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welcome happy monday everyone for those of you that have never met me before i'm Bethany Cooper

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i am one of your heartwork coaches on your journey you guys have hopefully been seeing

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me respond to you to your post and engage with you in the group if you haven't yet you will

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when you you know complete your post and things like that we want you to know that we are praying

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for you fervently the team is praying for you the community is praying for you you have a lot

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of people behind you including the lord and so we're going to kick off tonight i'm going to pray

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and open us up i do have a couple housekeeping things just because i want to make sure those

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are recorded and live into the group i didn't go into those this morning a lot or this afternoon

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a lot just because i knew we weren't posting that one so we'll do that first just the most

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important thing and if you guys didn't see the post in the group is that while you're here in

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this group during the heartwork during the love story accelerator that will come after that we

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just need you all to take off your helper hats okay so you want to check those at the door

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completely no coaching no giving advice no medical recommendations even if it's herbal

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supplements like we just can't have any of that in this group so one of the ways that we discard

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that is we kind of remind you all just to receive cheer each other on encourage each other you can

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say you're praying for each other but even just like you guys don't have to ask each other questions

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to get more breakthrough okay that's our job so that's my job as a heartwork coach the other

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heartwork coaches that you guys will start to meet in the next few weeks so just be sure to keep that

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in mind and if it gives you any peace of mind when i came in and did my heartwork i had been leading

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for years you know i'm a go-getter a lot of you guys are too a lot of you guys are in ministry

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boss babes you know we know that you can do it but you know even i had to learn how to just

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receive when i went through boot camp and there's a purpose in that so when you're here you get to

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receive you're 34 yeah so to receive and learn and grow and just always want to encourage you

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guys to come in with the mindset of lord what is what is it you want to show me today what is it

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you want to expand in my heart in the way that i see you in the way that i see other people in the

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way i engage in the world or sometimes in the ways that i hide and i don't show up as my full self

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for whatever reason and so that's one of the first things just to receive and not jump into that

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leader coach counselor role and you guys will continue to get breakthroughs everybody's journey

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is going to look different okay so don't get intimidated if you're seeing someone else getting

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you know whether they're saying they're crying a lot or they're getting a lot of breakthrough and

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you're like well i'm not having any of that sometimes that is is just how it works some of

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you guys have a lot more walls up some of you guys have a lot more like layers that the lord has to

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help you come out from under and sometimes that's why you might not cry as easily you

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might not feel like you're getting breakthroughs but it is still working so don't lose hope

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You guys are doing a great job.

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You're already leaning into the material.

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You guys are excited and that's what we want to see.

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So just keep doing that.

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Want to encourage you not to compete

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and compare yourself to each other,

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which is where I was going with those last comments.

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You're all in this together.

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You guys are a sister squad as one whole group.

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And then you will also have like many sister squads

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that we will explain to you tonight as well.

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Don't rush, take your time, but also don't fall behind.

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So there's this balance.

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And if you start to feel overwhelmed,

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the best thing you can do is ask God to help you.

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We all at times will feel overwhelmed,

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especially when we are going into the places

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that some of us had do not enter signs on.

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Some of you had, and still do,

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do not enter signs on parts of your heart.

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And God is asking you to let them into those places.

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And going into those places can be very touchy.

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It can be draining.

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It's important for you guys to get rest,

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to drink a lot of water, to eat healthy,

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and to just really be kind to yourself

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and your thoughts and your attitudes,

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you know, all those kinds of things.

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Come to prayer calls as much as you can.

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It really will be a lifeline for you.

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And that is my last housekeeping item.

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Prayer calls Monday through Friday,

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eight, or excuse me, I almost said 8 a.m.

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10 a.m. to 11 a.m. Eastern time.

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Then you have Supernatural Saturday,

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every Saturday at 10 a.m. Eastern time as well.

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And eventually you guys will also have Sunday night

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open up to you.

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But for now, while you're in the heart work,

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you will stay just in the Monday through Saturday space.

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And I think that's it.

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So we're gonna go ahead and dive right in.

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I'm gonna pray and we'll see what God wants to do tonight.

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Thanks for being here.

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101 of you, wow, that's awesome.

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What a great, great experience you guys are gonna have.

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Father, thank you so much for just who you are.

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God, that you are a good father

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who gives good gifts to your children.

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God, I thank you that you're doing a work

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in their hearts, their minds, their spirits.

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Even now, God, we trust that your Holy Spirit is here,

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that you're weaving in and out of even things

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I've already started saying.

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God, we just thank you that you would help them

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to hear you first and foremost,

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that I'm just a vessel and the ladies in the groups

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that they'll be in are just vessels.

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And we just thank you for revealings, for healing.

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We ask you to bring anything in darkness to the light

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so that there can be healing.

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God, we ask you just to help us to surrender the pen to you,

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to surrender to the process.

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Lord, even if we don't understand it or we don't like it,

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God, let us trust in it.

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This is a proven process, God.

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You've given so many people breakthrough, including myself.

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So Lord, I just pray that even if the ladies aren't sure

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what to think or believe,

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God, help them to borrow from our faith

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until they have an experience of their own.

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We just thank you that you would continue to help

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those that are grieving any losses in their life,

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whether it's loss of former husbands that passed away,

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it could be through divorce,

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it could be loss of a mother or father passing away

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or a child, it can be anything.

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God, we ask you to comfort them

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and just lift them up tonight.

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And we just thank you for it in advance, in Jesus name.

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All right, so the way tonight is gonna work,

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I'm gonna share a couple of things with you guys

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to kick off, just to kind of prime the pump, if you will.

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And then we're gonna start breakout sessions.

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The way breakout sessions will work

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is I will give you a question,

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you guys will go into the breakout session

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and talk to each other about that question.

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I'll ask a few of you to share with the whole group

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what you shared in your private breakout session, okay?

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So you're gonna have to borrow courage tonight.

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If some of you are super shy

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and you never talk in front of people,

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tonight might be the night to just give that a try.

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It normally takes one person to get it going.

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I will say that, typically the first time

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it always takes someone to kind of take that leap

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and then it helps ease everybody else.

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So just wanna prepare you guys for that before you go in.

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One of the things that we want to encourage you,

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the theme this week is all about supernatural surrender.

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I wasn't able to go into this this morning

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in the early session today,

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but I did wanna make sure that you guys see a couple ideas.

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In that part one,

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it briefly talked about your Jesus Cares Board.

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This is a huge part of your process.

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This is not a vision board, okay?

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So when you see the examples,

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it's not like, hey, what are my dreams?

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This is more like,

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what are areas you need to surrender to the Lord?

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What are areas that you need to surrender to him

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that you struggle to give to him completely?

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Maybe there are things that you worry about.

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out, you're afraid, you're like losing sleep over this stuff, you just feel bogged down

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under it.

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It could be things that you already have like massive cares about now, or it could be something

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that comes up tomorrow.

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Maybe some of you guys have financial cares, whatever your things are, that's what you

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want to put on to these boards.

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Some of you guys might have children that are far from you.

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Some of you might have, you know, siblings or parents that don't know the word like there's

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so many different aspects, but I just want to give you guys some ideas of what you might

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be putting on your board.

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Let me share this with you and I'm just going to show you a couple examples.

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I want you guys to know this does not have to be a busy hard process.

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You don't have to have a special board.

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You can get started today.

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This was is an example of my board when I went through boot camp and I've added some

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things along the way.

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So I am a very visual person.

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I like to use pictures with words.

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That's my preference.

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You don't have to do that and please don't wait to do this because you don't have magazines

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to do pictures.

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Just get started however you can, whether that's looking on Google or just going with

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words or whatever.

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So this is just one example.

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You know, for me, I have my spiritual daughters on here, I have my stepson on here.

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There's things that I'm praying for for them.

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I had before I got married, I wanted a spirit mate that was the fireworks that I was going

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to feel fireworks and I wanted to travel around the world with them and I wanted to live and

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love and laugh and, and all these things.

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And I wanted someone that would commit and all of, you know, all of that as well.

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I want you guys to know that literally things that you put on here, you will start to see

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activity quickly.

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Not that it's always the spirit mate, but I will tell you that things that I put on

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the board, I saw God start working in them very rapidly.

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The one that he started working in with me the most was the having fun, going on trips,

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having fun, traveling and all of that kind of stuff.

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So God started opening up doors for me to travel and just see what he was doing and

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have more fun in my life.

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These are other examples of other people's Jesus cares board.

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They're kind of scaled out so you can't see all the things they've written, but see how

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like some of them, it can just be simple post-it notes and that's great.

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It doesn't, there's no competition here.

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It's how you want to express it and what you want to do.

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The other one has a little bit of flowers.

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She has some post-its.

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She has a scripture in the middle.

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This is another one.

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This lady was just kind of working on her.

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So she had a couple of post-its, a couple of hearts, and then this other one's just

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like a little clip, you know, putting a couple of things on there.

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And that was the board she chose.

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Again, you don't have to buy anything.

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We've literally had some women just stick them on a wall in the corner of their bedroom.

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Y'all, that is enough.

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Again, this does not have to be a big ordeal.

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And we would rather you do it versus again, waiting for you to have all the crafts and

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all the things because stepping into this, you're saying, Jesus, I'm giving you these

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cares today.

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And so even if you only have a couple in your mind, you know, tonight, maybe even before

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you go to bed, just writing it on a post-it note and sticking it up just to get yourself

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started, I think will be a great help to you.

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So the reason we bring that up in this week is because we really want to encourage you

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guys to lean into the Holy Spirit.

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If you haven't noticed, a lot of times I will ask you guys a question in my responses to

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The reason that we do that is because we're not trying to get you guys to always come

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to us for an answer.

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In the world, and in a lot of the body of Christ, too often, you know, we're looking

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to the pastor and the leaders to have the answers for us.

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But what we need to do more is ask the Holy Spirit.

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We need to ask the Lord for the answers.

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And so we're going to ask you guys questions.

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And when you have these questions, the goal is not to dig.

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Okay, so don't get out your shovels and try to dig that stuff up.

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You want to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal things for healing and trust his timing to

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Okay, super important to not dig.

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So your first question, we're going to start to put you into breakouts is, um, as you're

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thinking about the way that you relate to the Lord, what does it look like for God to

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be emotionally involved in your life?

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Do you believe he's emotionally involved in your life?

