And good morning, happy Wednesday if you're listening to this live as we are in the Prosper
5-7 challenge to show up and let God show out.
I'm so excited to be back with you.
My heart is so full, it's just amazingly filled with joy that you're willing to challenge
yourself, you're willing to take a risk.
I know it's been scary, I know it takes a lot to be willing to show up.
You know, we are so critical of ourselves, right?
And so dropping that, dropping the perfectionism and getting our eyes off of ourselves and
onto others.
So today we are going to be talking about confidence, confidence, alright?
So the more confidence you have, the more magnetic your message becomes and the more
fun you start having, the more results you start getting.
So there is a science, there is a way to become more confident.
A lot of it is just doing it, just doing it, you know?
Get past the fear of the unknown.
So a lot of it is just that.
So I'm so excited, today we are going to be talking about, and welcome Buffy, I hope I'm
pronouncing that right.
I am so glad.
Welcome, I know you're in the group and I'm so looking forward to getting to know you.
Thanks for jumping on live here.
And Yvonne, congratulations on showing up girl, I know it's been a big stretch.
So proud of you.
So great seeing you show up.
So today we are going to be talking about confidence.
How can you get more confidence?
How can you show up with more confidence?
Kimberly, welcome!
So glad you're here.
Yvonne, so glad you're here.
Awesome, awesome.
So excited to be with you in this prosper challenge to show up and let God show out.
Alright, we're going to start with prayer and then I'm going to share some tips with
you to help you be more confident.
And we're going to get into some, oh I'd like to give you some hacks, some ways to get more
out of what you're doing.
Some success hacks, some success tools and tips.
And then you're going to get your challenge.
Who is ready for the next challenge?
Say me!
Go ahead and put it, say I am!
I am.
That's a powerful word.
I am.
Name of God.
Alright.
So, let's start with prayer and then we will dive in.
Alright, you ready?
Okay.
Father, I just thank you for this opportunity for us to come together to have a place of
grace, of supporting each other, a place of action, of getting out of our comfort zone.
A being willing to show up so you can show out God throughout all history.
You have worked through people, imperfect people.
I'm thinking right now of Gideon.
You called him a mighty man of valor and he was busy hiding because you saw, you saw what
was on the inside.
And we see that in so many characters.
We see in Esther.
You know?
She was afraid.
It was such a risk to go to the king.
She was afraid.
But when she came to the realization that there was people on the other side that needed
what she had an opportunity to do.
She came to the realization, who knows if it's not for such a time like this that I
was born.
God, I pray for everybody on this call, everybody in this group that they will realize that
they were born, that they are here in this time, in this season for such a time as this.
I pray you'll put a holy boldness on them.
I pray you'll encourage them, put courage on the inside like Paul prayed.
I pray the eyes of their heart will be open, that they will know the power that is working
in and through them.
Father, God, may they step into their power, I ask.
May this group, as we encourage one another, and we build each other up in our faith,
may this be a start of them truly being willing to release the gifts that you've placed in them,
to take the experiences, the struggles, the knowledge, the gifts, all that is in them,
and be willing to release it to hurting people.
There's people on the other side praying.
So Father God, give them courage today.
Give them a holy boldness to not let back, not draw back, not fall back, not step back,
not hide, not get behind perfectionism.
Father God, let them advance boldly toward the call you have on their life.
May the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight.
I ask in the name of Jesus, amen and amen.
Welcome, welcome.
Earlene, I see that you showed up.
Congratulations today on your video.
I haven't had a chance to watch it all, but I'm excited to get back over there.
Congratulations on showing up.
Ada, congratulations on showing up, both here and in the group with your video.
Awesome.
All right, today we are talking about confidence.
So the goal is not only showing up, okay, that's the first step, showing up,
but showing up with confidence.
So here's what I want you to write down.
It'll be in your notes, but here's what I want you to write down.
Get this point.
Confidence comes from knowing the value you deliver.
So when we get our eyes off of ourself and, you know, feeling all unworthy
and lacking and all that nonsense, and we just think about,
do I have something that will help people?
Did I learn something in my experience that I can share?
I mean, everybody has a testimony.
Everybody has a life story.
We can start there.
If you're not sure where to start, start with your life story.
