WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:07.200 I think this is it, I think we're live, I hope you guys are doing great, let me do the 2 00:00:07.200 --> 00:00:14.240 classic check the tech, make sure everything's doing what it's supposed to be doing, good 3 00:00:14.240 --> 00:00:28.080 to be with you guys this morning and all right, it is on, cool, so how are you doing? 4 00:00:28.080 --> 00:00:39.520 Great to have you jumping on and yeah, a little bit of a different time zone today, so I'm 5 00:00:39.520 --> 00:00:45.200 stoked about that to be able to just change it around a bit for everyone and make it work 6 00:00:45.200 --> 00:00:50.800 better for time zones for people in different parts of the world, so as you jump on board 7 00:00:50.800 --> 00:00:55.920 say hello, so I know that you're there and I know that everything's working well, I'm 8 00:00:55.920 --> 00:01:04.879 pretty sure it is from my side, but here we go, let's just check, make some comments there 9 00:01:04.879 --> 00:01:09.120 guys, make some comments, just make sure that it is all flowing the way that it's supposed 10 00:01:09.120 --> 00:01:21.600 to flow and then I'm going to pray and we are going to launch into it, all right, there 11 00:01:21.600 --> 00:01:27.760 we go, that's cool, I can see the comments flowing now, welcome Michelle, Dorcas, Lisa, 12 00:01:28.320 --> 00:01:35.120 Sally, I can't necessarily see if you're watching unless you're making some comments, so it's cool 13 00:01:35.120 --> 00:01:39.520 to have you guys with us, Iris, great to have you with us, I can see there's other people 14 00:01:39.520 --> 00:01:44.800 there, but I can't see who is there unless you make a comment, so let's pray and we're going to jump 15 00:01:44.800 --> 00:01:52.160 into week two, processing failure and we're going to explore this processing failure template, so 16 00:01:52.160 --> 00:02:08.960 let's pray, Abba, Holy Spirit, Yeshua, Jesus, we love you and we thank you that you meet us in the 17 00:02:08.960 --> 00:02:16.320 midst of our deepest failures, in the midst of our darkest moments, we thank you that you stand 18 00:02:16.320 --> 00:02:22.880 with us and you fight for us and you bring us into a place of freedom, you bring us into a place of 19 00:02:22.880 --> 00:02:30.000 hope and I thank you that this morning and this week you are going to restore hope, I thank you 20 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:38.640 that you're going to bring revelation that empowers us in a really dynamic and powerful way and I thank 21 00:02:38.640 --> 00:02:45.200 you so much for the restoration of hope, I thank you for strength and dignity being restored, I 22 00:02:45.200 --> 00:02:51.040 thank you for your presence and your goodness and your kindness being released this morning in a 23 00:02:51.040 --> 00:02:57.840 beautiful, beautiful way, Lord, I thank you that you give us eyes of understanding, I thank you, Lord, for 24 00:02:57.840 --> 00:03:02.640 a grace of understanding, I thank you for a release of the spirit of understanding that we could 25 00:03:02.640 --> 00:03:09.440 understand the mechanics of failure, how to process failure and how to turn failure into 26 00:03:09.440 --> 00:03:14.960 our ally and not our enemy, so Holy Spirit, I thank you for every person here, I thank you for going 27 00:03:14.960 --> 00:03:21.200 deep in our hearts, Holy Spirit, as failure stores itself deep in the recesses of our whole being, 28 00:03:21.200 --> 00:03:26.720 as the Holy Spirit, I thank you for your love going deep into the recesses of our whole being, 29 00:03:26.720 --> 00:03:31.360 right into the caverns of our mind, the caverns of our heart, the caverns of our soul, 30 00:03:31.360 --> 00:03:37.200 our feelings, our emotions, all into the very depths of our being where failure resides and 31 00:03:37.200 --> 00:03:43.200 where it hides and where it stores its toxic poisons, I thank you, Holy Spirit, for bringing your 32 00:03:43.200 --> 00:03:50.720 love into deeper dimensions of our being this week than we've had it go before, so Holy Spirit, I 33 00:03:50.720 --> 00:03:56.960 thank you that wherever failure has gone, I thank you that your love goes deeper and I thank you for 34 00:03:56.960 --> 00:04:02.160 giving us a grace that you release the spirit of understanding, you release the spirit of wisdom 35 00:04:02.160 --> 00:04:10.000 upon us, that we will have grace, Lord, to conquer failure in every area in our lives, in Jesus' name, 36 00:04:10.000 --> 00:04:19.760 Amen. All right, okay, so who has had a journey with failure? I'll tell you what, I've definitely 37 00:04:19.760 --> 00:04:31.440 had a serious journey with failure in my life. Hey, I'm just gonna slide, I'm just gonna slide 38 00:04:31.440 --> 00:04:36.800 aside for one second, so just give me one second, I'll be back, I'll be back in one moment, hang on, 39 00:04:36.800 --> 00:04:44.480 give me a second. 40 00:04:52.560 --> 00:04:58.480 Okay, I am back and we are, I'm back in a zone, so 41 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:01.640 Well, you're gonna explore some stuff. 42 00:05:01.640 --> 00:05:03.840 I'm just checking some tech stuff here 43 00:05:04.720 --> 00:05:06.220 so I can see your comments. 44 00:05:07.640 --> 00:05:09.040 Okay, cool, cool, cool, cool. 45 00:05:09.040 --> 00:05:10.160 Right, that's going good. 46 00:05:10.160 --> 00:05:12.840 I can see your comments now. 47 00:05:12.840 --> 00:05:14.080 Beth, hello. 48 00:05:14.080 --> 00:05:14.920 Ashley, hello. 49 00:05:14.920 --> 00:05:16.040 Rowena, hello. 50 00:05:16.040 --> 00:05:16.880 Lorraine, hello. 51 00:05:16.880 --> 00:05:17.720 Lara, hello. 52 00:05:17.720 --> 00:05:18.540 Debra, hello. 53 00:05:18.540 --> 00:05:22.480 Sarah, Vanessa, Jess, hello, hello, hello. 54 00:05:22.480 --> 00:05:24.120 Great to have all of you guys here. 55 00:05:24.120 --> 00:05:28.800 So we're gonna explore failure this week. 56 00:05:28.800 --> 00:05:31.720 We're gonna go on a journey with failure. 57 00:05:31.720 --> 00:05:34.960 And I wanna start by saying like, 58 00:05:34.960 --> 00:05:36.560 you know, what is failure? 59 00:05:36.560 --> 00:05:37.800 And that's one of the first things 60 00:05:37.800 --> 00:05:40.560 that you're gonna address in the process of the template 61 00:05:40.560 --> 00:05:44.320 is that you have to address what failure is. 62 00:05:44.320 --> 00:05:45.900 Now, failure could look like a distraction like this. 63 00:05:45.900 --> 00:05:47.560 Hang on, come in, come in, come in. 64 00:05:47.560 --> 00:05:48.880 I don't think this is failure, 65 00:05:48.880 --> 00:05:50.440 but we all have different perspectives on failure. 66 00:05:50.440 --> 00:05:52.720 Come in here, come in, give me a cuddle. 67 00:05:52.720 --> 00:05:54.120 This is Zoe, she comes in. 68 00:05:54.120 --> 00:05:56.000 This is actually one of our morning routines. 69 00:05:56.040 --> 00:05:58.880 Come in here so you can have a little cuddle. 70 00:05:59.960 --> 00:06:02.240 So do you wanna say hi to the guys? 71 00:06:02.240 --> 00:06:03.080 Hi, guys. 72 00:06:03.080 --> 00:06:04.480 Okay, sweet. 73 00:06:05.760 --> 00:06:09.760 So Vanessa says, I am a professional. 74 00:06:11.640 --> 00:06:12.480 There you go. 75 00:06:12.480 --> 00:06:14.400 So this is something that Zoe often does. 76 00:06:14.400 --> 00:06:16.720 Comes in, come for a snuggle some mornings, eh? 77 00:06:16.720 --> 00:06:18.200 That's nice. 78 00:06:18.200 --> 00:06:20.560 Okay, you can snuggle with me. 79 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:23.360 So failure, let me just chuck out a couple of things 80 00:06:23.360 --> 00:06:24.200 on failure. 81 00:06:24.200 --> 00:06:27.960 Failure is not achieving your goal yet, right? 82 00:06:27.960 --> 00:06:30.840 It's not, we're gonna look at a whole bunch 83 00:06:30.840 --> 00:06:32.160 of definitions of failure in a moment, 84 00:06:32.160 --> 00:06:34.760 but I'm just saying failure is a normal part 85 00:06:34.760 --> 00:06:38.280 of the learning process that will teach us 86 00:06:38.280 --> 00:06:42.120 how to actually bring our wildest dreams to life. 87 00:06:42.120 --> 00:06:46.840 The real danger in failure is in processing it badly. 88 00:06:46.840 --> 00:06:50.480 And I don't think that many people actually get taught. 89 00:06:50.480 --> 00:06:52.360 I don't think that many of us really get taught 90 00:06:52.360 --> 00:06:53.520 how to process failure. 91 00:06:53.520 --> 00:06:56.160 Let me know if you've had any good teaching 92 00:06:56.160 --> 00:06:59.360 by anyone on how to actually process failure. 93 00:07:00.880 --> 00:07:01.800 Hi, Elise. 94 00:07:01.800 --> 00:07:06.800 I see Elise there and Gail and Sarah and Louisa and Lee. 95 00:07:07.040 --> 00:07:08.680 So hi to you guys. 96 00:07:08.680 --> 00:07:10.360 But I don't think we get that much training 97 00:07:10.360 --> 00:07:13.040 on actually how to process failure well. 98 00:07:13.040 --> 00:07:16.440 So I'm gonna start with a story of failure, 99 00:07:16.440 --> 00:07:17.640 of my own failure. 100 00:07:17.640 --> 00:07:21.080 And this is one of the areas that I've failed consistently 101 00:07:21.080 --> 00:07:22.240 for years and years, Zoe. 102 00:07:23.120 --> 00:07:24.960 If you're gonna do that, you can either snuggle 103 00:07:24.960 --> 00:07:26.800 or you can boost your choice, 104 00:07:26.800 --> 00:07:28.400 but you don't get to do phases. 