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Okay.

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Hey, Alana.

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Hey.

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Hi.

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How's it going?

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How are you?

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Good.

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Oh, your cough's still kicking around, eh?

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Yeah.

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But it.

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Goodness.

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But my mom reminded me that this is normal for when I get allergies,

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that the cough has tended to stay around for a while,

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like as in weeks.

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So anyway, but it's getting better. It absolutely is.

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Okay.

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There we go.

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That's better.

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Yeah.

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I think I just need more air.

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Yes.

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Sometimes that happens.

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I was watching, I watched the first.

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Like the first night of the conference.

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Yeah.

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It was good. I was, so I was trying to do the exercise and.

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I was like, okay, so this is what I did.

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And I tried to mix that into this and I found.

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The whole idea around the theta waves that we were talking about.

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And I found this, like, it's called like pure.

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Pure theta waves meditation. And it's literally like.

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Like that's what it sounds like.

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So I tried to mix that in.

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And it was so tricky. I found like I kept.

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It's like, I don't know what it is, but it's like my,

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I'm in so much stress.

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Like my body's so stressed.

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And my fibromyalgia is acting up and like,

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I'm in still in that place where I don't want to go to work.

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It just feels very.

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I don't like the word overwhelming,

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but like a lot of pressure from different directions,

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a lot going on from different directions. And I.

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I'm just trying to figure out how to navigate it.

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Cause it has been really.

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Interesting.

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And I just don't know how to get my body to release.

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Like, I feel like my mind is more at rest.

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But my body's hasn't caught up with my mind yet. It's weird.

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Like, does that make any sense?

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So the thing with.

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Obviously dropping down into theta,

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obviously is very helpful because that's what is going to drop your

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brainwaves down and then your body can be at rest.

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And your body will stop being.

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As much in fight or flight. So if.

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So remember that.

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I'm trying to think.

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Sorry, but.

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A lot of things going on in my head.

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Let's talk about you.

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Let's talk about what's going on with you.

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I love hearing what's going on with you.

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Let's talk about what's going on in your pretty little head.

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Oh, no, no.

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I love hearing what's going on with you.

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Let's talk about what's going on in your pretty little head.

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Oh, no, no.

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What I meant was like a lot of things that you were talking about.

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It was like, okay.

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Yes. And there's this and this I'm sorry.

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I didn't mean to.

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Say imply that I was ignoring what you were saying that I was thinking

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of other things. No, it was all of these other things you're talking

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about.

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Well, I can come at it from this direction at this direction.

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And.

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But first of all, so let me back all the way up.

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Okay.

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And that is by the way. Hey, Natalie. Hey, Sylvia.

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Hello.

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And by the way, Natalie, you came in originally as Brandy.

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It must be a channel that y'all are on.

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Where it has her name, but now switched over to your name.

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That happened with somebody else that I was with.

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Where.

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They shared somebody.

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They did a lot of zoom meetings with someone.

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I didn't invite them to the meeting.

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It was.

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Somebody else.

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To me that they.

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Like I said, did I work with.

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But anyway,

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so going all the way back to what you're talking about,

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about doing the exercise where you present yourself to the Lord.

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That one.

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Is not a actual.

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It's not.

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It's not really something that we're doing, but.

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That is presenting ourselves to the.

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To our lover.

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Very intimately.

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And what it is that I've described.

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Is.

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Is how Jesus came to me.

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I was sitting on my bed.

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And maybe he just came and did that in,

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but I thought that I had come up with the idea,

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but whatever it is, that's how he did it.

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And then I talked about, you know,

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how to look into his eyes and whatever.

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And I kind of walk people through that.

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However, that is just to give people a place to start

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if it's helpful.

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If they're like, I have no idea what you're talking about,

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Ashley, how do I do this thing?

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It kind of gives them a place to start.

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However, we have to allow the Lord to come to us

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the way that he wants to.

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So this isn't an exercise of it has to be done this way

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because not everyone's gonna see Jesus like that

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because it's important that we allow God to love us

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the way that he wants to and to come to us

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the way that he wants to come to us.

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And so other people are going to experience it

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very differently.

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It may not be coming and sitting on the side of the bed

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or just coming and looking at his eyes and all of that.

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That works for some people,

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but it doesn't work for everybody.

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Why?

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Because we're putting ourselves in an intimate position

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with our Lord, meaning that he gets to choose,

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he gets to choose how he wants to interact with us.

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So just take what my experience and what I've done,

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because it's not the only way in which I've experienced

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Jesus and been, you know, intimate with him is,

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but just, so just take that as a place

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from what you could start.

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And if you're already way past that,

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which you probably are, then,

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because that's like for beginner beginners,

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like, I don't know what we're doing, Ashley.

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It, you know, being past that,

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you just put yourself in a position and want the Lord

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and desire and intend for the Lord to come to you

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and then say how he does it.

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And anyways, that is extremely important.

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So it's not really an exercise that we need to worry about,

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you know, am I in Theta and all of that?

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If you, if we're in a lot of resistance,

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again, in our mind and in our body,

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if it's that in fight or flight,

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then it can help by us shifting down into Theta

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because we're creating less physical resistance

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in the physical world that can,

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we can use as a tool to help us get over it,

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to help us push past the resistance

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and then be able to make ourselves

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to then go to another level,

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to be able to choose to be vulnerable to the Lord

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in a deeper way.

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So that's the benefit of Theta.

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We don't have to be in any of those brainwave,

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any specific brainwave in order to be intimate with the Lord

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and experience the Lord, hear the Lord and all of that.

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But if we're struggling to,

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then we can use dropping down into Theta

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and then presenting ourselves before the Lord.

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So you'll do that first

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and then present yourself to the Lord

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because you drop yourself out of that,

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make your, drop yourself,

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dropping yourself down into Theta

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where there's less resistance,

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you're more susceptible and to suggestion, et cetera.

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now that you've dropped all your resistance

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and it might take a while to drop down into Theta,

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you're dropping your brain waves,

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but it, but when you do that,

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your body should respond

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and it shouldn't be your flight or fight or flight anymore.

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If it's in fight or flight, we're not in Theta

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because Theta allows our body to fondly rest.

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our body gets active again

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because one or the other is always needing to be active

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to try to protect ourselves.

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So I'm just telling you,

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you know what, you know,

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it's probably happening in the body.

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And so you would just do some other,

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I don't know, there's other tools

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that you can use to help your body get out of fight

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or flight, which thinks,

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cause it thinks it's not safe.

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And one of the things that you can do

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is you can do breathing.

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I explained breathing in there in session four

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because Linda Ordway asked that question in the session.

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You can hear her asking the question

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and, or maybe you can't hear it, but I repeat it.

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That if breathing, breathing gets in my way,

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it does not help me.

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I have, I struggle connecting with it

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because it actually causes me more stress.

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And I'm thinking, okay, I've got to breathe just right.

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So I'm learning, I'm learning how to actually use my breath

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to help me slow, to help me slow my body down.

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But if breath might be something that would be useful

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for you and you, there's different things you could do.

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You could do the box breathing, you know,

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out for four, hold for four, in for four, hold for four.

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cause you stop at the top and the bottom.

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I like cadences like that.

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The other thing that you can do

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is you breathe in really quickly

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and you breathe out very, very, very slowly.

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Cause again, the focus is always on release.

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Even when, even when people teach breath work.

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They always focus on the release, not on the taking in.

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Then another thing that you can do,

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and this is honestly my personal favorite,

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is I really like the one where you breathe in really fast

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and you breathe out really, really slow.

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But my personal favorite is something

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that has a very simple cadence to it,

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which is breathe in really, really slow,

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breathe out really, really slow.

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And by really, we're talking like on a six count

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or an eight count, something like that.

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And just really, really slow.

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That's helpful to me.

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And that will begin to force your mind

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and your body to start slowing down

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and stop being in fight or flight.

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Part of it is also a choice that we make even there

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of release, going through those practical shifting tools

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and saying things like, you know,

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the no shame, no condemnation, or just stop.

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What are you doing?

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Just stop.

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And you actually have to choose to let go.

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Choose that whatever it is you're holding on to, to let go.

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Another thing that I used to do,

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I used to literally go through every body part.

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Where did I start?

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Let's just say that I used to start with the top of my head.

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I know this might sound really weird.

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I used to start with the top of my head

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and relax the top of my head without touching it.

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I would just think about the muscles up there

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and then relax.

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And part of it, you know,

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it was like lifting of the eyebrows.

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You know, we don't realize how tense we are

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that we've lifted our ears.

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And so we've become more aware.

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And then we move it down to our eyebrows,

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move down to our ears, move down to your tongue.

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And the tongue sometimes will be on the top of your mouth

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and relax that in the mouth.

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You relax your jaw and you relax the muscles in your neck

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and you just move down.

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You move down.

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My favorite is when I finally get to my legs

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and I realize how tense that that's where a lot of times

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I personally hold a lot of stress is in my legs.

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And I go through every single body part and relax.

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Then I do breath work.

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Then I move into theta.

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But focus on the body first.

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You always want to go with the lowest strata first,

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spirit, soul, and body.

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If you're struggling here, you can't,

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if you cut it off here,

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well, sometimes the body doesn't get the idea.

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So then what do you do?

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Like, cause I feel like when I'm breathing,

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when I'm in theta, like when I listened to the theta,

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wah, wah, wah, like it was, I was able to relax my body,

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but as soon as I turned it off, the stress came back.

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And I feel like because my mind is relaxed enough,

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like I'm not focused,

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like I've literally hardly done any work because I'm like,

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I just can't at the moment.

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Like I can, but I can't.

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Like, it's just like my whole system needs a break.

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So I have been detoxing, but I don't know what I'm detoxing.

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And because my mind is at peace,

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I think that's a good place to be for the most part.

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Like it's at peace, but my body is just,

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like I even looked up the alkaline diet because I'm like,

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maybe my body's too acidic.

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Like, I don't know what's going on in it,

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but my whole physicality is just literally stuck

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in fight or flight.

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And I feel like there's a pressure valve

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that I need to release.

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And stuff's been coming up for me actually a little bit.

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Like, I don't know if I ever told you this,

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but when I was a baby,

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did I ever tell you what happened to me when I was a baby?

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Okay.

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When I was a baby, my dad told me this about 15 years ago.

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I had no idea.

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When I was like two and three years old,

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I was really violent and I never knew why.

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And then I found out that when I was a baby and I would cry,

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my mom would get frustrated and hit me.

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And it's kind of like shaken baby,

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except she would just hit me and get frustrated with me.

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And she had a lot of,

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she has a lot of mental health issues even still,

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but back then it was way worse.

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And she was stressed and depressed and all that stuff,

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but she would get angry.

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And I think part of me wonders if there's like a root there

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of me being this helpless baby,

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crying out and getting hurt instead of getting cared for.

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And I think she cared for me too.

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But in some moments she was hitting me.

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So it's very disorganized, right?

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And I wonder sometimes if I'm still holding that in my body

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and if I am, how do I get rid of it?

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Like something that's so deeply rooted.

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Yeah, well, so that's extremely interesting.

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And that makes complete sense

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that the body's still in that water flight

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because when it rested, it wasn't safe.

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When it rested, it wasn't.

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And you know that Linda Ordway has talked about that

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in the group as well,

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has talked about the fact that the Lord revealed to her,

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and she's mentioned it twice.

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She's mentioned-

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in these Q and A's and she mentioned it in a post recently

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that the Lord told her that when she was at rest,

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she was molested.

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Every time she rested, that's when it would happen.

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And so she just learned to stay busy.

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But that was kind of like a psychological thing.

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So it's the same thing with you,

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only it happened just like her,

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if it did happen in the physical body,

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what psychological belief do we start to hang on to?

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And so if the body thinks no,

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I'm actually unsafe when I'm at rest

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and therefore I always have to be on guard.

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I always have to be ready.

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So anyway, that God can still heal all of that

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at a very deep root level.

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And by letting us know,

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us agreeing with him that we're actually safe.

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And then that moves down into the soul

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and down into the body.

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Now, as far as actually getting your body to the point

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where it's relaxed enough to,

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that it doesn't have to be completely relaxed

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in order for you to still, you know,

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connect with the Lord and meet with him and all of that.

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It's, and he can't, and it's his love

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that always breaks down our walls,

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that breaks down our barriers.

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And it, because remember that we're one with him

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in spirit already, and that's where we're,

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that's the seed of our identity.

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That's where we're one with him.

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We're just bringing that,

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we're bringing our soul into agreement with it

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and then our body into agreement with it,

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but it has to come down.

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And so we do have to come down through the soul first,

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so to speak, and our soul has to actually believe it.

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And that's how we can overcome.

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Even when people go under hypnosis

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and they try in order to try to heal from traumas,

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because that's some of the method

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that people have used to overcome traumas.

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What it is, is they're going down into theta

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and they're retelling themselves a different story.

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And not that, oh, well, such and such didn't happen,

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but they re-explain to themselves,

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okay, look, you know, I'm now an adult and I am here

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and that child, I can now,

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and they'll sometimes like talk to like their younger self

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and whatever and give them as the adults

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that they didn't have,

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come back as the adult that that child needed

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and then talk to themselves and heal that way.

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But, and that's done in theta,

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but understand that what it is that they're doing

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when they do something like that as well,

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is they are changing their belief.

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And so that's ultimately what we have to do.

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It's a lot more work to do it that way.

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And it doesn't actually heal our belief about God.

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It can heal our belief about that circumstance,

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but that circumstance was a symptom.

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Ooh, sorry, just a sec.

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There we go.

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And anyway, so that's ultimately what the body is doing

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is it subconsciously believes something

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that the soul has given an instruction for.

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So the soul has to give it new instruction,

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whether, you know, through the method that I talked about,

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which is just like one method that people have used,

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or which by the way,

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when they're in the hypnosis that I'm talking about,

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they are fully aware of themselves.

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It's not like they're in some weird like trance

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and someone's talking to them and telling them what to do.

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That's not what I'm talking about.

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I'm talking about a different type of thing.

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I'm just talking about the fact that their brainwaves

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are so slow and they're able to be in less resistance.

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And then they just,

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they train themselves to believe something different.

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So my whole point is that whether, regardless,

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even the non-believers understand

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that use methods like that,

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that even non-believers understand

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it's ultimately the belief that are,

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it's ultimately our soul's belief

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that is causing our body to respond like that.

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So anyway, that the Lord in his love

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and committed in continuing to present yourself to him

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and choosing him that can overcome all of this other,

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that can overcome all of these symptoms.