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We had this question come up earlier, and some people were asking for some clarity on

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what does that mean?

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So I'm going to go ahead and kind of explain this a little bit before you go into the breakout.

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If you think about any relationship where you feel close to someone, maybe it's your

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sister, your mom.

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your kids, whoever, maybe, you know, a friend to be emotionally involved in

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their life, you're spending time with them, you're getting to know them.

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Typically they're showing you some kind of love you're reciprocating that, you

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know, you know, that they hear you, they pay attention to you, you know, maybe

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you get together on holidays and you exchange gifts, whatever that looks like.

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He shows up in all kinds of ways, you all.

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he is intimately involved in the, the makings and the weaving of your life.

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circumstances and you feel like God abandoned you in them, but he didn't.

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So we encourage you to ask the Lord in this process of answering this question.

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If you're one of the people that feels like God, absolutely.

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It doesn't even feel like God's emotionally involved in my life like that.

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I would encourage you to ask him to reveal to you.

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When is the first time you felt like he wasn't, and you can talk about that too.

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When you go into your breakout groups and then you want to ask him to reveal the

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lie that you believed that led you to that place.

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So that's how we unpack it.

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That's how we do the heartwork.

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So you're asking the question and then you're asking God to reveal the lie.

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The lie comes from the enemy who comes in during trauma and he lies to you.

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So the only way to unpack that stuff is to ask the Lord to reveal it.

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You'll get better at this as time goes on in this course, you'll get a lot better.

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So I'm going to be praying for you guys while you're in your breakout session.

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Again, the question is, do you believe that God is emotionally involved with your life?

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And if you don't, when is the first time you recall feeling like he wasn't all right.

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So when you go into your breakout sessions, ladies, some of you, I see, I

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have some ladies that were on earlier today, which is totally fine.

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For those of you that were on earlier today, you already have your prayer partners.

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We're going to try to pull this off the best that we can.

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I already heard some people were emailing our admin team asking for people's

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information, just so you know, we cannot give out anyone's information.

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We can't do that.

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So what we're trying to do is we're trying to, when you go into the breakout

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room that you're assigned to tonight, those are going to be your prayer

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partners for your journey.

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You guys are going to be in the same group all night long tonight.

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Going forward, we might mix you guys up a little bit more.

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So you'll want to write each other's names down.

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You don't have to give out your phone number.

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Ladies, everybody is in the Facebook group for the most part.

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For those that are not in the Facebook group, you know, we'll

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do our best to get you connected.

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I'm going to take screenshots of the breakout breakout groups tonight,

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and we'll try to get you connected.

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So don't panic.

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We'll figure it out.

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Please don't email the admin.

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Well, we'll work through it together.

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The reason we're bringing this back is we, we just really feel like it's really

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critical, especially in a big group like this, you guys need to feel connected.

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Now, when you connect with your prayer partners after the live, you know, that's

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really dependent on your schedules.

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What you guys, the level you want to engage in that again, no coaching, no

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counseling, you would connect for prayer.

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That can be via text.

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That can be voice memos, phone.

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That's again, that's up to you guys.

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We're not going to tell you, you have to do it any certain way.

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So it's about you guys growing in relationship with each other.

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write each other's names down, you're only going to have two or three people in

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a group, so that shouldn't take you should not take you a long time.

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your people in your group know that.

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So you guys are gonna have about eight minutes to talk and you should

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have that link there to join now.

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Great job, everyone.

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Just go ahead.

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We have, um, Janice and Lachelle and Chantelle.

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Do you guys see where to click to join?

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Sometimes it's just delayed with connection.

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You guys should see that to join.

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If you can click to join that breakout room, that way you guys

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can have this small conversation.

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Hi, Kate.

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We just went into breakouts and we are talking about, do you believe that God is emotionally

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So I'm going to put you into a room.

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Go ahead and accept that.

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Chantel, are you able, you might be able, if LaShawn, Chantel can message me just so

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I know if you guys are going to get, go into the breakout rooms tonight.

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It's okay if you're at work and you can't for some reason.

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And Lynn, I sent you a request to join a group.

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Praise the Lord.

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Father, thank you so much for every one of these ladies.

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Thank you for everything that you're doing in their lives.

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Thank you, Lord, for just continuing to help them to understand what supernatural surrender

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God, that it's an invitation that you're asking them to let you to come into the parts of

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their hearts and their lives so that you can bring healing and redemption and restoration.

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So Lord, we just thank you for just continuing to work in great and mighty ways.

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Hi, Gina.

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I'm going to go ahead and put you in a breakout.

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almost finished.

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what your plan and your purpose is for our lives in the fullness of what that original

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plan was when you created us.

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Lord, so much came in and entered through trauma, through the attacks of the enemy, through

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our own decisions and mistakes.

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we could ever ask or imagine.

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is saying to them tonight.

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We thank you for redeeming through your son, Jesus, our storylines, and you're helping

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us to, Lord, just to know the things that we need to supernaturally surrender to you.

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Lord, I thank you that you would help us to let go of the wheel, that you would help us

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to lean into trusting you in every area.

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We thank you that our understanding is small, but you're so patient with us.

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your Holy Spirit is saying.

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as love and that you would help us to continue to experience just your mighty power at work

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in our lives.

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Lord, that you would help the ladies to experience supernatural breakthroughs and restoration

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and healing.

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lives and bringing your healing power.

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Lord, we just ask you to release from heaven divine virtue tonight.

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Lord, that you would just help every one of these ladies to feel your presence washing

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over them, over their minds, their hearts, their spirits, their bodies, and their souls.

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We declare healing for those that are sick in any way.

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God, that you would make their bodies completely whole, lacking no good thing.

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We thank you for emotional and mental healing as well as physical healing.

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has destroyed, the areas where the enemy came in like a flood and he tried to bring torment.

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bring us love and power and a sound mind.

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So, Lord, we thank you that you would help us.

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us to take land for you through this process of healing. Okay, so I'll have you guys knew

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if you guys can go and you guys will all want to mute for me. Okay. And so what we just

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thank you that even as the ladies share in the group right now, or that you would just

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help it to minister to each other. And we just ask for deeper revelation and understanding

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and Jesus name. All right, let me meet a couple people. Super important if you're not talking

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to me, because we'll get a lot of background noise with this many people. Okay, joy car.

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I don't know if I'm saying this right court, right? I can't won't let me mute you for some

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reason. So if you can mute yourself, that would be helpful. Alright, so awesome. Hopefully

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you guys enjoyed that time, I would love to have at least two of you will see how much

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time allows tonight, share with the group what you shared in your private breakout session.

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So who would be willing to jump right in and go for it tonight?

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I would be. Okay, go ahead, Joanne. Hi. Yes, I'm in the group with Karina and Belinda.

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And we all basically said that we do feel God's life and, you know, through us emotionally.

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Some of us have said that, you know, we felt him more at certain times, and then we go

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away, he doesn't leave us, but we leave him maybe and come back. But for me, he's definitely

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been in my journey, definitely. And the other ladies as well. Often on it was wonderful

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to meet them and be in this process. So I can't thank you enough for everything. Yeah,

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that's so awesome. Thank you so much for sharing. And you know, ladies, one of the things that

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she said, they're super important is that sometimes we move away from the Lord, you know,

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it doesn't even mean that we turn away and we like no longer have a relationship with him.

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But what can happen and you guys will experience this even in your physical relationships when

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something happens and it triggers you, or you feel afraid and you're like, you know,

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leaning back into those things as protection, self protection mechanisms, walls will go up.

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And you'll feel it, you'll feel it in your flesh, right? If you if we're paying attention,

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we tend to feel those things in our flesh. And so when we are willing to recognize those things,

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even with the Lord, and choose like, wait a minute, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna lean into

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that anymore. I'm going to choose to turn towards the Lord, instead of away from and part of the

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process that, you know, has been helpful from my experience is, you know, asking the Lord to

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help me understand the fullness of his love, you know, and I think a lot of us we grow up in church

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and we're like, yeah, I understand love. I know he's love. We know it here. But we don't fully

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know it down here, not in like deep in our being. So when these things happen, we revert back to

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the lies that we believed from a long time ago from those sources of pain. And so you'll you'll

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see that happen. And it's okay, when it does just recognize it. And every time you turn back

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towards the Lord, instead, you're going to get stronger. And you're going to start to build a new

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muscle instead of that old muscle, where you reverted to maybe unhealthy behaviors, isolation,

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withdrawing, maybe, you know, some people will turn towards alcohol or food. I mean, there's so

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many things that we do to self medicate. You know, we talk a lot in this group, you guys are going to

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find we're real here. Okay, men and women struggle with pornography, men and women struggle with all

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kinds of masturbation issues, we talk about it. And it's important that you guys understand,

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like, these are all things people do to hide and self medicate. So whether it's, you know,

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in our minds, big things like that, because that's how we label it in the church, or it's things like

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food, or it's things like running away from situations, the Lord wants us to show up,

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he wants us to show up and be who we are, and let him help us break out of that stuff. Okay.

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All right, Meg, how about you?

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Um, so I, in our group, I shared that I want to believe God is invested. And I can see where he

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has, like where he has spared me from pain from certain pain, or giving me pushes towards other

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things. But I think kind of that you were disappointed, but kind of that those instances

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where I feel like where I am disappointed, because he didn't do what I thought he needed to do,

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or whatever, I have just created, like a reluctance, you know, even when it's,

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he answered my prayer, just not in the way I wanted it. And then I have to get as you kind

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of said, I guess I kind of have to remind myself, I have to come back to but he answered my prayer,

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like, he didn't leave me hanging. It just wasn't what I wanted.

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into here, and so that's kind of where I was.

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That's so good.

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00:30:05.400 --> 00:30:08.000
Can anyone relate to what Meg said?

468
00:30:08.000 --> 00:30:10.560
Like, you wanna believe he's emotionally involved,

469
00:30:10.560 --> 00:30:13.520
but sometimes it just feels tough.

470
00:30:13.520 --> 00:30:15.200
It does.

471
00:30:15.200 --> 00:30:18.880
But the reality is, is that he will continue to show you,

472
00:30:18.880 --> 00:30:20.160
yes, ladies, show your sports,

473
00:30:20.160 --> 00:30:22.200
okay, go ahead and do that if you want to,

474
00:30:23.640 --> 00:30:26.080
to ask him to show you

475
00:30:26.080 --> 00:30:28.080
how he's emotionally involved in your life

476
00:30:28.120 --> 00:30:30.160
and how he's always been there.

