How to Say No that's the subject under discussion
and there are plenty of times in life when you have to say no.
Fortunately sometimes it's easy. Saying no.
Most of the time is a simple little bit.
Thanks for asking me but. Yes sometimes you just plain know it's best.
But sometimes such a direct no would offend people.
Cause you to lose your friends make you seem to disapprove of them.
And if you just take a good idea.
That's like. Where.
Do.
You like them.
When. To evacuate. Yeah.
To check in to pick up some day to do that. Yet common I.Q.
Johnny. Where.
How can you say no and still keep your friends.
And that's quite a problem sometimes.
Well let's sit in on a discussion of that problem.
My friend and I think you'll find they have helpful opinions.
Like the present Marty.
And Lucy. Nara.
And Howie I know and I'm.
Well we're going to discuss saying no and still keeping your friends.
But you'll be better. What I mean if we get right to our exam. Might be.
I believe you have an answer that you want to discuss. Well.
Well the fellows and I often stop somewhere for a snack.
After a game or after practice.
It's usually just not know a place where you get a good sandwich.
But sometimes the fellas pick a tavern and then.
Let's have a drink. That's right. Why do you. Well I write.
What do you mean a drink. Never hurt anybody.
The people I made to. The Scotch and saw that right there.
Well. Well that's the situation.
What can I say because well I want to get along well with those fellows on the T.V..
I don't want to think I'm a draft so couldn't you just tell them you're in training.
Fellows The first being training too and I think
that I don't know whether we like them I gave them sound
training. Why couldn't you just started something you know maybe what would I say.
Just whatever you want if you were just to think that he could be.
I think so little without making any fuss about it. The start of what you want.
Well let's see how that go. Scotch and soda pop.
A double hamburger with no good. Now I'm hungry. Yeah.
I think that might work.
You know I'll try it next time I don't think it'll work at all not at the border at
all. Insistent. Maybe they'll let it go at that
but there are a lot of kids who won't give in. So easily let me tell you.
Haven't I have a time at the jam a party is very damp.
We get all settled down in the hotel.
Thankfully out of the way
and then.
For I'm dying for a smoke. How about you girls. Yeah right.
Well. Right.
No no no thank God in some way that's
right.
I'm sure you want me. No thanks. Really I'm going to have a go.
I'll come be a good Dr Just watch.
Here take a puff on now I see what I know just does me know to some
people. Well I don't think you very much.
If you think that on your life that some consolation.
I can't give up a friend just because of what I little thought like how can I say
no and really make it stick.
When you try component to it you can always just thank you thank you for the good
thing. We got to get you to want to say no no wait distraction is an answer.
Oh I don't mean card tricks but you can say no and change the subject.
Bring up the latest got to me could be the holy.
Well let's see how that might work.
Here take a go. I had.
Ideas about what.
Yes. That may be a pretty rosy version of what would happen.
Might work though.
It takes more than changing the subject to about the problem of
their their hands.
You know Lucy you promise not to tell.
But.
I've run into problems like this a lot you get home from a date
and it's still early enough to stay outside for a while to talk. Talk.
It's a funny thing. This boy has probably been good company on the date
but just given half a chance. And there's just no space morrow.
Don't spend time alone with him.
So why don't you do a point as simple as that is when he has to take you home.
Tell us convince your folks drop something to eat in the kitchen then use.
The help right. But really getting into situations pairings likely to start.
When you'd be in the car at the movies.
Even in your own home won't. You know I never thought of that.
Why don't we take starting with yours
and so just how you can say all right this time I didn't plan ahead.
And here we are on the front steps.
Tell me what are you growing up for in the traffic next. The relays I guess.
Or take the case of the girls find yourself in this situation. Anybody else hungry.
Can we go.
Maybe just a minute I'm not
sure those are very good examples of that poor guy in the front seat of
that car sure it's not easy.
You know you have to have a whole handle situations.
Because each one is different. That's right.
Seriously you.
Think it's always the boy.
Sometimes when.
And then it's hard
when it's up to the boy to say some valid thing to thank a petty one.
Well thing to do and some girls think if they have to permit it for Dave insurance.
Well. Each of us have to set his own standards. Those standards.
With a lot of. Really like a boy you want to be. You want to hold hands.
Maybe goodnight.
So on and so on that are travel.
Well I think the important thing is to know yourself and your.
Know where and how you're going to say no. But even then.
Well I think we've cleared the air a bit.
And we've outlined some skills and say no and keeping your friends.
List them again and review. Try to avoid difficult situations.
How you see the traction. Change the subject.
Nora know exactly when you want to get.
Marty and then say no possible but still no
but don't be too preachy. But I think there are some good ideas here.
What do you think How about talking this problem over.
It's worth some effort to learn how to say no and still keep your friends.