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Again, that's ultimately what's going on.

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I just gave you a lot there.

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Is that helpful?

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Well, I think I know all of that,

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but I still like I'm coming into an agreement with God.

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I'm believing him.

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I'm choosing him, all of that.

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And my body's still,

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it's like this weird phenomenon.

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That's why I looked into the alkaline diet.

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Cause I thought, is it my food?

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Is it that I'm doing something to my body

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that's causing it to be really inflamed?

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Cause it could be something like that.

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But it's, I think there's something that I just can't access, even when I choose God,

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it's like my body still won't relax unless I'm actually in a place lying down, very peaceful,

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listening to whatever, calming music, closing my eyes.

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But then the rest of the day, I'm just going about my day in my body's totally in fight

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or flight.

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And it's actually been really hard to function because it's so much in fight or flight that

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I'm tired.

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Yeah.

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So there's different things you can do if you, you can choose a tool that you can use.

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God gives all kinds of tools.

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There's things like your diet, there's things like supplements, there's things that, you

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know, essential oils, oils, there's prescriptive medications, there's all kinds of things that

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you can do in order to help.

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You know, if, if, if, you know, while we're learning, while, you know, the body is, is

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learning to come more and more in alignment with what it is that you're choosing there,

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you can absolutely use all of those things, just, you know, declare, Hey, the Lord gave

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me good gifts.

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Lord, I'm, thank you so much.

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I'm receiving this as your good gift to me.

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I really appreciate it.

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And you can use that as far.

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And then as far as like anything else that I was, that I was talking about, that's just

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something that you can, that, that might just happen over time things.

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It's not like that, like a, a switch just flips over an entire area of our lives by

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shifting interest in a moment, because then we're triggered again by a deeper aspect of

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that same lie that we're still believe that we still believe we're triggered again later,

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or maybe it's just not, or that what it is that we are believing about the Lord isn't

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getting deep enough to affect that particular part that's in such accusation that the body

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is reacting in fight or flight.

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And so you just keep, keep at it.

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These things won't just, it don't always just flip in a moment and over and overnight that

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you just, you, but so that's part of the, it's fascinating that part of the resistance

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that we have in the Lord against the Lord is that manifests itself is what I'm saying.

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Part of how the resistance manifests itself is the fact that we allow things like this

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to bother us that, that fight, this shouldn't be.

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So that situation of like, it shouldn't be like this, that is actually holding on to

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the situation and causing it to continue to stay.

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And we can't let go of it if we're thinking it shouldn't be like this.

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So that's when in the practical shifting tools, I recommend going to the no judgment and just

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releasing ownership and situation like, okay, this is this, I'm not saying that it shouldn't

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be this way.

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I'm not saying that it should be this way it is.

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And then we can, then it helps us shift interest because there's no condemnation for it.

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We're not accusing God for allowing it to continue to happen.

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We're not being mad at our body because it's not obeying us because it's not coming into

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alignment with the rest of us and what it is we want to do, you know, there's all of

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this resistance.

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And so, so the body continues to feel very unsafe because we are fighting it.

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We are its enemy and we don't realize it, but that's what, what it is.

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It's kind of like a parent.

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It's kind of like a child with a parent who is trying very hard to help their child, but

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they're so forceful about it.

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Don't you know that you're loved and don't you understand that dah, dah, dah.

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And the child's like, I'm really feeling very unsafe.

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Like the way that they're doing it makes them feel very unsafe.

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So even stuff like that are other additional are measures in which in those areas, we can,

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we can shift into rest.

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It's whenever something isn't going the way we want, we release that, we release that

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not going the way that we want.

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And that actually begins to break the stronghold.

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That's helping to hold it on, hold it out, get to continue to hold on.

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Now it doesn't mean that as soon as we release ownership of it, that your body's going to

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stop feeling that way.

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It's a continual thing that we have to have to have to teach it and present to it.

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Just like it wasn't just a one-time thing that, that, that caused that belief to be

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held on to.

514
00:24:30.680 --> 00:24:32.720
It happened multiple times.

515
00:24:32.720 --> 00:24:36.920
And it was probably not just that it was probably other things that, that your body received

516
00:24:36.920 --> 00:24:40.280
that message from as well thinking, Oh, this is just like this.

517
00:24:40.280 --> 00:24:44.640
So therefore, wow, it must be really true because I'm experiencing it all over the place.

518
00:24:44.640 --> 00:24:49.280
So it's the same thing in the unlearning doesn't mean that it takes as long to unlearn as we

519
00:24:49.280 --> 00:24:50.680
did to learn it.

520
00:24:50.680 --> 00:24:58.400
My point is just simply the fact that it won't, won't always just change the flip of the switch.

521
00:24:58.400 --> 00:25:00.000
And it's very important for us to release.

522
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:06.400
no condemnation to release judgment of the situation and all of that. That will, honestly,

523
00:25:06.400 --> 00:25:12.160
I can tell you from personal experience, really does help. When I couldn't shift into rest in a

524
00:25:12.160 --> 00:25:17.200
particular area, I stopped condemning myself for not shifting and I stopped requiring that it be

525
00:25:17.200 --> 00:25:24.000
different. In other words, the requirement meaning like holding God accountable and that fear that,

526
00:25:24.000 --> 00:25:28.240
oh my word, it's going to stay like this and why can't I get out of it? All of that holds on to it

527
00:25:28.960 --> 00:25:32.880
and we don't realize it. We have to end up doing the opposite of what it is that you think that

528
00:25:32.880 --> 00:25:40.560
you'd have to do to get past it. I know it's not fun. I'm very sorry. I really am. I am telling

529
00:25:40.560 --> 00:25:45.600
you though the honest to goodness truth about it from personal experience about what really does

530
00:25:45.600 --> 00:25:50.320
work. In the meantime, you're welcome to use all kinds of tools that the Lord gives us.

531
00:25:53.600 --> 00:25:55.280
Thank you. You're welcome.

532
00:25:55.280 --> 00:26:03.200
Hey, Ashley. Yeah. Can I add to that? Because I feel like it's like all in the similar

533
00:26:03.200 --> 00:26:09.680
conversation. Because one of the things I still struggle with is like where, and I'm like

534
00:26:09.680 --> 00:26:16.080
wondering maybe I just need to like make myself do these acts, you know, maybe, yeah, the actions

535
00:26:16.080 --> 00:26:20.640
that you're talking about earlier to like get myself to calm down because I still notice in

536
00:26:20.640 --> 00:26:26.400
the evening, sometimes it'll be, I'll be asleep and then I'll wake up with like so much anxiety

537
00:26:27.120 --> 00:26:32.320
and early in the morning before it's time to wake up like a couple hours early. It's like my mind

538
00:26:32.320 --> 00:26:39.760
starts waking up sooner than I'm ready to. And it's like the anxiousness gets so bad and I don't

539
00:26:39.760 --> 00:26:44.160
know. So like I'm fighting it because I'm like, I'm not ready to get up yet. And I'm don't want

540
00:26:44.160 --> 00:26:48.720
to be thinking about it. So I'm like fighting myself for like two hours, like, you know,

541
00:26:48.720 --> 00:26:52.720
whether it's in the middle of the night or first thing in the morning before it's even time. And so

542
00:26:52.720 --> 00:26:59.360
like, I don't know why that comes on out of nowhere. And then like, should I just like force

543
00:26:59.360 --> 00:27:06.240
myself to get up and then so that I can relax myself better. Like, I don't know what to do to

544
00:27:06.240 --> 00:27:10.800
make that go. I feel like that's when the enemy knows he can attack me. I don't know. Yeah.

545
00:27:10.800 --> 00:27:15.200
Well, how do you feel when you normally wake up? I mean, like when you wake up at like six or seven

546
00:27:15.200 --> 00:27:21.440
or whenever you wake up, like the whole day without the anxiety. No, like regardless,

547
00:27:21.440 --> 00:27:27.920
like just like I don't know, like even on the days that, that you ignore that you have anxiety,

548
00:27:27.920 --> 00:27:32.720
you know, just whatever, when you wake up, cause you said that when you wake up before you're

549
00:27:32.720 --> 00:27:38.080
ready to get up, you're highly anxious. But what about like when you wake up at your normal time,

550
00:27:38.080 --> 00:27:42.320
even if you've been anxious, regardless, how do you feel when you wake up in the morning and you

551
00:27:42.320 --> 00:27:49.440
are supposed to get out of bed? It is time to get out. Yeah. I, I think I feel, I feel like

552
00:27:49.440 --> 00:27:54.320
better, I guess. Like I feel, I feel like it's just a normal day. I'm going and I start my routine

553
00:27:54.320 --> 00:28:00.480
and not much of that. Like I wake up frustrated though. When I know I've been fighting myself for

554
00:28:00.480 --> 00:28:07.600
like that night is like, I don't know if that answers your question or not, but do you wake up

555
00:28:07.600 --> 00:28:19.520
feeling anxious is what I'm asking. Like, like you don't. Okay. Do you think that it's because

556
00:28:19.520 --> 00:28:23.920
you have a routine and you know what to do that you're not feeling anxious? And if you didn't

557
00:28:23.920 --> 00:28:29.760
have that, well, then you would, or, or not. I'm just, I'm just asking deeper questions.

558
00:28:30.720 --> 00:28:38.000
No, I think sometimes no. Cause I don't feel like the, I don't stick to, I mean,

559
00:28:38.000 --> 00:28:43.040
if my routine is off, you mean like, well, that make me, I think whether I have my routine or

560
00:28:43.040 --> 00:28:46.960
keep it or whatever, like, doesn't matter. I don't know. I feel like I just get all these

561
00:28:46.960 --> 00:28:52.400
thoughts swirl in my mind, like wakes me up and it can be about money. It can be about business.

562
00:28:52.400 --> 00:28:58.560
It can be a conversation I had. And it was like, my, my mind will wake up to it. And then it will

563
00:28:58.560 --> 00:29:05.920
be like on repeat. And it's like my whole body just goes into this, like awful feeling.

564
00:29:06.800 --> 00:29:12.960
Yeah. So when we're asleep at night, our, our mind is processing all of these things

565
00:29:13.520 --> 00:29:18.640
that, that we have gone throughout the day and that we've done throughout the day or what it,

566
00:29:18.640 --> 00:29:24.080
or, you know, that we have and that we have on our minds just in general during that phase of life.

567
00:29:24.800 --> 00:29:32.080
And it is trying to sort through and process all of those things. And that's why they say

568
00:29:32.080 --> 00:29:37.040
it's so important for us to go into our run cycle because it's kind of like a computer program.

569
00:29:37.040 --> 00:29:42.480
And the fact that it allows everything to, to be processed all of these, all of these things,

570
00:29:42.480 --> 00:29:46.640
like, do you remember when we used to defrag computers? Do you remember that? So kind of

571
00:29:46.640 --> 00:29:52.640
like, it's like defragging is trying to take all of this space it's created. And then it's trying

572
00:29:52.640 --> 00:29:59.840
to organize everything and process it. And so it sounds like your brain is acting in self-preservation.

573
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.800
and thinking that there's something to worry about because that's what, that's what the soul

574
00:30:04.800 --> 00:30:12.800
is believing. And so it, it, when it comes to that, it wakes up. Um, so that's a possibility.

575
00:30:12.800 --> 00:30:21.440
The other possibility, excuse me, is, um, it's just the fact that, well, I say it's another

576
00:30:21.440 --> 00:30:26.080
possibility, I suppose it's just really kind of maybe the same thing, but just that you have all

577
00:30:26.080 --> 00:30:32.400
of this stuff that's, that's being, um, that's being worried about and subconsciously, subconsciously

578
00:30:32.400 --> 00:30:38.080
it's, you're still, you're still worried and you're still anxious. And then, and then at night,

579
00:30:38.080 --> 00:30:43.360
those things just are, I don't know, just not, I don't want to say coming to light,

580
00:30:43.360 --> 00:30:50.320
but they're just being focused on or, or whatever. So what I would recommend, um, is, um, obviously,

581
00:30:50.400 --> 00:30:57.280
you know, over time, those things will lessen as you in real life, give that conversation and

582
00:30:57.280 --> 00:31:01.120
money and business or whatever, the different aspects of money and the different aspects of

583
00:31:01.120 --> 00:31:05.360
business or whatever it is you're concerned about is you give them over more and more.

584
00:31:06.080 --> 00:31:10.880
To releasing them, releasing the hold, releasing the result up to the Lord,

585
00:31:10.880 --> 00:31:14.560
releasing yourself in the burden and the responsibility of having to create a result

586
00:31:14.560 --> 00:31:20.400
in those areas more and more, that thing will die down. But in the meantime, what you can do

587
00:31:21.040 --> 00:31:25.280
is, um, what I would recommend is talking to your soul and your body before you go to bed

588
00:31:26.000 --> 00:31:31.120
and sending it very clear intention. In other words, deciding for yourself that this is what

589
00:31:31.120 --> 00:31:37.840
you want for you, that, that there's nothing that, um, it needs to figure out while you're asleep.

590
00:31:38.800 --> 00:31:43.520
It doesn't need to, um, you know, you can figure it out when you wake up,

591
00:31:44.080 --> 00:31:47.520
you know, this time, these eight hours or 10 hours or however long it is,

592
00:31:47.520 --> 00:31:53.600
these are for sleep. And we are going to, um, and you're going to do only that task

593
00:31:53.600 --> 00:31:56.640
during this time. And of course it's doing all kinds of other things. It's like

594
00:31:56.640 --> 00:32:01.120
doing all of this stuff, but it doesn't need to solve problems. It doesn't need to be worried.

595
00:32:01.200 --> 00:32:07.920
It doesn't need to be, you know, whatever. And, um, and basically kind of like giving it as,

596
00:32:07.920 --> 00:32:13.360
as a King, you know, talking to it and giving it instruction of what it is that you want it to do.

597
00:32:13.360 --> 00:32:17.280
So relieving of it, this burden and this responsibility that it feels that it has

598
00:32:17.280 --> 00:32:21.920
to carry throughout the day, letting it know you don't hold it responsible for it at night.

599
00:32:21.920 --> 00:32:30.480
So it can go home. It can leave its work at work and go home and not pick its workout back up until

600
00:32:30.480 --> 00:32:38.000
it gets back into the office, basically. And so just letting it go because the boss is telling

601
00:32:38.000 --> 00:32:42.560
it that it's actually released to do. So the boss is saying, this is what I want from you.