477
00:30:31.040 --> 00:30:32.960
So one of the examples I gave this morning,

478
00:30:32.960 --> 00:30:34.240
I'm gonna give it again tonight

479
00:30:34.240 --> 00:30:35.960
because I think it's helpful,

480
00:30:35.960 --> 00:30:39.280
is years ago, I was in a really bad relationship.

481
00:30:39.280 --> 00:30:41.520
I didn't know it was bad when I went into it.

482
00:30:43.200 --> 00:30:44.760
He sounded right.

483
00:30:44.760 --> 00:30:46.480
He said all the right things.

484
00:30:46.480 --> 00:30:48.760
He did all these amazing things.

485
00:30:48.760 --> 00:30:52.160
He like super love-bombed me is what I know now,

486
00:30:52.160 --> 00:30:53.680
but I didn't know enough.

487
00:30:53.680 --> 00:30:55.840
Like, I didn't know what I didn't know.

488
00:30:55.840 --> 00:30:57.600
And so one of the things I wanna encourage you guys

489
00:30:58.120 --> 00:30:58.960
to do in your process,

490
00:30:58.960 --> 00:31:00.480
like some of the mistakes we make,

491
00:31:00.480 --> 00:31:02.800
it's because we don't know any better.

492
00:31:02.800 --> 00:31:05.680
And so it's okay to just quit beating yourself up over it.

493
00:31:05.680 --> 00:31:08.840
The reality is you're here now and you're learning,

494
00:31:08.840 --> 00:31:10.240
you're investing in yourself

495
00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:14.040
so that you can grow in ways that you need to grow.

496
00:31:14.040 --> 00:31:16.440
And so if we will quit beating ourselves up

497
00:31:16.440 --> 00:31:20.520
about those mistakes and just allow God to transform it

498
00:31:20.520 --> 00:31:23.000
and use those to teach us and make us stronger

499
00:31:23.000 --> 00:31:25.640
so we don't keep making those mistakes,

500
00:31:25.640 --> 00:31:29.040
then what we know to be true in this community,

501
00:31:29.040 --> 00:31:30.600
as well as in the body of Christ,

502
00:31:30.600 --> 00:31:32.560
but we're seeing a ton of it here

503
00:31:32.560 --> 00:31:33.960
is as people are breaking free,

504
00:31:33.960 --> 00:31:36.240
we're seeing people make really great choices

505
00:31:36.240 --> 00:31:37.440
in relationships.

506
00:31:37.440 --> 00:31:38.600
I believe I'm one of them.

507
00:31:38.600 --> 00:31:40.560
I have an amazing husband now,

508
00:31:40.560 --> 00:31:42.160
but I say all that to say,

509
00:31:43.120 --> 00:31:45.920
when I went into that relationship,

510
00:31:45.920 --> 00:31:48.240
I was broken over my divorce.

511
00:31:48.240 --> 00:31:50.800
I had been divorced for enough time, all that,

512
00:31:50.800 --> 00:31:52.560
but what I hadn't dealt with yet

513
00:31:52.560 --> 00:31:54.200
was the loss of my stepson.

514
00:31:55.200 --> 00:31:58.960
When I told my ex-husband I was gonna file for divorce,

515
00:31:58.960 --> 00:32:01.320
he never let me see my stepson ever again.

516
00:32:01.320 --> 00:32:02.960
And this is not just like,

517
00:32:02.960 --> 00:32:05.880
oh, maybe this is someone I was around a little bit.

518
00:32:05.880 --> 00:32:07.200
Like he lived with us.

519
00:32:07.200 --> 00:32:09.840
I was a second mom to him.

520
00:32:09.840 --> 00:32:11.800
We spent like every day together.

521
00:32:11.800 --> 00:32:12.720
I took him to school.

522
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:14.200
I did all the homework.

523
00:32:14.200 --> 00:32:16.360
Like I was not his mom,

524
00:32:16.360 --> 00:32:18.360
but I definitely, when his mom moved away,

525
00:32:18.360 --> 00:32:20.600
I mean, I filled that role.

526
00:32:20.600 --> 00:32:23.160
So for that to happen,

527
00:32:23.240 --> 00:32:26.240
I just, I mean, it really rocked me.

528
00:32:27.240 --> 00:32:30.120
And so then when I met this other guy,

529
00:32:30.120 --> 00:32:32.320
I hadn't dealt with that yet.

530
00:32:32.320 --> 00:32:34.040
And I even told him on the front end,

531
00:32:34.040 --> 00:32:35.080
I knew he had two kids.

532
00:32:35.080 --> 00:32:37.440
I said, I don't wanna meet your kids until this time.

533
00:32:37.440 --> 00:32:41.120
And I said all those things,

534
00:32:41.120 --> 00:32:44.560
but then he started sending me pictures of his kids.

535
00:32:44.560 --> 00:32:48.160
And my heart just, I couldn't even help it.

536
00:32:48.160 --> 00:32:51.200
I just got so drawn right into that.

537
00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:54.960
And so in the beginning, in my mind,

538
00:32:54.960 --> 00:32:58.280
I believed that God led me to this person,

539
00:32:58.280 --> 00:33:03.280
but God was showing me that he was not healthy.

540
00:33:03.400 --> 00:33:08.120
And he was showing me red flags, but I blew past those.

541
00:33:08.120 --> 00:33:09.400
And because I did,

542
00:33:09.400 --> 00:33:11.920
there was a lot of not good things that happened.

543
00:33:11.920 --> 00:33:14.000
And so I wanna say that tonight

544
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because the example I'm giving you

545
00:33:16.320 --> 00:33:20.480
is that sometimes God himself is speaking to us

546
00:33:20.480 --> 00:33:23.160
and he's trying to help us,

547
00:33:23.160 --> 00:33:28.040
but we're just, for whatever reason, we're not listening.

548
00:33:28.040 --> 00:33:31.400
Sometimes it's because, again, we have these walls up,

549
00:33:31.400 --> 00:33:32.800
we have this brokenness.

550
00:33:32.800 --> 00:33:35.880
For me, I was broken over my stepson

551
00:33:35.880 --> 00:33:37.960
and I got sucked into that through the kids

552
00:33:37.960 --> 00:33:39.760
and then also some other things.

553
00:33:39.760 --> 00:33:42.800
So it's where we recognize these areas

554
00:33:42.800 --> 00:33:45.880
that we need to own as well, okay?

555
00:33:45.880 --> 00:33:49.040
So that's part of the goal of this supernatural surrender.

556
00:33:49.040 --> 00:33:54.040
It's also surrendering and not blaming God for things.

557
00:33:54.040 --> 00:33:56.440
Like that was my choice.

558
00:33:56.440 --> 00:34:00.400
God didn't make me do that, I chose.

559
00:34:00.400 --> 00:34:03.200
And when I finally came to the place

560
00:34:03.200 --> 00:34:05.280
that I took ownership of that,

561
00:34:05.280 --> 00:34:08.360
y'all, that brought me incredible freedom.

562
00:34:08.360 --> 00:34:09.719
Even though it was really hard,

563
00:34:09.719 --> 00:34:11.040
that gave me a lot of freedom

564
00:34:11.040 --> 00:34:14.840
because I took my power back too, okay?

565
00:34:14.840 --> 00:34:16.159
So keep that in mind.

566
00:34:16.159 --> 00:34:17.000
All right, Serene,

567
00:34:17.040 --> 00:34:18.960
I would love to hear what you have to say.

568
00:34:20.880 --> 00:34:22.239
Did I say your name right?

569
00:34:22.239 --> 00:34:23.520
Yes, it is Serene, thank you.

570
00:34:23.520 --> 00:34:24.360
Okay, awesome.

571
00:34:25.239 --> 00:34:27.239
In my group, I told the ladies

572
00:34:27.239 --> 00:34:30.159
that I was actually super excited about the journey,

573
00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:32.560
about him being involved in my emotions

574
00:34:32.560 --> 00:34:35.480
because it was one area that I did not think

575
00:34:35.480 --> 00:34:38.600
that he was involved in and wanted to be involved in.

576
00:34:38.600 --> 00:34:42.000
So it was, for me, welcoming and I embraced it fully.

577
00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:43.880
Don't like it, but I embraced it

578
00:34:43.920 --> 00:34:47.600
because I knew it was necessary for my journey.

579
00:34:47.600 --> 00:34:51.280
And I know that the other two ladies in my group,

580
00:34:51.280 --> 00:34:53.880
Ashley and Lachelle, Ashley embraced it,

581
00:34:53.880 --> 00:34:56.840
but Lachelle was a little bit like,

582
00:34:56.840 --> 00:35:00.560
she wanted, she wants it, but she's like taking baby steps.

583
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.880
steps with it. So it was interesting to see everybody's dynamics. So I embrace it fully.

584
00:35:04.880 --> 00:35:09.200
And that's it. Oh, good. Thank you for sharing that. And I think that's a good thing for us

585
00:35:09.200 --> 00:35:15.840
to acknowledge before we get ready for the next breakout session too, is God is a gentleman.

586
00:35:16.880 --> 00:35:23.760
He really is. And so he's never going to force himself on you all. He won't. He's not like what

587
00:35:23.760 --> 00:35:29.680
we experienced in the world. He will knock on the door of our hearts and he will ask if he can come

588
00:35:29.680 --> 00:35:38.400
in. He comes in by invitation. So we have to invite him in. In your heart workbook, there is

589
00:35:38.400 --> 00:35:45.520
a submission activation. It's a prayer. I can't tell you the page just because you guys will have

590
00:35:45.520 --> 00:35:49.840
it on a different page. So you'll just have to look for it. It's called the submission activation,

591
00:35:49.840 --> 00:35:55.680
but it's a prayer. And I would encourage you guys to read this over yourselves. I'm going to read it

592
00:35:55.680 --> 00:36:00.480
over, you know, so I want to ask you guys just kind of like close your eyes and let this kind

593
00:36:00.480 --> 00:36:03.440
of wash over you. And then we're going to get ready for the next breakout session.

594
00:36:04.800 --> 00:36:09.520
Father God, I give you permission to search me and to reveal anything in my heart that does not

595
00:36:09.520 --> 00:36:15.920
belong to my true identity. And that is hindering me from living the life you created me to live.

