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I'm going to go ahead and turn it off.

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Hey, how are you?

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Good. How are you?

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I'm doing good.

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Have you been resting?

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I'm doing great.

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Actually, you would not. It's a funny,

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funny that you asked that because I went to a conference the past.

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Or for three days. I was going to say the past three days.

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I didn't have what they have it yesterday.

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But Thursday through Saturday, I was at all day.

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Conference all day.

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And it's about 45 minute drive one way.

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And I was going to be at the conference.

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And I was at the conference.

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And when the, when the, the, the, the, the,

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the event that the conference ran, I was, I was getting us.

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You know, as early as like say six o'clock.

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And leave and getting to bed.

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Or I should say sometimes getting back to my house.

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At midnight.

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And then starting the next day.

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And I was like, I don't know.

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I don't know.

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Day session nine session.

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They can be very.

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And then the fellowship,

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have you ever had fellowship and gone to dinner?

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Yes.

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It was constant.

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And so, and it was great. It was really good.

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It's just that it was very long.

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And to my point.

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I.

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On Sunday.

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I slept.

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Until five.

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PM.

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Yeah.

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I mean, in the end.

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I went to bed around midnight.

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And then slept until.

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When did I sleep until.

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Oh, I think 11.

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I think it was 11 PM.

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Yeah.

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So I thought, my goodness, if I get up at 5 PM,

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am I even going to be able to sleep?

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Oh, no, I did.

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11.

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I was exhausted apparently.

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And I knew that from the very first day, actually,

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the very first day I drove home and I was like,

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I've got two more days of this.

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I don't know that I can do it.

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I feel like I'm on day three.

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Yeah.

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It was, it was good.

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And it was, it was very well done.

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And so they jam packed value.

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I was just so tired.

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So, but, you know, part of that is because, you know,

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it's not that you're doing a lot, but you're sitting there,

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you're trying to absorb.

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You're trying to learn new information. There's a lot going on.

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There's.

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Sorry, I need to turn my phone off.

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And there was various.

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You know, lots of people there.

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I really didn't even know very many people. I only knew a few.

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And then I was meeting a couple of people.

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And of those people that I knew, I met.

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Wait a minute.

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I don't know. I think I'm probably met.

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Two of them.

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It's hard to put a heart out something,

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but friends that I just never met in person.

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So my point is I really didn't need a lot of people.

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And I did that on purpose.

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It was like,

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I was so overloaded with having moved and everything being new.

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And you're bringing.

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I'm like,

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I was like,

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I'm going to go downstairs and sit in the bar.

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And then a couple of my friends ended up coming down so that my husband

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said that they could meet my husband.

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My husband came in.

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So that, so that they, we could all visit and everything.

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So anyway, point is.

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No, I have not been.

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But I'm trying to catch up.

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I tried to get, you know,

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Moving is so tiring.

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From, and then long, I mean,

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Moving in the same city.

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Is exhausting, but long distance.

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I mean, it's just, it's like, I mean, it's tiring.

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It's.

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Not only physically, but emotionally, I think.

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Emotionally.

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Especially if you're going to you're leaving someplace to go to a

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someplace else.

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I mean, it's just.

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All levels of exhausting.

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I don't like to move. I don't have to move. I'm not moving.

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Yeah, yeah, my husband was saying when we moved, he's like, Ashley, moving is like one of my top

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most hated things that it was like, I'm sorry. I think all men, I think all men,

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cause they already know that they're going to do a lot of the work.

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They're going to do all the heavy lifting. I can't blame them at all. I wouldn't look

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forward to it either. And you know, people use men so often when they're moving because

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things are heavy and they can't, they can't do it. So anyway, but yeah. So how are you doing?

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Good, good, good. Just doing good. I was it's spring break here.

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So and I'm thinking to me, it doesn't seem like spring break.

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It just seems so quick. I mean, I'm thinking, I can't believe we're in spring break.

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Um, yeah. So, um, uh, a lot of things are not like I have my month, a Monday meeting

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and they canceled it because of spring break and just several things that,

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because of spring break. So that's kind of interesting.

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Yeah. Oh, that's good. Good. Great.

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Well, do you have anything that, um, was kind of on your mind that you wanted to kind of like

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go over it's our last transformation session. Oh, but before I forget though,

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you remember you've got a personal ministry session. So something very, very, very exciting

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about that. And so it's a bit of a different, you and I still meet, meet together, you know,

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like we do on the transformation session, but the, but the focus is different. So this is just kind

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of like, you know, questions about like how to shift into rest and different areas of your life.

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And then personal ministry is actually kind of like walking through, um, I don't know,

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just areas that, um, maybe someone is, is, um, you know, hurting in or, you know,

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confused in. And a lot of times people, you know, it just depends on what comes up,

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whether it's like something recent or if it's something like way, way, way back.

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And I'm very exciting. I'm so excited. My husband offered to, um, do the personal ministry

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sessions with me. He did last time, but with the move and everything, we weren't sure if he was

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going to be able to do them because those are more his wheelhouse than mine. So his background

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in ministry for years, it's been, um, like, I don't even know how many years, um, is, uh,

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is like inner healing and, uh, and deliverance and stuff like that. And so last rest intensive,

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he did the personal ministry sessions with me and people loved it. That was their first time

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getting to meet him and interact with them. And, um, and just because he's just very, very good at

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what he does. So, um, so anyway, so I just wanted to, um, let you know that he has, um, offered to

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do them, um, with me. So I'll, I'll, we'll, both of us will be on the call. So both he and I will

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be on the call, but he'll be joining us and, and I can guarantee you you'll want, you'll love it.

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So guarantee. Yeah, it's very easy. It's very gentle. It's all about you and just kind of like,

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Hey, what's going on and whatever. And, um, anyway, so, and then we just kind of like,

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listen to a Holy spirit sleeting. He's also very prophetic. So it just kind of, he basically just

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takes the, um, what we did last time is he just kind of, you know, would ask the Lord beforehand,

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Lord, what do you have? Um, who is this person? What do you have for this person? Um, and so,

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and because he's very prophetic, sometimes he gets stuck about the person, um, meaning like,

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like stuff, like maybe that's, that's hurting or that's, um, or sometimes it's about what it is

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they're currently going through or how they're currently feeling or every now and then it's

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stuff about like what he can see about in, you know, in the future and, and whatever. So he,

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he just kind of like allows it to just be the Holy spirit to just guide him as to what needs

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to be addressed. And it depends on the person as to what comes up and all of that. So anyway,

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I just wanted to let you know, um, and yeah, and so you'll, you'll really like the time with him.

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Yeah. Um, yeah, I was going to kind of bounce something off of you. Um, um, I don't know,

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I'm, I'm kind of a dreamer. Like I've always been a dreamer and I don't know if maybe that's

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one way because God could speak to me that way when I'm asleep or just because I've always been

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a dreamer since I was young. Yeah. Yeah. Um, I remember a lot of times things didn't happen

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unless I dreamt them. Like for example, my dad's death, the big things like I would dream him and

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it would happen. Yeah. Things like that. And well, um, this particular thing,

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Um, right after my divorce, I would say, Oh, I started getting

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words and dreams. Uh, some of the words I was getting from

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other people, like ministry, right? Go places. And then some

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of the words were like, you know, God's God really wants to

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bless you. Like, you know, uh, he's going to send somebody in

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your future. And these were already dreams that I was having

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too. And I think, I believe the reason God did that back while

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he was doing that is because he already knew the way I mentally

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was. I'm an overthinker. And I was already right after the

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divorce, I was already saying, Oh no, I've been there. I've

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done that. I've got married 20 some odd years. Like my mind was

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like, I'm not going to remarry, you know, you know, at that

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point, you know, and he probably said, I'm going to have to tell

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her something because if not, the way she thinks she's going

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to, you know, like, like, she's going to settle herself in

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there. And then I'm gonna have to get her out of that one, you

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know, everything else that right. So that is why. And then

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so I started having dreams shortly after, and then a long

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time passed, and I didn't have any dreams. So I'm thinking I'm

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like, about that particular thing. And then I'm thinking,

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Oh, okay. You know, I'm thinking, No, no, that's, that's

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great. I know God doesn't change his mind. But in my mind, I'm

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thinking, you know, yes, you know, because it was kind of not

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stressful, but I just felt like, because I wasn't ready at

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that time. Of course, now. Yeah, I was the Lord still healing me

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dealing with everything. So but yet he's telling me. And I even

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I think I at one point, I even told God, I said, Well, you

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know, God, and you're not going to do anything like with me,

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like I'm thinking, you know, here I am trying to do things

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like, not, not, not romantically, I'm thinking with

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me, like, like, if you're not going to, just tell me, you

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know, the way, you know, and then in and thinking it, not

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saying it, just thinking that, and he answered me. And he said,

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No, you know, I am. You're like an onion, and I'm peeling off

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the layers, you know. So in other words, it's a process, you

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know, you go, you have to submit, surrender, whatever, and

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to the process that and that's what I've been in, right. But

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along the way, then I started having dreams again. Last year,

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last year, I think I took a big break. And then I started having

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dreams again. But they were very specific. It was a man. It was a

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certain man in the dream. Okay. And at first, it was like a lot

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of vagueness, I couldn't really see. And with my God dreams, I

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they're very vivid, you know, if you have dreams, but they're,

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you know, very vivid, like colorful. And then some of the

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dark dreams that I've had. They're just that dark, I could

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just tell you right away in my dream that it's a God dream. And

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a very clear, like you're looking in HD, kind of like,

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you know, and, and, and, I mean, they're so detailed, that

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nowhere in my human mind, could you put I even think things up

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like that, right? Yeah, right. So this sudden, this was last

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year, and then still, I didn't really know how to handle these

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dreams. I've never had them like that. I, I've never understood

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that. Because the first time I got married, I was 22. Very

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I didn't know nothing. And my husband, he was six years older

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than me. Very experienced, very, he had already, he had a son, he

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had been divorced. And he, and then, and so I didn't know

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nothing, you know, and here to get married. And then years

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later, I find out there's all these issues, you know, which I

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had, you know, I don't know, I was never told anything or taught

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anything in the church or anything about, you know, I just

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heard to be a Proverbs 31 wife. That's about all that I heard

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about being a wife, but nothing about the man. So I had no idea.