602
00:32:42.560 --> 00:32:47.120
You don't have to do anything. Um, instead, as opposed to a command, like, this is what I want

603
00:32:47.120 --> 00:32:53.040
you to do, but just really like, Hey, look, I don't, um, you know, I don't care how much or

604
00:32:53.040 --> 00:32:58.800
how little you've gotten done on this project. What you don't have to do anything else between

605
00:32:58.800 --> 00:33:03.760
now and such and such a time. So you can just let it go, go home and watch Netflix, go to,

606
00:33:03.760 --> 00:33:08.320
you know, just do whatever, you know, you just, just tell it. Um, I'm being funny about a real

607
00:33:08.320 --> 00:33:12.880
boss, but, but just, but, you know, just, just tell it, Hey, look, you're, you're off the hook.

608
00:33:12.880 --> 00:33:17.920
Go play, go, go, go do what you want to do. You've been taking care of me all day. You've

609
00:33:17.920 --> 00:33:22.320
been so worried, you know, you've been trying to be, to be there and make sure that everything

610
00:33:22.320 --> 00:33:29.600
is taken care of. Go, go play. This is your time. I don't need you to do anything or solve

611
00:33:29.600 --> 00:33:35.040
anything for me right now. And so give it freedom, give it play time, relief, relief,

612
00:33:35.040 --> 00:33:38.800
responsibility, as opposed to telling it to do something. Hey, look, you don't have to do this

613
00:33:38.800 --> 00:33:44.880
anymore. You know, let it go and hand it, hand it off and let, let's set it down or, you know,

614
00:33:44.880 --> 00:33:50.080
whatever helps. Um, so that's what I would recommend doing. And, and no, it may not happen

615
00:33:50.080 --> 00:33:55.600
the first night. It might very well, it's most likely. Well, but you just continue to tell

616
00:33:55.600 --> 00:34:00.560
yourself that. And don't just tell yourself that hoping it'll happen. Cause remember the very last

617
00:34:00.560 --> 00:34:04.320
session that we were talking about at, um, or it's the second to last one that we were talking

618
00:34:04.320 --> 00:34:10.080
about at the conference about intention. The power is in the intention that you expect it to happen.

619
00:34:10.080 --> 00:34:14.880
Not that you hope that it'll happen. Not that you're waiting, you know, in eager anticipation

620
00:34:14.880 --> 00:34:20.080
to see the next morning if it'll happen. Nope. You say it, you determine it. You determine that

621
00:34:20.080 --> 00:34:24.719
that is the world you are living in and you can create your own world. It's kind of like this

622
00:34:24.719 --> 00:34:29.280
intention that you put towards it. Like I can create my world. I can determine that this is

623
00:34:29.280 --> 00:34:34.800
true. I can determine that this will be true simply because I want it to be. So it's weird.

624
00:34:34.800 --> 00:34:38.639
It's like, you feel like you're creating your own world and it feels very wrong, but you're just,

625
00:34:38.639 --> 00:34:43.280
you're acting in your position as a son of God, always shift yourself into the Lord. First,

626
00:34:43.280 --> 00:34:48.880
you know, you're sure that you're talking from that position of being in the Lord, not in autonomy

627
00:34:48.880 --> 00:34:54.239
in the Lord. And men speak from that place of this is the will of a son of God. Who's not afraid.

628
00:34:54.239 --> 00:34:58.720
This is what I desire. This is what I intend. And this is what I want. And from that place,

629
00:34:58.720 --> 00:34:59.760
speaking authority.

630
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:11.000
And it will listen. I promise you may not be the first night, most likely will be. But if you keep I've had people tell me that they they did this every night for a week.

631
00:35:11.000 --> 00:35:17.000
And they said that that they said, Actually, I don't know what happened. All I know is that the stress is gone.

632
00:35:17.000 --> 00:35:28.000
I didn't do anything different other than talk to my body and soul every night and now a week later, I'm noticing the difference I didn't the first night, but a week later, I'm not noticing the difference.

633
00:35:28.000 --> 00:35:37.000
Okay, that's what I need to do. Because like everything you said, I'm like, that's what I think I'm like holding on to burden things that I feel like I'm in charge.

634
00:35:37.000 --> 00:35:38.000
Yeah.

635
00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:45.000
You can't let it down, even for the night because something might happen to it. You know, yeah.

636
00:35:45.000 --> 00:35:55.000
We have to let it go. And then we it's important thing is that we let it go in during the day too. But at least you're awake to be able to start doing it again. But in the meantime, you don't want to be woken up by it because that's the time you set aside

637
00:35:55.000 --> 00:36:04.000
for sleep. So you really focus on that. And then during the daytime, you can learn to release this burdens because we're not supposed to ever carry burdens, ever.

638
00:36:04.000 --> 00:36:15.000
So we still do the things but we don't carry the burden of them. We don't carry the responsibility to create a result on them from our actions.

639
00:36:15.000 --> 00:36:16.000
Hey, Ashley.

640
00:36:16.000 --> 00:36:18.000
Yeah.

641
00:36:18.000 --> 00:36:20.000
Can I ask her. Okay.

642
00:36:21.000 --> 00:36:23.000
Yeah.

643
00:36:23.000 --> 00:36:36.000
You're good. Okay. Yeah, go ahead, Laurie. I'm sorry. I'm laughing it at a, at something that Steph sent in the chat. She was saying she needs to do this. I'll even dream about cleaning house or working on a design.

644
00:36:36.000 --> 00:36:40.000
I know we all do.

645
00:36:40.000 --> 00:36:48.000
I can't say I haven't. I can't say that I have dreamed about cleaning in a long time, or have I, I don't know I wonder if I had a dream the other night about cleaning.

646
00:36:48.000 --> 00:37:02.000
But anyway, yeah we all have our areas that we dream of doing it's our dreams can be very telling that can be how you feel in a dream, by the way, can be very indicative of how your soul is the paradigm through which your soul is viewing your life at the

647
00:37:03.000 --> 00:37:16.000
So if you are viewing if you just if you feel like you, you just went through a dream you're like well nothing felt bad. I mean nothing was bad in the dream nothing bad happened, but I just feel negative felt negative throughout the whole thing.

648
00:37:16.000 --> 00:37:23.000
It means that we could, it can mean that you're approaching life right now from this expectation that something bad is always going to happen.

649
00:37:23.000 --> 00:37:30.000
So anyway, our dreams are very very telling that from ourselves. I mean, very telling on ourselves, but go ahead, Laurie.

650
00:37:30.000 --> 00:37:51.000
My question was, when I guess because they were talking about health and it made me think, when do you know when it's time to start using tools or when it's just a fear in your life for example, over the time of the conference, I.

651
00:37:51.000 --> 00:38:05.000
I've been struggling with I've been struggling with my weight for years and years and years and I mean I like I have been rapidly gaining weight very fast and like over the last couple of couple of years I mean I can easily gain like five pounds in a week

652
00:38:06.000 --> 00:38:23.000
And the only way I can even lose a pound or two is if I go on this these like crazy like food fast diets. Well, over the conference, I just kind of started releasing that and I, I told God that I don't really think that that I need to put any more effort into this

653
00:38:23.000 --> 00:38:39.000
because I think that he can do this without, without me doing anything, and I actually started losing weight, and like, two, three pounds like that was huge for me like before I would have to go on this, you know, whatever crazy diet or whatever and so it was like God was

654
00:38:39.000 --> 00:38:56.000
like, you know, like I can do this and I started speaking positively to myself and all of that. But then there are still times when I feel like my clothes are getting tighter I start feeling kind of yucky, like, I'm kind of at that weight where I'm not necessarily

655
00:38:56.000 --> 00:39:14.000
comfortable in myself, and like, I want to be able to go hiking and feel great and like not just feel like I'm like two minutes and I'm dying or whatever. So, my question is like, at what point do you know when, like, if I like reach reach like a weight stall where I'm

656
00:39:14.000 --> 00:39:29.000
losing weight, and I feel like I'm not feeling good again. How do I know if that's just like another fear in my life or something, or when is it time to like start using other tools, I guess that's my question.

657
00:39:29.000 --> 00:39:36.000
Like, is it like should I start incorporating diets now or is it just something else that I'm not releasing, I guess that's my question.

658
00:39:36.000 --> 00:39:41.000
Okay, so the really cool thing is, you don't have to know.

659
00:39:42.000 --> 00:39:50.000
I am actually on a diet right now. So, and, and I have struggled with my weight.

660
00:39:50.000 --> 00:39:59.000
Since maybe high school, I guess, and I've gained and lost 40 pounds like it was nothing.

661
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.400
15, no, I gained 40 pounds before the semester was over.

662
00:40:04.400 --> 00:40:08.400
And I don't know, I think it was like March,

663
00:40:08.400 --> 00:40:13.280
maybe April of this semester in which I gained 40 pounds.

664
00:40:13.280 --> 00:40:16.880
So, and then I lost 30 that summer in three months.

665
00:40:16.880 --> 00:40:21.280
And then, cause I have tremendous amount of Jystlevin.

666
00:40:21.280 --> 00:40:24.640
And so I lost 30 pounds and, or 40, I don't remember.

667
00:40:24.640 --> 00:40:26.760
Anyway, and then I gained it all back slowly

668
00:40:26.760 --> 00:40:29.600
over a certain period of time, but then I lost it all.

669
00:40:29.640 --> 00:40:33.240
And I've basically been able, I've like wavered

670
00:40:33.240 --> 00:40:36.240
on the scale, but I basically kept it off since

671
00:40:36.240 --> 00:40:38.840
because of certain mindset changes and whatever.

672
00:40:38.840 --> 00:40:41.320
However, what has really helped me,

673
00:40:41.320 --> 00:40:44.160
and it's actually the reason why I'm on the diet right now

674
00:40:44.160 --> 00:40:46.280
is because I choose.

675
00:40:46.280 --> 00:40:49.680
So instead of thinking that I have to be different

676
00:40:49.680 --> 00:40:52.600
than the way that I feel or the way that I am,

677
00:40:52.600 --> 00:40:56.480
like in other words, that I have to be different,

678
00:40:56.480 --> 00:40:57.600
my body has to be different

679
00:40:57.640 --> 00:40:58.920
from the way that it currently is,

680
00:40:58.920 --> 00:41:01.680
whether it be a feeling that I have like,

681
00:41:01.680 --> 00:41:02.960
oh, I just don't feel good,

682
00:41:02.960 --> 00:41:05.560
or that I don't like how I look

683
00:41:05.560 --> 00:41:06.920
and I wish I looked different.

684
00:41:06.920 --> 00:41:09.840
Regardless of which it is,

685
00:41:09.840 --> 00:41:13.000
it helps if I shift into rest and choose,

686
00:41:13.000 --> 00:41:15.960
okay, no, first of all, I release it.

687
00:41:15.960 --> 00:41:17.600
Like what I was talking about with Alana

688
00:41:17.600 --> 00:41:22.600
about releasing judgment and that releasing the idea

689
00:41:24.160 --> 00:41:26.000
that it should be different than what it is.

690
00:41:26.000 --> 00:41:27.240
I shouldn't weigh this.

691
00:41:27.880 --> 00:41:28.720
I should weigh something different.

692
00:41:28.720 --> 00:41:32.280
I shouldn't feel this way about how much I weigh.

693
00:41:32.280 --> 00:41:34.240
I shouldn't, I should, you know,

694
00:41:34.240 --> 00:41:36.400
or I was doing fine and now I'm not,

695
00:41:36.400 --> 00:41:37.560
you know, what's wrong with me?

696
00:41:37.560 --> 00:41:40.200
Just all of that is resistance.

697
00:41:40.200 --> 00:41:42.360
All of that is self-condemnation

698
00:41:42.360 --> 00:41:44.760
and it's letting all of that go.

699
00:41:44.760 --> 00:41:46.600
As opposed to thinking, okay, well, no,

700
00:41:46.600 --> 00:41:47.960
I'll let that go in a minute.

701
00:41:47.960 --> 00:41:50.080
Right now that's fueling my motivation

702
00:41:50.080 --> 00:41:53.200
to actually do something about this thing.

703
00:41:53.200 --> 00:41:54.640
No, no, no.

704
00:41:54.640 --> 00:41:56.920
This is actually the reason why we think

705
00:41:57.600 --> 00:41:59.480
we have to do something is because of a root.

706
00:41:59.480 --> 00:42:01.200
So let's get rid of the root first.

707
00:42:01.200 --> 00:42:03.600
So no condemnation, no shame.

708
00:42:03.600 --> 00:42:05.280
Releasing judgment of the situation,

709
00:42:05.280 --> 00:42:07.440
thinking should be something different.

710
00:42:07.440 --> 00:42:09.920
Letting go of that, doing all of that.

711
00:42:09.920 --> 00:42:11.960
And then now that you do that,

712
00:42:11.960 --> 00:42:14.040
and once you shift into a place of rest,

713
00:42:14.040 --> 00:42:16.840
now you're in a position in which you're acknowledging

714
00:42:16.840 --> 00:42:20.040
that you're in a position of power and authority in Christ.

715
00:42:20.040 --> 00:42:22.600
And from that position, you,

716
00:42:22.600 --> 00:42:24.640
the way that you operate in life

717
00:42:24.640 --> 00:42:26.240
and the way that you approach things

718
00:42:26.240 --> 00:42:28.000
and the way that you make decisions

719
00:42:28.000 --> 00:42:32.280
is according to your will, not by fear.

720
00:42:32.280 --> 00:42:34.720
Because when we believe that we're in the soul or the body,

721
00:42:34.720 --> 00:42:36.080
we believe our identity is down there

722
00:42:36.080 --> 00:42:37.680
and we believe that we're threatened.

723
00:42:37.680 --> 00:42:39.440
We make decisions out of fear.

724
00:42:39.440 --> 00:42:41.080
Like it shouldn't be like this.

725
00:42:41.080 --> 00:42:42.160
It should be different.

726
00:42:42.160 --> 00:42:43.840
I need to work at it.

727
00:42:43.840 --> 00:42:47.040
But if we understand that we're actually spirit,

728
00:42:47.040 --> 00:42:50.960
then we just think, okay, how do I wanna live?

729
00:42:50.960 --> 00:42:52.120
What do I wanna be like?

730
00:42:52.120 --> 00:42:53.480
How do I wanna feel?

731
00:42:53.480 --> 00:42:55.360
So the reason that I'm on this diet now,

732
00:42:55.360 --> 00:42:57.760
which is actually by my old standards,

733
00:42:57.760 --> 00:43:00.760
a very unfortunate time to have, to be on this diet,

734
00:43:00.760 --> 00:43:04.160
because I'll be, I'm visiting with friends,

735
00:43:04.160 --> 00:43:05.760
cause I'm about to leave the country.