Think about a good movie.
It has a struggle and it has a resolution, and we love seeing that.
You've had struggles that have gotten you where you are,
and you've learned some things.
You've gleaned some wisdom, and that is valuable.
Especially, you know, those of us, not going to insult anyone,
but, I mean, it's clear I'm in my 50s, okay?
The Bible says that the older women are to share and train up
and encourage the younger women.
So those of us who are very young older women, okay?
I don't consider myself old, but I am older, okay?
Share our experience and make a difference.
And so when your eyes are on taking what God has done in and through you
and sharing it and making a difference in the lives of others,
you're going to feel more confident.
When that is the focus, you're going to feel more confident.
So I'm going to help you with some things.
I'm going to give you this handout, but here's some keys for showing up confidently.
Number one, focus on the client.
Focus on the person that you're serving.
That's why we did the exercise yesterday where I literally had you see them
like I'm seeing you right now.
I feel your heart.
I feel how scary this is because I've got to tell you,
the first time I was not on camera just speaking to one person,
a man in a suit, sharing.
I was in a direct selling company just speaking to one person presenting something.
I had so much sweat running down my back when I stepped into public speaking 30 years ago.
I mean, my knees, I almost fainted.
I had to hold on, clench to the podium.
I had so much sweat running down my back.
I would lean backwards kind of Asian style, right?
You wouldn't see how sweaty I was and how scared I was. So I feel you. I know
what it is to step out beyond your comfort zone and that's what this is
about. You feeling what other people are going through. People are scared right
now about their money. Those of you that are good with money. People are scared
about their health. Those of you that are good and learn some things about health.
People are scared about their relationships. Their relationships are in
a lot of tension right now. There's a lot of stressors in their life
that have changed. They don't know their economic future. Their kids are at home.
I mean there's a lot of stress being put on relationships. So whatever
area that God has put on you, there's people praying for you right now. On the
other side of your courage and your willingness to step out, there's people
for you. So the exercise we did yesterday was to start having you look at that
camera and not be thinking about scary masses of people and not be talking to
huge groups of people, but to be talking to one person. One person whose life can
be changed because of you. One person who may be considering suicide right now.
God's just putting this on me. This isn't even on what I wrote down on my notes.
God's putting this on me to share with you right now. There's people on the
other side right now that are giving up. There's people who are considering
suicide right now. Suicide's at an all-time high. That's who we're talking
to. There's people who are thinking about leaving a relationship or running away,
just running away from their problems. There's people that are doing
all kinds of things and they're waiting for you. So just talk to one person.
That's gonna grow your confidence because your confidence is gonna come
from God, the Holy Spirit, speaking through you. Remember, you're the temple
of the Holy Spirit. And so you pray, God, use my mouth. Speak through my mouth. God,
use my hands. God, write through me. When you're every post, before you even write
it, God, write through me. God, speak through me. God, sing through me. God,
paint through me. God, cook through me. God, create through me. It's God
living out through us and that's where the confidence comes from. We're just
weak vessels, all of us, but the confidence is God speaking through us. So
number one for showing up confidently is focus on the client, not yourself.
Number two, focus on the outcome. Focus on the results. You know you can deliver.
All right, let's not be grandiose. When I invited you to this group, the outcome
was to create a place of grace and action. A place where I knew you could
overcome some fears and show up. That was the outcome and we're doing it. It's
something I knew I could deliver. I didn't promise you, hey, you're gonna have
5,000 followers by next week. Hey, your income's gonna quadruple by tomorrow. See,
I'm not promising things I can't deliver. I'm promising and it doesn't have to be
big, guys. It's big for them, okay? Give people bite-sized chunks. I mean, can I
can I make a confession? I'm not sure if I gave you too big of a bite yesterday,
but you know, you stepped up to it. I thought, mmm, you know, you're
gonna have this with your clients. It's like you want to push them, you want to
push them out of the nest, but you don't want to scare them so much, you know, that
they run the other way. And so when you guys were silent all day yesterday, don't
do that. Don't be silent all day. I'm like, oh, I think I pushed them too far,
right? But I didn't. You guys stepped up. You did it. You're doing it. More of you
are gonna step up and keep doing it. But the point is, I measure it. When I
focus, I focus on outcomes. What outcomes can we create here together, right? What
outcomes can we create that I know? I know I can deliver. Well, I know I can
help you show up. I know I can do that. I've been teaching it. I've been doing it.
