Hey, fam, I think we are live right now.
I'm with Tyler, which is awesome.
So I'm going to do the classic right now,
just quickly check the tech, make sure we're streaming.
Pretty sure it's going to be awesome.
And, oh, that's it.
It's working, it's happening.
Cool.
Sweet.
Okay, so, fam, it's great to be here with Tyler.
And Tyler is leading the three-day parenting challenge
that is happening this week.
So this is just a little sneak peek for you
into what is coming.
So, Tyler, good morning.
Good to have you with us.
Good morning, Benji.
Hey, so I'm going to do a quick interview with Tyler,
get a little bit of the juiciness for you
of what's happening.
But if you aren't aware, if you weren't ready for it,
it is happening this time tomorrow.
We start three-day parenting challenge.
So as always, you can catch the lives,
you can catch the replays, but when you're jumping on,
let us know where you are in the world
and how you're doing.
I can see some people jumping on the live now.
Hello, hello.
So right now, this is streaming on a few different places,
but as of tomorrow, this will only be available
in the Raising Royalty Masterclass.
So jump on board into the Raising Royalty Masterclass.
If you don't have access and you want access,
then just drop access in the comments
if you want to make sure that you don't miss out on this
and some of the really cool parenting content
that is coming out.
So Tyler, if you just want to give a quick prayer
and then we'll launch into a little bit
of a fun interview with you.
Yeah, cool, cool, cool.
Yeah, Jesus, we just thank you for what you are doing
in the world, for what you're doing in this space, Father,
and for your heart of restoration and connection.
Lord, we thank you that you are on a mission.
Lord, you are on a mission to teach us
and lead us into a place of intimacy and connection
and lead us into a place of experiencing your love
and demonstrating your love in the form of family.
And so Lord, we just, yeah, God, we just thank you.
We're excited about what you're doing and we just say yes.
Lord, we say yes to your heart and your desire
to release a new form of love
and a new expression of love
through family on the earth, Lord.
Yes, Lord.
Amen.
Amen, beautiful.
Hey guys, if you've got your Bible,
jump with me quickly to John 17.
So much goodness in John 17,
but we're gonna go John 17, verse 26.
And I just wanna bring up one verse
that's kind of in alignment
with this dynamic adventure into parenting
and share it with you.
So we have John 17, 26.
And it's really, Jesus said,
you know, I have made you known to them
or I have revealed you to them
and I will continue to do so.
Then your love for me will be in them
and I will be in them.
And he was speaking of like,
Jesus is in this moment having this conversation
about the father.
So it's all about the father,
is that I've revealed the father to you
and I will continue to reveal the father to you
in order that the love that he has for me may be in you.
And I love the amplified version as well,
which is, and be felt in your hearts.
And so, so much,
and I would say that the primary mission of Jesus
was actually to reveal the father.
And in everything that Jesus is doing,
you actually see Jesus like carrying this thing.
If you've seen me, you've seen the father.
I and the father are one.
The father is always with me.
I'm never abandoned.
So Jesus has this continual theme of actually father
or family is actually probably being,
I would suggest that this is his main mission
for like incoming,
is actually to reveal the father to humanity.
So Tyler, let's jump in.
This is just gonna be a really short video.
So I've only got time for a couple of questions for you,
but let me ask you,
you've been on a real journey prepping this
and I'm really excited for what you're gonna bring.
What would you say are some of the big pain points
people are experiencing
in terms of relationships with fathers?
And yeah, and yeah.
So are we struggling with fathers on the planet?
Is this something that's an issue?
Like what's happening with fathers?
Tell us some of the pain points,
things people are struggling with in the parenting world.
Like in terms of like as kids experiencing pain,
you know, in our own father relationships.
Yeah, I think it's important to realize
that there are no perfect parents, right?
There just aren't any perfect parents.
So all of our relationships with our parents
and our fathers are flawed, you know, it just is.
So there's no harm and there's no shame in admitting that.
There's no shame in saying,
hey, actually I didn't have a perfect.
I mean, you may have had a really good relationship
with your dad.
And if that's you, then you're one of the lucky ones, right?
I find-
I'll say for myself, like that really was my story.
Like my dad has always been one of my best friends.
Right.
Not perfect, but still one of my best friends.
And so I still like count that a huge,
like just off the charts blessing.
Right.
So, I mean, sadly, that's not the norm,
I don't think, in my experience, right?
So I don't think there's shame in admitting,
there's no perfect parents.
And I think most parents are doing their best, right?
They're doing the best they can
and they all love their kids wholeheartedly.
But, you know, there's a lot of things
that society teaches us about parenting,
which actually work against us
to be able to foster connection
and instill a sense of identity and confidence in our kids.
And so, I mean, those are a few of the things
we're gonna touch on,
but those things essentially
they create disconnection and confusion, right?
So disconnects, just this feeling of this isn't working
and I don't know why.
I'm doing everything the experts are telling me to do,
but it's not working.
You know, why isn't it working?
And what do I do?
And I've read all the books and done all the tricks
and it's not working, what's going on?
So I think to answer your question, Benji,
it's mainly disconnection and confusion is the pain point.
You're not really knowing why.
Yeah, a hundred percent.
So I'm really excited as well.
