WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:12.320 Well hey everybody! How are we doing? I hope you're doing well. For those of you 2 00:00:12.320 --> 00:00:20.480 who are in New Zealand, welcome to another lockdown. Here we are again. So 3 00:00:20.480 --> 00:00:28.320 hey, I just wanted to jump on here real quick and just share, share an 4 00:00:28.320 --> 00:00:33.960 experience, a little story that happened for me a couple of days ago which might 5 00:00:33.960 --> 00:00:38.960 be helpful to you if you find yourself suddenly working from home with kids. 6 00:00:38.960 --> 00:00:43.880 Just, just, it's just a little story. It's just a little success story 7 00:00:43.880 --> 00:00:50.720 really that I don't want to share. Hopefully it's helpful. But a couple 8 00:00:50.720 --> 00:00:56.760 days ago I was working from from home. I was downstairs on my computer and in my 9 00:00:56.760 --> 00:01:02.960 my son Jackson, who is just turned four, he he comes in from the garage with a 10 00:01:02.960 --> 00:01:09.240 box and it's it's it's like a pretty tall long box and he puts it on the 11 00:01:09.240 --> 00:01:13.800 ground and he climbs in and he's really wanting to kind of hide and play in this 12 00:01:13.800 --> 00:01:19.640 box and then his sister Olivia, who's just barely one, comes over and starts 13 00:01:19.640 --> 00:01:23.680 kind of crawling on top of the box and Jackson starts trying to shake her off 14 00:01:23.680 --> 00:01:29.720 and jump up and down and and it's obviously not very safe for her and I'm 15 00:01:29.720 --> 00:01:32.960 trying to work and I'm feeling distracted and I'm feeling stressed and 16 00:01:32.960 --> 00:01:38.000 I'm not really wanting to to deal with that while I'm trying to focus on work. 17 00:01:38.000 --> 00:01:45.640 And so I come over to Jackson and I said, hey buddy, you've got a choice to make. We 18 00:01:45.640 --> 00:01:51.080 can either place something else, play with something else, or you can play in 19 00:01:51.120 --> 00:01:56.880 this box in another room where Olivia isn't. So which one would you like to 20 00:01:56.880 --> 00:02:03.280 choose? And and of course he says, I choose playing this box here in this 21 00:02:03.280 --> 00:02:11.440 room. And and so that's that's not gonna work for for me. I've figured out, you 22 00:02:11.440 --> 00:02:16.280 know, so I said, okay, so we've got another another choice. So I said, okay 23 00:02:16.280 --> 00:02:24.480 buddy, you can choose for me to carry you into another room in this box or you 24 00:02:24.480 --> 00:02:30.040 can choose to to hop out and help me carry the box to another room. What would 25 00:02:30.040 --> 00:02:34.960 you like to choose? And so he he doesn't answer me of course. So I said, okay buddy, 26 00:02:34.960 --> 00:02:39.560 I'm gonna I'm gonna carry you to another room now. So you ready? So I, you know, I 27 00:02:39.560 --> 00:02:44.320 safely I pick him up and I carried him just on the other side of the baby gate 28 00:02:44.320 --> 00:02:49.680 where Olivia can't get to him and she's safe and he's safe. And I and then I put 29 00:02:49.680 --> 00:02:55.520 him down and I and then I could tell I could tell that he is wanting to crawl 30 00:02:55.520 --> 00:03:03.560 out and and carry the box back into the room where I was working. And so I said 31 00:03:03.560 --> 00:03:10.120 to him, hey buddy, if you if you climb out of the box and carry it back into this 32 00:03:10.120 --> 00:03:14.600 room, I'm gonna I'm gonna have to take the box and put it somewhere where you 33 00:03:14.600 --> 00:03:19.120 can't get to where you can't play with it. And he, you know, I can tell he 34 00:03:19.120 --> 00:03:21.680 understands but he doesn't want to acknowledge me. And I said, hey, can you 35 00:03:21.680 --> 00:03:24.960 tell me what's gonna happen? Can you tell me what's gonna happen if you if you 36 00:03:24.960 --> 00:03:29.400 come out of the box and bring it back in this room? And he said, you're gonna you're 37 00:03:29.400 --> 00:03:32.600 gonna put it somewhere I can't play with it. And I said, yeah, that's right, but but 38 00:03:32.600 --> 00:03:36.200 you're welcome to play with it right here as much as you want. And then he's 39 00:03:36.200 --> 00:03:40.280 and then and then he hops out of the box and he says, actually I think I'm 40 00:03:40.280 --> 00:03:44.040 gonna put it away now and play with something else. And he he picks it up and 41 00:03:44.040 --> 00:03:46.960 he carries it back into the garage and puts it right back where it was and he 42 00:03:46.960 --> 00:03:52.400 comes back in and happily plays with something else. So this is just a little 43 00:03:52.400 --> 00:04:00.560 a little glimpse into empowering choices, giving empowering choices. And so, you 44 00:04:00.560 --> 00:04:05.440 know, I was working and had figured out that basically what was happening in in 45 00:04:05.440 --> 00:04:09.480 the space that I was in wasn't gonna work for me. So instead of feeling 46 00:04:09.480 --> 00:04:15.200 instead of feeling resentful and frustrated and triggered, I decided to 47 00:04:15.200 --> 00:04:21.240 give some empowering choices that did work for me and would also work for him 48 00:04:21.240 --> 00:04:26.560 too. So yeah, that's, you know, just a little glimpse at boundaries, giving 49 00:04:26.560 --> 00:04:31.000 choices, something that I'm kind of learning and getting better at. But I 50 00:04:31.000 --> 00:04:34.360 hope that helps. I just wanted to hop on here. I know many of us are now 51 00:04:34.360 --> 00:04:38.120 working from home if you're here in New Zealand. I'm trying to figure out how to 52 00:04:38.120 --> 00:04:43.080 do life in an environment if you have kids that can be a little bit chaotic and 53 00:04:43.080 --> 00:04:54.160 tricky. So peace be with you. We we love you. It's an honor to do to do life 54 00:04:54.160 --> 00:05:01.760 alongside so many people who are who are running after health. 55 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:02.120 and running after the things of God. 56 00:05:02.120 --> 00:05:06.200 So guys, we love you and hope this helps 57 00:05:06.200 --> 00:05:07.920 and we'll catch you next time. 58 00:05:07.920 --> 00:05:09.480 Okay, cool, cheers, thanks.