I know I can help you show up. See, I made a small promise. So this is
what we want to do. Focus on the results, the outcome you can deliver. And so, you
know, we want to under promise, under promise. All right.
deliver. I didn't promise you that I was going to give you a lot of great
teaching, but I think I'm doing that. If you agree, you can let me know. Giving you
a lot of great teaching. I just promised that I was going to create a place for
you to show up. So under promise, over deliver. And when we get into building
your business and confidence, never, never charge by the hour. Don't put a price
tag on yourself. Don't make yourself worth $50 an hour or $250 an hour or
$1,000. Don't put a price tag on yourself. And I want you to remember
something. In order to show up, you do not have to know everything. You just need to
be one step, ten steps ahead of the person you're sharing with. I got a long
way to go. I have mentors. I always am learning, but I know I've done this. I've
been showing up for a long, long time. So I know I can share this. I've been
building a coaching business, six-figure coaching business, all online since 2014.
I know I can help people pivot online. Okay, and lastly, keys for showing up
confidently is preparation. Okay, that makes a big difference. Preparation. So
Sun Tzu says this, know yourself and you will win all battles. So one of the
things for confidence is to really have some reflection before you show up. So I
gave you 10 questions for reflection that will help you feel more confident.
Okay, and so you're going to do those. What comes natural for you? What do you
know so well you can almost do it in your sleep? What's fun for you?
What do you enjoy so much you get lost in it? I'll give you guys a little
thing. I'm having so much fun with you guys in the group, especially seeing you
encourage each other and the community that's happening here. I'm having so much
fun. Yesterday I met with a huge marketing team. I had the video and website and all
kinds of stuff, strategy, as a way to really provide some really, really value
to you guys. So you guys got something really exciting coming. We're just
getting started here. So what's fun for you? What do people compliment you on?
What do people come to you for and ask you about? What have you spent a lot of
time learning about? What have you been practicing? What did you get some
education or training or certification in? What have you won awards for? So this
helps you when when you get back. Because a lot of times I'll have someone get
ready to coach and they'll say, I just don't know if I know enough. I don't know
if I can teach this. I don't, you know, who am I? Right? Imposter syndrome. Who am I?
And I back up and I say, do you feel what you offer will truly, will truly make a
difference in someone's life? The stuff that God's put in you, do you feel it'll
make a difference? And they'll always say yes. Alright, get in touch with that.
Focus on that. That's where your confidence will come from. Okay? So
remember some of the things for confidence. Affirmations, declarations, okay?
You can go to my YouTube channel and, you know, refresh on that. But how you talk to
yourself is very important. Giving what you desire to receive. You desire to be
encouraged. Encourage others, right? You desire to help others grow, right? You
desire others to help you grow, help others grow. Okay? You desire others to
pour into you, pour into others. Give what you desire to receive. And again,
communicate benefits. So let's get into the strategy for today. Let me pull that
up. What we're going to talk about today is having a daily plan for showing up on
social media. One of the things that keeps us stuck is we don't have a plan.
And so, okay, I'm going to get on social media today and we get lost in the feed
and it takes a lot of time and we leave and we're not sure if we accomplished
anything. We're not going in there with a really clear plan. Okay? Probably, I want
to say 20 years ago, 15, let's see, at least 10, maybe 10, 15 years ago, I
first got taught how to do this. It was 10 years ago. I'm thinking back right now. It was 10 years
ago. And a wonderful woman, Anita, a friend of mine, made it so simple. And I've followed this
now for over a decade on Facebook. And that is, I don't spend a lot of time on Facebook. People,
that's one of the number one things. You're like, I don't have time to be on social media. I got my
business. I got this and that. Okay. What takes time is if you get lost in the feeds all over
the place. But you can go into Facebook or whichever you like, Instagram, LinkedIn, whatever
it is. And you can go in very strategically with a plan. And so she gave us a plan. I think it was
back then. I don't know. Might've been 10, 15 minutes. 15 minutes in the morning, 15 minutes
at night. I'm going to give you something similar, based on the experience of what I've been doing
for a long time. And I think these things will help you. All right. You don't need more than 30
minutes twice a day. That's max. If you're spending more than that, you're way over the top.