105 00:07:31.280 --> 00:07:33.600 Mommy might be awake if you wanna go and check. 106 00:07:33.600 --> 00:07:34.440 Yeah? 107 00:07:34.440 --> 00:07:35.640 Can you say bye-bye to these guys? 108 00:07:35.640 --> 00:07:36.480 Bye. 109 00:07:36.480 --> 00:07:37.320 Bye-bye. 110 00:07:37.320 --> 00:07:38.160 Okay, give me a kiss. 111 00:07:40.040 --> 00:07:42.000 All right, see ya. 112 00:07:42.000 --> 00:07:47.000 Okay, so one of the greatest areas of failure in my life 113 00:07:47.760 --> 00:07:50.600 has been in the area of my marriage, right? 114 00:07:50.600 --> 00:07:55.560 So feeling like a failure as a husband 115 00:07:55.560 --> 00:07:59.680 was a crushing sense of pain, 116 00:07:59.680 --> 00:08:01.800 a crushing sense of failure. 117 00:08:01.800 --> 00:08:06.680 And especially when you're watching your wife not happy 118 00:08:06.680 --> 00:08:08.360 and you're going through years 119 00:08:08.360 --> 00:08:10.640 of the process of your marriage struggling 120 00:08:10.640 --> 00:08:12.800 and you have these moments. 121 00:08:12.800 --> 00:08:15.280 I don't know if you've had these moments, 122 00:08:15.280 --> 00:08:18.240 if you've been married or you are married, 123 00:08:18.240 --> 00:08:20.760 but I've had these moments where I've wondered 124 00:08:20.760 --> 00:08:25.280 how can this marriage actually hold on 125 00:08:25.280 --> 00:08:28.400 through all the pain and through all the sense of failure. 126 00:08:28.400 --> 00:08:32.080 And one of the worst things for me about failure 127 00:08:32.080 --> 00:08:34.960 is just the level of deep pain 128 00:08:34.960 --> 00:08:37.480 that it releases on the inside of you. 129 00:08:37.480 --> 00:08:39.080 And that's one of the things we're gonna address 130 00:08:39.080 --> 00:08:42.159 is the real reason for the level of pain 131 00:08:42.159 --> 00:08:45.560 that failure produces in us. 132 00:08:45.560 --> 00:08:49.240 Because failure, the amount of pain 133 00:08:49.240 --> 00:08:51.800 that failure produces in us 134 00:08:51.800 --> 00:08:56.200 is determined by how we personally process failure. 135 00:08:56.200 --> 00:08:59.840 So failure can be really painful for one person 136 00:08:59.840 --> 00:09:02.560 and not painful at all for another person. 137 00:09:02.560 --> 00:09:07.280 And the difference is in our ability to process failure. 138 00:09:07.280 --> 00:09:09.800 So that's what we're gonna be unpacking this week. 139 00:09:10.800 --> 00:09:15.800 But here's where the pain went to another level, right? 140 00:09:16.680 --> 00:09:18.280 There was another level of pain 141 00:09:18.280 --> 00:09:21.960 when I actually realized I came to the place 142 00:09:21.960 --> 00:09:24.360 and it took like, this took years for me, right? 143 00:09:24.360 --> 00:09:26.240 When I came to the place, 144 00:09:26.240 --> 00:09:28.200 you might think Benji that's so basic, 145 00:09:28.200 --> 00:09:30.080 but this is my journey. 146 00:09:30.080 --> 00:09:32.880 And it took years of pain for me to finally come 147 00:09:32.880 --> 00:09:37.280 to the place where I realized that I was at least 50% 148 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:40.120 of the cause of the pain in my marriage, right? 149 00:09:40.120 --> 00:09:43.160 Now that might sound a little bit silly, 150 00:09:43.160 --> 00:09:44.760 but it wasn't just that. 151 00:09:44.760 --> 00:09:47.640 I didn't just have to realize that I really was 152 00:09:48.520 --> 00:09:50.680 at least 50% of the cause of the pain. 153 00:09:50.680 --> 00:09:51.840 It wasn't just that. 154 00:09:51.840 --> 00:09:56.320 I had to realize what it was that I was doing 155 00:09:56.320 --> 00:09:58.880 that was causing the pain, all right? 156 00:09:58.880 --> 00:10:00.200 So I had... 157 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:05.000 to come to this place where the pain was so painful 158 00:10:06.440 --> 00:10:09.960 that I would actually be open to hearing, 159 00:10:09.960 --> 00:10:12.920 open to seeing, open to realizing, 160 00:10:12.920 --> 00:10:17.920 open to understanding that it was my own selfishness. 161 00:10:18.680 --> 00:10:22.840 It was my own actions or lack of actions. 162 00:10:22.840 --> 00:10:25.880 It was my own bad attitude 163 00:10:25.880 --> 00:10:29.480 that was actually causing so much of the pain 164 00:10:29.480 --> 00:10:31.600 in my own marriage, right? 165 00:10:31.600 --> 00:10:34.720 And then I had to go to another level 166 00:10:34.720 --> 00:10:39.080 beyond just realizing that it was my selfishness 167 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:41.920 and my bad attitude and my actions or my lack of actions. 168 00:10:41.920 --> 00:10:43.920 I had to go beyond that, right? 169 00:10:43.920 --> 00:10:45.760 Because that place in itself, 170 00:10:45.760 --> 00:10:47.680 just having that realization in itself 171 00:10:47.680 --> 00:10:49.920 is even more painful, right? 172 00:10:49.920 --> 00:10:53.200 So it actually meant that the pain of my failure 173 00:10:53.200 --> 00:10:54.800 escalated and went higher 174 00:10:54.800 --> 00:10:57.600 and went to a whole nother level of pain 175 00:10:57.600 --> 00:11:01.240 where my pain was just on another tangent, 176 00:11:01.240 --> 00:11:03.800 another level of pain. 177 00:11:03.800 --> 00:11:06.760 But I had to transcend that. 178 00:11:06.760 --> 00:11:08.080 I had to go beyond that. 179 00:11:08.080 --> 00:11:09.960 I had to go to a place there 180 00:11:13.960 --> 00:11:17.920 where I actually could see in the midst of that pain. 181 00:11:17.920 --> 00:11:19.560 I had to go to another place, 182 00:11:19.560 --> 00:11:23.400 another dimension in the journey where I realized 183 00:11:23.400 --> 00:11:28.400 that it was not only was that the... 184 00:11:29.560 --> 00:11:30.400 Hang on a second. 185 00:11:30.400 --> 00:11:34.280 Zoe, you can't be playing here this morning, okay? 186 00:11:34.280 --> 00:11:36.280 You can snuggle, but you can't play, okay? 187 00:11:36.280 --> 00:11:38.720 So if you're gonna snuggle, snuggle in. 188 00:11:38.720 --> 00:11:41.160 Otherwise, we can't be just playing with toys and stuff. 189 00:11:41.160 --> 00:11:43.360 Okay, so you snuggle in here. 190 00:11:43.360 --> 00:11:45.480 Get real cozy. 191 00:11:45.480 --> 00:11:46.320 All right. 192 00:11:48.320 --> 00:11:50.960 With that process of pain, 193 00:11:50.960 --> 00:11:52.880 what I had to do was I had to go beyond that 194 00:11:53.360 --> 00:11:54.560 and I had to go to a place 195 00:11:54.560 --> 00:11:56.920 which is even another level of pain, 196 00:11:56.920 --> 00:11:59.040 which was taking ownership, right? 197 00:11:59.040 --> 00:12:01.760 Which was really deeply owning the fact 198 00:12:01.760 --> 00:12:06.040 that I was the cause and then taking ownership 199 00:12:06.040 --> 00:12:09.240 that I actually had power. 200 00:12:09.240 --> 00:12:11.280 I had the ability to change things. 201 00:12:11.280 --> 00:12:15.480 So that was a really crazy amount of pain. 202 00:12:15.480 --> 00:12:18.680 I'm gonna unpack that for you a little bit more, 203 00:12:18.680 --> 00:12:22.840 but let me just talk to you about this 204 00:12:23.600 --> 00:12:24.640 in the context of narcissism, right? 205 00:12:24.640 --> 00:12:26.960 Because there's a little bit of a narcissist 206 00:12:26.960 --> 00:12:31.120 in nearly all of us and it's connected to failure 207 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:34.000 and it's connected to how we process failure. 208 00:12:34.000 --> 00:12:36.000 And if you don't process failure well, 209 00:12:36.000 --> 00:12:39.320 you can end up becoming a full-blown narcissist 210 00:12:39.320 --> 00:12:40.560 as opposed to just a regular, 211 00:12:40.560 --> 00:12:42.120 you know, kind of run-of-the-mill narcissist 212 00:12:42.120 --> 00:12:44.160 like most of us are to a degree. 213 00:12:44.160 --> 00:12:49.160 So, yeah, so this dynamic of narcissism 214 00:12:49.920 --> 00:12:51.480 within all of us, right? 215 00:12:52.080 --> 00:12:53.880 We talk about narcissists all the time, 216 00:12:53.880 --> 00:12:55.040 as long as it's not us, you know? 217 00:12:55.040 --> 00:12:57.760 It's those other narcissists out there that aren't us, 218 00:12:57.760 --> 00:13:02.760 but we all have the ability to become a full-blown narcissist. 219 00:13:02.840 --> 00:13:04.920 We all have the ability to really, you know, 220 00:13:04.920 --> 00:13:06.760 for that to really flare up in us. 221 00:13:06.760 --> 00:13:08.080 And in different situations, 222 00:13:08.080 --> 00:13:12.320 that level of narcissism does flare up inside us. 223 00:13:12.320 --> 00:13:15.760 So I wouldn't have called myself a narcissist, 224 00:13:15.760 --> 00:13:18.120 but in the context of my marriage, 225 00:13:18.120 --> 00:13:20.360 there is a level of narcissism, 226 00:13:20.360 --> 00:13:23.000 a level of just kind of being so self-absorbed 227 00:13:23.000 --> 00:13:26.240 or like so wrapped up, 228 00:13:26.240 --> 00:13:29.200 like just basically narcissism is blind 229 00:13:29.200 --> 00:13:31.680 and it blinds us to reality. 230 00:13:31.680 --> 00:13:35.200 And it took me years to overcome that, 231 00:13:35.200 --> 00:13:37.320 you might call it a low-level narcissism, 232 00:13:37.320 --> 00:13:38.760 but it's a blindness. 233 00:13:38.760 --> 00:13:40.440 And it was a blindness that was so strong 234 00:13:40.440 --> 00:13:41.840 that kept me bound for years. 235 00:13:41.840 --> 00:13:43.360 And it's all connected 236 00:13:43.360 --> 00:13:45.440 to this dynamic of processing failure. 