596
00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:19.040
Holy spirit, I invite you into the darkest places in my heart,

597
00:36:19.040 --> 00:36:24.880
show me the areas that are still wounded and are still hurting. When you reveal these broken places

598
00:36:24.880 --> 00:36:29.760
to me, I covenant with you to release them into your care and to respond with forgiveness and

599
00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:35.760
repentance. I set aside this season of my life for a time of healing and wholeness and ask holy

600
00:36:35.760 --> 00:36:43.520
spirit to take charge of this process. I ask that you dwell with me and in me, I need you. I cannot

601
00:36:43.520 --> 00:36:51.040
heal myself. I want to be free from the past, free to be who I truly am. Help me to become who you

602
00:36:51.040 --> 00:36:57.200
created me to be. Show me the lies I have believed about myself, my life, my surroundings, even the

603
00:36:57.200 --> 00:37:04.400
lies I have believed about you. Teach me the greater truth. Teach me your ways. Teach me how to think

604
00:37:04.400 --> 00:37:13.760
and how to live abundantly. Teach me, show me, heal me, grow me. Amen. So your next question is,

605
00:37:14.480 --> 00:37:19.200
how do you feel about the word submission? That's what you're going to talk about in your group.

606
00:37:20.160 --> 00:37:24.880
One of the things before you go in there that I think is important to mention, and again, if you

607
00:37:24.880 --> 00:37:28.800
were on earlier today, you'll hear some of this. It might come out exactly the same. It could come

608
00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:38.320
out a little different, but submission is a mutual choice of respect and love. When we truly submit

609
00:37:38.320 --> 00:37:46.480
from a heart posture of love to our future spirit mates, to God, it's a lot different experience

610
00:37:46.480 --> 00:37:53.520
versus feeling like someone is forcing their way on us. Some of you might have had negative

611
00:37:53.520 --> 00:37:58.880
experiences in prior marriages, maybe family growing up, maybe leadership people that were

612
00:37:58.880 --> 00:38:06.880
over you, where they lorded their authority over you and try to force you to submit. That's not

613
00:38:06.880 --> 00:38:13.200
what we're talking about here. Those are good things to talk about, but the main person we

614
00:38:13.200 --> 00:38:21.840
want to learn how to submit to is God. So in that, really asking God to reveal to you what is

615
00:38:21.840 --> 00:38:27.760
your true belief and understanding of submission. What does the word say about submission? What does

616
00:38:27.760 --> 00:38:34.560
the Bible actually say? One of the things my husband and I talk a lot about is even before

617
00:38:34.560 --> 00:38:38.960
we got married, that was one of my first questions to him because I was in an abusive marriage in the

618
00:38:38.960 --> 00:38:45.280
past and I did not want that again. And so I wanted to know what his view of submission was.

619
00:38:45.280 --> 00:38:52.480
And we're on the same page that it is a mutual choice to love, to respect, and to submit to one

620
00:38:52.480 --> 00:38:59.840
another in unity. And again, it's very similar when we choose to submit to the Lord, but again,

621
00:38:59.840 --> 00:39:06.640
he will not force us. It's a choice we have to make. All right, so I'm going to put you guys

622
00:39:06.640 --> 00:39:12.080
in your breakout groups. If you've joined us since the last breakout group, don't worry,

623
00:39:12.080 --> 00:39:19.520
I will get you situated here in just a minute. All right, ladies, go ahead and join your groups.

624
00:39:36.640 --> 00:39:47.280
All right, everybody should have a link to join now, I believe.

625
00:39:52.160 --> 00:40:01.520
Katie, do you have a link to join?

626
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:20.920
Father, thank you so much for every one of these ladies that are in the groups right

627
00:40:20.920 --> 00:40:21.920
now.

628
00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:26.560
They're talking about submission, Lord, and we know at times how difficult that can be.

629
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So Lord, we just pray right now that you would remove any stony, hardened places of our hearts

630
00:40:32.520 --> 00:40:37.920
and put in those places hearts that are soft and pliable to you, Lord, we thank you that

631
00:40:37.920 --> 00:40:44.480
you would transform us by the renewing of our minds that all things have passed away

632
00:40:44.480 --> 00:40:49.920
and behold, all things have become new and you, God, I thank you that we can trust you,

633
00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:55.120
God, that we can give you the tough parts of our hearts and know that you are working

634
00:40:55.120 --> 00:41:01.080
all things together for our good, because you love us and your work and your plans,

635
00:41:01.080 --> 00:41:06.360
you want to bring those to pass in our lives, Jeremiah 29, 11 says that, you know, the plans

636
00:41:06.360 --> 00:41:11.040
you have for us, Lord, plans to prosper us, to give us a hope in a future not to harm

637
00:41:11.040 --> 00:41:13.160
us or bring evil into our lives.

638
00:41:13.160 --> 00:41:17.080
So Lord, I thank you that you would help us to resist the lies of the enemy that would

639
00:41:17.080 --> 00:41:23.280
cause us to think that you do not have our best interest at heart, Lord, help us to lean

640
00:41:23.440 --> 00:41:28.760
into what the word says about your character, about who you are, God, that we would meditate

641
00:41:28.760 --> 00:41:33.960
on your word day and night, and we would, Lord, take it in in such a way that it would

642
00:41:33.960 --> 00:41:40.160
be written on the tablets of our hearts, God, that we would go about our days and we would

643
00:41:40.160 --> 00:41:43.920
think of you, that we would think on things that are true and noble and lovely and of

644
00:41:43.920 --> 00:41:48.400
good report, things that are above only and not beneath, that we would be blessed when

645
00:41:48.400 --> 00:41:52.120
we rise up, blessed when we lie down, that we would be blessed when we go in and blessed

646
00:41:52.120 --> 00:41:53.280
when we go out.

647
00:41:53.280 --> 00:41:57.800
So Lord, I thank you that we would be marked by your glory, that we would be marked by

648
00:41:57.800 --> 00:42:02.840
your healing and your grace, that people would look at us and look at our lives and wonder

649
00:42:02.840 --> 00:42:04.920
what is different about us.

650
00:42:04.920 --> 00:42:09.320
Your word declares how precious are your thoughts about us, so God, they cannot be numbered.

651
00:42:09.320 --> 00:42:10.480
We can't even count them.

652
00:42:10.480 --> 00:42:15.320
They outnumber the grains of sand, and when we wake up, you are still with us.

653
00:42:15.320 --> 00:42:21.080
So Lord, I thank you that you are with us at all times, and we can trust our hearts

654
00:42:21.080 --> 00:42:23.200
safely in you.

655
00:42:23.200 --> 00:42:28.040
We thank you that you would remind us, Lord, that we need to be alert and be present because

656
00:42:28.040 --> 00:42:29.400
you're about to do something new.

657
00:42:29.400 --> 00:42:30.400
It's bursting out.

658
00:42:30.400 --> 00:42:31.680
Don't we see it?

659
00:42:31.680 --> 00:42:32.680
There it is.

660
00:42:32.680 --> 00:42:36.640
It's making a road through the desert, rivers, and the badlands.

661
00:42:36.640 --> 00:42:40.640
That's from Isaiah 43, 19 in the message version, ladies.

662
00:42:40.640 --> 00:42:45.960
We encourage you to really soak in scripture that's in the book, scripture that is going

663
00:42:45.960 --> 00:42:51.720
to transform the way that you think about life and the plans and the purposes God has

664
00:42:51.720 --> 00:42:52.720
for you.

665
00:42:52.720 --> 00:42:54.560
God is doing a new thing.

666
00:42:54.560 --> 00:42:57.600
He's doing a new thing, so you have to align with that.

667
00:42:57.600 --> 00:43:00.800
Even when you don't see it, he is working.

668
00:43:00.800 --> 00:43:05.440
Okay, I think we have everyone back now.

669
00:43:05.440 --> 00:43:07.160
Okay, perfect.

670
00:43:07.160 --> 00:43:10.520
And who would be willing to, Jenny, are you willing to share?

671
00:43:10.520 --> 00:43:11.520
Did you put your hand up?

672
00:43:11.520 --> 00:43:12.520
Okay, awesome.

673
00:43:12.520 --> 00:43:13.520
Thanks.

674
00:43:13.520 --> 00:43:14.520
Go ahead.

675
00:43:14.600 --> 00:43:21.560
Hi, so my group, we were just talking about sort of our issues with submission.

676
00:43:21.560 --> 00:43:27.640
At first, we were talking about it could be easy to submit to someone who is worthy to

677
00:43:27.640 --> 00:43:30.840
submit to and like a good leader.

678
00:43:30.840 --> 00:43:34.760
But then as we were talking, I realized I was like very, I was getting like bristly

679
00:43:34.760 --> 00:43:40.240
and like about the whole subject, and I think I have like some trust issues.

680
00:43:40.240 --> 00:43:45.640
And so we were talking about like being guarded and how that's natural if you've been hurt,

681
00:43:45.640 --> 00:43:48.360
but then how do you move beyond that?

682
00:43:48.360 --> 00:43:55.040
Yeah, so I just wanted to bring that up because we were a couple of us in the group were like

683
00:43:55.040 --> 00:44:02.080
just really, you know, talking about being guarded and being hurt and in regards to the

684
00:44:02.080 --> 00:44:03.080
submission.

685
00:44:03.080 --> 00:44:05.960
Yeah, this is such a great question.

686
00:44:05.960 --> 00:44:08.880
Thank you so much for what you shared.

687
00:44:08.920 --> 00:44:12.560
You know, the first thing I'll say is what really stood out to me too, is when you said

688
00:44:12.560 --> 00:44:17.920
someone worthy, someone that we deem is worthy to submit to, right?

689
00:44:17.920 --> 00:44:23.080
And so I think the first thing that I need to draw out is, I'm just going to do something.

690
00:44:23.080 --> 00:44:26.800
I did this at our church recently, and it was so funny, but it came back to me when

691
00:44:26.800 --> 00:44:27.800
I just was saying this.

692
00:44:27.800 --> 00:44:33.000
So like, if I have these sunglasses, right, and I put these on, everything that I see

693
00:44:33.000 --> 00:44:35.200
now is impacted by these glasses.