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Anyway. Fast forward, and then with these dreams that are very

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clear, with a certain man that I know, I know him.

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I don't know him. I mean, not we don't have like a close relationship, but I know him.

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And and so I'm thinking, God, why are you giving me these dreams?

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Because you already know me. Like I get anxious.

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Like I'm like, you know, I get nervous.

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Like I get like, you know, for some reason, he saw fit to give me these dreams.

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Right. He said, going to give it to her probably because if I don't give her something, you know, I don't know what I'm thinking.

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But but anyway, so so then the very last dream that I've had.

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It about this man would have been maybe two months ago, last month, a month or two months, and the dream was a material presence.

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So I'm oh, and I need to tell you this because I had I I had endometriosis.

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So I had two surgeries where they took two tumors off to fibroid tumors.

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You know, yeah, they're not cancerous. They're benign, but just so this was before I had my son.

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And so anyway, for a long time, my stomach was kind of big.

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And I remember the OBGYN, he said, you know, the reason it's like that, he said, it's it's because your uterus thinks you have a baby in there.

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So the uterus is automatically he says, it's like you're five months pregnant.

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And so he said, eventually, you're going to have to have a hysterectomy, which I already had.

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But he said, because, you know, they keep growing and I I had all kinds of prayer and everything about it and everything.

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But anyway, eventually I got the hysterectomy.

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I had my stomach. Then after it, I had my hysterectomy and then my stomach.

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Well, because it was I had it removed, it was like a little bit like loose skin.

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Right. And it's to me, it's a very I haven't said it, but inside I was like, like, how can I get rid of it?

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Like I thought it and I even thought maybe having like a surgery because they have that surgery that's called.

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Like a mommy, something I don't remember what they call it, but where they.

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Yeah, a mommy tuck, right?

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Yeah, something like that. Yeah.

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You had. So then and I'm thinking that, yeah, I can't afford that, you know, but but I want it, of course.

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And then so then I get two dreams.

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This is going to freak me out. One dream.

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I'm walking around. Right. And I have no clothes on. Right.

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So I'm walking it up. And in the dream, I'm walking around.

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And I'm so confident, which I've never been confident like that in my life.

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Not even with clothes on. I'm walking around naked and there's people around.

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Right. But it's like I don't know that I'm it's like I'm not naked.

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Right. Yeah. I'm walking around and then.

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What I notice when I'm looking, I look at myself and I'm like, oh, my stomach is flat.

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And I can't stop staring at my stomach because I'm like, that's not how it really is.

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I'm thinking to myself in my dream, I'm thinking, wow, my stomach.

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And then so I'm walking around and then after a while, like in the dream, I find me like towards the end.

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Like I start like, oh, my God, like, you know, try wanting to cover myself.

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That was towards the end. But so then I have this other dream.

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And so in this dream is where this this man is.

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So in the dream, it's me and this man and we're staring at each other like in the dream.

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It's kind of like we're looking at each other.

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We're both looking like that.

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And these two big white doors, they open up.

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And then a woman, which the first thing that I look at, I don't know who it is, I don't know if it's me,

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but when I look at it goes to her stomach and her stomach is completely flat.

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And I'm like, I can't be weak to myself in my dream.

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So the doors open and I walk in, I'm thinking it's me.

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I walk in and there's people in there and they start hugging me.

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I know that he is there, like in behind, behind there in my pocket.

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Well, okay. So, last week, my cousin's wife, she works for a plastic surgeon.

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She works for a plastic surgeon.

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And I follow her on Facebook, and also follow her plastic surgeon. She's always putting videos and things on there, things like before and after.

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I find it fascinating, you know, and she put a thing on, and she said, who's ever is interested.

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My doctor is doing a study.

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worth $15,000.

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If you're interested, message me.

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And I'm like, what is this for real like what is it she goes, she said they're paying him to do this study and blah blah blah. And he's like he's been doing it forever she says she loves her doctor she said he's got good bedside manner.

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He's just professional she loves him right she's.

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So I said is it for real she was yes you know, you know, I'll give you the number and you can make the appointment so I called, and she asked me the question was yeah, you qualify.

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She said so she set up the appointment for next month. Yeah, for April.

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like, I mean, I mean it sounds vain.

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Oh, excited for you.

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But if you have a part of you that you're so self conscious about.

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God knows just how.

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It's a good.

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I can't believe that this is, you know, really.

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And then my I told my niece she's young she's younger. She goes.

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I've never heard that I've never heard them doing that kind of study. She was I've heard them doing all the she works that hospital.

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And my sister's a nurse.

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I've never heard, you know, they've heard a lot of all kinds of studies, but like we've never heard like a plastic surgeon study. She goes like that like a to me text goes, oh my god.

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And then when I asked that the girl goes, we're getting so many calls we were really having to, to like turn people away. And it was weird that on Facebook when she put it.

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I was on on there when she put it. I exactly. Yeah, that's fine. Yeah, so you could get it first. Wow. That is incredible.

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I am so ridiculously excited.

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Abundance. Yeah.

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And, you know, well, you know, God, even though I didn't vocalize it I never asked you for it. It's like you knew that I, and the fact that I got these two dreams, and in there, like, I have some and I, and she had a tummy tuck my, my wife's my cousin's

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wife has three, three kids.

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And she showed me her stuff.

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Like, like, like, like, like, like, how do you say a washboard like, I mean just like, Oh yeah, yes.

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Oh, what a gift.

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Yeah. Oh, that's wonderful. A dream manifested.

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But, I mean, just that quick I mean it was just amazing. Well, anyway, that's, that's a desire in my heart even though it's like something in the natural, I mean something.

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But what I was going to ask you about the dreams is, is there something like when you have kind of prophetic dreams like that, is there something that you should be doing.

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Like, of course I prayed and asked the Holy Spirit like to show me, you know, give me insight or there's anything that I need to do or what but is there like anything that I should be doing with something like that.

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Well, so any dreams away are you talking in general or are you talking specifically about the fact that God's give me a dream about this man.

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I mean, but I'm trying to ask like which one should I be directing me. Yeah, well both because I'm, like I said, I've never heard of this and I've asked some people and they looked at me like, you're crazy.

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And so, but then again it's not. This is my second marriage, and

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really do believe that, you know, I had told God when he gave me those words, that he get

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that I started getting those words, I said, you know, I don't want to, you know, I don't

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really want to remarry. But if you want me to, like if this is somebody that you've chosen,

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then I trust you, you know, because I wouldn't trust myself again, you know. Yeah. But so

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I don't understand it. Honestly, I don't. Because you talk to some people and they don't

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believe they believe no, that's, that's, that's just you. That's not God. Like that's,

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that's, that's in the flesh or whatever. And then some other people, they, they say, oh,

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no, you know, God does do that, you know, so. Oh, yeah, absolutely. Oh, yeah. I mean,

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my goodness. It's I mean, how could we, how could we deny it when Daniel Wiggett dreams

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or maybe he, maybe what is recorded is his visions. I don't remember. But anyway, there's

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Joseph had dreams, you know, Jacob had dreams, you know, people. And then it said that God

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spoke to them through dreams that they would see into the spirit realm through dreams.

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And so no, I mean, my goodness, God has, has just proven, even through the Bible, and let

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alone today, that all that he, that's one of the ways in which he talks to us. So one

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of the things that I think of is think of is really important is if you're already,

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so a lot of people come to me about the fact that they want to dream and don't. And so

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what I tell them is, you know, it's important that whatever dream that you get, when you

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wake up, whatever you remember about that dream, and it can be the tiniest little detail,

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it could be the fact that you saw, you know, a bluebird, write that down. Because what

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it's doing is it's honoring the fact that God has given you something and you were trying

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to, and you were acknowledging and appreciative of what it is you've received, you don't understand

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it or whatever. But it's, it's, it's letting the Lord know through setting your intention,

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in other words, your free will decision that I would like to receive more, I'd like to,

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you know, steward this, so to speak. In other words, acknowledge it, honor it, treat it

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appropriately, etc. And I would like more of it. So that's to get more dreams. And who

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knows, maybe that would help you get more specific dreams, or maybe God would begin

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to reveal more about what those things mean. But as far as like, when he's given you stuff,

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like what to do with it, it's important that we always agree with it. And we don't even

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have to know what it is that we're agreeing with. But we have to, the agreement is the

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fact that God has given you something about some aspect about himself, he's, he's entrusting

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you with information, he's entrusting you with the future, he's entrusting you with possibility,

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he's entrusting you with knowledge, so to speak. And, and so we want in so agreeing with it

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is receiving it is saying, Lord, you know, I fully receive what it is that you have given me of

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yourself. Again, you know, as I keep saying, and I and I appreciate it, and I honor it,

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and I treat it appropriately, I value it, it's, and I'm, I am marking that it is significant.