237 00:13:45.440 --> 00:13:48.800 So my perspective is that, you know, 238 00:13:48.800 --> 00:13:51.480 the dangers of learning, 239 00:13:51.480 --> 00:13:52.960 the dangers of not learning 240 00:13:52.960 --> 00:13:55.160 how to process failure effectively 241 00:13:55.160 --> 00:13:58.560 is that it can create an irrational fear of failure, right? 242 00:13:58.560 --> 00:14:01.680 Or an irrational fear of being wrong. 243 00:14:03.040 --> 00:14:06.040 And that can lead us to becoming narcissists 244 00:14:06.040 --> 00:14:06.880 in the sense that, 245 00:14:06.880 --> 00:14:08.320 now I've written some of this down, 246 00:14:08.320 --> 00:14:10.680 so I'm just wanting to make sure I get it right on. 247 00:14:10.680 --> 00:14:11.720 You know, like the, 248 00:14:13.240 --> 00:14:14.840 you know, this creates a danger 249 00:14:14.840 --> 00:14:16.160 that it makes people narcissistic 250 00:14:16.160 --> 00:14:19.880 in the sense that we become so afraid of reality 251 00:14:19.880 --> 00:14:24.080 that we allow our perspective, right? 252 00:14:24.080 --> 00:14:26.840 We can become so afraid of reality 253 00:14:26.840 --> 00:14:28.080 or so afraid of feedback 254 00:14:28.080 --> 00:14:29.440 or so afraid of being wrong 255 00:14:29.440 --> 00:14:31.480 or so afraid that we're the issue 256 00:14:31.480 --> 00:14:33.640 or so afraid of failure 257 00:14:33.640 --> 00:14:36.920 that we allow our own perspectives 258 00:14:36.920 --> 00:14:38.680 on what we wish was true 259 00:14:39.600 --> 00:14:41.800 to actually trump reality, right? 260 00:14:41.800 --> 00:14:43.880 So this is kind of where I was stuck, 261 00:14:43.880 --> 00:14:46.280 not realizing, thinking that I was doing, 262 00:14:46.280 --> 00:14:47.280 you know, thinking that, 263 00:14:47.280 --> 00:14:49.560 oh man, like surely it's not me 264 00:14:49.560 --> 00:14:51.440 that's causing all these issues, 265 00:14:51.440 --> 00:14:52.280 but right, you know, 266 00:14:52.280 --> 00:14:54.800 and so it was that false perspective 267 00:14:54.800 --> 00:14:57.680 that was actually blinding me 268 00:14:57.680 --> 00:15:00.000 to the fact that, no, it was my, 269 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:08.560 my bad attitude, it was my action, my lack of action, it was my, you know, it was my own 270 00:15:08.560 --> 00:15:14.480 selfishness that was actually causing so much of the pain in my own marriage. But it was that, 271 00:15:14.480 --> 00:15:19.520 you know, that fear or that disconnect from reality that I wanting to be right and not 272 00:15:19.520 --> 00:15:25.440 wanting to be wrong and not wanting to realize that I was the cause of my own pain. So, but, 273 00:15:25.440 --> 00:15:31.280 you know, this is what the narcissistic dynamic is. It's a perspective that's so afraid of being 274 00:15:31.280 --> 00:15:39.360 wrong or so afraid of failing that it would rather believe its own made up version of reality than 275 00:15:39.360 --> 00:15:53.440 reality itself. And so, okay, so in that context, we allow our own perspectives of reality to trump 276 00:15:53.440 --> 00:16:00.800 reality itself. And it's all kind of comes out of this place of a fear of failure. But if we don't 277 00:16:00.800 --> 00:16:06.640 actually confront it and deal with it, eventually it will actually create in us like a growing 278 00:16:06.640 --> 00:16:12.240 dynamic, that narcissistic nature will get real momentum, it will grow, it will flourish, it will 279 00:16:12.240 --> 00:16:23.360 thrive, and it will go to a whole new dimension. So, you know, this means for a lot of people, 280 00:16:23.360 --> 00:16:29.040 the feeling of failure, right? And let me know how you feel about failure yourself. But this means 281 00:16:29.040 --> 00:16:34.800 that for some people, and actually really a lot of us is that on some degree, the feeling of 282 00:16:34.880 --> 00:16:42.640 failure is so painful, that we would rather live with the pain of failure, right? And this is where 283 00:16:42.640 --> 00:16:47.520 this is kind of where I was until the pain really got too bad. But we would, you know, we have, 284 00:16:48.480 --> 00:16:54.800 you know, this irrational fear of failure, that's so great that we would rather live with the pain 285 00:16:54.800 --> 00:17:03.520 of the failure, then experience the pain of the process of dealing with the root cause of the 286 00:17:03.520 --> 00:17:10.160 failure, especially if we are the root cause of the pain, we'd rather live with the pain of the 287 00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:16.960 problem, rather than deal with the pain of facing the problem, especially if we are the cause of the 288 00:17:16.960 --> 00:17:24.880 problem. So I was blind to the fact that I was a major cause of the pain until the pain got so 289 00:17:25.839 --> 00:17:33.360 unbearable, that it forced me to look at myself at a level of depth and in a way and from a 290 00:17:33.360 --> 00:17:40.800 different perspective that I'd never looked at myself before. And, and so I had that first phase 291 00:17:40.800 --> 00:17:46.720 of, of awakening where the pain got so great that I was finally in a position where I was able to see 292 00:17:46.720 --> 00:17:51.200 my own selfishness, I was finally in a position where I could see my own bad attitude, I was 293 00:17:51.280 --> 00:17:57.520 finally in a place where I could see how my own actions and lack of actions were causing the 294 00:17:57.520 --> 00:18:04.160 problems in my marriage. And then, so that was one level of pain. And then the next level of pain, 295 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:08.480 you know, that, you know, the next place that pain forced me is to not just see them and 296 00:18:08.480 --> 00:18:14.240 acknowledge them, but to actually take extreme ownership of those areas, and then actually start 297 00:18:14.240 --> 00:18:19.760 to deal with them. Now, what we don't, what I what I hadn't realized in this process is that 298 00:18:19.760 --> 00:18:25.040 the whole time failure was trying to be my friend, right, failure was trying to lead me 299 00:18:25.040 --> 00:18:31.200 towards the solution, failure was actually giving me great information, that pain that was coming 300 00:18:31.200 --> 00:18:38.160 from failure was actually trying to teach me how to master my problem, right, but I got so caught up 301 00:18:38.160 --> 00:18:45.680 and so overwhelmed by the feeling of pain, that I couldn't understand what pain was trying to 302 00:18:45.680 --> 00:18:51.520 teach me. And so this, this dynamic of processing failure, I couldn't understand what failure was 303 00:18:51.520 --> 00:18:57.040 trying to teach me, right, because of the pain. So, so this dynamic of processing failure, 304 00:18:57.040 --> 00:19:03.120 it actually helps us to shift from this place of being overwhelmed by the feeling of pain, 305 00:19:03.120 --> 00:19:11.040 to actually being able to put that those feelings of pain, you know, in the right place, you can feel 306 00:19:11.040 --> 00:19:16.640 pain, that's okay. But when the feeling of pain blinds you to the lessons that pain is trying to 307 00:19:16.640 --> 00:19:23.440 teach you, that's when you can, you know, can be stuck and trapped by pain. And that's where you 308 00:19:23.440 --> 00:19:28.960 actually get in a place where it's you're in danger of actually becoming a narcissist. So that was the 309 00:19:28.960 --> 00:19:39.280 journey for me. So the next level in the journey was taking extreme ownership for my actions, 310 00:19:39.280 --> 00:19:43.600 and then learning all the lessons that failure was teaching me. Okay, right, failure was teaching 311 00:19:43.600 --> 00:19:47.840 me I had to take extreme ownership for my attitude. Failure was teaching me, I had to take extreme 312 00:19:47.840 --> 00:19:52.240 ownership for my selfishness. Failure was teaching me I had to take extreme ownership for my actions 313 00:19:52.240 --> 00:19:58.960 or lack of actions. And when I actually started to implement the lessons that failure came to teach me, 314 00:19:58.960 --> 00:19:59.920 that is when I 315 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:03.680 started to see massive breakthrough in our marriage. 316 00:20:03.680 --> 00:20:05.600 That is when once I actually moved, 317 00:20:05.600 --> 00:20:08.120 like I was stuck in this place literally for years 318 00:20:08.120 --> 00:20:10.800 where the feeling of pain was so overwhelming 319 00:20:10.800 --> 00:20:14.560 that it left me blind to the message 320 00:20:14.560 --> 00:20:18.040 that failure was trying to come and teach me. 321 00:20:18.040 --> 00:20:20.400 And once I finally got over the overwhelm 322 00:20:20.400 --> 00:20:23.480 and started being able to listen to the messages 323 00:20:23.480 --> 00:20:24.960 that failure was trying to teach me, 324 00:20:24.960 --> 00:20:27.360 I came into this place where I could actually hear 325 00:20:27.360 --> 00:20:29.960 and then take ownership and then implement. 326 00:20:29.960 --> 00:20:32.360 And then we started seeing results. 327 00:20:32.360 --> 00:20:36.800 And now our marriage is literally phenomenal. 328 00:20:36.800 --> 00:20:38.600 Our marriage now, the quality of it 329 00:20:38.600 --> 00:20:41.680 is beyond what I had ever imagined. 