694
00:44:35.200 --> 00:44:38.640
Like literally, I can hardly see my screen, like I see squares, but I can't see any of

695
00:44:38.680 --> 00:44:40.680
you unless I move a certain way.

696
00:44:40.680 --> 00:44:46.240
And I'm saying this because, got some feedback there.

697
00:44:46.240 --> 00:44:52.240
If I'm walking around in my life with these glasses on, let's say these glasses came,

698
00:44:52.240 --> 00:44:57.480
these lenses that I'm looking through came from trauma or pain that I experienced.

699
00:44:57.480 --> 00:45:00.040
And I never take these off.

700
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:08.500
Every person that I look at, including God, every situation I encounter, I'm literally looking through that lens.

701
00:45:08.500 --> 00:45:18.220
And so what one of the things that we have to do is ask the Lord to help us remove the lenses that are faulty, if that makes sense.

702
00:45:18.220 --> 00:45:28.260
And he understands why we have them. He, he feels for us when we are wounded, he, his heart breaks when our heart breaks.

703
00:45:28.260 --> 00:45:35.180
So he has understanding and compassion. The word declares that he's close to the brokenhearted and those who are crushed in spirit.

704
00:45:35.180 --> 00:45:40.220
So if he says that in his word, he's not a man that he should lie.

705
00:45:40.220 --> 00:45:45.340
So he is going to be near to us and he's going to try to comfort us any way that he can.

706
00:45:45.340 --> 00:45:49.660
So that's the first thing is like, OK, well, it's who we deem worthy.

707
00:45:49.660 --> 00:45:54.700
But if our lenses are are kind of skewing that, that can be one thing.

708
00:45:54.700 --> 00:45:58.180
Now, I'm not talking about toxic, abusive relationships.

709
00:45:58.180 --> 00:46:04.820
So don't hear me saying that if there are toxic, abusive relationships, they're toxic, abusive relationships.

710
00:46:04.820 --> 00:46:20.660
So that's not what we're talking about here. OK, but the other thing is there is that the trust issues, what you ask is how do you move beyond the pain or situations that cause you to now struggle to trust?

711
00:46:20.660 --> 00:46:25.860
My first answer is honestly, your heart healing.

712
00:46:25.860 --> 00:46:35.220
You know, as your heart heals, you will start to not only trust in God more, but you'll start to trust in humanity, more people.

713
00:46:35.220 --> 00:46:38.780
But the other thing is and you guys might not like it, but this is the reality.

714
00:46:38.780 --> 00:46:42.940
Jackie said this way back when I was in boot camp and mentorship.

715
00:46:42.940 --> 00:46:46.100
Love is a risk. It is.

716
00:46:46.100 --> 00:46:52.020
Anybody that we choose to love, we are taking a risk, even friends.

717
00:46:52.020 --> 00:46:55.300
But man, it's worth it when it's good.

718
00:46:55.300 --> 00:47:01.620
Right. And sometimes it ends up not being good, but look at what we learn in the process.

719
00:47:01.620 --> 00:47:08.700
That relationship that I was in was not good, but I loved with everything I had in me.

720
00:47:08.700 --> 00:47:12.940
I didn't hold back. I wish I had done some things differently.

721
00:47:12.940 --> 00:47:17.380
But I have grown so much through all of that.

722
00:47:17.380 --> 00:47:25.780
And that's part of what I mean, part of I think why God has me doing what I'm doing now, because I made some mistakes along the way.

723
00:47:25.780 --> 00:47:29.980
Some were things done to me by other people that led me down the wrong path.

724
00:47:29.980 --> 00:47:32.500
You know, some of it was my own choices.

725
00:47:32.500 --> 00:47:43.980
But as we heal, from my perspective, I believe that we start to kind of open the door a little more.

726
00:47:43.980 --> 00:47:47.180
The more we heal, we're like, OK, maybe it is.

727
00:47:47.180 --> 00:47:54.580
It's kind of like, you know, when we teach our kids to look out a door or before they cross the street, look both ways.

728
00:47:54.580 --> 00:48:01.580
It's kind of like that, like we're opening the door and we're just kind of looking around like, is it safe to come out?

729
00:48:01.580 --> 00:48:05.460
And the Lord is going to show you when it's safe to come out and when it's not.

730
00:48:05.460 --> 00:48:15.060
And even for those of you that have maybe maybe you feel like you have a broken picker or maybe maybe you've had a lot of people that have used you and mistreated you.

731
00:48:15.060 --> 00:48:18.820
You're going to learn why in this process, why that's happened.

732
00:48:18.820 --> 00:48:22.100
People that are big givers tend to attract takers.

733
00:48:22.100 --> 00:48:25.700
But as you heal, you'll learn how to set healthy boundaries.

734
00:48:25.700 --> 00:48:28.340
And that will that will be a huge part of it.

735
00:48:28.340 --> 00:48:31.140
And you'll learn that God is defending you and how he is.

736
00:48:31.140 --> 00:48:45.820
For example, when he was telling me the red flags, the next time I was encountering someone that was unhealthy and God was like, here's a red flag, I didn't just blow past it anymore.

737
00:48:45.820 --> 00:48:51.540
So that's that was kind of a long answer, but I hope that you see the different facets and sides of that.

738
00:48:51.540 --> 00:48:52.780
All right. Awesome.

739
00:48:52.780 --> 00:48:55.020
Lauren, go ahead.

740
00:48:55.060 --> 00:49:03.940
Yeah, so I will say just this question about thinking about those words, surrender, submission and authority is stirred up a lot of emotions in me.

741
00:49:03.940 --> 00:49:10.260
But submission specifically, my initial thought was that I will submit if I'm in agreement with someone.

742
00:49:10.260 --> 00:49:15.860
But even in writing that, I realized that's me wanting to control everything, which is a big thing for me.

743
00:49:15.860 --> 00:49:22.380
And then I said, it's also a scary word, because what if I submit and something goes wrong, like I'm led in a bad direction?

744
00:49:22.380 --> 00:49:33.220
But I was really grateful that as soon as I had that thought, the Holy Spirit reminded me of the truth is that when I'm leading, yeah, I take myself in all sorts of bad directions very regularly.

745
00:49:33.220 --> 00:49:47.620
But if God is leading me, if I submit and let God lead me, that even if the situation is hard or goes wrong, so to speak, like maybe it's not a perfect outcome, that God won't lead me in a bad direction.

746
00:49:47.620 --> 00:49:50.180
That was one of the things in our reading this week.

747
00:49:50.180 --> 00:49:52.740
And so, yeah, control is a big thing.

748
00:49:52.740 --> 00:49:55.820
God's still trying to work on letting me give to him.

749
00:49:55.820 --> 00:50:00.060
But just thinking through these words.

750
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.780
convicting in a good way, but he's lovingly like saying, Hey, Lauren, like I've got more

751
00:50:05.780 --> 00:50:06.780
for you.

752
00:50:06.780 --> 00:50:10.040
Like, just, just, just give me this garbage, you know, just give it to me.

753
00:50:10.040 --> 00:50:11.040
That's good.

754
00:50:11.040 --> 00:50:12.040
Yeah.

755
00:50:12.040 --> 00:50:16.680
Again, it just, you know, the word is talking, the Lord is talking to me a lot about the

756
00:50:16.680 --> 00:50:17.680
word invitation.

757
00:50:17.680 --> 00:50:21.600
So you guys want to hear it a lot when I pray lead prayer calls when I'm teaching right

758
00:50:21.600 --> 00:50:26.200
now, because it's just, I just hear the Holy spirit saying that to the body of Christ as

759
00:50:26.200 --> 00:50:28.760
a whole, it's an invitation.

760
00:50:28.760 --> 00:50:30.840
It's an invitation.

761
00:50:30.840 --> 00:50:35.880
And, uh, the only thing I want to share in that is, uh, you said it's scary because what

762
00:50:35.880 --> 00:50:38.080
if I choose wrong?

763
00:50:38.080 --> 00:50:43.000
One of the things we also have to remember is God is so big.

764
00:50:43.000 --> 00:50:50.800
He's so big and he's so capable that even if we choose wrong, he can help redirect us

765
00:50:50.800 --> 00:50:53.160
back to where we need to be.

766
00:50:53.160 --> 00:50:57.160
So it takes a little bit of the pressure off of having to be perfect.

767
00:50:57.160 --> 00:51:02.760
Because I think sometimes, you know, people are so afraid to make the wrong decision that

768
00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:05.120
we just stay stuck.

769
00:51:05.120 --> 00:51:10.320
And so sometimes it's getting out there, giving it a shot, trying it out and letting God teach

770
00:51:10.320 --> 00:51:17.240
you, you know, and knowing that just like, um, the image I'm having come up in my, in

771
00:51:17.240 --> 00:51:22.840
my spirit is like, you know, when a parent has their little, little toddler and the toddler's

772
00:51:22.840 --> 00:51:27.360
learning to walk and they're starting to kind of run a little bit that parents, they're

773
00:51:27.360 --> 00:51:28.360
looking out for them.

774
00:51:28.360 --> 00:51:30.800
And if they fall, they're there to help them get back up.

775
00:51:30.800 --> 00:51:31.800
Right.

776
00:51:31.800 --> 00:51:35.240
That's the image the Lord wants to give you guys tonight.

777
00:51:35.240 --> 00:51:38.240
Like he's right there.

778
00:51:38.240 --> 00:51:42.080
And yeah, you might fall down and bump your knee a little bit along the way, but he's

779
00:51:42.080 --> 00:51:43.080
going to help you.

780
00:51:43.080 --> 00:51:48.720
And he's going to meet you like what we were talking about emotionally, intimately in those

781
00:51:48.720 --> 00:51:49.720
moments.

782
00:51:49.720 --> 00:51:50.720
Yeah.

783
00:51:50.720 --> 00:51:52.280
He's going to be right there.

784
00:51:52.600 --> 00:51:54.600
All right, Margaret, how about you?

785
00:51:56.600 --> 00:51:59.120
I'm sorry, I had to find my mute button.

786
00:51:59.120 --> 00:52:00.120
Oh, that's all right.

787
00:52:00.120 --> 00:52:05.440
So, um, yeah, we were talking and we were talking about how, you know, we've had in

788
00:52:05.440 --> 00:52:12.640
our group, we had, you know, um, experiences where, where submission in Jackie's book,

789
00:52:12.640 --> 00:52:17.240
she talks about how, you know, it became a dirty word kind of like, because it was, um,

790
00:52:17.240 --> 00:52:23.360
you know, it got abused in churches and, um, and by the men that we've been with.