736
00:43:05.760 --> 00:43:08.400
So I'm visiting with friends and staying with my parents.

737
00:43:08.400 --> 00:43:11.960
And my mom, by the way, is an amazing cook.

738
00:43:11.960 --> 00:43:14.640
My parents were wanting to take me out to eat.

739
00:43:16.280 --> 00:43:18.320
We have a family in town,

740
00:43:18.320 --> 00:43:20.720
which is all kinds of reasons why you think,

741
00:43:20.720 --> 00:43:21.960
oh, well, here's my time.

742
00:43:21.960 --> 00:43:22.800
I'm here in America.

743
00:43:22.800 --> 00:43:24.800
Surely I need to eat all kinds of good food.

744
00:43:25.240 --> 00:43:27.160
I did put in an order for my mom

745
00:43:27.160 --> 00:43:28.840
so I made hamburgers before I leave.

746
00:43:28.840 --> 00:43:30.280
But that'll be after my diet.

747
00:43:31.280 --> 00:43:32.760
But anyway, my point is,

748
00:43:34.280 --> 00:43:36.040
I'm able to make this decision

749
00:43:36.040 --> 00:43:38.440
to be on a self-imposed diet

750
00:43:38.440 --> 00:43:41.720
because that's what I chose that I wanted for me.

751
00:43:41.720 --> 00:43:43.440
Like, what do I want out of life?

752
00:43:43.440 --> 00:43:44.480
How do I wanna live?

753
00:43:44.480 --> 00:43:47.840
I'm like, I like how I feel when I'm like that.

754
00:43:47.840 --> 00:43:50.600
So, and it's gonna make me feel better

755
00:43:50.600 --> 00:43:52.600
when I finally go on the trip.

756
00:43:52.640 --> 00:43:54.520
And so, and it's gonna,

757
00:43:54.520 --> 00:43:57.880
I feel better on the airplane, et cetera.

758
00:43:57.880 --> 00:44:01.840
So I want that for me, not because I have to,

759
00:44:01.840 --> 00:44:03.400
but because that's what I want.

760
00:44:03.400 --> 00:44:05.080
That's how I want to live.

761
00:44:05.080 --> 00:44:06.400
That's what I wanna give myself.

762
00:44:06.400 --> 00:44:07.920
That's how I wanna be in creation.

763
00:44:07.920 --> 00:44:09.640
That's how I wanna show up.

764
00:44:09.640 --> 00:44:13.880
That's how my spirit wants to be manifested and made visible.

765
00:44:13.880 --> 00:44:16.080
So I'm making, able to make decisions

766
00:44:16.080 --> 00:44:18.960
out of will and intention

767
00:44:19.000 --> 00:44:23.600
because sons of God go through life based on their will,

768
00:44:23.600 --> 00:44:25.880
not by their fear.

769
00:44:25.880 --> 00:44:29.280
And constantly trying to make a decision based on,

770
00:44:29.280 --> 00:44:33.240
okay, which con do I wanna live with?

771
00:44:33.240 --> 00:44:35.280
Am I willing to live with the most?

772
00:44:36.960 --> 00:44:39.040
And this other con I'm gonna avoid

773
00:44:39.040 --> 00:44:41.680
because I just like this one more.

774
00:44:41.680 --> 00:44:44.120
So I really, I'm gonna try to avoid this one.

775
00:44:44.120 --> 00:44:47.240
So I'll live with, I'll be willing to live with this con.

776
00:44:47.240 --> 00:44:52.240
It's a very, what's the word?

777
00:44:52.880 --> 00:44:57.880
Disempowering, weakening position

778
00:44:58.160 --> 00:45:00.360
to put ourselves into making the decision.

779
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.620
decision of what, what pain in life we would prefer to avoid and which pain that we'd be

780
00:45:07.620 --> 00:45:09.320
more willing to live with.

781
00:45:09.320 --> 00:45:14.320
It's very disempowering way to make decisions, severe, weakened posture to make a decision,

782
00:45:14.320 --> 00:45:21.080
but shifting into rest and operating from that perspective, excuse me, operating from

783
00:45:21.080 --> 00:45:27.720
that perspective is, um, let's see, sorry, I'm going to put someone on me really quick

784
00:45:27.720 --> 00:45:28.720
because we're getting feedback.

785
00:45:28.720 --> 00:45:32.040
Um, sorry, Alicia, if you have a, do you have a question?

786
00:45:32.040 --> 00:45:36.600
If you have a question, you can jump on right after, um, the, uh, I was just getting feedback

787
00:45:36.600 --> 00:45:43.760
real quick, but, um, anyway, the, um, uh, it's, it's a much more powerful position and

788
00:45:43.760 --> 00:45:49.800
then you can decide, I want to do this because this is what I want as opposed to all of the,

789
00:45:49.800 --> 00:45:53.840
as opposed to being fueled by motivated by negative reasons.

790
00:45:53.840 --> 00:45:54.840
Why?

791
00:45:54.840 --> 00:45:55.840
No.

792
00:45:55.840 --> 00:45:58.600
There's no reasons why you want to do it, choose it.

793
00:45:58.600 --> 00:46:02.760
And you don't have to try to do it in your soul or your body because it's harder, you

794
00:46:02.760 --> 00:46:08.480
know, shift up into your spirit and from your spirit, it's like me as a son of God, me from

795
00:46:08.480 --> 00:46:09.480
my spirit.

796
00:46:09.480 --> 00:46:12.960
How does my spirit, my relationship with God and how it's developed this far, how does

797
00:46:12.960 --> 00:46:14.320
it want to be made visible?

798
00:46:14.320 --> 00:46:15.780
How do I want to live?

799
00:46:15.780 --> 00:46:18.200
Because I want to live like that.

800
00:46:18.200 --> 00:46:23.040
And then it makes it, then you, from that position, you choose what tools do I want

801
00:46:23.040 --> 00:46:26.080
to be part of my journey?

802
00:46:26.080 --> 00:46:28.280
Do I want to, do I want to diet?

803
00:46:28.280 --> 00:46:29.280
See, I'm on a diet.

804
00:46:29.280 --> 00:46:30.280
That's a tool.

805
00:46:30.280 --> 00:46:31.280
I want to diet.

806
00:46:31.280 --> 00:46:34.040
Um, uh, you know, what, what tools do I want to use?

807
00:46:34.040 --> 00:46:35.320
Which diet do I want to do?

808
00:46:35.320 --> 00:46:39.680
Which, um, which exercise, how long do I want to do it, whatever, but do it because you

809
00:46:39.680 --> 00:46:42.040
choose that's what you want to do for you.

810
00:46:42.040 --> 00:46:49.340
Um, not because, well, this is what I'm told will help in order to get X, Y, and Z result.

811
00:46:49.340 --> 00:46:52.700
If you're told that, and it gets X, Y, and Z result, that's fine.

812
00:46:52.700 --> 00:46:56.180
And you can, you can choose it because of that, but choose it because you're like, I

813
00:46:56.180 --> 00:46:57.180
like that.

814
00:46:57.180 --> 00:46:58.860
I think that that's what I want to do.

815
00:46:58.860 --> 00:47:05.380
Um, you can, you can make your will based off of knowledge that you've learned and thinking,

816
00:47:05.380 --> 00:47:06.380
I want to do that.

817
00:47:06.380 --> 00:47:11.940
I want to allow that to be part of my journey of losing weight or whatever, of manifesting

818
00:47:11.940 --> 00:47:14.280
who it is that I look like in the spirit.

819
00:47:14.280 --> 00:47:16.540
What would that look like in my physical body?

820
00:47:16.740 --> 00:47:19.100
It's a much more powerful way to make a decision.

821
00:47:19.100 --> 00:47:22.980
And it's a lot easier to, um, to, to diet like this.

822
00:47:22.980 --> 00:47:26.740
I mean, when everybody else is having all kinds of good food around me and I'm smelling

823
00:47:26.740 --> 00:47:30.300
all kinds of smells, I'm like, I have to be reminded again, why am I doing this?

824
00:47:30.300 --> 00:47:31.420
I'm like, oh, that's right.

825
00:47:31.420 --> 00:47:34.420
Because I feel good because this is what I want for me.

826
00:47:34.420 --> 00:47:36.060
This is how I prefer to live life.

827
00:47:36.060 --> 00:47:40.060
I prefer it more than the good food because I do.

828
00:47:40.060 --> 00:47:43.660
No one told me that no one told me that I should feel that way.

829
00:47:43.660 --> 00:47:44.660
I chose that.

830
00:47:44.660 --> 00:47:46.580
That's what I wanted for me.

831
00:47:46.580 --> 00:47:47.580
Does that make sense?

832
00:47:47.580 --> 00:47:48.580
Yes.

833
00:47:48.580 --> 00:47:50.660
That makes so much sense.

834
00:47:50.660 --> 00:47:51.660
Thank you.

835
00:47:51.660 --> 00:47:52.660
I like that.

836
00:47:52.660 --> 00:47:53.660
I like that.

837
00:47:53.660 --> 00:47:54.660
Good.

838
00:47:54.660 --> 00:47:59.660
Um, Alicia, did you have a question?

839
00:47:59.660 --> 00:48:03.940
No, I think I must've accidentally unmuted.

840
00:48:03.940 --> 00:48:04.940
Sorry.

841
00:48:04.940 --> 00:48:05.940
Okay.

842
00:48:05.940 --> 00:48:06.940
No, no worries.

843
00:48:06.940 --> 00:48:07.940
No worries.

844
00:48:07.940 --> 00:48:08.940
I just thought, oh, she probably had a question.

845
00:48:08.940 --> 00:48:13.300
Cause sometimes people unmute when they have questions.

846
00:48:13.300 --> 00:48:21.500
So, um, does anyone have, let me, I'll see if I've missed something in the chat.

847
00:48:21.500 --> 00:48:29.060
Um, oh, so Alicia, it says, you said that you keep getting stress migraines.

848
00:48:29.060 --> 00:48:30.060
I'm sorry.

849
00:48:30.060 --> 00:48:31.060
I'm sorry.

850
00:48:31.060 --> 00:48:37.260
Those will, um, uh, there are a lot of people that have stress migraines.

851
00:48:37.260 --> 00:48:46.420
Um, if you, you probably remember Carrie's testimony in one of the five days, um, I'm

852
00:48:46.420 --> 00:48:47.420
trying to remember.

853
00:48:47.420 --> 00:48:48.420
Oh, it may have.

854
00:48:48.420 --> 00:48:49.420
Yeah.

855
00:48:49.420 --> 00:48:51.500
I think it was in the five day that you were part of either that, or it was in the one

856
00:48:51.500 --> 00:48:57.620
before that either way, um, how she went through the whole process of choosing, of talking

857
00:48:57.620 --> 00:49:05.340
from her soul, then talking to her soul and her body, then, um, then ended up deciding

858
00:49:05.340 --> 00:49:09.660
she was going to use the tool and use, use, um, Advil and receive it as a good gift from

859
00:49:09.660 --> 00:49:10.660
her father.

860
00:49:10.660 --> 00:49:14.580
But then when her husband couldn't find any Advil, well, then she chose, I was like, okay,

861
00:49:14.580 --> 00:49:15.580
God, what do I do?

862
00:49:15.580 --> 00:49:19.780
And then what he specifically told her in her specific situation, I'm not saying everybody

863
00:49:19.780 --> 00:49:23.020
needs to do this, but when she'd asked the Lord, she's like, Lord, I don't know what

864
00:49:23.020 --> 00:49:24.020
to do.

865
00:49:24.020 --> 00:49:25.020
I've done everything I know to do.

866
00:49:25.020 --> 00:49:28.300
And, and all of this has always worked in my migraines so far.

867
00:49:28.300 --> 00:49:35.740
And the Lord said, if you believe me, um, if you, if you believe me, then, then act

868
00:49:35.740 --> 00:49:37.620
like it really is true.

869
00:49:37.620 --> 00:49:40.380
If I say that you're healed and act like you're healed, that's what he said.

870
00:49:40.380 --> 00:49:43.940
If you say that you're healed, then if I say that you're healed and act like you're healed.

871
00:49:43.940 --> 00:49:48.820
And so she's, it's got out of bed, expecting it to, uh, expect your migraine to be gone,

872
00:49:48.820 --> 00:49:52.580
you know, because God said so and didn't still pounded.

873
00:49:52.580 --> 00:49:54.340
And so, but she's like, oh, but what did God say?

874
00:49:54.340 --> 00:49:58.500
God told me, you know, if that I'm, if I'm healed, if he's declared, I'm healed to act

875
00:49:58.500 --> 00:49:59.500
like I'm healed.

876
00:49:59.500 --> 00:50:00.020
Then she went into the shower.

877
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:01.780
you know, mangering went away.

878
00:50:01.780 --> 00:50:04.280
And then she got on and did that video testimonial,

879
00:50:04.280 --> 00:50:08.280
like, I don't know, within like maybe 30 minutes later

880
00:50:08.280 --> 00:50:10.880
and said, oh my goodness, guys, guess what just happened?

881
00:50:10.880 --> 00:50:13.520
So that was fascinating because she went through

882
00:50:13.520 --> 00:50:15.120
all of the different stages.

883
00:50:15.120 --> 00:50:17.200
She did it, you know, from the soul perspective,

884
00:50:17.200 --> 00:50:22.200
from the body perspective,

885
00:50:22.760 --> 00:50:24.240
like trying to get Advil

886
00:50:24.240 --> 00:50:27.040
and then went to the spirit perspective.

887
00:50:27.040 --> 00:50:28.600
But there's all kinds of different ways

888
00:50:28.600 --> 00:50:30.680
that you can choose to deal with it

889
00:50:30.680 --> 00:50:32.400
specifically related to migraine.

890
00:50:32.400 --> 00:50:35.480
But as far as the stress is concerned,

891
00:50:35.480 --> 00:50:38.840
yeah, just whenever any stress comes up

892
00:50:38.840 --> 00:50:40.000
that you can recognize,

893
00:50:40.000 --> 00:50:42.440
or if you're experiencing the stress migraine,

894
00:50:42.440 --> 00:50:44.440
whatever situation that you're in,

895
00:50:44.440 --> 00:50:46.000
just choosing to let it go,

896
00:50:46.000 --> 00:50:48.120
like doing one of those practical shifting tools,

897
00:50:48.120 --> 00:50:50.040
like telling yourself to stop,

898
00:50:50.040 --> 00:50:52.480
no shame or no condemnation, no judgment,

899
00:50:52.480 --> 00:50:54.840
and then go throughout the rest of your day.