330 00:20:41.680 --> 00:20:44.120 And especially when I was in that place of hopelessness 331 00:20:44.120 --> 00:20:46.120 and despair and wondering if our marriage 332 00:20:46.120 --> 00:20:48.160 could ever even survive, 333 00:20:48.160 --> 00:20:49.960 it would have been very, very difficult 334 00:20:49.960 --> 00:20:52.040 to convince me at that time 335 00:20:52.040 --> 00:20:55.920 that our marriage could be as amazing as it is right now. 336 00:20:55.960 --> 00:20:58.080 But it's come through that process 337 00:20:58.080 --> 00:21:00.960 of learning how to process failure accurately. 338 00:21:00.960 --> 00:21:03.240 So how's that? 339 00:21:03.240 --> 00:21:04.160 Let me check the comments. 340 00:21:04.160 --> 00:21:07.120 How does that, do you guys relate to that? 341 00:21:07.120 --> 00:21:12.120 What do you, have you been through things like that? 342 00:21:12.680 --> 00:21:15.240 Let me just check comments now on this 343 00:21:15.240 --> 00:21:17.400 and see how you guys are tracking with me. 344 00:21:17.400 --> 00:21:20.520 This is, by the way, this session is going 345 00:21:20.520 --> 00:21:23.920 to get really interactive. 346 00:21:23.920 --> 00:21:26.120 So I'm going to get you guys really engaging 347 00:21:26.120 --> 00:21:27.760 a bunch right now. 348 00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:31.120 All right. 349 00:21:31.120 --> 00:21:33.040 Snuggles, people are loving the comments. 350 00:21:33.040 --> 00:21:38.040 I'm seeing people loving the snuggle action with Zoe. 351 00:21:39.640 --> 00:21:40.880 Yes, that was good. 352 00:21:40.880 --> 00:21:41.720 Love Zoe. 353 00:21:41.720 --> 00:21:43.240 We have good morning snuggles. 354 00:21:45.440 --> 00:21:48.000 So, yep. 355 00:21:48.000 --> 00:21:50.560 Failure can be paralyzing said Vanessa. 356 00:21:50.560 --> 00:21:53.560 Jess said failure for me is when we stop trying. 357 00:21:54.240 --> 00:21:55.080 That's really good. 358 00:21:55.080 --> 00:21:56.320 Tina said marriage takes a lot of work. 359 00:21:56.320 --> 00:21:58.360 Dawkins said failure for me was so painful. 360 00:21:58.360 --> 00:22:00.200 I taught myself not to care. 361 00:22:00.200 --> 00:22:01.560 Wow, that's so true. 362 00:22:01.560 --> 00:22:04.880 I always felt the failures of everyone around me 363 00:22:04.880 --> 00:22:05.720 was my fault. 364 00:22:05.720 --> 00:22:07.960 So carried a lot of false responsibility. 365 00:22:07.960 --> 00:22:12.000 Yeah, that's a real danger is when failure gets so intense 366 00:22:12.000 --> 00:22:17.000 that you shut down, you just turn yourself off. 367 00:22:17.160 --> 00:22:18.600 You shut down, you check out. 368 00:22:18.600 --> 00:22:19.840 That's so, so real. 369 00:22:19.840 --> 00:22:22.840 That was something that I really had to guard against 370 00:22:22.840 --> 00:22:25.440 in my marriage is actually checking out 371 00:22:25.440 --> 00:22:26.400 because of the pain. 372 00:22:26.400 --> 00:22:27.240 That was a big deal. 373 00:22:27.240 --> 00:22:29.280 I really fought against that. 374 00:22:29.280 --> 00:22:32.040 Gail said she suffered pain for years also, 375 00:22:32.040 --> 00:22:33.400 finally overcame. 376 00:22:36.440 --> 00:22:37.280 Yeah, great. 377 00:22:37.280 --> 00:22:39.040 Donna has learned some really good lessons 378 00:22:39.040 --> 00:22:43.000 of stop and believe around failure. 379 00:22:43.000 --> 00:22:43.920 Good stuff. 380 00:22:46.320 --> 00:22:49.360 Yep, great stuff. 381 00:22:49.360 --> 00:22:52.680 Good comments here from Sarah, Louisa, everyone. 382 00:22:53.680 --> 00:22:58.120 So, right, let me carry on here. 383 00:22:59.960 --> 00:23:03.160 And let me give you three of the greatest dangers 384 00:23:03.160 --> 00:23:05.720 when it comes to processing failure, okay? 385 00:23:05.720 --> 00:23:06.560 From my perspective, 386 00:23:06.560 --> 00:23:08.320 and feel free to chuck in the comments 387 00:23:08.320 --> 00:23:09.440 if you've got other ideas, 388 00:23:09.440 --> 00:23:11.160 there'll be way more thoughts than this, 389 00:23:11.160 --> 00:23:13.960 but here's three of my, 390 00:23:13.960 --> 00:23:15.680 like my top three dangers 391 00:23:15.680 --> 00:23:18.640 when it comes to processing failure 392 00:23:18.640 --> 00:23:23.040 that make, you know, if we stuff these three things up, 393 00:23:23.040 --> 00:23:25.960 they actually make our current circumstances 394 00:23:25.960 --> 00:23:27.320 a lot worse, right? 395 00:23:27.320 --> 00:23:30.600 So if we master these, then failure, 396 00:23:32.240 --> 00:23:35.560 it minimizes how big a deal failure is, right? 397 00:23:35.560 --> 00:23:37.680 If we stuff these three things up, 398 00:23:37.680 --> 00:23:40.840 then failure can become a massive, massive issue. 399 00:23:40.840 --> 00:23:44.120 Otherwise, like, and really in an unhealthy way, 400 00:23:44.120 --> 00:23:47.360 failure can become a really unhealthy, 401 00:23:47.360 --> 00:23:50.360 overwhelming dynamic, as opposed to failure, 402 00:23:50.360 --> 00:23:52.280 just being a normal, healthy part 403 00:23:52.280 --> 00:23:54.200 of the process of living life. 404 00:23:54.200 --> 00:23:55.640 So here's the top three. 405 00:23:55.640 --> 00:23:57.240 Number one, the worst thing 406 00:23:57.240 --> 00:23:59.600 that I think you could possibly do with failure 407 00:23:59.600 --> 00:24:03.800 is actually take your identity from failures, all right? 408 00:24:03.800 --> 00:24:06.240 And I know that this happens all the time, 409 00:24:06.240 --> 00:24:09.560 is that people take their identity from failures 410 00:24:09.560 --> 00:24:12.920 when reality is, is that we are made in the image of God. 411 00:24:12.920 --> 00:24:15.360 You know, Genesis 1 is all about this. 412 00:24:15.400 --> 00:24:17.400 Genesis 1, 27. 413 00:24:17.400 --> 00:24:19.880 So God made man in his image, 414 00:24:19.880 --> 00:24:22.560 in his own image, God created them, 415 00:24:22.560 --> 00:24:24.120 male and female, he made them. 416 00:24:24.120 --> 00:24:25.840 So we are made in the image of God. 417 00:24:25.840 --> 00:24:29.160 John 17, verse 22, Jesus said, 418 00:24:29.160 --> 00:24:33.200 I have given them the same glory that the father gave me. 419 00:24:33.200 --> 00:24:34.760 That's an identity statement. 420 00:24:34.760 --> 00:24:38.080 The whole Bible is filled from start to finish 421 00:24:38.080 --> 00:24:39.800 with identity statements, 422 00:24:39.800 --> 00:24:42.840 and none of them are ever about the fact 423 00:24:42.840 --> 00:24:45.200 that you should take your identity from your failures, 424 00:24:46.040 --> 00:24:47.840 or you should take your identity from your life experiences. 425 00:24:47.840 --> 00:24:50.240 All identity statements in the Bible 426 00:24:50.240 --> 00:24:53.480 are about taking your identity from the present reality 427 00:24:53.480 --> 00:24:54.920 that you're made in the image of God. 428 00:24:54.920 --> 00:24:59.920 And I've talked about this before about how we can. 429 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:05.680 fuse our identity and our performance or our identity and our life experience and if we have 430 00:25:05.680 --> 00:25:11.280 a mindset that fuses our identity with our performance or our identity with our life 431 00:25:11.280 --> 00:25:16.880 experiences we can end up being in this really dangerous place where we're perfectly positioned 432 00:25:16.880 --> 00:25:22.640 to just naturally and effortlessly take our identity from our failures right but that means 433 00:25:22.640 --> 00:25:28.320 that our identity will be always be the lowest common denominator of our life experience now 434 00:25:28.320 --> 00:25:32.400 we're going to go through many many failures i kind of have a laugh with some of my friends 435 00:25:32.400 --> 00:25:37.280 sometimes that jesus promised us tribulation right he prophesied tribulation he said in this world 436 00:25:37.280 --> 00:25:41.920 you'll have tribulation now you could like you could make your mindset we just focus on that 437 00:25:41.920 --> 00:25:47.920 right jesus like oh no we're going to have tribulation right um like you can have lowest 438 00:25:47.920 --> 00:25:52.960 common denominator lowest common denominator ways of thinking in the sense that you can always be 439 00:25:52.960 --> 00:25:57.280 thinking worst case scenario you can always be thinking you know you've got this ability to 440 00:25:57.280 --> 00:26:02.240 think in a way that's destructive or a way that's constructive that will set your life on fire that 441 00:26:02.240 --> 00:26:06.480 will bring your wildest dreams to life but one of the most destructive ways you can ever think 442 00:26:06.480 --> 00:26:12.080 is if you fuse your identity with your life experiences your identity with your behavior 443 00:26:12.080 --> 00:26:16.880 because um at that point you're going to sooner or later come to the conclusion that you are a 444 00:26:16.880 --> 00:26:21.040 failure that you're um that you're inadequate that there's something intrinsically wrong with you 445 00:26:21.040 --> 00:26:27.040 but you have to separate in your thinking your identity is exclusively defined by god your 446 00:26:27.040 --> 00:26:31.200 identity can't come from anywhere else apart from the fact that you're made in this image 447 00:26:31.200 --> 00:26:38.720 and come what may failures negative experiences people saying crazy stuff uh you know all the 448 00:26:38.720 --> 00:26:43.120 stuff that you've been through all the things that people you know have said about you done to you 449 00:26:43.120 --> 