791
00:52:23.360 --> 00:52:30.680
And, um, and so that was the hardest thing for me, um, was understanding that, you know,

792
00:52:30.680 --> 00:52:35.120
God is not a man and, um, you can submit to him.

793
00:52:35.120 --> 00:52:40.240
And, um, ultimately what God has been teaching me and I was sharing with the group in my

794
00:52:40.240 --> 00:52:46.320
group was that, um, it doesn't mean that you keep your mouth shut when you submit to God.

795
00:52:46.400 --> 00:52:50.640
If you're submitting to your husband, if you're, you know, abiding by, you know, submit to

796
00:52:50.640 --> 00:52:53.920
your husband's, your husbands are supposed to lay their life down for you and you're

797
00:52:53.920 --> 00:52:57.200
supposed to submit to them or whatever, however you want to work it, however you want to put

798
00:52:57.200 --> 00:53:03.600
it out there, you know, doctrinally or religiously or whatever, ultimately you're not submitting

799
00:53:03.600 --> 00:53:06.040
to your husband, you're submitting to God.

800
00:53:06.040 --> 00:53:09.920
And so when you obey, you're obeying, you're obeying your Abba daddy.

801
00:53:09.920 --> 00:53:12.920
And so, and it's like, you don't need to keep your mouth shut.

802
00:53:12.920 --> 00:53:14.320
Doesn't mean that you don't share your heart.

803
00:53:14.320 --> 00:53:17.280
It doesn't mean that you don't be a part of the process.

804
00:53:17.280 --> 00:53:22.600
And I think the biggest thing for me was understanding, like looking at scripture, you know, and seeing

805
00:53:22.600 --> 00:53:27.080
Sarah, you know, Sarah submitted to her husband and then she was putting a harem, you know,

806
00:53:27.080 --> 00:53:32.600
or, you know, but God protected her, you know, so it's like if, if the events occur, you

807
00:53:32.600 --> 00:53:36.200
know, in the situation that you're in by, by submission, God's going to take care of

808
00:53:36.200 --> 00:53:37.200
that.

809
00:53:37.200 --> 00:53:38.200
He's going to protect you.

810
00:53:38.200 --> 00:53:41.680
And you also don't keep your mouth shut to the point of like where Abigail, Abigail submitted

811
00:53:41.680 --> 00:53:42.680
to her husband.

812
00:53:42.680 --> 00:53:46.040
But at the same time, when he was sleeping, she went out and, you know, saved her whole

813
00:53:46.040 --> 00:53:49.640
village because she didn't, you know, listen to her idiot husband.

814
00:53:49.640 --> 00:53:52.840
She went out and you know, stop David from annihilating the village.

815
00:53:52.840 --> 00:53:56.280
So it's like, ultimately God is gonna, God is gonna work it out.

816
00:53:56.280 --> 00:54:02.560
He's going to take, he's going to take, you know, when you submit to him, you know, you're

817
00:54:02.560 --> 00:54:03.560
doing it religiously.

818
00:54:03.560 --> 00:54:04.560
Yeah.

819
00:54:04.560 --> 00:54:09.120
So I'm going to challenge a little bit, kind of like some of the way that you're looking

820
00:54:09.120 --> 00:54:10.120
at that there.

821
00:54:10.120 --> 00:54:18.600
I do agree that Sarah and Abraham, that's the one I want, want to kind of hone in on.

822
00:54:18.600 --> 00:54:25.000
Sarah also made some really significant choices in that process that were not healthy choices

823
00:54:25.000 --> 00:54:28.200
that led her to where she was at.

824
00:54:28.200 --> 00:54:34.240
So when you were describing that the ownership was all on Abraham, okay.

825
00:54:34.240 --> 00:54:38.520
Where they were mutually both deciding things in that process.

826
00:54:38.520 --> 00:54:44.360
It's important for you guys to understand that we all make choices.

827
00:54:44.360 --> 00:54:45.880
We all do.

828
00:54:45.880 --> 00:54:53.520
And so we all have consequences to our choices, even those in the Bible, you know, that we

829
00:54:53.520 --> 00:54:54.520
see.

830
00:54:54.520 --> 00:54:59.680
So just so that we're keeping that kind of in a good, healthy perspective.

831
00:54:59.680 --> 00:55:00.040
And that.

832
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.560
you know, God, yes, he was protecting, he was providing the whole way through 100%.

833
00:55:05.440 --> 00:55:12.960
So just continue to lean into God defending you guys. And, you know, learning how to submit,

834
00:55:12.960 --> 00:55:20.880
as I was saying earlier, it is a mutual choice to love and respect and honor one another.

835
00:55:22.560 --> 00:55:29.120
Truly, you know, and yes, I do think that it includes being able to be honest with your

836
00:55:29.200 --> 00:55:36.720
husband when you're married and tell him what is in your heart and knowing that he will love you,

837
00:55:37.360 --> 00:55:43.440
even if he doesn't agree. Okay. All right. We're going to go into the next breakout session

838
00:55:43.440 --> 00:55:49.200
because we are our time to end tonight is 915. I saw someone asked that it's going to be about

839
00:55:49.200 --> 00:55:55.600
an hour and 15 minutes when we do these lives. Our next question is, are you a control freak?

840
00:55:55.600 --> 00:56:00.160
As we're talking about some of this stuff, are you a control freak? Some of you guys might be

841
00:56:00.160 --> 00:56:06.240
like, nope, I'm good. I'm great. Like I don't over control. And I love to give this example

842
00:56:06.240 --> 00:56:13.680
because it's so true. You know, the Jesus take the wheel song, super popular song years ago by

843
00:56:13.680 --> 00:56:21.200
Carrie Underwood, everybody sang that like out loud, you know, full force. But like, how often

844
00:56:21.200 --> 00:56:26.720
do we say that? But then we just were like, okay, Jesus, here you go. Oh, forget it. No,

845
00:56:26.720 --> 00:56:30.480
you're not quick enough. Like I can help you out and I can make this work so much quicker and

846
00:56:30.480 --> 00:56:35.520
better. And then we're like, oh crap, it's not working. My plan's not working. Jesus, here you

847
00:56:35.520 --> 00:56:42.640
go. And I'm kind of making light, but like, that is really what we do. We give it away and we take

848
00:56:42.640 --> 00:56:49.360
it back. We give it away and we take it back. Right. Where, what we're trying to get you guys

849
00:56:49.360 --> 00:56:58.240
to the point of is saying, how can I completely give this to you, Jesus? How can I really just

850
00:56:58.240 --> 00:57:03.360
let this go into your hands and release it to you? So what areas are you a control freak?

851
00:57:04.960 --> 00:57:10.720
What areas do you struggle to give God complete control in your life? So that's your breakout

852
00:57:10.720 --> 00:57:16.400
session question. Let me put you in there and then we will see you guys in a little bit.

853
00:57:17.280 --> 00:57:21.280
Here you go.

854
00:57:36.560 --> 00:57:37.760
I was in room 12.

855
00:57:39.760 --> 00:57:43.280
Yeah, I just put you in because there's only two, two ladies in that one room.

856
00:57:46.400 --> 00:57:55.200
Here, hold on one second. Let me put you, because see, I have three ladies in the other room right

857
00:57:55.200 --> 00:58:01.120
now. Let me just put you in group 11 for this time, Katie, just that way those ladies will have

858
00:58:01.120 --> 00:58:05.280
an even number of people.

859
00:58:16.400 --> 00:58:19.280
Okay.

860
00:58:38.400 --> 00:58:39.280
I'm still here.

861
00:58:40.240 --> 00:58:46.160
Nothing. It should have given you that invite to join.

862
00:58:49.360 --> 00:58:52.080
All right. I'll just put you in 12 and see if it.

863
00:58:52.080 --> 00:58:55.040
See, now that invites popping up, but the 11 didn't.

864
00:58:55.680 --> 00:59:02.160
Okay. That's okay. Go ahead.

865
00:59:10.240 --> 00:59:18.160
Father, thank you so much for everything that you're continuing to reveal to every one of these

866
00:59:18.160 --> 00:59:24.160
ladies. Thank you, Lord, for helping us to let go of control. We thank you, Lord, that you would

867
00:59:24.160 --> 00:59:30.800
help us to yield to you, to give up, to give in, to let go, to throw in the towel, to concede,

868
00:59:30.800 --> 00:59:36.160
to wave the white flag, Lord, that we would completely surrender all of that to you.

869
00:59:37.120 --> 00:59:41.040
And Lord, that we would ask you to help us in that process.

870
00:59:46.560 --> 00:59:51.680
Hi, Tammy. Did it bump you out of a group or are you just joining just so I know where to put you?

871
00:59:52.480 --> 00:59:53.920
Yes, I'm here. Hi.

872
00:59:54.720 --> 00:59:58.400
Hi. Did it bump you out of one of the groups? Like, were you already in a group?

873
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:03.440
What do you mean?

874
01:00:03.440 --> 01:00:07.080
Were you already in one of the breakout sessions, or did you just join us?

875
01:00:07.080 --> 01:00:08.560
Well, I was already in.

876
01:00:08.560 --> 01:00:11.360
I was trying to download my picture and...

877
01:00:11.360 --> 01:00:12.360
It's okay.

878
01:00:12.360 --> 01:00:13.360
It's okay.

879
01:00:13.360 --> 01:00:14.360
Okay.

880
01:00:14.360 --> 01:00:15.360
Yeah.

881
01:00:15.360 --> 01:00:16.360
Just what group were you in?

882
01:00:16.360 --> 01:00:20.080
Do you know?

883
01:00:20.080 --> 01:00:21.080
I don't know.

884
01:00:21.080 --> 01:00:23.600
I just know I signed up for the experience group.

885
01:00:23.600 --> 01:00:24.600
Okay.

886
01:00:24.600 --> 01:00:25.600
Yeah.

887
01:00:25.600 --> 01:00:26.600
You don't understand what I'm asking.

888
01:00:26.600 --> 01:00:27.600
It's okay.

889
01:00:27.600 --> 01:00:28.600
I'm going to send you a link.

890
01:00:28.600 --> 01:00:29.600
That's okay.