Okay. 10, 15 minutes is usually plenty. And the overall philosophy
is to give way more than you ask. Give way more than you ask. So typically posts or emails or
whatever marketing you're doing, videos, it should be give, give, give at least three. I like five.
Give, give, give, give, ask. Okay. And people don't mind when those kinds of ratios, give,
give, give, give, give, ask. Give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, ask. People don't mind that.
All right. They're going to stay with you and they're going to appreciate what you do. And they
won't mind when you make an offering. In fact, they will be glad that you're making an offering,
especially if you're focusing on the outcome to them. Okay. So what would I do if I was going to
pop on Facebook? This is what I do in the morning. I've had my time with God. I've done my walk. I've
done everything and I'm getting ready to do pop on Facebook. This is exactly what I do. And it's
quick. It's boom, boom, boom, boom. And the more you do it, the faster it's going to get. All right.
Who wants to know what I do on Facebook every morning and every evening? Who wants to know?
Say I. I want to know. I want to know you're with me. Say I'm with you. I need to hear from you guys.
I see you there. All right. I think there's a little delay coming too. All right. Here's what I do.
Number one, the first thing I do, and I know we've got all ranges of understanding on Facebook,
so I'm going to make it very simple. Okay. Because some of you have never been on or barely been on.
And there you go. I'm getting all the little pops up. Thank you. All right. Some of you
are brand new to Facebook and some of you are way more experienced. So
bear with me. Okay. The first thing I do is check notifications. Check notifications. Okay.
That's the little bell. Okay. That's the first thing that you go to is you check the notifications.
All right. What do I look for? First thing is I look for new likes. So if I've done a post
and people have liked it. Okay. Especially I'm going on my business page right now I'm talking
about. Okay. People have liked it. You don't stop there. Okay. That's them raising their hand and
reaching out and connecting with you. So when people have liked it, there is a place when you
go and click on that. And I'll help any of you privately if you're not sure how to do this.
And that there's a little button next to it, not on your personal page, but on your business page.
And it says, invite to like my page. Okay. If it's on your personal page,
then I instant message. I reach out and I say, Hey, thanks for your like. And I invite them to
my business page. Okay. And I usually do that by saying, um, my, my personal page is where I share
what's happening in, in my life, you know, food, fun, family travel. Uh, but I share all of my,
and you can put what you share on your business page. Okay. The, the things that are value.
Okay. And so you, we want to move them to liking your business page.
Okay. So we want to move them from your personal page. There's two things that, that we need.
to do. We want to grow your personal page because you have things you can do and grow your business
page because there's things you can do on Facebook and other places on your business page that you
cannot do on your personal page. Let me make it clear, Facebook does not, I'm speaking Facebook
primarily right now, we can separate out there's different things for Instagram and LinkedIn and
all of that, but Facebook does not want you doing business on your personal page.
They very much frown on that. Okay, so you need to have a separate business page.
And so we're going to want to periodically draw from the people that are on our personal page
that friend requested us and etc. We want to draw them over to our business page where we can do far
more. Okay, so again, first thing that I do, I check the little bell and if there's new likes,
I want to invite them to like my page. In other words, they might have liked a post,
but I want them to like my page so they're always going to get what I'm doing. Okay,
so I'm checking for new likes and inviting them to like my page. I'm checking for shares. There's
going to be people that like what you do and they're going to share it. Again, instant message
is your key to totally direct messaging is your key to really truly connecting with them.
I like to think of that as my networking meeting. That's my connection hub because I can talk to
them privately. I can talk to them directly. I can truly reach them. So I want to get the
conversation off of general. Somebody clicked a like, somebody shared, somebody did something. I
want to get it off of general and I want to have a one-to-one conversation. That's where
things really happen. So if they share, I thank them for their share. Okay, here's a tip. I'm
jumping off for just one second because God's putting it on my heart. Okay, a little tip.
Every time that you use messenger, okay, which is right there on your Facebook, you instant message
them, you direct message them. Okay, every time you do that, you want to sign it at the bottom
of whatever you write. Okay, so think about a signature. We worked on your signature page,
you know, on your emails. Now think about your signature all the time. What you're going to say.