00:26:49.360 um all the all of the life experience right we have to be able to separate that from us and ensure 450 00:26:49.360 --> 00:26:53.360 that we never take our identity from failure so that for me is the worst thing that could ever 451 00:26:53.360 --> 00:26:58.080 happen about failure not the failure itself all right failure itself is going to come so that to 452 00:26:58.080 --> 00:27:04.080 me is normal and failure in itself is not a bad thing failure is just a natural part of life but 453 00:27:04.080 --> 00:27:08.560 when failure gets really bad the worst thing that can happen through any failure is if you take your 454 00:27:08.560 --> 00:27:14.960 identity from that failure let me know if you've taken your identity from failure i sure have many 455 00:27:14.960 --> 00:27:20.080 times i've taken my identity from failure and i've had to retrain my thinking i have to had to 456 00:27:20.080 --> 00:27:28.080 read you know separate uh my identity from my life experiences and once i did that you know failure 457 00:27:28.080 --> 00:27:33.680 became so easy to process because it wasn't personally you know it wasn't like an identity 458 00:27:33.680 --> 00:27:39.520 issue well i wasn't i wasn't thinking i was defined by this failure so it was easy for me to 459 00:27:39.520 --> 00:27:44.560 to start processing failure because it wasn't no longer my identity in the past when failure was 460 00:27:44.560 --> 00:27:50.880 my identity was really really difficult to address because it felt so personal and so painful and like 461 00:27:50.880 --> 00:27:56.240 it was speaking about my own value and my worth and so i just freaked out about it get overwhelmed 462 00:27:56.240 --> 00:28:02.240 by but separate identity from failure and all of a sudden the level of pain and overwhelm drops 463 00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:07.040 right down it's so much easier to process all right so number two then the second worst thing 464 00:28:07.040 --> 00:28:15.280 i think that can happen from failure is that you develop an irrational fear right so you develop 465 00:28:15.280 --> 00:28:21.760 such a fear of failure uh that you actually become paralyzed now the bible the number one command in 466 00:28:21.760 --> 00:28:29.520 the bible is do not be afraid right that in terms of there's no command that god gives us more than 467 00:28:29.520 --> 00:28:36.400 this command of not to be afraid right so but if we are paralyzed by a fear of failure if we aren't 468 00:28:36.400 --> 00:28:42.480 processing failure accurately we'll always we can we can come to this place where we are literally 469 00:28:42.480 --> 00:28:54.240 paralyzed by a fear of failure and um so i would say that is that is one of the great the second 470 00:28:54.240 --> 00:29:00.800 to me that's probably the second greatest danger of not having good skills of processing failure 471 00:29:00.800 --> 00:29:07.040 so the second greatest danger for me is being paralyzed by a fear of failure we are so overwhelmed 472 00:29:07.040 --> 00:29:13.040 so afraid by this irrational sense of oh my gosh i might fail so i won't take risk oh my gosh this 473 00:29:13.040 --> 00:29:18.080 might happen oh my gosh this might happen one of the quotes that god gave me years ago as a young 474 00:29:18.080 --> 00:29:28.080 man as he said every great adventurer must embark on a precipice of danger where failure is real and 475 00:29:28.080 --> 00:29:35.600 encompassing and success lies only forward i'll say that for you again every great adventurer 476 00:29:35.600 --> 00:29:44.240 must embark upon a precipice of failure where sorry every great adventurer must embark upon a precipice 477 00:29:45.440 --> 00:29:52.960 uh every great and now i'm losing myself i'm losing myself something's happening i'm losing 478 00:29:52.960 --> 00:29:57.120 myself every great adventurer must embark upon a precipice of danger 479 00:29:57.120 --> 00:29:59.760 where failure is real and encompassing and 480 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.720 success lies only forward. And that's the reality of life is 481 00:30:03.720 --> 00:30:06.920 that life is going to be surrounded by failure. And I 482 00:30:06.920 --> 00:30:10.760 like what was someone put in the comments before is that failure 483 00:30:10.760 --> 00:30:13.800 is when we when we stop trying, right? Because we're going to 484 00:30:14.080 --> 00:30:17.800 like, you're going to experience failure at every stage in the 485 00:30:17.800 --> 00:30:20.880 process, you know, and, and right now, depending on how we 486 00:30:20.880 --> 00:30:23.440 analyze it, there's going to be lots of areas in our lives, we 487 00:30:23.440 --> 00:30:26.960 were failing at the same time. But really, failure is just 488 00:30:26.960 --> 00:30:30.360 giving us information on where we're at, how our strategies are 489 00:30:30.360 --> 00:30:33.800 working, where things are going, and what our next best step is. 490 00:30:33.800 --> 00:30:37.480 So that's the second greatest danger. And then the third, the 491 00:30:37.480 --> 00:30:42.120 third greatest danger, when it comes to failure, that actually 492 00:30:42.120 --> 00:30:46.280 makes our circumstances worse, is if we don't learn the lessons 493 00:30:46.280 --> 00:30:48.800 that failure comes to teach us. And that's where I was in my 494 00:30:48.800 --> 00:30:52.200 marriage. That's why I was stuck in my marriages, I wasn't 495 00:30:52.200 --> 00:30:56.680 learning the lessons that the pain of failure was coming to 496 00:30:56.680 --> 00:30:59.480 teach me, I was just stuck in the pain, but not learning the 497 00:30:59.480 --> 00:31:03.440 lesson. So I just went round and round and round and round and 498 00:31:03.440 --> 00:31:08.000 round and round, until the pain got so unbearable, that my ears 499 00:31:08.000 --> 00:31:10.720 started to get, you know, like turned on, I started to get a 500 00:31:10.720 --> 00:31:13.400 little bit more sensitive, I really I started to start to get 501 00:31:13.400 --> 00:31:17.560 more desperate for something that would actually resolve this 502 00:31:17.560 --> 00:31:21.440 pain. You know, that was coming through failure. Eventually, I 503 00:31:21.440 --> 00:31:25.680 finally, I came to the place where I finally actually was 504 00:31:25.680 --> 00:31:28.800 able to actually start hearing the lessons that failure was 505 00:31:28.800 --> 00:31:32.560 trying to teach me. And at that point, everything changed. So 506 00:31:34.640 --> 00:31:36.840 you know, this template, we're going to, we're going to change 507 00:31:36.840 --> 00:31:39.080 things around in a moment, I'm actually going to get real 508 00:31:39.080 --> 00:31:41.920 interactive with you. And you're going to have to get your 509 00:31:41.920 --> 00:31:45.400 fingers busy in the comments. This is going to be quite fun. 510 00:31:45.520 --> 00:31:49.800 It's going to be some true false and some yes, nose, which is 511 00:31:49.800 --> 00:31:53.240 going to be good. So but this template, we're going to explore 512 00:31:53.240 --> 00:31:56.640 the template, this template is all about developing our ability 513 00:31:56.640 --> 00:32:01.320 to process failure in a healthy way. So let's check out the 514 00:32:01.320 --> 00:32:03.080 template, I'm going to do a screen share with you. 515 00:32:08.800 --> 00:32:12.720 All right, oh, hang on. Yeah, there we go. We good we're 516 00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:15.120 happening. So this is the processing failure template. So 517 00:32:15.120 --> 00:32:17.640 you're going to jump in here, you can download it, it's in the 518 00:32:17.640 --> 00:32:21.000 comments, they're available. So you can download it, you're 519 00:32:21.000 --> 00:32:23.360 going to share your definition of failure, you're going to 520 00:32:23.360 --> 00:32:26.320 describe an area in life where you feel like you have 521 00:32:26.320 --> 00:32:29.560 experienced a significant failure. There's some good 522 00:32:29.560 --> 00:32:34.400 questions for you here that you're going to go through that 523 00:32:34.400 --> 00:32:37.200 are just going to help you unpack and process the process 524 00:32:37.200 --> 00:32:39.680 failure. Now, this is where we're going to have some fun 525 00:32:39.680 --> 00:32:43.080 right now. Okay, so I've got a whole bunch of questions, 526 00:32:43.640 --> 00:32:46.280 statements that we're going to go through. So the first thing 527 00:32:46.280 --> 00:32:50.560 that we're going to go through is I want you to, you know, just 528 00:32:50.560 --> 00:32:53.120 I want you to say agree or disagree. Okay, so some of 529 00:32:53.120 --> 00:32:56.600 these, I agree with and some of them I disagree with, they're 530 00:32:56.600 --> 00:32:59.560 just there to help us kind of spark our thoughts around 531 00:32:59.560 --> 00:33:06.040 processing failure. So what I want you to do is with when I 532 00:33:06.040 --> 00:33:08.360 say this, okay, so I want you to engage with this in the 533 00:33:08.360 --> 00:33:12.080 comments. And what I want you to do is write the author, you 534 00:33:12.080 --> 00:33:15.080 know, write who the quote is from, and then write agree or 535 00:33:15.080 --> 00:33:18.400 disagree. Okay, so if it's this first one is John Walton, and 536 00:33:18.400 --> 00:33:20.920 you say, you can just say, John, if it's easy, you say, 537 00:33:20.960 --> 00:33:25.320 John, agree, or John disagree. So here we go. I'm going to make 538 00:33:25.320 --> 00:33:28.360 the statement and then you say the author and whether you agree 539 00:33:28.360 --> 00:33:31.760 or disagree. Sound good? Sounds good to me. Right. Let me check 540 00:33:31.760 --> 00:33:35.840 the comments again, before we jump into this, this section. 