55:22.720 to make mistakes that they have a right to make. 730 00:55:22.720 --> 00:55:25.600 So we're not talking about mistakes that they don't have a right and authority to make and 731 00:55:25.600 --> 00:55:27.200 providing a safe place for that. 732 00:55:27.200 --> 00:55:30.760 We're talking about ones that they have a right to make in their own lives, you know, 733 00:55:30.760 --> 00:55:38.080 and providing a safe space for that I have noticed that people learn lessons faster than 734 00:55:38.080 --> 00:55:45.880 they do if they have if they make unwise decisions, and they have they it gets countered, and 735 00:55:45.880 --> 00:55:52.560 they get because they feel personally attacked, which makes them rise up and try to defend 736 00:55:52.560 --> 00:56:00.560 or protect themselves, and it entrenches the the repetitive unwise decisions. 737 00:56:00.560 --> 00:56:08.720 So they end up making unwise decisions, fewer bath, and then in a shorter amount of time, 738 00:56:08.720 --> 00:56:14.560 the more of a safe place that they're provided to make mistakes without feeling condemned 739 00:56:14.560 --> 00:56:17.520 by someone who disagreed with them. 740 00:56:17.520 --> 00:56:23.760 I know that by experience by how by working with people, personally and professionally, 741 00:56:23.760 --> 00:56:26.720 where they were making certain decisions. 742 00:56:26.720 --> 00:56:33.120 And I either didn't say anything, because they weren't asking my opinion, or, or whatever 743 00:56:33.120 --> 00:56:36.760 the situation was, or maybe they did ask my opinion, it was my place to say, say, for 744 00:56:36.760 --> 00:56:41.880 instance, even in a person professional situation, where my job was on the line, if they messed 745 00:56:41.880 --> 00:56:49.640 up, I would provide them a certain as a safe place to make mistakes. 746 00:56:49.640 --> 00:56:55.160 And then, and by the way, these were really, really serious situations, very serious, like 747 00:56:55.160 --> 00:57:01.000 my job was being like my like the project and their decisions were being reported to 748 00:57:01.000 --> 00:57:06.920 like the owner of FedEx, who owned a company, you know, worldwide company that owned half 749 00:57:06.920 --> 00:57:07.920 a million employees. 750 00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:12.880 So we're talking about really, really, really big risks here, my whole job is online, everything 751 00:57:12.880 --> 00:57:16.560 like in very big ways, many, many, many, many, many, like throughout the throughout the day 752 00:57:16.560 --> 00:57:22.000 with all of these different people, and like trying to figure out, okay, how do I provide 753 00:57:22.000 --> 00:57:26.000 a safe place, and I learned that they learned from their mistakes faster. 754 00:57:26.560 --> 00:57:29.360 Like, if they made mistakes, and I suffered for it. 755 00:57:31.040 --> 00:57:36.480 They, they made them, they, they made them made fewer, and then they started gaining 756 00:57:36.480 --> 00:57:41.840 wisdom faster than if I battled them trying to convince them that that was unwise, that 757 00:57:41.840 --> 00:57:45.920 what it is that they were doing and watch because they start taking on personally, and 758 00:57:45.920 --> 00:57:52.160 would and would become further entrenched in making unwise decisions, because they weren't 759 00:57:52.160 --> 00:57:58.320 there, they're, they're training of learning how to make wise decisions was being delayed. 760 00:57:59.760 --> 00:58:03.200 So it took a longer to make it, it's not, it's not easy. 761 00:58:03.200 --> 00:58:07.680 And it is hard to be on that outside where you're suffering for watching what it is that 762 00:58:07.680 --> 00:58:11.360 they're doing, that they're doing to themselves, and watching them suffer. 763 00:58:12.160 --> 00:58:13.920 But they do learn it faster. 764 00:58:13.920 --> 00:58:19.200 So, and that, again, I'm talking about situations in which is somebody else's right to make a 765 00:58:19.200 --> 00:58:24.880 decision and to make a mistake, as opposed to making a mistake when it's when it's not 766 00:58:24.880 --> 00:58:28.480 their authority to make a mistake, and it's not their authority to make their own decision. 767 00:58:28.480 --> 00:58:32.560 I'm talking about when it when it's very obvious that it's their authority to make their decision, 768 00:58:32.560 --> 00:58:33.600 how do we handle that? 769 00:58:34.320 --> 00:58:38.720 I've noticed that the pain is still there, but they do learn faster. 770 00:58:39.440 --> 00:58:42.960 And they, and they, they feel safer with you to come for your advice. 771 00:58:43.920 --> 00:58:44.400 Faster. 772 00:58:45.200 --> 00:58:46.160 It's wild. 773 00:58:46.160 --> 00:58:49.840 I've seen it so many times, not just professionally in personal situations, too. 774 00:58:50.400 --> 00:58:52.640 I've seen lives changed as a result. 775 00:58:53.200 --> 00:58:59.200 So I know it's not an easy answer, but I promise I have experienced it in a very serious situation, 776 00:58:59.200 --> 00:59:01.440 personally and professionally, very serious ones. 777 00:59:02.080 --> 00:59:02.640 Oh, my word. 778 00:59:03.600 --> 00:59:09.280 Very scary ones, like even in the professional ones, like where people were doing physical harm. 779 00:59:10.560 --> 00:59:13.120 So made, made a big difference. 780 00:59:13.120 --> 00:59:20.000 So by being safe place, I ended up being the person that they would come to, to be rescued, 781 00:59:20.000 --> 00:59:22.480 and not rescued so that they can repeat the behavior. 782 00:59:22.480 --> 00:59:25.920 We're talking rescue to finally get finally out of it. 783 00:59:26.880 --> 00:59:32.960 So anyway, but that to you, that was just, those were just my thoughts. 784 00:59:34.800 --> 00:59:35.440 Not fun. 785 00:59:37.040 --> 00:59:37.680 Thanks, thanks. 786 00:59:38.960 --> 00:59:40.160 I know, sorry. 787 00:59:40.800 --> 00:59:41.680 I know it's not fun. 788 00:59:43.680 --> 00:59:47.760 So does anyone have anything before we jump off? 789 00:59:52.240 --> 00:59:53.680 Is everyone good? 790 00:59:53.680 --> 00:59:56.240 I don't think I've missed any chat. 791 00:59:56.240 --> 00:59:59.920 No, I haven't. 792 01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.240 Okay, well, it's good to see everybody. 793 01:00:05.400 --> 01:00:17.600 Bye. Hope y'all have a good week and I should see you next week. So I don't think I don't have a rest intensive that I'm aware or rest intensive a rest and interest resting 794 01:00:18.560 --> 01:00:27.920 Next week. So unless something random and surprising comes up. So everything should all be good. So I will see y'all next Thursday, then 795 01:00:30.000 --> 01:00:32.400 All right. Bye.