There's gonna be this really dynamic part of this journey
in the next three days.
So we've got three days coming up.
Tyler's gonna be leading.
We've got some great guest speakers,
Matt and Renee Lansdowne.
That's gonna be fantastic as well.
So you're gonna really love that.
But there's gonna be this moment
in the three-day parenting challenge,
which is gonna be quite dynamic
where you're actually gonna have a live sozo
as part of it, right?
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, so what I love about that is it's just so vulnerable.
And I think what you're modeling there
is that this whole dynamic of parenting is a journey
and actually so much of it starts
with our own connection with God.
So we're gonna get to see a bit of your story,
see behind the veil into your world a little bit.
Can I just say, hey,
what's one of the biggest pain points
in your parenting journey,
one of the things you struggle with the most
in terms of your connection with dad, mom, parents?
How did that shape your world?
Yeah, so for me, I touched on this actually
a little bit yesterday in a talk that I did,
but for me, probably the big thing
I'm wrestling with right now is self-criticism.
Yeah.
And that stems from a place of emotional neglect.
It's a term that has kind of become known
in the last maybe 10 years even, it's pretty recent,
but what emotional neglect does is it creates a sense
of there's something wrong with me
because your inner psyche goes,
why am I being basically ignored?
Why do I feel invisible?
It's not my caretaker's fault.
It's really scary for a child's psyche
to say it's their fault.
They can't actually, they can't do that.
So they say, it's my fault.
There's something wrong with me,
which creates a sense of flaw.
There's something wrong with me.
And that kind of leads into this thing in an adulthood
where there's something wrong with me.
I don't have what it takes.
So that's been a huge challenge for me
and a huge journeys to overcome.
And really, I'm still in the journey.
I'm still going after this,
but that's really created a sense of,
I guess, frustration in me of being able to,
it's certain things that should have probably been easy
for me have been really hard.
And there's a lot to that and a lot of detail
we don't have time to go into,
but I guess that's a generalized little glimpse.
Yeah, absolutely.
So we're gonna be looking at our own parenting journeys,
getting reflection from that,
and actually hear some of the root stuff
that we need to address in our own selves
in order to be positioned to go forward
and actually change things up,
break cycles of disconnection,
break cycles of dysfunction,
and actually step into that model.
There's a kingdom model, right?
So we're gonna be exploring what the kingdom model is.
Here's dysfunction, here's tragedy,
here's what that looks like.
Here's some stepping stones towards triumph.
Here's how we can actually journey together
towards actually here.
This is what God intended for us
as the blueprint for marriage.
So that's exciting.
I say as well, getting this right is so important
because the parenting journey,
it can be just a couple of simple comments
that can actually shape the entire psyche of your child.
Yeah, yeah.
So, and oftentimes it's not even what you intentionally do.
Like I'll give you an example from my journey with my dad.
I overheard my dad one day
having a conversation with someone else.
And he said, so I had a huge amount of respect for my dad,
but he was talking to someone else about us kids.
And so he didn't know I was there.
And I was just like, Oh, this would be interesting.
I'll see what dad's thinking, saying about us kids.
And he said, it's so amazing to see your kids doing better than you ever did.
Yeah. And going further than you ever could.
I was like, wow, you know, that was one of the most powerful things
I ever heard my dad say.
And he said it was a total accident from his heart.
But what it was is, you know, you speak from the overflow of your heart.
Yeah. And so I think so much of what we actually accomplish
and what we struggle with in parenting is actually the overflow of our own heart.
So this is going to be exciting, you know, to like address our own heart,
like bring some healing, bring some restoration in there.
And then also see some really beautiful steps towards a whole
of steps towards what God has for us.
So, Tyler, I'm really excited.
I'm going to be tuning in myself all week.
Looking forward to this next few days.
And I'm really excited for having Matt and Renee with us as well.
Any kind of like little blurb you would shout out to people, say,
hey, don't miss this.
What would you what would you say to parents out there
who are thinking about jumping on?
Yeah, guys, I would just say that, you know, I think you're probably
going to hear some things that you've never heard before, you know, and
you're probably going to if you jump along, if you jump in
and join us, you know, I think that for me, you know,
some of the things we're talking about,
I've I've done a lot of of deep diving into this space.
And some of the things we're going to talk about are not they're not common.
They're not out there. Right.
It's kind of a whole different take aligned with the love of God
in a way that you might not expect.
So just be ready for for some things that might catch you by surprise
and might actually just change everything for you.
Yeah, 100 percent.
And honestly, sometimes it's only you only need one
one new insight that can actually change your whole parenting experience.
So I'm really excited, fam, for a great week.
And this is just the beginning of, you know, we've actually got a lot
that we've done already and got a lot to come.
So this is beginning of a really cool parenting journey.
So all your parents out there, we just want to say massive love to you.
And we are excited for sharing this journey together.
So bless you guys. And we'll catch you real soon.
Tyler, thanks for jumping on with me this morning.
And I'm going to be excited about following with you the next
over the next few days.
So this is going to be going forward as well into just sharing this journey.
Really, it's just about sharing this journey and figuring out, you know,
how how we bring an accurate
or thematic expression of heaven into our family.
So excited for this journey.
Bless you. All right. Thanks, guys.