541 00:33:37.720 --> 00:33:45.920 Okay. So, yeah, well, I wish I got taught this as children and 542 00:33:45.920 --> 00:33:48.960 failure, I failed in the same areas over and over again, but 543 00:33:48.960 --> 00:33:52.880 still got up every time. That's awesome, Kerry. We fail. Yeah. 544 00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:57.240 So the quote was, where failure, every great adventurer must 545 00:33:57.240 --> 00:34:02.160 embark upon a precipice of danger where failure is real, and 546 00:34:02.160 --> 00:34:06.960 encompassing and success lies only forward. And basically, 547 00:34:06.960 --> 00:34:10.880 that means is that, you know, we only we only win if we keep 548 00:34:10.880 --> 00:34:16.000 going, and we only lose if we, if we stop moving forward. But 549 00:34:16.000 --> 00:34:19.600 the but it's also that quotes also about the fact that, you 550 00:34:19.600 --> 00:34:24.000 know, life is dangerous, there is risk, we definitely you're 551 00:34:24.000 --> 00:34:26.840 like failure is a real thing. It's all around us. And it can 552 00:34:27.040 --> 00:34:31.239 Yeah, but yeah, so that's kind of what the quote is about. It's 553 00:34:31.239 --> 00:34:33.520 just always about just making sure that you just keep on going 554 00:34:33.520 --> 00:34:43.800 never give up. So wow, that's cool. Jackie's just sharing that 555 00:34:43.800 --> 00:34:47.600 she's had some massive identity breakthrough. And Linda saying 556 00:34:47.600 --> 00:34:50.120 it's hard to watch that and others and to experience 557 00:34:50.120 --> 00:34:58.760 personally. And Gail saying God gave her son a scripture last 558 00:34:58.760 --> 00:34:59.680 week that really helped 559 00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:06.880 this so lots of triggers hey lots of triggers go in jesus name yeah so there are lots of triggers 560 00:35:06.880 --> 00:35:13.360 right oh here we go we've just had okay right so let me let me um read these things out and then 561 00:35:13.360 --> 00:35:19.520 get ready okay so here's john walton's quote um i'm gonna stop the screen share now so you guys 562 00:35:19.520 --> 00:35:25.600 can't um jump ahead too much and see the see them there i gave you a little flash there so you guys 563 00:35:25.600 --> 00:35:32.640 can check out the template in your own time now um but for now let me get back to the template of 564 00:35:34.000 --> 00:35:40.560 it's escaped it's it's escaped me my templates escaped me my friends let me track down my 565 00:35:40.560 --> 00:35:46.000 template and then we're going to get into this and you guys can get busy with your fingers and 566 00:35:46.000 --> 00:35:54.800 i've got to find um there it is there it is it disappeared on me for a second righto um 567 00:35:56.560 --> 00:36:02.640 so here we go john walton's quote is and now you've got to say do you agree or disagree 568 00:36:02.640 --> 00:36:09.280 john walton's quote is failure isn't fatal but failure to change might be so do you agree or 569 00:36:09.280 --> 00:36:16.800 disagree now coco chanel he said well coco chanel said success is most often achieved 570 00:36:16.800 --> 00:36:24.560 by those who don't know that failure is inevitable agree or disagree success is most often achieved 571 00:36:24.560 --> 00:36:31.920 by those who don't know that failure is inevitable right robert r kennedy agree or disagree only 572 00:36:31.920 --> 00:36:38.800 those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly agree or disagree only those who are 573 00:36:38.800 --> 00:36:44.160 so this is robert kennedy so robert robert kennedy he said only those who dare to fail 574 00:36:44.160 --> 00:36:51.520 greatly can ever achieve greatly so agree or disagree with robert let me know um right we've 575 00:36:51.520 --> 00:36:59.360 got next is janet fitch um and janet fitch so do you agree or disagree with janet janet said 576 00:36:59.360 --> 00:37:06.240 the phoenix must burn to emerge the phoenix must burn to emerge agree agree agree or disagree with 577 00:37:06.240 --> 00:37:14.720 janet um so gina shewalter she said giving up is the only sure way to fail so agree or disagree 578 00:37:14.720 --> 00:37:21.760 with jenna she said giving up is the only sure way to fail all right now richard yates said so 579 00:37:21.760 --> 00:37:27.680 this is richard yates do you agree or disagree he said if you don't try anything you can't fail 580 00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:35.840 it takes backbone to lead the life you want if you don't try anything you can't fail 581 00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:41.840 it takes backbone to lead the life you want that's richard yates agree or disagree now 582 00:37:41.840 --> 00:37:48.480 dennis white weightly dennis said failure should be our teacher not our undertaker 583 00:37:49.120 --> 00:37:57.520 failure is delay not defeat it's a temporary detour not a dead end failure is something we 584 00:37:57.520 --> 00:38:05.840 can only avoid by saying nothing doing nothing and being nothing so agree or disagree with dennis 585 00:38:05.840 --> 00:38:11.360 right alan degeneres you might have heard of her she said when you take risks you learn that there 586 00:38:11.440 --> 00:38:18.720 will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail and both are equally important 587 00:38:18.720 --> 00:38:26.240 agree or disagree with alan winston churchill winston churchill said a pessimist sees the 588 00:38:26.240 --> 00:38:35.200 difficulty in every opportunity an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty agree or 589 00:38:35.200 --> 00:38:44.800 disagree with winston thomas edison said so remember thomas edison uh it took him 10 000 590 00:38:44.800 --> 00:38:50.640 goes over 10 000 goes to actually find out how to create a commercially viable light bulb so this is 591 00:38:50.640 --> 00:38:57.040 what thomas edison said after what some people would say failing 10 000 times and thomas edison 592 00:38:57.040 --> 00:39:04.800 said i have not failed i've just found 10 000 ways that don't work agree or disagree with thomas 593 00:39:05.360 --> 00:39:14.080 winston churchill again winston said success is not final failure is not fatal it is the courage 594 00:39:14.080 --> 00:39:22.240 to continue that counts alan again alan said alan degenerate said it's a failure that gives you the 595 00:39:22.240 --> 00:39:32.240 proper perspective on success okay this one is paulo uh hello okay so paulo said there is only 596 00:39:32.240 --> 00:39:39.520 one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve the fear of failure agree or disagree 597 00:39:39.520 --> 00:39:48.000 so lance armstrong lance armstrong said pain is temporary quitting lasts forever oh that's that's 598 00:39:48.000 --> 00:39:53.200 crazy that's a that's a real statement right there let's read that again so this is lance armstrong 599 00:39:53.200 --> 00:40:02.080 he said pain is temporary quitting lasts forever agree or disagree winston churchill he 600 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:04.080 again, he's back in the arena. Success is stumbling from 601 00:40:04.080 --> 00:40:08.760 failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. Now that's cool. 602 00:40:08.760 --> 00:40:12.280 Now, interesting thing about the word enthusiasm, the word 603 00:40:12.280 --> 00:40:19.320 enthusiasm, it's so in which is to be filled to be filled with 604 00:40:19.480 --> 00:40:24.200 and theos, which is God's actually enthusiasm. And the 605 00:40:24.200 --> 00:40:27.240 actual meaning of the word enthusiasm is to be filled with 606 00:40:27.240 --> 00:40:30.760 God. How good is that? So Winston Churchill said success 607 00:40:30.760 --> 00:40:34.520 is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of 608 00:40:34.520 --> 00:40:39.440 enthusiasm. Agree or disagree with that Neil Shusterman. Okay, 609 00:40:39.480 --> 00:40:43.240 Neil Shusterman said, I'd rather be partly great than entirely 610 00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:49.600 useless. Agree or disagree. J. M. Barry, she said, we are all 611 00:40:49.600 --> 00:40:55.200 failures. At least the best of us are agree or disagree. Henry 612 00:40:55.200 --> 00:40:58.920 Ford said the only real mistake is the one from which we learn 613 00:40:59.200 --> 00:41:04.000 nothing. C. S. Lewis. So agree or disagree with Henry. Now C. S. 614 00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:08.280 Lewis agree or disagree. C. S. Lewis said failure, failures are 615 00:41:08.280 --> 00:41:12.920 finger posts on the road to achievement. Now Robert 616 00:41:12.960 --> 00:41:18.200 Kiyosaki, he said winners are not afraid of losing, but losers 617 00:41:18.200 --> 00:41:23.320 are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who 618 00:41:23.320 --> 00:41:28.280 avoid failure also avoid success. Wow, that's deep. Let 619 00:41:28.280 --> 00:41:30.640 me read that one more time. But agree or disagree with Robert. 