Report card
that can be a time of a tional upset.
But here's a boy who doesn't seem concerned.
In fact he doesn't look as though he could be upset by anything.
His report card is getting better. He's got a B. In history.
But he is upset.
Why should anybody be upset at getting a better grade than he did before brain.
Yes even though he's shown some improvement.
Howard is really upset about that report.
He isn't even going to take it
quite a few of you still have your report. Will you please return them tomorrow.
The following. Please return your report card as soon as possible.
Dan McCarthy Howard.
Howard Patterson your report card is still missing.
Howard Patterson did you bring your report card.
Please report to the office Mr Edmunds would like to see you.
Coming.
Spoke a man I know. Howard you've had your report card out for over two weeks.
Please make it a point to have it signed and bring it in. I can't.
I'm not going to take it home. It isn't fair.
Grades must have disappointed you quite a bit.
They so bad.
For usual C. Is that in the history of the that's a liberal meant.
I worked for a name. And I should have gotten one.
So the Howard. Howard.
You can't expect other people to judge your work exactly as you judge it.
This be is proof that you've been doing better in history.
Why not accept it and work still harder next time with the use of trying.
All you get is great like there.
Is a very familiar pattern of behavior.
Sometimes we expect great things. Things can't always work out the way we expect.
And when we are severely disappointed. We become emotionally upset. Well.
Let me try to give you an example of this pattern of emotional upsets.
But this happened just the other day in shark bites. I'm all a.
Let's call him John was working on a lamb his first one shop project.
He worked long and hard at it and he dreamed of the perfect and beautiful that
but it was going to be about dreaming together with realistic planning can be very
fruitful. But germs dream was enough realistic. Than expected.
Perfection on his very first try. Naturally it was disappointed.
So disappointed that he suffered an emotional upset.
Your rage Jim stormed the hero this.
Yes it was an infant child reaction. And of course you wouldn't react that way.
Would you know that silly. But you might feel that way.
Your emotional reaction is the important thing but there's such a difference.
If one saw one reasonable of them to expect the perfect player
but I had every right to expect any.
Do you think it was reasonable of you to expect Mr Rogers to judge your work in the
same way you did. You mean I shouldn't try for an A.
No that isn't what I mean it's one thing to set high goals for yourself.
It's quite another to be emotionally upset each time you miss your gold.
You think it through Howard.
If you can figure it out and return the card to me when you've had its time yes.
All right Howard. Think about what Mr Edmunds said Look around you.
Well right now what's upset her.
She's been that way. Lately. Ever since the operetta try outs.
This was the big chance of the year for her she wanted the leading role she was
sure she could get it.
And in your own mind she could see herself as the star of the show.
But she was expecting too much when she was offered a smaller part.
She was disappointed.
Expecting too much disappointment emotional upset.
Lasting for days afterwards. Now look for more. There is Bill.
Daydreaming. That's another sign of emotional upset.
You remember how it was about the class party. You told Bill if he wanted to date.
ALICE. He'd have to ask a month ahead of time. But he just waited around.
Until it was pretty late.
He was so sure she'd wait for him.
And being a popular girl she already had a date.
Expecting too much.
Disappointment emotional upset. Well Howard.
Do you see the pattern.
It fits you doesn't it.
I misread me I see it for a minute why and how I'd come on down to my office.
I've been thinking Mr. But I think I understand.
Sometimes you expect things that can't possibly happen.
So you sure to be disappointed. Saddam how it.
So the thing to do is to figure out what's punishable for reasonable
and then you aim high and you try for a last but you don't count on it.
You do understand our only even then you're going to be disappointed some time
which is why Mr Evans I'm still so upset about their greed that.
I am unable to study or do much of anything. I go on like this.
I won't even get the next time.
Well at least you're beginning to have some insight into your problem. Well.
Playing. But what can I do now. How do you handle disappointment when they come.
See. You play basketball. Don't you all. Yes mostly from the bench.
Then you have plenty of chances to watch the others in action.
I think this happens fairly often.
The fellow with the ball is eager to drive or a goal.
He expects to get is too quick. He bottles him up. From his blow up get met.
Some give up
and stop trying to play some become all the more alert eager.
They have to work at it until they make it. That's right.
And I guess there are those a different time.
But it's plain which is most effective is that. If your emotions are.
In balance agree with yourself or with others.
You don't withdraw stifle your emotions. You don't go off in a daydream.
Now you channel your emotional energy into a direct attack on your problem.
I think I see. Thanks Mr. Howard.
The report card. Do you have it or not yet. For sure.
Better be sure. Howard. Well Howard.
What are you going to do about that report.
You've tried hiding running away from it. You've tried blaming the teacher.
Now are you going to attack it directly.
My report.
This was about grades not so good.
It's not. The.
I thought you'd be disappointed. Maybe a little.
I was hoping for an A but you're improving.
Maybe next time I'll try. I'll really try.
But we won't be too disappointed if I don't quite make it will we.
If you try hard
but more can anyone expect.
What is it how it is ready Mr. I hope to do still better next. Well now.
Be careful. Oh yes Mr Redmond.
I'm not expecting miracles but I am working hard and I'm hoping.
I don't want any more emotional upset if I can help it sounds good.
If you're learning to keep your emotions in balance. Emotions invalid.
Thanks Mr Redmond.