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I am marking with myself, with the fact that I'm treating this with as as significant,

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I am marking this as as something that matters, and it's valuable. But it doesn't mean that again,

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it's doing it because of who it came from, not because you understand it. Because a lot of times

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you're going to have stuff and as I'm sure that you have, that you don't understand, you know,

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it's a God dream, but you're like, I don't understand this, you know, so understanding

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isn't part of whether or not you agree with it. We agree with it, because God sent it and gave

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it to us. And so we're like, but we don't have to understand it, we don't have to even know

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what it is that we're agreeing with. But we're receiving and at the aspect of God that he is

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giving to us, he's entrusting us with that we get to receive into ourselves, you know,

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and all of that, meaning that we then get to whatever it is we receive the Lord, we get to

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participate in, we get to, you know, co create with him, we get and, and I don't know, I can't

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think of a better word than participate with him. So that is important. It's important to just to

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value and to treasure it and whatever. And then you can obviously ask the Lord for understanding,

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ask for wisdom, and then you can seek wisdom in how to discern and understand.

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dreams. You can do that. But as far as like what to do with stuff, like, especially even if you're

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like, okay, well, it looks kind of obvious as to what it means. It's always important to not

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consider obvious because, well, yeah, but what does Holy Spirit mean by it? Um, but, um, and so

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it's important to always ask him, even if we think, oh, I've got this figured out, we probably

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don't, but the other thing is it, uh, is it safe for instance, you know, that God has given you

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this dream in which you are in which there's always this man. Now, I don't know if it's one

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of those things where God has confirmed to you point blank, you will marry him. Or if it's like

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you're, there's this wonderment, Hey God, do you keep presenting him? Because that you're saying,

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you know, I'm going to marry him. So whichever it is, but I always tell what I always recommend to

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people is, um, to treat this the same as we do anything else that we think that God has said

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is especially about, and you would, you would think that, I mean that, and it's not somebody

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that I would want to be interested in. Like, it's not like, like, oh yeah, I want that person. No,

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no, nothing like, so it's, so that's why it was like originally, uh, he kind of got on my nerves

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originally when I first met him. So I know that it's not me thinking this man, like,

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like I like him or have a crush on him. No, it's not that at all, because I'm not, if it's not

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somebody that I have said. Yeah. Which makes it easier to more clearly hear the Lord because

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you're not as emotionally attached. Now what we have to be careful is to not reject it because

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we emotionally wouldn't want to honor that we, that we're not naturally drawn to them, but

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it is more easy to hear, um, than if you just really, really, really, really like it.

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Yeah. Well, I, I think that is because, you know, I wasn't attracted to any men,

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I wasn't, uh, I wasn't interested in any man at all. So at all, like, because, uh, um, you know,

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what had happened, I probably, I said, you know, like, no, no, no, you know, well, the Lord was

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healing me and all that. So I was not interested in anybody. So, uh, even though, you know, he's,

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he's nice and everything. Um, I, yeah, I just, uh, so I, and that's how I know that it's not

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me wanting it. Yeah. Uh, because really, and then, and it's weird how God, I have got two

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dreams of two other men in the past, you know, and these were men that,

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I don't, I, that they were warning dreams and some very specific things God showed me about

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them in a dream. I would say warning like that, just kind of like there's this and this,

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why would you be showing that when I don't need even, I'm thinking to myself when I'm not even

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interested, I'm not even, uh, but then later on one of those men, which when I had the dream

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at that time, I wasn't, didn't know him well or nothing. He was just like a Facebook, uh, friend.

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Yeah. Later on, I found something out and that he was asking a friend about me and this and that.

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So the, it, it could just be that, you know, maybe he was praying. I'm not sure why I would have had

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the dream, but anyway, it's just interesting how, how God will, will show you things and

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kind of like, just like as a, as a caution or, you know. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. But, um, as far as like,

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you know, what to, what to do about stuff that God reveals, particularly if it has to do with

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the future. Um, I found that it makes a world of difference, you know, because we're wondering,

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what do I agree with? And what do I believe in? You know, if God has made a promise, so to speak,

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in other words, he said something is going to happen, or maybe he's just saying it could happen,

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or he's making a promise that of such and such will happen, you know, um, it's important.

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And you know what, Ashley, I, I finally said, you know, cause on Facebook, uh, I would follow him

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and he just, he's very outspoken and very nice. He got on my nerves. I'm thinking,

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Oh, like, I don't really like all he's saying. And I'm going to snooze him on.

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So I'm not really liking all that, you know, at the time.

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So let me take so then I go to prophetic conference.

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This was Cindy Jacobs like two years.

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This year was the last year you know she does that annual. This was the first time I had ever gone.

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And so, you know, there's tons of profit that's all that's all there is there. Yeah. And so I went and this was, oh, it was that night was a pastor, a pastor.

421
00:35:27.000 --> 00:35:30.000
Florida. He was approaching.

422
00:35:30.000 --> 00:35:38.000
And he brought in a team from I don't know where a team to minister and and so he said if you need prayer.

423
00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:40.000
You know, come up.

424
00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:52.000
And then one of the words that the lady gave me at that conference was, I mean, hit the tone change.

425
00:35:52.000 --> 00:36:00.000
And when she told me, she said, God says, did not I tell you that I would do it.

426
00:36:00.000 --> 00:36:05.000
She said, I can, and I will.

427
00:36:05.000 --> 00:36:14.000
Why did you stop believing, like, and, and, and specifically he said, she said that man.

428
00:36:15.000 --> 00:36:23.000
I mean, that was the only word I got. That was it.

429
00:36:23.000 --> 00:36:30.000
And I'm like, Lord, you know, but yeah sounds like.

430
00:36:30.000 --> 00:36:44.000
I'm sorry but you know, it's, I don't know, it's kind of hard. Sometimes I think to me, Lord, why did you like have to tell me, like, why, you know, wouldn't have been easier if I didn't get nothing.

431
00:36:44.000 --> 00:36:54.000
This is like, let me just surprise her, you know, you know, thinking I'm like, why, you know, I don't know, you know, yeah.

432
00:36:54.000 --> 00:37:02.000
Anyway, yeah, so I was like, I was like, how would you say

433
00:37:02.000 --> 00:37:05.000
not

434
00:37:05.000 --> 00:37:10.000
a pop out like you say in Spanish when they. Yeah.

435
00:37:10.000 --> 00:37:16.000
So, well, I've been trying to partner with the Lord.

436
00:37:17.000 --> 00:37:19.000
And interested.

437
00:37:19.000 --> 00:37:24.000
I'm not going to put my emotions into it, I'm not going to.

438
00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:45.000
I trust you, you know, I said that, whatever you and I know we get to choose, you know, we get to choose. But, but we like I, you know, I said I just had to repent, you know, because it wasn't, you know, because I, I, you got on my nerves and then I was

439
00:37:45.000 --> 00:37:48.000
not wanting to.

440
00:37:48.000 --> 00:37:54.000
Yeah, I was like, Okay, God, you know, I have to,

441
00:37:54.000 --> 00:38:06.000
you know, keep my emotions out of it, because it's not about that and you said that's so like relationships in marriage, I mean I haven't been married like 22 years.

442
00:38:06.000 --> 00:38:14.000
You know, it's not about, you know, every day it's not about like oh am I in love or anything like that it's about choosing.

443
00:38:14.000 --> 00:38:19.000
It's not about it's about choosing every day to be like okay.

444
00:38:19.000 --> 00:38:22.000
Making it work and, you know, yes.

445
00:38:22.000 --> 00:38:23.000
Yeah.

446
00:38:23.000 --> 00:38:36.000
Yeah, it's, it's, in other words it's, it's a choice to love. It's, it's a choice that you have to make before you even some days you may not even feel it or some days you would be so upset or you're just like, Oh, you get on my last nerve.

447
00:38:36.000 --> 00:38:42.000
Still, you have to make the choice to love no matter what.

448
00:38:42.000 --> 00:39:06.000
Yeah, exactly. Not easy but yeah sometimes you never know what will happen between now and whenever and, and that it's in that the, the key is to actually is to actually have faith in the one that promised, not in what he promised.

449
00:39:07.000 --> 00:39:17.000
So, it's not really that we have to believe that what he said is going to happen will happen. It's that we have to believe that he is who he says that he is.

450
00:39:18.000 --> 00:39:38.000
And then, because if he says that that thing will happen. I was like okay. Okay, Lord, you know, because, but then you know as as your will your will says you know so be it, but we just believe in the one who made that promise.

451
00:39:38.000 --> 00:39:59.000
Well, then we're going to, then we're going to receive that promise without focusing on it, and without anchoring our faith in it, because the journey to that promise being fulfilled, whatever it is, you know, is.

452
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.640
will not be straight.

453
00:40:03.640 --> 00:40:05.680
It'll be very confusing.

454
00:40:05.680 --> 00:40:07.880
And then it looks like the promise itself

455
00:40:07.880 --> 00:40:10.240
is not to and fro.

456
00:40:10.240 --> 00:40:11.960
And sometimes it seems possible

457
00:40:11.960 --> 00:40:13.960
and other times it seems impossible.

458
00:40:13.960 --> 00:40:15.960
And then sometimes it feels like,

459
00:40:15.960 --> 00:40:19.080
no God, you didn't even do it, you know?

460
00:40:19.080 --> 00:40:21.760
And so it can really,

461
00:40:21.760 --> 00:40:26.760
there's no solid footing in having our faith in

462
00:40:27.360 --> 00:40:31.040
or in the actual promise itself.

463
00:40:31.040 --> 00:40:34.440
God is always trying to communicate

464
00:40:34.440 --> 00:40:37.320
something about himself to us

465
00:40:37.320 --> 00:40:41.320
and something of himself that he is giving us.

466
00:40:41.320 --> 00:40:46.200
That thing, that promise is just a means of expressing it.