620 00:41:30.760 --> 00:41:35.080 Winners are not afraid of losing, but losers are. Failure 621 00:41:35.120 --> 00:41:38.360 is part of the process of success. People who avoid 622 00:41:38.360 --> 00:41:43.920 failure also avoid success. Okay, Napoleon Hill wrote, every 623 00:41:43.920 --> 00:41:47.760 adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the 624 00:41:47.760 --> 00:41:53.160 seed of an equal or greater benefit. Agree or disagree. Now 625 00:41:53.160 --> 00:41:56.400 Johnny Cash. All right. Do you agree or disagree with Johnny 626 00:41:56.400 --> 00:41:59.840 Cash? He said you build on failure. You use it as a 627 00:41:59.840 --> 00:42:03.840 stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to 628 00:42:03.840 --> 00:42:07.680 forget the mistakes. You don't dwell on it. You don't let it 629 00:42:07.680 --> 00:42:10.800 have any of your energy or any of your time or any of your 630 00:42:10.800 --> 00:42:15.080 space. Agree or disagree. Now Zig Ziglar. You agree or disagree 631 00:42:15.080 --> 00:42:19.360 with Zig. He said it's not how far you fall, but how high you 632 00:42:19.360 --> 00:42:25.640 bounce that counts. JK Rowling wrote, failure is so important. 633 00:42:25.920 --> 00:42:30.040 We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to 634 00:42:30.040 --> 00:42:34.760 resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater 635 00:42:34.760 --> 00:42:39.520 success. I've met people who don't want to try for fear of 636 00:42:39.520 --> 00:42:44.840 failing. Agree or disagree. Okay, Chris Hardwick. No human 637 00:42:45.040 --> 00:42:50.880 ever became interesting by not failing. No human ever became 638 00:42:50.880 --> 00:42:54.800 interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and 639 00:42:54.800 --> 00:43:00.160 improve, the better you become as a person. Ever meet someone 640 00:43:00.160 --> 00:43:04.200 who's always had everything or ever met someone who's always 641 00:43:04.200 --> 00:43:07.440 had everything work out for them with zero struggle. They 642 00:43:07.440 --> 00:43:12.080 usually have the depth of a puddle, or they don't exist. Now 643 00:43:12.080 --> 00:43:14.440 that was Chris Hardwick. So agree or disagree with Chris. 644 00:43:15.080 --> 00:43:20.520 And Alois Ristar said, when we give ourselves permission to 645 00:43:20.520 --> 00:43:25.600 fail, we at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel. 646 00:43:25.720 --> 00:43:31.480 So agree or disagree with Alois. John Green wrote, what is the 647 00:43:31.480 --> 00:43:34.920 point of being alive if you don't at least try to do 648 00:43:34.920 --> 00:43:42.840 something remarkable? Stop the truck. That is amazing. Like you 649 00:43:42.840 --> 00:43:46.160 need to highlight this one. This is massive. Like to me, 650 00:43:46.160 --> 00:43:50.760 this is so, so good. John Green said, what is the point of being 651 00:43:50.800 --> 00:43:55.760 alive if you don't at least try to do something remarkable? Oh 652 00:43:55.760 --> 00:43:58.760 my gosh, that is so powerful. I think the world needs to hear 653 00:43:58.760 --> 00:44:01.520 that right now. And for me, that's a massive agree on that 654 00:44:01.520 --> 00:44:05.920 one. Like, what is the point of just surviving? We got to go way 655 00:44:05.920 --> 00:44:07.920 beyond that. And we've got to go into the place of we're actually 656 00:44:07.920 --> 00:44:12.320 doing something phenomenal with our lives. So agree or disagree 657 00:44:12.320 --> 00:44:15.320 with John. What is the point of being alive if you don't at 658 00:44:15.320 --> 00:44:19.080 least try to do something remarkable? Now that gets me 659 00:44:19.080 --> 00:44:22.400 going. As you can tell, David Riddell, who's a friend of mine, 660 00:44:22.760 --> 00:44:27.480 it's worth doing something badly, while I get better at 661 00:44:27.480 --> 00:44:31.080 doing it. Agree or disagree with David. Here's another one from 662 00:44:31.080 --> 00:44:36.080 David. David Riddell, failure isn't fatal. It's just 663 00:44:36.200 --> 00:44:41.440 feedback. Napoleon Hill also wrote, no man achieved 664 00:44:41.440 --> 00:44:47.000 worthwhile success, who did not at one time or another, find 665 00:44:47.000 --> 00:44:51.760 himself with at least one foot hanging well over the brink of 666 00:44:51.760 --> 00:44:56.240 failure. Henry Ford, so agree or disagree with Napoleon. Henry 667 00:44:56.240 --> 00:44:59.320 Ford, another one from Henry. Failure is simply the 668 00:44:59.320 --> 00:44:59.960 opportunity. 669 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.880 to begin again, this time, more intelligently. Agree or disagree 670 00:45:05.880 --> 00:45:09.800 with Henry. Calvin Coolidge, here's another one. Here's one 671 00:45:09.800 --> 00:45:14.920 from Calvin Coolidge. Nothing in this world can take the place of 672 00:45:14.960 --> 00:45:19.600 persistence. Talent will not. Nothing is more common than 673 00:45:19.640 --> 00:45:24.960 unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not. Unrewarded 674 00:45:24.960 --> 00:45:30.720 genius is almost a proverb. Education will not. The world is 675 00:45:30.720 --> 00:45:36.760 full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination 676 00:45:36.800 --> 00:45:41.280 are omnipotent. Agree or disagree with Calvin. Okay, Bill 677 00:45:41.280 --> 00:45:45.560 Gates. Now, he is, for some people, he's not a hero, but 678 00:45:45.560 --> 00:45:48.960 here's a quote from Bill Gates. Agree or disagree. It's fine to 679 00:45:48.960 --> 00:45:53.280 celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the 680 00:45:53.280 --> 00:45:59.040 lessons of failure. Ralph Waldo Emerson, the greatest glory in 681 00:45:59.040 --> 00:46:03.560 living lies not in never failing, but in rising every 682 00:46:03.560 --> 00:46:07.240 time we fall. So that's Ralph Waldo Emerson, the greatest 683 00:46:07.240 --> 00:46:11.400 glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising 684 00:46:11.440 --> 00:46:15.560 every time we fall. Oh, who's this guy? This guy, Benji 685 00:46:15.560 --> 00:46:21.080 Alexander. He said, every great adventurer must embark upon a 686 00:46:21.080 --> 00:46:24.680 precipice of danger, where failure is real and 687 00:46:24.680 --> 00:46:28.760 encompassing, and success lies only forward. Oh, agree or 688 00:46:28.760 --> 00:46:31.720 disagree. Right, here we go. Erin Cummings. Do you agree or 689 00:46:31.720 --> 00:46:36.160 disagree with Erin? She said, at the end of the day, you are 690 00:46:36.160 --> 00:46:41.720 solely responsible for your success and your failure. And 691 00:46:41.720 --> 00:46:46.520 the sooner you realize that you accept that and integrate that 692 00:46:46.520 --> 00:46:51.640 into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long 693 00:46:51.640 --> 00:46:55.120 as you blame others for the reason you aren't where you want 694 00:46:55.120 --> 00:46:59.560 to be, you will always be a failure. Agree or disagree with 695 00:46:59.560 --> 00:47:03.680 Erin. Okay, Steve Jobs. Remembering that I'll be dead 696 00:47:03.680 --> 00:47:07.440 soon. And remember, he is dead now. So remembering that I'll be 697 00:47:07.440 --> 00:47:11.600 dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to 698 00:47:11.600 --> 00:47:16.320 help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything 699 00:47:16.520 --> 00:47:20.360 all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment, 700 00:47:20.400 --> 00:47:24.240 all failure, these things just fall away in the face of death, 701 00:47:24.440 --> 00:47:28.360 leaving only what is truly important. Agree or disagree 702 00:47:28.360 --> 00:47:35.080 with Steve? Steve? Okay. Right, we are going to leave those ones 703 00:47:35.080 --> 00:47:40.280 there. There's some more for you as you go. And as you go into it, 704 00:47:40.280 --> 00:47:43.280 there's going to be some more there. But I wanted to shift 705 00:47:43.280 --> 00:47:46.400 into some of these ones. Okay, so yes or no, we're going to do 706 00:47:46.400 --> 00:47:49.640 a few of these. And there's going to be more in the template 707 00:47:49.640 --> 00:47:52.920 for you to engage with. But let's check out some of these 708 00:47:52.920 --> 00:47:57.920 now. With these ones, you want to say the name of the person, 709 00:47:58.200 --> 00:48:05.480 right? But then you're going to say yes, I knew that or no, I 710 00:48:05.480 --> 00:48:12.560 didn't. Okay, so when you're typing in your comments, what 711 00:48:12.560 --> 00:48:14.560 you want to do is the person that this relates to. So the 712 00:48:14.640 --> 00:48:17.520 first one is Elvis. So you'll say Elvis and you'll say, Yes, I 713 00:48:17.520 --> 00:48:20.160 knew that. Or no, I didn't know that. Okay, so here's Elvis 714 00:48:20.160 --> 00:48:24.440 Presley. So Elvis. So you're gonna answer Elvis. Yes, I knew 715 00:48:24.440 --> 00:48:28.880 that. Or no, I didn't know that. So Elvis, Elvis Presley was told, 716 00:48:29.080 --> 00:48:32.800 you ain't going nowhere, son. You ought to go back to driving a 717 00:48:32.800 --> 00:48:36.920 truck. Elvis later became known, Elvis later became known as the 718 00:48:36.920 --> 00:48:40.560 king of rock and roll. So Elvis, did you know that? Or no, I 719 00:48:40.560 --> 00:48:47.480 didn't. Okay, so on his debut comic, at a stand up club called 720 00:48:47.520 --> 00:48:52.680 Yuck Yucks in Toronto, Jim Carrey was booed off the stage. 