891
01:00:29.600 --> 01:00:30.600
Go ahead.

892
01:00:30.600 --> 01:00:34.960
You should see a link to join the breakout group, and what they're doing is they're talking

893
01:00:34.960 --> 01:00:37.440
about being like control freaks.

894
01:00:37.440 --> 01:00:39.840
What area do they need to let go of control?

895
01:00:39.840 --> 01:00:42.360
Oh, you mean the group?

896
01:00:42.360 --> 01:00:43.360
You guys don't know.

897
01:00:43.360 --> 01:00:44.360
Okay.

898
01:00:44.360 --> 01:00:45.360
I totally get it now.

899
01:00:45.360 --> 01:00:46.360
Thank you.

900
01:00:46.360 --> 01:00:47.360
Okay.

901
01:00:47.360 --> 01:00:48.360
You're welcome.

902
01:00:48.360 --> 01:00:49.360
Okay.

903
01:00:49.360 --> 01:00:50.360
Bye-bye.

904
01:00:50.360 --> 01:00:51.360
Bye.

905
01:00:51.360 --> 01:00:52.360
So you have...

906
01:00:52.360 --> 01:00:53.360
Oh, okay.

907
01:00:53.360 --> 01:00:57.480
So Laura Breedis, thank you that you're going to continue to show the ladies that control

908
01:00:57.480 --> 01:01:04.400
is an illusion, and being out of control can actually be a good thing, and even a healthy

909
01:01:04.400 --> 01:01:06.240
place for some of us to be.

910
01:01:06.240 --> 01:01:10.280
Sometimes we try to control so many things that we're not even giving enough room for

911
01:01:10.280 --> 01:01:12.000
the Holy Spirit to work in our lives.

912
01:01:12.000 --> 01:01:17.840
So Laura, thank you that you're going to continue to show each one of these ladies how to be

913
01:01:17.840 --> 01:01:26.560
more real than they've ever been, and how to release and relinquish control to you.

914
01:01:26.640 --> 01:01:30.000
We thank you that you would just continue to supernaturally give them the ability to

915
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surrender and fall back into the arms of the one who loves them, the one who created them,

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the one who formed them in their mother's womb.

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We thank you that as Psalm 139 declares, they're fearfully and wonderfully made.

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You didn't make any mistakes in God.

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You looked at them and you said, you are good.

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01:01:49.720 --> 01:01:50.720
You are lovely.

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You are cherished.

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You are worth far more than rubies.

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And so for whoever sees this in replay, we pray that that blesses you and ministers to

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you.

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God loves you and he is on your side.

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Lord, I thank you that you would help them to invite your searching gaze into their hearts,

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01:02:11.440 --> 01:02:15.720
that you would examine them through and through, find out everything that might be hidden within

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them, and put them to the test and sit through all their anxious cares.

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See if there's any path of pain that they are walking on and lead them back to your

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glorious ways, the path that brings them back to you.

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That's from Psalm 139, ladies, from Passion Translation, verses 23 and 24.

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We need God to help us sift through those drunk drawers of life, the places where we

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have shoved everything that we didn't know what to do with at the time.

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So Lord, show the ladies what areas have they been stuffing things down and stuffing things

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down and the areas where you want to help them lean in to unpack that stuff, that they

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don't have to do that alone, that you're with them in the journey.

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We thank you that even tonight on this session, that you would quicken memories within them,

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that you would help them to, you know, not dismiss the things that you're speaking to

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them, that you'll help them to lean in and let you do what you do best.

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We thank you, God, that time does heal wounds.

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And how does it do this?

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Because time removes us far enough away from the original trauma that we are deceived into

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01:03:24.480 --> 01:03:27.640
thinking that it doesn't bother us anymore.

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01:03:27.640 --> 01:03:30.720
So it's not just time that heals all wounds.

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It's allowing God to come in and heal those very, very sensitive areas.

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Lord, we thank you that you would help them to truly heal, that you would make them completely

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whole, lacking no good thing.

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We thank you, Lord.

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01:03:46.480 --> 01:03:47.480
Oh, hi, Michelle.

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Did I kick you out?

951
01:03:48.480 --> 01:03:49.480
Oh, okay.

952
01:03:49.480 --> 01:03:50.480
They're in breakout sessions right now.

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01:03:50.480 --> 01:03:51.480
Oh, you guys are coming back.

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01:03:51.480 --> 01:03:52.480
Oh, that's all right.

955
01:03:52.480 --> 01:03:53.480
That's totally fine.

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You guys can hang out.

957
01:03:54.480 --> 01:03:55.480
I'm just praying.

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You guys have another minute and 15, if you want to come back and hang out here, that's

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01:03:56.480 --> 01:03:57.480
totally fine.

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Maybe people are coming back early.

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All right.

962
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Hi.

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All right.

964
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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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Hi.

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All right.

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So Lord, we just thank you that one of the things here is us giving permission.

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So we give you authorization.

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We grant you the ability to come in and work within us.

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01:04:23.480 --> 01:04:27.840
We thank you that you're revealing things for healing and that you're helping us take

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01:04:27.840 --> 01:04:29.560
down do not enter signs.

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We thank you that you're helping us brick by brick to take down the walls that separate

982
01:04:33.900 --> 01:04:38.560
us from you as well as separate us from ourselves and other people.

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01:04:38.560 --> 01:04:42.680
And we thank you that we can trust you, that you are trustworthy.

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God, we thank you that one of your attributes says that you are good, that you are faithful,

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that you are kind.

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And so Lord, we thank you that you would help us in the days ahead to lean into those truths

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and to know that you are working on our behalf and you love us.

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and have our best interests at heart.

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Proverbs 3, 5 in the message version says,

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"'Trust God from the bottom of your heart.

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01:05:06.780 --> 01:05:09.400
"'Don't try to figure out everything on your own.

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01:05:09.400 --> 01:05:12.000
"'Listen for God's voice in everything you do,

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01:05:12.000 --> 01:05:13.900
"'everywhere you go.

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01:05:13.900 --> 01:05:16.780
"'He's the one who will keep you on track.

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"'Don't assume that you know it all.'"

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So Lord, we thank you that you would help us

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to lean into you,

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to trust that you're gonna show us what we need to know,

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01:05:26.160 --> 01:05:27.960
the things that we don't even remember

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because they've been pressed down for so long

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01:05:30.440 --> 01:05:33.480
in our hearts, our spirits, our souls.

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01:05:33.480 --> 01:05:35.800
God, we thank you that you'll help those things

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to percolate to the surface

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so that there can be healing

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and redemption and reconciliation.

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And we just thank you that you're gonna help us

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to continue to trust every image,

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every thought, every memory

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that we'll just write those things down

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and ask you more about them.

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01:05:54.760 --> 01:05:57.680
That we'll trust that even in the way

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that you lovingly remind us of things

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01:06:00.080 --> 01:06:03.320
that have been in the dark or pressed down in our souls

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01:06:03.320 --> 01:06:04.960
that maybe we didn't even remember,

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01:06:04.960 --> 01:06:07.180
that even your loving kindness

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01:06:07.180 --> 01:06:09.440
is what's drawing those things out,

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01:06:09.440 --> 01:06:11.920
that you're so good that you reveal those things

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in the perfect timing that they need to be revealed.

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01:06:16.360 --> 01:06:18.440
We're still waiting for several groups to come back.

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So give us a minute.

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I think they're coming now.

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All right, all right, all right.

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All right, bear with us.

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01:06:24.680 --> 01:06:26.160
I am going to...

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I thought we had a few more minutes.

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So I do wanna give a couple of people some time to share.

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If you have to jump off, we understand

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01:06:34.200 --> 01:06:36.040
because it is about 9.15,

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01:06:36.040 --> 01:06:38.120
but if you wanna hang with us for a few more minutes,

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I think it'll be good.

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01:06:39.480 --> 01:06:41.600
Who is willing to share with the whole group

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what you shared in your private breakout group?

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Go ahead, is it Italia?

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Is that right?

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Yes, it's Italia.

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Okay, awesome, go ahead.

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So anyways, I was in a group with Margaret and Ariel,

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and we were just talking about how,

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you know, we all have different journeys.

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Like some of us like was like a single mother.

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And so that caused us to be independent.

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01:07:08.840 --> 01:07:11.160
Some of us lost our parent at a young age.

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That caused us to be independent.

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The other one, it's just like,

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they've been independent their whole life basically.

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And it made us become very like self-sufficient

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and it made us depend on ourselves instead of on God.

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And then it's almost like,

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it's scary for us to give up control

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01:07:30.720 --> 01:07:33.800
when we've done it for so long, you know?

1051
01:07:33.800 --> 01:07:36.800
And just because we have these different backgrounds

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01:07:36.800 --> 01:07:37.880
and these different journeys,

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we're still like giving up control

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is something that is almost foreign to us.

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We realized there's beauty in surrendering to God

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and giving control to Him

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so we don't take on that heavy burden

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that surely He doesn't want us to carry.

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Yes.

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Man, that was so good.

1061
01:07:56.320 --> 01:07:58.640
I love the way that you described that

1062
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and just every different person's journey.

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And what's interesting is earlier today,

1064
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one of the things that God brought up in my spirit

1065
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that I shared with the early group,

1066
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and I honestly, sometimes I forget what even comes up

1067
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kind of supernaturally like that,

1068
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but it was the idea of picking up someone else's bag

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and carrying it.

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So even when people, like a parent dies

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01:08:22.760 --> 01:08:24.880
or they abandon us in some way,

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01:08:24.880 --> 01:08:27.040
or there's some kind of loss,

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01:08:27.040 --> 01:08:28.920
whether it was a husband that left us

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01:08:28.920 --> 01:08:31.680
and didn't fulfill their role,

1075
01:08:32.720 --> 01:08:36.479
what can happen is we can believe the lie of the enemy

1076
01:08:36.479 --> 01:08:41.279
that it's now our responsibility to carry that load.

1077
01:08:41.279 --> 01:08:42.720
And it never was.

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It never was.

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01:08:45.160 --> 01:08:48.720
And so part of allowing God to come in

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01:08:48.720 --> 01:08:53.000
and help you give up control essentially

1081
01:08:53.000 --> 01:08:55.720
is allowing Him to heal those deep places

1082
01:08:55.720 --> 01:08:58.800
where the hurt originally came in.