900
00:50:54.840 --> 00:50:57.240
Now, I mean, if the migraine has debilitated you

901
00:50:57.240 --> 00:50:58.080
when you were in bed,

902
00:50:58.080 --> 00:50:58.920
well, I don't, you know,

903
00:50:58.920 --> 00:51:00.400
I don't mean go throughout your day, you know,

904
00:51:00.400 --> 00:51:03.000
then, you know, you just follow the Lord in that.

905
00:51:03.000 --> 00:51:06.240
But what I mean is that you don't have to make

906
00:51:06.240 --> 00:51:08.480
this big ordeal about it of like,

907
00:51:08.480 --> 00:51:09.840
oh my goodness, it's gonna take five minutes

908
00:51:09.840 --> 00:51:10.680
to deal with this thing.

909
00:51:10.680 --> 00:51:14.960
Nope, just choose it, just do it the best of your ability,

910
00:51:14.960 --> 00:51:18.720
and then release as much as you can, and then move on.

911
00:51:18.720 --> 00:51:21.360
And that helps to neutralize the power

912
00:51:21.360 --> 00:51:23.120
of things that come against us.

913
00:51:23.960 --> 00:51:26.840
And it helps us just start to learn

914
00:51:26.840 --> 00:51:29.080
a different way of believing.

915
00:51:30.240 --> 00:51:33.120
And then Steph was talking about,

916
00:51:33.120 --> 00:51:35.800
oh, well, I just talked a lot to you,

917
00:51:35.800 --> 00:51:39.960
and Alicia did, even though you didn't ask a question.

918
00:51:39.960 --> 00:51:41.160
Did that help at all?

919
00:51:42.200 --> 00:51:45.040
Yeah, actually all the ladies you've answered

920
00:51:45.040 --> 00:51:47.560
their questions have helped me too, so yeah.

921
00:51:47.560 --> 00:51:48.400
Good, excellent,

922
00:51:48.400 --> 00:51:50.840
because it's all the same answers anyway.

923
00:51:51.120 --> 00:51:55.480
And then Steph was talking about the frustration levels

924
00:51:55.480 --> 00:51:58.600
tend to run high in my dreams, and in some days, yes.

925
00:51:58.600 --> 00:52:01.200
Yeah, and so frustration, interestingly, Steph,

926
00:52:01.200 --> 00:52:05.200
comes from this desire to,

927
00:52:05.200 --> 00:52:07.960
this desire that things should be a certain way,

928
00:52:07.960 --> 00:52:10.040
and they're not, and we get frustrated.

929
00:52:10.040 --> 00:52:13.720
Or this desire, and therefore we have a tendency

930
00:52:13.720 --> 00:52:15.000
to want to control,

931
00:52:16.280 --> 00:52:18.600
because we're trying to grab ahold tightly of it

932
00:52:18.600 --> 00:52:20.480
and make sure that it happens a particular way,

933
00:52:21.120 --> 00:52:23.160
because we think that it shouldn't happen a different way.

934
00:52:23.160 --> 00:52:24.280
We think that there's going to be

935
00:52:24.280 --> 00:52:26.400
a very horrible consequence,

936
00:52:26.400 --> 00:52:29.400
either emotionally, psychologically, or physically,

937
00:52:29.400 --> 00:52:31.720
if this is such, or spiritually,

938
00:52:31.720 --> 00:52:33.640
if such and such doesn't happen.

939
00:52:33.640 --> 00:52:37.000
And so it's a thread that can run through our lives

940
00:52:37.000 --> 00:52:40.360
and then just manifest itself in how we interact

941
00:52:40.360 --> 00:52:42.200
with different aspects of life.

942
00:52:42.200 --> 00:52:44.280
And then if you throw on that,

943
00:52:44.280 --> 00:52:47.520
and then on top of that, it can manifest itself,

944
00:52:47.520 --> 00:52:50.960
it can reveal itself in our dreams,

945
00:52:50.960 --> 00:52:52.160
in being frustrated,

946
00:52:53.200 --> 00:52:55.760
that things aren't working the way

947
00:52:55.760 --> 00:52:57.400
that they're supposed to.

948
00:52:57.400 --> 00:53:00.520
So dreams, like I said, can be very telling.

949
00:53:00.520 --> 00:53:03.720
So, that was 100% me tonight

950
00:53:03.720 --> 00:53:05.680
discussing our unfinished house.

951
00:53:05.680 --> 00:53:07.480
I'm so anxious for it to be done.

952
00:53:07.480 --> 00:53:08.760
I'm so blame you.

953
00:53:08.760 --> 00:53:10.400
I know that must be hard.

954
00:53:10.400 --> 00:53:12.800
Dan didn't answer the way I thought he should.

955
00:53:12.800 --> 00:53:15.000
There you go.

956
00:53:15.000 --> 00:53:16.280
I'm so sorry.

957
00:53:16.280 --> 00:53:18.920
I know, it's a team.

958
00:53:18.920 --> 00:53:20.880
Everyone gets their say.

959
00:53:20.880 --> 00:53:22.880
I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

960
00:53:23.920 --> 00:53:27.000
But yeah, it's a good opportunity to release that too.

961
00:53:27.000 --> 00:53:28.400
And so the fascinating thing

962
00:53:28.400 --> 00:53:30.440
is that when we release things like that,

963
00:53:30.440 --> 00:53:33.480
we release, okay, I'm going to release the fact

964
00:53:33.480 --> 00:53:37.960
that of my belief that the house should be finished

965
00:53:37.960 --> 00:53:40.080
and that it should be something different than it is,

966
00:53:40.080 --> 00:53:42.400
or it should be done that by this time or whatever.

967
00:53:42.400 --> 00:53:45.640
And releasing that doesn't mean that it won't be.

968
00:53:45.640 --> 00:53:49.160
It just means that we're releasing our ownership of it

969
00:53:49.160 --> 00:53:52.360
and we're releasing, holding God accountable to it.

970
00:53:52.360 --> 00:53:53.720
And we're releasing ourselves

971
00:53:53.720 --> 00:53:54.840
from being held accountable to it

972
00:53:54.840 --> 00:53:57.200
because God doesn't hold us accountable for it.

973
00:53:57.200 --> 00:53:59.680
And what that will end up doing is

974
00:53:59.680 --> 00:54:01.080
it will end up doing two things.

975
00:54:01.080 --> 00:54:03.080
For one, you'll find that when you shift,

976
00:54:03.080 --> 00:54:04.680
that that will shift you into rest.

977
00:54:04.680 --> 00:54:06.720
And when you're in rest in the Lord,

978
00:54:06.720 --> 00:54:09.200
you finally have what you needed

979
00:54:09.200 --> 00:54:11.840
that the finished house was expected,

980
00:54:11.840 --> 00:54:14.960
that you expected the finished house to make you feel like

981
00:54:14.960 --> 00:54:16.480
and to give to you.

982
00:54:16.480 --> 00:54:19.600
And once you have it from shifting into rest in the Lord

983
00:54:19.600 --> 00:54:20.960
and the house isn't even finished,

984
00:54:20.960 --> 00:54:22.840
you don't care if the house is finished.

985
00:54:22.840 --> 00:54:23.680
So it's done.

986
00:54:23.680 --> 00:54:24.600
So it does two things.

987
00:54:24.600 --> 00:54:25.720
It does that.

988
00:54:25.720 --> 00:54:27.840
It releases you from being threatened

989
00:54:27.840 --> 00:54:32.840
by something not being a particular way.

990
00:54:33.840 --> 00:54:35.600
And it gives you what it is

991
00:54:35.600 --> 00:54:37.440
that you were wanting to receive anyway

992
00:54:37.440 --> 00:54:40.040
and gives it and you get it from the Lord.

993
00:54:40.040 --> 00:54:42.880
And then what it also does is sometimes

994
00:54:43.400 --> 00:54:45.360
that anxiety or self,

995
00:54:45.360 --> 00:54:48.040
that, not that anxiety, what do you call it?

996
00:54:48.040 --> 00:54:53.040
That anxiousness and all of that stress

997
00:54:55.680 --> 00:55:00.680
that can actually hinder and result in anxiety.

998
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.680
exist things in the spirit and in the soul realm from allowing the house to be done.

999
00:55:06.800 --> 00:55:13.280
So as soon as we start letting go, see our desire to control ends up, I talked about this in the

1000
00:55:13.280 --> 00:55:17.440
conference, our desire to control and, you know, being frustrated, like, oh, it should be a

1001
00:55:17.440 --> 00:55:21.600
particular way and trying so hard to make sure that it happens a particular way, ends up doing

1002
00:55:21.600 --> 00:55:27.360
the exact opposite of what we thought it would do. It ends up actually stifling and killing something

1003
00:55:27.920 --> 00:55:35.600
instead of bringing life. So we're able to allow life to flow from the spirit into the situation,

1004
00:55:35.600 --> 00:55:42.400
like into the finished project of the house, by actually letting it go instead of holding

1005
00:55:42.400 --> 00:55:51.040
on to it. By holding on to it, we're actually adding a death grip to it. Strong emphasis on

1006
00:55:51.040 --> 00:55:58.960
the word death. We actually are stifling the life out of it as opposed to actually giving it the

1007
00:55:58.960 --> 00:56:06.320
chance that it needs to actually, for the house to actually be done and to start moving towards

1008
00:56:06.320 --> 00:56:13.200
that direction and to be done faster, et cetera. If we let go, it gives it the opportunity sometimes

1009
00:56:13.200 --> 00:56:21.360
to be done faster. We're creating our own. I'm struggling with that so hard on this topic,

1010
00:56:21.360 --> 00:56:26.160
I know. For those who don't know, we moved in before we finished our trim and exterior. Here we

1011
00:56:26.160 --> 00:56:31.680
are years later, still not done. I've definitely had a death grip on this project, I think. I know,

1012
00:56:31.680 --> 00:56:36.400
I'm sorry. Now, I don't say all those things, you know, that we should ever, and I don't think

1013
00:56:36.400 --> 00:56:46.000
you're taking it like this, but just in case, that we need to feel like we are, what's the word,

1014
00:56:46.560 --> 00:56:53.680
to blame for. Oh, well, my life is like this because I, you know, take on condemnation for,

1015
00:56:53.680 --> 00:56:58.400
oh my goodness, I've caused that. That's not what I'm trying to say in all of this. I'm saying

1016
00:56:58.400 --> 00:57:13.120
that we can add our own element to what is happening physically and the physical environment

1017
00:57:13.120 --> 00:57:21.440
will respond to us and we're giving it resistance. Therefore, in order for things to actually move

1018
00:57:21.440 --> 00:57:27.680
along, we need to do the opposite of what we think that we need to do and that's to let go.

1019
00:57:27.680 --> 00:57:32.640
The reason that that's so scary is that is holding on to it is the thing that we thought

1020
00:57:32.640 --> 00:57:39.200
was going to give us the only hope we had of actually getting it done. So, the letting go of

1021
00:57:39.200 --> 00:57:47.920
it, we feel like we're actually, like there's actually significant danger there, significant

1022
00:57:47.920 --> 00:58:00.000
danger in letting it go and it's scary. So, it really does feel scary to try to let that go. We

1023
00:58:00.000 --> 00:58:05.360
think, oh my goodness, the only thing that's kept it going so far and the only thing that's kept it

1024
00:58:05.360 --> 00:58:10.320
actually together is because I'm holding it all together, you know, and I'm grabbing this other

1025
00:58:10.320 --> 00:58:14.640
piece and I'm trying so hard to hold it all together and we think that if we let it go,

1026
00:58:14.640 --> 00:58:19.840
oh my goodness, everything's going to go to hell in a handbasket and it's the opposite. It finally

1027
00:58:19.840 --> 00:58:27.120
is able to have life that we're, that we can pour into it and just like, just like our bodies,

1028
00:58:27.120 --> 00:58:31.600
it's very important for, like we were talking about with Lori, it's important to speak kindly

1029
00:58:31.600 --> 00:58:36.400
to our bodies, to treat them kindly, to not think of them as an enemy. Same thing with your house,

1030
00:58:37.200 --> 00:58:43.280
loving the house, not telling the house nice things. Sure, that, that can work too, but just

1031
00:58:43.280 --> 00:58:49.280
like talking to plants very kindly helps plants to grow, but what I'm talking about is actually

1032
00:58:49.280 --> 00:58:55.840
choosing to love the house, choosing to like the house, choosing to think fondly of the house,

1033
00:58:55.840 --> 00:59:00.880
not hoping that, oh okay, I'm going to think, I'm going to trick myself into thinking and believing

1034
00:59:00.880 --> 00:59:06.000
fondly about the house and maybe something will happen that won't work. It has to be true, it has

1035
00:59:06.000 --> 00:59:12.880
to be unconditional regardless of the results that happen from it. It has to just be a, a feeling

1036
00:59:12.960 --> 00:59:19.200
that we extend towards it and by a choice because it's a, it's creation, you know, that's wood,

1037
00:59:19.200 --> 00:59:25.440
that's, I don't know whatever else is in y'all's house, you know, concrete, foundation, you know,

1038
00:59:25.440 --> 00:59:31.840
steel girders, you know, whatever, that, and all the other things in your house, they respond to

1039
00:59:31.840 --> 00:59:38.400
how to the, what it is that we're sending out in our intention of how we feel about it. It's not

1040
00:59:38.400 --> 00:59:45.520
okay how it is and it needs to be different. It gets that message because that comes out

1041
00:59:45.520 --> 00:59:53.360
in literally scientifically it measurable energy, measurable, you know, our feelings can actually

1042
00:59:53.360 --> 00:59:57.200
change the environment and the air around us. They can measure that scientifically

1043
00:59:57.920 --> 00:59:59.840
and these things gather that.

1044
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.880
and they respond to the negativity.

1045
01:00:02.880 --> 01:00:04.560
I know that sounds very strange,

1046
01:00:04.560 --> 01:00:05.880
but it's actually fairly true.

1047
01:00:05.880 --> 01:00:08.880
So it's creation responding to a human,

1048
01:00:08.880 --> 01:00:10.400
which it was intended to do.

1049
01:00:10.400 --> 01:00:12.880
So we send positive things, just like our bodies.

1050
01:00:12.880 --> 01:00:16.560
We have to actually love our bodies,

1051
01:00:16.560 --> 01:00:18.280
not just talk nicely to them.