All of you know my signature. Who can write down, who's going to be first, write down how
do I sign everything, be it Facebook or anything. How do I sign it?
How do I sign anything? If I message or I email you, how do I sign it? Somebody put it in the chat.
How do I sign? How do I sign? What's my signature? What do I say?
Nobody knows? Might be a delay on this. I say, praying you prosper in all things.
Brenda, let me give you the reasons for that. This is a little hack God's putting on my heart
to share with you right now. I know I'm bouncing around, but I'm sharing as God downloads to me.
Okay, there you go. Earlene did it. Praying you prosper in all things. Okay, there's a double
reason. Okay, I say, praying you prosper in all things, Brenda. What's happening to my brain
every time I write? Praying you prosper in all things, Brenda.
Praying you prosper in all things, Brenda. I'm writing that 10 times, 100 times a day,
thousand times a day. Praying you prosper in all things, Brenda.
Got it? You guys getting a download here real quick? The Bible talks about blessing yourself,
and I'll share more about that. So I'm blessing them because I truly am praying for them. Okay,
so I'm blessing them. I'm blessing myself. I'm consistently branding, praying, you know,
prosper in all things is my company. So there's consistency in branding.
All right, here's the hack I want to give you. Right underneath that, right after I say praying
you prosper in all things, and you want to have your signature. Okay, welcome. Cindy just joined,
right? All about hope. So I put some
Something in the signature that had to do with hope, that you speak all the time.
Yes, you're feeding the message into you, you're feeding the message into them.
Okay, so in that signature, now when you're messaging on direct messenger, I say praying,
I end the message praying you prosper in all things, Brenda, now watch what I do right
underneath that.
I say www.facebook.com forward slash prosper in all things.
Whatever your company address, your page, your business page is.
Soon as I type that, my picture and my business page is right there, okay?
It pops up.
Again, branding, how many times do they need to see you before they know, like, and trust
you?
So you're giving value, value, value, but every time you're direct messaging them, you're
blessing yourself, you're blessing them, you're putting your face there, it's not
just words, okay?
So that's a hack.
So every morning, what are we doing real quick?
We're checking our notifications.
Our new likes, if it's on the business page, we're inviting them to like our business page.
If it's a share, we're direct messaging them and thanking them.
If it's a friend request, then I quickly glance at them and see if it's someone I want to
be friends with, right?
I look at what they're promoting, does it line up, right?
With someone I want to work with, someone I want to be friends with, okay?
So I glanced at it real quick, and then I confirm, I accept the friend request, and
then I immediately, as soon as I accept the friend request, I immediately instant message
them and thank them for the friend request.
Lastly, on the notifications are birthdays.
Okay, so I'm going in there and I'm just click, click, click, I'm checking, how do I do that
fast and not take all day, okay?
Here is a time hack, alright?
I have a Word document sitting right on my desktop, you can put it wherever you can find
it, and I have pre-written a note that I'm going to put in the direct message.
So I copy and paste that into the direct message.
So I always start with their name, hi, and I put their name, and this is what my mind
says that I do over and over again, thanks for the friend request.
Then I either say, looks like you have good stuff happening, if they're really doing stuff
and everything, I say, looks like you have good stuff happening, or I find something
to love.
I love the colors on your page.
I love all your positive posts, whatever.
Find something to connect, one sentence, okay?
Or if we have a ton of people in common, I say, looks like we have a lot of friends in
common.
I'm going to share this in the attachments, alright, so don't worry.
And then I say, I look forward to getting to know you.
And then I either say, if I don't see that they're doing that great, I say, how are you
doing during all this craziness?
My chance to reach out.
If it looks like they're busy and they're going and going, I usually say something like,
what exciting adventure does God have you on?
I end with an open question.
Remember, what we want is relationship.
We want engagement.
So I open with something that we can really connect on, and then praying you prosper in
all things, Brenda.
Here is how I sign it with that.
If I'm asking them to like my business page right there, I say, P.S.
Please check out my business page.
It's dedicated to equipping and empowering women to prosper.
If you like what you see, please hit like and follow.
And that's where I put www.facebook.com forward slash prosper in all things.