467
00:40:46.200 --> 00:40:49.920
But it's not the thing we're supposed to look at

468
00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:51.520
and focus on,

469
00:40:51.520 --> 00:40:55.800
and that we're supposed to have faith is gonna happen.

470
00:40:55.800 --> 00:40:58.160
It's that, I mean, we don't have faith

471
00:40:58.160 --> 00:40:59.200
that it's not gonna happen.

472
00:40:59.200 --> 00:41:02.120
You know, we don't like disregard it or something,

473
00:41:02.120 --> 00:41:04.160
but we don't, we're just like, okay.

474
00:41:04.160 --> 00:41:06.880
You know, because with the word

475
00:41:06.880 --> 00:41:09.760
comes everything inside the word

476
00:41:09.760 --> 00:41:13.800
that the word needs in order for it to be fulfilled,

477
00:41:13.800 --> 00:41:15.480
in order for it to be sustained

478
00:41:15.480 --> 00:41:17.920
and in order for it to manifest.

479
00:41:17.920 --> 00:41:20.840
It's all packaged within the word itself.

480
00:41:20.840 --> 00:41:23.280
So it doesn't need any help.

481
00:41:23.320 --> 00:41:27.480
God never tells us to have faith in what he said.

482
00:41:27.480 --> 00:41:29.680
Says always have faith in him.

483
00:41:29.680 --> 00:41:30.880
And him.

484
00:41:30.880 --> 00:41:32.080
Yeah, in him.

485
00:41:32.080 --> 00:41:37.080
And so we just believe in the one who made the promise.

486
00:41:39.800 --> 00:41:41.320
Just like Jesus was always saying,

487
00:41:41.320 --> 00:41:42.920
believe in the one that sent me,

488
00:41:42.920 --> 00:41:45.360
you know, kind of an idea.

489
00:41:45.360 --> 00:41:47.040
So that's the thing.

490
00:41:47.040 --> 00:41:50.920
And then that keeps us from being confused

491
00:41:50.920 --> 00:41:53.400
and being knocked about by circumstances,

492
00:41:53.400 --> 00:41:55.920
by changing circumstances and situations

493
00:41:55.920 --> 00:42:00.120
that seem to knock the promise off course

494
00:42:00.120 --> 00:42:02.560
or make us doubt that it's ever going to happen

495
00:42:02.560 --> 00:42:05.640
or it looks like it didn't happen at all or whatever.

496
00:42:05.640 --> 00:42:06.520
It's just like, you know what?

497
00:42:06.520 --> 00:42:08.520
Let's just focus on the one who promised

498
00:42:08.520 --> 00:42:10.600
because he's trying to communicate

499
00:42:10.600 --> 00:42:14.240
an aspect of his character by giving us this.

500
00:42:14.240 --> 00:42:17.120
Because so often we don't,

501
00:42:17.640 --> 00:42:19.200
he'll be thinking,

502
00:42:21.600 --> 00:42:23.760
he'll be trying to express something

503
00:42:23.760 --> 00:42:25.760
in a way that we finally get it,

504
00:42:25.760 --> 00:42:27.080
that we finally understand.

505
00:42:27.080 --> 00:42:30.040
So he's like, hey, you, this,

506
00:42:30.040 --> 00:42:31.800
just like you were saying about the dreams,

507
00:42:31.800 --> 00:42:35.080
you know, that he knows

508
00:42:35.080 --> 00:42:38.080
how you're going to receive the dream.

509
00:42:38.080 --> 00:42:40.880
He knows that you're going to understand

510
00:42:40.880 --> 00:42:42.560
when he gives you a God dream

511
00:42:42.560 --> 00:42:44.040
that that really is the God dream.

512
00:42:44.040 --> 00:42:46.160
And so he knows, okay, if I talk to her,

513
00:42:46.160 --> 00:42:47.280
she's going to hear me.

514
00:42:47.280 --> 00:42:49.880
If I talk to her in this modality,

515
00:42:49.880 --> 00:42:51.440
then she's going to get it.

516
00:42:51.440 --> 00:42:53.160
You know, it's that same kind of an idea.

517
00:42:53.160 --> 00:42:57.000
It's like, he knows what matters to us

518
00:42:57.000 --> 00:43:00.120
and he knows how we're going to take something.

519
00:43:00.120 --> 00:43:03.120
So he tries to communicate to us

520
00:43:03.120 --> 00:43:05.880
in the way that matches,

521
00:43:07.080 --> 00:43:10.240
in a way that we're going to actually see and hear him

522
00:43:10.240 --> 00:43:13.400
because it's our value system or whatever.

523
00:43:13.400 --> 00:43:15.200
So it's like, hey, I'll talk to her in that way.

524
00:43:15.200 --> 00:43:17.120
There's something I want her to know.

525
00:43:17.120 --> 00:43:20.080
So how can I talk to her in a way that she'll get it,

526
00:43:20.080 --> 00:43:21.920
that she'll hear what I'm trying to say?

527
00:43:21.920 --> 00:43:24.240
He's like, oh, okay, she's got this value system.

528
00:43:24.240 --> 00:43:25.360
I'll use this.

529
00:43:26.440 --> 00:43:29.640
And so anyway, it's, but it's,

530
00:43:29.640 --> 00:43:34.040
but what is his point in making a promise to us

531
00:43:34.040 --> 00:43:36.280
is to communicate something about himself.

532
00:43:36.280 --> 00:43:39.320
So we're always supposed to look at the promise

533
00:43:39.320 --> 00:43:42.000
as him trying to communicate something.

534
00:43:42.000 --> 00:43:43.120
And then just to,

535
00:43:43.120 --> 00:43:46.680
because he's always using a promise to point us back to him.

536
00:43:46.680 --> 00:43:47.680
So that's what we should do.

537
00:43:47.680 --> 00:43:49.600
We should get the promise and then we should think,

538
00:43:49.600 --> 00:43:52.040
oh, wow, that's what this is saying about the Lord

539
00:43:52.040 --> 00:43:56.160
as opposed to, oh God, I love this thing.

540
00:43:56.160 --> 00:43:58.080
Why hasn't it happened yet?

541
00:43:58.080 --> 00:43:59.680
And then we're just like, you know,

542
00:43:59.680 --> 00:44:03.160
and then we start using the promise as it,

543
00:44:03.160 --> 00:44:06.320
which is meant as a gift, which is meant to express God,

544
00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:09.760
which is meant as God's manner of expression of,

545
00:44:09.760 --> 00:44:11.360
hey, I am this good.

546
00:44:11.360 --> 00:44:13.440
I love you this much.

547
00:44:13.440 --> 00:44:15.480
This is who you are to me.

548
00:44:15.480 --> 00:44:18.400
This is how much you mean to me, et cetera.

549
00:44:18.400 --> 00:44:22.000
And instead we take this gift that God has gave to us

550
00:44:22.000 --> 00:44:25.120
to mean this beautiful, wonderful thing about him.

551
00:44:25.120 --> 00:44:27.680
And we choose it instead of him.

552
00:44:27.680 --> 00:44:32.000
And now take this gift that he's offered to us

553
00:44:32.000 --> 00:44:35.360
and we use it to accuse him.

554
00:44:35.360 --> 00:44:37.640
Why haven't you done this yet?

555
00:44:37.640 --> 00:44:39.600
Why hasn't this happened yet?

556
00:44:40.600 --> 00:44:43.280
And so we're really not supposed to focus on the problems.

557
00:44:43.280 --> 00:44:45.120
You're like, okay, well,

558
00:44:45.120 --> 00:44:47.440
if it's gonna happen, it'll happen.

559
00:44:47.440 --> 00:44:51.760
But God, I now see through you expressing this

560
00:44:51.760 --> 00:44:53.240
that you're that good.

561
00:44:53.240 --> 00:44:55.240
I see that you see me.

562
00:44:55.240 --> 00:45:00.240
I see that you, that my heart's desires are something.

563
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.920
that you value or that you have something for me that I haven't even wanted. You have,

564
00:45:07.920 --> 00:45:11.760
and why do you sometimes we not want it? Well, because we're like, you know what,

565
00:45:11.760 --> 00:45:20.960
been there, done that, that hurt a lot. So I'd rather have what I have now than have to do,

566
00:45:20.960 --> 00:45:25.440
go through all of that pain again. Sure. There were benefits, but my goodness, I'd rather do

567
00:45:25.440 --> 00:45:32.640
this. And God's like, you don't know what is the abundance to that I intended to be packaged in

568
00:45:32.640 --> 00:45:39.520
this thing is more than what you're settling for. So therefore I want, because I am good.