1052
01:00:18.280 --> 01:00:20.160
We have to actually love them.

1053
01:00:20.160 --> 01:00:21.420
Love them the way that they are.

1054
01:00:21.420 --> 01:00:24.720
No enemy is the same thing with a house.

1055
01:00:24.720 --> 01:00:26.680
Loving it the way that it is without conditions.

1056
01:00:26.680 --> 01:00:28.620
We want the Lord to love us unconditionally.

1057
01:00:28.620 --> 01:00:31.100
We need to love unconditionally, including health.

1058
01:00:31.100 --> 01:00:33.060
And then that will suddenly start,

1059
01:00:33.060 --> 01:00:35.820
you'll notice that over time, not overnight,

1060
01:00:35.820 --> 01:00:36.740
but now who knows,

1061
01:00:36.740 --> 01:00:38.500
sometimes these things do happen overnight.

1062
01:00:38.500 --> 01:00:40.460
I've talked to people about this before,

1063
01:00:40.460 --> 01:00:41.740
and they said, oh my word, Ashley,

1064
01:00:41.740 --> 01:00:44.220
the next day such and such happened

1065
01:00:44.220 --> 01:00:46.780
because they let it go the day before.

1066
01:00:46.780 --> 01:00:49.920
And then finally something amazing was able to come through

1067
01:00:49.920 --> 01:00:51.380
that they'd been waiting on for a long time,

1068
01:00:51.380 --> 01:00:53.560
or they thought wasn't gonna happen or whatever.

1069
01:00:53.560 --> 01:00:56.780
Like with something physical, like a house.

1070
01:00:56.780 --> 01:01:00.620
And so anyway, we can actually start allowing life

1071
01:01:00.620 --> 01:01:03.260
to be poured into it by letting go.

1072
01:01:05.220 --> 01:01:07.460
But you want, the important thing is

1073
01:01:07.460 --> 01:01:09.780
not that you're actually looking for a result

1074
01:01:09.780 --> 01:01:11.340
and striving to get a result.

1075
01:01:11.340 --> 01:01:13.220
The thing is that you're wanting to understand

1076
01:01:13.220 --> 01:01:15.940
to choose to live in freedom

1077
01:01:15.940 --> 01:01:19.740
and not be bound by a house and by a physical situation

1078
01:01:19.740 --> 01:01:21.360
and circumstance being what it is,

1079
01:01:21.360 --> 01:01:23.860
but you're a son of God above that.

1080
01:01:23.900 --> 01:01:27.020
And you have a right to always be in freedom

1081
01:01:27.020 --> 01:01:29.400
regardless of what it chooses to do.

1082
01:01:31.460 --> 01:01:33.620
And you standing in that position

1083
01:01:33.620 --> 01:01:34.940
will finally give it freedom

1084
01:01:34.940 --> 01:01:36.580
to be released from frustration.

1085
01:01:37.920 --> 01:01:40.020
That does make sense, I need to,

1086
01:01:40.020 --> 01:01:42.180
okay, it's not just scary, it's terrifying.

1087
01:01:42.180 --> 01:01:43.940
Yes, exactly.

1088
01:01:43.940 --> 01:01:45.140
Exactly, it is terrifying.

1089
01:01:45.140 --> 01:01:47.820
And trust me, I've had to make all of these decisions

1090
01:01:47.820 --> 01:01:49.900
in very terrifying moments.

1091
01:01:49.900 --> 01:01:53.160
Very, very, very terrifying.

1092
01:01:54.060 --> 01:01:56.660
Where I had nothing to fall back on.

1093
01:01:56.660 --> 01:01:59.100
That does make sense, I need to let it go with nothing else

1094
01:01:59.100 --> 01:02:01.060
so it doesn't have control over my mind and mood.

1095
01:02:01.060 --> 01:02:02.660
Yes, because so what it is you're choosing

1096
01:02:02.660 --> 01:02:05.840
is you're not choosing your house, you're choosing you.

1097
01:02:05.840 --> 01:02:10.380
And right now it's choosing the house over you.

1098
01:02:10.380 --> 01:02:13.660
And so it's like, that is a backwards thing,

1099
01:02:13.660 --> 01:02:15.540
and that's not true about me.

1100
01:02:15.540 --> 01:02:17.060
God says something different

1101
01:02:17.060 --> 01:02:19.020
in choosing yourself over the house.

1102
01:02:19.020 --> 01:02:20.900
And then your house can finally have what it needs

1103
01:02:20.900 --> 01:02:22.400
because what it needs is you.

1104
01:02:22.400 --> 01:02:24.520
Just like I talk about the fact that our finances,

1105
01:02:24.520 --> 01:02:26.000
our business and our relationships,

1106
01:02:26.000 --> 01:02:29.000
if something's going on wrong with them that we don't like,

1107
01:02:29.000 --> 01:02:30.180
what it needs is us.

1108
01:02:30.180 --> 01:02:31.400
It doesn't need a new formula,

1109
01:02:31.400 --> 01:02:33.040
it doesn't need a new strategy.

1110
01:02:33.040 --> 01:02:34.920
It needs us, it's missing us somewhere.

1111
01:02:34.920 --> 01:02:38.000
There's some way in which it's needing life from us.

1112
01:02:39.040 --> 01:02:41.440
So anyway, so choose you,

1113
01:02:41.440 --> 01:02:43.720
and then from that, everything else will flow.

1114
01:02:43.720 --> 01:02:44.960
Because when you choose you,

1115
01:02:44.960 --> 01:02:46.440
you're choosing that you are who you've got,

1116
01:02:46.440 --> 01:02:47.840
that God is who he says that he is,

1117
01:02:47.840 --> 01:02:49.440
and that you are who he says that you are

1118
01:02:49.440 --> 01:02:50.580
because you're in him.

1119
01:02:50.580 --> 01:02:52.300
So you're choosing union,

1120
01:02:52.300 --> 01:02:56.300
and from union, everything flows.

1121
01:02:56.300 --> 01:02:59.540
So, bye Natalie.

1122
01:03:01.300 --> 01:03:03.060
Glad you could come on.

1123
01:03:04.180 --> 01:03:06.460
So anyway, is that helpful stuff?

1124
01:03:06.460 --> 01:03:07.420
I know it's not fun,

1125
01:03:07.420 --> 01:03:08.940
and you still have to make the decision,

1126
01:03:08.940 --> 01:03:10.820
and you still have to make the choice.

1127
01:03:11.740 --> 01:03:15.300
But I have done it when I've been in your situation.

1128
01:03:15.300 --> 01:03:17.780
I promise, and I've done it multiple times,

1129
01:03:17.780 --> 01:03:19.460
multiple, multiple, multiple times.

1130
01:03:19.460 --> 01:03:23.260
The things that were biggest and most dear to my heart,

1131
01:03:23.260 --> 01:03:26.740
relationships, very, very important people,

1132
01:03:27.620 --> 01:03:30.500
or something that it is that I wanted to do,

1133
01:03:30.500 --> 01:03:33.340
and, or, I don't know, whatever.

1134
01:03:33.340 --> 01:03:35.060
In fact, I did this yesterday.

1135
01:03:35.060 --> 01:03:40.060
I did this yesterday with a relationship,

1136
01:03:40.700 --> 01:03:43.420
and something that I wanted for myself,

1137
01:03:43.420 --> 01:03:44.260
in addition to the relationship,

1138
01:03:44.260 --> 01:03:45.820
it was all wrapped up together.

1139
01:03:45.820 --> 01:03:48.420
It was extremely important to me.

1140
01:03:49.140 --> 01:03:49.980
And God said,

1141
01:03:49.980 --> 01:03:53.140
Ashley, you're trying to make a decision out of fear.

1142
01:03:53.140 --> 01:03:54.180
So I let go.

1143
01:03:54.180 --> 01:03:55.460
And as soon as I let go,

1144
01:03:55.460 --> 01:03:58.220
I immediately knew, like what I was telling Lori.

1145
01:03:58.220 --> 01:03:59.060
Lori?

1146
01:04:00.060 --> 01:04:01.740
I was telling Lori, you know,

1147
01:04:01.740 --> 01:04:02.980
that I was telling her, you know,

1148
01:04:02.980 --> 01:04:06.540
how making a decision from a place of like that power,

1149
01:04:06.540 --> 01:04:09.820
of like from intention and will as a son of God,

1150
01:04:09.820 --> 01:04:12.020
as opposed to out of fear.

1151
01:04:12.020 --> 01:04:14.500
And so I told,

1152
01:04:14.540 --> 01:04:19.140
I told, as soon as I shifted from fear into rest,

1153
01:04:19.140 --> 01:04:20.940
I decided, okay, God asked me,

1154
01:04:20.940 --> 01:04:22.860
Ashley, then what do you want to do?

1155
01:04:22.860 --> 01:04:24.860
Now that you're not being driven by fear,

1156
01:04:24.860 --> 01:04:25.860
and what you're trying,

1157
01:04:25.860 --> 01:04:28.260
which pain you're trying to avoid most,

1158
01:04:28.260 --> 01:04:29.180
what do you want?

1159
01:04:29.180 --> 01:04:30.860
Now that you aren't afraid anymore,

1160
01:04:30.860 --> 01:04:33.540
now that you have everything in me

1161
01:04:33.540 --> 01:04:35.140
that you were hoping the circumstances

1162
01:04:35.140 --> 01:04:37.060
that you were choosing from were going to give you,

1163
01:04:37.060 --> 01:04:37.980
now that you have that,

1164
01:04:37.980 --> 01:04:39.660
and you no longer need the circumstances

1165
01:04:39.660 --> 01:04:40.860
to provide it for you,

1166
01:04:40.860 --> 01:04:41.900
now, what do you want to do?

1167
01:04:41.900 --> 01:04:43.380
Now that they can't give you anything

1168
01:04:43.420 --> 01:04:44.500
that you don't already have,

1169
01:04:44.500 --> 01:04:46.140
because you're in it right now,

1170
01:04:46.140 --> 01:04:47.300
what do you want?

1171
01:04:47.300 --> 01:04:48.500
What do you want to be part of your life?

1172
01:04:48.500 --> 01:04:50.540
So anyway, I'm glad that it's helpful.

1173
01:04:51.980 --> 01:04:53.900
Let's see if I missed anything else.

1174
01:04:58.140 --> 01:05:00.060
Oh, okay, so Lori says, Ashley.

1175
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:03.280
I think that's why you can connect with people so well.

1176
01:05:03.280 --> 01:05:05.120
You don't approach them expecting a result

1177
01:05:05.120 --> 01:05:06.800
after you talk to them.

1178
01:05:06.800 --> 01:05:08.160
Yes.

1179
01:05:08.160 --> 01:05:10.360
I have never said, I don't know.

1180
01:05:10.360 --> 01:05:11.480
Maybe I have said that.

1181
01:05:11.480 --> 01:05:12.320
I think I have said that,

1182
01:05:12.320 --> 01:05:14.280
but I haven't said it in so many words.

1183
01:05:15.200 --> 01:05:18.280
But that is exactly what I'm doing.

1184
01:05:18.280 --> 01:05:20.200
And I actually thought of it in these words

1185
01:05:20.200 --> 01:05:21.960
either today or yesterday.

1186
01:05:21.960 --> 01:05:23.120
I thought, oh yeah,

1187
01:05:23.120 --> 01:05:25.120
I need to actually put that in words sometime

1188
01:05:25.120 --> 01:05:26.240
if that's what I'm doing.

1189
01:05:26.240 --> 01:05:27.200
But exactly.

1190
01:05:27.200 --> 01:05:29.400
You do not approach,

1191
01:05:29.400 --> 01:05:30.240
oh, okay.

1192
01:05:30.240 --> 01:05:31.120
Remember when I,

1193
01:05:31.120 --> 01:05:33.800
it was in a post that I posted just recently

1194
01:05:33.800 --> 01:05:34.640
where I said,

1195
01:05:34.640 --> 01:05:37.240
when you come to people, don't come with an agenda.

1196
01:05:37.240 --> 01:05:38.600
That the result,

1197
01:05:38.600 --> 01:05:39.920
what it is they choose in their life

1198
01:05:39.920 --> 01:05:41.840
is up to them and it's up to the Lord.

1199
01:05:41.840 --> 01:05:43.120
I'm out of it.

1200
01:05:43.120 --> 01:05:44.720
I'm just there for them.

1201
01:05:46.080 --> 01:05:47.560
Also, like you've said before,

1202
01:05:47.560 --> 01:05:49.680
people can feel if you approach them with an agenda.

1203
01:05:49.680 --> 01:05:52.680
See, I didn't even finish the text.

1204
01:05:52.680 --> 01:05:53.800
So you're right.

1205
01:05:53.800 --> 01:05:55.360
You'd already said all of that.

1206
01:05:55.360 --> 01:05:56.200
So yeah.

1207
01:05:56.200 --> 01:05:57.640
But yeah, absolutely.

1208
01:05:57.640 --> 01:05:59.480
So, but yeah, that's,

1209
01:06:00.400 --> 01:06:03.080
so I'm glad to know that you think

1210
01:06:03.080 --> 01:06:05.320
that I connect with people well.

1211
01:06:05.320 --> 01:06:07.280
I just allow them to be who they are.

1212
01:06:07.280 --> 01:06:09.800
They don't have to be anything different

1213
01:06:09.800 --> 01:06:11.000
when they talk to me.

1214
01:06:11.000 --> 01:06:12.160
They don't have to just,

1215
01:06:12.160 --> 01:06:13.000
they don't have to be like,

1216
01:06:13.000 --> 01:06:14.200
well, you know,

1217
01:06:14.200 --> 01:06:15.640
we have to make Ashley happy

1218
01:06:15.640 --> 01:06:16.720
or we have to be like this.

1219
01:06:16.720 --> 01:06:18.720
We have to be like that.

1220
01:06:18.720 --> 01:06:21.400
I want them to just be who it is that they are

1221
01:06:21.400 --> 01:06:22.880
and know that,

1222
01:06:22.880 --> 01:06:25.720
know that how it is that they are

1223
01:06:25.720 --> 01:06:28.120
and the struggles that they're currently having,

1224
01:06:28.120 --> 01:06:29.240
how they're thinking,

1225
01:06:29.240 --> 01:06:30.120
whether or not,

1226
01:06:30.120 --> 01:06:31.640
no matter how long they've been in the rest intense,

1227
01:06:31.640 --> 01:06:32.480
that they've gotten this

1228
01:06:32.480 --> 01:06:33.640
or they haven't gotten this.