Whatever your link is that is your page, okay?
Have that pre-written so you can just cut and paste it, all right?
And be able to just modify it really quick.
But that just, it's quick now.
So anybody that has liked you that you're connecting with, you can modify that and boom,
this is the way you're going to grow your business page.
You're going to start the conversation going.
And I get fantastic conversations going.
They usually write, they tell me what they're doing, and we want engagement back and forth.
We'll talk about that more as we go.
My next step, you want to have a plan, so I want them to like my business page, but
my next step is I want to get their email.
So I want you to remember, whatever channel you're on.
on social media, it can be taken away from you in a minute, in a second, in a heartbeat.
So a bunch of likes or a bunch of friends or a bunch of anything on social media in
the long run means nothing.
Facebook changed their algorithms, you can have 5,000 people and they can show you to
20 unless you're paying for advertising.
So I'm going to put this stuff in the handout, I'll probably be popping by and giving you
some more things because I don't want to overload you, I'm giving you a bunch right now.
But what did we talk about here in review real quick and what is your assignment?
We talked about confidence and confidence comes by focusing on the other person, confidence
comes by focusing on the value that you deliver.
So we talked about that, I gave you some tools and some directions.
And we talked about showing up on social media, I'm going to give you something each day.
So this is going to be your first practice is you're going to start from now on, every
day you're going to check your notifications, the little bell real quick.
You're going to look for new likes and you're going to invite them, there's just a little
invite button to like your page.
You're going to look for shares, you're going to thank them.
You're going to look for friend requests and you're going to instant message them and
start the conversation going.
You're going to look for birthdays where you can wish them a happy birthday.
That's the first thing.
I'm going to give you five things over the next couple of days that we're going to do
every day.
Okay, so what is your assignment for the challenge?
Should you choose to accept?
First of all, go back if you haven't done the first two, start there, show up.
This is about showing up, have courage, get your video in the group.
There's so much encouragement, there's so much grace happening.
Get it up there.
Let us see you.
I don't care if it's 30 seconds, let us see you.
Get it up there.
So go back and do if you haven't done already.
Today's assignment, I want you to post in the group, okay, post in the group something
that stops the scroll.
What do I mean stops the scroll?
Write this down if you're taking notes.
Stop the scroll.
Most people have a habit on social media and they're on Instagram, they're on Facebook,
they're whatever and they're going da, da, da, da, da, can you see my hands?
Scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, boom, what's that?
You want to be that person that they go, ooh, what's that?
Okay, all right, we're going to talk as we go through this challenge and this is a lot
of stuff I do in coaching, you know, to really, it's far more than I can do in a little half
an hour every morning and I'm already over that half hour.
But what I want you to do to stop the scroll today, okay, write down stop the scroll, today
it's going to be something cute, okay, just post, it can be a gif, it can be a picture,
it can be a quote, it can be, by the way, babies and animals usually stop the scroll,
so you can find pictures if you're new to this, pixabay.com, P-I-X-A-B-A-Y, pixabay.com
is where you can find pictures and you can put in the search engine what you're looking
for.
So you could say cute kitten or you could say puppy or you could say baby.
So pixabay.com, unsplash.com, especially if you want nature or something a little bit
unusual, I like unsplash.com, those are royalty free pictures that you can use.
I'm going to get you better as we go through the challenge of stopping the scroll, but
for right now, your assignment is to post something in the group.
You can write an inspirational message just above it if you're new to doing this, if you
want to get a little bit fancy, I'm going to teach you how to use canva.com, that's
where you can go in and create a Facebook post really nicely, that will be your best
friend canva.com.
But for now, your new habit, every morning you're checking your notifications and today
you're going to post something that makes us stop the scroll and we're going to comment,
hey this is the place of grace and action, we're going to comment and let you know if
you stopped the scroll for us and how we like that.
Alright, I hope that helped you this morning, congratulations, welcome, you made it day
three.
If you need to catch up, all the videos are there for those of you that are new, I'm so
glad you're here, I'm so glad you're choosing to show up and let God show out through you.
So glad, so glad to be part of your life, I love you much.
I'll see you over in the group, the 5-7 Prosper Challenge.
See you there.
God bless you.