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01:08:58.800 --> 01:09:02.080
So as you guys are continuing in the journey,

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we'll talk a little bit about getting to the root of it.

1085
01:09:05.800 --> 01:09:09.080
And again, we don't encourage you guys to dig.

1086
01:09:09.080 --> 01:09:10.760
The way the root is revealed

1087
01:09:10.760 --> 01:09:13.880
is by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

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01:09:13.880 --> 01:09:16.600
One of the things I was praying before you came back

1089
01:09:16.600 --> 01:09:21.560
is we have to trust the Holy Spirit to reveal things

1090
01:09:21.560 --> 01:09:24.840
that need revealed in their perfect timing.

1091
01:09:24.840 --> 01:09:27.359
You guys, I can tell you just even recently,

1092
01:09:27.359 --> 01:09:29.399
the Lord brought something to my mind that,

1093
01:09:29.399 --> 01:09:31.319
I mean, I've been on this healing journey

1094
01:09:31.319 --> 01:09:32.520
for quite some time.

1095
01:09:32.520 --> 01:09:35.080
I do hard work coaching on a regular basis.

1096
01:09:35.080 --> 01:09:38.479
And just now in the last month or two,

1097
01:09:38.479 --> 01:09:40.319
a memory came to me that I hadn't,

1098
01:09:40.319 --> 01:09:43.240
I mean, I didn't even remember that it even happened.

1099
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But there's a reason that He waits.

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He waits until we are ready.

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And sometimes we feel like we're not ready,

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but He knows that we are, okay?

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And so just trust the timing

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01:09:55.520 --> 01:10:00.520
and just be really very careful.

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careful to not diminish thoughts that you guys have, or when

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01:10:04.360 --> 01:10:07.640
things percolate to the surface, like if if it's something that

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01:10:07.640 --> 01:10:10.400
you don't even remember, like it's okay to write down and be

1108
01:10:10.400 --> 01:10:13.080
like, I have this thought, it's kind of weird. I don't know

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01:10:13.080 --> 01:10:16.680
where it came from. But just ask the Lord to reveal that as well.

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01:10:17.160 --> 01:10:21.840
But on what you said is how you to, you know, the reality is, is

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that in order to receive a spirit mate, we have to learn

1112
01:10:27.080 --> 01:10:33.440
how to let people in. Right. So we, the more that we practice

1113
01:10:33.520 --> 01:10:37.000
letting God have more control and not being so

1114
01:10:37.000 --> 01:10:43.040
self-sufficient, asking him for help. And the more that it will

1115
01:10:43.040 --> 01:10:47.080
prepare us for that interaction with our spirit mate, because I

1116
01:10:47.080 --> 01:10:50.440
can promise you when you guys find healthy men, they want to

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01:10:50.440 --> 01:10:54.880
help you. They want to help you they want to be chivalrous. They

1118
01:10:54.880 --> 01:10:58.480
don't want us just for like, you know, forging ahead. I mean,

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01:10:58.720 --> 01:11:02.200
there are times that I still have to remind myself, let him

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open that door for me. Like, you know, and even sometimes it feels

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01:11:05.760 --> 01:11:08.880
silly, because I'm just standing there like, because he might be,

1122
01:11:08.880 --> 01:11:12.880
you know, a little bit behind me. But he would rather me wait

1123
01:11:12.880 --> 01:11:17.920
for him for him to open the door. So us practicing even with

1124
01:11:17.920 --> 01:11:21.080
the Lord, and you're like, well, God isn't here in the physical.

1125
01:11:21.080 --> 01:11:24.680
So how's he gonna open my door? Well, maybe it's not a physical

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01:11:24.680 --> 01:11:29.640
door. But maybe he's like, okay, let me open this door. Maybe

1127
01:11:29.640 --> 01:11:32.720
it's for a job. Maybe there's something that you're working on

1128
01:11:32.720 --> 01:11:35.400
right now. And you haven't invited him into that process

1129
01:11:35.400 --> 01:11:39.920
with you. You know, what does it look like to let the Holy Spirit

1130
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come in and lead the way? All right. Great share. I love that.

1131
01:11:45.280 --> 01:11:49.600
So also, you know, in that as you guys are unpacking those

1132
01:11:49.600 --> 01:11:56.560
losses. I would just encourage you to let God love you ask

1133
01:11:56.560 --> 01:12:00.720
Jesus where he was at when those losses happened. And what does

1134
01:12:00.720 --> 01:12:04.640
Jesus want to tell you? What does he want you to know from

1135
01:12:04.640 --> 01:12:09.240
his perspective about that loss? And you'll find that great

1136
01:12:09.240 --> 01:12:16.560
healing will come from that. Yeah, yeah, I mean, it's real.

1137
01:12:16.560 --> 01:12:19.720
People have a hard time letting men help them for sure. Yeah.

1138
01:12:19.720 --> 01:12:21.840
And you guys will get more and more coaching on that in the

1139
01:12:21.840 --> 01:12:25.120
days ahead. Rachel, I think I saw your hand up to were you

1140
01:12:25.120 --> 01:12:27.720
willing to share? We'll take one more.

1141
01:12:28.640 --> 01:12:33.840
Yeah, I can share. We all three of us in our group agreed that

1142
01:12:33.840 --> 01:12:37.960
we're all fairly controlling. And sometimes it looks

1143
01:12:37.960 --> 01:12:41.400
different. I when when I went to the question, the book, I

1144
01:12:41.400 --> 01:12:44.160
thought, oh, I've got areas of my life that I'm controlling and

1145
01:12:44.160 --> 01:12:48.760
then other areas that I'm not. So just to kind of gauge myself,

1146
01:12:48.760 --> 01:12:50.880
I was writing the areas that I was controlling, and I got to

1147
01:12:50.880 --> 01:12:52.720
the areas where I wasn't controlling, and I realized

1148
01:12:52.720 --> 01:12:57.040
there weren't any. And then, as we kind of talked through that,

1149
01:12:57.040 --> 01:13:00.560
I loved what one of the women said is, maybe we're dealing

1150
01:13:00.560 --> 01:13:04.080
with this so that we're not the red flag, because these are the

1151
01:13:04.080 --> 01:13:07.800
red flags in our life. And as we work through these, then we're

1152
01:13:07.800 --> 01:13:10.640
not going to step into a relationship with, like, this

1153
01:13:10.880 --> 01:13:14.720
this is, I'm so controlling, it's going to end a relationship

1154
01:13:14.720 --> 01:13:18.320
if I move forward with this. So I'm thankful for this being

1155
01:13:18.320 --> 01:13:22.560
revealed in this way. Even with the Lord allowing a little sense

1156
01:13:22.560 --> 01:13:23.520
of humor in it. So

1157
01:13:24.080 --> 01:13:28.560
yeah. So, you know, this is super important, you all and what

1158
01:13:28.560 --> 01:13:35.240
she's saying here. And no matter what, like, we all have areas,

1159
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we still need healing. You know, I mean, I can tell you

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that the healing journey continues, the intensive healing

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that you'll go through in here will be a little bit more, you

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know, intensive, if you will. And not to use that word twice,

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but it really will be. But it's not like when the the five weeks

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are over, that you're just like, okay, I'm all done now. Like,

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you know, the reality is, is even when you step into trying

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to date again, there's going to be healing there. When you get

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into a relationship, there's going to be healing there. You

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know, after you get married, there's going to be healing

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there. So just know, like, God is in with you for the long

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haul. He's in this journey with us for the long haul. And he

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leads us to places Jackie talks a lot like, you know, hurt in

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relationship, healed in relationship, hurt in community,

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healed in community, you know, where are the deepest places you

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all have been hurt, where you tend to control a lot? Do you

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know, a lot of the reasons we control is because we're trying

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to create a sense of safety, even though it is often a false

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sense. Because really, we're never fully safe, even like

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we're safe in the Lord, but we can't protect ourselves from

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everything.

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Right. And so the more we lean into trusting and leaning on and relying on the Lord.

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It's going to change everything. It really will. So, yeah, just keep unpacking those things with

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the Lord. He wants to show you guys so, so many more things. It's going to be a great journey.

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I'm going to pray for you guys and we're going to close out tonight.

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Keep showing up for yourselves. Keep showing up in the group. You guys have been amazing

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already so far. It's been so exciting to get to know some of you. Just that little glimpse we've

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already seen and just, you know, breakthroughs people are already getting. Things, you know,

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God is saying to you guys, again, no comparison, ladies. The enemy loves to try to get ladies to

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pit against each other. But here in this community, we're trying to take ground where we break down

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those walls and women really love each other. We're not perfect. People are going to make mistakes,

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but we're going to do our best to create an amazing sisterhood community that really can

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transform the world. One person at a time. It takes one person at a time. That's it.

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And so it starts with you guys. All right. Father, thank you so much for just this amazing group of

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ladies. Thank you for those that are here live tonight, as well as those that are watching the

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replay or were here earlier today. God, thank you for the healing work that you've already begun in

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them. God, thank you for what you are going to do in the days ahead. God, give them dreams at night

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and visions in the day, God. And Lord, protect their dreaming time and their sleeping time from

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the enemy. Several of these ladies have already had the enemy trying to torment them in their

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dreams. So we just thank you for your hedge of protection around them, around them and their

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families. And God, that you would guard and keep watch over them, that you would protect them from

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distractions and just any other onslaught of the enemy. Your word declares that when the

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enemy comes in like a flood, you cause him to flee seven ways. So Lord, we thank you that fear has to

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do with torment, so we are not going to lean into fear. But Lord, we thank you that you're going to

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give us the spirit of love and of power and of a sound mind, that we will be women that have a

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sound mind, that we will take our thoughts captive and make them obedient to your word, to your truth.

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And that begins by us getting to know you, Father, better. So Lord, help us to have a fresh

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revelation of your love, of your grace, of who you are as joy, who you are as peace, that help us to

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lean into you and to trust you a little bit more this night. In Jesus name, amen. All right, so

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we'll be seeing you guys again live next week. We are doing both the one o'clock p.m. Eastern time

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and then the eight o'clock p.m. Eastern time every Monday. And so it's up to you, whatever you

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choose, okay? Whichever time. And if one week you come at one and another week you come at eight,

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that's totally fine, okay? So it's really up to you guys to choose. So I'll be seeing you guys in

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the group. Have an amazing night, everyone. Good night. Bye.