1229
01:06:33.640 --> 01:06:34.920
It's okay.

1230
01:06:34.920 --> 01:06:37.280
They don't have to be a particular way for me.

1231
01:06:38.520 --> 01:06:39.360
They can just,

1232
01:06:40.960 --> 01:06:44.880
I am here living my life out loud.

1233
01:06:44.880 --> 01:06:46.800
I'm living, doing this

1234
01:06:46.800 --> 01:06:48.400
because this is me to live like this.

1235
01:06:48.400 --> 01:06:49.600
This is me to talk like this.

1236
01:06:49.600 --> 01:06:51.200
This is me to have a live Q&A.

1237
01:06:51.200 --> 01:06:53.360
This is how Lord and I want to live life.

1238
01:06:53.360 --> 01:06:55.200
And then whoever wants it too

1239
01:06:55.200 --> 01:06:57.080
and thinks, oh, well, that sounds fun.

1240
01:06:57.080 --> 01:06:58.720
They can join the rest intensive

1241
01:06:58.720 --> 01:06:59.840
and they can join the Q&A,

1242
01:06:59.840 --> 01:07:01.000
but that's up to them.

1243
01:07:01.000 --> 01:07:03.400
I do this because this is how I want to live life,

1244
01:07:03.400 --> 01:07:06.280
not in order to help people or have an agenda.

1245
01:07:06.280 --> 01:07:08.120
So it can be harder when it's your husband.

1246
01:07:08.120 --> 01:07:09.360
What can be harder?

1247
01:07:09.360 --> 01:07:11.600
The not having an agenda?

1248
01:07:11.600 --> 01:07:13.360
Yes, I know.

1249
01:07:13.360 --> 01:07:14.200
Absolutely.

1250
01:07:14.200 --> 01:07:15.520
It can definitely be harder,

1251
01:07:15.520 --> 01:07:18.760
but because we're more easily triggered

1252
01:07:18.760 --> 01:07:21.040
because there's something that we want,

1253
01:07:21.040 --> 01:07:22.680
but if we're finding it in the Lord,

1254
01:07:22.680 --> 01:07:26.720
we find that we're not triggered by that either.

1255
01:07:26.720 --> 01:07:30.960
But it's so often we find,

1256
01:07:30.960 --> 01:07:35.200
because husbands being one with them in soul

1257
01:07:35.200 --> 01:07:36.240
and one with them in body

1258
01:07:36.240 --> 01:07:39.240
and obviously one with them in spirit as believers,

1259
01:07:39.240 --> 01:07:44.240
there's something in us that causes us to want to,

1260
01:07:44.520 --> 01:07:45.800
good night, Sylvia,

1261
01:07:45.800 --> 01:07:49.000
that causes us to want to find in them

1262
01:07:49.000 --> 01:07:51.800
what we're supposed to seek in our union with the Lord

1263
01:07:51.800 --> 01:07:53.800
because they're the one that we're on earth

1264
01:07:53.800 --> 01:07:56.720
where we're most closely unified with

1265
01:07:56.720 --> 01:07:58.800
in spirit, soul, and body.

1266
01:07:58.800 --> 01:08:02.320
And so it's easy to project onto them,

1267
01:08:02.320 --> 01:08:04.560
more easily to project onto them in all areas

1268
01:08:04.560 --> 01:08:06.280
since we're connected in all three

1269
01:08:07.640 --> 01:08:09.680
than what it is that we want from the Lord.

1270
01:08:09.680 --> 01:08:11.960
So yeah, that one can be challenging.

1271
01:08:14.000 --> 01:08:15.320
All right.

1272
01:08:15.320 --> 01:08:18.120
Well, excuse me.

1273
01:08:19.200 --> 01:08:20.040
What time is that?

1274
01:08:20.040 --> 01:08:20.880
I think that it's time.

1275
01:08:20.880 --> 01:08:22.279
Yep, wow, we're late.

1276
01:08:23.840 --> 01:08:26.800
Does, let's see, did I miss anything?

1277
01:08:26.800 --> 01:08:29.120
Did anybody have anything before we jump off?

1278
01:08:30.439 --> 01:08:31.920
Well, I'm just gonna say

1279
01:08:31.920 --> 01:08:33.920
since I'm right in the middle of this situation,

1280
01:08:33.920 --> 01:08:35.399
like as we speak,

1281
01:08:35.399 --> 01:08:37.279
my husband texted me during our call

1282
01:08:37.279 --> 01:08:40.680
and he wants to spend like $2,000 on this thing

1283
01:08:40.680 --> 01:08:42.720
that if he doesn't buy it tonight,

1284
01:08:42.720 --> 01:08:44.760
then it's gonna go up to $5,000.

1285
01:08:44.760 --> 01:08:49.760
And it's like something, honestly, he doesn't need at all.

1286
01:08:50.680 --> 01:08:51.520
He wants it.

1287
01:08:51.520 --> 01:08:53.359
He thinks it's gonna serve him,

1288
01:08:53.359 --> 01:08:55.520
but it's not what he needs at all.

1289
01:08:55.520 --> 01:08:58.040
And so he's like telling me about it.

1290
01:08:58.040 --> 01:08:59.920
And I'm like, oh, what are you thinking of getting it?

1291
01:08:59.920 --> 01:09:01.359
Well, yeah, it goes up to 5,000.

1292
01:09:01.359 --> 01:09:03.760
I'm like asking him some questions.

1293
01:09:03.760 --> 01:09:05.840
I'm like, do you want my opinion?

1294
01:09:05.840 --> 01:09:06.760
He's like, no.

1295
01:09:06.760 --> 01:09:09.840
And then five minutes later, he's like,

1296
01:09:09.840 --> 01:09:11.800
okay, why, what would your opinion be?

1297
01:09:12.840 --> 01:09:13.960
So then I just-

1298
01:09:13.960 --> 01:09:15.880
It's a difficult conversation.

1299
01:09:15.880 --> 01:09:16.720
I know.

1300
01:09:16.720 --> 01:09:18.640
And I said, well, I think we should talk about it before.

1301
01:09:18.640 --> 01:09:19.960
He's like, isn't that what we're doing right now?

1302
01:09:19.960 --> 01:09:22.760
I'm like, this is not a real conversation, we're texting.

1303
01:09:24.319 --> 01:09:27.120
And so I just kind of asked him some more questions,

1304
01:09:27.120 --> 01:09:29.760
but the truth is like my last text to him was,

1305
01:09:29.760 --> 01:09:30.800
if you're gonna spend,

1306
01:09:30.800 --> 01:09:33.040
cause I said, don't spend it tonight.

1307
01:09:33.040 --> 01:09:35.880
If it's really worth it, we'll spend $5,000, right?

1308
01:09:35.880 --> 01:09:38.319
Cause if it's really that worth it,

1309
01:09:38.319 --> 01:09:40.040
then right, we'll just spend more.

1310
01:09:41.200 --> 01:09:42.920
I don't think it's not worth it though.

1311
01:09:42.920 --> 01:09:44.399
And so I think he'll realize that

1312
01:09:44.399 --> 01:09:46.319
after he comes down from the high

1313
01:09:46.359 --> 01:09:49.279
of like going through the click funnel and all that, right?

1314
01:09:50.680 --> 01:09:53.279
And so my last text to him was,

1315
01:09:53.279 --> 01:09:56.560
in all honesty, since you asked for my opinion,

1316
01:09:56.560 --> 01:09:58.760
if you're gonna spend two to five grand on something,

1317
01:09:58.760 --> 01:10:00.160
like I would.

1318
01:10:00.400 --> 01:10:03.120
I would think that you might want to get a business coach to help you

1319
01:10:04.000 --> 01:10:08.960
actually with the thing in your business that you are struggling with, not some fancy shiny object

1320
01:10:08.960 --> 01:10:14.080
that you think is like a band-aid but it's not really going to do the trick. It's not going to

1321
01:10:14.080 --> 01:10:17.280
save his job, it's not going to get him what he really needs to keep his job.

1322
01:10:18.080 --> 01:10:22.400
And so I'm kind of like going through the process right now and I think because I'm really tired

1323
01:10:22.400 --> 01:10:29.360
I'm in rest about it but I'm not really in rest about it because I'm like I'm like like what do

1324
01:10:29.360 --> 01:10:36.240
you say to somebody when they're wanting to make a decision it's like to you you're like no way

1325
01:10:36.240 --> 01:10:41.360
Jose at all. It's not about the money it's the fact that this is not the right thing for him

1326
01:10:41.360 --> 01:10:51.920
at all and so what do you do? It's the same thing that I was talking about was that last week about

1327
01:10:51.920 --> 01:10:58.960
empowering people when to make their own to make a decision. So really when husbands are asking

1328
01:10:58.960 --> 01:11:02.400
their wives or wives are asking their husbands but let's just talk specifically about husbands

1329
01:11:02.400 --> 01:11:07.600
because you know from that from that male perspective of they want to know that that

1330
01:11:07.600 --> 01:11:15.280
their that their wife thinks that they make very good decisions and they see that as a security

1331
01:11:15.280 --> 01:11:20.320
thing as like you know as a oh you know I'm I'm wise and strong I can lead her she she trusts me

1332
01:11:20.320 --> 01:11:24.720
whatever. So that's what that's what's happening because it happens with that's a human nature

1333
01:11:24.720 --> 01:11:28.480
thing it's not a husband thing it's not a man thing it's a human nature thing. We just see it

1334
01:11:28.480 --> 01:11:34.240
very strongly in men and just because we see certain aspects of humanity heightened in men

1335
01:11:34.240 --> 01:11:38.960
and some certain aspects of humanity heightened in women but we all have all of them. So anyway

1336
01:11:38.960 --> 01:11:43.520
that's what it is that he's really that he's really wondering and he and but ultimately deep

1337
01:11:43.520 --> 01:11:51.840
down he's not sure about himself. So the when someone is is so I always recommend that people

1338
01:11:51.840 --> 01:11:57.280
do the same thing in these situations that they do if they're trying to sell their product or their

1339
01:11:57.280 --> 01:12:04.400
service in a business which is to empower them to make their own decision empower help them clear

1340
01:12:04.400 --> 01:12:09.920
the fog of what of all of the confusion and all of the noise in which they're trying to make a

1341
01:12:09.920 --> 01:12:15.680
decision either for or against they're trying to make a decision out of fear. Like for instance

1342
01:12:15.680 --> 01:12:22.080
someone coming to you in in for your product or service and they're and they're they're like oh

1343
01:12:22.080 --> 01:12:26.080
well I don't think I want to do this or maybe they're all gung-ho about it because they're

1344
01:12:26.080 --> 01:12:30.000
they're in FOMO and they think that oh if I don't do it now well then I'm going to miss out.

1345
01:12:30.000 --> 01:12:35.200
Whatever it is it's out of fear and I find it always very I don't want anyone to come into

1346
01:12:35.200 --> 01:12:39.920
the rest intensive out of fear. So what I try to do is I help them walk through

1347
01:12:41.120 --> 01:12:46.000
um how to clear the fog from their own mind you know so I help kind of clear the fog kind of like

1348
01:12:46.000 --> 01:12:50.640
shift light on the situation not tell them that they're not thinking right and not telling them

1349
01:12:50.640 --> 01:12:57.840
you know uh that uh you know not talking to them but like by asking particular questions

1350
01:12:58.400 --> 01:13:03.520
drawing helping them draw out of themselves what it is that they really want and what it is that

1351
01:13:03.520 --> 01:13:08.960
they really think and why it is that they're really doing it not in an accusatory patronizing

1352
01:13:08.960 --> 01:13:13.920
I know better and I'm asking questions I already know the answer to and I'm just trying to get you

1353
01:13:13.920 --> 01:13:18.800
to understand you already do that but asking very sincere questions like why do you want this

1354
01:13:18.800 --> 01:13:25.040
you know why do you do this thought of the other um and and then helping them feel empowered to

1355
01:13:25.040 --> 01:13:28.720
make their own decision and know why it is that they're actually doing what they're doing and is

1356
01:13:28.720 --> 01:13:34.080
that what they really want to do so helping them to not make a decision out of fear but out of

1357
01:13:34.080 --> 01:13:39.200
their will like no this is what I want because I intend but they can't make that decision when

1358
01:13:39.200 --> 01:13:44.000
they're struggling with fear so you help helping to clear the fog out is helping them remove the

1359
01:13:44.000 --> 01:13:48.720
fear in which they're trying to make the decision that they're in that's personally what I do

1360
01:13:48.720 --> 01:13:53.200
and yes I do it with very no I'm not married so not in the exact situation that you're in

1361
01:13:53.200 --> 01:13:58.480
but I have had to walk people through this in very serious situations that had very serious

1362
01:13:58.480 --> 01:14:04.880
consequences both at work with people underneath me which I did not have to tell them yes that

1363
01:14:04.880 --> 01:14:09.920
they could do it um and I've done it through uh in personal relationship situations so I'm not

1364
01:14:09.920 --> 01:14:15.040
comparing our situations I'm just saying that that the place from which I'm speaking is not

1365
01:14:15.040 --> 01:14:22.320
theoretical it is practical but I had to choose that I believe it um and that that is how I wanted

1366
01:14:22.320 --> 01:14:30.720
to handle the situation so um you if if you just uh so you have to actually believe this and choose

1367
01:14:30.720 --> 01:14:36.400
that this is how you want to handle it in order for it to actually work um uh so anyway but that's

1368
01:14:36.400 --> 01:14:41.440
what that's what I do and it's much more it's a from a place of rest because I'm not trying not

1369
01:14:41.440 --> 01:14:45.600
coming at it with an agenda where well I know what they want and I know what they think it's

1370
01:14:45.600 --> 01:14:51.200
empowering them and helping them see that we actually believe that they can make their own

1371
01:14:51.200 --> 01:14:54.800
decision and that we're going to back them up whatever it is that they choose because it's them

1372
01:14:55.360 --> 01:14:59.760
we just bet that we're there because they've asked us a question and so thanks well

1373
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:02.520
What do you think? And why are you, you know, did you do that?

1374
01:15:02.520 --> 01:15:05.720
No. Okay. I don't know. Does that make sense?