569
00:45:39.520 --> 00:45:43.920
And because you mean as much to me, this is what I want to offer you. I want to offer you something

570
00:45:43.920 --> 00:45:49.040
you've yet to experience yet to know exists, you know, et cetera. And so we just were like,

571
00:45:49.040 --> 00:45:56.800
oh, my word board, you noticed me and, and, and what, and my, your, you noticed me to the point

572
00:45:56.800 --> 00:46:06.560
that you have promised to give me something that I didn't even want. So therefore there must be

573
00:46:06.560 --> 00:46:15.360
something there that you're wanting for me and wanting to give to me because you desire more

574
00:46:15.360 --> 00:46:23.120
for me than I've desired for myself. Then I've been willing to ask you for, and you've not only

575
00:46:23.120 --> 00:46:28.720
offered it, you've promised it. So just stuff like that. And if we focus on that aspect,

576
00:46:28.720 --> 00:46:35.280
it, we can then use these opportunities in which God's made a promise to strengthen our relationship

577
00:46:35.360 --> 00:46:45.520
with the Lord, as opposed to it, it potentially hurting it because we're now using it as a weapon

578
00:46:45.520 --> 00:46:51.520
against him, you know? So anyway, those are just my thoughts. That's very good. Yes. That's very

579
00:46:51.520 --> 00:46:56.960
good. But yeah, that's what I would do about dreams and, you know, and everything is just

580
00:46:56.960 --> 00:47:02.560
come to agreement with them. And you can, you can write down what it is that you remember,

581
00:47:02.560 --> 00:47:10.080
you can seek to understand even greater depths of, you know, what they mean, you know,

582
00:47:10.080 --> 00:47:15.840
interpretation similar to, you know, speaking of tongues, Paul talks about the importance

583
00:47:15.840 --> 00:47:21.360
of interpretation. He said, he said, you know, speaking in tongues is for basically, you know,

584
00:47:21.360 --> 00:47:26.560
between you and the Lord, he's like, but it is no good to anybody else, unless there's interpreters

585
00:47:26.560 --> 00:47:32.320
like, so pray to be able to interpret, you know, the same kind of an idea about like dreams is

586
00:47:33.120 --> 00:47:37.680
if he gives us dreams, it's like, well, that's great. But if we don't understand it, you know,

587
00:47:37.680 --> 00:47:41.760
so it's like, okay, Lord. And I'm wondering if different, it means different people,

588
00:47:41.760 --> 00:47:47.440
because I've heard people that have dreams. Like I have a friend and she dreams a lot.

589
00:47:48.080 --> 00:47:56.560
And she says in her dreams that when she dreams a woman, she said it could be any woman. Sometimes

590
00:47:56.560 --> 00:48:01.440
it's different woman. She says, for me, it's always the Holy Spirit in the dream.

591
00:48:02.560 --> 00:48:07.920
Fascinating. Yeah. And I was like, really? And she goes, yeah, she said, always it's

592
00:48:07.920 --> 00:48:12.720
in her dreams is the Holy Spirit. And I'm thinking, just figure that out. Now, everybody's

593
00:48:12.720 --> 00:48:21.200
different. Their dream code between them, the Lord is always different. So between people,

594
00:48:21.200 --> 00:48:26.800
now there are some general things. There is a book that I have called the divinity code,

595
00:48:27.440 --> 00:48:36.320
and it came out of Australia. And it's generally considered to be a very strong, well founded,

596
00:48:36.320 --> 00:48:43.440
like resource. But even then, in that book, they talk about, hey, you really do just need to submit

597
00:48:43.440 --> 00:48:48.960
this to the Holy Spirit. Because this gives these are just kind of like generally what we've come

598
00:48:48.960 --> 00:48:56.800
across. But you can't have a dream and then look it up in the divinity code of that symbol or that

599
00:48:56.800 --> 00:49:03.440
what a tree means or what a bear means or whatever. And know that what it is that we tell you

600
00:49:03.440 --> 00:49:09.840
is actually what's going on in the dream. Your spirit has to tell you what it is that's going

601
00:49:09.840 --> 00:49:13.920
on in the dream. Basically, they're saying, hey, look, you can just use all of this to kind of

602
00:49:13.920 --> 00:49:19.280
like prompt conversation with the Lord, to kind of like give your spirit something some direction

603
00:49:19.280 --> 00:49:27.040
to prompt it ever prompt in the conversation. So I have the divinity code, and I just kind of like

604
00:49:27.040 --> 00:49:33.760
use it as a use it very loosely as a Okay, well, this is a possibility or whatever. But anyway,

605
00:49:33.760 --> 00:49:41.120
yeah, there are some people that know that will a bear in my dream always means x, y, and z,

606
00:49:42.080 --> 00:49:50.640
or, you know, a woman in my dream always means that, or that sometimes they'll say that,

607
00:49:51.440 --> 00:49:55.600
or like if you have a woman that appears in your dream, sometimes it's actually not

608
00:49:56.560 --> 00:49:59.840
the person themselves. It's what their name means.

609
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.000
or whatever, you know, like the person's name is Megan.

610
00:50:05.440 --> 00:50:07.840
So, well, well, what does Megan actually mean?

611
00:50:07.840 --> 00:50:09.960
And then God's trying to talk through the name.

612
00:50:09.960 --> 00:50:11.740
So it can be stuff like that.

613
00:50:11.740 --> 00:50:13.560
So that's something that you can,

614
00:50:13.560 --> 00:50:16.320
that you can pursue is just like God,

615
00:50:16.320 --> 00:50:20.160
Paul was talking about in the importance of interpretation

616
00:50:20.160 --> 00:50:23.160
in relationship to tongues, even though we talk all,

617
00:50:23.160 --> 00:50:25.520
I have always heard about speaking tongues

618
00:50:25.520 --> 00:50:26.720
and how important it is.

619
00:50:26.720 --> 00:50:29.420
I don't know that I've ever heard a single sermon

620
00:50:29.420 --> 00:50:34.420
about the importance of, or how to interpret, nothing.

621
00:50:34.980 --> 00:50:38.140
In fact, I have heard probably once or twice,

622
00:50:38.140 --> 00:50:43.020
someone actually interpret tongues, ever.

623
00:50:44.060 --> 00:50:45.700
And God's just like, hey, look, people,

624
00:50:45.700 --> 00:50:48.140
you do know there's no point in doing it in public.

625
00:50:48.140 --> 00:50:51.600
And basically he was telling the church elders,

626
00:50:51.600 --> 00:50:54.740
he was like, shut it down unless there's an interpreter,

627
00:50:54.740 --> 00:50:56.860
because then it's chaos and it's not in order

628
00:50:56.860 --> 00:50:58.900
and there's no point, right?

629
00:50:58.900 --> 00:51:00.500
Now we can, in our own relationships,

630
00:51:00.500 --> 00:51:02.340
where we can talk, but that's,

631
00:51:02.340 --> 00:51:06.220
so I'm just emphasizing the importance of interpretation.

632
00:51:06.220 --> 00:51:07.740
And it's not that dreams aren't important

633
00:51:07.740 --> 00:51:09.340
without interpretation, it's that,

634
00:51:09.340 --> 00:51:12.300
but my point is God is entrusting us with something.

635
00:51:12.300 --> 00:51:15.100
Or like, okay, God, what are you entrusting me with?

636
00:51:15.100 --> 00:51:16.660
How can I come into agreement?

637
00:51:16.660 --> 00:51:19.700
Well, one of the things is, Lord, would you,

638
00:51:19.700 --> 00:51:23.420
we can just leave ourselves open to, Lord, would you,

639
00:51:23.420 --> 00:51:25.980
I will seek how to interpret.

640
00:51:25.980 --> 00:51:27.060
And I will seek, in other words,

641
00:51:27.060 --> 00:51:29.980
how to interpret this with the Holy Spirit.

642
00:51:29.980 --> 00:51:33.980
And then, Lord, I'm opening myself up to receive,

643
00:51:33.980 --> 00:51:37.340
you know, your instruction of interpretation.

644
00:51:37.340 --> 00:51:40.780
And then let the Lord do what he wants to do.

645
00:51:40.780 --> 00:51:42.900
But at least you've become,

646
00:51:42.900 --> 00:51:45.220
at least you've opened yourself to it.

647
00:51:45.220 --> 00:51:46.900
You've opened yourself up to learning

648
00:51:46.900 --> 00:51:48.580
about interpretation or whatever.

649
00:51:48.580 --> 00:51:51.900
Because again, God's entrusting you with something.

650
00:51:51.900 --> 00:51:54.780
But until then, if God,

651
00:51:54.780 --> 00:51:57.580
if God chooses that you'll have,

652
00:51:57.580 --> 00:52:01.060
you'll receive interpretation, then that's great.

653
00:52:01.060 --> 00:52:03.900
But in the meantime, you can still receive it anyway.

654
00:52:03.900 --> 00:52:05.900
Meaning like you can receive the dream,

655
00:52:05.900 --> 00:52:08.820
you can receive, you know, you can agree with it,

656
00:52:08.820 --> 00:52:11.300
because then you can spiritually partner

657
00:52:11.300 --> 00:52:13.020
with something that your soul

658
00:52:13.020 --> 00:52:15.620
doesn't yet know how to comprehend.

659
00:52:15.620 --> 00:52:18.540
But you're still partnering with it.

660
00:52:18.540 --> 00:52:20.980
So therefore you still get to participate

661
00:52:21.860 --> 00:52:26.180
in the spiritual process that gets walked out,

662
00:52:27.180 --> 00:52:30.660
you know, in the fulfillment of the dream or whatever.

663
00:52:30.660 --> 00:52:32.700
So anyway, that's what I would say.

664
00:52:32.700 --> 00:52:34.460
Yeah. Okay. That's good.

665
00:52:34.460 --> 00:52:36.620
I mean, I was wondering,

666
00:52:36.620 --> 00:52:39.860
because I didn't know what to,

667
00:52:39.860 --> 00:52:41.140
like I prayed about it,

668
00:52:42.620 --> 00:52:46.540
but I was like, what else am I supposed to do with it?

669
00:52:46.540 --> 00:52:49.940
Because I mean, I, you know,

670
00:52:49.980 --> 00:52:53.860
but that's good that I don't want to focus on it.

671
00:52:53.860 --> 00:52:56.340
I don't want to get distracted by it

672
00:52:56.340 --> 00:52:59.580
or think I should be doing something, you know,

673
00:52:59.580 --> 00:53:01.900
just focus on God and say, you know,

674
00:53:03.300 --> 00:53:07.300
you know, just keep my eyes on the Lord and not have to,

675
00:53:07.300 --> 00:53:10.100
I don't want to be distracted by any, you know.