721 00:48:53.160 --> 00:48:57.800 He later received a check for US $10 million for acting in the 722 00:48:57.800 --> 00:49:01.400 comedy dumb and dumber. Did you know that? Or no, you didn't. So 723 00:49:01.400 --> 00:49:04.600 you say Jim Carrey, I knew that or no, I didn't. Okay, Katy 724 00:49:04.600 --> 00:49:10.120 Perry's album. So Katy Perry's first album sold only 200 copies. 725 00:49:10.560 --> 00:49:14.080 And then the recording company went broke. She was dropped by 726 00:49:14.080 --> 00:49:18.240 three recording companies before achieving success. She has now 727 00:49:18.240 --> 00:49:23.120 sold over 98 million digital singles and over 6 million 728 00:49:23.280 --> 00:49:27.560 albums. Did you know or didn't know that? Okay, Walt Disney was 729 00:49:27.560 --> 00:49:32.400 fired from a newspaper for lacking imagination and having no 730 00:49:32.440 --> 00:49:36.600 original ideas. Walt went bankrupt in business several 731 00:49:36.600 --> 00:49:40.960 times before going on to found the Walt Disney Company, which 732 00:49:40.960 --> 00:49:46.880 is now worth somewhere around 150 billion US dollars. Did you 733 00:49:46.880 --> 00:49:50.080 know that or not? Well, yes, I did. Or no, I didn't. Okay, 734 00:49:50.080 --> 00:49:55.440 Albert Einstein could not speak until he was four years old. And 735 00:49:55.440 --> 00:49:59.040 his teacher said he would never amount to much. His 736 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:07.080 So his four Annus Mirabilis or Miracle Year papers were released in 1905 and they laid 737 00:50:07.080 --> 00:50:12.520 the foundation for modern physics and changed views on space, time, mass, and energy. 738 00:50:12.520 --> 00:50:18.100 He was also awarded the Nobel Prize in physics in 1921, but did you know he couldn't even 739 00:50:18.100 --> 00:50:23.400 speak until he was four years old and his teachers said he would never amount to much. 740 00:50:23.400 --> 00:50:24.400 Interesting. 741 00:50:24.400 --> 00:50:25.400 Michael Jordan. 742 00:50:25.400 --> 00:50:28.880 So did you know that or didn't know that Michael Jordan went home, locked himself in his room 743 00:50:28.880 --> 00:50:33.320 and cried after being cut from his high school basketball team. 744 00:50:33.320 --> 00:50:39.600 During his basketball career, Michael Jordan won six NBA championships and received 14 745 00:50:39.600 --> 00:50:44.800 most valuable player awards and became one of the most famous professional basketball 746 00:50:44.800 --> 00:50:46.280 players in history. 747 00:50:46.280 --> 00:50:47.280 Right. 748 00:50:47.280 --> 00:50:51.480 Well, this is like, I'm excited for you guys to get into this template. 749 00:50:51.480 --> 00:50:55.580 I'm going to leave it there for now, but you're going to find some really, really interesting 750 00:50:55.580 --> 00:51:01.460 stories and I'm really, really looking forward to what we're going to go through this week. 751 00:51:01.460 --> 00:51:07.180 So I'll see you guys again on Wednesday, Wednesday at 7am. 752 00:51:07.180 --> 00:51:12.580 It'll be a real short video on Wednesday and then again, Friday at 7am, but love you guys 753 00:51:12.580 --> 00:51:13.580 very much. 754 00:51:13.580 --> 00:51:19.860 Let me, let me just check in on comments again here. 755 00:51:19.860 --> 00:51:22.060 We've got lots of agreeing going on. 756 00:51:22.060 --> 00:51:23.780 Michael didn't know that. 757 00:51:23.780 --> 00:51:25.100 Okay, sweet. 758 00:51:25.620 --> 00:51:29.820 Well, there's going to be, okay, so people, there's a lot of stories there that you didn't 759 00:51:29.820 --> 00:51:30.820 know. 760 00:51:30.820 --> 00:51:31.820 Some people knew those stories. 761 00:51:31.820 --> 00:51:37.420 There is, I'll tell you what I'm going to do is I'm going to give you one more. 762 00:51:37.420 --> 00:51:39.020 I'm going to give you one more story. 763 00:51:39.020 --> 00:51:40.020 Okay. 764 00:51:40.020 --> 00:51:48.340 This is the last one and then you'll have to find the rest out in the, as we go along. 765 00:51:48.340 --> 00:51:57.820 But let me share one with you that you've probably, you probably haven't heard because 766 00:51:57.820 --> 00:52:03.100 it's quite a rare story. 767 00:52:03.100 --> 00:52:08.540 Let me just see if I can make sure I can find it. 768 00:52:08.540 --> 00:52:13.380 I'll give you, I'll give you two more because this one's kind of funny. 769 00:52:13.380 --> 00:52:14.380 Okay. 770 00:52:14.380 --> 00:52:16.420 So this one's about Colonel Sanders, the founder of KFC. 771 00:52:16.420 --> 00:52:17.420 Okay. 772 00:52:17.500 --> 00:52:23.860 So Colonel Sanders, the founder of KFC, did you know that he was fired from three jobs? 773 00:52:23.860 --> 00:52:26.220 He launched a business that failed. 774 00:52:26.220 --> 00:52:32.540 He once had an argument with a business competitor that escalated into a deadly shootout. 775 00:52:32.540 --> 00:52:36.940 And the guy actually shot one of his business associates and killed him. 776 00:52:36.940 --> 00:52:41.140 And then Sanders shot and wounded the killer in self-defense. 777 00:52:41.140 --> 00:52:43.140 He went to court and was found innocent. 778 00:52:43.140 --> 00:52:46.660 He then bought a motel, which burnt to the ground. 779 00:52:46.900 --> 00:52:51.260 He rebuilt it, but then World War II broke out and forced him to close it. 780 00:52:51.260 --> 00:52:59.820 After the war, he tried to franchise his restaurant, but his recipe was rejected 1,009 times. 781 00:52:59.820 --> 00:53:02.380 But once it was accepted, it boomed. 782 00:53:02.380 --> 00:53:07.740 There are now over 18,000 KFC branches all over the world. 783 00:53:07.740 --> 00:53:08.740 How wild is that? 784 00:53:08.740 --> 00:53:11.060 He was rejected 1,009 times. 785 00:53:11.060 --> 00:53:13.980 People didn't think KFC would be a good flavor. 786 00:53:13.980 --> 00:53:14.980 People won't get into this. 787 00:53:14.980 --> 00:53:15.980 They didn't think. 788 00:53:16.260 --> 00:53:17.260 That was Colonel Sanders. 789 00:53:17.260 --> 00:53:20.540 Now, I want to find this one other one. 790 00:53:20.540 --> 00:53:23.180 All right, here's the one story that I want to finish with. 791 00:53:23.180 --> 00:53:27.660 Okay, so did you know in 1912, Dr. 792 00:53:27.660 --> 00:53:29.740 William Leslie, the guy's name is Dr. 793 00:53:29.740 --> 00:53:30.740 William Leslie. 794 00:53:30.740 --> 00:53:33.260 In 1912, did you know that Dr. 795 00:53:33.260 --> 00:53:36.380 William Leslie left America for Africa? 796 00:53:36.380 --> 00:53:41.100 And he spent 17 years as a missionary in the Congo. 797 00:53:41.500 --> 00:53:47.460 Eventually, he experienced a relational breakdown with tribal leaders in the area, and they 798 00:53:47.460 --> 00:53:51.220 asked him to leave and never return. 799 00:53:51.220 --> 00:53:56.900 He managed to reconcile things, but eventually he returned to America, and he felt like his 800 00:53:56.900 --> 00:54:01.340 17 years had been completely wasted. 801 00:54:01.340 --> 00:54:02.340 That was it. 802 00:54:02.340 --> 00:54:03.340 That was the end of his story. 803 00:54:03.340 --> 00:54:10.100 He just left Africa in total defeat, and he went back to America, and he never heard anything 804 00:54:10.100 --> 00:54:11.100 else. 805 00:54:11.100 --> 00:54:12.100 That was it. 806 00:54:12.100 --> 00:54:13.100 It was over. 807 00:54:13.100 --> 00:54:14.100 The rest of his life. 808 00:54:14.100 --> 00:54:15.100 He never heard. 809 00:54:15.100 --> 00:54:21.220 He just basically his whole life lived feeling like he completely failed there. 810 00:54:21.220 --> 00:54:23.620 Nearly 100 years after Dr. 811 00:54:23.620 --> 00:54:29.540 William Leslie had arrived in Africa, another team arrived from World Ministries. 812 00:54:29.540 --> 00:54:34.500 They expected to find completely unreached people in the dense Congo jungle. 813 00:54:34.500 --> 00:54:40.540 But what they discovered was a self-sustaining and self-propagating network of churches. 814 00:54:40.540 --> 00:54:45.700 One village even hosted a 1,000-seat cathedral. 815 00:54:45.700 --> 00:54:50.860 When asked how they received the gospel, the villagers were able to give enough information 816 00:54:50.860 --> 00:54:55.660 for the new missionaries to discover that the man who had left the legacy of the gospel 817 00:54:55.660 --> 00:54:59.980 in that place had been Dr. William Leslie, who had. 818 00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.880 believe that his 17 years of mission work had been a complete failure. 819 00:55:04.920 --> 00:55:08.600 Wow, I absolutely love that story. 820 00:55:08.640 --> 00:55:12.120 So you're going to have lots of like, you're really going to enjoy 821 00:55:12.120 --> 00:55:14.040 this processing failure template. 822 00:55:14.200 --> 00:55:15.560 It's going to be some deep questions. 823 00:55:15.560 --> 00:55:17.880 There's some amazing stories, some powerful quotes. 824 00:55:17.880 --> 00:55:21.040 So I look forward to hearing how that goes for you. 825 00:55:21.040 --> 00:55:27.320 And I will see you at, I will see you 7am New Zealand time on Wednesday morning. 826 00:55:27.360 --> 00:55:29.560 So lots and lots of love to all of you guys. 827 00:55:29.560 --> 00:55:32.760 Remember to access the template. 828 00:55:32.760 --> 00:55:35.200 You just click on the link in the description of this video, 829 00:55:35.320 --> 00:55:36.560 download it, and you're good to go. 830 00:55:36.600 --> 00:55:37.840 Love you heaps and bless you. 831 00:55:37.960 --> 00:55:39.120 We'll catch you real soon. 832 00:55:39.240 --> 00:55:39.680 Bye-bye.