1375
01:15:06.200 --> 01:15:09.840
Yeah, I started with that. And then I kind of like went down

1376
01:15:09.840 --> 01:15:14.240
that road a little bit. And then I was just kind of at the end,

1377
01:15:14.280 --> 01:15:17.920
I was like, he seems kind of adamant, he wants to get this

1378
01:15:17.920 --> 01:15:22.080
thing. And I really, I'm adamant, I'm just as adamant, if

1379
01:15:22.080 --> 01:15:25.480
not more that he should not get this thing. And so and I don't

1380
01:15:25.480 --> 01:15:28.000
want to control him or tell him what to do. But honestly, if you

1381
01:15:28.000 --> 01:15:32.000
knew the situation, this is like, it's not it's not at all

1382
01:15:32.000 --> 01:15:37.360
what he needs. I think the fear of actually doing what he needs

1383
01:15:37.360 --> 01:15:43.360
to do is too great. And this is an easy way out. And so I'm and

1384
01:15:43.360 --> 01:15:45.680
so you know, I asked him the question, okay, well, what would

1385
01:15:45.680 --> 01:15:50.240
be the pros and cons of getting this product versus getting a

1386
01:15:50.240 --> 01:15:55.040
business coach to help you with these things? Just to kind of, I

1387
01:15:55.040 --> 01:15:57.560
don't know, empower him, get him thinking.

1388
01:15:58.280 --> 01:16:01.120
Yeah, he, and that's why he doesn't might not want a

1389
01:16:01.120 --> 01:16:05.760
business coach is because he finds it disempowering. And this

1390
01:16:05.760 --> 01:16:10.400
other thing makes him feel that he would have control. And he'd

1391
01:16:10.400 --> 01:16:12.880
be able to have autonomy, because it's something that he

1392
01:16:12.880 --> 01:16:15.840
can get into and he can use as opposed to business coach, you

1393
01:16:15.840 --> 01:16:17.960
know, there's accountability and there's whatever. I mean, so

1394
01:16:17.960 --> 01:16:23.200
that's possibility. And but, but anyway, yeah, it's very, it's,

1395
01:16:23.480 --> 01:16:26.320
it's very interesting that he's not buying it for what it can

1396
01:16:26.320 --> 01:16:29.640
do. He's buying it for how it can make him feel. We all buy

1397
01:16:29.640 --> 01:16:32.600
things for how it is that they can make us feel and what it is

1398
01:16:32.600 --> 01:16:35.240
that we believe that that thing can affirm to us about who it

1399
01:16:35.240 --> 01:16:36.560
is that we want to believe we are.

1400
01:16:38.720 --> 01:16:39.640
Absolutely.

1401
01:16:39.960 --> 01:16:43.920
But if he gets that, without the thing, well, then he doesn't

1402
01:16:43.920 --> 01:16:44.640
need it anymore.

1403
01:16:46.280 --> 01:16:49.680
If he gets it. Yeah, if he doesn't have a product, if he

1404
01:16:49.680 --> 01:16:53.520
gets the, the what, sorry, gets the thing without the thing.

1405
01:16:53.560 --> 01:16:58.720
Yeah, yeah. If he gets, if he, if he, if he feels that way,

1406
01:16:58.920 --> 01:17:01.320
about himself without getting the thing, he no longer needs

1407
01:17:01.320 --> 01:17:05.280
the thing. So and so interestingly, I'm not saying

1408
01:17:05.280 --> 01:17:08.600
you should do this. Trust me, I'm not. I'm just, because I'm

1409
01:17:08.600 --> 01:17:11.960
not talking to specifics here. I'm using a specific to talk

1410
01:17:11.960 --> 01:17:18.480
about a, an idea into in, in your greater context, so that

1411
01:17:18.480 --> 01:17:21.600
we can apply it to all kinds of situations. And one of the

1412
01:17:21.600 --> 01:17:28.240
things that that that we can do to empower someone is that that

1413
01:17:28.240 --> 01:17:29.960
they can receive as empowerment.

1414
01:17:33.640 --> 01:17:35.360
Use me is when we

1415
01:17:38.840 --> 01:17:39.720
have what I would that

1416
01:17:41.120 --> 01:17:41.880
is,

1417
01:17:42.440 --> 01:17:47.680
is supporting them in having in making whatever decision that

1418
01:17:47.680 --> 01:17:50.800
they believe is right. Even if we don't believe that it's

1419
01:17:50.800 --> 01:17:54.480
right, and even if we believe it'll harm them, but they think

1420
01:17:54.480 --> 01:17:58.000
that it's right. And the reason I say this is, and yes, I've

1421
01:17:58.000 --> 01:18:00.520
done this in practice myself, you know, with other people, but

1422
01:18:01.280 --> 01:18:04.600
through where I get this from, is that's how God interacts with

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01:18:04.600 --> 01:18:09.400
us. He allows us to make decisions, because they make us

1424
01:18:09.400 --> 01:18:14.640
feel that we're that they help us learn to make decisions. And

1425
01:18:14.640 --> 01:18:17.200
sometimes we bear the consequences of them. But what

1426
01:18:17.200 --> 01:18:21.720
we will remember is that God let us do it not in order to see

1427
01:18:21.720 --> 01:18:24.160
that we'd be punished, and we've learned that we weren't supposed

1428
01:18:24.160 --> 01:18:27.680
to do that. But to let us know, hey, look, yeah, you know, you

1429
01:18:27.680 --> 01:18:30.720
make decisions, what is it that you want, what it is that you

1430
01:18:30.720 --> 01:18:37.520
want has value. And, and so even if just because you want it, and

1431
01:18:38.240 --> 01:18:42.480
in the end, people can feel more safe to make to make a decision

1432
01:18:42.480 --> 01:18:46.640
for or against, as long as they know that their ability to make

1433
01:18:46.640 --> 01:18:50.920
the decision is honored. And then, you know, with dignity,

1434
01:18:50.920 --> 01:18:53.240
and, you know, treated with dignity and all of that. And

1435
01:18:53.240 --> 01:18:56.240
it's very interesting, but it's fascinating that I started doing

1436
01:18:56.240 --> 01:18:59.640
that with other people. And from that, I then learned that God

1437
01:18:59.640 --> 01:19:04.200
does that with me. But, but I was just operating like that out

1438
01:19:04.200 --> 01:19:08.720
of my spirit. So I understand these things aren't, aren't fun.

1439
01:19:08.760 --> 01:19:11.480
And yes, there are real world consequences to doing things.

1440
01:19:11.480 --> 01:19:14.440
And it feels like enabling, it feels like we're actually

1441
01:19:14.440 --> 01:19:18.480
affirming the wrong thing in them. And so it all sounds

1442
01:19:18.520 --> 01:19:22.880
backwards. But the whole thing of like, why are they doing this

1443
01:19:22.880 --> 01:19:26.760
in the first place? And that's why the world and their tools

1444
01:19:26.760 --> 01:19:29.480
and how they tell us to deal with these things still hasn't

1445
01:19:29.480 --> 01:19:31.840
gotten rid of all the problems that we have in this world is

1446
01:19:31.840 --> 01:19:35.080
because it doesn't get rid of them. There's a root there. And

1447
01:19:35.080 --> 01:19:38.760
so and so sometimes you can actually help heal the healing

1448
01:19:38.760 --> 01:19:42.760
the root by affirming them in such a way that they actually

1449
01:19:42.760 --> 01:19:47.920
decide, okay, well, this is what I want to do. And so, okay, well,

1450
01:19:47.920 --> 01:19:50.480
then, you know, I know, you know, you may you make good

1451
01:19:50.480 --> 01:19:52.400
decisions, you really thought through this, and this is what

1452
01:19:52.400 --> 01:19:55.400
you decided to do for you, because it's important for you.

1453
01:19:55.680 --> 01:19:59.440
And it's important to you. And if it's important to you, then

1454
01:19:59.440 --> 01:19:59.960
it's important

1455
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:03.060
to me. And I'm excited for you. And I can't wait as opposed to

1456
01:20:03.060 --> 01:20:05.880
well, okay, we'll just see what happens. Yeah, because that's

1457
01:20:05.880 --> 01:20:11.200
not showing any actual belief in them as a person and to make

1458
01:20:11.200 --> 01:20:13.920
those decisions. She's like, yeah, you know, we can even

1459
01:20:13.920 --> 01:20:16.520
expect negative consequences. We're like, oh, I know they're

1460
01:20:16.520 --> 01:20:19.760
coming. But we're excited because of what it is that they

1461
01:20:19.760 --> 01:20:21.760
think they're going to get out of it, they're going to at least

1462
01:20:21.760 --> 01:20:27.120
get a sense of, of that ego from it, and not egos and a bad ego,

1463
01:20:27.120 --> 01:20:29.880
but like a sense of like, see, I can do things I can make

1464
01:20:29.880 --> 01:20:32.880
decisions. And they can get a hold of it. And they can feel

1465
01:20:32.880 --> 01:20:35.800
like it can make them feel a particular way for a while. And

1466
01:20:35.800 --> 01:20:39.360
we can be excited about that. And as weird as it sounds, we

1467
01:20:39.360 --> 01:20:41.440
can be excited, they're actually getting to do something that

1468
01:20:41.440 --> 01:20:44.280
they want to do, and might learn from the consequence that they

1469
01:20:44.280 --> 01:20:47.960
don't want to do that again. But we believe in them, not in their

1470
01:20:47.960 --> 01:20:51.140
actions, that our interaction with them is not based on their

1471
01:20:51.140 --> 01:20:54.800
behavior or their decisions. It's them and them themselves

1472
01:20:54.800 --> 01:20:57.520
that we choose. And that's what we do. That's what the Lord does

1473
01:20:57.520 --> 01:21:00.920
with us. And that's what we do with other people. And yes, it's

1474
01:21:00.920 --> 01:21:04.680
very hard. So that's just another way to think about it as

1475
01:21:04.680 --> 01:21:07.240
well. I'm not saying that's how you should handle the situation.

1476
01:21:07.480 --> 01:21:12.880
But I'm just saying that that is how I've handled it before. And

1477
01:21:13.360 --> 01:21:17.640
what many times with people is I got excited for them. And we're

1478
01:21:17.640 --> 01:21:20.440
talking about excited for people that were going to make

1479
01:21:20.440 --> 01:21:26.680
spiritual decisions that I disagreed with. But I, I, I

1480
01:21:26.680 --> 01:21:32.000
believed I was, I was affirming them, and who they were, if God

1481
01:21:32.000 --> 01:21:35.680
can leave us to make wild spiritual decisions without

1482
01:21:35.720 --> 01:21:38.680
stopping us, which we're all very aware that we've all done,

1483
01:21:39.280 --> 01:21:43.880
if God of the universe can do that, we can do that. And we can

1484
01:21:43.880 --> 01:21:47.400
be excited for it. And, and I'm very careful that I don't ever

1485
01:21:47.400 --> 01:21:50.080
affirm that I agree with someone about a certain

1486
01:21:50.080 --> 01:21:53.640
spiritual decision that they're going to make. But I do affirm

1487
01:21:53.640 --> 01:21:57.240
them as a person, and then making a decision that they're

1488
01:21:57.240 --> 01:22:01.160
excited about. And sometimes these people have no idea that I

1489
01:22:01.160 --> 01:22:07.600
disagree with them. And anyway, so it's just something that I've

1490
01:22:07.600 --> 01:22:13.240
learned and then they and the and it empower it makes them

1491
01:22:13.840 --> 01:22:18.280
because people ultimately deep down, meaning in the spirit,

1492
01:22:18.520 --> 01:22:21.720
they know the right decision to make, but that there's so much

1493
01:22:21.720 --> 01:22:26.240
in the way. And so I'm creating a safe environment for them to

1494
01:22:26.240 --> 01:22:29.480
feel safe enough to finally decide what it is that they

1495
01:22:29.480 --> 01:22:33.960
really want, and to no longer make decisions out of fear. But

1496
01:22:34.600 --> 01:22:38.720
I bet I need to give them that safe place first, which is what

1497
01:22:38.720 --> 01:22:42.760
God does with us, because it's a safe place first. And let's just

1498
01:22:42.760 --> 01:22:46.120
know we're safe now. So that we can make the choice later. It's

1499
01:22:46.120 --> 01:22:49.520
only if we resist to the point where he's like, okay, fine. If

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01:22:49.640 --> 01:22:54.600
my love won't draw you, and I've given you 1000s of chances, then

1501
01:22:54.680 --> 01:22:59.000
you know, then maybe you having all of this pain, maybe that

1502
01:22:59.000 --> 01:23:01.960
will, you know, maybe if I finally allow you stop

1503
01:23:02.000 --> 01:23:05.920
disallowing you to experience the pain, and finally, finally,

1504
01:23:06.160 --> 01:23:08.680
you know, remove my hand from you experiencing the pain, you

1505
01:23:08.680 --> 01:23:10.840
finally feel it because I've been holding it at bay all this

1506
01:23:10.840 --> 01:23:12.920
time, because you've been drawing it. Now that I finally

1507
01:23:12.920 --> 01:23:15.640
let my hand go, and you bear the consequence, maybe that will

1508
01:23:15.640 --> 01:23:19.160
finally spur you on to action, because my goodness didn't. But

1509
01:23:19.160 --> 01:23:22.760
God always tries the goodness first. So anyway, all kinds of

1510
01:23:22.760 --> 01:23:24.960
different ideas, you can determine how you want to handle

1511
01:23:24.960 --> 01:23:27.800
this particular situation. Because I don't know.

1512
01:23:29.280 --> 01:23:29.920
Thanks.

1513
01:23:34.320 --> 01:23:39.360
So, um, all right, I guess I will let everyone go. It was good

1514
01:23:39.360 --> 01:23:43.360
to see everybody tonight. And I didn't get to say hi, Tammy. Hi,

1515
01:23:43.400 --> 01:23:46.960
Lori, did you unmute it? Did you need something? Did you have a

1516
01:23:46.960 --> 01:23:47.400
question?

1517
01:23:47.760 --> 01:23:52.400
I just wanted to say thank you so much for the well tonight. I

1518
01:23:52.400 --> 01:23:53.280
really appreciate it.

1519
01:23:53.880 --> 01:23:56.680
You're welcome. You're welcome. I always enjoy getting on with

1520
01:23:56.680 --> 01:24:00.360
everybody. Always love getting to see everybody. Let's see who

1521
01:24:00.360 --> 01:24:04.600
else. You're welcome, Alicia. Good to see you. Bye, Tammy. And

1522
01:24:04.600 --> 01:24:07.440
who else? Did I not say? Oh, good. I said hi. I think I said

1523
01:24:07.440 --> 01:24:12.160
hi to Steph. Hey, Steph. There she is in the dark. Like a

1524
01:24:12.160 --> 01:24:12.840
horror movie.

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Bye, everybody. Love y'all.