676
00:53:10.100 --> 00:53:11.900
Yeah. Sometimes I'm saying,

677
00:53:11.900 --> 00:53:14.540
you know, but I know that God, you know,

678
00:53:14.540 --> 00:53:18.260
he's faithful and he wants me on track.

679
00:53:18.260 --> 00:53:19.380
He doesn't want me.

680
00:53:19.780 --> 00:53:21.500
Also, he doesn't want me over here in left field.

681
00:53:21.500 --> 00:53:24.860
So I think sometimes when I dream,

682
00:53:24.860 --> 00:53:29.060
it's like, he's trying to get me back on track.

683
00:53:29.060 --> 00:53:32.020
Like he's other dreams that I've had

684
00:53:32.020 --> 00:53:36.220
where he kind of said, okay, let me, you know.

685
00:53:36.220 --> 00:53:38.420
Yeah. Yeah.

686
00:53:38.420 --> 00:53:40.660
It's also important.

687
00:53:40.660 --> 00:53:43.100
And I don't remember if you mentioned this or not

688
00:53:43.100 --> 00:53:46.060
as something that you noticed in one of your past dreams

689
00:53:46.060 --> 00:53:48.660
of why God gave you something,

690
00:53:48.660 --> 00:53:50.140
why God gave you a particular dream.

691
00:53:50.140 --> 00:53:54.500
But another thing that God could be doing in those dreams

692
00:53:54.500 --> 00:53:57.740
is getting you, oh no, you did say this,

693
00:53:57.740 --> 00:54:02.020
is to prompt you and invite you to open up.

694
00:54:02.020 --> 00:54:04.020
And you remember me talking about the fact

695
00:54:04.020 --> 00:54:06.020
that if we're not in a state of rest,

696
00:54:06.020 --> 00:54:08.500
we're in an active state of resistance

697
00:54:08.500 --> 00:54:12.060
because we're actively resisting our default state

698
00:54:12.060 --> 00:54:17.060
of perfection and new creation as new creation.

699
00:54:18.020 --> 00:54:23.020
So what God might be doing is opening,

700
00:54:24.060 --> 00:54:26.140
is presenting something

701
00:54:26.140 --> 00:54:28.380
when you take dreams very seriously,

702
00:54:28.380 --> 00:54:30.860
you're like, oh my word, they're always fulfilled.

703
00:54:30.860 --> 00:54:32.340
You know, like whenever I have a God dream,

704
00:54:32.340 --> 00:54:33.580
it's always eventually fulfilled.

705
00:54:33.580 --> 00:54:35.860
So it's like, okay, I've got precedents.

706
00:54:35.860 --> 00:54:37.540
I know what's going on here.

707
00:54:37.540 --> 00:54:40.060
And there's this, and I wasn't open to it.

708
00:54:40.060 --> 00:54:43.460
So one of the things that we have to do,

709
00:54:43.460 --> 00:54:45.540
and remember, I talked about this.

710
00:54:45.540 --> 00:54:46.700
I don't remember when I did,

711
00:54:46.700 --> 00:54:48.140
probably on one of the fireside chats

712
00:54:48.140 --> 00:54:50.500
about the difference between,

713
00:54:50.500 --> 00:54:52.860
and how we typically surrender

714
00:54:52.860 --> 00:54:56.820
versus what God really means for us to do when we surrender.

715
00:54:57.820 --> 00:54:59.940
What we typically do is we hold on to.

716
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:06.240
thing, but that we don't want to let go of, or we keep ourselves from something that we don't want.

717
00:55:07.120 --> 00:55:12.640
And so I'm just, um, so I'm going to just use this as an example and say, for instance, that you're

718
00:55:12.640 --> 00:55:16.080
like, I really don't want to get married. And I really don't want to get married to this guy.

719
00:55:16.080 --> 00:55:19.440
You know, let's just say that, you know, I'm not saying that you're that extreme,

720
00:55:20.000 --> 00:55:26.000
but I'm just using this as an example. So it's, it's, we're either we're cutting ourselves off

721
00:55:26.080 --> 00:55:31.920
from something we're keeping ourselves walled up and closed up against something, or we're

722
00:55:31.920 --> 00:55:36.080
holding very tightly onto something. We don't want to let go either way. It's resistance.

723
00:55:36.080 --> 00:55:41.280
It's either way. There's a title. There's a restriction. There's a, there's a constriction.

724
00:55:41.280 --> 00:55:49.680
Right. And so what surrender it and what we, what we think surrender is, is like, okay, God,

725
00:55:49.680 --> 00:55:54.480
if you're holding onto something, you're like, okay, God, I'm, I'm, this is really hard for me,

726
00:55:54.480 --> 00:56:00.240
but I finally come to the point. I'm going to be really big, you know, and really brave. And I am

727
00:56:00.240 --> 00:56:06.480
going to give you permission to come and rip this away from me, but I'm going to hold onto it with

728
00:56:06.480 --> 00:56:09.920
all that I'm worth. And we don't know that we're doing that, but that's what we're doing. We're

729
00:56:09.920 --> 00:56:14.320
holding onto it with all the wall worth, but we're giving God permission. And this is what we think

730
00:56:14.320 --> 00:56:20.080
is surrender that I'm surrendering to you by allowing you to come and rip it away from me.

731
00:56:20.640 --> 00:56:24.960
So if you've ripped it away from me, if you come and rip it away from me, you know what I gave

732
00:56:24.960 --> 00:56:29.680
permission, you know, and that's what we think surrender is. And, or, you know, we protect

733
00:56:29.680 --> 00:56:35.120
ourselves from it. Well, God, you know, if, if, if you want me to have it, well, then you'll just,

734
00:56:35.120 --> 00:56:39.840
you'll just force it to happen. You know, despite the fact that I'm just all against it and you'll

735
00:56:39.840 --> 00:56:44.720
just break down the walls and I'll just, you know, and it'll just happen. And neither of that is

736
00:56:45.280 --> 00:56:52.560
surrender because both of that is a violate. We're calling on God to violate us, to violate our free

737
00:56:52.560 --> 00:56:59.360
will, to violate what you know, the wall that we put up or to rip something out of our hand.

738
00:56:59.360 --> 00:57:06.080
And that's the equivalent of rape or some other kind of violation. I mean, we're just like,

739
00:57:06.080 --> 00:57:12.320
we understand that rape is violation. What we do not. In other words, it is not consensual,

740
00:57:12.320 --> 00:57:19.360
but what we don't understand is that if we are telling God, God, I gave you perm is that our

741
00:57:19.360 --> 00:57:25.360
idea of surrender is, is God giving God permission to violate our free will. And God's like, no,

742
00:57:25.360 --> 00:57:33.840
that is not surrender. Surrender is what Abraham did. Surrender is he, God asked Abraham for Isaac

743
00:57:34.400 --> 00:57:39.120
or commanded him. I don't remember how it worked out. The point is he said, I want your son.

744
00:57:40.080 --> 00:57:45.840
And so what did Abraham do? Abraham had to prepare for the trip. He had to plan for the trip. They

745
00:57:45.840 --> 00:57:50.480
had to prepare for the trip. Then he had to prepare other people for the trip without telling them

746
00:57:50.480 --> 00:57:57.600
what it was all about. Then he had to actually journey three days as a very, very old man.

747
00:57:58.320 --> 00:58:02.080
And then he leaves all of his servants without explaining anything to them,

748
00:58:02.880 --> 00:58:08.720
telling them that they'll be back. And then, and then he takes Isaac not explaining anything to

749
00:58:08.720 --> 00:58:15.680
him either. And then walks as a very old man goes up a mountain. Then together, they set up an altar

750
00:58:15.680 --> 00:58:23.680
and then he puts his son on the altar. I mean, Abraham had to do everything. God asked Abraham

751
00:58:23.680 --> 00:58:31.760
did everything that is surrender. It's like where God asks and we're the ones who go through all of

752
00:58:31.840 --> 00:58:41.520
the process of actually giving this thing over to him and putting it in his hands by acting by faith

753
00:58:41.520 --> 00:58:48.960
that he is safe, acting on it by actually leaving something with him and entrusting him with it

754
00:58:49.520 --> 00:58:55.840
and saying, God, this is yours. I'm truly giving it to you. It's no longer mine, letting it go

755
00:58:55.840 --> 00:59:01.760
and walking away. And we're terrified of that for multiple reasons. But one of it is we feel

756
00:59:01.760 --> 00:59:08.320
like we're abandoning our own baby. We're like, not all, because if anything bad happens,

757
00:59:08.320 --> 00:59:13.440
not only did where are we disappointed pointed in God, but we have no one to blame but ourselves

758
00:59:13.440 --> 00:59:19.680
when that thing needed our protection and for us to protect it against God. And we failed it. I mean,

759
00:59:19.680 --> 00:59:24.640
we're just like that. So we feel disappointed in God. And then we're disappointed in ourselves

760
00:59:24.640 --> 00:59:29.440
that we weren't strong enough and brave enough or whatever. This is how we this is subconsciously

761
00:59:30.000 --> 00:59:36.960
what why we are afraid or what our what our thought processes or feelings are towards this

762
00:59:36.960 --> 00:59:45.600
whole scenario is I am to blame. I've abandoned the thing that is most precious to me, that was

763
00:59:45.600 --> 00:59:52.720
counting on me to protect it. And that thing that we're protecting is us, our hearts, you know,

764
00:59:52.720 --> 00:59:59.920
our mind, our future, our whatever, you know, and, and, anyway, but that is what's around.

765
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:13.000
Because God says, no, what I'm asking you to do is I'm asking you to be truly vulnerable and entrust me with yourself, where your hand is now completely off of it.

766
01:00:13.000 --> 01:00:20.000
You basically, what it feels like is it feels like you abandon it to God.

767
01:00:21.000 --> 01:00:33.000
And that surrender. So anyway, it goes the same way, whether we're holding on tightly to something or we're protecting ourselves against something coming that God wants to give us or whatever.

768
01:00:33.000 --> 01:00:43.000
So, if God is saying, hey, look, I have this promise for you, the way that we agree with it is we actually let down the wall.

769
01:00:43.000 --> 01:00:50.000
We're letting down the wall. We're not pursuing the guy, you know, doing all the work. We're not doing that.

770
01:00:50.000 --> 01:01:01.000
We're just finally not resisting it anymore so that the word of God can carry it can carry out what God intended it to.

771
01:01:01.000 --> 01:01:09.000
Because it says that his word doesn't come back to him void and always accomplishes that which you set it up to do so it can. We're allowing it to finally do that.

772
01:01:10.000 --> 01:01:25.000
Again, always in rest, we never do anything. We have to stop the resistance. So that's the agreement that is sometimes needed when God is I'm telling us stuff and dreams, dreams like that or promises or whatever.

773
01:01:25.000 --> 01:01:31.000
It's to lay down, it's inviting us to lay down the resistance. That's how we partner with.

774
01:01:32.000 --> 01:01:42.000
We don't partner with it by okay now. Okay, so I have to go meet the guy, you know, and this is me having faith in the Lord and this is me taking action on the on the faith in the Lord.

775
01:01:42.000 --> 01:01:47.000
God said I'm going to marry him so therefore, okay, what do I need to do to show that I believe God.

776
01:01:47.000 --> 01:01:56.000
God's like stop the resisting. Stop saying no God, you know, okay, fine Lord if you say it's going to happen, it'll happen, but I really don't want it to.

777
01:01:57.000 --> 01:02:13.000
And I'm just, I'm just, there's some aspect of yourself you can feel you can feel the resistance you can feel that I don't want to you can feel some kind of an aspect of lockdown fear, you know, whatever that thing needs to be dismantled.

778
01:02:13.000 --> 01:02:26.000
And so what happened to me is I wanted to be, I wanted to be married for forever. And, and ever since I was a little girl that's, that was my life goal, wanted to get married have kids you know all of that.

779
01:02:27.000 --> 01:02:33.000
Well, um, so, and nothing is happening. I mean I wasn't even.

780
01:02:33.000 --> 01:02:45.000
Not only was I not, and I'm talking just generally here not only was I not dating. I wasn't getting asked. I mean I have very rarely been asked on a date in my life.

781
01:02:46.000 --> 01:02:59.000
And I've never gotten to the point where someone asked me to be their girlfriend, you know, or anything so I mean I just never. Anyway, so I'm thinking, well I just haven't felt like the Lord I just this.

782
01:02:59.000 --> 01:03:14.000
Nothing is, is even happening even remotely close to any of this but God I want it so badly why aren't you allowing it to happen. Am I just not as important as other people am I not as woman enough am I not whatever all of these questions you know my mind.

783
01:03:15.000 --> 01:03:21.000
And I think it was October. Yeah, it was October 2021.

784
01:03:21.000 --> 01:03:33.000
And I had Ed and I had known each other for a year, I guess, and he and I had just seen each other that that weekend.

785
01:03:34.000 --> 01:03:48.000
And, again, dress friends. In other words, we had confirmed it. When we were just together for a weekend I mean we're just like hey look this is a justifier I mean we didn't talk about it, but both of us confirmed kind of for ourselves I was just a friend

786
01:03:48.000 --> 01:04:02.000
deal, you know, and, and so but I remember him leaving, and, and I was just like you know Lord again completely separate from it, just me just in my own head and just like Lord you know what are some things that I want to do.

787
01:04:02.000 --> 01:04:14.000
I really want to get married. And I don't understand why it hasn't happened yet. But I told him I said, I said Lord you know, I am finally ready to date.

788
01:04:14.000 --> 01:04:25.000
They're evolving all kinds of reasons why I haven't wanted to date, I wanted to, I wanted to it to be special and only date the man that I would eventually marry.

789
01:04:26.000 --> 01:04:34.000
rules and all these pretty little ways that I wanted it to happen and look and the story to be and whatever. And I finally just gave it all up.

790
01:04:35.000 --> 01:04:55.000
I'm, I'm, I wish I could remember what I told him exactly but it was just the general idea of like Lord I'm ready to, I'm ready to get married, or release any holes that I have any on any on any emotional expectations that I was holding before you of how it would

791
01:04:55.000 --> 01:04:59.000
look, and who would be with and what it would be like.

792
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:01.840
I just, oh, that's what I told him.

793
01:05:01.840 --> 01:05:04.800
I said, Lord, I believe that you intended my life

794
01:05:04.800 --> 01:05:08.160
to be more enriched than I'm letting it be.

795
01:05:09.040 --> 01:05:11.560
I believe that life can be bigger

796
01:05:11.560 --> 01:05:16.560
and feel more densely rich than I am letting it.

797
01:05:18.480 --> 01:05:21.520
And I asked Lord, I don't know what that would look like,

798
01:05:21.520 --> 01:05:26.520
but I ask that you would enrich the life that I have

799
01:05:26.760 --> 01:05:28.780
because Lord, I feel that I have a really good life.

800
01:05:28.780 --> 01:05:29.620
And that's what I told him.

801
01:05:30.240 --> 01:05:31.520
I said, Lord, I feel whole.

802
01:05:31.520 --> 01:05:33.320
I don't feel like I'm missing anything.

803
01:05:33.320 --> 01:05:35.040
I don't feel like I'm missing in person.

804
01:05:35.040 --> 01:05:36.960
I don't feel like I'm missing not being married.

805
01:05:36.960 --> 01:05:37.960
I mean, meaning like,

806
01:05:37.960 --> 01:05:40.320
as if there's this part of me that's empty.

807
01:05:40.320 --> 01:05:42.920
I said, I don't feel like, I feel really whole

808
01:05:42.920 --> 01:05:46.520
because now you've worked with me on my identity

809
01:05:46.520 --> 01:05:48.120
and I feel whole in you.

810
01:05:48.120 --> 01:05:51.000
I said, but it's almost like I feel that more

811
01:05:51.000 --> 01:05:56.000
can be compressed in this wholeness than I'm allowing.

812
01:05:56.060 --> 01:06:01.060
And so I'm just asking that you just enrich my life.

813
01:06:02.180 --> 01:06:05.180
And if that includes dating Lord,

814
01:06:05.180 --> 01:06:06.860
then I'm finally open to it.

815
01:06:06.860 --> 01:06:09.500
Even if it's dating a man that I'll never marry.

816
01:06:09.500 --> 01:06:11.460
If it's just dating for a while,

817
01:06:11.460 --> 01:06:13.460
if it's just dating to have fun.

818
01:06:13.460 --> 01:06:16.220
And these are not things that I had told the Lord before.

819
01:06:16.220 --> 01:06:19.540
So these are not things I had been open to before.

820
01:06:19.540 --> 01:06:23.100
I mean, like I literally had to emotionally open myself

821
01:06:23.100 --> 01:06:27.840
to finally stop emotionally obligating God

822
01:06:27.840 --> 01:06:29.720
to a particular type of love story,

823
01:06:29.720 --> 01:06:32.120
to a particular way of me living life,

824
01:06:32.120 --> 01:06:33.680
for things to happen,

825
01:06:33.680 --> 01:06:35.920
no longer emotionally obligated myself

826
01:06:35.920 --> 01:06:39.360
to uphold any of those, I don't know,

827
01:06:39.360 --> 01:06:42.020
fairytale standards I had in my mind or whatever.

828
01:06:43.000 --> 01:06:44.840
So anyway, I told the Lord that.

829
01:06:44.840 --> 01:06:47.440
A few days later, I think that was on a Monday

830
01:06:48.520 --> 01:06:51.040
and it was either on a Sunday or a Monday.

831
01:06:53.160 --> 01:06:54.000
Was it Wednesday?

832
01:06:54.000 --> 01:06:57.920
Wednesday night, I went to where Ed was

833
01:06:57.920 --> 01:06:59.600
and I was just gonna stay there at Morningstar

834
01:06:59.600 --> 01:07:02.320
just to hang out for the next several days.

835
01:07:02.320 --> 01:07:07.320
And so he and I were there with his friends and everything.

836
01:07:07.760 --> 01:07:10.240
And then I think it was Thursday,

837
01:07:10.240 --> 01:07:12.600
very next day, something was different.

838
01:07:14.040 --> 01:07:16.600
And all of a sudden I became interested in Ed.

839
01:07:16.600 --> 01:07:18.200
I'd never been interested in Ed.

840
01:07:19.180 --> 01:07:23.340
And all of a sudden I was like, oh my word.

841
01:07:23.340 --> 01:07:24.300
And not only that,

842
01:07:24.300 --> 01:07:27.200
I wasn't used to feeling those feelings about any man.

843
01:07:28.140 --> 01:07:33.140
And all of a sudden, I was 37 years old.

844
01:07:33.540 --> 01:07:35.620
And I'm like, just discovering this part of life.

845
01:07:35.620 --> 01:07:37.720
I'm like, this is so weird.

846
01:07:37.720 --> 01:07:39.540
What on earth is going on inside of me?

847
01:07:39.540 --> 01:07:40.380
Why aren't I-

848
01:07:40.380 --> 01:07:44.360
You'd be surprised, that is not that rare.

849
01:07:44.360 --> 01:07:47.140
There is a lot of women that are not like that.

850
01:07:47.160 --> 01:07:49.120
I'm serious, I have a lot of friends.

851
01:07:49.120 --> 01:07:53.000
Women are not like, yeah, that's, yeah.

852
01:07:53.000 --> 01:07:57.840
I think men are more like, women are just not like that.

853
01:07:57.840 --> 01:08:00.480
Like, I think, I mean, you will see some women,

854
01:08:00.480 --> 01:08:04.960
but in general, there's just a lot of women that are not-

855
01:08:04.960 --> 01:08:06.320
They're not like that as much.

856
01:08:06.320 --> 01:08:08.840
Like, ooh, they see a man and be like,

857
01:08:08.840 --> 01:08:11.400
yes, I want that man, or just wanna be.

858
01:08:11.400 --> 01:08:14.040
Like also, I've also heard that,

859
01:08:14.040 --> 01:08:17.020
because women aren't really attracted to a man

860
01:08:17.899 --> 01:08:20.060
unless they're emotionally connected.

861
01:08:20.060 --> 01:08:21.300
Correct, correct.

862
01:08:21.300 --> 01:08:26.260
And so, and that can't happen until you meet them

863
01:08:26.260 --> 01:08:27.800
and go out and do that.

864
01:08:27.800 --> 01:08:31.100
So really, just by looking at somebody,

865
01:08:31.100 --> 01:08:32.460
you're really not gonna be interested,

866
01:08:32.460 --> 01:08:34.460
because you don't know a woman you like.

867
01:08:34.460 --> 01:08:37.140
Yeah, so that's true.

868
01:08:37.140 --> 01:08:39.100
Well, that's good, that's good.

869
01:08:39.100 --> 01:08:41.460
And so you just decided that weekend?

870
01:08:41.460 --> 01:08:43.340
Y'all just decided that weekend?

871
01:08:43.340 --> 01:08:45.979
Yes, so I all of a sudden saw him,

872
01:08:45.979 --> 01:08:49.939
and he, at the same time, all of a sudden saw me.

873
01:08:49.939 --> 01:08:53.160
And it's because I'd finally let down that wall.

874
01:08:53.160 --> 01:08:56.700
So not only was it keeping me from seeing him

875
01:08:56.700 --> 01:08:59.020
and anything from happening,

876
01:08:59.020 --> 01:09:02.060
it was keeping him from being able to see me too.

877
01:09:02.060 --> 01:09:04.180
So as soon as I let down that wall,

878
01:09:04.180 --> 01:09:06.939
a few days later, we could both see each other.

879
01:09:06.939 --> 01:09:08.899
It was really wild.

880
01:09:08.899 --> 01:09:11.340
So the thing is, I finally let that wall down.

881
01:09:11.340 --> 01:09:13.220
I'm like, okay, God, whatever you wanna do.

882
01:09:13.220 --> 01:09:16.660
Ed was not one of my,

883
01:09:16.660 --> 01:09:18.620
I don't wanna say he wasn't one of my options,

884
01:09:18.620 --> 01:09:20.140
as if I had all these options or something.

885
01:09:20.140 --> 01:09:24.020
It's just like, it wasn't a possibility

886
01:09:24.020 --> 01:09:27.180
until all of a sudden I stopped.

887
01:09:27.180 --> 01:09:29.340
I just let that, I let that wall down,

888
01:09:29.340 --> 01:09:34.220
and then he's the one I saw, and then he saw me.

889
01:09:34.220 --> 01:09:36.220
So anyway, my whole point is,

890
01:09:36.220 --> 01:09:38.819
that's one of the ways in which we can come into agreement

891
01:09:38.819 --> 01:09:42.779
is, and then just allow the Lord to do what he wants.

892
01:09:43.380 --> 01:09:44.500
And it's amazing sometimes,

893
01:09:44.500 --> 01:09:46.260
not everything happens that fast,

894
01:09:46.260 --> 01:09:47.260
but I'm telling you,

895
01:09:47.260 --> 01:09:49.460
it is amazing how fast something will happen

896
01:09:49.460 --> 01:09:52.540
as soon as we open ourselves up.

897
01:09:52.540 --> 01:09:54.940
But it's hard, it's risky,

898
01:09:54.940 --> 01:09:56.980
because there's a reason why we have the wall.

899
01:09:56.980 --> 01:09:59.580
There's a reason why we have these desires

900
01:09:59.580 --> 01:10:00.580
or don't have them.

901
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:05.420
these desires. And, and then we're risking our were just

902
01:10:05.420 --> 01:10:09.300
entrusting ourselves in God's hands. But it's not that we so

903
01:10:09.300 --> 01:10:14.260
that is our active participation. So but it's always

904
01:10:14.260 --> 01:10:20.340
at rest. God does everything. Yes. Yes. So anyway, good. Thank

905
01:10:20.340 --> 01:10:23.580
you for sharing that with me. Thank you. You're welcome. I

906
01:10:23.580 --> 01:10:24.780
hope it's encouraging.

907
01:10:26.300 --> 01:10:29.640
Yeah, that was that was a lot. Oh, gosh, we went over. Sorry.

908
01:10:30.300 --> 01:10:34.420
No, no, no, it was it was me. I was just trying to make sure to

909
01:10:34.420 --> 01:10:39.700
drive a point home before we finish. But I'm sure and then

910
01:10:39.700 --> 01:10:45.860
the last thing is, Ed and I have a he's going out of town next

911
01:10:45.860 --> 01:10:52.500
week. So he has Thursday and Friday open for for personal

912
01:10:52.500 --> 01:10:57.860
ministry sessions. Do you have a good time during that time for

913
01:10:58.720 --> 01:11:03.320
for, you know, the hour session on Thursday or Friday?

914
01:11:04.880 --> 01:11:06.480
What are the hours? Do you know?

915
01:11:07.160 --> 01:11:11.480
Really? Honestly, I haven't I haven't said him. So the

916
01:11:11.520 --> 01:11:14.400
earlier in the day, you know, the better for us. But if you

917
01:11:14.400 --> 01:11:16.920
need an evening session, we can do an evening session.

918
01:11:17.520 --> 01:11:18.960
What time does this do you start?

919
01:11:21.480 --> 01:11:22.460
How are you? Oh,

920
01:11:22.560 --> 01:11:28.840
um, you know, I say that I would say about like, 10 would be

921
01:11:28.940 --> 01:11:34.880
early. The earliest. Yeah. Okay, cuz I work at nine 930 to six

922
01:11:34.880 --> 01:11:40.640
on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday. Wednesday, Thursday and

923
01:11:40.640 --> 01:11:47.540
Friday. Okay, so those the evening is best. So evening is

924
01:11:47.560 --> 01:11:53.160
best? Yes. Okay. But I don't want to cut into your if you

925
01:11:53.160 --> 01:11:58.000
want to do it Thursday, I can do it Thursday. Okay. What about

926
01:11:58.040 --> 01:12:04.640
Thursday at, like, say, I don't know, eight in the evening? Is

927
01:12:04.640 --> 01:12:08.200
that good? Or do you prefer earlier later? I just picked a

928
01:12:08.200 --> 01:12:15.260
time. No, no, that's fine. It is fine. Okay. Okay. And then let's

929
01:12:15.260 --> 01:12:21.200
see, or let's see, you said, when do you get off? 630? Okay,

930
01:12:21.200 --> 01:12:23.200
and then do you eat supper right after that?

931
01:12:24.760 --> 01:12:30.320
Not really. I work from home. Yeah. So like, I'm eating on my

932
01:12:30.320 --> 01:12:34.880
break. Okay, a lot of times I'm eating on my break. Like I eat

933
01:12:34.880 --> 01:12:35.520
all hours.

934
01:12:36.280 --> 01:12:39.020
Okay, well, let me ask. Let me ask you this. What works better

935
01:12:39.020 --> 01:12:40.880
seven or eight for you?

936
01:12:41.200 --> 01:12:43.800
If you want to do it at seven, that would be good. Because that

937
01:12:44.420 --> 01:12:45.340
will be done early.

938
01:12:45.900 --> 01:12:50.100
Okay. All right. Well, we'll do seven at on Thursday. And then I

939
01:12:50.100 --> 01:12:55.680
will send you a thing for that. Okay. You know, a zoom link and

940
01:12:55.680 --> 01:12:57.700
all that. Perfect. I'm looking forward to it. And then you'll

941
01:12:57.700 --> 01:12:58.540
get to meet him.

942
01:12:58.940 --> 01:13:04.580
Yay. Okay. Thank you so much for your insight and your time and

943
01:13:04.580 --> 01:13:06.700
your sharing that bless me. Thank you.

944
01:13:06.700 --> 01:13:11.400
You're welcome. And I just thought the healing your soul

945
01:13:11.500 --> 01:13:16.100
and through your spirit up. So I just got that up. So it's in

946
01:13:16.100 --> 01:13:19.900
the it's in the group. Okay, look at that. Okay. Which I know

947
01:13:19.900 --> 01:13:21.900
you've already seen it. I just want to let you know what's in

948
01:13:21.900 --> 01:13:29.820
there. And also, and also Tammy, let me know that the how to was

949
01:13:29.820 --> 01:13:35.100
it how to how to make friends and rest wasn't the right video,

950
01:13:35.140 --> 01:13:40.700
which is very odd. And so I made sure that that was the right

951
01:13:40.700 --> 01:13:44.000
video. So now that is updated. You may not have needed needed

952
01:13:44.000 --> 01:13:46.280
to see it. I just wanted to let you know in case you tried it.

953
01:13:46.520 --> 01:13:51.000
That was something that you may be aware was an issue. So anyway,

954
01:13:51.280 --> 01:13:56.840
okay. You're welcome. Thanks. Hope you have a good evening.

955
01:13:57.040 --> 01:13:58.960
You too. Thank you. Bye.